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Field ReportThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/askMRP29/10/15 01:21 PM
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ThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 11:34 AM
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ThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 04:05 PM
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ThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 02:24 AM
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ThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/askMRP23/11/15 05:38 PM
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Basic QuestionThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/askMRP22/10/15 02:12 PM
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ThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 01:53 PM
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ThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/15 05:30 PM
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ThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 03:49 PM
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Victim PukeThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/askMRP28/08/15 10:36 PM
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Basic QuestionThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/askMRP12/08/15 05:45 PM
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ThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 04:17 AM
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911ThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/askMRP20/08/15 08:14 PM
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Field ReportThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/askMRP18/08/15 06:41 PM
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Field ReportThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/askMRP17/08/15 02:33 PM
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ThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 02:18 PM
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Field ReportThatOtherMarriedGuy/r/askMRP01/10/15 01:19 PM
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Thanks for your reply. My townhouse lease is up in 18 months and that's when I want to move. A 20% down payment would get me into the house, but on a $150K salary, I can't afford a $700k mortgage. I didn't say I couldn't afford to buy a house; I can't afford to buy a $800-900K house unless I sock away at least $400-500k.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 05:55 PM
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Shit I Need To Own: Finances - I'm pissed at myself for paying no attention to money for most of my life. Now I'm trying to get my shit together, and it's daunting. Housing is the biggest issue. We're currently renting a townhouse and we're sick of it and want to buy a house. But if we want to stay in our school district, the houses are all $800K and up and I'm only going to make about $150K next year. So I need a second stream of income that's going to make me at least $500K after taxes over th…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 05:40 PM
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Just remember there's not much difference between holistic and assholistic.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 08:23 PM
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I'm only lifting 4x a week because I'm cutting. Will up to 5-6x a week once I get to 8% bodyfat.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 03:02 PM
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I don't have tendonitis but I suspect I would if I lifted 3x a day
/r/askMRP23/11/15 09:12 PM
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Don't really have any advice; just wanted to echo those saying WTF? This is not "normal."
/r/askMRP23/11/15 09:11 PM
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I don't think you're seeking her validation as much as you're in the habit of taking her too seriously, and you're not aware enough to catch yourself before its too late and you've engaged in her pettiness. I think that's true. I need to start responding along the lines you mentioned, or just "lol" if I can't think of anything. Or maybe "lol honey don't be a retard"
/r/askMRP23/11/15 08:39 PM
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Tendonitis?
/r/askMRP23/11/15 08:01 PM
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Then let go of that shit however you need before you get home. That's the hard part for me.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 07:58 PM
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She's a terrible First Officer and her ideas almost always suck. I don't really have any interest in hearing her explanations for retarded suggestions like this one. I just need to remember amused mastery.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 07:57 PM
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During the text exchange, you were likely pissed off because of the irrationality of it. No question. Her suggestion of location C was retarded and I really wanted to tell her she was a retard. Maybe next time I'll just pretend she is literally retarded and respond that way. "Oh, honey. You're sweet to try to help. Everything's all taken care of. Here, have some fruit snacks."
/r/askMRP23/11/15 07:54 PM
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She wanted drama, and you gave it to her. Dammit. Still a long way to go.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 07:51 PM
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With all this anger, I wish I could lift three times a day.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 07:50 PM
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Here is what I think causes this behavior. Your wife doesn't really give a shit where the event is held. As long as you're not climbing a mountain to get from point A to B or whatever, who cares. She is more worried about what will happen if people at the event start to question your choice of spot B instead of spot C. Then her mind starts to race a little. "What if so&so makes a comment about the location? And what if that other person agrees with so&so and they all start bashing the event and …
/r/askMRP23/11/15 07:48 PM
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How about this: you have a covert contract that says if you alpha up, your wife will turn into an obeying sex slave who can't get enough of you and will never test you? A man can dream.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 06:45 PM
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Haha! When I saw "YOU MUST CHILL," I was hoping the link was to Say Anything. I quote that scene all the time. YOU MUST CHILL! YOU MUST CHILL! I HAVE HIDDEN YOUR KEYS! CHILL! ... I love you, man.
/r/askMRP20/11/15 05:15 PM
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The Oracle of MRP.
/r/askMRP20/11/15 05:11 PM
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You're getting sucked off every single day, plus regular sex 3-4 times per week? That doesn't sound like much of a problem. Then again, I actually prefer BJs to PIV sex. Stop trying to control your LTR. If she wants to fuck the other guy, she will. If she does, next or downgrade to plate. I'm new here but I don't think I'd immediately next a woman who cheerfully blows you every single day.
/r/askMRP18/11/15 04:05 PM
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Over the last several years (prior to our marriage and up to the present day), she had started asking me to do simple tasks for her more and more, almost to the point of being a hand-maid. “Can you put such and such away for me…” “Can you take such and such downstairs…” “Can you open the fridge and check if we have…” “Can you.. can you.. can you..” "No."
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 07:21 PM
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"Are you trying to be charming?" "No, it comes naturally."
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 05:23 PM
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Sure, but you won't know that unless and until there are other hot women who are ready to fuck you. If you have HB8s trying to suck your dick and your wife still won't bang you, then the problem is hers and you start with the active dread. Until then, work on yourself and passive dread only. (Check with u/bluepillprofessor to make sure I'm not misstating him)
/r/askMRP16/11/15 05:20 PM
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check out the leangains sub--I've been intermittent fasting for 3 months with amazing results.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 05:17 PM
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How can I accurately judge my own SMV? I can bring a lot to the table in a relationship. Not that. I'm certainly bringing more than she is. Not that either. She needs me more then I need her. Strike three, you're out. Unless you know for a fact you can go out and fuck a hot woman who is not your wife, your SMV is not high enough. Lift, dress better, flirt. Judge your SMV by how women respond to your flirting.
/r/askMRP16/11/15 05:05 PM
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Your SMV refers primarily to your sexual market value in your wife's eyes (or in the eyes of other women you would like to fuck, potentially). If she's not fucking you, your SMV is not as high as you think it is.
/r/askMRP16/11/15 04:56 PM
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Not married, no kids? NEXT. Or just find another woman to fuck. Or just tell your girl, "I'm going to keep having sex. Whether it is with you or not..." Why do single guys keep asking questions on this sub? I started seeing a girl once (before I knew a whole lot). We fucked a few times, then she said she was feeling guilty and didn't want to have sex any more. "Cool," I said, because my ex-gf was coming to town that weekend. After I fucked my ex-gf 15 times over three days, the other girl wanted…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 04:01 PM
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Good Enough's evil twin is "It Could Be Worse."
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 07:31 PM
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I don't want to dox myself, but I have done both the "do what you love" career and the "do what makes money" career, so I think I have some perspective on both. As with everything else, it is much easier to chase your dreams if you are not married with kids. The career I loved was awesome but it didn't pay anything much and it was highly unstable - moving around a lot, weird hours, nights and weekends, etc. However, I think if I had been red pill when I first got married, I probably have done be…
/r/askMRP13/11/15 07:26 PM
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Shit I Need To Own: Finances - Wife started new contract job in September and still has basically nothing to show for it. My monthly salary covers essentials only and it sucks right now. I need to suck it up, realize that it's on me to get us in a better stop, and fucking make it happen. Starfish Sex - I actually sort of starfished my wife on Sunday. She let it be known she's available for sex, so we had sex, but it was pretty boring. Since our discussion about sex, she's been more "available," …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 04:27 PM
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Disagree. The baby needs to learn to soothe itself and not be picked up every time it makes any noise or protest. Moms instinctively want to pick up and hold the baby any time it does anything--guess what? Mom never gets any sleep or rest. Edit: looks like the 'experts' are split on this topic. I still think it's worth preserving mom's sanity a bit, even if baby gets a little stressed out from time to time. We were here first.
/r/askMRP09/11/15 05:59 PM
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Who does chores in my marriage has been a battleground from the start because both of us hate doing chores. I am working to take control of the house and get it in order but it's not easy at all. One thing I read here that clicked was to act like you're single with a roommate. If there's something to be done, just do it. If your roommate leaves dishes in the sink with baked on food on them, say, "hey roommate, you want to clean the fucking sink?" If your roommate is a slob, call her out on it.
/r/askMRP09/11/15 05:50 PM
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If you are not yet married, then stop looking for someone to marry. There is nothing in it for men. Men do not need the comfort or security of Marriage. upvoted into the stars
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 05:42 PM
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Is it true that you don't get much sex when you're married? I frequently hear complaints from married couples, that they just never get sex. That it all stops after sex or after a baby, or some other such nonsense. What I can't tell is....... is it because they FAILED to get them interested in sex? Is it because their women have super low sex drive? OR is it because they just acted too beta or something? Or are they just saying these things because of some convoluted tradition where married coup…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 05:39 PM
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She doesn't care what you would do. She doesn't want your opinion. She just wants to "vent" (i.e., complain) and have you validate her feelz, no matter how stupid they are. Don't do that, or you'll end up listening to her complain all the time. But don't try to fix it either. "That sucks babe" works well for me.
/r/askMRP06/11/15 03:30 PM
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If you're gaining 1kg every fortnight, that's 2.2 lbs every two weeks? :) That sounds good, you don't need to gain any faster than that. Keep it up and lift heavy.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/15 01:23 AM
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Are you married? Do you have kids with her? If no and no, then you've got it easy. Move on.
/r/askMRP05/11/15 04:33 PM
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My wife is a super-sensitive type who acts as if every criticism or disagreement leveled at her by anyone, not just me, is some sort of personal attack. I had no idea how to handle it until I found MRP. Even after I started, I tried to fix her while I was starting to fix me. Dumb. Now I mostly just STFU about correcting her or criticizing her unless it's a real problem or she's about to do something that makes no sense. Then I just (mostly) say, "don't do that any more, it's unacceptable," or "n…
/r/askMRP05/11/15 04:31 PM
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Damn, guy. You need to eat more. I'm 6-0 and I look too skinny at 80kg.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/15 04:19 PM
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An excellent wife is really hard to find.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 04:10 PM
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"and they shall become one flesh" - doesn't get more sexual than that.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 04:10 PM
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Whoa, I'm late to the party, but I think I can catch up. Sunday, November 1: 8 hours sleep 1860 calories chest/triceps day + 30 minute walk Monday, November 2: 5 hours sleep (World Series clincher) 1540 calories 60 minute walk Tuesday, November 3: 8 hours sleep 1948 calories dead/back/bi day + 30 minute walk Wednesday, November 4: 7 hours sleep 1840 calories abs/shoulder day + 30 minute walk Thursday, November 5 6 hours sleep xxxx calories 60 minute walk Friday, November 6 8 hours sleep 1530 cal…
/r/TheRedPill04/11/15 04:35 PM
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Appreciate it very much.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 04:19 PM
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Thank you. I'm not afraid of risk--my problem is procrastination, lack of confidence, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 03:54 PM
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Hey, I've made it two whole days!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 03:53 PM
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Thanks for this.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 03:53 PM
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Eh, that's what I was doing all these years, a career I loved. Never made decent money doing it. Of course, had I been red pill, swole as fuck all that time, things might have turned out different. But bygones. I've turned the page on the chasing the dream segment, now I need to make moneys.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 03:52 PM
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I am honestly stunned by all the "you didn't do this right" responses. OP played this game to perfection. Well done, sir.
/r/TheRedPill04/11/15 03:50 PM
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I don't have any advice and what others have posted seems excellent. She has also said that she doesn't feel welcomed and I choose my family over her. Just wanted to point out that my first wife was like this and my current wife is too, to a lesser extent. On some level, women (AWALT?) see anything that is important to you as a threat to them. It's bullshit and pathetically insecure, but it's there. I haven't found a terrific response to this kind of bullshit (you choose "x" over me), but "there…
/r/askMRP03/11/15 03:00 PM
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Shit I Need To Own: Finances - I never really cared that much about money and I have made a lot of decisions that have held my family back financially. I pursued a career I really enjoyed but didn't pay very well and was not stable. Now I am out of it, but while my current job pays pretty well, it is not nearly enough to get me where I want to be. My wife is "working" but it's obvious that I will never be able to depend on her to contribute anything meaningful. She uses her parents as an emergen…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/15 02:33 PM
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Saturday, October 31: Squat (Smith) - 3x5+ 225/205 Leg Curl - 3x5+ 140 Calf Extension - 3x5+ 350 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles).
/r/TheRedPill31/10/15 06:58 PM
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Friday, October 30: Walked 60 minutes (4.0 miles).
/r/TheRedPill30/10/15 12:35 PM
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I agree that I shouldn't be feeling anything more than cautious optimism. I don't really think my wife actually agrees with anything I said and she has rejected or shown contempt for my honest sexuality plenty of times before. Only time will tell if this is the start of something better or just, as you say, a doggy treat to keep me content for a couple of weeks.
/r/askMRP29/10/15 10:28 PM
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Can you even imagine, in your mind, a so-called "right" person with whom you would: Live the rest of your days Share your bed, living quarters, money, responsibilities, the raising of children, hopes, and dreams Not get into serious conflict with? There is no such person. Any two people on earth who share their lives will have serious, "deal-breaker" conflicts with each other sooner or later.
/r/askMRP29/10/15 07:48 PM
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I agree that it is weak; I was merely turning a common tactic of hers (appeal to authority/majority) back on her. I personally don't give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks I should do, but she certainly does.
/r/askMRP29/10/15 07:14 PM
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Thanks for your reply, but I'm curious. Behind the abstraction you quoted is the idea that a higher value Man would never have to communicate his desires or needs to his wife, that she would just figure it out? Isn't that the definition of a covert contract? And isn't that just demonstrably false? Women aren't mind readers any more than men are. I suspect my wife had hamstered herself into the idea that we were having enough sex -- she even said, initially, that she doesn't withhold sex. Seems l…
/r/askMRP29/10/15 07:09 PM
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Oh boy. I can see we still have a lot of work to do. Try giving her a bag of skittles instead. She JUST showed you that having a strong man who can calmly articulate what he needs is highly seductive so why do you want to turn into a puppy again after a simple blowjob. Set the bar a bit higher. Appreciate that. I definitely still have a lot of work to do. My intent is to reward her good behavior without turning into a puppy or a beta. I'll think more about the best way to do that.
/r/askMRP29/10/15 07:02 PM
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That's well said, but I wasn't even trying to bash feminism per se. I just tried to point out that feminism is the only belief system I know of that applauds wives for denying sex to their husbands... and that feminism's primary goal is not happy marriages.
/r/askMRP29/10/15 04:21 PM
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I cringed a little when you decided to engage and started talking about feminism. I was cringing a little as I said it, to be honest. But I had zero expectations of getting any sex out of it. I just wanted to let her know what I thought was the first step toward a happy marriage. It was, and is, her own choice as to how to respond.
/r/askMRP29/10/15 03:20 PM
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"You don't need to know everything, Carla Jean."
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/15 02:31 PM
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Thursday, October 29: Walked 60 minutes (4.0 miles).
/r/TheRedPill29/10/15 01:29 PM
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Me: ATM Hahahaha! Damn.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/15 01:26 PM
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Wednesday, October 28: Leg Lift - 1x10 Incline Sit Up - 1x10 Abdominal Machine - 1x10 150 Overhead Press (Smith) - 3x5+ 145/135 Front Dumbbell Raise - 3x5+ 30 Cross Cable Raise - 3x5+ 40/30 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles).
/r/TheRedPill28/10/15 04:28 PM
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I don't want to slob his knob too much, but posts like these are why u/Redneck001 is my favorite MRP poster. It's a crime that his You Are What You Eat post is not on the sidebar. I’ve been 20%, 15%, 12%, 10%, and 7% bodyfat. At 15%, I became visible to hot women. At 12%, hot women were smiling at me and initiating conversation. At 10%, I would get complimented on my body at least once per week by strangers. At 7%, I was getting swolested by the neighborhood women, touching me, begging me to tak…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/15 04:23 PM
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I'm using your quote to describe myself.
/r/askMRP28/10/15 12:38 AM
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u/zo34: If she's shit it is because you are I am shittier. That's why.
/r/askMRP27/10/15 07:16 PM
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I certainly read the entire post and I appreciate it, sir. Right now, I am nowhere near your level. My wife currently does not respond well to having tasks delegated to her. I know that the problem is me -- I am not yet a leader worthy of trust or respect. I am working on that, but in the meantime, a lot of shit is not getting done. My first step, I think, is to end her practice of trying to assign tasks to me, or in sending the non-specific "I'm going to need your help with the house this weeke…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 07:00 PM
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No one claimed it was universally liked. She could have dismissed him politely, or even neutrally, and it would have been fine. But she responded like a stuck-up cunt, and he would have been perfectly justified in pointing that out.
/r/seduction27/10/15 06:57 PM
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"Oh, I'm sorry! My mistake, I couldn't tell you were a bitch until you started talking."
/r/seduction27/10/15 05:08 PM
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Long ago, when we were seeing our worthless "couples counselor," we both read The Five Love Languages or whatever the fuck it's called. My love language, "blowjobs," wasn't listed as one of the options, but hers was "acts of service." I hate that fucking book. Anyway, she and I have a longstanding disagreement over (1) what would be an equitable division of labor and (2) how much I actually do to help. I've learned to STFU about it, but now I'm wondering if I should stop doing "women's chores," …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 03:53 PM
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I didn't realize he called me his hero, that's pretty cool, but I'm still a whiny bitch a lot of the time. But this reads like the last two reps of a set at the gym. Those ones where you have to cheat a little to even get it up there. Honestly didn't understand what you meant here.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 02:48 PM
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Shit I Need To Own: It was a down week for me. I need to be better. Losing Frame - I got pretty butthurt last week after a scathing email from Mrs. TOMG. She sent me a list of things we "need" to buy and I replied that until she starts bringing in money from her job, we cannot afford them. She lashed out at me for forcing her and her parents to "underwrite all these frivolous expenses" and calling me a hypocrite for all the times I wasn't supporting the family. Instead of responding by email, I …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 02:01 PM
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Tuesday, October 27: Deadlift (Smith) - 3x5+ 275 Wide grip assisted pullup - 3x5+ 9 Seated row - 3x5+ 165/150 Dumbbell curls - 3x5+ 35 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles).
/r/TheRedPill27/10/15 01:17 PM
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I'm 6-0 and I'm 211 after being 260 on July 4. Leangains, brother. I've tried every weight loss protocol there is and leangains is the best. You absolutely can be ripped in 5-6 months (and no running!). Check it out.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/15 12:01 PM
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Monday, October 26: Walked 60 minutes (4.0 miles).
/r/TheRedPill26/10/15 02:15 PM
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Sunday, October 25: Bench Press (Smith) - 3x5+ 235/215/205 Incline Bench (Smith) - 3x5+ 195/185/155 Assisted Dips - 3x5+ 7/8/9/10 Triceps Push Down - 3x5+ 60+/60 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles).
/r/TheRedPill26/10/15 02:15 PM
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It was the equivalence of a marriage. we've been living together for almost half a decade. People need to stop saying shit like this. Can she take half your shit and force you to pay for her kids until they're grown, whether you're a part of their lives or not? No? Then what you are doing is nothing like being married. Wake the fuck up.
/r/askMRP25/10/15 01:13 PM
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Saturday, October 24: Squat (Smith) - 3x5+ 215 Leg Curl 3x5+ 140 Calf Extension 3x5+ 350 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles).
/r/TheRedPill25/10/15 01:06 PM
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"Also, dude, 'maid' is not the preferred nomenclature. 'Housekeeper,' please."
/r/askMRP23/10/15 08:17 PM
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My wife complains all the time about working. She'll never actually say she doesn't want to work at all, but it's pretty obvious. Of course, when she was a SAHM, she complained nonstop about that. I just listen for a few minutes and say in a monotone voice, "that sucks babe." That doesn't get me a lot of blowjobs but it gets her to STFU, which is better than not.
/r/askMRP23/10/15 08:13 PM
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"Hey incredible sex life girl, I want you to initiate sex sometimes." "O RLY?" "Yes." "Like what?" "Like some time in the very near future, I want to wake up with my cock in your mouth." "LOL! Ok!"
/r/askMRP23/10/15 08:08 PM
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Lots of excellent replies here. Thanks, men.
/r/askMRP23/10/15 02:05 PM
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Friday, October 23: Walked 60 minutes (4.0 miles).
/r/TheRedPill23/10/15 02:00 PM
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Thursday, October 22: Walked 60 minutes (4.0 miles).
/r/TheRedPill23/10/15 02:00 PM
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Hey guy, stop giving out advice on this sub.
/r/askMRP23/10/15 12:01 AM
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Don't take this the wrong way, but until you've been here awhile and know what you're talking about, fuck off and stop giving out advice.
/r/askMRP23/10/15 12:00 AM
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I'm new, but even I know the answer to this one. Physically overpower her. Dominate her with your superior size and strength. This is what she wants.
/r/askMRP22/10/15 08:59 PM
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That's funny you say that, because I've been browsing that site recently. Haven't seen the custom stuff yet but I'll start looking.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 04:46 PM
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Do my tears surprise you, sir? Nah, fuckin' A. Strong men also cry. Strong men also cry. This "men never cry" stuff is fake macho bullshit in my opinion. Shedding tears over death, or loss, or pain, or even the end of Field of Dreams does not make you less of a man. Just don't cry over a woman in front of said woman.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/15 02:35 PM
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You did very well, bravo. My wife tried to do the same thing with me, accuse me of forcing her to divorce me so I wouldn't have to be the "bad guy who left." I looked her dead in the eye and said, "Are you just projecting yourself on me? If I leave, I won't give a single fuck about what anyone else thinks." She STFU after that because she knows it's true. IDGAF what anyone thinks of me, at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 01:50 PM
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I am new, so take my advice with a grain of salt. The one thing I tell myself over and over, with everything my wife does, is to imagine how I would react if a 6-year-old did it. This should be amusing to you. That being said, it is disrespectful, so I might not be inclined to talk on the phone with someone who keeps hanging up on me. Just use email/text for logistics only.
/r/askMRP21/10/15 01:33 PM
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Wednesday, October 21: Leg Lift - 1x10 Incline Sit Up - 1x10 Ab Crunch Machine - 1x10 150 Overhead Press (Smith) - 3x5+ 135/125 Front Dumbbell Raise - 3x5+ 30/25 Cross Cable Raise - 3x5+ 40/30 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles).
/r/TheRedPill21/10/15 01:16 PM
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Just as an aside, my shitty gym also only has Smith machines. I still do bench press, overhead press, squat, and deadlift on the Smith machine. Is it as good as free weights? Hell no. But I can still blast my muscles until they feel like jello. It's a drawback, not a roadblock.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 12:04 AM
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I'm pretty gregarious and flirtatious in general. I'll start amping it up a bit. I probably should flirt with my wife more. I basically ignore her unless I want to fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 07:17 PM
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There is no common law marriage in California, though there is such a thing as a "palimony" suit. IDK about Canada, but in most U.S. states, you are not common-law married unless you (1) agree that you are married, (2) live together for a certain period of time, and (3) hold yourself out as being married, e.g., call yourself husband and wife, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 07:14 PM
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Unless (a) this woman enthusiastically satisfies your every sexual desire AND (b) you really want children AND (c) you want her to be the mother of your children, then don't get married. Even if (a)+(b)+(c), it still might not be a good idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 05:33 PM
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Change "strenth" to "strenf" and you'll be onto something.
/r/TheRedPill20/10/15 05:22 PM
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We're basically married minus the legal contract and the "benefits" that are associated with it. People need to stop saying shit like this. Can she take half your shit and force you to pay for her kids until they're grown, whether you're a part of their lives or not? No? Then what you are doing is nothing like being married. Wake the fuck up.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 05:18 PM
1

Tuesday, October 20: Deadlift (Smith) - 3x5+ 275/245 Assisted Wide Grip Chinups - 3x5+ 6/7 Seated Row - 3x5+ 150/135 Dumbbell Curl - 3x5+ 35/30 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles).
/r/TheRedPill20/10/15 01:38 PM
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Shit I Need To Own: Initiating Sex With Outcome Independence - One day last week, I was so horny I was about to explode. I got home and my wife was her usual self (cordial at best). I paced around for a few minutes and I was getting all ragey at the prospect of getting a hard no. I finally told her something romantic like, “I am horny as fuck and I’m not going to be interested in doing anything else until I cum.” She said, “Well all right then,” sent the kids outside, and sucked me off. It was g…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 01:34 PM
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ZOMG IT'S LIKE YOU'RE NARRATING MY LIFE This is exactly how things have gone in my marriage. Exactly. It's uncanny. I think I'm Dodging right now, knowing Enlightenment is there and aspiring to it daily. Stupendous post. This belongs on the MRP sidebar at least.
/r/TheRedPill19/10/15 09:40 PM
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Monday, October 19: Walked 60 minutes (4.0 miles).
/r/TheRedPill19/10/15 01:51 PM
1

Update: she takes microgestin every day, no placebo week. Clue says "enter the first day of your last period." I guess I'll just put today?
/r/askMRP19/10/15 01:50 PM
1

Yeah, I think she takes one every day with no placebo.
/r/askMRP18/10/15 06:41 PM
1

Choose a career that: 1a. You are very passionate about and love the work OR 1b. Pays very well and doesn't suck out your soul AND Aligns somewhat with your natural skills and talents (e.g., if you have cerebral palsy, don't decide to become a brain surgeon)
/r/TheRedPill18/10/15 05:19 PM
1

Sunday, October 18: Bench (Smith) - 3x5+ 225/205 Incline (Smith) - 3x5+ 195/175 Assisted Dips - 3x5+ 8/9 Triceps Push Down - 3x5+ 60+/60 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles).
/r/TheRedPill18/10/15 05:13 PM
1

Saturday, October 17: Squat (Smith) - 3x5+ 205/185 Leg Curl - 3x5+ 140/120 Calf Extension - 3x5+ 270/250 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles).
/r/TheRedPill18/10/15 05:12 PM
1

Pills it is.
/r/askMRP18/10/15 04:17 PM
2

The only reason I think any man should even consider getting married is children. I have two boys and I love them more than myself. If I could go back in time to be single, I would not do it if it meant removing them from my existence. That said, I think marriage sucks and I was a lot happier when I was single. Don't get married unless you really, really want kids. Could I have had kids without being married? Certainly, but I don't know, I guess I still think a two-parent household is the best e…
/r/askMRP18/10/15 04:05 PM
1

My wife is on bc and doesn't really have periods, so I haven't been able to figure out when day 1 is. Any suggestions?
/r/askMRP18/10/15 03:53 PM
1

Not married, no kids? Why the fuck are you putting up with that shit? Either next her or plate her ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/15 02:48 PM
8

If you're not prepared to divorce her or cheat on her -- check that. Unless SHE believes you're prepared to divorce her or cheat, your dread is a illusion. If you won't leave no matter what, and she knows this, you're not at dread level 10. At all.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/15 02:45 PM
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Right there with you. My wife is in decent shape and looks pretty good, but I find it difficult to get that interested most of the time. Lots of built up resentment after 10 years of being turned down for sex. I'm just working on upping my SMV into the stratosphere until women are actively trying to seduce me away from her and then see what happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/15 08:51 PM
3

My wife has been withholding sex for most of our 10-year marriage and I have a lot of stored-up anger and resentment over that. As I focus on myself and improve myself, I suppose it's possible she'll turn into the wanton slutty wife I've always wanted. But even if she does, I fear I will feel just like the man in the OP. Cheated. My desire to fuck other women is very strong and I can only imagine it growing as I continue to improve. And that is going to leave me with a difficult decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/15 08:42 PM
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Sure thing. Honestly, I think that first month, when I made a few changes but didn't go ballistic HURRRR NO CARBS FIVE MILES A DAY WEIGHTS TILL I PUKE (which I've done before) made a big difference. I think I would recommend anyone starting like this do just do three things differently the first month: Walk every day Track calories and weight, eat at TDEE or below Gradually close eating window to 8 hours/day Then, after a month, hit the weights, leangains, intermittent fasting, calorie cycling, …
/r/TheRedPill16/10/15 06:39 PM
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I was ~260 on July 4, saw a picture of myself and just said, enough. The decision was the first and most important part. During July, I made two changes: Got up every morning and walked for 60 minutes. Every morning. Stopped eating after 9pm. I used to eat peanut butter straight from the jar with a spoon before bed. Probably added 400 calories a day like that. I just started going to sleep earlier, which was easy since I was up every morning walking. In August I did this: Started weighing myself…
/r/TheRedPill16/10/15 05:57 PM
2

I took a date to Ferris Beuller and got a handjob in the theater, does that count? Probably the hardest thing for "these kids today" to wrap their heads around is where technology was when I grew up. There was no internet. Personal computers didn't really start becoming a thing till the mid-'80s. There was no cable TV until, what, '79? I think MTV and ESPN debuted in 1979. Before that, it was NBC, ABC, and CBS. There were some great movies back then but there was also just as much crap as there …
/r/TheRedPill16/10/15 04:50 PM
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I'm 45 and I've lost 45 pounds in the last 3 months. In a couple of more months, I'm going to be the leanest I've ever been. I'm owning my shit and becoming the leader my family needs, and it's working. Stay after it, brother.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/15 03:40 PM
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I think she looks fantastic and I like how she's not backing down from all the soft men.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/15 02:55 PM
1

Interesting. How would I do this if I workout first thing in the morning (5:30 a.m.)? I've been doing leangains/IF for about 6 weeks and the weight is dropping off, but I'm still about 30 pounds away from shredded (currently 6-0, 215).
/r/TheRedPill16/10/15 02:41 PM
1

Friday, October 16: Walked 60 minutes (4.0 miles).
/r/TheRedPill16/10/15 01:59 PM
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My noob advice is this: Go off by yourself or with a trusted male friend and drink, cry, scream, shake your fist at the sky and curse God for taking your Grandfather. Do this every day if you need to. Then pull yourself together and be an Oak in front of your woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/15 03:45 PM
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I'm new, so take this with a grain of salt... But it's pretty obvious to me your wife does not believe you are both willing and able to fuck some other woman. Whether you actually are is not the point. If she truly believed you'd go out and get your dick sucked by a hot little tart, she wouldn't taunt you like she does when she withholds sex. Either that, or she just doesn't give a flying fuck. Either way, your physical SMV may be through the roof, but your dread level is not nearly as high as y…
/r/askMRP15/10/15 03:36 PM
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How long have you been at a plateau? If it's less than three weeks, I wouldn't worry. And if your BF is 22%, you should cut. I'm in my mid-40s and we're approximately the same size. I'm a little stronger but also a little fatter. I'm 6-0 and I've cut down from 260 to 215 since July 4th on leangains. I'm not going to stop until I'm under 10% BF. I honestly don't care that much if my lifts stall or even go down, but so far they have kept going up. I did 5x5 for the first 2 months and I just recent…
/r/TheRedPill15/10/15 01:33 PM
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Thursday, October 15: Walked 60 minutes (4.0 miles).
/r/TheRedPill15/10/15 01:20 PM
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Wednesday, October 14: Leg lift - 1x10 Incline Sit Up - 1x10 Ab Crunch Machine - 1x10 150 Overhead Press (Smith) - 3x5+ 135/125 Front Dumbbell Raise - 3x5+ 30/25 Cross Cable Raise - 3x5+ 40/30 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles).
/r/TheRedPill14/10/15 10:21 PM
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Damn, I got this last night after reading this post yesterday. Background: a couple of weeks ago, she had said something like, "I just want you to promise me that if you're going to have an affair, you'll just leave me." Or something like that. I screwed up and instead of A&A or AM, I just said, "why on earth would you ask that?" And she dropped it. Yesterday, I texted her my intent to get her naked that night and she responded well, but then texted something like, "you're not laying a hand on m…
/r/askMRP14/10/15 12:50 PM
1

Indeed.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 09:14 AM
3

hhahahahaa! classic
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 09:21 PM
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Good post. One thing I've noticed is how many posts include some variation of the phrase "my SMV is higher than my wife's," then a recounting of how the wife obviously has no tingles and is feeling no dread. If your wife doesn't believe you are both willing and able to fuck other women, then your SMV is not high enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 09:15 PM
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And when you get swolested, my advice is don't show them your abs until they show their tits. hahaha I will... how many of the neighborhood moms have shown you their tits? hahaha
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 08:42 PM
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Pretend she's four years old. "Stop whining please. Go to your room if you need to cry."
/r/askMRP13/10/15 07:11 PM
2

The next time she makes plans to see this guy, just tell her "oh so we have an open relationship now? Cool. I've been wanting to fuck Candi from the Starbucks for a while now." Edit: I'm new to MRP but I read something like this recently. If she's dating other men, you should be dating other women.
/r/askMRP13/10/15 06:46 PM
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You said: I feel like i am reaching the point of pure apathy thanks to OI/DGAF And you also said: i cant stand hearing the "you'll owe me/it falls on me again" bullshit. So... which is it? Can't be both. HINT: you give a fuck. you give a lot of fucks. you're all jammed up and CONSIDERING SKIPPING YOUR GAME because your wife is whining. Stop giving a fuck, for real this time.
/r/askMRP13/10/15 06:36 PM
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Part of it is that I just hate housework and I can't think of a worse way to spend a Saturday than decluttering our living space. Part of it is that I refuse to clean up after her. She doesn't rinse her dishes off, so after a few days the food starts to rot and stink. Fuck if I'm going to do the dishes for her then. I could start being more of an asshole and start ordering her to keep the house clean, but I'm not sure my SMV is high enough, or my captain sober enough, to make this happen yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 06:23 PM
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14-Take TRP main subreddit with a grain of salt; take what you need and leave what you disagree or don’t need, remember there is 3 “factions” ; 1)The Plate spinners (mostly young guys that are maximizing their opportunities for sexual strategies) ; 2) The MRP/LTR ; that will be us, concentrating in being the best man we can be and using RP strategies to hopefully curb hypergamy by combining Alpha/ comfort 3)MGTOWs; Concentrating in themselves and opting out of the Matrix by not engaging since th…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 06:18 PM
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Good idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 05:52 PM
3

Question, how acceptable is your house to you? If she wasn't there, how would it look from day to day? If it were just me and the two boys, it would look lived in but it would be basically neat. The biggest difference would be about an 80% reduction in clutter (clothes and unnecessary furniture). We can't "get a handle" on laundry because she and the boys have so many clothes, it's ridiculous. I honestly don't care that much about how the house looks. I just want to invite people over whenever w…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 05:52 PM
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Thanks. I want to get my SMV through the roof and start getting "swolested" like Redneck001, then decide if I want to keep my wife or not. Right now, the idea of new pussy is awfully tempting.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 05:43 PM
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Tuesday, October 13: Deadlift (Smith) - 2x5+ 285/265 Assisted wide grip pull up - 3x5+ 9/10 Seated row - 3x5 150/135 Dumbbell curls - 3x5+ 40/35 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles).
/r/TheRedPill13/10/15 03:18 PM
1

she actually told me in anger, in front of my 6-year old son today that I have a small dick. Fuck that bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 02:43 PM
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Shit I Need To Own: Anger - I still get angry when I get a hard no for sex. Hell, I get angry when my wife doesn't initiate sex every night. I have to let that go somehow. Not sure how. Initiating with Outcome Independence - closely related to #1, obviously, but I don't initiate whenever I'm horny. Our kids are in bed at 8:30 and I'm usually fading out by 10, so I need to "re-frame" that 90 minutes as fuck time, not my wife surfing the web and me watching TV and dozing off. I've also got to star…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 02:34 PM
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Monday, October 12: Walked 60 minutes (4.0 miles).
/r/TheRedPill12/10/15 12:07 PM
1

Llewellyn Moss: You don't need to know everything, Carla Jean. Carla Jean: I need to know that. Moss: You keep running that mouth, I'm going to take you in the back and screw you. Carla Jean: Big talker. Moss: Keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/15 04:57 PM
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Sunday, October 11: Bench press (Smith) - 3x5+ 215/205 Incline press (Smith) - 3x5+ 185/175 Assisted Dips - 3x5+ 8/9 Triceps Push Down - 3x5+ 75/60 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles).
/r/TheRedPill11/10/15 04:42 PM
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Saturday, October 10: Squat (Smith machine) - 3x5+ 205/185 Leg Curl - 3x5+ 140/120 Calf Extension - 3x5+ 230/210 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles).
/r/TheRedPill11/10/15 04:41 PM
1

Oh, I agree completely. I believe that withholding sex is absolutely a breach of the wedding vows. I was just saying that from a Biblical perspective, it's not acceptable grounds for divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 01:35 AM
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My goal is to limit porn/fapping to once per week. That's a recommendation in NMMNG or MMSL, I forget which. I think it's a good compromise between beating it every night when I don't get some and wanting to murder everyone because I haven't cum in 2 months.
/r/askMRP09/10/15 06:12 PM
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Definitely. I actually told my wife I was "going to be making some changes that she wouldn't necessarily like." What an idiot I was. Now I'm still an idiot, but I've learned to STFU.
/r/askMRP09/10/15 06:08 PM
2

As someone who grew up immersed in Christianity, I have thought about this quite a bit. The most glaring red pill idea that jumps out at me is the submission of wives to their husbands and especially I Corinthians 7: 1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/15 05:08 PM
1

Friday, October 9: Walked 60 minutes (4.02 miles).
/r/TheRedPill09/10/15 04:35 PM
1

Thursday, October 8: Walked 60 minutes (4.02 miles).
/r/TheRedPill08/10/15 02:07 PM
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This is the first time in my life that I've ever lifted hard without also doing some sort of horrible punishing cardio afterwards. Now I get up in the mornings and focus all my energies on the iron. I can't wait to get to the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/15 10:05 PM
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I haven't done a 50 state survey but I'm pretty sure it's legal to break into your own house. It would certainly be legal for him to change the locks again and re-enter the property. A spouse cannot legally exclude the other from the family dwelling.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/15 02:48 PM
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Wednesday, October 7: Leg lift - 1x10 Incline situp - 1 x 10 Abdominal machine - 1 x 10 150/130 Dumbbell overhead press - 3x5+ 65/60 Front dumbbell raise - 3x5+ 35/30 Cross cable raise - 3x5+ 40/30 Walked 30 mins (1.9 miles)
/r/TheRedPill07/10/15 02:36 PM
2

Co-signed. I'm not ever going to dick around with goddam electricity.
/r/askMRP07/10/15 01:49 PM
2

I am new so take this with a grain of salt... I used to get endless bitching and complaining about whatever when I walked in the door. Sometimes it was about me, sometimes not. Nodding and pretending to care did nothing to help, nor did offering advice or a solution. So now when she starts downloading all of her shit on me, I sort of halfway pay attention and halfway keep doing whatever else I was doing, including watching TV, dicking around on the computer, or going to take a dump. When she pau…
/r/askMRP07/10/15 01:46 PM
1

No idea. I think statistically, most people finish school before they get married, but I could be wrong.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/15 01:29 PM
1

I really want to get ripped and stay ripped so stripping the fat is priority A1 right now. I don't think I'm losing much muscle but cutting is my primary goal. I've been lifting off and on since high school and I've got a decent base of muscle under all this fat. At 6-0, 218, I'm still over 20% bodyfat. My lifts are all progressing... I did have to deload my squat a couple of weeks ago because my legs were dead from running the previous day. That's when I decided to quit running and just walk on…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/15 01:28 PM
1

Being aware of sunk costs does not mean that you subscribe to the sunk cost fallacy, sir. I don't know about you, but I am able to implement new attitudes and behaviors while still contemplating past mistakes and other points of view. I don't think it's necessary to dismiss all non-RP thought to follow the RP path.
/r/askMRP06/10/15 07:40 PM
7

Generally speaking, debt incurred before the marriage is separate and debt incurred during the marriage is marital, or community, property (depending on the state).
/r/TheRedPill06/10/15 05:41 PM
1

What are you doing to own this? I took all my anger and took it out on the barbell. Good question. Mainly I just try to perceive my wife as a spoiled teenager or tell myself to react as if one of my sons were being shitty. It works sometimes. I lift early in the morning so I'm never angry when I left. Maybe I should get a jump rope for when I get angry at night. One thing I recommend that may not be RP, is dont initiate when you know you are getting the hard no. If you want to fuck and you think…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 05:30 PM
1

I also love my kid and want to sleep under the same roof, but at some point you have to wonder if you might be doing yourself and your kids a disservice, am i right? I struggle with this concept quite a bit. I tend to think that a two-parent family is better for the kids unless the parents obviously hate each other and fight all the time. My wife and I have sort of a distant cordiality most of the time, and fights have dropped to zero since I stopped taking the bait. I think my kids would suffer…
/r/askMRP06/10/15 05:01 PM
1

Adderall is a stimulant prescribed for people with ADD; the stated purpose is to help ADD people tune out distractions and focus. It certainly does that; it also curbs appetite and elevates heart rate and blood pressure. A quick internet search showed me that people who combine adderall and yohimbine often feel like they are going to die from heart explosions... so yeah, I may not do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 03:09 PM
2

not married + no kids = NEXT. Then unfuck yourself.
/r/askMRP06/10/15 03:02 PM
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I am only a couple of months in, so I'm not qualified to give advice... But I hear you. I'm not particularly attracted to my wife either and I'm still dealing with the anger of her withholding sex throughout our marriage. If I had it to do over again, would I marry her again? I don't know. Based purely on the quality of the marriage, not a chance. But I have two sons whom I absolutely adore and I can't imagine life without them. That's the main reason I'm staying and applying MRP, because I want…
/r/askMRP06/10/15 02:46 PM
1

Thanks, I already take adderall xr 30mg when I wake up and it looks like it does not interact well with yohimbine at all. I also take caffeine pills from time to time. If I get to 185-190 and I still have stubborn fat then I'll see about ramping it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 02:29 PM
2

Shit I Need To Own Anger - Still in that phase to some extent. Sent wife a detailed email about current finances and October's budget, she replied with a shitty passive-aggressive email full of snark. Pissed me off royally. Planned to call her out when I got home but then realized it wouldn't do any good so I just STFU. I used to be a "get mad/blow my top/cool down/not mad anymore" kind of guy. Being stoic is tough for me and I'm bottling a lot of anger up. My outward appearance is calm, need to…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 01:54 PM
1

Tuesday, October 6: Deadlift (Smith) - 2x5+ 275 Assisted wide-grip pullup - 3x5+ 9/10 Seated row - 3x5+ 135/120 Dumbbell biceps curl - 3x5+ 40/35 Walked 30 mins (1.9 miles)
/r/TheRedPill06/10/15 01:20 PM
1

Monday, October 5: Walked 60 minutes (4.02 miles)
/r/TheRedPill05/10/15 12:43 PM
1

Sunday, October 4: Bench Press - 5x5, 205 (Smith) Incline Bench Press - 5x5, 175 (Smith) Triceps Push Down - 5x5, 60 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles)
/r/TheRedPill05/10/15 12:43 PM
1

Saturday, October 3: Squat - 5x5, 195 (Smith machine) Leg Curl - 5x5, 120 Calf Extension - 5x5, 12 Walked 30 minutes (1.9 miles)
/r/TheRedPill05/10/15 12:42 PM
1

Friday, October 2: Walked 60 minutes (4.02 miles)
/r/TheRedPill05/10/15 12:42 PM
5

Bravo. This is exactly what I need right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/15 10:38 AM
1

This is probably my favorite FR so far. Fantastic. Bravo.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/15 05:18 PM
1

When I first started reading TRP and MRP, Llewellyn Moss (Josh Brolin) in No Country for Old Men immediately came to mind.
/r/askMRP04/10/15 02:47 PM
1

Thursday, October 1: Walked 60 minutes (4.02 miles)
/r/TheRedPill02/10/15 01:41 PM
1

I am only concerned about it based on what I have read here ("do not tell your wife about red pill -- at least, not yet"). I personally honestly do not GAF if she knows what I am reading, at all, or if she throws a hissy fit about it. I'm not giving her the Amazon password back because then she will buy stuff on Amazon. She is not a trusted First Officer in that regard.
/r/askMRP01/10/15 02:58 PM
1

In order to give you access, It has to give you access to the payment methods, so it isn't going to work. This is almost word for word what I said to her. If you have a better option at this point, I'm listening, it's not happening. I left this part out. I'm leaning toward showing her the list to demonstrate that I have nothing to hide, while at the same time nuking her immature bitchy demands and making it clear that I'm not beholden to her on how I spend money.
/r/askMRP01/10/15 02:46 PM
1

I appreciate the comments. I honestly do not care if she sees the list. I don't think I have something to hide, but I think refusing to show her the list makes it seem as if I do. I posted here to get thoughts on whether (a) or (b) is the best strategy going forward, because they are both true. Honestly, my only reason not to tell her is that I keep reading on here that I should not tell my wife about the red pill or what I am doing. But I think giving her the list and nuking her bitchy demand a…
/r/askMRP01/10/15 02:43 PM
2

Thank you.
/r/askMRP01/10/15 02:09 PM
1

How would you treat a teenage daughter that's acting this way? I've got to remember this simple question for all interactions with my wife. I usually do but not always. Thanks.
/r/askMRP01/10/15 02:04 PM
2

I actually would want her to know that I'm reading this stuff and flirting with other women, but just not yet, I don't think. My problem with refusing is that it does look like I have something to hide (not just to her, but to anyone), and I don't. I'm sure part of her anxiety is remembering my email "affair" several years ago, which she will never get over. That was obviously secretive and I'm sure she's worried that I'm doing something like that again, which I am not.
/r/askMRP01/10/15 01:58 PM
2

I would, but I would not lie about it to my wife, and I know it would end the marriage if I did. I'm not ready to end the marriage. I'm only about 2 months in though. If, after a year, I'm a ripped golden god and have all of my other shit together and women are swolesting me left and right, wife and I will have the "fuck me or fuck you" discussion.
/r/askMRP30/09/15 05:28 PM
3

"What's this 'we' stuff, white man?" * ^ probably never actually uttered by Tonto to the Lone Ranger, but it's a good line anyway.
/r/askMRP29/09/15 09:35 PM
3

The Fountainhead is a masterpiece. It was her first big success and was heavily edited before publication. I cannot recommend this book highly enough, for MRP or just for life in general. Atlas Shrugged is a sprawling mess. She was independently wealthy when she wrote it -- over the course of 12 years -- and refused to let anyone edit one single word. The story idea is phenomenal but the book practically begs for a competent editor. Many of her ideas are consistent with TRP and she is spot on ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 02:57 PM
3

Shit I Need To Own: Initiating Sex With Outcome Independence - I still get very angry when my wife is not sexually available to me, even when I'm not super-horny. It's an expectation I have and I still get butthurt when I get a hard no. I will still avoid initiating sex if I don't think I will get a yes, and I need to initiate whenever I want it and be cool whether I get it or not. I'm doing much better at acting cool about it -- the next step is being cool about it. Holding Frame - Similar to #…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 02:52 PM
2

For me at least, "holding frame" is still a matter of not showing anger rather than not being angry. I've calmed down my interactions with my wife to the point that I haven't raised my voice to her in several months, and that's great, but I still get just as angry, I think. I'm angry every night when I get a hard no for sex. Hell, I get a little ticked off when I walk in the door and she's not waiting for me with a cold drink and a blowjob. Even though I've "let go" of my covert contracts for th…
/r/askMRP28/09/15 09:21 PM
1

I work out at Planet Fitness because I literally cannot afford anything else right now and OH NOES they don't have barbells there. So I do squats, flat bench and deadlifts on the Smith machine. Does it kinda suck? Yes. Do I get a full range of motion? No. Am I getting strong as fast as I would on free weights? Probably not. Do I blast the fuck out of my legs, chest, and shoulders and back every week? Fucking A I do. When I get in my car after leg day, my thighs are quivering and it's hard to wor…
/r/askMRP28/09/15 09:14 PM
2

This: I dread the shit out of her, definitely a level 8 with bumps to 9 for years. is not compatible with this: I'm sure she knows I'm not leaving.
/r/askMRP28/09/15 03:16 PM
2

Your wife sounds like the irritable bowel, fibromyalgia, anxious/depressed type. No, she doesn't. She sounds like the faking-a-slight-illness-to-avoid-sex type.
/r/askMRP28/09/15 03:10 PM
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http://i.ytimg.com/vi/YCOgaWSfxxs/maxresdefault.jpg This isn't jacked enough?
/r/askMRP23/09/15 07:55 PM
1

I'm 6'7" which means unless I dedicated my life to body building (and roids), my muscle will always be spread out over my long limbs and I'll likely never have the proportions to look jacked like a shorter guy can. This is a self-limiting belief. Lebron is 6-8, you don't think he looks jacked? I personally think ripped with 6-pack is much more rare and therefore noticeable than bulky power lifter guy.
/r/askMRP23/09/15 05:26 PM
1

I can tell you from personal experience that plenty of wives don't give two fucks about their husbands' dreams or passions. Or if they do, they care about them far, far less than what's in it for them. Do something you're passionate about for you, not to make your wife admire you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 05:16 PM
1

Thanks for the reply. I'm a pretty stoic motherfucker these days. I definitely don't flirt with her much because I'm not very interested in her. My "frame" is that she should be sexually available to me because she's my wife, and I shouldn't have to ask for it or initiate it. Of course, I know that's not true, and the reality is a world apart. We only have sex if everything else is taken care of, she's had time to shower and shave her legs, the stars align, etc., etc. Most of the time, I pretty …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 08:06 PM
1

Shit I Need To Own: Losing frame - I got really, really pissed off at my kids for making a huge mess in the just-cleaned kitchen on Saturday morning. I didn't yell or scream but I dressed them down hard and made them clean it up until it was spotless, then left them at home when they weren't ready for their soccer game on time. (Wife brought them late.) I guess I 'acted' okay but I was disappointed at how upset it made me. Acta, non verba - I hardly talk to my wife at all. There's a real distanc…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 01:11 PM
6

You understand, though, that she didn't cheat because you stopped mate guarding, right? post hoc ergo propter hoc
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/15 09:45 PM
1

TDEE at 224.5 is 2324 cals/day. -20% is 1859 cals/day. -40% is 1394 cals/day. Targets: 2040 cals on workout days (4x/week). 1500 cals on rest days (3x/week). Average 1809 cals/day. Sunday, September 20 - Weight: 228.5. Cals: 2040/2040. Monday, September 21 - Weight: 229.0. Cals: 1520/1500. Tuesday, September 22 - Weight: 227.5. Cals: 1975/2040. Wednesday, September 23 - Weight: 228.0. Cals: 2243/2040. Thursday, September 24 - Weight: xxx.x. Cals: 1332/1500. Friday, September 25 - Weight: xxx.x. …
/r/TheRedPill20/09/15 02:22 PM
3

If you absolutely do not want kids and she absolutely does, that is the mother of all deal-breakers. I am new to MRP but I would argue that your wife deserves to know this information immediately. Prepare for a divorce and take all necessary precautions to avoid accidental pregnancy.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 08:41 PM
1

My friends and family (and I suspect hers as well) have all but written us off and wonder why the fuck I am continuing to go back for more? I'm wondering the same thing. Why the fuck do you want this relationship to work? Does she do your favorite sex thing better than anyone else ever has? There is nothing in your post to suggest a sane person would want to continue the relationship.
/r/askMRP15/09/15 06:01 PM
2

Of course, depending on where you live, and what your relationship is like, nothing says "I love you" like the gift of another woman, a close friend or professional (whether it's a threesome with you, or a gift for him, and you watch or just something you can give him and you go do something else, would be up to you). Co-signed.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 05:57 PM
3

never let chasing pussy get in the way of making yourself better. Amen, brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 05:52 PM
2

Shit I Need To Own: Acta, non verba - Slowly but surely, I'm getting better. Money is super tight right now and yesterday, my wife asked me what I thought about her selling her engagement ring. I texted back "um, no." She wanted to talk about it some more, I texted that I was busy. Subject never came up again. I just keep reminding myself that talking to her almost never does any good. Finances - I relented and put some money back in our joint account so she doesn't have to ask me for cash to ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 01:01 PM
1

TDEE at 227.5 is 2340 cals/day. -20% is 1872 cals/day. -40% is 1404 cals/day. Targets: 2040 cals on workout days (4x/week). 1500 cals on rest days (3x/week). Average 1809 cals/day. Sunday, September 13 - Weight: 227.5. Cals: 2000/2040. Monday, September 14 - Weight: 230.0 (the fuck?). Cals: 1550/1500. Tuesday, September 15 - Weight: 229.5. Cals: 2050/2040. Wednesday, September 16 - Weight: 229.0. Cals: 1480/2040. Thursday, September 17 - Weight: 227.5. Cals: 1420/1500. Friday, September 18 - Wei…
/r/TheRedPill13/09/15 03:43 PM
1

Here are some more verses you won't hear at Sunday mass: The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of s…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 03:59 PM
1

Not because she sent me a nasty text, but because I believe I went too far in completely cutting off all of her access to any funds. Plus, when it comes to finances, I have been the drunk/sleeping Captain for most of the marriage. I want to take control without being a Dictator Asshole about it. Last night I moved some funds back into the joint account. My paycheck will auto deposit into my separate account. She has promised to discuss all purchases with me in advance from now on. If she doesn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 09:16 PM
1

TDEE at 233 is 2370 cals/day. -20% is 1896 cals/day. -40% is 1422 cals/day. Targets: 2040 cals on workout days (4x/week). 1500 cals on rest days (3x/week). Average 1809 cals/day. Sunday, September 6 - Weight: 233. Cals: 2070/2040. Monday, September 7 - Weight: 234.5. Cals: 2005/2040. Tuesday, September 8 - Weight: 233. Cals: 1545/1500. Wednesday, September 9 - Weight: 232. Cals: 1920/2040. Thursday, September 10 - Weight: 231.5. Cals: 1750/2040. Friday, September 11 - Weight: 231.5. Cals: 1260/1…
/r/TheRedPill10/09/15 01:38 PM
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Shit I Need To Own: Acta, non verba - as always, I talk too much. Comfort Test/Shit Test/Compliance Test Fuck Up (Maybe?) - Ever since I emptied our joint account and took control of our family’s finances, my wife has been pissed off about it. She takes every opportunity to make snarky or passive-aggressive comments. I mostly ignore and STFU about it. However, this Saturday I went to do the grocery shopping for the week (as I usually do), and as I was pulling up to the store, I got 3 or 4 texts …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 01:54 PM
2

No, you stay with him until everyone else is done. Then no candy, TV, whatever he likes as a consequence.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 12:51 AM
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Credentials: I'm new to MRP but I keep my kids in line and always have. Two-year-olds are old enough to understand actions and consequences. If he starts yelling in a restaurant, remove him from the restaurant immediately. Sit in the car, no radio, nothing, until he calms down. Tell him he has to be quiet and still during the meal, and he will get one more chance. If he agrees, take him back inside and give him one more chance. If he flips out again, take him back to the car for the rest of the …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/15 04:40 PM
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Shit I Need To Own: Acta, non verba - I talk and text way too fucking much. I'm a talker and my wife talks all the fucking time so it's an adjustment dialing it down. I try to respond to about every 3rd or 4th email or text with a bare minimum of information and keep it to logistics only. STFU and IDGAF are my two watchwords, now and always. Also I'm only going to post in Own Your Shit Weekly for a while. Less Rock, More Oak - I think my wife is seriously stressed out about the way I've been act…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 05:27 PM
2

I'm in. 6-0, 237.5 on August 30. Started leangains Sunday, August 30. TDEE at 237.5 is 2394 cals/day. -20% is 1915 cals/day. -40% is 1437 cals/day. Targets: 2040 cals on workout days (4x/week). 1500 cals on rest days (3x/week). Average 1809 cals/day. Sunday, August 30 - Weight: 237.5. Cals: 1930/2040. Monday, August 31 - Weight: 237.5. Cals: 2000/2040. Tuesday, September 1 - Weight: 237.5. Cals: 1410/1500. Wednesday, September 2 - Weight: 236.0. Cals: 1960/2040. Thursday, September 3 - Weight: 2…
/r/TheRedPill29/08/15 02:05 PM
2

Thanks very much for this. I had a question about HIIT. I tend to get muscle cramps -- always have, since I was a kid -- and get them more frequently when I'm on a high-protein, low-carb diet. Every time I've tried to sprint, I get severe hamstring cramps (sharp pains, legs locking up) and I have to stop. Potassium supplements and lots of stretching has not worked. Any ideas? I'd love to sprint but haven't been able to get past the feeling of knives being driven into my legs!
/r/TheRedPill27/08/15 08:56 PM
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Wow, I'm honored. Didn't even know about that subreddit until now.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 04:16 PM
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Thanks, I've definitely erred on the side of being more asshole than beta. I don't really think it would be a good idea for me to nofap. I'm sure I could will myself to do it for a while, but I also think I would be walking around in a seething rage, wanting to punch the world in the face. That being said, it's not a secret that I jerk off. There have been plenty of occasions where I've gotten turned down and said, "all right, I'm going to go jerk it, see you later." Maybe I should start waiting…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 08:11 PM
1

Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 06:59 PM
1

Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 06:59 PM
1

Agreed. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 06:59 PM
2

Thanks, that makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 06:58 PM
0

Agreed, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 04:59 PM
1

Well said, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 04:58 PM
1

Thanks, I appreciate it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 04:36 PM
2

I honestly don't have a pavlovian thing with the phone. I rarely text her at all except for logistics. I just felt like doing it yesterday. That being said, I like the idea of keeping track of interactions like that. Will probably be helpful, even though to my newly unplugging brain, that sounds an awful lot like "being in her frame." But I'll give it a shot. And I really do appreciate the time and thought you've given to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 04:35 PM
0

Nah, but I'm definitely a talker. That will be my biggest challenge. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 04:08 PM
1

Good point. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 04:07 PM
1

Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 03:55 PM
-1

I'm thinking that she was DTF here. I really, really don't think so, but it's possible. You missed a couple comfort tests in that dialogue that you could have capitalized on. Probably. Thanks for responding.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 03:42 PM
0

Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 03:41 PM
2

Appreciate the thoughts. One thing I must not have made clear is that I was well aware she wasn't interested. I wasn't missing those social cues at all, I just didn't care. I knew I wasn't going to get anal or anything else last night, but I wanted to declare my intentions and not give a fuck what she did in response. I honestly don't care if she's comforted or not. Maybe I'm still in the "anger phase?" I dunno. I could try cuddling or massaging or planning an anniversary something or whatever b…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 03:39 PM
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The cognitive dissonance is to much for your little snowflake. Back off- and for God's sake don't mention anal again She laid next to you and desperately wanted some comfort she is not seeing this as playful or cute Here's what I don't get. Every time I've posted anything about what she does or thinks, the responses are: why do you care what she thinks? you're in her frame you little bitch, you're still seeking her approval So now I have cognitive dissonance. Which is the MRP orthodoxy? Do I do …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 02:52 PM
1

In terms of staying in the marriage? No. I'm only still married because I want to be close to my kids every day and I think that's best for them. I wouldn't give a single fuck about leaving otherwise, other than the challenge of gaming my wife into worshiping my cock and the ground I walk on.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 11:59 PM
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I'm still a fat fuck, so SMV not high enough yet. And if/when I do that, the marriage will be over. Or will it? Maybe she'd stay, but I doubt it. Still would prefer to keep the marriage intact, at least for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 06:47 PM
1

If you're trying to take away the power she wields, then pursue sex when you want it, but maintain a mindset of outcome independence if she refuses. I appreciate that. I just fucking hate getting turned down. That's probably my biggest challenge, maintaining outcome independence when I haven't cum in a few days. People have commented on your posts in the past telling you to slow down. Quit expecting change. Improve yourself and make your life better. The Red Pill is a toolbox and a lifestyle. Se…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 03:43 PM
1

Oh, we've had that discussion for sure. She either doesn't buy it or doesn't care. She's expressed a lot of contempt for my sexuality in the past -- "you just want to have your cock worshiped" and "you don't care that I'm uncomfortable/upset talking dirty." It used to bother me a lot, now IDGAF. I'm going to get ripped up and get my SMV where it needs to be, and if she doesn't want to talk dirty and give me head, someone else will.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 02:56 PM
6

I brought food for the kids and she asked how I know she hadn't fed them already and I told her she's lazy and probably sat on the couch looking at Facebook the whole time. That's fucking gold right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 02:29 PM
11

I decided to quit swatting my kids on the butt when they misbehaved and just make them do hard exercises (burpees, running stairs) for minor violations and take away electronics for major violations. My kids get a max of 2 hours a day of "screen time" and they hate it when that gets chopped in half.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 02:21 PM
2

Shit I Need To Own: I am apparently destroying my marriage by going too hard on my wife to change her and not me. That is not my intention. I took all the money out of our joint account, she flipped out, I held frame and didn't back down, now she's either calmed down or she's preparing for divorce. IDGAF either way. But I am working on being more Oak and less Rock/Asshole. After the last time we had sex, wife sent a long rambling email that was basically "all you care about is sex, you want me t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 02:19 PM
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If you've tucked them in, why are they knocking on your door? Just in general, why are they knocking on your door? Tell them that it's mom and dad time and they need to go away. If they knock, take away their Ipads for a couple of days and they'll get the message.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 02:01 PM
1

I'm sure you're right, and I hope you don't take my continued fucking-upness as a sign I didn't appreciate and try to internalize your incredibly thoughtful and insightful posts. I realize I'm going too hard and too fast in some ways and I'm teetering on the brink. But I was pretty goddamned sick of my wife nickel-and-diming me to death and I took action to stop it. Honestly IDGAF if that nukes my marriage or not. I already feel much more relaxed since I closed the checkbook and she's realizing …
/r/askMRP24/08/15 07:11 PM
1

I told her I didn't believe I was a narcissist and didn't care what she thought. That's what I wrote. I should have said, "I told her I didn't believe I was a narcissist and didn't care whether she thought I was a narcissist." In the conversation, it was clear I just meant I didn't care about that one thought, not everything she thinks. Beyond that, appreciate the thoughts.
/r/askMRP21/08/15 08:41 PM
1

I meant to reply to this post before but I'm new to red pill and I didn't want to attempt to give you any advice. I'm in a similar situation... not a dead bedroom and never has been, but my wife is just not as wild or uninhibited as I'd like her to be. Part of that is me: I've always had an extremely high sex drive and an active imagination. I'm not sure that I'd be satisfied with any boundaries for sex. If my wife was into anal, I'd want threesomes. If she was into threesomes, I'd want an open …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 07:51 PM
1

Bipolar, not borderline. I don't think she's either. She's self-absorbed and lacks reason and accountability, but I tend to think that's AWALT/solipsism, not narcissism. Either way, it doesn't really matter how it's defined. I know how she is and I don't expect her to change. The only question is whether I want to live with it.
/r/askMRP21/08/15 07:39 PM
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I said I didn't care if she thought I was a narcissist. Not that I didn't care about her feelings. And your statement that my duty as a man is to make her happy goes against every red pill thing I've read.
/r/askMRP21/08/15 07:36 PM
1

Edit: dear god please don't dismiss this as victim puke or validation seeking. I am trying to lay out reasons why I don't see my wife as a "trusted commander." If I said it wrong, I'll rephrase or something. I hear you and I appreciate the thoughts. The problem is that she is a walking trainwreck when it comes to "executive function." She has severe ADHD (so I'm told), and she is so absent-minded that it goes beyond funny to WTF. For example, whenever she leaves the house to go somewhere, she fo…
/r/askMRP21/08/15 07:20 PM
2

She says other married women she knows don't give more to their husbands. She's probably right, but what the fuck does that have to do with anything?
/r/askMRP21/08/15 06:15 PM
1

I have read NMMNG and MMSL and I am reading WISNIFG. I don't believe I am a narcissist, but even if I am, I'm not going to see a shrink about it, nor will I waver from the plan. I sincerely do not believe I am looking at it from her frame. I am trying to figure out the best MRP way to respond, period.
/r/askMRP20/08/15 09:24 PM
1

I don't understand what you're getting at here, and I'll own it if I'm being a pussy or a bitch. I'm not trying to avoid anything at all.
/r/askMRP20/08/15 09:23 PM
3

So he's a prude, views sex as base and distasteful to discuss, is happy with sex 3 times a month, and calls you a sex maniac. You want to have sex all the time, play with yourself every night, you're into blowjobs, anal, threesomes, and you're bisexual and super horny for men and women everywhere, all the time. Do you need this written on a sign?
/r/askMRP20/08/15 07:57 PM
1

That's a shame. Have you had a threesome with him? Maybe he would perk up if you brought another woman home for him to play with. Doesn't sound like it, though. I think you need to move on and find a guy who wants to fuck you more often.
/r/askMRP20/08/15 04:04 PM
2

My advice to every wife would be to suck her husband's dick enthusiastically as often as possible and then watch as the marriage magically improves. Tell him you'll suck his cock every night if he lays off the porn. If he'd rather watch porn than get his dick sucked, he has a problem. Edit: or maybe you're not as attractive as you think you are.
/r/askMRP19/08/15 07:12 PM
1

I appreciate it! It is scary but the world didn't end last night. She doesn't like what I've laid out but I think she realizes that her situation would be worse if she divorced me.
/r/askMRP19/08/15 04:46 PM
1

We're both familiar with it and she "wants" to do the Dave Ramsey thing... but actions > words
/r/askMRP19/08/15 04:45 PM
2

Mainly the spending. The jacked up receipt is just an added irritant.
/r/askMRP17/08/15 11:22 PM
1

What do you do about savings, rainy day funds, etc? She "wants" to save for a house, vacations, cars, etc. if I just give her her paychecks then all of our savings will be my contributions only.
/r/askMRP17/08/15 11:21 PM
2

Josh Brolin in No Country For Old Men was the guy I thought of when I started reading MRP. CARLA JEAN What's in the satchel? MOSS It's fulla money. CARLA JEAN That'll be the day. CARLA JEAN Where'd you get the pistol? MOSS At the gettin' place. CARLA JEAN Did you buy that gun? MOSS No. I found it. CARLA JEAN Llewelyn... MOSS What? Quit yer hollerin'. CARLA JEAN What'd you give for that thing? MOSS You don't need to know everything, Carla Jean. CARLA JEAN I need to know that. MOSS You keep runnin…
/r/askMRP17/08/15 05:57 PM
1

I get that my weak-ass leading has failed and that it's time for step 2. I'm trying to decide what the best step 2 is. I appreciate the thoughts and I definitely realize it's my fault.
/r/askMRP17/08/15 05:52 PM
1

I'm extremely pissed off. Trying to "hold frame," etc. Already preparing myself to stay cool and calm during the meltdown talk. I don't really want to talk about it with her because talking never helps anything. Thanks for the thoughts.
/r/askMRP17/08/15 04:06 PM
3

I couldn't agree more. I am a newbie here but I've read the sidebar, nmmng, mmsl, and I'm working through the Cambodian jungle density of wisnifg. I was familiar with pua principles from a long time ago, and I was pretty alpha before I got married and figured I had to compromise, sacrifice, and beta up to make marriage work. To me, this place is a godsend. When I started posting, I was told to read the sidebar, quit victim puking and stop posting daily updates. But I ALSO got incredibly valuable…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/15 12:19 PM
1

It is great and I have showed it to her, she appreciates the effort but hates the concept of having to budget. (Sigh.) Oldest teenager, etc. I will try a couple of more times but I think ultimately I'm just going to have to close our joint account and take over. She will insist on controlling "her" money from her job and just fuck it all away.
/r/askMRP13/08/15 02:47 PM
1

Working through it now, thanks.
/r/askMRP13/08/15 02:46 PM
2

I may or may not have ADHD too. If I do, it's not the traditional, "absent-minded professor" kind, but this sort of hyperfocus ADD where I am really good at unitasking and lousy at multitasking. I have had trouble being consistently fit throughout my adult life. I will go on a fitness/diet tear and get ripped, and then I will completely fall off the wagon and get fat again. This is partially because I have always believed that "moderation" was a worthy goal and I'd try to develop some program wh…
/r/askMRP13/08/15 03:58 AM
1

Correct, it is a frilly shower curtain and we already have plenty of shower curtains.
/r/askMRP13/08/15 03:48 AM
6

I have two kids and I'm planning to get a vasectomy as soon as I can afford it. IDGAF whether my wife approves of the idea or not. Once it's done, I can fuck her rawdog without any worries whatsoever and if we break up, I can bareback all that new pussy too.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 10:16 PM
1

She works part time, or will starting next month. She never had to budget in her life before we got married and is irritated that she has to do it. She has a princess mentality about some things and this is one of them. She thinks that "financially comfortable" or "middle class" means "no worries about budgeting."
/r/askMRP12/08/15 10:12 PM
1

She didn't intend for it to be within her $50 "anything" category.
/r/askMRP12/08/15 10:09 PM
1

She does have $50/month she can spend on anything she wants, so I'm planning on assigning it to that category.
/r/askMRP12/08/15 08:31 PM
1

We've talked at length about our vision for the future, saving up for a new house, college funds, new cars, etc. She is totally on board with all that and gets emotional because we "don't have enough savings," etc. However, when the rubber meets the road, she doesn't really want to budget or postpone buying anything she wants at that moment. I'm more amused by it than anything but I'm pretty sure she will spend any discretionary income she's allowed to have.
/r/askMRP12/08/15 08:30 PM
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Met with a divorce lawyer yesterday to get my shit together in case things go nuclear. The law is not on my side--if we divorce, wife would most likely be named primary caregiver and get the kids most of the time, and my income level is the worst possible for child support as a percentage of my resources. Whee. However, I don't really have to run any dread game because I'm pretty sure my wife is terrified of the idea of divorce. I had previously told her (like an idiot) that I wouldn't leave her…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 09:08 PM
1

Yeah, that's true. Is there any way he can tell her he expects any gratitude without it being a covert contract?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/15 01:57 PM
0

I'm new here so evaluate my thoughts accordingly... First of all, congratulations on your exceptional achievement. You manned up like a boss and took care of your family. You have earned the sense of pride you feel. I also feel like you have earned a blowjob (or whatever is your favorite sex thing) once a day for six months. Your wife doesn't seem to share that sentiment, at least not today. Your post made me ragey and you have every right to be monumentally pissed off by your wife's ungrateful,…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/15 12:25 PM
1

tl;dr I fucked up again by talking. But I also held frame and handled shit. Started lifiting again. Got a nice morning BJ. May be heading for divorce, maybe turned corner. Who knows? My attitude is IDGAF. What I Learned (Again) This Week: STFU. After our first budget meeting went off the rails and my wife again brought up how "devastated" she was by our confrontation from two weeks ago, I decided (like an idiot) to address several issues. So the next day, I calmly told my wife that: we either ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 04:03 PM
3

Great post. I've been looking back on almost 10 years of marriage and the times I've tried to sit down "maturely" and discuss something with my wife, see what was bothering her, "work out" a conflict, etc. I'd say at least 90% of the time, the conversation does not make things any better and generally makes things worse. I'm now looking back and wondering why the hell I tried to talk with my wife about these various things. It does no good. STFU and Amused Mastery are my two goals in every "disc…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 11:33 AM
1

Good thoughts here, as always. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 09:17 PM
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I didn't think he was deconstructing his wife's emotions because he felt bad about it. I think he's more like a parent coming to a parenting forum, and saying, "OK so I tried all these techniques you suggested to get little Johnny to eat his vegetables. But he went apeshit and threw the vegetables all over the kitchen. Then he felt bad about it and said he was sorry. Which, well, he's still not eating vegetables, so what now?" OP is trying to assert his frame in some specific ways now. I don't t…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 09:13 PM
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I appreciate the thoughts, but damn, is it possible for me to post without being accused of "seeking validation?" I'm seeking help. If I fucked it all up, tell me. I'm trying to learn this sexual strategy, emphasis on "strategy." And while I don't like it when my wife's pissy, I certainly don't think I'm overly invested in her emotions. I'm pretty much in IDGAF mode right now. Last night's talk didn't bother me much at all. I just don't like being around her when she's like that and I was wonder…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 09:09 PM
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I don't like the "yes or no" dynamic because I think it reinforces her tendency to think like a princess. I'm sure she did this with her dad when she was growing up, and I'm equally sure he never said no. And she certainly gets pissy whenever I say no. I want her to start being accountable and not just stand in the corner and stamp her feet when she can't have something shiny. If we were going to have a parent-child dynamic like that, I'd rather just take over all the money and give her an allow…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 01:14 PM
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FIL is not a prick; he's the sweetest man in the world. He's also classic blue pill. MIL runs the show in that house, so I'd be talking to her when I talk to them.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 11:27 AM
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Terrific FR. Great info. After you dissed your MIL's "happy wife" trope in front of your wife and son, I expected your wife to throw a fit later. Instead, she thanked you and woke you up to suck your dick. Amazing.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 11:26 AM
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Can I subscribe to /u/jacktenofhearts's posts? Fantastic stuff. This resonates with me, a lot. My MIL is not a narcissist at all, but she is strong-willed and opinionated and unquestionably the dominant leader of her husband and house. My MIL has also been depressed her entire adult life. Being in charge of her family and hectoring my poor sweet blue pill FIL has not helped her achieve any measure of happiness. My wife recognizes all this, but still tries to emulate her mother and has often trie…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 11:23 AM
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We have the money but it was going to make it really tight to make it till Friday. It was too late to cancel the appointment so we were going to be charged either way.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 07:55 PM
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Is that the red pill move, to tell her parents not to give her any more money? I'm 99.7% positive that would not work.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 07:54 PM
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Sent my wife a detailed budget showing that I will be paying for absolute necessities and that anything else, including cell phones, TV/internet, and our weekly housekeeper was on her. After not doing shit about getting a new job all summer, suddenly she's updated her resume and sending it out. Problem is that she still uses her parents as a financial safety net. Our account is getting low and we have to tighten up until we both get paid on Friday. She's taking our son to a specialist today and …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 03:48 PM
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Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 03:30 PM
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You agreed in your initial thread that you would post no more than weekly, and only valuable content. Then you came out with these daily updates. I suggest you do some introspection on why you did that, as this should help you in your journey. I honestly don't remember anyone telling me to post weekly or less and I don't remember agreeing to that. But if I did, I just forgot about it. In any event, I will abide by the policy. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 03:29 PM
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I don't agree with this policy but I will honor it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 03:10 PM
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I have no flair, so evaluate my comments accordingly. I firmly believe that the hall pass is a gambit by your wife to (1) absolve herself of her previous sins and (2) allow her to rationalize cheating on you in the future. Absolutely #1, probably #2. You say in one of the other comments that you were on a "break" when she fucked the other dudes. What does that mean? If you were not together at the time, it wasn't cheating, so why are you both acting as if it was? Why would she lie about it all t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 05:58 PM
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I like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 06:03 PM
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Just saw this one. Thanks again for all the time and energy you spent on this. I will try to repay it by being an Oak for my family and then someday passing it on to someone else. As I said in another post, there will be clashes no matter what I do. And my concern with just doing, instead of talking about it first, is that she will accuse me of being "passive-aggressive," which I hate. I scrupulously try to avoid that. But let's take another Grand Plan I have, which is to take over our finances.…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 05:58 PM
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Good points all around. This is very helpful. I need to focus less on the power struggle and more with improving things. I get that, I really do. But I can promise you that no matter what I do, or how I do it, there is going to be epic resistance. That time she bought the thing online? I didn't object that she bought it. I didn't object that she wanted to return it. I objected that she expected me to return it for her. I get those kinds of "compliance tests" all the time, including that exact sa…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 05:01 PM
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Could be.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 03:22 AM
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This is all superb advice. Quite honestly, I'm not sure I know how to be an empathic leader. My dad -- who was red pill as fuck in a lot of ways -- let my mom (and me) pretty much do what we wanted, unless it was something he felt strongly about. Then it was "his way or the highway," period. That's pretty much the way I've been approaching it, I guess. But of course my goal was to pack less stuff, not "win" the battle of wills. So I will try to take that approach when I try to lead and get resis…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 01:27 AM
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This is an incredibly insightful post. That is exactly how I felt when all this went down. I was incredibly hurt and angry over the career ultimatum and while I didn't wake up one day and say, "I'm going to have an internet affair today," I didn't really think much about it when things started to escalate. It was exciting. (And, of course, I didn't think it would last very long, and I didn't think I'd get caught.) I think I've owned all of this both to my wife and too myself. I understand that s…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 01:22 AM
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Once again, thanks for taking the time to lay this all out. I'll respond as best I can. I really, really liked my wife before we got married. Never tired of her company. I still like her when she is not being whiny, or critical, or complaining. Those times have become quite rare. Have I ever gotten over the divorce/career ultimatum? That's a tough question to answer. I don't consciously feel angry about it, I've forgiven my wife and I've recognized that her concerns were valid. All of which I ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 01:12 AM
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I really appreciate you taking the time to write this. I will absorb and respond. Good words all around.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 08:40 PM
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She has good ideas and is fairly reasonable most of the time, but she has not demonstrated much competence in implementing her own plans. She is fond of telling me how "overwhelmed" she is. She desperately needs a leader but does not seem to want one. Before we got together, I am not sure my wife had ever been held accountable for anything, ever. She will often claim I am treating her like a child when I treat her like an adult. Recently she ordered something online, it arrived, she decided she …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 08:15 PM
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I don't really understand this post. I am certainly not consciously attempting to incite anger/resentment. What I am doing is no longer doing things just because she asks me to or because I think it will make her happy. My wife constantly asks me for little favors that she is perfectly capable of doing herself. A big favorite of hers is the 5pm text, asking me if I wouldn't mind [insert errand] on the way home. This has continued this summer even though she is not working. She does this to her r…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 03:45 PM
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One of the greatest articles I have ever read. Perfectly incisive and insightful. Makes me want to kick myself for letting go of my natural alpha instincts and giving up commitment in exchange for sex. Also demonstrates with absolute clarity how crucial it is for there always to be the THREAT of the marriage breaking up. When the woman believes you will never leave her, no matter what, she doesn't "act right." (cf. Patrice O'Neal) Thanks for posting.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 02:15 PM
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Makes a lot of sense, especially after she woke me up at 6am to fuck this morning. That has only happened once or twice before, and it was in the first year of our marriage. I have been walking an hour a day for the past month and will join a gym on August 1. I have lifted on an off my whole life and I've got some significant muscle mass. Looking forward to hulking up again and shredding my dad bod.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 02:13 PM
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I'm new at this but damn, this seems like a deal breaker. However, IF you decide to stay and keep trying, at the very least, you have to refuse her next chore/errand/request/command. She's ordering you around like a servant. The next time she does this, simply say, "No," with no qualification or explanation. Laugh and walk away from any escalation. Record the conversation if you can. You must break that cycle if there is to be any hope.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 02:11 PM
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We have discussed the concept of the Captain/First Officer before. When I admitted I thought it was a good dynamic for a marriage, she was aghast. She finds the idea repugnant and believes marriage should be an "equal partnership." I have spent the past 10 years "consulting" with my wife on just about everything. I have studiously avoided telling her what to do in any circumstance. She still believes I am a selfish overbearing control freak who just wants to be in absolute command, all the time.…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 05:01 AM
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I will sit down with her parents and politely tell them that the sugar train needs to end. If they continue to ignore, I will hire babysitters and thank them for their service. I will respond to insults and accusations as an oak. If she changes the locks I will change them right back. She's not legally allowed to lock me out of my own house. Then if I haven't already, I will cut off all her access to our finances. I have already told her that I don't respond well to ultimatums and that she's alr…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 04:12 AM
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You should think about a portable voice recorder that you can secretly switch on whenever something like this happens. It will be valuable for the divorce settlement.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 03:16 AM
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WISNIFG is on its way; I have read the other two.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 03:05 AM
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The amazing thing about this is that if the roles were reversed, you'd be looking at jail time and divorce rape. Fuck dude, that sucks. Good job not losing your cool and breaking her neck. Interested to hear the MRP responses.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 02:29 AM
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I already do the grocery shopping, usually, so I will stop buying junk as well. The main problem for our health and our budget is fast food, so I will have to reign in my wife's (and my in-laws') tendency to just go through the drive-thru when the kids are hungry. None of us are in shape. I started walking an hour a day a few weeks ago and we're going to join a gym after August 1. My wife looks great to me but wants to lose some. One of my sons eats like a horse and is a little chunky; my other …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 08:37 PM
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Appreciate that. I will have the discussion face to face. And I will approach it as a leader, not an autocrat.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 05:35 PM
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Yeah, I'm figuring out that email is beta, huh? Thanks. I will have the discussion face to face and present it as a leader and not an autocrat.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 05:33 PM
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I certainly can do it face to face, and now that I've gotten some feedback here, that is how I will do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 05:32 PM
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I agree that $1,200 is a ridiculous number. It's also significantly less than what we are currently spending. My wife doesn't cook much and neither do I, and so there's been a lot of eating out. This will be a good place to start.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 04:02 PM
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Good words, thanks. My problem is that I am usually not present when they watch the kids so I can't lead in person like that. It will have to be some sort of instruction (or else just start hiring babysitters).
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 02:31 PM
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I love this option because it will embarrass the holy fuck out of the wife. It will probably cause a massive hissy fit but it will also ensure that kind of thing never happens again.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 02:28 PM
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Looking forward to MRP's responses on this one because that is fucking bullshit. AND it's the second time she's directly defied one of your decisions.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 02:57 AM
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Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/15 05:50 PM
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This is a great post. Thanks for taking the time to walk through all of it. I think you're right about almost everything (except her dad is a classic blue pill--I don't really think she's ever had much authority exerted over her).
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/15 05:03 PM
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Serious question--how was what I did a temper tantrum? She was giving me shitty comments right and left, I told her to knock it off or I was going to leave her at home because I didn't want to listen to it any more. Should I have just ignored her? It was awfully disrespectful IMO. I am reading the sidebar stuff and making changes. This is one of them. Before I would have never said anything about the ridiculous overpacking. She tends to throw a fit whenever I do anything like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 04:40 PM
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