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Honestly a lot of men are heavy into the Manosphere. A Lot. It is concerning A bigger reason to ask is why
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 12:35 AM
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This I the best comment. Competence won't drive attraction. Attraction>Competence.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/26 06:40 AM
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To add nuance you absolutely need a physical baseline to generate attraction, and for many men the ability to do so is beyond their control. You also need to accept some people, no matter how competent they become, will never build that baseline.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/26 06:35 AM
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This is good, but ignores the fact a woman still needs to find you physically attractive. Being clean, honest and kind won't overcome a woman's physical preferences for a man.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/26 06:29 AM
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Largely true. Thing is, the way society functions, women will always have more romantic options than men, who are expected to pursue women. The 'Chad' meme is an internet exaggeration of high status men who take advantage of local sexual 'options'
/r/ExRedPill08/07/26 11:56 PM
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This may be counterintuitive but people close to you often don’t give the best advice. They will be biased.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/26 03:33 AM
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Get off the apps. Stop asking women for blunt advice. Increase your social exposure as much as possible. Consider women back home, if that’s a possibility as well.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/26 03:24 AM
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What’s your ethnicity? Have you had a girlfriend before? How old are you? Plenty of short men do find partners, but it’s about positioning yourself in the right environment. Dating apps will destroy your confidence, solely due to your height. That’s why I asked about your ethnicity, age and experience, perhaps there are other avenues you can explore.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/26 03:12 AM
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https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/19419899.2020.1752786 High extraversion and low agreeableness. There’s also a moderate association between psychopathy and casual sex: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886924004811
/r/ExRedPill19/03/26 09:19 PM
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Do you have any hard data to prove this, or is it anecdotal? Men and Women who engage in casual sex do have different personalities traits - there is data on this. RedPill often market their tactics towards party and hyper-social environments - the types of people drawn to casual sex. Showing off, being extraverted, exposing your assets and muscles definitely will resonate to some women, especially in club environments, amongst women who value extraversion, status and hypersociality.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/26 04:03 AM
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Interesting…. Let me guess - getting jacked and improving your confidence? That definitely would help, but I don’t think that’s necessarily RP
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 10:23 AM
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Can you give an example of how RP has improved your dating successes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 09:45 AM
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Those studies don’t contradict what I said. The effect sizes are largely moderate and explain only part of attraction outcomes. Traits like attractiveness or similarity influence probability, but they don’t strongly determine relationship formation. Also Montoya found the 0.47 association for attraction, not mere attractiveness…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 08:51 PM
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Several meta-analyses in relationship psychology show moderate associations at best. For example: Feingold (1990) found attractiveness correlations around 0.3–0.4. Montoya et al. (2008) found similarity effects around 0.3. Speed-dating research (Finkel & Eastwick, 2008) shows stated preferences only weakly predict real attraction. Best to focus on Meta analysis because they aggregate the findings of other studies. Compare this with health science research which show much stronger associations - …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 08:30 PM
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Sorry Bud. If you look at the various studies on associations between traits in people in relationships they are all weak or moderate at best. If you look at conventional health advice, that is far more predictive of human health with stronger associations than RedPill is of dating. Excercise well, eat healthy, avoid alcohol will almost certainly improve your health. Become an alpha, loose weight and get rich will improve your dating odds but not to the extent RedPill would have you believe, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 08:20 PM
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Could you expand on what you mean? You see to be reacting emotionally
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 11:06 AM
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I'm talking more from a general perspective, and speaking more in relation to the average person. Think of it like a Bell-Curve, there will be outliers on both ends, but for the majority of people around the average, relationship formation is largely random based around timing and location.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 08:45 AM
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Would you say RP has improved your dating successes, and how so?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 06:53 AM
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Please explain further
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 06:38 AM
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According the studies, which are not perfect, the association in relationships and partner attractiveness is around 0.4, meaning only a moderate relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 04:30 AM
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Makes sense but again that’s a generalisation. Plenty of men with confidence issues get married and partnered
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 04:20 AM
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Are you talking specifically about apps or irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 04:15 AM
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Could you give some examples of absolutes?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 04:03 AM
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Patterns mean probabilities, not absolutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:37 AM
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You are mixing probabilistic with deterministic
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:27 AM
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Happy to be corrected but my main view is that dating and relationship formation is a random and subjective process which cannot be neatly placed in any pill. Visit downtown on a weekend evening and observe the various couples, many of whom appear mismatched in a variety of ways. There is no logical rule to dating and forming a relationship - it is random and messy, hence why Redpill and Bluepill folks will always be at odds. Sure, there may be some traits which may increase your likelihood of f…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:22 AM
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I was never RedPill as I grew up mostly around women, but a lot of my friends ended up becoming RedPill. RedPill is what happens when you live chronically online and treat Online Dating as the be all end all. Yes, men will do poorly online but that’s because the initiative is placed on men to pursue. Reality is men and women aren’t as different as it seems online
/r/ExRedPill04/12/25 10:51 PM
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1/3 is a big figure and my theory is it’s not necessarily top men who are starting relationships from OLD, but the middle tier of men that are
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:44 AM
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The financial risk could also apply to women who are more well to do in the relationship, but I am generalising that men are usually more well off in relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 01:26 AM
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Not all who complain are unstable. As I said, ‘most stable men’ could get one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 07:03 AM
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I think much of the ‘male loneliness epidemic’ is made up. Most stable men who want a relationship can eventually get one, but there’s no inherent desire to jump into one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 06:40 AM
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I’m only talking from my experience which is likely skewed as I work in O&G
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 06:24 AM
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As I said, I’m only saying what I feel based on my experiences surrounded by women in my family and work. I don’t necessarily believe men have an inherent hatred for each other, no matter how different their world views or status are. I think what you’re picking up on is men’s general antipathy towards everything and superimposing it on all men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 12:04 PM
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I feel more people need to touch grass and step outside. The richest guy I know is a Urologist. He’s chubby , short and balding. He’s married to a nurse who’s overweight with fertility issues. Another acquaintance of mine is a corporate legal counsel. He’s decent looking, owns a $2m house. He struggled dating and is now engaged to a Chinese migrant. At work we hired a trades assistant- 60k job. The dude had wrinkled leather face, prior drug offence, dad bod and a super HOT GF who supported him e…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:46 AM
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I feel the animosity women have for each other is far greater than the animosity successful men have for less successful men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:09 AM
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Women desire relationships and emotional connections more than men due to higher levels of oxcytocin and estrogen. It’s why more women are in relationships than men at younger ages - they desire connection more. Men are naturally more independent and solitary due to higher levels of testosterone. Also the idea single women are happier is from dubious research as you’ve highlighted earlier. He’s literally a ‘celebrity’ academic whose work has been criticised by peers. Work in HR and you’ll learn …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:25 AM
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Really depends. In college I was still trying to build my confidence after having my face destroyed by acne. People were cliquey and only mixed with people they went to high school with. I was also juggling college and part time work, so rarely had free time and money. Mid 20s were the best, you have confidence, better social skills, money and more free time
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 05:13 AM
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