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Svenskamamma/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 07:44 AM
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DISCUSSIONSvenskamamma/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 12:02 PM
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DISCUSSIONSvenskamamma/r/RedPillWives24/09/20 05:39 AM
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You’re not her friend
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 12:52 AM
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How is her husband a high value man?
/r/ExRedPill15/11/22 11:24 AM
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Most of the advice you’ve been given is great, there’s something referred to as the 180 in infidelity circles which aims at giving you the emotional space to make the best decisions for you and to act with dignity and self control. The link below titled 180 will take you to a description I’m not saying that your husband is cheating but he is preparing himself to, so you’re in what is referred to as limbo (again in infidelity circles! My first husband who I was with from the age of 14 to 26 cheat…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 08:41 PM
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I commented in depth on my thoughts on just pearly things in the other post regarding her but I wanted to say something specific to you. If your goal is to be more feminine and a better partner look for people who espouse those traits for advice. JPT is masculine and single, I believe she said she’s never had a serious relationship and she’s 25! She was also, at least until recently, living with her parents - this is not a woman to turn toward for advice as she’s losing at the game she claims to…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 03:02 AM
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If it’s a supportive community you’re after you find a property with two separate homes on it?or two apartments in the same building?
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/22 01:17 AM
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She claimed to be 25 in video I saw yesterday so I think she’s old enough for some maturity to have set in. I don’t believe you can shame anyone into changing, which is evidently her approach
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/22 03:50 AM
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I had a look at some of her content after yesterdays post from someone being disheartened by her. I fail to see how she’s red pill, I’d say she more falls under the frame of honey badger if anything but even then she isn’t saying anything to support men, her videos are predominantly damning women. There is nothing feminine about her, certainly not in appearance - physically and aesthetically the word that comes to mind when looking at her is sloppy. She can’t help her genetics but she could work…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/22 03:35 AM
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Who is the creator?
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 05:20 AM
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I think that you’re conflating a lack of emotion and in this case, a lack of empathy with stoicism, neither are tenants. Not being ruled by your emotions is a core stoic belief but you’re allowed to experience them, your husbands reaction in this case is him being ruled by his emotions it’s not stoic at all. I often think of steinbecks description of Ma Joad as being a great example of female stoicism “She seemed to know, to accept, to welcome her position, the citadel of the family, the strong …
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/22 09:03 PM
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I wish I could give you a big hug. I think you know your answer- this man has no business being with you and your body is telling you that, please, please listen before it’s too late. My sister was in a similar situation as a teen and ended up married to and having a child with the man. Not only did he start to become more and more abusive, and remember abuse isn’t just physical- take some time to read about coercive control, he then used their child against her. It’s been indescribably destruct…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/22 01:59 AM
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My husband and I met at a fitness retreat in a country that neither of us were from and lived on opposite sides of the world. After our third date (no sex) he decided I was the one and deleted all his dating apps (he didn’t tell me this until later). After our trip he flew to my country to visit then two months later flew me to his to meet his family and took me around Europe. Four months after that he took a position with his company in my country, we spent another year together then married an…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 05:29 AM
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I think a year together is long enough for him to be able to make some form of commitment to you, it sounds like he really wants to keep his options open- “maybe think about” moving together in 3-4 years is the complete opposite of a commitment. Some things in relationships are non negotiable and one of those things is the need for equal commitment to the relationship, sadly it sounds like you want different things. It bothers me when I read men (and sometimes women) state that single, older and…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/22 04:03 AM
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We currently live in Australia and it’s not looked down on at all from my experience. We live in an upper middle class area and it’s fairly common. It’s certainly not common in Sweden but I’ve never come across any judgement (not to my face at least!) There are often questions about what will you do when the children start school and I just let them know that I’ll look to volunteer or find hobbies but that I still want to be fully available to them before and after - I don’t mention to my husban…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 09:19 PM
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Are you able to go too? I completely understand why you wouldn’t be comfortable and think it’s perfectly fine to raise this with him
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 09:34 PM
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Ugh. Why do men think this is an appropriate way to speak to women? No man of value or woman of class acts like this
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 09:32 PM
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My husband is Swedish and we have a very traditional marriage with me as the homemaker and he the breadwinner. We have a few friends living in Sweden (we live overseas currently) who have a similar dynamic, one thing I’ve noticed is that the husbands with stay at home wives are all very successful men and none are religious. My husband has often said there is no way he could dedicate the same time and energy he does to his career if I worked too, he’s thankful for the space my managing our home …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 12:06 PM
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Sorry one more thing! I think you should check,out the working moms sub too, or read many woman’s complaints about the load of managing work, children and their home. I know many who have their children in before and after school care meaning that they’re at school for ten hours a day, they then come home and try to make dinner, bathe the kids then get them into bed quickly only to then do housework then go to bed at 11 to get up and do it again. If you don’t like work now, imagine working under…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 09:26 PM
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I’m not assuming that you want to live my life, I am letting you know the lessons that many other stay at home mothers have learnt in the past. I think you need to go and take a look at the SAHP sub, there are frequent stories about people who are forced back to work because their husbands income can’t cover all of their expenses let alone incidental costs, there are also some horrific stories about women who are left with no way to protect themselves when their husband dies or leaves them. Thes…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 08:55 PM
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I am now a SAHM, my husband is a high income earner but even then I wanted to be able to bring something financial to the family for my own security. Pre children I worked hard and saved and invested, in now have a monthly income from my investments which gives me security and means that if there is something I want I can buy it. You’re very young, unmarried and don’t have children now is the time to be setting yourself up to be a SAHM it’s not a time to be passive.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 08:20 PM
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As a former career woman now SAHM the one thing I urge you to consider is how you will feel if/when you have children. Do you want to be forced to return to work early (or at all) because you’re the primary breadwinner? There’s vast research into the detrimental impact of daycare on young children, you’re essentially forcing yourself into a position that will require you to work and for many that juggle is stressful and exhausting and you’ll no longer have time for yoga and housework apart from …
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 11:43 PM
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I think one aspect that gets overlooked is that a family is a unit and works better symbiotically than it does as individuals chasing separate goals with poor children clinging on for the ride. My husband is a c suite exec, he does love the challenge of his career and does need to put in very long hours which he couldn’t do and maintain any work life balance if I were also chasing girl boss status. As it stands he comes home from work and everything is done, dinner is ready, the house is tidy, w…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 11:25 PM
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Bit if a different opinion here but my husband spent quite a lot on my engagement ring (around $20k and an extra 6k for the wedding band)and although I agree it’s a lot to spend on one piece of jewellery, I think it it also brought him a sense of pride in being able to give me something like that. It’s been a long time now but when we were first engaged/married he used to hold up my hand and say “it looks good on you” and I think it made him happy to see the ring there. It’s the first big, tradi…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/22 12:10 PM
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I don’t think it will be easy. I’m married to a Swede and we spend time between our countries, while being a homemaker isn’t uncommon in my country in Sweden it’s almost unheard of. I have two friends who are SAHM and aren’t planning on returning to work but they’re definitely outliers, both are also married to very wealthy men who like us, spend their lives between countries which I think has something to do with it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/22 12:01 PM
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consolidated research on childcare This link provides a terrific analysis on the negative impact of childcare on children, I find that bringing these findings up in an educated, un-emotive manner usually makes people back off when they feel the need to make me justify my being at home with my children.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 01:26 PM
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Same! Although we met IRL not online and I had a decent career myself before we had children. Although not in line with my husbands salary, I was earning over $160k a year myself but don’t regret that loss of income at all. All the men we know who are high earners have stay at home wives incidentally and all of these wives are similar to me having been highly educated and established in their own right. I think having someone to manage the household and children frees these men up to focus on th…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 12:23 PM
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I’m a SAHM, I left a lucrative career which required many, many years of study and internship to get to where I was when I left and don’t regret it all all. I did set myself up well prior to leaving the workforce by investing in property so I do draw some income from that. I’ve also been very fortunate to have a husband who earns a high wage, we live a comfortable life although it could be more financially comfortable if I were earning my pre child income it would not be worth it. I have a frien…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 12:11 PM
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I think any man that comes here and posted “keep his stomach full and balls empty” as advice needs to be banned automatically! It says a lot about a man’s value if he thinks it’s appropriate to speak to women in that manner yet I see it all the time. It’s just classless
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 02:48 AM
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I take great pride in this too. I love that when my husband comes home our house is clean and organised with dinner cooking, our children are happily playing after a day spent being loved and cared for by their mummy and no one is rushed or overwhelmed from a day of competing priorities.
/r/RedPillWives20/05/22 11:51 PM
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I can’t wait to hear your thoughts!
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/22 10:13 AM
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I listened to the podcast you referenced, it seemed very anecdotal but there is quite a lot of research and a number books on the topic. One of the reasons Komisar doesn’t believe mothers are interchangeable is due to the role hormones play in bonding and nurturing, even with biological fathers, the impacts of oxytocin are expressed differently. Another author you may be interested in is Steve Biddulph, a developmental psychologist who gained fame with his work on raising boys. He’d been a staun…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/22 12:40 PM
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I commented below already but am catching up on the responses, I’m also not American. We’re an Australian Swedish family currently living in Australia, we’d be categorised as upper middle class based on income, education and assets. We live in an upper middle class area and I must say that the predominant trend is for women to be SAHMs or to work very limited hours. Every woman in my local mothers group is a degree qualified professional who left the workforce and are now raising our children, I…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/22 11:14 AM
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An excellent book on the subject is “Being There: why the first three years matter” by Erica Komisar it really breaks down the research behind the impact of childcare on children under three, particularly for their mental health later in life. She’s been interviewed on a few podcasts too if you google her name. I’m a SAHM to very happy, self confident and loving children (2.5 year old boy and nine month old girl) my children are down to go to our local Montessori school when they’re old enough, …
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 08:37 PM
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Find something to love and nurture. I was similar to you, my issues came from growing up with a narcissistic mother who treated me as her scapegoat. She made me feel like I was a cold, unloving and bad person from the time I was a toddler which in hindsight was her projecting herself onto me. I thought I was bad, unlovable and unloving and created a shell around me which kept me from expressing my feminine energy. It’s quite heartbreaking when I think back to myself as a child and teenager as I …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/22 08:40 PM
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She seemed to know, to accept, to welcome her position, the citadel of the family, the strong place that could not be taken. And since Tom and the children could not know hurt or fear unless she acknowledged hurt and fear, she has practiced denying them in herself. And since, when a joyful thing happened, they looked to see whether joy was on her, it was her habit to build up laughter out of inadequate materials. But better than joy was calm. Imperturbability could be depended upon. And from her…
/r/RedPillWives25/03/22 11:56 AM
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I think you need to do what works for your family but something to consider, before having children you need to create a lifestyle that will support you being with them for the amount of time you wish. If that’s to be a full time SAHM in the long term, you do need to make some financial decisions now to enable that. For me that meant making investments which now grant me my own “income” so I’m not solely reliant on my husband and can buy things I want without feeling guilty, for some friends it …
/r/RedPillWives25/03/22 11:38 AM
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Honestly, I think it’s an attitude thing that’s coming off. As I said above, I dress like this and receive lots of friendly smiles when I’m out. If I’m honest I probably do give off a vibe of being wealthy as I wear designer jewellery and clothes and carry designer bags but I’ve never once thought that people are jealous of me, just that people don’t really notice these things. I don’t know about my own looks but my children are beautiful and my husband is a hot, hot, hottie- I’m also a housewif…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/22 01:03 AM
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I agree with this. OP, I dress in a very similar fashion and always have my children dressed in cute clothes as well - people simile at me when I’m out I’ve always thought it because people equate femininity with friendliness. If people really are looking at you strangely based on how you’re dressed there’s something else going on. Regardless, you seem to think you’re being persecuted when you’re not
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/22 12:56 AM
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It terrifies me, I read an excellent book on the subject called Raising Girls by Steve Biddulph. He discusses how you can build strong self respect and a safe relationship with your daughters from infancy to protect them from these influences. https://www.audible.com.au/pd/Raising-Girls-in-the-21st-Century-Audiobook/176085204X?source_code=M2MOR131091619005N&ds_rl=1252391&gclid=CjwKCAjwlcaRBhBYEiwAK341jcrgabOXa_uiZqUw2ca1UyMJ3_VVc_Q0WCkX8qpj8FQAafOlvVCU_hoCBwsQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds
/r/RedPillWives16/03/22 08:27 PM
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Suzanne venker did a podcast on the topic which you could look up? I’ve not listened to it as I am already a SAHM but I lo,e quite a lot of her content
/r/RedPillWives16/03/22 08:21 PM
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Are you here to answer the question or are you just trying to push your own agenda? The premise of this comment was absolutely correct, if OPs ex wanted to be with her, he’d be with her.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 09:44 AM
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I left a six figure career and am now a SAHM, I cherish every crazy although sometimes frustrating and hard minute of it. My children are two and six months old so I never have a moment to myself which can be difficult but I also never miss the important moments or the times they’re in distress and need me. I’m well educated and had a very demanding career and understand your concerns about lacking intellectual stimulation but your mind doesn’t need to turn to mush. I use my prior skills to ensu…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/22 09:41 AM
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“But why mother are there so many fat women?” “Because Jimmy, women lack the ability for independent thought, you see they influence each other within their day to day social groups”
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 10:54 AM
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I think a very good rule to follow is that if you’re asking this question, you already have your answer. An interested man doesn’t leave any room for doubt
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 10:39 AM
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SAHM to a five month old and two year old, this is my typical day -husband and I wake at 0500 quickly feed and dress the children then out for an hours walk -0630 home, I pack husbands lunch and properly feed the children. Husband leaves for work -0730-0930 tidy up, get dressed, play with children then we’re out the door for an activity (Monday parent/toddler program at the Montessori school, Tuesday baby and toddler circus class, Wednesday grocery shopping, Thursday toddler athletic, Friday pla…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 11:32 AM
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You have a duty here to your own children, your daughters and sons learn through watching you. If you want your daughters to grow up as women who respect themselves and your sons as men who respect women you need to show them that you have standards that you expect ours to adhere to in regard to how you and your home are treated. If your daughters see a mother who respects and takes care of herself they will wish to emulate that in themselves and your sons in their choice in their own wives, sad…
/r/RedPillWives07/01/22 11:22 AM
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My husband meets all the HVM requirements you listed, and if he wanted to open our marriage I would walk. No one should ever stay in a relationship that compromises their values or stay with a partner who places such little value on them. The things I value most in my husband is that he is loyal, loving and dependable as a husband and father.
/r/RedPillWives22/08/21 06:46 AM
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Notice that it’s only men recommending you to MRP? It’s just a place where narcissistic abusers can slap each other on the back for treating their wives horrifically, it’s not a place that healthy and truely high value men hangout. I’d argue that nowhere on reddit is, if a man has hours to spend browsing or even more so moderating a sub they are nowhere near as high value as they’re masquerading. My husband is an executive and an athlete, when he isn’t working he’s training, on the golf course o…
/r/RedPillWives19/05/21 11:00 AM
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For me it’s about the sense of peace and calm I can bring into our home. We recently had an interior designer and a landscape architect in to create the aesthetic (we’ve recently moved into a new house) so that’s just maintenance, my role is the atmosphere. I know how incredibly lucky I am that we can afford to have someone help creat that, but there are plenty of pages devoted to home decorating if that’s what you mean. I don’t think it’s the important stuff though. Have you ever read the grape…
/r/RedPillWives28/03/21 01:31 AM
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Is that really an appropriate way to speak to women you don’t know? This isn’t some locker room.
/r/RedPillWives25/03/21 05:56 AM
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You’ve received excellent comments, although some are not in context regarding your specific situation- perhaps update your original comment? My h and I have recently recaptured our spark, in spite of a toddler and my being pregnant. Instead of focusing on the bedroom we focused on each other, just taking that moment to share our day or something we’re interested in, taking our toddler to the park together and laughing at his antics… it’s simple but effective.
/r/RedPillWives10/03/21 09:04 AM
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Exactly! Most decent, marriage minded men don’t listen to tenants such as SMV, the wall etc. they value the women in their lives on a far deeper level.
/r/RedPillWives10/03/21 08:58 AM
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Yikes no! Don’t read John Rosemond, he’s heavily criticised by pretty much every psychological and developmental learning authority, his views are dated and damaging. We attended a Gottman institute seminar before having our first, they focus on building a strong relationship between the parents and on how to emotionally attune with your child, it’s focus is in nurturing rather than Rosemonds disciplinary style which is completely in inappropriate for young children.
/r/RedPillWives03/11/20 02:40 AM
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Looking at your posting history, less than a month ago you were still casually dating three different guys? If this is the case, your relationship is very, very new and you’re still in the getting to know you phase so I recommend that you give him space to work out if he wants to continue getting to know you. I think for most people, a rage this early in a relationship is a major red flag, most healthy people would just move on.
/r/RedPillWives27/10/20 09:46 PM
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Meditations is great, but I recommend you read it the way the title implies - chose a small section (it’s written in a way that this can easily be done) then meditate on it rather than read it as a novel.
/r/RedPillWives21/10/20 09:26 PM
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A Guide to the good life: the sacred art of stoic joy - it’s a life changer! It’s written by an academic who was tired of stoicism being misinterpreted so brought it back to its fundamental roots and explained how it can be applied to modern life.
/r/RedPillWives21/10/20 09:24 PM
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I did what you’re suggesting and it’s worth it, I have a very good portfolio and draw on average 100k per year as my own income from it - this is down around $50k from my average income so we didn’t need to make too many adjustments. We as a couple still have 1.2 mil owing on our house but that’s our only debt and we’d get more than that if we sold it, we use credit cards but pay them off monthly.
/r/RedPillWives28/09/20 04:21 AM
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I’ll check out Laura Doyle. LS talks a lot about her personal life but in a very whitewashed way
/r/RedPillWives24/09/20 09:20 PM
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I agree, she reminds me of a tv evangelist who is happy to certain lifestyles while doing those things in private.
/r/RedPillWives24/09/20 09:17 PM
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I completely agree with you. She reminds me a lot of a tv evangelist
/r/RedPillWives24/09/20 09:15 PM
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I love JP! I think he will have a comeback as his issues were largely medical and he’s been quite upfront about how and why this happened. I’m always confused as to how he’s so controversial as he’s actually fairly moderate.
/r/RedPillWives24/09/20 09:15 PM
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No. Its important to vet anyone you seek advice from.
/r/RedPillWives24/09/20 08:59 AM
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I agree about learning through hardship but I think my issue with her though (well besides the racist and homophobic views) is that she never discusses her own evolution, she just vociferously and aggressively condemns others for making the same or far lesser mistakes. I think there’s a difference between “I did this and learnt x from it” to “you’re a terrible human for living your life the way you do” despite having done so herself.
/r/RedPillWives24/09/20 07:23 AM
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The decision to co-sleep and when to stop BF are very personal, bed sharing is very much the norm in some cultures and can be done safely and while maintaining intimacy if that’s what you want. I strongly recommend you speak to your paediatrician on these issues rather than rely on advice here-as you can see it’s very contradictory! One thing I must underline though is that you CANNOT spoil a baby, so keep giving all the cuddles and kisses you want. Now back on topic as you specifically asked ab…
/r/RedPillWives20/09/20 06:35 AM
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Hi ladies! I’m 36 and a mother to two, I’ve been with my husband for 15 years. I’m now a SAHM, in my previous life I was a senior policy advisor for national security. Like so many of you I love taking on a nurturing, and supportive role in my family and certainly achieve my fulfilment from it, I’m grateful to have found a community that doesn’t shame that. I will say I’m very wary of RP men and the tenants they live by though.
/r/RedPillWives20/09/20 06:21 AM
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Ah okay, sorry. Although it may be a bit confusing for the OP given her current state of mind too, no?
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 03:08 AM
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What is wrong with you?
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 10:42 PM
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Sorry OP, you’re going to get a rant here. Please, please contact domestic violence support lines, you need help this is a very dangerous situation to be in. A high value make would never treat you like this and a high value woman would never tell you that you should stay.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 10:41 PM
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I completely agree, my husband would think these men were pathetic. I suppose that’s why they do it though, they’re seen as losers by everyone in real life so troll a group of women to try to tell themselves they have some form of power, I suppose we should feel sorry for them.
/r/RedPillWives19/09/20 10:24 PM
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Was she unattractive? My brother used to get annoyed when unattractive women hit on him, I think it hurt his ego that they would think they were on the same level or something? This was in his early 20s, he’s matured a lot since then thankfully!
/r/RedPillWives19/09/20 05:50 AM
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Ugh, if you’ve truely “leveled up” and have gone your own way, why are you lurking around women’s subs? Do you not see the irony?
/r/RedPillWives19/09/20 05:42 AM
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Oh no! I’ve not checked but I probably have been too, but if it’s just a bunch of skeevy RP men and their groupies using as a platform to tell women how they’re allowed to think and speak amongst themselves it’s no loss. I thought your comments were balanced and insightful.
/r/RedPillWives19/09/20 02:22 AM
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Exactly, I find a simple “This is how I choose to live my life and it makes me happy” shuts them down pretty quickly
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 08:41 PM
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Then she almost certainly has blood on her hands and is responsible for children modelling and normalising violence. What horrific advice. And yes, she’s definitely selling something.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 07:29 AM
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Why is a man coming to a women’s space to moderate? We respect that the RP is for men and don’t go over there to try to control the narrative, surely we should expect the same respect? In every traditional society, men and women are afforded their own spaces to educate and support one another which are considered sacred. The loss of this is western society has probably had a direct impact on why so many young men and women are feeling lost and are making bad choices, so why is this occurring on …
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 03:24 AM
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Exactly, judging by the comments here and across the rest of RPW, there seems to be a disconnect between how the members here view what it means to be RP and how the mods view it. It seems that most women are like me, women who value family and our spouses and who prefer to take a more feminine approach to womanhood. Women who see their role in their husband and children’s lives as the most valued role they can achieve and who desire to treat others with consideration and respect. This does not …
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 03:03 AM
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I’m sorry you experienced that
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 10:28 PM
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Ralph Lauren :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 09:50 AM
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This is an extremely dangerous take. The posts that get the “leave him” comments typically relate to women in abusive, demeaning or totally inappropriate relationships. Should we be encouraging the young girl with the boyfriend who’s decided he gets to sleep around while she doesn’t to stay before marriage and children? The women who’s partners are clearly a bad match in terms of values or relationship goals to remain? I agree that families should be protected and that most marriages (absent of …
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 09:44 AM
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It’s the norm in my area but only very subtly, you would never see big puffed up lips or completely frozen faces. I get fillers each year in my cheeks to create more definitive cheekbones and get Botox every three months. If you get it done with a reputable cosmetic doctor no one will even know but again it needs to be very subtle.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 09:55 PM
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I wear Armani Si when I go out but for day to day wear I just use a really nice body wash, lotion and body oil combo. I’ve used Crabtree and Evelyn Pomegranate and Argan for years and layer the scent with the oil and lotion, it’s subtle but is very much my scent.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 08:14 AM
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Can you explain what you mean by red pill man? It’s concerning to me that what you’re taking away from RPW is that you are flawed, RPW (for me anyway) is about enhancing and developing your positive attributes and not giving in to societal pressures to mask your femininity. You sound like you’re doubting your value as a person and want to change to match his ideals, any change driven by fear and is bound to fail! What would you like to work on?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 10:06 PM
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Leaving you on read isn’t a good sign no matter how early in the relationship it is. Stop texting him now though! I think a good rule to go by is that if you have to wonder if they’re interested, they probably aren’t - you’ll know when a man is genuinely interested in more than sex.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 09:57 PM
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Ugh, the INCEL has climbed out of his hole to educate us-back to your mothers basement with you
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 05:54 AM
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Don’t look for a RP guy, the majority who identify as that are not partner material. I’d recommend that you clearly understand the attributes you want in a partner and find someone who’s values match yours.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 11:52 PM
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But they then condemn women for focusing on their career to the detriment of their children and spouses- they’re a very confused bunch!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 01:41 PM
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Anecdotally I think this is partially true. My H and I are both degree qualified, executive level professionals but once our children came along I left the workforce. This is reflected amongst our friendship group, two of my best friends are doctors married to surgeons, both stopped working once they had children. Almost all of the senior executives in my husband’s company have wives who left their high powered careers to raise their children too. For all of us, it just wasn’t feasible or fair t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 01:30 PM
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Yep, clickbait
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 10:33 PM
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Every night I reflect on one magical moment I’ve shared that day with each of my loved ones, it’s simple stuff- my husband and I laughing at a shared joke no one else would understand, the big kiss my baby gave me when we stopped to look at some birds on our walk-it helps keep me focused on what’s important
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 10:32 PM
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I’m a SAHM, but that doesn’t mean I’ve thrown myself at the mercy of a man. Prior to having children, I was in a very high powered and paying job, I also have two master degrees. This allowed me to save and invest so that by the time I left the workforce, I had a sizeable portfolio which gives me an independent income. If the worst happened I’m equipped to re-enter the workforce. While this isn’t viable for everyone, I strongly recommend that you do everything you can to establish yourself prior…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 09:55 AM
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I think the answer is that you don’t! You can’t change yourself so why accept something that fundamentally makes you unhappy? I’m sure there are people out there with this type of arrangement who are satisfied by it and that’s great, but you aren’t. I certainly don’t think your boyfriend sleeping with other women is a you problem, he’s actively choosing to do something that causes pain and insecurity in his partner- this is a him problem. I’m glad to hear that you’re working on your self esteem,…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 05:35 AM
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Perfectly put. Similar to you I have a masters degree and prior to leaving my job was a senior national security advisor to the govt so I definitely know what it means to be busy and productive at work. It’s a very different type of busy being at home and I’m certainly not undermining what women achieve in the workplace or even making a comparison, but I think both choices should be valued.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 08:02 AM
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Of course he’s telling you what you want to hear, it must be incredibly difficult to find a women willing to enter into this situation with him. He’s going to want to keep you around as his mistress because you’re offering what most women won’t, you’re just the easy option. Just let him go, you’ll waste precious years of your life, your reputation and your self esteem on this guy only to be tossed away. Go onto forums specifically aimed at “other women” it’s depressing to see what these women lo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 08:43 PM
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We did, we’re both very competitive so had a healthy level of competition between us! It’s quite funny really, I had been there about a week before he arrived and was one of the fittest, typically you do 3-4 different sessions a day ranging from yoga or Pilates to HIIT and strength training sessions. I was in a Pilates class and had been working on being able to handstand on a stability ball (I still can’t do it!), he showed up on his first day and did it straight away- I wanted to kick the ball…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 09:45 AM
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Wow that’s really concerning. Was she removed as a mod?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 12:52 AM
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This is a place where women who chose to focus on family, our partners and our femininity come to find support. I hope as a MGTOW you can respect that.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 09:54 PM
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It’s pretty normal for people to meet their future partner and get married after 30 these days, you’ll find plenty of men who aren’t from the divorced crowd. Women in their 30s are still beautiful! By then you’ve hopefully found a style that suits you and know how to take care of yourself, but if you tell yourself you’re past it you will become a self fulfilling prophecy so get out there and own it lady! Just do the stuff that’s wise at any age, eat healthily, drink lots of water, exercise and t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 09:49 PM
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I feel that there are a few of those here too.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 08:47 PM
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I completely agree, this is one of the most supportive and healthy subs I’ve come across.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 08:46 PM
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Really well put, I think that any way a woman chooses to contribute to society is honourable it’s just sad we draw judgement regardless of what we do.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 08:45 PM
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Exactly, but she actually states that’s the type of advice we give. She claims there was a post by a woman who said her husband was being violent toward her and was told by the other women here she needed to change her behaviour and that violence went both ways. It’s the opposite of the advice I’ve seen here.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 08:43 PM
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I read the book, I used to work in national security as a policy advisor so find the topic of radicalisation interesting. I was very surprised to see this sub focused on so heavily, her misrepresentation of what goes on here made me consider the entire book incredible.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 08:39 PM
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That’s a great way to look at it
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 08:36 PM
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There are definitely a lot of beautiful humans here, it just surprises me that this sub draws so much hate as it’s benign compared to most.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 08:36 PM
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You’re right, I suppose there wouldn’t have been much of a chapter in her book if she focused on what 90% of us discuss. She actually drew parallels between us and jihadist brides...
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 08:35 PM
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The book itself was quite interesting as she discusses how she was almost “radicalised” by the RPW sub. Meaning she found some of what we believe to be attractive or to have some truth to it, I’d say that’s because 90% of us are moderate and are just trying to find a way to embrace our femininity and focus on our family. Women are told that it’s unreasonable to find fulfilment in these things, it’s sad that she freaked out and felt she was becoming radicalised for finding this a valid way to spe…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 08:33 PM
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They’re both under two so they’re pretty exhausted by then. I’ve found letting them have a long morning nap then two short ones in the afternoon works best but even then some nights it’s a 40 minute battle of singing the wheels on the bus over and over again! They like sleeping in the same room and bed at the moment which makes it easier too as I lay in the bed with them until they’re asleep. I’ve always gone against the baby book advice and cuddled them to sleep.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 08:27 PM
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The crazy thing is that she wrote a book about it!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 11:12 AM
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Here’s one, the book goes into more detail and is specifically focused on this sub red pill women
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 10:04 AM
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That’s a good point, I’m sorry if anyone thought I was being competitive, I was hoping to be supportive of other women who have left the workplace to care for their families only to be labelled as lazy.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 08:35 AM
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I agree, I definitely questioned the credibility of the entire book based on the authors representation of what’s said here. I’m sorry you experienced that.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 08:34 AM
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You can also get a chin implant, the recovery is easier than jaw surgery
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 07:32 AM
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Mine too, I think that’s why I try so hard to be the complete opposite.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 10:48 PM
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Power woman! I do IF too! My first meal is a protein shake after the gym
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 10:47 PM
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Mine too
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 11:30 AM
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The variation in responses to this question is really interesting- here’s my opinion. I don’t see many similarities or complimentary ideas in red pill women and red pill men, I actually shy away from the red pill women label myself as the male side is so dysfunctional. I consider myself traditional in relation to my family and relationship values but the tradwife movement seems to have its roots in white supremacy which I abhor, and American conservative politics - I’m not American and am modera…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 11:25 AM
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Congratulations! Can we see the ring?!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 03:16 AM
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I assume you’re in Australia? As a fellow Aussie I say just go over there, knock and introduce yourself! I’m always envious of the American tv shows I see where new neighbours stop by to welcome newcomers with a welcome basket! Although, my husband is Swedish and over there they pretty much time their comings and goings to avoid having to meet their neighbours entirely so we’re not too bad in comparison! We live between Sweden and Australia and I’m always freaking people out by saying hello when…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 03:14 AM
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OP, given that you’re here would you be happy with a stay at home partner? I assume most of us are here because we want to be the nurturers and take on a more traditional role in our family. I’m a SAHM and value that above anything. When we first met my H was building his business and I earned three times his income, but I knew he was driven and would be successful. He now earns over double my income (which was in the six figures) which allows me to focus on my family. We wouldn’t have that if w…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 03:03 AM
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Honestly, you’re looking at this wrong. If your SMV decreases each year, and your risk increases- now is the perfect time to leave.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 02:51 AM
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I wouldn’t write yourself off as being hypergamous, it actually sounds as though you two have totally conflicting values and life goals- realising that does not mean that your after better. For a relationship to work you need to have similar goals and values, or at least ones that compliment each other.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 02:49 AM
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When my H and I got together I was successful (in a high powered leadership role and earning well over six figures) my H was building a business and, while comfortable enough to contribute, didn’t match me in earning capacity. He did match me in drive and industry though, I think this is key. He eventually started to out earn me and once we had children I left the workforce and focused on being a wife and mother. The money I put aside into investments has meant that I can stay at home and still …
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 09:30 AM
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One of the best pieces of advice I’ve heard is to list the qualities you are looking for in a man then write out a separate list of qualities that man would seek in a partner- that is the list you need to focus on. If being a SAHM is your goal, study with that in mind, psychology would be very beneficial in raising emotionally healthy children and will give you far more career flexibility. I think above anything men value a woman who is nurturing and supportive.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 09:19 AM
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I just got caught watching video after vide on this, I need this show in my life! I don’t think it’s available in my country though
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 09:42 PM
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That the “it” in having it all means having a high powered career, squeezing in time for your children and spouse as a secondary task. I bought into this idea and after climbing the educational and career ladder realised it meant nothing if I was dropping my baby off to be cared for by someone else for nine hours a day, only to be so stressed and linked in to what was happening in the office (I was in a senior management/advisor position) that I wasn’t present regardless. I pulled out of the wor…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 10:51 AM
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Oh sweetie, I am so sorry you’re dealing with this. As others have mentioned, having traditional values is not an invitation to abuse. You do not need to be anything other than you, remember that - you sound amazing. You can leave this marriage, you’re certainly capable of taking care of yourself until you find a loving respectful partner.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 10:03 PM
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