TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

SwimmingTheme3736 Archive

View 4 posts and 3,448 comments by SwimmingTheme3736 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
35

DiscussionSwimmingTheme3736/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 07:28 AM
20

SwimmingTheme3736/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:39 PM
19

CMVSwimmingTheme3736/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 06:53 PM
5

DiscussionSwimmingTheme3736/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 05:33 PM
Showing the 1,000 most recent of 3,448 comments.
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

25 years ago a male friend asked me out, I thought about it but turned him down. We are still friends, he is also friends with my husband and I’m friends with his wife. Some people can be more mature than you can
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:55 PM
2

When things have gone wrong I have never bailed on him
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:39 AM
3

I nurture my husband I don’t raise him like I do my children. I love that man like I have never loved anyone. We are a team. I do things for him he does things for me, no one is keeping score. There are things he is better at so he does them, things I am better at that I do. Not just my do we live each other we make each others lives easier. I don’t have to or want to look after him like we do to our children.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:33 PM
1

It used to happen a few times a week. Now I just don’t notice other men like that. The thought of sex with anyone but my husband turns my stomach
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:48 PM
3

Read my original comment there was no complaint. I was not working it was very fair
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:05 PM
1

There is no argument in my original comment
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:04 PM
7

You’re the one making an issue, you seem to think I was complaining in my post. If you think it’s easy when they are older it sounds like your parenting is lacking. Teenagers still need a lot, in very different ways but it’s still needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:27 AM
8

How is it hard when he was not in the house? There is a lot more than laundry when looking after 5 children. I wish I had been sat there scrolling on TikTok. You seem to think I am saying I was doing too much, I’m not I was a sahm at the time that was literally my role at the time. We had children ranging from a new born to 15. Who all needed very different things from us.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:15 AM
5

I have never claimed laundry takes 4 hours. But laundry for 7 people does take a while. My husband himself said I did almost everything and he was grateful for in the same way I was very grateful about the face he was going to work. At no point was I complaining or saying he wasn’t doing enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:26 AM
11

I was off work on maternity hence why I was doing more home duties during that 18 months. When I went back to full time work that changed, if it hadn’t it would of been a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:36 PM
15

Yet I know a lot of people who manage it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:44 PM
49

Most of the time the disconnect comes when both are working full time. When I was off work on maternity I did 90% of everything in the home. If that had stayed the same when I went back to work it would have been a problem. Women complain when they do the same hours but are expected to do most of the house work and planning etc. In marriage you should be a team where you both pull your weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:14 PM
–

I love how women saying something you just turn it round. I think people, men and women will always assume others find things they find attractive attractive. Here’s the thing it only matter what the person you wants finds attractive. I don’t care what men as a whole like. I care what my husband likes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:17 PM
2

For a bit yes
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 07:24 PM
10

No I have never worried about what other people think about me once I got past about 20. I slept with who I wanted done was fun some not so much
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 06:47 AM
–

That’s implying I’m covering for someone or someone is covering for me, odd reply to my comment
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 05:03 AM
–

My man is never paranoid, he knows I adore him, never wanted a man like him
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 07:21 PM
–

Sounds like I have been doing girls night all wrong all these years 🫣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 05:15 PM
2

Well done
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 02:37 PM
1

They aren’t
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 09:24 PM
1

Because most of the men who post here would
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 04:44 AM
1

They will though I have witnessed women stay in terrible situations with crap men far to often
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 07:23 AM
3

So will some women
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 01:46 AM
2

Wouldn’t be a fail for me, I live a funny man
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:18 PM
2

I’m my experience the women says the first bit don’t want marriage The ones that do don’t have that mind set. I don’t see how this is so hard to understand
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:51 PM
–

If this is how you feel the lease stay away from women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 06:22 AM
38

I’m so glad I am not in this kind of relationship and would never let myself be in one
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:58 PM
3

For me I’m not a fan, it doesn’t feel great
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 10:04 AM
–

Looking dirty, now I don’t mean just in from work and you work a physical job, that’s actually really hot. I mean looks like you haven’t showered in days Smelling bad, same as above Having a constant pity party, now I don’t mean having a bad few days we all have that, but the forever pity party. Facial hair, I just don’t find it attractive it creeps me out, So fat you can’t walk properly, I do like a bit of chub A really sexist attitude, that drys me up like nothing else
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 08:02 AM
31

There is nothing wrong with being a sahm etc but the term bang maid is used for when men treat the woman badly, if you treat her with love and respect she isn’t a bang maid.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 08:16 AM
2

I k ow I can not begin to imagine being passed to a man my father picked and just having to deal with it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 12:32 PM
2

Be grateful you live in a time that you have the choice. My marriage isn’t like that, the main reason we married was to make a stable family, or we probably wouldn’t have got Round d to it. I did t want to just take his name he didn’t get upset, we joined our names. I’m not his maid, he has never treated me like that, in the same way I don’t expect him to pay for everything. We are a team.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:56 AM
1

Yes I believe most people can change if they want to. All mentally healthy adults know that we grow and change as we go through life. The ideals I had as a teen were different to my mid 20s, to my mid 30s etc. The problem is when you don’t grow and change as you go through life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 10:40 AM
2

draw what ever conclusions you wish, but you can’t just make up a narrative
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 10:43 AM
7

I never said I was a nun, if I like someone enough to have a relationship I’m all in. If I only like someone enough to fuck then I’ll fuck you and move on to the next
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 09:24 AM
7

I’m sure there are women who do this, but it’s not something I have ever done. Sounds exhausting. I’m pretty full on, if I like you for more than a hook up I’m invested and will throw myself into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 07:22 AM
–

Not at all, was more that I wasn’t trying to g to date early 20s who were immature because of their age
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 07:20 AM
1

I only have one child with a double barreled name my other two are from my previous marriage and just have their dad’s name. My husband’s children that are not mine have his last name he had before he married me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 07:58 PM
2

We double barreled. It’s very personal do what’s right for you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 04:28 PM
14

Dating is always a risk, for both parties. If you don’t think the risk is worth it then don’t do it. It’s a very personal choice. If I was to become single again I don’t think I would bother to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 05:13 PM
–

That’s not the bare minimum for me, I want a man who genuinely likes me more than anyone else, who is fun, who wants the same as me. When I met my husband he had just lost his job, was going through a bad phase. But he had so many good qualities it didn’t matter
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 11:27 AM
1

Absolutely not I love sex Also I don’t want perfect, I’m not perfect so it wouldn’t work
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 07:23 AM
1

I found the options better in my early 30s as a single mum than when I was younger
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 07:56 AM
3

I did this the good the bad the whole lot. He did the same. Worked a dream
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 06:47 PM
1

Not all of us
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 05:58 AM
0

My husband has just been diagnosed which ADHD because when I was doing mine I kept thinking he would answer the same things. Turns out we both do and some of our friends When we were first dating I loved how I could be my weird self with him and he didn’t judge but actually enjoyed it, makes sence now
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 05:58 AM
3

The rare time we have a disagreement he will talk over me. We have talked about it and he hardly ever does it now. We haven’t had a big fight in years. Big fights don’t work they don’t get you anywhere. I also hate when he eats curry in bed and gets it in the expensive sheets. So now if he does he washes them and does all the stain removal
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 04:59 PM
–

Why do you care what red pill men think? Is that the type of man you want to attract?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 07:38 AM
1

No the best is when you are both really into each other. Not when it imbalanced.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 03:46 PM
1

I would definitely He is my person, I wouldn’t walk away because he looks different . In face he doesn’t look the same as he did when I met him, nor do I
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:37 AM
2

It’s a very old one, been used for decades
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:36 AM
1

Little black dress
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 07:55 AM
3

I have kids and dogs I still do fun things, we got in family holidays, couples holidays. Weekends away days out meals etc. Making sure you can afford pets and kids is a big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:24 PM
14

Yes and here it happens if you are proved not to be the father you are not made to pay. I find it crazy it’s not like this everywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 09:12 AM
2

I have male friends but do have different boundaries with them. I wouldn’t share a bed or get changed in front of them. But apart from that no difference other wise
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 01:25 PM
3

I don’t know how I could carry on. I would have to for my children but I don’t know how. It’s like he is a part of me at this point. Every decision I make in life is with him in mind. Every choice resolves around him in some way. He grounds me, makes me feel safe but also makes me feel like I can concur the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:29 PM
2

I don’t know any relations with big ago ranged for anyone under 50. It seems age gaps are getting smaller
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 11:40 AM
1

Why can he not work? Is it a medical reason? If so absolutely Does he want to do nothing all day? No Does he need a break for a while? Absolutely Is he going to be a sahp? If we can afford it sure. He has been a stay at home dad for a while, I loved it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 11:03 AM
1

What the full girlfriend experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:59 AM
1

I met my first husband in a nightclub but that was a long time ago. I met my second husband online. Friends who have started dating in the last 5 years have met on instagram, in pubs, one at the library, my daughter met her partner on the bus on the way to school. My son met his at a party, my step son uses snap chat as a dating site.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 12:41 PM
0

Two of my children are in their early 20s they both know who he is and like him
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 12:37 PM
3

What would be fair? The
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 02:59 PM
0

If that’s how you view women please stop dating them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:40 AM
1

I guess it depends on the person, it means more to some than others. I personally love being married to my husband and the sex is absolutely not overrated
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:33 AM
1

I have dated lots of woman and men. I have not find woman want more spent on them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:21 AM
0

I work in a heavily male environment, the men that are highly respected it has nothing to do with how much or little sex they have. When I met my husband I had no idea how many women he had had sex with. This is 80% in your head
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 04:47 PM
–

One of the things I find most attractive in a man is being a good father. I’m so glad I met my husband and not someone with your mind set
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 10:00 AM
13

How about men stop telling woman how they experience things and vice versa. I have no idea how about how it is to be a man, men have no idea how it is to be a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 05:11 PM
4

Better than most
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 08:13 PM
8

We really don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 04:32 PM
3

No one was saying that on the post. I met my husband just before I turned 30 doesn’t mean I don’t love him. I just hadn’t met him before then.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:52 PM
2

Most men I have been with do it, apart from my ex husband, not why he is my ex. My husband loves it and will do it when ever he gets the chance to, spent quite a long time in our first date doing it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:45 PM
5

This is the funniest comment I have ever read in this sub thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 07:56 AM
2

They are comfortable, they don’t sit between your bum cheeks if they fit right but sits across if that makes sense. I think it depends dd on your shape some people find them comfortable some don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 07:52 AM
3

I agree, I tried in the past it doesn’t work
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 09:26 PM
1

I met my husband on pof he is the only man I met ofc there and it worked out. You have to wade through a lot of bullshit and dick pics
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:36 PM
0

Please spend less time online and more in the real world
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:09 AM
4

It’s not, my husband is one
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 08:34 PM
13

Be the guy she will do both with
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 06:34 PM
6

I love how easy he is to be with, how even when we are doing something boring we can have fun. I love the way he makes me feel, so loved so confident and sexy. How he cares for me his children his family my family, random people he meets. How he feels like home, where ever we are he is my safe place, I can breathe better when he is there. How he believes in me, trusts my judgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 03:48 PM
1

Why is that unlikely? I mean it’s true I was there at my wedding, shockingly I remember it pretty clearly
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:45 PM
2

Because I know my husband No we have been married over a decade and don’t play stupid games and make demands on each other, which stops the build up of resentment which often leads to a drop in desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:05 PM
1

What has that got to do with my comment. My husband doesn’t expect sex just because we are away, in the same way I don’t, neither of us are owed sex. We fuck a lot because we both enjoy it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 02:26 PM
3

What?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 01:54 PM
1

But I enjoy fucking my husband I don’t do it because I have to
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 12:32 PM
7

He never has to make up for it. He is a human with the right to say no. In the same way I don’t have to make up for not being in the mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:44 AM
11

That might be true for some couples, this is not what happens in mine. He has turned me down in the past, no issues people are allowed to not be in the mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:39 AM
12

Not at all, when he sad no that’s it end of conversation. I would NEVER want to have sex with somebody thst is not into it. Love the way you just made up a whole false scenario in your head
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:12 AM
19

I love sex with my husband but love that there is no pressure. As soon as someone is demanding my sex drive disappears
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 09:21 AM
7

When your young they are old to you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:22 PM
22

They are not after the old men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 07:46 PM
–

How do you intend to stop men doing that if that’s what they want to do
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 08:14 AM
1

Our shortes member is 5’9 I don’t know any tall woman who doesn’t like it older than about 20, teen years can suck as a 5ft 11 teen girl
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 06:35 AM
1

How tall are you counting as tall for a woman? I come from a family of tall women, apart from my tiny mum. None of us are shy or self courteous apart from my 14 year old niece but I’m hoping she gets more confident as she grows up
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 06:20 AM
7

I’m glad you got a happy ending :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 12:24 PM
24

Sometimes you are absolutely right. When both are working full time running a house raising a family it’s so bloody hard at times. The frustration kicks in when one person is expected to do far more. This is not gendered. This is not an attack on men as I have seen times when the man is doing far more over a long period of time. As a partnership you need to work out together what the priorities are, some times it’s too much to get everything done and that okay. It’s also important that both side…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 12:03 PM
4

You don’t get to tell me my experience isn’t true. If I like a man I will be nervous You think a woman has never not gotten a second date with someone she likes? You have no clue what it’s like to be a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 08:45 AM
4

Lots of options to fuck is not the same as options for a relationship And if your on a date it’s because you like that person so of course it’s natural to be nervous My first date with my husband I was so nervous until about two hours in, when it just suddenly felt so right. He finally left three days later
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 07:09 AM
5

We don’t have infinite options, yes I agree aspects of dating is easier for women but if we have agreed on the date it’s because we like you so of course we are nervous
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 04:52 AM
1

No not at all
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 07:03 PM
1

Very rarely
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 03:21 PM
2

The books that a lot of women read is more about also having a connection and romance than just fucking. Who twerks these days? Have we gone back to 2010? Fitness make up fashion is not about looking sexy. This sounds like you have never had a proper friendship with a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:37 PM
1

Because I used to sleep around now I’m only slutty for my man
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:18 PM
1

No not at all. I have toys. I would miss that part of our relationship but I don’t want anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 12:02 PM
2

My husband no I wouldn’t. I love that man so much, the sex is great but it’s a small thing in comparison to what we have
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 09:06 AM
1

Processing information Spelling Interacting with people for too long
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 08:59 AM
6

Migraines are horrendous I’m so sorry you suffer with them so badly
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:05 AM
0

I technically have a disability, it has no effect on my dating life, I’m now very happily married. I have met men and women with different degrees of disability of the years, and most of them are dating or married to partners with out disabilities. People should date people they like, dating someone with a disability should only date someone else with one is nuts
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:03 AM
42

What makes you think women don’t worry about that too?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:41 AM
3

Yes in any situation and regardless of gender
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 06:57 PM
9

Best thing is to find a partner who is on your wave length or come to a compromise What gets frustrating as a woman is when a man moans not enough is done but isn’t doing anything to help
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 01:44 PM
–

That is not how it goes, I wish it did
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 01:09 PM
–

I’m currently only attracted to one man and it’s working really well for me because
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 01:47 PM
1

I have one brother. In his 40s. Just under 6ft Bi Was very overweight till 10 years ago when he had surgery. He has always been alt and hard ever been single. He has been married for 15 years I think it is. They are also poly and I think he has 2 gfs and a boyfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 07:07 AM
0

You don’t need loads of money, plus women earn money too, most families both parents work
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 06:31 PM
2

I have no hobbies in common with my husband and we are very happy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 10:17 AM
3

But you don’t have to submit to not be argumentative
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 06:47 PM
2

There is yes you don’t need to have one person is charge or arguments Neither my husband or I are in charge yet we don’t argue about things
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 06:39 PM
3

There is a big difference between submitting and being argumentative
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 05:23 PM
4

The ones saying it have probably never been in a healthy relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 05:22 PM
30

What is your longest relationship? We are a partnership. We don’t discuss every small decision. We can both make them. We do discuss major ones especially things that would affect us both. Discussion doesn’t have to stall things. We are nearly always on the same page. Let’s say it’s a big issue like a house move we are not going to do anything unless we are both in agreement
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 10:03 AM
2

Why have you waited till 35? Old sprem doesn’t make such healthy children
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:28 PM
–

Of course I spoil my husband But there are also other people I want to look after, I run a team of 16 men and 3 women. I take their well being very seriously and go above and beyond to make sure they are doing well, not just in work but their mental and physical health. So not just men but women too
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:21 PM
2

I was in an abusive relationship with someone who made me feel unworthy and crazy. I eventually got out, I had a lot of therapy and learnt I was worth so much more. I took off my rose tinted glasses and started to hold myself and others accountable. I was open about what I wanted, if someone didn’t fit that would r disrespected me I moved on. I also worked out what I wanted in a partner. I then met a man who was hot funny loving and made it clear he thinks the same about me, who actually accepte…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 06:17 AM
2

Yes these are not being asked for for a normal period. There are conditions that make them terrible. In the last year I have gone from predictable period with mild discomfort to all over the place and huge amounts of pain. I have had a lot of tests and a far not had the reason found but have had to go back on birth control which I never wanted to do and deal with all of the side effects. I’m very lucky I can work from home take time off fully paid etc
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 09:04 AM
6

I used to be this one. People who sleep with someone from bars, clubs, parties, or who cold approach them within a few hours of meeting them Now I fuck my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 04:02 AM
2

Why am I so short? Can I be taller? Some one taller than me Nice smile Funny Medium build Knows how to have fun Can support himself
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 06:02 AM
1

Well I don’t need many, I have found the best man in the world and we are very happily married
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 07:47 PM
1

Yes same with men until we are exclusive
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 06:13 PM
1

Nothing. I met my husband in our 30s we both had pasts, all I care about is our relationship not comparing it to past ones. If I sat there asking did you do this for your ex about everything he did for me all I would do is mess with my own head. Life is far too short for that. I’m sure there are things he did with her he hasn’t done with me, but it’s not important
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 03:18 PM
1

I never understand this argument. You get the best and stay with it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 12:03 PM
3

Because I can and it’s fun
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 12:02 PM
2

And I love it when men say they won’t date a slut, saves so much time
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 12:02 PM
3

I’m a mother of three, it’s been the most rewarding experience. I love being a mother, helping them learn grow and thrive. Nothing I have achieved myself has been as exciting as watching my children achieve their goals. It’s not all sunshine and roses but I would not change it for anything
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 05:55 AM
4

Safe honest sex harms no one. I’m not into casual sex these days but have no regrets about having it in the past
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 05:07 AM
2

Because it’s TikTok people like anything they find amusing
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 08:10 PM
10

I think people are looking far to far into it. Also remember people post videos on TikTok to get reactions
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 01:06 PM
2

No one should have children who doesn’t want them it’s not fair on the children. I have been a mother for 23 years and I love it it been the most rewarding thing I have ever done
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 10:36 AM
0

I don’t think you can put everyone into the same category I have seen age gaps work so well and the couple be so happy. We need to let adults choose who they want and stop trying to put everyone into a box
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 10:32 AM
7

Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 10:10 PM
6

I’m not taking anything out on anyone online this is a debate sub
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 09:25 PM
13

Then they are telling you who they are. A lot of people suck unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 07:51 PM
48

If anyone regardless of gender acts like that it’s a huge red flag. Everyone needs to be held accountable, but the important work it holding yourself accountable. I was in an abusive relationship for years and a few years after I left I got serious therapy, I realised my reactions to people were not okay, I could not take out what had happened to me in others. It was the best thing I have ever done.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 07:44 PM
8

The love I have with my husband is different to the love I have with my best friend, which is different to the love I have with my children. They are all so important but very different
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 03:14 PM
2

Sex isn’t the be all in a relationship but it’s very important
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 06:58 PM
1

Haha chickens would of been interesting but it should of said children
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 08:46 PM
1

My husband had chicken when we met, he was not married to their mum but he loves them has always provided for them and they have lived with us more than their mum. Don’t judge all men by your standards
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 05:48 PM
6

Took me too long to learn that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 06:15 PM
3

No it’s not a duty. I have sex with my husband because I want to not because I have to
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 02:50 PM
0

Your poor dad that sounds like a terrible marriage I paid my husbands riot canal form my credit card as we didn’t have the money spare and I couldn’t see him in pain
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 10:21 AM
3

No your in a relationship, that has the possibility to turn into marriage if that’s both of your goals. If you treat them like an option then the chance of it working out drop significantly
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 10:15 AM
–

Not all, one of my best friends husband’s I’m very close to, he is very engaging but it’s a platonic both sides
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 07:34 AM
–

I hope they are loved more than they think
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 06:00 AM
–

Anyone who claims they are valuable just come across as creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 05:22 AM
–

🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 04:59 AM
–

I would not say they are ugly or unattractive, it’s more non sexual. A friend gets with someone and that person is now so off limits I couldn’t look at the like that. In the same way I couldn’t look never look at a cousin in a sexual way
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 04:57 AM
11

Oh god that sounds horrible. I don’t charge men to date me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 03:18 PM
3

I’d say around 50
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 10:00 PM
5

No idea I stopped counting
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 09:54 PM
7

Yeah just the ones I liked
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 04:09 PM
12

This is so true, he absolutely knows how good he is
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 03:42 PM
16

He knows I was very open, before our first date we both had a very honest conversation about our lives, no one in their 30s has the energy to be playing games
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:59 PM
17

He disagrees he is incredibly happy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:58 PM
24

He is living his best life no need to feel sorry for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:49 PM
32

I got dicked by everyone then met the love of my life, nothing bad happens if you do
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:25 PM
2

Please quote your source for this
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 11:38 AM
–

You are trying so hard to make abuse by men the woman’s fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 07:28 AM
–

I fucked my husband on our first date happily married well over a decade so turns out he was looking for a serious relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 07:16 AM
0

I’m feeling the pressure now, it’s only 6.30 in the morning will need coffee first
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 06:38 AM
5

Most people arnt, you are getting g worked up over nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 04:45 PM
2

Your missing the point, your trying to judge everyone on your own thoughts I’m just pointing out different people do things differently
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 04:43 PM
11

Because you have some weird ideas
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 04:42 PM
2

Yes but it can happen
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 04:24 PM
4

They don’t lie a lot if them say they hooked up or had a one night stand. A few might make excuses
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 04:24 PM
4

That’s you, other people are different. My husband and I became exclusive during g our first date, it lasted three days. Became official a week later. Moved in together 4 months after 7 months later brought a house. You can’t put a time limit on other people relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 04:05 PM
–

I disagree, there is no time limit on these things, people need to do what is right for them in their situation
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 03:54 PM
1

Excitement is not the same as drama. My most successful relationship has no drama at all, a lot of sex and excitement though
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 03:50 PM
9

People use different words for things even in the same country. It happens. Sex only matters for the people involved in it. If person one fucks on the first date fine they are no better or worse than the one who fucks on date ten
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 03:48 PM
16

Does it matter what you call it, or what someone else calls it? People get to choose when they are ready for sex with someone, why do you care what others do
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 03:42 PM
2

You have never clicked with someone the first time you met and gone on to have a relationship with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 03:41 PM
3

Not men as a whole as I don’t know all of them but the men in my life I love how caring they are. My husband sons dad friends husbands, friends. I love how they love each other and look out for each other I love male friendships when they make them look so superficial but you can see how far they would go for each other I love how they often see straight through a problem I might be struggling with.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 03:29 PM
2

Not at all. I wear one myself. I’m in my 40s if that makes a difference
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 11:13 AM
–

Your repeating yourself Shall we just keep posting the same thing again and again and see who gets bored first 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 07:19 PM
2

Well in my opinion it is
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 07:08 PM
3

Cool we are allowed different opinions
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:57 PM
6

It’s a ridiculous question so deserves a stupid answer
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 05:45 PM
2

Or have an equal relationship where both parties cook and clean. Being a true partner to each other helping each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 04:20 PM
13

A puppy and 8 orgasms
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:55 PM
9

Oh that sucks, but good for the diet
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:12 PM
15

It’s so much quieter, I’m not reapplying
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:11 PM
52

You might find this shocking but as a woman I can’t read the mind of every other woman on the planet or claim to like a lot of men claim to
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:40 PM
1

I love my husband more than anyone else I have been with. No one else has come close to what we have, I didnt even know it could be like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:29 AM
0

If a man is already thinking along those lines then there is nothing you can do, you can fix his mental health problems only he can. This level of paranoia isn’t worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:14 AM
–

What if our dating life is very satisfying? Why would I need to change anything
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:02 AM
7

Same
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:19 PM
76

Men should smile more
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 11:19 AM
2

This works on me, not sure why. Last year a man I have worked with for years and never found at all attractive demonstrated a really cool skill on a team night out. If I had been single I would have been dragged him back to my room. I was genuinely shocked at my reaction
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:07 AM
11

There are pros and cons to each. But the right person makes it magic. But being happy single is always a good thing or your in danger of getting into and staying in bad relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 08:56 AM
0

I mean they do still approach. I have no issues with it as long as the accept a no with out any drama
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 04:45 AM
3

But if it’s doing the right thing the sex can still be amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 04:35 PM
3

No that’s not what I said at all. A dick doesn’t need to be huge to give pleasure, stop watching so much porn
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 04:28 PM
2

Why is it? There are other factors than size that make such a big impact. If you do not realise this you might want to rethink how you have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 04:08 PM
1

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 06:05 AM
2

Yet I have had great sex with someone with a 2 inch
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 06:04 AM
1

Learn to read I said it’s not the size ffs it’s the angle and motion
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:25 PM
1

I just said it was size that makes me cum, can you not read
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 03:00 PM
–

No we notice both. We still get approached often
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 06:15 AM
2

Only if you look on the sort of subs that support that
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 03:07 PM
2

That’s the reply to everything on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:06 PM
5

I spend a fair amount of time on those apps and with a lot of women. It’s not something I see or hear. I have geard a lot of women cautioning, asking if they are sure as it is HARD being a single parent
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:43 AM
7

Where?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:29 AM
16

Who is telling women especially mothers life will be better? This was never my experience or any women I know
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:06 AM
2

I read something recently that really resonated with me Lots if men want a wife and children, only some want to be a husband and father. I’m now married to a man that is the second, my first husband fell into the first category and it’s such a difference. He still has a very loving and eager wife because I’m not drowning in motherhood
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 10:53 AM
0

Absolutely I agree with most of this But you can still be a sex kitten, if you have a supportive husband. Might take a few years but you can get it back. Only if he is being a proper father
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 10:51 AM
3

Not massive. All about the angle.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 08:39 AM
9

Yes they feel different but the potential pleasure for me isn’t different. I have only regularly orgasmed through penetration alone with my husband and it’s not the size that’s doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 08:24 AM
14

Yup as in those sizes it has the potential to be great in my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 07:26 AM
1

I agree we both want each other to be happy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 07:26 AM
1

My husband gives me princess treatment but I have never asked for it. I also give him prince treatment and again it’s not asked for
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:43 AM
20

Under 8 above 2
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:15 AM
3

I can only answer for myself No I fucked a range of men not all hot. I then had a date with a hottie after talking for weeks. We hooked up next thing I know we are buying a house getting married and raising our family, with lots of dirty weekends when ever we can get childcare
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:08 AM
0

Awesome I’m a ten then
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 10:31 AM
2

I have hardly ever seen a woman here say that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 10:30 AM
1

Some women are some are not. Women are individuals who want different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 06:31 AM
0

Why not have both? Scratch the itch and see where it goes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 09:49 PM
2

Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:58 PM
5

It only worked because he did d the same and told me everything
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:19 PM
3

Sounds exhausting. Before my first date with my husband I told him all my bad points as if he didn’t like them we wouldn’t waste each others time
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:50 PM
4

I’m pretty sure most women are the same, or the ones I know are anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:36 PM
2

Yes then married him
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:20 PM
0

I’m also from the uk and I’m seeing a lot more couples double barrel or keep their own names now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:12 PM
8

Why should they have your over your wife’s? Would you take her name? Double barrel the names? Create a new one?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:26 PM
21

I would never marry a mad I wouldn’t have a one night stand with
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:22 PM
19

So you want a hot employee not a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:09 AM
5

My husband started as a one night stand. 6 months in I realised I wanted to marry him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 07:07 PM
–

We also don’t have set jobs, if one of us sees something needs doing we do it. There are things I want doing he does care about so I do them and the same for him
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 11:07 AM
–

It not something I have tracked, that sound very unhealthy. Thinking about it now My husband works about 4 hours a week more than I do and earns slightly more. I do the food shopping We share cooking Share most of the cleaning, some weeks he does more done I do. I do mornings school runs etc he does the pick up from after school every day but one. I do more planning, dates family etc He fixes more things I do the decorating We both do the family washing I pay the bills I sort clothes for the chi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 11:03 AM
0

Sex on the first date
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 08:11 AM
1

If you want, but hating people is exhausting you would be better off spending that energy on something that will make you happy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 07:13 AM
1

No idea, I think they were just looking for a fight
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 09:35 PM
1

2 had knives but luckily weren’t very effective with them 2 people needed stitches I did more damage taking off my heels and smashing them into the side of the man’s head who was waving a knife towards my ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 07:56 PM
17

Yes I belive parts of dating are a lot harder for men. I sympathise with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 09:14 AM
1

I will never understand how anyone doesn’t try and protect anyone they love. When my ex husband and three brothers got attacked I ran back to them and physically fought off their attackers and did one of the brothers girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 08:55 AM
–

We have loads of toys for both of us. We both enjoy them, the key is finding someone whoes kinks match your
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 09:56 PM
1

Old Old Family party Friend from school Nightclub 35 plus
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 04:39 AM
–

That’s not true at all
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 04:15 PM
–

Who say he isnt her best? My husband is the best I have had by miles, the desire I have for him is like nothing I have felt before. We both put in so much effort to keep things fresh and fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 03:43 PM
7

I’m not saying your friends are but being open to the fact that people in your circle might be hinging that they are bad people is a good thing for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 07:57 AM
–

If it was that obvious less women would get raped. But sure blame women not then men who rape
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 07:56 AM
–

No I’m not sharing any rape stories. A lot of rapists come across very well which is one reason people don’t want to belive they could do it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:58 AM
10

When I was younger I found out a friend was,
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:56 AM
18

Unfortunately rapists will say all the right things while it not being true
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:10 AM
8

Unfortunately rapists don’t wear badges. You do t know they are until it’s too late, they come across as charming respectful etc
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:09 AM
19

How do you know none of your friends would do those things? Are you with them every time they have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:00 AM
1

Cool believe what ever makes you happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 10:36 AM
-2

No we don’t. So many women that I know are very happy with the men in their lives, not just husbands/boyfriends but friends fathers family members
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 06:15 AM
–

Never but my ex did
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:42 PM
–

Fucking other people behind my back
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 07:38 AM
13

I was married and had two children divorced remarried and had a third. Them after my third was born I couldn’t wait to get to 6 weeks and be signed off for sex again. The biggest difference was that my husband was so supportive and still is. When a woman is left to struggle it kills off sexual desire faster than anything else
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 08:48 PM
6

Unless there are big economic changes very few couples will have one partner at home. My husband was a sahh for a while during covid, it was a blast. I wish I earnt enough for him to stay home and be creative
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 07:12 AM
3

Who said anything about lying in your back? How boring. You know birth control exists? I have never been pregnant apart from when I planned to
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 03:45 PM
1

Couples should do what works for them. Relationships don’t have rule books.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 07:37 AM
8

God forbid a girl has a hobby. Typically men who try and slut shame women are jealous no one wants to fuck then.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 07:26 AM
–

My ex was a gamer, I had no issue until it took over his life, refused to come to the hospital when our 4 month old was in the neonatal because there was a dragon raid on. By then it seemed more like an addiction. If I was single again I would date a gamer as long as it wasn’t to that level. In the same way I would date someone who drank as long as it didn’t take over their life
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 08:20 PM
3

My now husband sent me a message on a dating app. He was funny so I answered him. We talked for weeks. Met for a date, he parted three days later moved in 6 months later. He is the most in red pilled man going
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 02:46 PM
1

Then why does it still happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 07:55 AM
2

Because they have no real idea as to what women actually want, they listen to a podcast that tells them what that man thinks and they then refuse to listen to anything else. They also refuse the belive woman are not a molith and that different women have different views we are all money grabbing hoes trying to take all their money.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 07:54 AM
1

I love it. We haven’t experimented with a lot of kinks and I hope we continue to
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 11:12 PM
–

No this is only an issue for men online
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 04:25 PM
–

You also have to prove they told their partner they were on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 06:18 AM
3

Absolutely it should. It is a horrendous thing to lie about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 06:11 AM
–

Nothing delusional about it We are both happy don’t be jealous we have a great sex life
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 07:52 PM
–

I don’t monitor him, it’s something we enjoy together. It’s fine if it’s not something you are happy with we have different boundaries It must be exhausting being so bitter towards men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 05:31 PM
–

I’m fine with him watching porn we watch it together We also have watched only fans together before. No idea when he could of cheated as we spend 98% of our time together Not everyone is a cheater. Don’t judge all men by your own morals
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 04:41 PM
5

Love that for you 😀
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:48 PM
–

Well we have been married over a decade and he hasn’t yet so I’m feeling confident
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:48 PM
9

My husband is mine, he is an absolute one of a kind all round great guy. I don’t even notice other men any more in that way
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:27 PM
–

I haven’t been in an app for well over a decade that’s where I met my husband What about men irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:07 PM
–

I don’t think they are. Most men I know are married and did it willingly, enthusiastically. I have met very few men who don’t want marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 02:57 PM
17

Men with options will cheat if they want to. I know my husband has options but he has never given me any reason to belive he will cheat so I will trust him explicitly
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 02:43 PM
7

No, there are only a handful of people making good money, most work for less than minimum wage age
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:08 PM
1

No
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:08 PM
33

Sex works are treated incredibly badly by society they are ridiculed and abused
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 01:34 PM
3

Yes and it’s not something we ever really talked about. Some times I do more sometimes he does. He doesn’t needs list he is an adult and knows how to keep a house. I need to stay with this man for life as I’m not sure anyone else could compare
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 09:45 PM
–

Yes absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 10:02 AM
–

Thank you, another day of reaffirming that the man I’m married to is worth more than his weight off gold. He is out here being an amazing husband and father and living a great life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 08:51 PM
1

He beat me, raped me emotionally abused me. I should have left the first time but I loved him so much he promised it wouldn’t happen again etc. when it was good it was so so good. It took a lot of work on myself to be able to have a healthy relationship after that. To realise why I stayed, why I thought that was okay for him to do. I spent years waking up screaming from the nightmares but I’m 90% healed now. I wish he had just cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 11:37 AM
-1

I have never met a man who has spoken about birth rates but my husband does contribute to 50% of the chil raising he is able to. He couldn’t carry the children or breastfeed. When I was breastfeeding he would then change the nappy and get our son back to sleep. Most men want a wife and children only some want to be a husband and father
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 06:42 AM
1

I have only had my heart broken once and that was by a man I married. It wasn’t by him cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 07:38 AM
–

Really? I have heard a lot of women say this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 10:42 PM
–

I’m not, we have a great relationship, not perfect but really great
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 10:26 PM
–

I can only speak for myself. I have done much wilder things with my husband than any ons. I have never felt so comfortable and confident with someone. It’s like he has found the cheat codes on how to turn me on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 09:21 PM
6

You not using your imagination very well
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 04:31 PM
1

Yes my husband we have so many sex toys to the point we struggle to find new ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 03:01 PM
6

Yet again another post here that makes me realise what I have with my husband is so fucking special and I need to hang on to that man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 01:51 PM
2

There are areas in smarter there are areas he is. This makes a good team as we pick up the things that we are better at. But no I don’t think I’m smarter and would never say that to him
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:30 AM
1

I will never understand why some women put up with this. If he won’t pull his weight leave. No one is worth putting up with this for. There are me. Who will pull their weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 08:29 AM
2

You know not everyone at parties drinks? What sort of girl do you think goes to parties?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 07:42 PM
1

How is it poison for the soul? If your not willingly by to go where most young people socialise then you can’t moan about not being able to socialise
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 07:16 PM
1

You don’t have to drink no to go to parties. You can go and have fun and meet people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 06:28 PM
3

Oh I’m not talking the abuse that’s different I’m talking the silly stuff it can come from both
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 04:06 PM
9

This is not a male or female thing this is an emotionally immature person thing. I have seen both genders do this
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 04:02 PM
0

What sort of university are you at? I know a lot of early 20s late teens at uni and this is not their experience Throw a party, go to clubs, did you do freshers week? If not do it next year
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 11:39 AM
2

He was cold approaching before he was old enough to go to bars
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 08:29 AM
1

It can do. You can’t just go up to a woman and ask her out. See if you can N find something else to talk about from where she is what she is doing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 08:27 AM
2

Maybe older out your comfort zone go talk to new people
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 08:26 AM
1

As a mother of 4 gen z this is not what I am seeing. Daughter 22 is at uni lives with her boyfriend she met at 13. Son 23 is at uni dates a lot, thus didn’t start till 2 years ago he was a pretty awkward teen but has grown into himself a lot. Son 18 has more girl friends da and hook ups than I can keep track of. He dies a lot of cold approaching Son 19 2 long term relationships This is also pretty common with their friends, most are in relationships or have been recently
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 03:57 AM
–

Where are you getting it from? Or did you just make it up?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 07:45 AM
–

Where are you getting 90% from? It’s a lovely idea that a man would step in when another man attacks a woman but in reality it doesn’t happen
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 07:25 AM
–

No it’s not. I have been punched in the face and dragged out by my hair from a busy pub, not a single person tried to help. I used to work for a dv charity and my story was not unique, people look the other way all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 06:53 AM
–

Cute if you to think anyone steps in man or woman
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 06:16 AM
0

Anyone who abuses anyone else is fucking scum, no matter what gender no matter what type of abuse It’s not cute because w woman does it. Also anyone who makes jokes about it laughs it off when it happens, makes excuses is trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 06:13 AM
1

Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 07:28 PM
0

I think it was about ten hours after we met and he didn’t leave for three days
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:34 PM
2

This is the only place I have even heard that term. I have been told my on here that my husband is a beta because I married him in my 30s after I got the wall 😂 Yet we are both very happy, have a great marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:38 PM
9

Very true, also in this day and age very few men can support a family on just their wage.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 08:07 AM
31

As a mothers who has 4 sons no I don’t want a submissive wife for them. I want them to meet partners who share their drive and ambition. Who inspire them to be the best version of themselves, this is the same as I want for my girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 07:49 AM
1

They do yes, I never said they didn’t it’s a healthy way to be
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 08:56 AM
1

A lot do, most people marry someone who makes around the same. There will always be outliers
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 07:19 AM
–

Not trolling, these days I’m only a slut for him
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:28 AM
3

Yes or in the same sort of amount, hard to find some in the same money down to the penny
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:27 AM
1

And they are the people to try and avoid
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 06:02 AM
0

I love sex with my husband we still fuck loads, I promise being a good partner get him loads of sex
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 10:36 PM
14

I don’t know anyone if my generation that doesn’t work who are all these couples where the wife stays home?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 08:03 PM
22

I think it’s a very dangerous game. It’s very unbalanced and I don’t think it’s good or healthy for either of them. Short term with children is different
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 07:58 PM
67

Or be in a healthy couple where you both provide both look after the children both clean the house
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 07:51 PM
1

I don’t k is anyone who doesn’t like their boyfriend or husband Women are very happy to be single these days
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 07:21 PM
4

I don’t, my husband doesn’t have time to date anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 07:19 PM
1

I agree, I would go on a second date with someone I didn’t want to fuck in the first, but hey I’m a slut who normally fucks on the first date
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 07:10 PM
2

I I my know two, one never wanted to settle down and travels the world/ Country he other was married but after years of begging her husband to listen she divorced him, he then acted shocked. She is concentrating on raising her daughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:01 PM
4

Well if that’s what you think I disagree. I know no woman 40 plus who is single unless it’s by choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 04:43 PM
8

Your level is who you can get into a relationship with
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 04:34 PM
7

If someone is trying to date me, not hook up then they are trying to date me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 04:05 PM
6

No because if he is trying to date me how is he out of my league
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 07:42 AM
3

Yes yes and yes Not only would I but I have
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:16 AM
3

It’s because he beats women up when he doesn’t get own way
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 07:32 PM
1

He can’t keep any relationship for more than 18 months in the 15 years since out divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 06:28 PM
6

Your right some shouldn’t of started but you often don’t know this till further down the line. There does not need to be someone that gets the final say, that’s more of a parent/child relationship not a romantic one
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 04:19 PM
8

Separation is always an option, some relationships shouldnt last. If a couple can not learn how to communicate and conflict resolve they wont make it far
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:21 PM
4

Fair enough I’m in the uk and nearly every couple I know makes similar income
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:13 PM
8

In reality no one has the final say in a relationship, couples talk and work it out or they don’t and separate
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:11 PM
5

My ex thought he was the leader didn’t work well for him. My husband and I lead our family together we both have strengths and weaknesses that balance out well so we work well together
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:53 PM
5

Where in the world are you that most money comes from the man?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:52 PM
6

I’m not at all I know a lot of couples like us
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 03:56 PM
2

Very honest he is the best thing in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 03:41 PM
8

Must be why my husband is always smiling :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 02:57 PM
4

Who?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 07:48 AM
8

Or it’s shared in a fair way. My husband and I both work, we both clan we both raise the children, we have a very happy marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 07:11 AM
25

So no man past 30 is happy? What a sad outlook on life. Do you not know anyone who enjoys life
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 07:02 AM
5

I don’t go in there anymore it’s the most toxic place
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 06:57 AM
12

I have only heard it by men on Reddit mainly this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 05:00 AM
4

Im very good friends, tell each other everything share holidays etc with a lot of very happy couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 12:07 PM
14

I’m sorry you don’t know many happy couples. I know a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:51 AM
6

What? As a any reader I have never come across any involving dogs
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:41 AM
9

Things that made my husband stand out to me when we started dating. What a good dad he is, how he didn’t just parent on his time he was involved so much. His ex was ill he would take them to school, she wanted a night out he would have them etc. How he helps people that he does need things from. During our first date he helped jump start someone’s car. He always try to help make my life easier, little things like having a cup of tea ready when I come in from work, making sure I have stuff for lu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:37 AM
6

What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 08:06 PM
10

It’s healthy to show emotions, as I got older I avoid anyone male or female who does not show them. What’s not healthy for anyone is staying in those feelings too long. I tell my adult children all the time it’s okay to fall apart, to cry in bed etc what ever you need to do, but then you have to get back up, no one else as an adult will do that for you. Everyone has some kind of trauma, some big some small what’s important is learning to work through it so it doesn’t take over your life. To take…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 04:29 PM
7

I’m the lucky one this man is a super star
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 01:25 PM
11

I do this for my husband and he loves it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 01:00 PM
4

For me being with him makes my life better. He is my best friend, having someone who is fighting your courner and you theirs at all times is a great feeling. I would rather do anything with him there than with out me, apart from clothes shopping, it bores him silly and I prefer him not to spend his free time bored. We are a great team, we bring things to the relationship the other doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 12:56 PM
1

Well that depends what country you are talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 06:01 AM
2

You need to let go of resentment and jealousy it only hurts you. I used to feel this way about people who were doing better than me, had better jobs bigger houses etc. once I learnt to let it go I was so much happier. I used that energy to improve my life where I felt it was lacking and my mental health improved so much now I’m so happy and grateful for where I am in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 07:28 AM
2

No they are not when you are young and inexperienced which is when it happens the most
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:14 PM
3

Because bad men do not carry a sign, or not all of them do. They love bomb you, lie to you, normally when you’re young and don’t know any better.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 07:36 PM
1

No im very happily married to an amazing man. There are brilliant men out there but there are unfortunately abusive rapists too. They make dating difficult and dangerous Then there are the men who claim it’s either the victim’s fault or insist they must be lying
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 07:10 AM
3

Fed up of being raped and abused Then if we try and speak up we are told we a w lying orbit was our fault
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 10:43 PM
1

I’m like having that one to one time with my husband with no distractions from the children the house etc. He is my best friend I love just being with him, it’s also important to us both to stay connected as our lives are so busy. I love dressing up for him too so he can remember I can look good not just work clothes and pjs 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:48 AM
1

You need better friends. Friends do help you out, when your world falls soft they pick you up and help you rebuild
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 04:32 PM
2

I have far far more with my husband than any other man, he has unlocked kinks in me I did t know existed
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 05:11 PM
1

Yes I belive I would But why am I earning more and why do I have e to change jobs?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:00 AM
-1

Lots of women have children in their 40s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 05:24 PM
3

This is not something I have really seen in either my social set of my adult children’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 08:18 AM
1

I know no even like the ones you are describing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:33 AM
28

As a way man in my 40s I can say it’s because I don’t base my worth on if men want to fuck me or not. I’m more than a hole between my legs. I am happy with what I have achieved in my life s far and I’m confident I will continue to achieve more of what I want. I have a happy life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:18 AM
1

Do what
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 03:39 AM
4

I’m down for that, my husband is gorgeous he can go naked or in revealing clothes I’d be happy with that. No I would not think it was cheating nor would he think I was cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 04:33 PM
1

Emotionally intelligent, self aware and supportive
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 07:05 AM
6

Any decent sex club does not allow single men in. You think the women at these parties will fuck just anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 01:47 PM
–

No we don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 04:26 AM
1

How much fun and how easy it is to just be with him. We can just be cleaning the house on a Sunday and I’d still rather that than be doing anything else with anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 05:56 PM
4

If anyone actually asked me this I would leave and never speak to them again. It’s such a discusting way to speak to a potential partner
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 09:19 AM
6

Before I met my husband I would of picked friends. Now my husband is one of my best friends. I would pick that man every time. But I still need my friends too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 05:49 PM
1

Well done for realising you needed therapy The therapy is not the red flag here it’s how you treated your ex wife. I fully belive people can and do change. But it’s a big risk as a woman to go into a relationship with someone who did that. My advice is not to share the details. You don’t have to share every part of your life with someone you just started talking to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 08:02 AM
3

Of course they do. Some are ok some are not
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 07:12 AM
11

Yes. I met the one guy was so hot he asked me out all going well till I realised how boring he was. Very very dull . The date was so boring I went to bed with him just to stop him talking and the sex was brilliant. There was no second date I couldn’t cope with the rest of it. Also I have found men attractive but they have had some flaw that would stop me dating them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 04:35 AM
2

This might sound crazy but different men have different opinions on things
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 03:38 PM
2

I don’t care about numbers, I care about actions. Cheated on every past relationship then I’m out. I care about lot about lying. Letting someone into my life and family is a big deal to me and I want a partner I can trust
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 07:26 PM
3

I’m in my 40s now and have seen several couples whose wedding I attended divorce. Every single one was for the clauses you listed. No one just went this is a bit hard let’s divorce they all tried, sometimes it can’t be worked out
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 04:40 AM
1

I did consider that doesn’t change my answer
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 04:40 AM
7

Honestly I have never met one and only hear about it in this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 07:25 PM
–

I agree the best feeling is loving and being loved 🥰 m very lucky that have found that. But we don’t all meet our person straight away so I don’t see the issue in having fun while you look if you want to
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 06:24 AM
46

The wife, I have no issue bringing poor I have been before, I can earn my own money. I would be in my own before being a side chick. Also children are important to me and I will not have my children born outside of marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 05:09 AM
1

Do I need my husband? No Do I want him very very much yes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 09:15 AM
–

I promise you women over 20 do not think about penis size nearly as much as you lot
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 07:47 AM
1

To what level? Watching a film and finding someone hot it very different from thinking about your co worker during sex
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 04:29 AM
1

If course This is what happens when men try and guess what women think instead of listening to them I love my husband more than I thought possible. I also fancy him so so much more than any other man
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 04:04 AM
–

I do have sympathy to me s struggles, but we can’t force women to date men. Luckily my adult sons are all doing very well dating, especially the autistic one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 03:23 AM
1

I disagree. My husband was divorced so was I when we met. According to statistics our marriage is doomed, but it’s amazing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 06:28 PM
0

A marriage is not a job. If I had that attitude I would not of married my husband and missed out on an amazing life
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 06:09 PM
0

Or more likely she didn’t like them enough to go further
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:41 PM
1

Once I tried and couldn’t. I don’t class as him outting it in then me crying in pain as having sex. I have also tried a huge range of sex toys.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:18 AM
2

Yes and more importantly he knows what to do with it. I have turned down sex with men because their dicks are too big and would hurt me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:09 AM
3

I knew my husband was husband material 2 weeks after the our first date that he was someone I really wanted to see where it went. He is the best I ever had in every way
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:06 AM
0

No not true at all. He is the best I have ever had in every way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:01 AM
1

Why do you think she won’t have amazing sex wet the man she married? I have had the best sex with my husband done more things wry him than all the other men I fucked
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:43 AM
7

Most men I have encountered understand consent just fine and stop when you ask them to. I don’t think it’s fair to say men don’t understand as that’s painting all of them in a bad way. Some choose not to and that small set of men are the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:53 AM
2

6 long term Some short term Now married Sorry it wasn’t clear
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 01:41 PM
1

I have been in an abusive relationship before. If I ever had the sort of argument with my husband that seemed like if I didn’t shut up it would end in violence I would shut up then leave
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 08:00 PM
8

6 long term more short now very happily married
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 06:37 PM
4

Who is getting ghosted?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:53 PM
2

It’s never been about an achievement for me, it was about fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:36 PM
24

It was fun. I liked the new experience with a new partner. After a few drinks I’d often be horny and made a change from doing it myself. All my relationships started at hook ups
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:35 PM
1

In my case not at all why would I marry a man I find less attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 02:29 PM
1

The random hook ups have in gernal been less good looking than the men I have had long term relationships with. But I was never that fussy who I hooked up with
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 02:24 PM
4

Im Great at all those, I spent years learning to be good at sex it’s not something anyone is born knowing. Like any skill it requires time and effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 07:10 PM
2

No one says that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 05:00 AM
1

To really know someone is say about a year. I a first date girl, if the chemistry is there let’s try it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 04:56 AM
4

As a bi women they are very different and have different difficulties
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:10 PM
1

You know it’s a film. It really life?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 01:41 PM
6

I do not know any couples my age or younger that they are not both working unless there is a baby under 2. So this whole provider seems to be something thst is mainly just an idea. My husband is my equal partner not an atm machine
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 04:34 AM
3

Thank you what we have is amazing and I feel so lucky to have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:00 PM
7

If he couldn’t work for some reason for the rest of his life then I would support him, you don’t walk away because it gets hard. Depending on the reason he couldn’t work I’d need him to step up in other ways to help and I know he always would if he was able I am not with him for the wage that hits his bank account. He is my best friend my world.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 10:55 AM
13

He lost his job years back, I paid for everything till he got back in his feet. Marriage is about being a team. While he was off he picked up more with the children and house same as when I was on maternity leave. We don’t keep score, we both do what needs doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:50 AM
8

Right now slightly more
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 03:17 AM
10

We make pretty much the same, some times one of us out earns the other but never by much right now I earn more We both paid for the wedding and rings
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 03:17 AM
6

Yes we do,
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 03:15 AM
36

I’m married and I’m an equal relationship it’s the best. We pool our money share the housework child raising etc we are a team
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 08:12 PM
2

I’m a first date or not at all girl
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:09 PM
4

Maybe a high as 30 over all. Though some of them are mmm would be shorter term not serious with young people who have no idea what they are doing
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:39 AM
8

That’s a lot of words Fri say you have never had a good relationship. Are some relationships like that? Yes of course and those are the ones you should leave. I do not belive most people live like that or they would not be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:07 AM
2

There are not, the difference is sexual
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 05:37 PM
3

But I know other people in this situation I think it’s much more common than you think
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 11:02 AM
-3

I divorced my dickhead ex remarried sober 10 years and have far more sex with him
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 09:28 AM
30

Most people marry someone with in similar wage brackets the amount of sahm are dropping I was the main breadwinner for a while I loved coming home to a clean house a dinner cooked
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:37 PM
0

Yes I have been. If I liked her and got I. With her why would I not want to be friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 05:32 AM
3

When I hear people, men or women has they don’t want someone with baggage it very much comes across as I don’t want someone that won’t put up with their shitty behaviour. Everyone has baggage it could be from an ex or their parents or just life in general. Everyone goes through things, it’s our responsibility to over come these things and to grow as a person and not take it out on someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 02:15 PM
0

Listen to what people show you not what they say words are easy
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 08:01 AM
5

I hate when stupid laws work against half the population
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 05:59 PM
5

If I lived their I would encourage all my male friends and family members to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 05:56 PM
10

I love this, I hope loads of men do it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 05:54 PM
–

I am autistic as are two of my children and a lot of people in my social circle. I’m just talking about my experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 08:23 PM
–

I’m not saying it’s the same but not all autistic men struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:48 PM
–

Not most of them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:16 PM
–

I also work with a lot of autistic men, and all but one are in long term relationships or married. I have a cousin who can not live alone and is rarely single
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:02 PM
–

I know a lot of happily married autistic men including my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 06:02 PM
1

I treat most men the same apart from the ones I know my husband dad step dad sons and friends. The rest are treated with indifference mainly unless they harass me then they get called out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 06:32 AM
9

My husband is definitely my prize, he also views me as a prize. We both bring a lot to the table. This is how it’s ment to be, both appreciating how lucky they are to have each other
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 07:29 AM
2

No I got a divorce and remarried. I do not recommend getting married young wait till you know who you are and what you want in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 05:06 AM
31

I took them while being a trad wife. I’m much happier being a working wife and mother
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 10:55 AM
–

I hate that phrase so much. I don’t have a set of rules what I do expect is that my partner is as committed as I am. I’m very lucky I married a man 11 years ago who is as in to me as I am to him. He isn’t perfect he messes up but so do I. We both priorities each other and our family and enjoy being with each other, being in our bed together at night is my favourite part of the day
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 02:54 PM
8

There are so many great fathers out there, mine included and my step father. My husband is an amazing dad as are my friends partners
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 02:51 PM
7

I can’t think of any relation ship I had that didn’t start with a hookup so yes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 02:49 PM
18

Who are all these uninterested fathers? Yes there are some but I see far more dad who are very hands on and involved
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 01:00 PM
6

Anything that imply or out right say all men and the same. I know so many men that do not fit in the narrative that men are bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 11:08 AM
2

And that’s only going to damage them. People need to work on themselves for themselves before dating. It’s no one’s job to fix you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 06:28 PM
18

Of course some days are harder but the over all shouldn’t be
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:08 PM
43

The best advice I can give anyone regardless of gender is walk away if someone is abusing your niceness. A relationship is ment to enhance your life not make it worse. It’s something I have been talking to my oldest son about a lot over the last 18 months and he has luckily worked it out and has walked away from women showing toxic signs and is now with an amazing girl and very happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 02:25 PM
2

If it was a film I felt strongly abused it yes. I see no shame or embarrassment in it. The man I’m married too would 100% support me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 06:12 AM
7

When your young with little dating experience you are learning. From what I have seen in life a lot of young people make and female can be toxic. Most grow and learn from this. They become better partners as they grow up. This is why so many people have had bad exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 04:54 AM
1

No, I want something g real with a real person flaws and all. I love that my husband and I have grown together encourage each other to do better be better. We have built a life and family together, been through ups and downs together. I don’t want some pretend relationship just to get someone who looks perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 08:23 AM
1

As a woman who has been married over a decade absolutely not Sex with my husband is the best feeling in the world
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 07:38 PM
4

Yes it was very helpful to deal with some things that had happened Ed to me. What was also very helpful was realising that some of my behaviour since I developed ptsd was not acceptable and that I had to change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 09:36 AM
2

Another reason could be there are too many stories like one of my close friends who has a 9 month old baby with man who begged to have a baby with her who has now just checked out. Isnt coming home for days on end while she holds everything together. He showed no signs of this at all. Was so excited to become a dad. My first husband did this too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 08:48 AM
1

It’s not a common belief it’s what a small bunch of oddballs online think
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 05:42 AM
2

Well my friends d was telling me the sex is good and she likes spending time with him but has no desire to ever live with a man again, she doesn’t need the extra work I’m very very lucky with my husband and don’t feel I would be this lucky again
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 05:39 AM
14

How much younger? A few years cool Young enough she could be his mother? Sick
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 07:11 PM
7

The point of what? There is more to life than relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 07:08 PM
9

a lot are
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:10 PM
3

In here all the time everyone claims single mums are trash and should be avoided at all costs. I’m saying if I say to become one I wouldn’t date
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:06 PM
8

Well you all hate single mums anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:39 PM
32

I’m married now but if we were to split or he died I’d stay single at least until my youngest was 18 if not for ever. I don’t need to be with someone. I love my husband but I wouldn’t want some random I’m too set in my ways for that. I know a lot of women my age who feel the same. One of my best friends was saying the other day she has no issue with casual dating but nothing more she won’t even spend the night with the man she is seeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:11 PM
3

Sorry I got the notification
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:37 PM
4

We have 6 children between us that’s plenty lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:16 PM
4

I’m a Middle aged women not larping as anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:12 PM
28

I don’t care I have been parenting for 23 years and I love it. No one should have children unless they want to but some of us love it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 11:22 AM
52

I have kids I love them, yes it’s hard at times but absolutely worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:14 AM
–

No but that sounds more fun that what I have planned tonight
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:22 PM
–

As a woman I have no problem with my breasts. They have fed three babies, they balance out my hips in clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:51 PM
8

He is going to see attractive women, he is going to see women more attractive than me. It’s life. I completely trust him and will unless he gives me reason not to. I see men that I find attractive, but here’s the thing you can see a good looking person and not jump into bed with them or obsess about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 08:20 AM
6

Yes I’m married to one. It’s hard at times blended families are not for everyone, but for me it’s absolutely worth it. My husband is an amazing man who makes my life better in every way. But if you’re not fully committed to being a step parent then don’t do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 08:18 AM
5

Dating is hard at times for everyone. Some people find it harder than others due to factors they can not control, some through factors they can control What annoys me is when anyone starts saying all men all women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 09:29 AM
–

I didn’t marry a child so my husband is fully aware of the work it takes to run a household We don’t do set jobs we just do what needs doing when it needs doing. We don’t keep track, sometimes one does more other times the other does more
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:01 PM
4

What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 09:09 AM
2

What dumb shit are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 07:23 AM
2

Not always, my husband absolutely does his share of parenting our child and does 100% of parenting of his 2 sons as they live with us not their mum at all
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 07:19 AM
17

I’m a child of a blended family and I’m now part of a blended family. I love my step children, they seem to love me. It’s bloody hard but with hard work it can work out. My children also love their step dad. All children have both parents involved. My husbands ex has spent Xmas with us, has stayed at our house when needed. If all parties work together it can be great
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 02:35 PM
–

That meet your standards, so your saying women do find uou attractive just not the ones you like. I have dated large men, I know other women that have. You never know who you will meet when
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:59 PM
–

And how do you know that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:41 PM
–

As a woman I have desired a lot of men, yet never the same as my friends. It’s almost like we have different tastes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:30 PM
4

I’m very sorry that is your experience
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:36 PM
1

A date with the woman and a thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:26 PM
27

Of course
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:25 PM
19

Have you ever had a long term relationship? Do you have any idea what they are like?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:24 PM
–

Yet when he did lose his job a few years ago that didn’t happen. It’s almost as if we have a great relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:22 PM
–

I actually feel bad for him, if this is what he really feels
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:14 AM
–

That’s not true though, you seem to know very little about women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:30 AM
–

As a woman I can tell you I really love my husband for who he is, after well over a decade of marriage I still desire him all the time. Stop telling men women don’t love and desire them, we do
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:12 AM
3

I have not seen anything to back this up, but I’m also married so not really the target audience. From talking to our adult children and their friends they do not see this or most of the problems that are talked about here
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:07 AM
1

Haha funny Go on to a are we dating the same man group These are not the top 20%. They are men from all walks of life, there are good looking men ugly men tall men short men, men with good teeth men with no teeth.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:20 PM
6

Most of us do not want a leader and we keep saying this, then we are told we are lying
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 07:47 PM
11

Yes when I was younger, I also had men assume that I would sleep with them because I had sex with other men and get angry when I wouldn’t. I have also been raped by men and told it does t matter as I willingly had sex with other men
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 09:23 AM
1

Witch one do I get on with the best money isn’t that important
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 05:50 AM
3

Yes I only work because I have to
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 05:13 AM
6

I had a much better dating life in my 30s when I met my husband than 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 05:36 AM
–

Redit is the only place I hear it. I hope those who struggle find someone they are happy with
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 05:13 AM
–

I disagreed strongly. Different people enjoy different things during sex, have different quirks and kinks. What some people enjoy others hate
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 05:11 AM
0

I have only met one man online, we are now married
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 04:19 AM
3

I agree men who shout they are feminists are often bad people But I don’t agree on your thoughts on who they date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 04:45 AM
5

No that’s not my experience at all normally the opposite, my main experience with men who claim to be feminists are absolutely not and are often shouting so loudly to cover their abusive behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 02:51 AM
2

Maybe I just got lucky then
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 02:42 AM
12

If have no issue with it at all
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 07:33 AM
6

Not all men are perverts
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 07:32 AM
9

There are great dads out there. My husband is brilliant father
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:36 AM
12

Or live with him first make sure he doesn’t do these things
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:35 AM
1

I can’t talk for all women but both times I have ghosted someone has been because they became very creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:17 AM
–

He was your husband of course you miss him, you built a whole life with him I’m very sorry I misunderstood your post u thought you were talking about a short teenage relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 03:14 PM
–

If you are still hung up on an ex then you should work on yourself before you start dating again
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 02:49 PM
–

First is no more special than any other love, it tends to be pretty unimportant as it’s normally not long lasting
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 02:43 PM
4

Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 02:41 PM
5

Is it as high as half? Yes there are a lot of women choosing not to have children
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 10:14 AM
6

Lots of us do
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 09:25 AM
4

I belive different couples will find their own way of doing this that works for them. My husband and I earn nearly the same, though he works longer hours. We pool all our money. We share the housework in a very fluid way. We don’t have set jobs, we do what needs doing as and when we have time. If one of us is having a bad day the other picks up the slack. We both love cooking so again this is shared and most nights we both cook. The only jobs that are set is he puts the bins in and out as I neve…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 05:16 AM
6

There are husband goggles too. When you love someone them aging isnt a problem and you don’t notice it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:34 PM
–

How are you so sure they do?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 08:56 AM
1

No he is 7 so still in school
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 05:25 AM
4

If you parent them properly they don’t live in your basement playing on video games. We are raising 4 boys three of which are adults all doing really well. They know we would never let them sit on their play station all day doing nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 03:36 PM
–

On today’s issue of why women are wrong in everything they say and do
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 03:31 PM
2

I just don’t notice men in the same way, I’m very happily married. I used to see a lot of men that caught my eye when I was looking I love a cheeky grin, confidence and seem happy
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 11:52 PM
-1

Buying How can anyone have sex knowing the other person is only doing it for money I’ll ne er know x
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 07:45 PM
11

They are some I met through work some I met through hobbies. I have a husband I have no interest in dating other men. I like having friends though
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 07:32 PM
41

I have a few male friends none of which I find attractive or would ever date even if they were my type
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 03:16 PM
3

A best friend Lots of love Great sex Feeling like it’s us against what ever shit life is going to throw at us. A great co parent Trust Someone I can tell my weirdest thoughts to and they won’t run screaming Someone that trust me to be completely open with me, to show me their deepest self. I’m sure there is more I’m very lucky as I have this
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 06:12 AM
3

If its just you having this problem maybe its your delivery?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 06:07 AM
4

Most people can not tell things nearly as much as they think they can
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 07:34 PM
5

I have friends who have never had a ons or sex on the first date. Would the men here assume they were fucking everyone else on the first date
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 06:22 AM
4

How would you know how long other men waited?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 05:14 AM
1

Where are all these men that hate make up?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 05:59 AM
-1

Maybe I’m just very lucky then
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 07:32 PM
-2

What men are you mixing with? Most normal men are not like this
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:04 PM
0

Because my husband has had a vasectomy When we started dating we used condoms
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:26 AM
5

Interesting as I was visiting my kids at uni last weekend they are gen z early 20s, we were hanging out with their friends and they were all saying, men and women that being asked for their snap is a huge turn off. The phrase are we still 12 was mentioned a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 06:45 AM
7

For starters this doesn’t make sense viewing rape as bad (which it is) does not make people view promiscuous men the same as women. Anyone raping anyone regardless of gender is discusting and the belong in jail
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 07:25 AM
5

I’d never date a man who earnt considerably more than me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 05:11 PM
17

I don’t have sex with my husband out of obligation I do it because we both enjoy it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 11:03 AM
6

Yes we do
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:51 AM
11

Sometimes it just sexual compatibility between the two people. Learning what the other person likes, when you are both working forward the other persons pleasure. Most is not just the penis in vigina sex but the teasing g throughout the day the for play, the first texts
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:50 AM
60

It’s not the size they are talking about, it’s the fact that the sex between them is so good
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:01 AM
24

They really do. This place is like being back at school when the boys constantly took the piss out of each other about dick size
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 09:51 AM
44

I have only met one woman who is all about huge dicks. I promise men care more than women do
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 09:13 AM
2

It’s called the freedom program and it often run by charities and shelters for DV
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 05:27 AM
3

I don’t behave in any way to a less good looking man. I have no interest in a man that isn’t my husband in a sexual way
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 04:21 PM
2

Uncertainty to me is more is my partner committed Relationships especially long term ones can get boring at times, life gets busy etc. the important thing is to communicate and put in effort. My husband and I have 6 children between us, life is expensive and exhausting. We make sure we have regular date nights, weekends away. It takes time and effort to keep a relationship exciting
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 11:10 AM
8

I do not love my husband for what he does, I love him for the person he is. Saying that I do appreciate the things he does for me. I didn’t stop loving him when he lost his job, or when his looks started to change, luckily he also did t stop loving me when I changed
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:30 AM
1

I’m a child of divorce My parents co parented really well, both remarried great people. Divorcing doesn’t need to be a terrible thing, but you need to be able to put your children first. It’s another reason to be carful who you have kids with
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:22 AM
16

He bitched all the time. One of the many reasons he is an ex
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 01:37 PM
6

I have helped friends with theirs. They were using terrible photos nothing in the bio. All three said it improved their matches. They have great personalities just hadn’t put in much effort
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 05:13 AM
2

I could never enjoy something sexual knowing my partner didn’t want to be doing it. If you could you that says a lot about you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:20 PM
0

I do yes. What I don’t do is sexual things nor does he
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 03:25 PM
0

No it’s not. If you don’t like it you shouldn’t be doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 01:30 PM
6

Would you want to engage in any type of sexual activity with someone who wasn’t into?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 01:08 PM
7

For me no, I love sex and would never want someone to try and engage in it if they didn’t want to, nor would I live with out it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 01:07 PM
1

Sorry yes I was typing a reply while also reading an email. In the first in mean we tend to end the sex see soon with piv The second I was talking about orgasming
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 01:04 PM
4

I love piv it feels so good even if I don’t orgasm I love finishing with it Sex isn’t just about finishing, it’s the whole journey
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 11:27 AM
1

This is bullshit. The right man offers so much more than. Money, in fact money should be the last thing you look for. Look for a best friend who loves the weird bits about you, that is easy to be with, you can chill not talking. You can also talk about anything with. The person you would pick out of every one to be with
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 06:18 AM
2

Not all. I dated men with no kids never been married I dated divorced men with out kids I dated divorced men with kids. It’s like men are individuals who have their own brains
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:14 AM
4

I can’t speak for all women, but I have never had the problems men on this sub talk about
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:59 PM
4

In that case what are men moaning about? When I was a single mother with a high body count I had no issues dating very well
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 07:39 PM
9

Because they are cunts
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 05:45 PM
17

I would do a paternity test if it was asked before trying for a baby
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:28 AM
17

It’s not that deep, there is a lot of questionable music out there, she is just a popular artist right now
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:00 AM
59

Oh no a pop star know for this type of music makes this type of music because it sells. There is also a lot of music that’s anti women, it’s just music if you don’t like it don’t listen to it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:52 AM
6

When I was a single mum the person I got with was a single dad, I have seen it happen a lot. Far easier to be with someone who understands what being a parent is like, the commitment and limitations etc. I have never looked for a man to finance me and my children.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:50 AM
5

I only hear hate for them online. A lot of men in the real world love sluts, a lot don’t hate single mums and of girls. We need to stop this all men all women bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:46 AM
2

You know they can do both? The child in question is 18 and studying g at college preparing for uni. College is different in the uk.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 06:09 AM
3

Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 07:36 PM
–

That’s is absolutely disgusting behaviour and should not be tolerated
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 07:31 PM
3

Not at all my parents did the same, after at our house than down the park
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 07:27 PM
8

The young people I know do have them, my step son has them once a month in our house, we disappear for the night. My son and his friends have them as do my daughter and her crowd
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:25 PM
7

What percentage of relationships start with cold approaches?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:20 PM
1

Also a short time doesn’t matter to me if the for post was good
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 04:51 AM
1

How long is a piece of string? Different partners are different, also different situations are different. My husband for instance doesn’t not last the same anoint e sry time
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 04:48 AM
2

I can only speak for my self but no this has never been a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 05:08 AM
1

If I was to have another child, I’m not goi g to for many reason I’d want to use a doner egg because I now know I am a carrier for a genetic condition, that my daughter has. I have had another child since but did not know about it then
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 10:26 AM
3

If you want a dna test for future children then you say this before hand not whe your wife has just given birth
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 07:38 AM
31

Those women are not normal
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 02:41 PM
1

Thank you, dating isn’t just about finding someone hot you need to find someone compatible who like the same weird stuff as you, who you can chill with while not doing anything who you can laugh with when life gets hard
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 07:12 PM
6

I would t date a man with a dangerous job, my anxiety couldn’t cope
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 07:11 PM
3

I would t date a man with a dangerous job, my anxiety couldn’t cope
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:46 PM
1

No it was ment to be lunch, it wasn’t ment to be that long. We just got on really well, I felt comfortable he made me laugh, we just had a lot to say to each other still do
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:35 PM
1

We talked all day most days started as text then phone calls. We met when we felt ready, we talked about everything. Our first date lasted 3 days been married over 10 years
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:19 PM
2

Oh god that sounds horrible. I couldn’t go and meet a stranger. I have only met one man from online dating and spent 6-8 weeks talking first. Was a long time ago can’t remember exactly how long
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 02:41 PM
–

Yes I met my husband when he was out of work and setting up in his own
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 10:34 AM
1

1 ⁠Would you date a man who uses marijuana at least once a month? Yes ⁠Would you date a man who considers himself to be a devout christian? God no ⁠Would you date a man who dislikes physical exercise? Yes ⁠Would you date a man who doesn't believe that gay marriage should be legal? No ⁠Would you date a man who believes that abortion should be illegal? No ⁠Would you date a man who watches porn at least 3x a week? Yes as long as it doesn’t interfere with our sex life ⁠Would you date a man who lives…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 07:10 AM
–

No we don’t. I’m very against it and I’m vocal about it. It’s disgusting
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:00 PM
–

They do all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:57 AM
–

That’s not true, my husband doesn’t have a gym bod, I have never wanted a man as much as him
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:49 AM
2

If the right man has money it’s a bonus. Compatibility isn’t easy to find
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 07:00 PM
8

But not the most important Money doesn’t make someone comparable, it doesn’t make them a good partner
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:56 PM
7

When I was looking for a husband I wasn’t looking at his bank balance but the person he is
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 05:53 PM
21

Where are all these men who can afford a wife and children on just their wages? Most can not. I like working, I find my job fulfilling. I also find it comforting to know should my husband drop dead or leave me I can provide for my children.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 03:33 PM
18

I don’t financially need my husband. I love him and love our life together. It’s not because he is a man it’s who he is as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 11:57 AM
–

I don’t see the issue with it,
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 11:52 AM
9

It will come when it comes maybe it’s not a priority
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 05:33 AM
3

No
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:28 AM
15

Ai girlfriends will have zero impact to my life and I have never thought about them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:23 AM
1

In your weird internet world yes. From talking g to real people in the real world no not really. Turn the phone off join the real world
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 07:13 PM
3

I am friends and close family with lots of average men, no one thinks hardly anyone finds their one person the first time
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 06:14 PM
4

Yeah I’m sure your right, I actually feel bad for some of the men here with these views they are going to ruin any good relationship that comes their way
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 02:39 PM
7

Sorry I should have included that information the oldest is 70 the youngest 23. Most late 20s and into 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 05:47 AM
5

They are a range of looks and ages as are the men. I’d say on average they are pretty well looks matched. The wives all work
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 05:46 AM
2

So what is the real reason
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 04:21 AM
7

Because I’m friends with a fair few of them, Yes I ask women that what an odd thing to say. I ask my friends a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 04:21 AM
5

It’s called people are out there happily living their lives
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 07:39 PM
13

The ones I know are. My married friends make and female are mainly happy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 06:11 PM
15

Yet when you go outside you see average men the time in couples. I work in a heavily male field, no one is single, not a single chad among them. I talk to them daily and most are very happily married.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 04:09 PM
4

I really hope you heal from your trauma, there are a lot of people of both genders who are good people but also those who are not. I hope you find the right people in your life
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 06:35 AM
4

Anyone man or women who does anything g like this should be locked up for a long time. Gender should have no say in sentencing. It’s very unfair. The women who call them selves feminists on X are horrible and as a feminist I in no way associate with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 06:34 AM
1

She should of got far longer that is beyond discusting
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 06:18 AM
3

And as parents it’s our job to get them away from screens it makes such a difference
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 04:36 AM
–

To start with most women do not get 1000s of matches, that’s for the insta models types. Lots of women do not expect a man to pay for dates, lots do, you can’t lump all women together like that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 01:20 PM
1

Better for everyone? What about children?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 04:06 AM
4

Yes but it doesn’t bother me It makes me realise how lucky I am with my husband and how hard we both need to work so our boys do not end up like the men here. So far it’s going very well
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 03:14 PM
1

This is such lies. Of course there are horrible women who fell like this but it’s only some of them. The women in my life have no issues whatsoever with their men being emotional. The men who didnt last are the ines who could only show anger
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 05:56 AM
1

I don’t, I married him
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 12:57 PM
4

Nobody is better at making yourself orgasm than you. This is true for everyone. Everyone can masturbate themselves faster than another person can. This is not true, my husband makes me cum faster and more powerfully than I can do myself. Posts lukewarm this always make me so thankful I’m married to a man who is not a selfish lover. He won’t even think about piv until I have cum serval times.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 04:33 AM
–

As much as I appreciate what you are saying I know so many women like me. Married or long term relations who are true partners who hold it down like our other half’s do, and they are brilliant dads do their fair share of the house work etc. real partners not playing games
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 01:31 PM
–

As a woman I totally agree. I paid for some of our first date, it lasted three days. My husband lost his job due to Covid no way was I kicking him out. We are a team. I don’t care about things going wrong I’m not with him so he can pay for everything I am with him because he is such an awesome person
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:55 AM
8

Another man posting about dicks 🫣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 04:31 AM
6

Not true my husband’s ex pays him as he has full custody
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 04:18 AM
2

Anyone who wants unconditional love should get a dog As someone who is very happily married my husband does not love me unconditionally, our relationship would be very unhealthy if he did
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 03:15 PM
3

I wouldn’t be comfortable with that. I love the intimacy of cuddling being close etc, I love the middle of the night and morning sex,
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:15 AM
5

How boring
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:13 AM
3

When do women say men are not entitled to honesty?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:08 AM
1

No not at all. If I have stayed with my first husband my children would of gone through hell and I would not of met my current husband
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 07:02 PM
1

No my relationship was pretty perfect the. It’s pretty perfect now
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 06:30 PM
10

While I’m in bed naked with him? Now I’m scared. The fact he is bringing it up at a time I’m vulnerable says a lot about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 10:05 AM
1

My granny always said it was when you cared about someone else’s happiness more than your own,
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 05:13 AM
2

God no
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 07:59 PM
1

No I would not be surprised at all. I look round all of them men I know and everyone over 25 is married or living together apart from a few windows, and most seem to be in happy healthy relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 07:58 PM
2

Looks wise for me 80% Then they open their mouths and start spouting crap so about 1%
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 04:05 PM
5

I’d be really uncomfortable if a man I just met gave me money like that, big red flag if run
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 08:23 AM
3

I would never ever want to be hit on while dinning with my mum
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 03:38 PM
5

I have never head anyone say this online, especially on kink/swinger sites.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 04:38 AM
14

I can only speak for myself but I’m very happily married
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:08 AM
27

I. My experience any man who shouts about being a feminist is a walking red flag. They tend to be the worst of the worst and do not actually believe it but use it as a cover, they tend to be the “nice guys” who tell you how nice they are then treat you like shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 09:04 AM
–

Then say an equal partnership, as it is not the same thing A lot of people when they say 50/50 means exactly that, splitting each bill in half doing half of everything
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:22 AM
–

Well 50/50 means literally splitting everything 50/50
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:13 AM
–

50/50 has the danger of keeping score. We share everything, at times I have earnt more at times he has. We both had time at home not working with our son. We both cook clean etc. I decorate he does diy, that’s where our skill set is best. No point scoring, both being team players. If he is having a rough time I’ll pick up the slack, if I am he will.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 07:58 PM
5

This is why parents should be parenting
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 01:32 PM
9

One did and we are incredibly happy
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 09:15 PM
1

True but actions speak louder than words
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 07:31 PM
3

When I met my husband I was a single mum but had my shit together, good job plus a side business, was buying my own house, no drama
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 07:07 PM
7

In the people I know this is not true at all. I dated two men as a single mum both wanted to marry me. The women I know who have become single mothers have never been short of good men wanting to marry them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:42 PM
–

For me it’s very important, it’s also something you need to put reform into long term. We have been married over a decade, have a large family, both work full time. We make sure we go away just the 2 of us at least every 8 weeks. We plan date nights often. Spend proper time together, it’s too easy to get so caught up in a busy life you stop prioritising each other
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:46 PM
16

That’s great they don’t seem the sort of man most women would want
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:43 PM
12

Cool, but I have never seen men not want to date single mothers, or single mothers struggle to date
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:38 PM
27

I only see this online. I was a single mother after my divorce, I’m sure there were men who didn’t want to date me because of it, that’s fine I didn’t want someone who didn’t want me. I was in no way treated badly etc because of it or had a bad experience because of it. It’s another thing that seems like revenge fantasy
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:31 PM
7

No I wasn’t because I was young and dumb. I will never be in that situation again
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:05 PM
1

Very sex positive I love sex
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 06:24 AM
-1

No because I wasn’t scared until it happened to me, I thought my mum was being dramatic
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:39 PM
10

Have you ever been to couples therapy?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:07 AM
2

Maybe she likes you as a friend
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 06:50 PM
0

Maybe she likes you as a friend
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 06:49 PM
0

Too much if someone did that to me I would walk. I did do Claire’s and Sarah’s law on my husband before he met my children though but that is a safety measure not checking his income
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 03:14 AM
2

Very good point, I just assumed with the size you wouldn’t want to stick something that big in the back door
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 02:09 PM
4

Haha honestly some of the toys they sell are insane! Guess some women like them, comes down to the whole we all like different things
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 02:04 PM
13

Your obsession with ducks is baffling but I’ll play along Yes I have, hurt like hell. I also have a huge range of toys in all kinds of sizes, a set my husband brought had a truly massive one that I can’t use. The size of the dick is not that important
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:55 PM
2

In my experience it’s not the size of the dick that makes me cum
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:31 AM
3

A pregnancy being geriatric does not mean that it’s a huge shock because she should be in menopause by now. The health care people I know always laugh at the term and say the age brackets are so outdated.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 04:51 AM
1

Please stop talking about things you know nothing about
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 04:42 AM
6

This! Being a girls girl is basically being a good person and a good friend
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 07:11 PM
2

I’d rather they put their preferences, as if I don’t meet them we are just goi g to waste each others time If he wants a supper skinny woman then that’s not me, so why bother
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:41 PM
13

Then it’s the stuff you follow, I have never seen that anywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 01:44 PM
6

There is no amount of money
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 12:14 PM
8

I have never heard of a another mocking a man for showing emotions, I have had partners cry etc and it never made me think less of them. Yes there are horrible women who will but do you really want to be with a woman like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 03:49 PM
4

What is gooning?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 03:49 AM
18

I didn’t see any women have a big of an emotional break down as you are having right now
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:30 AM
1

I’m a millennial and 2 of my children are gen z and in their 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 04:23 AM
–

In no way am I sharing what there are but I have done all of mine and my husband’s fantasy’s. Even the ones I never admitted to anyone before. It takes a lot of trust for me to be able to share these things
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 04:19 AM
3

Taller than me, so 5ft 9 and up No minimum income but has to have ambition Hobbies are not an issue, but I’d have an issue if they always come before our relationship. I don’t like fancy dates to start with, it’s too much pressure. I also like to plan, my husband and I plan stuff together. Has to be funny, life can be shit at times and you have to be able to laugh together. I’m not too hung up on politics, but in the uk we seem to not shout about who we vote for the way the us seem to. I wasn’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 05:21 AM
3

That’s great I’m really glad your happy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:01 PM
1

So I sent to have a Quick Look, turns out the reels my friends watch having nothing to do with the sort of thing your friends watch and they are fucking funny
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 04:51 AM
1

I have Instagram I’m not even aware of this feature, but I don’t arch reels on there. I send stufff to my friends and kids and post photos of my husband and family
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 04:45 AM
5

No most people are descent, most people live their partner and support them when life gets hard
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 04:15 PM
7

If my husband was ill and couldn’t have sex I’d still love and support him
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 12:14 PM
5

Being a gentleman is not being a walking cash machine
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 08:58 AM
8

What a fucked to thing to ask
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 05:44 AM
34

Only in a bad marriage. I have been married twice and this time we both benefit
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:01 AM
3

No. What I have is more than money. He is my person, we have built so much together. Though he just read this over my shoulder and told me to take the house as long as he could come too 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 08:48 AM
16

I do t know any woman sharing apart from one polly couple I’m very happily married, no amount of money would have me change what I have
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:00 AM
2

Im not child free but I have friends and anywho are. They are married and very happy, they have traveled, supported each other in furthering their careers. Learned new skills together. You can be in love with your best friend live together be happy with out children. If someone is not sure they want children they should not have them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:04 AM
2

Low key, I hate restaurant dates if I don’t know the person, let’s go and do something fun. The first date I went in with my husband was bowling, it needed up lasting 48 hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:54 PM
3

For me my children, my husband my friends and family. They are what I work so hard for, make the house nice for cook for. I plan events for my family, I book weekends away with my husband. I’m often worn out but very happy, one of my favourite times of the day is finally getting into bed and cuddling up to my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:48 PM
2

I have only ghosted 2 men, one got very stalkery, I had tried to back off slowly. It made the situation worse, so I blocked on everything, started to park in a different place so he couldn’t see if I was home etc. The second we hit off really well been talking for a week, then I woke up one morning to an essay about how he wanted to marry me, how we were ment to be together had never felt likes this wanted to get me pregnant. I was freaked out and after the previous time I wasn’t risking it. Luc…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 03:48 PM
3

I do if it causes a power imbalances, power imbalances either way do not create healthy relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 09:39 AM
2

It’s does not automatically mean abuse, but it can do. I’m not saying every relationship like that causes damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:55 AM
4

If I seem them again I will do, this was not from my regular gp
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:45 AM
–

Honestly I have not done this since I was 15 I have always dated hoping it will be long term, end in marriage etc, but I have at times as I got to know someone better realised it wouldn’t work out that’s when I will leave
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:39 AM
3

I have been told the brain development thing by several high up medical professionals 🤷‍♀️ For me personally it’s more when there is an imbalance of power in an age gap relationship and the damage that can do, and a lot of women have witnessed this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:36 AM
7

Of course I would be When my husband lost his job due to Covid I didn’t leave him
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 12:09 PM
–

Size shaming is body shaming and isn’t ok
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:07 AM
3

I do t think money equals love. I don’t think you can group everyone together based on gender. There are shitty dads and shitty mums.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 08:30 AM
3

Do some women feel like that do your brain decides that’s how all women are? We are individuals who think and feel differently why is that so hard to understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 07:11 AM
5

How do you know? Who are you to tell women what turns them on?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 06:54 AM
6

Why do you think women are not arroysed by the male body?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 06:16 AM
17

Women lust over mend bodies all the time, what are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 06:13 AM
1

Oh god yes
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 06:16 AM
0

As a feminist I believe in equality Women should be treated well, as should men. Young girls should be protected as should young boys. Children should have the chance to have a good relationship with both parents. 50/50 should be a starting point. This also cuts down on child maintance. Maternity and paternity leave needs to be a decent length, dads need to not but shut out when it comes to babies and young children. Stop judging men and pedos for working with children. Stop sociaity assuming mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:16 PM
1

I don’t belive in most relationships one person leads most of the time, or not healthy ones, it changes depending on tasks on other parts of life work stress etc. one person leading all the time isn’t healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 09:14 AM
2

Disappointing
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 09:13 AM
1

Some people do absolutely but not most
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 09:12 AM
0

There is a huge difference between wanting to be an equal partner and not wanting to be his mum.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 08:38 AM
0

No not at all, most women want a partner not a new daddy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 07:51 AM
1

I disagree with it for many reasons. First of all it’s shitty to talk about people like that. Second if you are looking at men as a resource you will not end up in a happy marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 07:41 AM
1

No but I don’t see not being in a relationship before as a red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 07:20 AM
2

I have never felt while single like I needed one. I can be on my own fine. That doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy being in a good relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 06:12 AM
2

I had to double check what sub I was in. Never have the men come across so well and sounded so interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:35 AM
1

Needing and wanting are different I didn’t need a relationship when I met my now husband, but it’s the best relationship I have ever had
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:32 AM
3

The take the lead part isn’t going to be a plus to most women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:29 AM
1

Not good I’d sex
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:25 AM
3

6 toes altogether or on each foot?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:24 AM
1

In the past I would of said I didn’t care, but the men I know who have seen escorts have all had messed up views on sex and women so would make me very cautious
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 09:33 AM
1

I’m talking about real women not people posting for views. Like I said yes women vent, but I don’t know any women that are straight that really wish they were not. It’s something we joke about at times. You need to not take the internet too seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 06:04 PM
1

Where are you finding these women? I don’t take too much notice of people ranting online especially in places they can remain anonymous. The women I know yes they rant at times, but this is not how they feel. They love their husbands they look for love with men. They talk about the good as well as the bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 04:57 PM
2

Lots of women are very happy being heterosexual Yes some men are creepy perverts, a lot of women have had bad experiences but most don’t hate all men because of it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 04:46 PM
0

Does not mean all women feel like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 04:42 AM
0

Are you a woman? What makes you feel like you can speak for all women?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 04:01 AM
1

It’s brilliant for them, healthy male role models are very important
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 08:09 PM
1

My son sees his dad every day, he is the one who puts him to bed. We spend 99% of weekends together the three of us. My step son who lives with us full time sees his dad a lot, not as much as his younger her brother as he is 18 and doing his own thing a lot. My other step son before he moved out also spent a lot of time with his dad. My friends sons also spend a lot of time with their dads.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 07:18 PM
0

No it’s not, my husband is both, we hooked up on our first date. After over a decade of marriage the sex is still the best I have ever had e ever had. He is also an amazing father, and the best husband I could ask for. He is emotionally intelligent and all the other husband quality things
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 06:19 AM
0

Primary education needs to be better for boys, more male teachers, day care workers etc. male role models in general out side of the family. This is not saying dads are not important they are, just as important as mothers, some times more so. A complete overhaul of family court. When a relationship with children breaks down the starting point should be. 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 06:15 AM
3

I have never heard any woman say that. In fact in my experience women tend to shout the loudest that no one is obligated to date anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 06:08 AM
10

I can’t speak for all women, only myself but I would never settle for a relationship like that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 03:53 AM
6

I agree if the mother lied then he should be able to walk away. The one who hurt the child is the one who lied
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 09:22 PM
1

Very true
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 09:20 PM
1

I only met one man off an app, why talked to him? Because he made it clear by what he sent he has read my bio, and he was funny
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 06:59 PM
12

Super turned off and pretty scared
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 05:26 AM
3

Why is anyone becoming a slave?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 11:45 AM
16

I treat them the same, it I like you I’ll have sex with you. I had sex with my husband the first date
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 07:51 AM
6

I used it once, met one man on there and married him so no need to do it again
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:18 PM
1

With my husband we pooled money from 6 months when we moved in together. We both already had kids then after we married had one more. I stayed home for 18 months then choose to go back to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:33 PM
24

That’s is not always the case. I know very beautiful women who are not interested at all in that level of socialising. I also know a lot of not so attractive women who are ne er home
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:32 AM
67

Not everyone goes out a lot, or wants to date men they work with
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:10 AM
6

They do all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:01 PM
-3

How do you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 07:09 AM
1

The ones who shout loudly that they are feminists. N
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 06:38 AM
1

My husband has several, we use them together and he uses them solo. I love finding new ones for him but men’s toys are a lot more limited than woman’s
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 03:07 AM
–

How short? I’d rather date someone my height or taller. So if he is shorter than me it’s an easy answer the tall one
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 09:42 AM
3

What do you class at experience? Over a decade of being married? My husband and I are great at communicating apart from one subject we kept arguing over with out ever being able to resolve it, so instead of cheating or being ducks we had relationship counciling as we are both very committed to making our marriage work
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 04:28 PM
3

When you are married you have to talk and listen to your spouse for it to be successful
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 04:15 PM
2

That’s true
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:39 AM
6

If I was young with little relationship experience I’d be petrified of starting one if I was reading the stuff posted here
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:08 AM
9

The sub makes me appreciate the wonderful man I’m married to even more. If there is an issue in your relationship start by talking not fucking someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 05:47 AM
17

Yes anyone can walk at any time, that happens. No one is forced to stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:18 AM
7

That’s what happens and no I don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:25 AM
1

Of course it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 03:32 PM
6

There is birth control for men, it’s called condoms
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 06:37 AM
1

What dates do you suggest that cost no money at all? I’m not one for expensive dates but I’m struggling to think of dates that are completely free you would do with someone you just met.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 01:20 PM
1

All our money goes into one account. We then take an amount each
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:53 PM
5

My husband was unemployed when I met him, but he had ambition and didn’t want to stay that way. He had goals, I helped him get there. Being in a bad situation isn’t a bad thing, doing nothing to change it is
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:14 PM
2

Oh I totally agree. I have been in a terrible marriage and left. It’s been great to see the women of my generation that I know walk away and start again. The second marriages are all so much better, it’s like we all realised our worth
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 09:57 PM
1

Scum of the earth I’m a step mum to 2 boys whoes mum is like this. Luckily we have been able to give them a stable home. One still lives with us full time the other has moved out and is living on his own now.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 08:06 PM
–

Yes but a lot of family’s are still anti gay and people can still not feel comfortable admitting who they are
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 09:43 AM
–

You have never heard of people being confused about their sexuality? Bring to ashamed to admit it? Men and women used to do this as it was illegal to be gay, they would marry have children etc
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 09:40 AM
–

It’s not about being turned, sometimes it’s about feeling like you can finally be true to yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 09:35 AM
31

As a woman in my 40s the only women I know who don’t have children didn’t want them. Most of the women I know are married or in long term relationships the ones that are single are single by choice, only 2. One is recently single and is not looking for anyone else yet, maybe she will . The other is long term single and travels the world,
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 08:34 AM
3

A lot of it is not backing off when a woman shows she isn’t interested
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 09:39 PM
7

No they are still firmly attached to him, though they spend a fair bit of time in my mouth
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 03:03 PM
4

What are you talking about? Having a vasectomy when you have finished having children is not a bad thing. I really appreciate my husband having one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:25 PM
6

Lots of men in the uk have them once they have had children
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 10:23 AM
6

So glad my husband had one, it’s so nice knowing we don’t have to worry about any more babies, no more artificial hormones or excessive bleeding
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:59 AM
3

That depends on the boundaries in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 10:27 PM
1

Yes everyone I know uses WhatsApp. We all contract each other that way
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:29 PM
1

This is me I check what WhatsApp and that’s about it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:14 PM
2

I have not read all of the comments I don’t have time to on any post. Because I talk to other women in real life, because I talk to women online also. I went to an weekend event for the condition my daughter has, the boys either it were all taken seriously from the start, all of the girls were told it’s was hormonal, told to either put on or loose weight, this condition effects weight. They were told they didn’t have the pain they reported. It took years longer for the girls to be debt to specia…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:30 PM
2

Women are being misdiagnosed all the time, it’s well known how doctors are so dismissive of women
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:31 AM
1

This is just the tip of the iceberg on the misdiagnosis women get
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:37 AM
1

As I said women talk. In detail about this stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 03:17 PM
4

I have a brother and sons. Of course I have empathy to the difficulties men face, but the men I know in real like are nothing like the men here
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 07:11 AM
1

Women do talk to their friends about this stuff I promise you The best hottest sex I have ever had is with my husband. From talking to my friends they see far more likely to do dirty stuff with someone they trust tgsn s one night stand
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 06:22 AM
5

You think women don’t talk about this stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 09:17 PM
7

I have never heard a woman I know in real life say she does freakier stuff with a random over a man she is in a loving relationship with
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 06:26 PM
–

No, not at all. It was not a run of the mill fall out. It was something I spoke to friends about. Friends have spoken to me about their arguments and marriage problems and I know thier partners have cried at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 04:47 AM
–

I disagree, the women I am close to would not think badly of their man crying over these things. I’m so glad my husband is emotionally mature enough to be open with his feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 04:27 AM
–

My child being diagnosed with a life changing illness. In my last therapy session, going over a past traumatic event. A few weeks ago my husband and I had the worst fight we have ever had, luckily we have resolved it now. He also cried at this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 04:15 AM
–

Please give examples of what you think makes a man weak? What things do you think women cry over that men don’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 04:01 AM
15

There are sub sets of women who expect a man to do everything for them while doing nothing back. My son dated one and it nearly destroyed him. Luckily as a family we were here for him. He has moved one but it was horrible at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:36 PM
–

Yes the people I’m around are healthy. I pick friends very carefully these days, my adult children I have raised well and will do the same with my youngest. My sister was raised the same as me, with compassion. Christmas 23 my mum and step dad arrived at my dad’s to find my dad in tears, they both comforted him. I have cut out people from my life who bring the people around them down. I don’t mean people who are having a bad time, but the people who mock people who are hurting. High standards ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:02 PM
–

I disagree. From talking to my friends they have seen their husbands/boyfriends cry. They support them. I have seen my dad and step dad cry, never lost them respect
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:09 AM
2

Last night my husband sobbed like a baby over loosing someone. Not for the first time. I love and respect him more than any man I have ever met. It changes nothing. The only women who don’t like men being vulnerable are very superficial
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:47 PM
22

No I would not go in the date. Sex should happen because both party’s want it to at the time. That would make the situation pressured which would be a turn off for me so it would be a waste of both of our times
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:37 AM
3

Yeah I’d rather go on a date to get to know someone
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:53 PM
0

If a woman says she wants to get to know someone first, this is some women’s preference, as long as she is open, the man has the choice to move on. If they get to know each other as she does not want to date him after he choose to stick around then that’s also fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 11:43 AM
1

I will never understand this. No one is making you be friends with anyone we are not in primary school. If you only want sex or dating don’t pretend to be her friend then moan about being her friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 11:06 AM
1

I totally understand it can be a hard thing to share and would not be an issue. It took my husband about two years to share one of his kinks with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:37 AM
1

Yes my ex worked away so we did a split that wasn’t the same each month but over the year worked out Have you ever done 50/50?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 01:44 PM
0

That’s not the real world, hardly anyone is a sahm these days. If she is she needs to go get a job now she is divorced My ex was a lorry driver, we made it work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 01:38 PM
3

Young children yes Worked really well for our older teens, we both made the effort to live near each other and be flexible. It works if you put your children first
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 12:33 PM
2

It requires effort in both sides to make it work
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 11:43 AM
6

It works if both parties want to make it work. It should be the starting point
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 11:35 AM
6

Best way is 50/50 at each house No cm is then needed This is what I did when I got divorced
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 10:55 AM
4

How? I take a lot of accountability in my life. As do the women around me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 11:18 AM
3

You might want to think about the kind of women you are dating
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:44 AM
1

I don’t here dating apps. I loved using them, they worked really well. I signed up talked to a handful of men, only ever met one. Then married him
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 09:19 PM
–

Do you not enjoy your partner enjoying it? I love turning my man on, seeing the effect on him when I do certain things.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 08:51 AM
1

Politicaly very different. Children didn’t change My views on a lot of things have changed drastically. What I want out of life is very different. What makes me happy is worlds apart. I have a much calmer outlook look. What I find important in my life is also very different
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 08:30 AM
1

I disagree. At 25 I was very different than I was at 18 and in my 49s very different from who I was at 25. So are most of the people I know. The ones that are the same are very unhappy and unsatisfied in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:22 AM
1

It only seems to be men online that care that much
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 06:40 AM
1

Men. An be bad Women can be bad Some times a couple are not compatible
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 06:22 AM
0

No it’s not I’m asking about you. I’m interested in the thought process behind those views and opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 07:10 AM
0

Where did I ask for approval? I’m more interested in the mind set that people do not grow. Have you not grown up since school?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 07:04 AM
-2

I never said you had to do anything. Only date someone you want to. I just always find it odd when people think other people don’t change and grow, do you think that because you haven’t matured past 16?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 04:33 AM
-2

Of course not. I’m not saying you should date the woman. You said she won’t have changed. I asked if you have but you didn’t answer that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 07:11 PM
-4

You don’t think people change after high school? Have you not change and matured?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 06:38 PM
1

What I will never understand is how men here say all women have these crazy high standards but in real life you see ordinary men and women in relationships all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 02:50 PM
4

Contraception has helped people choose to have less children. The reason people choose not to have children are a lot more complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 07:12 AM
1

When? Why does it need to be the man that leass
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 06:10 PM
5

Why is it men who claim to lead the household are the ones creating more work for the woman. Then cry’s when he leaves. Yet all the men I know in happy long term relationships are not trying to lead and provide but be a team
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 04:10 PM
1

Porn made with an ex Porn with children Porn with animals Porn with someone they know in it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 07:05 AM
3

Absolutely i would, I’m very honest and open with him, he knows me better than anyone, and loves me faults and all as I do to him
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 08:53 PM
3

Men, though I might just feel that because I have been stalked by a man. He had put a tracker on my car, cut a copy of my house key, moved things round my house, took all my left shoes. Planted things in my home then called the police. Stood outside my house shinning lights in my window. Attacked me while I walked my dog. Broke in and raped me Tried to kill me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:33 AM
2

Im not talking for all women im saying my standards
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:58 AM
7

I think all adults should shower most days. I’d find it odd if they didnt. I don’t mean the odd lazy Sunday where you slob about. I can’t imagine going to work and not having showered since I was last there
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 05:24 PM
12

2/3 times a week? I only want men that shower most days
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 05:16 PM
7

Sometimes I think of things we have done others I think of nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 02:44 PM
1

No as a lot of my parents friends both parents worked, very few were sahp past about the two year mark
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 09:30 PM
2

I’m my personal experience it’s the opposite. Most of the couples I know who have divorced are where the woman is a sahm in my generation and my parents
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 07:04 PM
7

I’m in my 40s I dont want a 60 year My mum isn’t much more than 20 years older than me, I would never want to date someone my parents age. I’d stay single
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 05:37 PM
1

Out everyone’s dna on record when they are born. Every baby gets tested and ran through a data base. Most of these posts I have seen a lot of women say they wouldn’t have an issue if it had been discussed before pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 07:25 AM
–

The irony is my life since 30 has been so much better than my 20s. This inferior product is even happier in her 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 07:09 AM
–

I’m so sorry to hear that, I hope you have healed
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 04:30 PM
2

I absolutely agree. As someone who has been married over a decade sex is important
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:56 AM
38

Unconditional love would be messed up and unhealthy. Let’s say my husband loved me unconditionally. He then found out I was sleeping with his brother, but he loved me unconditionally so stays. What if I hurt his child? What if I love him unconditionally, he then raped me beats me. Can you see how this could be? There will always be lines that once crossed you should walk away. It’s called having respect for yourself. Conditional love is not a bad thing
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:55 AM
7

Of course they would do that to earn more money don’t be so naive. Of course there are people out there who will claim to be upset etc about anything. They are the people to avoid in life and you will be so much happier
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 11:19 PM
6

As a woman and a feminist I do not care if men avoid me in the work place, nor do any of the women I know. Content creators will post anything to get a reaction, you can take videos on line made to make money as how the minority of people feel
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 11:14 PM
–

What is so hard about only having sex with someone who really wants to? That is being enthusiastic about it? Do you want to have sex with someone who doesn’t really want to but is just going along with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 10:24 AM
1

My mum
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 08:22 AM
2

Did he know?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 06:53 PM
28

He does not need it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 07:46 AM
74

No that’s absolutely fine, why would I care? A random man doesn’t not owe me anything
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 10:49 PM
6

If I was happy with how I was treated before I knew how he treated his ex then I don’t care different relationships are different. If I was not happy with how I am treated then I would not be with him. I absolutely know how I wanted to be treated and will not lower those standards
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:39 PM
4

If I’m somewhere being harassed and my husband removes me that would be ideal I don’t want him to fight anyone Fighting does not make you a ‘real man’, I hate that phrase
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:39 AM
11

I’m in my 40s now and very happily married with children. I’m everything 18 year old me thought was boring 😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 06:42 PM
11

My husband I would be shocked as he has never shown any sign of those sorts of feelings. I would be very upset as it means a lot of things he has said would have been lies. A friend would depend how close we were, most of the men I spend a lot of time with are partners of my friends and I would be concerned. There is a man I work with who has these beliefs, he is pretty new to the company. I don’t really care as I only see him at work or work events. Lots of people in the world don’t share my be…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:57 PM
1

Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 09:34 PM
1

Very positive I have only met one person and I married him
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 09:31 PM
2

Not at all it goes for women too, anyone who is telling you how good they are tend to be the worst people going. Good people do not have to tell you they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:17 PM
–

The posts I have seen have mainly said if it’s discussed pre pregnancy they would be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:47 PM
1

Oh absolutely anyone make or female who try’s very hard to convince you how nice they are are normally some of the worst
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:30 AM
–

Is it? I have never heard a woman say she is put off by that, and I have heard a lot of women tell me the things that do put them off
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:29 AM
–

As a man does it not worry you that a casual hook up could get pregnant and you have no choice if she keeps the baby or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:55 AM
–

If your having sex with out precautions definitely have this discussion Infact have the what would we do if a pregnancy happens with anyone you have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:09 AM
1

Why not debate on here? Why start messaging me?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:07 AM
–

Why not talk about this before you decide to have a child?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:05 AM
1

lol I’m not looking to be saved what a ridicules thing to say. Yes some women like men like that but not all women like the same thing. The men that tell you they are such nice guys tend to be the worst ones going
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:50 AM
1

No I didn’t say that, you said that. I have never seen anyone do that. I’m talking about the men that tell you how good they are, actual good guys don’t do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:28 AM
2

I do not know as I don’t know anyone personally who falls in to that category.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:05 AM
1

I wouldn’t ask, I’m talking about the men that just start telling you that they are not like other men they would never do what ever they think someone else may have done to you
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:03 AM
1

People are not all good or all bad. This is not a Disney film. We all have flaws we all make mistakes. When someone tells you how good they are it comes across as they are not open to their own flaws. That they think they are so great and wonderful
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:02 AM
3

This was so well said. When I first started dating my husband he was very honest with me as to what had been going on in his life, he had had a really bad time of it. I loved he was honest about himself, no games etc. it was very attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:59 AM
5

Yes a fair few men are good
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:19 PM
2

Yeah a fair few are and in my circle they are happily married
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:55 PM
0

Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:51 PM
0

Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:50 PM
1

The men I have met that are actually good men have all ended up in happy relationships. Not all straight away but it can take time to find your person
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 04:48 PM
61

Most men that refer to them selves as ‘good guys’ are not. Women know that. Huge red flag when they start telling you how good they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 04:44 PM
3

I asked him if he wants me to dress to honour him, he busy out laughing and asked what century I thought it was. I do not dishonour him and never have, he has always loved how I dress.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 06:21 PM
3

To honor my husband? No I dress for how I like to dress. He does not want me to dress to honor him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 05:50 PM
1

My family hated my ex and didn’t want me to marry him, they were right so I listen to them much more now
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 07:05 AM
1

As long as my family and 2 close friends like him as a person. My dad calls my husband the son he never had, he does have a son who is a bell end. My friends have always got on with him. I’m not a wanna be influencer who posts shit like this
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 07:03 AM
6

I did used to go out half naked, he has no issues, I have had many nights out with single friends. My ig is private as I have photos of my children on there
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 05:57 AM
6

I’m saying he doesn’t have hang up on how I dress, who my friends are etc. he has never tried to change me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 05:49 AM
5

Don’t try and change the person you’re dating, it doesn’t work. None of those things sound bad apart from the messages. I’m so glad my husband doesn’t have these hang ups
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 05:33 AM
19

What consequences do you want them to have? Do you think bad relationships have no impact in women?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 06:49 AM
11

Are they? I have been in a fair few relationships and never been in one with a porn addict
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 08:21 AM
6

My husband lost his job as we met. So obviously it didn’t matter
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 08:30 PM
-2

And you want to date them? There’s a word for people who want to fuck children…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 07:13 AM
-10

I have never done this or seen another woman do this so I have no idea. From reading your post and the fact you are calling them girls, are you trying to date 15 year olds? Maybe try dating adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 04:58 AM
2

Guess that depends on a lot of factors
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 09:58 PM
2

I would never date someone that could t cook
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:34 PM
15

Thank you that’s so lovely. In truth they are doing well because they are awesome young adults striving to get where they want to be in life, studying working and travelling. I have adviced them and my daughter to go out and explore the world before they settle down. There are so many opportunities these days and they should be grabbed with both hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 06:48 PM
15

No I have no desire to do that. It can be bad enough when I’m fully dressed as I have big boobs I don’t need more men staring
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 06:20 PM
62

I have 2 sons and 2 step sons. I have always been sympathetic towards men’s issues because before I had them I had a dad and brother and a lot of male friends. Touch wood so far our boys are doing great 3 are adults and one is still young.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 06:18 PM
1

No who has time for that? But I have been on dates and got to know someone better then realised when I got to know them better and realised we are not compatible. I know a lot of men here seem to think women only care about looks and status but women want to be compatible with a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 03:28 PM
12

My youngest is now 6 Watching someone else’s child is nothing like parenting, we have all fallen into that trap of thinking we know what it would be like so it’s not a criticism. I hope it all works out for you, being a parent is the best thing I have ever done and absolutely love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:27 AM
7

Because I was busy. Having a baby and toddler is none stop. You can’t leave them unattended. When I had my youngest I have 4 teenagers in the house too so lots of washing cooking etc. They needed dropping to activities. Dropping to theirs other parents, we are a blended family now. I also had 2 step children who had been through hell and needed extra care. There are groups and actives to take young children to. How many children do you have? How long have you been a sahp for? My husband also was…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:11 AM
13

The monotony of it. The lack of brain power it takes. I did it for all three of my children, the first 2 till school age the third till he was 2, because it was good for them and I did it with love and no resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:57 AM
11

I did it very well. Lots of activities with the baby and toddler, home cooked meals house was beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:39 AM
13

It’s harder than working, I have done both.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:27 AM
-1

Do they though? St work a fair few of the men are diagnosed neurodivergent ( goes hand in hand with the job really) only one is single the rest seem very happy in their relationships. Most of them talk to me a lot because of my role and I hear all kinds about their lives. My brother is and has never had issues with dating. My husband has recently been diagnosed I would put money on that my dad has adhd, never had problems attracting women I have friends whose bf/husbands are on the spectrum
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 05:37 AM
–

You have a very low opinion of men
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 05:46 PM
4

How long have you been married for? What is your longest relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:21 PM
5

Your doing them wrong if that’s what you think
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:21 PM
9

I had the first and was very unhappy I now have the second and life is brilliant
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:18 PM
1

I used to like the experience of someone new It all worked out well. I got over that have met a wonderful man now having the best sec of my life
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:03 AM
3

40s and over 50 I think. I like sex 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 07:54 AM
–

There are a lot of good men who it there, I have one so do most of the women I know family friends people I work with. Most of the men I work with are good people in happy relationships. My daughter has a great man, honestly could not wish for better for her, I really hope they work out
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 07:13 AM
–

My last relationship ended in divorce So absolutely not I want this to last forever
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 07:56 PM
2

It makes life so much easier, it means we all get home cooked food every night but with out as much work
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 06:51 AM
6

We both work. We used child care We take it in turns to cook homemade meals, we also batch cook We share the house work about 65/35 as he works longer hours than I do. I am a good wife and mother, he is also a good husband and father.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 04:26 PM
1

I have done in the past, I don’t any more as I’m happily married
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 05:53 AM
3

I brought it up at work today, I work in a very male dominated field and have a team of 16 men who at times are working in quite isolated conditions. I think it’s really important but most men didn’t even know about it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 05:37 AM
1

Though now I just want to be home with my family
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 04:38 PM
2

15/15 so I guess I’m socially privileged, being social doesn’t just land in your lap though, you work at it. Like all things it’s easier for some than others
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 04:32 PM
1

Oh I am fully aware how much men can be hurt
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:45 AM
2

I have always done that so that’s nice to hear
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 09:12 AM
1

There is a lot of talk on how teen boys don’t get the support they need during puberty. What support would have helped? I’m asking this as a mother of sons. I have never been a teenaged boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 07:31 AM
5

When you’re saying children what age are you talking about? Lots of things in books are fantasy sex is no different this is why you talk to them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:51 AM
12

I think that’s a pretty unhealthy way of looking at it. As someone who has raised four teens it’s much better to have open healthy discussions about sex, they will be interested no matter what. Books can be a great learning opportunity and banning them comes across as very controlling. The amount of free porn on the web is out of control and far more concerning
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:17 AM
12

Also I would much rather teens read books with sex than watch porn and
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:49 AM
10

I have not read icebreaker so can’t comment. I did read all of the jilly cooper books that were out before I turned 16. I don’t see sex as a big bad thing children shouldn’t know about. Teens will always be interested in it. I started having sex at 14 and really enjoyed it,
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:44 AM
14

Porn yes Books that have some sex no I read books with sex in them from 14, I’m not talking about written porn but more adult content. I don’t ban books in this house.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:38 AM
1

I have never loved a casual hook up I love my husband in ways I can’t even begin to explain
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 08:17 AM
–

I’m a mother of 2 sons step mother of 2 sons. Leave babies penis’ alone it’s disgusting
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 04:13 PM
1

My husband was made redundant around the time we met, took him a while to get back on his feet, didn’t stop me dating him. Do what makes you happy and works for you
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 05:29 AM
1

Hardly ever I have always been a bit overweight but I’d say I’m pretty Until I met the man I’m married to I have never had any problems getting men I wanted. Before my husband there has only ever been one other man I was obsessed with, and looking back it was in a very superficial way
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:36 PM
5

I do understand why women are angry and upset but they need to channel it to the right people
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 05:19 AM
19

I’m not from the us so I’m not involved in this election. I identify as a feminist. You need to step back and look at the bigger picture here. I get why you are upset but you are upset at the wrong people. Men have not caused this. Look at how many women voted for him. This blaming all men for this is not healthy, the crap being posted online blaming all men is not healthy and a lot of people need to see a therapist
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 04:30 AM
1

We do, a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 05:27 AM
6

He says it is, acts like it is. He is either an amazing actor or he is loving it. We explore a lot of new things all the time have weekends away etc. our sex life is important and we both prioritise it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 08:50 PM
7

Really? Everyone I speak to in happy relationships it’s the case
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 06:57 PM
16

Married over 10 having the best sex of my life
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 06:57 PM
2

None of my friends have ever been accused,
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 06:36 AM
1

Cooking Baking Weights Piano Party planning Video games These are things I have been told by men are hit thought I think they are pretty normal things
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 03:41 AM
3

Chests have had both only one gave me ptsd
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:11 PM
1

I have been with my husband well over a decade. We know each other inside and out. We have the most passionate sex I have ever had in my life so I will stick to this
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 04:50 PM
-3

Not seen any of that on X or anywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:42 PM
-3

I have not heard anything like this. What sort of things do you interact with to see this sort of shit
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:10 PM
8

I met my husband in my 30s and have never been happier
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:39 PM
7

People forget this and it goes both ways women can pull this now
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 05:58 PM
2

Different people like different things during sex that’s very common knowledge. No man or woman I have been with had been the same
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 07:23 AM
5

Do you have never had sex so good it over rides everything else? And makes you obsessed with that person?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 08:23 PM
2

It’s amazing especially when I’m on top
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:55 PM
3

I have looked it up and it’s just like something I already have that’s amazing
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:31 PM
4

Not tried the hitachi off to order it now
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:30 PM
15

You know you can use toys too? My husband and I have a huge array of toys and have an amazing sex life. One of his kinks is making me cum which is amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:34 PM
9

Oh you really can
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:32 PM
1

I spoil him in lots of different ways, as he does to me. We are a team.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:11 AM
-2

You are so wrong I have been in both situations and I prefer helping with providing, I want to spoil my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 08:58 AM
1

My best friend was one had a baby at 20 and he ran off. She is 32 now, very happily married and just given both to her second child. She was never short of men wanted to date her but she was very picky about who she had around her child.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:18 AM
3

I’m bad mouthing stupid people, men and women. If they are that dumb something is going to influence them. But there are more normal people than dumb ones, if you think differently maybe reevaluate the people in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:05 AM
4

First off you only see those videos if that’s the sort of thing you engage in Second most people over 18 know it’s not real and just entertainment The people who are influenced by this are incredibly stupid and would of been influenced by some bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:52 AM
3

But those videos are not real, like most stuff on TikTok it’s all for engagement
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:44 AM
8

I left my first marriage because he was a dick. I then co parented with him till they went to uni 50/50. He claimed I was the problem no one would want me etc etc. I have since been married for ten years, very happily. He can’t stay with anyone more than a few years but it’s never his fault. My sister left her husband after years of begging him to be present for her and their daughter. She now has a long term boyfriend and they are very happy while he can’t hold down a relationship. When a relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 07:14 PM
1

He knows I don’t want grand gestures. We do small thoughtful things together and use our money to better the lives of us and our children. If I’m in a ltr then I like how I’m being treated. We have both been in ltr before and they don’t last so how he treated them is irrelevant
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:11 PM
10

Some of us have tried it and hated it. I have no problem at all if others want to live like that, but it’s not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:11 AM
2

Yes but important to keep making time for each other so you don’t wake up one day and think when did we last have sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:38 PM
3

The times we didn’t make the effort is times we had a lot less sex
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 10:04 AM
2

Absolutely I have My husband and I do not have as much sex we and busy and tired but we do make sure we connect with each other in different way that really helps. With my ex I did that was mainly due to relationship problems
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 10:03 AM
1

I’m in my 40s and there have been times I have less sex drive than others. Things that have effected it are hormonal bc Tiredness Being unhappy in my relationship Not having proper time as a couple, especially after kids. I am no longer in bc, my husband has had a vasectomy, sometimes I’m still tired or sick but that’s life. We both prioritise our relationship, regular date night, weekends away etc. I have been married before this and didn’t want sex when I was feeling resentful or unappreciated
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:18 PM
2

I love that more people go to therapy, huge green flag for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 05:32 AM
3

My friends never have but would cut the friendship off
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 04:59 PM
5

Nope if you don’t turn me on we are not having sex. I get more kinky the more comfortable I am. I have done far more and unlocked far more kinks with my husband than anyone before him. The only things I haven’t done with him that I have with others is things he isn’t interested in
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 07:11 AM
6

What an absolutely vile woman I hope you are no longer with her you deserve far far better
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 08:33 AM
4

I have never heard a woman say her first was her best. Best is normally the one who gets to know you the best
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:52 AM
3

Where is that statistic from? For me it’s very untrue. The best sex of my life is with the man I met in my 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:06 AM
5

At what point would you expect to be her best?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 07:44 PM
44

The only way he would know that is if I told him. If I was saying that sort of thing I would deserve to be left that’s horrible trying to make the person you are with insure and feeling bad
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:03 AM
1

My husband was for 18 months during COVID
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 07:27 PM
14

Both, don’t settle for less. My husband is a very dependable man who goes to work does his share of the house and taking out children, he also excites me more than any other man ever. We can be folding laundry and he will be stroking my leg and telling me exactly what he wants to be doing to me and we end up having sex in the kitchen. Both are important, keep saying each other? Keep that excitement going hen real life gets a bit dull at times
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 02:20 PM
–

We were in our thirty’s when we met, so not that young.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:49 AM
–

I’m married have been a long time. My husband is not as physically fit as he once was we are both in our 40s, I’m not the same either. I don’t see that though unless I really look, in my head he still looks the same, it’s weird. I don’t look at him and think bad things. I’m still as attracted to him as when we first met, he acts as if he is still attracted to me too My love for him is not based on how he looks
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:56 AM
1

They should be, I don’t have an issue with older people doing it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 08:53 AM
2

No wonder if this is how they are treated
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 04:30 PM
13

Then you’ll moan that you gf is crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:10 PM
8

I have met loads of men who are amazing in bed. I don’t get all this men and bad etc
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 12:52 PM
4

Well if I’m dating him I’m attracted to him. No it’s not less of a consideration if he is hotter. There have been super hot men I never slept with as it didn’t feel right
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 04:17 AM
9

When I feel comfortable having sec with him
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:24 PM
5

As a woman sexual compatibility is very important I would date let alone marry a man I don’t have good sex eith
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 07:58 PM
2

I know a lot of men in my family my husbands most of my team at work are men. 2 could do with improving their social skills a bit it’s mainly lack of confidence So no over all I don’t see many men that need to. The ones I know I am more than happy to help As a married woman I don’t tend to go round talking to random men in social settings any more
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 05:43 AM
6

Do you really think women on the spectrum are just quirky?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 02:41 PM
1

Yes my husband is lying because an internet stranger who knows nothing about him said so. I know you find it really hard to comprehend but some men actually like their wives
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 10:00 AM
1

The deeds and mortgage are in both of our names, we both moved in together we chose it together. Is there any more information you would like? Also how is this relevant?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:46 AM
1

No it’s our house
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:04 AM
1

We live together for over 10 years
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 07:32 PM
4

If that’s how you want to live that way go for it it works really well for some people. In over a decade we have not slept in the same house in different beds. I love having him there with his leg across mine or cuddles up together. I have just asked him if he would like a his own room and he said absolutely not he loves having me in bed next to him
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 04:12 PM
1

Publicly humiliating your partners is discusting One thing if you have private jokes about stuff but to do this publicly is horrible. I would never want to make the person I love this much look stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:50 AM
2

It’s not a universal thing Go ask your friends
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 04:58 AM
1

I don’t want to still. I trust him
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 02:34 PM
1

Also thought of cheating? How would that works? Would it show if he had wondered what sex with someone would be like? I have thought that about people, I have no desire to act it out
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 01:06 PM
1

Absolutely not. It’s a way to drive yourself mad. Would you then want to do it every time he went out? I trust my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 01:04 PM
9

My husband is adhd and go through various hobbies . He is currently making a 7 foot Halloween character for the front garden Deviating the out side of our house for different seasons is something he loves. I love that it makes him so happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 05:34 AM
3

Absolutely I only have a small circle of friends but I am very close to them, if one of them cheated or treated someone badly I would be horrified and would call them out. I’m not sure I could stay friends either them. I was friends since school with someone that I broke up our friendship for dating a married man behind her boyfriends back
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 06:07 AM
5

It’s still wrong. There have been times I have wanted sex my husband hasn’t, after being told no once that’s it end of why is she asking multiple times?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 04:01 PM
2

Of course divorce should be legal. Why should only the man get the property? Why do people in this sub think only men work?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 03:41 AM
4

If a couple both seem to have so little trust and faith they should not be bringing children into the world
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 01:44 PM
1

They are adults now apart from the youngest
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 03:38 PM
1

To be happy single
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 03:13 PM
-2

Very true something I have taught all my children
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 12:32 PM
8

I have never dated someone who cold approached me, I don’t know anyone who is dating someone who cold approached them. Who are these women who only date cold approaches?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 10:19 AM
1

Yes he is. He is well into his. 40s these days so doesn’t looks quite the same but neither do I. I have never fancied anyone this much.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:07 AM
1

I think most men wouldn’t. Some would but I don’t belive most men are like that
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 05:26 AM
3

My husband watches porn at times. I read it at times. We are totally faithful to each other but sometimes one of us is tired or not in the mood
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 04:29 PM
6

How pathetic
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 03:03 PM
17

Absolutely not. Have had life changing sex with men that are not model material Looks have nothing to do with good sex
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:49 PM
21

Have you thought no one is making your wait? Maybe she is waiting for herself to feel comfortable?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:23 PM
8

My husband is hot and I have had by far the best sex with him over anyone else, in fact we both agreed the sex we had while away for the weekend recently was the best sex we have ever had it was crazy even for us. I have tried more with him than anyone else, he makes me feel so confident and loved that I feel I can do anything with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:54 AM
1

Hook up culture has been around d for a long long time, nothing to do with gen Z Hooking up doesn’t stop you forming relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 08:08 PM
2

Yeah but I was growing upwards before now I’m growing outwards 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:54 PM
3

As a women in her 40s i do not look how I did at 20 I’m also bigger. I get a lot less random male attention and I love it. The only man that matters can’t keep his hands off me so it’s all good here
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 11:51 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter