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What is CBT?
/r/seduction12/07/18 12:54 AM
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You sound like an emotionally unstable and controlling boyfriend. You don't need advice from us - you need therapy.
/r/seduction11/02/18 02:46 AM
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Thank you for your comment! If you have any questions, feel free to message me whenever you want.
/r/seduction02/01/18 06:55 AM
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I have, a few times. I'm not the best looking guy so my Tinder successes are fairly limited, but with the girls I hooked up with, it was always on the second date. On the first date I don't really escalate - I just want to see what they're like. On the second date I kick it into overdrive and turn my sexual game to 11. So I guess it really just depends how well your first date goes, lol!
/r/seduction22/08/17 07:42 PM
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More things to improve myself, hmm...now see, this is a tricky question. Don't think of self-improvement like a magic switch, in that "if I do this it will make me better". I don't think that's fair to you, because thinking like that will only set you up for disappointment. Self-improvement is a continuous experience. But regardless, I'll try to answer your question. So, if you want to self improve, you must first have something that needs improving. For me, I knew I had to improve my social ski…
/r/seduction10/08/17 04:08 AM
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An example of what, exactly?
/r/seduction09/08/17 01:11 AM
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I've never read that book, but have heard great things about it. If I had to pick a book (well, two really) which truly changed my life, in all sense of the word, they would be Siddhartha and Models. Siddhartha taught me that it's okay to feel lost and confused, because everyone is just as lost and confused as you are. Models helped me in accepting myself. My flaws, my traits, things I can't change...there's no point worrying about things I can't change.
/r/seduction08/08/17 10:31 PM
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A "problem" is something you can fix, but an inherent "trait" is what makes you, you. You should ALWAYS strive to be the best version of you possible. I can't change my height, so I've accepted that. But what I can change is not having a greasy beard - if I groom, it'll be an improvement. Some things you can improve. Some things you can't. And if you can't change something, there's no point worrying about it, so you just...accept it.
/r/seduction08/08/17 10:08 PM
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It just makes everything easier.
/r/seduction08/08/17 05:19 PM
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Did you mean to reply to my post, or to OP's? I don't see how this applies to anything I said.
/r/seduction07/08/17 10:32 PM
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Not really. I mean, I still get rejected a ton, but what matters is that I don't let it bother me - I just be the me that I can be, and I guess there are enough women that see that and they react positively to that. I'm not the best looking guy, clearly. But if you can captivate women into learning you, into seeing you from within, then they'll forget about your physical appearances. Then it doesn't matter if you look like you're 11 or have 12 inch biceps, or whatever.
/r/seduction07/08/17 06:19 PM
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Easy said, harder done. You can't just give empty advice like "just become a better person" without showing how to achieve that, either through tips, or ideally, through experience. Without that, this is just another one of those useless "just do x for y". Not very helpful.
/r/seduction07/08/17 05:43 PM
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I actually made a post with that very topic just a couple months ago. You can read through it if you'd like, maybe it will help. You could always PM me if you ever just want to talk, also. Cheers. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/5udai0/ive_been_working_on_myself_and_inner_game_for_the/?st=J62FC6BP&sh=a50526d2
/r/seduction07/08/17 05:24 PM
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What did he say? I couldn't hear him from all the way down here
/r/seduction07/08/17 05:15 PM
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Mate I'm 5'5", barely 120 pounds, and to top it off, I'm ethnic. I have a giant nose and crooked eyebrows, and I look like a child. That hasn't stopped me from sleeping with gorgeous babes much taller than me. Do you know why? Because I've reached a point in my own mental state where I don't even register that I'm short or skinny or foreign, or whatever. I simply just...do. I've been rejected so many times that I don't even register it anymore. And maybe it's true, that overall fewer women will …
/r/seduction07/08/17 05:14 PM
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Thank you so much! That was a very insightful post. It's reassuring to know that women don't use "cute" as an insult; I just never really considered the gender differences. As to the insecurity part...you know, that is tricky to think about. I like to think that over the last few years I've worked on bettering myself enough that I don't really have as much insecurity problems as I previously did. However, it seems that I still may have some lingering issues I need to work on, evidently as you so…
/r/seduction14/07/17 06:33 PM
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Thanks, I'll look into that beard oil. And I've been meaning to start hitting the gym, but prices are pretty expensive here. I'm going to wait until the fall so I can freely use the gym at my university.
/r/seduction14/07/17 04:21 AM
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Thank you! I try to carry myself confidently, but sometimes it's just easy to fall back to my "normal" state of being soft, like you said, perhaps. I maintain strong eye contact as much of the time as I can, so that's probably not it. Anyway I PM'd you a picture. Do I look like a child?
/r/seduction14/07/17 03:46 AM
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I think forcing yourself to do something you hate is terrible advice, and against everything this sub stands for.
/r/seduction04/06/17 02:00 AM
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I'm 5'5", barely 115 lbs, and to top it off I'm a foreigner. I've slept with super pretty girls way taller than me. Your looks are only debilitating if you let them be. If you walk around like you're a 6 foot beast and believe it, others will too. You can't change your looks, so don't let them bother you. Just be the best you that you can be.
/r/seduction04/06/17 01:01 AM
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I see "hit the gym" on here like wildfire, and while I can see where it comes from, it's not "definitive" advice. If you're like me and you hate going to the gym, the only thing it's going to do is make you depressed. While most people will see benefits from hitting the gym, don't think you won't be successful if you don't. Just my two cents.
/r/seduction04/06/17 12:59 AM
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Jesus I so needed this today. I am going through this exact thing right now. I met a girl, we became close, we even had frequent sex. But then I started doubting myself: did she no longer like me? No, I'm being an idiot. We're medical students and we're busy with exams and what not! I'm being stupid.
/r/seduction30/04/17 03:30 AM
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Looks do matter...to a certain degree. What matters more is CHARISMA, and how you carry yourself. How? I'm 5'5", barely 120 pounds, and Mediterranean-looking. I've slept with bombshells who were way taller than me, but that's not to say I don't have a slight disadvantage. You just have to learn to adapt and work around it.
/r/seduction16/03/17 02:20 PM
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To be fair, I didn't just have one "aha!" moment where suddenly everything became clear. I had to clear the path slowly. The "code" to crack in question is the code of your soul - what does it want? What is it starving for? What is it that you so long for? I think that is the first step into "cracking the code". For me, what I was so longing was an acceptance for myself. Maybe it will be different for you. You really must figure out what it is you WANT first of all.
/r/seduction18/02/17 11:43 AM
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I watched videos and read some books on psychiatry and the human mind. I think a part of asking "better questions" is having a better appreciation for how the mind works. Now that doesn't mean I'm a psychology expert or anything, but it's enough for me to know some idea of what makes humans think similarly. People inherently love talking about themselves, even if they don't show it. I try to prod them by asking open-ended questions that makes them THINK about the answer. They have to search with…
/r/seduction18/02/17 06:21 AM
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I think it's inevitable to have those "bad stretches". You are, after all, a human, NOT a computer. Your biology changes day to day. It is important to realize that nobody is perfect all the time. Instead, use those down patches as reflection. Why is it happening? Is it your soul crying out for something? What are you missing at the moment?
/r/seduction18/02/17 06:18 AM
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Sorry, didn't mean to be confusing. I should have clarified. I'm doing radiation therapy, but it's under the department of radiation oncology. As such our faculty and materials are addressed as being as part of RadOnc.
/r/seduction17/02/17 01:12 AM
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I am still in school, only in my second semester. I'll start my clinical placement this May.
/r/seduction16/02/17 09:45 PM
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I updated my post with the full details.
/r/seduction16/02/17 05:49 PM
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I'm glad I could make a positive impact! You will never stop growing. Every day is a new opportunity to make yourself a better you than you were yesterday. You are only as good as you allow yourself to be.
/r/seduction16/02/17 05:40 PM
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Thank you for saying that! That means a lot. We all feel stranded at times, and it's important to realize that it's okay to feel that way. Usually that's your mind letting you know that you still have things about yourself to discover and realize.
/r/seduction16/02/17 05:38 PM
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Yes. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/5udai0/ive_been_working_on_myself_and_inner_game_for_the/
/r/seduction16/02/17 06:51 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/5udai0/ive_been_working_on_myself_and_inner_game_for_the/
/r/seduction16/02/17 06:51 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/5udai0/ive_been_working_on_myself_and_inner_game_for_the/
/r/seduction16/02/17 06:50 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/5udai0/ive_been_working_on_myself_and_inner_game_for_the/
/r/seduction16/02/17 06:50 AM
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Just a friend. 100% platonic. She's attracted to somebody else and they went in their first date yesterday.
/r/seduction15/02/17 08:44 PM
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She's confided in me that she's attracted to somebody else, who also likes her back. So that is definitely not the case.
/r/seduction15/02/17 08:43 PM
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She and I have gotten really close as friends and really opened up to one another. She came by yesterday as just another one of those days where she needs advice and she has to get stuff off her mind. So, it wasn't anything specific that we were discussing. It was just the nature of our discussion. I listen as attentively as possible and offer what is, in her view, mind-blowing advice.
/r/seduction15/02/17 06:08 PM
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The first book to really set me on this path of accepting myself and knowing that I am good enough was Siddhartha. It's fairly short (~120 pages) and it taught me that it is perfectly okay to feel lost, because every organism in the world at some point feels lost. However, the soul endures. Everyone endures. You have to fully accept yourself and be happy with who you are. It was very hard to do, but it's so liberating. But, my experience won't be the same for you. What I got out of that book wil…
/r/seduction15/02/17 04:37 PM
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Yeah, let me write it all down and then I'll post it.
/r/seduction15/02/17 04:32 PM
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Thank you, I like it too! :p
/r/seduction15/02/17 02:22 PM
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I think I attribute a big chunk of it to becoming aware of who you are as a person - your strengths and weaknesses. For me, this was done by getting a journal and then writing down my thoughts every day (or close to every day. Sometimes I got lazy). I also took up meditation. It was a slow process, but I gradually learned the most important aspect of inner game: ACCEPTANCE. You must accept yourself for who you are. Be uncompromising (to a degree), because that is who you are. Be firm in your opi…
/r/seduction15/02/17 02:14 PM
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I will make a detailed update to my post and write everything!
/r/seduction15/02/17 01:13 PM
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I will make a detailed post! I was in the middle of studying when she came and knocked on my door, and I just had to write about it.
/r/seduction15/02/17 01:11 PM
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Thank you!! That was very eye-opening. I understand completely what you mean about having to "restart" the groundwork. That makes sense; I can't "maintain" if I haven't anything to maintain. Thanks for the suggestion. Right now I'm too focused on becoming friends with everybody. Maybe I should slow down and build fewer, stronger relationships instead.
/r/seduction17/10/16 09:07 PM
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I've tried positive reinforcement before but it didn't really work for me. I'll give it another shot.
/r/seduction15/10/16 04:23 PM
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That's what I'm asking...how?
/r/seduction08/10/16 03:33 AM
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I feel like girls think of me as "the cute friend" rather than the "guy they'd want to bang". You know?
/r/seduction13/02/16 06:41 PM
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See, I've tried this sometimes. What ends up happening is they think I'm just making jokes without intent, ie. I'm "just being funny". How can I better express my sexual intent?
/r/seduction13/02/16 06:40 PM
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90% of the time I keep a short stubble. The other times are when I clean shave, or I'm too lazy to trim and I look homeless.
/r/seduction12/02/16 04:06 AM
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I thought about it a couple years ago, and talked about it with one of my good friends who is gay. Turns out I'm not gay.
/r/seduction07/07/15 10:38 AM
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"She's staring into my eyes and smiling. I think she wants me to do something. But what if I make it awkward? What if she's not even interested? That would be embarrassing. I think I'll just stop here and continue being friendly." Yep, that...
/r/seduction07/07/15 03:42 AM
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Thank you for the detailed reply! it sounds like you are trying to escalate in public, on the first meeting with them. Is this correct? I'm gonna say 50/50 on this one. Half the time I want to escalate on girls I just met, but I can't. I'm too nervous - what if I make it awkward? The other half the time is with girls I've previously talked to here and there, like at work. I want to go for it and ask them out, but what if they say no and then it becomes awkward at work? Then everybody starts maki…
/r/seduction07/07/15 03:41 AM
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I think you're right. I'm young, good looking, smart, have lots of friends...this is just mental circle jerking and it's all in my head. The next step is trying to convince myself to just do it. That's where I'm struggling.
/r/seduction07/07/15 03:39 AM
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Loud, dark, crowded, and everyone is drunk. I just don't enjoy the music nor the atmosphere. It's just tiring and boring.
/r/seduction11/05/15 07:53 PM
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Right, well...I can't afford a boat.
/r/seduction11/05/15 07:47 PM
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I'm not sure what pulling means, but I'll have to look into it. Thanks mate!
/r/seduction05/01/15 01:06 PM
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That's not something I can change!
/r/seduction14/01/14 10:47 PM
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I don't think I could quantify looks on a scale. If I think she's cute or has a nice smile or what ever I'll go talk to her. Not a virgin, but I'm not exactly a superstar either if you understand. It takes me a while. I do elicit responses from girls. My problem isn't getting them to like me; my problem is they don't seem to share a mutual interest. I make friends out of them, but they seem unresponsive to anything other than "being friends". I hope that makes sense.
/r/seduction14/01/14 12:18 PM
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I'm not too sure what that means, but if I had to guess: don't worry about the end result?
/r/seduction14/01/14 12:10 PM
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Short, cute girls. Not to say I don't try to talk to as many as possible in general. Being a short guy, I'm more comfortable around girls similar to my height. Usually they're the same or slightly taller but it's all fine.
/r/seduction14/01/14 12:09 PM
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Hm, that makes sense! But here's the thing - even when I'm in a natural state around girls I find attractive, they elicit no response. I act just as I would around other people, but nothing. I hope I'm not overthinking it, but it is a trend I've noticed.
/r/seduction14/01/14 01:59 AM
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