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| 4 | Social Status is KingAwesome man, but you should also note that while social status is super important, the context is fairly different when you're doing an exchange program or simply just traveling. It's an easier type of game because the women in these situations are actively looking to make friends, go out, socialize, meet new people, and get with guys whereas when you're in your home city, women have routines that they follow and established friend groups which are harder to crack. At home they're more intereste… | /r/seduction | 10/02/20 06:24 PM |
| 1 | How long should a first date be?Depends what your intentions are, but mine typically go for an hour and a half before I ask them if they want to come over. I find it's a good amount of time for the girl to get comfortable enough with you on a first date to consider sleeping with you. | /r/seduction | 01/10/19 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Turn ONS into FWB and avoiding relationshipWell when you simply texted her saying that if she wants to meet up again, to just text you and then left it that, it may have been a bit too harsh and incongruent with the night you guys had. It sounds like you guys had a fairly intimate night and got fairly close with all the cuddling and passionate sex so for you to do that 180 and be like yeah just text me when you're horny, for her it goes against what she was feeling which is why she is asking if she did anything wrong. Some girls just are… | /r/seduction | 24/09/19 06:34 PM |
| 2 | UPDATE TO: Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededYeah I'm pretty sure my state last night played a big role too. Had not been on a first date since this post since I had to deal with several flakes and reschedules over the past week so I guess I wasn't my top self. Definitely need to focus on pumping myself up before my next date tonight and on ensuring I'm making good conversation. It's funny, when you think you've locked it down, you find you've still got lots to learn. But that's what makes the chase so fun! | /r/seduction | 24/09/19 04:53 PM |
| 1 | UPDATE TO: Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededDon't know if you would've seen an edit, so I'm making a second response here. I just had another first date last night with a girl in this exact situation. She got to the bar before I did and chose a one-sided booth and I thought it wasn't going to be a big deal so I didn't suggest changing tables, but as soon as I arrived, I greeted her and then told her to scooch over because I don't want it to feel like an interview, but then I found that I was having similar problems to when I was in my slu… | /r/seduction | 24/09/19 04:19 PM |
| 1 | UPDATE TO: Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededAlways someone out there to look for the negatives in something. Looks help with the initial attraction, but won't do anything for you on a date without game. My advice works for anyone that has reached this point in their game, regardless of looks, because if you already got the date, then the initial attraction is already there. One thing to note: I see the date as a success if it goes well, not just getting laid. That means even if it just ends with a kiss. The point of a first date is to see… | /r/seduction | 14/09/19 09:30 PM |
| 1 | UPDATE TO: Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededI haven't had to deal with one-sided booths so I haven't encountered this specific issue yet, but I guess that's something to consider, yeah. Maybe avoid those kinds of specific booths? I mean a normal table is just as good as a booth as long as you are able to sit next to her and the table allows it (6 seater table rather than 4 or 2 seater) | /r/seduction | 14/09/19 02:14 AM |
| 1 | Tinder is a huge waste of time unless it is your only source for contact with womenYou need to establish more of a connection before getting the number. This will filter out the ones that'll give you their number, but eventually ghost you because they don't feel any connection with you. Talk about going on a date before getting the number. Even try to schedule it before that. Once you can tell she's invested enough in you on the app, talk about the date and get the number and then move to texting. | /r/seduction | 14/09/19 01:02 AM |
| 1 | UPDATE TO: Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededHaha what do you want to learn? | /r/seduction | 14/09/19 12:53 AM |
| 2 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededThanks for the tips! I'll try to implement them in my next date. Since I made this post, I've learned through your comments and my own self-reflection that the main issue I'm having is actually a lack of sufficient confidence during the dates which is manifesting itself in my behaviour and which is what the girls are picking up on subconsciously or maybe even consciously and consequently making them uncomfortable or just turning them off. My worry about kino for example is one that stems from be… | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededGood for you man, I'm surprised you found the time to waste my time when you're apparently overbooked. You're trying to make it sound like you came here to help, but when you came into the conversation, you simply stated that my "beliefs are rotten" and then didn't offer any value in the form of actual help in how to solve my problem. I hope you're not in any position of authority in your life because if that's how you interact with people looking for help, then I feel bad for them. If you think… | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededSo what's the difference between kino which is physically escalating on a girl with the intention of making her feel good and making a girl feel good via touch? It sounds like the same thing to me. Yes, I'm trying to get laid and so is every other guy on this subreddit and on this planet. I do it with the understanding of what kinds of things girls are attracted to which is what game and seduction is all about. Your whole tone in this interaction is ironic considering the success I've already ha… | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 06:38 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededAs insincere as that wish is, that's all you ever should have said since the beginning since you have not been able to offer anything else even remotely close to value in this interaction | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededSo you are telling me that ending a date with a kiss is not a way to know if a date went well??? How can that be pickup conditioning? I'm pretty sure that is an obvious indicator that things went well for anybody, male or female, pickup or non-pickup. If a date ends with a kiss, that's a pretty successful date because it means the girl likes you. You're the only person I've ever seen argue that that isn't an indicator of success. Well those words certainly aren't for you if you're so uptight abo… | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 05:34 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededWell I am just trying to get laid, that's why I'm on these hookup apps. And to be able to get laid, you have to know what you are doing otherwise it will never happen. The key is how to make it happen through seduction, which is what I'm trying to improve with this post and call for advice here. And success is literally achieving the goals you set out to achieve and my goals are to ideally get laid on the first date, but ultimately to leave a good enough impression on the girl that the date ends… | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 04:21 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededSo you're saying rather than try to lead the body language, I should mirror hers and that doing this will make her feel the connection through body language and will subconsciously lead to more attraction and a natural desire to get closer. You know it's funny, in my second success story, I realized the girl wasn't as attractive as she was in her profile so that might have subconsciously made me more relaxed and less worried about how everything was going since I didn't care as much which may ha… | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 03:57 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededI mean, in every date I have the same thing going through my mind: keep the conversation flowing, be confident, ask questions, tease when I can, try to establish some kino, and then invite her over to my place. I always pay attention to body language so when I notice IOIs or negative body language, I think about it. I don't know if it affects my behaviour afterwards or not, but it's definitely something that I think about. I don't see much of a difference between what I was like when I was havin… | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededThe only reason I am looking at myself as the explanation for the failures I've been having recently is because it's pretty out of character for me. Of course not every date is going to go right, but I've been having too many that have been going wrong recently so naturally, I'm trying to look for an explanation and I'm the only consistent variable at play so it only makes sense that it's something I'm doing. I think for the next time, I will make sure to have a more confident greeting (as per w… | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 03:18 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededThere is some truth to what you are saying, but with regards to the actual dates themselves, we always have lots of interesting stuff to talk about, both in general and about my life so I don't think it's so much about the topics of conversation. The only thing I could think of is maybe the fact that I'm currently living a boring life and that radiates off of me subconsciously so I have no idea that this could be causing it, but again, looking back at how I was doing before I went to Southeast A… | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededOh trust me, I am thankful every day that I have been able to reach the point that I have in my game and that I am able to go on dates in the first place because I know many guys struggle to even get dates. I never once take it for granted. I agree that I analyze the situation maybe a bit too much when I'm in it, but it is also quite useful to read body language. I've learned to pick up IOIs very easily after going on so many dates and meeting so many girls so it would be hard for my brain to ig… | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 01:55 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededI don't know where you're getting the idea that I'm taking them on formal dates lol I never once said I go on dinner dates. In fact, I would never go on a dinner date. I'm talking about going out for a drink which is a super casual date idea. I've tried inviting them over for wine or netflix or any other similar excuse, but most want to meet in public first to make sure I'm not crazy so that's why I do dates first. Also don't have a pool so that wouldn't work anyways. Do you have any tips for th… | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 01:23 AM |
| 2 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededI think coming off as a nice guy is something I've struggled with as well and the point you make about caring too much that I express insecurity and worry may be a valid one, but I wasn't always that way. I think it may be coming off that way now just because of the problems I've been having with these recent dates and not understanding why it's not working anymore. But like I said, this formula of going out for drinks and then bringing her back to mine or going for the kiss-close has worked qui… | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededBut I never once asked her if she wanted to come over to my place and she told me she felt like we didn't click from the moment we said hi to each other so I don't think it has anything to do with looking for a boyfriend. In fact, I was trying to avoid giving the impression that I was just looking for something casual throughout the whole interaction with her from match to date | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 12:48 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with having successful first dates, advice neededHis advice doesn't help much. He says to go on dates where you can sit and have a conversation and that's exactly what I'm doing with grabbing a drink at a bar. I'm asking for advice on how to have a successful first date like that. He also suggests inviting them to parties or including them in certain activities you're already doing, but as I stated, my current work and life situation doesn't give me opportunities like that and grabbing a drink is just the easiest thing to do and the thing that… | /r/seduction | 06/09/19 12:30 AM |
| 1 | Has Tinder gotten worse for actually getting dates?I see. So basically whenever you see an IG username in a girl's profile on Tinder/Bumble, you prefer opening her on IG, even if you've already matched her. I might have to give that a try. | /r/seduction | 21/11/18 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Has Tinder gotten worse for actually getting dates?What's your response to that? And what if you match them on Tinder/Bumble too? Do you still prefer messaging them on IG instead? Or do you try the Tinder/Bumble route since she's already shown interest towards you there by swiping right? | /r/seduction | 20/11/18 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Has Tinder gotten worse for actually getting dates?Has any girl mentioned seeing/matching you on Tinder/Bumble or are you saying you do this with any girl on IG? | /r/seduction | 20/11/18 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Has Tinder gotten worse for actually getting dates?Willing to share your opener? | /r/seduction | 20/11/18 07:50 AM |
| 1 | Tinder hookups according to this tinder chick I've been seeing, uhh what?The 2 rules are: Be attractive Don't be unattractive I didn't make this up so don't hate me for it lol. But it's true, you need to be attractive and portray it well on your profile to get matches because after all, Tinder is pretty much all about looks to begin with. And yeah, I'm currently in Vancouver. I don't see Toronto being any different. In fact, I think Toronto would be better than Vancouver. I don't know if other guys are having the same success, I just do my own thing. But like I said,… | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Tinder hookups according to this tinder chick I've been seeing, uhh what?The 2 golden rules and also portraying it well with my profile, being in an Anglophone country and big city where hookup culture is normalized, and having a good routine for my matches. In the past 3 weeks since I restarted my account, I've gotten 111 matches and 9 numbers. The # of numbers might seem low, but the girls that aren't dtf on the first date typically don't respond to my call-to-action since I essentially invite them over to mine on the first date, but that's what helps filter them o… | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 07:53 AM |
| 1 | Tinder hookups according to this tinder chick I've been seeing, uhh what?Enough to fill up a week with dates every night and still have a "waitlist", per say. It actually really helps with dealing with flakes and ghosts because I just move on to the next girl if one does ghost or flake and it doesn't bother me at all | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 07:09 AM |
| 2 | Has Tinder gotten worse for actually getting dates?True, but if you really are going for the ones that actually just forgot to start the conversation or didn't have time or something, then referencing the match is better than simply contacting them randomly. I would think, at least! | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 06:17 AM |
| 3 | Has Tinder gotten worse for actually getting dates?If I can be frank with you, I don't think that's the best opener in this situation haha. I would reference the fact that she liked you on Bumble so that there is some context to the fact that you're DMing her on Instagram. The only issue is not making it seem like you're so worried that she won't send that first message and that you'll lose the match which is why you're contacting her on Insta. I just haven't thought of a good opener that avoids giving off that image, but that still acknowledges… | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 05:48 AM |
| 2 | Has Tinder gotten worse for actually getting dates?lol what's the typical response to that? | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 05:37 AM |
| 3 | Has Tinder gotten worse for actually getting dates?Didn't see that part, good point. Obviously it's all relative. Don't know why it's not working for him now, but I was just sharing my experience of not paying and yet still having success, so it can't be about paying either. Not sure why it's not working for him anymore. Edit: maybe it's because he's only swiping on super hot girls, as he said. Obviously, the hotter they are, the more unlikely it is that you'll get a response | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 05:36 AM |
| 7 | Has Tinder gotten worse for actually getting dates?That's true, you know they are at least interested in you since they swiped right on you in the first place. But what's your opener in that situation? | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 04:45 AM |
| 6 | Has Tinder gotten worse for actually getting dates?Have you done / do you do it? | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 04:39 AM |
| 16 | Has Tinder gotten worse for actually getting dates?People don't want to accept that it's not about paying vs not paying. Tinder really comes down to whether or not you are attractive physically (and if you portray that well enough in your profile) and your method for getting the date once you have a match. If your profile is not good enough, you will never get any dates no matter how much money you give Tinder | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 04:35 AM |
| 19 | Has Tinder gotten worse for actually getting dates?I've heard of people actually using the fact that girls include their IG usernames in their bio to their advantage and to DM them there and get dates with them that way. I personally have never tried it since I can't imagine girls like getting unsolicited messages, but maybe I'm wrong. Anyways, I have heard of guys having success so it's probably possible | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 03:46 AM |
| -9 | Has Tinder gotten worse for actually getting dates?I have not paid for Tinder. Am getting too many dates | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 03:39 AM |
| 3 | Tinder hookups according to this tinder chick I've been seeing, uhh what?I give a funny/cheeky opener to make them laugh, after they respond I ask them how their week or weekend is going, then have a conversation about something interesting (in my case, it's the fact that I just came back from Europe. I also ask them if they've ever been and we chat a bit about traveling). When enough of a comfort level has been established (usually about 20 messages exchanged), I ask "so do you like wine?". Most times they say yes and my follow up is "In that case, we should split a… | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Tinder hookups according to this tinder chick I've been seeing, uhh what?Yeah, Anglophone culture is definitely the best when it comes to hookups | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 03:09 AM |
| 4 | Tinder hookups according to this tinder chick I've been seeing, uhh what?I am from Vancouver and I lived in Munich for a year and I can totally attest to that. I had such a hard time finding girls who were dtf on the first date on tinder. The only times it did happen, it was because she was a tourist, a slut, or I just got really lucky. Here in Vancouver, a lot of them are down for wine at my place and my problem is that I don't have enough time in a week to meet all the girls that give me their numbers. Granted, my approach is a little different now and I'm a bit mo… | /r/seduction | 18/11/18 05:27 PM |
| 1 | How to open girls that add you first on Facebook ? (or other social media)I usually say something along the lines of "Hey [name], you'll have to remind me where we met because I don't remember 🙈" | /r/seduction | 21/09/18 08:56 AM |
| 1 | A guide to having fun & hooking up at festivalsI'll be there too, let me know if you wanna meet up and see if we can game together! | /r/seduction | 31/07/18 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Pulling chicks from Tinder / Dating Apps: A simple guidePerfect, thank you! This has been one of my sticking points and I wasn't sure how I should proceed. Quality post. | /r/seduction | 29/07/18 06:26 AM |
| 5 | Pulling chicks from Tinder / Dating Apps: A simple guideGreat post, just one thing that I'm hoping you can clarify which is if the response to your invitation is the hesitant pause followed by an excuse, what exactly do you mean by "chase the night and try and change the opinion if you think you can really show her a really good time out on the town to prove why you have value"? I'm not quite sure what you're trying to say. | /r/seduction | 28/07/18 11:28 AM |
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