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Don’t get caught up in the illusion of action - ie texting her because you think she’ll flake. Mystery is by far the strongest tool in your arsenal at any stage and especially at the start as you’ll stand out from 99% of the other men who would text her.
/r/askTRP05/05/21 03:29 PM
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Tell me more
/r/askTRP05/05/21 02:19 PM
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Nps. Well thats what i’m asking - is it insecure? Of course she’ll be eyeing other men. Its what they do. Its what we do. I can’t do dick all about that aspect. As others have said the answer is really to be focused on my priorities .. above her.. and decide if its something i want or go off and do better elsewhere.
/r/askTRP05/05/21 12:57 PM
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Care to elaborate?
/r/askTRP05/05/21 12:34 PM
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I haven’t mentioned it as so far its only talk but your suggestion is something i’ve considered. If i raise it then it will be more along the lines of stating what i’m looking for and not dictating to her what she can or cant do. An example recently was she mentioned a female single friend who she said would want to go out. I told her that its not something id expect of a girlfriend to be out as a wingwoman for her single friend. She said it wasn’t like that although i said if the roles were rev…
/r/askTRP05/05/21 11:15 AM
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Very true, i’m aware it could end today, tomorrow or in 5 years. You’re right though i need to be worried about my priorities - not hers.
/r/askTRP05/05/21 11:08 AM
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I know we all have it in us to cheat and what bothers me me most is shes putting herself into these social situations to peacock and entertain validation.
/r/askTRP05/05/21 11:07 AM
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A girl should police herself. Its not your job to tell an adult right from wrong. She knows this. If the boundaries are set you can walk away with dignity that you stood firm. Harder than it sounds admittedly.
/r/askTRP05/05/21 09:08 AM
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Thsts what i’m thinking.. i’m going to let it go.. not worth any mental energy
/r/askTRP01/05/21 08:19 PM
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No. Do it by yourself and let her help.. makes it easier for all concerned and she’ll like the fact that you’re driving it.
/r/askTRP01/05/21 08:00 PM
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Can you elaborate more - not sure what u mean.
/r/askTRP01/05/21 07:30 PM
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I think i’m being insecure as she has her breaks this week with a bunch of guys and her the only female.. and my mate guarding spidey sense is making me think ‘she wants to go to work’ as shes enjoying their attention during the break.. again this is all projection but i think thats the root of it.
/r/askTRP01/05/21 05:49 PM
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Nothing negative. She bought me a lot of gifts recently though. Clothes and food.. nothing fancy or expensive and has been communicating (texting) a bit more when not together. I’ve been a bit more dominant with her physically when with her and when not with her i’ve been a bit less responsive and disinterested. An example is i told her when shes coming over to just come later instead. She replied with ‘so much for you can’t wait to see me’ which was paraphrasing my ‘looking forward to seeing yo…
/r/askTRP01/05/21 05:46 PM
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Slim.. i know i’ve been there.. but also they’re just women so its about getting them at the right time.
/r/askTRP01/05/21 04:45 PM
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I’m assuming you’re referring explicitly to mystery here. It gets harder to be mysterious when you’re in a relationship, no doubt about it. Try to do things rather than tell. When you catch up with her drop a line in about how great a bar was or that you were talking to (man or woman) and they were telling you (something interesting). You’ll start to build a reputation for having a life away from her and she’ll want to break into that and be part of it. If she never knows where you are or who yo…
/r/askTRP28/04/21 10:42 PM
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Truth! If you’re around long enough you’ll have experienced getting burnt by a woman. Its almost a right if passage and largely inevitable especially if you’re unaware of TRP. I’m sure a lot of us are here learning after fcking ourselves over without understanding why.
/r/askTRP28/04/21 09:35 PM
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Leave on read.. the rules for texting are thus. 70/30 initiation to her.. you can’t always win this but make sure shes always initiating more than you. Wait it out Keep it short End interaction first Be playful Leave on read at end of night.. await the double text. Also leave on read if she shit tests and u can’t outsmart her. If u want some light dread : -airplane mode one night randomly. -appear or remain online after read and she sees -short responses ‘ok’, ‘sure’ and ‘nps’ all work
/r/askTRP28/04/21 09:31 PM
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Appreciate that my friend. You’re right shes dropped jokes about being her hubby and rings etc which i bat off with amused mastery. Shes trying to tie me down..
/r/askTRP28/04/21 09:25 PM
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Shes asked for it mate so its almost not spontaneous.
/r/askTRP28/04/21 09:23 PM
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Its based on some reading from TRM. It seems that complete indifference is the best approach and that any woman in an LTR who makes a habit of a girls night out is worthy of a next. My GF is out for a girls day out and the bars are open 3-4 days at that stage. I’m wondering how to judge this and whether one or two nights a month is fair or too much. If it was every weekend would be a deal breaker for me. Once a month i could live with.
/r/askTRP27/04/21 09:48 PM
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Tell us what she did bro that got u so riled.
/r/askTRP26/04/21 10:14 PM
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Almost everyone gets jealous when invested. To be invested and jealous go hand in hand. Its difficult to have one without the other. I don’t necessarily subscribe to the non attachment mantra that some members so ardently push. The large majority of men will still have emotions - some more than others but unless you are in a small percentage of non emotional beings then getting into an LTR you are likely going to develop some form of attachment. Is it a useful emotion? Once upon a time it was.. …
/r/askTRP26/04/21 10:09 PM
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I should break up with my LTR because i talk to other women in front of her? Absolutely not. Do i think shes overreacting? No. Shes reacting to script in the ways that most people would if they saw their partner flirting. My question was more concerned with whether it appears (on what info ive given) is that i’ve maybe gone a bit too far with my secrecy and attitude.
/r/askTRP26/04/21 06:07 PM
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Wouldnt say its a game per se. I am a flirty individual and she knows or knew she had me locked for a long time. She said it was flirting but really it was just a chat. It was her head that labelled it flirting. Personally i think its good that she thinks and sees that. It falls back to the advice of not letting women think they are your only option. Where i agree with you is that i may have gone overboard and should have let my actions speak louder than words.
/r/askTRP26/04/21 02:53 PM
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Whats your reasoning?
/r/askTRP26/04/21 02:36 PM
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She cant do any better
/r/askTRP26/04/21 01:49 PM
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The only way i can see is if you choose to believe her and haven’t already told her you think shes lying. If you feel you really dont believe its possible that its a misunderstanding and she lied its pointless and you’re just looking for an excuse to ignore the verification of trust you’ve exposed. If you wanted to make a go of it, which it sounds like you do, reiterate, implicitly of this scenario, how you value honesty and leave it at that and see what happens next. If you walked away and expl…
/r/askTRP26/04/21 12:25 PM
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Sounds like a mountain out of a molehill here to me. The fact that its made into such a big deal now means you’ve got to make it very black and white for yourself now or risk your own honour and morales being questioned. At this point its clear that you think she lied. You said you wont tolerate that so its not whether or not she actually did lie its what you believe. Whats the outcome hare? You get her to admit she lied - you have to next She explains herself (which she did) and you dont believ…
/r/askTRP26/04/21 11:41 AM
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Just be direct and keep it short. Don’t be overthinking this. ‘I’ve a few things to take care of on Friday but i’m free from X so come over then.’ Then get off the phone and wait. No need to play any games on this one.
/r/askTRP26/04/21 10:58 AM
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Theres a lot of variables here. Is she going out with single friends? If so either set the boundaries or if you’ve missed the boat simply say ‘my expectation for a girlfriend is that she wouldn’t be out as a wingwoman as i dont think shed appreciate me going out as a wingman with my single friends’... but you can do what you want’... leave it at that. It sets the scene that you’re not telling her what to do. You’re simply setting the terms for a girl to be in your life. If she values you she won…
/r/askTRP26/04/21 10:36 AM
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Trying to compete is the problem. If you are in this mindset you’re already in a weak position as you dont value what you’re offering. Use this one to change your belief and have some fun. Even though she had this cool guy before it doesnt mean you and her can’t have good times. Make a few memories with her that she wont forget and know that you’ve played a part in her life but more importantly you’ve let her cameo in your movie for a while.
/r/askTRP26/04/21 10:23 AM
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The only repercussions i’m worried about are her taking it as an ok to do it too. Then using my flirting to justify hers. She did jump my dick after and i’ve her submitted now to when / how / if i want her. You’re right that i dont have an IDGAF attitude about it internally but to her perception i fake it and brush it off. I think i am stuck between being it and doing it in a premeditated way. The former is what i am aiming for in terms of mentality but to get there i’m going to have to delibera…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 11:18 PM
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I wouldnt be as concerned about the 2 day text thing. If she reached out with something useful and that needed a reply then yes... you should have replied within about 24 hours. Often i’ll go a day or 2 without talking to my LTR and i just wait it out. At 2 years this is to be expected as things settle. Dont give in to the effort thing by making dramatic changes but ask her what she means repeatedly to get to the bottom of it ONLY if she brings it up again. Act as surprised as you are and mainta…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 11:08 PM
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I’m a powerlifter and can tell you that the only important thing in training is consistency. Thats it. Be consistent and eat in a surplus and you will get stronger. You should run a program every 8-12 week based on strength and another on volume. For volume train from 65-80% of you 1rm in the 6-10 range. For strength 70-90 in the 3-6 rep range. Incrementally increasing week by week per block. You can manipulate the weights and the reps. Multiply your working sets by reps and then by weight so yo…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 10:58 PM
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Agree that ? demonstrates uncertainty. Instead you should have waited for her to message and acted as though it wasnt on your mind. You needed to be patient and if she was interested enough shed have sent a text. At that point you just reply like u would to a friend ‘ok see you 5:30’ ... dont ask - tell.. shes the extra in your movie.. Instead you made yourself a cameo in hers. Always out wait and outwit women. If you are doing the chasing she is the one running.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 10:50 PM
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I mean i talk too much about plans and things im going to do for me ... telling her i’m doing x,y,z instead of maintaining mystery and being vague. Also i get drawn into conversations about stupid things with her and end up rambling and saying too much when saying nothing would be the better policy.
/r/askTRP22/04/21 05:19 PM
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Yes... agreed. There are certain circumstances that have contributed. Ive got kids and she dont is a big one along her with her havign an abundant social life. I mean during the week i’ve no clue what shes up to - i dont probe. When she asks me i keep it vague and say i’ve been busy. It doesnt seem to matter though and the reason is she knows shes got me and not afraid of taking the L! I’m trying to flip the script on her but seems withdrawing attention isn’t hitting home. Next week i’m starting…
/r/askTRP22/04/21 02:36 PM
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I’m well built, consider myself attractive. We see each other twice a week. Bedroom is good but working on destroying her more there. I think a lot of my problems stem from talking to much and not showing.
/r/askTRP22/04/21 10:15 AM
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Thats what i’m looking - some practical advice - thanks.
/r/askTRP22/04/21 06:56 AM
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No shes been pretty much like this for the duration but recently shes gotten more submissive than before. She does suggrst and come up with date ideas which i usually agree to. The anal thing of course is new on my suggestion and shes claimed never to have done it before so it thats a nice addition to my life.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 10:30 PM
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Solid reply bro - thanks!
/r/askTRP21/04/21 02:29 PM
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I don’t see why you need to. Your job isnt to fix her. Accept it for what it is.. AWALT is something that applies to insecurity in women imo.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 12:38 PM
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To improve decision making now and in the future.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 12:35 PM
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I dont let it phase me bro. This sub exists to help men out but a lot of people just use it to hate on others. Seems counter productive to me but to each their own.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 12:35 PM
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Ditch the gun pic. A lot of chicks will find it intimidating. Instead let it be something interesting they find out about you after dates.... do it in a STFU way .. dont broadcast it and let them find out about it naturally.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 11:56 AM
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Knowledge
/r/askTRP21/04/21 11:54 AM
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Yes - dont want to overthink it but just interested to hear others opinions
/r/askTRP21/04/21 11:02 AM
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No no it was a genuine display of appreciating his looks. Yes it was said playfully but still. I think in these scenarios i’ll agree and amp but then immediately withdraw too so i can avoid looking butthurt - seems the best of both worlds.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 10:15 AM
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He was ‘her type’ so not a joke but of course said playfully.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 07:03 AM
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Was thinking that. If theres a next time i may just go with the ‘actually i forgot i’ve something to do. See you later’ and just bounce and go silent for a while. What so you think?
/r/askTRP21/04/21 12:06 AM
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Go get your meat. She doesn’t consider it high quality so let her find out for herself that she missed out on it.
/r/askTRP20/04/21 12:06 PM
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Always gonna happen. Just ignore it and do it too. Treat it like a shit test and watch out for shit tests like mentioning how she likes his hat, arms or whatever..
/r/askTRP18/04/21 09:28 AM
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Done it myself and found nothing. I’m also pro snoop but realise that it also means you’re too invested. The best thing you could do is message her saying ‘you’re too invested in this girl - get out of this phone’ and snoop and read your own message. I found shit when in mines- the odd orbiter wishing her a happy birthday etc.. chicks will always have men after them.. be the prize
/r/askTRP16/04/21 01:57 PM
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So how do i back off and treat her like a plate?
/r/askTRP15/04/21 10:53 PM
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Thats the thing. I keep telling myself that theres always going to be some situations like this it comes down to what one is willing to out up with. Add this to the other red flags and i’m now awake to the fact that its FUBARd. Do i want to be in her frame and obsessing over her actions- fuck no and i can’t envisage her changing her ways.. she is just that sort of woman. Add to that her last bf dumped her as she was too outgoing and i should have listened to my gut then instead of chasing the pu…
/r/askTRP15/04/21 10:53 PM
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I dont know if im hamstering or not but at the minute i keep thinking i’m leaving her on something she may do or something that may transpire.. and try to rationalise this by telling myself that its insecure to think like this. I guess it comes to 4 things now and one of them seems the clear option Ver better - failed Dont Ltr - failed Enjoy the ride and know it could go wrong and im potentially wasting time Cut and run now
/r/askTRP15/04/21 05:59 PM
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What do you mean mate?
/r/askTRP15/04/21 05:55 PM
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This is it bro- my LTR has her own place and therefore i can’t and wouldn’t lower myself to policing her. i’ve also had a number if ONS with women who seized the moment when their men aren’t around.
/r/askTRP15/04/21 04:30 PM
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I dont ming going out. I just cant all the time as i have kids and she doesn’t so theres weekends that are free for her but not for me. Like you say there are many alternatives and although i trust her sober self more the intoxicated version seems outspoke and flirty .. i’ve only seen it once or twice but based on past stories i’m predicting future events!
/r/askTRP15/04/21 04:27 PM
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Didnt vet her my man. Only woke up to a lot of this after we’d be together about 10 months
/r/askTRP15/04/21 03:41 PM
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Haha. I actually agree with what you’ve said there. Now she did say stuff along the lines of ‘i imagine that most of the times i go out it will be with you as we haven’t had the opportunity to do that’. However the issue is i have commitments 2 nights a week .. one being a Saturday so shes free to fly solo hare. I’d be willing to tolerate a girls night here and there and she likes to go out with another friend whos in an LTR too. Its the single friend i have a problem with and i can’t see how i …
/r/askTRP15/04/21 03:40 PM
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Totally agree bro. I didn’t vet as wasn’t aware of TRP at the time. Frustrating but my bed isn’t exactly made forever now.
/r/askTRP15/04/21 03:36 PM
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Yes you fucked up a bit here. She clearly has the tingles for him and i know as i’m in a similar situation. Complete indifference: whether you value yourself more than him or not .. fake it if needed Don’t bring it up or try to be clever: you’ve a high probably of messing it up and showing your insecurity.. saying things like ‘you two were chatty’ is basically saying ‘i fear him and i fear losing you’ .. cut that shit out.. if she makes a joke about him agree and amplify. If its casual conversat…
/r/askTRP15/04/21 09:39 AM
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Thanks for the advice - now that lockdown has ended i’m all over it!
/r/askTRP13/04/21 04:16 PM
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I wouldn’t ask after the fact as that may come off as insecure. Asking in a casual conversation way the moment she brings it up isnt insecure - its basic conversation with a woman you’re supposed to be in a trusting relationship with. Next time it happens just say ‘no problem, up to anything interesting?’ and then act as indifferent as you can to it whether shes going skydiving or washing her hair.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 11:09 AM
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Irrelevant tbh but earning more than average is a statistic. Home and car owner a statistic. Lifting (competitively) is definitely not something most men do. I play guitar again which is globally about 1 in 8 people. I believe in the things i do and have. It entitles me to shit but for what i want in life i’m happy to call those a good foundation.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 10:29 AM
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I dont either mate but you do give yourself a head start when you’ve got those things together. Most men don’t!
/r/askTRP13/04/21 10:22 AM
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No, but does treat me well. Buys gifts, always submissive and tries new bedroom shit at my request, cooks and cleans. Talks about future (which i act indifferent about), organises holidays for us. When it comes to time together though shes happy with a day or two a week. To be fair me too as anymore and i think we’d fall into monotony with lockdown and whatnot.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 10:20 AM
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Definitely dont claim to be an alpha mate. Thats a mentality that i’m working on that doesn’t come overnight. I’m pointing out there that my foundation is there to build on. I do agree that the mystery element isnt there but not sure what more i can do immediately to create that other that being unavailable.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 10:11 AM
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Agreed.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 09:18 AM
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18 months mate.. recovering oneitis patient too. I have to remind myself constantly that i’m not hers, its just her turn and the only way i chastise her is telling her that shes free to do what she wants but i wouldn’t be in a relationship with somebody who does ‘insert whatever i don’t approve of’. It keeps her in check. Recently she mentioned that she was punching above her weight with me.. not massively. It cane after a period of a month or two of starting to get my shite together. The most i…
/r/askTRP11/04/21 10:43 PM
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Educate yourself on loving yourself. Read books that are listed on the sidebar. Practice what they advise.
/r/askTRP11/04/21 09:48 PM
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RP is a hard pill to swallow so being in an LTR requires that you admit your vulnerability to get shafted by women. The alternative is to deny it (the BP way). For me it manifested first as helplessness before realising that truth is liberating and vulnerability could be debilitating or powerful. RP mentality isnt about women cheating on you and AWALT its about fixing and bettering yourself so that you have a happy life no matter what. Thats how i use it. The hardest part in the LTR for me is re…
/r/askTRP11/04/21 09:42 PM
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Late to the party on this one but i’m similar. You’ll get answers that usually fall into the categories of mentality, childhood trauma, insecurity, scarcity, Oneitis, being a cheater.. its usually at least one of these and probably a combination of a few of them. There is no magic solution other than to find happiness within yourself. I know it sounds a bit mumbo jumbo but think of peace like a muscle that needs trained and do something daily to work on it. That could be a hobby, meditation, jou…
/r/askTRP10/04/21 09:30 AM
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Either give her what she wants or you can compromise a little but don’t compromise at your expense. Something along the lines of making an extra date every other week and fck her brains out on that one. In other words compromise to your benefit.
/r/askTRP07/04/21 04:28 PM
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Mate - listen - i’m in the same situation. This guy at my gfs work started 4 months ago and the dude is 9/10 handsome and all the things my gf finds physically attractive. Here the thing- 4 months on i’m still fucking her brains out. Shes still all over me in person. A little jealousy is normal .. don’t let it become an obsession. I did for a while there and it starts to control you. Just realise that you’ve no control over the situation and actually any action you do try to take to influence th…
/r/askTRP06/04/21 08:58 PM
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Everything said here is true. Theres very little good women out there left. Its not their fault. Its what they’re programmed to do just as you’re programmed to want to fuck their brains out. I’m in an LTR oneitis denial and the best advice i’ve seen given and can give is never let it get to this. Like DeNiros character in heat said, never get involved in something that you can’t walk away from in 30 seconds. This is the only way you’ll find true peace and happiness.
/r/askTRP06/04/21 08:35 PM
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I try to be all of the above at all times.
/r/askTRP05/04/21 11:07 AM
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Well what id like is her to initiate more of course but no idea why she isnt doing it and not sure what needs fixing. Therefore my best play seems to be not reaching out, showing up better in person and some subtle dread perhaps.
/r/askTRP05/04/21 11:06 AM
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This is also what i am thinking and in person nothing has changed .. we’re still all over each other and shes always talking about future plans. Yes the dating has gotten a little stale recently with covid but we’re still making time twice a week to spend time together. I can’t think of anything thats wrong so can’t attempt to fix anything. If her attraction is lowering the only thing i can do is show up better in person and avoid reaching out.
/r/askTRP05/04/21 11:04 AM
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Shes never said anything like this. Although there have been times where i’ve come across a bit cold saying stuff along the lines of ‘if i dont hear from someone i get on with my life and assume i wont ever hear from them again’.. maybe broadcasted things a bit too much.
/r/askTRP05/04/21 11:01 AM
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Thanks for the advice. Trying to reduce my interest and my dependence on her but when you’re in an LTR there aint much spinning to be done.
/r/askTRP04/04/21 09:19 PM
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Not sure what the signs indicate yet though
/r/askTRP04/04/21 09:18 PM
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Thanks bro - i like that.
/r/askTRP02/04/21 11:03 PM
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In the grand scheme of things its probably not. No LTR is really. I guess i should just chill out and get back to the basics of managing my life and stopping trying to control outside factors.
/r/askTRP02/04/21 02:33 PM
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It is - but i like her and shes still doing more things right than wrong at present.
/r/askTRP02/04/21 02:30 PM
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Ok - get you. But what i was asking for was some short term dread ideas.
/r/askTRP02/04/21 02:29 PM
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