Slydermv Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
35	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill	Ask Red Pill	Slydermv	/r/TheRedPill	13/02/14 03:08 PM
6	Divorce and Custody		Slydermv	/r/RedPillParenting	22/02/17 02:30 PM
1	Divorce and Custody		Slydermv	/r/askTRP	22/02/17 02:40 PM

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1	Best martial art to learn? The great thing about martial arts is humility as well. The amount of skill and training you need to defeat a larger, stronger untrained or semi untrained opponent is very large. Weight classes exist for a reason. Don't do a year of BJJ and get your face smashed casue you think you are invincible. And solid martial art like this will put this into perspective.	/r/askTRP	05/03/21 04:10 PM
2	How did you teach yourself about nutrition? Awesome news. Keep on it. It’s a marathon not a sprint 👌	/r/askTRP	04/03/21 12:06 PM
5	Have you cried in front of your LTR? What happened after that? Let me put this in perspective. 1. You mother dies. You’re grieving. But you soldier on. The next day you’re making arrangements, calling the funeral home, getting things set up, and getting everything together to host a wake at your place after. You’re messed up, but you push through. Everyone asks if your ok. You’re managing. You greet everyone at the funeral, host the wake after and once everyone leaves it hits you. You go lie in bed, let your emotions out, cry for a few hours and you cope wi…	/r/askTRP	19/02/21 01:18 PM
1	Got invited to a secret party but COVID Yep and aliens built the pyramids	/r/askTRP	30/01/21 06:47 PM
2	Got invited to a secret party but COVID No that’s not true. It’s real. People have died. Action should be taken but it should be appropriate.	/r/askTRP	30/01/21 05:06 PM
2	Got invited to a secret party but COVID Again rare exceptional cases. And if this is a real problem for kids there’s absolutely nothing we can do about it. Covid is aysoptomatic is what.... 60-80% of cases??? Cases are only based on testing. It’s likely 10 fold that. Chances are me you your cousin, their kids and ur neighbor had it already. Government policy cannot stop a highly contagious virus.	/r/askTRP	30/01/21 04:20 PM
1	Got invited to a secret party but COVID This is kinda conspiracy theory shit. I think more likely with the rise of social media and public online shaming society is being shifted to being so risk adverse that it’s tearing it apart. It’s mind boggling. Imagine this was a real bad virus’s that was indiscriminately killing 10% of the population. We’d fucking implode.	/r/askTRP	30/01/21 04:15 PM
2	Got invited to a secret party but COVID None. Show sources. As off now other then in snstances more rare then death rate where people are taking 6-12 weeks to fully recover there is absolutely no fucking data of covid debilitating children. This is fucking media bullshit And there are rare exceptional cases of side effects from every fucking virus. every fucking one btw. But we live with it. Because the risk is exceptionally rare. There is risk getting into your car in the morning. Wtf is happening with people. Jesus. The only differe…	/r/askTRP	30/01/21 04:08 PM
2	Got invited to a secret party but COVID Oh here’s another gem. https://www.bmj.com/content/371/bmj.m3883/rr Unless your old the ifr for Covid is the same as the flu. But enjoy being lockdown and tell yourself ur saving lives https://www.bmj.com/content/371/bmj.m3883/rr	/r/askTRP	30/01/21 01:08 PM
1	Got invited to a secret party but COVID Bullshit.	/r/askTRP	30/01/21 12:53 PM
7	Got invited to a secret party but COVID Break it down based on age. There is like zero risk under 45.... like minimal risk under 65... and if you are health and take care of yourself there’s literally less then 0 risk. I fuckin hate these Covid threads. It’s a bunch of retarded people who don’t read acting like this thing is the Black Plague. Like the data is available everywhere	/r/askTRP	30/01/21 12:52 PM
5	Got invited to a secret party but COVID Your kid is at literally zero fucking risk.	/r/askTRP	30/01/21 12:50 PM
5	Got invited to a secret party but COVID Jesus fuck people. Stop watching the news and read a fucking paper https://www.medrxiv.org/content/10.1101/2020.07.23.20160895v7 Infection fatality rates: Results Our analysis finds a exponential relationship between age and IFR for COVID-19. The estimated age-specific IFR is very low for children and younger adults (e.g., 0.002% at age 10 and 0.01% at age 25) but increases progressively to 0.4% at age 55, 1.4% at age 65, 4.6% at age 75, and 15% at age 85. Moreover, our results indicate that abo…	/r/askTRP	30/01/21 12:48 PM
6	Pronouns "gender is a social construct" Incorrect. A billion studies. Behaviour differs between the sexes by a non marginal amount. Testorterone changes behaviour. There are universals across cultures. Just how much is social and biologically depends on many different factors. Read an actual scientfic paper or book, not gender studies bullshit Comparing biological sex and the behaviours associated with chemical processes in your body and a name someone calls you is the most stupid fucking thing I've read…	/r/askTRP	22/01/21 11:02 PM
1	Isn't it interesting how the relationship subreddit holds more on how relationships are problematic, rather than about relationships being great? Neither do I.	/r/askTRP	08/01/21 12:00 PM
1	Isn't it interesting how the relationship subreddit holds more on how relationships are problematic, rather than about relationships being great? I’m not sure what you’re getting at. If ur happy in your relationship, that’s great. I’m currently very happy in mine. And it certainly doesn’t stem from comfort/security though those are nice things to have. I don’t think I said you have to be happy all the time? But successful relationships do provide mutual benefit and you should be happy with ur partner more often then not otherwise what the hell is the point? I can say that in my experience this isn’t the majority of people. Look around. Mo…	/r/askTRP	08/01/21 04:06 AM
1	Isn't it interesting how the relationship subreddit holds more on how relationships are problematic, rather than about relationships being great? 50% divorce rate, and of the 50 that stay married it’s reasonable to assume a portion of those range between happy and horrible. 50% + odds are majority of relationships suck. Whether it’s 51% or 90% can be up for debate I suppose. It’s a bad deal with odds stacked against you.	/r/askTRP	07/01/21 03:40 AM
1	Isn't it interesting how the relationship subreddit holds more on how relationships are problematic, rather than about relationships being great? Socital norms are based on the rules in which society is made stable and typically counteract impulsive biological wants/needs. If norms changes, (i.e. currently though in the influx of tecnology, social media, sub par methods of communication), society destabilizes. 2015-2020 anyone? Self intrest is high, thoughts of community are low. A review of society and technology needs to be reviewed and new norms and rules that stabilize our shitty biologically programming need to be incorporated. A bal…	/r/askTRP	06/01/21 09:08 PM
1	Isn't it interesting how the relationship subreddit holds more on how relationships are problematic, rather than about relationships being great? Not true. Lots of people put on a front. Out of everyone I know who's married, there are maybe 2 genuinely happy couples. The rest just pretend they are happy, are too embarassed to admit their relationship is shit and are stuck and floating through life.	/r/askTRP	06/01/21 09:02 PM
3	What would you do if you are dating a girl you like, her behaviour is fine but she has red flags? Girls have game too. They can be on their best behaviour around you if they want something. Relationship, money, sex, your accounting services, whatever. That doesn’t mean as soon as they leave your house they aren’t going over to some other dude place to get their guts mangled. That’s why you watch out for things outside the immediate behaviour towards you. Red flags. A girl may have red flags and be ok, but it’s just not worth the risk. Plate and move on when it runs it’s course. I had one pla…	/r/askTRP	21/12/20 02:29 AM
2	Renting or to buy This is a depends question. It depends on the price of rent, the price of a mortgage payment and intrest and whether, if you rent or not, you are able to save the captial of the down payment to get interest. Also the approximate apprciation of homes in your area. If you are looking at a resonable starter home, it likely is the way to go. Crunch the numbers and find out what works best. If you are 25 and at home, you shouldn't expect to live for free, but the money you help your parents with will…	/r/askTRP	10/12/20 03:42 PM
1	Should I wait for my girlfriend to call me after we had an argument I think this is actually ok other then making his kiss you (not congruent with letting her know about unacceptable behaviour), and threatening with the break up. This wasn't a neuclear situation. Just a behaviour/attitude adjustment. Also as noted below as long as the "tone" wasn't butt hurt but rather matter of fact. Don't call, let her call you. Don't talk about it. If she pushes say you know my position now lets move and and do so. Then make addtional corrections as required in the future.	/r/askTRP	09/12/20 04:13 PM
9	Rejecting the Narcissistic Father I’d suggest reading no more mr nice guy. The statement of “ The opposite of crazy, is crazy” is a statement from the book relating to ones relationship with their father I think will resonate with you within the context of the book. Your father and grandfather are the product of their upbringing and perhaps mental health issues. People are not black and white... all good or all bad. Even if you can’t resolve the relationship with your father, you can resolve your relationship with him internally…	/r/askTRP	04/12/20 10:13 PM
4	Hey guys, Christian guy here, need some advice. Trying to avoid stagnation You gotta give yourself some goals, work towards them, achieve them, then set some more goals. What those are, are individual to the person. You’ll have to go and try some stuff to see what sticks. I, for example, love golf. Some people think it’s lame, some love it. I don’t give a fuck. It’s one of my hobbies. I’ve set a goal to get my handicap to single digits. Found a coach online, work with him, practice a few days week and do some causal reading on what college and pro players practice regi…	/r/askTRP	04/12/20 03:42 AM
1	Would you leave your kids/ marriage if your wife was never in the mood for sex? I was in a situation with an unbearable wife. Almost divorced, kids were young, stuck it out for about 5 years to try to impove the marriage, didn't work. My ex was a real peice of work.I knew the divorce was going to be a shit show and disaster. When we almost did, she immidately started calling everyone blaming everything on me. While I believe many women do this, I think mine was at least on the spectrum of narrcism, casue looking back it was a classic smear campain. I think most men will go …	/r/askTRP	03/12/20 03:35 PM
6	Should I confront my ex-LTR about possibly coming over at midnight and knocking on my door? She's looking for drama. It's a trap. Keep doing what your doing. Buy a wifi camera for your front door.	/r/askTRP	02/12/20 01:52 PM
1	Serious question, how do you guys have the time to chase girls? Chasing tail does take time. Maintaining plates does take time. I’ve been in both positions. I had less time for other things I was enjoying while maintaining 2-3 friends with benefits. Which I found was a sweet spot. If I got out one night a week for a month I could turn that into a couple plates usually. You don’t have to get drunk and ruin your next day if you go out socializing once a week. If you don’t have any game that when it will take time to acquire some skills. If I were you, I’d keep…	/r/askTRP	17/11/20 02:20 PM
1	Gyms are going to be closed from tomorrow in my country due to COVID. What training program can I replace Stronglift 5x5 which is doable at home? https://darebee.com There are tons of body weight workouts here. Find a program. Stick with it. This is maintenance. You won’t get big without the heavy weights but you’ll be able to maintain some fitness.	/r/askTRP	09/11/20 11:12 PM
2	How did you teach yourself about nutrition? I think what you want to do first is do the small sustainable changes. You mentioned you are trying to do more protein then carbs. Keep that up. Less spaghetti, more meat balls. Once you find those easy wins in your diet, then get a food scale and start measuring your portions. For example if you weight 180, plan 4 meals with 40 grams of protien. For lunch your going to measure out 5-6 oz of chicken breast. After you do it enough you look at a meal and from measuring chicken 100 times you just k…	/r/askTRP	07/11/20 04:54 PM
2	How did you teach yourself about nutrition? There’s so much information out there it’s overwhelming. I’d start simple. I’ll give some examples about how I got my diet in check and hopefully it helps. I’ll also add that this was all in conjunction with starting to lift weights. I was running on a treadmill. Hated it. Talked to the guy who own the gym and ask him to show me how to lift and give me a started program. 3 days a week The first thing I did was looked at my daily eating habits and started making adjustments. I’ve tried massive ch…	/r/askTRP	07/11/20 03:46 PM
10	I think my friend may be trying to stifle me at work, to make himself look better, and I have no idea how to handle this Yeah, this guy is going through alot. He's likely feeling pretty down, and that since you seem to be handling things ok while his personal life is in shambles, he's feeling threatened. It also sounds like this might be one of the first major trama's of this life and he's unequiped to deal with the emotions he's dealing with, and is currently not able to step back and be self reflective. Life changes people. Some step up to the plate and improve. Some get stuck. Not all relationships are permanen…	/r/askTRP	21/10/20 02:41 PM
1	The “manosphere” and other adjacent communities are damaging to the majority of people’s mental health who engage in them Take a stay at home mom with two kids married to a husband who works out of town making a good salary. Say 100k a year. When this woman decides to cheat and divorce, getting almost full custody of their young children due to his work, what do you think that man will be left to live on between alimony and child support? I have friends in this situation and this is extremely common. You don’t need to be rich to be divorced raped. This is a common blue collar middle class scenario . This guy can ba…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/20 01:46 PM
1	How to remove social batteries/ cope with being introverted I like people. They are draining however. When I'm out in large crowds. I find an out to go recharge for 15-20 minutes every once in a while. I got for a smoke/vape, go pee, go for a walk up the street, go do whatever. I find this keeps me engaged the entire night, and gives me that 15 minutes away for a quick boost/recharge. I get some looks sometimes, or people ask where I go, but I just shrug, tell them they don't have the security clearance for that answer or provide whatever response if I f…	/r/askTRP	09/06/20 03:02 PM
3	Getting Divorced in 2020 in Ontario Canada This sounds like fantasy or you had a bad lawyer. I divorced in Ontario. While my ex was able to drag it out for about 2 years before she settled, assets split 50/50, inheritances excluded and custody 50/50 with no support. If she worked and made similar money to you I’d appeal This only sounds real if she was a stay at home mom with no income and got custody of the kids.	/r/TheRedPill	10/02/20 03:10 AM
3	The Red Pill Finance Thread - redux My thoughts are picking stocks are akin to gambling. I don't think this is a long term viable strategy. There have been studies. Actively managed funds lose to the market 85% of the time, and those that beat it have to beat it plus the fees they charge. Solid post otherwise. For long terms saving and wealth accumulation, the way to go is invest in ETF's that represent the entire market. This is a smarter way to go: https://canadiancouchpotato.com/model-portfolios/ For Canadians. A US investor wo…	/r/TheRedPill	23/01/20 04:44 PM
2	John Cena wises up, dumps post-wall Nikki Bella 5 weeks before their scheduled wedding I'm not disagreeing with your overall point at not committing until your SMV is peaking if that's what your end goal is. However, I'm commenting on the importance of beauty as it relates to an LTR. Kris Bryant is dumb for committing so young, but Derek Jetter didn't hit a grand slam because his 25 year old wife is "hot". Too much looks on a pedestal. Also, I wouldn't commit my resources to Deker Jetter's wife or any other woman period. LTR, no marriage, cohabitation agreement if you live togethe…	/r/TheRedPill	17/04/18 02:38 PM
1	John Cena wises up, dumps post-wall Nikki Bella 5 weeks before their scheduled wedding "I've used this example before but I will use it again. Derek Jeter and Kris Bryant. Kris Bryant is a high status, high value 3rd baseman for the Chicago Cubs. His value and status only continues to increase to this day, but instead he cashed in at the young age of 24 and married a woman who is maybe a 7 on her best day. Meanwhile Derek Jeter is a high status, high value former shortstop player for the New York Yankees, who didn't get married until he was retired from baseball at 42. Instead he …	/r/TheRedPill	17/04/18 01:47 PM
1	You can't negotiate desire - works both ways. 2 times a week. on rare occasion 3. Usually txt daily but not all day.	/r/TheRedPill	13/12/17 05:45 PM
9	You can't negotiate desire - works both ways. Almost the exact same boat, except the girl I'm not dating is about 5 year younger (I'm 37), but only maybe a point or point and a half lower on the SMV scale. Issue is still with desire. Started off as fuck buddies, but she is a super sweet, caring girl and climbed up the relationship ladder and we had the exclusivity talk the end of summer. However, as sweet as she is, the desire train had stopped and girls in their early and mid 20's are starting to take more and more of my attention. Plan is…	/r/TheRedPill	11/12/17 02:56 PM
1	Divorce and Custody What do you mean DEER like your life depends on it?	/r/askTRP	24/02/17 04:37 PM
0	The Benefits Of Minimalism balanced portfolio with 18 months of expenses in a high interest cash account at all times to cover downs in the market. Or build in a safety factor. Plenty of frugal blogs out there with people retiring at 30 with 750k in the bank then doing what they want.	/r/TheRedPill	10/01/17 04:00 AM
1	The Benefits Of Minimalism http://www.mrmoneymustache.com/ 26k a year, man, wife and kid.	/r/TheRedPill	10/01/17 03:56 AM
2	Anyone have any workout programs for an intermediate lifter? PPL for 6 days or Wendler 5/3/1 with body building accessories after the main lifts for 4 days. Been doing 5/3/1 for about a year. Been PRing my bench, DL, Squat and OH press	/r/askTRP	26/12/16 07:54 PM
2	Thoughts on sexual endurance: does sex have to be distracting or suck to last longer? I think part of it is being present.... feel everything... enjoy yourself... know when you're getting to the point of no return and slow down... move to oral, change positions and rythem. Sex should be fun... focus on yourself and how it feels... and have some disciple to stop or slow down when you need to, change things up and you should be able to bang as long as you want. Don't listen to her. When she's yelling at you don't stop, bang me harder... if you're gonna bust a nut don't... take cont…	/r/TheRedPill	16/12/16 07:40 PM
27	I broke frame and the universe let me know. The universe is indifferent. It doesn't give a fuck if you were at the gym or not. You sound like a chode	/r/TheRedPill	31/08/16 01:15 PM
2	New to Finance/Investing? Start educating yourself - Book List Look here: http://canadiancouchpotato.com/model-portfolios-2/ This is a decent breakdown of where to invest based on how much money you have. There are fee's with brokerages (i.e. 6-10 bucks a trade) so you want to make sure your returns outmatch the fee's. Starting off with a small portfolio, the blog suggests Tangerine. It's a single fund with a good allocation and no buying fee's so you just add money as you feel like. However it costs you about 1% which is high comparable to ETF's. Once you …	/r/TheRedPill	06/06/16 01:26 PM
8	New to Finance/Investing? Start educating yourself - Book List I would recommend this site as well, though it is geared to Canadians. The basic ins and outs of index investing, how it works, and why what financial planners and banks sell you is bullshit. Gets into more advanced topics like tax loss harvesting, allocations, etc. http://canadiancouchpotato.com/couch-potato-faq/ Get rich by saving consistently, living within your means, and investing smartly. There's no get rich quick scheme's. This will help you get your piece of the pie.	/r/TheRedPill	03/06/16 01:08 PM
3	Finances are an area in a man's life where he can have total control. So why be stupid with your money? Here are some simple ways to be smart instead. Cool. Agree with the math... but after that 4 years the 50k car is worth 25k. So value lost is 27k comparable to the 10%/yr (amazing returns btw) on 50k which is like just over 20k. Only way it may make sense for a new car is if you drive it for like 15 years until there's no value left in the car. Now I'm not saying buy a 2006 civic (which would likely be ideal), cause I'm a car guy too, I get it. But get a 4 year old Caddy/Audi/F150, whatever your preference is for 50% of the sticker price, dr…	/r/TheRedPill	26/05/16 02:42 PM
8	Finances are an area in a man's life where he can have total control. So why be stupid with your money? Here are some simple ways to be smart instead. It is never a good idea to take out a loan on a depreciating asset. It's fucking stupid. Owing money on something that's losing value is the opposite of good financial sense. The value of your investments need to take into account the 1.89% plus the value of a new car purchase de-valuation which is like 40% the first year hommie. Always buy used, always pay cash. Never take a loan or pay interest and an asset that doesn't increase in value.	/r/TheRedPill	26/05/16 01:46 PM
1	Female boss and sole male employee relationship Man with a female boss here. Flatter her and treat her like a women without crossing lines when working together. Strictly professional in the boardroom or when others are present. Male or Female she is your boss and your first job is to make her look good. It has worked out very well for me so far.	/r/askTRP	11/04/16 02:44 PM
1	SHUT THE FUCK UP. Let your results speak for you. Don't talk about it, be about it.	/r/TheRedPill	01/02/16 09:24 PM
10	30 Day Challenge #2: NUTRITION I'd also add, buy a food scale.... especially if you have no experience, and a set of measuring cups to measure out your portions. Total cost, 7 bucks. Key to accurately track your intake.	/r/TheRedPill	28/08/15 06:02 PM
2	30 Day Challenge #2: NUTRITION No... IIFYM is about just not going over your calorie intake for the day. While eating clean is good, say if you hit your prtien alotment, IIFYM really doesn't care if the rest of your calories come from big macs or broccolli. Intermittent fasting is going through periods of low to no calorie intake (i.e. 18 hours) then eating... then fasting, etc. Works really well for some people. Check out the links posted above for more detailed information.	/r/TheRedPill	28/08/15 06:00 PM
3	30 Day Challenge #2: NUTRITION Meal prep. Bulk cook on Sundays and bring your food with you. This helped me a ton.	/r/TheRedPill	28/08/15 05:58 PM
-2	[FR] Going from 175 to 195 in 6 months. Dzuari's lazymans guide to getting jacked This boggles my mind. How tall are you? I'm 175, 5'8" and squat 50lbs more. What are the rest of your lifts? I'm on a 4 day bro split, heavy compound exercises, weight going up and never miss a day.	/r/TheRedPill	20/08/15 06:24 PM
2	Money and investing This is Canadian based, but it would be the same for the states, just a large allocation to the S&P500. Set, rebalance once a year, and forget it. Save enough income and be smart with your money and you could stop working at 40, or be financially independent enough to stop if you wanted to. http://canadiancouchpotato.com/couch-potato-faq/ Also this. A bit about personal finance, consumerism and happiness. I personally am not as hardcore of this guy, but I've bumped up my personal savings amount …	/r/askTRP	20/08/15 05:59 PM
1	Intermediate Lifting Discussion Q&A Supps and Nutrition The main supp you should be taking is creatine. Tons of studies indicating it's effectiveness. Protien powder is fine to help you hit you macro's but not required. All the other stuff... if you are a body builder and are looking for that last 3% for a compitition, sure, otherwise you're not seeing much benefit for the money. My philosohy is too not make it too complicated. I'm an advocate of IIFYM (If it fits your macro's). There alot of people saying it's crap. but look at i…	/r/TheRedPill	11/06/15 02:00 PM
13	Let's talk finances Best way it reduce time to retirement, become financially independent or increase your savings (whatever your goal may be) is increase your savings rate. Check out this blog: http://www.mrmoneymustache.com/ With a family of four he effectively retired in his early 30's. The family spends about 25k a year. While you might not make it to his level of frugality, there is great insight in the blog in terms of the way to think about money and shit you need versus shit you don't need. Honestly a 8 dol…	/r/TheRedPill	11/01/15 09:23 PM
2	Looking for a male only space My personal space is my men's club at a local golf course. Any other sport would do as well if you play, have played before. Should be beer leagues around everywhere.	/r/TheRedPill	05/01/15 06:42 PM
0	Remember, you are here because of a lack of male role models in your life From No More Mr. Nice Guy: "The opposite of crazy... is crazy" Explore the relationship with your father... cherish the good things.... there will be some (for example, as stated, you may ant to be thankful for the hard work ethic he has), but improve upon what you have to... There's no black and white. It's all shades of grey.	/r/TheRedPill	19/12/14 06:55 PM
2	Do you think you'll ever fall in "love"? "Love is something guys like me invented to sell pantyhose"	/r/TheRedPill	28/11/14 02:56 PM
2	If Squats Aren't A Part of Your Lifting Routine, They Should Be, or Why You May Want To Try 5X5 Stronglifts Strong Lifts is a great starting program. But once you get past noob gains and are really putting up weight doing these compound excersizes the same day will destroy you. Squats and deadlifts the same day, just isn't possible, in my experience. The below advice is how I've advanced in the last 4 years of lifting Get some sort of split maybe after about of year of strong lift and ensure your program has SQUATS, DEADLIFTS, OVERHEAD PRESSES and BENCHPRESSES and ROWS Split the days up accordingly so…	/r/TheRedPill	12/11/14 02:42 PM
4	Can a wife request marriage advice from gracious red pillers? Men generally want 3 things from women. Food Sex Silence Give him those three things regularly and he will endeavor to give you what you need, including surprising you randomly with flowers, kissing you passionately, and give you time when he is ready to tell him all about your day. Treat him like your husband, not one of your girlfriends, and you should be fine.	/r/TheRedPill	22/08/14 01:38 PM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill I just wanted to follow up. I've made my desicion. I've asked my wife for a divorce and am moving forward to make it as amlicable as possible. Out of both of our concern for our kids, she at least, so far, seems to be doing the same. I have been doing alot of reflection, and now understand I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with this woman. From the engagment to be married, she has disrespected me and my opions, belittled me, made personal attacks against my character and abilities as …	/r/TheRedPill	19/02/14 04:46 PM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill "At least she pays her way. We split our vacations 50/50. Still, I can't do it this year, but she doesn't seem to understand. She says she does, but every few weeks she's sending me links to vacation spots. It's frustrating." See I'd be ok with this. A coy wink and a mention of the trip here and there. Difference is, it is pretty consistent to the point where I have to remove myself from the conversation few times a week. If I don't it turns into these baseless accusations of wanting to control …	/r/TheRedPill	17/02/14 09:09 AM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill She was bleeding at the time. She can be worse while PMSing, however it is not exclusive to that time of the month. My thoughts on staying or leaving based on where I'm at right now. If this is just simple an all women are like that. Fuck it. I can work and improve and make this marriage more of what I want it to be. I've made my bed, I have kids, I take responsibility to provide that ideal household and to take on making this the best marriage I can. But if I'm dealing with something more unusu…	/r/TheRedPill	17/02/14 02:51 AM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill How would you compare the two relationships then, and what's making you think that this one is going to splitsville? Obviously you were a different person with your ex compared to your current girlfriend, and I don't know the whole story, but could they be interchangeable? I generally do what I want with my wife now. Socially, I go out when I want, I play golf like 3-4 times a week during the summer months, and have a weekly session with the boys at the simulator during the winter. Say a close b…	/r/TheRedPill	17/02/14 01:51 AM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill Are you married again now, or in another LTR... or have you been. Has the experience been different from the marriage? I understand the point RP puts across about AWALT. But have you found in newer relationships there are "degree's" of crazy? Have you found women with more tolerances for beta or that, ensuring you maintain frame for the most part, they provide at least some, what would be the word...tenderness I guess. I defiantly haven't gone full asshole, but over the last two years, the relat…	/r/TheRedPill	16/02/14 02:20 PM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill Thanks for this clarification. Sadly I feel the water level that needs to be reached may not be all that high. I'm assuming there may be more resilient women out there, better women and I've made a poor choice from the start.... what an idiot I've been...	/r/TheRedPill	16/02/14 07:18 AM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill No... she is not this. She loves her kids and doesn't expect things from them. I noticed that projection may be a teait she has, but fuck, these poor people are fucked. I am not dealing with that level of crazy.. thank the lord.	/r/TheRedPill	16/02/14 07:15 AM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill Whe it was rocky... was divorce ever threatened on your part? What was the outcome? I seem to be seeing this woman, who is now, finally seeing the forest through the tree's. I'm having and extremely hard time buying it. Did you see something similar. A short term improvement that lead down the same shitty road eventually? Her father is the same. I don't believe there was sexual abuse... but he is a complete asshole. Still, to this day emotionally abusive of this wife and my current mother in law…	/r/TheRedPill	16/02/14 07:11 AM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill What steps id you take to try to save things? Any result? How long did it go on before that was it? I have a bunch of questions. PM?	/r/TheRedPill	15/02/14 11:20 PM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill Will check it out. Unfamiliar with the reddit but will report back. I do have to comment that she is generally very good with the kids.	/r/TheRedPill	15/02/14 08:48 PM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill This right here is like you're in my head and what I'm dealing with right now. With the kids she's generally good. She has some irritations. A bit of a short fuse with them sometimes. Likes to make meals out of cans, but generally a caring good mom. I have shit I could be better at with them too.	/r/TheRedPill	15/02/14 08:45 PM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill I did remove myself after I called her on her shitty behavior. I get shit tests, sort of, but jesus, why not shit test me at my father funeral ffs. If women aren't even capible of having some deceny with their loved one, I'm fucking running for the hill and never entering a relationship again.... lol. Hookers and blow for life. I didn't apologize. I gave her an example of what I would say if I was that shitty to someone.	/r/TheRedPill	15/02/14 08:42 PM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill That describs her family. Her father and her brother. Constantly pointing out other peoples problems, oblivious to their own. Thanks for the insight.	/r/TheRedPill	15/02/14 08:37 PM
2	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill Thanks for sharing your experience. Much appreciated. It's good to know I'm not alone in this situation. If I do go through with a divorce... I doubt I'd ever get married again. I'm comfortable on my own. I'm hoping it can be amlicalbe. She works, makes a similar income and if I do make the call to split, I would expect 50/50 but we'll see what happens. This thought could be fantasy too. Again. Thank you so much for the time...	/r/TheRedPill	15/02/14 08:30 PM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill Thanks for this. I'm trying to get what TRP says about women. I"ve been reading and learning and trying to implement strategies to make my life better at home... and even befroe TRP, starting about 2-3 years ago, I move on actively trying to improve myself. But what about common human decency? I mean say in 5 years my father dies. I'm vunerable, sadly, not holding frame and being needy as I work through it. Does it go so far that I can expect the same from my wife. I mean, I've never seen a lack…	/r/TheRedPill	15/02/14 08:25 PM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill Thanks for this. Could be. Her social circle is mine. She has very few friendships outside my circle of friends. Perhaps this is the reason. Tough to swallow...	/r/TheRedPill	15/02/14 08:21 PM
2	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill This is a frighteningly good description of this situation I feel I'm in. In my fantasy, marriage is for life. I used to joke with her that I'm not going anywhere so she can continue to be miserable or she can be happy in our relationship. When we used to have our 2-3 day long blow outfights that ere terrible, this is typically how they would end... with her grudingly admit she could try to do this or that better, until, like you describe it got comfortable again. Then the disrespect and the sel…	/r/TheRedPill	15/02/14 08:16 PM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill Thanks you all for all the comments and insights. I've been reading and absorbing rather then commenting. I'm re reading again. I've let her know what my decision with be on our future next week as it is our boys birthday this weekend and our focus should be that. I'm still unsure, but I'm thinking that if things haven't changed for the last two years, regardless of the improvements I've made, this is a bad situation for me, and nothing else is going to make it better. Still reasoning it out. Sh…	/r/TheRedPill	15/02/14 08:08 PM
1	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill Thanks. Posted there as well.	/r/TheRedPill	13/02/14 04:24 PM
3	My marriage and possible divorce - Thoughts from the Red Pill That's one of the huge issues I'm having with this. We have two children already, 4 and 5. This is not nexting a plate I'm spinning or a LTR. This is nexting the mother of my kids. It's not like there's some hard set rules, but what is the opinion of TRP on nexting a LTR with kids. Would you in this situation? Are all women like that and I need to suck it up, keep moving forward, learning and try to make this into the relationship it needs to be.	/r/TheRedPill	13/02/14 03:39 PM
7	Dead Lifts: What Are They Good For? Deadlift, Squats and Bench Press are three compound exersizes you should build your workout program around.	/r/TheRedPill	07/02/14 03:37 PM
4	What small things make you feel like a man? Becasue peoples CNS may be toast after doing heavy squats, deadlifts and bench the same day and have nothing left. Doing a body part splits allows ^ volume if your not a beginning lifter... And you need to change shit up casue it gets boring... Also, curls get the girls. drops the mic	/r/TheRedPill	06/02/14 02:40 PM