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These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. Why are you running 5/3/1 and not a beginner LP like SL or GSLP? Over the past few months I have put in place some productivity strategies that fit the bill here. It's a Western myth that newborns are supposed to sleep through the night. It passes, as you're well aware. Your 'productive strategies' is very vague. Are they actually working? And how can you tell? Last OYS I felt like I was just throwing random shit against the wall and seeing what stuck. No…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 11:19 PM
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OYS #2: I sense much fear in you. Stats: 34M, 33F, Married 7 years, 1 Toddler, 5' 9", 190 lb Health Latest hormone panel came back completely normal. Testosterone level is now 350 ng/dL, up from 200 roughly six months ago. I suspect the natural increase is simply from weight loss and exercise. Endocrinology is hesitant to do anything at this point because everything is within baseline, trending upward, and I have no secondary symptoms. Thyroid levels have been stable and within nominal range for…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 03:55 AM
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Do a proper linear progression like GSLP or Starting Strength. Keep BW constant until he starts missing weights, reset the weights and let BW creep up SLIGHTLY (tops 205-10) and get his PL total past 900 in the course of 3-6 months. I ran SL, then 5/3/1 in the past. This got my PL totals to 265/295/325 at 210 lb. While I wasn't a weakling, I certainly wasn't strong either, likely around novice to intermediate level. However, I hated being 210 lb, especially for playing volleyball. Both strategie…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/21 08:37 PM
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OYS #1: Unfucking Myself Stats: 34M, 33F, Married 7 years, 1 Toddler, 5' 9", 192 lb. Overview Around a year ago, I found my way to MRP through the usual set of circumstances. I started working my way through the MRP dancing monkey routine, not really understanding, but halfway trusting the process. Then Covid reared its ugly head, lock-downs ensued, abnormality started being normalized, family members got sick and were moved into my home, and a ton of other excuses ensued. The end result was tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/21 07:33 AM
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I suppose letting noob lifters continue on a path to seriously injure themselves and have the lingering effects potentially for years to come is a better alternative.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/19 01:51 PM
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OHP -> Chin ups BP -> Rows If these are the only pulling exercises you are doing running 531 BBB, then it is only a matter of time before you will start having shoulder issues. You need more pulling motions for the anterior delts and rotators (face pulls, lat pull downs, lots and lots of cable/BB rows). Squat -> trying to find a good accessory here... I've been doing curls because upper body is a big weak spot. I'm considering swapping to dips on squat day to continue upper body emphasis without…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/19 11:43 AM
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I’m having some trouble with OHP, I’m too tall to do it inside my power rack and I know I’m scared of dropping it so I’m not pushing myself as hard there as I should. I don't understand this. Usually, if you fail OHP, you don't get the bar off your clavicle and you can easily just re-rack the weight. Can you do real OHP sitting down or kneeling or something? You can do seated presses, but I wouldn't since the stress goes straight to your lower back. I want to be inside my rack so I can push to f…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/19 11:26 PM
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If only there was a thread for posts like this. You know, a place to write out your musings and own your shit. If only...
/r/askMRP07/08/19 04:03 AM
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Completely agree. And, you know, maybe brush your teeth, chew a mint, or something.
/r/askMRP06/08/19 01:55 PM
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Life isn't fair. Get over it, and accept the reality. As you mentioned, you sifted through the garbage and received valuable information to your query. Now, read through these comments and find the valuable information. Hint: there isn't any because the scene set by OP isn't valuable to begin with, if we are being completely honest. Stop comparing yourself or your life events to others. That is straight... faggotry.
/r/askMRP06/08/19 01:45 PM
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Good. Now pass 100,000 more.
/r/askMRP05/08/19 11:51 PM
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It's cute you are following me around. What I find more adorable though is people's inability to read and throw blanket statements around claiming "you aren't doing enough." Was there inaction previously? Yes, I admitted as much for reasons mentioned (excuses to you, no doubt). If there is something specifically I am not currently doing or taking steps to do, then that is another matter altogether. Also, the flair was a nice touch.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/19 03:35 AM
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After, curing back pain, i need to take her to skin doctor or gyno to check the infection. There is no reason these issues cannot be treated at the same time. The longer you delay, the worse it will get. I mentioned last week you would need to drag her to appointments, and I was not kidding. Literally schedule her appointments for her, if you need to. Ultimately, it is in your best interest to do this, which is difficult to see when you are in the trenches fighting the good fight. Also, i am men…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/19 04:38 PM
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Diet was good for all week and blew it off on the weekend. I need to watch out my diet on weekends. What is the plan? That it just magically happens? She hurt her lower back because i put her in foam roller and did it wrong way and she is in severe lower back pain since. Never foam roll below the ribcage. Use a lacrosse ball or something similar for that. She opened up to me that she is having some kind of fungal infection in leg close to groin for last 5 months and it did not heal. She wanted t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/19 02:32 PM
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What did you do, other than sulk? Which part has you confused, or implied sulking? Physical actions are: disciplined lifting, aggressive rehab, started flexibility/mobility training. Physical inaction deals with sleep habits, which are not firmly in my control. Financial actions are: owned my mistake with daycare, researching various places, getting on waitlists, interviewing, etc. Financial inaction is actually getting the kid in daycare. Mind/spirit actions are: consciously conceding ground on…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 04:28 PM
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You weren't a victim. You made your choice. I know that, which is precisely why I stated I stand by my decision. There is no victim complex here, and I am not complaining. The situation simply happened. No more, no less. No tantrum, nothing. Do you know why? Because if she makes a fuss, I can just as easily pick her up and move her out of there -- and that's been done before. Right, because a 4 year old and a 4 month old are the same creature. A random toddler temper tantrum, once in a while, is…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 01:54 PM
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Stats: 32M, 32F, Married 6 years (together 11), Child < 1 year, 5' 10", 198 lb Health and Body Current/PRs: BP 240/265, SQ 240/295, OHP 155/170, DL 240/325 Lifting is disciplined and my main outlet source. All of my current lifts are completely controlled, and form is tight to the best of my ability. Putting aside my ego has immensely helped with general form deficiencies and nagging strains. Sure I could squat or deadlift an extra 10-20% with garbage form, but I know the end results are going t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 03:18 AM
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I found that a general chiropractor is a cheap shoot. Find a Gonstead practitioner, they have their own website and directory, and they do total body adjustments.
/r/askMRP23/07/19 01:42 PM
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Think of askMRP as equivalent to MRP with the notable exception that your odds of being called a faggot here are reduced.
/r/askMRP20/07/19 01:08 AM
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Regardless of it is against the rules, it isn't that hard to write a weekly recap and post it. It happens every week, and I don't need an app for that. It's a low quality post because you don't give anything of value. Hell, you don't even define your acronyms. A better post would have been how you utilize the app in your life, what value it brings you, and what value it can bring others.
/r/askMRP20/07/19 01:01 AM
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Going to assume: if this then that. Regardless, this is the epitome of low quality post.
/r/askMRP20/07/19 12:24 AM
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I am very active and love outdoor stuff and i got pissed hearing all the issues and asked her why didn't she mention all these before wedding and from then she is giving me silent treatment. This is where you messed up. Everyone is saying give it time because she has to adjust to new place and me. I think i am fucked. Who is everyone? I certainly haven't seen anyone here say that. Now I don't know much about the early dynamics inside an arranged marriage, but her aversion to you seems due to: 1)…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/19 03:24 PM
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I am getting frustrated as days goes on but i try to be patient and give her time. From experience, giving her time to figure it out does not work. If it is a medical issue, you need to drag her to the doctor and get it all sorted out. You will have to drag her to appointments, drag her to therapy, make sure she does the prescribed exercises, dilators, and whatever else. Understand if you do not do this, and do it religiously, your situation will only deteriorate. If this does not sound like som…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/19 01:12 AM
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Knee pain during squatting is indicative of form deficiencies. Take a look at: https://youtu.be/rOJGzAgLWDc
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/19 12:22 AM
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Disclosure: I haven't followed your story One day I might actually detail my story. For now, think about the top ten blue bill stories you have ever heard; mine was probably in the top half of those during the formative relationship years. Kids cost money. Just accept it. If you can afford it and still put money away, accept the cost and live with it. Agreed. I will have to simply eat it at some point, as an au pair is significantly more expensive. The MIL has expressed a desire to be a granny-n…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 05:50 PM
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we are from Asian country My wife is a virgin and have bunch of health issues which i didn't know before. Ah, the Asian, virgin, good girl, good family card. Let me guess, she has vaginismus, and if you really dig deeper might have had a past traumatic sexual experience. We do cuddles/kisses but no PIV and i am only allowed to explore upper body and she never allowed me down. You need to force the issue here. Obviously not to the point of doing something she is against. But you need to force the…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 10:59 PM
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I am a lazy, a blowhard, a faggot, and a hypocrite. Knock off the negative self speak. If you cannot be bothered to find your positive attributes, how do you expect anyone else to? Being weak, or lazy, or blowhard, or faggot, or hypocrite is nothing to be ashamed of. Staying that way is.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 09:49 PM
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I am really good with resets and the anger is gone. And yet Wednesday and Thursday happened for what exactly? When you are done BSing the class, you might want to really consider whether you are actually really good with resets or good at them in your own head. Honestly, I need to stop drinking the way I have been. Every single time I get emotional and say stupid shit its because I was drinking. Time to unfuck that right now. I hear addicts say this all the time. They can verbalize the issue and…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 03:28 PM
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I hung out with her all night and helped on a project she was doing and then we went to bed. I didn’t bite, I just went to bed and removed time and attention per usual. I would hate to hear you describe what giving your time and attention looks like then. Aloof Weds and Thursday. Not aloof. You were still pissed from the night before and acted like a butt-hurt bitch. Reset much? Friday morning rolls around and she decided to apologize. Congratulations on three days of a shitty home life atmosphe…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 01:51 PM
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Grinding, grinding, grinding. Stats: 32M, 32F, Married 6 years (together 11), Child < 1 year, 5' 10", 200 lb Health and Body Current/PRs: BP 240/265, SQ 240/295, OHP 150/170, DL 245/325 I started taking medications to deal with my autoimmune condition, and the results, thus far, have been varied. I have maintained an increased appetite and sex drive, but it is difficult to state whether this is due to the medications (has an effect on testosterone), not caring (as much) whether initiations are r…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 01:19 PM
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How did you fail? You provided her drama, and not in a good way Or rather, OP could have provided any responsive sign to the wife's query/statement and acted like an adult instead of an apathetic teenager. Seriously, OP, a quick two second acknowledgement, whether positive or negative, would have been infinitely better than saying/doing nothing.
/r/askMRP01/07/19 09:55 PM
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Two months isn't going to make or break your lifting routine. At the weights you are currently doing, you could do a bodyweight routine that is more intense and effective than SL. For instance, doing 10 rounds of 2 count up and 2 count down pushups, pullups, situps will get better results than a SL routine with less than 100 lb.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 03:48 PM
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Definitely work on your lifting form and find someone to correct your lifting deficiencies. Just by your description, I'd wager you have severely tight hips and need to work through mobility drills, Defranco's limber 11, etc. With your lifts being nonexistent, what are your BW exercise stats? How many pushups, pullups, etc? If you can't do about 70 pushups and 15 pullups, I would seriously doubt you are 12% BF.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 11:53 AM
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You spent 2/3 of your write-up explaining how you are the perfect little Betabux. What about everything else? All I see are a bunch of "need to" this and that. What are your physical goals? Where is your mental starting point... frame? Having a plan to keep lifting or fix diet is incredibly vague, which is exactly why you find losing 15 lb to be impossible. Get specific and attack everything with the same zeal you attack your businesses.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 11:41 AM
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I need to I need to I need to I need to I need to Stop talking about what you need to do, and state what you are going to do. Mentioned my goals up top. No you didn't. A goal is something that is defined. Not some wishy-washy "I need to" do this or that. Develop an action plan/goals. Break them down and put a realistic timeline to them.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 01:02 AM
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After 2.5 weeks of lackluster energy and general malaise, it was great to put that all behind me and continue building an awesome existence. Overall, this was the best week for me in a very long time. Not because I had the Midas touch, crapped out rainbows, or had any grand, overt gains. Instead, I found myself truly internalizing various RP paradigms, which served to catalyze discipline and changes. Stats: 32M, 32F, Married 6 years (together 11), Child < 1 year, 5'10", 202 lb Physical / Appeara…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 12:55 AM
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No real highs or lows this past week. I am just grinding at this point, making each successive day 0.01% better than the previous. Physical / Appearance Age: 32 // Height: 5'10" // Weight: 203 lb Current/PRs: BP: 240/265 lb // SQ: 250/295 lb // OHP: 155/170 lb // DL: 245/325 lb Lifting belt arrived just in time for leg day last week, and it took awhile to get used to the restrictive support. I knocked out 250 squats fairly easily with the belt, and I had to stop myself from going heavier since I…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/19 05:20 AM
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I’ve had countless heart to heart talks about lack of sex in our marriage. Wife blames her SSRI/stress/life but of course now I know differently. MMSLP blew my mind and ultimately led me here. Do not underestimate how SSRIs affect libido. Spoiler alert, it isn't good. Athol constantly states that you cannot MAP a medical. Keep that in mind as you progress on your journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/19 03:39 AM
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I have utilized the past month to figure out my routine with a newborn and goals going forward. It isn't perfect and is subject to changes/additions, but it is a definite step in the right direction. Physical / Appearance Age: 32 // Height: 5'10" // Weight: 203 lb Current/PRs: BP: 240/265 lb // SQ: 230/295 lb // OHP: 150/170 lb // DL: 230/325 lb Lifting discipline has been on point. My leg and back issues have resolved themselves, but my shoulder (labrum) continues to be tight and painful. To in…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 12:24 PM
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I completely agree with the point that physically there is no issue. Basically, protect the head, and everything else is good. The risk comes from the fact that there have been various outbreaks in our area (mostly measles), including our grocery store, due to the anti-vax movement. Potentially exposing a non-innoculated infant to that seems irresponsible at best. Potentially life altering at worst.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 01:18 PM
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No, certainly not any more fragile. However, there is something to be said about the drastic decrease in the infant mortality rate.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 01:11 PM
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Nursing babies are fairly portable... past a certain age. For the first 6-12 months, it has been recommended they stay as home-bound as possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 10:42 PM
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I believe I first learned of it from Wendler's book. There is also the Limber 11, but I haven't tried that routine yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 10:40 PM
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Regarding bowling, perhaps I wasn't clear. I get it was a social outing, and it fell through in your initial plan. What I'm saying is there was an opportunity to proceed forward with the bowling plan, work on social skills, or day game with others at the alley. It obviously depends on how you value the time. The point being that you can retrain your mind to find net positives from the setbacks and not just quit all together. Not just with bowling, or gym, or whatever else.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 04:55 PM
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Since then my level of effort has been up and down Your level of effort is not up and down. Your discipline is. Yes, I'm still weak. Being weak is nothing to be annoyed or ashamed by. Staying that way is. Keep grinding. A bigger concern for me is that I'm coasting at work. This realization is good. However, I'd argue you are doing more than just coasting at work. You seem to be coasting throughout life, with any little setback causing you to throw your hands up and quit. For instance, you stoppe…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 12:47 PM
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I joined MRP roughly a year ago, and it has been quite a ride up to this point, full of growth and a renewed outlook on life. For the first three months or so, I was making great progress on various points of my MAP, and the results spoke for themselves. Soon after, my wife became pregnant (planned). Pregnancy was a difficult ordeal, full of complications and immense sources of stress. Nevertheless, she successfully delivered our first recently, and both mom and baby are healthy. As life starts …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 10:55 AM
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You coming to this community has nothing to do with you being beta or alpha. It has everything to do with the fact that your actions are not at all congruent with how you see yourself which is appearing increasingly non-congruent with who you actually are at your core. OP, this x1000.
/r/askMRP14/04/19 12:47 PM
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What I am saying is that your girl is not special, but you seem to already grasp this. The problem(s) you are describing are not with your chicks. They are with yourself. The biggest issue that is painfully apparent throughout your post and comments is ego from a deluded sense of being Chad/alpha. Stop and ask yourself why each and every commenter is calling bullshit to your alpha-ness. Looks and having chicks hit on you is one aspect of being alpha; this is true. However, it is not the defining…
/r/askMRP14/04/19 12:04 PM
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Nobody cares what Nigerian means. Whether the chick is Nigerian, European, Asian, or from anywhere else on this planet, she is still a woman, and the same biological principles still apply. The Wall still approaches, as Father Time remains undefeated. ​ If you are indeed the Chad we all despise, what exactly are you doing here. Look, I am not trying to be an asshole about this, as you simply seem naive, but "Chad" would have had these reservations that you are having, laughed at them, fucked you…
/r/askMRP14/04/19 11:50 AM
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Unicorns do not exist. ​ That being said, in case you missed it, your ex and current girlfriend are not unicorns. ​ Whether you call yourself Chad, alpha, dangerous, or whatever other moniker you wish to bestow on yourself, it does not change the fact that you have a history of one-itis, pedestalization, and "graduation goggles."
/r/askMRP14/04/19 11:35 AM
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What is this shit? Fuck these bullshit games. If you want to fuck, then initiate. If you don't, then don't. You playing all these games is simply living in her frame. If you get rejected, then carry on doing whatever else makes you awesome.
/r/askMRP01/12/18 12:10 AM
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You are not fooling yourself in thinking you can spin plates. You absolutely could, if you so desired. Where you are fooling yourself, is that you think you are at the ultimatum step. Lurking around here and being proactive with the steps are fundamentally a different beast all together. You seem to realize that now, too. Getting through the anger phase takes time. A lot of time. For now, get your life together, and you will be surprised at what naturally gravitates with you.
/r/askMRP26/09/18 04:56 PM
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You are on dread level 2, and you want to spin plates? Stop fooling yourself by thinking that your time "lurking" counts. It doesn't. The reasons why are apparent throughout your entire post. In the short term, STFU at home, work the levels, and lift heavier.
/r/askMRP26/09/18 04:30 AM
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Their culture tells them to stop fucking at 40, whereas ours says fuck until you're 90. The grass always looks greener on the other side. I think the rules with Asian wives in late thirties and beyond are slightly different than w/ American women. Serious questions for you, is your Asian wife, a woman? Generally speaking, are women, irrespective of culture, attracted to the same traits (physicality, dominance, assertiveness, etc.)? If you answered yes to both questions, then the only difference …
/r/askMRP02/08/18 05:55 AM
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A king maintains his dominion. If the barbarian horde is invading and his general fails to act, does he just let his kingdom fall to ruin? Likewise, clean up what needs to get done and don't bitch, especially if she is pulling her weight. Your solution to putting pussy on the pedestal is to deny yourself what you desire? Stop living in her frame thinking you are being desperate. Instead, work on OI and do something better when rejection inevitably sets in. What culture? Is it cultural or religio…
/r/askMRP02/08/18 04:20 AM
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You give too many fucks. Discourse: You tell her your phone died. (Ok.) She gets pissy. (Fine.) You AA. (Great.) She continues. (Normal behavior.) You broken record the conversation and repeat until she tires. (Probable missing step.) All in all, give less fucks about what she is saying.
/r/askMRP14/06/18 02:31 AM
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Unlike most Nice Guys, these two points are mutually exclusive to me. I do not expect anything in return from my wife, and I have written off any sexual relationship with her at this point. In my view, which may be complete bullshit, there is no covert contract. Full stop. The question then is, "why even think about picking her up?" Call it optimizing utility, societal programming, white knighting, the damsel in distress phenomenon, etc. The end result is that these thoughts need to be eradicate…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 03:42 PM
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3 Months Progress *Physical* **Age:** 31 // **Height:** 5'11" // **Weight:** 192 lb *current*/PR lifts: **BP:** *230*/235 lb // **SQ:** *255*/265 lb // **OHP:** *160*/160 lb // **DL:** *285*/300 lb I switched to Wendler 5/3/1 three weeks ago, and I am seeing improvement on all the lifts, minus squats which seem to be a wash. I like the variability of 5/3/1 much more than SL5x5, and I am still figuring out a good balance on 5/3/1 templates (e.g., joker sets, FSL, BBB, aux sets, etc.). Currently, …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 09:52 PM
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OYS 2018/04/24 - Week 12 Physical Age: 31 // Height: 5'11" // Weight: 193 lb current/PR lifts: SQ: 240/265 lb // BP: 220/230 lb // DL: 275/300 lb // OHP: 150/160 lb Switched from SL5x5 to Wendler 5/3/1. Calculating 1RM for each major movement as I approach the workout this week. Financial No change. Things are on point. Psychological / Spiritual Dread: Level 3 (firmly getting busy) Readings: Currently reading WISNIFG. NMMNG, MAP, MMSL, Pook I had a fantastically awful last week in which I found …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/18 01:20 PM
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OYS 2018/04/10 - Week 10 Done with moving and the break in routine that it caused. Ready to hit my MAP harder than before. Physical Age: 31 // Height: 5'11" // Weight: 195 lb 5x5 (current/PR) lifts: SQ: 180/200 lb // BP: 185/185 lb // BRow: 135/135 lb // OHP: 125/125 lb // DL: 220/220 lb While moving, I deloaded by 20% so that I would have energy during the night to get things done. I am just getting back to where I was about three weeks ago on the lifts, and I am feeling pretty good. Financial …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/18 12:31 AM
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The issue is your inability to draw boundaries. You say that you rush home at lunch and after work to help out. Why exactly? If your wife worked a normal 9-5, would you be rushing to help her during lunch? I doubt it. Yes, being a SAHM is a job, but it is her job. Not yours. You need to stop encroaching on her work and responsibilities, and focus on yours only. Draw the boundaries of what is expected of her if she is to continue being a SAHM. If she cannot or will not meet them, then she needs t…
/r/askMRP03/04/18 10:42 PM
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If someone needs to be told to "just start," then they are not ready for MRP. This isn't a place where men sit down together, arms interlocked, singing Kumbaya, all while looking for 'bro' validation. It is for those ready to put in the work, without someone holding their hands at every step in the journey. Focus on you instead of worrying about others, and provide some value next time you decide to post.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/18 12:36 AM
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Good analogy. Though, I'd rather push myself hard (within reason) and go Rambo with a new activity. Doesn't work great in a relationship, but works well in getting you comfortable being uncomfortable.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 12:59 AM
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OYS 2018/03/20 - Week 7 Physical Age: 31 // Height: 5'11" // Weight: 197 lb 5x5 (completed) lifts: SQ: 200 lb // BP: 185 lb // BRow: 135 lb // OHP: 125 lb // DL: 215 lb I took a week off from the gym, due to other commitments. I am back at it this week, full of energy, and feeling great. Financial I took care of a significant number of financial issues over the past two weeks. Furthermore, I found a new place, and we are moving. If things were rosy before, they are trending toward being golden. …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 12:13 AM
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BUT WHY DIDN'T YOU TELL ME THIS IS LIFE CHANGING SHIT? If you were paying attention at all, then you saw it was the #1 piece of advice given here.
/r/askMRP08/03/18 06:32 PM
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She is remorseful as hell, crying to me about everyday Stop talking about it. Stop listening to her tears. Whether they are crocodile tears or real is irrelevant. You are being nothing more than an emotional tampon, when you engage with her at this point. She crossed a line but I keep going back and forth Either she crossed a line or didn't. There is no middle ground. So, which is it? If she really crossed a hard boundary, then you wouldn't be waffling.
/r/askMRP08/03/18 03:02 PM
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Ha, let me know how demanding that goes. For most people, it is nothing or awkward or both. However, for my wife, who at one point I thought was completely asexual, it is a baby step in the right direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 12:56 AM
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I was in the shower. Wife joined later and kissed it. I pushed for more, obviously. She shut down and promptly rebuffed all advancements. I wasn't butthurt or annoyed... maybe shocked because she has never done anything like that. What exactly is the big deal?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 12:20 AM
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OYS 2018/03/06 - Week 5 Physical Age: 31 // Height: 5'11" // Weight: 197 lb 5x5 (strict) lifts: SQ: 185 lb // BP: 185 lb // BRow: 125 lb // OHP: 115 lb // DL: 195 lb Legs felt the best they have in over four months this past week, so I upped the 5x5 lifts by 50 lb or so. No DOMS. No tightness. Very encouraging moving forward. After the last few weeks of me portioning, tracking calories, and generally eating better, my wife decided to start keto. Naturally, I encouraged this and have been helping…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 12:34 AM
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Just get her depression out of your head. Also, if there is anything mawkish about your manner of dealing with it (and nothing you’ve said indicates that you are) but if...if...there is, be done with it. It’s a leach. Still working on it. It is not totally gone. It may never fully go away. But I am done with the depression being the relationship pocket aces that I tiptoe around. I still have my moments where I have to catch and mentally slap myself, but I am getting better.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/18 01:59 AM
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at 31 this is not obvious to me. sounds like you need more flexibiltiy/mobility . . . yoga. how much are you stretching and warming up before volleyball? Yes, I stretch, warm up, and foam roll. Flexibility could be better, but is not terrible (squat atg). I'm sure yoga would help, and I'll look into it. The main takeaway from the week is that I pick up random knocks and injuries in beach volleyball due in part because I don't take plays off and the courts I play on are not deep sand, which makes…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 03:55 PM
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So either it was her way of saying "Don't risk anything young man, go back to being a beta provider or you'll die alone in misery" or it was more "I feel you are slipping away, don't forget everything nice we have". I see it as her spidey senses are going off and she is trying to quantify her value in the relationship because she is seeing that you need her less and less each month. "I still find you so unattractive that I'd rather see you go to a hooker than have sex with you". Or am I putting …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 01:19 PM
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OYS 2018/02/27 - Week 4 Physical Age: 31 // Height: 5'11" // Weight: 197 lb 5x5 (strict) lifts: SQ: 130 lb // BP: 125 lb // BRow: 95 lb // OHP: 110 lb // DL: 165 lb I have been doing 5x5 3x/week. This past week I played beach volleyball four times. By Friday, I had tweaked my knee, felt the effects of overtraining, and took the weekend off to recover. It is obvious to me that beach volleyball is going to start impeding my 5x5 progressions, and I will have to taper the amount of time spent on the…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 12:59 PM
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i had a lot of problem with this myself. i purposefully chose a woman that i saw as my equal . . . it wasn't an accident. i wanted equal - equal drive and earning power (don't want to support some lazy cunt), equal intellect (not boring dumb), and equal frame (the challenge . . .). don't really think i would choose different; but when you make this choice you have realize you just signed up for harder mode because there can only be one top and hypergamy dictates it's either you or you suffer. Cr…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 10:42 PM
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Thanks for the link. The provided subtext is eerily familiar. I did not go into full 'beta' mode, but definitely less 'alpha' than when we were dating. Why so significant a mental hurdle? There is a strong conditioning in my immediate family for self-sacrifice, and this is an easy default because it is so familiar. It is basically textbook chapter 1 of NMMNG. Combine that with Persaeus' insights below, and finally add in the fact that for several years I was highly worried about pushing anything…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 10:36 PM
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I don't partake in the TRP philosophy regarding her O. Personally, there are few things more invigorating than a woman writhing in ecstasy, completely spent. I have tried everything from sensate focus work to lengthy oral sessions to get her to O. However, my wife continually stops herself short of having an O, though I have reassured her it is ok to simply let go. It is almost like she doesn't believe she should be allowed to O. When I said I don't have much consideration for her O, I meant wat…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 07:23 PM
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This is taking longer to sink in than I thought.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 01:25 PM
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This doesn't seem all that relevant in my field, but I understand what you are getting at. I'm certain resentment would build in her to the point of being irrecoverable in the relationship. It is crazy to think that something innocuous like that would have such lasting consequences.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 01:24 PM
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Probably. In high school/college I was lean (sub 12% BF), and she remarked years ago that she was hot for that. Being dense, I didn't fully understand the importance of those words, and I cannot remember it ever being brought up again. In the years that have followed, I have gotten much stronger, but also fatter, with different body fat calculations putting me at 18-20% currently. Realistically, I need to be ~180 lb to be back to a comparable leanness (~15 lb to lose), so I know what I need to d…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 01:19 PM
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It was highly entertaining at least.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 01:00 PM
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To quell the speculation and provide some clarity, I will address u/Persaeus and u/CaptainRaise questions together. u/Persaeus wrote: there's an obvious sample selection bias on this board, or deadbedrooms . . . but i had never heard of vaginismus before coming to MRP. I completely agree with your sentiment. I dated several women before settling down with my wife, and I had never heard of this before. It is entirely possible it is all bullshit and some elaborate ruse; however, I don't think it i…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 02:16 AM
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SMV can always go higher, true. The lifts that I have right now are not indicative of my real PRs. About four months ago, I tore through my groin playing beach volleyball and further complicated the issue by not listening to medical advice, which threatened major surgery. I was cleared to start working out again about a month ago, and I am just easing back into everything. Previous 5x5 lifts were: SQ: 230 lb, BP: 205 lb, 90deg BRow: 135 lb, OHP: 140 lb, DL (double overhand): 245 lb. Based on Pri…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 02:17 AM
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OYS 2018/02/20 - Week 3 Physical Age: 31 // Height: 5'11" // Weight: 197 lb 5x5 (strict) lifts: SQ: 115 lb // BP: 120 lb // BRow: 90 lb // OHP: 100 lb // DL: 145 lb There were zero problems with my lifts this week, and I have since added a few auxiliary, compound movements (chin ups, incline BP, calf raises, etc.) that hit areas missed by the SL program. Being religious about foam rolling has really helped lessen lower body tightness and set my mind at ease that I'm not going to injure myself ag…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 01:06 AM
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OYS 2018/02/13 - Week 2 Physical Age: 31 // Height: 5'11" // Weight: 197 lb 5x5 (strict) lifts: SQ: 100 lb // BP: 110 lb // BRow: 80 lb // OHP: 95 lb // DL: 135 lb I experienced significant tightness last week, which was concerning as I have not had any issues since returning to the gym. The tightness led me to read up on and use foam rollers, which have immensely helped. Moving forward, foam rollers will be an integral part of my workout routine. Ultimately, I am still learning to trust that my…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 01:58 AM
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OYS 2018/02/06 - Week 1 Greetings. Basics: Married for five years. No children. One dog. Backstory: I suffered a severe injury several months back, which forced me to take a hard look at my life. What I found is that I am generally not happy with where my life is or is going. I used to think this was primarily because of a lack of sex from my wife, but that was utter horse manure and an easy scapegoat. It is certainly a contributing cause, but not the main issue. Ultimately, I found my way to th…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 02:14 AM
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