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/r/RPChristians28/01/22 11:05 PM
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You have a covert contract with God
/r/RPChristians28/01/22 09:08 PM
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Sounds like she’s leading you.
/r/RPChristians16/01/22 09:09 PM
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Buy 8 pounds of meat and meal prep your food for the week. Also, read Never Split the Difference and How to Win Friends and influence people. You’re handling of the conversation with your wife is a problem. You acted like a nap-deprived, 6 year old whining he didn’t get his toy. You acted like her kid.
/r/RPChristians06/01/22 11:12 AM
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You have a frame problem. If she doesn’t see you as high-value man, any talk from you about your sexual needs, 1 Cor 7 or her low libido will be just lower your value. The tough part is realizing you need to build yourself into a high value man for you first. If you’re doing it to get her to respond - you’re a dancing monkey. She’ll see through that.
/r/RPChristians06/01/22 10:10 AM
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She’s 25 and her parents are still telling her what she can’t do? Thought you said there were green flags all around. Take her with you.
/r/askMRP18/04/21 11:54 AM
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definitely get your T checked. We got another Love Languages dude. I got pulled into that at one point too. Put that book down and grab the Biblical Masculinity Blueprint. Definitely don’t hand your wife a book. Big covert contract. Scrap that short term goal.
/r/RPChristians15/04/21 12:21 AM
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have you tried 16/8 or 18/6 IF? how much protein are you eating? If you’re losing a lot of strength and muscle mass that should be a red flag. Maybe you’re cutting to hard and/or not getting enough protein. check out the Bible Memory App. Super for memorization. I just started a meeting collection aimed at Taming the Tongue.
/r/RPChristians15/04/21 12:13 AM
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Lifting first thing in the morning ensures I get it done. It was a hard discipline to create. But, anything worthwhile is. This post is a good reminder that discipline gets it done.
/r/RPChristians06/04/21 12:40 AM
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See if you can find a Starting Strength coach in your area to work with. There’s a Weight At Which You Can Start
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/21 01:12 PM
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Good to see you back. I started a group years ago much like a small group study. We watched a video in the church and discussed the questions. Guys lost interest and stopped coming. I have much more success building relationships and having discipleship conversations now that I pivoted and do stuff with the guys. Maybe it’s range time, hike up the mountain, pitch in on a home improvement project or lift. Men form a tribe and trust when the work, struggle, problem solve and conquer together. Not …
/r/RPChristians02/04/21 10:56 PM
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The sexual moratorium is one of the oft items from Glovers book that is viewed as a caution along with telling your partner about your journey to become an integrated man. Congrats on talking too much and going Rambo.
/r/askRPC03/03/21 05:24 PM
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Excellent post and a great encouragement to everyone to develop that habit of being in the Word daily. Daily Bible Reading habit should be the number one GREEN item on a man’s MAP.
/r/RPChristians05/11/20 09:14 PM
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You’re in the anger phase. Lean into the Word. Spend time in passages about anger. It’s easy to fall into a trap of victimization. Your post reveals that in you. Understand that you are accountable. Take ownership, develop a plan, articulate your mission and execute day in and day out. Bitterness is setting yourself on fire in an attempt to kill others through smoke inhalation. Be in the Word. Find your Mission.
/r/askRPC02/11/20 03:36 PM
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Your answer is in the “why”. Why are you going to tell you wife your struggle with pornography? The Nice Guy will do it because he looks to his wife for forgiveness and validation. He writes a covert contract in his mind with her. “If I tell her I use porn... she’ll forgive me she’ll help me fix this she’ll have sex with me It’s from a place of neediness and a drive to seek validation. If your “why” is because you are showing ownership, leadership. Then shut your mouth and fix it. Give it to God…
/r/askRPC02/11/20 02:14 PM
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/r/RPChristians27/09/20 01:11 AM
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Sounds like you went Rambo. Much to learn you have if you’re having a huge fight. Anger. Control. Ego. All are monsters inside you have to confront and take down. All you wrote in spiritual was about not doing youth ministry. That sounds like a good decision and good justification. But - how’s your walk with the Lord? Are you in the Word and in prayer? Or, are you trying to do this on your own? 48LOP is a darn good read - but don’t have that been your main dish. Feed yourself with the Word daily…
/r/RPChristians26/09/20 01:51 AM
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I counted “motivation” three times. Motivation isn’t going to sustain you on the path. You have a nice long term goal. Not really Mission material, but its a goal. Dial back to the now. What’s three actions or three habits you need to be doing right now to get you to the man you want to be in say, 3 years? I’ll give you an example - the you three years from now eats like a lion but as sharp as a razor. You’re fit. What do you need to do to get there? Probably quit soda/pop, candy, junk food, pro…
/r/RPChristians26/09/20 01:41 AM
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Sounds like you’re making adjustments to improve feeding yourself physically. At first glance and checking a TDEE, you look on the low side. Try that for 2 or 3 weeks weighing yourself every day at the same time (first thing upon rising after going to the bathroom). If you’re not gaining 0.2-0.5 lbs per week on average, start dialing it up. You’ll likely have to eat past being hungry until your body gets used to it. But, you’re not feeding yourself spiritually. Not in the Word studying or readin…
/r/RPChristians26/09/20 01:29 AM
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That’s a lot of weight gain. Is nutrition dialed in? Are you developing a prayer life?
/r/RPChristians26/09/20 01:20 AM
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Are you on a budget? Have you read Ramsey's Total Money Makeover?\ ​ Be sure to show my wife extra affection since we're reducing our eating out spending This doesn't compute. Are you rewarding your wife's fiscal choices with affection?
/r/RPChristians16/09/20 09:38 PM
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My wife's fitness tests are so much weaker now it's like she knows what the result will be before it even starts so she barely bothers. This was the main reason I started red pill and I'm very happy about the progress I've made. The goal isn't to eliminate fitness tests or see them diminish. It should be to pass them. If you're wife is testing you less and less that may be red flag. Sometimes, the wife tests even harder the more HV the man is just to periodically make sure he has it. ​ I haven't…
/r/RPChristians16/09/20 09:34 PM
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What's your target for knowing when to cut? It's not too far off - 3-4 months at the very most. This bulk has been pretty lean. Really seeming growth in my chest, traps and shoulders. First one of these I hit, I'll cut: - average weight of 197 for a week - waist gets to big that I can't close the current hole in weight belt - I max out on dead lift and have to de-load ​ I've noticed you're top notch when it comes to developing habits and implementing them long-term, and that's a good thing. But …
/r/RPChristians16/09/20 09:17 PM
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OYS #61 Stats - 39, Married for 16 years, 2 young children, 6' 1", 190.1 lb [+ 1.1 in 1 weeks] Tested 1 RM's - SQ 320; DL 335; BP 210; OHP 135. Program is 5-3-1 Boring But Big. Discipling 5/10 Habit to Build - have one discipleship conversation/text every day and make note of it in DayOne. Started teaching junior high Sunday School along side a friend. This is my primary discipling opportunity at the current time. 30-day prayer challenge I'm participating in with two friends/disciples continues.…
/r/RPChristians16/09/20 03:51 PM
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Wild At Heart is a very worthwhile read. In my top ten list of books a RP man needs to read. I liken it to a Christian version of NMMNG.
/r/askRPC08/09/20 09:35 PM
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Working 12-14 hour days in body armor and a rifle in a hot humvee I need my calories to function. When the riot mission dies down again I can go back to cutting. I'm not discounting the hard work you doing - but you have a tremendous opportunity to cut here. My best time to cut is the seasons where I grind 12-14 hours. My TDEE is through the roof during that time because of my activity level. My situation is different that yours. I can imagine you have little control over your food choice right …
/r/RPChristians07/09/20 09:28 PM
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last week I was given a two stripe promotion Congratulations. I know the hard work, sweat and pain that went into that. Amazing how proud you can be of a little strip of athletic tape. ​ I have no desire to be injured again I feel more injury prone when I'm pushing 8, 9 and 10 rep maxes more so than 1 or 2 reps. Impressive lifts. ​ How does one rebuild trust? Set boundaries and expectations. It's possible trust would never get back to where it once was.
/r/RPChristians07/09/20 09:21 PM
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To serve God through my career. I have no idea how I'm going to do that. Sounds like your trying to fit God into your box. ​ I've recently been put in the "Oh, he's so sweet, why is he still single," category by the local church ladies ..my pride shows itself is in a lack of confidence in what I know and not wanting to speak up and make a fool out of myself in front of everyone Stereotypical Nice Guy syndrome. Have you read NMMNG? Currently working on building stamina and heat tolerance, and los…
/r/RPChristians07/09/20 09:14 PM
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OYS #60 Stats - 39, Married for 16 years, 2 young children, 6' 1", 189.0 lb [+ 0.2 in 1 weeks] Tested 1 RM's - SQ 320; DL 335; BP 210; OHP 135. Program is 5-3-1 Boring But Big. Discipling 5/10 Got the ball rolling on teaching junior high Sunday School My daughter came with me to church. I emphasized before she did that it wouldn't be for socializing. We'll worship and keep our distance. She understood. It was a teachable moment to explain why we sing and why we go to church. During the sermon, s…
/r/RPChristians02/09/20 03:16 PM
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Good. But you’ve said that before. What are three actions/habits you’ll do/build this week that will enable you to stop watching porn?
/r/RPChristians01/09/20 01:36 PM
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You have 9 really good points in your Mission. All are great goals. Wanna know what's holding you back from achieving it? Porn.
/r/RPChristians31/08/20 09:51 PM
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Download MyFitnessPal and start by tracking what you normally eat for a week. Report back next week on your average daily calories and average daily grams of protein. Mindless scrolling is an easy trap to fall into. I struggle with it, too. I burned 20 minutes just this morning drinking coffee before I snapped out of it and got into my Bible and scripture memory routine. I snapped about 3 weeks ago and deleted a bunch of stuff off my phone - YouTube was one. I also turned off all notifications e…
/r/RPChristians31/08/20 09:35 PM
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The only thing that's really directly in front of you at the moment is teaching junior-high Sunday School at your church. That's an opportunity, so take it. Pray for guidance as you do something for the kingdom. You assembled my thoughts in a way I didn't and gave a good nudge. I reached out on the Sunday School teaching. This reminds me of BJJ. I was trying to muscle and push for a certain move/technique that I wanted (men's group). I completely dismissed and ignored the opportunity that presen…
/r/RPChristians31/08/20 09:27 PM
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Romans 10:9 was my Bible Memory verse last week. How's your fellowship in real life? Not to discount the work you and others are doing in Discord. You mentioned not connecting with your family. Do you have untapped opportunities to fellowship with believers around you? Delegating is a tough skill to learn, but critical if you want to grow beyond a one-man band. I'm learning it everyday. Some tips I've learned .. - you have to be OK with it being done "good enough". I'm a perfectionist and have t…
/r/RPChristians31/08/20 09:11 PM
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protein Eat meat and eggs. I ate 245 grams of protein today. Not one scoop of powder. 6 eggs, 1/2 lb burger and 3/4 lb of turkey. fiber Eat beans, nuts, avocados and vegetables
/r/RPChristians27/08/20 12:33 AM
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OYS #59 Last OYS two weeks ago. Stats - 39, Married for 16 years, 2 young children, 6' 1", 188.8 lb [+/- 0.0 in 2 weeks], 13-14% BF (haven’t measured in a while) Tested 1 RM's - SQ 320; DL 335; BP 210; OHP 135. Program is 5-3-1 Boring But Big. Discipling 4/10 I'm not overtly discipling anyone (other than my wife and children, of course). I have a list of at least a dozen men that I covertly disciple through in-person discussions we have in everyday life. I also started this week to reach out to …
/r/RPChristians26/08/20 03:27 PM
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/r/RPChristians25/08/20 05:10 PM
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What’s your plan to quit porn? Do you lift?
/r/RPChristians24/08/20 09:21 PM
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​ My counselor - individual, knows about the red pill and suggested I start a local men’s group How did you and your counselor come to discuss the red pill? Are you going to move forward with a men's group? I keep thinking that building a band of brothers - a group of like minded men to push each other, hold each other accountable and experience life together is key. It's omething I'm really trying to work on. I also train BJJ twice a week. I love how you just non-nonchalantly toss that out ther…
/r/RPChristians19/08/20 10:05 PM
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Good job on the deadlift - but be careful on going too heavy to quick. Injuries can happen. Follow the program. You are following a program, right? You breezed through the Mental section. What book are you reading/listening to other than the Word? You have a well written Mission. Awesome to hear that the Discord is bearing fruit. Obliques and 20-22% BF don't jive. Judging by your weight, height and that you pulled 255 untrained , you may be over estimating your BF. What's your fitness goal - los…
/r/RPChristians19/08/20 09:52 PM
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Check out the Bible Memory App. I've been using it and really found its interface helpful for memorizing. Way better than little flash cards. Why the 9 on AOS and not a 10? Have you read NMMNG already? If not, add that to your reading list. The Discord is cool and has its place. But, don't neglect real life relationships and fellowship. I realize that may be tough now depending on how much the virus is impacting your life. Keep at it.
/r/RPChristians19/08/20 09:42 PM
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Good job on many fronts this week, u/AlanNoles. Diet, porn, and your mindset. You got the right idea on how to handle your wife’s egalitarian views - that you allowed to happen in your BP days. I can tell you from experience - leading by example and letting your actions speak is the way. Keep your foot on the throttle in all that you’re improving on.
/r/RPChristians16/08/20 11:01 PM
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Sounds a lot like old order sects.
/r/RPChristians13/08/20 03:32 PM
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I blame the difficulty listening to it on the voice of the guy. Very formal British and just hard for me to follow. Audio books are made or broken by the person reading it. I have no other martial arts experience (other than one Krav Maga class) so I’m very partial to BJJ. But I see what guys like Roger, Jocko and Ryan Michler are talking about now.
/r/RPChristians12/08/20 11:27 PM
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OYS #58 Its been a bit more than 3 months since I last posted on OYS. High time to get back in the saddle. Stats - 39, Married for 16 years, 2 young children, 6' 1", 188.8 lb [+3.0 lbs in 3 months] Tested 1 RM's - SQ 320; DL 335; BP 210; OHP 135. Program is 5-3-1 Boring But Big. Discipling 3/10 Took my daughter and some friends out. Her friend-that's-boy definitely likes her. I have an opportunity to influence, encourage and guide him. Haven't been to church service in months. I'm sick of trying…
/r/RPChristians12/08/20 07:05 PM
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Make a detailed schedule for yourself days in advance. You have too much idle time. For example - 6:00 AM wake up and weigh in 6:15 AM coffee and quiet time 7:00 AM body weight workout 7:45 AM shower, manscape and dress 8:15 AM cook and eat breakfast 8:45 AM read chapter 1 of Deep’s book 9:30 AM fix the appliance that’s been broke for 2 months You get the idea. Have a purpose. Plan it out.
/r/askRPC30/07/20 09:59 PM
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Start by having conversations with your wife in person. I stopped reading once I saw the crucial conversation was happing via text.
/r/askMRP30/07/20 09:41 PM
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Are you currently reading something other than the Bible? Good job on the 81 day streak.
/r/RPChristians30/07/20 05:00 PM
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You have a long standing pattern of not getting it done with your weight cutting. Every week, you're hanging around the same weight. Have been for a long time. Keto a decent diet, but it isn't some silver bullet. The underlying issue is the bad habits and bad decisions you make on a regular basis. What's your physical goal and what's the horizon for that goal? What's the actions you need to take on a daily basis to make that goal happen?
/r/RPChristians30/07/20 04:53 PM
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Rachel was barren most of her life and only had one child with God's intervention Rachel had Benjamin and Joseph. ​ David took Bathsheba and had her husband murdered and God didn't squash him and only inflicted him with relatively mild consequences The child died and God said the sword wouldn't leave David's house resulting in the death of three other sons.
/r/RPChristians23/07/20 04:42 PM
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How you combat it? Prayer, being in the word. And - find a mission. Right now, it sounds like your mission is to lay pipe, possibly to kill the oneitis. Find a purpose bigger than yourself that you can pour into. In the process, become a High Value Man. Keep your eye open for women along the way and vet well. What are your stats? How much work have you done? How much have you read?
/r/RPChristians11/07/20 10:40 PM
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Can you offer a scripture reference backing the statement that sex outside of marriage isn’t sin?
/r/RPChristians11/07/20 10:36 PM
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I think you can be a HVM and be humble. The key is realizing that being humble is not thinking less of yourself. Rather, it’s thinking more of others. Taming your tongue to not be boastful is step. Also, strive to see your blessings (material possessions, physical gains, social or career status) as gifts from God and tools by which to build his Kingdom. That’s in contrast to the “look-at-me” mindset our culture breeds in us. Ephesians 4:2 - Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing wi…
/r/askRPC09/07/20 09:40 AM
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That leaves the door wide open for red haired BPD’s
/r/askRPC06/07/20 12:50 AM
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Lift in a power cage with safeties. I am regularly pushing personal records on squat and bench by myself. Tried for a 3RM this morning on squat and missed it. Got 2 to tie current PR. I stalled motion on the third and then sat down to put it on the safeties. This brings up a negative I’ve found of lifting by yourself - no bro’s there yelling at you to go get it when you’re just on the cusp of making the last rep.
/r/askRPC05/07/20 01:53 AM
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Are there conflicts Red Flags?
/r/RPChristians26/06/20 10:01 PM
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You’re red-knighting - evangelizing the red pill. You sound like a salesman trying to get the close where he accepts the RP. Listen to him, build a relationship and ask good questions. You’ve only known him for 6 months. I have friends I’ve known my entire life that could use this stuff. But, I know they have to find it on their own. I pepper RP wisdom in here and there. But, I’m not going hard sell.
/r/askRPC14/06/20 10:42 AM
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Would you be surprised if you were in Walmart with a bull horn advising shoppers to go across the street to Target and the Walmart associates told you to leave?
/r/askRPC13/06/20 03:43 PM
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Pick a discipline and make a plan to turn it into a habit. I’ll pick on the low hanging fruit of Bible Study on your scorecard ... Intentionally schedule a half hour or hour to do Bible study. Plan out ahead of time, what your gonna study and if there’s any needed resources to help guide you. Know what your expected outcome after the hour is over looks like. Ie, I’ll have a notebook with questions, scripture references and reflections. Feel for ya on the recovery. It sounds like your pushing thr…
/r/RPChristians10/06/20 04:48 PM
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She has been slacking on household duties as of late and I came back to a sink of dishes and stuff laying around everywhere. She had like 8 empty water bottles just laying in the living room and old food dishes for who knows how long. Instead of saying something up front I just led by example and starting doing it. You handled this very well including your fogging response to her comment. Still doing nightly devotions with my wife and we have coupled this with scripture reading as well (usually …
/r/RPChristians10/06/20 04:39 PM
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Agree with ya on barbell, but I’m gonna offer a different view on the main goal. Yes, aesthetics are important. But being strong, resilient and healthy so you have the ability to execute on your mission and provide and protect your sphere of influence is my driver behind physical training. It also increases your confidence and projects physical frame in all your interactions. Getting bigger? Looking better without a shirt? Noticing that women notice you? Sure - it’s nice. I like it. But it’s the…
/r/RPChristians09/06/20 03:29 PM
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Start by getting strong. 3-5 months on a linear progression strength program like Strong Lifts 5 x 5 or Starting Strength If you’re truly 11%, eat big and eat very clean. The aesthetics will come along for the ride.
/r/RPChristians07/06/20 03:18 PM
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Law 4: Always Say Less Than Necessary In other words - you talk too damn much. All this “debating” is validation seeking.
/r/askRPC06/06/20 09:44 PM
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Makes sense that the riots are being planned. Looks very organized. Sustained 15 hour days grinds on you. Do not lose focus on the critical things - put your oxygen mask on first. Pray first thing in the AM - even just for a minute asking for strength. Read the Word. Do your best to drink a lot of water and eat the very best you can. If I was on per diem, I’d buy four chicken sandwiches and rip the chicken and vegetables out tossing the bread. I’ve pushed through hard seasons and neglected these…
/r/RPChristians04/06/20 12:44 AM
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Consider protein powder to supplement. Try to buy animal protein closer to the source - farmer, butcher, wholesaler. Just putting the milk away is what the Captain would do. You progressed from passive aggressive to validation seeking. Reading fight club side bar books in front of your wife is not a great move early in the journey when your frame is weak. That s__t test about NMMNG was a great opportunity to AM or A&A. But, you DEER’d like a good boy. I used the Kindle app on my iPad. Little mor…
/r/RPChristians04/06/20 12:35 AM
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Ever try chewing sunflower seeds? Nuts.com has a great product. Real big seeds. What things in your environment or routine cue you to use porn? Figure out what cues you to seek that reward. Then troubleshoot from there. Is porn too easily accessed? Making it harder to get to will help you change the habit.
/r/RPChristians27/05/20 03:49 PM
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What you’re referring to is a covert contract. It’s a defining trait of a Nice Guy. The Nice Guy does things so that he gets stuff in return because he’s not confident and assertive to ask. The integrated male/alpha does things because he wants to. It fits his mission or is part of him being responsible in his sphere of influence.
/r/RPChristians27/05/20 02:38 PM
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Rule 2 in the community info says to include stats like age, weight, BF%, books read and 7 discipline rating. Helps community members calibrate their response by knowing some more about you.
/r/RPChristians26/05/20 10:27 PM
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Rule 2 - update your post to include stats
/r/RPChristians26/05/20 08:34 PM
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Good analysis of OP’s post. OP’s post comes across like an elementary school boy that comes in the day after something was said by a friend. “I told my Dad what you said. He said your wrong because blah blah blah.”
/r/RPChristians19/05/20 05:06 PM
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At your lifts, it’s more important to just get some weight. It’s chunks of steel and a bar. Pick it up. Put it down. Repeat. Especially in this current environment. If you can score weight, consider it a win. My 300 lb set cost 300 bucks 5 years ago. Still serving me well even with additional plates. Don’t put 2 inch plates on a one inch bar. Doesn’t sound safe.
/r/askMRP17/05/20 03:48 PM
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RP on most teachings This is a statement that we see a lot and it needs to be addressed. Just because a church or a pastor preaches Biblical gender roles does not make it Red-Pilled. Does your church address the hypergamous nature of women? I.e., women love value while men value love? Does your church say that women’s SMV peaks at age 23 while a mans continues to climb into his late 30’s? Didn’t think so. Don’t confuse the preaching of Biblical gender roles with the knowledge of how to navigate …
/r/askRPC16/05/20 01:24 PM
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Did you read The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint by Casper?
/r/RPChristians12/05/20 05:36 PM
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Short answer is you can’t. But, YOU can eat healthy. YOU can workout.
/r/askRPC12/05/20 03:58 PM
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Wild at Heart by Eldredge
/r/RPChristians12/05/20 10:34 AM
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You predicted your statement with “As Christians”. I assumed the Bible was your back up such an assertion. I doubt many people go around saying “As Christians, we should call it pop”.
/r/RPChristians11/05/20 09:21 PM
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As Christians, we should listen to all party involved. Hence, both of you needs to get a professional Christian marriage counseling. Interested in seeing a scripture reference on that
/r/RPChristians11/05/20 10:19 AM
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What’s the local church going to do? What are the other options?
/r/RPChristians10/05/20 10:22 AM
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I enjoy Moonshine Road. “Chad tells Stacey to give him the keys to her caddy and buckle up. Tingles ensue.” RP interpreting country songs could be entertaining.
/r/RPChristians10/05/20 10:10 AM
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An alpha is top tier or top 15% in physical features, finances, character, personality, skills, in their current social hierarchy FTFY
/r/RPChristians10/05/20 10:06 AM
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This is a like a circular reference in Excel. OP asks why she needs to post stats. Need stats to answer question.
/r/askRPC09/05/20 11:25 PM
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You moving out may not be the right call. I think the courts see that as abandonment in some states. There’s a divorce prep resource on MRP. This is majorly outside my wheel house, just pointing you in a direction.
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 10:00 AM
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Didn’t say the smashing white belt wasn’t nice. It’s darn fun! I miss it too, bro. Got a feeling it’s going to be a long time until I roll again. I’m blessed. I got a hold of 12’ x 14’ of mat. My daughter, son and wife are my students now.
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 07:56 PM
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I’ve definitely considered going that route as well. Iron Council is the one I looked at closer. On one hand, we need to be around other men that are striving to be better. In wrestling, it was known that you didn’t get any better by beating the fishes and the noodles over and over. You got better by wrestling the caged animal that mopped the map with you. Same in BJJ now. I learn way more by getting tapped out by the brown belt in 20 seconds than smashing another white belt. But, on the other h…
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 03:19 PM
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I’ve been reading your OYS the past few weeks. Two take aways. One - You have screw-around-itis with your weight. It hasn’t changed. For a long time. There’s always an excuse. So many excuses. This week it’s your wife’s fault because she didn’t finish her meal. Two - your OYS is turning into OYWS. Read the mental section. It’s all about her. She did this. She did that. It’s own YOUR stuff.
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 10:17 AM
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Those aren’t comfort tests. They’re s__t tests. Learn the difference. Cut weight. Lift lighter and higher reps when you’re doing this. It’ll help you develop form. Shelve your 1,000 lb goal for now. When you’re lean in a few weeks, then get strong. You need to eat BIG and CLEAN to do that. I took it in stride and continued the conversation. The next day I told her that's not acceptable, if she does it again we will not be spending time with friends together. I don't know if being this overt with…
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 10:04 AM
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Go ahead and date. Learn how to talk to girls. Learn how to game and flirt. But, are you ready for the temptation of lust? Are you working on yourself? Are you lifting? Eating good? Are you spiritually disciplined? What’s your AOS? If it’s not there, you’re just searching for an idol in a girl. If/when you start dating. Don’t make her the center of your universe. She comes along for the awesome time you’re having.
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 09:46 AM
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I’ve used 33 The Series by Authentic Manhood as a men’s group material and was very pleased. There’s some stuff in it that is borderline red and can be good spring boards for discussion. Wild at Heart by Eldredge would be a super book to go through with your guys. Bible Masculinity Blueprint would be a good level 200 study. As the group gets comfortable, you may find you never make it to the video and questions some meetings. A guy may have a problem or a question that sparks good conversation a…
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 09:28 AM
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Posts like this are low effort. Add some value.
/r/RPChristians03/05/20 10:56 AM
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Switch grip can create an imbalance. I experienced that. If you try hook grip, fair warning - your thumbs may really hurt until you get used to it. But it’s a solid grip. It’s stronger than what I can deadlift right now. I found the same thing with videoing squat - I was going down all the way.
/r/RPChristians30/04/20 04:28 PM
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Ever try the hook grip? That was a game changer for me. I had knee pain as well and started using knee sleeves. Made a difference.
/r/RPChristians29/04/20 06:05 PM
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Here’s link to a video on Art of Manliness where Rippetoe goes through dead lift form. Videoing your own form will show you a lot. Do it. 5700 plus calories? Easily believe it. Kudos to you on the effort in tracking everything. I can’t carve that amount of time. I’ve often thought my mood, energy and focus were proportional to the quality and quantity of what I eat. Neat to see someone quantifying that. Are you in the Word daily? Instead of going right at your friend with the gospel, build a rel…
/r/RPChristians29/04/20 03:50 PM
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OYS #57 Stats - 6’1”, 38, 185.9 lb [down about a pound in the last month], about 15% BF Best I can peg - this week is my two year anniversary of "swallowing" the RP. Affirmation/thought for the week. "Push yourself outside of your comfort zone" Mission My mindset is shifting from discipleship being something I do extra, an hour or two one evening every week or two. Its shifting to the realization that I have find a way to make disciples, to impact men all day everyday. Had two doors open this we…
/r/RPChristians29/04/20 03:27 PM
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You have some red pill knowledge but still have a big need for validation seeking. Thus, you look to red knight another man, a man in a position of authority to you nonetheless. This will not work out as you expect or hope. You’re just looking for a reason to hear yourself talk and pump your ego. Perhaps, some day in the distant future, you’ll red pill a close friend that has a rough relationship and is ready to be unplugged. There’s a lot of lifting and reading ahead of you before those days. W…
/r/RPChristians27/04/20 10:12 AM
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if she ever turns you down you need to let her come back to you and show total disinterest in her sexually and romantically A misinterpretation of Dread game. This is punitive and score keeping.
/r/RPChristians27/04/20 01:07 AM
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Learn how to communicate effectively instead of putting stock in MBTI. HTWFAIP and Never Split the Difference are essential reads in this area. I used be a big fan of the MBTI, too. In my BP days, I looked for cheat codes like many other men do. MBTI creates labels and predisposes people. I’ve seen cubicle names with their MBTI below it. As if I’m supposed to deal with them in a special manner.
/r/RPChristians27/04/20 12:33 AM
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You’re hitting on something that’s been a splinter in my mind lately - “Mission Divergence”. I say my Mission is to make disciples. To glorify God and build Kingdom. But looking at what I’m doing right now, my actions say my Mission is to be successful. Disciple-making is right now a hobby, at best, an extra-curricular. Something I tack on for 2 hours every other week. I need to figure out how to make it a part of my daily life. This post is a big piece to the puzzle.
/r/RPChristians22/04/20 07:38 PM
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OYS #56 My last OYS was 4 weeks ago. Life is very, very busy. I’m managing an essential business in one of the busiest times of the year with added layers of complexity due to COVID-19. Now’s the reason I trained, am healthy and have a spiritual discipline to keep me centered. As a result, OYS time has been slammed. Here’s a collection of victories and failures over the past month. Initiate Every Other Day A while back, I threw out the goal of initiating more often. I pretty much am hitting this…
/r/RPChristians22/04/20 04:10 PM
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Agree totally. I’ve done the McGym thing years ago and now have a decent home gym. It took some coin and some time to put together - but its totally worth it. I suspect this ordeal will move a lot of guys in that direction.
/r/RPChristians19/04/20 02:55 PM
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That’s what a skid loader is for. Work smart!
/r/RPChristians19/04/20 12:17 PM
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I love how OP’s always point out what they agree and disagree with like your advice is a menu. You’re not attractive to her. Work on yourself, build the HV man and find a girl that wants you. Hate to use the oft quoted Rollo but - “you cant negotiate attraction” Much to learn you have.
/r/RPChristians17/04/20 04:15 PM
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You’ve identified the red flags for yourself. You want to ignore them. On top of that, her first rejection was a friend zone of you. You don’t get out of the friend zone. She needs an emotional tampon and your 21% is willing to do some soaking up. Cut weight. Put more weight on the bar. Your lifts are decent. Read. NMMNG, WISNIFG, RPC sidebar just to get started. Mark Manson’s Models would be a good level 200 reading. Gain some abundance mentality and see the opportunity in front of you.
/r/RPChristians17/04/20 10:02 AM
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There you go - good place to start. “Make the bad habit difficult” ... can you get rid of junk food in the house or make it harder for you to get to? Relying on willpower alone is a hard row.
/r/RPChristians17/04/20 01:27 AM
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Chad has a good Biblical reference regarding living together. There’s also Iron Rule of Tomassi #4. Regarding your son - learn to be a good listener and ask good questions. Never Split the Difference by Voss has really helped me in this area. Learn to mirror, label and ask calibrated questions.
/r/RPChristians17/04/20 12:48 AM
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Mission is like an onion, keep peeling back layers. This reminds me of WOTSM. Such a key read.
/r/RPChristians17/04/20 12:36 AM
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Well done on your 5 day streak and the pushups. Step it up.
/r/RPChristians17/04/20 12:29 AM
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MyFitnessPal app. It take some time for your pallet to adjust to healthier foods. Just like your other goals - nutrition can be one habit at a time. Start with the reds - the things you need to stop. Stop drinking soda/pop/soft drink for a week.
/r/RPChristians17/04/20 12:27 AM
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You did some effective cage rattling
/r/RPChristians17/04/20 12:22 AM
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A lot of building spiritual discipline comes down to habits and your environment. Your “normal” schedule and environment supported the “normal” habits - getting up at 5:30 AM for quiet time. This quarantine is completely different. You have new temptations, new distractions and different rewards. Figure out how to make these new bad habits hard to do. Example - every 15 minutes of Netflix costs 50 burpees. Make your spiritual discipline rewarding to build it into a habit in this new environment.…
/r/RPChristians16/04/20 09:02 AM
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Is this not how it's always done? I was unaware of other forms. I thought so too. On lighter weights, I just “ding” the weights off the ground keeping tension in my body. On the heavy sets, I almost reset each rep and take a big breath. Probably should do it all the same, I suppose.
/r/RPChristians15/04/20 12:27 AM
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Remember, lifting is a marathon, not a sprint. Huge take away for me right here. I use a belt for working sets. I don’t use straps. About two years ago, I switched from an alternating grip to a overhand grip. I still have a shoulder imbalance from years of alternating grip. My overhand grip started to fail around 250 lbs. Bar just rolled right out of my hands. Then I came across the hook grip in a Rippetoe video. Game changer - after my thumbs got used to it! I lift at home and have bumper plate…
/r/RPChristians15/04/20 12:25 AM
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Week one is 85% of the training max for 5 reps. I’m on my fourth cycle having upped the training max for deadlift and squat by 10 lbs each cycle. My training max for this cycle is 360. Last cycle it was 350. I got one rep of 335 lbs which was 95% of the training max. I just finished week two. I got one rep of 325 lbs which is 90% of the TM. Should have gotten 3 reps. I suspect I’m plateauing on DL. I’ll likely de-load the TM next cycle. Thanks for the reply.
/r/RPChristians15/04/20 12:16 AM
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OP would be a great candidate for Rippetoe’s GOMAD. Time to eat feed.
/r/RPChristians13/04/20 04:55 PM
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You should put this all in a one-page application for the girls you meet to fill out. Most women aren’t going to answer these questions honestly.
/r/RPChristians10/04/20 09:56 AM
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It’s a Disney construct
/r/RPChristians09/04/20 09:34 AM
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It’s your need to be validated. You’re deriving your worth from what others think. Learning to be a good listener and question asker has been an important step in my journey. Read Chris Voss’s Never Split The Difference. Start using the mirror, label and calibrated question. It’s a game changer.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/20 09:20 AM
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This is a time to step it up and lead. This time is why you lifted. This time is why you ate sharp and are in good health. This time is why you have your finances straight. Adjust. Adapt. Get it done.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/20 12:20 AM
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My abundance mentality is manifesting in other areas of life now, not as much girls. I’m not out there cold approaching women all day. For me, it’s about not living in fear of loss. I used to be afraid to rock the boat with an employee, to have that “crucial conversation” because my mind would race to the worst - they’d get pissed off and leave Now, I see they respect me more and follow my leading. Or, I felt I had to bend over backwards for a customer lest I lose their business entirely for som…
/r/askRPC07/04/20 10:01 PM
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You Facebook stalked her months after a flaked cold approach. Doesn’t sound like an abundance mentality to me.
/r/askRPC07/04/20 08:22 PM
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Pivot tables will bring out the lingerie
/r/askMRP07/04/20 02:24 PM
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Very little s__t owning in this. It’s a dear diary complaining post. I should have been buying actual Gold instead of just trading futures on the stock market This statement illustrates your lack of knowledge on the subject. I explained mother’s often win custody by default and the father might just bail in part due to a struggle with visitation rights. Then I said this sin was a big deal and that this girl was in real spiritual danger if she does not repent. I didn’t say she wasn’t saved in the…
/r/RPChristians05/04/20 10:13 AM
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Your situation with the kids and your wife’s stress feels very similar to mine. I’ve noticed some small, but real improvements as I improve. Lead with your actions. Instead of saying to my wife: “Don’t let the kids get you upset. Don’t let them violate a boundary you set” etc. I tried asking what I see now is a calibrated question (Never Split The Difference)... “What would happen if you disciplined the boy after he disobeys you the first time?” Make sure it’s genuinely inquisitive. Not condesce…
/r/RPChristians03/04/20 09:43 AM
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Listen to your body on the 6-day compound question. My initial gut was to say that’s too much, you’re over training. But you need to know your own body. I’ve found (at nearly 40) I can train two days in a row and then I need a recovery. Gauge how tired you are and make sure you’re getting adequate sleep. Diet has to be razor on point. I assume you’re eating at a deficit and lifting lighter since your 21% BF?
/r/RPChristians03/04/20 09:34 AM
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Replace the “motivation” with “discipline” everywhere it appears in your OYS. Re-read it. You’re welcome. Build habits. Don’t be the treasure hunter who’s looking for the mythical cache of motivation. I’m an echo morph like you. I used to to have the same “gain 40 lbs of muscle by such and such”. Build the body God gave you. Take it one step at at time. Get strong. Get those numbers up, way up. The aesthetics will by a side effect.
/r/RPChristians03/04/20 09:27 AM
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The part about how women seek stress really resonates. I’ve see how my wife calibrates her stress to fit the problem over the years. Now I’m seeing that’s AWALT. This is a good reminder of what to focus on - And trying to achieve the combination to a stress free wife or robotic, obedient kids is not where that focus needs to be.
/r/RPChristians03/04/20 09:15 AM
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All you’ve shared is that she said she need to take a break from Christianity. Not a lot of info. On its face, one could say she’s looking to branch swing. But, she could have been s__t testing you to see what you’re made of. More important than her words - what have her actions told you since then?
/r/RPChristians03/04/20 09:09 AM
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We’d go back to church when things go back to “normal”. But, I’d morph this into a family Bible study on another evening.
/r/RPChristians01/04/20 10:38 PM
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I’ve been holding “home church” on Sunday mornings with my family for two weeks now. Two weeks ago, we worshipped to a few songs played on our smart TV through YouTube. This week, our internet connection was too slow. Instead, we listened to songs on Amazon Music. I put together a short lesson and study that is very kid oriented. But, my wife listens and participates too. I ask questions directly to my 5 year old that’s applicable to his knowledge and then a question to my wife and daughter on t…
/r/RPChristians01/04/20 08:55 PM
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I misunderstood you. I thought you were suggesting I bring up the scripture. My bad. Thanks for the comments.
/r/RPChristians01/04/20 02:26 PM
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While I’m aware and agree with what you’re saying about 1 Cor 7:3-5, putting that in front of her as reason to have sex is a form of negotiating attraction. “Look babe, says right here you need to have sex with me.” At the very best, this would produce duty sex. There’s also the issue of the plank in my own eye. I have areas to work on as well. That being said, with what happened this week, I’m thinking of referring to this passage with her. I had a COVID-19 scare at work. I don’t believe I was …
/r/RPChristians01/04/20 09:34 AM
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So you're strong enough to pick your wife up and carry her to the bedroom too, aren't you? You bet. It’s a ah ha moment when you realize you can OHP and clean more than what your wife weighs. This is good too, as long as you made yourself legitimately busy and weren't just in the other room avoiding her. Always busy. In this case I was lifting.
/r/RPChristians01/04/20 09:24 AM
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There’s some great spiritual advice given so far. Along with what’s been offered, check out Atomic Habits. There are tools to use to build and break habits. Your mission and relationship with Christ are first though. If you break the behavior the foundation isn’t strong, you’ll run to another idol.
/r/askRPC30/03/20 06:18 PM
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Set your alarm and get your rear-end out of bed before her. Chuck’s on the money with a body weight workout. There’s tons of ways you can destroy yourself in 20 minutes with no weight inside a 6’ x 6’ space. See this as what it is - a new challenge and another opportunity to lead. Kill every project, chore and to-do you can around the house.
/r/RPChristians25/03/20 09:22 PM
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OYS # 55 Stats - 6’1”, 38, 186.9 lb [+0.2 lb in 1 week], 15% BF according to Navy Method. Recent PR’s: BP 210 for 1, SQ 290 for 1, OHP 131 for 5, DL 335 for 1 New this week Background - 38, Married for 15 years together 20, two children. Found RP in May 2018 and started OYS on RPC in October 2018. Reading - Completed Crucial Conversations. Started listening to Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss. Social - Nothing. Mission - Glorify God in all that I do by building disciples, stewarding the …
/r/RPChristians25/03/20 09:17 PM
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I don’t see a problem with Christian girls going to the gun club. Good skills to learn and possible opportunities for mentorship. Never saw a gun club with 15+ cute girls, though.
/r/askRPC24/03/20 02:54 PM
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I wasn’t clear in my response - my bad. There’s a lock on the bedroom door. I meant I’m not there yet to initiate mid day when there’s activity in the house. It’s never been something I’ve done before. I’ll lay off initiating for two days. I’ve initiated several times over the past 3 days and all no’s. But, I will keep my foot on the throttle in terms of flirting and kino. When I initiate next time I’ll initiate in the morning or I’ll make a move during the day.
/r/RPChristians23/03/20 09:12 PM
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Wow, how did you do that? I’m not sure how I popped it out. It happened years ago for the first time, now it’s more prone to it. Getting stronger has helped it “stay in”. I have a lumbar extended/stetcher that I lay on. Thanks for the pointer on the bedroom. I never thought of that. We have a TV in there but haven’t watched it in years. I’ll move the family bible reading to the “family” room. Why? Don't you have a lock on your bedroom door? Convicting as I think over my excuses for this. I’m cle…
/r/RPChristians23/03/20 08:43 PM
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Upset at herself or you? Herself. So only 2 initiations in a week? What the average initiations and successes? I bat around 300 average. I’m not initiating enough. I have my foot on the throttle during the day. Kino and flirting is good and response from her is there. But at night, I’m tired and ready to hit the sack and so is she. Two actions from here. One, I’m gonna start initiating in the morning. That historically has been a very, very dry well for years. But I’m gonna start working it. And…
/r/RPChristians21/03/20 04:33 PM
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How are you at home as far as handling this crisis? My wife is anxious. I’m aiming to be a listening and calming force. I’m upbeat and positive. I’m encouraging my wife to structure and schedule her time and the kids time. The kids enjoy telling me what fun stuff they did. I encouraged my wife to get off her phone and she listened. Are you ready to go as far as preparedness? I’m blessed and am in a good position.
/r/RPChristians20/03/20 02:39 PM
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Do you think the second round thing would have been different if you hadn't done this? It was days apart, but I’m thinking it did. Even if it was just the anxiety. Lesson learned. Keep my foot on the gas by flirting, kino and initiating. Wasn't aware you were a time traveler. Do tell. It’s all in getting the flux capacitor calibrated correctly! I should probably read what I right before I hit send. The dynamic is gradually shifting. With the virus, the little bit of competition anxiety/DL4 I was…
/r/RPChristians20/03/20 10:28 AM
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OYS # 54 Stats - 6’1”, 38, 186.7 lb [-0.9 lb in 1 week], 15% BF according to Navy Method. Recent PR’s: BP 210 for 1 New PR This Week, SQ 290 for 1 New PR This Week, OHP 131 for 5, DL 320 for 4 Background - 38, Married for 15 years together 20, two children. Found RP in May 2018 and started OYS on RPC in October 2018. Reading - Continue to listen to Crucial Conversations Social - Interaction is all in work settings now. The business I’m in is essential. Social interactions are farther apart. I’ve…
/r/RPChristians20/03/20 10:24 AM
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OYS # 53 Stats - 6’1”, 38, 187.5 lb [-0.2 lb in 1 week], 15% BF according to Navy Method. Recent PR’s: BP 205 for 1, SQ 285 for 2, OHP 131 for 5, DL 320 for 4 Background - 38, Married for 15 years together 20, two children. Found RP in May 2018 and started OYS on RPC in October 2018. Reading - Continue to listen to Crucial Conversations Social - I traveled for several days by myself on a work trip. I pushed myself out the comfort zone and met a lot of new people. I also built relationships with …
/r/RPChristians11/03/20 04:54 PM
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I don’t consider this gambling as I have studied the subject since I was 16. My world view is everything can be classified by risk and the difference between long term investments & short term investments is only time. Only putting this out there because my step sister thought it was gambling and after explaining my view on this she agreed with me. So much DEER. The rationalizing kind. Been consistently exercising at home. Haven’t had luck signing up for a GYM yet because staff is never there wh…
/r/RPChristians01/03/20 05:19 PM
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I don’t intend to paint a picture of killing it. While I’ve made some inroads - there’s a journey ahead. Choices - it’s a constant battle to know what to spend my time on. Family, business, ministry, personal. In my 20’s I wasted immense amounts of time on video games, television, media content, drinking, porn and general screwing around. It’s not a matter of bad choices versus good choices - it’s now difference shades of good choices. I pray quite frequently for guidance in this. I’m always loo…
/r/RPChristians29/02/20 08:28 PM
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Your back injury and misses on lifting may be colliding with cutting as you start hitting PR’s. Everyone’s different, but I couldn’t keep adding weight to the bar on a cut. Getting lean and getting strong eventually become conflicting goals - at least for me they did. I’m concentrating on one then the other. I believe I’ll drop weight and go to sets of 6 to 8 when I go to cut. Haven’t researched it much yet.
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 08:41 PM
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Your mind is in the right place to be at least a bit wary of her coming home wet and ready.
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 08:32 PM
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I go to play video games in the guest room [sex] Has not been up to par with what it could be Cause and effect, bro. You nixed date night of all things in your budget and replaced it with a regular retreat to the PlayStation. You really make it sound like you don’t enjoy doing anything with your wife other than have sex. I have almost been robotically STFU STFU doesn’t literally mean don’t talk. I’ve been there, too. Just staring like Rain Main. I’ve learned in tough times or when my wife tests …
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 08:24 PM
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OYS # 52 Stats - 6’1”, 38, 187.8 lb [+0.9 lb in 1 week], 18% BF according to Navy Method (a 2% increased since last checking my waist). Recent PR’s: BP 205 for 1, SQ 285 for 2, OHP 131 for 5, DL 320 for 4 Background - 38, Married for 15 years together 20, two children. Found RP in May 2018 and started OYS on RPC in October 2018. Reading - listening to Crucial Conversations Mission - Glorify God in all that I do by building disciples, stewarding the gifts I have been given and setting an example …
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 08:10 PM
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Average calories last week was 2524 TDEE is 3200. I'm not sure why my weight is staying the same TDEE is just a number. Each calculator online you use will give you a different number. It varies greatly on your activity level. I also feel your results depend on the quality (macros) of what you eat - not just the calorie intake. You very well may have to eat less or eat higher quality than what you are now. Your entire relationship report out is what your wife thinks or does to your actions. Not …
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 07:33 PM
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She finally asked me to lunch. Sounds like you couldn’t wait for that to happen. You’re sweating needy all over the place. Stay mission focused and tell her to get back to work. You do a mission, right?
/r/askMRP25/02/20 10:08 AM
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Why do posters say a comment is the best advice? /s The ball busting attitude adjustment you get from others is probably just as or more valuable than the pointers I gave you. You have a lot of work ahead in frame building.
/r/askMRP23/02/20 11:38 AM
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Set up a budget on Mint or EveryDollar. Track for a few months to know where your money is going. Do you have a plan to get out of debt? Create an emergency fund? Save for retirement? There’s more to being the CFO of your castle than telling your wife “no” to purchases. Have a vision and a plan.
/r/askMRP23/02/20 02:42 AM
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Thanks. It’s not a lot of pain. Sometimes a zero to 3 at most. Just concerning because I know the shoulder is an injury prone area and benching is higher risk if for isn’t on point. How’d you hurt your shoulder? Throwing too many small squares?
/r/RPChristians22/02/20 02:59 PM
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Why not just take the deload week early? The 5/3/1 program I’m doing is three weeks per cycle followed by a deload week. I’d be cheating myself out of the heavy days. I’m pushing through. Bulk until you hate yourself, cut until you hate your life That’s a good one. There’s certain times of year that are conducive for cutting for me as well. Sounds like while you're spending more quality time with your family, you've pulled away from your wife. Unless you just didn't write about it or I missed it…
/r/RPChristians22/02/20 01:22 AM
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Join the 1000 lb club before the end of 2020. Have sub 15% body fat. These two conflict if you’re trying to achieve them simultaneously. Get Strong. Get Big. Get Lean. Three different targets with three different prescriptions. Sounds like strength is your primary goal. Mine too. Clean that diet up and you should be able to drop some weight and add weight in the bar. Don’t expect to move into Advanced lifter territory while on a deficit. 1000# club sounds like a nice goal. I might jump on that w…
/r/RPChristians20/02/20 02:26 PM
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We are hoping to pay off a 30/yr in about 7. That’s a really big cushion. Did you consider getting a 15 or 20 year which would get you a better interest rate? Looks like you’re geared up to put a lot extra a month against it. How’s your emergency fund? Do you have 3 to 6 months of living expenses stashed away? More if you’re going to be self-employed.
/r/RPChristians20/02/20 02:17 PM
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OYS # 51 Stats - 6’1”, 38, 186.9 lb [+1.7 lb in 1 week], 16% BF according to Navy Method. Current lifts: BP 205 for 1, SQ 285 for 2, OHP 131 for 5, DL 320 for 4 Background - 38, Married for 15 years together 20, two children. Found RP in May 2018 and started OYS on RPC in October 2018. Reading - listening to Crucial Conversations Affirmation this week - My family and the business don’t need more of me, they need a better me. Mission - a work in progress, no work on the mission statement since la…
/r/RPChristians20/02/20 02:11 PM
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I’m happy for you that you have the green light to look for a job. This has been a long trial and season for you. I think its awesome and a great example that you are so in tune to the Holy Spirit. Enjoy the empty nest!
/r/RPChristians20/02/20 10:21 AM
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I’ve decided to quit porn for good and have not masturbated in days. Great job. Both for the conviction and motivation to make the goal and the discipline to stick with it for the time so far. I really think we’re you’re at in your journey, you’d benefit greatly from reading Atomic Habits. You’re trying to stop bad habits and build good ones. This book will give you a clear tool box to do that. If I could reorder the books I read, I’d place that one at number 3. It’s solid. Quit farting around o…
/r/RPChristians14/02/20 10:36 AM
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Excellent breakdown and advice. Red flags everywhere.
/r/RPChristians13/02/20 05:05 PM
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I slacked hard on OYS for the past month. So I'm back to push the self discipline again, own my stuff, and accomplish some goals. Noticed some frame weakness on my part dropping what I'm doing to listen to wife use me as emotional tampon, etc. I’ve slacked as well. Probably because things are going good in most areas. But, by getting back onto a weekly OYS - I realize I’m taking my foot off the gas in areas. The emotional tampon comment is a tough one I experience as well. How do we strike the l…
/r/RPChristians12/02/20 09:03 PM
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One pattern I am going to try to break over the next month is a pattern you can probably see in my past two OYS. It is baby this and baby that (all she seems to talk about). I want to bring the husband/wife dynamic back at least to the best ability it can come back to and talk about something besides the pregnancy and just enjoy each other's company. Slow you roll, bro. You’re headed into deep waters now that she’s pregnant and you’re trying to run a RP MAP. MRP has tons of examples in OYS of gu…
/r/RPChristians12/02/20 08:53 PM
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OYS # 50 Stats - 6’1”, 38, 185.2 lb [-2.3 lb], 16% BF according to Navy Method. Current lifts: BP 195 for 5, SQ 285 for 2, OHP 131 for 5, DL 320 for 4 Background - 38, Married for 15 years together 20, two children. Found RP in May 2018 and started OYS on RPC in October 2018. Reading - no reading this week. Listen to Order of Man podcasts. Mission - a work in progress, comments welcomed - Glorify God in all that I do by building disciples, stewarding the gifts I have been given and setting an ex…
/r/RPChristians12/02/20 08:31 PM
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If things are organically trending in the right direction, why not continue to build on that progress without verbalizing? This is the direction I should continue heading in. Begging and a display of low value is not where I want to be. It’d be a big step back.
/r/RPChristians12/02/20 07:33 PM
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...do you plan on cutting at some point as well? Short answer is yes. I want to run at least three cycles (12 weeks) of Boring But Big and aim to really add some strength. End of April would be the start of a good 6-8 week window for me to cut. I should be able to drop 10-12 pounds in that period. Have you been to the doctor for a checkup in the last year, just to rule anything else out? Yes. I pointed out both my knees and my shoulders. After checking them out, the conclusion was the same as yo…
/r/RPChristians12/02/20 07:32 PM
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But Red Knighting rarely works because most people, especially those who like smoking blunts, are not going to want to do the work necessary to make any significant change in their own lives. Spot on. “The Matrix is a system, Neo. That system is our enemy. But when you're inside, you look around, what do you see? Businessmen, teachers, lawyers, carpenters. The very minds of the people we are trying to save. But until we do, these people are still a part of that system and that makes them our ene…
/r/RPChristians12/02/20 02:32 AM
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Even after going without porn for a month I still felt awful and ended up blaming God for my misery The main reason I end up doing it is because I can't sleep. Having to ensure so many late hours of burning temptation gets to be too much. Spoken like an addict. Until you start seeing what is being robbed from you by masturbating to porn, your progress will be stifled. Job difficulties, depression, lack of motivation, insomnia - all likely are results of your addition which you then masturbate to…
/r/RPChristians08/02/20 05:03 PM
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You need a mission. A drive. A reason for your feet to hit the floor in the morning. Find something - it doesn’t have to be big at first. It can be - and I’ll strongly suggest - to stop masturbating to porn. Others could be: to develop social skills by watching videos on the subject and going outside to try it. learn a manual trade through online videos or a few books and complete a project around your parents house. Maybe the old back room needs new drywall and you learn that. I’ll come back to…
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 07:32 PM
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Down 46 lbs not including muscle gain. Awesome work. To Join the 1000 lb club before the end of May. Not to be naysayer, but that’s a helluva goal for just a few weeks out. You’re in this for the long haul - to lift into your 60’s. Be careful not to sprint and injure yourself. What’s with all the supplements? Maybe, maybe creatine. My opinion is all that money would be better spent on burger, chicken and salmon. Holding frame and mainting OI have been my friends I hate the term “holding frame”. …
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 07:22 PM
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Let me say that homeschooling can go very wrong. Lazy parents can park a kid in front of a computer and call it school. This will stunt your kids socially. OP will need to be intentional about engaging his kids in their education. Spot on. Cyber school or distant learning options can turn into this.
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 07:10 PM
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I’m appalled at my interactions with some recent high school graduates. They talk to you like they text. Some of them are petrified of talking on the phone. I think the social interaction narrative is getting flipped. Sure, kids at public school get socialized - on bullying, on UnderArmor, on Facebook.
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 07:07 PM
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Thanks for the article link. I’m sure they will be subjects or interests we’ll have to go outside the home to satisfy. Music for one. My daughter is very interested and gifted with music. I’m not sure I’ll ever say “I’ve prayed enough” about something. This is something, we’ve both prayed about. And thanks to OZ - got into the Word about as well.
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 07:04 PM
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I’ve heard it said - “Home school doesn’t make socially awkward kids. Socially awkward parents make socially awkward kids.”
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 06:54 PM
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If all this sounds like a lot of work, it is. I done about 5% of what you’ve listed above during my kid’s short public school career and can see its serious time. When my daughter was floundering in math, I went in personally and by myself to meet with the teacher. As I walked down the hall, it was as if I was a sheriff in a Wild West town. The women teachers all watched me with their heads on swivels and my visit was the talk of the school for the day. A mentor who’s wife is in education later …
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 06:53 PM
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I really felt like I was missing something in this entire decision making process, even though we both prayed about it. And here it was. The Word. I didn’t dig into God Word to see what He says about instruction. Thanks for putting that together and I agree with your comment on Luke 6:40. People wonder why their kids don’t act like them or have their values after going through 12 years of public education and a 4 year degree at Liberal U. There it is. We’re full steam ahead.
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 06:46 PM
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Awesome stuff. My wife has done a ton of research on curriculum and has zeroed in on what we’ll use. Letting them come along side you and learn as you “do life” is so important. I’m looking forward to my kids participating in the business as well.
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 06:40 PM
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You got to get out of the house. A gym at home as many pros but it has some real draw backs as well. You’re experiencing one. Find something to do outside the home on a regular basis. Maybe its building or participating a ministry, networking with friends or taking up a hobby. If you do hobby - its got to be something that adds value to you (e-sports doesn’t count). That’s why I think BJJ is such a good one and referenced a ton on MRP. It makes you a better man and like Jocko says - “its a model…
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 06:37 PM
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OYS # 49 - 1 year, 3 month OYS Stats - 6’1”, 38, 187.5 lb [+3.5 lb in 1 month], 16% BF according to Navy Method. Current lifts: BP 195 for 5, SQ 285 for 2, OHP 131 for 5, DL 320 for 4 Background - 38, Married for 15 years together 20, two children. Found RP in May 2018 and started OYS on RPC in October 2018. Reading - Deep's book for a second time. Read Jim Wendell’s 5/3/1. Ministry - 7/10 My peer level men’s group seems to have disbanded as everyone is busy. I see this ministry as a success as …
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 06:17 PM
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Several of your points resonate with my reasons for wanting to home school. Out of the "eight" hours you spend there, you probably get two actual hours of instruction. Efficiency of time is a big one. I think of ton of my kids time is wasted. ”But school is more than education, it's about socialization!" By far the number one attack on homeschool. Which says something. And I agree - socialization is important. But, like you commented the socialization kids get today is not positive. We parents c…
/r/RPChristians04/02/20 10:18 PM
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The new opportunity from the CEO sounds just as rosy as your current opportunity sounded from the VP. Grass is always greener. How old are you? There’s a lot of urgency in your words. 1 week is really short to pull the plug. You barely know where the bathroom is. Easy for me to say, but I’d give it a few months - probably 6. If I was that CEO and I could pull you from a company after one week, I’d question your loyalty to my company when you’re here. Telling him to stay in touch and that you fee…
/r/RPChristians01/02/20 10:05 PM
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Too many guys think “holding frame” means not flipping their lid.
/r/askMRP31/01/20 12:08 AM
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Much the same thing happened to me about a year and half ago. I’ve always had a bit of an umbilical hernia - probably from birth. As my lifts got heavy, it grew in size. Went to the doc and was diagnosed. All total, I was out the gym about 9 weeks. 3 until surgery and 6 to recover. Definitely had strength loss and atrophy, but its life. Take care of your body and get back in the saddle. Make sure you get mesh so it won’t happen again. My biggest mistake was I saw it as an opportunity to cut weig…
/r/askMRP26/01/20 10:45 PM
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The difference is frame. Same actions, different mindset. The Alpha devotes time to listen to his wife - because he wants to. He’s in his frame protecting and providing for his woman. The Beta devotes time to listen to his wife - so that he can have sex with her. He’s in her frame trying to find the combination to her panties.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/20 11:29 AM
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How much decision making clout do you have in this situation? This. OP is likely in an advisory/mentor role at best. Lead by example and speak wisdom into the kids life when the opportunity arises.
/r/RPChristians31/12/19 01:32 PM
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6 lbs in one month is too much. That’s 1.4 lbs/week. Also, 25% is way too high to bulk to. That’s obese and probably wouldn’t be good for your health. I’m shooting for 0.4-0.5 lb/week and will bulk until I don’t fit in my jeans or it’s April. Whichever comes first. Good for you tracking your waist. Sounds like a lot of what you gained was fat. Clean up the diet and track food well. Experiment and find a surplus that gets you a controlled gain.
/r/askMRP29/12/19 11:42 AM
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Where do I go from here? Start a barbell strength training program that is a linear progression like Strong Lifts 5x5, Starting Strength or Grey Skull. Start reading at breakneck speed. No More Mr. Nice Guy first. Then When I Say No I Feel Guilty. You’re unattractive and low value. You purpose in life is to please your wife which is exactly what is despicable to a wife. Find a Mission. A drive. A purpose bigger than yourself and your household. Right now - that’s probably getting in great shape …
/r/RPChristians27/12/19 08:27 PM
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OYS # 48 - Month 14 Stats- 6’1”, 38, 184.0 lb [+1.9 lb in 1 month], 15% BF according to Navy Method. Current PR's: BP 188 for 5x5 [+3 lb], SQ 270 for 5 [+4 lb], OHP 130 for 4 [+4 lb], DL 310 for 5 [+4 lb] Background - 38, Married for 15 years together 20, two children. Found RP in May 2018 and started OYS on RPC in October 2018. Reading - Listened to Atomic Habits by James Clear. This was a great read with a lot of useful and practical tactics. Regular listener of Order of Man and Starting Stren…
/r/RPChristians26/12/19 09:20 PM
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Raising and leading your big family in a way that glorifies God is a great calling. I sometimes think what it would have been like to have 4 or 5 kids. Wasn’t God’s plan for me. Maybe you have a covert contract - If we stay at 2 kids, my wife will have sex wit my me. It’s more like you’re afraid. Afraid that another kid will sack all of your work. Become a man of high value. Be the awesome fun dad and husband that has a mission. His family is part of that mission. Other men would give their left…
/r/askRPC24/12/19 10:45 AM
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How young would you start a boy in martial arts like BJJ?
/r/RedPillParenting21/12/19 07:41 PM
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First off - good job on the lifts. You’ve put in a lot of work. It sounds like you have a covert contract hanging around. “If I get hot she’ll want to have sex with me”. Probably the pinnacle number one convert contract we career betas generate when we launch into this journey. Replace that covert contract with a facet of your mission. For me, fitness is a necessity. I see so many 50, 60 and 70 year old men around me that can’t participate fully in their life and be there for their sphere of inf…
/r/askRPC13/12/19 10:30 AM
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I have a lot of disdain for beta males Probably because you’re ashamed and mad that you were that way for so long. Once you start seeing yourself as a leader and an example and not in competition with them, you’re come out of the anger phase. Check out the Order of Man podcast.
/r/RPChristians12/12/19 09:59 AM
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Also, little known fact by most Christians but presently no one is in hell/gehenna because the judgement of God has not occurred yet. I’ve often wondered that as well as heaven. When a believer passes, it’s always said they are in a better place and walking with Christ now. Calling of believers who passed to heaven doesn’t happen until the rapture, correct?
/r/RPChristians07/12/19 11:49 AM
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You’re operating date night on a covert contract for sex. You pretty much spelled that out in your post. Have date night because you want to have fun with her, make memories, learn more about her and because she adds value to your life. Bedtime sounds like you’ve been trying to please her. If you need to be in bed by a certain time make that happen. You may find she follows your lead.
/r/askRPC29/11/19 12:55 PM
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OYS #47 Stats - 6’ 1”, 182.2 lb [+1.4 lb], 15% BF Navy Method, Current PR's: BP 185 for 5, SQ 266 for 7, OHP 126 for 4, DL 306 for 6, Symmetric Strength Score: 67.6 Background - 38, Married for 15 years together 20, two children. Found RP in May 2018 and started OYS on RPC in October 2018. Reading - Re-listening to NMMNG Ministry Met with 3 guys in men's micro-group and discussed husband roles in response to a recent sermon at our church. All three of these guys are showing they have peripheral …
/r/RPChristians27/11/19 07:31 PM
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(BUT, I was 178.2 last night... Bad timing on the weigh in. Still going where I want to go.) Small potatoes here - but, I average all my weigh-ins for the week and that’s the weight I hang my hat on. I used to do what you’re doing now - hang your hat on one weigh-in. It subjects you to much more swing. 14x325 14 is a lot of reps for dead lift. The few times I’ve injured myself lifting, its always been at the higher reps when fatigue sets in and form breaks down. IMO, taking DL that high in reps …
/r/RPChristians27/11/19 07:26 PM
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I have started taking my health seriously and have gone to the gym almost daily this past week Ease into it, bro. Weight training three times a week for a novice is sufficient. You need time to recover. It may seem new and shiny now, but working out every day can lead to burn out and quitting.
/r/RPChristians27/11/19 07:06 PM
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Good field report. But, I still want my meat.
/r/RPChristians26/11/19 01:19 AM
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Then I’m doing a pretty OK job of being mysterious now. I take about half her calls throughout the day because I can’t at the time. Texts often take 5 to 30 minutes to respond to. We seldom have an immediate back and forth text conversation. I guess what I’m after is being unpredictable.
/r/RPChristians24/11/19 11:43 AM
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Favorably. We discussed the appointments each of us had coming up, help she needed and I introduced several social outings I planned. We made some tweaks based on input from the FO. She populated the family calendar (physical in the kitchen) with the info. I had more knowledge of what she needs help with in the next 3-4 week and could plan accordingly. Overall, a good logistics discussion over coffee. Had some light kino in there as well. With my crazy work schedule there’s been days and days of…
/r/RPChristians24/11/19 11:40 AM
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Fogging is one of the coping techniques described in When I Say No I Feel Guilty, not NMMNG.
/r/askRPC24/11/19 11:14 AM
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My 9 year old son has been utterly out of control lately. I am working to come up with some solutions here; he is physically violent with people and destroying property in malice. Feel for you here. My son is out control a lot as well. I’m coming to view little boys as being similar to puppies. Puppies or young dogs when left to occupy themselves will do just that - they’ll occupy themselves by destroying, chewing and getting into mischief. However - if you play with the puppy, give him purpose …
/r/RPChristians23/11/19 10:50 AM
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Is this something you truly want to do? Yes, I’ve thought about this for a long time - years. Part of my MAP is to be able to protect myself and my family. Getting stronger is one component. Learning skills to protect and defend is another. Why not? Don’t need to. First, I don’t feel I could bring it up with out it coming across as permission seeking. Second is to create mystery. There's a book for that. Lol. That was a tongue-in-cheek remark I made. I started re-listening to NMMNG. Probably sho…
/r/RPChristians23/11/19 10:41 AM
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As you typically do, you see into my situation well. Please read no more mister nice guy again. I’ll do that. You’re ignoring your self care for sleep, fun, and family time. And praying, and Bible reading. maybe you’re overstretched? Definitely am. You need to learn how to sell yourself and ideas. Curious what prompted you to write this. Why should your wife join you at conference? Covert contract for sex if she joins? For once, that’s not what I’m thinking. I thought it would be a fun get-away …
/r/RPChristians22/11/19 09:51 AM
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OYS #46 Stats - 6’ 1”, 180.8 lb [+0.5 lb], 15% BF Navy Method, Current PR's: BP 185 for 5, SQ 266 for 7, OHP 126 for 4, DL 306 for 6, Symmetric Strength Score: 67.6 Background - 38, Married for 15 years together 20, two children. Found RP in May 2018 and started OYS on RPC in October 2018. Reading - Finished The 50th Law. Have multiple Audible credits piled up. Need to pick the next one. Ministry Teaching Sunday School continues to go well. Class size seems to increase each week. I’m getting mor…
/r/RPChristians21/11/19 10:23 AM
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What are you doing to improve your game? You touched on one - eliminating anger/frustration and stress. I've done a lot to decrease that and bring a positive attitude home. I also don't complain hardly at all anymore. I used to come home from work and vent/complain. This would raise the stress level of the house. From a game standpoint, there's light kino. I tease sometimes, but that often irritates. I think I need to be and have more FUN. My life and family is all about work now, and I have to …
/r/RPChristians15/11/19 09:47 PM
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That makes perfect sense. That is my mission for the area of Sex/Relationship. My Life Mission is “To build masculine men of God”. I’m working to bring all areas in line with that Life Mission. Perhaps a better approach is to have one “Mission” like I just articulated above. I’m working to define where I want to go in each growth area and why (ministry, physical/health, business, finance, style/grooming, social, hobbies). Maybe I’ve got too many Missions going on. Just trying to create a vision …
/r/RPChristians14/11/19 11:19 AM
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How do you like the 50 Cent book, does it change significantly from the 48 LOP? (I assume you read that already) I like it and listened to it on the recommendation of a Real Men Real Style video. It’s all about fearlessness. There’s a lot of red pill parallels. Very secular though. I read 48 LOP. Relationship - 3 great/week is not granular enough. That's your ideal, but life is not always ideal, what is your good target, what is your minimal acceptance. Like I said in another comment, I struggle…
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 11:12 PM
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I struggled with putting a goal on this area as well. My actions and habits in this area are working towards something. Perhaps a better way of defining the goal in the sex/relationship area is to improve oneself. To practice game, to kill neediness, to initiate often and in a dominate manner. She may come around, she may not. At least my goal is to improve myself.
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 11:03 PM
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Also you have way too many goals, it’s going to be tough to give your attention and you’ll get discouraged. Are you referring to the weight goals for each lift? If I’d have to pare it down - I’ll shoot for 405 DL. Improvements in the others should come along for the ride. It’s been a year and you’ve seen little results - something is going on. You’re confusing activity with accomplishment. Little results is accurate. I made HUGE gains early on a linear progression in 2017 before posting to OYS. …
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 06:25 PM
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OYS #45 New format for me this week. My OYS has started to turn into a Dear Diary laden with 'she's'. I'll status 'habits & actions' that I feel will get me to my goal in each area. Background - 38, Married for 15 years together 20, two children. Found RP in May 2018 and started OYS on RPC in October 2018. Stats - 6’ 1”, 180.3 lb [+ 0.3 lb]. Current PR’s - DL 300 for 7, SQ 260 for 7 and 195 for 20, BP 180 5 sets of 5, OHP 125 for 5. Reading - The 50th Law by 50 Cent and Robert Green (listening o…
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 04:01 PM
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Is this because you feel she doesn't need the help, or is it because of resentment over your sex life? Definitely resentment and butt-hurt. I’ve killed a large amount of my butt-hurt (need for validation) since starting this. Some is still there.
/r/RPChristians11/11/19 10:41 AM
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OUCH. Man, that's rough brother. If that were me, I would have gotten dressed and left for the night. Anything is better than staying after she said something like that. Where's your self-respect man? I hear ya and agree. Several events in this RP stick out as turning points to me. This event is one of them. I was definitely disappointed in myself afterwards. I thought about not including that in my OYS, but that’s not growth. That’s not owning it. This would have been a PERFECT opportunity to g…
/r/RPChristians06/11/19 11:33 PM
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OYS #44 38, Married 15 years (together 20) with two kids RP in May 2018 OYS started in October 2018 Ministry - 7/10 Teaching Sunday School continues to go well Bi-weekly men's group which is more a micro-group is good. I wish I had more time to prep. We're progressing through the seven spiritual disciplines (I substituted purity for AoS since the later is more a yes/no rather than a discipline to develop. God sends 3-4 consistent guys to me. We cycle through doing stuff, going for breakfast and …
/r/RPChristians06/11/19 08:21 PM
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You didn’t provide any stats or background so I’ll assume you’re young and dating from your profile history. If your goal is to wait until marriage to have sex, you’re likely allowing yourself to be in a tempting situation. It’s as if your watching porn with the sound on mute and arctic mittens on each hand. You’re still gonna get fired up. If your frame is solid - which it sounds like it’s far from it - you can look this temptation in the face and own your erection and the fact that she sees or…
/r/RPChristians30/10/19 01:23 PM
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I’ve said it before, but you and I seem to be at a similar stage in this journey. WOTSM is the #3 RP required read in my opinion. Filter out the new age, spiritual junk and its a gem. You can see the Biblical application in it. I’m listening to it currently and it’s keeping me from going Rambo 3 in my current environment of rejection after rejection.
/r/askRPC22/10/19 03:00 PM
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my suggestion we're going to look at other churches in town that we can both go to together and pick one I think this is an excellent display of leadership here. You evaluated the situation, took in new information and made a decision. Go a step further here and define the requirements you have for a new church and go over that with her. Ask her if she has anything to add or if any of your requirements are a concern to her. I literally set this as a goal every morning this week and then instantl…
/r/RPChristians21/10/19 08:37 AM
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Have you read NMMNG? I didn’t see much in the way of reading on your OYS.
/r/askRPC20/10/19 10:50 PM
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I pointed out... That’s one of the E’s in DEER. You were explaining.
/r/askRPC20/10/19 09:13 PM
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It’s not sustainable - very little sleep. What I didn’t have much of this week was parenting. I didn’t see my son in three days. I walked into the house and he gave me a hug, told me he missed me and asked if we could lift. I didn’t prep at all for men’s group - I had a topic and asked a lot of questions. I found they talked more as a result and hopefully took away more from it. Dominance is one of the many things I have been missing. I put an effort into kino, teasing an AM.
/r/RPChristians17/10/19 12:53 AM
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I don’t like squats either. Never did. In 2009 at McGym I got ego ambition and tried to squat 185. On the third rep I had a sharp pain in my thoracic area. It pretty much ended me on squats for years. I quit lifting shortly after that. Fast forward to 2017. I haven’t discovered the RP yet. I came across Starting Strength and Mark Ripetoe. I start squatting with - the bar - that’s it. Then next time, 5 more pounds, then 5 more. I watched videos like Alan Thrall and Lane Norton to learn form. I vi…
/r/RPChristians16/10/19 07:35 PM
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OYS #43 - Year 2, Week 2 This week I worked 80 hours and ... • Trained 4 times • Set a 9 rep PR for DL with 285 • Set a 7 rep PR for SQ with 260 • Set a 5 x 5 PR for BP of 180 • Ate an average of 3,100 calories a day and 251 g-protein a day • Weighed an average of 178.2 lb at a loss of 0.6 lb compared to last week • Prepped breakfast, lunch and dinner • Listened to WOTSM and read from SGM and Total Money Makeover • Was taught a great skill used to disciple and train people • Prepared for and tau…
/r/RPChristians16/10/19 05:14 PM
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Whether or not you clean the car is irrelevant. What matters is your mindset - the why. Are you cleaning the car because you’re the captain and it needs done? You have a high standard and want your family to be in a clean car. Maybe it sends a message to your FO and she follows the lead to take better care of her car, maybe it doesn’t. You don’t care either way - it needs done and you owned it. Or, are you cleaning the car because you’re hoping to take some work off her plate so she’s not so str…
/r/askMRP12/10/19 07:51 PM
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Home gym here as well with a power rack. Planet Fitness is for exercising, not training.
/r/RPChristians11/10/19 04:30 PM
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​ quit with the punishments Stop keeping score . Convicting and accurate stuff right there. A 2 x 4 to the back of the head. ​ Shift some of that energy and to Game and fun, and it will have 10x results because you’re so deficient now. I’m glad you sort of recognized it at the end of your post but you’re a long way off. My biggest take way from this is the "long road" ahead of applying game, being fun, creating the feelz.
/r/RPChristians10/10/19 05:43 PM
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I wouldn't be surprised if in your head somewhere you're thinking, "Yeah, if you get on board with sex, I'll get back on board with coffee outside in the mornings again." But that's regressive thinking. This is the point of my 108 post I was definitely thinking that. One of the many kick in the pants I got out of your comments. I realize now that's a punishment/rewarding cycle. Pretty convicting. I'll check out the 108. ​ These two statements don't add up. My wife is the same way. If I let her, …
/r/RPChristians10/10/19 05:30 PM
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It's good to share the Vision for your life together, but I would wait. Timing is everything, and this is typically done during a Main Event, which I think you are very close to having A few weeks ago in my OYS, I felt from your comments that a main event wasn't really an RPC-thing. My intent is not to bring this to a FYOFM discussion but rather to change myself and the dynamic. What does a Main Event look like for an RPC?
/r/RPChristians10/10/19 05:16 PM
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Improving. I think something Nice Guys like me have to work on is touching not being used for needy validation seeking but rather to pour out affection and energy as part of game.
/r/RPChristians10/10/19 04:07 PM
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Sex has pretty much always been this way. Yeses usually occur if "stars align" and there's not much kid stress, not much work stress, ample sleep ahead of the initiation and she's feels well. It usually follows 1-3 no's in a row which plainly say I'm looking for sex.
/r/RPChristians10/10/19 04:06 PM
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What’s Mayor Game?
/r/RPChristians09/10/19 05:08 PM
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OYS Year 2 Week 1 Working on a one-year in update and just posted a FR on a comfort test. This will be short. Physical - 9 Killing it. On a bulk diet and training 5/3/1 For Hardgainers. 178.8 lb Gained 1.2 lb this week. That’s a bit too much. Average of 3,275 (+255) cal/day and 247 g-protein/day (+27). My nutrition is too heavy on carbs. I set a carb goal/limit of 200 g/day. My diet will be heavier on fat. One evening this week my 5 year old son asked me if we could work out. "Well heck yea". Go…
/r/RPChristians09/10/19 05:07 PM
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Not all time. It’s about twice a month. I’ll often withdraw initiation for a few days after a few rejections a row. Some of this me getting to a point where I’m not ego invested in getting a yes. I’m getting there.
/r/RPChristians09/10/19 09:53 AM
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Once every two or three days. Hard no’s like “not tonight” or “that ain’t happening”
/r/RPChristians08/10/19 11:31 PM
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It didn't come across in my post, but I agree with the project and feel its necessary. The inciting incident here was me not "yep-yep-OK" rubber stamping it. I wanted to see a cost and then said I'd need a bit to think it over. I intend to go forward, but the important thing here is I'm seeing how it fits into the plan. Thanks for the tip on taking her out. I'll definitely do that.
/r/RPChristians08/10/19 10:02 PM
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Meal prepping definitely facilitates tracking and is a huge enabler to meeting goals. I’ll often have the calories planned for a day the evening before knowing if I have to delete out the two scoops of peanut butter to cut back on fat or figure on a shake when I get home to bump up the calories. Plan ahead. You can’t plan everything, though. So, accepting guesses at what your eating sometimes has to be OK. You should get comfortable at recognizing 3 ounces of french fries or a quarter pound of m…
/r/RPChristians07/10/19 07:49 PM
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What versions are you considering? ESV or NASB When you read, do you read together as a family or do you read separately? My plan was for them to read it on their own. Then I’d conversationally discuss and ask questions at the dinner table.
/r/RPChristians04/10/19 01:58 AM
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80% of your fitness results come from your nutrition. If you’re eating like crap and under eating it’s wasting your time in the gym. What grip did you change to?
/r/RPChristians03/10/19 03:47 PM
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I stuck to my diet well (portion wise) but still only lost a pound so there are some issues somewhere. I was lazy and did not track it with MyFitnessPal so next week I will make this a priority (what gets tracked gets done). How do you know you stuck to a diet if you’re not tracking? BTW - 1-2 lbs per week is a pretty good weight loss rate. Do you have a food scale? That’s very handy to help with tracking. I got balsy and added two more plates to leg press and did 500x8 for my last set. Why aren…
/r/RPChristians02/10/19 09:39 PM
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Doing a 16:8 IF has helped me get from 210 to 190 -- just delay eating until 2-3pm so I can eat at night... but when I workout in the morning I'm starving hungry and convince myself to eat OR I'LL LOSE MY GAINS. Been stuck in the 190 territory for a long while now. Anyone have ideas to conquer this How much meat and vegetables are you eating? I've personally noticed that a protein shake will fly through me and won't satiate my hunger for very long. 12 ounces of steak with steamed potatoes and a …
/r/RPChristians02/10/19 04:52 PM
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OYS #41 38, Married for 15 years with two children. My mission statement came to me this week. Its not fancy or wordy. But, it gets it done... Build masculine men of God Physical - 8 6’ 1”, 13% BF, Estimated 1RM's - SQ 315, DL 360, BP 220, OHP 135 I can do a 5 x 8 of unassisted pull-ups. Soon time to add weight. On cycle 6 of 5/3/1 for Hard Gainers. Average weight this week 177.6 - lost 0.2 lb. Average of 3,020 cal/day (-190) and 220 g protein/day (-17) the past week. Logged every day for the pa…
/r/RPChristians02/10/19 04:40 PM
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Was she strongly attracted to you at the outset, or has she always been lukewarm? Lukewarm for a very long time. But, I have a been a passive beta for my entire life. ​ How much experience did she have prior to marriage? Little. I was her second. ​ How soon after marriage did you start having kids? We waited several years. ​ Does she harbor a lot of resentment over something? This question sparked some reflection. It's possible, yes.
/r/RPChristians02/10/19 04:34 PM
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Are you simply dialing back the attention here? Or are you coming off as an autistic mute? For the majority, I'm dialing back attention. But, yes - at times I was autistic. I really feel like JDRoedell in this post Calibrating Your Time, Attention and Committment
/r/RPChristians02/10/19 11:07 AM
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May I make a suggestion? Try to have some fun with your wife. Been there. Have been doing that for a long time. We have a good relationship - outside of sex. She values my time, my attention, my spearheading the doing of fun stuff. But she doesn't respond in kind with sex. From reading MRP - it's time for DL4. I haven't read much over there or here that says if you got DL1-3 on lock and sex hasn't improved or increased in frequency - increase the emotional connection and invest more time in her.…
/r/RPChristians02/10/19 11:04 AM
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Watch porn/fab every few days to release the pressure You can it as if this is a result or side effect of your attraction dilemma. Perhaps you just stumbled upon the cause.
/r/askMRP01/10/19 03:26 PM
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I’ve been the warm and affectionate beta for years. I’ve invested connection time and built emotional intimacy only to get once or twice a month unenthusiastic duty intercourse. Looking back and remembering the most enthusiastic sessions we’ve had as a couple - it always came after a social event where I asserted and was showing leadership. Or looking way back to when we dated and had wild monkey sex, it was when competition of another woman was a very real threat. Conversely, regular connection…
/r/RPChristians01/10/19 12:46 PM
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Update your post with stats.
/r/RPChristians30/09/19 10:27 AM
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God didn’t give Adam a motivational pep-talk. He made Adam work hard to grow his his food and gave him an expiration date after casting him out of a literal utopian paradise as punishment for disobedience. Check it out for yourself ... Genesis 3:17-19.
/r/RPChristians30/09/19 08:27 AM
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You’re adding to scripture - which God commands us not to do. If I wasn’t familiar with the Bible, the back of your book would tell me that God created women to be harpy and resentful gofers and told Adam to just deal with it. God then multiplied Adams pain by cursing him with children. Every word of God proves true; he is a shield to those who take refuge in him. Do not add to his words, lest he rebuke you and you be found a liar. Proverbs 30:5-6 Instead of adding to scripture - work on adding …
/r/RPChristians29/09/19 09:26 AM
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That’s a key post from jacktenofhearts. I think the pitfall I’m in right now is The hamster becomes aware its in a maze and gets pissed off. On the phone yesterday, she was irritated and wondering if the plans we made a day ago for me to watch the children in the evening were still on - because “I chose to not talk to her at today.” “Yea, I guess you’re right.” She asked what I was doing planning on doing with the kids. It was a legitimate concern and request for information and I fielded it as …
/r/RPChristians28/09/19 09:20 AM
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A piece of cake doesn’t have to be a cheat it if you’re dialed in a can make room for it in your calories for the day. That’s why I often like to leave a big chunk of calories for dinner. Much easier to make a shake before bed to match what’s needed yet for the day. Eventually, it will get easier and easier to say no to distractions like. You focus on the long term goal will become laser-like. How’s the quality of the food you’re eating and the macro split? CICO matters, yes. But, so does the ma…
/r/RPChristians27/09/19 09:02 AM
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OYS #40 38, Married for 15 years with two children. Physical - 9 6’ 1”, 13% BF Average weight this week 177.8 (+0.4 lb) Average of 3,210 cal/day and 237 g protein/day the past week. Logged every day for the past three weeks. Doing a recovery this week. I'm appreciative of the advice I got on AskRPC. I've noticed something for weeks now and it can't be a coincidence. People touch me more. Slaps on the shoulder. Pat on the back. A woman I haven’t seen in months hugged me. Mental - 7 I feel my DNGA…
/r/RPChristians26/09/19 01:22 AM
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Well you can do that. However, what are you gonna do if she calls your bluff? Because it is a bluff, isn't it? You aren't gonna divorce her, are you? She knows this, right? Maybe you will, but I don't see that in you. Which means it's gonna take longer, like it or not. And if you've been together 20 years, you're only halfway there brother. Stay the course and don't abandon ship. That's the reason I hold back from a main event - divorce isn't the end game here. Thanks for giving me needed perspe…
/r/RPChristians26/09/19 12:43 AM
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MAN, I'm jealous of your calorie intake. As a guy who has struggled with his weight all of my life, this is awesome that you're maintaining this level and keeping your body fat down as well. I'm a hard-gainer. But, I also think there's something to be said for the quality of the calories eaten. I believe if I ate 3,000 calories of Oreos, pizza and McDonald's I'd gain weight big time. ​ And if she's the more fiscally conservative one, she may have good input here that you would be wise to conside…
/r/RPChristians25/09/19 12:39 AM
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All the content I consume - and its minimal is secular. Glad to see some Christian content suggested here. I’ll have to check that stuff out. Coach Red Pill (outstanding production quality) Jocko Podcast Starting Strength Radio Rian Stone I often start to listen to a Rollo program but end up leaving because it feels like I’m sitting in a lecture hall. A blog that I haven’t visited for a while is maxpanzer.com. This dude’s content can get you pumped to make some changes in your life. It sparked m…
/r/RPChristians24/09/19 09:34 AM
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A field report sharing your failure or success with implementing the concepts and practices talked about on this sub.
/r/RPChristians24/09/19 09:17 AM
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Thanks for taking the time to reply. I’ve been using the symmetricstrength.com website that someone over at MRP linked. Seems to be pretty reasonable 1RM estimates.
/r/askRPC23/09/19 01:02 PM
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You’re uncovering an on-going conflict of goals that I have - and probably something other guys have as well. The conflict of strength, hypertrophy and aesthetics/leanness. I’ve settled on a mission of get strong - looking like I’m strong will be by-product. I have an ectomorph frame, so I shouldn’t easily get the looks of a typical power lifter. What I’m doing may not work for a mesomorph. I gravitated towards the 5/3/1 programs with higher volume like Boring But Big and For Hardgainers because…
/r/askRPC23/09/19 12:55 PM
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It’s difficult to even stay erect during these crappy lays PMO much? I tried to disguise my butthurt, told her that was a turn-off and wasn’t feeling it anymore Not only could she tell your butt-hurt, you flat out told her and complained Obviously her actions scream her lack of desire/attraction to me (physically?) From your OYS - 21% BF. Fix that. But how’s your frame? You didn’t address anything mental or regarding frame in your OYS. Doubt your being honest with yourself. From reading your pos…
/r/askRPC22/09/19 08:58 AM
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John 15:18-25 comes to mind.
/r/askRPC22/09/19 12:15 AM
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Low value post
/r/RPChristians21/09/19 03:54 PM
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Sounds like you’re getting a new area of life to OYS at.
/r/askMRP20/09/19 12:39 PM
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Looking forward to that FR. Lifts are improving. What’s your biggest challenge with nutrition?
/r/RPChristians19/09/19 09:15 PM
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I’m in the process of finding more hobbies besides playing video games which I often do when I come home from work now since I don’t feel like watching whatever Netflix show she has on at the time. I need to find better use for my free time or I can see this becoming a low value trait later as she has already low key made comments about it. It’s low value now regardless of what she thinks. And I can almost guarantee she thinks it’s low value. When I look back over the changes I’ve made in the pa…
/r/RPChristians19/09/19 03:58 PM
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Physical - 10 6’ 1”, 13% BF, 177.4 lb Average of 3,240 cal/day (+175) and 228 g protein/day the past week. Logged every day for the past two weeks. Got a new PR in DL 280 for 9 and BP 176 for a 5x5. Average weight this week 177.4 (-0.1 lb) I will increase to 3,400 cal/day and maintain 225 g/day of protein by adding in carbs like sweet potatoes and brown rice. Looking for 1/2 lb/week of weight gain. Mental - 6 Focused on Slow The **** Down (STFD), STFU and Listen. Bible memory verse is James 1:19…
/r/RPChristians18/09/19 11:32 PM
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If you feel you need accountability, confide in a brother. Don’t use your wife for that. Sounds like your wife wants excitement, fun and spontaneity. Provide that.
/r/RPChristians16/09/19 10:36 AM
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Why not get up 30 minutes earlier and hit it first thing in the morning? I get up two hours before her. I could come in to the bedroom as her alarm goes off and crawl in bed with her. I’ve tried that a handful of times in the past year and it was met with heavy, annoyed resistance. Morning sex has been a rarity in our relationship. Middle of the night sex has never happened. If I have a string of days where I get home after she goes to bed and I’ll be getting up before she rises, I could tell he…
/r/RPChristians16/09/19 08:47 AM
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Agree - it shouldn’t be a rarity. Most guys are too weak.
/r/RPChristians14/09/19 08:38 PM
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Legit display of physical strength and strength of frame - all while being fun. Good field report and an inspiration to all the pansies to go hit the squat rack.
/r/RPChristians14/09/19 07:39 PM
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It’s The Total Money Makeover. I realized you asked me about protein shakes a week ago and I never replied. I make it into a smoothie with a half cup of quick oats, half a banana and 3/4 cup of frozen berries. Grind it up with a cup and a half of milk. I use Optimum Nutrition.
/r/RPChristians14/09/19 05:59 PM
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My scapular retraction usually breaks down towards the end of a set. I injured my back several weeks ago due to this. Since recovering, I’ve been doing barbell rows as an accessory exercise to 5/3/1. After reading this post, I’ll add in delt flies as well. Good post.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/19 08:29 AM
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I told her that I knew why her sex drive crashed and that I was working on it. I said that I let myself get lazy and that I haven't been leading our family like I should. I made it clear that the efforts I've been making have been in the interest of leading our family and taking my place as head of the household. The reason I've been more demanding is that I'm taking responsibility for our wellbeing. Do not talk about your “efforts”. I can't say if our conversation we had the night before was th…
/r/RPChristians13/09/19 12:27 AM
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Be a better man than you were yesterday. Tomorrow, be a better man than you are today.
/r/askRPC12/09/19 07:40 PM
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BF% estimated at 23% w/ navy method. Solid. Fitted dress pants and slim cut dress shirts most days. These two statements don’t line up. When I was my fattest at 20% I had no business being in fitted clothing. Bulking at 23% doesn’t make sense either. You can cut and maintain, even build, strength. It’s all in how you eat. Get down to 14 or 15% and watch your confidence, energy and your marriage dynamic change. Sometimes I treat fitness as comfort and vice versa. That sounds familiar. I was there…
/r/RPChristians12/09/19 09:09 AM
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Background - 38, married for 15 years with two children (5 and 10). Found MRP in spring of 2018. Owning my **** since October 2018. Life long beta. Stats - 6’1”, Navy Method BF 13%, 177.5 lb (-0.5 lb), symmetricstrength.com score 65.1 (intermediate), estimated 1 RM's; SQ: 315, DL: 360, BP: 210, OHP: 135. Currently Reading/Listening To - Total Money Make Over (TMMO) and 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (7HOHEP) Ministry - 7 Met with a friend that is part of my men’s group. He stepped up a few …
/r/RPChristians11/09/19 05:00 PM
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I did a 8 week hiatus with the objective of shifting away from my need of validation from sex. It really helped me kill the butt hurt and needy touching and move into kino and game. It’s not for everyone. Definitely do not announce you’re doing a hiatus to your FO.
/r/askRPC10/09/19 02:24 PM
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It only takes a spark to get an conversation going. Try starting conversation with random strangers you encounter in your daily life - not just HB’s. It’ll develop skills. Ask questions and you’ll find people want to talk about themselves. Take a genuine interest in people ... and smile.
/r/askRPC10/09/19 09:18 AM
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Find another doctor. My family doctor is very supportive and encouraging of the lifting and nutrition that I follow.
/r/askRPC09/09/19 09:16 PM
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Too much on my/our plate is the problem. I made an adjustment about 3 weeks ago. We own a young, small business/side hustle together. I had pushed her into a bigger role to quickly about 6 months ago to do too much. I scaled it back scope-wise to where she works a home from the computer just doing AP and AR. It put more on me, but the work is getting done better and more efficiently. It’s at a good fit now for the time she is able to spend. Thanks for reminding me to make it fun. Lack of dread i…
/r/RPChristians08/09/19 08:42 AM
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AM, fogging or broken record. Sometimes NA (negative assertion) if I actually messed up rather than say “sahwee”. I used to do the typical newb reaction of go autistic and literally STFU. My AM was sarcasm and snark for a period of time when I was constantly butt hurt. I turned a corner and am legitimately amused. I don’t live in fear of my wife’s emotions and “wrath” like most BP men do.
/r/RPChristians08/09/19 08:21 AM
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I think you got your second line backwards. Hear ya on game and being fun. What’s your take on how to “fix her feels”?
/r/RPChristians06/09/19 08:25 PM
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OYS #37 Background - 38, married for 15 years with two children (5 and 10). Found MRP in spring of 2018. Owning my **** since October 2018. Life long beta. Stats - 178.0 lb (+1.7 lb), 6' 1", symmetricstrength.com score 65.1 (+0.4) (intermediate), estimated 1 RM's; SQ: 315, DL: 360, BP: 210, OHP: 135. Have Read - NMMNG, RPCC, WISNIFG, Game by Roosh, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, TWOTSM, 12RFL, Models, HTWFAIP, 48LOP, TRM, The Lost Art of Disciple Making, MMSLP, MAP, Book of Pook, SGM, The Subtle A…
/r/RPChristians05/09/19 04:19 PM
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Sorry to hear this, bro. Sounds like you handled yourself well when the step dad did what he did. From your words, I’m taking it that your FO was helping you during a tumultuous time by lining up school. Do your other children attend public or private school? Stay focused on taking care of yourself physically, spiritually and mentally so you can be there to take care of those that depend on you. You didn’t mention much about your daughter and her dealing with this. My thoughts went there immedia…
/r/RPChristians05/09/19 09:57 AM
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Might have to try the Ca, Mg, Zn myself.
/r/RPChristians01/09/19 11:56 PM
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From what I understand (and I’m no expert), once you start TRT, you’re on it for life. Your comments on eating right for three weeks and just starting to lift show an immediate gratification mindset. Your need for numbers on how much you can increase naturally shows analysis paralysis. Take action on improving your lifestyle and understand, like building muscle, it takes time. I raised my T naturally. I know this more from how I feel instead of the number. Although, the number did increase. I im…
/r/RPChristians01/09/19 09:54 AM
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No stats. This should be posted on r/askRPC Your doctor will likely tell you you’re within the normal range - low end, but normal. Why not give it a go for a year and try to raise it naturally? There’s lots of habits you can employ that lend to healthier T production. Get off your ass and do some research. Lift right. Eat right. Start there.
/r/RPChristians01/09/19 12:51 AM
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Compare frame to progressing physically. With physical, you can weigh yourself, measure you waist, track calories, increase weight on the bar and get more reps. Frame progression is qualitative. It’s gray. You reflect and self-evaluate against the frame of the man you were yesterday. What were the motivations for your actions today? Did you speak from a place of wanting approval? Did you pass fitness tests? Or, were they even fitness tests to begin with? — Now, I enjoy it. One word - ravish. I u…
/r/RPChristians30/08/19 12:18 AM
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Ramsey’s Total Money Makeover
/r/RPChristians29/08/19 03:32 PM
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That’s exactly what I suggested to the church leader. I am passionate about the material and said I be willing to teach after the New Year. Plus, it gives me a lot of time to listen to the book in Audible a few times.
/r/RPChristians29/08/19 02:53 PM
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Excellent job on reading the Bible at the dinner table. Lounging around the house is a mindset shift. Tell yourself you’re still at work - you have a job to do even though you’re in your home. That’s not to say you can never relax. But, home shouldn’t be a default to lounging. I’ve been there too and still catch myself from time to time. It’s a simple as “don’t sit down”. If my rear end hits the recliner, I know it’s lights out. At your weight, I’m assuming you want to build strength from the pr…
/r/RPChristians28/08/19 07:26 PM
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How much has DEVI and The Sex God Method helped you in your journey?
/r/RPChristians28/08/19 07:20 PM
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OYS #36 Background - 38, married for 15 years with two children (5 and 10). Found MRP in spring of 2018. Owning my **** since October 2018. Life long beta. Stats - 176.3 lb (+1.3 lb), 6' 1", symmetricstrength.com score 64.7 (intermediate), estimated 1 RM's; SQ: 315, DL: 340, BP: 210, OHP: 135. Have Read - NMMNG, RPCC, WISNIFG, Game by Roosh, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, TWOTSM, 12RFL, Models, HTWFAIP, 48LOP, TRM, The Lost Art of Disciple Making, MMSLP, MAP, Book of Pook, SGM, The Subtle Art of N…
/r/RPChristians28/08/19 06:26 PM
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Welcome. Your mission right now doesn’t have to be some grandiose master plan. From reading your OYS it sounds like your mission is get big and stop PMO. Short term, that’s a good start. Get those two inline and you find more will fall in place. Really consider switching to barbell training and a linear progression program like Starting Strength. Watch some of those videos on YouTube. Rip has a good book. There’s Strong Lift 5 x 5 which is basically a knock off of Rips program. But its a better …
/r/RPChristians16/08/19 10:02 AM
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Wow - you got quite a little handful there. I thought my Bruce Banner/Hulk 5 year old was a challenge. You’re going to be on your toes with him. I keep telling myself (you probably do too) that God gave me this little man to raise, guide and train for a reason, W/r/t your questions - it’s some OI, I’d say it’s mostly “I got other stuff to do”. The evening gets away on us and boom it’s bedtime. We’re both dead tired. The session we had during the day when the kids were away was an eye opener. The…
/r/RPChristians16/08/19 01:43 AM
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OYS #35 Background - 38, married for 15 years with two children (5 and 10). Found MRP in spring of 2018. Owning my **** since October 2018. Life long beta. Stats - 175 lb (+0.0 lb), 6' 1", symmetricstrength.com score 64.7 (intermediate), estimated 1 RM's; SQ: 310, DL: 325, BP: 205, OHP: 135. Have Read - NMMNG, RPCC, WISNIFG, Game by Roosh, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, TWOTSM, 12RFL, Models, HTWFAIP, 48LOP, TRM, The Lost Art of Disciple Making, MMSLP, MAP, Book of Pook, SGM, The Subtle Art of Not…
/r/RPChristians14/08/19 11:54 PM
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A big question that has really been on my mind this week though is what is the most effective way to create True Converts who produce fruit of their own. Bingo I could have said come go the Sunday service with me or something Getting someone into church is too often looked at as the first step. Kind of like “if I get them in the door and they punched their ticket - my job’s done”. In reality, its much farther down the process. Sitting in a pew listening to the pastor from the perspective of a no…
/r/RPChristians14/08/19 11:32 PM
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8 hours isn’t really in the cards if I want to lift and have a quiet time in the morning. That’d mean I’d be in bed at 8:30. Definitely not practical and in my busy times is impossible. It may be burning the candle at both ends but I find a sharp diet and lots of water can buy you some sleep. I was able to extend it to 7 the last few days by getting to bed earlier and sleeping in until 4:30. I was a bit torn on the go to bed early thing. It meant I went to bed and she stayed up because she felt …
/r/RPChristians14/08/19 09:25 PM
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Sweep the floors, organize files, cold call prospects, anything - be busy. If you’re on the clock - get sh*t done. Ask up the chain for more to do. Read on your own time.
/r/RPChristians12/08/19 09:42 PM
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What’s your assurance of salvation? From reading your previous OYS, I’m betting a lot of your stress, anxiety and general lack of direction is due to PMO. NoFAP is a huge goal. Kind of like quitting two packs a day cold turkey. Rather, take it in steps. An example, you may have to tweak durations and breakdown steps further Week one - no porn. If think about your favorite porn vid while masturbating, so be it. Just no screen time. Week two - no thinking about porn when masturbating - I.e. physic…
/r/RPChristians10/08/19 09:22 AM
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Overtly explaining that date night should turn into sex was a display of LV. You’re trying to negotiate attraction. You explained to her that your treating her like a prostitute. Insert dinner and a movie - get sex. You’re evening imploded because it reeked of the strings-attached expectation of getting sex. Try genuinely taking and interest in her and doing something fun. Mission is still bleh Your mission sounds like “have sex with wife”. She can tell that. Chase something bigger than yourself…
/r/RPChristians09/08/19 08:59 PM
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Extreme Ownership by Willink would be good one for you to read.
/r/RPChristians09/08/19 08:44 PM
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Ravish her with no regards to her detached attitude of just laying there. Often times, your enthusiasm and pleasure will pull her into it. Focus on your pleasure - not hers.
/r/RPChristians09/08/19 08:44 PM
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OYS #34 Background - 38, married for 15 years with two children (5 and 10). Found MRP in spring of 2018. Owning my **** since October 2018. Life long beta. Stats - 175.2 lb (-0.4 lb), 6' 1", symmetricstrength.com score 64.7 (intermediate), estimated 1 RM's; SQ: 310, DL: 325, BP: 205, OHP: 135. Have Read - NMMNG, RPCC, WISNIFG, Game by Roosh, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, TWOTSM, 12RFL, Models, HTWFAIP, 48LOP, TRM, The Lost Art of Disciple Making, MMSLP, MAP, Book of Pook, SGM, The Subtle Art of N…
/r/RPChristians09/08/19 08:27 PM
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Responsibilities don’t stress you out and make you a whiney, frameless baby. Rather, you are a whiney, frameless baby that can’t handle the responsibility. Start by fixing that.
/r/askMRP09/08/19 08:18 PM
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Get that squat form nailed down or you’re going to injure yourself. Lane Norton has an excellent how-to on YouTube among others. Going for a completely different degree is going to be a huge expenditure of time and money. You have an engineering degree - learn people skills, how to manage people, business skills like finance and how to sell - you can spring board to just about whatever you desire. It sounds like you’re in the anger phase of RP. Ample quantities of STFU are in order. On the “one …
/r/RPChristians08/08/19 09:22 AM
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The diet reset could be just what you need. I think a big part of fitness success is enjoying what you’re eating. I hear you on the “dropping the ball in other areas” dilemma. You can’t do everything. Be good at a few things instead of crappy at a lot. From reading replies on other people’s OYS, I’d say you’re disciplining a lot more than just one dude via email. It’s awesome to see how OYS has grown,
/r/RPChristians08/08/19 09:01 AM
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OYS #33 Background - 38, married for 15 years with two children (5 and 10). Found MRP in spring of 2018. Owning my **** since October 2018. Life long beta. Stats - 175.6 lb (+1.3 lb), 6' 1", symmetricstrength.com score 64.7 (intermediate), estimated 1 RM's; SQ: 310, DL: 325, BP: 205, OHP: 135. Have Read - NMMNG, RPCC, WISNIFG, Game by Roosh, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, TWOTSM, 12RFL, Models, HTWFAIP, 48LOP, TRM, The Lost Art of Disciple Making, MMSLP, MAP, Book of Pook, SGM, The Subtle Art of N…
/r/RPChristians31/07/19 07:38 PM
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Very convicting. I lead a small men’s group. It’s bothered me for a while - since it’s inception really - that the guys don’t gel. I’ve been doing what “churchianity” says we should. Video, Lesson, Questions, Discussion, Encouraging. My group hasn’t coalesced like I do with guys I work with (struggling towards a mission) or a group of guys I hunt with (again, struggling towards a mission). My wife is part of a ladies small group and they can sit for 4, 5 even 6 hours and just “talk”. Us guys str…
/r/RPChristians30/07/19 12:15 PM
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You’re angry and your getting ready to go Rambo. Your unattractive and low value right now. It’ll blow up in your hands like an M80. Easy does it. Take it in steps. Boil the frog slow.
/r/RPChristians28/07/19 10:08 PM
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Be cautious of physical copies of those books at home. It may start conversations and shit tests that you are not ready to pass. Don’t talk about fight club. Nothing screams fight club more than books that say I’m not gonna be a nice guy anymore, I’m gonna learn how to say no and I want a plan to get more attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 09:20 AM
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OYS #32 Background - 38, married for 15 years with two children (5 and 10) Stats - 174.3 lb (+1.9 lb), 6' 1", estimated 1RM - BS - 295, DL - 320, OHP - 130, BP - 185 Have Read - NMMNG, RPCC, WISNIFG, Game by Roosh, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, TWOTSM, 12RFL, Models, HTWFAIP, 48LOP, TRM, The Lost Art of Disciple Making, MMSLP, MAP, Book of Pook, SGM, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***, The Way of Men Currently Reading - The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint by Casper Setting Goals and Defining the …
/r/RPChristians18/07/19 02:55 PM
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“Proving to a friend” You won’t have many friends very long if you’re concerned with being right and arguing with them. Add How To Win Friends And Influence People to your reading list. Headship was God’s design, by the way. DS’s book explains that about as good as I’ve ever heard it.
/r/RPChristians15/07/19 04:02 PM
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You're scrawny and you are pointed out two weeks in a row that you're eating "fruits and veggies"!! You have the potential for huge noob gains. As a noob, 75-80% of the results you get will be due to what you put in your mouth. But you have to eat. Eat big Feed. Eat feed on real meat. Chicken breast, thighs. Ground turkey. Ground beef. Fish. 1-1/2 to 2 lbs per day. Eat feed on decent carbs like potatoes. Drink whole milk - at least a 1/2 gallon a day. Screw protein powder. Its a supplement. Its …
/r/RPChristians12/07/19 07:27 PM
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Sounds like you’re firing on all cylinders. Especially in your marriage. The work is paying off. What dread level would you say you’re currently at? The dynamic recently changed, right? What do you think caused the shift? You rate diet at an 8, Are you cutting weight and hitting your weight loss goal per week? Be careful of using the smith machine. I’ve heard the forced load path can cause joint injury.
/r/RPChristians10/07/19 08:10 PM
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I told her about how I feel the relationship had been going and how my needs had not been met for several months. Interesting. Is this a mini main event that I read about? I keep considering going overt as well but I end up tromping it down. What do you think made this talk (or the actions leading up to it) a success? Anyone got recommendations on eating well while on a shoe string budget? Chickens are a cheap source of protein these days. Eggs. Cut the breast cost by adding in boneless thighs. …
/r/RPChristians05/07/19 08:20 PM
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I was raised Lutheran. My parents and many friends still “attend”. A few years ago I went to a Father’s Day dinner at the church of my youth my with my father. A room full of men and one of the “women of the church” had to come out of the kitchen to give the canned blessing. The board of that church is probably 75% female. I was floored that a man couldn’t stand up and pray for the men there and the meal. The keynote was all about history. Zero gospel message. I’m part of an Evangelical congrega…
/r/RPChristians05/07/19 07:38 PM
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The ones I have are half pound
/r/RPChristians04/07/19 02:01 PM
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OHP in my experience is hard to move the needle on. I probably only added 15 to 20 lbs to my 1RM since starting. Compare that to adding over 100 lbs to back squat. Micro plates do work though. Buy some 2” washers instead of micro load plates. Way cheaper. This new program with increased volume seems to really wack my shoulders. Worth looking at switching things up as far as sets and reps. 5/3/1 has tons of templates that drive strength if that’s your goal.
/r/RPChristians03/07/19 09:24 PM
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You have an expectation that your wife wakes you up? And that she oils your beard?
/r/RPChristians03/07/19 05:05 PM
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Background - 37, married for 15 years with two children (5 and 10) Stats - 172.4 lb (-1.3 lb), 6' 1", estimated 1RM - BS - 295, DL - 320, OHP - 130, BP - 185 Have Read - NMMNG, RPCC, WISNIFG, Game by Roosh, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, TWOTSM, 12RFL, Models, HTWFAIP, 48LOP, TRM, The Lost Art of Disciple Making, MMSLP, MAP, Book of Pook, SGM, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***, The Way of Men Currently Reading - The Way of the Master (Cameron & Comfort) and listening to Discipines of a Godly Man…
/r/RPChristians03/07/19 05:00 PM
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If she's on her feet, you are too. Solid gold nugget of wisdom right there.
/r/askMRP01/07/19 05:44 PM
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It takes time. Babies instantly imprint with mom. It takes years to solidify the relationship with dad. Be present and spend time. Try rocking the baby. Or standing and gently swinging. Rock your weight from foot to foot. Babies hate sitting still. If there’s formula or pumped milk, feed her. Bottom line - you’ll start building a relationship with her when she’s a tot.
/r/RedPillParenting27/06/19 11:25 AM
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Comfort tests. Comfort tests everywhere.
/r/RPChristians21/06/19 10:13 PM
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See Rule 2 in the sidebar
/r/RPChristians20/06/19 01:16 PM
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As you can see still at 191 due to falling off the wagon. But back on diet of 2000 calories and lifting 4-5 days plus cardio 1-2. Didn't have issue with lifting but the diet was definitely not clean. Nutrition (not diet - diets are temporary and fail) is 80% of your results. If you’re a noob, nutrition is probably a higher percentage. You’re training ALOT. Try redirecting some energy and time towards your nutrition. Meal planning and meal prepping is a gateway to hammering out consistent nutriti…
/r/RPChristians20/06/19 09:57 AM
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Working on it. What does this mean for you in an action sense? This is a huge issue since I'm hammering home to them to be genuine, realistic, and honest. Your most important and effective tool as a parent (and probably a husband) is the example is the example you set; the life you model. she doesn't take criticism well Nobody does - especially wives and parents. HTWFAIP would be a relevant read here. It made a huge difference for me.
/r/RPChristians20/06/19 09:50 AM
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Background - 37, married for 15 years with two children (5 and 10) Stats - 173.7 lb (+0.0 lb), 6' 1", estimated 1RM - BS - 295, DL - 320, OHP - 130, BP - 185 Have Read - NMMNG, RPCC, WISNIFG, Game by Roosh, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, TWOTSM, 12RFL, Models, HTWFAIP, 48LOP, TRM, The Lost Art of Disciple Making, MMSLP, MAP, Book of Pook, SGM, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***, The Way of Men Currently Reading - The Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves - I'm finding I'm disappointed with this book…
/r/RPChristians19/06/19 03:23 PM
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Bull - we’ve all seen short guys that are solid alpha. Conversely, there’s tons of guys that are beta Bob’s and are 6’ 1” plus. We’ve all been dealt a hand. Be the best version of yourself, OP.
/r/RPChristians15/06/19 02:35 PM
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OYS 29 37, married for 15 years with two children (5 and 10), 173.7 lb (+0.2 lb) Spiritual Assurance of Salvation - I'm confident of my salvation. I was raised in the church but feel I accepted Christ as a late teenager. My walk accelerated the past 5 years and has grown yet again since finding RPC. Scripture Memory - STFU and listen to others is a MAP objective in the mental category. I made a scripture memory card for James 1:19 and have been carrying it this week in an effort to memorize this…
/r/RPChristians13/06/19 09:28 PM
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How should a married man communicate his new-found Mission to his wife if his mission was never articulated before? If it was subliminally understood to be something along the lines of make money, be comfortable, save for retirement (I.e., the American dream).
/r/RPChristians13/06/19 10:08 AM
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Perhaps an even bigger dramatic change to the sexual market place, albeit farther out on the horizon, will be the advent of sexbots. Unlike sex worker decriminalization, sexbots are not be heralded by the femine imperative.
/r/RPChristians11/06/19 09:12 AM
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You took MRP and turned it into gasoline for your wife's crazy. This right here.
/r/askMRP10/06/19 01:26 AM
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Your two points are spot on. I’ve begun to see the immense power in allowing silence. Especially in commercial interactions. Ask a question, leave it open ended and allow silence. People aren’t comfortable and will spill. Even after they answer initially, nod and wait. They’ll feel compelled to talk more. Thanks for commenting. Hope all is well with your circumstances. You and the other mods put a lot into this sub. Its appreciated and a valued ministry.
/r/RPChristians09/06/19 10:26 PM
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Excellent point. This is a very good tool to diagnose form problems.
/r/RPChristians07/06/19 12:16 PM
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I struggled with deadlift years ago as well. My lower back would hurt and I’d take the bar over my shins. One key I’d suggest is start very light. Use 3 or 4 plates to block up the bar if you need to. It’s easy to feel like 135 is the lowest you can go because of the 45 bumper plates. You mentioned videos. Mark Rippetoe’s video on the Art of Manliness was hands down the best and pivotal in helping me. Hook grip is another important technique that I added in a few months ago. Perfect your techniq…
/r/RPChristians07/06/19 09:51 AM
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Sounds like you have a good plan.
/r/RPChristians06/06/19 12:23 PM
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Get in there early and roll that dumbbell bench into the power cage. Set the safeties so the bar just touches your chest. Now you can go all out.
/r/RPChristians06/06/19 12:03 PM
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Does your LAFitness have a power cage and a dumbbell bench?
/r/RPChristians06/06/19 08:35 AM
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OYS #28 37, married for 15 years, 173.5 lb (+0.5 lb), 6' 1", Started OYS in October 2018 Marriage My hiatus from initiating sex with my wife went about 9 weeks. During that time, I made healthy and positive strides towards killing my need for sex as validation. I'm not completely there - but I've made a big improvement in my frame. In the past 2 weeks, I've read (listened to) most of Game by Roosh. I can say I'm actively gaming her everyday - and its fun. I tease her and surprise her from time t…
/r/RPChristians05/06/19 09:34 PM
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Your post and reply seethes frustration, resentment and a general attitude of conspiracy against you as a man. It’s this simple - RPC aims to kill it in every area of life to glorify God. You’re mad because you don’t like the rules of the game so you’re gonna take you marbles home and play by yourself. If you allow this mindset to permeate others areas of your life you’ll be a pale shadow of the man you could be.
/r/RPChristians04/06/19 12:20 PM
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Did you actually have a question?
/r/RPChristians03/06/19 04:53 PM
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I’d like to see him restart ROK
/r/RPChristians02/06/19 08:34 AM
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Spot on. It’s clear from OP’s post history that his wife is his mission.
/r/RPChristians02/06/19 12:51 AM
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ILYBINILWY means she’s not attracted to you. You’re not giving her the tingles anymore. She likes the provision you give but her hind brain is demanding a flesh and blood masculine man. What’s your stats? Age, height, weight, estimated body fat? Start by reading the sidebar. The best book to start with is No More Mr. Nice Guy. After reading your post history I can tell that one is gonna hit you over the head with a 2x4. You’re needy and point blank say your wife is your purpose or mission in lif…
/r/RPChristians02/06/19 12:46 AM
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You should post about your experience and start your OYS. Would like to hear what you’ve done that’s worked so well. My theory is this journey moves through the gears faster if you were an alpha before and just fell into beta through years of marriage.
/r/RPChristians18/05/19 09:48 AM
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Make sure it's not a Covert Contract though I’ll get it on the Kindle. Didn’t take much reflection to realize buying a physical copy would have no upside. Just the Dancing Monkey trying to make a comeback. This sounds like Dancing Monkey to me. It should read "I'm working to kill the needy, clingy, old Me because those behaviors were unattractive. I am working on becoming a passionate man, if she notices then great but it's not why I'm doing it." It's a subtle difference but a HUGELY important o…
/r/RPChristians18/05/19 09:43 AM
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Sounds like an Extreme Ownership leading-up-the-ladder opportunity.
/r/askMRP16/05/19 11:01 PM
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Pretty much every industry has a management software/app available. It’ll cost some coin but in the long run you’ll see the ROI. Google Keep is a great note taking app with lists. I use the geo reminder a lot. Set a reminder for the hardware store with a half mile radius. Next time you’re in the area and it’s not on your mind it’ll remind you.
/r/askMRP16/05/19 01:36 PM
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I can sense the anxiety and stress from just reading your writing. Start cutting the nonsense out of your life or handle it Accurate. I’ve definitely been stressed. In the past year I’ve cutout two significant responsibilities/commitments. While that’s helped it wasn’t until I read/listened to Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff that I gained a different viewpoint in the past week. I’m working to internalize it and will listen to it again. What suggestions or other book do you have? You’re lifts are imp…
/r/RPChristians15/05/19 11:06 PM
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OYS #27 Stats 37, married for 15 years, 173 lb (-1.6 lb), 6' 1" Currently Reading Finished Don't Sweat the Small Stuff on Audible. Finished The Lost Art of Disciple Making. Next is Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves. I need to learn game. All the RP books I've read have been on Audible or Kindle for OpSec. I'm thinking to up the DNGAF and buy the paperback of Deep Strength's book. Have Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, 12 Rules for Life, Models, How to Win Friends and Influence People, 48LOP, TRM, Th…
/r/RPChristians15/05/19 03:58 PM
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The key is to learn to not get angry in the first place.
/r/askMRP14/05/19 12:20 AM
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Send me a PM or a chat.
/r/RPChristians11/05/19 09:52 AM
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We make time for what's important to us. Exactly right. Schedule your priorities. Don’t prioritize your schedule. This is good. Are you reading your Bible every day? Everyday. God has something for me in there everyday. Do you find yourself distracted by your phone, or is it more your mind wandering? Both. The intentional 15-20 minutes together a day is distraction free.
/r/RPChristians10/05/19 09:49 PM
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That’s awesome, dude. An inspiration and an example. Love the username. And your mission. Similar to the one I’ve been crafting. Guess I got to get me one them Instagram accounts.
/r/RPChristians10/05/19 09:39 PM
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This is likely your need for validation seeking and not a desire for comrades.
/r/askMRP10/05/19 09:40 AM
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Removal of time and attention is dread level 4. Start at the beginning. You’ve laid out some very detailed plans on how to go Rambo.
/r/RPChristians10/05/19 01:39 AM
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Jesus deadlifted death itself.
/r/RPChristians10/05/19 01:32 AM
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OYS 26. Three weeks since my last. Background/Stats - 37 years old, married 15 years. 2 kids. 6' 1". 171.4 lb. Reading: Lost Art of Disciple Making (reading) and Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for the second time (Audible). Finished 12RFL. Mission: I'm working through updating and expanding my Vision, Mission and MAP for every area of my life. 8 months ago I started this and it has loosely served as a path towards my improvements. I see the importance and power now of having a vision (setting a goa…
/r/RPChristians09/05/19 10:18 AM
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Feel for ya on the hernia. It’s a real positive that they got you scheduled so quickly for surgery. God’s giving you an opportunity to focus on something else for a few weeks. The hernia is how I started journaling.
/r/RPChristians09/05/19 09:33 AM
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I intermittent fast 18/6 everyday and about once a month go 24 hours usually due to schedule that day not permitting lunch. Those days are especially fun. Breaking a 24 hr fast with an 1800 calorie meal is eating. Never fasted for spiritual reasons. I could see myself doing so if the circumstances warranted. I defiantly can say I have more mental sharpness when fasted.
/r/RPChristians07/05/19 08:08 PM
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It appears that even the group think of this small fraction of RPChrisitans doesn't even agree with it You’re over reaching here. Don’t assume everyone agrees when someone posts.
/r/RPChristians06/05/19 08:43 AM
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Your Discovery is that your LTR/plate has to be calmed down and sitting at the table before you DEER?
/r/askMRP04/05/19 09:20 AM
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This is the only iron rule that begins with “under the pain of death...”. Nuff said. That and there is no scripture to support divulging past sexual encounters. To the contrary, one could argue something along the lines of Ephesians 4:29 directs us to do the exact opposite — shut your mouth about yourself and build others up.
/r/RPChristians03/05/19 09:03 AM
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This post should be in a MGTOW sub. Angry. Very bitter. OP - spend half the energy you pour into angry posts like this and redirect it to improve your body, spend more time with the Lord and disciple a young man in your life.
/r/RPChristians02/05/19 11:35 PM
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I’ll second that ban request.
/r/RPChristians02/05/19 11:15 PM
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Stronglifts 5x5 is where a lot of us started. It’s a linear progression novice barbell program. You start squatting the bar and gradually increase weight. When I started I probably could dead lift 200 at most. 2 years later, I’ve plateaued SL5x5 and have 6 months of 5/3/1 done - I pulled 325 for one this morning. It’s simple. It works. Everyday is leg day. PS - watch The Art of Manliness videos featuring Mark Rippetoe where they how to the lifts. Great stuff.
/r/RPChristians27/04/19 11:30 PM
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Yeah this is why I lift at 50-70% of my max most of the time. I'm 49 and the risk of injury goes up as you get older. If you are really wanting to continue increasing then you do you, but I personally don't see a problem just maintaining where you are - your lifts are quite respectable and will produce the results you're after (heresy I know). I recovered very quickly - praise the Lord. Four days later I deadlifted 85% of training load and did a back squat 5x10 at about 40%. Risk of injury as I …
/r/RPChristians23/04/19 09:38 AM
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Realize that your days left here on earth are finite... and it’s ending one minute at a time. Wisdom right there. Momento mori
/r/askMRP21/04/19 03:36 PM
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OYS #25 Stats - 37, Married 15 years, 2 kids. 6' 1" 174.6 (-0.8 lb). Reading The Bible in a year (week 27). Reading The Lost Art of Disciple Making by Eims and listening to Twelve Rules for Life by Peterson. Physical/Lifting 7. 5/3/1 current training loads - BS 310, DL 340, BP 195, OHP 135. I pulled/injured my lower back squatting. I was working on the last set of 5's. Weight was 85% of training load. I'm pretty sure the problem was my weight belt was lose. I've been losing size off my waist and…
/r/RPChristians18/04/19 05:25 PM
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Oftentimes my prayers are self focused and that is something I want to improve on. I searched for stuff on how to pray effectively on RPC and did not find many resources. Could this be a topic that can be expanded on? Prayer by Tim Keller was a pivotal book for me in developing my prayer life. I realize some of views and positions are progressive, but it’s a good resource non-the-less. the mortgage for a house in that range is cheaper by almost 100$ for what I pay in rent. Be aware of the extra …
/r/RPChristians17/04/19 09:45 PM
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Looking forward to it! Will it be available in print?
/r/RPChristians15/04/19 12:01 AM
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OYS #24 Background/Stats - 37, Married 15 years, 2 kids. 6’ 1”, 175.8 lb (+0.2 lb). Career beta. Found MRP in spring of 2018; swallowed TRP in spring of 2018. ​ This is the 6 month anniversary of starting OYS. I felt I'd switch it up this week and take inventory of the progress I've made in just 6 months. I started listening to Jordan Peterson’s 12 Rules for Life this week. This exercise aligns with his rule 4: compare yourself to who you were yesterday. ​ Waist is 2” smaller and I dropped a shi…
/r/RPChristians12/04/19 09:36 AM
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When you look at these two separate statements together, it seems on the surface to say that you don't have time together to develop the intimacy necessary for a fulfilling relationship, and the time you do spend with her is focused on Kino, flirting, and attempts at sex. I don't see things changing much unless you can invest more time in your relationship, especially the non-sexual aspects. Wow. Boom. You hit the nail on the head there. Invest. Time. or at least transition her to be able to man…
/r/RPChristians11/04/19 08:49 AM
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>I wonder, is this really a "health concern" for her, or is it an attraction issue and the health concern is just a cover? Mostly anxiety. I'm sure there's a significant component of attraction issue here. Its been pointed out on here an on MRP numerous times that if a woman wants you, she'll make it happen. ​ >I can't remember if I shared this post with you or not No, you haven't. I'll check it out. ​ >Find a way to pull back on your initiations without removing all of your attention at once. Y…
/r/RPChristians09/04/19 09:30 AM
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No, I don’t. More experience won’t solve shame. It’ll magnify it. PE, ED, crap like that. NMMNG covers how a recovering nice guy has to discuss and own his shame with someone safe. You can even lay it at the foot of the cross in prayer to your Heavenly Father. Haven’t seen much in your comments about getting to work. You gonna get to work or keep farting around and feeling sorry for yourself? Books and bars, bro. Hit ‘em.
/r/RPChristians07/04/19 11:33 PM
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Nice job - especially on being in the Word every day. Also, glad to see you’re meal prepping. That’s a huge enabler to gainz. Are you tracking your calories?
/r/RPChristians07/04/19 10:08 AM
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Welcome and props for putting all that in post. It sounds like your fear of fornication is rooted in shame. And that forces you into a legalistic approach to women. If you have Christ in your heart, if you have given your life to him - you will want to become more like him by not sinning. God forgives you for your past sins. The guilt you feel is the evil one trying to take you out the game, trying to prevent you from being the best man you possibly can be. The man a God designed you to be, to f…
/r/RPChristians07/04/19 10:02 AM
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OYS #23 - Last OYS was 2 weeks ago. 6 month mark is next week. Background/Stats - 37, Married 15 years, 2 kids, 6' 1", 176.4 lb (+0.0 lb). Career beta. Found MRP in spring of 2018, swallowed TRP in June 2018. Have Read - NMMNG, WISNIFG, WOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, Book of Poon, 16 Commandments of Poon, Most of the RPCC, 48LOP, WTFAIP, Models. Currently Reading - Nothing other than the Bible in a year. Physical/Lifting. 9. On Month 5 of 5/3/1 with the Boring But Big template. Current 5/3/1 training l…
/r/RPChristians06/04/19 09:13 AM
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The term “Red Pill on hard mode” has been coined for a bunch of different situations. MRP is considered TRP on hard-mode. u/Red-Curious is on apocalypse mode because Mrs. Red reads his stuff (and he’s killing it on that mode). Owning a business with and working with your wife is RPC on hard mode. For a man that is fully RP’d, identified and following his mission and leading his wife, this can be done. Your wife will take on yet more roles that will compete with and overshadow the role of lover. …
/r/RPChristians23/03/19 11:12 AM
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Sounds like you’re changing the dynamic. Nice leading. Check out Coach Red Pill on YouTube. Some of the only content I consume these days. Caution: rough language. Good move on getting away from the Smith Machine. The forced bar path can cause injury.
/r/RPChristians20/03/19 08:39 PM
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Thanks for the encouragement. Nothing that meets my standards for a field report, though. Lots of “I’ll pray for you” and other little opportunities to say how the Lord is blessing us.
/r/RPChristians20/03/19 05:33 PM
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OYS #22 Background/Stats - 37, Married 15 years, 2 kids. 6’ 1”, 176.4 lb (-2.6 lb). Career beta. Found MRP in spring of 2018; swallowed TRP in June 2018. Have Read - NMMNG, WISNIFG, WOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, Book of Poon, 16 Commandments of Poon, Most of the RPCC, 48LOP, HTWFAIP, Models. Currently Reading - Not much. The book for Sunday School class I'm planning on teaching, the Bible and re-listening to Models. Physical/Lifting: 10. Current 5/3/1 training loads - BS: 300, DL: 330; BP: 190; OHP: 1…
/r/RPChristians20/03/19 03:15 PM
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Awesome, man. Thanks for sharing all that. Definitely helps. That’d be a good post. Nice “two thumb flick” size.
/r/RPChristians17/03/19 01:02 AM
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How’s Sexy Christian? Might check that out. Ever go through 33 The Series by Men’s Fraternity? I’m in volume 5: marriage right now. I’m trying to identify the blue and the red in it. Coach Red Pill on YouTube is turning into one of the only things I take time to watch anymore. That and Jocko. Nice job on the lifts.
/r/RPChristians15/03/19 08:51 AM
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I always cringe when dudes say they’ll just bring up 1 Cor 7 to show their wife they’re supposed to have sex. I even saw that on a “biblical sex and marriage” dvd course. At the very best (which still sucks) it would produce obligatory, duty sex and a bitter attitude. Not raw, natural passion.
/r/RPChristians15/03/19 08:40 AM
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How many red pill books have you read? Have you read all of the RPCC? What are you reading right now? What lifting program are you on? What’s perhaps most alarming is your nonchalant attitude about jerking off to porn. I’m getting the feelz that you don’t recognize that’s a huge problem and needs to be cut out el pronto. Missing the gym all week because your trying to get sex from mommy? Then - update! - I got sex guys, didn’t need to lift! Your post is all she, she, she and her, my wife, her. Y…
/r/RPChristians15/03/19 08:35 AM
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OYS #21 Stats - 37, Married 15 years, 2 kids. 6’ 1”, 179.0 lb (+2.6 lb). Physical/Lifting: 9. Current 5/3/1 training loads - BS: 300, DL: 330; BP: 190; OHP: 132. Doing the Boring But Big accessory template at 50-60% of training load. Had to trim a few workouts due to schedule and shuffle workouts. I'm continually seeing improvements in my physique (definition in my quads, hamstrings are larger than they used to be, size and vascularity in my forearms. My wife started barbell training with me thi…
/r/RPChristians13/03/19 03:36 PM
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48LOP Law 4: Always Say Less Than Necessary HTWFAIP Principle 4: Be a Good Listener Great post, Red.
/r/RPChristians08/03/19 06:54 PM
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You may have messed up? May have? You care too much about her emotions and feels. You run your mouth when you should say little and you go autistic when your butt hurt. You’re passive aggressive. As I read this, I realize you don’t have the basic of basic knowledge. Have you read WISNIFG or NMMNG? I missed the chapter in WISNIFG where it says you put your boot in your wife’s chest. I chased back through your OYS and can’t see that you’ve done much if any reading. Read. Read. Read. Got a long com…
/r/RPChristians08/03/19 10:32 AM
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You got too much time on your hands.
/r/RPChristians04/03/19 09:05 PM
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You have 70 lb to lose before you should be doing body building or worrying about getting ripped. Eat at a deficit. SL5x5. Lose fat. Get stronger.
/r/RPChristians04/03/19 10:37 AM
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Right on. I read a post or a book now that I read 3 months ago and I get something new out of it.
/r/RPChristians03/03/19 07:59 PM
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No dread postpartum. Basic RP disclaimer. You’re using a 10 lb sledge hammer to drive in a carpet tack.
/r/RPChristians03/03/19 01:08 AM
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OYS #20 Background/Stats - 37, Married 15 years, 2 kids. 6’ 1”, 176.4 lb (-0.6 lb) 1,000 Rope Tightens Back in October, I mentioned in an OYS that my wife was saber-rattling about starting to lift. I never pushed it. Sure, I’d like to her to start lifting. But, my plan here as with elsewhere is to lead by example. About 3 weeks ago, she pulled a muscle pretty bad doing a household chore that shouldn’t have been that taxing. During recovery, a conversation we had circled back to lifting and I tol…
/r/RPChristians28/02/19 11:28 AM
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Same here. Helps remove a stumbling block some folks may have.
/r/RPChristians27/02/19 04:46 PM
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Follow Jesus to be safe?
/r/RPChristians27/02/19 02:18 PM
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You could write your testimony and the pastor or an elder could read it to the congregation before you’re baptized. That way you don’t have to speak.
/r/RPChristians27/02/19 09:27 AM
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The only way Prayer is going to improve is if you intentionally work at it developing knowledge of how to pray and the discipline to do it - even when you don’t feel like it. I struggled with a poor prayer life for a long time up until a few months ago. Prayer by Timothy Keller was instrumental in that change for me. It takes commitment and discipline just like lifting. Start by building a habit. For example, commit to praying what your thankful for or confessing your sins just a few minutes eac…
/r/RPChristians25/02/19 10:16 AM
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RNRC, 7200 and NFITS are on point here. Your ex was DTF, dude. Either you’re incredibly obtuse to not see that or you’re rationalizing your guilt away. Should have been home reading, meal prepping and getting sleep for leg day.
/r/RPChristians25/02/19 12:27 AM
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This sub is way overdue on a post about lifting
/r/RPChristians23/02/19 04:56 PM
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I was in the same place as you about 6 months ago. I would go days or sometimes weeks without prayer. Prayer by Timothy Keller was given to me by my accountability partner when I said I wanted to improve my prayer life. Check it out. I’m sure there’s contention here about Keller and some of his views - usually is with mainstream Christian writers. Nevertheless, the book really helped me on my path of sanctification.
/r/RPChristians23/02/19 09:25 AM
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You’re right on not initiating. The need for validation is the toughest thing for me to hammer out in this journey. Eating right - discipline. Lift - discipline. Read - discipline. Watch your tongue - discipline. Get stuff done - discipline. Pray daily - discipline. Read the Word - discipline. Reprogramming the OS? Not so clear of a solution for me. I count progress being that I recognize when I’m seeking validation now. Before, it was subconscious. I’m significantly improved from what I used to…
/r/RPChristians21/02/19 08:47 PM
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You missed a “not” in third bullet of “Here’s What I Would Do”. God speed to ya.
/r/RPChristians21/02/19 08:32 PM
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OYS #19 Life Mission: I will glorify and love God with all my mind, body and spirit by pursuing excellence, virtue and discipline in all that I do to bear fruit for His Kingdom. Background/Stats - 37, Married 15 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 177.0lb (+0.0). Swallowed RP in June 2018. Current 5/3/1 training loads: BP: 181, BS: 291; OHP; 127; DL; 320. Have Read - NMMNG, WISNIFG, WOTSM, SGM, Book of Poon, Models, MMSLP, MAP, RM, RPCC, 48LOP, How to Win Friends and Influence People (HTWFAIP), SAONGAF. Readin…
/r/RPChristians20/02/19 03:18 PM
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Kingdom Man by Tony Evans is the most red pilled Christian book I’ve come across. I read it 4 years ago before being RP’d and it put me on this path. Really cool to read through it now. There’s the occasional blue pill peppered in there. But hey - Glover told us in NMMNG to tell Mommy we were gonna improve and to do some healthy masturbation. No book is perfect. Kingdom Man even refers to “red pill and the Matrix” - in the context of being born again. Still looking forward to RC and DS books. Wi…
/r/RPChristians20/02/19 01:18 AM
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Read your most recent post on r/deadbedroom You are not attractive. You’re trying to negotiate desire. Stop trying to fix her. A woman fills the container you give her. Fix yourself. Change the dynamic.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 09:52 PM
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This feller is blue. “I'm trying to free your mind, Neo. But I can only show you the door. You're the one that has to walk through it”. Read the Rationale Male by Rollo Tomassi
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 12:42 PM
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Smokey and the Bandit, they don’t make ‘em like that anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/19 12:37 PM
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Awesome post. There’s RP lessons all around us. I can’t stand to listen to country music anymore for that reason. Better off listening to a book for the fourth time on Audible.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/19 04:09 PM
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Lots of solid advice here, OP - including your RP’d sister! Break up Pray and read the Bible Find a mission Lift heavy. Rinse. Repeat. Read No More Mr. Nice Guy
/r/RPChristians15/02/19 08:53 PM
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Gym buddy for “accountability” is an excuse. Do you lifts in the power rack. No spotter needed. Get in and get it done.
/r/askMRP15/02/19 05:35 PM
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A good question to ask in your daily prayer time is "God, am I focusing in the right areas of my life right now? Is what I'm working on pleasing to You?" Amen. Seek to be where God is blessing - not asking God to bless what you’re doing. Do you think you're doing better than you were 6 months ago? Resoundingly, yes. 6 months ago ... I weighed 13 lbs more and was weaker than today. I wasn’t reading the Bible but once every week or two. I wasn’t praying much at all. I didn’t have clear, written do…
/r/RPChristians14/02/19 12:13 AM
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Oh man, I've done StrongLifts and Starting Strength before. I end up getting worn out and not progressing. Those are novice linear progression programs meant to be run 6 months max - more like 3 months. Either you’re plateauing or your not eating enough. Based on your post, I’d say your not eating enough and eating good quality macros. If eating is the problem, moving programs won’t solve it. Once you truly plateau after one or two de-load cycles, move on to an intermediate program like 5/3/1 wh…
/r/RPChristians13/02/19 11:22 PM
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OYS #18 #17 #16 37, married 15 years, 2 kids. 5/3/1 training loads bumped up this this week: BS 291, DL 320, BP 181 and OHP 127. 6’1” and 177.0 (-0.6). Withdrew too much time and attention too fast Made several screw ups this week and I’m here to own it. Credit due to u/rocknrollchuck for pointing out my pitfalls. In last week’s OYS, I decided to initiate more this week. I was rejected every time and began withdrawing time and attention in an effort to work DL4. I went to read after rejections. …
/r/RPChristians13/02/19 10:10 PM
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You’re exactly right. Reflecting on this, it’s the Nice Guy in me and fear that kept me from doing what you have spelled out above for quite some time. Giving up what I want to because I’m afraid my wife will be upset. I needed this discourse to see that. I got a lot more fear going on than I thought.
/r/RPChristians08/02/19 07:12 PM
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Have you tried asking her why she insists on this? That's kinda jacked up to be honest. Maybe it's a Fitness test to see if you have the balls to do it anyway. It’s not a fitness test. There’s a ton of fear about getting pregnant and the health complications/ risk that would create for her. Thanks for that on “the Talk” - needed to read that post.
/r/RPChristians08/02/19 06:18 PM
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Get a budget software like Mint or YNAB Getting up in the morning is super hard for me Not if you want it bad enough. Discipline is saying no to what is pleasurable now so you can have what you want in the future.
/r/RPChristians08/02/19 09:33 AM
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OYS #17 OYS #16 Purpose Statement: I will glorify and love God with all my mind, body and spirit by pursuing excellence, virtue and discipline in all that I do to bear fruit for His Kingdom. Background/Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 177.6 lb (+3.8 lb). Career beta, AFC. Found MRP in spring of 2018; swallowed TRP in June 2018. Current 5/3/1 training loads: BP: 176, BS: 281; OHP; 122; DL; 310. Recomposition Mode My consistency with 5/3/1 BBB this week continued. Due to travel, I had t…
/r/RPChristians07/02/19 12:44 PM
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I feel for you on the miscarriage and the anxiety attacks. I really do. Through all of this, you need to be the oak. You’re the immovable anchor that offers covering for her. You’ll listen to and absorb the illogical and hysterical emotions she’ll fire at you. Acknowledge her feelings but DO NOT try to reason with her or do battle with her with your problem solving logic. Tell her “you got this” and that if there’s something to worry about in this family, she gives it to you worry about. Pray wi…
/r/RPChristians31/01/19 04:23 PM
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OYS #16 Purpose Statement: I will glorify and love God with all my mind, body and spirit by pursuing excellence, virtue and discipline in all that I do to bear fruit for His Kingdom. Background/Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 173.8lb (-1.4 lb) and 14.3 (-0.5 BF) (Starting to not trust the BF on the bathroom scale). Career beta, AFC. Found MRP in spring of 2018; swallowed TRP in June 2018. Current 5/3/1 training loads: BP: 176, BS: 281; OHP; 122; DL; 310. Have Read - NMMNG, WISNIFG, W…
/r/RPChristians31/01/19 01:22 PM
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Spot on - put your oxygen mask on BEFORE helping the passenger beside you.
/r/RPChristians31/01/19 02:27 AM
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Thanks for the link. I downloaded Sound Cloud and listened to the first chunk - excellent stuff. Good reminder on not negotiating desire. My intent or drive to kill it at work is not to withdraw and hide. Been there. Done that. It’s to be excellent at everything I do. Be mission-oriented and as a side effect, demonstrate high value.
/r/RPChristians29/01/19 10:50 AM
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Any tips for those who may be struggling with this? Specific things you're doing or not doing? 1 - read the Bible and pray daily. 2 - scripture memory on anger/taming of the tongue. For example - Ecclesiastes 7:9 3 - internalizing several of the 48 Laws of Power. This was one of the most impactful books I read last year. 4 - realizing that getting angry for me is usually because my idol of control or significance is threatened. 5 - being mindful that I can control my emotions and control how I r…
/r/RPChristians27/01/19 12:17 PM
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Motivation burns like a match. Hot and fast. You can get it from a speech or a YouTube video, but it doesn’t translate well to self-improvement. You will only make progress when you take that match of motivation and use it to light the 'Log of Discipline.' That’s wisdom right there.
/r/RPChristians26/01/19 09:41 AM
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What is she doing to increase the attention she wants from you?? Reasonable assertion. However, I’m leaning into from the angle that I haven’t owned it with the first officer recently. Probably a text book Rambo case of going mute and withdrawing into work. Also, you need to lead her in resolving this this, not be her girlfriend and cry about it with her. Check out my OYS this week. I’m working it. What would be your suggestion on how to lead her in resolving this?
/r/RPChristians25/01/19 09:12 PM
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Thank you for your kind words. Striving to be like Christ - that’s what it’s all about.
/r/RPChristians25/01/19 10:27 AM
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OYS #15 Life Mission: I will glorify and love God with all my mind, body and spirit by pursuing excellence, virtue and discipline in all that I do to bear fruit for His Kingdom. Background/Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 175.2 lb (-0.6 lb) and 14.7 (+0.0 BF). Career beta, AFC. Found MRP in spring of 2018; swallowed TRP in June 2018. Current 5/3/1 training loads: BP: 176, BS: 281; OHP; 122; DL; 310. Have Read - NMMNG, WISNIFG, WOTSM, SGM, Book of Poon, Models, MMSLP, MAP, RM, RPCC, 48…
/r/RPChristians25/01/19 09:45 AM
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Sounds like you have a lot of irons in the fire - several need-to-starts and need-to-dos. It can be overwhelming with how many areas of your life you realize you need to improve. You’re working on one and 7 others have your mind occupied. Pick one or two things and develop it as a habit over the next two weeks. My suggestion would be ... Lift - get in the gym 3 times a week. Find a schedule and pattern that works for you. Read the Bible first thing in the morning, every morning. Get consistent a…
/r/RPChristians21/01/19 09:44 AM
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Keep in mind, food is energy. If you're still aiming to drop BF, this will contribute to the difficulty in raising your lift numbers. A longer rest period will help some, but there's a limit to what your body can handle without additional food so keep that in mind when looking at increasing the weight on the bar. At some point you will likely have to pick one or the other. Makes sense. My goal here is functional aesthetics, lean and muscular. After 2 full months on 5/3/1, I’m pleased with the re…
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 06:22 PM
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OYS #14 Life Mission: I will glorify and love God with all my mind, body and spirit by pursuing excellence, virtue and discipline in all that I do to bear fruit for His Kingdom. Background/Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 175.8 lb (-0.8 lb) and 14.7 (-0.3 % BF). Career beta, AFC. Found MRP in spring of 2018; swallowed TRP in June 2018. Current 5/3/1 training loads: BP: 176, BS: 281; OHP; 125; DL; 310. Have Read - NMMNG, WISNIFG, WOTSM, SGM, Book of Poon, Models, MMSLP, MAP, RM, RPCC, …
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 10:37 AM
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What did you think of them? Convicted. I watched “The Firefighter” and “Hell’s Best Kept Secret”. I always felt that the “say-this-prayer-and-you’ll-be-saved” approach wasn’t biblical or effective. After watching “Hell’s Best Kept Secret” it makes more sense to me now. The parachute story illustrates the two methods of evangelism very well, too. This is awesome, very specific and well thought out! What efforts have you made in this area? Or are you in the process of developing a vision here? I’m…
/r/RPChristians16/01/19 09:39 AM
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Remove “sorry” from your vocabulary. If the word comes out of your mouth, an alarm should go off in your mind. A Godly man owns it. Use these techniques, some couple together... acknowledge your actions - You messed up at work: Boss, I made a significant mistake on the numbers for the Johnson account. acknowledge their emotions - You said something hurtful to your wife: ”what I said to you this morning was hurtful to you, I can see that now.” thank the person - You’re late to a meeting: ”Thanks …
/r/RPChristians14/01/19 09:38 AM
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Glad to see your first OYS posted. Welcome, brother. Lacking self control and making really bad choices Discipline is saying no to what you want right now so you can get what you want in the future. I've been lifting for four years, very consistently, but I got into an accident and also screwed my lower back twice on the last year due to my pride. Here’s some pointers. I have a bad back as well. To paraphrase Mark Rippetoe - bad backs happen; its due to us being bipeds. You can chose to have a w…
/r/RPChristians11/01/19 12:31 PM
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Good stuff. Thanks for putting this out.
/r/RPChristians10/01/19 10:54 AM
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OYS #13 Life Mission: I will glorify and love God with all my mind, body and spirit by pursuing excellence, virtue and discipline in all that I do to bear fruit for His Kingdom. Background/Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 176.6 lb (-0.6 lb) and 15.0 (-0.2 % BF). Career beta, AFC. Found MRP in spring of 2018; swallowed TRP in June 2018. Current 5/3/1 training loads: BP: 171, BS: 271; OHP; 120; DL; 300. Have Read - NMMNG, WISNIFG, WOTSM, SGM, Book of Poon, Models, MMSLP, MAP, RM, RPCC, …
/r/RPChristians10/01/19 10:52 AM
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What are the 5 Pillars of an Alpha Male?
/r/RPChristians09/01/19 09:50 AM
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Read your post last evening before it was deleted. You’re in the right sub now. I’m praying for you.
/r/RPChristians06/01/19 10:08 AM
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Great point. I’m oft reminded of how Tony Evans in Kingdom Man makes the point of how most (maybe even all) of the problems in this world can be traced back to a man not taking responsibility, not leading courageously in the sphere he’s been placed. To parallel your point from Timothy - I read this morning in Mark 5 about the demon possessed man who was restored. It struck me and I realized that Jesus didn’t take him along on the boat because he was calling him to spread the good news where he i…
/r/RPChristians05/01/19 10:44 AM
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I’ll start with the Lost of Art of Discipleship. You’ve mentioned that one a number of times that I’ve seen on this sub. Another guy and I who lead our men’s group/tribe are putting together our own curriculum for monthly study meet ups with our group. We’re going to start with mission and then progress into the spiritual disciplines. I’m also looking to refine and continue zeroing in on my life mission and how all areas of my life feed into that.
/r/RPChristians05/01/19 10:36 AM
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Sounds like a relaxing, productive and enjoyable New Years. Nice job on staying disciplined with nutrition. I’ll pray for your job search. Companies should start working on hiring now that New Years is over. Edit - moved comment
/r/RPChristians02/01/19 04:13 PM
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OYS #12 Life Mission: I will glorify and love God with all my mind, body and spirit by pursuing excellence, virtue and discipline in all that I do to bear fruit for His Kingdom. Background/Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 177.2 lb (+2.8 lb) and 15.2% (+0.6% BF). Career beta, AFC. Found MRP in spring of 2018; swallowed TRP in June 2018. 1 RM’s - OHP 130, DL 305. Estimated 1 RM’s - BS 275, BP 175 Have Read - NMMNG, WISNIFG, WOTSM, SGM, Book of Poon, Models, MMSLP, MAP, RM, RPCC, 48LOP, …
/r/RPChristians02/01/19 03:55 PM
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Very few parents are humble enough to accept corrective advice (even Biblical) from their children. That is wisdom right there.
/r/RPChristians31/12/18 10:15 AM
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I see that now. Thanks for the clarification.
/r/RPChristians27/12/18 11:47 PM
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Still waiting for OP to follow sub guidelines and post his stats, lifts, and reads with his questions.
/r/RPChristians27/12/18 11:32 PM
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Great quote right there. Jocko’s Extreme Ownership and Simon Sinkek’s Leaders Eat Last are good books with servant leadership themes. OP is confusing being passive with being humble.
/r/RPChristians27/12/18 11:30 PM
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First question - you don’t. “Kids” shouldn’t be on YouTube in my humble opinion. That’s akin to leaving a loaded weapon laying around and hoping the kids just know how to handle it safely. There is a YouTube Kids. Not at all familiar with it other than seeing it on the App Store. “Kids” for the purpose of my answer are 12 and under. Second question - Again, if we’re talking children 12 and under there’s no need for one to have a mobile device. This would be an opportunity to lead both your wife …
/r/RPChristians26/12/18 09:34 PM
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My house unplugged from satellite TV service about 3 years ago and I’ll never go back. The removal of constant bombardment of commercialization was worth it. My wife and I have control over what the kids see. We have DVD’s and use the Prime videos. The 9 year old loves old shows like Little House on the Prairie and Anne of Green Gables. My kids are 9 and 4 and they don’t have tablets or phones yet. The tablets will probably happen soon. But, they will have to earn the tablet and earn the privile…
/r/RPChristians26/12/18 12:02 PM
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Looking forward to that for sure. Will this be a book that you would classify as “don’t talk about fight club” or can it be given to guys or used to guide discussion?
/r/RPChristians25/12/18 11:34 AM
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While you wait for u/Deep_Strength and u/Red-Curious to finish up their books, check out Kingdom Man by Tony Evans. It’s not overtly Red Pilled, but it is a solid read. When a kingdom man steps out of his door each day, heaven, earth and hell take notice. When he protects the woman under his care, she can do little to resist him. His children look to him with confidence, Other men look to him as someone to emulate. Red Pill Truth - Woman want a guy that other men want to be and other women want …
/r/RPChristians25/12/18 11:32 AM
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Your parents don’t fitness test you. They’re trying to form you into a responsible and fully-functional adult. Obeying your parents isn’t “beta”. It’s the right thing to do and it’s biblical. You don’t have a red pill problem. You have an entitled, spoiled brat problem. You were in a coffee shop with your parents. Did they pay for the drinks? By the looks of your grammar and syntax you typed your post on a mobile device. Did you pay for the device and it’s monthly service? The threads you’re wea…
/r/RPChristians21/12/18 07:17 PM
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Guy or girl? Retired gentlemen that I haven’t seen in awhile and my aunt whom I also haven’t seen in a few months. Upon further review of my comments here, feeling good about others noticing is my need for validation resurfacing. What's going on here? This doesn't seem in line with the rest of your goals. You’re right - not inline at all. I’ll expand on what I’m seeing. I’ve been focusing on being the OAK and being fun. The sarcastic Rambo masking anger from a few weeks ago isn’t too far in the …
/r/RPChristians20/12/18 08:36 PM
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OYS #11 Life Mission: I will glorify and love God with all my mind, body and spirit by pursuing excellence, virtue and discipline in all that I do to bear fruit for His Kingdom. Background/Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 174.4 lb (-0.0 lb) and 14.6% (-0.0% BF). Career beta, AFC. Found MRP this spring and RPC in summer. 1 RM’s - OHP 130, DL 305. Estimated 1 RM’s - BS 275, BP 175 Have Read - NMMNG, WISNIFG, WOTSM, SGM, Book of Poon, Models, MMSLP, MAP, RM, RPCC, 48LOP, Bible minus mino…
/r/RPChristians19/12/18 03:51 PM
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Well that escalated quickly.
/r/RPChristians16/12/18 10:07 PM
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That should be a pinned post on this sub.
/r/RPChristians16/12/18 09:59 PM
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Do you meal prep? Quite possibly, the most important piece of fitness equipment I’ve bought during this journey has been 12 meal prep containers. Power rack was kinda of important, too. Can’t forget that one.
/r/RPChristians16/12/18 11:01 AM
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“Gentlemen, this is a football.” Vince Lombardi Solid post, Red.
/r/RPChristians16/12/18 10:44 AM
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Every man needs to be comfortable in solitude with God. An accurate statement. When I was weighing a nearly impossible decision, my father told me something to the affect of “people can tell you what to do or give you advice, but at the end of it all, it comes down to you and God.” Don’t misinterpret what I’m saying though. There is immense value in a Godly man having a healthy relationship with other men. Today’s culture has worked to isolate men. Men have buddies - guys they can drink with, wa…
/r/RPChristians16/12/18 10:31 AM
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6'2 190, 6% body fat Excellent job on the physique. Did you transform yourself or was this a gradual journey from your teens? Succeeding in attaining my goals brings me far more positive emotion than women or money. Bingo. You’re operating at a higher plane now than 99% of other males. Boys crave pleasure and comfort. Men crave accomplishment and take joy in the journey.
/r/RPChristians15/12/18 08:57 PM
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We need an environment rich in empathy and non-judgment. Guys need to find a safe group. Amen. There are far too many lone wolves running around. Thank you for the effort and passion you’re putting into your posts, Joe. It’s an inspiration and a model for me to know that another man is out there helping men pursue biblical masculinity and doing something to impact the direction of our world, Would you consider sharing your RP journey at some point? Relationship and sex improvements you’ve seen. …
/r/RPChristians15/12/18 08:34 PM
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I understand the reasons and evidence pertaining to gender or even feminist leans with the NIV. This (and several user had before it) is a low value, no stats, DYELB, comment-baiting post and should be deleted by the mods on sight to keep up the quality of the sub. Quit defecating up the sub. Edit —- u/from_spain made an excellent revision to the post. Let’s keep this sub high quality, boys!
/r/RPChristians15/12/18 09:16 AM
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Can you expand on the internal filters idea? Being mindful of what comes out of my mouth. I started by reflecting on conversations after the fact. My efforts improve to a red flag going up in my head immediately when I let a curse fly or engage in gossip. I’m getting to the point where I’m getting better at thinking before I talk. Weighing my words and listening more. Can you give some pointers here for how you killed the butt hurt? Expect that you’re gonna get turned down. This creates outcome …
/r/RPChristians14/12/18 05:41 PM
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Why not take the lead here? Challenge accepted. Today was the first. She seemed surprised, appreciative and a bit suspicious of my efforts. I’ll work on building this into a habit. Fits well into my Marriage MAP. Thanks for the push.
/r/RPChristians14/12/18 05:24 PM
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Mods - delete this trolling.
/r/RPChristians14/12/18 11:20 AM
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I kept it cool and didn’t respond physically Wait - what? What are you waiting for? A certified letter saying she’s interested in you and that she wants to kiss? You isolated her and refused to escalate so she escalated. She clearly created some artificial reason to get physically close to you. And you “kept it cool and didnt touch her”. Come on. You not even touching her sent her the message that you’re not interested, there’s something wrong with her, etc. Very likely why she refused your adva…
/r/RPChristians14/12/18 09:44 AM
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I had no idea there were others like me Much what felt when I found this sub. Glad you’re here. Consider starting a weekly OYS. Stats - DYEL?
/r/RPChristians14/12/18 01:15 AM
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Get back in your own frame where you were before this leader made a suggestion and you second guessed yourself. You know the right answer. You didn’t need to ask it here. Good job on losing 40 lb
/r/RPChristians14/12/18 01:10 AM
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drink coffee with my wife for 15 minutes That’s important that you’re able to/make time for this everyday. My wife gets up around the time I’m headed out the door. We go days without “us” time and it wears on her.
/r/RPChristians13/12/18 10:42 AM
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OYS #10 Life Mission: I will glorify and love God with all my mind, body and spirit by pursuing excellence, virtue and discipline in all that I do to bear fruit for His Kingdom. Background/Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 174.4 lb (-2.0 lb) and 14.5% (-0.5% BF). Career beta, AFC. Found MRP this spring and RPC in summer. 1 RM’s - OHP 130, DL 305. Estimated 1 RM’s - BS 275, BP 175 Have Read - NMMNG, WISNIFG, WOTSM, SGM, Book of Poon, Models, MMSLP, MAP, RM, RPCC, 48LOP, Bible minus mino…
/r/RPChristians13/12/18 10:34 AM
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u/BobbyMckgee punched out. That sucks. God speed, bro.
/r/RPChristians13/12/18 01:18 AM
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Sounds familiar - a jammed day. Feel like there’s 42 hours of stuff and only 24 in a day. I’ll continue to pray for you and your job search.
/r/RPChristians12/12/18 06:14 PM
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Sounds like a week on-track grinding it out. Regarding your 3 on QT - can you shell out 15-20 minutes each morning for this?
/r/RPChristians12/12/18 03:57 PM
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This post is all butt hurt, DEER-ing and deep in the frame of others.
/r/RPChristians12/12/18 09:31 AM
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Just wait till your eyes get older.
/r/RPChristians11/12/18 10:05 AM
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Some points to add ... Children are physically maturing sooner than they did in the past. Hyper-sexualization (soft and hard sources) in western culture - particularly Murica - is exponentially more severe than in the past 20 years; let alone the past 2000 years. Children are becoming fully-functioning adults at older and older ages. Marriage is occurring later and later into the new definition of adulthood. Putting it together - Kids are becoming physical adults earlier and their primal minds a…
/r/RPChristians11/12/18 10:02 AM
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I haven’t been in a few weeks because I have been putting in a lot of hours at work for a promotion. Not a reason to not lift. Tons of guys on here can probably speak to getting under the bar before or after a 10, 12 or 14 hour day. Comes down to discipline and how much you want it,
/r/askMRP10/12/18 02:32 AM
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Somewhat similar situation - I tested total at 495 and want to increase as much as I can naturally before going the TRT route. I bought pine pollen tincture after another user recommended it on my OYS. It’s photoandrogen - plant based testosterone(basically the opposite of phytoestrogens in soy). I just ordered it from Amazon and it showed up. Wife asked what it’s for. “It’s a male supplement”. Nothing more was discussed. So, I didn’t hide it nor did I make a big deal about it either. W/r/t the …
/r/askMRP07/12/18 06:08 PM
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Oneitis is putting your wife first. In other words, making her your mission or your idol. Have a God-centered mission (not a me-focused mission like making more money or being successful).
/r/RPChristians07/12/18 02:57 PM
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If your wife trusts you to keep your promises, she need not have any dread. Passive dread can still be effective, but the highest levels of dread ends with divorce, not cheating. That’s exactly why RPC is harder than hard mode. Dread is what will drive her passion. If she sees your interactions with other women, notices looks from other women or gets comments on your gainz from friends and dismisses it in her head because you’re a godly man who wouldn’t cheat, then there’s little to no competiti…
/r/RPChristians07/12/18 12:44 PM
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What specifically are you doing for DL3? There’s two legs to this. First is a hobby or hobbies. I’m researching and talking to folks currently about starting martial arts - BJJ, Goju-ryu, Krav Maga. I would also like to develop shooting into a more structured and purposed hobby. Thinking of pulling in a guy or two that shares passion here. There’s no clubs close by. The second leg ties together with discipling and my mission. The men’s tribe, teaching a Sunday School class and the young men’s di…
/r/RPChristians06/12/18 02:38 PM
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Bravo, Joe and thanks to u/rocknrollchuck for cross posting. Probably a reason you don’t get more views is that you post things under your user name rather than a sub. Post directly to r/rpchristians and watch the traffic increase. This series will be a great compliment to the toxic shame content that is in the 101-level NMMNG.
/r/RPChristians06/12/18 12:57 PM
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Saw this on MRP - glad to see you cross posted. Excellent essay. This was motivating to read being early in the RP process. A lot of what you wrote mirrors my experience. I tried a lot of “dead bedroom” tactics in years past (overt discussions, chore play, gifts - cringe worthy stuff looking back). Trust the process. Look forward to more posts from you.
/r/RPChristians06/12/18 02:51 AM
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When I found MRP I knew I had found the missing piece. Amen. I recall feeling a weird mix of excitement (I found the answer), anger (I’m the problem, why didn’t I find this out years ago) and fear (can I get this done, what if my wife doesn’t follow suit).
/r/RPChristians06/12/18 02:46 AM
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but it is absolutely on the agenda Don’t fall into the trap of punting this. Have a plan. For me, starting small has been the plan. Simply speaking my faith more often and seizing opportunities to refer to something as a blessing rather than luck. Evangelism can be intimidating and give you the impression you have to go preach to the masses on the street corner. It’s speaking your faith where you are, when you are. Easier said than done, though. but I want to transition to being more transparent…
/r/RPChristians05/12/18 07:58 PM
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OYS #9 I’m reverting back to the MAP-action-habit format I started my OYS series with. I’ve digressed over the past few weeks and as a result am having a harder time focusing. Rewrite my OYS to follow the mission-vision-goals-habits heriachy. Otherwise, I can get wrapped around the axle. Life Mission [working draft - expect it to mature] - I will glorify and love God with all my mind, body and spirit by pursuing excellence, virtue and discipline in all that I do to bear fruit for His Kingdom. St…
/r/RPChristians05/12/18 07:28 PM
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this is exactly the lie they sell, that sex is ammoral I said that RP is ammoral - meaning it has no set of rights or wrongs. It is without morals. I think you’re confusing ammoral with immoral.
/r/RPChristians05/12/18 12:26 PM
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How this is post is still up is beyond me. Lots of defecating in this sub recently.
/r/RPChristians04/12/18 08:24 PM
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You’re talking about gaining 40 lb of muscle assuming you don’t lose any muscle during the cut (unlikely).
/r/askMRP04/12/18 06:54 PM
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Always liked RP but it was far to scummy for me RP is ammoral - it’s a set of tools.
/r/RPChristians02/12/18 01:28 PM
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The Feminine Imperative is obviously the opposite; it requires you to settle down with a limited number of women and provide for them and their kid Not anymore. Prior to first wave feminism that was the case.
/r/RPChristians02/12/18 01:24 PM
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This is a very timely and relevant post for me right now. I read and followed the MRP advice of initiating every day. The quality and quantity of sex decreased. It’s was as if I was wearing her down until she just gave in and offered SF. For my situation, it was very unattractive and needy to initiate every day.
/r/RPChristians02/12/18 01:19 PM
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Trolling decreases testosterone
/r/RPChristians29/11/18 11:04 AM
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I don’t see where God ever recommends God doesn’t recommend change my mind Why?
/r/RPChristians29/11/18 02:55 AM
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I find that getting a good estimate of the basic ingredients, and then overestimating a bit, helps keep it even. So for instance if it looks like 5 oz. of chicken, I put 6 or 7 oz. in the app. But I started out by weighing everything on a digital scale a couple years ago, so I've gotten pretty good at eyeballing. That’s the same thing I do. Weighing your food really teaches you to recognize what you eat. 2 tablespoons of peanut butter, an ounce of sour cream and so on. I think Law 38 is especial…
/r/RPChristians29/11/18 02:41 AM
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u/OsmiumZulu wrote a post on this very subject just a few weeks ago. Check it out. Lifting is Not a Suggestion
/r/RPChristians29/11/18 12:50 AM
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And, to confirm, you understand the 90% training max thing? I believe so. Take your 1RM (say 295 for DL) and use 90% of that (266) to calculate your working weights for the month. 266 is the “training weight”. I found the articles he wrote on T-Nation. I’ll check out his book. So I apologize if I've sent you down a path that could expose you to something you might find offensive. Not at all. Hard rock is what I crank in the weight room. Coarse language is something I’m consciously working to imp…
/r/RPChristians28/11/18 10:19 PM
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OYS #8 Missed OYS last week due to long work hours and Thanksgiving Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 175.6 lb (-0.4 lb) and 14.8% (-0.2% BF). Found MRP this spring and RPC in summer. 1 RM’s - OHP 130, DL 305. Estimated 1 RM’s - BS 275, BP 175 Dread Level - Not solid on DL1 yet. Good on DL2. Working on DL3 and DL4. Lifting and Diet I was humbled last week on my post about creating my own program. I’m thankful u/reach180 replied and offered his advice and experience. Most of my reading …
/r/RPChristians28/11/18 03:19 PM
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Everyone has wounds from their parents. Its a product of being raised by flawed human beings. Men’s Fraternity has a great section in 33 The Series on the “Mommy Wound”. In summary, here’s the action plan: Address specific issues with her. Don’t be vague or general. (Sounds like you did that, might have to do it again). Establish boundaries for future interactions. (You’re on the right track here). Spell out clear consequences for violating boundaries. (Removal of time and attention). Men with M…
/r/RPChristians28/11/18 10:09 AM
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Excellent OYS. Great the way you status each level of dread. I find myself in a very similar position as you from the compliant duty sex, to needing a hobby to wanting to pass this knowledge to my son. Level 3 is my current challenge as well. Keep at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 01:38 PM
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You’re speaking of 1 Cor 7:2-4. If your goal is permissive access to her vagina in the form of duty sex, pointing to these verses may make her feel obligated to provide you with blah intercourse in some legalistic way. What I (and i conjecture that most men in this sub want) is authentic, raw passion from our own wives. I want her to want me. Not to go through the motions to check the box on a list along with cleaning the toilet and vacuuming. Look at Jesus for the examples. God wants us to purs…
/r/RPChristians26/11/18 09:46 AM
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The wife is responsible to be available for sex as needed. That will moisten her panties for certain.
/r/RPChristians26/11/18 01:07 AM
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Also, no stats, lifts or background.
/r/RPChristians25/11/18 08:44 PM
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Do you have any examples of posts in this sub?
/r/RPChristians25/11/18 08:41 PM
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Solid analysis and advice right here.
/r/RPChristians18/11/18 06:32 PM
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Still absolutely terrible, but with more up moments thrown in. Need to stick more consistently to fasting (scary for me) and just doing IF with chipotle, unless a healthier opportunity appears. My living situation allows me access to free food, but conversely I don’t have much ability to store or make anything of personal choice at home. So sometimes healthy is available, but most of the time it’s not. Open to suggestions or ideas on what to do in this case. I’m gonna challenge you here and say …
/r/RPChristians17/11/18 10:44 AM
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If one of your strength goals is bench press strength, but press is not among your goals, why are you swapping them out week to week? Good question and I don’t have a great answer other than that’s what I’ve seen other programs do (swap OHP and BP). Worrying about changing the shape of your shoulders is just your insecurity talking. After reflecting, I think that’s an accurate statement. I wrote my own programs for years, and I loved doing it. I read and read and read, went to clinics for fun, e…
/r/RPChristians16/11/18 08:37 PM
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Does she go to the gym at all? No. I used to poke her about this often. This is one of the many things I STFU on now. I still think your greatest gains will be made in multiple areas when you start getting unsolicited attention from other women that your wife can see. Now I don't mean go looking for it, but when you're out and about and some girl shows interest out of nowhere, your wife will notice. Watch for it, and see how she responds after. Agree. I saw this effect this summer at a wedding w…
/r/RPChristians15/11/18 09:39 PM
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OYS #7 Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 176.0 lb (-1.6 lb) and 15.0% (-0.4%) BF. Found MRP this spring and RPC in summer. 5 RM’s - BS 285, DL 305, BP 180, OHP 125, PC 140. Dread Level - 2 nosing into 3 and 4. Lifting and Diet - Grinding Grinding away at SSLP, 16/8 IF and eating at maintenance. I’ve split up the 3 day a week workouts because I often don’t have enough time in the AM, especially to power clean. I’ll do abs, power clean or deadlift and pull ups the morning after squat and…
/r/RPChristians15/11/18 11:09 AM
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Found out that I’m actually pretty darn good at burpees – I managed 70-80 of them on the days we did them. Monday we went to a workout park close to my house and did pullups, pushups and crunches. I wasn’t feeling it at all, honestly. But I managed 85 pullups, 50 pushups and 50 crunches anyway. Very impressive - especially for your age. That shows the younger men what taking care of yourself can do. they basically called me back a week later and offered me the position – ON NIGHT SHIFT. No thank…
/r/RPChristians14/11/18 07:45 PM
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Get out there and cold approach.
/r/RPChristians13/11/18 11:33 PM
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Less than a day after a discourse with a female on my OYS - coincidence?
/r/RPChristians12/11/18 08:48 PM
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Stats? Lifts? Reads? 7 Basics? I’m having a hard time interpreting your post. You became needy? What incidents? Abundance Mentality does not mean you go bathe in the abundance. It means you recognize and embrace that you have high value and can go get more of something if what you currently have doesn’t work out (relationship, job, etc) Scarcity mentality thinks there is only one piece of pie left. Abundance mentality knows he can go bake another pie.
/r/RPChristians12/11/18 02:16 AM
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I plan and make time for us to spend time together alone regularly (at least once a week). I feel this goes a lot farther than 3 or 4 actual “date nights” a year to try and “reconnect”. I was dying for that type of interaction with mine and never got it. Why do you think he didn’t? Might be helpful insight to some of us, Lady commenters are on RPC are permitted. There’s several that pop in from time to time.
/r/RPChristians11/11/18 08:04 PM
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I'm curious about this. A pound of boneless skinless chicken breast is approximately 750 calories. Fat has 9 calories per gram. Can you give an example of a typical day of eating? Lunch would be pulled beef tacos with about 6 hard shells, some sour cream and shredded cheddar. Dinner similar with pulled chicken taco meat (half breast half thigh) with hard shells, sour cream and cheddar. That’s just shy of 2,000 calories with 168 g of protein. I usually graze another 100-200 calories through the f…
/r/RPChristians10/11/18 03:58 PM
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Very helpful, thanks. Coincidentally, I read 211 last evening as I progress through the Compendium. Helpful as well.
/r/RPChristians09/11/18 06:37 PM
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OYS #6 Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 177 .6 lb (-0.4 lb) and 15.4% (-0.1%) BF. Found MRP this spring and RPC in summer. Dread Level - nosing into 3 and 4. Lifting and Diet Continued on with SSLP fourth week getting BS 230 and DL 265. Took a 30 lb jump in DL to get on track to hit my old 5 RM around the same time as hitting it on BS. Pull-ups have improved significantly with 20 fewer pounds to pull. Thinking of getting squat shoes as the running shoes i use are unstable and spongy. …
/r/RPChristians07/11/18 11:34 PM
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What is the difference between amused mastery and sarcasm? When I say something along the lines of OP, I am not met with the same positive reaction. I’m usually told I’m being a sarcastic jerk. I hold frame, shrug it off, STFU and move on. But It’s not the dominant/submissive AM result you’re supposed to see.
/r/RPChristians05/11/18 07:19 PM
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You’re looking for a cheat code. The way to beat this level. What to text her. How long to wait. What to say to her on the phone. Where to take her. What to buy her. You need to fix yourself.
/r/askMRP04/11/18 07:19 PM
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This is a sub meant for these type of questions and yet I get insulted left and right by low-lifes You stuck your head in the locker room. This sub is meant for guys that are putting the work in. Lifting. Reading. STFU-ing. You haven’t put in any work. Want advice? Read NMMNG. In 2 days. Download the Starting Strength Official app. First workout is today. Get to work.
/r/askMRP04/11/18 10:50 AM
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Here’s your problem. NoFap for 6 weeks and come back with a progress report.
/r/askMRP04/11/18 10:21 AM
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Assurance of Salvation: 6 - I struggle to accept God’s grace when I know how far short I have fallen That’s what is so amazing about God’s grace - we all have fallen short. We are all wicked and sinful and condemned to death because of our sin. Every human. From the person in history who abided by the law the best to whoever you want to argue is the most wicked, evil human ever to consume oxygen on this planet. We are all wicked in the eyes of God. You don’t meet some standard or litmus check in…
/r/RPChristians02/11/18 10:15 PM
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Although after receiving a lot of feedback recently, I am going to take some time and evaluate my methods. Props for your post soliciting feedback and I commend you on your humility and desire to grow. I learned a lot from reading the discourse there.
/r/RPChristians01/11/18 09:20 AM
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OYS #5 Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 178 lb (-0 lb) and 15.5% BF. (bathroom scale). The Good - Mission of discipling and leading is coming into focus. 100% on bible reading and prayer. Consistent on diet and lifting. Took steps to build a new wardrobe. The Bad - All rejections. My game sucks. No social life or hobbies. Lifting Consistent with workouts this week and progressed to BS 210 lb. I believe the hernia setback caused me to lose about 40 to 50 lb of strength off my squat 5RM…
/r/RPChristians01/11/18 01:04 AM
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I’m changing my Evangelism rating from a 1 to 2 just for reading this. Good stuff.
/r/RPChristians30/10/18 06:11 PM
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I found the YouTube videos of past conferences to have a lot of value. They pulled out of YouTube is response to censorship. I’d imagine there’s good content on the pay side.
/r/askMRP30/10/18 02:10 PM
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Pay off all debt except mortgage within 24 months. This is excellent. Budget and review your actuals often. Are you using a budget/personal finance software or at least Excel? My wife actively resists almost any discipline I give our daughter, and will do so in front of her, which sends a terrible mixed message. This is a problem and you know it. She’s only four. If not corrected, this will become huge as she becomes a teenager and works to play Mom against Dad. The first was my wife sat down wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 12:01 PM
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We have a month old child I am just now familiarized with dread There has to be some RP rule about going all John J. Rambo on a wife that has an infant. She just gave birth to your child. Her mommy hormones are all over the place, not to mention postpartum anxiety. Be the one thing in your wife’s life right now that she doesn’t have to be anxious over. Be the oak. Being the dad that walks out butt hurt with a diaper print on his shirt is not being the oak. You pass fitness tests - you don’t win …
/r/RPChristians29/10/18 04:46 PM
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Bearded for about 2 years now. I definitely notice a difference in how people interact with me. One of the times I really know I’m in the matrix is when other guys talk to me about my beard. They’ll often lament that “my wife won’t let me grow one” or “my wife will make shave it off.” I love it when someone asks what my wife thinks about my beard. “Not sure - didn’t think to ask her” Overall, beard life has added to my DNGAF development. It rocks the boat. It’s different. Especially in the heat …
/r/RPChristians28/10/18 09:00 PM
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Expect to gain anywhere from 5-8 lbs on average from water weight retention when using creatine, FYI. You’re right. I saw that the last time I used it. But, I think it’s worth the swell. It was one of those tools that got me to the eat level just like chalk or a good belt. Be very intentional about rescheduling that. Done. She really enjoyed it and referred to it as a “date”. I’m pretty sure I never used that word with her. Would this be good to use the day after sex? Or, is reward/removing atte…
/r/RPChristians27/10/18 10:59 AM
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Secular RP uses the truth of how this world really works to pursue idols - sex, money, significance, control. RP Christian uses the truth of how this world really works to pursue Christ and accomplish your God-given mission.
/r/RPChristians27/10/18 10:00 AM
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Frequent viewing of porn and masturbation (every (other) day). Still thirsty, sexual urges have not been eclipsed by spiritual satisfaction. Your frustrations and lack of progress stem from this. Going NoFap should be one of the highest priorities on your MAP right now second only to the spiritual improvements. I cannot stress enough how masturbating every day or every other day will zap your motivation and drive to achieve anything. You’re brain is saying “why should I go accomplish something i…
/r/RPChristians27/10/18 09:39 AM
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This is the FIRST TIME IN OVER TEN YEARS OF MARRIAGE that she has ever apologized for treating me badly. Awesome. Leadership and hard working are bearing fruit. Still getting a bunch of new cologne decants. Any recommendations for a cologne noob? Not looking to drop a car payment on a bottle. Something I can pick up at a department store. Sex is fantastic and frequent, and everything I love to do is on the table every time. Has it always been like this? Or has your RP improvements changed that f…
/r/RPChristians24/10/18 06:27 PM
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OYS #4 Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 177 lb (-1 lb) and 15.5% BF. (bathroom scale), 5 RM’s 11 weeks ago: BS - 285, BP - 185, DL - 305, OHP - 130, PC - 140 Background - discovered the red pill through MRP/askMRP in May 2018. Discovered RPChristians in August. Blue pilled/AFC/Beta forever. Life Mission - Reworking this. More below. Dread Level - 2. Looking to step into 3. Have Read - Listened to: RM (2x), NMMG (3x), WISNIFG (3x), WOTSM. Read MAP, MMSLP, SGM, Sixteen Commandments of P…
/r/RPChristians24/10/18 06:07 PM
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Without knowing your injury, I’ll share this video of Rip Jump to 3:50. There is a weight at which you can start. Sure, you can’t bench 225 right now. But starting with the bar and adding 5 lbs every workout will build strength. Also - depending on your injury back squat (BS) and deadlift should be doable. I used to have a bad lower back. Hurt whenever I lifted a laundry basket wrong, twisted to pick up something out the back seat, you get the idea. I started to barbell train about a year and a …
/r/RPChristians23/10/18 11:16 PM
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Bingo. That’s the program you want to start with. Build functional strength and follow the linear progression. In 2-3 months you’ll be ready to make a decision on your next program depending on your goal (hypertrophy, strength, aesthetics, GPP). Art of Manliness on YouTube has a series on the platform with Rip where he coaches form and cues. Helped me out a ton. Alan Thrall (Trained Untamed) has the best deadlift how-to video I’ve found. Keep in mind that as a novice, 80% of your results will be…
/r/askMRP22/10/18 03:03 PM
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Sounds cool, but what's the end-goal? How will you know when you've accomplished this mission? You’ve hit the nail on the head. My mission statement is about a month old. I haven’t been satisfied with it since making it. Too vague. This push was what I needed to rework it and focus it. Home-made tacos. Mexican is an excellent meal-prep. Half boneless thighs, half boneless breasts in a crock pot or insta-pot makes great pulled chicken taco meat with some onions, green peppers and black beans in i…
/r/RPChristians20/10/18 08:59 AM
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Congrats on kicking porn and going NoFap. That’s an idol that tears down so many men and robs them of their potential. I’m sure you’ve noticed the impact of that in 5 years. Hows your spiritual life? Are you praying and reading the Word? When you pray, lay this desire out before God. Have you read any RP books? The RPC sidebar PDF has a lot of “for singles” content. I’m working through Mark Manson’s Models. This would be a good one to add to your reading list. Having not dated in the age of Tind…
/r/RPChristians20/10/18 08:34 AM
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I’ll echo the advice on quality programming. Little House on the Prairie, Anne of Green Gables and Seventh Heaven have become pretty popular with my daughter.
/r/RPChristians18/10/18 09:48 AM
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This is a 1 point drop in your T-level. Never looked at it like that before. That, right there, is motivating. So what's your plan for making sure that doesn't happen this week? (1) update my TDEE and calorie goal. Since I’ve lost weight, the target has probably dropped too. (2) MFP. Just winging it doesn’t work. (3) minimize grains as much as possible. So I'll challenge you: do it TONIGHT. Report back with the results. Challenge accepted and done. She was very willing even though she was tired.…
/r/RPChristians18/10/18 09:45 AM
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I can identify with your question and concern of how to reconcile secular RP against RP Christian. Best advice I have is: use the Bible as the filter You’ll read a lot and hear a lot, but always run it through the Truth. The only way to do this is to read and pray. Do that first each day. Fill your mind with what is holy. Secular RP uses the knowledge of how this broken world works to pursue idols (comfort, control and significance).
/r/RPChristians17/10/18 08:48 PM
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Excellent post. Mod’s should consider pinning this one or putting it in the sidebar.
/r/RPChristians17/10/18 08:30 PM
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Exciting stuff on the job search! Great job being in tune with the Holy Spirit and hearing His guidance. It’s hard to sometimes know the difference between a good idea and a God idea. This is the guy I Red Pilled over a year ago Curious how you handled or accomplished that? What he in a bad spot that he was accepting of the RP? Several of the guys in my tribe seem primed for the RP. One has even used the terms ‘alpha’ and ‘beta’. Struggling with RP-ing one of the them, but am holding back (1) I’…
/r/RPChristians17/10/18 08:25 PM
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First off - welcome and thanks for starting OYS. Seeing as I'm unable to perform many compound lifts due to my wrist are there any muscles that I'm outright missing with all the isolation exercises I'm doing? Isolation exercises aren’t going to cut it. For most of the Olympic lifts, you should not be torquing your wrist. Back squat especially. The wrists have very little to do there. On OHP and BP, the load should go straight through your wrist. Look at a wrist support and check out YouTube vide…
/r/RPChristians17/10/18 08:18 PM
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OYS #3 Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 179 lb and 16% BF. (bathroom scale), 5 RM’s 10 weeks ago: BS - 285, BP - 185, DL - 305, OHP - 130, PC - 140 Background - Been on a path of self-improvment and pursuit of Biblical masculinity after reading Kingdom Man in 2015, discovered ROK in 2016, discovered the red pill through MRP/askMRP in May 2018. Discovered RPChristians in August. Blue pilled/AFC/Beta forever. Life Mission - To glorify God with all my spirit, all my body and all my mind …
/r/RPChristians17/10/18 08:04 PM
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God speed. What you’re describing is called MGTOW. Hope to see you back here again some day.
/r/RPChristians13/10/18 11:50 PM
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Awesome! How long have you been doing this [Bible reading plan]? Since this past Sunday. It was on my MAP for #2 after building a prayer habit. I was dragging my feet on it for weeks. Your comment on my OYS last week was the kick in the pants that was needed. I would put at least some effort into this [style] now Rated it an F for my efforts on it this week due to zero time. I have a few solid and good fitting outfits for church on the rare occasion I have to go out. Plan on getting a leather ja…
/r/RPChristians12/10/18 10:13 AM
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Welcome. You’re questioning your faith in a time of trial and suffering. This can happen especially if the trial is right-matched to the spiritual maturity of the believer. God uses seasons like you’re going through to develop you, to shape you and to refine you for his purpose. Phil 2:13 For it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose Phil 1:29 For it has been granted unto you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him You a…
/r/RPChristians12/10/18 09:19 AM
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OYS #2 Stats - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids. 6’1”, 179 lb and 16% BF. (bathroom scale), 5 RM’s 9 weeks ago: BS - 285, BP - 185, DL - 305, OHP - 130, PC - 140 Background - Been on a path of self-improvment and pursuit of Biblical masculinity after reading Kingdom Man in 2015, discovered ROK in 2016, discovered the red pill through MRP/askMRP in May 2018. Discovered RPChristians in August. Blue pilled/AFC/Beta forever. Life Mission - To glorify God with all my spirit, all my body and all my mind b…
/r/RPChristians10/10/18 05:52 PM
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Welcome. Build functional strength is the foundation of any physical improvement goal you may have. Check out Starting Strength: Basic Barbell Training or Strong Lifts 5 x 5. Both are linear progression novice programs and have easy to use apps. Agree with OZ - why not deadlift? If form is your concern, watch Alan Thrall videos on YouTube. Heavy compound barbell training is also a key component in raising testosterone naturally. Squat, bench, deadlift, overhead press, rinse and repeat. Everyone …
/r/RPChristians09/10/18 01:40 AM
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Good stuff - appreciate you taking the time to comment. I stepped out of the comfort zone and did a bible study with my daughter last evening instead of watching tv with her. Bible study will be added to the spiritual MAP. You’re spot on about no time for seeking a mentor. Agree with you on where the focus needs to be. On the kino subject - is The Art of Seduction a worthwhile read?
/r/RPChristians05/10/18 11:05 PM
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Awesome! Be cautious of the training session - it’s basically a sales call to get you to pay for a personal trainer. Read Starting Strength: Basic Barbell Training by Mark Rippetoe. This should be required sidebar reading. Watch Starting Strength and Alan Thrall videos on YouTube. There’s a Starting Strength app for your phone. SL5x5 is much the same thing. Mehdi basically copied Rippetoe’s proven program for novice linear progression, added two sets and made a very functional app. Regardless of…
/r/RPChristians04/10/18 08:55 AM
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OYS #1 Stats & Background - 37, Married 14 years, 2 kids, 6’ 1”, 182 lb and 17% BF (bathroom scale), been on a path of self-improvment and pursuit of Biblical masculinity after reading Kingdom Man in 2015, discovered ROK in 2016, discovered the red pill through MRP/askMRP in May 2018. Discovered RPChristians a few weeks ago. Blue pilled/AFC/Beta forever. Life Mission - To glorify God with all my spirit, all my body and all my mind by pursing discipline, virtue and excellence in all that I am cal…
/r/RPChristians03/10/18 04:46 PM
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