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Stevpie/r/seduction04/03/18 07:51 PM
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Stevpie/r/seduction17/10/17 06:52 PM
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1

Yes.
/r/seduction30/01/22 12:42 AM
2

Send a funny meme reminding you of her.. Once she replies, start a new convo and ask her out again. If she's still being flakey than move on.
/r/seduction12/12/21 07:53 PM
0

Yes.
/r/seduction24/11/21 02:39 AM
7

Try meetup.com
/r/seduction09/09/21 12:01 AM
3

I'm not expert but I had a pull from night game that took about an hour. Closed in the car.
/r/seduction20/08/21 07:52 PM
1

It depends. It's worked for me in the past but it's also left me on read with others.
/r/seduction09/08/21 04:44 PM
2

Reply to her story and take it from there.
/r/seduction06/07/21 01:06 AM
2

Why do you care if you're not attracted to her?
/r/seduction02/07/21 10:36 PM
2

Suggest a time and place and If she's not complying, move on.
/r/seduction27/03/21 02:05 PM
1

There really is no opening line. I just take notice about something on there profile and DM them about it. Tbh, it rarely works but sometimes you get lucky.
/r/seduction13/10/20 01:50 AM
1

DM from social media or online dating? But yes to both.
/r/seduction13/10/20 01:14 AM
2

She really couldn't be any more clearer in her response. She politely told you that she's not interested. I appreciate girls like that cause most girls will you lead you on only to flake later on.
/r/seduction29/07/20 03:30 AM
2

She wasn't interested. Move on.
/r/seduction29/07/20 03:26 AM
5

Honestly, it depends if there still sexually available from when you first met them. I've hit it off with girls who I met a couple months prior. Just gotta take the plunge and hit them up.
/r/seduction22/04/20 01:12 AM
0

Leave it at that. Go out and talk to other girls and hobbie. Hit her up again next week and if she's still acting fuzzy, drop her..
/r/seduction18/01/20 02:01 AM
1

Light banter is fine between now and than but definitely don't over do it. I usually send like a funny meme that reminds me of her.
/r/seduction02/01/20 12:30 AM
1

Make your intentions be known by asking her out. Than you'll have your answer.
/r/seduction01/01/20 10:43 PM
6

Finish my degree. (I'm 5 classes away from finishing.) Continue working out. Travel Go out more constantly. I've made a bad habit this year of being really lazy on putting myself out there. That's going to change.
/r/seduction26/12/19 05:19 AM
1

Tony Stark
/r/seduction13/12/19 12:26 AM
1

Sounds like a good idea honestly.
/r/seduction30/11/19 01:01 AM
2

Bravo sir!
/r/seduction05/11/19 03:03 AM
1

Wow that was way better than I was expecting. Great video.
/r/seduction03/11/19 02:26 PM
1

This is gonna be really condensed but: Once I get the #, I text them letting them know that it's me and enjoyed the little conversation we had. Once we exchange a few banters, I ask if they wanna grab a drink. Once I get confirmation, setup date and time. Go on date, flirt, escalate and go for the pull.
/r/seduction01/08/19 07:39 PM
2

Me personally, I prefer to buy drinks for a girl only after I've built repor with her and I'm enjoying her company. Buying her a drink before I'm able to build comfort has backfired me spectacularly in the past. But if this strategy works for you, more power to you!
/r/seduction22/06/19 01:11 PM
1

Lol. This guy has been doing this for the past two years.
/r/seduction17/06/19 03:39 AM
6

I always give the girl the benefit of the doubt the first time. In that situation, it looks legit. So I would definitely ask her out again but not so soon. Ask her how she's doing in regards to her car accident and than give it a few days.
/r/seduction15/06/19 05:40 PM
2

It doesn't really matter what you decide to do. But what's important is that whatever you decide to do, make sure she's having a good time and enjoying your company.
/r/seduction15/06/19 04:50 PM
1

Invite her out to some sort of activity where it's just the two of you. Flirt and escalate while on the date and go for the pull.
/r/seduction15/06/19 04:25 PM
3

Yes. I go out Solo now more than I do with a wing. It's scary as fuck in the beginning but once you push thru some sets, you'll be fine.
/r/seduction06/04/19 04:13 AM
3

Fuck a wingmen. Go out Solo.
/r/seduction06/04/19 04:04 AM
1

Tell her that you're gonna be @ [name of place] and if she's not doing anything, to join you. It doesn't put pressure on it being a "date" because you're giving off frame that you're gonna be there regardless if she comes or not.
/r/seduction06/04/19 12:47 AM
1

Just text her and ask if she's gonna be free Saturday.
/r/seduction06/04/19 12:44 AM
1

Again, it's hard to say without a breakdown but if a girl decides to friend zone after the date, than you most likely weren't sexual or assertive enough. So whatever you're doing, STOP & try some other things.
/r/seduction05/03/19 03:43 AM
2

Hard to answer this question without a breakdown. But it seems like you maybe playing it too safe and boring when should be having fun and being flirtatious.
/r/seduction05/03/19 03:34 AM
2

I think it's okay if he DM's her but in a laid back way. Maybe something Like, "Hey don't you go to [insert school]? Or "Do you go to [insert school] because you look like I've seen you around before" or something along those lines And than go from there.
/r/seduction05/03/19 03:28 AM
1

Have fun and focus on the process.
/r/seduction04/03/19 06:51 AM
1

She asked you to reschedule? Well than ASK her what day works best for her and go from there.
/r/seduction03/03/19 02:43 AM
1

Make your intent with woman more direct. Talk with a masculine voice. Make sure you're walking/standing with an alpha male body posture. Gently touch woman more with hugs, high fives, etc. Those are my tips.
/r/seduction13/11/18 12:52 AM
1

Agreed. Plus if you attempt to go for the pull and it still doesn't work out, it makes it way it easier to pull on the second date.
/r/seduction10/11/18 05:33 PM
1

The fact that she agreed to meet up with you one on one already indicates some level of interest is there. So you can relax. You should be focusing on having a good time and getting to know her. Also, try adding an activity to the date to make it more fun. Like bowling, darts, pool table, etc.
/r/seduction10/11/18 05:31 PM
3

Stop having dragged out conversations over Tinder and suggest a possible meetup.
/r/seduction21/10/18 04:27 PM
2

Watch a movie.
/r/seduction19/10/18 11:00 AM
1

Invite her over next time you're with her.
/r/seduction18/10/18 03:16 AM
1

Would you be willing to lose her as a friend? Because what I'm about to suggest to you is to ask her out. Just the two of you. But if she says no, there is a strong possibility that you may lose her as a friend.
/r/seduction15/10/18 03:28 AM
1

You can try. But be prepared to be left on read on a majority of them.I remember a good friend of mine whose a girl showed me her FB inbox and holy hell. She literally gets dozens of messages a day from guys. And she ignores all of them. My suggestion is to make sure you have really good photos, your shit is together job wise, like a couple of there pics to see if they like/follow back and send the DMs. Good luck.
/r/seduction15/10/18 12:40 AM
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Whenever I go out Solo, i find me a group of girls inside of the bar and introduce myself. Now, It's important to note that I wont be hitting on this group of girls. Rather, they become my home base. So when I'm feeling in my head or a bit stiff, i go back to the group of girls, make some light/funny talk, get back in state and than go back into the field.
/r/seduction14/10/18 12:55 AM
1

Need more details on the good first date and the texts your sending. But if she's being unresponsive, than move the fuck on.
/r/seduction13/10/18 12:48 AM
5

Move on.
/r/seduction12/10/18 08:26 PM
2

Hey whats up? My name is.. How you liking the class?
/r/seduction11/10/18 03:51 AM
5

Ask her to hangout.
/r/seduction10/10/18 09:45 PM
5

Yes. A girl who is interested in you will make it easier for her to see you.
/r/seduction10/10/18 08:34 PM
8

This guy is a troll. He's been making up this same topic and using the same pictures for years now.
/r/seduction10/10/18 02:50 PM
2

.. That's actually alot creepier. Just balls up and approach her. The more you wait, the more creepier it gets.
/r/seduction10/10/18 02:17 PM
1

It's going to be a little awkward in the beginning. But once you get past the first 10 seconds, it's smooth sailings. So just go up to her and introduce yourself. "Hey! My name is.."
/r/seduction10/10/18 01:11 PM
3

Give her the silent treatment until than.
/r/seduction10/10/18 01:07 PM
2

Give her the benefit of the doubt. So leave her alone this week while you go out and meet other chicks. When next week comes around, than hit her up again.
/r/seduction10/10/18 12:30 AM
0

She wants the D.
/r/seduction30/09/18 04:09 PM
1

Approach the girl but be mindful and introduce yourself to the group as well.
/r/seduction29/09/18 06:09 PM
2

Ask her. Thats literally the only way you'll know. (Unless you see she's holding hands with him and/or kissing him.)
/r/seduction14/09/18 07:11 PM
1

Building rapport over text is a horrible idea. When that happens, you become her text buddy and she wont feel feel any attraction towards you.
/r/seduction13/09/18 01:17 AM
1

Sure why not? Go for it.
/r/seduction12/09/18 11:00 PM
1

Leave her alone for a bit and Meet other girls in the meantime.
/r/seduction12/09/18 10:59 PM
3

Why are you building rapport over text? That's a mood killer. Next time you text her, ask her out.
/r/seduction12/09/18 10:58 PM
1

You shouldn't be dragging a conversation over text. Texting should be used as means to setup the actual dates. A few light banters here and there. But if youre using text as a substitution over connecting with her in person, BAD idea. Take it from me.
/r/seduction12/09/18 08:59 PM
0

Just message her saying 'Hey how's everything? Its been a minute'.
/r/seduction08/09/18 12:22 AM
1

Message her on SnapChat.
/r/seduction07/09/18 11:39 PM
1

I suck at clubs too. Which is why i focus on meeting woman in other places other than clubs.
/r/seduction02/09/18 10:31 PM
2

Just ask her what days will she be free this week. And than, plan accordingly.
/r/seduction31/08/18 02:51 AM
5

Yeah ask her for a drink.
/r/seduction28/08/18 08:34 PM
1

Just send a simple text like "Hey how's everything?" To get her to respond to you.
/r/seduction28/08/18 12:35 AM
3

Go out and meet more woman.
/r/seduction28/08/18 12:23 AM
1

Ok. My rule is, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt if she doesn't respond on the first text. Wait a few days and than reinitiate the convo. If still nothing, than move on.
/r/seduction28/08/18 12:22 AM
1

It really depends on a few things to answer this question. What was the last text message you sent to her? How good do you think the initial reaction was when you met her?
/r/seduction27/08/18 11:59 PM
3

How big is your school? You dont wanna be known as the guy on campus who just hits on chicks. My suggestion is to start a normal conversation with them by saying that youre new to the school, asking them what are they majoring in and how long they've been studying there. Once you've built up a repor, ask to hangout.
/r/seduction27/08/18 11:56 PM
1

Send them a funny picture/meme as an icebreaker.
/r/seduction26/08/18 07:15 PM
3

Give it a few days and than Reignite the conversation. If she still doesn't respond, move on.
/r/seduction26/08/18 05:46 PM
1

Let us know how it goes! Best of luck.
/r/seduction26/08/18 04:00 PM
3

Those are good. Also make sure your location is clean.
/r/seduction26/08/18 03:44 AM
1

Movie dates are bad idea anyway. Offer to do something else like a drink or activity.
/r/seduction26/08/18 03:44 AM
1

Direct approach. Just a simple "Hey! My name is.." Works for me. Work girls? Probably not. Especially cashiers where there's other people in line. I'd be more inclined to hit on worker if we're isolated from the work floor.
/r/seduction26/08/18 01:18 AM
1

Ask her when she plans on leaving to get an exact time frame of what youre working with. Than give it about 1-2 days of silent treatment to see if she hits you up on a potential day. If she doesn't, text her again and suggest a day and go from there.
/r/seduction26/08/18 12:12 AM
4

So.. Youre actively dating Girl A and than Girl A tells you that Girl B (which is a friend of Girl A) has a crush on you? Um, does Girl B know that you and Girl A are dating?
/r/seduction23/08/18 01:54 AM
3

Do you want to live the rest of your life wondering what if? No? Than man up and approach. Its okay to feel fear. We all do. Even the experts. But they don't let the fear stop them from going after what they want. This is gonna sound a bit harsh but stop being a little bitch and approach. Feel the fear and do it anyway.
/r/seduction22/08/18 11:20 PM
2

Yes. Be a Man and go for what you want. Tell her straight up that while you did enjoy spending time with her and her friends, you'd rather spend time with her alone and get to know her a bit more. If she's not down, than next her.
/r/seduction22/08/18 11:17 PM
3

This is a very broad subject so you might wanna do some independent research. But basic things thats helped me to Love Myself: Making peace with your past decisions. Having personal and career goals and working on them to improve your life. Grooming your self image. (Nice clothes, haircuts that suits you, working out, having a social life, etc)
/r/seduction18/08/18 09:57 PM
1

This is why you dont have success with women.
/r/seduction18/08/18 09:39 PM
0

I love you too bro.
/r/seduction18/08/18 09:12 PM
3

Love yourself 100%.
/r/seduction18/08/18 09:12 PM
1

Why are you asking me if you should reply? You wanna go out with this girl Right? So just be like "Great! Next Friday, lets go to this cool spot (name) @ (time). Sounds good?"
/r/seduction17/08/18 10:46 PM
1

Just ask her when she's free and than suggest the possible meetup.
/r/seduction16/08/18 12:49 AM
1

Reply to her comment with a snarky remark that warrants a message back. Wait for her to reply and than ask if she has any plans tonight. If she doesn't, than suggest you two go to so and so together. Let me know how it goes!
/r/seduction15/08/18 10:53 PM
2

That all really depends on your skill level. If youre just starting out, it would be of good benefit too you that you go out alot for reference experience and sticking points. If youre intermediate like me, a couple days a week is ideal. But I work alot. So unfortunately, I'm usually free late in the evenings and weekends.
/r/seduction15/08/18 10:50 PM
0

Disagree with the statements in here. Ive always told girls on dates that I like and enjoy there company and would want to see more of them. Youre being sincere with yourself and towards her.
/r/seduction15/08/18 09:03 PM
3

Its a logical objection. Just ask her out and go from there.
/r/seduction13/08/18 03:39 AM
1

Dont forget to update us on how it went!
/r/seduction03/08/18 04:22 AM
1

Yes. You might have to fake it til you make it at first. For example with inner confidence, that's a muscle that youre definitely gonna have to work over long extended periods of time to get where you want it to be. Which means getting out your comfort zone and getting rejected like hell. In the beginning, your mental voice will stop you from approaching ALOT. So it's gonna be extremely important that in this stage, youre ignoring it and approaching/ escalating until that voice goes away. Now wi…
/r/seduction12/07/18 12:58 AM
2

Both. They go in hand in hand. It'd be like a basketball player learning how to dribble but not knowing how to shoot. So develop both.
/r/seduction12/07/18 12:45 AM
1

Self confidence comes from within. Confidence comes from without.
/r/seduction11/07/18 11:20 PM
1

Good shit bro 👍
/r/seduction11/07/18 04:44 PM
6

Classic mistake of killing the intrigue via text messaging. Youre doing too much over text. Setup an exact date/time/location and leave it that until you get back.
/r/seduction10/07/18 10:43 PM
1

Its not weird at all. In fact, i wish i knew what i know when i was 17. The earlier you start, the better.
/r/seduction10/07/18 06:04 AM
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Let us know how the date went!
/r/seduction05/07/18 11:53 PM
1

Go direct.
/r/seduction23/06/18 09:39 PM
1

Approach more girls.
/r/seduction19/06/18 04:16 AM
2

There really is any smooth way to do it over Instagram. You just simply have to man up and ask her if she'd be down to get a drink this weekend.
/r/seduction18/06/18 06:40 PM
1

Just shoot her a text asking her you'd like to see her again. Suggest a time and place.
/r/seduction15/06/18 11:24 PM
4

Follow her and see if she follows back. Once she does, like a couple pics. If she likes one of yours, thats a greenlight to send a DM. Now what to send? Well, anything to illicit a response back. You can simply send her a 'Hey how you doing?' Or ask a question about one of her pics. Good luck.
/r/seduction14/06/18 11:04 PM
1

Couple questions first. Is she at least following you back? How many followers does she have?
/r/seduction14/06/18 10:37 PM
2

Shoot your shot over IG!
/r/seduction13/06/18 09:54 PM
1

Isolate and ask to move to a quieter area of the bar.
/r/seduction13/06/18 12:47 PM
2

Welcome to the exciting world of dating. Where flaking happens.
/r/seduction12/06/18 02:43 AM
5

It depends. How well do you know the girl?
/r/seduction10/06/18 03:43 AM
4

Hit her up once more asking her out on a date. You're problem the first time was texting just for the sake of texting her. Texting is suppose to be used as a mean to setup the date.
/r/seduction09/06/18 07:51 PM
2

There's a variety of things you can do. Are you 21+? What i like to do is go to a bar for some drinks and pool tables. If youre not 21+, you can go bowling, coffee, grab lunch, movies, etc.
/r/seduction09/06/18 07:33 PM
1

On the date? Just Relax, have fun and escalate.
/r/seduction09/06/18 07:24 PM
3

1st text should be telling her that you enjoyed meeting her last night. "Hey [name] this is [Your name] from last night. Really enjoyed meeting you". Or something along those lines .. Wait for her to respond with saying that she enjoyed meeting you to and what not. The second text should be an invitation to her. "If you're not too busy this week, how about we go to [activity]". Good luck.
/r/seduction09/06/18 07:12 PM
1

Learn how to do what? Send a message? Just think of something funny. Back when I was in online dating, i use to message girls "Will you marry me?" They'd laugh and we have a conversation from there.
/r/seduction05/06/18 11:37 PM
1

Keep in mind that in online dating, girls get a shit ton of messages from guys. So youre first message ia gonna have to be something interesting and/or funny to grab there attention.
/r/seduction05/06/18 11:31 PM
1

Just ask her out bro.
/r/seduction05/06/18 11:28 PM
1

How strict are they? Can you go out on your own?
/r/seduction04/06/18 06:40 PM
10

Its really not that complicated fam. If she agreed to the date than just ask her the #.
/r/seduction28/05/18 05:47 PM
1

Do it now.
/r/seduction28/05/18 12:48 AM
2

You dont really need to pay for someone to coach you. There a shit ton of free resources on YouTube you can watch. Youre just gonna have to make the commitment to apply them.
/r/seduction27/05/18 09:41 PM
1

Keep the texts very short and light otherwise, you'll kill the mystery and wont have anything to talk about on the date. Focus on meeting other woman in the meantime. Have an abundance mentality.
/r/seduction27/05/18 02:14 PM
1

Take that shit serious.
/r/seduction27/05/18 04:48 AM
1

Most likely.
/r/seduction27/05/18 03:38 AM
2

Than sort of do it bit more indirectly. Tell her that youre gonna be @ so and so on this particular day and if she's not doing anything, for her to join you. This greatly lowers the pressure on you and her because if she declines, than it wouldn't be awkward because you were going anyways so you were just inviting her to your fun. If she agrees, than you can treat it like a date and make a move. But if she declines, than that lets you know she's probably not interested.
/r/seduction27/05/18 03:09 AM
1

Everywhere else you feel where the environment doesn't hinder you as much. Libraries, malls, grocery stores, the streets, etc.
/r/seduction26/05/18 10:38 PM
1

Yeah that's fine.
/r/seduction26/05/18 07:30 PM
2

Give her the benefit of the doubt. Just invite her out for drinks next time.
/r/seduction26/05/18 07:21 PM
4

Indicators of interest. But to the OP's point, you wont know for sure until you do in fact, ask her out. So do it.
/r/seduction26/05/18 06:53 PM
1

I too struggle @ very loud environments for the very same reasons you listed above. Which is why i dont focus on them. There are an abundance of girls everywhere. Dont force yourself to be put in a position where the odds are not in your favor. Play to your strengths.
/r/seduction26/05/18 04:06 PM
1

I just googled it and it came up for me.
/r/seduction25/05/18 08:30 PM
3

Dude seriously? You really couldnt get any more of a greenlight than this that she wants to fuck you. Just text her and ask her what she's doing later so you can come over.
/r/seduction20/05/18 05:32 PM
1

Sounds like she wants to hookup but with no committment. But you won't know for sure until you communicate with her.
/r/seduction20/05/18 01:22 PM
2

What I'm gonna suggest for you to do is very ballsy. Go up to her, introduce yourself, tell her that you usually don't do this but because you rarely see her on class that she left you no other choice. Tell her how incredibly attractive you find her and would wanna get to know her better outside the school environment and exchange contact info. Or you can go for an instadate. But thats how I'd play it. Its high risk but potential high reward situation. If you're gonna do this tho, than have good…
/r/seduction17/05/18 02:12 AM
3

Just get out there and meet other woman in the meantime. And send her a funny meme every now and than to keep you on her radar.
/r/seduction16/05/18 01:12 AM
2

Yeah its a sure as hell greelight. DM her.
/r/seduction14/05/18 06:51 PM
1

To add on top of this, once you get her to come out, treat it like a date and than attempt to seduce her.
/r/seduction14/05/18 03:51 AM
2

Unless youre smokingly hot good looking guy or uber famous, the end result will be a flake 99% of the time. Youre gonna have to build a connection with the girl to see success.
/r/seduction14/05/18 03:47 AM
5

Make friends and strike up conversations with the people around you at the bar. People are there to socialize so this is to be expected.
/r/seduction14/05/18 01:22 AM
6

No dont do it. Keep your composure and show your enthusiasm on the date.
/r/seduction14/05/18 12:54 AM
1

Ok? Invite her to something else. Coffee, a bite to eat, walk in the park, movies, museum, etc.
/r/seduction08/04/18 05:06 PM
1

Two things you can do to break the ice: Send her a funny meme/pic that reminds you of a convo you had with her last night. (Caption it) Message her letting her know that even though it was brief, glad that you met her and enjoyed her company. Once she replies to one of the examples above, ask her if she'd be interested in meeting up sometime for a drink or something. Good luck.
/r/seduction08/04/18 04:50 PM
1

If being yourself doesnt work for her, than she's not the one for you. I'm not gonna pretend to be something I'm not to get somebody into bed with me.
/r/seduction07/04/18 12:57 PM
1

I'm gonna be honest. Thats gonna be really challenging because telling her you like her right than and there would be putting too much pressure on her since there's most likely gonna be other people in line, not to mention the person working at the cashier. My suggestion is to be strategic with this one. When you see her again, insist that you'll help her bring her groceries to her call and than when you two are alone, go for it.
/r/seduction06/04/18 02:52 AM
1

Play it cool. So text "OK cool". Than text her on Sat morning and see if she's available.
/r/seduction05/04/18 01:32 AM
21

I'd say be NATURAL. I mean, if she asks you a question about yourself, why wouldn't you answer her? That's dumb because she's trying to get to know you. So just be yourself.
/r/seduction04/04/18 11:52 PM
2

Nooo. Dont do it over social media. Do it right than and there when she answers the question on whether she's gonna miss you. Be cheeky and be like "its ok, im gonna miss you too" or something like that. THAN invite her to hangout sometime if she's not busy. Once its confirmed, than you can text/SC her and ask for specifics (if shes busy, what day, location, etc).
/r/seduction04/04/18 11:46 PM
1

I mean, just pretend you dont know that she recently broke up with him and flirt with her normally. It becomes a problem when your flirting and/or attempting to advance with her and she backs away because of that. But if she reciprocates with your advancements, than just continue on.
/r/seduction04/04/18 11:15 PM
4

Well if you feel bad about your acne, why dont you.. Do something to get rid of them?
/r/seduction04/04/18 11:03 PM
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Ask her, "You gonna miss me when I'm gone?" See what she says and go from there. They usually say yes and than you can suggest to link up sometime since you guys wont be seeing much of each other. Also be sure to get her # or Snapchat so you have a way to keep in touch.
/r/seduction04/04/18 10:54 PM
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If a girl at least sees that youre going somewhere with your life, than the fact that youre not in college anymore shouldn't phase her. No girl wouldnt really turn down a successful or guy whose on the road to success that they like. Now in the initial meetings, maybe youre coming across as a guy with nothing going for himself? Its hard to say but if thats the answer you're getting, than that could be why.
/r/seduction12/03/18 04:21 AM
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Ohhh. Well like you said, girls in college usually just want to have fun. Theyre not in the long term dating phase yet. Which will most likely conflict with your ideals. But its not impossible. Just continue going out and meeting new people in your area. Who knows. Maybe you'll find someone looking for the exact thing your looking for.
/r/seduction12/03/18 02:09 AM
1

At this stage in your life, are you looking for someone to settle down with or your still trying to build up your sexual experience?
/r/seduction12/03/18 01:55 AM
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Have you talked to her @ all yet? Try getting her SnapChat and send her funny memes and gauge her interest. Than suggest meeting up for a drink if she's not busy.
/r/seduction12/03/18 01:48 AM
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You mean like an example? Here: 'Hey i know this is really random but I'd be kicking myself the rest of the day/night if i didnt come tell you how amazing you look. My name is ...' Its more ballsy but it'll let the girl know right from the start that youre interested in being her lover and not her friend.
/r/seduction05/03/18 11:53 PM
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Yes you can. Me personally, i dont do indirect approaches. It doesnt come off as genuine for me if i use it as a way to strike up a girl i find attractive. I strictly stick to direct approaches and let my intentions known from the jump. But yes, you can use that openers if it works for you.
/r/seduction05/03/18 11:44 PM
2

Confidently approach the group and isolate the one you want. In my experience, if the group likes your vibe, they wouldn't mind you talking to the girl alone.
/r/seduction05/03/18 11:35 PM
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I mean, i have a big head and i have no problem getting with girls. You have to feel comfortable in your own skin first and foremost. Once you do, people wont even notice because your so confident with yourself.
/r/seduction05/03/18 10:42 PM
1

You can try again in a month but I'd cut my losses in that one.
/r/seduction05/03/18 06:28 PM
1

I wouldnt consider those cancelling on you. Those could be valid reasons as to why they can't see you. Ask them what days works best for them and go from there.
/r/seduction05/03/18 05:12 AM
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Yeah you definitely shouldnt be focusing on them as much and divert your attention on other people who does show immediate interest. Which is why i suggested to have an abundance mentality AND to invite them out to an activity your gonna be doing regardless is she shows up. Its like, if agrees than great and if not, well it's cool anyways cause you'll meet other people.
/r/seduction05/03/18 05:02 AM
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I specifically meant someone leaving you on read. If you have an abundance mentality, it shouldn't matter if a girl flakes cause you should have other options.
/r/seduction05/03/18 02:48 AM
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Life happens sometimes. If a girl lets me know that she has to reschedule than I can give her the benefit of the doubt. If it happens again, thats when I'll know to cut my losses.
/r/seduction05/03/18 12:30 AM
3

Did you make a move on the first date? That could be why.
/r/seduction18/02/18 11:44 PM
1

Yeah text her either tomorrow or Wed to see whats her schedule like.
/r/seduction05/02/18 07:43 PM
1

Class A attention seeker. You def made the mistake here of overtexting. At least she didnt say no but still. My advice is to not text her again for a little bit (unless she texts first) and than reinitiate. When you do text her again, invite her to something fun youre gonna do regardless if she tags along.
/r/seduction04/02/18 12:51 AM
4

Move on.
/r/seduction31/01/18 09:47 PM
2

Ask her to hangout.
/r/seduction29/01/18 04:07 AM
1

Be like: 'I'm big down there lol'
/r/seduction29/01/18 02:32 AM
0

Haha. I'm actually going thru a smiliar situation. What I'm doing is putting her to the side whilst i focus on girls am really atttacted too. If for whatever reason another girl flakes or I'm on a dry streak, I'll hit up the DTF chick.
/r/seduction24/01/18 05:32 AM
2

Join groups on your campus or meetup groups on meetup.com with interests similar to yours.
/r/seduction23/01/18 04:23 PM
1

No problem.. Lmk how it goes.
/r/seduction23/01/18 04:54 AM
1

Only one way to find out for sure. Is to ask.
/r/seduction23/01/18 04:51 AM
1

Great 👍. Be direct with her. Because by the sound of your description, you maybe close to getting friendzoned if she's talking to you about other guys.
/r/seduction23/01/18 04:43 AM
1

You could text her whenever you like. Or you can ask her in person on Wednesday. Its up to you really.
/r/seduction23/01/18 04:34 AM
1

Just tell her that you wanna spend some time with her.
/r/seduction23/01/18 04:26 AM
1

Definitely ask her out over text. Just make your first text to her your introductory saying 'Hey this is so and so'. Once she texts back, ask the question.
/r/seduction23/01/18 04:25 AM
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No girl ever goes saying "Man, I hope i dont meet an amazing guy today". But onto your question, its all about social calibration. For example, hitting on a cashier while there's other people in line would be a bad idea because other people are there and she's working. So in a situation like that, a girl probably wouldn't want to be approached. Now, if you see a girl shopping, you can simply say 'Hey I know your shopping and I don't mean to bother but i thought you looked cute" and blah blah. So…
/r/seduction22/01/18 09:17 PM
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Yeah man Just go with the flow. Youve already kissed her so the fact that youre meeting up with her again after the kiss shows that she's comfortable with it and you.
/r/seduction22/01/18 02:49 AM
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Yeah, ask her if she'd be interested in meeting up just the two of you and that'll give you your answer if she's available or not.
/r/seduction22/01/18 02:47 AM
1

Are you 21+? You can go for drinks. If not, you can go for something like bowling, Pool table, walk in the park, museum, etc.
/r/seduction21/01/18 02:56 PM
2

If you have her phone #, than go ahead and shoot her a text.
/r/seduction21/01/18 04:02 AM
1

If she's asking you questions back, she's almost surely interested.
/r/seduction19/01/18 03:20 AM
1

Slide in the DMs. You have nothing to lose.
/r/seduction16/01/18 06:04 PM
1

Move on.
/r/seduction15/01/18 01:13 AM
1

Edit: Ask her to kiss me. But you dont know how to flirt? Well thats definitely something youre gonna need to know on how to do to build attraction with a girl. Its such a wide range of things you can do to flirt with a girl, that'd It'd be incredibly hard to condense that in writing on here. So I'll try and give you some bullet points but you can research in depth on your own. Smiling at the girl. Telling her how hot she looks while smiling at her. Teasing something about her. (Example, i went …
/r/seduction14/01/18 08:01 PM
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Its good that you were making the girl feel comfortable with you. BUT, did you flirt with her? Touch her at all? Cause if you didnt, than you may have friendzoned yourself by making her TOO comfortable with you. Making a move on her without laying the groundwork will throw her off. But What i normally tend to do if i had done those things is look the girl in the eyes and tell her how fucking hot she looks right now and how much I really enjoy her company. It makes me feel sexual when I do that. …
/r/seduction14/01/18 07:34 PM
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Instead of asking her, Invite her to something youre already gonna do. So be like: "Hey I'm hitting up this spot on so and so, of youre not doing anything than come thru". It's a bit more indirect but still inviting her out.
/r/seduction14/01/18 07:08 PM
2

Get closer to the girl, pull her to you and talk closer to there ear. This does a few things actually. It gets you touching her (+1) and its seen as sensual when youre face is already close to hers early in the interaction. Setting up a potential kiss. Once you've built up the convo enough, you can isolate her to a quieter area.
/r/seduction14/01/18 03:31 PM
3

C'mon man. You know what it means. She's wanting you to make a move.
/r/seduction14/01/18 03:22 PM
1

Well ask yourself this. If you decide to act on it, would you be willing to lose your current girlfriend? If the answer is yes, than by all means do it. If you do care about losing her, than no dont do it. So the choice is yours.
/r/seduction14/01/18 01:45 AM
1

How long have you been dating your current gf?
/r/seduction14/01/18 01:13 AM
4

Honestly, i just wouldve went for the kiss.
/r/seduction12/01/18 03:22 AM
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That depends. I once got with a girl who was engaged. She never told me about it but a friend of hers did behind her back. I treated it as if i didnt know and went with the flow. We had amazing sex but of course this wasn't a girl i wanted to BE with since she wouldve most likely done the same to me as she did too her fiance. I just had some great sex with her and let her be. So if you 'steal' a girl from her BF, dont be surprised if it ends up happening to you in reverse. Maybe even worse. Caus…
/r/seduction11/01/18 07:38 PM
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When girls tell you they just want to be friends, than leave it at that and move on to the next girl. Like you said, it could be a number of reasons as to why she said it now. Maybe you didnt make a move on the first two dates or maybe she found someone else. But its not your place anymore to try and force her to like you again. Just respect her wishes and if youre not willing to be friends with her because you still have feelings, than politely let her know and end it.
/r/seduction11/01/18 07:32 PM
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There are numerous things you can say. If shes DTF, you can just simply say "lets get outta here". If you cant tell shes DTF but youve made out or dont wanna be too on the nose about it, than Nonchalantly ask her if she has any plans after the club so she can stop by your place real quick for a bite to eat. As to what to say keep things interesting? Well just keep doing what you were successfully doing in the club/bar. Being fun, upbeat and flirty.
/r/seduction11/01/18 07:07 PM
3

Than move on.
/r/seduction11/01/18 05:19 PM
1

Invite her out.
/r/seduction11/01/18 05:12 PM
1

I cold approached.. At my job (was working in retail). And she blew me off in front of a customer. I was feeling very ballsy that day.
/r/seduction10/01/18 11:22 PM
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Just watch this: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=lFTkK6vuMQY
/r/seduction09/01/18 09:39 PM
1

Yes you can. But since she's gonna be in another city (state?) After this week, my honest advice is to go for the pull on this date or the next. Because lets be real, she's gonna be interacting with other people from a far away location from you. She could even meet someone else! So you dont wanna be stuck in a situation wondering if you could've made something happen while its too late. Do it now.
/r/seduction09/01/18 07:14 PM
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I use to have this issue. What helped me was taking long deep breaths in and out. Take your time while you talk. There is no need to rush. It makes you look weird and insecure.
/r/seduction09/01/18 07:07 PM
1

Join a meetup group at meetup.com and make friends with your coworkers.
/r/seduction09/01/18 07:04 PM
3

That depends. You can Ask them to hang out. Just the two of you. And they should get the idea.
/r/seduction09/01/18 07:03 PM
1

I'd say give her the silent treatment for a few days (unless she texts you) and than reinitiate the idea for hangout.
/r/seduction07/01/18 01:57 AM
1

Next time if a girl is sitting across from you, when she's a bit more comfortable, just politely ask her to sit next to you. It happened on my last date. 30mins in as we were talking and i needed to escalate, i told her to 'come sit here, i dont bite' in a cheeky way. She happily complied. As far as what to text, just tell her you had a good time and would want to see her again. See what she says and go from there.
/r/seduction07/01/18 01:55 AM
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Its not what you say but how you say it. I'd say my conversations are pretty standard with woman too. But if I'm confident and having a good time, than it radiates off in the way I'm speaking. Another advice is to make sure youre not the one asking ALL the questions. Make teaseful statements and have her invest in the convo as well. Oh, and isolate!
/r/seduction06/01/18 07:58 PM
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What i do after the opener is introduce myself and ask them what brings them out tonight and go from there.
/r/seduction06/01/18 02:04 PM
2

A year to accept a friend request? Bro, trust me. Move on. You'd be saving yourself alot of time and headaches.
/r/seduction05/01/18 10:15 PM
1

Oh ok. Well in that case, go for it. One thing i learned that helps me with woman is to expect NOTHING. So just go and have fun regardless if she doesnt react the way you want.
/r/seduction05/01/18 03:44 AM
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Ohh. Just out of curiosity. Has she shown any indication of interest to you before? But what I usually do is dance with them. If there willing to grind on you, than chances of you going for the kiss and getting it is high. Plus, Alcohol + the music makes it easier for you. I also let them know how amazing they look and get real touchy feely. But again, it all depends on how comfortable she is with you.
/r/seduction05/01/18 03:15 AM
1

Huh?
/r/seduction05/01/18 03:02 AM
2

Definitely learn some basic dance moves. She's gonna wanna dance. And you dancing with her would present the best opportunity to escalate on her and go for the pull.
/r/seduction05/01/18 02:57 AM
1

Nothing i say will the make the fear go away. Just feel the fear and do it anyway.
/r/seduction05/01/18 01:33 AM
3

How old are you? You should never get to know someone over text. That's what in person dates are for. And thats what texting should be the means for. Setting up the logistics for the date.
/r/seduction05/01/18 01:32 AM
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Yeah thats an excellent idea with the dance class. Plus, you can start off small. High fiving and giving out handshakes goes a long way. Once you get comfortable with those, than take it up a notch. And keep going
/r/seduction02/01/18 07:45 PM
1

In what area are you having issues with when it comes to girls?
/r/seduction01/01/18 02:23 AM
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There are numerous things you can do if youre not an night owl. You can try online dating. Or you can Try joining a social club at your school. Meet people that way. Or if you're ever out running errands and you see a girl you fancy, approach her. Seduce her and take her out on a date and go from there.
/r/seduction01/01/18 02:11 AM
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Whenever your running errands, keep your eyes peeled for a girl you find attractive. Also, what city your in? Most places have a nightlife spots you can hit up as well.
/r/seduction24/12/17 02:39 AM
1

Yeah move on. She's playing games.
/r/seduction16/12/17 05:58 AM
2

Of course its possible. Dont overthink it. Just reinitiate the conversation and ask them if they'd wanna meetup.
/r/seduction15/12/17 11:20 PM
1

Ask her
/r/seduction15/12/17 11:10 PM
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The problem with that is that it may create social pressure on the girl when she's being asked out in front of her friends. Which may lead her to say no.
/r/seduction15/12/17 03:47 AM
1

Yes you can.
/r/seduction12/12/17 04:08 AM
1

It depends honestly. Ask yourself first, are you willing to lose that person as a friend if the feeling isnt mutual?
/r/seduction12/12/17 03:55 AM
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It only works if the girl feels some sort of attraction towards you. If not, than she wont give a shit and you'd be doing her a favor.
/r/seduction10/12/17 02:34 AM
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DM her on IG. Keep it simple and start a conversation on a interesting picture that she posted. And than, go from there.
/r/seduction10/12/17 02:32 AM
2

... Talk to her.
/r/seduction04/12/17 11:22 PM
2

Move on
/r/seduction03/12/17 06:46 PM
1

Honestly, thats gonna seem creep especially since youve said you haven't talked to her both times seeing her. Can you have one your mates put in a good word for you?
/r/seduction03/12/17 05:39 PM
5

Send them a funny meme in the meantime that reminds you of them. For example, this girl I had a date scheduled with in about 4 days told me when we initially met that she doesnt like Taylor Swift. So i sent her the new Taylor Swift video as a joke. It sparked a light snarky convo between us. But it was very short. It was sort of like a funny reminder to let her know that I still exist.
/r/seduction03/12/17 01:56 AM
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If a girl isn't interested in me, than i dont play any games to try and make her like me. Its either were on or were not. Not gonna waste my time with high school text bullshit games.
/r/seduction29/11/17 03:56 AM
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Send her a funny meme that reminds you of her or a topic of conversation every couple days and keep it light.
/r/seduction29/11/17 03:41 AM
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Tell her Happy Thanksgiving and dont text for a few days and than pop the question again (unless she texts you first). You'll know by than if shes REALLY interested.
/r/seduction22/11/17 01:26 AM
1

When she says she's busy, is she not offering an alternative timeframe for the date?
/r/seduction22/11/17 12:59 AM
1

Did you try going for the pull? Cause by your description, it sounded like she was really into you.
/r/seduction20/11/17 08:21 PM
1

Did you try going for the pull? Cause by your description, it sounded like she was really into you.
/r/seduction20/11/17 08:20 PM
1

Text her once more and if she still doesnt respond. Move on.
/r/seduction20/11/17 07:43 PM
1

Well, the only way to find out is to ask her if she's looking for a BF or FWB.
/r/seduction11/11/17 08:49 PM
1

No. I'm sending her something that reminds me of her.
/r/seduction07/11/17 04:57 PM
1

People have there own styles that works for them. Me personally, I like giving light compliments because it makes me feel sexual while doing so. So my recommendation is yes, give out compliments. You could use the compliment as the reason your approaching her. Be like "Hey I thought you were cute so I had to meet you. My name is .." Pushing yourself is getting out of comfort zone. Doing something you're afraid to do. In your case since you said youre scared to escalate, focus on that. Unless she…
/r/seduction06/11/17 03:47 AM
2

Youre just gonna have to fucking man up and push yourself bro.
/r/seduction06/11/17 01:38 AM
1

Well thats something youre gonna have to work on since its extremely important for attraction. Go out and practice lightly touching girls, staring at them in the eye while youre talking. Just keep building upon it until it becomes natural.
/r/seduction06/11/17 01:36 AM
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No problem! Be sure to report back and let me know how it went. Best of luck
/r/seduction06/11/17 01:28 AM
5

Well than if you must, my advice is to Snapchat her and ask her whats her schedule looking for the week so you two can grab some lunch together. Dont make that your first message tho. Send her a funny meme as an icebreaker.
/r/seduction06/11/17 01:22 AM
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Light touches here and there, letting your intent be known towards her, etc. And also, its okay to feel fear. But dont let it show and dont let it overcome you. Fake it til you make it.
/r/seduction06/11/17 01:08 AM
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Actually, the best way to talk to to your crush is always in person. If everyone else is doing one thing (snapchat) and you do something different by confidently presenting yourself towards her, it'd be so refreshing for you and her. It can greatly separate you from the other pack of guys snapchatting her. So man up and flirt with her whenever you see her in person.
/r/seduction06/11/17 01:06 AM
1

Send her a funny meme every now and than with a funny lil caption story reminding you of her.
/r/seduction04/11/17 09:31 PM
1

Try asking her out and if she doesn't bite, than move on.
/r/seduction04/11/17 09:30 PM
2

Feel the fear and do it anyways. Here, Try this tactic: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/770pv0/a_fun_game_you_bros_can_play_while_out/ It helped me alot. And i think it'd help you alot too.
/r/seduction04/11/17 08:07 PM
2

Well I don't find giving a girls compliments cliche at all. Its genuine and honest. Most girls in my experience love being told they look good. But A simple 'Hey how's it going' is all you need really as an icebreaker. Than just have a normal conversation with her. Every situation is different so Depending on how the conversation is going, calibrate from there. You can simply say, 'hey lets go over here for a min' or 'hey lets go take a shot' to isolate.
/r/seduction04/11/17 07:36 PM
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It all starts with you. You're just gonna have to make that comittment to interact and flirt with girls while youre out. No excuses.
/r/seduction04/11/17 05:50 PM
1

Dont waste yours or her time if you dont feel any sparks or attraction. Call it a loss and move on. As far as this being normal, well yes. Since you said your a noob, youre just figuring yourself out and seeing what types of girls youre attracted too by going on lots of dates. So keep doing what youre doing.
/r/seduction04/11/17 03:27 PM
1

You can always resuggest another place but you risk the chances of her flaking. The unfortunate reality is that in the beginning stages of courting a girl, the guy is usually the one to crack open the wallet. So, youre most likely gonna have break the bank on that one if you guys do go on a second date.
/r/seduction04/11/17 03:23 AM
1

Rule of thumb is whoever asked who out is the one whose paying.
/r/seduction04/11/17 02:50 AM
1

What I tend to do is pull the dude to the side and ask if he's with the girl or trying to get with her. If he's with her than i politely exit. If he's trying to mack, than i let him do his thing. If neither, than i introudce myself to the girl.
/r/seduction04/11/17 01:48 AM
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I was actually in situation similar a while back. What i did was I threw little negs at her to see if she'd bite. And she did! (Ended up hooking up.) So my advice is to gauge her interest by just asking a couple questions about school and what not to see how she reacts. If she's receptive, keep digging deeper and asking more personal questions. If she's still receptive, tham go for the pull. If she doesn't react good enough and is focused on the task at hand, than be respectful and step back.
/r/seduction03/11/17 02:33 AM
1

When you see her again, stop and talk to her and ask her if she'd wanna grab a drink one of these days. Just go for it. You have nothing to lose.
/r/seduction03/11/17 02:27 AM
2

Sounds like a plan 👍
/r/seduction30/10/17 03:44 AM
1

Ok but do you feel comfortable with talking alot between dates? Because if you have no problem with it and she's the one doing the initiating, than I'd say go with the flow. If you do, than just tell her that you'd prefer getting to know her in person in a playful way.
/r/seduction30/10/17 03:23 AM
1

Just out of curiosity, how old are you? And what I mean by "light" is to keep it short and flirtatious. The interesting things you'd wanna know about her, keep that for in person questions so you'd have something to talk about.
/r/seduction30/10/17 03:08 AM
5

Try both options.
/r/seduction30/10/17 02:44 AM
12

I mean, if she texts or calls you, you don't want to purposely tune her out. I'd say keep the convo very light. Keep the interesting topics for when youre in person.
/r/seduction30/10/17 02:44 AM
2

Definitely don't want to seem over eager. I'd say if you see her in person again, confirm that it's still on and set a soecific time and location. Only text her the day before and/or day of to confirm that its still on.
/r/seduction29/10/17 02:18 AM
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I'd say send a funny meme to her every few days in the meantime to keep you embedded in her mind. Dont do full convos over text. Save that in person. Dont smother her by texting alot and keep a little mystery in your life.
/r/seduction28/10/17 03:15 PM
3

Than WHY the fuck is she Tinder? But yeah, move on.
/r/seduction27/10/17 06:57 PM
1

You can even point it out to the gir as an openerl. for example, if you see a pretty girl walking down the street, Be like 'I'm a little nervous right now but I just had to meet you.' Its so honest and raw which girls love.
/r/seduction27/10/17 06:48 PM
1

Slide in them DMs and invite her out.
/r/seduction26/10/17 01:53 AM
2

That was honestly, the RIGHT thing to do. I'd say, text her and ask how is she holding up. And depending on her answer, pop the question. Your invite could be a way to cheer her up during a dark time.
/r/seduction25/10/17 01:33 AM
1

In a situation like that, small talk like asking how theyre liking the class, university etc. Usually leads to other topics. How often i cold approach? Well, i work alot during the week and i get off late. But when I'm off, i still have errands to run. So I'll approach if i see a pretty girl during my travels. But sometimes, I head downtown to get some appraoches in if nothing exciting happens during my days off.
/r/seduction23/10/17 12:07 AM
0

Should've made a move bro when she was at your crib. Now she may have friendzoned you because you didnt. Pick a date and turn up the sexual tension.
/r/seduction22/10/17 04:40 PM
14

Take the plunge and invite her out for drinks.
/r/seduction21/10/17 05:54 PM
2

Yeah it doesn't have to be a party but host a kickback. Invite some of your close friends and invite the girls letting them know of it. Once everyone is liquored up and having fun, than make your move.
/r/seduction21/10/17 12:02 AM
3

How social are you? Throw a dorm party and invite the girls. It'll give you social value and you'd be able to make a move on one of them.
/r/seduction20/10/17 10:56 PM
2

HAVE FUN
/r/seduction20/10/17 06:38 PM
1

Yeah Either that or just go direct. I'd recommend direct since you'll be able to know right away if shes interested.
/r/seduction18/10/17 04:59 PM
1

Well if youre worried about shitting where you eat, than try to go a but more indirect. Like asking where she works since you tend to see her often. Gradually increase the sexual vibe by little if she's recipricating and than go for the close if you see its working. Apply the same to College game.
/r/seduction18/10/17 03:35 PM
1

Yeah
/r/seduction18/10/17 12:57 PM
3

Man up and direct approach. It's ballsy but its the quickest and most efficient way.
/r/seduction18/10/17 04:13 AM
2

Bro. She invited you to her house and you didn't make a move? Now she may have you think youre not interested and friend zoned you which is why you arent texting alot anymore.
/r/seduction18/10/17 03:35 AM
1

That depends. How sure are you that she likes you? Do you guys regularly communicate?
/r/seduction18/10/17 01:57 AM
1

Just be honest with her. Be like, "I'm not looking for a relationship right now but I'd still like to hang out with you". She should get the messge.
/r/seduction18/10/17 01:39 AM
1

No problem man. It was a fun night indeed. Just felt so good with out having an outcome in mind. Once you do it long enough, you'll slowly start that mindset everytime you go out without needing to do the game.
/r/seduction17/10/17 08:24 PM
1

It's not failing if youre enjoying the process
/r/seduction17/10/17 08:15 PM
1

Doesn't sound like a mistake to me. Just keep pushing it at.
/r/seduction16/10/17 01:57 AM
13

Something that I've noticed with people is that they to tend to settle in relationships. I don't know if its because of age or the fear of being alone, but alot of people I know just to tend to settle down with folks who theyre not really attracted to to have that "Family" image.
/r/seduction16/10/17 01:56 AM
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