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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
27	How do you talk about your past with a woman?		SublimeScholar	/r/seduction	11/10/17 04:23 PM

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3	Why you should stop "Gaming" girls For people confused about what he means by game- think outer game (strategies, tactics, maneuvers) vs inner game (lifestyle, character, attitude). He means stop the outer game. Inner game is still good. I found this out myself recently. Before, I’d put on a “performance” of sorts around women and was moderately successful. It felt off, so I decided to be myself instead of playing a seductive character. Not only do I receive more attention, I receive attention from quality women who don’t tolerat…	/r/seduction	21/09/18 01:21 AM
3	What do I do about this girl in my class? Sounds like she is (or was) interested. It’s worth a shot to talk to her again. Ask her out, invite her to a party, or invite her to some other fun thing going on (like her inviting you to her modeling show). Edit: Her touching you and inviting you to her show are the signs that indicated interest to me.	/r/seduction	12/03/18 12:46 PM
2	Want to tell my crush I like her. No mall then, obviously. Ice skating is a great idea! So is roller skating. Putt putt, go karts... you want something active, something that encourages conversation, ideally both. Movie dates provide neither of those things	/r/seduction	07/03/18 11:38 PM
3	Want to tell my crush I like her. Asking her on a date is best. Use the word “date” to make it clear. Have a place in mind to go. Something active or that encourages conversation. Parks, coffeeshops, and malls are good. Movie dates are boring, little talking involved. Edit: u/zfgee has good advice, but says don’t use the word date. Honestly, it doesn’t really matter either way. The word “date” can stress some women, but on the other hand you need to make your interest clear. Up to you, what you are comfortable doing	/r/seduction	07/03/18 10:56 PM
14	Want to tell my crush I like her. When you asked her out on a date, did you explicitly use the word date? If so, then you are right, she likes you but she is shy. If not, then ask her again using the word date. She knows you like her if you flirted with her and asked her out on a date. Actions speak louder than words. Telling someone “I like you” before going on dates is high school-esque. It is okay for now, but becomes odd when you graduate. When telling someone you like them, always do it in person. It is more meaningful that…	/r/seduction	07/03/18 09:57 PM
3	Matched my childhood crush on Tinder???? Outside of that you’ve met in real life before and have shared experienced to bond over, I wouldn’t treat her differently than anyone else. If you act as if she is “special” or “different” it will fuck with your head. Overvaluing a woman leads to a scarcity mindset and encourages needy behavior.	/r/seduction	17/02/18 01:04 PM
6	I feel uncomfortable reading this sub and talking about sex in general. Keep reading about sex. Subscribe to r/sex and read posts there. If you’re not comfortable with the idea of sex, you’re not going to have sex. Think of it as pushing your limits, expanding your mind. While seducing and sexing women is relatively simple when you break it down. Initiate conversation, flirt / tease / bond, escalate, sex. However, there is a lot of stuff that goes into this “simple” process. Getting comfortable with sex is a good start, but definitely hang around and learn more. Als…	/r/seduction	21/01/18 12:37 AM
1	History of "the First Move" Young (born in 90s) here, but I have never heard of “asking” for a kiss outside of conservative religious circles. It’s pretty simple. Put your hands on her waist, lock eyes, and slowly move in. If she moves to meet you, it’s a yes. If she doesn’t move or moves away, it’s a no, so you let her go. Actions speak louder than words here.	/r/seduction	10/01/18 01:48 PM
1	I'm a shit closer. How do I seal the deal? I don’t know, number wise, how common it is. But, you’re right, they do want one night stands / start an FWB, you just have to make the moves	/r/seduction	09/01/18 07:51 PM
2	I'm a shit closer. How do I seal the deal? u/Smiles_Because_Sad gave you a great line. If she wants it and lives less than an hour away, you’ll be fine. Think- they got approached by 10 guys that night, and you’re the only one she felt comfortable with. Does she really want to go back out there and try her luck again? As for the anxiety... Anxiety doesn’t have an easy answer. Meditation helps, teaches you how to relax. Foreplay helps. If you have anxiety in other areas of your life, a therapist may help. Being with a caring, unjudgmental…	/r/seduction	09/01/18 02:04 PM
1	Alright that's it. /r/seduction I need your help. It's my final semester of college and I'm sick and tired of being a virgin too afraid to talk to women. You are right, this does work. I imagined OP trying to hit up girls on their way to class, so I recommended he go to places where women want to talk instead.	/r/seduction	09/01/18 01:56 PM
2	Alright that's it. /r/seduction I need your help. It's my final semester of college and I'm sick and tired of being a virgin too afraid to talk to women. I’d recommend against cold approaches. Meet girls in classes, clubs, and events. Women will be much more receptive. Also, you’re going to fuck up a lot. Learning to ignore the pain and shame of rejection, to keep lumbering on, it is important. Remember- it doesn’t matter what people think of you, you won’t 99% of the people in a few months.	/r/seduction	09/01/18 04:29 AM
2	I'm a shit closer. How do I seal the deal? Sounds like you have sexual anxiety. Perfectly normal. You just have to slow down and not let yourself get too excited. Alcohol can makes getting a boner more difficult too, keep that in mind. Logistics of going back to her place- be honest about living an hour away. If you’ve been making out and she wants to have sex with you, she’ll let you come over. If you both live far away... rough, but it might work. Also, some women get off on the idea of taking a guy’s virginity. My first did. I hooked …	/r/seduction	09/01/18 04:23 AM
5	Review: manwhore training program. Real drills real training. On the other hand, a smart advertiser wouldn’t write a rambling block of text that I didn’t bother to read	/r/seduction	09/01/18 04:12 AM
8	How do I do it with her? Here is a concise version of DiCarlo’s “Escalation Ladder”, a series of increasingly intimate acts that will progress to sex. As for the sex... Ask her what she likes. She’ll help you figure it out. Main thing is to not be timid. Whether you are passionate, aggressive, or somewhere in between, go for it!	/r/seduction	06/01/18 06:04 PM
5	Women have the right to reject you and not find your attractive This post, or a post like it, should be required reading for all the guys who ask questions like “How do I seduce my dream girl?” or “I messed up, how can I still get her?” Far too many men have unhealthy mindsets where they idealize women, look for the “secret” to success, and reject practical advice. No women is special, there is no “easy” way to seduce women, and the path to a better life is either dull (exercising, better diet, studying / working) or terrifying (approaching new people, tryin…	/r/seduction	30/12/17 01:08 PM
3	Is it worth having a facebook if you're not active on it? It is useful, even if you do not post much. I have around five pictures of myself with friends. I originally got it to learn if women have boyfriends, but found it is also useful for discerning a woman’s personality and interests. Not posting much isn’t a bad thing, it just means she isn’t going to learn much from viewing your profile.	/r/seduction	24/12/17 02:14 PM
3	Improving myself but losing some friends, am I doing it wrong? If these people didn’t respect you, they were never your friends.	/r/seduction	23/12/17 04:14 AM
4	I like one of her friends, but she's really into me It is best to not make a move and look for women elsewhere. But you already know that	/r/seduction	19/11/17 01:03 PM
1	I like one of her friends, but she's really into me Wait, does the girl you like and don't like know each other? If so, that's rough. How do you feel about directly talking to one of the female friends about it? It's a risk, but otherwise I'd say you'd have to wait it out. Waiting won't help you with the girl you do like.	/r/seduction	19/11/17 05:00 AM
25	I like one of her friends, but she's really into me You know you have no chance with the girl you like if you don't reject this other girl in a soft, indirect way. You could show, not say, that you're not interested in the girl who likes you. Don't react to her flirting. Be polite and bland. Be unattractive in a boring way. You could talk to the girlfriend. Can you tell her you're not interested in her friend? In a nice way. Ideally, the girlfriend would tell her friend "You know, I don't think he's into you" This is a tough situation. Good luck …	/r/seduction	19/11/17 04:35 AM
5	How does a man increase his sexual appeal? u/pasttenseaggressive is right in saying you shouldn't call women broads. Physically, exercise and nutrition help. You don't need to be muscle bound, just slim and toned. Mentally, confidence and social status. They usually go hand in hand. High social status indicates that you have social skills, connections, and resources. This is attractive, but the ambition and ability to acquire these things is what is really attractive. You don't need to have a great life, just need to be on your way to ha…	/r/seduction	20/10/17 09:28 PM
3	Picking up girls on campus? It's not what you say, but who you are and how you say it. There aren't any special phrases that attract women. If you present yourself well (exercise, grooming, style) and start a conversation, women will respond. If you're confident and interesting, they'll continue talking to you. If you flirt and escalate, they will follow. Even if everything is "right" you're not always going to be successful. Circumstances, preferences, biases, and genetics all affect seduction and you have little control …	/r/seduction	20/10/17 07:19 PM
2	Former "bumblers" (anti-seducer category in Roberts Greene Art of Seduction) how did you quit being a self conscious bumbler? Is this the one where you amble on and on during conversations, saying way too much or the one where you lack confidence and make lots of mistakes? Greene's book has some good advice but it is far too verbose and filled with jargon. If the first, spread what you're saying out. Leave them room to ask questions, instead of anticipating questions and answering them, going on and on. Also take out filler words, like "ah" "um" "like" "that (sometimes, other times you need it)", disqualifiers such as …	/r/seduction	15/10/17 12:36 AM
-1	Should I move on? How many times has this happened? I'd either give up on her, or politely, but directly call her out on it, telling her she has one more chance before you walk away "Hey her name, you've flaked on me number times. I'd like to do activity with you on day, but this is your last chance- flake again and I'm gone."	/r/seduction	15/10/17 12:27 AM
2	Isolating people in school If they're talking as a large group, add something every now and then or ask a question. Personally, I find it hard to hop into a conversation of 4-5 or more people. If the group is together, but there are several smaller conversations, it's easy. Talk to them as you'd talk to anyone else. Be calm and act like you belong. Most of the time, they won't question it. If they are giving each other weird looks, spent a lot of time on their phones, or appear awkward, you're likely making them uncomfort…	/r/seduction	13/10/17 11:16 PM
1	What do I do after getting her number? Keep it brief, save the talking for when you're together	/r/seduction	13/10/17 11:11 PM
2	What do I do after getting her number? Second this. If it's the same night, you can text "This is your name". Don't start a conversation the same day you get their number; start a conversation the next day. If it has been a day or two, say "Hey, its your name", then tell them you had fun talking with them. Chat for a few messages, but try to meet with them again in person as opposed to having a long text conversation. Sometimes ladies need a little texting to get warmed up to you, but most would rather you set something up in person …	/r/seduction	13/10/17 03:23 AM
16	Isolating people in school Befriending a member of a group, then meeting the rest of the group is one way to go. You can also approach the group as a whole and hang out with them. Social calibration is important- the timing and situation must be right. At social events like parties or cookouts, find a way to confidently and boldly enter. If they're standing around, just introduce yourself to them all, be entertaining to them. If they're arguing, become a neutral third party that each side wants to convince that they are r…	/r/seduction	13/10/17 03:18 AM
1	How do you talk about your past with a woman? Childhood wasn't the best, but I'll talk about the good parts. I will not talk about ex's anymore. Thanks man!	/r/seduction	12/10/17 12:04 PM
3	How do you talk about your past with a woman? I like Mark Manson, but I don't think I'm developed enough yet (college student) to be truly vulnerable. Your cynical side is correct. Truth hurts. Especially because I'm trying to not be that nice guy anymore.	/r/seduction	12/10/17 02:28 AM
1	How do you talk about your past with a woman? Your advice is different from everyone else. They told me I shouldn't talk about it. I feel like they are right. Your advice reminds me of my thought process. To her, I was somewhat of a mystery, as I approached and befriended her friend group one day. She'd asked about why I had left earlier, but didn't think the time was right. I did share after we hooked up (no sex, other stuff, she is still a virgin). I wanted to be vulnerable around her. Part of my story was telling her to be careful, as yo…	/r/seduction	12/10/17 12:33 AM
19	What do you say when a girl asks "Is it a date?" You say "Yes."	/r/seduction	11/10/17 08:42 PM
1	How do you talk about your past with a woman? I understand completely. I was joking and messing around before and after, but was way too solemn while talking about it. I've realized I'm still hung up on it; I'll be able to joke about it when I'm not. Thanks man!	/r/seduction	11/10/17 08:12 PM
1	How do you talk about your past with a woman? I see. The first part conveys everything that she'd need to know about me leaving. Girl leaving me doesn't add to it, just shows that I'm bitter. Thanks man!	/r/seduction	11/10/17 06:20 PM
1	How do you talk about your past with a woman? I did spend a lot of time thinking about it. You're right, I should only add detail when she asks. Thanks man!	/r/seduction	11/10/17 06:17 PM
2	How do you talk about your past with a woman? Makes sense. After thinking about it, my tone was definitely off. Another mistake made, another lesson learned. Thanks man!	/r/seduction	11/10/17 05:28 PM
2	How do you talk about your past with a woman? You're right. Another poster suggested that I only give vague answers about the past until pressed for details, which makes sense to me. She definitely got salty. As I said, I didn't realize it was a big deal until she mentioned it several times when she ended things with me. Another mistake made, another lesson learned. Thanks man!	/r/seduction	11/10/17 05:27 PM
2	How do you talk about your past with a woman? I did try to do that, tell her about the negative and show her how I grew from the experience. However, I think my tone of voice was off, so she thought something was up. Other posters have said not to go into the details unless asked, which makes sense. If a woman does want to know the details, I'll be sure to present it well, like you've explained. Thanks man!	/r/seduction	11/10/17 05:25 PM
2	How do you talk about your past with a woman? She did specifically ask. I give most people vague answers, such as "I disagreed with how my brothers handled a situation. It made me realize that I wasn't a good fit, so I left". So... I should have given her that answer. If she wanted to know more, she could ask me more questions. Thanks man!	/r/seduction	11/10/17 05:22 PM
3	How do I stop dwelling on past rejections and mistakes? This made my night, started laughing my ass off! Accepting that we will always make mistakes, focus on the present mistakes instead of those in the past	/r/seduction	30/09/17 11:13 PM
2	Tips for a Makeout Noob (F21) If his immediate response to a peck was to jam his tongue down your throat, he's a bad kisser. Coming from someone who thought that was how people kissed when he first got started. So it's not "his style" or your inexperience, he was just bad at it. Not the best person to learn kissing from.	/r/seduction	25/09/17 08:58 PM
13	It's been 3 weeks: Should I text him? Usually if a guy is interested in you, he'll contact you and try to get back together. You've already reached out to him a few times and he doesn't seem to be responding. It seems like he was interested in you after the first date, but something has changed. If you are really interested in this guy, I'd text him and be blunt. Say you're interested but you're not going to be here forever. If he doesn't respond to that, take it as a no and move on.	/r/seduction	01/09/17 01:47 AM
2	How can I improve my self-esteem? (20F) You understand! It's about breaking the vicious cycle. That's what CBT is, a lot of effective techniques for breaking the cycle. If it takes a while for you to see a therapist, perhaps you should talk to a close friend and have them keep you accountable	/r/seduction	29/08/17 11:31 PM
2	How can I improve my self-esteem? (20F) I did it once a week at first, then every couple weeks for a year and a half; I had a lot of issues. It's different for everyone though. Main thing is you have to work on yourself outside of therapy and constantly work on changing thoughts/attitudes/behaviors. People who are in therapy for YEARS and say "it doesn't work" are bad at this. Something you can do right now, something I learned in therapy that really helps- 1) Start recognizing when you're thinking badly about yourself. If you don't r…	/r/seduction	29/08/17 09:36 PM
2	How can I improve my self-esteem? (20F) CBT does help. I'd recommend a good therapist over a book though. They're trained in noticing unhealthy patterns of thought and helping others get over them. It helped me a lot. You have to learn to become aware of your negative thoughts and challenge them. You've been thinking like this for a while, so it's a habit at this point. Breaking bad habits and making better ones is difficult and takes time.	/r/seduction	29/08/17 08:09 PM
3	Do you guys try to avoid pickup forums/reading FR's? TL;DR Most FRs are stories, not instructional guides. Internet tends to show extremes in either direction because they're more interesting than the majority. People lie, deceive, and hide failure. Location does make a difference. Most field reports I've read are not helpful. They are written like stories instead of instructional material. Makes sense, as I feel the motive of the people posting them is to either show the community how they've improved themselves, gotten a girl, and are grateful..…	/r/seduction	16/08/17 06:59 PM
2	liking an old picture - stalker or not Women are almost always like "Oh God another stalker". If you think she's interested, asking her on a date is an acceptable, socially calibrated way of expressing your interest in her.	/r/seduction	20/07/17 05:19 PM
1	I have horrible anxiety If you have general anxiety, a "mindset" isn't going to help you. Mental tricks can help if you're anxious about specific situations, but general anxiety is deeper than that. Have you considered going back on your medication? Psych drugs are rough, but once you find the right one, you're good. I'd consider therapy as well, but it may be more challenging as you're in a foreign country. Therapy takes a while, but it works if you're willing to change.	/r/seduction	20/07/17 05:13 PM
1	What should I do? You're welcome, glad I could help	/r/seduction	17/07/17 06:19 PM
2	What should I do? Use the internet to find things to do in the area. Find 5-10 interesting things, add the name, address, and phone number (if applicable) to a note taking app on your phone. Take screenshots of an area map with the addresses highlighted, to give you an idea of distance. On the date, check your phone, and say "There is a cool park ten minutes from here" or "there is a neat bar five minutes from here". If it looks sketch, say, "Not as nice as I thought it would be. Let's check out X instead". EDIT:…	/r/seduction	17/07/17 12:06 PM
3	Numbers Elaborate. You could come off as very desperate or a very social guy depending on how you do it and what your attitude is. Desperation is pretty self explanatory (I'll take anyone who will have me!) as for social guy... If you plan on actually contacting people and making lots of friends, you could come off as friendly and charismatic. Plus, you'd get a lot of social experience. You'd have to be able to differentiate between "I want to be your friend" and "I want to fuck you". It's a balance, or…	/r/seduction	14/07/17 02:34 AM
2	I am a pussy from the inside and i chickened out.Any advice welcome.The harsher the better. Ah okay! So you've already got the base skills down, but you struggle with meeting new people? Plus anxiety around attractive women?	/r/seduction	14/07/17 02:19 AM
2	Street racing Hell yeah! Adventurous girls would love that! Though, something to keep in mind- people watching you, especially people you're trying to impress, it can affect your performance. You can't have sex with a gal if all your blood flows to your dick, you lose your head, and turn your car into a fireball. I'd suggest bringing a guy friend to a few races, then bring a girl. Or stick a GoPro on the dashboard or something, idk, just get used to being watched while you're racing.	/r/seduction	14/07/17 02:16 AM
31	I am a pussy from the inside and i chickened out.Any advice welcome.The harsher the better. Sometimes, jumping straight into it doesn't work. Especially if you don't have a good social foundation. Think of it this way- when you're approaching a cute gal at the bar, you're doing several things- you're approaching a stranger, you're starting a conversation with them, you're approaching a woman you find attractive, you're thinking of how to attract her, etc in a loud, noisy environment while experiencing peer pressure from your friends. That's a lot. Start with smaller, easier things firs…	/r/seduction	14/07/17 02:11 AM
7	Something I've realized while having a glass of wine (or two) Excellent post. As someone who pulled a "10" and lost her because I was anxious and didn't have a fulfilling life, it resonates with me. I've noticed that all four goals you mentioned, you don't just reach them. Once you reach them, you have to maintain them. I've successfully attained them before, but lost them because I didn't take the time to care for myself.	/r/seduction	11/07/17 03:34 AM
1	The difference between being a PUA and a Knight of Seduction. Interested in seeing your future posts. Always good to see a different perspective.	/r/seduction	08/07/17 09:29 PM
41	I go into "friend mode" when I meet new girls and I think it's killing my chances - help? This. Also, be physical. Put your hand on her shoulder and lean in when you're telling her a story. Give her a little push when you tease her. If there is danger or you need to stop, shield her with your arm. Teasing is a great way to create vibes with a woman and can lead to flirting. Touching is the other half. It indicates physical interest. Adding touch to an interaction can completely change the meaning, even if it is the only thing you change. Touch without teasing is seen as creepy, but t…	/r/seduction	05/07/17 03:37 PM
5	Is PUA, IOI, etc,. nonsense? This. TL; DR - You are smart. Most people are not smart. Outside of hookups, you won't be happy with not smart people. Go to places where smart women gather. However, don't overthink seduction. In the end, it is an art, not a science. It is ruled by emotions, not thought. Confidence, social ability, appearance, and safety will attract women. Intelligence helps develop these, but isn't needed. You're naturally and easily using words that most people would need to look up in a dictionary. This isn…	/r/seduction	28/06/17 01:23 PM
321	The girl is not the goal. The goal is to become a happy, driven, successful, self-assured man. Women don't want to be the interesting part of a man's life, rather, they want to be part of an interesting man's life. You've expanded upon this principle excellently, pointing out the problem as well as solutions in a clear and eloquent manner.	/r/seduction	24/05/17 12:43 AM
5	If You Want To Be Charismatic, Be More Unlikeable - the simple way of looking at it that enhanced my sex life, and made my social life stronger His writings have influenced me as well; I've been reading his articles for a couple years now. I recently discovered your site and I'm a fan. Keep up the good work! & here is a link to the Feedback Loop from Hell- https://www.google.com/amp/s/markmanson.net/feedback-loop-from-hell/amp	/r/seduction	17/05/17 10:17 PM
11	If You Want To Be Charismatic, Be More Unlikeable - the simple way of looking at it that enhanced my sex life, and made my social life stronger This makes a lot of sense to me. You have to show people that your behavior is not dependent on their reactions. If it is, they won't trust you, and if they don't trust you, you can't be charismatic. I was thinking "Wait, is he advocating being rude to people?" until I read that being a dick to everyone is the exact same as trying to be nice to everyone. You're onto something here. I can tell that you've been inspired by Mark Manson, but that's not a bad thing. Being completely original is impos…	/r/seduction	17/05/17 10:02 PM
21	If You Want To Be Charismatic, Be More Unlikeable - the simple way of looking at it that enhanced my sex life, and made my social life stronger How to Win Friends and Influence People is one of my favorite books and will help you become charismatic. However, it is overly positive. You cannot make everyone like you, even if you always follow those principles. Instead of pressing on and trying harder, you should show people that it's okay that you don't get along with them. This is about that, accepting that you don't like everyone and that you're willing to disagree with them, instead of being a "Yes!" man.	/r/seduction	17/05/17 09:53 PM
1	I'm reevaluating my approach to women and I think I'm too high strung, meaning I try to be too high energy. Any tips to make myself more "low key" and calm? Are you asking if you can mix being energetic and outgoing with being laidback and chill, or if you have to stick with just one or the other? You can't mix them. You can't be the guy who is talking to everyone and shotgunning Natties in a group while also being the guy chatting up a girl or two in the corner, really getting to know them well. You can be the first guy one night and the second guy another, but you cannot simultaneously be the guy who's running the show while also being the reserve…	/r/seduction	15/03/17 07:11 PM
1	I'm reevaluating my approach to women and I think I'm too high strung, meaning I try to be too high energy. Any tips to make myself more "low key" and calm? Always be yourself, because you can't pretend to be something you're not forever. If you don't like yourself, change yourself instead of pretending to be different. Mark Manson said something like "People with similar values and complimentary personalities attract one another" in one of his earliest articles. https://markmanson.net/compatibility-and-chemistry <--- this one. Sorry for poor formatting, I'm on mobile. So as a chill guy, you're going to attract ladies who appreciate that. Gals that …	/r/seduction	15/03/17 04:21 PM
2	How can I learn to get better with women, without having to become a "pick-up artist"? When people talk about being nice, it is usually in the context of "Nice Guys". Dr. Robert Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy" is a great book on the subject. A TL;DR is that if you're nice to women because you think you'll get sex from being nice, if you're afraid to be direct/assertive, if you're always trying to please everyone or do the right thing, then women will not be attracted to you. No hookups, no girlfriends.	/r/seduction	09/02/17 01:18 PM
5	I will fight on r/malefashionadvice We have a reputation for being rude but I've learned so much from my time here. Some recommendations are expensive (the most commonly recommended dress shoe and white leather sneaker are both $400) but there are plenty of realistic, budget recommendations that can transform your look for under $250-$500. Uniqlo, Gap, H&M, J Crew Factory, and Express are good budget stores. Start slow, read the sidebar, try to find old posts on topics you like. The "What Are You Wearing Today"…	/r/seduction	09/02/17 01:11 PM
1	A small gift for this sub... Hit "Buy Now With One Click". I'd never used that button until now. It automatically adds it to your library, doesn't even ask for payment information	/r/seduction	18/12/16 04:33 AM
2	Where do I practice? If you wait until you're skilled enough to know you'll get the girl, then you'll wait forever. You will get rejected, even guys who are veterans get rejected. As to where you should do it... The malls that are 10-15 minutes away sounds like a good idea. Ideally you'll be approaching strangers. if you see anyone you know and they ask what you're doing, tell them you're practicing your social skills. It will sound weird, but less weird than practicing seduction. High school seduction is difficult …	/r/seduction	20/10/16 11:10 PM
1	Fun date ideas when you're underage Not sure. I lived in a small town before moving to college; I don't know much about buses. If it allows for conversation and kino, then I suppose you could include it in your list of activities. I feel like a lot of advice in the subreddit is oriented towards men in large cities and large universities, so if you ask around I'm certain you'll find someone who can answer this better than I could	/r/seduction	14/10/16 06:02 AM
2	Fun date ideas when you're underage Yes, you've got the idea! Another advantage of this vs your stereotypical movie date is that it allows for kino (physical touching / escalation) easily. Lightly touch her arm when she is laughing, give her a push when teasing her or put your arm around her shoulder when she says something sweet or you're flirting. Helps create sexual tension and helps you escalate. There are some good posts on kino here, just mentioning it as a benefit, if you already know what kino is, great!	/r/seduction	14/10/16 05:58 AM
3	Have you ever been approached by girls? Yes... Though it is not common, I always made eye contact before they approached, and I knew they had been watching me being flirty and confident with other women before they approached. Out of the few times I've been approached, they had been drinking and I was shirtless, so that might have been a factor as well.	/r/seduction	13/10/16 10:14 PM
3	Fun date ideas when you're underage If she's into you, you don't need to have the best date ever. You do need to make sure everything is well planned and that you can confidently lead her from one activity to the next. Some example dates- Getting coffee -> Taking a walk through a park -> Netflix at your place Rollerskating -> Getting ice cream -> Going home to play with your dog Plan 2-3 activities that are active and allow you to talk to one another. Confidently lead her from one activity to the next. Have backup ideas if she rea…	/r/seduction	13/10/16 10:08 PM
8	Here's a single tip that completely changed my perspective on sex. I agree. I broke up with my last girlfriend because I only enjoyed being around her when I was horny. Once my thirst was quenched, I didn't want to be around her anymore. I grew to resent talking to her and realized that she was a shallow person. I am more selective now. I'm not hooking up with as many women, sure, but I enjoy being with the ones I do hook up with. There will certainly be people who disagree and only want to have sex for physical pleasure. That's okay too! Though I am glad you b…	/r/seduction	18/08/16 12:46 PM
1	Sex at hers, any advice? As another user said, /r/sex would be a better place for this, but Seddit can still help. From your post, it sounds like the girl is a virgin but you're not. If so, you should be fine because you have sexual experience. Think about the girl- as she'll have no idea of what to do. If you don't spend a lot of time with foreplay, start before she is wet/lubricated, and go too hard/fast, then she'll be in a lot of pain. If she's having a terrible time, you're not going to enjoy the sex as much. As fa…	/r/seduction	22/07/16 08:26 PM
1	Let's face an uncomfortable fact. Women will not fulfill us or fix our problems. Hey there! Sorry about the delay, I forgot about checking my inbox for a long time. I did write something up and I posted it, but it quickly drifted off the front page. One guy who read it said it was way too abstract and that I should have included more concrete examples. I decided to practice on my own before trying to post again. It went something like this- there is also a TL;DR version at the bottom- You need to balance how much you value yourself with how much you value others. If you valu…	/r/seduction	03/07/16 12:17 PM
1	Baby face One of my fraternity brothers has a baby face, but he gets a lot more girls than most guys in our fraternity. One thing that I have noticed about him is that his hair is always short. Buzz cut short. I think people look older when they have very short hair (1/2 inch) and they look younger when they have longer hair (2 inches). People always tell me that I look older when I get a haircut because I let it grow out to 2 inches before cutting it to 1/2 an inch. He has style, but it is typical of col…	/r/seduction	18/05/16 12:42 PM
0	Let's face an uncomfortable fact. Women will not fulfill us or fix our problems. I started writing a response to the OP, but realized that I could flesh it out and post it to Seddit. I will finish it tomorrow morning. Outcome independence is one of the first things that I'll be covering. To put it simply, outcome dependence is when your happiness/satisfaction is dependent on external factors. Outcome independence is when your satisfaction is not dependent on external factors. If you get really sad when a woman rejects you, you are outcome dependent. If you're like "Eh" when …	/r/seduction	17/05/16 04:21 AM
6	Let's face an uncomfortable fact. Women will not fulfill us or fix our problems. Great post! I learned that accepting myself would lead to satisfaction the hard way. A wise friend of mine helped me realize this; without him I'd still be pursuing girls like a needy madman. u/zach84 is right that you'll be more attractive to women if you accept yourself. I had very little success with women before I learned to love myself and become outcome independent. This will make your entire life better. Once again, great post.	/r/seduction	16/05/16 10:10 PM
2	Good answers when being hit with "I have a boyfriend"? Whether she has a boyfriend or not, it usually means that she is not interested. Sure, there are some exceptions, some girls want to cheat on their boyfriends or use it as a test. If she's really interesting/hot, I would try to seduce her one more time. If she doesn't reciprocate, move on. As far as comebacks go, I heard a joke once... Guy: What's your number? Girl: I have a boyfriend. Guy: I have a math test. Girl: What? Guy: Aren't we talking about things we cheat on?	/r/seduction	13/05/16 05:47 PM
1	She calls me "dear" and "cutie" what should I call her? If they have a longer name, I'll shorten it and add an "ee" sound at the end. Ashley ---> Ashee Samantha ---> Sammy/Sammie If they have a short name with an "ee" ending already, I'll emphasize the ending. Molly and Sally are names you can do this with. It's a shot in the dark but many English girl names end with an "ee" sound. I feel like it's a feminine sound in our language.	/r/seduction	20/01/16 03:54 PM
5	High school vs college parties What you imagined only happens in movies. It's a fantasy created by Hollywood. Though if you go to a college/university that has a reputation for partying, it will be like a toned down version of what you have described. My school is pretty small and our parties are pretty laidback, but my friends and I have visited a party school and had some fun there. Don't expect getting laid to be easy, even at a party school, unless you're a confident fellow who has game. Of course, you can become a fellow…	/r/seduction	09/01/16 12:09 AM
1	The 10 Biggest Myths About Attracting Women Some of the less experienced guys don't understand the PUA lingo. Good find!	/r/seduction	08/01/16 06:42 PM
1	Let's talk kino Nice work! A great kino cheat sheet.	/r/seduction	08/01/16 01:06 PM
4	Virgin about to get laid tomorrow. Need help. This kind of question belongs on r/askseddit and there isn't a quick fix for all of your problems. Reading about something and actually doing it are very different; so reading on the internet will not make up for your lack of experience. I'll still give you some tips though :) Don't be embarrassed by your lack of experience! This may not come easy, but a lack of confidence is VERY unattractive. If you keep your head up, she'll be more likely to teach you what to do as opposed to leaving without …	/r/seduction	08/01/16 01:00 PM
1	Gonna be meeting up with a girl tonight, need help You're welcome! I'm glad you took my advice well. Also, you should visit this subreddit often, read the sidebar, and learn what seduction is all about. It's a long journey of improvement that never really stops. It's worth it though :)	/r/seduction	07/01/16 04:03 AM
1	So I got the girl's num, but have no idea what to say. Help a clueless soul with some advice r/askseddit may have been a better sub, but I'm still going to give you some advice. Before you do anything else, were you hitting on her at all during the conversation? Did she appear to be interested in you? If you just talked to her like you would with a friend, she probably sees you as a friend right now. If you want to try to seduce her, then you need to start flirting with her the next time you're together or you'll definitely be just friends. Message her sooner rather than later. You don'…	/r/seduction	07/01/16 03:56 AM
2	Gonna be meeting up with a girl tonight, need help You're not going to have sex with this girl, unless you've put in a lot of work improving yourself these past three years and have failed to mention it. There is no magic "quick fix" that allows you to seduce women. To attract women, you must spend time investing in yourself and learning how to attract women by going out and trying it. Even if you knew everything there was to know about the physical part of seduction, if you aren't confident then your knowledge is worthless. Anyways, here are so…	/r/seduction	07/01/16 03:25 AM
3	What do people who are less than 18 years old do outside? Here is a website I found that has great advice on improving your social life http://www.succeedsocially.com/ I'm assuming you're in high school. High schools, even small ones, have sports teams and clubs. Join a sport/club that you haven't been part of before. Talk to people in class, especially during study halls. I made a lot of friends just by talking to people in class. If you can get a job, you can befriend your coworkers. Then, if you have facebook/twitter/instagram/whatever, follow some …	/r/seduction	07/01/16 03:05 AM
3	Is sharing past traumas and insecurities with a girl good idea? http://markmanson.net/vulnerability If you have overcome your trauma, dealt with the problems it caused, and share a story about it, you are being vulnerable. If you are still overcoming the trauma, are currently dealing with the problems it has caused, and share a story about it, you are being needy. If you are overcoming trauma, you need to talk to someone about it. Discuss it with a family member, a close friend, find a therapist, etc. Venting can help you deal with the pain. Be sure to liste…	/r/seduction	06/01/16 08:20 PM
2	Im confused about seductive coquette Being dishonest is not a good way to attract women. Playing games like that will either attract no women (if you can't pull it off) or women who play games (if you can pull it off). Of course, you need to do certain things like kino and making eye contact, but being confident will lead you to being more successful with women than playing games will.	/r/seduction	05/01/16 04:56 PM
1	What should I do when I am on depressive mode due to my incapability of getting a white girl like other Asian guys? Dr. Nerdlove wrote an article about dating as a short guy. I'm not short (5'11") but it seems like solid advice to me. http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2015/03/5-dating-tips-for-short-men/ u/Mr_November11 gave you some solid advice. Definitely read Models, it explains how women are attracted to behavior more than looks & how by exercising and dressing nicely you can give yourself an edge in the looks department. Mark Manson (the author) also explains how race can affect who finds you attractive. Ba…	/r/seduction	01/01/16 08:01 PM
2	Approached for the first time ever Great job man! Just keep moving forward, one step at a time! & If anxiety is a problem, try meditating. Find a quiet place, sit down, relax, and focus on being calm for ~5-15 minutes everyday. You'll find it easier to be calm when you're stressing out, since you've practiced becoming calm.	/r/seduction	01/01/16 07:35 PM
7	I'M NOT WHERE I WANT TO BE IN LIFE At this point, posting on reddit won't solve your problems. Seek professional help. See a therapist a few times. If you like the therapist, stick with them until you're better; if not, find a new one. If you're willing to change, a therapist can help you live the life you want to live.	/r/seduction	01/01/16 07:28 PM
3	[UPDATE] My roommate is having a dress up lingerie party. Hey man, I just wanted to say that I thought you handled everything well and I don't understand why you're being downvoted for not trying to fuck every girl you were alone with. Not fucking your roommate is common sense & not every girl is willing to fuck people they don't know well (like Iris). Being calm and composed around a bunch of half naked girls is much more impressive than trying to fuck as many of them as you could or being a creep. Some of these guys are telling you WHAT to do, not HO…	/r/seduction	31/12/15 08:29 PM
2	Seddit Translation? r/highseddit is a high school version of Seddit. Perhaps this is what you are looking for?	/r/seduction	31/12/15 08:08 PM
2	New Years Eve - First year of approaches Remember that you can still succeed even if you get rejected on every approach. If you're getting better at approaching and having a conversation, then you're succeeding at improving yourself.	/r/seduction	31/12/15 07:57 PM
81	Six Harsh Truths Which Will Make You A Better Person http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/ This is where the article was originally published. The original article has subtitled pictures that act as jokes/clarifiers for some of Wong's points. Anyways, I love this! Wong understands the world. It doesn't matter how kind, polite, and nice you are if you have nothing to offer the world. Investing in yourself and making yourself useful are necessary if you want to be respected by others. To turn yourself into the …	/r/seduction	24/12/15 09:26 PM
2	Why am I still a virgin at 22? ^ This. For millions of years, people didn't have material wealth. Women choose men who were the most confident and socially dominant. They reasoned that these men would be more likely to protect them and would most likely be better fathers to their children than cowardly/timid/conforming men. You seem to be very frustrated. Do you love yourself? If you don't love yourself, no one else will. Just because you are a virgin now doesn't mean you'll be a virgin forever. There is a lot more to life th…	/r/seduction	18/11/15 09:22 PM