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I wouldn't jump the gun like everybody else seems to suggest. You should evaluate for sure, but some people are really bad at replying, especially during these holidays. If I were you I'd just send another text to bump just in case. Don't worry about double texting with your friends.
/r/seduction30/12/25 04:52 PM
4

That uncomfortable and the comfort you're talking about aren't exactly about the same thing. Either way, you have to make the comfortable to the point where u can ask an uncomfortable question and she trusts you enough to answer.
/r/seduction08/12/25 10:14 PM
-1

Some people do judge having sex on first dates regardless of gender
/r/seduction30/05/25 04:27 AM
46

The real problem here is dishonesty. He didn't claim he doesn't sleep on the first date. I hate the social status highground mentality anyway, sleep with whoever whenever you want as long as youre consenting adults.
/r/seduction30/05/25 01:35 AM
15

As a result, you’ll put unnecessary pressure on yourself. You’re going to psych yourself out, and be out of your natural frame. I think it's less about that, more about the fact that by being fun you actually have something to offer women, instead of that pick me attitude. Also you'll have broken out of the masses of people who approach women just for romantic pursuit.
/r/seduction03/05/23 04:41 PM
10

House parties are warm approach
/r/seduction17/04/22 10:15 AM
3

It's a convo killer, I wouldn't use that over text
/r/seduction17/12/21 09:53 AM
2

A true alpha male is also natural and smooth, at least to me. None of that textbook shit. Everyone seems to have a different opinion about alpha males though.
/r/seduction31/07/21 10:52 PM
10

Don't forget to plug your phone before you sleep bro
/r/seduction31/07/21 10:50 PM
1

I get what you mean, but then again the media is mainly after toxic masculinity and not toxic feminity, so I guess most people just view it through the male perspective as opposed to female like your example.
/r/seduction27/07/21 01:52 PM
2

I don't think you understand what simp means. Being a simp is highly disrespectful for yourself.
/r/seduction27/07/21 06:52 AM
12

you're turning her into the prize to be won - you've forgotten that while she has value - so do you. Whenever I say something along those lines in other subs I get downvoted to hell
/r/seduction27/07/21 06:48 AM
-1

Yeah that's the description but the content on here is much different. You'll often find people massively bashing someone for having "oneitis" when they write a post or comment focusing on a single person.
/r/seduction22/07/21 03:32 PM
-1

I know girls that'd rather have dick pics than dudes that show off.
/r/seduction22/07/21 03:28 PM
-3

Then what are you doing on r/seduction? This sub is all about sleeping with as many women as possible, not seducing the one or long term relationships.
/r/seduction22/07/21 03:27 PM
6

I dont think they meant it as an opener.
/r/seduction22/07/21 03:21 PM
5

Why? Isn't your imagination strong enough to create mystery yourself? What happens when down the line the relationship naturally gets a bit stale and the feeling of mystery is gone, what then? I get a lot of girls like it but it doesn't seem healthy to me, and most girls get annoyed at some point when you evade questions in a very long time span. Sounds more like a case of you think you want it but you don't.
/r/seduction22/07/21 03:18 PM
1

And sometimes they just like to feel wanted and they enjoy the attention even if they know they'll never do anything with you. Some even go as far as going on a date or smth but they never let you do anything physical.
/r/seduction19/07/21 10:30 AM
16

She wouldn't mind but it's got nothing to do with her, it's by choice.
/r/seduction15/07/21 04:17 PM
23

I think a girl did this to me once in a train. I didn't start a conversation tho (i have a gf) and neither did she but she seemed very nervous and accidentally dropped things too.
/r/seduction15/07/21 03:28 PM
2

That's actually a great one
/r/seduction01/06/20 10:31 AM
9

This is my problem. Because I try to add her desires to the equation it no longer feels like I'm confident. It starts to feel like "I wanna do it if you wanna do it" and that's some straight beta shit right there. I'm only like that with her though.
/r/seduction22/05/20 10:33 AM
2

I was in the same place. Agreed to go on a date but pandemic hit. We talked over text for a few weeks and then we said fuck it and went on a date. Now I feel like I'm catching feels and giving her too much attention overall but I don't want her to lose interest either.
/r/seduction03/05/20 03:10 PM
1

I get your point but like I've been online since I was 4 talking to more people on there than I did in real life and my social skills are just fine. It's easier to meet new people on the internet and experience much more social stuff that develop your social skills really hard. Again sure irl is different but online doesn't mean you got jack shit for social skills.
/r/seduction07/04/20 04:23 PM
0

I just wanna say that I'm annoyed by the fact that being a computer nerd doesn't mean you don't have any social skills. You probably talk with people all the time on the computer, the only things you'd lack are social skills revolving around things like eye contact and physical touch. Just wanna throw that out there because people usually think like oh this dude is on his computer/phone all the time so he has no social skills. I don't think that's correct.
/r/seduction07/04/20 02:57 PM
1

Attraction is normal and in certain amount also healthy
/r/seduction28/03/20 03:41 PM
7

Smv?
/r/seduction14/03/20 11:53 AM
3

r/thanksimcured ?
/r/seduction08/03/20 05:12 PM
1

They are allowed not to be interested in us. But pretending they are and wasting our time is not very nice. Some retaliation should be fine. I wouldn't use the words op used though.
/r/seduction07/03/20 02:49 PM
2

I aspire to be like this
/r/seduction07/03/20 10:52 AM
3

Interesting harshness
/r/seduction07/03/20 10:10 AM
1

A lot of people believe attraction isn't a choice. I believe it is so this whole statement doesn't apply to my mind and life unless I can be proven wrong.
/r/seduction06/03/20 04:40 PM
2

Lemme correct that for you, the fear of rejection is a symptom of trying to talk to another person.
/r/seduction06/03/20 10:24 AM
1

It gets like that sometimes i don't even know
/r/seduction04/03/20 09:44 AM
1

So you do hot approach?
/r/seduction04/03/20 09:42 AM
4

Let us know how it goes
/r/seduction03/03/20 09:48 AM
1

Shout-out to that girl and fuck your method tbh. You're basically doing the things women do that we hate. Gotta find a middle road somewhere.
/r/seduction03/03/20 09:48 AM
3

Do what you feel is right. I generally don't trust videos and culture/location makes a big difference. In my country you won't have succes by being that direct, especially since I'm from an ethnic minority. Girls wanna feel safe/cool with you first before doing anything. Have some small talk first and accept rejection appropriately.
/r/seduction02/03/20 04:54 PM
1

Vert thorough, thank you!!!
/r/seduction29/02/20 12:00 AM
1

We need more information now. I have become emotionally invested in this.
/r/seduction27/02/20 02:08 PM
1

Are you talking baby steps in terms of the bigger picture or in terms of a single approach? Is maintaining eye contact hard for you? Try to count it in your head a see if you were able to hold it longer. Keep track of how much you touch her and try to improve in that. I think if you take baby steps in improving in individual sets you'll become better in the bigger picture; in fact I think you should never look at the bigger picture with the sole exception of the fact that it is a numbers game an…
/r/seduction27/02/20 01:58 PM
1

One step at a time brother.
/r/seduction27/02/20 01:44 PM
3

Volume and certain concepts or things can slightly increase your chances in the number game but you will absolutely never have a guarantee. I'd probably say your chance of success cannot surpass 60% no matter what, but you can work hard and try to get as close to that 60% as possible.
/r/seduction27/02/20 01:37 PM
3

The reason it didn't work for you is not because you asked for a kiss, but because you always ask for everything. That's a different problem and actually doesn't have much to do with asking for a kiss.
/r/seduction27/02/20 01:30 PM
3

This is very underrated IMO. Everyone needs development in different areas and sometimes you have to make sacrifices for certain character traits or whatever. Sometimes it's best to intentionally do a "wrong-er" thing to make the overall picture right. There is no right answer that works for everybody but concepts in general are true in their individual form.
/r/seduction27/02/20 01:28 PM
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Plus asking for a kiss relieves some of the nervous tension you may have because a no is easier to deal with than she pushing you off or whatever... When you're sure she's okay with kissing the go for it for sure but if not then it's always okay to ask. Another advantage you have by asking first is the feeling of safety. By asking for consent on small things early on you show her that you respect her and that she's free to walk off whenever she wants. It's kind of a feeling of safety and respect…
/r/seduction27/02/20 01:25 PM
0

Let other people talk about what interests them and be an active listener. This is such bullshit where I'm from. This girl was giving me all sorts of IOIs so I went to talk to her and had to carry the entire conversation pretty much. Whenever there was a silence I had to come up with something. Even tested her by waiting a bit to see if she was going to say something and eventually I bailed for this reason. I know this is just one anecdote but it happens to me all time. EDIT: What useful advice …
/r/seduction27/02/20 01:14 PM
1

That man-to-woman thing sounds so vague to me. This guy slowly built it up, had a clear shot at the end and didn't take it. I don't think he did anything wrong up until that time. Maybe if he made moves earlier or defined the interaction as "man-to-woman" she would've bounced out sooner because her primary interest was hiking after all. If you have any (small) examples of how he could have made it a man-to-woman interaction from the beginning I'd love to hear it.
/r/seduction27/02/20 01:08 PM
15

He wouldn't have got his hopes up and be stressed about it if he knew sooner
/r/seduction25/02/20 10:42 PM
3

That's why you take a gum for yourself first
/r/seduction23/02/20 07:09 PM
3

Those filters usually also put a "mask" on your face. Looks kinda blurry but what it essentially does is hide imperfections or spots on your face so it looks really clean
/r/seduction22/02/20 11:49 PM
2

What about black and white filter?
/r/seduction22/02/20 11:21 PM
1

You won't get to the face to face part if your looks/physical presentation of self is "bad" in appearance prioritising platforms such as Tinder. I don't look that good but recently got some nice pictures and a funny bio and suddenly I'm getting a few matches a day. My point is just that looks/appearance does matter sometimes for example dating apps.
/r/seduction22/02/20 10:17 PM
2

Statements such as? I personally don't like commenting on their appearance unless it's relevant somehow
/r/seduction21/02/20 06:38 PM
1

I've always found it exceptionally hard to talk in a club. I get locked kinda especially if the girl only lightly contributes to the conversation which pretty much all of them do in the beginning. What did you say/talk about in the first few minutes? Not asking for a full report but in general like what did you do when the convo got stuck?
/r/seduction21/02/20 05:29 PM
2

Why do you pull this one in particular?
/r/seduction19/02/20 07:25 PM
36

I wonder as well, the post is tough to read and I don't understand how that was a shit test nor how you succeeded it by saying you can take her home the following day...
/r/seduction19/02/20 07:24 PM
1

First one is correct Second one the friend intercepted me BUT she didn't ask him to. He just did. The one asking if I was bothering her was MY friend, my friend was just tryna check what the thought of me. My friend is a female and pretended she didn't know me. I get what u mean tho
/r/seduction16/02/20 07:21 PM
1

Did you even read this?
/r/seduction16/02/20 12:55 PM
62

I drop that's what she saids every 10 minutes but I guess that doesn't really work
/r/seduction15/02/20 10:46 AM
1

Here's a few things that helped me. 1) Work one step at a time, you don't have to rush it but also you do gotta make the steps. At first when I got IOIs I forced myself to give her a little smile/smirk kinda thing. First few times was hard cuz I felt on the spot and overwhelmed but after a while I just started doing it out of reflex. When you give her a smile you sorta establish a connection and then it becomes easier to go talk to her later on (I usually don't immediately go and talk, I introve…
/r/seduction14/02/20 11:39 PM
1

How does this data work? Muslims don't date or hook up before marriage and their marriages seem to last quite a while.
/r/seduction12/02/20 08:57 PM
9

Don't give me any ideas
/r/seduction02/02/20 09:02 PM
2

So I should get fat?
/r/seduction02/02/20 09:01 PM
11

That or when the mystery unfolds and its turns out there was no mystery to begin with cuz you never experienced anything big and never experienced anything that left you with great character shaping stories to tell due to the fact that you're a little introverted bitch ass coward and never went out of your zone. Damb That being said, why don't we make extraverts join the comfort zone?
/r/seduction30/01/20 02:02 PM
1

Lmao this whole thing looks like there's no way to deal with approach anxiety. Smooth mods, smooth.
/r/seduction19/01/20 03:30 PM
1

How old are you now if I may ask?
/r/seduction15/01/20 06:49 PM
3

How do you pull older women
/r/seduction15/01/20 05:05 PM
2

Nah I got weed in my ey- something in my eye ... smoking something Smoking weed
/r/seduction08/01/20 06:00 PM
1

Im introverted and I can be "lit" the entire night but afterwards I need some alone time to "recharge". That's kinda what I meant but for some people it can be so draining that you'll feel tired in 30 minutes already. This could be because A you're on the very end of the introverted side or B you've been draining yourself excessively by for example pretending to be someone you aren't.
/r/seduction05/01/20 08:53 PM
1

They're quite the opposite. Being superficial is engraved in their genes so whenever some girl has her nudes leaked the entire region gives her shit for it. Perhaps in the big cities people are more free of spirit but definitely not countryside. Everyone watches each other too much and a lot of people therefore are scared to be themselves. The Netherlands sucks if you actually live here.
/r/seduction05/01/20 02:19 PM
13

This is the perfect example of what introverted means. You can be very social but doing so drains your energy instead of replenishing it.
/r/seduction05/01/20 01:50 PM
6

Nehhh don't kiss the dude's ass if he can't be a normal fucking human being to you
/r/seduction05/01/20 12:48 PM
3

Why did you stay around like a cuck tho
/r/seduction05/01/20 12:45 PM
5

Exactly, whenever a dude talks to my friend I look her in the eye and she always signs at me it's okay but if it weren't I'd just steal her away.
/r/seduction05/01/20 12:37 PM
3

I don't get it
/r/seduction05/01/20 12:34 PM
5

Lmao I can now imagine myself saying hi and running the fuck off with an "I won" smirk
/r/seduction04/01/20 04:39 PM
2

I wanna add to this that if the conversation dies because of lack of contribution from the other person, they're just not interested. No need to chase people.
/r/seduction04/01/20 04:34 PM
1

The reason that showing your hand turns her off is because you kill all momentum by just jumping straight to the top. If you don't show your hand immediately it'll be kinda mysterious and fun for the girl to stick around and enjoy the ride. In scenario A she's immediately put on pressure with the fact that you like her and wanna get in her panties. In scenario B she'll be in the same situation eventually but the sole difference is that ehe already knows you somewhat as you've spent more time tog…
/r/seduction04/01/20 04:31 PM
6

most of the guys prefer a uncertain chick HOLD UP THERE BOII Idk where you get that from or what other guys think, but I highly value certainty. Certainty means you can be impulsive af and do randomass fun shit together out of nowhere without even planning. It's the shit. Uncertain girls need to think about random ideas for like a week or so and all momentum is gone. I think girls that are hot are also more inclined to say yes even if they're not interested in you as a romantic partner just for …
/r/seduction04/01/20 04:20 PM
1

This
/r/seduction23/12/19 03:08 PM
1

Sorry I was in the shower?
/r/seduction22/12/19 10:54 AM
1

This is why you play the numbers game. Instead of giving too much attention to one girl you divide your time and attention amongst several.
/r/seduction19/12/19 04:42 PM
1

I read the quote in the wrong tone. I get what u mean.
/r/seduction17/12/19 11:37 PM
3

How is this a neg
/r/seduction17/12/19 03:43 PM
1

Ye what is it
/r/seduction16/12/19 06:24 AM
2

What's DHV and RSD
/r/seduction09/12/19 11:46 AM
0

For 1, you kinda have control over it to some extend. 2, 3, 4 & 5 are things you can't do anything about lmao. I don't get your "No dude", you have made my point.
/r/seduction02/12/19 08:48 PM
1

Yeah but that's for unrelated reasons probably. Or forces you can not control.
/r/seduction02/12/19 08:42 PM
1

This is true UNLESS you can keep the excitement going by writing now and then strategically
/r/seduction02/12/19 08:40 PM
4

So basically that was y'all first date
/r/seduction25/11/19 06:59 AM
1

Then what do you suggest
/r/seduction25/11/19 06:55 AM
2

This or forge an excuse to get rid of you
/r/seduction21/11/19 08:42 AM
10

Now that we have pointed out some potential mistakes could someone tell what they would've said/done instead?
/r/seduction20/11/19 06:25 PM
-7

We don't know. Maybe he did ask for permission.
/r/seduction13/11/19 07:29 PM
6

Even if that's true, the "what" you're saying may or may not be important for the woman, but it sure as hell is for us. Knowing what to say makes it more confident. I don't believe in magic words but seeing how someone analysed the context/environment and found something to say that caught her attention can help tremendously in opening up a different perspective. Eventually it boosts OUR confidence which in turn makes doing sets easier.
/r/seduction13/11/19 07:28 PM
0

I love this. It's basically the material that would help everyone most but is very hard to find. Raw footage of a set where people can criticise what was good, what was bad and some philosophies / psychological theories behind it. The only sad part is there's no sound and no script to make up for that. I wanna see more of this on the sub
/r/seduction13/11/19 07:24 PM
1

I second this but I wouldn't do it during foreplay. Just start a conversation about what the other person likes in the bedroom and then lean towards asking dom stuff when you see an opening. I find this to be a good conversation to have with somebody if you've known them for a bit. Definitely not first date stuff tho imo
/r/seduction12/11/19 08:57 AM
1

How would you respond to "ok that was creepy" as a shit test?
/r/seduction11/11/19 06:15 PM
1

Just wondering, what do you guys mean with rapport? I've seen that being thrown around here a couple of times.
/r/seduction11/11/19 06:07 PM
4

No offense but that's a bad shit test because no matter what she says you ended the conversation. The only exception would be if she says please stay or whatever but she'd never say that even if she wanted you to. I personally like to leave the shit testing over to the ladies.
/r/seduction11/11/19 06:05 PM
7

I don't have any field experience yet. Haven't got the time and balls for it but what I would've done with the second one is say something along the lines of "I'll leave you to study, I'd like to continue this conversation with you some other time" and see how she reacts. I wonder what more experienced people think about this.
/r/seduction11/11/19 04:47 PM
2

Keep us updated
/r/seduction09/11/19 10:01 AM
1

That's dope, also thanks for the example!!
/r/seduction07/11/19 07:07 PM
1

Yea true dat. For me very hard to do though definitely need to practice more. I usually just say my mind and if I think she's cute I tell her. It's one thing to stop validating and another to make her feel like she needs needs to show you...
/r/seduction07/11/19 05:03 PM
1

What do you mean by validation?
/r/seduction07/11/19 04:55 PM
3

But how do you live up to the excitement/curiosity ("blow your mind") you generated?
/r/seduction07/11/19 04:53 PM
1

What makes you think I can pay caviar
/r/seduction07/11/19 06:47 AM
14

Can't tell though
/r/seduction05/11/19 04:36 PM
5

I think mid to late 20s it starts becoming a lot easier. Girls under 21 are usually very unpredictable and they don't know what they want n stuff.
/r/seduction05/11/19 04:35 PM
1

In that case just say fuck you to that voice
/r/seduction04/11/19 08:14 PM
1

Do you still talk/do smth or do you just stare?
/r/seduction04/11/19 08:13 PM
1

Oh I've been there. Great place!
/r/seduction04/11/19 07:42 PM
1

Never had my dick hard from staring. Definitely gonna try holding eye contact longer!! But then the question is when do you stop or take a break and do you just naturally start staring again?
/r/seduction04/11/19 07:36 PM
1

I live in a place that's very similar so I feel you but fuck other people. Just do your thing live your life. If you're afraid it's people that know you then go to the city or whatever and try there. Fuck other people. Once you do it a few times you'll get over it.
/r/seduction04/11/19 07:34 PM
2

I usually smile the pressure off and look away, is this bad? If so why?
/r/seduction04/11/19 07:25 PM
1

Soooooooooooo where are you from again?
/r/seduction04/11/19 07:23 PM
1

It's a numbers game. You'll eventually find one if you're looking at the correct places. Dating apps is probably not a good choice for this type of thing.
/r/seduction04/11/19 04:09 PM
1

For me it usually just starts naturally when a girl and I have been vibing really well for a while. So the game before that is much more important and it's in my opinion not as easy to do with girls you just met and are trying to hookup with.
/r/seduction04/11/19 02:31 PM
3

MGMT is always right
/r/seduction30/10/19 11:58 PM
3

It can't rain all the time
/r/seduction26/10/19 03:07 PM
3

Yea I was thinking about what her favourite song to just zone out on is, do you think that's fine?
/r/seduction24/10/19 11:44 PM
2

Ya good move to let that one slide.
/r/seduction24/10/19 10:28 PM
1

Cuz you need to know when and where to use it and to what type of girl
/r/seduction23/10/19 10:17 PM
1

Pretty much only possible if we're talking about SMS but good catch. I don't know how OP is communicating.
/r/seduction23/10/19 10:11 PM
1

An eye for an eye is TERRIBLE relationship advice.
/r/seduction23/10/19 10:05 PM
1

As a programmer I can confirm that your girlfriend is probably a robot because no human can be so accurate. So anyways I would probably say something like; hey have you noticed your messages come in perfect intervals or smth like that. Try to sound as natural as possible, you don't want to judge her nor come off with judgy vibes.
/r/seduction23/10/19 10:03 PM
1

How do you even start from Snapchat god damn
/r/seduction23/10/19 10:00 PM
3

I'm wondering what red flag this was
/r/seduction23/10/19 09:58 PM
1

All you need is to keep your confidence bruhh. You think you're making a fool of yourself? Well fuck it and own up to it. It's probably not even that bad and you'll be able to recover when you're talking to somebody. Like if they ask, what was that about, which is probably never gonna happen anyways cuz you're just overthinking, you hit em with something funny. Just exagerate something, make fun of yourself without actually feeling bad about yourself.
/r/seduction23/10/19 09:56 PM
2

How do you smile with only your eyes?
/r/seduction23/10/19 09:46 PM
2

I find it hard to hold eye contact for longer than 2 seconds because I get nervous n shit; sometimes I even feel my heart rhythm change. I have to push myself to keep looking and I don't wanna look too long cuz that's kinda weird and meh too.
/r/seduction23/10/19 01:48 PM
1

There is no resistance or consequences, why would you wanna stay dry for 90 days? I can easily go without for a long time when I'm too busy or whatever, but when there's a time and place for it I probably will. I don't understand how it's automatically an addiction if you don't stop. Doesn't mean you can't stop.
/r/seduction23/10/19 01:44 PM
1

I usually text the next day because I don't wanna come off too strong, but it really just comes down to the girl and her experience with you I guess. Maybe she enjoyed the talk but has other things on her mind or whatever and is not up for anything more. If I've been out with a girl, wether it's one on one or with other friends as well, I usually text up to two hours later that I enjoyed spending time with her. I feel like that's appreciated a lot.
/r/seduction23/10/19 01:33 PM
1

I like those, the last one is kinda sketch though because a few times I made a comment about friends (nothing negative, just what they're doing) and she immediately shifted focus to our friends and the tension was gone. If I had made another move I think it would've played out better.
/r/seduction23/10/19 01:28 PM
1

Been there done that. I would ask her not to visit me cuz she'd pay a lot of money and I'm still studying so couldn't help out and she still would come visit me. We just really clicked, texted and called a lot. We liked a lot of the same things. It just happens.
/r/seduction23/10/19 08:52 AM
2

Catch 22
/r/seduction22/10/19 11:23 PM
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