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themostgianthorse/r/askTRP29/05/21 03:35 PM
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What is this? Muscle is not cheap. It requires a massive amount of planning and execution. This alone deserves some respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 04:34 AM
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I do not know the answer to your question. You presumably understand how and why to avoid this so the “research” is probably a waste of your time. TRP ruined a fair amount of songs for me. Fuck you all and thank you at the same time.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/23 02:36 PM
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A short poem I wrote to help any man pass any shit test regardless of age, race or location: There are 4 billion women in the world. The end.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/23 11:51 AM
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Great post and an excellent reminder.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/23 12:44 PM
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Not everyone you meet is worth setting boundaries with. You simply dismiss them based on their actions. The medium is the message.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/07/23 10:35 PM
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Jonah Hill is still a fat boy in his head. That’s why he’s having these problems. Nothing is wrong with what he said but his experience tells us that a scarcity mentality can affect even the millionaire celebrities of the world. Would a man who thought highly of himself go and bullet point all this shit? Would Decaprio do this? Of course not! He’d just say “Hey, it’s not working out. Good luck” and then he’d go talk to other women.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/07/23 02:50 PM
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Yes. Women chit chat. Men do. I think it is a good observation that you can gab to your wife like a pigtailed school girl. I’m not trying to be disparaging. You do need to fix this. Call the other dudes and find a basketball court. Have you ever played disc golf? You will suck at it. The other guys will too. Call the other dudes and go suck at throwing a frisbee together. It doesn’t matter what you do only that you do.
/r/askMRP21/07/23 12:39 PM
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I am really doubting the “3 a day” comment but anyways: Answers - You realise that there are 4 billion women in the world. If not her then someone else. Or no one else. Or several elses. An answer could be you state your boundaries and if she complies, you could trust a little more. That is all fine and good but what really matters is her motivation. Does she actively demonstrate that she is a value add? Is she enthusiastic about you? Does she police herself if/when applicable. In a conflict of …
/r/TheRedPill19/07/23 05:32 PM
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They don’t have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 02:15 PM
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You need to stop worrying what your wife thinks of you and focus on what you will think of you a year from today. I still meet with the group weekly. The format is wins/losses/challenges and have at least one thing you are working on for the week. Report back the following week. This is the link to his website. You have not mentioned anything you are doing yet to improve. You need to join a gym and become obsessed. Lifting is your wife now. 12 jäger bombs aren’t going to be worth it if you spend…
/r/askMRP17/07/23 06:00 PM
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“How much of this struggle should I share with my wife?” She’s known for a long time man. This is a you problem so STFU around your wife. I spent time in inpatient, outpatient, therapy and a few overnights in jail all due to my habit. I tried AA, the Sinclair method, CBT, DBT, EMDR and numerous SSRIs, benzos, beta blockers and other methods over my 16 year struggle. Nothing worked until I changed my thinking. I drank because I was anxious and depressed and not equipped to deal with life. Once I …
/r/askMRP17/07/23 03:58 PM
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Welcome. Before this gets shredded, you need to consider a few things: are LDRs real? I’ll answer this one for you and tell you for 99.9% of people the answer is “no”. Just a pussy pen pal. would a man with options be spending all this time playing “check in” with a woman who he cannot touch? I’ll take this one too and tell you probably not. you mention your bench. Very good. Keep it up. But you did not mention your squat. I can tell you from my own experience that it is very difficult to be neu…
/r/askMRP09/07/23 02:20 PM
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Your next step is recognising your own scarcity mentality. If there were two other women who would slurp you like a Baja blast, would current girl be a problem? My guess is the answer is “no”. But if on the off chance the answer is “yes”, you must lead the way. lift say “no” as a complete sentence reward good behaviour. Do not reward bad behaviour An older mentor once told me “A man with a good woman* has the wind at his back but he MUST stay out in front of her to feel it.” *you don’t have this…
/r/askMRP04/07/23 03:28 PM
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I do not disagree with your points. What I am saying is you are not going to hear a lot of men discuss personality in self improvement spaces or men’s spaces. “Work on your personality” is much like “Be yourself”. It could be right but but it’s ambiguous. How does one know what a “good” personality is or what a good “self” is? I am not asking you to answer the question. I am telling you why men don’t immediately go “hey! Why am I not attracting women? Hmm m. Maybe it’s my personality.”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:14 PM
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How does one measure or qualify personality? The question is rhetorical. This is why you don’t hear much about personality from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 09:38 PM
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I have never once found aloofness to be an attractive quality in women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 05:12 PM
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Men and women are different. Men to to prioritise content. Women tend to prioritise context. When a man complains about his dating options, this implies a lack of confidence and of course that many other women do not want him. They of course wonder why should they then want him? It is pre-UNselection. The medium is the message. My advice is to never discuss your dating challenges in front of women. You can vent to your bros if needed but make a plan to address the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 08:57 PM
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One could argue it was weak men that allowed them to fuck up the game but that it is neither here nor there now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 09:22 PM
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Yes. I agree. My comment is extremely high level. Men and women will be presented with different risks, benefits, opportunities, advantages and disadvantages and with much different frequencies. I can also remember getting the feedback that I chose poorly in my younger years. It’s a bit troubling because while this feedback was correct, it’s not like there were a ton of options. The dilemma was choose something bad for me or get high and jerk off again before I go to bed for the 612th day in a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 04:23 PM
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“Because when men speak out about women who’ve mistreated them, the blame is exclusively on the woman’s actions…” I don’t know how much time you’ve spent on any of the TRP subs but often when a guy presents some scenario where some woman has done something wrong, there is a legion of dudes that cannot wait to tell the OP what a fucking dumbass he is for putting himself in that situation. In-group criticism is a core part of TRP. Both sexes should evaluate risks/benefits and make decisions based …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 03:03 PM
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This is one of the most accurate, well written and level headed posts I’ve seen on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 02:42 AM
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Chris Williamson redpill creator is like saying 1950s Republican nominee, Mao. I like Chris as a guy but is no world is he related to TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 09:27 PM
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Of course. She a hoe
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 10:55 PM
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“This seems reasonable on paper but I think men who think this way tend to disregard the fact that people mature and you adults (teens and early 20s) tend to be more impulsive and reckless.” This is understood but the cold hard fact is that most men don’t care. Some tolerance for indiscretion may be acceptable provided that it is not an extreme. But! Take a woman who was in gangbang/threesomes/sugar baby in college and she at least to me (and I am going to say 75% of men) and she becomes utterly…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 10:53 PM
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I think you are dealing in extremes based on what you’ve seen on Reddit. You are too caught up in the “pill” thing. I understand you probably do not like this answer but again, men and women are different. Human beings crave acceptance. The highest degree of acceptance that a man can show a woman is his commitment to her. The highest degree of acceptance that a woman can show a man is sex. The reason men may behave as you mention above is a defence mechanism. If a man were to discover that his g…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:51 PM
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I can somewhat sympathise with women in this aspect as I do not envy them in the paradox. The cure for the paradox? Considering the cause and effects of actions and making decision based on risk appetite. I assure you then men do NOT express frustration about women who have casual sex. They express frustration about women do not have causal sex WITH THEM. There will always be different expectations men and women have for each other because of course, we are different. We do not get to dictate wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:32 PM
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Because they are risks and not set in stone outcomes. It appears that you are attempting to imply some kind of role reversal here and it doesn’t work. Men and women are different. There are different types and different degrees of risks based on our biological differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:51 PM
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Men and women are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:41 PM
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Well of course it won’t ever be the case. In order to be highly desired, one must become highly desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:08 PM
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Not every man on here wants to have as much causal sex as possible. Every man on here wants THE OPTION to have as much casual sex as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 07:35 PM
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Men’s attractiveness to women is both physical and behaviour based in the short and long term. Women’s attractiveness to men is primarily physical in the short term with behaviour becoming a factor in the long term. Ergo, men don’t care if there is a “nice girl” equivalent provided she is somewhat physically attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 02:38 AM
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Yes. That’s what’s happened for 100% of human existence for every male/female relationship. Down with the patriarchy. Put your pussy hat on. Jesus man. C’mon
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 12:35 AM
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You hear it from men and not women because men and women are different. For men, this is the absolute base level requirement. In most major and successful civilisations since the beginning of time, the trade off men and women make is that men will protect and provide for women but it is an absolute requirement that the baby is ours. If the baby is not ours, then there is no deal. The lizard brain doesn’t care if it is egotistical or pompous. It wants to survive and reproduce.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 10:59 PM
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“But they in turn don’t want me either. Ya don’t say? Also, “I jump up, wave my hands around to shut her the fuck up and fast talk. This sounds like what would happen if Michael Scott from the Office read The Rational Male. read lift STFU
/r/askMRP22/05/23 07:44 PM
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No. She got married to someone else. I think they did apologise but I didn’t engage with either of them for several years. I would later see them at the grocery store I worked the year after high school. It was the first time I had experienced something like that. I would compare it to playing baseball and getting hit in the eye with the ball the first time you ever step up to bat.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 01:56 PM
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I think women know that other women will do shit like this sometimes. At least for me, a teenage boy at the time, it was incredibly surprising. I knew men would do terrible shit to women. I didn’t know women would do terrible shit to men or think it happened very often and certainly not to me. The halo effect is very real. I once told this story to my now ex-wife (I don’t recommend telling sob stories to women in general). Her response was “oh that girl probably just wanted more attention.” The …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 01:41 PM
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She got married and had several kids. Lives in the same neighbourhood she grew up in. She seems happy. He is still a “fast and the furious” type of car guy. Works a shitty kitchen job. This was a really long time ago and I have no ill will towards either of them. I only mention the incident because I think it is the perfect example from Rollo’s excerpt “hypergamy doesn’t care”, from his first book.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 01:32 PM
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Hahhha nice
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 10:10 PM
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I’m sure I was too much of a pussy at the time. I had a very “leave it to beaver” kind of upbringing. I’m almost 40 and my parents still joke about the one time that they got into a heated argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 08:39 PM
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Oof. Brotha, this may be the saddest part. It was a Dodge Durango with rims. We weren’t poor or anything. She lived in a gated community.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 07:58 PM
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Thanks man. Tough lesson to learned and took a long time but I learned none the less.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 07:57 PM
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It was 20ish years ago so I don’t remember but I think it caught me off guard. I was still in “girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice” mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 06:05 PM
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Hahah of course. I made a full recovery.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 04:31 PM
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My first girlfriend cheated on me with an acquaintance. I found out in a particularly brutal way. He was a little older than me and had a car. He, another guy and myself went and got high in this neighbourhood park one day. After being sufficiently stoned (probably 5th time I ever smoked) they are laughing to themselves and I ask them what’s up. They point to a condom on the ground and proceed to tell me that one of them fucked my girlfriend with that condom the day before. I rushed home and cal…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 04:05 PM
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In general, women want men who “just get it”. I think women can rationally understand male weakness and inadequacies but they do not understand it emotionally or have much patience for it. The medium is always the message. A man who needs help in attracting women means he is not currently attracting women which means there must be something wrong with him. Ergo, if other women don’t want him, neither do I. Women want to play the game; not be told how the game works. In short, being a woman is ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 05:29 PM
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Yes. The last video game I played religiously was Goldeneye and last time I owned a console was in 1997. I did play my younger brother’s Tony Hawk game sometime around 1999-2001.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 03:18 AM
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Cheers!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 10:36 PM
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Being rejected and not being approached are two different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 09:31 PM
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Hahaha agree. It’s like they say there is no such thing as an “incel”. Any idiot could save up enough money to fly to Vegas or wherever and bang some bitches. These guys don’t just want sex; they want options and to be genuinely desirable. And the answer here of course if that in order to be desired, one must become desirable. Women are. Men must become.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 08:20 PM
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No. I have not watched the show. I think what you are seeing is the result but the reason for the result is what matters. Men will want to fuck women are felons because they are women; not because they are violent. Women will want to fuck men who are felons BECAUSE of what being a violent felon represents; confidence and most importantly, non-neediness. Men don’t give a shit about women’s confidence and non-neediness. The medium is the message.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 05:41 PM
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You are so close to understanding. First, hybristophila only exists in women. We must conclude that at least for some women, there is something attractive about violence in men or men’s capability of violence. This makes sense because men’s capability for violence ostensibly could be used for her benefit. Second, and this is the biggest flaw in your thinking “I just women could acknowledge it.” Why? Stop it! Women don’t give a fuck about why. You aren’t going to logic or reason any woman into de…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 05:21 PM
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(Sighs)…. Obligatory “nice”!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 06:05 PM
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I wonder how many pull ups you or OP could do in 30 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 05:17 PM
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No. I have not. This is a massive waste of time that will almost certainly do nothing productive and will confirm what you already know; that men and women are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 01:26 PM
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Excuse me. I could have elaborated. A bunch of pussies self flagellating in a circle jerk to be forgiven by the great goddess vagina for all the sins of “penis havers” and the “patriarchy”.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 12:52 PM
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A bunch of “male feminist”. Strongly oppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 03:49 AM
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Yeah. It was like the seven stages of grieving. I’m sure reactions to anything TRP vary widely. It sounds like it had a positive effect on you in that you realized how important boundaries were. I think that is a huge take away. I was in marriage counseling the first time anyone explained boundaries to me beyond what was physical so that piece was really eye opening for me also.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 09:58 PM
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Funny. I was also recently divorced when I stumbled on it. I like your positive outlook and not being too invested in it which is the goal. Take what you find useful and don’t use what you don’t need.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 05:41 PM
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1st time reading The Rational Male - “huh. Interesting.” 2nd time reading - “this is bullshit (but tell me more).” 3rd time reading - “This makes sense and I am sad.” 4th time reading - “I am extremely sad and a little angry that I didn’t realize some of these things before.” 5th time reading - “There are multiple examples in life that match up to this perfectly. Still sad but a little more angry at myself” Hits gym. Quits drinking/drugs. Builds confidence. Acceptance!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 05:00 PM
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This could very well happen but should be an exception. If you find this happening frequently, you may need some feedback from another dude who has his shit together or remove yourself from that group entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 06:04 PM
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The point here is to establish a man to woman contact; not just a human to human contact. Letting women know you want to fuck them does not need to include “Ma lady! I am declaring my intentions on your pussy!”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 02:54 PM
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Best answer. Of all of the stupid shit I’ve done to try to improve with women, simply letting women know I wanted to fuck them made the biggest impact.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:41 AM
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Neither sex can empathise with the other. Excluding the most basic aspects of humanity, we are simply too different. We have different experiences and different perceptions of those experiences based on our biological differences. Example 1 - It would be normal and prudent for a woman going on a first date to share her whereabouts with a friend or family member due to safety concerns. Unless a man is going on a first date in Tijuana, it probably never even enters his head that he needs to be con…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 09:10 PM
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Are they all actively trying? Probably not. Would they all if propositioned? Maybe not all but definitely some.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 09:20 PM
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Good shit. Internalising the fact (although it seems odd to need to internalise a fact) that there are 4 billion women in the world can solve the nice guy problem. I can remember at 16 having a talk with the hottest girl in our school who I had been crushing on and telling her “I wouldn’t have sex with a girl unless I loved her.” Of course, this was total bullshit but I thought it was really important to be seen as “different”. Much to my delight at the time, her initial response was “wow. You a…
/r/TheRedPill23/04/23 01:38 PM
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“Women hate a guy who makes it his life to appeal to them.” This is the real lesson that must be learned. Anytime we are obviously qualifying to women we are actively disqualifying ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:17 PM
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Yes. Good call out on the language. I consistently see guys over in the askmen sub says shit like “well, I’m too insecure to date an OF girl.” Listening to these women has convinced some of these guys that not accepting a prostitute somehow makes them “insecure”.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/04/23 06:23 PM
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They want options.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 03:43 AM
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No. Men and women are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 01:00 PM
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I think Madonna/whore complex should be completely disregarded altogether. Why is it a “complex”? A lot of Women want to have “fun” in their teens/twenties and then settle down with a sure shot (as much as possible. Nothing is certain) who is physically attractive enough. There is no common term for this outside of the pill sphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 07:33 PM
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Traditional gender roles are very important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 07:33 PM
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Right. I agree with you. Re-reading it, I think my comment is more of a critique than a CMV. “Sexism” is neither “good” nor “bad”; it merely is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 12:00 AM
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The CMV part of this that I have for you is that you did not include “sexism” as being the outward expression of our biological differences. Although, you may have implied this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 11:43 PM
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The red pill minus all its follower’s pompous fluff and sometimes angry rhetoric is only the truth; not my truth, your truth or their truth but things as they are. Again, the criteria you use to judge others may be irrelevant so as long as that you are indeed using criteria. Cheers and best of luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:52 PM
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Haha brotha! I’m 37, married and life is good. I don’t personally care how you will judge the women you will meet over the course of your life however, I do encourage you to use “good” judgement.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:41 PM
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Remind me 15 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:27 PM
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Newton’s third law my friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:19 PM
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Using the same ratio, tell us what you think when she is 35.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:12 PM
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George Carlin said it best- “Pride should be reserved for something you achieve or obtain on your own, not something that happens by accident of birth.”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 08:11 PM
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In my younger years (teens through 20s), I tried to be the “cool boyfriend” who let his girl hangout with whoever and do whatever. Im sure you can guess what happened. In hindsight, I never wanted to be the “cool boyfriend”. I just didn’t have enough confidence to enforce my boundaries. I imagine some of these guys are in the same boat. All we can do is learn from our mistakes and the mistakes of others to decide what direction we want our lives to go in.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 01:43 PM
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As a human, I respect her persistence and and dedication. As a man in a sexual context, I don’t even sort of give a fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 01:00 PM
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Yes. I agree. I only mentioned it the one time and it’s never come up since then.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 10:02 PM
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No. My boundary is that my wife does not voluntarily spend time alone with other men who are not family or for some business purpose. I communicated this prior to us dating exclusively and there have been no issues. If she would have not agreed, I would not have ever dated her exclusively. We mostly hangout with other couples or solo with our same sex friends so there have been no issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 08:49 PM
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You make a very compelling argument.
/r/TheRedPill03/03/23 03:36 AM
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Maybe you meant to respond to someone else? I don’t know how your comment is relevant to mine.
/r/TheRedPill03/03/23 03:24 AM
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While it may be slightly more difficult for her compared to her short counterparts, I think she’d still be successful long run. 30ish % of men are single and sexless. A lot of these guys aren’t going to be turning women down if they were approached and a tall woman isn’t going to be only limited to the pool of male losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 08:33 PM
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I agree that an enormous amount of this bitching and moaning about height is an excuse to not do the work. But! The overwhelming majority of the time, we can’t make one for one comparisons between men and women. We are too different. If a tall woman were to approach and directly ask guys if they want to have sex, a shit ton of dudes are still gonna say yes. She may be approached less and have to take matters into her own hands but she isn’t going to hit a 6 month dry spell. Short guys on the oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 08:25 PM
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Mostly agree. If I am going to voice a problem, I never do so without my idea for a solution or how it will be ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 12:16 AM
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She could still be an acceptable coworker, neighbor, acquaintance, fling, etc but would never be offered exclusive commitment.
/r/TheRedPill01/03/23 09:18 PM
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Anyone can do anything they like but are subject to judgement based on the decision.
/r/TheRedPill01/03/23 09:10 PM
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Good post. It never fails on Reddit that there is a post asking “what do I do when I find out that my GF has had 52 gangbangs and 320 sexual partners?” And a litany of fools, often other goofball men will respond with “but out of all those guys she chose you u/supasimpo321!” Those responses are so puzzling to me but “Women take pride is being the last” sums it up perfectly.
/r/TheRedPill01/03/23 12:08 AM
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Understood. This could very well be the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:20 PM
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Fat? Yes. Ugly? Too subjective. It’s irrelevant anyway. “No one is ugly after 2AM”. Do you think men or women are more likely to agree with this statement? (It’s men).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:55 PM
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Full agree. Men and women are different. Men need to make themselves attractive to a large and broad pool. Women by default already attractive to a large and broad pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:55 PM
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With the exception of extreme disparities, leagues are a waste of time for men to even ponder. Men and women are different. When men evaluate women, we typically look at them, look at ourselves and then decide if they are attainable or not. When women evaluate men, they will of course notice looks first and then make further judgements based on status, confidence, social standing, etc, etc…….. and how they “feel”. No. You aren’t going to fuck Gal Gadot but there are still lots of Gals that you c…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:29 PM
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Right. There’s something feminine about lamenting about “da gurls” for 3-5 hours a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 12:18 AM
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37 and married TRP here. Maybe you’re just watching grifters? I binged on TRP for the first year and a half or so. I no longer follow or watch anyone on YouTube.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 10:58 PM
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An excellent reminder that the red pill is merely what is; not what should be.
/r/TheRedPill15/02/23 11:37 PM
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Amending my statement to “biological fathers who choose to not be involved ….”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:00 PM
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Yes. Amending my statement to “biological father who choose to not be involved ….”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 01:58 PM
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Biological fathers who are not involved in their children’s lives by choice are deplorable and should be shamed relentlessly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 11:20 PM
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Did you do all of this self improvement for yourself or to get women? The medium is the message.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:43 PM
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“Win her back.” Let me stop you right there. Go back to sidebar.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/23 02:35 AM
4

It means don’t be a bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 02:43 AM
3

The content is what matters to me. The medium is the message. Posting for attention/validation is the medium. The message is that my attention/validation is not enough. Nothing wrong with this. I just wouldn’t be caring about her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 06:32 PM
7

I don’t disagree with the overall sentiment here but your post is essentially “Woman who I don’t know was talking to guy with tattoos. TRP confirmed.” It just seems incredibly presumptuous, naive and and a little odd that this observation warranted a post. Have you recently been bingeing content?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 04:43 AM
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Yes. She is attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 10:38 PM
2

Right. It’s certainly not useful for everyone. It is though if all of her previous guys were in motorcycle gangs, tattoo artists, etc. and you are a software developer with a golden retriever. May be an indication that some settling is occurring.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 09:11 PM
5

It is certainly plausible. But I think we need to elaborate a little. It could be one man OR it could be a composite of all of the best features of all the men before you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 08:00 PM
2

Fellow conservative who is also non-religious here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 10:17 PM
5

This was perfectly explained.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 02:06 PM
1

I’ve seen this point made several times and I do not disagree that context matters. However, what I find incredibly humorous is that your view point asserts that men (and boys) are only valued for their resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:37 PM
56

So tall guys who are muscular will fare better than short guys who are muscular. Now do the study that says short guys who are muscular fare better than short men who are 40lbs overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 05:20 PM
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I cannot fathom how you could take my comment and then turn it into such a serious accusation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 12:55 AM
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This is objectively false. If this were true the “Why is it ok for a man to do something and not a woman” trope would not exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 07:11 PM
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You can do whatever you like whenever you like with whoever you like. You cannot prevent others from judging you for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 05:45 PM
7

It is not easier to be a man; it is different. It is not easier to be a woman; it is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 03:54 AM
7

What I can’t figure out about this account is if it is ran by a dude with a cuck fetish or just a really shitty woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 07:03 PM
1

It would appear that you are correct and I have learned something. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:26 AM
2

Rule 1: Be attractive; Don’t be unattractive. Rule 2. Don’t stop being attractive. Don’t start being unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 10:08 PM
6

Yes. Men will be fine with the “fake it until you make it” approach. Women will probably not which is why you often hear “stop trying to be someone else” or “be yourself” when you ask for their advice. Don’t ask women for their advice on how to attract/arouse women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 09:01 PM
9

If you’ve been in the sphere for even a short time, It seems like you should know the answer to this. Women want men who “just get it.” Needing to receive instruction on how to interact with women and be attractive is an indication that you do not “just get it.” In earlier times, those who did not “get it” would’ve not been selected for reproduction. This gives women the “ick”.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 06:39 PM
9

Right. As mentioned above, if you know she’s HL from the onset, it may also be an indication that she is high n. It’s unfortunate really. Makes me think of the quote, “All men want a slut. But only OUR slut.”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:41 PM
62

This is not the answer you want but it’s worth noting that If you are attractive enough, arousing enough rather, plenty of previously low libido women will likely become high libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:17 PM
1

Wholesome award. Love this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 01:52 PM
13

Yes. My wife is a woman and thus hypergamous. I don’t have a problem with this. Women are women. Yes. I absolutely value and care for her. I do not refer to her as my partner because that makes us sound like a lesbian couple. We are compliments to one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 09:52 PM
15

Probably not much to be achieved in explaining hypergamy to my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:56 PM
1

I love the show as well. It’s interesting how we can derive different ideas from the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:52 PM
1

It’s a tv show and I am not following his script. I am creating mine. The scene was just a prompt to remember the value of tenacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:24 PM
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Married TRP here. My wife is unaware of TRP and I would never bring it up to her (or anyone unless it was a close friend who already had some awareness). We both believe in traditional gender roles. Life is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:18 PM
2

There’s not going to be a comprehensive list. In general, my rule is I try to never bring up a problem without also communicating my idea/plan to address it. I even take the Dwight Schrute approach sometimes and paraphrase the quote “I am ready to face any challenges that might be foolish enough to face me.” Edit: I would never cry in front of a woman unless my leg had been chopped off or something. Even then ….
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 05:37 PM
1

Agree. If we all understood that men and women are different and nowhere are those differences pronounced than in regards to the sexual market place, there would be a lot less confusion and potentially frustration. And these differences of course can be a good thing. If women were open to sex in the same way men are it’s entirely possible I would not be typing to you on this pocket super computer.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 03:16 PM
4

I can agree with this. In regards to relationships, a mentor once told me, “she can be your lover or your mother but never both.” I think about this quote all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 06:27 PM
3

A man of principle. Well done.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 11:50 PM
2

False. Only 12% of them can fit in a row boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:30 AM
0

Butter face.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:28 AM
4

You should move in with her immediately. Best to cut out any time your spending at the gym , hobbies or friends so you can watch her closely. Can you get a WFH when you move in with her? C’mon man!
/r/askMRP30/12/22 10:02 PM
1

Beautifully explained.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 09:52 PM
6

You need to stop believing in leagues save extreme disparities. When men determine if we are in a woman’s league, we are typically only evaluating her physical attractiveness. We then compare that to our own and make our determination. But women are different. Women will also take into account a man’s physical attractiveness AND his status, confidence, social skills, $ or potential for $, etc. etc. it could be all of these factors at the same time or only one based on how she is feeling in the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 03:45 PM
2

“For even a couple likes on a photo on Instagram.” This is really not the yard stick you should be using friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 04:21 AM
5

Women of course like sex. It is however, a biological impossibility for women to physically crave sex with the same frequency as men. Additionally, some women will only use sex to get what they desire most; attention. Sex is merely the vehicle and this scews the perception.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:50 AM
5

Anything we use as a crutch tends to increase in frequency and/or amount.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 03:19 PM
7

“As porn gets better and better” If this were the case, one would not need more and more to achieve the same effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 02:39 PM
2

Cute face Little waist Big behind Boobs Whatever that lower back dimple is called Slight thigh crease Enthusiasm
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:58 PM
1

I was unaware Gabor was a role model. I read his book “In the realm of Hungry Ghosts” a few years ago while struggling with substance abuse. Insightful but I found it contradicting to my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 10:57 PM
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The reason you find men needing this advice shocking is precisely because you are a woman. Men and women are different. We communicate differently both inbound and outbound. Most women do not need to be taught to read social cues, read between the lines and how to understand that “the medium is the message”. Many men do need to be explicitly taught these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 07:25 PM
19

You critiqued lack of reliable data sources without providing any yourself. I hope you enjoyed your rant.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 10:50 PM
1

I literally quoted him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 08:07 PM
19

At my old job, I printed out this meme and pinned it up on my cubicle. It was a picture of a chameleon with the text “Sometimes chameleon wishes his surroundings would change to him.” It gave me a light chuckle but in hindsight, it represents exactly what was wrong with my thinking. Seems fitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 03:50 PM
9

Another teachable moment. The medium is the message. The medium here is this post. The message is “I am struggling with women due to my perceived niceness. I wish they would appreciate me.” I remember being there man. It gets better if you make it better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 03:35 PM
5

You’re going to have to elaborate because I’m not sure what this has to do with my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 02:55 PM
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“I’m just saying it shouldn’t be perceived negatively for sex.” This is the problem with your thinking. You don’t get to decide what women see as positive or negative for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 02:37 PM
2

This is the first time on this sub where I have viewed someone’s profile and been genuinely concerned with what I found. I find the “go to therapy” comments typically lazy and often undeserved but in this case, it is warranted.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 04:56 AM
4

Not being boring provides better build up. Don’t overthink it. You are designed to do a few basic things. Sex with women is one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 09:04 PM
3

Well done.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 07:15 PM
11

I care more about the average time it takes for you to do 12 jumping jacks than I do about anyone’s vaccination status.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 07:07 PM
0

Yes. The medium is the message.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:07 PM
2

OP, I full agree with you and wanted to compliment you on your excellent writing skills. Well done.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:42 AM
4

For men - Blue pill: I was born 5’2”. It doesn’t matter. There is someone for everyone. It’s what’s in the inside that counts. Red pill: I was born 5’2”. While I understand this is a negative, there are things within my control that I can do to make up for this deficit. Kinda sucks but whatevs bro, fuck bitches! Get money! Mo plates = Mo dates. Black pill: I was born 5’2”. I am doomed to a life of celibacy. The only way I’ll ever have sex is to pay for it. I hate everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:03 PM
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I would drop her. There are 4 billion women in the world and not all of them do shit like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:37 PM
6

I saw a clip of an interview with Mia Khalifa recently and she made this same point.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 06:48 PM
0

What an emotional response. I have the tone of the sub in mind as I comment on experience. Experience here usually refers to sexual experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 04:34 PM
9

Right. We don’t like the result of the experience. Seems like you understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 03:46 PM
230

“Those are functions of lack of experience.” We can just stop here. You are correct. The overwhelming majority of men do not value “experience” in women. There you go. Now you understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 03:35 PM
2

Yes. Vol.1
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 10:20 PM
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You already know the answer to “what does the medium is the message mean?” You typed it. “When I mention this to my friends they suggest she may not be into me.” This belongs on AskMRP like others have suggested but before we go, what the fuck is this shit? “And her accepting that gift is her sacrifice”. It’s not a fucking sacrifice!If your last name was Hemsworth, she’d be standing in line at the social security office with cream in her panties now. Lift. sidebar. STFU. Post further questions o…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 10:20 PM
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The medium is the message.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 09:02 PM
1

Thanks! If you like Polyphia, I think you’d like Chon too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 10:23 PM
9

At the moment, I am focused on: Continuing pursuing certifications in my field. I got my PMP certification a few months ago and am getting ready to begin working on scrum. Fitness. I’ve been lifting consistently and this year I will be working on a cut rather than bulk during the winter months. Spending time with family. As I approach my fourth decade, I want to make the most of the time I have left with my parents. They are in good health in their sixties and I want to be able to enjoy doing th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 08:29 PM
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An excellent point. I have learned that the fastest way to not receive acceptance from women is to actively and solely seek it. Desire for women/sex can be the spark that gets you started but along the way the focus must shift to the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 07:44 PM
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The Leagues conversation is mostly a circle jerk. Men and women are different and have different criteria for “the leagues.” Women’s initial attraction to men is not based (almost) solely on physical appearance the way men’s initial attraction is. Ergo, men will not be able to assess what “league” they are in based on a woman’s physical appearance. Attempting to do so is mostly a waste of time. Less focus on leagues. More focus on lunges. This statement may seem contradictory to the point above …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 06:05 PM
1

Different.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 01:50 AM
2

Race is what I was referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 01:42 AM
11

Yehp. I had to learn this too. There is a certain demographic of women I am not attracted to. Conversely, these women love me. I have even had one proposition me and when I told her I was married, she said “what’s she got to do with me?” What’s different about these women? Not a damn thing. Women are women. The only thing that’s different is my behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 05:23 PM
44

Good God. Hit the fucking gym kid.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/22 10:28 PM
3

I can appreciate your sense of optimism. It’s a bit like the average American diet. There’s all these delicious dopamine hits available everywhere at any time. Sure, you look like shit and eventually it’s gonna kill you, but hey! It’s easy and feels good sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 05:19 PM
7

I think you are taking “enjoy the decline” a bit too literally. Sure, it’s easier than ever to be a loser but is that “better”?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 04:40 PM
4

Good analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 07:22 PM
9

Agree. Men and women are different and this is often good thing. Can you imagine if women were willing to have sex with men as often as men are willing to have sex with women? I don’t think we’d still be in the Bronze Age but it’s entirely possible that the computer I store in my pocket would not exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 07:12 PM
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It was different because there was an increase in accountability. Also, the group is made up of guys who had issues and were able and/or are actively working on turning their lives around. We meet weekly over zoom and follow up through out the week in a group chat. The format is wins/challenges/losses and choosing at least one thing to work on during the week. We rarely discuss women unless someone has a specific issue. Half the guys eschew TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:00 PM
2

You should proof read your dear diary entries before posting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:55 AM
7

For sure. While you look for one, download the headspace app. It’s helpful in that if you are consistent with it, you’ll be able to observe your thoughts rather than becoming them. It’s not a cure all but helps me realize I am in the train station before the train leaves.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:17 AM
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Yes. I was in some form of therapy from ages 16-32.I tried 8 different SSRIs and used to be prescribed 90 Xanax per month. Therapy was beneficial in the moment. I walked out there validated and feeling like a million dollars. Unfortunately, there wasn’t enough meaningful long term change to my behavior during that time. It was a long ass time. I knew something must change so I got a divorce and moved out on my own and stumbled onto the book No More Mr. Nice Guy and joined a group. I worked one o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 12:34 AM
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“the best I’ll ever do in my life.” And with that one statement, the entire rest of the post is just blah blah blah. If you can change your thinking to “the best I’ve ever DONE in my life SO FAR”, the problem will resolve itself. You think she’s better than you. And since you do, so does she. This is a classic case. Read the sidebar, hit the gym and pick one thing that scares you are do it. Confidence is not something you be; it’s something you build.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/22 04:32 PM
3

Good luck on your GED test.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 02:13 AM
8

I sometimes wonder what would happen if men stopped liking, commenting or upvoting posts that contained photos of women which men did not know personally. I don’t think the power grid would fail or anything but long term, I think there would be an effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 02:56 PM
78

This is really the only answer. It’s because women don’t have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:39 AM
1

Enjoy the decline!
/r/MensRights20/11/22 07:43 PM
8

Understood. Appreciate your honesty and self awareness. The issue people have with a “double standard” between men and women is always under the premise that men and women are the same. We are not. The actions we take sometimes affect us differently because we are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 02:44 PM
13

“99% of my past hookups were shit it bed and most women need a significant emotional connection to enjoy sex.” Then why did you keep going back?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 02:37 PM
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No. There is no such thing as a 50/50 relationship 100% of the time. There is always a power dynamic of some sort although it may change based on the scenario. The dynamic can be expressed directly or happen organically. I’ve communicated to my now wife that I believe in traditional gender roles before we were exclusively dating. She agreed and the relationship moved forward.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 03:05 AM
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I am self disciplined. I lift, maintain a good diet and am fiscally responsible. Currently on a U/L/U/L program, meal prep and am earning 6 figures if bonus is included. I think in the long term while striving to be present in the moment ( full transparency I still need work on being present so I use the headspace app) I have ambition. I use some portion of my free time several times a week to further myself in my field. I prioritize goals and outcomes over emotions or feelings although, I take …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 11:14 PM
-8

Give me a loyal 7 that follows my lead over a perfect 10 “baddie” any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 10:21 PM
6

I literally cannot wait for my wife to get home so I can tell her how beautiful she looks breasted boobily coming up the stairs. Thank you for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:23 PM
9

If we keep this up, Average Adam is going to get laid solely due to his exposure and proximity of familiarity. He’s no longer average. He’s got status now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:49 PM
2

“All new parents should get a part time nanny.” Sounds great! Will all new parents also be issued their $250k salary or will we just expand welfare?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 05:29 PM
0

So a 24/7 manny?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 05:00 PM
4

There is no argument for Adam. I personally would not recommend anyone settle having done that before and gotten divorced because of it myself. This line shows it’s own hubris though: “Kids? Boss bitch is in soccer mom is out.” One of the worst hands you can be dealt as a kid, is to be born to a permanently single parent household. On a personal note, I hate “boss bitch” women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 04:46 PM
2

Gotcha. Very reasonable and understandable. It certainly develops confidence and healthy competitiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 12:06 AM
1

I am curious about athletic background. Is the requirement he must have been involved in organized team sports at some point or would just regular lifting be acceptable?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 11:58 PM
5

You have only accounted for the mechanics of sex. I see this constantly in these threads. Oxytocin and endorphins are also released during and after sex. This must also be accounted for. As a result, F count could be a positive attribute while N count is usually considered a negative one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 04:40 PM
4

OP over here trying to have her cake and eat it too. Just break up. You are doing a disservice to both of you. I remember this saying from the perspective of a woman from when I was a kid. It said some version of: My man makes me laugh. My man buys me nice things. My man cares for me. My man rocks my world. ………. And may the 4 of them never meet. This is what you’re trying to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 07:24 PM
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Another way of saying that when women see weakness in men, they will often rub salt in the wound to hopefully get him to handle his shit. Women are the more empathetic sex to children, puppy dogs and other women in their immediate circle; not to grown men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:38 PM
6

I agree. That’s why IDGAF is such a powerful tool.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:29 PM
2

I think it’s fear before it turns into disgust. Men’s insecurity causes fear because it is a risk to women. Since there are more able bodied men around, the fear turns to disgust. Abuse of empathy is a woman’s birthright.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:26 PM
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I don’t think it’s the word; it’s the connotation. Men tend to communicate overtly while women communicate covertly. Additionally, men tend to fight in the physical while women fight in the psychological. Insecure is not necessarily a negative. It makes sense to be insecure about dating a former or current stripper in the same sense that one would insecure about buying a used parachute off of Craigslist. These represent a reasonable risk to one’s current and/or future well being.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 06:04 PM
8

Wow. I could’ve written this comment myself. Are you me? “I think mother’s and women in general give advice assuming that the boy will read between the lines like they would.” This is exactly the answer. It’s not that women always give bad advice. It’s that they start on step 9 of the process and assume you already understand steps 1 - 8. Men communicate overtly. Women communicate covertly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 02:35 PM
1

No amount of make up can fake hips.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 12:28 AM
9

I always try to remember that in the back of every woman’s mind is the question “if he won’t stand up to me, how could he stand up for me?”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:15 PM
17

THE T I N G L E S!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 04:50 PM
17

Same. In regards to infidelity, Women want to know “do you love her?” Men want to know “did you fuck him?”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 01:02 AM
5

I don’t disagree here but you see the cycle? Can’t get job with no experience. Can’t get experience with no job.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 10:48 PM
28

“And the girl’s dad is the owner.” Nope. Stop here. “But what if this girl came in my life to serve that purpose and more?” Nope. Minor scarcity mentality here. The question of “what should I do about girl?” can almost always be answered with a question. That question is, “if there were 2 other women in your life now, who were equally as attractive as the current apple of your eye, who you could fuck in two weeks, would this still be a problem?” The answer is almost always no. Don’t get your mea…
/r/TheRedPill04/11/22 07:54 PM
0

No. Men and women are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 05:58 PM
14

It’s sad to me that you are looking forward to a time when you are issued a meal cooked for you and a bj once per year.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:41 PM
4

Isn’t becoming friends with specifically a woman in order to improve your communication skills, vent and get advice also disingenuous? I do not think it’s impossible for men and women to genuinely develop friendships but it is not probable. It is the exception; not the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 01:41 PM
5

be even more vulnerable follow your heart when the bros ask if you wanna grab drinks, tell em that you gotta “ask the boss” first and then wink at her if she’s standing there hurry and marry. You don’t want her to be the one that got away
/r/askMRP28/10/22 03:17 PM
3

If you subscribe to Onlyfans you’re a pathetic loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 09:22 PM
37

Yes. Occurrence 1: I was once dating this girl when I was 24-25. I was acquaintances with a few guys I knew she had slept with prior to. I went to a bar and sat down at at table which eventually consisted of all dudes she had fucked before (5 present that night I believe). I was grossed out with this in front me. I broke up with her the next day. Occurrence 2: Was briefly hanging out with girl who was a friend of a friend. Went on a date and came back to my apartment. This was right when Faceboo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 09:34 PM
3

Instant termination.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:03 PM
4

He says he’s not short so we’ll have to make a different assertion. He got rejected by a fat woman.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/22 09:33 PM
9

No. This is dumb as fuck. Why are you so emotionally invested in this?
/r/TheRedPill16/10/22 08:14 PM
3

Toastmasters would help.
/r/seduction16/10/22 02:14 PM
8

You can only lead a horse to water
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:56 AM
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Yes. They evolved. But did they evolve out of experience and reflection or did they evolve out of necessity?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 02:05 PM
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The thinking is “if I become more like a woman, they will like me more” and “the feminine way is the correct way to do things.” Many of us grew up in households that mirrored the trope “If mom’s not happy, nobody’s happy. If dad’s not happy nobody cares.” My boss, a man, got married recently. On his first conference call upon returning from his honey moon, some of the more senior men said “ok big guy. Welcome back. Now for some advice. The answer to your new wife’s question is always “yes”. The …
/r/MensRights14/10/22 07:34 PM
3

Careful with this. Using a crutch rarely if ever results in progress being made.
/r/seduction14/10/22 06:57 PM
1

Fuck no
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 11:54 PM
3

Agree. If you let another dude fuck your girl, you’re not worthy of respect because you don’t respect yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 12:02 AM
262

Yes. There is a certain demographic of women that I’ve never been attracted to my entire life. These women love me. I even had one once proposition me for NSA after telling her I was married at the time. She did not care. The difference is like you said, I am outcome independent around them. There’s no neediness. There is no trick to this. The first step is awareness which you already have (well done). The second step is changing your thinking process. Understanding that there are 4 billion wome…
/r/seduction11/10/22 03:57 PM
5

Would I divorce her? It’s hard to say. Like the commenter above pointed out, if it were 3 more bodies then no most likely not. If it were an egregious situation like the infamous AITA post (guy is in a dead bedroom and finds a video of his wife in a gangbang from college) then yes. I would file as soon as I was financially able. It’s never “cheaper to keep her” if your self respect is at stake. Women absolutely decide what is valuable in men. You are attempting to guise “maturity” as apathy or e…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 10:27 PM
7

Yes. It would lower her value. Who gives a fuck about Tate. He’s not providing any new information. “men create the perceptions” Yes. That is exactly what I am saying. Women also create the perceptions for men. If women up and decide tomorrow that promiscuity is an undesirable trait in men, then in will become an undesirable trait. But they will not do that. Why? Because men and women are different and value different things. It’s coercion in the same sense that if I were your boss, I’d advise y…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 09:56 PM
5

Height is immutable. Behaviour is not. Men and women are different. Partially correct. Men and women are different. Men will determine what characteristics are valuable in women. Women will determine what characteristics are valuable in men. Neither sex gets a say in what the other values.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 09:29 PM
1

No. Monk mode can be bad advice. Increasing one’s worth will always be good advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 01:50 PM
1

Why is it so hard to understand that men and women are different ?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 02:06 PM
1

It’s just a shit test over the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 12:38 AM
0

“Something will happen.” ☕️women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 08:35 PM
17

Having a diversity chief is the real crime here.
/r/MensRights08/10/22 02:44 PM
72

Excellent retrospect and do not forget this lesson. A woman can NEVER be your mission. My only critique is the business about keeping her on Instagram to let her know that she fucked up. No. You cannot afford any temptations while you get back on track. This idea even popping in your head is an indication that you are still emotionally invested. Delete/unfollow.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/22 12:43 AM
5

Phenomenal comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 10:37 PM
3

Gotcha. Hit macros/ caloric surplus (about 500)/ sleep/ good form/ progressive overload/ consistency/ patience
/r/seduction04/10/22 02:25 PM
6

Are you lifting for overall self improvement or are you doing it solely to get women? If it’s the former, be patient and enjoy the process. It may be helpful to keep a journal with your progress. Combine with other self improvement activities and eliminate “buffers”( smoking/drinking/porn/video games, etc.) If it’s the latter, you are likely to fail. Why? Your self improvement comes from a place of neediness. Women can “smell” it. There is no such thing as feminine intuition or women having a 6t…
/r/seduction04/10/22 02:11 PM
5

Congrats! Mo plates, mo dates is a thing. Not only because of what it does for your body but what it does to your thinking.
/r/seduction04/10/22 01:55 PM
2

All that salary and you still don’t understand depreciating assets. Our girl in question is one. A 24 year old 5.5 is a 34 3.5 unless she puts in significant effort. “Several girls present themselves to me, leaving themselves open, for me to make a move. But I don’t…….” Stop. Red buzzer went off. You don’t initiate because you are scared or have oneitis. Potentially both. This whole bit about polyamory is naive. Just spin plates for now man. If you need proof that you need more experience, read …
/r/TheRedPill30/09/22 09:47 PM
9

This sounds like “you can’t fire me I quit.”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 12:57 PM
8

Well done on your awareness and not continuing to accept is unacceptable. You are not responsible for someone else’s feelings. That being said, you don’t need to be cruel either. You live together so ghosting is cowardly in my opinion. Step 1: finances and secure arrangements. Step 2: 48 hours before you exit: “Lazy Lindsey, I’ve decided that this living arrangement isn’t working for me and our relationship has run its course. I appreciate the time together and wish you well. I’m moving out over…
/r/newTRP29/09/22 09:02 PM
12

OP may be the biggest simp we’ve had in here this year.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 11:59 PM
4

Men and women are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 11:05 PM
18

I am insecure about committing to promiscuous women the same way I am insecure about sailing off the coast of Somalia, taking a nap with a black mamba or buying a used parachute off Craigslist. These things represent a reasonable risk to my current and future well being.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 10:21 PM
1

Hypothetically, you’re right. You could still possess mostly masculine traits and wear a dress. But that’s not what is done in practice. Our behaviors matter far more than our clothes. No one doubts Hulk Hogan’s masculinity for starring in the 90’s movie Mr. Nanny. Harry Styles on the other hand…… I wonder how many current day non-celebrity men wearing skirts can bench press their body weight, clean a fish or change a tire. Additionally, the makeup was a cultural norm of the day. Today, it’s not…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 02:25 PM
1

The examples you provided are good examples of cultural norms of the time period. Even with the makeup, skirts and/or frilly socks, they were still going to war which is a man’s job. Why? It’s not because women couldn’t shoot muskets or swing swords. It’s because at some level, we have always known that sperm is cheap and eggs are expensive. Additionally, men tend to have greater upper body strength which, I’m sure you can see, is an advantage in any type of combat. Men and women are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 01:57 PM
1

While we all exist on a spectrum, men and women have natural proclivities due to our biological differences. What you’ve described is what is known as “blank slate equalism”. This is a nature vs nurture conversation. Blank slate equalism completely disregards the nature part of the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 01:42 PM
1

Refreshing comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 03:31 AM
3

The left absolutely does NOT have a definition for a what a woman is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:59 PM
2

I agree but it is their current reality. Maybe we could say “Take this time to explore opportunities and understand that your time here will be relatively short in the grand scheme of things. It can get better or worse depending on your mindset and the decisions that you make.”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:01 PM
6

But your thesis, while written eloquently, can be summarized as “You are young. Just wait until your older and things will work out. Ignore the pills.” That’s the blue pill which often doesn’t work and is why we have the “pills”in the first place. Those who would benefit from the advice don’t need it. Those would need the advice won’t benefit from this specific advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 09:40 PM
4

It may be obvious to you and I as adults but to a twenty year old, it likely seems much more permanent. Kind of like 9 weeks to get your report card seemed like an eternity when you were in the 6th grade. I think that you are assuming that twenty year olds have the wisdom and luxury of hindsight.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:22 PM
5

What does it matter if there are 1,000 Lamborghinis for sale on the lot if all you have is $85 in your bank account? Dating in your 30’s COULD be better assuming you build confidence, physique, money and or personality. Sure the selection has dwindled but now you have more purchasing power.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:14 PM
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37 man here. Why is college a pseudo reality? I would argue this is the first time many will experience freedom and independence for the first time in which they will discover some realities. Example - guy finds out he’s not quite as cute or funny as mommy says he is. I would agree that 20’s are potentially difficult time for a lot of guys in regards to dating. I do not agree that most problems will go away naturally. For some this will be true but there will be (what appears to be a growing num…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 07:37 PM
3

Good answer. Also made me laugh because I do keep a running list on my phone of ideas for Christmas/Birthday gifts, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:58 PM
4

Excellent dear diary entry. Yes. You may move forward in asking our fair maiden to hang out, With love, Giant horse Xoxo
/r/newTRP21/09/22 10:18 PM
2

Right. Moving from “I hope she likes me” to “maybe I’ll like her” solves some of this. Approaching with a sense of curiosity rather than neediness. Easy to say. Can be hard to do at least at first.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 06:12 PM
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Any organizations with demographic hiring quotas are not equal opportunity employers. The problem with this is that it disincentivizes white males but does not incentivize other demographics because the company openly admits that some of these positions will just be given.
/r/MensRights21/09/22 01:56 PM
5

I hear you bro. I was the same way for the majority of my life. The headspace app, the gym, guitar, eliminating buffers and furthering my career helped me get out of it. If you are having thoughts about if you “are good enough?”, my advice is to stay out of LTR for now until you can confidently answer with a “Yes.”
/r/newTRP20/09/22 04:14 AM
13

Yes. Get this out of your head. Sex is good. Submissive, in your frame and you enjoy her company. Boom. You can stop there as there is no problem here. You are attempting to manufacture dread for no reason which in my view is worse than being unaware of what dread is in the first place. This idea of trying to manufacture dread with your FWB sounds as though you are overthinking which can be a one way ticket to stepping into her frame. If you want to go out with her, by all means, go out and have…
/r/newTRP19/09/22 10:55 PM
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Damn. Great write up and well worth the read. This was a good reminder for me. Anecdotal reinforcement example: LTR and I are dealing with a somewhat stressful event. I’ve kept my cool throughout it but she sensed something was up with me this weekend and asked directly if I was stressed while she was taking a bath and I was getting ready. I quickly answered “Yeah. But it’ll be alright.” This was not enough to calm her fears and she responded with “Wait. What? No. I need you to tell me it’s ok.”…
/r/TheRedPill19/09/22 03:04 PM
2

Point 2 made me laugh out loud!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:42 PM
8

You are only taking into account one aspect of effect. You need to also consider cause of high body count. Here are two: Impulsivity High risk tolerance It does not take the world’s leading sociologist to correlate these traits with infidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 01:22 PM
1

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 12:52 PM
2

Right. I think “red flag” is used inaccurately, at least on Reddit. A red flag signifies a negative outcome. In this case, only fans/cam girls ARE the negative outcome. I wouldn’t accept this even in financial dire straights. Any woman who has done any type of sex work for any amount of time is immediately and permanently disqualified from my investment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 03:08 AM
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It’s not just school. I had to attend a “diversity meeting” at work a few years ago. I was understandably not excited about it but dialed in because it was strongly encouraged (corporate speak for required). The first guy who speaks says something to the effect of “I’m an ally and am ashamed to be a white male.” I promptly called my boss’ cell phone as she was also on the conference call to let her know I would not be attending these any longer.
/r/MensRights17/09/22 02:52 PM
3

There are many that view the inverse of this to be true which is the entire reason TRP was created. That’s literally it; guys swapping notes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 12:10 AM
2

Simply put, It is the attachment to the outcome that would make it needy.
/r/seduction15/09/22 07:49 PM
14

You write this from the perspective of someone who thinks that no man would ever want to be a father. You’ve surpassed solipsism into something we don’t even have a word for yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:37 PM
5

Text her to “wake you up when September ends” and then forget she exists. If your phone lights up with her name, keep as plate.
/r/newTRP12/09/22 11:29 PM
4

No. Personally, I have never seen this work well in my 37 years on this planet. You made a decision and from the sounds of it, a good one. Don’t go fucking it up.
/r/newTRP10/09/22 04:20 PM
6

He is saying that being bold and establishing a man to woman frame is effective because it communicates non-verbally that you are confident in yourself and go after what you want. If you were a “maybe” to her, this MIGHT be enough to sway her based on the change in her feelings.
/r/seduction09/09/22 08:55 PM
3

Can you give us why you think this is “toxic” rather than just throwing around words?
/r/seduction09/09/22 07:52 PM
2

+1 for improv and toastmasters.
/r/seduction09/09/22 12:41 AM
2

This one gave me an lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 06:47 PM
2

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:57 AM
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Right. I cannot for the life of me understand this “men want an experienced woman” trope. No the fuck we don’t. The mechanics of sex are not difficult. Why would experience be a virtue?!
/r/TheRedPill05/09/22 02:54 PM
1

I came here to make this exact comment and was pleased to see it already here at the top.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 04:30 PM
49

Good post. “How you do anything is how you do everything.”
/r/TheRedPill31/08/22 03:37 PM
3

The medium is the message. All we can ascertain from this is that she was interested then. Set the next date and if she’s shows up, she’s interested. No “phone buddy” texting in between now and then unless she initiates. Get out of her head.
/r/newTRP30/08/22 09:53 PM
3

Right. I saw some post recently titled “38 signs your child might have autism.” One of them was “doesn’t like food on their plate to touch their other food.” I had to laugh. I also dislike ketchup in macaroni and cheese.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 03:05 AM
3

Right. Maybe I was a tad unclear. What I mean is that no woman is going to approach me based solely on my appearance. Men will approach women almost solely because of their appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:06 PM
12

Exactly. I’m not a bad looking guy. I could go to Vegas dressed to the 9s and unless I move my feet and open my mouth, exactly zero women are going to approach me. I could go every night for a year and the result would be the same. It’s not me. It’s that men and women are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 05:32 PM
0

We are too different to be equals in every facet of life and as a result, there are double standards. This is neither bad nor good; it is a result of our biological and social differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 12:11 AM
2

You aren’t big on analogies it would appear
/r/MensRights25/08/22 09:28 PM
8

Right. I don’t understand this argument trying to make experience appear as an asset. The mechanics of sex are not difficult. It’s like “Have you plugged a phone charger in before?” Ok. Well then you get it!
/r/MensRights25/08/22 08:03 PM
4

If “Cant hurt me” doesn’t get your dick hard for self improvement, nothing will. Who’s gonna carry the morherfuckin boats!?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/22 06:47 PM
6

From TRM vol. 1.
/r/askMRP24/08/22 06:00 PM
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You were GIVEN oneitis? This one word tell us and hopefully you everything you need to know. If not, you’ve got a scarcity mentality, refuse to take responsibility and allow life to happen to you rather than making it happen. lift internalize “There are good ones. There are bad ones. But there is no one.”
/r/askMRP24/08/22 05:30 PM
2

Ha! Exactly. Weed is a very popular buffer. If it’s not included in TRM vol 1, it really should’ve been.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/22 05:41 PM
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When I was a kid, after getting busted smoking for like the 30th time, my dad took me on a long drive and said “There’s nothing morally wrong with smoking weed. It’s just that most people who smoke a lot don’t do anything with their lives.” This is indeed a generalization but it’s been 20 years since that conversation and I’d say my dad’s statement is true of about 70% of people I’ve come across. For me, it is not possible to be high/drunk and have frame.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/22 01:30 PM
10

I like this analogy. Summarizing from the book Zen guitar: “Learn everything there is to learn. Scales, chords, modes. Backwards, forwards, sideways, etc. But when the time comes, don’t think about any of it and just play.” Applies to much in life.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/22 02:49 AM
8

Yes. That is the implied part. You must actually have value for it to matter.
/r/seduction17/08/22 12:51 PM
150

One of the most powerful things a man can possess is the willingness to walk away.
/r/seduction17/08/22 04:19 AM
6

You gotta read up on frame man.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/22 06:11 PM
0

No. I would never be a SAHD. I believe in traditional roles and must fulfill that role in order for a relationship to be successful and satisfying. If it made more financial sense for me to be a SAHD, I would work harder to make that scenario as short as possible. I am responsible for making life happen; not allowing life to happen to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 01:35 PM
1

I can’t tell if this is sarcasm or not but it made me laugh either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 01:28 PM
1

Ha! That quote seems applicable. I’m curious why you are using it 4-5 days a week. It was my understanding that it was imperative to use daily although I do not remember what the half life is. I tried it all man. Finasteride, duasteride, rogaine, nizoral, laser “therapy”. It all seems to have provided some result but wouldn’t keep my thick curly mop. Got a case of the fuck its and never looked back.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 05:22 AM
2

Nice man! Glad to hear it’s working out!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:08 AM
3

Interesting. How old are you now? I started fin at 21 and then moved to duasteride (blocks both parts of DHT) at 23 and stayed on it until 28. I think it slowed my progression but I still wasn’t happy so I decided to discontinue and start buzzing. I would be a Norwood IV if I grew it out. I’m way happier just shaving my head now. Is yours thick?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:03 AM
2

Watermelon not golfball?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:27 PM
52

You were supposed to send your 4 old Milwaukee tall boys in last month to get your privilege and patriarchy card.
/r/MensRights14/08/22 07:06 PM
3

Anything can be a market place. Men are also a commodity.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:07 AM
2

We tend to not respect those that do not respect themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:06 AM
4

Men and women are different. A woman’s sexuality is her greatest asset to a man. A man’s resources, time and attention is his greatest asset to a woman. A woman who freely and openly has sex indiscriminately is likely to be viewed the same way a man who freely and openly tries to get into a relationship with any woman who will have him. This is two sides of the opposite sex coin.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:41 PM
6

No. It’s not the sex itself losing value. It’s the owner of the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 09:20 PM
5

That answer could get really long. In short, exponentially increasing the supply of something deemed valuable by the majority decreases its value.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 09:07 PM
6

The term “slut shaming” is so confusing to me. Slut is already a pejorative. It’s shameful enough on its own. We wouldn’t say “stop dumbass shaming”. We would say “Hey Rob! Stop being a dumbass.” Then maybe Rob would examine his behavior and go “Oh. I see that I am indeed being a dumbass. Maybe I should change my behavior.”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 07:32 PM
3

Yes. Don’t do this.
/r/seduction12/08/22 11:34 PM
6

Oh. Well there we have it. As you know from NMMNG, “nice guys are bad enders.” An extremely effective way to not be a bad ender is to not start something that you know is going to be bad for you. Compassion is admirable but not at the expense of our own well being. We can be somewhat sympathetic from afar without being SIMPathetic.
/r/newTRP12/08/22 07:52 PM
9

Welcome. 99.9 percent certain that this will be a bad move for you since you are saying it yourself. We should be picking from the best of the best; not the best of the worst. But since we are here and you are new, what makes you think she is BPD? I ask because BPD is probably the single most overused classification in the sphere.
/r/newTRP12/08/22 07:34 PM
1

Thank you for your contribution.
/r/newTRP12/08/22 07:14 PM
1

I think you need to look at it the opposite way. Having a bird’s eye view is going to be too subjective and really difficult to measure. Instead, breaking down your areas that were fucked up and see how far you’ve come. Some will be measurable; some will not. I like to categorize my goals by mind/body/soul. Maybe you can use this is a template Emotional control - When I came here I was a raging alcoholic. In hindsight, alcohol was a symptom. My problem was emotion and impulse control. Since usin…
/r/newTRP12/08/22 07:12 PM
8

Sounds good! Could have really used this advice in 2007.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 08:02 PM
3

If I recall, this is a Rollo quote.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 08:02 PM
9

True. Humility is an attractive trait in those who have achieved something.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 07:16 PM
49

This is why STFU is a core principle of TRP especially in the early stage. When I was 20/21, I was acquaintances with a large group of very attractive women my age at my first real job. I was on an obsessive self improvement kick at the time relentlessly hitting the gym, eating clean, focusing on dress, posture, etc. They asked why I was putting so much work into self improvement and why I didn’t have a girlfriend. I told them directly that “I need get more muscles before I can get a girlfriend.…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 06:45 PM
8

Looks directly in eyes with shoulders back and feet pointed towards her “Hi. I’m Jaydyn.”
/r/seduction10/08/22 06:28 PM
16

Stop calling yourself a boy. You are a man now. Your height is not going to be much of a factor if at all. Ignore the “looking for 6ft” line on dating apps. The last 3 jobs I’ve had “required” a Master’s degree. I barely graduated high school and the last time I attempted college course work was in 2005. Your experience with women may be the same way.
/r/seduction09/08/22 08:52 PM
8

Get the fuck out of here with this shit.
/r/seduction08/08/22 09:35 PM
12

Hell yes. The day I decided to buzz all the way, it felt like I grew 5 inches and my dick got bigger. I/it didn’t but my posture got better. Turns out that trying to hide something about yourself will nuke your confidence. OP - I can tell you that my sex life has improved 3 fold after shaving my head. Hit the gym and focus on that back if you aren’t already.
/r/seduction06/08/22 02:26 PM
2

I think you’ve got to build an abundance mindset in regards to both women and life in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 03:23 PM
10

My experience is not unlike yours. I was never some sexless loser but I had no control over sex. It was just like a puddle that I accidentally stepped into on occasion. At 29, I got married and we had a bunch of problems. FOMO started to creep up at the end and we got a divorce around my 33rd birthday. I stumbled onto TRP, got my shit together and spun plates for a while. It was fun at first to get some validation and have new experiences. Like you said, it feels good to be desired. But then it …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 01:25 PM
1

Agree. Men and women are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:16 PM
3

I also checked it out. Hope OP gets the help he needs. Interesting that it is here though as it explains a facet of the current progressive gender ideology. It’s an extreme “grass is greener” case.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/22 07:55 PM
22

I’m really torn on “this was a waste of my time reading this” and “this is hilarious”.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/22 07:18 PM
1

Right. Before we “just be ourselves” we should consider if the current version of ourselves are someone worth being.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 02:12 PM
2

We can be very expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 02:10 PM
13

I really like Aaron. OP - check out Aaron Clarey’s, The Book of Numbers.
/r/MensRights02/08/22 02:02 AM
2

I did in fact read it all. I think that you’ve put a lot of thought into this and the overall theme is to not make women the focus of your life and you are exactly right. Ironically, this makes you more attractive. Men and women are different. Although I do think the average woman would spiral into a deep depression if she had to live men’s experience, I don’t think they are “hiding”. From a practical perspective, women don’t typically approach men because they don’t have to. From a biological p…
/r/seduction31/07/22 04:25 PM
12

Naw no such thing as luck brotha. You approached. You demonstrated that you have balls and will take the necessary steps to get what you want. It was a good day.
/r/seduction30/07/22 07:16 PM
11

I go to Publix almost daily and I fall in love eh lust at least twice while in there …. from behind anyways.
/r/seduction30/07/22 07:10 PM
2

MGTOW: Primarily losers who’ve given up. Taking their ball and going home even though no one wants them. Makes necessity a virtue. RP: Hey guys! Girls are not made of sugar and spice and everything nice. No one owes you shit. Whatever happens, it’s your fault. Do the work and handle your shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 05:49 PM
6

You are describing MGTOW; not RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:12 PM
1

Proof for the root being inadequacy? I don’t have it although, I do not think it would take the world’s leading sociologist to come to that conclusion. Proof for resolving feelings of inadequacy or increasing personal power? Anyone who has ever received a significant raise or achieved a personal goal could serve as evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 07:18 PM
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I am a bit perplexed by fetishes that the individual recognises is harmful. This specific one, in my opinion, is clearly rooted in feelings inadequacy and powerlessness. Why is the solution to feed into the inadequacy and call it a fetish rather than identify it is an opportunity for improvement? No one can get taller but one can become more powerful both physically and mentally.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 06:19 PM
2

Excellent analysis man. As a kid, I knew they were political but I had no idea how extreme they would come to be.
/r/MensRights27/07/22 12:45 AM
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Is this a rage against the machine tour poster?
/r/MensRights26/07/22 09:01 PM
1

Full agree and adopting that mindset will probably make most men more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 02:32 PM
2

The issue is that you think women care about any grievances that men have. They want the tingles and they want them now. Unless of course they don’t, in which case you are creepy. “Women don’t care about your struggles. They hangout at the finish line and pick the winners.”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 02:02 PM
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Fuuuuuuuck no! Men and women are different. We are best as compliments to one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:11 AM
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Agree that time is the ultimate form of bux.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 02:13 PM
3

Excuses excuses excuses excuses
/r/seduction22/07/22 02:30 PM
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99lbs is not too skinny to attract all women. It IS too skinny to attract the women you will want. lift 4x a week. Bench/Squat/Deadlift/Military Press. If you go to the gym and did not do one of these, you did it wrong. Don’t bring your ego and lift light at first concentrating on form. Stay off bar squat for now and focus on the goblet squat using a dumbell or kettlebell. You must be in a calorie surplus. Drink this after your workout. Creatine! Nom nom! Eat/drink this up. Water! Water! Water! …
/r/newTRP22/07/22 02:15 PM
1

Oh. I remember you. Hey man! How’s the deadlifts coming?
/r/newTRP22/07/22 04:23 AM
1

That’s what I get for not checking post history. Fool me once!
/r/newTRP21/07/22 06:03 PM
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There is no question here so I hope you enjoyed your dear diary entry. Brief analysis: - Scarcity mentality. A man with options would not be in a months long text convo with a woman he (apparently) hasn’t fucked. Covert contract. “I sent her a gift card hoping that it would reignite our passionate months long text conversation.” The free attention you’ve been giving is worth way more than a $50 gift card to Jared’s Jewellers. What would really get her wet is knowing how frustrated her potential …
/r/newTRP21/07/22 02:47 PM
5

I believe the post was changed from discussion to CMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:01 AM
15

Man. Women tend to communicate covertly while men tend to communicate overtly. The medium is the message.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 08:18 PM
15

Sperm is cheap. Eggs are expensive. The average man will always have a more difficult time generating interest than average woman. It’s not easier to be a woman; it is different. It’s not easier to me a man; it is different. Worrying about leagues is a waste of time. Fuck a fatty if you want. -Create the best version of yourself. - Approach. - Accept the results and learn from them while not being attached to the outcome (easy to say; can be difficult to do). - Don’t be needy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:48 PM
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Well done. “The stay plan is the same as the go plan” is the overarching theme. I find living by this makes LTR fairly easy … for me ….. for now.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/22 01:30 PM
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Why have you not read No More Mr. Nice Guy? You are the poster child for someone who needs to read it AND do the exercises.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 12:29 AM
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Seems both men and women will have to assess risk, make decisions and be accountable for their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:50 PM
3

The post is satire.
/r/askMRP16/07/22 03:57 PM
5

Be nice Be yourself Follow your heart Happy LDR, Happy life
/r/askMRP16/07/22 04:55 AM
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She’s advertising. You aren’t the target audience. The medium is the message.
/r/askMRP15/07/22 10:16 PM
2

Yehp. I like it. We are saying very similar things. Cheers!
/r/MensRights14/07/22 06:42 PM
2

Very true. I was a skeptical as well. You are correct about the covert contract being transactional but worse because it is unspoken. It is usually an IF/Then statement - “If I work really hard then I will get a promotion (without having to ask for it)”,”If I clean the house really well then my wife will want to have sex when she gets home(and if she doesn’t, I’m going to be really angry/sad/etc)” There is a Facebook group that is really active and there is a small group that meets over Zoom onc…
/r/MensRights14/07/22 05:56 PM
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The book was life changing for me. I think some guys get hung up on the title with binary thinking. “What’s wrong with being nice?! I don’t want to be a jerk!” The book is essentially about assertiveness, accepting things you cannot change and changing things you can, determining/communicating boundaries and avoiding covert contracts. In my opinion, for men who have struggles for low self esteem or assertiveness, it is the single greatest resource.
/r/MensRights14/07/22 04:16 PM
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No. You made a decision. You communicated it. Life has moved on. Closure is for women.
/r/newTRP13/07/22 11:17 PM
2

You’ve failed to swallow the pill. You aren’t mad they’ve slept with “fuck boys”. You are mad that it isn’t you. We all want a slut but only if she is exclusively a slut for us. As always, avoid wifing up high N counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 09:10 PM
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I will never in 8 billion George Burns lifetimes understand people who say “the past doesn’t matter.” We spend our entire lives building our resumes, credit scores, taking photos to preserve memories, framing diplomas, etc. All of which occurred in the past.
/r/MensRights12/07/22 02:59 PM
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“Numbers don’t tell you anything.” Tell your credit score that.
/r/MensRights12/07/22 02:54 PM
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The medium IS the message.
/r/seduction10/07/22 04:50 PM
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Of course. At this point it’s not difficult to me: Have a purpose Don’t over commit Set and enforce boundaries Understand that anyone can do anything at anytime and with no notice
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 11:23 PM
10

I think you over complicated this. Women want a man who “just gets it.”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 10:21 PM
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Sure. You are being downvoted because “Be yourself” is the most cliche advice out there. It’s not even really advice. It’s what people say to you when they don’t know what to say or are just parroting others. 9 times out of 10, if someone is asking for advice and hear “be yourself” he or she tends to do nothing. And that’s what it’s all about; DOING. You must DO before you BE. It would implore all of us when we hear “be yourself” to ask “Is myself someone worth being?” The answer to this questio…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/22 09:07 PM
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The post is literally about you.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/22 08:08 PM
3

You’ve got more currency now and you should take time to decide how you want to spend it. It’s like Mike Jones said “Back den they didn’t want me. Now I’m hot, they all on me.” As long as you do not provide exclusivity to any of these women from your past, future’s bright kid!
/r/seduction06/07/22 04:09 PM
2

She adds value to your life which is great. You think there are other women out there that could do the same without the excessive n count? I’m certain there are. Will you meet them? Hard to say. I think the method for LTR+ is to pick from the best of the best; not the best of the worst.
/r/newTRP04/07/22 01:41 AM
3

Being that male college attendance is really down, it’s possible that your statement is not hyperbolic.
/r/newTRP04/07/22 12:36 AM
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Good! Also, never underestimate the power of status.
/r/seduction03/07/22 08:38 PM
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You have new information now. We cannot tell you what to do with it. Are you cool with being exclusive with a woman who has fucked the equivalent of two full NFL teams? This would include 2nd and 3rd string. Basically, you are watching both teams who are in uniform on the field at one time. A few team staff are also included. All of them have fucked your girl. Envisioning this, are you still good? Can you still respect her and yourself in light of this new information? You already answered yours…
/r/newTRP03/07/22 08:13 PM
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You don’t need to go nuclear but you need to set boundaries. “Sorry to hear about your mom. Hey. Time management is really important to me. In the future if you’re going to be late, let me know.” That’s it. If it happens again without her letting you know, she’s either testing, irresponsible and/or doesn’t value you.
/r/seduction02/07/22 02:30 PM
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progressive overload lifting use the headspace app which will train you to observe your thoughts rather than be your thoughts take care of your appearance starting with hygiene pick one thing that scares you and face it head on. Ex: if you are afraid of heights, you can go skydiving. If that is too much, start with a rooftop visit or zip lining. Repeat.
/r/newTRP01/07/22 05:28 PM
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About 10 years ago, I worked at a large bank. I became bros with the HR guy (rare I know and even more rare for HR to be male). As we were taking a walk together outside one day, he said “you know, you guys need some more diversity on your team.” Being that he was a black guy, I assumed he meant black people. I think he could see me mentally running down the list of black people on our team. He smirked and said “No. I don’t mean black people. I mean men.” Any organisation with a demographic quot…
/r/MensRights30/06/22 02:31 PM
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Yes. It is normal to be attracted to other women but none of this other shit matters because - “We fight everyday and we actually hit each other.” All of the advice in the world is going to help you when you catch a DV charge. You need to get your house in order and never strike a woman unless it is in self defence.
/r/seduction29/06/22 09:28 PM
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I wouldn’t retroactively address it since it was just some random and like you said, it didn’t bother you much. If it comes up again, you gotta address it immediately (privately). The best way that I have found to assert a boundary is to let her know “MY girl does not do ___” and then you can elaborate a little from there.
/r/seduction28/06/22 10:21 PM
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Like the other guys said, it’s that she is verbally comparing you that is the problem. That’s when it moved from shit test to straight disrespect. Consider for a moment that in the back of every woman’s head is “if he can’t stand up to me, how will he stand up for me?”
/r/seduction28/06/22 08:29 PM
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You really need to read No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. You have a covert contract with this girl. You covert contract is: “Other guys fooled around with her. If I, a guy who is better than some of them, express my interest to her then she will be receptive to me.” But it gets worse. When we engage in these covert contracts and do not get what we want, we tend to see ourselves as less than those who were accepted. This lowers our confidence and/or makes us bitter and resentful. Until we s…
/r/seduction28/06/22 03:19 PM
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A unicorn that is on girls night out drinking, flirting and dancing huh? Interesting. Your idea of unicorn must be different than mine.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/22 03:36 AM
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You are welcome. Keep in mind that this is a seduction sub. First rule of journalism is to always consider the source. It will behoove some men to encourage women to sleep around as much as possible because if women raised their standard, some of those men would not meet them. We are all self serving. Always know when you are in the jungle.
/r/seduction23/06/22 12:15 AM
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Your standards are your standards. No one can tell you what these are. You will likely be shamed for your standard and be called insecure. This is false. What would make you insecure is if you changed your standard based on someone else’s criticism. You are your own judge. Speaking of judgement, there is nothing wrong with it. Judgement can keep you safe and allow you to make good informed decisions. Additionally, don’t listen to any moron who tells you “it’s 2022”. What in the fuck does the god…
/r/seduction22/06/22 11:41 PM
2

Bingo!
/r/seduction22/06/22 02:21 PM
1

Right. “Guys! I eat desert first everyday and then I’m not hungry for dinner. What gives?!”
/r/seduction22/06/22 01:35 PM
2

There are no breaks; only break ups.
/r/seduction22/06/22 01:30 PM
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Absolutely. Works with anything.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/22 03:50 PM
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TLDR: Confidence is not something you be; it’s something you build. That’s because it’s not advice. No one ever disagrees or questions “be confident” because they are technically correct but only mention then end result. This is much like saying “be strong” Confidence is not something you be; it is something you build. Lifting is great for this. I don’t know about you but I like metrics. When I walked back in the gym after a 7 year break, I think I could bench 135. I had destroyed my strength wi…
/r/TheRedPill20/06/22 02:11 PM
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I don’t think you understand. If something is not helpful to you, either refute it, inquire further or move on.
/r/newTRP19/06/22 07:05 PM
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It’s not an argument; it’s a point and perspective. If you have a different one, offer it up. If not, then there’s nothing to do.
/r/newTRP19/06/22 02:26 PM
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There were approximately 100 million sperm released when when you were conceived. For some reason, you made it. You owe it to the other 99.9 million to not let shit you can’t control bother you. Download the headspace app.
/r/newTRP19/06/22 12:08 AM
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My advice is to completely disregard pick up or game for now. It’s not doing you any damn good and in fact may be holding you back because you are so in your head. Make a point to approach 3 people per day (or whatever your schedule organically allows) for any reason. It can be men or women. The only requirement is that you do not know them. Then you will do the same except for specifically for approaching women. Drugs and alcohol are buffers if used as a crutch. Consider for a moment that your …
/r/seduction18/06/22 04:17 AM
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“Guys! I have this girl naked in my bed with her legs behind her head. You think she’s DTF?!” C’mon man! Ask her to hang out
/r/seduction17/06/22 09:57 PM
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The amount of empathy given directly corresponds to the amount of work or the willingness to do the work of the individual posting. I can have empathy for guys who are taking responsibility for their lives and asking for feedback. I cannot have empathy for guys with Cheeto stained fingers, playing 6 hours of video games a day and asking why fitness models do not want to fuck them.
/r/seduction17/06/22 03:08 PM
2

Absolutely!
/r/seduction17/06/22 01:22 AM
2

Agreed.
/r/seduction16/06/22 06:45 PM
2

Well said and I could certainly relate at one point.
/r/seduction16/06/22 06:45 PM
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Perception. When you have regular access to sex/intimacy, it’s a small part of a good life. When you have no or infrequent access to sex/intimacy, it’s an enormous part of a shitty life.
/r/seduction16/06/22 02:57 PM
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You’ve given us some good background except for one key element. What are you doing about it? I am going to strongly advise against you seeing any prostitutes. If it goes poorly, your already low self confidence is gonna get lower. If it goes well, your already low self confidence is gonna get lower because you’re going to ruminate about how pathetic it is to have to pay for sex. To calm your fears a bit, I lost mine at 19-20. I can remember feeling like an alien until then. Much like you, I had…
/r/newTRP16/06/22 01:27 AM
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Right. That’s fine. By “don’t be predictable” here, I mean don’t have a habit of always setting the next date on a date and don’t always set the same type of date.
/r/newTRP14/06/22 11:09 PM
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You are overthinking it. Edit: just don’t become too predictable.
/r/newTRP14/06/22 10:34 PM
0

“If you lived here, you’d be home.”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:40 PM
3

If you have problems here, you’ll have problems there.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:26 PM
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The benefit is at least two fold: Yes. Being physically fit will make you more physically attractive to women which will increase your odds. Most guys don’t want to be weaklings. There is no easier way for men to build confidence and have at least a part time purpose than lifting weights. Often, and ideally, this confidence translates into other areas of life. Physicality + confidence = More opportunity.
/r/newTRP02/06/22 04:21 PM
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Welcome. Use paragraphs in the future. It’s funny. As a kid I remember hearing Cyndi Lauper’s “Girls just want to have fun” on the radio and in movies. It was everywhere. What I did not know as a kid is that girls do indeed just want to have fun. It’s just that fun sometimes means throwing morality, values and commitments out of the metaphorical window. Takeaway? Be fun. Don’t take them too seriously.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/22 01:48 PM
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Delete her contact. Hit the sidebar. Hard. Three times.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/22 05:33 AM
2

I agree with your view. I excluded extremes as 98% of the sub probably will not co-star with lady Gaga, start for the Atlanta Hawks or become self made multi millionaires.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 06:49 PM
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Yes. It is your job to ask for what you want. One thing that separates the haves from the have nots is the willingness to ask. Women typically do not approach because they simply don’t have to. Men usually approach women by literally approaching. Women usually approach men by making themselves available to be approached.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:58 PM
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This was extremely well written and explained.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:29 PM
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Would need to inject you with 13-20x the amount of testosterone currently in your body for you to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 05:26 PM
1

Judging by your response, you probably don’t need to become wittier. what I think you need to do is to be present in the moment. If she’s digging your vibe she thinks you are “sooooo funny.” If she’s not, it doesn’t matter anyway. I’ve been playing guitar for almost 25 years. The absolute worst way for me to come up with something original that I like to play is to TRY to come up with something original that I like playing. Our interactions with each other work much the same way.
/r/seduction27/05/22 03:35 AM
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Doesn’t really matter what you say as long as you stay in your frame. Here you used agree and amplify. Your response isn’t super witty or anything but it works. Plus you already smashed. Guess she likes creep dick then.
/r/seduction27/05/22 02:22 AM
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Guy here. I was told “be nice and be yourself” and also “you suffer eternal damnation if you have sex before you are married.” That was the whole talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:11 AM
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It could be shooting your shot with a woman you know and getting rejected but continuing to pursue her thinking “she’ll come around.” It could be staying in a job where you are clearly not appreciated. You know you could make more money elsewhere but you are scared to make a move. It could be staying in a relationship that is clearly dysfunctional.
/r/seduction23/05/22 02:46 PM
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Yes. It’s unfortunate that nice is now a pejorative. I agree that there are genuine people out there that who now get a bad rep because of some retarded internet trend. I now call these people kind. The “nice” the book refers to is the guy who can’t set or enforce boundaries, who’s worth is wrapped up in what he does for others and in general is a bit of a coward. He gives or does to get. All “nice guys” in the pejorative engage in covert contracts. Extreme example: Guy buys woman dinner and get…
/r/seduction23/05/22 02:24 PM
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I see where you are coming from. TLDR: check out Mark Manson’s book Models. Not being needy means unapologetically going after what you want regardless of the outcome. It’s normal and good to want a desired outcome and take steps to make it happen. The problem occurs when we experience extreme fluctuations in our self esteem/self worth/confidence based on the outcome of those desires. Example of neediness. Guy gets rejected and is disappointed. No problem here yet. He thinks about this rejection…
/r/seduction23/05/22 02:01 PM
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Yes. You sound like a previous version of myself. NMMNG will definitely help. Here is an exercise from the book for you. Sometime this week, ask someone to do something for you that you could easily do yourself. It can be literally anyone for any thing. The point? You need to realize that your needs matter. Also, oftentimes, people are happy do something for you if you just ask. There is a subreddit dedicated to NMMNG and also a very active Facebook group. Join it once you have the book and ask …
/r/seduction23/05/22 12:50 AM
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Life changing shit if it applies to you and you are willing to do the work. I read the hard copy the first 3-4 times through and now I listen to it on audible quarterly. Every guy I’ve spoken to that read the book has the same reaction I did. “Has someone been following me around my whole life and then wrote a book about it?” High level takeaways: covert contracts are social/relationship killers. A covert contract is “I will do this thing for you and you will do this thing for me but we will not…
/r/seduction23/05/22 12:18 AM
2

True. An anecdotal example of women tend to prioritize context and men tend to prioritize content.
/r/seduction22/05/22 09:28 PM
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Yes. You are right. It is often about bad decisions. On a side note, you are wise to avoid drugs and alcohol. Well done. You don’t seem to be grasping the theme. The point of my responses are not to get you to change your mind or do anything different. The point is the men and women view sex and relationships very differently. It may behoove us to understand where each other are coming from and what the other sex values in an effort to achieve our goals. Men determine what is valuable in women. …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 08:25 PM
2

I’m not saying that it isn’t a positive thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 07:56 PM
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“Then those men need to stop being delusional.” I understand your viewpoint coming from a woman. Men and women are different. We have wildly different experiences which shapes our different views. There are many things women do that I find delusional but it’s pointless in telling them or trying to change them. We must always accept what is; not what should be. “Second of all please remember they should be grateful to be referred to as husband or boyfriend material because it is a compliment.” Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 07:51 PM
4

Perfectly rational and reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 06:43 PM
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“These guys need to realise it doesn’t mean you really liked those other men if they were just for sex.” That’s all fine and good but this is coming from a female perspective. From a male perspective, sex is the highest level of acceptance that men can receive from women. This is why men are often at least a little annoyed when they are referred to as “boyfriend” or “husband” material. Girlfriend, fiancé or wife is the highest level of acceptance that women can receive from men. Sex is the highe…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 06:20 PM
0

This book will change your life if you read it and do the exercises.
/r/seduction21/05/22 03:25 PM
3

Light switch effect.
/r/seduction19/05/22 11:52 PM
3

Wrong sub
/r/seduction19/05/22 10:07 PM
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Yes. These things matter. Some of these can be changed and some cannot. TRP is playing the best hand from your deck.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 07:57 PM
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Always watch actions over words and pay close attention to the subtext.
/r/seduction16/05/22 01:52 AM
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Being needy or approval seeking will repel women faster than being fat/dumb/broke/ugly, etc. The medium is always the message
/r/seduction16/05/22 01:32 AM
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JFC kid. If it’s a deal breaker, move on. Personally, I think it’s stupid as fuck.
/r/seduction14/05/22 07:35 PM
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“Should you just continue to date her and have a fun time and let her bring it up to not seem needy?” Yes. You’ve got it exactly. Also, you’re one month in. That is waaaaaaay premature for exclusivity in most cases. Don’t deprive her of living out her own version of her favourite dating/sexy drama TV show. She wants to have her own “will they or won’t they?”theme.
/r/seduction14/05/22 06:53 PM
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I checked the spelling and it would appear I am correct.
/r/seduction14/05/22 12:12 AM
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You’re being too literal. IDGAF means passing shit tests, not giving in when she pouts or doesn’t get her way and having a strong frame. It’s being outcome independent. IDGAF does not mean to literally not care about anything, drink 6 sodas a day, jerk it to hentai and LARP online.
/r/seduction14/05/22 12:12 AM
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It’s impossible for us to know the answer with this amount of detail. I can tell you that it sounds like these guys are happyish (assumption) with their lives and may have a “Don’t give a fuck” attitude They don’t have their LTRs/wives on a pedalstal. The sub-communication is often more important and has a greater impact than direct communication and/or action. Perception is nine tenths of the law.
/r/seduction13/05/22 07:34 PM
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Right. Faking being busy is goofy as shit. BE busy. If you like how things are going, proceed as you are for now. Don’t fall into too much of a long term routine though. Avoid becoming a toy she can pull of the shelf when she wants. No need to overthink it. Women want to enter your world; not BE your world.
/r/seduction13/05/22 02:07 AM
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Make a goal to approach x amount of women a week even if to just to say “hi” at first. Join toastmasters. It will suck and you will hate it at first. It takes some balls.
/r/seduction12/05/22 10:14 PM
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Who knows about the dude in question. I can tell you that if you don’t value your own time, they won’t either. Men who are available 24/7 to women subconsciously communicate that they value her more than their own goals/hobbies/essentially self and this is more likely than not going to turn her off at some point.
/r/seduction12/05/22 10:12 PM
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The sexes can sympathise with one another but cannot empathise with one another. Men and women are different. We have wildly different experiences and viewpoints as a result. The exceptions SEEM to disprove the rule but only to those who are experiencing the exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 03:44 PM
2

That works too!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:30 PM
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The reason you see “just lift bro” in these subs is because: A substantial portion of these men lack self confidence to begin with. In my opinion, there is no faster and more idiot proof way for men to build confidence than to consistently lift weights. Hopefully, and often, this translates to other areas of life. Being in shape will not guarantee you get laid but it will help. Even if the only benefit is the belief that you can, sometimes that is all that is required.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:59 PM
1

Treasury for a large bank. I’m going to estimate it’s 75-80% women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:21 PM
2

Well without a lot of context, that’ll be impossible to do. You say you have never experienced this in your life. Good! We can chalk it up to the problem most likely being her. Analysis is only valuable if we use it as a road map to getting better results. In your case, since this is your only reported occurrence, the analysis is irrelevant because it’s a one off and based on this, the only behaviour change you need to make is to know when to drop out.
/r/newTRP07/05/22 06:07 PM
5

That’s why you have multiples so when this shit comes up, you can easily uncomplicate your life.
/r/newTRP07/05/22 03:30 PM
2

I hear you. Having multiple options or sometimes just the belief that you could have multiple options should help. In addition to the above. you may benefit from downloading the headspace app and practicing mindfulness.
/r/seduction06/05/22 06:46 PM
6

Diagnosis: Perpetual oneitis Scarcity mentality So Fucking Needy Solution/Recommendation: Find a purpose outside of women. Become the main character in your own story. The main character in your current story is every woman who has ever and will ever live. Goals/Hobbies/Health/Friends/Family. Do not enter into any committed relationship for at least 2 years. During this time, you can have flings, ONS, FWB, whatever. Ideally, you will “date” multiple women at one time. As a continuation of the ab…
/r/seduction06/05/22 04:07 AM
3

That’s not that surprising. I was sitting in marriage counselling at 31 the first time someone ever explained in depth what boundaries were. A boundary is the behaviour from another person that you will accept. It can be direct or indirect. It’s important to drive home the point that a boundary is something YOU accept; not what someone else will do. If a boundary is crossed you can either communicate that you find whatever behaviour unacceptable or terminate the relationship depending on the sev…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:44 PM
1

Why on earth would we avoid the word boundary here? It is a fundamental of relationships. I wouldn’t be in this situation because I communicated the requirements of my commitment before entering into a committed relationship. If this were to occur after I communicated the requirements of my commitment, I would know that my commitment is no longer valued the way it was before. The medium is the message.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:07 PM
3

Social circle can be just hanging with friends, networking for work, etc. Lots of guys,it seems at least on Reddit, are hermits that just play a bunch of video games. No wonder they have no idea how to talk to women (or anyone) A lot of guys in relationships stop hanging with their friends as much and then have no support when they break up. Women typically fair better here because they maintain their friendships. I find it to be important for men to be around other men. We talk shit to each oth…
/r/newTRP30/04/22 01:49 AM
6

Sidebar(main sub), lift, diet, wardrobe, finances,social circle, mission. I refer to this as doing “the work”. Once you have this down or in motion, I would identify what YOUR specific work is. To do this you find an area you are deficient in and face it head on. If you are afraid of approaching, you will set a goal of approaching x women in x amount of days. If you are afraid of public speaking, you will join toastmasters, etc. Start small and work up or swing big. Beyond this, I like to set a …
/r/newTRP30/04/22 01:20 AM
4

You sound like you have some good awareness so I would expect for your anger/depression stage to be over relatively quick. This assumes that you cover the basics of self improvement and find a purpose independent of women. Anger/depression phase was about 3 months for me. What you have described is “she is not yours; it’s just your turn.” That is true. All that you own is your time and attention. It is important to note though that while it is just your turn, it may last 7 minutes or 70 years.
/r/newTRP29/04/22 09:49 PM
19

While it seems depressing now, it will become freeing in time. AWALT, at least in my interpretation, does not mean that every woman is going to cheat, monkey branch, etc. it does mean that under the “right” circumstances that any woman could. If I could offer you any advice, it would be to structure your life so that no single entity could ever devastate you. This may not be possible with your family assuming you have a close and loving relationship with them but it is possible when applied to w…
/r/newTRP29/04/22 07:13 PM
14

Another vote for NMMNG.
/r/seduction29/04/22 03:54 AM
1

I like how you framed this.
/r/seduction28/04/22 08:43 PM
1

My initial thought is what you elude to: she would jump if something better came along and it was a sure shot. None of us could possibly understand the ins and outs of someone else’s relationship on the internet. I can tell you that since I have had social media beginning in 2005, I’ve never personally known a couple like this that stayed together long. Maybe your friend is not that into her which makes him more desirable in her view.
/r/seduction28/04/22 08:30 PM
7

What I find interesting is about this is you say “there are no signs of her wanting to play the field” and then “ She’s very active on Instagram and literally every second story/ post is ass/tits.” You see how those two things conflict? She is advertising and her guy is not the target audience. People will behave as poorly as you allow in order to have their cake and eat it too.
/r/seduction28/04/22 08:12 PM
31

Solid. One of the stand out details here is “the women get with MUST be attractive by your own standards.” In my late teens/early twenties, I consciously decided to lower my standards in order to “practice” so I could get with the absolute baddest bitches. The goal was to build my confidence. Unfortunately, much like many other guys experience with this approach, I was rejected by them too sometimes. Often in fact. This had the opposite effect of course. My confidence suffered and I shied away f…
/r/TheRedPill28/04/22 01:33 PM
1

Could be. What you need to understand is that men and women are different.As a result we have wildly different experiences especially when it comes to dating/relationships/sex. A one for one comparison between a man and a woman will never work. We are not equals. But thank your lucky god damn stars that you were born a man. An ugly guy can still have upward mobility by making tons of money, getting in great shape, being confident, funny, have money, etc.etc. An ugly women cannot.
/r/seduction27/04/22 10:17 PM
2

Exactly. I would define this as doing “the work”. OP - once you handled the basics outline above, you need to do “your work.” This is identifying your areas of weakness and addressing them. If you are afraid of public speaking, you need to join toastmasters. If you are afraid of heights, you need to go skydiving or start with zip lining. Scared of snakes? Go to a pet store and see if you can pick one up. Whatever you fear, you must face.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:27 PM
4

Wrong sub.
/r/seduction27/04/22 05:13 AM
31

Thoughts: Wear condom Remember Cameras are everywhere. I believe the equation in the professional world is 1 MBA + 1 Indecent exposure charge = not hiring you. Referring to your dick as your “warrior” is a new one for me and made me laugh.
/r/seduction27/04/22 02:12 AM
3

Do not try to ever “prove yourself” to any woman. Power play meaning she wants to guilt you into into apologising over and over. She may try to get you to do things for her that you normally wouldn’t so that you will “get back in her good graces.” If you do this, she may lose some respect for you. It’s not that big of a deal. You apologised for your untimely request of YOUR money back.
/r/newTRP26/04/22 10:45 PM
5

While your request was untimely, this isn’t really apology worthy. You only need to apologise for something you actually did wrong once. Her “I thought I would’ve forgiven you by now” and “I want to forgive you” is a power play. You have way overthought this. Be cordial and let her come to you.
/r/newTRP26/04/22 10:24 PM
2

I agree with you there.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 08:50 PM
8

Not everything is equal. Not everything is fair. Pick your poison and blame evolution or God(s).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 06:56 PM
2

Echoing Skew. Every time you think of her, I want you to say “There are 4 billion women in the world” to yourself.
/r/newTRP25/04/22 02:26 PM
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No. Literally never. Setting boundaries without enforcing them is worse than not setting them in the first place. There are no levels to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 01:03 AM
8

GTFO with this doomer shit.
/r/seduction24/04/22 12:04 AM
105

Exactly. The phrase “If you’re afraid to lose her, you already have” is another powerful one. Fearing fear tends to create more fear.
/r/seduction23/04/22 07:11 PM
367

True. Your turn may last 7 minutes or 70 years. All that I own is my time and attention. I aim to use it wisely everyday.
/r/seduction23/04/22 05:37 PM
2

True. All things in moderation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 09:52 PM
6

Indeed it may not. Getting ass may be the impetus to self improvement for numerous men. Hopefully along the way, we realize that looking better, becoming more confident and taking calculated risks is preferable to a life of pornhub, video games, weed and IPAs.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 07:29 PM
10

If you would like to use that as a justification for not putting in effort, no one of the sub is going to try and stop you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:50 PM
6

That’s true. Either you are born with it or you have to work for it. Most of us are probably a mix and our awareness, the work we put in if necessary and our attitudes will define our success.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:31 PM
11

I see your point. “It” is the tip of the iceberg. The glacier and how it was created is unknown. Happy cake day.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 04:46 PM
57

Men and women are different. Watch what they do; not what they say. Women want a man who “just gets it.” There is nothing seductive or sexually exciting for a woman to give men step by step instructions on how to turn them on. A man who “just gets it” may be high in EQ. If women know that men are doing something solely in order to attract women, it won’t be as effective (or effective at all). Understand that arousing and attractive are two different things (see point one).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 03:26 PM
4

Upvote for Victor Wooten reference.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 01:14 AM
3

Why are you not pursuing women in your area? You flagged this as LTR. This is not even in the realm of accurate. Why do you not value your own time or attention? If you do not, she won’t either. “she is the sole earner of her family.” What does this mean? Please for the love of God tell us you are not excited about virtual finger fucking a single mom.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/22 01:28 PM
7

Bruh, Reddit is really cracking down and we don’t need this shit here. Delete this post….. from here and your brain
/r/TheRedPill15/04/22 11:50 PM
2

Had me in the first half. I laughed out loud. You do not need to be a robot but you do need to be selective on what you share and how you deliver it. Personally, I try to never say anything negative about myself or predicaments unless I can follow it up with something positive or if it shows that I overcame something.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:54 PM
8

One (and imo the most effective) way to build confidence is to identify your areas of weakness and address them directly. Make it a goal to approach 3 women tomorrow or over the next coming week even if just to say “hi”. wear something you feel good in keep your shoulders back prior to approaching think “maybe I will like her” instead of “I hope she likes me” you know how people say “hi how are you?” like it’s a statement? You should actually answer this question. I answer this question often wi…
/r/seduction14/04/22 09:43 PM
2

I was ready to give you some shit for not checking the sidebar but it turns out that I couldn’t find it there either. NMMNG The audible version is good but a first read is best in print.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/22 07:03 PM
2

Initial PIV sex is an action that occurs. Actions cannot be social constructs. One could argue that the perception of the action is a social construct but that is not the statement that was made. The statement made was “Like virginity is a social construct”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 06:27 PM
5

99% of the time when I see the term “social construct”, I think to myself “this is about to be bullshit.” I was right again.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 06:11 PM
4

I read this comment three times and still can’t decide how to respond.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:45 AM
0

My boundary is that my LTR doesn’t hangout one on one with other men who are not her family members.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 12:26 AM
6

This is normal. You made a few comparisons to men and women in this post. This is mostly a waste of time because men and women are different. We have wildly different experiences especially when it comes to relationships and sex. Men will spend most of their time initiating while women will spend most of their time filtering. We have different advantages and challenges. True, even mildly attractive women will have an easier time getting sex but they don’t value it the same way we do. What happen…
/r/newTRP31/03/22 10:00 PM
3

True. Mental point of origin is the most powerful base tool.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 11:01 PM
19

Sounds like an excuse to not do the work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 06:07 PM
6

You keep using that word. I don’t think you know what it means.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 05:35 PM
23

This was a long way of saying women are never at fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 02:25 PM
3

Well the evidence is indeed circumstantial but your gut has been telling you something for a minute. All this shit has been causing you turmoil which is having a negative impact so proceed to break up with her in your mind. Be careful with your drinking and don’t let it become a crutch.
/r/newTRP25/03/22 10:50 PM
1

Whoa. That went from 0-100 fast. What happened?
/r/newTRP25/03/22 09:50 PM
3

I think you already knew this. It is the worldwide all time female social currency ….. attention!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:46 PM
1

Haha brother you need to sit with this for a while. Time will indeed tell or YOU will tell time. What concerns me most for you is not your current situation but some of your language. I think you are at high risk for oneitis. The word marriage should not even be in the realm of your vocabulary. You should me thinking about this so little that you forget how to spell it. “I guess the only thing you can do is ….. bla bla bla). No. False. You can do ANYTHING. That statement is a reflection of an ex…
/r/newTRP23/03/22 08:00 PM
4

If it were me, I’d be happy where I was at but would understand this is probably a short term thing. I understand that there are 4 billion women in the world, many who are beautiful and have something to offer. I would pick from the best of the best rather than the best of the worst. “I quite literally often think to myself “I hope she cheats on me.” How did if feel to type that? That is your mind trying to make your subconscious conscious.
/r/newTRP23/03/22 06:34 PM
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You already know the typical feedback you are going to receive on this so I’ll save the “for the streets” response for someone else. Much like your boundaries that we discussed a few days ago, we also cannot tell you what your standards are. The fact that you are asking the question means your gut is telling you something. What is it? Every one is a risk. Some people are more risky than others. A universal truism in psychology is that past performance is the greatest predictor of future performa…
/r/newTRP23/03/22 05:26 PM
6

I saw you mentioned seeing the stats before below so no need for me to link them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 10:40 PM
68

“I’ve also heard that the pair bonding studies on women are actually pseudoscience …..” What a scientific way to refute the claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 08:55 PM
2

Your idea is passive aggressive and may backfire. As you elude to, the best time to set a boundary is organically or when an event has occurred. Have you read this? If this were me, I’d focus on myself and if another girls night or related subject came up, I’d set the boundary then. My boundary is regarding the type of “girls night” that I will accept (friend’s house/dinner/drinks at restaurant is ok. Clubs/dancing with other dudes, etc is not OK). Your boundary may be different. It is important…
/r/newTRP20/03/22 03:50 AM
6

What boundaries, if any, have you already put in place especially in regards to “girl’s night”? I preface this by saying if you do not trust your LTR, you shouldn’t be in one. Context on how this came up matters here. At first glance, this sounds like minor shit test. I think you handled it fine …. for now. I say for now because it warranted this post so it’s bothering you some. That’s your gut. In girl world, she may think that she is being transparent offering you information. This may very we…
/r/newTRP19/03/22 09:16 PM
2

The medium is always the message. Things happen but if you were Chris Hemsworth, you think she would call? I’m sure she’d do much more than that. Don’t get attached. Talk to other women.
/r/seduction19/03/22 06:37 PM
4

I’m not sure there is a whole lot of theory here that is applicable. If you have not read the entirety of the sidebar on the main TRP sub, you should start there. No more mr nice guy is my personal favorite and had the most long lasting impact on me. Additionally, count how many times you typed “I feel” throughout this thread. There is nothing wrong with having feelings. You cannot control what feelings arise. They can even be useful if they initiate a positive behavior change. Feelings become a…
/r/newTRP18/03/22 04:20 PM
5

So you KO this guy. What happens now? You go back in the bar with your bros cheering for you hoisting you up on a stool like some cheesy 80s movie? OR, and the more likely scenario, you get booted from the bar and/or potentially pick up an assault charge. I can tell you from experience that your going to feel much worse getting your paper signed off from doing community service at goodwill. Your take away needs to be “I am not going to interject myself into situations that put me at risk when th…
/r/newTRP18/03/22 02:51 PM
5

No. You did not do the right thing because - “I THINK I started helping some random kid look for his phone and wallet.” You cannot possibly hold frame in this state. Just look at what you did in hindsight. You got plastered and started caretaking some random dude. Everything that happens after this is relatively inconsequential. Don’t dwell on it. I’m all for having a good time but If you are waking up and regretting your decisions after drinking so much that it warrants a post, you need to take…
/r/newTRP18/03/22 02:11 PM
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No magic pills or sayings. You must change your beliefs and do the work. First, you need to internalize the belief that there is no soul mate. There are good ones. There are bad ones but there is no ONE as they say. Women are women. Second, you need to remind yourself that there are 4 billion women in the world. Break this down further based on your demographic. If you are in a major city there are thousands of potential women for you to hook up with/date, etc. Can you imagine taking the time to…
/r/seduction17/03/22 01:48 AM
13

Excellent post and strong agree.
/r/seduction15/03/22 04:59 PM
45

3 months!?!! JFC! You’re not even BB. You are a a wallet/attention hose.
/r/seduction14/03/22 01:10 PM
2

I would never be a stepdad. I cannot think of a single reason to do so. If I were to have kids, they would be biologically mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 07:41 PM
7

Please hit the No FAP sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 05:47 PM
2

Your post history says she cheated on you. Once this occurs, it’s over. You leave no matter what. You are now back to scarcity mindset. Do the work.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 07:40 PM
1

It’s entertaining and may wake someone up who thinks the girl “he’s on a break with” is sitting at home eating ice cream thinking about it. Pointless for me but potentially not for someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:39 AM
1

It is for the vast majority of men especially when they’re young. Men and women are different. We value different things. This is why discussion related to “who has it harder” are almost always pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:31 AM
2

I do not have a problem with sex workers. I’m just not going to date a current or former sex worker.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 10:17 PM
9

So to paraphrase your comment: “Do not take advice from JP because no no bad and I don’t like him. Taking advice from JP means no woman will want to fuck you.” Thank you for your contribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 10:05 PM
8

In the past, I too have struggled in grasping concepts. With enough persistence, I assure you it will come in time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 06:12 PM
80

You answered your own question in the second to last sentence. Like dear uncle JP says “A harmless man is not a good man. A good man is a very dangerous man who has himself under control.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 05:02 PM
31

“..and the hope that they’ll be rewarded for their sacrifice one day with love and sex by a beautiful Ukrainian lady.” Ah yes. The patriotic covert contract.
/r/TheRedPill01/03/22 02:02 PM
2

Fantastic! Internal locus of control is one of the most valuable assets.
/r/seduction01/03/22 01:40 AM
1

Hypergamy is not a joke Jim.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 02:02 PM
32

Fuck your feelings. They are wrong. This is what you need to tell yourself.
/r/seduction24/02/22 11:07 PM
3

It’s the same as the hot guy’s guide. Women are women.
/r/newTRP24/02/22 07:19 PM
5

Bruh..
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 03:35 AM
1

I had to make the same leap at 32. You can do it! Start here if you have not already.
/r/seduction23/02/22 03:51 PM
5

Agree and “go to the cooking YouTube channel” made me laugh out loud!
/r/seduction22/02/22 02:51 PM
5

This is the most incoherent, vague and directionless interpretation of TRP that I have seen. It’s not even wrong; it’s toddler scribbling with word crayons.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 04:19 AM
3

“what do these men really want!?” The answer is respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 02:38 AM
5

You need to learn to read the room. You can ease up IF and when it is appropriate. DO NOT make comments to or about female colleagues regarding sex. Be very selective about what your share about your personal life including how much you party. Keep in mind every email you send, every site you visit and every key stroke from your company’s instant messaging system is recorded. PERCEPTION IS NINE TENTHS OF THE LAW.
/r/newTRP20/02/22 04:19 AM
2

“Either orally or rectally.” Hahahahah that’s the truth!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:37 PM
1

Hahah I have a few Navy friends who have explained Jody to me before.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 11:57 PM
2

I certainly agree that if one is going to cheat, then they will cheat. All I can do is establish boundaries and remove myself from the situation if they are crossed. SO sleeps with “friend” is the most common infidelity trope that there is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 11:48 PM
12

If I were to discover my LTR was still in regular contact with someone she slept with in the past, our relationship would be terminated upon discovery.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 09:31 PM
5

Could be. I typically find celebrity analysis to be a waste of time. Exception made for the Will Smith controversy.
/r/seduction17/02/22 09:15 PM
-2

I also believe this but then again I am not a woman. Perception is 9/10ths of the (women’s) law.
/r/seduction17/02/22 08:44 PM
99

Status status status status status status
/r/seduction17/02/22 08:32 PM
1

“The medium is the message” applies to both women and men.
/r/seduction17/02/22 08:10 PM
2

Being that she lives 60km and has a boyfriend, my recommendation is to pursue women who live 59km or less and do not have a boyfriend.
/r/seduction17/02/22 07:26 PM
176

I heard it once explained as “When you are having sex consistently, it’s a small part of a good life. When you are not, it’s a big part of a shitty life.” The statement can be a bit hyperbolic but In my experience, this is mostly true.
/r/seduction17/02/22 06:32 PM
4

Putting issues with any one women into perspective can often be solved by asking one question. If there were two other women you could call and fuck right now, would you be hung up on the one(s) you have in your head right now? Often, the answer to this question is “no”. And if the answer is no, you do not have a woman problem; You have a scarcity/lack of opportunity problem. The way to address this is clearly to create more opportunities. Easy to say. Can be challenging to do. A combo of genera…
/r/newTRP12/02/22 05:26 PM
2

You sound like you are in your head too much and were too invested in this one interaction. Once she suggested she wouldn’t be available for 3 months, that was your cue to say something like “Gotcha. OK. Well it was nice hanging out with you. Good luck with your studies.” Interaction over. She is now a future stranger. Recognising that the frame is irrelevant at this point ironically IS maintaining the frame. Also, I’m the event this was a shit test, you pass. IDGAF often equals maintaining fram…
/r/newTRP12/02/22 05:15 PM
5

Sounds like you know what you did wrong. Lift heavy. Remind yourself that you are the prize. There are 4 billion women in the world. Any woman you haven’t fucked yet or aren’t going to fuck again is not worth taking up space in your head.
/r/newTRP12/02/22 04:46 PM
58

Tried to LTR former only fans girl. We saw where this was headed. Lesson learned. Just don’t have to learn it again. Most valuable takeaway? You said it yourself. “She made me feel like a king and I started acting like a queen.” Excellent self awareness with that quote.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/22 05:47 PM
6

Everyone and and everything has some level of risk. Past performance is the greatest predictor (not to be confused with absolute indicator) of future performance. Structure your life so that no single entity could devastate you. The stay plan needs to always be the same as the go plan. This stat is a waste of your time.
/r/newTRP10/02/22 08:58 PM
106

Height indeed can be an obstacle if you are very short like Jaqcuees. However, Jaqcuees is a 27 year old with a reported net worth of $8M. He also has one of the most valuable things in the world especially when it comes to women. STATUS! I don’t think Jacquees is lying. At all. If anything, he’s probably under reporting. Looks, game, money & status. If you are deficient in one area, work on it as much as you can and maximise the others.
/r/seduction10/02/22 03:23 PM
3

Right. That’s what I’m saying. That type of thinking no longer works.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:04 AM
1

Interesting. Sounds like covert contract entrapment. Pathetic but on brand.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:13 PM
2

Not all guys the play video games are losers but almost all losers play video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:46 PM
1

Full agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:23 PM
11

This is a good point. I think a large percentage of us are stuck in “old order” thinking where being reasonably fit, pleasant and having a good job would get you at least some female interest. This is clearly no longer the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:13 PM
3

They are definitely synonyms in theory but not in practice. “Nice” is now so tainted. I think the distinction is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:48 PM
6

Glover, in his book No More Mr. Nice Guy, says there are two types of nice guys ™️. The “I’m so good” nice guy which would fall into your cat 1. These guys engage heavily in covert contracts. They are most likely to believe that buying a woman dinner, drinks, etc equals getting their dick sucked. Women probably hate these guys the most. Would benefit from being less outcome dependent. The “I’m so bad” nice guy which would fall into your cat 2. Typically cares about relationships with women very …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:35 PM
3

We cannot motivate you to do the work. That must come from you and typically begins with either a specific event like getting cheated on or a lifelong frustration. You sound like the latter. I’ve been playing guitar for 25 years. The best advice I have ever received on guitar was “Learn everything, don’t think about any of it and just play.” This applies to TRP as well. Stop comparing yourself to your friends.
/r/newTRP08/02/22 04:20 PM
4

“What am I missing?” Jesus. Where to even fucking start. You are failing to see the opportunity you have in front of you. You are getting so overwhelmed with “what if? Is it possible? Am I good enough? My friends have it so easy, bla bla, mental masturbation. Your core problem at least from the view point of this post, is that you have an external locus of control. You need to have an internal locus of control. Stop ODing on TRP content. Read the basics and check out if you have not already Rian…
/r/newTRP08/02/22 03:22 PM
1

No one is doing that HERE.
/r/newTRP07/02/22 11:11 PM
1

This is called the anger phase.
/r/newTRP07/02/22 10:30 PM
8

Apparently she wants an east coaster. As the current representative from Florida, I recommend she stick to the “Pacific” men.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/02/22 04:41 PM
12

I would only care if someone came to me or the sub for advice. I wouldn’t worry about it becoming too mainstream because knowledge without application is typically useless. It takes work. A lot of guys aren’t going to do the work.
/r/newTRP07/02/22 05:06 AM
2

TRP is a toolset. You take out the appropriate tool when you need it.
/r/newTRP05/02/22 04:23 AM
11

It’s good OP is getting it out here instead of saying it out loud in real life.
/r/seduction04/02/22 05:38 AM
3

“Was it Brady!? Guess he found out about me taking Giselle out.”
/r/newTRP02/02/22 03:52 AM
8

“She wants a wall to bump up against but you’re just more abyss instead.” Damn. That hit hard. Thanks for that nugget.
/r/askMRP29/01/22 08:59 PM
6

Fantastically written. Keep this up!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/01/22 04:26 AM
267

Parts 1 and 2 could’ve been used in a college level TRP course on dual mating strategy and solipsism. “I would’ve given him everything.” Except for the thing he values the most.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/01/22 02:52 PM
3

Nice guy
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 02:31 PM
5

PPD was very interesting to me after I joined found TRP because it was often a debate. Even as a TRP guy I think it’s interesting to see other’s perspectives. I’ve been in what I believe to be the most healthy relationship of my life for almost 2 years. I have to give some credit to TRP for helping me get my head straight, increase my confidence, recover from the NG syndrome, become non needy and take responsibility for my actions and thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 09:43 PM
6

Give him the perm ban. With so many subs getting shut down, this is the last thing we need.
/r/newTRP22/01/22 04:34 PM
7

I think we will continue to see a decline because of the factors you mentioned and the economic climate at large. Some traditionalist will continue to get married. After a decade or two, some social media fucktard will decide marriage is cool again and it will become a trend like a social slap bracelet.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 11:47 PM
6

“Nobody is better than anyone” Man are you in for one giant fucking red pill with this shit!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 10:32 PM
8

While I don’t disagree with what I THINK your premise is, this is not articulated very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:32 PM
2

Communicate your boundaries and be walk away if they are crossed. Pain is the greatest teacher.
/r/seduction21/01/22 05:07 AM
2

The only thing worthwhile in this post is “the older she is the more likely she is to have a higher body count.” You will never know and I do not advise you ask because you will never get an honest answer. Even if you did, it would be followed by some other mitigating statement. When discussing this subject, women hate judgement. You need to appear non judgmental. Maybe share one of your stories about how you were “wild in college” over some drinks. She may try to match or one up you. You need t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 04:37 PM
5

“I think I would. But I am not a normal guy.” Hahahahahha I like you Mark.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 10:02 PM
45

My fedora tips for no one. I am the prize.
/r/TheRedPill19/01/22 08:10 PM
70

An excellent reminder and good post. Enjoy your shit man. I noticed a difference in my success when I said to women “Hey, I’m going X on Friday. Come with me!” rather than “uh um fair maiden, would you like to uh um go to dinner sometime?”
/r/TheRedPill19/01/22 07:55 PM
29

I miss asktrp. Lots of good advice in there especially for new guys. RIP.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 04:43 PM
1

True. He would certainly be at advantage. Nothing can prepare you though for the first time “your girl” fucks another dude. Pain and experience are the greatest teachers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 12:39 AM
5

Double edge sword. Pros: - Even without superior genetics, he could be in peak physical condition assuming he’s worked his ass off. - He may have developed confidence and have an external locus of control - Finances may be in order Cons: - No tacit knowledge - Extreme risk for oneitis/lack of abundance/scarcity & sniper mentality - He may discover it wasn’t worth the wait
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 12:03 AM
1

Haha for sure
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/01/22 12:38 AM
14

Asking for an open relationship is not a question. It is an announcement!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/01/22 11:58 PM
1

My B
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 10:07 PM
1

I don’t know if it’s trolling or something else either. I hope it stops soon.
/r/newTRP14/01/22 04:18 AM
1

If it were me, I’d call myself “guy”.
/r/seduction13/01/22 11:48 PM
6

Confidence, being social, etc. are skills that can be gained and can be lost. If you don’t use it, you may lose it. With the lockdowns you are going to have to specifically make an effort to interact. No magic pill. Edit: stop referring to yourself as a boy if you are over 16.
/r/seduction13/01/22 06:07 PM
1

Yehp! That’s the right approach. I’m 36 am also guilty of over thinking sometimes. Happens to most of us! Cheers!
/r/newTRP13/01/22 05:31 PM
3

No. I am saying when she comes back in town and meets up with you, ask her how her trip was. It’s your call. Either way isn’t a make or break but I want to point out that you stated you “think you should” reach out to her. You are feeling this way after she in womanese said “you don’t need to do dating/LTR/exclusive things with me.” Based solely on your language in this post, it sounds as though you are or are beginning to become more invested than she is. Some food for thought.
/r/newTRP13/01/22 05:24 PM
5

Be honest. How much of the sidebar have you read from the main sub? Yes. This was indeed a terrible answer. Who cares about this one interaction though? Just proceed as normal. Your job in every scenario with any woman who you are even remotely attracted to and want to move things forward with is to establish a man to woman interaction. If it’s beachball Bertha then sure. Be her “friend” if you want. If it’s Maggie Mae and you’d like to be up in her guts one day, it’s a man to woman interaction.…
/r/newTRP13/01/22 05:19 PM
6

No. She brought up the talk and stated she wants to remain causal. Great! Translation? “I enjoy sex with you and am keeping my options open.” Take away? Enjoy sex. Wear condom. Nothing more. Nothing less. Ask her how her trip was when you meet back up.
/r/newTRP13/01/22 04:48 PM
16

Pete has status. Pete has social proof. Also, women want what other women want sometimes solely due to the fact that other women want that guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 05:24 AM
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Bingo!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 07:15 PM
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Oof. “Ability to impregnate the most dominant/biologically fit female.” Biologically fit is correct. “Dominant” doesn’t make any sense. Why would any traditionally masculine male want a “dominant” female? When I hear “dominant female”, I think insufferable Karen who nags the shit out of me. Women are communitarians. There are no “alpha” females. Women do indeed compete. They compete FOR MEN who compete.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 07:10 PM
46

Exactly. If anyone believes that “in time nothing is sexier” then I am the fucking queen of England.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/01/22 10:31 PM
142

“When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, t…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/01/22 06:35 PM
44

Every woman is the oldest teenager in the room.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/01/22 06:25 PM
3

Full agree. Our stats are similar. Cool flair!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 10:24 PM
5

Impressive. That’s a lot of weight especially for a 16 year old. I want men to be better at taking personal accountability and not bitching about “society”. All complaints are not completely unfounded but what are you/we going to do about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 10:24 PM
14

Almost every time I see “society” in the title I think to myself “oh. It’s gonna be another victim puke.” You didn’t disappoint. Women are the selectors. Yehp! Is this news? If you want to get selected more, be better. Or! Don’t give a shit. Ironically, this approach works too. The real answer is a mix of being better and being outcome independent. I understand that “society” has told you that women are the more empathetic sex. Well, that is true if you are a child or a puppy dog. It is not true…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 07:29 PM
24

Bingo! OP, this is your answer. Anecdotal evidence - There is a certain demographic (actually probably several demographics) of women who I am not at all attracted to. I noticed in my twenties that some of these women were hitting on me. Even when I was married I would get the canned line “what’s your wife got to do with me”? My interactions with them were effortless. There is only one reason for this. I was outcome independent. You must be outcome independent with ALL women.
/r/seduction07/01/22 04:42 PM
5

Attention is the coin of the realm
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 05:40 PM
13

“Any knight reading this can sheath his sword.” I laughed out loud three times from reading this. An excellent write up on frame, abundance and doing the work using an easy to understand analogy. Cheers!
/r/TheRedPill06/01/22 02:41 PM
11

You feel betrayed? By her?!? For what!?!?! You are living in your head for no damn reason. I can’t tell you what to do but if were me, I’d continue on with my plans. I would remain detached in my head from her and proceed. I would focus on my goals and not let little shit like this bother me. Dropping her because of your paranoia affords you nothing. Consider in the future what boundaries you need to set and then communicate them. Reward good behaviour. Punish or eliminate bad behaviour.
/r/newTRP06/01/22 05:24 AM
11

Maybe red pill is not for you brother. If you can’t take criticism constructively, you won’t improve. Anyways, go back to the main sub and read up on abundance and oneitis. You are missing one of these and are consumed with the other.
/r/newTRP06/01/22 04:09 AM
4

I do not know that it could all be attributed to trauma but one thing is for sure, it is a mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 11:38 PM
2

Several reasons: Any woman being told or surmising that her man is or has been a doormat/push over is going to be turned off at the very least. They hate the idea of a man being taught how to act with women. It’s why they hate PUA/seduction. They love it in practice. They hate it in principle. Being “vulnerable” with women is typically a bad idea. Imagine reading this book with an LTR as you try to set and enforce boundaries. If she sees you being more assertive with others, she’ll probably like…
/r/seduction04/01/22 12:40 AM
2

It’s because men value certainty of paternity. No stats needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 11:40 PM
3

Feminism is just one really long shit test.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 05:15 AM
2

Are boosters required to be considered fully vaccinated?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 05:02 AM
1

I said this exact same thing a few days ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 02:10 AM
1

Option 2 is best. Looks, money, status, game. Strive for each of these and you will have options. Avoid covert contracts. Easy to say and not so hard to do but discipline is required. Discipline is freedom.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 12:59 AM
1

What’s a lower third?
/r/newTRP02/01/22 06:05 PM
2

If I found out that one of my friends had a pussy, the platform they chose to sell it on wouldn’t be on the top of the list of things I would question.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:35 PM
4

You mean selling pictures of pussy for $8.99 a month doesn’t garner respect or empathy?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:02 PM
5

It was the most effective book I found in the entire kingdom of selfhelpdom. Changed my life. I never miss an opportunity to recommend it. My only critique on the book is that I would never discuss it with my LTR as It recommends. I think Glover later went on to say that discussing the book with your girl is a bad idea.
/r/seduction02/01/22 06:54 AM
7

Maintain frame. Buzz your head but do it with a 3 or maybe even a 4 guard at first. You can gradually work down from there depending on your taste and how your hair loss progresses. Like you, I started thinning in my early 20s. I was terrified. I had a curly mop that ladies loved to run their fingers through. Hair loss was on my mind all the time. I tried rogaine, finasteride, duasteride, lasers and an embarrassing amount of snake oil shit. Then one day after several drinks, I had a friend buzz …
/r/newTRP02/01/22 04:38 AM
-1

I am really hoping it is never banned. I like PPD. I really miss AskTRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 11:15 PM
3

2!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 05:26 PM
2

Only 3 letters are needed to explain this. D.H.V.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:59 PM
2

Get off pornhub bro
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 08:15 PM
1

You didn’t receive your privilege card in the mail? It was in your patriarchy welcome packet.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 08:05 PM
1

Ha! Start the “change society” petition and I will sign it. An internal locus of control is far more pragmatic than an external one.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 04:13 PM
1

Definitely can be. Remember her?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 03:20 PM
1

As doomer music begins to play
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 05:30 AM
2

Here’s a question that is very relevant. What are you going to do about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 12:35 AM
2

Men and women have never, are not and never will be equal. We are too different to be equal. Our lives have equal worth but that’s it. Life is most harmonious when we are compliments to one another and can suck fuckin dog dick when we are adversaries. The hell do I care if women get special treatment sometimes? I’m gonna keep getting paid, my lifts are good, sex is frequent and I’m really digging how my guitar sounds right now. Life is good!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 09:29 PM
12

Right. Because being a woman = reproductivity. A retired greyhound is still a cool dog! How the hell am I gonna know if a woman’s tubes are tied? I could send in my dick I guess but he’s proven to be an unreliable communicator. Just throws up on everything and then goes to sleep. I think you are overthinking this one bro!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 08:25 PM
3

I think we are still saying the same thing but you are taking it much further. It’s reproductive economics. If something is valued, decreasing it’s availability will increase it worth. The inverse is also true.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 08:20 PM
5

Right. Which is why they’re valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 07:51 PM
27

Sperm is cheap. Eggs are expensive. Evolution knows this and now you do too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 07:35 PM
8

TRP DOES acknowledge that you need to keep levelling up and NOT blame your genetics. For me, TRP in a nutshell is learning to play the best hand with the cards you are dealt. That’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 06:19 PM
2

I don’t think this is a bad idea for a post but how will we know who is truly an outlier? In my experience, almost everyone would like to be an outlier when it suits them including myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 02:54 AM
13

Brotha, look at your post history. What do you think? I’m not trying to be disparaging. Look at it. What do you think? Actually, don’t think. This is your problem. You think waaaaaaaaaaaay too much. STOP! Why in God’s fucking name would it seem “desperate” to invite some tinder sloth over to your place? It would not! There’s nothing to lose. All you have is opportunity. This is the mindset you need to have. Invite Tinderella over.
/r/newTRP26/12/21 04:45 PM
1

Are you familiar with the word scarcity?
/r/seduction23/12/21 05:04 AM
15

We can circle jerk it all day but it’s going to boil down to playing the best hand with the cards you’ve been dealt. We get there by doing the work.
/r/newTRP22/12/21 11:09 PM
3

“We stopped for a bit, I was like “wtf man is this PIED?” This thought was the problem. In all likelihood, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you and your experience was caused by anxiety which is totally normal. A good way to handle this going forward is to jump back in the saddle as quickly as possible. If she brings it up, don’t apologise or say anything self deprecating. It’s not a big deal. You can laugh about it. A bad way to handle it would be to let it bother you, apologise and/or av…
/r/newTRP22/12/21 03:19 PM
9

“Do people stop being retarded?” No. And you are people. Lift heavy and approach women.
/r/askMRP20/12/21 05:18 AM
5

This was encouraging. I’ve been stuck around 280-285 for a few months.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/21 11:49 PM
8

Take a look. It’s in a book.
/r/askMRP18/12/21 02:17 AM
0

Your approach may be why you are only “making out”
/r/TheRedPill16/12/21 03:21 PM
3

You are aware you’re not a philanthropist but you still are too empathetic. I think you understand this on an intellectual level but not in practice. For reading, the two books that will help you most are NMMNG (Glover specifically refers to nice guys as “bad enders”) and WISNIFG.
/r/newTRP13/12/21 04:37 AM
5

In an alternate Hollywood universe, Leo survives which brings us to the sequel. In the climax of movie 2, Rose is marrying Billy Zane. Leo sneaks in as part of the wait staff and Billy spots him. Billy flashes Leo a smirk thinking “hehe I got the girl you little bitch.” Leo gives him a big smile thinking “yeah but I came in her ear and had her friend suck it out with a straw.” In sequel 3, Will Smith plays Jack and gets cucked by hologram Tupac. AFBB.
/r/newTRP12/12/21 03:31 PM
6

Are you new? Me tinks you haven’t read the sidebar on the main sub based on this question. Lesson 1: Always watch what they do; never what they say. “Serious relationship only”, “no hook ups”, bla bla bla. These are both the same thing. In all likelihood, these women have hooked up ALOT. I’m gonna say you can flat out disregard what women put on their dating profile 95% of the time.
/r/newTRP11/12/21 12:11 AM
14

Good post. Covert contracts are killers.
/r/seduction10/12/21 04:44 PM
8

Right! You gotta determine your response that fits with your frame. I’m a light hearted guy. For me, this is a clear AM situation. Her: I don’t care for this new attitude. Me: You don’t have to care for it. You have to admire, love and worship at the altar of it with the fury of 1,000 spartan warriors.
/r/askMRP08/12/21 07:38 PM
7

Personally, I am baffled that you have managed to get some results but cannot identify if this is a shit test or not. It’s like you’ve you made an A+ on your astrophysics tests yet when the teacher asks you a simple question about gravity you respond with “huh? You mean that John Mayer song?”
/r/askMRP08/12/21 07:00 PM
4

Golden comment.
/r/seduction08/12/21 03:16 PM
1

Stop thinking “why me” and start thinking “why not me”? lift heavy weights buy clothes that fit you well shoulders back download the headspace app read no more mr nice guy join toastmasters
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 02:32 AM
19

Schedule a therapy appointment for your brother but go in his place to discuss your caretaking. Reread WISNIFG & NMMNG. It didn’t sink in.
/r/askMRP06/12/21 05:17 AM
2

I completely agree with you but then again, I am a man.
/r/newTRP05/12/21 02:52 AM
17

I battled sometimes extreme depression/anxiety from 16-33. Talk to your bros. Talk on here. Talk to me. Don’t talk to women.
/r/newTRP04/12/21 11:24 PM
6

Yes. I am agnostic and conservative. My current LTR isn’t religious and is a conservative. Her friends are mostly liberal. In the early stage of our relationship, I went to hang out with her group and politics came up. One of her friends was off on a typical liberal tangent and then referred to my now LTR as libertarian. She corrected them and said “No. I am conservative and republican.” I admired her for this and it was a green flag that let me know I should continue the vetting process.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 08:20 PM
3

You didn’t even try with this one. If you have $0, how do you get $1?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 07:14 PM
1

Nothing glaringly wrong here so without more detail, it’s hard to give much advice. One thing that’s interesting is the “I’m on my period” response. Did this happen with 1-2 women weeks/months apart or was this 3+ women in a shorter time frame? Here and there is understandable. If this is happening frequently though, it may be something you are doing, not doing. Again, nothing glaring here. Don’t get TRP analysis by paralysis and get out and try again.
/r/newTRP04/12/21 07:10 PM
1

Exactly. All this 80/20 blabkablafuckitybla talk is an excuse to not do the work.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 06:39 PM
5

You think your brain is exhausted? Imagine reading this.
/r/newTRP04/12/21 02:42 AM
1

Definitely a possibility. The kink in her garden hose has been let loose. I’m not much on celebrities but was laying in bed last night with LTR and she showed me a picture of Brit. She looked like absolute hell.
/r/newTRP03/12/21 06:53 PM
1

It’s long as shit. Search DARE in the main sub. Post is called- Talking with women - always DARE never DEER.
/r/newTRP01/12/21 06:23 PM
2

From the main sub
/r/newTRP01/12/21 06:18 PM
1

Haha just what came to me.
/r/newTRP01/12/21 03:13 AM
20

Good post. Following the anger phase is “swing the pendulum too far” phase. This is true of myself anyways and I am certain that I am not alone.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/21 12:30 AM
2

Eh. It happens. When I sense myself getting in my feels, I silently ask myself “who’s frame are you in?” and it zaps me back.
/r/newTRP30/11/21 10:11 PM
5

Meet up and ignore the incident. Explaining shit to her is going to dry her up like the damn Sahara. No DEERing. I don’t know why you would drop her if you want to keep a plate/potential FWB when she still wants to meet up. If she brings it up, A&A. Her “you seemed a little upset I was talking to Tim the other night.” You: “I was. I’ve already given your dad 3 goats and am not sure if I can get them back.” If you are anything like me, alcohol can make you lose frame pretty quick. You need to man…
/r/newTRP30/11/21 09:37 PM
6

He lost me at “..went to Las Vegas…” Remember gents, if she’s getting dressed to the 9s to go out without you, she is advertising and you are not the target audience.
/r/newTRP30/11/21 02:28 PM
1

My work was addressing anxiety and a poor belief system. I developed a bad alcohol problem using it as a social lubricant which in time became a crutch. My work was quitting drinking completely until I could get my head in straight. Standing up and talking in front of people everyday to get used to public speaking increased my confidence 10 fold. I also got out of a marriage I was miserable in which opened new doors. Once I fixed my belief system and shitty habits, women were not such a problem …
/r/newTRP30/11/21 03:22 AM
1

Right. You just gotta keep doing it man. It’ll help if you get the idea of “leagues” out of your head.
/r/newTRP30/11/21 03:16 AM
4

One thing at a time bro. Think about how crazy you sound right now. You are a virgin who is worried about being cheated on. I’m not trying to be disparaging. Just feel the weight of that statement. Crazy right? Hypergamy is not a straight jacket. Can any woman cheat on you? Fuck yes! Will any woman cheat on you? That depends on you, her, backgrounds, economic factors, social circle, age, occupation,etc,etc. Get this stupid “I’m never gonna be good looking or high status” shit out of your head. -…
/r/newTRP30/11/21 02:10 AM
7

Can’t tell you what to do with your dick but get out of your head. Stop anticipating your performance and focus on your enjoyment. If you bust quick, no problem. Jump back into some foreplay and go for round two.
/r/newTRP29/11/21 05:04 PM
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This works I’m sure. Extra points if you have one of those T-shirts that says on the back “If you can read this, the bitch fell off.”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 05:19 AM
2

No. What I mean is if you identify a deficiency in an area, you must specifically address that deficiency in order to grow. We often discuss doing “THE work” in TRP which is important. This is the basics. Lifting, wardrobe, finances, social life, etc. Once these are covered and can be maintained, it’s far more important to identify and address “YOUR work” which is specific to you. Scared of public speaking? Join toastmasters. Scared of snakes? To the pet store you go! Lacking in impulse control?…
/r/newTRP28/11/21 03:42 AM
9

Funny. I work in treasury too. Women are women. “Having her drop me off right next to my user car (she insisted) with her benz gave me some awkward vibes.” No. Wrong. YOU gave YOU awkward vibes. When the thought of “what if my car isn’t good enough?” entered your mind, you gave your frame away. You didn’t lose it. You gave it. Once you identify an area of weakness, it is incumbent on you to address it head on. Either go big and approach the 10s at the club or start small and chat up your 10/10 b…
/r/newTRP26/11/21 10:45 PM
38

Joe needs to understand the difference between men and women in the sexual marketplace. Men will spend most of their time approaching. Women will spend most of their time filtering. Joe needs to think about approaching women like he does applying for part time jobs. He is going to apply for a shit ton of jobs. He may not like that he gets rejected by some but if he works on his skills and resume, he will get a part time job. He will not give a shit about the part time jobs he didn’t get. Once he…
/r/seduction25/11/21 05:30 PM
1

It’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:54 PM
2

Do the work!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 06:59 PM
9

4 billion women in the world.
/r/newTRP23/11/21 03:25 PM
1

google things
/r/askMRP22/11/21 04:34 PM
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Because men and women are different and men prioritize sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 07:29 PM
12

Good post. When can you quit? When you die. Enjoy the process!
/r/seduction17/11/21 10:01 PM
80

First, this was a win. You’ve got some balls. My only critique is that you asked to give her your number. This is passive. A better approach would’ve been make a little small talk and then ask for her number.
/r/seduction16/11/21 08:01 PM
24

Gotta change your mindset. Instead of viewing approaching women as a challenge, view it as an opportunity. There are no cheat codes. You must do the work. What is the work? It’s exposure therapy. When you identify a weakness in yourself, it is your job to sure it up. Look 3 women in the eye when you are out next, smile and say “hey”. Do it again the next day. Check it out
/r/seduction16/11/21 05:22 PM
27

“Never let a woman know why she shouldn’t fuck you. Let her figure it out herself.”
/r/seduction16/11/21 04:21 PM
2

Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:57 PM
1

Very true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:17 PM
5

Right. Women simp for commitment at the finish line.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:16 PM
6

“Women simp for potential. Men simp for looks.” Golden.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 05:07 PM
2

Hahah yes. The statement is both factual and applicably hyperbolic.
/r/seduction14/11/21 03:12 PM
38

Almost 4 billion women in the world.
/r/seduction14/11/21 05:59 AM
4

Nothing quite says “I think I got the wrong guy” quite like having his kid sucked out of you. I realize there are other reasons but in a nutshell, abortion is typically a fall back for bad reproductive decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 04:28 AM
1

Well I can relate with you literally and metaphorically when you say you feel like a drug addict. Women can’t bring you happiness brotha. I know it SEEMS like it will and then you get one or one hundred and your like “this is it!? This is what I was killing myself for!? What the fuck!? I wasted so much time.” Your life is a cake. You must bake the cake. Women are the icing. You read No More Mr. Nice Guy?
/r/askTRP11/11/21 03:16 PM
1

36
/r/askTRP11/11/21 02:58 PM
1

This made me laugh. I think it was Rian Stone who asked “If she doesn’t try to sabotage you just a little, does she even love you?”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:37 PM
4

There’s gonna be people in every sub that don’t search the history, read the material or want to put in the work. Everybody wants the easy way. Unfortunately, one of the only ways to figure shit out is to look for the cheat code, get pissed off when you can’t find it, make excuses and quit. Finally, after all this mental masturbation, guys may come back and do the work. You are probably seeing young guys come in at one of the stages I described above.
/r/seduction06/11/21 01:44 AM
0

“I need space” is code for “I want to explore other opportunities and if none of them are as good as you, I’ll keep you around.” Meet up with her to hear what she has to say if you like but I would plan on talking to other women.
/r/seduction05/11/21 05:59 PM
2

Your last paragraph is good.
/r/seduction05/11/21 02:07 AM
4

As a TRP guy, I agree with these with the exception of number 3. TRP is about BECOMING; not pretending.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 03:01 AM
1

You will never know if you don’t move your feet and open your mouth bruh!
/r/seduction02/11/21 08:27 PM
7

….and den?
/r/seduction02/11/21 07:45 PM
3

Exposure therapy is the only way I know. Alcohol is a crutch (or buffer as it may be referred to in this sub). From my experience (36), I lose frame very quickly when intoxicated. Set yourself a limit for what you will have in social situations. If you can’t stick to it or feel a strong pull to have more, stop completely.
/r/seduction02/11/21 06:00 PM
1

“I was thinking I could pursue her all this November.” Bro, what!? There are women all around you! Why in God’s name would you dedicate a full month of your life to pursuing a woman you aren’t fucking!?! You have a severe case of ONEitis. You need to work on your confidence. hit the gym approach one woman per day even if just to say “hi” at first join toastmasters or force yourself into uncomfortable social situations to address your shyness. Exposure therapy is the only way I have found to effe…
/r/seduction02/11/21 02:03 PM
9

Yes. You are second guessing yourself for no damn reason man. You have everything going for you. Get out there and approach women. You are going to get rejected. That’s what happens to most men most of the time. But you will also have successes. Few and far between at first (maybe) and then more frequent. Don’t feel bad about the past. You don’t feel bad about taking a shit in your pants when you were 2 do you?! Of course not! But now you know. Stupid shit or lack of experience with women will b…
/r/seduction29/10/21 10:59 PM
5

OP - don’t listen to the bullshit response from cormacru above. I commend you for having some balls and approaching women in public. You’re 18. If you were 30, I’d say going to Target to specifically pick up women was a little weird. But you’re not. You’re getting experience which is precisely what you’re supposed to be doing. You need to cast a wide net and use multiple different avenues to meet people. Any over reliance on one area is likely to result in failure at some point. Keep your dating…
/r/seduction29/10/21 02:44 AM
2

This is the most dumb fuck response that I’ve ever seen on this sub.
/r/seduction29/10/21 02:22 AM
150

The medium is the message. Maybe or no response = No. I’m not saying stop talking to this girl. Don’t invest anything in her and talk to other women. Don’t contact her again until she reaches out to you. Your best plan of action is to not give a shit. Remember, when dealing with low interest women, PERSISTENCE IS PATHETIC.
/r/seduction27/10/21 10:52 PM
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36 year old divorced guy here. Also working in the financial sector. I’m not saying in any way what happened to him is his fault, but he needs to reflect on how he wound up with that woman. What red flags were missed? Is he naive in general? Is he/was he a nice guy (pejorative)? After this reflection and personal work, I’d advise him to not be looking to “date” again but to go out, hook up and have have fun. Interacting with women is a skill that can be lost or gained. He should first do whateve…
/r/seduction26/10/21 07:19 PM
12

It’s a tale old as time my man. Women want the best man they can get. I’m sure you do not find this surprising. You also want the best woman(en) you can get. You need to know that men typically communicate overtly and women tend to communicate covertly. This applies to both inbound and outbound messages. When a man doesn’t “sweat” a woman, the covert communication she may receive is that he is “high value”. She may think “he must already have a lot of girls that want his attention” or “He’s real…
/r/seduction26/10/21 04:57 PM
1

Trick post - this is actually dialogue from the 40 year old virgin.
/r/seduction26/10/21 04:33 PM
4

Why on earth would this seem like a good idea!?
/r/seduction26/10/21 01:09 AM
28

Did you read what you wrote? “Once they find out I’m not the high value man I made them think I was….” You could ya know, BECOME high value rather than trying to make them THINK you are high value. “They always test me and fuck with me.” Well bro, I’d like to welcome you to the world of being a man. You’re not special. You do know that you have the power to not allow it to affect you this much, correct? Easier said than done I know but you do have the ability. Are you familiar with shit test? Wh…
/r/seduction25/10/21 04:53 AM
3

Right. I do not envy women whatsoever. It is said that “women burn hot and fast. Men burn slow and long.” If it were my quite, I’d put the word “can” in there. Women have a 5% chance of getting married after 35 if they never been married before (according to a quick Google search) I think it’s unfortunate that women need advice on how to stay safe. For this, I can certainly have some empathy and compassion. No surprise FDS or whatever sub won’t let men post. I don’t have any particular interest …
/r/seduction24/10/21 05:07 AM
4

I am a man. Agree that men put women on a pedestal. Embarrassingly so in fact. “The small percentage of women who are ideally attractive get plenty of attention and men typically all flock to the really attractive women.” Yes. Ugly, average and good looking men want to get with the most attractive women. They will also seek average women. And sometimes what would be considered ugly women if that is what they can get. Attractiveness is subjective of course but I think men and women would both agr…
/r/seduction24/10/21 04:35 AM
25

No apology necessary. This sub is about game. Women don’t really need game. Most men will have sex with any woman he finds reasonably attractive the second they meet. Most women will not and thus, the need for “game.” All men fall into one of three categories for women. will definitely not hook up with might hook up with will definitely hook up with Most men fall in category 1 or 2 above. Game which consists of displaying confidence, status and social skills allows for men from category 2 (and s…
/r/seduction24/10/21 02:55 AM
20

I say you are absolutely welcome here. I just don’t think you are going to like it.
/r/seduction24/10/21 02:28 AM
20

This is the wrong sub for you.
/r/seduction24/10/21 01:16 AM
24

Ha! I can remember thinking this when I was in my late teenage - early twenties. I thought, well if attractive girls get asked out all the time, shouldn’t attractive guys?! Nope! Not how that works. I doubled down on this silly thinking and hit the gym like a beast for 2 years. I was 165-170, 8% body fat and benching about 275. I wasn’t going to make the cover of any magazines but I looked better than many if not most of my peers. Not bad but I wasn’t happy. I couldn’t for the life of me figure …
/r/seduction23/10/21 06:08 PM
70

Bruh, women typically do not approach men. Hard stop. Do not think there is something wrong with yourself if women don’t approach you.
/r/seduction23/10/21 04:49 PM
11

Stop smoking as far in advance as possible. Brush teeth, floss and mouthwash. Moisturiser for your face and hands. Wear a normal amount of cologne. Don’t chew nicotine gum or use the patch. Buy a Juul from the gas station for your fix if you must.
/r/seduction22/10/21 08:38 PM
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Good post. As a kid, hearing “you’re not special” annoyed the shit out of me. Parents and grandparents told me I was the favourite, the fastest, the strongest, the best looking. It was a tall cliff to fall from when I entered the real world. As an adult, “you’re not special” is surprisingly comforting. We deal with the same shit as mostly everyone else. How we choose to deal with it is what can make us extraordinary.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/21 01:27 AM
1

Women will fuck men they love Women will fuck men they like Women will fuck men they hate Women will never fuck men they are indifferent to (except for financial or situational gain) You, like almost every other 18 year old young man are in category 4. And that is ok. You need to - Approach women in real life. Start with “Hi”. Do this whenever organically appropriate. Keep your shoulder back and have no expectations. Hit the gym. Increases your confidence and makes you look better. Stick to the …
/r/seduction21/10/21 10:22 PM
26

Hard agree. The new forum is not the same. I just check in here and there. I don’t understand exactly what happened but it appears asktrp was ended over principle and wasn’t forced. I’d love to see it come back. Make it happen man!
/r/TheRedPill16/10/21 04:28 AM
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Good post and well written. I miss seeing shit from you on asktrp. I’m 36, divorced and found TRP in 2019. I was a classic nice guy. Fixed my shit and thriving today. Frame tip - Speak first. Always when appropriate. This puts your mind in the driver’s seat. Appreciate you Skew.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/21 03:15 AM
5

Cool. Somebody sends this to Rollo so he can include in Vol. 5. Can’t wait for the analysis.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/21 02:47 AM
19

Your willingness to change to get her back is precisely the reason you will not. You are making her the prize. Stop it. You are ( or will be) the prize. “Your too nice” = “ You are unassertive or clingy or needy. You are not self assured enough and do not have a masculine presence.” It may not be this exactly but that’s the gist. Do yourself a favour and read “No More Mr. Nice Guy” and do the exercises in the book. Lift heavy weights. This one’s gone. Attempts to get her back will only confirm f…
/r/seduction12/10/21 03:36 AM
3

Bruh….
/r/askMRP09/10/21 03:11 AM
3

I got more attention from women when I shaved my head. Turns out that just rollin with it and getting in shape works better than trying to hide it and feeling insecure. Who knew!?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:07 PM
5

No pill needed to know that looks matter. What I found most interesting is “before reading black pill, I was never self conscious about my weak jaw.”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 11:07 PM
3

It means women do not believe in (or value) relationship equity. Eliminating covert contracts as discussed in No More Mr. Nice guy should alleviate this common pitfall for you.
/r/TheRedPill27/09/21 07:13 PM
1

Well explained.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 04:25 AM
15

Good post and realizations. Stay on this track.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/21 03:15 AM
16

Brotha, you are still sooooooooo emotionally invested in this bitch. How’s that? I didn’t cry you say! True. But you made this post! Why in the all fuck hell do you care if she perceives you as alpha or beta bitch now? No. You cannot plate this one. Same advice as always. Find your mission. Build a satisfying life completely independent of women. Spin multiple plates. Promote if desired after 6 months to a year. My personal opinion is that you need a multiple year break from any committed relati…
/r/TheRedPill02/09/21 03:06 PM
75

Good for him! You may want to edit your 3rd paragraph. He did not lose 5ft7.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/21 01:46 AM
2

You’re right. If one becomes outcome independent then one is non-needy thus demonstrating (subjectively of course) higher value.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/21 08:00 PM
5

I read it the same way. I think asking permission to get yourself something is even more “nice guy” (pejorative) than asking someone else if they want something. OP- I think you may an important realisation. The only person you need permission from is you. Well done.
/r/seduction07/08/21 03:40 PM
5

Not sure why your comment got downvoted. I think this is a fair point.
/r/TheRedPill07/08/21 02:20 PM
86

Good write up and easy to digest. This is one of those I read and think “if someone would’ve just explained this shit to me when I was 18.” But alas, all that matters is now. Cheers!
/r/TheRedPill06/08/21 09:36 PM
15

“I thought clowns liked balloons” Fucking hilarious!
/r/TheRedPill01/08/21 02:30 AM
10

This sounds made up. Quit drinking. No more girls trips for you.
/r/askMRP31/07/21 08:46 PM
7

Thats admirable but you are making a great sacrifice; Your time. My suggestion is for you to focus more time in your existing real relationships and finding a new exciting goal. Maybe you’re just bored. For some non-risky further reading related to your experiment, check “In the realm of hungry ghosts” by Gabor Mate.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/21 06:26 PM
14

White knights do not receive respect from even the lowest echelons. You knew that. It’s a topical lesson at this point. The biggest takeaway from this is not in your experiment. It is in your first paragraph stating “(I) very much want to save people.” You already knew that. So why the need to go out and test it? And in such an extreme way?
/r/TheRedPill31/07/21 05:46 PM
57

When I was a kid, my dad told me “we typically don’t learn anything until it costs us something.” For those two lost souls, the cost has simply not become great enough. Pain is the greatest teacher.
/r/TheRedPill30/07/21 03:55 PM
2

You currently identify as a man who bathes in scarcity. You need to change your identity to “I’m not the type of guy that allows other dicks in my LTR.” Almost 4 billion women in the world man.
/r/askMRP28/07/21 05:14 PM
21

What the fuck was the purpose of this rant? Do the work kid. I suggest rereading the entire sidebar.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/21 01:58 AM
43

Good post. Totally agree with this with one exception. For fucks sake! Do not buy inserts for your shoes!
/r/TheRedPill13/07/21 01:54 AM
37

It’s like that Chris Rock stand up. He says “Guys! Guys! You’re girl good at suckin dick!?” Cheering and laughter from the audience. “How you think she got like that!?” Less cheering and cameras flash to an uncomfortable looking dude.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/21 01:40 PM
35

Hypergamy slapped me in the face before I had my driver’s license. First GF I had in high school as a sophomore in 2000. We were both virgins. One night she sneaks out of her house and fucks senior dudes. They tell me about it in the most brutal way possible. I go out to this gazebo and get stoned with these two acquaintances. I noticed condoms on the ground. They snicker and proceed to tell me that’s what was used to fuck my girlfriend the night before. I think this must be a joke. I go home an…
/r/TheRedPill27/06/21 08:13 PM
25

Tue. Number of guys in local hawt woman’s DMs this month? 212 Number of reasonably attractive men who confidently approached her in real life this month? Less than 3 Experience is the greatest teacher.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/21 03:50 PM
0

Thanks bro!
/r/TheRedPill22/06/21 03:37 PM
9

JFC! So this means AskTRP is gone for now?
/r/TheRedPill22/06/21 03:29 PM
2

I definitely remember the story but would’ve never remembered the handle. You’re a memory bank bro!
/r/askTRP22/06/21 12:57 AM
2

OP - we are going to need you to confirm this here because if so, that changes things. Coyote makes a valid point.
/r/askTRP22/06/21 12:46 AM
3

I think your move is literally nothing. Rejection of other men is your LTR’s job. You only need to step in when it becomes physical, overtly crude or she has expressed that she wants it to stop and it does not. Is he trying to text/call/DM your girl? Grab her ass when he gives her a hug? If no, you probably need to chill. What came up for me when thinking about your situation is how Glover describes some men in NMMNG. He describes the kind of guy who doesn’t know how to relate with other men. Th…
/r/askTRP22/06/21 12:15 AM
3

True. In this scenario, two negatives equal a positive.
/r/askTRP21/06/21 11:53 PM
2

You do not seem dumb. You seem uncertain which is the hallmark of a mission less man. I am certain there’s 1000 bitches in Thailand that would suck me off by me just winking at them. I’m not gonna make the trip though. Especially only for that reason. Why? I have other goals and other options. You should do the same. Any guy telling you to drive 4 hours for pussy has less than 2 options for sex I can almost guarantee you.
/r/askTRP21/06/21 11:37 PM
1

Advice to improve one’s fitness, style, and money are at least on a surface level, relatively straightforward. The majority of popular advice men receive on dating/women does not typically produce the desired results because it is misguided at best and detrimental at worst. This causes confusion, frustration and pain. And we typically only seek out advice when we realise that what we are doing is not working and becomes painful. In my personal experience and observation, this can last decades or…
/r/askTRP21/06/21 10:54 PM
8

“And already have made the decision to not make the trip.” Proceeds to ask “should I make the drive?” If her interest is THAT high, she’ll meet you in the middle. If not, tell her you’ll see her around. We must walk through open doors ….. but only if they are a reasonable distance.
/r/askTRP21/06/21 10:26 PM
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Vol. 1 red pill Bible. A little wordy in some areas but still an absolute requirement. Vol. 2 is fantastic. Especially the visual of the timeline. Vol. 3 is still good but didn’t have quite as much of an impact on me. I’ve yet to read vol. 4 but I’ve heard good things.
/r/askTRP21/06/21 09:51 PM
7

2 posts in 24 hours regarding your 2 year oneitis. Just let your stats sink in for a sec. Ghost. Be better.
/r/askTRP21/06/21 09:45 PM
1

Good call out.
/r/askTRP21/06/21 05:32 PM
18

Work assignment. You can be supportive of your LTR before/after the funeral. She’ll probably be a little sad in the short term but respect you more in the long term.
/r/askTRP21/06/21 04:08 PM
55

I came to comment but this is literally everything I wanted to say. Well put.
/r/askTRP21/06/21 01:55 AM
5

Tell her goodbye. Spend more time with your parents. Talk to other women.
/r/askTRP21/06/21 12:56 AM
1

Do the work yourself.
/r/askTRP20/06/21 11:09 PM
2

A quality response!
/r/askTRP20/06/21 08:05 PM
8

THE MEDIUM IS THE MESSAGE. Men and women in relationships finding others physically attractive is normal. What is NOT normal is her vocalising it. What’s the covert communication here? She certainly doesn’t seem to be communicating that you are her best option…. Or at least for much longer. Whatever you choose, do not have kids with this woman.
/r/askTRP20/06/21 07:09 PM
2

Yeah. I dealt with this some. What I think you need to do is put yourself in the driver’s seat. View this as a challenge. One trick I use is to always speak first. This can be at work or social circles where I’m new. If I approach and speak first, I’m in the driver seat. I can control the conversation. I will ask the first questions. I try to say people’s names when I meet them. If LTR and I are hosting, I’ll ask someone I am unfamiliar with to help me make drinks something. This way instead of …
/r/askTRP20/06/21 04:47 PM
7

No one gives a fuck enough to prove you wrong. OLD is a tool. If it’s not getting you the results you want, use a different tool.
/r/askTRP20/06/21 02:18 PM
10

How I do this is to remember that every woman is always qualifying to me. I’m in an LTR. Got a shit test last week. My girl came home and her friends asked her to meet up at a small wine bar because one of them had a “big announcement.” I told her to go and have fun. She comes home and says “ ooo I still got it. This guy was trying to pick me up!” I smile and ask “ well was he cute?!” She laughs and then proceeds to tell me she spent the whole evening talking to her girlfriends about me bla, bla…
/r/askTRP19/06/21 07:14 PM
6

I tried to call him once when I first discovered TRP. I think I broke it down to $50 a minute or something. Read his book. It’s a good and easy quick summary of the sidebar. You can DM me for free and I’ll tell you to DO THE WORK! Also, I don’t give a shit what kind of soap you want to use. Edit: it was $18 a minute.
/r/askTRP19/06/21 07:04 PM
1

I don’t know too much about this condition other than what I read from Wikipedia. My LTR has it and we fuck daily.
/r/askTRP19/06/21 01:31 PM
7

As a human being I agree. As a man who understands hypergamy, it is what it is.
/r/askTRP19/06/21 02:01 AM
4

Sounds like the solution is to continue to approach, make them laugh, PULL OUT PHONE AND ASK FOR NUMBER, tell them it was nice to meet them and that you’ll see them around. Has anyone else been through this? Probably all of us. Sounds like you are doing good but just not setting yourself up. You have to do it. Always remember when you approach, it’s “I hope I like her.” Not “I hope she likes me.”
/r/askTRP19/06/21 12:17 AM
8

My LDR ……… No. This is a LTP(late). Worth sticking with her? You’re not really sticking to anything since you’re not in a relationship. So I say Yes. More options are better than less options.
/r/askTRP19/06/21 12:03 AM
1

I haven’t heard this before. Pretty fucking brilliant.
/r/askTRP18/06/21 11:34 PM
75

Well that is how many men in the RP think. So what to do? Trust women to be women. Spin plates/FWBs. If at some point in the distant future, a FWB proves herself worthy, upgrade her. Don’t get married or have kids and there are minimal (at least long term or legal) consequences if shit goes south. I found TRP depressing for the first year or so. It now is freedom. Knowledge = Power.
/r/askTRP18/06/21 11:23 PM
3

Glad you’re here. Took me until about 32 to get my shit straight. Future’s bright!
/r/askTRP18/06/21 11:13 PM
14

On behalf of all the other men, I’d like to welcome you to life in the 2000s. It’s always been like this. It’s just a little more prevalent and visible now. Biggest RP for me was in hindsight. First GF in high school I ever had cheated on me with 2 dudes at the same time. While sobbing I asked her “how could she do this to me!?!” She answered something to the gist of “they were seniors and have cool cars.” I am grateful for my RP truths.
/r/askTRP18/06/21 10:54 PM
1

Yes. I can already tell you based on how much you’ve written about a girl you haven’t fucked yet that you need to approach more women. Put this girl on YOUR back burner. Additionally, this girl is only to be a plate for you for all of eternity. Boyfriend retaliation is a possibility so weigh the pros and cons.
/r/askTRP18/06/21 09:48 PM
3

Get a tan and dress well like coyote said. All normal shit still applies. I can give you my anecdotal evidence that you are overthinking this. I mentioned to my dad not long ago something about plucking my eyebrows and he told me to be careful. I asked why and he said “Look at me. Look at me!” Turns out it has taken me 36 years to realise that my own father does not have eyebrows.
/r/askTRP18/06/21 09:36 PM
1

Much thanks for all of the contributions itiswr1tten made.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/21 09:31 PM
7

Yes dude! It’s called plausible deniability. If anything happens between you two, it “can’t” be her fault because she told you “ I have a boyfriend.” It is now your fault.
/r/askTRP18/06/21 09:28 PM
9

I like Rich. His videos led me to TRP and inspired me to do something different about women/relationships after my divorce. I also really like Rian Stone. He is the most level headed of the bunch. I have no idea what is his wife looks like and I really don’t care. Rollo also has made a huge impact. Rollo taught me, or reminded me rather, about being one’s mental point of origin. I take what I want from these guys and leave the rest thus, remaining my own mental point of origin.
/r/askTRP18/06/21 07:50 PM
52

3 years ago, I met with my therapist and we discussed the rational male. There are better ways to waste $200.
/r/askTRP18/06/21 02:48 AM
7

I laughed out loud
/r/askTRP17/06/21 11:29 PM
2

This is hilarious. No. You should not move in. Bonus points though for knowing who Proust is!
/r/askTRP17/06/21 08:21 PM
13

I see your comment down there that said you thought you’d have a connection by admitting you were a virgin because she was a virgin. No! Men and women are different! The only thing wrong with you is that you do not understand male/female interaction …yet. I assure you that if you lift, build your confidence, approach more women, read the sidebar and apply what you’ve learned, you will not be a virgin much longer.
/r/askTRP17/06/21 08:00 PM
20

He’d still be a victim. Just not a virgin.
/r/askTRP17/06/21 07:55 PM
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this is not a question. this is a victim puke. what are you going to do about it?
/r/askTRP17/06/21 05:46 PM
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Sounds familiar. For confidence and doubt, you need to specifically address the areas that cause the most inner turmoil. Lifting is a given. It is step 1 to doing “the work”. You now need to identify your “work”. For me, this was public speaking. I had to address it head on and use every opportunity I could to practice it. For you, you’ve already identified that kickball caused you to feel this way. I advise you to view it as a challenge and continue for the season. If not, this just becomes ano…
/r/askTRP17/06/21 05:10 PM
2

There’s nothing wrong with you except for your mindset. Do the work.
/r/askTRP17/06/21 03:45 AM
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Very articulate and good point.
/r/askTRP16/06/21 07:06 PM
1

Abuse of empathy is women’s birthright. If women sense weakness, they may metaphorically poke and prod to try and snap him out of it if they see potential (also see shit test). If not, they will be disgusted and it may become overt.
/r/askTRP16/06/21 06:29 PM
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I’m not downvoting you but do you seriously think that who the president of the United States is dictates who women are attracted to?! Bruh. Think about what you are saying. The feminine is attracted to the masculine.
/r/askTRP16/06/21 12:25 AM
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Ok. So what’s your move? Remember you are hyper sensitive to this right now. So objectively, was she flirting or being friendly? At any rate, you are always vetting. Even more so when you are in an LTR. Even more so in a cohabitating LTR. Don’t do anything tonight. Go to bed and wake up with a clear head. Soft next. Hit the gym and plan some shit with your bros. Continue to observe her behavior. While you do this, come up with a contingency plan for your living arrangement if things continue to …
/r/askTRP16/06/21 12:08 AM
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What is depressing today will become freeing in time. Isn’t it better to have some idea of what is at play rather than being told to “be nice and be yourself”? Lift heavy. Up your wardrobe game and approach women. See if you can pick up on IOIs. If you strike up a conversation, see how well “cocky/funny” works. Notice your own body language. You’re an investigator now. Have fun with it. Expect setbacks and then tailor your approach.
/r/askTRP15/06/21 11:19 PM
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I can only tell you my experience. I noticed back before I found TRP, women of certain ethnicities were super attracted to me. They were extremely forward. I can recall one woman at a gas station ask me for my number and when I told her I was married she said “she doesn’t have to know.” I wasn’t attracted to them so I seemed ultra confident. And THAT is what they are attracted to. It is also the reason that I often comment here “women are women” when dudes ask “how do I attract young women, old …
/r/askTRP15/06/21 10:41 PM
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This isn’t a question so may get deleted. I think what would make this a little more worthwhile is if you listed the red flags you ignored and what you learned. You mentioned being too open. What else?
/r/askTRP15/06/21 08:08 PM
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The answer is they are beneficial if you find them to be beneficial. That being said, I do not really think of my friendships in general as beneficial as in “what can you do for me.” They are beneficial in the sense that I enjoy friends company and that is a benefit to me as it enriches my life. If you can be friends with a woman and not be an emotional tampon or some other net negative, go right ahead. I, at 36 years old, have found it to be EXTREMELY rare that members of the opposite sex are “…
/r/askTRP15/06/21 06:50 PM
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Voice of reason here.
/r/askTRP15/06/21 06:01 PM
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This is the answer OP. You need to fucking chill bro. You need to be looking at this as an opportunity to observe. YOU ARE THE PRIZE. Say it out loud 3x.
/r/askTRP15/06/21 05:49 PM
1

Probably just Sarah McLaughlin by herself.
/r/askTRP15/06/21 12:36 AM
1

Hahahaha I died!
/r/askTRP15/06/21 12:17 AM
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I have a very long success story (still in progress)so I’ll give you the summary. I struggled with depression, anxiety and substance abuse for the first 32ish years of my life. I was in therapy for a reallly long time and on meds. I found TRP and it was really the best therapy I could have asked for. What I gathered from all the material I read was that I was just being a giant fucking pussy all of those years. Blaming “trauma” for all my poor choices and mistakes. I learned I could make my life…
/r/askTRP14/06/21 11:09 PM
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I think this is going to be a bit beyond the scope of TRP unless any of our valued members have a law degree. This being the case, contact a lawyer as soon as possible. You will need to contact the coroner to determine if they collected a biological specimen from the deceased. If they did not, I think you are out of luck. If they did, I would imagine a lawyer is needed to facilitate the inquiry. I would not imagine that the coroner’s office accepts walk ins. Best of luck to you bro!
/r/askTRP14/06/21 10:52 PM
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I did and that’s what didn’t make sense. You say “I don’t care” and then go on to say “what grinds my gears …..” You see how those things conflict? Be thankful for your anger. Most of us went through this. I wasn’t angry at anyone else although I thought I was. I thought I was angry at my parents, school, church….. the world. But I wasn’t. I was angry at myself for having a poor belief system and not changing it sooner.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 06:08 PM
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You say “people can do what they want in life. I don’t care.” Seems like you do care because you wrote this post. My guess is that all the stupid shit you see in others is getting a reaction out of you because it reminds you of who you used to be.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 05:56 PM
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You just need more experience man. This kind of thing happens. Anxiety is a boner killer. I had a sort of similar experience my first time. She told everyone about our experience at a party in front of a ton of people. I let it get to me and it became an ongoing issue for a little while. I tried to avoid the problem and leaned on alcohol which as you can imagine, made it worse. So! My advice is to do the opposite. Get back into the saddle as soon as possible! Understand this has happened to mill…
/r/askTRP14/06/21 02:25 PM
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Yes. You’re right. It’s inconsequential except for your in her frame. Frame.
/r/askTRP13/06/21 02:37 AM
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Condom.
/r/askTRP12/06/21 07:43 PM
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I would just leave him be man. Also, you have a very minor covert contract. Did you read no more me nice guy? Based on what is written here, I’d say your covert contract is “If I I am cordial and friendly to others, then they will be cordial and friendly to me.” This is not an absolute. Most people I find are pretty open and decent but you do find the occasional dickhead. Let the dickheads be dickheads and leave them be.
/r/askTRP12/06/21 05:48 PM
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No one can tell you what YOUR standards are. Determine what you can or cannot accept and take action. None of this pussyfooting around in limbo. Think on it and go with your gut. Can you accept this? If yes, carry on. If no, don’t waste anymore time. Attractive adult women are going to have previous partners. If you are dead set on getting a virgin or a 1 body count girl, either move to the Middle East or Lancaster county, PA. If you choose the second option, I hope you can make an impressive ta…
/r/askTRP12/06/21 05:39 PM
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No. Of course she’s going to test you when you try to apply dread. I would say you handled it textbook perfectly. Literally a 100% A+.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 10:50 PM
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Yes. It is perceived as more dangerous for a woman to go to a man’s place that she doesn’t know than vice/versa. Ibwriting is exactly right. You are stepping on your own dick.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 10:48 PM
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Try again man. This don’t make any sense
/r/askTRP11/06/21 09:56 PM
2

Only help those who want to be helped.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 07:47 PM
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You’re getting close. Fun game!
/r/askTRP11/06/21 06:18 PM
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I can tell you from experience that you need to get off this track now. Abstinence or moderation is your choice. If you continue using a crutch, you’ll never grow. Drinking can be fine unless you use it as a buffer or it interferes with your relationships and finances.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 06:08 PM
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What word rhymes with baguette that would not be acceptable in “polite” conversation?
/r/askTRP11/06/21 05:20 PM
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I had the same experience. They do not have a 6th sense. The average woman is waaaaay better than the average man at understanding body language and subtext. I’d say that most women intuitively understand “the medium is the message.” Men typically need to be taught by experience and as with the case for almost everyone here, having it explained to them. When you sacrifice your purpose, standards or boundaries for a woman, she subconsciously thinks “if he can’t stand up to me, how will he stand u…
/r/askTRP11/06/21 05:15 PM
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My guess is that you are not leading the interaction. Ask questions. Ask her what she wants to drink/eat and when the bartender or waiter comes around “say she’ll have the x and I’m going to do the x.” Lead. When it’s time to leave or change the venue, walk over to her side of the table/bar, grab her hand and say “c’mon let’s go.” Lead. When it’s time for date to end, tell her “I’ll see you soon” or something to that affect. Don’t ask her if she wants to hang out again. Lead. You need to always …
/r/askTRP11/06/21 05:06 PM
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This was not written by a man with options. Level up and you won’t care what everyone else is doing so much.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 03:38 PM
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If you don’t give a fuck, give her the lollipop. Maybe you can be new skittles guy.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 02:55 PM
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The cleverness of that first line is yet to be recognized. Upvote.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 02:15 PM
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Did you read no more mr nice guy? You need to see the section on covert contracts. Read the whole thing. Twice.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 03:53 AM
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This may get banned but I really think it should be allowed because This. Right here. Is why TRP has to exist. Cut out the step sibling porn.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 03:50 AM
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Welcome. Read the sidebar and check out the most popular post. Ask guys who seem like they know that they are talking about questions. Start reading no more me nice guy and join that sub also. You can post of the BF exercises in there and you’ll get feedback.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 02:01 AM
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Good update. Hell yeah bro!
/r/askTRP11/06/21 12:30 AM
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At least your vetting is done.
/r/askTRP10/06/21 06:27 PM
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Yes. OP - this is your answer. Last night, LTR and I had somewhere to be. She was naked and getting ready and I began to escalate. She’s all like “No.No. I’m more than just a piece of meat and we have somewhere to be.” I say “ok. You’re right.” and then pretend to let her walk out of the room. I grab her hand and pull her back into the room and re-escalate and we smash. When we are on the way to our event she tells me, “I love it when you just HAVE to take me like that. So primal.” I laugh. It’s…
/r/askTRP10/06/21 03:37 PM
8

As they say “there are no feminists in a house fire.”
/r/askTRP10/06/21 02:25 AM
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“The reason they act like children is because they want to make sure you are strong enough to protect your own actual children.” I read that 3 times. Wow! I don’t know if this is 100% accurate but it certainly speaks to the importance of maintaining frame. Interesting point!
/r/askTRP10/06/21 01:49 AM
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Last band I was in was kinda queens of the stone ageish. I’ve been in a very surf rock mood lately. Currently learning some stuff from a band called eternity forever. Check it on spotify
/r/askTRP09/06/21 08:12 PM
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Fa sho. Also checked your post history and found it very interesting that you are playing a super champ x2 with your am standard tele. Me too and I actually love it although, I prefer my AC15
/r/askTRP09/06/21 07:30 PM
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do not ever refer to yourself as “stupid” again go on an “I’m sorry” moratorium. You can say “excuse me”, “my b” or whatever but no “sorry” reread up on frame. Not a single one of these events matter. What does matter is that you feel “bad” after them. This is because you are in everyone else’s frame stop catastrophizing keep lifting. It’s a process and not an end goal
/r/askTRP09/06/21 07:23 PM
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Can’t tell you what to “study”. Here’s what I did after my divorce in “monk mode” got control of my drinking rejoined gym and cleaned up diet used the headspace app daily to meditate journaled daily read NMMNG, TRM, WISNIFG and several others found in the sidebar watched Rollo, Rian Stone & Rich Cooper’s YouTube channels joined group of guys from the NMMNG Facebook group and met weekly via zoom for accountability determined things I feared and addressed them. Public speaking was a big one for me…
/r/askTRP09/06/21 06:24 PM
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One of the primary reasons for my divorce was my ex wife’s weight so I have some experience here. I think you are in a pretty good spot. She recognizes that she has to keep up with herself to keep you. Good! This is ideal for anyone. Since she has kept this up for months on her own, I think you can give her a LITTLE comfort if this comes up again. Keep doing what you’re doing.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 04:16 PM
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Agree and amplify and amused mastery if it comes up. This is a joke to you. The fact that you have the question tells me you are not a “bad boy”. You were a kid who got caught up in shit. Me too man. Me too. What MAY give her the tingles is for a moment you will be the center of attention that the group finds humorous and somewhat notorious. Read social proof you did something “bad” but not so bad that you are dangerous. you will agree and amplify or use amused mastery when it comes up to show t…
/r/askTRP09/06/21 04:06 PM
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Dude asked your LTR on date. Your LTR said yes. Circumstances are irrelevant. Trying to justify is hamstering. Talk to other women. She is to remain no more than an FWB or plate. She did you a favor. You’re young. Enjoy your time man!
/r/askTRP09/06/21 03:44 PM
1

I think it’s still kinda viewed as “fringe” and as you know it’s controversial. OP - watch the documentary One Little Pill. I think it’s still on Netflix.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 02:39 PM
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I was on the Sinclair method for a while. I can vouch that it does indeed work as long as you take the pill and wait the 1 hour. Had to enroll in an outpatient to get a prescription. The Sinclair method will also “work if you work it” as they say in AA.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 01:46 PM
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“This naked mind” is a relatively new one and I found it helpful.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 04:00 AM
1

Is this an office reference?
/r/askTRP08/06/21 11:47 PM
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“She’s cheated on tons of boyfriends and slept with husbands.” OP, I was with you until I read this. Your girl is damaged beyond repair. Eject today.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 11:04 PM
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I agree that the question is getting very, very old.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 09:41 PM
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You’ve got to decide for yourself. One of the most valuable points that I have taken from TRP is mental point of origin. Human relationships are complex and change throughout the course of women’s lives (please see TRM vol.2) TRP is a guide. It is not a “how to” or an insurance plan. We all have our anecdotal evidence. I know a guy who I would describe as a “Chad” who wifed up an acquaintance who I know for certain slept around quite a bit. They’ve been together for 10+ years and I’m certain he’…
/r/askTRP08/06/21 08:54 PM
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I struggled with substance abuse most my life. If you want to stop, just stop. I’ve never seen anyone improve their life with drinking. You are less articulate, it wreaks havoc on your lifting gains and it is a buffer. If you want to try to moderate, my advice is - Try to go 30 days no alcohol. If you can’t do it or find it difficult, you probably need to cut it out completely. If successful after the 30 days, try to have only 1 drink. If you cannot do this, find it difficult or start trying to …
/r/askTRP07/06/21 08:25 PM
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Women are women.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 07:17 PM
1

There’s several out there. I’ve used this one in the past and when I test it at the gym, seems pretty accurate.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 06:05 PM
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Listen to your body. Also, if you’re curious, check the 1rm calculator and you can see how you compare. 1 RM Calculator
/r/askTRP07/06/21 05:44 PM
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Good advice. OP, to piggyback on this, start telling instead of asking. Example - at a restaurant, say “I’ll have the cheeseburger” or “I’m going to get the cheeseburger” rather than “Can I please have the cheeseburger?”
/r/askTRP07/06/21 04:43 PM
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One of the most interesting comments I’ve seen.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 12:37 PM
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The medium is the message.
/r/askTRP06/06/21 07:07 PM
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Sounds like you you may have trauma that has resulted into a fear of abandonment. You are resentful because while you have some really good shit going on, your girlfriend is your emotional center. As we would say here in TRP, you are missionless (or directionless) and are not your own mental point of origin. Women do not respect men who do not value their own time. You must make a life outside of your girlfriend. Women are just the icing on the cake man. find your purpose spend more time with yo…
/r/askTRP06/06/21 05:19 PM
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Some takeaways “So part of the reason she loves me is the experience I provide for her.” Do you mean “providing her an experience” by being with you in a general sense? Or do you mean “providing her an experience” as in paying for trips, food, gifts, etc? If it’s the former, carry on. If it’s the latter, and you really believe that, dump her today. Return to TRP white belt. “Should I be honest and tell her things are a little rough with my job?” In my opinion, yes. Tell her things are a little r…
/r/askTRP05/06/21 08:43 PM
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Ha! True! Currently taking a training on AI for work so your comment is right on time.
/r/askTRP05/06/21 07:25 PM
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If the queen had balls, she’d be king. Accept what you can’t change and change what you can. I’m probably not going to become the Tom Brady of my domain but that wont stop me from trying
/r/askTRP05/06/21 06:49 PM
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It’s not the tattoo. It’s impulsivity. Butterfly tattoo on her ankle or some meaningful thing she got with her sister on her wrist? Wouldn’t even hit my radar. Tattoo that says “Bonaroo2012”? More like Boneroo2012. That’s probably impulsive. Impulsivity is among the worst traits for LTR.
/r/askTRP05/06/21 03:43 PM
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Can’t decide between weird, stupid, hilarious or genius!
/r/askTRP05/06/21 01:58 AM
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I liked it when I read it however in hindsight, the entire book could have been printed on one sheet of paper that says Own your shit You are not your thoughts Life is short IDGAF Determine what you give a fuck about. Prioritize your fucks. Don’t give a fuck about people who do not give a fuck about you (as communicated by their actions). Put your best fuck forward. IDGAF everything else.
/r/askTRP04/06/21 06:34 PM
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“But isn’t your LTR being unsupportive in the midst of a tough situation?” No. Setting a boundary and not adhering to it IS being a doormat. Setting a boundary and not enforcing it is worse than no boundary in the first place.
/r/askTRP04/06/21 05:41 PM
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All sounds reasonable. Boundary #3 should not be an issue (in 97% of cases) if boundary # 1 is honored.
/r/askTRP04/06/21 04:17 PM
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To be clear, you were and are still in an LTR while spinning plates prior to discovering TRP?
/r/askTRP04/06/21 03:52 PM
1

Takes a little work and I love my job!
/r/askTRP04/06/21 01:14 PM
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This shouldn’t have made me laugh as much as it did.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 11:07 PM
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Benzos will help you in the short term. Unfortunately, you’ll also be denying yourself the opportunity to face your fear. Two options- Face your fear and become the confident man that you can be. It will be uncomfortable. It will scare you. You will dislike it. Each time you perform public speaking, you will get better. Do it as often as possible. Join toastmasters. Use substances as a buffer and struggle for the rest of your life with this
/r/askTRP03/06/21 06:44 PM
1

The question is?
/r/askTRP03/06/21 06:34 PM
2

Is English your first language? This is almost incoherent.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 06:25 PM
5

I had to google “capping”. I have now expanded my vocabulary. Thanks for the prompt!
/r/askTRP03/06/21 05:57 PM
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It’s certainly a challenge. I’ve had 2 people onboard during COVID. My advice is to ask coworkers for their phone number. When you have a question that may require an explanation, ask if you can call rather than email/instant message and you can shoot the shit a little.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 04:45 PM
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Right. Could be summed up as “take the lead but don’t be a try hard tryrant.”
/r/askTRP03/06/21 03:59 PM
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How would you have felt? I would have felt like she is lying. What do you think of this? That I understand female nature is to negate their sexual pasts so as to be absolved from the consequences and that when I discuss sexual past, I am receiving trickle truth. I either accept this and stay because the pros outweigh the cons or I break up because the cons outweigh the pros.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 03:31 PM
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There’s some good shit in this thread. I won’t rehash all the same points and like you said, you must make this decision for yourself. What I would encourage you to do is not make any rash decisions. Don’t delete this post like every other motherfucker who posts the same question and then deletes it like a bitch after he doesn’t get the answer he wants. Instead, put yourself on a bare minimum of 6 months to 1 year waiting period. Keep a journal of your thoughts and refer back to this post period…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 11:23 PM
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Reasonable and rational.
/r/askTRP02/06/21 11:03 PM
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As a chronic substance abuser for much of my life, I’d like to point out that this is a red flag moment for you. Your seemingly innocent recreational behavior has now cost you something. Experience. So do the pros outweigh the cons? It’s a hell no for me but you decide. Also - “just not having anything to do over the summer has sort of made me abuse weed.” Excuse me? What the fuck? Did the summer solstice drop by in physical form and put a blunt in your mouth? Take responsibility for your action…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 06:05 PM
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I am a major proponent of the journal for all things you want to focus on. Additionally, I would include - mindset prior to approach (excited, nervous, confident, pessimistic) wardrobe choice behavior prior to approach (going to gym, got drunk and ate totino’s pizza, jerked it, watched Tony Robbins motivation video, etc) As much detail as possible is most beneficial in hindsight. Meaning don’t get lost in the weeds and critique yourself immediately before or during your approaches. I’ve been pla…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 04:43 PM
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36 yr old opinion here- Asking for number shows you have some balls and sets the stage for you to establish man/woman interaction. Asking for IG puts you in a potential queue. Neither of these matter if her interest level is high enough but I would say the number is more direct.
/r/askTRP02/06/21 04:20 PM
1

“I wish there was a way to know you're in the good old days before you left them.”
/r/askTRP02/06/21 03:11 PM
1

Had to reread this one. Concentrate on posture = shoulders back at all times, set my chair so I couldn’t slouch, feet slightly wider than shoulders,etc.
/r/askTRP02/06/21 12:37 AM
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Only you can determine if it is too much of a “hassle”. “Bossy” women are women. Women want to be led. Do you acquiesce when she tries to take things over? If so, that may be your issue. But this is not a hard rule. As you probably expected to be told, frame is everything. Sandwich Example - Her: You’re doing it wrong You: hmm ya know.... you’re right! You’re supposed to be doing this for me! Agree and Amplify and Amused Mastery are among the best tools in the TRP box. Sounds like you may need t…
/r/askTRP01/06/21 07:58 PM
2

Those are all the right words. 1 thing at a time man. Don’t get burned out.
/r/askTRP01/06/21 02:21 AM
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Throughout this entire post, you keep alluding to there being something wrong you. You may experience anxiety, depression, PTSD, etc. Not one of these god damn things is the sole reason to blame for your inability to act. They may make it difficult but YOU DO POSSESS THE ABILITY TO MAKE IT TO THE GYM MORE THAN ONCE A WEEK! You are asking is it worth it for me to do the work at 37/38 to make my life better? How could it not? It’s mind blowing that it’s even a question. And that’s because it’s not…
/r/askTRP01/06/21 01:58 AM
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You still have a victim mentality and won’t accept responsibility for your own life. Commit to 1 thing for the next 2 weeks. Then add another thing during the following 2 weeks. In the event you fail, seek professional help.
/r/askTRP01/06/21 01:36 AM
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Came here to say this
/r/askTRP31/05/21 07:45 PM
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Forget about your height. Read no more mr nice guy.
/r/askTRP31/05/21 05:55 PM
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I think it’s just your BP conditioning man. My guess is that part of your subconscious believes deeply in “the one” and you’re infatuated right now. You believe you’ve done something wrong because your subconscious thinks this is your “soul mate”. Having a deeply conservative and religious background, I can relate with this. It’s good that you recognize this now so that you can take a proactive approach. Spin plates and if you do continue seeing this girl, do not promote for a minimum of 6 month…
/r/askTRP31/05/21 02:44 PM
1

If you believe that, I’m Dennis Rodman and I’m currently on my motorcycle with the queen of England.
/r/askTRP31/05/21 01:41 PM
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Sugar daddy and platonic have never belonged in the same sentence.
/r/askTRP31/05/21 01:21 AM
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I was out having some drinks and then I started having some doubts about her traveling. My head is clear now.
/r/askTRP31/05/21 01:09 AM
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I would just keep as plate forever and ever amen. Have her tell the Miami Heat I say Hi!
/r/askTRP29/05/21 09:43 PM
1

Excellent analysis
/r/askTRP29/05/21 09:26 PM
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“She asked me if we would like to be in an open relationship.” It was not a question. It was an announcement.
/r/TheRedPill29/05/21 08:52 PM
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Looks pretty good. My only critique - you look like you are slightly hunched over in photo 4.
/r/askTRP29/05/21 08:42 PM
1

You are asking if this is a boundary issue. It would be for me but I’m not you. Personally, I wouldn’t have a problem with communication regarding work/school within reason. Going to dinner together though? That’s a date man. How have you set boundaries?
/r/askTRP29/05/21 08:37 PM
1

Good advice. Thanks bro
/r/askTRP29/05/21 08:24 PM
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Start with your speech. Start telling instead of asking. Next time you order something say “I want or I’ll have” instead of “Can I have?” Baby steps.
/r/askTRP29/05/21 06:02 PM
1

Yeah I was hanging with some friends last night. Came home and then my hamster started.
/r/askTRP29/05/21 04:55 PM
2

Common problem. Sounds familiar. Don’t discount yourself, yeah?
/r/askTRP29/05/21 06:09 AM
2

Future red pill man, ignore all this. What’s your mission?
/r/askTRP29/05/21 06:00 AM
1

Man, you’re not wrong. My question is, you rolling around on a normal day to day thinkin about this?
/r/askTRP29/05/21 05:32 AM
12

“Admittedly I way leaner....”. OP, hard stop here. You blamin yourself for some imaginary nonsense, yeah?
/r/askTRP29/05/21 05:13 AM
6

Simple craft is a wise man. OP, set your boundary or don’t. You sound like you mostly have your shit together.
/r/askTRP29/05/21 05:03 AM
11

Thanks for submitting a reasonable question/scenario for the sub. Brother, do you really not know where to go from here? I’m jumping up and down asking you “what the fuck!!!!!?” Your LTR exchanged contact info with another guy? Is that correct? Edit: Op. I reread this. Your girl exchanged social media connects with what was a random dude? Is that correct? If so, send her on her way man.
/r/askTRP29/05/21 04:49 AM
1

Idk who that is. All the best
/r/askTRP29/05/21 04:34 AM
4

I don’t disagree but you’re a little vague.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 11:44 PM
1

What are you hoping to learn from that post? Anyways, I have the vaguest memory of what you are talking about but I believe it was in the TIFU sub
/r/askTRP28/05/21 09:19 PM
3

Haha fair enough for a certain population of dudes. This could get long. I’m gonna leave it here. Cheers!
/r/askTRP28/05/21 06:36 PM
5

An interesting thought. What we do about that pesky certainty of paternity thing we as men find to be paramount?
/r/askTRP28/05/21 06:13 PM
24

What should be done to change though? As articulate and observant as you are, without a call to action, this reads as doomer mental masturbation. The only things I can see to do are - vote conservative - hold women in your own life accountable by enforcing your boundaries - have kids and try to instill the desired values in them Can you think of anything else?
/r/askTRP28/05/21 06:03 PM
0

You are very lost and need to read the sidebar. You have very little understanding of how male/female relationships work. You’re on to something in the last sentence. Among the absolute worst advice young men receive is “be her friend first.” For you I suggest reading - no more mr nice guy - the rational male - vol 1 & 2 - when I say no I feel guilty - models
/r/askTRP28/05/21 05:40 PM
24

Not denying that there are societal problems. From a practical standpoint, what are you going to do about it?
/r/askTRP28/05/21 05:33 PM
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Sperm is cheap. Eggs are expensive. Repeat after me - Self. Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 05:06 PM
1

Exactly.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 05:02 PM
18

Lots of different answers in this one. My philosophy is MEN LEAD. That means I determine how expenses will be handled. Often, I tell LTR “hey you have a date tomorrow night at 8. Wear something cute” and I will pay. Sometimes, on different occasions, I wait for the check to come and waiter or waitress asks “same check?” and I may decide to split it 50/50 or separate the checks. I lead. As long as you are not on one extreme or the other, what is important is that you handle these things as you se…
/r/askTRP28/05/21 02:59 PM
3

319Skew is master of analogies.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 02:48 PM
4

Like it was said above, office work may not be for you. I cannot tell you if working a 9-5 is hurting your testosterone. What I do know is that if you are spending your entire day frustrated and stressed, you will increase cortisol which does impact your testosterone.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 01:28 PM
5

Don’t worry about the BPD diagnosis. Despite what you read around here, it’s pretty rare but is more common in women. BPD or not, almost every single one of those is enough for a disqualification in my book.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 08:59 PM
1

I’m in Jax. While it is mostly conservative, like most other places, it is becoming more liberal. It flashed blue for the first time since I’ve been alive during the election.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 08:06 PM
4

1 for public speaking. OP try toastmasters.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 07:23 PM
72

When I was a kid, my first dog died after being bitten by a snake. I cried for days. I loved that dog more than anything. Parents got me a new dog. This one passed away of old age. I loved that dog more than anything. Parents got me a new dog ...... you see where this is going? Enjoy the time you have, learn the lessons and move on.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 06:01 PM
1

Haha man! How did it feel to type that out? You see how you seem like a bit of a loose cannon? First, you didn’t set boundaries and went nuclear. Fine for plate or FWB but this is your LTR. And here is where you REALLY FUCKED UP. You got back with her and slithered backwards like a spineless jellyfish acknowledging it’s “normal” for girls to have male friends. Then she does it again thinking everything is cool and you go nuclear again. Brother you gotta be 100% done with this relationship and al…
/r/askTRP27/05/21 04:58 PM
6

We cannot tell you what YOUR boundaries are. You are NOT crazy for enforcing your boundaries. You do however, have a conflict in “the crazy thing is I trust the girl” and also breaking up with her for chilling with other dudes. Based on this, is it safe to assume you did not state your boundaries to her?
/r/askTRP27/05/21 04:05 PM
5

Say whatever you want but be firm and brief. Pack her shit so it’s ready when she comes. Don’t let her inside.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 03:54 PM
27

Another example of watch what they do and not what they say.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 03:50 PM
1

Find something better to do
/r/askTRP27/05/21 03:33 AM
3

Lack of abundance, frame and mission man. Mission-> Frame->abundance ——————————>little shit like this won’t bother you or even hit your radar.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 02:39 AM
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I’m 5’9. I’m sure some women have rejected me based on height before. But who gives a shit. I’m not fucking them nor do I know who they are. I am however currently fucking my LTR who is hot as fuck. It’s a problem if you make it one.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 11:37 PM
2

Hahaha right. That’s why I was saying to just get an idea and not sign up.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 10:02 PM
1

Your victim doomer mentality is what’s doing it man. I don’t say this to be insulting. “Women communicate covertly. Men communicate overtly.” If you are communicating this to us, you can imagine what women pick up on, yeah? Areas of needing attention from you are- belief system. Do something you fear. This will build confidence. gym hair skin care (as mentioned above). I’ve been a pack and half a day smoker for a long time. Quitting now. An eye serum is doing wonders. wardrobe. If you struggle h…
/r/askTRP26/05/21 09:41 PM
3

“Ethnic jokes may be uncouth but you laugh because they’re based on truth.” Hahahahaha I’m dying. I listened to the whole song. Pure gold.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 09:30 PM
10

Your standards are YOUR standards and you have the right to enforce them as you see fit. Bill of assertive rights 1, 2 & 10 apply here.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 07:44 PM
1

Bruh, why did this even hit your radar? This is a serious question for you to contemplate. To me, this post implies an egregious lack of frame, abundance and mission.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 05:28 PM
35

Welcome! The sidebar (3 dots in right hand corner - community info) contains numerous resources and the links to books. The Rational Male and No More Mr Nice Guy are available on Amazon and Audible.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 04:59 PM
10

I’m double digit reads on both. I hear you only retain about 10% of what you read so it stands to reason that if something is important, I should read it 10x. Don’t know if that stat is backed by anything but it couldn’t hurt.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 04:45 PM
1

Seems that way.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 04:41 PM
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How many times have you read The Rational Male & No More Mr. Nice Guy?
/r/askTRP26/05/21 04:19 PM
1

Same as you could speak to a perspective employer for years without ever getting hired. It’s on you to express interest (initiate) submit resume (escalate) and interview (isolate).
/r/askTRP26/05/21 03:48 PM
5

Certainly puts things into perspective.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 03:30 PM
17

I’d tell her I was doing some beta testing for a new site called onlymans.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 04:56 PM
1

If you try to find your worth in women, it’s gonna be a rough life man. Find your mission, stick with the gym, get eye serum for your puffiness, get a tan and download the headspace app. Hang in there.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 04:23 AM
7

I laughed out loud.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 12:03 AM
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You compromise on which chairs to buy from IKEA. You DO NOT compromise your values and core beliefs.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 11:06 PM
40

1 year from now, you will remember this as the time you did not accept what was unacceptable to you. You’ve got some self respect. Pat yourself on the back. Reflect on what you’ve learned and move on.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 10:38 PM
5

First rule of fight club applies 99.9% of the time. Use your best judgement. Took my younger brother to dinner once. Over drinks he told me he was “going MGTOW” unprovoked. We had a brief conversation about TRP and then I changed the subject. He hasn’t implemented a god damn thing so no need for us to ever discuss again unless he specifically asks me for help.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 09:40 PM
7

This reference is going to be funny for a very long time.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 09:36 PM
15

“Started Dating a girl whose most recent ex is her boss.” No. bad. Very bad. Update to “Started FUCKING a girl whose most recent ex is her boss.” Yes. Good. Could be very good. Insert Drake shaking his head meme here.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 08:12 PM
5

My dad told me when I was a kid “Son. You won’t learn anything until it costs you something.” This is true of all of us. How it manifests is different for men and women. Most of us here had a cost to our actions/behaviors. We came here to gain insight and do the work. The cost had become too great to continue on. When the “pretty girl pours” stop at the bar and “where have all the good men gone?” pops into her head, today’s festival going boss bitch becomes tomorrow’s sweetheart in a sundress. S…
/r/askTRP24/05/21 05:05 PM
6

Probably just need to be more vulnerable in your love letters. Be nice and be yourself. C’mon man! Touch the damn sidebar.
/r/askTRP23/05/21 02:57 AM
4

I’m digging “breath of god” from lush. Oh shit! Lush makes bath bombs. Am I beta? Shit! What kind of socks do alphas wear?
/r/askTRP22/05/21 04:10 PM
4

Red flag for what? LTR? Yes. Ding dong ditch? No. Read the sidebar man.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 04:06 PM
5

Damn right.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 03:48 PM
61

This is black and white. If you do anything other than dump her, you’re a bitch and your self respect will suffer. What are you waiting on!?
/r/askTRP22/05/21 02:27 PM
8

“I’m date Mike. Nice to meet me. How do you like your eggs in the morning?”
/r/askTRP22/05/21 12:59 PM
3

I’ll check it!
/r/askTRP21/05/21 05:10 PM
4

I’m digging Make them Suffer as of late. Fine Djentlemen those guys.
/r/askTRP21/05/21 04:50 PM
1

Ha naw man. I updated it.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 10:14 PM
2

Hahah I updated it.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 10:02 PM
17

Here’s one I’ve come up with for my job- Usually, competence = confidence. Sometimes, confidence = (or at least gives the appearance of) competence. A dual approach is always best.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 09:38 PM
18

The age of emotionalism. Women have become more like how men traditionally were. Men have become more like women traditionally were.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 09:14 PM
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You ARE going to get rejected. Expect it. There is no shame in rejection. There is shame in quitting. A key factor in success will largely be determined by your ability to delay gratification. Men learn from their mistakes. Smart men learn from other’s mistakes. Buffers. This is anything you do in order to avoid or delay facing challenges. The longer you wait, the more difficult challenges become. Lift The list could get long.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 05:07 PM
2

Things things tend to upset the women folk.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 04:03 PM
5

Excellent reference!
/r/askTRP20/05/21 03:47 PM
8

You’re doing fine based on this brief description. I gotten this a few times. I just smirk and say “would I, themostgianthorse, be with anyone less than a bad bitch.?” And then I kiss her, grab her ass and she moves on. A few times she said “I don’t have my make up on today and I don’t feel pretty.” I respond with “that’s ok! That ass doesn’t need make up!” Laugh and kiss her. You are wise to not over validate. Remember that women communicate covertly. Giving an insincere “baby you are the most …
/r/askTRP20/05/21 03:46 PM
5

Thank you for demonstrating “women would rather share a high value man than settle with a dutiful beta.” Get your shit together man. Dump LTR today. This is step 1.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 01:36 PM
8

I’d just buzz it all the way man. I used rogaine for a while and my hair started thinning in the crown like yours. As you know, you must use it 2x per day. When I applied it to my crown, it made my hair very greasy and weighed it down so that my issue was more noticeable. This defeated the purpose. Also went down the finasteride, duasteride, nizoral, laser and snake oil route. I may have slowed the process but nothing gave me the results I wanted. The day I buzzed it all off, my confidence surge…
/r/askTRP20/05/21 03:22 AM
3

“I’m also fine with letting her go if she doesn’t reciprocate.” This was thing only positive thing I could find in this dumpster fire.
/r/askTRP19/05/21 10:55 PM
8

Have a good time. Don’t commit, move in together or get married.
/r/askTRP19/05/21 10:53 PM
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I used to get this all the time when I got nervous. The long term strategy is simply exposure therapy. More experiences will diminish your anxiety. Short term strategy is to take shit beforehand, take Imodium and maybe a light jog/guided meditation a few hours before you meet up. Remind yourself that it is ok to fail. Whatever girl you are with is not gonna be the last girl you have sex with and you probably aren’t getting married to her. If you internalize this thought, that alone should dimini…
/r/askTRP19/05/21 09:25 PM
24

In my opinion, pull back may be appropriate at times but the blanket advice” pull back” is incomplete. When I see “pull back” here, it is a reminder for me that my mission and goals are my focus. Women are the icing on the cake
/r/askTRP19/05/21 04:25 PM
1

It took close to a year for me to get back in the gym. After that, I would occasionally have some pain when lifting but nothing major. I did not push through it and listened to my body.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 10:34 PM
2

True. Tore my rotator cuff once and broke all my ribs in a skateboard accident.. Surgeon told me I’d never lift more than 15lbs with that arm without surgery. Didn’t get the surgery. Currently repping 255 on bench.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 06:25 PM
2

Much like hypergamy, TRP is not a straight jacket.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 04:32 PM
2

You need to join toastmasters to face your fear. In the mean time - take notes on what you are going to speak about and look over them beforehand. Competence = Confidence anticipate questions the group may have. Add these to your notes. stand up if appropriate. Shoulders back. If not, sit up. Shoulders back. minimize the zoom app after everyone joins the meeting. Your camera is still activated. Look directly at it. You can pull it up as you see fit. You need to practice public speaking as often …
/r/askTRP18/05/21 04:23 PM
1

Damn. Thinking a girl has agoraphobia may be the reason she doesn’t want to meet up. You are next level delusional. I don’t say this to insult you. You are way. And I am mean waaaaaay too invested in her. Brother, you’ve got to read the sidebar. Start with no more mr nice guy and rational male. The medium is the message.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 02:58 AM
10

“She broke up with her baby daddy” = plate/FWB only forever and ever til the end of time. Never mind any of the other shit. Regarding sexual past, you must determine your own standards. TRP has much to say on the subject but these are guidelines to help you avoid common pitfalls. One that is resounding amongst the majority of men both TRP aware and not, is that single mothers are almost always a poor investment.
/r/askTRP17/05/21 09:42 PM
3

No guard buzz 2-3 times a week. Short beard trim.
/r/askTRP16/05/21 11:23 PM
1

First, you should try to get with the sidebar.
/r/askTRP15/05/21 02:27 PM
1

Respect bro! Congrats and keep at it!
/r/askTRP15/05/21 12:00 PM
9

Can’t tell you specifically what to do in these situations. You already know what you want to do. You have a plate. You have an LTR who you’ve already stepped out on. Why change it? Feeling guilty? You’ve already self diagnosed you have oneitis. How would focusing more on your oneitis be beneficial to you?
/r/askTRP15/05/21 11:20 AM
3

WSP= Wall street playboys?
/r/askTRP15/05/21 12:02 AM
1

Truf
/r/askTRP14/05/21 10:16 PM
2

I agree with being somewhat “open” and owning it but discernment is key here. If I were in that scenario, I would personally answer with amused mastery “Wow! You’re forward aren’t you!? Gentleman don’t kiss and tell (side eye/smirk)” That question is just an inquiry into social intelligence. She doesn’t want the literal answer.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 09:03 PM
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I thought it was decent. I think when Mark is referencing vulnerability, he actually means courage or it’s at least how I interpreted it when I read it. As in having the courage to take risks which would make you “vulnerable” to rejection/failure. Courage is a strength. Vulnerability is not.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 07:40 PM
4

Bro. This was one of the best RP articles I’ve seen on the subject. Took a full 1/2 hour to read and was worth it. Cheers for sharing!
/r/askTRP14/05/21 06:21 PM
15

Well you definitely sound like you are in another rage phase. “Women can have it all just by throwin some ass on tiktok, getting endless attention.” Bro. Duh. MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT. Always has and always will be this way. You just see it more often now. You aren’t mad at women for having a perceived advantage. You are mad about your upbringing/conditioning and the choices you have made have not given you the results that you wanted. Welcome to the club! That’s why we all initially came her…
/r/askTRP14/05/21 03:44 PM
1

As mentioned above, read up on the soft next and dread. What’s really standing out to me is that you are still married but have somehow already entered into an LTR? Is that right? You also reference feeling “mistreated” in both relationships. These are back to back. Are you tolerating and thus perpetuating the problem? I’d take some time off from committed relationships and do some introspective work if I were you.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 02:17 PM
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I can see The Guardian doing another manosphere write up and referencing this line specifically.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 02:06 PM
3

Agree with your advice. Didn’t know it was moderated by women. Glover also covers this in both his books.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 12:23 AM
6

Check AskMRP sub
/r/askTRP13/05/21 11:59 PM
6

Search epiphany phase. I’m sure something will come up. Also, TRM vol.2
/r/askTRP13/05/21 10:59 PM
2

Truf
/r/askTRP13/05/21 10:39 PM
6

Well there you go! You got the ticket and now you must enter the building. So tomorrow (or whenever feasible since your in Sherwood Forest) approach one woman and say “hi”. You can say more or not. Your success criteria is “approached girl and said hello.” This is win #1. Right this down in a journal. Next occurrence will be a brief conversation. Success criteria is “approached girl. Said hello and had brief conversation.” This is win #2. Write in your journal and so on and so forth. Acknowledge…
/r/askTRP13/05/21 10:39 PM
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You seem to be trying to watch the grass grow. We all have some attachment to outcome but you sound like you aren’t enjoying the process at all. You are solely focused on the outcome. What to do when you don’t enjoy the process? Change it! Also, you identified 2 areas in which you want to improve but haven’t yet. If both of those areas are important to you, of course all the other shit isn’t going to make as much of an impact. Have you been focusing on all of these other areas in an attempt to a…
/r/askTRP13/05/21 09:58 PM
1

This is not a question and is probably gonna get removed but cheers man! Keep at it!
/r/askTRP13/05/21 07:13 PM
12

Does she happen to be from Dubai?
/r/askTRP13/05/21 06:26 PM
3

Points for never missing a tooth brushing session.
/r/askTRP13/05/21 05:30 PM
2

(Rafiki voice) “Ah! Yes! Come wit jjj2576! He show you da way!”
/r/askTRP13/05/21 04:22 PM
1

Come up with your own standards. These are guidelines to help you maximize your potential and keep you from stumbling into common pitfalls. What about a 29 year old who fucked 29 women and got blown by another one. Does he have 29.5 partners? Would one more blowie = 30 partners? Does 30 partners now = TRP god mode status? The answer is no. You see how this could get ridiculous real quick?
/r/askTRP13/05/21 03:04 PM
7

Voice of reason here.
/r/askTRP13/05/21 01:29 PM
10

This exactly. If you go to the gym and don’t do one of these 4, you did it wrong.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 10:12 PM
5

My nick name is peg leg. If you want to swing by, I can shove my foot up your ass in an “alpha” way and you can see if you enjoy being pegged. WTF bro!
/r/askTRP12/05/21 09:02 PM
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