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I would rather die alone than spend another minute of my life in an unhappy, unhealthy relationship. I definitely hope for a forever person, but I’m done spending my life fixing, wishing, and waiting until he treats me the way that I deserve to be treated. No more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 04:06 PM
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Someone sent this r/FDS to me in a pm. I’m not even really sure what I said hat made them send it to me, but I’m very thankful that they did. They must’ve had a gut feeling that I needed it, and they were right. You totally should because something is telling you she needs it. I think the universe drops little hints for us all time. I’m trying to listen better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:41 AM
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This is so true, and as woman who was both groomed at 16 by a 22yo man AND post divorce from a man who left me for a girl 13 years younger, I can tell you it does serious psychological damage. It is extremely hard to overcome that kind of mental abuse, and it turns my stomach watching so many people be totally comfortable with these large age gaps. Not surprisingly, those of us who have lived it, and try to speak out about it, get painted as crazy. It’s all pretty sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:59 AM
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I dated a guy just like that. Then I married him and almost instantly he used it to manipulate and mindfuck me for years. Then he left me with a special needs toddler for a 28yo coworker. Moral of the story, you really never know and you were smart to see it as a red flag. Always go with your gut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:03 AM
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They’re not worried because he’d never do that to them. He only did it to her because she was horrible, mean, fat, gold-digging, a bitch, insert whatever adjective he used to paint her as the bad guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 10:10 PM
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It’s even worse to be the wife of someone who will you leave you in a heartbeat. Isabella dodged a bullet, trust me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:33 AM
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I know. It kills me. I’ve tried to tell him, but he just turns it into a fight so he can ignore what he’s doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:45 AM
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Thank you, love. The little one is special needs so really he’s oblivious to it all. The older one worships his dad so luckily he believes the excuses that his dad is just super busy. I let him believe it because it’s better that way for his little heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:07 PM
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My son actually asks him for extra days and he tells him no EVERY SINGLE TIME. Always an excuse. How can you never, not even once, change your plans for your child? I know for a fact that you can because I have to do it all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:21 PM
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I’m probably glad that I didn’t get to see that comment before it was deleted. Whatever it was, you’re correct...22 days of dinners, baths, homework, dr’s appts, haircuts, etc. is not even in the same ballpark as 4 days of just hanging around and have fun playing video games. He felt like when he left, the responsibility of actually raising them became mine alone. And btw, he pays me next to nothing in child support, too, because he has a low paying job. Takes her on lavish trips and bought her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:20 PM
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Lol! I think the problem with mine is he’s too busy taking care of her to take care of them, and she just ignores it because she’s reaping the benefits of his selfishness. Edited for grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:11 PM
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My ex sees our children the absolute bare minimum. I offer extra days constantly (because my older son really wants more time with his dad,) and he never takes me up on it. Never, not a single time. And what boggles my mind more than anything is how his fiancé is ok with that. From what I understand, she’s not maternal and doesn’t want kids of her own. She’s very sweet with my kids, though, and I’m grateful for that. BUT, how can she love a man who doesn’t love the lives he created the way he’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:42 PM
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This is one of the tenants of FDS that I’m not sure is a good one. I dated a seemingly HVM man for a year before he proposed. Together for another year as we planned. Married and within a month he started showing his true colors. Honestly, on the honeymoon he started throwing up red flags. And by all accounts, the most amazing guy the 2 years before we married. If I had it to do over again, there’s no way I’d marry before 5 years. It’s easy to put on a show for a year or 2...spoil her, treat her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 10:44 PM
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Too many men think women aren’t allowed to have preferences. I laugh at them, and I’m glad when they out themselves quickly. Saves me time :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:25 AM
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My ex-husband was 6’5 and the most lvm I’ve ever known. He left me broke and walked out on his special needs baby to bang a 13 years younger blonde. The sexiest, most hvm I’ve ever met was 5’6. To each her own preference, but height does not equal value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:18 AM
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I’m in my 40s and I speak from experience that this is total bullshit. I hit my sexual peak and we were having sex daily the year my husband left me for a 20-something. They cheat because they’re trash, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:56 AM
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Because you thought he would change for you. I’ve been there. They never do, and it’s a tough lesson to learn. Next time, you’ll know better. They’re not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:59 AM
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Don’t be embarrassed, be thankful. Guaranteed you were going to be in for a ton of disappointment because he’s obviously trash. I know it easier said than done, but I’d rather be embarrassed than played. He showed you the truth upfront and saved you the time of listening to his lies. Big hugs, love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:09 AM
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I cannot tell you how different my life would be if I ha learned this lesson 15 years ago. He’s living in a half a million dollar home with a young blonde, and it took me 3 years to back get on my feet. I was smart enough to get a college degree so I was very fortunate to get a steady, decent salaried job. My heart breaks for the women who don’t have anything to fall back on. Financial abandonment is traumatizing and very hard to overcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:00 AM
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The most troubling thing is “we got in a fight.” They didn’t get into a fight because she agreed with him. She agreed that they were wrong and he was right, so there was nothing to fight about. It wasn’t a fight, it was him yelling at her because he was pissed about her friends questioning him. He’ll slowly wedge himself between her and her friends now, and she has no idea how bad it’s going to get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:13 AM
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Thank you for this. After reading about how sad and desperate anyone over 40 is on another FDS thread, I was honestly questioning. I don’t think some of the younger women understand what decades upon decades of dealing with only LVM does to a woman. Attacking sisters because they aren’t as militant is a mistake, and it can makes us as bad as the men we’re trying to combat. The anger needs to be directed at the abusers, not women who’ve been conditioned and are trying to recover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:55 PM
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You shouldn’t settle for anyone who isn’t completely sure that he’s butt-crazy in love with you. We shouldn’t have to convince anyone to love us. If they chose not to, love yourself and walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 07:59 AM
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I’m sorry that texting you all day, every day led you to believe I wanted anything more than casual. I text all my friends “good morning, gorgeous.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 08:55 PM
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No, I didn’t know the actual stats, but it’s not surprising. I don’t understand how or why anyone would think that’s a solid way to begin a healthy relationship. “she/ he didn’t treat him/her the right way, but she’ll/he’ll be happy with me.” Blaming any 1 person for a marriage failing is insane, and I would think you’d have to lie to yourself a lot to make that work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:16 PM
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I was the wife in that situation, and it is insanely messed for a woman to do that to another woman. They’re engaged now, and I really don’t understand how either of them could possibly live without the constant fear that what they did will one day be done to them. Knowing that they’ll live like that makes it a little easier for me, honestly. They should live with that constant, nagging fear while I walk free and fabulous. Trash is trash even it dresses well and has expensive highlights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 06:02 PM
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I’m sorry you’re going through this. You can do hard things, and you can be alone if it comes to that. Good luck and best wishes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:04 AM
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My ex-husband threatened to leave me because “God told him he needed to give <our older son> a brother or sister.” I’d had issues carrying and giving birth as I was in my late 30s, and I’d told him before we’d even married (I had a daughter already from my first marriage) that I wouldn’t have anymore after 35. He said he had lost his only sibling and he wanted our son to have one closer to his age. I tried to get him to agree to a new baby for years after our son was born but he always said no b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:05 AM
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I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s not ok and it’s not fair. There are men that care. They’re not as easy to find but worth the wait. And I’d rather be alone for the rest of my life than be with a man that doesn’t care about me or my needs. You’re fabulous, and he’s trash. Move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:26 AM
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