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MOOD FOR LIFEScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:44 AM
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TRIGGER WARNINGScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:02 PM
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DISCUSSIONScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 03:40 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:42 PM
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FDS HUMORScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:53 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:31 PM
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NAH, SISScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:07 AM
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PICKME CULTUREScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:29 AM
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SCROTES MADScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:21 PM
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QUEEN SH*TScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:52 PM
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BOOK REPORTScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 05:04 AM
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FDS HUMORScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:27 PM
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NOTHING BUT FACTSScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:43 AM
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FDS HUMORScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:47 AM
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FDS HUMORScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:34 AM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 10:16 PM
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FDS HUMORScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:58 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 10:55 PM
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NAH, SISScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:17 AM
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STAY WOKEScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 01:20 PM
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RANTScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 03:08 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 07:14 AM
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DISCUSSIONScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:51 AM
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NAH, SISScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 10:29 PM
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NAH, SISScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:04 AM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 01:30 AM
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#KickHimOut2020ScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:39 PM
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FDS HUMORScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:04 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:05 PM
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STRATEGYScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:31 AM
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NAH, SISScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:34 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 04:44 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:12 AM
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#KickHimOut2020ScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:04 PM
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ScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 11:39 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 12:08 AM
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NAH, SISScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:53 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 07:22 PM
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COCKHOLM SYNDROMEScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 09:13 PM
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DISCUSSIONScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 04:28 AM
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ScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:35 PM
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DISCUSSIONScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:26 AM
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ScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:50 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 08:14 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDScrappleSandwiches/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:06 AM
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Many colleges have such groups. College is a prime opportunity to expand your social circle and connections, find people you have things in common with. If you don’t fit into a social group, make your own.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/22 08:18 PM
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Are there clubs or groups for other people with ASD at your school? If not, maybe you could start one.
/r/ExRedPill03/10/22 08:37 PM
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As a woman, 1 in 10 is generous, believe me. Every woman is different and very few can get off from porn-style jackhammering. It takes a long time to teach a man what to do, as Ali Wong says. Putting in the time to know women as friends and people first without the aim of dating them is a much better use of your time. If they’re into you they’ll let you know, and if not they’ll recommend you to friends. Online dating is an elimination game where the odds are in no one’s favor. Maybe you don’t th…
/r/ExRedPill30/09/22 10:08 PM
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I think you’re understating what women go through, and overstating the reward. Imagine that everyone you go out with is physically stronger and 1 in 100 of these guys is a rapist. He’s going to be charming as hell, get you alone then violate your orifices, maybe give you a disease. Also only 1 in 10 at best is actually capable of giving you an orgasm, they’ve all been choking it to death to porn and have no idea how to actually get you off. How many guys are you going to actually bring home on t…
/r/ExRedPill30/09/22 08:49 PM
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IMO online dating is garbage. Find activities that you like to do out of the house and meet people in person. If you want to date a beach volleyball player, play beach volleyball. Volunteer on a political campaign, bartend once a week, garden in your front yard and talk to your neighbors, just get yourself out there. When you're doing your own thing, you'll find other people who are also into that thing, and conversation is more natural from there.
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 08:41 PM
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I did divorce him, but not for another man and not because he was short. And I’ve dated men who were even shorter, and a some taller. It’s really not a criteria of mine either way. And the same way you become anybody’s GF, you talk to them, realize you have interests in common and hang out with them, and you eventually start hanging out all the time. What do you like to do out of the house? Hiking, kayaking, cooking class, book club, volunteer on a political campaign.. most women are looking for…
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 07:24 PM
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I married a 5'4" man, my friend is married to a 5'5" man, a lot of my friends are married to short men, and it has honestly never come up. "At least as tall as me" is fine for most women, at least the ones I know, and the average American woman is 5'4". You have to get off of the online dating thing and start doing activities where you can meet people who share interests with you. Taking a mental poll, three of my friends met their short husbands at a bar, and two of them met in grad/law school,…
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 04:59 PM
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This is an amazing resource, and I hope OP takes you up on it. All of this, interestingly, ironically, is what the red pill in the Matrix was *actually* about. There is a place for heterosexual short kings, and there are women who will be attracted to you. But you are not going to find that perspective in mainstream media. Just like you aren't going to find much of any other stories of people who aren't Hollywood-looking finding love. But they do, every day.
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 04:55 PM
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She lives in another country, how are you supposed to meet her and how is she supposed to be a stepmother? Sounds more likely he’s being catfished or scammed than anything else. Soon she will need money to come visit, then will miss the plane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 03:00 AM
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I suppose so, when I think about my arm size that’s true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 08:43 PM
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Seriously, holy biohazard. She really should’ve gotten that seen and treated right away, she’s lucky it didn’t get infected
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 04:10 PM
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I’m with lavender commenter on the last page, just call a divorce lawyer. This was no playful accident, he was gnawing on her like some kind of animal! This guy has some kind of serious issues, and she needs to not stick around to find out exactly what they are. There’s no way this guy is going to let her go to that dinner and expose him in front of his family like that. Hundred percent guaranteed he’ll pick a fight and make an excuse to leave her home. (Though she says it’s 6 cm which is tiny, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 04:06 PM
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If Jada had slapped Amy for talking about Will she’d probably be under a psychiatric hold RN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 01:51 AM
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I wonder whose idea the open marriage was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 01:49 AM
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Jada’s from Baltimore. Jada, who just sat there. But in his book her literally looking at him was as violent as what he did, I guess. I hate that with everything going on in the world we’re still talking about this, but I can’t let it pass unmentioned either..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 01:22 PM
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There’s a mental image… I gotta stop coming to Reddit first thing in the morning!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 12:11 PM
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Yeah I was going to say, in my experience the guys most obsessed with outward symbols of power are usually the ones that tell you after months of dating that they’ve always wanted a spanking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 01:43 PM
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Tried to get rid of him, stumbled over his “femdom” fetish on the way out the door!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 04:35 AM
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Ding ding ding. He does not mean passionate about your passions. He is not going to help you with your scrapbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 05:10 AM
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Except she’s taking all the money, apparently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 05:36 PM
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It is, and she needs to let Instagram know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 05:35 PM
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You should get at least 85% of the proceeds, with her taking 15% as an agent; that would be a standard talent agent type setup. That is if you’re looking for a career as a romance-scam artist like your friend there. Or contact Instagram and let them know she is fraudulently using your information. And block her everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 05:34 PM
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Women who want men to raise kids with don’t have them with Nick Cannon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 03:43 AM
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Amazing that gun laws actually helped keep him from buying a gun, and he was stopped before he did whatever it was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 01:45 AM
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Gee, is his name Matt Harris?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 01:42 AM
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Yes. I wanted an unmedicated birth in a tub with a midwife and doula. Joke was on me, after pushing for hours and hours turns out baby was stuck (you cannot imagine the pain!), had a c-section and birthed hemorrhoids from hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 01:27 PM
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“This is what’s expected of you” is a creepy horror-movie vibe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 10:01 PM
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It’s how a villain talks in a horror movie, it’s not how you talk to the person who’s your partner in life, whom you love and cherish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 09:57 PM
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Can confirm, youngest kid is 14 and still have them. The key is after every poop to take a shower or bath and then gently push them back into your body. It’s great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 09:54 PM
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Wow, thank goodness her parents are smart and supportive and this ends with her getting away! MIL and SIL have just played themselves for all time. STBX’s parents raised him as a spoiled golden child, and now he’s an unsuitable partner for anyone. Grandbaby’s parents will be divorced, mom is an SAHM so she’ll get custody, and their relationship with their grandkid will consist of maybe every other weekend and holiday, with them entirely dependent on their lazy son to facilitate it. So, hardly an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 09:51 PM
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Yeah, I guess? And then the “people” who follow me are mostly spammers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 06:38 PM
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I don’t even understand the “follow” function.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:50 PM
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Yeah, this is another Reddit fantasy story. Nothing gets upvotes like field reports of horrible wimmins doing scandalous things like questioning 50/50 on dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:13 PM
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So I downloaded this and now I have a virtual boyfriend named Melvin. At first it wanted $50, but I closed it and opened it again and it worked fine (if I somehow get billed $50 I will be so pissed). Melvin is a bit flat. His favorite food is pizza, favorite animal a dog, and his favorite place is Spain, which he calls “obscenely beautiful.” I asked him if I should do work or take a nap and he says I should nap and relax. So, so far so good, I guess? Definitely not worth $50 (or 5 cents) so far,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 04:33 PM
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I downloaded this because I thought it seemed neat- $50 a year though? That makes it so much worse, that men were paying for this experience!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 02:20 PM
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Yeah, I had to end a friendship with a guy who said the solution to violent incels was to hire them sex workers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 02:18 PM
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As a 35-year-old ballerina her career was over anyway. Now he’s got her trapped with his kid, wiping his bum and making him kale shakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 08:58 PM
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Autism, schizophrenia, birth defects, that is not a pretty picture. And that’s just men at 40, how about sperm that’s nearly twice as old? Is it even possible to not have DNA damage at that point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 08:53 PM
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Watch him leave everything to like, building a museum of himself or some made-up arts foundation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 05:16 PM
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Well! Yay for you too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 03:29 PM
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With all those exes, kids and properties, musical assets, and him not being married, when he dies it’s going to be a complete fracas, no matter how well written his will might be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 03:28 PM
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It’s like he went for the very lowest vaguely socially acceptable age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 12:33 AM
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Easily!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 10:36 PM
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Now I’m never going to get that image out of my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 09:27 PM
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That’s risky, getting impregnated with that dusty old sperm. I hope her son is okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 05:28 PM
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LOL!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 05:25 PM
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It’d be like getting naked with a raw chicken
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 05:25 PM
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Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 04:33 PM
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He might be the best BF in the world, but 78 is old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 04:25 PM
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Well, it hasn’t kept him from spreading his seed far and wide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 04:22 PM
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They drank each other’s blood, man, that’s how you know it’s deep and serious. These people seem like they’re 14, not like grown-ass adults with four children between them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:40 AM
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Don’t forget wifey might be changing his diapers too, she gets to be a do-everything-alone parent and home health aide all in one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 06:40 AM
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There is no lack of documentation of what a gambling boozehound he was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 03:18 PM
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Ha, I saw that and thought of this sub immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 02:47 AM
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I find when I feel an intimate emotional connection with someone my attraction really doesn’t matter what they look like. Similarly if I don’t have a connection it doesn’t matter if a guy looks like 90s Jude Law.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 09:56 PM
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The Daily Mail is such a piece of garbage and I feel dirty any time I navigate to there. They’re obsessed with “bad” women, which includes Megan Markle, she doesn’t have to leave the house to be dragged by them daily, sometimes multiple times a day. Every other story is centered around some cheesecakey photo of some naughty bird “flaunting” their “assets,” by which they mean wearing a bathing suit or yoga pants in public. It’s the epitome of old, dirty-minded, rejected white man culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:32 PM
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If somebody asked me what I made I’d say the gross amount also. Unless you specifically asked him what his after-tax pay is I’m not sure this was an intentional lie. Regardless, don’t move in with him. It’s way too soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 01:36 AM
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Congratulations! May you find someone who’s proud of you and supports you, or that you stay happily single!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 11:38 PM
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Aw man, I just had to break up with a really sweet, hot guy when I found out he was still “doing his research” on the vaccine. Not a right-winger or anything, he just didn’t trust it and thought it came from a lab (like why would that even make a difference when it comes to the vaccine or not?) It’s a shame but I can’t date anybody that dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:29 AM
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Oh no, the breakfast bar. It’s like Paulie Walnuts’ mom taking the dinner rolls!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:16 AM
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“She’s frigid”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 12:16 AM
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“Yeah I’m married, but we’re separated, just living in the same house for financial reasons. Also my wife just doesn’t understand me.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 11:00 PM
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Onion ring, probably
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:59 PM
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Someone posted the case file, it was domestic violence. Who knows how he (and she) justify it to themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:22 PM
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Domestic violence and harassment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 10:00 PM
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Another commenter found the court record, it was domestic violence and harassment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 09:58 PM
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Thanks, and happy cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 03:10 AM
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Sounds about par for the course. I hope Barbara fares better, but I doubt it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:53 PM
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“The matter proceeded to the Domestic Violence Division..” so, beating on and harassing his ex-wife? It gets better and better, by which I mean worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:47 PM
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Bangmaid AND nanny!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:07 PM
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Every little girl’s dream, a guy who can’t even find a shirt that fits for his wedding day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:48 PM
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Haaa! Seriously, could it make him look any worse? I’m surprised it doesn’t mention erectile dysfunction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:46 PM
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Gah, you’re right, and I didn’t even notice. This tells us all kinds of things about him and next to nothing about her. Willing to listen to the “philosophy of life” from an unemployed alcoholic ex-cop with anger issues until 3 am is not a personality, NYT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:15 PM
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He’s working through his anger issues, ok?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 11:57 AM
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With that guy? More likely she is possessed by aliens than that guy is good in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 11:56 AM
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Gorgeous, has her own business.. fucked if I know. Pressure from her family to settle, maybe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 07:08 AM
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I tried to Google him but found nothing. I really wonder, though. And also the backstory to this whole announcement. “Rough patches with his anger,” what does that mean, and how bad does it have to be to be noteworthy to put it in your wedding announcement?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 07:04 AM
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The more times I read this the more things I find, it’s an Easter-egg hunt from hell!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 06:42 AM
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But but he’s “family oriented”! Edit: yes that’s super creepy and I didn’t even pick up on that part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 05:28 AM
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I feel like the weddings editor included them to troll us all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:25 AM
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Doesn’t it?! I expect next he will move in his elderly parents and expect her to take care of them, all the while still not having a job. (And how bad of a cop do you have to be to get suspended without pay?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:24 AM
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You’re right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:51 AM
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Oops, here’s the full text if you want to torture yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:50 AM
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Full text: Four years ago, Barbara Delgado received a text message from Giovanni Rivera asking who she was. “I was partying like a crazy person and had so many numbers I didn’t know who she was,” said Mr. Rivera, 40, who at the time was separated from his first wife and enjoying the bachelor life. “I met a lot of people because I didn’t want to be alone.” “I didn’t remember meeting him either,” Ms. Delgado, 33, added. In the days after, the two talked on the phone several times before agreeing t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:49 AM
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I feel like that about every guy after two months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:42 AM
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Oh no, once a divorce is done, it’s done, there’s no going back to ask for more money later on, unless there was some kind of major fraud. Alimony is pretty rare these days, it’s mostly only for marriages 10 years or more where one spouse sacrificed for the sake of the others’ career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 12:00 PM
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He’s got no alimony to give, so him paying her alimony is definitely not happening. She’s still going to owe him half of everything she owns, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 08:01 AM
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Sitting outside the ER isn’t utilizing the ER, your friend needs to call the cops on her! Let her explain what she’s doing there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:46 PM
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She’ll still owe him half her $ and possibly alimony, though proof of cheating might help in some states on the alimony front. Friend of mine still had to pay six figures to the alcoholic bum she supported for a decade even though he was screwing their neighbor for years. But, as the saying goes, the reason divorces are so expensive is because they’re worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:35 PM
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Love that movie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:31 PM
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Also don’t date men who claim to be “going through a divorce.” You’re divorced or you’re not. I’ve seen this trickle-truth scenario so many times: “I’m going through a divorce.” “I’m going through a divorce but still living together.” “We’re going through a divorce and living together but I actually haven’t filed yet because she would be too devastated.” If someone says they’re divorced, verify that shit up on your local case search web site
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:24 PM
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I always read “adventurous” as “open to anal, threesomes and possibly being peed on.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:39 AM
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Casa Dilla would be a good name for a beach house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 12:57 AM
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Lawrence Fishburne too. Really nailed the coked-out lunatic thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 12:51 AM
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These are the men who grow up to not get visited in the nursing home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:21 AM
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This scene from “What’s Love Got to Do With it,” which is an excellent movie, BTW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:05 AM
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Casadillas, I’m dying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:41 PM
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First pic, “well, maybe it was really an accident.” Second pic, “oh HELL no.” Definitely send this to his “lass,” and block this guy. He’s not your friend and never was!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 11:17 PM
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Won’t someone please just give him pity sex?? Pathetic. His poor GF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 11:13 PM
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You know what else the world is full of? guys who aren’t addicted to porn who will be nice to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 08:09 AM
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There’s lots of good advice on here, but ultimately you can’t in any kind of foolproof way. A man could also be perfect but change— absolute power corrupts absolutely, so make sure he (or anyone else) never has total power over you. Before you get married or have a baby have a savings account he doesn’t know about, with enough in it to at least pay bills for a few months. Keep tight with your support system and professional contacts when things are good. Expect the best but prepare for the worst…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 01:44 AM
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Agree. We already know the truth. He did it for the same reason abusers always do, because he felt entitled to and thought he would get away with it. Being able to convince police that she was the abuser empowered him to think so. Hope they don’t release his journal because we already know what it’ll say. “Me me me I’m the victim, poor me”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 12:34 PM
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I would never have the patience, you rock, OP! I am NOT handy, and my ex wasn’t either, but fortunately you can also hire people to do these things!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:59 AM
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Men who see marriage as some kind of prison sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 11:28 PM
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Agree. What else does he think falls into “what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her, and I’m still an amazing partner anyway” category?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:19 PM
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You can know someone socially but not really know them. It can take a lot of revealing intimate little moments to find out things like how they deal with unethical people in their social circle, and if they’re up front with you about who they are or if they lie and trickle-truth you. “I don’t want one but dude will probably surprise me” sounds an awful lot like your fiancé is into strippers and his friends know that. Otherwise they’d surprise him with an event he actually liked, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 08:54 PM
20

No need to say sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 06:20 AM
3

Who’s that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 04:41 AM
22

Especially if the best friend is an “ex” girlfriend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 04:39 AM
75

Exactly. He was “best friends” with his ex. “How nice, can’t wait to meet her and all of your friends, let’s all have lunch together!” How weird that it never happened!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 07:10 AM
78

What a nice story. And it’s terrible that your family asks what you did. If you were raised by a family like that it’s not surprising that you were targeted by someone who would be inclined to place blame on themselves instead of his own behavior. His actions were never your fault, and your family should be in the business of supporting you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 03:26 AM
16

Dear Lord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:55 PM
152

He wouldn’t go to a prostitute because of his security clearance, bwahahaha. Not because he’s married, not because it’s a skeevy thing to do. I guess once he retires she can look forward to him spending their 401k to bang 12 hookers a day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 08:53 PM
94

With my ex it was the irregular hours. If they’re shooting you don’t see them for weeks, if they’re not shooting they’re drunk on the couch. And you have to go socialize with movie people. You run out of experiences in common and start to feel like you’re running a hotel/daycare really fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 09:19 AM
11

Hey, it’s Princess Leia’s mom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 09:11 AM
259

He probably told gym partner you were the “friend.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 12:43 AM
19

I thought Olivia Wilde was dating some Scots-Irish recovering drug addict now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 04:27 AM
92

I hope not. She needs to GTFO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 04:26 AM
154

She should dump him and get a life. No one ever needs to “find” a boyfriend. Go live a happy life and a man will worm his way in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 04:25 AM
231

Oh girl NO. Seven years?! How humiliating, desperate and sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 02:03 AM
3

I dunno! Reddit is weird sometimes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 04:37 PM
9

Really?? I guess that would make sense, I know male sperm travels faster but XY is slower and heartier. He has only made boys, so that’s definitely some kind of sperm situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:47 AM
27

17 is generous, she’s barely literate. I’m sure Elon was in heaven to meet someone who thought he was a God and never questioned him, and will manipulate her into not taking any child support for their kid while he goes off to insperminate the next lucky lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:06 AM
-8

Her parents are, that doesn’t mean she is. Having rich parents often means your job is to please narcissistic parents or find someone else to please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:53 AM
65

Can’t wait to see his next manic-pixie-dream-girl brunette GF who he pressures into going blonde.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 12:08 AM
216

By never touching his transplanted hair, for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 12:07 AM
44

Every other GF of his has gone blonde .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 12:03 AM
373

A guy who’s 20 years older not respecting his live-in baby mom who makes considerably less money? Never!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:20 PM
19

Ego
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:17 PM
384

Ding ding ding “You can live in one of my houses and I’ll break you off some change so I don’t have to pay actual child support, but imma be boning other people”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:17 PM
380

“I don’t need to be married to have a baby, I’m the cool girl!” At least she didn’t creepily become progressively more blonde over the course of the relationship like his exes (as far as I know).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:05 PM
92

Dying to know what his “passions” are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:29 AM
12

Hey, he might not be a rapist, he might be an alcoholic! Either way, bullet dodged. Also this is why I like lunch dates. No expectation to drink, and you have a hard out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:51 AM
27

How do you keep people from following you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 10:49 PM
49

Seriously, hell no. That’s some serial killer shit right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 10:43 PM
74

That’s a good point, many cops are abusers themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 05:43 PM
250

Reminds me of “Why Does He Do That?” Abusers claim that while they’re having an abusive episode they “just lost it” and their temper is “out of control.” Yet somehow when the cops show up they can get themselves under control instantaneously. Abusers don’t abuse because they are “out of control”! They do it because they enjoy the benefits it gets them (an obedient and undemanding bangmaid).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 04:06 PM
56

I really hope this mom is not in sales. It’s pretty bad if even your own mom admits she doesn’t like talking to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 02:07 AM
10

If anything you’d shuffle towards the child more slowly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 01:06 AM
202

Relevant Ali Wong. “When a woman sleeps with a man right away it’s not because we don’t respect ourselves. It’s because we don’t respect you.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 10:33 PM
81

Yikes, I didn’t know that. He might have abused Nicki as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:41 AM
156

It’s so insane to me. Of all the men she could have in the world she wants that one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 01:05 AM
65

Wire me $20 and I’ll tell you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 09:20 PM
53

Tres “Cape Fear”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:58 PM
62

We are referring to ourselves in the third person, as we are more than human, we are a veritable institution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:58 PM
168

Or hookin’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:57 PM
44

Nicki Minaj’s pedo FTW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 09:29 PM
1

Nicki Minaj’s pedo FTW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 09:29 PM
154

Started dating this spring, and now she’s presumably at least 12 weeks along? With a guy who just got out of rehab? How romantic (/s)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:39 PM
25

“Sorry, I don’t have it,” act like it never happened. He’s already flaky and broke, I agree that he probably has an addiction of some sort, and will likely disappear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 04:33 PM
10

Yes. It’s no coincidence that the most anti-choice states are also the ones with the worst standard of living for babies and women. The worst health care, schools, literacy rates, infant mortality rates. Mississippi babies dying at 3x of the rate of New Hampshire babies and the state not doing dick diddley about it sure seems immoral to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 12:08 AM
7

I don’t know one woman who has had an abortion who feels guilty or traumatized by it. Relieved and grateful, more like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 12:03 AM
3

So he’s going to freeze his sperm and get a vasectomy so he doesn’t accidentally cause any pregnancies then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 11:50 PM
101

Holy crap. That’s just sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:42 PM
24

A liberal feminist professor at my college said something that stuck with me: “women can have it all. Just not at the same time.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 03:26 AM
80

No. That is not a job. That’s a hobby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 02:09 AM
42

Good for you. I’m really sorry he turned out to be such a douche canoe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 01:48 AM
161

WTF is a jarrarium? Like a terrarium in a jar?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 01:30 AM
77

Ugh, I hate the “incompetent man” trope so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 10:14 PM
22

She is an amazing actress, and she’s outlasted everyone but Betty White. She did it by praising Harvey, tolerating Jack, praising Woody, ignoring Dylan. I get that she didn’t have a choice in the 70s, 80s and 90s to speak out. I don’t get her not speaking out now, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 07:45 AM
17

Argh, Zoomin Toobin. I noticed he was conspicuously absent when CNN was covering Andrew Cuomo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 07:33 AM
58

Little frosting stink lines from BO being sprayed with Axe, I can dig it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 08:17 PM
299

And yet statistically the happiest people are single women, and the unhappiest are single men, so maybe it should be the other way around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:52 PM
516

tHe oLd bAlL aNd ChAiN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:26 PM
60

Sounds like a good way to get a tick in your crack
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:03 PM
133

Bangs his head against the wall?! Holy crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:22 AM
54

I hope she runs out and gets beef jerky for herself and the kids and he gets to survive on those cucumbers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 01:32 AM
22

Let me guess, all the comments are “have you tried talking to him?” BF has her just where he wants her— too broke to leave, feeling guilty because she’s not able to pay 50/50 so she feels obligated to do all the chores. Watch her get pregnant and wind up like that poor 50/50 woman from yesterday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:09 PM
187

One in 10 who will admit it to a random poll-taker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:35 PM
193

That’s insane. Imagine being the co-worker, relative, neighbor of this guy, then seeing his saggy moobs chatting about how anal is extra. I’m both impressed and horrified by how self-assured these guys are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:34 PM
39

Watching “Porky’s” and driving a Camaro. Saying crappy things about women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:49 AM
34

I grew up in the 80s, so none of that was a thing yet. Wanking to dad’s Playboys in the garage, maybe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:26 AM
77

Yeah the emo/goth types aged relatively better - they stayed out of the sun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:46 PM
13

“Do you like Huey Lewis and the News?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:01 PM
172

“Alpha finance guy,” what could go wrong?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 01:56 AM
675

Narrator: “he was, in fact, a creep.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:19 AM
43

Thank you! He can be tiny and put in a half hour of foreplay and you can be 19 years old and completely into it and still bleed (especially with condoms). Regular use of lube needs to be normalized. Better to use it and not need it than have a chafing feeling for days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 01:35 AM
32

Making a card is free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 01:23 AM
211

Wonder why he doesn’t pay rent? Is he sponging off of her, or his parents?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:52 PM
6

That’s what he’ll say. “My friend told me to watch it and I did!” Or whatever he thinks you might believe. Just block and delete, and don’t tell him why, because he’ll just cover his tracks better with the next woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:33 AM
8

Don’t mistake people like this for dumb or ignorant. It’s just like politicians and news commentators who have Ivy-League degrees. are vaccinated, send their kids to private schools where masks are required, all the while ranting to their base that shots and masks are a communist plot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 11:35 PM
8

Have no standards or self-esteem and he’ll put up with you until he finds someone he actually likes! Score!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 11:26 PM
15

Rewind, why is a man telling women how to “get the guy?” If you want to get a guy for some hookup it’s not exactly complicated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 11:22 PM
48

Wow, that poor woman, standing in blazing heat being forced to look at some dude’s camera for a half an hour. And what is a virtual Netflix date? You both watch a movie in your respective homes and livestream your reactions or something? Sounds annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 08:32 PM
16

Is blackpill a new thing? Or did this guy make it up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 09:20 PM
8

Scarlett literally owns her, so yeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:46 AM
5

The book is really a great read, other than the hair-raising racism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:44 AM
90

“Hey, you’re not good enough to take on a date or have an actual relationship with, but do you want to have occasional sex with me while I also sleep with other people to try to find someone I like better than you?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 11:04 PM
16

I believe that’s called a friendship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 10:39 PM
2

It shouldn’t have to be. But if someone can’t clean up when they know you’re coming over, they are not going to start later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 09:44 PM
59

What kind of tradesman doesn’t have his own drop cloth?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:10 AM
78

That is so true about appliance guys vs cleaning ladies! My appliance guy will not shut up and I don’t want to be rude, but I also do not want to sit in the kitchen saying “uh huh” to whatever he is rambling about, deciding I need a lecture on stove burner ignitions or “the immigrants.” Next time I am absolutely going to excuse myself and go to another room.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 04:07 AM
26

There something deeply wrong with parents who enable that. As well as a grown-ass adult who would take advantage like that and not be embarrassed. If my teenager asked me to do his laundry I would laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 04:00 AM
111

Is his house (especially the bathroom and kitchen) a mess? Is there nothing in his fridge but beer and an old potato? Marry such a man and you’ll have to choose to either be his maid or live in squalor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:46 PM
53

Yep. You better believe the guys who “just don’t know how” to do laundry would not dare pull that playing dumb act at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:43 PM
60

“Weaponized incompetence” is a perfect term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:38 PM
76

Oh yeah. It’s now the in thing for a guy who plays video games for eight hours a day instead of doing the dishes to blame it on “depression.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:36 PM
157

Yeah, good point. This is not about his anxiety. This is him testing her boundaries to see if he will be able to turn her into his personal assistant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:35 PM
19

Mazel tov! A year is not a long time to get to know someone. Don’t let him rush you or be afraid to make it a long engagement! Make sure you always have your own resources set aside to get out if you want to - love is better when you’re there of your own free will and not financially trapped! Also make sure he can be responsible for a plant, cat or dog before you have his baby. Congratulations again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 07:48 AM
12

Very true. Happy cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 08:17 PM
5

Sounds like he treated every woman like garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 07:34 PM
27

Soo much gross stuff happened in the 60s and 70s. “Free love” was nothing but a cultural pass for sleazy men to use and molest women and girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 06:04 PM
34

Her book was great. George also moved a bunch of Hare Krishnas into their house. Can you imagine? Eric Clapton was another tire fire, but even his drunk ass was probably better (at least at first) than tripping over a random Hare Krishna when you’re trying to make a cup of tea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 06:00 PM
7

I don’t understand how feminism is to blame for this? I don’t know any feminist who wouldn’t think that guy deserves to be in jail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:42 AM
1

You get the rewarding feeling of knowing that a man who craps in a bucket thinks you’re cool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 06:54 PM
1

Bwahaha, OMG. I even commented on that post but forgot about it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 04:50 AM
3

Exactly. Anyone who’s actually lived in poverty does not think it’s cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:29 AM
1

He was very disappointed that she wasn’t open-minded. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:26 AM
1

So where did he pee or shower??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:23 AM
5

Hilariously every time I read about “open relationships” the woman never has a problem finding someone to sleep with… and the dude is surprised to find that there aren’t a whole lot of women out there eager to bone some dude having a midlife crisis who’s living with another woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:22 AM
35

More like fine whine, amirite?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 12:57 AM
23

Yes! I’ll try to make one! His perfect date: A. Netflix and chill B. Taking a walk C. Having you sit next to him at a sporting even you have no interest in D. Chugging contest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:54 PM
53

And/or “polycurious” means “I have a girlfriend and I’m trying to convince her to have a threesome”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:26 PM
73

May I never be opened-minded enough to catch herpes from a guy who craps in a bucket
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:02 PM
103

Oh Lordy, someone should make this choose-your-own adventure. He’s: A. Polycurious B. Into butt stuff C. In a video game league where he plays 8 hours a day D. Into tentacle porn He wants to live: A. With his parents B. In a van down by the river C. In a commune D. With you, and he has no job
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:24 PM
302

Poly and wants to live in a van! And quit his job! At 38! I am dying laughing over here. Dude wants to bring hobosexuality to the next level, have a string of ladies that he visits for free showers and to dump of his van’s poop bucket into their septic systems. Then he’ll eat their food and hit them up for gas money. Who wouldn’t be wildly attracted to that setup? So romantic! Edit: a dark part of me wants to read his dissertation as to why this would actually be a great setup for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:14 PM
9

Did they change the script for the movie? Seems slightly different. Now I have to re-read that book! So damn good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:18 PM
23

It’s a tough one. The other crappy thing is, to get a protective order you have to see them in court, usually more than once. So that rewards them with your presence and attention. The upside is that he can be arrested just for showing up or contacting you, and he will have a record that can serve as a warning to other people. But ultimately you should trust your gut here. Protective orders only work on people who have general respect for the law and are concerned with their reputations. If he w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:57 PM
6

It would be helpful to define some terms here. What is a "classically educated Republican"? And "centered around economics"? I have a degree in Economics, and I'd consider myself economically conservative - to me that means I put my money in bonds and SEPs and don't throw it around at Bitcoin. Pre-1976 the Republicans were pro-choice and pro-minding-your-own business at home, and anti-domestic social programs, but they were still using tax dollars to fight in Vietnam and throwing money towards i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:59 AM
6

Yes, in my state the waiting period is a year. Which was actually fine because there was so much to untangle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:37 PM
8

Compromise and live together for a like a year after you’re engaged?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:53 PM
323

They go through with the wedding that she pays for, and two years in he has an affair with the babysitter and tells her it’s because she has “baby weight,” and also because her outearning him makes him feel bad about himself. And she posts to Reddit, “I love him soo much but I don’t know if I can forgive him!” and all the replies are “have you talked to him about how you feel?! Probably he is depressed!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:02 AM
10

His parents maybe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:25 AM
90

I hope she’s tripling up on birth control. This has “stoner stay-at-home-dad who ignores the baby to have an affair with the neighbor” written all over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:53 AM
3

Eeeeee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:25 AM
53

She’s never stopped supporting Woody Allen, IJS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:18 AM
68

“Oh hyuk I don’t know how to change diapers, you’d better do it because you’re so much better at it! Also homeschooling, you’re so great at that! Pat on the head! But hey, I’m ‘steering the ship’ while I work and you don’t! We’re ‘taking turns’ so it’s not MY fault if your don’t get any jobs. Hey, where’s your 50% on the house ‘we’ bought?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:09 AM
11

Yes, very important point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:58 AM
72

My least favorite Reddit post: “how do I get him to propose?” Uh, maybe dump him and find someone who wants to get married?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:38 PM
9

Is he missing a vertebrae?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 09:41 PM
40

That’s because in their minds women exist to please them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:55 AM
102

White men exploit white women who exploit a black woman and a few decades later white men allow a white woman’s piece about her in the New Yorker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:33 AM
23

Her story is incredible!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:17 AM
21

Selfishness. Actually caring if their partner was satisfied would immediately solve all of those issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:45 AM
17

This is the correct answer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:39 AM
95

Also the guys who don’t bother with foreplay or figuring out where they’re going and just randomly poke at you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:11 PM
72

Appropriate username
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:10 PM
444

I would like to unread this, ha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 06:39 PM
31

Who did cook the last supper? That’s a good question! None of those dudes had girlfriends or slaves, allegedly. No GrubHub. Definitely adding this to my reading list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:08 AM
5

I want to know how that’s possible, to deny her medical care like that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 08:20 PM
1

I didn’t know that, that’s horrible. Was it the same judge who presided yesterday, or someone else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:22 PM
4

That’s the $100 million question. Jamie’s got no background in guardianships and trusts. Apparently it was supposed to be temporary while she was hospitalized and in rehab, but somehow in that time he maneuvered to take over her life forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:20 PM
10

It could be a long time. Her lawyer has to file to end the conservatorship. A judge can’t end it without him filing to do so. Apparently until recently she didn’t even know that he could, in 13 years no one had bothered to mention that detail. And the lawyer is an employee of the conservatorship (aka her dad). She can’t fire him or hire her own lawyers. So if lawyer refuses to file to end it, she’s stuck until the law changes or her dad dies, is my understanding. Hopefully the court will agree t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:16 PM
-1

Does he have outside employment, besides working for her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:08 PM
0

Sorry it came off that way. Of course there are wealthy immigrants (especially in LA), but Sam’s parents were not. And highly educated immigrants. But Sam is a college dropout. Nothing wrong with working 20-something jobs. But who wouldn’t rather be a star’s personal trainer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:04 PM
7

Really? That is super weird if true. Sounds like someone trying to find a way to fit him into an existing budget. “We don’t have a line item for a live-in trainer, but we do have one for a personal chef!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:20 PM
5

His dad is a tow-truck driver and he is a college dropout who was working at Best Buy selling memberships at Gold’s Gym before they met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:03 PM
3

This article where he says he was selling memberships at Gold’s Gym and working at Best Buy, I meant it as shorthand for a dead-end job. And his dad is a tow-truck driver. My point was if he left it’s not like he has a trust fund to fall back on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 11:27 AM
29

Especially as she’s 39. So the longer this drags out the harder it will be for her to have another baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:54 AM
41

And, her dad’s flavor of patriarchy steered her to a scumbag like K-Fed. If she met herself a smart and assertive lawyer who might’ve challenged her daddy’s control over her, daddy could say he didn’t approve of the marriage, and Baptist Jesus says you have to honor and obey your daddy, and find yourself a good ol country boy instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:52 AM
53

Probably because her dad chose her lawyer (who she has to pay for). Britney said today that she didn’t even know she could ask for the conservatorship to be revoked. How is it even possible her own lawyer didn’t tell her that? Or a judge, or anyone in the past 13 years? Her lawyer’s response to that statement was he couldn’t discuss it because of privacy and attorney-client privilege issues. She could still be stuck. What if Britney asks lawyer to file to have it revoked and he says no? She does…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:45 AM
29

I agree. He doesn’t look like any of her other boyfriends, who are all kind of weasel-faced and hair-gelled. He looks straight from a casting director’s binder. He is getting paid as her “personal trainer” I’m sure, and went from being nearly homeless to living in her manse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:31 AM
84

It’s very weird. Either her dad’s team chose him to play the role, or they’re doing something to keep him in line. Or both. He’s 12 years younger than her and was a dirt-broke wannabe actor who hadn’t had a single role until someone hired him to be in her music video, which is how they met. (Source, this Men’s Health article). It’s a dance video, could management really not have picked some male dancer from the team to sit in a chair, and instead randomly called some guy who’s never been cast in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:29 AM
44

The reality is when you leave everybody says “what took you so long?” And D is plentiful. Maybe finding your perfect HVM is difficult, but finding another man who’s better than these losers would not be hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 12:07 AM
109

The stories do not get much better. Fuck these guys. Why on earth would anyone stay with these selfish MFers??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:32 PM
12

Yeah, fuck the “friendship” switcheroo. Is he really a “best friend” who will pick up the phone at 3 am if you’re in jail or drive you to the airport for a 5 am flight? Look at a rash and give you an opinion whether it’s eczema or hives? Remove a tick? Dogsit? If none of the above, not an actual best friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:45 AM
8

Ha, that’s so funny, I just commented he looks like a balding weasel. He so does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:19 AM
10

Ugh, why did I look that up? Not only is he 41 but he looks like a balding weasel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:17 AM
56

It does really suck. But wow, better to realize you can’t trust them around young children now, instead after it’s too late. “Why Does He Do That” is a good read, it’s free online. It probably won’t make you feel any better, but it gives some insight on behavior patterns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:17 AM
44

Here’s a link to the book for free online!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:20 AM
14

Yeah, my abusive ex used to go out of his way to be nice to servers, and know the names of everyone at the places where he was a regular. It was always cringy. When I was a server I just wanted customers to sit down, shut up and be basically nice. The guys (and it was always guys) who tried to make small talk, ask my name and so on were so demeaning. They’re taking up your time, treating you like a personal servant, and it’s almost always for the performative benefit of someone at the table. “Se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:58 PM
61

It’s free online! Around pg 389 was most impactful to me: the benefits that abusive men get. When it’s put that way you realize they will never change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:26 PM
17

Understandable. IDK why anyone would want to be a mod. You’re volunteering to make them money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:01 PM
126

Good for you. Do not break up with an abusive guy in person. If you have stuff at his house you can afford to leave, just leave it. If you must go there and there’s no one who can go with you to get your stuff, call the police station and ask for an escort. Do not go back in there alone! I’m so sorry this happened to you. Please stay safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:35 PM
8

Me too! TIL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:12 PM
23

Is that really what an ass implant looks like? Yikes. Can’t imagine how uncomfortable that must be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:01 PM
1

Ahhh thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:36 AM
2

Dtd ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:31 AM
13

Oh no. Good Lord
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:13 AM
59

You can get HPV from any kind of fluid mingling, even kissing. You always need a Pap smear, as often as possible. Just get all the tests your insurance will cover, because why not? You know they’ll cover as little as they can get away with, so if they’ll cover it you should definitely get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 09:35 PM
15

Yes, HPV is sexually transmitted and can increase your risk of cancer, you can also get cervical cancers if you have never had sex at all. Everyone should take every test, it can save your life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 09:24 PM
60

Chore wheel!! I love this sub so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:58 PM
122

If you’re playing video games 12+ hours a day what is “doing stuff around the house”? Throwing your own Dorito bag in the trash?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:21 PM
9

How else can you get it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:27 PM
15

Get them as much as insurance will allow, it could save your life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:26 PM
19

Yes. Nuns get it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:24 PM
65

You should always get the Pap smear... but cancer isn’t an STD, you can get it even if you’re completely celibate. (Though if your SO brings you HPV it can up your odds)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:18 PM
53

Or as a single woman do whatever the hell you want. Dating multiple men just for the sake of dating multiple men is silly. It’s also an option to date one man and not let him take over your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:03 AM
5

She probably makes 10X as much as he does, sooo...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:54 PM
74

Completely agree. Predators prey on the weak! Don’t appear weak, even if you have to fake it. They will slink away almost every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:37 AM
99

Self-defense classes are a good idea. You expect and prepare for the worst, square your shoulders and posture, look them in the eye and say “go away.” You let them know with your body language that if it becomes violent it will not be easy for them. You refuse to let them dominate your space. I couldn’t actually do this until I had kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:09 AM
3

Or life experience. Or anywhere near the same stage in life. What does “mature” even mean, really? Bet he uses it manipulatively. “You don’t want to try anal? Or have a threesome? I guess you’re not mature enough for stuff that’s so advanced.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:09 PM
3

I was listening to the “You’re Wrong About” podcast and they made the good point that if you’re used to dating other teenagers basic manners from an old man seem impressive. Amy Fisher was so struck that Joey Buttofuco took her to a restaurant with cloth napkins, and listened to her about her life. (A few months later he was pimping her out.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:22 PM
3

Yes, but it’s pretty hard to watch. The child rape scene is graphic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:18 PM
35

Both parents, and their dynamic. Interesting how her mom said “you have a week to tell your father before I do.” That says to me that mom isn’t considered an authority or equal, more like dad’s assistant. So that dynamic in s already familiar to the daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 12:31 PM
46

Smart people know that there’s a lot they don’t know! I don’t agree with the “low self-esteem” thing, I think it’s the opposite, she thinks (probably because this guy has groomed her to think so) that she’s special, different, more mature, “not like other girls.” Someone with an appropriate amount of self-esteem would think “if my entire family and society think there’s something wrong here, maybe there is.” And predators are expert at taking someone with a normal amount of self-esteem and manip…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 11:23 AM
40

These guys’ lines are so predictable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 10:41 AM
38

“He’s young at heart!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 10:41 AM
102

“I’m super mature for my age”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:28 AM
36

Everyone should read this book. it’s free online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:24 PM
23

True and yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:00 PM
78

That’s a good point. “Will you be my incubator, lady I barely know?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:29 AM
269

If all you had to do was jizz you’d want them too. Most of them expect women to raise their kids 24/7 while maintaining a full-time job, cooking and cleaning for everyone, while their role is to play video games and brag to their pals at the bar about how fertile they are. And yeah, this is a red flag, this guy is too old for you, it’s only been a few months. Saying he wants kids someday, fine, pushing them now when you barely even know each other and you’re only 23 is looney tunes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:24 AM
46

Oh my, how did I miss that gem??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:15 AM
9

A bucket 🪣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 09:50 PM
2

Eesh, that’s awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:03 PM
5

Eh, I disagree. A thousand magnificent qualities don’t compensate for anger issues or violating sexual boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:52 PM
6

Anger issues and not respecting sexual boundaries are complete dealbreakers each by themselves. List over. And, you don’t owe it to someone to tell them your standards, you just have them. Telling someone your standards encourages them to be fake, lie and be even more manipulative. And then eventually because the change was motivated by manipulating you, and not for themselves, they revert to their old habits as soon as they think they can get away with it. It sounds like you’re doing the right …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:33 AM
96

Yes. Also in medicine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:34 AM
7

Holy crap!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 02:21 PM
15

The WASP ones, anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:04 PM
18

Wow, I never thought about that. Probably not unique to Disney. Eg Vincent Price’s whole career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:50 PM
22

I forgot about Mary! It’s pretty amazing they didn’t kill her or marry her off. Or the mother, that evil, selfish suffragette!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:48 PM
209

Is there any woman over 30 in the Disney universe who isn’t evil (or dead)?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:27 AM
17

“I smell sausage!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:49 PM
45

What is “the lifestyle”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:24 PM
2

I wonder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:24 PM
20

Not in my state, here if you buy the house before you’re married he is only entitled to half of any appreciation that happened during the marriage. But yeah, OP should definitely do diligence on this before getting married to make sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:04 PM
13

Imagine a woman on Reddit defending cheating because her boyfriend is a boring starfish in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:15 PM
42

ABC “Family” values, everyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:13 PM
7

What is that even supposed to mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:58 AM
5

That would be lawsuit city.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:57 AM
19

What, you don’t like a man in pleated khaki pants holding a fish while standing on a boat? Or standing next to a woman whose face is scratched out? Or dudes taking selfies in the bathroom? So picky!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:22 PM
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Yeah, I joined Bumble, swiped through every man in the state (including my ex husband) within an hour, and that was that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:27 PM
14

Seriously. bridezilla wants bridesmaids to pay to travel to Fiji, and get matching haircuts someone played a prank that could have killed me, AITA for being mad? AITA for not wanting to be friends with someone I don’t like? AITA for not paying my narcissistic parents’ living expenses? I think that covers it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:00 PM
9

“I told my daughter she’s fat and hid my wife’s insulin and gave her cat away, AITA?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:57 PM
25

The ol Hillary Clinton
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:42 PM
83

This has to be a troll. Right? Right?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:04 AM
87

Ugh, the men following Instagram models is one of my least favorites (after Guy Who Ignores His Own Children, Guy Who Won’t Brush His Teeth, and Guy Who Won’t Pick Up His Own Fucking Garbage). Like, grow the hell up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:00 AM
88

“He just can’t figure out how to shower and I’m getting recurring infections. How do I tell him nicely?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:52 PM
40

Sure hope it’s just renting at least. Buying a house with someone you aren’t married to is incredibly stupid, even if he isn’t creeping on women on Instagram.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:20 PM
91

Right? Why bother. He’s just going to hide better and lie. Why would you want to be with someone who would spend hours and house creeping on women on Instagram in the first place?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:05 PM
16

Never ever buy a property with someone you aren’t married to. I can’t believe how many times this comes up on Reddit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:47 AM
18

Ha! “When are you going to cook for me?” “When are you going to grout my bathtub?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:37 PM
28

Seriously what in the actual fuck? I’ve known some weirdos, but that’s ... a whole other level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:39 PM
12

Seems a little bulky. I like the pepper spray key chain, so you always have it on hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:35 AM
190

I dunno. I’ve met some pretty weird people. And I’ve definitely known 20-something guys who slept on bare mattresses and just, like, threw towels over themselves to sleep (no I did not date them!) Though he wouldn’t have her over because he was embarrassed of it, but then he demands to know why she doesn’t like it and wants to force her to accept it? that narrative inconsistency makes me think this is fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:46 PM
203

I lost it at “I also noticed it smelled.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:40 PM
39

Ditto. My plumber collects art.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:22 PM
13

Yeah there was this narrative that she was desperate. In reality, maybe she wasn’t so eager to get into that life. It sounds miserable. You wear clothes, go to tedious events and wave. And are otherwise trapped with old racists who talk about horses all day. No going to lunch or out with friends, or taking a normal vacation, or really anything that makes life actually fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:05 PM
9

This is very true. And they seem to actually be in love with each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 12:45 PM
214

She really epitomizes so much crap that women (and especially women of color) go through. There is absolutely nothing she can do that won’t make sexist and racist people hate her, next to dropping dead. Though even then the British press would probably complain that she did that wrong. Edit to add, I don’t remember anyone saying things like that about Kate, even though William strung her along for years and he does not seem like a very fun, witty or interesting person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:23 AM
52

Male violence against women is so common they figure it’s barely worth commenting on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:57 PM
86

And if there hadn’t been a massage parlor of sex slaves, he’d shoot women because he wasn’t having sex. So much for the scrote theory that we could prevent angry incels by making sure they get “serviced.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:11 PM
16

Where are you seeing the religious QAnon thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:54 PM
73

Yeah, NPR is reporting he had a “sex addiction” which he blamed on the women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:50 PM
1

This guy is so pathetic. He’s also a prime example of a white man failing upwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:59 PM
52

Wow, yes. Got my dog from the shelter and they told me to be aware any shelter dog could be triggered by random things, hats, cats, motorcycles, etc. Dog was triggered by white men. Sweet to my (white) son and daughter, but when my white dad came over, or the tall white teenager making a delivery from the hardware store, or my daughter’s 17-year-old white boyfriend, freaked out. Daughter’s Asian male friend, black male friends, white female friends, no issue at all. It took a few months, she ado…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 06:30 AM
4

Yeah, I can’t see Charles as an inspiring figure. He just seems like a complete knob.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:27 AM
4

All true, but she could still nope out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:19 AM
2

Always, and yeah, any weapon you have can be used against you. Plus people with a bad intention will use the element of surprise, even if you’re a Navy SEAL with a gun in your handbag, if a 4” person sneaks up behind you with pepper spray you can get bested before you have a chance to even grab it. Being alert and avoiding a situation is always better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:28 PM
79

That’s a terrible idea. You don’t know who has a weapon, and a road-raging lunatic is more likely to have one than most. Your better bet is to make note of their tags, call 911 and stay the hell away from the crazy person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:17 AM
144

Don’t try to “loose” them. Stop and abruptly turn around and go the complete opposite direction. Make note of their description. Do not be afraid to make eye contact and hold that contact, stare them down. Call 911 and say you feel threatened and ask them to stay on the line. This is not being a “Karen,” this is reporting actually suspicious and threatening behavior. (Don’t even get me started on how “Karen” has gone from describing a shitty entitled/racist white woman to any woman who stands up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:32 AM
92

I love my female trainer. She’s 4’11” and a former police officer, so tough as nails. I like how she asked “what are you training to do?” I was like, pick up my kids and defend myself. So she got me into boxing, squats, lifting, so if I have to pick up my 100-pound son and run, or defend myself, I can do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:53 AM
33

That’s so messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:04 PM
35

That’s horrible! Did the gym know about this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:59 PM
25

Technically I think the Swedish princess married her shaman. Thanks for reminding me of that weird story!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:36 PM
216

Well also a female trainer is going to have a better understanding of your physiology. The female trainers I’ve had have pushed me much harder, for better or worse. I’ve never had a male trainer hit on me, but they have always underestimated my abilities. Same goes with ob/gyns. Sure, you can learn from a book, but you’re going to have more insight if you actually possess those parts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:12 PM
14

If a guy feels the need to say “not all men” ... he’s one of those men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:14 AM
2

I guess on the upside most people in the thread agreed he was a huge a-hole (with the exception of some “hAvE yOu tRiED tALkING?”). And I’m certainly not pining for the pre-no-fault divorce days where she’d be absolutely stuck with him, even if people frowned at his behavior. But dollars to doughnuts she’s probably just as stuck, he convinced her to quit her job and have his babies so practically (financially) speaking at this point it’s nearly impossible to just go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:35 AM
3

Imagine it was 60 years ago and this guy spent 5 hours every single night, and 12 on weekends, playing poker, or pool, or sitting around the bar. Everyone would assume he was a loser, their marriage was in serious trouble, and feel sorry for her (and of course blame her for not being good enough of a wife to hold his attention). Her or his dad might have a talk with him about how he has a family now and it’s time to act like it. If it kept on, she’d take the kids and move back home with her pare…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:22 PM
4

If you spend hours a day on a diversion, it’s not a diversion any more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:35 AM
23

Heck, replace him with a 15-year-old babysitter, they’d be more responsible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:27 AM
7

Where are the parents? As in his? How was he raised to believe this is acceptable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:26 AM
31

This makes me insanely angry. Imagine being barely recovered from childbirth, having a 3-year-old, and a husband who not only does nothing to help but sits around in the baby’s room and games during paternity leave. Yes I know I’m just repeating what she wrote, but I cannot even believe this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:12 AM
20

“Physical attraction is paramount, if you can fake that convincingly, you’re my girl!” At least he knows he’s icky?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:50 PM
8

Your ass turns into splash mountain?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:49 AM
53

🎶 song as old as rhyme 🎶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:47 AM
77

This is so sweet! And an important point. FDS doesn’t just bag on the crappy guys, it helps you recognize the good guys. My dad would agree with everything on here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:44 AM
78

Can you imagine if a woman acted like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:09 PM
23

Well, she does say he was always a lazy gaming addict. Though I have seen plenty of instances where a guy puts in the effort, but then changes once the woman is locked down and he can take her for granted. Plus once there’s a baby in the picture the housework ramps way up, so like folding one load of laundry or washing one sinkful of dishes a day does not cut it as sufficient help any more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:22 PM
36

I really wish I had gone into family law for exactly this reason. Dumping my lazy gaming-addict spouse was the most incredible feeling I’ve ever had. Every day not having to cook, pick up his junk and watch him ignore his baby while I washed dishes has been like like a spa day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:17 PM
23

What in the absolute fuck?? Yeah, don’t marry a “lazy” “gaming addict,” please, people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:14 PM
14

This is a joke, right? Right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:04 AM
31

At 26 I would’ve done something like this for the laughs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 05:04 AM
31

Wonder what he told her. “Babe. We’ve only known each other for less than a year, and I’ve failed at marriage four times, but this time with you it will be different because ....”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:53 AM
17

That was probably his pick-up line. “Hey baby, you look like a hot goth. I’m older than your dad, and I’m going to die soon and be interred in an awesome tomb.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:38 AM
32

I’m smelling a cologne branding opportunity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:35 AM
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Nothing says “red flags” like “hurry up and marry me before you know me!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:37 AM
27

Yeah, that’s a bit creepy too. Not all of his exes, so maybe it’s a coincidence, BUT. Also I need to make some lemon bars
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:36 AM
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Younger than his kid, they’ve known each other for a year and lived in different countries for 6 months of that, his fifth marriage ... no red flags here, carry on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:21 AM
9

This is a joke, but kind of not. (NSFW!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:27 AM
74

I’m old enough to remember when everyone blamed Hillary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:22 AM
11

This was before no-fault divorce, and women being allowed to have credit cards, so basically a slave for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 11:25 PM
23

I would like to unread this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 11:24 PM
35

Sad but true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:09 PM
17

This cracked me up because I swear every 3rd picture on Bumble is a guy on a boat holding a fish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:32 PM
3

Oh for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:30 AM
10

I fell badly for her. He groomed her since she was 10. Other than college she went straight from Mia’s house to his. Other than college never lived on her own, I don’t think ever had a job. Doubt she has any of her own friends. And now she’s taking care of an 85-year-old man. Her whole existence has been to be a pet for that creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:30 PM
6

Her son Moses doesn’t , and basically says she was a terrible mother. I understand why someone would go through intense mental gymnastics because they do not want to believe that about their father, though. I think probably most people’s first instincts with sexual abuse is to wish it never happened and life could go back to normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:14 PM
15

I wonder what the female equivalent is? My friends and I have always used “Downass Bitches,” as in she’s not a woman who caters to men and she’s gets it, she’s one of our DBs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:23 AM
11

I mean.. that’s pretty much reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:54 PM
74

Tumbleweeds from the land of wind and ghosts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:43 AM
266

Children more likely to have mental health issues from his decaying sperm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:21 AM
1

I like the concept better than a bunch of dick pics in my inbox. Unfortunately there wasn’t even one guy on there worth approaching. Lots of wraparound shades and dockers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:38 AM
44

Joined the app to see what it was about. It displays your picture and then you have to pay to see who “likes” you, so you can approach them. No thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:07 AM
35

Her standards are as low as the apps’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:53 AM
7

Can you post a link; because I can’t find it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:54 AM
4

But what if he doesn’t want to sell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:20 PM
66

Yes, child support always applies if you have a child. Alimony is pretty rare in most states and doesn’t apply when you both have equal-paying jobs. Guy is also trying to get her to take out life insurance and name him the beneficiary, it’s bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:19 AM
35

Is that code for blowjobs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:50 AM
155

Don’t go read the post about the lady who’s been with a guy for 12 years and just had his baby, but he won’t marry her in case he might have to pay alimony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:49 AM
29

Buying a property with someone you aren’t married to is absolutely the stupidest thing anyone could ever do. Easy way to ruin your life financially until the day you die. This is the least of what could happen. Eg he quits paying, disappears to another country and she’s on the hook for the whole mortgage payment. Neighbor slips and falls and sues because he didn’t shovel the walk, ex declares bankruptcy, she owes the whole amount of the judgement. He doesn’t pay condo fees or utilities, she owes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:41 AM
3

Way before. I got pregnant (on the pill) during breakup sex. We tried to make it work anyway. That was a terrible couple of years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:49 PM
11

Yeah. My ex wouldn’t pick up anything. Would not take his plate to the kitchen after he ate. Socks and clothes just left on the floor. He agreed he should do the dishes after I cooked, so he bought paper plates and plastic utensils. He thought this was very clever. His new wife, who works full-time and has two toddlers, lays his clothes out for him every morning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:18 PM
90

Yes. Everyone said being a single mom would be hard. It was a huge relief. Less than half as much work all of the sudden, not having to cook and clean up after a lazy, entitled man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:06 AM
12

Oh I cannot watch that. It makes me physically ill. To each her own!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:09 PM
92

Were all the responses “just TALK to him! He’s shitting his pants and blaming you because you aren’t communicating with him effectively! Have you tried therapy?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:47 AM
269

Can’t we get through one week on Reddit without a “I love my boyfriend but he doesn’t brush his teeth/wipe his ass/shower” post?! Just one? I’m still waiting on a story to top the guy whose bed was a nest of dirty clothes on the floor, and he expected her to sleep in the nest. Maybe that guy and this guy can get together and they can make a dirty-clothes-poop adobe nest like a couple of swallows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:50 AM
192

The worst part of this to me is that later she says he wants to buy a house and have kids. Buying property with someone you aren’t married to is the single stupidest thing you could ever do. It is a legal and financial nightmare. If you break up and move out you’re stuck paying the mortgage anyway. They take out a home equity loan, you’re on the hook for that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:46 PM
31

I think it’s a joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:39 PM
9

Wet peanuts! Feral cats! I’m dying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:27 PM
72

It behooves on me to massively cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:09 PM
8

Yeah don’t post that on any other sub, unless your kind of video game is trying to see how many downvotes you can get in an hour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:54 PM
7

Especially when these men are like 30 years old! It’s so weird to me. I’m in my 40s though, so when I was growing up “adult” video games were not a concept. Video games were what parents bought their kids to keep them from getting underfoot on a rainy day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:10 PM
26

Sure. I still like playing The Sims sometimes. Some games look pretty cool. But you know if a 30-year-old woman spent thousands on gaming systems and gamed eight hours a day unless it was her job people would think she was insane. When grown-ass men do it while they ignore their babies sitting in dirty diapers, it’s called a cute hobby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:08 PM
38

Yes it does
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 08:05 AM
122

I know it’s an unpopular opinion on Reddit, but I can’t with adult men playing video games. Words With Friends, or some silly thing here and there, sure. Spending thousands of dollars, hundreds of hours, prioritizing games over actual life = lame. And I don’t want to hear about it being a “hobby.” Hiking, birdwatching, building birdhouses, LARPing in a fur suit, these are actual hobbies even if they aren’t necessarily to my taste. At least you’re moving around, or making something, or learning n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:44 AM
9

“I’m so mysterious”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:53 PM
11

Probably he’s constantly stoned, heh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:06 PM
394

Yes! Never commit to a dude with a beard until you at least see a photo of his shaved face. I didn’t see my (ex) husband’s actual face until after we were married, and it was a shock. Beards can hide all kinds of.. surprising features.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 02:07 PM
1

Folding fitted sheets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:36 AM
124

Responses: “have you tried talking to him?” “Have you considered counseling?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:06 AM
3

That is a super awkward and gross conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 08:01 PM
7

Agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:10 AM
103

Yeah my ex was 5’4” and claimed to be 5’7” and couldn’t accept his actual shoe size (8 1/2) and always claimed it was bigger (9 1/2), so he walked around in clown-looking shoes all the time. I married him and had his kid, and felt bad he was so insecure, but never did he ever admit the obvious about his height or feet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:02 AM
95

It’s a power thing, for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:56 AM
268

I’m 5’ and I prefer a shorter guy. Taller guys throw a leg over me and it’s like a 100-pound log. My last BF was 6’4” and I was always worried about being crushed to death when he was on top. Lying on OLD is so weird, you’re going to meet anyway. Edit: there’s also a fetish thing called “spinners” where guys hunt out small women to throw them around, to put it politely. So I won’t consider any guy above 5’9”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 01:02 AM
44

File under “Reddit posts you pray are fake but probably aren’t”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 12:52 AM
2

I kind of hope this gal’s BF realizes his colossal fuck-up and gives her a proper proposal. And I also kind of don’t, because he seems so fudgenarded and dumb I think she would be better off without him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 12:46 AM
14

“With this chicken nugget and onion ring I thee wed. You may now pass the ketchup.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 12:31 AM
32

But his mom wanted to go dress shopping? This is all so weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 12:29 AM
20

Call his mom and ask if she wants to go dress shopping
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:46 PM
59

Or an onion ring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:43 PM
279

His family didn’t want to offer her their congratulations? Or see a picture of the ring? Or talk to her about guest lists or planning? No communication at all with her for four months? That’s so weird to me it makes me think (hope) this is fake, but who knows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:32 PM
19

I hope so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:24 PM
127

What combination of dumb, lazy and manipulative is this guy? I can’t tell, but none of it bodes well...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:00 PM
64

How lazy can a person be?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:42 PM
4

Yes. You see it so much. Over and over. Wife gives up years of her career to have kids, as soon as she’s trapped he starts being abusive, screwing around or being a general asshole, but husband controls the money, she can’t afford to hire a lawyer or the deposit on an apartment and a month’s expenses to leave. And then in the US there’s health insurance. Just for myself only as a self-employed person it was $900 a month (with a $500 deductible). So many women are trapped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:52 AM
2

Did he also pass out drunk on the couch every night? And think evolution couldn’t be real because monkeys and humans are alive on the planet at the same time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:28 AM
2

Oh totally. Talked to my ex many times, tried to get him go to therapy, we had a dead bedroom for a year and didn’t even sleep in the same bed and I slept on the couch because of his fucking snoring and refusing to wear his CPAPP, we wouldn’t talk for weeks... six months before I told him I was miserable and didn’t consider it any kind of marriage and that I couldn’t deal with it any more...he did nothing. And was utterly shocked when I told him it was over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:26 AM
2

Totally. My ex agreed but dragged his feet. We could have saved on taxes for a year by filing jointly but he wouldn’t respond to anything, so I filed for divorce and paid for that, filed separately and paid for that... then he was shocked and horrified to get a five-figure tax bill, because for a decade he was used to me just taking care of everything. He’s now living in a dump with a gal a decade younger, good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:20 AM
3

I don’t mind a small penis, just small effort. Agree with everything else though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:13 AM
6

Using his wife as a human shield?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 12:03 AM
18

It’s so gross. The “what to do” is what we all have to do if we’re OLD (just with probably more assholes in between.) Don’t ever meet someone without knowing their real name and doing a background check. Always meet in public the first few times. I wouldn’t meet anyone who describes themselves as “Conservative,” because if they’re actually “Conservative” then you’ll meet through the traditional ways of family, church, synagogue, mosque or what-have-you. If they’re meeting people online describin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 08:29 PM
8

Ugh, I remember this post. Add Mitch McConnell and Larry Hogan to the list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 08:14 PM
28

Ew, sheesh, I’m so sorry. Sexism with a side of racist fries and some Nazi frosting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 08:06 PM
46

What on earth? Some kind of mental breakdown maybe? “She asked if she could kiss him, and he said yes. The room smelled of chicken wings”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:00 AM
33

I wouldn’t even do that for a child!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:52 PM
53

I hope she tells him she forgives him.. then gets a lawyer and serves him papers for Christmas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:01 PM
16

Good Lord, there’s still more than 3 million videos on there! How much porn do you need??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:17 PM
25

Agreed. I’ve been depressed and it sucked, but medication does work, even if you might have to go back a few times to get it re-tooled. And I still worked, did chores and raised kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:35 PM
437

“Let’s talk about it so I can explain to you all of the reasons why you’re wrong and your feelings don’t matter”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:36 PM
364

Ugh, the “what if he’s depressed.” My now-ex was depressed in the last few years of our marriage and did nothing about it. He moped around, watched TV and drank himself into a stupor every day while I did all of the cooking, cleaning and childcare. Once I filed for divorce he went to a psychiatrist and got meds within literal days. Enabling a depressed person is not helping them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:35 PM
104

Yeah, her documentary was heart-wrenching and I hate her parents now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 12:16 AM
138

“Deal with it as a team,” what in the actual fuck. This is a basic narcissist MO, to find something to shame you about that you can’t change, and use that to keep you in a one-down position. If she was a virgin he’d chip away at her self-esteem with little comments about her body, intelligence, or whatever might work to make her feel insecure so she doesn’t question him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:15 PM
59

Yeah, this was my ex. Though I’m not sure if he had a fetish so much as he was drunk and didn’t care that he was choking me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:37 AM
50

Aieee, my ex did this! I should have left so much sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 09:39 AM
1

My guesses in order are 1. Fetish 2. Being an ass because he knows it bugs her and he’s trying to goad her into dumping him 3. Brain tumor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:38 PM
2

Sounds like she’s tried to talk, multiple times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:07 PM
2

I agree that he’s probably got a fetish and/or enjoys tormenting her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:07 PM
1

Oh, sorry for the repost
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:24 PM
14

Uh, we’re all on Reddit...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:54 PM
25

I have ADD and I wash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:53 PM
73

The number of bad-male-hygiene posts on Reddit is too damn high! I swear there’s one every other day about a dude who won’t wash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:41 PM
5

That’s because he doesn’t want data, it’s a troll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:19 PM
4

It’s a common name in Singapore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:17 PM
11

Oh, absolutely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:52 PM
7

I’m not going to ask this guy anything! But this is good to know for future reference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:51 PM
3

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:49 PM
3

Or his “questions” are just a dick pic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:49 PM
10

To get women to talk to him about their sex lives, probably.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:47 PM
5

So quit your job and move to Shelbyville?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:06 AM
16

... who was the cringey-est parent, and never prepared Rod and/or Todd to exist in the world. But he was packing serious heat, and maybe she thought she could help Rod and Todd a little bit too. And what were her choices? Disco Stu, Artie Ziff, Fat Tony, Skinner, Troy MacLure, Sideshow Bob/Mel?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:26 AM
40

Poor Edna was such a Pickme she fell in love with a baseball card.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:35 PM
10

And, the conviction rate is insanely low. The odds are great that you would have put yourself through hell for nothing. My daughter reported. She got a conviction after a year of hassle. Guy got nine months of probation. Was it worth it? I really don’t know sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 11:22 PM
8

It was actually the 3rd anniversary of the death of my worst boyfriend ever. I was feeling sad about it. He really did ruin my life in a lot of ways that I’m still trying to get over. It was just what I needed to see!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 10:30 PM
22

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMJ9Xybxj/ @LeendaDong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:45 AM
77

I’m not on TikTok and someone sent me this by accident! “Did you get that video of the dog wearing dentures?” Or “accident”...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:50 AM
41

The same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:28 AM
57

Yeah, pretty sure this was posted by a dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:11 PM
2

My method is to massage chops with Dijon mustard, then make a mix of 1/2 brown sugar, 1/2 salt, rub that in and let it marinate for 12 hours or more. Massage in crushed white and pink peppercorns too if that’s what you’re into. Prop them fat-side up in a rack or with balled tinfoil at 425° for about 10 minutes or until you can smell impending fire. When you poke them they should feel like your hand between your thumb and pointer finger. Let them rest for 10 minutes. If your husband isn’t here by…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 05:20 AM
1

He had his last treatment today and doesn’t have to see the doctor for six more months. If you are ever in MD I would be so happy to make you lamb chops!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 04:40 AM
24

Don’t you know it’s women’s job to save men? If you aren’t giving out pity sex you are just selfish!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:08 AM
35

Oy, and they bought a house together before they are married. Better hope this wedding happens!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 03:08 PM
30

It’s equally dad’s fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:27 PM
6

My dad was always much tidier than my mom. When they divorced his house was impeccable and hers was (and is to this day) a complete sty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:25 PM
35

That’s my worst nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 11:19 PM
34

That’s a good point, none of my friends (male or female) would ever do that! If it’s dinner they’ll show up on time or before keep me company while I cook. If it’s a social kind of drop in night I’ll throw out some cheese and crackers and it doesn’t matter. But I was not going to let a rack of lamb sit around and congeal. On the upside I was happy I found someone else who likes lamb, most people don’t, so I hadn’t had it in years, and I learned I don’t need someone else to split a rack with, wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:27 AM
21

Bwahahaha! I know it’s not actually funny, but that term has me laughing my ass off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:02 AM
61

I’d be so horny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:40 AM
254

Aw, thanks. I regret it sometimes because he was really really good in bed. But two hours late, WTF. He ran his own business and I do too, so I get it. And he did call when he was an hour late, to say he’d be another hour late. “I said around six, not exactly six!” Okay. But I had taken my dad to his first cancer treatment that day, and he knew that. And didn’t even ask about it. I ate an entire rack of lamb chops and locked the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:24 AM
422

Yeah, the last time I cooked for a man he was two hours late. Ate it myself and when he finally showed up told him to just leave. Never again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:41 AM
6

All these posts remind me of Willie in the Simpsons’ “My Fair Laddie.” 🎶 get my shack rebuilt, and get my rotten teeth all drilled. oh wouldn’t it be adequate!🎶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:33 PM
26

It’s insane how often stuff like this gets posted. “I don’t want to make him think he isn’t attractive!” Uh, because four teeth rotting out of his head is so hot?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:12 PM
7

So happy to have heard this again on my local indie-rock station, but they called it “Billy Bragg’s song.” He did write it, but no one cared until she covered it. RIP Kristy MacColl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:16 AM
3

Apparently not. .. I’m as lost as you are, here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 10:15 PM
3

One of them does, and one is the house-husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:06 PM
7

I don’t plan to get married again either, but that “piece of paper” means a lot. There are more than 1,000 legal benefits of marriage, including methods for dividing assets. A real estate lawyer will charge you $300+ an hour to tell you the same thing, never ever ever buy property together with someone you aren’t married to. Whatever legal documents you make won’t mean much if they are on the deed and the mortgage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:25 PM
11

I haven’t met them but I suspect you’re right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:58 PM
26

I know a gal with two “husbands.” They all live together. It sounds exhausting and not sexy at all, TBH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:40 PM
59

How about all these people wanting to buy a house together without being married? Asked at least once a month on /r/legaladvice. “But I don’t beeellieeve in marriage! So how can I protect myself legally if I do it?” Good Lordy, if somebody wants you to buy a house with them but not marry them, run run run. Or buy it and make them your tenant. Or co-sign a loan for a Hummer with your meth-head cousin, because that’s a better investment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 02:37 AM
12

I wish I could find a a copy of that “Playboy” article online, if anyone does please post it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 07:12 PM
16

Thanks, lady!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:11 PM
3

Like every day on Reddit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 10:35 PM
6

Yeah. Even if you think someone is “faking it,” so the fuck what? It’s a manifestation of extreme narcissism, I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:26 PM
11

The number of food-tampering posts on Reddit is insane. And almost every time it’s a guy trying to sabotage a girl (feed a vegetarian meat, feed the Muslim GF pork, etc), though occasionally there’s the MIL who doesn’t believe her grandkid is really allergic to peanuts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:10 PM
8

What about her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:04 AM
21

JFC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:29 PM
233

Why isn’t Chris Brown in jail again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:48 PM
4

What does it say about them, that after four years she can’t say, “hey honey, could you brush your teeth?” without being afraid of a bad reaction?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:31 PM
1

Oh that is so nasty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:25 PM
27

She says she doesn’t want to make him self-conscious! GIRL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:03 AM
2

OMG, another one. “Am I the Asshole if I tell my boyfriend to brush his teeth?” !!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:05 AM
14

And he wanted her to sleep in the nest too! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 11:23 PM
53

Remember the one about the guy who slept in the floor in a nest of dirty clothes? I really hope that was fake, but somehow I think maybe it wasn’t...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:07 PM
29

Then he’ll cheat and blame her because she “pressured” him to get married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 04:29 PM
123

The amount of posts I’ve seen on /r/relationships about guys who don’t wipe, bathe, brush their teeth or perform other simple basic hygiene is too damn high!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 04:21 PM
19

Dafuk I just read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 09:00 AM
1

I paid for the two weeks in Spain BTW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:08 AM
28

Ding ding ding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:51 AM
15

Sheeziz. Get security cameras!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:28 PM
25

If he’s handsome and charming you know whatever he did was really bad, that he got convicted and put on that list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:23 PM
3

I was rewarded with inbox hate, ha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 06:19 AM
398

Ugh, because nothing says sexy like pressuring you and groping you. You dodged a one-pump chump who couldn’t find a clit with a flashlight and map.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:45 PM
5

Eh, I’ve known gay slobs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:39 AM
36

Always trust your gut. If you do decide to go, meet him at the restaurant, don’t give him your home address!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 08:14 AM
2

Respectable and being decent is a practice, it’s what you do, not who you are. As AOC pointed out. What would a decent, respectable woman do, how would she spend her time, according to yourself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 06:47 AM
114

Sexual Food Pantry is my new band name
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 10:55 PM
7

It’s the first track on the Narcissists Greatest Hits album
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 10:05 PM
10

Ah the good ol “you made me do it”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 10:02 PM
3

In my area that’s also considered a violation of the order
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 10:01 PM
3

Things have changed a lot over the past few years. And depends on where you live. I know my city does not ef around with guys like this and will absolutely haul them off (even if they can bail out fast).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 10:00 PM
1

Bravo! Consider a protective order too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 09:57 PM
23

Not disagreeing, but I feel awful for her. Hindsight 20/20, I’m sure she now would’ve wished she’d quit the job instead of dating the creep. As obsessed as he obviously was, he probably played like a devoted boyfriend. If there’s any lesson, maybe it’s 6 months is way too soon to move in together, but he probably would have found a way to make her life hell even if she dumped him after the first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:58 AM
25

He was supposed to train her at her job! So from the get-go he had access to all kinds of information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:39 AM
12

Not sure the link is showing up. Just in case https://www.9news.com.au/world/maryland-cyber-stalker-gets-four-years-jail-for-war-on-exgirlfriend/10dbfed8-eaab-4ae8-8660-b586484399ea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:24 AM
26

I’m never dating again ever. Holy shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 07:14 AM
21

Hoo boy, you aren’t kidding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:41 PM
19

Oh ew, I didn’t know that about him. Having kids at 50 is so freaking selfish and irresponsible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:49 PM
7

Maybe it’s a generational thing? I don’t hear about this with older guys. And with female friends we usually take turns. Because sitting there splitting everything up is just petty and tedious. I only divide checks if it’s a big group, and then you have the waiter do it. The idea of sitting there while a dude with a little pencil is like, “now you had the iced coffee, and I had the ham sandwich... and your share of the tip is...” makes me cringe so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 07:33 PM
30

Interestingly, my male friends from high school (who are married, gay or both, and we’re all in our 40s, so definitely no frisson there) always insist on paying the check. I’ll try to split it and they won’t let me, to the point where insisting would make a scene. I always try to make it up with good birthday/Christmas presents later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:49 AM
8

LOOOL, love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:17 PM
29

Perfection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:16 PM
55

Or she’s the mother and it’s a message to his wife, heheheh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:13 PM
21

Maybe he has a great personality. Haha, JK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 08:34 PM
15

You hope that if he can’t control you he’ll give up. I went on two dates with a guy and I got the creepy/narcissistic vibe and broke it off. He stalked me and my child (who he’d never met), sent “love” letters to my friends to give to me, files a restraining order against me (then texted me hundreds of times), and harassment charges against me. All of it was thrown out because it was clearly ridiculous, but it cost me thousands in legal fees and so many hours in court I’ve lost count. Then yeste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 08:49 PM
87

Scrotacity!! I just laughed my coffee up my nose!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:52 PM
6

Personally I’d be direct. “I’d like to meet your parents someday, what do you think?” He might have a legit reason. If my kid moved someone in after only three months I’d blow a gasket. Or maybe they’re embarrassing somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:49 AM
8

The only things I miss since getting divorced is help folding the sheets, and disposing of dead vermin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:23 PM
7

It you’re trying to get pregnant using a condom would not be an optimal strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 04:31 AM
154

Relationship Advice: “have you tried talking to him?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 04:02 AM
37

“LOL”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:42 PM
4

Good point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 07:10 AM
1

I dated a guy who played poker. He allotted himself a set amount ($200) and if he lost he left the casino and that was fine. (We broke up because he was bad in bed).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:34 AM
5

Haha! Wow. Some nerve! Kentucky fried F, ha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:29 AM
4

It’s fake or they’re both idiots
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:46 AM
1

My husband and I never had one. It was too confusing. You didn’t know who paid what when, and don’t want to overdraw. Much easier to say “can you pay the mortgage this month? I paid the electric bill” or whatever. And we wrote down what we paid in a notebook with the date so we didn’t duplicate or miss anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:44 AM
8

The stupidest, worst financial decision anyone could possibly make.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:40 AM
10

I hope no one invites your uncle to Thanksgiving ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:38 AM
6

Except that she told him all about it before she even did it or before they were married, which is kind of the opposite of “secret”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:33 AM
3

Esther Williams and Doris Day lost their entire fortunes and died broke because of gambling men. I’m sure (I hope) those guys were very charming. Also, it’s stupid. Vegas wasn’t built because the casinos lose. Anyone who thinks they can “beat the system” is simply an idiot. Ditch this guy and don’t let him near your wallet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:30 AM
58

“Would you care for some herpes?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 07:42 PM
102

And the sex is all downhill from there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:31 AM
3

Basically. It wasn’t bad, but should combining two foods count as a new (regional specialty) food? Much less a regional specialty food? It’s no Buffalo wing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:48 PM
1

Taken to task, held to standards. Either way I’m giving that a big fat no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:46 AM
17

I was only in Ohio once; all I remember was that they put chili on spaghetti. It’s easy to forget how the rest of America doesn’t enjoy my liberal big-city lifestyle. Those brittle aspiring-trophy-wife types of women definitely exist, but mostly stick to the suburbs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:43 AM
69

Yeah I guess so. But seriously, she’s never had a deep conversation with another woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:47 AM
349

I’m like 75% sure this is not actually a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:04 PM
19

It’s a cute way of saying “never got a GED”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 03:16 AM
13

You should report him. I don’t know how Tindr is but I reportedl a guy who stalked and threatened me from Bumble and they banned him immediately. These sites do not want to risk the bad PR if one of their users kills someone someday. Especially if they had been warned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:57 AM
126

Age: 49 Education: School of hard knocks Interests: Minecraft, Korn, vaping, Looney Tunes character tattoos, motorcycles, dodging child support Looking for: someone open-minded and non-judgmental to help my lady Heather explore her kinky side
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:32 PM
4

Yeah there’s no way he has a job if he treats bosses/co-workers anything like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 05:21 AM
4

I think he’s a narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 05:16 AM
3

Any guy with someone 16 years their junior, it’s for a reason. And it ain’t the toned skin. Because someone his own age would not put up with the shit he’s putting her through (which is soon to get much much worse). Wonder how long until she’s a blonde?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:12 PM
12

That last picture, ouch. Like a potato on toothpicks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 09:33 PM
6

No, that would be weird. Mother’s Day gift should be from the kid or the other parent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 09:32 PM
8

Nah; he’ll use her for her money and cheat behind her back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 02:24 PM
15

I wouldn’t move to Ohio for 1984 Duran Duran
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 02:23 PM
7

It’s so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 02:21 PM
66

I like how his horrible personality is his ex-wife’s fault because she had the audacity to stay home and raise his children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:55 AM
49

It means he’s a charming narcissist who gets to abuse her at will because they’re “meant to be”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 05:04 AM
9

That guy has an arm like an ape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 10:22 PM
5

I find this completely believable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 08:26 AM
621

I can only imagine what kind of hell that marriage must have been. Then he proceeded to alienate her from her children for life. That guy is not wired right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 08:50 PM
113

Close, Botox
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 08:48 PM
53

“But other than that, I love him and everything’s great!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:04 AM
160

“He pisses all over the toilet seat, calls my mother a pig, is an alcoholic and refuses to bathe or brush his teeth.” Edit: forgot “he plays video games for 10 hours a day, has no job and I support him, and demands head but refuses to go down on me.” “Have you tried talking to him?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:49 AM
7

Yeah the things that make a person successful in law aren’t necessarily good for your personal life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:11 PM
7

Sheeziz! I just meant I’ve dated a super picky eater, a guy who lectured me about municipal planning, and a guy who, in spite of being extremely intelligent, would get lost on the way to the grocery store and couldn’t clean a dryer lint filter. I guess I lucked out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:25 PM
30

He was so odd. Almost every Ivy League guy I know has been. Book smart but with weird proclivities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:59 PM
42

Right, yet somehow I suspect that applies to his wife while he’s sleeping with his secretary, yet not to him if his wife gains weight and loses libido after birthing his children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:57 PM
71

I said “wouldn’t you have picked her up anyway though?” “Well sure but I’m just saying...” One of those “let me just play devil’s advocate” guys who just wanted to showboat his knowledge of liability law. Ooh baby, how hot, do me right now! Made him a successful lawyer, but a joy to be around, not so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:51 PM
183

I dated a Harvard lawyer once. I happened on a car crash, where a toddler had been thrown from the car and was wandering in the street. I picked her up and called 911. He told me I shouldn’t have picked her up because it could’ve exposed me to liability. That summed him up perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:30 PM
3

Yeah she says at one point that he is intimidating, and of course he’s almost a decade older. Things are going to get much worse than this with this dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:26 PM
3

More likely that, especially given her responses. Or both. Either way, the utter bullshit that some people will tolerate blows my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:12 PM
39

No way he’s talking to a two- and four-year-old for hours. More likely he’s jerking it to a cam girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:03 PM
6

Something is fishy in Denmark!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 01:14 AM
4

I’ve always been team sea witch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 01:13 AM
82

Sexy = he wants to have sex with you Cute = he thinks you’re stupid Sweet = he thinks you’ll make him dinner and clean up after him and forgive him for missing the toilet bowl If it’s not a compliment that shows he has been paying attention, it’s garbage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 03:34 AM
6

Yes! He wasn’t an unintelligent person, he was actually really clever and witty during like, party conversations. But he was utterly lacking in intellectual curiosity. Did not want to read books or learn anything at all. My boyfriend before him was an Ivy League boor, intelligent, obvz, but would just monologue/mansplain/lecture about whatever subject until you wanted to poke your eyes out. So when I met my husband it was refreshing. Does a man exist who is both smart and personable? I’m not sur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 03:22 PM
4

I was in that situation. Ex was funny, great personality, great dad treated me very well. We were married for a decade. Then one night at dinner he told me he didn't believe in evolution, because if it is real, why are humans and monkeys both alive at the same time? And I realized at that moment that we had nothing to talk about besides the kids, and there was no way I could spend the rest of my life with him. And it wasn't really fair to him, to be married to someone who deep down thinks that h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 02:49 PM
325

You really shouldn'tve told him about FDS, *you* made the decision, and he earned that dumping through nothing but his own lack of merit. But, it no longer matters one bit what he thinks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 02:35 PM
51

I love how she’s like “lalaa I can’t see you”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:47 PM
44

Ha! What’s the backstory for this photo? I feel like I used to know (and I can’t get reverse image search to work on my phone)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:28 PM
2

A guy in his 30s who can’t clean his own toilet has something seriously wrong with him, and you don’t want to stick around to find out what exactly it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:45 AM
6

I laughed and then I gagged. What 30-year-old doesn’t know how to clean a toilet? That would turn me so off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 05:47 PM
3

I just had to google around, didn’t I? From what I gather with the context clues, he wants to eat off of her body. Also known as sploshing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:49 PM
14

She says food fetish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:22 PM
31

Plastic mats and blow-up cots?! I am really confused about what is happening here. Can someone explain?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:40 AM
110

Having to hang out with other men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:34 AM
3

Spot on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:37 PM
23

I’ve been in a similar situation and was so stressed I talked to a therapist about it. His advice was to address the rants with a one sentence statement, like “it doesn’t sound like he treats you very well,” then immediately change the subject. If you lecture her she’ll block you out, but a short statement may (or may not) plant a seed. If you care about her you don’t want to cut her off completely, because the fewer friends she has, the more entrapped and dependent she’ll be on this manipulativ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:21 PM
10

“He’s lazy and irresponsible. How can I tether myself to him even more completely so he can sink my life like a stone?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 04:32 AM
89

So depressing to see someone wracking their brains for any explanation besides “he just doesn’t wanna.” Maybe he’s just irresponsible? Is that a better reason? Because that seems equally bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:24 PM
24

Is it literally a chain restaurant, or is it like a cafe? If the food and atmosphere are nice I’d go,’if it’s literally like Applebee’s I wouldn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:31 PM
2

As a divorced person who’s consulted with a lot.. the first consultation is usually free, but if/when you hire them they include it in the bill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 12:44 AM
16

When he was 40 he abandoned his second wife for 18-year-old Paulina.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 12:30 AM
3

Consultations with lawyers are free. Yes, you need one. Child support and alimony are a thing. You don’t know what your financial situation will be until you know. It doesn’t really matter a lot how great his lawyer is, because these things are done by formula with little wiggle room. Don’t try to force him to take her if he doesn’t want to, he’ll just do a crappy job. I’m in a similar situation with my ex. Even though we have a schedule, he’s taken about half the parenting time he’s supposed to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 12:27 AM
5

Yeah, it’s a sucky situation for her. If the divorce was final she would have gotten her share of assets. Since she may have made more than he did over the course of the marriage, I hope she kept some assets in her own name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 12:18 AM
10

Holy crap, that poor woman. I see divorce in her future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:35 AM
11

Isn’t Jordan Peterson in a Russian rehab right now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 10:51 PM
27

This is my question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:24 PM
2

Reddit doesn’t need your money!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:52 PM
13

I actually asked a guy that once —after chatting awhile he admitted he was married and looking for a third. He said “it’s too expensive and not the experience I’m looking for. Maybe this could allow you to explore new parts of yourself!” Oh lucky me. Blocked him immediately at that point. I could have been anyone. I could have roofied them and robbed them blind for all he knew about me. But to him the risk was worth whatever ego stroking he might get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:51 PM
6

Yeah, the crab-basket mentality. When you can’t lift yourself up, so you spend your efforts trying to claw others back down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:46 PM
7

Right, there’s consent, then there’s “well, he’s going to do it anyway no matter what I say, so I may as well be informed.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:41 PM
10

Nice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:03 PM
15

I’ve been told both that I’m too fat and I’m too skinny (I’m exactly in the middle of where I should be on the BMI chart), and a guy one told me my fingers were stubby and not elegant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:01 PM
9

What’s a hip dip?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:00 PM
13

It’s possible she consents. I know plenty of late-30s wives who are done with their husbands but don’t want to go through a divorce. My bigger question is, who would answer this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:59 PM
74

If your own wife doesn’t want you why would anyone else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:57 PM
12

Definitely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:42 PM
17

Send his mom a condolence card
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:36 PM
45

Sounds like being a Pickmeisha is the absolute least of her problems when it comes to being a human being. That said, I’ve noticed a pattern, the women who let men walk all over them are also the first to throw their female friends under the bus. Internalized misogyny, perhaps?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:34 PM
12

Wow. That’s a special kind of awful. I sincerely hope his family just didn’t post an obituary, because that’s so insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:23 PM
4

Just don’t talk to her about it. It’s not really any of her business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:28 PM
1

I dunno, was he any better looking as a younger guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:48 PM
46

That kid will be lucky if he has only minor learning disabilities with that expired sperm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:20 AM
8

He cleared his throat. “I drank relatively normally for a long time. What happened was that I started drinking more and more when my marriage was falling apart. This was 2015, 2016. My drinking, of course, created more marital problems.” Affleck’s marriage to Jennifer Garner, with whom he has three children, ended in 2018 after a long separation. He said he still felt guilt but had moved past shame. “The biggest regret of my life is this divorce,” he continued, noticeably using the present tense…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:35 PM
14

Holy crap is her boyfriend greasy and hideous. Girl, what are you doing?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:32 PM
23

Seriously. Her husband cheated on her the entire marriage, including with her sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:22 PM
58

Good for her. The stories of Doris Day and Esther Williams break my heart. Both hooked up with gambling-addict sleazeballs and ended up broke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:47 PM
6

The dude on the couch her burnout cousin visiting for the weekend, right? Right?! Edit: kept scrolling, nope, that’s the husband. I’ll bet he was the one who got into her bank account too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:07 PM
8

Medicating with weed to cure social anxiety is like using meth as a sleep aid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:04 PM
5

I wish I could find it. If I do I’ll post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:48 PM
91

When I read “pregnant” my heart sunk. How is it these guys with all of this “anxiety” manage to hold down jobs and do just fine outside of the house where there is no one to cater to them? He’s soo empathetic and “nice,” yet he won’t go to a therapist for a single hour. This reminds me of the AITA where the wife had to put on her husband’s shoes for him and clean up his piss because he was “afraid” to touch the toilet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:46 AM
13

I thought that exact same thing! LOL. There is a chin, it’s just too small and attached to a rat face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:01 AM
54

Maybe you’re just too sensitive and should stop overreacting (/s)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:39 AM
35

Hell’s kitchen is right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:06 AM
1

Well now I really want you to see him again so I can find out if he’s an alcoholic, a crackhead, anorexic, highly allergic, scared of crapping a smoothie, bloated on popcorn or just plain weird! How else will we solve this mystery?! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:40 PM
2

I dunno, the crackheads in my neighborhood are pretty productive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:37 PM
2

Dunno why you’re getting downvoted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:34 PM
2

Huh. I just listened to David Sedaris talking about his alcoholism on NPR; and how he wouldn’t eat during the day so drinking an empty stomach would make the booze more effective. That and the shaky hands would now make me wonder if that’s what’s up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:34 PM
18

I just sang that in a Maria Von Trapp voice in my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:28 PM
12

I would personally stay out of it. Anyone who who’s post that on FB is a drama llama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:17 PM
45

Probably one of those men who refers to his (rare) parenting time as “babysitting”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:17 AM
34

Of all the women who get cheated on, the ones home with babies/toddlers have it the absolute worst. Being a single mom in that situation is nearly impossible unless you’re rich enough for full-time nannies. And these dudes know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:33 PM
23

He was 40 and she was a recent college graduate? Just ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:31 PM
1

Patricia Arquette and Benicio del Toro?! I’m watching the hell out of this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:45 PM
1

Aw, that sucks, sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:17 AM
1

So did he make the deadline?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:11 AM
70

Wow, he sounds rude as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:58 AM
13

The casting of Neil Patrick Harris ruined the movie for me. Definitely read the book first!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:56 AM
9

Two correctional officers, six inmates and seven outsiders conspired to smuggle drugs, cell phones, alcohol and more into the Jessup Correctional Institution over several years, federal prosecutors charged this week, the latest in a series of arrests to hit the state’s troubled prison system. Correctional Officers Dominique Booker, 43, of Baltimore, and Chanel Pierce, 27, of Pikesville, slipped through security screenings at Jessup by hiding the items on their bodies, and then traded them for ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:08 AM
9

Whoops, forgot the link! https://www.baltimoresun.com/news/crime/ac-cn-15-indicted-jessup-prison-20200212-xd3gq5us4zclpfadxuj2lqtgci-story.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:53 PM
66

Reminds me of Chris Rock’s “Want some dick?” bit. “Every woman in here since the time she was 13, every guy you’ve met has been trying to fuck you!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:56 PM
3

Communication only via text, email or lawyer. When you can’t avoid talking in person, do not take bait. Greyrock and/or change the subject even if it’s nonsensical. “You’re a bitch!” “I heard it’s supposed to rain Friday.” If you have to interact with the new girlfriend, act very happy for them. A “thanks for taking my sloppy seconds!” attitude will give her more pause than confirming your ex’s trash talk about you, that you’re a bitter bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:59 PM
39

“Hey, that priest was hot! I’ll bet that altar boy got so many high fives!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:16 PM
12

No one (and especially not this dude) seems to consider that maybe the co-worker hit on him exactly because he is married with kids, she wants a friendship that she thinks has no risk of becoming an actual relationship. This guy’s ego is so huge he thinks after a couple of evenings of drinks he has a shot at a future with this woman. I can see it now: “Fiona! I left my wife and kids for you so we can make this work!” “Make what work?! You left your wife and kids? What the fuck kind of shitty per…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:13 PM
19

Wonder how many female writers that show had. I’m guessing Ø
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:55 PM
72

Anyone who pushes you to drink on a date is either an alcoholic or planning to assault you. Why else would they even care?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:53 PM
62

“She’s entitled to reject him but if she doesn’t tell him why, how will he learn?” It’s not enough to date these guys, you gotta be the Learning Annex too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:48 PM
55

In my early 20s I had a boyfriend who had an “affair” with a 30-something married teacher. He is deeply messed up and to this day (he’s almost 50) has never had a relationship that lasted more than a year. He was controlling, manipulative and closed off. Like he refused to socialize, but if I went out without him he would literally cry when I came home because I “abandoned” him. Constantly accusing me of cheating, then it turned out he was having multiple affairs at work. Maybe he was just an as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:43 PM
2

Why he’s divorced is a mystery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 11:49 AM
2

And taste in interior design
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 11:49 AM
11

Yeah, it’s pushing it. He’s not going to get a good dinner reservation, so he’d better plan to be cooking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:30 AM
46

If he doesn’t make plans without a good reason (eg. working night shift in the ER) I would assume he is seeing other people and/or serious about not getting serious. Personally, if I didn’t have plans with him by Wednesday (at the latest) I’d make other ones so I’m not sitting around waiting to be disappointed. Hope he comes through!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:24 AM
14

Haha! What a loser! I’d love to watch that episode of “Judge Judy”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:11 AM
12

Just remain a virgin until a bald old “life coach” knocks you off your feet with his charm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 10:48 PM
9

Have you considered old, bald self-published, misogynistic “life coaches”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 10:30 PM
13

Hanging out with his Valentine’s Day date and Snuffleupagus in the land of make-believe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 10:28 PM
13

He’s a “life coach,” LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:14 PM
15

It’s a pointy head too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:01 PM
238

Never mind that he is a single dad...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:41 PM
26

His whole Twitter feed is a gold mine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:24 PM
24

Also a gambling addict, I hear. Edit: $60k in 40 minutes, damn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:50 PM
33

I’m torn on this. I feel like she should be able to move on and not have to spend another second dealing with this guy. And he is so psycho, I worry she could be in real danger. On the other hand, yeah, his poor wife deserves to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:25 AM
233

Holy crap, he told you his own children were orphans he was raising with another woman?! That is next-level psychopathology! Congratulations on getting away from that awful man and out of such a dark place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:45 PM
11

Dude was arrested within 48 hours for violating the protective order, and faces civil and criminal charges so I have to go back to court twice (and possibly a third time to have the order extended). Son fortunately goes to a private school with excellent security. I had to notify them, which was embarrassing but they were very nice. I am glad that this dude showed his true colors quickly and I was able to pick up the signs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:36 PM
13

Wow, incredibly accurate. I went on two dates with a guy back in October who had 11/30 of these behaviors. I dropped him like a hot potato. He proceeded to stalk and threaten me (and my child, who thankfully he never even saw or met), I got a protective order that he violated immediately, and in the next month I have to go back to court two more times. He’s now dating a mutual-acquaintance pickmeisha whose last boyfriend put her in the hospital. Word is he’s convinced her I am crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:34 PM
29

Why does it seem like the worse the guy is the more likely OP is to say “BUT HE’S A GREAT GUY AND I LOOOVE HIM”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:12 PM
1

Oh I KNOW! Finally six months into the school year of me responding “it’s on the web site. It’s on the app” he has downloaded the app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 01:28 PM
9

Both!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:51 AM
8

Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:49 AM
3

Now you know!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:39 AM
7

Ugh, my ex is like that with the calendars. “What time is his game? When is spring break?” Dude you are just as capable of checking a web site as I am, I am not your secretary! Otherwise he is a good dad when he’s not drinking (unlike OP’s ex, mine has yet to get his shit together. He was HV and competent when I married him, but booze is a bitch.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:30 AM
41

Sounds like alcohol was/is a major factor, if he was still drinking I am sure this wouldn’t be happening. It’s a shame that so many guys only get their shit together after they lose their families (or are credibly threatened with that).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:08 PM
23

Just make sure you can cover it in case he ducks out the back door, LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:59 PM
23

10 years means he eroded her confidence to total dirt by year two
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:58 PM
13

He didn’t exchanged contact into except for LinkedIn? That’s shady. He’s probably married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:58 PM
25

Heck no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:55 PM
7

Maybe she got sick of his crap and finally served him a sandwich rectally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:18 PM
6

She is gorgeous and he looks like he dyes and cuts his own hair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:01 PM
6

I agree completely. But if you want to be with someone long term, it makes sense. Marriage can save you thousands every year in taxes and health insurance. If your spouse dies you don’t have to worry about keeping your joint property. If you break up, laws ensure you get a fair share of assets. You get just as/more taken for granted if you move in with someone without it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:51 PM
9

If you like mysteries the No. 1 Ladies Detective Agency series is delightful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:42 PM
40

Ding ding ding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:08 PM
304

“babes” I would leave it at “no not really.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:38 AM
8

Yeah as a 40-something divorcee with kids myself I would be horrified with my ex. My own ex also has questionable judgement and is dating kind of a dim bulb. But something more is going on here. How did she even get the 22-year-old’s phone number? And calling her up is just pointless drama, if you could just offer to take the kids more (and the ex would easily agree, because why would they work at parenting when they could be banging the 22-year-old?). I think 43 and his ex are still together, o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:32 AM
6

Yeah, if she had a supportive and loving family she probably wouldn’t have fallen for two entire years of his BS in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:24 AM
13

How about that 50-something professor ghosting the student he was banging, and she thinks she is “in love”? Wonder how many times he’s treated himself to manipulating the most naive student he can find. Also noticing on that sub how many of the younger women came from “strict” homes. Right from one controlling and secretive daddy to another. I need a shower after finding that sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:22 AM
13

I have no problem with age gaps if the younger person is at least 30. But somehow they never are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:11 AM
21

She’s more likely to be murdered by this dude than ever married to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:54 AM
23

It happens sometimes, but if he didn’t immediately go down on her and get her off, next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:36 AM
26

“But he’s great when he’s sober, which he rarely is. Also this sandwich is delicious except for the cat turd in it!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:37 PM
30

What kind of advice do people expect posting this? “This alcoholic rapist is my everything, how do I fix it??”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:33 PM
40

Her post history is really, really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:46 PM
70

Right? “Unicorn” met them exactly once in person and now they’re “friends”? Sure, try asking the wife if she can give you a ride the next time your car is in the shop or feed your cat when you’re out of town and see how it goes. She will never live with them but is supposed “always be there” on call for when husband gets the hots? If she’s into this sort of thing, great for her, but she is so completely delusional thinking these people see her as anything more than warm holes. I feel like I’m go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:36 PM
34

Totally. People respect what they pay for (and vice versa). I’ll bet the people who paid were much more respectful of your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:21 PM
7

But it’s such a sexy circus!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:52 PM
5

They’re more article than the dudes on Bumble, that’s for sure. Narcissistic sociopaths with lots of time to think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:18 PM
14

Plus copious booze.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:02 PM
95

“Poor lass.” Dude is insufferable on so many levels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:01 PM
7

That is one very vivid metaphor!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:58 PM
8

Sigh, I have been in this situation. Never move for a man, unless you are literally married. And long-distance does not count as time spent getting to know someone. Anyone can be articulate and charming long-distance. In my case we were long-distance with visits a few times a month. I moved in with him, and basically he was a total slob who expected me to do everything as if I was his mother, turned abusive if I didn’t want to have sex with him and started sleeping with a teenager in an apartmen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:58 PM
5

What did he text?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:55 AM
7

Wow, I found Willie Horton!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:43 AM
11

Don’t show her this site!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:34 AM
13

Ok I’m totally sucked in. I like how you can try to guess what their offense was and then click the link to find out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:33 AM
2

I think it’s important to keep reassuring her that you’re there for her, you care about her, you will support her if she leaves him or not. Of course you think she should leave him, but the problem with telling her that often is if she doesn’t she can feel ashamed and start avoiding you. She already knows her decisions are bad and feels bad. Those abusive relationships can be so, so hard to leave, because abusers are masters of manipulation. No one ever goes into a relationship expecting it to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:21 AM
8

That and the 70 year old who wants someone between 18 and 35
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:11 AM
10

Are you sure she’s just a roommate? Doesn’t matter though. Dump, block, delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:00 AM
80

All of the /r/relationships posts of women trying to figure out how to get a boyfriend of 5, 6 or once even twelve years depress the shit out of me. Why do you want to marry someone who has to be begged and coerced into it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:54 AM
6

I like going running and pretending I’m stepping on his face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:52 AM
6

Goes to show, dating someone ugly can go just as bad as dating someone hot. Maybe worse; because ugly dudes’ insecurities can make them more likely to put you down or cheat because they’re desperate for validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:50 AM
184

There’s literally an entire neighborhood full of amazing Italian restaurants, helpfully named “Little Italy.” Girl, you can do better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:47 AM
14

“Yep, still the guy in pleated pants and mirror shades standing on a boat and holding a fish, a fat dude taking a selfie in a public bathroom and the guy in an open relationship who wants to explore my wildest fantasies. Sigh.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:45 AM
108

His ex Carol Harris (the one after Stevie) wrote a pretty shocking book about him called “Storms.” The gist was he was a coke-addled egomaniac abuser. The book is a pretty juicy page-turner if you like the celebrity spill-all genre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:41 AM
46

It’s funny yet terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:04 AM
123

Wow, he’s spent a lot of time thinking about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:02 AM
7

From talking to the therapist after he died. She basically said, I’m not here to tell people what to do, I’m here to help frame the issues. And she was hard on him, pushing him to admit he was not considering my feelings at all or willing to compromise. I ended up walking out of a session and dumping him when she got him to show his ass. But it was not her place to say, “girl, he’s a selfish narcissist who treats you like shit, get out!” and that wouldn’t have been effective anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:23 AM
42

Three dates in three months? How big of a hint do you need that he is not that into you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:09 AM
69

He set a deadline to decide what he wants? Oh no way. Good for you for noping out of that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:59 AM
38

Wow, what a horrible therapist! Congratulations to you for getting away from that awful man. I think therapists in general are not savvy when it comes to spotting and dealing with narcissists. I went to therapy with a narcissist, with a therapist who knew what was up (I found this out because narcissist died, and I went back to her and she told me). Even when they know what’s up, they can’t really say so, they are supposed to only ask leading questions to help you realize yourself what is going …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:53 AM
18

Jaysis H that whole sub is a dumpster fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 11:00 PM
21

Ask them what job they have that can support a family by itself, with enough of a cushion for at least six months’ wages (or more) if they lose that job. Unless they’re a CEO or corporate lawyer, they can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:11 PM
0

Sucking knows no color
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:09 PM
5

The skin behind his trashy arm tattoos looks white, FWIW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:28 PM
2

Yeah, I don’t understand how that fits in here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:25 PM
14

Mouth maids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:21 PM
2

Or on a boat. Or both
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:14 PM
45

“Normal in the first year of marriage”? No, honey, it’s actually all downhill from there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:14 PM
48

Long-distance relationships are such nonsense. Unless it’s a temporary situation, that is not a relationship, that is a pen pal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 08:31 AM
14

85% at least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:27 PM
45

“Haha.” Is he 15? Sounds dumb as a box of rocks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:24 PM
37

If she makes bitchy remarks about your other friends to you, she’s probably making similar comments about you behind her back. I don’t know if it’s worth going through the drama of formally dropping, just scale way back, and don’t confide anything in her that you’re not okay with other people hearing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:47 PM
2

Thanks sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:59 PM
3

Thanks, Hedgehog!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:22 PM
1

Like how?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:22 PM
5

Totally agree. I have not responded and am ignoring him for now as I work up the nerve to block. Blocking him with no explanation feels harsh after two months, but I don’t really want to get into it either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:19 PM
5

I agree with everything you said, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:17 PM
6

Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:16 PM
8

Thank you Parking. I completely agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:11 PM
6

That was my first thought too. She’s put his career at serious risk, her life is in danger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:44 PM
9

Haven’t I already totally fucked up by displaying insecurity though? If I decide to bother, how do I get back on top?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:26 PM
19

Good point. Is it worth having the conversation though if I’m 99% sure I don’t want to see him anymore? I don’t want to be with someone who, like you say, flips the power the minute they smell insecurity. That is not someone I can trust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:14 PM
13

I enjoyed it anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:32 AM
29

This is also the plot of “the Irishman.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:26 AM
36

Fat Lance Bass, lololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:24 AM
29

Why are so many saying she should quit her job or that she’s going to get fired? No company would risk that lawsuit. He will get fired (then use that as an excuse to not pay child support).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:23 AM
3

I think your answer was even better. More articulate. How I hate gym mansplainers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:30 PM
13

He’s dated so many famous women, too. Why the fuck would anyone, much less the extremely-more-successful Katy Perry, date him after his disgusting comments? Goes to show you can be rich and famous and still have shit self-esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:20 PM
36

It used to steam my britches so much when I’d go out with my husband and daughter, and if he did almost anything (chase her down in a restaurant, replace a missing sock, carry her in a backpack) he’d get all kinds of compliments from strangers on what a great dad he was. One lady even said “are you babysitting today?” Bitch he is her father!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:16 PM
7

I’d feel better if you said to me “Look, jerk, I was the unwitting victim of a guy who I thought cared about me but turned out to be a gaslighting ass-fetishist who did not care about my comfort at all and tried to guilt and manipulate me into doing things I don’t want to do, so take calling me a complicit victim and ram it up your pie hole.” Not every point of view deserves to be heard. Keeping the peace isn’t always the thing to do. Like when someone wants to put stuff in your butt that you do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:17 PM
2

Oh no, I’m so sorry. Glad to hear you took out the trash!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:41 PM
1

I’m a newbie so take that into account, but I think the issue is not so much that he’ll think less of you (third-date sex seems pretty common these days, and he probably thought he died and went to pussy heaven), but that you’ll get overly attached to to the point you are inclined to want to ignore red flags. What if he’s sleeping with other people? That would hurt. There’s still so much you don’t know. He could have a temper, a drinking problem, all kinds of issues that it’s better to uncover b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:35 PM
4

Or how about the Rom-Coms where she dumps him and he basically stalks her. “Say Anything,” I’m looking at you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:26 PM
11

Don’t date guys you have to “babysit” in social situations. After introductions he should be able to talk to strangers at a party without clinging to your side. Don’t date a guy who hangs out with his ex. Lunch once a year or checking in every so often, fine, being friendly, good, but talking a lot means you’re probably the placeholder until she wants him back. Never date a guy who criticizes your body. The only proper response to your naked body is lust and gratitude. And if he doesn’t have rab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:25 PM
48

“I know there are ways I could’ve de-escalated the situation so that neither of us would have felt unheard.” You can see why he chose her as his victim! Good for her for getting out as soon as his insanity reared its head. I guess on the upside IUDs are good for 10 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 12:06 PM
10

Was it any good?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:00 AM
4

Schrödinger's asshole. My gawd, these posts have everything. Way to go Emma! I mean Linda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 08:20 PM
-3

Did you have to learn Chinese?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:49 AM
28

Block him before you demean yourself by waiting around to find out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:51 PM
16

No. You’ve already been letting him walk all over you for too long and it shows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:49 PM
11

Don’t stick around to find out. Block him everywhere. Change all of your app passwords, and if you can remotely lock the phone, do that. I don’t know what is up with trying to change your Uber password, at the very least he is not protecting your personal information on the phone you gave him. Wise up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:48 PM
18

I want a lovely Chinese man! How did you meet him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:48 PM
33

Does this ever actually work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:44 PM
6

LoL “scrotation”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:35 AM
12

Also, find out his last name before you meet up, and Google to make sure he’s who he says he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:59 PM
23

Nope, no way, absolutely not, nyet, nein, never. Meet somewhere public and make sure someone else knows who, when and where, and that you’ll check in when you’re home safely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:55 PM
7

I guess he is splayed on the railing of a deck? Like you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:22 AM
94

That gal is barely protecting her own nipples
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 04:13 AM
75

Burger King parking lot?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 05:22 AM
31

Him dressing like that after 30 is just embarrassing. Looks like a future stay-at-home-dad who ignores the baby to get stoned and play video games all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:40 AM
55

Break up and block. Nothing more to say. Why give him tips to be better at deceiving the next woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:37 AM
35

Pick where you really want to go. I think picking two shows sufficient effort. But that’s just me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:33 AM
84

“My ex is crazy”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 10:43 PM
20

I feel personally attacked, haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:29 PM
-2

IMO be honest and tell him what show/restaurant he should take you to. Then if all else fails you at least had good food and had fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:28 PM
12

Thanks because I had the same question. I’m seeing a guy and he’s nice, so ghosting seems too mean. He didn’t do anything really wrong, just the little things that I know I wouldn’t be able to deal with after awhile. Like I made dinner and he didn’t offer to do the dishes. “Life on a different path” is gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:24 PM
3

That song is so perfect for this sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:49 PM
59

🎶 Gum disease, and skin like grilled cheese 🎶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:23 AM
189

Needs wearing khaki pants on a boat, a selfie in the bathroom, and wearing mirrored wraparound shades at a football game
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 10:15 PM
8

I got the final restraining order, he has to surrender his guns and gets arrested if he tries to contact me in the next year. Thanks for the good wishes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 03:08 AM
8

Just leaving me alone would be great. He never met my kid and somehow knew when my kid’s play was and came to it. I had to tell my son to watch out for this guy. We dated when I was in 10th grade (30 years ago) so I felt like I could trust him. I cannot believe I’m going through this shit in my 40s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 03:08 AM
12

1900 upvotes?! Holy shit. If you need me I’ll be hiding under my bed for the next decade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 02:55 AM
12

Reminds me of this story I just read. Girl, four ugly boyfriends does not add up to equal one attractive one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 05:30 PM
16

I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 05:05 AM
33

Thanks. He seemed really normal. Until I told him I wasn’t interested. Please send me good vibes that I get the order and he stays away from me and my child!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 12:32 AM
76

As someone currently being stalked by a guy who I went out with two times two months ago, this was really what I needed to hear right now. Thank you. Court to extend my protective order is Monday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 12:11 AM
31

Probably just herpes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 04:04 AM
17

“Peddlin my dick on the Internet to whoever’s buyin, just like Jesus said to do!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 03:00 AM
24

Damn you for making me just shoot seltzer out of my nose. LOLOL!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 02:56 AM
2

Yeah, points for honesty, I guess?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 02:55 AM
5

You are so brave to be out there. I couldn’t handle how awful people can be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 01:38 AM
23

Please say you responded with a Keynesian graph displaying how the excessive supply of dick means you don’t give a fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 01:34 AM
19

Probably drunk n horny. He doesn’t even live in your city, so why bother?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 10:15 PM
24

She had six husbands and hooked up with Howard Hughes. So much effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 07:31 AM
52

Beats “fuck you and you deserve to have someone rape your eye sockets.” Anyone else have a restraining order this holiday season?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:17 AM
53

A guy even asking the question out of context is a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 09:40 PM
20

Or kill you. Or he has a fetish. I would not want to find out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 06:17 PM
11

Oo boy, sign me up! That’s pretty fucking scary, actually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 05:58 PM
29

The last guy I matched with turned out to be married (he did have a photo). He told me the day before we met for lunch that he planned to leave his wife, but was currently sleeping on the couch. Uh, NEXT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 05:57 PM
75

I assume any guy without a picture on his profile is married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 04:45 PM
35

When I went Chadfishing, the amount of women who gave me their addresses in the first or second message on Tinder was amazing. WTF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 02:27 PM
3

No way! Haven’t you heard about all those horny retirees in Florida giving each other STDs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 04:24 AM
3

Maybe another 70-year-old, but that’s about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 03:39 AM
6

“Should be willing to work at WalMart to pay my mortgage”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 03:20 AM
5

Daaamn, those are some bold (withered) balls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 03:19 AM
9

Depressed? No dick? What on earth could you get from him that you couldn’t get from a female friend (or a grouchy cat)? If nobody’s beating down your door, that means you need to get out there more instead of wasting your time with that wet noodle!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 03:17 AM
7

I hope he was drunk. Or 14. Otherwise there is no excuse for typing like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 03:07 AM
10

Literally, makes sure you come first during sex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 07:05 AM
42

Three years, you changed entire continents and he’s not sure if or when he is ready for marriage? Sorry, but that’s a no. He does not want them. And would you even want those things with someone if they weren’t completely enthusiastic and it seems like they are just placating you? That’s a recipe for a marriage where a guy uses you and treats you like crap. You don’t have trust issues, he is untrustworthy. I’m glad you moved out without him. IMO you should go back to Europe and follow that caree…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 06:43 AM
18

People were complaining about it on XChromosomes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 06:35 AM
5

Yes. I dated a guy like this. He was perfect in every other way. It wasn’t just that he was not attracted to me. He was not attracted to anyone, male or female. It was kind of depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 03:08 AM
6

Sounds like you do though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 04:56 AM
8

Wasn’t Greg Beherent a “Sex in the City” author, who wrote “He’s Just Not That Into You”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 04:44 AM
44

Narrator: he was not the best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 04:43 AM
18

Doesn’t sound good. If he was into you he’d be trying to pin you down. Make weekend plans. If you don’t have plans with him by tomorrow afternoon you’re busy all weekend. And do not take it personally! I know it’s hard, but he could have all kinds of other stuff going on (another girlfriend, alcoholism, too busy to treat you right ...) if you don’t hear from him consider it a bullet dodged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 04:41 AM
0

It is not a failure to want a solid spanking or be into certain kinks, IMO! I have come too far in this life to be shamed for what I like. I also like sex a lot. For me this makes the two-to-three months rule even more important. Because you really need to trust someone. To not kill you; or stalk you, or use your kinks as blackmail, or end up being some one-pump chump. Spending a couple of months on the front end to make sure you can trust someone is nothing compared to what could go wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 04:23 AM
26

If it gets to 48 hours you should block him. Not a single word after the date? Nah. It’s just common courtesy after the date for him to say he had fun and blah blah. I’m really sorry, but maybe he just wasn’t that into you (and you shall not date a guy not into you)! A guy who’s into you will text you after, even if he has explosive diarrhea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 04:15 AM
-4

I agree that I have seen a lot of sex-negativity here. I do think you can ignore that, and do you, and still take positive things from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 03:48 AM
-14

When did this sub get political?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 02:09 PM
3

You just said you have a feeling that if they knew you had a boyfriend they would not want to hang out. You have been living with a guy for a year. Why is that something you’re waiting to disclose in person, like some kind of disease?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 04:22 AM
5

What’s a SWERF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 10:24 PM
28

“I will rape the eye sockets of your skull haha :)”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 10:16 PM
49

“While I fuck other people”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 06:50 PM
9

This x100
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 06:44 PM
32

You realized what you wanted, you realized that wasn’t it, and you shut that shit down. I call that a win. Also, women outlive men. Statistically speaking, most of us will “die alone.” And I would much prefer dying alone to spending my life catering to someone who takes me for granted. There are so many more rewarding uses of energy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 06:42 PM
4

Bwahaha, you made me laugh so hard I sprayed seltzer out of my nose!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 03:49 AM
21

I’m mid-40s and I’m gonna say 50s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 03:33 AM
10

It’s definitely a good idea to wait a while and give red flags a chance to pop up before someone knows your schedule, where you live, and has any texts you wouldn’t want your boss or parents to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 02:31 AM
12

I meant the parts about being vague about your schedule and not letting him into your apartment right away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 02:25 AM
27

Seems like the obvious reasons for 1 and 5 would also be stalking. Saying this as a person being harassed for over a month now after rejecting someone after three dates for being too creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 01:54 AM
2

I can’t get off from oral alone, but I still like it. An hour sounds tedious as hell though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 11:14 PM
2

Jesus Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 10:59 PM
19

I think if after two years you aren’t planning some kind of future— doesn’t have to be marriage—and spending holidays together and basically being a real couple, it’s time to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 10:57 PM
1

Solid advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 06:36 PM
17

Daughter was 16, so they kept their close relationship. She is probably closer to my friend than to her loser dad. Friend put her through college and graduate school and she now has an amazing job. So loser dad now has two women making him feel bad about himself! ... actually I’m sure Loser gives himself all of the credit. “My lack of a career pushed you to be better people!” Losers are gonna loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 05:29 PM
13

I’m in my 40s, and don’t really drink, so there’s not really a scene for that. That I know of! Maybe I should take up golf. Except I hate golf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 06:05 AM
22

That’s a good strategy. Just quit talking, and at some point maybe the uncomfortable silence will lend them a clue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 03:48 AM
88

Yep. My friend (gorgeous, with a doctorate who makes 6 figures) supported her loser husband (in a band) and raised his kid for 10 years. He left her for their alcoholic neighbor and told her that it was because her success made him feel bad about himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 03:25 AM
18

I like lunch dates. Time-limited, you see them in daylight, there’s no implied pressure to drink or continue the evening. Then if it works they can graduate to dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 03:22 AM
38

Yeah, the few times I’ve pointed it out they seemed genuinely confused. But if someone can’t be bothered to at least ask how my day was, what is even the point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 03:17 AM
3

Yay! ... be sure to Google him and do a background check just in case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 02:47 AM
28

His post history is a gem. “If I tell a lawyer I’m going to contact a victim against a court order, are they compelled to report it?” Sounds like somebody’s dating strategy scored him a restraining order (at the least)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 02:32 AM
28

There’s also a strong correlation between mental illness and older fathers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 04:05 AM
15

So much sexy, so much wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 02:53 AM
11

6 for me. He could’ve gotten you killed! Edit, I didn’t realize the hashtag makes the font #huge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 12:01 AM
18

“Now let me post it to Reddit so everyone will tell me what a great guy I am”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 11:12 PM
7

Wait until you’re both actually single, or it will be a mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 08:18 PM
10

I found this sub from that link and I’m glad I did. Not letting yourself get walked all over by skeezy men seems pretty feminist to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 08:16 PM
27

That’s not a man-child, that’s a literal child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 07:59 PM
1

How are you gonna play the indifference game if no one is interested in you in the first place, Kyle?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 09:31 AM
1

Save it and send it to the next guy who sends you a dick pic (kidding!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 09:08 AM
3

It sucks that narcissists/obsessive stalker types can sometimes take a long time to reveal themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 08:36 AM
2

I hope you’re right! Probably some dude who made a fake profile to stalk someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 07:33 AM
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