There’s nothing particularly groundbreaking about the Dual Mating Strategy. Everyone does it.

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-03-01T11:24:38+00:00

Removed for OP abandonment

Cataclysma324 · 2022-03-01T08:19:25+00:00

But in reality women go for all sorts of men. I knew a hot girl who only dated somewhat cute, low EQ math nerds in college. (Her husband is much more matched to her looks / social skills.) She’s not the exception, either! I know several girls who dated duds in college, who married a much more attractive man later.

Oh lordy you are going to get burned at the stake for this one. Honestly not sure how to respond because I definitely don't have enough anecdotal data to verify this, but I do often wonder if the recounts of the men here are based on reality or on confirmation bias.

In any case, I'm sure the "dating duds" is a result of girls who maybe have a lower self esteem. My sister does exactly this, and her reasoning is that the man would be easier to "control" so to speak, though really I think she means he is less likely to be a heart breaker. While my sister could easily Chad chase, the reality is she'd have to completely flip her personality and everything about her preferences in men.

LotBuilder · 2022-03-01T08:49:13+00:00

The ground breaking part is men understanding it, seeing their role and accepting it.

Im_The_Daiquiri_Man · 2022-03-01T08:18:56+00:00

But in reality women go for all sorts of men

Yeah. We know… women love all kinds of men.

DicamVeritatem · 2022-03-01T10:11:30+00:00

Apex fallacy. Most men cannot do your male option #1.

thoughtfulsoul10000 · 2022-03-01T07:49:26+00:00

What's Dual Mating?

The_Dayne · 2022-03-01T08:26:57+00:00

I play chess and thought 'duel mating strategy' was a checkmate pattern i wasnt aware of.

Noodles_R · 2022-03-01T08:52:07+00:00

This is pretty common knowledge no?

Some men and women fuck about when younger and they want ONSs/fun but not forever LTRs, then what they want in a partner changes when they start looking to settle down.

RP decided to name it, but it's a pretty basic concept and is performed by both men and women. But as RP is aimed at men, AF/BB tends to suggest it is a negative behaviour by women.

NockerJoe · 2022-03-01T07:54:58+00:00

Great. Now explain to the compatibility guy that he doesn't have any of the qualities of any of the other guys you dated. It doesn't matter what those qualities are it's probably not a conversation anyone wants to have with their current partners nor a thing they want to think about. I dated crazy hot chicks in my early 20's but there's absolutely no way I'd ever bring it up and not constantly bringing up your ex is like dating 101. But I think half the girls I've dated won't shut up about some ex and it's obvious when you're the guy they pick to be a change of pace.

jackedclown_1 · 2022-03-01T10:15:29+00:00

As a guy who's 26, in decent shape, has good job,about average looking and is very very selfish, here's my take. I knew by the time I entered college that I'd have more than one woman in my life, so I planned on experimenting as much as possible, relationships, hookers and hookups( never banged a hookup, 3rd base is the furthest I've got). Now that I am older, I'd like to marry a woman who's a bit younger than me, and has a much smaller n-count. If only I can actualize the last part of my plan, life would be perfect.

Edit: gonna marry a cutie with a small waist and big tits, can't get my dick up for block waisted chicks, feel like they're built like dudes.

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Pilling_it · 2022-03-01T10:06:40+00:00

There’s nothing particularly groundbreaking about the Dual Mating Strategy. Everyone does it.

Everyone that can afford to do it will do it, it's a given.

But the AF/BB narrative feels soooo narrow and doesn’t at all reflect the experiences I see around me. I’d love to hear your experiences!

It's just when you feel that guy is good for a fling, and another you see as boyfriend material. It doesn't account for the other categories you may have, and all the others you just don't notice exist (that way).

But in reality women go for all sorts of men.

I wanted to post the meme about that, but someone else beat me to it. Women have more variety in what they find really attractive than men, I'll give you that. Also why you don't find shows about really attractive men like you get for women, if you pay attention to it.

I also know girls who dated super hot guys and married a normal looking guy.

Yeah, thing is, the normal guy will be the one that will feel he gets the short end of the deal 100% of the time.

2) Over time you discover what’s important for long term relationships. Attraction for sure matters. But there are SO MANY other qualities that make someone a good life partner.

That is very true, anyone relying solely in attraction for ltrs have another thing coming to them. The reality for guys, though is that without being attractive, you won't be able to make the other qualities matter. And you know that's threshold that most guys have to worry before anything else considering how attractive the average man is.

Everyone is trying to figure out what they like.

I feel like given the chance and confidence based on initial success (thinking high school), most guys would experiment (without taking education into factor). But yeah.

2) Guys eventually feel ready to settle down. Maybe more of their friends are engaged.

It's more like the spread between ltr material and not is as clearly defined as women thinking they won't fuck a guy during the initial meeting or if it could (or will) happen.

But yeah, because of fertility window they only start having it good by 27-28 if they haven't been slobs during the previous years. And because these aren't the ones that have been fucking, they want to take advantage of it (be it malicious or not). Depends on whether they're looking to get in a serious relationship in the end for the next years.

Tl;dr: Both sexes may take time to figure out what they like, and may date differently for exploration vs marriage.

The funny thing, I wanted to make a similar post a few days before, so thanks for saving me the trouble. Agreed there, the thing is that the truth of that (won't fuck you as quickly as others and won't spoil you as much as others) will always offend the other sex on an instinctive level.

Title	There’s nothing particularly groundbreaking about the Dual Mating Strategy. Everyone does it.
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Date	March 1, 2022 7:39 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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