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I think you know what you need to do. Honestly, I kinda had a "I'll never feel love" feeling when I would think about letting her go (mind you we have 3 kids). But I've found love again. And my kids love me. I know its scary, but you gotta try to move forward, start with yourself. One day at a time, simple tasks: try a jog today.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 06:16 PM
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I remember when I got divorced. I moved out. I rented a house, unfurnished. I bought some used couches and a new 60" tv. The TV was in the box and I laid on the couch, no fridge, no bed, nothing. I had electricity and internet though :) so I got myself UP from the couch and unboxed the TV. I had tools, i took those from my marital home when I left. I hung the freaking TV, by myself, then I laid on the couch and watched TV. I did that. Alone. And I knew I could do anything and I still have. Yes, …
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 04:29 PM
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Yes. I feel you. You couldn’t fix this one. But that’s ok. You’ll get to that state soon. Work on you, I know a lot of men say that post divorce. But do your thing, go to a strip club, drink a bit. Then focus on health. Exercise. Coach. Focus on work. Eventually buy new clothes. Look at yourself in the mirror. The go on a date. Flirt. It’ll be fun.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 07:35 AM
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Don’t date. She will change. And you sure she’s ok with you taking your kid out of state or country? What if you need to take a work trip, and she does too, she ok with you leaving kid with x-persona?
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 07:28 AM
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I don’t get that. Mine asked for a divorce and I obliged. Yes I was broken and lost it all. But I never wanted to go back. I moved on. I don’t get this. A few friends of mine also were slapped with divorced, one finalized but still fucking his ex and the other reconciled and the divorced died after 1 year. A few others too.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 07:19 AM
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Technically yes. I’ll look into it
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 09:43 PM
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She has to assume the loan, she hasn't. not sure why. My guess is to not lose the 2% rate we had due to current rates?
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 09:32 PM
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$1250/month
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 06:14 PM
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I hear you. I pay child support. I'm still on the marital home's loan, I see her send the child support as extra payment, then when I ask to use the after school day-care our kids are part of (on her custodial days), she says I have to pay half if I want to use it, otherwise i'm not allowed to drop off the kids in the program on my custodial days. So I'm left finding my own care. we don't co-parent. we parallel-parent, each house has its own rules. child support sucks. She has money, all she has…
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 06:08 PM
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It’s not “afraid to be alone” and it’s not “alone in a room with 100 people around me” It’s more than that
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 06:42 AM
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Yeah. You said it. I’m 100%. I don’t feel like I should or even want to tell my ex anything ! I treat her like she doesn’t exist, i don’t call, text, or go over. With the kids I always tell them that I picked a good mom for them. They agree. That’s it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 06:42 AM
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Basically yes. For the last year. And the kids wake up and jump into bed with us.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 06:40 AM
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She’s never been married. Was in 20 year + relationship hell. She has a mom & dad, siblings, nieces, etc. super loving. Super accepting. I love them all. She’s amazing. I’ve met multiple friends of hers that tell me how amazing she is, I interrupt them and tell them that I already know. I don’t need to lose her to know how amazing she is. I already know.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 06:40 AM
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What is healed? It’s: no triggers. She (ex) can say whatever she wants, you’re good It’s: your family calls you and opinionated, you’re good. It’s: your friends call and remind you of some BS they May want an apology for, you’re good It’s: you’re alone in your house, for hours, and you’re good. It’s: you’re with a new partner, significant other, and you’re not processing shit after while your girl is trying to spend time with you It’s: you’re not at the bar, you’re at the gym first. Then maybe g…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 10:43 PM
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Wish my lawyer would have said that before I paid them when they agreed to file for me and take the case.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/26 06:07 PM
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No alimony because I gave up everything … plus more than I’m not willing to share (my balls)
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/26 10:12 PM
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I wish I would have set a 2-2-5 schedule instead of a 2-2-3 schedule for our 50/50 custody. Also wish I had set who gets to claim the kids each year on taxes Also wish I had a summer schedule of 7-days per parent so that I can work.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/26 06:25 AM
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Dude. I was 100% the same. The touching of feet. The couch thing. The lack of intimacy. I cooked. Cleaned. Etc. and yes I worked two full time jobs 8-5pm (no, they didn’t know lol) as a software engineer (> $400k/yr). I’m officially divorced. I have 50/50 custody of my kids. I’m in a new relationship. I’m happy. It’s amazing how now i see red flags. I dated a bit. Kisses girls etc. but they didn’t do it for me. I did walk away. Then I met my current girlfriend. Amazing. Just wow. We click. We kn…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 05:36 PM
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No clue. She won’t talk to me about child support or alimony or asset division or anything. Just wants things to stay the same except divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 09:06 PM
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Lawyer indicated there is no negative repercussion in California for moving out. There is no abandonment law.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 09:05 PM
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Lawyer assured me that There is no abandonment law in California. Doesn’t hurt to move out in any at.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 09:05 PM
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Happy birthday man
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 08:16 PM
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I was in a similar scenario. She asked for separation and then a divorce. Once she used the D word, I was out. I asked her why she didn’t file, no answer. I asked her why if she is so unhappy she doesn’t move out to her parents, no answer. I finally had enough of the emotional detachment. So I filed. It was hard. But I had friends help me through that process. She got served. She was angry and told people I initiated the divorce. I didn’t. I didn’t ask for any of this. In fact she made fun of me…
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 04:52 PM
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Hey dude. Sorry bro. I’m afraid of this happening to me too. Just stays positive. If/when you see your boys, be calm and loving (I’m sure you always are). It’s a process. Draw lines.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 04:44 AM
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I asked. Said to pay the bills. Sigh.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 06:13 AM
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2-2-5-5 bro
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 03:57 PM
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The reason I’m moving out during the divorce is because of false DV accusations. I can’t be myself. Have a chill afternoon, she’ll come at me for something even though she sleeps in the bedroom and I sleep on the couch or office. We went on a family camping trip (fresh divorce decision was made a week before, kept the trip for the kids), she accused me of kicking her inflatable mattress as I walked into the tent from peeing in the middle of the light … twice ! Gaslighting is a real thing. It’s t…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 04:29 AM
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Software engineer
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 07:48 PM
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I think that’s a nice suggestion. But overnight I think I came up with an idea, going to give up more in assets. See if she’ll go for it
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 01:39 PM
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OP here. What if I offer to pay all her utilities and mortgage? That be considered alimony? Man this sucks. All I did was work hard all my life. Now she says she doesn’t want to be married.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 03:23 AM
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Sorry to read this dude. Seems like a lot. Try this: Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder https://a.co/d/08AQXAb5
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 04:16 AM
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OP: I’m snipped ✂️
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 02:36 PM
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