| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 39 | Cheaper to keep her? | SixOfWandsRedux2022 | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 04:03 PM | |
| 37 | Things are so bad | SixOfWandsRedux2022 | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/22 06:09 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 3 | Wife had me leave house, tips?What’s the backstory here? How did it get to this point? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/22 06:07 AM |
| 1 | How do you feel about your STBX or Ex?Hate. All the way. I hope she gets asshole cancer type hate. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/22 04:13 AM |
| 4 | My wife asked for a divorce in the beginning of June.😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/22 03:56 PM |
| 1 | I hate the feeling of having an enemy living in my house with meWell done, sir. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/22 02:53 PM |
| 11 | I hate the feeling of having an enemy living in my house with meThis sucks and I’m in this exact predicament. Being held hostage by a cheating piece of shit wife who has nothing but bad intentions. I’m laser-focused on the kids and me and that’s helped. Going to join a gym this week as that might help, too. Hope we can both get out of this vortex of treachery and evil soon and unscathed. Godspeed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/22 02:25 AM |
| 5 | I don't know what to do.Talk to a lawyer and find out what the custodial and financial arrangement might look like. In the meantime, stand your ground and tell her that she needs to be more diplomatic and respectful when speaking to you. Don’t do this in earshot of the kids and stay calm. If she riles you up, just end the conversation and excuse yourself. Keep a journal of all your interactions — dates and times. This is just in case she tries to drum up bullshit and call the cops on you under false pretenses. Stay saf… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/22 06:07 PM |
| 2 | FinancesGood on you, man. I plan on having the same outcome and it’s great to hear when other dudes are living the dream. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/22 05:11 PM |
| 2 | FinancesI love the multiple Terminator references here, particularly the “phased plasma rifle in the 40-watt range.” 👏😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/22 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Things are so badI just did and it’s insanely accurate. I’ve been using the Invasion of the Body Snatchers reference since the outset of this nightmare. Thanks for the info! | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/22 08:41 PM |
| 5 | Things are so badI’ve got intel on the AP: doesn’t crack $60K in a good year, lives in a shithole in a horrendous part of town, two kids with some baby momma (never married), DUI charge, and an eviction. There’s probably more, but I’d have to dig deeper (I plan to). Also, definitely going to get her vocationally assessed to the maximum of her earning potential. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/22 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Things are so bad12 and 11. Girls. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/22 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Things are so badYou’re awesome — thank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/22 08:09 AM |
| 6 | Things are so badThanks, man. I needed the encouragement. Steeling myself for what’s ahead. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/22 12:34 AM |
| 2 | Things are so badSounds like a plan! | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/22 12:23 AM |
| 3 | Things are so badPoint taken. Talking to the lawyers on Monday. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/22 12:23 AM |
| 5 | Things are so badThis is a great idea and one I’ll be talking through with the lawyers. Thanks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/22 10:59 PM |
| 5 | Things are so badLet’s talk! Thank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/22 09:43 PM |
| 3 | Things are so badThanks and yes, please send any recommendations my way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/22 09:43 PM |
| 3 | Things are so badFor sure! I’ll reach out to you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/22 09:42 PM |
| 5 | Things are so badMe and the kids are all I give a shit about. Thank you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/22 08:51 PM |
| 5 | Things are so badThanks for the advice, brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/22 08:50 PM |
| 3 | Things are so badShe did! A minimum wage fuck who looks like an extra in a bad prison movie about cholos. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/22 08:49 PM |
| 4 | Things are so badThank you so much for your words. It helps to have a place like this and people like you to vent and rant at that know exactly what sort of nightmare I’m living right now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/22 07:02 PM |
| 5 | Things are so badThanks, brother. I’ll be joining a gym soon and hitting it hard. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/22 07:01 PM |
| 12 | Things are so badThank you. I just feel like me and the kids are goddamn hostages right now…something will have to give and I know that. I appreciate the pep talk. Will keep you posted. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/22 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Divorced and singleNo fault and community property state. My wife being a cheating piece of shit will have no impact on divorce. Can you believe this shit? My kids and finances are the only reason I haven’t thrown this whore out on her ass. Really stuck, unfortunately. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/22 10:13 PM |
| 5 | Asked for a Divorce Last NightPretty much all of this is correct unfortunately. Do not rollover for her or acquiesce to any of her demands, especially when it comes to the kids. Fathers have rights — those children are yours, too. Develop a relationship with a lawyer and have them at the ready. She cheated on you, so do not underestimate her capacity to harm you. Assume nothing about her at this point because the woman you married is gone and she’s now an angry, bitter, vindictive piece of shit that won’t think twice about f… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/22 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Divorced and singleThanks — wish I was there (CA). | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/22 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Divorced and singleIf I might ask, what state are you in? Thank you and best of luck to you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/22 10:21 PM |
| 2 | wife says not only would she know, but I would also be cutting my own throat if I served her papersThank you, sir. I’ll definitely circle back here and let you all know once I drop the hammer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/22 07:08 PM |
| 1 | wife says not only would she know, but I would also be cutting my own throat if I served her papersI keep coming back to this very same thought. If either of my kids were in this predicament, I’d tell them to get out. Trust me — I feel like a fucking hypocrite every day and know that I’m just delaying what I know needs to be done. Just trying to figure out a way to do it and mitigate the damage to the kids and me. But you’re 100% on this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/22 04:23 PM |
| 3 | Post divorce reconstructionFollowing. I’m interested in information on this, too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/22 12:18 PM |
| 11 | Divoce After 15 YearsChrist, this could be my wife, especially the “a 9-5 is not for me” part. What the fuck are these vile assholes thinking?! Sorry you’re also going through this — I’m hoping karma catches up with our respective wives and soon. Evil must never go unpunished and what they’re doing to us is purely evil. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/22 12:17 PM |
| 2 | wife says not only would she know, but I would also be cutting my own throat if I served her papersWhat a cunt. I’m exactly in the same boat. Gun shy about filing (she’s cheating; goddamn no fault state) because I know shit will get ugly and fast and that’s not something I want to put our kids through. And trust me — I want to serve her divorce papers so bad I can fucking taste it. I feel like a hostage. Good luck to you, sir. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/22 01:32 AM |
| 1 | Cheaper to keep her?Thanks for the wealth of info, brother. I’ll keep you posted but I fully intend on dunking all over her trifling ass. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/22 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Cheaper to keep her?Will definitely look these dudes up. Thank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/22 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Cheaper to keep her?Thanks for all of this real world info — super helpful. I appreciate you sharing this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/22 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Cheaper to keep her?Fuck that sucks that you had to see that. Sorry. But I agree with you totally — she’s doing a perfectly good job of fucking up her own life. Why get in the way? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/22 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Cheaper to keep her?Thanks for sharing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/22 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Cheaper to keep her?Tough call indeed but I can sense that her implosion is imminent. When it happens, I want to be front row center. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/22 07:34 AM |
| 1 | Cheaper to keep her?Hmm. I like the way you think. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/22 07:24 AM |
| 1 | Cheaper to keep her?Yes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/22 04:43 AM |
| 2 | Cheaper to keep her?The thought has crossed my mind. The last four months have been so difficult, though. I don’t see how I could live like this for that long. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/22 04:43 AM |
| 1 | Cheaper to keep her?Good to know. I’ll definitely reach out to you directly for some guidance on this — thanks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/22 04:42 AM |
| 2 | Cheaper to keep her?It’s so fucked up, my dude. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/22 04:41 AM |
| 3 | Cheaper to keep her?I’ve been trying to get her to work for a decade. You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink. But maybe the vocational assessment will do the trick. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/22 04:41 AM |
| 1 | Cheaper to keep her?She would — most states are no fault in that regard. Don’t get me started on it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Cheaper to keep her?She’s 46, so her uterus is filled with cobwebs at this point. But I hear you on everything else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 10:44 PM |
| 2 | Cheaper to keep her?Nah, I wouldn’t fuck her with your dick at this point. And she was never that great either when she was in her prime. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 10:42 PM |
| 4 | Cheaper to keep her?She’s fucking a coworker at her minimum wage job. 16 years her junior and a minimum wage sack of shit himself. Plenty of young guys are looking for a serious relationship with a woman nearing her 50s, right?! | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Cheaper to keep her?My timeline wouldn’t be that long (kids are about to be teens) but I know that I’m just kicking the can down the road at this point. I’m hoping she implodes in the interim. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 10:39 PM |
| 5 | Cheaper to keep her?This is so good to hear. So glad you’ve bounced back. And yes, I’ve retained counsel and one of the first moves is having her vocationally assessed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 10:38 PM |
| 3 | Cheaper to keep her?That’s the biggest takeaway from this whole thing for me — only date/marry your betters. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Cheaper to keep her?Definitely a factor in my thinking. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 10:28 PM |
| 6 | Cheaper to keep her?You and me park our cars in the same garage. I’m almost banking on this happening and soon. She’s on two antidepressants, estranged from her mortified family, and just a fucking mess overall. I’m going to let her spiral a bit more before I do anything. And yes, I have evidence of all of her shenanigans. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Cheaper to keep her?This is a major dilemma for me. I’ve thought about this endlessly and you’re right. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 06:54 PM |
| 2 | Cheaper to keep her?She’s never contributed financially, so there’s nothing to be missed on that front. Or any front for that matter. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 06:54 PM |
| 3 | Cheaper to keep her?15 years unfortunately. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 06:53 PM |
| 0 | Cheaper to keep her?Yup. Definitely getting this underachieving skank vocationally assessed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Cheaper to keep her?This has been my thinking the whole time. My hope is that her pussy tingles get so bad that she moves out of her own accord, preferably with her AP (I don’t think he’s interested in her beyond fucking though). | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 06:52 PM |
| 6 | Cheaper to keep her?That’s pretty much where I’m at. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 06:50 PM |
| 4 | Cheaper to keep her?I’m hoping against hope that she gets real work and earns to her potential. When (notice I didn’t say “if”) I file, she’ll definitely be slapped with a vocational assessment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 06:49 PM |
| 14 | Ex wife’s “job” is bullshit. Do I have any recourse?Talk to your lawyer about getting her vocationally assessed. It’s time for her to put on her big girl pants and get a real job like you. I’m dealing with something similar only my wife isn’t monied but does have a Masters Degree that she refuses to do anything with — currently works part time (after not working for over a decade) in a warehouse making minimum wage. The party’s gonna be over for her ass and soon. Good luck! | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/22 05:22 AM |
| 3 | STBEXW is dumb.This is a good point. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/22 11:55 PM |
| 11 | STBEXW is dumb.Dude, I hope you hang a big “L” on that cheating bimbo. I’m dealing with an idiot wife, too. Her expertise is manicures and balayage. Rooting for you, sir. Keep us posted and let us know once you’ve finished dunking all over her stupid ass. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/22 11:54 PM |
| 19 | …ReconciliationAgreed. Reconciliation is an absolute fantasy. We only cling to it initially as a response to trauma. Once the shock wears off and the clarity comes, what must be done becomes crystal clear. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/22 10:20 PM |
| 46 | My kids hacked STBEXW emailI love your kids. You’re a lucky man and they’re equally lucky to have a great dad like you. This anecdote put a huge smile on my face. Going through something similar and this sort of comeuppance is just what the doctor ordered. Thank you for sharing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/06/22 06:58 AM |
| 4 | What advice would you give to a single 20 year old man for his eventual future relationship and marriage with a woman?If you must marry (don’t), marry your equal (at a minimum) or better. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/06/22 04:55 AM |
| 34 | My cheating ex is struggling right now. I hate that I care.She cheated and blew up your life and family. Her problems are her own (and of her own making). Focus on your own well-being (and your children) and don’t look back. Peace and healing to you, sir. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/22 06:49 PM |
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