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It can be incredibly difficult to get that first date whether a guy is looking for something casual or a relationship. To get to the point where you are dating enough women to where have you have to weed them out, you either have to be well above average or accept any woman that comes along including the ones your not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 11:46 PM
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He is likely physically attractive, charismatic or both.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 11:41 PM
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Options are already slim. Most men aren't in the position to "weed out" women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:40 PM
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I’d probably put up with less stuff but since I’m kind of a loser as long as I’m attracted to her and she reciprocates feelings towards me I’ll tolerate a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:03 PM
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I think that was the point OP was making
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 09:09 AM
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Even within a year. Most woman aren’t going into a relationship with a man that she’s attracted to and then lose attraction and break up with him after crowing or showing weakness (whatever that means) once. If that’s the case she likely wasn’t that into him in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 08:20 PM
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I’m sure it’s possible but that doesn’t seem like the reality in most relationships. I’ve never heard of long term relationships ending because of one instance of weakness or self doubt or a man just crying once. This just sound like a redpill grift.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 07:01 PM
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To make sure I understand, you are saying if she was interested she would be my girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 06:56 PM
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Based off of what and how do you know they were interested in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:51 PM
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Maybe initially but in my experience once a woman is attracted to you it usually takes a lot for them to lose those feelings toward you. And I would say I’m a 7/10 on a good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 07:33 AM
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Most people don’t even know what a passport bro is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 06:24 PM
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Autistic
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 08:18 AM
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Lol nah Asian women love white American men. You can argue the love the whiteness more than the American ness but they are definitely not hated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 10:44 PM
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Was this confirmed real?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 06:17 AM
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That’s the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:38 AM
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You gotta have that Jack Harlow or Chet Hanks look.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:37 AM
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Your best bet as a black man is traveling to Asia. Speaking as a black man that lived in Asia for three years.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:36 AM
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I’d be a hypocrite to say I want a virgin but if I could choose, I’d prefer a partner with around the same level of experience as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 09:44 AM
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I lost it at 25 and I totally got shamed. At the very least they would ask for an explanation. I’d imagine if it’s by choice you’d get a pass but otherwise women would see it as a red flag at the very least.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 06:14 PM
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I’ve had that feeling for plenty of women but I wouldn’t consider them average.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 07:09 PM
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As an adult? 3. After the age of 25, 0. And those three were likely due to lack of experience. If I knew what I knew now I’d probably grow out of having crushes sooner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 06:43 PM
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He totally used it right
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:15 AM
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What do you consider not a real match besides bots and women promoting their only fans or Instagram? If you live in a midsize city or bigger and only getting 3 matches a month it is likely an issue with your profile unless of course you are below average looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 11:54 PM
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3 matches a month is a bit wild unless you are below average or live in a small town.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 07:41 PM
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Not gonna lie I’d consider it out of curiosity. Probably a test run for a porn career.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:04 AM
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LTR but tbh I’d rather not know about the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 09:04 AM
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Literally everywhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 08:48 PM
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Simple doesnt equal easy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 08:27 PM
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I think that’s true for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:06 AM
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I agree but you have to be in a position to have dick discipline. An NBA player with a low body count and a random incel virgin doesn’t have the same amount of dick discipline
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:04 AM
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I think it’s a vice similar to drugs and alcohol and your life would be better without but only if you find a sustainable alternative.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:02 AM
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I’d say a big reason behind this because that desperation is more socially acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:00 AM
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I’m not into fat chicks but saying losing weight is easy is kinda out of touch.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:58 AM
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Men are just as fake if not more and you will be likely ostracized if you don’t go with the status quo
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 08:53 AM
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Its just a platitude. Women do not respond to all kind men. They respond to kind men they are attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 09:13 PM
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The reality is if you have any type of standards whether it’s for looks, character or compatibility it’s going to take work unless you are an exceptional person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 02:13 AM
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What is your source that men exclusively go after dimes? I would argue that men go after average looking women more because they are more attainable. A dime is likely not even going to give you the time of day. All things being equal they would go after the more attractive woman and everyone wants to be with someone they are attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 12:08 AM
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When I was in the military deployed in a certain SEA country I experienced abundance for the first time in my life. Had so much dates set up it was interfering with my personal goals. Constantly got ED from performance anxiety. I then proceeded to get pressured into a relationship. If I could do it over again i think i would focus on connection and attraction and not getting laid. Then again I was pretty much a virgin at the time so who knew when my next opportunity would have been.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:44 PM
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If both are permanent, I’d rather be broke. If both options are temporary I’d rather be fat. Health is priceless and I think people take being in shape for granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:20 PM
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It might be because I’m green but it’s something I’d rather not think about about. I’d prefer someone to be around the same experience as me and we grow from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 11:27 AM
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Yeah lots of rookie mistakes
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 01:04 AM
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This. If she’s inexperienced and I like her I’ll wait as long as she needs as long as there is progression.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 11:39 AM
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Experiencing this first hand. A lot of the bullshit I’m dealing with now feels like I should have grown past in my teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 02:29 AM
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I don’t even know what my type is at this point because I can count on one hand the amount of women I dated. Based off of the dating apps probably not tho
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 05:47 PM
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Why is it wrong for a man to try and sleep with as many women as possible. Nothing if that's what you want to do but FnF encourages you to sleep with as many women as possible before considering a relationship instead of focusing on traits that will help you maintain a relationship and be a good partner and father.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 10:25 PM
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The responsibility for being friendzoned lies mostly with the person who develops romantic feelings but fails to express them clearly. However, the problem lies when the other person is aware of those feelings and choose to keep them around as an orbiter because they benefit from the friendship. That can be seen as exploitative. I used to be that guy that would put himself in the friend zone because I was too much of a bitch to be direct about my attraction. I had this friend that I would be con…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 01:12 AM
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Not always. I’ve dating women where the conversation was engaging on both sides. Even the ones that are quiet it seems more like a nervous thing than a “dance monkey” kind of thing. Woman can be just as socially awkward as men but we don’t usually perceive it that way if we find them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 03:09 AM
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No. The sex is not as bad as the sneaking around tho. There's a difference between having poor self-control and building a whole life around sneaking around your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 01:07 PM
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She just have to make enough to not be a constant liability.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 08:45 PM
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I have a puppy and after the first few months of getting him house trained he is hardly any work at all. Unless you get a hyperactive breed like a husky I think the responsibilities of owning a dog is mostly exaggerated.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 08:23 AM
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When me and my girlfriend play fight all I have to do is lean forward and she gives up.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 08:29 PM
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Tbh it seems like every women have their own definition of bare minimum when it comes to dating. Some women were surprised that I actually took them out on dates because the men before me didn't even do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 03:43 AM
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I think the red pill is right about a lot of things in theory but in application it’s representatives and fanswill be it’s downfall. Redpill content creators like Pearl, FnF, Kevin Samuels, Tate are entertainers first with the goal to make money. Whether intentional our not their content has radicalized a lot of men. KS and Tate Atleast do the “men and women are better together” thing but it seems a lot of creators lack a lot of nuance either through being naive or just to push the grift.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 08:46 PM
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If it’s not atleast heading in that direction I just assume she’s not into me like that. The one exception I made was that she was a virgin so I was willing to take that one slow. Can’t think of anything else that’s not a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 04:04 AM
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Every girl gets the three date rule. Anything more than that then I stop pursuing unless she has a valid reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 10:11 PM
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Probably less bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:35 PM
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So its mutually beneficial. If anything based off of what you just said you can argue the women benefit more.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 06:52 AM
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Yeah the gendered version of each piece of advice for men and women respectively is to put yourself in a position where it's easy to approach the type of women you want to approach and put yourself in a position to get approached by men you want to approach. Realistically if you're an average guy women ain't approaching you and if they are it likely isn't romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 05:10 AM
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Damn if I didn’t feel like a loser before…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 11:23 AM
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I've never been hit on by a guy. Then again I have never been to a gay bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 07:51 AM
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Once you identify that it’s pointless to engage with those people but there are people out there that are in between or not fully committed to their ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 04:52 AM
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Debates aren’t usually about changing the other persons mind it’s more about the people observing the debate. Give your best argument and the audience decides for themselves who had the better argument. That is assuming they are open to getting their minds changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 11:48 PM
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Just focus on living your life with integrity and don't assume someone has bad intentions towards you unless they give you a reason to believe otherwise. The red flags are usually present early on. ​ My rule of thumb is to don't be a dick no matter who I am interacting with.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:57 AM
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Don't have much to add but I think this is the most fairest assessment I've heard on this topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:42 AM
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I was raised from a very young age to only change myself for myself. Never for another person. You wouldn't change any traits that have a negative impact on your family or people you care about?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 03:54 AM
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Like I said, maybe in the sub but not in the ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 03:21 AM
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"Who hurt you" is not just a disagreement
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 01:40 AM
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I'm not a fan of the sub but TRP is supposed to preach dating on your own terms. Dishonesty is not encouraged.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 01:18 AM
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Plate spinning is just dating non exclusively. If done right, there is nothing wrong with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 01:09 AM
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Have you been on social media?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 11:14 AM
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Woman #1 and its not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 03:23 AM
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3 or less.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 06:43 AM
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I want 4. The not wanting kids thing seems to be an internet thing more than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 06:42 AM
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It's not that deep. If you want to start dating, the best time to start is right now. There are studies that show that male virgins at an older age are becoming more common so you are not as behind the curve as you may think. Fuck societies pressure, date someone younger, as long as she's legal and your attention is in the right place. Also with your experience it probably makes sense to date someone younger. But I just think dating is something I missed the boat on. As someone that has had thes…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 06:05 AM
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Women are likely better at verbal and psychological attacks because women are generally more socially calibrated than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 03:07 AM
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I only know that word because of porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 02:59 AM
2

I don't know my dad and my mom has been a source of anxiety rather than comfort. My grandma filled that role in my life and now she is in her 90s with Alzheimer's. I do know exactly where your coming from however.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:05 AM
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It worked for me but people do need to make sure there profile is presentable.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:52 AM
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Did it a couple months ago and wish I did it sooner. Speaking as someone who is currently in a healthy sexual relationship. Lots of men are not having sex and this is an obvious solution. I get there is a stigma but men are shamed either way. Also people underestimate how important sexual experience can be for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:48 AM
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Most guys are just glad they are having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:25 AM
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Based off of conversations I've had, most men are into regular sex. Where do you usually find these men? Also are there a common trait among these men?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:23 AM
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Trying to have sex and then realizing I had Ed made me stop that shit
/r/TheRedPill27/08/21 02:00 AM
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If you want to bang her and her SMV is higher than yours, then you should friendzone her first. Are you talking about FWB? Bit confused on this one.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/21 01:14 PM
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Kids?
/r/askTRP21/06/21 11:14 AM
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Avoid making your statements questions. Avoiding pitching up your voice when you are nervous. You will do it unconsciously but you can avoid it if you keep it in mind.
/r/askTRP21/06/21 09:36 AM
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I never knew my dad so all I ever got was my mom's side of the story. Now as an adult and knowing who my mom is, I don't blame him for never being in my life.
/r/askTRP20/06/21 07:59 AM
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If you are on your purpose which TRP advocates a lot, you ain't got time to "read between the lines". Outside of your self improvement and responsibilities, the rest of your life should be as streamlined as possible.
/r/askTRP20/06/21 05:05 AM
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I don’t get it.
/r/askTRP19/06/21 05:11 AM
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You'll get over it eventually. I thought I never would also.
/r/askTRP18/06/21 11:10 PM
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I remember when I used to think most women aren't 304s.
/r/askTRP18/06/21 11:07 PM
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Idk but I’m wondering why would a 30 year old single mother want another kid by an unemployed 18 year old she met on Insta. I would try to confirm with her. Otherwise idk
/r/askTRP18/06/21 09:44 PM
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I'm in the military so my reality is a bit skewed. Even though a lot of the men here are married to fatties. I honestly don't know where they find them.
/r/askTRP18/06/21 06:37 PM
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Do what you want. Always stay within your budget tho
/r/askTRP17/06/21 10:10 PM
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Yeah I know. I was one of those
/r/askTRP17/06/21 02:55 PM
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It is what it is. Taking breaks from social media helps. I would say avoid it all together but I like looking at fatasses and I don't see it enough in the real world these days.
/r/askTRP17/06/21 06:18 AM
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Do what you want
/r/askTRP17/06/21 06:09 AM
2

Have you considered going to community college to improve your employment opportunities? Do you know if you qualify for financial aid?
/r/askTRP17/06/21 06:08 AM
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Eh I don't think I ever got out of it until I got a social life. Distracting myself with stuff I'm into helped me cope with it. I'm in the military and since I moved from hometown at 16 I moved around a lot. I'm at my third base. I always try to maintain contact with the friends I made at my previous location but the effort is never reciprocated with the exception of my childhood friends. I hold no grudges as people have their own lives but now I just focus on myself and my goals and only try to…
/r/askTRP17/06/21 06:06 AM
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Is the criminal charge a felony?
/r/askTRP17/06/21 05:50 AM
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Find something that you enjoy doing alone. I had no social life from 16-20. Anime helped a lot with that. It's ideal to do something productive, but now if I meet someone into Anime, I can have a conversation about it.
/r/askTRP17/06/21 05:49 AM
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Seems like you got your answer bro. One book that put things into is Ikigai. I recommend reading it since it is probably the easiest read ever but the gist of it is just getting into the habit of doing things that put you into a state of flow or just living in the moment.
/r/askTRP17/06/21 05:33 AM
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I’m on the same tip Whenever I get focused on something people are always trying to pull me away. I would constantly get told by the girl I’m dating to live a little because I’m trying to save money so I can leave the military comfortably
/r/TheRedPill17/06/21 04:29 AM
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What are your interests, hobbies, any thing you ever considered pursuing?
/r/askTRP17/06/21 04:16 AM
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As long as you are progressing on your goals then whatever. I'm in the military and I also go to school part-time. I also go to the gym. When I am not doing any of those things, I do whatever I want however long I want.
/r/askTRP16/06/21 03:01 AM
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Just curious. As a 50-year-old, how do you meet girls in their 20s? Did you just continue hanging out in the same type of places?
/r/askTRP14/06/21 05:38 PM
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I'm in a similar position to op and this gave me hope.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 05:34 PM
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The best thing to be is yourself. The worst is not that.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 04:10 AM
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Just don't do it. Especially if you know she's the type to get emotional. I used to be the one the argues all the time but after last year I've been burnt out. I realize there is not a lot of hills that are worth dying on.
/r/askTRP10/06/21 11:52 AM
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I'm in a similar situation. I'm in my mid-20s getting out of the military soon. My worry is that I will be much older than the other students.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 07:59 AM
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Speaking for myself, of course, most if not all of the female friends I made were either contingent upon work, mutual friends, or I was attracted to on some level. I no longer subscribe to "men and women can't be friends" but from my observation, most platonic friendships I've been in when I was younger were either me being a simp and not making a move, or we have the same friends or work at the same place.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 03:58 AM
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I'd rather not know.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 04:05 AM
3

What worked for me is limiting my accessibility. Keep yourself busy. Put your phone on do not disturb.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 04:02 AM
3

butts
/r/askTRP06/06/21 02:29 PM
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I just like fatasses bro.
/r/askTRP06/06/21 09:57 AM
1

Thanks. I’m pretty confident in my decision to get out. I had about 4 years to think about it.
/r/askTRP04/06/21 10:47 AM
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Air Force
/r/askTRP04/06/21 05:09 AM
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I'm in the military and I am basically treating this like prison until I get out next year. The military is a sausage fest and being in Okinawa during covid doesn't help because we are not allowed to do most nightlife stuff. It took me a while but I had much better luck when I was in the states. I'm looking forward to going to school in Florida next year.
/r/askTRP04/06/21 04:43 AM
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Hoodville is satire. It's not really preaching anything.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 09:13 AM
1

As someone that suffered through depression, I have also become anti pills as I have reflected on my life. I highly recommend reading the book Lost Connections. I didn't read it during my decade and a half period of being depressed but it did make me understand how I was able to overcome it.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 05:05 AM
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Guys that got hoes gets hoes.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/21 11:01 PM
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I had this girl come through multiple times and I ain't do shit. Took me a few years to get over that one but I made sure I ain't make that mistake again.
/r/askTRP02/06/21 07:26 PM
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Of course. The reason why I brought that up is that looking back when it came to women I pursued, the needier I became, the more flaky and disrespectful she became. The second girl that was pursuing me, I was never really that interested in her beyond sex so I didn't care if she left or not. Matter of fact it took me a while to get rid of her. She wasn't a very nice person but she was agreeable and submissive towards me because she wanted to keep in contact with me. Since then I have noticed ins…
/r/askTRP01/06/21 04:41 PM
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I've been in a courtship (for a lack of better term) where I was doing the pursuing and one where I was being pursued. Also for the better part of the past two years, most of my friends were female. Spent hours talking on the phone, taking trips, and all of that simp shit. I would have considered red pill content sexist before that period of time. I'd say starting late last year I reflected on my relationships with all the women in my life and a lot of this shit started to click. I am fortunate …
/r/askTRP01/06/21 03:47 PM
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Lol I tried but I value my time a little more than that.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/21 03:24 PM
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Because bad boys tend to show more masculine traits then the nice guys they are not attracted to. Assertiveness, not insecure (even if they might be faking it), and other shit. Usually if you don't let women walk all over you, you will be labelled as an asshole or called "ain't shit" at some point. I don't watch what people say I watch what they do.
/r/askTRP01/06/21 06:39 AM
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My method to go to any type of social events is come with no expectations. If I am having fun then cool but if I'm bored I set a timer for 20-30 minutes. If I am still bored after the timer goes off I leave, but if it rings and I forgot I set it, I stick around a little longer and if I get bored again I repeat. Some people find it lame but it works so who cares.
/r/askTRP01/06/21 06:33 AM
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Just curious. How old are the women you usually mess around with?
/r/seduction17/01/20 05:26 PM
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Yep. This is totally how I blew it with the closest thing I had to a girlfriend.
/r/seduction10/11/19 10:26 AM
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Damn I'm black and I just added Guadalajara to my bucketlist. Any clubs you recommend?
/r/seduction08/11/19 12:09 PM
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Commenting to see his response because I am trying to make it a habit to go every Friday and Saturday.
/r/seduction28/10/19 01:46 AM
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Only to women that smoke.
/r/seduction12/08/17 12:15 PM
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How would I even bring it up?
/r/seduction05/07/17 04:15 AM
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No
/r/seduction28/06/17 02:28 AM
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Just a lightskin black woman.
/r/PussyPassDenied06/01/17 10:34 PM
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It's a bonus for me if she is into anime.
/r/seduction07/12/16 07:41 PM
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It reduces stress. It clears my mind. It feels good.
/r/seduction02/12/16 07:55 PM
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I feel like you are exactly like me. I am 6'1. Woman have definitely found me attractive. Plenty of people find me funny. I make friends pretty easily. My only real weakness is that I don't have a six pack yet and I am too damn shy to speak to women I find attractive.
/r/seduction02/12/16 04:30 AM
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Shit where is that from.
/r/PussyPassDenied18/03/15 03:56 AM
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Extremely unlikely but it does happen
/r/PussyPassDenied14/03/15 03:56 AM
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Oh shit
/r/PussyPassDenied02/03/15 02:12 AM
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Is there a sub for that?
/r/PussyPassDenied02/03/15 01:42 AM
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Im saving this
/r/seduction27/09/14 03:39 AM
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