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Perhaps Reddit should be investigated for their role in facilitating the radicalisation of people like this. The families of the victims might want to consider filing a lawsuit if it can be proven that the shooter was influenced by the horrifically misandrist subreddits that Reddit admins refuse to remove for promoting hate no matter how much we report them.
/r/EverydayMisandry18/12/24 12:25 AM
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Oh, I see the misunderstanding now. I was using "agency" in the sense of actual, objectively assessed agency, not perceived agency. Hyperagency and hypoagency are issues of perception; i.e. hypoagency by definition is the act of underestimating someone's agency. If it helps, just replace "agency" with "autonomy" or "freedom" in the sentence "This is what happens when women are allowed personal agency and voting rights."
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/12/24 05:52 PM
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It's possible that their relationship wasn't particularly close. At the very least, if he was afraid of the situation, then he should have persuaded his girlfriend to be afraid as well, keep her distance, and just call the police. I know, intellectually, that my girlfriend is much stronger and more physically imposing than me and so she probably doesn't need my protection. I still instinctively want to protect her and would do so without really thinking about it.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/12/24 11:57 PM
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Meanwhile a (white, if that makes a difference) colleague of mine in Canada keeps talking about wanting to live as an expat in India because he thinks his passive income of about 2,000 Canadian dollars per month will let him live like a rockstar there and women will be all over him.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/12/24 11:41 PM
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Daniel Penny decided to be a hero and got "rewarded" with criminal charges that cost a lot of money to defend. A woman in his place who did the same thing would have been much less likely to be charged with anything. If my girlfriend and I were to encounter a similar situation and she were to insist on intervening, I would have gone with her while trying to talk her out of it and cautioning her not to engage in physical violence (she's quite strong for a woman and could easily kick the arse of a…
/r/EverydayMisandry16/12/24 08:34 PM
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Does she have a Scandinavian boyfriend/husband?
/r/EverydayMisandry16/12/24 06:20 PM
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It looks like X responded to the reports and removed this post. Does India have a law against telling groups of people to kill themselves?
/r/EverydayMisandry16/12/24 06:19 PM
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I assume the governments of India (federal and states) don't care how many people leave the country when their population is over a billion, but a system like this sure seems like a strong motivator for emigration.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/12/24 06:15 PM
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From which dictionary are you getting this definition of agency? Oxford defines it, in the personal sense, as: action or intervention, especially such as to produce a particular effect. "canals carved by the agency of running water" a thing or person that acts to produce a particular result. Cambridge defines it, in the personal sense, as: the ability to take action or to choose what action to take: The protest gave us a sense of agency, a sense of our own power to make a difference. When the le…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/12/24 06:09 PM
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History is full of changes. For me there is no question about whether or not the current state of gender relations is going to change; it definitely will because the current state is absolutely not sustainable. The question for me is one of what the change will end up being. Hopefully it's towards a more reasonable, egalitarian framework in which men and women are both seen as having an equal capacity for good and evil deeds, and are both seen as equally likely to tell the truth. One of the othe…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/12/24 08:41 AM
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Oh, okay I think I know what you mean. I have experienced something similar, mainly because I never deliberately sought interracial relationships and rather just chose to respond positively to women who practically threw themselves at me, which obviously only happens if they are quite obsessed. So, basically all of them were a little too into their preference and would say some odd things, like poetically comparing my skin to cream and my eyes to emeralds. In hindsight it seems a little weird, b…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/12/24 08:33 AM
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Interesting; I just assumed that if they are showing it on video then they are showing all 919 guys (although since they were wearing masks I guess they could reuse the same guys a few times). I watched a bit of the video just to confirm that there indeed was a video of it and the event really happened. I had no interest in actually counting, so thank you for bringing to my attention that the number is actually disputed by Lisa herself. Considering that the veracity of the 251 record supposedly …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/12/24 09:40 PM
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Well I know some couples, mostly white man + asian woman, where both of them specifically have that racial preference for each other and their relationship is happy and stable. They are more stable than any of the interracial relationships in which I have been involved, and one thing that made them short-lived was that at some point the novelty wore off and I increasingly found white women catching my eye. The only reason I was willing to be in those relationships in the first place is that the …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/12/24 09:26 PM
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You have a rather ironic username for someone who is dark-skinned. I acknowledge that the racial factor makes things worse, and I think being male is still by far the largest prejudicial factor when dealing with the police. That is, a white man in Canada, the US, Europe, Australia, New Zealand, etc. who was born and raised there, and who was dating a dark-skinned immigrant woman, would still be encountering heavy prejudice from the police if he tried to report to them that his date was making hi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/12/24 08:50 PM
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I assume she wants to have sex with 1,000 men in a single day so that she can break Lisa Sparks' record of 919 that was (EDIT: allegedly) set back in 2004. That record was (EDIT: allegedly) set in an organised (even if illegal) studio with professional management of the logistics; I don't think Lily Phillips has the proper resources for this. I also think it's a really stupid record to be trying to set in the first place, but as long as everyone is consenting they can do what they like.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/12/24 07:57 PM
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I would have reported her to the police for that and presented my audio recording of our conversation as evidence that she indeed had the knives, that she indeed regarded the knives as weapons and not merely as wilderness survival tools or something, and that I never touched her without permission (in case she tried to turn the whole thing back on me with a false accusation). Perhaps you live somewhere where it's actually legal for civilians to carry weapons, though.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/12/24 07:30 PM
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What's the rationale for point 12? If one is going to date interracially, why is it a problem to date someone who is specifically attracted to the features of one's race? In other words, what's the difference between a black man dating a black woman who specifically prefers black men, a black man dating a white woman who specifically prefers black men, and a black man dating a white woman who apparently has no racial preference?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/12/24 07:13 PM
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My own mother told me to always downplay my financial status for that reason. Pretending to be broke might be going too far in the other direction and scaring away some well-intentioned women (at least as far as long term relationships are concerned) but presenting oneself as a person of limited means is a good approach.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/12/24 10:14 PM
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At least the women who are inclined to dish it out tend to telegraph that during the first few dates. That makes it reasonably easy to screen them out of my life. Some of them even insist on desecrating their own bodies in ways that clearly signal their mental instability, which saves me even more time.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/12/24 08:23 PM
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F can use weapons and attack M when M is sleeping or distracted. Even if M is the strongest human ever existed, when he is sleeping, he is completely defenseless. Not to mention, M can be ambushed by F. Even without weapons, F can harm M physically with poisons. F can also drug M and make M pass out, then M will be no stronger than a toddler. On days when M gets severely sick and weak, F can attack M and hurt M easily. Relevant. Even with her own video recording as evidence of her being guilty o…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/12/24 06:34 PM
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There's also an escalation effect if minor acts of physical violence are not treated as a big deal, and in my experience minor acts of physical violence escalate out of verbal abuse. I tolerated a lot of verbal abuse from my first girlfriend (I allowed myself to be convinced that I deserved it), but I had enough self-respect to make a big deal when she escalated to punching me when she was angry. Whenever she punched me it was just one punch, so even though it physically hurt it was quite physic…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/12/24 06:13 PM
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Public advertisements targeting investors are either trying to convince them to invest their money in particular stocks, or trying to convince them to trust certain advisors. I have never seen any advertising targeting investors to convince them to stay away from a particular stock. I was talking about casual conversations (I have some wealthy acquaintances), although I suppose one could also post this information on various online forums about finance.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/12/24 01:30 AM
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What do you mean? I'm talking about the very same "nametheproblem" subreddit that you mentioned in the screenshot; it's still there with that exact spelling.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/24 10:33 PM
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The fact that the "nametheproblem" subreddit still exists and continues to have new, hateful posts made that use the very same spotlight and nadir fallacies, looks like very strong evidence that they haven't changed their policy. I think I'm quite comfortable showing investors that picture plus a link to "nametheproblem" so that they can see what Reddit continues to allow.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/24 09:40 PM
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Somewhat relevant.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/24 09:21 PM
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For me the pros have always outweighed the cons, but I might feel differently if my livelihood was being provably, negatively affected by DEI filters. As someone who currently works freelance, being white actually makes my resume look somewhat more impressive since nobody can imagine that any of the promotions I won, back when I worked for companies as an employee, were gained through anything other than merit. My girlfriend, on the other hand, is much more exposed to the effects of DEI policies…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/24 09:18 PM
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This is from three years ago? Are you aware of any more recent (post-IPO) confirmation, directly from an admin like this, that this is still their policy?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/24 07:18 PM
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I mostly have left already; morbid curiosity keeps me looking at it for a little bit each evening, and that's becoming less and less. After seeing this, I'm inclined to make it a new year's resolution to disengage entirely, except for the purpose of taking screenshots to use as the basis for snark elsewhere. Now that Reddit is a publicly traded company, I think this screenshot should be shown in more places than just here. Show it to investors to let them know what kind of corporate culture Redd…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/24 07:00 PM
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Oh, I suppose that applies to some extent in eastern Europe. For a moment I thought you might be trying to make an analogy to Brexit, except that would make no sense given how diverse the UK is.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/24 06:32 PM
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As long as I'm getting downvoted anyway, I'll say that I'm increasingly flabbergasted by the displays of intellectual laziness and incuriosity from Americans. I know the US education system was heavily gutted and corrupted decades ago, with the resulting stereotype of the gullible, poorly educated American going back at least as far as the 1990s, yet it seems like the median average continues to decline every year. Someone who I thought was a fellow Briton due to her obsession with our royal fam…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/24 06:26 PM
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It is? How so?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/24 06:07 PM
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Ah, that makes sense then. I still think it would be funny to have some kind of "Animal Farm" parody where instead of the farm animals revolting against the humans (bourgeois), the pigs form a porcine separatist movement and start their own independent farm, thinking everything will be wonderful on a farm with only pigs. When it ends up not being wonderful, they pin the blame on pigs who are not an "ideal" shade of pink and/or who they deem to be "species traitors" or something like that, and ev…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/12/24 09:43 PM
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What's also amazing is that both The National Review (far right) and The Guardian (far left) have published articles that agree on the Democrats' misandry. If you think those two publications represent the extreme ends of the political spectrum, then you haven't seen extremism.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/12/24 06:07 PM
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If AI was really "intelligent" then it would be able to consistently fool you into thinking it was written by a human (although not necessarily the human who purports to have written it), such that "sounds like AI" would be meaningless.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/12/24 04:44 PM
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whiter than me Are you saying that you're of mixed race? Or are you saying that there's some kind of whiteness scale that applies among caucasians such that even though we are all classified as white, some of us are whiter than others? There's probably a fun parody of George Orwell's "Animal Farm" that could be written like this.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/12/24 04:37 PM
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That's interesting, and kind of horrifying, that you lost them all at once (or at least a very large chunk at once). I have been losing and replacing friends in small increments at a time by refusing to tolerate things like "men are trash" being said in my presence.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/12/24 06:46 PM
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Does your family know you're involved? Or your partner? Or your friends? My partner is more involved than I am, and we keep no secrets from each other about our political views. As for my family and friends, I see no point in openly labeling myself as anything because even less controversial labels like "liberal" seem to be avenues for strawman attacks. If I'm going to be attacked for my views, then I at least want to be attacked for my views, not the views of others who happen to identify with …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/12/24 06:43 PM
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The article says he was arrested based on her statement, i.e. the amount of evidence that he used force on her is the same amount of evidence for the claim that someone has been haunted by a ghost: one person claiming to have seen it with absolutely nothing to corroborate the claim.
/r/EverydayMisandry03/12/24 05:44 PM
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I always assumed that the high rates of emigration from India were for economic reasons, but if India's laws are this psychotic then perhaps there are other factors.
/r/EverydayMisandry03/12/24 05:39 PM
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Thanks for bringing that to my attention, I have fixed it now.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/12/24 05:33 PM
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Getting married without having already come to some kind of mutual understanding about how these things will be handled (I'm not even talking about a formal, legally binding prenuptial agreement here, although I highly recommend having that too) seems like a very silly thing to do.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/12/24 09:22 PM
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This. If a woman really cares about penis size, she will probably mention it along with her height preference in her dating app profile, or she will make a point during dating of determining the size of it as soon as possible so that she knows she's not wasting her time (she can do that without actually agreeing to sex or promising sex). The fact that this almost never happens indicates that few women care that much, and if they do care then they tend to care in the direction of it being appropr…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/12/24 08:34 PM
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I haven't read the book, but I did do a teaching year in Japan in the early 2000s via the JET program so I can comment to some degree on what he would have experienced there. Unlike "Niceguy", I had already been reasonably successful in dating. I prefer large, blue-eyed white women, so I expected that if I dated anyone in Japan it was going to be other JET teachers. What immediately shocked me in Japan was how readily Japanese women would indicate interest in me. At least half of the conversatio…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/12/24 08:00 PM
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Obvious sock account is obvious (created November 15, 2024 and only made two comments before this one) and now blocked. Use the first account to respond. You typed all of that out but couldn't be assed to do a 5 second google search that confirms what they just said Why are you assuming that I didn’t do a Google search myself? Did I say I didn’t do one? Posting three links doesn’t prove that you did a Google search to get to them. This is one method that people who aren’t talking out of their ar…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/12/24 06:12 PM
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LessWrong has never explicitly identified with a political label but their faux-rationality is an essential part of the Alt-Right pipeline to the point that this has been pointed out by the explicitly identifying alt-right like Breitbart. Hey, smart guy, do you see that button for making a hyperlink? Why didn't you use it to turn "this has been pointed out by the explicitly identifying alt-right like Breitbart" into a hyperlink to whatever Breitbart article makes this claim? Is that because you'…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/12/24 08:39 AM
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Can you back this up with evidence, and without committing the guilt by association fallacy? Or are you talking out of your arse?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/12/24 04:08 AM
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What the hell does LessWrong have to do with the alt-right?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/12/24 03:35 AM
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"Low value" is, as far as I can tell, Female Dating Strategy terminology. I haven't heard it outside of that sphere, and FDS doesn't represent the general female population very well. I think people would do well to avoid giving credence to FDS terminology through repetition. There was also a case where a guy was sentenced to life in prison, but this video breaks down how he was basically groomed into the act: Just so you know, the broad use of the word "groomed" like this, where it gets used to…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/12/24 05:24 PM
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Supposedly they phrase it in a matter that is less blunt than that, but I have yet to find any such study that actually lets me see the exact wording of these questions other than the Malamuth study. Malamuth's survey doesn't ask about what people have actually done, but rather asks about a hypothetical situation where one is assured that there will be no consequences for their actions. It doesn't ask for a yes/no response but instead asks participants to rate their likelihood of doing certain t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/12/24 12:52 AM
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At the beginning of the 1970s it was much, much more difficult for women to destroy men with false accusations, especially if that man was her husband. It was during the 1970s that the legal concept of marital rape was first established. As a brief aside, feminists will often talk about marital rape laws as if, prior to their enactment, a husband could simply force himself on his wife whenever he wanted with no legal consequences, i.e. he would not be guilty of rape or sexual assault, and he wou…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/11/24 02:40 PM
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It's more economically right-wing in the US, e.g. the Democratic Party in the US won't implement medicare for all, while the Conservative Party in Canada won't get rid of it. Think about that; the "left-wing" party in the US is further to the right than the "right-wing" party in Canada on economic issues. When it comes to social issues, there is a big difference in right-wing politics between the US and Canada because the Conservative Party isn't obsessed with religion, abortion, and trans peopl…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/11/24 08:33 AM
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Hell, I'm not really that into politics. The only reason I know much about it is cuz that "friend" kept trying to bring politics into our discussions, and it took my own research into politics to deprogram myself from the shit he was trying to feed me. You're definitely not alone in this. A lot of my own motivation to acquire political knowledge has come from similar situations. But I notice even those women still respond to a more assertive man (I think this would be being attracted to a man's …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/11/24 08:42 PM
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What are you hoping to accomplish by taking tentative conclusions that are insulting in nature, like "latently homophobic" and "a bad, conceited and solipsistic person", and then explicitly stating them instead of keeping them in your own head? That's where they belong unless and until they actually become warranted. At that point, if you're actually going to express them like that, it should be because you are now want to either disengage with a parting shot (which is kind of rude but people do…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/11/24 07:46 PM
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From my own experience, there are a lot of ppl in liberal societies that are holding conservative views, but they're usually more undercover with it and even show understanding and acceptance of liberal values It’s not even so much that they hold specifically conservative views, but rather that the “silent majority” of people are not beholden to any “political tribe” and either have their own views, or don’t even care enough about politics to have meaningful views. If they do have their own mean…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/11/24 07:10 PM
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I suppose I wasn't as clear as I could have been on this point in my previous response. To clarify: Scenario A: A stranger, to whom I am not attracted (it doesn't matter if this is a man or a woman), approaches me and asks nicely if I would like to have sexual intercourse with them. They politely take "no" for an answer. Do I find this to be inappropriate/offensive? Yes; very. Do I find this to be personally insulting? No. Scenario B: A stranger, to whom I am not attracted (it doesn't matter if …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/11/24 09:23 PM
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I don't think your date making that clear was at all unreasonable. I get that she specified that out of an abundance of caution, and it didn't bother me much at the time. The only reason it bothered me at all is that we had known each other for long enough at this point (we knew each other for quite a while before we started dating) that she should have known that I'm not the type to suddenly put the moves on anyone. I'm not denying that there is some truth to the stereotype about men on which t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/11/24 07:39 PM
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I used to manage departments of people whose jobs required a lot of written correspondence with clients. They weren't very high-paying jobs either; the starting pay was in the band of about 1.5 - 1.8 times the minimum wage depending on experience. It was very easy to filter out applicants who lacked the necessary language skills. I just wrote a simple script to run their applications through a spelling and grammar checker and count the errors found. I then sorted the applications in ascending or…
/r/EverydayMisandry27/11/24 07:26 PM
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There's a simple tactic that I have found to be effective at either silencing people who say this crap about men "lacking empathy" or being "emotionally stunted", or getting them to actually clarify what they mean to the point that it can be properly engaged. Basically, the tactic is to mimic how bug reports work for computer software. In the software industry, people can't get away with just saying "the software doesn't work properly", "the software is broken", "the software runs too slowly", e…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/11/24 07:12 PM
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The cretin who wrote that text also failed to place an apostrophe after the possessive (it's "ladies' toilets", not "ladies toilets"), failed to use periods at the end of the second and third items, and used capital letters where they were not warranted. Therefore, it's entirely possible that this moron paired "male" with "ladies" out of sheer ineptitude rather than any kind of malice (see Hanlon's razor).Why was such a clod given any job that involves writing any kind of text that represents th…
/r/EverydayMisandry27/11/24 06:55 PM
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That's a meta-analysis of many other studies, which in turn need to be independently scrutinised. So many of these studies use dishonest surveys that are designed to produce as many "reports" of sexual violence as possible, even from people who don't actually consider themselves to have ever been a victim of sexual violence. This applies even more to ones that claim to have surveyed people and asked them if they perpetrated sexual violence. Unless you can see the actual survey that was presented…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/11/24 10:35 PM
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The mother is extremely vile for using the UAE authorities in this manner, and may very well have been motivated by misandry. She wouldn't have been able to do this if Fakana had researched the laws of the UAE concerning the conduct in which he was considering engaging, and obeyed them. She also wouldn't have been able to do this if Fakana's parents had decided to vacation somewhere with a more reasonable legal system, or if they had cautioned their son about the UAE's laws. If the mother had co…
/r/EverydayMisandry26/11/24 12:56 AM
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There is more nuanced language, but unfortunately it requires using more words. Despite the English language containing over a million words, there are still a lot of concepts for which we don't have a singular word to describe it, while other concepts get a plethora of synonyms. In the context of a highly controlling relationship, the most important distinction is going to be that of whether or not any element of that control violates the law (or crosses some defined moral line if we're trying …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/11/24 12:17 AM
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I experienced something similar. It was after I got my vasectomy, so there was no pregnancy concern, and before the shift in the scientific consensus on the transmissibility of HIV via vaginal sex (at the time they believed that healthy men had a serious chance of getting HIV from unprotected sex with women, and we were all cautioned accordingly). Neither of us had been tested recently and we hadn't yet had any discussion about birth control (so she didn't know about my vasectomy) so we used a c…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/11/24 10:30 PM
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Crimes with a mens rea component don't occur unless mens rea and actus reus occur together. Recklessly assuming consent satisfies the mens rea component, but if the assumption actually turns out to be correct then there was no actus reus (one can't rape the willing). In the above scenario, that puts the other person in the slightly odd position of getting to decide whether or not someone else is a criminal*. *Except in Canada, where the supreme court actually ruled that people can only consent t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/11/24 10:05 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that happened to you, and isn't calling it "rape" kind of misusing the word in the manner that you described in your comment above? If she directly threatened to hurt you or make a false accusation against you unless you had sex with her then sure, it's an appropriate word in that case. It would also be appropriate if she had very clearly implied the threat. From the way you are describing it, however, this sounds more like reluctant consent. I'm not saying she wasn't abusive; …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/11/24 09:50 PM
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I had completely forgotten about Titus until you jogged my memory just now! I now remember watching a few episodes of it during a family trip to Canada, where the television was able to pick up a FOX station broadcasting from across the border. We were channel surfing and stopped on this show because it had the legendary Stacy Keach in it, and we thought it was the funniest American show we had ever seen. It's too bad they don't make quality programming like this anymore.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/11/24 08:24 PM
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Wasn't the "proposition" just to join him in his hotel room for coffee? Sure, he could have (and probably should have) suggested a public place rather than his hotel room, but don't women frequently complain when men assume that a woman's invitation into her home or hotel room means that she intends to have sex with him? It seems extremely hypocritical to then assume that a man's invitation must actually be for that. It reminds me of when I first started dating my previous girlfriend during the …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/11/24 07:42 PM
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I don't know why they insist on combining the American spelling (skeptic instead of sceptic) with a UK domain name. For some reason, that really bothers me; can they not afford to just buy the currently unused skeptic.org domain? A proper sceptic community is composed of people who accept their own capacity for bias. Almost all of us have it; we simply won't be as sceptical as we should be of claims that we want to be true, even when we consciously try to be. We should therefore welcome the inpu…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/11/24 08:45 PM
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I agree that it would result in a significant drop, and I think quality is more important than quantity. By "quality" in this context, I don't mean that a post be profound or thought-provoking, but rather that it be an example of sincere misandry that one actually encounters in their day-to-day life. Social media is a whole other world full of bots, sockpuppets, and trolls. Perhaps a separate subreddit could be forked for the purpose of cataloguing examples of pseudonymous social media misandry.
/r/EverydayMisandry22/11/24 09:35 PM
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So basically, this would be a rule against using social media as examples of everyday misandry, unless it's from the verified account of a public figure? I fully support that. The description text of this subreddit begins with "Cataloging the sexism that comprises the background radiation of our lives." To me, that means the misandry I see when consuming mainstream media and the misandry I can encounter just walking around outside such as misandrist posters and billboards, or misandrist policies…
/r/EverydayMisandry22/11/24 09:26 PM
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That's the best you can offer? An article from over thirty years ago, that Cenk has since disavowed? It doesn't even contain any racist statement unless you interpret "So the question arises of why the Armenians would bother to conjure up such stories, and even go as far as, committing approximately 200 acts of terrorism since 1973 to further their cause" as being directed against the Armenian ethnicity rather than the specific individuals who allegedly engaged in those activities. Taken in the …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/11/24 11:46 PM
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Are you able to produce a verifiable quote of Cenk making a racist comment about Armenians, or not? Failure to produce one will be interpreted as an admission of the latter.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/11/24 11:18 PM
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TYT seems to be one of the few rational American media sources left, and possibly the largest of them.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/11/24 05:57 PM
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His long time cohost, Ana Kasparian, is Armenian. I'm pretty sure she would have taken issue with any racist comments he made about Armenians. Can you actually produce a verifiable quote of such a comment by him?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/11/24 05:56 PM
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The full study can be read here. It's quite thorough and an interesting read. I find it a little curious that they specifically recruited men who had experienced intimate partner violence (i.e. this was one of the stated recruitment criteria) instead of just recruiting a sample of men to take a survey that included a question about intimate partner violence. They could have then done a follow-up survey and interviews with the men who answered "yes" to the intimate partner violence question, whic…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/11/24 05:51 PM
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I looked up your comment on a certain resource whose name seems to trigger automatic comment removal if I mention it. I also looked at Baryon's response. That guy (I'm sceptical that he's actually a guy but I'll go along with it) is either insane, deliberately corrupt, or both.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/11/24 05:27 PM
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They might be blocking access from outside of India.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/11/24 07:49 PM
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We should just tell everyone to obey the law, and teach the most important laws. That would include the laws against rape/SA. That said, I don't recall being taught anything about rape/SA or the laws against it up until maybe grade 11, and everybody seemed to know what it was and that it was against the law despite it never being taught in school up until that point.
/r/EverydayMisandry19/11/24 10:24 PM
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Rapists are never punished. I love it when people make universal statements like this, because they are advertising to the world at large that they don't have even the most basic grasp of logic and therefore shouldn't be trusted to handle any task that needs logic.
/r/EverydayMisandry19/11/24 09:20 PM
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The second paragraph of the first slide is actually quite reasonable, other than her decision to say "having a constant, low grade 'bitchiness'" instead of "being assertive about her needs and boundaries". The rest of her take is typical misandrist filth. My previous girlfriend let me think everything was fine* until she was suddenly ready to break up, and that ended badly. My current girlfriend is very proactive about letting me know, in a friendly and polite way, if anything bothers her. She a…
/r/EverydayMisandry17/11/24 11:25 PM
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Ironically enough, there's a very similar saying among managers when it comes to how employees should be treated.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/11/24 11:05 PM
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Why are any of you taking anything the Daily Fail publishes at face value? Their reputation for factual reporting is in the toilet for a reason. This fact check didn't even take me 60 seconds to find in a Google search.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/11/24 07:37 PM
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Are you seriously telling me that a judge told you to "man up" while dismissing your civil complaint? You didn't answer my question about who wrote the complaint brief. Is that because you wrote it yourself despite obviously not being a lawyer, and it never even got to a judge because a clerk of the court told you it was improper (and was rude and unprofessional in how they told you)? Or is English not your first language and you are misunderstanding what "file a lawsuit" means? A native speaker…
/r/EverydayMisandry16/11/24 06:21 PM
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Try dating a woman who generalises men by their ethnicity, but it's positive for your ethnicity and negative for others. Bonus points if she does that while being the same ethnicity as you. Somehow it's both repulsive and arousing/flattering at the same time, with the latter winning the tug-of-war for at least a little while. Thanks for the wishes. At this time two years ago I never thought I would be doing this, but I have come to realise I'll almost certainly never find anyone else like her.
/r/EverydayMisandry15/11/24 03:09 PM
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"Your body, my choice" is just an edgier version of "go back to the kitchen and make me a sammich[sic]". It's funny how so many women will claim that women have higher social intelligence than men, yet so many of those same, specific women will demonstrate, in some other post, their inability to distinguish sincere statements from obvious trolling. Anyone who wants to see a sincere expression of "your body, my choice" need only go to the maternity ward of a hospital, especially an American hospi…
/r/EverydayMisandry14/11/24 08:53 PM
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Who wrote the brief for this lawsuit that the authorities dismissed? Did the authorities literally laugh at you in your presence?
/r/EverydayMisandry14/11/24 08:38 PM
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The oldest boomers are turning 78 this year. This is actually greatest generation humour.
/r/EverydayMisandry14/11/24 06:42 PM
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I wasn't impressed by any of the cooking shown (the sushi was clearly takeout and definitely a wise choice for someone who doesn't know how to cook), and instant noodles in wine glasses dressed as margaritas is tacky beyond belief (even if it tastes better than it looks). Other than that the romantic gestures are fine, even if some are a little tacky. I'm currently planning a marriage proposal and won't be taking any inspiration from anything in this video, but it's clear that these men definite…
/r/EverydayMisandry14/11/24 06:34 PM
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Don't watch if if you're feeling depressed, or if you don't have a hilarious comedy film lined up to watch immediately after. This film is scarier than Hereditary and more depressing than Hachiko.
/r/EverydayMisandry14/11/24 04:37 PM
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It makes me wonder if some people are raised with the idea of collective responsibility/guilt rather than individual responsibility/guilt, and they then internalise this way of thinking. When I was in school I remember a few collective punishments, but they were all minor and explicitly justified with the teacher or administrator saying something like "I'm not saying all of you are responsible for this and deserving of this punishment, and those of you who are not will have to share in the punis…
/r/EverydayMisandry13/11/24 06:52 PM
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It's called the Apex Fallacy when the point being made is that a particular group of people have some kind of advantage, or are particularly good in some way, based on looking at the best among them. This is closer to the Nadir Fallacy, which is saying that the general group is bad in some way, based on looking at the worst among them.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/11/24 06:45 PM
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She wasn't charged with first degree murder so the question of premeditation was never put before the jury. They needed to decide whether or not she knew enough about what she was doing in the moment to know that she was endangering his life and, if so, whether or not she had some kind of lawful excuse for doing so. The jury made the obviously correct decision regarding the questions of fact that were put before them.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/11/24 06:30 PM
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As far as I can tell there is zero evidence from prior to the incident of a plot to kill him. I get what you mean about how her words to him in that video are consistent with having planned to kill him, and they are also consistent with having planned to get revenge on him in a non-fatal manner and then deciding in the heat of the moment to let him die from suffocation. To further confuse the issue, different jurisdictions have different standards for what constitutes premeditation. Assuming tha…
/r/EverydayMisandry13/11/24 06:23 PM
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"Besties with the FBI"? I don't think so. She's clearly mentally ill. That doesn't mean she should be exempt from criminal prosecution for uttering threats, and we know that a man who said the same things would have been in handcuffs before having a chance to upload a second video. ETA: Here's an example of what happens when a man utters threats on TikTok.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/11/24 05:48 PM
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I don't care whether or not an AI agrees with me. AIs will talk straight out of their arse and differ from humans who do the same only in their near-perfect spelling and grammar (sometimes they reproduce spelling and grammar mistakes from the training data).
/r/EverydayMisandry13/11/24 01:55 AM
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The UK is a nuclear-armed nation and a founding member of NATO. Deploying our troops to directly fight the troops of a much larger nuclear-armed nation, against the direct warning by that nation's president that this could result in nuclear war, is beyond idiotic and won't happen. Enough people in the UK chain of command have seen the movie Threads to know what they would be risking if they tried calling a bluff, even if the PM somehow hadn't.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/11/24 01:34 AM
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It looks like the handwriting of someone with moderate dysgraphia, and I'm not familiar with how the handwriting of men with that affliction differs from that of women with that affliction, if there even is a discernible difference. I can't really find anything particularly masculine or feminine about the writing style either. I'm assuming she wrote it herself simply because no name was signed to it.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/11/24 12:55 AM
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Irony is lost on you.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/11/24 09:31 PM
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This video needs a third panel in the middle featuring a British man or woman struggling to earn the money to pay their rent during this housing crisis that the refugees are worsening. Perhaps also a fourth featuring a British person who owns multiple houses counting their money. Skyrocketing rents still go into some landlord's pocket, after all. I don't blame anyone for wanting to escape from the conflict, and it doesn't logically follow that such people deserve comfort and praise for their dec…
/r/EverydayMisandry12/11/24 08:14 PM
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Unless there is some exonerating context for this (I'm having a hard time imagining what could even be such a context), she needs to be arrested and incarcerated right now for uttering threats. It doesn't necessarily need to be a long incarceration, but she needs to see the inside of a cell for this. There's a major problem with any society where someone can say crap like this and not face criminal accountability for it. Even the KKK felt the need to wear hoods while spewing their hate.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/11/24 07:55 PM
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Dysgraphia is a known medical condition. When you were in primary school you could probably outrun an adult with cerebral palsy. Does that prove anything meaningful?
/r/EverydayMisandry12/11/24 07:19 PM
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So her fiance gave her a self-debasing card after the election, to which he didn't even sign his name? The more likely case is that she fantasises about having a fiance and wrote on this card herself.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/11/24 07:17 PM
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The mod in question posted this in the intactivism subreddit: Wowzers😮, I post pics of girls talking about circumcision and get reported like crazy, but you guys are posting circumcision vids of wittle boys? Not good😞 Note the context of the comment: it's on a post that features a video of a boy being circumcised, itself lifted from a pro-circumcision social media post. The OP's take, in that post, is "How is it legal to not only do this without an actual medical issue and to post it?" Furthermo…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/11/24 10:23 PM
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That doesn't actually address any of my points.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/11/24 09:49 PM
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This is what I call "snowball logic". It's like circular logic, except that the magnitude of the error grows over time because of the feedback loop. It's also far from being unique to India.
/r/EverydayMisandry09/11/24 08:38 PM
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The Guardian is rated by Media Bias Fact Check as having a Centre-Left bias, and I'm inclined to agree. Out of all the major private media publications in the UK it remains my preferred one because they tend to be reasonably fair and factual in most of their reporting articles, while their commentary articles feature a diverse range of left-wing viewpoints. Unfortunately that includes giving a platform to vile misandrist Julie Bindel, and they still haven't taken down her 2006 article where she …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/11/24 08:13 PM
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Isn't the point of that subreddit to shine a bright light on the fact that mothers like this not only exist, but are actually so proud of their conduct that they post about it on their social media accounts? I get that this falls under the domain of Poe's Law since there is no "clear indicator of the author's intent", and I still think there's a pretty strong hint about the author's intent when one considers the following: The moderator's username is "LilMissClips" and is a single-purpose accoun…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/11/24 06:35 PM
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I’m improving your bad analogies by making your imagined scenarios similar to the scenario that actually happened. You're not making it more similar, you're making it less similar. I even explain how I’m doing so every time I do so. You actually haven't. Telling someone there’s a “very high chance” that HR won’t care about his complaint is still, in this context, evidence of your intent to discourage him. It's evidence of an intent to inform people of what to expect. What someone decides to do w…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/11/24 09:41 PM
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I have been steadily losing left-wing friends/acquaintances over less than this. Basically, some people expect me to remain silent and not object while they bash men and/or white people. I don't care whether or not they specify that I'm "one of the good ones"; because that's about as meaningful as the praise given to the slave woman in this scene (NSFW/content warning for extremely offensive racial stereotypes). If I refuse to remain silent in the face of that and object, I tend to get the shove…
/r/EverydayMisandry07/11/24 07:29 PM
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I’m not going to answer that question because it’s a false equivalence (a bad analogy). You say that, but then you proceed to "improve" it by adding details that don't have an analogue in the original subject matter and therefore take it further away from it. You're beyond belief. In contrast, HR not caring about someone’s complaint is a very strong reason not to go to HR, ever. If it were stated as a 100% chance then that would basically be correct, although I would still go and surreptitiously…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/11/24 06:19 PM
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I took a look at it just now and a lot of them do seem to be rather unhinged.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/11/24 08:21 PM
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If this isn't a troll, then we're looking at one of the worst negotiators in the world. This is even worse than the person who stormed into my office, after an understandably frustrating situation that had taken place that day, and basically said "Give me a raise or I'm quitting." At least that person had the excuse of saying this in the context of being subordinate to me and not having much else to use as a bargaining chip, but it was still extremely foolish of him to just throw down that ultim…
/r/EverydayMisandry06/11/24 08:20 PM
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Someone suggested to OP that he report the harassment to HR. You, without being asked for your opinion, stated that HR has a “very high chance” that HR won’t care about his report anyway. Tourist Couple: "Do any of you know of a good Italian restaurant in this city?" John: "Yes, <famous restaurant> over on the other side of the city from where we are is a great place for Italian food." Roger: "It's also very popular. If you make the trip over there without having reserved a table, there's a very…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/11/24 06:24 PM
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I said "prosecuted", not "put in prison", although I'm quite sure that many of these prosecutions have ended with innocent men going to prison, plus many prosecuted men are remanded to prison even before trial. Unlike in Canada, where an accused man can at least demand and get a judge alone trial, meaning if he is found guilty then he will at least get some kind of explanation for why he was not believed and she was, which can make all the difference in getting the conviction thrown out on appea…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/11/24 10:14 PM
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Staying calm and letting the other side make themself look crazy has always been my strategy for dealing with these sorts of things.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/11/24 07:57 PM
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When you were in school, did they teach you the difference between descriptive statements and normative statements? My above comment contains all of two sentences, both of which are descriptive statements. Descriptive statements do not contain advice, while normative statements might. You want to claim that there is implied advice, but that's really all in your own mind. Consider the following descriptive statement: MSFT is trading for $414.75 today, up $6.29 from yesterday. Is there any advice …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/11/24 05:30 PM
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So basically womens outlets for violence and agression, i.e. gossip, character assasination, accusations and social exclusion is legally allowed and not prosecuted. Well, the UK is actually one of the countries that prosecutes women for making false rape allegations, although their standard of evidence for that is very high (their standard for prosecuting anyone any man accused of rape is basically that there be someone saying he did it, i.e. as much evidence as exists for ghost sightings). With…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/11/24 05:21 PM
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Part 3 discounting, discouraging, and outright rejecting social science as a whole is insanely conservative and traditional in nature. First of all, I never said anything about rejecting social science as a whole. Second, doing so wouldn't be "conservative" so much as it would be "any ideology other than 'wokism'". Those other, non-"woke" ideologies, would include late 20th century social liberalism (the viewpoint with which I most closely align). That's because the "woke" ideologues are doing s…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/11/24 05:01 PM
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Part 2 Now, (see you next) Tuesday has a religious-like belief system at work here. To briefly map it: Personal Revelation: Tuesday read a social media post about how 1 in 3 women get raped, and this post made a powerful impression on her. Mythology: Despite having never seen the source for that statistic (these inane social media posts seldom provide sources), she believes, as an article of faith, that it exists. She also believes, as an article of faith, that this source is accurate and holds …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/11/24 04:30 PM
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I hope you're not posting that unscientific blog post as a credible alternative to our current state of academia It never presented itself as being scientific, so I don't know what your point is in calling it "unscientific". You’re technically correct in calling it that, but it doesn’t seem to be relevant to anything. If I wanted to present it as an alternative to academia of any era, I would have said so explicitly. Please save your implication guessing for the laconic. and instead are bringing…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/11/24 04:15 PM
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I know what you mean. I go to work to do my job, and I'm not trying to have any kind of political conversation. I was taught basic manners while growing up, which included never bringing up politics, religion, or money as a topic around others unless there is a preexisting understanding that it's acceptable, and that this rule applies especially strictly in a formal or professional setting. Now, all of that seems to have gone out the window and people feel entitled to politicise the workplace, a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/11/24 10:08 PM
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I expected that the NHS would have their own additional regulations on it, and that sounds especially draconian. Does it apply even if one only records the meeting for the purpose of aiding one's own recollection of what was said, and never lets anyone else hear it? In other words, would someone be fired merely for being caught recording, and without having ever let anyone else hear it?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/11/24 09:56 PM
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Litigation is expensive, and the HR staff can deny having said what they said. I would make a point of recording the HR staff saying that, but most people don't bother recording and a lot of people have the misfortune of living in jurisdictions where that's illegal unless everyone knows that they are being recorded. In the UK it's legal with just one person knowing, but there are a lot of restrictions on the use of surreptitious recordings as evidence. If it's exculpatory evidence in a criminal …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/11/24 09:00 PM
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The post consists of a title, some body text, and a picture. Try actually looking at all three of them, if that's not beyond your abilities. You chose not to answer my question about what percentage of voters you think openly reveal who got their vote, which you can do because you're not obligated to respond to everything, or anything. Similarly, I can choose not to respond to points that I don't think are worthy of a response.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/11/24 08:49 PM
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Pointing out a mistake, or that someone is doing a bad job at something, isn't a personal attack. I specifically said it's not necessarily your fault. Your own words are doing more to attack your character than anything that anyone else is saying here.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/11/24 08:16 PM
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He is a convicted sex offender You forgot to link to the source for him being convicted of a criminal sex offence. Does such a source even exist?
/r/EverydayMisandry04/11/24 08:06 PM
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What percentage of voters do you suppose are participating in rallies, putting signs in their front yards, putting bumper stickers on their vehicles, etc.? The whole point of secret ballots is to protect voters from reprisals. As has already been mentioned, that's not even the thing about which people are complaining here. I know most Americans are denied even a half-decent education, so I'm not saying it's necessarily your fault that you have trouble with reading comprehension, and I'd suggest …
/r/EverydayMisandry04/11/24 08:04 PM
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That will work, because people's votes are public information and therefore it's impossible for anyone to lie about how they voted without the lie being easily discovered. /s
/r/EverydayMisandry04/11/24 07:23 PM
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Most HR staff are women, and they tend not to be very intellectual or conscientious. There's a very high chance that HR would say something like "So what? She's just speaking the truth."
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/11/24 06:51 PM
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She went on a rant about male privilege, the gender pay gap, etc. I didn’t let it slide this time, and she didn’t appreciate me asking if the NHS has separate pay bands for male and female nurses and I've been missing out on higher wages all this time. That was bold. I tend to just hold my tongue in these situations if it's a professional setting, because I don't think calling someone on their nonsense is worth the risk of reprisal. In non-professional settings I might engage with it, but genera…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/11/24 06:50 PM
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Was it a joke all along, or did it become a "joke" when you realised there was more after the first paragraph? That's a rhetorical question; no need to answer.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/11/24 06:35 PM
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Me neither, although there was a study over twenty years ago that found it works as an antidepressant. It was probably cited by a number of guys while trying to persuade their wives/girlfriends to stop using condoms.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/11/24 06:30 PM
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This is concerning for anyone who relies on audio recordings for their safety, because it raises concerns about people baselessly claiming that one's genuine recordings are fake. What if someone decides to falsely accuse me of something and then, when I produce the timestamped recording from the date and time when I am alleged to have done it, they just claim that I used AI to fabricate it and challenge me to prove otherwise? Hopefully I could prove otherwise by submitting more recordings of the…
/r/EverydayMisandry04/11/24 06:19 PM
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There were two more paragraphs to read after the first one.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/11/24 05:54 PM
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If the idea is that catcalling people is morally wrong anyways, then how would it be any better now that a random woman is catcalling random men? What makes the woman any less of a pervert if she’s catcalling men? Because of “payback” or the idea that men need to know what’s it’s like to be catcalled? Honestly, it makes even less sense to me than the idea of getting revenge on annoying beggars by begging them for spare change.
/r/EverydayMisandry03/11/24 05:41 PM
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A significant proportion of women like being catcalled, as long as it's the non-threatening kind. There is another significant proportion who don't have any strong feelings about it, i.e. they don't like being catcalled but as long as there's no threat in it they don't really care and just ignore it. Obviously these women have little motivation to express their opinions on catcalling, so we mainly hear the opinions of the women who take serious issue with it. I wouldn't mind women catcalling me …
/r/EverydayMisandry03/11/24 05:36 PM
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Or incarceration...
/r/EverydayMisandry03/11/24 04:54 PM
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most women would be dead then by now, so kiss that 263K joiners or whatever goodbye. 263K women per year means 26.3M women per century. There are approximately 4 billion women on the planet right now. What's 4,000,000,000 - 26,300,000? I don't know, or really care, whether or not the claim that a woman dies from pregnancy every two minutes is mathematically true. Let's suppose it is mathematically true, and computed from 263K women across the entire planet who died from pregnancy-related complic…
/r/EverydayMisandry03/11/24 04:53 PM
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The word "grooming" is used so broadly today as to be effectively meaningless. Can you actually describe the specific behaviour of concern? Also, I never said piercings had anything to do with PTSD or "grooming". I was deliberately taking your own argument and replacing the inputs without changing the logic structure, in the hope of illustrating to you how it is flawed.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/11/24 11:02 PM
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Unless someone does the septum piercing themself, they are being abused by whomever does it to them. If they pierce their own septum, then it's self-harm. I'm calling septum piercing abuse or self-harm because it's so obviously wrong. I know it's obviously wrong because every time I see someone with a septum piercing, I get a feeling of revulsion. Do I need more evidence than just my personal disgust towards something, before I become justified in calling that thing "abuse" or "self-harm"?
/r/EverydayMisandry01/11/24 10:53 PM
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Do any of these children have names?
/r/EverydayMisandry01/11/24 10:47 PM
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There is no way anyone, of any age, can consent to getting a septum piercing because it's so obviously disgusting and wrong. That's why they are illegal...oh wait, they are somehow perfectly legal despite being so gross. Why is that?
/r/EverydayMisandry01/11/24 09:56 PM
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She also didn't say she was looking for a female partner, nor did she say that this test should never be used on women.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/10/24 05:40 PM
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You should take your date to that restaurant over there and observe what she orders for her appetiser and main course. If she orders salad and pasta, that's a green flag because she's trying to avoid burning through your money. If she orders caviar and lobster, that's a red flag because she's deliberately ordering the most expensive things on the menu. Is it dumb to randomly pair "salad" with "pasta" and "caviar" with "lobster"? Caviar and lobster aren't the same thing, and you can certainly eat…
/r/EverydayMisandry26/10/24 05:36 PM
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This is one of my screening tests on women, so I can't complain. If she's a committed alcohol abstainer, that's perfectly fine with me. If she drinks, then I want to know what she's like when she's drunk because the way that people process alcohol varies greatly. If she uses any other lawful substances, I want to know what she's like when under their influence. She isn't saying anything about whether or not these tests should also run the other way. As long as she isn't saying that only men shou…
/r/EverydayMisandry25/10/24 07:37 PM
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I think she's about as likely to have actually done what she said, as any other standup comedian is likely to have actually done what they said.
/r/EverydayMisandry23/10/24 09:14 PM
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She's a standup comedian and most of her X/Twitter posts are jokes. This particular joke is in poor taste, yet is clearly a joke in the context.
/r/EverydayMisandry23/10/24 09:01 PM
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What might constitute "centre" has changed more, in the last twenty years, than my own political beliefs. As such, I'm probably not very far to the left of the current centre. My beliefs mostly align with what were typically considered to be liberal beliefs in the second half of the twentieth century, and I consider "wokism" to be such an extreme mutation of those beliefs that it amounts to a repudiation of them (I acknowledge that the same has been said, by classical liberals, about late twenti…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/10/24 08:24 PM
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Most of these posts can be found by taking the most outlandish sentence in the screenshot, typing it verbatim into Google with quotation marks, and then searching. Reddit's anti-brigading rules are about as meaningful as Japan's Prostitution Prevention Law.
/r/EverydayMisandry23/10/24 06:38 PM
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The news cycle certainly doesn't help with this. One can count on the media to report just about every incident of violent "stranger" crime and thereby foster an exaggerated sense of just how much it happens. Just last night I came into view of a woman who had just crossed the street (I was walking towards the intersection to turn the corner and head towards the supermarket), and she immediately bolted to what was apparently her flat building about thirty metres in the same direction. I had not …
/r/EverydayMisandry23/10/24 06:13 PM
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Casually stating that one finds a cartoon character to be physically attractive (which men seem more likely to do than women) is one thing. Actually devoting time to fantasising about what a romantic relationship with that character would be like (which women seem more likely to do than men) is quite another, especially if it goes so far as actually writing stories about it. I don't think there is anything morally wrong with either of these things, and I also don't think the latter is very healt…
/r/EverydayMisandry18/10/24 07:11 PM
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You have spectacularly failed at comprehending what I wrote in a single, short paragraph. Is that because you were denied a proper education that included lessons in how to parse meanings out of clearly sarcastic statements (you seemed to have no trouble detecting the sarcasm itself) and how conditional logic works? Or was that available and you chose to be bolshie instead of paying attention and doing your homework?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/10/24 07:34 AM
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For crying out loud, the first two "sources" are a 1991 presentation by a domestic violence grifter, and a Boston Globe article. This isn't even high-effort disinformation; they are so obviously talking out of their arses. 92% of women in California prisons say they have been battered and abused in their lifetimes? Okay, sure, because convicted criminals are such a credible cohort, right? Each and every one of them who claims something must be telling the truth. That's why it makes perfect sense…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/10/24 09:18 PM
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This man, for one. His girlfriend willingly helped him do it and helped him try to cover the tracks afterwards, so clearly there are also some women who aren't disgusted by rape. They aren't even the only example of a couple who go out raping and killing, as there were also Paul Bernardo and Karla Homolka from the same geographic region. More broadly speaking, all the men and women who speak positively about anyone being raped in prison, which seems to be a large number, are far less than univer…
/r/EverydayMisandry06/10/24 04:54 PM
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You don't know the full story or what might have actually caused him to end the date. Would you spend a few hours, plus money that will take you a few more hours to earn back, on a date with someone if she said, within the first two minutes of seeing you, how glad she is that you're not a Jew (if you are a Jew, then assume she doesn't know that)?
/r/EverydayMisandry06/10/24 10:44 AM
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The man is literally me if she says something, within the first two minutes, that is a massive red flag. Except for the part about being sufficiently transparent to tell her he isn't "feeling it"; I would just find some kind of excuse to leave. It's also possible that this specific date was one heavily driven by physical attraction (e.g. if they just met on Tinder) and her profile picture wasn't an honest representation of how she actually looks. People can consistently get away with that on app…
/r/EverydayMisandry06/10/24 08:23 AM
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When people are taken to task for their words, they have a tendency to try to push for any remotely plausible interpretation that makes what they said less extreme, regardless of whether or not that alternative interpretation is actually what they meant. It's basically a form of Motte and Bailey manoeuvre, and I even discussed it here. "I would kill for a hamburger right now" compares poorly for several reasons, not the least of which is that even a literal interpretation allows for the possibil…
/r/EverydayMisandry06/10/24 08:01 AM
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There are plenty of words one can use to describe a face one doesn't like, which don't involve expressing a desire to commit the crime of assault. When people want to express their dislike of a woman's face, they seem to have no problem steering clear of words that express violent intent.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/10/24 12:29 AM
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I think you have a very investigatable attitude, as in I think the police should be keeping an eye on you in case they find a violent crime for which they can arrest and charge you. That's because your attitude is consistent with that of the kinds of people who tend to commit violent crimes (non-violent people tend not to describe anyone as "punchable", and especially not merely for how they look). There's no reason for you to get up in arms about that, right?
/r/EverydayMisandry05/10/24 05:01 PM
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The person who bought the taser ought to be charged with something (e.g. uttering threats) for writing what he wrote, that will result in him losing the ability to buy any more weapons. Of course that won't actually happen due to law enforcement being too busy wasting time and tax money on crimes for which there is as much evidence as ghost sightings.
/r/EverydayMisandry05/10/24 04:34 PM
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I'm looking at news from India in the OP; it's what motivated this comment.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/10/24 07:12 AM
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Does anyone know if there's a paticular reason why the most extreme examples of misandrist attitudes over the past fifteen years or so seem to mostly be coming from India (although recently South Korea seems to be giving them some heavy competition)? As far as I can tell, India is the only country to have an airline that allows women to specifically book seats where they will only be next to other women (it's a different airline than Air India Express). Julian Assange once claimed that Sweden is…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/10/24 05:02 PM
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Right, and I'm saying that calling it "mansplaining" is making the concept problematic right from the start, because it's declaring the behaviour to be objectionable based on criteria which involve more than just the behaviour itself, and which specifically involve the genders of the people of the performing and receiving ends of the behaviour. If the people who complain about "mansplaining" actually wanted to address a legitimate problem in a legitimate way, then they would use a different name…
/r/EverydayMisandry02/10/24 06:33 PM
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If an objectionable behaviour can't be described in terms of the behaviour itself, and only in terms of who is doing it, then there's a major problem with the concept. "Unwelcome explanation" would be a better term, except it still has the problem of being subjective. If the explanation itself is fine as long as the person being given the explanation wants it, and objectionable if that person doesn't want it, then how is one supposed to read their mind? One could ask beforehand, or examine the c…
/r/EverydayMisandry02/10/24 04:26 PM
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Your opinion is noted and dismissed. Good day to you.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/10/24 07:31 PM
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You're not entitled to have your points addressed. If you want your points to be addressed, then it's up to you to make points that are worth addressing. When I say "talking out of your arse", that's obviously not offered as a self-contained argument. Rather, it's a conclusion I have reached about you after giving you an opportunity to explain what seems like the worst possible choice of an example in any discussion about free will vs. determinism, and to demonstrate that you are worth taking se…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/10/24 06:40 PM
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So in other words, you barely understand what the free will vs. determinism debate is about and are talking out of your arse. Good to know.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/10/24 04:16 PM
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Do you know what the points of disagreement are in the free will vs. determinism debate? If so, then why did you start with the quintessential example of what even the most ardent advocate for the idea of strong free will would agree is something out of anyone's control? That's about as insightful as butting into a discussion about morality to say "The Holocaust was bad."
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/09/24 10:59 PM
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Probably, and then she probably decided that proofreading wasn't necessary before posting and that she would take the risk of being ridiculed for errors that proofreading would have caught. I despise people who don't proofread and so I make sure to deliver that ridicule when it has been earned.
/r/EverydayMisandry30/09/24 09:37 PM
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Probably, and she still chose to post it without proofreading so she can eat the ridicule for what she recklessly chose to post.
/r/EverydayMisandry30/09/24 09:34 PM
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Women don't lie about rape, period. Does anyone who makes this particular blanket statement actually believe it? There's police bodycam footage proving that some women lie about rape, for crying out loud! One can see it at 14:12 - 21:50 in this video, and then again from 25:57 - 27:50 where she also calls one of the officers an "incel".
/r/EverydayMisandry30/09/24 05:18 PM
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Assuming she was less than 12 years old, which seems likely from the context but isn't 100% clear, it's not that big a deal that she did that back then. The big deal is that she isn't ashamed of it now.
/r/EverydayMisandry30/09/24 04:57 PM
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If there's one thing I actually like about social media, it's how much the cretins love to use it to broadcast their idiocy to the world, often under their real names. I have lost count of how many times I looked for someone, who I had just met/interviewed, on social media and found public posts that showcased a similar level of intellect to the one being shown here. It's so nice of them to red flag themselves and save me the time of having to deal with them any further in order to learn that th…
/r/EverydayMisandry30/09/24 04:52 PM
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My refusal to meaningfully engage with you, and my reasons for that refusal, are not offered as a further rebuttal against any of your arguments (to make a further rebuttal would be to meaningfully engage). As such they are beyond the scope of any fallacy, which wouldn’t need to be explained to someone who actually understood logic. I am under no obligation to engage with you. I can base my decision on whether or not to engage with you, on any topic, to any degree, based on whatever reasoning I …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/09/24 08:38 AM
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Not only do you fail to understand how informal fallacies work (pro tip: your demonstrated level of ability is very relevant to other people's decisions about whether or not to continue engaging), but you actually committed it yourself right before erroneously claiming that I did. Keep embarrassing yourself if you want.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/09/24 11:53 PM
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Is that a joke? No. I have much more important things to do right now than make jokes, or deal with anyone whose ability to read and write in English is too low for rationally arguing a point. That's a comedically high burden of proof that's never applied to other subjects of debate I never said anything about a burden of proof, nor did I take the position that these kinds of people don't exist. If someone were to say "some Muslims think it's perfectly fine to eat pork" or "some criminal defence…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/09/24 07:39 PM
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A specific example is a person, identified by their legal name, who can be shown via documentary evidence to have said the necessary things to qualify as an example. In this case, that means they: Said that they are a feminist. Said that men are misogynistic if they don't interact with women. Anonymous accounts on Reddit are not specific examples because there is no way to prove that they aren't just trolls. A troll can pretend to be a feminist, a conservative, a communist, or anything else, and…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/09/24 09:43 AM
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I already gave examples in the post. I said "specific examples", as in actual people who exist and you can directly quote them. Actually, forget it. I don't think you currently understand the English language well enough to be using it to discuss complex subjects without misunderstanding other people or being misunderstood yourself. I'll give you one little tip, though. In English, negatives cancel each other, e.g. "I didn't steal nothing" means the same thing as "I stole something." The correct…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/09/24 08:08 PM
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I'm not imagining nothing. That's exactly what I said; you're imagining something (at least with respect to the woman being quoted in the video you linked), and therefore are not imagining nothing. It's good that we are on the same page in that respect. Women who identified as feminists in the first place are saying these things. Then why is it so difficult for you to give a specific example of one? A popular feminist author said she hates the fact that society makes her miss cat calling. If you…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/09/24 07:57 PM
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Did you read the full text that they showed? She wrote "i[sic] hate that there is so much pressure on them to do so". Does that sound like agreement to you? You'll have a really easy time finding "hypocrisy" if you make a habit out of imagining what beliefs people might hold. Why don't you try limiting your analysis to what specific people actually said?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/09/24 06:34 PM
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How do some feminists respond back to this? You didn't give any specific examples. You linked to an "Aba N Preach" video that was very good (I had never heard of these guys before and I think they are extremely based), in which they featured a tweet from one woman who was never claimed to be a feminist. I am therefore left with no actual example of someone, who claims to be a feminist, responding back to this. Now all of a sudden men are considered misogynistic for not interacting with women. Ar…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/09/24 06:04 PM
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Did they not teach you critical reading skills, and how logic works, when you were in school?
/r/EverydayMisandry22/09/24 04:44 AM
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Remember what they say about not judging a book by its cover? If one guesses what a book's content is, based on its title, one will find oneself guessing wrong in some surprising ways, especially if one assumes that it's the title of a nonfiction, instructional book when it's actually the title of a fiction novel. For example, "Crime and Punishment" sounds like the title of a first year law textbook, but is actually the title of a nineteenth century fiction novel by a famous Russian author. Simi…
/r/EverydayMisandry22/09/24 04:38 AM
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I'm pretty sure they don't have a problem with people turning their backs on opponents that have been knocked unconscious or otherwise no longer pose a threat. They wouldn't have a problem with people turning their backs for the purpose of running either, because if they are saying "fight to the bitter end no matter how strong or numerous your opponents" then, well, that's some bad instruction because it's as likely to end lives as to save them. I already said in my old comment that striking bac…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/09/24 09:27 AM
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It can also be interpreted as: Men should make their own movement instead of asking feminists to solve their problems. We do not need a feminist movement that centres men. Both interpretations are possible considering that the question being answered is: Is feminism enough to solve men’s issues or do men need a separate movement? My interpretation assumes that the [deleted] person is sufficiently intelligent to see such a clear self-contradiction and therefore must have meant something that isn'…
/r/EverydayMisandry20/09/24 10:45 PM
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I'm not aware of any specific statistics on the rate at which people of different sexual orientations commit stranger assaults, but if I'm hiking through the woods and I encounter a gay man, I'm going to regard him as even less likely to threaten or attack me than a straight man (which is already a very low likelihood). Deliverance is just a movie depicting a very extreme, unlikely scenario; I would much rather encounter any man than a bear. The weird thing to me about this whole man vs. bear th…
/r/EverydayMisandry20/09/24 09:43 PM
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Oh, I suppose they may have. I was interpreting the [deleted] person's comment as a complaint about men trying to centre themselves within the feminist movement (i.e. the last thing that person wants is a feminist movement that centres men). Therefore, I thought that person was telling men to make their own movement to solve their own problems instead of asking feminists to do something, and was only taking the first position. Re-reading the comment, I think my interpretation might be excessivel…
/r/EverydayMisandry20/09/24 08:45 PM
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Do you really mean "agree with each other", or are you talking about posters who personally alternate between those two positions based on whichever is convenient for them at the time?
/r/EverydayMisandry20/09/24 08:01 PM
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That misandrist isn't wrong, though. Feminism has always been a lobby for women's interests that, at best, might incidentally benefit some men. There's nothing inherently wrong with this; it's how lobbying is supposed to work. If you're not a member of the group for whose interests the lobby is advocating, then you can't really expect them to do anything for you (again, they might successfully advocate for some kind of change that incidentally benefits you). If you want the issues affecting your…
/r/EverydayMisandry20/09/24 07:58 PM
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When someone attacks you, you can try to run. Every self-defence instructor worth their salt teaches people de-escalation techniques (for situations that start with threats of imminent violence) and teaches them how to look for escape opportunities and make use of the earliest one. Police, prosecutors, judges, and juries have a very clear bias towards giving criminal records to men. Criminal records disproportionately hurt men's livelihoods. It's my understanding that in some countries, like the…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/09/24 03:59 PM
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One sequel for each child you have together?
/r/EverydayMisandry18/09/24 10:10 PM
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I think it's only different because she hasn't been radicalised yet. I lost a decades-long friendship to radical feminism during the pandemic, and it started with her "venting" like this. Hopefully this woman gets past these feelings before she gets recruited, but if there are people responding to her by urging her to join communities like FDS or femalepessimist then it's probably too late. So far, however, the responses, and her responses to the responses, seem promising, so she will probably b…
/r/EverydayMisandry18/09/24 09:38 PM
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I hope you succeed and that your story is made into a Hollywood film.
/r/EverydayMisandry18/09/24 09:34 PM
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I don't think it's particularly rare in a heartbreak situation, especially when one is young and lacking in experience with the world, to have these kinds of thoughts. I can remember a point when I briefly felt like every single woman viewed me as nothing more than a vending machine, and that any woman who claimed to be attracted to me and/or love me was just trying to manipulate me. Those thoughts didn't get further than my own head, and I had already been admonished several times with "don't b…
/r/EverydayMisandry18/09/24 09:30 PM
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That's not how the court system works. You obviously can't afford a good lawyer, and even if you lucked out with legal aid/public defender and got a decent lawyer paid by the government, who then got you a "not guilty" verdict, that doesn't mean you have been proven innocent. It only means that you couldn't be proven guilty beyond a reasonable doubt, and in fact your accuser is still allowed to sue you in civil court, where the burden of proof is lower, and argue that even though the criminal co…
/r/EverydayMisandry18/09/24 07:02 PM
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To quote my first girlfriend: "You used to do everything I wanted until I took your virginity. That changed you." I clearly remember continuing to practically worship her for at least a month after that, until she did something so disrespectful that my feelings started to change, but I guess in her mind my backbone must have grown from something I absorbed from her vaginal secretions or something. There are some women out there who have this mindset that if a man's feelings towards her change so…
/r/EverydayMisandry18/09/24 06:36 PM
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My previous girlfriend wrote me a heartfelt message about how much she loved me, after we had a long discussion about why she had become unhappy with our relationship and what we could do, together, to fix that. Two weeks later, she abruptly declared that she had changed her mind and was ending the relationship. That makes it acceptable for me to assume that all women are emotionally defective and write a long, misogynist rant about it, right?
/r/EverydayMisandry18/09/24 06:16 PM
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I mean, she thinks she can be used as a flashlight, so maybe she needs to be in a mental institution? Or at least remedial English class?
/r/EverydayMisandry18/09/24 06:09 PM
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I hate knowing that the person I love is so entirely indifferent to me when I have no intention of making myself his flashlight. Does this woman glow in the dark or something? Even if she does, I can't imagine anyone pretending to love her just so that they will have her around to use for lighting dark areas, when it barely costs anything to buy an actual torch/flashlight.
/r/EverydayMisandry18/09/24 06:07 PM
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Are the names of victims, of non-sexual crimes, normally not mentioned in media reports of said crimes in India? It's perfectly normal in the west to mention the name of the victim as long as it's not a sexual crime, and I'm pretty sure most media sources will keep the victim's name private if the victim requests that.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/09/24 08:46 PM
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I find that grieving the loss of someone who still lives (i.e. grieving the loss of who they could have been, or grieving their medical diagnosis that cut their continued life expectancy from decades to months) is much more painful than grieving the loss of someone who is completely gone. I'm sorry for your loss.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/09/24 08:27 PM
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We don't know the details behind why she accused him and why she wasn't prosecuted. We will probably never know, although I suspect her early, and apparently voluntary, recantation was a factor in the police not taking action against her. If someone makes a false accusation and then comes to regret it shortly after they make it, don't we want them to recant at that point so that the accused can be unburdened? If their choice, at that point, is between recanting and then having a 100% chance of b…
/r/EverydayMisandry17/09/24 08:04 PM
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As far as I know there was no media coverage of the allegation against Jay prior to him tragically taking his own life. Jay was something of a perfectionist, and the allegation impacted his school activities and probably took a sledgehammer to his general sense of security and to his ability to trust others. There was an article published after he died. If anyone reading this is having these kinds of thoughts, please let this be an example of how others are impacted if you do that. Please think …
/r/EverydayMisandry17/09/24 07:45 PM
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I made sure to use an NP link. Was there something else I was supposed to do as well?
/r/EverydayMisandry17/09/24 01:28 AM
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It's not that hard to do you own research and learn about things you don't know. If it's a specific statistic with a source that you do know where to find, while I don't even know the name of the source, then it's much, much harder for me to find it than for you to tell me where it is. Here's a link "pulled straight from my arse" https://www.nsvrc.org/statistics That site links to a few different sources, one of which is the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey which I have scrut…
/r/EverydayMisandry17/09/24 01:26 AM
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I remember this particular case for a few reasons that I can't mention without doxxing myself. I can say that it was this case that made me realise that this issue is never going to be addressed for as long as it's solely men complaining about it and trying to raise awareness. This is not just a men's issue; this is a societal issue that almost exclusively affects men in terms of direct damage, and which causes devastating splash damage for both men and women alike (I have been hit with some of …
/r/EverydayMisandry17/09/24 12:47 AM
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False reporting of rape isn't any higher than false reporting of other crimes- we have stats on that that you can access. Can you link to these accessible stats, or are you talking out of your arse? the belief in the rape myth that false reporting of rape is common. Does simply calling something a myth make it a myth, or is evidence required to demonstrate that it's a myth? That cop shouldn't be allowed to take part in cases of sexual assault since he has so much unfounded bias against the perso…
/r/EverydayMisandry17/09/24 12:22 AM
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What's funny about this current historical negation trend is that most of the men, whose accomplishments they want to negate, could be negated on the basis of class/wealth rather than sex. This is actually the easier and more defensible negation argument to make, although it's still not a very good one. A brilliant author or scientist, who has time to work on that because they can afford to hire servants (or even buy slaves depending on their historical setting) to do all their cooking, cleaning…
/r/EverydayMisandry16/09/24 07:36 PM
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I agree that these biases exist, but in no world would they account for the gaping maw between male and female delinquency. I never claimed that these biases account for 100% of the difference, or that the true rate of crime perpetration is equal. You're claiming, without the necessary hidden camera footage to prove it, that "the vast-vast majority of criminals are men". Every woman who ever slapped a man or woman across the face, for any reason other than self-defence, has committed the crime o…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/09/24 07:11 AM
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Seriously? You expect me to explain how "let's punish the hell out of criminals" and "let's punish the hell out of the vast majority of criminals, while making a minority of criminals exempt from incarceration for committing the very same crimes" are different positions? Furthermore, how do you know that "the vast-vast majority of criminals are men" when there is such an obvious bias against reporting, investigating, and charging crimes committed by women, as well as a bias against convicting th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/09/24 04:06 PM
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You will run into certain people who talk about free will vs. determinism as if they are binary, i.e. free will either exists as an absolute or it doesn't exist at all. In reality, there is a spectrum between those viewpoints in which free will is believed to exist, but is subject to limitations. As a simple example, take someone who was peer pressured into trying a highly addictive drug, and is now trying to overcome the resulting addiction. Someone on the free will extreme will argue that if t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/09/24 05:14 PM
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The premise that feminism is right-wing, despite most of its adherents claiming the opposite, needs more support than this. It's definitely true that feminists tend to (probably unintentionally) recontextualise several right-wing talking points, e.g. when they take the "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" that the right-wing like to direct towards the poor, and then apply it to men, or when they take the right-wing "tough on crime" attitude and apply it exclusively towards men (while still bein…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/09/24 10:19 PM
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You can see it here, it's really unbelievable how coldly determined he is with his verbal abuse. DarkMatter2525 made a lengthy commentary on it, which I found to be very insightful.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/09/24 10:08 PM
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Only if they are pregnant. Other than that, young, healthy women and young, healthy men are considered equally capable of standing and there is no expectation that one of them give up a seat for the other. That said, it's not particularly rare for men to offer their seats to women to whom they are attracted, for fairly obvious reasons. This has been the case every time I have used public transit in the UK, the US, the EU, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, and Japan. Where in the world are they exp…
/r/EverydayMisandry06/09/24 09:58 PM
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The Catherine Comins quote is especially concerning because she actually held a position of power and influence at Vassar College. It's also one of those quotes that's actually worse in context (long article, just CTRL+F for her name to find the one paragraph about her). Since this was back in 1991, when university campuses were much more sane than they are now (although they still had their problems), Comins actually faced some meaningful backlash over this. Unfortunately, I haven't been able t…
/r/EverydayMisandry06/09/24 08:33 PM
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Did you see the video footage that went public, of how abusive he was? I always knew he was an arse from how he conducted himself in those "change my mind" videos, but I never imagined he would behave that way towards his wife until I saw it.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/09/24 08:24 PM
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What makes you so sure Clinton was referring to that essay from Gearhart when she said "the future is female"? An anti-semitic conspiracy theorist on X/Twitter made an anti-semitic post last month titled "Here's a video of Jews being Jews. Bookmark and share." You used that very same word pattern of "Here's a video of" just now. By your own logic, you must have been making a reference to that anti-semitic post and endorsing the anti-semitic views expressed therein, right? It's not like you could…
/r/EverydayMisandry06/09/24 07:49 PM
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Nothing is normal about a person being willing to marry Steven Crowder. Internal alarm bells should go off when someone wants to be the wife of such a creature.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/09/24 05:19 PM
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Conservative feminism is a thing, although as far as I can tell Hilary Crowder has never identified as any kind of feminist.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/09/24 05:17 PM
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To be fair, one could use that very same argument format for just about any "ism", or any religion for that matter. How hard would it be to find seven atheists who said horrible things, quote them, and then say "that's why I'm not an atheist"? This argument structure is basically a cheap shot that relies on the guilt by association fallacy. The only time I have ever brought up Andrea Dworkin or Valerie Solanas is when countering airheaded feminists who made universal positive statements about fe…
/r/EverydayMisandry06/09/24 05:13 PM
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A lot of the statistics about higher rates of misconduct by women in this area get dismissed with an argument that goes something like "that's only because far more women have the opportunity, if equal numbers of men had access to children like that then there would be many times more men than women doing it". I like how especially the first two of these statistics are completely invulnerable to such a counter-argument. Incidentally, that counter-argument uses similarly twisted "logic" to man vs…
/r/EverydayMisandry06/09/24 04:45 PM
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I still think the previous law made more sense, as long as it was still some kind of lesser offence to engage in sexual activity without a reasonable belief in the other person's consent. As far as I can tell, Denmark has simply copied the definition that English-speaking countries have been using for at least as long as I have been alive, where someone who unreasonably assumes consent (as can easily happen when someone is drunk and/or horny) is guilty of the same-named offence as someone who pr…
/r/EverydayMisandry02/09/24 04:37 PM
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I doubt the bottom comment is actually from a woman. It's possible, but I doubt it. EDIT: Downvoting this is just admitting to not having much experience with dating women. Real women are unlikely to care this much about penis size, or to regard a large one as making the difference between whether or not they will split the bill with a man who failed to specify that condition when he first asked her out on the date.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/09/24 10:30 PM
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This ad is absolutely ridiculous; if I were you I'd feel insulted by YouTube's algorithm for selecting this ad for you (just as I feel insulted when YouTube tries to show me ads for obvious investment scams involving a deepfake of Elon Musk talking). That said, where's the assault? She doesn't touch him after he says he doesn't want to be bothered (maybe she tries to touch him but it doesn't look like a serious attempt), and she wasn't touching him in a sexual manner.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/08/24 10:52 PM
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Context matters here. If it's a situation where it would make sense to be proud of a man or a boy, then it also makes sense to be proud of a woman or a girl. If it's a situation where it doesn't make sense to be proud, then that also applies both ways. In my previous career I played roles, of varying size, in guiding people to develop their skills and find their calling, even if that calling turned out to be a very different kind of job from what I was managing. A few of those men, and one woman…
/r/EverydayMisandry31/08/24 10:38 PM
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Well in that case, I would liken it to a priest in a church, inside a country with explicit laws against promoting hate, giving a sermon full of hatred towards non-Christians. If a non-Christian walks into the church, gets offended by the sermon, and argues against it, the congregation is not being unreasonable if they say that this non-Christian should talk about that in some place other than their church. At the same time, that church is breaking the country's laws and therefore the government…
/r/EverydayMisandry31/08/24 09:30 PM
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I would need to know which specific subreddit this is, in order to know how reasonable or unreasonable it is for them to say to take this kind of talk elsewhere. If I hear someone complaining about teachers bringing prayer into the classroom, it makes a huge difference to me whether said classroom is in a public school, a secular private school, or an explicitly religious private school.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/08/24 09:16 PM
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I'm actually in a jurisdiction where that is the law (Denmark); ie., it can be considered SA unless there was clear verbal consent. Are you sure it has to be verbal? The Guardian quoted Nick Haekkerup saying “sexual language can go beyond words”, is that a mistranslation? Legally requiring verbal consent for everything, and giving no legal recognition whatsoever to other ways of expressing consent, would really be taking this to a whole other level and effectively making all sexual activity at l…
/r/EverydayMisandry31/08/24 06:00 PM
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It's funny that you mention Criminal Minds specifically. I liked that show when it first started airing, and for me Kirsten Vangsness was fanservice (to some extent she still is even today) although the vast majority of male viewers, especially at that time, probably wouldn't have seen her that way. Women would often mention the show on dates and it made for some good conversations. In fact, it has been a very long time since I ever had a girlfriend who wasn't either into true crime or some kind…
/r/EverydayMisandry31/08/24 05:47 PM
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Torture is a fair point. It there were a game where the player was required to interactively torture someone to, say, get the location of a nuclear bomb that had been planted in a city with a detonation timer, then I wouldn't take much issue with it as long as said torture wasn't too gratuitous. On the other hand, if it was just a free form torture session for no purpose other than watching someone suffer, then I would have some concerns about both the creators of such a game and the people play…
/r/EverydayMisandry30/08/24 06:23 PM
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Is it a problem that some games portray immoral behaviour? The Grand Theft Auto series has players take the roles of street thugs and mafia who, as far as I know (I haven't actually played any of them other than the first one from 1997), never rape or sexually assault anyone and who commit just about every other type of violent crime. If it's acceptable for games like that, with their extremely immoral protagonists, to be widely available with no harsh judgement upon the people who play them, th…
/r/EverydayMisandry30/08/24 05:00 PM
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My girlfriend was the one who got me into these visual novels. We read/play some whose stories include detailed depictions of unquestionable rape (no "gray area" and the perpetrator sometimes even openly acknowledges that it's rape while doing it), and neither of us find that to be the least bit arousing. Rather, we have the common reactions of feeling sympathy for the victim and disgust for the perpetrator, both of whom are fictional entities. Basically, the rape scenes are just something that …
/r/EverydayMisandry30/08/24 04:51 PM
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If they are getting this agitated over that game and its "gray area" scenes then don't let them find out about the Rance series, especially Kichikuou Rance. Actually, on second thought, let them find out. I want to see how they react, because I'm sure it will be at least as amusing as how evangelical christians reacted to South Park: Bigger, Longer, and Uncut.
/r/EverydayMisandry29/08/24 11:43 PM
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If there was evidence to conclusively prove that Kavanaugh was innocent, then there wouldn't have been such a gongshow over him. Because that level of evidence doesn't exist, nobody other than possibly Kavanaugh himself and his individual accusers (I say possibly because human memory is not 100% reliable) will ever know whether or not he is factually innocent. Kavanaugh was confirmed as a judge by a vote that was almost entirely along party lines. Republicans wanted a conservative judge to fill …
/r/EverydayMisandry27/08/24 04:52 PM
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Definitely. One can very easily say "I want to be examined by someone of my own sex" without making any insulting generalisations, which is exactly what the woman at the top did. It's still technically a form of discrimination, but there is a well-established social understanding that this particular kind of discrimination is perfectly acceptable.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/08/24 08:59 PM
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If I needed my genitals examined for any reason, I would want a male doctor doing it for a few reasons: I would immediately feel like a pervert if I were to report, to a female doctor, any problem which then required her to look there. Even if my own conscience were not burdened by 1), I would still be worried that she would think I was a pervert who was just making up the problem as an excuse to get her to look. Because of 2), I would also be worried that she might not check carefully and perha…
/r/EverydayMisandry26/08/24 08:55 PM
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Did she somehow confuse mensrights with that female pessimism subreddit?
/r/EverydayMisandry26/08/24 04:48 PM
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That's hardly a Canada-specific thing, or even a Reddit-specific thing. Social media in general seems to be far more concerned with male-on-female violent crime than any other kind.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/08/24 04:30 PM
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Physical abuse and torture are both very serious terms. If anything, they evoke worse mental images than calling it molestation. For example, most people, if told that someone was molested, would assume that someone else touched them sexually, without consent (and obviously it's always legally non-consensual for anyone below the age of consent), using just their hands to do it. Virtually nobody would assume, when hearing that someone was molested, that there was any burning involved, whereas the…
/r/EverydayMisandry26/08/24 02:53 PM
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Psychiatric medications, in general, tend to have sexual side-effects for some reason. Those effects are not necessarily detrimental, for example ADHD medications seem to be more likely to increase libido than to reduce it, although both effects have been reported by patients who were all taking the same specific medication.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/08/24 02:42 PM
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Both of these people are idiots, and Justin Garson should know better than to publicly comment about something far beyond his knowledge and qualifications (he has a Ph.D in Philosophy, not an M.D). I'm emailing CUNY to report his irresponsible, and possibly unethical, conduct. Pretty well anyone with an M.D. will say that most medications, including psychiatric medications, represent a trade-off of sorts. Medical doctors prescribe medication to address some kind of problem about which a patient …
/r/EverydayMisandry26/08/24 02:33 PM
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I see; thanks for explaining that. If you don't mind, can you briefly list a few major ways that women have it better in English-speaking countries, compared to South Korea, that would cause a recent immigrant to drop that attitude (if they even had it in the first place)?
/r/EverydayMisandry22/08/24 07:54 PM
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Some women will feign disinterest because they specifically want a man who doesn't give up easily. At the same time, if they are genuinely disinterested in a man then of course they expect him to give up at some point, and might even want him to give up as soon as possible. I blame most of that on the kinds of media targeted towards heterosexual women, e.g. romance novels and television dramas, that put these ideas in their heads.
/r/EverydayMisandry22/08/24 05:51 PM
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Is this a very recent development? Before the pandemic, I was working in a city with a large population of first-generation immigrants from South Korea (as in they had gone through school in South Korea and followed Korean media) and I don't recall a single woman among them who had anything close to that kind of attitude. More like the polar opposite, as pretty well all of them were exceedingly pleasant and polite.
/r/EverydayMisandry22/08/24 05:42 PM
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It should be noted that lots of people have multiple accounts, and there are plenty of bots out there. The actual number of unique human beings liking these posts could be half of that number, or even less. That's still a large number of extremely misandrist people, but keep in mind that there are nearly 8 billion people on this planet. The country of India, which for some reason is home to some of the loudest misandrists (see this post from a few days ago about the Indian airline that now has "…
/r/EverydayMisandry21/08/24 06:34 PM
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True; I learned that by accident once. The muscle contractions still happen, so it's still technically an orgasm despite not really feeling like one.
/r/EverydayMisandry21/08/24 04:18 PM
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An affirmative defence normally means a defence that negates liability for the crime, despite all elements having been proven, and without negating any element. In most jurisdictions, an honest but mistaken belief in consent negates the mens rea element (knowing about the lack of consent, or being reckless as to whether or not the other person was consenting) and therefore is not an affirmative defence. The prosecution officially bears the burden of proving, beyond a reasonable doubt, that the a…
/r/EverydayMisandry20/08/24 08:51 PM
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Most consent-based legal definitions either include a lack of reasonable belief in consent, by the perpetrator, as an element of the crime, or they allow an honest but mistaken belief in consent as complete defence. That said, there is definitely an active campaign to get more women to label their past sexual experiences as rape or sexual assault. I'm mainly familiar with this through conscious-level methods like deceptively leading questions on surveys, and gaslighting by counsellors (e.g. "you…
/r/EverydayMisandry20/08/24 07:07 PM
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Definitely projection; I couldn't have said it better myself (or at least I couldn't have said it with such efficient use of words).
/r/EverydayMisandry20/08/24 06:49 PM
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So by the same "logic", most women don't care about false accusations because most of them are either false accusers or have the desire to falsely accuse, right?
/r/EverydayMisandry20/08/24 06:48 PM
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But what's the worst I think is saying ejaculation is orgasm. I've talked to a person who practiced tantric sex or something and got an insight that like erection, it's absolutely not the same and the woman is just applying mechanical tension which isn't anything special. For both men and women an orgasm is, mechanically speaking, a series of muscle contractions. For men, those contractions also cause an ejaculation except when there is no fluid available to be ejaculated (a "dry orgasm"), which…
/r/EverydayMisandry20/08/24 06:38 PM
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Another woman who thinks that because she has some sexual hangups (being in a heterosexual relationship without having sex is perfectly fine as long as both partners want that, and it's also outside the norm), all women must feel that way internally. She is doing a nice job of demonstrating the false consensus effect. Of course no source is given for that 14% statistic, most likely because it doesn't exist. Or perhaps it exists, but she is misreporting what it says. Maybe it actually says that o…
/r/EverydayMisandry20/08/24 06:20 PM
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Yes, analyses are going to be subjective because people who subjectively believe whatever they're saying will tend to pass the proverbial polygraph Just to make sure we're not getting wires crossed here, when I mentioned possibly analysing vocal cadence and facial expressions, I meant while they were making the offending statement, not while they were later denying being serious. In my experience, there are certain cadences and expressions which clearly signal that someone is joking, certain one…
/r/EverydayMisandry20/08/24 05:53 PM
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The vile grifter in the second image has a doctorate in psychology. She is not a medical doctor. You can read her rubbish doctoral thesis right here, if you can stomach it.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/08/24 12:02 AM
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That's one of my favourite subreddits.
/r/EverydayMisandry19/08/24 10:14 PM
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On airplanes, it's often couples sitting at the back because on 747 and similar planes the back of the plane is the only part of the economy section where there are just two seats between the window and the aisle.
/r/EverydayMisandry19/08/24 10:13 PM
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I'm happy to able to avoid having to sit next to someone who has a pathological aversion to sitting next to me. I completely agree. If I'm flying somewhere by myself, I don't want to sit next to such a misandrist woman. If she can opt to only sit next to other women, then we both get what we want. On the other hand, if she is then seated next to a non-misandrist woman and rants to her about how much she hates men, that's probably going to be unpleasant for the non-misandrist. I mentioned this to…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/08/24 10:07 PM
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Context is critical. If person A makes a comment in jest about how someone ought to be killed, and person B makes that same kind of comment seriously, both A and B are likely to react the same way if they get in trouble for saying that. Both of them will probably claim that they said it in jest in an effort to get themselves out of trouble, and the only ways that one might possibly be able to prove that A is telling the truth and/or that B is lying will be with additional contextual evidence, or…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/08/24 06:45 PM
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Oh right, I neglected to consider that aiding and abetting counts as guilt for the very same offence, rather than for a different offence. although my understanding (which could be wrong) is that the charge itself is then specifically labeled as an "Abet" rather than a "Commit". That's charming how even when they are counting statistics for a group of related offences (rape and assault by penetration) they still make sure to exclude the one offence that would seriously increase the percentage of…
/r/EverydayMisandry18/08/24 07:49 PM
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It's one of those indirect lies via implicit equivocation, where she explicitly uses the word "rape" once, yet unpacking the argument reveals that it's actually used twice, and in very different senses. The unpacked argument looks like this (and she did this unpacking herself in a response to a response): Premise 1: Under UK criminal law, a rape can only be committed using one's own penis. Premise 2: Women and girls don't have penises. Conclusion: Women and girls have not committed a single rape…
/r/EverydayMisandry18/08/24 05:46 PM
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Which particular statistics are claiming it's 99%? I'm interested in knowing about this other 1% that manage to commit a crime that is defined in such a way that it can only be committed using one's own penis.
/r/EverydayMisandry18/08/24 04:55 PM
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When someone's ideology requires being able to point at some kind of "misogyny" to justify more discriminatory laws and policies, it actually makes sense that they would want to create more misogynists. If you look at how black people were, and to some extent still are, oppressed in the south-eastern US following the American Civil War, making them resent white people was part of the vicious cycle that was then used to justify things like segregation. Every time a black person was driven to lash…
/r/EverydayMisandry18/08/24 04:15 PM
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I'm starting to wonder how many of these social media posts are just trolling for attention, to the point that making posts about them on this subreddit is just giving the authors exactly what they want (and possibly encouraging them to make more). Usually, when people express hatred towards another group, they use some degree of masking or dog whistling. Even Andrea Dworkin was careful not to cross certain lines when expressing her contempt for men, and Julie Bindel walks a similar fine line. T…
/r/EverydayMisandry18/08/24 04:05 PM
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Let me guess, it's my job to find the source for that statistic if I'm not willing to take it on faith, right? ;)
/r/EverydayMisandry17/08/24 01:40 PM
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Right, for every woman who complains about random men talking to her, you have at least one other woman who complains about random men not talking to her, so men might as well try talking to random women if they feel like it. There's much to potentially gain, and little to lose as long as basic precautions are taken.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/08/24 06:36 PM
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This is such an oddly specific rant. Why is this specifically directed at boomers, who are all over the age of 60 at this point and therefore frail? What is so special about parking lots compared to streets, grocery stores, and shopping centres?
/r/EverydayMisandry16/08/24 06:32 PM
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Especially since about 2010, it seems to have become relatively rare for men to fat shame women, and the proportion of men who are attracted to them has increased. Women seem to have always dealt with fairly harsh judgement and bullying from other women over seemingly trivial things, and social media seems to have made that much worse.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/08/24 02:33 PM
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If she actually had any examples of these horrible things men were supposedly saying to each other in their spaces, she would have shown them. Obviously she just hates men and is fabricating justifications for her hatred out of whole cloth. As I have said before, everything these women say about their experiences with men should be taken as seriously as we would take what a KKK member says about their experiences with black people. If there's no proof that it's true, then assume they are lying.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/08/24 01:55 PM
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Is your implication, that sex with women is a biological requirement for an individual man, "more of a joke" or is it something about which you are serious?
/r/EverydayMisandry16/08/24 08:06 AM
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As per Hitchens's Razor, statistics that are asserted without evidence (i.e. pulled out of someone's arse) can be dismissed without evidence.
/r/EverydayMisandry15/08/24 07:00 PM
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Women already have ruled and currently do rule. There have been queens of both absolute and constitutional monarchies, and there are currently female prime ministers and female presidents.
/r/EverydayMisandry15/08/24 06:44 PM
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Such a ridiculous subreddit. Thank goodness they only represent a tiny, lunatic fringe of the female population.
/r/EverydayMisandry15/08/24 06:38 PM
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It has been a criminal offence for decades in the UK and Canada to encourage a specific individual to commit suicide, but posts like this could get around that by not being directed at anyone known to the person making the post. The recent UK Online Harms Act changed this; now that kind of post actually is a criminal offence, and many other loopholes in the previous definition of the offence have been closed. Whether or not the CPS will actually prosecute people for this when the general group b…
/r/EverydayMisandry15/08/24 06:31 PM
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TERFs won't regard that as blowback. They support treating men with suspicion and contempt (as per the RF part of TERF), and they take the position that trans women are men in all meaningful senses of the word.
/r/EverydayMisandry15/08/24 06:22 PM
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I don't know if anyone flirted with her while thinking she was taken, but she once mentioned that someone later asked her about the woman with whom she was holding hands and if that was her partner, which resulted in an awkward moment. She mentioned a number of occasions where people have assumed that she is a lesbian and that, while it doesn't really bother her, she finds it confusing that it keeps happening. I suspect a lot of it is due to her being indifferent to social standards of feminity …
/r/EverydayMisandry14/08/24 09:40 PM
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Everyone is entitled to their preferences. My previous girlfriend dislikes both dresses and suits, but finds suits to be more comfortable. For her it was a somewhat common occurrence for other women to flirt with her, thinking she was into that when she is actually completely straight. It didn't help that my hairstyle makes me look kind of like a woman when my back is turned, so someone who saw us together with our backs turned might have that assumption further reinforced. My point here is simp…
/r/EverydayMisandry14/08/24 07:00 PM
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It's not taboo in work-related contexts unless it's the same kind of suit that men typically wear, in which case it's only a little bit taboo and even that seems to be fading. It does seem rather unfair that men can get away with owning just one or two suits that they use for all formal situations without drawing any unwanted assumptions or weird judgements, while women need one or two "power suits" in order to be optimally perceived in formal work situations, and then one or two dresses to be o…
/r/EverydayMisandry13/08/24 08:43 PM
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I specifically stated only categories 2 and 3 are more lenient. The source you were paraphrasing didn't use the words "more lenient"; it used numbers that you interpreted as amounting to this. Category 2 has the same maximums for both offences; only the minimums and starting points differ. This makes sense if the least bad conduct that could go into Category 2 for one offence actually is less bad than the other, e.g. if the forced penetration isn't something that amounts to sexual intercourse. I…
/r/EverydayMisandry13/08/24 08:24 PM
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OK, if she prefers the androgynous look but still wants to get dressed up formally for weddings and stuff, why not just opt for a suit? While it's now socially acceptable for a women to wear suits to formal events rather than dresses, doing so for events that are not work-related still attracts certain assumptions (e.g. that she is a lesbian). That said, there are plenty of ways to mimimise effort and expense while still blending reasonably well with one's peers and avoiding undesired assumption…
/r/EverydayMisandry13/08/24 05:54 PM
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Thank you for the official source. I had already tried googling for your exact text and found zero results, so I was quite certain that an official source containing your exact words didn't exist and therefore you were probably paraphrasing. Indeed, the word "lenient" isn't in there; that's your interpretation. Your interpretation may very well be correct, but I was right to be sceptical that official government documents would outright say that the punishment should be more lenient than the pun…
/r/EverydayMisandry13/08/24 05:52 PM
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The recurring theme is that these are not typical people. They hate men, most of them aren't even attracted to men (they talk about being exclusively attracted to women, or not having sexual attraction to anyone), and they will exaggerate minor incidents or even fabricate stories from whole cloth for the purpose of putting men in a bad light. Basically, their stories about their experiences with men should be taken about as seriously as the stories the KKK have about their experiences with black…
/r/EverydayMisandry13/08/24 05:09 PM
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Homer was always kind of a buffoon from the very first episode, and that same episode even included the first instance of Homer strangling Bart, albeit off-screen. By Season 3 they were depicting that same act of child abuse quite explicitly. What changed somewhere around Season 6 was that all of the characters became more two-dimensional as the show itself started to focus more on zany situations than relatable family drama. That meant Homer went from being a well-meaning husband and father who…
/r/EverydayMisandry13/08/24 04:55 PM
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Are you directly quoting that text from the official sentencing guidelines, or are you paraphrasing? Either way, I need a link to your source for this before I might possibly believe that the official guidelines actually say this. The statute, to which basically everything else is subordinate, specifies a maximum sentence of life imprisonment for both offences when penetration or being forcibly made to penetrate is involved, and no statutory minimum for either crime. If other legislation or deve…
/r/EverydayMisandry13/08/24 04:22 PM
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It does matter because the words used are at the core of how we talk about, and what awareness we have of various injustices. The same crimes should therefore use the same words so as to make it clear that we're talking about the same thing. Shoplifting a single, small bar of chocolate is prosecuted as "theft". Swiping a large bar of gold that represents over a year of the victim's income is also prosecuted as "theft". Would you like to suggest a new word for the latter act, since it's obviously…
/r/EverydayMisandry12/08/24 02:45 PM
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That one seems too easy to refute in court. There's no need to drop trousers, as they can just call his physician and/or past sex partners as witnesses. It would be pretty funny, however, if they had him drop trou and then the lawyer said something like "Let the record show that it's too small to penetrate anyone." I would say the exact analogue for men is the very same argument: "I couldn't have done that because I'm not confident in my body and I'm very lazy, so I expect the woman to do all th…
/r/EverydayMisandry12/08/24 02:28 PM
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Unless her lawyer, Audrey Archer of 3PB (a matter of public record so this isn't doxing anyone, plus Audrey brags about this very case right on the page) also works in drag for Metro as a senior news reporter named Sam Corbishley, no. It is rather odd that the entire article mentioned no aspect of the Crown's case.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/08/24 02:17 PM
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This trial was two years ago and ended with the jury apparently buying the defence's infuriating argument of incapability (or perhaps they were smart enough to reject that and believed that she was capable of doing this, but decided to give her word at least as much weight as his). No mention was made of the prosecution trying to rebut the defence by calling witnesses to testify to her capability (e.g. past sex partners who consensually had sex with her on top) even though, as far as I can tell …
/r/EverydayMisandry11/08/24 08:06 PM
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I suspect they are only being even-handed in this case because the accused is obese, and the complainant is a man who is willing to admit to being attracted to obese women and to being overpowered by a woman. The Daily Fail loves to punch down, and this case gave them an opportunity to punch down at both of them.
/r/EverydayMisandry11/08/24 07:56 PM
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Based on what it says in the article it sounds like no man, who had already agreed to be intimate with her in some capacity, had ever previously told her "no" to what she wanted to do next. She has probably never been warned, at any point in her life, that she is capable of being a perpetrator of sexual violence; she has probably only ever been told that she can be a victim. This is reflected in the alleged detail of her treating an erection as consent, and her rolling over and going to sleep af…
/r/EverydayMisandry11/08/24 07:52 PM
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As long as the charge itself is taken seriously and the punishment fits the crime, I don't think it matters too much what word is used and I see no objective reason to be particularly concerned about the word. I get that the word "rape" is currently politicised for misandrist purposes, and that the UK laws help to enable those political shenanigans; this infuriates me as well. I just find my frustration being directed towards the misandrist people doing this rather than the lawmakers, especially…
/r/EverydayMisandry11/08/24 07:23 PM
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You beat me to it. I have no love for cretinous tabloids like the Daily Fail, but this particular article seems to be even-handed and using appropriate terminology considering UK law and the specific charge against her.
/r/EverydayMisandry11/08/24 06:53 PM
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It's also a cheap shot insult because unlike women and breasts where any false claim about their size can be proven wrong, without breaking the law, by simply showing enough cleavage, it's illegal in most contexts for a man to show proof that he doesn't have a small penis.
/r/EverydayMisandry10/08/24 02:09 PM
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I don't get it; he's wearing swim briefs so how can anyone determine the size of it? The difference in size between when it's flaccid, and when it's in a state where the word "pole" makes sense, varies wildly from man to man (some are "growers" and some are "showers"), so if her point is that there isn't a large bulge, that proves nothing (except possibly ignorance of how male anatomy works, and by extension possibly something about Thunberg's sexuality, but I won't go there). That said, if anyo…
/r/EverydayMisandry10/08/24 02:04 PM
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This person seems ridiculous in a number of ways, but it's not at all clear what context she has in mind when she says "open doors for women". Couldn't she just be observing couples, and lamenting that the men in those couples don't open the door for their dates/girlfriends/wives, rather than lamenting that she has to open doors herself because random men won't do it for her? Either way she's being ridiculous for asking "What's wrong with men these days?" but what she means does make a differenc…
/r/EverydayMisandry09/08/24 11:32 PM
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There's a difference between conscientious people who obey rules by default, and break them when their conscience demands it (but only after careful consideration of the likely consequences), and people who are just defiant and break rules almost instinctively (e.g. the ones who made all the drama by refusing to wear masks during the pandemic). George Washington would be an example of the former type; he was a very obedient officer during his military career and later made some carefully conside…
/r/EverydayMisandry09/08/24 02:32 PM
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Aren't there also models for that test where the children are divided into three groups? I remember reading something, years ago, about how one group were all individually put through a scenario, prior to the test, where the administrator made some kind of promise to the child and kept it, while another group were put through a scenario where the administrator broke their promise, and then a third group were put through no scenario at all prior to the test. Basically, it's not just about impulse…
/r/EverydayMisandry09/08/24 02:15 PM
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I still don't know exactly how the Crowdstrike outage was able to happen, and I expect I will never know unless a lawsuit results in a discovery process and the findings are made public. Crowdstrike's official communications to the public are typically (and suspiciously) vague. That said, I used to work in IT management and eventually left to become a software engineer after becoming frustrated with the shenanigans going on in these departments and being told by the owners to shut my yap when I …
/r/EverydayMisandry09/08/24 02:03 PM
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There's at least one lesbian-exclusive club in London. If she only wants to be around other lesbians, why doesn't she just go there instead of complaining about gay men going to clubs where they are welcome?
/r/EverydayMisandry06/08/24 08:27 PM
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That may very well be the case on average, although I don't see how the BLS survey you linked can offer much in support of such a claim when it only surveyed individuals (one per household) who are not necessarily part of a couple, and the methodology specifically says that they did not exclude unemployed people (including homemakers) from the survey sample. Furthermore, their methodology sounds a little dubious because it doesn't say that they actually asked respondents to keep a formal diary o…
/r/EverydayMisandry06/08/24 06:40 PM
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Most dual-income couples I know seem to have a habit of coordinating their household work anyway, i.e. it's not like one of them is washing dishes while the other is watching television. They basically work as a team to get tasks done, and that simply takes as long as it takes, so it's almost exactly the same number of hours from each of them. Obviously that gets more complicated if their work schedules aren't aligned, but healthy couples know how to communicate and make a fair arrangement. I ge…
/r/EverydayMisandry04/08/24 06:47 PM
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Andy's Man Club is a good organisation that helps men dealing with a variety of problems. You could try contacting them and asking if they need volunteers at any of their Manchester clubs.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/08/24 08:05 AM
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Indeed, I didn't see the earlier comment before it got removed but I agree that it's ridiculous to gender these kinds of issues. I'm familiar with some of those paracetamol/acetaminophen cases in addition to cases involving much more immediately lethal (when overdosed) medications. There was even a popular blogger who was briefly suspected of having done this to himself, but they later determined that he probably took his normal medication dose in the morning and then later forgot and took it ag…
/r/EverydayMisandry03/08/24 10:48 PM
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The delay in methods like pills only matters if there's a realistic prospect of being discovered in time. If someone uses this method after making social media posts about it, at a time of day when such posts will be quickly seen by people who know where that person lives, then there's a good argument to be made for how that particular incident is probably a cry for attention rather than a serious attempt (and sometimes people who do this end up unintentionally dying anyway because they underest…
/r/EverydayMisandry03/08/24 08:08 PM
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I'm aware of several cases myself where men used the "If you don't <thing I want> then I'll kill myself" emotional blackmail tactic. I see little reason to care what percentage of all these cases involve women doing it and what percentage involve men doing it. It's terrible behaviour no matter who does it, and both sexes are equally capable of doing it. I remember, at some point in the 1990s, watching this bizarre show on Canadian television where one of the plot points involved a straight man, …
/r/EverydayMisandry03/08/24 07:56 PM
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I guess I should be glad my girlfriend believes me, then. I assume that when she asked, she wasn't including pseudonymous accounts on platforms like Reddit in her question. She was particularly interested to know if I was on Facebook, and I told her the truth that I consider it to be a ridiculous waste of time.
/r/EverydayMisandry02/08/24 09:54 PM
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What if said partner says "Sure, here's my LinkedIn profile" and insists that they have no other social media presence besides that? Would you believe them?
/r/EverydayMisandry02/08/24 07:09 AM
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It sounds like she is inviting men to pay her to shut up and stop spewing her hate. Actually paying her to do that makes about as much sense as negotiating with a terrorist, i.e. it will only incentivise more people to do it even if she, as an individual, keeps her promise.
/r/EverydayMisandry02/08/24 07:07 AM
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Nobody lives long enough to become informed about everything; if you spend an entire day reading about subject A, you have also spent that entire day ignoring subjects B, C, D, and so on. If you can't grasp that basic aspect of time management, then you are beyond help. I am absolutely not lazy; I do the work that I am ethically obligated to do, and I am willing to go beyond that and do work that I am not ethically obligated to do, as long as I am paid for my time. I have even offered you my dis…
/r/EverydayMisandry02/08/24 06:49 AM
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I'm not surprised that a young, spoiled narcissist would make a cretinous, ill-informed post like this. While such posts used to shock me, they are basically just background noise to me now, and yet another reason to generally stay away from social media (other than LinkedIn which I use for finding clients and contracts, and which is quite self-policing). The 131K likes, on the other hand, does surprise me, especially when most of her other posts have a few hundred likes at most, as one would ex…
/r/EverydayMisandry01/08/24 05:02 PM
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"What can be asserted without evidence can also be dismissed without evidence." -- Christopher Hitchens The person making a positive claim bears the burden of proving it. It's not my job to do any work to prove someone else's claim for them unless they pay me to do that work, and in that case my discount rate is £50 per hour. I charge most people a lot more than that for my time, because demand for my services is quite high. That said, it's definitely not "too much work" for me. If there's somet…
/r/EverydayMisandry01/08/24 09:15 AM
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Americans certainly tend to be far less shy about expressing their real feelings, which is probably why you encounter the best and worst of everything there. Personally, I think Canada got the right balance between American-style individualism and British-style civility. Even with Canada's terrible federal government and horrifically misandrist legal system, I would probably still have stayed there if it weren't for the fact that my close family are all in England and that my nephews, in particu…
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/24 06:42 PM
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I would assume that the women who have fast encounters with men they just met, are not the women who write these kinds of comments. My experience is that the women who write comments like this constitute a lunatic fringe, and that the silent majority of women have much more moderate views, i.e. they take certain safety precautions but don't hate or fear men as a group. That said, my experience is also that the kinds of women who have such fast encounters also aren't very representative of the ge…
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/24 06:07 PM
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Their belief in the moral superiority of women is basically their garage dragon.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/24 05:59 PM
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Which, interestingly enough, tends to make one more attractive to women. Personally, I'm also more attracted to women who demonstrate this trait although, because of the way attraction typically works for men (myself included), it's not nearly as important.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/24 05:53 PM
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Do you credit the relocation from England to the US as having significantly helped with your mental health? My own experience with the US is that it has much less surface-level misandry than England (I don't think I have ever seen misandrist posters or billboards in the US or Canada, except maybe on a university campus), but has much more severe misandry permeating its government and academic institutions.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/24 05:44 PM
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once there is evidence to prove it to be true it is no longer a theory but a fact. Right, so when I say that someone believes in a "conspiracy theory", wouldn't it be reasonable to assume that I mean something for which that person is unable to present sufficient evidence to prove it?
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/24 05:37 PM
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I appreciate you honestly owning up to your mistake, so I'll edit my earlier comment to be less harsh.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/24 05:33 PM
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YouTube comments are full of baseless assertions; I want evidence. The first of those two videos presents good evidence that YouTube's broken algorithm doesn't care about the political leanings of comments and therefore isn't actually trying to suppress any particular political viewpoint other than, perhaps, extreme racism and sexism. I won't believe in the existence of YouTube temporal bans until I see direct evidence of them. Anecdotes are basically worthless to me for this purpose because I h…
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/24 05:30 PM
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Hang in there. The misandry you experience represents a much smaller slice of society than it appears to be, and there are ways to adjust your life that will limit your exposure to it and allow you to socialise (in real life) with more people who don't hold these attitudes.
/r/EverydayMisandry30/07/24 02:51 PM
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Not personally, but I have seen the effects that heavy exposure to misandry can have on the mental health of men and boys. I get that many of the expressions of misandry are motivated by fear rather than hatred, although much of that fear is the result of exposure to deliberate disinformation whose creators could only be motivated by hatred. Regardless of motivation, the end result is an attack on the self-esteem of men and boys, with suicide being the most extreme effect. For every man or boy d…
/r/EverydayMisandry30/07/24 02:44 PM
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If the word "theory" is key, then what is your excuse for leaving it out of your previous comment?
/r/EverydayMisandry30/07/24 07:20 AM
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Can someone get this person a dictionary? EDIT: Adjusted langauge to be less harsh.
/r/EverydayMisandry29/07/24 05:02 PM
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Why are you telling me to do a search, for which the results may or may not contain what you want me to see, instead of giving links? Do you not know how to include links? Since you failed to be specific about which content you mean, I am going to assume that you mean the first two videos that come up in a search for "Youtube autodeleting comments" on YouTube itself (because I assume that is what you mean by "the site". They are as follows: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3lpPbQ8g9XE https://www…
/r/EverydayMisandry29/07/24 04:59 PM
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You're missing the point. Nobody actually argued against what could be called the steelmanned version of your position, i.e. a version that doesn't contain universal statements or statements that clearly contradict observable reality (the existence of some white men who struggle to find girlfriends even in more favourable environments like highly cosmopolitan cities). When you use words like "all" to make universal statements, you're making a bold, dangerous move. Responsible people don't make t…
/r/EverydayMisandry28/07/24 06:19 PM
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I still remember going through sex education in the early 90s when there was something of a disinformation campaign exaggerating the danger that HIV/AIDS posed to straight people, apparently in the hope that it would then be taken more seriously (religious conservatives also pushed that campaign because they wanted to scare more people into abstinence). That then turned into a kind of biphobia where bisexual men were blamed for being the "bridge" for HIV spreading to heterosexuals. Michael Fumen…
/r/EverydayMisandry27/07/24 09:07 PM
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I'm not disputing that, when all other things are roughly equal, being white is a major advantage in dating women, regardless of which races of women one seeks to date. It's still reality that a homely, socially awkward, impoverished white man is going to have a much more difficult time finding a girlfriend than a conventionally attractive, charming, wealthy man who is not white, even in a city where there are twice as many single women, of all races combined, as there are single white men. Word…
/r/EverydayMisandry27/07/24 03:59 PM
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I'm a fairly chocolate colored black man, and I know, beyond doubt, all girls want white peen, end of story. You know it only takes one counterexample to refute a universal statement, right? While most heterosexual interracial couples seem to be a white man and a woman of some other race, there are also pairings of white women with men of other races. Otherwise, Barack Obama wouldn't exist. Furthermore, "all girls" would include girls who are exclusive lesbians, or who are completely asexual, an…
/r/EverydayMisandry27/07/24 02:27 PM
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You don't really need to ask any specific questions. Just let the conversation flow in a natural way, and pay close attention to how she talks about the men in her life. If most or all of her stories about them are negative, that's a huge red flag. A lot of people say to avoid women who don't have positive relationships with their fathers, but I think that's rather extreme. When a woman speaks fondly of her father, that's definitely a green flag, but it's also a green flag if she speaks highly o…
/r/EverydayMisandry27/07/24 02:06 PM
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Between the US, the UK, and Canada (three countries in which I have spent significant time), I would say the UK "wins" at having the most surface-level misandry, e.g. misandrist posters and misandry that you can overhear in people's conversations. At the same time, the UK also has the fairest, least misandrist legal system of those three countries. The UK seems to conduct more prosecutions of false accusers than the US and Canada combined, despite having about 20% of the population. The US "wins…
/r/EverydayMisandry27/07/24 07:36 AM
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How do you know that women meet more bad men than the vice versa? Probably by defining "bad" in a way that only takes seriously the kinds of bad behaviour in which men are more likely to engage e.g. physical abuse, while ignoring or minimising the kinds in which women are more likely to engage e.g. financial abuse and psychological abuse. I always keep bringing to women's attention the dehumanizing, objectifying language they use when talking about 'value' and the condescending/superiority impli…
/r/EverydayMisandry26/07/24 07:36 PM
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The use of "Womyn" and especially "XY" in the name is also a strong indicator. Mentally stable people don't refer to men and boys as "XYs".
/r/EverydayMisandry19/07/24 10:17 AM
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Do you have any evidence of this? Without evidence, I don't believe this happens.
/r/EverydayMisandry19/07/24 10:12 AM
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Thanks for the link. I think Google Translate did a pretty good job of automatically translating it into English. I do wonder what would have happened to Adam if he had not made any appeal to personal political beliefs at all, and instead just said something like "it doesn't say anywhere in my employment contract that attending parades is one of my work duties" or even just "I really need to complete <some legitimately critical work task> as soon as possible, and attending a parade would interfe…
/r/EverydayMisandry18/07/24 07:20 PM
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such as companies ordering their employees to go to Pride parades and firing them if they don't go. Perhaps I'm using the wrong search terms, but I can't find a single documented case of any employer giving such an order.
/r/EverydayMisandry18/07/24 04:12 PM
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You literally can get temporal bans for writing "female/woman/girl" and any negative adjective within the paragraph in the comment sections and get your account deleted or worse, you could have a throwaway account only for watching videos but get a random ban even if you haven't commented ever, which is weird and creepy. Are you talking about a sitewide ban, or just being banned by a channel owner from commenting on their channel? If you mean a sitewide ban, I have never seen anything like that …
/r/EverydayMisandry18/07/24 04:09 PM
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I'm pretty sure the person saying this is someone with zero sexual/romantic attraction to men anyway (i.e. exclusive lesbian or asexual). I can understand how, from her point of view, the degree to which men are interested in women for their bodies might seem disturbing. At the same time, she is assuming too much. Most men also care about personality and, when it comes to seeking out long-term partners, prioritise that over physical attraction. I highly doubt that any of these "gross" comments s…
/r/EverydayMisandry17/07/24 09:48 PM
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The online isn't really a fantasy, it's not suddenly different people than there exist in real life. It kind of is, though. Not all of the people who post online are even real. Even before AI bots, trolls would create multiple accounts and post outlandish things that weren't necessarily representative of the troll's actual beliefs. Even if we limit this analysis to only the real human beings who are posting their real opinions under a single online identity, those humans are not representative o…
/r/EverydayMisandry16/07/24 08:40 PM
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Is there any evidence to indicate that autistic men are disproportionately represented among all of the men who get accused in this manner? I'm not a lawyer and nothing I say should be taken as legal advice, and I wouldn't even call failing to communicate dissent anything close to "entrapment". Strictly speaking, only those who are acting on behalf of the government can entrap. If I leave a very valuable item in the back seat of a car and then I forget to close the door, nevermind lock it, one c…
/r/EverydayMisandry16/07/24 08:30 PM
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Thirty years ago, when I was barely a teenager, there was nowhere near as much of this gender war rubbish as there was twenty years ago. The same can be said about twenty years ago vs. ten years ago. It's constantly getting worse; I think the last time there was any meaningful period of reversal was during the 1980s and early 1990s when there seemed to be a notion in mainstream society (as opposed to university campuses) that women had won their equality of opportunity in western countries and t…
/r/EverydayMisandry16/07/24 07:57 PM
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Just wait until this person comes to the realisation that job postings which promise a "competitive salary" and "opportunities for advancement" aren't always being truthful.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/07/24 04:51 PM
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"why[sic] do u[sic] think men are so eager to catch a glimpse of a woman's body non-consensually?" Why do you think some women are so eager to dress in a manner that is intentionally fashioned to draw attention from men, and non-consensually impose those aspects of their bodies into the visual cortexes of men who are just be trying to do their jobs or their studies, or get home to their wives or girlfriends? Part of the rationale for dress codes is to limit this kind of thing. As I recall, femin…
/r/EverydayMisandry16/07/24 04:32 PM
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When a feminist (because non-feminists basically never use the term "patriarchy" in their rhetoric) says "the patriarchy", they mean whatever "the patriarchy" happens to mean to them. That's what you get whenever a word lacks a clear definition. When the definition isn't just unclear, but conveniently (and seemingly intentionally) vague, this effect is exacerbated. Many people, who say F the patriarchy, do mean F men. It takes a special kind of delusion for one to think that one can speak for al…
/r/EverydayMisandry16/07/24 04:19 PM
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I'm pretty sure every law is intended to make at least some people feel happier/safer. Sometimes that's a very small group of people (e.g. major shareholders of giant pharmaceutical corporations) at the expense of creating significant misery among a much larger group, but I don't think anyone makes laws just because they want others to be miserable. If anyone does actually do this, they are being very careful to make sure they have some kind of plausible good intention behind each law. See also …
/r/EverydayMisandry15/07/24 06:25 PM
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I think you mean hyperbole.
/r/EverydayMisandry15/07/24 04:22 PM
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It does, to some degree, in the UK, although I can't find a single example of a prosecution where the complainant was male. I don't know if that's because men don't get victimised in this manner (possibly due to being more vigilant against it), or because the Crown Prosecution Service doesn't care about men, but the latter seems more likely. This recent prosecution, involving a female complainant, was just in the news last year. All of those prosecutions in the UK have concerned legal gender ide…
/r/EverydayMisandry15/07/24 04:20 PM
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Requiring people to disclose any STIs they know they have, prior to any sexual activity that has a realistic chance of passing the infection, seems like reasonable government interference in dating. The most important thing about any such laws, however, is that, like what you said about marriage, there should be a clearly defined list of things that one must disclose, and about which one must not lie. Hiding or lying about anything not on the list could still be very unethical, but it shouldn't …
/r/EverydayMisandry15/07/24 06:40 AM
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This is definitely the reasonable view.
/r/EverydayMisandry15/07/24 05:59 AM
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Let's apply this "logic" to every other crime, then. No more locks on doors and cars and no more alarm systems, we'll just make sure that we tell everyone not to steal. The law already says not to steal, and has for as long as laws have existed, so clearly the problem here is that not enough people have been informed about that law. Let's fix that, and then theft will stop. No more passwords and PIN numbers to protect computers and bank acconts, we'll just make sure that we tell everyone not to …
/r/EverydayMisandry13/07/24 02:18 PM
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You might find these articles to be interesting, if you aren't already familiar with them.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/07/24 10:03 PM
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Relevant?
/r/EverydayMisandry12/07/24 09:59 PM
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The thing is, if one starts from the assumption that neither men nor women are morally superior to the other, i.e. that both have the capacity for good and evil, and that the rates of psychopathy are equally high in both, it's not difficult to find evidence and reasonable arguments to support that position. The greatest difficulty one encounters is that murder leaves the obvious effect of a dead body or at least someone having mysteriously vanished, while lies tend not to be seen for what they a…
/r/EverydayMisandry12/07/24 08:12 PM
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What do the horrifying, malicious false accusations of rape, levied by angry ex-girlfriends against men who left them, tell us about control? Women have other tools in their toolboxes besides physical violence, and malicious people tend to use whichever tool is most convenient for them.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/07/24 07:49 PM
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It seems like most of the time, when women are charged with any kind of violent offence, they pull the tactic of claiming that it was self-defence, regardless of whether or not that's actually true. Jodi Arias brutally murdered her ex-boyfriend, thought she had properly disposed of the evidence that would link her to the crime, and then, when caught, tried to claim that she killed him in self-defence. Jodi Arias still stands by that story, and her mother still seems to believe it, even with all …
/r/EverydayMisandry12/07/24 07:14 PM
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That bear in the picture actually looks pretty cute, and more like an adolescent bear than an adult. It reminds me of road trips in the Canadian Rockies, and how cars in the road would pull over to look at bears minding their own business, who happened to have wandered near the road. They would just stop their cars a reasonable distance away, secure in the knowledge that they need only hit the accelator and drive away if the bear were to suddenly charge at them. The thing is, bears are unpredict…
/r/EverydayMisandry12/07/24 06:44 PM
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You know how spies are issued an item for quickly ending their lives if they are caught, so that they can't be tortured into revealing everything they know to their captors? Are you advising that everyone carry something like that in case they are ever about to be raped?
/r/EverydayMisandry12/07/24 06:11 PM
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Casually making universal statements, against which easy counterexamples exist (Jodi Arias is sufficiently recent, and high-profile, that people should remember her) is a great way to announce to the world that one is a cretin. Even if the person who posted this is very young and missed the Jodi Arias media coverage, it would only have taken a minute of Googling to learn that women sometimes murder their (current or ex) husbands or boyfriends. Hell, Karen Reed's trial for allegedly murdering her…
/r/EverydayMisandry12/07/24 05:56 PM
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That would require him to actually do some research and seriously think before he posts.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/07/24 05:28 PM
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As long as we, as a society, keep enabling women to engage in domestic violence by propagating the idea that women can't really hurt men and that violence perpetrated by women is a non-issue, I would expect this to remain the case. At least the Jezebel site eventually took down their horrible post making light of female-perpetrated domestic violence, which is still archived as a reminder of the role they played as an enabler. As a man who is the physically weaker partner in a heterosexual relati…
/r/EverydayMisandry12/07/24 05:27 PM
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Exactly! Calling this particular variety of moronic meme "misinformation" gives it too much credit; it doesn't even have the pretense of informing anyone about the state of the world. This is basically just the modern political equivalent of church sermons, designed to agitate the audience in a calculated way.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/07/24 05:03 PM
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Were you banned by a Reddit admin, or by a subreddit moderator?
/r/EverydayMisandry11/07/24 07:43 PM
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I guarantee you, based on her career so far, that her house is in a statistically low-crime area that gets priority policing, and that at least one patrol car goes by her house every hour. Her neighbourhood would be at least as safe as mine. That means she's either outright lying in this post, or she suffers from worse paranoia than I do.
/r/EverydayMisandry09/07/24 06:28 PM
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This is a big part of why social media sucks. There are so many stupid people, and intelligent grifters seeking to exploit stupid people, trying to make stupid, hateful memes that are devoid of context (that part being relevant to what u/Poly_and_RA wrote) in the hope that they will go viral and help spread their messages of hate. In this case, we are talking about someone who describes herself as follows: women’s safety consultant, behaviour change marketing specialist + VAWG researcher | PhD c…
/r/EverydayMisandry07/07/24 09:31 PM
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Do these people not understand that men, and advocates for men, are not hiveminds? If man A brags about men being stronger than women (regardless of whether or not he is asserting this as a universal statement), while man B talks about male victims of domestic violence at the hands of women, they are each being internally consistent because they are different individuals. What does it say about someone when they can't even grasp such a basic aspect of reality?
/r/EverydayMisandry06/07/24 12:39 AM
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I don't know how you lose count of something that is a single-digit integer and sufficiently remarkable that each instance should stand out in your memory, but I'll take your word for it. In your last relationship, how exactly did she phrase this date invitation? You said "cold-approached"; does that mean you and her were complete strangers, or only that you and her hadn't spoken to each other before (but she already knew a lot about you by other means)? I'm highly attractive for my age and alwa…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/24 08:00 PM
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I see what you did there.
/r/EverydayMisandry05/07/24 06:57 PM
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I agree, and I'm cautious around people I don't know well regardless of their sex. If they were to replace "men" and "women" with "humans", their point basically works although the phrasing becomes extremely awkward. I think the fact that the phrasing becomes so awkward, in that case, indicates that the primary concern here isn't the safety of women but rather fomenting fear of, and hatred towards, men. The M&Ms analogy also implies that there is no outward, observable difference between dangero…
/r/EverydayMisandry05/07/24 06:39 PM
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Which specific 1-in-4 survey do you mean? There are a few different ones out there that have approximately 25% of female respondents reporting SA, using different dishonest methods to get it that high.
/r/EverydayMisandry05/07/24 03:51 PM
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I'm sorry to hear this. Hopefully whoever made the threats is brought to justice before long.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/07/24 09:14 PM
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They are increasingly not even bothering to mask their misandry. While it's probably true that well over half of the actual crimes are committed by men, it's also true that only a very small percentage of men commit serious, violent crimes. Laws are written to criminalise more of the types of wrongdoing that tend to be easier for men to commit (e.g. physical violence) while defamation is either non-criminal or criminal but only lightly enforced. Plus, when men and women commit the same crime wit…
/r/EverydayMisandry03/07/24 09:11 PM
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Continuing to use Reddit legitimises the decisions of the admins. I'm prepared to go into full boycott mode at this point (not because of this particular incident but because of a lot of things put together). If enough people boycott and create a serious dent in their ad revenue, that might make them change their tune, especially as a publicly traded company. I'm still looking into whether or not Reddit is violating UK hate speech laws by willfully publishing the more extreme instances of misand…
/r/EverydayMisandry02/07/24 06:36 PM
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The right to defend yourself is worthless if you can't prove it was self-defence. Otherwise, fighting back is just risking a criminal record, which is typically a worse injury that whatever the attacker is inflicting. Realistically, the best thing to do if anyone hits you, and you are able to get away from them, is to get away and then possibly call the police (use your own discretion to decide whether or not calling the police is actually a good idea in that particular situation, or perhaps ask…
/r/EverydayMisandry01/07/24 07:00 PM
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A random troll calling you a liar in that manner might technically qualify as misandry, but it's about as meaningful as when women cite similar anonymous trolls telling them to "make me a sammich" as evidence of rampant misogyny. It's just trolls being trolls, and trolls are not sincere. I have personally witnessed discrimination against women in IT, and that was limited to one company with less than 100 total employees that is also extremely unethical in its general business practices and proba…
/r/EverydayMisandry01/07/24 06:34 PM
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It raises the question of why we even need to declare a specific form of sexual assault to be far more severe than any other form, and then call that most severe form "rape". In fact, Canada dropped that idea back in the 1980s and now prosecutes all crimes, that would be called "rape" in the US or UK, as "sexual assault" or "aggravated sexual assault" (and the "aggravated" distinction has nothing to do with whether or not the actual sex act involved a penis going into an orifice). Personally, I …
/r/EverydayMisandry30/06/24 09:18 PM
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Realistically, nobody is going to find someone who is exactly what they want them to be in every way. The "fixing" term is kind of unfortunate, because it implies that something is objectively wrong with the aspects of a man's behaviour that a woman doesn't like. For example, most women I have dated, including my current girlfriend, get annoyed if I ask them well-intended questions to prevent possible mistakes, e.g. "did you do X" where X is something that could be a significant problem for her …
/r/EverydayMisandry30/06/24 08:54 PM
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what about repeated offenders of rape? Are they a minority of cases? It's hard to find reliable statistics on that, specifically, because they tend to lump together a number of different kinds of sex offences. In particular, most of the studies I have examined either made no attempt to separately examine people convicted of sex offences against children and people convicted of sex offences against adults, or they exclusively examined people convicted of sex offences against children. There are m…
/r/EverydayMisandry29/06/24 07:11 PM
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This is like a weird reversal of the guilt by association fallacy. I don't care what Andrew Tate says and I barely know anything about his views. Presumably he holds a few views with which I might agree, like "people should brush their teeth at least once a day" or even something a little edgier like "men shouldn't buy stuff for women they find attractive in the hope that it will lead to sexual favours". I think the latter is what defines a "simp", but I'm not sure. The point being, I don't even…
/r/EverydayMisandry26/06/24 06:26 PM
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There are a few reasons why I don't live in Canada, and this is one of them. It's a beautiful county with generally great people and a terribly dysfunctional government.
/r/EverydayMisandry24/06/24 12:29 AM
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Legally speaking, rape means something more specific than "nonconsensual sex". There has to be some degree of culpability (a.k.a. mens rea) on the part of the perpetrator; an honest misunderstanding wouldn't qualify. Recent jurisprudence has lowered that standard of culpability (as in made it easier for complainants to establish culpability in the person they are accusing) by declaring that one is culpable if one recklessly assumes consent instead of taking reasonable steps to determine consent,…
/r/EverydayMisandry23/06/24 10:52 PM
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"Teach" is vague here; maybe they mean teaching from very early in life, before one forms criminal tendencies. Realistically, most contemplations of crimes are neither performed nor conventionally deterred (by "conventionally deterred" I mean that the person thought about the likelihood of being caught and the severity of the consequences of being caught, and those thoughts convinced them not to do it). Rather, most of these contemplations are halted by a person's own sense of right and wrong, s…
/r/EverydayMisandry23/06/24 10:24 PM
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Someone is being dramatic here, and I am confident that if anyone else is reading this exchange, they can probably reach a reasonable conclusion about who that is.
/r/EverydayMisandry23/06/24 09:48 PM
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If one of them can file and the other one can disagree and the marriage is still dissolved, I am not good with it unless the solution for the dissolution is to award all properties jointly owned to the abandoned spouse. Are you good with one of them going to great lengths to frame the other for some kind of abuse, so that they can then claim all the jointly owned assets (let's assume they don't take any personal satisfaction from the other person getting a criminal record and going to jail, the …
/r/EverydayMisandry23/06/24 09:42 PM
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Is there any documented proof that this "freezing" thing actually happens? All I have ever heard of it is unverifiable anecdotes originating from people with very clear bias. The closest thing I have ever actually seen to "freezing" involved women who were torn between wanting to do something, and fearful of the possible consequences, such that they didn't say "no" but also couldn't bring themselves to verbally say "yes" or anything to that effect. Trying to talk them there eventually led to dis…
/r/EverydayMisandry23/06/24 09:14 PM
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That actually depends on the jurisdiction. In Canada, for example, the Supreme Court ruled that there is no validity in advance consent to sexual activity that will take place while someone is unconscious, even though it's still perfectly kosher for extremely invasive surgery.
/r/EverydayMisandry23/06/24 08:38 PM
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Exactly! There's this subreddit that's supposedly about women who refuse, that makes a complete strawman of "actually say no" by claiming that it's "say no and nothing bad will happen". Plus pretty well all of their example cases involve situations that are so emotionally charged, or otherwise aggravated, that the bad thing was going to happen regardless of whether or not she "refused". Clearly communicating "no" works most of the time. When it fails to work, it seldom has the effect of causing …
/r/EverydayMisandry23/06/24 08:32 PM
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If both parties agree, I don’t believe I would disagree. That's what no fault divorce is! By saying this, you effectively just said that you're in favour of no fault divorce. What the heck did you think no-fault divorce meant? But otherwise, it’s breaking a contract. It should have the same kind of penalties associated with it. Obviously, that's the point of a contract. Do you understand that one party to a contract can, if they are unethical, act in bad faith to try to induce the other party to…
/r/EverydayMisandry23/06/24 08:08 PM
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There's nothing inherently wrong with no-fault divorce. Once two people have had a wedding, they are both already facing some costs for a divorce in terms of public embarrassment, the desecration of the meaning of what was at least a somewhat expensive ceremony, and the significant legal costs for even an amicable, uncontested divorce. Prenuptial agreements can further tailor the nature of the marriage to make sure that neither partner has a financial incentive to break the marriage. The last th…
/r/EverydayMisandry23/06/24 12:53 AM
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His work shows that many men in our society today are drifting, despairing, unmoored, and unhappy, but marriage seems to deduce the incidence of male malaise! No it doesn't. At best, this kind of "work" shows that men who got married, and who have so far stayed married, are happier than men who either never got married, or who married and then divorced. Brad Wilcox doesn't seem to have even shown that much; if the article I linked is correct and honest then he has only shown the following: Men w…
/r/EverydayMisandry23/06/24 12:29 AM
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just a basic defence mechanism after years of being called all kind of "-ist" and "-phobic" and "turbo death nazi" or some other bullshit on this wretched website. There are better ways to deal with people who insult you than by responding with insults of your own. If you must respond with your own insults, you should at least try to make them better (as in more polite and subtle insults, like the ones for which England has a reputation); "soycuck" isn't going to result in you being taken more s…
/r/EverydayMisandry21/06/24 04:57 PM
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Indeed, and I'm always right, because I defined "right" as "any opinion held by Tevorino".
/r/EverydayMisandry21/06/24 04:18 PM
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She's a pop psychology grifter. For all the things people accuse Jordan Peterson of being, she's as bad or worse, peddling misandry for profit. She's also very obviously a narcissist, as are many psychology grads (source: both my current girlfriend and my last girlfriend are psychology grads and, while neither of them are narcissists themselves, they both told me about their narcissistic colleagues and even introduced me to some of them, to prove to me that they weren't exaggerating). As far as …
/r/EverydayMisandry21/06/24 04:12 PM
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I can't remember a time when insulting generalisations about women were more common than insulting generalisations about men. The only way I can see anyone arguing that misogyny was more common than misandry in any core Anglosphere country during the last forty years, is if they stretch their definition of "misogyny" to cover more than just insulting generalisations and include things like "objectification" (however they define that, and I will scrutinise their definition) and non-insulting disc…
/r/EverydayMisandry21/06/24 03:29 PM
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That was some clever placement of the word "soycuck". You actually had me reading with an open mind until you planted that flag towards the end. If the way you live your life works well for you, and you aren't breaking the law or hurting or defrauding anyone else, then by all means keep doing it. I won't claim that I never make snide remarks about other people's lifestyles, but at the end of the day I do respect the basic right of people to live how they wish within the framework. You must be so…
/r/EverydayMisandry20/06/24 07:32 PM
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He also calls people the R word (including Ana Kasparian) and takes pride in his lack of civility. I can't recommend such a person. Did he say there was no moral reason to outlaw any kind of CP, or did he only say this about virtual CP (e.g. the animated stuff that's legal in Japan)?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/06/24 11:03 PM
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I should have specified "exclusive lesbians"; I wasn't talking about bisexual women. I did clearly specify that most lesbians don't hate men because of the unwanted attention that they get, and that I was talking about that overlap between lesbians (again I should have specified exclusive lesbians) and people with some kind of antisocial personality disorder. You also raise a good point about how even if 100% of attention from men is unwanted in the sense of never actually being romantically int…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/06/24 04:31 PM
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Thanks for the source. Given the way the crime of rape is defined in the Sexual Offences Act 2003, where the definition explicitly says "with his penis", I'm surprised it was interpreted to include using someone else's penis, yet this case makes it clear that it does get interpreted that way. This isn't even the first time I have heard of a woman choosing to assist a man in raping a child and apparently finding some kind of gratification (sexual or otherwise) in doing so, although this is the fi…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/06/24 04:25 PM
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Without disputing the facts but more like trying to work out the most probable explanation — couldn't it be that some of the most vile and horrific stuff comes from people who feel rejected by the opposite sex? In some cases, perhaps, but I as far as I know incels didn't make or endorse a film about methodically killing every single woman on Earth (with the implication of similar mass killings having already been performed on other planets). I can't link to any article about said film because it…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/06/24 04:08 PM
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Yes, and the UK statutes now theoretically allow for the same maximum punishment (imprisonment for life) that is available for rape, to also be imposed on a woman who forces a man to penetrate her, even though the charge will be for something other than rape. I won't hold my breath for that punishment to ever actually be imposed on a woman who does that, however.
/r/EverydayMisandry19/06/24 03:31 PM
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Can you please provide a source for that?
/r/EverydayMisandry19/06/24 03:26 PM
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Pretty much. I try to keep my head down in real life and avoid offending the "woke", yet now I sometimes get asked why I didn't specify pronouns on my LinkedIn profile, because apparently I need to actually signal my acquiescence to them or else I'll be targeted. My non-response to their question is to basically say that LinkedIn never prompted me to enter them back when I created my profile, and I can't be bothered right now to go into the settings and enter them (technically not a lie), yet th…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/06/24 03:20 PM
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There's no longer an exception for X (Twitter) blue checkmark accounts??? I understand the need for compliance with Reddit's rules against facilitating brigading. When someone is smugly presenting their abhorrent views under their real name (or at least under whatever name they felt comfortable registering for the blue checkmark) on a non-Reddit platform, why should any shield of anonymity be placed over that?
/r/EverydayMisandry19/06/24 02:04 AM
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They might be using a definition of "rape" that requires having a penis, as in using anything else makes it some lesser form of sexual assault. Of course, if they only specify that definition when challenged then it becomes a sort of semantic motte and bailey manoeuvre.
/r/EverydayMisandry19/06/24 01:59 AM
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I have a few lesbian friends and I'm sympathetic to their situations, which are ones where 100% of the attention they get from men is unwanted and where men are a source of both unwanted attention and competition for women with whom they desire romantic relationships. I can see how that becomes annoying. That said, most people, including most lesbians, have enough respect for the wants, needs, and rights of others that such feelings don't cause them to start hating men. There is, however, a smal…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/06/24 12:47 AM
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The stereotype about radical feminists being lesbians exists for a good reason: people who actually like men are unlikely to believe the more extreme and horrific claims made about men by radical feminists. To be extra clear, I'm not saying that being a lesbian, or completely asexual, or any other orientation that results in feeling no attraction towards men, will result in someone being a misandrist. Rather, I'm saying that actually being attracted to men acts as a kind of limiter on how misand…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/06/24 12:38 AM
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The notion that many/most people, who call themselves feminists, aren't actually about equality (as it's defined in most dictionaries) anymore, goes back at least as far as the mid-1990s. Right-leaning people, and even people who are heavily to the right, sometimes have valid points. Actually achieving results on issues usually requires a willingness to not engage in ideological "purity testing" and to work with anyone with whom there is sufficient common ground. To that end, any annoyance I fee…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/06/24 12:25 AM
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For all that, what i meant in my original comment wasn't grabbing someone else's crotch, it was grabbing one's own crotch. Rereading what you wrote, I'm not even 100% sure why I interpreted that as meaning grabbing someone else's crotch. I was probably interpreting "your" in the generic sense, although upon rereading it does seem more reasonable to interpret that as meaning "your own". I guess it has also been a long time since I have even seen someone grab their own crotch as a sexual gesture, …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/24 09:26 PM
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the feminist author Mona Chollet praises the fifty year old French author Sidonie-Gabrielle Colette for the grooming and statutory rape of her sixteen year old stepson. Having sex with one's teenage stepchild is reprehensible for many reasons, and there is no reason to make an exception to that for Sidonie-Gabrielle Colette or anyone else; what she did was gross and shouldn't be defended. Having consensual sex with one's teenage stepchild, while repugnant, is not statutory rape unless said stepc…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/24 07:27 PM
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At least in the UK, it's legal to surreptitiously record audio in all situations where one is present, so as to create strong exculpatory evidence against false allegations (this is also good for creating inculpatory evidence for crimes that were actually committed against oneself). Several US states, including California and Florida, have backwards laws that classify this as criminal wiretapping. I'm a triple citizen, but I have a number of reasons why I would rather remain in the UK. Being abl…
/r/EverydayMisandry17/06/24 12:10 PM
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Since you beat me to describing this general theory, I'm just going to expand on a few things you said. this is true for the same actions being done, for instance sexual harassment howsoever behaviorally defined, is something that is done by men. grab your crotch lewdly as a man towards a women, SH. Do so as a woman to a man, that's empowerment baby. Under the law they are both sexual assault when done without consent, however many/most people will be less willing to believe that the man didn't …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/06/24 12:03 PM
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This is so incredibly ignorant. Just because the average woman is physically smaller/weaker than the average man doesn't mean that this applies to every couple, and even if it did, there are several methods by which someone can rape someone else who is bigger/stronger than them, such as the element of surprise or the use of a weapon. A simple demonstration exercise I have used with several partners is to agree on a safe word, and then in the middle of sex suggest that whoever is not on top try t…
/r/EverydayMisandry17/06/24 11:00 AM
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A subreddit can only attract people who are aware of its existence, so promote this one wherever you can. Just don't be surprised if that also attracts some naysayers and some outright trolls.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/06/24 10:06 AM
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I wasn't talking about quotas, just the DEI indoctrination lectures and microaggressive "baiting" situations where people (presumably intentionally) say things around me that are inherently offensive to men, caucasians, or people who care about objective truth, to see if they can get a rise out of me and then use that against me. Organisations with quotas are simply a fact of life now. I was told from the time I was a teenager to expect to encounter them and to just navigate around them if I can…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/06/24 10:02 AM
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I almost used the term "fascism" instead of "authoritarianism" but wanted to avoid veering into hyperbole, and Wikipedia's definition seemed close enough to what I was trying to convey. I consider "wokism" to be a cancerous mutation of 20th century social liberalism, and that it distorts those principles beyond recognition. At the same time, I'm not aware of any anti-democratic tendencies in the ideology, unless you want to count its tendency to try to use schools, workplaces, and other public s…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/06/24 04:31 PM
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By sceptics, I mean people who tend not to believe things without evidence, regardless of whether or not they want it to be true (and frankly, believing something to be true just because one wants it to be true is about as stupid as burying one's head in the sand to avoid seeing the truth). I know a few people in Canada who are in positions where they might be able to make a serious issue out of this, but they won't do anything if all I can tell them that an anonymous person on Reddit claims to …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/06/24 12:14 PM
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Well, I think there is still a better than 50% chance that liberal democracy will survive through this century, even though right now it's in the most peril since World War II. As long as that remains our form of government, I am confident that this misandry fad will come to an end before too long. People from Scandinavian countries chime in here from time to time and say that they hit peak misandry a decade or two ago, and then it fell out of favour. If we are following that same pattern and ju…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/06/24 12:04 PM
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Well, I care about whether or not there are spaces where I can only be around other men. I host the occasional game night where I normally welcome both men and women, and I've noticed that even the most masculine-behaving woman changes the "energy" of the whole thing compared to when only men attend, in that everyone else feels the need to adjust how they speak to avoid making her uncomfortable (which we want to avoid because we all respect each other). There are plenty of reasons for men to wan…
/r/EverydayMisandry14/06/24 11:19 PM
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I believe you, and you should know that saying you have evidence, and then failing to show it, looks worse in the eyes of a sceptic than if you had never even mentioned the evidence at all.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/06/24 10:55 PM
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I'm a Canadian citizen (but born in the UK and also a citizen there) and I could be living in a much larger, lakefront house in Canada where I could hear the sounds of nature instead of traffic (other than the occasional speedboat during summers). There are a few good reasons why I'm in the UK instead, and one of them is that I don't want to be at the mercy of Canada's legal system. Canada used to be one of the best countries in the world, and it's still a beautiful country with mostly great peo…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/06/24 10:52 PM
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The federal government of Canada doesn't really use the term "ministry" anymore, despite still having ministers, but I assume you are referring to Women and Gender Equality Canada. They don't have the authority to declare anything unconstitutional; that belongs to the Supreme Court of Canada. I can't find any law saying that male-exclusive shelters can't be built; would you mind linking your source for that?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/06/24 01:42 AM
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There's a reason I presume all of these statistics to be misinformation until I can see and scrutinise the full methodology, which they sometimes go to great lengths to hide. I have access to many of the paywalled studies, and even past the paywall they often use various methods of obfuscation instead of just showing the complete survey that they used. Consider that assault, by definition, requires a lack of consent. If you see security camera footage of a woman groping me, you don't necessarily…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/24 07:29 PM
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It doesn't say anywhere in the article that men will be banned from the building. At most, it's implied that the units will only be rented to mothers, and 790 Canadian dollars per month for a three-bedroom just outside of frikkin Vancouver is incredibly cheap (I checked the provincial government site for the minimum wage there and it's $17.40 per hour, while the typical monthly rent on three-bedroom in Burnaby is over $3,000). Then again, this is government-subsidised housing to give a helping h…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/24 06:21 PM
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Leaving aside the fact that, for some reason, the mainstream publicity of 4B has been less negative than that of MGTOW, I think it's important to remember that MGTOW never really presented itself as any kind of lobby, basically leaving that to MRAs. The distinction is easily missed, yet it's incredibly important. The best way I can illustrate it is like this: Suppose that your preferred way to unwind, after a long day, is by enjoying a can of Pepsi with a bag of Flamin Hot Cheetos (PepsiCo owns …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/24 12:59 AM
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Exactly; this is why I aim to impose social consequences on people who say things like this in my presence, usually by leaving (or telling them to leave if I'm the host). I don't use social media much, and only my LinkedIn is under my real name, but I would aim to also impose a consequence there. Interestingly, LinkedIn has far less of this bad behaviour, mainly because it's all self-promotion for the sake of impressing potential employers, employees, or clients. Unsurprisingly, people behave be…
/r/EverydayMisandry12/06/24 11:13 PM
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Yes, it's a common expression of one's (hopefully restrained) desire for violence against someone who one finds to be annoying, as opposed to being perfectly content with disassociating from that person and/or mocking that person. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't unfairly reaching that conclusion about you; thank you for clarifying.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/06/24 10:58 PM
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Can you elaborate on what "punchable" means in this context?
/r/EverydayMisandry12/06/24 07:41 PM
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I'm pretty sure it's at a fully conscious level for a significant number of them (the ones who actually organise these campaigns).
/r/EverydayMisandry11/06/24 05:45 PM
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What is your basis for claiming that the billboard claims that 1523 is a real number that can be reached by phone right now, or otherwise pretending to be something that it isn't? My ability to read Italian isn't the greatest, but it's good enough to verify the accuracy of Google Translate. I'm not finding any claim or even implication that 1523 works right now as a phone number; the billboard is clearly promoting the 1523.it site, which in turn is quite clearly calling for the creation of a sep…
/r/EverydayMisandry10/06/24 07:28 PM
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Coming forward can have major external effects, yes, and that's a separate area. I have also seen cases where someone was accused of sexual assault- whether falsely or not- and they moved on with their lives unaffected for the most part. If someone was accused but never convicted, and their name was concealed by a publication ban, then sure, they can move on with their life minus what they lost in legal fees (which might be insignificant, or life-ruining, or anywhere in between depending on thir…
/r/EverydayMisandry10/06/24 12:36 PM
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The comment to which you are responding is minimising rape to an unreasonable degree by failing to consider the after-effects you mentioned. At the same time, those after-effects are internal and subjective; they are ultimately under one's own control and nobody else is blocking a person from living their life because of what happened. Nobody should have to experience any of this, and it's unfair that some people do. A false accusation has its own internal, subjective effects, and it also has ma…
/r/EverydayMisandry09/06/24 11:16 PM
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I have seen the effects that false accusations have on men, and I was going to say that I would rather be raped every day than be falsely accused once on the basis that the daily effects of a false accusation, in our current society, is worse. I prefer the way you have expressed this. For reference, my far more prolix expression of that point can be seen at the end of this comment.
/r/EverydayMisandry08/06/24 09:58 PM
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Doesn't South Korea have laws making defamation and public insults criminal offences? Do any of these vile people get prosecuted and punished for that?
/r/EverydayMisandry07/06/24 10:16 PM
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For a country with a total population of about 52 million, 1.5 million members is a disturbing percentage of the female population if accurate (I'm assuming most of the 840,000 members of the other site would be members of both). How are these membership figures being determined? Is it possible that people are being counted multiple times due to having sockpuppet accounts? It just seems hard to believe that gender politics in South Korea are THAT toxic. If that's really the case, it represents a…
/r/EverydayMisandry07/06/24 10:07 PM
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That reminds me of my JET year and having Japanese women approach me on a regular basis. I didn't go for that purpose, and assumed that all the talk about that aspect was an exaggeration, but it turned out to be an understatement (this was twenty years ago, things might be different in Japan today). I got involved with a few of them because it seemed silly not to, and they would tell me all sorts of bad things about Japanese men, both in terms of physical traits and personality traits. The perso…
/r/EverydayMisandry07/06/24 09:57 PM
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Imagine what the fallout would be if a similar experiment was done on police departments or other agencies of the government, involving gender-swapped pairs of intentionally false reports, issued with the intention of revealing the falsehood after the agency had made a decision on how to respond.
/r/EverydayMisandry07/06/24 10:39 AM
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I wouldn't trust publicly available information to tell me about systems designed to destroy the public. Did you read the link, though? That information, from people who can at least be verified to have held high-ranking positions in the Soviet military, could very well be inaccurate or outdated, but it's the best we have. Anything else is just pure speculation and in that case, why not speculate that the entire "Dead Hand" system is a bluff and doesn't actually exist? Furthermore, in the contex…
/r/EverydayMisandry07/06/24 09:54 AM
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So aren't they too choosing to not lower their standards too, then? Yes, which is why I think the whole "cel" terminology is nonsense. There are many ways to be sexually unfulfilled, with celibacy being far from the worst of them, so it's reasonable for both men and women to choose celibacy over worse options. I'm famliar with the insults that some women sling at men who don't notice their covert advances or don't respond positively to their overt advances. My girlfriend is a lot younger than me…
/r/EverydayMisandry07/06/24 01:51 AM
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I had never even heard of this "man flu" concept before reading this, but apparently it actually is a commonly used term. It seems really audacious for paramedics to just drop that term without justification. I remember once being very sick with what started as flu-like symptoms and then got far worse, to the point that I eventually went to the emergency room after many days of just staying at home and trying to "tough it out" until I got better (because I believed that it was just a bad case of…
/r/EverydayMisandry07/06/24 01:25 AM
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It's a vague term that can mean all kinds of things. It's frequently used to bully people for not conforming, and it can also be used to refer to some legitimately bad behaviour. Because the meaning is so vague, however, no intelligent person should ever use it; if they have a problem with how a person behaves then they should clearly describe the behaviour with which they have a problem.
/r/EverydayMisandry07/06/24 12:52 AM
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The very term evokes men, and there is no way that the progenitors of that term couldn't have known that it would have that effect. It's also a conveniently vague term. Well-meaning advocates should know to pick words that clearly communicate what they are opposing, e.g. excessive wealth inequality.
/r/EverydayMisandry07/06/24 12:48 AM
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I like your analysis, but I think your last part about the "Dead Hand" systems is misinformed. Available information suggests that these systems have to be armed and assigned specific targets, which would only be done in a crisis situation (including a situation where a possible nuclear missile launch has been detected, but they haven't yet confirmed that it), and otherwise they don't do anything. Therefore, if the staff disappeared for 24 hours, nothing would happen unless the system happened t…
/r/EverydayMisandry06/06/24 11:53 PM
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Aydin Paladin, with whom I probably disagree on as many points as I agree, made a great video about that general phenomenon. At 56 minutes and 10 seconds into it, she has a section about studies which show how a sense of victimhood leads to more selfish behaviour.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/06/24 11:32 PM
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Isn't a femcel just a woman who can't find/attract the kind of man with whom she wants to have sex? There's nothing inherently wrong with being celibate; people can have standards and decide that they would rather not have sex with anyone, than have sex with someone below those standards. I don't see where egos are being hurt; they know they could have sex if they lowered their standards, and they choose to maintain those standards for reasons that make sense to them.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/06/24 11:23 PM
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There's a difference between "tried paying" and "insisted on paying". If I make one attempt to pay for her, and she says she can pay herself, then I won't respond to that with a second attempt unless it seems highly inappropriate for her to be paying (e.g. we're in a restaurant at my invitation). My last girlfriend was the only woman who ever accused me of anything like that for merely "trying" to pay if, for example, we were out somewhere and she suddenly wanted coffee or something. Since she o…
/r/EverydayMisandry06/06/24 10:53 PM
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Calling FDS a "rabbithole" is interesting. I mentioned in my comments, after having first been made aware of the existence of FDS about a year and a half ago, that I was having an "Alice in Wonderland" moment while reading it. As far as paying for dates is concerned, that's just a Nash equilibrium at this point, and one that seems hard to break, especially for first dates. Women will seldom object to men paying 100%, including women who are actually fine with paying half and who honestly wouldn'…
/r/EverydayMisandry06/06/24 12:31 PM
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I think one problem you are encountering is that not everyone rejects bras, makeup, and shaving because of simple personal preference. Many people do it to make some kind of statement, or to signal their worthiness to some kind of political tribe (e.g. radical feminists), and you are going to attract a disproportionate number of those people when you advertise these communities. It's a lot like how some atheists hold that belief (or lack of belief) for purely philosophical reasons, while some ot…
/r/EverydayMisandry04/06/24 11:57 PM
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Yes, they exist in real life, and the best thing to do with them is to screen them out of one's life. Otherwise, they will waste one's time and energy, and possibly do much worse than that (e.g. make false accusations).
/r/EverydayMisandry04/06/24 11:44 PM
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If nobody has anything bad to say about you, then you aren't doing anything meaningful (and chances are that nobody has anything particularly good to say about you either). Because you actually stand for meaningful things, you will incur costs like this; they are worth it.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/06/24 11:42 PM
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This is the first time I have heard of a woman being charged with controlling or coercive behaviour. While I'm pleased that women are not exempt from prosecution under this law (either de jure or de facto), I still think it's a corruption of criminal justice to have such a vaguely defined crime. He described her doing plenty of things that could have been charged under other, more clearly defined offences, e.g. assault and blackmail. It was definitely refreshing to see this sort of thing taken c…
/r/EverydayMisandry03/06/24 08:30 PM
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"White people of England, how do you deal with scary black people?" Not racist, right? "Scary", just like "creepy", means that others are reacting to something with particular emotions, which aren't necessarily based on anything objective. In this particular story, there is something objectively concerning about that man's behaviour, just as there is something objectively concerning about being followed by someone after circling the entire block. If I'm frightened because someone was still follo…
/r/EverydayMisandry03/06/24 07:54 PM
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How are you getting to statutory rape here? You know that the age of consent in France is 15, and was 13 at the time this happened, right? Even if that were to happen in the present day UK, it wouldn't be statutory rape because the age of consent is 16. For the sake of clarity, I'll specify that I'm not defending what she did; there are all kinds of things wrong with it and depending on the details it could have been some kind of crime for all I know (plus we all know how this would be viewed if…
/r/EverydayMisandry03/06/24 04:54 PM
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Do you not understand the premise behind monkeyspaw?
/r/EverydayMisandry02/06/24 10:49 PM
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I could tell that you didn't really mean what your words suggested at the time, and that you were reacting to something. It's just unfortunate that you worded it the way you did; I guess you wrote it in a hurry and while in a very bad mental space.
/r/EverydayMisandry02/06/24 10:36 PM
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Indeed, which is why I'm now planning a marriage proposal.
/r/EverydayMisandry02/06/24 10:32 PM
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Are you saying that you can't avoid encountering this even in the real world? For me, real-world encounters with these attitudes are something that happens maybe once every few months. Mind you, I react to this by cutting such people out of my life; if I were to keep them in my life and just hope they don't say things like that again, then I would probably be hearing these things more frequently. I hope you have access to mental health resources that give you some guidance on how to deal with th…
/r/EverydayMisandry02/06/24 09:37 PM
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I'm sorry you are receiving such vile messages. This one is really quite shocking; the worst messages that I get are tame compared to that, and even when I get the occasional death threat it's just one short sentence. If it helps you at all, just think about how horrible this person's life must be for her to actually want to spend her time spewing this much venom. If you haven't already reported this person for violating Tumblr's community guidelines by promoting self-harm, I definitely recommen…
/r/EverydayMisandry02/06/24 08:52 PM
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If you think that article is bad, try reading the filth from Julie Bindel to whom The Guardian gives a platform.
/r/EverydayMisandry02/06/24 11:02 AM
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It's fine to be attracted to a height difference and not want to date anyone whose height doesn't provide that, but why does anyone feel the desire to actually bash someone instead of just not going on dates with them? Why is not dating them not enough? People can't control their race either, so why not bash men over that as well? Oh wait, they already do! To add further irony to that, as one of the rare white men who is into fat women (minority within a minority in both the UK and Canada), I un…
/r/EverydayMisandry02/06/24 10:25 AM
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One of the other girls was furious about what he said afterwards? Really? Here's what I have actually said, myself, on the rare (but not rare enough) occasions that someone says something like that during a social gathering: "I don't feel welcome here, so I'm leaving." On the most recent time that happened, it was some hateful comment about men being dangerous brutes from whom she has to live in constant fear. Before I could even react in this manner, my girlfriend (who could easily kick my arse…
/r/EverydayMisandry02/06/24 09:42 AM
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So she writes: The upshot is “damaged reputations and ruined careers. Innocent men and women are left without a career, while institutions lose skilled and caring employees,” report Burnett and her colleagues, mentioning one woman who was forced to step down from a charity she herself had founded after a “safeguarding’’ report “could not rule out all possibility of risk.” I know it's necessary to write that in order to get more people to care, and I know that there definitely are some women who …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/05/24 07:50 PM
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Are you saying that people in the royal family have been accused of paedophilia? Prince Andrew was accused of some bad things and the late Queen stripped him of his titles over it (strange way to "protect" someone). As far as I can tell none of those bad things involved anyone under 16, nevermind anyone prepubescent (that kind of attraction being the actual definition of paedophilia), nor has actual culpability for any of those bad things been conclusively proven at this time. I'm not aware of a…
/r/EverydayMisandry25/05/24 06:28 PM
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Well, I looked at what was happening to my peers and knew I was on borrowed time. So far it's just a small number of gray hairs (none from my scalp) that are easily removed, and some very minor age spots. I figure all the delayed effects will catch up with me in a big way any day now, and I have made peace with that and resolved to accept it when it happens.
/r/EverydayMisandry25/05/24 06:03 PM
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Keely Shaye Brosnan is gorgeous for her age, and the two of them make an excellent couple. The crown prince is a handsome man, and kudos to him for not even trying to hide the receding hairline. Despite looking younger than him while being slightly older, I still don't have the fortitude to just own the signs of aging that have already come my way and I continue to take some vain measures to delay the inevitable, but then again I'm not a public role model.
/r/EverydayMisandry25/05/24 01:20 AM
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Reddit is now a publicly traded company, and I think it's time for us to start making shareholders aware of what they are supporting. Furthermore, any time Reddit acknowledges having "investigated" something and they allow it to stand, they are knowingly publishing that speech, so if it's hate speech, that might be breaking the laws of some of the countries where it's accessible. Outside pressure needs to be brought to bear at this point.
/r/EverydayMisandry25/05/24 01:02 AM
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Slide 4 sounds like a motte and bailey, where the bailey is something close to "assume any man accused by a woman is guilty", and when challenged they retreat to the motte of some much milder position that nobody would want to oppose. In actual warfare, the consequence of retreating to a motte is that, unless reinforcements quickly arrive, the bailey will be pillaged and plundered by the attacking force. So it is in argument that if someone attempts this technique of retreating to the safer mott…
/r/EverydayMisandry23/05/24 06:08 PM
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Now that Reddit is a publicly traded company, something really needs to be made of their refusal to deal with hate speech like this. I have reported that post for the obvious hate speech that it is, to give them a chance to do the right thing. If they won't, then I think it's time for a public awareness and media campaign.
/r/EverydayMisandry22/05/24 08:35 PM
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Wow, and he still has his job teaching at Harvard??? Outrageous! Thanks for the example; this guy certainly isn't being subtle in his misandry.
/r/EverydayMisandry21/05/24 10:46 PM
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What would be some examples of these? I mean specifically men who say the same kinds of things as these online accounts about how they are okay with being lumped in with criminals and predators, or who say that they would choose the bear themselves. I don't mean men who are simply subservient to the demands of misandrists; they need to directly express these attitudes themselves.
/r/EverydayMisandry21/05/24 08:57 PM
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That seems more like new age woo (Sedona, AZ has a reputation for being the epicentre of that) with some obsequious misandry mixed into it, and I don't see him calling for denial of due process, treating all men like criminals, or endorsing the views of misandrist feminists. Rather, I just see someone using a lot of words to say almost nothing. To his credit, he definitely has his life together compared to the guy I mentioned above. This is basically the same kind of new age woo being mocked in …
/r/EverydayMisandry21/05/24 07:44 PM
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I'm not quite convinced that most of them are real, as opposed to being sockpuppet accounts. I have met exactly one man in real life who is sort of misandrist, as in he actually expresses agreement with a lot of what misandrists say and would deny that misandry exists, and he's also a very pathetic person with a lot of issues who can't even hold down a job (my understanding is that he tends to get fired over his angry outbursts). I can't think of any male media personalities who take this kind o…
/r/EverydayMisandry21/05/24 07:06 PM
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A lot of them are paying their bills with your taxes, e.g. by living on disability because of their psychosomatic illnesses, or illnesses that they have consciously fabricated, or their real, legitimate illnesses (in which case it becomes very understandable why they spend so much time online, if leaving home is actually a major undertaking). Or they could be retired, or living on inherited wealth. It's a big world; lots of people have life circumstances that are different from yours. Just becau…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/05/24 11:30 PM
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There was a good answer to that during the lockdown, and that's probably one of the reasons why so much more of this seems to have happened during the lockdown. In general, I would just have to suppose that these groups offer something that appeals to some people in a way that local sports teams and clubs don't. Furthermore, these things don't have to be online. In the 20th century it was mostly physical meetings; radical feminism spread through university campuses and physical meetings at peopl…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/05/24 11:15 PM
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Like I mean who says, hmmm I bored today I am going to go get indoctrinated by radical feminism lol!? Obviously nobody, because that's a (hopefully intentionally) absurd oversimplification, just like nobody says "I'm lonely and depressed right now, so I'm going to find the nearest person pushing fentanyl and become an addict." If you look at groups like ISIS, and the people who left what seemed like reasonably comfortable lives in western countries to join them, it seems mind-boggling that they …
/r/EverydayMisandry19/05/24 09:49 PM
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I cut contact with her when I realised that she was too far gone, and that any attempt to help her was most likely just going to end up hurting me. As such, I'm far beyond considering any kind of intervention right now. Most of her other friends have ended contact with her as well, even her female friends who don't have to worry about being falsely accused by her, and if anyone is going to try to intervene now, it needs to be them and not me. As for mental health issues, both of us live with ADH…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/05/24 07:26 PM
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Probably. A woman who was a good friend of mine for about half of my life, is rapidly degenerating into that sort of person, and it's frightening. She discovered radical feminism through social media and became radicalised herself, so I had to end all contact with her for my own safety. Since then, she has become more and more of a shut-in, and spends more and more time online reposting garbage like that. It's very sad, and partly my fault because I, along with her other friends, were too busy d…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/05/24 06:37 PM
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As per r/menkampf, the only real difference is in the identifiable groups they reference.
/r/EverydayMisandry19/05/24 06:18 PM
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It's one of several misandrist phrases that earns the label of "misandrist" from its name alone. That is, even if I buy the feminist claim that this phrase isn't actually about expressing hatred of men, and is just for labeling objectionable attitudes and behaviours among men, that still leaves the following questions: If the intention isn't to foment hatred of men, then why did you choose this name for it? If the intention isn't to foment hatred of men, then why are you discussing this phenomen…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/05/24 06:07 PM
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Okay, Stalin.
/r/EverydayMisandry18/05/24 11:12 PM
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Are you for real?
/r/EverydayMisandry18/05/24 11:10 PM
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No, I'm not 100% sure, especially when I don't even know what jurisdiction is being considered. Even if I were 100% sure, I would still be saying not to take what I say as legal advice and to ask a lawyer if you want to be 100% sure. Yes, it's expensive, and the law contains a lot of intricacies that are not as accessible as they should be, especially in some US states (including California) which I believe go out of their way to obfuscate their laws from being understood by laypeople. I'm also …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/05/24 10:23 PM
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You're welcome. If you want to learn more information on this subject from actual lawyers, I highly recommend the Not On Record series on YouTube (mostly talks about Canadian issues, but frequently delves into US and UK issues), and the videos on this subject on the Gonzalez & Waddington channel (deals with US military law, but contains a lot of useful information that also applies to civilian matters, especially when he delves into psychological "red flags"). As for wiretapping, many jurisdicti…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/05/24 09:30 PM
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Thank you for your advocacy up to this point. I hope that your decision wasn't influenced by anything bad that anyone else said to you, and if it was then I'm sorry that happened. I sympathise with your mental exhaustion, and I appreciate your honesty. I do think that the particular way you put your feelings into words here is unfortunate, because it does sound self-centred to a degree that I don't think actually applies to you. You were never obligated to do anything for men, and you chose to d…
/r/EverydayMisandry18/05/24 09:05 PM
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I'm not a lawyer either, and obviously don't treat any of what follows as legal advice. To elaborate a bit on this: In general, the most important thing to do upon being accused in any manner (i.e. even if the police aren't involved yet) is to say nothing about it to anyone until you can speak to an experienced criminal defence lawyer, ideally one who specialises in the area of sex offences. In the UK, failing to make a statement to the police means that if you later make a statement in court sp…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/05/24 08:27 PM
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A lot of the comments are bizarre and suggest some major personality issues, but the comment that appears at the top for me seems quite reasonable: These days, the idea of marriage being a surprise is a little silly. Most likely, if the couple is normally communicating, they already know the answer of whether marriage is right for them and in their future. That men might be a little more hesitant or nervous about making the big commitment may or not be cliche, but I think culturally there’s stil…
/r/EverydayMisandry17/05/24 11:58 PM
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A childhood obsession with inflicting pain will typically manifest as animal cruelty, which correlates with many things, including a high correlation with being abused by their own family. If these kinds of women are observing such tendencies in their sons at a disproportionately high rate, what does that suggest about their parenting methods?
/r/EverydayMisandry17/05/24 07:58 PM
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In my experience, there are also many behavioural problems that correlate with being raised by a single father. The advantages of being raised in an intact household, with a loving mother and father, really can't be understated, and properly recognising those advantages puts both mothers and fathers in a good light.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/05/24 07:46 PM
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The second slide is the persecution-oriented mindset on crack. I have people, on a regular basis, being nice to me because of what I have, and to a lesser extent how I look. I keep that in mind and use reasonable measures to determine to what degree each of these people also cares about who I am as a person, plus I actually try to be a good person so that people are more likely to have that as a reason to be nice to me. If I do determine that someone is only being nice to me because of what I ha…
/r/EverydayMisandry17/05/24 07:13 PM
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Why do I feel like she's trying to provoke a response that will sound worse than what she said?
/r/EverydayMisandry15/05/24 04:45 PM
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A final thought- statistics say 1 in 5 women get raped in their lifetime in the USA. Those "statistics" are playing games to get the numbers as high as they can. Look at the methodology report for the NISVS and you can see that it's full of vaguely worded, leading questions designed to elicit "yes" answers. A cautious approach, that aimed to avoid inducing false positives, would have used open-ended questions, asking participants to list any experiences with sexual violence and then performing t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/05/24 07:37 PM
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It's not even a language barrier issue; I encounter plenty of native English speakers who insist on calling documented cases "anecdotes". One would think that English, with its massive vocabulary, would have specific words for different concepts, yet that is often not the case; it's basically as flawed as every other language in this regard. As far as I know (and I used to teach English semi-professionally), there is no single word in English to refer to "a lone example, insufficient to infer a …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/05/24 07:01 PM
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Reddit in general is having a "brain drain" because of things like their unaccountable admins who don't seem to know how to read (they declared that a comment, that took a balanced look at an issue and was sympathetic to both sides, was "promoting hate" with no explanation and no avenue of appeal) and their ridiculous enhancement to the block function that essentially gives everyone moderator powers (I can basically ban anyone from any discussion downstream of this comment by blocking them, even…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/05/24 03:52 PM
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Half the problem is that the word "anecdote" is getting overloaded and used to refer to documented cases that are not part of statistical data. For example, the false rape accusation against Brian Banks, which was eventually be proven to be false, is something that was documented by multiple reputable media sources and can't be denied by any remotely reasonable person, yet some people will call it an "anecdote" because it's not part of any data collection effort to measure how often false rape a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/05/24 03:46 PM
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a bullshit number, and is not based in any data at all. It's really too bad that irony is lost on you. I can't even count the number of sources you gave unless I start counting from zero.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/05/24 12:57 PM
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For the non-TERFs who take this position, I just assume that they view the kinds of people who identify as women as not being a threat. That is, in their view, only people who are happy to identify as men are a concern, and they may even be hoping to bully and shame some men into renouncing that identity (although I think a lot of them are happiest when men go much further than that, if you get my drift). I recall one discussion that offended me enough to get up and leave, where women were smugl…
/r/EverydayMisandry12/05/24 02:51 PM
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By your hateful bigotries combined, I am Captain Misandry!
/r/EverydayMisandry11/05/24 11:12 PM
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Were you also born in the 80s? I have at least one dream a year where something like this happens (it was more like once a month when I was a kid in the early 90s, when programs like this were airing), and I wake up thinking that it's such a brilliant idea, or such a hilarious situation, that I rush to type it into in my dream journal before I forget details. At least 90% of the time, it no longer seems very brilliant or funny to me by the end of the day, and I still diarise these dreams on the …
/r/EverydayMisandry11/05/24 07:04 PM
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Leaving aside that erections can happen without arousal, how can anyone be arguing that arousal is the same thing as consent? Surely women know what it's like to want sex at one level, and be wet because of that, yet not want to actually do it because of worries about pregnancy, STIs, losing virginity under the wrong circumstances, etc. They would presumably be outraged if anyone told them that as long as they are sufficiently wet for easy penetration that doesn't result in any physical injury, …
/r/EverydayMisandry11/05/24 06:03 PM
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Reddit responded to my report and said: Thanks for submitting a report to the Reddit admin team. After investigating, we’ve found that the reported content doesn’t violate Reddit’s Content Policy. Did anyone else get that response from them? I need to discuss some completely unrelated matters with my lawyer next week, and while I'm there I might as well ask her if any action can be taken under UK law for knowingly (because they said they investigated) publishing hate speech.
/r/EverydayMisandry05/05/24 04:45 PM
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TL;DR covers a good example of immature academic feminist writing in this video. Well, technically it's just a long audio essay in a video format, which is good since it's over an hour long. I listened to it while doing menial housework after another person on this subreddit recommended it. My last paragraph isn't about any specific writing. Rather, it's just me trying to be charitable to academic feminists, and not tar them all with the same brush, by acknowledging that there's some valid point…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/05/24 05:16 PM
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This is an interesting observation, and I would add that I don't see much reason to hold much of academic feminism in higher regard. I have devoted more time than I ever should have, to trying to understand their theories and their grievances, and my conclusion is that it's mostly just immature ranting over not getting what they want, dressed up with academic jargon, and given enough funding to pay for "studies" that decide at the outset what kind of statistical results they want to find, and th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/05/24 05:01 PM
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The reason I specified "mostly uncoordinated" is because I also don't think there is a conspiracy happening, and I don't want my theory to get lumped in with conspiracy theories. Individual human beings, in positions of power, can intentionally abuse their power in the furtherance of their own hateful agendas, without ever discussing this with anyone else. A conspiracy, by its very nature, require at least two people. What you are describing, sounds something like what I'm assuming goes through …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/05/24 05:24 PM
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I'm doing my part and reporting it. That particular post is such blatant hatred that I don't see how it can possibly be allowed to stand.
/r/EverydayMisandry02/05/24 08:37 PM
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Exactly; the worst that I have ever heard men say about "cougars" is that they are an easy, but less satisfying, way to get laid. For clarity, "less satisfying" is a euphemism for some rather crude remarks about what to expect of her body during such an encounter; some of this was quite insulting. Nonetheless, I never heard a man say that such a woman was any kind of danger to society.
/r/EverydayMisandry02/05/24 07:47 PM
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I fully agree that the basic behaviour described in the OP is quite inappropriate. That said, would factors like the manner in which that person is dressed, their tone of voice, their hairstyle, the presence or absence of visible tattoos depicting things like skulls, etc. make any difference in how afraid you would be?
/r/EverydayMisandry02/05/24 07:36 PM
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I'm unconventional in terms of which women I find attractive and, while it doesn't happen often, people who don't know me well sometimes assume that I am gay. This is much more likely to happen if a conventionally attractive woman is going out of her way to get men to notice her, and I am visibly disinterested.
/r/EverydayMisandry02/05/24 07:32 PM
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This is a fair observation. At the same time, I think the advice of "don't mix business with pleasure", or its plebeian equivalent of "don't s*** where you eat" is something that most people follow, and expect to have followed, to the extent that it will always be at least a little taboo to break it. If a woman, to whom I'm not attracted, and who only knows me through being a customer of wherever she works, suddenly shows up at my door (having previously come there for a legitimate work reason),…
/r/EverydayMisandry02/05/24 07:18 PM
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I don't automatically trust the intentions of anyone I just met, and I don't expect anyone to do that for me. I don't see anything wrong with the idea that trust needs to be earned, and I don't take any offence to people taking reasonable precautions with me. I do take offence when someone takes this basic concept, and then needlessly brings race or sex into it. If a woman is cautious around men but thinks that she would never be harmed by another woman, she will probably learn the hard way, at …
/r/EverydayMisandry02/05/24 06:38 PM
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The ethical burden placed on men is quite debilitating, we are always to do the right thing, and I think far too many people simply aren't in a position for such moral postulating. I find that most people simply don't think that deeply about it. The typical soldier of any regime, no matter how ethical or corrupt that regime might be, is just doing a job, and the propaganda can be viewed as a papier-mâché guardrail for that soldier's belief that this is what they should be doing. Most soldiers ar…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/04/24 01:49 PM
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I was going to say that menslib needs some kind of "sounding for the bottom" experiment, where we try to determine how soft and non-confrontational a post, which still addresses a real men's issue and invites feminists to reconsider their stance on it, needs to be in order for the mods to let it stand. After reading this, however, I think that the lake of their zealotry might actually be bottomless. It's also kind of funny (not haha funny) how, for all of the feminist pontificating about lived e…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/04/24 11:37 PM
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I think the rules here, including "Don't demonize women", are very well-considered and consistently enforced, which prevents that outcome. That is, criticism of feminism doesn't go unchecked here; it is held in check by some reasonable limits. I would also say it's just a sad reality that allowing any kind of criticism to go unchecked will result in the most extreme voices (which tend to also be the loudest) drowning out the others.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/04/24 11:20 PM
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This aligns with my own theory, that the illogical and legally inconsistent approach to sexual assault allegations could be part of a (mostly uncoordinated) effort to prevent as many men as possible from getting their piece of the pie. It parallels a lot of what was done to African-Americans, after slavery was abolished, to collectively keep them subservient (this arguably still continues today, albeit to a lesser degree). One could also look at how the UK historically used their colonies as "du…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/04/24 11:14 PM
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There is more than one philosophical viewpoint called "quietism"; are you able to link to an article that details the specific viewpoint that you have in mind? Or is this a viewpoint that you have independently synthesised? Your linked post sounds like protective, apathy-induced selfishness, which is understandable and something I'm inclined to categorise as morally neutral. John Stuart Mill once said that "Bad men need nothing more to compass their ends, than that good men should look on and do…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/04/24 10:20 PM
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If you're referring to the 1976 book by Marian Engel, barely any Canadians know about it today (pun intended). The book was something of a sensation back in 1976 and received a fair bit of press that year, but it wasn't all positive and there is no evidence of it being the top-selling book in 1976 or any year since.
/r/EverydayMisandry29/04/24 07:47 PM
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This is an actual priest in the Anglican Church, who can't even be bothered to proofread a tweet or use consistent sentence structure while representing his congregation and employer??? No wonder all of my immediate family are no longer involved at this point. I led the way over twenty years ago and upset my family a fair bit at the time. I didn't even leave over any gripes with the church as it was back then, just my own decision to believe in what evidence suggests is true rather than what sou…
/r/EverydayMisandry29/04/24 06:39 PM
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Well that just sounds like a case of "buyer's remorse" combined with immaturity. She probably agreed to it because she liked the idea of being used by him in that manner, and then "caught feelings" afterwards and was upset that he didn't catch them as well.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/04/24 01:38 PM
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People will definitely look at a person like that if said person has a list of people who hurt them, where it's always 100% the other person's fault and said person did nothing wrong themself, because it's statistically improbable. In most social situations, it's also not normal for a person to recite a laundry list of people who have wronged them.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/04/24 01:30 PM
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In my experience, it was common for low-IQ people to have attitudes like this long before social media came along to give them a public platform to express them. Out-group homogeneity bias is probably the most applicable psychlogical term, although speaking about the out-group as if they have a collective hive mind is a very extreme form of it.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/04/24 01:16 PM
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To be fair, this is more about determining who is actually a good person and who is only presenting themself as a good person. That is, just because someone isn't being an a-hole right this second, doesn't mean that this isn't how they are when they are not intentionally putting on their best behaviour. During my years as a manager who had to make hiring decisions alongside HR (who were all women), and who was sometimes overruled by HR, it became quite clear to me that most people, men and women…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/04/24 09:54 PM
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Am I so out of touch? No, it's the men who are wrong. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVddGSTjEd0
/r/EverydayMisandry19/04/24 04:22 PM
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You know how in the first Matrix movie, Agent Smith says that the original Matrix was a utopia, free of any kind of want or suffering, and it failed because humans wouldn't accept it as reality and kept trying to "wake up" from it? Being with her is kind of like that; she just feels too good to be true and I suspect that her current personality is a phase that won't last. My girlfriend, with her expectations and ground rules, feels like reality.
/r/EverydayMisandry19/04/24 04:14 PM
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People say I'm condescending (that means I talk down to people).
/r/EverydayMisandry19/04/24 04:02 PM
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At least she's openly flying her red flag, thus saving many men the trouble of actually going on a date with her to find out about it.
/r/EverydayMisandry19/04/24 03:59 PM
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I'm familiar with that kind of demonising, which is why I have generally structured conversations with women to revolve around them (the whole "it's more imporant to be interested than to be interesting" concept). My last relationship ended very badly after she found ways to twist innocent things I had said into malicious things, and my current relationship survives on mutually agreed "ground rules". That said, I recently met women who actually like this trait, so I know that they do exist. It's…
/r/EverydayMisandry19/04/24 03:51 PM
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They make the I hate men statement to test our misogyny levels. I have been on a lot of first dates in my life and never, ever had a woman flat out say "I hate men" in that context. It's hard to imagine a more ridiculous thing for someone to say on their first date with a man. The closest thing I ever heard to that, on a date, was "I'm so sick of brown men" which doesn't target me since I'm white. In the context, I think she was intending for me to take that as a compliment, even though it's an …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/04/24 11:55 AM
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If a woman expresses an obsessive concern about being raped, then yes, I will find that to be a red flag, especially if it goes to farcical extremes like being concerned that a random stranger will rape her outdoors in broad daylight. On the other hand, if she keeps those thoughts in her own head and simply insists that our first date take place entirely in crowded, public places, then I would see no problem at all. In fact, I would be insisting on the same thing anyway, for different reasons. I…
/r/EverydayMisandry27/03/24 07:44 PM
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I believe that you are telling the truth here (or at least what you honestly remember), and it still sounds hard to believe that a licensed therapist would "savagely lay into" someone they just met, especially in front of other people. I asked my girlfriend about it, since she is working on a Ph.D in psychology, and she said that while there are definitely toxic people in clinical psychology, and you wouldn't be the first patient to end up with a narcissistic therapist, it would be truly excepti…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/03/24 07:23 PM
2

How is it a red flag if someone says that false accusations are common?
/r/EverydayMisandry27/03/24 06:37 PM
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The context here, as best as I can gather (I hate Twitter with a passion and trying to follow any argument on it makes my head hurt), is as follows: Someone on Tiktok, who need not be named, and who has very little going for him in life (not conventionally attractive, looks older than me despite being younger, not well-spoken, poorly educated) posted a video venting about some of his understandable frustrations with his lot in life. I didn't notice any hatred or vitriol in his venting, and he se…
/r/EverydayMisandry26/03/24 11:52 PM
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She was fired back in January of this year and, after an internal investigation, it was found that Hall and other male officers had been having sex while on the job and then denied doing so. So basically, she started claiming to have been "groomed" only after being caught doing something she wasn't supposed to be doing. How depressingly typical.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/03/24 07:26 AM
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Somehow this was even worse in context. Thank you for reminding me about why I normally stay the hell away from X/Twitter, Tiktok, and anything else that was designed to encourage short attention spans and/or narcissism.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/03/24 07:24 AM
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It's a massive red flag when a woman claims that false rape accusations are extremely rare, or that no woman would lie about rape. If you don't want to take my word for that, then take the word of lawyers who have actually defended hundreds of these cases.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/03/24 06:24 AM
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Please read the comments on this video and educate yourself about what people generally support.
/r/EverydayMisandry24/03/24 08:43 PM
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You don't think taking the law into one's own hands is wrong? Especially if one is imposing a punishment that is much harsher than the maximum allowed under the law? What if someone decides to personally punish a thief by locking them in their own cellar for five years, when the statutory maximum sentence for that level of theft is two years of incarceration and precedents in case law would further limit the punishment to ten months in that specific case? Is that not doing much wrong?
/r/EverydayMisandry24/03/24 08:41 PM
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If your point is that the Reddit admins are, like all other human beings, prone to bias, to being friendlier with those who have similar biases, and to having conversations with co-workers with whom they are friendly, then sure, that makes sense. For reference, when I was a manager, I would have discussions with the human resources staff about how interviews with job applicants went. During those discussions, our mutual biases would get expressed in words, which I surreptitiously recorded solely…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/03/24 01:12 AM
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Notably, they basically never take this stance on crimes like theft, which is a common charge against women. Most thieves are never even charged for their thefts, because we rightly view the act of wrongfully charging someone with theft as being much more harmful than a single act of theft and therefore require strong evidence. We also don't view it as a travesty if the victim of a minor theft (or even a major one in the case of Les Miserables) decides to forgive the perpetrator and not press ch…
/r/EverydayMisandry24/03/24 12:15 AM
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It was never proven that the murder victim actually did this. From the Mirror article on it: Prosecutors told the court they could not confirm the allegations made about Mr Baines but accepted the defendant "believed them to be true" when she attacked her husband on July 14 last year. Obviously, even if it were true, it's not a crime punishable by death (no crime in the UK is punishable by death anymore).
/r/EverydayMisandry24/03/24 12:00 AM
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Do you think those comments would have been made if the sexes were reversed?
/r/EverydayMisandry23/03/24 11:56 PM
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In my experience, you are right about women generally being more risk averse. At the same time, a woman who gets pregnant at least has choices available to her and, even in US states where abortion is now illegal, doesn't actually have to take the burden of parenthood if she doesn't want it. A man, who gets a woman pregnant, doesn't have any choices, so arguably men have more to lose and therefore more reason to be worried about just taking a woman at her word that she is on birth control, even …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/03/24 09:16 PM
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Not only that, but they are usually oblivious to RISUG, which is a much better-proven concept for non-permanent male birth control, that appears to be unavailable mainly as a result of phamaceutical corporations prioritising profit over the public good. Of course, that is the expected behaviour from corporations and it's the government's job to intervene in situations like that by offering grants, tax credits, etc. Governments seem to have no interest at all in either incentivising private corpo…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/03/24 08:56 PM
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Nobody is going to act very nicely when you accuse them of literally promoting genocide. You weren't accused of promoting genocide there. You asked why a certain phrase was banned, and received a speculative answer (which happens to also be incorrect as far as the US, where X servers are located, is concerned). You were not accused of agreeing with the phrase, or with that particular interpretation of it, and you were needlessly antagonistic in your response. This invites speculation about how a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/03/24 11:53 AM
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The general problem that the OP describes, of getting banned for simply mentioning men's issues, even when done in a perfectly reasonable and respectful manner, is a real and legitimate problem, which is definitely worthy of being discussed here. I am absolutely not arguing anything to the contrary of that. That said, this is how OP behaves elsewhere, calling someone a "deranged zionist" for simply having said "Not a lawyer, but calls to genocide seems pretty illegal to me." Said person doesn't …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/03/24 02:26 AM
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I appreciate that you put much more thought and effort into your posts and comments than most people on Reddit. I wouldn't hold anyone to the standards of an academic journal, but I do take issue with flat assertions that appear to lack justification and could cause people to become misinformed about significant matters (I'm an INTJ and we are kind of notorious for being bothered by this). ​ Folks here already kinda know that those are the kinds of discussions that happen regarding men's issues …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/03/24 02:41 AM
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If you're just speculating about what Reddit admins might be doing, it would be helpful if you would word your statements in a manner that makes it clear that they are speculative. For example, I have a theory that, for many individual carceral feminists, the real concern isn't women's safety. The main thing that causes me to believe this is their tendency to oppose advice on how woman can reduce the probability of sexual assaults happening to them, and call it "victim blaming", instead of embra…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/03/24 08:51 PM
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Source: I was banned from that sub because I called out the fact the mods were biased and were handing out temp bans to men / MRA's for breaking their arbitrary rules.. Would you mind sending me a DM linking to the thread where this happened? I have my own, very minor issues with recent moderation decisions there, and I'm curious to see the details of this particular situation.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/03/24 07:39 AM
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Can you please DM me a link to that? I would like to report her myself, consequences be damned (if they ban me, I'll talk to my lawyer about what charges, if any, can be filed).
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/03/24 07:18 AM
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It is that such speech is actively sought after by the admins and loads of other people, as a kind of celebratory thing. Like, good job hate posting bout men, men really do sux! Kudos to you. Where could I see an example of this kind of behaviour by Reddit admins?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/03/24 07:15 AM
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Is there are reason why, after four days, you haven't responded to the other person, asking what she said? Should we assume that the reason you haven't specified what she said, is that she either never actually said anything like this, or she wasn't saying these things in a manner that conveys a sincerely hateful attitude? I haven't heard her say anything about the UK, but I have heard her say things about Canada and Canadians that are quite derogatory if one ignores the context, as well as her …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/03/24 01:21 AM
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We're branching from a comment that contained the following text: Even if I'm treated ok by someone as an individual, if they make generalized hateful statements about men all the time, I get uncomfortable knowing that if I were just a random person on the street to them, they would hate me by default. I'm interpreting that to mean specific, hateful generalisations, e.g. "I can't go out after dark because of men." That's the kind of comment that prompts me to ask her if she is serious, and then …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/03/24 07:52 PM
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I'm not in university, although I was a few years ago (software engineering degree for a change in career direction, not many women in the program). I didn't say anything about walking away from an entire program; I just meant walking away from the specific situation in which the hateful comment was uttered. I never had a professor say anything hateful about men during a lecture or lab, but if that ever did happen then I would probably just file a complaint against the professor (easy to prove t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/03/24 07:40 PM
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I’m completely serious. People, even indoctrinated cretins, have at least a basic understanding of cause and effect. If saying hateful things about men, in the presence of at least one man, results in a negative consequence even a small percentage of the time, then women will do it less often. It’s basically the same logic as enforcing the speed limit; it’s not necessary to actually ticket all, or even most, drivers who speed in order to create a deterrent. Obviously, consequences for behaviour …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/03/24 07:30 PM
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That's why, in every situation where I can get away with doing so, as soon as I hear the first spoken comment of that nature, I ask her if she is serious. If she responds affirmatively, I stand up, declare that I don't feel welcome, turn my back, and walk away.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/03/24 03:14 PM
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As you said, proponents of that segment of feminism support equalization within the class structure, rather than abolishing it altogether. Well, I have read and heard things from some self-identified radical feminists who claim to want to abolish it, or to reform it in ways that target imbalances in other areas besides sex/gender. For those who only care about sex/gender imbalances in the class system, I think that's consistent with other ways in which one can be radical on some issues, while mo…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/03/24 08:31 PM
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Nice people like Andrea "all hetero sex is rape" Dworkins, Sally Miller Gearhart and her "the future is female and to ensure it so, the male population shall be reduced to 10%". To what degree were these people, or their ideas, taken seriously? My parents are left-leaning intellectuals who were supportive of feminism during the 1990s, yet I never heard Dworkin or Gearhart, or their ideas, discussed at the dinner table. Ruth Bader Ginsburg was a name that did come up often, and as far as I can te…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/03/24 06:25 PM
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Let's stop shorter than a utopia, let's just say we all live in this same system, except we get the true value of our labour and everybody can work at mcdonalds for 8 hours a week and that'll be enough for a 3 bed semi and a range rover evoque. If everyone works at McDonald's for 8 hours a week, then who is going to build the houses and cars? Your ability to do basic mathematics seems to be even worse than your ability to read English. Assuming your ability to write in English is equally bad, pe…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/03/24 03:56 AM
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Do you not know how to read English? I never said that there were definitely only two peaceful approaches. I said that there doesn't appear to be any others, unless you count a mixture of markets and rationing as an approach in its own right. If you know of an alternative, peaceful approach (note that peaceful is not the same thing as non-coercive), then why haven't you specified it?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/03/24 03:41 AM
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"I declare that you are wrong, and I offer no right answer or any argument for how you are wrong," is a waste of time.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/03/24 12:42 AM
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Technology is constantly changing how we live, but a utopia free from scarcity seems extremely unlikely at any point in the future. In just the past one hundred years, we went from rosy predictions of the future, to the development of nuclear weapons and a standoff between nuclear superpowers that nearly killed most of us, followed by climate change, a housing crisis, and now rising tensions between those same nuclear superpowers.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/03/24 12:39 AM
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Markets (the "capitalist machine") are one approach to dealing with the basic facts of reality, e.g. limited resources to satisfy potentially unlimited demand. The other approach is rationing, and there doesn't appear to be any peaceful third option (unless you count a mixture of the first two as a third option). Take the rationing approach instead of the market approach and you will still have prostitution, because there is always going to be a secondary market for the rationed resources and so…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/03/24 12:29 AM
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I think that's referring to transactional sex among other species. If you scroll down to the example of capuchin monkeys, it mentions that after the monkeys were taught the concept of money, the researcher observed what appears to be a prostitution transaction and had to take measures to prevent that from happening again, just as goverments do in order to prevent these transactions from being offered, out in the open, within societies. The "coercion" into working, in general, doesn't require mon…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/03/24 12:15 AM
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if there is no flow-related reason to end the paragraph earlier than that.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/02/24 10:59 PM
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Three sentences is not considered a particularly long paragraph. Six is the usual number where one considers breaking a paragraph into two, if there is no flow-related reason to end the paragraph earlier than that.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/02/24 09:45 PM
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When I say "radical/carceral feminists", I mean the segment that seeks to demonise men and/or advantage women at the expense of men. For example, carceral feminist organisations like LEAF seek to have more men convicted, imprisoned, and given criminal records, ostensibly so that women can be safer, and perhaps with the ulterior motive of knocking more men out of high-desirability jobs so that women can then apply for them (although that's a theory and not something I can directly prove at this t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/02/24 09:21 PM
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Because it is more directly related to men's issues and would have a far greater affect on the majority of men than more strawman takes on feminist theory. It's "effect" ("affect" is a verb), and this argument is a non-sequitur. Catching violent criminals has a greater beneficial effect for society than catching petty shoplifters and pickpockets, but it doesn't logically follow that law enforcement should only go after violent criminals and just let petty theft go unpunished, especially if there…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/02/24 09:05 PM
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The TL;DR is that I thought that rules should be enforced the same across the board, and other people (correctly, to be clear) thought that cut out Progressive Feminist thought and theories that were steeped in negative generalizations about men. Did any of that discussion (not necessarily involving you) happen in meta threats that are currently viewable? I'm curious to know what was argued, as well as whether or not any of that officially continues today.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/02/24 08:25 PM
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Until Vaselgel (essentially a completely reversible vasectomy) becomes available, I think paying for cryostorage of sperm and then getting a vasecotmy afterwards is the best of both worlds, if one can afford it (it typically costs a few hundred US dollars per year for the storage). This allows a man to keep his options open as far as fatherhood is concerned, while only allowing it to happen with the mutual consent of himself and the prospective mother.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/02/24 08:17 PM
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Was there a specific moderator who told you this? Please feel free to DM me if you don't feel comfortable naming anyone here; I'm very curious to know more about the bias and the arguments being made to justify it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/02/24 08:06 PM
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Unless you live in a country like Norway with very safe jails and prisons, the threat of going to jail is a threat to your physical safety, and one that few women are going to understand. Before I learned that false accusations of sexual assault or harassment were a thing, and before it became a thing to arbitrarily label a man a "creep" for behaviour that is not broadly regarded as objectionable (e.g. asking a woman out on a date), I was a reasonably outgoing person (at least by introvert stand…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/02/24 08:04 PM
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This, for sure. I used to be a manager in a company, and the HR director herself would borderline sexually harass me during meetings. I don't even think she was actually attracted to me; it just seemed like one of her tools for manipulating people. I simply had to put up with it, because even just politely asking her to stop what she was doing, without making any kind of formal complaint, had too much potential to get me in trouble.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/02/24 07:40 PM
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The current 'narrative' is that men are all the 'sex negative' ones who shame sex-work and want to control women, blah blah blah... This is the first I have heard of such a narrative with respect to prostitution specifically; where can I see examples of this?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/02/24 06:02 PM
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this sub censors feminist opinions Do you have an example of that? ​ some members here have harassed women. If there is evidence of that, I'm quite sure the moderators would act on it. ​ its not even left wing. Most of the posts are about hating feminism and there's little to no critique of actual ruling class politics, inequality, labour rights and issues that affect the working class. There are plenty of left-wing subreddits that talk about all of those issues. Why on Earth would you expect pe…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/02/24 02:04 AM
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This same channel also has a great video about how Homer Simpson seems so rich today (or 2022 when the video was posted), even though he was meant to represent a typical American back in 1989. Overall I think it's a great channel, even though I personally disliked working in a union and would avoid ever working a union job again. The right to unionise and collectively bargain is important, and the more procedural (less room to distinguish oneself from one's co-workers) a job is, the more it make…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/02/24 01:33 AM
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This is a good list, and I'm surprised that you didn't include equivocation (the broader fallacy that includes motte-and-bailey manoeuvres, among other things). Motte-and-bailey is the form of equivocation that gets the most attention these days, and anti-masculists can also be seen directly equivocating on words like "rape" when they accuse masculists/MRAs of being "rape apologists". Anti-masculists know, just as well as anyone else, that when most people hear the word "rape", without any speci…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/02/24 01:11 AM
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Sorry if I wasn't clear; I specifically meant writing, not speaking. There is a world of difference between how I speak and how I write, and I tend to assume that the same is true of everyone else (it's especially true for me because I suffered from a significant speech impediment during my early years and relied more heavily on written words to communicate). For recounting trauma, there is a difference between doing so unprepared, with spoken words, doing so as part of a prepared speech (e.g. C…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/02/24 07:16 PM
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Interesting. Does he have books by Gramsci as well? I don't think so; my great grandfather was a pretty strong believer in constitutional monarchy (it would have been easier for him to flee to the US but he went to the UK instead) and had about as much contempt for Marxists as he did for fascists. He had the first edition hardcovers of everything by George Orwell, however. ​ If I remember correctly, Arendt doesn't see Mussolini as a true totalitarian, which she links to Italy not having a large …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/02/24 12:12 AM
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Hence what happens to subs like FeMRAdebates. Are you aware of any post or article I can read that would give a good summary of the history of FeMRAdebates? I feel like there is a lot of lore, regarding past drama with moderators and policies, that can't even be viewed now (if I look at threads from even a few years ago, there are swaths of comments deleted by the people who posted them). On the surface, it seems to have very reasonable, well-considered rules and the most transparent moderation …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/02/24 10:01 PM
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Different people have different writing styles. If someone, who normally doesn't use such poetic language, uses it when making a specific claim about something having happened, I would see that as a red flag. On the other hand, if that's just how they generally write then I wouldn't see it as an issue. A major red flag for me, especially on Reddit, is when the story is sensational, regardless of whether those sensational details are delivered with a matter-of-fact writing style, or one that is f…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/02/24 08:55 PM
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Over detailed is a sign of someone telling the truth. No, it's not. Giving a lot of details is a sign that someone is giving a lot of details. ​ That’s what victims with fear of not being believed do. Genuine victims, with a fear of not being believed, may do different things for different reasons, depending on their personality. Here's a non-exhaustive list of what an individual victim, with a fear of not being believed, might do: Say nothing. Say only a little, because their memory, intelligen…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/02/24 07:42 PM
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Thank you so much for this excellent analysis, which I greatly enjoyed reading. My father has a first edition hardcover of this book in his library, which was owned by my great grandfather who left Italy in a hurry when Mussolini took power. I never got around to reading it, but your analysis has inspired me to now make a point of reading it. You mention infighting in feminism as something that works against Arendt's description, and since I haven't yet read her description I will take your word…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/02/24 02:56 AM
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As far as I can tell, the Campus Assault Resource Education Support Coalition at the Coastal Carolina University, who put out these posters, never faced any disciplinary action whatsoever for spreading legal misinformation. Years later, Alberta Law Review published a very good article, inspired by those posters, which I highly recommend reading.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/02/24 09:59 PM
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There seems to be a fair bit of chatter in online forums on the subject, where punters claim to be able to find providers of paid, unprotected sex. Are you saying that they are probably lying about it? This thread presents an article from the Bangkok Post that seems particularly concerning (although the Bangkok Post appears to have since yanked the article from their own website).
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/02/24 02:48 AM
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I'm a strong believer in the idea that the government should stay out of the bedroom. To that end, I think it should be legal for two people to negotiate, in the privacy of a bedroom, this kind of transaction (this is basically the only avenue for legal prostitution in the UK). I'm also inclined to support slightly relaxing the UK model's prohibition against the public solicitation of prostitution, specifically by narrowing the definition of "public" to allow for certain types of private busines…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/02/24 02:29 AM
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I'm an omnivore, but for calculating basic survival costs I think it makes sense to stick to plant-based foods. Beans and legumes are the best plant-based protein sources, and they are much cheaper than chicken (and chicken breast is one of the more expensive cuts of chicken). That Huffington Post article also seems to be inflated. I can't take it seriously when it includes chocolate bars in the list of expenses. Feminism is a lobby group for women's interests. Some of them pretend to be more th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/02/24 04:47 PM
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At best this means men therefore have less money to spend on luxuries based solely on their gender and higher dietary needs. Yes, and at current prices for essential food items, the difference works out to something like a day's pay, at minimum wage, per year. It's meaningful but small, and it's comparable to what women pay for menstrual products that men don't need. Both of these needs come from biology, not decisions of governments. ​ I understand but dude, why the obsession with oil? I'm just…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/02/24 04:45 PM
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In western countries, the vast majority of most people's food budgets are spent on what are essentially culinary luxuries. The fancy olive oil I like tastes much better than the store brand, but has no meaningful nutritional difference. Therefore, all of the extra money it costs is more accurately viewed as a luxury expenditure, not a food expenditure. If you are trying to maintain a particular macronutrient ratio, and balking at the idea of just adding all the extra calories in the form of fat,…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/02/24 10:49 PM
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What I said, and didn't say, is plainly obvious from the text itself.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/02/24 12:11 AM
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Is it unethical if it's with the mutual consent of everyone involved? That is, if the parents simply inform their children that, should they encounter frustrations trying to find a partner on their own, their parents are willing to play matchmaker? Obviously that's also a far cry from bribing someone to have sex with one's son, which I find to be seriously icky. My point is just that there might be other situations where the sentiment could be reasonable and ethical. My mother never did any dire…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/02/24 01:16 PM
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Who said anything about trying to survive solely on vegetable oil? I said that it's a simple and cheap way to add calories to a meal, which is a world apart from taking a swig of oil for a meal. One of my favourite things to make in winter is a cannellini bean soup, which is basically nutritionally complete (I still take a daily multivitamin pill for good measure), and all of the ingredients that go into it are quite cheap. Olive oil can be poured directly into a bowl of it to improve the flavou…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/02/24 01:04 PM
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What full-grown, mentally healthy, independent adult has his mother choose who he has sex with? Isn't that basically what happens with arranged marriages?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/02/24 02:52 AM
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Given that the cost of calories is relatively low, even after accounting for recent price increases due to climate change and some concerning economic behaviour by grocery chains, does it even matter that much at this time? A few extra tablespoons of cooking oil will add another 500 calories to one's food. The fancy olive oil from Tuscany that I like to use, costs about £12 for a 1 litre bottle, which contains 8,000 calories. That's £276 per year, which can be cut down to less than £100 per year…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/02/24 06:23 PM
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In the 20th century, almost all of the eggs sold in supermarkets had white shells and yellow yolks, hence "white on the outside and yellow on the inside", similar to the term "oreo".
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/02/24 10:46 AM
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That's the thing, though. If any race is stereotyped as being "square", it's east Asians, not Europeans. Even among Europeans, it varies by culture/ethnicity. My great grandfather's memoirs indicate that he felt like a bit of a cultural misfit in Italy even before the rise of fascism, and had considered trying to move to "square" England for a number of reasons. After Mussolini made it imperative for him to leave Italy, he then had to deal with the opposite kind of stereotyping in England becaus…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/02/24 11:17 PM
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I'm pleased to hear that you also take issue with that website, and I'm unclear about whether you are only taking issue with the presentation of the message, or you are also taking issue with some aspects of the message itself (in terms of what they are asking men to do, to help women feel safer). As you are probably aware, one of the limitations of utilitarianism is that it's difficult to calculate net good. For example, in the US, schools impose a very strong expectation on students (it's not …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/02/24 11:30 PM
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The way that white people are typically treated in east Asian countries could reasonably be described as "benevolent racism". It's also something that many white people go out of their way to experience, i.e. they see it as an advantage, not a problem. That isn't to say that benevolence can't ever be a serious problem, just that if people will go out of their way to experience a form of benevolent prejudice, then there is something off base about placing all the focus on the prejudice aspect.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/01/24 10:34 PM
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I can't remember anyone, man or woman, telling me that I need to "open up", despite my aversion towards expressing myself with spoken (as opposed to written) words. I think both men and women have a limited capacity to put what they want in words, and can end up sounding contradictory. For example, I prefer women who are confident and take initiative, but someone might hear that and think I mean that I like it when a partner tries to dominate my life and tell me what to do, which would definitel…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/01/24 10:12 PM
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Just out of curiosity, what is your opinion of the message, and separately the presentation of that message, in the Good Guys' Guide? Personally, I will just point out that the documented (i.e. police-reported) rate at which people get raped by strangers walking past them on a footpath is so low that it's not really worth wondering whether or not a random person is a rapist. If they are, then they are extremely likely to commit the crime in a context that doesn't involve a stranger on a footpath…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/01/24 08:22 AM
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Similarly, I could construct a perfect argument about why the sky is actually piss yellow You could probably construct one that is pefectly logically valid, i.e. the premises, if true, basically guarantee the truth of the conclusion. You couldn't construct one that is actually sound, because at least one of the premises is going to have some kind of major problem.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/01/24 07:04 PM
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In my experience, most people who talk about logical fallacies don't even know the difference between formal and informal fallacies. Those who don't know that much, shouldn't be accusing anyone else of making them. Informal fallacies constitute the vast majority of fallacies that have been listed, and by their very nature they can't be expressed in formal logic. As such, they can't be proven to be fallacious in every context, unless the very definition of the fallacy specifies a context and limi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/01/24 06:59 PM
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Oh, so HR was only worried about you "being hurt" by other employees, i.e. people over whom HR actually has control (as opposed to customers or the general public)? That sounds rather sketchy on their part. I just pulled up my employee handbook from my old job for reference, and it enumerates a long list of grounds of discrimination that are absolutely prohibited within the company, including sexual orientation and gender identity. When I worked there, they allowed employees to use whatever name…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/01/24 02:35 AM
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What was the nature of that job? I'm only aware of having hired one trans person, and became aware of that because of a government ID issue that came up later (I had to sign a document with her previous name on it). She passed so well that I otherwise wouldn't have even imagined that to be the case. The nature of my department was such that nobody's job, other than mine, involved any face-to-face interactions with customers, so concerns over protecting anyone from "being hurt" that way were off …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/01/24 08:35 PM
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One film that I thought handled this well, thirty years ago, was the 1994 film Disclosure. It portrays the issue and the experience of a man being sexually harassed and assaulted by a woman, who then turns around and falsely accuses him when he won't give her what she wants, without getting particularly preachy. This clip (NSFW audio, SFW visuals) was basically the preachiest moment in the film and I didn't think it was too strong. The overall story encompasses more than this, as it's a story of…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/01/24 03:35 AM
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Do you understand the difference between the following arguments? I have seen pink unicorns, therefore it’s reasonable for me to believe that pink unicorns exist. I have seen pink unicorns, therefore I just proved that pink unicorns exist and you are living under a rock if you continue to deny it. Do you understand how, even without the open-ended verbal abuse at the end, 2) could be expected to provoke a much stronger, and much more determined, response than 1) from people who doubt that pink u…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/01/24 06:54 PM
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Such recordings might help to lay the necessary foundation to justify your claim that you have "proved" something, so by all means, show them if you have them. To complete the foundation, you will also need to provide objective evidence that this person had already been mentioned in an AWDTSG group, prior to those alleged incidents against you. It's a common practice on Reddit, and arguably a key feature of the platform, that one can look at someone's post/comment history to guide one's decision…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/01/24 01:40 PM
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You were so close to a passable sentence, and then you failed to capitalise the proper noun of Peter Pan. If baselessly claiming that I live in a Peter Pan syndrome (which isn't even listed in the DSM) is the best retort that you can muster, then I strongly recommend quitting before you fall even further behind.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/01/24 01:12 PM
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You don't even understand how proof works. You never provided any objective evidence that you were actually abused, just a story where you claimed that you were abused. Your "proof" lacks a foundation. Your recent post history says so much about your grasp on reality, and your regard for the syntax of The King's English, that I barely even need to address it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/01/24 01:45 PM
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A quick perusal of her post history told me not to take her seriously.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/01/24 01:13 PM
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I'm primarily downvoting you for your offensive butchery (some might call it rape) of the English language.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/01/24 01:10 PM
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Lawyers want to get paid. Winning a judgement for a client who has litte to no money, from a libeling woman who also has little to no money, means they are guaranteed not to get paid. You would have to actually identify a woman with real assets (she at least owns her own home) to sue, and most women who actually have assets like that have better things to do than hanging out with the cretins on Facebook. This is why we need to actually make defamation a crime, like Japan did, with a similar rule…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/01/24 12:53 PM
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Are you seriously surprised that a post about a study, that would take the better part of an hour to thoroughly read and scrutinise, gets fewer comments than a post about a tweet? Personally I can't stand Twitter, X, or whatever Elon the mollusk decides to call it next, and a large part of that is the degree to which I think it both courts people with short attention spans, and fosters the shortening of attention spans. Even Reddit does this to some degree, as taking more time to construct a mor…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/12/23 07:20 PM
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I think a large part of the problem here is that when a person speaks about their own problems as an individual, or the problems of their immediate family, it tends to be perceived as "whining". The Oxford English Dictionary defines this sense of "whining" as "complaining in a feeble or petulant" way, so it makes sense that complaining about the problems of a group of people that includes the speaker, the speaker is going to come across as "feeble" since they lack the power to solve their own pr…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/12/23 01:11 AM
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I'm familiar with street epistemology, and I have tried something like it enough times to see that it's much more difficult than they make it look, especially when dealing with people who have been heavily indoctrinated with feminist/postmodernist/"woke" subjectivism. It almost seems like they are intentionally trying to inoculate people against being receptive to the Socratic Method, by framing it as some kind of bad faith effort to waste a person's time and/or dishonestly manipuate them, hence…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/12/23 10:02 PM
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As someone who has always preferred the direct approach (I like food, truth, and almost everything else to be spicy) this is something I ended up learning through trial and error, as nobody ever gave me such advice except, perhaps, in a heavily diluted form. Leaving aside people who genuinely don't want the truth, because they are acting in bad faith, I have found that fragile egos play a large role in this. That is, people who know they are intelligent and are secure in that knowledge, can usua…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/12/23 07:15 PM
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I don't really see the paradox. Both men and women have "types", and while the distribution pattern of said types is different (you mentioned this in your longer comment), the basic idea remains the same. One thing that does seem to be different, is that most of my male peers seem to be quite flexible about their types. For example, I know one man who has always preferred women with blonde hair, blue eyes, and slender bodies, yet when the only single woman at a party was a somewhat chubby Indian…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/12/23 03:53 PM
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Oppression olympics are tiresome; there is no reason why people can't just talk about their concerns/grievances without claiming that other people's concerns/grievances are less severe or less legitimate. ​ one person claimed that lesbians face more prejudice than gay men which is stupid because gay men face more violent treatment from people and they are considered impure and disgusting. Are there any reliable statistics backing this?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/12/23 09:52 PM
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There's a relationship between one's job and one's personality. How many first dates don't involve a significant amount of conversation about what goes on in each person's job? If you have ever seen that 2002 film "About a Boy", it kind of illustrates the awkwardness of dating as a man who has never worked due to his inheritance making it unnecessary. For me, that was a rather timely cautionary tale. Then again, I have never worked a job solely because I needed money, and have shocked more than …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/12/23 10:34 PM
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I think most of them just hate the game. There is research showing a large number of incels are minorities who are not white. What does that tell us ? /s You're using the "/s" for indicating sarcasm, yet it doesn't sound like you are asking the question sarcastically. I find the incel community's obsession with "just be X" theories, where X is some kind of non-electable personal trait, to be annoying, but not because I think it's completely, factually incorrect. Rather, I find it annoying becaus…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/12/23 09:01 PM
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That seems like a very maladaptive way to view a large segment of society. If you really feel that way, wouldn't gay men still be acceptable as friends, or at least as non-enemies?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/12/23 12:52 AM
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1)have you observed that male friendships are of "lower quality" compated to female friendships? I have about an equal number of male and female friends and acquaintances, and in my experience they are of equal overall quality. ​ 2)do male friendships offer less emotional suport? It depends on how you define "emotional support". When these issues come up with male friends, the conversation tends to be more analytical, as in "Here's what I'm facing, here are the possible approaches I am consideri…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/12/23 12:51 AM
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Aren't gay people basically as diverse as straight people? In real life I have met gay people who embodied most of the stereotypes, to the point that I strongly suspected they were gay long before they confirmed it by talking about their partners. I have also met people who I never would have imagined were gay until they revealed that fact, and gay people who were somewhere in between those extremes. I think writers of situation comedies, in general, try to present a simplified version of realit…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/12/23 12:25 AM
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I physically present in a manner that is sufficiently masculine to get me placed in the "masculine straight man" category, which is also accurate because I actually am straight. However, there is only a small percentage of women who I find to be more than marginally attractive, and there are a few important ways in which I am very unconventional about what I find attractive, so I don't look at conventionally attractive women in the way they have come to expect from straight men. This often ends …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/12/23 12:16 AM
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When you say "this is a very weird point", are you referring to the OP's point, or to my point about context? My point about context is in agreement with you that the OP does come across as trying too hard to be offended, although I am allowing for the possibility that perhaps the OP encountered this phrase in a specific context where it actually was insulting or otherwise a problem, in which case they should have specified that context.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/11/23 03:15 AM
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I was going to say that the context of the phrase matters. If someone wants to present something as a problem, they need to describe the problem with some clarity. There may be some way of using the phrase that is a legitimate problem, but the OP is just taking the phrase, on its own, and then extrapolating a bunch of meanings that may or may not actually be intended by the people using the phrase.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/11/23 12:31 AM
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Or arrested and charged, and either way, very immediate, negative consequences. It makes me wonder what kind of weird fantasy the commenters are confusing for reality.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/11/23 11:44 PM
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I am thankful that most of the terrible behaviour I see online doesn't surface in meatspace for me, but this particular form of emotional immaturity is one that I have witnessed on a few occasions. One example that I remember quite clearly, because it was right around the time that I first became aware that there were other versions of feminism besides liberal feminism, involved a union going on strike. One of the union's main grievances was that certain job classifications, within the expiring …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/11/23 11:41 PM
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Well, my parents actually taught me, my brothers, and my sister, not to hit anyone, even in self-defence, and punished us quite severely if we ever broke that rule. I assumed, at the time, that this was how most people were raised; it wasn't until I was about twenty or so that I fully realised how unusual my upbringing was. I know a few people who have criminal records right now, because their parents taught them that hitting people (or at least men) back, after being hit, is a good thing to do.…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/11/23 02:10 PM
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Unfortunately, what he is saying is not "nonsense", at least in the UK. Note that the examples given by the Metropolitan Police include "staring or leering at your body", which is something that many people seem to be very bad at determining.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/11/23 02:58 AM
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Driving, or being a passenger in a car, also means exposure to road rage incidents. Unlike these supposed harassment incidents on transit, for which barely any video footage exists, YouTube is full of videos of road rage. The higher quantity of footage is circumstantial evidence that road rage is a more common issue.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/11/23 12:47 PM
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Maybe the people who claim it happens are lying or exaggerating. Or maybe they are telling the truth, but their experience is about as representative of the general experience of riding transit, as winning the jackpot is representative of the general experience of playing the lottery. The lottery is probably the best analogy here; the odds of winning are astronomically low, yet because millions of people play it, we keep hearing about winners, and so people keep going out and wasting their money…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/11/23 12:43 PM
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Why are you linking to news sites instead of to the actual sources of these harassment statistics? In my experience, the sources of these harassment statistics tend to be heavily flawed. Furthermore, if we are going to believe that something happens just because a high enough percentage of survey-takers said they saw it happen, then does that mean that ghosts are real?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/11/23 12:34 PM
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We also have to contain them while we wait, and make their kids aware of other ways of thinking so that they can make a comparison and then reach the conclusion that their parents' postmodernism is "cringe".
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/11/23 12:25 AM
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I haven't read the book, and Helen Pluckrose has been brought up here, more recently than three years ago, in other contexts. I am confident that "postmodernism" is on the wrong side of history, i.e. future historians will not look back fondly on this era and will hold those people in a similar level of contempt as racial segregationists and fascists. Contrary to its name, I find "postmodern" thinking to be very medieval and theological. As Peter Boghossian, who has worked closely with Helen Plu…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/11/23 12:20 AM
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Street activism risks attaching one's political leanings to one's real name, and not necessarily one's own political leanings. For example, if I engage in street activism for cause A, because I am proud to support cause A and have no problem with the world knowing about it, someone could still find a way to paint me as also supporting cause B, or some strawman version of cause A, and seriously hurt my reputation. Because of this, I intentionally keep a low public profile in general and leave all…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/11/23 01:00 AM
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Fair enough; it does seem to skew very heavily now towards people with relatively little experience in the world and thin knowledge of theoretical underpinnings, plus the usual motte and bailey maneuvers on the word "patriarchy".
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/11/23 09:41 AM
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Thank you very much for bringing that to my attention. I can't believe I made such an embarrassing reading comprehension error, and I will not try to excuse it on the basis of being tired at the time, because obviously I was still sufficiently energetic to type all that text. I have edited the comment to acknowledge that error, so that nobody else will be misled. I sincerely apologise to anyone who was already misled by my negligence. I will also say that I am pleasantly surprised that the CPS h…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/11/23 09:33 AM
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Are you referring to my take on it, by any chance?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/11/23 03:38 AM
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Understood; I can't find any precendent whatsoever to support this idea that the use of the word "penis" is a misnomer and it really means something more broad like "penis or similarly-shaped object". For example, in 2015, Kyran Lee was convicted of sexual assault by penetraton on the basis of gender fraud after penetrating a women with a fake penis that she believed to be a real penis, belonging to a cis man. Surely, if there was any precedent for interpreting the word "penis", in the definitio…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/11/23 02:56 AM
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Well the rape law specifically says "his penis", so while the court would probably accept that this can be read as meaning "the accused person's penis", we still have the word "penis" in there. Therefore, even if the CPS wanted to specifically charge a woman with rape for having, say, forced a dildo into a man's anus, I can't find any precedent that would allow for "penis" to be interpreted as "penis or similarly-shaped object". I think the CPS could still prosecute a transwoman, who still had a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/11/23 01:01 AM
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Nothing in current UK law, but if she used her fingers, or a dildo, or any similar object, then she could be charged with "causing sexual activity without consent (penetrative)" which carries the same maximum sentence, although I highly doubt that any woman who does this will ever actually get the maximum.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/23 11:47 PM
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I think I covered that in one of my other comments on this thread, although I didn't know, prior to reading that link, that the generic "he" only became standard in laws in 1850. I thought it went back to something like the 1600s, and I'm always happy to become less wrong ;)
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/23 11:43 PM
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Just about every law, textbook, instruction manual, etc. in the English language, from any century before this one, that needs to refer to a generic person, will either use "he" pronouns (the generic "he"), or will avoid using any third-person pronoun at all, e.g. "one should always remember to save one's work before closing the program" or "the user should maintain multiple backup copies of any data that is of particular importance to the user". So yes, easy to argue in court, I just suspect th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/23 10:25 PM
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First of all, your link is not to the law, it's to the Crown Prosecution Service's summary of and commentary on the law. While I would generally trust the CPS to give accurate information about criminal law, I would still look directly at the law as well, in this case the most updated version of the Sexual Offences Act 2003. I'll pause here and note a few very important points before continuing: I'm not a lawyer, so don't take anything I say as legal advice. The CPS are lawyers, but they are not…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/23 10:10 PM
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Y'all just need to learn how to be a good 'un.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/23 12:51 PM
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That's a terrific, detailed analysis. May I ask why you generally don't participate on FEMRAdebates anymore?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/23 10:48 PM
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In my experience, the more time someone spends thumping the Bible, the less time they spend reading it. That, and actually reading the Bible has this tendency to turn christians into atheists and agnostics (speaking as a former Anglican and current agnostic, who seriously read the Bible and tried very hard to reconcile it with science).
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/23 10:45 PM
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I really need to make sure I read all the comments before commenting myself. I just mentioned to someone else that they communicated the very same point as me using less than half as many words, and here you are communicating the point I was trying to make much more clearly, and in much more detail, while probably also being more efficient with words (you used more than I did, but also expressed much more detailed thoughts with them). The videos you linked seem very interesting; I'll be listenin…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/23 10:31 PM
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I love it when I post something before reading the other comments, and then see that others already managed to communicate my point far more efficiently (I can be horrendously inefficient with words).
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/23 10:09 PM
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Do you enjoy arguing with devotees of religions that are different from yours? It's not like cultural feminist ideologies agree with other ideologies about the same basic set of facts about the world, and then come to different conclusions about how society should operate in light of those facts. No, the facts themselves are different. If a christian and an atheist get into a heated argument about how this world came to be, and what other dimensions exist beyond this one, nothing involving ratio…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/23 09:33 PM
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Thanks, I'll look into it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/23 08:32 PM
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In Japan there is a place for male-targeted erotic media that aims to appeal to both the visual aspect and the story/setting aspect. The closest thing I can see to that in western media is some of the "softcore" from the 1980s and 1990s that my older brother secretly recorded off of cable television (one of the various ways teenagers got their hands on pornography before Internet access became commonplace). Personally I find most American "hardcore" pornography to be so stupid that I have to kee…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/23 01:51 AM
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What would be a good example of a "too simpy" harem manga/anime/visual novel? My girlfriend got me into the Rance series, which definitely falls on the "too rapey" side, as in Rance himself is a serial rapist and generally horrible person to whom I can't relate. Then again, I don't want a protagonist who is a generic canvas on whom I can project myself; I want a protagonist who actually has their own, fully developed personality, and Rance certainly delivers that, just not in a good way. My cont…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/23 01:19 AM
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Fair point; I was interpreting the wording as her admitting that she is fully self-aware of what she is doing, and we can certainly expand the scope to situations where it's unintentional, or where the intent is subconscious. Our society seems to be cultivating a dangerous level of subjectivism, where people actually use phrases like "I want you to hear my truth" instead of "I want you to hear my perspective". While it's important to understand the impact that people's subjective notions of trut…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/11/23 11:13 PM
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What you said and what I said are both common knowledge and widely reported, No, what I said about 98% of statistics being misinformation is not common knowledge. It is widely reported...as a sarcastic joke or counterpoint, in the same vein as "Did you know that the word 'gullible' is not in the dictionary?" You are the first person I have seen responding to that 98% claim by just uncritically accepting it as "common knowledge", and this shocks and concerns me. ​ Lots of statistics are inaccurat…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/11/23 10:44 PM
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Men and women will both sometimes intentionally start arguments for various reasons. If the purpose appears to be some kind of "test" then, depending on the situation, I may try to fail on purpose. When it comes to romantic relationships, however, I honestly haven't encountered very much of these intentional "testing" arguments. My first girlfriend was the worst about it, and even she didn't do it that often. The worst examples I have ever seen of this have come from employers/managers, who happ…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/11/23 02:25 AM
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With respect to the farm statistic, I'm so used to laziness and dishonesty in all forms of reporting (not just academic) that nothing shocks me anymore, so I was not at all shocked to see that the study's citation for that farm statistic is a 1953 book by Kinsey for which they didn't bother giving a page number. I'm not going to dignify such shoddy scholarship with the time it would take to find that book and then go hunting for the statistic. Just speculating on how they might have acquired thi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/11/23 10:58 PM
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They aren't obvious, those are the statistics, 90%. Everything I've seen says it's over 50%. The vast majority says over 80%, being around the high 80s and low 90s. So I don't get why dating 90% goes unreported is weird. What statistics are you using? 98% of all statistics are misinformation. Please notice how I confidently asserted that percentage, with no source, just like all of your percentages. Are you now convinced that your statistics, from wherever they might have come, are 98% likely to…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/11/23 09:46 PM
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I'm not seeing anything in there about 90%. Both links say that 8% of men admit, on a report that is presumably presented as being anonymous, to having engaged in bestiality at some point, and that only 3.6% of women do. Assuming men and women are equally likely to admit to things like this on such surveys, that means men are about 69% of the people who admit to having engaged in bestiality at some point. Perhaps those men also engage in more individual acts of bestiality than the women, pushing…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/11/23 09:27 PM
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Sure, I can recall a documented instance from not too long ago, when Donald Trump called Hillary Clinton a superlative loser. He was also correct about her being a loser (I disagree with his superlative); she participated in a contest (election) and lost, which is the basic definition of a loser. With respect to the general situation of calling a man (and I agree that it seems to almost always be a man) a loser, without specifying the particular contest that he supposedly lost, my simple respons…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/11/23 12:51 AM
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Disclosure, by the late Michael Crichton). Both the novel and the film adaptation that was released the very same year. I don't think such a novel would ever get the green light for a major studio film adaptation today, and it still amazes me that it got the green light in the political climate of the mid-1990s. I'm not aware of any other big budget film, from any era, that even comes close to being this critical of feminist narratives (and it's still fairly mild criticism). EDIT: Given that thi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/11/23 12:20 AM
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That sounds reasonable, and I would also point out that the last time I heard about anyone getting in trouble for animal sexual abuse in the news, was in 2005 concerning a man who was fatally injured by being penetrated by a horse (the man who got in trouble was the one who recorded the act on a videocamera, and he was only charged with trespassing since bestiality wasn't even illegal in Washington at the time). I agree that the discovery of animal abuse usually involves injuries in the other di…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/11/23 11:52 PM
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On what basis is it being claimed that men are the perpetrators for 90% of thse acts? Is there a source for that?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/11/23 11:42 PM
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As far as I can tell, yes. I'm more eccentric in what I find attractive, which perhaps makes me closer to the typical woman in terms of being picky, and for my entire teenage and adult life, I have been somewhat perplexed by the behaviour of most of my male peers at bars, clubs, and parties where they think that almost every woman there is worth the effort to woo. Mind you, if we're talking about seeking out partners for long term relationships, then I find that most men, myself included, become…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/11/23 01:46 AM
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Please correct me if I'm wrong, but you sound like someone in her late teens or early twenties. That's perfectly fine, of course, and I only mention it because I have noticed the fear dynamic increasing among women of all age brackets during the over twenty years that have passed since I first started dating. That is, I remember a time when things were somewhat different. When I first started dating, it was not taboo (although also not particularly common) to meet someone at their home, or mine,…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/11/23 01:21 AM
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This analogy seemed odd at first glance but the more I think about it, the more I like it. The theory behind it doesn't sound at all absurd. I think my main problem with both the analogy and the theory (I somehow forgot that you did cover this in the theory) is that it's not like the male and female libido tendencies are mutually exclusive, or that men exclusively rely on one while women exclusively rely on the other. Therefore, I would say that most men's libidos are like a porn recruiter who i…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/11/23 12:23 AM
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If your expressions of anger include actually hitting people, even if it's nowhere near hard enough to seriously injure them (even with the strength of a typical man), then yes, you would most likely have spent time in jail and have a criminal record right now. If you have never taken it to the level of hitting anyone, then you would almost certainly have at least endured accusations of having made people feel unsafe, told that your behaviour "comes across as threatening", etc. Keep in mind that…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/10/23 01:17 AM
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Looks like he decided to delete his post instead of answering your question. Maybe that's his way of saying that the change he wants to see is for this subreddit to be deleted, in which case I guess he technically did answer.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/10/23 07:04 PM
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So make your own posts, that are the type of which you want to see more, and shift the ratio. Be the change you want to see, and all that. This post, and each individual comment from you, are noticeably short, low-effort, and barbed. I don't see you having pointed to any specific example of a post here with which you have a problem, and then detailing that problem. Instead, all I see is you casting broad, vague aspersions. Now you have found yet another subreddit, which you dislike, to which you…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/10/23 08:07 PM
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Crack down on dating apps intentionally sabotaging consumers, as a violation of their advertised service. Everyone knows they do it, first to encourage a paid subscription and then to keep people coming back. This is the first I have heard of that. Would you mind either elaborating on how you believe they are sabotaging, or linking to something that explains this? EDIT: Unless what you mean by "sabotaging" is simply giving non-paying users less profile exposure than paying users, or giving payin…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/10/23 07:10 PM
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As someone who read a lot of books (both comic books and novels) from an early age, in addition to watching television, and who can remember the last few years before my sexual awakening reasonably well, I can say that ideas like saving the world, slaying dragons, putting out fires, and stopping criminals, held appeal to me even before I was introduced to the idea that being strong/powerful made a difference to my chances with women. In fact, I distinctly remember being annoyed at the damsel's r…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/09/23 01:39 AM
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You forgot a few things: Theft from employers, by employees, happens at least 100 times more often than wage theft. The hardship that an employer experiences, as the victim of theft by an employee, is over 9,000 times worse than wage theft. There are multiple studies, across multiple domains, proving the above points. Don't ask us for the names of these studies; go find them yourself because obviously it's your job to find the evidence for our claims. You're banned from /employeeslib for "sealio…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/09/23 08:13 AM
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Spotlight fallacy is the term I have heard used for this, for at least twenty years. I don't think it should be necessary to be able to invoke a specific, named, informal fallacy, in order to dismiss this kind of argument. "Fallacies of adequacy" is the general category for this type, and you can always just say something to the effect of "the amount of attention given to a problem is not, by itself, a reliable indicator of the magnitude or severity of that problem". To be even more general abou…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/09/23 10:05 AM
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I thought many women didn't want men approaching them, and were complaining about the fact that men approach them? We're talking about men approaching women on the street, in shopping malls, grocery stores, etc. right? Are the women who actually like it when men approach them in public, now complaining that this doesn't happen as much? If so, maybe they should have done a better job of voicing their contrary opinions back when other women were ranting about how they just want to be able to walk …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/08/23 07:39 AM
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Maybe the women saying this, believe it because they are naturally inclined to focus more on the men in whom they are romantically interested, than men in general, just as hetrosexual men are inclined to do to women. Specific examples would be nice. I just imagine a park full of people attending an outdoor concert, and a few people looking from a distance through telescopes. Each of their telescopes is pointed at a specifc section of the park, where they can see about ten people, and they each a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 12:11 AM
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On what is this even based? Some small number of women (who may or may not be verified to actually be women) who were observed saying something to this effect on social media? Everyone has their own preferences and pet peeves. If something, over which you have little or no control, gives some woman "the ick", then accept that and move on to the next one. Behaving in the manner that is generally understood to be attractive in men, to be best of your ability, is obviously a good idea as long as yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:28 PM
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In my experience, there is more leeway for talking about how unfair things are for other people than for oneself. I don't recall having ever seen anyone be accused of "whining" when the set of people, about whose issues they were speaking, clearly did not include the speaker. That includes any man who was clearly not affected, and not claiming to be affected, by the particular men's issue about which he was speaking. I still agree with you that there is a rather serious and unique problem for me…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:09 PM
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My experience, which includes the things women have told me, is that women are attracted to men who are able to be a "pillar of strength" most of the time. This is also what I, and most men I know, find attractive in women. There are many ways to be a "pillar of strength" that have nothing do with being muscular, violent, or any of those other traits that get put under the "toxic masculinity" label. I have seldom had a girlfriend's opinion towards me change for the worse as a result of me crying…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 08:25 PM
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Let's see whether or not the blackout gets them to back down. If they don't, I'm willing to do the commitment matching with the possible exception of my crunch times. I currently work freelance, so those are very unpredictable, and I would make up for them by handling everything myself for an equal number of days to make up for it. I have zero moderating experience on Reddit, but I have some experience with moderating phpBB forums, and used to professionally moderate a technical support portal. …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/06/23 07:30 AM
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I'll answer your question in the legal sense first, i.e. when people should legally be allowed to treat you differently, regardless of whether or not I think it's decent or moral for them to do that. In any situation concerning their private lives. This is consistent with the general legal principle that people can be more discriminatory in their private lives than their public ones. For example, an employer who exclusively employs people of their own race can get into various kinds of legal tro…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/06/23 08:10 PM
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Trans people don't owe you anything any more than cis people do. I agree with that in most contexts, and the "trap trope" exists because of a lot of complicated feelings about many complicated topics, one of which is who owes what to whom. There are any number of other reasons that a person of any gender might be infertile, and I don't see people lining up to demand that a woman who may have had a hysterectomy for medical reasons must disclose it up front. I'm infertile myself, on account of hav…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/06/23 06:24 AM
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I see; I guess I assumed that you wouldn't still be married to the same person, because that's how this usually plays out in media, and in the very small number of real life cases with which I am familiar. I guess that just serves as another illustration of how messaging influences our assumptions. Obviously the "trap trope" is centred on the heterosexal cis male experience and, although there is an opportunity for the film to explore things from the other person's perspective, it is seldom used…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/06/23 05:12 AM
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Some people have broader definitions of "socialized" than others. For example, does the mere availability of video games socialise us to prefer playing video games over doing productive work, or is the definition more narrow than that? Most cis women learn early on that cis men have far more collective interest in having sex with cis women, than the reverse. Short of being physically kept away from interacting with men (think Afghanistan and Saudi Arabia), it's basically impossible for them to n…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/06/23 12:53 AM
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What I know is that lots of trans women see themselves as ugly and undesirable due to decades of brainwashing from cis-het society and transphobic media. Despite how many times I have been accused of being "anti-trans" or "trans-sceptical" for taking a rationalist, individualist (but non-exclusionary) view of the matter, I actually do feel a lot of empathy for what male-attracted trans women endure when dating, partly because I have one high-passing acquaintance who deals with it. If you don't m…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/06/23 12:31 AM
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It sounds like you are now enjoying something that I have always taken for granted, which is having a preference for that which is less desired by others, a.k.a. "less competition" or "the power of having the least interest". In my case, that's an attraction to very large women, while living in a country where most men prefer slender builds. To say that this is like dating on easy mode, is an understatement. I'm glad to hear that you are happy, and at the same time we don't really have the abili…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/06/23 08:27 PM
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Social attitudes are always changing; look at how things changed for African-Americans in the deep south during the second half of the 20th Century, and for gay people in the last 50 years. What's currently going on, can't continue forever, especially as the ill effects become harder and harder to ignore, including by women who are indirectly affected, e.g. by seeing their sons commit suicide after being falsely accused of sexual assault.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/06/23 08:14 PM
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Is it possible to get an approximation of what the time commitments are? Would two sessions a day, at 30 minutes each, be sufficient? I would hate to see this place get shut down, and would like to help to prevent that, however my schedule can change dramatically from one week to the next.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/06/23 04:17 PM
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I totally agree, regardless of whether or not it was actually Plato who said that.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/06/23 11:55 PM
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I embarrassed myself, over 20 years ago, by assuming that quotations are almost always correct. Since then I have made a point of always verifying quotations before using them, or else qualifying the quotation with something like "I have heard, but can't confirm, that Benjamin Franklin once said <famous line>." I consider this to be a good habit.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/06/23 06:29 PM
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Anyone who makes a generalisation about people, or any subgroup of people, that asserts that not a single one of them would lie, is probably a liar themself. In the unlikely case that they honestly believe their generalisation, they are a fool, so either way they should be shunned, along with anyone dishonest, or foolish, enough to spread such a generalisation. Reasonable arguments for why people wouldn't lie, tend to focus on a specific individual, a specific statement from that individual, and…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/06/23 02:53 PM
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If you mean how to do it without making a fake FB account (I don't know what their actual rules are regarding that), I would suggest having a female friend or relative join using her real account and then take screenshots for you. I see that Vice recently ran an article about this, although I don't find it very informative.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/06/23 07:39 AM
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"My masculinity isn't just toxic; it's f***ing radioactive!"
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/05/23 08:21 PM
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I don't know if it was in honour of his upcoming 100th birthday, but earlier this spring, in Paris and Madrid, there were some very slick performances of the John Adams opera "Nixon in China". That production is infamous for many things including being too long, too boring in the second half, having its score used in Sid Meier's Civilization IV, and containing a hilariously unflattering portrayal of Henry Kissinger.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/05/23 08:14 PM
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Thank you for the well-wishing. I'm not particularly worried, as she is also claiming, in her rambling posts, that the police don't help women and a bunch of other anti-police stuff. I'm much more worried about her than myself, and I also have to accept that she is a lost cause at this point. I think her physical health problems, combined with the stress of trying to make it in a world that is already hard enough for the fully able-bodied, brought her to some kind of mental breaking point, and t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/04/23 07:43 AM
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Even with solid proof, it's unlikely that they would have done anything, because they "don't want to discourage victims from coming forward".
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/04/23 06:46 AM
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I'm glad you guys were able to avoid having to deal with a false accusation. Did you audio record the meeting with her, as "insurance" in case she reacted by falsely accusing either or both of you?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/04/23 06:45 AM
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It also creates a chilling effect among men who are aware of what's going on. Back when I was blissfully ignorant of the false accusation problem, I could do one night stands with women I had just met. Since learning, which happened about fifteen years ago, I haven't been able to do that because I know how dangerous it is and how lucky I was not to have slept with any psychos who would falsely accuse me later. I now have to take a fair bit of time to get to know women before doing that, so that …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/04/23 06:41 AM
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That, or if it impacts enough women in their capacities as wives, mothers, sisters, and daughters. However, I don't endorse breaking the law. There must be some practical, legal ways to fight this.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/04/23 04:26 AM
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This is a rather difficult problem to address, since the standards appear to be organic. That is, heterosexual cis women have high standards, not so much because of arbitrary decisions but rather because demand for them outstrips supply. While it's kind of crass to talk about romance using the language of economics, it's also ignorant to pretend that economic forces are not at work here. The end result is that unless a heterosexual man is especially good-looking and charming, he can expect to ha…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/04/23 07:46 PM
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I only just learned that you used to be a moderator on that one, while browsing theads on it from years ago for the purpose of analysing the complaints of the now-banned (at tier 5) user starting with Mi. That place has a fascinating history, to say the least.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/04/23 08:25 AM
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I now have a simple rule for all statistics concerning the social sciences (including economics): I regard all of them as presumptively misleading. This is a rebuttable presumption; I will accept such statistics as valid if I can thoroughly scrutinise the source and the methodology to ensure that there were no shenanigans, or if there is some other compelling evidence to rebut the presumption. Otherwise, the presumption applies and I dismiss them as misleading. I apply this rule even more strong…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/04/23 08:12 AM
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As always, an excellent presentation, and thank you for making me aware of the Male Studies subreddit. It looks like I have some more interesting articles to read now. Are you familiar with the Good Guys Guide campaign? I found it to be incredibly insulting, despite the fact that I already do most of the things they mention, out of a basic sense of human decency and concern for the wellbeing of others. I was also recently reading this article by Professor Jody Armour, which opened my eyes to som…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/04/23 08:03 AM
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I'm late with this comment as I have been very busy so far this year. I just wanted to say that this is a point that I keep trying to make in response to expressions of androphobia made in my presence, and without ever using the words "not all men". I try to get it across, but seldom succeed because I struggle to find a way to present the point, that will be taken seriously by people who are so heavily biased against believing that their fears of men might not be well-justified. The presentation…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/04/23 11:54 PM
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Is your friend's name Goldicocks, by any chance? That reminds me of a relationship that started off under circumstances where we didn't have the opportunity to sleep together. As soon as we finally did, she told me that she loved me. Later on, I asked her what made her want to say it during that moment. Her answer was that she had fallen in love with me weeks before that, but didn't want to say it until she knew whether or not I was a good lay.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 03:55 AM
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Some relationships are one-sided and exploitative, with or without an age gap. As a man who dates younger women, I agree than the younger woman can be the one taking advantage. In my experience, including spending time with other couples with a similar age gap, that's much more common than the older man taking advantage. I still find that most age gap relationships are fair, in the sense that both partners are contributing to the relationship in good faith and not harbouring some ulterior motive…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/03/23 06:53 PM
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My experience with those words might be atypical, because I have only heard that from men who are looking to assert dominance and start a fight. No woman has ever said those words to me.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/03/23 12:56 PM
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An International Timeline of False Rape Allegations is the most comprehensive list of which I am aware. It's just a straight, chronological list with no search function other than CTRL+F, and the commentary is somewhat salty and unprofessional, but every entry has a quality source.
/r/MensRights15/03/23 11:45 PM
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It leaves us at exactly that: we are looking at people who are making a point that doesn't seem to hold up to reason, and which seems to be motivated by some degree of bias against men. You pointed out that, even if they are not denying any empirical fact from the OP, there could be other empirical facts, not mentioned in the OP, with which to challenge their position. If it can be demonstrated that more women fled from Ukraine than signed up to fight and put their lives on the line for their co…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/03/23 08:01 AM
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Technically it isn't a denial of empirical reality in terms of data but it is in terms of the human experience. It doesn't really make sense for a human to say that being a refugee is worse than having to fight a war. If that were the case most women wouldn't be fleeing. ... It doesn't make sense to decide that though. Empirical data suggests that most people prefer fleeing over having to fight in a war. If it was really true that this was worse then people wouldn't do this. This decision is com…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/03/23 12:03 AM
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I would say that such a person has an unreasonable and downright ridiculous way of evaluating the severity of medical conditions. In fact, I would assume that such a person is not even being truthful about their own evaluation, and I would look for a way to expose that. For example, maybe I would discover that they refuse to smoke and lecture others about the dangers of smoking, but frequently eat some kind of food despite knowing that it causes them to have an acne breakout. Supposing they hone…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/23 10:02 PM
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As of this time, the most up-voted comment says: I mean, she's not technically wrong. Civilians in war zones are more "affected" pretty unilaterally, by war, by nature of the fact that they aren't prepared for it and often have no choice regarding their participation. So basically, creating an operational definition of "affected" and, by implication, "primary victim", that makes Clinton's statement correct, even in light of the empirical fact that more men die (those men are often drafted agains…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/23 05:22 PM
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Did you ever watch the TV miniseries "The Night Of", about what it's like to be wrongfully suspected of having committed a violent crime? It goes into all the gory details, yet most people I know, who watched it, insist that it's extremely rare for anyone to be arrested, let alone convicted, for a crime that they didn't actually commit, and therefore this horrific experience almost never happens to anyone who doesn't deserve it. They acknowledge the "how bad" component of that reality, but deny …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/23 03:29 PM
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One could perhaps flip this by asking what women do to prevent themselves from going to prison. The thing is, it's a major epistemological flaw to measure the risk/prevalence of a bad thing in terms of what people do to prevent it. In the US there is now widespread paranoia over voting fraud and many new preventative measures being put in place. Does that reaction constitute proof of widespread voting fraud? Or do people sometimes take preventative measures that are excessive or unnecessary? Tha…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/23 02:08 PM
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You could ask Arthur Knight Nicholas Rossi what he thinks about hurting women, and he would tell you one thing while thinking/doing something very different. I would need to know a lot more about how this was studied and what, if anything, was done to control for subjects failing to be candid in their answers, in order to take anything away from it. It may very well be the case that a law-abiding man, walking down the street, minding his own business, is more likely to be attacked than a law-abi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/03/23 10:17 PM
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I'm talking about people constantly spreading the myth that we live in a patriarchy where women are oppressed and where men are privileged. From their point of view, it might not seem like a myth. Their experience with reality, and their methods for making inferences from their experiences, might be so different from yours, that what seems to be obviously false to you, seems to be obviously true to them. I'm talking about people saying women are more at risk of being attacked on the streets. So …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/03/23 09:24 PM
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I have been thinking about morality, ethics, epistemology, science and knowledge since I was about 10 and read multiple books about it. As I suspected, we are cut from similar cloth, although I was only reading about morality and science when I was ten. "Epistemology" didn't enter my vocabulary until my late teens. Would I be correct in assuming that you also come from a family of educated professionals, and had regular exposure to their discussions during your childhood? ​ I find it weird that …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/03/23 08:32 PM
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When you say that denial is more organised, do you mean to such an extent that the people doing it know perfectly well what they are doing? In your BS examples, you describe someone saying, on the fly, something that contradicts something else about them. Presumably they are not consciously thinking about both of these things at the same time, hence they are not engaging in any deliberate deception. It's one thing to not care, and quite another to care about suppressing information that one beli…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/03/23 08:11 PM
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That works quite well with people who are actually willing to explain their viewpoint. Many people get angry if they are asked to explain their own viewpoint, sometimes because such a request takes them in the uncomfortable direction of realising that they don't actually have any rational explanation to offer. For example, an angry "I just know! Stop gaslighting me!" in response to an honest question about what factors support her belief that the one complaint she filed, about inappropriate lang…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/03/23 07:59 PM
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If dogs could vote, or otherwise influence laws, policies, and/or culture, then I might find it necessary to try to figure out how to argue with dogs. Maybe something like "wow, such premise, very argument, much conclusion" might work?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/03/23 12:25 PM
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This is a very interesting subreddit and YouTube channel that you have introduced; thank you.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/03/23 12:20 PM
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I read your longer post from last week where you made some very astute observations about how people are manipulated. I’m temporarily de-lurking because you seem to be at a critical point in your own intellectual development, and I think you could use some advice from someone who went through similar feelings many years ago. To begin, please take a few minutes to look at this picture, or to review it if you have already seen it before. It seems to me that you are like one of the goats that is ne…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/03/23 12:02 PM
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Fiction is full of male protagonists, who are generally depicted positively, although the anti-hero archetype has been growing in popularity since the 90s. I have racked my memory to find examples of particularly positive portrayals of men in fiction that involves a more realistic, everyday type of story. The 2000 film "The Family Man" is a fantasy drama, however the actual events that take place in the two parallel universes are ones of an everyday sort. In both universes, Jack Campbell, played…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/12/22 05:07 AM
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I have a hard time believing that most of us are not hard-wired to feel something reasonably close to the modern understanding of romantic love. Even in the hookup culture, people talk about unintentionally "catching feelings". It's also hard to imagine an upbringing without being surrounded by idealisations of romance, and perhaps these feelings would manifest in different ways without those examples influencing us. I'm sure we have all had moments in our lives where we finally experienced or a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/12/22 05:50 AM
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Just as an example of what I mean, here's a blog by the mother of a young man who, while far from blameless, was unreasonably targeted by the sting operations that are jointly pushed by carceral feminists and "tough on crime" conservatives, and then put through the system. Just imagine how seriously people would take the very same arguments made in that blog if it was her son, or any man, making those arguments instead of her. Just to be clear, I am 100% against the crime these sting operations …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/12/22 11:25 PM
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As always, you are a master of the art of presentation. Many of us know how to put together a sound argument, that would convince a reasonable, fair-minded individual, who is fully literate and has a good attention span. Yet, those personal qualities are not requirements for holding an opinion or for voting, nor are they particularly common these days. It takes a special skill to distill an argument down to just its most essential points, and then present them in a way that quickly, and powerful…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/12/22 09:38 PM
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It seems to me that politicians and commentators on both the left and the right are increasingly adopting a post-truth mindset. I find myself feeling increasingly alienated by the left, yet I see nothing appealing when I look over to the right. I would much rather be politically homeless, than abandon rationalism and scepticism.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/12/22 08:15 PM
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It depends on the lie and a whole bunch of other things about the context. It's very hard to give useful advice with so little information about the situation. If someone has specifically told you that they believe her over you, asking them to rationalize their basis for doing so has some chance of working. This article is some very heavy reading, but I found it to be a goldmine of techniques for challenging people's decisions to believe one claim over another. However, if someone gets angry and…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/12/22 08:09 PM
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Not "berserk". That implies some kind of sudden loss of self-control, going into a frenzied rage. That's not what happens in these unfortunate events. These are almost always planned in cold blood. Men and women both commit suicide. Women do it less often (not counting half-hearted attempts, only the real deal) and seem to be more likely to think of others while doing it, i.e. choosing a method that is more considerate of whoever is going to have to clean up the mess. For whatever reason, the de…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/22 08:19 PM
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On top of that, the idea that men shouldn't have a separate advocacy movement, because feminism has the best interests of everyone in mind, is a lot like the abuser who says "Shut up and stay out of the way, because I know what's best for both of us."
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/22 03:32 AM
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I fully agree that this is how these issues should be viewed. For many reasons that I don't think we fully understand, that's just not how most people are willing to view them.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/22 03:23 AM
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My brain hurts from even trying to read that. I have read support tickets and churn analyses that conveyed more passion for their subject matter. Here's a better analysis of the same topic from 2010 that keeps identity politics out of it. It's still rather dry and leaves a lot to be desired, but it's poetry compared to that thesis paper. Part1 Part 2 The thing is, I don't think the idea is entirely wrong. I do believe that there is something in the male psyche, and especially the young male psyc…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/22 02:55 AM
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In meatspace, I generally keep my mouth shut when women go on about these things, unless they take to the level of collectively bashing men, at which point I might say something like "I'm not feeling welcome here, so I'm leaving" and then leave. Getting argumentative does doesn't seem to work, so I don't bother anymore. I feel angry every time I say this, and I still think it's true: the best way to get attention for men's issues, is to make them women's issues as well. Instead of just presentin…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/22 02:22 AM
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I would say Robin Williams, except it appears that he had a physical brain disease causing dementia and so it wasn't due entirely, if at all, to despair from an external source. Still, his death shocked me, as I grew up on his movies and admired him not only for his talent, but also for his general good nature.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/12/22 07:40 AM
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What the lyrics describe isn't that uncommon. I have experienced something very similar myself on more than one occasion, with the most recent one not being very long ago. There are plenty of women out there who want something like that, and I don't find them to be difficult to find. One just asked me yesterday, yet again, if I would consider being in a relationship with her, and I once again politely declined, because I'm not prepared to lower my standards that far (she's nice enough, just too …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/12/22 02:32 AM
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I'm now at the point where I regard all studies relating to the social sciences as being presumptively misleading. That is, I will assume them to be misleading and disregard them, unless I am able to directly and thoroughly scrutinize them, to the point that I am satisfied that there are no signs of skullduggery.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/12/22 07:07 PM
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I come from a good family with good values, that associates with others with similar values. So, there's always this bubble of support and sanity where I can take refuge. Everyone needs some kind of bubble like that, in order to make it in this world, and hopefully everyone can find that bubble in the offline world. I have also always made a point of trying to avoid work environments where casual male-bashing is tolerated, because even though I am fully capable of holding my tongue and pretendin…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/12/22 07:03 PM
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This has happened more than once. See Hermesmann v. Seyer and Nick Olivas. If you want to argue that it's rare, or that it's reasonable for the courts to say that a 12 year-old is too young to give consent under criminal law but old enough under civil law, fine, but nobody has lied to you about this. Your claim that "men have all the power in the world to just leave" is reasonably understood, in the context you said it, to mean that any and all men can get a woman pregnant and then leave to skip…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 06:57 PM
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Ever since watching the 1991 film Switch), I have occasionally done a thought experiment where I imagine waking up with a female body, knowing that this will be my body for the rest of my life, and considering what impact this will have on me. Assuming everything about my personality is still the same, and that my sexual preference is still towards women, the most obvious things I would miss about being a man would be related to the area of romance with women, so my capacity to do that is what I…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/11/22 07:24 PM
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While it's common, and probably the norm, for men to prefer younger women, it's far from universal. Some men prefer women their own age, and some men prefer older women. The men who do prefer younger women, won't all be successful in their efforts to find one who likes them. Some of them will have to adjust their standards. I'm over 40 and still dating women in their 20s, because I can, and I know that I won't be able to do that forever. So, there is no need to worry, just date the men who want …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 01:10 AM
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This sounds accurate, and to a large extent it's just the sad reality of human nature. You can see something similar in labour relations. When workers have the right to strike, they often use it over things that may sound rather minor, especially from an outsider's point of view. Think of that Simpsons episode where they went on strike over a dental plan. Yet, by having this ability to put pressure on an employer to care more about the wellbeing of workers than they otherwise would, they can pre…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/11/22 07:55 PM
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I think you misread something. I have lived through extreme fear of false accusations, because of my incarcerophobia, which itself probably comes from the harsh disciplinary regime under which I grew up, but I have not actually been falsely accused. I have played out just about every aspect of that nightmare in my head, from the police interrogation room to the courtroom to the prison cell, but I have never actually lived any of it. There are few people for whom romantic partners are found easil…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/11/22 08:59 AM
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The world record for a single day is 919.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:46 AM
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Well, we probably run in different circles. The women I know who talk about feminism a lot, tend to have boyfriends and husbands who seem rather odd to me, and who are not very conventionally attractive. I'm not really one to talk there, as I have a preference for very large women, and that is not a conventionally attractive trait either, so I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it's possible that some, or most, of them actually have chosen their partners primiarily for their looks. S…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/11/22 11:46 PM
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Prisons and death rows are full of people who thought similar things. The Dunning-Kruger effect is an investigator's best friend.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/11/22 09:33 AM
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I can totally imagine myself smuggling a gun and killing the offending party in cases of murder or sexual assault Do you also imagine the prison cell (or death row cell depending on your country) that awaits you afterwards?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/11/22 05:51 AM
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Why do you think I know so much about sexual assault law, and criminal law in general? Part of it is because of my upbringing, and part is because I used to work for a company that sold software for managing law firms, and I have sort of been on the periphery of the legal field for most of my career. The rest was research so that I could properly understand the law and how to avoid breaking it, as well as how to maximize my chance of a successful defence if I am ever wrongfully accused of breaki…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/11/22 02:32 AM
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I was taught from childhood that living well is the best revenge. I had enough exposure to the notion of revenge through books, movies, and videogames to appreciate how it feels momentarily good to hurt those who have hurt you, and I still have the longer view that hurting others doesn't cancel out the hurt that they have done. It is fundamentally irrational to just randomly hurt someone else for no reason. If that other person hurt you first, that does not, by itself, constitute a justification…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/11/22 08:21 PM
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Sadly, people like to see that more than they like the idea of doing anything to actually make it less likely that others will do wrong (general prevention) or to make the specific individuals who did wrong less likely to do it again.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/11/22 05:52 PM
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Having had an irrational fear of incarceration since childhood, the exposure to knowing that false sexual assault allegations happen, and to the narrative that they happen with significant frequency, has traumatized me much more than I think it traumatizes most men who learn about it. I was in a happy relationship at the time, and never worried that she would do such a thing, and stayed in that relationship even after it went sour because I knew I could trust her and I was scared to try dating a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/11/22 04:36 PM
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It seems to me that when men and women try to make sense of each other for the purpose of being successful in dating, there are three different assumptions they tend to make, with disastrous results: Assuming that the other sex is just like theirs, in terms of what they want in a partner and how they want to be treated. Assuming that the other sex is some alien species compared to theirs, in terms of what they want in a partner and how they want to be treated. Assuming that the other sex is some…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/11/22 03:21 PM
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I'm an above-average-looking guy in my 40s, and I have primarily dated women in their mid-20s ever since being that age myself. It has become progressively more difficult, and forced me to "try harder" in various ways, but I have yet to reach the point where I need to lower my standards. I know that point does exist, and will eventually be reached if I don't die in a freak accident first. You can't charm a woman into liking you if the fundamentals of attraction aren't there; I learned pretty qui…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/11/22 02:08 AM
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Exactly. Virtually nobody ever engages in "victim blaming" by a reasonable definition like that. No feminist ever answers my request for them to specify their own definition of this term. As you point out, this isn't just used to go after people who mention how a victim could have prevented what happened to them; it's also used to try to shut down efforts to educate people on how to minimize their chances of becoming victims in the future. It's almost like they want more victims.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/22 09:18 PM
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That was kind of my point about Beauchamp's argument, although I think it's more of a strawman than a whataboutism. He wrote, in that Vox article: In order to show that the ideas underlying identity studies are corrupt relative to the ideas that dominate in the more traditional sciences, you have to show that those ideas make their journals more manipulable than those of other fields are. And that doesn’t appear to be the case. Except, the examples he gave of "more traditional sciences" were eco…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/22 08:40 PM
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The earlier in your life that you learn about the extent of corruption and incompetence in this world, the better. It will probably save you from making a few major mistakes later on, like trusting the wrong people, or trusting the right people for the wrong things.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/22 08:03 PM
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I don't know if any statistics actually measure that. People get assaulted in other contexts besides walking down the street at night, minding their own business, when they are suddenly attacked. Sometimes people attend sporting events, get rowdy, and it leads to assaults. Sometimes someone makes an insulting remark to someone else, and gets a punch to the jaw in return (a woman might be able to get away with saying much worse things than a man can before it escalates to that). All of the statis…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/22 06:24 PM
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I disagree. What would make it meaningfully different is that there is plenty of evidence that being involved in gangs and organized crime makes one more likely to be murdered, while there doesn't appear to be any evidence, at least in the western world, that wearing revealing clothing makes one more likely to be sexually assaulted (although it might make verbal harassment more likely). I don't think it's reasonable to label all acknowledgements of things victims do, that contribute to them beco…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/22 06:06 PM
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Crime statistics, if collected correctly, reflect part of objective reality: the objective reality of what is happening in the criminal justice system. "Last year, law enforcement received 50 reports of muggings per 100,000 people" is only failing to reflect objective reality if the actual number of reports to law enforcement per 100,000 people is some number other than 50. Even if the actual number of muggings was 500 per 100,000 people, because only 10% of them were reported, the statistic rem…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/22 05:54 PM
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You might find this interesting, if you haven't read it already: https://areomagazine.com/2018/10/02/academic-grievance-studies-and-the-corruption-of-scholarship/ Vox made a counterpoint to this that might as well be read for balance, but it basically amounts to them saying "but they never proved that these peer-reviewed journals accepted bogus studies at a higher rate than some other academic disciplines". So basically, Vox is conceding the point that there are serious flaws in academia and, pe…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/22 03:11 PM
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There is a TL;DR at the bottom of this, and I still think it's important to read everything here. The reason I asked is that I am highly critical of the measures that androphobic feminists have taken to produce statistics claiming extremely high rates of male-on-female sexual assault. They use questionable surveying techniques that basically go fishing for as many reported sexual assaults as they can get, often without even using the words "rape" or "sexual assault" in the question. They sometim…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/22 02:52 PM
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I would count that under ignorant or delusional allegations, in that a misidentification is not a deliberate attempt to deceive anyone, and I suppose there is a case to be made for giving that its own category.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/22 01:54 AM
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Canada has already changed its evidence law for sexual assault trials to increase the number of convictions, and other countries could follow suit in the near future. Almost every sexual assault prosecution is against a man. Do you think that getting people to believe that men are frequently sexually assaulted by women is going to do anything to help with that situation? If so, how?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/22 01:47 AM
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Gotta love it when false accusers and false flag operators don't even understand technology well enough to know that what they claim can easily be proven false. It's like this drunk woman trying to accuse arresting police officers of raping her (NSFW for language), failing to notice that they have bodycams. You can see that part at 14:00 in the video, and if you can stomach more of her, she calls one of the police officers an incel at 27:40. This video has become my automatic response to anyone …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/22 01:17 AM
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There are two basic kinds of false allegations: Intentional false allegations, told by someone who knows perfectly well that it isn't true. Ignorant or delusional allegations, told by someone whose lack of knowledge about reality, or disconnect from reality, causes them to honestly think that it is true. For whichever type you are referencing with this post, you are right that it's ironic. It's just ironic in a very different way depending on the type.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/22 12:53 AM
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Suppose you successfully convince everyone, including the most hardcore misandrists, that it's not rare. What beneficial effect do you anticipate this will have on culture and on public policy?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/22 12:43 AM
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As with many things, context matters. There is a time and a place for being somewhat open about things, and outside of those situations it's best to be stoic, in my experience (and I'm kind of old).
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/22 12:30 AM
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It looks like she got rather quiet after the pandemic was declared. I can relate; for some of us it was a sledgehammer blow to the things that kept us motivated. My right-leaning friends, who are my friends in large part because of their reasonableness, have expressed a similar lament about a growing feeling of being politically homeless. I have debates with them about how we should deal with the current reality, and about what is more or less likely to be true in light of the available evidence…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/22 09:37 PM
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This article is excellent, thanks for linking it. I see that this is the same Helen Pluckrose who embarassed the grievance studies industry by submitting bogus articles and seeing whether or not they would pass peer review. She became a hero of mine for that, and now I have yet another reason to admire her.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/22 08:55 PM
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The closest example I could find to anything like that was this post attacking Richard Stallman, and that was mainly about tactless things he had said and could be proven to have said, rather than going after him for "proposals". Plus there is no proof that any of the voices in that article, other than the author's, are actually someone other than the author. That is, the author has not proven that these other people exist, so for all I know she could have just fabricated the quotes herself. EDI…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/22 05:31 PM
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I doubt any such study exists, although I would be interested in reading if one does exist. In my experience, the more a woman talks about feminism, the more messed up her dating life is, but she is at least as likely as any other woman to value personality over looks, if not more. Where did you see this article about straight men needing to be more "emotionally available"?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/22 04:45 PM
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Some rules are literally made to be broken. As in, the rule makers want certain people to break the rule so that there is an excuse to remove them, and so they intentionally write the rule with vague language that is open to broad interpretation.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/22 03:06 PM
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One thing that drives me absolutely crazy is being told something like "it's not my job to educate you" when someone tries to get involved in an issue. I think it depends on the context. If it's one of "it's not my job to educate you; please read this article on your own" then obviously one can just read the article. Equally obvious is that they could have been more polite about it by just saying "please read this article" without the other words. Can you provide a concrete example of the kind o…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/22 02:56 PM
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Aren't the "me too" accusations mainly about things that almost all of us would agree are bad (if what is being accused actually did happen)? I'm not familiar, for example, with any "me too" posts about a man who had the audacity to ask women out on dates in reasonably appropriate situations.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/22 02:39 PM
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I would assume his answer to this is going to be something along the lines of making good male role models available elsewhere, for example in schools. Except, what man in his right mind would ever teach in elementary school under today's legal climate?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/22 02:35 PM
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In my experience, most women want men to show their emotions in some ways, and not in others. In particular, they generally do not find it attractive when men show themselves to be weak, especially if it's in a manner that comes across as "whining". I have become more successful in love by learning this the hard way, and being less of an open book. Ironically, I have found that copying more aspects of my professional conduct into my romantic conduct has helped. If something is seriously botherin…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/22 02:31 PM
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I just read their rules. Debate is "allowed" but then they have so many rules restricting what points can be made that, even if the moderators were completely textualist in their interpretation of the rules, it would take laser-guided precision to meaningfully challenge a feminist position without breaking them. If the moderators apply any kind of broad constructionism when interpreting the rules, it's probably going to be impossible. I do like a challenge and am somewhat tempted to try, using a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/22 01:44 PM
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I take no side in the case itself because I have no interest in reading the approximately 1,000 pages of transcript and judgement for the UK trial, or spending a few weeks' worth of waking hours watching the US trial. I have looked at some bits of evidence, which have in turn convinced me that both of these people behaved badly, and I don't care which of them was worse to the other, at least not enough to spend a good chunk of my life going over the entire trial in an effort to find out. I do ca…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/22 01:56 AM
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Do the audio tapes, expert testimonies, eye witness accounts, medical records and mountains of photographic evidence not translate into the language of radical feminist outrage? Your question contains the assumption that they actually looked at any of that, which would be reasonable if we were to assume that they care about objective truth. I suspect that they actually don't care about that.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/22 12:45 AM
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I highly recommend that episode. What Canada has done with that new evidence rule they discuss is incredibly dangerous, and the rest of the world needs to be on guard against their own country following Canada's terrible example. To quote the honourable Justice Russell Brown, who was part of the third of Canada's supreme court that dissented against the majority opinion that this evidence rule is constitutional: "Parliament has legislated a formula for wrongful convictions. Indeed, it has all bu…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/22 10:58 PM
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A lot of what people call "red flags" are really more like "yellow flags". That is, they work in such a way that, while they could be an indicator of an undesirable personality trait, there is also a benign explanation for it, and it takes more investigation to know which of those is actually the case. They warrant caution, but not dismissal. I have acknowledged, and still proceeded, on yellow flags and the worst that ever happened was that I got slightly hurt and learned something from it. True…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/22 10:50 PM
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What, exactly, was done to silence them?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/22 10:01 PM
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Same here. My first thought was "Wait, there is a commerically available contraceptive pill for men? Since when?" Then, as I was reading it, and seeing that they were talking about the contraceptive pill for women, I was wondering if they were talking about the sex partners of these women being exposed to something in their vaginal secretions, during unprotected sex, that increases the risk of prostate cancer. Finally, at the end, they explained their theorised chain of causation from user, to u…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/22 09:55 PM
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These are good points. With respect to 1), having been raised in an upper-middle class family that includes a few lawyers, my upbringing encouraged staying out of trouble with the law over punching anyone back. Instead, I was told to find witnesses, report the matter to my parents, and ignore anyone who said I was a "tattletale". If I ever resorted to violence to deal with any kind of interpersonal conflict, I was punished severely. At the same time, there were almost no restrictions on watching…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/22 08:56 PM
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Or they just avoid/delay moving in with their partners, preferring to maintain the "your place tonight, or mine?" dynamic. Which, in turn, puts more stress on the limited supply of housing, yet is seen as worthwhile for the greatly reduced risk of problems like this, and the ability to always be able to walk away from a bad relationship.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/22 08:17 PM
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Where are the true Scotsmen when you need them?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/22 08:13 PM
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Excellent response to that letter!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/22 08:11 PM
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Now that the ruling class of society and many people have learned just how effectively they can divide people over social issues, there is effectively a "manufactured" left of a larger scale than ever before, which exists solely to push social issues to the fore-front of every conversation regardless of relevance, and ensure that material issues are never addressed and those in power never have to give up anything of value to society at large. So basically, divide and conquer tactics got more so…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/22 08:10 PM
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I don't think capitalism ever gets labeled as being a transhumanist idea in any way, whereas communism sometimes draws that criticism. I know Marx liked to refer to pre-literate tribal societies as "primitive communism", and it's also true that what is practical at a small scale isn't necessarily practical at a large scale. I used to be a manager in a tech startup and witnessed first hand what happens when someone comes up with a very effective system, and then assumes that it will continue to b…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/22 07:46 PM
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How do the "scientism" types deal with situations where there is nothing close to a consensus among scientists, e.g. the appropriate amount of meat to include in one's diet?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/22 07:16 PM
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I like your breakdown of "the left" into these two categories. Does it seem to you that this divide has always existed to about the same extent that it exists today, or do you think that something has changed over the course of the last few decades?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/22 04:32 PM
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In my experience, we can neatly divide preventable car accidents into two categories: accidents caused by incompetence or negligence, and accidents caused by recklessness (including aggressive driving). When we think about the stereotypes that would typically exist in the mind of someone who thinks that it's reasonable to charge men more than women for auto insurance, when all other aspects are equal, we are mainly thinking about stereotypes involving recklessness. We are thinking about people w…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/22 04:14 PM
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I'm not willing to read though the approximately 1,000 pages of transcripts and judgement for the Johnny Depp UK defamation case, or watch the many hours of video for the US case. As such, any opinion I form on the case itself will not be fully informed, and I decline to do so. I will say that I highly doubt that very many, if any at all, of the authors of that open letter and those who signed onto it, have put in the time that I refuse to put in, to become fully informed on the case. If they ha…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/22 03:31 PM
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I'm not sure if you're familiar with /r/indianpeoplefacebook but that was full of all kinds of negative generalisations of Indian men based off of how some had behaved online. It was eventually taken down, apparently voluntarily, with the message saying, Subreddit has done more to promote a twisted image of Indians on internet than anything; even if a part of Indians on FB is true, generalisation of the 1b+ population is not cool I think it's a step in the right direction. Maybe someday, the sam…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/11/22 07:06 PM
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Oh I didn't mean to imply that her reaction to the smell had anything to do with racism, sorry if it came across that way.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/11/22 06:11 AM
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Oddly enough, I was visiting an acquaintance whose building lacks proper ventilation, and the smells from her Indian neighbour's kitchen were getting into her apartment. I thought it smelled great and found myself getting hungry, while she complained that it was burning her nose and throat.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/11/22 04:50 AM
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I think the reality is somewhere in between "having" and "choosing". The phrase I would use is "driven to fear". A significant part of our perception of reality comes from the narratives in which we believe, and a fear that is not rationally justifiable, is still very real to the person who has it. For someone who has been fed the narrative of men being depraved and dangerous, and has come to believe it, this is their reality and their fears are as real to them as your fears are to you. A lot of…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/11/22 04:43 AM
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The World Health Organization has been claiming for over a decade that circumcision reduces the chances of getting HIV by about half, and citing several studies to back it up. It's interesting that there is now evidence that circumcision increases the chances of getting a different STI, one that is much less severe but also much more prevalent. I also want circumcision to be illegal except for fully informed adults, and I don't think the HPV prevention argument is going to be a winner as long as…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/11/22 08:30 PM
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I have proudly worn the label of "Sceptic" for decades. Trying to avoid believing claims that are wrong, is generally not wrong.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/11/22 04:15 AM
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Thanks for the link. Now that I have the right keywords ("lawyer" and "shears" instead of "manager" and "shredder"), I have located the article where it says she lied. It should be noted that The Daily Mail is a tabloid and that nothing they say should be taken seriously without corroboration by some other media source (that's a good standard to apply to all media sources anyway). I suppose it's to their credit that when they engage in sloppy journalism, they include the hyperlinks to the very s…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/11/22 10:30 PM
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Would you mind finding and providing the link for that? I tried several Google searches with different keywords, to try to locate that story, and found nothing like it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/11/22 01:09 PM
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I looked for that statistic. What I found was the 2016/2017 CDC NISVS report, which seems refreshingly complete in terms of who they surveyed, what they surveyed for, and disclosure of methodology (provided in this separate methodology report). It gets a figure of 1.3% of men reporting having been made to penetrate in the previous 12 months (including attempts that were not completed), vs. 2.3% of women reporting having been raped. For the lifetime figures, it's 10.7% of men reporting having bee…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/11/22 06:43 AM
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I think part of it is also just the contrast between some people's claims of what the world is like, vs. what one is actually able to observe. Most women I know don't claim, in my presence, that they are being constantly harassed, threatened, assaulted, etc. That narrative, in my experience, comes from certain subcultures that, until recently, I only encountered online. Even though I now run into some of these people in meatspace, it's not many and they are very clearly part of one of these subc…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/11/22 03:35 AM
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