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You need to rethink that. Put yourself first n those same shoes. You aren’t certain your partner hasn’t cheated and if they did it’s going to cost you 20 years of time, money and responsibility. You are getting offended at not being trusted but we have tons of evidence women lie about paternity for many reasons. So is it truly unjust if you weee the one who wasn’t sure to demand surety? If you’ve done nothing wrong you should welcome the test, not treat it as a betrayal.
/r/MensRights20/07/26 12:31 AM
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The question in most cases is not whether the man being called the biological father cheated. So the concern you raise is a tiny percentage compared to guys who legitimately may be biological father but want it confirmed before they take responsibility. If you were staring down a life of father responsibilities, not just child support, and you. Point trust the woman, wouldn’t you demand confirmation of paternity?
/r/MensRights20/07/26 12:28 AM
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Talk about how certain (often feminist) narratives on masculinity both draw too sharp of lines between masculine and feminine behaviors and don’t talk at all about the overlap. For example, men are labeled protectors. But expectations and actual real world behaviors show that both masculine and feminine play protective roles. The difference is that men trend toward protecting wife and kids, family as a whole, and property and wealth on the physical side of things, while women look more to protec…
/r/MensRights16/07/26 06:02 PM
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How much of the difference is attributable to women’s choices? Women choose jobs that pay less but are more flexible, comfortable, and less dangerous. Which also explains why 90%+ workplace deaths and dismemberments are men (where does that factor into this?). Women also take more vacation and don’t push for raises. All of this which will have a significant impact on earnings and wealth accumulation. It’s not a wage gap, that’s been shown to not exist. And it’s not legally being paid less for th…
/r/MensRights16/07/26 05:50 PM
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Let leave out the assumption that she is somehow forced to leave the workforce because for most couples that’s not the case. It’s a shared choice. Then we need to also look at what costs each spouse pays to support that decision. Yes, she loses income (so does he by her not working, which can also lead to him working longer hours, more dangerous job, or a second job - are these things also compensated in the prenup?) and that means she loses growth in her job and the potential for increased inco…
/r/MensRights16/07/26 03:31 PM
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If an adult drinks and drives we hold them responsible for any harm caused. Why would this be any different? If we held people responsible for their actions “while under the influence” of anything that alters their mind, we might get more responsible behavior. Women need to be held to the same standard as men across the board.
/r/MensRights14/07/26 06:42 PM
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They want your M.E.A.T. (Money, energy, attention, time). Thanks Kevin Samuel for this phrase.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 03:56 PM
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Stanford published a paper saying that the AIs many companies use have built-in discrimination. They specifically mentioned men as one group with built in discrimination. So no surprise there.
/r/MensRights25/06/26 03:38 PM
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No. Free speech is too important. Let them talk. They’ve already had their turn and it’s slowly starting to shift. Society is going to be looking at the damage from modern feminism and overly supported victim hood for a long while. We can still speak out against those things which we can demonstrate as problems.
/r/MensRights25/06/26 03:30 PM
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So if he cheats, he’s an asshole. If she cheats he did something that made her cheat. So why f men already in relationships turn to AI it’s again because he’s an asshole, but if a women does it he drive her to it. Predictable.
/r/MensRights23/06/26 10:28 PM
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You really have two questions here and I think you need to answer both. First question is, does the other wronged party deserve to know? Answer to that is “yes”. The second question is when and how is the best way to inform her? Now you can start drawing up parameters. After your divorce is finalized. In a way that is anonymous to protect your children from harm. And so on. Your pain shouldn’t drive your timeline, your kids safety and mental health should. If it takes two years, then so be it. H…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 02:44 PM
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Discouraging uncalled for rudeness is a social good. It’s so easy to be rude, but not all that much more difficult to be polite instead. That extra bit of self control is a good thing to encourage.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 05:44 AM
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Good advice!
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/26 10:13 PM
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If she can break her most sacred vows and lie to you to keep it hidden once, she can do it again. That level of trust, once gone, ever come back properly. Don’t even consider taking her back.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 08:12 PM
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Yes, I’ve seen both kids and adults who’ve been so spoiled their assumption is the world works however they want it to work. Entitled by default. “Oh, I crashed my car because I’m 3 times the legal limit? You can’t arrest me, Dad is a Senator.” Even if she gets arrested, someone in the department will cover it and get her home. No record, no trial, no punishment. The costs get paid. The injured get some compensation. So she learns nothing sticks. There’s never a cost for her. Up to the point whe…
/r/MensRights04/06/26 09:25 PM
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I’ve seen a woman turn her rings inside to her palm then jump on a guys back to scratch his eyes out. She didn’t blind him, but left scars and he needed surgery on an eyeball. She claimed it was an accident. I had to testify. I’ve also seen a woman have a knife, maybe more a sharp poker hidden in her leather lipstick case. She pulled it out and tried to stab the other woman she was attaching. Only 2.5” long but still.
/r/MensRights04/06/26 09:21 PM
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When a child is raised spoiled they become entitled as adults.
/r/MensRights04/06/26 06:53 PM
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A year working weekends in a Sydney bar near the docks. Rough place. Women by far caused more chaos and did more harm than men. Can’t count the number of times I watched them start and further escalate fights. They hit and are shocked if anyone responds or calls them on it. Then there’s the issue of rings, keys, knives and other weapons they would use or try then act all “I’m just a girl” when getting arrested for it. Belligerent guys were next. Then cheated on guys walking into a hookup.
/r/MensRights04/06/26 06:52 PM
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My response. “So you’ve never called the police, fire, EMS, or any man for help and gotten it? Ever? Because the majority of those protecting our society, policing and maintaining it are men. And only a tiny fraction so the crimes you accuse us all of. So you’re also responsible for every woman who kills her child?)
/r/MensRights22/05/26 09:05 PM
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I take a different stance than seems popular regarding being inebriated. If someone willfully imbues they are responsible for any action they take after that, man or woman. They almost certainly know the side effects of alcohol and willingly put themselves in that state. If they didn’t willingly consume I call that being drugged.
/r/MensRights22/05/26 08:34 PM
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First, show that women are excluded for anything in terms of educational opportunity or jobs. Then you can talk about if demanding a ratio of 30% makes sense. If there are a 1,000 engineers for 200 jobs, is there any reason to hire specific ones other than competence? If there are 102 women engineers in that pool of 1,000 Job seekers is a 30% requirement rational?
/r/MensRights20/05/26 03:26 AM
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Mom knows who are the candidates. If she doesn’t because she was too slutty or inebriated, then it’s all in her. No child support possible, no known father officially. As for the “it’s possible” ones the child still deserves to know as does the biological father. If they know there’s a chance how does it make anything tougher?
/r/MensRights16/05/26 07:19 PM
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He’s an asshole who makes money off pain.
/r/MensRights12/05/26 11:35 PM
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Can’t be any worse than giving it to someone who spends instead of saves.
/r/MensRights12/05/26 06:47 PM
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Also, it was setup by dead rich people. The rich profiting and controlling any way they can.
/r/MensRights02/05/26 04:46 PM
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Fair enough. Honestly for someone like you I would suggest using egalitarianist rather than feminist given the bad name modern feminists have earned.
/r/MensRights30/04/26 05:14 PM
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Of course not. Neither are all feminists. In fact most are probably good people who just do like so many and get onboard for things based on emotion without checking sources or questioning the reasoning or data. Which is why we still see so many feminists keep brining up the wage gap thing when it’s been so thoroughly debunked the woman who did it got a Nobel economic prize for it.
/r/MensRights30/04/26 05:04 PM
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Feminism is a political movement. It has to be judged by both its stated goals and how its adherents behave. Since feminism has many active groups, and women can vote with feminist ideals behind their votes, why shouldn’t we judge the results of feminist policies collectively? We've had almost 60 years of feminist policies being part of society so it seems fair to look at what policies feminists actually supported rather than what they claim. Most feminists will say they want equality. But when …
/r/MensRights29/04/26 06:56 PM
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Parts of first wave feminism were absolutely spot on. Equal treatment, equal opportunity were great. But the piece that’s so often missed in these conversations is that equal responsibility goes with equal treat,ent and equal opportunity. So the draft and equal treatment,ent under the law for arrests and convictions, and accusations. Also, not all of first wave feminism was good. There were a few of those early feminist leaders who actively promoted killing of all but 10% of men or other very da…
/r/MensRights29/04/26 06:49 PM
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And rape fantasies are just as prevalent among women as men.
/r/MensRights17/04/26 06:07 PM
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Exactly. Why the societal trust in men for EMS, Police, Fire, Military, and Security Forces if it’s such a rampant issue. Shouldn’t that be the first step, remove men from all those positions? Their logic doesn’t add up. “Yes, we impose a curfew on all men because a tiny fraction do things we don’t like. How will we catch and punish those ignoring the curfew, oh the male police will be sent to arrest them… uh, wait, that won’t work.”
/r/MensRights10/04/26 05:32 PM
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I don’t know about other men but I have been very discriminatory with sexual partners, had to make sense objectively and have feelings. Always love the assumption that men somehow don’t have feelings or don’t pay any attention to them. Why is it so difficult to understand that controlling emotions and guarding the public expression of them is different from not having them or not paying attention to them when appropriate?
/r/MensRights01/04/26 04:25 PM
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For the WNBA most of their fans are men. It’s getting better with more women and girls watching, but right now it’s still more men than women.
/r/MensRights19/03/26 07:57 PM
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Young men don’t owe anyone a baby or a marriage. The social contract is bankrupt and has been for decades.
/r/MensRights16/03/26 01:55 AM
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Provide links to show exactly where this happened.
/r/MensRights08/03/26 11:44 PM
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A prenup when done right is a couple deciding what is fair in a breakup while building to marriage. If they do t do it then, when they love each other, the state will do it later. Which means whatever random judge and whoever manipulates the court most gets favored. A prenup is a way to be fair up front. Nothing more. Any woman offended by one wants it her way even in a breakup.
/r/MensRights02/03/26 12:30 AM
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Don’t worry about the label. It short circuits our thinking. We hang labels on things, they accumulate assumptions, prejudices and more. Instead take the statements these ideas have individually and look at the evidence. Does hypergamy in women’s mate selection exist? And if so, what impact does it have? Do we live today under patriarchal control? If not, what societies have lived under such control? And has it had the effects claimed by feminism? Did women benefit from patriarchal control, if s…
/r/MensRights01/03/26 08:21 PM
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There is a known bias for this exact thing. It suggests that men are more willing to help in heroic or dangerous situations here women are more willing to help in nurturing and support situations. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38376350/ In terms of social experience though when a young boy tells his parents about hurt feelings, up to a a certain point in childhood they get the same nurturing as girls. But at some point that ends, replaced with “toughen up kid” or “be strong or “solve your own …
/r/MensRights12/02/26 10:57 PM
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As someone who spent time as an EMT and also lived with an under taker for six months I got to see both sides of it. My impression is women threaten it more than do it, and when they do it, they use slow recoverable processes (poison, wrists) and reach out for support very soon after. Men in the other hand, either have no one, or have reached out and been mocked or denied help, so when they do it, they use fatal violent methods (gun, fall, hang, death cop) that, once begun, can’t be recovered fr…
/r/MensRights12/02/26 09:58 PM
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In the U.S. just change out Queen and Princess with Senator and Congresman. Point still stands, women have sent men to war as u/TextDependent6779 claimed. With your second sentence you,re trying to shift the goal posts. Which is it, we are focusing on the U.S., or not? Either way, women have sent men to war usually without having ever been at risk of being sent to war themselves. And second, yes, we can talk about other countries treatment of women, but if we do that, mirror it by their treatmen…
/r/MensRights11/02/26 10:10 PM
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Let’s be honest, for most of human history the oppressors were the rulers, that top 1/2% richest most powerful families. Men and women though men were more often the titular rulers. But the women in those families enjoyed the power and wealth as much as their men.
/r/MensRights25/01/26 12:48 AM
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I think one thing many analysts miss is that gaming ultimately is split into two primary groupings, phone based and everything else. Women primarily are involved in phone based. It’s the console snd PC gaming base, which is mostly male, where the DEI has caused a lot of product failures and is being pushed back against hard I think we¡re going to see this division widen. Console snd PC are going to have to chase men¡s money to survive. Phone, by its nature, is more equally distributed. So DEI an…
/r/MensRights22/01/26 06:22 PM
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Is it sexist to say what truly happens? So,e women will be appreciative, many will complain without even considering how many had to perform dangerous laborious tasks to recover. Many men will also not even consider the labor and danger costs. But, for all the people doing the labor yo correct the issues well over 90% will be men. Yet many of those women (especially in that area of the U.S.) will also claim they don't need men, that society doesn't need men. And they couldn’t be more wrong.
/r/MensRights22/01/26 06:16 PM
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Have you read the typical marital vows? They do include vows on sex and intimacy, maybe not spelled it in today's language,but historically that’s how they are defined. The phrase “to have and to hold” is sex and intimacy using old terminology for it. Now, if an asexual wants to marry and do their own vows, their partner knows going in and it's an unusual situation. But a traditional marriage, with that vow, yes,both partners are vowing to have sex and be intimate with each other. The ability to…
/r/MensRights21/01/26 07:02 PM
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You've heard of Queens, Princesses, Empresses? They sent men to war too.
/r/MensRights21/01/26 06:56 PM
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Don’t lie about this. Men are also sent to war by women. In fact a there was a study comparing Kings vs Queens and Queens started more wars. Additionally, in the west,with countries having female representatives in government who have to vote forgoing to war, again women do send men to war while not holding their own gender to account for service.
/r/MensRights21/01/26 06:55 PM
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Not having sex one time is not abuse. Using that stoppage to punish a partner and control their behavior to get what you want, is.
/r/MensRights21/01/26 06:49 PM
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https://www.findlaw.com/family/paternity/legal-definition-of-father-by-state.html
/r/MensRights14/01/26 11:01 PM
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So you're missing the key issue here in the states. Marriage has nothing to do with child support being legally applied to a man. In many states they have a clause about “presumption of paternity” which means even if the wife cheats and husband can prove it with a paternity test, he's still obligated for child support and faces wage garnishment even prison if he doesn't pay. For those not married, if she can show a man is the father, sometimes all it requires is his name on the birth certificate…
/r/MensRights14/01/26 09:25 PM
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There's a reason France made paternity tests illegal without a court order and French women's level of commitment is a huge part of it.
/r/MensRights14/01/26 04:37 PM
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Nope. Reading faces is a skill. Empathy is an attitude where you understand at an emotional level what someone else is experiencing
/r/MensRights05/01/26 10:32 PM
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I think you missed the point. Your chart has massive, unfounded assumptions (read that as heavy bias), built into it, which is why it’s not good. If everyone can experience hardship and discrimination, what the hell is privilege other than statistical data points that show minor variations?
/r/MensRights31/12/25 04:09 AM
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Let me give you one example of the built-in bias in this type of model. I am an older white male, straight, atheist, well educated, upper middle class, homeowner (literally). Now, according to this model i'm very privileged in many ways. I live in the U.S. but what about if I move to Iran, Gana, or China? What changes in my privilege, and how does this chart demonstrate those changes? Is being white really privileged in Iran? What about Gana? Or China? Is being atheist really a privilege in Iran…
/r/MensRights31/12/25 12:00 AM
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2-3 a week. I try to read one hard science, history or similar topic book and one relaxation sci-fi, fantasy, western, etc. at the same time.
/r/MensRights27/12/25 09:27 PM
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Ladies don’t hit. Any woman hitting gets treated just like any other attacker.
/r/MensRights11/12/25 07:08 AM
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Mothers can love sons just fine. But they need an adult man in their lives to push them. To show them how to stand on their own. My wife sure lives her sons despite all the grey hair they've caused. But a lot of women are raised in single mother homes with no father or strong male in their lives. That affects the girls too. Mothers play one role, fathers a different role. Kids need both. In my own marriage it can be summarized as women nurture and protect emotions and comfort, effectively making…
/r/MensRights10/12/25 09:41 PM
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So exactly what do women bring in terms of romance? What holidays? What efforts? Can you name some?
/r/MensRights01/12/25 11:59 PM
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I didn’t ignore the care industry. I'm aware everyone has a role if they choose to fill it. And society needs its next generation. That doesn’t invalidate anything I said. Men procure far more of the resources and do far more of the labor creating and maintaining and supplying modern society than women. Bth men and women earn and contribute taxes. But women get significantly more of the resources from those taxes in terms of social programs than do men. It’s the same criticism that some states p…
/r/MensRights01/12/25 11:57 PM
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The concept you're missing is that men do 90+% of the necessary building, maintenance, procurement of raw materials, farming, and manufacturing effort. They earn more money on particular job types because they tend to work longer hours and take fewer days off. Men work more dangerous laborious jobs. More essential to survival jobs. There isn’t a wage gap (see the Nobel bell prize disproving this claim). There's an earning gap. In the U.S., men are fewer than women yet face far more danger and ha…
/r/MensRights26/11/25 05:39 AM
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“It’s seems” is bullshit. Each person determines their purpose, often more than one. You need to fix how you look at it, not demand a single purpose collectively.
/r/MensRights23/11/25 07:37 PM
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Depends how you define ‘murder’. If you include abortions the numbers are very different from not including abortions.
/r/MensRights16/11/25 10:18 PM
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Weaponizihg sex as it inevitably leads to dead bedroom which then removes one of the important things she brought to the table. Heck, if you look at it, all of what men agree to bring can be enforced by the court, but somehow, none of what women agree can be. So she can demand money for provision for kids, maybe her too depending on the situation, have to maintain that lifestyle. Protection in the form of decent living space while none is required for him. Things like sex, intimacy, support, eve…
/r/MensRights14/11/25 04:48 PM
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I love how she admits she has talked to men about it but didn't get the response she wanted (criticize men and make them change) so rather than consider she might be placing blame incorrectly, she infantilizes adult women making chooses about their body, thus undermining the concept of ‘my body, my choice’.
/r/MensRights13/11/25 06:20 PM
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I spent a couple of years as a bouncer. The narrative that men are stronger so we should assume they will do more damaged and thus should be stopped is naive. What you see is that women tend to initiate more. They use mild physical violence and emotional put downs than men. They are more likely to start the chaos that ends up n punches being thrown. And they can be just as damaging as men when they get to choose when it starts. The other issue is too often the guy she's mildly smacking has been …
/r/MensRights11/11/25 06:12 AM
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My response is simple. “So… how much of that emotional labor did you invent because you felt it necessary? You just mentioned a whole host of stuff you spent time worrying about and very little of it is aimed at stuff that keeps the home maintained or builds a better world for us. So if my worry is spent on those, and your worry is spent on maintaining the emotional health of our family and our status with the neighbors and in our community, are you really doing labor I am not matching? Or are y…
/r/MensRights10/11/25 05:51 AM
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If you assume that all men re sexual predators then it is justifiable. Since statistic do not support that claim, and less than 1% of men are sexual predators. And the percentage of women who are sexual predators isn’t all that much less, it's just sexist discrimination to have it as an option only available to women. To avoid the sexism part, the companies could make it available to men as well. Additionally what if a man feels safer with a woman driver? Or a woman feels safer with an ale drive…
/r/MensRights07/11/25 06:39 PM
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Fuck that. Incel, like neck beard, basement dweller, and others are shaming language. Don’t adopt it. Same with mansplain. Don’t use them and don’t let them go unremarked. Call it out as shaming and sexist. Be men again. If they want you yo bow your head, force it back up, look them in the eye and tell them “To hell with you. Know what being independent truly means? I decide where to spend my life, what to fight for and what to die for. My peace and dignity are worth that fight.”
/r/MensRights01/11/25 07:50 PM
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Yes. Apparently the higher the education the lower the integrity.
/r/MensRights29/10/25 03:47 PM
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Bullshit. The numbers are about equal. Women can do worse than cheat, they can also do paternity fraud and do. Men can also do worse, get their affair partner pregnant. Equivalent, not the same.
/r/MensRights29/10/25 03:37 PM
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I look at it like this, and understand it's coming from an older long term married man so I have no skin in the game, just observation. I break down the situations into categories: Widow, married with kid(s) whose husband died young enough she is a single mother to small children. So long as she hasn’t gone wild being promiscuous, I wouldn't class the risk much higher than if she didn't have kids. And the difference is simply due to more people involved = more potential issues to work through. S…
/r/MensRights22/10/25 04:30 PM
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Want to have a perfect example? Me and two friends, all dressed in black suits, early 40 guys, thick even chubby, one bald and short as well. He asks, “Am I getting fat?” Just as we're entering a building. We pause, look at him and say seriously, “Yeah, you're a total fat ass, baldy, massive ego and attitude, what the hell is wrong with you. Oh, and you smell.” Just behind us a young women say as, “you can’t say that!” We turn and look at her. Just stare. Then fat bald guy asks, “why not? I am s…
/r/MensRights18/10/25 11:30 AM
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BS. If that happens to you, push back. Being stoic doesn’t mean not having emotions. Nor does it mean never showing emotions. It means not letting emotions dictate your response. And controlling the most volatile emotions. Showing love, tenderness, and loss are done, just in the proper tie and place. There's an old instruction to general and used to be for Kings that says not to waste time grieving for the fallen until after you've ensured the living will continue. After that grieving happens. T…
/r/MensRights16/10/25 08:51 PM
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Isn’t it interesting that a man's responsibilities can be enforced during a divorce while a woman's can’t?
/r/MensRights14/10/25 01:23 AM
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Way to avoid answering the question.
/r/MensRights08/10/25 06:03 PM
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Because I haven’t seen any feminists asking for it. I’ve seen some admit they should be. But no demonstrations, no social media push. Silence unless cornered, then the usual rebuttal is “we shouldn’t have a draft.” Problem is, men’s right to vote hinges on willingness to serve the country, women have no such responsibility.
/r/MensRights06/10/25 10:54 PM
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Tell her that with enough time you come to realize both genders can be shallow is choosing for sex. But long term relationships require personality, integrity and such. Beauty faded. Character grows.
/r/MensRights04/10/25 07:33 PM
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The family court system needs to be sued with the argument on it being fraud, but the demand being every obey paid back, plus interest since it's not just fraud, it's state supported fraud. Ought to also bring up why men can be jailed for non payment regardless of DNA but women can't despite (DNA wise) them clearly being the mother?
/r/MensRights26/09/25 09:00 PM
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Please name what privileges men as a group have. Don't point to hyper successful leaders because that's falling for the Apex fallacy.
/r/MensRights26/09/25 08:35 PM
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I'll read that. Sorry if I wasn’t clear. I wasn't making a claim that the rate listed was correct, but rather that pointing to a rate and claiming it's not enough doesn't work. We could compare against similar rates for other forms of violence to see what their rates are. Then look at the types of evidence presented and see if those have a factor. But just looking at a single digit ratio and saying it's not enough is meaningless. Maybe that is the rate at which convictions are justified? I don't…
/r/MensRights23/09/25 02:48 PM
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Revenge for the past 4,000 years where the average women was better protected and kept from harm…. Maybe not as well as today, but not that far from it either compared to what average men at the same time experienced?
/r/MensRights22/09/25 03:36 PM
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Do you have good evidence for this claim? I know there are a lot of rape kits not processed. That needs fixed. But… is single digit conviction a problem if that's the ratio where the story aligns with the evidence enough to justify conviction. What's the murder or assault rate?
/r/MensRights22/09/25 03:33 PM
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If men didn’t care why are there laws against it, police forces against it, why have there been rules of combat over it for as long as we’ve had written history and likely much longer?
/r/MensRights20/09/25 09:29 PM
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I will deny her experience unless she reported it because so often it’s a BS claim. We need to stop validating every claim and emotion. Go back to skeptical until proven, innocent until guilty. I care about women who have graped. I don’t care about the ones who exaggerate it, lie about it, or define it in such a way it isn’t forceful sexual assault. A man kissing after a date and her regretting it after isn’t SA.
/r/MensRights20/09/25 09:28 PM
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Nope. But we have enough evidence that mothers are as frequently abusive to their children that we shouldn’t be making generalizations based on gender. Demonstrate the children are at risk by a parent of either gender and it should become a different conversation. But stop with the assumption that fathers are somehow more commonly abusive than mothers.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 12:38 PM
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Does toxic femininity exist?
/r/MensRights15/09/25 12:22 PM
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Price out the exact same set of sneakers, hikers, sandals. Men’s sizes and women’s. You'll see it.
/r/MensRights12/09/25 02:48 AM
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Places I notice the biggest differences that are not optional are things like the cost of shoes, jeans, and such. My wife can spend $15 on a pair of strappy heels that go with a specific outfit and it’s acceptable for her to wear them at work. My footwear for work has been ether steel toed boots, dress shoes (suit and tie), or just some form of brown shoe. None of my shoes cost less than $40, most are closer to $100-250 per pair. I end up with a total of 7 pairs of shoes, including sneakers, san…
/r/MensRights12/09/25 02:19 AM
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So you¡fe built in an assumption that’s true for what percentage of marriages? And why would you think that’s a benefit if paternity is in question?
/r/MensRights12/09/25 01:20 AM
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In the U.S. at least it’s been shown there is no wage gap. There’s an earnings gap which is different. Choices have impacts. Choosing a job that is more time flexible, requires less training and hours, and not pushing for promotion all have costs that have nothing to do with wage gap.
/r/MensRights11/09/25 04:32 PM
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Don’t lie to yourself. Women benefit every bit as much as men do from marriage. Those few studies that show otherwise, look at their methodologies. They ignore male contributions that benefit the woman other than money. If we did that for the woman side, ignoring all but money, or sex, many marriages would not benefit men at all.
/r/MensRights11/09/25 03:12 PM
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That’s a very different issue than cheating and keeping a baby you know or at least is possible is not the husbands.
/r/MensRights11/09/25 03:10 PM
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No. My body, my choice and the laws enabling women to be the only ones with reproductive rights, at least in the U.S., make it so women alone are responsible if they get pregnant AND keep it. It’s key to understand if they cheat, there’s no real repercussions unless hubby finds out and divorces, which is same for men. It’s only when the cheating results in a pregnancy AND the woman decides to keep it AND conceal the cheating that it becomes fraud. She own all those decisions uniquely. It’s not t…
/r/MensRights11/09/25 03:09 PM
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Remove alimony and child support if both parents work. Instead time is divided 50/50 by default, no child support by default. If one parent has been SAH, then short term options to cover time for getting some training and getting a job make sense, but not 20 years worth.
/r/MensRights08/09/25 06:21 PM
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Bodily autonomy means they are fully responsible for what happens to their body due to their choices. Rape would be the only exception. The problem is the phrase, “my body, my choice” is missing the responsibility, “my body, my choice, my responsibility”. And should apply equally for pregnancy and child support if they decide to keep it. That's what being strong and independent means.
/r/MensRights04/09/25 03:49 PM
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So you assumed he was talking about rape, which based on the content of the post is NOT what is the context. Focus instead on a hook up. If the concept is, “my body, my choice” then why is the man blamed if the woman gets pregnant in that situation? Her choice also means her responsibility. Yes, he should be ensuring use of condom to ensure no disease is transferred but that is his responsibility because it's his body.
/r/MensRights04/09/25 03:47 PM
1

Just lost her as X. Nothing else.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 12:19 AM
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Reverse the gender and law enforcement would be tracking them down.
/r/MensRights30/08/25 03:28 AM
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Agreed. No conviction without sufficient evidence to justify. Circumstantial and just testimony should not suffice as we know how unreliable testimony is.
/r/MensRights29/08/25 08:52 PM
1

How far in the past? I worked cashier too during college in the early90s, but it was night manager on 7pm to 7am, Friday, Sat. And Sun. And company policy only males can work that shift.
/r/MensRights28/08/25 06:35 PM
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You need a better attorney. This problem isn’t just a divorce issue. You need to restructure your life before you do anything else. I'm assuming you're a contractor. Is that right? Get a decent tax attorney with forensic accountant. And ask how you restrict or do you get paid a wage rather than being the owner outright. Do it just to shield you from a lawsuit, much less a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 04:57 PM
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From what I see with Disney, they say they want a new IP to bring back Gen Z boys which I still find problematic. It’s still using a demographic group to try and appeal to rather than simply writing good hero or adventure stories for people who like them. Many Gen Z boys will be part of that group. But they have to stop talking about gender, race, sexual identity. Stop the identity politics entirely in their decision making. Write love stories for those who like them, which will be both many wom…
/r/MensRights26/08/25 04:47 PM
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She's also often revised the narrative to make you the bad guy in all things, and her the victim. It’s weird when you clearly see it. So,etching she brought up ten years ago that you addressed and changed. And she said she was happy with. Suddenly it's brought up again. Only now what you did to address it wasn't enough, didn't count, didn't matter. When she said she was happy you should have seen she wasn’t. Goal posts changed long after the fact, firmly placing you back as the problem and her a…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 04:26 PM
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Been married 37 years. Seen a lot of couples divorce and some stay together that I bought would divorce. Your experience matches mine.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 04:22 PM
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Not telling is having committee integrity that at any point if I find out you’re gone. Sorry if you don’t like that but I would consider this a betrayal at the most fundamental level. Like not coming clean to spending time in prison. That shit had to come out long before intimacy or you’re a deceitful sack of shit.
/r/MensRights24/08/25 11:01 PM
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Honestly, Kathleen is stupid and self centered enough to think she could push men out and all female audience would make up for it. Can’t understand how she thought a brand made popular feeding boys would work for that.
/r/MensRights24/08/25 01:35 AM
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They’ve already lost most of their male audience. They ruled Star Wars, Marvel and Disney for me. If they immediately returned to the type of stories that made those franchises great, in ten years of so maybe the next young generation would care. They told me Enoch time they didn’t want an old white man to watch their stuff.
/r/MensRights24/08/25 12:26 AM
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Sorry to hear about the bots club crap. I’ve had good and DEI women bosses. Not a gender thing so much as asshole, discrimination and entitlement thing regardless of race or gender: I hate that.
/r/MensRights23/08/25 09:52 PM
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Very true. But single Dad outcomes are pretty close. Given how failed relationships devastate men’s lives can we really argue that modern relationships are worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 12:53 AM
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Your point is reasonable that history shows a different world than mass media. But from a narrative perspective, control the words, language, and especially the stories, change the culture. The issue at hand is these IPs are already well established male stories. Rather than create compelling female stories and pushing those for success (which is incredibly officiating when the priority is pushing the boss babe narrative rather than a focus on a great female character). Instead they use a “pass …
/r/MensRights20/08/25 09:16 PM
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Don't believe that feminist talking point, women have always worked. What changed in the timeframe of WWII is that they were recruited into laborious jobs they have never even tried to get into. Rosy the Riverter is a memorable phrase because of it. They also started serving in the U.S. military is positions they never had before, like logistic, signal analysis p, code breaker and such. Most didn't apply, but so,e did. Even taking all these new openings together it was a small fraction of women …
/r/MensRights20/08/25 05:11 PM
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It’s part of the feminist anti-male process.
/r/MensRights19/08/25 04:34 PM
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Yes. A secret agent with any other gender needs her own back story. They could make her a new 00 agent, same rough background, same rough skillset. A few clear differences to make her a different agent with different key indicators.
/r/MensRights19/08/25 03:37 AM
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Go through your home, take pics and videos of everything you both own. After that if she does something like this again, just let your attorney know.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 12:32 AM
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Don’t label it 'men' as that shit gets old. It may be red pillers, not men. Agreed on the college and nineteenth as being potential losing rights. Very much agreed. Just wasn’t sure what you were referring to. That said, feminism, of the modern variety, hasn’t been about equal rights no matter how often that mantra is said. It’s about advantaging women at the cost of men. Otherwise we wouldn’t have experienced decades where women get help into college, grants, positions and such while equally qu…
/r/MensRights17/08/25 09:03 PM
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Feminists have actively been pushed into replacing men at many schools. From K-12, and colleges. To the point that it’s rare for a male teacher in the K-12 space. The curriculum and teaching methods have also been changed to tailor more for girls. Boys are seen as disruptive, too aggressive, won’t sit still, and are graded worse for the same level of effort. Over decades it’s taken a toll. Boys get medicated, girls get rewarded and supported.
/r/MensRights16/08/25 09:43 PM
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So you’re racist, sexist and classist? Your link doesn’t support any but the class difference.
/r/MensRights16/08/25 09:40 PM
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From what I understand the dark triad traits are good for survivability, bad for stability. So women have a dual mating strategy. Get pregnant with the dark triad guy, then get a man who is better for the lo term to raise them. I don't think it's conscious, just how some women are wired.
/r/MensRights15/08/25 09:06 PM
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I didn't ask the question. You did. I was answering why it’s not really important. And how women being involved (are they really exceptions when princes and kings are both taught their world view by queens and princess?) remove the stupid patriarchy assumption. Instead of trying to blame all men, which is what the patriarchy assumption does, keep the focus on the people who, regardless of gender, actually exercised power. If you think queens, princesses, duchesses, baronesses, and such are an ex…
/r/MensRights15/08/25 07:44 PM
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Can you explain what rights you think red pillars are trying to take away? Telling women how to live their lives… you¡re kidding me, right? Everyone does it to men, democrats, republicans, feminists, conservatives, liberals, sexists, and more.
/r/MensRights15/08/25 06:06 PM
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Screw that last paper decision. Completely ignoring the harm done by infidelity for any man unknowing being defrauded while actively parenting. Only in the case of court ordered child care payments do they even consider reimbursement? And no reimbursement for the fraud itself? Why? In any other legal contract, being defrauded allows the injured party to seek recompense for both damages realized and emotional or reputations damages. Labeled a dead beat dad, put in prison, all based on fraudulent …
/r/MensRights15/08/25 05:51 PM
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Who set that system up? The wealthy and powerful. Feminists love to say it was men, but they are, again, missing that the women in those circles also had agency, and also had a say in who they married, how they raised their children, and whether they addressed any of the issues with their spouse. Women could be princes, queens, baronesses and make decisions while husband was away or dead. Mostly these were nobility families, but sometimes it was just wealthy (land owners). So how does that help …
/r/MensRights15/08/25 05:30 PM
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My thought as well. Does that logic work in reverse, if she files does that mean she never cared for him?
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 01:27 PM
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Respect is earned. Courtesy starts free but is easily lost because it’s a small privilege to grease social interactions. If I’m polite and they are rude, I’m sill polite until the second time, then it’s gone. If my first interaction accusatory, angry, spiteful, polite changes to wary. Under the skin I’m a barbarian who believes in the old male roles. Polite is polish that comes off when needed, whether to protect mine, or to protect the group.
/r/MensRights14/08/25 04:38 AM
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Feminists concentrate so hard in modernity that they miss the vast majority of time when the average person had access to nine of the privileges they ended up getting after average men and women fought for them. More than 200,0000 years humans have been around. A 30 year gap after so,etching is introduced to make it equal opportunity seems like arguing over lint. Most men, through most of history, were not oppressing women deliberately. Both genders had it rough. Also, the 1820 is for universal …
/r/MensRights13/08/25 08:51 PM
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I can only add a few pieces. First, one of the four big reasons claimed for why divorce is happening is religious (maybe enter called differences I belief systems). So it is an important aspect. Second, religious marriages tend to last longer. But add that in the U.S. at least 25% of marriages have a dead bedroom. There is a percentage that admits to only staying for the kids due to the better outcomes with two parent homes. As for longevity, not sure why that matters much because it’s partially…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 08:27 PM
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Right to self determination - I was circumcised without my permission because the laws allow for a religious exception fora religion I hadn’t joined. Right to life - selective service, I have to signup or I can be charged with a crime and cannot vote None of these below apply to me currently but could have easily. A starting point. If I had a child my wife conceived via an affair, my right to determine procreation (not told it's another man's in time to divorce or demand it’s put for adoption,or…
/r/MensRights12/08/25 08:15 PM
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“People long dead whose ideas about governing came from civilizations even further back. Go back far enough and we don't know. So… exactly what point were you trying to make? Oh, yes, you wanted to blame men. So let me ask you who was responsible for raising children way back, before we even had cities or towns, in the hunter gatherer stage?”
/r/MensRights11/08/25 03:01 PM
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Jake, you have a poor understanding of history. You can get an idea why I say this if you're intellectually honest enough to search out answers to these questions. How long has human civilization been around? How long has voting as part of a system of ruling within those civilizations been around? Who held power before voting became art of the system of governing!? Be specific, not just gender generalizations. In other words, did women ever hold power in such pre-voting systems, such as Queens, …
/r/MensRights11/08/25 02:54 PM
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OP, please read this one! Pressing charges is necessary to establish the paper trail.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 01:57 PM
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Yep. Lots of effort to ensure some man pays for the child whether or not he's the father, while at the same time blocking attempts to DNA test at birth.
/r/MensRights11/08/25 01:47 PM
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If the step dad hasn’t adopted the child, once the relationship ends (due to cheating), so is the relationship with the child. Moms have been known to treat Step Dads like outsiders. So time isn’t the key, depth of relationship is.
/r/MensRights11/08/25 01:42 PM
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Prenups can be thrown out. Even if she has her own lawyer (though it’s harder). Don’t ask me why courts think she was responsible enough to agree to marry but too immature when signing the prenup to be held liable for its terms. “I was coerced.” No, it was an agreed upon stipulation in order to get married. But judges look at it as “she was forced because he wouldn't have married her without it.” Yes, exactly the point! The only reason he went through with the marriage is because they both thoug…
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 05:19 PM
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I asked you first. Please give me a list, or at least a few. And don't give biological ones as those aren't under men's control in any way.
/r/MensRights08/08/25 04:35 PM
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What special privileges do men have?
/r/MensRights08/08/25 01:37 PM
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Drop her like fourth period French. That kind of stuff catches up eventually.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 02:55 AM
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Entitled. It’s time men used their own tactics to respond. “Are you feminist? Do you believe in equality?”
/r/MensRights07/08/25 05:32 PM
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She's expected by whom? Women. Not men. The key point here is that this isn't a patriarchal expectation. It comes from women competing with women. Bo patriarchy needed.
/r/MensRights07/08/25 02:01 PM
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When they say “male loneliness epidemic” respond back with “the laborers are done serving for the benefit of others” epidemic.
/r/MensRights02/08/25 11:08 PM
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I'm not angry at women. I refuse to bend the knee to feminist ideology. Sorry. I try hard not to be rude in interactions. But I also refuse to bend over backward to avoid ruffling feathers. Give them reciprocal treatment. They demand equality but want special treatment. No, we don’t play that game. Give them equal treatment then mock them for disliking it. Tell them to grow up and accept the responsibility they demanded. Hold them accountable. You don’t have to be rude to do it. Just don’t let v…
/r/MensRights02/08/25 08:31 AM
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I've had both male and enable bosses in nearly 40 years of working life. Never had problems I could tie to gender. Have had issues tied to personality types. Those who insist on micro managing I wind up hating or moving on. Those who give me objectives and leave me alone for the rest I can work with long term.
/r/MensRights01/08/25 03:49 PM
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Nice of you to assume people in this sub are incels. I'm sure you not at all offended by that term, just by the men you label with that term. Then again, a grand father with life experience like mine can not only see where feminism started gaining steam but how it went beyond its original scope.
/r/MensRights01/08/25 05:10 AM
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Hacked. Rubbish. It was unprotected and available in a public space. Requires some detective skills for the people who discovered it, but nothing criminal. The outrage when doxxers get doxxed.
/r/MensRights31/07/25 04:08 PM
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Just tell them it¡s internalized misandry introduced from their mother.
/r/MensRights30/07/25 05:03 PM
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All you need to do to not care is ask yourself, “Do I like them well enough to have them over for dinner?” If the answer is no, then you don’t care. Also, just a suggestion. I know it’s really hard if you are anxious in public. But you could also just ask, loudly, “Did you just call me a rapist based solely on my appearance?” No matter what she answers, just shake your head and get off at the next stop. Put that social pressure right back on her. People who make terrible comments tend to hate ha…
/r/MensRights29/07/25 03:54 PM
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Not seeing any other place you posted this type of post. Starting off lying isn't a great way to get a connection.
/r/MensRights27/07/25 10:51 PM
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Society in the west can no longer ignore how many men are checking out. Which is a real problem given how much society requires men's labor and sacrifice. Modern women love to say how they don't need a man, and in terms of intimate relationship they may be telling the truth. But they need men so much and don't realize it. The world today is pretty safe, comfortable, and relatively easy for the average woman. Wait until there's not enough men for mining, gas, oil, construction, maintenance and su…
/r/MensRights27/07/25 10:29 PM
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Yet it completely ignores the basic failure of not allowing doxxing and of enabling slander wholesale and not allowing those slandered to even know except by accident. Not great.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/25 08:46 PM
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Under what definition of abuse? Will it include women who regretted a consensual time, girls too drunk to consent but the guy who is just as drunk are held accountable for it, the woman who calls in because she got dumped, and other such lovely claims? Please provide a reliable source. Not something from a feminist source because I consider them all suspect.
/r/MensRights27/07/25 02:34 AM
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Only if the client is a woman. If it worked for men too it wouldn’t be discriminatory. That’s all that bet has to do to make it a matter of client preference. As it is only women are allowed to discriminate. Men can also be afraid of being alone with a woman. Or avoid it by policy.
/r/MensRights25/07/25 12:34 AM
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In the U.S. there isn’t one at all.
/r/MensRights25/07/25 12:02 AM
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Go find it yourself if you want to argue. I can supply some, but it's been my experience pro feminists refuse to even give it an honest look. Don't just look at enrollment rates. Look for studies and articles on boys in school. You've heard of Title 9, right? That is exclusionary against trait hot men and white men. Look at when it was instituted, and what's happened since. Look at places where feminist educators ave admitted to ensuring fewer men are allowed in. It’s available if you look. And …
/r/MensRights24/07/25 08:29 PM
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Op with the 'improve' BS. In the U.S. and many western countries every major institution has been advantaging women at the cost of men for up to 60 years. It shows up in many places, from eduction to laws and regulations to new business loans and forgiveness, DEi, Title 9, and other incriminatory policies. Society in total may not hate men. But there is a portion of it that does and is working hard to take as much power snd retain it for women as possible. It won’t work the long run because soci…
/r/MensRights24/07/25 08:15 PM
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Because courts also have strong bias for women and against men. The bias shows up in things like shelters as well. Thousands of shelters for women, newly all won't take men. And will kick out boys over a certain age. There has been one men only shelter attempted in recent years but it was shut down by feminist activists. So much for feminism being good for men.
/r/MensRights24/07/25 08:07 PM
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You're downplaying the obstacles that have been placed in the way for men and the benefits given to women. Boys are graded more harshly taking with K-12, and more likely to be ent for discipline, and less likely to be encouraged to go to higher education. Many colleges, most actually, despite Title 9 saying they can’t do it, still advantage women in getting into college over men. And support women with financial aid that is unavailable to men. Those all play a role. We have gone too far correcti…
/r/MensRights24/07/25 08:06 PM
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Equality and safety are the goals, right? So why not offer it to men as well? Having it available for women only to filter men isn't equal, which is why it's problematic.
/r/MensRights23/07/25 05:19 PM
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At that age, time is the best thing you can give your children and it sounds like you are. In terms of your own mental health, if you have empty time you need filled, pick up a hobby, something just for you. Other than that, pay as little attention to your ex as possible. Let her go. Be the best dad you can be. Your kids will remember it and it will help them grow. If it's any help, studies show that having an involved father leads to positive outcomes for your kids to the point it's about equal…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 02:16 PM
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Tell them to spend a day in divorce court. Then read up on the latest domestic violence stats. And the latest suicide rates and conviction rates. Ask them how many women died fighting in WWII versus men? Same for WWI, and any other modern war with good stats, like Ukraine war.
/r/MensRights22/07/25 12:43 AM
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Maybe someone like Camille. But then why feminism when egalitarianism suffices? Why such a gendered title for an equality concept?
/r/MensRights22/07/25 12:39 AM
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I wasn’t disagreeing with you, more adding to it. We know spouses tend to be biased in how they see the workload, which means we need an objective approach to get real data. As for the way my wife views it, early in our marriage she did what I said, just lumped it all together as work. In our 10th year we har marriage counseling and part of it was using a phone based time tracker to track real time usage. For a month. She was blown away by how closely our times matched using that approach. Since…
/r/MensRights21/07/25 04:39 PM
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Wait. You made an anecdotal claim. He butted with another anecdote to suggest that the studies ignore or discount work done. Then you think that your anecdote should be treated as truth while his a lie? Why? Far as I’ve seen most of these studies are self reported. Which makes them suspect. So why do you assume they are not?
/r/MensRights21/07/25 03:56 PM
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Been a home owner for 30 years, apartment renter for 8. The type of maintenance I do isn't limited to something breaking. Every clog, all light replacements, cleaning gutters, replacing sink faucet seals, fix and paint walls when damaged, annual caulking and sealing bathroom and windows, changing out filters (HVAC, water, sprinkler), automotive, machinery (mower, edger, and such), sharpening knives, repainting, sanding and resealing the old deck…. None of this gets counted in those studies, and …
/r/MensRights21/07/25 03:52 PM
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The key criticism that these studies use self reporting. There have been studies showing people exaggerate their work and downplay their spouses work. So when a study reaches out and asks women to respond on household work and collect only her reporting, we know it's likely the study will be significantly biased. The other issue is that women tend to be more integrated on how they view life and men more compartmentalized. Apply that to household chores and you have what my wife and I experience,…
/r/MensRights21/07/25 03:40 PM
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What's argued for is men having the same level of reproductive rights. If, as happens today nearly all reproductive rights are the woman's then so too should those responsibilities be hers. If neither wanted kid, had sex with protection. And she still wind up pregnant, she gets to change her mind and keep it, but stick him with the bill. Hat's not just. Her changing her mind should mean she accepts all responsibility. If it were a man choosing to keep the child, he would be tucked with all respo…
/r/MensRights18/07/25 06:30 PM
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He's talking about the data that shows that men of all ages find women 18-24 the most sexually attractive. After that the level of attraction declines. It’s been proposed that the explanation has to do with our instinctive selection criteria for mating and successful child birth. The youthful, healthy, ready for babies criteria shout loudest in that age group. Women, as people, don’t decline in value over time. What does decline is the ability to provide healthy babies and a legacy, it hits a sh…
/r/MensRights17/07/25 07:28 PM
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I'm not arguing for it. I'm explaining it's a reaction. It’s going to remain a reaction as long as the other side, who has far more political pull and bigger voice, continues misbehaving. It’s a natural consequence. Not necessarily a politically smart move.
/r/MensRights17/07/25 05:05 PM
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Talk to women, they do it far more than men. So much so they have a meme mocking the reply “it’s not all men” and a second claim, “but it's always a man” which is false. Until that changes, this type of copy cat isn't going away.
/r/MensRights17/07/25 02:34 PM
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Too bad that long term it’s a failing strategy. Men are far less willing to cater to the group. Oppress enough and they turn to attack. Yeah, one or two here or there don’t matter. But enough young men collectively attack with tacit support from older men is something no society can afford.
/r/MensRights16/07/25 09:44 PM
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I'm Gen-X p. That would get a laugh and a mocking, “oh, did someone not chill your rose properly?” Sheez, how overly sensitive. Tell her if she can’t stand the discussion perhaps she shouldn’t be involved in the decision making.
/r/MensRights10/07/25 02:37 PM
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Just tell her, “I am a provider, protector, I’ve worked on homes, fixed cars, and protected those I love. So what have you done that is expected of traditional women?” Be direct, it’s time entitled women get called on it.
/r/MensRights10/07/25 03:37 AM
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Setting up a profile is attention seeking. It’s time to leave when that is a priority for her.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 04:35 PM
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Can second this. Get a motorcycle, get to know some of your local clubs. There are riding events on weekends. If you the time and know how to handle yourself, look into BACA (Bikers Against Child Abuse). Bikers will take shifts watching the home of a child who’s been abused and guard them, then escort to school or for trial. Volunteer.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 01:54 PM
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You've reframed the issue. Being cautious about all strangers at night is reasonable. I'm talking about the specific “all men are rapists, be afraid of all men, so now men should walk on the other side of the street, or play music or whatever other idea they have”. That's what I was talking about. Some caution is smart. Telling all men we need to change how or where we walk in order to accommodate their irrational fears is not. Yes, feminist narrative is that all men are predators. Just listen t…
/r/MensRights03/07/25 06:28 PM
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Ask them to look up negative outcomes vs childhood home types. There's a study that shows two parents homes have the best outcomes for kids. There’s negative outcomes are things like teen pregnancy, drug use, homelessness, crime, prison and such. The second best category are gay couples, then single father homes. Single mother homes are the worst by a big factor. Having been both parent and now grand parent I can share my experience. My wife cared for their emotions, nurtured and tried hard to p…
/r/MensRights03/07/25 06:20 PM
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Don’t care what they call you. Don’t respond to personal attacks. Just say what you need to say. It will piss them off maybe. But they won’t know what to do other than asking you be banned, which is a badge of honor in the western world today.
/r/MensRights03/07/25 06:11 PM
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Because their fear is irrational. Because it never costs nothing, sometimes very little and easy to agree to. But at times it cannot be done, or costs more. Like the request that men should always find another way to walk so women aren't afraid at night. Statistically they are ring in their assumption that all men are abusive and predators. Real number is significantly less than 1%. Men are actually attacked more often. The other issue is it's often contradictory because it's based entirely on f…
/r/MensRights03/07/25 05:45 PM
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So how do you judge irrational vs rational safety standard? I'm an older white man, only 5’11”, but about as wide of shoulders as none I’ve ever met. Thick, muscular, strong. If I walk down street or along a park path in the dusk or the night, women will say I frighten them and should move to the other side of the road, or take a different path. They say this because there has been such a promotion from feminist sources that all men are abusive sexual misogynists who will attack them. I know I w…
/r/MensRights03/07/25 05:39 PM
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Why would you require me to lie? I cannot state that as objective fact. And neither can you! Both genders have suffered greatly. One gender is socially far more disposable than the other. Women and children first is a saying because that’s how we operate at a fundamental level.
/r/MensRights03/07/25 02:49 AM
1

In the U.S. the ability for cities and states to issue business licenses comes with agreement to abide by federal regulatory discrimination laws.if they abide by those laws, they're fine.
/r/MensRights02/07/25 07:06 PM
2

Absolutely. Ignore race, gender, focus on merit based.
/r/MensRights02/07/25 06:07 PM
2

Then all that equal opportunity, title IV, DEI and such shouldn't have happened? There shouldn’t¡t be discounts for women owned business loans, tax breaks for DEI stuff?
/r/MensRights02/07/25 04:54 PM
4

You do realize it doesn’t take women in power to have an electorate promoting feminism or anti-men policies?
/r/MensRights01/07/25 01:19 AM
5

Yes. Call it what it is for both genders, unnecessary (except in rare cases) medical mutilation.
/r/MensRights25/06/25 01:12 AM
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You need to file. As soon as possible. The request for counseling means either her AP (if she has one) hasn’t worked out, or she wants to use the counseling against you. Whether to stay married for now and divorce later when she's more ready or to divorce now but use it to her advantage, who knows. All I know is if she asked you four months ago, you should have filed within the week.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 08:09 PM
2

This so much. If she's too lazy to file, OP needs to get on with it. Once someone asks for a divorce you give it to them.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 08:06 PM
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Fix the real issue, no conviction without convincing physical evidence. Just testimony should never be enough since we know people lie, are mistaken, can be vindictive, can be delusional, have hallucination or mental issues. Personal testimony, outside of professional expert testimony, is really unreliable. Back to innocent until proven guilt. The key word “proven”. Not accused. Not manipulated. Proven, as in demonstrate the physical evidence that he raped her.
/r/MensRights13/06/25 06:32 PM
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When you add in how the definition of rape has changed, growing so broad that a woman can consensually have sex, wake the next day, regret it, and now it's rape, yeah, it's hard to take the claims seriously. Especially with inflated feminists report it.
/r/MensRights13/06/25 06:27 PM
1

For me there will always be things I enjoy and am passionate about. Fuck 'em if they din't like it and won¡t support it. My life, not theirs. Hope is simply the recognition that there is still worth in your life. Since it's my only life, it has value as long as I say it does. I don't know about you but I've been standing on my own almost 59 years. No one handed anything to me beyond a decent childhood. Why give up when there's more I can learn, accomplish, and enjoy? Buy a sailboat and life off …
/r/MensRights13/06/25 06:18 PM
2

Fully agree. Also fewer of them were raised without fathers. Unlike the trope I actually really like and respect my father in law. He's a good man.
/r/MensRights10/06/25 05:42 PM
2

The answer will depend heavily on the type of relationship the man has with the woman. A long term successful marriage is all I can talk about. Married 37 years, four kids. My wife has brought in physical help (working full time while I went to school full time for degrees), been a SAHM while our kids were young, took on part time job once all in school, and is now in school to finish a degree while working professionally and take the household chores, shopping and such since it's my turn. She h…
/r/MensRights10/06/25 05:28 PM
1

In the west it¡a been that way as long as I can remember. Born 1966. Travelled all over the world. Been going downhill a long time,
/r/MensRights04/06/25 03:14 AM
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The problem I have with the Patriarchy concept is that it’s wrong. It’s not a men vs women thing with men systemically suppressing women. It is instead the 1% taking actions to protect their wealth and power. The voices for those groups tend to be men, but if you think Queens and Princesses, wives and daughters, didn't participate you're naive.
/r/MensRights03/06/25 01:51 PM
1

Sure. But that’s true of all crimes not just SA. If I lie about the artist when I sell you a painting and you can’t demonstrate the lie, courts will presume innocence. If you can however, I get the sentence. Why should SA be any different? Are you suggesting it’s never happened that a woman has lied about it! Or had sex willingly then regretted it the next day? Or is it just that the men falsely accused don’t deserve being presumed innocent because they are men?
/r/MensRights01/06/25 05:36 AM
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It’s not a matter of it being worse as that the consequences (especially when courts don’t do due diligence and actually use evidence to establish guilt) are bad and long lasting. Going to jail for a decade, losing job, home, family, all because someone lied? There’s a British woman who lied in order to make her boyfriend jealous, not once, multiple times with different men. Several went to prison and lost jobs, homes, family. All because she was stupid, vindictive and no one had ever held her t…
/r/MensRights01/06/25 05:34 AM
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And? Why should anyone care about that percentage? Is it too much, too little, inaccurate or accurate? Or are you just trying to push the idea that there’s something inherently wrong with criticizing feminist ideology? I'm not sure where you're going with this.
/r/Male_Studies01/06/25 05:24 AM
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As you said, different crimes. What the hell does child rape have to do with prosecuting liars for using courts to hurt people by making false claims?
/r/MensRights01/06/25 05:10 AM
1

Why? If their accusations can be substantiated (which is the point of requiring evidence right?), then no issue. If bo evidence supports their claim sufficiently, that the legal system and presumed innocence concept. But if there’s evidence the accusations are false, why shouldn’t they carry an even harsher penalty? If a woman is not lying, where’s the harm? If she can’t substantiate her claims but they are taken seriously and investigated, that’s the process.
/r/MensRights01/06/25 05:09 AM
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Shroedinger's feminism. Strong independent, need to man when it benefits them. Weak, helpless, mother of the children who needs protection and provision when it benefits them.
/r/MensRights30/05/25 03:52 PM
15

You hire your lawyer. You fire them if they aren’t impressing you. Don’t keep feeding poor service. The laws are already staked against you. What you need is someone who makes it their mission to ensure you get fair treatment.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/25 05:40 PM
1

This was the right answer. She isn't in control of herself.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/25 04:13 PM
2

I've got a local equivalent of The Shed in my neighborhood. Invitation by person only. We designate 3 hours twice a week as time for us to get together. We do anything. Widower next door has a mower that's broken, we take it apart, fix it, sharpe the blades and return it. One of the guys needs help clearing grass to make a small garden, we know what night help will be available. We also do hobby days. Bring your hobby, we'll learn, watch, play. For example, I’m good at refinishing wood, home pai…
/r/MensRights29/05/25 04:06 PM
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Men prioritize peace and reason over emotion. Women prioritize emotions over reason. So if someone is going to start getting control of a situation and reduce the tension, it's generally the man. Not saying this is how it should be, just how it often is. Even for women who claim they prioritize reason. If you look at linguistic clues the operative concept is “I feel.”
/r/MensRights29/05/25 03:09 PM
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Wyoming as a territory allowed women to vote and hold office in 1869, and when they became a state in 1890 they included that right when it became a state. Many states were earlier than 1920. Might want to learn a bit more. But also put it in context. At that point we had civilization for at least 10,000 years. But up until the 1700s you had to be royalty to have a say, and that would included reigning queens. But the average man didn’t have a say. Neither did the average woman. Relatively speak…
/r/MensRights25/05/25 12:49 AM
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Which country or state are you claiming the 66 years difference for? Women could own entire countries in many parts of the world going long back. The feminist narrative about it is both super simplified (ignoring anything that runs counter including things like queens having existed and been in power thousands of years before now) and it paints it as all men oppressing all women when reality is most men had no more power through the ages than most women. And those men that did also had wives and…
/r/MensRights24/05/25 03:43 PM
1

Yeah, my brother is one. Not a divorce attorney, but we've debated enough I¡m familiar.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 04:46 AM
1

Which to me is ridiculous. Judges shouldn’t be able to challenge prenups. Unless she was held at gun point, she agreed to the wedding and went through it voluntarily. If a prenup was signed before the wedding, she's an adult and went into it voluntarily. Her supposedly signing it “under duress” if granted, should void the entire marriage, reset everything financially and ownership back to what they started with and diving equally anything added during the marriage. If it was under duress, why di…
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 03:27 PM
1

She would be a victim, but not of the patriarchy. And she would be helped as a victim.
/r/MensRights16/05/25 06:28 PM
8

As Bill Burr says, it’s a horror flick pretending to be a romance.
/r/MensRights16/05/25 04:40 PM
3

The quality of the man or woman have nothing to do with if the system is fundamentally more risky for men or women. Where the good vs bad comes in for risk analysis has to do with likelihood of a divorce, not whether the system puts men at greater risk when the divorce happens.
/r/MensRights14/05/25 04:49 PM
2

To add more clarity, it al has to do with the data input. AI functions by sampling the data set. Ask it social questions when it's social media as its source and the answers you get will generally be biased towards whatever lean the platforms it’s using have. In the U.S. most platforms leans to feminism good, men bad, left good, right bad, that kind of thing. So the AI analysis comes out slanted. But if you ask it a question where laws and public records are the source, and you're asking analysi…
/r/MensRights14/05/25 04:47 PM
2

Exactly. Equal rights is a good thing. Feminism isn’t equal rights.
/r/MensRights13/05/25 10:58 PM
1

Just point out when they are disparaging men as a group for something an individual has done. Protect your sons if you have them.
/r/MensRights13/05/25 10:57 PM
2

Fair enough. I out is input. Some you take, some you don’t. Thanks for fleshing it out.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/25 10:56 PM
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Honestly at this point, it will take decades to fix the issues in the west and women who want to be married to a good man are going to have to o mor work than they ever had to get that want met. And step one is going to be starting to be far more discriminatory with who they sleep with, and how many. I'm old enough, married long enough to be completely out of the dating world. But even I can see what's happening.
/r/MensRights13/05/25 06:07 PM
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Logical but evil.
/r/MensRights13/05/25 05:01 PM
2

Never been in your sub, but some feedback based solely on this particular post. Judging something condescending I almost always a subjective emotional reaction rather than a valid criticism of the actual words used. If you don't believe me, take the exact sentence(s) you feel are condescending and ask 10 people without anything else whether they are condescending. You'll get some on other side of the debate. It's not a good way to evaluate discussion for this reason. Unless you want a circle jer…
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/25 05:00 PM
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Don’t make the assumption there was no cheating. Odds are thee had been and she’s been checked out for a while. It might not be physical but giving him time and emotional support while denying you is also cheating. Don’t go evil, go grey rock. Nothing she says or does bothers you. Give her no insight to your emotions. Treat it like a hostile HR interview where anything you say will be used against you so stick to the damn facts and nothing else. Fight for your needs and what’s fair. She’s damage…
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/25 10:00 PM
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Any man can be accused. Sometimes in western countries it doesn't even require an actual sexual interaction at all. There's one woman who admitted to making false accusations against men she had only talked to socially or even just met in a shop where she made the allegations in order to make a boyfriend jealous. Mind you, several had to fight in court and couple were convicted, similar things have happened. Even with claims going back to so,etching that happened 35 years ago. Additionally there…
/r/MensRights09/05/25 06:25 PM
5

Don’t forget social programs that benefit women and children mostly. And to pay for a justice system that is anything but.
/r/MensRights09/05/25 04:43 PM
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Men will sacrifice a lot for their family. But they need respect and appreciation and to feel they can make it by hard works p, education and experience. Take the family and home away, remove the respect, and demonstrate that they have a long life with little reward and little chance of a good retirement (just wages slave) for the average guy (there are always exceptions but the ra, ra, positive thinking only goes so far) and what you get are men who pull in and focus on survival and peace. It w…
/r/MensRights09/05/25 04:41 PM
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Exactly. Feminism (wave 2+) running hard too many decades in a row, marginalizing men, shutting down opportunity, making K-12 and college more difficult, less rewarding, and less effective. DEI effectively punishing men, especially straight men. Wages stagnant while company profits and stock market are booming (at least used to be), it all adds up. And momentum means it takes along time to move the fat bitch called western economies. All while men pay more taxes, get far less social support doll…
/r/MensRights09/05/25 04:19 PM
1

Individual men may have a higher sexdrive than individual women but averaged out the difference is too small to matter. There is a fairly well supported theory that men and women have different mating strategies due to out biological differences. Men's investment in reproduction is biologically smaller (not at more physical risk during pregnancy for example) while women's investment is wry high (that 9 months followed by years with infant, toddler, etc.). Be mindful this theory is looking at all…
/r/MensRights09/05/25 03:33 PM
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It really isn’t telling since you don’t know if he’s actually on and paying attention. Gotta give time. I know a lot from a lot of life experience and also reading up on things. One of which is how men and women change when they decide to leave a relationship. Women check out early. And if there’s something she considers cheating involved, most women struggle to accept responsibility for it. You see it all the time. If a man cheats he’s a pig who can’t keep it in his pants. If a woman cheats she…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 05:49 PM
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It’s not a case of things she can’t forgive him for. It's a case where now she's feeling guilty and wants out she pulls up her memory on all the stuff he's done wrong in the past (and apologized for, been forgiven for, improve on) and she re-evaluates it with her new emotion that he's the bad guy, so it's all his fault and now she doesn't need to feel guilty. Even if, as seems likely, she’ll been cheating,
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 05:27 PM
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Yes, women only spaces exist for multiple reasons, among them is safety. Men only spaces also exist, or should, for multiple reasons.p, among them safety. Why is that so hard to comprehend? And to see the trend of women forcing their way into male spaces as being both unfair and sexist?
/r/MensRights05/05/25 04:24 PM
2

Please demonstrate how feminists have helped men. Go on, provide some dollar figures or major legislation.
/r/MensRights25/04/25 05:19 AM
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I've had several friends go through divorces for this. Only to have cheating wife come back a few years later begging to be made wife again. Nope, none have even thought about it.
/r/MensRights23/04/25 05:20 PM
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There have been several test where in public they had a woman hit a man. No one said anything. Later, same place, different crowd, they had the man hit the woman. Tons of issues, guys aggressively trying to separate them and restrain him. No one may think it's correct for a woman to hit a man, but you can’t tell it from tests.
/r/MensRights23/04/25 05:15 PM
10

Her happiness is no longer your concern. Great if she finds it, but you have to protect yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/25 02:38 AM
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Why do you care? At this point she's shown she is okay destroying your family, hurting you and the kids. All for some emotional thing which won’t last. Think about that. She traded real, long term commitment and family for temporary new energy relationship. Odds are it won't last. So take care of our and kids, ignore her as entirely as possible, grey rock for the rest.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/25 12:02 AM
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I feel you and appreciate the place where you are. I've helped good friends go through this. Several of them. You don't deserve it. You don't want it. It’s just one of those life things that hits hard and takes time to learn from. There is no way it’s happy or comfortable or easy. Divorce sucks, it hurts, it's hard, it may break your image of yourself. Just keep focused on being the best Dad you can be, not destroying the ability to work with soon to be ex if possible because it's harder if you …
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/25 06:02 PM
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People who say this are uneducated. Go back far enough and religion, politics, science, and philosophy were all the same thing. Pre writing we can only speculate, but anthropologists believe their is enough evidence to suggest that the start of all these fields was the people seeking some understanding of our reality and trying to create some codes to live by, to improve survival success. Over a long time, these fields started to separate. During that separation and since, religion had been push…
/r/MensRights17/04/25 05:35 PM
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Notice the false claim of it being “a good paycheck?” Good by whose standard? Not the guys they want to force into those manufacturing jobs. If they compensated like Japan does for its manufacturing, it might work. Until then, why would a young man, told all his life he¡s worthless, dangerous, a threat, whose seen the bias in school, at home, at work and in dating, why would he want to?
/r/MensRights11/04/25 06:25 AM
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That and his solution is to try and leverage those young men as cheap beasts of burden in manufacturing.
/r/MensRights11/04/25 06:11 AM
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If single mothers were such a great solution to issues itch raising boys then why are they the group with the worst outcomes or children? Straight snd gay couples both have much better outcomes. As do single fathers. Really this whole thing is just dumb.
/r/MensRights09/04/25 05:56 PM
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The comparable lifestyle is part of what needs to change. One household will always have more money to spare than two households based on the same income(s). So comparable lifestyle isn't a great solution because it’s so obviously been abused. A woman with small income earning potential with man who makes millions. Why should he not have 50/50 with kids and pay no child support?mor if she's really struggling, get more custody rather than fund her lifestyle at the millionaire lifestyle level?
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/25 05:35 PM
1

Always have to wonder ow many divorced bemuse they were I truly abusive or neglectful marriages vs conversations with divorced friends and emotional distance making divorce seem a better option.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/25 03:56 PM
8

More rapes than only fans? Really? What percentage of women have an only fans in a given age group? I'll bet it’s a bigger number than the less than 1/2% of men who are rapists.
/r/MensRights30/03/25 07:12 PM
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Thing is, we can’t avoid 'hearing the other side'. It’s everywhere. So are you also going to go into feminist subs and make this same comment to them? Or is it only men who need to hear it?
/r/MensRights30/03/25 03:31 PM
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What it can lead to is terrible, agreed. But that doesn’t answer why the thing itself is illegal. A man or woman offering sex for money of their own free will is a very different thing than someone drugging runaways and selling them in back alleys. I also note your assumptions and bias. Again, men are assumed the only ones hiring, and are to blame for women selling. In a kidnap, drugs, coercion setup, that’s the issue. But the other half are the escorts, professionals. Generally it’s women runni…
/r/MensRights30/03/25 03:26 PM
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If selling your body is legal. And fucking is legal. Then why is selling your body fucking illegal? (Thanks to George Carlin for the summation of the hypocrisy.)
/r/MensRights29/03/25 06:45 AM
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Yep. Growing up n the 60s and 70s, Mom lent time doing a little cleaning, talking with friends. Maybe some baking. Then take shopping if too young or left us at home for hours while she shopped. Ladies day. Meanwhile, Dad, with an MBA in international business development was either at work 9-10 hours a day in an office 25 miles away, or gone to other countries (about 40% of the time). Not really physically laborious job. Dad was responsible for home maintenance, investments, insurance, car main…
/r/MensRights28/03/25 04:37 PM
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So a 1 in 8 or maybe 10 chance of being wrong about that too given how often paternity fraud happens.
/r/MensRights28/03/25 02:33 PM
1

Exactly!!
/r/MensRights28/03/25 01:35 PM
1

Don’t give in. Tell her only if a court orders it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/25 06:19 PM
10

You are operating under the apex fallacy, where you look at the top 1% and apply it to the rest. Most men do NOT have that kind of privilege. Look up stats on who does the most dying in employment, who works the most laborious, dangerous jobs, who is homeless most, who commits suicide the most, who is ignored the most in social groupings. Who enters college the least but graduates more. Who does most of the dying in wars yet has little to no say in declaring war and the situations which caused t…
/r/MensRights27/03/25 01:55 PM
2

Don’t forget the whole “women and children first” thing. Despite feminist narratives men generally are not recipients of benefits from supposed patriarchy.
/r/MensRights26/03/25 06:09 PM
1

The vow, to have and to hold, is literally vowing to ‘have’ (old word for sex) and ‘hold’ (old word for intimacy). It’s every bit as much of a vow as monogamy, finically support, and emotional support. I'm aware that modern feminists have tried to change the narrative by arguing that no one is owed sex, but it’s all part of the package contained in the marital vows. If a spouse isn’t owed sex then so too they aren’t owed monogamy, financial,emotional or physical support. Those are all part of th…
/r/MensRights22/03/25 09:14 PM
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So they get much less punishment than boys due to space? Which doesn’t include that women and girls are less likely to be arrested and get less in the way of sentences.
/r/MensRights21/03/25 11:36 PM
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Get a good divorce lawyer right now! You can’t afford to wait, or to be the nice guy or the compliant husband. At this point what¡s best for your kids is primary, what you need secondary, what she wants comes dead last!!!
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 05:57 PM
3

It was my understanding that in a couple of cases, the working in the donor agreement allowed a successful suit for child support in the U.S. I would be happy to be shown wrong. I also forgot to add automatic protection from child support for young men or boys who were “in forced sexual relations” (grape) and unable to consent.
/r/MensRights19/03/25 04:54 PM
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How about this then. No child support without paternity tested and accepted before hand. Meaning, if a man discovers he is NOT the biological father he gets to opt out, leaving the cheating woman and whatever man she mated with their own responsibilities. And in cases where sperm was donated of course, no paternity test should be needed since the sperm was Donte with the expectation of never having any responsibility, financial or otherwise. Until that's in place and inviolate, then yeah, it’s c…
/r/MensRights19/03/25 04:38 PM
3

Who cares if it even got to sex? The amount of lying and bad choices involved in getting to the point where cheating is a desire for most people is enough.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/25 03:42 AM
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First off, that 3% is far too large. Before you disagree you need to consider all the interactions you have with men that you don’t even think of. Say the average person in a medium fit interacts with a man 50 times a day. That is nod at one, stand next to one, talk to one, pick up mail delivered by one. Everything you do every day in society that interacts either a man. Are 3% of those interactions dangerous? If not, then your proportions are wrong. Maybe it’s 3% of the interactions where datin…
/r/MensRights16/03/25 06:53 PM
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Be glad the trash took itself out.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 04:20 PM
9

That’s not acceptable to speak to anyone in a family. The feeling can be there but your speech should still be respectful and focus on the issue, not the person.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/25 10:44 PM
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The first time she said men are better and why pull a woman need a man you should have responded, “Then don't use gas, electricity, water, phone, the internet, don't hire any contractor unless it's women only. Also, don't call for police, fire, ambulance or any sort of emergency service. Most of these jobs are done 90%+ by men. Your safe, convenient, comfortable world rests on the labor, death and sacrifice of men. The amount of women harmed by men is far, far lower than the amount of women whos…
/r/MensRights13/03/25 05:26 PM
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Interesting. I was referencing an even older movie, “War Games” with Mathew Broderick around the time of his Ferris Buellar movie.
/r/MensRights10/03/25 03:35 PM
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Bullshit. That is called hypergamy and is not due to internalized patriarchy but is a part of the mating strategy for women for tens of thousands of years.
/r/MensRights09/03/25 08:17 AM
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“The only way to win is not to play the game.”
/r/MensRights09/03/25 08:16 AM
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Don't accept it from a woman. If one says it to you, or to your son, immediately ask them, “If you're going to treat him that way the next time you start crying without an injury I get to remind you to ‘woman up’, right? If not, keep comments like that to yourself. Leave that comment for the men in his life.”
/r/MensRights09/03/25 08:05 AM
2

Lawyer up. Look after your own interests. Grey rock her.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/25 07:58 AM
2

And it succeeded well on equal rights during wave 1 and 2. Waves 3+ tired it into anti-male propaganda. Regardless of the definition, modern feminism has become a hateful misandrist cult. Until you can show feminists acknowledging things men struggle with and organizing to solve them rather at what happens, celebrate them or make them worse, the dictionary definition doesn't help much.
/r/MensRights09/03/25 07:57 AM
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The patriarchy theory is based on a fallacy that most people claiming it exists don’t even recognize. There's a fallacy called the Apex fallacy. It’s when you look at the most successful in a group and the attribute that success to all members in the group. People do it all the time. Think “movie star” and “Wall Street trader” and it’s almost guaranteed you thought of a big name actor who is rich and successful and by definition Wall Street traders are rich and successful, right? No. Most actors…
/r/MensRights08/03/25 09:50 PM
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For more than 50 years they have been disadvantaging men, pushing programs that are anti male. Being against what feminism has become isn’t being against women having equal rights. It’s against women systemically treating men as second class citizens. And doing so due to a really incorrect view of history.
/r/MensRights08/03/25 06:16 PM
3

Best to get out of a toxic marriage. Just make sure you're being a good Dad as that is the single biggest decider for your kids success. You provide direction, stability, motivation and structure, all of which kids need to be successful.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 06:23 PM
6

India should be thinking hard about how it’s going to be a super power while simultaneously mistreating half its population, the half best suited to warfare, building and maintaining infrastructure. So many of these gynocentric societies, built by men to protect women, kids, and other men, are based on male output. Which they are putting at risk. Strong risk. Young men are the most likely when attacked to get violent quickly. It’s just that the current type of attack doesn't register as an attac…
/r/MensRights07/03/25 06:18 PM
5

I'm with those who think black history month is both racist and divisive. This is sexist and divisive. But what else is new in the lass war that's been going on for a hundred years.
/r/MensRights07/03/25 05:53 PM
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Women are the decision most of the time because in the west they are effectively incentivized to do so. For men to file it means so,etching truly terrible has happened. As for reasons, they’re complex but part of it is due to what marriage represents now vs long ago. Marriage has been around as long as human civilization.it goes back further than known written language. But it's meant different things. The biggest change in what it means has come due in part to feminism. It used to mean life lon…
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 05:52 PM
3

In the U.S. there was a point at which A&W was trying to take business from McDonald’s against their Quarter Pounder. They introduced a 1/3 pounder which taste tests showed customers a preferred the taste of. It failed. Not because people didn't prefer the taste. But because people failed fractions and didn't know 1/3 pound was more meat than 1/4 pound. The point is to never be surprised by how uneducated or outright idiotic voters can be.
/r/MensRights06/03/25 07:50 PM
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Not sure what you men. We were talking about identity politics. What appeals to men are you talking about?
/r/MensRights06/03/25 06:53 PM
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I'm not saying they should. A true SAHP deserves compensation to help them get education or job skills to survive. But not guaranteed same lifestyle. Just reasonable one. And not for longer than a fair time to recover. So many couples they are close to equal earners. Baby comes, they decide she is SAHP until kids are in full time school, then back to work. Only she never goes back, leaving him as sole earner far longer than they agreed. Several years on, she gets bored, cheats, and judge gives h…
/r/MensRights06/03/25 05:26 PM
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It’s not to some extent. But it’s also abused a lot. So putting in a timeframe for recovery and limitations on what can be assessed makes sense. If a one person makes multiple millions before marriage and the other was a waitress with 30k annual. Who then becomes SAHM. Ten years later, she will be living a lifestyle she probably couldn't have afforded even if she Han’s been SAHM. So give her alimony to get some education or improve job skills. But it's fair for husband to fund her lifestyle at t…
/r/MensRights06/03/25 05:17 PM
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Just the current crop of approved discrimination. Oh, and it’s hidden as performative caring.
/r/MensRights06/03/25 04:01 AM
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Really? You personally know both people intimately enough to say the man s lazy while the saint his wife does everything (or nearly). Or is it that you've listened to women claim they have lazy husbands? I think you are partly right that for some women mental load may be code for “my husband s lazier than I want him to be”l that doesn't mean he's objectively lazy, just that, in her opinion, he's lazy. My wife and I, happily married for 36 years have had some tense times. At one point a therapist…
/r/MensRights06/03/25 01:59 AM
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So few people know about the Apex fallacy, much less realize it's the basis for the ideas behind the patriarchy, male privilege, and white privilege.
/r/MensRights06/03/25 01:38 AM
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I'll give you a serious answer if you want one. And I’ll start by saying separate those two characteristics but add two more, straight and conservative. Now you have four areas where an honest discussion can be had without whining or emotional appeals. Just questions to ask.
/r/MensRights06/03/25 01:34 AM
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In a SAHM or SAHD situation, alimony seems reasonably on a very limited basis. No more of this crap about lifestyle”but rather “reasonable equitable lifestyle” meaning the person paying doesn’t have to fund their ex living in exactly the same lifestyle while they themselves are broke, living in a shack, eating donated food. Put a time limit on it, say 3 years. And an equitable lifestyle (person paying has to fund to either an equivalent lifestyle they can afford, or in situations where one is ri…
/r/MensRights06/03/25 01:30 AM
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They can make it serious crime to false accuse sexual assault. Or paternity.
/r/MensRights06/03/25 01:26 AM
2

DEI was not just an agenda against white males and males ing general but an entire government program designed to disenfranchise them significantly.
/r/MensRights06/03/25 01:25 AM
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Just because a rep is a male doesn't mean he represents male constituents or male needs. If that were the case then what the hell re women doing voting for men? Turns out male reps can indeed represent their female constituents needs just fine. Look at how few male centric laws are even brought up compared to how many women centric or outright feminist laws are not only brought up but passed.
/r/MensRights06/03/25 01:23 AM
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No, he¡s saying to you that you are claiming therapy works for men… just an anecdotal claim. But when someone else takes that same approach, you demand stats. Off the side, you mean peer reviewed multiple studies with statistically valid results. Not just stats. Otherwise 1,200 men went to therapy and found it useless, 17 felt it helped. Great… some stats, but useless ones. Right?
/r/MensRights06/03/25 01:20 AM
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You're not going to convince many here with a study from Australia which today is heavily feminist and whose government openly vilifies men.
/r/MensRights06/03/25 01:18 AM
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Do you have data backing that claim? I ask because it have seen o,e that suggests the opposite, especially in today's climate where most therapists are women and feminists or at least indoctrinated feminist ideals (especially the parts where men are always yo blame, we are by definition the attacker, the perpetrator, we experience male privilege, we live in a patriarchy…. All of that doesn't suggest useful attitudes to help men). So where’s are the studies showing that 3 out of 4 men who retain …
/r/MensRights06/03/25 01:16 AM
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Not for long. Maybe 3 years. Much alimony is assessed at half of marriage length. Why? Why is the standard to “the standard of living she is accustomed to” when that's unrealistic without him making multiple millions?
/r/MensRights06/03/25 01:07 AM
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Because in today's world it's not needed she can get out and get a job just like he can. It began at a time when women's job opportunities were limited and paid little. That isn't at all true now. Men pay 92% of the alimony yet women, on average, are earning more than men despite men working longer, and pay rates supposedly gender neutral. So where's the need? And if you try to justify it fo how long? And will the calculation be gender neutral? If not, that's why no alimony.
/r/MensRights06/03/25 01:05 AM
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No, make it mandatory, it's not just for paternity, it also gives the child and parents ideas about genetic issues. And it would point out if baby and Mom aren’t a match that the hospital has screwed up big time.
/r/MensRights06/03/25 01:02 AM
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Step one, consult the best divorce attorneys in your area, top 3 at least. Hire one. Then take their advice. Get prepped as you can. Ignore her claim there isn't an AP because it's meaningless. There might be, there might not. Neither changes where you are now. Focus on what’s best for kids and you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/25 04:21 PM
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Value is entirely subjective. Sexual Marketplace Value is the name for an estimated aggregate of choices by age. Both Men and Women are evaluated by SMV during early stages of dating. The wall is a phrase coined to indicate the sharp decline in SMV women experience as their ability to have healthy children fades. What they don't realize is there are other types of value they can offer, the value of being a good partner. Call that Relationship Marketplace Value. Men have no SMV/RMV to begin with.…
/r/MensRights03/03/25 09:14 PM
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Toxic masculinity, as used by feminists and social media doesn’t exist. What we should be aware of is both masculine and feminine behaviors can be taken too far. To label them “toxic gender” is painting too broadly by orders of magnitude.
/r/MensRights03/03/25 02:50 PM
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Exactly right. She's starting from ll the way on her board with the expectation that you will move, that it’s reasonable to meet in the middle which ends up with her getting most of what she really wants. Tell them from the start that the default beginning point needs to be 50/50 for assets and custody. Then you can negotiate from there. If she wants to start with everything in her side, you will mirror her demands and you can start from there. Either way works. Keep in mind one way to evaluate …
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/25 06:17 PM
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Talk to her, not them. Boys act up to get attention and when they are bored, which comes from being ignored or sitting still too much. Don’t focus on trying to fix them, work on helping her improve.
/r/MensRights23/02/25 09:21 PM
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Really? I don’t recall ever interacting with you. You’re incorrectly generalizing bad behavior across an entire gender.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/02/25 04:07 AM
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The real reason? Men are the standard. Look at all the stuff feminism pushes. It’s all intended to push women to want to become men.
/r/MensRights15/02/25 11:55 PM
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If you’re married call that shit out. The vow “to have and to hold” is literally a vow of intimacy and sex.
/r/MensRights15/02/25 11:44 PM
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Any man being asked to sign a birth certificate or asked to pay child support should have a court ordered paternity test. Otherwise the court is complicit in the lie.
/r/MensRights09/02/25 05:48 AM
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Until his heart wears out a decade earlier than hers.
/r/MensRights09/02/25 05:32 AM
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There is just search for divorce at fault states.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 08:30 PM
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Also point out that the average man didn’t,t get the vote until 1790s or so in the U.S. for the rest of history the average man had no more say in how countries were run than the average woman. Feminists have such a distorted view of reality.
/r/MensRights07/02/25 07:13 AM
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Make the point, “Until this was setup the only men who had a say in how government worked were the wealthy land owners. Men fought for this right but it came with an additional responsibility, conscription. A few decades later (yeah it wasn’t long compared to all of human history) more men fought to get women a right to vote than women did. And it didn't come with the responsibility because those men were trying to protect women. Since you want equality, that protection should no longer apply.”
/r/MensRights06/02/25 10:12 PM
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I don’t find in your male reader issues but I have noticed the same trend. I'm also a male writer. Non fiction and speculative fiction. Getting published was always difficult. Now it's very difficult unless you have a good record in publishing. It all starts at the elementary school education program. Male teachers used to be the norm. Now they are very rare. Same with admins. The only place schools seem to employ men regularly is the jobs requiring strength and determination.
/r/MensRights06/02/25 10:09 PM
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Please demonstrate a causal relationship between dark or sexist jokes and rape, murder and assault. If you cannot do that (I would be massively surprised if you can!), then don't make this claim as if it has any value. People claimed for years that violent games promote violent actions. Actual studies (multiples of them) disproved this claim and in fact showed the opposite. So please demonstrate that causal link. Otherwise we'll dismiss it like people claiming violent video games caused violence…
/r/MensRights06/02/25 09:15 PM
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Work out, get strong, pick a hobby and make some close friends and focus on your long term goals. The less you care the more you're interesting. Also gives you more power in the dynamic.
/r/MensRights05/02/25 06:17 AM
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Just stop talking to her. All comms via email. And grey rock it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 06:15 AM
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When you have no compassion or empathy with someone you consider a beast, it's an easy conclusion to reach.
/r/MensRights04/02/25 07:22 PM
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Your kindness was taken advantage of by someone who knows you well enough to fool you. Now you know so next time you have to protect your heart and let her fend for herself.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 06:47 PM
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The truly idiotic thing is that the women framing these questions and responses didn't bother putting the danger into proper perspective before evaluating it. Yes, more men murder women than bears murdering women. But how many interactions a day do women have with men that do them no harm? How many that protect them? How much of our society's safety rests on the threat of men with weapons? If they were to increase interactions with bears to be equivalent with interactions with men, the stats wou…
/r/MensRights04/02/25 05:22 PM
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There are still states where it’s relevant in both the divorce judgement and the asset division. In those states cheating is still seen as at laesat a partial betrayal of a contract. Right, wrong, or otherwise, listen to the attorney with in that area.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/25 04:29 AM
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Talk to your attorney. It’s usually best to get yours finished before telling.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 12:54 AM
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If she wants to remain your wife and wants your protection those come with limits. No responsibility comes without an equal measure of control. She wants you to risk your life defending her it better be for a damn good reason and not dressing to attract sexual interest from other men.
/r/MensRights28/01/25 04:14 AM
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I agree that many men have let this happen in their lives with wives and girlfriends. I disagree that this is the way it should be. Men should be able to comment negatively on revealing outfits. We know the risks. If she’s wanting to dress sing,e while married then she needs te single again. The first step is hold them accountable for their dress and point out that if the outfit causes a fight, do they want you defending them? If so, she wears less provocative clothes. Or she’s on her own. There…
/r/MensRights28/01/25 04:12 AM
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My first question on seeing any label with a demographic is, “What, so the product can’t compete on its qualities and has to be propped up like this?”
/r/MensRights28/01/25 02:09 AM
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In what are women severely under represented?
/r/MensRights28/01/25 02:08 AM
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Best advice. Don’t fan the flames while the fire is burning.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/25 02:01 AM
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Often? Care to provide data? I ask because the last study of divorce attorney cases I saw came from a western state and abuse was one of the top four, but not the top. Actually next to last. And often when the couples interactions were recorded t turns out she instigates far more violence, husband responds only after taking a number.
/r/MensRights27/01/25 02:24 AM
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You keep saying crap. Can you back it up because that isn’t my life at all. And hadn’t been for most men I know. Stats show that men in the last 40 years do lore house work and child rearing than in previous decades by a lot.
/r/MensRights27/01/25 02:20 AM
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Patriarchy is more than just some tiny portion of men being in power. It’s a claim that men, all men, have created systems where the power resides only with men and women are subjugated because of it. It’s also stupidly short-sighted. Have you looked up the definition of plutocrat or oligarch? Try them, see how well they fit society for the past 1000 years. Also, for every royal family, it’s not just the men who rule, princesses and Queens have also ruled. Clear back, thousands of years ago. In …
/r/MensRights27/01/25 12:34 AM
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Please point to how all men have the power to create the patriarchy. And what specifically it did say 200 years ago to suppress women and keep all men in power. I’ll bet if you look close what you’ll really find is that it wasn’t all men, it was a tiny fraction of men who held all the wealth. Power and mostly owned the land. Which is plutocracy not patriarchy.
/r/MensRights26/01/25 02:55 AM
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Many places are one party consent, meaning it’s legal to record without permission from anyone else.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 05:30 PM
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Don’t listen. Anyone is welcome here. I agree with the other poster. It’s going to suck but if he hasn’t been carrying his share of the load and supporting you, it needs to be done.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 06:53 PM
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Why wait? Remove it today, at least any social media where you follow her.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 04:45 PM
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I classify this type of stuff as “performative equality”. It’s not about actual equality in reporting or presentation.
/r/MensRights22/01/25 08:38 PM
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It’s bullshit evidence. Again, do you have an objective time study? If not it’s very subjective and there are several studies showing why that isn't a reliable approach.
/r/MensRights22/01/25 07:41 PM
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They are always based on surveys, despite studies showing the subjective side is highly questionable. Would love to see an actual objective time-study on it. It would need to address stuff like women's eyes actually seeing dirt more easily than mens. And how to fairly measure people with different approaches, like one focusing on only doing housework while the other does some, eats breakfast, talks to a neighbor and spends time on social media and thinking they did more work because it took more…
/r/MensRights22/01/25 07:04 PM
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Depends on whether you look at the entire board or not. If you include boys who are ‘sexually assaulted’ or ‘had a physical relationship’ (as a minor!) the numbers are almost balanced.
/r/MensRights22/01/25 03:01 PM
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That’s because the divorce industry is highly profitable for the wife, the attorneys, the judge, and court. All funded by the husband who is being replaced. And so often they will claim unhappy for years (likely true), they told you over and over (generally bullshit as women are not as good of communicators as they like to think, any husband who has been blame for not guessing right knows!), and that you didn’t listen (a bit of selective rewrite hear so they don’t have to take accountability). I…
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 12:14 AM
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Not just because they can, but also because they have never had anyone challenge them physically for something they've said. Most men have had a fight at some point and know to watch what they say. Women not only haven’t had that, their physical actions have not been checked either.
/r/MensRights21/01/25 04:08 AM
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Indifferent isn’t the answer. How about equal levels of empathy while still being held accountable for actions. I don’t care how hormonal someone is, if they know it will NOT be accepted as an excuse they will work very hard to control their reactions. Rather than what we have today, one gender do excused they almost never get held accountable and the other gender blamed for it.
/r/MensRights21/01/25 02:01 AM
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It doesn’t diminish women at all unless you're easily offended by gender issues. Know how it used to be spelled? Mann. Which, at the time was the indicator for mankind, not a man or male. Old English. But language changes and it evolved to have one fewer letters while retaining the same meaning, which is all humans, including women and girls. It never was a gender issue until very recently. Again, by easily offended people who are NOT well educated. Your example is specifically inclusive of only…
/r/MensRights21/01/25 01:57 AM
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The problem here is you're trying to force a language change that honestly has little value except for people easily offended about gendered language, which is both a very modern and a temporary issue. This is doomed to failure. Now, if you want to introduce alternatives and work to get them adopted, go for it. I'll pick linguistic momentum for the win. Question for you. So are you into gender neutral terminology across the board, so all feminine words get eliminated? On a scale of 1-100 how lik…
/r/MensRights21/01/25 01:01 AM
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Man refers to mankind, not gender in usages like this. English has its grammar rules. Just like in Spanish some words are masculine, some feminine, and other words are spelled differently depending on gender.
/r/MensRights20/01/25 08:07 PM
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I will add this. Your son was honest with his Mom that he does want to come home either her. Had you been holding him at the time he would have said the same. At this point, home means both of you together. He hasn’t had enough time to start adding dad's home and mom's home. Your wife sharing it can be seen a lot of ways, but I suggest two things. One, always take it for the best interpretation, as in this case, it means son still wants to be with Mom, not that he doesn’t also want to be with yo…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/25 01:39 AM
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Tell them to ask divorce attorneys whose client gave up. It’s mostly because the attorney has already fought on someone else's dime and knows 9 times out of 10 the court sides with Mom. It doesn’t make sense if she has a full time job too. Kids would actually be better with Dad generally.
/r/MensRights19/01/25 12:08 AM
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Start with incentivizing men getting college education degrees. Then same thing at elementary, middle, and high school. At least make the incentives equal between men and women, if not slightly better for men until situation is about equal.
/r/MensRights17/01/25 07:54 PM
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Give them the Gen-X answer, “I don’t care what you think. I don’t report to you. I'm not responsible for you. Anything you find creepy is your problem, not mine. Oh, and fuck how for feeling so entitled. I have every bit as much right to be here as you.” Seriously, men need to stand firm on shit like this. We've become a society who is more worried about what someone else might feel than what the facts are. Screw that, facts every time. Does Disney allow single people in the park? Yes. All else …
/r/MensRights17/01/25 05:26 PM
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In the U.S. it’s fairly enthralled to feminism and its step child DEI. It seems like DEI at least may be starting to be rolled back. With Trump's election, who knows how far it will go.
/r/MensRights17/01/25 04:52 PM
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“Try it. Try it for six months. There have been a few women who have. All of them said men have it harder. One even wrote a book on her experiment.”
/r/MensRights16/01/25 06:18 PM
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Pretty much anything from Disney the last decade, which includes Star Wars and Marvel.
/r/MensRights16/01/25 02:49 PM
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So did she. I specifically said the point where she becomes pregnant because the options are equal to that point. But once she's pregnant women have a ton of safety nets. Doesn’t matter if she didn’t bother with contraceptives or he didn’t, or both did and failed. The key point is once she’s pregnant women¡s pregnant society provides a ton of options for women. None for men.
/r/MensRights16/01/25 05:36 AM
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You have to afford a good attorney. Go talk to several. I think you will find some willing to take you on.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 03:55 PM
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Yes. In the western world by any stat that evaluates home, family, or individual, collectively men are faring worse. That is, if we don't use the old feminist influenced numbers where they try to paint the picture that no woman ever commits DV or SA, but rather the non-Duluth model more recent numbers where they better evaluate without that bias and turns out men and women are very close in both stats. Look at things like, boys being graded more harshly in school, and being disincentivized for c…
/r/MensRights15/01/25 03:14 PM
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It is sad. And someday she may realize she is in charge of her emotions. Love isn't just a feeling, it's a commitment combined with actions. If chemo has changed her enough, she may no longer feel that commitment or agree to those actions, which is why the emotion isn't there. I would plan for the worse and not get her a gift since she asked for space. If she does ask why you didn't, frame it exactly that way. Loving her if she doesn’t reciprocate won't be good for you long term. You need to foc…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 05:38 PM
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Agreed. Scumbag thing to do.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 02:40 PM
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Why blame the AP? They never promised anything. It's the spouse who willingly took vows and promised monogamy.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 09:11 AM
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Given how many examples you've been provided showing that you re wrong, are you going to change this opinion?
/r/MensRights09/01/25 06:19 PM
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Spend an hour in a divorce court before you get serious.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 10:37 PM
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I will look for it. Where it came from was a study on the most common causes of divorce and it used data from half a dozen states pulled from divorce attorneys citing reasons their clients sought divorce. Most common reasons included unhappy, abuse, finances, and infidelity. With infidelity and unhappy being top two and many tourneys saying unhappy was often due to cheating but posted as unhappy because it was amicable. Give me a day or so to find it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 10:12 PM
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Of course it's not always true. Statistically though, it’s more often true than not.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 09:45 PM
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This is my policy. I try to be as circumspect and tactful as possible. But once you have a couple of close mates go through a divorce and worse, discovering two kid aren’t his, you end up drawing a line. Spouses deserve to know before they suffer more damage.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 09:43 PM
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Just call it toxic feminism for anything biased in favor of women.
/r/MensRights07/01/25 09:13 PM
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Sadly because the terminology is used to punish men more than women for the same type of non consensual acts. Rape has a meaning most people understand, sexual acts forced on an unwilling victim. Sexual assault is more modern, longer, less visceral and emotive. Sexual intercourse without consent is four word salad that when parsed means roughly what rape means but rape retains the humanity where the four word label doesn’t. Carlin pointed out how American soften language to try and reduce the em…
/r/MensRights07/01/25 08:58 PM
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It gets down to what you mean by “equal”. If what you mean is that men and women both owe their society the same effort to keep it going (military conscription) and have the same opportunity to vote and run for office (civic duty). And can apply for and get the same jobs with equal qualifications, we've had that for some time. And the feminist narrative that women were oppressed while men oppressed them is bunk. It’s more the rich and powerful vs everyone else. The average man didn’t have the ab…
/r/MensRights07/01/25 04:58 AM
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Perfect time for men to start making it even more clear that in-group bias for men is far less impactful and that’s a good thing. We don’t have to be swayed by anything other people want from us.
/r/MensRights06/01/25 09:02 PM
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This is where men not having a strong in-group bias comes in useful. Just hold your ground. There is no benefit in changing your standards to meet anyone else’s need. It’s time society relearns that when it comes down to it, men can be both good and stand strong. Too many have believed the narrative feminism pushes.
/r/MensRights06/01/25 08:08 PM
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Don't give in. She wants out, help her out the door. And move on.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 05:30 PM
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Men have a broader range, women cluster more. So the average for women is slightly higher, but men occupy both the highest and lowest levels. The issue for this is that geniuses tend to be male, so too morons. Women love to point to their slightly higher average and fail to realize why more radical new ideas come mostly from men.
/r/MensRights01/01/25 07:48 PM
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I disagree and described what it is. Then again I think it’s sexist to use incel or its female version.
/r/MensRights01/01/25 05:31 AM
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Since slut shaming is no longer a thing we should instead point out that women who are unable to get a long term relationship are in effect the female version of incel.
/r/MensRights01/01/25 03:10 AM
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Mostly, anyone using the term “incel” is a misandrist. Feminism didn’t create the situation, 40% of men have historically not procreated which is significantly more than women who don’t procreate. Incel culture is a bullshit generalization. Many women shame men who are incels because, at its heart, they get nothing from those men. Guess what’s the equivalent in women? The women who are involuntarily not in a committed relationship. No one shames them for that, they are instead given kudos for be…
/r/MensRights01/01/25 03:09 AM
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In the U.S., he doesn’t have the right to stop an abortion. Not sure where you've gotten the idea otherwise. You get no argument on two people in live making a home as the best situation. But that’s never the case when we’re talking abortion, adoption, abandonment, or child support.
/r/MensRights31/12/24 11:55 PM
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In the U.S. she absolutely can abort the fetus or give the baby up for adoption without telling the father. There are also multiple states that have abandonment laws making it legal for her to abandon the baby at a fire station, police station, hospital, and some states have designated places. Funny thing is that in those same states the father can be sent to prison for failure to pay child support, even if he was never informed about the birth. Oddly enough, if a man had to carry it, my argumen…
/r/MensRights31/12/24 11:54 PM
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The gaping hole in what you're arguing is just how much say she has and how little he has. It ought to be fair. It’s her sole responsibility what to do once pregnant. She has a number of options and he literally has zero say in any of them legally. Which means she decides for herself. Her body, her choice, her responsibility. Now, if she doesn’t take plan B, abortion it, or give it away for adoption or abandon it (in some states it’s legal) and decides to keep it, only in that one choice is what…
/r/MensRights31/12/24 10:51 PM
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If she can kill it (abortion, plan B), abandon it, or give it away with even informing him, it seems just to place ALL responsibility on her for her sole choices. Now, if he wants to be in the child's life, that’s still up to her, right? Since he has zero reproductive rights, make this an optional one. If she allows it, he also has to support it. But amounts figured out by the couple and agreed on time.
/r/MensRights31/12/24 10:46 PM
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‘Unnecessary strife in a potentially healthy relationship’ can you explain how a cheater being exposed is part of a healthy relationship? Or are you talking about some inference that a healthy relationship that has a paternity test as part of its normal suite of health tests for the new born will “somehow” have an impact when it confirms the father?
/r/MensRights31/12/24 10:41 PM
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I wouldn't wait. If she's already checked out you might as well go through it. Get it over.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/24 10:29 PM
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First, in the woman autonomy section, change the wording of the final sentence to “…she intends to raise the child and will pay for its supports but if the father opts to be in its life she would appreciate support.” Keep in mind, if it’s a sole right to decide it is also a sole responsibility. He shouldn’t be obligated at all if she is the only one who gets to make a decision. Her body, her choice, her responsibility. That’s true body autonomy. Why worry about timeframes for the father opting o…
/r/MensRights28/12/24 05:39 AM
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Women may have it easier and people automatically care about them. But I’ve lived long enough to know that having to struggle to build yourself up so you can stand against what life see throws at you has its own rewards. Yes we are disposable socially, and suffer far more harm collectively than women. But there’s some good things in being the protector, the keeper of laws, the soldier, fireman, farmer, fisherman, lumberjack: and all the thousand other demanding jobs. Civilization exists in part …
/r/MensRights28/12/24 03:07 AM
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And most courts refuse. Since the DNA is an intrinsic trait of the offspring it ought to be legal to check. There are genetic disorders that can be found.
/r/MensRights25/12/24 08:04 PM
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What about if the CEO was a woman?
/r/MensRights25/12/24 05:25 PM
2

Should have fired his ass and gotten someone competent. They are there protecting your rights and to ignore the single biggest debt you have when you no longer live there is negligent. At this point get a new attorney have him file an amendment.m that includes her taking all risk associated with the house.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 02:27 AM
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That’s the normal usage, to blame men for the hierarchies necessary for our society that benefit primarily the wealthy rather than men. The “Patriarchy” is poorly defined and inappropriately targets half the species for societal problems dealing with class rather than gender,
/r/MensRights25/12/24 01:56 AM
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The problem is you’re blaming men, all men, for a behavior that less than 1% of men even had a chance at doing. Tell me something similar where it’s okay to blame women when less than 1 in a hundred do it?
/r/MensRights24/12/24 07:18 PM
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I tell them they should learn some other words, like oligarch, plutocrat, and the concept of societal classes. Then ask, “If the patriarchy exists, why do men send men to war far more often than sending women? Why do men pay men to work all the most dangerous jobs through history if men systemically work to benefit men? Now go ask those same questions but instead of patriarchy, insert oligarchy or plutocracy.
/r/MensRights24/12/24 07:52 AM
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Fixing, being happy, being satisfied with what they have, staying committed, being honest, kind, respectful. All of these are the responsibility of the individual, not their partner. Never let your brain, or your partner, of confuse the issue. Their attitudes and their actions belong to them, and them alone. No matter how terrible.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 07:32 AM
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Don’t fool yourself, the left runs on it far more.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 05:50 PM
9

If you live in the U.S., England, Australia, Canada… not worth it. You can get nearly all the benefits with a girlfriend and when things change for her, she¡s much easier and cheaper to move out.
/r/MensRights22/12/24 04:09 AM
1

I’ve helped men through horrible things, sometimes by just sitting in silence with them for hours while they process. Words may not be needed.
/r/MensRights22/12/24 12:42 AM
1

I vote centrist as well. I hope it doesn’t come to violence. But if it gets bad enough, it will. And feminists will really not like that outcome.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 10:03 PM
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Not just half the population,the half of it that is better suited to fighting, is more likely to turn to violence, and is critical for our infrastructure maintenance. Good luck when important things start failing and none of the young men today have got the education or experience to fix it.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 07:53 AM
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As an FYI, that same phrase was used a lot in Hollywood a few years ago as a justification for excluding whites and males from any rolls in making movies and television. I'm sure it was used for a while to discriminate. But at some point someone started lawsuits since it’s a Title 9 violation.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 04:55 AM
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No, and I’m not implying a spouse should. Just that, if they don’t, it’s the same as breaking any other vow and justification to end the marriage. I suggest you stop assuming that duties are things imposed by someone else rather than things we do because we want to, are supposed to, and it helps. Is it a duty to become educated? Not to anyone else but I consider it do since education is a good way to help improve the decisions we make. If a person doesn’t want to be in a relationship without vow…
/r/MensRights20/12/24 01:33 AM
3

Dual mating strategies completely ignored by those pushing for monogamy.
/r/MensRights19/12/24 09:22 PM
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Women change a great deal through childbirth, rearing, menopause and such. That she enjoyed it as a single and young is no guarantor she will after 15 years of marriage. I consider a dead bedroom to be every bit as much breaking a marital vow as infidelity since they are both proof the same vow.
/r/MensRights19/12/24 09:18 PM
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Helps explain why at least 25% of marriages are considered dead bedrooms.
/r/MensRights19/12/24 09:17 PM
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We're not talking about the event. We're talking about marital vows and the expectations (duties of you prefer) that come with them.
/r/MensRights19/12/24 09:16 PM
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Do you consider marital vows “duties”? When the couple vows to “cleave to each other and no one else” is that accepting the duty to remain monogamous? I consider all the marital vows as self declared duties since no one is forcing the couple to take those vows. How else should they be viewed?
/r/MensRights19/12/24 09:15 PM
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Because healthy relationships have sex. Denying your partner that level of intimacy stresses a relationship unnecessarily except in the e of significant health issues. Many people don't know that men and women approach sex from opposite directions. For most women strong intimacy is needed to want sex . For most men, string sex is needed to build intimacy. Both need it, but for different reasons. Second, have you ever studied the common marriage vows? Sex is part of those vows despite many people…
/r/MensRights19/12/24 09:13 PM
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So rather than counter any points you just use derogatory language to dismiss the points. I’ve seen this approach before.
/r/MensRights18/12/24 05:26 AM
2

The black and white thinking kills me. It’s possible to both support gay rights and to feel betrayed and rut by a spouse who hid it for years, then blew up their marital commitments to “find themselves”. It’s not he rights that are the issue, it's the betrayal and callousness shown.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 11:35 PM
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What pill are you taking to assume mandatory paternity tests require a genetic database? All that needs to be done is compare the child's DNA to the man who is listed as a father. No genetic database needed. And it only needs to be done when a father is on the birth certificate because he will be responsible for child support.
/r/MensRights17/12/24 11:16 PM
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Multiplied by the number of people she false accused.
/r/MensRights13/12/24 03:04 PM
3

Feminism jumped the shark at the end of Wave 2. It’s been bizarre since then. I think the backlash has begun with so many companies distancing themselves from DEI and other similar ideologies. Feminism has tied itself to many of these. Will be interesting to see where it goes, and how bad it gets.
/r/MensRights12/12/24 06:36 PM
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Bullshit that women suffer more consequences than men. More men die early than women, more men are homeless, commit suicide, are killed in wars, policing, firefighting, coast guard, transportation. You say it that it's always women's fault, yet far too often women don't pay the same price for the same crime. Or mistake. We have safety nets for women in almost all of their life choices. Women have more options to avoid pregnancy, and several post pregnancy, men have two to avoid pregnancy and non…
/r/MensRights12/12/24 06:22 PM
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No, it really isn’t. One is about fairness of a major life threatening responsibility. The other is about whether a country's need for defense is justified.
/r/MensRights12/12/24 04:37 PM
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See, there's the assumption. I'm NOT advocating for it. I'm advocating that if we must have it, both men and women should be required. Getting rid of it is a much bigger issue. But men alone have their ability to vote (and other things, like taking a government job or getting for school for school) held hostage on registering for selective service (draft). Women never have ad that in the U.S. I dislike that the conversation is always derailed by trying to jump to “we shouldn't have a draft!” Bec…
/r/MensRights12/12/24 03:22 PM
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What do you mean? Why is saying if a draft exists it should apply to both genders? Keep in mind the raft includes a ton of needed support roles, not just front line roles. So why the assumption women shouldn’t serve? Many other militaries have done it successfully.
/r/MensRights12/12/24 02:48 PM
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Boy Scouts, YMCA, men's gyms, gentlemen's clubs, rotary clubs, a lot of sports and active hobbies
/r/MensRights11/12/24 08:59 PM
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What ought to happen is gender should not be a factor in the case.
/r/MensRights10/12/24 07:44 AM
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It’s not actually data worth collecting since you haven’t specifically defined what you mean by women's rights. Nor what it would mean to have equal rights so we know how to evaluate heather women today in the west actually need any more rights or if they have more than equal already.
/r/MensRights10/12/24 07:31 AM
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Just so you know, a woman was given a Nobel laureate in economics for her work disproving the gender pay gap. Look it up and stop perpetuating this myth.
/r/MensRights10/12/24 07:29 AM
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Thanks for covering all the salient points.
/r/MensRights08/12/24 10:21 PM
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Many of them simply don’t allow men.
/r/MensRights07/12/24 10:33 PM
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Been around long enough to live through multiple waves of feminism. The definition includes the claim that it exists to make genders equal. The reality has been far different. Today most feminists simply practice misandry under the guise of feminism. Bullshit like asking if they need men or choose the best or it’s not all men it’s always a man without the self awareness to apply that same idiotic logic to women and discover that hey, both genders have st are struggles. If feminism was about equa…
/r/MensRights07/12/24 09:42 PM
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Make it 10 to discourage a repeat.
/r/MensRights06/12/24 03:30 PM
8

So, because you believe Jesus was circumcised it justifies doing it to infants and just after birth breaking their bodily autonomy for no noticeable medical benefit? Or because you think it looks better? Please justify circumcision for a group who cover non Christians and non gay men.
/r/MensRights04/12/24 09:09 PM
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Way to ignore the point being made.
/r/MensRights04/12/24 09:02 PM
4

Really? Hundreds in what time frame have divorcing husbands killed their wives?
/r/MensRights04/12/24 08:59 PM
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We do for men removing themselves. Men removing others due to mental illness is already over covered, no need here.
/r/MensRights04/12/24 08:59 PM
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Are they really more? Or does society just care more about the “fairer sex’ because men are disposable?
/r/MensRights03/12/24 04:48 AM
4

If we do that, can we also have an emotional abuse registry? I'm talking not those hard core cases.
/r/MensRights02/12/24 11:25 PM
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It is a valid solution to their personal goals so long as when they later realize they do want children and they are in the much higher risk for pregnancy category, they accept that reality as well. Too many I’ve seen want it all, but fail to plan for biological realities and wind up online moaning about it. There pi’s a way to have it all, it’s just feminists don’t like the timeline.
/r/MensRights02/12/24 11:19 PM
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It gives the right mindset, and training helps even the odds. Size matters, but so does knowing how to seem helpless and go from that to an all out attack that's effective at disabling the aggressor. An untrained 120 lb woman has a small chance against a guy twice her weight. A well trained woman against that same guy has pretty good chance.
/r/MensRights02/12/24 06:19 PM
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Name the fallacy. You’re confusing two issues, equality and whether there should be a draft at all. You don’t get to assume no selective service or draft in order to protect women. Right now, if men can be drafted equality would mean just as many women get drafted as men. Trying to abolish a draft is another issue.
/r/MensRights02/12/24 03:02 AM
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Yes. If they truly champion equality, why aren’t they signing up military service and agitating that it should be equal with no gender disparity.
/r/MensRights01/12/24 07:36 PM
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Exactly. Masculine traits have side that can be viewed as either good or bad. Like being protective. Good trait for survival of the family and tribe, side more often labeled 'bad' is jealousy and territorial. But are those really bad when it comes to a father protecting the next generation he's investing in and may be required to die for? Everything labelled as 'toxic masculinity' is just seeing a masculine trait and deciding it’s bad, rather than seeing why it’s useful in context even if our so…
/r/MensRights30/11/24 09:56 PM
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Good correction. Yes, that’s the right word, not oligarchy.
/r/MensRights30/11/24 09:42 PM
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A better word is Oligarchy. Patriarchy incorrectly assumes a gender. It hasn’t been just men with power, women have had it too even if they exercised it through husbands, sons, and grandsons. Do you think Queens and Princesses had no power to change the minds of their man?
/r/MensRights30/11/24 05:00 PM
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I've been in that situation, seeing the little moves, the sneaky conversations, and worse,changing responsibilities. Here you can tell they are lining p to give rid of you but want it to go as easy for them as possible. Anxiety isn't something I think you can easily get rid of. But I have had a ton of training and experience in speaking to argue groups, on stage by myself, which I hated at first because I’m more introverted. Somewhere in one of those trainings the j structure said you can't get …
/r/MensRights28/11/24 11:27 AM
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One thing I’ve noticed having sought professional help twice just for me and twice for marriage and once for sex therapy. The male therapists really called me and both of us to the carpet on things. And held us there until either understanding came,or sadly, the wife decided we were done, nothing more needed. I sought two male therapists for help over the decades. I'm 58, been married 36 years to her. We had one male therapists for marriage in our late 30s. And a female one in early 50s. And a s…
/r/MensRights28/11/24 11:22 AM
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Start at the very beginning of the chains for modern infrastructure. Men are almost entirely responsible for mining the raw materials needed such as oil, iron, and any other natural resource and then refining / smelting them and distributing them to begin any manufacturing process. All of that grinds to a halt until women replace those men. If they can even get women to do it. Most of the truly physically demanding and dangerous jobs are completed by men. If they have nearly perfect AI and nearl…
/r/MensRights27/11/24 07:07 PM
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I'm not sure it’s male violence dropping and female violence escalating. I suspect it's more that better reporting is starting to show the real situation.
/r/MensRights27/11/24 03:53 PM
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The gender wage gap is bullshit (t least in most western countries). A woman got a Noel prize in economics for demonstrating that it doesn't exist… once you take all the other factors, like choice, vacation and leave time, and overtime into account. Much of what you listed applies only outside western countries and I agree with you there, but most of the discussion in this group is centered on western countries, which is a whole different issue. As for historical issues often claimed by feminism…
/r/MensRights26/11/24 05:26 PM
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You say thee are o many things women lack. Name them. Give a list. What rights do women have that men don't. What benefits do men have that women don't?
/r/MensRights26/11/24 03:02 PM
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Look further back in history. The idea that white people have oppressed those of any other color for all of history is bullshit. There is no race or country who hasn't at some point been oppressors, even systemic oppressors. We can either play the victim Olympics or we can work together. The current gender and race ideological wars are what the class war winners foster in order to maintain and grow their wealth and control.
/r/MensRights26/11/24 03:01 PM
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Damn. I'm 58 years old. Missed out on the oppression thing. When did that happen for the vet age white man who never owned slaves, never had great wealth and power? Feminists comp,sin about not getting the one or being able to have credit cards and checking accounts. That narrative only works if you only look at a decade or two prior to that time. Most men didn't get to vote until just prior to all women getting to vote. And those women without checking accounts? That was true for most men up to…
/r/MensRights26/11/24 02:54 PM
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Most men, whether white or not, never had privilege, never had power or wealth. They were a poorly off as most people in those times. Don't buy into the feminist narrative on this idea. If you said instead “wealth privilege” it would fit much better. Not by gender, but by maintained wealth over generations.
/r/MensRights26/11/24 02:50 PM
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In the first trilogy Han grew as a person, from a lawless smuggler and low life to a Rebel General, in or with Leia and strong supporter of the New Republic. All of that was undone in the new trilogy but they also then made him weak and incompetent.
/r/MensRights18/11/24 09:30 PM
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There may not be physical cheating, but emotionally, she's already moved on.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 06:30 PM
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It wasn’t patriarchy. That’s the point I'm making. It wasn’t all men, or even most men, seeking power in order to keep women subjugated. Too few men had power for that. It was the 1% vs everyone else. And the 1% was both men and women. Men held the office, got the title, but he had a mother, wife, daughters, and they all had influence too. Same thing still happens today only now we would call it oligarchy.
/r/MensRights16/11/24 02:20 AM
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Patriarchy isn't a system where men are “put” in charge. The theory is that it’s a system men (as a category) evolved to ensure that men retained power and subjugated women. That it ignores the reality that most men and most women had similar terrible lives where the rich and powerful did not is a huge problem. More women lived and lived longer than men. Women in most of history have been the protected gender, and also the status gender (this is that objectification feminists complain about, not…
/r/MensRights15/11/24 05:09 PM
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And for true equality the inverse of both those for men as well.
/r/MensRights15/11/24 12:49 AM
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And be manufactured and maintained only by women.
/r/MensRights15/11/24 12:46 AM
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Tell that to the other feminists.
/r/MensRights13/11/24 09:50 PM
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Wasn’t disagreeing, trying to add a little clarity for those who might not know how it works.
/r/MensRights13/11/24 05:59 AM
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Selective service is running. Men have to register for it. What’s not happening is selected members are not being called into active service.
/r/MensRights13/11/24 05:47 AM
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I wouldn’t confront her, just drop her out of your life.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 10:25 PM
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I wasn’t talking about 4b, just the misunderstanding on dead bedrooms.
/r/MensRights10/11/24 06:51 PM
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And what it is called to use denial of sex in such a fashion? We focus on other issues but sexual issues is one of the four largest reasons for divorce. It’s not always men who are the denied partner so it’s not a gendered issue. Traditional vows, no matter what youngsters claim today, do include a vow to intimacy and sex. Also protection and provision. They're all in those vows. So if using funds to abuse someone is financial abuse, what is it called to deny sex and intimacy? What form of abuse…
/r/MensRights10/11/24 06:48 AM
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Dead bedrooms isn’t often about people who can’t have sex. More it’s just people who don’t want to (both men and women). Or can’t be bothered by it. Or no longer life their spouse and sex has become a method of control. It’s a stupid response to deny funds, if we call that financial abuse, what is it called when a partner withholds sex?
/r/MensRights10/11/24 06:44 AM
1

Who said they had to serve as infantry? Just serve is the goal.
/r/MensRights09/11/24 08:54 AM
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It’s still a good reason to make it illegal. It’s unnecessary, it’s dangerous, it’s traumatic, and it’s not due to the infant boy's beliefs. Lastly, the big one, the infant boy cannot give consent. The first thing done to him is cut off a part of the penis that has a purpose. Stacked against that list “buy my beliefs…” doesn’t cut it because they YOUR beliefs, not your infant son's. He has the right to come of age and decide both religious parts for himself, circumstances or practicing the relig…
/r/MensRights09/11/24 08:51 AM
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Don’t assume that asl are. I'm a Gen-Xer and yet see and support these young men. They have been vilified, had their fathers denied being in their lives, had women teachers, often with feminist training. Walking away is a rational choice.
/r/MensRights08/11/24 04:34 PM
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So now you know both genders have issues. Spread the word because too many feminists, who have never been property or lived in a true patriarchy, think they do and that the average man has been suppressing them for Millenia.
/r/MensRights08/11/24 04:54 AM
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So what? The laws and unfairness still exist. And its cost when it's happened in the past is horrendous for men. Women face nothing similar. They got the vote with no costs, no restrictions. Men had to agree to sign up in order to get the vote. Prior to that only leaders had power to not be drafted.
/r/MensRights07/11/24 05:24 PM
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Isn’t it funny how rights are determined by desired gender but responsibilities are determined by biological gender?
/r/MensRights07/11/24 05:22 PM
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Yet for 60 years they have had enough power to work on this issue. They have done nothing, despite being more of the voting populace than men. For equality is just a slogan, it has no importance to feminists in reality. They will argue it’s not unfair but that¡s because they are actually focused on keeping traditional benefits while getting the same benefits as men without the subsequent responsibilities.
/r/MensRights07/11/24 05:20 PM
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The law allows for arrest, they just don't bother during peace. Come a need for bodies, those who are unenrolled will be arrested.
/r/MensRights07/11/24 05:16 PM
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Too bad, you could use the education.
/r/MensRights06/11/24 06:14 AM
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Bullshit. Men can be circumcised before they even leave the hospital. Almost always it’s cosmetic, not needed. We also have to sign up for selective service in order to vote. If a man doesn’t there are a number of opportunities he's denied (you can look them up but there's several). Our ability to vote came at the cost of possibly being killed in a war. What do you pay for the right to vote? Men don’t have reproductive rights, women do. Don’t blame Roe v Wade being shit canned on men, blame it o…
/r/MensRights06/11/24 01:01 AM
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In the U.S. what rights do men have that women don’t? Then flip it, what rights do women have that men don’t?
/r/MensRights06/11/24 12:50 AM
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They write for emotional sway, not factual convincing, even if it’s couched as if it is a solid analysis.
/r/MensRights05/11/24 06:27 AM
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My first response would be to ask why their level of fear matters since we know it can be manipulated and we know that fears often are irrational. So dismiss the “being afraid” part. That lets us get to the facts, which recently have shown the numbers are no where near as one-sized as previous, flawed studies, showed. But even if we want to grant more women get raped than men (excluding prison), it doesn't mean much since more men are victims of violent crime, are homeless, and wind up actually …
/r/MensRights04/11/24 04:03 PM
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Neither one of them gets my vote. I can't support a convicted felon who is terrible at being a president. And I can't support a woman who hates men and supports shaming them into being even weaker. I see a time coming where men (poor, middle class and more) not only check out of society as we've seen, but instead start showing unhappiness through something worse. I don't think those pushing the anti-men rhetoric have any clue what happens when 60% of men say 'enough' and star fighting back. Or w…
/r/MensRights03/11/24 07:43 PM
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More importantly you respected a new boundary while she lacked both courtesy for an old friend and exhibited new bigotry towards the half of the race that lets her have a modern lifestyle. Stupidity also shown.
/r/MensRights02/11/24 04:11 AM
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Have you considered that feminism has made it a no-win denationalized for men. If men are assertive they are called misogynistic and controlling. If men treat women like an equal they are weak and not respected. Women will Leo say they both like assertive men and want an equal partner. They want a man to “take charge” in the bedroom but he damn ell better toe the line where it owes to feminist anti-male behavior. Men have become weaker in large part because their ingle mothers made them so. And …
/r/MensRights01/11/24 05:22 PM
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How is stating that “patriarchy is a lie” misogynistic? You can still admit women have suffered, and at the hands of men, without believing that particular hypothesis.
/r/MensRights01/11/24 01:43 PM
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And how many of those pregnancies are due to rape? A tiny fraction. Which means she allowed for the possibility to get pregnant. Please don’t try to remove accountability.
/r/MensRights30/10/24 12:21 AM
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You should study a bit more history. Force wasn’t always considered rape. In some cultures it wasn’t a bad thing, any more than killing an enemy. Amerindians for example. To become a man, called a Brave and having a name there was two options, kill an enemy and steal a woman to be a squaw, including what we would today call rape. Or become a medicine man. Both were rewarded. And considered necessary. 99% Braves, 1% Medicine Men. I wasn’t suggesting women are turned on by rape. I was stating that…
/r/MensRights27/10/24 06:57 PM
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You don’t think a woman getting her husband drunk because she wants kids and raping him while he’s unconscious counts? Happened enough it was a thing. Men are more likely to use physical force, but also women are more likely to be turned on by it. Rape is when it happens without consent, but there are plenty of women who consent to it, explicitly ask for it. It get r were ally hard to separate when she likes forceful some of the time, he gets used to it, she also feels obligated because sex is a…
/r/MensRights27/10/24 05:15 PM
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There are a similar number of families, often the same set, who have a house leaner, sometimes nanny.
/r/MensRights27/10/24 05:03 PM
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I do think the reason for the divorce and the custody agreement should both be considered. If it was cheating, and can be demonstrated, that should come with reduction in spousal support and no alimony. It’s a way to break the vows without taking consideration of your partner. Does mean or have to prove infidelity, just that if that is one of the reasons assumptions on the split financially and marital home need to change.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/24 10:05 PM
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Understanding Boys’ Brain Development Neurological Differences in Boys and Girls Cerebral Cortex – The cerebral cortex is the part of the brain that houses skills that lead to academic success, like memory, attentiveness, language, and more. Boys’ cerebral cortexes are mostly dedicated to spatial functioning, compared to girls’ which are typically focused on verbal ability. Eyesight – Boys’ eyes function best in bright, natural light. By contrast, girls are often better at seeing in dim light an…
/r/MensRights23/10/24 04:19 PM
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I'm 58 and still see it as a problem. So you agree it’s in existing inequality, you're just arguing for… what exactly?
/r/MensRights22/10/24 02:03 AM
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Does it matter how long it’s been? The principle is the same regardless. As for combat roles, if women want equality, there are costs and downsides to being truly equal which they still aren’t stepping up to. Serving isn't just infantry. Women make good pilots, nurses, comms and recon analysis and more. They could also drive Bradley's trucks, be in the mess, become armorer's, and more.
/r/MensRights21/10/24 04:02 PM
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My rituals for helping my sons into being men didn't involve anything like that. Instead it was showing them how to work, how to stop and think their way through a problem, and how hard work can overcome a variety of issues if you simply start and stay persistent. It also involved showing them how and when to fight and when to stand on principle. We taught them all sorts of other things but to my mid being a man boils down to simply accepting responsibility, working to live and care for whatever…
/r/MensRights20/10/24 07:58 PM
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Emotional manipulation is a female speciality, the DV aspects seem more recent, only really allowed to happen because feminism has created the expectation that women are victims, men are perpetrators. A hundred years ago a woman doing that to her husband stood a good chance of getting worse back and it being justified. I suspect it’s going to get a bit worse, then comes the hard flip as men who've been real victims decide if they are going to jail for DV, might as well be real DV.
/r/MensRights19/10/24 04:43 AM
3

I usually respond that I spent two years being a bouncer and have a long list of men's injuries, including loss of an eye, hearing in one year, a bladder, kidney, ruined knee and brain injury that demonstrates how stupid the claim that women can’t hurt men. For reasonable one, they are surprised. Unreasonable ones, it’s just like any other ideologue, nothing will change their minds.
/r/MensRights14/10/24 01:47 PM
3

From the same groups reporting one in four women have been raped by using misleading surveys and skewing the results?
/r/MensRights10/10/24 01:17 PM
3

Grey rock men’s you stop showing her emotion, stop sharing irrelevant info Rand instead only talk about things pertinent to divorce, parenting plan and such. Don’t let tears or love bombing influence you, or if it does, don’t let her see it. You are trying to create distance while remaining in the home, and protecting yourself from being manipulated by a wife who has already cheated multiple times and lied or gaslit you about. Sounds like she's having an ongoing affair for years so she doesn’t r…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 03:28 PM
2

Your wife has attacked your relationship and you multiple times. Now you know so prepare for divorce. Get a good attorney, talk to him about recommendations. Some has suggested getting definitive proof but ask your attorney, in some places it’s crucial to get the best deal, in others it doesn’t matter at all. But definitely get a plan for finances, you might check to see if she has any hidden accounts. Then get it all in order, including separating finances as soon as you can without tipping her…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 03:21 PM
1

Exactly. He would be a murderer and sociopath. She would be a heroine for surviving whatever He did to her.
/r/MensRights09/10/24 03:01 PM
4

If you tell someone since an info that they are princesses and to be continually aware of men because they are all gods at best and sexist, racist and misogynist then “empower” them by encouraging hook up culture, develop masculine traits but put no limits on them (as men we know if you piss someone off badly enough it’s a fight). What comes out of that environment is a sociopath.
/r/MensRights09/10/24 02:54 PM
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There's not just one. Men who don’t pay child support can go to prison. But women aren’t held to the same standard for the parenting plan. Although it was a 50/50 decision, if he doesn’t pay he goes to jail, where if she refuses to let him have the 50% of time with kids the court mandated he has to spend upwards of ten grand to get a judge to care, no automatic enforcement.
/r/MensRights08/10/24 03:25 AM
5

Nope, for the reason you listed. We only have terrible options. I wouldn’t trust either of them to watch one of my grand daughters.
/r/MensRights08/10/24 03:14 AM
5

A multiple times convicted felon who is a very loose grasp of truth and the constitution isn’t exactly a good representative.
/r/MensRights08/10/24 12:20 AM
1

Just go for a consultation with a good one. That first session is generally free but they can help even then.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 07:44 PM
1

I agree with your decision. Talk to an divorce attorney immediately, install cameras, take precautions like separating your finances. If you own the home ask about how to evict her.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 05:06 PM
6

Exactly? Divorce her for infidelity. Make it as easy for her to move on since she has already monkey branched. Once it's all done, and she is officially divorced, then fuck him up with the evidence of his unethical behavior. What do you bet your wife isn’t the okay patient he does this with? If he's married he's really putting his wife at risk and she should know too.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 06:14 AM
4

Which is the true measure of what so many call emotional intelligence. It's not just having wildly fluctuating emotions everyone forgives you for, or talking about emotions all the time. It's regulating your emotions so you can use your intelligence to see clearly and make decision from that clarity. To do what’s right or needed, rather than what you feel like doing emotionally.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 05:30 AM
1

Ask your divorce attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 08:27 PM
6

I would still have them checked because that's worse then just infidelity nd for their sakes, knowing their true parentage and what DNA family issues they need to watch can be helpful.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 03:27 PM
3

I have an attorney brother who got pissed at the state attorney for demanding a case (prisoner vs state) go to trial. To convince the state attorney to at least consider settling he sent discoveries, at lest 100 questions to arrive at their office at 4pm. The state had one attorney, my brother had himself, two juniors and three legal assistants. They sent a new set daily for 10 days because he knew the state attorney would be hard pressed to answer that many questions daily. At the 10th day the …
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 02:22 PM
1

Ask a divorce lawyer. My son was told that once a separation agreement was signed then any new debts are individual from that point. But i don’t know that applies to where you live.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 08:30 PM
5

OP this is your answer.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 07:35 PM
2

Sell your place or redecorate it, even remodel it. Do as much yourself for the satisfaction as you can. Get a god. You can date without a commitment.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 07:17 PM
11

Based on average cost of living in the region, not the specific city or small area. This way you don't get ridiculous requirements just because the couple used to live somewhere extremely expensive. That is not required after divorce. The argument of standard of living is stupid no matter which way it goes. If one spouse is only provider splitting doubles costs so standard or living goes down. If both spouses work, same thing. Also, the government take on it should be like half a percent to mana…
/r/MensRights01/10/24 07:10 PM
2

More than 50 years of watching. Still waiting for a serious feminist effort on this or really, any men's rights issue on the helpful side. I've seen them attack things men have tried, like even organizing a men’s shelter since we're the one group no shelter seems to want. Protests killed. Protests by feminists. So don’t tell me what you claim they want, demonstrate their effort.
/r/MensRights19/09/24 02:56 PM
4

Yet they are the majority of the voting group so their support keeps the system as it is.
/r/MensRights18/09/24 09:51 PM
5

That’s not really a rational position given human behavior. Maybe you mean no attacking or projecting military power? Or do you mean the country should be entirely defenseless because you believe a non violent utopia is a real possibility?
/r/MensRights18/09/24 09:50 PM
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Once someone you trust deeply has betrayed that trust you move on. Even if they come back, apologize, and try to make amends, why would you ever trust them again to that extent? You wouldn't. It will never be the same. End it and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 09:44 PM
3

Bullshit. It’s oligarchy. Which is what created and pushed the feminist narrative. Great way to get more workers for less money and keep them busy fighting while they rig the game. Been going on for millennia under one guise or another.
/r/MensRights18/09/24 03:29 AM
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We did have them. Feminism destroyed them.
/r/MensRights18/09/24 03:26 AM
3

Exactly. They have far more equality and are held far less accountable for bad choices than at any time in the past.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 03:18 AM
1

Good luck, mate. Get out, get separate, get an attorney for the divorce. And don’t forget equity in the home or any shared investments.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 03:14 AM
3

You and me both. Add in are log time to a conservative woman and we both are educated and make good money, and I’m an example of all that is wrong with the world.
/r/MensRights15/09/24 09:07 PM
1

These are not “good wife” recommendations but rather “how to be a good person” so it applies to both of you. Own your words. Which means say what you mean, mean what you say, and be explicit. You can’t get mad if you hinted or suggested. Only words count as expectations or feelings that are shared. Having integrity is key. Being honest with others and doing what you said you would is great. But the key is being honest with yourself. If you screwed up, admit it to yourself first, then your spouse…
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 05:02 AM
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Making a lot of assumptions here. I agree it’s possible. It’s also possible she’s been cheating the whole time and is a piece of garbage. The odds are high enough it’s better to find out which it is before you tell him it’s his fault.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 10:07 PM
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Hence the warning on the self limiting sample. I suspect the overall rate closer to 1:6 or 1:7 rather 1:3. But that’s still very high for supposed monogamous relationships. It also means men are justified to demand paternity tests for all births.
/r/MensRights14/09/24 10:04 PM
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https://www.sss.gov/register/men-26-and-older/#:~:text=Failure%20to%20register%20is%20a,many%20state%20and%20local)%20jobs So there’s up to $250,000 fine and jail. https://www.usa.gov/register-selective-service There’s other stuff. https://www.sss.gov/register/men-26-and-older/ The most complete version, but it’s labeled as for only men over 26. “According to law, a man must register with Selective Service within 30 days of his 18th birthday. Selective Service accepts late registrations up until…
/r/MensRights14/09/24 03:10 PM
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In the U.S. it’s estimated about 29% of paternity tests sought to confirm paternity said he was not the father. This is a self limiting sample so take that into consideration.
/r/MensRights13/09/24 11:14 PM
1

Read, “No more Mr. nice Guy.”
/r/MensRights12/09/24 08:58 PM
3

I'm 58, brought up by Silent Gen folks. On the outside I look very conservative and generally stoic. But to my wife of 36 years and my fiends and kids, and close family I share emotion. My father did the same. We can break the cycle by helping our boys by showing it work.
/r/MensRights12/09/24 06:47 PM
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Good luck.
/r/MensRights12/09/24 06:25 PM
-1

Feel free.
/r/MensRights12/09/24 06:25 PM
0

You¡re good. Ignore him.
/r/MensRights12/09/24 04:40 PM
0

Exactly. Write how you've felt is a better guideline. The human condition, which is at the heart of all great stories, is ultimately about how we feel. Even for extremely stoic characters, it's just they control those feelings harshly and hold their decision making to strict intellectual guides.
/r/MensRights12/09/24 04:39 PM
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I'm a writer and man married 36 years, so GenXer. For most men they talk direct, but it's not always reflective of their deepest feelings. If you just randomly ask a man what the most important things in his life are, he may say his wife and kids. Likely will. But that won't truly communicate the depth of his feelings. Most guys will toss it off with some deprecation. Which happens because men are not rewarded in social situations for expressing emotions beyond happiness and commitment. But if y…
/r/MensRights12/09/24 04:38 PM
7

Did your attorney not help you be aware of this before you filed? If I were him I would have considered if you could just move into another room and rode it out until the year cycled.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 03:31 PM
4

Hire an attorney that does divorce for the primary practice with at least a decade of experience. Let him help you figure out what's just. And negotiate it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 08:21 PM
5

I'm not sure there are actually politically relevant feminist allies. To men, much less MRAs. The anti-male rhetoric from wealthy, powerful and privileged women has gone far past that point. So I have to disagree with you that there are feminists to support who define themselves in such a way that their beliefs aren't anti-male effectively. Most feminists I know who recognize that what it’s become is hateful and bigoted, stop being feminists and shift more to egalitarian.
/r/MensRights10/09/24 08:18 PM
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Never put yourself in limelight you don't control during a conflict. You never know where it will go. Some say take control of the story, but social media isn't control. You can tell people directly if you feel they need to know. Personally, I would try who I am and only share it with affected parties, like kids or parents. Beyond that and a best friend, no one else.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 01:54 PM
10

For me, I’ve been rejecting ties for formal wear for years. Just the shirt and jacket.
/r/MensRights07/09/24 12:46 AM
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If I were the reporter I would have then written the piece noting his sexist behavior at the interview.
/r/MensRights06/09/24 05:30 PM
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It’s a DEI browny point goal. Notice how it’s never about encouraging women to do what they want. Nor is it about encouraging equality at all levels. Just senior management. What’s the ratio of men being janitors? Like 98%. Same for sanitation workers and other laborious jobs.
/r/MensRights05/09/24 04:28 AM
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Since they focus mostly on women’s and minority issues does that mean they are pandering to them? Or is it possible to include a group without pandering?
/r/MensRights04/09/24 02:42 PM
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You’re focusing on the wrong thing. It’s not men who have historically ran the world but the wealthy and powerful. Many were men but their wives, daughters, and mothers all influenced how it went and are also much of the reason those men accumulated power. That’s how men compete for women.
/r/MensRights04/09/24 01:44 AM
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She’s not working on logic, but emotion. Respond in kind, “I'm not picking up because you're still keeping the house.” Just let her figure that one out on her own. Don’t explain.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 03:56 AM
1

Yeah, those are for plural use. Not a fan of changing a definition of perfectly good words to. I fuse meaning. That some adopted those words doesn’t mean they actually work.
/r/MensRights31/08/24 10:27 PM
2

Such as?
/r/MensRights31/08/24 07:11 AM
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I've pointed this out in the past. And found when I ask my wife how long it takes to do her share of the household chores she takes in time spent doing a host of other things, such as eating breakfast, texting the kids, talking to a neighbor, running to the store all to be included. But when she looks at me and I laser focus and get stuff done in far less time, I’m doing less. The solution was we swapped every other week for a month. In the end, didn't matter which chores we were doing, I stayed…
/r/MensRights21/08/24 07:40 PM
2

Take a look at our Yvonne’s if single mother homes d single father homes the ask that question again,
/r/MensRights20/08/24 12:45 AM
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Take a suggestion from an old man. Fuck that shit! Judge people by actions, including yourself. If you’re not doing terrible things you have no reason to feel guilty. We have become a wimp society with everyone so concerned about feelings that they forget facts rule over feelings. Knowing other people have distorted world view like this arms you to act accordingly but don’t accept this BS mentality inside. Men, hell masculinity and manliness are not only important they are needed in this world. …
/r/MensRights18/08/24 03:51 AM
7

If your name is on the lease, no.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 07:16 PM
15

Then women need to be held to the same standard. No push up bras, makeup and filters. No “work” like implants, lip fillers and such without a warning, honest weight and exercise stats.
/r/MensRights15/08/24 04:27 PM
15

The natural reaction will be AI that removes the filter and makeup and estimates weight and overall health. Seems like a good direction to me.
/r/MensRights15/08/24 04:25 PM
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So now flip that quote around to where women are more often the predators with children the victims. Seems to work. “In a world where children are subjected to women's predation, it is the responsibility of women, not men, to prove that it's “not all women.” And you don’t prove it by convincing children to trust women. You prove it by convincing women not yo violate children.”
/r/MensRights15/08/24 03:16 AM
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None of your posts say anything positive about feminists That isn't misogyny. It’s anti-feminist. But I’m sure the distinction doesn't matter to you.
/r/MensRights13/08/24 04:07 PM
10

I don’t consider it just abortion because it is three rights, not just one. The right to keep it and the subsequent law that lets her then require support from the father. The right to allow abortion. And the right to abort. Reducing it to just abortion forgets the other two.
/r/MensRights13/08/24 03:54 PM
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Women get to decide what happens with a pregnancy, whether to keep it, abort it, put it up for adoption. Men have no rights in this regard. A woman steels a man's sperm, he has no right to end that pregnancy. Essentially, once his sperm leaves his body he has no rights over reproduction, they all exist with the woman.
/r/MensRights13/08/24 03:12 PM
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I would add women have reproductive rights, men don't.
/r/MensRights13/08/24 01:51 PM
2

She’s money branching mate.bet if you looked close you would find she’s dating while finding herself at her parents. File now so you are more in control.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 07:11 PM
7

Hire a realtor. Always a third party.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 07:24 AM
6

Never been divorced, I’m 58, married 36 years to a woman who has been both treasure and at times frustration. But things were very different when I married. She hadn’t been around. Neither had I. Today that’s almost impossible to find. If I were in your shoes, no marriage. Date for fun, maybe even have a girlfriend from time to time but not living together. If you want unconditional love get a good dog.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 12:18 AM
3

Exactly, skin color, gender, even wealth shouldn’t be an issue. I can see things lie sociopathy, psychopathy, severe mental issues or physical communication restraints adding difficulty for anyone.
/r/MensRights02/08/24 07:35 PM
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Let's see, do I have this right? Man gives a strange woman some flowers for herself = he's a creep Man doesn't give sangria woman flowers = he uncaring Man gives flowers to a strange woman to give to a man in her life = he's burdening her Men don't deserve flowers (at all apparently). Feminists complain that men hold to gender stereotypes, yet aren’t all of the above statement gender stereotypes?
/r/MensRights02/08/24 07:27 PM
3

Also have to love that they mentioned male heterosexuals as the ones most acceptable to not have empathy for, which to me illustrates that therapists aren't recognizing their own institutionalized biases. That a human being is white and heterosexual doesn't make it any more difficult to empathize with them unless you have sumptuous and biases against them already in place. Also, I refuse to accept the label “cis” anything. It's insulting in the same way as using derogatory terms of the LGBT crow…
/r/MensRights02/08/24 05:46 PM
1

I'm sorry, but what's the scenario she's responding to? I get that it's the Olympics, but what happened?
/r/MensRights02/08/24 04:26 PM
2

Sure. And I am all of those, including long time married but still a MRA as I can.
/r/MensRights02/08/24 04:10 PM
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The safe categories are: men, white, straight. So if you’re all of those lots of crap to ignore. Set ‘em straight if they get in your face but otherwise, it’s their issue.
/r/MensRights02/08/24 01:14 AM
2

Yeah, it’s a very high bar that those accusing or rape didn’t have to get over. We should hold both to the same standard. I don’t understand why we should ignore evidence needs for this one type of crime.
/r/MensRights01/08/24 01:01 AM
2

There's a YouTube video from a divorce attorney titled something like, “young men watch this if you're considering marriage”. Have him watch that. Or just spend 3 hours sitting in the audience of the local family court. At minimum it will make him think long and hard about prenups.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 12:41 AM
4

I always understood ‘rule of thumb’ having existed as a concept since long before the Bible was written. It refers to using the thumb as a unit of measure, both in carpentry and for layout of buildings and such.
/r/MensRights31/07/24 07:53 PM
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I suggest that men simply avoid this airline. Losing half your potential client base should be the result of this type of policy if men don't want to have second class status cemented in place. If it keeps going at some point men in Indian will need a woman's permission to travel.
/r/MensRights31/07/24 03:43 PM
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I spent a few years as a bouncer. You've obviously never worked a job like that. Losing an eye, falling wrong, breaking things, all of these women do just as easily as men. Hitting is wrong regardless of the gender. Excusing one gender because, on average, the other is bigger and stronger is silly if your goal is fair treatment of genders.
/r/MensRights31/07/24 04:40 AM
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Everyone is at risk at times of their lives. The key problem with your type of thinking is it’s profiling. When you take that same thought and exchange men for blacks, suddenly it’s racism. Do it with old people, it’s ageism. But it’s perfectly fine in the feminist narrative to profile all men as inherently dangerous. Which just demonstrates most feminists suck at statistics. When your conclusion is wrong 99% of the time it’s a terrible conclusion. Guess what women do at that same rate as “men” …
/r/MensRights31/07/24 03:50 AM
3

If a woman attacks me is it misogynist if I defend myself or do I have to let her abuse me in order to support feminism?
/r/MensRights30/07/24 03:15 PM
3

How? What’s the best approach?
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 11:27 PM
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The one I just saw was research into why women cheat and trying to establish that they have similar motivations as men, yet the women in the post were trying to walk it back to being men's fault.
/r/MensRights28/07/24 10:23 PM
2

To hell with that shit. Calling out facts should be acceptable anywhere. We cater far too much to people's feelings over actual harm, especially when it’s male victims. You know why it’s a touchy subject? Because they know it’s far worse for men. It shows patriarchy theory to be crap.
/r/MensRights27/07/24 05:06 AM
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And yet this same group will also shame men reluctant to date single mothers “because it’s not my kid”.
/r/MensRights25/07/24 05:35 PM
3

Your first paragraph is a great attitude. Be your best self, always. Over time if you hold yourself to being a good man, putting in the work and having high standards for integrity, people respect you for that. It also makes living with other issues much easier because that firm core of who you are remains.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 07:55 PM
2

Should always be the woman’s decision ultimately. But with that right to choice comes the responsibility for taking care of the child. If we, as a society, are going to recognize body autonomy (and we should!), then choosing to keep the child means bearing the full financial responsibility for it legally. She should have to ask the father if he wants to keep the child and support it before child support becomes a thing. If she is able to choose (after she's pregnant) whether to abort it, put it …
/r/MensRights24/07/24 03:28 PM
11

And men have the right to hold women accountable for violence as well, right? So the equal amount of DV, the significantly more violence from women to children in education and parental roles. Right?
/r/MensRights24/07/24 03:19 PM
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Not all women,but it's always a woman. Seems to fit here.
/r/MensRights21/07/24 09:10 PM
5

I use egalitarian now days to mean that men and women should both have equal opportunities and equal treatment under laws for crime and family issues. And equal respect and effort under medical issues and research.
/r/MensRights19/07/24 11:42 PM
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Be a good Dad when you have her. She needs that in her life. When very young most kids prefer Mom. But over time you'll be the one who pushes her, shows her discipline, sets the bar for the guys she considers. If you stay close enough, she'll rely on you to help weed out the jokers from good men. Dads have a significant and far undervalued role in their kids lives. Look at the stats, having an active Dad is a hide benefit in terms of her likelihood to all sorts of negative things like teen pregn…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 09:54 PM
2

Just ask if her if she's aware of the nasty stuff women do voluntarily on stages or at parties. It’s at least as vulgar and inappropriate.
/r/MensRights19/07/24 06:24 PM
2

Very nice information, thanks!
/r/MensRights19/07/24 06:22 PM
7

I'm anti-feminist and pro woman. Anti because it is ultimately an anti-male ideology. You say that's just the radical feminists. Yet laws, polls, and social media tell a different picture. Look at the popularity of trends like #believewomen, #killallmen, “it’s not all men, but it's always a man” (which is untrue). Look at family court laws and outcomes. In the U.S. women are earning more than men, yet 92% of alimony goes male to female, and similar rates for child support. Women get primary cust…
/r/MensRights18/07/24 05:43 PM
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They also tend not to have the empathy so often assumed for their gender. I would even argue that they have conditional empathy just like men but with some differences, such as only feeling empathy when the situation is close enough to their experience. When considering women therapists they may be unable to empathize with a man patient because his world view and life experience are so different. They simply don't feel like he does and don't see his problems because they are so used to the world…
/r/MensRights18/07/24 04:53 PM
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Long term, the parenting you do, spending time with them, showing them things, giving them experiences where they learn things and get pushed to know who they are, will trump money. Just be their best Dad when you have them. They will become better men because of it.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 09:10 PM
12

Great. I'm sure you can give points why.
/r/MensRights16/07/24 09:08 PM
8

Great presentation. Spot on as the Brits say.
/r/MensRights16/07/24 09:07 PM
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Only recommendations: get a paternity test immediately, go through counseling if you want but plan for it to fail, and retain an attorney immediately and take their advice in terms of securing finances, recording things and such. That your wife hid it for so long and only came clean when caught in my mind means she should be cooked, no coming back, that's not just betrayal of a most fundamental vow, it's habitual betrayal. I would simply plan to exit as painlessly as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 09:05 PM
2

Agreed. Back to the new aristocracy.
/r/MensRights16/07/24 02:27 PM
3

It's not an issue socially and to let women control when they get pregnant. But there is data coming out that there are some serious side effects for the chemical varieties that I think play into it.
/r/MensRights15/07/24 05:43 PM
14

I honestly think it’s a natural result of a number of issues. Population overall, quality of food and unnecessary chemicals in it. Birth control meds. Feminism. Pollution. Living longer and healthier despite modern issues our ancestors never had to deal with. Have you ever seen the experiment called Universe 25? Look it up. Looks an awful lot like our civilization today in certain areas. If we go like the rates, a huge die back is coming. I suspect we'll go differently.
/r/MensRights15/07/24 04:03 AM
4

“I feel like women should accept this responsibility because it is their body, their choice, right?”
/r/MensRights12/07/24 01:59 AM
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Does it matter whether she had sex with him? She's been emotionally and romantically cheating on you for years? Stop being her doormat and get free.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 01:41 AM
2

What do you think they can do with a DNA profile and not the full DNA data that they don’t already have on you from multiple sources?
/r/MensRights11/07/24 12:32 AM
1

Given how much data is in your DNA I’m not seeing why they would keep it. Keep record that you are bio dad of that child, sure.
/r/MensRights11/07/24 12:31 AM
1

Would your opinion change if they did not keep the sample beyond the test?
/r/MensRights10/07/24 07:28 PM
2

I understand. Take the stance and hold it. It’s the only way to counter the unbalanced court system.
/r/MensRights10/07/24 07:07 PM
2

The best response, regardless of the pushback from the woman is, “A prenup should equally protect both members the way they want (and is a great way to see if you can reach agreement on tough decisions) because if we don't decide, the state will.”
/r/MensRights10/07/24 05:10 PM
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Just pile it with the others from history in that 90 percenter ratio such as dying in battle, building home, roads, mining, shipping, etc. Then contrast it with their 90 per centers such as managing the household, child raising, child education, family budget, social calendars, child healthcare, and so on.
/r/MensRights09/07/24 04:39 PM
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Yes, for the following reasons: The child to know their parentage for certain The father to know his child for certain The mother to know her child for certain (hospitals have mixed up babies) Use the test to stop forcing fathers unrelated to a child from providing for it, or worse, going to prison for not
/r/MensRights03/07/24 04:53 AM
3

Get a better lawyer. You don't want a passive lawyer when it comes to,Estonian stuff like this.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 07:59 PM
3

Exactly. A better bet is to be a minimalist, offering the most succinct answer you can but only to actual questions posed. Volunteer nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 06:27 AM
7

Women are less efficient at physical violence, that's all. And even that, with so many other tools to compensate from guns, to knives, drugs and law enforcement make it only a sometimes important distinction. Women do have power, just less efficient means of immediate physical violence. As for influence, hell no, the average woman has far more influence than the average man to harm the other. In many places her accusation alone can destroy him. Stop claiming things like “women don't want to kill…
/r/MensRights28/06/24 02:55 PM
3

I've been on the side of having to tell before twice. The first time, young and dumb and not really sure of who I was yet, I didn't tell, and it got out later with worse damage. A few years later, after married myself, same thing only this time I had my boundaries set and shared. I figured I wasn’t the one who started and kept going on all those actions that broke the marriage. I was instead the guy who informs a neighbor, “mate, your foundation is crumbling, you need to look at it.” That’s all …
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 03:38 AM
1

Agreed. Force, whether physical or otherwise is always the exception.
/r/MensRights26/06/24 05:06 PM
1

If by taking advantage you mean using physical force and she's too weak to stop it… agreed. But if she's missing and participating willingly, no.
/r/MensRights26/06/24 03:23 PM
2

I think we've taken the wrong approach with this. If ip they are both adults, they are responsible for their choices, including the one to drink, get drunk, and have sex. They know the dangers of drinking. They choose to impair their decision making. We don't bend over backward to excuse their responsibility in any other bad decision made while drunk, like drunk driving, or idiotic purchases or fighting. So why sex?
/r/MensRights26/06/24 03:18 PM
1

Why? If a woman gets drunk, hops in her car and gets in a crash, is she at fault because she consented to driving the car? If it works for a crash, why not for sex? These are supposed to be adults, or we have a different issue. But as adults they chose to drink to the point it impairs their decision making. They are thus responsible for whatever results come from choices made while drunk.
/r/MensRights26/06/24 03:16 PM
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Agreed. To me drunk is a result of their choices. They choose to become drunk so any decisions they make while drunk are still their responsibility. We don’t excuse drunk drivers because they were drunk. We don't excuse people who ordered crap while high.
/r/MensRights26/06/24 03:12 PM
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Agreed. Cheating is at least one choice, if not a series of choices. Choices have consequences. Neither gender should be excused for cheating if they are in a monogamous relationship. It’s a failure. A lack of integrity. A lack of commitment. Some cheat by opportunity, some by nature. Neither changes that cheating is an action taken. No excuse for either gender. If you have reason to cheat, you have a reason to end it.
/r/MensRights25/06/24 07:18 PM
2

It’s almost 80% overall and 90 % when college educated, so so,etching like 10-15%?
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 06:59 PM
5

Which is irrelevant to the argument. Want to try for something to address the core argument, that removing body parts unnecessarily without consent isn't consistent with bodily autonomy.
/r/MensRights19/06/24 05:29 AM
9

In most cases male circumcision does NOT have a health benefit. The caveat is if washing is available. If it is, there is no benefit and is harm. So how often is it impossible to clean?
/r/MensRights19/06/24 05:28 AM
6

By “drugs” does she mean only illegal drugs? Or are anti-depressants included?
/r/MensRights17/06/24 10:00 PM
15

The definition of feminism has little to do with the actual political movement. It's a common complaint, from religions to ideologies, that anything negative that doesn't fit the high ideal of the simple definition of that religion / ideology “isn't real X” for whatever X is being discussed. The fallacy is about trying to corral behavior into what is behavior for a fictional “true Scotsman.” Feminism, if all you do is read the definition and some stuff that only espouses perfect ideals supportin…
/r/MensRights17/06/24 09:47 PM
3

It's called risk analysis. What you seem to be doing is looking for a checkbox in the risk column (“can men be violent?” = “y”) rather than evaluating relative risks (“are men violent enough as a group to justify being constantly wary of all men?”). The irrationality is using only the evaluation of “can a man be violent” to evaluate a risk rather than “how likely is a strange man to be violent”. If you use the simple, 'can it be risk?' Valuation then everything, including women, should be treate…
/r/MensRights17/06/24 09:34 PM
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This is so sadly how anything like this gets used. Latch on for the political hay rather than actually examine it yourself see if it makes any sense.
/r/MensRights17/06/24 08:40 PM
1

I think you could up the level of cynicism and see behind the scenes a little. Ethically we should have done more. But think of it from a weapons manufacturer (and the people they pay, including politicians). What better way to increase sales of modern weapons, have free tests and get data you can use for the en t generation than by ensuring a war like this, a longer slug fest than something bigger. I'm not saying that for certain was what happened. Just that it's at least as likely as the polit…
/r/MensRights17/06/24 08:13 PM
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And it's bullshit. Random men aren't the big danger factor feminists claim it is. Women re far more likely to be harmed by friends, family or co-workers than a stranger. Even if we limit it to attacks on the street, if you put them in context the fear is irrational. For example, a woman walks down any given street in a city. She passes a few hundred men every day. She does it day after day after day for 40 years. Let's say once during that period she actually assaulted (meaning police report dem…
/r/MensRights17/06/24 07:55 PM
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The irrational part is fearing all men when it's a tiny fraction, context is a key factor, and the group most likely to perpetrate are in the friends, family, and co-workers group (context matters because many assaults of ones of opportunity by someone known, not a stranger). There are far more men doing the protecting, policing, helping, and providing than are harming. Weighing risks involve taking all of that into consideration. If you only ever look at “women abort fetuses” and thus fear wome…
/r/MensRights17/06/24 07:48 PM
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A simple accommodation? First explain why anyone has to accommodate someone else over feelings that often are irrational? I'm old enough to have lived through 5 decades of feminists pushing for men to change and they are never satisfied. If I walk down a street and it's at all dark, the request used to be to look at her, nod and smile to let her know she had nothing to fear. Then it became don't look at her, just look down and ignore her. Then it was done't over take her, but also don't follow b…
/r/MensRights17/06/24 07:39 PM
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All abortions are perpetrated by women, and all are capable of it. Is it irrational to fear that all women will abort pregnancies? Yes. Hell, even if we limit it to only pregnant women, it's still irrational to fear that of those women will have abortions. Having the capacity (all men are capable of violence / all women are capable of abortion) has nothing to do with a proper risk evaluation (how many men attack strangers women and under what conditions, how many men attack friends, family, co-w…
/r/MensRights17/06/24 02:52 PM
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It’s irrelevant because it's not “men” who are attacking women, it's a tiny fraction of criminal men, while far more men (in the form of all forms of law enforcement and more) support and protect them. Yet feminists have been fear mongering that 'it may not be all men, but all men are capable’ bullshit for half a century. I say it's bullshit because that comment misses the other half of that of that equation, ‘not all men are violent criminals, but all are capable, the vast majority does not do …
/r/MensRights17/06/24 02:37 PM
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If we're going to have this discussion (and we should!) let's at least frame it correctly. Common violence perpetrators in scenarios involving feeling afraid and actual assault are a tiny fraction of the total population, most of whom are men. This is due to men having the tendency to use violence and a better capacity for it than women. So out of 10,000 people equally shared between genders the top 100 most violent will be men. Of the attacks which are defended against a small total of the popu…
/r/MensRights17/06/24 02:29 PM
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Didn’t say it disproved the patriarchy theory, said it ran counter to the narrative and you're so intellectually dishonest you can't even admit you've asked this question before, had it answered, and still denied that it was presented. I’m not claiming women rulers even on average start more wars than me rulers, just that you cannot with any level of intellectual honesty, say it’s always or even mostly men who start wars. Pity you can’t even acknowledge that simple bit. As for your insipid patri…
/r/MensRights16/06/24 12:29 AM
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You're just here to stir up shit, aren’t you? I've seen you given sources before, including on this same question. Yet you won't accept and modify your view of history to accept the possibility that queen's may start wars more often than kings (while simultaneously never being in the fight while many kings were actually in the fight). It's still “blame the patriarchy” or “men are at fault” rather than admit the feminist narrative might not be entirely accurate.
/r/MensRights15/06/24 08:43 PM
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Get your name off the deed.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 04:16 PM
3

I think far too many women believe emotional intelligence means “I share my emotions to get support” and miss the entire piece about regulating emotions.
/r/MensRights14/06/24 02:59 PM
2

One assumption I see all the time is that compulsory service = combat service, which it doesn't have to. If feminists really wanted equality they would demand gender neutral draft and assignment based only on abilities. But if the government wants to override and keep a certain set of women out of combat service they could put them in support roles.
/r/MensRights13/06/24 05:25 PM
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In most countries women got the vote years to decades after men did but men had to submit to conscription while women got it for free. We really need to be showing the timing and asking if they would rather be under conscription, or have gotten the vote 5-40 years after men given millennia without anyone having the vote.
/r/MensRights13/06/24 02:59 PM
2

Sure. I see them both as dick moves. The only difference is what the other person is being used for. I disagree that in friendzone you're still friends because it generally doesn’t work that way. But that could be where the real disagreement lies.
/r/MensRights12/06/24 05:31 PM
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Gosh, what would be the outcry if all the male members of the team and supportive staff were to respect her sexism? No male doctors, nurses, anesthesiologists, pharmacist, none of it. They bring her after surgery to get some physical therapy, oh, too bad you have to come back tomorrow when the female staff is available. Need some pain meds during recovery, too bad we only have a male pharmacist, we'll have to send to another pharmacy to get them to prescribe female only drugs. /s
/r/MensRights12/06/24 04:21 PM
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Exactly right. So many people don't even know what it takes for the things they enjoy without thinking about it. Flip a switch and lights come on. Where did the plastic and metal for the switches, wires, and lights come from, men mined the raw materials, designed and developed the products, built the infrastructure, and maintain its function. Millions of men who are completely forgotten in the anti-male propaganda promoted by feminists. The same is true with everything in the modern world. Women…
/r/MensRights12/06/24 03:50 PM
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So you're assuming that women, on average, experience more suffering? I take it you are a woman? I can’t speak to anyone's experience but mine. But I think there are a lot of statistics and history we can look at to determine the relative level. Things like: Suicide - men commit suicide several times more often than women though women attempt it more but use far less immediately lethal means. Many psychiatrists have said when men decide to self delete, they are looking for a way out from an into…
/r/MensRights12/06/24 03:39 PM
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Notice how you have to mistake the situation in order to make your comparison work? It’s not whether a woman “feels” unsafe around strangers men, but whether she is more unsafe around strangers men than a bear. Take it statistically. Your kids are more at harm from people they know than strangers. That doesn't mean strangers are safe but why are you spending time warning them about strangers and not friends and family? Because you don't want to ruin their relationships with friends and family be…
/r/MensRights12/06/24 02:53 PM
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You do know it's possible to recognize some fundamental commonalities about women without actually becoming a danger to women? Or do you honestly think that recognizing that many women like to enhance their beauty with cosmetics somehow makes you more dangerous than before you had that realization? Recognizing that women often say things as an emotional response before they've even considered the real situation doesn't make a man more dangerous, just wiser in understanding that she can also leve…
/r/MensRights12/06/24 02:41 PM
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Why is it necessary to validate ALL of their feelings? Some feelings are not valid because they are based on misunderstandings, colored viewpoints, propaganda, and such. We know that’s the case. Validating that a woman has experienced an assault and that her feelings of anxiety and a need for more protection or a wariness around strange men is valid. The feeling that all men are evil violent monsters and she would be safer with a bear are not. We can also demonstrate that statistically. We can a…
/r/MensRights12/06/24 02:37 PM
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Yeah, it’s about training to paint all men as more dangerous than a serious predator (which is statistically so wrong) and get all men to feel guilty over the behavior of a tiny fraction of the population. All while (a) ignoring that women are every bit as abusive and violent when you don't spew the reporting like the Duluth model does and (b) the anti-male feminist narrative isn't doing our society any favors and hasn’t really reduced the overall levels of violence.
/r/MensRights12/06/24 02:33 PM
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For me, the friend zone isn't being a real friend. It's being a pseudo boyfriend without the intimacy and sexual reciprocation to what the boyfriend does. You don't have to agree with me, I just don't place a higher cost on the sex vs attention/resources. Think of the guy in the friendzone for two years. He's asked to pay for dates, move her into a new apartment, walk her home for safety, listen to her emotional needs, give her attention, day after day, for all that time, essentially being a boy…
/r/MensRights12/06/24 02:07 PM
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Didn’t say I found it acceptable, said I count them as equivalent. I don’t really care what other people find distasteful. Heck I think promiscuity is a bad idea no matter what gender. But keeping a man for his attention and resources seems equal to keeping a woman for affection and sex.
/r/MensRights12/06/24 02:54 AM
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For me it took realizing women wanting attention, status, and resources is exactly equivalent to men wanting affection, support and sex in terms of our basic drivers. And further realizing that for a long while men's basic drivers are either borrowed to further women's drivers (courting used to be required before too much affection or any sex) or vilified (sex) at least since the Puritan era. Making those connections helped me realize that women holding onto men for service and resources without…
/r/MensRights12/06/24 12:22 AM
5

Are there any relationship standards we still adhere to which aren’t double standards?
/r/MensRights12/06/24 12:13 AM
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Do it for yourself. Get fit so you're stronger, fitter, more capable, more confident. Don't do it for the women, do it for you. Just ignore them and get on with making the most of yourself. Once you hit a point you have the option, get your passport and travel.
/r/MensRights11/06/24 03:05 AM
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Respect is earned. Courtesy is offered initially but stops when rudeness is returned. No need to go anti-woman, just keep it to anti-misandrist and it should work. Besides, most of these commenters could do with a dose of reality.
/r/MensRights11/06/24 12:47 AM
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Everyone has a father, not everyone has a good one,
/r/MensRights11/06/24 12:42 AM
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My thought too. My generation didn’t have virtual anything, you wanted to talk smack, you did it in person and risked getting your face punched. Thing is, they¡re stupid and don’t realize it. How many hundreds of times daily are they using something men dig up, invented, created, built, transported, sold or maintained? They are literally whining about the group that makes their lives easy enough to survive without much effort.
/r/MensRights11/06/24 12:42 AM
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Just another example of women not understanding that men and women look for different things. As for what she reads into it, who cares? It'll keep her single which may save some poor smuck.
/r/MensRights09/06/24 10:34 PM
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Women typically leave the relationship emotionally long before the request to divorce. Since she’s already tapped 12 guys (rule of multiple by 3) it means you've been out of the picture for a long time. Now something has happened and she realizes you are a safe option. Don’t be that stupid!
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 10:23 PM
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That’s NOT self acceptance. It’s narcissism. Self acceptance is accepting yourself, flaws included, but you have to admit those flaws in order to get there. That’s the entire point of self acceptance, accepting you (good and bad) and then moving forward with positive mindset. Not just delusional or believing you're perfect.
/r/MensRights09/06/24 09:58 PM
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Because he should KNOW just as you do, who the father is, and the baby should KNOW who their father is. Women know, why is it so unfair to allow the supposed father that same level of certainty? Notice how you took it personally as a lack of trust? Well, many men do find out that their wife (even of 10 years) has not only cheated but gotten pregnant, continues to lie, and wants him ignorant but playing the good father role. Unless you're that deceitful woman why not ensure your husband knows jus…
/r/MensRights09/06/24 09:54 PM
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Yes, use it both to establish paternity and genetic disorders. No child support without.
/r/MensRights09/06/24 12:53 AM
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Whose rights are being violated?
/r/MensRights09/06/24 12:51 AM
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It has more value than just establishing paternity, it also is used to identify any significant genetic disorders. So it has value regardless. And should be mandatory if child support is a question.
/r/MensRights09/06/24 12:51 AM
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Yo do realize the rest compares the DNA or the father against the child? So how is this a bodily autonomy issue given the hospitals are already collecting blood samples for a myriad of tests from the infant.
/r/MensRights09/06/24 12:49 AM
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Great, your kid, your money. Either end child support or make sure the kid is at least genetically related to the man funding its childhood.
/r/MensRights09/06/24 12:48 AM
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Patriarchy theory isn’t an accurate theory. If you used oligarchy or something and left out the genders, basically the rich and powerful do all they can to become more wealthy and grow their power, that works. But it’s not just men. Kings had queens who raised the next generation and princesses who were used to establish family and working ties, as much for the women in the family as the men.
/r/MensRights08/06/24 09:05 PM
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Yes, all true. Now why is that? If you accept feminist narrative it’s because “all men have the potential to be violent”. Problem with that statement is all humans have the potential to be violent. Men just average higher than women in delivering fatalities. But in terms of domestic violence women are equal to men then add I. Emotional abuse and it’s worse. But no one counts men driven to suicide against women, right? Even though emotions destruction is women’s preferred method.
/r/MensRights08/06/24 02:01 AM
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Try being the guy accused. Then ask yourself facing 17 years of prison whether being falsely accused matters. You're focusing on whether the rape happened or not which no one is disputing. It’s who she accused of it that is the problem. Which is why evidence that demonstrate guilt, rather than just believing women, is crucial.
/r/MensRights07/06/24 09:27 PM
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Check with your lawyer, some states allow recording in the home so long as one of the homeowners authorizes it. Keep it out of the bedroom, but family spaces, yes.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 07:16 PM
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There's two primary questions. Is it best for your children so be out of a situation where they are neglected and abused? Is it best for you to be out of a situation where your partner adds burden to your life rather than adding support? Answer those as honestly as you can and there's the starting point.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 02:56 PM
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Do you grant that same when a man kills his wife after decades of her abusing him, he was mentally ill and his mind warped by depression? Or do you hold him accountable for his actions while excusing hers?
/r/MensRights06/06/24 02:04 PM
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It’s not so much put him in a better light as demonstrate that they still think the man is a better option once the situation isn’t escapable.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 02:01 PM
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I wouldn’t waste time. Anyone who thinks “bear” is a good answer to this question either doesn’t understand probabilities, is being disingenuous, or just hates men. None of these are solved by accepting the premise of the question. Instead flip the question and ask, “You're on the 10th floor of a building and when you press the elevator button, two doors open, one has a black bear in it, the other a man. Do you honestly think most women will get in the elevator with the bear?” If they try that r…
/r/MensRights06/06/24 04:28 AM
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Exactly right. The abortion issue and divorce only happened because he didn't believe her when she told him she didn’t want kids. Stupid to continue dating after that if he wants kids.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 05:23 PM
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I didn’t say segregation at all. Wasn’t even implying it. Was implying our education system would be better with a better balance of both male and female teachers and approaches that work for boys as well as girls.
/r/MensRights04/06/24 12:50 AM
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Boys and girls have very different needs educationally. When the system is almost entirely female teachers teaching the way that works most effectively for girls, you don't see the problems that could cause? We have evidence showing what happens. Boys are graded more harshly. Boys are sent from school as problematic and then diagnosed and medicated in order to remove their physical need for motion and hands-on learning. Those are just the start, there are more. Keep in mind, if you don’t see a p…
/r/MensRights03/06/24 05:27 PM
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My son became a Marine because he was that kid who wanted a challenge,loved the outdoors, shooting, martial arts, the culture of toughness. At first he was thinking sniper school. Mom hated that idea! Then after spending a few months with the local recruiter and marines doing exercises and games he decided it wasn’t what he wanted. So he did the large diesel mechanic course. Did his four years, got his mechanics certifications. Now works for a company maintaining their trucks and getting paid $1…
/r/MensRights03/06/24 02:44 PM
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And doesn’t know that what’s he's doing is illegal and can cost him his license.
/r/MensRights02/06/24 04:36 AM
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Just wait until the first law suit. Honestly the city should threaten to revoke their license because licenses are given only under the condition of agreeing with federal anti-discriminatory laws. Because the feds require it of the states and states require it of cities and so on. Just call the city and complain about the sexism and ageism. Tell them the state will get a complaint if they don’t fix it.
/r/MensRights02/06/24 04:35 AM
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Exactly right. Half the feminists today can’t define misogyny or misandry, yet they know men are misogynists. They can’t provide much evidence to support the claim a patriarchy exists and it’s been oppressing women for centuries. If you look at leaders and the wealthy over the last few millennia, they average men by about 80%. But that alone isn't enough to justify the claim it’s a patriarchy. And that's all they have. How many people in their 20s have ever really had their beliefs (programming)…
/r/MensRights31/05/24 05:32 PM
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Ask him about this situation. Man and woman are married. For 18 years she is physically, mentally and emotionally abusive while he ignores his emotional needs in order to “protect snd provide.” Over the years he's had black eyes, stitches, had to pick up extra shifts since she's “punished” him by over spending. Thousands of events. The one night she's slapping him and almost blinds him and he lashes out for the first time to defend his eye sight and knocks her out. The way feminists count, this …
/r/MensRights24/05/24 01:01 AM
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Morality is intersubjective, which means the group defines what is good or acceptable. Women in the west have long been told they are special, down trodden, life givers, abused, taken advantage of, held back, oppressed. Yet they have power as a group more than most others. With power comes distortion of moral values. Fifty years ago being a single mother by choice or accident was a shameful thing. Today, it’s celebrated. Which suggest that the moral change came with the shift in power.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 02:24 PM
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Can you demonstrate that any male victims were taken seriously because of the MeToo movement? I don’t¡t recall seeing too many.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 05:26 AM
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Were they “ignored” or was it just that it's legitimately very difficult to prove rape to the degree we can demonstrate other physical crimes? I think people pumped the narrative that they were ignored when really it was far more a question of not having any evidence other than her word against his which isn't enough to convict on any other physical crime.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 05:25 AM
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And free of a cheating wife who will do it to him again. Even if it costs, better to get rid of a parasite.
/r/MensRights19/05/24 02:11 AM
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I can’t talk about fresh and fit, but the women on the whatever show aren't “uneducated college girls” they are OF models, influencers and such and the publicity they get from the show must be worth it given how many come back. That they may be uneducated isn't the fault of the hosts. These women know what they are signing up for. They've seen the show. They sign contracts. They are adults. Lastly, there is nothing disgusting about (in whatever podcast's case) discussing the topic they discuss o…
/r/MensRights17/05/24 07:25 PM
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How are you defining “incelism”?
/r/MensRights17/05/24 07:12 PM
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Something about how “men don't owe you anything”.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/05/24 07:05 PM
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If your self respect was actually that high you would have the integrity to face the man you've hurt. He may not know it yet, but he will one day. You and her share that blame, you can’t bullshit your way out of that. I do hope he finds out and kicks her to the streets where she belongs, best hope he's not old fashioned in how he deals with you if that event happens. The issue isn't marriage, it's divorce. She should have to leave with less because she's the one breaking their contract. She's de…
/r/MensRights17/05/24 06:16 PM
1

Does that lesson the issue? If this guy is bedding a wife who will cheat on her husband if not with him then someone else, at least he should have the balls to inform the husband so he can make decision about his health safety. He is being put at risk by two people with low moral standards.
/r/MensRights17/05/24 06:02 PM
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You're not just walking away, you're helping her cheat on her husband. Self respect comes in many forms, this isn’t one of them.
/r/MensRights16/05/24 01:38 PM
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Reach out to the bar association, the can review a case and make recommendations if your attorney is failing to protect your interests.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/24 06:37 AM
2

Many would simply get pregnant to avoid service.
/r/MensRights16/05/24 03:20 AM
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I'm saying that even picking the right partner doesn't stop biological realities. I'm not sure where you've gotten your ideas on what the Men's Rights movement is but that's your problem. Accountability would be applied on partner choice, sure, but so too on willing to compensate for biological and live choice issues that reduce desire (and can apply to either partner, so it's not really a men's issue despite this post framing it as such). Been married 36 years to the same woman who did experien…
/r/MensRights15/05/24 08:38 PM
2

That’s not really possible long term as there are natural reasons why even women who liked sex will become resistant to it without significant effort on their part. If they are unwilling to put in the effort (there's no way either of them will know when they married ten or twenty years previously) then divorce is an expensive alternative.
/r/MensRights15/05/24 08:10 PM
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I’m talking about the stupidity of the question and wrong assumptions underlying it.
/r/MensRights15/05/24 07:08 PM
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So just like women then. The only real difference is where the focus of harm tends to be. Women tend to go for less physical and more emotional abuse, men tend to physical. So when you look at who commits more murders or has more violent crime, men tend to be more frequent. But that is only a ratio. Women can and do still do those things. So using your argument “you can’t tell by looking” it works exactly the same for women. But the numbers look different if you include abortions and child abuse…
/r/MensRights15/05/24 03:56 PM
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There are places in the country where many women don’t have tattoos but there are also highly religious. Utah for example.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/05/24 03:20 AM
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Including her sign is a red flag.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/05/24 08:41 PM
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I don’t get it in utah where I live either. But have had in Chicago and LA.
/r/MensRights07/05/24 11:14 PM
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There's a bit of problematic reasoning here. First, statistically very few men assault women and of those do, most were raised by a mother who was herself abused as a child (more often by a mother than father). So when you paint with a broad brush “we go through [meaning women as a group]” and “hands of men [meaning men as a group]” you are attributing to the entire group from a small group. Tht's not even vaguely appropriate. Try it with a racial issue and see how racist it sounds. As for victi…
/r/MensRights07/05/24 07:15 PM
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I hold the door too. And respond only if I get berated for it, generally with a “Being polite isn't a gender issue, it’s a manners and upbringing issue.” I'm older, late 50s. But I will say my wife, who is socially very conservative has asked me to stop helping women on the side of the road due to one particular incident. Used to pull off and help, now I don't.
/r/MensRights07/05/24 06:44 PM
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I'm not sure I agree. If someone has ingrained rudeness towards a group, whether they be men or street workers or whatever, being polite and asking them to do better isn¡t likely to be effective. It may ‘feel’ nicer, but I’m not convinced it's more effective. “I held the door for you and you couldn’t return the favor? Too bad you don’t show better manners.” I feel is a more effective approach. Calls them out on a specific item using shame to curb their anti-social behavior.
/r/MensRights07/05/24 06:42 PM
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Not just that group, to some extents all men have far less in-group bias, high means social programming works less effectively on men as a group. Men are less agreeable, less conformist to the group on average.
/r/MensRights07/05/24 06:36 PM
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Don't pull that 'do research' crap. If you have a list of truths in feminism it should be easy to share the bullet points. So let’s see at least the ones you think defensible. Let me point out that anything based on the narrative of the patriarchy is rubbish. They have correctly identified a problem, I’ll give them that. There absolutely is an imbalance of power. But in their anti-men ideas they have mistaken where the problem truly lies. It's not a gender based issue, but one of power (wealth i…
/r/MensRights07/05/24 03:32 PM
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All the time here you comments show it.
/r/MensRights07/05/24 01:12 PM
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It’s stupid even if you just consider the all men rape part because that stat is way over blown. It’s a small portion of men who sexually assault women using any normal legal definition. When you blow it up to “I felt threatened” then it’s a problem.
/r/MensRights04/05/24 07:43 PM
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So being entitled and selfish isn’t a win?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/04/24 11:22 PM
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If you look at methodology they also focus d on non white men, and it looks like lower income homes that self select possibly for the paid incentive. I do agree these studies almost invariably ask what people think their contributions are and there have been studies showing women doing exactly what you said, start to finish time = work time while for men they stay more focused and thus their “work time” is much shorter for the same task.
/r/MensRights27/04/24 08:48 PM
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There's a recent ruling where women can extract semen from a used condom, use it to get pregnant, and still sue for child support. Which sounds like legalized rape to me. Where's the precious “consent” in this scenario? Now this, she can lie about BC, lie about who the father is, and the state retroactively extracts resources (she got to decide how expansive, how much, where and which doctors she saw, he has no say) from a man (who odds are is unwilling to be a father and legally has no say in t…
/r/MensRights26/04/24 08:06 PM
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No, I don't agree that the only reason they compete is for male approval and attention. I actually gave you places where the competition has nothing to do with men. Some of what they compete for is male attention, but that is NOT internalized misogyny any more than men competing for women is internalized misandry (see how stupid it sounds when you compare it like that?) I love how the goal is to always blame men for choices women make for themselves to gain status, easier life, success by their …
/r/MensRights26/04/24 02:33 PM
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BS. Women compete with other women, as a group, for mates, for status. None of which is internalized misogyny, no matter how often feminists claim it is.
/r/MensRights26/04/24 02:00 PM
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You do you man. Been married 36 years, 4 adult married and educated kids, 3.5 grand kids. At 57 sex is still awesome, just need to figure out what you both need, want, and are willing to do. Beyond that, if you’re not having fun, making a mess, and getting your heart rate up, you’re doing it wrong.
/r/MensRights25/04/24 01:09 AM
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I did the same with my daughter when she was getting teenage years until she married.
/r/MensRights23/04/24 06:43 PM
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Great, glad to hear. I'm 57 and once upon a ime taught self defense specifically for women. Always appreciated those who were willing to get stuck into it and treat it real.
/r/MensRights23/04/24 05:17 AM
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It’s not great to train for a real danger by using weaker, smaller, less aggressive opponents. That’s the opposite of a good way to train. They need to train to face men if running isn’t an option. Not only that, but how to disable a drugged up, angry, violent offender type man. Otherwise they will be unprepared. I'm aware that a smaller, weaker person can be at a severe disadvantage if the difference in sizes is large.
/r/MensRights23/04/24 01:09 AM
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The division isn’t based on what you paid. It’s what the equity is, which is what the house would sell for typically, minus what you owe, divided by two, plus half the escrow account. Not 30k, more like 150k. Don’t fall for this! Get an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 03:51 AM
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Yet they allow hate speech like this. Odd how blind the mods can be, isn't it.
/r/MensRights20/04/24 01:39 PM
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58 years of experience having lived in 17 countries and seeing how people behave. How feminists specifically behave. The 80/20 rule isn’t just mine, it’s been observed in tons of places. Like 20% or people in an org getting 80% of the total pay, or doing the critical work. It seems to apply in many places. I'm just applying it to this as an observational category.
/r/MensRights19/04/24 05:56 PM
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I would argue the 80/20 rule applies. 80% of women are feminists in some form, 20% are not. Of the 80 who are, 20% or less are modern feminists (meaning man-hating female supremacist types) while the remainder are more schrodinger's Feminist, equal (strong, independent) when it serves them best, traditionally feminine (weak, needing protection and provision) when that serves them best. Whether consciously or not.
/r/MensRights19/04/24 04:32 PM
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The method of infantilization is that our society has put in place tons of safety nets for any bad decision they make. Abortion and day after if they get pregnant and don’t want it. In many places they can also simply drop the child off. But the man has no choice yet is held responsible regardless. All their major choices have safety nets, far more than men. From shelters to hiring quotas to preferred borrowing.
/r/MensRights17/04/24 04:22 PM
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That could also simply be the actions of a coward, or of someone hearing voices in their head, you know, like someone with mutiple distinct personalities. Assuming it was misogynistic is just that, an assumption.
/r/MensRights16/04/24 01:18 PM
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Nothing about masculine traits is toxic per se, any more than feminine traits. There are toxic behaviors in both sets of traits. Take competitiveness. On the one hand it’s good as it gives boys direction, goals, drive. On the other hand, it drives to excel in education, school, arts, and more. So where is the toxic part of it? When it’s taken so far it becomes destructive to self, family, or community. Pick any feminine trait and you can do the same thing. Toxic masculinity, as a feminist talkin…
/r/MensRights15/04/24 05:06 AM
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“Mere test”? Lady, you betrayed him, broke your marriage vows and have been lying to him hundreds of times since you got pregnant. The test exposed your betrayal but it’s not the test that’s the problem, it’s that you couldn’t stay true and lied about it to not be held accountable.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/04/24 06:22 PM
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It’s not even pro-women. It’s only pro “feminists just like us”.
/r/MensRights14/04/24 01:05 AM
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So let me get this straight. She doesn't know who the perpetrators are, nor all the victims. The victims were all busy doing something that distracted them from (generally seeing their attacker in time to do anything about it). Yet with this lack of useful data she concludes that the attacks are (a) random rather than in response to something those particular women did, (b) that it was based on men's collective need to have the women's attention? What she really has are a few attacks reported to…
/r/MensRights12/04/24 09:27 PM
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There's a comedian who has an interesting take on it. Essentially said that if you want to claim you are a woman you need to be able to do some things only women do. His examples: Break into his iPhone while he's using the bathroom to check his social media accounts Be starving and have absolutely no idea what you want to eat Remember things from a decade ago which have already been apologized for multiple times Wake from a dream where husband cheated and treat him like crap all day long because…
/r/MensRights12/04/24 01:50 AM
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No, they talked and agreed since she was already trying to date she should move out immediately. So she did, he's served her since.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 01:23 AM
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He’s getting a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 12:36 AM
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Recently my son called to tell me his wife of almost 4 years had a big change of heart on kids (no longer wants them) and wants to open the marriage. Gave him that same list with the advice, “get out now as fast and painless as possible, then take a long hard look at yourself and what you want and are willing to pay for it before you even date seriously afterwards.”
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 09:48 PM
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Something about it being internalized misandry why men feel less drawn to pink. Have you ever noticed how it’s toxic masculinity (men to blame) OR it's internalized misogyny (men to blame) or it's the patriarchy (men to blame)? There is never a women to blame.
/r/MensRights09/04/24 03:01 PM
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The pushback I have is that in the most egalitarian countries the divide is even more significant than here. Which means it’s a matter of choice, not, as you put it, “unfair treatment and discouragement”. Women are incentivized to go into pretty much anything they want, they still choose certain professions over others.
/r/MensRights09/04/24 01:47 PM
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And it all goes to decades of programs advantaging women or other marginalized groups. Heck, I started attending college in 1989 and there was very little help for me as a straight white guy. So I turn on my male and white privilege and worked a full time job while taking a full time class load, burning the candle at both ends while living poor in order to graduate.
/r/MensRights09/04/24 01:39 PM
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The issue is that what is the toxic part of toxic masculinity is just toxic. No need for the gender part of it. Did you ever notice how feminists created a set of terms that lead to “heads I win, tails you lose”? Something negative is either toxic masculinity (or it’s end product the supposed patriarchy which is better described as the oligarchy again no gender needed. Or it’s internalized misogyny (again focused on males with the subtle blame even if they apply it to women, it’s men’s fault). T…
/r/MensRights09/04/24 05:03 AM
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Married 36 years to the same woman, love my daughter we r and three grand daughters. My problem is modern feminism, misandry and policies which claim to be helpful but are effectively anti men, any straight and anti white. DEI is one and BRIDGE another.
/r/MensRights08/04/24 01:04 AM
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Point out that in terms of evolution men and women operate under different breeding plans. Women, since they carry the child have needed protection and provisioning (really hard to forage when encumbered by an infant). To get that protection and provision they've given sex, submission and support and jumped men for added protection, the big violent guy for pregnancy and try to lick down the slightly softer guy for everything else (hypergamy). Men on the other hand wandered, had to bring in provi…
/r/MensRights05/04/24 11:05 PM
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In almost all cases it's not medically necessary, which makes it gratuitous genital mutilation and should wait for the person to be old enough to make an adult decision. Religious tradition or beliefs do not justify it. I carry the same idea about bodily autonomy to ear piercings, tattoos, branding or other body art forms. And pregnancy. The only bodily autonomy issue I disagree with is the argument against immunization because that's the health of a society over-riding the need for individual b…
/r/MensRights05/04/24 05:08 PM
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Take a moment to reset your brain, just drop whatever assumptions you have. Then consider the question, “What is so wrong with traditional gender behaviors given there is a 200,000+ year history of reasonable survival and success using them, and many are based in biological drives?” Traditional gender roles in terms of courtship, beauty, what each gender wants… can’t see how that is a problem. What feminism initially claimed to want “equality between sexes” meant things that we have developed so…
/r/MensRights04/04/24 04:52 PM
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Traditionally, the vow “to have and to hold” is a vow coming to sex and intimacy. So claiming an expectation of sex is part of marriage is fair. It’s not a value proposition, it’s literally what one of the vows taken is supposed to mean. Consent within the marriage is still important, but lack of intimacy and sex is a just reason to divorce because that vow is being broken.
/r/MensRights01/04/24 01:32 PM
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I don’t disagree with you but do suggest not to use the “cis” label. It grants too much to the narrative. Make them acknowledge that male and female as the biological genders have been around over 200,000 years and what we call gender identities have been a fringe issue through most of our history too but today it’s got a lot more reach than before.
/r/MensRights31/03/24 10:55 PM
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“I feel” = the immediate reaction to anything. Why they choose the least reliable, most changeable, and most reactionary mental process as their god to baffles me. “Men are insecure “men are to blame” “patriarchy” “misogynist” = turn to external sources for blame because accepting responsibility for both choices and circumstances is too difficult? Why is the internal, reflection step never important? Because it leads to the accepting responsibility and changing yourself step and when all your li…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/03/24 04:24 PM
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Sure. Been there, done that. We’ve been married 36 years. I’ve been primary home maker and child care, also been sole provider. Wife worked, was SAHM, now back to her career. Today marriage isn’t what it was then.
/r/MensRights27/03/24 04:39 PM
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From what I've read male suicides come from a number of factors, primary among them relationship breakdown, loneliness, illness (terminal), feeling isolated and as if no one cares (pretty much no one does so it’s not an unjust feeling), and despair at not being able to get anything they truly want from life. When a man realizes he won’t ever have a wife, kids, or even a job that affords him a nice life he's looking at a future that's bleak. Men don't get much help. We just get told to 'man up' (…
/r/MensRights23/03/24 09:01 PM
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I'm going to give you an answer that applies to men and women for millennia, then look at today. In most of history men have wanted a woman who is pure, fit, feminine, friendly, supportive, has integrity and fidelity and is sexually submissive to some extent, and had traits for being a good mother. In most of history women have wanted a man who is fit (taller & stronger), masculine (aggressive, successful and dangerous enough they feel safe with him), in other words can protect, provide, and lea…
/r/MensRights23/03/24 08:41 PM
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Put in effort… compared to women? For a man to be n the top 5% that women notice and actively want takes a lot of effort and building, like 10 years of it. Women start off attractive and use makeup and outfits to increase that. They don't ask on dates, they get the privileged position of being able to deny. Most don't pay for dates, they get the privileged position of being wooed. They don't have to plan, pick up, drop off, protect and provide and care for. All most modern women do is look good …
/r/MensRights23/03/24 08:31 PM
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It’s a problem with a lot of men today. They honestly need to grow a spine. I'm old fashioned. I know it. Also independent since I’m an early GenXer and grew up pretty much caring for myself. Been married 36 years a few days ago. The only way to stay reasonably happy that long is to have firm boundaries on the things that matter. Respect, fidelity, integrity, femininity, and fitness aren't too much to have.
/r/MensRights23/03/24 08:23 PM
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Don’t accept the feminist narrative that men oppressed women in the past. It only works if you filter the past in a lot of weird ways. To say the rich and powerful (previously called royalty) oppressed their surfs is justifiable. But not that men, in general, oppressed women. There was a ton of suffering and sacrifice on both genders through history. The whole “women didn’t get the vote until long after men” complaint is idiotic. Mankind has been around more than 200,000 years. It’s only been th…
/r/MensRights23/03/24 08:21 PM
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Her husband ought to walk away for a few weeks then when she realizes she needs him require her to apologize on the View for her disparaging remarks or he divorced. Sorry, but it’s time for this sort of man hating rhetoric to be curbed,
/r/MensRights23/03/24 07:21 PM
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Yeah, that bothers me. The other thing I note is that’s it’s only women who are privileged and live in a very safe society, one made safe and comfortable by the hard work and deaths of men. What they don’t understand is just how quickly that could change. If any group decided to act on this requests they would soon learn how terrible it is when men (good, bad, young or old) go to war fueled by injustice, fear, and retribution. Who do they think would save them if even 20% of men decided a revolu…
/r/MensRights23/03/24 07:17 PM
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Don’t look at it that way, it makes it a constant burden to carry. A better approach is to realize that what makes a man “strong and independent” is standing tall against detractors, difficulties, and obstacles. The best steel has a mix of ingredients, heated and beaten, tempered. That’s all this is. Some men are becoming softer, more emotional, more feminine. Others become more stoic, stronger, tougher. The second one brings pride, power and control.
/r/MensRights20/03/24 04:35 PM
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Bullshit. More men have died protecting women by orders of magnitude than have killed or assaulted women. You have an unrealistic perspective.
/r/MensRights20/03/24 04:08 PM
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I refer you to the Sweet Baby, Inc. and its cohort of companies woke debacle. See also Hollywood woke Strong Female lead failures. And the “male and pale is stale” from the WGA. All are part of the woke movement. Look at IBM CEO starting she won’t hire a white man. Look at the Dylan Mulvaney as best workman of the year and its backlash. How a dictionary defines a word is based on 10 year old usage. What it has become is something very different, something that is in combo racist, sexist, ageist …
/r/MensRights15/03/24 04:53 AM
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You din't need to forgive. Or forget. Just move on. Put her in that space of “mistakes I’ve made and learned from” and do your best to refocus on something else. Remove things that remind you too strongly of her. Find things to occupy your time. Find people to be with on holidays.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 02:59 PM
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You’re correct. They can see the writing on the wall and feminism has done tremendous harm in its latter stages. Woke Hollywood is going broke and getting backlash which means some of their propaganda arm is going to be out of pocket for at least some time.
/r/MensRights13/03/24 04:44 AM
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Which is why they hide it behind a rubbish term, “emotional intelligence”. What they really mean is women express their emotions more often and openly to each other, but that has nothing to do with regulating emotion.
/r/MensRights13/03/24 04:15 AM
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You know that “strong, independent” thing we keep hearing about? Going through a divorce and losing friends and family over it as well but coming back to live a great life is exactly what strong and independent mean. You took the hits, then got up, learned from it and improved.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 11:42 PM
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Glad I’m not the only one who sees this. And it's not just today. Go back in history and it’s always a case of a small wealthy / powerful minority ruling the minority. Yeah, the one who got named as King, Prince, Duke, etc. were men. But it was never just king to prince, king to prince, there was always a Queen and often a Princess and daughters in there as well. Most royal marriages were to secure power for the next generation of not expand it. Which is where hemophilia came from. Interbreeding…
/r/MensRights10/03/24 10:39 PM
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We only need to ask one question to see if this image aligns with reality, “What percentage of thing were invented by women n the past, say, 1,000 years?” That’s all you need to get a good idea of the ratio of inventions by men vs women. The number isn¡t 99:1 but it sure isn't 5:95 either. Closer to 80% total for men I suspect.
/r/MensRights10/03/24 12:06 AM
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If less than 1% of the population are the deciders but the group that dies most in wars is not part of that group, why blame the ones doing the dying rather than the ones sending them? Does gender have anything to do with it? Royalty included both genders, and like now, there were on average a few more women than men, even in royal families. Yes, the King, Duke, Earl, or Emperor was the visible sign of power but who do you think raised that boy to become the King? Who do you think bore the kids …
/r/MensRights09/03/24 04:17 AM
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Me too. Specially when recent studies have shown men are far more involved in kids lives than ever before, do more chores, still work more hours and generally do more to maintain the home.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 12:51 AM
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The only thing they are missing is the “my body, my choice” should apply to both genders equally, and it needs the final part, “my responsibility”. If we had rights that defined it that way, it covers infant circumcision for either gender, and all aspects of healthcare including abortion, but also child support since “his body” includes having a choice to pay for a child he had no say in deciding to carry to term.
/r/MensRights06/03/24 09:22 PM
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She wants a husband with character and integrity while offering neither herself. Can't make this shit up.
/r/MensRights06/03/24 09:16 PM
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When you take a group who was already protected and had had life made soft for them (think of all the modern things that make life better, reduce household chores, and cooking), while improving education and giving them personal freedom without the associated personal responsibility, what do you think happens? They become entitled and selfish. What also follows is a delusional worldview and the strong desire to not reflect on personal issues. Always easier to blame someone else. Weaponized victi…
/r/MensRights06/03/24 08:56 PM
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I'm 57 and even my parents (married in 1956, died in the 2010s in their 80s) never talked that way. Hell, Mom was a wave 2 feminist, liberal, reporter, with Master's degree (in the 80s). Her and Dad had simple policy when raising kids, everyone works unless physically unable, and everyone learns to do all basic life skills (from changing oil to planning and cooking meal to gutting a fish).
/r/MensRights06/03/24 08:22 PM
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Couldn’t agree more. Have worked two therapists, one male, one female, and wife and I have used marital therapists a couple of times over 36 years. Ultimately the women therapists stopped challenging (me or wife) when any pushback happened, which made marital therapy a joke. The two older male guys we worked with had both taken up counseling after long careers in other things. Both took no crap, cut to the chase, and called it like it is. Worked ok for me, less so for wife.
/r/MensRights05/03/24 06:02 PM
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One thing you might want to consider is that most Americans support abortion rights, which includes more men than don’t. So many feminists try to make it a men vs women fight when it isn’t. It’s an evangelical vs women fight. And there were only Supreme Court Justices (several appointed incorrectly) who made that decision, not “men”. Not even “American men”. We all agree it’s not fair to judge an entire group by the behavior of a tiny subset… except when feminists can use it as a women vs men pl…
/r/MensRights04/03/24 04:05 AM
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The problem is you're not asking for a source, you're asking to be handed evidence of how society differed beyond the current reach of feminist indoctrination. Which requires study and willingness to learn. I can offer you three specific things to research. When feminists teach that women didn’t get the vote until after men did, have you ever asked yourself what the gap was? Humans have been around more than 200,000 years according to anthropologists and geneticists and biologists. In all that t…
/r/MensRights03/03/24 06:24 AM
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If all she offers is sex (no provider, no father figure) and dates then what is she complaining about?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/03/24 08:46 PM
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I wish modern women knew that stuff like this is what's meant by being strong and independent. You get up out of the shit that dumped you, clean yourself off, look back and analyze what went wrong. Snd fix it, moving forward, often with little to no help at all. Maybe a Counsellor to work through feelings, but you pay for it. Strong and independent doesn't mean you have a job, pay rent, car, groceries and such. That's just being a functioning adult. Strong is what comes from tempering, which you…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 08:39 PM
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If it were due to biology the it would apply equally and the U.S. for example wouldn’t have had a reduction in male life expectancy compared to women.
/r/MensRights01/03/24 03:08 AM
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There are a couple of recent studies showing that far more women claim they are in a relationship than the men of their age. Some of the explanation is women date older. But in digging in to it, some researchers also found that men and women define “relationship” differently. Women consider a couple of dates a relationship (situationship) while men define it as having agreed to boyfriend/girlfriend, sharing keys, and such. Your assumption that multiple women dating men disagrees with many women …
/r/MensRights29/02/24 10:51 PM
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That this saying is both true and deceiving makes it powerful. Deceiving because those who walk softly and are polite are the worst ones to anger enough they fight. That other saying, “Be ware the wrath of a gentle man.” Also fits.
/r/MensRights29/02/24 03:34 AM
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I always want to say, “Record yourself for a few days, including on a date or two. See how you would feel about a potential partner who behaved like you. Stop assuming intimidation, or any other conclusion. Watch, listen and then ask, “if I was across the table from this, what’s my impression?”
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/02/24 06:15 AM
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In the U.S. they will with the official court order dissolving the marriage and an order to one spouse to pay the other their portion of the debt.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 07:00 PM
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If the court said that’s what was necessary and she was held to pay the bill with that and he can demonstrate it, many would accept it. Get the judges office involved. She should also be charged with contempt.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 04:37 PM
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Again, we’re going to disagree on this. For one I don’t put much weight on sanctity of life given by default. Nor the idea that a “human being” is a mindless collection of living cells in the process of becoming a person, anymore than at the opposite end, a collection of living cells that is becoming a corpse. The mind is where that person becomes a reality and it works for humans, dogs, chimps. Not so much plants and insects.
/r/MensRights17/02/24 04:34 PM
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We're not talking about new borns, we're talking about abortion, which is a fetus, not born yet.
/r/MensRights17/02/24 05:33 AM
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Do this.most banks will remove you from the line of credit with a court order and a receipt showing the payment required.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 05:30 AM
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As always with those who are black and white, and are also typically theists, you seem to miss large segments of why people might be on birth control and a pregnancy not a good deal at all. There are some people who may use abortion as an alternative to birth control, but they are about fairly rare. Most people do use birth control because (a) they are not medically sound to carry a birth to healthy term, (b) there is a known genetic issue, (c) they are not financially, mentally, or emotionally …
/r/MensRights17/02/24 03:58 AM
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We’re going to disagree on this. I've heard all the arguments and am well aware of the scientific realities. And where I fall, which isn't where you do. I would say if you have these feelings about it, you behave that way. But objectively, forcing people to be parents who are not willing or able to be parents, or whose fetus will be born deformed (one of the reasons why people would be on birth control, they've been told they cannot have a healthy baby). Bodily autonomy trumps religious dogma in…
/r/MensRights17/02/24 03:52 AM
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No to the forcing. People who truly don’t want a child shouldn’t have to have one. Abortion should t replace birth control but there’s a ton of good reasons between BC failed and forced to become a parent when you never wanted kids.
/r/MensRights17/02/24 01:09 AM
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I’ve seen friends go through this many times. Learned they only need a couple of hints to remember once the legal divorce is over. So I’ll give you what I tell them. Focus on the kids. Teach them well when you have them, be a stellar Dad, enjoy the time, don't ever waste time regretting a decision you did not make. Instead, make the best ones possible now for your kids. If at all possible, use a parenting app and keep communication through it strictly on the kids needs. Nothing else. If she asks…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 05:14 PM
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I'm glad at least some women see it because it's not just a problem, but it’s becoming a looming threat. Men keep most of the infrastructure running. Young men are most of our police, military, emergency services, security, and such. Marriage rates falling, suicides ip, homelessness up, leaving the country up, isolating themselves and giving up increasing. All terrible signs. Winter is coming and feminist leaders and followers are celebrating and pushing for more power, more abuse, more sexism a…
/r/MensRights16/02/24 04:51 PM
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That last is a stupid and short-sighted sentiment. Men make up nearly all of the naked force available to support feminism and feminist ideology. If even just a large segment of the most lonely, single and disposable men decide to revolt it will be the type of fight feminists don’t want happening. If the average cop decides they no longer need to protect women and in fact see them as criminals? Or the average single men segments 30 and under decide to riot in cities, hinting the most people caus…
/r/MensRights16/02/24 04:42 PM
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I'm going to focus on one place, the U.S. but most western countries are similar if not worse (see, U.K., Australia, Spain for examples). You will still have to do the work though if you scroll through here many do provide studies and links. I’m, going to give you ideas to look at. The Vote - in the U.S. most men didn't get the vote until at least 100 years after country was founded. When men did get the vote it came with a stipulation, to be allowed to vote men must sign up for selective servic…
/r/MensRights16/02/24 04:18 PM
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I’ll agree that if we are talking about rape, both the legal investigation and the medical / mental side of it should be treated with respect. The way genders different biologically and mentally may necessitate some difference in treatment. But legally and socially, no. None of this has anything to do with whether a patriarchy exists so fair enough.
/r/MensRights16/02/24 05:45 AM
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None of which addresses the very real and demonstrable things I referenced.
/r/MensRights15/02/24 04:08 AM
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Not according to statistics of things like gender of teachers in schools, number of educational funds to support one gender over another, life expectancy, number of hours worked on average, the number of divorces initiated by women, their stated reasons and how many profited on those divorces at the expense of their husband, the latest domestic violence figures and more.
/r/MensRights14/02/24 06:19 AM
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Your ex tossed you from a warm pan (home) out and you landed on grass. Now the pan is burning up and she’s offering you to come back in and get burned (save her). Why would you even consider that?
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 06:25 AM
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Try this. Figure out on average in the 1200s how many people in your country were wealthy and powerful. Then look at total male population. And total female population, adults only for both. Do this same check at 109 years increments. Then calculate the percentage of men in power vs the total population of men and women. Notice anything about the variation in percentage of men in power vs all men and all women? If you’ve done it honestly the variance we isn’t that big. A percent or two. Now ask …
/r/MensRights13/02/24 06:20 AM
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Which is a bullshit narrative when it ignores statistics. An ongoing problem I’ve noted with feminist for over 40 years. They love to quote one sided stats, women are SAed X many times a year while ignoring men are SA victims even more often. As for ‘men in charge’ it’s never been even a fraction of men in charge. Put the label as the powerful and wealthy and you’re far more accurate (yes, there have been a lot of powerful and wealthy women in history).
/r/MensRights13/02/24 06:14 AM
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What you’re saying is what modern feminism teaches as its most basic mantra, equal rights. But there is another group who also claims to want that, egalitarians. Why do two groups exist? Because although first wave feminism made that claim and many do still claim it, by third wave feminism the ideology had become anti-men in terms of political power. Look at things feminism has done and ask, is that truly equal rights? Quotas and finical aid only for women in college with the result that the las…
/r/MensRights12/02/24 02:23 AM
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What percent of women do apologize, even in a happy marriage? Married 35 years. I've apologized often. My wife has rarely said a meaningful apology. She has had some, sure. But mostly they are non apology takers no accountability apologies. The “I guess we’ll have to agree to disagree” route rather than the “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings, but we do think differently about this and I didn’t understand” method. What percent of women post images of themselves all the time on social media vs men. A…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 10:22 PM
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Once you are familiar with the narcissists prayer the behavior of a lot of women makes more sense. Apologies with that type of person are just another form of manipulation. Not all women are true narcissists, but most of them have at least some of the common behaviors, among which is leaving in their emotions which then justifies changing the narrative to make them feel better.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 07:45 PM
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Instead of averaging across all industries and not taking into account hours of work, level of education, and experience and see what happens to that supposed gap. Last study I saw from U.S? Dept. of Labor said it’s less than a penny in many industries and more in favor of women in others. And that’s while taking into account that 1% CEO pay. What if you exclude them and normalize the pay across non C suite employees?
/r/AntiFeminists10/02/24 07:42 PM
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Why? Why aren’t men worth as much individually given that our society infrastructure is 90% or more resting on men? How many women do you see in mines, or oil rigs, as merchant marines, as mechanics for airlines, trucks, boats, cars, in the heavy production industries. I know the argument that if most men were killed a few women could repopulate, but it doesn’t apply to a sinking boat or crashed train. So what justification do you have for women being more valuable as individuals on a boat? (I'm…
/r/MensRights10/02/24 07:38 PM
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You’re right both on the age of the survey data and this sub needing to be as accurate and timely with data as possible.
/r/MensRights10/02/24 01:25 AM
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Would love it if they presented the numbers broken down by how the home was obtained; acquired in divorce, death, inheritance, bought and paid, still mortgaged. Then compare numbers. I still wouldn’t be surprised to see women in greater numbers collectively, but what rate of this single women just ponied up the down and bought a home and have either paid it off or still are?
/r/MensRights09/02/24 06:39 PM
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What you’re describing as patriarchy isn’t because it’s not systematic against women. Nearly all men are also not leaders, the difference in percentage is tiny between the genders, meaning that depending where you draw the line, if 99% of men are not leaders then 99.3% of women are not, which is only a 0.03% which isn't significant. What we actually have is classism, the wealthy and powerful making decisions to retain and build their wealth and power at the expense of everyone else.
/r/MensRights09/02/24 01:54 AM
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Set the boundary and hold firm, you don’t need to accept disrespect any more than she does.
/r/MensRights07/02/24 10:14 PM
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At 57 I’ll say you wrote what I’ve experienced as well. The whole 'women carry more mental load” seems to come from this need to worry and socialize and get agreement. Contrast that, men plan, ignore what can’t be changed, and make decisions ourselves. Which seriously reduces the stress load. But the difference is not “men are lazy and don’t address issues” but rather two fold, “men plan instead of worry and men don't create difficulties trying to gain the approval of other people”.
/r/MensRights07/02/24 08:38 PM
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Have to ask how much of that time was actual work by a person vs machine doing it. I've seen people report two hours for laundry, for two loads. When questioned, five min. for loading, twenty for folding and putting away, the remainder is machine cycle time. And social media.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 08:29 PM
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On the perception point, we also have the issue that because women are more mentally integrated when they set out to do a chore, like clean the bathroom, they also eat a little breakfast, respond to a few emails, engage in so,e social media, drop a load in the laundry and so on. Men get in and get it done, then move on to the next task. So when they evaluate their time, she reports the whole time as cleaning the bathroom, then often uses cycle time for laundry as time spent cleaning. Men only re…
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 08:26 PM
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Notice how you had to go so far to give an example? Stick to the west, I doubt you can show systemic male privilege.
/r/MensRights07/02/24 01:47 AM
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That choice should come with the responsibility for paying for the child since it’s solely 'her body, her choice, her responsibility'.
/r/MensRights06/02/24 05:39 AM
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Get another lawyer. A better one.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 04:18 AM
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I'm not sure that's true anymore with the popularity of sites like OF and such. The numbers of willing sex workers have sky rocketed. It used to be most being victims, I know the data supports that. But is it still the case?
/r/MensRights06/02/24 01:32 AM
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Are you suggesting most drug buyers were initially forced to take drugs? If not, it was their choice, right? If they take the wrong drug, one that's highly addictive,it doesn't make it less their choice to start drugs, but it does make it far more difficult to quit. Yes, in the past many women in sex work were forced, either through circumstance (is that really forced, or just desperate whereas desperate men who don't have sex work as an option end up taking dangerous jobs or just dying,is there…
/r/MensRights06/02/24 01:17 AM
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How do you know it’s “vastly more likely” that vulnerable boys join willingly and vulnerable girls are forced? Is this just an assumption on your part? Does it matter if the 'force' is different between genders but still exists?
/r/MensRights06/02/24 01:10 AM
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That’s what it is supposed to be, sure. Today though there are a lot of schools teaching ideologies rather than critical thinking skills.
/r/MensRights05/02/24 03:42 AM
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Finish it and move. She's already betrayed you once. Don't let her do it again.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 03:31 AM
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The part I was responding to is your idea that male spaces are not important.
/r/MensRights02/02/24 09:10 PM
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Shrodinger's Feminist: she's strong and independent and modern when it benefits her, she's weak and traditional when it benefits her and everyone situation is one to play the victim.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/02/24 08:48 PM
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No, the focus on men's spaces is critical. Men and women are very different emotionally and mentally and therefore need different types of friend and activity spaces and support. Certainly some spaces can be shared. But when a space was a men's space and then gets shared it quickly becomes a woman's space where men are tolerated and not able to speak or act freely, but women are. Men need places to just 'be guys' and not have to speak politically correctly all the time. Not have to watch where t…
/r/MensRights02/02/24 08:32 PM
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Fair enough then.
/r/MensRights01/02/24 09:53 PM
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It is breeding extremists in both sexists.
/r/MensRights01/02/24 09:38 PM
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You’ve got some data here, most of it is subjective and due to conditioning. So what were you trying to achieve through this poll? Just establishing baselines for these societal expectations, or sometching else?
/r/MensRights01/02/24 09:21 PM
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What male dominated spaces are there? Can you list some?
/r/MensRights01/02/24 08:02 PM
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I,m an older generation, GenX, but see the same issues even with my generation. Many are divorced, or a the rebound. Those who have stable marriages are often unhappy but it’s safer financially than divorce. Many of my friends stopped climbing the corporate ladder when they realized that companies have no loyalty so all that hard work and time from family equals more responsibility, marginal extra pay unless you luck out and repeat it yourself truly senior management where all your time goes. So…
/r/MensRights01/02/24 05:50 PM
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Agreed. I’m in that top 10% and don’t have enough extra to spend after funding retirement, living and such, to really sway any policy decisions. What I’ve concluded after 40+ years of work is governments and corporations see me as something to be used and sold and exploited. Not a citizen to value. Because of that I have gone MGTOW as much as possible.
/r/MensRights27/01/24 09:22 PM
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Married 35+ years to the same woman. One of the things we believe has kept our marriage alive is we agreed long before we ,arrived that respect (public and private) was a key value. No 'ball and chain jokes, no 'he's an idiot but I love him' jokes. No public or private disparagement. If we have issues, we talk through them alone.
/r/MensRights26/01/24 03:07 AM
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Flip that script to what men would say, “someone’s not sharing his income this paycheck.”
/r/MensRights26/01/24 03:05 AM
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No. Far better for the husbands to simply let wife know that her very public disrespect is going to earn her a divorce. No hysterics. No cheats tactics. Draw the damn line and tell her she's choosing to step over it. Let the natural consequences of her actions teach her in ways retaliation won’t.
/r/MensRights26/01/24 03:04 AM
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Early in college cleaned offices at night to make it. Always the women’s were worse. Did it for a year, high rise office space, and a shared doctor, dentist, lab building. Same story both buildings.
/r/MensRights26/01/24 03:01 AM
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Give the father until a certain time period after notification that he’s going to be a father. Some women have kids and don’t tell the father until he gets a demand for child support. No time before birth works until you can force a women to inform the father. Honestly that should be it, if she wants child support, he gets notified and has a period to either accept or 'financially abort' since she has all decision making once she’s pregnant.
/r/MensRights25/01/24 02:09 AM
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The recent studies weren’t looking at divorce, but cheating. Women were cheaters 49%, men 51%.
/r/MensRights21/01/24 07:15 PM
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No one said it’s just due to women being irrational. The comments are focused on how spiteful and humorous this type of mutilation is treated and why that’s a social issue:
/r/MensRights21/01/24 06:46 PM
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That women end up in poverty after initiating a divorce doesn’t disprove the incentivized claim. Women are told and many divorce laws support this, they that will get 50%, if they have kids also the primary residence and child support, plus alimony potentially. Men aren’t frequently given a rosy picture. That the reality is child care may not cover all costs after the state has take its cut, and that her bad spending habits (if she has them) may not be solved, doesn’t change the rosy picture man…
/r/MensRights20/01/24 05:42 PM
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They¡fe asked divorce attorneys the question of why divorces are initiated, using their records. Turns out there are a few reasons most commonly given: money, infidelity, abuse, and boredom are the top. Women do initiate 70-80% of divorces, 90% if college educated, and sight these reasons the most. What I find interesting is that many feminists hearing these numbers automatically assume if cheating is the reason given it must be the husbands cheating on the wife, but studies shown cheating is al…
/r/MensRights20/01/24 04:38 PM
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Their business license was issued with stipulations requiring them to be non discriminatory (as outlined by federal reps). They can choose to ignore it. And have their license revoked if anyone sues.
/r/MensRights17/01/24 06:11 AM
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No, they are hurting men in different ways. For example, a wife emotionally abuses her husband for five years then adds in low grade physical violence against him for another 10 years. One day he snaps and punches her hard, shattering her cheekbone, giving her two black eyes, and getting arrested. But he's actually be more harmed and suffered longer, it just doesn’t count because it’s not big enough. Recent studies show women actually initiate more dv than men do, and far more emotional abuse. M…
/r/MensRights17/01/24 05:37 AM
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What benefits? If you suggest health benefits, check again, doctors have claimed it far more than it actually helps. Decent hygiene does more and dosn’t require unnecessary surgery. In like 99% of the time (more actually but I can’t be bothered finding again the new study) it’s not needed.
/r/MensRights17/01/24 05:26 AM
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It is, yes, for both genders, men more than women actually. Again, evidence is what establishes guilt.
/r/MensRights17/01/24 05:24 AM
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Don’t put up with it if someone says you're mansplaining, call them on their sexism. If you're being condescending, that word already exists and applies equally to both genders, no need to invent a sexist term that assumes ill intent because of gender in addition.
/r/MensRights15/01/24 05:51 AM
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I believe women if they have evidence to support their claims. Innocent until proven guilty is still an important principle. The “believe all women” slogan goes too far. Yes, take a women's claims seriously in terms of investigating it and helping her get safe. But accusation does not equal guilt because we have more and more evidence women lie, are at least as abusive physically as men, and are more so abusive emotionally. The key difference that gets blown up into “all men” is that men are sim…
/r/MensRights14/01/24 08:57 PM
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That lesbian couples have the highest rate of dv is fact.
/r/MensRights14/01/24 08:49 PM
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Does it matter? It was still, (a) almost always unnecessary, (b) mutilation, (c) without consent, and (d) often for religious reasons that the infant cannot possibly agree with yet. Doesn't matter if it only reduces sexual pleasure 20%, that changes none of the primary reasons to be against this practice,
/r/MensRights14/01/24 08:35 PM
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It’s not a hatred of women to hate the ideology of feminism which is not and never has been about equal rights. If you really want to promote equal rights then promote egalitarianism, not feminism.
/r/MensRights13/01/24 09:53 PM
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Agreed. It’s a discussion due to greed and infidelity, neither of which should trump truth, father or child's right r child's health. Oh, and ensuring child given to parents is actually their child.
/r/MensRights13/01/24 05:28 PM
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Then that’s option 2, no child support from the man unless he's willing despite not having evidence he's the father.
/r/MensRights13/01/24 05:21 PM
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And gentle, kind and compassionate as well. Lot of 'good' traits shown in positive way.
/r/MensRights12/01/24 06:16 PM
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Fair enough. My response was more to continue the convo, also not sure why down voted.
/r/MensRights12/01/24 06:08 PM
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Sure, from a business sense it's a great idea to create a product for women. Or one that appeals to both genders. Here's where the issue is. You can look at Marcel or Star Wars and see it clearly. They had original products that appealed to both genders but did so with male and female heroes (the stereotypical differences, the men were masculine, the women feminine, both had hero journeys). Then more feminists at the helm and suddenly the men characters are destroyed, emasculated, shown pathetic…
/r/MensRights12/01/24 05:49 PM
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Marvel has feminized or destroyed all the male heroes from the phase 1-3 movies and replaced them with female Mary Sue characters who lack personality and have no hero arch, no learning, they just have to realize they are perfect and better than men and they win. I'm not at all exaggerating here. If you want to see it, just watch the original Captain America movie and then Captain Marvel movie. Same essential character, one male, one female, supposed to be same type of heroes journey. But it pla…
/r/MensRights12/01/24 05:42 PM
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Exactly. I've watched my wife for decades and am amazed at how often she literally seeks things to stress about. They do seem to love the conflict and chaos of it. Not focused, also a little distracted. They will call it caring mentally juggling everything, but studies have shown that is a poor way to make good decisions.
/r/MensRights11/01/24 04:34 AM
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Which do you think are better communicators, the gender known for being direct and succinct and managing their emotions (too much maybe, but at least there is regulation generally), or the one who loudly proclaims they are better but uses hints, and expects the opposite gender to read their minds?
/r/MensRights11/01/24 04:32 AM
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When you accept it being 'secret' you lose me entirely. No, neither of the spouses should have a secret account. If she wants an emergency fund, he should have one as well, yes? No need to be secret, should be an agreed upon thing with each account being only accessible by the intended spouse, it reported yo each other.
/r/MensRights11/01/24 04:29 AM
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Men went to war for a lot of reasons. If you're talking times when most were surfs, generally royalty decided and they went or were executed. But that doesn’t mean it wasn’t also because of women, and children, at times, like when they were being attacked. Yeah, men generally will step n front and fight before seeing their wives and kids die like that. War has as much to do with women as men generally, the motivations causing leaders to go to war are almost always about resources which is tied t…
/r/MensRights05/01/24 02:44 PM
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Or just write a really good start set in Star Wars mythos. Look at Blue Eye Samurai. I would say Mizu is a pretty strong female character. But she still has a real hero's arch. And gets hurt. And shows she's feminine.
/r/MensRights04/01/24 02:40 PM
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Given that men excavate, design, build and maintain most of the modern infrastructure you would think some concern over male suicide rates, depressions and such would matter. It’ll be interesting to see how long it takes before mandatory male labor or breeding laws are proposed.
/r/MensRights27/12/23 10:23 PM
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Observing general behavior is a useful tool. That the observed behavior isn’t a “good” one doesn’t make the observation misogynistic.
/r/MensRights27/12/23 12:34 AM
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Yes, exactly as it should be. Dismiss the complaints of Karen’s who aren’t in the relationship yet feel strongly that they know the motivations better than the people involved.
/r/MensRights27/12/23 12:17 AM
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There have been several studies showing that men are, on average, a lot more accurate with their rankings on physical sex appeal than women. Women overestimate their own values and think 70% of men are under average while men in that same study have a bell curve. We’re talking people who looked at images alone and ranked them. Men and women both.
/r/MensRights25/12/23 12:44 AM
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Take into perspective he’s coming at this as a clinical psychologist who has decades of care of young men as history.
/r/MensRights23/12/23 05:10 PM
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If we're dividing by sexes in order to give each sex a save space for biological needs, it makes sense that women wouldn't feel comfortable with a biological male in their space even if he identifies as a woman. Same is true in reverse. Given how SA charges are handled differently for men vs women, caution is needed on both sides for different reasons. Women because a trans woman with a functioning penis and build of a man is threatening on a physical level. Men because a trans man with a women'…
/r/MensRights20/12/23 06:25 PM
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I want to know what would happen to these numbers if we factored in emotional abuse, not just physical violence. Would we find that, contrary to the feminist narrative, it's actually women who initiate more violence and do more emotional harm? Perhaps the difference is a matter of men doing MORE harm when they turn violent (just like being more successful at suicide because they choose more definitive means). While women do more overall damage.
/r/MensRights19/12/23 05:39 AM
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He's suggesting that you stop trying to prey on those n pain for your preaching purposes. You don't need to preach to offer help. It comes across as manipulative.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 05:30 AM
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It's a public relations tactic in order to shift the balance of power by framing all women as victims. Expanded with the term “internalized misogyny”.
/r/MensRights19/12/23 05:26 AM
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IBM hasn’t been hiring 'just whites' since the late 60s if not earlier. This is the inverse, racism against whites.
/r/MensRights19/12/23 05:13 AM
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Have you looked at the typical studies used to demonstrate this difference in household chores? The one I looked through did not count yard work, home maintenance, auto repair, nor did it subtract extra hours the husband worked at his job as being equivalent to the hours the wife didn't work because of chores like meeting with school teacher or running kids to the doctor. Additionally, if these studies are indicative of the true relationship for housework then gay relationships and single guys m…
/r/MensRights17/12/23 10:04 PM
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When one of the injustices is DEi policies I disagree. Want more women and minorities in leadership positions? Don’t exclude white men to make it happen, hire and promote on competence. The most egalitarian countries in the world have a bigger divide in the sexes than ours does and they've found it’s because, despite all the opportunity for education and hiring, women and men choose differently for career fields, investing time in their career, competition, asking for raises, taking risks, being…
/r/MensRights17/12/23 05:13 PM
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You miss the key distinction here. There are two groups, the general populace of white men, who are being targeted. And rich, powerful people, a sizable chunk of whom are white. The two groups aren’t treated the same.
/r/MensRights17/12/23 05:08 PM
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Add in IBM's CEO telling recruiters their bonuses will be reduced for every white person they hire.
/r/MensRights17/12/23 05:06 PM
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Before you make yourself look any more stupid search out IBM's boss saying to his hiring team their bonus will be reduced for any white males hired. There's more evidence if you aren’t just a troll (I suspect you are) but you get to do the research because I’m not putting in time for your lazy ass when I do think you're a troll.
/r/MensRights17/12/23 05:05 PM
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I would add only two things. Coming from an old Gen-Xer with a single 35 year marriage, so take that for what's worth (my dating experience guys was nothing like what you experience today, so I’m not addressing whether or not you should get married, only how to stack the odds a little in staying in a heathy relationship. Respect is key. Respect yourself enough as said earlier not to compromise core values, who you are, what you dream. Respect your spouse, never call them names, don’t bad mouth t…
/r/MensRights17/12/23 05:31 AM
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Just ask, “So if victims matter less than perpetrators do you apply that same standard equally when women are the perpetrators more often as in abortion or child murder or abuse? As for the system question, do you also credit where the system does well, like having roads, water, food, police, government, and all essential infrastructure? If you're going to tie the bad to a gender shouldn’t you also tie the good?” Also, you can point out one thing I’ve never seen a feminist really address. Two th…
/r/MensRights17/12/23 01:52 AM
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Just ask when they are giving up makeup and hair dye in order to tell the truth about who they are and stop lying?
/r/MensRights16/12/23 08:31 AM
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We get beat over the head with feminist messaging that all men are terrible. Happens all day, every day. Perhaps it wouldn’t hurt you to hear it's possible to have interactions with men that aren't terrible, rather than continually trying to curtail such and keep only the deceitful messaging of feminism. Women suffer. Guess what, so do men. Stop trying to win the victim award (even if it’s on behalf of women) and acknowledge that perhaps there are times where the supposed sexism is so minor a re…
/r/MensRights16/12/23 07:59 AM
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Neither way is fun actually. Most men rarely if ever get complimented or hit on. Ever. I agree that the constant barrage is bad. On the other hand, many women require attention in regular doses so getting none would be bad too, just like for guys. To be invisible and unwanted. Somewhere in between those two is where we should be, able to take an occasional compliment or interaction, and give one too.
/r/MensRights16/12/23 07:52 AM
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For 15, if society wants to allow women to abort, and she is after birth has sole right unlesss married, it creates a lot of potential issues. More easily refined by being consistent, if she gets pregnant, she has sole responsibility what to decide so she bears sole responsibility for the outcome. Paternity tests required. Which means if she wants Plan B, she can. Abort it, she can. Up for adoption, she can, but but Dad given preference for adoption and notified if possible. Keep it, it’s her so…
/r/MensRights14/12/23 05:40 PM
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Or when they are incapable of letting a man how peaceful downtime. So often I see women finding something for husband to do any time he wants downtime or to enjoy a hobby.
/r/MensRights14/12/23 03:45 AM
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Exactly! She just learned about the seven year thing so wants back long enough to tip in her favor.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 05:15 PM
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We may argue that there's some form of social agreement that men protect in general. But legally, we have far too many cases where that behavior is punished. Socially the same thing in recent decades. Given that the situation can be one where the victim put themselves into that position I know of no argument justifying a stranger to sacrifice their life or help for such a thoughtless act. Which leads me to the conclusion that bystanders have no responsibility to prevent a physical confrontation.…
/r/MensRights13/12/23 05:11 PM
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Statistics show it’s a critical aspect for most marriages. Historically it also explains the genders different mating strategies. Monogamy is not what humans have engaged in for most of our history.
/r/MensRights10/12/23 08:07 PM
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A man who got accused for even one would have gotten that sentence or worse, which is the issue. That eventually one was punished is no excuse.
/r/MensRights09/12/23 11:40 PM
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Or that good guys are always accurate and bad guys can’t hit shit.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 09:46 PM
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You are entitled. Time to set a boundary snd expectation. I assume you have some standard chores you split with wife. Beyond those you need to explain that you need mental and physical down time, which means you'll prioritize stuff. Everything is not urgent. And some of it doesn't much matter long time, it's just busy work.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 03:13 PM
1

I care about truth and true gender equality of opportunity. Which means rather than only focusing on issues in a way to report gender disagreement, I think it’s better for both genders to know what the other struggles with and in what proportion. I want men to listen to women’s issues, and in today’s public sphere we hear about them continuously. And the blame is always that it’s mens fault. We are collectively held accountable for the actions of some. By pointing out that men suffer too, often …
/r/MensRights26/11/23 06:03 PM
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Since you’re Aussie, it might help to know that the current Democratic Party would typically be considered more center than left, and Republicans more far right than right. The Republicans claim they are for small government, lower taxes and such. Reality is far different. You have to look at what they accomplished when they hold majorities in house and senate vs a more even standing. Democrats tend to be better fiscally, despite supporting more social programs because Republicans tend to over f…
/r/MensRights26/11/23 05:37 PM
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My question, what entitles any woman to marriage no matter how old she is, how educated or 'good looking'? That’s what these authors never seem to ask. Woes me for the woman who can’t get a man who meets all her requirements, but why not ask why she is worth marrying? Why she deserves such a man?
/r/MensRights26/11/23 05:00 AM
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Through a little a Shakespeare at them, “If you cut them do they not bleed?” And say nothing more. Let them figure it out.
/r/MensRights23/11/23 10:57 PM
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No worries, terrible writing offends me on a professional level.
/r/MensRights15/11/23 04:03 AM
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I didn’t claim it was shitty because it was feminist. I said it was bad because it had bad writing, poor directing, and was marketed in such a way it alienated their primary customer base which is a stupid thing to do.
/r/MensRights15/11/23 03:24 AM
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In other words you don’t know what the fuck you're talking about, you're just in it to defend this turd because it agrees with your ideology. There
/r/MensRights15/11/23 02:48 AM
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Bad writing is still bad writing no matter which gender it is. Worse, paging a political message in an escapist film has been shown time and again to ruin profitability. There’s a reason “go woke, go broke” exists as a saying. This movie is poorly written, poorly structured, and the marketing of it made it clear it’s no for men or fans of the comics. It was intended for “modern audiences” despite the fact the last decade has shown such audiences don’t buy tickets. Ultimately, aim at a niche mark…
/r/MensRights15/11/23 01:35 AM
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Well, maybe originally. They did many edits snd reshoots to make this turd. Odds are less than half of what made it into the film ties to the original screenplay. It’s honestly terrible storytelling regardless of the genders or political ideology.
/r/MensRights14/11/23 02:55 AM
1

One of the healthiest things you can do is take the attitude that the only opinions you care about are from those you love. Beyond that an opinion tells you more about them (as a stranger) than it does about you.
/r/MensRights13/11/23 09:48 PM
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The “probably much smaller” doesn’t matter at all. Don't accept that BS reason. It’s still illegal. Size only matter when you're toting up damage done on the physical level. There's still emotional level. And multiple repeated small damages can be worse than one big one in terms of overall recovery.
/r/MensRights13/11/23 09:44 PM
1

Bullshit. Apparently you don’t know many men. I know hundreds who are like that personally.
/r/MensRights13/11/23 06:38 PM
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As I said, there was competition, but also cooperation. Both are required. But that's not what caused men to build civilization. That was the desire to increase safety, security, improve quality of life. Competition is just one way to do it. Cooperation works as well, otherwise there wouldn't even be a tribe or village to begin with.
/r/MensRights13/11/23 06:31 PM
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No surprise, this media company knows who their audience is, and it’s not men.
/r/MensRights13/11/23 06:17 PM
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“Kids will always come first” = remain single.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/11/23 06:12 PM
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No. Given that feminism is, at its heart, an anti-men ideology I think their aims are diametrically opposed. Egalitarianism would be the approach good for both men and women, and I would be happy to work under that ideology. Equal opportunity, not equal outcome, not forced equality, equal opportunity.
/r/MensRights13/11/23 05:41 PM
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No, men built civilization by wanting increased safety, security, and comfort for their wives, kids and selves. That's the reason for progress, self interest. Competition is just one of the driving forces, the other is cooperation. Both are needed and useful. Just like in ecologies.
/r/MensRights13/11/23 05:40 PM
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Why is it ridiculous? Feminisms is at its core, an anti-men ideology. Not just recent waves, go back to the very beginning and it’s very sexist against men. Men's rights, which is advocating for men would be in direct opposition.
/r/MensRights13/11/23 05:38 PM
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To me the issue isn't that such standards exist, they do. One of the problems is the extent to which people struggle and sacrifice to adhere to these standards. But, those are self imposed and I do expect adults to take responsibility for their actions. If they find it too much, then seek professional help to change that in yourself. The bigger issue to me is how men are always blamed for these standards despite so many things which point to it mostly being women who compete against each other. …
/r/MensRights13/11/23 05:04 PM
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Most men I've known are friendly, accepting. They tease and are blunt spoken specially with other men. But not misogynistic. I've never heard a man be truly misogynistic other than in a joke, where you also hear them take on anything. My friend group has noticed we tend to circle around the following set of topics: work, hobbies (sports, cars, fishing, craftsmanship, astronomy, etc.), family, wives (usually just answering ‘how is she doing?’ questions), politics, media (movies, music, games), an…
/r/MensRights13/11/23 04:54 PM
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Trust but verify.
/r/MensRights04/11/23 06:11 PM
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Not when the group displays those traits so commonly they help define the difference. Men are both the most intelligent and least intelligent sex because our breadth is broader than women. We are also the more physically aggressive and disagreeable sex, which means we feel more comfortable not fitting in and are willing to fight more readily. Women on the other hand have a smaller range of intelligence but average slightly higher than men. They are also as a group more agreeable and more likely …
/r/MensRights28/10/23 10:23 PM
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We blame men for lots of things, and rightly so. Let’s just not blindly accept the narrative that men require women to wear makeup.
/r/MensRights27/10/23 03:00 AM
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No one is forced to wear makeup. It’s a choice. Just like eating too much, wearing custom fit or off the shelf clothes, shaving, being tidily scruffy or growing a beard, all of which are judged by everyone to some extent. Blaming men for it is stupid given the greater percentage of the population is women, and women are statistically more likely to require both attention and in-group acceptance. Men are less agreeable, less needy for attention, and less likely to go along with the group. Expecta…
/r/MensRights27/10/23 02:35 AM
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“I thought you were a better long term prospect so I treated you worse than the guy I knew was an asshole and toxic.” Yep, totally makes sense. “You were so important to me I treated sex like it was sacred, but just for you, no those other 50 guys o have it to first night.” Again, makes sense.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/10/23 08:17 PM
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Men are more successful at causing harm with physical violence. But woman are just as physically violent as men and they add emotional violence to it which I think makes them generally the more violent today. I doubt whether it was true historically as men could act on physical violence against them by their wives in earlier societies.
/r/MensRights22/10/23 01:01 AM
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I beg to dffer in 2 of your claims. First, it’s not what women want, some do. In fact many women use reputation destruction as their form of violence to destroy a scorned, cheated on or divorced man. Women are every bit as violent as men, they just do it differently. There's a reason that saying “women scorned”. Plenty of women are shitty, just like with men. The difference is society puts a safety net under everything women do, and punishing men in order to help women.
/r/MensRights21/10/23 07:19 AM
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Then explain why in situations where the wife cheats and leaves her husband because she’s bored, the divorce court then gives her custody, child support and sometimes alimony?
/r/MensRights20/10/23 11:31 PM
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I’m f we test for blood diseases, heart conditions, eye conditions, nerves, spine, motion… in fact most newborns are subjected to 20+ tests, why is this one so problematic? If it was in the standard battery there is no raising of trust issues. Also no cheaters sticking men with children who aren’t theirs. Win-win.
/r/MensRights19/10/23 11:36 PM
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Why does it matter if the men question it? The child has a right to know, so does the man. Only the Mom knows and even then sometimes she isn’t certain. So why is there any pushback about an accurate, inexpensive and fairly easy test? Cheaters and the governments not wanting to get stuck with paying for children via welfare.
/r/MensRights19/10/23 11:34 PM
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He may have simply had an insurance person tell him wrong, call your insurance company and ask to be reimbursed.
/r/MensRights15/10/23 08:27 AM
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I wouldn’t even consider taking her back. Honestly, sounds like she separated just so she can ry the monkey branch and came back because it wasn’t wonderful. But why accept being second place?
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 08:27 PM
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I feel like it’s so easy to blame men for everything it no longer matters what the topic is, it’s always men to blame. I am not a cis man, just a man. As long as they continue to misgender me I don’t see why I should be concerned.
/r/MensRights13/10/23 06:47 PM
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The modern women and how they've been conditioned is a huge part of the problem. Women being taught all their life that they are perfect, special, can do no wrong. And seeing their single mothers bad mouth all men while using men for help. Daughters being told that men are trash, and rewarded for being abusive by the other girls, teachers, and other people in power. You don’t think that’s an issue?
/r/MensRights12/10/23 02:50 AM
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Google Duluth model criticisms.
/r/MensRights12/10/23 02:42 AM
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It’s more dependent on the person and their background than the gender. I've had several great women bosses and a few that were terrible. I've also trained and mentored some who’ve grown and done well (on them, I just gave a little help).
/r/MensRights10/10/23 02:41 AM
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The narcissists playbook.
/r/MensRights08/10/23 08:48 AM
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Exactly what I’ve been saying for years! It’s her sole decision which should make it automatically her sole responsibility. Is there any decision a man can make regarding sex or dating where a woman is forced to pay for it when she's not a family member or married to him?
/r/MensRights08/10/23 08:41 AM
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Extend the phrase to be complete, “my body, my choice, my responsibility.” Is there any circumstance that comes up all the time where a man can make a decision and a woman who is NOT married or related to him has to pay for his decision?
/r/MensRights08/10/23 08:38 AM
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Yeah, have to love how selective she is in “looking at the numbers”. If she also looked at the bottom 10-20% of men she would have to admit they have it even worse than most women, by far. So why look only at hyper successful men? Because it feeds a narrative.
/r/MensRights08/10/23 08:27 AM
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Lawmakers really ought to consider the lesson of pushing people too far. Hat happens is usually unpleasant for those pushed into extremists, and it builds dangerous precedents youth pick up on.
/r/MensRights07/10/23 09:51 AM
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How do I find out what a man should be at in his mid 50s? Way past any desire to procreate, have 4 adult kids so for me more about improving health if I am in the lower but still considered “fine” range. What’s a reliable source to reference?
/r/MensRights06/10/23 04:35 AM
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Love it when a woman like this complains about men asking about high body counts, saying it doesn't matter while simultaneously degrading men with a low body count. Schroedinger's Fiminist strikes again, empowered and body positive yet uses SIGN language to put men down.
/r/MensRights04/10/23 06:27 PM
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In almost all cases you’re just saying the man should pay. How often do women actually ask the guy and plan the date? Statistically it’s a tiny amount. This is another aspect of being equal.
/r/MensRights30/09/23 12:51 AM
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You should complain about this. The bar in your state probably has requirements on her responsibility to communicate such court orders. Also, she works for you so set the standard that if ex gets into the house to select stuff, you and witnesses are there and the whole thing gets recorded. All of it, every room.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 06:05 PM
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Anger has a good use, it helps you stay motivated. And better anger than despair. You can rebuild. You can make a better life. Use the anger at how you've been treated to motivate you to do better. Don't bother framing it as “to spite her”, the absolute best thing you do is do it for yourself. Put her into the category of “people not worth worrying about” and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:45 PM
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How did your lawyer not know about the court order? Or tell you about it? Whichever the case it sounds like you need a better lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 04:54 PM
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When a woman asks why you don't approach her, ask her out, buy her a drink or lunch, give her your number, pay on a first date, or mentor her or become 'friends' at work, just point to signs like this. Tell her, “since this is the trend going MGTOW is my only option. Even then it’s not great because I still pay for a lot of programs that only care about and support women.”
/r/MensRights29/09/23 04:49 PM
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Isn’t recording worse than staring? Yet none of these women have a problem with recording men in public.
/r/MensRights29/09/23 04:43 PM
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Has men only spaces caused issues? Or is that feminists have been tearing down men only spaces and using their new inclusion as a way to use social media to cause even more issues? Perhaps we need to try different ways to have men only spaces. Clubs, non official 'friends' groups, non profit support groups. There are a lot of approaches to give men a safe place to exercise, learn a skill, and share with other men. In Australia they use a concept called The Shed which started out as a private she…
/r/MensRights29/09/23 03:26 PM
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You and I share similar enough answers I will let your answer stand for me.
/r/MensRights29/09/23 03:11 PM
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Boys need a masculine figure. Dads and Moms approach children differently. Mothering tends to empathize and be supportive, fathering pushes and teaches how to get up when knocked down. When they are infants and toddlers, mothering is more needed. But once they start to run and be able to take on responsibilities, fathering them holds them accountable, gives them challenges, forces them to solve problems. From my own marriage which is now 35+ years, four children, all educated, married, some with…
/r/MensRights25/09/23 02:16 AM
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“Religion precedes morality”, this is what I responded to. Your words, and nothing to do with your “only claiming one thing” so perhaps you should keep insults to those who can’t follow or recall the conversation.
/r/MensRights25/09/23 01:46 AM
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Assume you’re right. So what? Doesn’t mean you can’t have morality, you just don’t like the implication that it’s intersubjective rather than handed down by someone else (i.e., just subject to god rather than humans). Nice change of the goalposts but it’s irrelevant to your claim about which came first.
/r/MensRights24/09/23 10:15 PM
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Which was a stupid, short sighted policy on their part. The tech is too easy to get away from it. What’s French government has done is said their earnings from child support and NT letting husband who were most likely cheated on find out the truth, vertices the child's right to know who their father is, or for the men to know they have a child. They tout a desire to not break up a family, but that simply seems to highlight that it must be a rampant problem. And the solution isn't to hold the me …
/r/MensRights24/09/23 07:51 AM
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So women will be required to be included in selective service to vote, hold a government job, be able to get federal money for anything? Women will no long be believed just on their word but must demonstrate their claims in court? Women will no long get primary custody by default, they pay for their own half of the date? They cannot take access to a child from a father without an abuse or drug conviction, not just unfounded claims. Women no long get “women and children first” privilege. That’s t…
/r/MensRights24/09/23 07:42 AM
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Feminism has claimed to b about equality. Thing with a liar is you pay attention to their deeds, not their words. They have been about advantage for women at the expense of men for at least the past 50 years.
/r/MensRights24/09/23 07:39 AM
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You've shifted the conversation from which came first, morality or religion to now a discussion on which set of moral frameworks you feel are best. I don't care about the latter so much as the former for this discussion because the point is my fervency is for even older time, think the very earliest days when humans began as hunter gatherers. Language was minimal, some gestures, some sounds, but not yet a formal language. Not a religion. But they had moralityfor a long while then, they had a fra…
/r/MensRights24/09/23 07:11 AM
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They do if you look at it from the survival of the tribe perspective. But you don’t need to look at animals to see moral frameworks in place that have nothing to do with gods or religions. There are tribes who have neither. And ancient Amerindians had morals so different from our own as to disagree about n almost every important way. Murder, rape, theft, aggression, fighting, torture, slavery, kidnap, all good things in the right way and time. It’s morals just ones you disagree with,
/r/MensRights23/09/23 06:49 PM
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That you disagree with their moral framework, or let’s be more accurate, that some members violate what YOU consider moral doesn’t mean that group of creatures lack morals.
/r/MensRights23/09/23 06:46 PM
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Religion cannot precede morality because morality is required in order to have a foundation for caring at all about the consequences of actions. To build up a set of beliefs and practices requires that to already be in place. There are other species which have moral frameworks which do not have religions so that essentially fits your claim. I know you believe god created it all and handed it down, but there’s no evidence supporting that claim and all evidence we do have shows that essence of car…
/r/MensRights23/09/23 06:45 PM
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Really want someone to ask her if she mined the minerals for her rackets, balls, the court, her sneakers, clothes, the road she drives on, the house she lives in. When she answers 'no' to point out just how few of the jobs needed to keep our infrastructure going that women do. Don’t need a man? Ha! She does all day, every day, maybe just not in her love life, which… who cares?
/r/MensRights23/09/23 08:17 AM
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If you are an adult you are responsible for your decisions and actions, whether you became an adult yesterday or 50 years ago. I don’t care what they do. If a hot young thing wants to marry rich and powerful old guy, not my concern. Flip the genders, still not my concern. Men have always wanted purity (thus youth), beauty, loyalty, children, and intimacy from a mate. Women have always wanted protection, provision, status, caring, and support from a mate. This is due to the biological differences…
/r/MensRights23/09/23 07:37 AM
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We assimilate incredibly well as children. Here's an example you can use to at least get people thinking. If you recall as far back as you can, do you ever remember your parents telling you not to eat the other kids you played with? No. There was no need because we had already assimilated it is not nice to bite, and that cannibalism is wrong. No one has to specifically tell us not to do it, we suck up that cannibalism is wrong in stories, jokes, and more. Same thing with ‘men don’t cry” or “man …
/r/MensRights19/09/23 03:18 AM
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Cheating is rampant, divorce is rampant, false accusations are significant, but sure, sticking a man with child support for a child which may not be his will solve the problem of families braking up. Also, what about single mothers seeking child support? No family to break up so why can’t men defend themselves with science? I know, not your policy but every excuse I’ve heard for this law fails to really justify it other than the state preferring random men to pay for children than the state or t…
/r/MensRights19/09/23 02:22 AM
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Femcel, use their own labels against them.
/r/MensRights16/09/23 07:11 PM
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You missed the quiet part they don’t say in that phrase, “my body, my choice, your responsibility”.
/r/MensRights16/09/23 04:43 AM
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If you add up all those 'positions of power' you say men had, what percentage of the men in the U.S. at that time do you think it was? A half of a percent? That’s about right. So the 99.95 percent of men who didn’t have power in America at the start are blamed? Why not instead focus on what it truly was, the rich and powerful, or the elites. Not all men, not even most men or a good percentage of men. A tiny minority of men. Had to be male, white, adult, wealthy and a land owner. Which was a very…
/r/MensRights16/09/23 04:21 AM
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Wow is your sense of history distorted. For the vast majority of human existence, say approximately 200,000 years, no one voted. Even if we limit it to the last 1,000 years it was a tiny percentage of wealthy powerful people doing the deciding while the bulk of humanity, men and women, had few rights. Yeah, it took a few decades extra for women to be allowed to vote. Do you know what it cost the average man? They had to agree to be drafted when needed. Then a lot of men fought for women to be al…
/r/MensRights16/09/23 04:16 AM
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Yep, my body my choice only works when convenient.
/r/MensRights16/09/23 03:22 AM
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The narcissist playbook.
/r/MensRights16/09/23 03:21 AM
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Just keep using it as appropriate. It’s time for a reverse to cancel culture.
/r/MensRights15/09/23 03:38 AM
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Gotta love how a perfectly normal word, often necessary in any scientific discussion where gender differences are key, gets cancelled because of some hurt feelings. Bloody feminists. Oh, wait, since feminist shares a root with female is it also banned?
/r/MensRights15/09/23 03:35 AM
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You need to find a better attorney, one with a men’s rights attitude. Heck, if you can manage, since she’s out of the home consider moving to a state where there are more balanced child custody laws.
/r/MensRights13/09/23 03:58 AM
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Ever been a bodyguard? It's the same kind of situation. The guard advises: don't get so drunk or drugged you aren't in control at all times, don't go into risky environments, when I tell you to avoid something you obey, dressing flashy invites attention, sometimes it’s good for your image, sometimes it’s dangerous when I tell you it's dangerous ignore me and I stop protecting you. This is the type of speech you give clients when your job is protecting them. It isn’t horrible or victim blaming un…
/r/MensRights12/09/23 04:25 AM
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No one mentions the steps that actually works: improved sex life, increase frequency of words of affirmation, being encouraging and supportive, push him to exercise and set goals and track his efforts.
/r/MensRights12/09/23 04:14 AM
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There's a video on youtube that you should watch. https://youtu.be/SjqftrHiDrA?si=EejcCCgHalsYVM-5
/r/MensRights12/09/23 03:55 AM
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If she doesn’t treat him like family, does she deserve that treatment in return?
/r/MensRights12/09/23 03:45 AM
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Hmm, 3 kids you say? Isn't the rule: First time it was a mistake Second time it was a choice Third time it's now a habit.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/09/23 04:33 PM
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It comes from telling them they are queens, strong and independent, my body my choice, but with none of the responsibility that goes with those choices. My body, my choice, my responsibility is the full phrase.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/09/23 04:23 PM
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Why do you feel comfortable shaming men who cannot find sex when that number of the male population historically is 40% and is a result of female hypergamy? Yet you tell people not to slut shame. At least the woman having many partners has a choice. The guys who are invisible to women really don't have a choice. Why do they need shame on top of being invisible, undesirable, and uncared for by women?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/09/23 04:14 PM
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IN every society there are also adult men who remain unmarried and do not father children. The number through history has been far higher than for women. No one cares about those guys. Notice, they aren't even mentioned in these discussions generally. They aren't "left over" they are "invisible and unappreciated".
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/09/23 04:09 PM
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>Because it is her body and “he” impregnated her. Do you know how your language both recognizes her agency (her body) and removes her agency (he impregnated her). Why isn't it just that they both choose to have sex, then since it is her body, her choice, and she's the only one doing the deciding, it's her responsibility? > very clear that the father pays for the child. No, this is the assumption I'm challenging. Don't assume that, justify it. Let's take an analogy. You and her get into a car, sh…
/r/MensRights11/09/23 03:58 PM
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Agreed. It really should be a choice for the woman and her doctor. I'll bet in those really rare cases where it's not noticed until post 24 weeks, there may also be some issues affecting the health of the baby or dangers of keeping to term that the woman and her doctor need to discuss. I would be fine with the ruling being that if she hasn't gotten him to sign an agreement accepting parental responsibility by 24 weeks it goes into an exception stage where she still bears all responsibility until…
/r/MensRights11/09/23 03:42 PM
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Sounds like you and I are fairly in agreement. I always get concerned when there's an informed period because I've seen so many instances where it creates more hassle than it's worth. Morally, she should inform him as soon as she's pregnant and they should discuss and make decisions together. But that often doesn't happen. Worst case, she doesn't tell him until he gets the notice he's on the hook for child support. For me, that should never happen. If she can't demonstrate that he's been informe…
/r/MensRights11/09/23 03:38 PM
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Personal responsibility. Why is she the one who gets to decide whether to keep the fetus, abort it, adopt it, or abandon it, while he is simply held responsible if she decides? If we're talking personal responsibility shouldn't it be hers if she chooses to keep the child? It's one of the options and he has no say in any of the others, including if she wants to put it up for adoption or abandon it. If we're really holding to the personal responsibility idea, shouldn't he have a say, or at least, …
/r/MensRights11/09/23 03:03 PM
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>any man to opt out of their responsibilities If the woman is the only one who can make the decision to keep the fetus, abort it, or put it up for adoption, why do you assume it's a man's responsibility? The phrase is "my body, my choice" but should then include "my responsibility" since it is a choice. I agree it would be better for the man to 'step up' but I think it's incorrect to have it be her choice to force him into 18 years of support. There are plenty of documented cases where women hav…
/r/MensRights11/09/23 02:44 PM
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Perhaps we should be looking at it the other way? Rather than trying to look for someone, anyone, else to pay for the child except the person whose choice it is to keep the child, instead focus the requirement to support fully on that person. We have several questions to consider: Is it just to force a man who is not the biological father to provide child support? Does that change if he has no access to the child and cannot act as father? Assumption is a non biological man who wants to act as a …
/r/MensRights11/09/23 02:31 PM
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"Too late to abort"? Isn't that dependent on if we have abortion windows (meaning choice without doctor's support it's for medical reason) that are too short? Is it really possible to go to 24 weeks pregnancy without knowing you're pregnant?
/r/MensRights11/09/23 02:22 PM
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Clearly she has to inform him in good time too. Easier said than done. If it's entirely her choice whether to keep the child why shouldn't it be assumed to entirely be her responsibility to support the child? I agree he should be able to opt out. The 'time limited' (opt out) seems problematic if it's going to allow her to claim he's been informed and taken no action so forcing him to pay child support almost becomes a punitive action. If it's instead an opt in approach, where it's on her to insu…
/r/MensRights11/09/23 02:20 PM
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Those wealthy guys probably only want to go with 8-10s who are either low body count, or very skilled sexually and submissive and know how to cook, clear and take care of a man doing the providing, can she demonstrate any of those traits on a first date to see if she qualifies?
/r/MensRights03/09/23 08:47 AM
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Do you know any attorneys? Friends or family? Ask them who to go to. Ask them for different names. Who is a shark? Who will find the gentlest way to divorce with best outcome for kids? Who will most protect your Dad. Then ask for consult from them.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 08:31 AM
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Don’t do anything illegal. I honestly wouldn’t bother with him since it’s only your wife who owned you faithfulness. He doesn’t. But if you must get your pound of flesh talk to a lawyer first. See if there's a way to do it legally. And really consider dropping it. Twenty years ago I might have advised you to wait a year and then give him a late night 'accidental' meeting with the side of a building. But honestly, why risk jail for a loser? Doesn’t take much thinking to realize even if he deliber…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 08:20 AM
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You’re welcome. It is horrible. I am an old fashioned man, Gen X, married long time. Had one close call with a guy stalking my daughter. One night he and I took a drive where I told him that if he didn’t leave her alone entirely I would be swilling to go to prison for her. But so many people now think it’s horrible to draw that line. I think society would be better with more protection, and more consequences for abusing another.
/r/MensRights02/09/23 09:55 PM
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I’m saying the number of male kings or leader is certainly more but there were women leaders. More important, both were a tiny fraction of the population (maybe as low as 0.5%, maybe women who had some power were 20% of that number), but compared to the 95.5% of the population who were not wealthy or leaders men didn’t experience significantly less suffering. It was about equally shitty for both genders, just in different ways. Feminism focuses on that tiny fraction with wealth or power, ignores…
/r/MensRights02/09/23 09:52 PM
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The wealthy and powerful and it’s included women. There have been women kings, leaders and such for most of human history. They are not as well know because we’ve had such poor education, not because they didn’t exist. Again you are focusing on gender when that is NOT the difference. It’s wealth and political power which, again, most men also didn’t have. You really ought to learn a little more about history than just the pre selected feminist talking points.
/r/MensRights02/09/23 04:11 PM
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You guessed wrong in your assumptions. I’ve changed my stance on at least three large things in life, religion (deco t theist to atheist), politics (republican to libertarian to mostly liberal), and gender issues (such as feminism and what causes homosexuality). I’m fine to concede points of you have the intellectual honesty to do so as well. You took the time to reply but didn’t bring them answering the question. Why? Is it because you can’t? Explaining isn’t the same as demonstrating! I used t…
/r/MensRights02/09/23 04:06 PM
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Go on then, answer the question, troll. Please list out the privileges men have that are so plentiful you think they are obvious.
/r/MensRights02/09/23 08:00 AM
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Women have sexual assault, so do men. In fact at close to the same levels. What you experienced was terrible. But here's the thing often missed from the discussion. Most men who commit sexual assault were themselves sexually assaulted by people in their lives, as often as not, mothers, sisters, or sitters. Which makes it, rather than how feminism portrays it, all men as predators and all women as victims, both genders have victims and generationally it can be passed down.
/r/MensRights02/09/23 08:00 AM
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You mean building civilization, putting in the work to discover, then manufacture nearly all of the things needed for modern society to live, often done to protect their wives and children and make the world more comfortable and safe than they had it before? I suspect you didn’t mean that but rather we’re operating under the incorrect notion that it's men as a group that dominated political decisions, rather than the elite, which is a much more accurate description since most men through history…
/r/MensRights02/09/23 07:55 AM
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You should actually try it. Works quite well in some areas. There's a reason the fire service sets fires to counter forest fires. Similar logic here, sometimes you have to cause an effect to get a change. When you¡re trying to cause that effect in people whose first response is “I feel that…” then risking offending them may have value. Not all strategies assume the opposing side is logical, sometimes fighting on the emotional front is more effective.
/r/MensRights27/08/23 08:41 AM
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I've been married 35+ years to the same traditional woman, and it’s been mostly good. In todays environment I wouldn’t even consider it given laws and stats.
/r/MensRights27/08/23 04:41 AM
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It’s not a pretense, the feminist ideology is anti men. As is so many of its adherents that I can’t take seriously anyone who claims feminism is an equality movement. It has done nothing to create egalitarianism. It has instead worked to gather give to women at the expense of men. Talk to me when you have women required to sign up for selective service, when the genders are equally represented in schools, both as staff and students, when there are no more gendered quote at work, when divorce and…
/r/MensRights24/08/23 02:53 AM
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In the U.S. there are more women voters than men. The fact that it's sexist draft is the issue, not who decides which men get drafted.
/r/MensRights24/08/23 02:49 AM
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I would look up if you are still legally considered the parent. You should be, despite mother being the primary care giver. Then follow up on legal rights as a parent regarding school notifications. I suspect the law would support them being required to inform parent, or which you are one. This may only be school policy, not regulation. So raise bloody hell, call the media, petition and get other Dad's involved. Make it cost them so much time and effort it's easier to make it dual parental notif…
/r/MensRights26/07/23 09:43 PM
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It’s not a moot point. There are a number of things men cannot do until they register that women get without such as get a federal student loan. That’s it’s also a felony not to register is key. That’s i huge issue so don’t dismiss it just because selective service hasn’t been used recently. Once registered you are at risk if it is ver comes down to it. And women are not.
/r/MensRights24/07/23 02:01 PM
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Women have had the opportunity since the 1970s in general and before that in some things.
/r/MensRights23/07/23 07:57 PM
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The ones driving men to suicide.
/r/MensRights18/07/23 03:12 AM
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Yep. Which always begs the question, “if she was responsible for getting pregnant with another man's child, why isn't she responsible for caring for the child with the other man?”
/r/MensRights16/07/23 07:45 PM
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Therapy won’t solve the injustices. Start there instead.
/r/MensRights16/07/23 07:41 PM
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Really? Who does most of then mining, gets the oil, does the farming, creates the steel, builds the buildings, the electrical grid, the sewers, and all the infrastructure of a modern society? Who maintains it? Almost overwhelmingly it’s men. In many of the fields it 95%+. Then add in who does most law enforcement, security, firefighting, ambulance, life flight? You mentioned healthcare workers, with the base materials almost always mined, refined etc. by men you would have no tools, no supplies.…
/r/MensRights11/07/23 03:55 AM
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Go out in the woods. There are multiple benefits to your sense of peace that come from getting into nature. Yes, professional help, but a daily walk in a park or woods or field will help as well.
/r/MensRights10/07/23 12:32 AM
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Please explain how “I don’t like behavior X because I feel it’s disrespectful” is controlling. Take gender out of it. Is it controlling if a gay man tells his partner, “I don't like it when you flirt with other men as it’s disrespectful of our relationship”? What if it's a wife saying it to her husband? Boundaries are what behaviors you will accept n a partner. So how is his “I won’t accept a partner who posts nearly nude photos and has other sexual partners” controlling? She is free to continue…
/r/MensRights09/07/23 10:56 PM
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Women dress up to compete with other women even more often than they do to attract men. Look at a workplace with married women. They still compete with each other.
/r/MensRights09/07/23 10:47 PM
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Still doesn’t fix the divorce laws in most of the western world. Don't enter into a contract where you partner gets rewarded for breaking the contract.
/r/MensRights09/07/23 08:23 AM
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Until the marital and divorce laws change, don't get married, even to a virgin. Her being a virgin only helps reduce the likelihood of divorce, it doesn't reduce it that much. Marriage in the west now is a contract where the is rewarded for leaving even if she was the one breaking vows.
/r/MensRights09/07/23 08:14 AM
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It’s a process that will burn itself out. Hollywood movies have more competition than ever. Their box office declines have shown that whole movies aren't good to fill the coffers. Audiences don't resonate with a female lead who is overpowered, abrasive, arrogant, and yet still a victim and can never lose or fail. No guy can beat her even though she's half the size of the men she's fighting, and generally hasn't done anything to win other than have plot armor so thick she can’t lose. Bottom line,…
/r/MensRights09/07/23 07:57 AM
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I don't mind a female super hero but the challenge is n todays cinema she is NOT allowed to have a true hero's journey with all the necessary failure, suffering and growth. That they,be taken iconic characters and destroyed them (essentially undoing all they learned, grew into and achieved) in order to replace them with perfect, more powerful and in all ways better female replacements isn't good storytelling. Look at the box office and you can see what such woke storytelling is doing. Ripley was…
/r/MensRights09/07/23 07:51 AM
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I'm much like you, 56, kids are grown, arrived and have some grand kids. But I'll argue for divorce reform, alimony reform, men's health reform, and so on. I get those some names. It's just SIGN language (Shame, Insult, Guilt, and Need to be Right) because they can’t address what you're saying. I'm also an ex-Christian and get much the same from Christians who can’t respond to an argument against their church's policies. They attack you rather than dealing with the argument. Just means you're wi…
/r/MensRights04/07/23 07:50 PM
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I've been ignoring most movies the past few years. Just watched Three Days of the Condor again. Amazing movie with low budget, no CGI, no superheroes, but tight writing, good suspense, and oddly enough a very feminine woman who shows a ton of strength in a frightening situation.
/r/MensRights04/07/23 03:45 AM
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Ask them to demonstrate that whatever it is they are talking about it is an exclusively male behavior.
/r/MensRights02/07/23 02:31 AM
2

Just ask the wishful thinkers this, “Okay, somehow are gone tomorrow. You think there will be no more violence? What about the high rates of DV in lesbian couples? What about women who are psychopaths, sociopaths, or just plain violent offenders, what happens to them? Also, one last thing, who enforces your rules? The statement, ‘violence never settles anything’ is idiotic because violence has settled more than any other process and is ultimately the foundation of law. Being able to enforce a la…
/r/MensRights02/07/23 01:58 AM
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Women who aren’t offering traditional value in dating get exactly what non traditional women got 100 years ago, lots of men using her, none respecting her enough to commit. There’s a reason those 'traditional views' lasted so long and worked so well. Women are hypergamous, it’s just their nature. Men are territorial, it’s also just their nature. Modern dating enables the hypergamy to a degree it’s never hit before while denying the territoriality of men. Ignoring biological drivers in the name o…
/r/MensRights28/06/23 01:41 PM
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Nope, make it mandatory so it’s not a thing the potential father has to even consider if it will set the mother. It’s not just paternity at issue. Also genetic defects, best known immediately. Also, would help avoid men who aren’t the father paying for someone else's child. What reason for not making it mandatory beyond a feeling that it shows distrust?
/r/MensRights26/06/23 03:36 AM
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Position it this way. There is a tiny percentage at the top who have the most influence. Historically they have been men, today that’s not entirely true. But as a system western governments privilege women far more than men. Feminism has been a tool claimed to be for equality but over 60 years of it being pushed have shown it to seriously disadvantage men. So no, it’s not a 'both sides' issue because what you have is an entrenched system favoring women supported by that top 1% (unless you can sh…
/r/MensRights21/06/23 05:11 AM
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Are we supposed to adapt to your wife’s feelings? Hell, no. Nor your woman’s. Just making the point that even for a woman who has tried to change it and worked at it, she still reacts emotionally and communicates that way too. I never suggested we should change a thing about society other than recognize it’s how women are wired. Learn it, learn how to translate it and use it.
/r/MensRights21/06/23 03:00 AM
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Because it’s women’s nature to frame things from their feelings, often without determining if their feelings are objectively appropriate to the situation. Hell, I’ve been married 35+ years and would consider my wife a true partner. Yet I still see this behavior all the time. Yes, I do call her on it. And no, it hasn’t stopped her from doing it, just cut down on the more egregious cases. Perfect example the other day. Wife had 'rescued' a set of plastic ice cream containers because she wants to u…
/r/MensRights21/06/23 02:28 AM
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I question that research because I’ve seen other studies that went into not just the “time” but how it was used. Guess which gender stayed focused on their cleaning and which did not? Yeah, a lot of the extra time women claimed to have spent cleaning was spent taking care of other things like responding to texts, posting on social media, grabbing a small snack, talking on the phone. Which makes sense as men are thought to have been persistence hunters during our hunter gatherer time. Persistence…
/r/MensRights16/06/23 01:09 AM
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Glad to hear. I thought feminism was a good thing in the 80s and 90s. Since then it’s kind of split with the leadership going more extreme and others still fighting for ‘equality’.
/r/MensRights15/06/23 02:13 AM
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Funny how the woman has so many choices and no accountability for them. She chooses the man, chooses whether to use birth control. Then if she does get pregnant can generally argent a day after pill or an abortion, or keep it and give for adoption, or once born, abandon it at a no questions asked location. Notice how none of them have the mother responsible for lifetime provision or care. And the choices to kill it, give it away or abandon it don't come with fines or jail time. But the man who h…
/r/MensRights14/06/23 06:42 AM
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I'll watch it tomorrow. Sorry, fell sleep.
/r/MensRights14/06/23 06:14 AM
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Okay. And I’m going off 35 years as a parent, now grand parent. I tracked Spenser’s in Quicken all those years. Did taxes. So I’m well aware of the extra costs that are often generalized in studies or videos. My question is, why didn’t you just search google and see how many different organizations have studies or articles like that? Intuit has one, so does Forbes. Forbes is not bad at forecasting financial nvestments and expenditures on trends.
/r/MensRights14/06/23 02:21 AM
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What rights do women in the western world lack that men have? And have you considered the responsibilities that men have which women do not? I'm old enough to remember first wave feminism. Please stop saying feminism means equality of genders because second and later waves of feminism do NOT mean that. They are essentially to benefit women at the expense of men. Egalitarian is a word that means equality between genders. I'm all for equal pay for equal performance, and equal opportunity to advanc…
/r/MensRights14/06/23 02:12 AM
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Given I'm parent with four adult children, no it isn’t wrong. If anything it underrates the cost over 18 years. You're assuming only mortgage. Which is BS. Think about just adding another person, cost of diapers, lots of doctors visits, toys, games, furniture, rides or transportation, school projects, breakage (paying for what kids damage), athletics, music, college fund, and more. Some are optional, most are not. And the rebut you have assumes apartment living and unchanged number of rooms. How…
/r/MensRights14/06/23 02:02 AM
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Agree with you. I was cut because in our location at the time religious leaders were promoting it for “cleanliness”. It was 1960s America.
/r/MensRights14/06/23 01:57 AM
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I don’t recall it on YouTube but there are studies that show the average cost of raiding a child. Here’s one from U.S. Dept of Agriculture.
/r/MensRights14/06/23 01:49 AM
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Several things really wrong with the concept as executed. First, they are doxing the men which can have consequences like being fired. Second, they do no vetting to ensure the picture and name they share truly matches the person they dated. There have been several instances where they doxed a guy who wasn’t dating at all, couldn’t have been on the dates claimed. Third, as with so many women's only spaces it’s run by emotion and competition over reason and objectivity. Fourth, women in these foru…
/r/MensRights14/06/23 12:52 AM
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I like to correct that one when I hear it, “Behind every successful man there is a woman who motivated him to succeed.” Most accept it without realizing what’s implied, if she motivated him as his wife/supporter, or motivated him as the one who hurt him. Either way, he’s motivated.
/r/MensRights14/06/23 12:47 AM
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In terms of assets and income, have you talked to an investment attorney about the possibility of moving stuff into trusts to protect it? Reduce the risk permanently if you can?
/r/MensRights06/06/23 01:35 PM
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Thanks for that. Entirely correct to check sources. And push the media to report correctly.
/r/MensRights06/06/23 04:23 AM
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I'm aware there is a difference, it used to be that only men could be drafted because only men could own property or vote. Women are now equivalent without a matching responsibility. If you wish to apply your arguments that fine, but what is the equal responsibility? Men are drafted for the war, suffer separation from family, privation, pain, and more, even death or disability. If society wants to argue men should suffer these things due to biological differences then what are the women to suffe…
/r/MensRights06/06/23 04:04 AM
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Prove those claims. This is an activist sub for men’s rights. When examined the movement tends to have a significantly more balanced approach than most of the modern feminist movement. For this sub specifically show the women haters that stand out against the invective of feminist subs like two chromosomes. Because “Men should die” is a man hating statement but “women are hyper famous is not”
/r/MensRights05/06/23 01:32 AM
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That will likely be the key, include Facebook as the platform which hasn’t been upholding its guideline thus creating the place this could happen. Hit their wallets and this means much more.
/r/MensRights05/06/23 01:28 AM
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Why is it “only natural Ukraine drafts men”? That’s the key issue. If women are supposedly equal, with equal opportunity, why do they not having a corresponding responsibility?
/r/MensRights04/06/23 10:18 PM
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Do we know if it’s only single women, or is there a significant portion of married who are doing the same?
/r/MensRights04/06/23 10:17 PM
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You keep trying to insert 'personhood'. Please explain how that fits in the discussion of value at birth or other points in life between men and women. Aren’t they all equally persons? What personhood rights do women not have that men have?
/r/MensRights02/06/23 11:34 PM
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It’s a power move on her part. Don’t tell her you want a divorce, tell her she’s earned a divorce and you simply cannot be with someone who cannot be trusted.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 05:06 PM
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True enough. Often the way something is defined in the study, say rape for e ample, shows it isn’t a good study. When it’s impossible for a woman to commit rape, men are the only rapists, right?
/r/MensRights12/05/23 03:09 AM
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I like this approach but have been using, "Can you link to the data?" Because so often it's some magazine article rather than the actual study. And sometimes even the study is poorly done.
/r/MensRights10/05/23 06:41 PM
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My question, have any of these groups targeted guys who are not in the dating market at all? I'm talking like men who've gone their own way and just stopped dating years ago.
/r/MensRights10/05/23 03:56 PM
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Plus too little time spent on math, logic, and critical thinking. Those teach you how to think, including being critical of data sources, claims, and conclusions. And willing to toss them if you find a flaw.
/r/MensRights10/05/23 03:48 PM
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Okay. So next question. If both parties are adults with at least 5 years of dating experience and we want to be nuanced, how creepy it is for each of the situations below (rate it 1 - 10 with 10 being max and 1 being min). She's 22 in all of these. So only men's ages vary. My ratings shown in parens (I'm not sure I understand why so feel free to criticize). He's 27 - how creepy? (1) He's 37 - how creepy? (3) He's 47 - how creepy? (5) He's 57 - how creepy? (6-7, strangely at this big of divide an…
/r/MensRights05/05/23 02:11 PM
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My question is, if both parties are adults and both want the relationship, why is it creepy? And what’s the max age gap before it becomes creepy?
/r/MensRights05/05/23 01:22 PM
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That's the argument all right. Now consider that it would work the same way if both bathrooms were one at a time, any gender, which would give actual equal treatment to both genders. Rather than this preferential treat,ent to women. What happens when a bus of mixed gender shows up? If both bathrooms are any gender it's first come, first served. But this way, odds are most of the men will wind up having to wait while women (who can be unnecessarily slow at their toilet) go first.
/r/MensRights28/04/23 01:09 AM
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I'm an older man, soon to be late 50s so take this for whatever you think it’s worth. Wake up every day and try to be a better “you” tha you were the day before. It may be better by tiny steps some days and huge leaps other days. It’s all progress. Even sometimes failing or being weak are progress if you learn. Own your actions and acknowledge your worth. Do this and you will respect what you see in the mirror everyday, regardless of where you started. It’s hard, and often seems like you carry i…
/r/MensRights22/04/23 10:03 PM
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And they got their asses handed to them by several groups. Don’t believe the movie, it’s not even close to accurate.
/r/MensRights19/04/23 08:25 PM
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The one about the African slaving tribe? The one where the writers had to 180 history to make it fit their desired narrative that women warriors could defeat their male opponents?
/r/MensRights18/04/23 10:25 PM
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Just do it to her and tell her you’re also doing it for safety ass you are the one who will pay the cost if it goes to marriage and then divorce. She’s looking for resources and making sure you’re not a rapist. Safety. You’re looking to see if she’s been married, claimed domestic violence against any previous ex, and to see if she’s a gold digger. Safety. Goose and Gander, right?
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 01:13 AM
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