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Solid_Exercise6697/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 12:53 AM
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Solid_Exercise6697/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 04:30 AM
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It sucks being the loyal ride or die type and finding women are just in it for themselves. I went to therapy, I quit drinking/weed, I found better employment, I took more responsibilities, I lost weight l, exercise and eat healthy. What did she do? Nothing. Why did she want a divorce? She wasn’t happy. Well no fucking shit you aren’t happy, you do nothing to make yourself happy and blame me for your unhappiness, but it’s still my fault the marriage failed…stop comparing our marriage to reality T…
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 02:00 AM
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I understand your desire to help her, going through it myself. But everytime I try to help, she uses it to hurt me and in turn herself. The best thing I can do for my kids now is to let her figure this out on her own. She always bitched about how much she hated our house built in 2007, well I’m keeping the house and she can’t afford one. Learning a hard lesson about renting and the cost of life.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 01:54 AM
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My guys friends all live around an hour away now, with wives, kids and jobs. We hang out once a month at best.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 01:52 PM
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Be happy with my kids and someone who loves me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 12:27 AM
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I’m glad that works for you, but I don’t want that life.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 12:16 AM
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Thanks! That’s inspiring. Glad you found happiness
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 11:31 PM
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Lmao, I’m glad someone enjoyed my efforts! My tennis elbow has healed now and I’m sure my next partner will appreciate all the skills and techniques I’ve mastered over the years. Like going from Pro Golfer to dominating local charity events.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 02:36 PM
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That’s awesome, I have a Plex server filled with media. I’m also a great cook, it’s something my ex and I used to do together. Everyday I feel I get a little better at taking care of the house and kids alone.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 12:17 PM
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That’s scary women can be like that. Just flip a switch and suddenly you are nothing more than a pawn to sacrifice for their own happiness. that outside influence of their moms is a real bitch. I know the exact moment and weekend my wife decided to divorce. All it took was spending 2-3 weekends with her mom 3rd husband mom and it’s like a switch flipped. I had thought things were getting better, she wanted to go stay at her mom’s camper on the lake for the weekend, she left happy, hugged and kis…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 02:33 AM
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Yeah one of the reasons I’ve never approached them is because I like my gym and don’t want it to be drama. Do you think just talking to them as friends would be fine? Or should I just leave it be and do my own thing and let them do their own thing?
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 01:22 AM
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I feel this. We are currently cohabiting, she has a room in the basement. She stays with her mom probably 25% of the time, or work or wherever. I’m not allowed to ask where she is going anymore, not that I actually care but the kids do. The problem we have is we can’t afford to live apart right now. We both make good money, combined I think our best year was 190k. But this economy, interest rates and everything else is insane. I’m going to buy her out of the house, but my mortgage payment is goi…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 01:20 AM
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lol, not a bad idea.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 01:12 AM
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My wife was the worst about doing anything for myself or even the family. Now she’s the one having no problems dumping them off at her parents on her weekend to party. I did 2 major home projects that were a must. I replaced our deck because it was rotten and I finished our basement because we needed the space. Everyday I worked on the projects was a fight about me not spending time with the kids. Like what am I supposed to do? Our son needs a bedroom and we need an office. Then don’t get me sta…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 01:11 AM
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Thanks, a lot of this hits home. I knew I had problems, but I was acknowledging them at working on them. Prior to us calling it quits, I had spent over a year sober, left my stressful job, spent more time with kids, did more around the house than I already did. I went to therapy and was diagnosed ADHD, got medicated which helps a ton with my anxiety and depression. I was doing everything I could, but she couldn’t be bothered to stop drinking nightly and abusing Ambien or do anything to improve h…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 01:03 AM
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I used to play golf. I need clubs again but that’s been on my list of things to get back into.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 10:05 PM
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That’s great, a lot of these things sound fun. Maybe just need to put myself out there more and be more outgoing. I feel the cloths thing, my entire wardrobe at this point in time is just “dad cloths”.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 03:40 PM
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Yeah starting to see the pros of using a dating app, even if just as entertainment and to get out of the house and do something. Fortunately I just started a new job in December and the 401k is insane.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 01:54 PM
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It helps.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 01:40 PM
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Yeah I also consider this. I know I don’t want more kids and likely don’t want other peoples kids.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 01:37 PM
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I’ve had a motorcycle for years, but once we had kids my wife refused to ride with me and also made it difficult for me to ride. In 2021 I bought a brand new bike, still has less than 5k miles on it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 01:35 PM
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I figured as much about 30 year olds. I have no desire to get married again, feel like that shit is a scam now or at least women don’t feel the same way about marriage as I do. Either way, don’t think I’ll go down that road again. So i doubt many 30 year olds would want to date anyway. Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 01:31 PM
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It’s funny because with the wife and kids house chores were endless and it never felt like I had enough time get what I needed done. Now I’m doing odd shit like washing walls to keep busy. I think everything is too new for me to want a relationship, I just feel so emotionally drained. Worried it’s going to add even more drama and bs to my life. Thanks for the perspective.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 01:25 PM
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I haven’t but maybe I will now
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 01:02 PM
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Build up those walls. People always talk about the importance of taking down their emotional walls, but rarely do people talk about the positives of emotional walls. We build walls to protect ourselves, our emotions and our mental well being. A lot of people think you build walls subconsciously but you can definitely build them consciously. The most effective method for me to build walls to get past this very difficult point in my life is to talk to myself about it and out loud. “She doesn’t lov…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 01:13 AM
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Do you even pick things up and put them down?!
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 01:05 AM
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This is going to be my first Christmas alone in 14 years and without my kids. Steak and old fashions sounds like a great plan.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 02:16 AM
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Twice divorced and on your third marriage…maybe keep that advice for yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 02:08 AM
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What is a happily married man doing on a divorce subreddit for men then…?
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 10:21 PM
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Hey man I can relate. Starting divorce process after 8 years married, 13 together with 2 young kids. Like you I did a ton to change and improve myself, while she did nothing and blames me. We both had drug and alcohol use problems, we used them to self medicate and just cope with life. 2 years ago I started getting sober to be a better husband and father, been sober almost 18 months now. She never stopped drinking or abusing ambien. During that time I started therapy, was diagnosed ADHD and turn…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 03:00 AM
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People who get married twice are a lost cause. There is zero chance anyone could convince me that marriage is a smart move.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 01:16 AM
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Say as little as possible to get the point across and then change the subject.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 01:12 AM
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Man that sounds horrible. You are definitely make the right decision.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 01:11 AM
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Thanks. Honestly at 39 I’m now the strongest I’ve ever been. I started going to gym just to burn off the pain once the divorce came out. It was a great way to get out of the house and just tire myself out to sleep. But now I’ve started going full into it because I like the results and so do other women. My goal is to come out of this divorce the best version of me possible.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 03:21 AM
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Well the only thing she could get is more child support and that’s a law, so I don’t think I could get that included. I’m in a no fault state and alimony/spousal support she does not qualify for.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 07:20 PM
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That’s insane. This whole process of divorce has really opened my eyes about how shitty most women are, even the ones that you think are/were your best friend. I don’t think they ever really love you, just what you can give them. My stbxw always claimed her love language was “gifts”. Like GTFO that’s not love. Eve after she had already made up her mind to divorce me she was constantly pestering me about upgrading her wedding ring…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 06:11 PM
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Strike price is not really options. Basically when a company offers stock to employee at strike price it’s heavily discounted. Say the stock is valued at 1.00 a share, an employee with a stock options plan can buy say 10,000 shares at a strike price of $.10 a share. Then they can immediately turn around a sell those 10,000 shares back to the company or on a secondary market for $1.00 a share. Basically the stock is part of their compensation and the act of purchasing it is merely a formality.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 03:33 PM
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MI resident here who had a disabled grandfather run into a similar situation. Now I am not a lawyer, but a judge won’t be heartless to a disabled person. My grandfather was paralyzed from the arms down and had to give his pension and government subsidies to his ex wife for years who continued to work and lived way better than him. Eventually he couldn’t afford it anymore as his own medical costs were increasing. His lawyer told him to continue paying just pay less. Document your finances, show w…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 03:26 PM
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I’d wait until your finances are in order. Hawaii is a very expensive state to live in. You’re never going to get ahead living there and will never be able to afford to live, let alone get custody and provide for your kids. Especially as a car salesman. Your wife won and she’s taking your family, you are beaten, don’t submit to her will. She will control you forever as a this sad puppy she throws scraps to in the form of visitation. You will be kept poor. You need to plan for the future. You nee…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 03:06 PM
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I love this! It’s insane that all that is legal. It makes no sense that after you have both filled for divorce that they can still make claim on new assets. I feel like once the process has started, that’s the date and which assets are divisible. Any new assets or debts are not.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 02:55 PM
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That’s insane that she expects you to work two jobs to pay her more money. The entitlement is just crazy. My ex MIL had a messy first divorce and part of the agreement was some amount of my ex FIL pension when he retired. About a year ago he retired and started pulling from his pension and ex MIL and Wife were upset about how little MIL was ending up with. Ex MIL despite being on her third marriage and working full time making close to 6 figures was expecting some windfall in monthly income, I d…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 01:00 PM
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Nice! I don’t understand how they can be so two faced, even at that it’s just money. Like in value a family and stable life so much more. I know what my stbxw is going to do after the divorce. Instead of taking the 6 figure lump sum she will get out of the house and putting a down payment on her own, she is going to blow through the money with vacations and travel. That’s what her mom did after her divorce and 20+ years later still doesn’t own a home. I feel bad for my kids and there’s nothing I…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 12:51 PM
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Oh I know, it’s just the joy of her hurting even more when we are finalized.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 04:30 AM
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I quit drinking over a year ago to try and improve our marriage. Stop using marijuana when I lost my job and recently got off antidepressants. I see more clearly now then I have ever.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 04:22 AM
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The thing is, I will most definitely earn more than her in the next couple of years. After she found out how little money she would get in the divorce she definitely tried to snake her way back in. Tried all the tricks, flirting, offering sex, even tried being an even bigger bitch. I think now she’s doing the “maybe he will miss me if I leave the house as much as I can”. She’s constantly staying at her mom’s, but when she is home she’s extra nice to me, sings and hums like life is a Disney story…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 02:57 AM
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My current contract has a clause that says after I earn a certain level of certification I get an instant significant raise
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 02:45 AM
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I’d much rather have that, nothing more infuriating then trying to help your sick and throwing up 3 year old while her incoherent mother wonders around asking her why she’s crying completely oblivious to the vomit all over the place…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 12:55 AM
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Make her suffer and drag herself over the coals for you, if she isn’t willing to, she isn’t being truthful. She broke the marriage, it’s in her to fix it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 12:17 AM
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Fuck I feel this. I’m almost 40, a good looking guy as I’ve been told often and got in the best shape of my life recently due to divorce. I literally have zero interest in sex or women. I feel like I could easily get so many women by the amount I catch checking me out, but I just don’t care. Their pussy isn’t worth going through this shit again and I have zero trust in them emotionally. Maybe one day I’ll go back into the dating pool, but I’ll never get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 12:14 AM
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My stbxw refuses to accept any sort of responsibility for our failed marriage despite literally drinks 2-4 glasses of wine every night along with 1x-2x the max prescribed dosage of ambien…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 12:10 AM
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