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| 11 | How to stay motivated to approach women | Inner Game | Swimming_Fortune | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 04:52 AM |
| 5 | My Perspective On Approach Anxiety and How to Get Rid of It | Inner Game | Swimming_Fortune | /r/seduction | 07/05/21 10:56 PM |
| 3 | How to meet women in a small town? | Lifestyle | Swimming_Fortune | /r/seduction | 29/05/22 06:42 PM |
| 2 | When to call girl after texting? | Removed: No Beginner Topics/Too Broad | Swimming_Fortune | /r/seduction | 02/06/21 12:03 AM |
| 2 | How to Get Over Approach Anxiety | Fundamentals | Swimming_Fortune | /r/seduction | 24/09/20 11:44 PM |
| 1 | How to Approach this Girl? | Removed: Specific Situation / post on r/askseddit | Swimming_Fortune | /r/seduction | 20/05/21 01:02 AM |
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| 1 | How to stay motivated to approach womenHow do you know I'm not an introvert? And Tinder has gotten me some great results (although not very often). I'm certainly not going to quit using Tinder if it works for me. | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 04:55 PM |
| 1 | How to stay motivated to approach womenOkay, I will, thanks. Hard to motivate myself to start conversations sometimes, but I'll keep trying. I've probably been doing it wrong before--randomly interrupting conversations, etc. The only reason I've done this is because I've felt like there are literally no other options (outside of online, which I've been doing). | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 03:35 PM |
| 1 | How to stay motivated to approach womenOkay I'll try that. Like I said there isn't much in my area, but I can probably find something if I look hard enough. | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 03:28 PM |
| 1 | How to stay motivated to approach womenGood idea--there aren't many classes like that in my area though unfortunately. I've thought about going to specific coffee shops repeatedly. | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 03:17 PM |
| 3 | How to stay motivated to approach womenLast sentence wasn't necessary, but you make good points with the first questions. I probably am doing something wrong in either the way I'm approaching or the contexts I'm approaching in, but I'm not sure what to do about that either. | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 03:13 PM |
| 1 | How to stay motivated to approach womenI will, but the tough part is I've never gotten the reward from it yet | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 03:02 PM |
| 3 | How to stay motivated to approach womenYeah good idea, I will try. | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 05:32 AM |
| 6 | Little newbie stepsGood, keep it up | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 02:36 AM |
| 23 | Do girls ever tell guys to stop contacting them as a test?You haven't even met her in real life. Move on. | /r/seduction | 30/06/22 12:52 PM |
| 1 | How many approaches it takes you to get a number\equivalentFor me it was 1 out of every 5 or so. But a number actually leading to anything happening? MUCH lower ratio. | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 12:12 AM |
| 22 | My gf drags guys along for emotional support. Don't be that guy.Or she could just be keeping her options open in case she gets bored of you. Just sayin' | /r/seduction | 20/02/22 04:06 PM |
| 1 | I wasted my teens and 20s focusing narrowly on savings money. I did not enjoy the process or experience much in life. I am socially a hermit and have never even flirted with a girl. How do I unscrew my situation?Definitely start approaching women. Look up Mike Mehlman and read his stuff and join his WhatsApp approach group. He didn't start approaching women or have any experiences until age 25-26 at least, now he's in his 30s and is basically an expert on it, getting laid constantly all just from cold approach. You'll have to fight through a lot of anxiety and doubts when you do this, but it will be well worth the effort. 28 is still super young. | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 12:20 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Yeah you should absolutely approach. Look up Mike Mehlman to learn more about approaching and getting over approach anxiety. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 12:17 AM |
| 17 | I missed out on my teens, and I fear my 20s will be the same. Advice?You haven't missed your golden years at all. I'm 24 and in the same situation, but I recently started approaching women. Bottom line is you're not going to get the results you want unless you work for them, so you'll have to approach a lot of women and face your anxiety about it. Look up Mike Mehlman. He had no success with women until 25-26 and now he's 34 and getting laid a ton just because of how much he approaches. You can talk with him for free on WhatsApp too and he has some great advice. … | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 12:13 AM |
| 2 | Feel intimidated by attractive women, not sure how to fix it.The only solution is to start approaching. I have had an inferiority complex when it comes to attractive women for a long time but I forced myself to start approaching them. I still have an inferiority complex and anxiety but the anxiety gets much better with repeated approaches. But you have it backwards. You can't fix your mindset before you take action, the only way to fix your mindset is by taking action even when you don't feel ready. Look up Mike Mehlman. | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 12:10 AM |
| 2 | Update to the "25 year old virgin. Have a date and then Netflix and chill" post I made. For some reason the mods removed it.yeah it's tough, a girl who was excited to see me literally flipped in 10 seconds and blocked my number and all other ways of talking to her. Always gotta be ready for that. You should always have other women you're talking to. Not saying being a player but just have other options and practice cold approaching | /r/seduction | 10/07/21 01:59 AM |
| 3 | Update to the "25 year old virgin. Have a date and then Netflix and chill" post I made. For some reason the mods removed it.Good, sounds like a great experience. I'm 24 and in a similar situation as you, just now expanding my comfort zone and being open and vulnerable with women. One thing I'll caution is that as hard as it is, to try not to develop strong feelings for her just yet. Sometimes when i've thought things are going well and did something like that, I ended up getting ghosted. I hope it works out for you, I'm just offering a word of caution to be careful with your heart. | /r/seduction | 09/07/21 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Daygame: Tried to do my 2nd approach. Failed. Feeling hopeless. Advice?Yeah I still get the fear too, I'm pretty new to it still too. But nothing bad happens. Like today I straight up walked up to three chicks outside and called one of them attractive and I literally interrupted their bible study lmao. Which would be mortifying to some people but I just laughed it off. Still asked for her number too lol. And I almost didn't do it cuz approaching groups is still hard for me too, but I'm glad I did even though it can be super awkward. Think of it as being curious abo… | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 11:28 PM |
| 1 | Daygame: Tried to do my 2nd approach. Failed. Feeling hopeless. Advice?yeah for sure. You gotta just accept that at first it'll be really awkward. And you might be visibly scared. but that's okay, gotta do it anyway. Some girls will think it's cool ur approaching and admire ur courage, some will be attracted to you and give their number, others will be indifferent, others might be irritated/creeped out. But it doesn't matter how they react, you gotta just keep doing it and realize the fear is irrational, you're not actually putting yourself in any danger. But it de… | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 05:16 PM |
| 3 | Daygame: Tried to do my 2nd approach. Failed. Feeling hopeless. Advice?You gotta stop looking for the perfect situation and girls by themselves. Approach girls in groups even just walking down the street. It'll be terrifying and embarrassing at first (was for me) but it eventually gets better after a few dozen approaches. You have to really WANT it. If someone offered you a million dollars to approach a girl you'd do it. Ur capable of it u just have to commit to doing it and don't worry if you embarrass yourself. I used to be Terrified of it for years and had liter… | /r/seduction | 27/06/21 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Male, goodlooking, something blocks me from approaching girlsYou say you "can't" approach women. Bullshit. If someone offered you a million dollars to call a girl attractive, introduce yourself and ask for her number, you'd do it. You're perfectly capable of doing it, you just don't want to bad enough yet, that's all there is to it. It's really not complicated and there's no magic solution. Yeah you'll feel embarrassed and even scared a few times but if you really want to do it, you can't let a little temporary embarrassment and anxiety stop you | /r/seduction | 27/06/21 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Approaching Cars?No | /r/seduction | 27/06/21 04:46 AM |
| 3 | Approaching Cars?Idk, to me it's weird unless she's looking and smiling at you. I wouldn't confront a guy on it though unless he's obviously harassing her | /r/seduction | 25/06/21 04:44 PM |
| 1 | I did my first cold approach!yeah ive gotten numbers but not many. you have to do a lot of them to get good results i think. but it'll be worth it | /r/seduction | 19/06/21 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Trying out day game for the first time tomorrowgo direct and straight up call them attractive. dont bother asking for directions. the anxiety gets worse that way because you know deep down thats not why you're talking to them. make it clear in the first 30 seconds of conversation why youre talking to them and you will feel better and there will be less tension | /r/seduction | 18/06/21 10:04 PM |
| 1 | 20 something girls, ego, bitchiness, thoughts-they're not all that way, some hot girls are very nice, in fact Ive found the less attractive ones are more mean than the really hot ones. I def wouldn't stay with a 41 yo unless youre absolutely convinced youre in love and even then don't commit to anything. you might regret it. just my two cents lol | /r/seduction | 18/06/21 10:02 PM |
| 2 | SA is the root of my AA. i’m not nervous approaching, my skin just crawls drawing unsolicited public attentionsame thing happens to me. I think the only thing to fix it is practice and forcing yourself repeatedly into situations that are uncomfortable. That is helping me a bit | /r/seduction | 18/06/21 05:41 PM |
| 3 | I did my first cold approach!Nice. I've just started too. I've done like 32 but I'm still very much a noob. it actually gets harder because youll get some bad reactions. the key is to become outcome independent and keep doing them anyway, which I'm still trying to work on myself. | /r/seduction | 18/06/21 05:39 PM |
| 11 | Is It Normal For Some Women To Be Mean When You Approach?yeah I can see how it'd be scary for women to be approached. I always try to be as respectful as I can when I do it and never say stuff like that. To be fair tho a lot of the guys who say creepy stuff are probably harmless, they just have no social skills. it's not easy for a lot of us guys to know how to navigate the dating world lol and it's hard when we're always expected to make the first move yet never taught how to do it appropriately. | /r/seduction | 17/06/21 09:54 PM |
| 0 | Is It Normal For Some Women To Be Mean When You Approach?Yeah it's normal, just ignore them and keep approaching. Unless you said something really weird or creepy it's not your fault. | /r/seduction | 17/06/21 09:50 PM |
| 3 | [FR] First time cold approaching since college [25M]Like "hey how's it going, just thought I'd say hi." and she would be like "hi" and then I ask what her name is and tell her mine and then say "honestly I thought you were attractive" or something like that. Sometimes I talk about something in the surroundings first or ask what she's doing. Then ask for a number as she leaves. Idk. I'm not good at it yet. Every conversation can go differently. | /r/seduction | 07/06/21 04:59 PM |
| 1 | [FR] First time cold approaching since college [25M]Not usually immediately, but I'm trying to within the first few sentences of meeting them. I used to be afraid of going direct like that but I decided to start doing it. Like I said I'm a beginner too so I haven't done it that much. Usually they like it and say thanks for the compliment. Yesterday I got the funniest reaction from a woman when I called her attractive, she's like "I'm VERY attractive, thanks for noticing." And she was insanely attractive and dressed really well so it was pretty ob… | /r/seduction | 07/06/21 03:38 PM |
| 2 | What types of girls should you approach?ok, sorry. but i think you should approach women you find attractive. that's what I'm doing, I'm only approaching the hottest girls | /r/seduction | 07/06/21 12:43 AM |
| 1 | [FR] First time cold approaching since college [25M]yeah it's good that you're starting though. I"m a beginner too. My "template" for the interactions is to make sure I let the girl know I think she's attractive, then make some small talk/conversation and then ask what kinda stuff she likes to do, if she would want to hangout, then ask for number | /r/seduction | 07/06/21 12:41 AM |
| 1 | What types of girls should you approach?You say you don't feel fear, but yet you don't approach them even though you're attracted to them. I used to be the same way. The reason you feel no anxiety is because you know you're not going to approach them, because you subconsciously already made an excuse not to and don't want to badly enough. You haven't actually committed to approaching, you're just fantasizing about doing it someday. Once you actually make a conscious decision to approach and start walking over toward the girl and start… | /r/seduction | 06/06/21 11:53 PM |
| 8 | [FR] First time cold approaching since college [25M]Nice, also try to make it clear to them you think they're attractive and try to get their number/set up a date | /r/seduction | 06/06/21 11:48 PM |
| 2 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?yeah idgaf about what they say. Most women I approach in the daytime say thank you for the compliment and I probably made their day. Some are annoyed by it but they'll get over it in 5 minutes so I don't really care | /r/seduction | 05/06/21 03:57 PM |
| 1 | My first approach and why I'm an idiotYou're not an idiot, you did great! Next time just say, 'it was nice meeting you maybe we could hangout sometime, do you have a number or snapchat or something I can get' | /r/seduction | 03/06/21 12:52 AM |
| 1 | When to call girl after texting?She seemed flattered at the time but maybe she was just being nice. I'm pretty much over it | /r/seduction | 02/06/21 02:57 PM |
| 2 | When to call girl after texting?I approach lots of girls but this girl was literally 10/10 face and body and was super super friendly. And my last few approaches before then the girls had horrible reactions to me, really bitchy or creeped out so I started thinking maybe something will work with this girl because she was so nice and willing to give her number and wanting to hangout. I know I'm too obsessed but it's hard for me not to be | /r/seduction | 02/06/21 01:24 AM |
| 1 | When to call girl after texting?We did plan to go hiking and check out some parks this week later. She just didn't know when she'd be free to do it yet so we didn't plan a specific time. She definitely seemed attracted. She hand wrote her number on a piece of paper for me and she seemed super open and ultimately asked ME if there were cool things to do around here. Why would I wait three days to call? That's a dumb mind game imo but what do I know lol | /r/seduction | 02/06/21 12:58 AM |
| 5 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?I just approached a drop dead gorgeous girl laying in the grass studying. I thought she would be really offended by it and was scared and almost didnt do it but she was super receptive and ended up giving me her number and asking ME about things we could do. Idk if anything will actually come of it, I'm very cynical because I've gotten my hopes up about shit like this before and then nothing happened. But my point is that you don't know how a girl is going to react to your approach unless you ap… | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 11:45 PM |
| 3 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?yeah a woman on here once told me it's "wrong" to say even say "hi" to women in public places during the daytime because it "scares" them and personally attacked my character for doing it | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 06:46 PM |
| 8 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?it's not always about getting the girls number, it's about doing things that are out of your comfort zone because you want to and not letting fear hold you back | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 06:31 PM |
| 5 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?It's hard for me too and I'm still trying to get over this so I'd be interested in reading the answers. I've done it but it's hard. You basically have to realize it's not normal or "socially acceptable" and do it anyway because you want to. Easier said than done I guess. I've seen girls who thought it was really cool that I did it and said they admired my courage. Other girls are annoyed, others get creeped out. I guess you have to just not care about outcome or reactions | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 06:30 PM |
| 14 | Approached a girl on the street for the first time today!Nice, that's awesome. Also, if you keep doing this you're gonna get some really negative reactions once in awhile, so don't let those stop you or bring you down. As long as you're not yelling out sexual comments or something lol, it's not your fault if girls act rude or weird haha. | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 03:50 PM |
| 1 | I need help I keep fucking everything up.ur a high school freshman. chill out lol | /r/seduction | 21/05/21 03:22 AM |
| 1 | I'm going to share with you guys the ultimate trick to quieting your mind and stopping mental chatter when talking to women!Interesting, will have to try this | /r/seduction | 20/05/21 05:18 PM |
| 1 | How to Approach this Girl?Aside from using the word "colleague", sounds good lmao | /r/seduction | 20/05/21 03:28 AM |
| 3 | Focusing on game and pickup for the summer - need suggestionsSame, I'm 24 and was basically a loser with women all through college, barely had any friends. I just started cold approaching, have approached 14 women in the last 3 weeks, got at least 6 Snapchats, 1 number, but only one girl responded. It's a numbers game I think. I just wanna keep cold approaching to improve my social confidence and eventually get an attractive girlfriend who is into me. Honestly it was super hard at first and I put off starting for YEARS but I think I'm starting to literall… | /r/seduction | 19/05/21 03:01 AM |
| 2 | Opening with I have Aspergers?Cool, yeah, you have a nice day too. I admit I probably shouldn't have stated it's a made-up disorder as an absolute fact. Prolly shoulda just said it was my opinion or somethin | /r/seduction | 18/05/21 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Opening with I have Aspergers?I don't know if dyslexia can be measured on brain scans or not, but most of the time, the diagnoses are done anecdotally, not by scanning the brain. I guess what I'm saying is, I think it's true that some people might have a harder time learning certain skills and behaviors, but instead of attaching their entire identity to a label, they can just realize that they need more help/practice in those areas than others. I think overall we're on the same page about this. I appreciate that you can actu… | /r/seduction | 18/05/21 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Opening with I have Aspergers?Anxiety definitely exists, because it's a measurable, quantifiable disorder. You can actually measure the increase in heart rate and blood pressure, shaking, etc. My main point is that I don't think it is productive to label kids with disorders, and it negatively impacts their self esteem. If you tell your child they are "dyslexic" or have "Asperger's", how do you think that impacts their self-esteem and dedication to improving their skills longterm? I was socially retarded for years, and said a… | /r/seduction | 18/05/21 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Opening with I have Aspergers?Of course it is. I used to be terrible at math. My worst score on the ACT was in the math section. So you know what I did? I worked for 4 hours a day for the next 4 years to improve my math skills, and got a Bachelor's degree in Mathematics. I didn't label myself a victim with a bullshit disorder. Anything can be achieved with enough work, but those who are lazy would rather depict themselves as being a victim of a "disorder" rather than take the initiative of doing the work. It's a lot easier a… | /r/seduction | 18/05/21 05:14 PM |
| 1 | Opening with I have Aspergers?You hope I get hit by a car? Lmao. You're gonna go far in life with that attitude, kid...NOT. You're bitter about the fact that you don't have the balls to work on yourself and your own social skills with women so you come bitch to people online because you won't take responsibility for your shitty life. You sound like the next Elliot Rodger, dumbass. | /r/seduction | 18/05/21 05:12 PM |
| -3 | Opening with I have Aspergers?No, Asperger's Syndrome is a made-up disorder, and this is coming from someone who has been incorrectly labeled with the disorder as well. Social skills can be learned just like language, mathematics, driving a car, cooking, playing an instrument, or any other skill. Similar to ADHD, it's nothing more than a label that lazy parents put on their children who have naturally lower baseline social skills and need to work harder than the average person to learn them. But, they can still be learned, i… | /r/seduction | 17/05/21 11:49 PM |
| 2 | Only had a 5 second discussion with a girl .. still I feel good?Good, keep it up and start asking for snapchat or numbers. | /r/seduction | 16/05/21 09:20 PM |
| 2 | How to get past mental issues regarding confidence, making a move, and being a sexual guy?You sound a lot like me actually, and I'm still working on these issues, but have started to get better at it. I had CRIPPLING approach anxiety and social anxiety for years. In college around your age I couldn't even talk in class without my heart pounding and almost having a panic attack (I'm 24 now). You mentioned your parents don't give you any relationship advice. Is their relationship bad? For me, I think a lot of my issues stemmed from the fact that my parents have a bad relationship, with… | /r/seduction | 16/05/21 09:17 PM |
| 4 | How did you increase your confidence to approach people?You just have to approach anyway whether you have confidence or not. There are no magic tips. You have to accept that you'll be scared and do it anyway. | /r/seduction | 15/05/21 05:01 PM |
| 5 | What steps do someone take if they know a girl like them even though she doesn't flirt nor make it clear?Ask her out | /r/seduction | 13/05/21 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Field Report from a 15yr oldOh god... | /r/seduction | 13/05/21 05:20 PM |
| 1 | How to get attention from girls ?What makes you think a random girl would laugh at you if you talked to her? How many times have you talked to random girls? | /r/seduction | 13/05/21 05:19 PM |
| 3 | First cold approach in a long timeThat's awesome. Keep it up. I've done 9-10 cold approaches in the last couple weeks and I just started. There's definitely no magic to it and it's still really hard. If you're serious about it you have to find a way to keep yourself motivated with either positive or negative reinforcement because otherwise you're gonna get discouraged. Even when you have good conversations they usually never text back, or say they're busy. But all it takes is finding ONE girl who actually responds positively so … | /r/seduction | 12/05/21 03:59 PM |
| 2 | My Perspective On Approach Anxiety and How to Get Rid of Itawesome, hope it helps | /r/seduction | 11/05/21 02:55 AM |
| 3 | My Perspective On Approach Anxiety and How to Get Rid of ItGood point. Yeah framing it as an "approach" definitely makes it more intimidating for sure. I prefer to call it starting a conversation. | /r/seduction | 09/05/21 03:39 PM |
| 1 | My Perspective On Approach Anxiety and How to Get Rid of ItI'm still going to cold approach because of the social freedom it brings. This is a guide for how to cold approach for guys who think they can't, like I was. | /r/seduction | 08/05/21 02:28 PM |
| 1 | FINALLY got a girl’s number that I actually like. Help me! (Long read)no clue why it was removed man | /r/seduction | 08/05/21 03:46 AM |
| 1 | My Perspective On Approach Anxiety and How to Get Rid of ItFor me, I'm cold approaching because it's exciting, pushes my comfort zone, and is eliminating social anxiety caused by past traumatic experiences. It might not be worth it to you but it is to me because I know it's gonna improve my life--it already has. | /r/seduction | 08/05/21 02:45 AM |
| 1 | FINALLY got a girl’s number that I actually like. Help me! (Long read)Awesome man keep it up. And yea sorry I was in a slightly negative mood this morning so sorry if it came off bad haha | /r/seduction | 08/05/21 01:04 AM |
| 2 | FINALLY got a girl’s number that I actually like. Help me! (Long read)Uh, just ask her out? But don't get too excited. Girls give out their numbers/snapchats like candy to thirsty guys lol. Maybe you'll get lucky, but gotta keep approaching more girls | /r/seduction | 07/05/21 03:48 PM |
| 4 | The Direct Cold Approach (daygame) is "alpha" myth debunkedAll of this alpha male "theory" is a bunch of bullshit and 95% of guys who read this crap don't actually approach women. I know because I read this kind of stuff for YEARS without doing anything. Then I finally started taking action and learned way more. My advice would be to never read another alpha male/cold approach blog again and just start approaching and see what happens. | /r/seduction | 06/05/21 05:35 PM |
| 3 | How do I get myself to cold approach random girls I encounter?A line I used the other day on a girl in the park was, "Hey how's it going, I was just bored and you looked like a cool person to talk to." And then we talked about random shit for 5 minutes and exchanged contact info. As far as how to get yourself to do it, well it's pretty simple, if you want to do it, you will, and if you don't do it, it's because for whatever reason, you didn't want to. For me that day I had bitched out on talking to so many girls that I felt like I had no choice so I just d… | /r/seduction | 06/05/21 05:32 PM |
| 1 | I’m not “fun” to be around. Is it possible to change this?Practice it. | /r/seduction | 06/05/21 03:21 PM |
| 1 | I'm BitterYea seriously try just talking to random girls in a park, on a college campus, etc. It's still really intimidating for me ngl, but by far the hardest part is literally the walking over to talk. The conversations have been relaxed and gone great so far. | /r/seduction | 05/05/21 08:18 PM |
| 2 | I'm BitterThe more you have this bitter mindset, the worse off you're gonna be. You're already sabotaging yourself by avoiding approaching girls because you think they're all self-absorbed jerkwads. So maybe try meeting new people. Try approaching random girls to start conversations, that's what I've been starting. I know it's not easy, but if I can do it I guarantee you can. I've been introverted and socially awkward my entire life, and my mom verbally abused and lashed out at me every single day of my e… | /r/seduction | 05/05/21 06:04 PM |
| 2 | How to take big ass and big tits hot girl home/apartment to have sex with them?Maybe I'm wrong but you sound like ur looking at women purely as sex objects which isn't good buddy. Just sayin' | /r/seduction | 05/05/21 05:55 PM |
| 3 | How can I [23] force myself to approach my crush at the gym?If you wanna do it, you have to just do it. You don't need to ask random strangers on the internet to make you approach a girl. Only YOU can decide to do it for yourself. | /r/seduction | 05/05/21 04:17 AM |
| 2 | How to approach women at grocery stores/malls public areas in general??There's no magic trick, you just gotta do it. For me asking for a number or snapchat is easy and a natural way to end a conversation with someone, the hardest part is walking up and starting the conversation. | /r/seduction | 05/05/21 04:16 AM |
| 8 | Is the youtube channel "How to Beast" effective for approaching girls?Most if not all youtube channels with pickup videos are just self-improvement porn that doesn't do guys any good. I'm learning far more from actually approaching girls than I ever did watching tens of hours of dumb PUA videos. If you wanna approach, you just gotta experiment for yourself with what works. | /r/seduction | 04/05/21 11:54 PM |
| 1 | I'm an Eminently Average Looking Guy And Here Are 3 Things That I've Learned From My Experience.Well it's impossible to be confident if you're in experienced, that only comes with practice. You have to accept you're gonna be nervous when you start out, thats why a lot of guys won't approach girls I think | /r/seduction | 04/05/21 08:11 PM |
| 2 | How much do you get rejected from cold approach?Yeah. Which doesn't even bother me. Most of my cold approach interactions have been really positive and the girls seemed to like it because I was always respectful. I think it could actually work if I do enough of them. The problem is it's so hard sometimes to actually decide to do them haha. | /r/seduction | 03/05/21 05:02 PM |
| 1 | How much do you get rejected from cold approach?What counts as a rejection? I've done 5 cold approaches in the last week. 2 were rejections, 3 exchanged snapchats, so far haven't heard back yet from any of them but hoping maybe I will from the most recent one. I'm super new to it but it seems women give out contact info pretty easily, but how often do they respond/meet up from it? Not sure yet. | /r/seduction | 03/05/21 03:09 AM |
| 1 | How to approach a girl at workIdk, just try to get to know her first and then ask her if she wants to go out with you? | /r/seduction | 03/05/21 03:05 AM |
| 1 | Cold approaches during COVIDThat's fine. Just my opinion, it's all good | /r/seduction | 02/05/21 05:50 PM |
| -7 | Cold approaches during COVIDIt's a 99.75 percent survival rate buddy. Any other generation would've just dealt with this virus as a part of life and not put their entire lives on hold for a thing that's barely worse than the flu. People in the 21st century are just spoiled and pampered and would rather give up an entire year of their life they'll never get back than accept a small risk. Meanwhile suicides and depression are at an all time high. Oh but lemme guess, mental health doesn't matter right? | /r/seduction | 02/05/21 04:00 AM |
| 2 | Field report 4/30/21Honestly if you're going to get drunk don't even think about driving to where you're going. The last thing you need is to screw your life up forever because you drove drunk. And if you dont think you have enough confidence you'll end up drinking too much. Idk what you mean by 'drunk' but when I get drunk I can't drive for 8 hours. If you're gonna get drunk, find a place to approach that you can walk to or get an uber or something. I did my first cold approach drunk, and I def drink too much so… | /r/seduction | 02/05/21 02:45 AM |
| 2 | Field report 4/30/21If you KNOW and are committed to actually approaching if you get drunk, you could get drunk once and do your first approach drunk and realize that the reaction won't be that bad, then start approaching sober. But I think a better idea would be to just keep working through the anxiety. I have had the same issue and still do, I've only done a handful of cold approaches, but I'm working through it. And I have all kinds of social anxiety, past trauma, and neurotic tendencies. So if I can do it, you … | /r/seduction | 02/05/21 01:13 AM |
| 4 | Cold approaches during COVIDMost people in my area don't give a crap about COVID. Are you in Europe or some ultra liberal city or what? | /r/seduction | 02/05/21 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Video of a guy cold approaching posted on r/PublicFreakout and people calling him a predator. Thoughts?Yea, except she looks 14. Even if he was just trying to better his social skills, it's always a bad look to be a grown ass man talking to children who are complete strangers. | /r/seduction | 29/04/21 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Video of a guy cold approaching posted on r/PublicFreakout and people calling him a predator. Thoughts?He is an absolute creep and probably was a predator. And don't get me wrong, I'm all for cold approach, I'm trying to learn it myself. But this girl looks really young, probably a child. Not OK and totally wrong. I never approach anyone if there's any chance they're under 18. | /r/seduction | 29/04/21 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Field report 4/27/21I did 2 cold approaches last weekend somehow but then some days I'm too in my head. It just takes practice. you have to literally force yourself to walk up to a girl and say something | /r/seduction | 28/04/21 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Field report 4/27/21It's ok, I basically had the exact same thing happen yesterday lol, you sound so much like me it's kinda scary lol. Have you done cold approaches before? | /r/seduction | 28/04/21 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Approaching at late time of nightOnly do it if they're not alone and you're in a well lit public area with other people at least somewhat around | /r/seduction | 27/04/21 08:56 PM |
| 1 | From a small town and have no relationship skillsI'm socially awkward as hell and I just started cold approaching so if I can do it you definitely can, hit me up if you want | /r/seduction | 27/04/21 02:39 AM |
| 1 | Hey Guys what is are some places I can go practice cold approach?Your college campus. As far as how you do it, well, you just have to do it lol. I know easier said than done though, it took me literally YEARS of wanting to before I actually tried. So just do it and don't be like me lol. | /r/seduction | 27/04/21 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Seduction without having my own place?Friends house? Or your car. Or a hotel room if you can afford it. | /r/seduction | 23/04/21 01:32 AM |
| 3 | Above all, it’s a numbers game.I'm the same way. I'm just starting out by forcing myself to say hi to as many girls as possible. I don't know anything about real cold approaching, but this is how I'm trying to start | /r/seduction | 26/09/20 04:26 AM |
| 1 | How to Get Over Approach AnxietyI like the video game analogy. The challenge is trying to actually view it that way. I gotta learn how to stop freezing up when approaching. | /r/seduction | 25/09/20 11:29 PM |
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