| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 281 | Steve from Sex and the City is what happens when you settleHonestly I don’t get the logic. Being single and hustling for yourself, living your best life is so much better than being a servant/bang maid to some half cooked scrote. And he still cheated on her dumb ass desperate self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 02:55 AM |
| 5 | How long to wait for men to reply? (Busy career-oriented men)Honestly if you have to think about it, and ask the question- then it’s too long. If he’s not making an effort to reply promptly, he’s not looking for anything serious. No one is too busy for a text. Block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 01:20 AM |
| 1 | Screening video chat…for a walk.🤢🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 02:51 PM |
| 17 | This is why we don’t take the risk with LVM. Soon as he shows any red flags 🚩 DUMP HIM or you might end up this mans wife.Ugh so sorry that happened to you. I’m glad you caught him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 12:22 AM |
| 8 | This is why we don’t take the risk with LVM. Soon as he shows any red flags 🚩 DUMP HIM or you might end up this mans wife.I gave it a good try but couldn’t find much on him. Low life’s like this are good at hiding their tracks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 12:21 AM |
| 10 | This is why we don’t take the risk with LVM. Soon as he shows any red flags 🚩 DUMP HIM or you might end up this mans wife.I did report and block. I tried to find him as his name is quite unusual in the U.K. so figured it wouldn’t be too hard but he’s obviously good at hiding his tracks. Else I’d have told his wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 12:20 AM |
| 28 | This is why we don’t take the risk with LVM. Soon as he shows any red flags 🚩 DUMP HIM or you might end up this mans wife.They never fail to surprise us with the audacity and lack of shame 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 10:31 PM |
| 121 | Lionel Richie is dating someone young enough to be his daughter..He was 41, when she was born. If that isn’t a pedophile, I don’t know what is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 08:21 PM |
| 6 | How embarrassing.Lol. Funny? To who 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 07:32 PM |
| 45 | China orders man to pay wife for houseworkHe was order to pay her the equivalent of £5000 for 5 years of full time work. Assuming an average working week is 37.5 hours - which if they have children, let’s be honest it’s a round the clock job - but bear with me : £5000 / 5 years = £1000 per year £1000 / 52 weeks = £19.23 per week £19.23 / 37.5 hours = £0.51 So they assessed the value of her work to be 50p per hour. While this is a win as it’s something, we’re still far from being seen as equals. Most wouldn’t (and can’t in most countries… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 07:27 PM |
| 13 | Always and ForeverWhere do I get this hoodie? 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 10:21 PM |
| 8 | What do the ladies of FDS thing about this?Block him. Boy bye 👋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Never let yourself go!And have your own money so you can leave if need be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 11:10 PM |
| 2 | Would you tell a pickmeisha her bf is cheating/trying to cheat on her?Nope, not your battle. She'll probably say you're lying and demonise you anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Thank god this girl realizes he wants a new mommy. Stay strong girl or you’ll be participating in #kickhimout2020I wish I was this smart before I moved in with my ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:10 AM |
| 11 | Setting Standards for First Dates - OLDAs a Brit, I can safely say EU guys are no better from my end of the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 09:28 PM |
| 6 | Excuse me, what the actual f*ck?I want to be her friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 08:43 PM |
| 94 | Ladies, ALWAYS listen to your gut feeling!I’m convinced that we as women were given this gut instinct to protect us. Something interesting my friend said on the topic is that our brains can often pick up on things but not fully process them until later on. For example you could date someone and your brain sees various cues to suggest that he’s no good, but it doesn’t add all those cues together to think “oh this guy did x, y and z which suggest he’s a bad person’. Rather while we’re still processing we get this bad feeling - but eventua… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 08:40 PM |
| 3 | Count the red flags in his profile ugh...2 miles away? There aint enough miles between you and him sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:16 PM |
| 7 | 1. Why does he think it’s okay to drink alcohol in a house with strangers in a town I’ve never been? 2. Why is he so persistent that we drink alcohol on our first “date”?No, hes trying to shag you. Delete and block. Dont meet this man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:00 PM |
| 6 | Notice how he’s always gaming. Let’s pray for her.Bet she pays for all the groceries and the house too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 09:58 PM |
| 101 | Another FDS queen by the sounds of itI was once in a bar with a guy (yes I know that wasn't good...) and he asked if the next round is on me. So I said yes, got up as if going to the bar, but left instead. Sometimes I wonder if he's still sat there was waiting for his beer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 09:57 PM |
| 38 | This guy I used to be friends with wanted to “catch up.”This is why you should never be friends with men. 99% of them are trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 07:54 PM |
| 1 | What is this trash? Sorry but guys don’t need to be protected like that. Any guy with a mother like this, IMO should he avoided. The reviews made me roll my eyes.Just EWWW | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 02:24 AM |
| 37 | Man runs away at wedding after girlfriend catches brides bouquet. LVM alert, run sis 🏃♀️Hes probably broke AF, can't look after himself and his girlfriend is the only reason he's dressed and coherent. He knows he would be fucked without her. He's just playing up in front of the other lads. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 01:56 AM |
| 51 | Why Good Women Are Losing On Dating AppsReading that article is like reading the plot to a new episode of Black Mirror. I knew this dating culture was bad, but I had no idea it was THAT bad. Reading it made me wonder why the women who buy into this, would allow anyone to treat them that way. I mean the only reason fuck boys are playing with them, is because they are allowing them to. Why would you even meet these kinds of men?? I've saved this article as a reminder to myself, to read whenever (if) I get feelings for anyone before they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 12:49 PM |
| 5 | Please do not ask out men. EverNo truer words ever spoken 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 02:51 AM |
| 14 | Please do not ask out men. EverIf he's not chasing, he's not interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 02:45 AM |
| 12 | Ah yes, let’s continue to applaud fathers for their mere physical PRESENCE in their children’s lives.Yet another example of how women are expected to cook, clean, bring up kids, take care of the home, take care of the husband, please him in bed, make him dinner and yet men are applauded just simply for existing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 02:31 AM |
| 1 | Scrotes' way of thinkingI have no words | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 02:25 AM |
| 6 | Question - can you have male friends?What they are really saying is: “you are the most attractive female I can get physically close to, and who has full conversations with me, therefore you must have sex with me and alleviate my hornyness and loneliness.” This really struck a chord with me. You are totally right on that point, especially this last 'friend'. I think thats exactly the case with him, from him having told me about his life circumstances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 02:46 PM |
| 3 | Question - can you have male friends?This is really quite sad. Its almost like they cannot see beyond us being a sexual object to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 02:28 PM |
| 2 | Question - can you have male friends?Thanks so much for this, I think this has made up my mind as you're totally right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 02:17 PM |
| 2 | Question - can you have male friends?Yes I think that's true. Its just such a shame though as I've enjoyed friendships with guy friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 02:15 PM |
| 5 | Question - can you have male friends?Thanks for that great insight! Perhaps then it's important to make sure male friends are also HVM, to avoid the issue of them hitting on you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 02:13 PM |
| 6 | To those who feel guilty about taking a man’s moneyPreach | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 03:40 AM |
| 11 | How do you do a background check?Couple of tips: Start with facebook. See if he's still friends with his ex (and her parents), and if he's kept the photos of them together public. Thats usually a sign that he still has feelings for her and/or is hoping they might get back together. If he's told you who his close circle of friends are, check their profiles too. What kind of people are they? Do they seem like decent guys who are settled down or are they 'BROS' whose profiles are full of photos of their drunken adventures with the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 03:44 AM |
| 2 | Why are men so 🤮......stay safe ladiesThis literally makes me so angry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 11:25 PM |
| 11 | Ok I’m really hanging up OLD. I unmatched after this. I’m almost 31 and want to be married. What age range do y’all search? Wait, I said I’m quitting OLD lolUnfortunately you will get a lot of fuck boys on there. The trick is to unmatched the second they say stuff life this. There are HVM guys out there, you just have you got sifting through all the crap out there. Idiots like this - just think of them as practise. Reply with what the best version of yourself would say, something like 'thank you for the offer, but I am looking for something meaningful. Good luck on your search' and simply unmatch and block. I also like to scare them a little to test… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 11:20 PM |
| 47 | How a man treats you when you're sick or going through a hard time is a good indicator of the future."Women are so socialized into believing that they must be caregivers that it often doesn’t even occur to them that they can take time off, let alone that they might have another option. In one study with heterosexual, gay and lesbian couples, one woman gives care to her wife around the clock, taking time off to cry while on the subway. By contrast, one of the husbands participating in the study continues to ask his wife to attempt each and every task she can while she is going blind." Reading th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 01:09 AM |
| 73 | How a man treats you when you're sick or going through a hard time is a good indicator of the future.So I googled it and its a painful read: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/mar/30/the-men-who-give-up-on-their-spouses-when-they-have-cancer "To say that men benefit hugely from female caregiving is borne out by research. Men tend to suffer a lot more from widowhood, partly because they gain more support from marriage than women do. When his partner dies, he is more likely to actively seek out another relationship, whereas women are more likely to avoid marriage. Why? “Because they kn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 01:07 AM |
| 11 | Gaslighting: Table for 3I am 5'10 and guys are constantly telling me they are 6 foot PLUS. If I go on a first date and they turn out to be lying, which they often are, I simply pretend I am in the wrong place and walk off in the opposite direction. I walked into a cafe once (back in my pickmesha days) and saw this tiny dude sat behind a table, vaguely resembling the pictures I saw of him on bumble. Even sat down, you could tell he was miniature. Like literally child sized. I imagine his tiny little legs to not be touch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 10:09 PM |
| 36 | I sent my husband to jailYes, I want to second this advice. Please listen to it, as its 100% accurate! You are in danger right now and you need to do everything you can to protect yourself. Many years ago, I left my abusive ex and got a non molestation order. I moved to a different city, 30 miles away. He was so angry that I had called the police on him and left him, that he'd call me daily and sent me abusive messages/emails/voicemails etc. He couldn't come to my new flat as he didn't know where I lived, but I still ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 01:02 AM |
| 3 | Leveling up PodcastsHonestly that sounds fantastic and I am so pleased you've been able to see that if she has chosen to judge you without information to base that on, then the issue is with her and not you. As Lori says, its not our place to wonder 'why, what did I do wrong?' and owning/internalising that person's actions. We simply think 'Ok, that's not great but thats where that person is in their journey. Do I like it? No. Ok lets move on'. I too used to internalise so much nonsense that had nothing to do with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 01:40 AM |
| 9 | I guess I need to go to skid row to find a husband 🤦🏾♀️So this dude is balling. In a couple of years time when this pretty girl starts showing the slightest signs of ageing, not performing in bed like he's used to, maybe not dressing like up she used to do - he's going to find himself a fresh naive 21 year old and get a divorce. Then he'll be making off with 50% of all her assets and leaving her as a single mother to fend for herself. He be balling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 12:30 AM |
| 3 | A Simple Exercise for Objectively Evaluating MenFANTASTIC advice! Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 03:59 PM |
| 7 | If you haven’t watched this yet, please do 🤣 “What It Takes for a Man to Get Called Crazy” - Whitney CummingsThis makes me so sad as its so funny yet so true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 03:56 PM |
| 5 | What to consider when consciously deciding on your standards and boundaries?Hey! Great question! I follow a dating coach who is VERY FDS focused! She has a life changing podcast called 'break the dating code' which you can find in the following link: https://www.breakthedatingcode.com/podcast Have a look at Episodes 3 - The List Episodes 4 - The List - priorities Episodes 5 - Values Honestly she's incredible! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:52 AM |
| 11 | Pickme Behavior Parodied on Old School Broad CityThis is painful to watch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:40 AM |
| 2 | Do we block and move on? Something about the word “dominant” gives me the chills, and not the good kind.Love bombing. You dont TELL someone you like to be protective, a provider, and treat women X Y and Z. You show those things. He's probably very immature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 12:17 AM |
| 5 | Entitled man negotiating sex with me after having gone on just ONE walk “date” and very sporadic communication in betweenGood! Block and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Why are LVM so obsessive! Small d*ck energy to the maxDid he just randomly message her to insult her?? 😂😂😂😂😂 So strange. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, line up for your chance to give this man head in his car! This self proclaimed disease-free, kink-friendly cheater could be all yours (for an afternoon) for the small price of your dignity! [BARF]Someone should reply to this, find out his name and then send this to his girlfriend, mom and co workers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Did I overreact?Plenty of decent guys on other apps. Just delete the app and use others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 05:51 PM |
| 3 | Did I overreact?Big nope. Trust your intuition - it's normally right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 05:49 PM |
| 3 | How to let go of the yearning for marriage/ children?A colleague of mine had her first at 45 via IVF. She's gorgeous, youthful, a true queen and her husband is truly a HVM. She is so happy she waited for the right person. Better that than an awful life with the wrong man, in the wrong marriage that ultimately ends in divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 05:47 PM |
| 8 | Signal phrases that suggest a guy is LVMGosh there's far too many to list in a single post. You just develop a sixth sense for LVM men after a while. It's like your intuition is telling you 'nah he a fcuk boy'. Comes with time 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 04:56 PM |
| 8 | Entitled man negotiating sex with me after having gone on just ONE walk “date” and very sporadic communication in betweenOH MY GOD 😂😂😂😂😂. Did you reply? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 04:51 PM |
| 8 | Dont ever settle for guys that aren’t proud to show you off🤦🏽♀️The one to look out for with LVM like that is the phrase 'Oh wow I've never dated a (insert country of origin) girl before'. I've had that a couple of times. Mate, we ain't flavours of ice cream to sample. Its objectifying and racist. Block immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 04:24 PM |
| 10 | Dont ever settle for guys that aren’t proud to show you off🤦🏽♀️Definitely do it! You can find out so much like does he keep photos of his ex? Are they still friends on facebook - means he probably wants to get back with her. Social media vetting is essential before even agreeing to meet them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 04:20 PM |
| 23 | Self respect must always come first, never stand to be treated like this!The world is full of all kinds of people. Some of them are really s***. And women are so used to men being BS, that they feel they have no choice but to settle for it. It's sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 04:16 PM |
| 23 | Supermodel hinge dating experimentMen are hunters. It's simple. He could go out and get sex from the 100s of profiles on bumble of women who are just looking for FWB or something casual. Read that again. Yes its true. I didn't believe it myself but go create a guy profile on bumble and test this and you shall see there is no end to women up for just sex. Some guys are into that but its an easy hunt and hold little interest for them. They get bored of those Pickmeshas quickly and move onto the next one. What holds interest for th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 03:02 PM |
| 176 | Self respect must always come first, never stand to be treated like this!Yeah he 'fell in love' until someone else comes along and gives him some attention. Then he'll either cheat on his wife or leave her. He's obviously a LVM and isn't really into her. She'd be so much better off without him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 02:36 PM |
| 5 | Sleeping 😴 I’ve noticed a key difference between HVM and LVM is that HVM care about your sleep. Anyone else?THIS gives me hope. Thank you x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 07:21 PM |
| 3 | Beware of fake HVMWe'll know for next time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 12:36 PM |
| 82 | Psych Today “Women who expect equality won’t sacrifice their personal happiness to save their marriage out of respect for the institution. They are particularly vigilant and will watch carefully how much their husbands contribute...When things are unfair and out of balance, they react strongly.”As they should. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 02:01 AM |
| 17 | Should I drop him for making this comment on a first date?We're not things to compare on his imaginary hotness scale. Like 'Ah so she has great tits so she's an 8 but she could be a bit taller so she's a 7". Like mate, WHO TF are you? 😂 He probably has issues. Why waste your time finding out what they are? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 02:00 AM |
| 5 | OLD Scrote gets mad I call him out for living in his friends basement at 34...YES SIS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:55 AM |
| 11 | Beware of fake HVMSis, this JUST happened to me. He got me real good and I'm so upset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:53 AM |
| 235 | I wish I was illiterate (x-post from r/AreTheStraightsOK)Sis fake your death and move to Siberia 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:52 AM |
| 6 | The chances that a man will propose drop by 50% after 18 months of a relationshipLike why? Like WHAT FOR??? She'd be better off alone than with this clown 😂 🤡. He's sampled those women like we're a starter tray and he can try all he likes. BOY - The second you start ANYTHING with ANYONE ELSE, in my mind YOU.HAVE.DIED. I'll buy myself some flowers, shed a tear and DELETE YOU from my life 😂 . RIP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:47 AM |
| 9 | My mother taught me FDS principles but I allowed society to brainwash me into pick me behaviors.Sis this is so sad and so true. We're in it together and we can overcome <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:39 AM |
| 3 | Drive 30.6 miles for a guy? Nope.Ya know, he did you a favour showing you straight away what a POS he is 😂. Lucky he wasn't more convincing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:36 AM |
| 5 | Drive 30.6 miles for a guy? Nope.OMG I've had this happen too!! The worst is when I was chatting to a guy that seemed genuinely promising and then he asked me OUT THE BLUE if I fancy driving 40 miles to come meet him after I had been at work all. I replied with 'HA ha ha nice try' and blocked him. Boy BYE 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:35 AM |
| 39 | A HVM will find your standards and boundaries attractiveSis, you've brought me out of my horrible horrible day (post break up) and given me so much hope. Thank you x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:28 AM |
| 25 | LMAO COULD NEVERRRRR BE MEBecause degrading women is funny. Wow she'll have a great marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:16 AM |
| 10 | HANDBOOK TO DOWNLOAD - Protect your knowledge.Thank you so much <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:15 AM |
| 14 | This sub is going to get banned soon. It’s time to leave Reddit ladies.AMEN | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:13 AM |
| 22 | I genuinely think I’m too afraid to keep dating menOne of my closest friends husbands is the best example of a HVM I've ever met. He supports her in every way. They have a child and they share everything with childcare and housework. He treats her like a queen and would do literally anything for her. I can see how loved and valued she is and I know this mutual respect CAN exist. I'm sorry you haven't seen many of these men, they are hard to come by sadly :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:11 AM |
| 67 | I genuinely think I’m too afraid to keep dating menI literally feel this way too. The only thing that makes me feel hope, is some of my male friends and some of my girl friends husbands. I've many HVM around me and I know that it is possible to meet a decent male - just very hard these days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 11:24 PM |
| 5 | Forever Girlfriends--how do we avoid becoming one, and how do we proactively spot men who will never propose so it doesn't get that far?Thank you for this! SO useful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 05:04 PM |
| 6 | My dad reminded me why I need to vet men even harder than I ever did beforeI've just had an awful break up from a horrible mean selfish man and this really hit home for me how lucky I am that it ended. Thank you for sharing your story x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 03:39 PM |
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