| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 79 | My HV boyfriend turned in to a LV fiancée. I need help on how to leave.Can I ask how long it took the mask to slip? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 03:49 AM |
| 32 | HVW tips for long distance relationships?We are not in a committed relationship! He has been my climbing partner for a while we meet up and climb in national parks mostly. We just started getting romantic and I am excited, but still going on dates with others! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 09:28 PM |
| 8 | HVW tips for long distance relationships?We are not exclusive and not really in a LDR just keeping contact until we can see each other next! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Woman finds son watching porn. Asks other women advice for more "ethical" options. 🤦🏼♀️Kinda sad how she has to add lboldaccidentally in the title. SMH as if you need to protect your teenage child’s privacy over protecting them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 11:27 PM |
| 15 | Andrea Dworkin's take on male trollsI post in R/climbing sometimes when I place a badass piece of gear on a hard route. I usually stay on top of the forum for a couple days but the amount i get trolled is Ridiculous. Men ask me half a dozen times “but is it really rated A5” and then I explain (because most climbers don’t understand ratings for my subset of the sport) and then they always say “hahahaha I was referencing [insert 20+ year old climbing video]” it’s really frustrating and embarrassing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 09:04 PM |
| 3 | Man Triggered By My Post History On This & Similar Subs, Uses Slurs Such As "Whores" & "Faggot," Justifies Male Violence Through Evolutionary Biology, Sees "Legit" Pornography As Acceptable Due To Lack Of Explicit Trafficking (Missing Underlying Problem Of Misogyny & Sexualization Of Women/Children)What do they say to those women who look like porn stars themselves and still are against the industry? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 09:54 PM |
| 19 | Back into dating after healingI think if you don’t see how these things are problematic without explanation you need to read the handbook again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:39 PM |
| 2 | I know somebody already posted about this but I just want to show how many people think that this kind of nastiness is okay! Sorry if it's not okay to post this again. 🤢🤢🤢Well said | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 10:47 PM |
| 74 | why YOU have a belly, but influencers DON'T (feel like women need to hear this more often. were expected to have certain kind of body when biologically our bodies are not made to be that way)She missed it!! It’s PHOTOSHOP!! Some of it is posing, but a surprising amount is digitally altered. Add /r/instagramreality to you feed for some mental armor! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 04:26 AM |
| 3 | I can’t stop thinking about this question I saw this question on TikTokPenis People 😂😂❤️❤️new FDS term | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 01:35 AM |
| 2 | A year of climbing without menThis is an amazing response! Find a girl or two to share your exciting adventures with…or do them solo!!!!! Somehow doing scary things alone makes you feel BIGGER afterward, get it :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 04:23 PM |
| 30 | A year of climbing without menHiking, boating, artwork, performance, anything that scares you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 12:18 AM |
| 30 | A year of climbing without menYay! Keep going!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 11:23 PM |
| 42 | A year of climbing without menThanks for the input! might add this to my final article if that’s okay. The sidekick effect | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 10:28 PM |
| 8 | Stop Oversharing and Be SecretiveWow thank You for this. I have spent way too much time having imaginary combos in my head “revealing” my add lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 07:25 PM |
| 12 | Stop Oversharing and Be SecretiveOkay maybe some input needed. My last ex found out I take adderal about 6 months into our relationship and it became a huge problem. He accused me of dishonesty and later abused me over this prescription. When am I supposed to disclose that I take psych meds? I feel if I had found out his attitude earlier I might have been less attached and able to get out. Please feel free to call me a pick me for not getting out anyway at 6 months when he first found out. I’m scared this will happen again and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 05:23 PM |
| 6 | Stories and examples of sensitive/emotional men being abusive or manipulative?I dated a yoga and meditation teacher who abused me. So soft spoken, so kind at first. He called me Shakti. We had a ritual where I put my foot on his chest like Shakti and Shiva. I left the relationship with ten staples in my scalp…. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 04:53 PM |
| 13 | Safety tips for Internet.I’m a climber and a man who follows me messaged me to send me some free gear. He may have just been being nice, but he may have been seeking my address to know where I live! Watch out girls | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 06:15 PM |
| 8 | Does anyone have any articles pushing back against sex positivity?Link to article?vI e never seen it outside FDs really. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 02:17 AM |
| 2 | Help! My climbing partner accused me of “inappropriately touching her boyfriend” and I’m worried she is not a pick-me, but a victim of emotional abuse. What do I do?ThAnk you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 09:01 AM |
| 58 | Help! My climbing partner accused me of “inappropriately touching her boyfriend” and I’m worried she is not a pick-me, but a victim of emotional abuse. What do I do?She is one of my three closest friends and my closest climbing partner. Am I not abandoning her the same way I felt my friends abandoned me to my abuse? Maybe I could’ve gotten out sooner. Per the podcast 33; How to level up Pickme friends; She really is worth saving. Smart beautiful successful and kind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 03:10 PM |
| 26 | Gabby Petite’s cause of death has been released as strangulation. Does anyone else think Laundries team will try to use sex as a defense?🥺🥺In a nightmare scenario I predict that. Please no….. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 06:07 PM |
| 24 | More on Why Block and Delete WorksI blocked my abusive ex 9 months ago. He sent me to the hospital for trying to leave. I still fucking miss him. It has gotten a little harder the last few weeks but I know if I keep him blocked I’ll get over it AND I won’t give him any more chances to hurt me. It’s not easy, especially if you have been emotionally abused, but I know it’s worth it. Stay strong ladies :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 05:58 PM |
| 15 | Stop calling women girls!I call almost ALL men boys, even in my head. Is this acceptable? 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 02:40 PM |
| 29 | FDS organizations?The institution is against us. I dont think one exists… would love to be wrong though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 05:41 PM |
| 3 | Society treats teen mothers like crapThat’s why men aren’t supposed to be at baby showers!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 06:34 PM |
| 2 | Sorry ladies but I gotta use this space to mock poly people 🤣Yay I love this!! ❤️❤️❤️🎉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 03:21 AM |
| 49 | Sorry ladies but I gotta use this space to mock poly people 🤣If I could tell my past self ONE thing, it would be to prioritize my girlfriendships, not even just over men but to rank them with family and career goals too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 09:08 AM |
| 6 | Articles comparing liberal feminism to radical feminism?Nobody talks about radical feminism. Even the books are out of print, try to buy something by Andrea Dworkin that was written before 2000….. you can’t. It’s weird | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 10:21 PM |
| 3 | Scrotes in the comments were pissed😂 Keep raising those standards queens👑I see this lady in here pretty frequently and I don’t love her vibe. From being kinda pedantic and obvious to…maybe the beauty filter? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 10:17 PM |
| 157 | A supportive motherOur husbands need to know we can still leave them ANYTIME! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 05:40 PM |
| 13 | Link Between Widespread Attraction to Minors and Eating Disorders?Hm, disabled and teeny tiny here. Can confirm. I attract abusive types. I have been in two abusive relationships that I barely escaped from. Currently I’m not dating at all because I’m too scared to try again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 08:57 PM |
| 39 | Link Between Widespread Attraction to Minors and Eating Disorders?Hm, disabled and teeny tiny here. Can confirm. I attract abusive types. I have been in two abusive relationships that I barely escaped from. Currently I’m not dating at all because I’m too scared to try again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 08:57 PM |
| 58 | The Misattribution of Arousal: Why Cliff-Dangling is SexyLongtime climber here. My first climbing ex fiancé tried to coerce me into polygamy. My second climber ex (I’ve only dated climbers) abused me…..so let’s not put any subset of men on a HVM pedestal. HVM are everywhere and nowhere. NO group is immune to LVM, the climbing world is chock full of them and they are often just as toxic as gym bros. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 05:33 PM |
| 3 | REMINDER: FDS is NOT WGTOW/OVARIT/FEMCEL etc, We're a Dating Strategy....So You Should, Ya'Know, DATE.Thank you for making this post. I needed to hear this!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 04:22 PM |
| 45 | If they show red flags for aggression, leave.Please if your partner yells at you, punches a wall, or breaks ANY of your things, leave. I wish I had... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 04:22 PM |
| 294 | Men 👏 Dont 👏 change 👏 EVEN FOR THEIR DREAM GIRL. FDS works ladies. Left my NVM fiancée 4 years ago and he immediately started dating the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. My heart was broken then, but this is them now!!She does know! I’m not sure if that’s better or worse...she’s a trapped “cool girl” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 05:28 PM |
| 8 | Nikolaj Coster WaldauOmg yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 04:42 PM |
| 68 | Men 👏 Dont 👏 change 👏 EVEN FOR THEIR DREAM GIRL. FDS works ladies. Left my NVM fiancée 4 years ago and he immediately started dating the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. My heart was broken then, but this is them now!!Even his anthem “leave the door open” 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 04:18 PM |
| 3 | Creating a playlist to celebrate the sensuality of the divine feminine. Please give me your song recommendations!I have been making a similar playlist. Try Donna summer: the four seasons of love album. Spring affair is my favorite | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 03:16 PM |
| 55 | Weekly FDS Check-inA man I was waitressing for came back into my restaurant to ask me if I wanted to join him for a drink. I was so nervous but I said I was not interested; no excuse, no lies, just not interested!!!!!!! I feel so empowered! I still had anxious butterflies afterward for a long time, realizing I stood up to a man, but I am so proud of myself for being honest and not sacrificing my integrity for his comfort! Thanks FDS for helping me be a powerful Queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 03:28 PM |
| 11 | The Faux PatriarchWow that video is so weird. The song is about being a pick me housewife and the images are all of her like...in the White House lololol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 01:38 PM |
| 3 | Wonho! One of my favourite singers too!I mean look at his body vs his face in pic one, it obviously is, and it’s weird. I love the other photos though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 09:46 PM |
| 23 | I just threw up in my mouth a bit.I am a recovering pickle and I almost got bingo Edit : I meant pick me but I gotta leave pickle as it is hilarious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 05:14 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Check-InI’m not into it. Feels like men in our space. Also I would love to highlight more lesbian voices here (they’re women who have rejected male presence in their life, in a way, like Dworkin) I want to hear more from them, keep FDS lesbian friendly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 03:40 PM |
| 3 | My dating experience with a covert narcissistThis makes me miss my ex....I’m gonna go journal now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 03:00 PM |
| 15 | Hey guys, not sure if this is appropriate here but I was hoping to gain some insight/advice from you guys.Thank you for posting this. This is happening to me too. All I know so far is that defending yourself does not seem to help, it has backfired with at least one girl who really has made it her business to hate me??. mostly the situation just teaches you what friends weren’t really yours to begin with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 06:04 PM |
| 23 | Nothing newCan we find a source? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 02:34 PM |
| 6 | Seriously, what IS IT with the 20 something girls?! No need for “freaking out” or being scared and “terrified” you'll “never find love”. Those types of posts make me fear for the next generations...Take a deep dive and question your idea of what you want. You’re only 22, just live for a while, without making a house and 2.5 kids the center of your goals. Like what else do you have to achieve for yourself career, education, artistically or athletically? Edit: they call it leveling up here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 05:33 AM |
| 113 | What's their motivation for hating women so much?They are scared of us. If you think Reddit is bad, you’ll go nuts when you hear that Europeans killed 9 million women during witch hunts in the 15-16th century. Also Asian women had their feet mutilated for a thousand years ! Dworkin links it to a “primal fear of castration” it’s because the need and want us too, I think the inner turmoil is too much for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 02:27 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check InI agree! I’m really into the more academic stuff about patriarchy l, but out FDS booklist is really focused on dating and relationships. I wanna read more about how to be my best self and educate myself about the world we live in, but in a less dating-strategy focused way. I think books like “woman hating” are the foundation of a lot of really revolutionary thought that has been washed away in the face of liberal feminism! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Beauty Hurts, a riddle by DworkinI will buy the book! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 02:20 PM |
| 29 | Beauty Hurts, a riddle by DworkinMee too!! When she brushed my hair! Mine said “Besuty means no pain”.....patently false | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 06:04 PM |
| 18 | Beauty Hurts, a riddle by DworkinOmg thank you!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 06:03 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check InI LOVE her! If you haven’t read “a woman destroyed” you will totally dig it, fiction about French marriage and mistresses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Help me build a feminist library to distribute to my friends. Where are the books on our FDS booklist like “Pornography” by Andrea Dworkin?I think fiction is a great teaching tool, bring it on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 03:10 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check InOmg I spent all night reading it and made a new post with an excerpt! Thank you!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 03:09 PM |
| 251 | Beauty Hurts, a riddle by Dworkin“Pain is an essential part of the grooming process and that is no accident... Plucking the eyebrows, wearing a girdle or, having ones nose fixed...these things hurt. The pain of course teaches an important lesson: no price is too great, no process to repulsive, no operation too painful for the woman who would be beautiful. The toleration of pain, and the romanticization of that tolerance begin here It serves to prepare women for lives of child bearing, self abnegation, and husband pleasing.” And… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check InOMgnitnis thank you so much! It is a full Pdf!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 05:36 AM |
| 37 | STOP 👏🏻PROCREATING 👏🏻 WITH 👏🏻 SHIT 👏🏻 MENCame here for this! What the fuck?? “My husband is abusing my child, how do I confront him about it without hurting his feelings?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 10:48 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check InMake a budget. It’s easy write down all your monthly costs (rent,gas, health insurance, cell phone, car insurance, groceries, books ) How much savings and income do you have? That’s all. that’s the whole advice I’m Sorry if I’ve talked down to you. I’m in my thirties and I need reminded of this. Good luck. Your budget is your friend. Keep it, look at it often, update it :) do it on your computer or on fancy paper, whatever. But do it yourself don’t let an app do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 10:43 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check InOmg thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 10:39 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check InCould you Dm me the name too please? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 10:35 AM |
| 14 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check InHey I’m a lit/philosophy student and I’m building an Anarchist Library of radical feminism and related topics! I looked through our book list and the books are mostly about dating and relationships . When I looked it up I was hoping to find more titles like -Backlash, Susan Faludi -The Feminine Mystique, Betty Freidan -The Beauty Myth, Naomi Watts -Anarchism, Emma Goldman -Anything by Andrea Dworkin but particularly Pornography and Hating Women (these are both expensive out of print books for so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 10:30 AM |
| 11 | Andrea Dworkin is amazing!!!More of this content PLEASE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 02:59 AM |
| 43 | Green flags for breakfastThis is something my abusive ex used to do for me every day. He really cared about my health in a controlling way, but I’m skinny and hypoglycemic and I miss my morning eggs. Fuck, it’s been 5 months and I’m starting to have moments of nostalgia for him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 02:22 PM |
| 9 | Never let a man deny you privacy or determine what is best for your mental health.Sounds really abusive.....situationally as well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 03:17 PM |
| 11 | Never let a man deny you privacy or determine what is best for your mental health.My ex treated me like this shortly before sending me to the hospital with ten staples in my head. My adhd is now treated and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. Please get out now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 02:57 PM |
| 14 | LMFAOI love Kenneth Branagh too ! 💕💕💕💕💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 10:09 PM |
| 14 | This poor man's wife and family - but porn is a normal and healthy expression of sexuality 🤡They can never spell.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 03:22 AM |
| 25 | Vanilla is a word created by men to shame women for not wanting to re-enact porn and be degradedOmg are you me? Yay! I’m 32 and feeling so free in my celibacy too since October!! Honestly I’m not even horny, nice to see someone my age feeling the same! Not worth it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 03:02 AM |
| 13 | Guys can't grasp the concept of shorts under a skirt and use it as an excuse to be degrading and gross to pro athletes. Giuliani is revolting and doesn't deserve to even be near MichelleI wouldn’t do this WITHOUT the trim so thanks for the share! Bike shorts would be so ugly if someone saw, somehow this seems better! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 05:59 PM |
| 14 | Our fav guy just dropped another gem 😂I think it’s a gen z internet thing? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Tough love for the lady lurkers (watch to the end).I think the distinction between knowing your relationship is terrible and being trauma bonded doesn’t exist. If you are admitting your relationship is terrible...but still staying, I would argue you ARE trauma bonded. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 04:08 PM |
| 4 | Tough love for the lady lurkers (watch to the end).This video is still not helpful. Women trapped in toxic relationships are not “weak”, they have a lifetime of patriarchal conditioning to overcome. Speaking as someone who left her abusive boyfriend, I struggle with this. I am so “strong” I can’t even admit to my friends what happened. People (young women especially) in my community look up to me, now I have a dark secret literally because of rhetoric like this. Don’t talk to your friends this way ladies! It scars. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:14 PM |
| 2 | Would you consider her a pickme ? I feel like I understand her message but it seems like she’s using this for validation given the men in her comments...Happy cake day | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 03:49 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InHELL yes! I just finished “The Beauty Myth” and “ Backlash” and my life is changed, let’s do more! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 06:39 PM |
| 19 | This guy“Ouch” from your 32 YO sister-Queen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 06:24 PM |
| 206 | These are the men who want you to be honoured they let you be in their presence.Funniest shit is, many of the replies have a man popping up, defending the reason the other guy shouldn’t have been dumped?? Like, no-one asked you! They can’t handle it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 04:56 PM |
| 24 | A tale as old as time. It’s also explains why FDS can be so hated lolYes! This and the fact that posting on FDS gets you automatically perma-banned from r/ feminism of all places!! Infuriating! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 09:16 PM |
| 1 | I went from this to living a much better life almost instantly.Success! Have fun leveling up and pampering yourself now!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 05:05 PM |
| 92 | Online dating in a nutshell; heads men win, tails women loseWow thank you for reinforcing that FDS rule I maybe hadn’t internalized yet. “Don’t go over to their house for an early date!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Unbelievable! I go on a few dates with someone, I think we’re pretty good together, and then this garbage. I’m not gonna go to your shaggy apartment just so you can try to seduce me. Glad I caught this early on. Blocked!Hey I super love reading all these “men are scrotes” responses! But could we also, possibly address what an appropriate response to this text might be? Like when this happens to me, in the future, Say I have 2 great dates with no red flags and then this happens.... what is a good way to say no, but not torch the budding relationship? Assuming dates 1 and 2 are really great. Do I do the dumb bunny response? How exactly? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 02:56 PM |
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