Specialist_Orange946 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
163	Huge dating gap in college vs. non college educated pools	Discussion	Specialist_Orange946	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/22 08:48 PM
34	Don’t worry about the old friends, worry about the new people in their life	CMV	Specialist_Orange946	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/22 09:13 AM
5	There’s nothing particularly groundbreaking about the Dual Mating Strategy. Everyone does it.	CMV	Specialist_Orange946	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/22 07:39 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	The whole “nice guy” narrative that women bitch about completely ignores the large number of men who simply react out of frustration with women less attractive than them acting stuck up and rude Idk if I buy this. It’s one thing to see the world as unfair—because the world is. It’s another to be a victim / become resentful / lash out at others. The things I like about TRP are about recognizing the world as it is, and improving yourself to be more successful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/22 06:42 PM
2	Women have no clue how much effort men put into achieving a top physique Yea as a woman I’m with you! I have female friends who don’t work out at all and look great. I don’t have any male friends who could say the same.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/22 07:34 AM
3	Women have no clue how much effort men put into achieving a top physique Dude I’m with you. It’s not hard to have visible muscle. It is hard to be shredded like a model. Most of my guy friends exercise for fun. Gym weights optional—the only folks I know who lift do it bc they like it, or because it helps them with their sport. All of these dudes have decent muscle. Not shredded, no 6 pack, but most have visible ab lines. The ones that don’t have a bit more stomach fat, but also more arms / pecs. Sure, the shredded look is unattainable. But it’s still worth it to work…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/22 07:31 AM
2	What evolutionary reasons would make a beautiful face more important than a strong body ? Yes! Didn’t see your post when I wrote something similar. For those of us non biologists, The Evolution of Beauty by Richard Prum is a great read on this topic!	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/22 07:22 AM
1	What evolutionary reasons would make a beautiful face more important than a strong body ? There’s an emerging thread of research saying that some beauty evolved due to sexual preferences alone, in a way that’s completely unrelated to fitness. Darwin originally conceived this idea of sexual selection (of beauty), after he published his theory of evolution and felt that survival fitness alone couldn’t explain all of the beauty in the world. However Darwin’s followers didn’t like this departure from fitness, and spent the next century trying to use fitness to explain everything. In the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/22 07:17 AM
16	Women have no clue how much effort men put into achieving a top physique My standards (30F): I like men who are lean and have functional strength! Meaning if you love biking you probably have a big lower body. But if you love rock climbing you are probably pretty lean all around. In my experience it’s a body that’s pretty attainable by men who eat healthy and have 1 active hobby.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/22 07:09 AM
1	Now that it is out of the bag that women don't find most men attractive, is it worth it for a woman to pursue a long lasting relationship? I wouldn’t make this decision based on an generality that most women don’t find most men attractive. That may be true, but more important is do you want a relationship? If so, find that one woman who finds you attractive. Don’t declare defeat before stepping into the ring.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/22 07:04 AM
2	What are the most important characteristics you vet for when dating for marriage? I like to see how a guy deals with adversity. Helps me understand if he’s actually confident or if he’s putting on a front. Ways to do this: Is there an activity you enjoy, are good at, and love introducing to beginners? Or what if you took on a challenge/project together, like trying to make a recipe that’s totally different from anything you’ve ever done? An important trait of a good captain is recognizing when to let someone else take the reins, or acknowledging they don’t have all the answer…	/r/RedPillWives	04/03/22 01:04 AM
2	Ironically, access to a woman’s sexuality “costs” more the worse it becomes I (30F) live in a big blue city. I recently learned about a 22M who’s perfected his playbook on casual sex with 30-35F women. He looks 25-28. The women also look about 25-28. My current theory is that girls his own age get tons of attention—too competitive. But these 30+ women don’t get as much OLD attention as they used to, despite still looking good, and are a bit more attention starved—better target for him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/22 08:14 AM
1	Is Love even fckin real? In my experience Romeo and Juliet is about lust and infatuation which does happen at the start of relationships to different degrees. True love happens after that—it’s feeling like this other person is both their own person, and also a part of you! You genuinely want them to be happy and enjoy making each other happy. You take care of each other and support their goals. You will disagree, sometimes on important stuff, and you find ways to accept your differences. John Gottman has done fantastic …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/22 07:38 AM
1	Discussions on this subreddit would be much more clear if in addition to age and gender, users revealed their weight as well. Omg!! I feel like you’ve captured something I love about Reddit. I love reading about experiences so different from my own. Whenever I see one I wanna know everything about this person. What country / city do they live in? What’s their social circle like? What do they do for work? Agree that weight, height, education level, etc all matter. Kinda hard to include all, but I do think relevant details make the posts better! On dating—there are many more college educated women than men in the US. Peo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/22 07:47 AM
1	These days, women don't hit the wall until they're 40 To me, wall happens when the dates dry up, regardless of how young you look. Maybe if you’re meeting ppl IRL, looking young will help. But on dating apps your age is on display, and men filter by age. My female friends (in a big blue city) who are 32-34 get way fewer dates than they used to. Lookswise they haven’t aged a day from 25. But their options are now very different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/22 07:15 AM
1	Do women feel insulted if a man expresses that he wants to hookup? In the hookup culture that I’ve experienced, people have casual sex with people they somewhat like. Casual sex is fake intimacy, fake falling in love: it’s sex, but it’s also the pretending to be a couple and feeling some infatuation / excitement. You need to like the other person enough (at least while drinking) to chat at the party, walk home together, and feel some bit of connection. Just because it’s casual sex, doesn’t mean you’d do it based on looks alone (and that was true for men too!) H…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/22 06:47 AM
1	What are your thoughts on TRP's idea of texting for logistics only? That's awesome! Nice data gathering :D	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/22 07:50 PM
1	I'm very new to all these pills but red pill seems very convincing. Can women in this sub refute the following claims ? Just want to add a bit of nuance to #3. Women choose to marry men less attractive than their hottest hookup. You look for different things in a hookup vs. a relationship. Would I complain if my partner became hotter? No. I also don’t wish for my partner to become hotter. Would I choose to marry my hottest hookup over my partner? God no!	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/22 09:18 AM
1	Women primarily use OLD for entertainment There are lots of reasons he may not be getting matches. Some legitimate (idk what to tell ya, I’m gonna parrot other ladies saying he’s too fit for me to keep up—my partner and I are active, but not intense about it). Some superficial (see his height.) Some kinda fucked up (let’s consider the same dude, but white.) How do you jump to the conclusion that it’s because women want entertainment and he doesn’t promise entertainment? (I actually agree with you to some extent, but not based on this pr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/22 08:58 AM
3	What are your thoughts on TRP's idea of texting for logistics only? For things like texting, I think it’s best to follow social norms. Building a relationship happens in person, and texting is a means to that end. So if girls you talk to expect to be asked out quickly, do that. If they expect long text chains, then do that. If you enjoy texting more then do! But no need to do more than social norms dictate. Lol ok so I’ve given you an utter non answer. How do you figure out norms? You can ask female friends. You can ask women you go on dates with! You can do tri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/22 08:36 AM
1	Q4W (30 years old and younger only): would you have preferred to have been born a male? Can you explain your theory? About how most women would say yes if you hadn’t included the need to reproduce? As for me—yes. I’d choose to be born as a man. I’m 30, in a happy relationship. My friends and I had asked ourselves this exact same Q when we were in our early 20s, and all agreed on “yes.” It honestly seems more fun to be the pursuer than waiting to be pursued :) (To be clear, I love being a woman! But if I had been born a man, I’m sure I’d equally love being a man too, so for me that …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/22 08:17 AM
2	How to stay motivated as a sahm? I’m curious about the root cause of the burnout. You say “I just feel too burnt out and bored of doing the same routine everyday just to see it all crumble.” Is there a part of you that feels like your efforts are not appreciated, or that your work has no point since the mess comes back immediately? You say you want to have a peaceful, joyful and clean home. Are you perhaps putting too much pressure on yourself to be perfect? Or are you taking on more than could be expected of you (for example d…	/r/RedPillWives	25/02/22 06:06 AM
2	Work from home? This might be more work than you’re looking for: I know SAHMs who have opened small home-based daycares. If you live in an area where childcare is expensive, this could be a great way to make money while still prioritizing child care. That said, it’s a ton of work!!	/r/RedPillWomen	24/02/22 08:55 PM
9	Is dating really as horrific as it seems these days? Do I stand a chance? (Need words of encouragement more than anything else) To directly answer your question about age, it probably depends on where you live! I live in a big city, where 26 is the perfect age for dating. Several of my female friends found their person right around 26-28. I online dated for 6 months (28-29) and found my person. I have seen friends 32+ struggle with dating, but not much before. Given that your post is about when to break up (and not if), I'll just say that sometimes ripping off the bandaid can be terrifying, but will be better in the lo…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/02/22 09:14 PM
20	Is it possible for one of us to be healthy while the other is terribly unhealthy? Wherever you end up (whether or not he participates) has to feel sustainable, with no resentment on either side. To avoid resentment, I recommend discussing and both “buying in” to your arrangement, rather than just slipping into it and not discussing it. For example is some families the whole family decides to be vegetarian. In other families, the adults agree to do separate things. Questions for you: How does it make you feel when he ops out of your healthy choices? Can you be OK with him opti…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/02/22 05:08 AM
2	Losing weight only unlocks your potential physical attractiveness. It is not in itself the attractor. Dude just wanna say amazing job for losing 60(!!!) lbs. It’s such a hard thing to do. Even if the looks / dating results are not there yet, you’ve just done something tremendous that very few people accomplish, and it’s going to have a huge impact on your health. I totally believe in you if you wanna keep going, just wanted to celebrate how far you’ve come!	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/22 11:13 PM
6	Staying Together for the Kids It’s wonderful you’re making this decision for the children. I’m very fortunate that my parents did the same thing. They were not always happy together, but they provided stability that I needed to feel secure exploring the world. They also showed me that real life relationships aren’t perfect. Sorry don’t have much concrete advice but just wanted to add to other voices commending your decision!	/r/RedPillWives	13/02/22 10:50 PM
13	How to stop bickering in relationship? Can you give examples of the “rude” comments he makes? Might help get a sense of whether you are overreacting or whether he’s truly a bit rude! Or another good heuristic: have your friends and family told you that you are too sensitive? If so it’s important to examine where that’s coming from! Or is he the only who has given you this feedback?	/r/RedPillWomen	13/02/22 06:18 AM
1	Working woman vs a stay at home mom Yes agree! Decisions should ideally be reversible. Some friends work at places with a generous parental leave policy, and they used the leave period as a way to “try” being a SAHM before fully committing to it!	/r/RedPillWomen	12/02/22 05:44 AM
7	Help: I've made a lot of mistakes; will my husband ever be okay, or did I break the relationship? Omg I agree so much with lookylolo. Moving forward requires letting go of past hurt. And omg you should not be called repulsive. Your actions in the past were wrong, yes, but we must default to criticizing the actions, not the person. Because if he truly believes you are repulsive, then maybe the relationship has run its course (I would really question why he is with someone that he finds repulsive.) On the topic of him moving past his resentment: it will be up to him to dig himself out of the…	/r/RedPillWives	11/02/22 10:52 PM
6	Working woman vs a stay at home mom My mom made this transition (stopped and started working) when I was in middle school. We moved to a different state for my dads job, so it was an opportunity for her to see if she’d like staying home. Up until then, my dad had a more “breakout” career whereas my mom has a good, normal, slowly climb the ladder career. She tried being full time stay at home mom for 4 months and just found that she didn’t like it. She then found a less demanding job than what she had before, but was shocked by the…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/02/22 09:13 PM
8	My BF’s roommate made me cry bc he thinks all women should strip to make money! So if women took his advice... In a world where a high % of young women make their bodies available for money, who wins? ... Stating the obvious, I don't think it's the women here.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/02/22 12:25 AM
7	Learning to communicate better? Hey there, a few behaviors you’ve described about him increasingly concern me, far more than your areas of growth. You acknowledge that you aren’t perfect and are working to improve. He simply blames you. I echo some of the other ladies’ sentiment that he may not be a HVM. 1) You have PCOS and get stressed more easily. You like quiet spaces. A HVM is considerate and protects his woman, he does not disregard her needs by playing loud games. Headphones produce high quality sound, rather than you n…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/02/22 06:56 PM
13	Boyfriend (M36) is unemployed, not looking for a job, and I worry about our future stability… Sometimes people need to crawl out of the hole on their own. You’ve done so much to help / nudge him—and sometimes it’s exactly what’s needed. But sometimes it can worsen his feelings of inadequacy. Given that your nudges haven’t prompted action, maybe it’s time to let him figure it out on his own? I’m generally for giving people chances when hard times fall on them. But you also can’t wait forever! This might sound cruel but it might help to commit to a date mentally—what will you do if 3 or 6 …	/r/RedPillWomen	10/02/22 07:06 AM
4	Learning to communicate better? Concrete advice on handling negative feelings: Have a plan to stop yourself from saying something you’re not proud of: if I’m about to say something passive aggressive, I’m going to do X instead. Maybe X is taking 10 deep breaths. Maybe X is trying to identify your specific emotion. Maybe X is to do the dishes (I love that suggestion!) Are there things that energize you outside your relationship? Friends who ground you in rough times? So as to not feel dependent on him. You said “it’s important …	/r/RedPillWomen	10/02/22 06:57 AM
2	- Needing Advice - That sounds awful, I’m so sorry to hear about their immature behavior. Very understandable if you no longer want to be part of the group. But also understandable if you still do. This isn’t so much anything you did wrong, more just wanting to clarify what happened. When you say: “The last weekend we went out this same guy became interested in me, and despite me shutting it down he continued. I continued ghosting this person. I didn’t hear from him for a few days. But before my friend mentioned t…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/02/22 05:51 PM
6	Im (24f) in a happy relationship, but I feel like I've met my soulmate? Also important to remember that feeling strong, immediate connection does not predict future compatibility. While we all know people who fell in love at first sight and have been happy since, it’s just as common (if not more) to find that strong initial chemistry hides serious incompatibilities! I know right now it might feel like you and the new guy know each other so well—and maybe you do!—but it’s important to emphasize that you still don’t know each other very well at all!	/r/RedPillWomen	07/02/22 06:12 PM
2	Red pill women- do you think it’s acceptable for women to ask for men’s phone number? I mostly agree with wanting the man being the pursuer. The only exception—it rarely hurts to make the first move! After that it’s all on him to pursue! But by making the first move (and critically, only the first move), you open the door for him to pursue you, while still being able in the later rounds to gauge how much effort he’s putting in.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/02/22 09:14 PM
2	Will my behavior/style prevent me from finding a man who would be interested in me? I agree with comments on 1) your energy and personality matter more than specific clothes, and at the same time, 2) looking more feminine can stack the odds in your favor. When you say “the type of man I want”—who are they dating? How do those women dress? What is their energy like? Figure out what you can learn, and what would still feel authentic to you. Like others have said, maybe it’s a slight tweak in clothes. Try out different looks in front of the mirror—you might be surprised at how you…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/02/22 09:11 PM
6	I don't want more children with my unhealthy husband? I’m so sorry about the news of your husband’s diagnosis. On the topic of health—you are not being stupid at all! I hate the word “deserve” since it’s become so overused on frivolous things—but in this case, I do believe that partners should expect from their partner a strong commitment to the relationship / family. Maintaining one’s health, when it’s something that we have some control over, is a major part of this commitment. When you got married, his health stopped being his business alone. Th…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/02/22 08:55 PM
2	Figuring out being a stay at home wife? Just wanted to say great for you for figuring out what you want and makes you happy!! Don’t have much to add beyond what folks have already said but mostly wanted to contribute happy energy. Hopefully your family will come around once they see how well you’ve thought through things!	/r/RedPillWomen	31/01/22 11:29 AM
1	Struggling with how to proceed in my relationship. Hi there, I admire the depth of thought you’ve put into how you can handle things better, how you can improve yourself. But just because you could have handled things better, does not mean that a situation is your fault, nor does it mean that the other persons behavior is even remotely acceptable. Without knowing his side of the story, all I can say is that many of the issues you’ve highlighted are a dealbreaker—for myself and close friends who are partnered or married. It is not OK for him to c…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/01/22 11:19 AM