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This is actually a form of sex slavery, especially when it involves others. It is a dark part of the kink community that does not get talked about a lot. Anything with kinks should be fully consensual. You can not submit to someone who does not value you as a whole person. You actually need to get help with therapy in dealing with co dependency that has happened due to coping mechanisms of this repeated abuse. I am never the one to rush to divorce, but you really do need to leave this man.
/r/RedPillWives22/11/25 02:10 AM
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Yea no this guy legit has a lot of red flags in my opinion. Money is not everything.
/r/RedPillWives29/10/25 03:00 AM
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Maybe ask for outside help if you are overwhelmed and not getting the support you need from your husband. Like a sister or mother might be willing to come over to help.
/r/RedPillWives22/07/25 12:43 AM
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I am so sorry that you have been hurt by ideologies in your marriage. I lurk on this forum, but some of the redpill men forums can be really way off base and are not healthy for either men or women. Reach out if you need support.
/r/RedPillWives22/05/25 03:18 AM
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Yes it must be a part of healthy marriage, but it also needs to be tied to that openess not being used maliciously against them. Kind of how freedom must be ever coupled with responsibility, men being open but be coupled with females not listening to find ways to manipulate. It was a hard habit to break, but I had to learn to actually listen and not just for a reply or what have you. That has been key in my marriage with my husband. Neither of us had successful marriages to look up to, but we bo…
/r/RedPillWives22/05/25 03:13 AM
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I do not think it's manipulative. No one should be guilt tripped into having sex. That said, I would be clear about how you have changed and been steadfast in that change. He will respect it or not. I will say you are not some terrible person for the past. While my husband and I both have a "body count" of 1, we sure did not wait until marriage. So I will say first I aint no better than anyone. That said I did tell him I wanted to stop having sex until marriage because it changed out dynamic. He…
/r/RedPillWives14/05/25 03:05 PM
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I would make it work. Use things in the meantime waiting for the pump. I know some older couples that after prostate cancer thier husband's got that done and it works for them. :)
/r/RedPillWives18/04/25 03:06 PM
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I do not think I would take much romantic advice from the advice of Fredrick Nietzsche. He was in love with his sister. While the book detailing it may be a forgery, it was well documented how much he was angered his sister got married to someone. He mentally snapped to the end of his life and his sister had to be his guardian.
/r/RedPillWives16/04/25 01:28 AM
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You did not see him as the best option or even a future partner. If you did you would not be shopping around for other guys to date. He is right.
/r/RedPillWives23/01/25 07:41 PM
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Your values do not match. If you wish for an long term monogamous relationship that takes investment. You need to give the person you are taking a fair chance. There should not be multiple dating partners even in the picture. Have a first date. If it goes well then a second date with that person but no one else. If it does not go well cut ties outright and try again.
/r/RedPillWives23/01/25 07:39 PM
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That is amazing! Good job both of you!
/r/RedPillWives21/11/24 05:35 PM
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emotional cheating is a thing
/r/RedPillWives20/11/24 07:29 PM
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You can not be independent and monogamous. There is no "hunting."
/r/RedPillWives20/11/24 07:28 PM
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You are not unwelcome. Red pill wives have never advocated for being a doormat. You are absolutely welcome here.
/r/RedPillWives01/11/24 02:21 PM
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Yes bring this to your family.
/r/RedPillWives01/11/24 02:19 PM
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There really is no reason. Red pill women do not advocate being walked over. Each spouse is supposed to respect and support each other fully. He has really crossed a major boundary.
/r/RedPillWives01/11/24 02:18 PM
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Your feelings are 100 percent valid. If my husband was doing that I would be just as upset as well. Even if there is no emotional or physical cheating, the boundary breaking destroys trust. I have actually been insecure in the past and my husband has always went out of his way to allievate that. Your husband is just hitting the gas on what you are not ok with, and hiding it. I do think if I was in your shows I would feel like there is an affair. It may be that his "love language" is spending tim…
/r/RedPillWives01/11/24 11:47 AM
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Look I do not know why yall are on a tangent about my opinion on age of marriage on a traditional red pill forum. I was talking historically 18 to 22 was ideal. The rest of my advice was on point.
/r/RedPillWives13/10/24 09:38 AM
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Correct, and that is not normal for a society. One of many factors in the past for revolts was when lack of resources made a society as a whole delay marriage to around 28.
/r/RedPillWives13/10/24 09:33 AM
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Rotflmao 18 19 20 would be young for marriage.
/r/RedPillWives13/10/24 12:32 AM
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I am a bit confused. You did not marry young at all if your three years ago was accurate with your ages. Marrying at 22 and 26 is not young at all. I would suggest therapy for him to find out why is going through lack of interest. If he does not figure that out, then he will have performance anxiety which will make maintaining an erection even harder for him. It could be stress from work, thyroid, low t, any number of things. If it is mental then a sex therapist will help.
/r/RedPillWives12/10/24 07:55 PM
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May I say different perspectives are always good, but never be tied to an ideology. Search for what works for you and your spouse.
/r/RedPillWives01/10/24 04:06 PM
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Took my husband and I over a decade to start actively communicating. It's a lot of will power on both sides to take ourselves out if the comfort zone and say what needs said to prevent resentment.
/r/RedPillWives01/10/24 04:04 PM
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I have had several people ask if my husband is autistic. Which he and I do not think he is. That said I have family members who are autistic, and it just depends on the person. There are different levels if autism. Now as far as nuerodiversity outside of autism, there are several. Dyslexia, dyscalculia, developmental coordination disorder, Tic disorders, Adhd, etc. Now I have several of these as a wife. I seek treatment for some like my tics, but others like my processing disorders I have learne…
/r/RedPillWives01/10/24 02:05 PM
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I wish I went on Sertrline sooner. It dramatically helped my depression and stopped a lot of my ocd rituals.
/r/RedPillWives25/09/24 12:05 AM
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Maybe for some men.
/r/RedPillWives29/08/24 11:11 AM
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There is no stress managing this. Take it from another homeschooling mom. This is not sustainable.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/24 02:47 PM
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You should be raging. This is so way out of line it's disturbing.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/24 12:10 AM
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I was going at face value from her first paragraph. It honestly sounds like a him probably this once. And infidelity is definately a reason for divorce.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/24 08:20 PM
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In her post, the guy is still going to see his side piece, though. I do not know how anyone can be perky and pleasant under those circumstances.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/24 08:14 PM
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Honestly, if he is reaching back out, let him go. Let the trash take himself out. You are not her and will never be her. Ironically she too will be compared to you because the problem is inside him. Also he is not being a traditional head of the household male so no traditional takes will help this out.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/24 08:10 PM
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He too needs to make a habit of one thing a day he sees that he is grateful for. Can be simple like clean clothes or what have you or grabbing groceries. When we appreciate our spouse and vice versa it becomes easier to see each other as partners in everything.
/r/RedPillWives12/07/24 06:46 PM
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Yall got to learn to stop acting like the goal in arguments are you're right or you're wrong. There is a together problem and both need to work on communicating effectively. If he has asked you many times. ask why you felt comfortable putting off something that is important enough for him to bring to you. If you are defensive, ask why you are being defensive. Passive aggression never helps anyone and makes you lose respect for your spouse. Remember that you do not want to be married to a loser a…
/r/RedPillWives12/07/24 06:43 PM
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Insurance policies. Enough to cover living expenses and a trade of some type.
/r/RedPillWives20/05/24 01:19 AM
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Ask him to hire someone to repair the things he can not get to. Sounds like you both are working at max. Just a handyman every now and again.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/24 02:46 PM
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He did hold those vows as unbreakable, being tempted to break something is not the same as breaking them. I am sure you were tempted to do bad things in your life and did not do them. You are human with emotions too.
/r/RedPillWives02/03/24 12:52 AM
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Look this might be an unpopular opinion on here but a man has to be a leader to lead the family. He is looking back at ways to potshot you down, not look forward to help the family. You are literally the family. I do believe men can change just like women can, but they have to want it. He needs to work on being your partner too. Marriage only works when both are working on it.
/r/RedPillWives17/01/24 05:05 PM
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I found daily reminders of what I am grateful that he does eventually made me stop nagging and notice the things he did that I did not notice before. It stopped my nagging.
/r/RedPillWives14/01/24 01:56 AM
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Honestly I am fortunate that my husband has never gotten in to those vices (as he saw how alcoholism and addiction ran through his family). He eventually cut said person out completely. When we had kids I thought surely they will sober up for thier grand babies. I was wrong. He gave them a chance again due to my request, and the addiction and alchol was more important for them. I felt such kinship and love for my mil that it devastated me when she picked up all those "habits" again 20 years ago.…
/r/RedPillWives03/10/23 12:33 AM
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I would say the best way to handle this is to remember your job is just a tool to provide a means of living. Your life is not work but what is outside of work. When you have the mentality shift of that, you will find yourself excites to be going home to be with your spouse. if you are tired maybe rest next to him on the couch or something
/r/RedPillWives08/08/23 08:01 PM
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All of the women above have given you sound advice. Take care if yourself.
/r/RedPillWives05/08/23 09:27 PM
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Foreplay and lube. Remind him that he can lube you with his precum literally..... It does get easier with time. My husband has a wide girth so to speak and I still have to work my way on but eventually it works. Oh and you should be on top until you are fully wide open. The gravity helps bring lubrication down and you have control of the situation to mitigate any pain. Do not forget to communicate during intimacy.
/r/RedPillWives24/07/23 02:46 AM
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I think the above is a good suggestion, but that said your husband would only read any self help books if he wanted to. If you bought him a book to read it probably would come across as nagging. You can not control your husband's behavior, but you can change your perceptions. Once a day make a point to find something to grateful for, that he does and tell yourself you are grateful. When you get a habit of doing that it will counter losing respect for him. You won't gain more respect immediately …
/r/RedPillWives02/07/23 11:53 PM
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Sounds good.
/r/RedPillWives01/02/23 02:43 AM
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Sounds well written, but I agree with the person above to remove that one part. It's showing where you are vulnerable for him to manipulate.
/r/RedPillWives31/01/23 11:35 PM
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Good advice!
/r/RedPillWives01/12/22 05:37 AM
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I think your son needs to have time to learn that he is safe and sound with his daddy even if he prefers his mommy at the moment. I know with my daughter's crying omg it would get so bad that even a doll's crying will shoot down my back from how hard she would cry from her inflamed colon (allergies). If as you say he is a super mellow baby and happy child then it will literally be ok to allow him to cry and fuss. Father's expressions help him learn to delay instant gratification. Its a balance. …
/r/RedPillWives13/06/22 10:33 PM
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Ok women can make more expressions with their faces then men do. There has been numerous studies on the nuances of this and infant interactions. Babies will take longer to calm down typically with a male due to this, however the nuance is that the more said baby is exposed with the father uninterrupted the more adjusted the baby gets. It is also a common issue in Nicu and Picu with male care givers. Also its common when the baby is born super early to associate with nurses more, and gets squared…
/r/RedPillWives13/06/22 09:00 PM
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You are very welcome. :)
/r/RedPillWives15/04/22 02:08 PM
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On the positive, in your defending your spouse you answered your own problem. You found him showing love still to you. That should also reassure yourself. You know he does love you. You just need patience :)
/r/RedPillWives15/04/22 02:04 PM
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I think men and women show affection if different ways depending on their moods. But if he is still showing affection do a once a reminder of those actions and you will transform you outlook to one that is reassuring.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/22 02:02 PM
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Again I was not at all bashing your spouse or saying not to be patient. I was saying do not be a doormat under the circumstances you said earlier. That he was not responsive. You are NOW saying he is responsive. I can not read minds. All of us on this forum can only go on what is written on your post and comments.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/22 02:01 PM
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Ok then I would not really call that not responsive. Sounds like he is still cautious. I was going by what you had said in a previous comments. He is still showing his love in his actions. You need to keep looping his actions in your mind to reassure you. It sounds like he is still showing he cares but your antenna is not tuned to it. Try to highlight what he has done once a day and you will get back your normal feeling.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/22 01:57 PM
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First trimester does so much growth it is honestly the most exhausting resource wise on the body. Which is why it is extremely common for women to loose weight at the first trimester. It gets better during the second trimester I promise. The third is hard due to hormonal surges preparing for birth and the whole carrying a large watermelon in front of you thing. Make yourself a goal of what is the one thing I will make sure I will get done for myself. For me it was I will make sure my legs are al…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/22 02:36 AM
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Ok I am not sure if this is going to be what other here would say. Disengagement opens up the ability to compartmentalize you from him. (This is the first step towards opening up to affairs both emotional and physical). So when you said he was stoic when you try to be playful around him that is not a good sign. You should tell him that fine you can wait for him to be ready to talk about the argument, however you should not take him disengaging from interacting with you. Yall will never heal. You…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/22 01:29 AM
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You can never repair a marriage to a person who does not wish to be in a marry 100 percent. It is going to be hard work as well there will be times you will push each other's buttons. My concern is that normally there is a honeymoon of both being on thier best behavior. It does not sound like you are getting that. He is with one side of the mouth apologizing but then the other side saying it's your fault. I hate some wild fights in my youth when first married but even then neither of us doubted …
/r/RedPillWives07/10/21 03:40 AM
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Ok when I am done I will let ya know what I thought.
/r/RedPillWives08/07/21 01:38 PM
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Today I am getting in the mail my copy of Speechless controlling words controlling minds by Michael Knowles. Looking forward to it.
/r/RedPillWives08/07/21 12:05 PM
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Keep in mind that when you are in an argument the point should not be to win. It should be to come to an understanding. You do not want to have your spouse feel like a loser and you yourself do not wish to be married to a loser. there is a video in how to fairly argue by jordan peterson that is really good.
/r/RedPillWives03/07/21 03:13 AM
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I am going to recommend you have some room carpet. maybe like a small one under a coffee table. As you walk on it, it literally brushes dirt off your feet. Which is why people with carpet do not get caked dirt on thier feet. Laundry basket for toys at end of the day to toss them in. And maybe have a sheet tossed up and over the couch. When they get crumbs its easy to shake outside or wash. :) Also when I did have no carpet the only thing I could do was swiffer everyday. But I still got caked dir…
/r/RedPillWives03/07/21 03:10 AM
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If you are in a new relationship I would say to slow down by all means. That said before you should ever make that plunge you should make sure you share the same core values. Discuss life goals, family planning and raising, familial interactions with extended family, spending habits and goals, finding out healthy together hobbies and also separate hobbies, etc. If you go into a relationship too rapidly it is easy to gloss over parts of each other that is not sustainable.
/r/RedPillWives29/09/20 12:14 AM
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Then it's more the dogma in your religion that is causing this feeling. I am personally not a Christian. But I will say that Jesus was asked what the most important commandment was. He said to love the Lord your God with all your heart all your soul and all your mind. And the second to love your neighbor as your self. It was not do not dilly dally before marriage or any of the like. If I was a Christian in this situation I would hold on to the verse Colossians 3:13 "Bear with each other and forg…
/r/RedPillWives04/09/20 05:29 PM
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I have only ever been with my husband and vice versa but it was with each other before we were married. That said I can fully understand why you feel the way you do. If your husband was a virgin I really do understand fully your thoughts. If he was not a virgin then you both are on the same level and that you need to realize that. Now on the assumption that your husband was a virgin please know what has happened in your past has made you who you are. You can not change that but with your knowled…
/r/RedPillWives04/09/20 05:19 PM
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Probably. Sorry :(
/r/RedPillWives24/08/19 02:29 PM
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you know maybe he is leading you on as a backup. sometimes that unfortunatly happens.
/r/RedPillWives24/08/19 02:17 PM
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Sounds like he is really not interested, and is trying not to hurt your feelings or make things akward at work. Not to mention alot of guys are really scared of workplace relationships now a days. He just really isnt interested it seems.
/r/RedPillWives24/08/19 12:05 PM
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Is it possible he is often complimenting you but staying distant not because he has it made but because he loves you but feels rebuffed by you. How do you react to his compliments. Do you say yea yea or do you sincerely accept them. There was a time where I was like that and it was my perspective that needed to change and when it did I spoke to him honestly and cried alot a out missing us time and we work on it now. The first step I made was to force myself at least once a day to VOCALIZE a comp…
/r/RedPillWives23/08/19 02:44 AM
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Absolutely 100 percent true.
/r/RedPillWives05/05/19 01:50 AM
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My husband is back to school again full time along with full time work that is night shift. I get the needing attention bit. I was feeling it hard and it was hard but I told him that I miss our us time. And he has actually worked on adding family time again. It's not perfect but seeing him make the effort has dramatically helped me out. Like yesterday our daughter was playing a game and he fell asleep holding her while she played on the PSP. Melted my heart. I am glad I spoke up. I always told h…
/r/RedPillWives04/03/19 11:25 PM
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My husband and I got married very young and yes financially we didnt have to Penny's to rub together but love and respect was enough. I would argue that if you find someone that fulfills you that the rest will work out if you both put in the effort.
/r/RedPillWives04/03/19 08:23 PM
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Before we got married I went over to help him set up our future home often. Since it was where he was living at I got a glimpse of what it was like. He would paint and I would unwrap dishes or stuff like that. We would eat together but I would go home around 7:30. Maybe you can do something like that? So when he moves in to his new home help him! Also start figuring out what his needs will be by kinda doing what you plan on doing when you do live there but go home at night. Like do your laundry …
/r/RedPillWives15/02/19 12:21 AM
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Maybe allow him to get you an anniversary ring if he wants. When I was married we were both young and poor but in love. Did not have money for a ring. But on our ten year wedding anniversary he got me an emerald ring (my favorite color) :) Now for our 15 year anniversary he wants to finally have wedding bands. I was happy all along just being his wife but if it makes him feel good then I am all for it. But I told him I didn't want a set. Just a band to go with my anniversary ring. My green emera…
/r/RedPillWives15/02/19 12:11 AM
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Sometimes when I get nervous on big changes my husband is doing for the family it helps me to reflect back on moments we made it through as a couple that he provided. Now I realize that you have only been married for 6 months but it says you have lived together 3 years so maybe you can look back and remember some tight squeezes? And if not remember that a provider needs support to. And that includes patience and confidence from the spouse at times. I will say I have OCD myself so I get the hamst…
/r/RedPillWives15/02/19 12:00 AM
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