TeaIsbestservedwarm Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
123	Most of your problems come from taking: Taking Vs Offering Value		TeaIsbestservedwarm	/r/seduction	28/03/21 05:43 PM
12	When you're saying something ask yourself the question: Does this make me feel good?		TeaIsbestservedwarm	/r/seduction	08/04/21 07:13 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Having a therapist a red flag? Yeah it's a really good sign.	/r/seduction	05/05/21 09:12 PM
2	Stop calling people "Beta" / "Nice Guy"/ "Simp". Dude, I'm joking	/r/seduction	05/05/21 09:11 PM
1	Based on science we men are more attracted to women who shows signs of youth and fertility such as big boobs and hip to waist ratio we automatically feel attraction when we see those it’s hard wired into our brain . WHAT ABOUT FEMALES ? What are they hard wired to be attracted to What if it's a 3080 ti? Checkmate bud	/r/seduction	05/05/21 08:53 PM
–	Stop calling people "Beta" / "Nice Guy"/ "Simp". Super Soy Beta boy	/r/seduction	05/05/21 04:04 PM
–	Based on science we men are more attracted to women who shows signs of youth and fertility such as big boobs and hip to waist ratio we automatically feel attraction when we see those it’s hard wired into our brain . WHAT ABOUT FEMALES ? What are they hard wired to be attracted to Don't forget the gtx 3080 and catgirl headphones	/r/seduction	05/05/21 04:03 PM
1	What to talk about? I want to stop torturing her Depends on how you say it, I say shit that makes ME feel good. I always ask myself: what would make me laugh, what would make me interested, what would get my attention. The content isn't as important as the energy and how you feel, the time the content is important is in the logistics- where are you going, who are you with, I'll text you later, where are you from etc.	/r/seduction	22/04/21 07:52 PM
29	Always approach girls no matter what Good for you man, you did everything well. Seemed to mesh well.	/r/seduction	21/04/21 02:02 PM
2	Is this a group anyone can join or jus males? r/dating_advice is a strange place. With the advice on this sub, listen to what's repeated, what's respected and what's worked for you.	/r/seduction	21/04/21 01:18 PM
4	Has anyone read art of seduction? How useful is it in modern day world? The results I've seen are...varied. Some people find great success with it, fully comprehend its beauty. Some think it's a waste of time with manipulative tendancies. Personally I don't even use it for seduction, I use it as a tool to help me motivate others especially at work. Take a quick read, there are some decent fundamentals in there.	/r/seduction	13/04/21 10:58 AM
1	Is it true that most men don't cold approach? Yeah, which suprised me, but says a lot about men that catcall	/r/seduction	12/04/21 11:52 AM
–	Is it flirting or being friendly ? I can't speak to a woman's perspective, but here's how I view it as a man. A lot of women's hints and cues are in the subcommunications, body language and tone. Guys are different, sometimes it's in the tone, frequently you can tell by their eye contact and their body proximity, but the biggest giveaway is how he treats you compared to other girls and finding the intention behind his words.	/r/seduction	11/04/21 04:30 PM
2	How do I start conversation? Right, say it with some confidence. Say it because you want to say, not because you want her attention. What makes you laugh? What makes you interested? What makes you passionate? Another way is assuming formality. When you assume you know the person it gets much easier to talk to them. See their body language and what they say, then adjust.	/r/seduction	11/04/21 04:09 PM
–	How do I start conversation? The honest response is. You don't know and neither does she. You don't know how she will react, She could have had the worst day at work, she could be an open and forward person, she could be a fucking nun. She doesn't know anything about you either, She doesn't know about your humour, your confidence, your vunerabiltiy. So even if she does reply badly, read the cues, adjust and find another angle to talk about. It's not your fault if it doesn't land. Readjust after not before.	/r/seduction	11/04/21 03:56 PM
–	Freaky ft call? That's up to you and her mood. What do you want to do? Then what does she want to do?. Find a way to make it work.	/r/seduction	11/04/21 03:51 PM
–	Freaky ft call? Well how have you been doing it previously? What's worked before and what hasn't? Then continue with that path. Showing obvious intent is good, see how she reacts and follow up. The amount of intent should be determined by how your previous interactions went.	/r/seduction	11/04/21 03:22 PM
–	Freaky ft call? You can just ask her. She'll probably say yes, from my experience being forward about these things works well.	/r/seduction	11/04/21 03:19 PM
3	What’s my play There's one of two options here: She doesn't want to fuck, maybe she has some sort of resistance/issue when it comes to penetrative sex. or maybe she is playing hard to get. But "reluctant" is a really difficult word to understand haha	/r/seduction	10/04/21 08:55 PM
1	Why some girls are very annoyed when guys talk to them? [FR] I think the biggest takeaways are start noticing non verbal communication and adapt accordingly. Think win-win, what are her goals what are mine and how do I make them	/r/seduction	10/04/21 11:16 AM
4	Getting better with eye contact Eye contact and a loud voice are super helpful. Good work	/r/seduction	10/04/21 11:12 AM
2	Freaky Private Snap Yeah the second point is the biggest piece of advice I've seen in a while	/r/seduction	10/04/21 11:06 AM
–	What’s my play Define "reluctant"	/r/seduction	10/04/21 11:05 AM
1	Does anyone know someone who has real tactics and is not just a fakeguru scammer? I think they used to upsell on their free tours during the last 15, however, you might be right. I've found great success with it; with anything, trial and error are the cake that makes success. Good luck man. I know you'll go far	/r/seduction	08/04/21 07:40 PM
–	Does anyone know someone who has real tactics and is not just a fakeguru scammer? Oh I've never been to a bootcamp, Tengame is essentially one of those...video project things? Sorry for not remembering the words, I'm slightly high. In the videos Julian goes over 10 rules to follow, only 10. It really did wonders for me. I enjoy it way more. I think Models touches on a similar line from what I've read. Do things that make you happy and feel worth. I hope you do find the best resources boss!	/r/seduction	08/04/21 07:30 PM
1	CHICK AT THE GYM That's a good perspective	/r/seduction	08/04/21 07:22 PM
–	Does anyone know someone who has real tactics and is not just a fakeguru scammer? The stuff from RSD worked for me. Including Tengame, I'm suprised why you think otherwise. Models by Mark Manson, or anything by Mark Manson is really good. The art of seduction isn't bad, it took me a few reads to comprehend its value. Books are a good way to go.	/r/seduction	08/04/21 07:22 PM
10	Seduction tips for women? The very basics are great Eye contact Clear voice Posture The way you walk etc. Women can offer a LOT of power/value through their eyes and their movement. Also being someone who lives in abundance instead of neediness as a woman is deadly. Seriously deadly. I think i'd have a heart attack if I met a woman like that	/r/seduction	08/04/21 07:03 PM
19	Don't hesitate. Or another guy WILL take her out instead The crazy thing is in the back of your head you'll know when you should escalate, but we get afraid. It's human and natural. Try to start liking your instincts more; they're important	/r/seduction	08/04/21 07:01 PM
–	Not trying to freak them out . So when I can tell a girl feels nervous or unsafe etc. I give a physical step back, nothing is better than giving them space. Do not get closer/more intense if they feel this way	/r/seduction	07/04/21 11:37 PM
–	With all these Dating "Experts" on Youtube, it is hard to come by legit sources that give actual good advice. Do you guys have come across Youtube channels that are Legit? It definitely is tough, that's why I trust more peer trusted items. Books are the biggest for those. For me Tengame helped the most. Good luck man	/r/seduction	07/04/21 11:36 PM
–	With all these Dating "Experts" on Youtube, it is hard to come by legit sources that give actual good advice. Do you guys have come across Youtube channels that are Legit? Honestly, I prefer books. There are a host of them on this subreddit. The most popular one being models by Mark Manson, however I like Julien Blanc's Tengame video series. That's helped me out the most	/r/seduction	07/04/21 10:47 PM
–	Models by Mark Manson is honestly a game-changer I've heard a lot about this book. What were the biggest takewaywas that you found from them?	/r/seduction	07/04/21 10:20 PM
–	Men who are especially attractive, how is your experience in dating different? I'd definitely agree it felt good, also made me think- damn was I that ugly at 16? Yeah! two things happen, their mentality is- "I want a girls attention, number, sex" etc, it's all about wanting instead of why am I an interesting person, what can I offer' Then they fail to gauge reactions- they can come off rude or not realise when they need to escalate.	/r/seduction	07/04/21 09:01 PM
–	Men who are especially attractive, how is your experience in dating different? Ironically before I was 17, I was not good looking at all...like holy crap. I even posted a picture on my main account on r/uglyduckling which got upvotes. Tells you how bad it was. So all I could do is use my charisma, my personality etc. And yes it worked. I've continued to develop it now and I'm much more natural	/r/seduction	07/04/21 08:44 PM
0	How do I tell if my girlfriends best friend is into me? And if she finds out that you didn't tell her? That you kept it all a secret? It's going to look worse	/r/seduction	07/04/21 06:55 PM
–	Men who are especially attractive, how is your experience in dating different? It helps with the intro, sometimes your approached and if you say something stupid they'll ignore it, but it's not gonna get you passed that. It's a good dopamine high, but you need game to seal the deal. You need game to journey you from the intro to the end	/r/seduction	07/04/21 06:54 PM
3	How do i seal the deal I don't know enough about your relationship to comment about that, but don't be ashamed of taking the leap it does take a strong man to do it. If she's flirting with you, she wants you to, so don't be afraid to.	/r/seduction	07/04/21 05:18 PM
–	How do i seal the deal You answered your own question ask her out on a date. If you're both flirting then she's into you right? Escalate now brother. Take the leap.	/r/seduction	07/04/21 05:04 PM
1	Dominance is somewhat opposite of Charisma. What is more important? Well said man. I could never last if dominant and charismatic were at odds. It means being confident in yourself and you choices, to be a pillar of support at times too. A rock in the wind, doesn't mean you have to be stone cold and boring. Dominant doesnt always have to be sexual aswell, it comes from making choices, suggesting them and considering other people's thoughts and opinions.	/r/seduction	07/04/21 05:01 PM
2	What do you think is missing/lacking in this community? I just wish some of these guys would read the top posts, the information on the side and then ask. It would solve a lot more problems.	/r/seduction	07/04/21 04:59 PM
1	Sexualizing intent vs Having "fun" Well if it's just a fuck, be clear about that too.	/r/seduction	07/04/21 04:58 PM
2	Which one has a better effect on women who leave your text messages on ‘read’? Calling them out on it? Or assuming attraction and continuing to add value like nothing happened? I'm gonna be honest, usually I'll just move on, especially if it's a person I just met.	/r/seduction	07/04/21 04:56 PM
19	Unless you are especially handsome, there is no reason for someone to find you attractive prior to you interacting with them. The majority of attraction is created via your actions and behaviors within an interaction. In many cases, the interaction comes prior to attraction, not vice versa. Yep vouch	/r/seduction	07/04/21 04:55 PM
7	How do I stop feeling like a cute friend to women and start actually feeling sexually attractive to them the way they look at other men? Literally just read what this guy or girl said. Escalation combined with intent are big for getting out of the friend zone.	/r/seduction	07/04/21 04:55 PM
1	For online dating, how much photo editing is a bad thing? Yeah I agree at the same time. Get good lighting and a good angle, those are important. Don't go all out facetune, one lighting filter or two isn't bad.	/r/seduction	05/04/21 07:45 PM
3	Seduction Secret--Why BDSM Works So Well With Women As someone who has practiced BDSM for years. Yes I agree, it's about confidence and humility. Having the belief in your decisions and the confidence to go through with them, the compassion to value your submissive and the humility to admit when your wrong. Pluuuus, you should be giving her a lot of pleasure too. There's that.	/r/seduction	05/04/21 12:03 PM
1	Should I drop these girls Well look at what has gone right for you; what's gone wrong then think how can I reduce the wrong and increase the right. Don't doubt yourself, a lot of guys are nervous talking to girls- takes courage doing what you're doing	/r/seduction	04/04/21 11:37 PM
–	Should I drop these girls If you're not commited to one girl, they're not either. That's just the truth. Another point what is your intention? A fuck? A date? A relationship? I think answering these points will help you the most.	/r/seduction	04/04/21 11:05 PM
57	Lost Virginity From Seddit (part 2) Yeah because it triggers a reflex where the girl feels slutty and she never wants to feel like she's the slut.	/r/seduction	04/04/21 08:42 PM
1	Anyone here spent money on courses or programs to improve your game? Yep, there's a FUCKTON of information on this sub, I even posted some advice. It's even more about the experience and consistency than anything else	/r/seduction	04/04/21 08:23 PM
2	What Should I do? Yep same shit here man, I'd never fuck where I fight. Just a typical rule. I have to go there 3 times a week. It's an amazing community, I'm not fucking that up.	/r/seduction	04/04/21 08:21 PM
11	Lost Virginity From Seddit (part 2) So, I'm just going to say you're doin well man. Appreciate it, you worked well for it	/r/seduction	04/04/21 08:20 PM
5	Lost virginity from listening to seddit This one makes me smile	/r/seduction	04/04/21 02:00 PM
1	What I've learned a week in Simple advice. Yet I agree with every point. Nice work, game is about finding value in yourself and expressing it. Loving your intent and having fun	/r/seduction	04/04/21 01:58 PM
1	What to call an attractive woman? (Cute, hot, ?) Remember it's not just what you say, it's how you say it.	/r/seduction	04/04/21 01:57 PM
2	What to call an attractive woman? (Cute, hot, ?) Ralph is that you?	/r/seduction	04/04/21 01:57 PM
8	Why am I getting better results by being calculative with how I text women, and not just being authentic to how I would normally speak live, in-person (where you don’t have as much time to think about what to say)? Old P.E teacher used to tell me practice makes permenant not perfect, so train correctly	/r/seduction	04/04/21 01:56 PM
8	Give 4-5 short bullets on what you think it takes to be successful with women, or to be successful in general. No paragraphs. -Offer value instead of taking it -Think Win-win -Have experience -Showing your intent -Valuing yourself	/r/seduction	03/04/21 04:21 PM
1	Is it possible to be dominant without conflict? Exactly, it's about giving respect and appreciation to their opinion AND your opinion	/r/seduction	03/04/21 04:19 PM
1	South, Southeast, and East Asian guys who have tons of likes and matches, or have hooked up a lot - how have you done it? Haha I know right? They call us all Asians but we're pretty diverse. Yes, I do know one and yes he's fucking confident. He genuinely likes himself for him. Like me, we like ourselves for being Asian- we have amazing foods, clothes, languages and people. Your culture and life are great. I think we judge each other because of our heights or penises etc, but it really doesn't matter. I used to think height was concrete important. Yet my dating life hasn't been affected by it when I had confidence. …	/r/seduction	02/04/21 09:53 PM
–	Is it possible to be dominant without conflict? The wishy-washy dominance you've seen with conflict is a lie. People associate violence and shitting on other people as true dominance. To me dominance is having confidence within yourself and your actions. Believing in your choices, considering others and never being afraid of giving statements/choices/remarks. Your not needy either your calm and humble. Humble enough to admit when you're wrong too	/r/seduction	02/04/21 08:39 PM
–	South, Southeast, and East Asian guys who have tons of likes and matches, or have hooked up a lot - how have you done it? Okay, I'm not gonna lie to you, I'm not getting 99+ matches, but I'm getting enough girls to make me a happy man. Let me tell you the first thing. It doesn't matter that you're Asian, being Asian is a good thing and something you should be proud about. Second I wrote in another post (if you check my profile) about offering value, read that please. Then on online profiles having good pictures with nice light and a decent bio is going to help miles. I cannot fucking tell you how awful some guys pi…	/r/seduction	02/04/21 08:37 PM
0	Mixed Signals - Need Advice I'm going to be honest. I think you know the answer, she seems somewhat manipulative	/r/seduction	01/04/21 09:07 PM
2	26M from the UK. Cold Approach journey hitting rock bottom. Do you review your sets, what went wrong? What went right and then Fix them?	/r/seduction	01/04/21 04:51 PM
1	Persistence only works when you openly, honestly and confidently makes your intentions known while simultaneously showing that you will not be upset if the other person turns down your offer. Ohh okay, didn't realise it was his own video. Genuinely curious	/r/seduction	01/04/21 04:20 PM
1	What the hell happened to RSD you can't even find their product store? I don't live by this. 10 game without a doubt was brilliant. A lot of guys overcomplicate game, get manipulative and stress themselves out. 10 game keeps it simple and covers everything. It's something you can apply to life in general too	/r/seduction	01/04/21 01:53 PM
–	Persistence only works when you openly, honestly and confidently makes your intentions known while simultaneously showing that you will not be upset if the other person turns down your offer. Wdym?	/r/seduction	01/04/21 01:51 PM
–	Women make your life 'better', not 'good' I was always told the analogy with relationships that it's like driving in a red Ferrari down the highway, it's pretty fuckin dope, now imagine their is another person in the passenger seat, it still makes it pretty fun. Whether they leave or stay you're still in a red ferrari	/r/seduction	31/03/21 11:22 PM
2	I struggle with escalation, any tips? 2 things bud: Realise that trying to escalate, man to woman energy isn't a bad thing. It's a positive thing that allows women to feel more confident, builds connections, don't feel bad for trying to flirt. Think win-win, let's say you escalate and she cringes, backs away etc chill your energy, take it slower. It's about having a conversation and noticing what she's into and isn't. If she reacts/enjoys your sexual or flirty comments amp it up. Think win-win: what do you and her like- you find tha…	/r/seduction	31/03/21 11:20 PM
2	First cold-approach Good luck man! Win or lose you used courage	/r/seduction	29/03/21 06:55 PM
1	Problem with making approaches materialize What this guy said there's nothing wrong with having fun conversations, but you shouldn't forget your going in for the kill. Whether that be a date, sex or a number.	/r/seduction	29/03/21 04:43 PM
2	Why do I feel sleazy whenever I attempt to sexualise things...even when I know they want me to? It's because you feel like you're doing something wrong. You're forcing a situation where you want her approval and sexual energy/interaction. There's nothing wrong with that. But instead reframe as you building a connection with her, your offering your sexual energy and compliments. Realise that this will make her feel confident and wanted, important and satisfied.	/r/seduction	29/03/21 04:41 PM
2	Help finishing 💦 Yeah r/sex is gonna be much better for this	/r/seduction	29/03/21 04:39 PM
–	Leverage social proof while going out alone: Yeah this is pretty good, it was smart the way you introduced yourself too: calm and you built a triangle of value. Smart moves man, I guess going alone makes me nervous. I prefer it with friends, any advice for me?	/r/seduction	29/03/21 04:39 PM
1	Most of your problems come from taking: Taking Vs Offering Value Well from my experience creepiness comes from taking, as taking and neediness are the same. I was given the analogy- a pretty girl in the club is like a millionaire Infront of poor people. Everyone wants a piece of attention. And if she's worried about your intentions you can offer realness to, be honest by the fact you think she's good looking. Then gauge reactions from there.	/r/seduction	29/03/21 12:12 PM
–	Most of your problems come from taking: Taking Vs Offering Value Well in my experience I offer value and gauge their reactions. Some girls will fucking cringe, so I know to offer different value or tone it down, others like it and I can increase the volume of value. When they reciprocate I get value back, then it's up to me to continue it. If they don't reciprocate at all, it means we have fuck all in comon, then I'll talk to someone else, but this has only happened once. So yeah, it should be a two way street, thats why I engage with people who can actually …	/r/seduction	29/03/21 04:00 AM
2	Most of your problems come from taking: Taking Vs Offering Value You can...like yourself? There's a difference between pride with arrogance and genuinely seeing yourself as a fun, good human being. Narcassim comes when we become self obsessed and have no humility. These are definitely different	/r/seduction	29/03/21 01:42 AM
3	Most of your problems come from taking: Taking Vs Offering Value Definitely, good work man! Try it out and see what happens. It took me a while, but the more I focused on giving the less people effected me and the more they went with me. It's strange, but great	/r/seduction	28/03/21 10:22 PM
3	Most of your problems come from taking: Taking Vs Offering Value As far as I can see not really. But let me explain why: You stated you could be taken for granted, it wouldn't bother you as much as you aren't dependant on their reactions. Also he/she may not be taking you seriously as you're not offering the value THEY WANT. But with offering value you should always think WIN WIN. I like making jokes, when I'm flirting I like to, but I don't make it to bully her or laugh at her, that's not win-win. I may make a compliment to her and she may cringe, therefore …	/r/seduction	28/03/21 07:58 PM
5	Most of your problems come from taking: Taking Vs Offering Value Ohhhh that makes sense, I completely forgot haha	/r/seduction	28/03/21 06:58 PM
–	Most of your problems come from taking: Taking Vs Offering Value Huh? I didn't mention any value to do with money. I don't do that. It's about what you offer as a person, your personality. Your humour, your charisma, intelligence, your suave and sexiness. What do you offer that makes you attractive. How does it affect people. Edit: I'm 99% sure that guy was joking. So don't downvote him guys	/r/seduction	28/03/21 05:57 PM
–	How to be fun and spontaneous without seeming too goofy and socially inept? You seemed pretty fun with that analogy. I don't know you well enough to know why, but what helped me was having a social circle that had fun, then I got to have fun. Do you think there's a reason why you don't have fun, can't let yourself go?	/r/seduction	28/03/21 05:54 PM