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An appeal would- potentially, maybe- overturn a conviction, not the precedent itself. So again, you would be incorrect.
/r/MensRights26/04/24 09:00 AM
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Now, on that one, you would be incorrect. She would be eligible to have her conviction overturned and vacated- she would not be immediately released. She would have to have her lawyer/attorney appeal for it to be done so.
/r/MensRights26/04/24 08:57 AM
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Again, I'm glad you think that would matter to me, if I were in that position. Don't get me wrong- I understand your point, intellectually, but if I were in the situation, I wouldn't be thinking about the intellectual point of patience in overturning the legislature on the matter. I would be seeking...for her to see the inside of a prison cell for a long time, and I would put forth all of my resources to making that happen. Whether or not the precedent was overturned at a later time, she would s…
/r/MensRights26/04/24 08:51 AM
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I'm glad you think I would be stopped by that. My saying "I would climb that hill and die on it" means I would fight every bit I could, go to the Supreme Court, beg borrow and *steal* whatever money I could to influence people to make the Court case to set the precedent to make that happen.
/r/MensRights26/04/24 07:12 AM
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This is called "rape", and I'd have her arrested and taken to court and jail over this. I'd climb that hill and die on it, to get her charged not with "sexual assault" but actual "RAPE".
/r/MensRights26/04/24 01:06 AM
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On the one hand, coming from a place of not understanding the men in this subreddit, one could make an argument in the way that you have. On the other hand, you mentioned at a later point that you're not on this subreddit on a regular basis, and so you're missing both the posts that are very much in line with actual men's rights, and you're also missing the fact that 1) this subreddit is ALSO for men to be able to vent about the issue that they feel are a part of the overall demonstration of how…
/r/MensRights26/04/24 01:04 AM
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You're right. Men and women are *not* fully equal. But they are equitable. And while *you* may be a feminist who believes in equality, *not all feminists* "only want equal rights for women and men"- *some* feminists want rights given to women, and rights removed from men. Some feminists want behaviors that are beneficial to women enhanced, and behaviors that are beneficial to men reduced. Some feminists want to normalize doing to men, what they feel that men did to women 50 years ago. Mind you, …
/r/MensRights28/03/24 05:51 AM
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She got what she deserved.
/r/MensRights21/03/24 01:08 PM
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And that right there, is the reason for the need for such a card. And the judge was an asshole for saying that. Whether or not the guy should be "worried about what she is spending the money on", the judge shouldn't have said it. Although....he *could* perhaps get the CS money pushed onto a debit card, and then give her the card- then he can track her expenditures, and if needed, take them to the Court and demonstrate that she is-- or is not-- using the money for their child(ren).
/r/MensRights21/03/24 01:07 PM
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Regarding why it's "rape" when it's a man and a [anyone, really], but it's an "affair" or the like, when it's a woman and a boy/young man..... Yes, it is in part about the language of what legally constitutes 'rape'- which, by and large, is about the idea of a more powerful person-- i.e., a male-- exerting that power through the use of sexual activities upon a person who is not powerful-- i.e., a female-- basically, the idea is that how could a woman ever overpower a man? So, the language of wha…
/r/MensRights20/03/24 03:18 PM
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I have been in support of such a card for quite some time. In my opinion, it shouldn't have a restriction of use, BUT it SHOULD have a reporting feature, that can be examined by the mother, the father (or whoever is paying the child support) and the Court system- such that at any time, the expenditures can be looked at, and if the money is not being used for the benefit of the child-- like food, clothes, school activities, etc- then the mother can be charged with misuse of funds, and the mother …
/r/MensRights06/03/24 12:08 PM
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I think you purposefully attempt to misconstrue and misunderstand my words. Yes, women most certainly and most assuredly can decide to become pregnant; they can make the decision that "yes, I would like to become pregnant" and then take steps to make that decision become a reality. In no way is the way I have illuminated the explanation any different from the simple statement of "women can decide to become pregnant". And I would imagine that you are more than intelligent enough to require that s…
/r/MensRights06/02/24 02:31 AM
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Yes, women can force a pregnancy....in the sense that a woman can make the decision to carry on a pregnancy-- and a man cannot-- by either failing to take preventative measures (and lying to a man about doing so) or, in more ridiculous cases, by taking a sperm-laden condom and emptying the contents into her vagina and working to ensure a pregnancy occurs. These things can be done without the man's consent (or even his knowledge ), and the woman faces almost no consequences for doing so, while th…
/r/MensRights06/02/24 01:24 AM
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It is a wonderful thought and belief that you have, but the world has already made a mockery of your wishes there. There was a case, highlighted in this very reddit less than a year ago I believe, wherein a married man had had his sperm frozen, and when he got divorced, his ex decided that she [still] wanted to have a child, and so she went after the sperm. They went to court over it, with him saying basically the same things you've said, and he lost the case; she got to make use of the sperm. S…
/r/MensRights10/01/24 06:05 AM
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No, no false accusation here; he was deliberately pressing himself up against her.
/r/MensRights09/01/24 03:56 PM
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I have to point out a flaw in your scenario there, about the wallet: if the person who finds the wallet, simply uses the actual money inside (and not any of the credit cards), yes they are committing theft, but unless that money is directly traceable to them, how can one prove that it was theft, and not a gift? Likewise, unfortunately, the law right now says that once the sperm is outside of the man's body, there is no way to prove that a woman's pregnancy is via theft of sperm, or that he willi…
/r/MensRights09/01/24 03:38 PM
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Most men would agree with you. Many men have said similar things before. The unfortunate issue is that the pregnancy is the domain of the woman-- not that it shouldn't be, but that because it is her body, a man can't especially make her or force her to do anything with her body against her will-- but she is not held to the same depth of responsibility as men are, and that is one problem. Another problem is that men have no domain over their own sperm, once it leaves the body-- and while that in …
/r/MensRights09/01/24 04:08 AM
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I can agree with that, but the only information we have about her behavior and any punishments she might have received is in the article, and so that is the basis of my original statement.
/r/MensRights09/01/24 03:45 AM
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I'm gonna be unpopular here. She got "non-custodial" because it was her first offense. Do I think she got off lightly? Yeah, I do- I think she should have gotten at least 60 days in jail or something; an "18 month community order" is more annoying and inconvenient than it is a deterrent for her doing it again, or a punishment for doing it in the first place. And yes, I do believe a guy would have gotten a custodial type of sentence, where she didn't. But her lack of a custodial sentence was due …
/r/MensRights09/01/24 12:37 AM
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So, the consensus of the women's voices in the article basically say, "[The accused] shouldn't be allowed to play [and perhaps persue his job/livelihood] while under investigation". Let's say that again. "[The accused] should-- basically-- be forced to be unable to work- and thereby end up being put out of his home for failure to pay his bills-- while he is being investigated to see IF he may have committed a crime". Let me put it even more plainly. "We're saying he did this to us! Punish him be…
/r/MensRights01/12/23 05:31 AM
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Talk to HR. The reason why women get away with it is because we let them.If we as men, hold them to the same standards (and the same consequences and accountability) they as women hold us to, that is equality. And if it pisses them off to be held to those standards and consequences and accountability, then maybe they should look at their behavior. When you talk to HR, remind them that if the genders were reversed, that they would likely be filing notes on you about potentially SH/SA behavior, an…
/r/MensRights25/08/23 02:33 AM
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The problem you're facing, miss-- and if my assumption about your gender is wrong, then I apologize, but I will continue-- is, in part, that you came to this subreddit, with assumptions, assumptions about what you thought should happen, and of what you thought that men in a men's rights subreddit would say or not say. It is also in part that you came to this subreddit with already set opinions- almost convictions- about what is the proper stance of feminism and of how men's rights should be eith…
/r/MensRights20/08/23 05:23 AM
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I would have said, if this had been something pretty "new", to broadcast it. With your friend's permission, of course. I would have told you to write it up as a story, with no genders involved, and then ask at the end, "should it matter which gender the victim is?" I would have suggested making a youtube/tiktok/twitter/instagram about it, and make sure to tag all of your friends, and have them tag their friends, and so on, and make sure that something like this was highlighted-- especially the p…
/r/MensRights17/08/23 04:54 AM
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Unfortunately, I think that many women "don't understand the problem"- because to them, the issue is "if X bad happens and I didn't do this, I'd be in a bad situation, so this is just [and justified] to make sure I would be okay"-- completely ignoring how self-serving and self-centered that is, and completely ignoring the ideology that she shouldn't even be contemplating a situation where "we/us/them" isn't a "we/us/them", and completely ignoring that the money in "their" account is not "hers" t…
/r/MensRights29/07/23 04:23 AM
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But I’m curious, what is it they don’t like about groups that advocate for men? Because it's easy and popular to basically shit on men, and has been for perhaps the last 50 years.
/r/MensRights22/07/23 11:48 PM
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The manager/owner should have called for the police, and had the women arrested on charges of sexual harassment, and trespassed from the premises for their behavior.
/r/MensRights03/07/23 08:20 PM
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??? First, I think you mean, "if a woman hits a man I agree it's fine for him to hit back". Morals are about what one views as correct (or not). I don't see any moral incorrectness about a man hitting a woman, who has hit him. Conversely, I don't see any moral incorrectness about a woman keeping her hands to herself, and thereby ensuring that a man will not want to hit her, when she hasn't hit him. More simply put: If a PERSON does not want to be hit, they should not hit, either.
/r/MensRights27/06/23 04:46 AM
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How is it not morally correct???
/r/MensRights27/06/23 03:51 AM
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Largely, that is because the victimization of men is seen, portrayed and vilified as being the providence of men-- that is, these are men-created problems, and so therefore, because men are creating the problem, that is happening to men, it's not such the big deal. But when it's supposed to be men-created problems, happening to women, then it's supposed to be an epidemic of biblical proportions, and an attack on women. And, of course, because women-created problems are supposed to be really men-…
/r/MensRights26/06/23 10:08 PM
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Men such as that one may be deserving of the fate that befalls them, then.
/r/MensRights26/06/23 10:02 PM
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That being the case, then women should keep their hands to themselves, so as to not put themselves in a position where they could be subject to such physical retaliation.
/r/MensRights26/06/23 09:54 PM
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On the one hand, this is a very good example of how a person should- and should be able to- communicate with another. On the other hand... Unfortunately, women are not very often Empathetic with the men in their lives, especially if/when they are engaged in their emotions during a conversation, they have a tendency to Assess based on not only their own emotional state but very often on the basis of how another woman/other women would do so, and rarely employ Respect towards the men with whom the…
/r/MensRights26/06/23 09:51 PM
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It’s hard to call out women who belittle you with sexist comments. It’s so draining to argue with feminist who argue you out about why your a sexist or in the wrong for being upset about sexist women making sexist generalizing comments, because they do not think sexism against you even exist, and also think your speaking over her, meanwhile you know damn well you cannot speak against women or else said feminist and misandrist women would actually get upset. And that is exactly why we need to do …
/r/MensRights25/06/23 06:18 PM
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I can understand your points, regarding my dating "advice"- though I wasn't attempting to push men into a role of pursuit of their "chosen" interest in that regard. Rather, I was attempting to point out that men need to be self-assured and decisive- in essence, be ready and realistic about their wants, have a plan to make it happen, and then make choices and live with those choices. IMO, there are too many men who are too dependent on the reactions of women for how they make their choices, or ev…
/r/MensRights25/06/23 06:12 PM
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I don't disagree. But had he not asked in the first place, at least this particular situation could have been avoided.
/r/MensRights24/06/23 04:34 PM
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How are men supposed to protect themselves from False Rape Accusations, if the system allows for consent to be retroactively withdrawn? They are not. According to 'so-called' feminists, men have no defense for being rapists men. As I said, according to 'so-called' feminists, men are more or less just slavering penises with a life support system attached, with barely any civilized or intelligent thought and whose only desires are to penetrate women, whether they want it or not, and do so whenever…
/r/MensRights24/06/23 04:31 PM
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My advice? Get ahead of it. You can either go to HR-- yes, HR is NOT your friend, but at the same time that they exist to serve the company and keep the company from bad shit, you can use them in the potential idea that if you have said something first, she cannot as easily come along and say something terribly negative about you to HR at a later time. They would already have you on record-- so to speak-- having come to them, not hiding anything, and therefore, it would be more of 'an accident' …
/r/MensRights24/06/23 09:31 AM
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Unfortunately- and yes, I'm sorry if this sounds terrible, but- you screwed up by trying to ask a coworker out for a drink. I learned just like you, the hard way- never, ever, try to personalize any of your professional life. Your job is your job, your coworkers are only your coworkers, and you never try to do anything at work but your job.
/r/MensRights24/06/23 09:20 AM
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I don't understand what is so controversal on having safe guards in place to ensure that innocent men aren't punished, exiled etc over a false accusation... To a reasonable and logical person, there is nothing controversial about the idea of "innocent until proven guilty", in a nutshell. To those who have a misandrist-like agenda, and/or for those who are among the more fervent of the 'so-called' feminist, being unable to unilaterally blame all men makes their own struggles more difficult. It's …
/r/MensRights24/06/23 09:16 AM
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And again, you don't read. I stated my opinion- which is what was asked. There is no gaslighting in that. There is no gaslighting anywhere in my words, so feel free to gaslight yourself on that matter. And where is it said that I can't say that I think, that my opinion, that passport bros are toxic, is something I can't give voice to? Mind you, you're more than free to state what you think is wrong with women- I may or may not agree with you. But my opinion stands, no matter how much you feel ga…
/r/MensRights18/06/23 02:04 PM
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sigh Apparently, you don’t read. At no point, did I say that “men are the most toxic element”. I DID say that I thought the passport bros were toxic. I also said that it was an opinion, and based on very little info. So how in the delusional fuck does that translate to “men are the most toxic”?
/r/MensRights18/06/23 01:47 PM
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My personal opinion is that passport bros are.....toxic. But I'll admit that's not a very informed opinion; just from the little I've heard from/about them. Are American women problematic? Yeah, they can be. ((So can American men. Meh.)) Would I leave the country because of problematic American women? Fuck no; I've learned how to deal with American women- why would I wanna have to learn about the cultural needs of how to deal with a woman from another country?
/r/MensRights18/06/23 09:34 AM
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Victimhood is power, only when it can be used to achieve elevation; talk to male victims of rape, and tell them that their victimhood is power. I'll wait...... And your personal experiences are your personal experiences. They do not rise to the level of someone being able to exercise racism against you. You just don't want to hear that; you want to be able to justify your own victimhood and find a way to use it to "trump" another's definition of what being racist is. I've already spoken about wh…
/r/MensRights16/06/23 06:40 PM
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For one, we're not talking about the power of an individual, and two, even if that were an example that could be used, it still would not fit into the definition of racism. It could and likely would be fitting of the definition of prejudice, and hatred, and fucked up behavior, though. But I've defined what racism is-- at least insofar as how I'm meaning it within the context of why women's sexism and black people's [NOT-]racism are not equitable arguments. So, again- and still- not the same argu…
/r/MensRights16/06/23 06:34 PM
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Personally, I feel like I won't be silenced by anyone- if I speak my words, and some feminist feels upset because what I've said doesn't sound pro-feminism, that's just too damned bad. I care not for how much a feminist might call me a misogynist, or an intel, or any of those things; I know who I am, and I'm not defined by their ideals of who I am as a man. And I have never tried to imply that hatred has a justification. All I've said, largely, is that the arguments of women's justification of t…
/r/MensRights16/06/23 06:30 PM
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BLM was not composed of just black people. So your argument there is rather weak. And your sarcasm falls flat. Black violence, black pressure, do not equate to black power. In the cases of black violence, if it doesn’t affect anyone else than black people, it is largely ignored; if it affects others, like white people, black people are viewed and judged and treated harshly; no one treats white people with the same level of judgment or treatment for violence against black people. As for your pers…
/r/MensRights15/06/23 09:21 AM
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That is so fucking ridiculous as to be almost hilarious! I want you to go and look up the stats on "black on black" violence, "white on white" violence, and then "black on white" violence, and then show all of us here, just how much "black on white" violence there is, compared to the other two. I'll wait..........................................
/r/MensRights15/06/23 07:35 AM
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Let me point out that, if you did walk through certain part of Chicago, and you were attacked, you would be less likely to be killed, or if you were, a lot more resources would be put into place to solve your death. There is power in that- power you may not personally realize or acknowledge, and not power I could personally realize, but power nonetheless. And privilege. The power I speak of is not an individual power- it is a social power of the group. That being said, women as an "oppressed" gr…
/r/MensRights15/06/23 06:44 AM
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Oh, I'm sure I have privileges. They are the result of living in a "first world" country. I've not denied that. I am not focused on the harm, nor on being a victim. I'm focused on the idea that one thinks that sexism and racism are the exact same argument, and they are not. Beyond that, I'm cool.
/r/MensRights15/06/23 06:38 AM
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Racism has existed since the introduction of the concept of "white" verses "black"-- and that has been since the late 1600s. The "power" of racism has been apparent in housing, voting, economics, health care, employment, education, and imprisonment, among other portions of our society, at least since the era of the civil war. Sexism is not as pervasive or as prevalently found in those portions of our society as racism is. Sexism is a much newer concept, and while it has spread into some of those…
/r/MensRights15/06/23 06:37 AM
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Cool. We agree on that last thing. Now, would I die on that hill, about racism? Yeah. Yeah, I would. And you'd be wrong about me having met "an actual racist". You make assumptions that my talk of the 'power' that exists is indoctrination. But never having 'felt' the power of racism used against you, you wouldn't know that it exists. Perhaps that is privilege. Perhaps that is the bliss of ignorance. Either way, I think you should be thankful you've never had to feel it.
/r/MensRights15/06/23 06:23 AM
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I can agree- I'm tired of the arguments, plural. Yes, they are bullshit. Sexism and racism can be defined the same way, but that does not make them the same thing. I'm so thankful, though, that you've not been on the receiving end of racism to understand what it actually is about. I think you should be thankful for that, too.
/r/MensRights15/06/23 05:45 AM
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Buddy, I live with racism. That you, think you can tell me what is and isn't racism, is laughable at best. No, they are not equivalent. Sharing similarities, does not make them equivalent. I've made my statement. You don't have to agree with it. But I'm not wrong. It's obvious you've never met an actual person who has been subjected to racism, and it shows. Otherwise, you wouldn't be so quick to assume that you know what racism is. I won't say "racists don't know what racism is", and I won't try…
/r/MensRights15/06/23 05:42 AM
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You are highly misguided, apparently. And logic seems to fail you as well. Racism is power. That you don't see that, tells me many things about you. But even if I were to agree with you on that matter, you still miss my point. I'm not saying anything that a little bit of reading and some application of logic cannot give understanding to. I can understand if you don't agree with me, that's just fine; we don't have to agree. But you seem to think that your points-- no matter how much you keep shou…
/r/MensRights15/06/23 05:37 AM
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And I'm telling you that the arguments are not the same. I'm also telling you that those people who try to say that the arguments are the same, are misguided.
/r/MensRights15/06/23 05:08 AM
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It is within the ballpark.
/r/MensRights15/06/23 12:37 AM
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Let me try to simplify this: The difference is that women can use their hate to affect men; black people cannot use their hate to affect white people. That is how they are not the same argument. The fact some people try to make a logical correlation of the two arguments does not make their attempts valid.
/r/MensRights15/06/23 12:35 AM
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I never said sexism isn’t systemic- but not in the same way, or in the same depth as racism. But sexism is not intrenched in our society, and I’m talking about generationally. Sexism, as it is now, is relatively new, compared to racism, and is not used in the same ways; one’s education is not as affected from sexism as it is from racism. One’s likelihood of being shot by the police isn’t as affected from sexism as it is from racism. One’# ability to receive treatment in the hospital isn’t as aff…
/r/MensRights15/06/23 12:32 AM
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Racism is a socioeconomic construct- it has its reality intrenched in the makeup of our society. Misogeny is- relatively speaking- merely a social construct, and is not intrenched in our society as a whole. So, not equivalent.
/r/MensRights14/06/23 09:36 PM
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>> Its literally the same arguement. If you mean, that [ woman can't be misandrist is = to black people can't be racist to white people ] is the same argument, then you're wrong. Misogeny/Misandry are almost purely social constructions, while racism is not only social, but genetic and economical as well. So in that sense, they are not the same argument. Furthermore, black people cannot relatively apply "reverse racism"-- even if we black folks had it-- in the same fashion to white people, as wom…
/r/MensRights14/06/23 09:34 PM
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Um, no. No. NO! It is not "incredibly rare that an officer shoots an unarmed fleeing suspect". (I tried to post links to various articles as PROOF of my words, but the fucking bot-mods here won't let me put them up.) Further, there is no definitive proof that the man was attempting to kill the officer. And your statement about "99% of "unarmed black man shot" are incidents like this" is racist as fuck, especially when I could find plenty of links to situations where a non-black man was found to …
/r/MensRights12/06/23 09:19 PM
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I have come to the understanding that the group cannot be found in a search, likely due to the group being private. With that in mind, for any who want to join, please post your Facebook name here- if you feel that you can do so- and I will send you an invite to the group.
/r/MensRights12/06/23 07:35 PM
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It is a private group. I guess that means it won't show up in a search. If that is the case, let me know your name on Facebook, and I'll send an invite to you.
/r/MensRights12/06/23 07:34 PM
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This reddit is about men's rights. I was focusing my point to the issue I thought was really relevant-- not whether or not the guy should have gotten off, or whether the cop did/did not do her job properly, but what the fuck happened to the instigator of this situation? That's all.
/r/MensRights11/06/23 03:09 AM
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No offense, but your brother is a virgin by choice. He's choosing to wait for the mythical "one" who he (I believe) thinks will be his one and only for the rest of his life. That is his choice, as misguided as I feel it is- not the "not having sex until" part, but the assumption that when he finds someone, that they will be "the one". The only real action that will "help" with this situation is time. Time for him to realize that he doesn't need "the one" to be complete, to understand that being …
/r/MensRights11/06/23 03:06 AM
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It has. I've posted a time or two on TikTok, stating my opinions and combating such rhetoric. Unfortunately, you just have to be careful and word-selective about what you say as a man, against feminism. But it can be done.
/r/MensRights11/06/23 02:44 AM
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It wasn't stated; so I didn't assume one way or the other. I did occur to me to wonder about that, but the fact I wanted to focus on was, what happened to the knife-wielding woman??? Other than the cop trying to cry and say, "I felt so much compassion for the woman who was in fear of her life" or some other bullshit like that, no one said anything about the woman who was wielding a knife, that the man was running from. All that was talked about was that the cop was upset cuz he got off for assau…
/r/MensRights11/06/23 02:42 AM
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Okay, so I've watched the video. So it goes like this: * Cop is called to a domestic dispute * On arrival, cop sees man running away from woman wielding a knife * Cop goes to detain the man running (not the woman with the knife chasing) * Man fights back against detainment, manages to get cops gun * Cop runs off, man discharges weapon (not aimed at cop) * More cops arrive, arrest man * Man charged with crime (against cop) * Man acquitted due to cop not properly performing duties (she had no true…
/r/MensRights10/06/23 09:24 PM
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Haven't watched the video yet, so... So you're saying the guy got off not because he wasn't guilty of a crime, but because the cop was "guilty" of not following the law properly?? That sounds incredibly fucked up to me....
/r/MensRights10/06/23 09:11 PM
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Aaaaand... "Exit the Pool" has been created! Feel free to join the group. DO NOT TURN THE GROUP INTO A HATEFUL ANTI-FEMINIST SITUATION!! We don't need a reason for Facebook to ban the group! Enjoy!
/r/MensRights09/06/23 10:35 PM
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Well, I've said previously that perhaps some guy should create such a group on Facebook. I even gave it a name. But, maybe instead of everybody waiting around for a mythical someone else to create such a space, I might go ahead and do it myself... Though, I suppose if someone else wants to moderate it and such, feel free to contact me....
/r/MensRights09/06/23 10:12 PM
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That is possible. But, it is also possible that [the law- meant here to encompass the police, the attorneys and the Court system] considers those accused of crimes of SA/SH/R to be 'guilty until proven innocent' and are not in a rush to relinquish them from custody until they absolutely have to, as well. But I do not disagree that there is a possibility that we here do not have the full story of what happened.
/r/MensRights24/05/23 11:31 PM
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This actually can be what happened; depending on the jurisdiction (location) in question, persons awaiting a trial can be held for many months, and even years, before their trial date. "...right to a speedy trial..." means that they (the jurisdiction) gets to a trial date as soon as they believe it is possible to do so... but that doesn't mean that they will shove aside all the other cases (especially those other cases awaiting a 'speedy trial') in order to make a trial date happen within a spec…
/r/MensRights24/05/23 08:28 PM
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I think that it's not the message, and not really even the messenger, but the delivery.
/r/MensRights11/05/23 02:41 PM
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I don't think the point is about equivalency, and more about the woman in question seeming to feel that she has a right to be able to use a public forum to make demands of another's bodily autonomy, when women in general abhor any male's attempt to do the same to them.
/r/MensRights11/05/23 02:36 PM
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Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way. To be honest, all this sounds like you're putting the onus of pregnancy prevention on the woman. That will only fuck you, not her. One- even if you kept track her cycle, there are variances that could allow for a pregnancy to happen, even if her cycle were 100% like clockwork. But it isn't, so that's an issue. Added to that is the fact that even if she takes her birth control religiously, there are factors- some (natural) which can be small and incidental…
/r/MensRights11/05/23 04:30 AM
2

A suggestion, if it hasn't already been done: Men should create a "counter" site, on Facebook, and call it "Exit the Pool"- men would know that the title was a reference to exiting the dating pool, and that it was referencing their exes.They could post stories and edited pics of their exes, just like (I imagine) they do for the women's Facebook site. Keep the pics and stories non-threatening or insulting or in any way perceived o be deliberately "nasty". Facebook couldn't take such a site down w…
/r/MensRights10/05/23 08:29 PM
2

(At the moment, I am stating opinions and beliefs. I will attempt to follow up with facts at a later time, for those things I do not provide "proof" for, at this time.) I understand that you believe you see the issues revolving around the arguments between feminism and MRA. But I will say this: by and large, MRA came about because of the current stance of "so-called" feminism. Most of feminist dogma has to do with empowering women AND disempowering men, under the perception that the majority of …
/r/MensRights08/05/23 11:07 PM
1

It is unfortunate, but yes. You didn't state it in words with clarity that your boundaries and personal space were being invaded without your permission and agreement and consent. You did not state it in words with clarity *after the fact* that you felt that your boundaries and personal space were being invaded without your permission and agreement and consent and that you feel/felt unsettled by that. You have no way of proving that the encounter occurred the way you stated that it did. Because …
/r/MensRights08/05/23 10:39 PM
1

I give downvotes to this comment, simply because while in theory your words should be correct-- that "men and women should both be allowed to flirt", in reality women are allowed to get away with behaviors that men are not, and in this case, if the OP were a woman, there would be numerous people telling them that this was harassment at the very least, and potentially classified as sexual harassment; commenters would be telling them that OP's actions were clearly saying that they didn't want to b…
/r/MensRights08/05/23 10:28 PM
2

There’s a lot more going on with sub-Reddit’s of these types than the little bit you think you’re seeing. Perhaps there are men in this subreddit who are wanting to minimize women’s issues. But there are plenty of very vocal “so-called” feminists, who are loudly denying that men have any issues- unless, of course, it’s because they’re trying to minimize women’s issues by claiming that they (men) have issues. So, there are people on both sides of the aisle, so to speak, who are zealots and do bad…
/r/MensRights25/04/21 03:36 PM
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And you- and others like you- are a part of the problem. Because the problem is not just about the reality of women being assaulted. It is also about the reality of men being falsely accused of assault when they haven’t committed it. That many “so-called” feminists, want to shout out about the former, but categorically deny the latter, is just one of the problems. Those who perpetrate that situation, are also part of the problem.
/r/MensRights25/04/21 06:42 AM
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No, dude- that is your logic. I never said anything about sex being a part of the equation. The original poster implied that non-disclosure (of a transwoman being a transwoman) should be equated to assault, and should be criminalized, because they were of the mind that having sex with a transwoman is akin to sexual assault/rape. What I said, was that not disclosing— AND NO CONSIDERATION OF SEX IN THAT SITUATION— is NOT an assault. Meaning, just the fact of not disclosing that a transwoman is a t…
/r/MensRights18/04/21 08:15 PM
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No, not deflecting. Never have. I pointed out that disclosure, WITHOUT any sexual possibility, is NOT: having sex under false pretenses; assault; rape As were overtly implied by the original poster in their comments. So, yeah, YOU and others were talking about sex. I was not. The argument came, when you continued to talk about sex, and tell me that I was trying to say that non-disclosure WITH sexual possibilities, was okay- I never said or implied that. So, the fault is with you and yours, who w…
/r/MensRights18/04/21 06:09 AM
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I’m glad you agree with me. You first stated that not disclosing was equatable to assault and should be criminalized. I responded that non-disclosure- IF there was no sex happening- is NOT assault, and therefore should not be criminalized. I was making a distinction between your flawed statement, and the truth. I also agreed with you that if you felt that sex with a transwoman without disclosure felt like assault/rape to you, that for you that should be the truth. That folks want to make a blank…
/r/MensRights18/04/21 06:05 AM
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No- YOU and others have argued with me, for no reason. I wasn’t saying anything about sex, or rape. That was all on you.
/r/MensRights18/04/21 05:48 AM
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And with you, I am not disagreeing. The point where you seem to be in disagreement with what I’ve said is that my comments were directed towards another poster- I was trying to emphasize that they cannot enforce criminal actions upon transwomen for not disclosing to them (seemingly in all circumstances)- but that if they feel that interacting with a transwoman who did not disclose their status (seemingly in all circumstances) is trickery, then they could be the one to ask, so that they can be em…
/r/MensRights18/04/21 05:44 AM
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I’m not the one with a reading comprehension issue. I said that, if there is no sex happening, a trans person does not NEED to disclose. That is the beginning AND the END of my discussion on the matter there.
/r/MensRights18/04/21 05:39 AM
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And the issue is that I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT SEX. You have been missing the bus, if that has been YOUR beef with this matter, because I have not been talking about that. And I haven’t been, from the beginning.
/r/MensRights18/04/21 05:37 AM
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Consent for sexual interactions is a factor. Consent simply to say hello, is NOT a factor. A transwoman does not need your consent to: - sit next to you on the bus; - be taken out on a date by you; - serve you food And a transwoman telling you about herself, just to tell it, with NO POTENTIAL FOR SEX TO HAPPEN, is not ANYTHING that needs your consent.
/r/MensRights18/04/21 05:34 AM
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Rape is rape, but not disclosing- and then no sex happening- is not in any way, shape or form, rape. So, yeah, you are splitting hairs. And if you can’t see what I’m talking about, verses what YOU are talking about, then the issue is with you, not transwomen.
/r/MensRights18/04/21 05:31 AM
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....IF you were going to have sex with them. If all you’re doing is going out for a cup of coffee, then NO, you don’t have to tell them that you have AIDS- in your example. Likewise, unless and/or until a transwoman is going to have sex with a man, she does not have to or need to disclose that she is trans. Those of you who are talking about consent: If you’re trying to say that a transwoman should tell you about who she is, even if all you’re doing is dating (with no sex happening), or even jus…
/r/MensRights18/04/21 05:29 AM
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Again- that’s splitting hairs; disclosing that one is trans, is not equated to having sex with a woman, trans or not. So consent in that regard is not even a factor.
/r/MensRights18/04/21 05:22 AM
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Aaand, no, that’s not what I’ve been saying at all, if you’re responding to anything I’ve said. If you re-read, and you still think that that’s what I’m saying, then I would imagine that you’re not actually reading what I’ve said.
/r/MensRights18/04/21 05:21 AM
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You’re splitting hairs here, I feel. You want to make the lack of disclosure a criminal act, it seems- and I disagree with you, about that. I’ve mentioned that I agree with you that YOU should not have to feel assaulted, and I agree with you that a transwoman should be willing to disclose, but I do not agree that a transwoman should have to disclose. Until you get to the sexual act, there is no need to worry about consent for sex, whether the woman is a cis-woman or a transwoman.
/r/MensRights18/04/21 05:20 AM
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I agree with you. But I was offering the suggestion to another poster, who seems to feel that a trans person should have to disclose to someone- my point was that, if they felt so strongly about not having sex with a trans person- or, at least, not unknowingly having sex with a trans person, then perhaps they should ask. That way, they aren’t going into the situation unknowingly.
/r/MensRights18/04/21 04:48 AM
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YOU would decline- but not all men would, and so your argument is flawed, in saying that transwomen ((the implication in your words being that your statement applies to all of them)) should be charged criminally. Now... do I think that transwomen should be willing to disclose, IF the situation is moving towards a sexual one, SO THAT the other person can make a valid and genuine decision? Yes. But I understand why they don’t, sometimes. And not doing so, is NOT assault; they could simply decide n…
/r/MensRights18/04/21 04:42 AM
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I’m addressing the title/question, “Should men just stay away from women?” My answer: No. Men staying away from women, will not ever fix the problem. Men need to STOP coddling women. And to be fair, ALL men need to stop coddling women. Force women (so to speak) to have to deal with men on an equal level. Stop catering to the unspoken expectations of women; make them tell men what they want, or don’t want. Stop allowing women to hit men without being hit in return; if enough men hit back when the…
/r/MensRights18/04/21 02:58 AM
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I actually disagree with the above statements. Most transwomen don’t disclose that they were once men, because of fear that they’ll be beaten or killed. I don’t think that having that fear— and the fact that because of that fear, they don’t disclose that info— should in any way be a criminal sex offense. Just like some might say “well, transwomen should tell me ahead of time!” ((So that they can decide if they want to reject the transwoman, or call her names instead)), I would challenge those wh…
/r/MensRights18/04/21 02:45 AM
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If you read my words, I’m not bashing feminism- I’m bashing “so-called” feminism. I suppose I could have been more clear on that— “so called” feminism is what I call it when a person is so involved in their own plight that they not only do not see the issues their actions may be causing someone else- in this case, men in general- or that they are not the only ones to suffer in that fashion, but that they stridently deny that anything they are doing could in any way could be harmful to anyone, de…
/r/MensRights08/04/21 09:22 PM
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Yes, it is hard to prove rape at times. It is also hard to prove false allegations. The point I’m making is that those two things are not mutually and completely exclusive to one another. And, the point I’m making is that it seems that many of the “so-called” feminists are trying to highlight women’s plights, at the same time as they deny those of men. While tooting your own horn is not problematic, when you do it in a way that means your actions/behavior are at the detriment of another, that is…
/r/MensRights08/04/21 09:11 PM
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My point being, that it’s extremely rare to be falsely accused of rape and even if your are, your chances of being charged or spending time in jail are basically non-existent. I just re-read your post, and this statement jumped out at me. All I can say is that, those who think this statement, are hypocrites. “Oh, I suffer! My pain is terrible! -Wait, what do you mean you have pain? Really? I don’t see you having pain....” I mean, woman want to say “Oh, rape ruins our lives!” But if a man says th…
/r/MensRights08/04/21 02:15 PM
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And in addition... Many of the stats about the prevalence— or lack thereof— of ‘false allegations’ are themselves false, especially the “only 2-8%” bullshit. If anyone takes those stats as ‘gospel’— like many so-called feminists do— then they are delusional and lacking in intelligent consideration. While “only 2-8%” of allegations can be proven to be false, that does NOT mean that the rest are true. The most recent studies that I was able to find- dating back to about 2013, from my own research-…
/r/MensRights08/04/21 08:26 AM
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As someone who has been accused of rape and sexual assault, I take this subject very seriously as well!! One can believe a woman when she says she’s been raped/sexually assaulted, AND AT THE SAME TIME one can believe that any accused person IS and should BE innocent until PROVEN guilty. One can believe a woman, even when her story isn’t fully coherent, AND AT THE SAME TIME one can believe that the TRUTH must be investigated, BEFORE accusations are hurled about. One can believe that a woman feels…
/r/MensRights08/04/21 08:09 AM
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I’ve read through most of the posts here, and this is how I’d take the advice given. 1) Document all that you’ve been through up to this point. 2) Don’t completely ignore the detention; go to your principal, and all other “authority” parties, and inform them that if they stand by giving you detention, and not giving detention to your bully, especially when you’ve been reporting her behavior to them for quite some time, that they are effectively telling you that they will tolerate bullying, and t…
/r/MensRights01/04/21 06:12 AM
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No offense, but she’s a teen-aged girl. She is going to do it again. Because she is a girl, and especially because she is a teenaged girl. In this time in our society, women young and old only need to make an allegation of improper behavior on the part of a man; there does not need to be any proof that the action took place. And I am 100 percent certain that this young woman knows this.
/r/MensRights01/04/21 06:00 AM
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I’ve also heard about that- that some physicians are now not willing to perform a vasectomy without the informing (and in some cases, the consent) of the spouse. So no, it’s not a case of “women are made to get consent, but men just get snipped”. We men are screwed by doctors/need for spousal informing/consent, too. But whether a doctor will perform a tubal ligation (or vasectomy) or not is NOT determinable by U.S. law, but by whatever policies that the doctor/clinic/hospital in question decide.…
/r/MensRights01/04/21 05:44 AM
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Not all men. The person who is complaining about women being able to make money with OF, and men who cannot.... well, that’s their schtick. Personally, I’m just tired of women trying to claim that life is sooooo unfair and oppressed for them. Those particular feminists, in my opinion, need to grow up. Women in the “western” world, have it pretty damned good, and soo much better than their counterparts in more repressive cultures. I won’t say that there aren’t things that need to be, and can be, …
/r/MensRights01/04/21 05:30 AM
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Since it seems we’re playing this game..... I wish I could go outside and not have a higher chance of being arrested or murdered for the color of my skin. Feel better now?
/r/MensRights01/04/21 05:19 AM
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I understand the way you feel; I believe I feel similarly. At the same time, however, considering that it is incredibly difficult for men to be “raped” by women, in general, this ruling really doesn’t do anything more than what is already the fucked up status quo- at least for men. Now, forgive me if you feel differently about this, but I could look at it from this standpoint: 1) Don’t attempt to have sex with another person if you’ve been drinking; and/or 2) Don’t have sex with another person i…
/r/MensRights29/03/21 07:24 AM
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insert sarcasm here Don’t you know? Toxic femininity only exists because of Patriarchy! Male entitlement has created feminine toxicity, because women are only responding to the systemic oppression they exist in every single day with no ability to find agency of their own, so the only choice they have is to behave in these ways! end sarcasm
/r/MensRights29/03/21 07:15 AM
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How about this for a counterstatement: “Because only a small percentage of so-called victims of sexual assault actually go to the police about their trauma, it should not be “believe all women”...” And see how much outrage that causes. Once the furor dies down, then hit them with this: 1) If you feel that my saying that was ignorant and idiotic, then you’re right. Saying “Because only a small percentage of sexual assault allegations are false, it should be guilty until proven innocent" is just a…
/r/MensRights19/10/20 02:08 AM
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No, you’re not alone. Some of us, though, aren’t interested in digging up those finally long-buried feelings of anger, depression, self-loathing, guilt, confusion and betrayal.
/r/MensRights08/10/20 06:32 AM
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I applaud you for your attempt to rationalize the thinking of some “so-called” feminists. But there ARE plenty of “so-called” feminists who DO think that false accusations are a myth, and that no man could ever be the victim of rape, especially by a woman. Logic and rationality are NOT hallmarks for that particular line of thinking for those particular persons.
/r/MensRights08/10/20 06:30 AM
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Only 3 percent of all accused rapists (of either gender) were convicted. Three out of hundred. The OP is speaking about pre-conviction, where the alleged rapist can and at times IS put into jail— where one goes, prior to a conviction of rape, where POST-conviction, they go to prison. So, technically, the statement can be truthful. And unfortunately, there are quite a few stories about young men who were raped statutorily, and their rapist became pregnant, and once the victim became an “adult”, h…
/r/MensRights08/10/20 06:24 AM
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((sigh)) And I just made a comment about this in another topic. Here’s the article, that should help shed some light on the question from the OP: http://www.nationalreview.com/corner/416536/how-common-are-false-rape-charges-really-jason-richwine
/r/MensRights04/10/20 01:19 AM
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Not this shit again. ((shaking my head....)) There’s no HARD statistical information, and certainly no real statistical information after, say 2015– that I know of, but I’m not always trawling through the internet, so I could have missed a bunch- but here’s an article that will state that the “only 2-8% of false accusations are true” bullshit is just that- bullshit. http://www.nationalreview.com/corner/416536/how-common-are-false-rape-charges-really-jason-richwine Now....whether you want to pret…
/r/MensRights04/10/20 01:14 AM
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No offense, but you’re asking women to apply logic. Think about that for a moment. ((And no, I’m not ANTI-feminist, so much as I recognize in instances like this, women do NOT TEND to consider the logic of the situation— which would be that THEY would have to be subjected to the possibility of having their infidelity exposed before they could profit from it— because, let’s be honest; any woman who would (IMO) object to this/oppose this, would only do so because she wouldn’t want her cheating beh…
/r/MensRights22/09/20 12:09 AM
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ADDED: Not only should you tell your co-workers, but also: * Tell someone in a management/HR position, and ask to be able to have the matter put on record; * Type up your words of the situation as soon as possible, and make a copy of it available to management/HR- and in addition, make copies of the document, have them dated and notarized, and then sealed in envelopes, where AT LEAST ONE copy can be held for an attorney, JUST IN CASE you happen to need one; * Very carefully, let management/HR kn…
/r/MensRights21/09/20 12:19 AM
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Unfortunately, you can’t really predict nor dictate how your co-workers will emotionally respond to your declaration. But you should tell them, anyway. One, telling it to your co-workers makes it known that an incident has occurred— and better for YOU to get out in front of it, then to come in to work on your next shift, and find out that she decided to say that you had initiated some unwanted sexual contact with her. Two, telling it to your co-workers should make it clear that you’re serious ab…
/r/MensRights21/09/20 12:13 AM
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Huh?? Um.... to whose comment were you intending this to be a reply to?
/r/MensRights02/09/20 06:25 PM
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Actually, it does not “back up what you said”. The article states that it is difficult to accurately determine the percentage beyond 10% because of other, inherent factors, and that the actual percentage of false rape accusations could be much higher. Now, if you’re going by your “statement” of “a rape accusation (reported rape accusation) has an equal chance of being true or false”, I won’t disagree with that. I did say that your statistics are wrong, and I believe that the article backs that u…
/r/MensRights30/08/20 06:29 AM
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I think your statistic is wrong. http://www.nationalreview.com/corner/416536/how-common-are-false-rape-charges-really-jason-richwine But here’s an article that you might could consider to be “proof”....
/r/MensRights25/08/20 08:50 AM
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I do believe that your statistics are wrong. http://www.nationalreview.com/corner/416536/how-common-are-false-rape-charges-really-jason-richwine Here’s something that you might could consider to be “proof”, though.....
/r/MensRights25/08/20 08:46 AM
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This is actually untrue. Statistically speaking, the average provability of false rape accusations is about 5-10%, give or take a couple of percentage points. The most recent study that I had found— and that was from around 2013– stated that the potential truth of actual false rape accusations was significantly HIGHER than just “2-8%”, as most of the idiotic folk like to quote. (Edit: here’s the article in question: http://www.nationalreview.com/corner/416536/how-common-are-false-rape-charges-re…
/r/MensRights25/08/20 08:15 AM
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I’m sure that somewhere, there is a[t least one] woman who is positively outraged that this happened to a woman!!! But would have absolutely NO problems with this if the genders were reversed....
/r/MensRights10/08/20 07:31 AM
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Let me offer a different view of the matter. You’re bothered that someone has said, “well, men can be gang raped, too!” and only provided one example, to your ideology of “thousands” of women who might be gang rapped by men. How about how women are significantly more likely to simply be patted on the head and dismissed, when they commit statutory rape? There is no “sexual affair” between a women who is in her twenties, and a young man of 14 or even 16. Yet, it is very rarely called “rape” when a…
/r/MensRights06/08/20 07:46 PM
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No. The reason this post of yours is being downvoted could be because this statistic, and your quote, are wrong.. If you want to give the statistic correctly, you would say that “roughly about 8% of false rape accusations can be proven to be false”— that is a significant difference from that statistic, which basically says that, of all rape accusations, “roughly 8% of rape accusations are false”. No, “false rape accusations are maybe 2-10% of the rape accusations” is NOT true. It should be “Prov…
/r/MensRights06/08/20 07:38 PM
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Oh, I’m sooooooo sorry that you seem to think that anyone offering a rational argument that doesn’t align with your beliefs is bad or dumb. I suppose I’ll just go sit in a corner of my mom’s basement and cry like I was Elliot Rodgers. Yeah, right. Like you matter that much to me. Anyway.........
/r/MensRights07/07/20 03:32 PM
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The title of the post reads “After Taking Away Child Custody From Father....” And the court did not take away custody of the child from the father; he gave it away. So yeah, while him not being able to regain custody of his child is definitely a fucked up thing, he still contributed to the shitstorm that happened. Just like I would say to a drunk, half-naked woman that, while it wasn’t her fault that she was.....assaulted, she contributed to what happened by letting herself get drunk and not tak…
/r/MensRights04/07/20 10:17 PM
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I think you might misunderstand me. In my words, I”m not saying “don’t talk about the matter”— believe me, I am fully on-board with the fact that this matter needs discussing. What I was referring to, was to paying any attention whatsoever to the troll. We should ignore the troll, and focus on the real matter that needs discussion. Or, that’s my opinion, anyway...
/r/MensRights04/07/20 12:43 AM
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Doesn’t the internet generally say, “Don’t feed the trolls”?? And yet, that’s what everyone who is responding directly to Throwaway_3687 is doing- feeding that troll! I imagine that those of us who actually know differently, actually know that whomever this is, is just here to seek attention and cause trouble. Why give them the satisfaction of that attention? Just let the poor little thing be. This sub is about men’s rights, not about arguing with someone who thrives on causing anguish. Let’s po…
/r/MensRights03/07/20 06:59 AM
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However, Rajesh handed over the custody of the child to Meena and also signed an MOU that he would never seek custody of his daughter again This. This is where it was his fault. He gave his daughter away- custody of her was not taken from him. Was the mother’s behavior very shitty, for then giving away custody of the daughter to an orphanage? In my opinion, yes. But dear ole dad, was no saint in this shitstorm.
/r/MensRights03/07/20 06:45 AM
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Those people are called “(so-called) feminists”. Oh- and SJWs. Yes, I’m feeling a little snarky. Please forgive me. Or, not....
/r/MensRights23/06/20 04:15 PM
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Perhaps I don’t have all the information. All I saw, was someone- presumably male- speaking about a woman staring at him, and the response from that, was from (presumably) a woman, talking about a man staring at her. That seems dissonant to me... it would have been a good opportunity to address inequality, to address “sketchy” in any or all people who would engage in that behavior, rather than just point that behavior out in males, especially after a guy mentioned that same “sketchy” behavior in…
/r/MensRights23/06/20 04:11 PM
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Your words seem to be reasonable, and you come across as a woman. (sigh) Perhaps I don’t have all of the info, regarding the original post above. But as a man, I would be uncomfortable with a woman staring at me, just as there are women who would be uncomfortable with a man staring at them. And that’s the part where the generalization gets in the way and becomes a problem. Yes, it DOES makes sense to mistrust STRANGERS, no matter their gender. I would ask that folks- and especially those who cal…
/r/MensRights23/06/20 04:02 PM
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....But wherein is there any mention of what the strange girl did by AlphaWhiskey? I mean, PossiblyPolaris was talking about a strange girl staring at him, and making him feel a bit uncomfortable- and then AlphaWhiskey talks about how girls feel uncomfortable when a guy stares at them— but there’s been no comment about the strange girl. That, to me, seems to be where the generalization comes in- the girl speaks about the ‘sketchy’ behavior, but talks about that behavior in men— but seems to avoi…
/r/MensRights22/06/20 05:16 AM
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There are people in this world who refuse to acknowledge anything that they don’t agree with. But then again, why are we surprised? For the longest time, there were people who believed that the world was flat. There are still people who think the moon landing was faked. Why be amazed that some (women) seem to think that there’s nothing wrong with being self-serving c***s? And, just for the record...I only call women by that deplorable insult when they do/say things that make them deserving of it…
/r/MensRights15/06/20 05:20 AM
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Can we tweet her back, and call her ugly, then??
/r/MensRights14/06/20 03:33 PM
1

How to avoid being falsely accused of rape? Well, avoid Tinder, for one. Avoid having sex with someone on the first date, for another. Make sure that you are clear and explicit in all that you do, and if you think for even a moment that you should be recording to protect yourself, then do so— - Tell her, “I should record this, just for my protection” and say it in a joking manner, but don’t be obvious that you’e actually doing it - —that way, IF you actually need to use the recording, you can ma…
/r/MensRights13/06/20 04:18 AM
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This guy was waaaaaaay too nice to his ex (the crazy one). Getting the police involved would have been the first thing I would have done...
/r/MensRights13/06/20 03:57 AM
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But— and though I can only speak for myself— the main point I take away from this is that the situation (where a woman coerces or forces a man to penetrate her, or uses an object to penetrate a man) is not called rape, though the reverse situation (where a male coerces or forces a woman into sexual intercourse with him, or uses an object to penetrate a woman) IS called rape, and that’s the sticking point that some of the more extreme “so-called” feminists may use, that what a woman does to a man…
/r/MensRights09/06/20 07:49 PM
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My biggest regrets? Being so dishonest in the first place and also not being aware that it was so easy for Harry to track me down. So it's not being dishonest that she regrets-- and leave it at that. She also regrets not being keen enough to hide her dirty shit from her (now ex-)hubby. Really?? How fucked up is that?
/r/MensRights25/02/19 06:26 AM
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I could focus on the fact that his mistake was not to confirm that the young woman was the age she said she was; in this day and age, taking a (young any-age teenage) woman's word for how old she is, without making sure-- if for no other reason than to cover his ass???--makes him a fool. But I won't focus on that. What I'll point out is that she lied about her age, and because of her lie, she aided and assisted in someone else committing a crime. For that fact, SHE should face criminal charges a…
/r/MensRights21/02/19 12:55 AM
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...she gets put over his knee and has her grown little six-year-old ass spanked like the child she is!
/r/MensRights31/01/19 05:08 PM
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Because r/feminism is pretty much for feminists, and pro-feminists. Anyone who disagrees with feminists-- and if you associate in any way with any non-feminist reddit [and r/mensrights is presumed by feminists to be in disagreement/opposition to r/feminism], you are automatically assumed to disagree with feminists-- then they are banned from posting any comments in r/feminism as soon as they are discovered.
/r/MensRights31/01/19 06:58 AM
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AnotherDAM said "IT GETS WORSE", but it's actually worse than that person posted. Not only is the accused FALSELY convicted, and then DENIED a retrial because the DA feels that it violates the "Rape Shield Law"-- which, IMO, it definitely DOES NOT, and even beyond the fact that the entire case was built upon bias, there's even this further travesty: Jacobsen had another girlfriend who was pregnant with his child when he ended things with the victim, and said at trial that he was 150 miles away i…
/r/MensRights28/01/19 05:00 AM
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No offense, but no. The problem is that feminist need to stop blaming men for the problems of the world, period, full stop. Rape is NOT a "man's" problem. Sexual harassment is NOT simply "toxic masculinity". The way men and women see things differently is not "gaslighting". "Manspreading" and "Mansplaining" are NOT things. Feminism- as it stands currently- has coined these phrases and made them something that men do, not things that anyone, including OTHER WOMEN, do. Feminism as it currently sta…
/r/MensRights25/01/19 03:00 AM
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Agreed. Now, convince those feminists (the ones who do this to men, the 'man haters', as you say) to stop posting things painting all men as abusers. Then, maybe we can all agree to sit down and actually get to what the TRUE problems between men and women are...
/r/MensRights25/01/19 02:50 AM
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That poor guy....and those poor kids... ...all because mom decided to fuck around... I hope he gets his money...
/r/MensRights23/01/19 10:29 AM
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Does this sub actually care about the issues of men or is it a woman hating sub? (self.MensRights) submitted 39 minutes ago by infp_arvvays First, let me say, this is not a woman-hating subreddit. Personally, if/when I happen to be here, and I see posts that seem to lean too far in that direction, I try to moderate (meaning, to help make less extreme) those posts, to make it clear that not everyone here is hating on women. But just like in life, there are going to be some folks everywhere who ar…
/r/MensRights22/01/19 04:13 AM
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And I said from the start that I was just replying to the words, not cutting on you at all. We're not arguing- not as far as I'm concerned. I AM saying, though, that those women don't deserve what they're arguing about, if their arguments contain ideals like you've mentioned.
/r/MensRights21/01/19 07:41 AM
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The mother is involved in supporting the child, but child support should not EVER be a recompense for the mother's part in supporting HER child. Child support is for the non-custodial (and usually least present) parent to give monetary support to the child BECAUSE they are not as present in the child's life as the custodial parent, and the money is in lieu of-- that is, to replace-- that (non custodial) parent's other, non-financial support that they aren't giving because they're not around. YOU…
/r/MensRights20/01/19 02:18 AM
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What the fuck is this mess??
/r/MensRights19/01/19 03:11 AM
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((Not ripping on you at all- just a 'response' to your statement-)) If a mother wants to purchase cosmetics, spa treatments, jewelry, etc., she should have a job enough to pay for those things out of her own pocket-- child support is for the child, not for the mother.
/r/MensRights18/01/19 10:45 PM
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And how likely do you think that the OP (a man) would win a civil lawsuit of that sort against his ex-wife, who has children? I think the likelihood of his winning is pretty much zero.
/r/MensRights08/01/19 11:01 PM
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Your sarcasm is subtle, young padawan... thumbs up
/r/MensRights08/01/19 01:48 AM
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Unfortunately, that's not likely to work. Unless the OP were to gain custody of the children-- and being that they are not his, biologically, while the Family Court will say that they are his, with respect to insisting that he be the one to be financially responsible (instead of the Court/State), because they are not his biologically, the odds are that he would NOT be able to gain custody of the children unless there was an criminal situation with mom that just COULD NOT be ignored or swept unde…
/r/MensRights07/01/19 10:24 PM
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IF she purposefully chose meal options that were so relatively expensive, then I think he was within his rights to not pay for such an expensive meal.
/r/MensRights07/01/19 10:18 PM
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What do I need to know for the divorce? The first thing you need to know is that, for the purposes of financially supporting the children, you are the father. Unfortunately, not only does Family Court not particularly care that you are not biologically the male parent of your children, they actually insist that, because the children were born within the institution of [your] marriage, those children belong to you. Additionally, the Family Court insists that, because you have 1) been already taki…
/r/MensRights07/01/19 05:05 AM
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"What will it take to have an honest conversation about the root of men’s sadism?" For one, stop implying that men's default state of being happens to be one of "sadism"...
/r/MensRights29/12/18 06:07 AM
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Stay the fuck away from Mizzou, then!
/r/MensRights28/12/18 12:06 PM
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Ahhh...so I see. You were equating my explanation of the situation with my condoning of the situation. That’s where YOU went wrong. If you’d simply asked me if I agreed with that practice, of choosing pretty people over competent people, then you’d have gotten “NO” as my answer. There. Fixed that for you.
/r/MensRights23/12/18 11:27 PM
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I'm male, AND black. So, if you're asking me, do I still feel that pretty women are getting those "first look" type jobs, like receptionist and such, where their pretty faces are the currency for loosening money from one company/organization to another? Yes, yes I do.
/r/MensRights23/12/18 06:42 AM
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Well, despite what some folks here might say, I'll give you some reasonable advice. 1) If you know for a fact that you didn't do it, then stick to your guns and remain adamant that you didn't do it. 2) If you are not sure IF you did it OR not, then admit that you don't know, BUT that you WILL NOT apologize for something that you didn't do if there's nothing other than her word saying that you did it. In other words, if there's no proof that it happened, that you did it, you say that. And then, a…
/r/MensRights23/12/18 04:56 AM
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Seriously fuuuuuck those bank owners and lawyers who don't want dudes in the office unless they can make them tons of money. That's it. It's not the experience- or lack of. It's the gender. That's not to say that I'm saying that this is a "women are the issue here" thing- this is simply a matter of women getting the job just because they are women. The (in most cases) men doing the hiring, are A) looking for the face they want to see at their receptionist/exec assistant position every morning, a…
/r/MensRights23/12/18 04:44 AM
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So did the OP report her to the mods of that social media application? That woman should be banned from that SMA for her use of racist language, among other things...
/r/MensRights23/12/18 01:12 AM
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SEBASTOPOL (BCN) A 17-year-old girl was arrested Thursday on suspicion of attempting to murder a former boyfriend by running over him with her car at Analy High School in Sebastopol, police said. Witnesses said the driver deliberately struck the victim with her vehicle, ran over him and tried to leave the scene, police said. Video from a surveillance camera showed the girl quickly backing her vehicle out of a parking space as the 17-year-old boy walked nearby in the parking lot, police said. The…
/r/MensRights22/12/18 01:33 AM
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"Missed/missing payment" and "past due" are two different circumstances, at least here in the United States. You can be making payments, but * if those payments are deemed to be less than sufficient (due to having a job where your earnings are not sufficient for making adequate payment for child support), * or you are already 'past due', a) due to being assessed for child support in an unfair way (as in, the Court awarding child support, backdated from x years ago, which can and does happen), or…
/r/MensRights20/12/18 05:13 PM
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Its not saying one or two payments. 6 full months worth of missed payments. Thats not just "I am having a tough time making payments" that is "I am not paying at all". On this, I disagree. You can be in arrears, even if you are paying as much as you are physically able to every month. And if you are "having a tough time making payments", you (as a male, at least) can still be considered to be "past due" on your child support-- i.e., in arrears-- and you can still be designated "unable to renew" …
/r/MensRights20/12/18 04:52 PM
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...but it [seems like it] took her being tens of thousands of dollars in arrears before that warrant for her arrest was issued. I will simply state that the system regarding child support is rather decidedly biased against men.
/r/MensRights20/12/18 04:40 PM
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Yeah... fuckalladat. If she can hit me, she can get hit by me, too. I don't condone hitting a woman-- but then again, I don't condone hitting anyone. I say, "If you don't wanna get hit, keep your hands to yourself".
/r/MensRights18/12/18 10:26 PM
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Apparently [according to Feminism] men can’t be VICTIMS of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. The woman in the video, however, is not a feminist, AND- at least on this issue- she is very much AGAINST the feminist ideology that seems to think that men can’t be victims.
/r/MensRights18/12/18 07:40 PM
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TBH, the woman in the video is actually being sarcastic towards the feminist ideology that men can’t be victims. So, she’s not actually saying/believing that men cannot be victims.
/r/MensRights18/12/18 07:38 PM
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To summarize: Men saying "not all men" is insensitive because every woman has to fear all men because there's no way to know if any particular man is good or not, and if making a man feel bad by labeling all men as bad doesn't sit well with men, well, fuck 'em. I actually threw out a tweet because of this bullshit. But I digress. So we have ms. Bateman saying that: No one likes being generalised. No one likes feeling blamed for another's actions. But then her very next sentence is: But if someon…
/r/MensRights14/12/18 02:09 AM
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If ANY person, male OR FEMALE, is going to instigate violence, then they should be prepared to have violence returned to them. Slightly less wordy: If a woman (first) hits a man, then he has every right to hit her back in defense of himself.
/r/MensRights12/12/18 02:48 PM
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...And yet, [only] 8% of rape accusations are false, but no one-- especially feminist-minded folks-- are saying that that's too many men being falsely accused of rape...
/r/MensRights07/12/18 08:19 PM
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A Minnesota psychology professor [Eric Sprankle, Psy.D], caught the attention of conservative pundits this week after tweeting that God impregnated the Virgin Mary without consent.... He wrote: “The virgin birth story is about an all-knowing, all-powerful deity impregnating a human teen. There is no definition of consent that would include that scenario. Happy Holidays.” He later added: “The biblical [G]od regularly punished disobedience. The power difference (deity vs mortal) and the potential …
/r/MensRights07/12/18 04:46 PM
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I'd call it a 'vagina monologue'.
/r/MensRights04/12/18 01:21 AM
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No- that’s not a man making her feel “that way”- that’s her social anxiety making her feel “that way”. Blaming her own issues on men doesn’t make it so...
/r/MensRights03/12/18 03:22 AM
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There are similarities between the two, but no parallels between them. Being audited by he IRS is not the same as being falsely accused of the crime of rape. It is not similar. People who are falsely audited rarely lose their jobs because it becomes known that they are undergoing an audit. ((Even in the scenario you created, the sex workers wouldn't lose their jobs BECAUSE they were being audited- it would be because they were accused or convicted of a CRIME)) People who are falsely audited are …
/r/MensRights01/12/18 09:28 AM
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I just want to ask why so many horrible cases like this (where a mother or woman is at fault) are displayed? IMO, I think those 'horrible cases like this' are shared here, because the general narrative of feminism is "women aren't violent (like men)" or that "women are caring for children and families (unlike men)" and these 'horrible cases' that are shared here, show that women-- and feminism-- are wrong about those assertions.
/r/MensRights01/12/18 09:08 AM
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Mom should not have been given a plea deal. She should have been subjected to the full punishment that a murder charge (and associated charges) would get. She tortured her son, and then murdered him, (and then presumably put him in concrete-- I can only hope she didn't murder him by putting him in concrete) and so she should not have the option of a plea deal, in my opinion.
/r/MensRights01/12/18 07:10 AM
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So....(male) video gamers = closeted rapists?? How do we explain female video gamers, then? Because females have testosterone too- sexual urges are because of testosterone, not because of being male...
/r/MensRights30/11/18 10:33 AM
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The part where he was wrong was when (it was reported that) she mentioned to him that he was encroaching upon her space, and rather than be polite about it, (it was reported that) he told her, "Well, I'm gonna take this space anyway"-- that was where he was wrong.
/r/MensRights29/11/18 04:48 AM
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To be honest, they were both in the wrong. He could have continued to 'perch', knowing that he didn't have much room. She didn't have to make threats-- and yes, her making threats was much more serious than what he did. Doesn't mean he wasn't wrong for his intentions. Remember as you think about downvoting my comment- I stand for equality, not just standing against infringements upon men's rights.
/r/MensRights28/11/18 06:37 PM
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Why do women always get custody of the children in divorces? Custody of children is awarded to women due to the sometimes mistaken assumptions/belief that: a) women, having given birth to the child(ren), have a bond with the child(ren) and so would not cause harm to the child(ren); b) women are natural care-givers, and so would not cause harm to the child(ren); c) women are less likely to use the children as pawns in power games; d) women are significantly less violent than men, and so would not…
/r/MensRights27/11/18 03:29 AM
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I think it is unfair to men to have to give up their privacy to women, that they must give up their privacy to women, that they have no choice, but that women can continue to have privacy if they choose to have it.
/r/MensRights26/11/18 07:43 PM
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To some extent, this has already happened!! https://www.reuters.com/article/us-colorado-crime-acquittal/denver-man-jailed-28-years-for-rape-based-on-victims-dream-found-innocent-idUSKBN13A02Z
/r/MensRights26/11/18 07:24 PM
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Up to that point, she was not being a bitch. I respectfully disagree. You pointed out some things that- to me- make my first "point" even more so than before. It was a 'gender-neutral' bathroom, and it likely did have urinals in it. That would lean towards the likelihood that, if the bathroom was not already "overrun" with women, that the person in the single available stall was male. But even if we do not use that particular path of logic, I still say that she was being self-entitled. She could…
/r/MensRights25/11/18 03:10 PM
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Okay- stop the world; I wanna get off. This article is, in my opinion, very much "so-called" feminist zealoutous tripe. I couldn't finish it.
/r/MensRights25/11/18 03:02 PM
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The first issue was the initial interrupting woman's assumption that her need to use the bathroom was greater (or more important) than someone else's. In that moment-- before the OP spoke in response-- she was simply being a self-entitled twitch. She didn't know the gender of the person in the bathroom, but assumed that they should have to make her needs more important than their own. The second issue was when she left the bathroom, and sought out management. She couldn't have gone back to the w…
/r/MensRights25/11/18 01:05 AM
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In the workforce: * Do not interact with your female co-workers in any manner other than professionally; * Do not interact with your female co-workers in any manner other than what is needed to accomplish your [employment-mandated] task; * Do not interact with your female co-workers in any manner other that could be in any way seen as friendly, informal or personal.
/r/MensRights18/11/18 07:45 PM
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Talk to your city/county legal aid. They may be able to help you with that, on a free or much reduced pay basis...
/r/MensRights18/11/18 05:42 AM
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I'll amend what Stromy21 says: IF you go to the cops before she does, make sure you ask for a lawyer/an attorney. Why, if you haven't done anything wrong? Because, as we all have some knowledge of these days, an accusation can be used against you, and without someone with a legal background in your corner, that simple accusation could be a threat to your freedom. EDIT: After reading your latest edit, I say this: Do NOT go to the police without having a lawyer/an attorney WITH YOU. This sounds li…
/r/MensRights18/11/18 02:57 AM
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The best way to do that would be to avoid pissing off psychotic women. That's true. But that particular truth is subjective. That means that it gets applied as the situation warrants-- not simply because a man is interacting with a woman. And then you say: For members of an oppressed class that difference can be considerable. I'm sorry to say, that women are not an oppressed class. I'm sure that there are folks who would disagree, who would say that they are oppressed. But, if that is what oppre…
/r/MensRights16/11/18 03:09 AM
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Someone can only fuck with you if you allow them to. Yes, I know that some might think "money means that someone can fuck with you", and to some degree, I can't really disagree. But the "fuck with me" I'm talking about is about someone who is on a (relatively) even playing field. Because, until/unless I was "officially" accused, we are on the same level, and I can keep someone at that level from fucking with me/fucking with my head. I can choose how I will react, or IF I will react. So, that's m…
/r/MensRights16/11/18 03:00 AM
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I do think that the women should have gotten a longer sentence, but in this case, he did get what he deserved.
/r/MensRights15/11/18 12:49 AM
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Also, let me say this: Your statement: The best way to [avoid being accused of sexual harrassment/rape] would be to avoid pissing off psychotic women is, to me, the equivalent of saying, "The best way to avoid being arrested when a woman hits you is to not hit back." Maybe you don't see it that way. That is your right. But my viewpoint is that first of all, folks should keep their hands to themselves. Secondly, if a women hits me, I'm not going to run away and avoid hitting her; she hit me, whic…
/r/MensRights15/11/18 12:46 AM
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I disagree. To "avoid pissing off psychotic women" is really to cater to their psychosis and let them be in power over you. "Threatening them with the police" is not making a threat- it is, as I stated, expressing that [I] would use the police to protect myself-- my statement to them would so that, in case psychotic girl student and/or mom decided to make a [very clearly false] accusation that I had done something, there would already be a record that psychotic girl student and/or mom had tried …
/r/MensRights15/11/18 12:39 AM
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So, the male teacher was likely to be "damned if [he] did", and "damned if [he] didn't". He would have been fucked either way.
/r/MensRights15/11/18 12:30 AM
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Dude- making those statements wouldn't be to accuse the daughter/mother of a crime-- it would be to help me AVOID being accused of a crime...
/r/MensRights13/11/18 11:57 PM
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It's almost like she thinks men don't know how to feel....
/r/MensRights13/11/18 07:18 PM
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men apologizing: i'm sorry i hurt your feelings but if we really think about it it's actually your fault for having feelings in the first place This is what some feminists think men are like. Here's how men actually apologize: I'm sorry what I said hurt your feelings. But I don't apologize for saying the truth.
/r/MensRights12/11/18 01:44 AM
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If she can hit a man, she can get hit by a man.
/r/MensRights11/11/18 08:33 PM
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...and then I would have let her know that I was including her in my statement to the police AND my attorney...
/r/MensRights11/11/18 08:28 PM
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Someone showed her how to shift the blame for her bad behavior from her own self into an false accusation of sexual assault/rape by [a man] in order for her to get away with that bad behavior. If I had been her teacher, I would have called her parents and spoken with them about her actions-- and let them know that I would be preparing a statement to give to the police AND my attorney in the event that she attempted to do something like that again.
/r/MensRights11/11/18 05:41 AM
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I'm appalled that Heidi is basically being celebrated for her infidelity, and in an article no less. This article is all but a monument to Heidi for her cheating-- excuse me, for her taking control of her sexuality and not letting her husband's lack of sexual creativity or the vows of marital fidelity that she took with him keep her from having new sexual experiences.
/r/MensRights09/11/18 09:49 PM
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I approve of the content of this video. Basically, she is saying that Feminism is not the answer to how do we stop/prevent rape. Personally, I think it is worth a listen to.
/r/MensRights05/11/18 01:06 PM
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Unfortunately at this point, the best thing you can do is forget about her, and her toxic behavior. Because, if she did do these things to you, she did them with malice aforethought- or, in other words, gaslighting you. But you are no longer with her, and your best option is to forget about her. That, and seek some counseling to help you come to deal with her effects upon you properly. There would be no need for you to take out your resentment and anger for what she did, on someone else.
/r/MensRights01/11/18 04:54 PM
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There are differences. But those differences don't mean a damn when it comes to a DV situation, because any "biological and temperamental differences" can be easily overcome or made irrelevant. Because- unfortunately- a man has to sleep sometime...
/r/MensRights30/10/18 11:56 PM
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Ya because there’s biological and temperamental differences between the 2 genders Sooo.....are you implying that, because of those differences-- which honestly make no difference in a DV situation-- that it is okay to have such hypocrisy?
/r/MensRights30/10/18 07:36 PM
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you're a dude who got beat up by a chick? Among other things, that's fucking insensitive. No one would be saying crazy shit like that if it was a women who got beat up by a dude.
/r/MensRights30/10/18 09:17 AM
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I can very certainly agree that one should not have to do something because of their gender, especially when their gender has nothing to do with the action. And I don't have a problem with sacrificing for a loved one- but only when a sacrifice is necessary.
/r/MensRights29/10/18 07:07 AM
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The problem with this image is that there is a comfortable and utilitarian solution that lies between "Real men are supposed to sacrifice for women" and "Women should be made to suffer for their bad decisions". I would agree with you- yes, there is a workable solution. Mine, however, would be to have spoken with "her" before we go out, and make sure that she has her jacket, AND to remind her that if she forgets-- or, what my wife sometimes actually does, is decide she doesn't want to get it/carr…
/r/MensRights29/10/18 03:55 AM
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The use of the word "survivor" to describe rape victims is itself something that seems wrong to me, but I can't quite put my finger on why. Because you "survive" something that is likely to have killed you or caused you grievous harm. That is the intent of using the word "survivor" in connection with allegations of rape-- to put the thought in the minds of the masses, that the allegation actually happened, and that the 'victim', "survived" what could have been so awful and serious and deadly. In…
/r/MensRights16/10/18 01:19 AM
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This is nothing more than a SJW, feminism-co-signing soundbite. I want so badly to be able to comment to this ass about just how wrong he is....but he turned off commenting (or so it seems) on his FB page.....
/r/MensRights11/10/18 01:35 AM
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Actually, yes. Because, technically speaking, to publicly declare something that is untrue, as if it were true, is slander, and is something that can have civil litigation-- i.e., lawsuit-- brought to bear against them. So, it is perfectly fine "for people to privately believe unproven but credible accusations"-- but they cannot slander someone simply because of that belief.
/r/MensRights11/10/18 01:09 AM
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At least half of these things that "women think about", men think about, too. But we're so used to doing it, that we don't even think about it. They're so much habit with us men, that we don't have to think about it. Be careful not to drink too much around strange women Never put my drink down & come back to it Make sure I see my drink being poured Park in well-lit areas Don't get on elevators with a lone woman Always meet women for first dates in public places Never make eye contact with women …
/r/MensRights04/10/18 01:20 AM
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Sure she might be considered a victim, but there are plenty of negative implications for something like this that it would probably be better for her to keep silent. Not entirely. Just the fact that there are those who will side in her favor, simply because of that very ideology you speak of- "why would she lie?"- can be reason enough for some people to do just that. Again- I'm simply agreeing with your comment, that we don't have the facts, to know for certain if the event happened that way, or…
/r/MensRights02/10/18 03:19 PM
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You're right. We don't know; we don't have enough information-- that means, we cannot know that she isn't a victim. Likewise, we can't know that she is a victim, either. We just don't have enough information, to credibly apply victimhood to her or not.
/r/MensRights01/10/18 10:43 PM
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I don't recall saying anything about forcing someone to get or have an abortion. I'm not sure where that non-sequitor came from.....
/r/MensRights26/09/18 01:06 AM
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I'll simply say that you're wrong. And I will let you be, from these words onward.
/r/MensRights26/09/18 01:05 AM
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Ya know, I was going to let you be-- but then I read some of your other replies- specifically to a GxxxxxRxxx, and you state that [N]o one... thought i said anything of merit. So it's me saying it's not worth the effort because the outcome will be the same. And I have to ask: Did you read what I'd written? I would assume that you didn't. I actually used your words, not as a denigration, but as an illustration. I even gave you credit here and there for your statements. But if you wish to claim vi…
/r/MensRights24/09/18 10:32 PM
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The point I was trying to make is that both men and women should have the same choices regarding their desires to be (or not be) parents- not just the mother.
/r/MensRights24/09/18 09:03 PM
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You have a point; women are also individuals. I will say, however, that generally speaking, women as a gender and as a societal group, are more collectively prone to blaming men for the problems that befall women, than men as a gender and as a societal group are for collectively blaming women for the problems that befall men. But yes, you do have a point. And I see it. ((And I should have made a point of point that out.))
/r/MensRights24/09/18 08:55 PM
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Yeah kind of figured you were too into your own opinion to even begin to see reason. Have a good one. --said by the person who responded to my response about equality. I said that this was something we all needed to take responsibility for. That was the response. Anyone else think I was "too into my own opinion"?
/r/MensRights24/09/18 02:47 AM
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Protection often is a universal theme that humans offer one another. And to use your analogy- if I get hit by a bus in a crowd of people, I'm not going to blame the crowd of people for not protecting me from the bus, nor tell them that they needed to stop the bus from hitting me-- as [black] women do to [black] men. Black women wanting to be independent doesn't knock out other eople being good human beings- you're correct about that. But when that independence means that they decry the protectio…
/r/MensRights24/09/18 01:35 AM
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Why is it OK for moms to abandon their kids, but not dads? Why is it OK for mom to decide that she doesn't want to be mom anymore, but it is not okay for dad to make that same decision? Why is it OK for mom to be able to make the choice that motherhood is not for her, but dad is not able to make the choice that fatherhood is not for him? Until Dads have the same rights and choices regarding parenthood as Moms (among other things), I will continue to call bullshit on feminism.
/r/MensRights24/09/18 12:01 AM
54

You're right. Now go tell that to women. Tell them that individuals are individuals, and that rapists are not ALL men, but undesirable individuals, and that ALL men should be treated as individuals.
/r/MensRights23/09/18 11:52 PM
195

As a black man, I hear this often from black women when the subject of feminism and male/female accountability comes up. We (black men) are asked to be accountable for our fellow black men, to police one another, to be proactively and constantly protective of black women. Black women want to be seen as strong and independent and beholden to no man, but then when they are assaulted, instead of going after the person who assaulted them, they tend to point the finger at not just the person who assa…
/r/MensRights23/09/18 11:50 PM
3

Personally, I do it. I'm not worried about being hated by feminists; I will point out hypocrisy in the feminist diatribe whenever I hear/see it, and too bad if they don't want to hear it. No, I'm not going to allow them to try and deny me "my body, my choice".
/r/MensRights18/09/18 05:49 PM
12

Unfortunately, "she" would then cry sexual harrassment/assault/rape/attempted rape...and you would be fortunate to only be expelled...
/r/MensRights18/09/18 05:40 PM
3

Okay. So the story is that this young woman, A) over the age of majority, and B) in a position of authority over others, has been found to have engaged in illicit/illegal sexual activities with her students. And her mother wants to basically say that it isn't her daughter's fault that she-- the daughter-- engaged in those illicit/illegal sexual activities with her students?? The mother of a young woman who slept with five male students has savaged the prestigious private school where she worked …
/r/MensRights10/09/18 04:14 PM
14

Friday 31st August 2018 -- Women’s Aid said: “Play fighting may not seem serious but if you have been in an abusive relationship it can seem frightening and even trigger memories of the abuse. Domestic abuse means you don’t feel safe in your home environment, and as a woman who has previously spoken about being in a violent and abusive relationship, Roxanne clearly did not feel comfortable going to sleep in the same room as someone who had physically hurt her, even if that was not his intention.…
/r/MensRights06/09/18 02:02 AM
2

Someone should have accused her of trying to hijack the Men's Rights narrative...
/r/MensRights01/08/18 05:05 AM
2

So... ...It's okay to say "NotAllDogs", but you can't say "NotAllMen"?? shakes head
/r/MensRights30/07/18 04:50 PM
1

Well, there are functioning adults here, but like with every- and anywhere on the internet, there are people who are sometimes more literal than others. And depending on how functionally adult someone is, your statement could be seen as being on either side of that divide. As one of those functional adults, since the internet doesn't come with an "emotional text translator", I make sure that anyone reading what I've written, can understand if/when I'm being sarcastic, or witty (which is rare for…
/r/MensRights26/07/18 03:08 AM
1

I think you forgot to put the "end of sarcasm" tag on the end of your statement. Without that, your words read like you're really saying that you're a woman and that women are always victims. Just thought I'd point that out.....
/r/MensRights26/07/18 02:26 AM
5

Technically, it is anti-feminist-- in that it is not a statement that supports feminism. And, unfortunately, many feminist, especially the "so-called" (rabid) feminists, look at the world as "if you're not with us, then you're against us"-- and your statement is not "with" them, so according to them, it is against them. Mind you, I agree with you wholeheartedly, and I think what you said should be said. But, in the technical sense of things, according to feminism, it is an 'anti-feminist' statem…
/r/MensRights26/07/18 02:25 AM
24

IMO- you should have left the date. On the one hand, she has the right to do what she needs to help her feel safe. On the other hand, though, if she can't trust you to behave like a grown adult- and she can't treat you like a grown adult- then perhaps she's not as grown as she thinks she is, and you shouldn't be seen with immature women like that.
/r/MensRights24/07/18 02:18 AM
1

No offense- but not my fault. If he hadn't wanted that to happen, then he should have gotten a vasectomy. Or, wore a condom.
/r/MensRights20/07/18 04:59 AM
10

This man could be my hero. Though, I would have waited until an abortion was no longer possible, and she was entrenched in the idea. THEN I would have dropped the hammer on her.
/r/MensRights18/07/18 11:47 PM
8

Okay. From what I gather, the point is largely that feminism makes almost all interactions of males with females some form of rape, but all interactions of females with males is almost never any form of rape. For instance-- no one looks at the idea of these child pagentries as sexualizing children...until someone makes a point to talk about men watching or judging these child pagentries, and then a big deal is made out of them-- to the detriment of the male gender. No one makes a big deal about …
/r/MensRights18/07/18 11:38 PM
1

I will consider your point-- that perhaps it isn't only about using sex as a weapon to obtain (or, to demonstrate) power. I'll admit that I haven't talked to any convicted rapists, so I don't have the perspective you've gained. But, without further evidence, for the time being I'll maintain that rape is not about sex, but about using sex as a means to inflict another's will upon someone. That the feminists dog out that particular line, doesn't automatically make it something to disagree with. Un…
/r/MensRights08/07/18 07:59 AM
1

Thank you for that laugh tonight. Outmatched? (lol) You keep on believing that, kid. I have much better things to do than to try to explain to you why it is that your belief is not the truth, and why it is that I don't choose to attempt to correct you. It's not worth my time. But if you want to feel/think that you've "won", you go right ahead.
/r/MensRights08/07/18 07:56 AM
2

le sigh Ya know, I could argue you, point for point, on just why it is that your estimation of what rape constitutes is not correct, but I can see that you are entrenched into your belief that rape = (some form of) sex, and that rape is at its core about sex, so rather than bash my head against a wall trying to demonstrate why your statements and convictions are not correct, I will simply let you be you. We shall simply agree to disagree. I don't have the energy today to want to fight.
/r/MensRights07/07/18 09:53 PM
3

Rape is about sex, by definition. This is not true. Rape is about using sex as a weapon to obtain power, due in large part to how private and intensely personal that sex is supposed to be. Rape isn't about sex, so much as it is about using sex to show the victim how powerless they are to the one committing the crime of rape upon them. Rape does not always involve sex, in the sense that rape can still occur when something other than penis, fingers or tongue is used by the one committing rape upon…
/r/MensRights07/07/18 09:16 PM
2

You're not reading things properly. I was answering the question by deville05-- which was "why is asking questions the same as blaming someone?". I didn't say anything about a difference between asking questions of female victims and male victims. I was saying that when someone asks those questions of female victims, then it's called victim-blaming. In all truth, I agree with you- there is no distinction between male victims and female victims- victims are victims- and if it is true of female vi…
/r/MensRights06/07/18 11:41 PM
5

I’m a psychotherapist who works largely with men in New York City. Before last fall, I can’t remember hearing...a voluntary admission of coercive or manipulative behavior [from men] with women. The #MeToo era has changed my work. As the #MeToo movement has unfolded, I’ve been disappointed at the lack of public male engagement with this [movement], outside of witnessing men offer weak apologies and temporarily disappear from the public eye. As a man, I’ve had the curious experience of tracking my…
/r/MensRights02/07/18 02:59 AM
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I fully agree with the statements in that tumblr post.
/r/MensRights02/07/18 02:44 AM
1

we shouldn't shame them ...because it wouldn't do a damned thing, especially if they feel no remorse. You can't shame someone who has no guilt or other terrible feelings about what they did. At that point, all you're doing is making a fool of yourself, spouting words that the target doesn't feel a thing about. However, you can make a murderer responsible for their actions, in part by imprisoning them, or by executing them-- which is murder, by the way; and I'm quite fine with murdering a murdere…
/r/MensRights02/07/18 02:39 AM
2

It seems we will have to agree to disagree.
/r/MensRights30/06/18 02:28 PM
0

If that's your take-away from what I've said, then you've missed the point. Pointing out responsibility is one thing. Shaming someone is abso-fucking-lutely and completely different.
/r/MensRights30/06/18 01:58 PM
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So... you're saying that all of his tweets regarding minorities (like the most recent ones about illegal aliens and calling a specific group of them derogatory names) is not at all racist?? And while I didn't like Hilary, the Asshole has most assuredly not proven that he's saved me from anything in particular. I cannot say that the implemenation of the tragedy that has become "Title IX" was a stellar moment for the Obama administration, but I have yet to see the Asshole actually making any real …
/r/MensRights30/06/18 01:55 PM
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Telling women (and SJWs) that men are not going to be made responsible for the choices they make (or contribute into) is not shaming. That is exactly NOT what slut shaming is. Once you figure out that what you're advocating, and what shaming is, are two different things, I think you might get where I'm trying to point you to.
/r/MensRights30/06/18 01:49 PM
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Here's what would make this simple: If she truly believes that the person she accused of raping her actually did it, she should tell it to the police. So why hasn't she done so? Inquiring minds would like to know.....
/r/MensRights30/06/18 05:11 AM
1

Can't say what that person would suggest, but I could offer a few suggestions. Don't let anyone try to marginalize you through the use of terms like "toxic masculinity" and "patriarchy" and "mansplaining"-- call them out on their bullshit if and when it is bullshit ((because it isn't always bullshit, but sometimes it is)); Don't be ashamed to voice your opinion; if someone feels like they "can call a spade a spade", then you can tell them that you have the right to do the same; Stick to your opi…
/r/MensRights30/06/18 05:04 AM
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No, no joking- we do NOT need to bring back slut shaming. What we NEED to do is stop letting people (and any women and SJWs who fit into that category) make the male gender the universal scapegoat of all responsibility for shit like this that happens to women.
/r/MensRights30/06/18 04:47 AM
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While it could be a terrible thing for an innocent PERSON to be prosecuted, I think that any woman who is found to be guilty of making false accusations SHOULD be given prison time.
/r/MensRights30/06/18 04:41 AM
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I hate to tell you, but the only folks who are "thanking God" for that asshole are staunch Republicans and most folks with IQ<100, who believe his drivel about minorities and muslims and illegal aliens. He does not represent anyone who is not Caucasian. He would very clearly advocate causing me-- a black American male-- bodily harm. I can't stand for someone who would advocate causing me harm. That being said...I do agree- idiots run the government...and social media, too.
/r/MensRights30/06/18 04:39 AM
4

It generally isn't- but that's what asking questions of female rape/sexual assault victims is being called.
/r/MensRights30/06/18 04:19 AM
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So since violence is violence and pain is pain, no matter the gender, why treat it differently? How about this: "Teach women not to hit!"
/r/MensRights12/06/18 08:21 AM
4

So, in this moment, here in the land of legislatively legitimated toxic masculinity, is it really so illogical to hate men? For all the power of #MeToo and #TimesUp and the women’s marches, only a relatively few men have been called to task, and I’ve yet to see a mass wave of prosecutions or even serious recognition of wrongdoing... maybe it’s time for us to go all Thelma and Louise and Foxy Brown on their collective butts... We are told he’s with us and #NotHim. But, truly, if he were with us, …
/r/MensRights10/06/18 10:50 PM
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Posting AFTER I read the article: Amy Desir, 30, who wore the mankini and led the protest group of around 20 women, said yesterday: 'We are here to raise awareness. There's a legal consultation due to come out this summer asking for the law to change to say that any man that says he is a woman can get all the legal protections that women do.' The mother of two and her fellow campaigners are concerned that the proposed legislation would enable predatory men to target women in single-sex facilitie…
/r/MensRights29/05/18 07:11 AM
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Posting BEFORE I read the article: I say, if they want to identify as "male", and go into a men's only place, that means that they have to accept and "live with" male action/behavior in the "men's only" environment. Meaning, if they see nude males, they can't point them out- they have to pretend not to see them. Or, conversely, if they see nude males, AND those nude males are talking about women, they can either ignore the talk, or join in- they can't tell the men not to do that. And they cannot…
/r/MensRights29/05/18 07:03 AM
4

There is never a good reason to trick someone you're in a relationship with. Especially not "on purpose". Not even if you're a woman.
/r/MensRights29/05/18 06:48 AM
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This is not sexist, or an example of sexism- this is rampant capitalism. (That's my opinion, anyway...)
/r/MensRights23/05/18 08:29 PM
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Unfortunately, it doesn't have to make sense. She just has to say "I was raped!" and name someone (or a few someones) and then-- at least these days-- the burden of proof is on the person she accused, to prove that they didn't do it (not to prove that she lied)...
/r/MensRights23/05/18 02:07 AM
5

I believe that you would be wrong, about the 'reasonable expectation of privacy' with regards to being recorded, through a wall, having a 'reasonably' private conversation. A week later, Granozio learned that his colleague had been fired. A few days after that, he was called to a meeting with two members of the Human Resources department. He was fired on the spot, told to hand over his ID pass and escorted from the stadium. He said: 'They said that I had violated something in the employee handbo…
/r/MensRights17/05/18 01:01 AM
5

Cheating is no excuse for murder.
/r/MensRights14/05/18 12:10 AM
10

So, The University of Concinnati is being sued for violating a student’s due process rights in a Title IX proceeding. "Jane Roe" claims that the university refused to open an investigation into the male student who accused her of wrongdoing, despite her allegation that his actions were the same as hers while they were both drunk. She’s seeking a preliminary injunction against the university so that she can “finish school and maintain her ROTC scholarship pending the resolution of this matter," a…
/r/MensRights12/05/18 05:13 AM
1

No offense, but... ...try getting the "law" to actually prosecute and convict a woman on the charge of rape for 'causing an unwanted penetration of penis into vagina, if the vagina side is applying the force'...
/r/MensRights08/05/18 11:17 PM
1

He couldn't "unbank" the sperm, so to speak. And his 'revoking consent' was to its use- that is, similarly, like a woman consenting to, and then revoking consent to, the use of her body- at least that's how I'm stretching out on this 'crazy' limb. He was- at least previously- consenting to the use of it to create a child. He then (attempted to) revoked the use of that sperm for the purposes of making a child, and especially with that woman. The analogy does follow...
/r/MensRights04/05/18 05:30 AM
1

Actually, he did- according to the provided translations, prior to his break up with the woman, they had both agreed to 'banking" their genetic products for future use in the creation of a child, and then, after they broke up, he did (at least make an attempt to) revoke his consent to continue with the idea of creating a child.
/r/MensRights04/05/18 03:47 AM
3

Just to say it... I'm gonna go out on a crazy limb here. We have women, retroactively revoking her consent, and that's looked at as just fine. But we have a man, retroactively revoking his consent...and he's told that it's a no go. Hmm.....
/r/MensRights04/05/18 02:49 AM
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Rather than engaging in righteous indignation at this outrage, perhaps we can also discuss the underlying issue: how important is the principle that a child, regardless of the actions of his parents, should have the right to support from both of them? What principles should trump this principle, and why? Where do we draw the line. No. Let's engage in righteous indignation. Why should we "ignore" the manner by which the child was brought into the world, simply because of the fact that the child w…
/r/MensRights03/05/18 06:19 PM
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You forgot to add: "...and then, after making repeated attempts- complete with files and documents from the university telling said male that their attempts to make such a case would not be taken seriously, that male takes his files and documents to the media and to an attorney/legal person, and sues the university..." Just wanted to be clear- simply taking it to the Title IX folks and having them ignore it, is only the first step to pointing out the hypocrisy...
/r/MensRights03/05/18 12:51 AM
3

What I am into are monogamous relationships that grow out of trust and comfort, and I'm not going to trust or be comfortable around someone who I think may be prone to falling for victim culture That doesn't save good people from the crazies. A monogamous woman (or man, to be fair) who develops trust and comfort with someone, can still go crazy and decide that their partner needs to be made to suffer for whatever reason, or for absolutely no fucking reason at all. Monogamy. Trust. Comfort. Good …
/r/MensRights03/05/18 12:46 AM
12

The material teaches that women can change their mind about consent the day after an encounter, effectively leaving women with the ability to re-write history and accuse sexual partners of inappropriate behavior despite receiving consent. No. No. NO! Fuck. This. Maybe she can revoke consent the next day, that calls a halt to any future sexual encounters, but she cannot revoke consent to something that already happened, especially if she DID consent to it BEFORE and/or WHEN it was happening!
/r/MensRights03/05/18 12:40 AM
6

"His body, his choice".
/r/MensRights30/04/18 07:31 PM
3

There is as much "relationship" between stupid and "black/poor" as there is between stupid and white. Which is to say, none. Stupid is stupid- it is not something that comes more from one particular race or economic background than another.
/r/MensRights29/04/18 08:22 AM
5

No. This is not "black culture or poor people culture" to accept AND tacitly condone a partner's cheating AND bringing a child born to the outside of the on-going relationship as "normal" in any way. This is stupid culture, where they get drunk or stoned and sleep around. Please take that rather insensitive comment out of Mens Rights, and don't bring it back.
/r/MensRights29/04/18 08:12 AM
1

Naive, is thinking that you can shame a group of people who have no shame. The "so-called" feminists, are willing to do many things in their desire to promote women's rights- including deny/ignore/trample all over men's rights- and you seem to think that trying to shame them will have the effect on them of making their agenda a non-issue? Those who already operate like this, will simply 'double-down' on their actions and tactics. Shame, won't do it. It would be naive, then, to try to 'fight fire…
/r/MensRights31/03/18 07:25 AM
1

...Then we look just as bad, as fucked in our actions and our agenda as they do. Then we continue to NOT be taken seriously. Trust me- not the way you want it to go.
/r/MensRights30/03/18 04:16 PM
3

I can't say that I know what criminal charges she would be guilty of, but I do believe (mind you, it is my belief, not actual "knowing"- I am not a person of the law in any way) that you can sue her for libel/slander, for what she's done to you.
/r/MensRights28/03/18 03:29 AM
2

I'm certainly gland you took that as a lesson! Because to think that a thirteen year old (of ANY gender) is able to have consensual sex with a grown woman is quite the ridiculous idea, and I'm positively certain that you wouldn't think such idiocy...
/r/MensRights28/03/18 02:51 AM
2

Maybe so. But if you really feel that you have to shame them, rather than just factually report on the unpleasant things they might be doing or saying, then talk about that in a separate way, so as not to turn the issue into what seems like a mud-slinging contest. The idea here is not about "we should shame the women", or even "let's not shame the women", but "let's show the world that men can be better than (some of) these "so-called" feminists who would try to make us (men) all seem like rapis…
/r/MensRights28/03/18 12:24 AM
2

Consensual sex happens between two (or sometimes more) persons who can legally consent to sex. A thirteen-year-old cannot legally consent to sex, not in any jurisdiction of the United States that I am aware of. Doesn't matter how much the thirteen-year-old might want sex, they cannot legally consent to it. Therefore, "Sixth-Grade Teacher Accused of Having Sex With 13-Year-Old Student" is statutory rape-- emphasis on the rape part.
/r/MensRights27/03/18 08:57 PM
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No. Don't "bury the story" by trying to make the accuser look bad. That only makes us as bad as they are. If you must "bury the story", then do so by researching and finding and reporting about the good things about the accused, so that in a name search about him, at least as much good, if not more than, as much bad will show up. Rather than sling mud back at them, balance the scales for us.
/r/MensRights27/03/18 08:50 PM
6

Because people don't know how to be grown adults these days.
/r/MensRights26/03/18 11:19 PM
3

No, folks: it's called "vagina monologuing"!
/r/MensRights26/03/18 11:15 PM
2

I approve of this message. lol Rep. Jessica Farrar, a Democrat, knows her bill isn't going to get very far. But she proposed it last week to make a point and give male lawmakers a taste of their own medicine. Even the bill's name -- "A Man's Right to Know Act" -- is a jab at a pamphlet Texas doctors are required to give women seeking abortions. It's a farce, basically. And I approve; why the fuck should I want to fuck with someone else's right (in this case, the right to not have another person …
/r/MensRights26/03/18 11:13 PM
1

No, this isn't a black and white issue. But let me point out, we're not really talking about custody issues, but about birth and responsibility for conception and birth. And, by the way, women generally are NOT forced to pay child support in (the rare) cases where men have custody of the children after they are born; what (I believe) you mean is that women can be Court ordered to pay child support- which is true- but women, comparatively speaking are almost never sanctioned or penalized for fail…
/r/MensRights24/03/18 03:36 AM
2

"Don't do the crime if you can't do the time" Do you apply this to women, as well? I'm sure that my question makes me sound like a rabid, overzealous PUA or MRA type- I could assure you that I am very much into equality, but honestly I don't care if you believe my assurances or not. The point I'm making, in asking that question, is that you are parroting the exact sentiment of "so-called" feminism, that a pregnancy automantically becomes the responsibility of the man who had sex with the woman w…
/r/MensRights23/03/18 11:54 PM
7

I knew that this would happen. Women gaining a voice, swiftly followed by an impassioned plea for them to pipe down for the sake of vulnerable men. Those impudent women, making their allegations outside of a courtroom (and within it), with no regard for the impact on men. Because no matter what it is, it’s always about men. This time, we are hearing about suicides of alleged abusers, following the increase in reports attributed to #MeToo. Talk about an emotive subject — how can we appropriately …
/r/MensRights22/03/18 12:38 PM
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What it means, according to them, is this: Jail is a bad place for bad people, and it's fine for men because men are "bad people"-- but jail isn't "appropriate" for women because women aren't "bad people"- so there should be something else instead of jail, for "female offenders" (instead of "criminals")....
/r/MensRights19/03/18 10:40 PM
1

"Man-hating" might be that word you're thinking of.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 06:01 AM
8

The Hollywood-born "Me Too" movement against sexual harassment has had the paradoxical effect that many working women now find themselves isolated in the office as their male colleagues studiously avoid them. [An] office worker at a shipping company in Seoul said, "I rarely talk with my boss these days. He used to be very chatty with the female staff, but nowadays he only gives instructions by text message." Her boss apparently told other workers that he feared any comments could be misunderstoo…
/r/MensRights10/03/18 10:10 PM
2

To be bluntly honest, only one responder to the post made a "no empathy comment" about what the OP said. I hid the responder's name-- though you can go find it yourself; I'm just not interested in hearing a mod tell me that I've done something wrong for trying to make an actual point-- and highlighted what I thought were the 'relevant' statements. name hidden [score hidden] 3 hours ago Your wife needs therapy, it sounds to me that she is taking her anger at the 'overlap' between her and your ex …
/r/MensRights06/03/18 04:03 PM
2

It's a shame that it's practically come to this, in interactions between men and women....
/r/MensRights01/03/18 12:44 PM
3

That's part of the point, though- "so-called" feminists would say that if you had used your wifes hands when she was drunk and passed out, that it was a "big deal". The point is that it shouldn't be a big deal, IF things are happening in a situation where consent has been previously established or given AND there is not assumption of consent being revoked at any point by any of the involved people. BUT!!! "So-called" feminists would only make allowances like that for women, not for men. That is …
/r/MensRights18/02/18 08:28 AM
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Jonathan Feit, Schaaf’s attorney, emphasized that Stocks was being punished... [for] ignoring the judge’s order. “For our system to work, there ought to be consequences for willfully and intentionally violating a court order,” Feit told The Observer. “I teach my children that. And THAT is what equality should be about.
/r/MensRights18/02/18 08:22 AM
1

Okay- you almost had me confused. But I figured it out. Anyway- what you're saying is not really the issue. It is an issue, and a very important issue, but it is NOT the issue I'm talking about. What I'm talking about is the idea that what women in the #metoo movement are concerned about has nothing to do with anyone else-- that's what I'm remarking about. These women of the #metoo movement aren't concerned about any matter that doesn't benefit them, and aren't concerned about any "backlash" exc…
/r/MensRights18/02/18 08:09 AM
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The only "issue" I have with this post is that it is addressed/directed to "ladies" instead of to everyone. That does give it an air of "privilege" or "specialness" towards women, and also gives it a bit of a 'paranoia' flavor, as if men are not only never found "in a dangerous or unsafe situation", but as if men are the reason why women would be "in a dangerous or unsafe situation". Level the field, and make this a matter of giving information to anyone in a dangerous or unsafe situation, and t…
/r/MensRights11/02/18 04:13 AM
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Oh well, too bad. "I published the names of (so-called) rapists and sexual assaulters without a shred of evidence that they did it, and its SO unfair that the school wants to expel me for doing it! I mean, like, we can't talk about rapers here on campus if we don't publicly name them and shame them!" Yeah, I really sympathize with this twitch....
/r/MensRights01/02/18 04:37 AM
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This is simply further proof of the ideology in action that "victim" is meant only to apply to women, when it comes to issues related to sex and "my body".
/r/MensRights08/12/17 04:42 AM
2

Just say "No"!
/r/MensRights05/12/17 02:15 AM
3

"OMG, we (women) should be concerned about the backlash of the #MeToo movement! We could stop being hired, or flirted with, or even stop being thought of as pretty little defenseless princesses!! We have to be careful so we can avoid that!!" ...and no where is there any concern for how this 'movement' has an effect on anyone else...
/r/MensRights03/12/17 04:29 AM
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You'd be wrong about that, too. I don't claim that "feminists" are trying to promote that "men shouldn't hit women [but it's okay for women to hit men]" as an agenda. All I said- and all I'm saying- is that our collective social environment says that this is "okay", when videos of women hitting men-- and men either aren't hitting them back, and women keep on hitting them, with witness and everything, and no one is stopping her, are up on the internet. Or, if the man in question does hit back, su…
/r/MensRights02/12/17 05:01 AM
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I won't claim that feminism is actively trying to push for this beyond social acceptance, but yes, with regards to social acceptance, it is more than easily found that the perception is that women committing violence against men, even in public and with multiple witnesses, is perfectly fine, but that male defense against such physical violence by a women is aberrant. The mentality of "men shouldn't hit a woman" is very strong in the social consciousness. That particular mentality, in my opinion,…
/r/MensRights02/12/17 02:27 AM
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It is very hypocritical, however, when the sentiment is that A) Men shouldn't hit women...but they need to be slapped in public. Because this doesn't specifically differentiate between men who are abusive to women and men who are not abusive to women. It simply states that "men" shouldn't hit women, but that [some] men- and implication does not equal definition- should be slapped in public. This is condemning physical action towards women, but condoning physical action towards men. B) It is wron…
/r/MensRights02/12/17 02:23 AM
1

No offense, but I don't think she's your friend. I don't think you have a "deep friendship"- and by what you have posted of her own words, I think she would agree with that statement. Granted, she qualifies her statement by saying "...I just inherently do not trust most men..." but what that truly means, only the rare few men she trust will ever know, and unless you know you're one of those men, you won't know what she means. That's a dangerous place to be, at this time a man's life, to not know…
/r/MensRights30/11/17 12:30 PM
2

The age of consent may be 16, but if I as a man in his 40s were to have sex with her, even consensually, and her parents decided that that was not something that they agreed upon, I could be charged with statutory rape. So, consensuality has little to do with making it "not rape".
/r/MensRights18/11/17 02:02 AM
3

No offense, but I believe you're wrong. Let me ask you this: do you say this, without regard to gender? or are you thinking, 'this woman shouldn't be being put out there like this?" If it's the former, then I believe you're simply misguided, but you've got your ideas headed in the right way. If it's the latter, well... you'd just be flat out wrong. Consentual sex with a 17-year old is not rape. Actually, it is. What it seem that you're saying, in that statement, is that you think it's okay when …
/r/MensRights17/11/17 07:35 PM
3

....and you don't think #KillAllMen says "you [feminists] place substantially less value on the lives of men compared to women" strongly enough, I take it? I won't paint all feminists with that brush, but I have met my fair share of them who claim that they don't want a 'zero sum game' between feminism and (anything not absolutely in support of feminism), but their thoughts and actions tend to say that they are perfectly fine with the idea of making women safe at the expense of the safety/freedo…
/r/MensRights12/11/17 11:12 PM
1

This is very true. But there is no need to minimize the possibility, simply because the victim is male and the perpetrator female. Treat each situation, regardless of the gender of the victim or perpetrator, as a serious situation deserving of a search for truth that does not humiliate or violate the privacy of either the victim or the alleged perpetrator, and also does not discriminate because of gender in that search for the truth. Oh, and also, search for the truth.
/r/MensRights02/11/17 01:05 AM
3

I'm outraged that one situation (underage female/adult male) is seen as rape and as awful and where the perpetrator should be villified and penalized and sometimes even brutalized, but that the other situation (underage male/adult female) is seen as 'a relationship' and "he was a lucky bastard" and where the perpetrator is talked about like it wasn't that big of a deal and that there shouldn't be any condemnation for them. In short, I'm outraged by the hypocrisy. And I don't think ALL situations…
/r/MensRights01/11/17 05:44 AM
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Actually, I AM outraged by boy->adult female statutory rape situations. To me, they are the same as girl->adult male statutory rape situations. But calling girl -> adult male situations, rape... And calling boy -> adult female situations, "relations", or ANYTHING OTHER than rape... makes me very upset. Boys/males can be raped, too, and adult women can be their rapists. And until all situations of underage persons being sexually intimate with adult persons is treated equally, I will call outrage.
/r/MensRights01/11/17 02:55 AM
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It's showing up as a 'reply' to my words- so it's being directed to me. And, ya know, while we're doing this, we're detracting from the story at hand- which is that someone's children thought it was a wonderful prank to lie about a man stalking them. And, I will still stick with my assertion- those children, IMO, need to have their little asses spanked, so that they understand the immediacy and pain of the consequences of acting like little shits. Because even if you don't agree with me about sp…
/r/MensRights27/10/17 07:10 AM
1

You're sharing with me again. sigh. Go share with folks who aren't me, buddy. Like, the rest of the Reddit community...
/r/MensRights27/10/17 06:42 AM
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Nope. Equality says that, if you commit a crime, you should be punished. Gender should not be a consideration in your punishment. So, if females/women are not punished for the crimes they commit in the exact same ways- the exact same level of "severity"- as males/men are punished for the crimes they commit, then that is not equality, and any feminist who wants to proclaim that "feminism is about equality" is therefore a hypocrite if she does not protest that inequity. And I will not listen to bl…
/r/MensRights27/10/17 03:17 AM
1

Yup! Feel free to share your opinion with the group- just like I did. Don't aim your opinion at me if you don't agree with me. It's really that simple.
/r/MensRights27/10/17 03:12 AM
1

Perhaps unrealistic. But I don't think it's unreasonable. If you tell someone, publicly, that you're finished with a conversation and for them to please not send you more messages, that might seem unrealistic, but it is certainly reasonable- you're expressing in a way that is open, that you want no further communication with them. Likewise- anyone who wants can disagree with my stance regarding corporal punishment. They can even say publicly that they disagree. I'm just asking that they don't se…
/r/MensRights25/10/17 09:34 PM
1

No- they can share their opinions. But they can be respectful of what I've asked and not share those opinions with me. That's why I worded my request and explained that folks can disagree with me if they wanted. I just didn't want it aimed my way.
/r/MensRights25/10/17 09:08 PM
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Among other things, those children need to have their asses beat- and yes, I am a proponent of "corporal punishment", so if you are not, don't send me anything telling me what a horrible person I am. Those children need to be punished, and in my opinion, punished in such a way that they feel and understand the magnitude of their actions; personally, I've found that when children are directly impacted by the consequences of their actions, they tend to learn the lesson better. Again- that's my opi…
/r/MensRights25/10/17 12:24 AM
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I dunno about "destroy", mainly because I doubt that the majority of the office got it, or took it like that. But the point- which I got- is this: One- Don't nitpick your way out of someone wanting to spend time with you. Two- Dating is a equality situation, until it's agreed upon that it isn't. Three- Don't talk down on someone else's dating/romantic situation when you don't have one of your own.
/r/MensRights25/10/17 12:14 AM
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Unfortunately, I have to call "Bullshit!" on this entire comic/article. Because this is NOT something that is endemic to only women. And to make it sound like this is a woman's burden, and not something that is a 'stay at home parent's' (SAHP) burden, regardless of gender, is demeaning to both women and to others who aren't women who deal with this. And further... while on the one hand, the non-SAHP shouldn't wait to be "called" to assist the SAHP in their work... the definition of a manager is …
/r/MensRights18/10/17 05:24 AM
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That was part of my point, actually. It's just as funny for a man to do that to a woman's clothing, as it is for a woman to do that to a man's clothing, because of equality. Meaning, that, since it isn't funny at all for a woman to do that to a man's clothing, it isn't funny for a man to do it to a woman's clothing, either. Again, because of equality.
/r/MensRights09/10/17 06:34 AM
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Yes, I would be just as funny. Because equality.
/r/MensRights09/10/17 05:31 AM
1

To address your asinine and pedantic idiocy, one last time.... I didn't have to punch everyone. I made it very clear, that when someone made the attempt beyond a "hello!" that they had to talk to me- by getting in the way of them and my child. Get this. I. Don't. Care. If you don't believe me. I. Don't. Care. If you think that my response is out of what you think is the norm. I also don't particularly care if in your world, you think it is perfectly A-OK for anyone to try to get close up on a ch…
/r/MensRights03/10/17 03:43 AM
1

Yes, I have a child, and yes, I made everyone who wanted to talk to my child go through me- I DID express that that was an option, as well.
/r/MensRights02/10/17 07:46 PM
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You may think that if you believe. Though if you ever have children, I doubt you will be quite so blase about their safety as you seem to be, to me, right at this moment.
/r/MensRights02/10/17 03:53 PM
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sigh I don't have to prove to you that I have a child. I do. You think my actions are not those of a parent. I know of parents who are much more paranoid than I am. So, go ahead and choose to disbelieve. It does not make you correct.
/r/MensRights02/10/17 03:52 PM
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No, they don't. Freedom of speech is a right for a person to be able to speak. It does NOT convey who they have a right to speak TO. Before you try to tell me I'm wrong, make sure that you're right, or at least that you're not just as wrong, too.
/r/MensRights02/10/17 05:48 AM
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Okay. Unpopular though this may be, I'm going to say it. First- this is not a MEN'S RIGHTS issue!!! This has abso-fucking-lutely NOTHING to do with Men's Rights. There is NOTHING about this that has anything to do with a "right" for men to have. And, to be completely clear, this is not a right that women have, either. No one has the RIGHT to be able to speak to a child that is not their own. It is a social nicety, a privilege perhaps, but is it NOT a right. That being said... I COMPLETELY suppor…
/r/MensRights01/10/17 04:43 AM
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No, I wouldn't call myself a "terrible person". I'd rather act first, and be found to be mistaken- and I'm willing to be mistaken- than assume that everyone is all nice and wonderful to my child, and find out the hard way that I've encountered a sociopath. To me, it's one thing when it's a grown woman. I'll let her defend herself, unless or until I'm needed to do it. It's another when it's a defenseless and innocent baby; I'll gleefully go to jail for being proactive in defending that child agai…
/r/MensRights01/10/17 04:34 AM
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One is a liar if they try to push something that is not a fact, as a fact. NO, people don't talk to kids all of the time, especially not kids that are not their own. And regardless of whether or not you think my zeal is over-the-top, I did not let strangers talk to my child when she was a child. I kept her near to me, and anyone who wanted to try and baby-talk at her, had to go through me. If the scenario mentioned- where my child was in a shopping cart, and I had for some unforeseen reason turn…
/r/MensRights01/10/17 04:28 AM
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In actuality, as a parent, anyone who I didn't know, who came up to my child and tried to talk to them, might get a call to the police if I were feeling nice that day, or a barrel of a gun pushed into their direct field of vision aimed squarely at them if I was feeling really defensive about my child. So in this case, as a parent, I can quite identify with calling the police on a stranger around my child, male or female.
/r/MensRights30/09/17 11:07 PM
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I've literally never have felt like women get uncomfortable around me or assume I'm a creep... Feels good being socially well adjusted and good looking 😎 You're lucky. I think it has very little to do with your perception of your good looks, and is a matter of luck, and perhaps charm. But your assertion of "being socially well adjusted and good looking" is NOT, I assure you, what makes women not be uncomfortable around you. To all of these guys who complain about people thinking they're creeps/s…
/r/MensRights30/09/17 06:23 AM
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'I'm not going to jail... what's your next move?' Smug texts from a mother who walked free after bashing her eight-month-old girl with cooking spoon - as dad reveals toddler will need YEARS of therapy Lorien Norman pleaded guilty to beating her baby daughter with a slotted spoon. Evie McMahon was left with severe bruising and injuries to her face and cheeks. Norman, 26, walked away with just a suspended sentence and a $500 fine. Now she has gloated to her former partner about getting away withou…
/r/MensRights13/09/17 06:01 PM
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Okay- you mentioned that you've already been through this once before. Among other things, you should still have records of all of this- make copies, and then send them to the Court, and to the offices of the people managing the case, and to the social workers in NY, and then, send a copy of this further Court action to the folks who initially helped you get this taken care of, and get them on board to help you deal with this pro bono, as really, this is a resurrection of what's already been don…
/r/MensRights09/09/17 12:16 AM
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“Nothing about due process says to a rape survivor, ‘I believe you,’” This statement. This is what Title IX boils down to. To make the victim feel better. Not to get to the truth. Not to serve justice. But simply to make the victim feel better. This makes me want to cry, soul-wrenching tears of agony. Because this shows just how little (read: not at all) real love and compassion there is in this world. Not for those accused, not even for those who are victims. It's all just window dressing.
/r/MensRights07/09/17 08:30 AM
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The biggest issue I have with "so-called" feminism is that is does not (seem to) understand what is meant in asking for equality. They don't (seem to) want equality; they (seem to) want special privileges and special treatment. You cannot say that you want equality, while actually asking for special privileges, and not be a hypocrite. And until they fix that, I cannot in good conscious support "so-called" feminism.
/r/MensRights06/09/17 03:41 AM
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What does that have to do with the price of tea in China? What does "More women get raped than men though" have to do with the poster? with the image? with the fact that being drunk does not give anyone a pass on their (potentially criminal) behavior? I'd love to hear your commentary... (Just to be clear- that last statement was sarcasm. I'm curious at how you arrived at your justification/mindset, but I don't actually want to hear about it...)
/r/MensRights01/09/17 02:48 PM
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I would imagine that stealthing-- if we define it as "the [immoral] action of any person who lies, misleads, or otherwise falsifies in any way, the use of, or the need for the use of, protective/contraceptive measures prior to and during the activity of sexual intercourse with another person" is perpetrated by women a LOT more than it is by men. To make this a "oh, men are trying to hijack our bodies/vaginas/reproductive rights/etc" is, in my opinion, merely a cry to criminalize behavior that A)…
/r/MensRights28/08/17 02:18 AM
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I'm sorry, friend- but no, it is not a biological fact. What it is, is that there are a few douchbag assholes out there who are fucking it up for the rest of us who are not rapists, not stealthing, and who generally are Good Guys (with respect to not being interested in committing rape and/or sexual assault), and most of these "so-called" feminists refuse to understand or acknowledge how their actions, behavior and thought processes affect anyone not of their own little bigoted group. That is a …
/r/MensRights28/08/17 02:11 AM
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Really. It should go to that length. Because if you were a woman, and she were a man, this would be behavior that could get her (him) served with a restraining order at the least, and possible jail time at the worst, and that's just by current behavior.
/r/MensRights27/08/17 08:20 AM
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....And I've written my own "article" on the matter. https://www.buzzfeed.com/stripes1974/ten-dating-mistakes-that-women-always-make-1685l?utm_term=.dlr0e4ybM#.npq5G4oBn
/r/MensRights22/08/17 11:13 PM
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Putting into print those so-called "higher expectations" and making them sound as though those expectations are actually someone else's faults to "don't do" is rather unreasonable.
/r/MensRights22/08/17 08:43 PM
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Key words- "proper deterrent". For her crime, the "proper deterrent" is likely NOT putting her in jai for four years. That would be a bit beyond, for a first-time offense for the crime of lying, in my opinion. Now, if they discover that she's done this before- yeah, put her in for the four years. I agree that what she did was heinous, and would have been grievous, but the only charge that (I know of) can be placed on her is for telling a lie, and the max sentence for that is four years. Giving h…
/r/MensRights18/08/17 04:31 PM
5

She lied. No ifs, ands, nor buts. She lied. And she not only lied, but was found out to have done so. Earlier this year, a 21-year-old woman claimed she was attacked and raped in a Delta College parking lot. After a lengthy police investigation, the woman confessed to fabricating the incident. Now, she's facing a felony charge. Mary T. Zolkowski on Monday, Aug. 14, voluntarily appeared in Bay County District Court for arraignment on one count of false report of a felony. The charge is punishable…
/r/MensRights18/08/17 06:09 AM
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I find this missive rather pointedly sexist. And, to be honest, this should be "20 Things You Need to Know About Sexual Assault"- because ALL of the info can apply to BOTH genders.
/r/MensRights16/08/17 01:52 AM
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In this case, the judge made the judgment not just for a female teacher, but for a male teacher as well, who was accused/charged with having had sex with a student (over the age of 16) as well. In this case, while I disagree with the judge's decision, at least it was applied equally.
/r/MensRights12/08/17 11:20 AM
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We have the Asshole-In-Chief; it won't require NK to do something "remarkably stupid"-- just his simple ass.
/r/MensRights12/08/17 11:10 AM
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The biggest issue I have with this is not about the child support-- though I do have issues with the (supposed) mother's breakdown of things. It is the fact that, rather than speaking to the (presumed) father about this, she's ranting and basically cursing out the children in this. What did the children do to deserve her vitrol? And if she was going to have so much resentment about it, then she should have given the children to him. This (presumed) woman may feel frustrated and overworked and un…
/r/MensRights11/08/17 08:17 AM
1

And that is the problem.
/r/MensRights11/08/17 08:12 AM
1

You seem to be missing the point I'm trying to make, here- it isn't about whether or not the potential father should have a say so, in this case- it is about the fact that he has no say so is looked at as the way it should be. None of these folks who support the idea of "her body; her choice" and "no uterus; no opinion" feel any sort of empathy towards the potential father and how he might feel- but they expect the potential father- and others- to have empathy for them, and for the mother who ha…
/r/MensRights11/08/17 12:39 AM
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No- it's understood. But such folks who support the idea of "her body; her choice" and "no uterus; no opinion" fully believe that because it isn't his body, and he's not carrying the child, that he has no say whatsoever. Effectively, outside of financial considerations, he is unimportant.
/r/MensRights10/08/17 03:28 AM
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IF what the actuality of this is, is that both women's sexual history AND men's sexual history will be allowed (if/when relevant) in rape/sexual assault trials for the jury to peruse and used to come to a conclusion, then YES, I would be in favor of this. If, however, what the actuality of this is, is that only men's sexual history will be allowed (if/when relevant), and women's sexual history will [still??] be kept hidden (especially if the relevance could be construed as questionably in the de…
/r/MensRights09/08/17 05:24 AM
1

I'm not sure I am arguing with myself. On the one hand, you were saying that "false rape accusation" isn't a special 'you're guilty until proven innocent crime'", and I was refuting that. On the other, someone else was saying that 'rape isn't a special 'you're guilty until proven innocent crime'", and I was confused as to whether they were being sarcastic and satirical, or not. What my response to you was about, was saying that being falsely accused (of rape)- which, truthfully, should have been…
/r/MensRights06/08/17 01:21 AM
3

I'm confused about what you're trying to say....
/r/MensRights05/08/17 11:06 PM
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Actually, while you are technically correct, as far as reality is concerned you are wrong. If (a man) is accused of having committed the crime of rape, it is up to him to prove that he did NOT commit the crime, practically speaking. The woman who has made the accusation of him is believed almost without need for her to prove that it happened.
/r/MensRights05/08/17 11:05 PM
1

Your dog has biological urges based on instinct and hormones; your dog has no concept of sex, certainly not any concept as humans are capable of.
/r/MensRights05/08/17 08:50 AM
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le sigh And that just goes to show that you're not nearly as knowledgeable-- or as open-minded-- as you might think yourself to be. I'm not even going to pretend to guess at your gender, as that's not relevant to this conversation, but to think that 'sexual victimization' and how serious one perceives that victimization to be rests its roots in whether or not the victim was penetrated, is at the best laughable, and at the worst, absolutely saddening. And I know that any further attempts to expla…
/r/MensRights05/08/17 07:06 AM
1

No. No. And no. Perhaps their bodies might want to have sex, but most of those who you'd classify as "retard" don't have internal, personal desire to have sex, because many of them don't quite understand the concept of sex. So, no.
/r/MensRights05/08/17 01:48 AM
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No- no triggering. I'm not a neckbeard or a paedophile. So, that means, among other things, that I don't fit into the belief of who you think all reddit folks are. And just to re-affirm- no, I wouldn't ever in actuality want or consider "a little jailbait action". I can't even fantasize about it, without being disgusted. I suppose, being a parent is a part of why that is.....
/r/MensRights04/08/17 07:35 PM
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So I presume that you mean ALL reddit folks when you say that, including those who say that they're female or otherwise not male and not MRAs...
/r/MensRights04/08/17 07:24 PM
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And the point I'm making is that I'm pretty sure that many folks- including reddit folks- have fantasies about things that they would most likely never do- robbing an armored truck; beating an enemy to a pulp in a public setting; having sex somewhere they really shouldn't- but simply because they fantasize about it, does not mean that they want to actually do it. So... could it be said that reddit folks might fantasize about "a little jailbait action"? Sure. Do I suppose that they are not agains…
/r/MensRights04/08/17 07:22 PM
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I'm not surprised, but I am pleased. The Court ruling made sense- the woman couldn't give a good enough description of the man to be worth the "cost" of violating the privacy of others who may have shared that same name, nor could she verify that the name of the man she slept with was actually the name she gave. That she slept with someone she barely knew, and then ended up pregnant by him, is the fault of her own choices.
/r/MensRights04/08/17 07:13 PM
1

.....and you know this, how???
/r/MensRights04/08/17 07:01 PM
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I strongly believe that you'd be wrong. If, what you meant instead, is that you "strongly doubt this many redditers are actually against the fantasizing about a little jailbait action, but in actuality would never condone doing such in reality", you could perhaps be more correct.
/r/MensRights04/08/17 07:00 PM
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I actually find that supposition distressing, that you seem to support the idea that an underage female victim is more of a victim than an underage male victim. Underage is underage- it should not matter about the gender of the victim as to whether or not they are a victim, and to minimize, marginalize, or trivialize male victims in the way your statement does, is appalling. And NO, there are not "deep biological reasons why a 14 year old girl would be more "victimized" by this than a 14 year ol…
/r/MensRights04/08/17 06:54 PM
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From what I take of the article, those who are fighting against an artificial womb, are against just that very concept: they don't want that particular playing field leveled.
/r/MensRights02/08/17 06:13 AM
1

It isn't a hobby to care for children. It sounds like you have no children- only someone without them, would make such an asinine comparison. I'm not trying in any way to say that a SAHP is like a CEO- I'm saying that they work, and work hard, and aren't appreciated, and are deserving of a vacation on occasion, just like a "generally employed" person. Perhaps what you're thinking of is a upper middle class or upper class SAHP- that's not the people I'm thinking of. I'm thinking of the poor/worki…
/r/MensRights01/08/17 10:11 PM
1

I think you're missing my point. My point is that there is effort/labor involved in being a SAHP, and that said effort/labor should not be minimized as it was in the cartoon, like it was. My point is that there is effort/labor involved in being a SAHP, and that a SAHP is as deserving of being able to have the occasional vacation as any other 'generally employed' person.
/r/MensRights31/07/17 11:56 PM
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Most people are "generally employed". And by that I mean, not everyone is a doctor, or a CEO, or a sports player; 'most people' work jobs in which they are busy, but not so much so that they are doing more than the equivalent work done by a stay-at-home parent. I'm not discussing the finances of "most people", but the effort/labor of "most people". I'm not saying that a stay-at-home parent does so much more than.... Just that they do put in work, and it is usually at least an eight hour a day jo…
/r/MensRights31/07/17 08:51 AM
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I only disagree with the images at age 16 and 32. NO ONE gets to trot out that, "I have needs [wants, really] (that are more important than your [genuine] needs), stop being selfish (and give me what I want, that goes against your needs)" bullshit. Neither male nor female-- and women have done that to men as well. I know; I had it done to me. And a stay-at-home parent, I would agree/argue-- especially with multiple children of the toddler-to-elementary-school-age-- does perhaps as much effort/la…
/r/MensRights30/07/17 05:35 PM
3

There's a BIG difference between pretending that what you're attempting to talk about isn't and doesn't happen at all, verses telling you that your explanation of "this is...ingrained to them from birth". Those who do wrong, often do so knowingly. In no way, is admitting to that, perpetuating a " "Oh but it's not all of them" and try to dismiss it all." However, in saying "People would rather dismiss this and pretend it isn't happening within the communities of people they know so as not to caus…
/r/MensRights30/07/17 03:11 AM
4

blacks that is a serious problem of them having to deal with a lot of poverty and gang violence, it's ingrained to them from birth this sort of culture is okay le sigh I don't even know where to begin with this...attempt at a statement. NO,, it is not "ingrained to them (blacks) from birth this sort of culture is okay". If you want to say that it is "romanticized" in our popular culture and made to appear dangerous and appealing by the media and in our entertainment, I would agree with you- but …
/r/MensRights29/07/17 10:13 PM
1

Yes, I actually would make myself homeless over that mess, and if I had to, yes, I'd go to jail, then make myself homeless after I got out. I do firmly and truly believe that that kind of shit should be protested/not rewarded, and I'm willing to go to that extent to protest and make sure that the state got not a single penny from me for a decision IT made both without my input or consent, and without giving me any other choices.
/r/MensRights28/07/17 10:59 PM
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According to the story (that I recall, as I'm not actively re-reading the article at this moment), he was served with a notice, stating that he owed back child support. He was told that he owed it, because he had been found to be the father of the child, and deemed such prior to his receiving that notice (at some years worth of remove), and because he hadn't contested it back then, when he didn't know about it to contest it, it was basically a "done deal". And, even upon proving that he wasn't t…
/r/MensRights28/07/17 11:14 AM
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They'd just have to put me in jail. I wouldn't be paying a damned thing- and I'd shit myself and become homeless, before I took a job that gave the state (no matter what state) a penny of my hard-earned money for a child that wasn't mine.
/r/MensRights28/07/17 06:23 AM
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'Not guilty' doesn't mean 'guilty', either, FYI. 'Not guilty' also doesn't mean that the OP can't be traumatized. Also, FYI.
/r/MensRights27/07/17 12:16 PM
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And I address why it is possible despite your conjecture that it is a flawed argument. But I'm only really speaking to the fact that it is possible to use the "stealthing" crime against persons other than only males. I'm not even going to pretend that I know how that will work; I'm just providing some possibles on how it could.
/r/MensRights27/07/17 07:27 AM
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I won't say that you "miss my point", but you do. But, I will concede anyway. For the record, what I mean is that the BC pills mimic the naturally occurring hormones in the body of a woman. I believe that there are tests that can be done to examine 1) whether the hormones present are natural or artificial, and 2) the "decay rate" of those either natural or artificial hormones, which would tell someone how long ago those hormones have been in the body. It is a part of how one is able to tell abou…
/r/MensRights27/07/17 07:25 AM
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I would second that remark, that a cop "phobia" is never irrational for a person who feels that they have been unjustly persecuted. The OP, by his telling, was unjustly persecuted. The fact that he was not found guilty-- or was found innocent-- is irrelevant to the fact that his feelings are of being persecuted, and the horror that he experienced. What the OP likely needs isn't reassurance that he cannot be arrested for this issue again-- the fact is that he can be arrested again, for something …
/r/MensRights27/07/17 04:40 AM
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The "thing" that almost no one here is talking about has absolutely nothing to do with how long women take in the bathroom as the reason why this is a bad idea. The reason this is a bad idea-- that is, making the men's bathroom into a "unisex" bathroom is because it is and will not GENUINELY be a UNISEX bathroom. As one or two folks have actually mentioned, when a woman goes into the restroom, she feels like she has the right to EXPECT that there will not be MEN going into and out of the bathroo…
/r/MensRights26/07/17 04:49 AM
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Well, to some degree, there is a way to tell if it was a BC failure or not, based on hormonal levels in the blood. It isn't foolproof, but at least now, there's potential for women who would try to "trick" a man into being a father, to have charges brought upon them for doing so.
/r/MensRights26/07/17 04:32 AM
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To some degree, this is true. But at the same time, a man willing to pursue this choice to act, would open the doors to the ability for other men to do the same, and for women to be put on notice that they could (potentially) no longer be able to trick a man into pregnancy without (potentially) facing considerable consequences- which is where we are now, that women can simply say "oops! well, I guess you're gonna be a daddy now!" and all we can do is take that assfuck with no lube. Of course the…
/r/MensRights26/07/17 04:30 AM
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Read this: http://www.theroot.com/stealthing-one-step-closer-to-being-a-form-of-sexual-1796865395 and you'll see why I have even a faint bit of hope that some bit of true equality is possible... In addition, lying about being on birth control or another form of contraception other than a condom would also be a felony. The prevalent comment of the piece...
/r/MensRights23/07/17 01:55 AM
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Your comment makes the assumption that there is a "bottom" to the depths of idiocy that fools and zealots can make. Prepare to be amazed, when, just as you think you've seen the "bottom" of that pit they've dug, they proceed to keep right on digging.....
/r/MensRights23/07/17 12:53 AM
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Someone here categorized what this man's wife did to him as rape (or sexual assault), because he wouldn't have given consent for her to become pregnant, had he known she had ceased her contraceptives. And we are aware of the idea that when a man does this-- say, removes his condom, removes the contraceptive device-- without the consent of the woman he's being intimate with, that this is now called "stealthing", and carries some ability now for him to be prosecuted and criminalized. Right now, th…
/r/MensRights23/07/17 12:25 AM
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Honestly, really. What you mean is stereotypically, you can tell when someone's mentally impaired by alcohol. In reality, you cannot always reliably tell when someone is mentally impaired due to either alcohol, drugs, legitimate medication, or perhaps psychological issues. You can find out if someone is mentally impaired for one of those reasons, but you cannot "typically tell". Perhaps, what you really should want to say is that "Typically you can tell the difference between a person who is not…
/r/MensRights20/07/17 11:41 PM
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Well, you could do what I do. A) Don't drink. B) Don't fuck around with women who drink. I know that's not something that works for a number of folks, but for me, it keeps me from having to worry about this kind of shit. Well, so long as I am never in the vicinity of a drunk woman, who might later claim I raped her.....
/r/MensRights20/07/17 11:34 PM
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And likewise, we cannot assume that "his words" are not false. That's what an investigation is for. But what another person said is that, "In the absence of any other evidence, even in the absence of a rebuttal, then what evidence you have is that he is telling the truth." That doesn't mean that an investigation isn't still relevant. What it does mean is that, unless there is other proof that either refutes "his" words, or proves that he is lying, then his "evidence" should then, therefore, be t…
/r/MensRights20/07/17 11:33 PM
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I agree with the general tone of your statement. Thumbs up. Seriously. To be clear and fair, you're not the only one-- even in this subreddit-- who is trying to point out that bigotry is bigotry, no matter who is doing it, and that it will take both sides to humble themselves a little to realize this and work towards a solution.
/r/MensRights20/07/17 11:21 PM
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The problem with that 'argument' is that you don't know that someone is "black out drunk" if they are capable of speaking and functioning, until the next day. And by then, one way or the other, it's too late.
/r/MensRights20/07/17 11:16 PM
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As things currently stand right now, if both parties are drunk, technically speaking, the "man" has committed rape. (Not the woman, technically speaking.)
/r/MensRights20/07/17 11:14 PM
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Your argument only applies if, regarding sex, the woman was coerced into having sex. That lines up with your "convinced...to sign off...and scammed you..." comment. And if the woman was coerced into sex, and that could be proven, then your statement would be correctly applied. But, if, to use your scenario, someone simply said, "I have an investment opportunity to share with you, are you interested?" and you said "Yes! I don't need to hear about it; sign me up!" while you were drunk, they have n…
/r/MensRights20/07/17 11:10 PM
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Wollff: A source is not difficult to find. Go look it up. Asking someone to prove something to you, just because you don't want to go expend the energy to do it yourself, doesn't win you brownie points. And if they decide that they do want to look it up, it just makes you look a bit....lacking in intellect. Instead of trying to make someone prove something to you, why don't you go get sources and proof to refute that person, that you're trying to refute? Not having any sources to contradict them…
/r/MensRights20/07/17 10:58 PM
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And why should we assume that he isn't telling the truth? I mean- isn't that the point of an investigation? to determine the likelihood of what is true and what isn't? I mean, are we supposed to think that all men will do heinous things to a woman when she's drunk?
/r/MensRights20/07/17 10:29 PM
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Unfortunately, these days, a man does have to prove he's innocent. Haven't you been reading and listening to the news?
/r/MensRights20/07/17 10:27 PM
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Added content: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tcng4ccVlVI&feature=youtu.be
/r/MensRights14/07/17 11:45 AM
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No, but this statement: In addition, lying about being on birth control or another form of contraception other than a condom would also be a felony. should be of some concern to women....
/r/MensRights14/07/17 01:21 AM
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And yet you seem to be in support of this bill-- correction: you seem to be in support of the concepts discussed in this bill..... Yes, I read the entirety of the article. No, it does not merely "gives the prosecutors info to work with, yes"- it begins to undermine and erode the adjudication process as it exists for persons accused of a crime, specifically persons accused of the crime of rape or sexual assault. Moreover, this is a band-aid on a hemmorraging artery; this is not by any means a sol…
/r/MensRights07/07/17 03:47 AM
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smh I hope you're not a male living in Canada....
/r/MensRights07/07/17 12:40 AM
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Perhaps it has. But no one says you have to get ugly in return (not accusing you of doing so, just saying you don't have to do so). You can remain a logical and rational voice here. That's what I try to do. And I'm still able to point out when "so-called" feminists are being classless, trashy and man-hating.
/r/MensRights04/07/17 07:20 PM
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I know, regarding this topic, we've come to see a bit of "eye to eye". But I still have a bit of umbridge with your statement here: The hive mind of /r/mensrights is pretty fucking stupid. Most of you sound like children fighting over the one white balloon, or like people who have deep seeded issues with women and you know this is one mostly safe place to channel that hated toward their sex.....You're fucking children who are whining over nothing more than perceived slights nothing half the time…
/r/MensRights03/07/17 09:37 PM
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I can't speak for anyone else, but what I hear you arguing for is special treatment for women in cases where she pleas "hormonal imbalance" No. I absolutely, 100% disagree with that. What she needs is not special treatment-- which is what you're advocating for when you say that she should be "sentenced lighter if that's the case because, HELLO, she just squeezed a baby through her lady hole and the horomones in her body that have been prepping for 9 months have suddenly changed"-- what she needs…
/r/MensRights03/07/17 02:28 AM
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The problem- as far as the article goes- is that she took a settlement under the agreement that she would remain silent. And she did not. So she was denied only half of the settlement money as a correct penalty for non-compliance with the agreement to keep silent. What should have happened is that she should have lost all of the settlement money. Because she broke a contract, a contract that she agreed to, to remain silent. Not, remain silent unless someone says bad things about me. But to remai…
/r/MensRights01/07/17 08:35 PM
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How about this: Women who commit murder of any sort should be sentenced for that murder, in the same ways that men who commit murder of any sort should be sentenced. Hormonal/mental imbalance should NOT be a mitigating factor to being sentenced for murder, and neither should "motherhood" be a mitigating factor to being sentenced for murder. Hormonal/mental imbalance should be a mitigating factor to the type of sentencing-- meaning, specifically, whether the perpetrator is remanded to a general c…
/r/MensRights01/07/17 08:19 PM
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She doesn't make it an attack on her person- she makes it an attack on her womanhood, on her being female... One could interpret her words to mean that she thinks that "a male" being brutalized by the police is okay...since she says she was attacked "as if [she] were a male"...
/r/MensRights01/07/17 12:43 AM
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What point were you trying to prove??? And how were you not able to voice your opinion properly???
/r/MensRights30/06/17 08:04 PM
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In part because you (seemingly) make the assumption that the only contribution that a man makes to a woman's pregnancy and subsequent birth of a child is "providing financial means". That is merely the lowest level of contribution that a man makes, or can make, not the only level. The other part is that you (seemingly) make the assumption that "providing financial means" is comparatively simple when compared to the so-called "nine months of hell" that a woman goes through during a pregnancy. You…
/r/MensRights30/06/17 07:56 PM
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Hmm.... Nine months of continuous "hell", verses a potential 18 YEARS of continuous "hell".... I think that's a damned excellent "counter" to "that argument".
/r/MensRights29/06/17 08:35 PM
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I wasn't excusing her. I was merely pointing out that we don't know the whole situ, and to turn her into a villian without knowing is in a small way, no better than when women do it to us- can you say, "false rape accusation"?? In the main, I fully agree with you.
/r/MensRights18/06/17 04:59 PM
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That doesn't mean that in order for you to be with Men's Rights that you have to be against Feminism. You can oppose what those [so-called] feminists are pushing, without denouncing feminism as a whole. Not every feminist wants to kill and castrate all men (thankfully). Just like not every person associated with MRA wants women who call themselves feminsts and act like rabid bitches to simply keel over and die.
/r/MensRights18/06/17 04:58 PM
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In my opinion, that is a flawed bit of logic. You may not like someone's opinion, and you yourself may act or be in contraindication to that opinion (meaning you don't agree with them), but that doesn't mean that you can't respect their right to have that opinion. I'm a black man. I don't like those who have KKK-like opinions. But as long as those opinions are just that- that they don't become actionable ideals and things which will act negatively towards me- I don't have a problem with someone …
/r/MensRights17/06/17 08:51 PM
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I disagree with that premise.
/r/MensRights17/06/17 08:47 PM
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You're better off without her. If your [so-called] friend can't listen to you (as s/he expects to be listened to), can't discuss things with you even when they might not agree with you, can't even keep an open mind with someone who is supposed to be a friend to them, then they are not your friend.
/r/MensRights17/06/17 08:43 PM
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The point of the picture wasn't about whether or not someone could ask her to make space for them to sit near her- the point of the picture is that women complain about "manspreading" and then this woman is doing that. Mind you, we don't know much else. This woman may not even consider herself a [rabid] feminist, for all we know, so to choose her as an example to vilify, of what we men are being vilified for, may not be entirely appropriate.
/r/MensRights17/06/17 08:41 PM
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How common are false rape allegations? In 2011 the Crown Prosecution Service published a landmark study into so-called false allegations of rape and domestic violence... The findings of the public prosecution agency showed that false allegations of rape and domestic violence are much rarer than previously thought. During the 17-month period between January 2011 and May 2012, the CPS reviewed 121 cases of allegedly false accusations of rape and other sexual assaults. Of those, 35 cases resulted i…
/r/MensRights14/06/17 06:44 PM
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The unfortunate thing is that, for many of the "so-called" feminists, they would prefer that ten innocent men serve time in jail than the possibility of one guilty man being allowed to go free. To the "so-called" feminists, it isn't about justice; it's about the numbers- the numbers of rapists (men) who are put behind bars. As long as the number of those who are accused of rape being jailed goes up, those "so-called" feminists will be happy. They don't particularly care about "how" those numbers…
/r/MensRights25/05/17 05:37 AM
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I see that you did. Your answer does not truthfully address the problem; you express what (you believe) the statement of "Always believe the victim" is supposed to mean-- and what myself and others are expressing is what the statement of "Always believe the victim" is actually causing to happen. So your answer is not our answer. We're speaking in different languages, then. But I'll leave you to your original comment. Because it doesn't change what is happening.
/r/MensRights18/05/17 09:02 PM
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Except that's exactly not what is being asked for. What you're doing- which is commendable- is using logic and common sense, in explaining that what should be being asked for is for a victim to have their story believed, without the need for them to prove that the story is genuine, end, stop. What exactly is happening, is that a significant number of "so-called" feminists who say that they want a rape victim to be believed, and that "You shouldn't ever need proof to believe a rape victim- no mat…
/r/MensRights17/05/17 07:58 PM
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And you notice that I never called you a feminist. And, if you think we're sounding like feminists, then that should say something to you about feminism, just like it seems to say something to you when we say what we say.
/r/MensRights13/05/17 07:03 PM
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To quote you, "holy fuckin shitballs", I'm so glad that your words are so demonstrative and so reflective of the lack of compassion and consideration that we men have come to expect from feminism. You simply validate our interests and our concerns with every dismissive word you type. So thank you.
/r/MensRights13/05/17 06:15 PM
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You seem to be missing the point. The point is this: More and more, our society seems to be catering to the needs, wants and whims of women...at the expense of men. It's not that men don't want women to have "safe spaces", or that we men fear women gaining "power" or that there's some over-arching "Patriarchy" that we're trying to keep secret. (TBH, there really is no such bullshit as "Patriarchy", but that's a discussion for another time.) It's the fact that men are being demonized, and women a…
/r/MensRights13/05/17 07:36 AM
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Beauchamp said the Grayson County jury deliberated about an hour Monday before finding Bond guilty of all eight offenses. She said Bond showed no reaction when the verdict was announced. "She had an expressionless look on her face," Beauchamp said. "No emotion." Coupled with the rest of the article, this makes one wonder if [Bond] has some sociopathy in her, somewhere.... ...But, in part because sociopathy is largely a male-oriented mental issue, I highly doubt that anyone will really investigat…
/r/MensRights12/05/17 08:34 PM
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Yawn... * le sigh... *
/r/MensRights06/05/17 04:37 PM
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If she's beating the shit out of you, a guy, you're doing something wrong. Um, no. You are wrong. Because it doesn't take much for a guy to get the shit beat out of him, by a female. Surprise attack, baseball bat, a gang of girls- all are at least equally effective to a guy getting the shit beat out of him by a female. That you seem to think that a guy getting the shit beat out of him by a female means he's doing something wrong, and that effectively, he's being a bitch-- that makes you every fu…
/r/MensRights05/05/17 12:41 AM
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Children should be taught not to hit others- other children, adults, etc. There is no "it's okay because the attacker is smaller than" in any way. A small child should be taught that hitting others is wrong, and has consequences. Including being hit by an adult. I'm not saying I condone it- but I will say that there are circumstances that warrant it. I can almost hear someone saying, "Like what??? What would justify an adult hitting a child (whether or not in retaliation)??" Defense would be one…
/r/MensRights05/05/17 12:26 AM
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And this is all political, when you get down to it..... ...so, implicate a two-year old child, to put [political] pressure on someone.... smh Why can't I be blessed with intelligence, technical know how and a lot of money, and leave this fucked-up planet?
/r/MensRights01/05/17 10:22 PM
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What in the absolute unholy FUCK?!? This. This makes me wish I could stop being of the same species as people like this...
/r/MensRights01/05/17 10:21 PM
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Since rape and sex are nearly identical, and both can cause bruising in the vagina, the only thing to distinguish rape and sex from each other in the first place is eyewitness accounts of whether the woman seemed 'into it', e.g. consented. But "eyewitness accounts" are notoriously flawed- this has been proven often, even when the eyewitness gives their testimony within days or weeks of the event in question, let alone years after the fact. Furthermore, basing the truth of guilt based solely on t…
/r/MensRights24/04/17 09:40 PM
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Alright. I'll look that up. And if that is true, then yes, that is very disturbing. Well, very disturbing, in relation to the already very disturbing "slippery slope" we men are already scrambling to keep from falling off of...
/r/MensRights24/04/17 06:29 PM
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MraBob: Where in the article does it state or make reference to the accused being innocent of his crime? Where does it state in the article that there was "zero evidence"? I won't deny that we have to be aware of the slippery slope that we already reside upon in most of the civilized world as men. I won't deny that there are accused who are railroaded by the judicial system and incarcerated when it is clear that they should not have been. But there is no need to fear-monger-- which is what you'r…
/r/MensRights24/04/17 03:00 PM
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It's actually worse than that, to be honest. My daughter is almost 16, now; back when she was about four years old, my ex (girlfriend, not wife; we never married) agreed that, as my daughter seemed to miss me being in her life-- as we'd separated a year before-- that we would give having my daughter live with me for a while. I decided to apply with Social Services for assistance, so that I could work and get her child care and perhaps even day care. When I went to speak with social services abou…
/r/MensRights22/04/17 09:30 PM
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That's both true and false. The damage they do is important, with regards to the fact that women seem to tend to believe that men cannot be victims of women because men are bigger, stronger, better able to take a hit, etc., and that it is okay for them (women) to be violent and aggressive towards men without concern for what level or amount of damage they can do, because no one would be willing to believe that a woman will attack a man, let alone abuse a man. That is just as important as the fac…
/r/MensRights15/04/17 10:34 PM
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Get bitten by a small dog in the right place and it can be just as painful, sometimes even more painful, or even just as fatal as, getting bitten by a large dog-- and THAT is the point that others are making, and that's the reason you were downvoted by them. Women may not have the same strength as men, in a general biological sense, but they can inflict just as much damage to a man as a man can to a woman, when done right-- and when men are told that they are douchbags and assholes for even defe…
/r/MensRights15/04/17 07:08 PM
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I've got a very ugly solution to this entire issue. You'll forgive me if my thoughts at the moment are in line with producing such an ugly train of thought. Here's my solution: Ban ALL birth control. Ban all birth control for both women AND men. Among other things, that will silence much of that "If you don't wanna have a kid, don't have sex" stance that some women seem to have, the idea that "If a man has sex with a woman, his sperm left inside of her is hers to do with as she pleases, so if sh…
/r/MensRights13/04/17 01:22 AM
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Enough. Don't continue this conversation any further. Leave me be.
/r/MensRights09/04/17 11:24 PM
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Okay, look... I've been reasonable. You have your opinion about what my behavior should be in such a situation. I don't agree. Let's just agree to disagree. fini
/r/MensRights09/04/17 10:55 PM
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And the same follows for any and every other passenger, including children. And if there are other seats available, the suggestion to move a child to a seat that is more accommodating to both them and the passenger (me) that they are trying to move, is not an unreasonable one, and not one that cannot be undertaken. If it were me, personally, I'd tell them to find another seat to move the child to, first. Regardless of the CoC. You may be correct about the ideology of compliance with crew members…
/r/MensRights09/04/17 05:57 PM
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You seem to be assuming that such is not a reasonable request. It is not unreasonable to tell the airline rep (the steward) to seat the child elsewhere, instead of attempting to make me move. I stand by my statement.
/r/MensRights09/04/17 05:26 AM
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My response: "If the child isn't supposed to sit next to a stranger [strange man], then move the child. Ergo, I'm not giving up my seat; put the kid somewhere else."
/r/MensRights08/04/17 03:21 PM
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Being female isn't a mark against someone being in this sub-reddit and commenting. Even being a feminist isn't a mark against someone being in this sub-reddit and commenting. Being a fanatical crazy person who has no interest in discussion about the issues that men deal with, and being in this sub-reddit and commenting, IS a mark against a person. As long as you're not that person-- and notice I don't ascribe a gender to such a person??-- then you're fine and free to be here in this sub-reddit a…
/r/MensRights04/04/17 10:06 PM
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That you suspect the possibility that your son might not be yours, but you choose to not investigate that suspicion is a choice you are making, and that is fine. The point of the matter is not about whether or not the father knows, but has chosen to ignore the possibility anyway- it is that the father does not know, and the mother is stating that she will not inform him of the fact that the child is not his. It is not the willful choice by the father to ignore the elephant in the room, so to spe…
/r/MensRights24/03/17 06:26 PM
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Doesn't matter. It's about "what is best for the child", not "is he actually the father?" Here's an article where the male "parent" is presumed because he and mom were previously married, but he is not the father by DNA: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/okla-man-forced-pay-child-support-boy-isn-son-article-1.2946399 ....and an article wherein the guy in question wasn't even with the mother of the child, and yet he's on the hook for child support: http://www.theroot.com/judge-orders-detro…
/r/MensRights23/03/17 01:50 AM
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Actually that's not entirely true. It is, in fact, very possible for a man to have never been in a position-- figuratively and literally-- to have impregnated a woman, and in certain states, if she names him as the father and he does not come to Court to refute that claim within a certain time, he can be found by the Court and by that state to be the father and therefore financially responsible for that child. Talk about getting fucked without getting fucked..... ((This is presuming we're talkin…
/r/MensRights22/03/17 11:52 PM
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Soooo.... Let's start with this: your information was taken from an article that was published more than ten years ago (2006). What that means is that it is not fully relevant to this day and time. But let's pretend for a moment that it is relevant. So let me show you this: http://www.nsvrc.org/publications/articles/false-reports-moving-beyond-issue-successfully-investigate-and-prosecute-non-s Publish Date: 2009 Description: The article begins by reviewing up-to-date research suggesting that the…
/r/MensRights20/03/17 06:55 AM
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Exactly. Why speculate? We don't know for certain what the reason why the accuser took their own life. Right? So, let's not speculate on the "why"- because neither you nor I know for certain.
/r/MensRights20/03/17 06:07 AM
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You're actually not showing that mental capacity you claim to have. There are studies that refute that statistic of "2-8%"- so that is the first point I'm making. The second point I'm making is that when you say that, when you repeat that statistic, you make it easy for other folks to make assumptions about the truth of rape, or the truth of false rape accusations. I could just as easily say "Only 16% of women will ever be raped in their lifetime" and technically that's true-- the statistic is "…
/r/MensRights20/03/17 01:21 AM
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Exactly. The facts are that we don't know what might make someone kill themselves. We can all speculate, but that's all we can do. And just like you're entitled to believe what you wish, so are others- telling them that they're ridiculous to have a belief other than yours is....among other things, not sticking to the facts.
/r/MensRights20/03/17 01:12 AM
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It is also a "pretty weak argument" to make the assumption that, because there's no evidence to refute you, that your own assumption made without evidence to substantiate you is truthful.
/r/MensRights20/03/17 01:01 AM
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That's like saying, "well, he wss shot in the foot; clearly he was shot by another person"-- there is not enough evidence to make that assumption. So no, it is NOT clear...
/r/MensRights20/03/17 12:58 AM
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No offense to you, but please Please PLEASE STOP REPEATING THAT BULLSHIT STATISTIC! Thank you.
/r/MensRights20/03/17 12:55 AM
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How can we assume that the reverse is true, that those who kill themselves must have been raped? We can't, and to make assumptions is what is a the heart of the issue already, that rape victims should be allowed to give pre-recorded testimony ((because it is NOT evidence without an investigation)) because they might otherwise kill themselves if they have to face their rapist. It assumes that the victim is so fragile that they cannot face the person they've said has done this awful thing to them.…
/r/MensRights20/03/17 12:49 AM
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If the non-custodial parent (in many cases, the father) is paying child support, then the mother isn't solely financially responsible for rasing the children. Because his child support is also financially assisting in the raising of the children.
/r/MensRights18/03/17 04:16 AM
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Let me put it to you this way: Okay. You say that your child support is $900 per month. You argue that a man's child support is very often not enough for the mother to cover expenses (mortgage, food, medical, etc.). But you've forgotten one important thing-- or so it seems. The mother!! She has a job and makes money, which she puts towards the expenses of child care, too-- after all, she's the primary caretaker, and she helped create the child, so why shouldn't she shoulder some of the cost, too…
/r/MensRights18/03/17 03:09 AM
1

Some people just want to be unhappy.
/r/MensRights11/03/17 06:19 AM
4

I'll address this, and your comment directed to me, as shown below: Then cut that person out of your life. There will always be someone who won't shut up about something, pick your battles and your friends to minimise this if you have a problem with it. with this statement: You're using logic,and you're expecting those who behave like the person on the right above to use logic. That is the problem- zealouts are generally zealouts because they have abandoned logic, to fervently defend their cause…
/r/MensRights08/03/17 10:53 PM
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To me, the point is less about the fact that you can replace a few chosen words by the person on the right and have the narrative become zealoutous rhetoric from any particular group, and more about the fact that the zealoutous person-- or people-- from that group don't recognize when they're being so decidedly unreasonable in their speech by making every conversation about the cause or issue of their group. They think that their conversation is what everyone should be talking about, and that an…
/r/MensRights08/03/17 10:01 PM
10

I'm just waiting to hear back soon that the mother then decided to go go Family Court to get child support and that the "i didn't want to be a" father is then being told he has to pay it. Because it's already set up to happen. The Appeal Court, however, found that a fraud that causes no loss cannot give rise to a lawsuit for damages, and that PP's emotional distress didn't count as a loss. Yeah- so he's technically not suffered any loss, so he's not entitled to be compensated. But you notice how…
/r/MensRights03/03/17 12:05 AM
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[Under the assumption that you're a man,] I will be sure to come to your jail cell, after a woman slaps you as "a symbolic act", and you walk away, and then she calls the police and says you assaulted her and then they come to arrest you simply based on her word, and I will say to you, "Some symbolic act, huh?" and then walk away. If the situation were as simple and clear-cut as you make it out to be, there wouldn't be a need for men to be concerned about domestic violence of any sort. The issue…
/r/MensRights26/02/17 12:09 AM
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I will be sure to come to your jail cell, after a woman slaps you and you walk away, and then she calls the police and says you assaulted her and then they come to arrest you simply based on her word, and I will say to you, "Dude, you need help" and then walk away. If the situation were as simple and clear-cut as you make it out to be, there wouldn't be a need for men to be concerned about domestic violence of any sort. The issue is NOT about being hit by a woman- it is about the fact that A) Wo…
/r/MensRights26/02/17 12:02 AM
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It may be more respectable, but it isn't always the best option. It's best not to hit someone at all-- and its best to avoid being hit whenever possible. But if you are hit, then the one being hit has to determine if hitting back is warranted, or if another option is better. The "more civilized" option is not always the better option. Telling someone not to hit back, or saying that it should always be the last option, might in some cases be consigning them to grievous injury or even death. I tel…
/r/MensRights25/02/17 11:40 PM
1

And after getting a fuller picture of things, I would agree with that assessment, based on the the consideration that there was more than just the report of a male child being violated. My point was that a child being violated, in and of itself, by a woman DOES NOT make this a MRA issue-- because a child being violated, in and of itself by a man, does not make it an MRA issue. It is not the fact that the victim is a boy and the perpetrator a female that makes this an MRA issue. And as you pointe…
/r/MensRights21/02/17 11:02 PM
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We'll have to agree to disagree. My point was that a child being violated, in and of itself, by a woman DOES NOT make this a MRA issue-- because a child being violated, in and of itself by a man, does not make it an MRA issue. It is not the fact that the victim is a boy and the perpetrator a female that makes this an MRA issue. What DOES (or would) make this am MRA issue is either: A) The double standard of punishment for the commission of a crime between a male perpetrator and a female perpetra…
/r/MensRights21/02/17 10:56 PM
1

That's fine. And I'm pleased that you're not insisting that others must follow that as well. Thank you for being respectful to others (esp others who might believe differently).
/r/MensRights21/02/17 02:28 AM
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Alright- I'll agree: IF we're looking at it as the fact that the assault of a male victim is being marginalized by calling it public humiliation, and that in the same case that the assault of a female victim is held to a higher standard-- which, to be honest, we do not know for certain about this matter-- --THEN I would agree, that THAT would also make it an MRA issue. But that is speculation, regarding this case. We don't know for a fact that this would have been the result if it had been a lit…
/r/MensRights21/02/17 02:15 AM
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Okay- as I just mentioned to another poster-- It becomes an MRA issue when it also involves the fact that the female perpetrator is not punished in the same way as a male perpetrator for committing the same crime. You're saying that the female perpetrator was lightly-- or not at all-- punished for her actions. At that point, then yes, it becomes and MRA-issue. The fact of the gender of the victim and the outcry by the public, in and of themselves-- those two factors only, do not make this an MRA…
/r/MensRights21/02/17 12:45 AM
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I get it perfectly. You "just don't get it"-- about what I'm saying. You're focusing on the fact that a boy was victimized by a woman. Important, yes, but not in itself an MRA issue. It becomes an MRA issue when it also involves the fact that the female perpetrator is not punished in the same way as a male perpetrator for committing the same crime. Now, if that is what has happened, then it is an MRA issue.
/r/MensRights21/02/17 12:42 AM
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I'm not trying to imply that the victim has no importance. But a victim is a victim. A male victim is just as deserving of sympathy and justice as a female victim- so in that way, they are the same. That being said, a female perpetrator is just as deserving of punishment as a male perpetrator-- but that is NOT what happens- and THAT is when it is an MRA issue-- because we're not saying that a male victim who is victimized by either gender is just as important as a female victim who is victimized…
/r/MensRights21/02/17 12:39 AM
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As I've said to another poster, I will concede your point, but-- at least to my way of seeing this-- is not the focus of this matter. Yes, the boy was violated, and yes, the why of it-- as you've explained about attitudes towards male experiences-- is something to be fully aware of. But that doesn't make it an MRA issue. An MRA issue is one where it isn't about the victim, it's about the double-standard between a male perpetrator and a female perpetrator. And this isn't one of those.
/r/MensRights20/02/17 09:25 PM
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That's not entirely true. But I will concede that your point, while it has merit, is not the focus of this matter. An MRA issue is one where it isn't about the victim, it's about the double-standard between a male perpetrator and a female perpetrator. And this isn't one of those.
/r/MensRights20/02/17 09:22 PM
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And as I just said to another poster, if the parent who violated the victim's rights were male, that would not mean that the victim had not been violated. In this case, that means that this is NOT an MRA issue. An MRA issue is one where it isn't about the victim, it's about the double-standard between a male perpetrator and a female perpetrator. And this isn't one of those.
/r/MensRights20/02/17 09:21 PM
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Yes- we agree that the boys rights were violated. But if the parent had been his father, his rights would still have been violated. I.E., that makes this NOT an MRA issue.
/r/MensRights20/02/17 09:19 PM
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And you're right about the fact that this woman has done something deplorable. But this isn't about a woman doing something against the rights of men. This is a person doing something that is inherently wrong. It doesn't matter if the parent was male or female- that's why this isn't a MRA issue. I don't disagree- this is a fuck-up matter, and the mother deserves to be punished. I never said that she didn't. I'm just saying that this is not an MRA issue.
/r/MensRights20/02/17 06:34 PM
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And you're well within your rights to disagree. But this isn't about a woman doing something against the rights of men. This is a person doing something that is inherently wrong. It doesn't matter if the parent was male or female- that's why this isn't a MRA issue. I don't disagree- this is a fuck-up matter, and the mother deserves to be punished. I never said that she didn't. I'm just saying that this is not an MRA issue.
/r/MensRights20/02/17 06:33 PM
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Agreed. This isn't a men's rights issue.
/r/MensRights20/02/17 06:23 PM
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We will never know from just this picture. Many restaurant bathrooms are not "one person only". If this restaurant has bathrooms that are "one person only" then instead of gender designations, they should have the unisex image designation for both bathrooms, indicating that the bathroom is for use by anyone, whenever it is not already in use.
/r/MensRights19/02/17 08:31 PM
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It is only an issue if (when) a woman expects, because she happens to be in the M&W bathroom, that a man cannot come into that bathroom while she is in it. It IS a M&W bathroom; that does not exclude men from using it, even if she is in there as well. There is no law that states that a man cannot use the M&W bathroom at the same time a woman is using the M&W bathroom-- but many will believe that social norms DICTATE that if there is a woman in the M&W bathroom at the time a man needs to use the …
/r/MensRights19/02/17 07:48 PM
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You sound like a fair minded person, and I can respect that. I'm also a accusation survivor, and to my view, these things-- the articled I've cited-- demonstrate an alarming trend that has increased a great deal in the last three or so years, wherein the general public seems to be catering to the ideology that the more extreme of feminists seem to espouse. On almost a daily basis-- definitely at least weekly-- seeing more tweets and Facebook comments from those who claim to be feminists, discuss…
/r/MensRights10/02/17 02:12 AM
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Didn't realize they were all UK sources-- but to use your analogy, technically you could get tossed into Guantanamo for no reason, but the fact that there seems to be an alarming trend towards it actually happening does mean that one should be careful and cautious about behaving in ways that would garner attention towards that happening to them. Again- that's not fear-mongering. Perhaps the disconnect is that you see it one way, and in that way, it could be said to be fear-mongering-- while I se…
/r/MensRights09/02/17 10:14 PM
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In the US as the law is written the burden of proof is on the prosecutor to prove rape, not on the defendant to prove innocence. I'd almost take umbridge with that statement, because there are plenty of cases here in the US where a defendant failed to prove that the rape did not occur-- rather than the prosecutor successfully proved that the rape did occur-- and the defendant was incarcerated despite being innocent of the charges laid upon them. I may not be able to cite sources of US law, but I…
/r/MensRights09/02/17 09:50 PM
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So when I got mixed signals, I got the fuck out of there. I left her ass sitting right there. I have no time or interest to play those games with little girls; either be woman enough to tell me what you want, and be clear about it, or I can leave and go find another woman who can be clear about it.
/r/MensRights09/02/17 09:02 PM
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It isn't a lie. Admittedly, it isn't the entire truth, but it isn't a lie. In the U.S., it isn't illegal for a man to have sex with an intoxicated woman, or for two intoxicated persons of differing genders to have sex. BUT... If the woman later states to LEO that "he raped me while I was drunk" they WILL go and arrest him on charges of rape and/or sexual assault, and it becomes HIS burden to PROVE that he DID NOT rape her. So yes, technically you are correct- there is no law stating that drunken…
/r/MensRights09/02/17 08:56 PM
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I'll catch hell for what I'm about to say. But I'm going to say it anyway. I can get behind this image and what it's saying. Because we're not talking here about whether or not the person against abortion is the potential father or not of the person wanting the abortion. It does imply that a man is saying he's against abortion-- and again, does not imply that this man is a father-to-be-- and that he would prefer that abortion be something that cannot be had (by a woman). And in this, I'm in full…
/r/MensRights25/01/17 04:40 AM
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I do understand that in the eye/mind of "legality", the child is an innocent being and is completely dependent upon parental figures for its life and livelihood, and so with that being the so-called 'priority', it doesn't matter who is subsidizing that child's upkeep (except for the 'state', because the 'state' feels that it's not their responsibility), but if women are pushing for the idea that sperm put in her body is a 'gift' from a man and that he has no say-so in what happens to that 'gift'…
/r/MensRights17/01/17 05:51 AM
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It'd be nice if we could apply that (in my opinion, quite common-sense) brand of logic as it should be-- but unfortunately, legally, when the woman then decides that-- to continue with the analogy-- that she doesn't want to have to be responsible for making the insurance and gasoline payments on the car that was given to her, the 'state' doesn't want to have to pay for her desire to no longer be responsible, so the 'state' will find someone to do so, and the first person they go after is the per…
/r/MensRights17/01/17 01:03 AM
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I'd take this article with me to an attorney- http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/europe/man-convicted-rape-condom-sex-switzerland-a7521891.html and then I'd tell my attorney, her attorney, her, and the press/media, "She raped me!" Then I'd file suit to have her sued for defamation of character and to have her child removed from her, as well as paternity fraud. I'd wait until she was in her last trimester of being pregnant before I'd finally agree to a court date, then in court, present her …
/r/MensRights16/01/17 03:08 PM
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"Hey! This brand new thing that benefits someone I don't agree should get this benefit-- but I won't actually say that because it wouldn't be very compassionate of me to say that I really don't agree they should get this benefit-- just opened up less than a year ago, and while traditional folks in the group who really should benefit from this would flock to this brand new thing, this group has been traditionally shunned and made fun of and told "we have no benefits for you" and so now, because t…
/r/MensRights16/01/17 06:25 AM
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And to be honest, it has been proven that no particular breed of dog is more prone to aggression than any other breed, AND that it is the training and treatment by, and the propensities and biases of, the owner of the dogs, that is a major determining factor as to whether or not a dog becomes aggressive. And society reacts as it does not because of biology or science-- if you want to be truthfully honest, society reacts the way it does because of religion. But that's a debate for another time...
/r/MensRights16/01/17 06:08 AM
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In the vast majority of cases, men perpetrate sexual crimes against women, not the other way around. Okay. I'm gonna need some "proof" of this "vast majority of cases" comment. I understand where you think it might be valid, but I'm not as willing to set aside my disbelief enough to get behind such a very broad (and, in my belief, not nearly as truthful as you believe) generalization. Claiming that your statement is valid-- specifically the "vast majority" portion of things-- is like claiming th…
/r/MensRights16/01/17 06:05 AM
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Yeah. That's creepy no matter the gender.
/r/MensRights15/01/17 07:08 PM
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To state it correctly: The sign is not gender-specific. The placement of the sign-- in the women's rest room, and only in the women's rest room-- is what makes this gender-specific.
/r/MensRights10/01/17 02:33 AM
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To state it correctly: The sign is not gender-specific. The placement of the sign-- in the women's rest room, and only in the women's rest room-- is what makes this gender-specific.
/r/MensRights10/01/17 02:32 AM
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You seem to be missing the point of what it is that most of the males who have an opinion here are trying to say-- which is that in cases like this, women want to have bodily autonomy about whether or not to have an abortion or give birth-- but then want to lay claim to "it takes two to make a baby" for situations like paternity or child support-- that is to say, that we men see the situation as women wanting the right to make decisions for us in all situations without consideration of our thoug…
/r/MensRights09/01/17 07:59 PM
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Of all the things I read in this link, this is something I think that everyone needs to take away from this-- especially women, when dealing with men and with their "issues" with men: [A/any person owes their] first allegiance to [themselves] and [their own] best interests. and Much like [Person A] has to accept [the] choice [of Person B], [Person B] has to accept [the choice of Person A]. ((When Person A and Person B are interacting in ways that one's choice can affect the other.)) Yes, these a…
/r/MensRights09/01/17 02:27 AM
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To be honest- and perfectly clear- I have no agreement with this woman, in part because she makes it patently clear that 'gaslighting' is something done by men, to women-- not by one person, to another, which would be at least a more neutral stance. Of course most women know it’s not “crazy” to want closeness or to express hurt feelings, at least deep down; it’s refreshing however to read an article written by a member of the male sex talking about his own past use of “gaslighting” — a tactic me…
/r/MensRights08/01/17 05:38 AM
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To an emotional ass here who seems to think that there is no problem with the Child Support Services System: When a man who has been proven by the Courts to NOT be the biological father to a woman's child, can be made/forced to pay child support to a child he has no connection with, based on the mother's (admittedly mistaken) word that he is the father, then it is not difficult to see that: * The system (Child Support System) does not care about actual paternity; * The system can be suborned bas…
/r/MensRights06/01/17 09:14 PM
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Okay. Evidently, you've lost it. Civil conversation is no longer a thing for you. So I'll end our conversation here. Feel free to not respond any further.
/r/MensRights05/01/17 04:17 PM
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Regardless of what you think of the OP's motivations, yes, every point I made is a valid point. No, the system does not care at all about anything except recouping the money it distributes to the mothers who claim to need it. The system does not care if the father actually gets to see his children, or if the mother is denying him access to see them- I've seen this with my own eyes. It only cares about the almighty green. If it does not get its money, yes, the system will add arrears to the accou…
/r/MensRights05/01/17 12:42 PM
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Let's put you about 10K in arrears in your child support payments, and then let's see how blithely you make "you simply pay your child support correctly and on time" seem. Unfortunately, it's only that simple when you have a cooperative co-parent-- and indeed, someone who is willing to be a "co-parent" rather than an combatant/enemy-- and said co-parent isn't attempting to fuck you over at every turn. When you have the too-often usual-- that is, a woman who has grown to despise the man she creat…
/r/MensRights05/01/17 04:18 AM
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A Tennessee man released from prison after a wrongful conviction put him away for 31 years is fighting for an exoneration case that could grant him $1 million in compensation. [He] was convicted of rape and burglary in 1978 and was sentenced to prison for 115 years. He was released in 2009 after DNA evidence ruled him out as a suspect in the case. After his release ... he could be eligible for up to $1 million in compensation if the Tennessee Parole Board hears his exoneration case, which has be…
/r/MensRights16/12/16 12:33 AM
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So, like, the all of feminist or just the ones you cherry-pick to prove you're a victim of a bunch of women telling you that rape is bad. No, like the ones who get on Twitter and Imgur, who constantly tell me (men) that I'm a rapist simply because I'm male, and who constantly tell me (men) that I can't be a victim. I'll bet that you are one of those types of men who likes to tell women that... ya know what? I'm not gonna go there. Because I'm better tha that. Despite what you and women who think…
/r/MensRights06/12/16 04:16 AM
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And yes, boys commit the act of rape significantly more than women do, so we target them more. And so, because Muslims commit the act of terrorism significantly more than non-Muslims, does that mean we should target them [more]? That very much sounds like a "strawman" argument to me, to say that "because X groups is more likely to do it, it's okay to target them". It takes away from the fact that there are others, other than X, who do "it", and pretty much says that "well, they're not X, so we'r…
/r/MensRights05/12/16 10:29 PM
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Yes, and a lot of women "don't know what rape is", either. Why do you object to teaching everyone, and not just men what a better understanding of what rape is? See how that is? That is the problem with "teach men not to rape". It assumes that women already know what rape is, and that they have little to no contribution to offer towards minimizing the occurrence of rape. It assumes that there is a problem with men (and boys) that there isn't with women (and girls), when the problem is more a soc…
/r/MensRights05/12/16 10:21 PM
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And so, looking a bit further, I see you actually have provided the data upon which you've culled your statements. And while your statements-- *based on the data you've QUICKLY scanned through-- are correctly interpretive, the DATA is wrong. First- your first link from 'the Voice'. You're going to look at info from "The National Center for the Prosecution of Violence Against Women" as a legitimate source for accurately telling you about false accusations of men?? Or, as a legitimate source for a…
/r/MensRights05/12/16 10:11 PM
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And where do you get this "2 to 8 percent chance" statistic from? Because to be honest, that little statistic is patently false. There are plenty of surveys performed that contradict or in some cases even debunk the "2-8%" myth. And even if that were the truth, do you think any of the hundreds of known and publicized instances where men were one of the "2-8%" of the unfortunate population to be falsely accused of rape, feels like his suffering is/was any less than that of a rape victim? As I've …
/r/MensRights05/12/16 09:37 PM
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Third-wave, uber, "so-called" feminist rhetoric in action...
/r/MensRights04/12/16 07:48 PM
1

I would. Bullying by anyone is wrong, and if the bully gets the shit kicked out of them one day for their bullying-- whether the bully is a boy and the victim a girl, or the bully a girl and the victim a boy-- I will stand against the bully.
/r/MensRights29/11/16 11:20 PM
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Unfortunately, technically it is illegal, because- until it can be proven that the accuser committed a crime, they can sue for libel and/or slander ((or so I believe)). Technically speaking, that also goes the other way- the accuser (if/when known) can be sued prior to the conviction of a crime, if it is demonstrated that their actions were intended to cause substantial harm to the accused-- but, because in most cases of this sort, the law/police/prosecutors/social media are all about "let's not…
/r/MensRights22/11/16 08:53 PM
2

clears throat sneezes "Third-wave rabid feminism!!" clears throat again
/r/MensRights11/11/16 11:19 PM
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What makes this "subjective" is that the determination of a person's level of 'intoxication' or 'being incapacitated' are open to interpretation, depending on the person/legal statute doing the determination. For example: A person may appear to be perfectly fine to an average person, but to a (supposedly) trained officer of the law [police], that person may be intoxicated-- and yet not technically incapacitated- and to a (supposedly) sworn officer of the law [judge], that person may be deemed to…
/r/MensRights06/10/16 02:05 PM
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This sub is most certainly NOT "OK with it"-- it being the idea of ruining someone's life based on the false accusation that a crime has been committed by that person. In general, "this sub" is about combating the idiocy of the "so-called" feminists and their fallacies regarding so-called "rape culture" and "patriarchy" and how men are supposed to be evil bastard overlords who gleefully shit upon the rights and privileges of women simply because they get a kick out of doing so. And furthermore, …
/r/MensRights09/09/16 06:20 AM
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I hope this guy keeps this screen-shot, and shows it to his lawyer and to the police. I hope this silly cunt gets what it deserves.
/r/MensRights31/08/16 05:42 AM
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You mean- ...into BDSM/humiliation etc which is considered not to be abuse/battery, but similar to abuse, but with consent. There. Fixed that for you.
/r/MensRights28/08/16 04:24 AM
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Actually, this isn't metaphorical- currently, it is at least acceptable that women are allowed to use the men's rest room when there is a need. Ideally, this is supposed to be allowed only when no men are waiting to use the restroom-- and at least in the ideal, men are expected to be of the mindset that if/when there is a woman in the men's restroom, that the men waiting to use the restroom will wait until the women have vacated. My personal philosophy on the matter is, if a woman is going to go…
/r/MensRights21/08/16 05:56 AM
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I'm only going along with this as long as any woman in the men's room when I go into it, doesn't have a coniption fit-- the moment she does, I'm kicking her ass out. Add/Edit: It is still a "men's" restroom, even when there's a woman in it.
/r/MensRights20/08/16 01:50 AM
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Again- I can only ask, and that's all "another guy" can do, as well. "He" will/has to decide for himself what he'll do. I can only hope; he does not have to live up to the expectations of others (though personally I don't place expectations on others; I just ask and do my best to wait for a response).
/r/MensRights10/08/16 03:19 AM
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Maybe so- but I see it in a lot of places, folks maligning "fat chicks" as though they're the next MRA- someone to be mocked and made fun of. Perhaps he doesn't see it that way. Perhaps he does regret any instances he's hooked up with a "fat chick". I'm just saying- maybe he could choose something else to make fun of in that way. Yes, that's his choice- he need not even think my opinion has any weight. But I'd hope he might see it, and say, "maybe I'll choose something else, instead of 'fat chic…
/r/MensRights09/08/16 02:06 AM
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Actually, I do. I'm not trying to paint all feminists with the same brush. But it's the "loud, obnoxious feminists"-- who I call "so-called" feminists-- who are the ones who will respond to these words with vitrol and antagonism and will try to derail the truth with "stop trying to derail the conversation! Women have been being shat upon for centuries! Your problems aren't really real!" and other such statements. I'm not trying to 'preach' to all feminists- many don't need my words. It's the "so…
/r/MensRights09/08/16 02:03 AM
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No, you don't argue with ISIS- you destroy them. Unlike ISIS though, I actually believe that feminists are human, and worthy of trying to get them to see that the rhetoric some of them spout is a lot more harmful than helpful. And we all have many assumptions; you might assume that I think feminists are singularly focused, and I do not. But I wish to encourage a more open-minded expression of the thinking process when it comes to males and men and the so-called "Patriarchy". And so long as it se…
/r/MensRights09/08/16 02:00 AM
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Unfortunately, you're trying to be rational. And I agree with you. You can still believe the victim, but not ruin the accused. You can still believe the victim, and investigate the issue. You can still believe the victim, without defeating the purpose of trying to minimize false reporting, or false accusations, or of making those who really have been victimized feel marginalized and unimportant. But your rationality does not mean a damned thing against feminism and the perceptions of social medi…
/r/MensRights09/08/16 12:23 AM
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no feminist I've ever met (and I've met tons) would ever support the idea of false accusations or uphold support of someone who falsely accused another But then you have statements like the one above, and then you have feminists who proclaim "always believe the victim" and "teach men not to rape", as if those statements don't implicitly indicate that men are rapists by virtue of being the gender that bears a penis. No, no feminist you've ever met (and of course you've met tons) would ever public…
/r/MensRights09/08/16 12:16 AM
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Not to derail the conversation, but what is it with "fat chicks"?? Some of us like "fat chicks"-- can you please stop saying that like they're the fucking plague?
/r/MensRights08/08/16 11:56 PM
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To malign male objectification as condescending and unfair while embracing the objectification of women is a problem...it's only fair that both sexes are objectified equally. That doesn't sound like there's a lot of equality intended in that. We hear so much about "don't objectify women!" but then from the words of a woman, it's okay to objectify men, because women have been or are still being objectified. There's a flaw in that argument, I'm sure; Let's stop objectifying women! But wait- becaus…
/r/MensRights08/08/16 04:32 AM
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Yeah, no. This is why we have a court system. Yes, it is broken and fucked up. But both women AND men lie. At no point should we believe one gender over another. We should believe facts and evidence.
/r/MensRights03/08/16 01:14 PM
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You say: About a quarter of rapes are reported to police in the US. But I have it here: The analysis of Justice Department data showed out of every 100 rapes, 46 get reported to police I think you might have gotten your statement a bit wrong...
/r/MensRights03/08/16 01:10 PM
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Ergo, 7% of the rapes that happen is a fucking lot more instances than 8% of the rapes that go to court. Just to have it said, because there are some who will read this and not quite get it-- the fact that "7% of the rapes that happen is a fucking lot more instances than 8% of the rapes that go to court" does not invalidate either of those statements. Yes, maybe seven percent of the rapes that happen, IS a larger occurrence of numbers than eight percent of the rapes that go to court. Seven perce…
/r/MensRights03/08/16 01:06 PM
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You really are.... ...ya know what? I think you get a kick out of winding people up with your words. I think you know very well exactly what you're saying and how it will lead others to react. Because I am very positive that you cannot be so lacking in your ability to think and understand. So, I will offer you my congratulations, for your keen abilities to play the reactions of the masses. But I will no longer play with you, and I'll leave you to continue playing with others- hopefully, they'll …
/r/MensRights18/07/16 09:41 PM
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I've decided to come back to this asinine statement and address it as a serious statement, rather than the humorous or sarcastic one I previously thought it was. Saying statistically most rapists are men and that is not an accident. So maleness must be contributing factor to rape is like saying that "statistically most police officers are white and that is not an accident. So being white must be contributing factor to being a police officer". Or, it's like saying that "statistically most trees h…
/r/MensRights17/07/16 05:38 AM
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im just not an equally delusional person for thinking...rape has nothing to do with biology It doesn't. There is nothing in the biology of a male that has any linkage with rape. But I'll give you a bite- perhaps you mean that there is something in the psychology of a male that can be linked to rape. You'd be wrong with that, too, but you'd be a helluva lot closer to being in the right country of some unknown X being linked to rape, than you are by trying to state that there is a biological linka…
/r/MensRights17/07/16 05:24 AM
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No- this is what you said: not all men are rapists but most rapists are men, not women, that is linked to male biology Neither of these things is true-- most rapists are rapists, and while men are more prominently noted for it, women rape too, and when women do it, women tend to rape young boys under the age of consent. Additionally, rape is not linked to male biology-- rape is linked to a rapists' need/desire to exert sexual power or sexual control over another person, and that need/desire is n…
/r/MensRights16/07/16 11:46 PM
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Women rape, too, and rape is not linked to male biology. Please don't say things like that like they are facts.
/r/MensRights15/07/16 10:30 PM
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...and so do some women.
/r/MensRights15/07/16 10:29 PM
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Ya know, I almost missed the sarcasm there; you might wanna up the snark-factor some, or someone might actually think you were being serious here....
/r/MensRights15/07/16 10:28 PM
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Actually, if you look at it in a certain way, yes, rape is "the real issue", since the vast majority of what these "so-called" feminists are outraged about is the nebulous "patriarchy", which boils down to privilege and how women are treated as commodities or possessions, which further boils down to how women generally feel like they are objectified and made to feel as less than human and so therefore doing things to them or expecting things of them makes them feel unsafe, which translates to a …
/r/MensRights15/07/16 06:24 PM
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I suppose that this "film" was created to be something of a "juxtaposition" of rape, featuring a male victim to female perpetrators, instead of the "usual" female victim to a male perpetrator. Quite frankly, it's in poor taste. And it's in poor taste not because the rape victim is male, nor is it poor taste because of the obvious over-dramatization of the so-called perpetrators being hyper "masculine" in their predatory behavior, but because it is meant as a "let's put you in our (women's) shoes…
/r/MensRights14/07/16 05:23 AM
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Yup! Me man! Me don't know big words like "never argue with women"! Me always stand up for what believe in! Me no give in to stupid idiot small minds!
/r/MensRights05/07/16 05:40 AM
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Just wanted to give folks my response to this woman, that I'm in the middle of getting posted as a comment to her on the site... So, here you say this: We don’t give, because we owe you nothing. And then you say this: Gentlemen, go forth and tell your fellow bros: The hyper-masculine, heteronormative, misogynistic empire you’ve built — it has to fall. So, you’re saying that you — women — owe men nothing, but then you’re basically telling men that we — men — owe you, that we should go forth and s…
/r/MensRights05/07/16 05:11 AM
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The true issue here is, why are there any women who are against helping victims of rape, simply because they're male? It shouldn't matter if the clinic was "women only" and is "now" helpful to victims of either/any gender-- are women supposed to be the ONLY victims who matter?? And no, don't answer that; that was a rhetorical question....
/r/MensRights28/06/16 05:08 AM
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I'm so very dismayed....because almost every one of every posters' comments (so far) sound entirely too plausible...
/r/MensRights27/06/16 09:55 PM
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but fucking wasted girls who initiate by grabbing your dick is not rape It may not be rape, but legally it is considered rape. So even if you (and I) don't see that as rape, the law does, and that's who/what we have to be concerned about... And honestly? If I have a drunk trick grabbing at me, trying to use her body to convince me that she wants to have sex, I'm going to turn the other direction and leave her ass right there; you might consider it a "besotted good time", but as you also add, it …
/r/MensRights20/06/16 09:16 AM
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The author also says: Victim Blaming is what they label those of us who speak logic and common sense. But ladies, use some common fucking sense. If you really want to men to take mandatory courses on consent, and you want feminist counsellors to teach children about rape culture, then women should take mandatory college courses on how to drink without putting themselves in danger. Equality. So I can agree with the general tenor of his words.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 09:12 AM
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I can't imagine that some pregnant chick with no discernible life skills could land anything other than a sucker punch. ...until one day, she comes at you with a baseball bat or a frying pan in one hand, and the phone in the other, and you hear her screaming, "No, please don't hit me anymore!"...and then you'll be able to see, not just imagine what "some pregnant chick with no discernible life skills" can do to you... I'm just saying- underestimating anyone-- but in our current hype of "rape cul…
/r/MensRights17/06/16 06:47 PM
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I think even if I were being seriously harmed and in fear for my life I'd be terrified of doing anything but fleeing, should my attacker be a woman. I pulled this from your post-- without identifying you in any way-- and posted that "quote" on Facebook- and labeled it "what 'rape culture' has wrought of men". I hope this doesn't upset you. I also hope that it manages to get a lot of views on Facebook.
/r/MensRights17/06/16 06:44 PM
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"Partner" needs to go out and find another fiancee. Case closed.
/r/MensRights15/06/16 04:17 AM
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Perhaps you're right- but the people I'm condemning have, within recent history, demonstrated that they refuse-- not just for some reason aren't able, but adamantly aren't willing-- to pause and look at the analysis from others-- in this instance, the male gender-- and determine if there's any truth to what is said, or even if it is a matter simply of perspective; these people deliberately blind themselves to anything that does not ardently resonate with their own belief system and their own ide…
/r/MensRights14/06/16 05:29 PM
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Not to deliberately derail the topic that we came here to comment about, or derail your intentions, but your statement: read what you wrote and completely understand the point you were trying to get across however I also understand that if read in a different tone it could have also come off as argumentative and hostile. is one of the ways in which "so-called" feminists say that males are either "gaslighting" or "mansplaining"-- because they read/hear something in a different way than was intend…
/r/MensRights14/06/16 02:31 PM
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In the general scheme of things, no, it doesn't change my answer. Individuals are within their rights to hold whatever opinions they wish; they are not allowed to attempt to enforce those opinions on others, but opinions are like anuses-- practically everyone has one. Even if you were at fault-- which I can't say is the case, even with your additional information-- the point I was making is that the school-- the teacher and the administration-- have something of an obligation to operate in a bet…
/r/MensRights14/06/16 09:37 AM
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To be honest and fair, unpicked-username, you are not at fault for having an opinion that differs from another persons' opinion. Also, you are not at fault for discussing your ideas in school, especially when our english class has started becoming a place where discussions of the differences of genders are taking place. This, is also not your fault: [O]ne of the students in the class was offended by something someone said (but the teacher wont say what it was or who said it). Now, this situation…
/r/MensRights14/06/16 06:49 AM
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This post came up about a month ago- I'll simply repost what I said then.... "Imagine, then, the agonizing pain of being privy to your child’s life for only half the time. The milestones missed. The lost cuddles before bedtime. The long nights spent wondering if they are sleeping sweetly or crying out for [Mummy]." This is what some of us Dads go through. Especially when we don't even have a "50/50" custody agreement, when we barely have any agreement of any sort, or even more so when there's no…
/r/MensRights10/06/16 06:32 AM
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He was a bit of an idiot, to get so offended/defensive so quickly. But for this to make the news like it did, was just as idiotic. He could have simply said, "I'd rather wait to discuss my job until after we've perhaps had a few dates", or "I don't like to talk about my job", rather than launch off into a "so-called" feminist-level anti-social-type diatribe. He went from zero to bat-shit crazy/stupid in less than three exchanges of conversation; that's "crazy" in my book, no matter the gender.
/r/MensRights09/06/16 11:14 PM
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An analysis from the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) shows 97 per cent of every 100 rapists serve no time in jail at all. The analysis of Justice Department data showed out of every 100 rapes, 46 get reported to police, 12 lead to an arrest, nine get prosecuted, five lead to a conviction and only three lead to a rapist spending even a single day in prison. First- FAULTY FUCKING LOGIC! This is NOT correct. Why? Because, first off, they say that of 100 rapes, only about 46 get repo…
/r/MensRights09/06/16 10:55 PM
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This ploy is just as ugly as it sounds. Some men are upending domestic violence laws so that their wives (who are the true victims) are arrested, prosecuted and even sentenced as abusers. I'm currently left speechless by this idiot and his idoitic rhetoric... (After a few minutes further to digest...) Okay. I can only wonder about the real motives of Mr. Jeff Landers, that he so easily seems so willing to throw men under the bus, making an outlandish statement that basically implies that any man…
/r/MensRights08/06/16 01:49 PM
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There are. But according to the post, she doesn't want to investigate any of those options. She doesn't want to use condoms (presumably with him). She wants him to get a vasectomy. So yes, she is demanding. And anyone can demand- they simply can't force someone-- in any real, legal way-- to undergo surgery. You might want to have a talk with "her", and suggest that there are "other, less invasive, options"...
/r/MensRights07/06/16 07:34 AM
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Here's a snarky answer: Read the book. When asked to discuss the book, state that you aren't interested in discussing the book. When asked "why" about your not wanting to discuss the book, tell whoever asks that you find it "offensive". If asked further about "why" you find the book offensive, tell whoever asks that the implications of the content of the book offends you, and that you shouldn't be forced to discuss something that offends you. If asked beyond that, tell whoever asks that both the…
/r/MensRights07/06/16 04:35 AM
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Don't need balls to state the truth. No need to bother to debate the truth, either. It is the principle of the matter. Perhaps he has other options between PiV and divorce. But for a woman to demand that a guy get a vasectomy, because she doesn't want to have any more children is selfish, no matter how much birth control has been on her up to that point, for instance. If the shoe were on the other foot, where he was saying, "I don't want more kids; bitch, go get your tubes tied", women-- and fem…
/r/MensRights07/06/16 04:18 AM
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It is the principle of the matter. Perhaps he has other options between PiV and divorce. But for a woman to demand that a guy get a vasectomy, because she doesn't want to have any more children is selfish, no matter how much birth control has been on her up to that point, for instance. If the shoe were on the other foot, where he was saying, "I don't want more kids; bitch, go get your tubes tied", women-- and feminists-- would be in an uproar. He deserves the same ability to do with his body wha…
/r/MensRights07/06/16 04:17 AM
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No, it isn't. I can't speak for other males here, but I know intimately what it's like to be accused of raping someone. I'm lucky- I didn't have to face expulsion or arrest, as the accusation occurred during a time school wasn't in session, I was already enrolled elsewhere, and the police agreed that it wasn't rape. I still lost friends, I still had to leave the state, I still almost lost my life (twice- while still on campus; once to men who I'd called friends, and once to my own choosing), and…
/r/MensRights06/06/16 12:13 AM
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Congrats. Now you are beginning to understand what we men go through, when we're falsely accused of rape and sexual assault, aren't given the opportunity to properly defend ourselves, and then expelled without evidence or true due cause. I'm sure that sounds bitter and hateful, but it actually isn't. At least, it isn't directed towards you personally. I will offer you my most sincere apologies that you say you were victimized in the same way that many of us men have been, comparatively speaking.…
/r/MensRights05/06/16 07:30 PM
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Okay, fucktard child. You want to say that I'm illiterate, because you can look up the word "mitigate" in the dictionary. What you fail at is literacy and linguistics, specifically: Literacy: knowledge that relates to a specified subject; and Linguistics: the study of language and of the way languages work Maybe you do know how to read, but you sure as fuck suck at comprehension. I said: Your "mitigating circumstances" do not make the crime for which he was convicted less severe. The operative w…
/r/MensRights05/06/16 07:08 AM
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Do you understand the meaning of the fact that I don't give a shit?? Let me try that again. We're not going to agree. What you're discussing does not bear upon the facts presented- which are: * His victim was unconscious; * (It was said that) He had to be forcibly removed from his victim; * He ran when he was seen; * He had to be detained; * (It was said that) He offered up no explanation for his actions towards the victim at the scene; Whether or not the victim agreed to go with him even if it …
/r/MensRights05/06/16 06:15 AM
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Perhaps they were. Nevertheless, he was convicted. I'm not discussing whether or not he did it- not at the moment. I'm discussing his sentencing, for his conviction. And his sentencing was shitty.
/r/MensRights05/06/16 05:13 AM
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I'm not surprised by that. In this time of what I call "hyper-feminism", especially by what I call "so-called" feminists, just about anything said by a male that does not blame males for all the ills of the world will be banned in any of the female-oriented subreddits. There will be all manners of reasons why this will happen- men are either "lying" or "triggering" or "mansplaining" or "invading our safe space" or "victim-blaming" or some combination of the above. The "so-called" feminists don't…
/r/MensRights05/06/16 04:19 AM
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Not interested in tilting at windmills. That's for "Normal-ish"-- they are the ones who wanted to "emind us all that the bullshit goes both ways"-- if they want to be so kind and informative, let them try to convince the "so-called" feminists that bullshit (and victimization) goes both ways. I dare say they won't get anywhere near the warm welcome they've gotten here, from them.
/r/MensRights05/06/16 03:24 AM
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This was described as a "brazen" attack: he was physically forced off of his victim, then chased down and detained by passers-by until police arrived. He was chased down. He wasn't so stumbling drunk that he couldn't run. And he ran, likely because he was aware enough to know what was happening. Though I'm sure one could make the case that he was running because he didn't know if he was about to be beaten or not-- but the fact is that he had to be physically forced off of his partner. Even if he…
/r/MensRights05/06/16 03:15 AM
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Yes, unfortunately it does. Now, go point this out to feminists- that victimization (due to rape, sexual assault, and domestic violence) goes both ways, too. See how much tolerance and willingness to discuss the matter you get from them-- because I dare say, we are a great deal more understanding than many of them seem like they will ever be.
/r/MensRights05/06/16 03:05 AM
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So I read through it. What was it that you wanted to "prove", or for me to take away from it?
/r/MensRights05/06/16 02:26 AM
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Perhaps from the standpoint of the publication in particular, they changed the title for that reason, but I suspect that the reason the woman mentioned decided to sue the publication was because she didn't want to be publicly/socially known as a "rapist", considering what the public/society tends to think of "rapists". In short, she didn't want folks to think badly of her; that's why (I suspect) she sued the publication.
/r/MensRights05/06/16 12:27 AM
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I agree with what you mean. And by common sense-- though, unfortunately, it isn't- common, nor something that is 'sense' to most-- it doesn't need to be explained. But I see your point-- that it does need to be explained-- and I'm on board with it.
/r/MensRights04/06/16 10:28 PM
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Can't say I remember it, but I'd get on live TV and address it to anyone who wants to call themselves a feminist. Hell, I'd say it to anyone of any particular extremist group who wants to claim that they're being treated in an unfair way, and that their behavior is "simply" a reaction to being badly treated. I am a black man-- often treated in an ugly fashion by society. And yet I at least make the attempts to live by the golden rule. I don't try to hit someone (especially just because I'm upset…
/r/MensRights04/06/16 10:26 PM
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Feminists-- and everyone-- should learn to live by the golden rule: Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you. For those who don't get it-- if you don't want someone to do something ugly or hurtful or mean to you, don't do it to other folks. Don't wanna get hit? Don't hit. Don't wanna get yelled at? Don't start yelling. Want someone to respect you? Offer respect to begin with. If everyone lived by the "golden rule", we'd have a lot less stress and strife, and we could likely find and de…
/r/MensRights04/06/16 09:59 PM
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But hey, as long as people's PHYSICAL age aligns, they're "equals" right? Nope. I did say "persons of an agreed-upon level of comparability"-- right now, we use age as that 'agreed upon', but that shouldn't be the only criteria used. No, someone who is not mentally/emotionally capable of making grand life-decisions should not be given a pass simply because they are of the correct age; I do believe that we have processes in place to address that, at least some what. Maybe we could or should have …
/r/MensRights04/06/16 09:46 PM
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...except where that is applied to children. His logic works when the situation involves persons of an agreed-upon level of comparability, but when there is such a vast difference between maturity levels, or between power/management levels, that logic fails. There is also the fact that, as some other people have pointed out, if this situation were involving a 13 year old girl and a 24 year old man, he would not be offering up a public, printed defense to the man in question, and furthermore, the…
/r/MensRights04/06/16 06:34 AM
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That's under the presumption that we can "get it right". But what kind of criteria would you assign towards "getting it right" that the majority of society would agree upon? And to be honest, therein lies the problem; there will always be people who do not agree with what the majority of society says should be the way that a particular law or rule should be expressed and enforced. While in theory, the idea of judging every situation as a unique opportunity to determine law and legality, it would…
/r/MensRights04/06/16 06:22 AM
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Mind. Blown. A woman, saying that we should be calling it what it is-- when an adult (female) has sexual activities with a child (male)-- that it should (still) be called rape. This is what about feminism I would willingly get behind.
/r/MensRights04/06/16 06:04 AM
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sigh ...and this is so not the point of the entire thread. ...and I refuse to argue with you. You're arguing minor semantics, when overall, your argument is not fully correct. But if you wish to believe what you believe, I will not argue with you about it.
/r/MensRights03/06/16 02:31 AM
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I say let us abolish prisons all together. For violent criminals, we visibly brand them, and give them an opportunity to change (meaning, offer relocation or educational incentives, or something of those sorts), and remove a portion of their anatomy (a hand, two fingers, reproductive capability, etc)- if they change, they get a brand on top of the older one that 'negates' the brand. If they don't, shoot them and be done with them. For non-violent criminals, or for lesser crimes, brand them and g…
/r/MensRights02/06/16 11:52 PM
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You kinda are splitting hairs here, just to say. A religion may not be a cult, but a cult is more often than not backed by religion. But we're deviating away from the topic of the original post...
/r/MensRights02/06/16 09:06 PM
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So, we're supposed to be of the idea that because only (or less than) 20% of women commit crime, that women as a general whole should not be imprisoned. Well, since less than 20% of men commit rape, we should tell the Guardian that men as a whole shouldn't be blamed for rape. I'd bet that no feminist would agree to something like that....
/r/MensRights02/06/16 12:41 AM
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I'm not at all interested in "getting revenge". And if those posters are not posted across many campuses in the United States, then I stand corrected. I'm no longer a college student, so I can't say I've seen the posters with my own eyes, but I've heard about them often enough from disparate sources across the United States. And "you believe" he was saying let's have sex, but only became uncomfortable after the fact. The reasoning as to why he changed his mind is irrelevant, with regards to your…
/r/MensRights29/05/16 03:09 AM
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Yes, these are likely the deflection tactics that will be used by "so-called" feminists in order to shut down any consideration that their thoughts/comments/ideology could be in any way wrong....
/r/MensRights28/05/16 10:04 PM
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And a more personal counter-argument/rant: "Nothing makes me angrier than women who try to debate about rape/sexism, and then pull the "well, only 2 to 8% of rape accusations are false" card. Enjoy the privilege of never knowing what it feels like to be accused of a rape you never committed, to lose your friends and your family and your job and be forced to leave town or leave the state, or be forced to lose your freedom or even be threatened with the loss of your own life. Enjoy the privilege o…
/r/MensRights28/05/16 09:58 PM
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My counter-argument/rant: "Nothing makes me angrier than women who try to debate about rape/sexism, and then pull the “always believe the victim” and “teach men not to rape” and “you’re a man; you don’t understand” cards. Enjoy the privilege of being able to make accusations of rape and about being raped with no legally or socially negative consequences. Enjoy the privilege of being accused of rape or of being falsely arrested for rape being SO abstract from your life that it’s just a distant st…
/r/MensRights28/05/16 09:53 PM
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Wait- what??? You're defending the women-- but, if the situation were reversed- where it was the woman who was saying "no, I don't wanna have sex" and then they expelled the man- would you be defending him, too? I do find it deplorable that what happened-- and what happens in all cases like this-- led to an expulsion. But this is what happens to males all of the time- someone says that he was an awful beast of a bastard, and then he's expelled for what amounts to "regretting a conscious decision…
/r/MensRights28/05/16 09:28 PM
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I'm man enough to vote for the best candidate available to do the job to the best of their ability. drops the mic
/r/MensRights27/05/16 11:29 PM
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For those who don't know, the quote mentioned by AloysiusC comes from this article: http://content.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1101910603-157165,00.html
/r/MensRights26/05/16 06:00 AM
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What you're confronting right now is the idea that an investigation should actually happen, but what is actually meant by "believe the victim" is not "let's have an investigation to prove (or disprove) that a rape happened" but "She says it happened, so it happened, arrest him/expel him!" And unfortunately, what actually happens when people "believe the victim" under the way it is actually meant to be implied by the "so-called" feminists is that the accused are automatically (socially) branded a…
/r/MensRights26/05/16 04:46 AM
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"Given all the years of no true evidence [as of yet] and no police reports and no rape reports only peripheral circumstantial "heresay" that exists only with the memories of those who are making the accusations, I'd be extremely surprised if he was guilty"... But I will withhold my judgment until I've heard evidence that is more than just heresay.
/r/MensRights26/05/16 04:37 AM
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Nah. Not new. And yes, I do get the sarcasm there. (grin) But I still stand by my statement, no matter how much flak I might get from SJW and "so-called" feminists- what's right is what's right, and gender has no bearing. And I'll fight for that, if I have to. (smile)
/r/MensRights26/05/16 03:59 AM
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I most assuredly need "proof" to believe anyone is the perpetrator of a crime-- ya know, 'innocent until proven guilty'?? That's one of the reasons why we call them 'alleged'....
/r/MensRights25/05/16 03:44 PM
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Many women-only spaces exist for one reason: to avoid male harassment. Most male-only spaces also exist for one reason: male privilege. Be that as it may, destroying/removing 'male-only' spaces, while creating/preserving 'female-only' spaces, is sexual bias, and such a situation should not be allowed.
/r/MensRights24/05/16 04:44 AM
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This is one of those occasions where "I can't even..." applies. I try very hard not to be so disparaging towards someone, but in this case, it is...warranted, even if it isn't appropriate to say it: the first words I spoke, after reading this, were, "That stupid cunt!" I only use that word for the most serious of violations, as I think it's a vile word to use. But this...person, is a vile person...
/r/MensRights13/05/16 04:01 AM
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"Imagine, then, the agonizing pain of being privy to your child’s life for only half the time. The milestones missed. The lost cuddles before bedtime. The long nights spent wondering if they are sleeping sweetly or crying out for [Mummy]." This is what some of us Dads go through. Especially when we don't even have a "50/50" custody agreement, when we barely have any agreement of any sort, or even more so when there's not even an agreement in place, and so Dad has to ask Mom when he can have some…
/r/MensRights11/05/16 08:16 AM
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How about we switch the genders, and see how much outrage erupts? Women who keep mentioning women who have been "raped" are probably likely to lie about being raped and falsely accuse others of being rapists. Whenever people mention rape and sexual assault, I always make sure to state that I always assume women who worry about being believed that they've been raped are, in fact, either lying about it or willing to lie about it. Thr first few times this happened in my group of normal friends, the…
/r/MensRights30/04/16 11:13 PM
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I've got one word for these self-entitled little pissants: Idiots.
/r/MensRights21/04/16 01:48 AM
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I don't disagree with the basic arguments you pose here, at least in general. What I do disagree with is your assertion that they miss the point that this conversation needs to happen. The "good" men of the world-- as you say-- already understand the point you're trying to make- rape is bad, we should do our part to stop rape if and when we have an opportunity to do so, or do our part to report and prosecute rape when we're not able to prevent it. That is the point that the "good" men are trying…
/r/MensRights19/04/16 05:13 AM
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So instead of blaming women, you should be supporting the movement to say ...that we as a society need to change what we do and how we "program" our children who will one day grow up and become adults. No, don't blame women-- but don't coddle women by making them "not responsible" for the choices they make that could potentially contribute to their safety or harm. Telling a person, male or female, not to drink and get black-out drunk, is not victim-blaming-- but there are plenty of "so-called" f…
/r/MensRights19/04/16 02:44 AM
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...i.e., changing society, not just men....because the problem is with society, and the solution will involve society and changing society. Men AND women are a part of society, so...
/r/MensRights19/04/16 02:22 AM
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This tweet (?) is so idiotic as to be almost satirical. There is no way I could take this seriously, let alone sustain the train of thought that I'd need to "argue" against such asinine absurdity. Arguing that "a woman cannot be a domestic abuser" is like arguing that "a man cannot be a victim".
/r/MensRights19/04/16 02:15 AM
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The unfortunate situation seems to be that some of the "so-called" feminists want to be able to do all that they desire, without having to deal with the consequences. They want to be allowed to drink themselves stupid, drink themselves into a drunken puddle on the bathroom floor, but don't want to have to face the fact that being so drunk potentially puts them at the mercy of some "so-called" men who should instead be called "rapists" who will take advantage of them. "Teach men not to rape" they…
/r/MensRights18/04/16 03:07 AM
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As long as there is either: * A) All restrooms become "anyone" restrooms-- meaning male AND female restrooms; or * B) There is (as another poster suggested) a male's restroom, a female's restroom, AND a "anyone" restroom, and not just men's rooms being taken to be "anyone" restrooms while leaving female restrooms alone, I see no problem with the situation. But if it's only men's rooms being taken away-- and basically giving women the privilege of being able to use the "anyone" restroom while str…
/r/MensRights13/04/16 01:49 AM
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...Then Nick Young should: * A) Report to his police that his wife/girlfriend/SO/whatever has threatened him with lethal physical violence if she believes/suspects that he has cheated/is cheating/will chat on her; * B) Tell all of his and her friends that she has threatened him with lethal physical violence if she believes/suspects that he has cheated/is cheating/will cheat on her; * C) Funnel any money he has-- and that he's not using to support his half of their relationship-- into a separate …
/r/MensRights12/04/16 03:28 AM
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Neither, actually. And we're ALL a bit bigoted from time to time, a bit hypocritical, a bit untruthful about ourselves. I just recognize that about myself, and about other folks. But go ahead and show how mature and intelligent you are by name-calling. If it makes you feel better, be my guest. I'm not going to contribute to your diatribe.
/r/MensRights04/04/16 07:59 PM
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No, not really- a mess is the natural (human state of hair) if left unattended by humans. Dread(locks) are, in a very simple explanation, a stylized and at least vaguely managed "mess"- but they do still require at least a modicum of attending...
/r/MensRights04/04/16 03:04 PM
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Unfortunately, I disagree- I think she was feeling indignation to the tune of treating anyone who was not a minority, who was also wearing dreadlocks, just as she did this young man. She seems like she was [narrow-minded enough] to be the type to behave this way to anyone who was "stealing" from her culture.
/r/MensRights04/04/16 03:02 PM
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The implication is that I can understand how non-minorities wearing dreadlocks are perceived by minorities-- being one, myself-- and I'm aware of my own... sometimes not very logical perceptions.
/r/MensRights04/04/16 06:48 AM
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A video showing a black student accosting a white student over his dreadlocks has racked up more than two million views in two days. Shot at San Francisco University, it shows an unnamed black woman blocking the path of Corey Goldstein, who sports the controversial hairstyle. Referring to his dreads, she claims: “It’s my culture”. In a second video, Goldstein goes on to defend his choice of hairstyle, insisting that dreadlocks are “everywhere… it’s not something that is just part of the coloured…
/r/MensRights04/04/16 04:59 AM
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Well, that is your opinion; you are welcome to it. Rule enforcement is fine; doing so in public, and then saying "we'll discuss further in private" is not-- and mind you, yes, that is my opinion. It is- in my opinion- bad behavior. If you begin a private discussion in public, the person you're having that discussion with has the right to respond in public. And that's the only thing I'm "discussing" here.
/r/MensRights20/03/16 06:45 PM
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Okay. To me, NO, the "job" of the moderator is not to enforce a "only comment if you agree with this topic". That person is then not a moderator, they are a cheer leader. And a moderator can choose to speak in public, or in private, but once they take a situation public, they need to deal with it in public, not try to then say "if you wanna talk about this some more, speak with me privately". Those were the points I'm making. And no, I'm not talking about the banning. I'm simply stating that I t…
/r/MensRights20/03/16 01:21 PM
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To be fair- If you act a fool in public, I'm not going to drag you off to a private place to bless you out. Likewise, this mod could have easily said, in a private message, "Your words/actions/behavior aren't acceptable here; please curtail this, or you will be banned". By making it a public statement, the moderator had no call to then say, "Let's discuss this further in private"-- that smacks of the appearance of pandering to the forum, rather than being an actual moderator. Someone in her/his …
/r/MensRights20/03/16 12:43 PM
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Hey, hey now. We all know that just because a victim doesn't react the way we may expect a victim to act, it doesn't make them any less a victim. #StopVictimBlaming That may be true, but these things seem to indicate that the woman in question is not a victim: KSNT News obtained the official documents from the university’s investigation. It finds that two students has sex, but it was consensual. Also, that 20-year-old Courtney Smith solicited the sex and was not the victim of abuse. That, in add…
/r/MensRights20/03/16 11:49 AM
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The actuality is that the percentage of false accusations of rape and/or sexual assault is an unknowable figure, which could be as low as 5% (to split the difference between that ridiculous 2-8% statistic), to as high as...40%? 70%? Again, it is an unknowable figure, because in the end, it really comes down to "s/he said, s/he said". Only the person leveling the accusation can really know if they are being as truthful as possible, or if they are being uncertain, or if they are outright lying, AN…
/r/MensRights16/03/16 07:40 PM
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I can't claim PTSD- if I ever could, I dunno if I still could. That being said, I know quite well how debilitating it can be to be a victim of a false accusation- the deep Depression, the anger, the suicidal thoughts, the guilt-- because, you wonder (unless you never met or touched the person in question) if there was anything you did that made them think/feel this way, or why is it that they think/feel this way? You develop exaggerated anti-social responses: you begin to avoid initiating conver…
/r/MensRights16/03/16 07:52 AM
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Nope. 1) You gotta be the first to make the accusation. Haven't you watched Maury/Jerry? The audience always believes the first story over the ones that follow. 2) You have a penis, and so you're automatically believed to be incapable of being a victim, especially if the perpetrator is a woman.
/r/MensRights16/03/16 06:55 AM
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The burden of proof may still reside with the prosecution, but the proof they have to provide in cases of this sort (cases of rape and/or sexual assault) is a considerably reduced amount and a great deal more one-sided than in "ordinary" cases. As stated, they're moving from a stance of "was there a refusal", to "was there an agreement"-- meaning that they're going from, "did this happen" to "how can you prove that it didn't happen?" It has already been shown in many cases that innocent men can …
/r/MensRights16/03/16 06:53 AM
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If I were required to improve the illustration, one of the first things I would do is remove the initial commentary about "this is where your choice begins and ends", and perhaps make a statement that both parties have a responsibility to act responsibly, and then list a few of those ways. From there, I would then probably have each "couple" "discuss" their further options, like "[discussion of what each person wants, and of pros/cons of xxx]" where in one case that discussion would be about abo…
/r/MensRights12/03/16 10:58 PM
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The issue I have with this illustration is that while it gives more maturity to the situation-- in that it implies that, in the end, the woman's choice is her choice and cannot be "forced" onto a man-- it still also implies that men are and should remain powerless to do anything but accept whatever choice the woman makes. It begins by saying "This is where your choice begins and ends, men- sexy time!" which clearly states that men have nothing else to contribute to the 'discussion' and that ther…
/r/MensRights12/03/16 06:29 PM
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The gender pay gap is the difference between women’s and men’s average weekly full-time equivalent earnings, expressed as a percentage of men’s earnings, so it is not affected by differences in the hours or length of employment. This sentence seems to highlight the issue for me. If women worked in the same job, and for the same hours, and then there was a "pay gap", I could see offering my support to equalize the situation. But often what determines the wages that one receives are affected by th…
/r/MensRights12/03/16 06:57 AM
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This issue comes up often, and with most women and what I'll call "special others" (SJWs, 'White Knights', so-called feminists, etc.) stating that "her body, her choice" and "she carries the baby, so she should have all the responsibility/decisions" and "if he didn't want a baby, he shouldn't have sex!" and other such pithy remarks. This is a complicated issue. Perhaps, what we need is not the ability to make decisions regarding a woman's ability to decide to give birth to a child or not-- at le…
/r/MensRights09/03/16 11:10 PM
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Unfortunately, that depends on the particular 'brand' of feminism you follow. Some "so-called" feminists aren't looking for actual gender equality, so much as they are looking for feminine superiority, disguised as gender equality. When the catchphrase of the year is "teach men not to rape", that does nothing to help promote gender equality. When the narrative becomes "believe the victim, no matter what", that not only does nothing to help promote gender equality, that actually promotes gender i…
/r/MensRights09/03/16 10:47 PM
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I just wanted to point out that being attacked still requires you to use sensible restraint when possible and that we shouldn't have the attitude that if punched I automatically should punch back. I agree with pretty much everything but this. I'm not out to try to convince you that you're wrong. But at the same time, I wish I could express to you why it is wrong to think to not retaliate when you're attacked. Logically, you are correct, but usually by the time violence arrives on the scene, logi…
/r/MensRights07/03/16 04:29 AM
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You may be a doorman, but you encounter potential violence and assault as a peripheral function of your job. We're not discussing violence encountered as a function of a job, where it is logical and a co-related function of your job to keep your head and only respond with an "escalation of force" to violence visited upon you. What you're also speaking about is about reasonable action-- meaning, in your line of work, it is not likely that someone is going to want to beat upon you, verses simply w…
/r/MensRights07/03/16 02:57 AM
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What you're advocating is that if a woman hits a man first, a man should be considerate of the woman- her size, her state of mind, her physical strength, etc.- before he hits her in return, and you're using the example of a child hitting an adult as your comparison. I'll express why it is that this example is flawed. 1) Your example is flawed because women are not children; they already know right from wrong, unlike children, and also unlike children, when someone attempts to correct them for th…
/r/MensRights06/03/16 08:46 PM
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This is so ridiculous that I can't even laugh about it. How about this- we change the gender and instead of making it about a fat woman, we make it about socially-repressed man? I bet that would give them pause! Oh, wait- wasn't that already done by Elliot Rodger? Yeah...and see what happened there...
/r/MensRights06/03/16 02:04 AM
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So what you're saying is that you don't approve of "equality" when it changes things so that the privileges over men that women enjoy are reduced to equal those of men? that equality should be only applied where the privileges of women are raised to equal- or surpass- those of men? Would it be, perhaps, that your assumption would sound like this: Raise women's pay! Close the gap! instead of- as was done- raising women's retirement age requirements to that of men's? So, we should leave women's re…
/r/MensRights26/02/16 05:49 PM
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So? I also know a few rape victims IRL. And I also know a few victims of sexual assault accusations- myself being one of them. No, you can't erase memories or run away from PTSD. And these things are not just the hallmarks of being the victim of ape or sexual assault; they happen to those accused of rape or sexual assault as well. You seem to be missing the point- no, being accused of rape or sexual assault is not more horrible than being a victim of rape or sexual assault. But neither is being …
/r/MensRights25/02/16 06:16 PM
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I'll agree with the "(not) dangerous" part. But it's always easier to speak words-- and, in human nature, to blame someone else for something-- than it is to actually carry out actions. But yes- to say that rape is dangerous- well, they're not wrong, so much as they are misguided. There are dangers to committing rape, but by and large, you're correct; it (often) is not very dangerous at all to rape someone. Not that I would ever want to do that- I've suffered through being accused, and I think I…
/r/MensRights25/02/16 03:39 PM
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Yeah, being falsely accused is pretty shit too but you can't really compare the two. Yeah, you're right; they're apples and oranges. From a physical standpoint, 9 times out of 10, being raped is worse than being accused of rape. Generally speaking, what the person being accused of having raped someone is words, not abuse. But generally the person being raped is only raped once, only beaten once, only made to suffer the indignity of having been raped once. The person who has been raped does suffe…
/r/MensRights25/02/16 03:29 PM
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Yes. Yes, you did. And in an awful, frightening way, to be honest. This is what we as men go through- when we're the victims, especially of assault and violence perpetrated by a woman- we're not believed, and we're not very wanting to "step forward to bring [our] perpetrators to justice", because we won't be believed, we'll be laughed at and ridiculed... and yes, "This is why there are so few men stepping forward to report crimes committed against them by women... [and the reality is that] the a…
/r/MensRights25/02/16 08:52 AM
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Lowering the numbers of victims [of rape and/or sexual assault] is not a bad idea. I definitely don't disagree with you. But we don't need to "lower the numbers of victims" at the expense of raising the number of alleged rapists when there is no clear, substantial and definitive evidence that the alleged rapist is in fact a rapist. And unfortunately, some feminists-- I call them "so-called" feminists-- do indeed want to lower the number of victims, without caring if they increase the number of a…
/r/MensRights25/02/16 08:45 AM
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I could counter this with Men accused of being assholes are assholes until proven otherwise. Men accused of being womanizers are womanizers until proven otherwise. And those aren't even crimes. So what's your point? That because public opinion is fickle yet damned-near forever, and because public opinion isn't a crime and yet people suffer the indignities of public opinion that when something is a crime we should treat it like we do public opinion?? Public opinion, and a criminal act, are two di…
/r/MensRights25/02/16 08:40 AM
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I'm looking for a world where you can hold both ideas, give your opinion but still wait for the facts. And where somebody doesn't unduly suffer because of an accusation. Thank you very much for that; that is precisely what I believe and want, for both feminists and MRAs...
/r/MensRights25/02/16 03:26 AM
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I will say being branded falsely as a rapist, can affect somebody more than being physically raped. They are both Horrible events, but one of which you will lose all of your friends and support. You can also lose your freedom, your sense of self-esteem and self-worth, and even your life. And some of us know what this is like, which is why we might argue about the severity of accusation in the face of some who want to claim that an accusation is "astonishingly" low, and "only 2-8% of rape accusat…
/r/MensRights25/02/16 01:07 AM
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It's also not difficult for someone to level an accusation these days, and for there to be an arrest-- and in some cases, a conviction-- based merely on an accusation, shoddy investigation, and circumspect circumstantial "evidence"... And in comparison, it is more difficult to rape-- even date rape- because rape is an action, and an accusation is just words to be spoken. So in that context, yes, it is relatively more difficult to rape, than it is to accuse. Mind you, this is not the point of the…
/r/MensRights25/02/16 12:53 AM
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He does answer the question- his answer is just a touch longer than you're reading though. The shorter answer is that, you can't try to hold one party accountable and then not hold the other party accountable, when the exact same factors are being used to make the judgment. Meaning, of course, you can't say, "sober man + drunk woman = rape (of the woman)", or "drunk man + drunk woman = rape (of the woman)", but not "sober woman + drunk man =/= rape (of the man)" or "drunk man + drunk woman =/= r…
/r/MensRights21/02/16 01:27 PM
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I can't say if Ms. Maxwell does not actually care at all for the plight of men who are accused of rape and/or sexual assault, but her words seem to indicate that she doesn't care at all; she seems so focused on the victimhood of women, and so very dismissive of the consequences that men accused of perpetrating rape and/or sexual assault suffer through. But then again, that seems to be pretty universal among "so-called" feminists. (("So-called" feminists are, in my definition, feminists who make …
/r/MensRights16/02/16 06:08 PM
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You may believe that if you choose. That doesn't make it a fact. And as a man who has been in this position before, I certainly wouldn't be arguing for all men to be automatically assumed to be guilty. I can certainly say "believe that the victim genuinely feels/believes that she was raped and/or sexually assaulted" and still say, "but let's go investigate and pull together evidence to see if what the victim actually experienced was rape and/or sexual assault". I would have welcomed an investiga…
/r/MensRights16/02/16 06:03 PM
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My statement stands. I'm not saying that you must believe the victim of rape and/or sexual assault over that of the person accused of the perpetration of rape and/or sexual assault. One can believe the former, and still be in need of evidence of the latter. The thing that's missing in this equation is investigation. That is what allows one to determine if the person accused is guilty or not of the crime, even if the alleged victim says that the crime happened. Believing the victim does not mean …
/r/MensRights16/02/16 08:50 AM
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I won't disagree with you on that.
/r/MensRights16/02/16 02:53 AM
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I wouldn't even go as far as to call her evil and bigoted- I'd stop with deluded and misguided. She is (in my own opinion) much like the more devout, zealous Catholics in their surety of their righteousness of their faith and in their faith. She believes so much in her faith ((believe the victim)) that she's unwilling to consider that there might be anything wrong with that faith, or the direction or extent to which she pushes that faith. She won't examine her faith, because she believes in it s…
/r/MensRights16/02/16 02:52 AM
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Perhaps, but after reading what she'd written, you shouldn't expect that she has a firm grasp on logic where this issue is concerned.
/r/MensRights16/02/16 02:42 AM
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There are actually plenty of cases like this. The Brian Banks case is merely one of the most famous ones. http://www.cotwa.info/2012/06/bygones-be-bygones-unspeakable.html
/r/MensRights16/02/16 01:53 AM
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Unfortunately, those who most would be likely to do to her, what she advocates society to do to men, would find some way to rationalize not doing to her, what she advocates society to do to men. So, accusing her of perpetrating rape and/or sexual assault would very likely not have the results you'd hope for.
/r/MensRights16/02/16 01:47 AM
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Had she written that prior to the '70s, she would not have been listened to- being both black and a woman would have worked against her in her explanations regarding believing the victims of rape and sexual assault (i.e., women) and discounting those accused (i.e., men). It isn't that she is-- or is not-- a "race traitor"; it's the fact that she is so ardently against consideration of the consequences of the actions that she advocates. One can advocate for believing the victims of rape and sexua…
/r/MensRights16/02/16 01:45 AM
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This is the referenced article from Zerlina Maxwell: http://www.washingtonpost.com/posteverything/wp/2014/12/06/no-matter-what-jackie-said-we-should-automatically-believe-rape-claims/ While what she says is that we should always believe the alleged victim, what she implies is that she has no interest whatsoever for whether or not the alleged aggressor is innocent of the accusation. The import of this is that she demonstrates in her words that she has no interest in the truth, only in the emotion…
/r/MensRights15/02/16 09:17 PM
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But you guys probably won't by it it's probably a trick, and dare an abused woman tell you that you are not a potential rapist and she knows she hopes you are there for her if she needs you, ludicrous I know... ...And I bet you'd deny that your words are an attempt to do just exactly what the words of that flyer are attempting to do, wouldn't you? That sounds like a really good argument for your idea that the flyer is attempting to be supportive of women and supportive towards men. I can't imagi…
/r/MensRights14/02/16 05:36 AM
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I love the blantent willful ignorance to the like 7 post I made of the source of the origanal quote, which explains it isn't about putting yourself In danger. It's just about being a trusted friend for the victim, the bystander is referring to if you know anyone in your personal life abusing someone not to turn a blind eye to it. I would hope that has alot more to do with every ones moral compassion rather than their gender. Like I said this quote is only as sexist as you choose to make it.. ...…
/r/MensRights14/02/16 05:20 AM
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Actually, it would be this: Approach shoplifting as customer issues.... etc... And in that context, it does seem to paint all customers as potential shoplifters. So... here's yer sign.
/r/MensRights14/02/16 05:10 AM
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It's the phrase-ology. It's the fact that it was posted in a men's dorm, not campus-wide (or so we're lead to believe). These things make it quietly sexist. And, to provide a counter point, here's this: http://i.imgur.com/pm8IbeT.png One could apply the same logic that you're using, but then the "so-called" feminists and the white knighters will say that this is a valid complaint. How can a complaint about how a statement is worded when it is subtly offensive to men be something that we (as men)…
/r/MensRights14/02/16 05:08 AM
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I just don't think a bunch people should be going all code orange over some quote from You should say the same thing to women, then.
/r/MensRights13/02/16 11:45 PM
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I think you ladies are all just so paranoid that A little piece of paper [like] * The "1 in 5" study * The manifesto of Elliot Rodger has thrown you into a whirlwind... Now, see how that sounds? The situation doesn't sound so "paranoid" when we put it in the context of making women feel belittled or marginalized. It sounds as if you're saying that it is okay (for a woman) to say something like that, to basically "woman-splain"-- that is, to minimize what a man is saying and "poo-poo" it, because…
/r/MensRights13/02/16 07:18 PM
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We also gain nothing when we wage a war of mutually-assured destruction-- even when it might be "tongue in cheek". What this woman-- and we men-- should be doing is trying to mutually build up men and other women-- and we should be working to build up ourselves, as well-- rather than tear each other down. This bill- even if it is reactionary symbolism- is harmful to both parties, to be honest, as serious proponents of bills geared towards denying women's abortion/birth control rights will see th…
/r/MensRights13/02/16 05:08 AM
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This is what I said, previously, and I'll say it to your statement that "we don't know if a similar poster was not put up in the womens dorms": It is a quietly, subtly sexist poster/statement, in that it only speaks to and identifies men as the potential perpetrators, as well as the only ones who hold the solution to the situation. It takes away any agency from women to assist or even lead in making a solution to the issue, and it specifically targets men, rather than a gender-neutral "people". …
/r/MensRights12/02/16 08:57 PM
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No offense, but if * a female senator (from Australia, I believe) can read-- and say!!-- "mansplaning" into an open discussion between herself and a man, * women can read "manspreading" into men sitting on the subway train with their legs open, * feminists can read "rape apologist" or "rape supporter" from a collegiate endeavor to try and maintain "due process" on their campus, then we men can read "sexist" into a statement that only speaks to and identifies men as the potential perpetrators, as…
/r/MensRights12/02/16 06:44 PM
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I would disagree, to be honest. It is quietly, subtly sexist, in that it only speaks to and identifies men as the potential perpetrators, as well as the only ones who hold the solution to the situation. It takes away any agency from women to assist or even lead in making a solution to the issue, and it specifically targets men, rather than a gender-neutral "people". If I were in college and saw this, I would 1) Take it down; 2) Replace it with something more gender neutral; 3) Place this- with "…
/r/MensRights12/02/16 06:39 PM
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...Or, you could say, she should have had her tubes tied before the first one and there wouldn't have been a problem...
/r/MensRights11/02/16 06:07 PM
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I agree with Leinadro- condoms are a great birth control method. Instead of demanding he have a vasectomy (or no sex), she could simply ask him to wrap it up, or no sex. Yes, the "demand" factor is what would make me respond in an uncivil fashion...
/r/MensRights11/02/16 06:06 PM
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Or he could tell her, "Okay. So if I don't have a vasectomy, you won't let me stick my penis in your vagina. "Alright- pick one, then-- ass, or mouth? Cuz if it ain't going in your vagina, it's going in one of those other two." That's just as much of fucked up thing to say to her, as she posted saying to him. That would be both equal and fair.
/r/MensRights11/02/16 06:04 PM
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Ya know, despite myself and my previous comment about my being done, your statement seems to make me want to try once more to explain to you how your idea of "fair" is not true. I am quite aware of what the differences between "equal" and "fair" are, but let's make it crystal clear between us: Merriam-Webster defines equal as: 1- the same in number, amount, degree, rank, or quality 2- having the same mathematical value 3- not changing : the same for each person and Merriam-Webster defines fair a…
/r/MensRights10/02/16 07:48 PM
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Actually, these days it's "Rape: the only crime I can think of where you don't have to prove you didn't consent", or "Rape: the only crime I can think of where you have to prove you got consent...from the person who's saying you didn't get consent". These days, rape is becoming a crime where the accusation is enough to cause an arrest and an investigation into the accused, and where if and/or when it is found that the accused is innocent, the accuser is not fined or sanctioned in any way for hav…
/r/MensRights10/02/16 05:58 AM
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I can barely hear the sarcasm from here!!
/r/MensRights10/02/16 05:48 AM
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You're making the mistake that a woman rabid, "all men rape" feminist making that last statement would actually "get it".
/r/MensRights10/02/16 05:46 AM
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Actually, your math is faulty. not letting men walk away from a child can screw over the man. Letting him walk away scot-free does screw over two people. Math. "Letting him walk away" might only screw over two people if the woman keeps the baby-- and in the current socio-political-economic climate, no, he's not allowed to "walk away scot-free",so if the woman keeps the baby, that screws over three people, so your math is wrong. Forcing a man to be responsible for a child is almost always a wrong…
/r/MensRights10/02/16 02:58 AM
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Again- you're not speaking to the issue. This is not a matter to talk about whether or not the child is innocent, or whether or not the child deserves to live. That is a separate issue. As for why do we-- as men-- have a right to dictate anything in the process? What gives women the right to dictate what happens to us as men? They carry the child- we're not attached at the hip with them when this happens. Hell- we could unknowingly conceive a child with them, they up and leave without telling us…
/r/MensRights09/02/16 09:48 PM
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I'll go with your third and fourth points, as I essentially don't have an argument with the first two. Point #3: Women left with no partner to parent her unborn child do still have options. They are rather dismal, I will admit, but the point of contention there is that a man is either forced to provide child support to a child he does not want, or to face wage garnishment or imprisonment, or in the event she chooses to abort, he can only shrug his shoulders about it; he doesn't get to elect to e…
/r/MensRights09/02/16 09:39 PM
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Actually, I do. Well, I won't call it "fear". I will call it "a very healthy understanding of just how very quickly it can escalate and just how fucked up it can become for no damned reason and ruin my life". Because I've lived through this shit. And thankfully, for how fucked up what I went through was, I was fortunate not to have any legal attachments, or it would have been at least a couple of orders of magnitude worse. Yes, it might be fear-mongering. But as they say, "It isn't paranoia if t…
/r/MensRights09/02/16 07:22 PM
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I could be petty, regarding your patronizing statement "Problem solved". You mentioned that you have issues with how one discusses the issues here in this forum. That's another thing about the men's rights movement that has troubled me. We could talk about this so much better if we just stopped with the incessant "Well why do women get to X but men can't?" and "Why do men have to do Y but women only have to do Z?" It's a red herring in disguise Well, if you feel this is so, then here is what you…
/r/MensRights09/02/16 07:15 PM
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But referring to men who get women pregnant and then want to opt out for insufficient reasons as "irresponsible cunts" is... well, it's still insulting. But it's accurate. This is not accurate. No one knows why it is that the potential father doesn't want to be a father, and so you can't simply decide that it is a fact that a man who manages to get his partner pregnant and then states that he doesn't want to be a father is an "irresponsible cunt". That is your opinion, not a matter of accuracy, …
/r/MensRights09/02/16 07:11 PM
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You're not speaking to the issue. The issue is: why is it okay for a woman to be able to decide to either terminate a child or give birth to the child, but the only choice the man in the situation has is to accept whatever the woman decides? This question, this issue, has nothing to do with the child itself, and more to do with the fact that one part of the potential parental equation has a great deal more power to make decisions about said potential parenthood than the other. "Think about the c…
/r/MensRights09/02/16 06:44 PM
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I don't disagree with that at all. I just feel like, we can't stoop to that level (where we can help it, that is), because then that makes us look just as bad (or worse) as the type of feminist we here in this forum are trying to discover how to deal with.
/r/MensRights09/02/16 02:25 AM
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No, not in my "realm" of DV. That was something else- no less horrific, no less terrible, mind you. Child abuse, I'd say. Not "domestic violence". Just so you understand how I'm seeing it. But let me ask you: did you think, "Let me get the phone, and call 911, and then leave this violent relationship?" Or, were you scared, and frightened, and didn't know exactly what to do? Because we're not talking about what horrors you dealt with. We're talking about DV situations, and what advice you gave to…
/r/MensRights09/02/16 02:24 AM
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Your female relative seems to not want to believe that women can be actively involved in the violence that occurs in a DV situation, and that is unfortunate. The only thing you might be able to do would be to let her see/read for herself, and let her think on the matter. And then, if she reacts in ways that are hostile towards you, you can tell her that you're sorry she feels that way, tell her that you're going to remove yourself from her presence before she brings about a DV situation (which w…
/r/MensRights09/02/16 01:29 AM
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No offense- you're entitled to your beliefs. But your diatribe lacks a great deal of...well, logic, rationality, sense...but I won't go on. You don't have to like a woman who is "fat", or "huge", or even like women at all, to be fair. But this isn't a forum about bashing women for the fact of their body size or shape. If you're not able to contribute to the discussion(s) in a way that is relevant, then please don't comment.
/r/MensRights09/02/16 01:25 AM
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No. You were not "in the situation"- you were not EITHER getting the shit beat out of you, OR the one doing the beating. Yes, you were affected by the situation, but you were not directly involved in it. Therefore, you cannot say that when a DV situation begins you contact the authorities then you should probably begin the first stages of ending your relationship because it isn't always that easy to recognize when a DV situation has arrived around you. You could be having a rather easy-going con…
/r/MensRights09/02/16 01:20 AM
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I'll have to sound like I'm agreeing with Wargame4Live here. If I had a son, and some girl hit him, I might tell him he did the right thing by being the bigger person, provided that her hitting him was a single hit, and not a particularly harmful and damaging one. If, however, she had tried to beat the shit out of him, I would have told him that he should have beat the shit out of her right back. While I would encourage my son not to hit a woman/female unprovoked, I would also encourage him to d…
/r/MensRights08/02/16 10:22 PM
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If your points of contention were the only points, I might actually agree with you. But, it has been stated that the ex-wife is still drawing income. It has also been stated that he was already paying child support out of his own pocket, with no need or interference of a Court Order. It has also been stated that there was an agreement in place wherein the ex-wife would NOT seek alimony. It has also been stated that the Court did place a judgment upon him to pay alimony-- against the previous agr…
/r/MensRights08/02/16 05:46 PM
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Personally, I'd much rather have it be made illegal with regards to the capability of offering consent to be drunk-- that is, to have alcohol present in my system, especially more than a single drink, and especially to the point that I am legally intoxicated by legal standards-- and then go and have sex with someone, so that I and/or the woman with whom I had sexual activities with are both potentially responsible for proving that consent was obtained AND both potentially responsible for being g…
/r/MensRights05/02/16 06:48 AM
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I'm not talking about drunk as defined by one's ability to function despite the amount of alcohol they have imbibed- I'm referring to drunk as defined by one's blood alcohol level. Granted, one usually doesn't carry around a breathalyzer in order to determine another's blood alcohol level, but if a person has had at least one drink in the previous 30 minutes, it can and should be assumed, for the purposes of determining ones' ability to offer consent, that the drinking person is drunk. If this i…
/r/MensRights05/02/16 04:00 AM
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But the jury system tends to ... not convict on zero evidence. In the most strict sense of your statement, you are correct. But, the jury system has been very well known to convict on circumstantial evidence, which is evidence of the type that only seems to be evidence because of the circumstances, but which may not actually be evidence...which means, that the jury system has been very well known to convict [a person] with no real evidence. Effectively, zero actual, concrete evidence that is act…
/r/MensRights03/02/16 07:12 AM
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I said this to someone else, and I'll offer this alternative to your idea here: Personally, I think that ANYONE having drunken sex-- MALE OR FEMALE-- is an idiot, and should be deemed incapable of consenting to sex-- which would mean ..... "drunk = unable to consent", for BOTH MEN AND WOMEN, and make it clear that "sex with someone who is drunk = conviction for sexual assault" for BOTH MEN AND WOMEN, and therefore, there would be no need (in circumstances like this) to "wonder", or for anyone to…
/r/MensRights03/02/16 06:57 AM
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I'll comment to your words here: No, there shouldn't be a situation of "it's her fault" that she was raped. But neither should it be "it's not her fault" that she got drunk. To sum up this situation, ALL PARTIES ARE AT FAULT when alcohol is involved. The situation should be, If a woman goes out and drinks-- no one is putting drinks in her hand, she's actually ordering them, and paying attention enough so that she can state that initially, no one was putting anything in her drinks-- then goes hom…
/r/MensRights03/02/16 06:50 AM
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I disagree- in this way: It's OK for "ordinary" people to use common sense-- which is unfortunately in unshockingly short supply-- and behave in ways which promote safety and encourage people to police their own behaviors BEFORE we feel any need or concern to involve the Police, and IF we feel we HAVE to involve the Police, to then back the fuck off of the situation, and let the Police handle things as they are supposed to be trained to do. But our societies-- especially our AMERICAN societies--…
/r/MensRights22/01/16 04:05 PM
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I am an American, and my point is not about "trusting" the police, but that A) as an "ordinary" person, YOU (or me) should NOT be the ones who are making attempts to "judge" a situation we know nothing about, and B) that you should let ANOTHER PERSON, WHO IS SUPPOSED TO BE TRAINED TO INVESTIGATE, do the "investigating". Again- I'm not saying that one should put all their trust and faith in the police- I'm saying that the police are trained to investigate situations like the one explained, and th…
/r/MensRights22/01/16 12:31 PM
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Okay, I have to laugh at the screamingly obvious sarcasm here...
/r/MensRights22/01/16 12:59 AM
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No. Please, no. It's fine to be worried. But don't stick your nose where it doesn't belong. If you're that worried, call the police, and tell them that you're worried. ALSO TELL THEM that you ONLY want to make sure that the situation is OK, NOT THAT YOU THINK SOMETHING IS WRONG! Ideally, the police will follow up on it, in a way that doesn't make (in this case, the man) feel like (he) has done anything wrong, and demonstrates that people can be concerned WITHOUT being ignorant busy-bodies.
/r/MensRights22/01/16 12:55 AM
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You want to make sure? DON'T intervene. It's always those folks who say, "But I saw him with his hands on those little girls! I'm afraid he's gonna do something awful/nasty!" who cause the most harm with their 'intervention'. Instead, actually contact the police- BUT BE SURE TO SAY that you've seen something that you simply wish to be cautious of, NOT THAT SOMETHING IS WRONG. "Officer? I saw a young woman jogging at night, and a man seemed to be following her on a bicycle. It could be very innoc…
/r/MensRights22/01/16 12:51 AM
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This is sarcasm, of course.....
/r/MensRights22/01/16 12:03 AM
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Nope. It doesn't. It does, however, make the boy/man in question a douche, and someone who deserves to be kicked in the balls for being such a douche. And no, that's not "white knight-ing"; that's "fuck, son, go find someone who wants to fuck your triflin' ass" instead of begging for it for days, and then taking it from someone simply because they stop saying "no" and don't fight back when you take it.
/r/MensRights15/01/16 09:36 AM
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This is so ridiculous, I don't even have to pretend that I'm going to ignore this tripe. May you now return to your regularly scheduled activities...
/r/MensRights09/01/16 03:54 PM
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You asked for my opinion. And because you don't like it or agree with it, you want to label me an idiot. I suppose I could stoop to your level, and engage in name-calling, but I don't need behave as you do to show others just the type of person you are. Perhaps one day, you'll have a brush with this type of situation, and then you'll understand how your assertion that it was "a mistake" feels like the fucking understatement of the century, how your assertion that it was "a mistake" feels like th…
/r/MensRights08/01/16 08:12 AM
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Actually, yes, because she was wrong about her eye witness account. Her eyewitness account- based on a dream- led to a man serving decades in jail. So yes, because she was wrong about her eyewitness account. And if a mistaken testimony leads to an innocent person spending decades in jail? Yes, I would punish each and every one. It would have been "a mistake" if the man had served 6 months in jail because of her "eyewitness" testimony. The man served 28 years. That's not "a mistake", that's a fuc…
/r/MensRights07/01/16 06:11 AM
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I've had some similar experiences to the man who spent 28 years in prison for a crime he didn't commit-- mind you, I was lucky enough that no law enforcement was involved in my accusation. And I won't lie- there were times when I wanted her dead. So I can very much see why it is that some people would be wishing for ugly misfortune to befall this woman. I just don't advocate it. But I imagine that most are upset, because without her assertion that this man was the guilty one, this situation like…
/r/MensRights06/01/16 07:05 AM
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I will concede that "dedicated" too was a bit far, but you can't deny there's a disproportionate amount of that attitude on this subreddit. Just as there are disproportionate amount of false accusations, and a disproportionate amount of so-called feminist calling for harsher penalties on alleged or suspected rapists ( who are only alleged or suspected, not actually found to have committed the crime ). Every group of strong opinions has such people as a part of who they are. So, if you can find a…
/r/MensRights06/01/16 06:19 AM
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Okay... I'm missing the point of your reply. Would you care to explain?
/r/MensRights06/01/16 06:13 AM
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...and that shit needs to stop. How? I dunno yet. But it needs to stop.
/r/MensRights06/01/16 04:46 AM
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Why is there so much anger for this woman? Because this subreddit is dedicated to men who think women are collectively out to get them so any time they have a symbol of that they want to latch on and burn the effigy. And you would be wrong. I can't speak for everyone, but the reason why I am angry with this woman, is because she dreamed that this particular man raped her. She initiated this travesty that this man suffered through. I'm also angry at the system that didn't do its proper job in inv…
/r/MensRights06/01/16 04:44 AM
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But she doesn't deserve years in prison, or especially to be killed. To be fair and honest, yes, she does deserve to serve time in jail, and have some of the things she's enjoyed in the last nearly three decades taken from her irrevocably. But you are correct in that she should not be killed. Personally, I think that we need to have a system in place where * The accuser MUST be held to the same measure of anonymity as the person they are accusing- that means that either both accuser and accused …
/r/MensRights06/01/16 04:25 AM
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Yes, I agree- the nature of the offense done to this man is outrageous. But murdering her-- specifically, him murdering her-- is not an acceptable answer. And besides, there's no "justice" in murdering her. What you want is an equal measure of suffering to what this man went through; taking her life does not accomplish that.
/r/MensRights06/01/16 04:10 AM
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...and so should those who falsely accuse. Because those who are falsely accused, sometimes have to live their whole life with the consequences, too.
/r/MensRights06/01/16 04:07 AM
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The issue isn't "he was crushed in the elevator because he helped someone (a woman) escape". He helped her get out, and then when he also tried to get out, he was trapped and crushed and lost his life. Had he helped her escape, and then remained with the elevator instead of trying to get out, he might have lived. This is not a MRA issue. This is merely a sad tragedy, of a person losing their life, and a bit of a story about how they helped to save the life of another person before losing their o…
/r/MensRights03/01/16 05:18 AM
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so it implies something happened when it didn't? Yes it does, unfortunately. Why else would a supervisor and her/his employee try to hide what would otherwise be a consensual romantic/sexual relationship? Authority without belief in it has absolutely no power. You're right. But even if you don't believe it, our society at large does believe it, and they have created rules and laws around that belief. And even if you don't believe in them, those rules and laws will have an effect on you!
/r/MensRights21/12/15 03:07 AM
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In this case, it's not the point that the teacher didn't threaten with their authority; the fact in this case is that the authority exists. Just like with a supervisor and her/his employee, it doesn't matter if the authority isn't exercised; if they are discovered, it is implied that the authority was used, and therefore the 'engagement' is illegal. And perhaps the student in question isn't really all that torn up about screwing their teacher. But not every student will be as blasé as you assume…
/r/MensRights21/12/15 01:24 AM
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It's possible that the courts let this man off due to reasonable doubt as opposed to being bought off. True- that is possible. But, if-- as I believe you're implying; if I'm mistaken, then I apologize-- you're saying that the sex- or attempted sex could have possibly been consensual, or a case of "morning-after regret" on the part of the young woman, then why wouldn't the guy simply call out that story and stick to it, rather than "defend" a rape charge? Just another bit of thought, mind you...
/r/MensRights20/12/15 04:33 PM
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So he tripped and fell. And his penis "may have been" sticking out of his pants due to a prior sexual encounter just minutes ago. And he "may have" had cum on his hands when he fell on her, from that prior sexual encounter just minutes ago. And yet, somehow, his DNA ended up on (in??) her vagina. Even if she was nude, even if she was uncovered while laying on that couch, even if she was laying on her back with her legs spread wide open while sleeping uncovered in the nude on that couch, there sh…
/r/MensRights20/12/15 03:46 PM
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What bothers me most about this is not the fact that the teacher slept with the 17-year old student(s)-- notice that I didn't apply gender here at all? Mainly because it's only tangentially relevant here-- but the attitude. There is an attitude prevalent among the majority of the members of our (American) society that says that girls are innocent little flowers and boys are sex-raving dogs, that a 17-year old girl is 'traumatized' and that a 17-year old boy is 'lucky'. The attitude basically say…
/r/MensRights20/12/15 03:36 PM
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I didn't explicitly say that the article stated that she lied about her age. But it does say that he had the impression that she was 16, instead of the age he was later told that she actually was, which was 14. What I was referring to was the fact that she lied about his having raped her. No, I won't go into whether or not 'statutory rape' is rape- my opinion on the matter is my opinion, not a statement of fact. My assertation is that, because she lied about his having committed a very serious c…
/r/MensRights05/12/15 12:59 PM
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No. Just NO. YOUR STATEMENT is (a big part of) why we men are looked at with "shady side-eyes" and viewed with such disdain. PLEASE don't say shit like this again. Even if you meant it sarcastically. Someone will take your words literally and believe it and then we'll all be fucked.
/r/MensRights05/12/15 08:34 AM
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It happens. I'll have to look up the info, but there was actually a case in the news within the last six months (or so I believe- I think it was in the UK) where this precise scenario occurred. The daughter accused her father of raping her-- in this case, because mom told her to-- and later felt guilty for doing so, but left him in jail for an additional half-dozen years, before she came forth to profess his innocence.
/r/MensRights05/12/15 08:27 AM
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Unfortunately, no, plenty of women in the news don't get convicted for sleeping with underage boys. And, when the rare occurrence of conviction does occur, in those cases it is often the truth that the woman in question is given probation. Not a prison sentence-- as what often awaits a man in the same situation. Just some food for thought...
/r/MensRights05/12/15 08:24 AM
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I will agree enough to say that, if she did everything in her abilities to convince him that she was legal-- including using illegal "legal documents" to do so-- then no, he should not be charged with a crime, and instead, she should be charged with a crime. But, most males won't take the time to check that thoroughly (and I'm male, by the way), and so those males will often be very lucky to not be caught, arrested and charged with the commission of a crime.
/r/MensRights05/12/15 08:20 AM
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I disagree with you. Yes, she lied. He should still be charged. But here's the point: she should be charged [with whatever crime that lying about being raped is] as well.
/r/MensRights05/12/15 08:14 AM
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Middle school? A fourteen year old is in middle school where you come from?? And even without a comprehensive sexual education, even the "abstinence-only" sexual educations will include a basic discussion about anatomy, and the understanding that sex can lead to pregnancy. So yes, a fourteen year old can know what sex is, and can know what the consequences of having sex are. And again-- it is a fact that a 14 year old girl IS "biologically ready" for sex. It doesn't matter if it offends anyone's…
/r/MensRights05/12/15 07:00 AM
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I actually have known of quite a few 14 year old girls who have actually seen a male organ, and have had orgasms of their own, and have even had children. We're not arguing whether or not they have enough life experience- we're arguing about whether or not a 14 year old girl can understand about sex and know what she was doing- yes, she can. There is nothing you can say that will make that fact into a lie. The great majority of 14 year old girls have had sexual education in school, and so they k…
/r/MensRights05/12/15 06:03 AM
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No. First, I won't fuck you. Secondly, I won't fuck you. Thirdly, I won't even dignify that part of your commentary with words of that same sort. The point is that the young woman had lied. Lied about her age (presumptively). Lied about being raped. That doesn't make this person a rapist. And if he believed that she was of or over the age of consent-- and she presented herself as being of or over the age of consent-- that doesn't make this person a paedophile, either, as it wasn't her youthfulne…
/r/MensRights05/12/15 03:37 AM
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Lawyer. Attorney. Barrister. Whatever the term or label you want to use, GET ONE! I say that, not because I'm saying that the police are not your friend, that they will do everything they can to try to find evidence against you, or even that they will hold you while they do their thing... ...but because a legal aid-type person will know the law, and be instrumental in helping you to avoid seeing the inside of a jail/prison. No offense, but you were not very smart to erase everything you had rega…
/r/MensRights22/11/15 11:03 PM
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What I've read and taken away from this article is this: The ideology of "teach men not to rape" is idiotic, because most actual rapists don't care about anything (in relation to raping) but what they want. And to be quite honest, it is something I firmly believe in, and have been saying for quite some time now. No, I'm not addressing those "grey areas" where we're talking about whether or not she's been drinking, or where she has a fistful of anger and a cuntful of regret. I'm directly addressi…
/r/MensRights08/11/15 09:24 PM
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Because the author of that tripe is a woman, and she was offended, and so she started paying attention to when only men do this, and concluded that because men want a bit of space and such where they don't have to be pressed in/pushed in by the general masses, that such means that men are doing something awful. Again.
/r/MensRights04/11/15 10:46 PM
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It's the Guardian. I'm not surprised. And because it's the Guardian, I don't pay it much attention, either. Its articles are pro-Neo-feminist, in that they all simply tout the "men are pigs" line throughout. I'm not even insulted anymore. It's just a sad world for them, that all they see is "the patriarchy" everywhere.
/r/MensRights29/10/15 03:38 PM
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I don't think anyone who has been victimized would ever wish to be a part of anything that causes others to be victimized, so I think that at the very least this is a piss-poor and gratuitously awful way for a college (or collegiate-minded) publication to attempt to bring about discussion of a socially and politically "hot" topic, and at the worst a woefully ignorant and brutally pathetic and antipathic (and obviously self-serving) diatribe meant specifically to inflame and foment anger and make…
/r/MensRights23/10/15 01:57 PM
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Just so you know, being liberal doesn't make you an SJW. I consider myself a liberal, and very much NOT a SJW.
/r/MensRights23/10/15 10:46 AM
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Well, no where have I read that attendance to this thing is mandatory, so why not simply ignore it and seek out the educational venues that are right for you? I don't see this as an issue- no one is attempting to force feminism on you, so ignoring it is very much an option.
/r/MensRights22/10/15 03:13 AM
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This was my response. Yes, I actually posted it to her website. +++++++++++++++ I very civilly disagree with the tenor of your article. The overall statement you seem to be making is that, once sexual intercourse happens. that men have no choices but to agree to whatever decisions that a woman makes after such has begun. Now, turn that statement around- wouldn't it sound troublesome to you, if I were to insist that as a man, you as a woman have no choices but to agree to whatever I decided, once…
/r/MensRights20/10/15 12:38 PM
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And ovulation has changed in twenty years making the data no longer applicable? Meaning, that the data was collected from people whose bodies are not precisely the same as those of now. And yes, there can be generational changes (sometimes perhaps referred to as "evolution"- just on a much smaller scale- like the fact that we as a nation of people have longer life spans generally speaking than we did a century ago?) that can make your data no longer applicable. And from what I read, fertility aw…
/r/MensRights30/09/15 02:54 AM
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Alright, you have statistical data. I will point out that, in your own data, it states that the information pertaining to your "fertility awareness" was drawn from information gathered in 1995. That is twenty years ago. I will also point out that while the failure rates are perhaps not as significantly different as I'd previously stated-- and that 'significantly different' is meaning a difference of at least 5% between the methods-- that the failure rate for fertility awareness is still notably …
/r/MensRights29/09/15 12:00 PM
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The only thing that concerns me about this "article" and the accompanying video is that somewhere, someone (and most likely a very openly-feministic woman) will see this, read this, not get that this is satire, and actually try to make this a thing. I can only hope the Creator saves us from the stupid people...
/r/MensRights29/09/15 06:06 AM
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Yes. Those folks who engage in this manner of "birth control" are called "parents". Fertility awareness is all fine and good...in theory. In actuality, the human body is a very complex organism which no one has yet been able to map out its every function and hormone and the linkages between all its various parts and those hormones and other secretions/fluids/chemicals.... what I'm saying is that "fertility awareness" is an "awareness", not a "we know exactly how long every single sperm in your e…
/r/MensRights29/09/15 04:47 AM
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In this case, the sex was entirely consensual, by both parties. It was the pregnancy which was not consensual. Unfortunately, there is no particular law on the books to prosecute for that issue.
/r/MensRights28/09/15 09:42 AM
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But it seems you miss the overall point: the so-called "evidence" does not need to be all that damning, to be damning; as long as there are people willing to make an arrest and make a conviction, the potential for this man to go to jail is very high. In this case, if X claims to have a video, all that so-called video needs to be is a few seconds of him supposedly saying something that can be thought to mean something else- and who is to say that X might not find someone who sounds similarly to t…
/r/MensRights25/09/15 04:46 PM
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An arrest doesn't need evidence- all it needs is probable cause- and that is determined by the arresting officer(s), not by any "so-called" evidence. A good arrest should have evidence attached to it. But, it is still not necessary in order for an arrest to occur.
/r/MensRights25/09/15 06:04 AM
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In this day and age, there needs be at most only convincing circumstantial evidence- evidence that is not even necessarily truthful, but simply what one can 'discover' by 'circumstance'-- which could be this so-called video- and a reasonable belief that the event happened, and a conviction can be obtained. So no, no proof is required to lead to a conviction. Being innocent is not a guarantor that the man won't see jail time. Need proof that one can be arrested and convicted while innocent? * htt…
/r/MensRights25/09/15 06:01 AM
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Huh? Okay- I'm confused by your words. Because I'm pretty certain you're not accusing me of "public self-flagellation"...and I'm at a loss as to who you are accusing, and why....
/r/MensRights24/09/15 12:48 AM
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When a simple question, and an attempt to engage in civil conversation, ends with feminist outrage and indignation, for no clear reason....
/r/MensRights23/09/15 10:09 PM
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Okay. I'm not buying it. But at the same time, because of that, I'm also just about done with trying to understand feminism. So why am I not buying it? Because he's using what I think are ridiculous arguments and tropes to try and explain why women (some women, some feminist women) are being batshit crazy. But it's that same idiocy that makes it clear that at least some feminists really are batshit crazy (which only further highlights just how crazy what he's doing is, and makes what he's saying…
/r/MensRights23/09/15 09:54 PM
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The social differences are not innate- in that they are not born into us. The fact that no matter the actual society, that we as social beings often replicate societies which are damned near interchangeable but for language and traditions, may possibly be innate. But the social differences between us, whether that "us" be differing societies, or differing genders, is not innate.
/r/MensRights11/09/15 04:22 PM
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By saying, for example, women are less likely to take risks, one is stereotyping members of the female sex as being risk averse. This is not innate differences between men and women Innate: existing from the time a person or animal is born // existing as part of the basic nature of something So, your example is not a truthful statement to define what an 'innate difference between men and women' is. Here is an innate difference between men and women: Women are capable of giving birth to a child M…
/r/MensRights11/09/15 12:25 PM
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Your lack of ability to fully comprehend the point you're trying to make, doesn't make other people "uneducated imbeciles". You're trying to argue semantics, which are perhaps the underpinings of the legal portion of what ails us men, but I'm speaking of the legal overview, which is more important than mere semantics. In effect, you're missing the forest for the trees. Whether or not women are "attempting to eradicate language", it is the legal definitions that matter. Yes, words do make up the …
/r/MensRights11/09/15 12:13 AM
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MRAs and those who happen to have similarly-aligned thoughts, are not "in full support of this article" because this article does nothing positive for men with regards to the issue of rape and false accusations of rape. It merely points out that a textbook definition of rape-- which is not how rape is currently defined or is being redefined as-- qualifies the use of force as a part of its definition. Men in this particular century are very much at risk for the potential of being accused of rape …
/r/MensRights10/09/15 05:36 AM
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I won't disagree with your ending statement- we need to find not only a working definition for rape, but a fair and equitable way to apply it across all genders, not just for male perpetrators. Until we can do that, we will- unfortunately- continue to "have people (almost all of them men) spending decades in prison based on what someone says they said when nobody else was around".
/r/MensRights10/09/15 05:23 AM
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Perhaps I'm not the one who needs a dictionary. Perhaps you might need to look at the definition as the law applies it, not the dictionary; if it were a pure one-to-one application, then we men wouldn't have to worry about false accusations of rape, because there would need to be some proof that force was used, not simply regrettable sex. So NO, a dictionary would not and will not suffice. Neither will I be willing to bet my life and my freedom on a dictionary definition of what rape is supposed…
/r/MensRights10/09/15 05:20 AM
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The gist of this article is not about feminism, as far as I discerned while I was reading the article, but more about how rape is often still defined with the idea that it must involve force in order to be rape. I agree- force is NOT ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY for it to be called rape- but I would also state that how we define rape needs to be gender neutral- for both the victim and the perpetrator- as much as possible.
/r/MensRights09/09/15 04:27 PM
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In the United States, if you have no legal representation, or no money to use to obtain legal representation, then yes, you are pretty much screwed when it comes to legal actions against you. Legal representation is almost a necessity (whether that be a physical person, or just copious documentation) in order to successfully navigate the Courts, and if you do not have it, you will likely lose whatever efforts you are trying to succeed at.
/r/MensRights31/08/15 11:32 AM
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In a nutshell, yes. If the man in question- the male being made to pay child support for the child that is not his- does not by legal means establish that he should not be found responsible for paying to support that child, then the Court will hold and continue to hold him responsible for supporting that child, even if DNA evidence clearly eliminates him as the biological father.
/r/MensRights31/08/15 11:14 AM
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[Edit: Thruway_1000 did not say that they believed in Marry Koss' words; they were merely giving emphasis to them. In that light, I merely reiterate my own objection, and am not arguing with, nor offering any objections directly to thruway_1000.] I stand by my words. If a definition of rape can include: "a woman who engages in unwanted sexual intercourse with a man" then it should, and I feel must include: "a man who engages in unwanted sexual intercourse with a woman" To say that it is inapprop…
/r/MensRights26/08/15 06:22 AM
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He (Ian Sherman) is blaming all men for what all women go through. And he is wrong. That much is clear, and very evident. Maybe Ian Sherman feels some guilt about his own behavior as a child-pre/teen, but that does not qualify him to determine that all men have done it and therefore all men are responsible for the issues that women suffer. Men aren't the cause of what women go through in life, no more than women are the cause of what women go through in life. Our society is the cause of what wom…
/r/MensRights25/08/15 02:41 PM
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Man was also just raped. No really that hard to figure it out.
/r/MensRights24/08/15 12:21 PM
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...nor to female perpetrators, either.
/r/MensRights23/08/15 05:51 PM
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No. Fuck no. If the definition of rape can currently include the idea of a rape victim being a female who engages in unwanted sexual intercourse with a man, then it cannot be "inappropriate to consider as a rape victim a man who engages in unwanted sexual intercourse with a woman". To do otherwise is a double-standard in the least, and a gross and intolerable victimization and brutally sexual objectification of a crime at its worst.
/r/MensRights23/08/15 04:53 PM
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I won't disagree with that. Mind you, I never advocated that a woman doesn't have some responsibility for what happens to her body. But with regards to the matter of pregnancy, a man does have some responsibility for assisting in the creation of the condition of pregnancy, so just like she can say no to raw dogging it- as you put it- so can he, and just like he can be "at fault" for her becoming pregnant if he cums in her, so can she. So yes, I agree- pregnancy is a consequence shared by both me…
/r/MensRights23/08/15 04:43 PM
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Well, let me return the favor of being civil. What I speak of is biology. No offense meant to you personally, but our society is entirely too fucked up for me to even want to begin to try and suss out who's ultimately responsible for a pregnancy. Regardless of how you might think that women are solely in control of sex, we have to be look at what we can do, what things we can control. So, a man can control if he gives up his seed to a woman- he can wear a condom, he can get a vasectomy, he can d…
/r/MensRights23/08/15 04:41 AM
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So what you're saying is that this guy did nothing wrong?? I hope that's not what you're saying.
/r/MensRights21/08/15 08:39 PM
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I'm going to assume you're simply being snarky/sarcastic...
/r/MensRights21/08/15 08:38 PM
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I won't completely disagree- each person is responsible for taking care of their own body. As women are the ones who hold the baby if a pregnancy occurs, they should keep their legs closed, use protection, or have a fund saved for abortion. They control sex 100% of the time, so if they're always in control and they get pregnant, it really is their fault. But I don't agree with that. Women can't get pregnant without men- or at least a man's sperm. So a pregnancy isn't the sole providence of a wom…
/r/MensRights21/08/15 02:16 AM
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Because the default setting on consent, going in to ALL such scenes, is already that anyone can stop the scene anytime they aren't having fun, just by simply saying "stop"--or whatever agreed upon safeword means stop. That's actually not true. Let me amend that: that's actually not true when the people involved do not know one another well enough, which is the case here. He didn't know her very well, and she didn't know him very well. He should have "broken scene" on more than one occasion, if f…
/r/MensRights21/08/15 02:00 AM
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Oh, I understand what she meant. But that was why I made my statement as I did. When she (the female) no longer has a choice, then the male should not, either- and while the female DOES still have a choice, the male should have an EQUAL or EQUIVALENT choice- which he does not.
/r/MensRights20/08/15 09:41 PM
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I actually won't disagree with the woman's statement; when a woman no longer has a choice to be a parent, then I agree that the man she had sex with and became pregnant by, should no longer have a choice to be a parent. But I will also speak on the flip-side of that statement: while women do still have a choice as to whether or not to be a parent, men should also have a choice as to whether or not to be a parent, as currently, men don't have as much of a choice as women do.
/r/MensRights20/08/15 09:00 PM
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To QUITcryingRAPE: I AM a kinky person, the type who would have an account on FetLife, the type who would go to such events and participate in such things. And this does sound like assault. I won't completely disagree with you- yes, she does have some responsibility for allowing the situation to begin, and it is LIKELY that she could have used a safeword to bring things to an end. But... I would contend that he (this mysterious man) is indeed GUILTY of assault- as far as I know, in the lifestyle…
/r/MensRights20/08/15 08:56 PM
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Yes, I agree- not this crap again: Just because someone hits you, doesn't give you an unrestricted right to hit them back as hard as you want... your defensive measure has to be proportional to the threat. To be impartial- who are you to judge what the level of threat he felt is? I will agree that it didn't look like she could have posed much of a threat, but then again, as far as I know, he hit her once. He didn't continue to beat on her relentlessly, so while his one punch was more severe than…
/r/MensRights07/07/15 09:50 PM
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From what I read of the article, she swung, and THEN he grabbed ahold of her wrist- and then she swung again. If that is the case, then no, he was defending himself, and should not be convicted. If I am wrong, then you may be correct.
/r/MensRights07/07/15 09:32 PM
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This is "click bait", in my opinion. The man in question was seen by others having sex with the woman, and when they were caught, he reacted in a way that made others feel threatened and basically behaved badly. That is (at least a part of) why he got prison time, and that it seems that she didn't. Not for the sex, but for what happened when they were caught.
/r/MensRights06/07/15 10:07 PM
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Yes. Yes, it is. But it's also fucked up that she felt that she could hit him. It's also fucked up that the media seems to be reporting that he hit her, with little to no mention of her hitting him. It's also fucked up that he'd facing criminal charges, and there is no evidence that she- who initiated the violent and fucked up exchange- is facing criminal charges as well. So yes, this is a really fucked up situation, any way you look at it.
/r/MensRights06/07/15 10:03 PM
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If she hit him first, then I have little sympathy for her getting hit in return. And if he's being charged with a crime (battery), is she being charged with one, too? She did hit him first, and while his response was retaliatory, it was a response, not an initiation.
/r/MensRights06/07/15 10:00 PM
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I won't disagree with that. But, it is not, at least, a de facto, summary judgment of "guilty until proven innocent". It may have functional similarities, and I can't say I condone the wording of this "law"-- and if anyone is reading my responses, I only defend against jumping to conclusions, not defend this "law"-- but it isn't saying that "we will deny the accused/defendant the right/ability to offer up any defense against their accuser", as is happening already in many college campuses across…
/r/MensRights01/07/15 08:22 AM
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Okay, that's a fair consideration. Though, if ONLY THIS was solidified into legislation, I CURRENTLY don't see that this SHOULD be something that we as men should be fearful of. So far as I see it, we're at least given the opportunity to present events as we perceive they happened, rather than being summarily judged and having no right to speak up in our own defense-- such as is what is happening on college campuses here in the U.S. Now THAT is a fucking shame, that.....
/r/MensRights30/06/15 10:41 AM
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No. I'm defending not jumping to conclusions. No, I didn't rape her, does NOT by default state that someone believes they had consent. And for what I read of the article, what happens is that the process is being used to determine if consent happened with regards to a sexual act, not to determine precisely if it was rape, or not rape. I don't believe that this is a case where having to give testimony as to whether or not you believe consent happened, is equitable to giving testimony stating that…
/r/MensRights30/06/15 10:38 AM
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It CAN lead to this. I will acknowledge that. But it is NOT a foregone conclusion. And until it becomes a foregone conclusion, we should not rush to judgment. Isn't that what we're trying to get others to avoid doing to us, as men??
/r/MensRights29/06/15 06:24 PM
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Actually, that isn't the case. "Prove that you believe you had consent" is fundamentally different from "Prove that the events alleged of you didn't happen". One- the latter- makes the assumption that your guilt is assured, unless you can prove that the EVENTS did not happen. It makes the assumption that merely her (or the one making the allegations) is to be believed from the outset, that there is no requirement for her (or the one making the allegations) to prove that their version of events i…
/r/MensRights29/06/15 06:22 PM
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The article does not actually say that the legal system in Australia WILL institute a "guilty until proven innocent" mindset- just that they will take a pattern of an alleged "assaulter/abuser" and apply more weight to that pattern than previously, with regards to evidence/prosecution. As another poster has said, what this "law" does is add more steps to determine if the alleged believed that they had consent, or not. This is NOT a CLEAR demonstration of "prove that it didn't happen"-- it is a d…
/r/MensRights29/06/15 04:44 PM
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The article does not actually say that the legal system in Australia WILL institute a "guilty until proven innocent" mindset- just that they will take a pattern of an alleged "assaulter/abuser" and apply more weight to that pattern than previously, with regards to evidence/prosecution. Please don't soundbite when it's not fully valid to do so. And no, I'm not a "white knight" of any sort. I'm only making it clear that I only 'prosecute' when there's clear evidence to do so, and not before!
/r/MensRights29/06/15 04:39 PM
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I'm not a lawyer. That being said, your name is on the birth certificate as the father in question. You may be on the hook for that child, even if by DNA testing the child is not yours. I believe that the only chance you have, might be to get a lawyer/attorney, to get you a court-ordered DNA test, and then you can hope and pray that the court will order that your name be removed from the BC. If they won't do it, you're stuck.
/r/MensRights22/06/15 04:23 PM
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She got what she deserved. I think it a good thought: if you are going to hit someone, you should be prepared to be hit back. Or, the opposite: if you don't want to get hit, don't hit.
/r/MensRights17/06/15 04:20 AM
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The article is not about who can be raped, but about how we can- or can't, really- determine conclusively at all times if a rape has occurred, or if it is a false accusation. Despite what you might take offense to ("typical gynocentrism"), it is- at least to me-'a fair article that does not attempt to cater to a particular side of the issue, but states the core problem of the issue as objectively as I've seen thus far...
/r/MensRights06/06/15 09:11 AM
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I agree with the content of this article. Now, if we could only get the rabid feminists and the rabid MRAs to read this, AND agree with it, too....
/r/MensRights06/06/15 06:15 AM
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No need to "hide it". Someone has a preference for who they want to hire. That's fine and dandy. There's nothing particularly sexist or disempowering towards males in particular about this. This is, in my opinion, click-bait.
/r/MensRights05/06/15 05:50 PM
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In hindsight, I'm happy for me, too- but I was still devastated by what happened to me; I still had nightmares about it; I still considered suicide on a nearly daily basis for more than three years after it happened; I still have lingering issues from what happened. Yes, I was pretty lucky. My experience was- perhaps- the equivalent of "almost raped"- in that I dodged the even more ugly formalities that could have happened. But I was still "almost" subjected to the formalities. I still suffered,…
/r/MensRights03/06/15 03:17 PM
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I wasn't formally accused, though the police did become involved, and apparently my version of the story (I dunno if she spoke to the police) was accepted by them.
/r/MensRights03/06/15 02:33 AM
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How did I cope? Not well, in the beginning- for me, it's been nearly twenty years, and yes, it does still have some effects. But my coping, in the beginning, largely was to stay away from any and all situations where I was alone with a woman in any ambiguous situation, and I was highly sensitive to what I said. I also spent a lot of time depressed and feeling guilty, wondering if, even if I wasn't wrong, was I wrong anyway? I mean, a woman wouldn't say something so awful if she didn't actually f…
/r/MensRights02/06/15 08:31 PM
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I do know what it is like to be falsely accused of raping someone. I know how hard it is. I know what it is like to look at your life, and think that it would be so much easier to end it. The best thing I can offer you, is to hold on to the fact and knowledge that you didn't do it, that you did nothing wrong. Hold on to that, tightly, and don't let go. Eventually, you will come out of the other side of this. The nightmares will end. The darkness in your spirit will fade away. One day, you will s…
/r/MensRights02/06/15 05:30 PM
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Here is one link to the article you've mentioned: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2966792/Victim-lost-unborn-child-left-dead-vigilante-mob-flee-home-town-false-rape-claim.html#ixzz3SipWY5OL
/r/MensRights02/06/15 05:18 PM
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Just to have it said- I'm not accusing any of those here who identify as MRA of this type of behavior. But, unfortunately, the gender of the commentors as reported by this article are (very very likely) male, and those of us who are male, who would NOT behave like this, should make sure we make it known "NotAllMen"...
/r/MensRights02/06/15 03:31 AM
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I may need to look into it more, but if I recall correctly, the "revenge rape plot" was fomented against a 13 year old boy, not this 18 year old young man. That would mean that we have the wrong story, and so no, for the moment- while I won't hurl insults- I will not dismiss the fact that they may be upsetting a young boy's life simply out of revenge.
/r/MensRights20/05/15 05:43 AM
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(Just to be clear, this is not a personal attack; it is merely a "continuation" of mine, to your own words.) ...And yet, the unmarried father, whose name is on the birth certificate, who has no custodial rights, is expected to financially provide for the child in question. One could liken that scenario to: A couple agree to cosign for a car together, wherein both of their names appear on the title of ownership. The woman decides to take the car, and the man is told he has no real ownership in it…
/r/MensRights16/05/15 10:06 PM
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That is surprising, but good to hear. Will you share with us what happened?
/r/MensRights14/05/15 04:05 AM
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And such is the case because of our society- both males and females, and the ways in which the genders have been taught and the gender roles have been taught, for at least the last couple of centuries.
/r/MensRights14/05/15 03:19 AM
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That I can agree with you on.
/r/MensRights14/05/15 03:18 AM
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Actually, nipples have sexual connotations because of our human society's fixation on making them sexual. Yes, they can be used sexually, and yes, they can provide sexual pleasure, but so can other parts of the human body. It is society's fixation with equating nudity = sexual/sexuality (in those cultures- like in the U.S.- where nudity is made taboo by its society's fixation with sex and attempting to control sex by using shame tactics) that makes nipples = sexual. They can be sexual, but they …
/r/MensRights13/05/15 09:08 PM
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No offense, but the question isn't about whether or not he is a good person/good dad. He may be wonderful in those roles...but if the court has no legal evidence that he is anything but a "deadbeat dad" after having been ordered to do certain things (though admittedly, he states that his lawyer strongly suggested him to do things, not that the court itself ordered him), then it is likely that he will go to jail. That is not meant to be cruel. It is meant to be honest; the man doesn't need sugar-…
/r/MensRights13/05/15 02:33 PM
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I might agree with you- If this is his first time in violation, there is a good chance he will get another opportunity provided he has a reason. -if this were not regarding child support and non-compliance. Unfortunately, males are often dealt with fairly harshly by the court system for violations of child support matters. You would think, for example, that the court would, upon hearing that the man does not have a job in order to pay for child support (and often, because he didn't make enough t…
/r/MensRights13/05/15 06:19 AM
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Chances are, yes, you are going to jail. Unless you have a damned good lawyer (or court-appointed attorney) who can argue that you need counselling AND that you need an extension on your case in order to make an attempt to get it, it is likely that you're going to jail for failing to do the things that your lawyer asked you to do. It might be difficult for you to do the things that your attorney said to do- and yes, the very thing you need to overcome is the issue at hand- but no one in the cour…
/r/MensRights13/05/15 05:30 AM
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This is NOT just in Canada. This happens- actually literally happens- in the U.S., as well. I know this, because it happened to me. So this isn't just a "Canada is crazy" thing here...
/r/MensRights11/05/15 06:38 AM
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"....a willing partner." Operative words there. Both for men AND women.
/r/MensRights14/04/15 03:31 AM
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I disagree; it isn't a paternalistic dodge, it is a societal dodge. It is an assumption by Children's Protective Services everywhere (which, due to CPS having been approved up and created by society at large, means that CPS = society [in this example]) that a maternal parent has the innate skills and values to care for a child and so therefore is a better caregiver for a child than a paternal parent. I don't see that as a paternalistic dodge. And honestly? What we as a society need to insist upo…
/r/MensRights13/04/15 08:25 PM
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Already have some, thanks!
/r/MensRights13/04/15 09:33 AM
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I'm sure the writer of the article believes that, but just because one has a particular belief, does not make that belief a reality.
/r/MensRights13/04/15 08:23 AM
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Can a woman be a feminist and still expect a man to pay for a first date? Answer: Of course she can. And I agree with this. The follow up-question should be, will her expectation be met to her satisfaction? And my answer is, only if I feel like it. Another person's 'expectation' DOES NOT obligate me to fulfill that expectation. Or, for any random person reading this who thinks that a when a woman expects a man to pay for a date, he should, let me put it this way: Can a man be aggressively mascul…
/r/MensRights13/04/15 04:16 AM
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That wasn't the point of my words. True, a seventeen year old of either gender is "old enough", but it is the situation that I am discussing- the fact that when the teacher is female and the students are male, society in general seems to look with at the teacher with an "well, it isn't so bad" kind of view, and the students with an "I bet they enjoyed it!" view-- but when the teacher is male and the students are female, society is outraged at the teacher and the students are pitied for being pre…
/r/MensRights09/04/15 10:57 PM
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As someone in the comments said- (and I paraphrase-) if it isn't right when it is a male teacher and female students of that age (17), then it isn't right when it is a female teacher and male students.
/r/MensRights08/04/15 04:11 AM
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I agree with and approve of the content of this article. It says all I might have said, so I don't need to expound further.
/r/MensRights07/04/15 04:14 AM
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...And the fact that this is "insulting" is absurd. The shirt is a sad, stupid attempt at being amusing, not an attempt to bash men. I don't see this as being important enough for "the struggle".
/r/MensRights07/04/15 03:39 AM
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Since rape, in her terms, is uncontested penetration. Actually, to me, in the scenario provided by the OP, that does make the scenario rape. The woman in question is causing the man to penetrate her- he is not consenting to the penetration, even if he is the one doing it.
/r/MensRights07/04/15 03:34 AM
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The lack of intelligence in that imgur pic makes my eyes bleed. The referenced school is "UV" as in "University of Virginia", not VU The word should be "quiet", not "quite" <-- ...going back to bed...
/r/MensRights06/04/15 01:09 PM
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And an update.... Xxxxx123: Disempowering, ugly and cowardly. And then my response: Disempowering, ugly and cowardly, you say. Dis-empowering? No, there is nothing that takes away power from someone, when what supposedly 'empowers' them is to put down and belittle others. What the author of this article speaks is not truth, but opinion. And while I have no problem with any particular opinion, I will not stand by and remain silent when someone attempts to portray an opinion as truth. Ugly? Perhap…
/r/MensRights28/03/15 12:58 AM
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My response to this article- which I posted in the comments section of the article: Where are the REAL men? Not buying into this mess. REAL men are not worrying about what SOME women are complaining about. REAL men are already in worthwhile, worthy relationships-- or becoming involved in worthwhile, worthy relationships-- and not catering to those of either gender who can't be bothered to be responsible for their own actions, behaviors, choices, decisions, honesty, integrity, thoughts and truths…
/r/MensRights27/03/15 09:56 PM
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Agreed. I see no problem teaching all boys AND girls to behave with common sense and decency towards one another.
/r/MensRights27/03/15 09:36 PM
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While it is true that we're only getting one side of the story, your own bias- "The girl is innocent until proven guilty"- is really fucked up, to be honest. No, we don't know who is telling the truth, and so both are innocent until proven guilty. And if you cannot be impartial enough to look for proof, one way or the other, before you judge someone, then-- among other things-- you need not be a part of this particular reddit. I won't claim that everyone in this reddit can be impartial. But don'…
/r/MensRights22/03/15 10:07 AM
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Well, the actual non-sarcastic responses are: A) Never let yourself (as a man) be found in the vicinity of any woman where the situation is not absolutely professional, emotionless and necessary; or B) Be very sure of everything you (as a man) say and do around women- not so much to be able to say "I didn't rape her", but so that you know that your own behavior is always above reproach; that way, even if the worst happens, you know you didn't rape. Women who aren't going to get all feminist-butt…
/r/MensRights22/03/15 09:56 AM
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Holy shit, that's so fucked up! Just because she was "biologically" male, if she was identifying (whether self-identifying or identified by others) as female, then she was a woman! And in this case, it was clear that the "real" man in question was actually trying to commit rape! His ass needs to go to jail!
/r/MensRights21/03/15 08:08 PM
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How can you know you didn't rape? Don't have sex with her. Don't be alone with her. Don't have alcoholic drinks with her. Don't go out on dates with her. Don't leer at her. Don't look at her. Don't say anything suggestive to her. Don't make jokes with her. Don't say anything at all to her. Don't go near her. Don't sit on the same side of the classroom/lecture hall as she does. ...And even if you do all of this, you'll still be a misogynistic bastard and you'll still be sexist and you'll still be…
/r/MensRights21/03/15 09:11 AM
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Here- I'll say it bluntly, but nicely: Men- * 1) don't put yourselves in situations where you could be (accused of) taking (taken) advantage of- like drinking to the point of being intoxicated and out of control; in such a situation, if something should happen to any female in your vicinity, whom you had any contact with whatsoever, no matter how harmless and innocuous, especially while you yourself are intoxicated or unable to recall relevant events, it is highly likely that you will be blamed …
/r/MensRights20/03/15 07:27 AM
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To me, it's not so much that the girl in question is a victim- the one who corroborates the false story, that is- but that there is absolutely no mention of any expression or explanation of 'truth', that the guy in is innocent. Perhaps such is implied, but only within the context of the main characters of the storyline; the people not completely central to the storyline may not ever be given access to the 'truth'-- that the accusation was false, and the man accused was innocent. If that were add…
/r/MensRights16/03/15 04:08 AM
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Yes. But, one step at a time, young grasshopper...
/r/MensRights15/03/15 08:03 AM
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...ban any male statutory rape victims whose rape participants become pregnant and produce a child from ever being required to pay child support, you mean....
/r/MensRights14/03/15 10:54 AM
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Perhaps not- if you can provide proof that she cheated, and you have an attorney, you may be able to have her submit the child to DNA testing, and with this bill in place, might lead to her "proving" that the (former) husband is NOT the father (as Maury might say), and so absolve him from having to pay child support. But, there is a chance that you could be correct, as the current statutes/rules/guidelines seem to support "the welfare of the child is paramount" and don't seem to care if the male…
/r/MensRights14/03/15 07:58 AM
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Perhaps your words contain some truth. Personally, I don't particularly ascribe to "Men's Rights" or "Women's Rights"- I look at it as "human" rights, mostly, or "equal" rights, and at least with regards to this particular Imgur post, I see it as being deliberately inflammatory. No one should have any "excuse" for putting their hands on another person- there is no "if she hit you first then clearly u deserved it", because in the reverse situation ("if he hit you first then clearly u deserved it"…
/r/MensRights12/03/15 06:46 PM
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So, whether or not a man is sexist, is determined purely by women, huh? and men are sexist, whether they are hostile towards women, or if they are benevolent and smile at and help women, eh? So, in effect, men are sexist; women are the ones who are deciding if it is so, and since women will say that it is so, that makes it "true". Eh. I care not for what the masses think, for they do not. If they did, this wouldn't even be a "thing". So, back to your regularly scheduled reading...
/r/MensRights10/03/15 02:40 AM
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In university, I saw this happen a lot, and nobody seemed to have an issue with it, which surprised me. To me, that should be where the issue begins. If you saw this, why not speak out about it? Why not warn others? No, it isn't your responsibility to do so, you are not obligated to do so, but you say you saw this, and nobody (else) seemed to have an issue with it- did you simply sit back and not make an issue of it, because no one else did? But to address what you are attempting to address: in …
/r/MensRights09/03/15 11:53 PM
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Firstly, what I don't do is hold every man responsible for preventing a woman from being raped. I don't attempt to blame the male gender for the problems created by society as a whole, and I don't charge men with the sole necessity or ability to try and change the problems created by society as a whole. I won't deny that you have a point- women are more likely to be raped by someone they know. And I agree- the blame for rape is on the rapist, not on the woman who was raped, and not on men who we…
/r/MensRights09/03/15 09:47 PM
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guilty sentences are generally not handed down to innocent people Let me show you some articles that disprove your allegation there: * http://www.cotwa.info/2015/02/woman-falsely-accuses-man-she-barely.html * http://www.braintreeandwithamtimes.co.uk/news/south_essex_news/11811073.Woman_is_jailed_over_false_rape_allegation/ * http://m.washingtonexaminer.com/university-of-colorado-settles-with-student-accused-of-sexual-assault/article/2560652 * http://abcnews.go.com/US/rising-football-star-brian-b…
/r/MensRights09/03/15 09:25 AM
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Thank you. No one says I have to be a belligerent ass if I happen to be wrong. I try not to be like a vocal, "men are all rapists" type feminist like that.
/r/MensRights09/03/15 07:27 AM
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"What men fear most about going to prison is what women fear most walking down the street" What? Being unable to earn a living ever again? The loss of freedom? Being killed because of someone saying I did something that I didn't? Because those are the things I fear most about going to prison.
/r/MensRights09/03/15 07:10 AM
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...and I agree with that statement. But perhaps you're right; it sounded like you were arguing against me; if I was wrong, then I apologize.
/r/MensRights09/03/15 07:02 AM
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I was being in support of what I thought your main argument was, buddy. Please re-read what I said.
/r/MensRights09/03/15 06:57 AM
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But how are they teaching this to these kids? What ideals are they introducing to the kids? What questions are they asking the kids, and what questions are they steering the kids to think/consider/ask? That is something that we as a society should be very carefully paying attention to...
/r/MensRights09/03/15 06:57 AM
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No. You can be the judge. If you think a woman is @ an acceptable level of intoxication for sexual intercourse But that is the problem with your statement- the 'judge' is not able to determine with objectivity, whether or not "a woman is @ an acceptable level of intoxication" as you put it. Even when the 'judge' is sober, so how would a 'judge' who is not fully sober, be able to make that determination? And in such cases, where neither the judge nor the one being judged are able to determine if …
/r/MensRights09/03/15 06:55 AM
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And why is it that "MRM is being considered a joke", but when you look at the equivalent of MRM here on redditt- otherwise known as "Feminism", similar arguments about how all men are rapists, or how no woman could ever rape a man, or how "false accusations don't ever happen" or how "always believe the victim", they're not "being considered a joke"? Why is it that men, discussing the issues that anger/scare them, is "being considered a joke", but women discussing the issues that anger/scare them…
/r/MensRights09/03/15 06:50 AM
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What I believe that fckredditt is saying is that, while rape is abhorrent and ugly and not something that any person will generally support, that completely and without consideration giving absolution to women for any actions they take when the matter of rape is concerned, is the equivalent of saying: If you have a home full of expensive and precious items, and you display them for everyone to see, and you take no precautions towards protecting your expensive and precious items, and you have a p…
/r/MensRights09/03/15 06:42 AM
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But wait- you're telling women that perhaps they should watch their drinks, and watch the number of drinks that they have, and perhaps you're even telling women not to do other stupid shit like go home with some strange guy after drinking, or to abandon their girlfriends-- or let their girlfriends abandon them-- after drinking, to go home with some strange guy! How dare you try to tell a woman to be responsible for her own actions and behavior! Women shouldn't have to be responsible for anything…
/r/MensRights09/03/15 06:31 AM
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Wait... So you're saying that, women getting drunk, is a potential rape scenario? Quel horror!! And further, you're saying that it is perhaps the bartender's fault for her chemically eroded ability to consent? That it is not the fault of the woman for drinking until she is completely shit-faced, or for having more than a single drink, or for even being in the establishment where drinking takes place to begin with? Is that what you're saying??
/r/MensRights09/03/15 06:26 AM
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The entire post was written in sarcasm. I didn't think I needed to have told someone that, that I would need to spell it out for intelligent folks like that. But, I suppose that would be my fault for making such assumptions...
/r/MensRights07/03/15 09:34 AM
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No, this post isn't "for serious". Honestly- what person would put up with a manipulative woman like this for long?
/r/MensRights05/03/15 08:28 PM
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Many of the women who would do this, are being manipulative and intending to use such a falacy, such a falsehood, in order to try and maintain a sense of power in the relationships they are a part of. I'd offer this potential "counter" to such a type of women-- though I would say that this may not work with every woman of this type- judge carefully if it is something you should do: "Oh. Oh. Oh! Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh! You're pregnant? You're really pregnant?" Dance, make lots of excited and plea…
/r/MensRights04/03/15 04:21 AM
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Any person who has information like this and chooses to conceal it is an immoral asshole. Period. It's like the bystander effect. Five people in my situation knew she cheated on me, and NONE of them thought it was "their place". They were right; it was not their place. You can still be mad at them for not deciding to tell you. But no, they are not obligated to do anything. Here is the definition of "obligation": Obligation: something that you must do because of a law, rule, promise, etc. There i…
/r/MensRights23/02/15 10:26 PM
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I don't meant to hijack this thread at all, but I feel like I need to address the folks who seem to think that the application of logic in this situation is somehow wrong, simply because I don't respond with knee-jerk emotionalism. Let me say this, first: I fully agree that the men involved need to know the truth about who might be the father of the baby. That being said, I've seen plenty of arguments that seem to indicat that everyone feels that it is the DUTY of the non pregnant sister to tell…
/r/MensRights23/02/15 10:20 PM
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And you are still missing the entire point. You're focused on the telling of the truth. NO WHERE HAVE I SAID THAT THE TRUTH SHOULD NOT BE TOLD. I have said that it is NOT THE OBLIGATION for the sister to be the one to tell the truth. So get that through your thick skull. Your experience is a fucked up one- and I've had some fucked up experiences to match yours. But that doesn't change the fact that while the truth should be made known, the sister of the pregnant woman is NOT OBLIGATED to tell it…
/r/MensRights23/02/15 10:13 PM
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Let me also add this: even if it is PROVEN that the pregnant woman is indeed acting in the commission of paternity fraud, it is still NOT THE OBLIGATION of the non-pregnant sister to be the one to disclose that information. It still remains her choice to do so.
/r/MensRights23/02/15 09:02 PM
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IF IT WERE PROVEN It matters. NO WHERE does it say that the sister knows that her sister became pregnant by the man she may have cheated on. So that right there is pause for consideration. Even if you don't believe that that should be the case, it is a fact that it is not stated that the pregnant sister, became pregnant AS A RESULT OF her potential infidelity. And THAT is why there needs to be proof. Or, would you like to join those women who want to be able to make accusations, and demand repar…
/r/MensRights23/02/15 08:59 PM
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shaking my head I'm sure this sounds patronizing, but I'll say it anyway- and then I'll leave this discussion alone. You're young, and idealistic. Of course there's no situation where the truth should ever be withheld from someone, and there's no situation where the moral course of action should be debated, it should simply be done. But this situation in particular is not a simple matter. Under your own assumptions, now that you know the matter of the situation, you should be beheld to finding o…
/r/MensRights23/02/15 08:40 PM
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You speak of morality. Morality is a very subjective thing, to be honest. Morality doesn't prevent some people from hitting others, from abusing others, from committing rape and murder. I don't attempt to push what I believe is morally correct, upon other folks, because my morality may not be something they agree with. And morality does not always equate to "right"; again, morality is a very subjective thing. One person may consider it morally correct to tell a person who is homosexual, that the…
/r/MensRights23/02/15 07:05 PM
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Simply because that is what you believe, does not make it a fact.
/r/MensRights23/02/15 06:33 PM
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Someone should speak up, yes. The point of contention is about who is the one obligated to speak up; and I don't believe that the (non-pregnant) sister is the one who is obligated to speak up.
/r/MensRights23/02/15 06:31 PM
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You're making an argument about the wrong thing- my argument is that the non-pregnant sister is not responsible for divulging the truth, not that the true/right thing should not be done. Please, please, please read what I wrote, not only what you are focused on. I don't disagree, I don't condone paternity fraud. But, I don't put the responsibility for doing the true/right thing on someone who is only a bystander in this event-- and she is a bystander, because no actions taken by her have lead to…
/r/MensRights22/02/15 10:01 PM
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Well, I will say that I don't agree with you- that just because she knows her sister is promiscuous, that she should tell her boyfriend (and by what you're saying, she should then tell every subsequent boyfriend, too) that her sister is promiscuous; that because she slept around on her boyfriend and may have gotten pregnant by someone other than her boyfriend, that she (the non-pregnant sister) has to be the one to tell her sister's boyfriend about the potential child support issue. I would be m…
/r/MensRights22/02/15 06:11 PM
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The difference in this situation is not, "Is this woman, attempting to poison this man"? but "Is this woman, attempting to convince him that he's drinking Coke, when he's actually drinking Diet Coke?" One situation is a direct threat to his life. The other is not. That is the first line of division of morality. The second line is that in one case, there is no opportunity, once the deed has been done, for him to discover otherwise, and he would lose his life; in the other case, there are plenty o…
/r/MensRights22/02/15 05:57 PM
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Your logic still isn't quite there. Even if it were a felonious crime being committed, the non-pregnant sister is not obligated to get herself involved in the potentially criminal actions of the people intimately involved in the situation. She can choose to involve herself, but there is nothing that demands that she put herself into this situation. That's what I'm stating. Should she? Perhaps. Can she? Certainly. But is it mandated that she do so? No.
/r/MensRights22/02/15 05:41 PM
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Huh? I get it. If you're crazy enough to argue about something "not reasonably accepted as fact" in the first place, I suppose I'm equally crazy for arguing with you. My bad.
/r/MensRights22/02/15 03:39 PM
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No, she should not. It is not her life, but her sister's life. Again- it isn't up to the non-pregnant woman to be responsible for the actions of other people- which is what it seems like you're demanding of her. It is an ugly truth, but it is not up to those not involved in the situation to make those who are involved, responsible for their actions. Now, if you're saying that it would be nice for people to get involved, and be helpful to one another, that is all fine and good. But there is a fin…
/r/MensRights22/02/15 03:09 PM
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So now you know. By your words, if you don't find and inform the victim, then you're engaging in contributory negligence towards fraud and you should be held civilly liable.
/r/MensRights22/02/15 02:52 PM
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I agree with your statement. But is it up to you, to tell the brain-dead pregnant mom, or the idiotic father-to-be, that particular truth? And by that I mean, are you literally obligated to find these two people, and tell them that truth? I would hazard that the answer is "No." That being said, just because you know the truth- especially about the falsities of ones' relationship- does not obligate you to having to tell those involved in that relationship of that truth. Likewise, while the non-pr…
/r/MensRights21/02/15 10:38 PM
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I actually don't see an issue here- it is the sister of the woman asking the question, and the woman who is pregnant (the sister) isn't likely to do the right thing. It isn't up to the woman asking the question to do the right thing on her sister's behalf. It simply makes her sister all kinds of screwed up for not only not doing the right thing, but for having done the wrong things in the first place. Yes, the father-- whoever he is-- deserves to know the truth- the whole, ugly truth. But it is …
/r/MensRights21/02/15 09:36 PM
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I'd love to thump this stupid twitch up-side her head....
/r/MensRights18/02/15 09:02 AM
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The most disturbing portion of the article, to me, is this: feminism seeks to give power to women on their own terms – not mens. And the reason why this is so disturbing is from the fact that women cannot have power "on their own terms" because the "power" is a function of humanity and society, and the only way to have "power" is via that function. Women cannot excise themselves from humanity and society- which is one of the only ways in which women could have power "on their own terms", so by t…
/r/MensRights18/02/15 04:09 AM
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I get what you're intending, but you're missing the point of what's being discussed here, which is that the women mentioned, are saying that "touching us without consent when we're drunk, is rape", and then they seem to be doing the same thing to men. Such actions are called "hypocrisy". Such actions are also called rape. So the idea is that, if one group of people get to say an action committed against them is wrong, they cannot then go and commit that action against other groups of people, and…
/r/MensRights13/02/15 07:02 PM
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Among other things, first and foremost, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. You know you're not advocating rape, and anyone willing to actually listen to you, will be able to decide for themselves if they believe that about you as well. If your professor insists that the prosecution of accusations of rape is more important than finding evidence to prosecute actual rapists and exonerate those who have not raped, then insist to her that a) you believe that it is better to prosecute based on …
/r/MensRights11/02/15 07:19 AM
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True. The idea of a contract is a wonderful one. The execution of a contract would be a nightmare of the kind which few people could actually imagine. And yes, right now, with the fact of the new bill?/law? in the UK: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/law-and-order/11375667/Men-must-prove-a-woman-said-Yes-under-tough-new-rape-rules.html that means that there is no protection for men, from a woman who says, "I was raped! It was he, (insert name) who did it!" in the case that he didn't do it,…
/r/MensRights30/01/15 11:09 PM
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Unfortunately, right now the courts are aligned with the 'rape-culture ideologists', and they state that consent can be revoked even after the fact- and I'm sure that they would convince an attorney/lawyer/barrister to get such a contract overturned...
/r/MensRights30/01/15 10:44 PM
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I think there's a glaring problem with this contract- and that is, according to most who are 'rape culture ideologists', this contract can be made null and void if a partner- specifically the female partner- revokes her consent after the fact. And then the sex is made rape again...
/r/MensRights30/01/15 10:07 PM
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"She shouldn't have to use self-control, if men could control themselves" Does anyone else see the issue with this statement? So is what's being said here is that women shouldn't have to exercise any self-control, that it should be all up to men to exercise self-control, instead? I can think of to many ways that this statement can contradict itself, and too many ways in which this statement can be made to highlight just how wrong it is....
/r/MensRights19/01/15 08:38 PM
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As I accept a defendants right to defend themselves against an accusation by claiming self-defense, so too must I accept this womans right to defend against this accusation by claiming "but my intentions were good". Perhaps that works for you. But the women did commit a crime- being in possession of CP is a crime, not an accusation of a crime. In your consideration, what you're saying is that she was suspected of being in possession of CP, which is not the same as actually being in possession of…
/r/MensRights16/01/15 12:12 PM
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Actually, in cases of self-defense, self defense is not a crime. If there is a crime committed, then it is not "self-defense", it is something else. If the person claiming the justification of "self defense" has committed a crime, they can still be charged for the crime. As an example- if a person breaks into a home, and is attempting to rob someone, but they instead stumble into the home owner who is about to blow their head off, and they successfully manage to subdue the homeowner- hence "self…
/r/MensRights15/01/15 11:46 PM
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I'd said "did not speak to the police to work with them in the attempts to entrap her intended target". That doesn't mean she didn't speak with them at all. According to my understanding of the article, she wanted action taken, but did not suggest or offer or ask, to work with the police to entrap her intended target. Please read carefully in the future.
/r/MensRights15/01/15 11:40 PM
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I'd said "did not speak to the police to work with them in the attempts to entrap her intended target". That doesn't mean she didn't speak with them at all. According to my understanding of the article, she wanted action taken, but did not suggest or offer or ask, to work with the police to entrap her intended target. Please read carefully in the future.
/r/MensRights15/01/15 11:38 PM
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I would lean towards agreeing with ukreview. Despite the woman's "intentions", she was in possession of CP, and did not speak to the police to work with them in the attempts to entrap her intended target. The police were not informed that she was breaking the law for the purposes of assisting the police, the police did not give her permission to break the law for the purposes of assisting the police-- her actions were entirely her own. She gathered and retained possession of CP, without any auth…
/r/MensRights15/01/15 12:21 AM
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I am not an attorney, a lawyer, or a barrister of any sort!! This advice seems to be common sense to me, but it is possible that this is not legally sound! First: Get a lawyer. You say you can't afford one- try legal aid? Two: Get your own RO against her. As it stands, she can make you violate the RO, simply by coming within range of you, on her own; she doesn't have to "wait" for you to violate it by accident or on purpose. If she comes within 50 ft of you, you get in trouble for it, as it stan…
/r/MensRights14/01/15 09:30 AM
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Wait- what? I ask you to please clarify yourself...
/r/MensRights27/12/14 11:51 AM
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I've read through the various responses posted so far, and I'll offer up my own opinion (which probably isn't too terribly different from others' opinions): I do not believe that the father of the unborn child should be required to give consent prior to a woman carrying that unborn child being able to abort that unborn child. I do believe, however, that it should be required that the father of the unborn child be notified that the abortion of that unborn child is planned to take place. That way,…
/r/MensRights24/12/14 03:49 AM
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Wow. For those who didn't read the article, a summation: A skit aired on television in Australia, where a man was coerced and threatened into sex by his female partner- which by multiple legal definitions is explained as rape- and the media, no one associated with advocating against rape, and no one in mainstream Australian society seems to be at all concerned. I don't have the words to express how I feel. Just imagine the public outcry if the genders were reversed...
/r/MensRights23/12/14 10:43 PM
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Unfortunately, among the more vocal feminists, there will be an attitude of "well, where there's smoke, there must be fire"- that if the girl in question is saying it, then someone had to have done it, and so therefore, "believe the victim" and the men/families lives who were ruined, "well, it's unfortunate, but, what about the victim?" The more vocal feminists will not address the issue of men who were falsely accused, or will simply requote the "only 2-8% of rape accusations are false" line, a…
/r/MensRights20/12/14 11:00 PM
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I agree with the content of this article, and have been saying so for months, if not years- and I've even written an article or two of my own on BuzzFeed saying similar things.
/r/MensRights18/12/14 11:52 PM
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Before anyone thinks to comment, let me say this: These women, the ones who commented on M. Murphy's article in The Feminist Current- these women * cannot be reasoned with *. Please don't respond to their bigotry. They have their ingrained ideals about how the world works-- and in their world, men are oppressive patriarchal pigs, and none of us are capable of sympathizing- let alone feeling- anything equal or even similar to what they feel. If we're accused of rape, well, either we did something…
/r/MensRights16/12/14 08:35 AM
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No- what makes me say what I said has little to do with generalization, and everything to do with the fact that in our current social climate, it is...tolerable, at least, that women can say or do most anything with regards to behaving badly towards men, but that those exact things that are allowed by women, are not only not allowed by men, but would result in public outcry and moral outrage, or imprisonment in some cases, and that as a male, I'm supposed to simply sit back and take it. That's m…
/r/MensRights14/12/14 05:18 AM
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Every rare now and again.... ...shit like this makes me just wanna give up on women.
/r/MensRights13/12/14 09:57 PM
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Yes- if it is the intent of the person speaking, to undermine or manipulate the emotional reaction of the person who is having that emotion, then I agree, that can be considered to be gaslighting. And the reason I gave the two options I did for that scenario was for brevity. Again, I have nothing against a person feeling what they will. But my point is that their reaction to those emotions- what actions they take and what words they choose to speak and what attitude they project- those are not t…
/r/MensRights11/12/14 03:04 AM
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I'm not explicitly stating that "just because one is clearly wrong" that the other must be wrong, too. What I am saying is that emotions are fine, and everyone is entitled to them, and entitled to feel them, but that I do not agree that telling someone that they are overreacting is automatically gaslighting. It is only so, if the person being spoken about, is being manipulated into the idea that their emotional state- that how they feel- is inappropriate. As I said, it's not the feelings, but th…
/r/MensRights11/12/14 02:55 AM
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This entire article is merely a set-up for the idea that women-- not people, because the article makes it clear that women are the ones who are being 'gaslighted'-- are to be allowed to have whatever reaction to their emotions that they desire, and that men are the ones who have to pay attention to what they say and do, to avoid being manipulative to a woman's reaction to her feelings. This is wrong. A person- no matter their gender is 1) entitled to feel how ever they want to feel, to have what…
/r/MensRights10/12/14 11:57 PM
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I call either sarcasm or troll.
/r/MensRights03/12/14 07:24 AM
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The statement is: Accusing an individual of making a false rape claim is itself an accusation, yet rarely requires evidence. It doesn't take evidence to accuse anyone of anything. I can point to some woman and accuse her of making a false rape claim. Doesn't require evidence for me to do so. Now, if you're looking at the legal ramifications, then we'd have to have more information in that statement- it would have to read something like: Going to the police, and making an accusation towards an in…
/r/MensRights03/12/14 02:24 AM
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It is not a basic human right to NOT be accused of rape, but it is a basic human right to be served a fair trial. This is true. It is a basic human right- not a basic male right, or a basic female right, but a basic human right- to be served a fair trial. So, accusations of rape should be scrutinized with objective fairness both towards the potential for truth from the alleged victim, as well as for the potential for truth from the alleged perpetrator. Accusing an individual of making a false ra…
/r/MensRights02/12/14 10:57 PM
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If this is a truthful and viable concern... The easiest way to solve your problem- at least in the short term- would be to use condoms. You may have a fight with your wife about it, but you should be able to tell her that you can now sexually satisfy her to her completion (as you say she tried/tries to keep you inside of her to have you 'accidentally' cum in her because she needs you to stay inside of her to help her cum), and yet not have to worry about more children until/unless you want them.…
/r/MensRights02/12/14 08:27 PM
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Okay.... how so?
/r/MensRights01/12/14 01:30 AM
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Rape is not about sex at all- sex is merely the vehicle, the weapon, by which rape is committed. Sex is an intimate, emotionally and sometimes physically invasive act, and those who commit rape use that intimacy and pervert it into a violation. And whether or not you would believe it, being the victim of a false accusation of rape is, in its own way, even more damaging, emotionally, and the reason why this is, is because males are taught to surpress their emotions, and to even deny them in some …
/r/MensRights30/11/14 09:42 PM
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It's good that you haven't had this experience. Count on every lucky source you can, that it hasn't, and pray to every deity you believe in that it never does happen to you. The only reason I'm still alive to day is due to being found before I could commit suicide. It's that much of a mind-fuck.
/r/MensRights30/11/14 09:15 PM
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....And this is relevant here, how??
/r/MensRights30/11/14 04:08 PM
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How can you be mistaken about being raped? That's some bs. If you're young enough, you can let someone talk you into believing that you've been raped. If you're drunk enough, you can let someone- and the lack of memory- convince you that you've been raped. If you've had sex that hurt, even if it was consensual, you can let someone make a case for you to believe that you've been raped. But there is no "proof" in any of those cases, that rape actually occurred. Need I give more examples of "how ca…
/r/MensRights30/11/14 06:12 AM
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Your first statement sounded like the need to prove that a crime happened, should be on the person making the accusation. We (as a society) have done that. It didn't work. And it causes problems, just like the opposite of that-- putting the need to prove that a crime happened-- or more specifically in this particular instance, that a crime did not happen, on the accused. Neither is acceptable. The second statement you made, *seemed to be stating that there needed to be sufficient proof that a cr…
/r/MensRights30/11/14 04:21 AM
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No. I disagreed with your statement, which I believe said that the police should make the accuser proves that the action took place in the first place- that is a different statement than the one above.
/r/MensRights30/11/14 01:34 AM
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I hope that's sarcasm I'm hearing in those words you typed.... smirk
/r/MensRights30/11/14 01:00 AM
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So it's guilty unless there is clear evidence she was lying? No. What I am saying is this: 1) IF there is an alleged crime of rape or sexual assault, that FIRSTLY that all parties should remain anonymous, as far as the media/public is concerned, in order to preserve the ideal of "innocent until proven guilty". Only after a conviction of the crime, should then *both** parties be made known to the media/public. There should not be any "unnamed female victim" and yet a named "John Smith" assailant.…
/r/MensRights30/11/14 12:48 AM
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Police should be required to prove that the accuser was not lying before even being allowed to even arrest and question the accused and name them in the media. No. No. No. And just for good measure, hell no. We did this, and women were afraid to report when rapes happened to them, and those who did commit rape were allowed to continue doing so. We do need a system in place that does punish those who make false accusations-- not to punish women who are genuinely mistaken, but those where evidence…
/r/MensRights29/11/14 09:58 PM
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I don't know if I should have read this. I've lived this, minus the being arrested part. This is like how one victim of rape feels after listening to another victim tell her/his story. Flashbacks, that horrible knot of terror and anger and helplessness and numbness and wanting to throw up.... I just saw this in another post; I was pretty damned hungry, and was about to get up and get something to eat- now, my stomach is in knots know, and I don't know if I'll be able to eat anything....
/r/MensRights29/11/14 03:26 PM
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I don't know if I should have read this. I've lived this, minus the being arrested part. This is like how one victim of rape feels after listening to another victim tell her/his story. Flashbacks, that horrible knot of terror and anger and helplessness and numbness and wanting to throw up.... I'm gonna go now....
/r/MensRights29/11/14 03:18 PM
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The by-line is "catchy", and the people who all allowed that by-line to make it to the point that it would be viewed by thousands or millions of others should be made aware of just how offensive that it is to display such bias and gender-shaming in a public forum. I will mostly agree that the author's statement By killing himself, my father denied me the relief of justice is a rather selfish statement. But I will allow for the fact that I am not a woman who has lived with the knowledge of who he…
/r/MensRights28/11/14 12:29 PM
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I don't support the biased title. From what was read, it is possible that there were more reasons for the academic paper being rejected than only the one given by the title. I will admit that on the face of it, the statement made does seem rather ugly, that the woman would reject an academic paper simply because there were no women contributors to them, but there was an implication that there was more than just that reason for why the paper in question was rejected. I will say, however, than any…
/r/MensRights28/11/14 12:05 PM
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But it can happen, even in a committed relationship, even one of more than a year. So I am a fact that 'virtually non-existent' is not actually non-existent...
/r/MensRights11/11/14 09:08 PM
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Okay. So no, you're not hearing me at all. You seem to instead be speaking, but not hearing, and certainly not at all discussing. So I'll make this easy for you. End.
/r/MensRights10/11/14 08:12 PM
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I'm not an MRA nor much of a supporter. Nor am I saying anything about there being a movement against personal safety. Have you actually read what I wrote? What I stated is a fact; "teach men not to rape" is not a men's problem, it is a social problem. If and/or when you can prove that this is not a fact, please let me know.
/r/MensRights10/11/14 07:32 PM
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Alright- I'll bite; what are some of those 'far better ideas'? No offense, but I've yet to actually hear of any, beyond "teach men not to rape"- I'd like to hear what else might be offered towards both personal protection, and rape prevention.
/r/MensRights10/11/14 06:40 PM
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...And neither are we some sort of rapist prevention action service. What I'm getting at is this: while we plan long-term to reduce the incidence of rape, we need to have "now" actions and plans to protect people from those who would rape. It would be irresponsible of us as people to say "teach men not to rape" and then do nothing while that plan of action (which would require us to teach "boys" not to rape- because by the time they are men, it is too late to effectively teach them out of the be…
/r/MensRights10/11/14 10:00 AM
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I will be blunt, and I will be unpopular, and I will say what I believe needs to be said. Women need the be taught how to protect themselves. [Men also need to be taught to protect themselves, but that's a discussion for later.] Women are not helpless waifs unable to take part in the responsibility of their own safety, and I'll be damned if I'll participate in treating women like they are that helpless. If someone wants to say that I'm "victim-blaming" when I would suggest to a woman, "Hey, mayb…
/r/MensRights10/11/14 03:09 AM
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On the posts related to false rape allegations, suggesting you should take some time to get to know someone before having sex is not a popular position. Despite the obvious fact that a drunken hook-up with a stranger is much more risky for a false rape allegation than someone you know well. Perhaps- but false rape allegations can happen in the midst of a year-plus long relationship, too- as I know by experience. Sex is a very serious undertaking, with potentially life-altering (or life-ruining) …
/r/MensRights10/11/14 02:45 AM
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I'm a father of a daughter, too. I think her Daddy did it right! She wanna act like she's grown, she gets to face the consequences of tryin' to jack the rules!
/r/MensRights31/10/14 11:01 AM
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For those who did not read the article, I will highlight some disturbing segments: More than 130 people participated in a demonstration called “Carry the Weight” in White Plaza on Wednesday…The protest was intended to show solidarity with survivors of sexual assault and to urge the Stanford administration to change its policies related to sexual assaults… the event was held in solidarity with Emma Sulkowicz, a Columbia student who is carrying a mattress around until her alleged rapist is expelle…
/r/MensRights31/10/14 02:01 AM
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We are. I only say that it is not as simple as you seem to think, when you ask "why don't you run?" Most men know that initiating violence gets them in trouble, so most will not do so (if they are reasonable- I freely admit that some men are unrepentant assholes who need to be put down like rabid dogs). In the reverse...well, it isn't the same dynamics. So yes, we're done. On behalf of men who try to behave like good people, I am sorry for the things you've had to endure because of the assholes …
/r/MensRights28/10/14 08:36 PM
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And the fact that you have such a ready answer, that you think that it is such a simple matter of physiology, expresses the fact that you have little to no understanding of the dynamics of the situation. It matters very little that a man might be able to get away from the situation- even if he can, there are other potential factors that can come into play, that make the entire "man has confrontation with woman" scenario a very dangerous one for men, in a different (yet very valid) way from how i…
/r/MensRights28/10/14 08:19 PM
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It would be nice if it were that easy. It is not always that easy. There are women- and I speak from personal experience- who will run and tackle a male, in order to keep him from leaving when she doesn't want him to- initiating an attack, as it were- and if the man attempts to disengage, the woman will latch on. Now you tell me- if you were an officer of the law, and you walked in the door to a scene with a male rolling around on the floor with a female, and even if he managed to get up, pushed…
/r/MensRights28/10/14 05:58 AM
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What is your thought when you hear that same question come out of the mouth of a man, when he questions why/how a woman ended up being raped? "You couldn't run?"
/r/MensRights28/10/14 05:57 AM
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I will say up front that I am not a person who is anti-feminist (as I understand feminism to be, not as I see feminism to be), and I am not pro-MRA. I am a man, who follows these posts, to see what others of my gender go through, to wonder what might be happening to address the craziness that I see happening in the wake of Elliot Rogers (sp), and to try to learn from the lessons of others who are going through shit that I hope I never experience for myself. Occasionally, I'll see something I hav…
/r/MensRights27/10/14 06:31 PM
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You might think I'm being weird, but this stuff is real. For some folks who've been accused of rape, what you're asking for is the equivalent of asking a rape victim to recount their story of what happened to them- yes, for some, it can feel that traumatic- so no, I am not being weird. For some folks who've been accused of rape, it might take them years or decades to get over the guilt- even though they didn't do anything that would be classified as rape, and sometimes even more if the situation…
/r/MensRights22/10/14 05:46 PM
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Have you ever been falsely accused of rape? Let's hear your stories. Why? Why do you want to know what happened? What's your reasoning for asking these invasive and very personal questions? I say that because many who have been accused of rape have been traumatized nearly as much as those who have been raped, and unfortunately, society doesn't have counselling services for those who have been accused to learn how to deal with the social stigma, the beatings, the further accusations, the potentia…
/r/MensRights22/10/14 08:08 AM
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I can't speak about temporary custody, but if she is arrested- and you say that she has at least one warrant for her arrest- and convicted, custody should at that point automatically be placed with you, and I believe custody would remain with you until she was released and applied to have it returned. I also believe that, at that time, you can point out her arrest an what it was for, to sway the family court to keep custody with you. I cannot guarantee that I am correct; you might consider speak…
/r/MensRights21/09/14 07:42 PM
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I won't comment further. You state that feminists want equality, that they want rights, but not at the expense of men's rights. I tell you that I think that we, as people, not as men only or women only, need to hold our "crazy" accountable for being "crazy"- I.e., that men are not to blame, and that women are not to blame, and that we're all responsible for fixing the rift between us. You say "I know nothing about feminism." I don't see a disconnect here, but apparently you do. So I'll leave you…
/r/MensRights25/08/14 02:34 PM
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Then you are misguided; if advocating for equality is "not [to] know about feminism at all", then I will remain ignorant- though it sounds that I do know what feminism is about; we (myself and feminism) seem to want the same things...
/r/MensRights25/08/14 01:42 PM
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I know of quite a few women who say that they are feminists, who "claimed this". And previously you commented on there being a "double standard". Are you against double standards as a whole? I am- which is why I think we as people need to hold our "crazy" folk of all genders accountable for their "craziness".
/r/MensRights25/08/14 01:23 PM
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I'll also add that I'm somewhat offended by the fact that you assume that I should be lumped into a group whom you claim "have no clue what feminism is actually about". Feminism USED to be about equality and fair treatment, not about the advocation of women's right ABOVE those of men, or at the EXPENSE of men. What I see these days SEEMS (to my eyes, which could be biased, I will admit) to be about women "winning" at getting certain rights/privileges, and forcing men to "lose". That is not the w…
/r/MensRights25/08/14 01:12 PM
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Well, I'll say this: as a woman, perhaps you would say "yes all women" - and your statement is valid. But as a man, I say "no, not all men", and my statement is equally valid. I'll admit I see quite a bit of things done by women that seems to get less attention/less notice/less outrage/less justice than the same exact things done by men, and perhaps that is a factor of where I'm looking. But just like you as a woman can say "yes, all men" and be valid, despite the fact that only a relatively sma…
/r/MensRights25/08/14 12:55 PM
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Does that make it better? We shouldn't be dismissive of discrimination against ANYONE, no matter their ethnicity, gender, ability, etc. Your comment could be taken as being dismissive against men, simply because (you believe that) discrimination against men "are isolated cases".
/r/MensRights25/08/14 11:42 AM
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I have. This would be my story: http://dctiger74.wordpress.com/2014/03/29/betrayal-2/ .
/r/MensRights23/08/14 08:41 PM
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