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| 30 | I don't think RP finds any women acceptableBecause it's a grift for add revenue and course purchases. They offer you a problem with no solution so you're a perpetual customer. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/06/26 05:29 AM |
| 7 | What is your take on chadfishing? Are most men chopped?OK, let me offer you another perspective. You've seen tiktok street interviews before, I assume, and I'm also going to assume you're smart enough to know they only post the most controversial/clickbaity bits they get in order to drive engagement. A man who makes a chadfishing account has a belief system he wants to reinforce, a point he's trying to prove. So just like those street interviews, how many women responding with horror and revulsion do you think he omits from his narrative? Throw a wi… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/06/26 04:35 AM |
| 55 | I have a fear of being settled for or being the “safe” choiceThere is a simple solution to this conundrum that none of the RP fellas ever seem to really grasp. If you want women to see you as exciting, be exciting. And that doesn't mean be some cartoon stereotype bad boy running dread game. Be spontaneous. Be open to change. Be curious. Be adventurous. Create a life that's fun and then invite women into said fun. And do things that you enjoy, not performative nonsense you think will get attention. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/08/25 07:35 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on the whole “20% of men get 80% of women” line?My point is if you can make work so you're both happy, do. You know you don't see her in her totality, so putting in the extra effort to make sure her needs are met is important. Engaging in her interests makes her feel like you care even if you don't. Happy women don't leave. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/07/25 03:12 AM |
| 5 | Thoughts on the whole “20% of men get 80% of women” line?I'm nearly 40 and all my friends are dudes. I am well schooled in this particular area. First, the likelihood that you'll go find your soul mate is low, sunk cost fallacy etc. If you want to make your current marriage as happy as possible, learn about your wife. What does she enjoy? In media, music, activities etc? If you're gonna keep a trophy then polish it. Do you enjoy seeing her happy? | /r/ExRedPill | 22/07/25 02:26 AM |
| 10 | Thoughts on the whole “20% of men get 80% of women” line?I say this gently and affectionately. (And gender neutral) The reason you don't see your partner as a human being is because you're more worried about what other people think about you seeing you together. I have spent my whole life attracted to men who made my fellow women skeptical on looks alone. When I surrendered and dated a man who "fit" I was miserable and he abused me. I'm now engaged to a man none of my girlfriends want to fuck but I ABSOLUTELY DO. Pick someone who works for you and ONL… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/07/25 01:53 AM |
| 106 | Thoughts on the whole “20% of men get 80% of women” line?First, look at the ratios of men to women on any given dating site. Second, assume a conservative 30% of those "women" are actually bots. Third, stop assuming women follow the same rules for sex that you do. You wanna fuck on the first date? Most women will ghost you for trying unless they think you're an idiot who might be fun to keep around for a minute as a hookup. Fourth, go to any public place like a mall, plant yourself in the middle of it, and actively force yourself to pay attention to p… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/25 02:37 AM |
| 2 | Redpillers can't fall in loveI never said anything about weakening the human race, weakness is a red pill fear. Being perceived as weak, by yourself or others. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/25 03:53 PM |
| 4 | Redpillers can't fall in loveWhy are you in exredpill pontificating on red pill beliefs? This weird obsession y'all have with biological determinism is baffling. Do you not believe women are capable of consciousness? Self-determination? And if they're not and you're trying to end-run their instincts, are you not tangibly weakening the human race by trying to circumvent natural selection? | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/25 04:49 AM |
| 10 | Is being ugly a mindset or is it truly over for some men and never began?Your enemy is not women. Your enemy is current culture. (Edit) you want to be a doomer because you can't get laid? Do it. Nobody will stop you. Nobody will save you or fight to change your mind. Waste away in a shitty apartment somewhere blaming your misfortune on women, instead of the capitalist power structures that make it almost impossible to have a family. Women have never been the enemy. The people who have convinced you we are a commodity to be consumed are. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/03/25 12:38 AM |
| 7 | Is being ugly a mindset or is it truly over for some men and never began?All of those women are currently in relationships with entirely normal men who look like that. Because that's their type. Using easily recognizable celebrities as benchmarks for certain physical types is not a complex concept. Please do try to keep up. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/25 11:36 PM |
| 21 | Is being ugly a mindset or is it truly over for some men and never began?I have no less than 3 close female friends who would happily and enthusiastically sleep with Danny DeVito. A much broader selection would give up anything to get a night with Jack Black. Women want to fuck Willam Defoe specifically from Nosferatu. Men telling other men what women want is not a reliable source of information. Most RP dudes would consider my partner a 3 on a good day but we have sex once or twice a day and we're almost 40. The men attempting to sell you on the idea of endless no s… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/25 03:27 AM |
| 10 | How to make myself attracted to below average overweight women?Looking at your replies, you could pull a woman who met your exact ideal standards and you would still be unhappy when it turned out that despite being hot she was still just a human being. The dissatisfaction you're experiencing will never be solved by access to a woman, the call is coming from inside the house. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/25 04:21 PM |
| 8 | How to truly escape the red pill mentality?The way you work your way out is to talk to women you aren't trying to sleep with. Women you find unattractive. Ask them about their thoughts, their feelings, their experiences with men. The whole "even unattractive women have the easiest life ever" myth is the baseline of the redpill. Those women who you wouldn't sleep with ever? The6 know more about men than you could possibly imagine. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/01/25 12:27 AM |
| 7 | What do you think about the phenomenon of "high value" redpillers?They pitch the exact same kind of tantrum as a regular dude when you turn then down, I know that much. And they do very much still get turned down, despite what they might portray. There is no cheat code, there is no combination of looks, money and success that's going to make it so ANY woman will say yes. We aren't a hive mind. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/11/24 04:32 AM |
| 2 | I need help understanding thisBud, I don't debate backpillers. You have been dragged down into a crab bucket of misery by a bunch of reprobates, and they want you and everyone else in their little club to suffer because it validates their desire to never try to improve themselves or form genuine human connections. You are wrong. They are wrong. While that cult is valorizing hate, misery, and entitlement, millions of perfectly normal people are having perfectly happy, normal relationships all over the world. I hope for your s… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/10/24 04:36 PM |
| 4 | I need help understanding thisEven in what women consider physically attractive, there's huge variation. Among me and my three closest female friends, we have completely different types. Leaving aside looks entirely, the only problem that men have control over is their own behavior. Men genuinely have no idea how often they talk themselves out of a woman's potential attraction. Men often make themselves stressful and exhausting to be around. Women who are relaxed, who feel safe, are women who are open minded. You don't need … | /r/ExRedPill | 05/10/24 04:02 PM |
| 20 | What’s the hate towards older women?Because any category that men can put women into that "lowers their value" will theoretically make those women more tolerant of awful behavior. It expands the pool of insecure women who will be vulnerable to their manipulation tactics. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/24 01:08 AM |
| 5 | Approaching 30 and scared of the modern woman’s body countThere are plenty of women out there with low body counts. Those women won't choose you because you're a high-risk, high-neurosis candidate, doing the exact "hamster wheel" nonsense that the RP likes to pin on women. Go to therapy and stop letting internet echo chambers ruin your perception of other human beings. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/09/24 07:23 AM |
| 11 | Do most liberal women have sex outside relationships?I am as far left as possible and I have never once had any form of casual sex. And no I'm not asexual, when I'm in a relationship I prefer it once or twice a DAY. I don't do it because I find the idea repulsive FOR ME PERSONALLY. I have zero judgment for what other people do in their sex lives because it's got nothing to do with me. This weird presumption that the RP gives men that they know anything at all about the sex lives of random women is brainrot. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/07/24 03:59 PM |
| 17 | Garnering female interest: being hard to get or aloof?Don't "act." Don't put on a front that you're going to have to keep going, because eventually you'll resent her for the performance you're putting on and she'll feel that resentment and pull away. My man and I are together 24/7 besides work because that's what works for us, other women might find that suffocating and it doesn't mean either one of us is wrong. The "be yourself" advice that so many RP dudes scoff at is about compatibility. You cannot pretend to be other than you are forever. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/07/24 07:15 PM |
| 4 | I blocked every other incel I was "friends" with.You took a huge first step and I'm super proud of you for that. Hoisting yourself out of the crab bucket is the most difficult part. I know you're probably feeling lonely and isolated right now, but friends who are constant sources of negativity and doom aren't good friends. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/24 05:06 PM |
| 13 | I don't get how the "Man vs. Bear" conversation doesn't just make women look kinda stupid?I live in the dead center of tens of thousands of acres of largely undeveloped land. I run into bears FREQUENTLY, and the ONLY time I fear for my safety is if it's a mom with cubs. Look, I'm not going to talk to you like you're stupid. You DO know exactly why they're picking the bear. But you don't LIKE the reason they're picking the bear. Maybe it makes you uncomfortable, maybe it's hurtful, doesn't matter does it? The RP rhetoric teaches you women are illogical and irrational so obviously that… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/24 03:23 PM |
| 3 | Ugly = CreepyAnd? I hear this argument all the time from men justifying how women are shallow and selfish, as if men don't do the EXACT SAME THING. Ask a random person on the street about the time they saw a man put up with unquestionable abuse because a girl was hot, they'll usually have a few stories. Some folks are shallow. Man or woman, doesn't matter. Someone being cruel to you because of your appearance has nothing to do with you and everything to with what an awful person they are. Someone being awful… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/04/24 10:22 PM |
| 3 | Help, I’ve been 100% redpilled as a womanGet headphones and ignore it, drown it out. Let me offer you something that's usually laughed at. Not all men are like that. Mine is clever and compassionate and emotionally intelligent and funny. I've been where you are and I'm telling you, with every ounce of love in my body, YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED, and not OWNED. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/10/23 03:37 AM |
| 4 | Help, I’ve been 100% redpilled as a womanHow old are you? Because let me tell you, it's not a requirement to consume every bit of media he does. A simple "sorry I'm busy/I have something else to do" should be good enough, and if it's not? He's waving a big ole red flag. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/10/23 03:13 AM |
| 10 | Help, I’ve been 100% redpilled as a womanYou need to social media detox IMMEDIATELY. Identify the primary platforms that are feeding you this content and cut them off. Reddit, Facebook, Instagram, whatever. Bare minimum a month, more like three months. And if you get to the point that you absolutely have to use them, block every media outlet that feeds into the disordered thinking. There is a certain amount of value in being prepared for bad behavior, obviously. That's common sense for anybody who dates men. But if it turns into an obs… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/10/23 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Would you lose interest if a man didn't pay on the first date?First date I ALWAYS split the bill. I don't want any sense of obligation involved, and if he gets pissy I want to split it that's a big ole red flag. Second date and further, I'm willing to do "you get this one and I'll get the next one," mostly so I can see if he'll make any "well I bought you dinner😘" type jokes. (Before one of you men folk say "nobody's stupid enough to do that" its happened to me more than once STFU) In an established LTR like my current one I continue to pay my half, and ad… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 06:36 PM |
| 1 | What kind of awful redflag behavior would desperate people tolerate, that normal people wouldn't?One can only hope 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Q4A What partner would you prefer to marryB with zero hesitation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 02:52 AM |
| 3 | What kind of awful redflag behavior would desperate people tolerate, that normal people wouldn't?I have an acquaintance who is non-white and dated a felon who's friends were all from prison and covered in white supremacist tattoos. Worst example I can think of. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever had a close, heterosexual male platonic friend before ? If so, how was it ?My best friend is a dude, we grew up together and consider each other family. I've wing-womaned for him loads of times, and when his cheating, emotionally abusive ex finally got caught, I came to his house and packed her shit up with him, so she couldn't start shit. The one time someone asked us why we never dated, we made eye contact and said "ew" simultaneously in the exact same tone and then laughed hysterically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 06:31 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Social media and dating/hookup culture in the west is encouraging the erosion of the solemnity of long term relationships and life long marriage.In my experience it's not a lack of work that ends most modern marriages, it's people imposing artificial timelines on themselves and choosing a a partner based on WHEN they want to be married instead of compatability. Add to that, people aren't discussing their expectations ahead of time. People often view their own upbringing as normative and if you were raised in very different ways, in very different families, there can be dramatically different expectations of how marriage works. Using myse… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 05:27 PM |
| – | Are women who get in relationships with men who watch porn or occasionally like insta photos of hot women abusively controlling?The whole "he follows hot girls on insta" thing is so funny to me because she's not going to fuck him, so why would I care? That hot girl on insta has a whole secret boyfriend and they'll literally never meet in real life. He's also not going to fuck the girls in any porn he watches. That porn star probably already has a husband. He's not going to meet her. Don't care. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 01:24 AM |
| 10 | CMV: Social media and dating/hookup culture in the west is encouraging the erosion of the solemnity of long term relationships and life long marriage.The people who leave for "stupid" reasons are generally not emotionally mature enough to be in a serious relationship in the first place. If someone leaves you because they hate the way you chew, or they think your fingers look weird, or WHATEVER, they're doing you a favor. Now that being said, a lot of "stupid" reasons I see people giving are in fact, not so stupid if you apply a smidgen of critical thinking. A guy in my social circle just recently got dumped because in his words, "he didn't ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 06:31 PM |
| 2 | If I knew my girlfriend was spending her time on forums trying to logically dissect our relationship based on an ideology, that shit would be such a turn-off. I could see this applying to me too as a guy.Honestly I think it comes from the feeling of having more to lose, even if that's not true. A person who has healthy, internally based self esteem has a much easier time putting their foot down about behavior that makes them uncomfortable or unhappy. A lot of people base their self esteem around their attractiveness, their ability to obtain and/or retain a partner. If they feel that ability is threatened if they speak their actual beliefs, they'll stay quiet and build resentment instead. Toss th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/23 09:11 PM |
| 1 | If I knew my girlfriend was spending her time on forums trying to logically dissect our relationship based on an ideology, that shit would be such a turn-off. I could see this applying to me too as a guy.A lot of these dudes have structured their lives around trying to get laid, and anything that might cause the slightest risk to that is to be avoided at all costs. I also think some of them just don't want their actual thoughts out there in the open. I don't espouse any beliefs or take any stances here that my partner is not already aware of and perfectly comfortable with. But a lot of these dudes talk about women in very crass and derogatory ways, and they know that no woman with an iota of sel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/23 05:49 PM |
| 1 | If I knew my girlfriend was spending her time on forums trying to logically dissect our relationship based on an ideology, that shit would be such a turn-off. I could see this applying to me too as a guy.I share the posts here with my dude and we have a good chuckle. If you're with someone who you feel you have to hide your internet activity from, it might not be a great relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/23 05:17 PM |
| 8 | Your history is not personal, and any prospective partner should be made aware of itThe conversation is irrelevant 99% of the goddamn time because unless they can use it as leverage, most dudes DON'T BELIEVE YOU. The kind of men who ask that question would assume I'm lying, because my number is single digit, all in LTRs. So I don't tell people until I'm certain I can trust that they're not going to make a fool of themselves. I also don't discuss the specifics of those relationships because again, people wanna get stupid about it. Oh, I tolerated some shitty behavior from my abu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/23 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Do you really think "sex just happens"?My brother in christ, I have sex with my man once or twice A DAY. You're barking up the wrong tree here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 10:41 PM |
| 8 | Do you really think "sex just happens"?Sex has never "just happened" to me but I'm very particular. I do know women who approach it that way, but they're a minority in my experience. Also, if you hook up with a woman who's perfectly groomed and moisturized, smelling good and wearing matching, cute underwear, you didn't decide to have sex, she did. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 12:55 AM |
| – | Why are "happily married" people browsing these subs?Because in my case my life was impacted by the early stages of the RP. I had friends in high-school and college who got into it; some had good results, some had no results, and some had bad results. One of them is in jail now, as a direct result of his interpretation of the RP. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 09:34 PM |
| 1 | what do you think is the main reason for men giving commitment to one girl, but not the other?The number of men I've met who've dumped the previous woman only to marry the next one after like six months, only to end up divorced within two years. They like to talk shit about a woman's biological clock, but it seems like a good percentage of them have a "wife switch" that goes off and they just marry the closest warm body, consequences be damned. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 06:02 AM |
| 2 | Women will reject or make it difficult for men who are too attractive due to intimidation or insecurityThis is also my experience. I'm "cute" on a good day, if a super conventionally attractive man is pursuing me I assume it's because he thinks I'm an easy target. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/23 07:42 PM |
| 5 | If you want to know the reality of a women's sex life watch FriendsTelevision is not real life. 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/23 06:08 PM |
| 53 | With all the negativity going around in this sub and in world, what is the one positive thing that you really admire about the possite gender?My favorite thing about guys is REAL "boys will be boys" behavior. Not the gross sexist stuff, but the way they're so incredibly easily amused. At D&D last weekend, my buddy slapped one of the others on the shoulder because there was a mosquito on him, or so he claimed. This lead to an escalating chain of surprise attack slaps over the course of the night, because of "mosquitos," and they were CACKLING. I know some folks find that behavior immature or irritating but I can't help but find it hila… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/23 05:55 AM |
| 2 | Why do women settle for men who are not super rich?Fully agreed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/23 12:00 AM |
| 2 | Why do women settle for men who are not super rich?The cheap thing is very true. They're usually awful tippers. Like you just spent $1200 on dinner and you can't afford to tip? BFFR. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 10:11 PM |
| 12 | Why do women settle for men who are not super rich?Because the broad majority of rich dudes I've met are fucking insufferable, and conspicuous consumerism and materialism give me the ick. Simple. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 05:29 AM |
| 23 | This is the key difference between men and women's thinking that causes conflictI know plenty of perfectly happy, healthy housewives and SAHM that are also feminists. Nobody rational views it as oppression unless it's not a CHOICE. I have nothing but respect for the women who dedicate themselves to being wives and mothers because I know I'm not fucking cut out for it. I would become resentful and bored and fuck it up. There's also nothing wrong with wanting a woman you're in a relationship with to be a SAHM, but you have to select for that. Not every woman wants it, it's no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/23 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Is gold-digging on the rise?People who take these tiktok accounts seriously are the same people who fall for Pearl's bullshit. It's a grift, farming hate comments and clicks. The number of women actually engaging in gold-digging is miniscule, but these girls use the engagement they get from angry men to expand their platforms and branch out into other media positions. With tiktok specifically, comments negative or positive boost the video, and get more eyes on the media. They WANT people to get mad because they financially… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 07:12 PM |
| 8 | Those in happy LTR's, what has been the key for your success?You gotta find someone who you'd want to hang out with EVEN IF YOU WEREN'T FUCKING. Attraction is important, don't get me wrong, but I see so many couples who end up separated because they just... don't really seem to like each other that much. It makes every minor annoyance and difference of opinion that much harder to tolerate. Also practice gratitude. Pay attention to the little things. Don't dismiss things your partner is invested in or excited about, even if you think it's boring or stupid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/23 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.I didn't say anything about "the system." I am a firm believer in personal responsibility, accountability, and creating your own value in life. I am a woman and when I had shit experiences I removed myself from the equation and worked on myself. I believe that most people, regardless of gender, simply lack the willpower to confront their own issues. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/23 06:46 PM |
| 4 | Just because a woman leaves a relationship does not mean she ended it.I know 2 couples in the process of divorce right now and both dudes "have no idea why!" 😂 Like yes you do, dude, she was unhappy but you were still getting what you wanted, so you ignored her when she tried to talk to you about it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 06:25 PM |
| 2 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.I'm saying if you've worked on everything you think you need to improve and you're still having problems, there's something you overlooked. And the thing most often overlooked is emotional/psychological issues, because you perceive the way you see things as normal, even if it's unhealthy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.My point is that most people WON'T self examine, not really. If you are consistently failing in dating its because there's something else you need to work on, even if it's just adjusting your expectations. You choose to be miserable or you choose to improve yourself, even in avenues where you think you're fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 01:26 AM |
| 12 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.The least likely phrases you'll hear from the average person are "I was wrong" or "I'm the problem." The human mind often recoils from self-examination because you might discover that your only problem is you. And in the end it doesn't matter, because YOU are the only thing that you have control over. People have reasonable expectations or they don't. They have reasonable standards or they don't. You can't change them, you can only change you. And if you've exhausted every other avenue available… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 01:16 AM |
| 21 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.The longest period I went completely celibate, not even dates, was five years. I deactivated all social media, I didn't go out. I was in a bad place psychologically because I had escaped an abusive relationship, and I knew I needed to focus only on myself, on making myself better. I even got into fights with family members because they wanted me to "get back on the horse" so to speak. And do you know what happened to me? I got better. I sat down with the issues that lead me to bad relationships … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/23 11:46 PM |
| 2 | What percentage of the men you date, do you end up having sex* with?Pretty much none of them. My n-count is single digit. Most dudes can't seem to help but disqualify themselves as a possibility if you just let them keep talking. 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/23 03:49 AM |
| 3 | Marrying in your 20s is not that badProbably a good 75% of the folks I know who got married in their 20s are already divorced or currently in the process of getting divorced. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/23 06:12 PM |
| 2 | Men don't like "blank"The craziest girl I know is Mormon and dresses like a Sunday school teacher 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/23 12:57 AM |
| 2 | Do women prefer younger men for hookups? If not, why?I have a friend in her 50s who's regularly hooking up with a guy who's not quite thirty. They both seem to be having a lot of fun. I personally don't get the appeal, men get a certain amount younger than me and they start to remind me of puppies, not sexy. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 05:12 AM |
| 2 | Men don't like "blank"Whatever you say, sport. Run along now, if you haven't got anything interesting to say. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Men don't like "blank"And I take no issue with that whatsoever, everybody has preferences. What I do take issue with is the men who seem to find it personally offensive that a woman is not catering to THEIR specific tastes. It comes across very much like "I feel like you're in my league and the fact that you aren't favoring ME is a personal, specific insult." Icky. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Men don't like "blank"Yeah but dudes online seem to treat it like it's a sign of the apocalypse. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Men don't like "blank"Again an attempt at bait. 😂 cute try for a diversion but 2/10 on the technique. Assigning women the default position of being angry when you can't or won't address the actual substance of their position is rookie stuff bud. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 06:44 PM |
| 2 | Men don't like "blank"We're both grownups here I assume. That whole "men don't like women with attitudes" bullshit is 95% of the time SPECIFICALLY used in order to attempt to elicit a negative emotional reaction from a woman, and I don't take bait. If you want to be condescending and hierarchical, you can go do it at whatever woman you're supposedly dating. Literally the whole point of the post is we don't care what "men" in general don't like, and you illustrated my point for me while you thought YOU were being clev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 01:34 PM |
| 3 | Men don't like "blank"Oh yeah, because men are studying the statistics of tattoo related behavior before they pick a girlfriend or a wife 🙄 give me a break bruh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 03:20 AM |
| 4 | Men don't like "blank"It's funny how y'all assume you speak for all men 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 03:16 AM |
| 1 | Men don't like "blank"Lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 03:15 AM |
| 5 | Men don't like "blank"Who said it's a test? I'm not in competition with dudes, I have zero need to test them. If I'm giving a man attitude it's usually because he said something blatantly stupid (like "I don't find your tattoos attractive" for example) or because he decided to be a dick to me first. I'm nice to my man. We treat each other with respect. But he's proven he's not a moron. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 03:14 AM |
| 5 | Men don't like "blank"You keep telling yourself that 😹 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 03:03 AM |
| 5 | Men don't like "blank""Crazy" is doing a lot of heavy lifting and implication there. 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 02:46 AM |
| 1 | Men don't like "blank"You have good taste 👌 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 02:44 AM |
| 5 | Men don't like "blank"And women don't like weakling whose delicate fee-fees get hurt at the slightest challenge. Luckily there's plenty of secure guys out there. 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 01:20 AM |
| 1 | Men don't like "blank"Was that an attempt at an insult or do you actually need clarification of some kind? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 01:13 AM |
| 2 | Men don't like "blank"Yes, because if you respect your partner you usually take their opinions into consideration, and they do the same for you. But that's not the situation I'm talking about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 01:12 AM |
| 7 | Men don't like "blank"I think so but some dudes seem to get personally offended when a woman does something with her appearance that he specifically doesn't like. 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 01:00 AM |
| 2 | Men don't like "blank"My point was not that they're not putting in ANY effort, but that the effort isn't for boring Brad. The big titty goth GF isn't trying to fuck a cryptobro, she's after the lead singer of her favorite band or someone like him. She doesn't give a shit if Brad doesn't like her tattoos because he's not her target audience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 12:57 AM |
| – | Unmarried chads in their prime 40s struggling to fend off the 20 year old women.I really hope he's wearing sunscreen or he's gonna have a bad day 😹 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 11:27 PM |
| 6 | Men vs Women entering universityThe only things I was thinking about during college were paying my bills and keeping my grades up. Y'all make up the weirdest little stories. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 11:25 PM |
| 1 | 30 yo man with 20 yo woman creepy?My guy, I literally explained to you why I judge. The fact that you don't like my reasoning doesn't make it false. Solipsism at its finest. 😹 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 03:59 PM |
| 0 | 30 yo man with 20 yo woman creepy?Salty over what exactly? I don't envy younger women being coveted because of their perceived vulnerability and willingness to tolerate an old creeps bullshit. Been there done that, hated it at the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 03:13 PM |
| -1 | 30 yo man with 20 yo woman creepy?I judge the dudes in question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 03:10 PM |
| 2 | 30 yo man with 20 yo woman creepy?I didn't say anything about "allowed," in not the girl's mom, I can't make her do shit. But I will judge and I will give her my very blunt opinion if she asks me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 04:08 AM |
| -2 | 30 yo man with 20 yo woman creepy?It's creepy because I remember being fetishised by dudes ten years older than me when I was that age. I thought they were creeps then and I still think they're creeps now. No amount of protest, pearl-clutching or justification from men is going to change that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 03:41 AM |
| – | Meet Chad Thundercock. Alpha. High testosterone. Fucks women left and right.I'm so confused 😹 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 10:27 PM |
| 1 | I'm a woman and feel that men lead the relationship...Am I wrong? Most of these "I want a submissive woman" dudes couldn't lead a marching band across a football field. You don't get to demand leadership, you display it and people choose to follow you or they don't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 09:26 PM |
| – | Men and women define "Attractive" differentlyIt's fairly easily observable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 09:23 PM |
| – | Meet Chad Thundercock. Alpha. High testosterone. Fucks women left and right.Is that supposed to be Sokka and Katara's dad 😹 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 09:19 PM |
| 2 | I'm a woman and feel that men lead the relationship...95% of dudes couldn't "lead" their way out of a paper bag. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 09:18 PM |
| – | Virgil and Dante visit r/PurplePillDebate after leaving HellHow dare you post something so thoughtful during purge week, 10/10 absolutely incredible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 09:14 PM |
| 1 | When women say personality, they mean something like thisHe looks like he's about 12 years old no thank you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, lets be honest. I look attractive don't I?Hell yeah bro | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Just a reminder for anyone who has debated me on here that I look like thisEw 😹 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 08:46 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, lets be honest. I look attractive don't I?On second look the nose is good too. I do portraits and the bone structure is highly drawable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 08:42 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, lets be honest. I look attractive don't I?Very pretty eyes, not chubby enough for me personally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 08:24 PM |
| – | Have you ever tried to debate with a flat Earther?Lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 08:17 PM |
| – | Have you ever tried to debate with a flat Earther?Power move 😹 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 08:16 PM |
| – | Her friend wasn’t cockblocking, you just missed a signal or there was an agreement before they even leftI never said it's hasn't happened before, but minimum 95% of the time, that "fat friend" is staging a rescue the man failed to notice. They tell themselves otherwise in order to soothe their egos. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 11:42 PM |
| – | Her friend wasn’t cockblocking, you just missed a signal or there was an agreement before they even leftI'm speaking in broad generalities, I have no idea about your specific social skills. And the only "cope" here is the idea that women are evil, spiteful harpies who will cockblock each other out of jealousy over some random dude in a bar. 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 11:04 PM |
| 5 | Her friend wasn’t cockblocking, you just missed a signal or there was an agreement before they even leftDo you have any idea how easy it is to pretend to be interested in a conversation? Just because you're having a good time doesn't mean she is, and once a woman has had "no thank you" met with a rant or a tantrum a few times, she becomes more cautious. If she wants to talk to you, she'll either stay or give you her contact info. If neither of those things happen, it's because she didn't actually want to talk to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 10:01 PM |
| 7 | Her friend wasn’t cockblocking, you just missed a signal or there was an agreement before they even leftYou are correct but they're not gonna listen | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 09:20 PM |
| – | Why are so many women so casually accepting of the fact they’re attracted to toxic men?So long as you're happy 😊 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 03:29 PM |
| 4 | Why are so many women so casually accepting of the fact they’re attracted to toxic men?No disrespect girl but that sounds fucking exhausting 😹 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 06:23 AM |
| 7 | Women are allowed to complain about the suitors they get but men can'tExcept the dynamic is made up in your head. I have expressed my dissatisfaction with men online before and been threatened with rape and death. Being called a misogynistic jerk doesn't really sound all that bad in comparison, if you ask me. 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 01:56 AM |
| 40 | Women are allowed to complain about the suitors they get but men can'tWho's telling you that you can't complain? Your bros? Your family? Literally anybody who's opinion you respect or care about? Or, did you see a tweet or a tiktok with a woman complaining and get all riled up for no goddamn reason? Strangers on the internet, who you're never going to meet or interact with in real life, DON'T COUNT. I've spent my whole life being called heinous shit by men online for a plethora of reasons. You know what I do in those situations? I block them and move on with my li… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/23 10:00 PM |
| 34 | 'Liberal Woman' Goes Viral On TikTok For Saying It's Hard To Find 'Masculine' Man Who's Not ConservativeThere are plenty of masculine men out there who aren't conservative, I would assume it's either a location issue or selection bias on her part. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/23 04:42 AM |
| 11 | Older women who complain about age gap relationships are just jealousComplains about "old women with baggage" Aspires to BECOME the baggage Nobody is jealous of that, sport 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/23 06:14 PM |
| 20 | Question for women: Would you submit to a rich man?LOL absolutely the fuck not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/23 02:27 AM |
| 1 | Men do not respond to wordsOr just LEAVE, jesus christ. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 10:22 PM |
| 2 | Female women, what was the stupidest reason that made a guy break up/reject you?After the first date he messaged me and said I wasn't "godly" enough. Bud, you KNEW I was an atheist before you asked me out! He was also mad I didn't want children, which, again, he already knew. I suppose he thought I'd mend my heathen ways before the first date? 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 10:19 PM |
| 6 | Can women be creepy?Absolutely. Ask any subcategory of men who are fetishisized, or ask a lesbian or a bi woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Its hypocritical of men to criticize promiscious women, when those men want to engage in casual sex.It doesn't matter what they prefer because most of those women are already taken, or far too risk-averse to tolerate RP behavior anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible for a woman to choose a man based on how he would treat her?People's actions often don't match their words. You can "tell her" until you're blue in the face and she's not necessarily going to believe you. You need to behave in a way that makes your goals and values clear. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/23 02:12 AM |
| – | finding someone better than ex easy?Well, I wish you luck, and I hope a woman comes along who's worth taking a shot on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 10:04 PM |
| – | finding someone better than ex easy?If we break up I'll probably be done with men entirely. I'm closing in on 40 and my patience is thin. I was single and celibate for 5 years before he came along, it's not as bad as people make it out to be. 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 09:43 PM |
| – | finding someone better than ex easy?My partner is, by every objective measure, better than everyone I dated before him. Our values and morals are aligned, he's smarter, he's more compassionate, and he's gorgeous. I don't think about my exes, there's no "one who got away," because my relationships with them were lessons in what to do better next time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Have you personally, or do you know any women who were only able to find success with men after lowering their standards? How do you feel in general about men or women lowering their standards to find success?Like I said, SOME people do need to lower their standards. Some just need to change them. There is no one size fits all solution. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/23 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Do women value authenticity more than men?Yeah they're all nerds too but not the type I'm into. I like my men a lil chubby. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/23 11:32 PM |
| 25 | Q4W: Have you personally, or do you know any women who were only able to find success with men after lowering their standards? How do you feel in general about men or women lowering their standards to find success?Going automatically to "lower your standards" is an overcorrection. The first step is to ASSESS your standards. Are you searching out partners you actually want, or ones you've been taught to THINK you want? Are you expecting things of your partners that you're unable or unwilling to provide in return? The phrase "lower your standards" is not actionable advice. It gives you no information to start making a positive change. It's possible that it might be what a given person needs to do, but they … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/23 11:05 PM |
| 62 | Q4W: Have you personally, or do you know any women who were only able to find success with men after lowering their standards? How do you feel in general about men or women lowering their standards to find success?Quite the opposite actually. I've had a plethora of girl friends who didn't find dating success until they got past the idea that any guy with a pulse and a job was a viable option. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/23 10:13 PM |
| 5 | Do women value authenticity more than men?They absolutely are a rarity because introspection can be painful. People don't want to confront or work on their own faults. All you can really do is work on your self-awareness so if a good one comes along, you're ready. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/23 08:47 PM |
| 7 | Do women value authenticity more than men?I can only speak to my personal experience but yes I do. Obviously there's a certain baseline level of emotional maturity and intelligence that's required, but a man who spends six hours a week pretending to be a gnome paladin named Blossom has no delusions about how people see him. There are exceptions to every rule obviously (guys who only play COD or FIFA for example) but I strongly prefer men with geeky hobbies. And I don't think men or women value authenticity more, I think emotionally matu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/23 08:24 PM |
| 12 | Do women value authenticity more than men?One of the reasons I'm only attracted to nerds is the authenticity. The guy with a shelf full of Warhammer figurines or D&D books is very rarely going to invest energy in being "cool" or "masculine" and it cuts the performative behaviors to a minimum. Adult life requires we spend most of our time performing. When I get home, I want to be myself, and I want him to do the same, so I don't have to worry about building resentment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/23 05:58 PM |
| – | CMV: Both men and women are forced into a perpetual state of political correctness and virtue signalling and despite the mutual understanding we choose to be in denial even when it comes to our potential partner.Idk if I'd call it politically incorrect. Awkward maybe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/23 06:07 AM |
| – | CMV: Both men and women are forced into a perpetual state of political correctness and virtue signalling and despite the mutual understanding we choose to be in denial even when it comes to our potential partner.OK but you're phrasing it like a Vulcan. There are a million ways to say you find someone attractive without making it sound like you had to do math to get there. At least once a week I tell my boyfriend he has the prettiest eyes I've ever seen, because A, it's true, and B, it reminds him that I find him attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/23 06:03 AM |
| – | CMV: Both men and women are forced into a perpetual state of political correctness and virtue signalling and despite the mutual understanding we choose to be in denial even when it comes to our potential partner.What exactly do you mean by "forced into political correctness?" Because it sounds like you just mean being polite/kind, the way you worded it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/23 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Love doesn't existWhen you grow up and get over the Disney woo-woo definition of love, you realize that it's not some mysterious force that is bestowed upon you by the heavens. And it's also not "just brain chemicals" or some transactional calculations of favors and gifts and support. Love is a choice. It is a decision you make every day when you wake up. You look at your person and say to yourself "I'm going to put in the work for them, because I want to keep them in my life." You buy their favorite snack at the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 04:20 PM |
| 4 | What's something you've learned from dating that typically isn't preached here? I'll share mineFrom the perspective of a woman- you will not be able to get into a good relationship until you sort your own shit out, no ifs ands or buts. The number of people out there with unhealed trauma, who INSIST they're perfectly fine and normal, is staggering. But the only thing you have control over is yourself. You will not ever be able to love someone into psychological health, and a relationship/marriage/babies will not fix the shit that's wrong with you. Secure your own oxygen mask first. Nobody … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/23 01:17 AM |
| 16 | Any women here.."Really ugly" is pretty subjective, but I only date nerds, and every single one of them has elicted a "why him" from my shallower girlfriends. The worst of them was my college boyfriend. He was short and chubby and had straight up vampire teeth but I found him attractive. He constantly accused me of cheating or wanting to cheat. He was depressed and categorically refused to address it, because "he shouldn't have to change himself." I couldn't express ANY negative feelings or he would go into a t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 08:04 PM |
| 19 | QW: For women who are against hookup culture, what made you not want casual sex and value sex as exclusively a romantic activity?I'm not against casual sex but it has zero interest for me. I was an accident born to teenaged parents who grew up poor white trash, and I spent my entire childhood watching people follow their baser impuses into ruin and misery, never once examining their motives or choices. We are the architects of our own lives, and the people who we choose to allow into them can have a significant impact. I don't make room in my life for people who don't add to it, and for me, casual sex adds nothing but pot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 05:35 AM |
| 2 | Q4allDEFINITELY not my thing, but no judgment from me. I know a few people I might even link them up with who might enjoy it. 😹 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 06:16 PM |
| – | Is it really so bad to approach women?It can, yeah, and if the woman in question engages in the conversation enthusiastically you've got a green light. If she's giving short answers and minimal eye contact it's best to move on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 09:03 PM |
| – | Is it really so bad to approach women?Approaches never bother me so long as the dude is chill about it and takes no for an answer, but I can't speak for everyone. It CAN be irritating if you're in the middle of a task or something along those lines, obviously not interested in socializing (headphones, reading a book, etc.) The only time I genuinely get mad is when I say "sorry I have a boyfriend" and they get MORE interested. Like dude, would you want someone doing that shit to a woman you're dating? Fuck off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 08:54 PM |
| 0 | Who and where are these invisible women?They're hyper-visible to predators specifically because they're invisible to everyone else. Isolated and lonely, easy pickings. I work in a DV shelter and I see it all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 07:25 PM |
| 4 | Today I learned RooshV got his second virginity!He was a fucking dork before and he's still a fucking dork now. 😹 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 06:47 PM |
| 20 | Who and where are these invisible women?I know several of them. You don't notice them because YOU DON'T NOTICE THEM. They often times end up the targets of abusers because someone who has no frame of reference for normal relationship behavior is an easy mark. And then they give up and quietly go about their lives, because if the only options you've been exposed to are being invisible or being taken advantage of, you're going to choose invisibility. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 03:12 AM |
| 14 | On top of the other obvious issues men face, there is literally no acceptable time or place to approach a woman, even once mutual attraction has been established. Women simply do not want to be bothered, leaving almost everything to chance encounters and organic interactions.This right here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/23 05:30 PM |
| 18 | Question 4 Women with Pets, is a man not being an animal lover a dealbreaker?LOL absolutely the fuck not. Both of the dogs I currently own were rescued from abusive situations and if a man wanted me to get rid of them I'd laugh directly in his face, block him on everything and never speak to him again as long as I live. Reddest of red flags. Run away at maximum speed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/23 03:47 AM |
| 6 | Women, what is your age range in men?Mine is and always has been pretty limited, in the vicinity of plus or minus three years of my own age. I find too far outside of that, and I begin to find small differences that build up into greater irritations. I know women who have almost no age restrictions tho, so YMMV. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 06:06 PM |
| – | Why are Pick-Up Artists (PUA'S) looked down upon?Because they're fucking cringe, and I don't use that word often. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/23 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Most women aren't on dating apps. So how are they getting relationships or having sex?I met mine at a gaming store. 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/23 05:58 PM |
| – | How would you feel if a guy didn't take you on the same quality of dates as previous suitors?You're entitled to your opinion. I happen to disagree. I don't want a man trying to wow me before we even know if we can tolerate each other. It's disingenuous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/23 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Would you marry someone that was not very bright?That'll work 😹 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 04:02 PM |
| 8 | Would you marry someone that was not very bright?Depends on how you define it. To put it in D&D terms, intelligence and wisdom are two separate stats. Intelligence is book learning, wisdom is common sense. A man with high intelligence and low wisdom is mostly useless. A man with high wisdom and low intelligence is a liability. A man with a middling score in both is better than both of the latter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 05:26 AM |
| 2 | How would you feel if a guy didn't take you on the same quality of dates as previous suitors?That's fair, we don't disagree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 01:00 AM |
| 5 | How would you feel if a guy didn't take you on the same quality of dates as previous suitors?Oh it's absolutely an expectation placed on men, but some of them lean into it and make it part of their personality. Usually the financially controlling types who don't want their women to have jobs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 12:52 AM |
| 43 | How would you feel if a guy didn't take you on the same quality of dates as previous suitors?I don't trust a man who tries to take you somewhere expensive on the first date. Too much pressure, probably overcompensating, likely to be the type who demands submission because he sees himself as a "provider." A coffee date, a picnic, or a drink is much more reasonable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 11:47 PM |
| 4 | Women objectify themselves.TLDR: men still don't know what objectification actually is 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Would you give up video games for sex?I bought my man Darkest Dungeon 2 for his birthday last week, for christs sake just find someone else who likes video games and don't be a gatekeeping twat if you find one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 02:11 AM |
| – | Women, how much did your relationship with your father affect that with men?I love my father with every ounce of my heart, but he's a hopeless romantic who married my mother because he knocked her up, and they spent 14 miserable years together because of her emotional abuse and his misplaced sense of duty. His inability to say no to her left us in EXTREME poverty for the majority of my childhood, and was the primary contributing factor to my complete distain for marriage. I've made myself quite the comfortable lifestyle and I will not give anyone the ability to ruin or … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 07:56 PM |
| – | So do most people apply no critical thought to dating and relationships?I've always been firmly in the camp of "don't accept criticism from people you wouldn't take advice from." And she's now onto baby daddy number 3 who's a felon just like the first two. Some people choose partners like they're playing a claw machine, some of us are more thoughtful about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 08:43 PM |
| 4 | So do most people apply no critical thought to dating and relationships?When I was single, I had a friend who was CONSTANTLY trying to set me up on blind dates. I humored her a few times, but it became clear she was just throwing any man with a pulse at me. When I turned down her next suggestion she got angry, because if he was "good enough" for her, he should be "good enough" for me. She felt my turning him down was a negative statement on her taste in men, which honestly it kinda was? She's got awful taste in men and puts no thought into her relationship besides "… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 05:57 PM |
| 8 | So do most people apply no critical thought to dating and relationships?Most people don't, no. And when you DO apply critical thought to the process, the people who don't usually interpret that as an attack on them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 01:22 AM |
| 1 | In dating, whats the biggest - men/women say they want X, but their actions suggest otherwise?Men and women who say they want trait "A" and select for trait "Z" lack any form of introspection and that's the problem with 99% of relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 06:39 AM |
| 2 | Q4everyone: Is your type into you?Yes I'm a giant nerd who's only attracted to other giant nerds. I've had plenty of other types of dudes take a shot at me but unless you can tell me in depth about your last D&D character I ain't interested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/23 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Should sex toys be permitted in a relationshipI mean I personally find the sex doll thing a little creepy, like fucking a lifeless corpse, but whatever floats your boat. Unless a sex toy is having a negative impact on your intimacy, why would you care? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/23 02:37 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: if a husband cheats, does that mean he doesn't love his wife?He might still love me but that doesn't mean I'd still love him. Cheating is suicide by cop, it's the cowards way out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/23 06:23 AM |
| 4 | Life without a partner becomes very boringWhat is there to prove, exactly? Like sorry you're incapable of tolerating your own company for extended periods of time, but the idea that people are lying to you about being happy alone is goofy. Being single can be fantastic. No need to cater to anybody but yourself. And if can't keep yourself entertained, how exactly do you expect to have a healthy relationship if you manage to find one? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/23 03:28 AM |
| 2 | Women who believe their “platonic” male friends aren’t in fact orbiters; why do you think they aren’t attracted to you?Because I know them well enough that if they DID decide they were attracted to me, I would notice and we would discuss it like adults. I've known some of these guys LITERALLY my whole life. As in our parents were friends when we were born and we were raised like siblings. We were bathed together as infants. Also, if a man gets in his feelings and decides he likes me, then doesn't like his position in my life because I don't reciprocate, that's his problem to solve. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Sharing positive stories?We met at a gaming store, both there to play D&D with different groups. He stared, I politely pretended not to notice, I shared my weed with him. By the end of the night he'd worked up the nerve to talk to me, and said, verbatim, "you're so fucking pretty." Luckily for both of us I find that kind of awkward honesty charming and I gave him my number. Been together for the better part of a decade. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 06:40 AM |
| 5 | Not only is jealousy a normal healthy part of dating; but mate-guarding is seen as attractiveNo. Unless I'm crossing a boundary we've already agreed on, your jealousy is your problem. If I cross a boundary you didn't know you had, I expect you to bring it up later, respectfully and rationally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 12:43 AM |
| 3 | CMV: "Ownership" Explains Some Victim Blaming-Adjacent BehaviorThis is less a male-female divide than a class divide in my experience. In my early life I was cartoonishly poor, and and I never had the luxury of expecting someone else to take ownership of my problems. INB4 someone says "I was poor and women are still victims/useless" did you eat government cheese? Did you share shoes and clothes with your siblings? Did you help your father gut a deer to save on grocery bills? Then you weren't the kind of poor I was, and you don't know what you're talking abo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/23 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Ladies - What percentage of the bills would you expect your man to pay if you lived together?Considering I outright own my home and I'm not moving out for anybody, if he wants to live with ME, he can pay a portion of the bills proportional to his income. That's the arrangement I have with my current partner and we both think it's fair. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/23 08:05 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Claiming that "women make guys they like wait for sex because they don't want to be viewed as slutty" is dumb and makes no sense.I feel like it's a little more honest than post-nut clarity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/23 08:02 PM |
| 2 | Is Finding A Poor(er) Woman To Date The Solution For Average Looking Guys?I agree that most crypto types are morons. And frankly most people aren't cut out to be entrepreneurs, men and women alike. It takes work very few people have the endurance for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 11:45 PM |
| 13 | CMV: Claiming that "women make guys they like wait for sex because they don't want to be viewed as slutty" is dumb and makes no sense.Oh please. Men don't care about a woman's count? Sure, some dudes. Other dudes don't think about it until after they've fucked her and then suddenly they don't like her as much. They find post-nut justifications. If a woman wants to wait to have sex with you, it doesn't matter why. She might choose to tell you or not, but considering how the RP defaults to the idea that women are lying all the time, would you believe her? Either you're willing to wait or you're not. Either you feel she's worth t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 11:43 PM |
| 7 | Is Finding A Poor(er) Woman To Date The Solution For Average Looking Guys?Plenty of women do. Y'all just don't notice because "you don't care about their finances." Which is a whole other kettle of stupid. If a man wants to invest his life saving in crypto and NFTs, that's his decision. Just don't expect wet panties and headpats for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 04:05 AM |
| 26 | Is Finding A Poor(er) Woman To Date The Solution For Average Looking Guys?And dudes aren't? Every depressed crypto investor and aspiring SoundCloud musician I've ever met was a man. You lot love to claim that men are more open to risk, which leaves you more open to ruin. If you use finances to attract women and those finances fail, what's left? Go ahead and try to buy affection. Just don't be pissy when you're priced out of the market because you made a shitty investment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 03:58 AM |
| 10 | People should dress modestly in publicPut out your own eye as Jesus commanded. You are responsible for yourself and your thoughts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 03:13 AM |
| 73 | What are common ways to shame men and women for their preferences?"Give him a chance, he's a nice guy!" If she's not attracted to you all that's going to do is cause damage to BOTH OF YOU. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 03:10 AM |
| 1 | If a woman has guys friends are they all trying to get with her or are they truly friends?My oldest friend is a dude, the majority of my friends are dudes. The last time someone asked me why my best friend and I never dated, we made eye contact and simultaneously said "ew" in the exact same tone of voice, because we see each other as family. In my opinion, if you can't be friends with the opposite sex, it's because you lack impulse control, emotional maturity, or both. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/23 11:02 PM |
| 2 | We hear enough about red flags on this sub, what are some of your dating green flags?Good with children and animals. Kind to retail employees, food service workers, so forth and so on. Not easily embarrassed, not highly self-conscious. Willing to be cheerfully wrong and learn. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/23 09:06 PM |
| 7 | Asking your partner to wear less revealing clothes: controlling or boundaries?If one were to find a woman's insta and it's full of what they would consider "provocative" pictures, subsequently hooks up with the woman, and then expects her to change, that person is an idiot. If you want a modest woman, find one who's modest to begin with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/23 05:53 PM |
| 2 | [Q4All]How do you personally define “single by choice”?Actively turning people down and/or ignoring opportunities for hookups or relationships. As someone who's spent 5 years single and celibate in the past, saying "no" is a conscious choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/23 01:21 AM |
| 4 | How do you think women respond to "pick-mes", and why do you think that is?Pick-me's who don't put other women down are still women who will encourage you to tolerate bad behavior that you shouldn't. I work with a DV shelter and I've seen multiple "friends" derail progress, make excuses, and otherwise be bad influences on the people around them. I don't gender this behavior either. Men who fail to set boundaries are just as toxic to their male friends as women are. If you put the acquisition of a relationship above everything else, you are engaging in unhealthy decisio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/23 09:52 PM |
| 0 | Where Is an appropriate place for young man to approach a woman he likes in 2023?Just don't be obnoxious if she says no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/23 09:41 PM |
| 10 | CMV: What’s the point of marriage when it only benefits women?Another "sell me on marriage" post. Surprise Surprise. Nobody is going to force you to the altar kicking and screaming. It's your prerogative to choose not to get married. It's also the prerogative of women who want to be married to refuse to entertain you because of it. I as a woman have zero interest in getting married, but I don't feel the need to aggressively broadcast my opinion because I don't want people trying to talk me out of it. If you're actually comfortable with your decision you'll… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 02:45 AM |
| 6 | There are two men, Shawn and Thad. Who do you pick?Shawn. Thad sounds like he'll end up punching holes in walls because he's a repressed weirdo. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 06:55 PM |
| 22 | Cheating TENDS to be worse for (average) MEN than (average) women..."Men will stay" jesus christ. 🙄 I'm literally the result of my grandfather abandoning his newlywed high-school sweetheart and infant daughter for my 18 year old grandmother. Nobody will stay if they don't want to. Neither is better. Just because you don't like the idea of being cheated on, because you feel disrespected in this hypothetical, doesn't mean women don't feel the same thing. Stop trying to turn it into a competition. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 04:53 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themOf the few cougars I know, all of them make it explicitly clear what they want out of their relationships with younger men, and almost none of them are trying to control their partners with money OR trading resources for dick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 01:11 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themSo long as nobody is being exploited, I put it firmly in the category of "not my business." I can't help my instinctual reaction, however, nor can most women who were subjected to unwanted attention from men at a very early age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 07:03 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themIt's never caused any issues for me, but then again I'm into chubby nerds, not gym rats or party bros. If that was meant to be some kinda "gotcha" you're barking up the wrong tree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 07:01 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themOh I fully agree lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 05:13 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themIdk what the rules on polls are but I feel like they probably wouldn't go the way most folks expect them to 🤣 like I said before, no judgements, I always appreciate a differing view. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 05:11 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themIt's very much not for me but I also put it in the basket of "not my business." If everyone involved is a consenting adult I generally keep my opinion to myself unless it's requested. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 05:01 AM |
| 10 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themI mean broadly speaking? I had men trying to get with me from about the age of 14 upwards. Men who's daughters I went to school with. In college more specifically they were usually 35+. Men with wives and children, quite often. As a young woman anything close to a decade older than me was primitively, viscerally repulsive. Were there other young women pushing past that repulsion to get material benefits? Absolutely, but they still experienced it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:34 AM |
| 48 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themYou all want to make it so complicated, when it really isn't. When I was young, it grossed me out when old dudes hit on me. They wanted me because they thought I was vulnerable and impressionable, and they made that very clear in the way they interacted with me. They few girls my age who DID engage with them were 100% doing it for access to their resources and nothing else. One of the women I went to college with spent the entire four years with her life fully financed by him, and the instant sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 02:00 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Can you list and describe all your “types”?Chubby, brunette, under 5'10, nerdy. Think Seth Rogen before he started working out. If I were a gay man you'd call em bears. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 10:08 PM |
| 15 | Can we all agree that positive moral attributes such as kindness, sweetness, patience, and selflessness are not *sexually* attractive attributes for men?Are you asking a woman who's got a healthy grip of her own issues or an undisciplined child? I sorted out my own shit and I'm definitely attracted to the things you've listed. I also don't engage in casual sex or hookup culture. If you're talking about casual sex strictly, then no. People will make shitty choices for the sake of base physical attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 04:09 AM |
| 1 | Anyone who says, 'You just need to communicate more', you should disregard everything they have to sayCommunication is a skill you have to practice. Conveying your needs and frustrations without making the other person feel attacked. Hearing someone's unmet needs without feeling criticized. Most people are bad at it. That doesn't mean it's a waste of time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 10:29 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, how big of a factor are bad memories from your last BF, when it comes to your choice of the next one?Previous relationships taught me what I couldn't tolerate. Jealousy, emotional repression, things like that. It also taught me that I tend to attract "wife guys," which has positives and negatives. They also taught me about the issues that I had with communicating, the negative assumptions I made because of my upbringing, and how to minimize those problems. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 10:07 PM |
| 5 | Marriage is an L for menThen don't get married. Nobody is gonna handcuff your ass and drag you to the alter against your will, jesus christ. I, as a woman, have zero desire to get married. And yet somehow I resist the urge to go on reddit and Twitter, and tell men they're going to die alone, trying to get them to sell me on the idea of having a husband. You don't have to get married. Nobody is going to force you. And inb4 the whole "where are all the good men" screed starts, do you want those women? No? Then why on ear… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 06:38 PM |
| 2 | If you had to choose between these 2 men, who would it be and why?Option A. I've grown up with friends who are man-sluts which is precisely why I don't date them. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 03:25 AM |
| 3 | Ladies do any of you here NOT want a relationship?If I were to break up with my current partner I'd probably just not bother with a new relationship. I'm old enough now that my options are mostly guys looking for a stepmother for their kids. 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 03:13 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: What happens when you come across the virgin who won’t sleep with you casually or doing dating?This has also been my experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 02:25 AM |
| 12 | So where exactly are these ugly women?Women's ability to get hookups lies squarely at the feet of men. And vice versa. Hookups haven't been the cultural norm until VERY recently. And men and women place WILDLY different value lev on access to sex. My friend doesn't want hookups. She doesn't even want a romantic relationship. She just wants people to be kind to her. The fact that average women are able to have casual sex and men aren't is 100% on indiscriminate men. RP dudes love to talk about evolutionary biology, well, that's a pri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 06:18 AM |
| 37 | So where exactly are these ugly women?It's depressing honestly. She's got so mu love inside her and all of it is for her nieces and nephews because of how she looks. She's a wonderful auntie tho. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 06:06 AM |
| 10 | So where exactly are these ugly women?Being awful isn't ok in either situation. Small courtisi go a long way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 06:03 AM |
| 12 | So where exactly are these ugly women?No shade, but it's different. If your bro told you that you could do better, it would get in your head, because men take the opinions of other men more seriously. A woman who's invested in a man who's "below" her will fight tooth and nail to justify her choice. A man with a woman who's "below" him will not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 05:56 AM |
| 6 | So where exactly are these ugly women?You're 100% entitled to your perceptions even if mine are different. Your life experiences are going to be different from mine and that doesn't mean either of us is wrong, we just see different sides of different people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 05:49 AM |
| 16 | So where exactly are these ugly women?A lot of men convince themselves they're hideous when they can't get hookups when they're only average. Access to pussy without commitment isn't bad for your self image unless you're overly concerned with the opinion of your male peers. Men are homosocial, they want the approval of their peers more than they care about the women they hurt. Unless you have had a woman come to you unprovoked, with no previous interactions on your part, to tell you how repulsive you are, you're in no position to sp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 04:58 AM |
| 16 | So where exactly are these ugly women?I said it in another reply but people who need to put otters down hide it from their friends. I work with victims of DV and step number one for abusers is convincing their inner circle that they're blameless victims, which applies to men and women alike. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 04:46 AM |
| 24 | So where exactly are these ugly women?I say this with all due respect, but you don't see it because the men who do it either aren't your friends or hide it from you because they know you'd respond poorly to their behavior. Shitty men hide their behavior from their principled friends. Women do the same thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 04:43 AM |
| 22 | So where exactly are these ugly women?I'm not saying it's gendered, that's my whole point There's a whole demographic across gender lines that is needlessly cruel. Women who are truly unattractive don't have it any better than men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 03:47 AM |
| 12 | So where exactly are these ugly women?No. Like I said, men in daily life go out of their way to tell her how repulsive she is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 03:45 AM |
| 175 | So where exactly are these ugly women?I have a dear friend who is a beautiful soul, one of the kindest, gentlest human beings you could possibly have the privilege of meeting. She's also nearly six feet tall, built like a refrigerator (wide, square and flat) with a face that one could CHARITABLY describe as "having character." Men are CRUEL to her with zero provocation. She's not even attracted to men, she doesn't approach them romantically, but they will go out of their way to make it how clear how repulsive she is to her face. Men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 02:32 AM |
| 1 | What do women who post on venting sub-reddits feel about this particular response from males?If it's having a negative effect on your mental health, don't read them. But you should definitely examine why you have those negative feelings. It's not good for anyone to allow other people's experiences to have a detrimental effect on how they see themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 12:45 AM |
| 22 | Women who claim men left them after sex are just shifting blame to menI literally just sent screenshots to a man's wife of him DMing me on Instagram, trying to get me to sleep with him. He went to high-school with my father. Men will do all sorts of heinous shit to get laid, let's not be silly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 10:11 PM |
| 49 | Q4W: What do you think when the less attractive friend prevents men from talking to you?Every single time one of my friends has chased a dude off it was because I wanted her to. Y'all just don't notice anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 01:15 AM |
| 10 | Honest and genuine question. What is it that women actually want?I can't speak for other women, but for me personally, I want who makes my life better by virtue of being in it. I adore men, and I like having their particular energy in my life. Where the issue occurs, in my experience, is that a man can be content with sex and pleasantries, whereas women have a more complex system of behavior in order to feel valued. Thus all the idiosyncrasies you experience in dating. Oftentimes the men I know who got broken up with "for no reason" were ignoring the small ge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 06:09 AM |
| 1 | Guys. Would you date someone who is boring, timid, and not funny? Ladies, how about you?Someone who can goof around with me. My brand of humor is... nonstandard, I suppose? Just the other day, my partner picked up one of my D&D mini figs and called it a "dispeeser beeser" and for some fucking reason I was laughing for the next 20 minutes. I'm very easily amused. 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 01:23 AM |
| 3 | Do you think the concept of an "Alpha Widow" is valid? (i.e. As an average man, it's fair to assume that a woman with a high body count has been with someone who is more attractive than you and this will make her value you less.)It doesn't even have to be promiscuity. I have an ex I was with in high-school and part of college, and I am on the downhill part of thirty. This man sends me messages from random numbers at least three or four times a year, and I've received messages from women he's dated asking me if we're still in contact. I haven't spoken to him in person in MORE THAN A DECADE and I block him every time. Sometimes you are being compared unfavorably to past relationships or encounters. It happens to both men … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 06:23 PM |
| 0 | We all know how men feel about women's body counts. How do women feel about a man's?I find them unsuitable partners for me. I don't judge them any more than I judge my fellow women who seek out casual sex, but I'm not for them and they aren't for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 11:21 PM |
| 49 | Do you think the concept of an "Alpha Widow" is valid? (i.e. As an average man, it's fair to assume that a woman with a high body count has been with someone who is more attractive than you and this will make her value you less.)The idea of getting hung up on an ex isn't gendered, men do it all the time. The RP just couches it in fanciful language and genders it because they date women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 10:41 PM |
| 3 | Guys. Would you date someone who is boring, timid, and not funny? Ladies, how about you?I'm a woman and I'm fine with "timid" and "boring," but funny is an absolute need. I'm a nerd who dates other nerds, the first two just come with the territory. Funny is different though. Humor gets you through difficult times and I believe it's foundational to a good relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 04:30 PM |
| 1 | How do women, in general, feel about, process, and cope with being friendzoned and/or fuckzoned by high-value men?It's 100% your right to terminate a relationship with someone who's presence is hurtful to you and I totally support it. What isn't healthy is internalizing the idea that they're somehow demeaning you or looking down on you when they say no. If I, as an atheist, turn down the advances of a man who goes to church every Sunday, it's not because I think I'm "better" than he is, it's because I recognize that there's a fundamental difference in our values and outlooks that makes a relationship unsust… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 10:23 PM |
| 1 | How do women, in general, feel about, process, and cope with being friendzoned and/or fuckzoned by high-value men?It feels like a mild sting and then I move on with my life. Like, this is hamster-wheel behavior, dwelling on social hierarchy and your relative place juxtaposed to the people who won't fuck you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 03:11 AM |
| 1 | Does the fact that a guy friend would bang his female friend if given the chance mean he's not really her friend?Is he actually a friend or just lurking in the hopes of a pity/boredom fuck? Like it's not complicated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 01:15 AM |
| 1 | Would you be okay with your partner having a good friend of the opposite sex?My partner and I both have opposite sex friends. You cannot control others, trying to is folly. I don't tolerate people with insecure attachment styles into my life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 11:13 PM |
| 2 | Do women want another guy when they end a relationship?I've seen a few women go directly from one man to the next and I always thought it looked exhausting. If I break up with a dude it's not because I got distracted by some shiny new prospect, it's because I was unhappy in the relationship and he wasn't taking it seriously. Also being single fucking rocks. I can watch whatever I want, eat whatever I prefer, dictate every single aspect of my own schedule? That shit is amazing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:59 AM |
| 2 | How realistic is Magic Mike?Yeah he's confirmed it multiple times. Seems like a very cool dude, honestly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:45 AM |
| 11 | Is it creepy if a guy from a league below in attractiveness approaches you?Don't be fucking obnoxious. It's not difficult. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 05:58 AM |
| 12 | How realistic is Magic Mike?Watch LITERALLY one interview with Channing Tatum he is a bisexual nerd. 99% of the RP dudes couldn't sustain what he does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 02:52 AM |
| 12 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?If you want your relationship to last it's very important to pick a good teammate. You're meant to be working together against conflict, and you need to be able to compromise together with out making one another miserable. I wish you luck in your search! Everybody is better off with a second fighter in their corner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 04:09 AM |
| 3 | Do most single women have a "Steve"?I know a few women who do this. Frankly I've always found it a little repulsive, keeping someone around like a spare tire. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 12:56 AM |
| 6 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?Why so passive aggressive? What precisely about the concept do you find so offensive? Why should I, or the theoretical man in question, try to change ourselves to fit into a relationship that ultimately won't work, rather than retaining our freedom to look for better options more suited to both of us? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 12:44 AM |
| 4 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?I don't compete anyway, my tastes run to chubby gamer dudes with long hair and I get my pick of the litter. 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 12:39 AM |
| 2 | For the committed ladies: how do you feel about your husband/boyfriend hiding money and investments from you as a backup plan?LOL I wouldn't get married in the first place, but considering I have my own assets that I have zero intention of sharing, he's free to do as he pleases. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 12:37 AM |
| 64 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?The women who needed men back in the day didn't necessarily like them either. You just had to pick one and hope that it turned out well, or if not, your options were very limited. The introduction of no-fault divorce lead to something like a 20% drop in the rate of "accidents" among married couples that usually ended up with one of them dead. People will find a way out if they're unhappy, even if it's extreme. I personally love men. The majority of my favorite people are men. But that doesn't me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?In the areas he's best at, absolutely. There are plenty things in which he's more knowledgeable than I am, and I leave those up to him. Part of a good partnership, in my opinion, is giving the lead to whomever is going to handle the situation most effectively. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?I absolutely look up to my partner, but not in the almost paternal way alot of men seem to expect. I admire his work ethic, I admire his incredible moral compass, his ethics, his loyalty. He's one of the very best people I know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 11:40 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: are you intrinsically grossed out by chronically single men?Who even thinks about other people like that? The chances of me NOTICING someone is eating alone is astronomically small, passing judgment on them for it even less so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 10:56 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?Most of the women I know who are hypergamous in the way the RP describes had very difficult childhoods. They grew up incredibly poor, or emotionally neglected, or incredibly abused in some other way. They long, on a profound, elemental level, for security, and they have no tools to provide it to themselves. If you spend the majority of your life depending on the security that other people offer, it becomes a habit. And in a very rational way, it's not unreasonable to seek further security, even … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 05:44 AM |
| 2 | How many people know guys that have women on a “rotation”?My oldest friend is routinely dating 3-5 women at a time. He was in an abusive relationship for a long time and was repeatedly cheated on so it's mostly making up for missed time. There's no group chat but they all know of one another. He's also an inch taller than I am (5'4) and fucking hilarious. YMMV. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 05:14 AM |
| 5 | Honest question. Women who are in relationships, what do you bring to your relationship?I love him. In a way his parents, his siblings, and his friends don't. I support him in ways that others don't. I tell him he deserves good, to be happy, to be fulfilled. I help him take the steps to get the things he decides he wants. A lot of this depends on what you want out of a relationship. I bring value to his life, but that's because he needs things I'm good at providing. A woman might have incredible value to one man and almost none for another. You need to figure out you specifically n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 04:42 AM |
| 2 | Women, what is your opinion on domenstic violence towards men?I agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?Honestly I probably wouldn't have had the opportunity. My ex was profoundly jealous, controlling and neurotic. The only reason I was in a position to meet my current partner is because I worked up the courage to ignore his threats and leave my ex. I also have serious personal reservations about going directly from one relationship to another. I was single and celibate for 5 years before I met my current partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Women, what is your opinion on domenstic violence towards men?Absolutely. My oldest friend was in an abusive relationship for most of his 20s and he's still dealing with the emotional fallout from it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Women, what is your opinion on domenstic violence towards men?Very much so yes. Psychological harm without video or audio evidence is almost impossible to prove. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Women of Reddit, what is your actual body count vs. the body count you tell the men you're with when they ask?Mine is 4, all in LTRs. I don't do casual sex at all. I've always been honest about it, although the kind of man who feels the need to ask is never going to believe me anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Define undateablePersonality- Arrogant, condescending, selfish, humorless, bigoted. Add on top of that most male neurosis like jealousy or over-competitive behavior. Looks- mostly just poor hygiene and morbid obesity. I like a man who's well insulated but not one who has trouble with physical activity. Career- can you feed, clothe, and house yourself? Good then I don't give a shit. The only exceptions are military and cops, both of those are red flags. Lifestyle- I personally find any kind of lifestyle peacockin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 01:42 AM |
| 21 | Women, what is your opinion on domenstic violence towards men?I have a wealth of personal experience with men being abused. My mother abused both her children and my father, and two of my dearest friends have been abused. I work with my local DV shelter specifically so I have access to resources to help people out of abusive situations. That being said, the abuse tends to take different forms. Female abusers tend to lean more towards the psychological end of the spectrum, and male abusers often times resort to physical violence. ANY abuse deserves support … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Are jealousy and insecurity more represented in men?Fully agree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Are jealousy and insecurity more represented in men?I've been through lots of therapy to reach this point, and spent time and effort eliminating my various codependent behaviors. (Inherited fr my father, who according to the RP is far more of a woman than I am.) Lots of folks end up feeling trapped in relationships. The truth is you aren't trapped, you're just scared of what else you might have to deal with. But if you're gambling and the options are misery and the unknown, ALWAYS choose the unknown. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 07:25 AM |
| 1 | What's appropriate to vet your partner on?Vet for whatever you want, just don't be a dickhead about it. It's not complicated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 03:26 AM |
| 1 | How would you feel if your long term boyfriend had a personal "# of blowjobs before cohabitating" rule?LOL he'd get blocked and forgotten. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 03:02 AM |
| 2 | Question for girls who had a "party phase" but moved onI partied a ton in college, as several of my very dear friends were paying for their education by dealing various substances, and it's kind of "part of the job." I was in an LTR the whole time. No hookups, no flirting. I was there to have fun with my friends and keep an eye on those of them who liked to party a little TOO hard sometimes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/23 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Are jealousy and insecurity more represented in men?I do care what my partner thinks about me, but not to the extent that if he were to decide that he likes someone else more, it would effect my perception of myself. That's part of why I find the whole "dread game" thing hilarious; oh, you have so many other options? Bully for you, run along and pursue those then! Comparison is not only a thief of joy, it's a profound waste of intellectual energy that could be spent on something more productive. If I have to waste time convincing myself that I'm … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/23 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Are jealousy and insecurity more represented in men?I don't really experience relationship jealousy because in my mind, a person's actions reflect on them, not on me. My self-esteem and security are internal, not external. That does, for some godawful reason, seem to attract neurotic, jealous men to me. I have zero patience for such behavior and make that clear in the very beginning, and a lot of men cut themselves out of the running with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/23 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Women of PPD: How do you prefer a man shows off his masculinity: Thru status and wealth, thru wisdom and knowledge or thru competence and actions?Competence with a side order of wisdom. I like a man who knows how to get shit done, but moreso than that, a man who's willing to admit that he doesn't know what he's doing and goes about figuring it out by education. One of the most unattractive things a man can do is INSIST he knows what he's doing or he's right about something when he's obviously not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/23 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Why is sexual exclusivity important to you?I barely have the patience for one partner, add multiples into the mix and I'm gonna be exhausted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 03:33 AM |
| 1 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?You're entitled to your opinion | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/23 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?You said it better than I could. Being good is a function of behavior, not motives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 06:00 AM |
| 0 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?Interesting. Care to elaborate? No judgements if not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 04:51 AM |
| 1 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?I can 100% understand that. I came from a very dysfunctional home myself,and it took a lot of personal work to re-educate myself and move past the unhealthy behavior I learned from that. People's answers to the question are illuminating in terms of what they value, not a metric by which I judge people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 04:50 AM |
| 2 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?He does yes. I am one of a few folk he trusts to discuss certain issues and choices with. I obviously don't pretend to know either of you deal with, but I do recognize that you operate off of a different perspective than the rest of us, and certain compromises are needed for everyone to get along. Like I said, I appreciate your perspective. You put much more thought into the way you approach things, and significantly less ego. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 04:42 AM |
| 2 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?He's a diagnosed sociopath with a handful of other labels that have been thrown on him over the years as people tried to "fix" him. He's in a very stable 12 year relationship and he credits the success of his relationship to outlining the rules early on and amending them when needed. I know his partner personally and while she is absolutely what one might call "damaged" she's very content in their relationship because it's so specifically and thoughtfully outlined. Obviously what they have would… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 02:49 AM |
| 2 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?Very interesting, thank you. I have a friend who has a very similar diagnosis to yours, and his answers were along the same lines. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 02:36 AM |
| 2 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?So let me clarify. You believe parents who are unhappy but together, are a healthier relationship example than parents who are happy but separated? No judgements just curious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 01:17 AM |
| 3 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?Your perspective is obviously very different from the other folks here and I value your input. I want to ask you something, and I want to preface the question with the statement that I will place no moral weight on your answer, it's simply curiosity. Assuming you ended up in a relationship similar to the parents in the second scenario, what if anything would you feel? If your partner kept her agreement by every letter of the law, but resented you in a way you couldn't ignore, would that have an … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 01:14 AM |
| 0 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?A very sensible answer, although I do think from personal experience that people's parents have a pretty intense effect on their later relationships. Most folks don't interrogate their own motives enough to understand how though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 01:08 AM |
| 0 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?I know precisely how you feel | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?I respect your opinion, though I fear it veers dangerously close to optimism. 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 01:04 AM |
| 3 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?Humans in general model their later relationships on the ways their parents behaved. That's what's been normalized in their subconscious. It's something a lot of people don't consider, and depending on your relationship priorities, it can be very important. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?My experience is very similar to yours. I was 14 when my parents divorced and my later teenaged years were much more peaceful and lead to a lot of healthy dialog with my parents about how they were worse together. I love them both and they've remarried, but there was no universe where they could make a healthy environment for my brother and I. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Q4M- divorced parents or spiteful parents?I'm sorry this has me rolling excellent priorities 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 12:50 AM |
| 12 | Why do women have long term relationships with guys they don’t physically desire?You lot don't realize that you select for these women via your outlook on relationships and sexuality. If you emulate the "bad boy" you're going to end up with women who want him, not you. "All women want drama" artificially creates drama Surprised Pikachu face when you end up with dramatic bitches The women who are attracted to regular dudes don't like y'all and you don't like them. It's the peak of solipsism to assume your individual experience defines the experience of the dating world at lar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 05:43 AM |
| 1 | Why don’t more women like sports?I agree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 03:26 AM |
| 2 | Why don’t more women like sports?Valid. My father and several of my friends are football yellers and it's definitely annoying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 03:49 AM |
| 2 | Why don’t more women like sports?Yes absolutely. I do dance too, most folk don't think of it as a sport unless they try a serious lesson or a competition. 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Why don’t more women like sports?It's not all dudes for sure, but enough of them making jokes about the WNBA and what have you has led me to the conclusion that most just don't take women's sports seriously. I don't expect everyone to be into everything but it's definitely a trend I've noticed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 02:14 AM |
| 2 | Why don’t more women like sports?Oh I'm not talking about you specifically, but broadly. Women's soccer and the WNBA are both frequently scoffed at by sports enthusiast dudes I know for example. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 02:12 AM |
| 3 | Why don’t more women like sports?Not that most women are into it no, but that those who are fall into the category of "doesn't count" one way or another. Using a specific example from my personal life, a man who's into football will be offended if she doesn't feign interest, but a woman into gymnastics doesn't expect him to watch the Olympics, because he thinks it's "boring." My boyfriend likes to watch rivals tournaments on twitch, and even if I don't give a shit about the game in question I watch because it's important to him… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 05:20 AM |
| 5 | Why don’t more women like sports?In the realm of your interests being taken seriously? I agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 05:10 AM |
| 9 | Why don’t more women like sports?Men don't pay attention to sports or leagues they don't take seriously. He might have multiple women in his life deeply emotionally invested in tennis, but if he doesn't consider that a "real sport," then he doesn't know any women who are interested in sports at all. Or of she is interested in a sport he is, but she fails to live up to the statistical knowledge he expects from a "real fan," again, according to him, he doesn't know any women interested in sports. RP dudes love to accuse women of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 04:53 AM |
| 14 | Why don’t more women like sports?Most of the women I know who are into sports are invested in more "traditionally feminine" ones that men don't usually take seriously. And the women I know who participated in more "masculine" sports are far too butch for most dudes here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Women of PPD, how did you meet your significant other, and what made them/their approach different from the rest?He got invited to join the D&D group I am a part of because we'd lost a player who'd moved away. The other guys I play with, I've known literally my whole life, so when I'm at the table I'm full gremlin mode. Stoned as shit, dressed comfortably but VERY unflattering, cackling like a demon at the 17th dick joke that night. And yet somehow he's into that shit. 😆 Been together a long time now and he still thinks I'm sexiest when I'm a dweeb. What made his approach different and STILL makes it diffe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 02:53 AM |
| 0 | Of the guys that you have been with, what percentage were Chads ?By RP standards? Zero. That type of man is off-put by women who don't fawn on them. They get salty when they aren't the super special gold-star exception to the rules. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 02:08 AM |
| 1 | Does the rise of Joey Swoll support RP’ers claims of female solipsism?I didn't say they were creeping on me, I said they shoot their shot. Please stop trying to move the goalposts, and pay attention to the actual words I'm using. Creeps are different. Now do you have a point to make or are you just intellectually sparring with a strawman you made up? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Does the rise of Joey Swoll support RP’ers claims of female solipsism?Jesus christ just stop. There are only so many tired cliches I can handle. 😆 Again, if you're looking so often or so intently that you get caught, it's your fault. And you can't control the reaction of the woman in question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 02:36 AM |
| 1 | Does the rise of Joey Swoll support RP’ers claims of female solipsism?I said "rage bait," as in an inflammatory statement intended to make me angry. The whole "don't dress like that and you won't be looked at" thing is also a transparent falsehood because I dress like a hobo when I go to the gym and men STILL shoot their shot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 02:32 AM |
| 3 | Does the rise of Joey Swoll support RP’ers claims of female solipsism?Maybe take your played out, boring rage bait somewhere else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 01:52 PM |
| 2 | Does the rise of Joey Swoll support RP’ers claims of female solipsism?No, but I usually expect adults to have a modicum of self control. 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Observing Tribal Behavior and Mating PatternsSo do you want a wife and children or not? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 06:10 AM |
| 1 | Why haven't women built their own independent, semi autonomous female utopia?I see them once a week for D&D and we have a groupchat that averages 25+ messages a day. But nice projection there bruh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 05:26 AM |
| 2 | Observing Tribal Behavior and Mating PatternsLet's do a quick breakdown. What specific financial benefits do you think most women have in mind when they say 100thousand? Daycare? Vacations? Mommy makeovers to help fix the damage done by conceiving and carrying a child or multiple children? What are you willing to spend on a prospective wife? The children that might result from said relationship? Do you expect her to stay home and raise your offspring? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 03:32 AM |
| 3 | Why haven't women built their own independent, semi autonomous female utopia?Because not all women are gender essentialist TERF radfems? My male friends outnumber my female friends because of my hobbies, and nobody is evil just because they're born a specific gender. Everybody is capable of learning their faults, assuming they're willing to listen and actually absorb what's being said. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 02:48 AM |
| 3 | Does the rise of Joey Swoll support RP’ers claims of female solipsism?That's entirely reasonable and fine. If I'm in between sets and you wanna make conversation that's chill, so long as you (and anyone else obviously) recognizes that no means no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 02:36 AM |
| 2 | Observing Tribal Behavior and Mating PatternsUnless you're talking about a man who makes millions a year, it doesn't matter. And if you are she's with him for the maybe GOT style. My man is an electrician. We could go literally anywhere in the US and his skills would be needed. I'm a nurse. I can get a job anywhere. Status without functionality is a participation trophy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Does the rise of Joey Swoll support RP’ers claims of female solipsism?Good shit. No offense to you I'm sure you're perfectly pleasant but when I'm doing my shut being interrupted is THE WORST. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 02:27 AM |
| 2 | Observing Tribal Behavior and Mating PatternsThe wealthy and powerful (irregardless of gender) choose the person who fits their personal psychological profile. They have a self image and they choose someone who fits it. Powerful men see women as an accessory. Does she enhance you? Magnify you? Does he enhance you? Magnify you? 97% of us don't meet the criteria. I have no interest in marriage and neither does my partner. You want her to be "a benefit," a help mate. I have more assets than my partner, what does that make me? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 01:30 AM |
| 3 | Observing Tribal Behavior and Mating PatternsAnd men don't? Hilarious. If you brought a girl who otherwise satisfied your basic needs to your bros and they said "... she's cool brah" you wouldn't be suddenly skeptical? The issue of humanity is choosing to follow the example of folks who lean towards actual examples and not vanity projects. Tate is a vanity project. All flash no purpose. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 12:30 AM |
| 3 | Observing Tribal Behavior and Mating PatternsStatus is relative. My partner is both a skilled electrician and a minmaxing D&D player. His mathematical competence in both areas is attractive to me. STATUS IS CONTEXTUAL. Realistically most dudes interact with and want Instagram girlies, parasocially. The whole "dating apps fuck people up" paradigm is not gendered. Men are homoromantic, and they desperately seek the approval of their chosen male cohort when selecting a partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 12:05 AM |
| -1 | Does the rise of Joey Swoll support RP’ers claims of female solipsism?According to the RP men are the more logical gender. If a woman in the gym gives you the LOOK, you should probably stay away. It's really not that difficult. Personal accountability is king. Men do look. Let's not be immature about it. But if you can't look without getting caught, it's not her problem, it's your problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 11:52 PM |
| 2 | Observing Tribal Behavior and Mating PatternsDoes the "status" in question confer actual functional benefits? Or is it a showpiece that can be stripped away at the most minor inconvenience? So many mem want a "traditional" relationship but thet don't want to do that work required. On the frame of "millionaire or janitor" the desperation to be a peer in predominantly masculine. Your wife has to be "the right kind" or she'll embarrass you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 11:38 PM |
| 6 | Observing Tribal Behavior and Mating PatternsWe do not live in a subsistence tribal society. There are absolutely women who will choose a man who can provide over one they actually like, but unless the economy fully collapses women in America will still choose a man they actually like over one who's a good option. The kind of women who value sufficiency (like myself) will not realistically choose a RP guy. The majority are image over substance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 11:18 PM |
| -5 | Does the rise of Joey Swoll support RP’ers claims of female solipsism?Men are routinely annoying in the gym. I have a specific routine I go through because I have joint issues I was born with. The number of men who've tried to correct me, then responded poorly when I told them I was already operating on the suggestion of my PT is ASTRONOMICAL. The gym is not a place for nonsense. I'm trying to keep my body functioning for as long as possible, I don't have time to entertain the ego trips of other folks. If you MUST approach someone in the gym, don't be a twat. If y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 11:10 PM |
| – | Ladies, how doe attraction feel like to you?Broadly speaking yes. I have a dear friend who's one of the most compassionate, empathetic people you've ever met. He's gay and was born in a red state, and he's bought into certain conspiracy theories because they give him the comfort of feeling he's "one of the good ones," somehow immune from the broader biases of the world because he possess some secret knowledge. The real measure of human strength is the willingness to honestly and truly interrogate your perspective. What you believe and WHY… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 10:54 PM |
| – | Ladies, how doe attraction feel like to you?I agree with you, pretty much. Also I'm a TTRPG nerd, if I needed to test out characters I have a much better avenue available. 🤣 There is absolutely merit in the idea of "getting a foot in the door," but the men that appeal to me wouldn't have a shot with an Instagram baddie, and vice versa. You have to appeal to the demographics that suit you. Some of these demographics are smaller and more selective than others. Also I find the "I don't believe you" thing intellectually dishonest. It's a defe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 09:07 PM |
| 5 | Ladies, how doe attraction feel like to you?The "I don't believe you" thing is SO funny to me. What, pray tell, do I have to gain by lying? And before you start in about "virtue signaling," let's be realistic. There's no point in such behavior when you're dealing with a demographic who believes you're without virtue to begin with. My physical type is brunette, chubby, a little hairy and no more than 5'11 maximum. If I were to suddenly find myself single, I could spend a week at the local gaming store and have four or five prospects to cho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, how doe attraction feel like to you?Online dating is absolutely awful | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 02:53 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, how doe attraction feel like to you?Yes absolutely. That guy usually had something else that made him stand out, like he was incredibly funny or intelligent, so I payed more attention. Keep in mind I'm nearly 37 and I have a single digit n-count so I'm VERY particular. All but one of my exes I would absolutely give glowing reviews to, if another woman asked me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 07:03 AM |
| 6 | Ladies, how big of a role, would you say that socialization plays in the psychological, emotional and behavioral differences between men and women?Oh yuck. Big hat no cattle. 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 06:33 AM |
| 9 | Ladies, how big of a role, would you say that socialization plays in the psychological, emotional and behavioral differences between men and women?I know socialization plays a role in my attraction, because I live rural rurally and the trait I value most is competence. A man could be otherwise perfect,but if the idea of chopping firewood or changing oil is objectionable to him, I'm immediately turned off. Most people I've met in my daily life who put a big emphasis on nature over nurture are usually looking for a way to excuse their bad behavior. "I can't help it, it's just in my nature" is the battle cry of people who are fully disinteres… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 04:42 AM |
| 23 | Ladies, how doe attraction feel like to you?I've never seen a dude and immediately thought "wanna smash," but if I find someone attractive I want to spend time with them and get to know them better. The raw sexual attraction comes on later, assuming they don't do something objectionable in the meantime. I've had 10/10 dudes (on my personal type scale) ruin their chances by being bigoted or otherwise intellectually unattractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 04:27 AM |
| 1 | QWA: What was the best sex you ever had?My current partner. He's early 40s, I'm late 30s, we bang minimum once a day because we're obsessed with each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 04:54 AM |
| 21 | would you lose interest in your man if he lost in a fight to alpha ChadIf you're with a woman who's aroused by physical conflict, and you enjoy it, you have nobody but yourself to blame for the horseshit you deal with later. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 04:46 AM |
| 3 | For the women in this sub, what brought you here and what keeps you coming back?I had friends who got into PUA stuff in college and I find it fascinating from a psychological perspective. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 04:39 AM |
| 5 | Women who do expect a man to pay for a date, do you still expect him to pay if you know as fact you're not interested in him sexually at all?I've never allowed a man to pay my way, precisely to avoid this whole "she just used you for food bro" bullshit. A date is just a test run to see if you like each other, and nobody is entitled to anything. If a man insists on paying or gets offended (it's happened a few times) that's a red flag to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/23 09:11 PM |
| 12 | Why isn’t calling a woman a “pick me” considered a slur?I have an ex friend who's a pick-me. They are at least annoying, and at worst put other women in dangerous situations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/23 09:03 PM |
| 3 | Being Nice vs AuthenticBeing "nice" is a social performance. Kindness is a much better measure. And if your "authentic" self can manage neither, that just makes you unpleasant to be around. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/23 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Who gets men's best side: the Madonna or the Whore?Neither. They're two ends of the same dehumanizing spectrum. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:54 AM |
| 1 | 'You should have total trust in your partner or else you shouldn't be dating' is bad advice and people who recommend this sort of toxic trustworthiness are doing more harm than good.Trust is earned through consistent behavior and good communication. There are also simply incompatible levels of trust desired in relationships. A person who operates at a "if I can't see you I don't trust you" level is point blank incompatible with a person who needs social time away from their partner. It doesn't mean either of them are bad people, but it does mean a relationship between them isn't going to work. I don't trust anybody completely, but I fully trust my partner's ability to under… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Q4W What is femininity and maculinity to youBoth masculinity and femininity are performances we put on according to the cultural norms of the time. How much or how little a person chooses to conform to those norms doesn't interest me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:05 AM |
| 4 | Most people are absolutely clueless when it comes to red flags in relationships.They aren't incapable, just highly unlikely. I am the product of teenagers and failed birth control in the late 80s and I managed to get my shit together with therapy. The question isn't "are you damaged," it's " do you recognize your damage and how much work have you done to correct it." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 07:23 AM |
| 8 | Most people are absolutely clueless when it comes to red flags in relationships.Literally EVERYONE has problems. There is no perfect unscathed partner in the world. The key is finding someone who recognizes their issues and is working on them, AND recognizing your OWN issues and working on them. (Hint- if you're saying "I'm totally fine I've got no problems" you're a fucking problem. ) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 07:09 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Sadly, objectifiying women is the only thing that works(at the start).The women who rejected you aren't compatible with you, and as I said above, the women who respond positively to objectification are very poor candidates for relationships. Sexual success doesn't predict relationship success, and a relationship with someone who is nothing but emotional labor is more work than it's worth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 05:12 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Sadly, objectifiying women is the only thing that works(at the start).Elaborate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 05:05 AM |
| 18 | CMV: Sadly, objectifiying women is the only thing that works(at the start).You have no idea what the experience of being objectified is. To have your humanity, the basic reality of who you are as a person rejected in favor of seeing you as nothing more than a thing with sexual utility. The closest I've ever seen a man come to TRULY understanding objectification is when he's married to a woman who's in the throes of severe baby rabies. When he becomes nothing more than a means to an end, a thing she is systematically using to get what she actually wants. Men love to ima… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/23 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Have you experienced times in a relationship that was sexless? If so, why do you think this happened?My relationship before the current one. My ex treated me like a utility instead of a person and I lost all attraction to him. I simply couldn't bring myself to sleep with him, it repulsed me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/23 05:14 AM |
| – | Once again. Purge time is seal time. As it always should be.All hail the seal 🦭 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 11:08 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadCute 😆 I have no "narrative" but I also won't have my word choice policed by reddit random, run along now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 05:53 PM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNo💜 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 06:52 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI don't think they'd ever interacted on social media before, as far as I remember. And I don't think he's so much anti-environmentalist as he is "caring about climate change is beta." But I wouldn't be surprised if you were right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 06:51 AM |
| 19 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadIt's so fucking funny I'm sorry. 😂 imagine starting beef with a 19 year old girl for no fucking reason, then getting SO upset by her reply that you out yourself to the cops with a PIZZA BOX. Cringiest behavior imaginable my god. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 11:39 PM |
| 8 | Mental health issues is the biggest thing preventing men and women from getting into and staying in happy relationships.There's a dramatic difference between making your mental health issues "just who you are" and having problems but proactively working to improve them. I've met multitudes of people, male and female, who refused to address their problems or accept the consequences of their illness. That "brooding artist" guy just has depression. The "manic pixie dream girl" has an anxious attachment style and undiagnosed autism. This is why I tell my friends and acquaintances who have issues to leave "normal" peo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 02:47 AM |
| 1 | As a man, your personality can never make up for your lack of looks or status. All it can do is make a woman pity date you to feel more safeSo very true | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/22 05:20 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever been fallen out of love with? If so did you see the signs, what did you learn from it?I wasn't blindsided, I saw it happening and tried to talk to him about it. He denied it, naturally, but it showed in his behavior. He wanted me around for my utility, but he didn't actually care about me anymore, so I left. It's been more than a decade and he still messages me two or three times a year. 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 10:25 PM |
| 17 | Andrew Tate & the other RP creators - Where exactly is the misogyny?The fact that people take Tate seriously is fucking hilarious. He's a grifter, a professional attention whore who says offensive nonsense to garner clicks, views and engagement. He's also a misogynistic dork, but he serves a purpose. Any man who looks up to Tate has proven himself a rube, an easy mark. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 10:13 PM |
| 0 | As a man, your personality can never make up for your lack of looks or status. All it can do is make a woman pity date you to feel more safeAs if unattractive men don't cheat, usually because of the exact neurotic type of nonsense evidenced in this post 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 09:46 PM |
| 0 | Women would do better in dating if they involved the men in their family with mate selectionI love my father with every fiber of my being but he's the one with shitty relationship radar, as evidenced by my mother. Parents are not infallible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/22 05:06 AM |
| 4 | Why do women gaslight men over the significance of online dating?Because the somewhat anonymous nature of the internet makes people BOLD. 😂 I'm over it at this point but nowadays people people put their kinks on the forefront. I'm not into shaming, everyone likes what they like, but opening with that hard-core stuff is not my thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 01:44 AM |
| 6 | Have you ever met a man that you instantly were sexually attracted toward ?I am apparently an outlier because I've never engaged in casual sex, but I don't think about him in a sexual way. I think about him in a... neutral or non-repulsed way. I am open to the possibility of chemistry developing, assuming he doesn't shoot himself in the foot in the meantime. But as the saying goes, it's much easier to talk yourself out of pussy than talk yourself into it. If he causes repulsion in the meantime it instantly removes him as an option. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 12:08 AM |
| 10 | Why do women gaslight men over the significance of online dating?Have you ever had a man send you a photograph of his erect penis in a diaper he'd clearly taken a dump in? Because I have. Nobody says it's more difficult for women to get matches, but the unimaginably HEINOUS behavior we have to wade through in order to find a decent match isn't something you lot have to deal with. The filter of the internet makes people behave like the worst versions of themselves. The type of awful that men engage in is different, more aggressive than women. That's all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/22 11:54 PM |
| 6 | Have you ever met a man that you instantly were sexually attracted toward ?No. I've seen men who were beautiful to me, possessing some combination of features that was striking or unique, but never sexually attractive right off the bat. Not in the way that men seem to describe it. I might want to talk to the man in question, get to know him better, but I don't want to fuck him immediately. That comes later. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/22 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Are some men naturally submissive in relationships? Are some women naturally dominant?There are always outliers and median cases. I for example have never been described as "dominant" but everyone who's known me for a reasonable length of time has commented on my very direct, blunt communication style and called it something along the lines of "masculine." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/22 06:26 AM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts about diamond engagement rings?Diamonds are gross from an ethical standpoint, and frankly kind of boring visually. There are so many more unique, less expensive options out there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/22 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: What type of men do you tend to attract?We do tend to get taken off the market pretty quickly. 😆 I wish you luck on your search! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 09:14 PM |
| 1 | "It's harder for women to find the right guy"I'm not "pushing" anything, I am operating on the information given to me by older women. I believe them; if you don't it's not a problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 09:11 PM |
| 1 | "It's harder for women to find the right guy"You will of course believe whatever you wish. My lived experiences clashing with yours doesn't validate or invalidate either one. My only suggestion would be to keep in mind that you are demographically less likely to hear the truth from women in that age category than others might be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 03:16 AM |
| 0 | "It's harder for women to find the right guy"I personally have met two (maybe three) women of my grandparents' generation whose husbands "mysteriously died" or just disappeared. There is a distinctly gendered difference in what those women will say to a younger man versus a woman. The advice and warnings we get aren't what men hear, because the tradition of the whisper network dictate that men CANNOT BE INCLUDED. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 03:03 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: How important is monogamy to you, really?I don't tolerate anything but monogamy. Regardless of the "value" of a potential boyfriend, I make my expectations and desires clear. If he is not equally clear in his communication, he will be discarded. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 02:18 AM |
| 0 | "It's harder for women to find the right guy"What about my statement is confusing to you, I'll clarify if I can. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 02:11 AM |
| 1 | "It's harder for women to find the right guy"In my grandparents' generation, you as a man generally only had to be able to provide for a family because it was a serious decision to leave your husband when you weren't legally allowed to have a credit card. Now, however, women are generally capable of financially providing for themselves. Women broadly do not need a husband or man to survive. If a woman doesn't need you for survival, you need to bring other benefits to the table. I don't know when exactly the shift in perception happened, an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 02:08 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: What type of men do you tend to attract?We are deeply wary creatures. 😆 My best piece of advice is if you find one of us, NEVER say anything that could be construed as gatekeeping or "testing her credentials." A mildly nerdy girl who's not as deep into your hobby as you are is willing to learn, so long as you don't treat her like an interloper or a faker. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 01:57 AM |
| 7 | Women don't have higher standards because they have easier access to more attractive men. It's because they all now think they're in these guys' leagues because of excessive compliments onlineAs a woman who's a 5-6 on a good day, those internet messages are meaningless. The venn diagram of "grudinglingly willing to fuck you" and "gives you validation on the internet" is a circle. Even if he ENTHUSIASTICALLY WANTS to fuck you, if he starts tuning out or rolling his eyes when you talk? That "validation" is MEANINGLESS. If one person says to you, "I'm going to help you with this important task," and then they blow you off, it's one bad friend. If EVERYONE offers to help you for the soci… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 05:14 AM |
| 11 | "It's harder for women to find the right guy"Women have MANY generations of programing that tells them "find the most tolerable man you can for survival," and any messaging to the counter is VERY recent in the scheme of things. Men, on the other hand, have only recently had to learn to be both desirable and likable in order to get a woman, when before they simply had to be "of use." We are in the midst of growing pains. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 05:05 AM |
| 9 | Q4W: What type of men do you tend to attract?Nerds, because I am a nerd and I make an effort to outwardly signal that to the people around me. I cannot tolerate listening to a man drone on about football or the gym, but I love a guy who'll tell me about his current D&D character build, his MTG deck he's working on, or the updates they just put out for the game he likes to play. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 03:21 AM |
| 3 | Do you reject men differently if you perceive them to be in your league versus if you perceive them to be below your league?No. My attitude in rejection is entirely dependent upon his approach. A courteous man gets a polite rejection, an aggressive man gets an angry rejection. I oftentimes find myself being ruder to more conventionally attractive men because I'm perceived as an "easy target" and they're flabbergasted and offended when they get rebuffed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 03:14 AM |
| 6 | Women are indeed incredibly complicated to understand.The idea that this is exclusive to women is hilarious. I am, and always have been, an aggressively direct communicator. I inform anyone who interacts with me for an extended period of time of this fact, that I mean precisely, exactly what I say, no more and no less. And what happens? I tell a man "I found the behavior you just engaged in unacceptable and if you want to continue to contact me, I expect you not to do it in the future." His response? "OH so I'm an awful person and I should just go … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 03:00 AM |
| 1 | What makes a physical preference valid or fair in your opinion?Anything that involves grievous bodily harm, more time or preparing than the average 9-5 allows, anything that requires the serious emotional or psychological harm of a non-consenting partner. For example, amputee fetishism considered very strange but is fairly common, but it still falls within the "sane" category so long as everyone is a consenting adult with no egregious power imbalance between them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 02:44 AM |
| 10 | Q4W: If a random guy asked you to make onlyfans content with him how would you respond?No, under no circumstances would I participate. I don't even send nudes, anybody who wants to see me naked is gonna have to do it in person. 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 11:48 PM |
| 3 | What makes a physical preference valid or fair in your opinion?So long as it's safe, sane and consensual, and there's no children or animals involved, you can have whatever preferences you wish. If you feel the need to DECLARE your preferences, for whatever reason, you're opening yourself up to criticism. Because however universal or bland your preferences might be, somebody out there disagrees with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 06:25 AM |
| 1 | Are you loyal or do you just lack better options?I value loyalty as a principal. More than that, I am instantly and viscerally repulsed by men who don't respect the boundaries of other people's relationships. Doesn't matter how physically attractive he is, if I say I'm in a relationship and he responds with some variation of "that sounds like a personal problem," I have zero desire to interact with him in any way ever again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/22 09:09 PM |
| 0 | The rise of the lone woman holding other women accountable, JustPearlyThings, illustrates that Redpill beliefs resonate with A LOT of men and that most women aren't interested in engaging in good faith in dating related discussionWait, there's people out there who take her seriously? She's a grifter and an outrage farmer just like the rest of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 05:31 AM |
| 1 | Were Women Lied To By Society?The lie was that a man will change for you. Nobody changes for others, significant and meaningful changes can only be made for and about yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 06:11 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Have you ever caught yourself or a female friend doing something that seems to confirm RP beliefs?I have a few female friends who fit the mold but the absolute worst one is my non-white friend who oftentimes ends up dating guys who are friends with other guys who went to prison and have certain Nordic themed tattoos, if you catch my drift. She's a sweet girl, but if someone called me and told me she turned up dead or missing, I would be sad but not surprised. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 05:54 AM |
| 3 | Most women cannot find men attractive because they confuse love with physical attractionThe fact that so many of you are STILL baffled by the idea that women's attraction doesn't always function EXACTLY like a man's is incredible to me. We take on ALL THE BIOLOGICAL RISK IN SEX. I do not experience attraction the way men do, plain and simple. I literally never have, even in my younger, more foolish days. My sex drive is reactive, not spontaneous. There are women who are different than me, and there are women who change over time. Now before I hear any "virtue signaling" horseshit l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 05:44 AM |
| 1 | How would you react if you found out that your boyfriend/husband is using pills for ED?Concerned for his health and a little sad that he felt like he couldn't be honest with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 04:48 AM |
| 0 | Has anyone changed their dating habits as a result of SCOTUS reversal ON Roe v. Wade?I'm in an LTR but I'm also scheduled to get my tubes entirely removed, not just tied. I'm not risking anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Women, why do you want to work?Because my grandmother, who was a traditional housewife and mother of 5 who was married at 18, drilled into me the importance of being able to live on my own and provide for myself. My grandfather, her husband, told me the same thing. That I should always be able to take care of myself, because men change their minds. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 04:15 AM |
| 1 | How can a male be a good man?Every single good man I've met had a few things in common. One, they were kind, even if they weren't nice. Niceness is a social performance, kindness is abiding by an internal moral code. Two, their sense of identity and masculinity was internal. They did not seek to perform or be validated for their performance, they found what made them happy and followed it without fear of judgment. Three, they had the emotional intelligence to communicate non-combatively. If someone said to them, "hey, this … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 03:12 AM |
| 1 | JealousyNope, absolutely a deal breaker. A man is of course entitled to his feelings, but that is a type of neurosis I have no patience for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 02:41 AM |
| 2 | Why is male “insecurity” so demonized?Because people who don't intimately and personally understand danger mock it to shore up their own insecurities and shitty behavior. I volunteer in a domestic violence program, I've seen men and women both escalate insecurities to legally actionable offenses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Why is male “insecurity” so demonized?Men who are genuinely insecure are dangerous. In a multitude of ways. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 05:49 AM |
| 1 | How would you react if your partner wanted to try non-monogamy?Absolutely not. I barely have time and patience for a single partner, adding more people to that would be a literal nightmare. If you're fundamentally incompatible with your partner in some way, split up so you can both find someone who appreciates you and can give you what you want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 05:33 AM |
| 1 | Could you ever, or have you ever been attracted to someone who wasn’t your “type”?I have a very broad, vague physical type, so if you were to put my exes together they might look as if they had nothing in common. If all of someone's exes look identical and you don't fit... I wouldn't hold my breath. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 05:03 AM |
| 1 | Most people don't think deeply about the goal of their relationshipA lot of people simply don't communicate what they think a marriage should be ahead of time. They have certain expectations shaped by their families and life experiences, and assume that's just "how it is" for everyone. I watched the marriages of most of the folks I grew up with fall apart because they had two different ideas of how a family is built and managed, and they got married on hopes and assumptions alone. Before you EVER consider getting married, there should be a lot of discussion abo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/22 07:49 PM |
| 1 | A note on desires before a relationshipI find it more useful to think in terms of shared values than specific metrics. If I shared your goals, for example, my interest would be less in the exact amount of money my partner would make, and more in their habits of spending and saving. A partner who makes plenty of money but treats it casually would be less valuable than someone who makes less, but is careful and thoughtful with their investments and expenditures. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/22 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Men in relationships, how would you feel if you and your SO were cited as an example of a "ugly/meh looking guy with a beautiful girl" couple?I've had people say that sort of thing about every man I've dated, and every single time I've reprimanded then for it. Idgaf if YOU find him attractive, he's not FOR you. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/22 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Many men report older women being interested in them. Does that mean older women lower their standards or does that mean older women had more relaxed standards?In my experience it depends on the woman in question and what she values. I have a friend in her 50s who's currently dating... like three different dudes I think? One in his late 30s, one who's close to her age and one who's getting close to 70. (Before anybody pitches a fit everyone involved knows and nobody is being lied to.) She enjoys different things about all of them. I on the other hand am in my late 30s and have zero interest in younger men, or even much older men. My friend enjoys casua… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/22 06:40 PM |
| 0 | What is your toxic dating trait?I have a tendency to be DEEPLY emotionally unavailable. I'd rather keep my feelings to myself and sort them out on my own than express myself and be invalidated or dismissed. You'd think it would be the sort of thing men would LOVE , given how much they complain about women being "irrational," but they all get deeply offended by it. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/22 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Is there a sexually unappealing type of good looking?Guys who are TOO traditionally attractive are kinda.... idk visually boring I suppose? Like Chris Evans is very pretty in a "I'd like to draw pictures of him" sense, but I don't find him sexually attractive because he's just... There's nothing imperfect about him. Give me two equally attractive men with otherwise identical bone structure and I'll find the one who's had a broken nose and who's ears are different heights more attractive, because his face has character. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/22 06:40 AM |
| 1 | How much sex do women actually have?The absolute sluttiest girl I've ever known (and I say this with love, she's a dear friend who's happily married with two little fuck trophies running around now) had a period of her life where she had roughly four or five dudes a year, for about 5 years. Her husband was significantly worse than her in that respect. I on the other hand have a single digit n-count in my late thirties, because I find the idea of casual sex personally repulsive. Even in tight knit friend groups, personal values tow… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/22 06:16 AM |
| 1 | Are worse economic conditions motivating younger women to date and marry older established men?The vast majority of younger women I interact with are interested in men their own age, or not interested in men at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/22 03:54 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather date a younger guy who looks older or an older guy who looks younger?The younger guy, no contest. I lead a practical life, I am more attracted to practical men who don't display a lot of vanity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/22 03:51 AM |
| 4 | Unless a girl tells you expressly that she's looking for a relationship its fair to be coy about whether or not you are because that's the exact same thing she's doing.And this is why men who are vague or "ambiguous" are an immediate no 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/22 04:50 PM |
| 4 | [Q4W] What's the most optimal way for men to approach womenDon't be gross and don't be entitled. I don't particularly care about the when or were of approaching so long as the man in question isn't crude and doesn't have a tantrum if I turn him down. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/22 01:26 AM |
| 8 | Women, what’s your personal expectation? A 10/10?If I were to post pics of my man most of the dudes here would rate him a 5/6 at most. But the things about him that I value, that made me fall in love with him, absolutely cannot be communicated through a pic or on a 1-10 scale. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/22 01:08 AM |
| 10 | Women who give sex before marriage, especially if they are virgin, are plain stupid.They fact that ANY of y'all think people weren't fucking in Ye Olden Days is hilarious. You think Billy the Smith's apprentice had the time or energy to verify the virginity of his potential wife? I'd y'all think paternity fraud is bad NOW, imagine a world with no DNA tests and zero social media. Fucking LOL. Humans have been fucking, whoever they want whenever they want, within the boundaries of access, for the entire length of human history. The good old days you're imagining didn't exist exce… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/22 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Why men send unsolicited pictures so easily?There's a lot of good answers here but there's also a large number of dudes with shame kinks. They do it because they get off on the scolding they sometimes get. Often goes along with blackmail and/or findomme kinks. Part of the reason I just block dudes who send unsolicited nudes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/22 03:34 AM |
| 1 | For those in successful, happy relationships, what advice do you have for the PPD community?Don't LTR somebody who you don't actually LIKE. Lots of folks have whatever list of prerequisites and they seem to forget that there's going to be hard times. If one of you is hurt or sick, if you take a significant financial loss, whatever. A person who meets all your checkmarks doesn't matter if you don't like and respect each other enough to support one another through serious hardship. If you wouldn't want to hang out with them if you weren't fucking they aren't LTR material. And if nobody y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/22 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Women don't need marriage in 2022It's 100% dependant on what you want out of life. I am monogamous but I have zero desire to be married. Most men in my demographic who had a strong desire to get married also had a very specific vision of married life and little to no flexibility in their perspective. I value flexibility, I value freedom. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 04:38 AM |
| 24 | Promiscuity and casual sex is unfair to men therefore men are 100% justified in not dating promiscuous women. Which is 100% about personality and not looks.You are entitled to have whatever standards work for you. Literally nobody on earth is required to abide by said standards, and even if they do, it's very much possible they won't find you attractive. I personally have never participated in casual sex, but I find men who are judgemental about it viscerally repulsive. There is a fear of judgment and a conformity to the attitude that is instinctively gross to me. Want whatever you want. Don't piss and moan when you can't find it. Simple. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 04:21 AM |
| 1 | Are you turned off (or made jealous by) men watching porn?So long as there's no children, animals, or deeply weird stuff involved, and he doesn't become dependent on it, I don't care. Being jealous of porn is very weird to me, he's never gonna meet those girls in real life. 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Do women feel that they are competing for a man’s attention the same way guys have to?I personally have never felt myself to be "in competition" with other women because I find the whole song and dance distasteful. If another woman needs to feel somehow above me to feel better about herself, that's reflective of an issue with her self esteem, and nothing to do with me. As for dating, I also refuse to entertain it. I do what I do to make myself happy, healthy and successful. If someone holds themselves to the same standards I do, it's a good indicator of compatability, but I'm not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Q4W- How long have most of you known your male friends?I can't speak for other women obviously but shared values in my case. Similar interests will take you some of the way but having roughly the same outlook on life will prompt people to want to share with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/22 04:06 AM |
| 1 | Q4W- How long have most of you known your male friends?I also only dated from social circles so I absolutely understand | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/22 12:01 AM |
| 2 | Q4W- How long have most of you known your male friends?I have a few gay friends and they are absolutely the best | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/22 11:51 PM |
| 3 | The idea that “if you were truly good looking/socially savvy you wouldn’t be struggling” is a huge fallacy here. Due to women’s inflated egos, even attractive men struggle.You can tell yourself it's bullshit if it makes you feel better. I have known this man literally my entire life, we're less than a year apart in age and our parents were best friends. We consider each other siblings, I trust him the same as I do my actual brother. More importantly I've seen him work. I've seen him with a gut and a bad haircut and a dirty shirt pick up two or three phone numbers in a night. I've been there after he followed through on said numbers, dropping off female toiletries … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 03:42 AM |
| 5 | Question for women who went back to a guy you rejected after an event that “lowered your value”My point is percentage wise you're going to see significantly more men do this than women, and then few women who did won't answer your question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 02:36 AM |
| 7 | Question for women who went back to a guy you rejected after an event that “lowered your value”As a fellow goth I fully understand 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 02:35 AM |
| 27 | Question for women who went back to a guy you rejected after an event that “lowered your value”My point is that it's almost never women who get nostalgia goggles and go digging up the past. If you offer a woman two men of equal value, the only difference being that she knew one in high-school and she met one in the last six months, she's more likely to pick the new guy because he's got a more realistic idea of who she is and what she wants NOW. Men are the ones who hyperfixate on their high-school crushes. Women know that. Why go to a man who's never going to be satisfied because he's fix… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 01:41 AM |
| 34 | Question for women who went back to a guy you rejected after an event that “lowered your value”I screen for incompatible life goals and personal values. If I tell a man "no" that's my final answer. In my experience it's more often men who come back years later, trying to see if you're bored or desperate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 01:04 AM |
| 4 | The idea that “if you were truly good looking/socially savvy you wouldn’t be struggling” is a huge fallacy here. Due to women’s inflated egos, even attractive men struggle.One of the most sexually successful men I know is an inch taller than I am, (5'4) and most of the men here would call him a 3 if they were being nice. He regularly has 3 or more women in rotation and has no issues replacing those that drop out. The difference is that he GENUINELY LIKES WOMEN. He sees them as fallible human beings, takes a genuine interest in who they are and what interests them, treats them with basic dignity and respect. If you're "checking off all the boxes" and he's still out… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 12:00 AM |
| 2 | Why is it most women view low self esteem in a guy a red flag, but most guys view low self esteem as not a deal breaker?Men are willing to put up with the negative behavior that stems from low self esteem, if it gives them access to sex. Women, unless they also have low self esteem, are not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/22 03:04 AM |
| 0 | Are older women really jealous of younger more prettier women?The only "bitter old woman " I've ever met was my paternal grandmother, who was precisely the kind of woman the RP stuff would work on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/22 03:52 AM |
| 1 | how do you feel about modern marriage?Marriage is now a choice, not an obligation. Very often it's the wrong choice. Interrogate your reasons for wanting to be married. Interrogate THEIR reasons for wanting to be married. Don't do it unless you're willing to suffer the consequences for the person you're marrying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/22 05:27 AM |
| 2 | You can't complain about female promiscuity if you aren't willing to marry the virgin that you say you want and provide for herIt's a natural human reflex to piss and moan about a standard or requirement that excludes you when you think you're qualified. Most of the folks that complain like that have never settled in the "50's housewife barbiturates up to the gills" fashion that they think ought to be tolerable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/22 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Purple Pillers, what would you have done to prevent this situation?Addicts are not to be trusted. Do not choose to interact with them, and if you cannot avoid the interaction, document everything. They WILL lie because they cannot help themselves. Obviously it varies state to state but record them, either audio or video. BRING RECEIPTS. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/22 05:17 AM |
| 1 | [Q4W] How would you feel if your SO told you that he didn’t care if you cheated on him? Do you need a healthy amount of jealousy or mate guarding to feel loved?You know what's more unattractive than jealousy? A complete lack of self respect. I am monogamous, I make that explicitly clear in my relationships. I expect the same from my partners. It is non-negotiable. A man telling me "I don't care if you cheat" is telling me he never took our relationship seriously to begin with. He is telling me that he will roll over and tolerate disrespect for the agreement we made together. I have been cheated on twice, and both times I immediately terminated the rela… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/22 10:15 PM |
| 11 | Do you slutshame?Depends. Are they being a responsible slut? Are they getting regularly tested? Are they prioritizing the more important stuff over getting laid? Are they making sure to only slut around with folks who are unattached? While I myself am not interested in casual sex I have a decent amount of friends who are ethical, thoughtful, careful sluts and I love them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/22 04:34 AM |
| 6 | Are older single women who never had kids actually happy or is that a lie?My best female friend is 53, single and childless. She just recently bought her third motorcycle, has three reasonably attractive men she hooks up with, and just finished setting up college funds for her younger brother's children. Everybody has their own path, just because someone isn't doing what MOST people do doesn't mean they're unhappy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/22 01:26 AM |
| 1 | True or False: Women are so complicated, they don't even understand themselves. Men are so simple, the only thing they understand is themselves.You were cheated on in the past, you get together with someone who agrees that fidelity is important. If you treat that person as a defacto cheater with no evidence of corroborating behavior, you are emotionally sabotaging the relationship. Caution is reasonable, projection is not. Projection is how you take a partner who shares your values and make them a victim of your truama. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/22 02:35 AM |
| 2 | What if some people just want to play the field? For funThere's no harm whatsoever as long as you're honest with your intentions. If others think they can change your mind and they get hurt in the process that's not on you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/22 02:31 AM |
| 3 | True or False: Women are so complicated, they don't even understand themselves. Men are so simple, the only thing they understand is themselves.You can know how you feel without understanding why. People often refuse to interrogate their feelings or positions because self examination is deeply uncomfortable. Accepting that you might be the problem is painful and daunting. Just because you feel a certain way doesn't make it true. If you have a history of being cheated on and your partner has a healthy desire for privacy you will be suspicious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/22 02:29 AM |
| 6 | True or False: Women are so complicated, they don't even understand themselves. Men are so simple, the only thing they understand is themselves.They like to think they do. And then previous relationship trauma or family trauma crops up, triggered by something totally mundane, and they hamster away their overcompensation and overreaction as "logical" when it is in fact a deeply emotional response they've buried because society told them to. The idea that men are only ever logical and unemotional is one of the primary failures of the RP. Men mirror toxic family patterns just the same as women do, and carry their trauma down generations by… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/22 02:12 AM |
| 4 | True or False: Women are so complicated, they don't even understand themselves. Men are so simple, the only thing they understand is themselves.Literally just two different excuses for "I have never once in my life indulged in any form of introspection." Your first mistake is expecting people to know themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/22 02:02 AM |
| 2 | q4w: "She wanted to have sex, but I didn't want to", you overhear a guy you never had sex with say about you. What's your response?Lol I dealt with this in Jr high. Nobody believed him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/22 01:55 AM |
| 1 | q4w: would your ex(ex's) catergorize you as "marriage material" OR "non-marriage material? How come?I'm in no way saying it is. However most men would agree that a woman was putting the cart before the horse if she popped up on date two discussing her preferred wedding venues and how many times she'd like you to get her pregnant. As much as I find the idea of being married completely disinteresting, I think most people would agree it's a red flag when someone is looking "for someone to marry" rather than finding someone compatible you COULD marry. In one case you're being slotted into a role t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 07:29 PM |
| 1 | q4w: would your ex(ex's) catergorize you as "marriage material" OR "non-marriage material? How come?The one who tried to change my mind did, more than once. But like I said, his motivation was deeply suspect. I am also, for some godawful reason, attractive to Christians who like to discuss marriage, children and me converting to their faith within two or three dates, and they rarely want to take no for an answer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, how uniform and consistent do you find women's preferences to really be, when it comes to men?I rarely agree with my girlfriends about the men they find attractive. Maybe... 30% of them have "conventional" taste but the rest vary wildly. Those 30% who do have pretty standard taste are almost always the ones getting into bullshit situations over men, too. Constant drama. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 03:30 AM |
| 3 | q4w: would your ex(ex's) catergorize you as "marriage material" OR "non-marriage material? How come?I have no idea if they considered me wife material because I told them from the very beginning that I would not be marrying unless it was for serious legal issues, and I would not be carrying any children for them. There was one who tried to change my mind but I doubt that had anything to do with me so much as his pathological hatred of being told he couldn't have something, even if he didn't actually want it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 03:25 AM |
| 1 | do you feel the need to walk on eggshells when you turn people down ? if so why ?I am always polite TO BEGIN WITH. I don't feel bad doing it but I also know it can hurt. However if I start getting hassled with the "but why I'm a good dude give me a chance" thing I will be VERY DIRECT. If I said no, I meant no, it's not up for debate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/22 01:18 AM |
| 1 | [CMV] Women get red pilled when they are just slightly above average. Men get red pilled when they are just slightly below average.My grandfather was the one who made me end up here, he'd put most of you fellas to shame. 😂 However his metrics for a HVM were different from what's espoused here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/22 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Is cheating and infidelity inevitable?There is no level of masculinity, femininity, game or whatever that will prevent cheating. Full stop. If someone's going to cheat its 100% NOT YOUR FAULT. Your best bet to prevent cheating is vetting. Choosing a partner who is honorable, thoughtful, who doesn't just love but RESPECTS you is your best bet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/22 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would you be turned off if a man told you how much he's worth on a first date?I completely agree, it's a totally normal thing to discuss. But a fellow woman dumping a checklist is just as much a red flag as a man avoiding the question entirely. In both cases it indicates a level of having already made your mind up that comes across as unattractive to what might otherwise be a good match. Nobody is obligated to tolerate disrespect and nobody wants to feel like they're being shoved into a role they're not even certain they want to audition for. Everyone is entitled to appro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would you be turned off if a man told you how much he's worth on a first date?There are good times and bad times for discussions about your expectations in a relationship. Man or woman, dumping your checklist of prerequisites on the first date like a challenge is unhinged behavior. I am in no way disparaging whatever standards she may have for herself, but she clearly needs to work on her communication. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 03:21 AM |
| 3 | Why is Dating the only endeavor where people are advised to take an auxiliary approach in order to be successful therein?Godspeed and goodluck 😤 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 03:24 AM |
| 4 | Why is Dating the only endeavor where people are advised to take an auxiliary approach in order to be successful therein?Then who does the laundry once you get in a relationship smartie-pants? 😆 Jokes aside, it's literally just a filtering process. Anything that gives you an edge in finding something that'll work long term is an advantage. It's not a chore, it's a first step in the vetting process. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 03:12 AM |
| 14 | Why is Dating the only endeavor where people are advised to take an auxiliary approach in order to be successful therein?Part of the problem here is most men's lack of prerequisites. The whole "get a hobby" thing is not about YOU, it's about the women that you're looking for. RP likes to claim all a woman needs to do in order to be in a relationship is be attractive and not be a bitch. But you need more for a successful relationship. Compatability is incredibly important, and it's not the same thing as attraction. If you want a relationship to not just work, but be mutually beneficial and enjoyable, you need share… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 03:01 AM |
| 29 | Q4W: Would you be turned off if a man told you how much he's worth on a first date?She sounds absolutely heinous, and you're lucky she threw all those red flags out first thing. As for the question, it depends on context. If it comes up naturally in conversation that's fine. If he pulls out a bank statement and expects me to be impressed that's gross. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 02:49 AM |
| 2 | Being attracted to average-looking people is settling/having low standardsThis presumes you have a novelty seeking base personality. Plenty of folks go to the same restaurant every week and order the same thing every time because they value consistency over novelty. Also the idea that you have "low" standards is nobody's business but your own. So long as you're happy and secure other people's estimations of your so-called standards are irrelevant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 05:12 AM |
| 2 | Why do you women want romance in life?I don't want "romance," exactly. I don't believe in marriage and any sort of romantic gesture made from a sense of obligation and not a genuine desire to do something nice for me gives me the yuck. What I want (what I've already found) is someone who SEES me. I spend the majority of my life forced to be fake perky, a caricature of female performance, meeting the expectations of others. He does a job where he's frequently required to perform masculinity like a stage role. When we get home we thro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 04:04 AM |
| 14 | What are the silliest/funniest/most ridiculous standards for traits in a partner that you've seen?I once had a DEEPLY Christian dude ask me out, and when I turned him down (because atheist) he got super pissy. Found out from a male friend who went to his church later on that he would ONLY go after women who weren't Christian. Some sort of conversion/domination kink I assume. Last I saw he was still single and bemoaning the state of modern women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/22 03:58 AM |
| 15 | Making a man wait for sex is an AWFUL strategy that ENCOURAGES him to pump and dump you and see sex as an END GOALYou talk about women's trauma around sex and dating, and in the same post talk about about pretending to be what a woman wants and then leaving her once YOU get what YOU want, out of... what, spite? Please tell me I'm not the only one who sees the irony here. That being said, men who engage in this sort of behavior are both a rarity and, quite frankly, doing the woman in question a favor. If you're so manipulative and neurotic that you'll put on a whole fake persona in order to get laid ONCE, be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 04:47 AM |
| 1 | “Pick better men” is a cop out to not hold men accountablePart of the reason I volunteer is to help folks who've been gaslit into thinking it's all their fault because that's what abusers program you to think. Blaming the victim is never productive. That gaslighting is so pervasive that it's soaked broadly into our culture. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 04:51 AM |
| 1 | “Pick better men” is a cop out to not hold men accountablePeople choose poorly. I volunteer at a DV shelter and I have seen just as many men as women make awful choices in partners based on emotional damage and sunk cost fallacy. The primary difference is that women don't kill/maim as often as men do. And ib4 y'all try to crawl down my throat I do what I do because my MOTHER was the abuser, an absolute emotional terrorist. Blaming the victim, male or female, is asinine. Abusers are chameleons. Literally everyone loves my mother except my brother, my fa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 04:32 AM |
| 1 | Women only play hard to get with men who have no options, dating her is easy when she's actually interestedThis is predominantly a male fantasy ABOUT HIMSELF and how cool and unobtainable he is. Weird ego masturbation. And the kind of women who are attracted to this behavior are neurotic pickmes who will make your life a holy hell the minute they feel like the attachments securing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 04:08 AM |
| 2 | Do women ever think that the high value dude they are going for can pretty much leave at any point for someone better?There is a difference, in my mind, between the "best" and the "most compatible." A lot of people seem to aim for the hottest person who'll tolerate them, and think that's winning. Then they'll be baffled when they end up alone. For me the most important criteria for an LTR is "would I still want to spend the majority of my life with you if we weren't fucking?" The "best" partner for me is someone who I can have the same level of comfort with as I would a close friend, and they can have that with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 01:31 AM |
| 3 | Is it weird if a guy asks a woman about her sexual past?Over text is weird. In person less so if you can lead the conversation there organically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 04:15 AM |
| 1 | What do you think are the ideal personality traits (for the genders you are attracted to)?I'm bi so my answer applies to both, and it's two-fold. Competence and a willingness to learn. If you don't know you need to be willing to learn, which is honestly more attractive than just knowing. If you don't know what you're doing and you look up a YouTube video to figure it out that's HOT because it means your ego doesn't get in the way of learning new things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 05:59 AM |
| 1 | Are men really worthless?Maybe I didn't word it properly. Your self esteem should absolutely be focused around you and your feelings about yourself, but having a tight knit community around you can help you see things from differing perspectives. From my perspective, your friends and family aren't there to give you self esteem, they're there to help you grow as a person. If a random person says to you "hey what you just said/did was kinda shitty," you're likely to respond poorly. If someone you trust/love were to say th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/22 08:24 PM |
| 4 | Are men really worthless?They're wonderful people that I cannot imagine living without. I genuinely believe, maybe a bit foolishly, that most people WANT to be good. The thing that prevents it a majority of the time is a lack of community. You need people around you to build you up, and likewise to tell you when you're being a selfish, antisocial asshole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/22 04:47 AM |
| 10 | Are men really worthless?Most of my favorite people on the world are men. My brothers, friends, my partner. They are practical, funny, hard working, and they love deeply and fiercely. The difference between these men and the sort of men I might avoid association with is that their self esteem is sourced 100% internally. Men who constantly talk about "validation" are immediately suspect in my eyes, because they want to be fixed. And that's not something you can get from an outside source. I cannot make you better, you ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/22 03:13 AM |
| 10 | Ladies, how true is this statement......I'm flexible on my preferences, but not my requirements. I'm also one of the weirdos who has never and will never engage in casual sex, so I have a very different perspective on mate choice than a lot of women. That being said I've seen innumerable girlfriends of mine making stupid decisions on the basis of "he's sexy," so it about happens. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/22 09:40 PM |
| 0 | Q4W Can you describe/show what “attractive men” look like to you?Somewhere on a spectrum between Seth Rogen and David Harbour. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 03:24 AM |
| 2 | How many women would be willing to get marry if child support and alimony did not exist?I own assests I would not risk to marriage, full stop. A husband in this economy? No thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/22 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Question 4 Blue Pills, No Pill or Firm Purple Pills that are married or in a relationship or have children: what sort of relationship dynamics do you have?I'm purple and my man and I have a very stable relationship. No children and no desire to have them. We split the chores in such a fashion that neither of us has to do anything we hate, we communicate in a straightforward and non-judgmental fashion. I treat him with respect and he does the same for me because we both genuinely respect one another. And despite the fact that he's nowhere near being "Chad" we have enthusiastic, mutually exciting sex at least once a day, because we take the time to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/22 02:31 AM |
| 1 | BP? RP? No. You're just fucking obnoxious .You don't like women, you like your idea of women. You like the mythical ideal of women that so many modern RP dudes buy into, that strip them of their base humanity and reduces them to a series of weird stereotypes. That somehow they're primitive slaves to their instincts and men aren't. Biological determinism is lazy and profoundly depressing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/22 03:32 AM |
| 1 | BP? RP? No. You're just fucking obnoxious .If you don't like women, like as a whole, that's a you problem. Sorry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/22 10:45 PM |
| 1 | BP? RP? No. You're just fucking obnoxious ."Cringe?" What are you, twelve? 🤣 Let's be perfectly clear here. I've heard every single RP philosophy and every single incel excuse. Every bit of it recycled over and over by every clever boy who thinks he's had a new, magical insight into the nature of the universe. And 99% of it is meaningless self-pitying noise. Either try to get a relationship or don't, use whatever tools you think will work for you but for the love of God stop WALLOWING in self pity like a pig in mud. The only thing in thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/22 07:37 AM |
| 1 | BP? RP? No. You're just fucking obnoxious .Whaaaa woman bad, whaaaa man bad, same bullshit different day. Because unilaterally blaming an entire gender for everything wrong in your life is SO healthy and productive. Either come up with some new material and ideas or at the VERY least try to have a productive conversation, or go waste someone else's time, kitten. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/22 07:18 AM |
| 1 | BP? RP? No. You're just fucking obnoxious .All I hear are angry baby noises | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/22 07:11 AM |
| 0 | BP? RP? No. You're just fucking obnoxious .Hoe is gender neutral weakling | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/22 05:47 AM |
| 2 | BP? RP? No. You're just fucking obnoxious .Incorrect but you get +5 bonus points for the creative writing exercise, very evocative. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/22 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Have modern people reversed the order of dating and sex or did this already happen in previous generations?Having grown up with several girls who started their periods around 8 or 9 years old, most of them are LESS interested in casual sex than average, because they've been sexualized by the world at large since they were too young to understand what was going on. Now obviously there's wider variables at play, but being willfully sexual and being socially sexualized by the people around you are two different things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/22 01:38 AM |
| 8 | Have modern people reversed the order of dating and sex or did this already happen in previous generations?Take this with a grain of salt (aka I've had redpill dudes say "women are just like that") but I'm 35 and my n-count is 4 specifically because I absolutely cannot fuck someone I don't REALLY like. I think some of it is up to cultural trends and whatnot, but I also think a significant number of women had their natural tendencies suppressed by previous social norms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/21 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Could many problems in contemporary dating stem from men failing to grasp how power dynamics have changed between the sexes?I don't think they're so much increasing as they are changing. Given time and sense the current instability will settle and the metrics for relationships might be different but they'll be fairly widely understood. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/21 12:28 AM |
| 4 | Could many problems in contemporary dating stem from men failing to grasp how power dynamics have changed between the sexes?A lot of men cling to the idea of being a provider when that's not really what has the best returns any longer. Having a steady paycheck isn't enough. She has to LIKE you, and while women have centuries of experience in being "likable" enough to be chosen, that's not something men have had to think about until very recently. A lot of what fuels modern breakups and divorce is an unbalanced set of expectations. It's not "you're together and it's done" now, both sides are clinging to archaic ideas … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/21 12:07 AM |
| 1 | [Q4ALL] What kind of environment did you grow up in - and how did it affect your view of dating?I'm 35, female, purple, and I grew up POOR poor. Like my father would hunt to supplement our government cheese poor. My parents fought constantly and finally divorced when I was around 14, and most of my friends came from unmarried couples. My grandparents were luckily a very shrewd, practical stabilizing influence in my life, but all I learned from my parent's example was to always be 100% capable of taking care of myself and that the sunk cost fallacy and a sense of misplaced duty will ruin yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/12/21 04:27 AM |
| 1 | When did you first notice men noticing you in a sexual way?I was 7 the first time a man said something vile to me. I looked younger because I was a malnourished little trailer park rat. I still look significantly younger than I am and I routinely disappoint men when they find out my real age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/12/21 04:02 AM |
| 1 | How common do you think it is for men to have actual game?Game doesn't exist in a vacuum. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/21 04:56 AM |
| 1 | What are some things that are hard to find in guys these days?You're the one who made the comparison to the great leaders of history. I'm speaking in the context of interpersonal relationships, not CEOs. If a man wants a woman who's going to follow his lead he has to prove he's possessed of the CAPABILITY to lead, and lead well. When my man makes a decision, I support him without qualms, because he's proven to me that he's intelligent, focused, practical, and that he has both our interests firmly in the forefront of his thoughts. He never once demanded my … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/21 11:29 PM |
| 0 | What are some things that are hard to find in guys these days?Oh please. If you think Billy Bob down in the trailer park who's never made a single sensible decision in his life is somehow comparable to presidents and generals, we have nothing to discuss. Being the owner of a penis does not entitle you to leadership. If you want to guide the ship you need to prove both that you know how to navigate AND that you have an actual, productive destination in mind. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/21 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Comparison Is The Thief Of JoyI honestly don't think it IS inevitable though. I think with enough self confidence and focus on YOU, what you need and want, you can break the habit. Just like any other maladaptive pattern. That's my point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/21 06:22 AM |
| 3 | Would it still bother you if your partner was willing to do sexual acts with exes, but wouldn't with you - but the sexual acts are ones you don't want at all?I have literally, never once, inqired into the sexual behavioral history of my man. LIKEWISE, we have never once discussed how he treated the women he was with before me, or why. Because if our relationship cannot stand on it's own, WHAT'S THE FUCKING POINT? Life isn't fair. You can accept that and do your best to go forward consciously and carefully, or you can spend all your time pissing and moaning about how the grass is greener and trying to keep up with the Jonses. You are allowed to set yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/21 04:30 AM |
| 42 | What are some things that are hard to find in guys these days?There are oodles of men who WANT to lead and very, very few who are actually capable of it. You don't get to be the "head of household" by demanding it, and respect is earned, not commanded. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/21 04:51 AM |
| 1 | I stopped asking women out.I'm always nice to the people around me, because I genuinely like people and I like interacting with them and learning about them. I have learned to pinpoint when a man starts getting "the wrong idea" though and I'll dial it back when I need to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/21 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Starting out as friends and then datingFor me personally I like a man who's been vetted by my social circle. We don't have to personally be friends but if I can talk to the guys he's friends with and ideally women he's been with before me, I get a much clearer picture of who he is as a person. My man I've been with for 7+ years was the best male friend of someone I consider a brother, who I was raised with, who I fully trusted to steer me away from douchebags and users. And he was right in his assessment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/21 05:10 AM |
| 0 | There’s nothing wrong with a coffee/walking date as the first dateCoffee or walking, maybe not so much. Lack of imagination. But I still think low cost and low investment is good for a first date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/21 02:44 AM |
| 2 | Talking about the 80/20 database and the comparison of dating in the past and now, wouldn't it translate to that most of our mothers resented our dads?I was an accidental pregnancy for a teenaged mother, who married my father because "that's what you're supposed to do." She had no skills, no life experience, she couldn't survive without him. On the day they divorced, I cried, not out of sadness but relief. Joy almost, that I would no longer have to live mired in the toxicity of their relationship. I don't blame either of them, they were young and stupid, but it was a lesson in independence. I made certain I could support myself entirely so I'd… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/21 03:30 AM |
| 1 | A man shouldn't have a problem waiting for sex ladies, if he does, it's definitely a red flag.As a woman who's never engaged in casual sex, this isn't precisely how I see it, not that I disagree. To preface- I have nothing against the casual sex other people engage in, no judgements or anything, I just find the idea gross for myself. That being said I think about it strictly in terms of compatability. A man who gets angry or upset that I won't fuck him on HIS time frame is not necessarily a bad person, merely someone I'm incompatible with. Interestingly, women who behave as I do often ge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/21 12:06 AM |
| 3 | The amount of effort men put into their female friendships is SEVERELY DISPROPORTIONATE to the amount of effort females put into their male friendshipsThis is not "friend" behavior this is, as the RP puts it, orbiter behavior. I'd estimate that a good 75% of the time this is happening it's because the man has bought into the covert contract idea that if he does these things enough he'll get laid. "But yam," you'll shout, "she's a terrible wicked temptress leading him on!" Does he have no personal responsibility? No ability to reflect and learn from his mistakes? Is he not a fully conscious adult operating in the same social sphere we all are? … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/21 03:35 AM |
| 1 | The Question of PreferenceHonestly I think the 6+ feet think is a FANTASTIC way to remove obnoxious women from the dating pool so I don't really think we disagree. I think most people, men and women, have a hard time estimating height OR weight and that arbitrary limits on the above are a cave to social pressure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/21 05:37 AM |
| 4 | Do you actually believe in all of that hyper masculine, fuck girls, don’t feel emotions kinda shit? I’m a man too, but all that chest pounding makes me nauseous.So I know it's a trigger for a lot of dudes here but THIS is what any sensible person means when they refer to "toxic masculinity." The weird, nonsensically aggressive one upsmanship focused on things OUTSIDE OF YOUR CONTROL. Healthy and functional masculinity is focused inward, on the things in your personal sphere, control and command over or OWN LIFE. Unhealthy masculinity seeks to control everything around it, to provide a comfortable lie of command. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/21 05:19 AM |
| 2 | Girl turned me down for a bad guy, then came back to me to complain when he abused her. What do I do?Block her. She's bad news, her motives are irrelevant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/21 04:46 AM |
| 2 | The Question of PreferenceThe "outgrouping" thing is fascinating to me, honestly. I have my preferences and I've never begrudged anyone theirs, but there's definitely a psychological effect where people learn you don't find them attractive and take it very personally, even if they don't find you attractive. I think to a certain extent the idea that you just have to be skinny, or tall, or funny or whatever has fostered a certain level of entitlement; and when you don't fit criteria that are broadly accepted as "the necess… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/21 04:29 AM |
| 2 | How do you feel about knowing that a lot of men will sleep with anything?Ironically my grandmother, his wife, gave me advice in the same vein, although somewhat different. My grandfather left his first wife, his high-school sweetheart who'd given him his first child, for my grandmother. She was the one who told me that you should never EVER depend on a man and you should always have an emergency fund just in case, because sometimes they just change their minds. Grim maybe but I've never been left destitute or helpless by a breakup. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/21 04:22 AM |
| 2 | How do you feel about knowing that a lot of men will sleep with anything?It doesn't change anything for me because I've known it since I was young. My grandfather was naturally RP and he was the one who taught me that a man wanting to sleep with you was by and large meaningless. When I was around sixteen years old he told me that a man without principles will put his dick anyplace he can, if he doesn't think he'll be caught. His directive to me was to find a choose a principled man; or failing that, one who was hard-working but too stupid to manage to have an affair. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/21 03:53 AM |
| 2 | [Q4All] What types of men use Online Dating?I very briefly took a stab at online dating and the results were... interesting to say the least. Honestly I think the crux of it is that on an internet platform, people can be both bolder and more deceptive. They curate the best photos of themselves and use approaches that they wouldn't dare try IRL. After the 17th dude opens a message with some variation of "hey bb what that mouth do" you get a little jaded, and you start to view all messages with a certain amount of suspicion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/21 03:45 AM |
| 2 | The Question of PreferenceHonestly I feel the same. My man's parents are painfully normal and I love them to bits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/21 03:34 AM |
| 1 | The Question of PreferenceIt was an example I've seen from a man's tinder profile, I wasn't trying to make some kind of statement. And "fat" is a measurement so subjective as to be almost useless. Unless you're talking about morbidly obese or a very specific distribution of weight, fat is in the eye of the beholder. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/21 03:32 AM |
| 2 | The Question of PreferenceI'm also an atheist and I've more than one Christian guy volunteer to "save" me. Yuck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/21 04:52 PM |
| 4 | The Question of PreferenceI love fish and I can't imagine how frustrating that must be, serious allergies are no joke. I have an allergy to coconut which is in a distressing amount of things so I have an idea of what you're talking about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/21 07:13 AM |
| 3 | The Question of PreferenceMy question was specifically what is a non standard preference you have and what have been people's responses to it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/21 07:09 AM |
| 6 | The Question of PreferenceI'm not excluding the idea that women respond poorly, I'm just speaking from my personal experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/21 07:01 AM |
| 5 | The Question of PreferenceI've learned just like you not to give a reason because it's almost always just someone looking for a reason to argue with your decision. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/21 06:59 AM |
| 3 | The Question of PreferenceGod that sounds obnoxious. I'm sorry you've had to deal with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/21 06:56 AM |
| 5 | The Question of PreferenceI've had men respond very poorly to being told no before, I absolutely understand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/21 06:49 AM |
| 3 | The Question of PreferenceI emphatically disagree and I'm unwilling to argue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/21 06:43 AM |
| 3 | The Question of PreferenceThat's deeply unusual and absolutely valid, thank you for sharing! It must be inconvenient. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/21 06:42 AM |
| 1 | QFW: A man going to therapy is a redflag?To me it's a green flag. I've been in therapy myself and it's a sign he's proactive about his issues as well as addressing them appropriately. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/21 12:57 AM |
| 1 | Do Men Do Their Fair Share of Work Around the Home?A lot of men don't. It's not something I'm willing to tolerate, but it's not an issue in my relationship primarily because we've agreed to exchange the chores we hate. For example I do all the cooking but I hate dishes so he does those, he hates laundry so I do that. It makes everything else into tolerable spot work that we do as it needs doing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/21 01:43 AM |
| 2 | Why do women keep tabs on their exes after breaking up?I don't do this but I do have an ex who sends me a long, sappy message about once a years, despite the fact that he knows I'm in a relationship and have been for a while. I wish like hell he'd go find some other manic pixie dream girl to base his entire personality around. It's irritating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/21 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why are marriages and relationships important to you?I hope you figure things out and it gets easier for you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/21 04:29 AM |
| 6 | Q4W: Why are marriages and relationships important to you?It sounds like your relationship is failing and for that I'm sorry. It's always an unpleasant process, and I hope you come out of it mostly unscathed. That being said, the harsh truth is that MOST people aren't compatible long-term. Just because you love someone or they leave you, doesn't mean it's going to work out. The process of dating is trying different people until you find one that fits. Marriage isn't important to me but my relationship is, because despite whatever difficulties we have, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/21 03:29 AM |
| 2 | Women, how would you prefer to be pursued in real life?Only if you ask her with the social grace of a drunk rhino. This is not rocket science. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/21 03:18 AM |
| 3 | Women, how would you prefer to be pursued in real life?Oh please. Sexual tension and building anticipation will cause women to throw their underwear at you. Does the RP not literally teach that? It's endlessly fascinating to me how y'all react to successful relationships that don't follow your script. And a little bit funny. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/21 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Women, how would you prefer to be pursued in real life?Are you suggesting NOT asking is the safer alternative? Because I disagree. And if you're on a date with a woman and she accuses you of sexual harassment for asking to kiss her, literally anything would have triggered her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/21 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Women, how would you prefer to be pursued in real life?He came to me at a social function we were both attending, asked if I had a moment to talk. We stepped outside and he said "I've been thinking about this for a while, I think you're fun and beautiful and I'd like the opportunity to get to know you better. Would you want to go out sometime?" It was straightforward and I liked that. No nonsense. I also knew that if I said no he wouldn't pitch a fit because I had been around him for a while, so I was comfortable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/21 11:46 PM |
| 0 | Women, how would you prefer to be pursued in real life?That depends entirely on the circumstances. I could tell he'd been thinking about it the entire time, practically obsessing over it, but he didn't want to push anything and he wanted me to want it the same way he did. The whole "give her plausible deniabiliy" thing the RP is all about is for people you have to convince. Consent is for adults. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/21 09:41 PM |
| 39 | Women, how would you prefer to be pursued in real life?My man was a friend of a friend, we met through a shared hobby (TTRGPs in our case) and he approached me directly but respectfully. No pressure but he made his intentions clear. I remember our first kiss perfectly because he ASKED if he could kiss me and I absolutely melted on the spot. Seven years plus later and I'm still absolutely obsessed with him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/21 07:56 PM |
| 5 | How do you explain the apparent lack of women?I tried dating apps once, briefly. It went poorly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/21 03:33 AM |
| 15 | When women on this sub say they are happy being single what exactly does that mean?I think so many people have absorbed the cultural idea that you're somehow "incomplete" if you're single that they've never really taken the time to get to know themselves outside a couple, and I don't think it's healthy for the modern dating paradigm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/21 09:24 AM |
| 49 | When women on this sub say they are happy being single what exactly does that mean?I was at one point single and entirely celibate for 5+ years. I didn't have to compromise on ANYTHING. Not the food I ate, not the media I consumed, how I spent my time. I didn't have to consider the preferences, tastes or desires of anyone besides myself. Literally what is NOT to like about that? I got to know myself with perfect clarity. When I eventually decided to be open to the idea of a relationship, I knew exactly where my boundaries were, what I would and would not be willing to compromi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/21 07:11 AM |
| 2 | How would you handle libido differences with your partner?If something medical like that happened I would be deeply destress for myself, I have a high libido and my man and I have sex bare minimum once a day, usually more. Have been for going on 7 years now. I have zero gripes with porn or masturbation, if that was satisfying to him, but I wouldn't tolerate an open relationship. I would set him loose to go find someone who could give him what he wanted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/21 07:35 PM |
| 2 | Q4all: why did you break up with your ex-partners?There's a disturbing number of them out there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/21 05:01 AM |
| 4 | Q4all: why did you break up with your ex-partners?Constant threats of suicide, emotional blackmail, and an attempt to force me into a threesome with someone I didn't even like. He wanted me to "save him" and I eventually figured out nothing I could do would ever be enough. So I left. That was years ago and he still tries to send me messages sometimes. I delete them without reading them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/21 03:50 AM |
| 4 | Q4W: What hardships you are willing to go through in relationship with your man? What you're not willing to go through?Anything and everything, so long as it's not self-inflicted via incompetence or arrogance, and so long as he's proactively working towards a solution and not wallowing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/21 05:49 AM |
| 1 | How is a relationship different when your partner is your best friend?My man and I are 100% best friends, and it makes everything way better. It improves our communication, and it makes us more of a team. We treat each other with a level of respect that in my experience is lacking from relationships where the couple wouldn't hang out together if not for sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/21 05:40 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhats-his-name who plays Kylo Ren. I don't find him attractive, really, but he looks like a classical painting of some kind. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/21 05:24 AM |
| 1 | Theoretically, what are some "deals" you're willing to make to better your dating/sex life? ("I'm willing to shorten my life by 3 years if it meant I could get more hookups")I'd give up like three years of my life to have perfect communication. No misunderstandings, no lies, no hidden expectations. To be able to make myself perfectly understood and understand my partners in turn. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/21 04:03 AM |
| 18 | What do you think a Red Pilled man actually is?A man who wants either casual sex or a submissive partner, and I am incompatible with both those goals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?That's what the STATISTICS say, I'm not pulling it out of thin air. If there were no statistical data connecting choking to DV and homicide I wouldn't say it. I volunteer in a DV clinic for christs sake. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?And? I'm not going to try to stop anyone from doing what they want, but it's a hard pass for me and I think it's stupid. I don't subscribe to that whole "love and light" tell people whatever they want to hear nonsense. If someone I know in person asks my opinion I'll tell them, I'll even be delicate and considerate in my wording, but I'm not going to lie to my friends. Again, sorry if that hurts your feelings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 06:00 PM |
| 13 | Another question for women: Would you consider a relationship with someone who considered themselves Red Pill or outright identifies as Red Pill?No, but it's because I don't date people who've got our relationship all planned out before we ever get into it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 05:44 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?At least he was straight forward about it, I admire and appreciate the bravery it takes to have that kind of conversation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 05:26 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?Performative sex is so BORING I totally understand. If I'm focusing on putting on a show I'm not focusing on enjoying myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?That's just smart and I fully agree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?That sounds awkward as hell I don't blame you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Is the average woman really having as much sex as some following TRP/BP would believe?Ten years and like.... seventeen years I think, respectively? If the shine was gonna wear off it would have already done so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 05:05 AM |
| 2 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?Scat or Golden showers are one of those things that from a purely intellectual point of view, I can understand, but instinctively gives me the yuck. No thank you. Degradation is the same, I get why some people like it, but I wouldn't be able to tolerate it at all. Orgies just sound like too much work frankly. 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 05:02 AM |
| 2 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?At least the man's got a good sense of humor! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:59 AM |
| 0 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?Never said it was OK . I think it's a stupid thing to be aroused by, especially if you're a woman, from a purely Darwinian perspective. But no I don't trust guys who like it, and the statistics are on my side. I'm sorry if that hurts your feelings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?Oh no the morning sickness! 😂 You live and learn I guess. I tried upside-down a few times and I just end up dizzy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:52 AM |
| 2 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?I've never tried it in the rain but I have arthritis and honestly that sounds awful. 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?I know a few folks who've tried triads and out of all of them only one is still together. Adding another person to a relationship is just too much work. 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?That's just sensible, I fully agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?I know plenty of women who are into it too, but it's not my thing and the guys who are into it are grabby in a big red flag sort of way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?YIKES the nipple thing makes me want to throw myself off a cliff. Like not to yuck anyone's yum, but... no thank you. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:45 AM |
| 2 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?Public stuff is too anxiety inducing, I totally understand that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:43 AM |
| 2 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?If you're a person who is big into novelty, I can see that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:43 AM |
| 2 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?I've never tried it specifically because I'm suspicious of putting anything with a chemical reaction like that on my bits. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:41 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?It's definitely not for everyone, I totally get it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:40 AM |
| 2 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?That all makes sense if you're a dominant, it must make dating interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:39 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?That's fair 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:37 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?Water sex is miserable and I'm allergic to mosquitoes, totally valid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:37 AM |
| 0 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?Did I mention women? No. I was talking about guys. Look up the statistics. Either way it's a hard pass for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:36 AM |
| 5 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?I've heard that comment a lot and I totally understand. It's not everybody's thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/21 03:08 AM |
| 10 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?Same here. I understand the impulse but I'm not your therapist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/21 03:07 AM |
| 10 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?Totally valid | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/21 03:05 AM |
| 8 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?It's because they're sleeping with people they THINK they should find attractive instead of interrogating their own desires. Play pretend can be fun 8t everyone has full confidence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/21 03:05 AM |
| 9 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?So this is part of why I don't like tall dudes. I'm 5,'3, I like a guy close to that specifically because I like 69 and tall dudes fuck up ratio. The less neck strain the better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/21 03:01 AM |
| 6 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?Okay hon, whatever you say. 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/21 02:58 AM |
| 6 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?Role play is very hard to do so I totally understand. I'm also not big into pain or mess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/21 02:57 AM |
| 3 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?I love me some furries and most of what they get into is just regular kinky stuff plus a mascot suit. 😏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/21 02:55 AM |
| 9 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?A tiny bit but tiny. Most RP dudes claim if she's not willing to do literally everything she did for previous partners it's because you're BB. Unless you're talking about the choking/strangulation thing? That's pretty well documented if you Google it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/21 02:53 AM |
| 4 | Q4ALL- What have you tried in a sexual context that you would never do again?Valid. If that's a hard line you draw and she doesn't respect it that's rude as hell. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/21 02:49 AM |
| 4 | Do you value communicate in a relationship?Also a gender neutral stance. Male or female or in between, if you can't tell your partner what's bothering you, and communicate it like an adult, you're the problem. Now there's a rabbit hole of people who just don't fucking listen no matter what you say but that's an entirely different thread. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/21 01:55 AM |
| 7 | Do you value communicate in a relationship?It's non negotiable. Mandatory. If you've got a bug up your ass about something or another and you cannot explain it to me in plain, clear words, we're going to have an issue. Secondary; if you're irritated by something that ISN'T me and I have to deal with a shitty attitude because of it? We're going to have words. Communication is part of a greater package of emotional intelligence, and if you're in a bad mood I need to know so I can help. But I will not be a punching bag. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/21 01:06 AM |
| 18 | Q4W: Is the average woman really having as much sex as some following TRP/BP would believe?Over the course of my 35 years on this earth I've known exactly two women who rode the "cock carousel," and they're both happily married and totally fine these days. Chastity is not a foolproof wife material selection criteria. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/21 01:01 AM |
| 3 | Do you have one type or multiple types ?Smart but not obnoxious about it, usually a juvenile sense of humor, will cast aside all pretense of dignity in the presence of a cat. Usually black or brown hair, green or grey eyes, somewhere between like 5'5 and 5'8 and chubby. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/21 05:30 AM |
| 0 | Will women really make a guy waits months for sex in order to “develop an emotional connection”?Going out of your way to prove my point for me, cute. Whatever your complex is, I'm a bad target. I'm not going to stoop to the level of petty insults. Go find someone who actually wants to fight you, I'm sure it'll be more satisfying. Have a good night! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/21 02:33 AM |
| 5 | Will women really make a guy waits months for sex in order to “develop an emotional connection”?Again, pointlessly combative. I can't figure out why exactly you're trying to bait me into fighting with you, but it's boring now. I much prefer intelligent adult conversations. Toodles! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/21 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Will women really make a guy waits months for sex in order to “develop an emotional connection”?Pizza is pretty amazing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/21 01:16 AM |
| 5 | Will women really make a guy waits months for sex in order to “develop an emotional connection”?He asked "will women really make a guy wait," and I said that I do. The fact that you don't LIKE my answer doesn't change the fact that I did, in fact, answer him. What is it, precisely, about my answer that makes you feel the need to be combative? People share personal anecdotes and experiences here all the time, what is it about mine that bothers you, exactly? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/21 10:36 PM |
| 7 | Will women really make a guy waits months for sex in order to “develop an emotional connection”?Again you appear to be laboring under the misapprehension that there's something here to argue with. I made no claims; a question was asked and I answered it strictly from my personal perspective. Now if there's something in my answer that bothers YOU, personally, too bad. Not my problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/21 10:05 PM |
| 4 | Will women really make a guy waits months for sex in order to “develop an emotional connection”?Apparently so 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/21 09:39 PM |
| 9 | Will women really make a guy waits months for sex in order to “develop an emotional connection”?And? Did you have a point? I was sharing my perspective as a woman who engages in the exact behavior OP was talking about. I made zero assertions or claims. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/21 08:17 PM |
| 22 | Will women really make a guy waits months for sex in order to “develop an emotional connection”?I've made every guy I've been with wait but I've also never engaged in casual sex. If they weren't willing to wait they were more free to go find a woman who's timetable was more to their liking. I've also never allowed "fancy" dates with a guy who I was evaluating. You find out significantly more about a man's character if you take him to a Dave and busters, get a few beers in him and then beat him at ski-ball then you do at a fancy dinner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/21 06:54 PM |
| 3 | Modern Settling Isn't HealthyAs if people didn't settle "back in the day." My grandfather married a girl he met in college and then left her and my two year old aunt when he met my grandmother, and the social stigma was so severe he moved literally to the other side of the country. His first choice wasn't a good choice for him, it was forced on him by social expectations at the time, and he took the risk to correct his mistake and suffered the consequences. The only difference now is that you usually don't have to move lite… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/21 04:28 AM |
| 2 | What do you think constitutes a “creep” or “pervert” or “fuckboy” and how do you deal with them?Well then you're arguing with the wrong person 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/21 06:15 PM |
| 3 | What do you think constitutes a “creep” or “pervert” or “fuckboy” and how do you deal with them?Hapless dorks are not creeps so long as they take no for an answer. Full stop. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/21 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Does seeing a guy receiving interest from other women change your perception of him?I wouldn't be in the bar in the first place. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/21 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Only women can stop themselves from becoming “forever girlfriends.” Men do NOT have to be upfront about their long term plans with women and it serves them better NOT to beLOL and then one day this kinda guy texts his buddies, "she just left without saying anything or telling me why, dude, just took her shit and left in the middle of the day and blocked me on everything! I thought we were fine!" Actions, meet consequences. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/21 06:26 PM |
| 8 | What do you think constitutes a “creep” or “pervert” or “fuckboy” and how do you deal with them?So every single "creep" out there is just some innocent, halpless, socially awkward dork who doesn't realize he's making women uncomfortable? Even the ones sending dick pics to underage girls? Even the ones physically crowding women on public transportation is order to "accidentally" touch them? How about the weirdos who like to take upskirt photos of women just minding their business? PLEASE. 🙄 Just because YOU haven't experienced something doesn't mean it's fake. I've never been to China but I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/21 07:42 PM |
| 5 | What do you think constitutes a “creep” or “pervert” or “fuckboy” and how do you deal with them?Exactly this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/21 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI hope you feel better soon, I have a friend suffering from long covid and it's no joke. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/21 05:48 AM |
| 2 | Qs4W: Do you hold negative perceptions of men with high n-counts?Obviously if his count is atrocious then he's disqualified, but a guy who's a bit of a man whore but genuinely likes women is more trustworthy than a low count guy who thinks we're little more than animals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/21 01:29 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: Evaluating men‘s attempts at approaching youA lot of guys want to try to debate or argue your no. "But why not, I'm a good guy, you should give me a chance, you don't even know me" blah blah blah. I've experienced it a million times and I'm a six on a good day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/21 11:56 PM |
| 8 | Q4W: Evaluating men‘s attempts at approaching youFor me, the best approach is polite and direct. The guys who don't try to work up to it or waffle are the only ones who don't irritate me. A basic "hey i think you're really pretty and I'd like to go out sometime" is better than trying to pull some slick shit. Also, if she says no, don't whine or ask why. There are few things more irritating than "c'mon gimmie a chance" bullshit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/21 07:03 PM |
| 10 | Qs4W: Do you hold negative perceptions of men with high n-counts?N-count doesn't really matter to me, so much as his attitude towards those past women, and his attitude towards his own count. Is he smug? Dismissive? Disdainful? If he's mostly positive or complimentary about the previous women in his life, I'm less worried. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/21 06:55 PM |
| 4 | Man's desire for an emotional connection with a woman surpasses his desire for sex - and the harsh reality is that men will never be able to satisfy this desireWas that supposed to be a dunk? 😂 Better luck next time dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/21 04:51 AM |
| 5 | Man's desire for an emotional connection with a woman surpasses his desire for sex - and the harsh reality is that men will never be able to satisfy this desireLOL okay champ, whatever helps you sleep at night. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/21 04:39 AM |
| 5 | Man's desire for an emotional connection with a woman surpasses his desire for sex - and the harsh reality is that men will never be able to satisfy this desireThe whole "women don't like me because I just love too hard" trope. Almost every guy I've met who thinks this way is in fact a possessive, neurotic mess. He needs to know exactly where she is, what she's doing and who she's with 24/7 or he goes into an anxiety induced spiral about what he ASSUMES is happening. (And inb4 anybody has a hissy fit yes women are also fully capable of this same type of behavior.) As for the second part, for a woman of halfway decent means, a husband is no longer a nec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/21 04:18 AM |
| 1 | Man's desire for an emotional connection with a woman surpasses his desire for sex - and the harsh reality is that men will never be able to satisfy this desirePossessive behavior is tolerable to UNBALANCED women. Passionate love is absolutely delightful to HEALTHY women. The problem is unhealthy men and unhealthy women find one another and muddle the definitions for everyone. If your partner finds the way you love off-putting, it's not an indictment of an entire gender. Either you aren't coming across the way you think you are, or she's not willing to meet you where you are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/21 01:23 AM |
| 3 | Man's desire for an emotional connection with a woman surpasses his desire for sex - and the harsh reality is that men will never be able to satisfy this desireThey're as common as dandelions. They see women as things to be owned and not separate, autonomous human beings. My ex was possessive in the sense that I was a thing that belonged to him. He resented every connection outside him that I had, and went out of his way to destroy those connections so I had nothing but him. My current partner is possessive in the sense that he's proud of me, he feels it reflects positively on him that we're together, and when I interact with other people who like or a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/21 01:06 AM |
| 3 | Man's desire for an emotional connection with a woman surpasses his desire for sex - and the harsh reality is that men will never be able to satisfy this desireThe men who make these claims often conflate love with possession, and that shit plain old doesn't work anymore. Maybe a neurotic woman will talk about a man being "clingy" when he's just attentive, but the vast majority of the time if a woman uses the word clingy it means the man in question cannot tolerate the idea of her having a basic social life that doesn't include him. He assumes the worst of her at all times, even when she's engaged in the most benign activities imaginable. The idea of h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/21 12:40 AM |
| 11 | Are women "delusional" about penis size?This has always seemed like such a weird obsession to me. I'm bad at estimating measurements to begin with, I have no idea what the length of my guy's dick is and I've never bothered to ask. It gets the job done. That's all I care about. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/21 07:20 PM |
| 1 | How do you feel about women who want to be “spoiled” in relationships?I find it a little baffling, but then I'm weird about gifts in general. If someone insists on buying me a gift I lean much more towards the practical end of things, like kitchen gadgets or warm, soft clothing. The last gift I got from my man was a creme brulee torch. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/21 09:56 PM |
| 4 | Why has the number of single women risen so much, and continues to rise, yet women are also complaining they are single and can't find a man?You would think so, but oftentimes it's not. The flip side of that coin is that when a woman is self sufficient and single, she ONLY has to worry about her preferences. When I was single a man wasn't competing with other men, he was competing with my ability to do exactly as I pleased whenever I wanted, without having to consider the desires of anyone else. I explained it to a friend like this; if someone's companionship is worth more than my absolute freedom to do whatever I please, then the co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/21 04:45 PM |
| 109 | Why has the number of single women risen so much, and continues to rise, yet women are also complaining they are single and can't find a man?Because a lot of them hear "don't compromise" and take it to mean "don't deal with any dude who doesn't meet your five page checklist," as opposed to "don't wife the first halfway tolerable man who comes along." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/21 05:29 AM |
| 3 | Are high income blue collar men attractive to modern women?He sounds fun! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/21 06:42 PM |
| 37 | Are high income blue collar men attractive to modern women?Your idea of a blue collar man is sadly limited. My man is an electrician, but also a purebred geek. There are multitudes of things about him that make him attractive, his humor and his reliability and his plain, sensible intelligence; low on that list but still relevant is the fact that he chose a practical, sensible job that's certain to cover the basics no matter where he goes. Sensible, practical women like sensible, practical men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/21 05:24 AM |
| 1 | Women, how many female friends do you know that have had casual sex while on a trip?Only the one, but it was mostly a lifestyle thing. She worked the music festival circuit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/21 02:51 AM |
| 3 | Why some women chose to communicate covertly, and how men should act in these situations?It was VERY detrimental to all my relationships. I would do everything possible to be as supportive and giving as I could, because that was the only value I thought I had, but I would become defensive or combative if someone tried to talk to me about my frustrations or problems, because it felt like a trap. Some people gave up on me and I don't blame them. Some people tried to get through to me, but it didn't work because I wasn't yet in a place where I could see that it was unhealthy for both o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 08:31 PM |
| 5 | Why some women chose to communicate covertly, and how men should act in these situations?So this is my personal experience, but I've seen it in other women and it's something to consider. My parents were emotionally stunted and unreceptive to whatever issues I might might've been dealing with at the time. I was at best expected to deal with everything on my own, and at worst expected to be the unflappable moral support for the pair of them. As a result I became a "covert communicator." I learned that the only way I was worthy of love was if I asked for nothing and offered everything… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 06:52 PM |
| 1 | What's your shallowest turnoff ?Leaving a little extra and styling it is definitely an improvement | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/21 10:30 PM |
| 3 | What's your shallowest turnoff ?I had a very polite, fresh out of the academy baby cop ask me out one time, and the haircut wasn't the ONLY reason I said no but it definitely played a part. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/21 10:15 PM |
| 6 | What's your shallowest turnoff ?Cop haircuts. I don't care how sexy you are otherwise, if you look like a fed it's an instant yuck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/21 08:28 PM |
| 0 | What's your shallowest turnoff ?Fat bear week is the best | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/21 08:23 PM |
| 0 | Where does the line between "in shape/takes care of himself" and "gym bro/rat/etc" stand?Hell yes you're speaking my language! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/21 07:43 PM |
| 13 | You shouldn't have sex with a person you don't want to have a kid with.Uh, no? Previous to paternity tests, aside from an OBVIOUS deviation in the look of the baby, there was no way to tell who the father was. And shotgun weddings are an old trope for a reason. Humanity always has and always will make dumb choices when following the prompting of their hearts or genitals. It's not a new phenomenon and aside from literal mind control it'll never stop, because we're indiscriminate carbon based lifeforms trying to replicate our DNA however we can. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/21 05:03 AM |
| 41 | You shouldn't have sex with a person you don't want to have a kid with.If you genuinely think that previous to birth control, people DIDN'T sleep with people they didn't want to have kids with... I don't know what to say to that. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/21 04:33 AM |
| 8 | In your opinion what is the perfect male height?I'm 5'3 and my ideal is probably in the range of like... 5'6 to 5'8 I guess? I don't find super tall guys attractive. If I have to WORK to make eye contact with you, no thanks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/21 04:03 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: How would you feel if the guy you are with asked you for a threesome, but with another guy.Since I'm bisexual it would be a refreshing change of pace, but I'm not into threesomes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/21 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Why do you want guys to open up emotionally if you know you are going to be disgusted when they do?It's entirely dependant on the emotional maturity of the woman in question. My man and I can talk about heavy duty emotional stuff because he doesn't expect me to solve his problems and I don't expect him to solve mine. We'll offer each other constructive feedback WHEN IT'S ASKED FOR, but other than that it's an exercise in active listening and making our partner feel seen and understood. Honestly, the most basic feedback I give my male friends is to preface any statement about feelings, frustra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/21 11:20 PM |
| 0 | What would you do in the following hypothetical sci fi scenario?Hell yes I'm going to do it! Situations change and people change. Bad things happen to good people for no reason. If I have the opportunity know for certain he's not going to get violent? I'll take it. Every time. If he wants to be mad about it that's fine. If he wants to leave over it that's fine too. My well being, the well being of our hypothetical children, takes precedence over his feelings in that scenario. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/21 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Do modern women overestimate their attractiveness? Or is it that they underestimate it?Oh give me a break. I am a pragmatist. If a man "sufficiently above me" comes sniffing around, I know PRECISELY what he's after, and he's not going to get it. In part because casual sex is entirely repulsive to me, and in part because any man who thinks he can fuck me because I'm "less than" himself is even MORE repulsive. Also, "lock him down?" Inane. How does the saying go? "Show me the most beautiful woman in the world and I'll show you a man who's tired of fucking her." Human beings are fick… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/21 10:25 PM |
| 5 | Do modern women overestimate their attractiveness? Or is it that they underestimate it?I would realistically rate myself a 5 or 6, absolute maximum a 7 if I put in a lot of work. And what it actually boils down to for me is that STRICTLY SEXUAL INTEREST means absolutely nothing. If a man comes at me with just the desire to fuck, he's eliminated from the pool of potential partners. Not because I think I'm better than him, but because it's not what I'm interested in. That's not ego or conceitedness, it's basic disinterest in what he's offering. Are there women out there overestimati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/21 04:37 AM |
| 2 | Couples are happier when the woman is the more attractive of the pair.My man is, by the unanimous agreement of my peers, "below" me in looks. That judgement is 100% irrelevant to me because he is precisely my type and he meets all my prerequisites. Could I do "better" than him? By redpill metrics sure, I could find a more physically fit man with a fancier job title. But that's not relevant because he's exactly what I want. He treats me well and I do the same because I appreciate him as a person and the skills and abilities he brings to my life that I lack. Find so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/21 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Are truly platonic friendships between women and men common?I have a decent number of male friends, most of whom I've known my whole life. If you're not attracted to one another there's no issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/21 12:01 AM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadAt the moment? Folding laundry. But I'm buying tequila tomorrow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/21 02:02 AM |
| 12 | Q4W: You have a wonderful boyfriend, but then you learn something...This is an infantile comparison. My man had an abusive ex who did all the shit to him y'all redpillers are terrified of, and I don't think any less of him BECAUSE HE WAS ABUSED. Pegging is not inherently demeaning if both parties enjoy it. Now, if I cut him off from his family the way she did? Maybe. If I demanded he buy certain things to prove his love? Maybe. But a mutually agreed upon sex act that you no longer enjoy? You aren't being abused, you delicate flower. Being subject to boundaries i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/21 01:31 AM |
| 10 | Q4W: You have a wonderful boyfriend, but then you learn something...Room temperature IQ, absolutely exquisite I'm gonna steal that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/21 01:24 AM |
| 5 | Is celibacy a red flag?I've never considered it a red flag but I've been single and celibate for years at a time before, so naturally it would seem less weird to me. So long as it wasn't a religious thing, I don't think it's an issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/21 06:57 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Women can never "raise the bar" on how men who are very attractive treat women, because of female sexual competitionWorrying about where OTHER people set their bar is a recipe for dissatisfaction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/21 07:34 PM |
| 3 | Do you like this hookup culture? Is it what you wanted or do you wish it never existed?I've never participated personally but I don't think it's healthy for everyone. I have friends who did plenty of hooking up and turned out perfectly fine, and others who very much did not. Manosphere types like to wax philosophical about "pairbonding" and whatever, but I don't think that's the issue. I think some people can have sex for the sake of it, no baggage attached, and come out the other side perfectly fine. I think a somewhat larger proportion of people use hookups as a bandaid, in orde… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/21 04:05 AM |
| 8 | Do you enjoy BDSM?A little slap and tickle is fine occasionally but I genuinely don't understand the degradation aspect other women seem to enjoy. I get it intellectually but not emotionally. If a dude started calling me names I'd leave, I understand other folks like it but yuck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/21 05:31 AM |
| 10 | What would make it worth it?I don't wanna be contrary but I think if a guy has to put a LOT of effort into being the ideal partner for someone it's not worth it for him, and vice versa. For an LTR or marriage to last y'all gotta be able to relax sometimes. What makes it worth it is finding someone who you don't have to perform for 24/7, someone you can compromise with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/21 03:22 AM |
| 6 | Q4W: What traits make men prime husband material?Funny, smart, practical. Realistic but not cynical. Capable of learning and growth. Lots of folks get set in their ways past a certain point and a successful LTR or marriage requires that both of you are able to roll with the punches and adjust your approach to life accordingly, AS A TEAM. Most importantly he's got to be someone you'd like being around even if you two weren't married or dating, and vice versa. If you two couldn't be friends in a non romantic sense it won't work out, because when… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/21 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Almost all Chads are taking anabolic steroids. You can't really ever hope to be a Chad unless you take them yourself.Fucking yikes, he looks like an action figure in the worst way possible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/21 07:24 AM |
| 1 | You wake up tomorrow and all unattractive men have disappeared, including those you know.Stop watching stepmother porn. Mad cringe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/21 07:20 AM |
| 1 | You wake up tomorrow and all unattractive men have disappeared, including those you know.Do you genuinely think women don't value their family? Like sat all? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/21 06:39 AM |
| 1 | You wake up tomorrow and all unattractive men have disappeared, including those you know.You're wrong. I value the men in my life that I'm not attracted to because they're human beings who add deep, emotional value to my life. I'm not a man. I don't think with my genitals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/21 06:14 AM |
| 2 | You wake up tomorrow and all unattractive men have disappeared, including those you know.Why does that matter? They're my family and I love them, is that not good enough? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/21 12:45 AM |
| 2 | You wake up tomorrow and all unattractive men have disappeared, including those you know.My point is it's a stupid irrelevant metric because PEOPLE. HAVE. VALUE. OUTSIDE. ATTRACTIVENESS. This weird incel fantasy that women want all unattractive men eliminated is pure, unequivocal projection of their own weird school shooter mindset. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/21 12:21 AM |
| 2 | You wake up tomorrow and all unattractive men have disappeared, including those you know.This is a stupid question. I don't find my younger brother, father, uncles or male cousins attractive but I'd be absolutely heartbroken if they vanished. Other women don't necessarily find my partner attractive, does that mean he dissappears too? What about the elderly FedEx guy who delivers to my workplace? I don't find him attractive at all but we gossip and trade dad jokes every time he comes in, and we talk about his grandkids. Absolutely asinine. People have value outside your desire to sle… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Race swapping is cringe. Angrboda should be white. (God of war)You clearly don't know anything about the vikings 😂 the original Chad's, they stole everybody's bitchez because they actually took a bath once a week. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:25 AM |
| – | Do women think that men find it attractive when...Why do you assume it's pervormative for male attention? Also just because YOU don't like it doesn't mean some other dude won't. Just because men spend all day handcrafting every aspect of who they are in an attempt to get pussy doesn't mean women do the same thing. If she's not for you, then SHE'S NOT FOR YOU. Move on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Can we normalize orgies?So long as attendance isn't mandatory. Maybe look up some swinger groups in your area. 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 01:18 AM |
| 3 | If you listen to them long enough, they'll eventually tell on themselves.Your "freedom" ends the moment it infringes on the bodily autonomy of another human being. You cannot take organs from the corpse of someone who didn't consent to save another person's life. And like it or not, scientifically, the VAST majority of abortions take place long before the uterus dweller could be considered a person. They can't feel pain, they have no higher brain function. And those that do take place later are usually wanted pregnancies with awful, tragic abnormalities that would ki… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 12:39 AM |
| 2 | If you listen to them long enough, they'll eventually tell on themselves.If you think it's wrong, don't get one. If you think a woman should be obligated to carry your child to term and parent it with you, that's a different conversation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 12:22 AM |
| 2 | If you listen to them long enough, they'll eventually tell on themselves.You're entitled to your beliefs. You aren't entitled to force them on others. Hence the reason that the couple in the OP are incompatible. It's as simple as that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 12:12 AM |
| 3 | If you listen to them long enough, they'll eventually tell on themselves.Okay so hypothetical. A woman ends up pregnant by a guy she only kinda likes, her mental health and financial skills aren't great because she's young, stupid and entitled. The man in question "does the right thing " and they get married and have the kid. Two split points here- they stay together and the child's formative years are spent imprinting on a relationship born out of a sense of obligation, no real love on either side, and said child grows up to carry on those patterns into their adult … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/21 11:41 PM |
| 1 | If you listen to them long enough, they'll eventually tell on themselves.Only because they're telling her to stop fucking him instead of LEAVE. If he hasn't got shit for brains he'll leave first. Trying to change your partner is an exercise in futility and frustration on both ends, if you have radically different principles you aren't compatible and you shouldn't be together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/21 11:19 PM |
| 0 | If you listen to them long enough, they'll eventually tell on themselves.She's a dipshit for not figuring that out BEFORE she started sleeping with him and she should leave because they have incompatible values. End of story. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/21 11:11 PM |
| 2 | What makes a man bad enough at sex that you wouldn't want to see him again?Being pushy. If I say no to something and you try to do it again I'm throwing your ass out a blocking your number. Also the inability to take direction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/21 06:26 PM |
| – | How Do You Explain The Friend Zone?Just because YOU think you're compatible with someone doesn't mean THEY think they're compatible with YOU. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/21 06:15 PM |
| 3 | [Q4W] Would you rather have a son that is more BP or RP? Why?So the question is "do I want my son to be a doormat or a dickhead." Jesus christ. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/21 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI find it fascinating and I've studied it a bit and yeah, it's nonsensical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/21 03:05 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadOh that makes sense. There's so many flavors of Christianity it's hard to keep track. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/21 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadA valid interpretation! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/21 02:12 AM |
| 4 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThe part of that that's funny to me is the mark of the beast is supposed to happen AFTER the rapture. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/21 11:43 PM |
| 5 | Is securing a Betabux more of a status symbol for 30s women than securing (non-alphabux) chad?Neither? Men like to throw around terms like "cat lady" as an insult or a threat, but I'm perfectly happy on my own. I won't bother with a man I'm not attracted to, and I wouldn't touch a guy who can't pull his own weight with a 10ft pole. If I'm single I spend my time doing exactly what I want, when I want with no consideration for anyone else's schedule or preferences. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/21 03:15 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Women care too much about wanting to look good as a couple when vetting menI've had a few women I know give me the "...really?" About my man, and without fail they're the kind of women who are perpetually single and angry about it, or in relationships with men who they don't actually like but meet their criteria. I love my man and I'm proud of him. Nobody, male or female, should ever have to tolerate being considered an embarrassment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/21 03:02 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Women care too much about wanting to look good as a couple when vetting menLOL way to miss the point, congrats. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 04:08 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Women care too much about wanting to look good as a couple when vetting menIf you're not a troglodyte, an enormous asshole or a total deadbeat and she's still embarrassed by you there's something deeply wrong with her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 03:32 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Women care too much about wanting to look good as a couple when vetting menNot necessarily. I would encourage you to spend a while thinking about what YOU want, on a deeper level than just attraction. What do you NEED to be happy, or at least mostly content? What isn't that important? And not the standard "feminine and submissive" nonsense. I am not particularly either of those things but my man and I are happy because we LIKE one another, as well as being attracted and in love. Set unrealistic standards. Then pare then down to something realistic. Most importantly, wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 04:47 AM |
| 7 | CMV: Women care too much about wanting to look good as a couple when vetting menSo if she's selecting against you already it's ALREADY a loosing proposition. A wide range is fine, but access to sex and potential girlfriends are two separate categories. If she doesn't want to be seen with you in public or on social media, do you really think you can change her mind? Is it worth it to try? Or would you rather focus the majority of your efforts on women who aren't embarrassed by you? Put your dick wherever you please but focus your attention on people who see YOU as a person a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 04:30 AM |
| 6 | CMV: Women care too much about wanting to look good as a couple when vetting menSo your options are either a woman on your level with realistic expectations. A woman who's unattractive who will cling to you like a lamprey. Or a woman above you who'll pretend she's never met you in public. Or in other words the same sort of strata RP dudes apply to women every day. And like they tell women all the time, if you can't fund someone on your level, that's either a personality problem on your part, or unrealistic expectations inflated by modern media. Again, if you just want to fu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 04:24 AM |
| 7 | CMV: Women care too much about wanting to look good as a couple when vetting menMy grandfather was a RP natural long before those ideas were popular and what he told me was "water finds its level." Men see a reduction in their dating pool as a unilateral negative when in fact, it's simply pre-vetting. If she's not worth your time, she's not worth your time. Or effort. Or attention. Because even if you do bag an Instagram girl, how long will it last, if you're not fit for her aesthetic? Why waste your time on a losing proposition when you could be finding women who actually … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 04:10 AM |
| 16 | CMV: Women care too much about wanting to look good as a couple when vetting men"The guy they would fuck" is a broader category than most RP men are willing to admit. Plenty of average and even ugly people are out there fucking. The neurotic ideal that most RP dudes strive for is less than 1% of sexual interactions. REALISTICALLY, however, I'm talking about basic social interactions, not the RP sexual hang-up nonsense. Does she LIKE you? As a person, separate from whatever PUA shit you're trying to run on her? Can you have natural conversations about mutual interest? Does s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 04:03 AM |
| 8 | CMV: Women care too much about wanting to look good as a couple when vetting menAnd I'm suggesting, as a woman, that the women who are worried about what their friends will think of your looks aren't relationship material. If you're not looking for a relationship it's not a problem, but human beings are shallow. If you want a LTR specifically those women are to be avoided like the plague. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 03:47 AM |
| 12 | CMV: Women care too much about wanting to look good as a couple when vetting menThe trick is to find someone who would like spending time with you even if you weren't fucking, because that's the kind of woman will break every rule and social convention on your behalf. If the person you're fucking isn't someone you can see as a real friend, they're just a placeholder, male or female. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 03:37 AM |
| 38 | CMV: Women care too much about wanting to look good as a couple when vetting menIt's never concerned me, but that's because I live my life in person, not on social media, and I don't give a shit about what other people think so long as I'm happy and fulfilled. If the only women you're trying to fuck have a carefully curated Instagram and more looks than sense, you get what you're after. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 03:22 AM |
| 3 | For the Blue Pill men and women, what is your view of the perfect relationship/relationship dynamic?I'm more purple than blue but I think the best basis for a relationship is being with somebody you'd like to hang out with even if you aren't fucking. So many goddamn people barely like their partner and I can't imagine living like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 01:22 AM |
| 1 | CMV: women in relationships "setting up" their single male friends with their single female friends is complete fiction, almost never happens in reality.I've set plenty of my male friends up with my girlfriends. Obviously it hasn't always worked out, because that happens with all kinds of relationships. If your female friends aren't offering to set you up it's because either they think you'll do fine on your own, they don't have any friends they think you'll be compatible with, or they don't think you're relationship material. On the other hand not every setup is because you're a catch either. I've set up my helpless manbaby friends with nurturi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 01:19 AM |
| 2 | Why are pick me girls criticised?The point is that male or female, pick me or simp, they're a bad, unstable, and ultimately toxic choice as a partner. If you spend all your time and energy catering to your significant other and reserve nothing for yourself, you're going to burn out. Pick mes compromise EVERYTHING about themselves to be chosen, and that's unsustainable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/21 09:13 PM |
| 3 | Why are pick me girls criticised?That's what most men think in the beginning, yes. But let's follow this to it's logical conclusion, shall we? Our pick me has structured her whole life around the idea that if she's got a man she'll be happy. She tailors her interests, her entire personality, around attracting and keeping said man. And finally she gets one! She's delighted, on her absolute best behavior, and further restructuring her entire identity to suit him specifically. Maybe she starts obsessing over football stats, or she… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/21 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Why are pick me girls criticised?Pick mes generally don't actually make good partners because they want "a man," not you specifically. RP men talk about wanting genuine desire, but to the pick me, whatever man she has in her clutches is a placeholder, a prop in the fantasy she's created about the life she's living. And what's rarely discussed is the backlash you'll experience when you fail to play your role in her make-believe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/21 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Women of Reddit, why would you cheat?Because she's a hypocrite with awful taste in men. She gets cheated on pretty often too, it's just become a lifestyle at this point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/21 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Women of Reddit, why would you cheat?I agree it's not an excuse, and I've never cheated, although I've been cheated on. But the question wasn't asking for a justifiable reason, just a reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/21 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Women, how would your perfect partner act in a relationship?Like my current partner. Smart, self-sufficient, practical and solution oriented. Funny but in a mildly juvenile fashion. Affectionate and completely not self conscious about it. Honest to the point of mild awkwardness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/21 03:32 AM |
| 14 | Women of Reddit, why would you cheat?Almost every woman I know who's cheated on her partner did it because she was dissatisfied. The type of dissatisfied varies from person to person, but it's usually the root cause. There are always outliers, though. I know a woman who's cheated on literally every single partner she's ever had, and it's just because she's easily bored and she's easily swayed by positive male attention. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/21 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Do you think it's preferable for a woman to act more masculine or more feminine? What's your personal preference?I think it depends on the woman in question, her confidence, and her environment. I've been accused of being "masculine " before, usually by men I wouldn't sleep with. In reality, a woman who is called "masculine" has violated some perceived social boundary and acted outside her acceptable role. If she is successful or not offensive in her behavior, she's confident or assertive or she knows what she wants/needs. If she violates her perceived role that's when she becomes "masculine," unappealing.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/21 04:39 AM |
| 2 | Blue pill thoughts that women typically haveThe idea that you can "fix" a man or change him. He's not suddenly going to become a better person if you're married, or if you have a baby. You cannot love someone into being the person you want them to be, and you can't bully them either. Significant personal change is only ever internally motivated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/21 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadOh that's good 😂 Although to be fair I'm less of a greens girl and more of a whole roast rabbit and potatoes with Dijon sauce kinda girl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/21 01:52 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI'm glad it's not just me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/21 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadAllow me to be more specific then. I'm not going to argue about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/21 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadVery true, but it irks me regardless | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/21 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadOh absolutely 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/21 03:00 PM |
| 12 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadSweetheart I'm a woman, don't start with me. You pinkpill types are often times just as toxic and neurotic as the worst redpillers, externalizing your trauma and pathological behavior on everyone around you in a desperate scrambling to avoid accountability in solving your part of your issues. This is actually a primo example! "Here's a post that's fairly nonsensical, I'm going to imply it's toxic and try to tie it back to my pet issues because I have a one-track mind and I love to manufacture ex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/21 06:08 AM |
| 7 | Is love worth it?That depends entirely on if you find healthy, functional love. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/21 05:58 AM |
| 3 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI would suck at Jeopardy, my knowledge is deeply specialized 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/21 05:31 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadDamn you that pun was almost good 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/21 05:20 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI'm an awful gardener, but I'm a good cook so it all balances out in the end. 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/21 05:08 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYou're entitled to your perspective. I happen to disagree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/21 04:52 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI DID say it was dumb. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/21 04:52 AM |
| 9 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadHonestly sometimes I'm annoyed by the dumbest things. I've yet again seen some dude in a thread call a woman a "hoe." That is a GARDENING TOOL. There is no E you moron, it's short for "whore." Ho is for women, hoe is for gardening. It's not complicated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/21 04:43 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Have you ever had a long period where you couldn't meet a guy you liked? How long did it last?I've never been one to go looking for a relationship. I've spent more than a few years single and happily celibate before. Because I've never had any interest in casual sex I skipped over online dating entirely, the few dates I went on were with people I met organically in real life. Which is not to say I don't go after what I want. When my current partner broke up with his former girlfriend I had snapped him up in less than a month. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/21 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadHey don't get me wrong, renting is WAY WORSE. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/21 03:14 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI know a guy who makes leather masks that are GORGEOUS, crazy old dude who goes hunting and uses leather from the deer he takes down. He does the festival circuit and makes absolute bank for like three months, then spends the rest of the year as a survivalist hermit. Very cool dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/21 03:18 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadHouse shopping is so stressful I STG. If I didn't have like four real estate agents in my family I would be exhausted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/21 03:06 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI know four people off the top of my head who've lost relatives in the past two weeks, it's absolutely batshit crazy. This is why I got vaxxed at the first opportunity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/21 03:02 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadProbably knitting. I'm very much a gift giver and I've always liked the idea of handmade stuff, I just don't have the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/21 02:59 AM |
| 1 | How did the genders get to this point?People are damaged and imperfect, and they want something to blame for their problems outside themselves because it absolves them of any responsibility to better themselves and take accountability for their behavior. People will do literally anything to avoid self-reflection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/21 02:06 AM |
| 0 | Is body count a part of modern dating culture?I've been asked a couple of times and I'm usually met with disbelief when I answer. I have a lot of promiscuous friends but casual sex is very much not for me. Honestly I see it as a medium strength red flag if a man asks me, because he's usually already got an idea of what he THINKS the answer is going to be. And I respond poorly to being called a liar. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/21 04:07 AM |
| 2 | Can average men state what they want upfront and get it?Depends on what the man brings to the table. And on the quality and quantity of women he's asking. Part of the issue is that lots of men go about "asking for what they want" in the most explicit, pornographic fashion imaginable, and the majority of women find that off-putting and downright aggressive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/21 01:33 AM |
| 2 | What kind of compromises have you made for your partner? What compromises are you (not) okay with?I think you're right about the issues, and a lot of the time it's control issues. People feel the need to control their partner because they aren't suited to one another, but you can't MAKE the right partner, you have to FIND them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/21 01:14 AM |
| 3 | What kind of compromises have you made for your partner? What compromises are you (not) okay with?I totally understand that. In our case, my family really likes him, and his family really likes me, so we mostly just do a rotating schedule so nobody feels left out. It's all about figuring out what works for you as a pair. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/21 08:07 PM |
| 3 | What kind of compromises have you made for your partner? What compromises are you (not) okay with?I have my issues like anyone but I know where my boundaries and needs are. And I know that my man is smart, capable, and worthy of investment because I chose him carefully and we're aiming in the same direction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/21 05:37 AM |
| 5 | What kind of compromises have you made for your partner? What compromises are you (not) okay with?Food sometimes? And what to watch? But it's all very minor and usually involves "we'll do this today and that tomorrow," none of the dramatic compromises you see people complaining about in the relationship subreddits. We are, for example, buying a new house. I told him the only things I wanted were a bathtub and decent counter space in my kitchen, and everything else was up to him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/21 05:30 AM |
| 6 | What kind of compromises have you made for your partner? What compromises are you (not) okay with?The only compromise I've had to make with my partner is who's family we do holidays at. But I went very far out of my way to find someone who shared goals and aspirations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/21 05:19 AM |
| 1 | “Men marry because they are tired; women, because they are curious: both are disappointed.” How much have things changed since Oscar Wilde wrote this quote?I think it's a lovely quote that's not applicable to the current nature of relationships. Modern marriage is more often than not a matter of timelines and social expectations that don't match up to the reality of what people are dealing with. People get married now "because it's time" or because they want children, without considering the long-term ramifications of the modern relationship market. A marriage is no longer an expectation or a requirement, it's a luxury. And that's only if you're se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/21 04:33 AM |
| 4 | Texas Abortion Laws Mega-ThreadThe abortion "debate" was artificially drummed up in order to try to discredit Jimmy Carter. Learn some goddamn history people. Literally just Google it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/21 03:21 AM |
| 2 | Intelligence used to be and still is relatively a gendered traitIt's generally an issue of "can the woman in question both understand and appreciate the applications of your competency." I used the example of a mechanic because it's both complex enough that it requires a certain amount of skill and/or training, and practical and tangible enough to be easy to appreciate for someone who doesn't necessarily understand the exact methods. Women are often socialized to at least FAKE interest in what their partner does, and the sweet spot is in finding one who can … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/21 03:48 AM |
| 1 | Intelligence used to be and still is relatively a gendered traitObviously it's my own personal bias, somewhat, but it's not exactly INTELLIGENCE that women are attracted to, it's COMPETENCE. A man with a doctorate and an auto mechanic, all other factors of attraction being equal, it's likely the mechanic will have at least a small advantage because his competency is easily observed and practical. The guy with a degree in philosophy or something like that not so much. A man who can see a problem, plot a solution and then implement said solution successfully i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/21 10:21 PM |
| 2 | The name of the game is brutal, painful honesty on this prompt folks.Plenty of women pick absolutely awful, shitty men and habitually stick by them, until it becomes too much, then move on to the next awful douchebag. Plenty of women have wildly unrealistic standards, and spend their lives pissing and moaning that no man "in their league" can meet those standards. Plenty of women get married because "it's time," or they want children, and they take the first halfway acceptable man who comes along and are later SHOCKED when the marriage doesn't work out and nobody… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/21 04:59 AM |
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