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Many of the books recommended here are older. When men still acted like men and not children. Same with the advice given here. It only works when you are partnered with a man who behaves like a man and equally wants a successful relationship
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/25 01:35 AM
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I’m totally with you, but in the same way I feel like fast marriages are romanticized without vetting, and the same way long marriages are romanticized with two people who clearly hate each other.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/25 09:57 PM
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That’s probably a more eloquent way to say it. I mourn the life I wanted often. I pray for my ex husband to get better every day, for our children. My daily life is so much easier in almost every aspect because I am free from the daily mental abuse. I was so worried that Christmas would be sad, but it was the happiest my children and I have ever had because we didn’t need to cater to the moods of alcoholism.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/25 09:49 PM
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Divorce is hard. Being divorced is not. I’ve been divorced for about 6 weeks and formally separated from my ex spouse for over 9 months. While sex was not the trigger in our marriage, alcoholism was; no amount of providing and meeting criteria on a red pilled checklist could compensate for the emotional toll that the negative aspects had on our marriage and family. I too live far from family and had placed my whole identity in being a wife and mother. I can finally breathe again. My advice is to…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/25 06:31 PM
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That’s child abuse. He can never be around your children again.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/24 02:50 PM
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You need to reduce your commitments. 2 different co-ops is, at a minimum, 1 too many. Homeschooling before the age of compulsory school attendance is just parenting. You’ll be more content with less obligations.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 12:56 PM
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Pretty Garden rompers on Amazon are my “sweats”.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 11:16 PM
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My sister told her boyfriend he needed to ask my permission. I said no when he asked. He was lying to his parents about living with my sister. I said I didn’t feel comfortable giving my blessing while they were starting their relationship on a lie. It was a heated discussion, but everyone respected my guidance. 6 months later he had come clean, I gave my blessing and they were engaged. If OP respected the option of her father and the father had responded in good faith with a specific reason why …
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/20 07:35 PM
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You’re going to need to learn how you best embrace your new role as a homemaker. It could mean a daily schedule, a new hobby or even just a simple daily checklist. What do you envision your life looking like?
/r/RedPillWives19/08/20 07:24 PM
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Second this! Gym childcare is great.
/r/RedPillWives16/08/20 02:22 AM
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Two words: nap time. You need a midday nap to reset. Also, hydration! Dehydration really brings on irritability and lack of energy.
/r/RedPillWives16/08/20 02:22 AM
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All modesty goes out the window in the heat of summer. That is all.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/20 08:33 PM
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Makeup makes a big difference.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/20 02:53 PM
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Yup
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/20 01:11 AM
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... just break up then.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 10:17 PM
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The benefits outweigh your apathy. I can show you a bunch of oil field workers who desperately need some exercise. Point being, in most cases, work isn’t enough to meet the level of cardiovascular exercise your body needs. But ya know. Keep making excuses.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 10:01 PM
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Your boyfriend’s comments aside. Let’s talk about your health and fitness. Exercise is an essential component to self care. Period. At this point, your lack of self care is having a significant impact on your health as evidenced by your inability to keep up. If you didn’t like your previous gym routine then by all means find something different. I HATE the machines at my gym. I never touch the strength training machines or the weight rack. I LOVE BodyPump classes. I love playing tennis. I really…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 08:45 PM
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“He would act controlling and jealous” That’s your red flag right there. Stop trying to rationalize any of his other behavior. Good men are never controlling or jealous. Block him everywhere and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/20 05:31 PM
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I’m happy you’re seeking progress, but I still want to caution you. Guard your heart. Don’t let your emotions cloud your logic and ignore red flags, and by all means don’t turn into a plate.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 12:43 AM
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I don’t.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/20 04:13 AM
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This is a red flag. Why are you still with him?
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 10:41 PM
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That’s not a normal response. No. Seek wise counsel.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 02:26 AM
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You can’t have it both ways. Strict Traditional gender roles + working outside of the home. You will run yourself ragged. To the point of physical decline. He is going to have to help around the house or provide better for the family. Period.
/r/RedPillWives02/02/20 08:53 PM
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My heart aches for you and I’m feeling physically ill. Just the mental picture I have of the whole ordeal is terrifying. You have a fundamental misalignment in core beliefs. Get out now.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 02:49 AM
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The last time one of us did that she got doxxed so much they were stalking her house and she had to have a sheriffs deputy guard it.
/r/RedPillWives28/01/20 05:49 PM
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I’m making pecan tassies tomorrow!
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/20 06:36 PM
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To that point, I think she addressed that in her section about accepting him as he is. “Wouldn’t it be great” in this case just seems like a manipulation instead of feminine communication. But to that, I don’t recall exactly what she says about it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 06:12 PM
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I think there are levels. If you really want a date night ask for a date, don’t ask to spend more time together when you are expecting a date because that would lead to disappointment.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 05:45 PM
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First, I had that same trifecta and experienced the same struggles in my marriage. Counseling helped for me to heal from my trauma, and reduce my anxiety, but really fixing my codependency and my relationship- counseling was counterproductive. I’m not saying that for everyone it’s that way, but for me and many people I know it was. The feminists are too far entrenched in modern counseling to really help relationships. Second, Laura Doyle says to state EXACTLY what you want. Saying “I want to be …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 06:42 PM
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You can find me on Facebook and my group is linked there. Same as my screen name.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 02:49 PM
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I got it from my dentist office actually!
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 02:49 PM
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I’m currently doing an outer beauty challenge in my Facebook group! Today’s mission was Brushing your teeth. The significance of this small task is so often overlooked. I use a charcoal “scrub” every other week to combat staining from tea, coffee and wine.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 01:23 AM
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Unless you have a ring on your finger and a date on the calendar for a wedding then HECK NO! You do not give up ANYTHING for a man who isn’t committed to you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 09:38 PM
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Her comment history is concerning. Pornography is actually the least of my concerns.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 09:36 PM
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I don’t disagree.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 09:05 PM
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I’m not going to label it. But my husband and I both have mutual respect for one another. This is not a healthy or productive response to one instance of being rejected for sex.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 08:13 PM
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The person who says no to kids wins. There is no compromise. Even if you “convince” him. At this point, you cannot have children with this man. Do you want to continue being married if that means never having the family you want?
/r/RedPillWives05/01/20 07:04 PM
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Red flag. Move on honey. It’ll hurt and that’s okay, but he’s not the one.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/20 05:26 AM
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Y’all have a fundamental misalignment on core values. If you’re being honest with yourself there’s probably other warning signs you are ignoring. He’s not the one for you. Break up and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 10:57 PM
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I was coming here to recommend this book as well!
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 07:44 PM
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What does she consider “nice” if she were to splurge on herself? That’s what you get. Not something that they could never imagine affording for themself. And again, you barely know this dude!
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 09:16 PM
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That was a bad decision. You need to tone it down. Like by a thousand notches.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 09:09 PM
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My husband is a high income earner. I didn’t, but I have many friends that come from generational wealth. I would never give someone I’ve never met Tiffany. My friends that I’ve spoken of, know better than to give that ostentatious of a gift to their boyfriends mother in a lower socioeconomic status. In fact, I’m starting to think you’re a troll.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 09:05 PM
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Literally this. And I think this reply is meant to be snarky but it’s spot on.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 08:29 PM
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Right?
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 08:27 PM
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It would have been better had you given her a gift more akin to her lifestyle. From your description, even wine or fruit wouldn’t have been well received. I’m not trying to be funny, but really, something impersonal from the “gifts” section at Target would have been better.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 08:27 PM
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You sound... fun. /s
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/19 07:50 PM
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The old adage “you can’t pour from an empty cup”. I find that if I’m getting short on understanding and patience that I’ve been neglecting my self care. Even the basics like sleep and adequate fluids.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/19 07:24 PM
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“They do exist”
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/19 04:41 PM
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Ahh. There it is. Such low effort OP. And dang. You cross posted pretty quick didn’t you?
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 04:13 AM
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This is a troll post. I can smell it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 03:59 AM
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Amazing, isn’t it?
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/19 02:57 AM
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This is awesome! I just read your original post, you’ve seen success much faster than I did with my husband!
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/19 01:27 AM
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We stay in touch through the day exclusively through gifs. I agree. And those are super cute poems!
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 08:16 PM
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Wait, why are you handling all this extra stuff as a girlfriend? All this without a ring is a romance killer on its own.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 08:13 PM
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What type of hair do you have? Hair is so specialized you really need to find someone that has your exact hair type. Those little hairs on your head are so particular that following the wrong person is a giant waste of time. Signed, 3c girl who wasted too much time.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 08:11 PM
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I’m grateful for a weather change to bring us indoors.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 08:10 PM
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Slow down. Don’t panic. Don’t let your emotions override logic. Stop for a minute and think. What money do you have? What needs to be paid? What can be paid jointly? What subscriptions or accounts can be cancelled? Roll with the punches.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 08:09 PM
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So you think you are unlovable. Work on that.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 02:02 AM
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In the words of Dr Laura; do you think you are ugly, fat or unlovable? Those are the reason why women “go” for crappy men.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 01:09 AM
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Personally, I feel like leggings under dresses looks very frumpy unless you are taller than average or you are wearing a mini dress.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 01:12 AM
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Texting is for logistics. Dates are for getting to know one another. Get that squared away first and other things will fall in to place. As for this guy; delete, block and forget. At this point commitment isn’t in the cards.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 01:03 AM
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I recently listened to a podcast regarding productivity. The speaker talked on how our brain capacity has not expanded in the last few decades, yet we are taking in exponentially more information. He went on to say our brains can actively process 4 things at a time, but if we are talking to someone - that takes up half. All this other information we are taking in, our brains are trying to “remember”. And each time we tell ourselves about a task our brain is trying to remember that too. Each time…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 01:00 AM
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So, he’s okay with twice a week and you’d like sex 4 times a week? Does he reject you when you initiate? Does he initiate?
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/19 08:58 PM
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I get dressed every day. I don’t just put on clothes; I choose and outfit appropriate for the day. I color my hair every 8 weeks and haircuts as needed. Gym 3-5 times per week to keep my body in shape. Cleanse my face twice a day.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/19 08:49 PM
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No. You genuinely think that both people would enjoy the book.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/19 08:47 PM
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My dad once said “there’s the girls you date and the girls you marry”. If this guy is asking for nudes you are a “date” and he’s not interested in long term commitment. I send nudes to my husband frequently. I already have the commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/19 08:46 PM
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He’s trying to appeal to your competitive side.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/19 09:04 PM
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Break up. He’s her orbiter. If she ever calls him up, he will drop you like a hat. I’m sorry OP.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/19 02:23 AM
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Saved them because they were “funny”? Come on now sis. You’re smarter than that. Dating is about vetting. This is more than a red flag, this is a stop sign. Break up. Block and move on. Seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 06:53 PM
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Info: Who did he stay with when he left and threatened divorce?
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 08:55 PM
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Meta analysis. Once you start seeing all the hypocrisy and evaluating the lies for what they really are, it all becomes b.s.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 07:38 PM
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Right now I’m using i+Recipe 50 SPF/PA+++ Triple Care Sports Milk. Purchased on Amazon. I like it. I noticed I was slacking on going down the décolleté area, and had to increase that. I also wear it on my hands as well.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 02:14 AM
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All of those. I’m crazy about sunscreen.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 12:59 AM
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I look better at 35 than I did at 28.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 05:26 PM
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Had to scroll too far to see this.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 07:38 PM
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Clean, unpolished classic oval. I hate chipped polish and I’m also pretty rough on my hands. I’ve found that clean nails that looked trimmed is the best way to go for me. And I really like how the oval shape looks on my hands.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 06:00 PM
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Send me a DM. Are you in Dallas proper?
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 02:15 PM
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Breakup. If he hasn’t cheated yet, he will
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 01:18 AM
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Work with a therapist to cure your anxiety (this is possible). Your clingy/codependency isn’t healthy for a relationship. Security does not come from a man. You have to be a whole person before you can be a good partner.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/19 09:57 PM
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This might be an unpopular opinion, but him saying I love you, while not having opened up to you about interpersonal struggles sends up a red flag to me. I would caution you to continue vetting and not fall head over heels. This sounds like love bombing.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/19 08:38 PM
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Have you tried just straight up telling him you would like to wear light makeup daily and then just staring at him until he replies? At the end of the day, he wants you to be happy.
/r/RedPillWives04/09/19 01:12 AM
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Those are both really big asks. And calling him “dad” because he rejected a conversation about porn? Yikes! If you want more excitement. Try starting WAY more PG, and then building up to a level you are excited about. It seems like you’ve upped your expectations and are disappointed he didn’t take the leap with you. I’ve been there too. I actually lurk the R/strippers board frequently. It’s exciting to me, but not my hubby’s cup of tea so just learning the ins and outs makes it fun for me. Also,…
/r/RedPillWives04/09/19 12:13 AM
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Yes that’s exactly what I’m saying. It’s not a one size fits all approach, obviously. But finding fulfillment and purpose, and scratching that competitive drive really helped me. Achieving exhaustion so you don’t give a sh¡+ isn’t the goal. Finding contentment in all areas of your life is the goal. And hiiii fellow tennis player.
/r/RedPillWives04/09/19 12:08 AM
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My aunt who recently passed away was the best interior decorator. She said every vignette needs these elements; light - dark, tall - short, shiny - dull and hard - soft. She said you could put any random anything together and it would be pleasing if you had those elements.
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 04:25 PM
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I didn’t get that feeling until year 7 or 8. I think. It wasn’t until I had hobbies and a sport. A true purpose outside of just being wife and mom. I had something I enjoyed, that was a challenge, and people that had expectations of me (doubles tennis). All the therapy and self improvement books and gym workouts and trying to be cultured didn’t do a thing to help until I started playing tennis. And I’m not even “good” at it. Slightly above embarrassing. This restlessness is inside of you. But th…
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 04:17 PM
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Someone who knows him to come home to. That’s what my husband says. When he’s with me, it feels like home. That feeling of being able to completely relax and be comfortable isn’t something you can get with a plate.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/19 05:46 PM
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Victoria’s Secret cotton panties are great, as are Target. I’ve just stopped wearing underwear 99% of the time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/19 11:56 PM
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You can’t vet extensively via an app. An app is just a means for introductions.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/19 02:54 AM
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It wouldn’t be a healthy move for an individual psychologically. It also isn’t blatantly disrespectful to the marriage. I have a public Instagram and often post full length outfit of the day pictures. I’m rarely insecure about my looks and never post when I’m having a down day. I only post when I feel confident. 80% of my followers are women and I block all appearance based comments from men.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/19 02:59 AM
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She’s very brash. If he goal is to teach, she’s not very effective.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/19 12:42 AM
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He wasn’t a captain. He was an abuser. Focus on you. Heal. Recover. That’s all that matters. Sending you love.
/r/RedPillWives03/07/19 10:32 PM
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Kudos to you for making it through. It’s no small accomplishment.
/r/RedPillWives05/05/19 12:36 PM
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For me it is a conscious effort. I have to stay mindful of my role. I’m younger than you, but I remember the recession so well. I can’t imagine that it didn’t have a big impact on marriages.
/r/RedPillWives05/05/19 01:04 AM
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You should suggest that he start a separate account just for his influencer posts so that he can develop more of a niche based following. From a social media marketing standpoint that’s the best strategy anyway. Then, as a wife, continue to support him!
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 09:30 PM
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Not directly answering your question, but I wanted to point out. Just because your parents had a good marriage, that isn’t an indicator that all arranged marriages are good.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 06:08 PM
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If he’s coming to your work uninvited that signals to me a lack of respect.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 06:13 PM
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The way he pursued you sent up major red flags for me.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 06:09 PM
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You shouldn’t have dated him in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 06:07 PM
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Anger is a secondary emotion. If a man has a label as an “angry man”, he’s not a healthy partner. We should seek to understand all people when they are angry because it’s an indicator of an unmet need, but it is not our job as women to heal men. That has to come from within themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 04:22 PM
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I’m very pro marriage when children are involved if there isn’t addiction or abuse involved. She did mention some financial and sexual abuse. The safety of her child comes first and his behavior is likely to escalate unless she learns how to “handle” a narcissist.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 10:08 PM
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You can’t submit to an abusive man or an addict. Submitting “harder” to an unhealthy person won’t heal them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 07:11 PM
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Hi there! I too have a very big personality. One of my flaws also is that when I think I’m right about something, I dig in and won’t just “agree to disagree”. My ability to be soft at home is directly tied to the amount of self care. Getting myself ready, exercising, reading for relaxation, and getting my chores done so there’s less on my plate. I blog and keep a red pilled Instagram account to help others as much to help keep myself on track.
/r/RedPillWives01/04/19 07:37 PM
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You can find NL at TJ Maxx pretty often.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 06:22 PM
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One thing that really helped me was picking a seasonal color palate to build my wardrobe from. I have seasonal wardrobes based around those color palates. Think solid color dresses, printed tops and cardigans and solid pants. Another element that makes any outfit more feminine is heels. As a mom, a lot of my heels have a platform at the toe and a slight heel or wedge. CL by Chinese Laundry is their “comfort” heel line.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 06:22 PM
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Breakup. He’s low value and not worthy of your commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 08:03 PM
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Just curious. I found for a time that the way I dressed got a lot of compliments from women, but hardly any male attention. I switched my style up and now it’s about 80-20 men women. The more feminine women tend to recognize my style more these days.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 06:38 PM
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Do “people” compliment you, or do women compliment you?
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 06:34 PM
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Interesting
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 02:45 AM
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Every morning I send him a text asking, “What can I do for you today?”. Then, I follow through and get it done. My husband’s love language is acts of service.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/19 07:20 PM
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Even as a red pilled wife, it is my understanding that it isn’t your job to make your husband happy. That’s an element that’s out of your control. Your job is to show up as high value, and be loving and accepting of who he is. These thoughts he’s having, and this particular interest are his to process on his own. Lean back and just be your feminine self.
/r/RedPillWives19/01/19 07:09 PM
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Sister, you need to take a step back from dating and restore your self identity and confidence. This is not the behavior of a strong, valuable woman.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 04:35 AM
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My husband likes this one as well.
/r/RedPillWives08/01/19 01:00 AM
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He honestly sounds depressed. Not saying clinically, but perhaps situationally. Has he recently experienced a failure, or had a set back that you may or may not know about? I don’t see a talk going well as it runs the real risk of emasculating him further by coming off as mothering. I second the recommendation to read The Surrendered Wife. As a peek into this, it’s my understanding that to remedy this situation you would put him in the hot seat when it comes to as many decisions as possible. Her…
/r/RedPillWives08/01/19 12:48 AM
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Not high end, but I wear Victoria’s Secret on the daily. I have a small chest and I swear by their Bombshell bra. I also like Target as well. Especially their nighties. Comfortable fabric and hints of lace. I have been wanting to check out Adore Me though.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/19 12:43 AM
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America’s Test Kitchen is the best resource for learning how to cook. Specifically, the science - the why and how of cooking, not just recipes.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/18 01:46 AM
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Tennis. I didn’t play any sports before we met. It took him 8 years to get my into it. Now, we play a mixed doubles league together and I play 3-4 times a week in addition.
/r/RedPillWives25/08/18 06:14 PM
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Just curious wouldn’t skin quality be of greater importance. It’s pretty highly controllable as well with a proper skin care routine. I don’t think a man would want to be with a 34 year old who looked 44 because she destroyed her skin.
/r/RedPillWives09/08/18 03:53 PM
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My husband is grilling Ribeyes and I’m making cauliflower in my new air fryer!
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 04:52 PM
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A pregnancy? Come on now
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 10:20 PM
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From a divorced woman who landed a HV man I applaud her. It can be done.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/18 11:51 PM
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Depends on the environment of the campus. The women’s college in my town is adjacent to a Co Ed college as well.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/18 01:19 AM
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You’ve gotten a lot of great responses here. My husband really likes thefamilyalpha.com for guidance on parenting - especially raising boys. To me, it sounds a bit harsh. Not showing any physical affection at all can be harmful. But what about playfulness? Does your husband tickle or rough House with him? That’s a very masculine way for men to bond with their children.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 05:25 PM
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No need to apologize. They’re just a troll
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/18 02:02 AM
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Further advice to 20 somethings. Don’t nit pick, sweat the small stuff, nag, or any of the other obnoxious things u/p3n3lop3 does
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/18 01:47 AM
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Its a fish. Good luck cuddling up to that tonight
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/18 01:43 AM
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“Your” beta fish wants you to come play. I’m going to go play with my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/18 01:34 AM
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Your mere existence is not enough to sustain any relationship. Self improvement is a journey with no end. Obligatory disclaimer: I’m 30 something not 40 something
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 09:45 PM
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Let him initiate! Both my Captain and I have very high libido, but I found that I had even better orgasms if I backed off and let him initiate sex. He wants more chase, give it to him!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/18 01:59 AM
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Good bot
/r/RedPillWives01/02/18 08:50 PM
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I hate it when that happens. I’m new-ish to RP.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/18 02:33 AM
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I’ll check out Pinterest! Thanks
/r/RedPillWives27/01/18 02:32 AM
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I’m not dependent upon my husband for adult conversation. I stay pretty active on social media and my IRL hobbies that I don’t feel the need to be super chatty at night. Plus, I have 4 kids - I enjoy the silence some nights. With that being said, this isn’t an all the time thing. It’s for a season of stressful periods. My friend’s husband is an accountant. January - April her husband is basically nonexistent, but otherwise is super engaged. It’s all about being understanding of your mate’s needs…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/18 08:30 PM
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STFU is the biggest thing. I give my husband lots and lots of space when he’s stressed from work. At the same time, I am quick to drop everything if he wants to spend time together. Also, I write him notes affirming his masculine qualities and my appreciation for his work outside the home. I stick them on his mirror, in his drawer, work bag etc. I stay on my A game when it comes to keeping the house in shape. If he’s stressed, the last thing he needs is to come home to clutter or his favorite sh…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/18 01:42 AM
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MRP doesn’t teach or advocate for belittling your spouse or treating her like cattle. Neither does TRP to my knowledge, but I don’t read there. RP philosophy does teach that each person in the relationship needs to display high value. Exercise and healthy eating are important to health and longevity. Contributing to your household (housework and income) is essential for harmony. Sex is essential in any marriage to bond together. Balancing your partner (masculine and feminine) is essential. Unlik…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/18 06:01 PM
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No sex without commitment #1 rule. And never EVER have sex on the first date. .
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/18 03:17 AM
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Allow yourself to feel all of your feelings. Sex for women is a bonding experience and you’ve broken that bond by terminating the relationship. Endings are always a little sad.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/18 03:11 AM
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So a funny story. Our entire marriage my husband BEGGED me to make this one particular cake, but I never would because his mother traumatized me with how difficult it was. So after 9 years of marriage I finally made it. My husband was so very very appreciative! It was sweet and a very rewarding experience. So if you’re interested in a crazy labor intensive cake I recommend the Paul Prudhomme Pecan Spice Cake!
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/18 03:08 AM
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I find no issue with socializing at bars.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/18 03:05 AM
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I’m a total light weight! After 2 glasses of wine I’m tipsy. I would have no shame in turning down shots. I love to be social with our friend groups, but for reasons you mentioned above and to maintain a feminine disposition, I keep my alcohol consumption in check.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/18 03:04 AM
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You need to call a doctor. And really think about birth control. That’s a whole lotta hormones.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 03:45 AM
2

Yay! Thanks for the update
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 09:15 PM
2

My Captain took me to a sports bar on our second date to watch a game. I had told him I loved football and he challenged me to “prove it”. And boy did I ;) When vetting the commitment level and end goals of a man it’s important to evaluate your long term compatibility. If you tend to be more of a homebody and prefer intimate gatherings at home to a lively social scene, then that’s fine. But if you and your mate prefer to be in exciting environments, then dates to a bar are perfectly acceptable. …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 07:24 PM
2

If your house is a mess I recommend FlyLady to get yourself on track. I use her app. There are checklist for Morning/Afternoon/Evening a daily declutter/cleaning challenge and a weekly cleaning checklist. This will teach you how to run your house on a regular basis and help you unwind everything without getting overwhelmed. If you get in a cleaning mood, but don’t really know what to do. I like the app “Unfilth Your Habitat”. You can choose a room and a time and it will give you a job to do with…
/r/RedPillWives20/01/18 08:36 PM
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Has this relationship run its course? Yes. Take whatever good you’ve had and move on. As PP have said, change “Captain” to “Leader”. A leader might want to sign off on major things but they don’t control every aspect of execution. A leader delegates and follows up. A leader is trustworthy, appears confident, and fulfills obligations. From your post, you’ve experienced this before and know that what you have isn’t it. Moving forward, there are a couple ways you can handle this. You could talk to …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/18 08:23 PM
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That’s weird and screams low value. Are you sure you’re in the right sub?
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 08:12 PM
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Kick him out and move on. No job for 4 years? This dude is a loser. And no sex for a year? He’s either dysfunctional, addicted to porn, or getting it somewhere else. You deserve better. Get out now. A good friend once told me that all relationships teach you something to prepare you for your future husband. Take whatever you’ve learned from him and use it on a relationship that’s actually mutually beneficial. Get out now.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 01:23 AM
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It would only look like that if you’re riding the CC
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 02:33 AM
1

No problem with being a housewife as long as you keep up your looks and prove to be a high value spouse.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 01:38 AM
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What is your gut telling you? Do you feel like he’s just stringing you along? Trust your intuition. Don’t let your hamster convince you to stay in a dead end relationship
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 01:36 AM
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I agree here. My oldest daughter just did Invisalign for a gap. It actually created another issue where her canine tooth went back up into the gum line. Once she finished the Invisalign set she had to get traditional braces to correct the other issue. Speak with a good orthodontist. (Not one from a chain like Apple) and go from there. If it’s affecting your smile confidence, it’s worth researching.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 01:31 AM
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Never refuse a gift. That hurts his manly pride. If he wants to pay, let him
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 01:28 AM
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Read Codependent No More. You weren’t Captain/First Mate, he was Beta Drug Abuser and you were Codependent Clinger. After Codependent No More, if you are still struggling, please seek therapy. Workout, improve yourself, be social.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 01:24 AM
3

In general DH and I are both against body modifications of any kind.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 01:20 AM
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f Right now with all the trauma, you need to focus on healing your heart and self improvement. Re:workouts, if you weren’t doing something difficult you aren’t going to fully see the benefits. Mindless cardio isn’t helpful for endorphin release. I would find a new therapist or counselor. By 2 months you should see some of the fog lifting. Perhaps this particular practitioner isn’t a good fit for you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 01:20 AM
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On going communication and flirting needs to begin immediately. Text flirtatiously through the day. Phone conversations/FaceTime/Skype in the evenings. Make connecting a priority. With that being said. Plan several face to face weekend visits as soon as possible. Go see him, him come see you. Fix your attitude. Think positively. Smile. Don’t nag or complain. Make sure you are taking care of yourself. Workout, dress feminine, stay neat and organized, connect with your friends.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 01:15 AM
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During your come to Jesus meeting stress to him that you know he is capable. Empower and pressure at the same time.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 09:16 PM
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No I agree, but he needs to be bearing the full weight of his insufficiency. Is he managing the finances? Paying the bills? Doing yard work? Car repairs? Fixing stuff around the house? Lifting weights? All those things can help, but providing is #1. If he’s not doing that, he’s a failure.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 08:45 PM
2

I don’t sew... have you checked amazon?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 08:41 PM
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Why are you moving in with him? Do you want to get married? If so, have you set a timeline on when that will happen? If you want marriage then you need to make that clear before moving in and have a very clear agreed upon timeline. And stick to it. Don’t waste your youth on someone not committed for the sake of “saving money”
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 06:23 PM
2

I think your intended career path is perfect for a potential red pill marriage. It’s very nurturing and will tap into your feminine side and not require you to constantly flip back and forth between masculine and feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 05:59 PM
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I’m not telling you to get a divorce, but in Fascinating Womanhood she advises a woman to kick her husband out if he doesn’t have a job. You need to do something drastic to inspire him to provide and lead. Every day that he cooks, cleans and fetches tea for you is another drop in his masculinity. But do not have another passive conversation with him where he gets off by saying “don’t worry...one day”. Be feminine. Be firm.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 05:54 PM
5

Out to eat I would do a nicely wrapped dessert or muffins. If they are cooking, then a bottle of wine.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 05:46 PM
1

I’ve always approached RP theory in regards to SMV as to looking/being the best at what you have. Sure, you’ve got narrow hips and a big nose, but do you have a tight a**? Do you know how to do your makeup to minimize your nose and play up your eyes? Do you workout? Do you dress your body type in flattering clothes? Plastic surgery is not the answer. And research shows that many of those who get plastic surgery have deeper issues psychologically. So, like they say to the men, read the side bar (…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 10:23 PM
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In this case probably a combination of codependency, abuse, and cultural expectations. And maybe Money.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 10:02 PM
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I didn’t watch the video, but from personal experience I feel that I fared far better through some trying circumstances in my 20s, than did some of my peers. Some of my peers performed way better. And even though I had periods where my personal growth stalled significantly, I’ve also had periods where I grew and matured at a rapid pace. You know the saying, don’t compare someone’s highlight reel to your cutting room floor? Sounds like you’re doing the reverse. It’s not very attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 09:59 PM
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Be honest with her about her suspicions with this guy. Ask what his commitment level is directly. Encourage her to go out and be social. Heck, I’d even recommend she read “Mindful Attraction Plan”. She’ll figure out really quickly that what she has is fake and she can do better.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 09:55 PM
1

Haha. Oooookay
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 08:07 PM
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You’re joking, right? That girl rides like CC like it’s her job!
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/18 01:24 AM
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Target has amazing jewelry. I recommend going in and browsing a few times to find out what you’re attracted too. For earrings, the style depends on how I wear my hair. If it’s down I wear studs. Up, I’ll do something with a bit of a dangle. For necklaces: if my chest is bare I do something delicate, but if my top covers my neckline I go for more of a statement necklace. I’m not really a bracelet girl and I only wear my wedding ring.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 07:57 PM
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Athol Kay has a blog post on breast augmentations. I agree with him, don’t do it. Books: Fascinating Womanhood, For Women Only, and The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands are my favorite for married ladies. The only book I can recommend for single women is Get Serious About Getting Married.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 03:25 AM
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I workout 5 days a week I consume a ketogenic diet I have an established Asian style skincare routine morning and night I shave armpits and legs daily, nether region gets tidied weekly-ish Either Friday or Saturday evening is my self care night. I take a moisturizing Bath, use a sheet or mud mask on my face and paint my nails. I was my hair twice a week and freshen it every morning.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 03:21 AM
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Sister, I’ve lost 60 lbs and have a smoking hot body. You’ve already proven that you can commit to healthy eating and exercise. Once you tackle this, you can go back to other things. I have a friend of a friend battling this disease and it’s no joke. The surgery didn’t work, so now they are doing radiation. Focus on your health first, the rest will work itself out.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 03:17 AM
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If he’s ghosting you then it’s time to move on. I’m sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 03:13 AM
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This all depends on the individual body. I don’t metabolize progesterone so “waking early to meditate” wouldn’t be helpful for me nor solve my problem and make everything sunshine and roses again. Understanding your hormones and cycles, is however helpful for knowing what is actually going on with your body and knowing when you just need to step away.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 07:48 PM
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A few ideas: 1. Do whatever he requests to support his efforts to find a new job/career 2. Meet him at the gym after work. You don’t have to workout together, but I can see it being helpful for him to have accountability to keep himself healthy when he hates his job. 3. When he gets home, give him time to decompress after work. Greet him with a smile and a kiss and then let him be for about 20 minutes. 4. Wait for him to eat, and unless he requests, don’t eat in front of the TV. Meals are for re…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 07:43 PM
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I have a Facebook group for political discussion within a very specific niche of my friend group. I don’t discuss politics in mixed company and default to my husband when unsure about topics and positions I should take.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 02:04 AM
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Amazon lingerie is CHEAP! I also really like Target for sleepwear as well.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 11:29 PM
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Good for you!
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 11:26 PM
4

Judging other women and caring for an ailing spouse are two different topics. In my experience, women are very judgmental, and should be, as a matter of self protection. You are who you associate with. On the other hand, I disagree with the assumption that their friend is less of a friend because she is caring for a spouse. I have an idea though that perhaps this friend is flakey in general and your grandmother’s friend group doesn’t like her all that much to begin with. She’s become a BEC
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 02:26 AM
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I take a tough love approach to weight loss advice. There are so many out there that will find any excuse in the world not to just take care of business and approach weight loss as an optional vanity issue instead of a necessary medical issue.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/17 11:35 PM
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No one can help you lose weight. You have to do it on your own.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/17 11:30 PM
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Yay! So happy to see this
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/17 11:02 PM
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You seem to be making a lot of excuses. You’ll never lose weight and be serious if you don’t reconcile how serious of an issue this really is. I’m willing to bet you’ve crossed over from “overweight” to “obese”. Stop pretending you aren’t at a very unhealthy state and get serious about getting healthy. For yourself, not just your husband. Theres a million diets out there. Find the one that looks the least constrictive in YOUR opinion. For me it was Keto, for my sister it’s Weight Watchers. Then …
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/17 10:56 PM
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Men aren’t friends with women they aren’t interested in sleeping with. Your boyfriend is keeping this girl on the back burner in case things with y’all don’t work out. If you’re cool with that, then by all means to each their own. It wouldn’t however be okay with me and I assume it’s not with you or you wouldn’t be posting here. At this point, it’s time to break up and move on. He has little respect for you or your boundaries.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/17 10:36 PM
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I knew just reading your title and then just half of your post confirmed it. Time to next this guy and move on. He’s telling you over and over to dump him
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/17 04:41 AM
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Any book recommendations for raising sons to be strong, alpha men, and raising teen daughters? Not for the children, but specifically geared toward parenting.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 02:59 AM
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Agree completely. FR example: this past week my husband was gone on a trip. For his homecoming I told him I would make him anything he wanted (he has lots of favorites). He picked a meal that 2:4 kids absolutely hate. I made it anyway and the others had leftovers. This is my husband’s home. My children can have their own preferences that are catered to at times, but never over my husband’s wishes. This is also to say that putting your husband first doesn’t mean neglecting your children. If that’…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 02:55 AM
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Next him. No doubt about it. Questions to ask yourself. How long will this “what if” thought linger around for him? They’ve tried dating three times and it still hasn’t worked out and he can’t figure that out? If he’s still thinking about her, he isn’t committed to you, are you okay with being basically a plate until she comes around again?
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/17 12:18 AM
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If you plan on being a primary or significant income earner, then you need to follow the path that allows for the most income potential long term.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 07:26 PM
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This is his problem not yours. And a potentially very serious one at that. Jealousy is unbecoming. It’s a signal of insecurity and lack of trust.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 03:56 AM
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I would meet with an academic and/or career advisor to get their advice.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 03:52 AM
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Girls night out for me these days is typically dinner and a movie with a girlfriend or two. Once a year I take a trip with 100 of my closest online friends and several of us will go out to the piano bar, but that’s as close to a club or bar as I will go without my spouse.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/17 11:16 PM
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Being insecure and having a gut feeling about something are two different things. One comes from immaturity and another comes from strength. Did you give yourself long enough to heal from your toxic relationship before beginning a new one?
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/17 05:53 PM
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I felt this way once upon a time. I read some books and found a good counselor and I’m in a much better place now. It was all about me and my mindset. Maybe start with Codependent No More and then read The Surrendered Wife.
/r/RedPillWives28/11/17 10:30 PM
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It’s soooo easy to do. And feminine and friendly women are such a rare breed that some men are attracted to us like magnets. Keep yourself in check. You’ve got this.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 07:38 PM
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Being feminine and friendly is different than being flirtatious and it’s a very hard line. You e recognized that you’ve crossed that line. Now you just need to work to fix that. Keep your discussions with your coworker on topic and about work. Do not give compliments. Do not talk about your personal life at all. Do not exchange personal numbers, if you have block him immediately. Do not socialize outside of work. If you’ve already done these things, stop immediately. The best way to communicate …
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 07:29 PM
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Slight highjack of the thread. By saying you don’t want to get married, do you mean you don’t want a LTR? And out of curiosity, why don’t you want to have children? As a married, mother of 4 I’ve never understood NOT wanting to have children. Assuming you are looking for a LTR, just without the contractual obligations and ramifications of marriage, RP is about finding a quality partner and being a quality partner. I can’t for the life of me understand why it “wouldn’t be for you”. But perhaps th…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 12:36 AM
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A clean, distraction free home while he’s studying. My hubs likes to snack while he’s studying, so maybe pick up or make his favorite treats. For after the test, a celebration meal. “Congrats you’re done!”. Something classic, but slightly over the top.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 12:32 AM
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This is so tricky. I second staying at a hotel to remove the expectation for sex. Ask the plan for the weekend before you go. Make restaurant and outing plans so that you aren’t just hanging around the house (sex) Enjoy your time, get to know him. Let him talk about himself. Just continue to vet him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 12:30 AM
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I can only echo what others have said. I hate when divorce is the only advice given, but It’s over. Get an attorney. Start getting everything in order. Read CoDependant No More and probably get a better therapist. Hugs
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 09:58 PM
1

When I said “fishy” I meant not honest. All of the above is a possibility that ran through my mind.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 05:50 PM
5

Do you want to change that many things about your partner or are you just asking in general. If this is a checklist, I would move on.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 05:36 PM
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Problems: Hormonal changes Too much screen time Refusing sex when your partner asks. Solutions: Reduce stress. Meditation, exercise, vitamins and good nutrition. Put away the phone and laptop during couple time. If he asks. Oblige. Willingly and enthusiastically. Initiate sex.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 05:34 PM
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Look up the female CEO of Pepsi. She took a lot of heat a few years back when she gave a speech and said women “can’t have it all”. The truth of the matter is, from a biological stand point you weren’t designed to do both. Switching from masculine to feminine is difficult over a period of time, much less going back and forth in a single day. When you give your all to your job to be successful, you’re lot left with much to give at home. That’s why us red pill wives take care of our husbands at ho…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 05:29 PM
2

And “weird roommate”. That sounds fishy too.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 05:13 PM
2

You’re right to feel uneasy. Driving to see him fulfills your end of the financial obligation, he should be paying for the AirBnb. Or at the very least going in half. Has he directly asked you to pay? Have you asked him to share the cost? Secondly, it’s time to ask for a commitment. If you keep this pattern much longer you’ll be a plate. I really recommend the book “Get Serious About Getting Married”.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 05:13 PM
1

I have a pretty extensive, but quick skin care routine for both morning and night. Each morning I put on a full face of makeup Foundation, powder, blush, light brown shades of eyeshadow, top liner, mascara, brows, and lip sense. My husband is home during the day about every other day so making it a daily routine was essential. I have a deeper palate for nights out. I use various Asian beauty brands for skin care, and mostly drug store brands for makeup, with the exception of my foundation which …
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 07:56 PM
2

Reading Codependent No More was the greatest help for me emotionally. I never wanted to be “the strong one” in the relationship, and I always thought it was my husband’s duty to be there for me emotionally. It wasn’t until I read that book that I realized how emotionally unhealthy I was. It’s not that I can’t share with him, or show him my emotions, it’s that you shouldn’t rely on him to share the burden of your emotions. Also, do some work on your physical health too. Make sure you are getting …
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 06:10 PM
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We have an amazing policy in our marriage. “Follow the bloodline”. I deal with my family. He deals with his. I obviously talk things over with my husband on how to handle situations and he asks for my input with his, but otherwise the partner stays out.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 03:48 AM
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engagement is for planning weddings. If he hasn’t put the ring on her finger he hasn’t committed to marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 07:06 PM
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Waiting around another 1-2 years for an engagement is not in your best interest. If you’ve been together a year and a half and he hasn’t proposed yet I would have serious doubts about the future of your relationship. Are y’all living together?
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 03:50 AM
1

I highly recommend the book “Get Serious About Getting Married “ She really helps layout navigating the dating phase when you are looking for long term commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 09:24 PM
2

Have you read “Get Serious About Getting Married”? It has some ideas in that book too.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 09:22 PM
2

Cooking and baking is my go to way to spoil my husband. When we were dating I would pick him up candies from the store, bring in his mail for him, or take home cooked meals to him at work.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 09:21 PM
1

I’m only referencing his post, not his comments
/r/RedPillWives16/11/17 05:03 AM
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He literally asked what she should do, not would he should do. Are we reading the same post?
/r/RedPillWives16/11/17 04:13 AM
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What part of him posting here was working on himself? And no.
/r/RedPillWives16/11/17 02:24 AM
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In my experience RPW need to be the opposite of insecure at all times. We assert our opinions when asked and then leave it be and be secure in our relationship to let our husband make the final decision. I think being insecure is actually one of the biggest red pill myths from the outside looking in. But to speak to your middle paragraph. Sister, I have been there. You really need to heal this area to be able to not only be a good wife, but just to be content with yourself. I really recommend yo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 10:46 PM
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If she didn’t like the advice, then why are you here?
/r/RedPillWives15/11/17 10:25 PM
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This post in and of itself is so beta. You came here to try to manipulate a bunch of internet strangers into convincing your girlfriend to stay with you. My advice, go spend some time on TRP/MRP and leave her and us alone.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/17 10:24 PM
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Start small and slow. As far as teaching I use the gradual release model. Watch me With me I watch you Then finally the check (they do it independently then you check to make sure it’s done. Once you’ve made it through those steps, inspect what you expect. If they aren’t doing their job then go backwards through the teaching steps
/r/RedPillWives15/11/17 10:18 PM
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STFU is deeper than just not saying anything. Sure you can literally keep your mouth shut and stew on it in your mind and just become resentful and bitter. To truly STFU you change your mindset. Whatever it is that just annoyed you or ticked you off doesn’t matter. Don’t say anything and let it go. Ways that I’m training myself to do this: -name something i appreciate about my spouse. Sure it’s annoying that he didn’t put his dishes in the sink, but jeez I sure appreciate that he worked hard tod…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 09:01 PM
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Yesterday someone posted a recommendation to check out the Kibbe Body Type style assessment. It’s my new obsession. The suggestions it made on how to dress my body type were spot on with the articles of clothing I own that make me feel my best. I define my style (or ideal style) as classy, sexy, feminine. I look best in jewel tones paired with neutrals. And because I’m from Texas I like a little something extra. Big hair/sparkly jewelry. Just to keep it fun.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 09:53 PM
1

Thanks for the Kibbe rec! Its now my new obsession.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 02:54 PM
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There are levels to everything, obviously. You can be provocative in jeans and a nice shirt and provocative in sweats and a tank top. A good example of this is the Kardashian/Jenner sisters. You can be sexy and sophisticated as well. The aforementioned example of the Trump Women is a good example here. I don’t think OP was referencing hyper-modesty (fundamentalist Mormon for example) when she referenced conservative dress, but looking frumpy is quite easy when dressing conservatively.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 08:42 PM
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Married 9 years. I think it’s important to dress appropriately for the occasion. If you’re in church covered obviously. “Provocative” is silly. Don’t dress like a sex worker, dress like a woman. Flaunt your curves and assets. I think this can be done tastefully or tacky, it’s all in the presentation. If you’re more modest and prefer to be more covered/conservative then you’re going to have to work harder at looking feminine and not boxy and frumpy.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 05:54 PM
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Codependent No More Get Serious About Getting Married. A counselor to process my childhood has been invaluable.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 04:54 PM
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I read recently a research study that said men who have a gaming addiction do so as a result as being unhappy in other areas of their life. Along the lines of “you can’t change anyone but yourself”, would you consider forgoing watching TV shows to simply be present with your boyfriend. If he doesn’t want to watch TV with you, why don’t you just sit beside him while he’s gaming. Your presence will mean so much to him. Also, intercourse is not the only way to engage in sexual relations. I’m pretty…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 04:13 PM
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This is a huge issue for me. Someone recently directed me to look at what apps were using the most battery on my phone. When I saw how much time I was spending on Facebook (enough to be a part time job) I was so ashamed. I don’t think I will ever remove social media from my life, but I have set limits regarding my usage and times I’m on my phone. Like you, I don’t want to be remembered by my children as having my face in my phone.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 04:09 PM
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I come here for information and accountability. Although I’ve always had/wanted a “traditional” marriage, my husband and I both are very new to TRP philosophy. Honestly, I’ve had a hard time finding resources on female “frame”. I recognize that mindset is such a powerful force. There are a million and one blogs/websites on homemaking and outer beauty, but it’s a info dessert when looking for articles on not being a codependent clinger. Men’s RP articles seem to focus on that but it lacks for wom…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 04:05 PM
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My favorite place to get gifts for people I don’t know well is Cost Plus World Market (Official name, I just call it World Market). They have great unique items. If you want to go the edibles route, huge selection of global candies, spices, and treats. For my husband’s birthday I got him a variety of unique steak seasonings. They also have jewelry at a great price and candles as well. Don’t worry about spending too much/too little; think of it as a hostess gift. But DO make sure it’s beautifully…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 03:57 PM
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Have you tried using emeals for your foodie husband? They have a bunch of different menus and their recipes are easy to follow and come together pretty quickly.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/17 02:35 AM
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I really recommend you read “Get Serious About Getting Married”. You need to next this guy and start looking for a husband. At 34 and not even in a committed relationship you are in a bad spot.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/17 10:16 PM
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Great question! For Women Only is so good and a quick read.
/r/RedPillWives04/11/17 09:50 PM
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You’re not a good catch right now. Until you’re in a healthy spot, the wall means nothing.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 02:39 AM
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I tend to fall off the homemaker wagon Nov-Dec so making goals to stay on track. -Complete my morning and evening chore routines daily. -Have fun on our couples vacation! - Lose vacation weight plus 3 lbs. -play tennis 2x/week -Decorate for Christmas a little at a time. Finish by Nov. 30th
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 12:47 AM
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I’d ignore it. Try to meditate it away by thinking of times he has complimented your body or appearance. Good luck losing the last 20 lbs!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 12:29 AM
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It isn’t fraud to sign your spouses checks in most cases. Especially since you are depositing them to a joint account. So that one is a non issue. Secondly, he’s delegated a task to you. That’s leadership. It is now your responsibility to complete the task. That’s submission. Do you feel as if you shouldn’t handle any finances? Do you spend the money? Third, by NOT depositing the check and leaving it laying around you are being passive aggressive and allowing discontentment to brew inside your h…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 12:22 AM
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No. Stop. You broke up. It’s over. He’s not the one. You can’t recover. It will NEVER work. You are afraid of being alone. I’m also going to guess that you had a crappy childhood in one way or another. You need to go into nun mode and do some very serious work on yourself by yourself. Lots of reading. Start with “Codependent No More”. Maybe even find a 12 Step program for whatever issues you have going on (if you’re religious Celebrate Recovery is good). I would also recommend a counselor. Next,…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 12:14 AM
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If it’s working for both you AND your husband there’s no need to change.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/17 11:41 PM
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I’m going to go out on a limb and recommend you see a professional counselor on this. Eating disorder recovery is a lifelong process. In addition to that, daily positive affirmations are really helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/17 11:38 PM
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A RPWoman is very independent, strong and ambitious. But it just looks different from what feminist have told you it’s supposed to look like. I’m a homemaker. You CANNOT be lazy (laid back) and unmotivated to be successful at creating a peaceful, loving home. You must be efficient, task oriented, and self motivated. There’s no boss around the corner keeping me on my toes, unless you count my husband who would be disappointed to come home after working his butt off all day to find I’m not pulling…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/17 05:06 PM
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Age isn’t anything but a number. But I have a feeling you’re just a side piece or you wouldn’t be asking. You have doubts. Trust your gut.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/17 05:01 PM
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The OP of the viral Facebook post was talking about her literal husband.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/17 09:26 PM
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Right off the bat, talking down to “young people” is so annoying. I actually didn’t read the whole thing, posted here, or when I saw it on Facebook. But I will say, occasionally needing a “knight in shining armor” is Red Pill.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/17 07:08 PM
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Unsolicited advice: do it even if you don’t. You deserve to look your best no matter what the scale says at the moment.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/17 07:03 PM
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It’s baffling to me that you think you can insult your husband and somehow he is the one in the wrong in your mind. Not only did you insult him by saying he couldn’t provide for your wants financially, you then said he couldn’t provide for your wants with his skills. Then you continued on and on. I agree with pp; you need to read For Women Only tonight. Then go bake him a pie. And say nothing negative to him at all going forward.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/17 02:15 AM
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Your relationship has come to an end. It’s time to break up and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/17 09:15 PM
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Step 1: Read Codependent No More Step 2: Break up with him
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/17 09:13 PM
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Find a diet that you can stick to. For me it was the Ketogenic diet. I needed to be able to eat cheese. I’m 20 lbs smaller than I was on my wedding day, my skin is clear, and my stomach is flat. Other people love eating lots of fruit. Find a plan that works for your food preferences. This is truly secondary, but exercise, so you have a tight, toned body and you aren’t skinny/fat. I like the Kayla Itsines Bikini Body Guide, but there are so many different workouts. Try them all until you find som…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 01:47 PM
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Having your own hobbies is so important. My husband suggested Tennis to me about 2 years ago. I’ve been playing for about a year, and started competing a few months ago. I’ve never been sporty, I’m a girly girl. Tennis is a fun balance. Sporty, yet I look adorable in my cute outfits!
/r/RedPillWives26/10/17 08:08 PM
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You need to be direct. “Your son needs to be picked up by 6 pm. I cannot be there by 6 pm. Please make sure you are on time “ Done.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 08:01 PM
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Stimulants (ADHD medicines don’t have sexual side effects)
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 07:10 PM
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You didn’t shut him out. You listened to his opinion and made a decision in the best interest of your health. Clear difference.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 02:03 AM
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Stand up for yourself. Red pilled women are not doormats. If you need medication for a medical condition,then take care of yourself and take your medication. Would you let him deny you insulin if you were a diabetic? His inability to understand your medical needs is not your problem. Are you meeting all of his needs? Especially his need for intimacy (sex)? When men are unfulfilled they often feel unsettled and insecure. If you aren’t already, try meeting his sexual needs and see if this issue go…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 01:22 AM
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Stop micromanaging the budget. Give that job over to him. Tell him what your financial needs are (how much you need for groceries, your gym payment, etc) and then ask him to handle the rest. Start FlyLady routines. Get your chores and tasks done through the day. Make lunches while you’re making dinner. Put your dishes into the dishwasher as you go. Put your kids to bed earlier. If they’re getting up at 6:30, put them down at 7. Our bedtime routine takes about an hour. You can’t change anyone but…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 10:57 PM
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You’re right to an extent. But she didn’t help.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 12:19 PM
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Read Fascinating Womanhood. Follow her assignments. You must repair the dignity that you ripped away from your husband.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 01:50 AM
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There is always something, even if you rent. Buy a piece of furniture for him to put together, ask him to help you reach something on a tall shelf, move furniture around. There’s always something.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 01:49 AM
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A few thoughts/recommendations. I’m new around here, so forgive me if I step on any toes. You’ve already established you need to work on yourself. First step would be to read Codependent No More. You noted that you are very insecure, men can sense codependency right off the bat. It’s a quick read and gives very tangible advice. Simply reading and identifying my behaviors was life changing. Second, I would read the book Get Serious About Getting Married. Incredible Red Pill advice about attractin…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 01:42 AM
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In regards to social media, why don’t you take action instead of expecting that from him. Take a selfie, post it on social media, label him your boyfriend and tag him in the post. It’s not passive aggressive, it’s taking action. If you are have had the exclusivity y’all, the label doesn’t matter.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 01:30 AM
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Side note: I love Modern Family! I wish Phil was more Alpha
/r/RedPillWives25/10/17 01:19 AM
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What a great article. My mission this week is letting go of my expectation of perfection. It was holding me back from action. The thought of not doing something perfectly was putting me into a mindset of not doing anything at all. This week my goal has been to just get it done, and worry about fixing “mistakes” later.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/17 11:37 PM
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I get dressed every day as a SAHM. This past year I’ve been following the seasonal Get Your Pretty On wardrobe challenges. She gives you shopping lists and outfit combinations. That’s helped with dressing. I’m working on being sexier (more form fitting) so next challenge I might get more creative about where I shop. I do my makeup almost every day. It’s a full face, but very natural look. I leave clothes on from 7am-8pm. My kids usually have evening activities. Then I change into loose pajama pa…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/17 07:16 PM
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As a beginner I highly recommend FlyLady website and app. She has routines that keep you motivated and on track. On her app the routines are in checklist form so you can go step by step. I LOVE talking about Homemaking. I was raised in a home where that wasn’t taught so I’ve grown from scratch.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 10:50 PM
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You can’t change him you can only change yourself. If you want to lower your standards to allow this behavior to now be acceptable, you can stay with him and look forward to many more incidents.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 08:16 PM
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I’m short and petite too! I buy my jeans in the little girls department. Which is funny because I’m also really curvy. I’ve always wanted to learn to sew, but never followed through
/r/RedPillWives22/10/17 02:59 AM
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Why has no one mentioned any Disney characters? Mickey and Minnie and totally red pill
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 12:13 AM
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That truth meme could not be more accurate. Stop dressing for other women. Dress for yourself, dress for your man.
/r/RedPillWives21/10/17 05:21 PM
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What a great article. I've been struggling recently with my inner brat. Specifically the idea of "if he doesn't strive to make me happy, I'm not going to do anything extra for him". I'm not feeling appreciated recently. The answer to this isn't withholding though. There's got to be another way. Thanks for sharing.
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 09:53 PM
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You can edit them actually. I haven't but the feature does exist
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 08:03 PM
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First comment here... I have used the FlyLady system off and on for about 7 years. About 6 months ago I downloaded the app. There's a checklist of her routines (morning, afternoon, before bed and weekly cleaning). I swear by it now. It keeps the clutter part of my house under control and makes my life so much easier. This is especially true in the mornings when my brain isn't quite working and I just look at my phone for the next step to stay on track.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 07:27 PM
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