Q4all

bifewova234 · 2023-05-24T17:38:43+00:00

No exclusivity no deal

CosmicBioHazard · 2023-05-24T18:21:06+00:00

As the unfortunate victim of infidelity leading to divorce, fucking someone’s wife is my revenge fantasy.

So yeah

Orangematcha · 2023-05-24T18:42:02+00:00

I think most people would say no. Not only is it a kink, it’s a niche kink. It’s not a more widely accepted kink like bdsm.

Clavicymbalum · 2023-05-24T19:25:00+00:00

Hard nope.
Not to kink shame - I respect the freedom of other people to do with each other what they want as long as they are all consenting adults - but that kind of activity would be against my own personal boundaries and principles, my (restricted) sociosexual orientation, and my taste (i.e. very disgusting to me).

Cobra_x30 · 2023-05-24T22:17:36+00:00

I've done this. It's not as great as it sounds. These guys often have weird fantasies of you fucking them too. Otherwise... there is a subset who don't find their wives attractive anymore because they are fat, old, short hair, not feminine... ect. These guys will get off watching someone else find their wife attractive. It sounds odd but it's really like that.

The last group are the raceplayers. These are the creepiest people around and I suggest everyone avoid them.

Pixiwish · 2023-05-24T17:48:46+00:00

So if I was wanting commitment free I wouldn’t go for this situation. The wife would need to join in not watch.

totallyworkinghere · 2023-05-24T17:57:36+00:00

I'd consider it but I would absolutely need to talk to the wife first because people lie about shit all the time

Zestyclose_Truth9999 · 2023-05-24T18:28:15+00:00

Would you go ahead with it?

No.

It's not really my business what people do in their relationships, but I have certain standards for mine — some of which are commitment and monogamy.

biscuitcatapult · 2023-05-24T20:02:19+00:00

I’ve done it multiple times. Had no issues at all.

Smoogs2 · 2023-05-24T18:15:50+00:00

I've never really met a swinger couple or poly couple who were well put together and mentally healthy. I am sure they exist somewhere but I'd probably pass on that unless I vetted them outside of a dating site.

Miserable_Yam4778 · 2023-05-24T18:16:27+00:00

DEFINITELY not my thing, but no judgment from me. I know a few people I might even link them up with who might enjoy it. 😹

eefr · 2023-05-24T18:20:11+00:00

If I were single and found them attractive? Sure, count me in, it could be fun to be watched.

I definitely would need to talk to the husband/wife though, and I would bail if I got any whiff that they actually didn't want to act out this fantasy.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2023-05-24T19:54:05+00:00

Nah, I don't want to deal with a couple, no matter how open they appear to be.

cjt11203 · 2023-05-25T09:04:06+00:00

Not gonna lie I’d consider it out of curiosity. Probably a test run for a porn career.

mf9769 · 2023-05-24T18:17:34+00:00

Done it before, though not through a dating app. For the record, in case anyone I actually know finds this, this was before I got together with my now wife.

The rule, and I 110000% agree with it, was that I was not to communicate nor meet the husband. If the husband wanted to watch, I wouldn't be OK with it.

She tells me her husband is cool with it? I trust her that he is. If it turns out he isn't, me not contacting him means he has a much more difficult time finding out who I am.

Editing to add this: I gave a fake name and an email that, while real, was not one that could be traced to me.

Treacle-Flimsy · 2023-05-24T19:53:59+00:00

Well, if a man knowingly allows his wife to fuck around, he's not a man at all, so yeah. I'd go ahead with it

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ppd_alt · 2023-05-24T17:34:57+00:00

Happened a few times when I used OLD.

Ghost and block from me.

No interest in that scene.

trippingfingers · 2023-05-24T17:37:10+00:00

Not sure how this is all that different from just a standard fuck-buddy, to be honest.

Perfect-Resist5478 · 2023-05-24T17:40:51+00:00

Nope. When I was on the sites I was looking for a monogamous relationship so being someone’s hot wife seems like a bad deal

Soloandthewookiee · 2023-05-24T17:48:24+00:00

If I was single and wasn't looking for anything serious I'd consider it.

Nyx_the_hexer · 2023-05-24T17:50:17+00:00

No, I don’t even like PDA I don’t want someone watching me and most likely judging me.

Safinated · 2023-05-24T17:51:58+00:00

No, people like that are, uh, not my cup of tea

mrcs84usn · 2023-05-24T18:44:54+00:00

Hard pass. I don’t need extra nonsense in my life.

wtknight · 2023-05-24T18:45:11+00:00

I’d have no interest in that.

yvaN_ehT_nioJ · 2023-05-24T19:27:37+00:00

No and I'd think it weird and unmatch or whatever

tired_hillbilly · 2023-05-24T19:33:54+00:00

Sounds immoral to me. But no worse than casual sex in general.

zenstorm78 · 2023-05-24T19:35:11+00:00

No I am not interested, sex for me is only reserved for committed romantic relationships

Chikoswe2022 · 2023-05-24T20:27:27+00:00

How would you feel if you were on a dating site andmatched with someone that openly admitted to being married but their husband/wife had a kink about them fucking someone else.

I've played with this fantasy in my mind before but doubt I'd have the balls to go through with it in real life (if at all it ever happened.)

What if they wanted to watch?

I don't think I'd manage that.

Ris-O · 2023-05-24T20:39:30+00:00

Not for me that's on some degen shit

grendalor · 2023-05-24T21:04:17+00:00

Do you want to? Is it your kink? Basically that's an offer to engage in their kink (cuckold or cuckqueen). It's not as widely practiced as the now more common kinks like BDSM, but BDSM also wasn't always so widely practiced either -- the needle moves on these things, in terms of how common they are. Is this a kink of yours? If not, are you still interested in providing the "frisson" of the kink to them, both to the person who is participating in the sex and the person who is watching (who often has a kind of humiliation fetish which drives the interest in playing that role in this kind of kink)? If not, then maybe you don't want to proceed, because it is, again, in the current year not the most common kink, and you yourself may be very off-put by engaging in it.

If you do proceed, normal cautions apply. Protect your identity like gold (you never know if the "watcher" spouse changes (his typically) mind and may be angry with you, or have another reaction that even they don't expect), make sure it is in a neutral place, do not let anything bleed over into any aspect of your life outside of that specific encounter, etc. Basically quarantine that specific time and place from the entirety of the rest of your life hermeneutically (you obviously can't do that to the effect on your own brain, but otherwise).

In the end, it's up to whether you would enjoy this yourself. If not, I think it's probably best to not engage in it, even if you are curious about it, because it can go sideways on you. But, if you would enjoy it, then you can proceed provided that you take the precautions mentioned.

AlmostKindaGreat · 2023-05-24T21:19:06+00:00

Sure, I'd do it. I have already a couple times.

Wouldn't want another guy watching us though. Just too much of a turnoff for me.

I also don't get off on the idea of a "hotwife" so I don't enjoy their kink myself. But I don't mind if they like it.

VehementlyDrawn · 2023-05-24T21:27:42+00:00

I'd be open to it, but typically the dudes looking for you to fuck their wives; the women are atrocious.

neetykeeno · 2023-05-24T21:49:07+00:00

I don't want to know, they and the weirdness around them can be someone else's problem.

abaxeron · 2023-05-24T21:58:00+00:00

My life became infinitely better when I started yeeting people who post things like this on dating sites out of my circle. So, no.

YaKnowEstacado · 2023-05-25T00:02:37+00:00

Not interested in being part of someone's kink.

ImmaDrainOnSociety · 2023-05-25T00:59:12+00:00

IE I'm their bull?

If he's ok with it, I'm ok with it, but having him watch is a deal breaker.

slazengerx · 2023-05-25T01:01:45+00:00

Probably not. Sounds like a lot of potential hassle.

Separate but related, I did have an on-and-off situationship with a woman a few years back and she had a guy she met on instagram (from a different country) that paid her a few hundred dollars (via paypal) to watch her (via whatsapp) have sex with me from time to time. That was a bit odd, but whatever.

begayallday · 2023-05-25T02:12:40+00:00

I’ve done it before when I wasn’t looking for anything serious.

th0tsandpears · 2023-05-25T03:34:33+00:00

I downloaded a few apps and went on reddit's r4r to try and make this happen. So, if anyone's in NYC and needs a dude, lemme know. lol

masterdebater70 · 2023-05-25T05:27:15+00:00

If she's hot, I'll not only let him watch be he can make requests too.

grown_folks_talkin · 2023-05-25T05:34:12+00:00

He couldn’t watch

_Ad_Astra_Abyssosque · 2023-05-25T08:11:56+00:00

This kind of happened to me, and I said no. Now that I'm older, I'm more open to it. IF the couple is cool and not toxic, I'd be down.

MalePsychopath · 2023-05-25T10:14:50+00:00

Sounds hot. I would do it.

calfshrug · 2023-05-26T01:05:16+00:00

I had sex with a lady while her long term BF watched in early 2020, before covid was the big thing yet, it was fine. The guy and her are both very cool. They aren’t wild, and neither am I

Title	Q4all
Author	SwimmingTheme3736
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Comments	54
Date	May 24, 2023 5:33 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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