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DebateSlipthe/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 03:49 PM
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Because generally jokes are made as actual commentary or criticism delivered with levity, or they are used to bring levity to a serious situation. If you tell jokes that disparage others at the wrong time, people might not be receptive because they think you're trying to make commentary about them or they think you are unserious in a situation or about a topic they think you should be serious about.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:56 AM
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Tbh those jokes aren't funny because they were told 20 years ago. Old news. Good comedy comes from the unexpected. Joking about women being bad drivers doesn't have the shock value it used to, lol nor is it even true given that young men have the highest car insurance rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:50 AM
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Yes because, get this, women can also have red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:13 AM
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Exactly. Feels good for 10 seconds and then it feels like nothing. I guess it's over stimulating.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:44 PM
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The only problem is if she chooses someone without a big dick. Now there's a tiny elephant in the room that she settled on something she was vocal about.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:41 PM
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Love is mutual giving, an earnest desire to make your partner happy, but your condition shows that is it still transactional. someone else willing to give. They have to be worthy of it and reciprical, which requires continual assessment of them. Love over time means you can deal with uneven give and take, but everyone has a limit to where it starts to eat away at the feeling of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:36 PM
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Probably because people are getting married 10-15 years later than they used to. So as the older gen dies off, the rate has lost a 10 year spanning group to inflate it, and that's probably even more disproportionate since there are more boomers than gen-z and alpha, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:29 PM
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Depends on your kid, but I'd say kids are a 'headache' up until they are old enough to be left alone in the house while you go to the store. Anything short of that, the need for 100% supervision is a 'headache' IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:26 PM
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Even though it's statistically few men, the consequences are dire if you let your guard down with the wrong stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 06:11 PM
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That's not gonna be popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 05:36 PM
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Hugging a tall guy feels like getting punched in the throat lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 03:50 PM
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The "just be yourself" mantra really just comes from sustainability. And it generally ties into your interests and how you express yourself. Faking too much of yourself could backfire and result in a lifestyle you don't enjoy with a partner you don't even like being around.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 03:45 PM
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Which problem for women is the same as the 'male loneliness epidemic'? From what I am thinking of, women's rights, wage gap, etc, of course men had to fix it because they were the ones in positions of power legislatively.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 03:24 PM
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Nah they aren't going to be alone, they just don't get as much, if any, casual sex. But maybe that's what you meant by screwed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 03:19 PM
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As long as their skin looks good and doesn't look leathery, yeah. I could be interested. It's highly contextual though and has to do with more than just appearance for whether I'd be attracted to an older man. In truth, they are almost always downgrades from their younger selves. It's an extreme outlier for young women to be interested in an older man who is also poor. There is always an undercurrent that dating someone older means you get access to more status, money, opportunity vs just dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 02:19 PM
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Yeah fair enough. Some people are plagued by things not being deeply clean. Idk if it's OCD or just anal retentive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:47 PM
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Yeah refusing to be competent is a killer of attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:39 PM
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Yup. A huge part of that socialization is that if people judge your cleanliness of your household, the woman is going to be judged more.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:34 PM
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Lmao that's gotta be environmental. I only dust like twice a year and I have not noticed any chronic cough or sneeze. Probably depends a lot on where you live and what dust producing materials are in your house.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:26 PM
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God I hate when managers are like "Yeah you can be really good at your job, but what else can you do?" Maybe I don't have it in me to climb the corporate ladder because I feel no compulsion to go above and beyond. I just want to do good work and have a nice time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 02:03 PM
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I think you’re collapsing a lot of very different behaviors into one bucket and calling all of it abuse. Lying to test your partner or setting traps like “I shouldn’t have to tell you” is absolutely unhealthy. No disagreement there. But not wanting sex because you feel hurt or disconnected isn’t 'withholding affection.' It’s just having a boundary.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 08:29 PM
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It’s not punishment. If your partner feels disappointed or upset, it’s possible they don’t feel connected, and to them, sex is the last thing they want when that connection is missing. And it's vicious cycle because sex the only thing the other partner wants to feel connected.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 07:17 PM
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Get in a fight because you didn't bring your spouse the fast food they said they didn't want? Congratulations, you get a little punishment called denial of connection. Lol, I’ll bite. If your partner’s love language is gifts and you had a clear opportunity to connect with them by doing that, then a denial of connection already happened. It just wasn’t the kind you weight most heavily. Not every absence of sex after conflict is control. Sometimes two people who already feel disconnected and one i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 05:34 PM
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Sometimes we can discuss beyond anecdotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 05:28 PM
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It is not antithetical to men feeling love and care for someone. I just don't believe they are expressing love through sex. The drive is much personal than interpersonal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 05:19 PM
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Not all brains are equal. Some are straight up chemical terrorists that fuck all your shit up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 05:16 PM
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slut encouragement is more common than slut shaming. One could argue this is an attempt at mutually assured destruction. "If everyone is a slut, then no one is, and then maybe I'll feel safe and secure about my choices." And it's also very concerted efforts to change society faster than it changes organically, which is why there's people who engage in it but possibly feel listless after their choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:47 PM
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Sex is a very emotional process to men, it does have to do with self worth, but it has little to do with the person they are having sex with. It's about hierarchy and feeling worthy in the world, not a connection to that person. That person is merely a vessel for a man to try to actualize and emotionally regulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:45 PM
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A huge part of that is, despite some people's wishes for sex to be devalued in society and culture, there are still puritanical views on sex. Not everywhere all at once, but it persists. Even I feel them in my own sense of worth about sex. So external forces are a big part of the emotional feeling or regret or being used, but it could very well be cognitive dissonance that someone wants to be more... free-spirited, yet emotionally and physiologically deals has a negative reaction to the choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:35 PM
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If sex were truly 'just carnal' or purely physical, it wouldn’t carry so much emotional weight. It would be something optional, enjoyable, but not something a person’s mood, self-worth, or emotional stability depends on.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:19 PM
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It is interesting that some men maintain that sex is 'just pleasure' or 'just carnal' while also placing so much worth, emotional security, and sense of identity onto it. Sex is very emotional for men, but it's not actually about connecting with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:39 PM
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Maybe covid was a factor for that, but it was definitely the norm for men to be losing their virginity in the 17-20 range 10 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 07:25 PM
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Not yet, but everyone runs in different circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 07:19 PM
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To be magnetic, charismatic and attractive enough to earn a reputation for it? Pretty rare. You already need to be pretty attractive. Can't think of any fat, bald men that have that reputation. I only know tall fun-loving, low anxiety fit guys who have had such a reputation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 05:00 PM
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Those aren't friends, those are mutuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:44 PM
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When I think about how many people I'd invite to a party... the list isn't that long. Anyone I wouldn't invite to spend time with in my home is not a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:13 PM
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That specific line is a meme.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:18 PM
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To be frank, to care enough to post anything here means you give some kind of a fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:16 PM
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You could say something like "I'd like you to be you to be more than just a warm body." Maybe that's too earnest, but it's true and kind of meaningful. And if you think they need their ego stroked and not come across as dismissive you can add "I'm sure you're SUPER warm."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:28 PM
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Well uh... are you sexually interested in them in any way? Seems like quite the uphill battle if flirty banter already gives you the ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:16 PM
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Tbh people still flirt and create sexual tension even if their goal is a serious relationship. Since committed relationships also involve sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:14 PM
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It's a feature, not a bug, because they are legitimately okay with non-conservatives being killed. No one buys this kind of rhetoic from the left since Charlie Kirk. Yes, eye for an eye. It's only fair. Except now it's secret police sanctioned by the administration doing the murders.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:50 AM
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Women are attractive to me the way nature or architecture is attractive to me. I don't know if you can call that physical attraction. But in the same way I'd want to be in a beautiful space, I'd want to bask in beautiful people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 04:28 AM
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Nah. Their constituents vote them in because of this immigration policy. There’s no incentive for them to stop it. The conservative tradeoff has always been collective punishment. If harming 100 innocent people means 1 “bad” person gets caught, that’s considered acceptable to them. That's their entire MO of taking away social programs, deporting hard working immigrants. It's a feature, not a bug, because they are legitimately okay with non-conservatives being killed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 04:18 AM
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RIP hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 03:55 AM
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Nope, not sure how many Americans need to be killed by ICE for congress to do something. Surely there's a number, and we aren't close. And each one gets spun as being a would-be assassin that had officers fearing for their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 03:54 AM
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Women didn't intimidate to earn the right, they disrupted and argued. Men do value women, so when they are going on hunger strikes as a protest, it affects men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 02:42 PM
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BoogeyMAN See? Patriarchy in action.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 02:39 PM
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Yup, my salary before compensation, because I referred her before the raises were announced. To add, I told her what what tools we use (which we used at the company she is currently at) and she is like "I don't want to make those. I just want to make powerpoints." And it's like I have to spoonfeed her, when she should be showing waaaay more eagerness to fulfill needs of this new role. So I think I'm comparing her to myself when I started. I was extremely grateful, and she's just jaded and alread…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 09:38 PM
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I just don't want to feel responsible for her or her work ethic. I gave the referral, but if she's a slacker, I don't want to feel like I have to manage her, despite being her equal in position... and salary. Somehow I was more amenable to 'managing' her if there was a clear difference between us.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 09:29 PM
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Man I referred a former coworker to my team and she asked for the same salary I make.. as of the raise I just got. I'm surprised at how much that bugs me. And I'm like... she can do the job, sure, but she has not proven she is as good as I am. I guess it stings because that would have been great leverage for a bigger raise for me but they literally just announced compensation this week. So it'll be almost a year before that conversation happens again. So now I feel this urge to sort of distance …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 08:05 PM
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Lol if you try to "train" it out of women, the population will collapse in a generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 03:54 PM
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I'm interested in interesting debate. I don't necessarily feel like I am defending my identity here, whereas I think people get triggered because that is the case for them. I also think people treat it as a team sport and that's how they derive satisfaction out of participating, which, fair enough. I think it's interesting to deconstruct and find parallels in the way the world operates, to think critically about why systems and biases exist, and to consider how that affects the world as a whole.…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:55 PM
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If someone didn't ACTUALLY value those aesthetics in themselves and wanted to be loved with their average body, I do think they will resent the amount of work required for a Greek god body. They will also feel insecure and vain because if they ever slip and regress, they might get abandoned. I don't think most people can sustain that unless they want it for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:16 PM
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I don't think they are considering long term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:07 PM
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Being someone you are not will lead to an eventual identity crisis. And make you extra resentful because you are doing things for someone else instead of yourself. And at a certain point if you are fully LARPing as something you can't actually sustain, then at some point the mask is going to drop and the reveal is going to completely put off the person you were trying to attract. Like if you are a furry and it would completely sadden you to never be a furry again, then... don't hide it from peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:06 PM
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My point is that taking risks that involve crossing boundaries is by definition non-consensual. The risk that comes from acting without knowing whether the other person wants it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:52 PM
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Yes, consent is not essential to the creation of life, as seen in the animal kingdom.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:10 PM
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I'm not framing all male sexual desire as rape. It's on a huge spectrum, and on a portion of the spectrum is taking risks and crossing boundaries because it can result in sex. And only because of that, is women's sexuality seen as comparatively 'good', because it has a much smaller expression of crossing boundaries. This is just statistical. And as they say, statistics mean nothing to the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 05:33 PM
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Actually, I've been seeing quite a bit of horseshoe ideology as feminism grabbles with transgenderism's reinforcement of gender roles. Definitely a lot of divides in feminism when it comes to intersectionality vs performative gender vs gender critical.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 05:06 PM
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Strawman, see above.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 05:05 PM
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Exactly, it's a huge spectrum, and they are not all equal but stem from the same mentality of 'crossing boundaries and taking risks may reward me with sex.'
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 05:04 PM
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Well gender roles have existed for a long time, and definitely inform a lot of perceptions and societal morals. It's not absolute, but it has been the status quo.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 05:03 PM
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Male desire is more often expressed through initiation, persistence, and escalation, even in the face of ambiguity or soft rejection. Female desire is more often expressed through selectivity and signaling IOIs. Because of that asymmetry, male desire is statistically more likely to be directed at someone who is not interested, while female desire is more likely to be directed at someone who already is, especially if you are in agreement that men have higher libidos in general. That difference sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 05:02 PM
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No one said “man wants sex = rape.” That's just a strawman. The actual point is that male desire is more often socially rewarded for persistence, while female desire is more often shaped around filtering and safety. That difference affects how identical behaviors are interpreted. And yes, persistent male sexual desire is a spectrum that INCLUDES rape, but there's a lot of other morally 'gray' things prior to that, LMR, cat calling, not taking no for an answer, hoping to get a woman to relent. Al…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 04:55 PM
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For sure, or the dad didn't really want to be a dad, and so they both resent each other, him for being trapped, and her for making a huge bodily sacrifice and being unsupported. Scenarios like that create /r/regretfulparents
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 04:45 PM
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Pfft, bird erasure. Them birds gotta sing a beautiful serenade to attract females on top of having pretty feather.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 04:42 PM
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Sucks for people who thought they were an investment lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 04:41 PM
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This is taking some of the mental load. A lot of people get decision fatigue from the household and job decisions, so something taking authorship of a small but persistent task like dinner is a relief. Assuming your choice doesn't cause more problems than it solves, i.e. a mess she's gotta clean up, or food that is consistently unhealthy, making her fat lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 04:38 PM
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Yes because male sexual desire is often forcing it, persistently, on an unwanted recipient. But given the disparity of desire, whenever women want sex, the odds are it's with a willing recipient. Does that make sense? There's a reason that there's a moral perception of male vs female desire. It's abundance and scarcity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 04:34 PM
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I guess as men became less masculine and less honorable, women had to pick up the traits to provide and protect themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 04:28 PM
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Of course there is also the scenario where she just is not into you and you are a free meal. That possibility exists in literally every dating interaction and does not magically explain all delayed sex as low desire or deception. "Pretending to be something she isn't" is obtuse, because we act differently with different people in our lives. We act differently with our parents, our bosses, our friends, strangers, lovers. It's not manipulative, it's a form of code switching.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 04:23 PM
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It's not that she finds them sexier, it's that she's actually less attached to the guy she sleeps with fast and cares less about his judgment of her. For men she is both sexually AND romantically interested in, she doesn't want to fuck it up by acting desperate or easy. I think in many ways restraining oneself from sex shows poise and is demure, thus a more feminine, attractive trait to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 04:03 PM
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The way I see it, there's a limiting threshold to how much someone can value you for being their best sex ever. But there is no such limit on how much someone can love you for making them feel loved, seen, valued, respected, special etc. Being the best partner scratches an itch much higher on the hierarchy of needs. Both are fallible though, if someone takes you for granted or treats you as an object. Plus people don't know you are their best, only the best so far. So they can still think the gr…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:55 PM
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Not having sex with someone as fast as possible doesn't mean you don't sexually desire them. It can often mean you care about the optics of having sex with someone as fast as possible and are resisting the urge.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:50 PM
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I misread that as "Men usually love their partners and are attracted to other females." And I was like... so true.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:48 PM
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This is where the term morally gray comes from. Comes down to motivations and intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 04:52 PM
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I am quite sure men fall victim to the "grass is greener" and leave relationships. If anyone was unhappy in a relationship and truly believed there was a better option out there or right in front of them, they will be tempted to take it. It's just not usually that black and white and there are other inhibitors like sunk cost, fear of destitution, fear of loss and loneliness etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 01:52 PM
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New drag queen name I just thought of Tomi Yulovmi
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 02:58 AM
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Sex is pedestrian, celibacy is enlightenment. Hence the reverence we have for monks. They are much more pure in their virtues, unadulterated by motivations of hedonism.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 11:34 PM
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The bar of being more present than their own fathers were... still puts the bar low.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 11:27 PM
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People will point to there being more aspiring adoptive parents than there are white babies for them to adopt.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 11:25 PM
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That is gossip lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:36 AM
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I prefer some build up. A single date isn't nearly enough anticipation. I want to be squirming over how much I want that person. That and, one date just feels like a convenience, a second date feels intentional. So uh... at least the second. Unless it was someone I knew for weeks or months prior to the first date, and I already was in deep limerence for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:35 AM
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Clarity is helpful. People say 'dating' when referring to exclusive relationships too. It's vague.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:32 AM
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I don't think they'd complain, I think they'd be vindicated lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:29 AM
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Money money money money. If you are white in a foreign country, there's probably a lot of assumptions being made about you and how much money you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:20 AM
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It's not a reward for men, women want to have sex with men they are attracted to. They just want security that the dude won't fuck off after they have sex, that they want the same things beyond sex, and they don't want him to turn out to be someone they regret having met at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:18 AM
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It probably does if a guy is working full time with a demanding schedule and takes a more passive approach to dating at that point in his life. He might be too busy to be cold messaging on OLD all the time, doing first dates over and over, and thus doesn't mind the courting period for awhile because it gives that girlfriend-lite experience in between seeing each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:14 AM
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It's catering to generations of patriarchal views on women and sex. Puritanical culture did not evaporate, and it ebbs and flows with each generation, but there is always a prevailing sentiment that a woman having sex quickly or frequently is a whore, slut, "not one you take home to mama." Some people ignore it, and ultimately it doesn't infringe on their lifestyle and majority of relationships, but they still experience the judgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:09 AM
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Perhaps a different age bracket than yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:04 AM
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Yeah, it's honestly a vulnerable feeling to be attracted to someone. It's so easy to make a fool of myself for doing too much, and being eager for their approval with sex is one of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:00 AM
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If I was supposed to be with him, he would have been better at assuaging those fears instead of acting like everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 02:50 AM
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Doesn't mean I'm not sexually attracted. It means that I see more cons than pros to having sex on the first date. And most of that is fear of regret, fear of optics and judgment, fear of being too easy and desperate. I'm sure the exception is if I had a first date with someone, but I had known them for months and months prior to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:00 AM
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Why stare at her if you aren't going to talk to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 03:18 PM
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You merely adopted the cringe. I was born in it, molded by it. Basically, ain't no one cringe these days except the people who would have ended up on /r/cringe. And that's a person who... is a few sandwiches short of a picnic.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:22 AM
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I think some people just come to this subreddit completely pissed off and go on downvoting sprees because it feels like a small win for them lol. Really you are doing your part in providing them that small scant catharsis. Very philanthropist of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:18 AM
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Good.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:17 AM
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Whelp, at least you can feel good when you win the battle for being the most boring. That'll really show 'em. I know some people feel indignant about 'performing' as interesting or fun loving, but I personally find satisfaction in being witty and clever and perceptive... so "Hey" sucks. Not to mention that shit PMO because people do that shit at work instead of just saying what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:14 AM
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Well it used to be a subreddit lmao. So in that sense it had a community.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:11 AM
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Yup snark is like 90% women. And it's all about tearing someone down.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:11 AM
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Meeeow. You keep calling your tone neutral, but your replies are full of little personal jabs. Claiming I'm saddled with issues and I'd benefit from fixing myself. Nothing neutral bout that. Pointing out where your language reads dramatic or smug isn’t the same thing as feeling attacked by the logic. I agreed the reasoning was fine. Lmao and now you're just doubling down on the smugness. Or your ChatGPT. Can't tell which one I'm talking to at this point, since you both write the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:20 AM
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Lol, it's dramatic, snide, scolding, mocking, smug: Alright — I’m answering your actual question, not skirting it, not moral-lecturing… Smug You handed me a forced-choice trolley-problem-on-water… Dramatic mockery Not because he’s “better.” Not because bipolar is disqualifying. Not because spanking is worse or food issues are trivial. Chastising/scolding You've deffo trained your ChatGPT to be catty and smug lol. I don't take issue with the logic at all, I'm just noticing the tone of it. And iro…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 11:45 PM
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Man you have a catty GPT lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 11:06 PM
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Yeah people can't seem to spot their own leading questions. We actually used to have a rule about that here to not have leading questions in the post titles. People break the rule a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 10:01 PM
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The machine tells you about you. It has contextual data about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 09:57 PM
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Yes, free from obligation, but at the expense of any emotional needs that don't get fulfilled by friends or family. People like getting coupled up though, for the needs it fulfils, and the satisfaction and security of having someone to share life with. And the logistical ease of having someone else to raise your shared children with, or someone who provides for you when you cannot provide for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:14 PM
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Jacob Elordi might be the sub 30 sex symbol. But yeah, there's no real brat pack of hot men like there were in previous generations. But tbh I have only seen Elordi as a villain, so I find him to be unsettling at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:10 PM
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Henry Cavill is the new Brad Pitt as far as sex symbol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 11:38 PM
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Lol are 21+ BMI women lining up?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 01:51 AM
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I don't know man. Some men work so god damn hard to find the opportunities to cheat. It's quite the spectrum. Passive dread is being attractive to other people, but there's so much more than goes into it with cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 01:47 AM
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You can feel ambitious, but pragmatically you know that adding an income to yours makes it... bigger.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 09:38 PM
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Why would I want to be with someone I feel none of those things for? Ambition and a desire for family.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:54 PM
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People don't change easily. This is what I said. There is a difference between expecting someone to transform their hobbies, personality or lifestyle vs honoring the most basic element of monogamy, which is not having sex with other people. Everything beyond that becomes a push and pull to reshape someone into a version of themselves they never claimed to be, even though you chose to date them based on who they already were. Boundaries are about the structure of the relationship. Trying to redes…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:50 PM
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What relationship did you ask for and they agreed to? Monogamy? Are all promisciuous women also liars and cheaters? Or do they have a history of having sex without betraying long term partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:42 PM
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Yes that's the one thing that defines monogamy. Exclusivity. Everyone has different degrees to which they expect exclusivity, the only one 'by default' is to not have romantic and sexual relationships with other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:40 PM
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It's not about fairness. If you date someone because you want them to change, you're just taking a risk. People don't change easily. You date them for potential, then you could end up disappointed. You gotta be clear what you want from them, and it's up to them to rise to that or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:33 PM
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You're talking about baseline attraction. But baseline attraction isn't lust. Lust for women is reactive to more than just whether a guy is their type. It's the flirting, confidence, scent, fitted clothes, competence, the way he carries himself, the way he touches her, the way he looks at her, the timing, the energy he brings into the room. It's not a binary for women. A lot of women have experienced a guy going from mildly interesting to intensely desirable because of how he interacts with them…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:29 PM
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Everyone wants to feel special, no one wants to be judged. But everyone gets defensive when they are afraid of being abandoned. And men's lust can seem so indiscriminate that of course it doesn't make women feel special, and it makes women feel like they could be abandoned on account of the indiscriminate lust men have. I don't know if women's desire for love inspires the same kind of fear of abandonment that men's lust does for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:21 PM
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I think you're imagining a woman 'begging' you to lust after her. Mobjack is talking about implicit behaviors and intentional efforts on your part to make yourself as appealing as possible. You're gonna lust after a woman who takes care of herself, dresses nice, isn't fat etc, isn't annoying or disgusting... That same woman, but with the veneer of homelessness and meth would probably not inspire lust.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:19 PM
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Not sure if it's double standards, or men just lack standards for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:17 PM
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Some men are gay for women. Also maybe someone like John Buttfinger wants to change his last name lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:14 PM
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Yup the existence of bitcoin and stocks renders this a no-brainer. If you're too old for bitcoin? Invest in Apple, Disney, Nvidia, Microsoft, the whole deal. We can all be Biff from Back to the Future
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 12:54 AM
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Well sorry I just feel taken advantage of when I go to Chipotle and they want a tip. The 60 seconds of work they did is worth 10% at best. Like fast casual and takeout restaurants discovered over covid that you can skim your customers for more money for no reason other than social impetus to not look like an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 12:48 AM
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My server friend said that if she made $100k a year she would tip like 30-40% on every meal and drink. And I'm over here annoyed that they don't list 10% anymore as an option lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 11:12 PM
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It would be so baffling and incongruent with their character that I'd doubt everything I knew about them. We'd need some couples therapy or radical honesty to have any hope in saving the marriage. My gut reaction is that I'd want a hall pass to make it even, not out of revenge but for parity. But I'm sure that never helps. Now I'm really curious to read about stories on reddit where people tried that after their partner cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 04:19 PM
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You might think this, but from the woman's perspective, having NSA sex means she doesn't care what your opinion of her is. The courting process is her trying to be as appealing as possible (which for many men means... not acting loose.) The other element is that women also enjoy the anticipation, the sexual tension, the build up. So savoring each step is a more enjoyable experience vs just getting to PIV as soon as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 04:11 PM
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Look out the window or somethin'. lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:55 AM
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I think job matters more than college degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:54 AM
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Probably paired with a compliment. "Are those natural? They look amazing." And if they are fake, then you would say, "Well worth it, they turned out great."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:35 PM
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The top 40 is dominated by Taylor Swift's whole album. I just looked it up today because I'm going to a skate rink that said the music will be 'top 40 pop'. Eugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:23 PM
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LASIK? I was so satisfied with my results, that I would go through with it every year if that's what it took to maintain it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:22 PM
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True, but the forever alone guys would still settle for this... they just haven't been given the opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:21 PM
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Tiny waist. Nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:19 PM
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Do you feel genuine excitement when anyone in your life announces they are having a baby? I have yet to have that reaction. Granted I don't even get excited when people get engaged, lol idgaf until I get a wedding invite.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:18 PM
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You want kids? You worried that squeezing out a couple of pups will expand your waistline and ribcage?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:19 AM
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Probably for the same reason a lot of people celebrate Christmas in the US nondenominationally. It's an iconic consumer holiday.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:19 AM
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If a man is competitive, does that mean negging would be really effective on him?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 11:02 PM
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Do you mean just waistbanding your boner?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 03:40 PM
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When it comes to cold approaching or sending IOIs, I'd say the majority of women are very risk averse. Think of all the things women do on tinder dates to make sure they are safe. Sharing locations, neutral meeting places.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:18 PM
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It's a Schrodinger's cat situation. They could be, but being around another woman suggests they are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:11 PM
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I don't think you'd care about her if she 'looked' 58 either.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:08 PM
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You're perceived as safer to approach and less desperate if you're around women. You also can get incidentally acknowledged by people who were originally interacting with the women around you. Especially if those women are attractive, they could be the ones turning heads first.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:04 PM
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I have no sympathy for him. Cheating is social suicide, and this reaction of people seeing malice in all your past actions is a consequence of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 10:26 PM
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Ah if she wasn't there, then those girls were just doing it for their own validations, trying to prove they had the right intuition about him etc. Which I also find somewhat understandable. If someone gets exposed for doing selfish asshole betrayal shit, you start looking to see if there were patterns or motivations.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 10:09 PM
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Imagine how much they talked behind his back and already looked down on him before he cheated in the first place. They probably didn't. You probably would have heard it. Right now they are venting and disparaging him to try to make it hurt less. Makes perfect sense. Not gonna feel as much loss if you convince yourself you were settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 10:00 PM
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Cooperation is. We are incentivized to do so because we interact with each other over and over again.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 08:21 PM
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If you're not confident in getting hookups, it's gonna be hard to cheat. Plus, if you're with a paranoid girl, she's gonna suspect you and be rifling through your shit and expose you before you ever get a change to secure a hook up. I just find the emotional turmoil and reputation risk too great to be a serial cheater. And of course, things don't go as you plan, so there could be a number of financial and social entanglements that make all of this much messier.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:35 PM
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Lol those are some pretty wide ranges. 5 years is normal, average. 17 year age gap is not common. And of course, it's an even smaller percentage that has nothing to do with financial incentive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:30 PM
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It's just not long term thinking. So what even is the end goal here? Date women for a month or two, cheat on her, ad nauseum? Until you feel satisfied and find a woman that you... will marry and not cheat on? Hoping no one in your life found out about your behavior and could compromise this desired relationship? Just seems like bad OPSEC. You don't even know what 'experience' you are getting. Sounds very abstract and goalless. More over, it sounds like by doing this you are actually getting an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:24 PM
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I mean two things are true. That luxuries have become cheaper, and people are more likely to impulsively spend on luxuries and convivences vs 50 years ago. But also it is mathematically twice as hard to buy a house on the median household income vs 50 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:19 PM
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Grandma better be blowin' if she wants that paycheck.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:17 PM
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Yeah, if you are in a committed relationship. Those come with an intermingling of social circles that can find out about you cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:17 PM
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No, probably not worth ruining your reputation just because you had FOMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:14 PM
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Basically asking if people would prefer to never work again for the rest of their lives... at the expense of having a nuclear family.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:10 PM
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Ever since Charlie Kirk died, my aunt has been real uppity on Facebook. Now shes's posting this today. "I’m so tired of hearing “Our grandparents could buy a house on one salary, but now we can’t even afford rent on two!” Yeah, because Grandma wasn’t blowin’ half her paycheck on $12 iced coffee and avocado toast, that’s why!"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:08 PM
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Another martyr that was executed in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 09:07 PM
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Okay that is very morally consistent. But there is one more. George Floyd.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 09:00 PM
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Yeah but did you have that same concern when people were celebrating the shooting of the United Healthcare CEO? It seemed like everyone was overwhelmingly cool with it because everyone had biases against healthcare, billionaires or both. And I have to wonder what the right's reaction would have been if Hasan Piker was murdered. I can imagine even Trump saying, "Maybe he shouldn't have done XYZ." Like I am disappointed in the left for being incapable of STFU. For making a show of how much apathy …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 08:54 PM
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Sure fair. But it's a 'don't bite the hand that feeds thing'. Men seem to dismiss and brush off women IRL shit talking male sexuality. The women you are sexually interested in may not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 06:13 PM
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Probably when Mrs Drgree was still here
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 03:04 PM
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Do you mean... black pill? Because red pill still tries, it's black pill that says it's hopeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 03:01 PM
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Man in Utah is caught by minister? Because conservatives tend to be religious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 12:55 PM
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Man it doesn't even matter who the assassin was. When it of course comes out that he's a conservative, it won't give pause because the right can point to the left's reaction to his death and say "Look how many leftists reveled in his death or reveled in their own apathy." That was a massive L that millions and millions of people needed to project their glee or disdain for empathy for the situation and lash out instead of STFU for a few days until the shooter was caught.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 12:52 PM
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I think the only good thing to come of out of this assassination would be gun regulation. It's too easy to get a gun. We need education, exams, training, mental and medical health evaluations, and renewals. If you really feel like a gun is needed to protect yourself, you need to prove you are 'the good guy with the gun'. There's too many god damn guns in our country.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 09:45 PM
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Ope seeing this post about his face visibly drooping, maybe he did have a stroke and couldn't record the video. Oh man, they can completely Weekend at Bernie the president with AI.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 09:31 PM
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I'm just here hoping that a liberal figure can make some positive political or culture change instead of dancing on his grave or rubbing people's noses in it. That's the one thing the left lacks, unification. And we have extremists on the left saying revolution is the only option, you can't be tolerant of the intolerant, you can't reason with nazis. So they make it clear that they lack empathy for the intolerant, they do believe violence is the only way to make progress. And of course we got ext…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 08:38 PM
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Any possibility is likely, but none of that colors my perception of what happened until actual facts come to light.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 07:15 PM
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It's allll over my Instagram... but I'm a liberal so I'm fed liberal content, and within the comments of nearly any liberal video about this, there's a lot of people saying this is karma and deserved, that he was a bad person and the world is better without him. That's celebration.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:57 PM
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The only one I have seen floating around is that this was orchestrated to draw attention away from Trump and the Epstein files, to unify his base that was starting to divide based on their opinions of pedophilia. But isn't it just as likely that it's a lone wolf who disagreed with Kirk's politics? If the shooter never gets caught I'd be more inclined to think it's a conspiracy, because we live in a surveillance state so there's footage to be found of this person, and if they never find it, then …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:52 PM
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Hard to know until they catch the suspect. Until then, it is conveniently just 'their' fault. Insert whoever you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:40 PM
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To be honest, I would only get the ick if he handled himself worse than I did under pressure. Which is such a low bar, my brain shuts down, I can't think. So it's probably not fair, but if he can't react and just stands there, even if it means surrendering items to supplicate the robbers, I'd feel like my partner can't protect either of us. That's indeed a visceral feeling that when it comes down to life or death, you can't trust your own partner. And maybe he'd feel the same about me. But maybe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:36 PM
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I am all powerful
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:26 PM
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I think the irony is palpable, but anyone who says it is karma or that he deserved it is in a small part celebrating his death. Additionally, many people who usually care about gun violence care more about being smug than actually showing concern for gun violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:24 PM
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I hope I'd be worth many goats for my hand in marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:17 PM
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Just saw my Facebook friend has her wedding anniversary on 9/11/2023. Bit of a yikes honestly. Hope they got a discounted rate for choosing that auspicious date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:16 PM
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I don't think men date women based on their 'potential'.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 10:20 PM
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I thought surrogacy was double that. Looking into it, the surrogate makes between $40k and $80k, but the agency makes between $25k and $60k, and then the cost of the IVF is separate from both of those and is an additional $15k to $25k.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 10:18 PM
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I'm not looking for equal, I'm looking for fair. When I made less, I paid fewer bills. Now that I make the same, it's even. But we do not keep track of who pays what. There is no tit for tat.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 10:07 PM
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It's weird to me that Trump's announcement of his death emphasizes that Kirk has a BEAUTIFUL wife. Like there's a tone deafness to being like, "The man is dead, but hoo boy what a nice piece of ass."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 09:49 PM
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It's crazy that Minnesota politicians were assassinated earlier this year, yet no doubt this will have WAY more impact because it was done in the light of day, in a crowd, with multiple video angles. I am usually not very dramatic about the state of the country, but this shooting is going to cause more violence. We are already in a fucked up state with the national guard being deployed to our own cities, people being kidnapped in unmarked vans and shipped out of the country... The president is i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 08:55 PM
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No... I don't have that many versions of the same product.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 02:53 AM
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No he'd just have his own autonomy and conviction and wouldn't desperately say or do whatever I wanted just to keep access. Someone who is not compelled to be with you but chooses to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:32 PM
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Not a sycophant
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:09 PM
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That would result in more children then they can realistically care for. So biologically it makes sense for women to have limits.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:54 PM
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Because if they cheat they feel like they can explore and scratch that itch without destabilizing their entire life to do it. Having their cake and eating it too. And leaving your wife or husband of 18 years to try out some strange doesn't often leave the door open for reconciliation. There's a lot of resentment to being abandoned.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:50 PM
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Other men do manage to form and sustain deep friendships, both with other men and sometimes women, and even if they lack the depth of some female-female relationships, the breadth and larger network of male-male relationships compensates. That shows it’s possible within the same societal conditions. I think there is a deficiency there, because there's a level of showing up and being attentive as a friend that allows many men to have flourishing friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:46 PM
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Eh fair enough. It's never that clean of a break though. People feel compelled to stay longer because they don't like the optics of ending a long relationship just because they want to try something new. So people cheat. But they also do that well before the kids move out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:39 PM
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So if you have the expectation of marriage ending, what amount of time is worth it to justify getting married?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:51 PM
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I do, it's a somewhat new thing in my adult life, but it's nice to have friends who are open to that form of affection.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:48 PM
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Some women want kids and a nuclear family. The women who enjoy their lives without a man either already have kids, and got divorced, or don't want kids. Financially it is easier to live with someone. As far as why you'd choose living with a partner instead of just roommates, It's convenient to live with someone you love, and are attracted to, and get your emotional needs fulfilled by. It sounds reductive, but I'm trying to break it down so that it makes more sense to someone who doesn't already …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:41 PM
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Because in your scenario there is no more status to get from a man. You purported that the woman is a supreme empress. In reality, a lot of women have a lot of security to gain by choosing a man with status, influence or wealth. And even though that is the case for many women, not all women have a prime operative of finding a man with status. Some women are self sufficient and don't need the extra security.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 03:00 PM
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I just need one partner. Yeah in theory I'd pick a husband I respect, not a sycophant. I'd probably already have plenty of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 02:57 PM
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If I'm a supreme empress, I don't need to marry or date someone for more power. So I'd just be choosing someone I enjoy the company of. Probably someone who is exceptionally charismatic. I'm sure if you are a supreme anything you start to think everyone is beneath you... Kind of in the name. And people tend to reinforce the dynamic because they will twist themselves into whatever you want because they want to benefit from your power and influence. So the goal would be to find a partner who is no…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:35 PM
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No you'd probably not want to spend time around people who think you are too ugly to love. They'd be a reminder of it because they said it to your face.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:27 PM
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I have no idea what kind of man that would result in. Maybe I'd pay for a therapist to vet men. They have to go through like a dozen sessions with a therapist so then I know exactly what their deep seated flaws are that usually come out a year or two into a relationship. I don't expect perfection, but I would filter to find men whose flaws don't deeply conflict with my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:22 PM
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Eh. I probably wouldn't bring her around my friends and family. If she's extremely open about what she does, I wouldn't want to deal with my dad trying to find my friends OnlyFans or some shit. But if she had a 'cover' job that she tells people it would be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:28 AM
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I already explained a downside. Encouraging women into the workforce without rebalancing domestic expectations created the double burden of paid and unpaid labor. That's capitalism, consumerism, feminism, recessions, wage stagnation, inflation, all bundled up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:23 AM
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Industrialization, automation, urbanization, capitalism, economies of scale, consumerism, wage stagnation, inflation, wars, globalization, individualism, medical advancement, recessions, depressions, the internet, social media, cell phones... All this contributes to the negative outcomes you are trying to identify.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:14 PM
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It's a wary choice. I don't think stay-at-home moms plan for their husband to divorce them in the future thus requiring them to work to support themselves. Yet divorce happens. The feminist agenda is saying that it is a huge risk to depend on someone financially and forsake your own ability to support yourself. People will gamble, but it should be done with eyes wide open.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:07 PM
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Women being empowered to enter the workforce didn't come with restructuring household expectations. Women still do more housework. Not sure if that's because of feminism empowering women to do it all or because of sexist thinking that it's women's work. Any other 'negative' outcomes can't be reduced to feminism alone as the cause. Too many things have changed in the last 100 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:01 PM
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It's the volume.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 04:05 PM
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I definitely lean more sex negative. It's both the physical disgust of higher STD risks and just the sheer volume of flesh being exchanged as well as the objectification and desperation that goes along with needing to pay for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:39 PM
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No, not equally, because civilian women haven't rubbed genitals with as many people at the prostitutes Johns visit. But I certainly still think a fuckboy is gross in his own right, but not to the same degree as a John.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 04:12 AM
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People aren’t pulling this reaction out of thin air. It comes from seeing how often age gaps are tied to exploitation, unhealthy obsession, and a loss of innocence. It comes from their own experiences with all of it. When people then appeal to biology or fertility, it just reinforces the idea that women are being reduced to vessels. It makes sense that this sparks a deep, subconscious disgust.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 08:45 PM
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Sounds like gen Z too
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:41 PM
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No the prostitution and Johns is just another visceral disgust thing. Dipping your wick in that well is just gross. And men should understand this well because they too have a visceral reaction to the town bike.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:37 PM
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Nah it could just be the case that they go after mid but young women who see it as an opportunity to skip ahead in life by having a wealthier partner. Very little to do with looks. I mean look at all the bald fat 40 year olds who still pull younger women. It's money.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:34 PM
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I'm realizing the visceral disgust women feel at age gaps is probably similar to the visceral disgust men feel at women's high body count. The rest is just spinning the hamster wheel to see if logic can justify the feeling you already had. And then there's probably people who are disgusted by both. Puritans unite.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:25 AM
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Yeah you're absolutely correct, and that does kind of prove my point... because the biology argument goes a lot younger than 29...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:19 AM
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Ugh and the other thing is skin. Older men get wrinkly chest skin from not using sunscreen, and it reminds me of my dad and gives me crazy ick. the girl is mid and can’t compete with the more attractive girls her own age, This is an interesting thought as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:16 AM
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Visceral disgust isn’t the exact same as logical reasoning. It’s a reflex, not an argument. What’s really being reacted to isn’t the person’s actual age, it’s the idea of youth itself being sought out. So you're trying to logic your way into people's approval when generally the only 'logic' being applied is that if someone likes them young... they'll like them even younger... and so forth.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:12 AM
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Women just remember what it was like to be preyed on by older men. It's a visceral disgust seeing their cohorts end up doing the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 01:59 AM
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What do you want in a partner? Does it have anything to do with being enjoyable to be around? What makes someone, in your opinion, enjoyable to be around?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:24 PM
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I'm wondering what you find in women that is enjoyable to be around. Are you clinging to traditional gender roles?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:22 PM
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You want someone to enjoy your company. That's the whole point of romantic relationships. So... be enjoyable. That's it. I don't know what you feel compelled to mask, but if you aren't fun to be around... that's really all there is to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:19 PM
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I still have no idea what tf JK Rowling did.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:18 AM
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I don't browse the app store just to see what's hot lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 08:50 PM
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For sure, social anxiety affects lots of people and can change over time with effort or exposure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:59 PM
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Being charismatic isn't the opposite of shy. Outgoing is the opposite of shy, doesn't guarantee you are smooth and received well, just means you aren't avoidant.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:58 PM
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I don't know any shy men that stopped being shy. Friends, exposure therapy, getting older, feeling competent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:48 PM
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Problem is they begrudgingly opt out, or think that being extremely vocal about it will make people come crawling out of FOMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:47 PM
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Uh oh he better hurry up and settle down before people figure him out!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:39 PM
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Crazy how I've never heard of this app until these last two posts. Is this an ad?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:37 PM
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It's not that dramatic. If women pursue men, the women become an easy lay of opportunity for that man. Doesn't have to be abusive, just emotionally uninvested in the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:31 PM
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Probably depends on sunk cost. Bird in the hand, two in the bush and all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:28 PM
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What is your philosophy on money?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 08:34 PM
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How often does a homebody leave the house?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 04:14 PM
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Outsourcing emotional processing to partners or friends instead of internalizing it This isn't emotional intelligence, this is repression.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 02:14 PM
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Lol and by the end of the day they will know nothing about each other. Male friendships are based on vibes. Not a shared interest in each other's thoughts and lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 02:13 PM
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So many em dashes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 02:11 PM
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Not sure why they'd bother posting here when there are actual adultery subreddits that might empathize with them. That makes it seem like bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:12 PM
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There's nothing more selfish than asking for scantily clad photos.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:10 PM
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I think a lot of cheating happens within the context of some sort of a moral double bind. Expand on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:08 PM
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Yes and choosing your desire over their dignity, health, and wellbeing suggests that there is a shallow limit to the depth of your love. You aren't as in love as you purport to be. It is what it is, people fall out of love, and you might be in denial about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:26 PM
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Hell yeah brother. Up top.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:19 PM
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They might be, just not with that person they are cheating on.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:18 PM
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I wouldn't say... very much. Unless he consented to non-monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:17 PM
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Men being considered less attractive is because they lack aesthetic. Like goth and emo dudes fuck. Because they appeal to something instead of just being as generic as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:16 PM
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You might have a point if men stopped using porn once in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:13 PM
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Lmao. Do men consider women who look like absolute dogs to be wife material? Or do both genders only reserve 'husband' or 'wife' material for people they are actually attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:09 PM
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Guys here think women dislike “husband material” men because they themselves dislike “wife material” women. Oh now that's a good line.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:05 PM
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If people want to stop prioritizing dating simply because they don't want to put in the effort to change themselves or their situation... that's fine. That's their choice. As long as they stfu they can secretly yearn for whatever they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 03:52 PM
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It's no different than celebrity worship, just with a dose of parasocial connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 08:31 PM
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Building or buying an ass is just a new marker of luxury. Building an ass brings you closer to an hourglass if you didn't have it before.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 08:54 PM
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Yes, best not to look inward.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 08:52 PM
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Yes that's how attraction works for both genders. The 'average' man can be attractive however.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 10:58 PM
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I'm imagining that TikTok captured even the men who touted to not be on social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 08:06 PM
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Sure, attractive men are rare and get more attention, just like attractive women. Some women do engage in casual sex, have lots of options, and prefer rare, hot men in those contexts. Novelty and physical attraction can be powerful. But that doesn’t mean women drop all standards or that anything meaningful usually comes from it. What you're describing is surface-level behavior that plays out in specific situations, not a universal truth about women or what they actually want long term. A hot guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 06:22 PM
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This has me pontificating on sunk cost fallacy. Is it entirely a fallacy? Like if you leave a relationship of 20 years, you lose more than just the relationship. So many other relationships with friends and in-law family are now strained or severed. You lose your living arrangements, some amount of wealth, you lose a second income, lose a lot of plans and security for the future, if you have kids you lose the nuclear family etc. It probably takes a long ass time to recover all those things, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 06:09 PM
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Oh for sure. My algorithm is full of people calling out relationship dynamics or illustrating weaponized incompetence. Because that shit is ragebait for women and gets engagement. Similar to this subreddit. The discourse gets people heated, and they like feeling that way, regardless of if it's representative of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 06:04 PM
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Women are more notorious for being addicted to their phones Maybe pre-2020. But social media has changed. TikTok, YouTube shorts, etc. Men consume from their phones.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 06:01 PM
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Nah see now Blue Prince is the rage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:35 AM
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I was juuust reading an article about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:32 AM
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I wanna go to Bangkok this year. 🍜🍖☕
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:42 AM
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Drinking alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:41 AM
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Yeah it's pretty topical for straight white women to have a problem with this phrasing during pride month. Really taking a W and turning it into an L with all the infighting over words.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:27 AM
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Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:16 AM
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"The girls are fighting" in reference to Trump and Elon apparently makes some women upset. They think it's misogynistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:11 AM
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You should always strive for above average. But at some point you gotta question the actual value of luxuries vs the time it takes you to make the money to pay for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 02:09 AM
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Where do you have good debates?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 02:05 AM
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It is satisfying to see the right cannibalize itself in the way the left does.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 08:17 PM
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I'm learning gen Z and gen alpha like/don't care about staged videos are presented as real. They don't think it makes something less funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 08:03 PM
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Wonder how that'll effect the car market. A mad dash for people to buy before the credit expires. Tbh the new car credit was kind of a wash because the cars usually lose $7500 in value the second they drive off the lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 07:41 PM
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RIP, I was gonna buy an EV this year.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 07:29 PM
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Is Elon doing a stunt? Is he trying to publicly separate himself from Trump, but behind closed doors they are still in bed with each other? Seems like he's just being performative because he doesn't like that everyone hates him and Tesla now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 07:13 PM
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That's... RMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 08:49 PM
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I should hope people marry someone they consider attractive...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 08:49 PM
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It's funny that my only dilemma for pirating things is that they won't have achievements on the game...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 08:46 PM
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Nope, you can conceal quite a lot. SMV is all about perception, not reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 08:45 PM
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Since women are increasingly free :(
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 07:57 PM
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Which renders this thread pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 12:12 PM
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Women do be attracted to personality. Sounds boring and frustrating to spend time with someone who you don't actually get along with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:21 PM
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I quite literally do not want to know how the sausage is made.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 10:58 PM
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They kidnap kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 10:57 PM
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It can, but it also can shine through in 20 minutes of conversation to the point where you start getting a crush.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 04:26 PM
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He better like me if he's flirting with me. He may not know our compatibility and values, but if he's flirting with me it's obviously only meaningful if he is attracted to me and likes my personality. How long does that take for him to decide? Maybe like 20 minutes. Vetting is something entirely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 04:20 PM
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Yeah it's uh... going from illegal to... legal. Bit of a vibe shift.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 01:34 AM
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This is probably going too far down whatever 'doomsday' scenario is being tossed around here, but I think the point is if men evaporated today, women could still procreate using leftover sperm. But if women evaporated, humanity would just die off. So that lack of procreation parity still colors perception of which needs the other more.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 01:07 AM
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Doesn't matter if it's less efficient. Anything would be less efficient if personnel was cut in half and replaced by people with zero experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 12:59 AM
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Do you think women can do that? If they had to. Same as if all the white collar men who spend time on reddit would have to figure out how to mine the coal and run the power lines without the guidance of the experts.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 12:46 AM
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I don't think it's misanthropy. I think society has shifted towards individualism and agency of expression in a culture that no longer demands constant propriety and politeness. People aren’t sent to finishing school to learn how to entertain and appease anymore. There's less pressure to keep up appearances for the sake of fitting into rigid social roles. That doesn’t mean people hate each other more, it means they’re prioritizing authenticity and boundaries over forced pleasantries. In fact, I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 08:38 PM
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Men couldn't create these modern luxuries if they were charged with entirely raising their own children, making their own meals, keeping their own house in order. Idk why this is even being argued. Clearly both sexes benefit from each other's labor. Both can 'survive' without each other. But not thrive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 08:29 PM
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they want to sit there while the man performs and then slit his throat the moment he fucks up Lmao I don't entirely disagree, but such drama, really trying to sell it there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 07:34 PM
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Everyone's attitude is worse about everything. Divisiveness creates engagement which is profitable. Outrage gets attention which is profitable. Overall attitudes are not going to improve unless people unplug from the content consumption profit machines. People like to argue online for sport. Hence the debate part of PurplePillDebate.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 07:31 PM
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Eh, some of those places also fuck themselves over by having preference for male babies, and end up killing or abandoning the female ones, leading to a poor gender distribution. I'm sure that causes problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 05:30 PM
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how women wish men understood the "you can't win" feeling coming from that. It's really just this. In recent history, men felt much more entitled to a woman's attention and politeness, and society reinforced that. Things are shifting now, and women are less polite because... well, time is valuable. Fawning and entertaining a man you have zero interest in, only for him to interpret your politeness as an invitation for him to argue more and convince you to like him is just... a waste of time. Blam…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 05:26 PM
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become the dominant sex. Do all animals have a dominance hierarchy? Why do we assume if strength is equal that women will then dominate men? Because of thirst? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 05:17 PM
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Problem is conservatives believe they are all temporarily embarrassed billionaires, so they continue to fight for the interests of the elite because they think that's their future. How do you break that illusion? The American Dream was a powerful motivator.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 03:26 PM
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Anti-Intellectualism You could argue the same for wokeism though. Suppression of debate, ideological purity testing to enforce conformity, appealing to lived experience over evidence, cancel culture, language policing, tone policing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 03:20 PM
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Which example was she outright transphobic? People allude to it but I haven't seen anyone give a quote.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 03:14 PM
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On the posts about his cancer, everyone hates him and calls him a Zionist.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 06:38 PM
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Lmao, damn reddit does not like Joe Biden.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 06:26 PM
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That's not young.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 07:43 PM
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If you were really doing that well, why would you still be here and take the random redditor opinions to heart? Like haven't you finally figured it all out? You're getting the young women you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 07:41 PM
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I mean.. they are just sitting there posing for a picture. Guess that's what you gotta do when you want to post a photo of the entire murdered family.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 07:40 PM
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Just heard this song and it made me nut.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 11:21 PM
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No personal attacks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 09:10 PM
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Lol I think it's an emotional buzzword, because promiscuity elicits an emotional response. Disgust is an emotion. Would you prefer to date a woman with N=1, but her partner was a 10/10 attractive man, or would you prefer do date a woman who has N=50, but the men were between 3/10 and 6/10 in looks? Is it the N count that persuades you, or the SMV of her sex partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:45 PM
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It's interesting to see men dismiss a 19 year old woman talking about sex in the same way that women dismiss an incel posting about relationship dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:38 PM
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Bruh most women won't even meet 10/10 men. Even with the power of social media and dating apps, the men they have logistical access to are still probably max 7/10 men. The Chad narrative is just the amorphous, intangible goal post that keeps moving around.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:35 PM
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I go to sleep afraid that Trump is gonna rug pull the US stock market again. Fucker made 400 million when he announced tariffs and then paused them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:32 PM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 07:41 PM
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How long is too long for someone to start monologuing something you have no interest in? Where's the line between you politely listening, and them rudely holding you verbally hostage?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 07:33 PM
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Already got it then. 8 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 03:32 AM
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That's crazy to me too. Pans are huge, it's a waste of space to put them in the dishwasher. Blew my mind people ALSO put the pans directly in the fridge.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 10:49 PM
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I'm learning that the majority of people ruin their non-stick pans in 1-2 years. I have had mine for 8 years now, tf is everybody doing? Do none of them know you don't use metal utensils on it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 10:41 PM
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Better than marrying for love at 4 months for sure. Those couples have a huge comedown awaiting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:41 PM
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What do the knuckles say?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:39 PM
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Are arranged marriages common there? At that point, it's just choosing a husband based on a resume.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:37 PM
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If I remember, I'll ping you when I see it pop up again. It's part of issue men take where women at one point in their lives DIDN'T wait to have sex, but then in future courtships wait to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:35 PM
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Exactly, women approaching more makes them look desperate, which can either be a turn off for a man, or prime pump and dump material.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:21 PM
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gave them sex too early This is a debate in itself here. So many men on PPD push for women to have sex ASAP.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:17 PM
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Low birth rate! Social security nightmare!!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:11 PM
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Abstinence in extra-marital relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 04:57 PM
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That's semantics. Abstinence is 100% effective.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:34 PM
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Fidelity is not a need. It's a condition.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:32 PM
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When men say sex is a need, it's a way to justify the desperate behaviors to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:29 PM
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Nothing is guaranteed. But the continuance of the relationship is contingent of fidelity, just as the continuance of a relationship can be contingent on sex. Lots of people in /r/DeadBedrooms eventually divorce. It's just not as instantaneous of a catalyst as cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:24 PM
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That one in particular is just an off representation because of how concave he is. Makes him look like he has feminine hips.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:45 PM
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Ah, I too browse /r/PublicFreakout . Women screaming in those videos isn't any more annoying than when people shout the same fighting words on repeat because their brain is short circuiting. On god on god on god on god on god.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:52 AM
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Exactly, that's extremely matriarchal and pro-woman to have your own money and still get men to pay for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:41 AM
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That's not something you tell your partner. I don't care if it's true, but I don't want to feel like my partner is pining for other people and other lives with other people he could have led. If I get to the point to even ask if I am a first choice, I must feel quite neglected and unappreciated. So yes, if at that point my partner affirms that there are other people he wishes he was with, I am gonna be upset. If the relationship is good, that's one of those questions you shouldn't ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:20 AM
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You've got a harem just waiting for you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 07:08 PM
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Even I got threatened to be shot when I was a 21 year old lil gal doing door to door sales in a nice suburb.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 07:03 PM
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I'd guess they prefer the smaller waistline, similar to why people like 9.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:53 PM
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1 has more muscle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:46 PM
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Yes when people are actually mugged and raped, surprise, all their fears are validated. My point is that sexual assualt is so much more likely, 2.5% of robberies, than getting killed is, 0.75% of robberies
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:45 PM
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No one said men never experience unprovoked violence. When women fear men, it's often rooted in the threat of being preyed on, stalked, assaulted, controlled, or raped. It’s personal, targeted, and hard to predict or avoid. That hits differently than random street violence or getting jumped in a fight. And yeah, let’s not ignore how men are raised. You're not exactly rewarded for saying “I’m scared of other men.” It's seen as weak, so most stay quiet. This isn’t about saying male victims 'deserv…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:36 PM
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Your question was why don't men share this fear of men. And now you are leaning in on men being victims? What point are you trying to make?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:28 PM
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When men are violent toward other men, it’s the context of bar fights, disputes, gang violence, etc. And not usually tied to the same underlying fear women have of being preyed upon or dominated. The other component could be a inflated machismo sense of self. More men feel like they could defend themselves than women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:15 PM
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Maybe obese women want a man bigger than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:03 PM
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I'm surprised 6 isn't higher. I wonder if women consider 6 to be dad bod. 2 is definitely the most classic dad bod, but maybe 6 is under the umbrella. 6 to me is like quintessential blue collar man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 05:32 PM
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Ah a fellow twink enjoyer.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 05:28 PM
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TWINK ERASURE
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 05:10 PM
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Here's a nice lil pie chart I agree with the top 4 results.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 05:09 PM
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Lmao having fun is an 'unsustainable foundation' to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 01:13 AM
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You're not gonna get a second date if you appear unfun. That's one of those things that you need to show, not tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 01:01 AM
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Might as well invite a gal into a parking lot lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 12:46 AM
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I might get thirsty during the date.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 12:35 AM
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I think it's more common now for people to spend a few days or weeks texting before they ever go on an actual date.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:51 PM
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Exactly, you best be taking me to a place that has matcha as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:50 PM
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I think the dealbreaker is the judgement that often comes along with straight edge individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:48 PM
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I agree, but men have always devalued it. From women, it's new.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:17 PM
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A lot of women’s complaints in dating aren’t about genetics. They're about emotional maturity, competency, communication, ambition... things men can work on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:15 PM
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Idk, it's kind of the norm to look people up before you meet them in this age of information. Just think of that person as more... neurotic and data driven than average. If that's a problem, so be it, but some people just like information.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 08:52 PM
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Women aren't complaining, "Where have all the tall men gone?"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 08:48 PM
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People don't give two shits. Women don't understand that, they care too much about what others think so they need something to save face Yeah this willingness to burn bridges and tank your reputation amongst peers is probably why men have worse support systems than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:58 PM
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Among women under 35 today, 30% already have children, 41% say they want to have children, 15% are not sure, and only 14% say they don’t wish to have children, according to a new Institute for Family Studies/YouGov survey of 2,000 young adults conducted in May to June of 2024. It's still certainly the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:49 PM
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The nuclear family is the thing women still 'need' men for. If a woman wants a family, she likely envisions a partner. Yet as we get further and further away from traditional values, women devalue motherhood. The strong pendulum swing away from having kids is an entire discussion in itself. I'm not moralizing any of that, but if a woman values motherhood, she may compromise a lot on her partner in order to make that happen because of her own fertility.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:39 PM
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What are you entitled to? lmao Are you entitled to a job just because you applied?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:33 PM
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Both things can be true. But if you let a negative feedback loop degrade your social skills, that's all strangers and acquaintances see.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:28 PM
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Exactly dating is supposed to be exciting and fun. The anticipation of your own will they/won't they. Women love anticipation like catnip.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:45 PM
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Would you say women are happy with current dating market? I think men and women are complaining about the same issue. Women are complaining that men don't meet their standards, and men are complaining that women have standards lmao. So either men need to strive to meet those standards, or women have to lower their standards. And then it's a battle of attrition. Whose life is more disturbed by this mismatch? Who can endure longer?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:18 PM
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Well the pandemic was 5 years ago, so I imagine that changed the level of socialization of those younger generations. I think people surprised themselves with how content they were in solitude. but today men will get in trouble at work for simply asking a girl for her phone number. This is a failing of the man because god damn no one can engage in flirting and clock indications of interest. Everyone goes autistically hard on the cold approach, extremely hard sell, zero banter. Like men are being…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:12 PM
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I think feminists take issue with anything representing a woman being treated as an object. The concern is that having a literal object in the shape of a woman can embolden and further regress men to treat actual women as objects. But I think that's just waxing philosophy, I don't think anyone actually cares enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 08:59 PM
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They can, but do they want to?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 05:29 PM
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What percentage of women have these fetishes? What does reading a romantic fantasy book about sexy shape shifting fairies have to do with women's perception of sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 05:24 PM
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Yup the disparity in consumption is likely a factor in how influential it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 05:11 PM
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Women know what bad sex feels like. They learn early that porn isn't real because their bodies tell them that. I think women see porn and erotica as a fantasy, not a blueprint. They aren't as visual of creatures as men, so they are not as keen on recreating exactly what they see.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 04:54 PM
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Are those the same men who want to have children?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 04:46 PM
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you only have those things now because men graciously, heroically sacrificed Do you feel the same way about white people graciously ending segregation?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 03:17 PM
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It is simple though. He didn't love her, felt compelled to stay out of pressure, and acted as such. Funny when men think they are principled for marrying out of duty... but then just break the vows anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:59 PM
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I'd guess the majority of women can physically handle and might prefer slightly above average penis size. And I'll hazard a guess that 4'' is the line where it's too small. But once you're at 10'' or higher then it's an issue of discomfort.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:45 PM
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There’s a difference between protecting and posturing. If your partner gets hurt over some random guy mouthing off, what exactly did you win?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:36 PM
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Early 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:29 PM
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No, not literally forced. We are just talking social expectations and precedent. It’s like saying women aren’t forced to wear makeup or shave, no one has a gun to their head, but they’re still socially penalized if they don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:28 PM
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Women have more options, it is known. This means they can afford to be more selective. In Buss’s “The Evolution of Desire,” women reported to perceive effort and persistence as signs of genuine interest and long-term potential. I'm surprised you needed proof for this...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:26 PM
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I'd prefer my husband keep his teeth rather than defend my honor to someone brazen and crazy enough to accost us.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:19 PM
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Simply because women have the abundance mentality and use a man's willingness to court as a a sign of interest. If a man doesn't approach, then it's a form of vetting enthusiasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:17 PM
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They usually have pretty obvious tells, like bouncing them titties constantly in a video. I'm amused by the "only fans detected, opinion rejected" comments. Idk why you'd get upset, unless you were trying to fuel some kind of parasocial relationship with them and get disappointed that they aren't the idyllic proxy you were hoping for.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 07:24 PM
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I've never seen the Lion King, nor do I identify as a furry. But Scar has the lean build I prefer.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 07:20 PM
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My financially irresponsible friend has been saying she's gonna buy a house this year. She just needs to save up for a down payment... starting with $0. This broad so far has bought a $1000 Disney trip and now has decided she needs to get 5 tattoos this year. Things ain't lookin' good for that down payment, boss.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 07:17 PM
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I read that it's even illegal for a step parent to have a relationship with a non-blood related child, as long as the parent is still legally a step parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 05:59 PM
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Also birth control is pretty significant. If I didn't have it, surely I'd have multiple kids by now, even with old world 'natural' prevention methods.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 05:31 PM
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Not in Alabama, surprisingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 05:29 PM
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People with genetic disorders already choose to procreate, like with harlequin ichthyosis. Many couples who carry the recessive gene chose to have multiple children with it, despite knowing the risk was as high as 50%.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 05:28 PM
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It's sort of both. The fundamentalist's point is that we as a society consider incest to be wrong, so we discourage it legally and morally, and the same should be done for homosexuality. But as I considered my perspective, of course I think incest is gross and wrong, yet I don't feel that way about homosexuality. And the issue with incest is The grooming/victimization The genetic risks of procreation But if you can prove that grooming didn't occur, AND as a society we do not discourage people wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 05:24 PM
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Ooh a religious fundie on a video just made a good point, I don't agree with it but I have no idea how to refute it: If we permit homosexuality because it is happening between consenting adults, then we should be allowing incest between consenting adults. And if your argument is that it's bad because of the genetic issues from procreating... well... we don't stop any other couple with near guaranteed genetically transmitted diseases from procreating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 05:07 PM
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Lol it's just pump and dump but a little more poetic. I don't pump and dump, I simply thought of it and I was pleased with myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 12:41 PM
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Personality changes perception. Women's arousal is way more about the scenario than the aesthetics. A guy could be meh 5/10 to a girl, but if talking to him makes her feel good, she's gonna feel physical attraction now too. And suddenly he's more like a 7/10 to her. But as people say, if your looks are distractingly unattractive, you're not gonna get your foot in the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:59 AM
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for watching copious amounts of porn as if they really have a choice. What quantity of porn are we talking about here?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:57 AM
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True, she should derive some pleasure from it, but it's never gonna be as much as yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:27 AM
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It wasn't men who created the term "born again virgin," Isn't that a baptism?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 08:31 PM
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Started with a meet-cute at the gas station because he can buy her beer. From a 18 year old's perspective, an older man has access to more 'mature' things. He's got more money than the 18 year old men, likely has his own place, women might think since men take longer to be ready for marriage and children, then obviously the older one is the correct choice because she can be married and have kids before she's 25. But it turns out many men who seek younger women don't want equal partnership. They …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:31 PM
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The concern comes in when “better partner” = “easier to manage” or “less likely to question me.” Seeking out younger women because they expect them to have fewer boundaries or less life experience suggests a desire for control, not connection. If the appeal of dating someone younger is about shared values, energy, or outlook on life, cool. But as I've pointed out, the reality plays out that the appeal hinged on having fewer expectations placed on the older man. And it takes like a decade for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:27 PM
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No. Men being 10+ years older is 7.6% of relationships, where women being 10+ years older is 1.3% of relationships. Frankly, when women date younger men they don't make a peep. They spend no time trying to justify it to the masses, so I don't have a profile on their experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:17 PM
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No one’s denying that most men find women in their late teens to mid-20s physically attractive. That’s not controversial. Some men might say they would never date a teen, but if they did not know the teen's age they would still think she's attractive. Some older men pursue significantly younger women not just because they’re attractive, but because they’re hoping for a dynamic where expectations are different, less pushback, less emotional maturity, or more admiration.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:13 PM
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Don't people change? Like some people aren't 'ready' for things and then eventually they are. Something changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:10 PM
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"Women my age are bitter or jaded. = “I want someone more easily impressed by me and has nothing to compare me to.” There's just a lot of self deception instead of self awareness. It's way more about validation, control and insecurity vs actual genuine connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:06 PM
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Pretty common pattern in /r/AITA posts or /r/BestofRedditorUpdates that the husband is doing the most controlling or immature shit and there's a 10+ age gap. Seems like men in their late 20s or 30s that pursue a woman 10 years younger than him are hoping she doesn't expect equal partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:03 PM
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Describe the most humorless person you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:18 PM
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Once they learn how to fill in their eyebrows lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 03:28 AM
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I am so pale I get sun poisoning if I work outside for a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 03:27 AM
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Then it's delusion on his part. Of course, of course it takes two to tango. Yes everyone needs to communicate more. But my point is that the earlier comment is patting men on the back with Relationships take work, and it seems men are the only one willing to do that The reality is, 'work' in a relationship means being genuinely engaged with your partner. Checking in, being aware of their needs, and proactively addressing issues before they escalate. Simply going through the motions or doing the …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 10:56 PM
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The one who "initiates" a divorce is the one who says "I want a divorce." Obviously those who cheat in relationships and get caught are NOT the ones who initiate the divorce itself, even though their behaviors caused it. In fact it's likely the opposite, where a cheating spouse is bargaining and begging to keep the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 05:26 PM
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What do men do in relationships when they are bored of their partner ..? Hm... that's a puzzler.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 05:12 PM
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Divorces can be unilateral, marriage is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 05:11 PM
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HIS-steria.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 05:09 PM
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What if you don't do the "work" of the relationship but don't feel motivated to leave because it makes your lifestyle comfortable? I get the sense that a lot of men deprioritize everything except sex, work, and hobbies, and that satisfies them but not their wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 05:02 PM
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I just did my taxes and I have to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 04:58 PM
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Categorically, those who cheat don't "want divorce". They want to have their cake and eat it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 04:54 PM
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Lmao both things can be true. A rapist can build a bridge.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:17 PM
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past those men weren't even alive for No, a generation of men alive today were a part of the society that treated women as second class citizens. That generation is the majority of law makers and politicians today. Same with Jim Crow. And just because things become legal doesn't mean the discrimination ended. It just means people employ plausible deniability. But HOO boy do they get excited when they can start to blame problems on DEI.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:14 PM
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Do you all... not have childfree uncles? I have two. It's normal to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:10 PM
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Sure, but that shit needs to be notarized. I think it'll be mutually beneficial. Men get financially protected, and women get turned off to sex lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 07:03 PM
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They are trying to get it to be a civil offense, not criminal. It's all very difficult to prove in court.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:36 PM
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What is the punishment for men stealthing? Do they go to jail, pay a fine? Can they even get sued for damages?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:15 PM
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That's a good idea, that's the kind of financial abortion that I agree with. Informed consent with a notarized contract prior to any conception.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:13 PM
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Well that's not so bad. He can just be the cool uncle for everyone else's kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:29 PM
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I think it depends on how bad A's reputation is. Like if I am genuinely embarrassed by him, and he treats people like shit, he could end up disowned. And if he believes He believes women aren't as smart or capable as men. He better earn more than I do otherwise I'd be dogging on him his whole life for not being able to live up to the 'truth' he believes in. And with B, the concern is that he is a pariah and he'd end it all. That'd be devastating as a mother. So I think for a mother, it's less gr…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:24 PM
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I think frankly some people lack the abundance of options and patience and time to quit on some relationships. Fear of the unknown keeps them in place, and a 'bird in the hand is worth two in the bush' mentality. So they might be partially satisfied by a relationship, and not want to risk losing that in the pursuit of better.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:43 PM
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I'm not absolving her, I'm pointing out that men want and prefer abortions too. Just because they can't force them doesn't mean they don't have a preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:40 PM
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Many men are pro abortion as well. Even some who are outwardly conservative and against abortions still seem to get them. Those men who are 'leaving the mother and child alone' would lose no sleep over that woman aborting, they might've preferred it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:36 PM
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That conflicts with the existence of fuck boys, the majority porn consumption being men, men engaging in excessive drinking, drugs, and partying, the status seeking pursuits of wealth, luxury, and stats markers, video games, sports, entertainment and gambling being addictively consumed by majority men, extreme sports, reckless driving and other thrill-seeking behaviors, and just the classic avoidance of responsibility of avoiding parenting and domestic duties.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:55 PM
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You might not think those men are husband material, but if those women are hoping to get married to their man, obviously they think he's husband material.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:51 PM
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What's with all the life or death extremism? Are you living in an active warzone?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:48 PM
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To have a witness to your life. Their is validation and security in that. Meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:29 AM
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I have probably ingested some at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:22 AM
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I prefer videos of someone going psspsspfpspspsp in my ear. Knocks me tf out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:17 AM
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Depends on if he's open to other stuff. I'd want to see that he does express desire me but is holding himself back. I'd need some other indication that he's physically attracted to me, otherwise I'd think I'm a beard.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 09:54 PM
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Color removal is less damaging than bleach or ammonia. If you don't want to apply anything to your hair, just buy a wig.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 01:29 PM
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Nope! But I've stayed within a specific palette that looks good. I've done pink, magenta, red with streaks of yellow, green and orange, and I've done vibrant orange, and a more realistic ginger. I'm pale with a pink undertone, so warm colors have looked good. Even if you don't like something, you can pretty much wash it out of your hair with hot water over the course of two weeks, and it'll just be a very pastel version of the color. I'd recommend some Arctic Fox to try dying it yourself so you …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 01:15 PM
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I love just rawdogging YouTube, browsing by new. Watching a random video, and of course they all have the smoke alarm beeping in the background.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 09:20 PM
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Would you marry a broke woman who refuses to be a stay at home mom? Is it really that noble to not care about women's finances when you simply expect her to raise children?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 08:39 PM
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When it comes to older men, yeah, it's about the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 08:36 PM
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People do commit before 35. Not everyone knows if it'll end in marriage, but people still have serious relationships. I'd think the majority of 20-something women want a LTR, not a situationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 08:32 PM
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Genuinely, being a leech is also a skill. Both my brothers are unemployed. One lives with his half brother, and the other lives with his gf who works and pays the bills. Amazing that they don't have to earn a living, someone else is footing the bill. Maybe it'll run out someday, but as it stands there are no conditions or expectations that they ever work.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 06:50 PM
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Hell yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 06:31 PM
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I don't think peace and acceptance is a linear thing. It's probably something that just ebbs and flows. Times where you are at peace with something, times when you are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 06:27 PM
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Monks do it, but obviously religion is a huge factor. And on a technical note, you don't have to stay a virgin. You can pay for sex. If someone is going to resign themselves to being alone forever, might as well do the deed once to see if it was worth the agonizing over.' Anecdotally, I have two uncles who never married. One dedicated his life to caring for their elderly mother. The other one could have had relationships, but he cheated on his last girlfriend and kind of martyred himself and nev…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 06:22 PM
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It was indeed the end of the month. A beautiful sunny day where they just stood leaning against a lamp post. It had it's intended affect though. I'm more wary.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:49 PM
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Yup, the stuttering and groveling really must have offended him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:47 PM
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If it was a more expensive ticket I would have strongly considered it. But it'd be difficult to get a lawyer for less than $150-$200.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:40 PM
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Well if I don't get another ticket, it's all kosher. And I guess at this point I'm batting one per decade, points only last for 2 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:39 PM
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Funny that the next case he reduced someone going 43 in a 25 down to a 29 in a 25 to result in no point violation. And a case prior to me, was 83 in a 65, case dismissed on the condition that he took traffic school.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:34 PM
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Yeah but the only leverage I even had would be to plead not guilty just to inconvenience them. Not sure if anything good would have come of that. More court fees. I called my insurance and they already let me know that it wasn't gonna affect my rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:32 PM
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I did not opt to pay for a lawyer because that would exceed the cost of the ticket.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:31 PM
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Not sure what the better outcome was. If the prosecutor won't cut a deal, who will?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:18 PM
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They removed the second charge of expired tags if I plead guilty to the speeding. So that's what I did, but I just felt like I failed the dialogue tree and did not say what I needed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:10 PM
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Does that give you points too?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:09 PM
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Went to traffic court to try to negotiate a deal with a lesser violation. That prosecutor was not having it, absolutely no deal that would reduce the points. I was going 32 mph in a 20 mph school zone, and I think they considered me to be a child murderer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:05 PM
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Yeah I'd be concerned they have crippling anxiety or a complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:32 PM
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At this point, I'm seeing more people complaining about women's standards than I am seeing women complaining about all the good men being gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:05 AM
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Just because a guy is less attractive doesn't mean he's a better person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:03 AM
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Why would any of that even matter? Just engage with the replies you want, and ignore the ones you don't think are valid discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:00 AM
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Tf are people doing being thirsty for other redditors?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:55 AM
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It depends on the person and a myriad of other conditions. The same man can derive two completely different reactions from a woman depending on the context of interacting with him, her hormones, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 12:50 AM
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A club is absolutely a "context" where a lot of people are primed for attraction and impulsive decisions. It’s not that complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 12:11 AM
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I've got a friend who mentions any time a man is aesthetically pleasing, yet she considers herself to be asexual. Hotness =\= sexual arousal The context has to be correct for that woman at that time to contemplate sexual attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 12:02 AM
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Lol I'll accept the cliff notes if you remember them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 11:49 PM
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Women don't operate that way to the degree men do, and that's likely influenced by their hormonal cycle. Attractiveness for women is way more about context and scenario, so it's not until they are in the correct context that they judge someone for their sexual attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 11:46 PM
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No, men and women are essential, it's simply an explanation for why men engage in riskier activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 11:44 PM
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No, most don't. I did intentionally link a variety of graphs because they do have different data. But most of them reflect this graph.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 11:40 PM
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Define raw attraction lol. I think it's becoming a subjective buzz word.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 11:38 PM
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You ever wonder why that is? Or are women just inherently smarter? Yes, on average women have a higher IQ, however on the extreme end of the bell curve men have the highest IQ.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 11:09 PM
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I just noticed from a post on the frontpage that some women expect their husband to drive for the entirety of road trips. Female weaponized incompetence?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:08 AM
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Is woman... bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:56 AM
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It's simply a numbers game. Those toxic assholes are usually in more social situations and interacting with a higher volume of women than a shy guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:53 AM
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Women view lack of success in dating as a social failing in men. It is what it is. Social ineptitude. No need to moralize it, it simply is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:50 AM
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Exactly, my dad has rookie numbers. Your bitches per hour can be much higher due to the power of the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:48 AM
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Are you shy? Is that why you believe this?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:47 AM
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Just like my dad, there's hope for you yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:44 AM
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You're sending that to your friends on snapchat?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:31 AM
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And it’s not wrong for a male to be sexual It is wrong when he's trying to sexually engage with people non-consensually. Men get villainized because some men do not respect consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:49 AM
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Intention vs impact. I'm sure most men do not intend to offend, cause harm, or make women uncomfortable. But that is the impact.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:39 AM
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Even if they understood it, it wouldn't change your situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:37 AM
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Should I go to court and try to fight a speeding ticket? Or should I just pay it so I don't have to pay for parking/pay for their $25 traffic school course and then come back to court a second time? I guess idk how expensive your insurance gets if you have points. That's kind of the deciding factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 11:16 PM
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Women's looks are the primary RMV and SMV, whereas men are judged on a more balanced mixture of looks, status, money, and other personality traits. So it's ultimately not to the same degree. Meanwhile, when women express their own standards like wanting financial stability or ambition, they also receive backlash, and get labeled "gold diggers" or "entitled." Social repercussions exist on both sides, but the weight and function of beauty standards are not equal between men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 09:29 PM
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Men may get chastised for being tactless and blunt with stating their preferences, but women still are affected by the reality where they are being constantly scrutinized and judged about their looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 09:19 PM
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It depends who makes more money. When my partner made almost double what I did, he picked up 80% of the bills. Now that I make more money it has inverted. But that's still 10+ years of him paying more. Ultimately, we are married now, both of our money goes towards things that benefit both of us. If we have kids, and I keep my high paying job, it might reach more 50/50 parity. But if I have to quit, it'll go back to him paying most, if not all if I lack an income.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:29 PM
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I can tell when amused mastery and negging is being used. But I'm also honest enough to admit that it has some level of success. Challenging or goading a woman into proving herself reframes interactions to be more about her ego than whether she even likes you. And even me, I have to take a step back and realize I'm being goaded. So that's definitely good to keep the conversation going at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:28 PM
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90% of the men complaining about being unsuccessful are complaining anonymously on the internet, the volume of incels is too high to attribute it squarely and solely on looks. And then of course the incels willing to share a picture end up looking decent, so it shifts the perception to, "Wow, it's definitely not looks then."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:18 PM
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Gotta confirm my world beliefs, one sec.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:12 PM
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They do, that's what ONS and situationships are for.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:10 PM
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Difference is you have basically a real profile attached to your 'anonymous' self. Reporting should be an option. So it's much easier to moderate. Women don't have to engage in it at all. But I think creating new ways to get people to interact on a dating app is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 06:46 PM
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I feel like dating apps should introduce more randomness and anonymity to get more unique interactions. There should be opportunities to connect with people in ways that don't involve swiping first and foremost on their picture. Like every dating app should have basically a Whisper mode or a ChatRoulette, where you can chat anonymously, either publicly on boards or in DMs, video based or text based. And then you can slow drip your information to the other person. Or you can ghost them without ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 06:40 PM
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Imagine how differently you'd feel if you thought it was good to hug your own family. You say it's not the same, but as you said yourself you haven't been hugged since you were a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:38 PM
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Do your parents hug you? Shit I just went to a funeral and hugged like 100 people. You gotta up your physical contact game outside of just hoping a random woman will want to touch you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:36 PM
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You can still get settled for by a woman in her early 20s. Difference is she's doing it early for trad reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 09:49 PM
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get fired from your job An at-will company with numerous other policies you are required to ascribe to? You could get fired from some places for only wearing flip flops too. Difference is, you can't infect other employees with your flip flops.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 09:46 PM
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How does that work?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 09:16 PM
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I think the antivaxxers are just as whiney about their rights. You have the right to not take the vaccine. You don't have the right to be on privately owned properties that require you to be vaccinated. It's discrimination the same way blood banks discriminate on whose blood they accept.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 09:08 PM
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It's because they can talk a big game and not have to cash in on it. If a guy had the same energy towards men, there'd be 20 guys in his DMs tryna get their dick sucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 09:06 PM
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Yes, I agree, it costs nothing to be kind but then you still get into dice-y ideological ground. Is it just polite to let trans women win first place in women's sports, depriving cis women of sports scholarships?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 09:03 PM
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She had an opinion that didn't match his.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:57 PM
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Yes we do it for people we want the approval of. It's not difficult to be polite, but it some people aren't polite with people they ideologically disagree with. Some pro-choicers aren't polite to pro-lifers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:54 PM
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How could you tell it was a joke?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:30 PM
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That's probably because gender critical would likely title their posts to with reeally strong divisive opinions that reached the front page. Something here nestled away in a daily thread ain't gonna reach the front page.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:30 PM
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Yeah I see that point too, that some conservatives just lose their god damn mind and really are just looking for a group to subjugate and other. And classes of people are protected against hate speech, it's really a question then if something like misgendering is considered hate speech.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:28 PM
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Yeah it's weird we as a society want to subscribe to ideology that just makes us look and sound dumber. It makes sense that if you like someone and respect them or if you just want to be polite in general, of course you're gonna call them by their preferred pronouns and new name. But on a societal level, it's strange to expect everyone to pretend all the time and ignore the reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:12 PM
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“I can’t think of anything more vile and small and pathetic than terrorizing the smallest, most vulnerable community of people who want nothing from you, except the right to exist.” Pedro Pascal on trans people What does 'the right to exist' mean? That always throws me off, because it feels like this nebulous trojan horse where anything and everything is packaged into it. They demand privileges not granted to their original gender, including compelled speech and forced validation. ‘Existence’ in…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:59 PM
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Literally any woman with a man who is balding is already defaulted to option 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:43 PM
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Hm this post on that subreddit suggests that people on /r/TooAfraidToAsk consider "kill all men" to be sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:39 PM
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Oh I think it's the "women are evil" thing you slipped in there. But looking at those top comments, seems people are only interested in virtue signaling and making light of having a micropenis. No one there seems interested in the depressed comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:33 PM
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Vessi Weekender for city/pavement/boardwalk walking. Otherwise just literally any running shoe, especially if it's an all terrain kind of walk.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:27 PM
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Puritan culture is still here. And even if people aren't following it to the god-fearing letter, they still care about perception.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:02 PM
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Women don't want ONS with husband material because they don't want their future husband to think they are a sloot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 06:45 PM
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Wow I'm LARPing as a sub tradwife.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 06:42 PM
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Hah gaay
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 05:23 PM
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It's actually quite funny when said by an Australian.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 05:23 PM
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I'm intrigued. Does the city progress and evolve on its own or do you have to control every single aspect?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 05:19 PM
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What is some of your favorite home renovation/house flipper content that you watch? I love that shit, but I'm bad at finding new renovators that make quality stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 05:08 PM
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Not based on that picture alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 05:04 PM
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For me it's the RNG aspect. Letting some amount of randomness decide what path Sims are going to take and then making it become a reality. It's just a virtual dollhouse with extreme creative freedom and life simulation control. For some, it's just a dress up game and a interior design and architecture simulator. It's creating drama without consequences. And for many, it's a game they played as a child that still holds up and is nostalgic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 05:02 PM
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I could never go back to just one. Lmao I even play The Sims with a spreadsheet open on the other monitor to track my Sims. Almost everything I do at work requires me to be referencing a file while working on a project.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:56 PM
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No, but cognitive behavioral therapy is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:28 PM
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Probably has something to do with women liking gay male porn, gay fanfiction, fujoshis etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:12 PM
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I noticed that I can fix it on desktop, but it stays out of order on mobile.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:48 PM
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That would probably mean she has much higher standards for her husband vs someone who simply want to perform her own expected role.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:48 PM
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Yeah it's extra frustrating I'm sure when men are expected to be the hornier sex. Men have an easier time acknowledging their wife's lower sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:46 PM
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It is, but it's not going to create the same hormonal insanity that novelty creates. The anticipation build up just won't happen organically if you are entirely familiar and comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:45 PM
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Information is power. It is at the very least, a look into the male psyche that you would have never found otherwise. And that can make you more empathetic, or at least more self aware. One thing does become obvious, IRL it truly is a minority of men who subscribe to redpillTM or blackpillTM.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:29 PM
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If you want to be her friend, absolutely. Call her whatever makes her happy. Or you do it because you want to virtue signal to others. But there's just something inherently off about everyone pretending something that isn't true. It ranges from categorically inaccurate to genuinely offensive depending on who the audience is and the performative aspect of it. But as you say, the more someone passes, the easier it is to call people their preferred pronouns. Everything prior to that creates an unca…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:26 PM
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As an update to me buying a hotel room with HotelsInAmerica. That shit is booked and went through to the Marriott, I called to confirm. Saved $100+ by booking third party. It pays to be cheap and risky lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:17 PM
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The right wing doesn't have the big titty goth girls, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:14 PM
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If a white individual asked you to recognize that they are black despite having no black lineage you would not. That's the same argument for not calling people by the opposite pronoun.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:11 PM
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To be polite and inoffensive, yes. But not everyone is entitled to that from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:07 PM
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Miss Saul Jeanie.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:05 PM
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lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:05 PM
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Everyone settles on attraction when familiarity can't compete with variety and novelty and mystery. That's the nature of monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:18 PM
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Leona Latte
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:48 PM
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What's it gonna do to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:28 PM
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I just started using Obsidian as my diary. It's kind of fun. Like a wikipedia for your own life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:27 PM
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If his goal isn't to be a good father, I can see why he does it. Because he can. He certainly can afford it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:26 PM
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She does look spooky.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:25 PM
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Other ones I just thought of: Lizz Bean. Sarah Monet. Ricki Shae. Dixie Cider. No doubt one or two of those already exist. Those queens pop up like wildflowers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:23 PM
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What would be your drag queen name? Mine would be Bella DuBalle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:22 PM
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bar is set impossibly high How does that square with the couples you actually know? Is every guy you know with a girlfriend a Chad?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:30 PM
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that only looks are important That's black pill for ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:24 PM
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Yeah it's really just meant to be a token of thoughtfulness. I don't give gifts to people I don't know well enough to give a curated gift to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:19 PM
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You should try it. It's fun to have a reason to come together and eat cake and drink and laugh and play games.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:17 PM
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Because of the ways black pill and red pill are the same. Some red pill consumers go beyond self-improvement and into blaming or resenting women. A lot of the generalizations of women are so reductive and negative that it sparks outrage. Red Pill is chalk full of grifters who profit out of demonizing women to make men feel better, and demonizing women to generate outrage for views. And of course, Red Pill existed before Black Pill. Basically anyone who considers themselves black pill now, was wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:16 PM
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$20. I just spend $30 on a new friend and I thought it was maybe slightly too high. I got her a holographic Cyber Harpy Lady Yugioh card.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:11 PM
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Red pill believes in effort, black pill does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:48 PM
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Hey that's perfect since women like bad boy criminals!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:47 PM
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You sleep with her, but she's gonna steal your shit to pawn it off for some drug money.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:46 PM
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Hah fascinating. I seem to have stumbled into a very childfree cohort of friends. (At least for now, things might change once everyone gets deep into their 30s) You might have to be open to making some new ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:44 PM
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Is $50 too much for a faux fur giant throw pillow? lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:42 PM
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he might not be able to navigate a relationship or how to act in one . If he can't figure out how to act in a relationship, yes that is a turn off. I'm suss of anyone who can't. If you like someone, love someone, then your goal should be to make them happy, because you like being with them. If you struggle with that in concept, then you are prioritizing something else more.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:06 PM
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No, doesn't matter if he's grieving over her, he should be grieving over his marriage that he fucked up and is continually fucking up by dismissing what he did.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:00 PM
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It you have to create rules to force people to exist in a mutualist community, then it's not their innate desire. To be human is to exist in tribes, which we all do to varying degrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:12 PM
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I feel like you'd notice it when looking at other things besides the fridge, and it would indeed be alarming to have vision loss in a particular spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:47 PM
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A dude did do that in season 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:45 PM
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Then you gotta switch to smell.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:37 PM
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You can be a blank slate lol. Doesn't require much personality. You could just be someone who nods and smiles lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:33 PM
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I wonder if this means women are better at Where's Waldo.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:26 PM
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Yeah that's bullshit that someone else would be entitled to the child I birthed, if I signed no such contract for surrogacy. At a minimum, you are now owed for the cost of surrogacy, because that shit ain't free. I wonder if that's written into the contracts at fertility clinics.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:22 PM
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What is up with the phenomenon where a husband can't find ketchup in the fridge, and he insists that it's not there. The wife walks up to the fridge and points right to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:21 PM
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The one that always resonates with me is when a husband can't find ketchup in the fridge, insists that it's not there. The wife walks up to the fridge and points right to it. Why is that so pervasive?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:20 PM
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It's not always malicious, but if it's a pattern of behavior with an unwillingness to improve yourself, now it's just willfully incompetent. And that depends entirely on the relationship dynamic if that's permissible. But if things are meant to be a shared chore, and you consistently fail to complete the task on your own, it's likely an issue that needs addressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 06:36 PM
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It's simply incompetent, which is the root of this entire subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 05:49 PM
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I think for private companies, censorship is their tool to cultivate the experience that will garner the most users. If the overwhelming majority of users are put off by certain things, it will be censored. For death threats, permitted them across the board definitely risks inciting actual violence. Mob mentality can grow, and people egg on the right person to carry out the violence, whereas if it was censored no one would have been emboldened to engage in real violence due to the internet's rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 03:29 PM
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It's usually pretty obvious and chronic. If someone's angry enough to levy one personal attack, they tend to be spewing it everywhere. The punishment tends to be a removal and warning for the first one, but if you have multiple offences in one sitting then it's a 3-day ban. If you have any prior history it is longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 02:18 PM
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Inflammatory is all good. Hell, even generalized sexism is permissible here. The problem is how quickly someone saying inflammatory shit with shift to personal attacks and incivility.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 01:37 PM
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Would you consider moderation of death threats or child exploitation materials to be censorship? If not, where do you draw the line? Additionally, most of this 'censorship' is happening with privately owned platforms, not the government.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 01:31 PM
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Some people do care about being attractive to as many people as possible. That's really why people even bother the Red Pill. They are trying to cast a wide net.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 01:27 PM
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They aren't wrong though. I'd say well over half of the permanent bans here get circumvented with a new account.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 05:08 AM
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Andrew Tate got famous off of hyperbole and strawman. Generating outrage for views. He became the de-facto face of Red Pill, and you have an uphill battle trying to decouple your ideology from his.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 05:06 AM
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There's also.. different kinds of feminists. Namely radical feminists and liberal feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:07 PM
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Parties with strangers are only fun if you are drinking. Parties with more exclusive guest lists are where the hosts really turn out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:05 PM
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You can just... not take it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:02 PM
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I now pronounce you man and female.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 05:48 PM
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Lol I love the irony of this statement. Most redpill guys, myself included, started out by having pure and unconditional love for various women and when we realized that they did not have the same feelings for us that’s when the redpill started to make a lot of sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 05:45 PM
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If it's a scam, all I need to do is call the Marriott to confirm my booking. I'll give them a week to sort their shit out, since it's for June. If it's not there, I dispute the charge.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 04:51 PM
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Just booked a hotel with HotelsInAmerica. RIP wish me luck. It was 50/50 on reddit on whether they think it's a scam. But the dang hotel room was $130 cheaper. I had to play roulette with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 04:40 PM
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It's soup time. Favorite soup?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 03:36 PM
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That's a naïve thought that rich people don't want more money.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:16 PM
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I think he has a lot of rich people working for him that can financially benefit from any of the chaos he creates. They can short companies that will be affected by tariffs, they can invest in ones that are about to be backed by the government. He can hand out billions to Elon Musk, etc. The thing about breaking the law at the white collar level is you can do it, and it'll take months before anything stops you. They accuse you of a crime, you lawyer up, they lawyer up. Months and months go by. H…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:12 PM
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Coyness, plausible deniability, and mystique are all things that enhance the courting experience. Anticipation builds desire rather than outright saying things. If you are privy to indications of interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 06:04 PM
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It's detrimental to the left to be known as the space that is more judgmental and unforgiving than the right.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 05:59 PM
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No one is saying it’s good or moral to insult someone for no reason, but no one, especially a stranger, is entitled to kindness, either. This just simply is what people do when talking about their experiences. Locker room talk. You don’t control how others react to you, only how you handle it. You are well within your rights to shun any woman you know who calls a man creepy, but all of that can backfire. And the overwhelming majority of 'creepy' labelling is not done to someone's face, because f…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 05:51 PM
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Yeah they do. That's how they feel. You can disagree, others can disagree, but they feel creeped out because their boundaries are crossed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 05:43 PM
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Lmao how appropriate for this place. https://www.youtube.com/shorts/_1fdDz2MNxg
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 05:41 PM
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Not everyone is a pathological liar.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:48 AM
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Well said. There is wisdom to be gained from the manner in which you approached, the words that were said, and the place and person that you approached. But it is also the nature of escalating a situation to a implicitly sexual one, that people can just have an adverse reaction. What was once a neutral moment is now met with the pretense of pressure and sexual assessment, and that is bound to cause friction sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:46 AM
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I guess they want DINK, and they want a well-to-do lifestyle and travelling, funded by those two incomes. Surely there are some men in the world who want that too. Let them find each other lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:28 AM
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You can try to police social interactions if you want, but like I said with women and being called crazy, it's a catch 22. Trying to accost and shame women for calling you creepy is just going to reinforce the initial perception.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:18 AM
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Yup I agree. That's why it's all moot.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:01 AM
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People talk about their experiences with others all the time, sometimes with exaggeration, sometimes with bias. It happens to men and women alike. Just like guys vent about “crazy exes” or “gold diggers,” some women vent about “creepy” encounters. It’s human nature. It's locker room talk. But also any TikTok's that pop up that create this paranoia in young men, you have to remember that people make videos to get views. Most of those gym girl videos acting outraged are motivated by money and view…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:49 AM
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It's simply shallow because men don't have those standards for women. That's the perception, whether or not you agree with it or think there's no comparison. Men can taut that they aren't shallow because they love a woman for who she is (How she looks and the emotional fulfilment she provides).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:35 AM
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Just like guys want kindness when being rejected, women want to feel safe and comfortable when rejecting someone. The reality is that some guys don't take rejection well. Women should not be mocking or humiliating someone just for asking them out, because that is a risk in itself to get a strong reaction from the man. Generally this 'creepy' label comes well after the fact and not often to a man's face. But at the same time, women aren't obligated to manage a guy’s emotions when rejecting him. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:25 AM
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Absolutely there is a double standard in the realm of creepy. Because men generally aren't afraid of creepy women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:19 AM
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Pray tell, what is the alternative? You're going to yell at women who call you creepy? The only thing you can do is refuse to engage with people who are reacting to you in a way you don't like.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:16 AM
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Yeah, it's strange that people who want to see gay representation would still limit themselves to an extremely debatable interpretation of subtext. Like it's not the W they think it is. And so they don't get a win from it, and now neither does the platonic angle because the fervent shipping just reinforces societal expectations of male intimacy as being gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 01:55 AM
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It certainly isn't always fair. But people have a right to define their boundaries. Social interaction isn’t just about intent, it’s also about impact. Maybe women's boundaries have changed. Maybe women have always thought men were creepy but would fawn instead of fight. It just comes with the territory of basically interjecting yourself into someone else's life. You could come across as too aggressive, persistent, invasive, or entitled.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 01:52 AM
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Oh what's up lil homie? I have you tagged as someone who agrees that Jayce and Viktor from Arcane are not gay lovers lmfao. Had to separate the wheat from the chaff on that subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 01:46 AM
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If you want to agree with OP instead of challenging their view, you must post your comment under the AutoModerator.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 01:44 AM
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sharing advice and experiences to try and do better in dating. When incels get together this is the last thing they want to do. As evident by every subreddit they've ever made. They want to pull each other down like crabs in a bucket and spew vitriol as a form of catharsis.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 09:34 PM
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Everyone already covered the extreme end of this of parents mistreating their children in favor of their romantic life. But I suppose the actual moderate take is that some people sabotage their relationships with their romantic partners because they have not established boundaries with their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 08:19 PM
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Hm I wonder how frequently the government enforces the draft vs how many abortions are needed every year.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 05:37 PM
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As with withholding love, if you tried to withhold protection, loyalty or provision to your woman, it's natural that she would want to end the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:22 PM
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Some would say it has... conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:19 PM
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How is this any different from racism? Women historically have not and still cannot systematically oppress men the way people are systematically oppressed due to their race.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:12 PM
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Well I reread the movie summary (Force Majeure), and he ran away from his wife AND children. Women absolutely are expected to protect their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:10 PM
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Lifting something heavy once in awhile is not the same thing as being expected to constantly cook, clean, and manage household responsibilities. Not to mention, men themselves might just take a car to a shop to change a tire.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:08 PM
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Woman who cleans up after you like you're her child.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:52 AM
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Best kind of tea?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:35 AM
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There's a whole movie about that where the husband abandons his wife in an avalanche. The avalanche petered out quickly, and then he had to deal with the consequences of abandoning her.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:31 AM
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Women who actually suspect they are ugly would not have the gumption to post there. Short of looking for plastic surgery recommendations, it seems like a completely useless exercise.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:11 AM
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Funny, a lot of men seem to want that for themselves too, as evident by them wanting their wives to be a mommy-bangmaid.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:07 AM
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Good time to go shopping too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:05 AM
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I also had gyros lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 02:59 AM
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Lol the average man doesn't get to ride on the coattails of a few greater men. Point is as women gained more agency for their lives they no longer had to settle for being married to a man who offers little more than a paycheck. And many men today still haven't figured out how to market themselves to be a holistically desirable life partner. They aren't interested in doing the work to have a higher EQ, they still want unequal gender roles, they, just like they accuse women of, get lazy once the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 05:49 PM
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You don't need ADHD to benefit from that. Some people just talk slow as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 04:39 PM
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Proves that men's social status was just handed to them. Now that things have leveled out, evidently they didn't earn their status out of merit or any natural leadership quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 04:34 PM
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I for one like seeing the outline of attractive people's bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 04:29 PM
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What reason is there to do anything other than the bare necessity to survive?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 04:20 PM
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I feel like that's a controversial opinion lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 04:12 PM
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It's actually 41% of first marriages that end in divorce. It's the subsequent serial marriages that are 60% or higher. Maybe that doesn't change your opinion, but it does affect the language of 'minority' and 'majority'.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 04:10 PM
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Q4W: How would you feel if you were giving birth and your husband is watching and just starts gagging? Lmao, inspired by a video I just saw.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 04:04 PM
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It's not a societal injustice, but a pattern of male loneliness does have societal impacts. Like with the election. I know incels like to throw it around as a bargaining chip, that if they can't get sex/intimacy/family, then men will check out of society or do things to spite it. But if it becomes a trend, it becomes a trend. And now it's a societal issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 08:03 PM
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Lmao I just liked that it all rhymed. I literally married my high school sweetheart.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 07:49 PM
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Cold. Imagine on a hot summer's day, you can only have a hot cup of coffee.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:53 PM
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Lol I feel like this debate over want vs need brings out the tism in people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:44 PM
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What a priviledged thing to say, as your emotional needs are met and you know what it is like to feel mutual desire. It would negatively effect your well being if every man you wanted to be with rejected you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:43 PM
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I would say any life saving interventions are a 'need'. If you are choking, the Heimlich is a 'need'.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:35 PM
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I've said it's similar to saying a mother's love is a 'need'. You won't die without it, but neglect will create psychological disfunction. The same can be said with persistent rejection of intimacy and sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:14 PM
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Maybe if they want a lot of kids. But is that all men?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:00 PM
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Visually I am not seeing the wall. It probably helps that she's Asian or at least ethnically ambiguous.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:57 PM
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Feels like self loathing to think your own dick makes you gay lol. Does washing your own ass make you gay too?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:55 PM
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I'm thinking they just have some AI scrubbing our accounts to gather data and it made an oopsie.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:30 PM
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Probably relates to the origins of this subreddit to begin with. /r/TheRedPill basically banned and removed any women contributing in earnest or defending their beliefs. /r/TheBluePill was a satirical circlejerk with no earnest engagement. So this place came to exist as a way to merge the two. But for any one person who wants to debate in earnest, there is another who just wants to circlejerk the way TBP did.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:26 PM
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In what world would they think using that is a good idea instead of my real name, which they already have?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:22 PM
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I didn't actively seek it out, it was something I stumbled upon because I had older siblings and my dad had the black cable box for pay-per-view. Even still, it had a pretty net neutral effect on me. Took a lot of the shock and awe away from sex, and took a lot of the confusion away from all the implications of sex in all forms of media.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:20 PM
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Yeah I think it had worse effects on my older brothers though. It didn't make me precocious, but it did for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:14 PM
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Amazon is calling me by my username. This is the only account I own with this name. WHY
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:12 PM
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Hah, I watched porn when I was 4 years old, and I understood that sex is how you get pregnant, and I was super bummed because I thought I'd never get to try it because I didn't know there was a way to NOT get pregnant. Makes me wonder if sex education at a young age would be comprehensible to most kids, and if it would have a better turn out for safe sex vs waiting until they are going through puberty.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:56 PM
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/r/gendercritical was one
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:27 AM
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In a nutshell, men pretty much were banned on sight when they had subreddits.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:21 AM
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I don't think alcohol is good for society, but this is Murica.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 10:49 PM
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Absolutely not. Rad fems consider all sex work exploitative of women AND demeaning as a concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 10:47 PM
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Depends on your socio economic status. If you go to country clubs and own multiple properties, the relative 'societal' expectation of the engagement ring price will be much much higher, easily in 5 figures. I think it should definitely be one of the most expensive pieces of jewelry you give to your partner. It's meant to last a lifetime. So I'm thinking a quality ring has to be at least $300 or more. Everything after that is just about aesthetics and customization, and whether you want the value…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 10:20 PM
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I was gonna bring up rad fems, but rad fems definitely validate OP's point about misandry within feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:58 PM
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Porn existed well before feminism was pro-sex worker. Many men consume porn without becoming incels. Incels always existed, or at least the same conditions that would make someone an incel today always existed. The difference is they didn't congregate on the basis of being involuntarily celibate and unloved. Only through the anonymity of the internet is it not shameful for them to gather and complain.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:57 PM
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If incels reject or refuse to pursue sex with women they aren't attracted to... Then you've proven that sex isn't a need lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:34 PM
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Lol it's fresh in the mind because I recently got stuck in a loop with a user trying to get the same gotcha over and over, unable to compute any other response other than the exact one they had laid out in their mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 08:57 PM
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Have you had to turn down a bunch of women because of their tattoos and piercings?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:18 PM
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Bad faith basically means you have no intention to debate a topic in earnest. Instead you engage by feigning ignorance, being obtuse, deliberately misunderstanding the other person with strawmen, shifting goalposts, or otherwise manipulating the conversation to avoid genuine engagement. Some people can only get a 'gotcha' by trying to force you into binary answers. So they will repeat a yes or no question over and over and dismiss any nuance you would present. They are unable to rephrase or refr…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:08 PM
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To give an earnest answer, people compromise because they want a family, to build something larger than themselves. Additionally dating standards change, perspective changes, and I'd hazard a guess that the men arguing here think many women lack humility and self reflection when it comes to their dating standards. And so in their eyes, all women will be humbled eventually and drop their standards, but by then the women will be less desirable and it'll have been a 'waste'.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:52 PM
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People argue here in bad faith because they want to back people into conversational corners for a gotcha moment. They dismiss all other ideas except the one point they are tee-ing up to say. It actually kind of reminds me how toddlers telegraph what they are about to do lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:34 PM
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What are men losing when women chose not to be alone with a stranger?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:25 PM
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There are more differences between men and women than there are differences between two men of different races.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:19 PM
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women having hissy fits because a guy dared to look in her direction Those women are creating content for money, and outrage porn gets them views. It's not a reflection of the average interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:06 PM
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For every additional one hour per day there is a 9% increase in suicidality. That's definitely a causation/correlation issue, as someone who is depressed may retreat and isolate and only use their phone. But a different person could use their phone the same amount and not be suicidal at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:05 PM
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It's not an either or situation. Men can be dangerous to women, and insulting their ego is a way to illicit violence from men. It's a bit hypocritical for any red pill man to be bothered by this, as they also treat women as AWALT. It's just in this case, women are treating strangers with distrust, not every single man they know.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:01 PM
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That's been the case for a long time. People who look off get perceived worse, and so they do have to navigate the world with more care and do not get the same privilege and grace as pretty people. The Hunchback of Notre-Dame was published 200 years ago. Again, that's why plausible deniability is a key part of charisma.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 04:19 AM
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FOMO is powerful. Grass is greener etc. A lot of lessons provide perspective once it's too late and you can never go back and appreciate what you had. It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 04:11 AM
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And men have become so deathly afraid of being creepshamed Skill issue, truly. Reading a room and indications of interest has become a lost art. People are impatient and afford themselves no plausible deniability in courting. Being coy and playful not only increases mystique and attraction, but provides many avenues to steer conversations away if someone is not reciprocating. That's the issue with cold approaches as well as they give you almost no foundation for plausible deniability and inciden…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 04:02 AM
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There were also a fair few of embittered men expressing some joy at the idea of women getting mauled by bears. Proving a point that hurting a man's ego makes them desire to see you face retribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:58 AM
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Man I wish I was smart enough to predict how these trade wars are going to effect goods, so I'd know which ones to stockpile now and which things to invest in.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:50 AM
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Yeah I was just reminiscing on the few times I was bullied, and I realize I totally deserved it and frankly got off easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:48 AM
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I didn't realize women like 6-somes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:46 AM
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No, talking to my dad has given me immense sympathy and awareness of dead bedrooms though. My brothers never struggling romantically. They royally fucked their own lives up and now just can't live up to their potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 03:58 AM
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That doesn't feel good for guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 07:58 PM
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Then it must not be okay for anyone to cold approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 07:58 PM
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Just paint and more wood flooring. My game room is now Basil.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 07:56 PM
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It's also in our nature to adapt to our environment, so I think some of the 'unconditional' devotion in some relationships is partly out of a feeling of being trapped and not thinking you could do better. At least that's how a lot of /r/deadbedrooms seems to play out. They stay out of 'love' for their partner, but really it's just the fear of change and starting over alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 07:55 PM
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It's easy to idealize something you haven't had. And to view yourself idealistically in a relationship when you haven't experienced it. Of course everyone wants to be wanted and have a sense of belonging. Doesn't mean they are going to provide the same quality of company they are expecting from others.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 07:52 PM
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Good, I got a fat bonus and blew it on home renovations and decor lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 07:49 PM
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You're right but some people will martyr themselves and sacrifice far far more than others will in the name of devotion to their partner. Does that have more to do with the quality of the relationship, or the personality of the person doing the sacrificing?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 07:47 PM
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It's 'ok' in that men do not feel threatened when cold approached by a woman. It's a much more neutral interaction. But a decent amount of women do feel threatened when cold approached by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 07:44 PM
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Isn't that true for men as well? Compartmentalization is kind of a male dominated behavior lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 07:43 PM
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I swear all of a sudden Reddit no longer shows images in comments for me. Are they forcing me to use the New Reddit UI?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 07:42 PM
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I've had these T-Fal in a set for 7 years. Not a scratch on them, perfectly non-stick. You don't use ANY metal utensils on non-stick. Otherwise you ruin them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 07:40 PM
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Men can be just as judgmental, they just express it differently. They are avoidant, less direct, or try to mask it as humor or preference. Whereas women express it in a way that they think bolsters their social currency and gets them into the in-group. They try to connect with other woman over judgement of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 07:37 PM
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That's a good mindset, I have a tall, semi-attractive, well-off friend who is switching jobs and moving because he cannot land a date in our city. I've tried to set him up with my friends but they think he's a finance bro dork.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 03:00 PM
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You don't know if he's read a book lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 02:58 PM
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You can get applications like Cold Turkey that can block certain pages for any amount of time you set, and can prevent you from unblocking it. I used that on Reddit in my last job when I needed to focus because I'd refresh this page 100 times before I'd get a lick of work done.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 02:57 PM
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Ok, so... the moral of this comment is to reject more women who are interested in you and hold out for Mrs. Right lol. How very Cosmopolitan lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 02:55 PM
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You tryna relocate?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 02:54 PM
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A long distance girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 02:52 PM
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I'm sure your brain lights up quite differently when viewing porn vs reading about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 09:33 PM
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Very expensive pieces or basically a whole new wardrobe?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 12:23 AM
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I guess people make fun of them because it's one of the most life threatening elective surgeries you can get. All in the name of a disproportionate ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 12:22 AM
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I don't know if I've ever tried OLED, maybe it's best to stay in the dark lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 12:19 AM
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You get $1000 today, but you gotta spend it on something. What are you buying?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 12:17 AM
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Nah they just get eaten alive. Simpler lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 07:40 PM
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That's too high. Approximately 46-47% of women in the United States are currently married, and it's fair to say most of those marriages are monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 11:11 PM
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Which women? Since everyone seems to know a lot of couples in committed relationships, I wonder if we just aren't looking at the same group.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 11:04 PM
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Yup. You can see Vsauce try it for that amount of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 10:06 PM
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Pretty sure Vsauce just did a video on this, and it was said that more than 3 days in solitary confinement causes some form of brain damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 10:00 PM
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Not gonna lie, a likely outcome is that I am too cheap and lazy to get it done for my children.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 09:47 PM
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It's in the name of the subreddit: Debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 09:36 PM
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Lmfao. According to recent data, TikTok has a slightly male-skewed gender demographic, with approximately 54.8% of users identifying as male and 45.2% as female https://explodingtopics.com/blog/tiktok-demographics
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 09:02 PM
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Because the husband thinks his wife cheated... there's no medical reason for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:29 PM
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And that's why it isn't equivalent. A paternity test is an accusation to your wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:22 PM
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They hate it because having a man's child absolutely fucks your SMV, so they feel betrayed to have sacrificed their body and committed themselves to a man who doesn't trust them. I don't get why men wait until their wives are baby trapped and pregnant to spring this on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 03:01 PM
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women are in hysterics over the possibility that their partners would dare verify vilify Fixed that for you. It's the character assassination by one's own partner that causes relationship strife.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:41 PM
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Doubt men would be cool with being accused of being so malicious or stupid to be the cause of their baby getting mixed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:33 PM
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they knew what they were signing up for I don't think they did. Every pregnancy is different, every child is different. And there's a whole phenomenon of blowing smoke up people's ass to try to convince them to have children. As soon as they get pregnant a switch is flipped and everyone switches to "HAHA JUST WAIT TIL ALL THIS SHIT HAPPENS."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 08:21 PM
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If people cheat within a marriage, is that still a 'success of the institution'? Is the only valuation of success the continued existence of the legally binding marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 08:17 PM
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Indeed. The funny thing is, a lot of RP advice gets the luxury of being vague and impersonal, because if there's no ROI, RP gets to say "You didn't do it correctly/long enough/under the right conditions", and then handwave it away.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 08:11 PM
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I think about that whenever I feel the slightest discomfort. Oh how much worse it could be.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:02 AM
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From this clip and from googling what he looks like I don't quite understand it. But I guess you could just replace him with another good looking celebrity and yeah, attractive people get noticed. It is what it is. Attractive women get this treatment as well. In cases where an average woman is passed by, some women are so attractive that it compels people approach them and say something about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 03:02 AM
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Different strokes I guess. Them girls definitely are drinking though. I tend to approach attractive women when I am drunk to let them know I think they are pretty, and then I exit the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 02:58 AM
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It does, but it also can be tangled with women perceiving you to have money. One girl approaching would be normal for an attractive guy, but 3 women clamoring to compliment him in a manner of seconds seems like they are in on it or know exactly who he is, which is likely a multi-millionaire streamer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 02:53 AM
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Hmmm... this is the guy? I wouldn't put it past someone who makes a living off of image and clout to actually pay women to do this, just so they maintain the perception of status. Those women could also know who he is and assume he's a millionaire and are gassing him up so he showers them in money. It's all a money-making game with content creators.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 02:49 AM
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Unlucky then, people can hear the same thing you hate and actually derive pleasure from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 04:04 AM
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Mine would put me on a list if I were a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 04:04 AM
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So more on the mukbang side of it plus dog mukbangs lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 04:01 AM
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There are even better ones that emulate a specific character or person. I forget the name people use the most, I think it is character.ai
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 04:00 AM
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Most of the time it's just luck to be in the right place at the right time to meet the right person who wants your seed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 03:58 AM
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I know u listen to ASMR. Tell me which ones u like.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 03:56 AM
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I guess it's inclusive of people who think their car is a home?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 02:35 AM
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Why do some people say 'unhoused' instead of homeless now?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 02:33 AM
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It is about personality if you want a woman who also has one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 03:59 AM
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Lol I wonder if women would think a man who says he deserves 19-21 BMI women is a man with a good heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:37 PM
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God dang it, I really like animated twinks. Astarion, now Viktor....
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:34 PM
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Autistic women aren't even diagnosed as easily as men. There's a lot of socialization for women that enforces masking autistic behaviors. I assume that translates to more assimilation in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 04:49 PM
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Probably large portions or eating too frequently. And I guess if they are working out everyday, then they probably do have muscle mass, they just need to cut.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 04:44 PM
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Technically you don't NEED love from your mother, but it sure does fuck you up if you have a neglectful or resentful one.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 04:41 PM
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Yup, but women get kind of autistic about it because there's an even lower base level of needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 04:39 PM
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Make it well known so you don't waste your time with people you are going to get pissed off at.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 10:24 PM
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True. Feminism is a huge umbrella, of course it's going to encompass people who wish men didn't exist/treat them as lesser. It's so easy for anyone to call themselves a feminist. Do you think women should have equal rights? Yes, boom, feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:59 PM
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Exactly, people body shame because they want to get a reaction and it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:48 PM
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Dick preference is real. You don't have to shame people for not being your preference. Some people just want to insult for insult's sake, and evidently bringing up dick size is extremely effective.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:45 PM
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Whatever drama this is has me intrigued.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:29 PM
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I'd ask him what his plans are for the day, and then follow up and ask if he wants to get breakfast. Is this a weird set up where you are trying to see if women would make him breakfast unprompted? What if it's his house? Kind of throws a wrench into your scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 07:56 PM
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Who gives a shit about vulva diversity? That's a true beggars can't be choosers scenario for men. Especially if they land a girl who is great in the face and body department. Mechanically it has so little to do with the enjoyment of sex. A small dick however...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 07:37 PM
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a man can get any part of his home, car, or appliances fixed without being ripped off. Pfft. If a business sees a man as gullible, they will try to sucker them out of their money too. Life isn't hard because salesmen are trying to get a commission on you...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 09:29 PM
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By then the husband has wife goggles. Familiarity breeds fondness.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 09:19 PM
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Because if a woman's goal is to secure the best possible husband for herself, then she'll have better chances in her prime.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:35 PM
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If you've learned anything from Crypto. What goes up must come down.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:32 PM
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Abortion for some women is giving them the choice to have children on their own terms at a different time. That sounds like self love if they are prioritizing what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:28 PM
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Lmao who gives a shit. If that's his perception, then he's just dating fewer women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:59 PM
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I'm learning to appreciate the development process. Once they do more than just eat, sleep, poop, cry. It's the part where they are a potato that can't even hold it's own neck up that I'm like eugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:56 PM
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Many do, some don't. Some would if it was at a different time in their life with a different person. And sometimes pregnancy is just deadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:41 PM
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I think it's fine. But there might be a slight genetic component to it, because even as a small child I didn't care for baby dolls. I had friends who were obsessed with them and I thought the materials they were made of were more interesting than what they represented.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:33 PM
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It's funny to hear my mom say she has little maternal instinct.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:25 PM
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I didn't say it was immoral, it was fruitless. And Jill Stein knew that, she withdrew from the race on election day after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:37 PM
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This applies to more than just gender dynamics. People are disillusioned with a lot of 'expected' facets of life. Pregnancy, raising children, marriage, working in a capitalist society, education, religion, mental health. So many things were just the unquestionable status quo, and now we get to see how the sausage is being made.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:28 PM
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Amendments can be annulled, just needs to be ratified. If the country believed that more rights need to be left up to the states, then it can be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:25 PM
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School shooters take guns from legal gun owners, or obtain them legally themselves. If it was not legal to buy or sell guns, the supply of guns would be scarce. The pro-life belief is not universal, and the debate hinges on competing rights: the right to life versus the right to bodily autonomy. The question of when life begins and whose rights take precedence remains philosophically debated.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:19 PM
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Abstaining doesn't remove one’s complicity in systemic outcomes. Abstaining was the very essence of cutting off one's nose to spite their face.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:13 PM
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The function of a gun is to kill something. Preventing YOU from owning a gun may not save anyone, but preventing others from owning a gun will undoubtedly help others. Could even end school shootings.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:09 PM
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Yep, and a lot of them forfeited their vote to make a moral stance against Israel. Let's see how that pans out for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:55 PM
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There's no distinction even if they want one. Republicans are powerless against Trump, they all have to bend the knee.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:48 PM
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Long hair? Were you passing as a woman? Perhaps women felt more open around you with longer hair because you looked like a liberal druggie hippie, and thus they perceived you as more trustworthy because they think your politics align. My husband was assumed to be a drug user when he had long hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:10 PM
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The men who say it. Instead of acknowledging their own convictions (or lack thereof), they attribute their choices to external opinions as a way to avoid criticism or confrontation over their political stance.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:04 PM
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Do you have the same energy for the 2nd amendment? Would you prefer if some states could outright ban gun ownership?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:55 PM
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It's not all men though. The liberal men in my life do not feel persecuted. They feel in control of their own lives, they acknowledge that history has placed white men above everyone else. They don't feel personally guilty about it, but they have a strong sense of justice and believe in equality. However my conservative male family members feel persecuted. Their candidate WON the election and they are still unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:52 PM
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Yeah this point has been coming up here a lot lately. Men saying women MADE them vote conservative. A lack of accountability and conviction is all I see there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:48 PM
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Rage bait is currency now. Seems like there's a demand for it, and it makes people money.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:47 PM
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Sounds like she does get their attention, they just don't like her enough to commit to her. So I'm thinking whatever obsessive behaviors she presents scares men off after they get to know her.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:43 PM
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Given how many men here make gleeful comments when abortion rights are stripped away, I don't even know how many men on PPD are pro-abortion. It's this mentality of "If I can't financially abort, then women shouldn't be able to medically abort". As if a man who wants to financially abort wouldn't ALSO benefit from a medical one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:39 PM
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Well if she reinvented her whole personality, methinks BPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:34 PM
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Mechanically there is overlap. If women prefer clitoral stimulation to masturbate, then they are gonna want that incorporated into sex, like with 'oral and fingers or whatever'.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:32 PM
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Hm makes me wonder if vibrators sell better or if lengthy girthy dildos sell better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:20 PM
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Since when does anyone have to be innocuous and moral and to be good human being? No wonder you guys lost So true.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:49 PM
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Yes liberals are bad at making change because they in fight over ideological purity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:36 PM
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Conservatives accept men as violent as the status quo, liberals try to change them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:31 PM
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Yes it is the extremely selfless choice, most people can't do it. Just like most people won't adopt.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:28 PM
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My issue with sexy beachwear is that I almost always visit beaches with family. And I don't want no titty, no cheek, no lips falling out of anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:26 PM
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Lol be the change you want to see.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:25 PM
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Be civil.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:04 PM
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Yes it's okay for people to hold these beliefs. It's their form of diligence and personal responsibility for keeping themselves safe. People who acknowledge that men are more dangerous and predatory still choose to trust some amount of men in their lives, just not all men, and certainly not strangers. And that's the distinction between this and something racial. If it's a racial bias, people apply it to an entire group, not just strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:02 PM
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I agree, anyone who isn't serving a life sentence should be in facilities that promote rehabilitation and reintegration. However, it does make me wonder what level of violent crime doesn't result in life imprisonment, and to what degree violent criminals can or should be rehabilitated. There was a rapist in my area who was released after 5.5 years and the immediately went and raped and murdered a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 06:55 PM
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I would think surely they treat violent and non-violent crimes differently. Their philosophy of the incarcerated is, "Someday he will be my neighbor and I want to fix his upbringing and instill values into him.' But how can you come to trust a serial rapist as your neighbor?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 06:27 PM
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Is this related to rehabilitation vs punishment in the criminal justice system? That was a topic on the front page because Norway has nice prisons and very low recidivism.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 06:23 PM
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Whatever validation you could receive pales in comparison to the level of obsessive stalking and criticism you open yourself up to. You know the most vitriolic trolls who gets banned from this subreddit? They can still come here and see your pictures. Cum guzzler could be in your inbox if you give him a reason lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 06:29 PM
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I love saying broads. Sounds better when you don an accent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 06:27 PM
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Call them broads.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:59 PM
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Uh oh, looks like he'd have no qualms about banning porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:09 PM
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What's the nuance?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:06 PM
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Lol they are STILL counting votes. Seems like Harris gained 6 million and Trump gained 3 million. But it's pointless right? The electoral college determined the winner.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:04 PM
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Phillip Defranco just posted a Google trend that showed NOW people are googling tariffs, after the election. https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=today%201-m&geo=US&q=tariff&hl=en
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:00 PM
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I don't think the language says 'men are our equals'. The languages is 'we want equal rights.'
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 04:56 PM
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It's antithetical to people's desire for goods to be cheaper.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 04:53 PM
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People are finally looking into his policies lol. A lot of anticipation of tariffs is affecting companies that import goods.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 04:34 PM
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Equal in opportunity and power. If you think the people in power are monsters, you certainly would want to have more freedom to get out from under their thumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 04:30 PM
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No he is charismatic, in that he makes people feel like they are in a conspiracy together against the rest of the world. He's persecution complex resonated with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:12 PM
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Yup, caring whether a anonymous redditor is 'keeping up with their femininity' is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:07 PM
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🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:03 PM
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Better that than saying they need to storm the capital lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:00 PM
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Yep, Reddit really had me in a bubble thinking it was an easy win for Harris.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:00 PM
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Man you sound really mad about it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:57 PM
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No need to force people to hang out together just because you want it to be so. People have their boundaries, that's life. Lol all I told my dad is "Hey I'm gonna cancel out your vote."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:55 PM
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The sex strike is because they don't want to get pregnant as abortion bans span the country. Even if you want a child, the miscarriages can kill you if doctors do not remove them quickly enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 09:57 PM
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Hawk tuah
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 07:38 PM
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Half our country is ambivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 06:20 PM
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If I take your scenarios literally, then the second one sound superior. I do think the concept of passion is very subjective. Feeling connected during and after sex is the goal. But other people would interpret passion as being extremely sexually adventurous, performative, very intense reactions. And I think that sets really high expectations for every single sexual interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:17 AM
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Honestly, even an app that literally rewards you for going out on dates with people could gameify it to get people out of their comfort zones. Maybe you have to mutually ping your location to the app and it gives you some currency or rewards. And it could continue to give you prompts or trivia to keep the date going. People would try to exploit it, but you could try and design it to filter out disingenuous users.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 01:35 AM
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I thought the whole premise is that women respect AND desire AF, and want to commit to him. That's not the same as the easy slut.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 12:26 AM
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Apps that inject a secondary goal or entertainment factor could be interesting. Another way to bond with people outside of assessing their photos. Maybe their is a anonymous roulette chat incorporated into dating apps, sort of like Omegle or Chat Roulette, and you can choose at any point to reveal yourself or to simply remain horny pen pals.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 12:23 AM
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I don't even think your friends want to hang out with you if you are too sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 12:09 AM
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What is he crying about?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 08:16 PM
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Lol because you are saying, "My penis does not like this body. Change it to please me."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 07:27 PM
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Can they also select for eye and skin color?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 07:26 PM
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Maybe there is something at the campus library! Never know lol. Or even your dorm might have craft supplies if they decorate seasonally.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 07:22 PM
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Nah I'd say eugenics is anti-human, anti-family, and anti-life. But... it's a bad thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 07:19 PM
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Hand drawn is cheaper AND more meaningful!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 07:18 PM
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Most people are 'bad', in that their self interests make them rationalize their morality after the fact. The distinction is that women do not have to trust other women. They are not inviting women into their lives the way they desire to invite men into their lives. And most women do not WANT from other women what men want from a woman. So a man acting in self interest to get what he wants from a woman is a larger threat to her than a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 07:16 PM
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It's kind of like eugenics.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 07:13 PM
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I get annoyed with it sometimes. I correct myself if I do it. If you are gonna say something, put your whole pussy into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 07:10 PM
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I'd say many of those women supporting Depp would still call themselves feminists. They just aren't activist feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 05:47 PM
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Do you have insurance? Check and see if it covers free therapy. But also remember feeling bad at one point during a day does not mean the whole day will be bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 06:19 PM
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True, that is the risk of marriage. You share in gains and losses.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 06:18 PM
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Lol it's $4 added to the menu cost, plus a service fee AND a tip. Getting fleeced for being lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 06:14 PM
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I'll walk further if it means I get to pull through a parking spot and not have cars around me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 06:12 PM
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GR8 B8 M8
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 04:51 PM
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Your vote is private, yet few people seem to exercise that right. They wear their politics on their sleeve.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 08:24 PM
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Did Trump do that and Biden reversed it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 08:23 PM
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Everyone's been blowing up my phone!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 05:40 PM
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"Well, y’all, buckle up because things have escalated in a way I never expected. After my initial post, I figured things would calm down once my sister had time to cool off. Spoiler alert: they did not."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 05:40 PM
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I like /r/BestofRedditorUpdates but damn it is annoying when I can snuff out the creative writing, or AI generated slop. Most people's writing style sucks and they sound nothing like a real person recalling a memory.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 05:35 PM
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And a punishment to your tax bracket probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:50 AM
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Most other subs will ban you for talking about the same content. Unless you specifically find and incel or blackpill sub that won't get banned by Reddit, you are shit outta luck there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:38 AM
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Damn they gave you unconditional love and it still wasn't enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:37 AM
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The first two are just cruel to do to someone you supposedly loved now that they are worse off. Becoming less attractive is more of a mismatch in values, if you care for your appearance and your partner won't do the same for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:36 AM
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I don't think I could handle a weekly hangover. However, drinking and dancing with your friends is fun, and if the club is where that happens, so be it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:33 AM
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Lmao I saw his Lex Friedman interview. He was tee-ed up for easy answers to make him look good and he still fucked them up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:29 AM
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Guess you just gotta steer clear of woe-is-me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:25 AM
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Golden retriever is the new himbo. Happy and excitable is golden retriever.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:21 AM
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provides protection I'm thinking most men in most relationships do not have to do anything to protect their partners. It's not too often that you are mugged. heavy stuff That's what a dolly is for. out of reach stuff Lol that's what a stool is for.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:17 PM
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One less mouth to feed, therefore less time spent grocery shopping and cooking because food will last longer, less laundry, fewer dishes, less cleaning because that is one less person making messes and leaving things, one less person track appointments and schedules. I'm sure there are even more things depending on the dynamics of the couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:05 PM
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In some households it truly does. The high volume of daily tasks fall onto the wife, while the husband tends to do maintenance tasks that happen weekly or monthly or even less often. So when he moves out, sure she's gonna have to mow the lawn and take out the trash, gonna have to take her car in every few months for an oil change, but overall her hours on household tasks are going down because that's one less mouth to feed, one less closet of laundry, one less person track appointments, one less…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:31 PM
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Doesn't have to be lavish and expensive but this putting tons of thought and effort into planning Would make me feel gutted to know he used to be more thoughtful with other people but not with me. It's one thing to just assume a guy isn't thoughtful because 'he's a guy', but it's another to have examples of him giving a shit with someone else. I don't know if this correlates to anal or whatever the gotcha is. Because the experience of being thoughtful isn't as painful as the experience of anal c…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:21 PM
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It's the branch swinging that makes it look like hypergamy. If a woman waits until she has a better option before moving on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:15 PM
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I'll definitely grant you that, and I'll grant you if the only or most important thing a woman can list about their partner is that he is 'safe', then yeah, that's not gonna feel good. Feels extremely one-dimensional to not value other things more.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 03:15 AM
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I just listed all the qualities I like about my husband to him, so I think words of affirmation might be a kind of romance guys appreciate.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 03:05 AM
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use average guy for kids Does the average guy not want kids? They are his.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 03:01 AM
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Lmao it's literally praise to tell a woman that you trust and value her to be the mother of your children.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:47 AM
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No one wants to be someone's second, third, tenth choice and so on. But that's not what goes on in most people's lives. Women and men have relationships that fail, often with people who good traits and bad traits for the match, and they keep looking for a life partner. That doesn't mean their failed relationships were their first choice, especially when they themselves ended it. Ain't nobody got time to settle to that degree. Everyone is looking for the whole package. Everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:40 AM
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Tried talking to my dad about politics today, got tired pretty quickly and just ended with, "Whelp, I guess we are cancelling out each other's vote."
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:31 AM
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I mean it really is a random system. Maybe it can arbitrarily change lol. It went: Lost Generation Greatest Generation Baby Boomers Generation X Generation Y/Millennials Generation Z/Zoomers Generation Alpha
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 01:08 AM
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Oof. The next generation of kids is going to be called Generation Beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 01:03 AM
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Most women would actually tell you what they like by basically rattling off characteristics of their partners. A woman who is with an abusive shithead might say she likes "A man who takes charge, gets shit done, successful" etc, and those things would be TRUE about that guy, however he also exploited his position and her desire for a man in control by being abusive. Some women want a benevolent dictator for a husband. Makes their life easier to not have to make decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 08:13 PM
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Some men in history have achieved greatness without ever taking a wife or having kids. But... some might have been gay. There's no shame in MGTOW, but it's never that straightforward. There's usually a lot of bargaining, blaming, floundering, and attacking that comes before that, and some people shame that behavior because it negatively affects others.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:43 PM
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Probably has something to do with child labor laws, idk lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 08:11 PM
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Eh the only thing I'd get for working harder is more work. I get my work done on time. If you got direct compensation for more work completed, maybe things would be different.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 07:34 PM
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Don't make my life more difficult Shouldn't have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 06:45 PM
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What is something?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 06:40 PM
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People with cushy jobs that give them time to slack off on Reddit are overrepresented here lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 06:39 PM
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Yeah dating isn't instantaneous, plus for most cases it's just simply the wrong time. Some probably would date her but they are taken. I'd expect men making 6 figures do like women from a similar socioeconomic class as well as attractive ones that take care of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 05:44 PM
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I think the point is that this provides an outlet for people who like to debate so they don't annoy the fuck out of their friends and family with the, "Uhm acktually." Plus gender dynamics get heated, so you don't want to rile up your own friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 05:38 PM
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17% of working American men aged 15+ made six figures or more in 2021. But because she is in a big city and also makes that salary, she is likely disproportionately in contact with those men. So her percentage of encountering them is probably higher than 17%.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 05:35 PM
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men want partners, friends, someone to rely on. Sounds like marriage material.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 02:00 PM
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Lolita?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 04:30 AM
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Yep but everything has its limit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 01:48 AM
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/r/cakeeater
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 11:05 PM
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Do most men ask? I feel like most don't because it would come off as insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:07 PM
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Oh true, the lesser of impact time has on a man's fertility has a huge effect on their life planning.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 10:31 PM
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Well, they can't get pregnant, so they get to have a very different dynamic with unsafe sex, with fatherhood which is ultimately advantageous because they are not set back as much as women are when they have a baby. But other than that, I can't really think of anything meaningful. Men are judged less for being sluts than women are. But that's only unfair if you want to have a lot of sex with a lot of different people as a woman. And even still, women rack up high N counts and still end up in a d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:38 PM
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They are called cake eaters for a reason. They want to have their cake and eat it too. The relationship was valuable, but the ego boost/sexual satisfaction was comparably valuable to them, and they thought they could get away with having both. I don't think it's rational.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:30 PM
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I wasn't thinking about insults at all. I was thinking of your partner dropping an emotional truth bomb.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:23 PM
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Okay lol, imagine this is the last thing they ever say to you. Then it's just one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:21 PM
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If you don't trust your woman, why do you care if they leave you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 07:44 PM
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This is the mother of your child and likely your wife. Yes, her feelings should matter to you. If her feelings don't matter, then it is no surprise if she decides to leave you over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 07:42 PM
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Yours was quite obtuse for making no distinction between a hiring manager and the person you chose to spend the rest of your life with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 07:39 PM
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You aren't marrying your boss lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 07:30 PM
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They want younger virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 05:23 PM
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Maybe she just needs to know someone better So like... trust them more?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:54 PM
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Damn she must not be sexually attracted then.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:51 PM
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Yeah but that shouldn't matter if you're innocent.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:22 PM
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Imagine you have a newborn daughter, and your wife is like, "I need you to send your DNA to the police to prove your not a rapist or pedophile." Do you have zero issue with your wife's perception of you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:08 PM
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Lmao how does this analogy work when you put on a seatbelt when you are the only one in the car?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 02:29 PM
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As I've said before, the worst part of all of this is waiting until after a woman gets pregnant or has the baby to make your desires known. Waiting til the baby is born to ask for a paternity tests is genuinely the worst time because the mother is probably in the most vulnerable state of her life and you basically just said, "Depending on the results of this test, I am about to get the fuck out of dodge." Doesn't read like someone who is ready to be a father, reads like someone looking for an ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 02:24 PM
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Lmao what does it mean then? If a woman doesn't have sex with you after the first date, it means she doesn't trust you not to judge her and doesn't trust you to commit to her after sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 02:21 PM
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How does it benefit the hospital or government to do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 02:08 PM
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Yep and I'm sure there are people who are older than you, who have been fatter longer, who have been exposed to all sorts of 'plans' that would have made them lose weight that they do not follow through on. This has the same energy as people being opposed to cancelling student debt because they had to pay for theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 11:37 PM
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Who gives a shit honestly, they are obese. They were either gonna stay obese, or lose weight with Ozempic. If these people were gonna lose weight another way then it would have happened already. But people have all sorts of hang ups that keep them from losing their weight. If muscle is important to them, they have to... you know, start working out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 11:32 PM
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US cities and towns are car-centric, everything is built far away with the assumption that it will be driven to, so walking as a means of transportation is unreliable if not unfeasible.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 11:26 PM
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Only if they are sedentary. If they resistance train along with it they will maintain muscle.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 11:24 PM
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Lol it's not designed for that, it's just the the failings of human behavior mean that people aren't able to maintain the lifestyle changes to stay small. You know what else fucks with your hormonal system? Being obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 11:23 PM
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Lol so you're like "I'll save a 6 year old, she'll be someone's wife someday."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 10:45 PM
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Well I think the same way about a group of 21. If they prepare coordinated attack/defense, they can overwhelm.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:39 PM
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If you've slept with guys on the first date and it always ends in failure, it makes sense that you learned a lesson and in the present you try not to fuck it up by sleeping together too quickly. It's like saying as a guy, "I really like this girl I just met, and I want her to move in so I'mma give her the key on the first date." "Oh damn she stole some of my stuff, maybe I should get to know people better first and not come across as an easy mark." Doesn't even have to be malicious on their part…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:33 PM
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Definitely the minority. I'm thinking 25% max are genuinely mutually into the non-monogamy. Everyone else is likely battling jealousy and ego and regret.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:27 PM
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I've seen it do the absolute worst. You smoke it young enough, and it basically obliterates your motivation centers. Turns you into the lowest energy life form with no desire for improvement.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:26 PM
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I guess my frame of reference for people who like to travel is like my uncle and cousins who travel as a family to a new place every few years. So I personally do not know people who travel just to have casual sex. I'm sure it's the bees knees to some, but idk man I just want to go to a cool beach or some shit. The indulgence I meant is spending money. Some people like the excuse to spend, and traveling is a good one for people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:17 PM
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I guess when I think of tribal, I think of gynocentric societies where women also take on the roles of hunting and protecting because that is simply what is required.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:13 PM
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Lol no one is telling you not to sleep in except your job or your momma. Traveling is really about escapism, indulgence, finding variety and novelty in your experiences of food, culture, socialization, location, nature, etc. I'd say a lot of people derive meaning from life by trying to have as many new and unique experiences as possible, and travelling creates those new experiences at every step. But life is what you make it, and if you don't feel that itch for novelty and indulgence, then it ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:11 PM
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Yeah both genders actually have a trope for this. Captain save-a-ho and "I can fix him".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 04:58 PM
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Hm. I could have sworn there were other forms of joy. But I guess if you feel like your life isn't in order, then things just aren't joyful.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 04:51 PM
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Can 5 men defeat 20 women and 1 man? Maybe 1 at a time, but if the 20 gang up at once? Men are stronger, yeah, but... that's a lot of bodies. And then if we are saying weapons are brought into play, it levels the playing field even further.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 04:47 PM
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I'd love to know what crosses the line for you. We talking like moisturizer with SPF?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 04:43 PM
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If you can afford to go on month long vacations, do it bro. YOLO.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 04:39 PM
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For having hair and ankles lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 04:38 PM
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I imagine they went with Kamala because of her ties to the incumbency. The prosecutor vs the felon also has a bit of a poetic edge which is good for campaigning. She wasn't even on my radar in 2020 because I was simply a Bernie Bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 11:49 PM
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Photography? I have no idea. Ironically, the higher quality phone camera you get, the more space you'll need to store photos. Kind of circular to end up needing more and more cloud storage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 11:45 PM
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I feel like the culture shock may be too strong for most men to stay long term. And then it's a money issue trying to make a living and build a life in a new country.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 11:32 PM
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I think the left trusted Biden had enough humility to defer to his cabinet.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 11:30 PM
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Why is Harris so bad and who should they have picked?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 11:27 PM
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His ego and money can make things happen that you wouldn't dream of. Doesn't really take intelligence to never admit defeat. Takes ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 11:26 PM
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Probably like country more because country has started to absorb other genres lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 11:25 PM
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He's saying that if you bring a woman from another country back home, she is dating you opportunistically, and now you've put her in the environment you struggled to date in, thus she may leave you because she has better opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 11:22 PM
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People buy those handbags because they somehow appreciate in value, just like a painting. I don't get it, but you got dudes like Jeffree Star who literally invest in million dollar Hermes bags.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 04:20 PM
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If what the majority of modern women find attractive is influenced by popular culture, then it's... still what women are finding attractive. It doesn't make sense to say it doesn't count just because in 20 years the social, cultural and racial influences could change things. You are all trying to date a woman right now. Not wait several decades for something different.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 04:04 PM
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Can't give advice on a case by case basis because no one here knows who tf you are. It's an anonymous subreddit, what you yourself can write is not the whole truth of your circumstance.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 02:59 PM
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Lol I feel like we are dancing around the fact that prostitution is legal in these countries lmao. I'm thinking most passport bros are just banging prostitutes in other countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 02:54 PM
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I have a much more utilitarian stance on it. I think it is a net positive if people who want abortions have them. Society is just better. Crime rates drop, people can be more productive members of society if they have kids on their terms. Less trauma and suffering for unwanted children, who would in turn continue a cycle of abuse. So having said that, development is a continuum in the womb, and yes the fetus does reach a point where it really is not significantly different from a newborn. So the…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 08:33 PM
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Personhood, sentience.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 08:22 PM
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The mantra is that, "It's between a woman and her healthcare professional." Perhaps that is simply a platitude. But I would think most doctors, if they believe they can preserve both lives, are going to opt for that. I don't think most sound of mind pregnant women are waiting until the 3rd trimester for abortions, it's much more likely that a fetal defect is discovered coupled with added risk for the mother. And even then, it is probably just an induced birth where the baby just won't survive be…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 08:21 PM
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Maybe I'm off base, but if left to the healthcare professionals I would trust that they would know when a fetus is capable of being induced, and thus any viable child would be born. Then the issue is how much does it cost to keep a 'viable' baby alive in NICU? Should that be something the taxpayers take care of?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 08:00 PM
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This was Roe v Wade: First Trimester (Weeks 1–12): During this period, the decision to have an abortion was left entirely to the woman and her doctor. The state could not regulate or prohibit abortions, allowing unrestricted access to the procedure. Second Trimester (Weeks 13–26): The state could impose regulations on abortion procedures, but only to ensure they were done safely and to protect the health of the mother. However, the state could not ban abortion outright. Third Trimester (Weeks 27…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 07:54 PM
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Life, but undeveloped. It is not of equal value to the developed person carrying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 07:40 PM
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That is too general. There's quite the range between being too shy vs saying or doing things that lack empathy or tact.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:44 PM
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Because it could be a symptom of a trait or behavior that just makes you unlikeable. So a lot of people would wonder, assuming you aren't ugly, what has kept you from intimately connecting with anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:41 PM
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Post college really. It's weird and requires explanation it make it less weird. Doesn't make it a dealbreaker for everyone though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:38 PM
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The timing is terrible for your wife to have just birthed your child and you are saying, "I am about to leave your ass based on this test I want you to take." Really shows how flighty you are during a time where you are supposed to be a rock.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:30 PM
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It's a scarcity mentality. Or perhaps it's because subconsciously they expect a woman to become supplicating and subservient after marriage, so they don't feel the need to give her an informed choice. They wait til she's deeply invested and trapped to start hardballing her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:28 PM
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I'd be cool with it if the standard was also to compare the male DNA to rape kits. The woman gets treated as a potential suspect and so does the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:18 PM
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Men are increasingly dropping out of the workforce?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 01:36 PM
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It's a lot of waffling to show all this and STILL show that men have nearly double women's average salaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 12:31 PM
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Yeah definitely in an insulated bubble. If you could snap your fingers and have a different social life, (apart from having sexual partners/GF) would you want to have more women that supported you and had common interest with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:25 AM
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Men aren't paying for a woman's time. If anything they are paying to express something about themselves. They are trying to communicate something by paying (nonchalance/financial security/generosity), especially because they know that communicating a desire not to pay is expressing financial insecurity/neuroticism/disdain. I do agree that courting women where money is involved still leans quite traditional with men paying BUT you will see many women offer to pay, insist on splitting, or buying Y…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:20 AM
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Do you have a mom... sisters... cousins? Like how does that factor into all of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:09 AM
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Oh that is kind of mind fucky. My first thought would be to compromise and make him tasty lunches so he doesn't need to go. But on some level it feels unfair that he would prioritize eating at a restaurant over his own partner's anxieties. Like there are so many god damn restaurants out there, that it's a weird hill to die on. As I think on it more, I can see how a man, if nothing was going on, would care more about feeling right than letting his partner's insecurity dictate him. Maybe he doesn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:03 AM
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A baby's inability to find reason would probably drive me insane. Like trying to negotiate with a terrorist lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:00 AM
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Foreplay my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 01:47 AM
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Yeah tbh it might be more of an ego boost than anything to give a good BJ.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 01:46 AM
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This feels like the trick question, they kind of seem the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 12:59 AM
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Terrible OPSEC for him to then take pictures of her in his classroom and tag her on Facebook lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 12:38 AM
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She is, I think she had a crush on him back then. Come to think of it, perhaps her husband and the former teacher bear resemblance.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 12:34 AM
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There's a gal who I graduated high school with who posted she went back to our high school as a guest speaker in a teacher's classroom just on general life advice. But the thing is... that broad never finished college, never got a job in anything she planned or studied for and then got married to a man that's like 12+ years older than her and is a housewife, with no kids. The dude seems to have teenage kids. Like what kind of trajectory is that? What would high school kids even think of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 12:29 AM
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The internet amplifies extreme behavior and scenarios, but I still think people overall treat it with a similar level of disillusionment as media. If it's so far outside of your own perceived reality, then you can kind of hand wave it as fringe. Now if your reality feels fucked, and you are looking for something to blame, the internet really is your oyster to find a scapegoat. Ultimately I agree that the escapism the internet and other technology provides creates a consistent distraction and dop…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 12:05 AM
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Ironically, only the female mosquitos bite.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 05:19 PM
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Because a lot of women who say they hate men then turn around and love men in their lives. Seems like there are a lot of men who say they hate women who turn around and are looking up which magazines hold the most bullets.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 05:10 PM
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Banned from certain subreddits I'm sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 05:07 PM
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I'd say it's something that could get you canned at your job, but that in isolation isn't enough to constitute hate speech on social media platforms. What is stated after and before are going to have a much bigger impact.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 05:04 PM
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Are women not sacrificing for men? Shit, that's what marriage is really all about. Insurances for her as she is about to tank her SMV to have your offspring. What other rewards did you want? More sex? Then you gotta keep making your wife feel special. For most women, desire for sex is a reaction, not spontaneous. If that's an issue, you gotta keep shopping until you find a woman that has a spontaneous libido like yourself. And if you want more sex, don't have kids then. They fuck everything up u…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 04:43 PM
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That's categorically untrue. Now more than ever women share the burden of providing income for the household. Now more than ever there is paternity leave, stay at home fathers, women respect and desire caregiving and emotional openness in their partners, which is not something they would have dreamed of asking of their husband 60 years ago. The lingering pressure is shaped by broader society, not just women. There are still many traditionalists and conservatives, competing cultures etc. But over…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 04:33 PM
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The lack of a career suggests she has no greater ambition.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:01 AM
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Lol as long as they aren't life size.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 09:00 PM
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Yes by then they've already had it their way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:57 PM
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I'm thinking more often than not: Option A's ambition is to be a SAHM.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:56 PM
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She's even gonna give you a Lego room to display them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:55 PM
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Yeah because it's probably worth 6 figures, more than 6 feet tall, and definitely has 6 inches.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:36 PM
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For men as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:35 PM
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Are you getting shot in the dick? If there's no scar on the outside, do you still have damage internally?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:32 PM
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That's kind of all encompassing. Especially the companionship part. What else is there?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:28 PM
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Eh, the incels wouldn't value anything else nearly as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:24 PM
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Sexual value lol. Of course baby is too far. But 18* years old is the moment of depreciation. *Could be lower but most men try not to admit how young they are attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:18 PM
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I think people don't want to engage with an incel's state of mind because most people won't follow the logic. Incels weigh the value of some things differently than other people do. Like you say, even someone like you can tell them they are getting a bad deal, but their perspective of being alone is different than your perspective of being alone. It's a lot like abused women too. They don't leave because they've basically been broken down to believe they are unlovable and they should be grateful…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 01:49 PM
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How long would a HKV endure a bad relationship? Forever? At what point is, "a person who mistreats me lets me put my penis in her" no longer worth it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 01:32 PM
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A fictional cartoon character.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 01:28 PM
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Guess this only really became an issue with the former president, where his locker room talk implied he touches women without consent because he is an authority figure to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 07:52 PM
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Guess men have a biological clock too lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 07:48 PM
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Yeah possibly. Although I decided to try a new method of alternating who cooks for each dinner. It's been good to remove ambiguity.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:47 PM
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For me it's about communal spaces. Like the fridge. Husband will swear up and down that we don't have ketchup. I go and look and it's in the one of two potential places where ketchup can fit in the fridge.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:36 PM
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Idk because it's also about generosity and thoughtfulness. Hard to decouple the dollar amount with the character trait of being altruistic. This scenario is cringe though, can't imagine what is going through a woman's head if she's gesturing for her date to buy her gift cards.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:18 PM
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The issue here is that flirting well requires social acuity. You need to be able to pick up on indications of interest that give you that confirmation to escalate. Eye contact, turning towards, approval seeking, vying for physical proximity etc. If you throw in a compliment towards a girl and she gives you nothing more than a 'aw thanks' and ends the conversation there. You're not really cleared to go further. So if someone struggles with reading people, reaction times, and their body language, …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:07 PM
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No, just medically.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:57 PM
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Not sure about the cooking and cleaning, but I'd believe you if you said women are better at finding things in their home than men are. Men are retarded when it comes to that shit. I wonder if there are gendered studies on Where's Waldo to see if women are actually more adept than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:56 PM
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Eh, the average is fat, and if you aren't fat yourself you probably have an aversion to it. Both the average male and female is overweight, but I would guess that there are more overweight men here than women. That's just a guess though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:42 PM
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Average male height is 5'9 and 188 lbs. So that would make the average male overweight. I could be wrong, but based on what I have seen, the women here probably skew towards normal BMIs which is why they'd have that personal standard for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:34 PM
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I'd tell him to flirt subtly, gauge a girls interest, and if she responds positively you keep the banter going and escalate little by little over the course of a day or a few days, depending on the context of communicating. Communicating interest in the normie world is all about the playful and flirtatious back and forth to get a lot of small assurances that someone is interested before you bluntly say anything. Of course that's the way things go when you have the luxury of time and proximity to…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:29 PM
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It's a basic question. If I actually had a son with this issue I'd know way more about him and what his social life is actually like.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:22 PM
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Oof, pretty sure doctors say that is bad for your prostate to not ejaculate.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 08:55 PM
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Aw that's some nice things to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 08:19 PM
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What about blowjobs?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 08:16 PM
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No shit, of course if they like a guy they crave his validation. And his willingness to use her for sex and then discard her is a rejection of her. As it's made very evident here, rejection is bad for mental health, bad for one's image of themselves. Since purity culture still exists, and body counts are something people care about, some women also are going to feel violated if they thought they were getting into something long term and a guy bails on her after sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 08:15 PM
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Workout more and go out in co-ed group settings.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 08:10 PM
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People don't think a woman can kill a man with a hit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 02:48 AM
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Man the abortion and pro-life arguments really all are a mindfuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 09:36 PM
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You can add 'do not resuscitate' to your medical records.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 07:31 PM
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Getting to know them in person is easier. I derive enough satisfaction from getting someone to laugh, so just talking in person is good enough for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 05:02 PM
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Yeah I've posed as a man anonymously. I gotta say, I don't enjoy getting to know women via apps. Seems to be, it's not really that fun to get to know people via chatting online without sexual tension.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 03:51 PM
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You saying 'because they are women' adds nothing to the discussion. You gotta analyze a little deeper than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 01:28 AM
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I don't think the 'problems of the sexes' are this dire. Taking away contraceptives won’t make men respect women more or make relationships more meaningful. If anything, it could lead to more resentment and frustration on both sides. Instead of focusing on removing options, we should be teaching and encouraging responsibility, respect, and communication in relationships. Everything these days is divisive, all energy is being put towards outrage and doom. We as a society seem to enjoy feeling ang…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:15 PM
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Statistically yes. A man is more deadly to a woman than a woman is to a man. But to one of your points, men who have zero history of misogyny or violence get demonized as being threats regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:05 PM
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Lol it would be more damning if it was actually a couple's photo.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:05 PM
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Well there's a chance that dude is a brother, fwb, ethical non-monogamy, or celebrity. Something that would not preclude them to being in a monogamous relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 05:35 PM
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I would guess misandrists are easier to dismiss because they can't harm men as much as men can harm women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 05:30 PM
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Men barely support male advocacy. There is a lot of 'fuck you I got mine' to go around. If men were as unified as women were when they marched for women's rights, I think it might get more traction. The other problem with men's rights and male advocacy a lot of other groups will try to latch on and use it as a platform because of the overlap. White supremacy, misogynists, alt right, etc. There's a lot that needs to be distanced from, similarly how pedos try to latch themselves onto LGBT.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 04:52 PM
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Yup, just read an article explaining that people can afford not to have kids. They don't need the extra hands around the house, they don't kids for end of life care, they don't need kids not to feel lonely because the internet can connect them to communities.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 04:47 PM
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Art is also escapism and wish fulfillment. That doesn't reflect reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 04:30 PM
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They could post on Grindr then just for the ego boost, if it's a literal dream of men just to feel sexualized. But I think they want to be sexualized by the people they want to have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:52 PM
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Shoot I think most people having 1-2 'relationships' in middle school and high school. Does the one where they just go to the dance together and kiss behind the bleachers count as a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:45 PM
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Yeah and from her perspective she's thinking "Damn this tall attractive man is showing me how playful he is." Maybe he did more than that, idk, but she was amused by his boldness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:44 PM
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I mean that's true. A woman has to feel special that you are approaching her. So that's a very complex dance to have the nonchalant frame, and make her feel like you don't pull these lines on literally every woman you meet. And the one thing that gets me messed up every time is playful challenging banter. It's close to negging, but negging can get way too extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:35 PM
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Amused mastery is like the counterpart to women's plausible deniability.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:33 PM
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It is also genetic. Some people just got the wrong brain juices.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:29 PM
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For cold approach? Yeah looks matter, you gotta be above average to convert someone that quickly. But also tbh, you have to be at the right place at the right time to encounter a woman who was DTF and really just waiting for the ideal opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:27 PM
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21 year olds are still obsessed with Harry Potter?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:26 PM
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Lol the only successful cold approach I can think of is when my drunk friend ate the fries off of a girls' plate at a bar. Is that a cold approach? Lmao, apparently she liked the audacity. Oh and he's like 6'2'' and a handsome Hungarian man. Hm...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:22 PM
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Yeah you usually have to make the first move, gauge their interest. But that doesn't mean cold approach. Having been cold approached on the street, it truly feels no different than a homeless person asking for money. It's just accosting and feels quite desperate. So, with that insight, I would never do it as a man, because I know how much it repels.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:17 PM
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Why tf would I approach a random stranger? Sounds exhausting to try to build a conversation purely based on me wanting to smash them. I'd be relying on just meeting people through work, friend groups, parties. Shit I'm already surrounded by honeys at my place of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:12 PM
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I don't like dating apps, even as a woman. It's like pulling teeth to get interesting conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:07 PM
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Hm I don't know what it's like to date women though. So then I'd be a gay man, and I'm not sure if I'd want that either. I don't really find myself wanting for any opportunity that being a man would grant me. But I'm not a particularly ambitious person. Of all the things, being able to have children without having to carry them in your body sounds like quite the benefit. But even some men are child free.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:00 PM
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Just need bone spurs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 10:55 PM
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Maybe if they had an actual goal for meeting, but if they are just meeting because they like each other, yeah, it's a red flag for me. Mixed group settings are cool, one-on-one is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 07:40 PM
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It is pretty naïve to think women only care about a delightful personality, since it was always clear that a woman's personality has little to do with men's choice. Women have an abundance of choice by virtue of not being as horny and desperate, which is why they have the luxury to choose men based on looks and personality. Men are too horny and end up forgoing the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 01:20 PM
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I think the answer is that I am cheap. I suppose I could do it myself in October.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:33 PM
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Man I think you just gave me a stroke.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:17 PM
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Fabric dye, and if you want more vibrant colors, then you can mask off areas for a clean edge and use fabric paint or acrylic paint. You'd want to seal the color and paint too with clear acrylic sealer or fabric sealant spray. Angelus, Krylon, Mod Podge Outdoor, Scotchgard Fabric Protector.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:16 PM
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I have the dilemma of wanting to add orange, purple, green and teal into my hair, but it's almost too early to do it! Those are clearly Halloween colors and they will have faded by October!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:12 PM
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If it's a fabric shoe, then dye will work. Might tint the rubber, but nowhere near as much as the fabric. And the original color will impact the end result.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:09 PM
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It's kind of odd to post about that here. Reads either as a LARP, or just trying to taunt incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:07 PM
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I think it's quantity over quality for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:06 PM
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Never seen that, but I'd have to assume a story about vampires has a lot of asshole vampires.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:58 PM
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Marrying later, fewer stay at home moms, shitty income despite being dual income households. A lot of things are contributing to a conscious choice to have fewer children.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:52 PM
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I'm thinking : autism + low empathy + never touching grass = movie tropes are real life I say low empathy because it does require some selectiveness to only empathize with the characters that reinforce your worldview.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:49 PM
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Yes and women play video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 07:51 PM
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Mental and physical desensitization I guess. Needing to smoke weed to get a boner does seem pretty rough.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 01:51 AM
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I'll definitely grant you that if you are dating and you invite a girl over, you should not be playing video games when the onus was on you to be her entertainment. But if you live together, she better not be bored to death in her own home. People should be able to co-chill and do their own things close to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 01:47 AM
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I'm curious if you tallied up the time women spend scrolling on their phone how it would compare to the daily time a guy spends gaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 01:40 AM
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I don't think so. I think when people become FWB, they subconsciously add boundaries and distance within the friendship. Because if you love being around someone AND like having sex with them, it's gonna result in feelings of attachment. But I've never had one so... could be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 09:42 PM
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Yes but also no. It's possible for a man and a woman to have an entirely familial and platonic relationship. It's definitely more common for male-female friendships to have some history of attraction, one-sided or otherwise. People can ignore it, but it's still playing with fire. I am fine with my partner having opposite sex friends, so long as he isn't spending one on one time with them and isn't texting them constantly. Friends with exes and FWB is weird as well. Luckily I don't have to deal w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 09:35 PM
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