SoIncrediblyUnsure Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
213	Don't spend too much time on this sub. It can be counter productive.	SoIncrediblyUnsure	/r/seduction	13/08/17 05:44 PM
184	How did you get better at small talk?	SoIncrediblyUnsure	/r/seduction	28/08/17 04:00 PM
7	Are you practicing the no asshole policy?	SoIncrediblyUnsure	/r/seduction	18/08/17 02:59 AM
1	Need advice on how to handle a girl pulling away because she likes me too much.	SoIncrediblyUnsure	/r/seduction	27/10/17 05:28 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	She’s excited to hang out again when we meet, but when I text her to meetup she doesn’t reply Some people are rude and others are not. Some people respect your time and others do not. This is the fact of life. So given this, is it worth while to get frustrated when someone is rude and djsrespectful? No, that is not good energy you want to emmit. It is unattractive and needy. It.is victimized attitude to expect your envirnoment to change. So if you dont like it, move along.	/r/seduction	25/01/18 02:57 PM
–	When to let her go and accept she has flaked on me? You need to be out dating other women. You should be dating 3 women at any given time, that way you wont care when one flakes on you. And the irony is these girls will SMELL it and they will want you for it. Right ow you REAK of neediness, hell even I can smell it. If a girl says "Im gonna be busy the next few days" the ONLY thing you should say is "Cool, no problem. Message me if you ever want to get together :)" And DONE. Nothing more. This will rinf around in her head... why is he okay with m…	/r/seduction	25/01/18 08:19 AM
15	How do I ask her to have sex? Guys who do these sorts of things do so because they are scared to flirt. It is an incresible turn off to women as it demonstrates anxiety and weakness. Irony is that she wont want to have sex with you. Maybe you dont know how to flirt, but do you want to go through life forever not knowing? The only way to avoid that is trial and error. So go out there and start somewhere. Youll be terrible at first, but that is how you learn, cowboy.	/r/seduction	25/01/18 08:14 AM
1	You are sent $86,400 into your bank and someone steals $10, would you be so upset that you would throw away the remaining $86,390? Of course not. There are 86,400 seconds in one day, and yet when someone robs you of 10 secs with their negativity you sacrifice the remaining 86,390 on them. Im not chaning it, it is jusg based on relativitey. I mean it is no secret that the fact of reality is that humans have evolved to be attracted to the young, attractive and healthy. The more we deviate from that, the less points we have on the dating market. That is just the cold reality of life that we have to deal with. So we have to gauge and set our expectations accordingly if we want a shot at happiness. The point is to put yourself in positions that make you happy and be hopful you come ac…	/r/seduction	25/01/18 08:08 AM
7	She’s excited to hang out again when we meet, but when I text her to meetup she doesn’t reply She is out dating other guys. She probably enjoys you a lot, but she does all her other activites and dates as well. So go out and do the same thing.	/r/seduction	25/01/18 08:05 AM
15	She’s excited to hang out again when we meet, but when I text her to meetup she doesn’t reply Guys are offen confused by this, but Ill give you the reason and please spread the word. She is having a great time with you and she probably truly does enjoy you. But she out with other guys and other friends having a great time as well. So she is flakey and she has a million things going on. So what is the answer? The only answer is to do the same thing. You shouldnt be just sitting dating one girl, you should be dating MANY girls. That way, this sort of thing wont phase you.	/r/seduction	25/01/18 08:04 AM
1	You are sent $86,400 into your bank and someone steals $10, would you be so upset that you would throw away the remaining $86,390? Of course not. There are 86,400 seconds in one day, and yet when someone robs you of 10 secs with their negativity you sacrifice the remaining 86,390 on them. Thanks for sharing that with me. Id be careful to label these as excuses. How you speak to yourself really matters. These are not excuses these are REAL hurdles than most of society does not face. Insgead I recommend you say "challenges I need practice facing." It is easy for healthy minded individuals trivialize your problems because they cannot understand or empathize what if is like to be autistic. I have VERY little knowledge of autism so I cant understand. It is true I have somewhat overcom…	/r/seduction	23/01/18 06:15 AM
1	You are sent $86,400 into your bank and someone steals $10, would you be so upset that you would throw away the remaining $86,390? Of course not. There are 86,400 seconds in one day, and yet when someone robs you of 10 secs with their negativity you sacrifice the remaining 86,390 on them. I can only imagine how difficult it is to live with these hinderances to your life. I can somewhat relate to being disabled. I have psychosis and biplor as well as a chronic dizzy disorder. I have these managed quite well through cognitive therapy, meds, healthy eating and exercise. So Ill answer your question in "what do I do". Start with acceptance. It is crucial to understand we cannot all be top atheletes, CEOs, famous people, etc. Some of us are just meant to fight tougher battles. We wont …	/r/seduction	22/01/18 04:24 PM
2	You are sent $86,400 into your bank and someone steals $10, would you be so upset that you would throw away the remaining $86,390? Of course not. There are 86,400 seconds in one day, and yet when someone robs you of 10 secs with their negativity you sacrifice the remaining 86,390 on them. Thanks for sharing your story. I love hearing stories of people drastically changing and get on apath on strength as opposed to fear	/r/seduction	20/01/18 05:02 PM
2	You are sent $86,400 into your bank and someone steals $10, would you be so upset that you would throw away the remaining $86,390? Of course not. There are 86,400 seconds in one day, and yet when someone robs you of 10 secs with their negativity you sacrifice the remaining 86,390 on them. Humans are hierarchical creatures. There is a mechanism in our brain that runs on seratonin and this mechanism meaures our status and worth in society; this innately builds a hierarchy on society. And as status increases emotions balance. Meaning positive emotions increase and negative emotions decrease. So to constantly tell yourself "im good enough" is a poor attempt to artificially trick your brain into increasing your status and made you feel worthy amd content. However the part that is miss…	/r/seduction	20/01/18 04:59 PM
1	You are sent $86,400 into your bank and someone steals $10, would you be so upset that you would throw away the remaining $86,390? Of course not. There are 86,400 seconds in one day, and yet when someone robs you of 10 secs with their negativity you sacrifice the remaining 86,390 on them. Yes, we eveolved to be productive, not happy and content. Millions of years of evolution geared towards problem solving is still hardwired into us. So it is about measuring the impact to our emotions. So the money example is a false analogy because losing 10 dollars has no impact emotionally.	/r/seduction	20/01/18 04:49 PM
2	Need advice on how to handle a girl pulling away because she likes me too much. Thanks verh much for your response. It is very wise and rings true to me the most through my emotional fog. I need to stick to what I broke up with my ex for and do some soul searching. This girl is distracting and just offering me another hole to fall into that I will again have to climb out of. And like you said, I am just what she has built in her mind. Makes me think she must be a bit crazy to buy into her image of me so intensely. I am gonna print this out and stick it to my wall and follow…	/r/seduction	27/10/17 06:55 PM
1	How did you get better at small talk? Thanks very much for sharing. That guy sounds amazing and the exact type of person I'd love to be. Not because of what he gets in social status from being that way. But because how he must feel inside. I feel like someone who is all about that level of positive charisma must feel pretty excellent inside. I feel pretty miserable ALL the time. I am a good loving person at the core, but I tend to judge people pretty fast and ironically a little misanthropic. I feel like it is because I feel miserab…	/r/seduction	04/10/17 04:57 PM
1	How did you get better at small talk? I haven't logged into this account for a while and just noticed this comment on my post. It makes a lot of sense and really opened my eyes. I didn't see it as an insult but valuable critique in how I need to observe my attitude. I think my main problem is energy levels in a conversation. I think the reason I get 'bored' is because i'm really tired all the time. That is because I suffer from insomnia and I also have a condition that makes me feel chronically dizzy. So I use bursts of energy to be…	/r/seduction	04/10/17 04:52 PM
-4	How did you get better at small talk? It really is terrible. Text game is AWFUL; it is painful. I'm pretty scared of the approach. Only because when I do it, the conversations actually do go bad. I don't mind failing and I'm not scared of rejection. Rejection makes for pretty funny stories. It's just that I pretty much KNOW it isn't going to go well. I know practice makes perfect, maybe I just need more practice than most.	/r/seduction	28/08/17 05:52 PM
-22	How did you get better at small talk? That's pretty much what I've been going. I play with them in a way that they don't even know they are being played with. It's amusing for me, it typically doesn't lead to any sort of rapport, but I guess I don't really want rapport with someone that doesn't have the mental acuity to know they are being played with.	/r/seduction	28/08/17 05:24 PM
0	How did you get better at small talk? hmmmmm never thought of an idea like that. I guess I could do more online dating. That is pretty much fueled solely by small talk. Which I guess is why I avoid it. It's so painful.	/r/seduction	28/08/17 05:23 PM
-2	How did you get better at small talk? heheh just bore them into a slumber. Good idea.	/r/seduction	28/08/17 05:21 PM
9	What's a crucial part of your game? The great irony of this sub is that once you reach a certain level, you realize it's ALL a crock of shit. What works the best? Not thinking about it. It's the over analytical which engineer type nerd who is the worst with woman. You don't see some smooth little Brazilian practicing all these things like puffing out their chest, etc. Some girls will look at you and whisper "Over compensating. He has imaginary lateral syndrome." The single best thing you can do, is just approach girls over and ove…	/r/seduction	18/08/17 03:11 AM
4	Opinion: Flirting with alcohol is not easier, especially if you dont like the way it makes people be. I dunno, haha I've drank for ALL those reasons and the alcohol really did deliver. Nice little poem though. Maybe it applies more for people who are already dead inside and feel alcohol is the answer?	/r/seduction	18/08/17 03:07 AM
17	Is it wrong to practice game while in a relationship? That is for you and your girlfriend to figure out. It's about healthy boundaries. If you are out to spice on chicks you should be an honorable person and just be single. Respect your partner. However, that doesn't mean you should stop meeting people. 'Game' doesn't have to be about picking up chicks, it can be about being a good person. This can actually IMPROVE your game. So think about what you can do and give to people. What to make friends with girls? What's wrong with that? Your 'game' shou…	/r/seduction	18/08/17 03:02 AM
1	Don't spend too much time on this sub. It can be counter productive. No, it's a reminder and a recommendation. You're better off just getting out there and talking to people, straight up. Reddit attracts analytical minds that think they can solve problems - but it's an illusion. All this advice and self-help stuff, you only need a SMALL dose of it, then you should just stop.	/r/seduction	14/08/17 11:00 PM
1	Don't spend too much time on this sub. It can be counter productive. Ya, it will make you double guess everything you do. Like trying to follow a script. Honestly, it's best just to talk to people, over and over. And do thinkgs you're scared of like public speaking and improv.	/r/seduction	14/08/17 10:57 PM
1	Don't spend too much time on this sub. It can be counter productive. Yes, I didn't say to just stop coming to the subreddit. I said you are much better off just going out and implementing a few things you've learned. Sometimes you might not even have to come back. It's like working out. People sit and read soooo much about working out, when really, you should just go to the gym and throw some weights around. Just do somethign.	/r/seduction	14/08/17 04:00 AM
8	Don't spend too much time on this sub. It can be counter productive. Yes, exactly. Because you might learn 5 books worth of information JUST by implementing them. And experience is so much more valuable than information in this regard.	/r/seduction	13/08/17 09:22 PM
5	Don't spend too much time on this sub. It can be counter productive. That's great. If you are here to help others and offer advice, definitely. I came to this realization when I found myself taking notes and researching and I look at my log and I can't remember half of what I wrote. I need to take 3 core ideas and implement.	/r/seduction	13/08/17 08:57 PM
3	Don't spend too much time on this sub. It can be counter productive. Your claim doesn't provide any evidence. You're stating your opinion as fact and then backing it up with another claim/accusation that is based on your belief. "Your post is counter productive" okay, how? Then you solidify it with your believe "False sense of security is your doing." Is that necessarily true? Your quote is missing the point of what I'm saying. The book very well may be correct "don't blame the book.. blame your perspective and interpretation."; however reading about driving, rea…	/r/seduction	13/08/17 08:54 PM