Going through a LTR's phone

fart_69 · 2021-03-06T13:55:26+00:00

No, I never do this. Who gives a fuck what she's doing? You're so focused on tyring to "keep her in line" (which is an exercise in futility, by the way) that you are neglecting the real prize- yourself. Is she cheating? Maybe. You can't do anything to stop it anyways. If you're as high quality as you should want to be, then you don't need to worry about any external threats in the first place.

Warped_Mindless · 2021-03-06T14:07:30+00:00

If she’s gonna cheat, she’s gonna cheat. Being insecure will only push her into cheating because she will see you as a beta bitch boy.

She should be the one wanting to go through YOUR phone. Do you still flirt with other women? Are you still putting your goals ahead of her? Still having a fun life that doesn’t always include her?

She should be the one worrying and wondering what you are doing and who you are talking too.

Worry more about what you are doing, and making yourself into a better (and therefore more attractive) person. Let her be the one to worry about dumb shit.

themostgianthorse · 2021-03-06T15:29:27+00:00

Enough about her. Let’s talk you.

You met her on February 16 and today March 06, you’re in an LTR? Huh?

If you’ve been here for any amount of time, you know that this is going to receive heavy criticism. And for good reason!

If you’re going to be in an LTR, you’ll need to have some trust. You do not have this and it’s perfectly reasonable that you would not trust her at this point. Why?! Because you’ve only known her for less than a month! You don’t know her! At all! Why are you giving away commitment so freely?

Only you can decide what to do from here. please read everything in the sidebar on vetting.

SublimePimp · 2021-03-06T16:48:40+00:00

Check her phone when she’s sleeping or some other bulletproof circumstance. Feel no guilt about it. My ex was using notepad to talk to her friend about setting up a threesome and I caught her.

Trust but verify. Fuck these whores

tetrachromancy · 2021-03-06T22:11:06+00:00

A high value man never looks through his girls phone. Not because of some respect for privacy, I’m not virtue signaling here.

The reason is, you can basically assume there are male orbiters and plates in her phone giving her attention. It’s 2021. All women are doing this.

Instead you need to have abundance mentality. Have other girls you’re talking to, so if your LTR/plate/whatever ends up pulling a fast one on you... that’s fine. You have other women and it’s no sweat.

This is the modern game. Don’t get obsessed with what one girl is doing. Not worth it.

319Skew · 2021-03-06T18:50:30+00:00

It's called mate guarding. It's what weak men do. If you feel like she's going to cheat then don't LTR her. If you're a high value man then you don't worry about losing her, she's worried about losing you.

If you're insecure then work on yourself.

I get that you should trust but verify but going around and skulking in the shadows isn't what men should be doing.

CameOnHerBitties · 2021-03-06T17:20:35+00:00

If youre at that point then u might as well leave

KriIIincel · 2021-03-06T18:09:00+00:00

She cheated they usually do . You’d be surprised just how many women cheat on their boy friends if a guy asks

Musicgoon · 2021-03-07T01:17:04+00:00

Let me tell you how I run things with my girl: I focus on my music and teaching during the day and later I go out to the gym. I come home fire up the grill, make something tasty for dinner. She cleans up and stays pretty for me. If I've met another interesting girl we will chat with her and arrange a meetup.

I grab what I want when the mood strikes and use her body whenever I want. I leave it a quivering mess. I rock her world so much that she can't speak afterwards. I rough her up and fuck her in a way that she feels owned. That's all normal. If it stays normal, that's all I need.

Now if she's that good that she can give me all the attention I need, sex on demand and is always available when I want her I don't think about her cheating. If she was actually cheating, she does it so well that I wouldn't notice. Kudos to her for that mastery.

Now if all of this expected behavior doesn't happen, she has a problem. Notice I said she. If she starts slacking, she knows I start looking. There are a bunch of super cute young girls that want to dethrone her. If she doesn't want that position, she's free to leave and I'll be taking balls deep interviews with many girls to compete for her spot.

Not once have I wasted the time or energy to check her phone or rifle through her shit. She has to keep herself in check to keep her spot. The worry is on her end not mine.

familiarfolly · 2021-03-07T03:27:25+00:00

focus on how she’s treating you. if she isn’t treating you well, leave her.

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MoreAlfa · 2021-03-06T18:40:25+00:00

Stay out of her phone.
Am I understanding you correctly: You meet her February 16th?

Souredshroom · 2021-04-16T13:57:49+00:00

Done it myself and found nothing. I’m also pro snoop but realise that it also means you’re too invested. The best thing you could do is message her saying ‘you’re too invested in this girl - get out of this phone’ and snoop and read your own message.

I found shit when in mines- the odd orbiter wishing her a happy birthday etc.. chicks will always have men after them.. be the prize

Title	Going through a LTR's phone
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Date	March 6, 2021 1:42 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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