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Oh agreed. I think there are definitely ways to “lower standards” by learning to appreciate less shallow things (which if you read my further comments to OP I say most people say is just maturing), but to go from “I’m not attracted to this person so I’m going to go to therapy to learn how to become attracted”- that’s at best not a thing and at worst brain washing. I think a lot of people would also argue that giving up icks is not the same as developing actual attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:44 AM
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Treating different people differently is not gaslighting. I will talk to my sister or best friend for hours about nothing. I will not do that with a stranger. If my fiancé tells me a sexually explicit joke I laugh. If my coworker tells me a sexually explicit joke I don’t. Everyone treats people differently based on who they are. That’s human nature
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 09:30 PM
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I think people should go to a therapist for all sorts of reasons. I don’t think a therapist can “train” someone to over look things (that’s not how therapy works) but can certainly help the person understand why something is important and other things (that are also important) are overlooked. I don’t think that will take someone from only wanting 9s & 10s to being satisfied with a 5
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:54 PM
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You made a choice to lower your standards because presumably you weren’t getting the attention from the people you wanted. That doesn’t mean you actually trained yourself to be attracted to what you’re not attracted to, it means you’re willing to over look one thing in favor of other things. Lots of us call this growing up. But if the people you actually thought were hot wanted you, I bet you wouldn’t have lowered your standards
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:46 PM
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Do you believe that gay conversion therapy works? That’s literally what you’re talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:30 PM
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I don’t think I’m at a disadvantage because I’m a woman, so I’m not sure how to answer that, but I don’t know how anyone could argue being able to not be in a relationship you don’t want isn’t leverage. Anyone who thinks that should talk to women who don’t have the ability to say no- I think it would put some things in perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:19 PM
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The ability to say no IS leverage
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:16 PM
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So the red pillers who say they would never date a woman over 40 view living past 40 as a negative? If having cats is an immediate disqualifier cuz I’m allergic, that doesn’t mean all cats are a negative. Just that I don’t want to have an allergy attack when I’m trying to live my life
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:21 PM
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So you’re toxic? If “all people who participate in Reddit are toxic”, that includes you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:08 PM
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Except women work. I don’t know a single woman who doesn’t work full time, even if she has kids
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:29 PM
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Why do you want a woman to financially contribute less than you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:28 PM
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“Plenty of men are already treating women like tube socks, I’m just saying more men should” That’s certainly an asshole take
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:19 PM
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This doesn’t make any sense. If women are only attracted to the top whatever percent, the issue of expanding attraction is a women issue. But as a lesbian I’m sure you recognize you are attracted to who you’re attracted to. Encouraging expanded attraction isn’t going to change who people are attracted to
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 12:20 PM
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I’m sorry your ex wife was a cunt, but I am not the same. I have dated men that I have been incredibly attracted to and I’ve dated men I wasn’t attracted to- if I’ve decided to get into a legit relationship with a guy I choose to go all in, regardless of how hot he is
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 12:18 AM
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She sounds like money hungry bitch who was using you, and I’m sorry for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:18 PM
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More like “10 years ago I tried shit that didn’t serve me, so I don’t do that anymore. If my having dated casually in college and not wanting to do that anymore is a problem for you, we are not a good match”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:15 AM
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I don’t lie. I expect him not to lie. There is a difference between lying and not being callous, when it comes to my feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 06:13 PM
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What I’m saying is physical arousal doesn’t mean the same thing for women as apparently you want it to, as evidenced by rape victims having signs of physical arousal or even orgasm without actually wanting the sex
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 05:56 PM
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So your bulletproof scientific evidence basically all has to do with visual stimuli which has been shown to be less stimulating for women. Also (and again)- a physiologic response to sexual stimuli doesn’t mean someone is actually interested in sex or horny. That’s why a person showing outward signs of sexual arousal (being wet or hard) or even orgasming during rape doesn’t mean anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 04:10 PM
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So you post it, and then we read it, and then we can have a conversation about it with you. You are the one referencing it. I obviously haven’t heard of it cuz you haven’t even provided the title. If I knew what study you were talking about I wouldn’t be asking you for it. I don’t get why you’re so wiling to defend your argument but so opposed to linking the study. If you know what you’re talking about, give us the study so we can get on the same playing field. Your refusal to do it makes no sen…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 02:00 PM
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It’s hard to assume the study is accurate- multiple people have asked you to cite the study. Why not just do that so we can have the same info while discussing
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:16 PM
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Being physically wet doesn’t mean being sexually excited. That’s like saying someone having a physiological reaction while getting raped is enjoying it which, no….
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:38 PM
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How often do I see a random stranger and want to have sex with him? Never
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:07 PM
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Where are women saying they don’t like attractive men? We’re just saying it’s not the only or even most important factor in choosing a part er
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:15 AM
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Regular STD checks is just good health care
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:17 PM
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Of course, but dudes in their 20s who were “attractive enough” for casual sex after she had a few drinks are less likely to get causal sex in their 30s as those women take off the beer goggles
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 04:43 PM
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Women in their 30s are less likely to want casual sex. By then most of us have learned that casual sex is rarely fun, rarely satisfying, and often mentally detrimental.by then the lesson “you can’t fuck a man into a relationship” has been learned, and they date with more intention. It’s literally the definition of maturity
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 11:49 AM
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“Short term” on hinge is weird AF. Hinge is the app women use the most to get boyfriends. If he wanted to fuck he should’ve been on tinder Also, for the love of all things holy, stop saying “playtime”. Cringe doesn’t even begin to describe how you sound saying that shit
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 11:24 PM
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I think that’s the difference between men and women. Most women want to meet someone and have a relationship. They want a guy to get to know her as a person before he feels entitled to her body
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:08 AM
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The funny thing is - had he gone on a second date he might’ve been able to woo her into his bed. By laying that shit out there so crassly it guaranteed a dry dick
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:00 AM
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Dating apps are for dating. If you wanted to make an app and call it F-BoyZoo that would be the place to find a “fuck me by date 2” kinda thing. I used dating apps to find my fiancé, not some dude who expected access to my holes before I knew his birthday
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:59 PM
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So if she says “ok I’ll have sex, let’s go out again” and then they go out again and she decides she doesn’t in fact want to fuck him, lots of guys would say he has grounds to be, at best mad and at worse forceful cuz “she consented”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:56 PM
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I don’t think she was super pressed. I think it was more of a “look a this douchecanoe who thinks he will automatically get sex if we go out again. Deuces loser ✌🏻” He is fully treating her like a sex machine- “fuck me on date 2 or I’m out”. Her posting his bumbling attempts to make that happen isnt the same as some dude singing a woman’s praises until she rejects him and then calling her a fat bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:53 PM
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I mean, a lot has changed in the world in the last 15 years… failing to adapt because of paralytic nostalgia isn’t going to make anyone more successful
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:49 PM
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This guy was not hopeless but his profile was atrocious. It screamed “if you don’t want me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best” and I’m sorry, but no one wants a first date at their worst. It’s like he intentionally picked the most unattractive way to present himself and then pikachu faced when no one thought he was datable
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:46 PM
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I don’t consider going to the country with whom you share culture passport broing. A man of Korean descent going to Korea is not the same as a white guy going to Korea
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:08 PM
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Hate to break it to you but passport brows aren’t wanted because of genuine attraction. They’re wanted because they have money and provide opportunities that aren’t as readily available. A woman being willing to fuck you to access your wallet doesn’t mean she actually desires you- it just means touching your dick is the less bad choice
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:14 AM
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Back in the old days guys would steal one of their dad’s playboys and keep it hidden under their mattress. It didn’t give the same level of satisfaction as any kind of porn you could possible want and several no one ever should
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 06:48 PM
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Women being the only breadwinner (“funding his lifestyle”) happens in 6% of heterosexual marriages in this country. Women being the primary breadwinner happens in 16%. Your scenario is a proper outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 10:18 AM
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Fraud is absolutely illegal in the US and is prosecuted and punished. Fraud is more than just lying or cheating. It means “intentional deception or misrepresentation of facts intended to secure an unfair or unlawful personal gain”. Could a man with a second family be prosecuted for fraud? Maybe- but fraud is primarily financial and if his second family was not financially detrimental to the first, one could argue he’s a dick but not a criminal. Having a man financially provide for a child that i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 10:06 AM
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I’m not downplaying it. I’ve said it’s awful, it’s shitty, it’s violating, and it’s appalling. But it’s not on the same level as kiddie porn or kiddie rape and those things rarely get 25 years
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:53 AM
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It’s not. Rape causes physical and emotional damage. PF is just emotional. It’s violating for sure, but not physically. It’s appalling and shouldn’t happen, but it’s not on the same level and anyone who thinks it is clearly has never been on the receiving end of a sexual assault
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:42 AM
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How? It’s lying to someone. And yea, it’s really shitty. But it’s not CSAM. It’s not physically injuring someone. Get a dick rammed in your ass and come back here telling me getting lied to is just as bad….
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:31 AM
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“Life” doesn’t usually mean life. In Tennessee life is 60 years. In California inmates can apply for parole after 7 even if their sentences to life
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:24 AM
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Is paternity fraud, at its core, not just lying?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:22 AM
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Dude… paternity fraud is awful for sure…. But not worse than rape or murder. It’s fraud- it should be punished the way all fraud is punished. No one gets decades of imprisonment for fraud unless you’re Bernie Madoff
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:21 AM
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So picking your nose is microcheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 05:43 PM
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So it’s not all about looks and confidence/charisma are important? It’s almost as if we’ve been saying this all along
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 05:14 PM
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What exactly is micro cheating? Flirting? What about banter? Smiling at someone? Being friendly?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 05:10 PM
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“And all women, every last one after Gen X” dude please. Just cuz you know bad women doesn’t mean we’re all like that. I know I praise my fiancé everyday for the emotional support he gives me, and he does the same for me
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:30 PM
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If it were only about family there wouldn’t be so many dudes bitching about a dead bedroom after kids get born
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:19 PM
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If the statistics are about Gen Z women why are you asking about the radicalization of Gen Z men?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:16 PM
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There will always be outliers but I would wager the vast majority of women would say at least average, (in America that’s 5’9 and 5.13” respectively). If throwing specific numbers my money is on minimum 5’10/5.5” or above is where at least one SD of women would say is the floor. Yea, women usually want taller than them, but often with a qualifier of “taller than me in heels” which is at least 3 extra inches. Post a poll- get some real numbers
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 11:12 AM
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If you acknowledge his public persona is less than reputable, how is his account of why his wife left him trustworthy?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:09 AM
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I think you’ve answered your own question- with modern medicine & a loving supportive man and/or family, it’s not worth it. Aside from a changing body etc that you mentioned, it also can completely disrupt any professional trajectory she might’ve been on. Men often get a wage bonus where their earnings go up after kids. Women, on the other hand, have a drop in their earnings by 4% per kid. The world is on fire, AI is destroying the job market, people can’t afford rent or food- adding something t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:04 PM
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Caring would manifest as not dating someone with a smaller than 6” dick. Aren’t there things that, if you were creating a woman from scratch, you would want her to have (or not have) but that you’d be willing to overlook cuz no one is perfect? If I’m building a car on a website I might say I want it in forest green, but when I go to the dealership if they only have black I’m probably not going to go careless just cuz it’s not the right color. That doesn’t make me a hypocrite, that makes me under…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 01:53 PM
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There are plenty of women who don’t care about height. What I was talking about, and what you were arguing with me about, was ideal. Save some outliers, most women are going to opt for taller than shorter if they’re getting to build a man from scratch
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 01:04 PM
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So you’re dreamy enough as long as she ignores 2 things that make ideal guys actually ideal… that’s like saying “I’m pretty enough as long as a guy ignores the massive port wine stain that covers my face”. As soon as you throw a qualifier into the discussion, you’ve taken yourself out of contention for the title Perfect Man. And why is it ok for you to settle for someone when it’s not ok for someone to settle for you? That doesn’t strike you as entirely hypocritical?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 11:54 AM
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Honest question- Are you the dream guy? I mean, take a quick look in the mirror and be realistic. The vast majority of people are average and there are always going to be things someone settles for with you, just like there will always be things you settle for with someone else. Seriously, if you’re not top of your table, why do you think you would get treated like best in show?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 11:28 AM
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So if you were building an ideal woman would she be the average size 12-14? I bet not. Ideal is ideal. Average is average. How are you possibly getting butthurt about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:18 AM
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No one cares more about dick size than k straight guy with a small dick. When you say “care about” what do you mean? If I was building a guy he would probably get a ~6in dick but the difference between ideal & acceptable is large
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 11:25 AM
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No, I mean why in your hypothetical is your wife abusing you? This isn’t a real person correct? These aren’t your current lived experiences, as you said you aren’t “actually breed[ing]”, so why in your fantasy are you assuming your wife will be abusive?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:39 PM
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Your argument is confusing. Why should you get alimony “if [you] don’t have a male dv shelter”? Why do you need a male dv shelter in those hypothetical? I’m not saying they shouldn’t exist (they should), but why should your specific alimony be tied to it? Why is your hypothetical wife abusing you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 01:12 PM
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So you want your parents to pay for your life until you meet a woman and can transition to her paying for your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 01:01 PM
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Unfortunately there’s not a cutoff and it also depends on her. If she thinks you’re the bees knees, enthusiasm is going to be appreciated. If she’s not interested, no amount of intention on your part is going to make up for that. It’s just the nature of the beast
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:26 PM
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When it becomes desperation you find problems. Nothing kills desire like desperation
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:06 PM
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Oh I didnt realize you weren’t the guy who said duties to begin with. Yeah, relationships can fail for all sorts of reasons. Communication >>> gender roles for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:01 PM
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Then why wouldn’t you punish the fathers for leaving?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:56 PM
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You’re literally talking about wiping out women and replacing them with sex bots and artificial wombs but don’t like 4B talking about not procreating with average joes and say they don’t get to nuke everything? That’s literally what you’re advocating, just the other way around… The cognitive dissonance is strong in you, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:54 PM
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You think relationships only fail when gender roles aren’t adhered to?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:50 PM
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The point is if you’re gonna complain about someone’s behavior, “I have no other options” isn’t really an excuse. Either accept what you’re allowing, or don’t allow it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:32 AM
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I think the big issue is how you define empathy… for men who are struggling with relationships, it seems like the only “empathy” that is accepted or believed is agreeing to go on a date
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 08:23 PM
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But you’re not advocating for marriage. You’re advocating for dating. And your whole argument is the woman wouldn’t have to stay in the relationship if she didn’t want to be. So if she signs up for the dating visa saying she’s open to dating govt-vetted men, and then doesn’t want to date any of them for whatever reason, would she lose her visa? What if she met a bonafide Chad at her work and wanted to date him- would that be enough to deport her?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:15 PM
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Yeah but then he needs to move away from everything he’s always known, enter a country with a culture & language that’s not his own, and that would be hard!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:13 PM
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So what would stop these women from signing up for the dating visa and then never actually dating. Or going on one date and then stopping. Or dating but never having sex. Or marrying but refusing to have children
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:33 PM
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Because then he would have to live in that 3rd world country. Why would he put himself out when he could put the onus of all of this on a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:29 PM
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So if she signs up for a dating based visa and then refuses to have sex with the guy or bear his children, and she can break up with him without jeopardizing her visa, why wouldn’t these women sign up and then not date?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:24 PM
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Right? Undesirable men are undesirable. Their money and the opportunity to live in America might make them a consideration, but that’s not going to make the bedroom not dead which is all these guys seem to care about to begin with
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:20 PM
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Why aren’t you responding to anyone calling this what it is- state sponsored sex trafficking
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:18 PM
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So… state sponsored sex trafficking? That’s your solution. And you’re wondering why women speak out against this… 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:17 PM
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Someone asks a very specific question. You answer their very specific question but they don’t like your answer so instead of quietly disregarding their answer as valid but not what they are going for, they come on here to bitch about everyone who has the audacity to give them an answer they don’t like. Come on…. You seem to think that all advice should be applicable to all people. Which would work, if this were the Borg. But it’s not. That doesn’t make good, realistic, and reasonable advice any …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 02:52 PM
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Or just don’t take the advice if you don’t find it applicable to you. Not everything you read on the internet is going to fit your needs. This is literally the bean soup effect
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:51 PM
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What duties?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:47 PM
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Black pill is the lazy excuse that dudes who don’t look like models cling to because having to put any effort in when others appear to need to put in less isn’t fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:43 PM
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Nope. Always paid. I also make 5x more than my fiancé and pay for 90% of everything in our lives. You can believe me or not, but money can be re-earned, respect cannot
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:06 PM
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I always paid for my first dates in their entirety, not even just my half. If going on a date is going to preclude you from paying rent you have your priorities all fucked up. I mean seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:01 AM
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Holy dissertation Batman.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:17 PM
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Testosterone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:53 PM
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One of the things I love most about my fiancé is his sense of humor. Is his ability to make me laugh something that is who he is or something he does for me? The fact that he is kind and loving and respectful- is that who he is or is that how he treats me? Guys on here seem to think these things are distinct entities. They’re not. If he has a romantic personality he’s probably going to plan more dates. If he has a generous personality he’s probably going to be a generous lover. If he has a kind …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 04:36 PM
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If he respects her and she enjoys the traditional role of cooking & cleaning for him, that is a fine relationship because both people are playing the roles they want to be playing. The issue is when she wants to be valued as more than a cook/house keeper/warm hole, but those are the only thing he values about her. The gender swap of this is a gold digger. There are absolutely women who want to date/marry a rich guy they aren’t actually interested in because of his money. If he is on board for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 04:31 PM
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You can be stable and mature and emotionally available and loyal… AND charismatic, exciting, funny, etc. I mean, if you’re not fun to be around your stability and maturity don’t matter
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 04:46 PM
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I so look forward to OP’s response to this
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 04:37 PM
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There’s a lot to teach someone about a relationship if they’ve never been in one. Communicating without being hurtful, self awareness to know the root cause of a problem and not focusing on a detail as a deflection, admitting when you’re wrong and being able to apologize for it, allowing space for the other person’s inevitable irrationality without taking it personally, compromise- all of these things are skills that take practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:06 PM
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With these “BPD baddies” the lows are so low, but the highs are so high. It’s hard to recognize that massive dopamine hit is just reinforcing the maladjustment. As we get older do we find more appreciation for the mundane & boring, but that’s maturing for you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:40 PM
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Your penis and the attention it earns you is not a marker of your humanity. If I’m only interested in men aged 30-50 (as a 40F), that means I am interested in <14% of the people in America. 86% of the country is not less human because I’m not touching their genitalia. Let’s take it further- how about an age appropriate relationship who falls within 2 standard deviations of mean height, who isn’t married, no kids, and doesn’t smoke? Seems aggressively reasonable no? So men aged 30-50 who are at l…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:08 PM
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If half of the population thinks a certain way, why are you the one to say it’s not normal just cuz it’s different from how you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:42 PM
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I don’t think expecting women to freely offer their bodies to someone they’re not attracted to so they can have sexual gratification is very normal What’s more, it’s not normal to expect people to change their behavior that only you think is mutable if you yourself aren’t willing to change that mutable behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:39 PM
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You can only control your behavior- if you think someone can artificially create desire, surely you can artificially abolish it? Seems like a win win- you get to be less sexually frustrated and you’re not expecting strangers to change their behavior to accommodate your desires Or decide to be gay and your casual sex pool will open up immensely. Why not change?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:27 AM
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Dude, just pay for it. Either way you’re fucking someone who’s not that into you. At least if you’re paying she makes money and you get a sure thing
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:20 AM
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That’s like saying you can gain 600lbs and you’re the exact same human. Technically correct, but how many men fall out of love with their women when she puts on a ton of weight and he no longer lusts after her?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:19 AM
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If the only part of a human you care about is a body go fuck a corpse- a body that has no personality or feelings or thoughts. You are not going to convince any woman here that the physical act of humping someone till you bust a nut is the most authentic way to care about a person and show you care. Otherwise let’s hear how you fuck your mom or other members of your family or all your guy friends….
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:15 AM
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I mean, you’re literally whinging about why women are too discerning to want to allow you to penetrate them. If I’m gonna have likely-mediocre sex, it better be with someone who’s at least nice to look at naked
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:09 AM
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Sex with random men isn’t usually worth it. There is good evidence that casual sex can be psychologically damaging to women. Why should they put themselves at risk psychologically for mediocre sex with a hardly-attractive dude who doesn’t see her any anything more than a hole with tits made to stroke his ego. Yeah boss, sign me right up 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:07 AM
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How does lusting over someone have anything to do with seeing their humanity? I see my family as humans but I’m not trying to fuck my dad. I see my colleagues as human but I’m not hitting them up for a quickie at work. If the only way you feel seen or respected as a person is via access to a willing vagina it’s time to teach yourself some self respect and work on channeling that sexual frustration into something productive
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 04:49 AM
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Know why waitresses don’t show curiosity? Cuz they’re at work and they’re not curious. Why would they be curious? You’re seriously asking why a woman doesn’t lust after a guy they’re not sexually attracted to? Because she’s not sexually attracted to him…. Most women don’t see even a hot guy and think “I wanna fuck him”… that’s just not how it works
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:12 AM
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So you’re ok caring about the plight of other people as long as your dick is wet? As ever, it all comes down to a willing vagina
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:18 PM
3

So sexual assault? Seriously? That’s not on the same planet as unwanted attention
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 11:37 PM
2

Really depends on the terms of the contract. If for better or worse, you really can
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 11:59 AM
2

If he’s not leaving, cheating or opening things up it wouldn’t make a lick of difference
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 11:19 AM
2

Paradox of choice- more options isn’t better
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:18 AM
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So be less selective….
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:51 AM
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So the crux of your question is if women knew getting sex would cure men’s suicidal ideation, would they have more pity sex? If pity sex were that effective, why wouldn’t you just pay for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 11:38 PM
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No you’re being perfectly clear, you just don’t like the answer. No one should be expected to do something unwanted with their body for the sake of someone else, especially if that someone else isn’t someone important to them. If my fiancé told me that he was suicidal unless we had more sex I would probably fuck him more often, as his mental health is extremely important to me and I am somewhat responsible for it. Random dude however? Nah… I mean, how many would be the cutoff for duty served? 5 …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 10:41 PM
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Then it sounds like he should pay someone to sleep with him. If lack of sex was, beyond a shadow of a doubt, the cause of male suicide I believe the dudes in congress would pretty quickly loosen prostitution laws
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 10:16 PM
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So you’re camp Pity Sex, as opposed to the other guys here who are camp If She Doesn’t Lust For You It’s A Fate Worse Than Death. If it were proven that female suicide was definitively linked to not having a boyfriend, would you enter into a relationship with a fat chick you weren’t attracted to? Seriously, what did you think the responses were gonna be? If your hypothetical mental health is so bad that the only think that could keep you from offing yourself is a willing vagina, why wouldn’t you…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 09:59 PM
5

Saying “that stranger is objectively hot and I don’t want to have sex with someone I don’t know” is not demisexuality
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:06 PM
5

There are actually studies that show casual sex is psychologically much more damaging to women than to men
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 10:54 AM
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You’d think that most men wouldn’t intentionally want to hurt someone they’re sleeping with, even if it’s just a casual thing. I forget that many guys on here live and die by “don’t care, had sex”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 10:50 AM
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What is the actual question you’re trying to ask? Is this one of those “why don’t women pick nice guys” post?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 03:57 AM
2

How would you go about increasing someone’s desirability without changing anything about them?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 11:03 AM
2

No one has the right to date someone who doesn’t want them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:48 AM
6

Men and females 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:45 AM
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So you want to encourage women to settle for men they’re not really into cuz their dick is too dry? More women settling isn’t gonna make their dicks any wetter. Doesn’t it make more sense to instead become the kind of man women want?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:44 AM
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Dating opportunities? You bring this up multiple times in your post. How would you go about ensuring weak males have adequate dating opportunities?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:41 AM
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I would argue that if someone is in a relationship and behaves in a way that only serves themselves with no consideration of the people they hurt, they are, in fact, bad actors
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 04:42 PM
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You can lie to yourself and say you’re not the type of person who will ghost, but by virtue of your having ghosted in the past you are, in fact, they kind of person. If you don’t respect someone enough to not cheat on them or ghost them, that doesn’t mean you’re doing nothing wrong. Jfc I’ve never seen someone so quick to absolve themselves of their own shitty behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 03:53 PM
1

As u/John_Oakman just said, people want honest winners, not honest losers or fake winners.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:02 PM
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I’ll take “bad fan fic” for 1000… Plenty of men are social, have friends, get invited to parties, etc. Plenty of women don’t. Your personal situation can’t really be extrapolated to “most men”. Maybe you should work on making some friends
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 09:24 PM
1

What milder criminalities are getting prison time?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 11:25 AM
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Women = Men Females = Males Girls = Boys Men are ____ = AWALT Your whole post is about how words matter, and yet you don’t seem to realize what the equivalent word of the other gender is
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:10 PM
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OLD is literally online shopping for a partner. Most men who get attention on OLD are either good looking or have put in the effort to take pictures that don’t suck. “Good men” have bad profiles with shite pictures. When the marketing isn’t good, the consumer isn’t going to purchase. There is literally no way to evaluate how “good” of a guy you are if your pics aren’t enticing enough to even open the profile. And then lots of times when the pics are good enough to open the profile, the profile s…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 11:21 PM
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On a macro level living things want to reproduce, but to say all living things want that is just wrong. If that’s were the case the birth rate wouldn’t be declining the way it is. More and more people are choosing to not have children, which is in direct opposition to your assertion
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 09:33 AM
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Men don’t break up with women that are perfect for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:46 AM
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Ah yeah the ever enjoyable game of Who Can Care Less
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 12:20 PM
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Yes absolutely. I also think men and women can be friends even after they’ve hooked up
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 10:29 PM
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How do you know what you like unless you try it?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 07:18 PM
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Be careful? I’m merely pointing out how your assertion that I “want the benefits of a traditional man” is based in nothing but your own projection. My fiancé is proud of what I’ve built for us. If he isn’t concerned about my ego, I don’t know why you would be
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 05:40 PM
0

That would make childbirth equal. That says nothing about dating
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 03:58 PM
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I’m not the ruler of the world, so obviously my “rule” is not a rule. Call it a suggestion
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 02:17 PM
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Cool, let’s make a rule that men and women only date people they’re actually interested in. Women will stop monkey branching and men give up situationships in lieu of clearly defined monogamous relationships. No no one feels used. Best of luck with that. Sounds great in theory but dudes are gonna be just as resistant to this
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:17 PM
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Three whole paragraphs to land on “do some deep introspection to open up your perception of dating” What do you think “giving someone a chance” is?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:12 PM
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Oh I do? Weird… here I am making 5x what my fiancé does, paying for 90+% of everything including the mortgage, the bills, and the wedding. Here I am having told him I fully support him being a househusband if he wants to quit his job. But no you’re right, I totally want the benefits of a traditional man…. Y’all really gotta get over this. If you don’t wanna pay for dates, don’t pay. As more men don’t, more women will stop expecting it. But until then use it as a litmus test- if you don’t pay and…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 12:59 PM
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I upvoted your comment so not exactly sure who you’re talking about…. But I mean if downvotes make you feel that upset maybe Reddit isn’t the right place for you 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 12:53 PM
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The men who are struggling will most likely get a partner eventually. They will have to settle for being settled for. But everyone settles in some way
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 12:45 PM
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How do you make dating equal? You did a great job at identifying the problem. How are you at actually solving it?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 04:47 AM
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It’s almost as if you have the 100% ability to not consider those women for procreation. Wish granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 04:46 AM
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Oh is see, so she’s asking for it… I mean, look at what she’s wearing right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:28 AM
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The fact that this needs to be spelled out is so sad. Enjoy the view and move on with your life
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:56 PM
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“Respectfully… what exactly am I supposed to do with the visual information that has just been delivered directly to my eyeballs?” Enjoy the view. In silence. Not everything needs to be commented on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:55 PM
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Suppose it’s possible. As a woman who has always had more money than her partners that’s not been my experience but maybe it’s theirs
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 08:12 PM
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I make at least 5x what my fiancé makes and have told him several times if he wants to be a house husband he is welcome to. He enjoys his job, but the second he stops he knows he has my full blessing to quit
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:48 PM
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Lots of men don’t know how to handle a woman earning more. There is a lot of resentment that can build up when a man needs to figure out how to be valuable for more than a paycheck
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:47 PM
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Keanu reeves Eliott Rodgers
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 03:24 AM
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Not if his conclusion is dick is gross and he never wanted to do it again
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 01:46 AM
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Lmao what You seem to think that being bullied means you can’t be a bully and vice versa. These things are not mutually exclusive. People who get bullied can absolutely bully others. And it 100% can happen from a single individual. It’s literally childhood harassment. It doesn’t take a cadre of people to bully someone
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:34 PM
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Absolutely nothing I’ve said has anything to do with feminism
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 12:45 PM
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Pretty sure OP isn’t talking about 19th century men. This feels much more directed at 21st century men. The average nothing special ones that we interact with every day, not the handful of savants And you say women were being midwives like their ability to study science wasn’t intentionally impeded by those men you laud so vocally
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:57 AM
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So you found one cool dude in 4ish billion?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:23 AM
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Social media is no different. I don’t know a single woman who would pick quantity over quality
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 11:05 PM
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Seriously? If that’s all it takes for you to be infatuated I worry about you
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:06 PM
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Not being into is not the same as not constantly lusting for
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:48 PM
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I wasn’t “so infatuated”. I was curious, I tried it, I was pretty disgusted, and I’ve never tried it again. Having one experimental experience doesn’t make me any more of a lesbian than smoking pot once makes me a pothead
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:03 PM
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Dude you’re so narrow minded it hurts. Telling a person that a drunken choice she made when she was 17 determines her identification for the rest of her life is ridiculous. But hey, if that’s how you wanna play it good luck finding a woman who has never made a decision you don’t agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:03 AM
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Women are beautiful, tits are awesome, and I was drunk. Trying something once and deciding it wasn’t for you doesn’t make you part of that demographic. Experimenting with lesbian sex once doesn’t make you anymore of a lesbian than smoking pot one time makes you a pot head.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:50 AM
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I’ve had lesbian sex exactly one time when I was in high school. And that’s when I learned that vagina is gross. My one sexual experience with a woman doesn’t make me any less straight
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:19 AM
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A majority of men people who seriously struggle dating and finding a partner were bullied in adolescence. I bet if you took a poll most people would say they were bullied
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:10 PM
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I make a fuck ton more than my man, so k?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 07:39 PM
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Not my intention. I’ve only ever been ghosted by men so you say women are more likely to do it and it made me wonder if that’s because you’ve only been ghosted by women or if it’s cuz women are actually more likely to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:23 PM
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I’m curious if you have actual evidence that backs that up
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 04:47 PM
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About men being prepared for the end of the world? So feminism is to blame cuz your son’s not a prepper… got it…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 02:58 PM
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Please elaborate. What damage has feminism done to your son?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 02:27 PM
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If you’ve been married longer than I’ve been alive and are still fighting about dating on Reddit I’m not sure what to tell you. And you seem to be taking my social shaming personally. Go check out those forever alone spaces and come back here telling me what they talk about doesn’t support my conclusion
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 02:05 PM
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Not sure what you mean by barrier to entry, but money, free time, access to good public transportation, & bad city planning are fundamental failures of (I’m assuming) American society. Andrew Tate & his disciples are not going to make the US a more equitable, less end-stage capitalist civilization. Money & free time are interconnected by the job you (general you) has and there aren’t a whole lot of companies that are going to pay you more to work less so you have enough time & resources to get o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 02:03 PM
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Getting the first date is about looks, cuz she doesn’t know anything about you. Every subsequent date tilts the scale toward personality
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 01:00 PM
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No no no. Seeking mental health treatment isn’t what men need. They need the gym and money and pussy. Anything else is for soyboys /s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:48 PM
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You don’t need politicians and radicalized men to create third spaces. You need community engagement and a willingness to step out of a comfort zone. Know how women on here are often recommending men to take a class, join a club, join a sports league, etc? That’s literally them saying “go to the third space”. In the absence of a Tatean senator, what’s stopping you (and anyone else) from doing just that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:44 PM
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Because that’s what a lot of men who can’t get laid want. Getting pussy under the threat of execution is still getting pussy. Legalized rape isn’t rape, it’s sex. I think a not insignificant number of these forever alone guys would seriously consider nonconsensual sex if they knew with 100% certainty they would get away with it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:37 PM
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So much for debate huh? You post this shit and then don’t engage with it at all?? I assume it’s cuz you know you’re too full of anger and shit to actually have an argument. I’ll ask again just in case you decide to grow a set and engage with your own claim- how would a bunch of radicalized Tate wannabes fix the male loneliness epidemic?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:28 PM
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Safer is just a more PC word for easier. There are definitely guys who will lash out and start saying all sorts of horrible shit after they get dumped. Ghosting just avoids that. But let’s not pretend like ghosting is something only women do. Dudes do it too
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 01:39 AM
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You brought up the male loneliness epidemic, so let’s have at it. How would a bunch of radicalized men fix that? I’ll wait….
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 11:18 PM
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I think the post is in response to the ones we see where guys are saying “if she did something with someone else that she won’t do with you…” If that something is THAT important, make it known it’s that important at the beginning. That way, if her response is “I did that with an ex and I didn’t like it so I don’t do it anymore” you can make the informed decision to not date her
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 03:02 PM
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Testosterone. The answer is testosterone. If women had as much T as men do they’d want to fuck like men do. But they don’t. It’s not cuz female heterosexuality doesn’t actually exist. It’s cuz y’all have 5-20x more testosterone than we do. It’s really not that deep
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 01:00 AM
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“They” does not refer to [men]. “They” refers to [men who insist women aren’t really heterosexual because they do not exhibit male desire patterns]. That is a *very specific* subgroup of men who are not intensely desired by any women
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:17 AM
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I’m pretty sure most women aren’t concerned about the men who only want women whose sexuality mirrors theirs finding a partner. I’m much more concerned with the sexuality of the guys I’m into, and that their into mine
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:14 AM
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Crying, sadness, withdrawal, & low energy are not the diagnostic criteria. They actually are at least one of the first 2 + 4 others for at least 2w: - depressed mood - anhedonia: markedly diminished interest & pleasure in most/all activities ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ - weight gain/loss - insomnia/hypersomnia - psychomotor retardation - fatigue/loss of energy - feelings of worthlessness or excessive guilt - diminished ability to think/concentrate - recurrent thoughts of death or SI So maybe withd…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/05/26 03:11 PM
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To my knowledge there isn’t one, at least in English
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 01:38 PM
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Hahahaha I mean yeah words are often homonyms but in this case the relationship between husband and husbandry is etymological. It comes from the base word meaning management of domestic affairs- in that respect, wives generally practice more husbandry than husbands. As “husband” now exclusively means a married man, and not the master of the household, there is no situation where husbandry means “the practice of being a husband”. You can try to insult me all you want, sis… doesn’t make you less w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 01:28 PM
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Yeah that’s not how that works, at all
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:57 PM
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🤣🤣🤣 husbandry is the science of cultivating crops and raising livestock, not being a husband
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:45 PM
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Yeah it is. There are tons (most I’d be willing to argue) of women who have had the experience of really liking a guy, hooking up early, and Tim disappearing. PNC is a real thing and if there are no feelings beneath it a good thing can otherwise end
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:43 PM
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Some women would choose to be housewives, as they already do. Some women would make a different choice, as they already do. Think about all the things we know are healthy that help people live longer- exercise, healthy diet, enough sleep, limit stress, no alcohol/drugs/smoking, hobbies, family, social life…. There are plenty of things we can do to optimize our health that people choose not to do for one reason or another. Being a housewife would just be another one of those things
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:51 AM
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In this fantasy world does she not work? Cuz I know exactly 0 woman who don’t have a full time job. I also know exactly 0 men who want a submissive wife
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 11:07 PM
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And what does he do to love and keep her? You’ve already said he doesn’t do chores. He’s not cooking her meals. If he wants silence he doesn’t care what she says…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 10:09 PM
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That is entirely a choice you make, and one that guarantees loneliness
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 08:49 PM
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Lots of women in those sexless marriages are using vibrators with more consistent outcomes
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 02:54 PM
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Nothing is a perfect meritocracy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 04:38 PM
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Movies and academic papers are not the same. Movies generally get made if there’s a market for them to make money. Academic papers are not concerned with that
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/05/26 04:01 PM
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The reason there are no papers is because no one has written them. There are papers about misandry because someone wanted to see those papers written. If you want to see it, do it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/05/26 02:18 PM
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I agree. Dudes on here are like “wahhhh women all go for the same 20% of dudes” but if the choice is one of the 20% who gives a shit about being a good lay, one of the 80% who’s gonna waste my time, or keeping my pants on, I know which 2 choices I’m going for
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:34 AM
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So wait, you want to do away with social welfare programs and at the same time create govt sponsored sex workers for the disabled and sexless? And if the govt is paying that means the taxpayers are paying. All the while you’re complaining about how you shouldn’t have to pay taxes for programs that support men, women, and children, and yet you want my woman-tax dollars to pay for your dick wetting? So basically the only entitlements that are worthy are the ones you personally benefit from…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:25 AM
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Except there aren’t pregnancy/sti risks with pregnancy, nor the insistence that women who have a high body count have no value. If these men aren’t going to put forth an iota of effort to make sex worthwhile for women, for what reason should women have sex with them? I’m not going to subject myself to feeling degraded and disappointment (not to mention risks of pregnancy or STIs) to give some guy who doesn’t give a shit a happy just cuz it would make him feel good
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:16 AM
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I’d agree with you, except then I get gems like this and it makes me think OP and many men on here who are vehemently agreeing don’t have much experience. https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/qQSk7ztiTs
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:13 AM
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It also benefits people with schizophrenia (mostly men), disabled veterans (mostly men), the homeless (mostly men). But those men don’t matter if men who don’t need help aren’t getting laid, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:01 AM
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That’s a weird conclusion. All it takes is one bite of a meal that someone doesn’t like for them to swear an entire ingredient off. Doing something awful even for a short time doesn’t make it less awful, nor does it make it more likely to want to do it again. Why would anyone want to do something they know they won’t enjoy just cuz someone else wants them to?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:46 AM
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What’s hard to get? Generally women need a fair amount of buildup and foreplay for her to be ready for sex, especially if the goal is to orgasm. Additionally, she likely wants to have sex long enough to get to the orgasm. Is it really hard to understand that fucking someone who offers the choices of bone dry sex that lasts a while and leaves her unsatisfied vs appropriately primed sex that gets cut short and leaves her unsatisfied are both bad options, and thus are not going to encourage women t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:19 AM
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So you’re telling me that women should have children with men like OP despite him winging about how they’re a net negative and shouldn’t have any societal protection? Your argument that women should suck up being abandoned and derided by society so they can maintain society & pensions is crazy. Why should they care about protecting society when the society that OP wants to see would intentionally turn its back on them? Instead of worrying about some boomer’s pension they could be making their ow…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:13 AM
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Probably won’t land you in the hospital though 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:00 AM
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OP obviously things that social welfare programs, affordable housing, and DEI are contributing to women not “needing” men. If women couldn’t get housing, or food, or education/career opportunities to financially take care of themselves, they would be desperate to settle for these men that no one wants. Once that happens he’ll be on here petitioning to do away with marital rape laws
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:59 AM
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And men are pearl clutching about the drop in the birth rate. What is the incentive to have children if it’s no longer going to be even tacitly looked down upon Interesting how you won’t respond to my other comment. Have no actual points to make?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:56 AM
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Not like bad sushi
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:55 AM
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I assume “using my own argument” is your way of saying “if women didn’t want to do the job of caring they could choose not to” but then who would? Who would care for aging parents (especially as you so desperately want to do away with social welfare programs)? Who would take care of children? And how am I twisting your argument? 60% of food stamp households with children are single parent households- of that 92% are single mothers. Where are those men and why aren’t they taking care of their kid…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:42 AM
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For men, sex is like pizza- even when it’s bad it’s not that bad. For women, sex is like sushi- when it’s good it’s amazing but when it’s bad it can turn you off from it for a long time
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:26 AM
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Women are a “net negative” because they’re the ones staying home caring for children and aging parents. If men would do that stuff, they would be the negative. But of course, men don’t want to do that so they don’t. So women have to, cuz someone has to. Men do hard laborious jobs because they’re choose to. No one is holding a gun to your head saying you have to go into construction. If you want to go to med school, stay in school and go to med school. Want a high paying desk job? Get your MBA or…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:23 AM
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Male/female is fine. Men/women is fine. Men/female is telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 12:21 AM
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Men and females huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 11:27 PM
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Testosterone
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 11:26 PM
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Is anyone ever justified at hating an entire group of people? If you’re opposed to the hating of men, why would you want to propose the hating of women?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 09:29 PM
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That is not my interpretation of feedback that men get. I usually see “your bio is generic, it doesn’t say anything about you”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 02:47 PM
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I mean sure, if you’re busted you’re gonna have a really hard time, but I see some of these profiles that get posted for review and it makes me wonder how these dudes think they’re gonna get any traction
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 01:22 PM
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When you shop online, you buy based in marketing. The packaging matters, the design matters, the ad matters. That’s all online dating is- online shopping for a partner. Have you ever been on r/tinder and looked at the profiles asking for reviews? Terrible pics, terrible bios…. If you’re not gonna put effort into the marketing, you’re product will stay on the shelf
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 10:15 AM
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There are lots of reasons why someone doesn’t want to have sex. Maybe her libido is trash. Maybe she’s depressed. Maybe she’s got vaginismus and it hurts…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 06:14 PM
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A nuanced and well thought out take. I should buy a lotto ticket; this never happens on PPD
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 01:19 PM
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I’m pretty sure men who’ve been raped would disagree with you. Also, are you attracted to your hand? Most guys who jerk off arent
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 01:18 PM
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Sure, and when your looks start to fade cuz everyone gets older and those same people who said “you should feel lucky cuz all you have to do is be not fat” also say that you’re past your prime and don’t have value anymore, it’s definitely better than being valued for your character and personality 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 01:17 PM
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All this tells me is you think you’re pretty enough that your personality doesn’t matter. There are surely some women who are shallow enough to agree with that stance, but I don’t think most are
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 11:36 AM
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Ok, once more for the ones in the back…. I referenced personality, making her laugh, fun to be around. All very attractive qualities. If you think people can’t be attracted to material stuff you’re either an idiot or a troll. Ever notice how fast people “fall in love” on the bachelor when they’re taking helicopter rides and riding horses on the beach. Have you never heard of gold diggers who literally enter into relationships solely because of a guy’s wallet? Think of it like this: datability is…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 11:35 AM
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Because being objectified for our bodies is being objectified for your wallet. Saying “men never get this. I don’t understand why women care” makes as much sense as if women said “I’m 5’5 and I’m not short, I don’t get why men who are 5’5 say they’re short”. Women who are 5’5 aren’t short. Men who are 5’5 are. The utter lack of empathy that women, lots of women, tell you guys ALL the time how not fun or sexy or appreciated this is, and yet we’re still always met with “but if I got used for sex I…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 11:24 AM
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Because men having bad social skills aren’t going to suddenly make them attractive. It’s not a zero sum game where as one goes up the other goes down. Men who aren’t super hot can still pull if they have a good personality, make her laugh, are fun to be around, etc. Guys that aren’t great looking but have other things going for them now have less going for them = less success
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 10:51 AM
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Why does a dude wanting to be taken care of by his woman make him not a man? Pretty sure the dick makes him the man. Your narrow minded bigotry is an affront to basically everyone. Grow up and get some culture. It’s 2026 and people can live their lives eschewing whatever gender norms they want. Your saying otherwise is nothing but a regressive homophobic attitude that does nothing but show how ugly you are as a person
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 10:45 AM
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The women in your life sound awful and really like your extrapolating from the worst of TikTok & Instagram.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 10:43 AM
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Having a man want to stick his penis in you means absolutely nothing. I don’t understand why men don’t get this. Men will fuck women they don’t like who they’re not attracted to. You’re literally saying you know ugly women who men will treat like a fleshlight… ohh yeah daddy sign me right up! 🙄Much like ugly but rich men can surely find a woman to spend his money- it’s nothing anyone wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 10:19 AM
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I mean, that literally just ensures more men will be shut out of dating, but ok…..
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 10:15 AM
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So you’d rather men be entirely evaluated on looks like women are?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 09:54 AM
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Women who wanted a relationship would settle for the men available, and be miserable What would men do if all women suddenly became obese? The exact same thing. As long as there are men around who aren’t socially inept, those will always be the first ones chosen
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 09:52 AM
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I said research. Breast cancer research is consistently the highest funded cancer research
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 09:30 AM
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There’s not a lot to disagree with. Women’s healthcare is notoriously shoddy, which the exception of breast cancer research
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 08:06 PM
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I was getting ready, as a woman & as a physician, to type out my own answer… but you’ve done such a good job I’ll spare my thumbs
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 08:02 PM
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I have absolutely been answering. She wouldn’t be having sex with other men. She may or may not be attracted to you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 03:44 PM
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No. You split bills but you are not providing for her at all. Maybe she’s the breadwinner and takes on the bills or you’re just paying for you, not for her
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 10:53 AM
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I was actually very pleased how many said the relationship, so no sorry to tell you I wasn’t trying to “own the chuds”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 03:57 AM
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You can’t find someone else. The point is sexless with her or sexless alone
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 09:16 PM
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No you can watch porn and jerk off all you want. Some people would rather be sexless and with someone than be sexless and alone
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 09:16 PM
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No Yes All other forms of intimate touching. Just no genitals Someone else isn’t an option. The choice is sexless with her or sexless alone
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 09:14 PM
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Cuz it’s hypothetical. You’re not successful in dating. You can either be with this woman who loves you and doesn’t want to have sex with you, or you can no have sex and be alone
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 06:39 PM
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You wouldn’t have access to other women. The idea is sexless with her or sexless alone
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 06:38 PM
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It could be for any number of reasons. She doesn’t like sex. She’s not attracted to you. She’s depressed. She’s menopausal. She’s got vaginismus. Whatever it is there is no intervention that will change it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 06:14 PM
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You wouldn’t be dating. You would get no traction on apps, no women would respond to your advances. She is the only woman in the world who wants anything to do with you, she just doesn’t want to have anything to do with your dick
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:53 PM
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The choice (for this question’s purpose) is not be with someone who doesn’t want sex or find someone who does. It’s be sexless in a relationship or be sexless alone
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:48 PM
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What does that matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:47 PM
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How can you possibly say the only valid expression of love has to involve a penis. That’s ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:38 PM
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Obviously, I didn’t include all the intricacies of a relationship. But I think the dynamic absolutely exists
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:29 PM
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Their other option is being alone. The question is be sexless with someone who loves you or be sexless alone
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:27 PM
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No. You have a relationship without sex or you’re alone. Sexless with someone who loves you or sexless by yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:25 PM
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So you’d rather not go to the amusement park and enjoy everything else it has to offer than go and not ride the rides
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:25 PM
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But isn’t someone settling for you sorta the precursor for this? I guess the more direct question would be would you rather be settled for or alone
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:23 PM
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Sure, if the other option was being alone for the rest of my life? I’d rather have someone who loves me who I love
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:19 PM
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Why is sex the only form of intimacy that counts? All other forms of intimacy are still on the table, just no touching genitals
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:08 PM
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How do you know you’re providing the funds? Let’s say she out earns you by an order of magnitude
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:07 PM
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Other forms of intimacy are still fair game. Just no touching genitals
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:06 PM
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All of that yes, just no touching of genitals
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:05 PM
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Doesn’t matter. Maybe yes, maybe no, but either way she’s not touching your penis and there’s no intervention that can change that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:05 PM
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You’re missing the point. There aren’t other options for you to sleep with. You either get love without sex from her, or you get neither love nor sex from no one
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:04 PM
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No she absolutely adores you. She wants to make you (non sexually) happy. You’re the best man she’s ever dated. She just doesn’t want to have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:19 PM
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She just doesn’t want sex. Maybe she’s not attracted to you, maybe she’s perimenopausal, maybe she’s got vaginismus. She wouldn’t say she’s repulsed by you. And she loves you with all her heart. She just doesn’t want sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:18 PM
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She loves you. She wants to marry you. She wants to build a life with you. She just doesn’t want to have sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:14 PM
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It’s a dead bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:13 PM
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Even if she tried it and knows she didn’t like it? If I go skydiving with an ex and I didn’t like it, why would I go skydiving with my current bf? And why would my current bf want me to do something he knew I didn’t like?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:11 PM
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Ok then accept the hand you’re dealt and deal with the expectations. You can either filter these women out so you don’t have to deal with them, or you choose not to knowing you’ll have to deal with them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:10 PM
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You tell them so neither you nor she is wasting time. You came on Reddit to complain that women get all pissy when you take them on a date and expect them to pay for it. But if you tell them you expect them to pay for it before the date, and that’s something they’ll get pissy about, they’ll not go out with you. It’s a win-win. They don’t date someone they think is ungenerous, you don’t date someone you think is selfish and using. There is literally no downside to filtering that out before the ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:41 PM
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So don’t pay? It’s really not that hard. Don’t date women who expect you to pay
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:38 PM
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Or, you can establish before the first date that you intend to split the bill, and the women who have an issue with that won’t date you. But men are, generally, so concerned with reducing their prospects they willingly do stuff and then turn around and complain about it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:37 PM
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So from a position of power you don’t get mad when someone says something that has nothing to do with you, and yet you think women are being emotional when you judge them as a whole. Fucking brilliant
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:42 PM
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But I don’t think a man who can’t protect his woman doesn’t deserve one. That’s a dumb as fuck thing to say. My biology has never once made me feel that way. A better argument would be women saying how tall men are more attractive than short men. And men get wildly pissed off about that so let’s not pretend this is some “women getting emotional” bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 02:11 PM
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Ok super, but all women will become older than 25 if they’re lucky, so saying “it’s biology” is a wonderful filter. If subconsciously you’re gonna stop thinking I’m attractive and instead want to fuck some younger women once I have the audacity to cross that arbitrary line, then I don’t want to be with you. Do I think my fiancé sees women younger than I am and thinks they’re attractive? Sure. But the only convos we’ve ever had on this subject always end with him saying all the reasons why dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 01:55 PM
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Precisely. Most women don’t want to have their man think they have 7 good & legal years and then he’s off looking for the next 18-25yo who’s still within date. If many men think that way, that’s many men who can be ruled out as potential life partners and fathers of their children, as the majority of life & parenthood happens after 25yo. Why would anyone want to be with someone who thinks of them as spoilt and worsening every day?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 02:23 AM
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I don’t think this is intended to be “anytime someone says no it’s abuse”. I think it’s supposed to be “if your (general you) intention is ‘I’m going to keep saying no to sex until you do what I want’, that’s abuse” The weaponization is the abuse, not the simple declination
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/05/26 11:56 AM
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You can’t have sex with someone unless you’re the hottest person they’ve ever been with? Dang, good luck with that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 10:21 PM
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I’m responding to your initial comment “you assume we have full control over our behaviors. How much you think you can control the animal inside you” So you are the one who brought up man’s ability to control himself
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 06:03 PM
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What situations can you think of in dating where “I couldn’t control myself” is remotely acceptable? This isn’t a gendered thing. If you can’t control yourself or your behavior around people you’re attracted to that’s a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 05:58 PM
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Sorta feel like if someone doesn’t have control of themselves (and no, I’m not talking physiologic reactions) they should work on getting those under control before trying to date. There is absolutely no situation where “I couldn’t control myself” is a valid response when talking about dating
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 04:53 PM
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I don’t think men should stay away from women. But I do think “we have full control over our behaviors”. If you don’t feel like you can control yourself around women then yes, you should probably stay away
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 03:45 PM
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A woman wearing something sexy might be wanting attention, but attention ≠ objectification
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:13 PM
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Does it work? Do you have any evidence that rape or sexual assault is lower in Islamic countries? Humans act different than animals every single day. If we can do it with employment, and religion, and society, and healthcare, we can do it with lust. Saying anything different is laziness
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:00 PM
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Can you elaborate what a feminine woman acts like or doesn’t act like? Saying “women basically act like men now” means absolutely nothing to me, because I’ve seen men act all sorts of contradictory ways
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 04:20 PM
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Your post is not about 18yos having sex with 16yos and you know that. Fuck off with that gotcha shit
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 01:43 PM
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Children are children and adults shouldn’t fuck children. Just because you’re able to go on a porn sub and find stories of men who didn’t care or enjoyed themselves when they were boys doesn’t mean that’s the way things should be legislates. Children should be protected, full stop
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:15 AM
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If you really think you’d be happy with someone that didn’t have her own opinion or ever challenged you have at it To me the aggressive agreeableness and extreme predictability would get so boring so fast
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:35 AM
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Except is a computer really a someone? When you get programmed responses they’re not exactly authentic
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:18 AM
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There is no scale
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:50 PM
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That’s like saying having water is more important than having heat. Having the former doesn’t mean you have none of the latter. You should aim to have both and then you’ll be the most successful
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:36 AM
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You’re acting like kindness & charisma are mutually exclusive. They’re not
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:31 AM
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Handling pressure calmly, protecting & providing for family, being reliable, staying emotionally grounded, treating people consistently with respect, and taking accountability are not and should not be considered masculine behaviors. Those are just displays of being a good person
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 04:10 PM
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I’m sorry, but “would prefer to work at home” is not the same as “works from home” Not saying it changes the rest of the post’s arguments, but there are a lot of things most of us would prefer to do that we cant
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/05/26 02:55 PM
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You can shit in one hand and wish in the other and see which one fills up faster. Turns out, when women (and men for that matter) are discussing their sexual assault, the preferences of some random person is not their highest priority
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 04:11 AM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/Vent/s/x4Jb8sRpGGe this you? Weird how your opinion changes when you’re not the one hurting. If she’s in your space, ask her to leave. If she’s not in your space, it’s on you to leave
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 04:11 AM
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Why do you think you have the authority to speak for general men. You’re not the mouthpiece for a whole ass gender
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 04:06 AM
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Welp then you’re choosing to stay in places where sexual assault gets discussed. That’s a choice you’re making and the consequences of that choice are yours to deal with
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:57 AM
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Are you that bored? Is this the only way you can get women to pay attention to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:55 AM
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Ah yes, the ubiquitous and erroneous idea of what boundaries are. Boundaries are not things you force someone else to adhere to. Boundaries are things you adhere to yourself. So if your boundary is “I don’t want to be in spaces where sexual assault is discussed” it’s your responsibility to remove yourself from those spaces. It’s not our job to change the space to accommodate your delicate constitution
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:51 AM
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You seem to be confusing correlation with causation. You cannot reasonably conclude from this study “either girls prefer misogynist boys or boys that are more successful develop more anti feminist views”. I conclude that girls prefer popular boys despite their misogynist attitude because, at 13, whether or not their boyfriend thinks they deserve equal pay is less important than whether he’s taking her to homecoming or tagging her on IG
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 10:26 AM
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The ones who focus on something other than women maybe, but the ones who are always single with no kids never married never had a serious relationship despite desperately wanting one and not getting one probably less so I’d love to know what behavior 13-15yo girls are displaying that makes you think boys would conclude they don’t deserve equal job opportunities or pay
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 10:20 AM
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That implies you (general you) never see women jn bad relationships that they shouldn’t stay in, which is obviously not true. People staying with bad partners for whatever reason is not a gendered issue
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:55 AM
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Indoctrination is indoctrination. Just because (hopefully) most of them grow out of it doesn’t mean being exposed to it is benign. Red pill is a gateway drug to black pill, and black pill is how you get dangerous incels. Surely you don’t think more angry retaliatory dudes the likes of which are found on inceltears or like Eliot Rogers is a good thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:51 AM
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🤣 you sound like tons of fun
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 02:59 AM
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Don’t let Reddit inform your opinions. Live your own life
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 01:44 AM
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And do you kink shame women who willingly and consensually seek that dynamic?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 01:32 AM
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Why not. What consenting adults choose to participate in is no one’s business but theirs
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 01:30 AM
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I’m an 8 and I 100% identify as an achiever, so….
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 01:02 AM
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I’m literally going off the things you say
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 10:27 PM
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I mean, being misogynistic doesn’t make you hot. So sure, for girls aged 13-15 being misogynistic and hot is a totally viable strategy. If that’s your target demographic I think you have bigger problems. With grown ass women being hot and misogynistic might get you some action. Being not hot and not misogynistic might get you some action. Know what won’t be getting you any action? Being not hot and misogynistic. No one wants the bottom of that barrel So if buy into that 80/20 bs you guys alway s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 09:45 PM
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Except that forgiveness of misogyny doesn’t necessarily carry on. It’s not terribly surprising that children don’t care about these things as much because it doesn’t impact their lives as much. As they become adults, the consequences of misogyny are much more tangible. OP is trying to turn correlation into causation by saying “either teenage girls prefer misogynist boys or boys that are more successful develop more anti-feminist views”. All this study is saying is popular boys are both popular a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 05:29 PM
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The preference of children shouldn’t be used to gauge the attitudes of grownups
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 05:06 PM
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- Kiss 13 - (Real) relationship 16 - Lost virginity 16 - Casual sex 19 - Total relationships 6 - longest single 7 years - I think relationships are incredibly important. I think sex can be but doesn’t have to be. Dating is shite and something I’d be happy to never do again - the best experiences of my life have nothing to do with sex, but many of them were with whatever BF I had at the time
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 03:14 PM
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I do all of those things
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 03:02 PM
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This is discussing the dating habits of 13 & 15 year olds. In high school, popular kids are popular. I think a bunch of popular boys who get together and consume this manosphere media are going to echo chamber themselves and more deeply solidify those thoughts. And teenage girls are not exactly beacons of nuance and political thought. Usually they just like the popular boys for all the red pill talking point reasons. They’re all children. This study would be much more interesting if done in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 11:14 AM
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It seem like you’re saying young women don’t know what they want, but you also don’t want to date older women who have figured out what they want…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 11:37 PM
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I agreed with you so much until you split into “men want love, women don’t know what they want” This isn’t a gendered thing. Yes, everyone seeks novelty. Yes, everyone has gotten more shallow. Yes, everyone wants that next dopamine hit. You say lust is the expression of love but the thing that blows your mind”men want love” argument out of the water is that they want lust without love. You say you want love but the only thing you say “love” is to you us children. In which case, you want children…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 11:31 AM
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Who is killing and robbing these men?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 02:59 PM
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If you’re that desperate for sex and are ok being used for your resources why not just pay for a sugar service or an escort?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 02:57 PM
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If the only reason to get into a relationship was cuz I needed someone to lift something heavier than I could manage, I’d stay single and hire movers. Problem solved!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 01:20 PM
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So you’re saying it’s bad cuz men have to try harder than they did before?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 01:19 PM
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Men cheat. Women cheat. NB people cheat. It’s not a gendered phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 01:15 AM
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If a woman isn’t touching your body during sex, who is touching your body?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 07:14 PM
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Is “attractive men are attractive” really a red pill talking point? That sounds more black pill to me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 01:32 PM
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No one is forcing you to find something attractive that you don’t. Fat people wear clothes, so why shouldn’t their clothes be modeled at runway shows by fat models? So you want an awkward positivity movement started, but you don’t want to be the one who starts it? You want to reap the benefits of someone else’s hard work and complain when it hasn’t happened yet under the guise of hatred of hypocrisy?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 10:25 PM
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So your issue is people disagreeing with you? Are you the final decision holder on what is attractive? If u/Santa-Teresa doesn’t like it no one can?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 09:53 PM
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I mean, that’s just dating. The answer is this- do you feel secure with him? There’s no anxious waiting, wondering what they’re doing, why they’re not texting back, who they’re with, etc. Is it 100% guaranteed? No. But nothing in life is
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 08:22 PM
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I’m sorry, are we on the same internet? Men say all the time that obese women aren’t attractive….
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 08:19 PM
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I never said they were. I just said being extroverted and charming are highly desirable traits. Which they are
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 08:14 PM
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So you’re saying if something is difficult it’s not worth doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 04:39 PM
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Lots of people get cheated on. Choosing to make that a reason you remain a victim is a choice
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 04:38 PM
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Being charming and extroverted are highly desirable characteristics in men. And as personality traits are not etched into granite, if that is the reason you’re struggling that is something you can work on
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 04:35 PM
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I’m curious what “tendencies, mannerisms etc” you have that come across as predatory when they’re not
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 03:01 PM
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So you, as some random person on Reddit think you have valid reason to call into question 4 decades of parental love and support because their marriage didn’t work out?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:33 PM
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That’s literally what you did. You made a claim, and your “evidence” was some guy’s Twitter, without a link to any study or “meta-analysis” he claimed to be making
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:32 PM
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Ok you still find her attractive. And she says she never wants to have sex with you or have you touch her again… she wants to go out and party- she’s not gonna cheat on you or yell at you or be abusive, she just doesn’t want to spend time with you and she DEFINITELY doesn’t want to have anything to do with your dick…. still wanna stay in that relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:31 PM
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Twitter is not a reliable source…. Unreliable sources are absolutely not better than none. Don’t lend validity to things that are, by definition, not valid
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:28 PM
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And my dad had kids with a woman he didn’t love unconditionally. Their love for me has never once been questioned
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:27 PM
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So you agree- losing physical attraction means “staying in such a relationship would be dumb”. What do you think conditional means? I can (and do) want the best for ALL my exes- that doesn’t mean I love them anymore. Wanting the best for someone does not mean being in love with them. You think wanting the best for someone means loving them but mothers can’t divorce the fathers of their children without admitting to not loving their children. You have a wildly fucked up definition of what love is…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:24 PM
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That’s a tweet… and “amateur” meta analysis ain’t exactly a scientifically rigorous bar to meet
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:21 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣That’s insane. My mom’s love for me exists in spite of her relationship with my father. Seriously dude, where do you come up with this shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:16 PM
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Elaborate please- I’m not talking about abuse… but you’re with a woman and she gains 160lbs and has 0 desire to lose it. She stops having sex with you. She stops putting effort into the relationship at all… You’re gonna keep loving her through that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:15 PM
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Do YOU?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:11 PM
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If mothers don’t love the father of their children they can’t love their children? So because my mom and dad got divorced my mom doesn’t love me? That is far and away the dumbest thing I’ve read this year if not ever
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 08:10 PM
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How many of these “women don’t love unconditionally” posts will there be? NO ONE loves unconditionally
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 08:05 PM
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My experience as a woman who is had several very good relationships, has never dated a bad boy, and has been on reasonably good terms with all of her exes is that cheating is far and away a matter of opportunity. Ugly guys might not have as much opportunity, but if the opportunity presents they’re not necessarily less likely to take it. In fact, if the opportunity is that rare and they finally get the chance, they might be more likely to indulge because it’s never gonna happen again. The other t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 08:10 PM
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Because loyal guys who also are socially fluent exist. Being sociable is not an excuse for disloyalty, and being awkward isn’t a guarantee of loyalty. That’s like saying “if women don’t want to date cheaters, why don’t they date ugly men?” as if ugly men don’t cheat as well
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 02:01 PM
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You were a child who got sucked into propaganda which relies on a lack of critical thinking. Teenagers lack critical thinking skills. That’s why they do dumb shit. I think if you can explain why you were into it and (more importantly) readily articulate why you got out of it I would have no problem being friends or dating. If you motivation for dropping that thinking was “I’m having a hard time getting dates so I’m not gonna be alt right anymore” it would be harder for me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 10:44 AM
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Sure. A “short term” guy can become “long term” if hanging out and dating sparks a lasting emotional connection. A “long term” guy can become “short term” if hanging out and dating doesn’t spark a lasting emotional connection but it’s still fun to fuck around with
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 02:13 PM
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Awesome bro. That’s a well documented phenomenon. Whats your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 05:55 PM
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But if we presume the 90/10 ratio is correct, 10% of men procreating would be more than enough to perpetuate the survival of the species. Estimated are only 80-100 genetically diverse people are needed to repopulate the earth without inbreeding. If 90% of men never get laid humanity as a species will still be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 05:00 PM
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But why & how are they more likely to die? That is kinda a critical question
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 04:58 PM
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Sure. Great! Glad we’re in agreement
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 04:57 PM
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I am not. I also don’t know a single person who died from lack of sex who didn’t do it to themselves. The same cannot be said for food, water, air, shelter….
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 04:26 PM
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So don’t give anyone money! See how easy that was?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 04:23 PM
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Resources are things that are necessary for survival. Sex is not that
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 04:22 PM
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Wow… who would’ve thought having academic or career aspirations are a thing only men can have. Good luck bro
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 02:59 AM
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Finance & upper management probably do. I’m guessing it means something they can brag to their friends about and feel is impressive. “IT guy” lacks a certain sex appeal
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:19 PM
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I think OP means would you respect him as someone you wanted to date and have sex with
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:18 PM
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Could literally not care less. My fiancée works from home teaching lawyers how to use AI. He does it for the health insurance and cuz he finds it interesting enough. “Ambition is sexy” feels like coded language for “I want to impress people with what my partner does”. I’d rather impress people with who my partner is
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:17 PM
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Hahaha you “dunk on these guys”, then they go home and dunk balls deep into their lady while you go home and make posts on Reddit about how superior you are…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 12:36 PM
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What sort of cards do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 10:55 AM
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This is an extremely uncomfortable meme 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 08:59 PM
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If “women’s problems” are getting sexually assaulted by men, then men absolutely have a duty to fix those problems as they are the ones breaking the law. Women not taking responsibility to fix male loneliness isn’t the same, cuz choosing not to fuck you (general you) isn’t breaking any laws
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:20 PM
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First 2 sentences, second paragraph: “do autistic men have a harder time finding a partner than autistic women? I won’t challenge that idea” “Even if it sucks more for you, it still sucks for me” is not the same as “it doesn’t suck for you”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 02:39 PM
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So does not sexually assaulting people. Why should it be on women to deny themselves something that globally most people want (save some outliers) to fix a problem that is created by men
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 02:07 PM
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Telling women not to go to the park isn’t the answer though, cuz being in the park isn’t the problem. The sexual assault is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 02:06 PM
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How does that really fix anything? Sexual assault is still an issue in NT spaces and if fewer women are dating even fewer autistic men will date
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 12:26 PM
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https://www.bubleylaw.com/who-is-hurt-more-by-divorce-men-or-women/ Literally google it. It’s a well documented phenomenon
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 01:06 AM
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Ok, so YOU don’t enjoy dinner. I hardly think you speak for all men
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:33 PM
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You realize, on average divorce is more financially straining on women than on men right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:20 PM
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I’m not your mate, friend
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:19 PM
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2 potentially life changing things vs something that doesn’t even register on the give-a-shit meter
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 09:43 PM
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Or it’s because she feels emotionally close, which allows herself to be open and vulnerable, and if he’s emotionally invested he’s more likely to actually care if she’s had fun. But you go ahead and use all of your first had experience of being a sexually active woman
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 09:34 PM
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Ok I mean if you think being in a relationship is inherently transactional then I think we call it here cuz we’re never gonna understand each other
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:48 PM
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Ok so provided these two life changing situations don’t happen… And men constantly remind us that body count does in fact matter…. And it’s not like you’re paying for dinner and don’t get to eat. The money can be replaced. The sex can’t be undone
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:31 PM
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I’d love to see where you get that most women only enjoy sex when it’s transactional. Otherwise if your argument is “outliers exist” then… k?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:30 PM
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I don’t know many women who enjoy one night stands. Women mostly enjoy sex in a relationship, which is not what’s being talked about here And if you think only “metrosexual” (is it 1999?) men in nyc are foodies I have a bridge to sell you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 07:55 PM
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Men don’t enjoy dinner?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 07:51 PM
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But plenty of men will have sex with women they’re not actually attracted to as long as the opportunity presents itself. How is being used for your body any better than being used for your wallet?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 07:51 PM
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70-75% of men in America are considered overweight or obese. Sure, there are dudes like you who land in that box because of muscle mass, but come on dude. The vast majority don’t. You live in Texas? Go to a Walmart or shit, just go to Houston and tell me that people aren’t fat. You’re confirmation bias hits hard today
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:24 PM
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I’ve been hit on by both men and women. As long as they leave when the answer is no, I have no issue with someone shooting their shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 07:59 PM
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I expect my man to treat me how I want to be treated. If more romance was important to me, I would insist on more romance. The expectations of his previous girlfriends are of no consequence to me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:37 AM
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I don’t prefer it, no. It makes him happy so I’m happy that he does it. If it didn’t make him happy I’d be happy for him to stop
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 10:12 PM
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Showing interest is not harassment. Harassment is making you feel unsafe, degraded, weak, and in danger. Some lady comes up and starts talking how she’s gonna tear your asshole with her strap on prob won’t land the same
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 07:38 PM
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In a heartbeat. I already pay for about 80-90% of stuff and have told him many times he is welcome to be a SAHH if he wanted to
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 07:25 PM
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I’m being performatively emotional? I just think it’s sorta crazy that person A’s confidence can offend person B when person A is actually just paying person B a compliment. But how very like a man to call a woman emotional because she has a different take than him
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 02:11 PM
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It’s about values. I don’t know what country you’re from and I don’t know anything about French conservatism, but if it’s anything like American conservatism I don’t see how someone who believes in socialism could align in a deep way with someone who believes the govt shouldn’t help support its people
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 11:09 AM
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It’s literally someone calling you attractive. If they do it respectfully (as the commenter stipulated) it’s 100% a compliment
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 03:17 AM
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Dude respectfully pays you a compliment and it ruins your day… No wonder guys don’t even want to try
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 02:09 AM
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Why were you uncomfortable? He “said/did nothing”- you just concluded he might be trying to give signals, despite no actual evidence of that? Dude is sitting there minding his own business and you’re feeling threatened by something you 100% made up in your own mind… Respectfully- get over yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 02:06 AM
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Or… and just hear me out now… you could expand your horizons and try things you don’t know you’re into because obviously sticking to your comfort zone isn’t getting you what you want
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 01:08 PM
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“Even then, I have to hope my hobbies align with women and not 99% dudes” That’s a pretty victimy way of looking at this. Your hobbies are your choice. If you’re only into things that only guys are into, you have the option of trying new things. I mean seriously….
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 11:48 AM
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That’s the way to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 08:46 PM
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As a doc I can say nurses do way more than support doctors… and for nearly a decade women have made up a majority of medical students medicine being a majority male dominated field is rapidly changing
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 08:17 PM
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Isn’t that like saying “if poor people don’t want to worry about paying bills they should just make more money”?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:20 PM
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Again, that’s fine. But you seem to think that having wildly traumatic shit happen to you, and then following it up with other wildly traumatic shit shouldn’t be a factor in your getting a gf. How could it not be? If the choice is between someone healthy vs not, most people are gonna pick healthy. This applies to mental health as well
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 04:39 AM
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Sure, but just as men often say they don’t want a woman with baggage, why would women want a man who carries all that shit? It’s not your fault, but not working through it is a choice you make and choices have consequences
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:34 AM
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Dude who hurt you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:34 PM
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Hardly makes them the only job that’s worth anything…. Nursing has a huge female predominance; surely you wouldn’t say that career is worthless just cuz it’s mostly done by women. Likewise for teachers
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 12:54 AM
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Are you seriously insecure about the “dreaded male gynecologist”? Cuz, dude….
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 09:49 PM
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It has nothing to do with how women look. It has everything to do with how unrealistically sex is portrayed in porn. 8 seconds of violent clit rubbing causes orgasm? Yeah right buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 05:26 PM
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You’re really saying only women make logical leaps taking “acts and words devoid of meaning” and turn them into something it’s not? Tell that to every guy who had a barista/waitress/shop girl smile and be helpful (cuz it’s her job) only to have him ask “does she like me?” It ain’t just women honey
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 12:09 PM
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When ONE person has opposing beliefs it’s a contradiction. When two people hold opposing beliefs it’s two people not agreeing. That’s not contradictory at all
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 12:05 PM
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Tell that to nurses. Why do men act like “grueling physical labor” is the only kind of work that’s worth anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 11:56 AM
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I don’t know anyone who willingly refers to himself as “on discount”…. Know why shit gets discounted? It’s cuz no one wanted it when it was full price. Not exactly ringing endorsement
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 09:40 PM
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YOUR real purpose might be to bring new life into the world. If that was what was expected of me I’d be miserable. I’m much happier doing what I do now- caring for the lives that already exist- than be forced into a role that sounds miserable
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 08:57 PM
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Yes. First dates I always paid 100% for both of us. If the date was good enough to warrant a second date, I’d say “you get the next one”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:05 PM
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Sure and every time someone gets in the car there’s a chance they get into an accident. But people are more likely to take risks for something they really want than for something they’re settling for
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:20 AM
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If you’re very attracted to someone the effort seems more worth it, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:36 AM
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It’s the difference between window shopping and purchasing
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:05 AM
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Shocking. People are more engaged when the juice appears worth the squeeze?🤯 Besides I thought don’t want women who aren’t actually attracted to them. Doesn’t that just set up the BB side of the equation?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:03 AM
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Why does anyone feel like they can speak on the experience of anyone else? You seem to not have an issue saying stuff about the dating lives of women having (presumably) never been a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 03:42 PM
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Are women not in the military? Shouldn’t they have just as much of a vote? And if you’re a man not in the military, why would you get one? You’re not gonna go
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 01:41 AM
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I would argue that a man who is constantly rejected feels wronged
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 07:30 PM
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“Whereas men, while having some sexual hobbies, but have some hobbies that have nothing to do with it”…. Do you really think the only hobbies women have are pop music, twerking, fashion/makeup, and romance media? Cuz dude…. wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:43 PM
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OP doesn’t get dates is cuz women say no. When you boil it all down to its most black & white (which of course, Reddit loves to do), you can pinpoint the exact moment when rejection happens. This might feel like a “no duh” moment but it’s not. There may be tons of things leading up to that moment of rejection- playing video games, not having confidence, not being tall, etc- but the ultimate rejection comes from a woman who is saying no. That’s why OP can “blame women”. They are the arbiter in hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:38 PM
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That’s easy- most refugees don’t rape, and other left sided policies are, in general, way less detrimental to women
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:30 PM
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That link just goes to the PPD main page. And also, you’re judging the population of women based on women on this site. That’s selection bias at its finest
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 07:54 PM
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Sure. An extremely small number of women will only want the 5%; and even smaller will say 1%. Those are outliers
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 05:16 PM
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Jesus we’re down to 5% now? The catastrophizing is getting ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 02:16 PM
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The only thing on your list that you have 0 control over is your height. Second comes income. Everything else is attainable with enough practice. If the majority of women want the statistical minority of men, become one of the minority and take your pick
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 03:00 AM
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Are you suggesting that being attracted to each other and having the same relationship goals is enough to sustain it in the absence of things like shared values?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 01:20 AM
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“Let’s suppose you’re correct” is not an agreement that he is correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 01:56 PM
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Ok let’s suppose you’re correct- what do you want to be done about it? If women only dated men they were viscerally attracted to even fewer men would be in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 01:35 AM
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What does being leftist/conservative have to do with any of this? Do you really think conservatives will drop some sort of theoretical sex hammer and suddenly all the feminist women will be forced into relationships with men they don’t want? Do you think Trump is going to make a “female distribution system” and assign you a woman who will me mandated by law to touch your penis? Any consideration that having conservative views on where women should be/how women should act just makes you an even m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 03:04 PM
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Yes I’ve had sex. Yes I see those partners as human beings. I also see my male friends as humans, my male coworkers as humans, my male neighbors as humans, my male family as humans, the male shop workers I may interact with as humans…. None I’ve whom I’ve fucked…. The title of your post is about being treated like a human. The content of your post is about being treated like a human. But here you are, moving the goal posts cuz what you really mean isn’t “treat me like a human”; you mean “let me …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 02:56 PM
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So the only thing you have to offer that makes you worthwhile is a bank account?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 01:02 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 12:45 AM
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Seems like he wants the women he’s on dates with to fuck him. 😱
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 02:15 PM
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So, as usual, it comes down to whether you (general you) get to insert your dick into a woman. There has got to be a different threshold for a man to be “treated like a human” than whether or not he gets to penetrate the other person. Even the most sexually active person on the planet is only fucking a tiny fraction of a percentage of people they deal with. That’s not the bar for human-like behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 02:15 PM
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Your flair is wrong bro. No way a blue pilled is saying women only care about financial stability and social status
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 11:28 AM
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Just cuz someone disagrees with a law doesn’t mean that law means nothing. That’s the wildest abs dumbest conclusion to draw. Morality ≠ legality ffs
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 11:26 AM
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When you have a doctor who is willing to fill out FMLA paperwork cuz they know and understand how debilitating your condition is
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 01:46 AM
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When was in my in my 20s, 5’5 & skinny- tall & fit were probably the biggest things. My bf in college was objectively not great looking, but he had great forearms & great triceps and was 5’11 or 6’. He made me belly laugh like no one’s business and I found his stumbling & bumbling sweet & endearing. We were together for sophomore-senior year
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 10:04 PM
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How are they done in the shadows if the judgment prevents these relationships from happening in the first place, as you suggested earlier? I find it interesting the thing you seem to be advocating most strongly for (young women with older men) is also the one scenario in your ARAD data that ~50% of the time is remembered negatively. If you knew that doing something would give you a 50% chance of a negative outcome would you still be so eager to do it? For most people it would at least give pause…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 09:03 PM
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I’m glad you could find “infinite threads” of people who have engaged in aged gap relationships, but that doesn’t change or factor into what I’m saying at all. Average behavior (like average anything) is average. Whenever someone has an extreme deviation from the average it draws attention. It doesn’t matter if that behavior is sexual partners or number of children they have or money they make or age of their partners. If a young person decides to not date a much older person because someone mig…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 08:32 PM
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Great. Don’t care. I’m not saying young women can’t make their own decisions. I’m saying if you (general you? do something more than 2 standard deviations away from the mean, people are gonna raise an eyebrow. If it makes you feel better, I think it’s just as weird when an 18 year-old wants to date a 36-year-old as when a 36-year-old wants to 18 year-old.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 07:50 PM
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What does that have anything to do with it? Having agency and making the choice to do something doesn’t mean you are absolved from people judging your actions. For example, Luck Diamond Rich presumably made the decision to modify his body with agency. Bonnie Blue fucked 1000+ men in 12 hours, also with agency. Anna Nicole Smith married J Howard Marshall at 27 when he was 89. All choices made by legal adults who had agency over their behavior, all weird and judgment-inducing decisions. As I said,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 06:29 PM
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Not sure how it relates, but I was 16 (as was he) and had been dating for 9mo by then
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 06:11 PM
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Yep this is why women say confidence matters
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 02:33 AM
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It’s not “clearly a joke” when you double and then triple down dude. Let’s just say you probably shouldn’t quit your day job to pursue comedy anytime soon
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 02:29 PM
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Ok boss… weird how everyone else knows I mean 18 is fresh out of high school and if OP really meant 25yos he wouldn’t have started the age range at 18, but if harping on that point gives you some kind of a happy go ahead and enjoy yourself🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 02:11 PM
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Because I think dating someone half your age is creepy. I think it would be creepy for a 20yo to date a 10yo, for a 50yo to date a 25yo, for an 80yo to date a 40yo. I think it’s weird to be interested in someone who is in such a wildly different place in life. I find it unlikely those people can actually relate to each other and are probably with the other person for all the worst reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 04:05 AM
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Sure and you have the entire rest of your life to raise them, potentially with a schmuck who thinks you have no value after the ripe age of 30. Or you get your babies and your marriage is ruined because you don’t actually like the person you settled for to get those kids Deciding to have kids with someone is really not something that should be settled for
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:57 AM
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I think dating someone half your age is creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:55 AM
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Where did I say anything about graduating until 25?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:49 AM
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Because picking someone to have kids with is a big fucking decision?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:47 AM
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Dating someone half your age? Lots of people think that’s creepy. Regardless of how old the people are
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:43 AM
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Dude said 18-25. If he meant out of college, he would’ve said at least >20. He wants to bang teenagers which, I mean, is his prerogative… but people are gonna think he’s creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:11 AM
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OP literally says 18-25. You’re pretty fucking stupid if you think OP isn’t talking about teenagers. If he meant women out of college, he’d have made that first number >20
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 01:32 AM
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18 is literally fresh out of high school
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 01:30 AM
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The answer is date whomever you want. If you think you can only get this dream family with someone fresh out of high school then don’t be shocked when people think you’re a creepy dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 12:12 AM
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Except that’s not true. Now that they’re doing better they’re acknowledging the swing. That’s why, as I said, there are more women who are happy to be the breadwinners in their relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:45 AM
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Is there no consideration for the progress that’s been made, acknowledging that progress is not perfection? Sure there are women who say “I make six figures and I want somebody who does too” but every single year there are more and more women who are the breadwinners of their family. There are more and more men who were staying at home. Women fought for their rights for decades, and it feels like now that some things have swung to the benefit of women men have no patience or willingness to ackno…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 11:02 PM
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No, you used big words to make you feel smart. Your premise is flawed so your whole post is flawed. The unnecessary thesaurus utilization was just the easiest thing to land on
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 12:06 PM
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R/iamverysmart
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 02:16 AM
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Biased woman asks her carefully curated social media circle to confirm how she feels, and they do!! More at 11…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 11:27 PM
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Right- you’re basically saying it & she are bad unless you’re the one getting it. The hypocrisy is strong
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 08:03 AM
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This is the only response worth reading
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 01:47 PM
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I got to the 3rd paragraph and stopped. You’re on an anonymous Internet forum- what “actual advice“ are you expecting to get from strangers who don’t know you, don’t know your personality, don’t know what you look like, don’t know how you act, don’t know how you flirt, don’t know how you smell, don’t know how often you shower, don’t know what clothes you wear, don’t know how often you get your haircut, don’t know what your hobbies are, or anything else about you? Asking for actionable advice fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 11:14 PM
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Hahahaha wow. I lay out well reasoned arguments and your response is emojis. Seriously, your inability to engage with me just made my night. I haven’t so thoroughly destroyed a Reddit argument in a really long time. This was fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 03:01 AM
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Neither being emotional or irrational. You’re basing your (entirely erroneous) opinion on women being “known as more emotional beings”. “That’s what I read on Reddit” is hardly a logical or rational argument. Again, a woman is only pregnant for 9mo and the vast majority of women are done being pregnant by the age of 45. So there’s plus or minus 3.5 decades of life & professional capacity that can happen after she done being pregnant before she’s the age of our last 2 presidents. It certainly see…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 02:47 AM
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You’re so full of shit 1. Period stop making you crazy when you stop being 22 2. When and why is this woman “unavailable” for 9 months? Do you mean pregnancy? Most women work up to the day they give birth. Not to mention, if men can be president’s in their 80s, why does the nexus of a woman’s career only exist during her fertile years? Can ambitious women not do shit after the age of 45? 3. 100% of the time women want men to lead? 0% of the time the want to provide? How do you explain me, who go…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:55 AM
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This is the truth
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:33 AM
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What duties do you think women should be prescribed?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 03:01 PM
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Not for me. I know when I’ve worked out cuz I’ve worked out. I know how I’ve slept based on how I feel. I used to have an oura but got rid of it when they partnered with Palantir. These billionaire oligarchs don’t need my biometric data
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 01:10 PM
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Not just on a first date. All that tells me is dude is WAY too connected. It has nothing to do with style. We keep these dopamine-mongrels in our pockets- we don’t need them more accessible on our wrists
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 11:34 AM
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God didn’t make you a NEET- you did that. And I mean, I gotta ask, why SHOULD someone date you? You know what woman in general are attracted to- good looking, confident, strong, ambitious, goal oriented, confident… Don’t give me this double standards bullshit. You made a whole ass post about how it’s down to women to nurture the next generation and you just want someone to cook for you. There are plenty (and more everyday) of house husbands but they have to contribute something. If it’s not goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 11:31 AM
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OP is whinging about no one wanting to date him as a balding unemployed NEET- all things that are perfectly mutable. But that would take effort- it’s much easier to just get on the internet and seethe
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 08:01 AM
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Rules 1&2 1. Be attractive- look good 2. Don’t be unattractive- don’t be a whiny brat because women don’t find a lame balding NEET interesting enough to date. Luckily your personality is mutable. If you don’t like being single cuz no one wants to date an unemployed NEET, stop being one
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 07:59 AM
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On today’s episode of “life isn’t as black and white as dudes on here like to think”- Rules number 1&2: 1. Be attractive - look good 2. Don’t be unattractive - don’t be an incel douche blaming being a Nice GuyTM for your dating woes. Generally people of all genders want to date someone they’re attracted to both physically and mentally. Some will overlook deficiencies in one if there’s significant excess in the other. Having an ugly “we need to take women’s rights away cuz it’s the only way I’m g…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 07:55 AM
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Or, just choose not to answer it. 😱 it’s almost as if you don’t need to engage with every post that’s made
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 04:50 PM
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Except lacking clean water can 100% kill you. Lacking sex will not
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 04:49 PM
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No. It’s a basic human want but if you could never have sex again, but still had food/water/shelter you’d still live. Sex is a need the way safety is a need. In that it’s a really fantastic thing to have and would make everyone’s lives better to have it, but is not necessary for individual survival
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 04:49 PM
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Where did I ever say it’s ok for women to hate men? I’ll wait….
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:43 PM
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“They have always seeked sought out men who are providers for them” False. More and more women everyday are the breadwinners in their relationships. If you want women to forgo their dreams and take care of men, those men need to be more promising than their dreams. Not many men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:07 PM
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What are your standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:02 PM
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“Modern women deserve hate” It’s time to remove yourself from these subs if this is how you really feel. Hating someone cuz they’re not giving you what you want is wild and dangerous
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:01 PM
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Why should men not be allowed to leverage their strength to physically restrain women and take sex from them at will? Because humans have morality and rape is bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 01:57 PM
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I mean… I won’t comment on the iud but yeah a pap is gonna feel like a stiff pipe cleaner on the cervix. That’s literally how those get done
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 09:26 PM
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Yeah thats not some mind blowing assertion you just made. Men complain “autistic women don’t need to try to get sex but it’s game over for autistic men” and that’s because men will fuck someone they have no actual interest in. Most women won’t give their time or body to someone they don’t give a shit about. It turns out that when someone doesn’t like or care about you they don’t usually care if you have a good time or enjoy yourself. Why would a woman want to have unsatisfying sex with someone w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 03:51 PM
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That’s a function of there being men who are willing to fuck women they don’t even like https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/UumtHVHLlD
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:33 PM
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I stopped at “turbonormie” 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:50 AM
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If you’re not willing to socialize that’s fine, but how then do you expect to have friends and date? I mean, seriously. All of you folks who insist that social skills can’t be learned because it’s awkward and uncomfortable to learn them are basically saying “I wanna stay in my little comfort box and have friends and sex come to me. Why isn’t that happening?!?!?!!?” It’s. A. Skill. Imagine picking up a tennis racket for the first time, sucking at tennis (cuz you’ve never played it before), the th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:50 AM
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The difference between men and women summed up in 7 words
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:07 PM
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Yeah I still don’t understand fucking someone you don’t like at all, but maybe that’s just me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:56 PM
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What women say they never choose wrong. Women admit to choosing wrong all the time r
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 03:21 PM
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If he’s dating her it stands to reason he likes her. Why would you (general you) date someone you don’t like?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:18 AM
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I think she means in the context of dating & relationships. Not just some random chick who’s pining after you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:55 PM
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You act as if only incredibly good looking guys are trying to score casual sex. If Chad is the top 20%, as y’all so often like to say, you seem to think the other 80% are good dudes who want to have emotionally open mature relationships. This isn’t true. The number of dudes in that 80% who want to have and try for casual sex despite being told that’s not what a woman is looking for is astounding
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 03:39 PM
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My fiancée is the same. He’s so much better at taking care of the house than I ever could, and my being the breadwinner allows for him to spend lots of his time on his hobbies. Win-win IMO
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 01:50 AM
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And triceps
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 01:48 AM
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You’re honestly telling me you care about every single thing that every single one of your friends cares about? If you have a buddy who’s into the kardashians you feel in order to have a genuine friendship with him you need to talk to him at length about Kim? If you have a friend who’s a woman who’s into makeup and acrylic nails, you find yourself sincerely caring about her adventures in contouring? I don’t buy it. Your friends are allowed to have things they care about that you don’t care about…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 08:34 PM
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There’s no disrespect. If you’re a guy who I don’t want to fuck, I don’t care about your sex drive as long as it’s not aimed at me. Are you disgusted by people who eat Indian food if you don’t like Indian food? I’d bet not- I’d bet you just don’t want them to take you to an Indian restaurant. My ignoring the presence of your sex drive is the same as my ignoring any other trait of yours that I don’t care for or about. You are the one who are making your entire personality and self worth an extens…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 06:47 PM
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Are friends not people? Is the only way you deem “being treated as a person” if your dick gets touched? So (heterosexual, I’m assuming you mean) women don’t treat the majority of men and all women as people because they don’t want to jump into bed with them? When women don’t want to fuck a man, they see that man simply as a person they don’t want to fuck. If the only way you feel respected as a human being is if you’re able to fuck someone, you need tremendous therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 06:22 PM
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I understand that men want sex from women. I don’t understand men only wanting sex from women and then being surprised that “treating them like people” isn’t enough to get their dicks wet
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 04:51 PM
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“Seeing a woman as a person doesn’t make convincing her to have sex with you…” Again, see above. If you feel the need to exclaim, and then double down, why whether or not you see a woman as a person should depend on whether or not she will fuck you, you don’t see women as people. Yes- treating a woman as you would treat the other 8b people in the world is probably insufficient to get her to let you penetrate her. I mean, jfc I know they say the bar is in hell but somehow you managed to move it e…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:42 PM
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“Sure, if you see a woman as a person…” As if women are anything else
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 06:31 AM
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But then you don’t want the money to buy the coat. You want the money to buy nice things, the coat being one of them
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:21 PM
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Dating famous people has absolutely no appeal
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 12:02 PM
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If you want money specifically to buy a coat you want the coat. The money is just means to an end. If someone gave you the coat you wouldn’t need the money. You literally just proved her point
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:55 AM
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The real question is, what is the option. You say you don’t want advice like “work on yourself” or “de center relationships” so what is an answer you’ll accept? You can’t force women to like you or want to be with you. If you are not someone who is an attractive mate your choices are to improve your attractive qualities, go for women who have a lower threshold for what they find attractive, or stop caring about relationships so much. There literally is no other choice. You can’t control someone …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 11:41 AM
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Indulging in a fantasy 3some one time is different than maintaining a group of women and thinking the best one is the one who will help you snag new strange every weekend. Shit sounds exhausting
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 03:25 AM
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I know maybe one guy who would rather fuck a bunch of randoms than be faithful to his wife. Sounds to me like you just shouldn’t do monogamy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 01:52 AM
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So instead of ignoring people who are saying stuff you don’t like you think the answer is to censor them?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 04:34 AM
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How many asexuals/aromantics are actually posting?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:30 AM
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Not being attracted and not being as attracted are not the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 06:20 PM
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Are you equally as attracted to every person you’ve ever slept with?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 02:24 PM
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“…shouldn’t be allowed…”🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 03:41 PM
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I have never tested man. I don’t see the point
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 02:32 PM
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This is why sex can’t be a reward for good work- let’s say you do Level A good work and get sex as a reward. After a while, Level A work is no longer distinctly “good”, now it’s just the baseline expectation. So you have to escalate your good work to Level B to get your sexy reward, until level B becomes the baseline. And on and on. Rewards are given for extraordinary occurrences, not regular run of the mill behavior. When a good samaritan saves a kid from a burning building, they get a reward. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 09:04 PM
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All women don’t shit test. Maybe all YOUR women do, but definitely not all women
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 08:50 PM
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Vetting is a series of conversations to build trust. Might you get played? Sure. There are scammers everywhere. What sort of reliable test do you think exists that will confirm if a guy is a good guy or a POS. If that existed, dontcha think everyone would be using it?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 08:48 PM
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Yeah sorrry it was supposed to be under the auto mod
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 08:47 PM
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What tests? Be specific
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 06:35 PM
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A series of tests? What does that even mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 06:35 PM
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That’s patently not true. You might not get the attention you want from dating apps, which is primarily focused on looks over personality, but it turns out dating apps are only a very small percentage of interactions people have with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 02:52 PM
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Sure- not women might only have a “carnal lusty vaginal tingles every time she sees you” attraction to few men, but that doesn’t mean attraction can’t be cultivated or that if you’re not one of those lusty tingly dudes you’re doomed to celibacy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 02:41 PM
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This isn’t a “mainly women” thing at all. If you spend more than 5min on this sub you’ll see countless guys saying that a woman not using carnal lusty vaginal tingles every time she sees you means to a sexless miserable life, and that’s why only the “top 10% if guys” ever are successful. That’s literally what you’re saying. Women on the other hand are the ones who talk about personality influencing desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 05:31 AM
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That’s exactly right. OP seems like% a “men need to spread their seed, women need to make me a sandwich” kind of guy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 03:48 AM
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Pretty sure most women just want the expression of desire controlled. I don’t know any woman who thinks men have the ability to self-regulate their hormones anymore than they do
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 08:50 PM
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Cool bro. When you get pregnant and gain a bunch of weight you can talk about how easy it is to get back to your pre pregnancy body regardless of estrogen . Just like women can talk about how easy it is to turn off sexual desire regardless of testosterone. I look forward to reading your paper in NEJM whenever it comes out
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:16 PM
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You say it’s the women who shoot above their league that get used because men who are 4-5 don’t have enough options to do that but that doesn’t matter. “Low league” men can still want casual sex and be happy to get it if they can. Just cuz you’re (general you) not hot doesn’t automatically make you a good person
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 10:43 AM
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Are you really this slow? You’re on me about not saying women invest more in pregnancy instead of having kids. Women who have miscarriages or abortions are pregnant without having kids. People who cause single parents have kids without raising them. That’s why I said “having kids” instead of just being pregnant or raising kids
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 10:14 PM
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Having kids is more than pregnancy too. Ask anyone who has miscarried or had an abortion. Or anyone who breastfeeds. Again. Just cuz YOU didn’t understand my point, doesn’t mean my point doesn’t stand.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 07:39 PM
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Having kids is absolutely distinguished from raising them. Ask any single parent. Just cuz you didn’t understand my point doesn’t mean my point doesn’t stand
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 07:28 PM
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Yes on the pregnancy part. That’s what I’m talking about. To have kids, not to raise kids
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 06:46 PM
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The level of investment to have kids is much higher for women, so how is this surprising?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 02:38 PM
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Then develop other good qualities. People aren’t made out of immutable material. Most people don’t want to become someone worth dating not cuz it’s pretending to be someone else, but because trying new things is hard and outside of a comfort zone. What we see here especially is dudes complaining that they want to date (which is understandable) but then not doing the work to become someone who someone else wants to date, and you can’t have it both ways. These guys could do what you suggest, and e…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 11:32 AM
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But do they get those apex men? No. My statement wasn’t gendered. That observation applies to everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 06:08 AM
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Some women die virgins also
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 02:57 AM
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I don’t disagree with you, but I think both things can be true. I don’t think that becoming someone a person wants to date means you (general you) are pretending. There are ways to optimize your good qualities and minimize your bad qualities without becoming a completely different person who’s pretending to be someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 09:52 PM
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Is it really worth debating that if you want to date someone you actually wanna date you need to make yourself somebody that they want to date?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 07:29 PM
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Sounds like you shouldn’t just not have sons, but daughters too. See, the way genetics works is you’ll pass on your faulty X chromosome to your baby girl, and then she might pass it on to her offspring, and on and on and on… If only the best and brightest should procreate then only the best and brightest should have sex, and your diminishing standards won’t matter cuz you wouldn’t be eligible for fucking anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 03:59 AM
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How does one “insist on bearing a male child” in the absence of IVF (which a very small fraction of people use or can afford) Seriously… wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 03:56 AM
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You almost certainly have not debated me if you think I’m very skeptical of monogamy. I’m literally in the middle of planning my wedding. Besides that, what does monogamy have to do with women being providers? I’m breadwinner in my relationship- I make 4-5x what my fiancée does. Things seem to be working just fine with us. When survival depended on strong men doing strong men things, it made sense that men were the providers. Survival now depends on making money, which is much less gendered than…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 02:12 AM
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How about that monogamy is a relatively new phenomenon. Or the number of societies that participated in polyandry. Or that extended families used to live in close proximity and everyone used to take care of the kid… I’m sure you’ll pull some dumb shit saying that “because men are stronger they are the providers, because they used to hunt and kill the beasts”. When was the last time you (or most anyone on this sub) hunted? When society became agriculture based women were just as much in the field…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 01:12 AM
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You’re picking and choosing which parts of evolutionary biology you want to believe in to further your argument. That’s not really how it works
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 11:21 AM
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That’s just a stupid argument. Lots of shit we do in the 21st century goes against human evolution. Doesn’t mean we stop doing it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 02:23 AM
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Get off the internet. There have always been women who want to coast through life. When a man makes the decisions, she just has to show up and look good. No fear of disappointing someone, no worry about decision fatigue. It’s an attractive proposition. There have always been men who want to lead. There a lot of drawn conclusions that if the man is leading he’s being listened to, he’s being respected, and he gets to do whatever he wants to do always, with a pretty girl at his side. It’s an attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 03:54 PM
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Wait wait wait…. So you’re saying men like it when women shit on them because it’s better than getting indifference? Indifference hurts when it used to be love. Not when it’s just aimed at strangers
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 03:45 PM
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So many women want absolutely nothing to do with “based & redpilled real men of the manosphere” I can not think of a less attractive base from which a man develops a personality
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 03:08 PM
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That assumes all promiscuous women end up with children, which is hardly a universal truth. OP is not saying he doesn’t want to marry someone who’s actively fucking multiple guys while also fucking him cuz he won’t know who the baby daddy is. He’s saying he doesn’t want a woman who has a past that exceeds some arbitrary number of partners he finds acceptable. It has nothing to do with children. It has to do with ego and insecurity, which is what it usually comes down to in this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 03:05 PM
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Nah… Simone biles is extraordinary by any standard. I’d love to see a man do what she does on the beam
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 03:49 AM
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How is it equitable if he’s paying 100% of her bills?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 02:52 AM
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That’s your choice. Other people make other choices. I pay for 75-80% of my life with my (male) fiancée. And I’m more than happy to do so. Just as you’re not necessarily wrong for wanting someone to foot your bill, guys who want a more equitable relationship also aren’t necessarily wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 02:43 AM
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Men can want to be 50/50 and want sex and romance and emotional support and all of the other stuff that generally comprise romantic relationship too? Why do you seem to be so vehemently against going 50/50 anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 02:32 AM
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I’d imagine because having a romantic relationship is fundamentally different from having roommates?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 02:14 AM
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I’m child free with my (male fiancée) and I pay for about 75-80% of our expenses. People should do whatever works for them
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 02:09 AM
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Just cuz you think something is bad for you doesn’t mean it’s bad. It’s just bad for you
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:05 AM
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There is no amount of hotness that a guy could have that would make it ok that he knew where I lived if I didn’t know him, unless we lived in the same apt building or something equally innocuous
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 05:59 PM
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How can you ask about men wanting hook ups or casual sex and then say men are the ones who speak out against it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 06:54 PM
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Why do men seek to engage in casual sex and then shame women for also having engaged in casual sex when talking about what body count precludes someone from being wife material
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 06:53 PM
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Yeah was I the only one thinking OP’s guru sounds like a chump?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:41 PM
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Do you read what I said? After the first hook up I was done. I never hooked up with him again. He kept asking, I kept saying no. He sucked in bed - literally the worst fuck I’ve had in my 25 years of having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 12:34 PM
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The super tall, super hot guy didn’t give one fuck about making things fun for me. He expected (much like you it seems) that I would be so thankful to bask in the glow of his penis that I should be happy to get him off and shouldn’t expect any worthwhile attention in return. After the first hook up I was done. He kept coming back and hitting me up for years until I finally had enough and told him his dick wasn’t that impressive, the way he used it was even more disappointing, and his refusal to …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 05:29 AM
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No. Full stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 03:31 AM
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My fiancée isn’t a chad and I pay for him. He does the cleaning though, cuz I hate cleaning
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 11:49 AM
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Dudes on this sub don’t understand alimony. So many think just by signing the marriage certificate one partner is automatically entitled to half of the other’s wealth
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 11:44 AM
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Ways I know you didn’t read the article- that point is addressed. Here, I’ll make it even easier on you “On finances, the data is strong and clear. Stably married men (men who have gotten and stayed married) heading into retirement have about ten times more household assets saved up over their lifetime than their divorced or never-married male peers. After factoring in differences in education level, race, and employment, the average marriage premium in household assets for stably married men am…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 02:44 AM
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Marriage is actually financially beneficial to men
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 12:12 AM
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Agreed, but why then do you say “all relevant men do”? First, there’s no consensus even here that all men prefer their gf is a virgin. Second, you’re blatantly admitting your bias saying men who don’t are irrelevant. If op is trying to get a consensus, wouldn’t the whole point be to compare the number of people who care vs those who don’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 01:37 PM
2

Wouldn’t be only relevant man in this scenario be her boyfriend, who doesn’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 12:02 PM
1

If your partner doesn’t care, why come on to a sub and ask random strangers if they do. The person who matters already gave you the answer
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 12:01 PM
7

I think this dude hates anyone who is having sex who’s not him. If women weren’t tricked into monogamy with these gay/trans folks, they’d be much more willing to let him get his dick wet, duh!!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 03:16 PM
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You literally have presented 0 statistics. You threw out a random ambiguous number (thousands) without any evidence to back up how often this actually happens, or its incidence or even prevalence in the current population. Your entire argument is basically “trust me bro” and then you insult people who say “I don’t trust you bro. Prove it”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 03:13 PM
2

How would they see it? If my man doesn’t say anything, presents as cishet, doesn’t ask me to peg him (I know this wouldn’t automatically make him gay), and I respect him enough to not go rifling through his comp/phone to look up his porn choices, how would I “refuse to see” his transition or closeted homosexuality?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 03:06 PM
2

I think most women who say they’re straight would not be super thrilled to suddenly have a female spouse. That doesn’t even get into the years of lying and feelings of betrayal that come with being informed that the person you married identifies as an entirely different person. Can’t possibly be the easiest pill to swallow
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 03:04 PM
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That’s what it is. It’s the equivalent of posting “sometimes people marry closet gambling addicts!!” And then somehow blaming women for trusting the dude she married as opposed to recognizing that it was his lie that set the whole thing off
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 03:01 PM
1

You have the guide. Couldn’t you read it and draw your own conclusions?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/12/25 04:19 PM
6

Pretty sure that’s what most of the feminist movement was about….
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 06:57 PM
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Most of the women who have strong feelings against age gap relationships have experience with them and understand the power differential. It usually has very little to do with balding gray hair or being flabby. Impressive that you’re able to take it and somehow land on “see??? You really want my old, graying, balding, flabby ass”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 02:25 PM
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I make enough money doing a job that I love and my brain is a better asset than my body. I don’t see anything denigrating about people dying their hair blue, but I don’t do that either. Because I don’t want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 05:30 PM
3

Except when men seem to think that a woman who has sex quickly is not someone they want to invest their time or energy in
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 05:48 PM
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I mean sure, but whereas you think <30 is “normal healthy numbers” some guys here think anything double digits is the definition of slut. You’re saying women who have had a wide array of experience with people they care about make better lovers. I agree. What I’m saying is that if you (general you) want (as OP says) sexually adventurous and high libido, going for someone who hasn’t had very many partners is less likely to get you that. Now, obviously lots is getting lost in the online discourse.…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 04:14 PM
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You are the one who’s equating having sex with not having self-control. Just because a woman likes sex doesn’t mean she’s gonna be fucking every guy who makes eye contact. It is, however, a fact of the human condition that people (again, in general) do things they like more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 02:41 PM
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I mean… that’s not entirely true. Sure, maybe you can find someone who is the embodiment of chastity and virtue who’s inner freak gets unlocked by the magic of your specific penis, but generally (ignoring personal sex-related issues like religion), a person who considers themselves very sexual will have sex provided they have means an opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 02:36 PM
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Where did you get that from what I said?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 01:36 PM
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Go for it… do whatever you want. My (and I bet everyone else who advises you to marry “promiscuous” woman) advice is applicable only if you want to get married. If you don’t want to be married, fuck whomever will fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 11:56 AM
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Yes… most women who don’t appear to be extremely sexual won’t usually become extremely sexual when they get married. If you want a wife who gives you lots of sex, you should marry a woman who has lots of sex. Go ahead and desire a low BC woman, but recognize that she’s more likely to not have an ultra high libido
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 11:48 AM
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If you’re getting good responses from the humor & banter. But you gotta start small and gauge the comfort. Start real G rated like with high 5s or thumb wrestling. If that is met with a good response, you can move up to sitting close enough for legs to touch- so you’re maintaining plausible deniability but you can essentially judge if it’s unwanted. If at each step she’s not moving away, is remaining engaged, and is enjoying yourself, you can progress. Just remember the goal is to leave her want…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 12:35 AM
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Flirting is, in general, banter, humor, and some amount of touching
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 12:19 AM
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You keep saying I sound like those churches. I don’t. That’s not a retort because nothing I’m saying is at all comparable to “but she’s not a single mom” I will say, that using an influencer pranking a church for clout as evidence is certainly a choice
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 06:10 PM
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You cannot take responses to obviously insincere and intentionally inflammatory behavior and draw authentic and generalizable conclusions. You’re taking ONE person being a dick to ONE other person in an objectively staged and manufactured situation and saying “why can’t men see the issue with this behavior?!” First- which men aren’t seeing the issue? All men? Have you taken a poll? Second- much like people can make jokes (that are legit funny) about situations that weren’t funny in the moment wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 05:18 PM
2

I’m not pious, I’m merely remarking that you’re drawing conclusions not supported by reality
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 04:44 PM
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Because that guy’s “behavior” is an act
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 04:43 PM
2

How good a person is doesn’t matter in matters of the heart to you. I’ve never once been attracted to an asshole an any guy I’ve ever been attracted to who turned out to be an asshole immediately lost my respect and attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 04:33 PM
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Dude come on. It’s a social media video designed to drive engagement, and (as you well know) nothing drives engagement like being inflammatory
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 04:31 PM
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100% fake
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 04:09 PM
1

Most women have never been rejected? Dude, get off the internet. I don’t know ANY woman who has never been rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 02:34 PM
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Get offline. Most women have never heard of that med let alone formed such a negative opinion to express hatred & disdain
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 09:13 AM
1

Absolutely! He takes care of everything house related and keeps it more together than I ever could. I am 100% the slacker in my relationship when it comes to domestic chores
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 12:05 AM
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How can anyone answer based on anything but their personal experience and vicinity? In my world, everyone I know is much more equal than traditional. In the Bible Belt it’s probably different
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 12:11 PM
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Wait, so you think respecting someone’s autonomy entitles them to sex???? Dude, wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 01:20 PM
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I never said anything about dodging sexual predators. I have had the experience, more than once, of a guy expecting something from me after paying for a date. I also wanted to establish early that I am not the kind of woman who needs to be provided for, and if my financial independence is going to be hard to handle I’d rather know at the first date. I also like treating people because it makes me feel good
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 05:37 PM
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Yeah, hate to break it to you but social skills are pretty important. Men care less about confidence than women do, so being a meek, shy, passive guy is gonna be more detrimental to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 12:03 PM
6

Do you find it to be oppressively matriarchal in any capacity besides romantically?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 08:01 PM
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You should totally espouse that opinion to anyone you’re trying to date and see how well it works out for you. Condoning sexual coercion ain’t a good look
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 07:25 PM
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Do you really find society to be “oppressively” matriarchal?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 07:23 PM
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So your argument is “I don’t like this thing that is expected of me, but I refuse to take responsibility over the choices I make and instead will keep blaming women for my dry dick because I assume they just won’t date at all unless a guy is shelling out”? Marriage rates are down but cohabitation rates are up. Birth rates are down even in places with traditional gender roles, albeit less. Some women will stop dating all together, but most won’t because like most men, most women want to find some…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:40 PM
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What female logic? If someone says “If you want to date me you have to pay”, and you don’t want to pay, don’t date that person. If men stop dating women who expect them to pay for everything, women will stop expecting it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:14 PM
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Do traditional women have sex after one date?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:06 PM
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My brother in Christ, it’s not that hard. If you want to pay for sex, as in you spend $X and are guaranteed sex, hire an escort and pay for sex. You’re never gonna convince anyone here (and I’m not sure how you’ve convinced yourself) that paying for dinner when you don’t want to should earn you access to someone’s orifices
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:06 PM
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She is saying “to date me you have to pay” and you are saying ok cuz you want to date her. She is NOT saying if you pay you get to fuck me. You’re paying for one thing and expecting something else. That would be like me paying for an electrician and expecting them to also fix my plumbing
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:03 PM
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Literally why I paid for every first date I went on since moving to my new city. Lots of guys had a hard time with it too but I’d rather than than have you think I owe you something
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:01 PM
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Men aren’t obligated to do anything. If you don’t want to pay, don’t date someone who expects you to. If you come back and say “I can’t get dates with anyone who doesn’t expect it” you’re making a choice to go out with someone who expects you to do something
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:00 PM
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It’s not 1:1 but the comparison remains. Most people would want a career they felt passionate about and settle for a job because rent and food are necessities. Saying they could just “give up their passion” is like me saying “just give up wanting to feel desired by someone desirable and find a fat single mom who will marry you”. The behavior (being in a relationship) doesn’t mean the same if it’s not with someone you want it to be with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 04:59 PM
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Lookism is genderless and your facebook link doesn’t work (though in general Facebook is a pretty poor reliable source). But my take is not disingenuous at all. You’re lamenting different men being treated differently for doing the same behavior. Let’s take another example. You (general you) go to a burger joint for dinner. There is a table with a woman eating a double burger, large fry, and a milkshake. If that woman had a BMI of 20 you’d at worst probably think “dang that chick can eat”. If th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 04:37 PM
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If you think the people on broadway don’t have profound innate ability you’re crazy. Skills can be optimized just like looks, but at some point you’re limited by your body’s ability. Just like you could practice basketball for 18h/d, but you’d probably never be better than Muggsy Bogues regardless of how tall you are
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 04:08 PM
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Yes behavior is judged differently depending on who’s doing it. If my fiancée ties me up and spanks me with a paddle it’s wanted. If some random guy on the street ties me up and spanks me with a paddle it’s kidnapping and battery. Identical behavior judged differently depending on the man performing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 03:41 PM
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This whole “it’s not fair that attractive men have it so easy” this is hilarious to me. It’s like saying “it’s not fair that Lea Michelle is on broadway cuz her voice is good and I’m not cuz my voice isn’t as good. I want to be on broadway as much as she does and I shouldn’t be outright dismissed just cuz my voice isn’t good”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 03:16 PM
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Friend 100%. I don’t need to be lead
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 12:46 AM
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With the exception of education, what do you see the answer to your list of men’s issues being? Cuz it can’t just be “get a gf”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 08:19 PM
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For men sex is like pizza; when it’s good it’s great, when it’s bad it’s still pizza. For women sex is like sushi; when it’s good it’s great, when it’s bad it’s 100% not worth it and can turn you off from it for a long while
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 08:00 PM
3

So women who earn their keep won’t be hurt?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 10:09 PM
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I love how in your mind drugs being tested exclusively on men is evidence of misandry
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 06:41 PM
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That doesn’t actually answer my question. What is the name of the medication that is exclusively for women only is tested on men? All meds are tested on animals first, irregardless of the target patient population. How you go from that to women are ungrateful pieces of shit is curious and I’d love to hear more
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 04:21 PM
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Gotta love when people voted against their own best interests just to “own” the other side
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 03:53 PM
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What female only drug gets tested on men? Compared to the large swaths of gender neutral medications that never get tested on women at all
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 03:51 PM
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If you go into sex with the mentality “everyone’s orgasm is their own responsibility” you are essentially guaranteeing you won’t be the best sex she’s ever had. Just saying….
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 04:15 AM
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OP: don’t date with intention! Everyone should play games so I don’t get shit talked for not being honest with girls who I wanna fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 12:34 AM
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“And the outcome I care about is that men become more motivated to get off the apps” See? You want MEN off the apps. Your argument is that the attention men give women on apps causes delusional expectations and makes dating harder for regular dudes. I’m arguing if men got off the apps and stopped giving women that attention, women would follow. Why would you expect women to change to benefit men before expecting men to change to benefit themselves? The onus of change is on the people who are mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 04:07 AM
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What women experience with online dating is a direct result of how men use online dating. You literally dont have one without the other
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 03:32 AM
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Not gonna read it all. Your title doesn’t need to be gendered. EVERYONE would be better served by putting their screens down
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 03:18 AM
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You don’t seem to understand the concept of love bombing. It’s not a good thing, even if the person doing it is hot
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 09:16 PM
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Yeah I already had perfect why would I waste my time on someone who probably wasn’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 08:58 PM
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3 or 7
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 01:19 PM
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As a woman, the answer is swimmer/soccer player body. Long & lean
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 01:18 PM
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I can’t believe I have to say this. Stop. Forming. Your. Views. On. The. World. Based. On. AI. If you work hard enough you can convince AI that 2+2=5. That doesn’t make it real
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:48 AM
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Because there is not an insignificant percentage of men who desire the freedom to fuck who they can whilst expecting their woman to be dutifully and faithfully waiting at home for him to return
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 04:34 PM
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Sex over safety?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 04:30 PM
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All love is conditional. You don’t love unconditionally either
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 04:31 AM
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I love that not being carnally desired = not being respected. That’s wild to me
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:18 PM
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I think believing, on a planet with 8,000,000,000+ people, that there is one they’re supposed to be with is nothing more than romanticized naïveté. Furthermore, it reduces acceptance of people’s foibles (“my soulmate would know not to do this”) and encourages bad behavior (“I wouldn’t do this to my soulmate but the person I’m dating ain’t them, so whatever”). All this does is make perfect the enemy of good
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 11:36 AM
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Men are gonna be a lot lonelier if that becomes the threshold
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 06:47 PM
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I assume “not girlfriend material” refers to women who are fuckable but not datable? Sounds neither respected nor treasured
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:36 PM
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Men treasure & respect the women who freely gives him sex? This is why men talk about fucking down & hit/quit and women who have body counts are 504s that can never be real gf material? Super respectful & treasured
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:48 AM
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Yeah I definitely won with him… but finding him wasn’t easy. I was always pretty clear from a first date (or earlier) that a man’s money meant nothing to me. That was a surprising turnoff that I wasn’t really expecting. I know guys on here say that men aren’t intimidated by a woman’s success, but I have to think not being “needed” in the historical way men have always been needed was terrifying to a lot of them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 09:13 PM
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I’m a woman. I have a man who stays home, takes care of the dogs (we don’t have kids), does the house stuff. I take care of the bills. He works from home (because he wants to work- we’ve talked about if he gets to the point where he doesn’t want to or can’t, he can be a SAHH) but can do his full time 40h in about 8 so he spends the rest of his week tending to the house and working on his car. I pay for probably 90%+ of our shared expenses. It’s a wonderful dynamic and I’m thrilled he is comforta…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 08:29 PM
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If you were a charismatic smooth operator you probably would have social status, cuz people like being around that
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 02:32 AM
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Well that’s just a disgusting sentiment
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 03:48 PM
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Then it’s not for you and that’s fine. But there are lots of dudes who get off on the dominance/submission and that’s also fine
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 05:00 AM
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There are no mixed signals with CNC. In the real world that is something that is talked about at length before doing, and includes a discussion of hard & soft limits as well as safe words. In media it’s not laid out like that, but media is fiction. If you aren’t able or willing to have a proper adult convo about CNC (or any BDSM/kink for that matter) you have absolutely no business participating in it. If she’s not enthusiastically consenting to the role play that is CNC, you’re just raping her
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 04:53 AM
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Because things like conference & social skills matter to women. To men it seems like being “looksmatched” matters most, but even a decently looking guy who’s socially inept or a loner is going to have a much harder time, regardless of what the black pill says. Besides, being “not overweight” is not the only thing that makes a guy even remotely attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 12:43 AM
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Never said it was oppression. I’m merely responding to you saying “men should be allowed to have their own opinions”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 12:39 AM
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Sure. If you wanna make that choice go ahead and make that choice. If men say to women “we won’t date you unless you stop getting pierced/tatted/cut your hair” and women keep doing that, consider your bluff called.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 08:33 PM
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Nope 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 08:32 PM
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Sure. If you wanna make that choice go ahead and make that choice. If men say to women “we won’t date you unless you stop getting pierced/tatted/cut your hair” and women keep doing that, consider your bluff called.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 08:17 PM
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Have all the opinions you want. I think OP’s point is that you should keep them to yourself. Because somebody dresses a certain way or gets pierced or gets tatted or shaves her head or dyes her hair- if you don’t like it, that’s fine, but you don’t need to say to her “you would be prettier if…” Opinions are like assholes; everybody has one, and you shouldn’t be exposing yours for the whole world to deal with
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 08:15 PM
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Is that like the bear necessities?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 03:59 AM
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Looks matter. I won’t pretend otherwise. You’re misunderstanding me. They want the hot guy in their bed. But they also want him in their kitchen for lunch, and at thanksgiving with their family, and snuggling on the couch. Women want to be in a relationship with the hot guy. They don’t want to be his hit & quit. The hit is fine, but the quit is not usually wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 11:48 AM
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No most women aren’t ok with that. It certainly happens, but not because it’s wanted
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 04:54 PM
1

Turn the hot guy into something serious
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 04:45 PM
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Reread my first sentence. “They want to turn the hot guy into something serious”. Most women aren’t ok being used as a cum rag by anyone but def not by someone who’s not good looking
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 02:52 PM
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According to some men on here sexual compatibility is so crucial and turning things sexual/fucking on the first date is not a reason to preclude getting into a relationship with a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 01:23 PM
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A hot guy being committed to you is worse than a busted guy wanting to hit & quit? How exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 01:16 PM
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I think the thought process is “hot guys don’t have to be cheating players”. Y’all always talk about how being with someone who’s not carnally attracted to you (general you) is a death sentence for relationships. Why is it so surprising then when women want to turn the guys they’re carnally attracted to into LTRs?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 01:16 PM
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They want to turn the hot guy into something serious. They certainly don’t want to be used as a cum rag for someone who’s not good looking
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:39 PM
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Sex. The word is sex. What is the point of censoring a normal non offensive word?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:02 PM
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They do, but in the periods of recession there’s the life that is built that sustains. There’s the knowledge that real lasting relationships are predicated on more than just good feels. There’s a strength that develops from enduring hard times that most people don’t think about. One of the most interesting things about space travel, for example, is how astronauts are at such high risk for returning with osteoporosis. Because there’s no weight bearing in space, there’s no signal telling bones the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 03:49 PM
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Love is a biochemical reaction involving dopamine and oxytocin (amongst others). You (general you) love someone because your brain releases those chemicals in their presence. Then you build trust & a life together. It’s not logical, it’s chemical. You can’t logic your way into a relationship the same way you can’t logic your way out of heartbreak. Any attempts to do so reduces relationships to their most transactional characteristics (as you have) and can’t explain why people fall in love with f…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 03:35 PM
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Disagree. My man loves me even when we’re not fucking
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 02:57 PM
2

What about divorced men? Divorced men were once married, so by your argument they were born with a leg up, but are more unhappy after divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 01:27 PM
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It means instead of being hit on by men aged 20-80 every time she leaves the house, only men aged 28-68 hit on her, and maybe she can get her errands done without feeling like she needs a shower immediately before putting the groceries away once she gets home. I don’t know any woman in her 30s+ who misses getting the volume of overtly sexual and meaningless attention that she did in her 20s, myself included. Guys who talk about the wall are just expressing their failing desire to be David Wooder…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 06:22 PM
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Your AI is literally describing cousins
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 01:42 AM
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Disagree. On the first day of med school our dean said “you’re all going to feel like imposters. The biggest piece of advice I have for you, besides study, is fake it till you make it” Pretty sure most of us could be considered rational, introspective, & intelligent. Fake it till you make it is literally “just practice until you become more comfortable”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 01:41 AM
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I don’t? Holy shit so who is playing on my phone and sitting with my dogs and doing my job and paying my mortgage???
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 11:34 PM
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So assertive women don’t exist? Holy shit, I’m not real!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 08:28 PM
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Jesus fuck dude, I hope you’re trolling and just need Internet attention cuz you haven’t talked to a human IRL in too long
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 08:27 PM
2

Assertive women ≠ masculine. I’m assertive and I wouldn’t call myself masculine at all
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 08:26 PM
2

Women wanting to feel small & feminine is a harsh product of society telling women they need to be protected/small/docile. I enjoy feeling feminine, and I am assertive and dominant. Wanting to feel feminine is not the same as wanting to be led
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 08:25 PM
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I’m this kind of woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 08:22 PM
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Dude it’s not that hard- Go ahead and shoot your shot, but recognize when the answer is “no” and back off. Accept if you’re good looking the answer is gonna be “no” less often. That’s literally the nature of the game
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 08:09 PM
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Neither- don’t need the money
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 04:18 PM
3

Ok deserve is the wrong word. But if someone can make friends (for which social skills are critical) and they’re attractive enough, they can get a gf and get laid
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 09:33 PM
2

Well, you don’t say what his “homicidal threats” actually entail, and I had several friends in high school & college who would bite people (and do other equally obnoxious things). It turns out, being immature does not entirely preclude people from being enjoyable to be around socially. It strikes me as odd that you’re able to argue why these things are evidence this guy doesn’t deserve a gf, but not why he doesn’t deserve friends. So why could one be understandable but the other one
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 09:24 PM
6

You’re referencing one obnoxious thing he does. As per usual, there is commitment to black and white thinking and a lack of nuance in PPD analysis
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 09:13 PM
7

And then this guy got dumped. So clearly his abysmal social skills weren’t helping
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 09:02 PM
1

Bro doesn’t even lift
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 08:20 PM
3

Post is literally asking for requirements. It’s the 9th word of the title
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 01:40 AM
1

Bald-king
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 01:36 AM
2

You wouldn’t date someone who didn’t write fiction?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 01:32 AM
1

College educated Nonsmoker No kids Actually single (no longer an issue as now we’re engaged) Pro dog Not MAGA Dark humor I’m not putting on things like “likes me back” cuz duh
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 01:30 AM
17

You realize women every single day (in here, for example) are told that our personalities are entirely secondary to our looks
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 04:53 AM
4

I agree… discussing the actual problem would be WAY better than trying to use a surrogate to get to the point. Realistically that takes a lot of introspection and willingness to be vulnerable and unfortunately most people (regardless of gender) aren’t good at that. This is why therapy is a good thing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:05 PM
7

That’s a real productive and partner-focused way of addressing conflict. If you think not caring about your partner’s feelings because they’re intangible is going to make for a successful relationship, I sincerely wish you the best of luck
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:43 PM
0

So I gotta say, I don’t usually watch the whole YouTube videos people link as evidence of their positions cuz it’s most often just some guy talking about AWALT, but yours was interesting AF so thank you for that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:16 PM
5

Unless the other side’s issue is something intangible and the only way to address the issue is to understand the their perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:14 PM
1

What kind of dumbass question is this? There’s more to a man than his profession. That being said, all other things being equal I’d take the nerd. I wouldn’t want that much attention on my personal life. Dating someone famous sounds absolutely awful
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:11 AM
7

But see, instead of telling the first one how wrong she was for feeling unappreciated, you came up with an action plan where you sat down together and reflected on the things you did for each other, thereby drawing attention to the ways you appreciated her. You didn’t win the fight by “injecting logic” - she said “I’m feeling unrecognized” and you improved the situation by setting aside weekly time specifically to give her recognition. You ended the fight by controlling the hemorrhage, not by se…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:53 AM
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I addended my previous answer to you a few times, not sure if you read all the way through ETA2. I agree that things should be constructive and not destructive, but I think the main issue is your second sentence- “but if that solves the problem what does it really take away from you more than having an emotional outburst?” Dealing with the garbage doesn’t solve the problem because the garbage is not the problem. And look, it’s obviously FAR harder for someone to say “I’m feeling unappreciated fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:10 AM
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But how many times do you say to your adult partner “hey, this is our agreement. This is your task. You gotta do it, please” before it gets frustrating? I mean, if you only forget the garbage, it’s one thing… but if the issue is really about effort and making your partner feel seen and appreciated, you needing them to remind you to do the thing you agreed to pretty much flies in the face of that. Let’s be honest, no one ever says in their marriage vows “I promise to be a loving and attentive par…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:43 AM
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In my own experience, the issue comes from a mismatch between what the two parties are fighting about. You say if the fight is about taking the garbage out, the focus should be on getting the garbage taken out. I’m saying people don’t actually fight about the garbage being taken out. The garbage not being taken out is used essentially as an allegory for disrespect, or lack of appreciation, or persistent frustration that’s being disregarded. That’s why women talk about “feelings” instead of “solu…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:07 AM
1

What if the problem is that a lot of these men aren’t hot, funny, or sexy?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:54 AM
1

Why the fuck does it matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:53 AM
1

Haha this your first day? Welcome to the party, where humor, nuance, and an appreciation of macro/micro differences don’t exist
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:51 AM
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Honest question- How do you resolve a problem if you don’t seek to understand the other side?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:45 AM
1

Nope. Engaged and child free
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 07:56 PM
2

In ANY context
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 05:48 PM
6

You said 5-15. 5 years is nbd to most people
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 02:22 PM
3

Sure. Very balanced and nuanced take. When you post ridiculous questions, you’re gonna get ridiculous answers. Confirmation bias is crazy like that 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:29 PM
36

Of these 4? The daddy no question. But why is the fuckboy the only one who cares enough about the person he’s dating to learn anything about her? The “good guy” isn’t good if he refuses to acknowledge the reality of the person he’s actually dating
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 05:01 AM
0

Rules 1 and 2. If you can’t maximize rule 1, you better maximize rule 2
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 03:13 AM
1

Sure but if you have a gf who wants to be naked and then gets mad at you for not being upset that she wants to be naked, you’re dating a woman who plays games, and my advice wouldn’t to be controlling or not, it would be to not date a woman who plays games
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:55 PM
2

Holy shit it’s like being to the far end of the spectrum for any trait is unfavorable. Confidence is great, arrogance is not. Being funny is great, being a total clown is not. Being young at heart is great, being a man child is not. See how when you take things out of a black and white world nuance, as always, makes the argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:08 PM
8

Haha this is the answer
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 02:03 PM
4

That’s enough internet for you…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 02:03 PM
1

You have absolutely no idea what my life has been like or what unfairnesses I’ve had to surmount. But yeah, it’s totally feminism and women pulling up the ladder behind them. Instead of whinging about the injustice of dating, what do you suggest is done about it? It’s easy to identify problems, it’s harder to solve them
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 01:10 PM
1

You’re welcome to make that choice
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 04:03 AM
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🤷🏻‍♀️ it’s a buyers market. If you’re in shape and have a house & a car and a good job and whatever other objective measure you think defines someone’s worth, and you still can’t get the women you want, there is something about you that is making you an nonviable option to those women. I do think it’s interesting how men on here will complain about women’s standards being too high and will also say that being with someone who doesn’t feel carnally attracted to you (general you) is a a romantic d…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:39 PM
1

That’s not what I’m saying but ok
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 03:37 AM
3

Imagine if men did too 😲. This isn’t a gendered thing, no matter how frustrated with women over your shitty dating life you are. I get it’s easy and satisfying to make blanket statements blaming large swaths of the population for something that is ultimately extremely nuanced, but try to be less petulant. Its really not serving you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:25 PM
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Because they don’t exist. Women can’t reject men above them cuz there’s no actual rank. Just cuz you think you should get something doesn’t mean you will. If this were an objective thing you would. Ergo, “there is no objective league”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:22 PM
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If the fat chick just wants sex? Sure. She’s getting what she wants. If she wants a relationship then no, cuz she’s not attracting a boyfriend. Intention matters here, obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:20 PM
2

People say a lot of dumb bullshit regardless if gender. The fact remains, your league is who you can get, not who you think you should get
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:06 PM
4

Thats why there’s no objective league. If it were objective, there wouldn’t be variation
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:05 PM
4

Sure when you’re talking about different stratospheres objective leagues exist. But between people who might interact IRL? Your league is what you can attract. Not who you think you should attract
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:04 PM
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Your league is who you can get, not who you think you should get
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:36 PM
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There is no objective league. Your league is who you can land. If you can’t land the women who are “objectively” below your league, they’re not below your league Also, it’s weird to complain that you can’t get top 10% women while acknowledging you could be too 10%. If you want a thing, and have the ability to get the thing, why complain that you aren’t getting the thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:34 PM
2

Humans are a novelty seeking species. That’s why people buy new phones every other year, new cars, new video games, new clothes… and obviously men tie their worth into how many women they can sleep with. Otherwise this sub wouldn’t exist
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:10 PM
3

You not wanting a man a woman you know sleeps with has absolutely no relevance, cuz you’re not the one fucking him
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 12:14 PM
0

you call direct women “slutty spring break type of women” and wonder why more women aren’t direct….
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 06:59 PM
7

Men fuck down. This is known. As fun as it is to gender swap everything, sometimes it really just doesn’t make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:33 AM
2

If you don’t like women, don’t date them. Hire escorts and then you can get sex without trying and everyone will be happier for it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 10:05 AM
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Men aren’t shallow? That’s why there are so many dudes talking about how their wives gained weight and how they want a divorce cuz their sex life died? Stop thinking life is a romcom. You’re actively setting yourself up for disappointment
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 11:15 PM
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Honest question- how do you have no control over your education level, communication, and social skills? Those things are ENTIRELY under your control. Unconditional romantic love is an unrealistic expectation. Everyone has conditions- don’t hit me, don’t neglect your health, don’t neglect our sex life, don’t be a drunk, don’t kick puppies, don’t be a raging douche canoe…. The point is not to find a love that’s unconditional, the point is to prioritize the things that are important to your partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 11:12 PM
1

Love bombing isn’t a good thing… it’s manipulation
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 09:43 PM
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No one cares that you’re horny and want sex. Women get annoyed when every interaction is about sex, when the only way men know how to feel love is when their dick is wet, and when they make their entire existence about getting laid. If your happiness is entirely dependent on someone letting you penetrate them, you better be/become a man women want to fuck. If you can’t do that 🤷🏻‍♀️ better find some other way to be happy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 11:28 AM
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I assume your examples came from social media, which makes me think the content you consume is feeding this frustration and ire. Maybe reconfigure your algorithm, or better yet, take your own brain out of the fryer
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 03:49 PM
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So you don’t believe in capitalism or autonomy? I’m guessing you’d want to ban social media in general then too?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 01:21 PM
1

What are your ideas to even out the fairness of dating ?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 10:53 PM
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I think you’re confusing progress with perfection. Every day more and more women are going 50/50 or paying for dates full out. Just cuz it’s not ubiquitous yet doesn’t mean it’s not happening
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 06:53 PM
5

In general people want to be praised and appreciated by the people from whom they want said praise and appreciation. Random strangers leering at their bodies is rarely enjoyed. Ariel winter had her surgery done in 2015. She was born in 1998. I’ll let you do the math on how old that means she was by the time she became fed up with how people “only noticed her breasts”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 04:59 PM
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I’m not talking about women who don’t want to be in a relationship with men. You seem to be confusing heterosexuality with wanting marriage & motherhood. I can want to be in a monogamous long term heterosexual relationship without marriage or motherhood. Especially without motherhood
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 04:50 PM
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Ahh yes, women decry traditionalism which is why every year more women seem eschewing marriage & motherhood for independence and careers. Totally traditional!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 04:22 PM
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There’s silence, there’s whining, and there’s action. Which do you think posting on Reddit is?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 04:20 PM
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You’re (general you) fine to want to be the provider, but you can’t say that with one breath and complain that women want you to pay for everything (starting with the first date) with another. She that’s what we see a lot of guys do- want the benefits of traditionalism without shelling out the necessary investment from the onset to prioritize those values. Men might not want to hear about patriarchal oppression but it says something that feminism spreads. If women were happy with their patriarch…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 12:53 PM
1

If that’s the conclusion you’ve drawn from this you need to get off the internet. No one here is trying to radicalize you
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/10/25 12:38 PM
2

No. If you don’t want to get married, don’t get married. Not everything that you don’t agree with needs to be abolished
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 06:39 PM
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Women haven’t been conditioned by feminism to hate all men. We’ve been conditioned by feminism to not accept less than we want by default, make a man’s happiness count for more than our own, and be forced into the role of wife & mother at the expense of our own dreams. The guys who share your sentiment just think that women making their own lives a higher priority than the lives of y’all means we hate y’all. We don’t; we just aren’t gonna care about the sex lives of men we don’t care about more …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 11:21 PM
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Women don’t “reject advances, avoid dates, or hesitate to pursue sexual relationships with men” out of fear of physical violence. They don’t accept a date with men they don’t want to date. Why does there need to be an excuse to say no?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 03:32 PM
6

The HCMST survey says 2/3 of divorces are initiated by women. “Initiated” literally means “who files the paperwork”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 03:15 PM
18

I gotta wonder how many of these “divorce shouldn’t happen” OPs have ever been married
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 01:43 AM
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You’re assuming all women care about status. Your entire argument is built on a false premise and therefore is worthless from the get
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 06:46 PM
3

Let’s be really honest though. How many women that a man dates while he is in his early 20s is the one he’s gonna end up with? Most people don’t marry their first relationship. Why is it ok for men to not end up with their first choice but not ok for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 09:05 PM
0

Nothing in life (including future fertility once one is ready) is guaranteed. You make choices today, deal with the consequences of those choices, then make other choices tomorrow. That’s how life lifes
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/09/25 11:22 AM
1

Vasectomy?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/09/25 11:19 AM
22

Look at ALL the sitcoms that have dumpy men married to objectively more attractive women: - king of queens - grounded for life (the blonde chick is the wife) - still standing So enough with the melodrama
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 12:22 AM
0

Ahhh yes, the enjoyable race to the bottom. The “I got bullied in school so I’m gonna bully others” approach. Universally successful /s🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 11:11 AM
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Cuz most people don’t like think sex should come like DoorDash? Jfc, how have we gotten to the point where doing the most social thing face to face is now questioned
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 09:40 PM
8

You’re ridiculous. Being attracted to men and women isn’t greedy cuz it’s not a choice (much like you’d say your attraction to men isn’t a choice). Your pussy your choice. That’s right. And his dick his choice. See how that works? Nothing he said makes him not a feminist ally. You’re not trying to date women, and you’re not trying to date dudes who fuck dudes, so why exactly do you come off sooooo aggressive and accusatory?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 01:24 PM
2

The most a woman can to without changing partners is 3mo? That’s…. Hilarious and not grounded in any factual reality
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:58 PM
5

This is the way. I’m glad I’m not the only one
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:25 AM
3

I pay for the majority of our dates I pay for the majority of our food I pay our mortgage in its entirety see above we don’t have kids, but he has one of my credit cards that he uses if he needs to take the dogs to the vet or something I pay for the house keeper see above He’s 6y older than I am. So I guess I’m not looking for an equal relationship, cuz financially I pull about 85% of the weight. And I couldn’t be happier with him
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:22 AM
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Why do some kids need to get tutors when other kids can just show up to the test and ace it? Why do some people need to get gym memberships while others are naturally fit? Why do some people need to take golf lessons and others have a naturally good swing? People do the things they need to do to get the results they want. If you think life should give you the advantages that someone else has just cuz you want them you’re gonna have a bad time
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 09:54 PM
2

Let’s play…. Shit, now I’m drunk… that was fast 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 02:23 AM
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I don’t think people aren’t respecting the jobs. I’m merely saying that dudes on here keep bringing up the “men take dangerous jobs while women work in offices” as though it’s women demanding this. And in terms of women wanting men to earn more, this goes both ways. Whilst lots of guys here will say they’d love to be a house husband, my experience as always being the more well-off one in my relationships (which is echoed by all of my girlfriends who out earn their partners, my sister who out ear…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:06 AM
5

Pretty sure men are choosing to do those hard jobs. Why are women to blame for the choices men make for themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 12:51 AM
2

Ahh yes, the ever popular hypothesis off N=1
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 10:00 PM
4

At 40? Lots of women are looking for committed relationships and aren’t widows at 40. Be serious Maybe a guy wants someone who’s in the same place in life as he is. Or doesn’t want to learn gen Z slang. Or doesn’t want to feel like he’s dating jail bait. Or doesn’t want to deal with the rampant immaturity that comes with 20yos… There are lots of reasons why everything you’ve just said is total bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 09:56 PM
3

As someone who’s 41, I strongly disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 09:51 PM
9

Shocking! It’s almost as if when women know they can do more with their life than just be a mother, they often exercise that option
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 08:31 PM
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Yeah it’s not the 10s saying they want commitment when they don’t. It’s the 5-8s who do it cuz they think sex & their body count are the only 2 things that make a man The Man
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:17 AM
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Then walk away. If you say you’re looking for serious and then she does something that ruins that, don’t still fuck her just cuz she looks delicious
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:14 AM
0

You’re wrong about those only wanting sex being easily identifiable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:12 AM
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I mean, obviously. I don’t understand why guys like this aren’t just honest and don’t pretend to be friends with someone when they clearly think sex is the only thing that matters
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 11:57 PM
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Great, cool. And how much of conformity or non conformity needs to be adhered to before someone rises to the level that you say qualifies them to be that gender? If I conform 99/10 feminine-like stereotypes, is that enough to say my gender is woman? What about 75? 50? 30? If I’m 99/100 does that mean I’m genderless? Do you not see how trying to fit the entire population into such a rigid binary black and white categories is both fruitless and stupid? No one adheres 100% to the gender with which …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 03:39 PM
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Link where you’re getting that definition…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 02:38 PM
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Gender is not stereotypes. Gender is social constructs (what you’re oversimplifying ti be stereotypes) as well as gender identity and expression. I, for example, work in STEM. I am the breadwinner in my relationship and make 4-5x what my fiancée does. He works from home, cleans the house, & does the laundry. I am never having children. I watch sports and grill and lift weights nearly every day. Most people would say we’re pretty gender non-conforming, but there’s no question that my gender is wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 01:37 PM
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You’re confusing gender and sex. Gender non conforming is someone who identifies as their birth sex but doesn’t conform to gender expectations associated with that sex. But because gender is a construct, it doesn’t matter if they aren’t or aren’t. That would be like identifying as a good person, and but being a bad person. People identify as various societal constructs that they don’t actually adhere to all the time. Look at all the idiots in govt who identify as good Christians and then get arr…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 12:20 PM
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Do whatever they want, but also accept most average men won’t be successful at getting casual sex. It’s a well documented phenomenon that men will ONS down and women will ONS up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 10:55 AM
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53% of white women. Only 45% of all women compared to 55% of all men (60% of white men). Or are you suggesting that only white women are responsible for the behavior of men? Karma farm- intentionally posting something inflammatory on a young account to drive engagement and (wait for it) farm karma You support a rapist and a pedophile because of his policies? You SUPPORT A RAPIST AND A PEDOPHILE… how can you possibly think that a rapist and a pedophile is someone who has enough integrity to hold …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:14 AM
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I mean, men overwhelmingly voted a rapist pedophile into the White House. Enjoy your karma farm
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:01 AM
2

Men’s love is highly conditional. Fixed it for ya
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 11:15 PM
1

No, cuz both of my parents chose to pay for childcare so they could continue working. But if you think the motherhood penalty doesn’t exist you’re being willfully ignorant
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 12:26 PM
1

I mean, make about 4-5x what my fiancée makes. In fact, every single woman in my family, with whom I went to college, and with whom I went to med school makes at least equal what their male partner makes, if not more. So yeah I think every single year more and more women will pair up with men who make less, because to a lot of us, having a strong romantic relationship is more important than a guy making more than our already-6-figure salary. And there are plenty of ways to earn a woman’s respect…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:56 AM
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Kindergarten- that’s at the ripe age of 5. You should take 5 years off of your job and then come back expecting to anywhere near the same money. 5 years ago $100,000 is equal to about $125,000 now. You think your old job is going to willingly invite you back to your job with 5 years of rusty skills and expecting a 25% pay raise? Keep dreaming
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:10 AM
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Except every single year, as women are out-enrolling men in higher education and thus outnumbering men going into high paying fields like law & medicine, the numbers shift. It’s not going to go from “nearly all women making less than their men” to “majority of women being making more” overnight, but the trend is there. So if these women want their jobs and a partner, many are going to have to accept a guy who makes less. Just like men are going to have to accept making less (and not tie their ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:06 AM
2

If you’re that desperate for someone you make the decision to risk your assets. This is the definition of beggars being choosers
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 02:59 AM
1

Or prenup. It’s really not that hard
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 02:58 AM
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No social media- greenest flag only LinkedIn/reddit/doximity etc- green flag Facebook only because his school for some dumbass reason posts official announcements on it- perfectly acceptable (clearly I’ve had experience with this situation) facebook/IG/snapchat where he actually takes it seriously, posts & follows unironically- rapidly turning red like a ginger on a beach on a cloudless day trying to be any kind of influencer or famous, giving half a fuck about follower numbers or likes or retwe…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 02:46 AM
2

I would be incredibly impressed with her powers of imagination
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 02:40 AM
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Right? Being loved & in a relationship isn’t enough cuz then men wouldn’t complain so much about sexless relationships. It seems to always (and really only) be about having a wet dick… what woman wouldn’t want to eagerly sign up for that
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 12:27 PM
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But…. But… but stripping women of their rights & independence is so much easier than trying for self improvement and realizing you’re still unwanted…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 11:19 AM
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“And if I’m stupid then I’ll still believe what I want”… what a perfect summation to everything that’s wrong with the world these days. “I’m not going to believe what’s true, I’m gonna believe what I want because confirmation bias is so much more satisfying than finding out I’m FOS”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 01:11 PM
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If you’re basing your opinions off the internet, you’re gonna get extremes because extremes drive engagement, which is what the internet is based on these days
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 12:43 PM
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Yes, people in general think doing fun things is more fun than talking about books. 🤯
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:38 PM
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How is a woman’s value more innate than a man’s and how is a man’s value more constructed than a woman’s?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 10:32 PM
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Let’s say you make $50k and your tax rate is 15% (for ease of discussion- I understand that the way taxes work in America at least is more complex than this). You’re giving $7500 to the govt and you’re now living off $42500. I bet that extra $7500 would be incredibly helpful when you’re trying to live off 3.5k/mo. Now let’s say you make $500,000 and your tax rate is 15%. You’re paying $75,000 in taxes, which yea is a lot more than $7500 but the sting is going to be negligible. I don’t see why po…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 01:27 PM
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Because for some reason some men would rather watch the whole world burn if they’re not getting laid so they vote for an oligarch “strong man” who might knock women down a peg or two even if it fucks them over too. Sorta a “I’d rather destroy the whole neighborhood than have to live in jealousy next door to the guy with the new pool” thing
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 10:49 AM
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Nice try but it’s the other way around. Kids are WAY TOO IMPORTANT to have when you don’t want. Most of them are too smart and too observant to overlook being obviously unwanted, and unwanted children don’t make well adjusted adults
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:18 PM
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He’s human. I’m human. Humans are novelty-seeking creatures and feel lust. I’m not putting obviously unrealistic expectations on him just to set him up to fail. I’m not here to prosecute thought crime
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:15 PM
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Right? If you regret not having them the only person who gets hurt is you. If you regret having them your kids are growing up with a lifetime of being (and feeling) unwanted
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 06:09 PM
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Their lower earnings did not contribute at all. 1. College ended, he wanted to move back home to NY, I got a job in CA 2. He moved to LA, I lived in SF. He was also 8y older than I was and ready to settle down & get married. I was not ready for that 3. I moved to the east coast for med school, he stayed in CA 4. He was a douchey cop and cheated on me 5. Fiancée- I make 4-5x what he does and things are awesome I expect they treat me with love and respect. I want them to feel ok with me spoiling t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:02 PM
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US
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:56 PM
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Not sure that’s any different except it displaces the responsibility of his feelings onto her
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:47 PM
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No doubt. But I think if you were to ask (men and women) what it means to be a provider, most people’s first answers would be $ based. I’m not saying it should be, but if you boil the stereotype down to its most fundamental element, it’s “men provide, women nurture”, and when that’s the primary (not only, but most frequent) narrative that’s pushed in media, stories, and history, I think it’s an easy trap to fall into thinking that’s all it means
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:45 PM
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Interesting framework, considering the number of women in higher education and going into high paying fields like medicine & law is higher than men these days… it’s not just geriatric women trying to find 20yo strange. I, for example, have out earned every single man I’ve ever dated seriously. I think more and more women are leaning into an egalitarian relationship where they are not expected to home keep and men are not expected to exclusively provide
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:38 PM
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That’s not my experience, but 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:30 PM
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I know that studies show that when a woman goes from less to more than her man that can be true. I haven’t seen anything about if a woman makes more from the get. Is that still the case?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:01 AM
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I think lots of men struggle with a woman who makes more than they do. Being “the provider” is something that gets ingrained into dudes from a young age as ”what a man is”, and it can be hard to let go of that definition. At least, that’s how my guy explained it to me when he struggled with my making more than he does
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 10:45 AM
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It’s not about sexual orientation. It’s about being the object of testosterone fueled lust
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:58 AM
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Dude, just start paying for sex. If your view of life & women & basic human decency is that transactional, just make it a transaction and be done with it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:32 AM
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“Do people need to procreate to ensure the species continues?” This is the question I’m answering. You say sex is a basic need on a societal level to ensure the survival of humans. I’m saying a fraction of a fraction of a fraction of a fraction of a percentage of people need to be screwing to keep humanity going. You say it’s a basic need to have a “typical” or “standard” life. I’m saying “typical” & “standard” are subjective benchmarks that are actually meaningless and impossible to define, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:27 AM
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And I think the point comes down to the difference between dying of thirst and drowning in a swamp. You think because heterosexual women are getting dick pics thrown at them left and right that somehow that feels better. And sure, I don’t know what it’s like to be a straight dude, but I do know what it’s like to not get attention from the people I want attention from. It turns out getting attention from guys I don’t want attention from probably feels pretty similar to getting attention from guys…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:16 AM
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Know how many people need to procreate in order to ensure the survival of the human race? It’s not as many as you might think. Tl;dr- 50 for genetic diversity (but inbreeding will probably be an issue), 500 if genetic counseling to prevent inbreeding is available, 5000 for an intervention-free free for all. 5000 people to ensure genetic diversity without inbreeding depression without any intervention to tell people not to fuck their siblings. Now, I tried to find what the gender breakdown of tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 11:04 PM
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I disagree. Human connection (not necessarily romantic or sexual connection) is a need. Sex is a strong want, not a basic need. And yeah, I know all about Maslow’s hierarchy, but I define “need” as “will die without”. You know… stuff you actually need. Things like food, water, oxygen, shelter- those are Needs. Saying sex is a need is like saying a family of 6 needs a 5 bedroom house. Does the family need shelter (human connection)? Sure. Do they need to each have their own room (sticking your di…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 09:13 PM
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And what’s the objective measure of a league?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 10:56 AM
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Holy shit I know!!! It’s like having someone tell you to just fuck people you don’t want (and be thankful for the opportunity and quit bitching about how it’s not the people you actually want to be fucking) is, shall I say, ridiculous???
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 01:17 AM
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If it were so easy for women to get what they want, why would there be so many women complaining? Attractive, attentive, successful, loyal, passionate, funny, and great in bed ain’t exactly a dime a dozen friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 11:29 PM
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But that implies that sex is what’s most important for women, and I’d argue for most women it’s not. Being able to fuck a guy you’re attracted to is great, but you’re equating that with how you feel fucking a chick you’re attracted to. You flat out say sex is the thing men want most in a relationship, so getting sex gets you the thing you want most. If sex is not the thing women want most in a relationship, getting sex does not satisfy that craving- even if it’s with a guy they’re attracted to
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 10:48 PM
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Who says you don’t have the option to have sex? I bet you could go to the local gay bar and put your dick in all kinds of strange
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 10:39 PM
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You’re defining “basic need” by what your basic needs are. It’s like complaining about the price of gas to someone who doesn’t have a car- if you don’t own a car, you don’t really care that gas is $6/gallon or whatever. If gas is not critical to your daily life, you’ll probably spend 0 time thinking about it, regardless of how abundant or affordable it is
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 10:37 PM
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Way to entirely miss the point and drag it back to “women will fuck Chad but not regular guys wahhh 😫” So you want sex? Go find a gay bar and get you some sex. You can have your dick sucked & stick it in all kinds of holes. If sex is what you value most, go get it… Or, is it like OP says, that sex is not what’s actually the most important? It’s sex with someone you desire that defines the importance… so just as you wouldn’t want to fuck a bunch of dudes you don’t want even though you’d get more …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 10:32 PM
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My guy- Women overwhelmingly want a good guy, but they want him to be hot too. Being a good guy is absolutely a plus, but when we’re talking about sexual attraction looks are going to be important. Do YOU want to date someone who you’re not attracted to? I bet not. Cuz let’s be honest. Women will be friends with men who are good guys. But they’re not gonna want to fuck them. Cuz fucking requires attraction. So be a good guy- but do that because being a good person is a good thing to be. Don’t do…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 09:49 PM
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I’d love to see any evidence of someone saying “50% divorce rates are good actually”. Show me that and I’ll spend time reading the rest of your dissertation. If your premise is based on bullshit however, this whole debate is bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:52 AM
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You honestly think fantasy represents what people want their life to look like? The twilight universe made $3.3b- so you really think women want to fuck vampires or werewolves? Fantasy is something to escape to for a short time but it’s not usually what someone wants 24/7. That’s why people can enjoy being a sub in the bedroom but don’t necessarily want to be someone’s slave all day every day. That’s why people who want to act out on cuck fantasies are often told it will ruin their relationship.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:38 AM
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Media is the absolute dumbest shit on which to base your opinions about the real world. Entertainment is not reliably representative of reality
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 02:33 AM
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Would I be cool with it? If that was the state of dating what choice would I have? The only other option would be stay single and let my insecurities dictate my love life. I’d rather be in a relationship and trust whoever I end up dating is a good person
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 03:10 PM
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The thing you want (a medication or something equally easy to take to abolish your libido without changing your testosterone levels) doesn’t exist but you don’t want to go through the hard work of teaching yourself discipline so you aren’t driven by sexual impulse (cultivating discipline) nor do you want to do the hard work of creating the thing you want. You just want it to be presented to you, without any sacrifice or effort on your part
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 01:25 PM
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Oh I see… So not only do you just not want to have to cultivate discipline, you want someone else to do the hard work so you can just reap the rewards….
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 01:07 PM
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Sounds like you should get in the lab and develop the drug you want so bad
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 04:46 AM
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“It’s not about making a choice & some sacrifice while working for something you want, it’s about not having to try that hard” Fixed that for you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 04:08 AM
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Right, and most men would fuck someone they had no interest in at all because sex is sex and an ego boost. That is also not the case for women. It’s really not hard to rise to the level of “he’s willing to fuck”. That’s not exactly a compliment
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 11:10 PM
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The way you decenter women and sex from your life whilst keeping your testosterone levels is by practicing some self control. You think monks are as sexually driven as a regular western man? No, cuz they have years of honing their discipline so as not to crave the immediate gratification of modern society. You really think robots would be good parents? Sure, in a perfect world children would only be born to 2 parents that wanted them. Obviously that’s not always the case now, but do you really t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 07:57 PM
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Sure if the fat incel only wants to fuck gal gadot he certainly can make that limit. I think the only difference is specifically because women don’t usually fuck men they don’t find attractive, while that bar is (in general) much lower for men. Men (again, in general) will fuck down and date up, women will fuck up and date down. I know of very few incels who would get approached by their looksmatch and not be willing to at least stick it in her for ego’s sake. But if there was one who didn’t wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 06:27 PM
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No, in my example a woman who’s a 4 shouldn’t be expected to date or fuck a 4 if she’s only attracted to 7s. Will this frustrate her when she can’t get a 7 to commit? Yeah, probably. But if sex is as important to men as most claim (the above commenter said he’d rather die than be sexless) they shouldn’t be encouraging women to date people they don’t want to have sex with or be frustrated when they don’t get dates. You (general you) can’t have it both ways. You either date someone who isn’t attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 05:50 PM
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Ok so you agree. You’d rather die than go sexless. But, at least for women, sex requires attraction. You’re telling 4s to go after 4s, which makes sense on paper, but if the 4 isn’t attracted to anyone under a 7 she’s not going to want to fuck a 4 even if that’s her “value match”. So yeah, she’ll get a relationship, which will probably be sexless and then we’re back into the fate worse than death category
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 04:56 PM
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Sure, the same can be said for women. And guys (especially on here) talk about how if she doesn’t have a carnal sexual desire for you (general you) then she’s settling and is using you for your resources
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 04:49 PM
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Isn’t being with a woman who doesn’t have carnal sexual desire for them considered almost a fate worse than death to lots of guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 03:58 PM
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Do men have conscious control over who they’re attracted to? If you like skinny but only get attention from fat women, can you train yourself to be sexually attracted to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 03:39 PM
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Nice attempt at playing a reverse card, but that’s not what the question is asking
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 03:36 PM
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My question is this- of all those hundreds or thousands of women these dudes fuck, how many are happy with casual and how many would prefer this guy settle down and commit to her? I mean, come on. A woman entering into a situationship in the hopes of getting commitment from the guy is a stereotype for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 10:02 PM
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I will 100% agree that OLD is a utter dumpster fire. I met my fiancée on hinge 5y ago and I couldn’t delete them fast enough. Not having to go back through that BS is reason enough to keep him happy with me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 09:59 PM
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serious question- how many of those women are happy to keep things casual and how many would jump at it if you came to her and said “I want to be in a relationship with you”?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 07:37 PM
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That’s not the question. If the question was “why don’t men ask women they don’t know out” the answer might be “because women use men for free food and validation”. The question was “why don’t women ask men out” and in this case one of the reasons is they don’t want to be a placeholder. Turning it around and saying “wahhh women sometimes also do shitty things” is not an argument for why women should be ok with men doing shitty things
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 06:01 PM
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I love the narrative y’all tell yourselves about casual sex. It’s overwhelmingly not worth it for women, cuz men (especially men with no emotional investment in her happiness) often don’t really care how much she enjoys it. He gets his nut, she’s the warm receptacle it went into, and whether or not she enjoyed herself at all is much lower on his list of priorities. Additionally, women for the most part don’t get the massive ego boost from having sex with someone who doesn’t actually like her, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 05:56 PM
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*minds their own business and stays out of other people’s relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 05:32 AM
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Factually nothing he said wasn’t true. It sounds not like he doesn’t care about relationships, but that he doesn’t care about other people’s relationships. He’s not being emotionally distant, he’s being logical and rational
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 05:31 AM
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Jfc enough with this alpha/beta bullshit. It’s not real. And most men aren’t “alpha”- they just like to think they are
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 11:07 AM
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Who wouldn’t want to be second choice once a friend rejects you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 05:26 PM
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That’s fine, but then the sex might not happen. Like, most people don’t wanna go to work but they do want to have money. If you (general you) want the thing (sex, money) more than the effort (texting, work), you do the effort to get the thing. If you don’t care, you wouldn’t be complaining about not getting sex
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 12:11 PM
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Because they don’t want to?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 11:59 AM
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I mean, sure? Someone can want to have sex and still not have it be on the forefront of their mind. Just cuz the fire needs a spark doesn’t mean the kindling won’t burn; it’s just not spontaneously combusting
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 11:46 AM
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If he wants to have sex more than she does, then yes, it’s his responsibility to rev her engine if he wants to get laid. His engine is already on, and she’s not thinking about sex. If the person who isn’t thinking about sex didn’t need the sexy texts to start thinking about sex, I wouldn’t suggest it as a technique cuz it wouldn’t be necessary. Presumably once the texts start it should be a back and forth, but whomever is the one who originally wants the sex is the one who has to initiate the me…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 11:07 AM
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You choose to see relationships as inherently transactional. You pay for your gf (or your potential gf) specifically to “pave the road to sex”. You want a different analogy? Let’s say you’re a handy guy. Every time you hang with your gf she wants you to do something around the house; unclog a drain, paint a wall, mow the lawn, whatever. She says her love language is receiving acts of service and no amount of gifts, cuddling, telling her you love her, nice dates, or anything else is an acceptable…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 01:18 AM
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That’s fine, they don’t have to… but I mean, seriously… on an effort scale sending a handful of sexy texts throughout the day to rev her engine is much less taxing on an effort scale than having sex regardless of if that sex is wanted or duty
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 07:21 PM
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In the ATM analogy, you’re still getting to spend time with your gf (the non sexual stuff). If you don’t want the nonsexual stuff, then you only value women for sex
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 05:22 PM
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You’re missing the point of the ATM analogy. What you want (not being seen as an ATM) = what women want (not being valued only for sex). Your gf ONLY wanting to spend time with you (something presumably enjoyable for both of you) when you drop $$$ = women only being valued for sex. Yes. I want someone who turns me on AND who is turned on by me AND who finds me funny. Literally (the sexual stuff) + (the non sexual stuff) = good relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:11 PM
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No, you’re misunderstanding me. I want to be valued for things other than sex. Full stop. But being valued for things other than sex will not get you (general you) sex. My fiancée and I spend hours laughing together. I know one of the things he values about me is my sense of humor. I don’t expect him to want to fuck me because I made a joke. He values my intelligence. I don’t expect him to want to fuck me because of a cool diagnosis I made on a patient. Sex and being valued for things other than…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 03:38 PM
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As with everything in life, this shit can’t be quantified. The general feeling, IMO, is that women want to be desired but don’t want to deal with the “my love language is physical touch” bullshit that means “I only feel love when my dick is getting touched.” They want to desire and be desired by their man, but want that desire to be cultivated instead of just demanded. I think a lot of men forget that much of a woman’s sexuality comes from her brain. If they spent more time turning her brain on,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 02:43 PM
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Yeah I would. Cuz she is, and it is…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 12:01 AM
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I think if you care that much what other people think you might want to invest in better things to do than try to catch people in a gotcha moment. Judgment is always bad but it’s like death and taxes- it’s going to happen. If you do a thing- ANYTHING- you’re gonna have someone give you shit about it. Decide if you care and adjust your behavior accordingly
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:27 PM
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Women get judged for being sluts and men get judged for slut shaming. 2 legal things both of which induce judgment
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:21 PM
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People judge shit that’s legal ALL the time… if you live in society, be prepared to be judged
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 10:06 PM
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“Any guy in their place would be inclined to do the same”- no. That’s not true. Most women have had the experience of being cherished by a good looking guy and treated like shit by a bad looking guy. You want to think that because good looking guys have more options that means they’ll be shittier to those options, but that’s not necessarily true BECAUSE feelings & dating isn’t grounded in rationalism. Men treat the women they want to treat well, well. If you have lots of options and you have a w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 04:48 PM
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No, I’m saying if the guys who had no options had more options they would have less FOMO. Full stop. Highly desired guys can be kind; highly desired guys can be schmucks. Undesired guys can be kind; undesired guys can be schmucks. It’s a just-world fallacy to believe that dudes who get no action would automatically be better partners because they’re thankful for whatever scraps they can get. Let’s take you for example- you (based on your posts) seem to be a guy who doesn’t have a ton of success …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 02:36 PM
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I’m not saying men who have lots of options value women more. I’m saying men who have no options usually have incredible FOMO when it comes to shit like casual sex, so if they get an opportunity to go out with a woman a lot of times the just want to fuck so they can feel like the “alpha chad” they fantasize about every night. Know how I know you’re entirely full of shit? 11d ago you wrote "I can find logical arguments and explanations – but desire is born on a different, subconscious level. You …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 12:46 PM
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Right. It’s not rational. Most of humanity isn’t rational. You say it’s like money and it is- but not the way you’re thinking. It’s more like how wealthier people who live in areas with high economic inequality are less generous than poor people. Is it rational that the people who have less give more? It is not, but that’s what’s seen. There are plenty of examples of irrational behavior in dating, like falling in love with someone who’s obviously using you (general you) for your money or staying…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 11:18 AM
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It would make sense that dudes without opportunities would value a woman more, but dating doesn’t reliably follow rational thought. I’ve certainly been on dates with guys who’ve lamented getting no attention and then turn out to be judgmental dicks. “I knew you didn’t really like me, no one ever does” is a pretty common refrain when things go south with these guys. Self-fulfilling prophecies are absolutely a thing. Cool virtue signal bro; you dated someone you didn’t find sexually appealing. Kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 11:04 AM
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You literally just commented in PPD, sis
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 10:52 AM
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There’s no guarantee that less attractive dudes are any better Would you want to go out with someone you weren’t attracted to? Isn’t being settled for and not actually desired considered almost a fate worse than death to you PPD guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 11:55 PM
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Flashy women often want flashy men. Not all women give an iota of a fuck about that. A dude picking me up in a lambo would be a turn off unless it was a joke. I out earn my fiancée by 4-5x and I have significantly more wealth outside of the salary. Doesn’t matter. He’s the best man I’ve ever been with- that’s why I’m with him. Money doesn’t impress me; I have my own money
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 07:42 PM
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You’re spending way too much time thinking about decisions that involve you 0%. Get over it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 04:22 AM
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I recognize people do things when they’re young that they don’t do when they mature and want to settle down. I have a friend who used to do meth & Molly at raves every weekend and now he’s an anesthesiologist with a wife & 4 kids. Dude doesn’t even smoke pot anymore and has an occasional beer with dinner maybe 2x/month. People grow up. If our relationship is good, I love him, he loves me, and we’re building the life we both want together, who am I to begrudge his past?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 07:35 PM
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I’m gonna take the bold stance that most labor IS nonconsensual, in that it’s coerced. Want to pay rent? Go to work. Want to put food on your table? Go to work. I think you’d find many if not most people would stop working if they didn’t need to earn money for things. That being said, sex work is not always nonconsensual. But it can be
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 03:29 AM
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I’m not talking about the prevalence of steroid use. I’m talking about what is considered a steroid body. The same way that men will often say they prefer women without makeup, but when you ask them to identify pictures they find most attractive it’s women with natural-looking makeup. Subtlety is key. If you look like Liver King you’re not doing that to attract women
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 03:06 PM
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Sure. I’m not saying women don’t like any guy who uses steroids. I’m saying roided-out dudes aren’t doing that to attract women. Like you said subtlety is key
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 03:05 PM
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Doesn’t matter. The people who think dudes like Liver King look good are other dudes who want that body. That is not the ideal body type per women. Subtlety is key- some men with good bodies surely use steroids, but being yolked is not the look most women prefer And you’re acting like trends in what’s considered culturally attractive don’t change. They do. They do for men and they do for women. Presently, roided out dudes are generally not considered attractive by women
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 03:03 PM
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Most women don’t like the steroid look. Dudes do that to impress other dudes. The most preferred body type women have I believe is the soccer player/swimmer (long & lean)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 02:20 PM
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Next time try reading the words I used instead of making inferences off the words I didn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 03:37 PM
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Jesus fuck, where did I say “boy play video game = boy bad”?!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 03:32 PM
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Like everything in life, the reasons why are multifactorial. From a young age, girls are taught that hanging out is how women socialize; compare this to men who usually get their social time by participating in an activity. Likewise, much of male socialization revolves around competition. This is one of the reasons boys are more likely to be gamers and more likely to find social satisfaction from their gaming interactions. Girls like dopamine and also can have fear of rejection but as females ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 02:51 PM
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This feels like a virtue signal. Sure, how someone treats another person is more important, and if you don’t know them you can’t evaluate them. Dressing well informs a first impression… doesn’t mean it necessarily correlates to their being a good person, but if we’re talking about dating & mate finding a person wearing nice well-fitting clothes is gonna make a more favorable first impression than someone dressed like a schlub
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 01:00 PM
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This thread is literally about what men can do to present themselves as more attractive to women. You’re arguing that people who care about how they look to other people hate themselves, but you can’t deny that attraction is a pretty important piece to dating, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:57 PM
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Because boys spend more time playing video games and less time socializing irl. They choose this because video games give them the dopamine they crave without any risk of being rejected. But due to this, their socialization skills are less honed. Then, as boys become men and the opportunities for socialization are not as readily available as they were in school/college, those skills remain underdeveloped. Dating becomes the be all end all of social output, which puts added pressure on an already…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:54 PM
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It’s 100% propaganda. Men aren’t any less natural at caring for a baby, it’s just eons of people buying into this bullshit that make people like you perpetuate the thought that they are, thereby expecting less and thus getting less
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 10:15 PM
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My fiancée is the same way. It’s fucking awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 01:45 PM
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Your whole schtick is gross propaganda. You shouldn’t have expectations that men will be helpful cuz it doesn’t come naturally to them? I’m sure being in the military didn’t come naturally to you and yet you became a small unit leader. Should your unit have expected less competence from you because working in military units isn’t a natural inclination for people especially during peacetime? Men aren’t “expected” to be good and primary parents because of koolaid drinkers like you who think that t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 01:42 PM
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Wow… projection say what?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 12:46 AM
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I’m 100% not unwilling to accept that. Dating is about 2 things: physical attraction & social attraction. The two biggest frustrations on this sub from guys seem to be from black pill dudes who lack the physical attraction, or awkward dudes who lack the social attraction. But dating is a social activity based around sex, so in the absence of a niche market (like asexual or demisexual etc) you’re gonna have to have something that’s attractive either physically or socially. This is why hot guys su…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 12:58 PM
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They don’t necessarily have both options. I’ve certainly FWB’d guys that I would never bring home to my family or consider for any kind of LTR cuz they couldn’t string a sentence together. There are plenty of posts of guys saying they are active and successful on dating apps but all the women they go out with only want short term casual flings. If you’re asking “who’s has more potential?” then yeah, hot people have more potential. This isn’t some mind blowing concept. It’s like asking “who would…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 11:21 AM
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Yes. Supply and demand is real even in the dating world and life ain’t fair. What of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:41 AM
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From this comment it’s clear you don’t want an LTR. You’re only looking at the “ crushes, fuck buddies, sneaky links, ONS, booty calls, hot flames, situationships” so you’re gonna see the same type of guy. Hook ups need to be hot because they’re all about facts so the physical attraction is high. Long-term relationships don’t need to be as hot, but they need to actually have a personality you wanna spend time with. Think of it this way- a passing score is 60/100. Looks is worth 50pts and persona…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 10:52 AM
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Oh goodie… another black pill The Only Thing That Matters Is Looks post This isn’t that hard. Being attractive is important. How attractive and how important will depend on the woman. The 2 rules are there for a reason 1. Be attractive: look your best, work out, have good style, groom, smell good… 2. Don’t be unattractive: don’t be a black-pilled douche who complains that women only want tall chiseled Henry Cavill look alikes and if you’re not that you might as well end it now. That’s not hot, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 10:46 AM
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She didn’t say she was straight. She said she wasn’t a lesbian
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 01:25 PM
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Are you trolling? Seriously, how do you not get this. If she’s standing in front of her presumed ideal man and he’s too nervous or worried about coming off as a creep to approach her, he is by definition NOT her ideal guy. Your premise included personality, not just looks or money. If his personality included the quirk of being unwilling to approach for whatever reason, he isn’t her ideal guy. It’s really not that hard to understand
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 01:28 PM
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No because being proactive, confident, and making the first move are qualities she wants in a man, not necessarily qualities she wants to have herself. She’s been very clear that the act of approaching her is important for her to feel attraction, so her approaching him wouldn’t help. I’m not sure what you’re not getting… if he’s too shy/intimidated/anxious/whatever to approach her, by definition he is not her ideal man, regardless of his looks or other qualities
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 12:18 PM
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Why would that apply to her? Are you suggesting that people need to want their exact same qualities in a partner instead of complimentary ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 12:06 PM
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If her ideal man would approach her, then it wouldn’t matter if he were a little intimidated by cold approaching. For her, he’d get over it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:55 AM
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I never said people should be prosecuted for their thoughts, but the reality is male incels are more likely to be violent than femcels. That’s not to say “kill all men” is a sentiment that should be celebrated; it’s just the likelihood that woman acts on that motto is MUCH smaller than if genders were reversed
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:29 PM
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Sure this makes sense, but complaining in an echo chamber (like incel.is) and devolving into violent misogyny is hardly an effective or reasonable counter to a society that’s not set up to give you (general you) sexual advantages. Seriously, go on that site and see all the dudes calling women “foids” and “toilets” and endorsing rape. Yes, words on an anonymous forum is not the same as action IRL, but if you’ve never thought about it you’d never post about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 10:56 AM
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Blah blah blah. I’m well into my 40s and I still get carded when I buy booze. You’re not saying anything profound or even original, and certainly nothing that warrants that dissertation of a response
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 10:03 PM
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Right? Dude is trying to give advice like he’s some knowledgeable expert, but doesn’t even know that’s not a hyphenated word. Sorta blows up the credibility
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 10:01 PM
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Testosterone
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 01:30 PM
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It must’ve been a pretty good day if this is what you chose to manufacture your outrage over. Maybe get off the internet and do something productive
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:43 PM
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I mean, that’s the justification for saving women. It certainly has nothing to do with women being loved unconditionally by 99.99% of the population that has never met them
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:16 AM
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They don’t. You just think cuz women were saved on a sinking boat from early last century that give you a reason to bitch about not being able to get a date
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 10:23 PM
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So, aside from the fact that your example is from 113 years ago… “Women and children” has nothing to do with being cherished. It has to do with the fact that the number of women is the rate limiting factor in population growth. One man could impregnate up to 10 women per day. One woman can only be impregnated once every 9mo, and that doesn’t take into account the subsequent physical limitations that women are responsible for with every child they bear. The investment a woman makes into creating …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 10:09 PM
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Tell that to all the women who got dumped for their younger skinnier 2.0 version… Doesn’t sound very unconditional to me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 10:02 PM
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🤯
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 09:59 PM
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No one is loved unconditionally. What kind of dumb shit is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 09:58 PM
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Try again- women are less likely to be hired into entry level positions, and are less likely to be promoted once they get their foot in the door
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 01:37 PM
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You’re attributing the negative connotations to thirsty. Sub horny (or higher libido- both are synonyms) for thirsty and my point still stands. You’re literally arguing semantics just to argue
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:06 PM
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Never said one gender was better, just that men are thirstier (which you seem to agree with). There’s nothing wrong with that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 10:11 AM
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Dating apps show men are thirstier than women Fixed it for you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:51 AM
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And yet… you just shamed everyone else that responded by saying they don’t have a brain cell…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:21 AM
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Men can ABSOLUTELY be feminists. My fiancée is a more ardent feminist than I am, and I don’t half ass my beliefs, for perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:19 AM
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There are far more fat people than chubby chasers these days
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 07:52 AM
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A person who can eat anything and be thin is exalted. A person who desires to eat anything and be thin but is unsuccessful is seen as disgusting It can be applied to lots of things besides sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 09:30 PM
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Again, it’s a false equivalency. We know straight men are much less likely to watch gay porn. That’s literally the link I posted in the comment you replied to. A man who watches porn that involves two men being sexual is MORE LIKELY to be gay. I don’t say gay porn would be a deal breaker, I say it would be problematic. Which means there is room for discussion on why he’s watching gay porn and what he gets out of it. But just by the numbers, only 20% of straight men watch gay porn, compared to >5…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:27 PM
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Except you can really know. If you look at people of the same sex and don’t find them at all attractive, you’re not gay/bi. I’ll give you that institutional homophobia exists and that might make someone who does find a person of their sex attractive say they don’t, but if you (regardless of whether you express it to anyone else) don’t look and think “🤔 maybe I can get down with that” you’re not gay/bi
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:23 PM
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Be that as it may, if in America a man is watching gay porn, he’s much more likely to be gay or bi than a woman who watches lesbian porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:03 PM
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K? So you’re probably bi which sorta proves my point. My fiancée has never expressed any questioning to me, and it would feel like he hid a huge part of himself if he was hiding that huge part of himself. We also know that straight women are FAR more likely to watch lesbian porn than straight me. Evidence links in my comment to the other person. It’s true that some straight men watch gay porn, but 80% don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 03:54 PM
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Of course not, but I think it’s a pretty well established fact that far fewer straight guys will watch gay porn than straight women will watch lesbian porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:05 PM
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Kiddie porn…. That would be a hard limit for me. Scat & beastiality would be deal breakers too. Gay porn would be problematic, cuz my fiancée has never disclosed that he was bi and I feel like that would be a huge part of who he is that he hid from me for years. Otherwise, who am I to yuck someone’s yum?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 09:07 PM
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There’s whole body rhythmic muscular contraction with a very obvious apex, followed by an immediate release of that tension and hypersensitivity of the clit requiring cessation of stimulation for some period of time. You can’t possibly think ejaculation is the absolute only proof that an orgasm happened. They’ve literally done fMRIs of women during orgasm and have seen the biophysical changes in the brain in real time. If this Isn’t a troll post then holy shit… you’ve really never satisfied a wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 10:00 AM
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Tell us you’ve never satisfied a partner without saying it 🤣🤣🤣 Female orgasms exist. Anecdotally I can confirm. You can also just google scientific studies on it. Sorry you can’t get your partner off, but don’t blame that on societal conditioning to believe in a fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 12:18 AM
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The article cites competition for men as one(of several) reasons for the decrease in acceptance of Ukrainian refugees. They also cite increased competition in the labor market, crime, inflation, and cultural differences. The article also says that despite 12.5 million Ukrainian refugees originally going to Poland, there are approximately only 1.2 million left so their concerns seem over blown… In any event, everyone wants the best they can get. This isn’t a gendered phenomenon. If men in the wes…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 08:48 PM
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But you see, it’s ok for THAT woman to use a guy for his money and status, but if a western woman uses a guy for money and status she’s a manipulative bitch. Dude is happy to accept the behavior he judges WW for as long as he’s on the positive side of its consequences. He is nothing more than a hypocrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 11:50 AM
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If she doesn’t have sex she might not love you, but that blanket statement is just not true
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 11:48 AM
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Re: Passport bros- “those women are also practicing hypergamy” So hypergamy is fine so long as you’re the one benefiting from it? But if you’re not the one benefiting it’s destructive…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 11:47 AM
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Are you suggesting incompetent execs are not disagreeable? Doesn’t make competence a masculine trait
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 03:15 AM
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They are basic ideals.... I absolutely want my fiancée to be competent and independent, AND nurturing and have emotional intelligence. And he expects as much from me. How do you (general you) have a healthy, loving, enduring relationship without all of these things?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 03:14 AM
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WTF is efford? I think the fact that you don’t care if your partner is satisfied is pretty indicative of your skill (or lack thereof, as the case may be)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 12:08 AM
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How is independence a masculine trait? How is competence a masculine trait? How are these not basic human ideals to strive for?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:08 PM
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Ok but what if you don’t take two absolute polar extremes? What about a competent surgeon, or lawyer, or business exec?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:02 PM
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False. Sex is a skill like anything else. If you’re good at it, you’re good at it. Hot guys can be terrible in bed
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:20 AM
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I literally quoted you. That’s what “around words”mean- that I’m repeating the things you said. So yeah boss, you actually said ALL of it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 02:00 AM
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“Many men, I would even go as far to say most [emphasis added by me], would not hang out with women outside of the path leading to sex and/or affection” followed by how not getting sex makes you “a loser”. You then end with how “men can be extraordinarily dangerous when he feels wronged. Friendship with women is ‘wrong’…” So you have these thoughts about “most” men and yet you’re claiming to be one of the good ones who doesn’t feel the way your entire post seems to indicate you feel? Riiiiight….…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:50 AM
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You’ve described men who don’t get sex as “extremely dangerous” and “extraordinarily dangerous”. If not getting sex from someone who considers you a friend would cause you to become “extremely dangerous”, you are unhinged and should, in general, stay away
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:43 AM
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Yeah but certainly unhinged enough to avoid like the plague
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:39 AM
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Yeah please don’t be friends with women
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:31 AM
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Then the sentence you should write is “any woman who cares about that WILL care” cuz that’s quite obviously not what you originally said
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:48 PM
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It’s super easy- Date women who will split the bill. Mind blowing, I know!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:27 PM
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I have standards and don’t care about a guy paying for dates
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:14 PM
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I have no problem with it. My fiancée is pretty nocturnal, so we rarely sleep in the same bed. I’m one of those “don’t touch me while I’m sleeping” people, so we’ll cuddle on the couch and then I go to bed. There are times when I really want to sleep next to him, and when I do I ask him to come to bed
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 10:21 AM
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Yeah, but there are more people who do care. If you limit yourself to only the people who don’t, you’re limiting your pool. If you don’t give a shit if the other person cares or not, you increase your likelihood of closing. And unfortunately, many men will happily act in less than ethical ways as long as it ends with a wet dick
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 03:19 AM
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That’s not a gendered thing. Grass being greener is a pretty universal phenomenon
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/05/25 01:10 AM
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Some of this is marketing- women are more likely to have PTSD and BPD. But you’re obviously not the only man to suffer from these conditions. Sounds like you should use it as motivation to write your own book aimed at men and corner the market
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/05/25 01:04 AM
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You’re upset that women influencers are given something you don’t want? Interesting take
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/05/25 01:01 AM
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You’re doing it right. Thank you for being a standup guy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 04:53 PM
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That’s literally the definition of emotionally unavailable 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:23 AM
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Are you open and forthcoming about being a taken guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 10:45 PM
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Men might not say “situationship” but they certainly use “FWB”. At that point you’re just arguing semantics
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 10:42 PM
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I’ve never spoken to any man who’s been falsely (or truthfully) accused but if he brought it up while we were in bed together that would be weird
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 04:06 PM
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And yet, everyone here always says they don’t want to be chosen for their resources, they want to be desired. Your grandma didn’t desire your grandpa, she chose him for his resources. Did she grow to love him? Sure. Did she make a life with him? Certainly. If she didn’t need to prioritize stability would she have picked him? It’s unclear. The long-yearned for time when “women were good and men just had to be average to get one”, or as you call it “boring but stable”, is literally the definition …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:16 PM
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Right? If the standards have been raised, the choice is improve yourself to be attractive or accept being alone. No one is saying they should get into University of Michigan with a 3.3 and a 1150 SAT score because 50 years ago that’s all that was needed. The standards have changed- either choose to adjust or don’t. That choice is yours. If there are tons of women who are single then cuz there aren’t enough “good” men available, they too can choose to adjust or not. It’s all about free will and c…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:12 PM
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Men also find the women of their dreams on OLD. I know it’s so comforting to think women don’t struggle at all, but that’s just not the truth. Sure, they can get first dates and sex easier, but turning that into someone you actually want to keep investing in is no easier for women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 01:30 PM
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As Chris Rock once said, “feed me, fuck me, shut the fuck up”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 08:20 PM
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So you’re not looking for a LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 08:18 PM
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It’s 100% the latter
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 10:47 AM
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Sounds like you date shit women. I encourage you to pick better
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 05:32 PM
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Incels have a lower incidence of DV because they don’t have partners. There’s absolutely no evidence to suggest if they were to get partners they’d be better behaved. They are the face of violence against women because of places like incel.is which openly and proudly calls for the sexual subjugation and enslavement of women, rape, murder, etc. They chose the brush with which they are painted
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 05:23 PM
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Or, and just go with me on this one, if you focus dating someone who makes her own money and don’t expect her to be barefoot and pregnant with dinner on the table, your maxing or not maxing your financial potential doesn’t matter as much
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 05:07 PM
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Because incels aren’t dating. There’s absolutely no evidence that incels would have a lower incidence of DV than anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:59 PM
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Seriously? You think I’m nagging about the argument “women should give me a traditional relationship because, at some undisclosed time in the future, I might be making enough money to support a family so that she wouldn’t have to work”? Nah boss, I’m just pointing out that saying “what I bring to the table is that maybe in the future I’ll make enough money that we won’t be struggling as a single income family” isn’t the argument-winning point you think it is
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:46 PM
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Fair market value for the contents in your head is not a salary. Expecting to make more on the future and making enough now to support a family/home/lifestyle are two entirely different things
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:06 PM
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To get someone the actually want to be with they do
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 01:56 PM
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Men could do a lot more to appear attractive if they really wanted to. If you spend any time on r/tinder you’ll see these profile reviews that are, for lack of a better term, ridiculous. Bad styling, bad grooming, bad angles, not smiling, and highlighting things that most women don’t find attractive (by that I mean- sure you can be a huge star wars fan, but putting a pic of you in Vader cosplay up against your wall of figurines will significantly diminish the interest you get by large swaths of …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 03:13 PM
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As always, it’s not black and white and it’s not universal. Size matters the way looks matter: - to some it matters a lot, to others it matters less. Size queens definitely exist, but most of us aren’t that - size is a continuum; sure, there’s a “too small” but there is ABSOLUTELY a “too big”, and that threshold is usually much lower than men think. And 8” dick would not feel good to most women, they could not give a good blow job without puking on it, could never do anal, would struggle taking …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 11:04 AM
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I know 0 people who have done more than a 3some. I know a small handful of people who have done a 3some
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 01:43 AM
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Yeah the language of this post screams pick me
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:00 AM
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Sure- except how often do we see how badly men just want casual sex even on here. Lots of dudes just want to smash, and the ones who don’t are usually the ones who can’t
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 10:25 PM
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Dude, you so desperately want to claim that being an out and proud incel doesn’t mean you’re lumped into the group of incels that everyone thinks of when they hear the word incel just because you’re not getting laid and you want to be. But here’s the thing about language- it’s ever evolving. “Nice” used to mean foolish. “Awful” used to mean inspiring awe. “Gay” used to mean happy. “Incel” used to mean just a dude who can’t get sex but wishes he could. Now “nice” means kind. “Awful” means bad. “G…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 10:07 PM
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Is that not a crazy way to set huge swaths of the population up for disappointment though? If only “the most desirable” men get into relationships with women that they actually want and enjoy, 80-90% of men are doomed to failure. Why is good enough (for men and women) not good enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 09:45 PM
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Why does it being involuntary matter so much that it needs its own phrase? But if you insist- struggling virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 07:31 PM
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Virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 12:34 PM
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It’s not a choice but it is a spectrum, one on which people can lean into one way or another
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 02:55 AM
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That’s taking into account the tips. They’re allowed to be paid $2.13/hr as long as the tips bump them over $7.25. But also, minimum wage for a full time job with no days off is a whopping $15,080/year and idk anyone who can live off 15k in 2025
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 08:21 PM
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Nope. Pretty sure that’s not the role men need to have in the 21st century
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 10:43 AM
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Men are not the protector/providers anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 10:34 AM
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Depends where you live. If you live in a place where tipping isn’t customary, no big deal. If you live in the states where servers make $2.37/hr and rely on tips to earn a living, it would be a complete dealbreaker
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 12:15 AM
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This sounds like a case of you inserting yourself in something that doesn’t involve you. Maybe they were in a fight when she gave the look, and had made up when you saw her laughing with him. Maybe her boss told her to get over whatever the problem was because it was her job to interact positively with him. Who knows? What we do know is that this has nothing to do with you, so leave it alone
/r/TheRedPill21/04/25 10:39 AM
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You’re allowed to want whatever you want. But if you want to be someone’s adventure, you need to be adventurous. If you want someone to be carnally attracted to you, you need to be carnally attractive. If you don’t want to be the safe fall back option, you need to not be the safe fall back option. It’s really that easy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 06:11 PM
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Coffee dates aren’t enough for some women. If you want to state a woman who’s ok with coffee dates, don’t date these other women
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 12:08 AM
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Yeah indiscriminate right swiping is just as bad as having a criteria a mile long. One is looking for a needle in a haystack, the other would fuck the entire hayloft
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 07:30 PM
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Right? No thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 07:28 PM
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Many people have suffered. Shitty experiences with dating isn’t exactly a gendered thing. No one is denying that dating is hard these days but it’s easy to be a problem identifier and much harder to be a problem solver. What should be done about it? OP writes a dissertation about how women have all these expectations and yet on any given day there will be posts on here complaining about AF/BB and how if she’s settling for you you’re doomed to a sexless life of no sex. So which is it? Do you want…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 07:27 PM
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Sure. If you call an (objectively emaciated) anorexic fat you’re gonna do a lot more damage than if you call me fat, cuz I know I’m not. Please understand- I’m not justifying body shaming. It would be great if we lived in a world where people didn’t pray on each other’s insecurities just to make themselves feel better… but that’s not the world in which we live.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:56 PM
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It’s an insult because of the weight it’s given. Think about the N word. When black people call each other the N word, it’s not an insult. When white people call black people the N word, it’s absolutely an insult. It’s an insult because of the weight given to white people using that word. The reason “big dick energy” is a thing is cuz of the idea that a guy with a big dick can’t possibly be insecure about anything and he projects that confidence in everything he does. There are plenty of well-en…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:47 PM
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Women mock small dicks because, if they’re mocking you (general you) they’re trying to hurt you, so they’re gonna focus on the thing that’s most likely to trigger your insecurity… for most guys (even totally normal-sized guys), that’s gonna be their dick size.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:04 PM
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No one cares more about dick size than heterosexual men 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:03 PM
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Desirable men make themselves undesirable by being uneducated. When I was dating a college education was one of the 4 requirements I had. Didn’t mean I would date anyone who had all 4, but I would certainly not date someone who didn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 09:20 PM
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I think this is what a lot of people don’t realize. “be nice” has the same validity as “get good grades” is to college applicants. Yes, good grades are important, but having good grades with shite test scores and no extracurricular isn’t going to make you an overwhelmingly attractive applicant. Being nice while also being overweight/shy/unconfident/unfunny/nerdy/whatever makes you less attractive to the person you’re trying to attract isn’t going to be enough. Put another way, everyone knows how…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 12:30 PM
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It’s amazing that literally EVERY SINGLE ONE of your comments, not just on this thread, is you just shitting on and insulting people. Are you really that small and sad that picking on strangers on Reddit is how you get your kicks? I legitimately feel sorry for you. Must be a painful thing to realize your existence is that meaningless
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 11:55 PM
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Does my commitment to fitness upset you? That’s the second time you made specific effort to point out my peloton…. Seems like a weird thing to fixate on
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 11:48 PM
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Women being clear with men so there’s no possible miscommunication and confusion about interest is dumb? Riiiight…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 11:41 PM
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That’s my point….
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 06:23 PM
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Right, cuz yours is so profound and eloquent 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:23 PM
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Sure, but if most people are average why should anyone pick you (general you) over any one of the other average people? Just cuz someone is average and I’m average doesn’t mean I have to date them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:23 PM
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I’m a physician and yes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 11:43 AM
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Yeah that’s entirely untrue. I’m in one of the highest income brackets and have never relied on taxes anymore than a man has. So… 👍🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 11:00 AM
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Most women find it painful and unpleasant. Do you enjoy it when your cervix gets hit?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:57 AM
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Don’t believe in a soul mate. Clearly feminist theory was needed because women got the short end of the stick back in your supposed day. Things have changed and now men are dealing with that same sentiment. It’s sure to swing back in time
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:25 AM
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In theory, a society should take care of those in the most need. If everyone only looks out for themselves, you get a more awful version of what we have now
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:23 AM
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Men generally have higher paying jobs and are more likely to live well above the poverty line, so this makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:37 AM
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In the revenge fantasy world where everyone grew up in small towns and never left said small towns
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:30 AM
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Everyone pays taxes. You’re not special in this regard
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:29 AM
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