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Oh, so you wanna be an entertainer to attract? What's the logic behind as to why it attracts?
/r/seduction11/07/25 09:46 PM
1

That's pretty high for someone who thinks they're in the "dumps" and can't get anywhere in life don't you think?
/r/seduction11/07/25 08:03 PM
1

From a scale 1 to 10, how good?
/r/seduction11/07/25 08:02 PM
0

Okay, you're feeling like you're in the "dumps." But that's not how you feel about yourself. How do you feel about yourself, AS TO WHO YOU ARE?
/r/seduction11/07/25 08:00 PM
2

I understand that you feel great (which changes on the daily basis) and that's nice that you gave me some facts. But I am asking you, how do you FEEL about YOURSELF?
/r/seduction11/07/25 07:48 PM
5

People with high self-esteem don't have the time of day to be negative, especially to take a timeout to tell someone they're ****.
/r/seduction11/07/25 07:46 PM
2

It just means that she has very low self-esteem. How a woman looks doesn't necessarily tell a person how she actually values/feels about herself.
/r/seduction11/07/25 07:37 PM
7

Look at the bright side. You've earned yourself a potential "wing woman."
/r/seduction11/07/25 07:21 PM
2

I keep building women up in my head and envisioning a future with them... I'll assess the reason why you feel this way by asking you a question. How do you FEEL about yourself?
/r/seduction11/07/25 07:19 PM
1

Sure, bud. Who can't use another entertainer who likes to play with cards n' magic tricks.
/r/seduction11/07/25 05:50 PM
11

Stop using "performance" as a crutch to remove your anxiety. Live in the moment.
/r/seduction11/07/25 05:28 PM
1

Bruh, you know how old that "theory" is? Do you really want to become an "entertainer"? Build your own brand instead of following through steps that worked for others some 20 years ago.
/r/seduction11/07/25 05:19 PM
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something like flicking cards,magic tricks and stuff like that, Where/who did you get this idea from?
/r/seduction11/07/25 04:47 PM
47

Get rid of your "outcome" based thinking. It'll just encourage you to behave needily. In other words, be in the moment and stop worrying about the future.
/r/seduction11/07/25 04:45 PM
18

I really tire of these unsolicited advices that randomly appear from people who have no credentials that barge in here like they're some guru of dating while stating the obvious.
/r/seduction11/07/25 12:25 AM
78

Ask yourself if you come across as needy. It's very energy draining and makes people flee from you.
/r/seduction10/07/25 09:08 PM
2

You fear rejection and simply need to desensitize by constant exposure and experience.
/r/seduction10/07/25 06:48 PM
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It's not about memorizing lines. It's about having the right attitude and how you feel (your vibe is more important than what you say because it shows your inner psychology). You'll have to find what your brand is. My brand is that I believe in spontaneity because I rely on how I feel and not on canned lines.
/r/seduction09/07/25 11:24 PM
2

You don't see yourself as a catch is the problem.
/r/seduction09/07/25 11:10 PM
1

You destroy your lack in faith in yourself by loving yourself unconditionally.
/r/seduction09/07/25 11:08 PM
3

Be truthful, how do you feel when someone ask if you're single? For many people it's an uncomfortable question because if you are single people may question what your value is and if are you single for a good or bad reason. In short, it's a question that can make many people feel insecure about themselves.
/r/seduction09/07/25 10:50 PM
3

I promised a message that would help your ability to attract. Do not try impress (validation seeking). You are the one that is doing the screening. Thus, you must believe thay you are the prize. If you put them on the pedastal (the prize), you lower your value and have become a validation seeker.
/r/seduction09/07/25 10:39 PM
1

That's good man. The most important part of dating is to feel good about yourself. And when you work at that by improving yourself on a daily basis (losing weight; working on the depression) you won't feel any pressure to behave in such ways as to what others think is attractive. Because YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE ATTRACTIVE. Don't just think it. Believe it.
/r/seduction09/07/25 05:45 PM
1

That's good to hear. And how do you FEEL about yourself? I'm alright is not a feeling.
/r/seduction09/07/25 05:39 PM
0

For the life of I can’t figure out how to keep somebodies interest before the first date. Before I try to help you, let me learn a bit more about you by asking you how do you FEEL about yourself?
/r/seduction09/07/25 05:21 PM
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If you feel insecure to be in your own skin, you're advertising to everyone in the world that you're not a worthy person. Solution: start to believe in yourself UNCONDITIONALLY.
/r/seduction09/07/25 04:52 PM
-4

The word "okay" is not not okay in my book. Please try again. Be truthful to yourself and me and tell me how you feel about yourself. Also, words such as "meh" doesn't fly with me.
/r/seduction09/07/25 03:25 PM
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You're not sharing with me on how you FEEL about yourself. You're giving me facts about events, i.e. stats. Try again.
/r/seduction09/07/25 01:03 PM
0

Before I share my opinion on what I think is more effective, let me learn something about you. How do you feel about yourself?
/r/seduction09/07/25 05:20 AM
3

Seems they do the entire profile for maximum appeal. You'll have to do the research. Make sure you hire a reputable professional.
/r/seduction09/07/25 03:49 AM
1

In what context does this take place?
/r/seduction09/07/25 03:32 AM
9

If you feel insecure about your photos, hire a professional. My brief search on it indicates that it is promising.
/r/seduction09/07/25 03:22 AM
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If you feel needy for affection, the best you might attract is other needy people. In order to attract, stop chasing and work on being the best you. In other words, you have the wrong mentality if you're the one trying to win the prize. Rather, it is you who is the prize.
/r/seduction08/07/25 02:38 AM
1

Manipulation is where one person loses while another person gains. Thus, sexual activity is not manipulation because both people equally gain (validation, affection, orgasm, etc.).
/r/seduction07/07/25 04:48 PM
6

To love oneself means to take action which means self-improvement/self-care. In other words, if I do absolutely nothing for myself, am I loving myself? It's evident that I do not.
/r/seduction07/07/25 04:39 PM
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Any further opinions on this would be great, because all this dating advice is hurting my head. A lot of men's problem with women stems purely from having a low self-esteem. Attracting woman isn't about playing games and/or manipulating women to make them believe that you're more valuable than you are. It's all about loving yourself and accepting yourself unconditionally which results in having real confidence.
/r/seduction07/07/25 03:58 PM
2

When you initiate the date, the ball is in your court and you can do whatever you think is fun.
/r/seduction07/07/25 05:33 AM
1

find compatibility points...date beyond looks. It's easy to talk the talk rather than to walk the talk.
/r/seduction06/07/25 09:39 PM
27

This is so cringe with logic thrown out the window.
/r/seduction06/07/25 07:05 PM
45

If you treat a person like a friend, they'll in return treat you like a friend. However, if you treat them like a potential lover, they may also in return treat you like a lover. In other words, communicate with intent.
/r/seduction06/07/25 01:45 PM
2

Unfortunately, it's all about physical attraction than what was uttered from the mouth of my crush. I'm a sucka for people who look my type.
/r/seduction06/07/25 11:29 AM
4

When in doubt trust your instincts.
/r/seduction06/07/25 02:12 AM
5

You won't go far if you can't believe in yourself.
/r/seduction04/07/25 10:35 PM
7

Stop doubting and just enjoy the moment.
/r/seduction04/07/25 12:23 AM
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I'm baffled as to whether she likes me or not. You always assume that the person likes you unless proven otherwise because having doubt and insecurity is not attractive.
/r/seduction04/07/25 12:17 AM
1

When someone wants their space, it typically means that you're being too aggressive and needy in the relationship. And it doesn't necessarily mean for you to move on UNLESS you made her feel extremely suffocated with attention seeking.
/r/seduction03/07/25 10:06 PM
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Example of "subtle shit test." She: "Your beard makes me itch." You: [Shaves entire beard off in the morning.] Result: Failed shit test for being a people pleaser. You failed because you disrespected yourself and your own value, i.e., beard makes me look cool, manly and keeps me warm during winters. Example of "shit test." She: "You're not funny." You: [You shit in your pants and become defensive] Result: You failed the shit test for being insecure.
/r/seduction03/07/25 09:38 PM
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"Shit test" mostly only happens when they are attracted to you. It's a test of your level of confidence or lack thereof and if you are a person who stand up for yourself or a "people pleaser."
/r/seduction03/07/25 09:00 PM
2

There are too many variables with the "ifs" and "whys." Maybe you just need a coach and/or friend to sort this out if you aren't able to solve this on your own.
/r/seduction03/07/25 07:21 PM
4

It could also be that you haven't built enough attraction as well. But only you would know.
/r/seduction03/07/25 07:03 PM
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I always get the excuse "I am here with my friends and I can't leave them". People can only surmise here. Perhaps you come across as very needy when you suggest women to go to your place. Suggestion: give specific examples as to how you try to get women over to your place.
/r/seduction03/07/25 06:44 PM
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Any advice on how to engage, keep them enticed and flirt without coming off too sweet? There's a nice YouTube video on common mistakes older men do when trying to attract younger women.
/r/seduction03/07/25 03:33 PM
2

Use Google AI and type, "What's the key difference between confidence and arrogance?"
/r/seduction03/07/25 11:18 AM
1

It's not from an observation. It's clearly self-evident from the fact that confidence is contagious.
/r/seduction02/07/25 08:50 PM
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Let go of fear and anxiety? do you realize you can't just turn it off like its some switch? You might as well say that you can't change. And sure, that's true, FOR YOU.
/r/seduction02/07/25 08:34 PM
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I can't get conversations going... LET GO of fear, anxiety and you will notice that you are able to get a conversation going because you have been doing so your entire life. Anxiety is what holds the dam which prevents the flow of conversation.
/r/seduction02/07/25 07:59 PM
1

True medicine is an exact science. But not everything has to be “exact” to be teachable. Like I said, I never said "performance" is bad, it's not how I roll.
/r/seduction02/07/25 06:55 PM
1

Medicine is an exact science and the art of attraction is not because literally everyone has their own idea and approach to women. NOTE: I never said that "performance is bad," it's just not how I roll.
/r/seduction02/07/25 06:45 PM
1

I am not implying that arrogance is bad with attracting women. Overconfidence or arrogance is also better than meekness. And why is arrogance also appealing to women? It shows the lack of fear. Because what prevents most men from achieving in life? It's often due to fear.
/r/seduction02/07/25 06:07 PM
1

Will you please answer my question? Let me try to help you see attraction from my point of view. If you feel attraction for the woman deep inside your heart n' soul, most likely you will not have a problem coming up with an idea on instinct\\** on how to get someone's attention in an attractive manner. \*monkey sees banana and monkey solves problem how to get banana.* However, if everything in life is just a "performance" you're going to have a harder time because you're acting instead of just b…
/r/seduction02/07/25 05:39 PM
1

I'm the last person on earth to ask because I love being spontaneous and hate having canned lines or behaviors. It's just a difference in personality. Typically, when I see a woman my type, I literally turn into the Hulk full force and feel a surge of energy and excitement that helps me behave spontaneously (I have no fear of being judged for acting "dumb" or "stupid"). Other people, they might like having everything planned out (because it makes them feel more confident and more in control), bu…
/r/seduction02/07/25 05:06 PM
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No. You are a unique and special person and you have your own ways of handling situations. In other words, you are your own brand.
/r/seduction02/07/25 04:48 PM
7

Confidence isn’t about feeling like a 10/10 or thinking you’re better than other guys. This is called arrogance.
/r/seduction02/07/25 04:25 PM
-1

Part of being a seducer is to use one's brain. Seducer have to be smart and think quick on the feet because dating can be unpredictable and one can't simply have a script for every twist and turn; thus, one will need to sharpen their wits instead of spinning the wheel slowly wondering what to say or do next when they are put on the spot (very uncharismatic which shows self-doubt and lack of experience).
/r/seduction02/07/25 04:20 PM
1

There’s this swarm of guys online who parrot the same phrase like it’s gospel: "Just be yourself, bro." Like that’s some kind of cheat code to life. Got anxiety around women? “Just be yourself.” The feelings of anxiety is produced when a person behaves outside of themselves** and also when they are unsure about themselves (having a low self-esteem--not feeling valuable). Thus, how does one remove the feelings of anxiety? Of course, to be oneself, because this is where the familiar is, this is wh…
/r/seduction02/07/25 04:03 PM
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Don't feel that you're responsible for people going overboard. Think about it, men do that all the time. They didn't start calling them "creeps" for nothing.
/r/seduction01/07/25 11:29 PM
13

Isn't creativity the fun part of attracting women? I'm never the one to memorize canned lines but rather to trust in my instincts. Planing and memorizing can make you feel more confident but it also can increase performance anxiety which may result in poor delivery. Also feeling anxiety can suffocate creativity; therefore, you may need to work on your inner confidence in order to naturally create attraction by being spontaneous.
/r/seduction01/07/25 10:47 PM
2

If you want to succeed you'll need to stay confident and positive. You can rely on dating apps to setup dates for the weekend.
/r/seduction01/07/25 12:43 PM
1

You err when you that you are not enough. You err when you think you have to be something that you are not in order to gain affection. You err because you deny and disrespect who you are which then lowers your self-esteem. Instead of lying to yourself that you must be something else to gain affection, find out what your brand is. In other words, you can attract women by being a nerd or whatever the media says that is less than ideal or cool. The point is that authenticty, confidence and knowing …
/r/seduction01/07/25 09:15 AM
1

Flirting is what you you feel and not what you memorize and your anxiety is what kills attraction. Disbelief in yourself is unattractive while having confidence in the mist of uncertainty (being spontaneous) while living in the moment (not being in your head) cultivates attraction.
/r/seduction01/07/25 09:01 AM
1

Time is in your side, so do not rush. A possible mistake you are committing now is that you may be develop feelings to for her too fast. Halt it immediately and create a fun and flirty tone as you feel appropriate instead of cultivating anxiety by placing her on the pedastal.
/r/seduction01/07/25 08:49 AM
1

Bruh, I'm making fun of you because your tip is not a tip but rather serves for self-glorification. It's not bad, but funny that you're oblivious to it.
/r/seduction01/07/25 12:27 AM
6

Sure, but to disguise it as a tip on reddit?
/r/seduction01/07/25 12:05 AM
3

Only you would know where you could have redirected the conversation (specific knowlege). Otherwise, good job in taking responsibility for a less than ideal flirty and fun conversation.
/r/seduction30/06/25 10:46 PM
14

All this just to say, "Look good." This reads more like you just wanna compliment yourself (three paragraphs just about yourself) for feeling good about yourself that night.
/r/seduction30/06/25 10:01 PM
2

2nd date and already, "long term material?"
/r/seduction30/06/25 09:51 PM
5

I also get a surge of energy and confidence when I see a woman my type. So it just depends on the person. You may be shy and reserved (self-consciousness).
/r/seduction30/06/25 09:31 PM
15

Nope, people couldn't care less bruh. Your self-consciousness is all in your head. Just realize this, people for the most part don't care about you. You will do wonders if you know that fact.
/r/seduction30/06/25 09:24 PM
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Naw, I couldn't care less if she's my type. That alone makes it worth it. In matter of fact, I was rewarded for being bold. I asked while everyone was in the hospital waiting room, enthusiastically too. It's only when you doubt yourself that you risk rejection by a million fold. On the other hand, conviction** is contagious, "I know that you're the one for me!" **confidence.
/r/seduction30/06/25 09:21 PM
1

Do you think you can bypass women's standard with game/personality? The old adage says: "Listen not to what one says but rather how they behave." In other words, people often are more influenced by how one makes them feel, so don't be surprised if people often contradict what they say, i.e., "I don't like x." but a week later you're dumbfounded because there they are gobbling that cock throat deep.
/r/seduction30/06/25 08:12 PM
7

Make sure you have lots and lots of money and date a bimbo. She'll be seeing you as a walking ATM machine in no time, day and night.
/r/seduction30/06/25 05:41 PM
0

Re your insecurity, you have to figure it out yourself. You ASSUME that I have insecurities.
/r/seduction30/06/25 03:06 PM
1

Why are you investing more emotionally into this than she is? This is a recipe for disaster. Instead of waiting around, date someone else in the mean time. This person is not your girlfriend.
/r/seduction30/06/25 02:46 PM
1

I’d say you deal with your insecurity issues before you point at me, Freud. Ah, okay. What is my "insecurity"?
/r/seduction30/06/25 02:37 PM
1

It's very clear that you don't value yourself and think you you have to behave something outside of yourself to gain what you want.
/r/seduction30/06/25 02:12 PM
0

It's sarcasm. Point: you are the product and you decide what your product is. The moment you change yourself to become something you are not to gain something from someone is the moment you disrespect yourself and lower your self-esteem (the sense of self-worth).
/r/seduction30/06/25 02:07 PM
-1

This is a very classical: "It's very possible for people to ask questions that are actually seeking approval or validation without being fully aware of it."
/r/seduction30/06/25 02:05 PM
3

I'd say juggling with bowling balls is pretty hard. So, work on yourself first. In other words, before you can run, you first have to learn how to crawl and to walk. In order for you to succeed in socializing, you first have to believe in yourself. That's what socializing is all about, to present yourself as a product to the people. If you don't believe in yourself than no one else would either.
/r/seduction30/06/25 01:54 PM
1

Tell us the story and we'll give the approval, or not.
/r/seduction30/06/25 01:51 PM
2

Would like to know if this is a good thing or a bad thing? For you, I'd say it's a bad thing because you are showing your insecurity and your need for validation to get the APPROVAL to move forward with your idea. Confident people don't give a fuck what others think and they do what feels most comfortable for them.
/r/seduction30/06/25 01:47 PM
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You like Tyson, so let's throw Bruce Lee into the mix: "Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way round or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it c…
/r/seduction30/06/25 01:29 PM
1

Had an argument with a buddy who says cold approach is artificial, desperate, and manufactured. He missed the entire point...day game/night game is just what it is, a game. If you see that that way, you won't ever come across as being "desperate or needy."
/r/seduction30/06/25 01:10 PM
2

...but got exhausted with endless walking. LOL, walking for me is a thrill! About 70 days ago, I went from being out of shape walking at 3.0 mph to a current max of 6.0 mph and I lost 12 pounds. My top walking speed is faster than some people that jog! Hopefully this motivates you that walking has its own benefits in physical and mental health. I wanted to hear your thoughts and experience if you ever did this [day game] before. Bruh, just focus on yourself and don't worry about other people's e…
/r/seduction29/06/25 05:39 PM
1

What I am saying is that, it's you who is responsible for your own happiness and that no person can ever fill in that role. ...it’s hard to feel that way Start working on your self-esteem. Learn what it takes to increase it. Look up core values and goals to increase your low self-esteem.
/r/seduction29/06/25 02:30 AM
18

How to stop seeing girls as the be all and end above everything else? By knowing that you are sufficient. You currently feel insecure about yourself and think that there is a someone that will make you feel valuable. But that's far from the truth because you are complete. You have bought into the idea that you aren't and must now realize that... "I am enough." Once you believe that, you will be free to be yourself and free from caring what others think about you because you know that you are awe…
/r/seduction29/06/25 02:22 AM
-2

You don't. Why risk your reputation at work when the whole entire world is your playground and with little risk to your reputation? Advice: take off that scarcity mindset.
/r/seduction29/06/25 02:02 AM
15

Do you enjoy hard targets? You do? Start playing. You can simply play on the fact that she showed interest to engage (date) and is playing hard to get (because she's a high value woman). ...till you get a clear signal? No man of high value waits for a signal. He makes the signal happen through attraction.
/r/seduction29/06/25 12:43 AM
2

Yeah, free food isn't all that appealing. "Yes, I'd like a steak medium rare, fries, and 5 lbs. of popcorn shrimp please."
/r/seduction28/06/25 12:27 AM
1

Not related, I suggest that use the pronoun "I" when speaking about yourself. A lot of times people say "you" try to distance themselves from the topic. In this case, you may be subconsciously wishing you weren't so tired after work and it helps to "own it."
/r/seduction27/06/25 06:18 PM
2

You're expected to take the lead; you after all initiated the contact.
/r/seduction27/06/25 05:56 PM
17

Anxiety may be the barrier that is blocking your flow.
/r/seduction27/06/25 05:54 PM
3

Work with people who don't confuse you.
/r/seduction27/06/25 05:52 PM
1

If you're an introvert, socializing will make you tired over time. Your problem could simply be solved by being intune with how you feel and take breaks accordingly.
/r/seduction27/06/25 05:47 PM
16

You: "Sup babe? Nice ass!" ** YouTube, "No more slap ass." -Key & Peele
/r/seduction27/06/25 01:39 AM
2

She shit on my face, and I gobbled that shit up with authority. As a result, she passed me with flying colors.
/r/seduction27/06/25 01:33 AM
1

...this is far from the first weird behavior she's shown... You can say enough with these games and move on. That's an option. Maybe you are after all dealing with "crazy." I've just brushed it off. I hoped you did it in such a way that increased your value. You didn't even remember what you said to her in this post: I joked with it and said something along of like what she meant, weird thing this time. Not bustin' your balls here bruh, but here, it show me your state of mind because it makes no…
/r/seduction26/06/25 10:53 PM
2

This "on and off or hot n' cold behavior" could be a test of your insecurities/confidence. Just relax and think about it before you let your emotions rule your world.
/r/seduction26/06/25 10:15 PM
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It's a test of your confidence and wits, and "you cracked." You only feel disrespected when you take offense. You should look up on how to disarm comments that on the surface appears to be "dissin'" you. Overall, stay positive and don't think the world is out to get you and you'll always have the right things to say and it shows your "frame" that you are CONFIDENT and can't be moved by any shit thrown your way. Furthermore, not only did "you crack" you became "needy" afterwards after facing reje…
/r/seduction26/06/25 10:03 PM
18

...or your brain in the middle. Scarecrow, "But I don't have a brain!"
/r/seduction26/06/25 06:38 PM
1

Yes Daniel-san, now you go catch fly... hot women.
/r/seduction26/06/25 05:50 PM
1

You just don't believe in yourself, that's all. Solution: start believing in yourself. Advice: have a confident body posture and speak from the bottom of your lungs, loudly and clearly with intension that implies, "I like what I see" in your very own way. Its extremely difficult to behave confidently when you have a meek and insecure posture.
/r/seduction26/06/25 05:38 PM
10

Good work, Padawan. Otherwise, have more faith in yourself and be your own coach because real validation/encouragement comes from within you.
/r/seduction26/06/25 05:36 PM
2

"so even she say no to me the first time, I should still act directly..." If she said she's not interested, that's what it means. You move on. Go hit on other "hot" women.
/r/seduction26/06/25 04:22 PM
1

Make your INTENSIONS clear; otherwise, your behavioral traits is asking for permission to hit on her and that is having a subservient mindset.
/r/seduction26/06/25 04:17 PM
14

A scarcity mindset just means you place too much value into a person when in reality there are numerous of them. In other words, you feel that they are so "special" and "unique" and as a result you place them on the pedestal. A way to reframe the scarcity mindset is to know that you can "fuck up" a thousand times (exaggeration) and it wouldn't faze you or fucking matter to you. Failure is merely a learning process to improve yourself.
/r/seduction26/06/25 03:57 PM
1

Think of it this way. If you can't stand up to a woman and be a go getter, what does that say about your mentality, level of confidence and courage? And what could this could mean about your day to day life? It could imply that's it's very boring because all you do is fantasize about what could be instead of taking action to make it happen.
/r/seduction26/06/25 03:55 PM
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So I am a decently attractive guy, and get told quite often that I am good with words (by romantic interests, colleagues, friends etc) Good looks only win you a few minutes of fame because it doesn't show that you have an inner game, AKA, confidence and a strong "frame." Does that mean I am a decent 8/9? Fix your attitude. You're seeking validation here due to your feelings of insecurity. Advice: you validate yourself. If I am an 8/9 looks wise, why is it not easy for me to pull an 8/9 or even a…
/r/seduction26/06/25 03:48 PM
3

I said hey sorry to bother you and I just think you are beautiful so I want to talk to you and know you as a friend. Never say, "I'm sorry to bother you." You inadvertently place her on the pedestal and place the ball into her court to give you the permission to speak to her. When you speak, speak with confidence and with conviction and not with a subservient attitude. Advice: make confident statements instead. Some time when she pass by I would look up and try to get some eye contact but she ne…
/r/seduction26/06/25 03:22 PM
9

What do you mean by older in terms of the age gap? "...is it daddy issues or wanting a mature man." Are you implying a 20-30 year age gap?
/r/seduction26/06/25 03:15 PM
6

Too many people do put the cart before the horse. It's pretty hard to think logically when people do think with their dicks doesn't it? Sure, this sounds harsh because many men do crave to be validated, especially by a "someone" who they perceive to hold value and the point here is that men who are coming from this angle need to realize what the potential true problem is and it's not a "women problem" or a "I don't know what to say problem during dates," but rather a low self-esteem problem. Fix…
/r/seduction26/06/25 10:31 AM
1

"I'm guessing this is what it feels like to be a woman dealing with a nice guy." LMAO, okay bruh. So she is a "nice guy."
/r/seduction26/06/25 04:22 AM
1

But the interactions are not platonic (kissing, face touching, terms like 'guapito') and my intentions are clear. Then you're not the "nice guy" like you said you were because nice guys are typically afraid to tell others what they want--they tend to hope that the other person would get the idea by implying (being indirect) what they want.
/r/seduction26/06/25 04:13 AM
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I'm guessing this is what it feels like to be a woman dealing with a nice guy. Appears that you didn't make your INTENTIONS clear at the beginning (creating sexual tension, flirting, etc.) and inadvertently turned the interaction platonic... But here is the issue I'm facing - I don't really wanna. Then you have nothing to lose. Say what you wanna say and get laid, or not. In the end, it didn't matter to you anyhow. And why not have sex just for the sake of having sex...it'll give you a boost to …
/r/seduction26/06/25 03:50 AM
14

Guess what she did a couple months later... Bruh, no one said that they're looking for a "relationship," not in the sense that you're thinking.
/r/seduction26/06/25 03:22 AM
1

Sure, the less you care means the less you're likely to be deep into your head, "Should I say...what if...I don't know what to say...does she like me...am I doing well..."
/r/seduction26/06/25 02:52 AM
3

Could be a "shit" test to see if your confidence is shaken by the comment (just to laugh as that dick goes limp from disappointment). "Don't listen to what they say but rather observe how they behave."
/r/seduction26/06/25 02:48 AM
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You don't. You assume she is and if she is not, you assume that she may be shopping for a new BF to ditch her old one (for "incompatibility").
/r/seduction26/06/25 02:46 AM
2

Or wanting to run, but can't yet walk.
/r/seduction25/06/25 09:07 PM
1

Okay, I'll just cut and paste what I wrote up there here. Is that okay with you?
/r/seduction25/06/25 06:14 PM
1

It's evident. Reread the topic and feel free to disprove any point made. Example: you made a point that public speaking doesn't help... Now, continue on to the next point(s).
/r/seduction25/06/25 06:05 PM
1

I think you overlooked a key point in this topic but that's okay. We all want more business don't we?
/r/seduction25/06/25 05:53 PM
2

Thanks. Extra luck can't hurt even if I make my own luck!
/r/seduction25/06/25 05:33 PM
1

I like to learn, for the most part, by self discovery; but thanks.
/r/seduction25/06/25 05:20 PM
1

Thanks, I'm working on it :)
/r/seduction25/06/25 05:17 PM
18

You already know. You still, at least on occasion, have a desperate/scarcity mindset.
/r/seduction25/06/25 04:41 PM
0

Thank you. I am the epitome of learning.
/r/seduction25/06/25 02:15 PM
2

Bruh, sure, money will not make me happy, but I'm gonna hoard as much as I fucking can. And sure, I may not be happy after sleeping with a billion super models; but gee, I'm gonna feel like some entitled super freak out of this world Austin Powers, tongue flickin' and hip pumpin' epitome of a sex god.
/r/seduction25/06/25 01:28 PM
3

You CHOOSE to feel like trash. Look at it from a perspective from where you can learn something from this experience instead.
/r/seduction25/06/25 09:51 AM
8

Don't ever allow those around you to offend you. You have the choice to either to TAKE offense or to not to. Otherwise, holding onto to your resentment will make you very unattractive through your negative vibes (think PTSD behaviors). Suggestion: reframe your thoughts into positivity. Example, "My friend is such a cock blocking dick!" vs. "He's actually showing my weakness, insecurities or vulnerabilities, etc., that needs to be improved upon." In short: confident people are not easily shakened…
/r/seduction25/06/25 09:47 AM
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Sources say that the rate of getting dates (after acquiring the phone number) has a 1.9% success rate. Doesn't matter, it's the journey in between and the risk of failure, which gives a sense of life and death, that makes it fun.
/r/seduction25/06/25 09:24 AM
1

She's playing tit-for-tat. Don't ever play games because they'll eventually see right through your "tactics" over time. So just be yourself; otherwise, you will become incongruent--one moment pretending to be busy with life and then the next moment being needy like there is no tomorrow. It could be gg. Let us know (field report).
/r/seduction25/06/25 02:38 AM
6

You don't understand how confidence is gained. Confidence is gained by being yourself and not giving a fuck what others think. It's when you kiss someone's ass** for gain that you dis yourself and at the same time lose your value (lower your self-esteem). **change yourself to please others, i.e. get tattoos, act/look tough, as you have mentioned.
/r/seduction25/06/25 01:48 AM
2

You choose to feel hurt. Simply reframe after getting rejected. Example, "I got rejected because I'm too short." vs. "Wow, she was really shallow." or "She doesn't know what she's missing!" or "Getting rejected is part of dating and I am proud of myself for having courage to take that risk!"
/r/seduction24/06/25 08:25 PM
3

"When one door closes, another opens." It's all about changing your perspective.
/r/seduction24/06/25 08:17 PM
3

I’m 35 and currently working on myself—mainly inner game and personality change... Interesting. Can you tell me how you are going about with this "personality change"?
/r/seduction24/06/25 07:43 PM
2

You're not happy with yourself. That's all. Not everyone's goal is to have the gift of the gab and that's okay. Advice: stop comparing yourself to others and you'll be more at peace with yourself.
/r/seduction24/06/25 03:05 PM
1

Who said that you have to be monogamous?
/r/seduction24/06/25 02:42 PM
4

You're just over excited. Tame yourself.
/r/seduction24/06/25 12:25 PM
3

How is she "out of your league"?
/r/seduction24/06/25 12:14 PM
2

Why is the night game important to you?
/r/seduction24/06/25 11:46 AM
-8

He's clearly making a "cheat list."
/r/seduction24/06/25 12:35 AM
35

Teasing should be CREATIVE and SPONTANEOUS. Memorizing just leads to uninspired and unoriginal "performance."
/r/seduction24/06/25 12:19 AM
2

You gonna need to learn self-respect. People will see right through your low self-esteem and that's a huge turn off. So instead of trying to lose your virginity, work on your self-esteem; no matter how much you try to act confident (to get laid) people will see that you are not through your incongruent behavior.
/r/seduction23/06/25 06:38 PM
2

Right. Imagine you are a woman and a dude asked you out and behaved like a friend. In other words, action speaks louder than words. Boring platonic conversations and zero sexual tension most likely means you go bye-bye because you don't know how to take the lead.
/r/seduction23/06/25 03:40 PM
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I'd have to agree that a "good conversation is not enough" because it may lead to a platonic relationship. In other words, it's just talk just to talk without INTENTION. Just recall all the beta males who pretend to be a friend in hopes of getting laid down the line. Also TEASING shows alpha male characteristic because it shows the lack of fear of rejection and the willingness to take the lead in where and how the relationship goes, either platonic or sexual.
/r/seduction23/06/25 03:06 PM
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That's the thing with this subreddit; there's not much credibility and it feels like many people are just enthusiastic about sharing their "newfound personal revelation." HOWEVER, I do appreciate reading these anyhow because I can read them and come to my very own conclusion instead of merely starting from scratch.
/r/seduction23/06/25 03:02 PM
1

Fix your low self-esteem. First learn to love yourself then you'll see how that "you are enough."
/r/seduction23/06/25 12:31 AM
1

You never settle (mentally) and you never feel (too) comfortable because people can be romantically unpredictable. In other words, always be prepared for a rainy day and keep options open and your game sharp. You don't wanna be that fat dude that fell asleep and founds himself suddenly back to square one.
/r/seduction22/06/25 12:36 AM
1

Sociopaths are impulsive. The term you're looking for is "psychopath." They are the ones who plan their path of execution...literally.
/r/seduction22/06/25 12:33 AM
1

Bruh, I read, "I'm 38 ft. tall and fit. Like, WTF.
/r/seduction22/06/25 12:28 AM
1

Bragging about how many numbers one has collected means nothing. Giving out one's number could just be a polite way of saying, "Get out of my face." From what I am reading, it appears that everyone is trying to use each other (as wingmen) to gain some confidence. I suggest that you cold approach solo to build your very own self-confidence because wingman should not be a substitution for confidence.
/r/seduction21/06/25 12:24 PM
0

Can you give an example on how you focused on "self entertainment" during a conversation/date in detail? Thank you in advance.
/r/seduction21/06/25 09:57 AM
1

Dude, sup with this lengthy philosophy. It's anti seduction and anti-fun. Like Nike says, "Just Do It."
/r/seduction19/06/25 02:25 PM
2

Not everyone is going to be in the mood.
/r/seduction19/06/25 02:22 PM
2

A lot of European cultures enjoy minding their own business and dislike small talk in public with strangers so it appears that you are doing the best you can to increase your "social circle" and to improve your online dating strategies. "I get matches but barely any real conversations..." You can improve on your conversational skills. You're given the power to take the initiative in a conversation so take responsibility if you are not able to direct the conversation in a direction that will enga…
/r/seduction18/06/25 03:22 PM
1

How do you FEEL when you interact with her?
/r/seduction18/06/25 03:03 PM
1

How so?
/r/seduction18/06/25 02:55 PM
2

That's what your mentality should be. Don't act as though all you do is think about her and don't have a life. And don't just pretend that you have moved on with your life. Do it.
/r/seduction18/06/25 02:50 PM
1

You felt defensive and ended up contradicting yourself just to have a say. You can judge as much as you like. I only spoke on my behalf that I myself let the man be at peace with himself. And who knows maybe The World of Warcraft may have some positive message in there. Sometimes you just gotta go find it. This is my last comment.
/r/seduction18/06/25 12:24 PM
1

Why did you contradict yourself? You know it's nothing more than a loud talk fantasy. Advice: have more faith in women. They're not dumb as you believe them to be.
/r/seduction18/06/25 04:30 AM
1

An extremely small percent of men are able to pull off the "The Dream." As said, no reason to spoil someone's sense of the self and his dream that most likely will remain a dream. If it's anyone who is naive about "relationships," it's men. So who is the real fool.
/r/seduction18/06/25 03:45 AM
1

Have you tried spirituality?
/r/seduction18/06/25 02:22 AM
1

Perhaps, but I don't want to stir up someone's self-esteem and besides its not my business what their love life is like. I'll rather consider their positive traits that they aspire to become good with women and what better is it than for them to help others who struggle to reach the same goal even if only from the mental aspect. Success is often conceptualized in the mind before it materializes.
/r/seduction18/06/25 12:37 AM
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Flirting is a state of mind. It's what you feel inside. It's not about memorization but rather about creativity that you can trust in your instincts. This may not apply to you but I feel a surge of energy whenever I see an attractive woman and that in itself gives me confidence to approach and to have fun. In other words, be attractive and don't act attractive because man to women interactions don't have to be a rehearsal with the right mindset. It will naturally come flowing out of you.
/r/seduction17/06/25 10:50 PM
5

This reads like paranoia, like one day you're gonna get your head chewed off, nature's way.
/r/seduction17/06/25 10:00 PM
1

Carry yourself confidently and be happy. Don't ever look disappointed or somber because of the situation anywhere. In other words, go live your life and do the things that makes you happy.
/r/seduction17/06/25 03:39 PM
1

It's not a game to be played. It's about having patience. It's about gauging the other person's interest in you. And its about giving and taking equally. When you invest into the relationship more than the person has interest for you, it can become repulsive because you have reduced yourself from being a potential lover into a servant--a person who is clingy and needy for attention. In other words, don't dive into waters whose depth that you don't understand but tread carefully by curbing your w…
/r/seduction17/06/25 02:39 PM
4

Just positive bias. It'll fade in the background as you continue this daily trend. Women aren't shallow as men are in that they can instantly rate women in less than a second from a scale from 1-10. What turns them on is knowing what the content is. Also, good looking will only buy you a few minutes of attention. They can scan your level of confidence in no time (high value women who frequently get hit on).
/r/seduction17/06/25 02:38 AM
6

Just be yourself. "Fuck" the games and pretending to be busy. They will read through those mind games because it will become evident over time. In other words, just live your life.
/r/seduction16/06/25 10:54 PM
7

By the looks of this post, you're too emotionally invested. In my rulebook, this is anti-seduction because of your level of neediness (you're putting in more effort into the relationship than the other person has). Thus, you have shown that you are in a scarcity mindset and that you don't understand how to keep the relationship balanced. Suggestion: be more selective who you mingle with romantically. I most likely will not date women with children (a burden that I will not take) and a woman from…
/r/seduction16/06/25 04:15 PM
1

Don't ever plead anyone to pity you or to give you affection. "What could I possibly give her" gives that implication. Begin to actively work on your low-self esteem by believing and stating frequently to yourself daily, "I am enough." Have better faith in people that they aren't shallow as you believe them to be because what you have is YOU** to give. **There is no one in the world like you so stop comparing yourself to others because you're also implying that you're less than other people by s…
/r/seduction16/06/25 01:06 PM
1

Austin Powers. 'nuff said.
/r/seduction15/06/25 07:20 PM
1

In this case, you're just lost in your head and it's misleading your perception of reality. Regardless of the case, you care too much about what others think.
/r/seduction15/06/25 06:56 PM
1

Your logic is not making any sense to me. What do you mean by "finding your authenticity?" The opposite of authenticity are false, fake, phoney, etc. Give me an exact example to exemplify your concept.
/r/seduction15/06/25 06:44 PM
4

The message here isn't about "authenticity." It's about self-acceptance and self-love. If a person cannot learn to accept themselves, then no one else will. And without self-acceptance and self-love, there is no confidence but fear and doubt. And confidence isn't about knowing but about taking action despite of uncertainty. In other words, a person who acts based on knowing the outcome is not acting based on confidence. To summarize, to believe in oneself is to break away from the fear of failur…
/r/seduction15/06/25 06:19 PM
7

Learn to love and to accept oneself is key to success in all endeavors, which cast light on all shadows of doubt and disbelief in oneself. With self-love and self-acceptance comes confidence. And confidence is not about knowing the outcome or answers but the conviction that one will succeed in the face of uncertainty.
/r/seduction15/06/25 02:31 PM
1

"Handsome" means nothing if one doesn't have balls. In matter of fact, its better to be below average with a pair of balls than to be "handsome" but effeminate. I suggest that you do cold approaches in the open and build confidence with a simple greet, then advance to greet and compliment, then to greet, compliment, introduce yourself, and pick a topic based on current events or surroundings. Once you can string these together with ease, you can advance to bars, but for now, you're stuck in your…
/r/seduction15/06/25 10:53 AM
1

Why not play into your strengths and hit on girls you find hot IRL then? Don't have time? Hot girls are everywhere and you're probably descent at speed dating.
/r/seduction14/06/25 10:35 PM
1

Just grab her by the hand and "be hot". Aye! Aye!
/r/seduction14/06/25 10:16 PM
1

"That's what they all believe, but me? I'd prefer to be myself and leave Marlon Brando* to his grave." In other words, I am claiming that the statement that all women love bad boys is a myth. Her friends stating that she likes bad boys is not a fact but rather a perception. She could have also rephrased the statement as, "I like bad boys'" which then would be a fact. *This reference states that unlike others, I will not undermine who I am just to fit in, to get laid, to seek validation, etc.
/r/seduction14/06/25 09:19 PM
22

No, but whenever I have that problem when I can't look at a pretty girl in the eyes, I just envision that she's your mom.
/r/seduction14/06/25 09:00 PM
1

Then you are doing things in the wrong order. First learn to love and to accept yourself before anything else. You can't market yourself if you don't even believe in yourself because people will judge you by the value that you see in yourself.
/r/seduction14/06/25 08:41 PM
14

Try to envision them as your sisters. "Long lost sisters."
/r/seduction14/06/25 08:34 PM
4

Be attractive and don't "act" attractive and everything will fall into place. In other words, confidence is key and self-doubt** is anti-seductive. **Indecisiveness: "What should I do?! What do I do next?!"
/r/seduction14/06/25 04:37 PM
1

Don't beat yourself up. Learn and move on. Lesson: know your frame so if someone challenges it you'll know how to respond in a confident and non defensive manner. If you pass a shit test it'll only increase your value and her attraction to you.
/r/seduction14/06/25 04:24 PM
2

Not a good idea to flee away from people who test your "frame" to see if you're the real deal. You can end up fleeing for the rest of your life.
/r/seduction14/06/25 04:20 PM
1

Take too much time to come with a witty response also shows lack of confidence.
/r/seduction14/06/25 04:17 PM
1

Just "my interpretation." You had to say something witty. Staying silent could imply to her that you are uncertain about your identity (lack of confidence).
/r/seduction14/06/25 04:10 PM
7

No, you displayed a lack of confidence by staying silent* to that comment. *Self-doubt in action.
/r/seduction14/06/25 04:07 PM
3

Depends on the tone of voice. Could be a shit test to get you to lose your confidence so that you start to feel the need "prove" yourself (a huge mistake). So you being silent to that comment showed that you lacked confidence.
/r/seduction14/06/25 04:00 PM
16

How should have you responded since she's implied that you're not a bad boy?
/r/seduction14/06/25 03:55 PM
5

Your insecurities and neediness are the problem and they will follow you all the days of your life until you realize that no person or object will "complete" you. Work on your values and goals to build your self-esteem and you will begin to stop chasing people's approval. In other words, do not chase but rather improve your self-worth in order to attract others to you.
/r/seduction14/06/25 12:53 PM
1

I feel a large surge of energy and courage when I see an attractive woman.** My advice to you is to quit "performing" and to trust in your instincts. Too much reading on the "how to guide" is giving you performance anxiety and a "limp dick" as a result of that. In other words, I trust that my pair off balls will carry me through uncertainty. **Your testosterone level could be an issue due to stress...overthinking, worrying, etc.
/r/seduction14/06/25 07:28 AM
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You mostly lack experience, so don't be hard on yourself because self-deprecation works against your self-esteem. Just realize what needs to change and move on.
/r/seduction14/06/25 03:03 AM
0

You paint/limit your own world but literally any public setting can be a social setting.
/r/seduction13/06/25 08:29 PM
4

If there's anything that you should become aware of from this exchange, it's the term "RELATIONSHIP INSECURITY." It occurs when one feels insecure about the fidelity in a relationship, especially when there is NO EVIDENCE of infidelity.
/r/seduction13/06/25 05:36 AM
4

You're lying to yourself that you've loved "too deeply." Over-giving/loving is a sign of neediness because it's given with a CONDITION, like a transaction in hopes for validation, faithfulness, and affection. Use this experience to strengthen yourself and realize that it's you (confident and not over eager to please which creates an inbalance in the relationship) just being you that's attractive and not the "ANXIETY ATTACHMENT**" style that is repulsive to others. **As a result that stems from y…
/r/seduction13/06/25 05:12 AM
7

You've been reading too much on "how to guides" and clearly have little to no experience with relationships. Reading too much of the "how to guides" have made you into thinking women are some wild beasts that need to be controlled on a very short leash.
/r/seduction13/06/25 04:39 AM
6

Your insecurity is clear as daylight. What evidence do you have that anyone would not remain faithful to you?
/r/seduction13/06/25 04:24 AM
10

Insecurity leads to self-doubt** which this entire post of yours is about. ** In other words, you've implied, "Am I adequate and/or competent enough?"
/r/seduction13/06/25 04:16 AM
35

Work on your insecurities. What you are implying here is that you're not good enough.
/r/seduction13/06/25 03:55 AM
6

"The Boy Who Cried Wolf!"
/r/seduction12/06/25 09:43 PM
2

Your insecurities are causing you to overthink because of your fear of rejection. Have some confidence in yourself and trust in your instincts; otherwise, the world will just pass you by as you think. My opinion: I wouldn't date this person because it would be really awkward if you do get rejected or it doesn't work out. And 23 is a bit immature and inexperienced for your age. I would build on the friendship--which would be more valuable because you've stated that the relationship wouldn't be lo…
/r/seduction12/06/25 03:06 AM
3

Face it, you're going to get rejected. So just enjoy the ride (which is just as fun as reaching the finish line) and consider every interaction as an investments with no ties to any outcome but to a better you. "When one door closes, another opens." The reason why people advise you to be yourself is because it requires nothing to study or to memorize AND a confident self has no fear in being oneself and that's a reflection of non-neediness.
/r/seduction11/06/25 09:37 PM
30

She replies, in a flat tone and neutral expression: “Why do you care?” What's my response? Get out of there as quickly as possible. There are many fishes in the sea and there is no reason to SWIM AGAINST THE WAVES. Additional reason: the person does not understand how to "control their emotions" in social settings.
/r/seduction11/06/25 05:48 PM
2

Short: people who know how to authentically* make others feel good have high value in society despite being weak in other areas of their life. *Non-flatter.
/r/seduction11/06/25 09:26 AM
1

Good looking doesn't mean all that much. A common mistake is to think women are attracted to men the same way that men are attracted to women. Women in the vast majority of cases are attracted to character and particularly social status. And confidence will not entirely compensate for the lack of social status** **Long term relationship.
/r/seduction11/06/25 09:21 AM
2

"Boring motherfucker," is a term when one is extremely disappointed and it is not humorous language/tone or witty. It's also a language that exhibits extreme disrespect. You will not change or improve yourself if you make excuses for your behavior by stating, "I wasn't serious."
/r/seduction11/06/25 09:07 AM
43

Last thing to do is to listen to a woman who thinks she can generalize women in several paragraphs. "Don't listen to what people say because it's best to observe what they do instead." Fact is: some women love men that are direct and some don't.
/r/seduction11/06/25 12:48 AM
3

You can start by not caring and view every interaction as a path towards self improvement. In other words, it is about your investment into yourself and getting "laid" is only the result of that investment. This entire post shows your obessession with an outcome which exhibits neediness. In contrast, I enjoy to live in the moment while communicating with direct intent so that there is no confusion as to why I have initiated the conversation (use your brain/there is no special lines to memorize).
/r/seduction10/06/25 01:56 PM
0

Whenever a woman ask you to do a favor, say something witty that shows confidence. Don't try to memorize lines. You'd just come across as ungenuwine and needy (trying to impress with false wit).
/r/seduction10/06/25 12:30 PM
0

There is much more to lose than there is to gain and at this point you are very much in your very own head. Advice: "Don't piss in the well that you drink from."
/r/seduction09/06/25 02:41 PM
1

To get good at something, you just do it and the more you do it, the better you get at it. Get rid of the idea of perfection and actively discover what works for you. If you pretend to be something that you are not, they will see right through you by your incongruent behavior. In others words, what works for others does not mean it will work for you.
/r/seduction09/06/25 12:09 PM
45

Short: Love yourself because if you can't no one else will apart from your mom and dad. People evaluate your value by how you perceive yourself. If you don't believe in yourself, no one else will but perhaps your parents.
/r/seduction09/06/25 10:42 AM
5

Move on. You don't know how to act on instinct.
/r/seduction09/06/25 01:49 AM
3

You're asking a question that seeks reassurance. Real assurance comes from within you. You are what you think. You think you're old and creepy for expressing your sexuality, then that's what you are.
/r/seduction09/06/25 01:36 AM
9

You think too much as the world passes you by.
/r/seduction09/06/25 01:31 AM
3

I can't tell you if you do not give the specific details. You find the conversations funny, flirty and engaging but clearly they don't because you're back to square one. It's very unlikely that a woman would leave you if you have value in making them feel good. You should out of curiosity ask them why they took the initiative to ask you out. Typically, women do not do that because the initiative is usually given to the man which also allows women to evaluate his level of confidence (easier to we…
/r/seduction08/06/25 02:42 PM
4

Check your testosterone level. When I see what I like, I go for it and let my instincts take over. There is NOTHING to lose but much to GAIN. If your testosterone level is normal, then evaluate your level of self-esteem and go on from that point. My evaluation is that you have low self-esteem. You think too much and mentioned your height (irrelevant). You can use your short stature to your advantage. People may wonder why you have alot of self assurance despite being short. You have a brain, so …
/r/seduction08/06/25 02:11 PM
1

Seduction is really a self improvement guide, especially on one's self-esteem. Many people with low-esteem over compensate their feelings of inadequacy by talking about themselves and their achievements. Better to be the dude who lets his action do the talking because action speaks louder than words. Just a curious thought...I've ran into a few naturals who were very good with women and you would never know it. To them, attracting women is just natural as breathing and because of that they would…
/r/seduction08/06/25 12:03 AM
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This post reads more like a "Hey Mom! Look at what I can do!" rather than seeking for advice.
/r/seduction07/06/25 08:49 PM
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Did you have any nervous energy during tge interaction? Doing so would elevate her value and lower yours which is an instant turnoff for her. Her giving you orders (permission to say hi if you see her) is the result of your behavior that placed her on "the pedestal."
/r/seduction07/06/25 08:22 PM
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Where did all your insecurities come from? I suggest that start to learn some self respect because even if you did find what you're looking for, your insecurity would just ruin it. Love yourself because no one is going to validate you or give you reassurance.
/r/seduction07/06/25 08:12 PM
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Work on your personality (confidence). Any insecurities that you have will work against you in all aspects of life.
/r/seduction07/06/25 03:03 PM
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You can first start out by not criticizing yourself by calling yourself a "boring motherfucker". That is not how you build internal confidence by attacking yourself. You are inexperienced and just have to continue practicing until you free yourself because you're too much IN YOUR OWN HEAD and think that talking requires some magic method--right words or phrases to say. Work on your confidence and stop seeking to please others by being so concerned about what others are thinking of you. Because d…
/r/seduction07/06/25 02:52 PM
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Do you know why you lack confidence?
/r/seduction07/06/25 02:38 PM
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You're a novice, so don't be hard on yourself. Advice: Always envision success so that you are not caught by surprise. Furthermore, assume that they like you unless they make it evident to you that they do not. Confident people validate themselves and do not sit around waiting for external validation.
/r/seduction07/06/25 02:26 PM
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That's good that you're able to regurgitate what you've learned from whomever or wherever. But you're not living in a tribe from a millenia ago are you? Clearly you're not unless you have a time machine. So stop making excuses for why you do feel nervous. It's because you're not being in the moment but strategizing and hoping for a favorable outcome which places pressure on your performance (neediness). Strategizing is a form of neediness. It's saying, "I don't know you (beautiful women) but I h…
/r/seduction06/06/25 03:35 PM
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That's because you're eager for validation (neediness), fearing rejection, and/or are not being in the moment (objective thinking of outcome/being in your own head).
/r/seduction06/06/25 01:07 PM
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Nervousness (a sign of insecuriy) makes many people feel the same and uncomfortable likewise. So focus on having fun and do not think about the outcome. In other words, be in the present and not being inside your head. Sure, she may be taken, but why not take this as an opportunity to practice enticing a woman because she could be breaking up and looking for a new relationship. Additionally, be sure you just didn't bail out from the fear of rejection. Lastly, be your own coach and ask yourself h…
/r/seduction06/06/25 09:46 AM
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Don't mind him.
/r/seduction04/06/25 10:04 PM
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:)
/r/seduction04/06/25 09:58 PM
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You don't attract women by trying to solve their problems. You attract them by creating sexual tension. Here is a real life example. At work a girl accidently brushed her ass by my hand as she walked passed me and it caused a rush of feel good sensation to travel through her body as she uttered sounds of pleasure. So, don't have this mentality that since you have been nice to someone, that they would owe you something in return. This is manipulation. You want to arouse your interest but in an at…
/r/seduction04/06/25 05:37 PM
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Prove it.
/r/seduction04/06/25 08:27 AM
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Just be yourself, however the best person that you can be**. All these strategies/games will just stress you out and drive you nuts. **Mental health for the most part. In other words, if you love yourself, you have a much better chance that someone else will too than a mentally down and out individual who pretends to be confident by playing games with others.
/r/seduction03/06/25 01:01 PM
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You don't need to wait for a sign. If you like, make a move.
/r/seduction02/06/25 01:02 AM
1

How do you reply? Let your confidence speak for you. Otherwise, you're just sporting fake confidence while "peacocking."
/r/seduction01/06/25 07:05 PM
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Text whatever you want to say. Get rid of the idea of "perfection" because people want to know WHO you are and what your values/world views are.
/r/seduction01/06/25 07:02 PM
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Calling yourself a "loser" is a step towards the wrong direction. Negative self-talk is never an "inner-game" strategy but rather "anti".
/r/seduction01/06/25 06:57 PM
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Work on your confidence and stop comparing yourself to others. Additionally, have fun because stress is the greatest deterrent to learning and making progress. Summary: learn to love yourself and everything else will follow through because if you doubt yourself everyone else around you will as well.
/r/seduction01/06/25 09:02 AM
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Your best teacher is hands on experience and some critical thinking skills. Go out there and find out what your style of approach is and what comes naturally to you. You can even just simply start out with a, "Hi, my name is...." The whole key to success is confidence that comes from within you and trusting in your instinct.
/r/seduction31/05/25 04:00 PM
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Models is about vulnerability...boring. It's just an old PUA, circa 2000s, who regrets training men who lacked confidence into "deceiving**" women to get laid. **Pretending non-neediness.
/r/seduction31/05/25 03:56 PM
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Start out by talking to any stranger (male or female), then advance to any woman that you don't find attractive (less pressure), and then take the social skills you have acquired to "higher stakes" women that you do find attractive. Summary: Take it one day at a time to hone your social skills and to build your level of confidence around people.
/r/seduction31/05/25 03:51 PM
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She lives six hours away? Personally, I interpret this as not being selective enough and being needy.
/r/seduction31/05/25 03:45 PM
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If you feel any hint of "neediness" in you, let go. Personally, I would let go and start dating to ensure I have a healthy esteem--that I can flirt/date with other women with confidence. Your goal is not to fake/pretend confidence to "re-attract" her but just to insure that you're mentally healthy and not in a scarcity mindset.
/r/seduction31/05/25 03:39 PM
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You're being way too melodramatic. Each failure is a step towards success.** **Ask Thomas Edison.
/r/seduction30/05/25 10:35 PM
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That's the bonus for people who are average looking; they have to make up with things that actually matter and that's "having a personality." Useless is a great looking car with no engine.
/r/seduction30/05/25 10:34 PM
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Give us an exact example**. This is a bit too generalized. **You can just make up fictional names to make up for real ones.
/r/seduction30/05/25 10:31 PM
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Its just part of who I am. I don't plan what I will exactly say if it's not all that important. It's part of the fun and I don't believe in performance but just to say exactly what my inner self conjures.
/r/seduction30/05/25 09:20 PM
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People behave based on how they feel more often than what they think. So don't be surprised when many people's behavior contradict what they say. The implication here is that people have a lot of power to persuade the outcome.
/r/seduction30/05/25 03:11 PM
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"Online relationship." You won't know if you have chemistry until you meet in person. Do it in real life instead. I'd suggest that you work on your confidence because you're too concerned and worried about what others are thinking (you're demonstrating a scarcity mindset). When you seduce a women, you're inviting them into YOUR world. Some may like your world and some may not. No biggie.
/r/seduction30/05/25 02:50 PM
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Just be yourself and stop treating dating as something that requires micromanaging to "perform" to the utmost perfection that will only stress you out (anti-seduction). Spontaneity, honesty and being in the moment (not being in your head) is the key to attraction. Let go of the idea of what "perfect" is supposed to be. If you feel the fun and enjoyment, your expression will make it evident and it's very likely that the person will as well. And what do you say? Simple. You say what you feel deep …
/r/seduction30/05/25 02:46 PM
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The anxiety to "perform" well and the eagerness to become accepted can often often lead people to forget their purpose.
/r/seduction30/05/25 11:45 AM
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Your psychological state of mind could just be deceiving you. The rule I use for myself is, it's doesn't matter how many women have gawked at me because it doesn't mean anything until I have made a move/scored.
/r/seduction30/05/25 12:31 AM
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Just do what you are comfortable with. You're not longer in HS competing for status or have the need to catch up with who knows what.
/r/seduction30/05/25 12:26 AM
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Whatever that works for you. Maybe you'll create your own school of thought.
/r/seduction30/05/25 12:25 AM
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Sure, rich, if you can't love yourself, no one else will apart from your parents.
/r/seduction30/05/25 12:23 AM
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Well, they sure damn know how to play "hard to get."
/r/seduction29/05/25 11:44 PM
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"I'm not sleeping with you tonight..." They're implying that they would sleep with you (and they're letting you know this on the FIRST date). This is an EXTREMELY strange comment.
/r/seduction29/05/25 11:20 PM
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Instead of asking questions on how to do something, let experience be your teacher by doing. What you learn by doing becomes part of you, so you don't go out making it very evident that you are performing due to your incongruent behavior because of what someone else tells you what you should do. Everything in life is just practice and you will have to make a lot of mistakes before you find your rhythm. You say you have no problems with your confidence, but I think you should think about that aga…
/r/seduction29/05/25 02:33 PM
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You are overthinking things. Maybe you need to learn how to socialize with the general public first. And if you are inexperienced, so be it. Take it as a learning experience instead of making this into a high stakes event. Summary: Trust yourself. Doubt is your greatest deterrent. Your father and your fathers' father had to go through the same process. Trust that they have endowed you with this same gift. Otherwise, you wouldn't be here asking a "how to" on reddit.
/r/seduction28/05/25 07:59 PM
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You're doing the talking so only you would know. But for me, I trust myself because second doubting is my worst enemy. I don't play any games and I let them know exactly what I am looking for. The key for me is not to overthink everything (another enemy of mine) and to be honest with them and they can take what I have to offer them on the table or not, no biggie.
/r/seduction28/05/25 07:42 PM
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The more you talk without closing the deal (date) the more you risk it just completely going down hill.
/r/seduction28/05/25 07:15 PM
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The more you prepare, the more you pressure yourself to perform well. Don't think about performance and just be the authentic you (there's nothing to memorize when you are just you). Remember that you are there because you want to learn more about her and to see if there is really any chemistry. **Trust yourself. Nothing is more unattractive than a person who acts/manipulates to get what they want because they can see right through you that you aren't congruent when you put on a performance.
/r/seduction28/05/25 06:44 PM
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Why piss against the wind? The attempts to overcome one's preference is to demonstrate a scarcity mindset.
/r/seduction28/05/25 04:59 PM
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You have a very good reason to doubt because trust develops over time. However, you have developed feelings for her too soon which could cloud your mind into making a good call. Thus, there is no justifying to ask for exclusivity for the little time you have known her. You should come from a place of strength and not a place of neediness in the attempt to hold on to something that has no foundation but instead use this time to explore and grow. If nothing comes to fruition during this time away,…
/r/seduction28/05/25 12:39 PM
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If you like someone, just ask them out. Your tone really reads as though you're smitten. You really could just have said, "I like this woman and added her on Insta. What should I do next?" without the very small details. When you stated that you don't know how to take the lead, you've implied that you lack confidence because it really isn't that difficult to... Say that you're very excited to have bumped into her and to offer her to have coffee and to just take it on from that point with your in…
/r/seduction28/05/25 02:33 AM
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By writing this post you expressed your doubt and seek for advice in hopes to acquire courage. However, it also conveys that you have already invested too much emotionally into this person and you have also demonstrated a mindset of scarcity (that this woman is something really "special"). This is a recipe for failure. In other words, the more you fanaticize about a person, the more performance pressure you place on yourself which sets you up for failure. If you want something, go for it because…
/r/seduction27/05/25 04:20 PM
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You should become an erotica author.
/r/seduction27/05/25 12:11 PM
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Sorry, but this reads so much like a troll with a brand new account spilling out stereotypes. Let's just assume this is true. You don't really need to give out the details of what you look like. There are probably people with your physical description that gets laid more than "fit" people who don't have a clue how to succeed with women.
/r/seduction27/05/25 03:16 AM
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Start doing the research and come to your own conclusion as to what is YOUR path to success. Once that is completed, as a beginner you can start out slow by hitting on women you are not attracted to. The key is to practice what you have learned in order to build your level of confidence in order to hit on women that you think are attractive. Otherwise, your nervous energy would just imply to them that you are a "low value man." Most important above all is to HAVE FUN (which includes laughing at …
/r/seduction27/05/25 02:15 AM
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I don't really think you should say, "I like you" unless you knew for sure she liked you.** It's best to show you like someone by how you treat another person. Besides, people love a good chase, so you don't really want to prematurely play your cards. **Observing of one's behavior. If you feel the need to say how you felt about a person, it should always be in person because a lot of times its more important on how you say something rather than what was said.
/r/seduction26/05/25 07:21 PM
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It's your reality. You make it whatever you want it to be.
/r/seduction26/05/25 06:46 PM
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You make your own happiness.
/r/seduction26/05/25 06:43 PM
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Women aren't going to map things out for you conveniently like a "how to manual." You might have some female authors or YouTubers that will for monetary gain, but in the real world, you're expected to use your intelligence and you are expected to take the lead (asking out, escalating, initiating sex, making decisions, etc.)
/r/seduction26/05/25 03:11 PM
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Mocked you for your height? That could be a shit test to see your level of confidence (or your level of insecurity). You said you have had a "30 body count" so that "shit" literally shouldn't have fazed you. Start analyzing what gave you success in the past and what current changes in your behavior that may have caused failure on your part.
/r/seduction26/05/25 03:01 PM
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Work on your confidence and happiness. No one is attracted to a person whose world is upside down.
/r/seduction26/05/25 02:51 PM
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I wouldn't consider the work place as a place to find a date for a few reasons: 1. You can become the subject of gossip 2. If the relationship goes sour you'd have to see each others face daily. 3. If you get rejected, you could become the "creep."
/r/seduction26/05/25 02:46 PM
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In short, do what ever to get HAPPY. People in general are attracted to happy people. Perhaps, you will need to work very hard to be a happy person due to your past and perhaps that MAY require a therapist. Just remember that you are what you THINK so start controlling and become aware of what you are thinking. Summary, first take care of yourself and many things will follow thereafter... GOOD LUCK!
/r/seduction26/05/25 02:42 PM
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Fostering negative thoughts, such as "It's me against the world," is unhealthy because they can manifest itself through your behavior which is highly unattractive to people in general. Sure, discrimination based on skin color exist. However, it is in your best interest to have better faith in others for your mental well-being because it is not factual that ALL PEOPLE discriminate people based on their skin color. And do yourself a favor and do not appeal to others for VALIDATION if they'd date a…
/r/seduction25/05/25 06:35 PM
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Showing romantic interest in a text message "could" send a message to her that you lack confidence. You miss a lot of opportunity to "seduce" her in person because a lot of times it's more about how you say something rather than what you say that can initiate arousal/interest. Her being cordial/polite could just mean that she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Just place yourself into her shoes and try to think how you'd think and behave if you didn't find a person who made an advance towards y…
/r/seduction25/05/25 01:48 PM
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Do what's comfortable for you. If you want to appear like an older man keep the gray hair. Gray hair doesn't make you unattractive; it's typically asymmetry of the face that does.
/r/seduction24/05/25 10:51 PM
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The younger the woman, the more important it is on how physically attractive a man is**. The older she becomes, the more important it is how financially secure a man is (long time commitment). **High school and college age.
/r/seduction24/05/25 10:46 PM
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Hasn't this been known for ages? It's no longer the 50s when a date was implying a literal long term romantic relationship/potential marriage (the average age for marriage was 22 for men and 20 for women).
/r/seduction24/05/25 06:29 PM
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Just don't pretend to be someone you are not.
/r/seduction24/05/25 04:22 PM
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This is my perspective: You are the man and you set your own values. If you change your values to please others, you are coming from a place of neediness and have become a validation seeker. In other words, respect yourself. The moment you change yourself to manipulate others to get what you want is the moment you lie to yourself and to those around you. Imagine a woman sharing her experience with her friends and then tells them, "I met a really charming HOT man last night but the moment I went …
/r/seduction24/05/25 04:11 PM
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Failure only exist when you do nothing but complain. Each failure is a success in disguise because you are then given the opportunity to understand what mistakes you have committed in order to improve your technique the next time around. So, stop telling yourself that you "suck" because you are your very own coach who is on the blackboard drawing the x's and o's towards the path of success. In addition, being too picky can hurt your progress. Your attitude is similar to, "Tomorrow I want to benc…
/r/seduction24/05/25 02:24 PM
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Always envision and expect success--it's akin to building a home; the home didn't suddenly manifest itself but existed as an idea. A neat and clean room means nothing. When a woman wants you, they want you. Do you think if you wanted to make love to someone that the first thing that would cross your mind is how untidy her room is? When it comes to lovemaking, you should let your animal side (testosterone) take over. Otherwise, your insecurity manifested itself in your behavior and was a turn off…
/r/seduction24/05/25 02:05 PM
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It doesn't matter who you are, eventually someone will perceive you as a creep.
/r/seduction23/05/25 04:23 AM
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If you can hold a fun flirtatious conversation with the "taken," its just great practice for the singles. Your perception of failure with them could just be bias or somehow you have nervous energy during those moments.
/r/seduction23/05/25 03:51 AM
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You are coming from a place of neediness and weakness the moment you make changes to your character to please others. Be comfortable with who you are because that's where confidence comes from.
/r/seduction23/05/25 03:28 AM
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Projection at its fullest.
/r/seduction16/05/25 06:44 PM
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Let's assume that this is the case. Then the mistake is making a move on a person who hasn't shown interest (physical attraction). But these are all meaningless conjectures until he gives the full story. If this entire story is based off a cold approach, you can expect a failure rate of 96%-100%.
/r/seduction16/05/25 03:39 PM
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All we know is that you got rejected with no other information or back story. It's great that you can better handle rejections, but it's better if you can learn why you were rejected and to find out if there were any fault of your own. Otherwise, this thread reads more like a "self-soothing" rant to get a bad experience off your chest.
/r/seduction16/05/25 03:11 AM
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