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Syloi/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 11:41 PM
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We went two separate times. As soon as the therapist started to focus in on her issues she would quit. Everything was fine when talking about me…but once she was put in the hotspot…gone, gone, gone.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 05:50 PM
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What’s funny is that my ex was saying the same thing. But I’m smiling because my life 100% got easier with out here in it..and the money. I can’t believe how much I have left over every month after paying the bills. It’s mind blowing.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 09:20 PM
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My divorce in Washington was easy. We drew up our own separation agreement, split all the assets mostly down the middle. I refinanced the home into my name and paid her $12.5k equity. We live in the west coast and filed in Lincoln County since it doesn’t require any court appearances. She paid the court fee as she’s the one that wanted the divorce. After the 3 months is up on Aug 4th we will be officially divorced. Our divorce was simple. We both make around 230k a year, she left me keep all my …
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 06:27 AM
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100k is the start. It will be going down to $2,500 in waves.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 11:40 PM
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I was giving my ex almost whatever she wanted (no kids involved) hoping it would convince her reconcile. It didn’t. It encouraged her to ask for more and more. I stopped and held my boundary.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 01:34 AM
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Mine said that she felt emotionally unsafe with me 🙄 like, what???
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 05:00 PM
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I would love to reconcile with my wife, we are separated right now now and about to send the paperwork off next week. But I have learned a few things. You can’t force someone to love you. You can’t force someone to change. Taking those two things into account it sounds like you have made the peace offering and he is not willing to take it. I learned the hard way that holding out hope for a reconciliation (even when I was clearly told it would never happen by her) made me an emotional mess. When …
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 11:06 PM
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I hired an interior designer. I’m keeping the family home. Though 5 bedrooms is a lot of just me and my pups. I had to make it feel like my place. I do all the work and the designer just tells me what to do after I give them some input about things I like.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 11:34 PM
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3 months and the $330 filing fee with the separation agreement we drew up ourselves and signed. It was easy because we both made the same amount and although my retirement accounts have more in them then hers. She had the ability with her job to make that up with RSU’s in a few years. I’m in a union and our raises are only 3-7% a year.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 10:20 PM
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My female counselor all but said she was the problem and the stbxw didn’t want to go back again and requested the divorce shortly after
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 02:31 AM
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It would be hilarious if the judge reviewed all terms and lowered it since you have 50/50.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 01:32 AM
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Whatever you do don’t put that money into a joint account or one she has access to!
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/26 10:24 PM
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No more Mr nice guy was also an eye opener to me and realized how much of the problem in our relationship were 100% caused by me. We plan on sitting down next week so we can talk. I plan to ask her for separation instead of divorce while I continue in my journey with exceptional long term reconciliation. Important to note here that if she still wants the full divorce I will go through with it as planned. Yet I still plan on working on myself because at this point… it’s about me wanting to be a b…
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/26 03:27 AM
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She can say whatever she wants. Doesn’t mean she will get it. You need to report the damage to your car. You can often times do this online. Start creating a trail of her abuse towards you. Don’t let anything go. Document all of it. Get a restraining order asap. Take all the pictures. You need to get ahead of this before she weaponizes the criminal justice system. Source: I’m a cop
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 08:21 PM
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You need to read No more Mr nice guy. It’s really helped me out understanding things I was doing wrong that I thought I was doing right. It helps
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 01:16 AM
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You’re still on his ROI (return on investment)? Or does this mean something different?
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/26 08:11 PM
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If the shoe was on the other foot do you think she would have cared about your feeling? Women leave men for a a lot less then this. I see it everyday on here. I was blindsided by my divorce because there was nothing wrong in the marriage that I could see. She told me it was a slow erosion. You should not be miserable and waste some of the best years of your life on someone who doesn’t care to even try and make a change for you. You leaving might make her spiral for a bit but it could also be an …
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 06:05 PM
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This is all great advice, from someone who was blindsided as well. My stbx didn’t even try to argue regarding bedrooms. She took the guest and I stayed in the master. In my case she moved out three weeks after. I’m refinancing the home into my name and she’s signing off on it. We did not get lawyers, once the paperwork is completed, and before I sign it, I am going to have a lawyer look it over just to make sure. My x can be manipulative and she’s worked in legal offices so I need that piece of …
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 07:47 PM
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My stbx who initiated everything had been going around telling her family so very untrue things about me. I know because they reached out to me to see if she’s struggling with a mental illness. I don’t think she is, but I also don’t appreciate her making me out to be the bad guy. We tried therapy twice. Each time she quit when the therapist started to talk about issues she was bringing into it. In her mind it was all about me changing and not her in the slightest. My whole point is that she is d…
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 06:25 PM
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Brother- do me a favor and do some research into betrayal trauma. Hopefully that will start you down the right path if your support groups and therapies haven’t been helping.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/26 10:54 PM
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Either way, I still don’t think I would go after the guy. I would be pissed at the person I put my trust in. He couldn’t make her do it if she wasn’t willing 🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/26 04:18 AM
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Why blame the affair partner and not the person who allowed the affair?
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/26 11:22 PM
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You are suffering from depression. Do you have intrusive thoughts about memories and such that are triggered by events? This can be very serious if not dealt with. I would recommend setting up a routine and trying to go with it. Don’t feel like eating, perhaps make a smoothie? I still have trouble finding things that bring my joy. I have been more intentional with my friends and they are with me as well. I lost ten pounds after my stbx told me she wanted a divorce. Cried all the time. Then I saw…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/26 04:38 AM
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I. Feel. Your. Pain. I helped raise two daughter who are now 16 and 17. Luckily their mom hasn’t tried to restrict my access, and I don’t think she could have even if she wanted to. Teenage girls are feral. I’m still a major part of their life and the only dad they have known. They enjoy telling me about mom’s new boyfriend and how when he comes over they call him by a different name everytime 😂 we do Sunday dinners together and I still go to all the events. Hang in there. She’s trying to use hi…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/26 11:26 PM
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Yea, we had just gone to Alaska the weekend before as it was my 50th state and she wanted to do it with me. Talked about buying a vacation home in Arizona….5 days later…”I can’t see a way forward with this marriage…” like?!?! WTF?!? Had a European cruise planned for Aug. Jesus..I’m still in my head thinking of everything I might have done wrong and I can’t pin anything done.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/26 04:17 AM
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I was also blindsided. I now have a 5 bedroom house by myself with almost no furniture and only one of the three dogs. The thing I struggle with is why she wasn’t willing to fight for what we had. Like, was I just not worth it? The second she thought about divorce she did it. Left the house as soon as she could. Everything had been amicable. The bonus she gets in March is being split because it’s money she earned while we were together. But man, I was willing to do anything and everything for he…
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/26 02:22 AM
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No need for alimony. In the last two years her income is the same as mine. There also won’t be any child support.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/26 03:59 AM
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She does. 16 and 17 year old girls. I am the only father figure they have ever had. The bio dad abandoned them after the 2nd was born and left the country. The girls are pissed at their mom right now. I haven’t said a bad word again her and I won’t to the kids. She also hasn’t said anything bad about me. But they know, they know how much I love them all and would never willingly do this. They also know their moms personality
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/26 09:23 PM
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Oh, I have no intent to keep this going. For one thing if she came back in a week and tell me she wanted to work it out how could I believe her? It would always be hanging over my head that she’s just looking for a way out. I have already lived walking on eggshells around her emotions. I’m sure as hell not going to let that hang over my head.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/26 09:18 PM
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Thank you for the words of encouragement. This seems to be exactly what happened. She said I wasn’t around much this last year. She failed to remember (or part of the plan) that she had asked me to work as much OT as possible so we can get some of the debt we had paid off. I have been working 70 hours a week. Not because we needed the money. Simply because she asked me to and not having debt makes her feel secure. I feel like such an idiot breaking my body for her to feel secure. Only to realize…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/26 09:15 PM
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Her and I make the same amount so alimony is not something I’m concerned about. Money wise we are both doing well. We even still own our houses that we bought before we were married and rent them out. The emotional drain is what I am going through right now. The house we co-own is underwater, like most that were bought 4 years ago. I know she doesn’t want it and the mortgage that goes along with it. I’m able to support it comfortably so I’m not worried about it. Refinancing might be a bitch thou…
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 04:49 AM
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I mean, she did go to the gym pretty much everyday, but she’s also done that before we were together.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 01:48 AM
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Two kids, 17 and 16. Step kids, their dad abandoned them. Not legally adopted or anything.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 01:47 AM
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Blindsided is 100% the way to describe it. Just last weekend we took a trip together and everything appeared great. Today… no emotions, nothing. Felt like she was a representative from HR. It was kind of creepy.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 12:17 AM
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Thanks for the link. That makes a lot of sense.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 12:16 AM
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