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I think in the beginning, around the time the first standup special was confirmed a hit, Ali probably thought she was a 50/50 girlboss success story and loved talking about her unconventional dynamic. It took a while for the resentment to register into realizing her own exploitation. I’m glad she finally did though, this divorce comes as no surprise at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 04:37 PM
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The way NVM get so passionate over their 20 dollars and constantly trade advice on how to protect their food budget from us, it makes them look like they can barely afford to feed themselves and live in constant fear of being swindled out of their rations for the winter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 10:32 AM
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I’ll bet it all! He thinks he should be rewarded with a supermodel for moving out and achieving financial independence 🤣…The bare minimum! It’s a tell that he isn’t aware of his own looks at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 08:22 PM
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Excellent point. It’s oddly elaborate for a “habit” to involve manipulating innocent women into sex for months at a time while expecting them to coddle your neurotic bullshit. Let’s call it what it is, psychopathy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 07:54 PM
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He’s in his 30s and had a meltdown the second he was in a room with attractive women he did not have access to. Completely unsalvageable— throw him back into his parent’s basement forever. He is unfit to interact with a population of singles ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 06:44 PM
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I hate admitting how much these movies made me think this is what healthy expectations and respect was. Nope …just Cool girl propaganda 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 07:05 AM
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It makes no sense to me how Craigslist and Backpage took down their personals section to protect trafficking victims, but these free rent creeper ads continue to run rampant as they always have the last 15 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 06:45 PM
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What are you trying to say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 05:22 AM
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I think if she didn’t ask him to stop and tell him what he was doing was rape, he would of still thought dick was going to help her with her grief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:52 PM
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Star gaze? Like..go out at night in the middle of a field or remote place with a stranger just to look at the sky? The FUCK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:03 PM
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Yes!!! 35 year old here, and I remember noticing something like this when I was commenting on the LVM from suburbia not too long ago. You are definitely onto something. These X/Y men grew up with a father that technically had the traditional provider mindset (able to provide for a family on a single income ) , but despite being raised within that boomer model with a nurturing mother in the workforce, they grew up to expect 50/50 from their own relationships. X/Y women were raised to value a care…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 02:09 PM
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You definitely caught onto the scent of what the pro girls are doing now, they are always looking for loopholes since sex workers have been shooed off any social media app that can be found in the App Store since 2018. The fitness scene is upsetting though because I really try to follow those spaces myself and it is insidious to expect girls to navigate it and prepare themselves to be seen as a potential prostitute like OP was 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:21 PM
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It’s completely mental, it’s gotten to the point where if a woman is attractive, posts nice things from a hotel or like a boat and and they don’t disclose a boyfriend or a job— then it means she a prostitute, or an “influencer” ready to go down the influencer->escort pipeline. Nobody cares to “follow” our lives anymore the way social media was intended, men are only interested in what they can beat off to and consume on any platform and they think we think it’s flattering!!! I’m sorry you are fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:58 PM
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This is the sad reality of what being a pretty fit girl on social media has amounted to. Men think if there is a photo shoot, a nice body with a face and theres a link to DMs, she is open to being a prostitute. They have spilled over from the sugarbaby and dating apps and are showing their depravity in completely inappropriate spaces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:25 PM
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I remember that post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 01:28 AM
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Seconding this notion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:39 AM
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It gives me so much hope to see the term “trauma bond” explored in this way. This is why we do not share our own traumas or other past experiences with abuse with men, LVM and predators will use it to disorient and manipulate a woman who thought that level of emotional candor and vulnerability was normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:30 AM
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In 2015 I became a stripper after completing my 2 year degree after going back to community college while on the crest of a divorce that would of left me nothing after 8 years, and moving back with abusive family was not an option. Teenage girls becoming strippers, sugar babies and OF creators while feminists pretend “opportunity cost” and the “sunken cost fallacy” does not apply to sex work is literally insane. Literally fucking insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 11:24 PM
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I love your take on the “sex at the bottom” pyramid. If LVM believe it belongs there then the distinction of intimacy can belong there as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:01 PM
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100% this. My tone and timing isn’t the best through text so I know the heavy stuff is a bad idea. If they’re consistently paragraphing, it’s probably something that shouldn’t be done over text and you’re getting manipulated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:44 PM
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Sex work is still the blind leading the blind. The work will not empower you. Money and and having options empowers you. Getting that rush of “empowerment” is not exclusive to sex work despite what sex workers would like you to believe. Focus on a vocation, your education, art, traveling, passive income, entrepreneurship before selling access to your body at 18
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 08:40 PM
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Sad to see him be the lead in something like this, he was really making progress with the kinds of roles he as getting from his Silicon Valley days
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 08:29 PM
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I just rewatched both the live action and the cartoon! They are both beautiful 💛 But the Netflix crew definitely made the right call for Daniella, I hope to see more practical looks that are inspired by the anime in season 2
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 03:03 AM
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Didnt expect the vile language about biology/race, and definitely didn’t expect physical injury. But Gigi absolutely dug her heels deep in delusion when that pregnancy test came up positive a few weeks after their 5th breakup. She wanted to play happy house at all costs and it was only a matter of time before the fuse on Zayn’s LV nature ran out again. Yolanda definitely influenced her housewife fantasy as well, Gigi seems like she was caught up with her narcissistic mothers’s standards to notic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 03:51 PM
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She was sooooooo close to making a point in double standards 101 but she then proceeds to do the mental gymnastics to contort and rearrange the entire thing into “heterosexual double bind” She’s putting the task of teaching men emotional intelligence on the women he is having sex with. It’s unreasonable, if not dangerous. Why not his mother? His grandmother? His aunts? His sisters? His female teachers? If it’s an issue with how he was “socialized”, then he needs therapy for the society he was re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 03:57 PM
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Ugh, this creator used to be promising maybe back in 2015 but yeah, she’s a total pickme. I can only deal with her in small doses. Just a lot of bad-faith acting in the name of cool girl and mental health awareness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:05 AM
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Congrats, you summed up the current state of the “sex work is valid” sex workers who are struggling to make ends meet, yet still preach to others how intuitive and empowered they are for dealing with depraved and possibly dangerous johns all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 05:40 PM
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🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 its peak “its not violence if it’s kink!” Delusion. Humiliating and violent behavior that is generally considered to be trauma suddenly become complex acts of sexual exploration and eMpOwErMenT when it’s in the service of a scrote’s erection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 10:05 PM
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Yes, I’ve met people who run those mental gymnastics and they are straight fools. Lana only perceived it as trauma because she is a victim of her own reality cause she’s not as enlightened!!! No. Full stop no. Lana is grieving, she is remorseful, she is angry. She was exploited and likely a guinea pig for her production company. This is objective. Not subjective. These libfem sex pozzy train wrecks are so afraid of kinkshaming and they think it’s a good way to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:15 PM
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Lana is likely in the top 1% for contact sex work, she’s seen some shit fr. I don’t understand how this cam girl feels so compelled to speak for her and literally OVER her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:00 PM
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You can be exploited and abused to whatever inhumane extreme a male desires, it’s on the women to be able to keep up with the demand and smile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 01:53 PM
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For real…there is a strange lack of empathy in how she’s addressing Lana’s pain that definitely feels like gaslighting. Lana is the one with the powerful insight and experience that needs to be acknowledged, Brittany refuses to see the male demand for extreme violent content as the terror that it is on young inexperienced girls. Lana knows what she is talking about. But Brittany is too protective of sex work and sex positivity to see beyond what Lana was trying to say about the state of the porn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 01:43 PM
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As long as women and girls have access to “choice” and therapy, anything fucking goes apparently. She has lost her damn mind. If a child wants to be groomed for years into putting $5 nudes on the internet the day she turns 18, and accepts being choked and anal as a routine part of intimacy, it means we are all so much more enlightened as a society 🙄. The privilege she speaks from is insane, I think we are close in age and I used to be a stripper for most of my twenties, she has no clue what the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 01:36 AM
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Yeah..I get it.. she spends her energy being protective of sex work, but I agree with the getting therapy part…aaand the rest just misses the mark and derails
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 01:18 AM
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This video is hard to watch, Lana Rhoades is literally crying about vile horrific acts she was pressured into and at no point, does Brittany Simon question the compounding depravity of the porn industry and the demand to see increased violence against women. Instead the onus is on the woman to get therapy to deal with her choices because what she is going through is “normal”… excuse me, but in what dimension is having a woman drink from a bowl of vomit and piss for some psycho’s erection normal?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 12:06 AM
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The show subtlety frames sexism in a way were the viewer can react to it, but for world creating they missed the mark. The lights out massacre and tug-of-war gave off “time to get rid of the women” vibes, and in the grand scheme of things makes you wonder why even bother invite women to be in the game then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 04:25 AM
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It’s posts like this that I wish I could see the blocked comments. How do men justify, let alone explain this in the face of FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 11:07 PM
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Doing the bare minimum in childrearing be like: Men : You sir, win the internet,Take my gold! Faith in humanity restored!! Women: 🦗🦗🦗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 12:36 PM
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Ugh, that means the kids are barely old enough to help their mother, and to watch and remember how their father is treating her 💔By the time he’s a “SAHD” the kids will have more experience giving a shit about people than he does
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:39 PM
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Knew a guy that was known to be handsy and lovey when drunk as well. The “boys” always covered for him and “he means well” … sometimes he would also get belligerent, but the guy was obviously an alcoholic with a habit of also messaging girls late at night. I have sympathy for people struggling with substance abuse, but it was clear his behavior was accepted and handled by friends. You dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:47 PM
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Jaden is derailing…. Willow might have a chance but the way she’s included on those red table talks to support her mother’s fake wisdom isn’t a good sign
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:33 PM
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I do think healthy, able bodied men have more mobility with career choices without a degree since there are many male-dominated fields that pay well. There is societal pressure for women go to college as a safety net or as some type of failsafe, but in a patriarchy men don’t really have the same type of “fear” of the world suddenly becoming much harder overnight? I hope this makes sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 11:16 PM
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This is the type of meta that helped me realize some of my past LVMs are just better off as entertainment while I play the “dumb fox” from a distance. A ton of men are used to being constant let downs and don’t mind operating from the “doubt zone” or asking for their 5th second chance. It’s so weird when they’re aware. No spine, no discipline, no integrity whatsoever. I have no desire to date anybody like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:00 PM
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Speaking from experience: If a girl he slept with isn’t still friends or cordial with him, I guarantee he spins HER as the bad guy and he is the victim who tried to be a voice of reason. The physical and emotional access to women this type of man thinks he’s entitled to is toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 10:47 PM
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1000000% lmaaao I am cackling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:31 PM
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The utter depravity. I am so sorry. You are more than having to relive and be reminded of things out of your control, and I am so happy youre here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:28 PM
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I’m ready for this. Watch the number of domestic violence calls go down. The signs are all the same and it’s male cops and abusers that keep bailing each other out. Tired of watching women have to train themselves on how to spot and leave dangerous and abusive situations because of systemic misogyny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 05:40 PM
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I don’t engage scrotes because I have other goals to redirect my energy towards. I do have somewhat of a “trigger” though, and it’s usually when some entitled dirtbag is just a little too sloppy or persistent with how they gossip or dig through my personal business, because they think I won’t do or say anything about it cause I’ll vanish for months or years after I smell clown shit. But I’ll send screenshots and throw receipts and message girlfriends. They are always surprised. I don’t miss when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:29 AM
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Libfem women photographers are also making fucking baaankkk$$$$$$ using the same marketing angle almost verbatim. The clients are still getting exploited.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:16 PM
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Omg I love you for this. My time as a stripper opened my eyes to how many sex workers are actually out of touch bums with excuses as to why they couldn’t do anything with the time and money they have access to. A ton of them also have lives that revolve around LVM running power games on them even though sex work is glamorized to make outsiders think it’s the other way around cause, “eMpOwErMeNt”. The entire time I was expected to be a supportive and understanding libfem ally but all I wanted to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:41 PM
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It still stings. Did we really “overshare” or are we as women just trapped in a rigged game every time a man asks a question when getting to know us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:59 PM
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Lying about your past is okay and often necessary. You are not a bad person if you do this, you are protecting yourself. Traumas, family problems, mental illness, finances and sexual history is not information that needs to be shared with men you are talking to. Straight Men do not read being “open and honest” the same way women do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:40 PM
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Lmaooo my ex is an unemployed alcoholic and started a playlist dedicated to recipes for cooking dates with the pickme GF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:59 PM
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You hit the nail on the head. Im actually against being vocal about “Mental Health Awareness” in the presence of men because no matter what, it will just be in service of the patriarchy and misogyny. A domestic violence call failed a woman once again but this time society feels better about it because it’s about handling “anxiety” and “ocd” . What the fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 01:24 PM
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The first red flag of the nightmare LVM male saga I endured was him looking down on bartending as a career, despite him being a functioning alcoholic with a CS degree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 08:12 AM
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They aren’t. But is it empowering to have news articles about dead women and children constantly on the front page though when most people already understand that’s objectively bad? I personally don’t think so. FDS helps save lives not constantly remind of when it’s too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:28 PM
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Yes, it’s a lot like that. I read “The Game” like 10 years ago and I think that’s the most I can do. I can’t spend more than like 25 seconds in PUA/RP type spaces for research. I bail out quick every time . I don’t know how the male lurkers here do it. Also I’m single and not looking so things relating to OLD or relationship advice are just not on my radar, and FDS helps keep me up to speed with those issues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:22 PM
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I agree with your point when it comes to reposting a news article when it comes to a mass shooter,domestic violence, murder, pedophilia etc... When it comes to things like posting text messages, MRA nonsense or other Reddit scrotery, FDS is very good at what it does when it comes to deconstructing the true nature of men’s intentions. Personal bias here, but my favorite genre of posts happens to be “men telling on themselves” or “straight from the horses mouth” since I don’t have the stomach or p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:02 PM
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What it comes down to is obvious financial benefit or family responsibilities. Which can be easily justified and proven in many cases. Fine, I get it. The problem with dating these men is 99% of the time they never graduate into moving out on their own, they just directly move in with their girlfriend and nobody ever questions this or sees it as risky or strange when it comes to city life. A ton of men torpedo themselves into LVM territory when they do this even when they have gathered the means…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 06:37 PM
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I’ve always toyed with the idea of making a FDS-led group for the LGBTQ younguns, but as a 35 year old cishet woman I know me giving out FDS auntie tough love might rub their community the wrong way. But god damn it you’re so right about the vulnerability aspect, I’ve seen it play out the way you’ve described with my dear gay/NB Friends. With the Heteronormative boundaries you described, the most reconciling we have to do is with our libfem-pickme conditioned past. But To the groups of people wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:41 AM
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Men see libfems use the “Sex positive” and “normalize sex work” rhetoric and learned to mimic it. They 100% don’t give a fuck, its all just the same Whore/Madonna complex to them at the end of the day, just with easy woke points and porn this time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:16 AM
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Oof.. the part about the Cultural/religious/class community… you didn’t lie. This was a new one I learned the hard way in my early 30s. I thought I had a very diverse and inclusive social life as an American but those communities all make a deal with the Patriarchy, and the Patriarchy always comes a knocking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 03:55 PM
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It’s either crypto , crime or a legendary wallstreetbets run
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 01:54 AM
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Likely SESTA/FOSTA related… after 2018 websites can be held liable for hosting illegal activity, so if there’s underage content or trafficking discovered, it’s partially on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:04 PM
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Normally, I would be fully disgusted in OF casting aside the content creators that made it successful, but when the post- March 2020 wave of girls signed up to be pornstars off selling 5$ pictures for a surreal mix of empowerment and survival, Im now actually just kindof relieved. There is grooming on a massive scale throughout social media that needs to be handled, immediately. Libfems love to cry “Normalize Sex Work!” and I’m like…we already have. It is easier that ever to study guides and res…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 09:52 PM
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He broke up with the love of his life “out of convenience” too once she had to process grief and loss. Also a military guy? Willing to bet he met and proposed to the wife less than a year after the breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 09:10 PM
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This must be the sacred sense of locker room bonding humor that women need to accept as totally not a red flag and normal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 04:26 PM
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I thought Fresh+Fit have actually complained about going to escorts or brothels… so they go onto SeekingArrangements to try and manipulate women into dealing with them, without having to pay for an “arrangement” but still get the perks of taunting people with their lifestyle. So Yea. They go on SA to find women and not pay them. They have deluded themselves into thinking that women on SA just go on there with no financial incentive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:33 PM
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Omggg I almost forgot about the “VaX hEsITaNcY” crap Aba tried, YouTube pulled the video and he came back on butthurt about being censored 🙄 He is constantly saying how he doesn’t care about money or clout, it’s all about “integrity” and being “real” but now I think it’s just to deflect followers from picking up on the strong RP or MAGA tendencies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:19 PM
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The community is holding big Ls tonight. F+F are completely vile, and Aba and Preach collabed with toxic MRA rhetoric thinking they were all the same team despite differences in how they produce content. Now Aba And Preach got shocked Pikachu faces when the lunacy is towards them. Like Preach’s wife was magically off-limits but being openly abusive to every other woman on earth is okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 01:24 AM
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Aba is def red pilled, but hides it behind the chaotic-neutral branding of their channel since they offer commentary on wide range of topics. It’s so obvious though. When the manosphere looks up to you and even Kevin Samuels is showing you love in the comments, that’s probably your sign to step back and look at your choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 11:29 PM
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THIS 💯 Men will use any word that is not “date” to lure you into one on one time (go out, hang, take you out, friends) and cross examine you all while getting the privilege of being seen with you as your date. I got so sick of this because I love to network and meet new people and find a circle with similar interests but all these men wanted was intimacy and it was exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:28 PM
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They know this too. I was very passive and let an ex essentially be absent and make up excuses on why he couldn’t be emotionally and physically present for my abortion procedure. Years later he knows how bad he looked and he lies about how I was a toxic nag and that he did try to be present and caring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:07 PM
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Thank you. I was watching the gossip girl reboot last night and I was confused on what was supposed to be glamorous or desirable about seeking relationships that are expected to fall apart the second you get aroused by someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:03 PM
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Well said! FDS might be unintentionally becoming the hub for many of these non-dating discussions, but they are all important for the advancement of women’s safety in heterosexual dating. The best discussions here constantly cross-reference between these issues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:17 PM
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Love how like half of his shit is stuff he brought upon himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:33 AM
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I fooled myself into having a lot of bad-to-mediocre sex with attractive men because I too thought that it was harmless way to explore my libfem ways. Chemistry is a wonderful thing when you find it, reducing yourself to a dudes sentient flashlight because you have chemistry isn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:39 PM
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Latina here... honestly I want to give her a pass for Bennifer2.0 because the media frenzy of how that relationship developed and broke up was unprecedented, I am old enough to remember it. I can see how there were loose ends and things that were out of both their control that caused the relationship to fail. However Jlo should of started the healing after that failed engagement. Everything between 2004 and now has been hard to watch and I agree with what you’re saying. I can’t listen to her mus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:48 PM
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You can see the cracks when you bring up “old stuff” they will gaslight you into thinking you’re unreasonable or mean for bringing up the past, rather than deal with the discomfort of working through the issue the woman is trying to address
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:29 PM
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Moved in with a guy she’s not married or engaged to after “more than a year” of showing up and being completely alien to every cultural concept around her. What the fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:12 PM
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Huge FDS learning experience was watching 3 core scrotes keeping petty shit alive from 8 years ago and the orbiting friends who just let it roll. Every woman within reach of that group was prey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:57 PM
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Men are fucking scum when it comes to discretion . If they sense that a piece of information can be associated with power, they WILL turn it into an exploit and every one of their guy friends will enable it. I’m convinced this is where they learn to gaslight women as a second nature, they are so used to constructing completely new fucked up narratives with their supportive scrote friends off the tiniest bit of truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:22 PM
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Yep there was a post about his LV points not that long ago...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:11 PM
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Okay let’s talk about those PS5 jokes for a minute. The audacity of the meme was funny for the first week, but when the joke and variations of the meme went on for months like...holy shit. I am close with the game industry for decades and this is the first time I’ve ever seen a console release treated like this. Men really went onto social media in droves to “joke” about women who aren’t their mamas to buy them a 600 dollar toy. They aren’t joking, they are conditioning women to think this is wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:41 PM
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I can somewhat appreciate if they’re upfront about or candid about a sketch past (and OP’s point still stands), but if you “‘find out “ or “discover” are told by other people... oof. RUN. Drop the Scrote. Run for your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:29 PM
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There is no money left in sex work if the taboo is gone because it’s about EmPoWeRmENT (while still having to hide everything about it 🙄) and irl meatspace is “sex-positive” dating and hookup culture 50/50. Insane how much libfems played themselves on this, I honestly don’t even think cishet men where present in a lot of these conversations yet they are benefiting from it the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:55 PM
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“Communication” only communicates that the girl is more invested than he is because she’s trying to improve a future version of the relationship. LVM is always looking, scheming, scouting, for the next relationship. The “communicate” girl is only exposing that she can negotiate the amount of mistreatment she’s okay with until the whole thing implodes but not after she internalizes the gaslighting and excuses and the cycle repeats itself with new partners. The LVM will get away with it for years …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:32 PM
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Right? I don’t get it. I’ll give it credit for face value entertainment if it’s an earworm or something but I’m not going to go out and call those type of entertainers pioneers or brave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:08 PM
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WAP was entertaining but the level of 3rd wave feminist discourse around it was exhausting. Cardi and Megan weren’t doing anything new, but the sex-and-body-positive woke army came out in full force for it for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:04 PM
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I’m not convinced the women who consent to polyamory are happy or cut out for it. I’ve only seen one polycule that I can give credit to. The rest are open marriages/swingers/cheaters who want to appropriate the poly label instead of calling it what it is, or kinkmeishas who are unaware of their perpetual unicorn label. The people in these scenes are riddled with unmitigated mental illness because being “woke” and unconventional counts as ~healing~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:30 PM
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I try to spend time in the raisedbynarcissists subreddit to heal but sometimes the posts don’t always describe the toxic dynamic I endured. The truth is FDS helps explain my experience much more clearly because my mothers Pickme runaround with my cheating dad was the core of why I was denied parents . I raised myself emotionally since I was about 12? I have large patches where years just pull up blank... But talking about narcissistic abuse is much more normalized than talking about FDS/pickmes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:17 PM
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Ever since kink, camming and sugarbabying entered the mainstream in the last 4 years all these new girls have had no grip on what the internet and men will do to them in the long run. It’s like they think they are immune if they are “empowered” enough through libfem rhetoric and don’t actually have sex with anyone for money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:15 AM
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Men ask what your job is because they are considering whether to respect you or not Huge reason why I choose to stay single until I am where I want to be with my living and day job situation. My looks and social media personality can get me a cute date whenever I want, but actually letting them know my job, income sources, plans, and my roommates? Nope. I’m a work in progress and while I am okay with that, I find that men start the boundary crossing and the games immediately. Once you are past c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:11 PM
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Late night texts out of nowhere is the most 🚩Red-Flaggy🚩 thing scrotes do, even Pickmes are taught this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:16 PM
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“Without any of the companionship of a real relationship” lmao it’s wild what men think they can get away with if they use the word “friend” enough. Who treats a “friend” like a gym sock! Maybe there’s an understanding there’s no BF/GF label on it but I’d still like to think the man I’m regularly having sex with is a decent person I can consistently confide in or count on if I’m in a bind...you know like a FRIEND
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:30 PM
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Here you go: Pleasantly surprised by this guy in my DMs sharing a useful tip: men in homeless shelters are using online dating to find women to mooch off of, often after getting kicked out for abusing/cheating on another woman https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/m3wjv3/pleasantly_surprised_by_this_guy_in_my_dms/ The one about the social worker was someone who commented in one of those rare posts where men were allowed to participate, sorry for the vagueness on that one 😓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:07 PM
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I’ll volunteer a voice if you ever need an episode with ex-sexworkers (I was stripper for 6 years) I nominate Chloe Celine from the hypergamous hive, I’m obsessed with her Getting Lundy Bancroft would be powerful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 11:28 PM
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THANK YOU!!! In addition to this, I have seen two permitted posts from men that have supported FDS due to similar first hand experiences. One was a social worker and the other was a man who worked in a shelter and confirmed the dangers of how hobosexuals operate. Everything you’re saying here adds up 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:48 PM
5

Yep. I saw a pickme use the word “boundaries” so many times in our conversation, she really thought she was doing something and was so proud. We had caught the ZVM lying in real-time exactly as I predicted too. Last I checked they’re still together 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:45 PM
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Not only did this “friend” only contact me around midnight once every two months , he would have the audacity to lament on how we never hang out and I should initiate more friendly contact and essentially, in FDS terms, “chase”. What. The. Actual. F.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:47 PM
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Does this fall under the rule about sharing intimate details about past traumas? I’m not surprised at the lack of empathy shown in the video and comments, but I can’t say I support women trusting any non-vetted scrote with this type of information. I speak from experience after an abortion trauma where the LVM switched up and lied hard about everything- these dudes will not care and use it for gossip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:19 PM
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His career is eating shit for all the right reasons right now. His apology is as good as its going to get for a hack who has years of rebuilding and penance ahead if he chooses to return to Youtube and miss any legal consequences. His "sexually risque" content beyond the Night of the Rape and the Seth makeout prank is deeply entrenched in his channel's brand. The way they talk to girls is perverted as hell, its like theyre going for some fratty Howard Stern vibe and the hypersexualization of EVE…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:39 AM
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I have experience with a dude deep into hobosexuality. If they aren’t hiding a girlfriend/wife or living with parents, then they are hiding something like debt or a criminal record. Background checking is not overreacting. If his “struggle” isn’t making sense despite him being able-bodied, charming and employable there is something sinister going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:53 PM
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Screaming... I have met an engineer that does this lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:46 PM
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I hope he left her something in his will. When you are truly cherished and prized someone will want to make sure you’re okay and taken care of. This is just cognitive dissonance and transactional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:01 PM
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To me, the “Strategy” in FDS is acknowledging the playing field is rigged. There are plenty of ex-cool girls and pickmes and sex workers on fds, and even active sex workers who understand they need to get out of the biz. Cat Mantrell’s brand of feminism is peak 3rd wave mess that at worst still allows her a chance at mediocrity 20 years later. For many other women the same choices as a pickme/cool girl/sexworker will just wind up getting us unemployed, homeless, traumatized or killed. Thank you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:41 PM
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Yep! Thank you sis 💯 That’s exactly how it plays out but it’s considered “eXPLoRiNg” like they’re so brave and really doing something 🙄 nah it’s pornsick meets pickme. That’s it. It’s not that deep. It’s hard to call out their behavior without gatekeeping for the lgbtq community. But fuck it. You’re not bi because you’re sooo open-minded when you’re drunk. Funny how they never try this at gay or lesbian bars, only in straight spaces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:06 AM
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I long for straight female girlfriends I can get drunk with who won’t try to make out with me because they think sexual identity is all participation trophies? Admitting women are attractive doesn’t have to automatically escalate into changing your sexual orientation, but pickmes and cool girls stay letting these pornfried scrotes take the lead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:53 AM
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I’m bi but I stopped telling people. I just lie and say I’m straight. The hypersexualization is unbearable from men, and straight Pickmes treat you like an experiment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:39 AM
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Exactly. Unless I'm going to spend time with a mixed group of friends that are vetted, there is no point in spending time around scrotes. There is no such thing as one-on-one "hang" time with a scrote, they all have "crushes" or ulterior motives. Dating is an even worse version of it all. Also, a side effect of this truth is that it actually works in your favor, since scarcity does raise the value of your time, and therefore encourage HVM and HVW to get on your wavelength. I see so many women no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:44 PM
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lmao I bet this sounded very noble in his head, I think to him it translates as "Its okay if you dont have money or purpose, you still can be empowered"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:32 PM
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The only WOC struggle love narrative that makes sense is when an immigrant couple move to a new country to make a better life for their family. Outside of that, really not interested in wasting my resources to prop up a man established in his society’s patriarchy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:29 AM
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I’m a fan of the content I see curated here but I think there’s needs to be a stricter crackdown on it. (In my opinion)FDSs strongest and most empowering content a year ago were text posts and essays from members- a lot of retrospective lessons and cautionary guides on the nature of men. I swear I wanted to nominate everything to go in the handbook haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:50 PM
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I can relate. I even explained my schedule, He kept doing it, and kept acting like he was just being a friend. Like, thanks for gaslighting my legitimate complaint? Old me would of even been open to a cAsUaL thing but the scrote was so neck deep in cheating and plate-managing that random late night texts was the most he could invest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:32 AM
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Men absolutely care about impressing other men. It’s why the 50/50 pickme mommy girlfriend will eventually get discarded. She may have been a dreamgirl at one point, but eventually the lvm and his bros will see her worth was in how much disrespect she would accept. They would rather look for a new dreamgirl than invest in the girl who doesn’t respect herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:31 PM
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Exactly. I like to post looks that flatter my body on Instagram once in a while, but I keep that energy off Facebook and I don’t use hashtags to really boost when I do. Also, lingerie or cabaret themes are out of the question. However I’ve been noticing this HUGE trend of boudoir photography for “empowerment” on Facebook and IG that are being promoted to women who are assumed to be lacking cOnFiDeNcE or haven’t eXpLoREd their sexuality, or and it’s so strange. A lingerie centerfold boudoir photo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:06 PM
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Deadass fucking facts. I did the whole “let the girlfriend know what her man is doing” thing and sent screenshots of his dms, and she was in the middle of giving her LVM a (turbulent) second chance. She was educated, independent and raised with healthy support system. This was not somebody who was conditioned for tragic self-sabotage. She wound up going back to him and I guess doubling down on “working on it” and “communication”. I no longer feel sorry for her, she is now complicit in her own di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:20 AM
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I’m learning how to trade options, I found a paid private group that a feel good about joining once I’ve got the basics drilled in my head. I know it’s not much, but buying individual shares gives me too much anxiety for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:54 AM
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I keep this one guy blocked on Facebook, but I didn’t block his number. I always left him on read and lived my life, but I was intentionally playing the long game to eventually send the screenshots to his girlfriend. Once his girlfriend saw exactly what he was doing and knew I was not engaging him for years,it was ALL him, he was completely cornered and exposed. It may seem like I’m overinvested by FDS standards, but collecting some type of time stamped proof was my way of protecting myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:00 AM
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You nailed it. You didn’t speak one lie sis. There are so many girlfriends and pickmes out there who allow this depraved behavior from their man to slide because he’s not physically or emotionally “cheating”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:15 PM
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Thank you for saying this. I 100% support and preach the “go to therapy” mantra but deep down I know it’s easier to say that than say what you just wrote out loud. A lot of people are not ready to accept that some people can not and do not change. Most folks still need that small crumb of hope. But the reality is the concept of sacrifice certainly does not exist in LVM and NVM. If your moral foundation is trash, that’s a landfill sis. Stop building.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:56 PM
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What I learned about men like this is that this is misguided resource guarding against a person in their life that seriously does not deserve it. I can do all those things alone just fine , the thought of letting a man in my life to regulate my labor and money to show me how love and respect works is low key raising some abusive red flags. These days I’m more open about expressing that I would like a man who cherishes and provides for me. Women who are independent and can stomach the veneer of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:19 PM
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I witnessed a LVM find his dreamgirl on bumble. Checks all the marks you listed. It’s falling apart 3 years later. What’s sick is that I really think he doesn’t want to lose her, but he will never change. LVM is set on dragging her down to his level and then looking down on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:30 PM
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It’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever tried to verbalize and you just did it so well! 💖 I was hung up on YouTube coaches for a while to try to figure out what was going on, and while some helped, FDS finally came along and galvanized my healing because it was necessary to examine the patriarchal and libfem conditioning that led us into so much gaslighting abuse in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:24 PM
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Dude seriously, women just... do not do this. We would be labeled straight up stage-5 clinger crazy by men if we “joked” about last names sounding cute in the early dating stage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:32 PM
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“Future Faking” is a very cute way of saying “Psychopathic tendencies”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:12 PM
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Came in here to say tumblr as well. Seen the sugar/escorting blogs myself, they’re obscure, you gotta look for them,but they are there. Hell I was already in my twenties when I got on tumblr and noticed the infestation of kinkmeishas, I can’t imagine being a literal child getting conditioned into DD/LG let alone sex work on tumblr. The potential reach of TikTok and IG is horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:06 PM
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Lol we have the same sister. Been debating on describing her lvm marriage. Husband threw her in a psyche ward after microdosing shrooms triggered psychosis and he both lied to the doctors and family about it. They both live with his mom. They are heavy into new age spirituality and think they are immune to consequences and boundaries. It’s awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:30 PM
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The women deep in these spiritual scenes are something else...they’re not quite pickme but they contort their identities to be ~empowered~ handmaidens to strangers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:28 PM
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Yes, this. The ones most vocal about empowerment through onlyfans/stripping/escorting/whatever are the most out of touch. They sell a idealized version of a very dangerous gamble to hundreds of thousands of women. And the real kicker is? Even those at the top have to lie to themselves that this is their passion and calling, after a certain point playing the woke liberated vixen erodes your boundaries. I wish these type of sex workers would just be realistic about taking their money to quietly mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:30 PM
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Hey! Last Christmas I paragraphed him all pissed off, but this Christmas I just left him on read with no reply. If I had blocked him I wouldn’t of been able to exercise my fds ~growth~😂✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:17 AM
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💯 this is real meta fr fr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:10 AM
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HV knows relationships require balance and boundaries. Letting one take over your life or even distract you from your own hobbies/careers/networking opportunities shows poor discipline and is a sign of chaos to come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:08 AM
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It’s one thing for men to to make up narratives for their dream girl and pass it off as advice, but to see a woman doing it is insane! Who exactly are these men dropping bands for gifts on women they don’t want to touch? Who are these affection-starved women upset over luxury items?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 11:53 PM
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Ikr??? The other scenario is her just leaving him and she starts collecting child support, which makes men like this completely flip their shit on the internet even worse!! I can not follow their logic. I can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:41 PM
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I’m convinced the concept of a young bachelor wanting to be a husband who can support his family one day has been fully bred out of millennials and gen Z men. Like, they legitimately can not fathom being providers. Entitlement this deep towards motherhood and the 50/50 scam is the result of systemic conditioning through pickme, libfem and misogynist mothers raising sons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:30 PM
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Woah. This is next level intel. Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:50 PM
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Seriously. I agree with the FDS stance on the porn/sex work industry as a whole and the damage it does, but the way some FDSers talk about individual sex workers it’s like they insist on being deliberately obtuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:42 PM
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Nailed it. The Libfem trap of Sex positive culture is so insidious, because in theory, on the surface! hypothetically!!! both men and women want to fundamentally agree with it. In practice however, men are still base, judgmental and possessive creatures who will turn on the same “woke” work they sexually and emotionally benefited from for years to keep chasing the dream girl mommy concept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:46 PM
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Unless someone can correct me, I believe a small circle of level up youtubers, with Shera7 being the first, created the word “pickme”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:27 PM
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Dude!!! A few days ago similar quarantine vibes started to happen with an ex fling, when he finally hit me with the how have you been small talk after enough ig reaction flirting, I told him about my customer support gig at a game company and he immediately asked me FOR A JOB! like... the first conversation we have in a over a year and you’re asking me for career and financial help? The fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:51 AM
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I suspected this after my FDS awakening. When I was naive and believed in ~cool girl~ and FWB, men wouldn’t match the energy and I was confused by that. But now, I think to them they thought it was a relationship even though I never wanted one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:58 PM
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Same. I keep a sonogram with some clothes in a small tin box from a loss I went through with a LVM. This is pure evil. I can’t imagine this familiar emotion scaled to what she’s dealing with right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:45 PM
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dont forget the Water and walking date sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 02:07 AM
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"Educated", "Career" and "professional" are very subjective terms. I'm extremely suspicious of any man who feels my degree, my university's ranking, or my titles need to be a requirement that passes his standards on the first contact. The OP's translated breakdown of this is spot on. I love my independence and my career, but I would never lead with it to hope it passes a man's approval, since proving I'm "equal" or "on his level" is the libfem slippery slope right into the 50/50 trap. Its great …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:25 PM
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Any man that expects a woman to bring a career to the table is a huge red flag to FDS- this is not a man looking to be a provider or invest. It invalidates everything else he listed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:27 AM
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Holy fuck. Monkeybranching out of a divorce into your free therapist who lets you fuck? The Zero self awareness?? The entitlement???? Their brains are so fried.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:59 PM
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I think the ONE thing men unintentionally do is fall into the trap of believing the “right girl” or “dream girl” will somehow rehab them into a HVM once he gets being a predatory fuckboy swine OuT oF hIs SyStEm~ The same predatory techniques he intentionally spent his whole adulthood investing time and effort to create a lifestyle around 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:31 PM
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The “You don’t understand this is hard for meeeeee” conversation needs to be saved for his therapist and ONLY his therapist . FDS stays on point about REQUIRING men to go to therapy. I bet this scrote whined about having to adjust to his wife’s pregnancy and a newborn too. My heart is with that woman fighting for her life right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 04:19 PM
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I completely agree, which this is personally what I try to do. It gets much harder though for women who have to take medication everyday. How do you hide something like that for so long? You can be doing everything right to manage and be responsible about your health and still wind up getting demonized. It's so fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:14 PM
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There needs to be some kind of FDS manual on how to discuss mental illness. I see so many well meaning women put everything out there for the sake of "mental health awareness" or to help change the "perception" of what an illness looks like. The truth is these thoughtful, nuanced conversations are lost on men. I think people are able understand depression or anxiety, but Schizophrenia, Bipolar or even PTSD are conditions people choose to stay ignorant about, and men, especially men will use them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:00 PM
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Spent 100 hours thinking about basic needs? You can have a little handmaiden. As a treat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:20 PM
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Came here to say I notice the same thing in American white men. Doesn't matter if they're born as millenials or younger, the "traditional" influence is still deeply rooted in them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 05:58 PM
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Yeah, it’s not okay. That’s why I said calmly call them out and watch them get offended. The cognitive dissonance these men display needs to be pointed out. I’m not throwing women under the train by simply pointing out sex work exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:17 PM
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I understand FDS's stance on sexwork, but for instances like this I am not totally against their role in FDS, because IT'S TRUE! If they want sex to be transactional, go to prostitute. These same scrotes get BIG offended at the idea of going to a sex worker as well if you calmly call them out and suggest it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:22 PM
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Lmao I work with ESO at my job and I appreciated this 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:52 PM
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Beautifully put. It’s never sustainable, and it’s apparent earlier than you think. Don’t gotta wait to see it at the death bed. A human can not live in a void like this for longer than few years without permanent damage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:01 PM
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This is what I thought of when I saw the thread title. I remember reading this years ago, cringing and he instantly turned LV to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 06:49 AM
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Close. He’s just jealous he can’t have a pickme he’s already picked suddenly transform for him without him investing a single cent or fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:15 AM
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It really is like this. Men are not capable of FWB or casual, do not believe it. Scrotes will have their "dreamgirl" well within reach and will still react like this to a spinning plate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:36 AM
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This post is sidebar material
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:36 AM
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I had spent a year and a half just listening to relationship coach YouTubers, then level up youtubers, which then introduced me to the more “extreme” concepts of hypergamous style of dating. They were all missing a certain edge though... when I found FDS it was like I finally found the place where all those concepts I was studying through youtubers where gathered in the most efficient way to protect and empower women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:25 PM
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Yep to all of this, the “cool chill girl” is really showing here... and she was probably going to do all the driving to him too 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:25 PM
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Then they will turn around and say women are the ones who suddenly “went crazy” Monsters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:12 AM
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I just told a girl a few days ago. Sent screencaps of her bf contacting me late at night. Honestly I don’t mind if she doesn’t reply and start discussion with me, I just sent the evidence and backed off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 01:25 PM
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Yes, this is so true. All of this. I used to simply think it was “guilt” but if you step back and look at the whole picture it’s usually just damage control. Men will be stubborn,selfish and abusive and you can cOmMuNiCaTe with them throughout their whole depravity but the most they will ever process is “I looked bad”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:11 PM
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My abortion trauma was used as gossip and conversation piece between guy “friends”. I discovered this a YEAR AND A HALF after the event. They use it to try to trauma bond and establish an exchange of emotional labor to secure trying to fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:15 AM
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holy shit 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 06:22 PM
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This happened to me. it was so uncomfortable realizing what was happening, and all the mutuals knew he was being a bad partner to his girlfriend. Whats even worse is that he would of actually had a chance with me if he had properly ended things with his girlfriend, instead he was putting me in a very awkward and unfair position where I’m this monkey-branch-other-woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:15 PM
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You didn’t lie sis 💯 They still hold out for the right Forever GF roommate 50/50 situations even when their hairline is starting to recede it is TRAGIC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 11:36 PM
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Exactly... I’ll begrudgingly turn a blind eye when men do this in their late 20s, but into their thirties? Complete and total nonsense. Inexcusable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 11:28 PM
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Men get frustrated with trying to read me because Im very apathetic about seeking relationships or marriage, but these same men will not grow out of their bachelor mentality and will never drop their “options” even when they’re in a relationship they sought out and claim to care about. At least I never switched up on anyone. Ive been comfortably single for years rather than pretend to invest in something that I’m not suited for. I’m watching men in their 30s waste girls time and technically thei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 11:11 PM
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Exactly what I was thinking. This is the heavy trauma talk FDS says to never lead or “open up” with. All OP did was hand him a list of reasons of why she is unstable and risky, therefore her whole life is open to dismissal. if a guy casually brings up that he had 4 mental illnesses during the “getting to know each other” stage, I would run for my life... Bonding over mental illness is never productive as people think it’s going to be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 02:54 PM
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Ugh, I can’t even fathom. a no pressure “hang out” where we are both physically attracted to each other, I’ll even put on the lashes and a little Marc Jacobs perfume for fun, and dudes still won’t run up a 16 dollar tab 🙄 Men will not acknowledge your presence until it’s time for their dick to find a hole. Anything more than that is “investing” for them. Delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 11:58 PM
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I quit being casual cool girl because of shit like this. I got tired of douchebags hitting me up after midnight when they’ve clearly been out. These brokeasses would rather send a wyd text at the end of the night instead of invite you out and pay for your 4 dollar vodka-sodas at a dive bar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 01:13 PM
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I don’t think you get what I wrote at all actually. I’m saying Women can do as they please. It’s not a matter of “can” or “cannot” They are and have been doing the same things, but the societal consequences are much more unforgiving and cruel because of patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 11:23 AM
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Im pretty sure he started off being her manager. It’s probably why he even had a chance to pursue that type of money from her. This is why we don’t “Grow together” with men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:20 PM
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Societal Double standards rooted in patriarchy Men want plates, they want to lead women on emotionally to secure their exclusivity but if a woman has the audacity to also do the same their ego can not handle it. This is why FWB will always be sabotaged by a man “Sow your wild oats” mentality. Young Men are raised to believe they are maturing and evolving during the time they are acting like complete fuckboy pigs. Any woman who uses the same tactics though gets labeled as damaged and risky. LVM g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:52 PM
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Guys will act like this for decades while they still believe in the “the one” Would you want to be the “one” for a scrote that only has experience treating women like this his entire dating life before committing to him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:12 PM
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It’s a lot... they claim to be so open minded and evolved, but their social media feeds are “mental health awareness” like, all the time. Anxiety, depression and victimhood count as valid personality traits in their circles... yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:01 PM
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the part about divulging trauma and dropping the heavy stuff. I could kick myself for how much I put out there thinking I was being honest and real. You need to have hobbies and interests you can lead with, or else discussions about your emotions and relationships will happen and you will get nowhere. I had to distance myself from my poly-pan-kinkmeisha friends because they are champions with no shame at trauma bonding with anyone who will listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:30 AM
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Yep, found out he lived on the opposite side of the same freeway exit as me...oof
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 01:11 AM
78

you really called them “Handmaidens” 😂💯 I wasn’t ready sis! Lmao 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:46 PM
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I can relate with the strong natural-born apathy! I think it is a power trip on their end, my last foray into FWB the guy made it clear We weren’t going to date, plus I wasn’t his “type” and he was actively chasing girls he actually did want to chase. Whatever. So I lived my life. He didn’t like it? I have a history of texts of this guy telling me I need to initiate and chase HIM more in the name of “hanging out” like friends. He’s been very upset that I’m not a potential mistress on call for wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 02:46 PM
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Thank you. Pickmeishas WILL turn on their children, parents, career, and friends to prop up a man. They can be very dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 02:33 PM
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In theory it was all amazing, but in reality most women can reasonably relate to Carrie or Miranda. The fatal flaw in SATC is that women thought women like Samantha or Charlotte can exist in reality but it’s simply not possible. Sam and Char are extremely exaggerated characters for Entertainment and should never be used as models to emulate in real life .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 11:46 PM
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Cringe Chill cool girl pickme foolishness. Never again. Do dudes even get an ego boost from these one-sided interactions or are they just seen as annoying plates to maintain? Edit: Male lurkers, I’ll allow DMs regarding my question. I’m genuinely curious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 10:05 PM
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When your moidbaby needs u more than his tendies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:04 PM
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He’s already decided he’s going to let his dick win. He just wants reassurance from the internet he’s still a good and logical person If his rotation is so robust with FWB surely one of them is on the same risk level as him? Not one these “females” that like to fuck like “rabbits” is in a similar boat eager for a friendly gesture? 😂 My analysis is that these girls secured quarantine situationships where they are actually getting some resource or security during a worldwide crisis. He just wants …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 03:14 AM
157

Sis FDS is exposing that Men think women not giving them attention is oppression
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 02:05 AM
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Geez you are getting like no replies! Well Ill bite. I have heard of confessional antidotes from men themselves in fluff pieces for like cosmo or askreddit kind of articles. And I agree if anything where to inspire someone to change it usually would be after some major life altering event. ⚠️However!!⚠️ I actually don’t think I have ever witnessed a woman have a story of how a guy transformed for the better that wasn’t horrifyingly pickme, or seen any of my irl girl friends make it to that point…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:36 PM
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I can confirm this is exactly what they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:11 AM
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I’m sorry you’re at this stage of your FDS journey right at the beginning of a quarantine... making new connections and starting new habits is harder than ever now. I’ve been where you are, stay in no contact no matter what, find something to work on, have someone who will let you vent it out and save those conversations for that one person only, and read everything here like it is the word handed down from above. fake it till you make it you cannot let him see you crack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 03:10 AM
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It is shocking and I have caught feelings for dudes who are almost homoerotically bonded to their BROS. They all turn. They all gossip. They will never show a woman decency or support if it is detrimental to their hunt for us. I’ve started implementing a new mantra to scrotes who I even suspect are connected to any manboybros who have hurt me or women in the past... I just bluntly state I can’t stand their friends, and don’t give a fuck if it looks like I’m dropping ultimatums or making anyone c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:39 PM
24

What a racist piece of shit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:59 PM
23

I remember asking FDS about how to protect myself while communicating my preferred love languages, and a poster here gave me some excellent advice about the context of the book. I believe she clarified that the book was written to speak to people in already established relationships and marriages. So stating love languages up front like a horoscope is not exactly how they were intended to be applied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:44 AM
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YO WTF imagine traversing outside into the hysteria rn to get groceries during a pandemic just to waste eggs and flour on THIIIIIS!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:35 AM
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I made the mistake of thinking I could FWB with this kind of laid back logic. Three years after I ghost-dropped him he still pops up every couple of months to whine about I never make the effort to be social and “friendly” with him... ...when he could have just as easily been sharing and initiating the “friendly” thoughts and invites on his end 🤨 These trash “friendly” dudes do NOT want to be seen with you at any cost, they want to dig their heels in making sure you initiate and chase rather tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 08:03 PM
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I wouldn’t mind a weekend warrior but finding one who isn’t a stunted train wreck or a cheater is unlikely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 07:59 PM
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So true!! Even though I know how pathetic those late night wyd texts were, I still get some amusement from seeing them pop up and ignoring them? I guess I like keeping a record. (This technique is not recommended for everyone, blocking is still a solid standard) Pickmeishas will sadly run themselves ragged over crumbs and start imagining things that aren’t there. I wish they understood there is also a dopamine rush to blocking him or just texting “delete this number” 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 02:37 AM
8

Abortion is not traumatic, interacting with the LV sperm donor through the process absolutely is though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:43 PM
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This style of male upbringing is the psychological incubation period for the Whore/Madonna complex... where there are mommy issues this complex is never too far behind. The likelihood of you giving a an OpEn-MiNdEd cHaNcE to a guy who has already put you in the “whore” category by default is extremely high. They don’t always know they are doing it either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:53 PM
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Honestly watching the 20-something year old boys raised on the popularity of these PUA Tactics grow into self-sabotaging 30-something year old manlets has really been cathartic. They’re too selfish and damaged to self reflect on how they are the reason they will never grow old with a loyal, committed woman in her feminine. When I was younger I wondered about things like “the one” after “sowing his wild oats” and how these LVM where going to play out and now I’m living to see it. Meanwhile 30-som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 11:39 PM
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Why I don’t look for guys who like anime/games/weaboo shit...I don’t care how 🔥 the memes are there are HVM who are intrigued by that side of me and I work hard on other aspects of my life so I don’t lead with it. “Nerdy” dating is a LV cesspit nobody likes to admit to, it is abundant with failure-to-launch cases for all genders involved
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:17 AM
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Smashed that mfn upVOTE 👏🏼BRAVO👏🏼 Lurking Cool girls and Pickmeishas: if you’re not capable of following this mantra, at least get all of your doubts and defiance out of your system by the time you’re 25-26 and for the love of god do not have a baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 02:50 AM
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Great point that doesn’t get talked about enough. Controversial, but if I was a single parent to a LVMs child I will communicate how toxic his/her father was BEFORE they turn 18. I do not agree with the “don’t talk negatively about the other parent” rule, it is definitely about waiting for the kid to reach an age where he/she will understand the topic enough to ask questions and practice critical thinking. I have seen waaaay too many advice threads about an estranged parent asking to be in their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 04:07 PM
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Perfect analysis, redpillers always spin single moms like they’re desperately out looking for their kid’s “new dad” as the ultimate fear but I really like how you went through each point without referencing that paranoid fear lvm jump to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:47 PM
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Old me used to think Emotional labor was “communication” but the second a guy can not handle the pressure or consequences of his life choices, and expects a woman to compromise her intuition to make excuses and dispense sympathy, It is not always emotional labor. It is Trauma Bonding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 06:43 PM
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“Your mediocrity isn’t my problem” For the older guys who want bangmommies instead of seeing a therapist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:13 PM
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I think I’ve met one of those! He gives a girlfriend the identical LV treatment I’m sure, but technically only she gets the coveted ~”ex”~ label because he PICKED her, even though he hopes for exclusivity from the other side girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 03:37 PM
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This. Had to ice-cold sever some mutuals because they were “bros” with entitled scumbags. It was confusing seeing people I believed to have a moral compass make excuses for trash behavior. I’m positive their collective spin these days is I’m a bitch and they have nO iDeA why Snugglyy stopped hAnGiNg oUt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:39 PM
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He calls them “the boys” and they all lie and cover for each other when they go hunt for new impressionable women to cheat with while their forever girlfriend waits at home in her big red clown shoes and rainbow fro wig
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:28 AM
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Don’t be afraid to distance yourself from mutuals you have with Gossips or LVM. Even if they haven’t done anything wrong, a lot of people are fine with playing Sweden in the face of bad behavior. Don’t tell them why, just focus on people that aren’t connected to sources of stress or drama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:19 AM
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Oh for sure, they won’t technically learn to evolve overall, and it is a basket full of sociopathic N traits most of the time in paragraphing situations.... but in relation to the OPs point we do risk oversharing that incriminating screenshot or telling them we found the smoking gun and explaining it to them over text, which is the part they will learn to hide better for the next time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:46 PM
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I 100% agree! This is why we also don’t👏🏼 send 👏🏼paragraphs👏🏼 They respond to what’s convenient and study the rest so they can apply it to the next round of abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:01 AM
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This doesn’t make sense! what the fuck kind of hentai porno lingerie Is he asking for? Cause having Lingerie is considered “traditional” for sexually active women...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:34 AM
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You can maybe get away with this line of thinking of you know you’re going to look like Don Draper lmaooo I’d say this is similar to “the right girl” mentality, where the guy thinks he will be able to flip a switch and be magically become HV husband material when he’s done “experiencing” his subjugation of women’s time, bodies, and emotions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:31 AM
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I mean, I like sex, but in the Grand scheme of things I didn't benefit in any way from having casual sex. I could give it all back and not miss a thing. Same!!! I’m 33, meaning I spent my entire adulthood growing with a generation where 3rd wave feminism was already in place and 4th wave started to kick in about 10 years ago. The sex was just this awkward ritual that was a reward for basic socializing... of course men are gonna love this setup and the woman is supposed to walk away empowered bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:55 PM
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YEP!! Milky skin and Redhead is like the socially acceptable way of saying youre racist under the guise of it being a “type”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:22 PM
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He’s really expecting praise with the confetti and parade for a “WANNA HANG?” 😨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:53 AM
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Just found out LV ex had stated he is never going to marry...interesting .... I picked up from his dating history and our conversations in the past that he intended eventually to settle down and raise a family in the future, and I know he did premarital cohabitating too. He was ultimately a Peter Pan fuckboy so I nexted out. He’s now 34 and has had a solid job IT job at the same place for 3 years.. interesting that when his career is looking grown-up and he can be a provider with the means he ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:02 AM
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I don’t paragraph, but I have been guilty of matching energy. So ladies, remember, if the scrote is sending paragraph energy it’s all low-value world salad, not cOmMuNiCaTiNg. Remember to leave on read and walk away as swiftly as possible. The one and last time I sent a paragraph I called him and his family out for their racism with receipts ready. If he wants to keep insisting on “real” conversation over scrubby late night texts I’ll get real heavy real quick. He hasn’t texted again since
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:10 PM
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I realized when I noticed all these LTR cohabitating situations my friends were getting into never really turning into marriages... at least if you divorce you have some legal recourse to 50/50 😂! These seemingly intelligent women were giving great years and having nothing to show for it when it’s over When I found Chloe’s video on “the 50/50 scam” it reinforced a lot of ideas I had, but I had never heard discussed by someone else and it was honestly so validating and life changing to hear come …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:42 PM
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💯 THANK YOU for going there. This is guaranteed codependency, and codependencies involve putting someone’s else’s needs before your own- the level of abuse that will follow is a gamble that might cost you some tears, or your life, your choice if you still want to try your luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:25 PM
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Heal childhood trauma, Safe space for individual healing, mastering communication Go see a therapist, a doctor, counselor, somebody... seriously, it is not healthy to project this on someone’s emotional vulnerability through dating. Emotionally Support Each other, Hold each other accountable, Relationships are NOT rehab centers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:50 PM
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It is staggering how much serious professional-level psychiatric work this person is looking to receive and offer, while simultaneously believing that infantilizing each other is romantic and healthy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:20 PM
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Yep, I’ve seen this too. An ex lying about his mom’s chronic illness and how she’s going to die, and the amount of time she has left... He has also lied about his dad being in an accident and dying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:35 PM
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In addition to what’s already been mentioned, my luck with military guys is that they’re kind of dumb? Like... I’m talking Fox News tea-party libertarian dumb... if someone wants to be conservative that’s their choice, but the level of voluntary ignorance that I’ve seen in military men is staggering. They’re very proud about it too 😨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:10 PM
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The question makes me uncomfortable if it comes out too early in conversation to be honest. The amount of 50/50-cohabitating-within-a-year dudes is abundant in the tech and college town I live in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 02:25 AM
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As soon as that test turns up positive they try to wash their hands clean and treat the scenario with clinical logic because they think it makes them look RaTiOnAL, while the woman is pretty much having her whole reality ripped apart. When the woman’s intuition eventually processes that the other half of this situation still failed them in an emergency despite being so RaTiOnAL the guy can’t handle it and the next level of gaslighting and projection comes out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 06:31 PM
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The comments were a fleeting glimmer of hope in this cesspit of a website Also I agree on the new flair, something that focuses on Pregnancy/Reproductive horror stories
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 06:16 PM
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Of course it’s empowering, because they get to choose when to swap out for a Madonna whenever they like. Women are just sort of stuck with believing all men are misunderstood and worth giving a chance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:55 AM
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What is considered a controversial niche sub-class for FDS in Dark Triad Women Is common garden-variety straight man. Make no excuses, vet, background check and be open to hiring a Private Investigator at least once if you can afford it before offering exclusive commitment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:16 PM
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Ex lived close to his job and he had a long commute. He moved into her room. That same year later he finds a dream girl and I noticed the ex unfriended him. Like lmao I swear he was using both of them I backed tf out on first date because what tall, educated, charming and employed young man in his prime chooses to live with his ex? Make it make sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:31 PM
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As a white passing Latina, I am honestly terrified of white men. I’ve definitely been attracted to them don’t get me wrong, but you start to realize how deeply engrained this Eurocentric and “redhead” shit is in like... most of them. Even if they’re not republican, they usually have a set of WASPy boomer parents not too far behind that they have to unpack a lot of shit from. It’s not fair and our gut feelings about these conversations are usually right. My FDS PoC sisters deserve everything ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:17 PM
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Lmao I saw this happen with a “cohabitating with my ex because we care about each other as friends still” situation haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:00 PM
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Lmaooo I am screaming 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:43 PM
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The first time I experienced a guy try to manipulate and gaslight like this over text... I was shook by the psychopathy of it for about a year and thought it was a one off thing until I ran into another guy who did it as well. turns out this shit is common with men, and it is actually so disturbing. The need to lie and create something new on a whim from thin air, even if the contradictions are in writing and time stamped just a few scrolls away is completely batshit mental.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:38 AM
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4 years, but the last year is already circling the drain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:51 PM
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My mom has strong HVW values, but in practice? Fucking horrendous, she is a very bitter pickmeisha who stayed dedicated to engaging my dad after the divorce for over 20 years now. If she knew what a level up was and how to live by one, she would of been a queen and had it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:17 PM
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Hoooo lord there it is 💯💁🏻‍♀️ yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:40 AM
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Hot friend I had a one night stand with. Lots of red flags, but I ignored them because I wasnt looking for a relationship. Found out I was pregnant a month later, and I had to reach out to him and deal with him, chase him down and play nice to make sure I got half of the abortion payment. He was fucking awful, and I had to lower my standards because of the position I found myself in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:37 AM
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I saw a hippy couple with three baby kids do the “sell our home and move into an airstream!” thing to go on adventures... not even a year later she got pregnant with a 4th and they’re selling the airstream 😬🙄 like, what service did they actually do their three existing kids by acting on that hashtag fantasy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:48 PM
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There’s a point in your late 20-30s were if you can have a nomadic lifestyle and maintain a career, you’re actually pretty savvy and doing well! I see people do this and travel to Bali, Thailand, Cozumel, etc This van life thing is a BUM LORD move , and unless you’re the 1% that can vlog and turn it into a side source of income, it’s like you said; not really glamorous, it’s just sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:41 PM
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I think the last paragraph says it all. When I see poly-minded and sex-positive people like this it’s always them trying to prove to the world that they are radicals redefining what their parents or society expects of them. All it sounds like is they’re trying to prove it to themselves. This poor, stupid, girl is going to waste very good years realizing that she never built anything of value for herself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:20 PM
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Her step brother was Paul Rudd though!! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:19 PM
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Pocket pussies and fleshlights cost more than a soda date though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:17 AM
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These dudes eventually learn to self diagnose themselves and label other people as crazy/unhealthy... but really doing the heavy lifting and getting professional help or holding themselves accountable for starting better habits? ZERO!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:39 PM
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Yes sister, that is the fucking truth! I live in a town with a lot of Tech companies and it blows my mind how they struggle to spend 20$ on you. I noticed dudes also want to get you drunk not only to test physical boundaries, but so they can create false intimacy with more candid conversation that they didn’t really earn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:33 PM
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This might be controversial for FDS, but if one scrote from my past came back with evidence that they had done any therapy or significant self-work I would consider opening communication again. But they never do! And I’ve never waited for it and I am a better woman today for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:55 PM
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NO WAY... omg I’m done. DONE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:06 PM
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These guys want the girl to believe she’s going to unlock a world full of sushi dinners and martinis But no HV HUMAN legit wastes their time getting soda and coffee dates, coffee meetups and lunch are used for real networking and business connections ...not dating first impressions. Like bruh... it’s the middle of the day and you use your free time struggling to buy chips for girls you met on tinder? Straight clownery is what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:05 PM
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This post is really good and I feel should be sidebar material PSA: There’s No “Dream Woman” Out There Who Will Magically Make Your Trifling Man Act Right https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/e9pjed/psa_theres_no_dream_woman_out_there_who_will/ I also wrote an extensive commentary on the dream girl fallacy titled “ they did this to themselves”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:23 PM
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I swear FDS is the only place the Beyhive can not touch. I felt like I was going crazy for years with why I couldn’t stand her vacant personality combined with celebrating being cheated on as a source of female empowerment... like .the .fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:15 PM
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What’s wild about Dallas LVM is that a lot of them come from conservative boomer-based suburbia. They know what being provided for looks like because they were raised by parents that followed traditional gender roles, it’s just that they choose to be manchildren into their 30s instead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:31 AM
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I used to hold back on vocalizing negativity about future relationships an ex-LVM gets into, because I was afraid of sounding “bitter” or “jealous” of the other girls But if you know he struggled to do the bare minimum while hoping for a 50/50, and if you can look back and learn from your own pickme mistakes, it’s like an intuitive feeling that you know this guy isn’t capable of giving any woman the happiness she deserves. A lot men are just trying to drag someone down with them the older they g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:09 PM
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Derick Jaxn’s advice of letting them have the last word is fucking powerful. Do not even send that “k”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 02:33 AM
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Ha! Happened to me too! Like.bruh...why would I take time out of my schedule to pursue being like, 9th place 🤨 ZERO self awareness!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 08:12 PM
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One of the most fascinating things I’ve seen is a circle of bro friends all throw each other under the bus with this logic, when they’re all clearly doing the same LV clownery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 08:07 PM
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I think they get caught up before the post-nut clarity hits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 11:22 PM
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I called out my ex when he offered to “help” me with a living situation. Turns out he was only okay with me moving into his house if I slept in his room with him ( I offered to pay rent and storage for my own space and he wasn’t okay with it) and played house. When I told him to go get a mail-order bride he got PISSED! He was legit offended and couldn’t fathom sinking so low 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:53 PM
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Same😅 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 05:56 AM
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a “DeprEsSeD” guy who can somehow stealthily orchestrate an entire move across state lines with no support system 🙄 Edit: well his wife and mommy are technically the support systems here, but my point is his actions aren’t really reading as depression. Dudes like this want the self diagnosis for pity, but are actually terrified of going to a real doctor and getting diagnosed with Bipolar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:03 PM
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Her family is trash. This path only had one ending for this mother and daughter, and when it stops being convenient to deny it that’s when the gaslighting comes out. Absolutely sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:14 PM
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Seriously!!! And that’s what I thought too.... what post about gay men? 🤔😑🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:16 PM
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Uuugghh is he one of those gay guys that insists on chasing and falling for straight boys? This is so pickme to watch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:47 PM
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Isn’t it fun growing up as the canary in the coal mine? Not looking forward to the wave of drama when the shit finally hits, but the extended fam that emotionally floated her nonsense can take care of her, not me 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:20 PM
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I agree, but you really have to get a good read on the person before disclosing that you’re Trans. Depending on the country/city OP is in, or what their careers are like it’s an issue of safety. But 10 dates is waaay beyond excessive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:52 PM
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I see a version of this playing out with my mom or sister. (Without the incestuous community dick of course) Ladies this is a cautionary tale of what happens when you make it known you will sacrifice people who love you for a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:02 PM
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Being a twin flame is pretty much admitting you’re a spinning plate for life and the rest of eternity into the afterlife and it’s reincarnations.....like lmao holy shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:10 PM
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Short answer? Yes. Detailed answer, they only keep tabs to see if you got fat/ugly/let yourself go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:52 PM
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I agree actually. Should of had more stealth and started setting up the foundations for her single life after that point...now she has a tabloid news article about her that wrecks future prospects
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:32 PM
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I noticed this too. Two things: They’re terrified of rejection, or terrified we’ll totally become stage-5 clingers and lock them down 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:54 AM
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Well said! Had a dude txt me from his iCloud once he suspected he was blocked lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:47 AM
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Tried it for 5 years, found out the hard way that fwb and keeping if casual is a lie being sold by 3rd wave feminism and pop culture. Men will always sabotage something they feel they can’t completely possess, even if they never wanted it in the first place. So, been there done that. I’m good with starting the decade this dry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:32 AM
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Ain’t that the fucking truth? Also let’s be real, the tragedy of cOmMuNicATIng is really just sending paragraphs and being pen pals over text. It’s emotional labor that only exposes how you expect to be played or ghosted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:24 PM
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I think there is a difference between being a HVW with some pick me tendencies and being LVW. Yes, great way to put it. I don’t agree that being inexperienced or naive should be a qualifier for LVW. When it evolves into ignorance and delusion is when a true pickme is born
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:33 AM
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A sense of humor is my weakness, I’ll be laughing and crack at everything. It’s definitely put me in the cool girl category a LOT 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:24 AM
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Honestly, younger me could’ve made similar decisions if I was sprung for a long distance guy, but I’ve always been so picky about my shopping, and “me” time when I’m in travel-mode that I fortunately dodged a chasing scenario.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:19 PM
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Fascinating. I have girlfriends who are lovely and have HV hearts, and we are super close because of how much we have traveled. But I have seen them do this kind of behavior because it fits a very romantic image of being a “free spirit” or “adventurous”. No idea how to tell them yikes without sounding like a bitter single bitch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 10:42 PM
13

Yep, I am Hispanic and I couldn’t help that this was my first thought. Machismo after Marriage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:56 PM
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👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 💯💯💯 Sticky sticky sticky! Sidebar sidebar sidebar!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:39 PM
5

Be careful if she’s in his excuses in the first weeks of getting to know each other, fat red flag. What is any girl supposed to do in that situation except dispense emotional labor? Noticed a guy almost seem too comfortable with how often he brought up his sick mom while he was out in bars every other night
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:25 PM
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lmao I’m doooone 🤣🤣💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:41 PM
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The real gag is If you go to the sex worker subreddits you’ll see them all complaining about how slow business is..It’s clear men still are out there looking for someone to slob their hog but they’d rather walk up to random women and degrade them into a sexual act and breaking the law, rather than just pay people who offer what they’re looking for .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:55 AM
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Yes 💯 absolutely. This girl was practically 3D printed just for him, and checked off every box. My ego was bruised by it even though logically I knew I didn’t want him. When those wyd txt messages came through it was a serious galaxy brain moment 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:17 AM
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This has happened to me after my LTR ended. It is vile and really fucks with your way of speaking to 50% of the entire population forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 11:48 PM
12

The sperm donor legit expected me to reach out to him while he was dating someone else to see how he was doing after the abortion he pushed for. unreal. I think all they eventually understand is “uh oh I looked bad” so talking about it is their damage control for sympathy and/or praise. No HVM or HVW would say more than a few words about it before moving on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 10:03 PM
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I feel like porn on its own stayed in its lane for decades, but when phone text messaging and instant messaging through social media started changing how people communicate it SERIOUSLY desensitized men’s brains in terms of how to process instant gratification and arousal. By the time tinder and dating apps dropped it was the final straw that put all women on the level of just being potential porn. A pornsick cavemoid who @s his favorite pornstars on twitter should NOT look or sound similar to a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 09:46 PM
12

I just said cool, guess I'll abort. He didn't want the pregnancy at all. I was unsure, but he changed my mind. He wasn't supportive, understanding, or caring at all. I'm pretty sure the abortion that he wanted and pushed for supposedly scarred him for life. Yeah.... I could’ve wrote this word for word. Im sorry and I’m am happy to be here with you on the flip side ❤️ 🤗 If a guy talks about a past pregnancy for more than 20 seconds with anyone who isn’t a fertility doctor or his wife I would say …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 08:21 PM
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That he’s admitting they chose to do the plates instead of the harem rotation is proof that FDS works lol If all they wanted a carousel of hassle free sex, then why deviate from the established “harem rotation” strategies? If they’re being tested for relationships material each time now is because they are choosing to step up and present relationship material (even if it’s a short-term hollow act). True FDS woman still wins if she adheres to the principle, and if he isn’t getting pursued the way…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:52 PM
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Did he by any chance try to blame his horrific debased behavior on how he had “trouble coping” with it? Or like you guys were friends and nothing ever happened? I always had understanding and field experience with men being players, so staying emotionally unavailable was ok by me. But the abortion experience is what really opened my eyes to FDS and the absolute depravity I need to protect myself from. I could not imagine falling for a guy and then finding out they’re still hung up on a sexual tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:35 PM
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I got an abortion after a drunk hookup with someone who I thought I knew as a male friend. He showed his LV colors, and was very similar to how this dude prioritized his social life. It was a shitshow I’m pretty sure I havd ptsd from. Fast forward 3 months, the guy actually finds a gorgeous, educated, independent dreamgirl you can bring home to meet the parents. They start dating. Naturally you’d think that he understands how lucky he is to have found and secured the prize after the close call h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 06:38 PM
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What happens when the “upgraded” sidechick meets the new sidechick and they both stay calm? What happens then? 🤔🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 03:52 PM
2

Preeeeeach! The last five years I have been horrified at how fast these relatively good looking and employable BUMS want to move in together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 04:50 PM
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I am one of those entrepreneurial women he’s hoping for. It’s a very lonely and frustrating path especially if you’ve had this way of thinking since you were a kid. Society will never entertain you or understand why you want to run your own career this way. Finding like minded people is a relief and a godsend sometimes, but you have to vet them harder. Entrepreneur is a word a lot of men like to use, but really all they’re doing is throwing turds at the wall every 6 months and seeing what sticks…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 04:17 PM
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This post is required reading for any FDSer who wants children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 03:14 PM
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Yep, what’s really even more fucked and scary is even if the confident girl isn’t fundamentally a pickme going in, the guy will treat her like one and in turn she’ll get conditioned into acting like pickmeisha without even realizing it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 06:33 PM
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Jesus Christ... she’s young,educated, on track to have independent wealth, and already supporting a dustlike family. this guy sounds very satisfied with himself for avoiding the provider role, or at least securing something she can count on if he’s already reading her future and approving of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 04:54 PM
22

How much you wanna bet he doesn’t get the haircut she intended it for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 01:59 AM
55

You nailed it 💯 I’m emotionally unavailable to focus on career and unpack family trauma, been like this for 4 years. I’m completely engrossed in the level up and sex is very low priority for me. I’ve seen some true Fuckboy material come out though, since they think we want commitment at all times it makes them ready to try us for free emotional labor. They can’t comprehend when we don’t get deeper or pursue them and it drives them mental.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 01:40 AM
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This one hit close! I hooked up with a guy who was single even though he was living with his ex. I slowly figured it out he was definitely invested in making it work with her, he was just enjoying the technicality of the single “label” Their living situation ends, and a few months later later he’s already dating a seemingly HVW, traveling cross state with her, got a job working at the same company, and even got a dog together I think within 5 months of dating. He sat straight up and came correct…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:34 PM
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lmaaooooo sis this took me OUT 🤣🤣💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 09:56 AM
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