There are two main concepts. Offering value and taking value. These are social concepts where a person will either focus on what they can take from another person or what they can give.

I could give this analogy- if I gave you $10 to give to anyone on the street- it'd be easy right? Just give them it. Now let's say I asked you to get $10 of someone or even $5. It's much harder now right? You can feel that anxiety in your stomach.

That's because you're focused on taking. What can YOU take from that person. As a result you put them on a pedestal, make yourself dependant and desperate.

But when you focus on giving there is a sense of freedom, a lack of attachment to the outcome and you can keep doing it without worrying about what comes next with enjoyment.

I know this is the key reason why most of you are suffering a lot. You forget the massive amounts of value you already have. Once you realise you're a fun person with tons to offer, the game changes.

To start this you want to write down the value you can offer. For this I wrote down mine: My humour, my wisdom, my realness, my compliments, my patience. For a few, then explained how they effected the other person- how it would make them feel, how it would change their interactions with friends and family etc.

Trying this out and realising your value will take you out of your own way HUGELY. I hope you have a good day to anyone reading this. It's my first time writing here so I hope the message got across well.

P.s this applies for both genders.