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No. They asked how you weed them out in the first place. What you’re talking about is when you’re already living with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 03:09 PM
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Yes. I agree with all of this. I haven’t argued otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 06:50 PM
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For those who can, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 04:42 PM
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Yeah it’s pretty obvious OP posted this in hopes of reconfirming their biases.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 03:10 PM
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No I mean anatomically they just can’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 02:42 PM
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Yes but skill doesn’t supersede anatomy. My point is that it doesn’t matter how skilled you are, some women cannot and will never orgasm from penetration.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 12:46 AM
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It cannot be merely a skill issue, as a significant percentage of women cannot achieve orgasm solely from penetrative sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 11:27 PM
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Most women cannot orgasm from sex unlike men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 09:00 PM
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OP I love how you just had to throw in that humble brag!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:03 PM
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Sorry I can’t help myself, but why do you randomly capitalize words?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 07:56 PM
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I would take generalizations from bitter men on here with a grain of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 07:53 PM
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Sometimes it’s because they personally would never smile at anybody unless they’re trying to signal that they want to fuck them. So it’s impossible for them to understand that some people smile to be nice and not because they’re horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 06:29 PM
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Okay. Can you help me understand why it gets said a lot then? What is the goal? To me it just sounds like they want a pat on the back. Oh and I do not represent the entire group of women. I’m not special.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 05:41 PM
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Men do it to. They love to virtue signal how less shallow they are by mentioning how they would fuck fat/ugly women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:14 PM
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How many women do you know that complain about marriage benefiting men more while simultaneously pursuing a guy to marry them?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 02:33 PM
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If a woman is pressuring a man into marriage, it’s because she sees a benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 02:32 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/Marriage/comments/1l8raxr/do_men_find_their_wives_less_attractive_as_she/?utm_source=chatgpt.com https://np.reddit.com/r/AskMenOver30/comments/1hyobvp/are_you_guys_still_attracted_to_your_wives/?utm_source=chatgpt.com https://np.reddit.com/r/Marriage/comments/1h7qhw8/men_who_are_older_and_have_been_married_a_good/?utm_source=chatgpt.com The comments in these posts should give you plenty of real life examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:12 PM
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And both are just as pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:50 PM
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Post pic?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 01:55 PM
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Normal humans are perfectly capable of being friends with the opposite gender. Those with issues cannot. These same people project and will try to convince you that everyone is like them. Do not listen to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 01:51 PM
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Would you say you’re objectively attractive? Have women told you you’re good in bed? Are you bigger than average?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:44 PM
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I have no idea how those women do it. My husband is the biggest, the best, and the hottest I’ve ever been with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:33 PM
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Nobody is attracted to literally everyone. That’s not how attraction works. Most people find some attractive, some neutral, some not at all. Saying you “guess so” just makes it sound like you don’t actually mean it. If someone really was into 99.9% of people, that wouldn’t be normal, it would be creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 09:33 PM
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If my husband decided to clean our room for us, I would be super stoked too!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 09:24 PM
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This is homophobic! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 03:37 PM
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Gotcha. Would you say you find 99.9% of women to be attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 03:31 PM
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You don’t find any women disgusting?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 02:52 PM
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But I thought you said that isn’t loneliness, it’s depression or needing a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 06:41 PM
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I hope things get better for you ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:47 PM
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Your logic is flawed. Assault isn’t caused by clothing or independence, it’s caused by the person choosing to commit the crime. If your reasoning checked out, then children, modestly dressed women, or men wouldn’t be assaulted, yet they are. And let’s say you were right, all it would really say is that men are so incapable of self control that women have to constantly manage men’s impulses by restricting how they live. That paints men as predatory and dangerous by default, which is false and ins…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:17 PM
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I have an entire folder of screenshots for this exact reason. It always does the job and gets them to shut up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:08 PM
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No woman was ever more attracted to me because I called it out, though, so I see why somewhat decent men don’t really see the point of calling it out often. You think women are asking you to call out other men just so you can be attractive to them? Lmaooo this is hilarious. You sound like the main character. Women do not have men brains. Just because everything you do revolves around women and their approval doesn’t mean women are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:32 PM
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I wonder how many women can confidently say “I’ve been harassed/attacked more while walking with bf than when I’ve been alone.”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 11:44 PM
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The OP asked a direct question and I gave a direct answer. I’m not arguing for legal or moral consequences, just answering whether victims are always blameless. That’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 11:39 PM
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So what? OP asked, and I responded. It’s not illegal or immoral to lie to yourself and get preyed on. It is immoral (and sometimes illegal) to prey on others. I never argued otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 11:01 PM
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No, they are not always blameless. Anyone who believes otherwise is full of ish. Sure, there are a lot of people that lack certain awareness, skills, or experiences that would help them avoid toxic dynamics. But there are times where the victim knowingly takes actions that increase their likelihood of experiencing harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 08:38 PM
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Nearly all women wanna fuck chad lol Wanting to fuck and actually getting to fuck are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 07:55 PM
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This is such a convenient way to get out of posting sources! Kudos to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 07:21 PM
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Uhm, I’m just repeating what others have said…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:11 PM
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The most common stereotype I can think of is a fit guy at a military base What does success look like to you? Being in the Army, none of the guys I worked with ever had problems getting women. Not even the “ugly” ones. The majority of them are now married and have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:03 PM
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I wasn’t talking about men finding younger women attractive, that’s human nature. I was referring to the idea that marriage is framed as “accepting” that your husband wants other women more than you, and you’re just the one he settled for. That’s the part that’s disheartening and disinterests people from marriage, not the fact that attraction exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 03:20 PM
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Correct. They don’t care about personality for hooking up. However if you open up any post about age gap differences on Reddit, you will find that the majority of men wouldn’t get in a relationship or marry a 20 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 03:11 PM
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Yet you're still married? thats weird that you accept that yet choose marriage. Do you like being the cuck to younger women he wants to fuck more than you? ^ This exact type of thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 03:06 PM
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Do you like being the cuck to younger women he wants to fuck more than you? This is such a bizarre thing to say to somebody. You must have some serious issues. Edit: profile checks out. Enjoy your new OF subscribers!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 03:04 PM
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Yes. There were some photos that I had posted a long time ago and thought I had deleted them but it turned out that wasn’t the case. But I was able to finally locate them and delete them. I appreciate your input. You gave me a great response in your other comment. It gave me a lot of insight!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 03:33 PM
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What worked?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:59 PM
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It worked? You think I deleted them to trick you? No I deleted them because I no longer wanted my photos on Reddit. You must be bored af.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:59 PM
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The fact you quoted only the first part of the comment and left out the “you’re probably a woman if you ask such stupid questions” bit tells me you know exactly what the hateful part was. So when you said “what hate?” you weren’t confused, you were just pretending.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 01:18 AM
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Choosing the least likely explanation just so you can accuse me of “larping” says more about your need to catch someone in a lie than it does about what actually happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 12:51 AM
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Not really hard to find at all I found it! It was under "Hidden" which only shows up on desktop. I was looking for it on my phone, which is why I couldn't find it. Thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 12:35 AM
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Thanks! Could you share where you found my photos? I remember posting a picture of my haircut and that’s about it. But I can’t find it in my post history anymore…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:57 PM
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It's just that men aren't prone applying social media to the real world. Why the generalization? We all know that people, including men, come on this sub and post social media links and attempt applying it to the real world all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 02:54 PM
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Just compare yourself to the beauty standard. Is your face symmetrical? Is your nose small? Are your eyes large? Are your teeth nice? Do you have clear skin? Are your lips full? Do you have high cheekbones? Do you have a feminine jawline? Are you thin with tits? No. Literally none of this. This sounds like a model.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 02:14 PM
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Got it. Thanks for all the answers guys. You’ve all made me realize that I’m even uglier than I realize 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 02:12 PM
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What I want to know is as a woman, how do you know you’re actually objectively attractive? Based on the attention I got from guys growing up, I assumed I was hot. But then as I got older, I learned even ugly women get attention. Also, I’ve never experienced “pretty privilege” in the sense that I get stuff for free, strangers offer to carry things for me, etc. So because of that, I realize that I’m most likely not as attractive as I thought I was.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 07:29 PM
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You're probably a woman if you ask such stupid question. Really? You’re trying to tell me that this is “sexual admiration?”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:19 PM
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Why the hate?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:31 PM
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You seriously think they’re suddenly going to listen to you and stop? lol of course not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:10 PM
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Do you think this would change if you were very attracted to these men?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:03 PM
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However, that failure will be blamed on personality in order to hide how shallow women are. If it makes it more palatable, men are also shallow, they just don't have as much leverage to pick and choose as women do on average. Pretending to not be shallow has always been so silly to me. I don’t get it. It’s the equivalent of saying you don’t need oxygen. Although, I know what often seems “pretending” can just be a communication gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 05:30 PM
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So it’s “just trust me bro” because science is too hard? Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 03:54 PM
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So many words to say you don’t have any sources.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 03:49 PM
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Yes. You’re presenting a stereotype as if it’s some undeniable fact. Being more expressive doesn’t mean someone is more emotional overall, and being less expressive doesn’t automatically make someone more logical. Research shows women are socialized to express certain emotions more openly, while men are discouraged from doing so. That’s not biology, that’s culture. If your claim is so factual, it should be easy to share your sources. I’m open to discuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 04:45 PM
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Most people (including straight women) are incapable of understanding because the majority of us are obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 04:36 PM
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I would love to learn more about these facts. Can you share your sources?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 04:31 PM
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Y’all must really get an ego boost dishing it on women huh? Like you can’t keep yourself from inserting backhanded comments no matter what’s being discussed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 04:25 PM
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They could be testing double standards. That’s my guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 05:55 PM
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You have misread my comments. I didn’t claim women aren’t more hypergamous on average. I agree with that, yes, it’s supported by both research and experience. What I said was that both men and women can be shallow or hypocritical, just in different ways. Women might prioritize status, and men might prioritize looks. Saying women are more hypergamous in behavior doesn’t mean they’re morally worse, and that’s the distinction I was making. My apologies if that came out as dishonesty, it definitely …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 05:49 PM
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It's been proven that women are more hypergamous than men. It's a fact that would require pretty extraordinary evidence to question at this point. I know women are more hyper famous. I’ve never argued otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 05:17 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 10:10 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 10:05 PM
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It’s not a gotcha. But a good amount of people on this sub think being good/bad (and lots of other traits) is gendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 09:53 PM
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No, you see, unlike women, men are dtf women they think are ugly and fat. This outstanding generosity makes them less shallow than women which they need to be reminded of constantly. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 09:48 PM
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I see where you’re coming from and I agree with most of what you’re saying. Hypergamy is real, both men and women can be shallow and hypocritical. I’ve seen women say they care about personality but still filter hard by status, and I’ve seen men act like they don’t care about anything but then ghost someone over looks. I don’t think either gender is more guilty of it. I think these patterns are worth discussing, but when it turns into blaming women or moral superiority, it stops being about unde…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 03:00 PM
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To me, mid and very unattractive are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 02:13 PM
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You mention “lived male experience” like it’s some kind of universal truth, but your entire worldview is filtered through dating apps and resentment. You’re not describing reality, you’re describing your bubble. Sure, hypergamy might be more visible in women on apps, but pretending that means most women operate that way in real life is just lazy logic. Also no, men don’t get a pass for chasing looks just because they “admit it.” That’s not honesty, that’s deflection. Owning shallow behavior does…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 08:41 PM
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You’re describing your own frustration, not reality. Blaming women for liking attractive men while excusing guys who treat women like collectibles isn’t insight, that’s projection. Men chase looks too. Hypergamy isn’t exclusive to women, it’s human. And saying women “won’t put in effort” while sitting in Reddit threads complaining about rejection is ironic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 07:50 PM
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I guess I just can’t relate. The only person I’m interested in having sex with is my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 07:30 PM
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We will never know. I have a feeling enough men would but they wouldn’t admit to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 06:43 PM
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If this is the case, what’s up with all the bitching about how women are shallow, don’t love conditionally, are hypergamous, etc? Like there are men literally trying to convince us that we are the “worse gender” meanwhile they have no shame about cycling through women like they’re collectibles.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 06:39 PM
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Men can tell women they're hot, either paying her a genuine compliment or to the end of trying to have sex with that woman. Yes, and I’m debating that men in these less than average women’s DMs boosts their ego. However, despite the ego inflation, it shouldn't be confused with men wanting to do anything with that woman outside of sex. Some women get that confused. This isn’t what I was debating. I’m not confused about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 06:02 PM
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If you think the only value someone has is what they provide you, then you’re not looking for connection, you’re looking for utility. That mindset will make every relationship feel empty, no matter the gender. Women offer emotional intimacy, shared experiences, different perspectives, support, laughter, love, and trust. If you genuinely believe those are things only men can offer, maybe the problem isn’t women, it’s that you’ve never had a healthy relationship with one. And please don’t take tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 05:45 PM
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This is a debate sub after all. You’re not trying to debate though, you’re just projecting your pain. You’ve said yourself you feel like a lesser human and get treated badly, and I’m sorry you’re going through that. But turning that into a worldview where women are only valuable as trophies or sex objects isn’t truth. It’s just your way of coping. I hope you get to a place where you don’t need to see others as less just to feel like you matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 05:33 PM
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To get women to admit that all they are is a hole and a trophy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 03:40 PM
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Wrong person. I didn’t post any fire emoji.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 03:39 PM
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Yes they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 03:39 PM
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Okay we are talking about men inflating women’s egos here though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:23 PM
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May I ask, what do you gain?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:56 PM
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Yes. I am fully aware. Thanks for the reminder!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:19 PM
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Don’t ever disrespect me again. And tell your fat cousin to stay away from me Don’t need to. She’s already doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 07:58 PM
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I saw the pictures of the women on there as well as the guys and they’re all pretty mid.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 07:56 PM
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No, she’s overweight. If yes, tell her I’ll smash Why would I tell her some random guy on Reddit wants to smash? You are one silly guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 07:55 PM
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Nope. She’s overweight. Has been since she was a teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 07:53 PM
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If the women are average, and the men are average as well, how is that supposed to be hypergamy?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:56 PM
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Exactly. I have a cousin who is extremely delusional. She’s mentally ill, has zero custody of her daughter, abuses animals, etc. absolute horrible person. But everyone in a while I will look at her IG posts and guys will be in the comments telling her how hot she is. No wonder she thinks she’s a catch 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:49 PM
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Men are so generous they’re willing to have sex with big whales unlike shallow women!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:49 PM
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And that’s a problem for you why?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:46 PM
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It’s also the ones who are mentally ill who speak the loudest.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:45 PM
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I can understand a guy being the deep emotional kind who cares about the inside. Those guys absolutely exist. But to claim that men as a whole are like this is? 😂 OP should be a comedian.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:41 PM
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Women don’t even know what they want until smacks them in the face. Pretty evident through their changing priorities as they age, hormonal BC, etc. Yes, this has been discussed dozens on times on here. What’s your point? Do you want a cookie?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:36 PM
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Men don’t love women either. Just for what they provide. Pussy and a trophy. This is just another delusional take from someone seeking a sense of superiority.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:34 PM
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It’s the internet. Can will find every single take under the sun on here. Why would someone make up something so mundane?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 03:00 PM
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I can’t help but feel like this is what they mean to say, “We’re such good guys, we lower our standards and still have sex with women we don’t find ideal. That makes us better than women, who won’t give average men a chance.”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 07:13 PM
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Can you clarify how your comment addresses what I said? My point was about how often men on this sub say the majority of women are fat, yet consistently talk about how attractive women are, or how much attention they give them. That contradiction was what I was pointing out. Instead, you started venting about what some women supposedly want from men (height, penis size, etc.), which has nothing to do with what I said. If you’re going to respond, at least engage with the point actually being made…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 06:41 PM
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No one is surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:54 PM
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With most American women being fat, I would expect to see less men talk about how they find the majority of women attractive on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:53 PM
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This reminds me of the comments I’ve seen online of men saying if a woman is out in public barely wearing any clothes, she can no longer demand to be respected. That sounds insane to me. I don’t care if someone is running around butt naked. I’m keeping my hands to myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:49 PM
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But I thought friendships with women brought nothing to the table! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 06:15 PM
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Are you referring to the greater male variability hypothesis? Yeah, that shows up in things like IQ and height, but it doesn’t mean men are inherently more individualistic or interesting than women. It just means there’s a wider spread in certain traits, not that women are all carbon copies. We shouldn’t overlook how much cultural pressure diminishes male identity. Men are often taught to behave in very specific, rigid ways, and ironically, that leads to a lot of the sameness people complain abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 06:25 PM
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Women actually do know what they want, however women’s program is to sound politically correct in society. So when they say stuff it’s mostly to please the masses rather than talk about the truth of what they actually want in anything to society. opens the doors and shit. I never knew this about women! I would love to learn more. Can you share your sources?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 06:14 PM
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There’s a set of men here who don’t actually like women, who see women as an adversary, and who have a strong emotional attachment to the idea that being male makes them inherently superior. 🤷‍♀️ some people can’t be helped. You’re totally right about this. There’s nothing more hilarious than someone trying to convince others that they aren’t emotional just because they’re a man. Like no, that’s not how it works. Humans have a wide range of emotions. It’s an inherent part of us. Trying to argue …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 06:02 PM
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It sure seems like it. I can’t imagine spending my time on Reddit frothing at the mouth at any opportunity to talk about all the ways men are beneath me while simultaneously wishing they would have sex with me. I guess it makes sense why a lot of them are so upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 05:48 PM
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You mean just like how men pretend to be less shallow than women to appear more ethical or compassionate?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 05:14 PM
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We get it, we are illogical, indecisive, overly emotional, and very shallow. I don’t get what’s the point of these posts. Idk how we are even supposed to debate them when people clearly have their minds made up. Push back from women is just going to be met with the usual “you’re lying” or “stop virtue signaling!” Edit: looking at the comments, yup, I was right.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 05:07 PM
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This post makes more sense after finding out OP is Indian.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 06:15 PM
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Good thing that wasn’t my point! My point is if people socialized with those of the opposite sex from the time they learn to talk, they won’t struggle talking to them as adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 04:32 PM
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Sure, a woman can lose weight. But once she’s past a certain age, her value goes down to zero and there’s nothing she can do to change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 04:27 PM
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Sure, some men are staying away from those women. Guaranteed they can still find men dtf though. Can’t say the same about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 04:24 PM
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Did these people never talk to anyone as kids? From the age of 3 I had friends of the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 07:17 PM
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Two can play this game. Can’t wait until this cancer mentality ceases to exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 07:02 PM
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Some of us never talk about others in negative ways though. It gets annoying getting lumped in with the same people who are all about an eye for an eye.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 05:11 PM
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They make me realize how good I have it. I feel for them. It must suck having to go your entire life getting zero attention from women while noticing fat ogre women have no problems getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 05:08 PM
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The majority of humans hate themselves. It’s rare to find someone who genuinely loves themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 08:19 PM
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Trying to assign numerical value to something as personal as sex or worth sounds more like a coping mechanism than a show of intellectual strength.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:43 PM
6

Women aren’t any better. I’m glad I’m not a lesbian.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 06:11 AM
5

You seriously think all those women are doing cardio to get jacked like men?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 08:38 PM
4

You’re 19. Why are you worried about 30 year old men?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 06:04 AM
2

Why should he have to do anything? People prioritize things differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 09:03 PM
2

Exactly. Sometimes. This is one of those times where it’s not like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 08:53 PM
1

I get where you’re coming from. I have always had social anxiety and people would always assume I thought I was better than them because I was quiet. However, in reality, it was the opposite. However this guy is telling people to shut the hell up. That’s the part that rubs me the wrong way. I think it’s great you’re willing to overlook that though! It’s good to be compassionate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 07:47 AM
1

So are you just going to completely avoid my question?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 07:33 AM
0

When something gets posted for discussion/debate, minding one’s own business goes out the window. Sure, he is minding his own business. I’m still wondering what exactly is it that makes him awkward though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 07:09 AM
0

You’re trolling right. There’s constantly posts about platonic relationships with the opposite sex and based on the comments, it’s obvious women like having male friends, while the men are the ones who usually don’t see any value in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 06:38 AM
-1

I’m having a hard time understanding why everyone here is calling him awkward. In order to get into that territory, one needs to actually socialize with people. This guy just sounds like a dickhead who thinks he’s better than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 06:36 AM
38

These debates are pointless. Every topic discussed on this sub boils down to “some men” or “some women.”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 06:28 AM
4

No. Its all men. Even the hottest. They’re actually worse than the not so hot ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 07:05 PM
8

No, they’re just saying that they don’t find most men attractive. It seems like that hits a nerve with you. Why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 01:11 PM
4

Correct. Men will date women even though they don’t necessarily like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 01:06 PM
2

The point being is that there are factually a bunch of you here who actively date men WHILE you find typical "stupid male stuff" annoying Sounds like you’ve described the majority of people on here, including men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 09:48 PM
1

I’m referring to when guys do things to avoid scaring women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 02:24 PM
1

Treating women like they need to be coddled is not respecting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 02:04 PM
1

She certainly chose him to have kids with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:41 PM
3

The way you describe it makes it seem like you were expecting her to be a mind reader about you wanting to end the conversation. Unless you say “bye,” if I’m enjoying the conversation, why would I stop talking to you just because I don’t have social media? Also it’s pretty obvious that she was just interested in having a good conversation and nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 03:23 PM
3

Does OP say this is exactly how it went in the comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 03:20 PM
2

“I be regretting” why do you talk like this? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 03:18 PM
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Correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 05:24 PM
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Yes. Did you not read my first comment? It’s in the first sentence. In the 10 years I have been married, I have learned to speak up and not expect mind readers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 05:20 PM
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I do like the sex I am having and I do say what I want while we are having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 05:12 PM
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Why are you assuming I require an orgasm to enjoy sex? I absolutely get pleasure out of sex. The way my husband fucks me everyday is mind blowing. It’s one of the reasons I married him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 05:03 PM
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I can’t cum while talking someone throughout the whole thing. It just ruins it. If there was some form of telepathy that would be amazing! Also the feeling of someone else’s hand vs my own hand on my clit feels completely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 04:53 PM
6

Did they tell you they wanted to date you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:14 PM
1

I actually did read about this a long time ago! I’m not surprised. I love looking at cleavage and bulges.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:09 PM
1

Yes I look at breasts all the time. What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:08 PM
4

Where are all the uncomfortable women at?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:07 PM
10

How would one do that when burgers don’t talk?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 11:00 PM
15

Being looked at the way someone looks at a burger isn’t as grand as you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 09:55 PM
2

Let me clarify. I meant that everyday people like us (the general public) didn’t personally have a say in setting those age limits. They were decided by lawmakers or officials, not through some direct vote where citizens chose 18 or 21. So saying “it was chosen by the people” feels like a stretch in this case.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 05:03 PM
1

Of course they do. Everyone does regardless of their genitalia.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:59 PM
2

Why act like citizens are personally responsible for choosing the age of all those things?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 02:53 PM
0

The mental gymnastics some men go through to get away with accountability is astounding. You.always.have.a.choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 02:43 PM
5

Please don’t take my comment as me saying men are bad at sex. My husband is amazing at sex. It’s just that it has always taken me more effort to orgasm when someone else is rubbing my clit. It’s not a them problem. It’s a me problem. That’s my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 04:41 PM
1

I would say around 2 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 04:40 PM
3

They will still be called shallow for other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 04:26 PM
1

Still sounds better than only being able to offer youth.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 02:40 PM
16

It’s because for women, it’s easier to orgasm from a vibrator. For example, I can orgasm 3 times within 5 minutes. If I want to orgasm with a man, it will take much longer than 5 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 02:18 PM
4

If women are puking everywhere you go, maybe you smell?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 04:16 PM
1

Humans are wild. The only species that ascribes human value based on some arbitrary rating scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 04:13 PM
1

Groups don’t have personalities. People do. Anybody who believes men have shitty personalities while women are wonderful and vice versa are DELUSIONAL. Both men and women are equally as capable of being terrible human beings who would be better off staying single.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 02:24 PM
2

I’ve been married for almost 10 years. He has complained a total of 0 times.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 02:22 PM
2

It’s an example of how it can start. I know you probably already knew this, but adults aren’t like kids. You don’t go up to a random person and ask “wanna be friends?” I wish there was, but there is no quick way of making friends. It takes work.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 04:17 PM
1

Are you guys really that bored that you have to bait people?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:24 PM
2

Actual sex work is just as degrading. Nothing respectable about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:19 PM
1

I don’t identify with any pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:18 PM
2

Chill bro. You clearly wouldn’t date a whale. That’s cool. There are men out there who would though. No need to act like accepting that fact means you like fatties too. Men have different tastes. Weird to think otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 06:02 PM
6

I thought that comment was hyperbole. I read it more as in “finally! some scientific evidence that shows that the awkward autistic incels aren’t the misogynistic ones after all,” not that they literally can’t believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 04:32 PM
2

Yes, I understand people want to be attractive. It’s human nature. But going your entire life not wanting to do any strength training because men will think you’re too muscly is bizarre. It’s a true claim. There is tons of information about it online. Women naturally have around 30% lower bone mineral density than men. Once menopause hits, bone loss starts declining at a faster rate due to the loss of estrogen. Men also lose bone with age, but it’s slower and happens later because of their more …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 04:14 PM
3

No need to feel bad for them. There are thousands of fat women in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:50 PM
3

Lifting weights is more beneficial for woman than it is for men in the long run. We should place more importance on our health than on the opinions of strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:47 PM
1

Women look good when they’re slender. But is it worth it when it means they will most likely have osteoporosis?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:45 PM
1

Women who are decently attractive aren’t attractive because they roll out of bed like that. They actively work on their looks. That means working out and eating right. If they stopped doing that, they would be average or below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:40 PM
2

So don’t date one
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:36 PM
4

Women benefit more from lifting weights than men do. They should prioritize their long term health over what men want.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:30 PM
3

Does it matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:28 PM
3

I don’t hate these men. It’s nothing more than a passing thought. Paying for parasocial relationships in the US isn’t normalized. So when I hear about it, I just think it’s weird to pay someone in order to keep some fantasy going. It kind of reminds me of women who genuinely believe in astrology or crystals.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:17 PM
4

Sex work is not a respectable line of work. Women need to stop act like it’s empowering. It’s not. It’s the opposite of feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:08 PM
1

You know what you’re trying to say. Of course sex workers are also women. However, the majority of them come from very specific backgrounds. You will notice a pattern than you will not find in women who don’t opt into sex work.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 02:20 PM
1

The responses check out. Men want the hottest, it doesn’t matter if it comes with negatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 05:07 PM
2

You are mentally unwell. Hopefully those children don’t come out as messed up as you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:35 PM
1

The thing is, this person is actively trying to get hundreds of women pregnant. Just look at their post history.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:32 PM
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I am a fool for looking at OPs post history. The fact that there are entire subs dedicated to guys AND women wanting to have hundreds of babies makes me want to die.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:32 PM
1

Unfortunately on this sub and on Reddit in general, there seem to be more people who think 2 wrongs do make it right than those who don’t. Or at the very least they’re the loudest.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:15 PM
8

What customer service position have you worked in where you were allowed to insult the customers?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:11 PM
1

If you’ve been friends for a while, and I mean actually friends like you guys hang out all the time, and at no point has there been any sexual tension or theres never any fun flirty banter going on, chances are she’s not interested in you romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 06:21 PM
3

Can you explain the “…female biology was tuned a bit better” part of your title? You don’t seem to go into any details about in your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 10:11 PM
2

You’re not discussing anything though. You keep copying/pasting the same two responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 06:12 PM
0

Are you going to engage with the responses that answer your question?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:24 PM
1

Because they don’t want to engage in good faith discussion. It’s bait. Just look at all their replies. Every comment OP doesn’t like is met with, “you ignored the question.” And the responses they do approve of, they don’t add anything or engage with the it, they just comment “You are answering the question in the proper way. But most women are not.”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:19 PM
3

How are you gonna call out the same behavior you simultaneously engage in?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:13 PM
1

Nope. I still think AI girlfriends will be a huge win for lonely men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:09 PM
18

The things individuals believe in is interesting. There was just a post about how women are raised to treat men horribly and the majority of the men agreed. And here we have an example of a woman caring but it’s still villainized 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 04:59 PM
2

At 99 ranch? A dollar store? That’s your gotcha? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 02:58 PM
14

Women already accept/acknowledge it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 08:57 PM
2

https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/v8o5zqWtEH https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/BU8l7z8XE5 These are taken directly from this comment section. If you scroll through the comments you will see more of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 03:48 PM
7

What infrastructure did you help build?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 03:42 PM
4

Yes I agree. I find behavior like that to be super off putting. Like drama queen much?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 01:12 AM
3

I haven’t experienced it in regard to women asking men for dating advice but for other things. Here are the claims I’m referring to: “Men will stick their penis in any hole” “All men prefer teenagers, a lot of them just won’t ever admit it” “Men aren’t attracted to women their age” “Monogamy is unnatural for men”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:38 PM
7

I think my other problem is just women stating these things like fact and saying “NO men DONT do X do Z women won’t like that!” I hate this. I see this everyday on social media. Everyone acts like they’re the spoke person for their entire sex. I’ve had multiple interactions on this sub with men doing it and I always ask why they do that and what they gain from it, but I’ve never gotten an answer. People are weird man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:23 PM
5

It’s pretty simple. People have different experiences and opinions. You’re going to get a wide variety of responses depending on who you ask. Some women are okay being approached at the bar, some aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:19 PM
7

From the original comment, it seems like they’re talking about a low n count woman, not a promiscuous woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 12:46 PM
1

Men at the same time are expected to acknowledge female struggles… You say this as if men aren’t here constantly making posts/responding to comments expecting women to understand male struggles 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 10:24 PM
1

My preference for older men started in high school. Guys my age were super superficial. The kind that would break up with you if they felt a little stubble on your leg. Sure, I could have gone for less superficial guys which could have maybe made a difference. But that superficial stuff stopped as soon as I started going for older guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 06:41 PM
2

I used to think it was true until studies that showed the opposite started coming out. The extroverted, charismatic types are more likely to be creeps, only want sex, and more likely to be misogynistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 05:58 PM
43

What is it about being short, shy, and awkward that would automatically make him not abusive or capable of cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 06:03 PM
1

Apologies, I meant in general, not literally right after having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 05:23 PM
2

Because a lot of the times even if you’re innocent you will have to register as a sex offender which affects where you live, what jobs you can get, etc. So if you’re dating someone and it’s getting serious, eventually it will have to come up.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 05:15 PM
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It might seem strange to bring that up, but if someone was wrongly accused and ended up with a conviction, even if they’re innocent, they often have to register as a sex offender. And that’s not just a label. It affects where they can live, what jobs they can hold, and how they move through society. Eventually, if they’re dating someone, that will come up. So disclosing it early isn’t about seeking sympathy, it’s about being honest about something that’s going to affect both of them down the lin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 05:10 PM
1

Nope. I’ve been in this situation before. It made me angry at the bitch who falsely accused him. After he told me, I held him and cried.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 05:06 PM
3

Obviously everyone says no when they aren’t feeling it at the moment. This isn’t true. Just ask the millions of people who still had sex with their significant other despite not wanting to.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 07:47 PM
4

My husband has made it very clear that he does not want to have sex with me unless I’m going to be 100% into it. He does not want to have sex with someone who is going to be unenthusiastic about it. It’s a turn off for him. So when I don’t want sex, I say no, instead of just dealing with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 07:45 PM
6

Why are you trying to convince this person that you know their vagina better than they do? That’s very strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 04:25 PM
2

They’re not little boys though. They’re grown men. Calling them little boys doesn’t change biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:50 PM
1

I’ve seen plenty which shows me being short doesn’t make it impossible to get into relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 09:29 PM
1

You’re not wrong! Everyone has some level of bias and sees patterns based on their own experiences. I’m not denying that. But what I’m saying is, when we look at society as a whole, there are plenty of short men in relationships. If ghosting over height was truly a widespread pattern, we wouldn’t see that. So while it might feel like a common experience in certain circles or apps, that doesn’t necessarily make it a general rule. I’m open to being wrong though. If there’s solid data showing that …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 09:05 PM
7

It does. But then they realize a lot of successful men also happen to be the biggest douchebags. That’s why they don’t buy the whole “you have to be a nice to get women” story they get told all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:57 PM
1

It sounds like we are on two different pages. I don’t believe there is a general pattern of men being ghosted because of their height. I think it should be clear that when I talk about patterns, I’m talking about the thousands of short guys in relationships. Yes, some women will ghost a guy just because he’s short. In those cases, it’s about height, not personality. People have shallow dealbreakers. It sucks, but it happens. But if no woman has ever been interested in you, it’s probably not just…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:52 PM
1

It sounds like we are on two different pages. I don’t believe there is a general pattern of men being ghosted because of their height. I think it should be clear that when I talk about patterns, I’m talking about the thousands of short guys in relationships. Yes, some women will ghost a guy just because he’s short. In those cases, it’s about height, not personality. People have shallow dealbreakers. It sucks, but it happens. But if no woman has ever been interested in you, it’s probably not just…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:52 PM
8

Can you explain what your comment has to do with what I said? Because yes, being more attractive to women is an incentive but you didn’t explain the connection to what it has to do with my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:37 PM
1

Correct, when we observe general patterns, it’s never just about height.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:35 PM
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Are they saying the guy from Tinder is better? It seems like they’re just trying to show an example of how easy it is for women to get dates compared to men…not that the Tinder guy is better.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 05:53 PM
2

Have you ever thought they post statistics because they’re aware? It’s their way of trying to have some leverage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 05:51 PM
12

They have no incentive to become decent people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 05:47 PM
1

I see where you are going with this. If a woman stops talking to you as soon as you tell her your height, then yes, obviously it’s all about height in those specific context. I’m not going to argue against that. But if you’ve never been approached or received any interest from women in general, there’s a good chance that its not just because you’re short, it’s probably because you’re ugly too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 05:05 PM
1

Because I have met/worked with/become friends with dozens of short men who are very successful with women. So if a short guy has never received any interest from a woman, it’s more likely that it has to do with other factors. If it really was about height, short men would not be in relationships. But they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:59 PM
1

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:38 PM
1

Nope. I think being fat is universally unattractive while being short isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:36 PM
3

Funny how there’s not a single older guy in the comment listing the things they have in common with 18 year olds.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:17 PM
1

Sometimes these women want to be friends with these men. They see the men as actual humans, not toasters. Shocking huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:00 PM
1

Why would I agree to that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 02:57 PM
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If it really was just about being short, short men wouldn’t be in relationships. But millions of them are, all despite them being short.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 02:25 PM
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I have a feeling that those who complain the most about there no longer being good women or good men out there aren’t really that great themselves. It seems like humans as a whole have gotten worse and less and less people care about looking in the mirror and being introspective. The reality is, most people aren’t relationship worthy. However I will say in my real life experience, I have met many women who are terrible human beings who think they’re god gifts to earth and don’t think they need t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 04:01 PM
7

A lot of men don’t even want a woman who is able to think independently. They’re categorized as “jaded and bitter” when they finally do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:17 PM
10

Yup. And then they have the audacity to make “why are women so offended by male sexuality?,” posts as if they have no clue in the world 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 05:47 PM
5

Kids not knowing any better is nothing ground breaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 05:44 PM
12

Yeah, it’s a very convenient excuse for men who can’t keep themselves away from 12 year olds. “It wasn’t my fault. That 12 year old hoe wanted me.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 05:42 PM
22

So if women get objectified because their tits are out, how do you explain the logic of when it happens when we are 12? Let me guess, 12 year olds are walking around with their tits out as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:52 PM
1

Do you have a study that shows men’s job is to continuously inseminate? I believe that idea comes from old evolutionary logic when child mortality was high. Back then, it made sense to have lots of kids. But that doesn’t mean men today have a biological “job” to inseminate. Times have changed. We’re not just running on caveman instincts anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 04:00 AM
1

Sounds great and everything, but you haven’t quantified anything. I wasn’t asking about your opinion but instead actual data, studies, or measurable trends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:50 AM
23

Because we have seen, experienced, and have been told that men will fuck anything with a hole, that women have nothing of value except what’s in between their legs, etc. It’s difficult not to see those things as offensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 08:29 PM
4

Why not both?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 05:20 PM
4

I love how men constantly make posts/comments like this on here, but as soon as a woman brings it up, it’s “no man believes this, touch grass.”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 05:15 PM
1

Yeah, and plenty of men will throw away a good woman for one who is younger and hotter. What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 02:27 PM
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How is she trying to downgrade?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 03:49 PM
1

That doesn’t mean they’re into polyamory
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 11:43 PM
3

99% I’ve heard a man asking his girl for a three way, the woman isn’t bisexual nor bi-curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 11:38 PM
2

So you go out of your way to explicitly ask women what their thoughts are, just so you can immediately shut them down? Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 07:17 PM
4

Doesn’t sound like much of a sisterhood if they’re hiding secrets from each other
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 07:08 PM
6

Do you think most women are attracted to men who wear makeup?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 07:07 PM
9

I’ve seen men say things like giving handmade gifts makes them “gay.” So outdated ideas like that are still thriving.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 06:56 PM
3

I swear anytime I hear any woman say they don't want sex I immediately look at them with suspicion cause I know that's bs. Good thing I’m not arguing women don’t want sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 12:18 AM
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There are definitely very horny women out there, no argument about that. But if you look at large-scale research across different cultures, on average, men report higher levels of sexual desire than women. Studies also consistently show men think about sex more often, initiate it more, and generally have stronger reported sex drives. However, plenty of women have higher libidos than some men. But if you look at the big picture, the distribution is shifted a little to the right for men. So it’s n…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:20 PM
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Were you under the impression you weren’t an outlier prior to making this post? I’d assume one would do research prior to coming on here and making objective statements.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:17 PM
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It’s much easier for them to defend male behavior than to confront it, because confronting it means confronting themselves, their culture, and sometimes their own past actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:04 PM
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She clearly knows now that what happened wasn’t okay. That’s why she’s talking about it. Telling her she ‘should’ve known better at 14 doesn’t offer insight, it just passes judgment. Most of us would want to be judged by the things we did when we were vulnerable, naive, or too young to fully understand what was happening. Most people have made mistakes or found themselves in bad situations. The point is to learn from them. So what exactly is the purpose of your comment? Because unless you have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:57 PM
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Is she trying to date you?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 03:10 PM
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You made lots of great points. I’m curious, how do you quantify that women are more shallow?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 02:51 PM
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Well the vagina is the internal part, so of course I meant the labia. If you could see women’s vaginas through her leggings, then that would be a serious medical issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 02:46 PM
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Values are extremely important. If you don't have matching values, prepare to suffer. Hobbies, on the other hand, can be more flexible. As a music lover, when I was younger, I told myself there was no way I was going to date or marry a guy who doesn't like music. Who did I end up with? Someone who hates music. We've been together for 12+ years, and not once has it been an issue. If I had dismissed him just because he didn't like music, I would have missed out on the rest of him. However, you are…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 01:22 AM
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By the sound of it, OP just has a problem with women with visible camel toe going up to men and asking them to hide their bulge. If you don’t do that, you’re good.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 07:37 PM
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I’ve honestly never come across any woman’s whose bit were so big I could see it through her leggings. That’s something I’ve never witnessed. I think people are entitled to being uncomfortable and have every right to speak up about it. However, don’t be a hypocrite about it. Practice what you preach. How are your privates going to be out, but as soon as someone else’s are, it’s suddenly a problem? Yeah, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 07:35 PM
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What’s your source for this? I’m genuinely curious. I’ve never heard anything about this but I would love to find out more!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 06:33 PM
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They aren’t that too far apart. You wouldn’t approach a guy and start a convo with him, would you? You did. I bolded it for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:30 PM
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They aren’t that too far apart. You wouldn’t approach a guy and start a convo with him, would you? My point is just that I’m just confused as to why you assumed they wouldn’t approach a guy just to start a convo when you’ve experienced women doing just that to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:22 PM
2

Okay. So you don’t think these women exist on Reddit?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:54 PM
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Yes. Initiating is the same as “approach a guy and start a convo with him.” So if it’s happened to you in real life, then surely they exist online as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:53 PM
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In your comments you’ve said married women have approached you just to talk. So why are you suddenly assuming otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 01:55 PM
2

It’s fascinating how they express offense at the illogical behaviors of humans, yet their own reactions are filled with strong emotions. Their perceived sense of superiority is truly comical.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 01:31 AM
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Is this an attempt to shame women for placing their safety over your feelings? Personal safety is a basic human instinct. If someone has been harmed or betrayed by people they were taught to trust, it’s completely rational to become more cautious. You can throw around statistics all day, but that doesn’t undo how lived experiences shape our risk assessment.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 01:26 AM
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I’m just curious what the point of your comment is?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 10:27 PM
1

So are you suggesting your experience invalidates theirs?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 10:01 PM
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What’s the point of a debate if you’re just going to use obfuscation?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 03:34 PM
2

I think it boils down to the individual sucking at communicating effectively. And women do tend to be more agreeable, so they are more likely to sugar coat things to avoid uncomfortable feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 11:37 PM
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Women don’t fall hard for men they aren’t dating. I’m guessing you do? Otherwise you wouldn’t be stressing about seeing her everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 11:32 PM
1

What’s your logic?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 03:02 PM
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Pfft. That’s still settling. Multiple wives/gf + harem of 18 year olds is the ultimate win.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:17 PM
2

If your child doesn’t respect you, that’s on you for being a floor mat.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 03:53 PM
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You’re right. Every man wants a harem of 18 year olds. So when they get a girlfriend or a wife, they’re settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 02:59 PM
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So sounds like her plan is working.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 09:50 PM
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Do you agree that a man who makes it to 40 should self delete? Do you mean a man who makes it that age and is still a virgin? No. I don’t agree that they should end their lives over that. Do you think some men are doomed to reach that fate or is there someone for everyone? This is a great question. I’m 50/50 when it comes to believing in free will, so I don’t have a clear cut answer. I feel like some guys are destined to never have sex. But at the same time I feel like it’s possible for those me…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 07:14 PM
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Both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 07:05 PM
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Children are harsh and operate on completely fucked up rules which do not continue existing after they finish their school. If this were the case, harsh adults wouldn’t exist. And if you think adults can’t be harsh, you must never leave your house. But even then, you must see the “fucked up rules” which a lot of people operate off of here on Reddit. And I don’t say that to be condescending. But people don’t just turn 18 and suddenly become logical adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:31 PM
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To me, failing at sex means you got to 40 without having sex. A man who’s had a few girl friends and a few hooks up is successful. Now a man or woman who is sleeping with hundreds of people? They will get the same the same kind of judgement from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:25 PM
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To me, failing at sex means you got to 40 without having sex. A man who’s had a few girl friends and a few hooks up is successful. Now a man or woman who is sleeping with hundreds of people? They will get the same the same kind of judgement from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:25 PM
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To me, failing at sex means you got to 40 without having sex. A man who’s had a few girl friends and a few hooks up is successful. Now a man or woman who is sleeping with hundreds of people? They will get the same the same kind of judgement from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:24 PM
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You know who else perpetuates these myths? Men themselves. I’ve been told at least a dozen times by men that the only value women have is what’s between their legs.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 07:58 PM
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It’s not that deep. They’ve observed a pattern on the internet, and now they want to discuss it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 04:58 PM
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Sure sure. Whatever you say.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:58 PM
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Doesn’t OP say you can’t use it for family?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:51 PM
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So I wouldn’t get to cuddle my husband ever again? Seems like a no brainer. I would not take the money. I don’t care if it’s $1billion.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:46 PM
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Okay, I am. Happy now?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 03:57 PM
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You’ve changed your original example. There’s nothing in your post about putting “I prefer bimbos” in ones profile. You’ve changed the goal post.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 03:54 PM
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I hate the “it’s just online” excuse. It’s often used to dismiss the people pointing out the vile shit they see others spew online. It’s like giving people a pass to be the most awful version of themselves. It means I can say terrible things, and then hide behind “it’s just the internet” like a coward.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 08:37 PM
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No… he’s your husband? But you literally just said "The point is that if you have that person in your life, they are far far far more likely to be just your friend than a life partner." So I'm trying to understand how you got to such a conclusion. Like what is your logic? You haven't bothered actually to explain it. It isn’t as common as you think. It certainly isn't. Once again, I'm trying to understand your logic. You've had no problem acknowledging that there are exceptions. But then you go a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 07:52 PM
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The point is that if you have that person in your life, they are far far far more likely to be just your friend than a life partner. So based on this, my husband of 12+ years is just my friend and not my life partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 07:43 PM
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Now I’m confused. First you said this kind of girl doesn’t exist, now you’re saying she’s just an exception? That’s a bit of a shift. I’m not claiming every woman is into nerdy stuff, but acting like it’s some fantasy when real people literally live that way just doesn’t hold up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 07:34 PM
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You’re never going to have that girl you want. She isn’t going to curl on the couch with you to binge watch One Piece. She isn’t going to sit through the entire extended cut of Lord of the Rings with you. She’s not going to sit through the next installment of the Final Fantasy 7 remake trilogy with you when it comes out however many years from now. She won’t play couch co-op games with you on a cold morning. You aren’t proposing with a paupou fruit or a Pokeball and if you do you deserve to and …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 07:26 PM
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In my experience, when men talk about women getting the ick, it’s over trivial things. Not something serious like punching a hole in the wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 05:29 PM
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You keep saying I’m refusing facts, but I’ve already said I understand that relationships can have threats and that things can change. I’ve never denied that. What I’ve been saying is that I just don’t feel like I’m in competition in my relationship right now. You just don’t seem open to the idea that someone can understand where you’re coming from and still not fully agree. And if you’re genuinely baffled by that, I’m not sure what to tell you. I’ve explained myself as clearly and respectfully …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 04:18 PM
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Serious question. Why are you this invested in convincing me to say what you want me to say? It’s been days, and you keep circling back as if my perspective existing alongside yours is somehow unacceptable. I’m not trying to be rude, I just honestly don’t understand why my disagreement threatens you enough to keep pushing this hard. What do you actually get out of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 03:46 PM
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Yeah and I don’t think you’re actually agreeing with me. You’re just repeating your point in a way that leaves no room for my experience to matter. I’ve been clear about how I see my relationship and why I don’t feel like I’m competing. If your response is basically “you are, you just don’t realize it,” then we’re not really having a conversation. I’m good leaving it here. Godspeed!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 03:46 PM
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I say it’s fair game if men won’t stop doing things like I mentioned why should women? This mentality is extremely prevalent on this sub and it’s a big reason why it’s a cesspool. It’s pathetic how many people want an eye for an eye. It accomplishes nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 03:33 PM
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Maybe you should practice what you preach and keep the same energy when you see those comments from women lol I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 05:59 PM
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Yet men are constantly told that their opinions of it are invalid because women learned the word algorithm sometime in the past 8 years and suddenly thought they had discovered Plato’s allegory of the cave. Yes. And this is something that I always thought was wrong. It's a quick way to avoid actually engaging with someone's argument. That's why I can't stand it when it's done to me. So I understand. That's why I don't do it to others. It seems like we agree. So, I don't think the insult was nece…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 04:51 PM
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TikTok is still real life. It’s not like it exists in some alternate dimension.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 04:26 PM
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Money and personality alone aren’t enough of an incentive for me to be with someone like that. I HAVE to be undoubtedly attracted to them or else I have no interest in them romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 04:18 PM
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I actually agree that relationships can always be under some level of threat. Nothing in life is guaranteed. But that’s never been something I’ve argued against. What I’m saying is that even with that being true, I don’t personally feel like I’m in a competition. There’s a difference between recognizing that risk exists and walking around every day feeling like I’m defending my relationship from invisible rivals. That’s just not how I experience it. At this point, you’re arguing against somethin…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 04:14 PM
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You keep regurgitating the same comments instead of engaging with the points they make.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 03:54 PM
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Hopefully you have the same energy for every guy who comes here and posts TikTok links.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 03:50 PM
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You keep bringing up these extreme hypotheticals to make your point, but that was never what I was arguing. Obviously if a relationship feels threatened, people might act to protect it. That’s human nature. But I’m not in that situation. My relationship isn’t under threat, and I’m not walking around feeling like I need to compete with anyone. If that ever changed, obviously things would feel different. But right now, that’s just not my reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 10:49 PM
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Yup. It’s a shortcut. On here, some people love to slap labels on each other like “feminist,” “incel,” “Red Piller,” and assume they already know what that person thinks or believes. It saves effort, but it totally ignores nuance and treats individuals like walking stereotypes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 10:36 PM
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I still don’t see myself as competing, at least not in the way you’re describing it. Competition implies I’m trying to win or beat out other women, and that’s just not how I operate. I’m not walking around thinking about how to stay “chosen.” I show up in my relationship as myself. That’s not some strategy. It’s just real life. Sure, we all live in a world with beauty standards and social pressures, but that doesn’t mean everyone is actively playing the same game. I take care of myself for many …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:46 PM
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There are no rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 04:30 PM
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None of this is new information, so it doesn’t shock me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:46 PM
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I get where you’re coming from, but I think that view kind of oversimplifies things. Just because someone takes care of their appearance doesn’t automatically mean they’re competing for a mate. People do that for all kinds of reasons like self-confidence, personal style, work, mental health, etc. I’m married. I’m not out here trying to compete with anyone, and I don’t feel like I am. Telling people they’re in a competition whether they want to be or not kind of ignores individual intent and redu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:44 PM
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Me. I have zero desire. But let me guess, you’re probably going to say I’m virtue signaling or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:38 PM
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I'm not trying to convince you that a small amount of people practice intra-sexual competition. You are right, the vast majority of people do practice it. I was referring to how you dismissed what a single person had to say based on a generalization.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:47 AM
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Perhaps it’s a defense mechanism. It’s very obvious that the ones going around preaching how older women are jaded, and pretty jaded themselves. What’s worse is that a lot of them are on their early 20s and they’re already jaded. Isn’t that sad?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:32 AM
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Intra-sexual competition is only real for the people who subscribe to it. There are thousands of us who aren’t part of it. Like I get it. There are TONS of petty women who will do anything to sabotage other women so they can win men over. But trust me, some of us couldn’t care less.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:27 AM
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Be prepared to get told to “touch grass.” This is why I cannot with this sub. Men come to this sub and post TikTok videos as evidence of something. But when women quote men, suddenly it’s “this doesn’t happen in real life, those people are in the minority.”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:16 AM
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And I’m not saying you’re saying it’s not important. I’m saying it’s not always gaslighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:21 PM
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That’s not what I meant. You seem to be under the impression that any time a woman says personality is more important than looks, that she is doing it to gaslight others. I’m saying that’s not always the case. Some people genuinely feel that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:19 PM
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Someone who’s drawn to status and celebrity more than character. People who prioritize image, attention, or clout. It could be a mix of shallow, validation-seeking, or maybe even people with low self-worth who feel being chosen by someone famous has value. There might also be some narcissistic tendencies in the mix, like wanting to associate with fame as a reflection of their own desirability. Either way, it’s not usually someone who has strong moral compass.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:16 PM
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So you changed how you acted, got attention from a certain type of woman, and now that’s proof all women are shallow? Seems more like you’re basing a whole worldview on your own dating experiences. Specifically the ones where you played a role you admit you didn’t like.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:12 PM
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So did they pick you yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 03:32 PM
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Would you say you’re attracted to the type of woman who line up to take a picture with Chris Brown? You would have to be a certain type of person to be that thirsty over a man like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 03:23 PM
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Unless you’re into beastiality or a homosexual, romantic intimacy is a big one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 03:21 PM
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Except it is important for some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 03:18 PM
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Is this really all it boils down to? You see other people complain so you have to do it too?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 05:10 PM
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You do though! It’s not like you have a gun to your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 05:07 PM
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I really wish OP would have included the definition they’re using.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 08:57 PM
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Meanwhile they love parroting how men are the less “shallow” gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 08:40 PM
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So why not take your own advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:10 PM
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Whatever helps you cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:58 PM
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Having an issue with someone’s response is the opposite of “I don’t care.”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 07:31 PM
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Why would they bring up these facts when they’re answering the question “why are women so eager to surrender their autonomy?” Unless you know they’re bi, why would they bring up women when the question that was asked was about men?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 05:57 PM
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No one bats an eye when dads don’t want their young daughters dating older men. They’re considered “good fathers” for this. But if a woman expresses the same sentiment towards young women dating older men, suddenly it’s unreasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:43 PM
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30 is young? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:38 PM
5

So you think anytime a woman has sex, she’s being used?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 01:52 AM
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You have zero information to go off of, yet you’ve come to conclusion that they’re used for sex? How?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:32 AM
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I don’t think it’s any less hard for a woman to remain friends with a guy she’s interested in romantically. Now a guy she’s not interested in, much much easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:28 AM
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First time was in high school to show our friend what a “real” kiss looked like after he had failed “appropriately” kissing the girl he was crushing on. Second and third time were during a three way. She was cute, she thought I was cute, we both thought making out was fun, the guy thought it was hot, neither of us were worried about our sexuality, etc. there was just no good reason not to kiss her during those situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 09:34 PM
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I find some women to be attractive the way I find a beautiful sculpture to be attractive. They have an ethereal quality about them. And yes I have kissed women before because why not? However, I’m not interested in them romantically the way I am with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:14 PM
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Where have you seen this pattern?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 03:17 PM
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For the millionth time, who cares. Date who you want to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 03:09 PM
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All you gotta do to disprove this is look at the millions of men who don’t check off everything off that list and still get women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 03:07 PM
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Do you follow the advice you give people? Or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 03:03 PM
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Because it’s performative. You already have a dingaling between your legs. You don’t need anything else to prove how macho you are to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 05:26 PM
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You have a point. People definitely turn to religion for comfort in adulthood, especially during grief or existential crises. But I can’t help but think that’s more along the lines of emotional coping rather than genuine belief. As kids, belief often comes from trust in authority. As adults, I think it can be more about seeking meaning or reassurance, even if the doubt is stronger.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:56 PM
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My apologies. Thanks for clarifying. Your original comment came across like you were making a broader societal claim with phrases like “warps how we view” and bringing up IG as a cultural influence. That’s why I brought up viewer numbers, to question how widespread that influence really is. Appreciate the nuance in your follow-up though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:52 PM
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Quick search says that 80% of American adults watch reality TV shows I wasn’t just asking about Americans though. I don’t see how the number is relevant to anything I said though I asked because your argument is that reality dating shows are warping how people view relationships and the opposite gender. But for that to be a widespread societal influence, a significant portion of the population would need to be watching those shows regularly enough to internalize those dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:59 PM
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What percent of the human population do you think watch reality tv shows?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:42 PM
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Religion is more believable as an adult? That’s an interesting thing. I feel like it’s the opposite. I feel like as a kid a lot of the times you believe what you’re told. Then you grow up and that’s when you find out a lot of the stuff you were told isn’t true.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:40 PM
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I was just asking a clarifying question. I find that it’s better to do that to put words into people’s mouths. Your wording made it sound like you were skeptical. That’s why I asked. After reading your other comment, I can see that’s not the case. My apologies.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 07:43 PM
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Who is claiming it’s a widespread view?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:57 PM
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And classic rock.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:52 PM
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Why are you asking? Decade and generation seems irrelevant as people that don’t fit social norms have always existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:47 PM
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Do men still have to pay child support when their baby is dead?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:26 PM
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Isn’t OP talking about babies that are alive?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:24 PM
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It’s not a strawman because they’re not misrepresenting anyone’s argument. They are criticizing a real pattern of behavior that exists, even if it’s not the majority. You don’t need the majority to display behaviors for it to be a valid concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:21 PM
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I’m sorry this is just beyond unhinged men don’t say that most men are pedophiles. You seriously need to be worried about your algorithm or your friend group. Sounds like you’re contradicting yourself. If men don’t say these things, then why an algorithm or friend group matter? I believe a couple of individuals might admit it but any significant amount should have you running out of whatever space you’re in. Those are pedophiles trying to normalize pedophilia. You need to get out of that space b…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 09:15 PM
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Tbh I don’t think the majority of humans are “normal.” Just turn on the news and you will see various stories of people being held captive for years and other absolutely unhinged stories. So I’m not sure why you find it so hard to believe these deranged individuals don’t go online. Sounds like you’re in denial.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 10:01 PM
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I’ve literally never heard this said by a man ever. If we are going to be pedantic, I’ve never heard anyone say it in real life either. I don’t usually hang out with guys besides my husband so I’m not even sure how it would come up. But I’ve come across multiple men defend it on social media and I’ve always found it weird. Like you said, they’re definitely pedos, but they can’t keep it to themselves, they go around insisting that men are all that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 06:01 PM
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6,666
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 02:55 PM
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Yes, some men say it. They’re in the minority. But I still wonder what’s their agenda. There was a thread on here awhile ago asking men what’s the biggest lie they see other men posting on here, and the most common response was “men insisting that every man wants to fuck teenagers.”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 03:51 PM
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I meant more so men saying that most men are pedophiles. I don’t understand why they would want to embarrass their entire engender. Like what do they accomplish?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 03:39 PM
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It is very embarrassing. Do you think it’s just as embarrassing when men say it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 03:23 PM
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For me? Nope. If it’s just sex, I don’t need an emotional connection. I just need to find them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 02:14 PM
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Men constantly say shit like this on here, but will gaslight the crap out of any woman who brings it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 04:51 PM
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No idea. I’m sure one will get made eventually. Is there a hotline we can call to speed it up?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 04:51 PM
1

Yeah you should probably stop doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 04:24 PM
1

What are women competing men for?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 04:15 PM
1

They can be. If it wasn’t a real thing, I don’t think movies would get made about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 04:12 PM
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They do it so they can keep painting themselves as the moral and less superficial gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 12:55 AM
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Oh I was being hyperbolic and sarcastic. Gotcha. I get that these kinds of people shouldn’t be taken seriously, but the problem is they still have a serious impact in the real world. Just like how Instagram influencers affect young women’s self-image, toxic online rhetoric, whether it’s “men bad” or “women bad,” actively fuels division in the real world. The things people repeatedly see and read online do shape their worldview, and when generalizations about men or women become normalized, they …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 01:02 AM
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I hope everyone realizes how framing subjective takes like this one as universal truths is harmful. In this case, all that this mentality accomplishes is further vilification against men. So to the men having a hard time understanding why some women have such animosity toward men, I hope you realize that a lot of your fellow brothers are adding fuel to the fire.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 11:55 PM
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This is true. Putting people into categories is a human phenomenon. Men do the same thing when it comes to women that are older than them and are fat. So it makes sense that women would have their own version of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 11:43 PM
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When it comes to unwanted sexual attention, men and women are absolutely entitled to shutting down that interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 11:37 PM
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“Your values are not universal” this applies to your values too right?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:39 PM
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Funny. I always have thought exactly the same about you 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:49 PM
4

Even if it’s just lust, there is still an element of attraction there. You can’t have lust without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:47 PM
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So you have experienced immediate attraction. Children have crushes, but just because they usually don’t have an element of arousal like it does when it comes to adults, doesn’t mean it’s not immediate attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:46 PM
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Japan doesn’t need tips to incentivize their workers to go above and beyond. Their culture is very different. They pride themselves on offering top tier customer service and value extreme cleanliness. Japanese workers are more driven than American ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:42 PM
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Touch grass. Post some real life examples. Not videos of people playing dress up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:39 PM
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Why not ask them? They don’t have a tipping culture, yet they blow the U.S. out of the water in terms of customer service and cleanliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:36 PM
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I had a woman on here yesterday tell me I was defending pedophiles all because I don’t agree with the idea that all men want to fuck teenagers. People are unhinged. Edit: lo and behold it’s the exact same person you’re arguing with. Here is part of our convo: <image> They called me a pick me all because I refuse to believe that all men want to fuck teenagers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 04:56 PM
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Right. Men are all so wonderful.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 04:51 PM
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Look, there will always be people that will think you’re creepy for dating a 18 year old when you’re 30. Live your life. Stop coming to Reddit for approval. If you want to date young women, then do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 04:50 PM
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Everything you believe in is a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 03:14 PM
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Yes. Of course it’s true. Some people are shy. Women are people. Both men and women do it. But not all men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 03:11 PM
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Neither am I.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 11:59 PM
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Sounds like it fits you perfectly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 11:04 PM
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I am aware. What I’m asking is where does this money come from? In this context, she does not have a job. She is a stay at home mom. So where is this money coming from?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 06:56 PM
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Save what money? Money they get from the government?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 06:38 PM
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Yeah, neither do I, yet you’re here acting like I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 06:37 PM
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And you’re a serial pedo rapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 05:03 PM
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Okay, now I know you’re just bored and making up nonsense since I’m a woman yet you’re referring to me “you men.”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 04:57 PM
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There are also the voices of men who aren’t attracted to young girls. But surely you don’t care about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 04:20 PM
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She fell for the bait. I’ve learned better to discuss my personal relationships on here. The last time I was told “well you’re probably fat.”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 02:58 PM
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Privilege only matters to people if it results in real benefits. A trust fund baby has access to resources that improve their lives. But a heterosexual man getting hit on by gay men doesn’t gain anything unless he’s actually interested. Similarly, a woman getting tons of attention from men she doesn’t want doesn’t automatically make her privileged in a way that benefits her sexually or romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 10:22 PM
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They already don’t. But you can’t accept it, so you pretend like you know them better than they know themselves like some kind of omnipresent god.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 08:55 PM
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It’s that they have no resilience. Well, you did use the term “they” which is used to refer to a group of people. So if you didn’t mean all men, can you please explain who you’re referring to when you told OP “it’s that they have no resilience?”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 07:02 PM
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No. I’m asking, where is the brain rot in their comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:50 PM
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And you think treating groups as a monolith and telling them they don’t have any resilience is going to encourage people to open up?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:47 PM
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Are women uninterested in every man and can men not be uninterested in certain women? Also, is it impossible for uninteresting men to one day become interesting to women? No, women are not uninterested in every man, and men can be uninterested in women. Uninteresting men can become interesting. However, none of these have anything to do with my comment. What I'm talking about is when men tell women they're privileged because there are tons of men willing to have sex with them. Women refute this …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 04:10 PM
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Imagine trying to recruit men to like teens on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 03:51 PM
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You have clearly developed brain rot.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 03:43 PM
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Where is the brain rot?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 03:42 PM
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Why do you guys want approval so bad to date a younger woman? If you want to date them, go ahead. Stop screeching about women disapproving your age gap relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 03:37 PM
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Plenty of gay guys currently find you sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:48 PM
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Men want to fuck women so it wouldn’t work. My point is that it’s not a privilege if the person trying to have sex with you is someone you’re completely uninterested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:38 PM
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That wasn’t the point of my comment. My point was that it’s not a privilege if you’re not attracted to them or willing to have sex with them in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:36 PM
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Yes, makes sense to me. But if we were to use the same logic, you should still see it as a privilege despite your sexual orientation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:06 PM
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Yeah, but you’re not, so you don’t, which is my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 04:58 PM
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Let me clarify. My point wasn’t to imply there is something negative about homosexuality. I was trying to highlight how the perception of sexual availability as a privilege changes depending on the context. If men were constantly propositioned, many wouldn’t see it as a privilege, just as women often don’t. It’s about perspective, not homophobia.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 12:12 AM
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Thanks. Next time I don’t like a comment, I’ll go ahead and claim homophobia as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 12:04 AM
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I guarantee if you used their same logic on them and told them there are thousands of guys willing to sleep with them at a drop of a hat, they wouldn’t see it as a privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 10:41 PM
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So are you saying that all the opinions we post on here are lies and we are totally different in real life?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 01:11 AM
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They hit on this in the first sentence of their second paragraph.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 07:55 PM
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I've had to explain this to multiple people online before. How is it not common sense? These people have to be on the spectrum or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 01:52 AM
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I'm getting the feeling that OP is autistic. Nothing is wrong with that, but it would explain their cluelessness.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 01:50 AM
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Craigslist.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 01:47 AM
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It's been 19 hours. Have you moved forward yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 01:45 AM
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Good thing men care less about looks than women. Try Grindr a shot. What do you have to lose?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 01:43 AM
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I love your user name.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 01:37 AM
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It's your life. Think you can think whatever you want to think. I don't know any ugly women who brag about their sex lives online. But I have an ugly cousin who brags about "work flow" and being a good mom despite not having custody of her only daughter. My cathartic though every time I see her FB posts are "jesus christ woman, you need therapy." People who brag are pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 01:33 AM
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Hopefully more people get the memo. Tired of seeing all the “I saw X on tik tok” posts on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 10:13 PM
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You mean just like OP? They don't want to hear about women wanting to split the check, so they call it "toxic anti men content."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 04:51 PM
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I'm curious... is that something men have literally told you? Or is it something you implied from their behavior? No. It's something men have literally told me. Is it the majority of men you have dated? And if so, do you question your own judgement? Absolutely none of the men I've dated have ever said vile things to me. They're nothing like the men I'm talking about. Last, what else do you feel you bring to the table? I'm asking because I've had 2 girls I've dated feel this way after. The first …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 04:34 PM
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Sounds like you two are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 11:22 PM
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I’m tempted to give you the same energy men give women on here all the time and tell you to touch grass. However I won’t. You’re witnessing a subset of women. A lot of them are the kind that grew up very spoiled and never grew up out of that mindset. They’re used to getting what they want from men because time and time again men bend backwards for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 09:13 PM
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Yup. OP is just projecting their personal experiences onto all women and it’s flat out wrong. Millions of shy women including your wife and I have never had any trouble getting approached.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 08:47 PM
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Are you saying this is the always the case? Because I’m a 30 year old shy woman with social anxiety and not once have I had to “hunt down a man.”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 08:42 PM
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I’m just returning you the same energy 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 01:26 AM
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Wow, multiple women on some reddit internet forums said some misandrists things. That's crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 10:17 PM
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It’s NOT fine and dandy. I would NEVER go online and say that to anyone nor would I say it to anyone’s face. I don’t condone going online and saying vile things about people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 10:12 PM
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It’s been 14 hours. You’ve gotten plenty of responses from women. What have you learned from them?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 10:01 PM
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I couldn’t care any less if a man did NONE of those things. If they want to do those things, by all means I will be appreciative. But I don’t expect any of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 09:57 PM
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Who is going to pay the bills while she takes care of her baby?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 09:51 PM
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Exactly. Tons of people go online and say the absolute most vile things about entire groups. But then you make a post about the horrible thing that was said and you get people making comments like “that never happened. Touch grass” or “get over it, social media isn’t real life” as if we were interacting with robots and not actual humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 08:43 PM
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I’ve noticed this kind of mentality is prevalent here. Person makes a post regarding opposite gender. “Stop making stuff up. Touch grass” Gives real life example or screenshots of it happening online. “That doesn’t count! That’s just some random unhinged weirdo. Touch more grass”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 08:37 PM
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Just curious, what made you think OP is trolling?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 08:30 PM
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If you ask it to, it absolutely can.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 07:40 PM
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Because multiple men have been adamant about letting me know that I don’t have any value and that the only thing I have to offer is what’s in between my legs. I would imagine it’s like telling men they have no value and they’re actually just ATMs, which is objectifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:05 PM
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You don’t think there’s a point in arguing but you came here and made a post so people could debate? That makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:24 PM
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They’re criminals. They’re pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 03:58 PM
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Idk what else you were expecting when you’re here telling me I have no value. Am I supposed to go “oh yes thank you for putting me in my place?” When you say negative things about people online, you’re going to get some pushback. The people you’re talking to are humans. Not robots. I can’t imagine going around and saying men have no value and then acting surprised when men push back on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 01:04 AM
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It’s not sensible to you which is totally valid. If you want to lie, go ahead. I’m just saying that other men don’t see it that way and to them, being honest and communicating with women is the more sensible thing for them even if they’re shooting themselves in the foot. I think this applies to anything, not just dating. Some people are just more honest by nature than others. Even if they might lose out on opportunities, deceiving people to get what they want just isn’t who they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 10:08 PM
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Do whatever works for you. Some people are okay with the idea of shootings themselves in the foot. For them they don’t think of it as numbers game. It’s more of a way of weed out people they wouldn’t be compatible with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 09:54 PM
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Yes. Lying is a perfectly valid solution for a lot of people. Some people do it because it’s easier. Others prefer to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 09:38 PM
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I would feel sad for them and wouldn’t blame them for feeling that way. If I had spent all of my young adult life feel like a loser and never had any interest from men, I would probably also feel the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 09:35 PM
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Its just because men are horny and mad women wont fuck them So which one is it? Do they offer anything of value not? If these women genuinely didn’t offer anything of value, not even their vagina, men wouldn’t be mad women aren’t fucking them. Chasing someone even if it’s just for their genitals and temporary pleasure still indicates there is something value there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 09:31 PM
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I would actually be stoked because I’ve dealt with social anxiety ever since I can remember. I would feel great knowing I have finally found someone who has gone through what I have. I would be very interested in getting to know them and potentially dating if they wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:48 PM
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Women dont offer that much really to men. Interesting. I would think a group that doesn’t mean much would have far less posts made about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:47 PM
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What are you talking about? I only have a single account. Are you going to answer the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:43 PM
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Can you explain to me how I’m being an asshole? All I did was post an example of the kind of men we warn young women about.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:39 PM
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Yeah you’re right. A lot of women don’t care for them. But they’re still more likely to categorize men differently. Husband material vs. hook up material is an example of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:32 PM
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Surely you told this to OP too right? That tik tok reels aren’t real life and need to touch grass?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:31 PM
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Yes, I realize there is nuance. I’m aware of my biases. So that’s when I would ask them why they’re single instead of jumping to conclusions and dismissing them off the bat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:24 PM
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Why does it bother you so much that I posted a screenshot of some random person on the internet? You could have just kept scrolling or engaged with it in good faith. But you did neither of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:20 PM
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Yes, there is nuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:20 PM
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Why are you incapable about talking about shitty men?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:17 PM
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Predictable response. When presented with an insane take, instead of actually engaging with it, it’s “that’s just a single rando, that doesn’t count.” Why can’t you engage with it? I mean we know there are shitty women and men in the world. Surely you don’t think all men are wonderful? So why can’t you just have a discussion about a shitty Reddit man?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:14 PM
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Statistical proof of what? My point is some men say vile things about women. Stop acting like I’m trying to generalize all men. I am not. I already said I’m talking about specific men. I gave you a screenshot of two of these men. They are real redditors. Are you suggesting I made those accounts up or something? Or that it’s somehow fake and those guys didn’t actually post those comments? Why does this bother you so much?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:11 PM
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Yup. Men date a few years younger, women go older. That’s why most age gaps are around 5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:06 PM
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Exactly. Which I think might be more of a dealbreaker for women than it is for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:04 PM
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It’s not all men. It’s a certain kind of men. Seems like maybe you feel called out? This was probably the 100th time I’ve seen the same thing said about women. I’m not going to screenshot it every single time just for some cynical redditor.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:00 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/i80zw9bio3ne1.jpeg?width=1206&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7b9a56ba98f974610ccf1141584c9894638c7363 Here’s an example from yesterday!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 04:59 PM
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<image> Exactly. Anyone that proudly ways shit like this online is a giant red flag. The way they talk about women lets you know how they really feel about women. Knowing that there are men who are with younger women just for their age make me sick to my stomach.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 04:57 PM
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Remember, women are more selective. Women will find someone attractive, but still won’t date them for a myriad of reasons, one of them being they have plenty of other men to pick from. Idk maybe for men, younger always = better. But that’s not the case when it comes to women and long term relationships. Younger men in general are more attractive than their older counterparts, but I wouldn’t be interested in dating them due to how immature they were when I did date them. As soon as I started dati…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 04:53 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/b89zji9lm3ne1.jpeg?width=1206&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=75b3955139aadb40143df2b1838b6cd9a1898204 Men will proudly say stuff like this to put women in their place. It should be obvious why a lot of women warn younger women about the kinds of guys with this kind of mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 04:51 PM
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If you’re a 35 year old who only dates teens, I think that’s odd regardless if you’re a man or woman. If you’re 35 and are single, I’m not going to judge because there could be a million reasons why. When it starts becoming questionable is if you’re attractive and somehow made it to 35 without ever being in a relationship. That’s when I’m going to have lots of questions, regardless if you’re a man or woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 04:46 PM
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People can say literally anything they want on the internet. So if men genuinely feel this way too about older women dating younger men, they also have the freedom to express it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 04:37 PM
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It’s the equivalent of the “Chad” men insist all women are after. Hourglass figure, big boobs, big butt, blond hair, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 01:58 AM
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I’ve always thought of it this way with men as well. If a group of models come to in, the average “cute” girl might as well not exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 01:56 AM
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Well I don’t have a way of surveying the millions of women who are currently married. But based on the replies of the women on this sub, a significant amount of women feel the same way I do. Are the women on this sub the majority or minority? I have no way of knowing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 11:46 PM
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Ah no, these men are better than the ones who are solely hook up material. My husband was always hookup+husband material. If I didn’t want to immediately hook up with him, he was not husband material in my eye. The guys who were ONLY hook up material but not husband material were guys I found boring and just didn’t want to hang out with outside of sex. My current husband is the full package. He’s insanely good looking, but I also like his personality, his values, etc. that’s why I married him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 11:36 PM
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Not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 03:39 PM
3

How old are you? At some point you have to start living for yourself. Caring whether or not people label you as insecure seems like such a high school thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 03:36 PM
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I would be horrified since I don't want anyone ever physically attacking my husband. My husband has confronted men for making women uncomfortable before. It reminds me that I married a wonderful man who cares about the safety of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 06:50 PM
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Every guy I have dated including my husband has been “husband material” AND “hook up material.” And if you go on any thread regarding the topic, the majority of women share the same sentiment. So no, it’s not actually rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 07:05 PM
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Yes, it’s used that way from some women. I’m not going to pretend like it’s the only way women use it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:36 PM
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Fair enough. It’s 100% used in different ways though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:32 PM
1

“I’ve never had women like me for my personality and want to fuck me at the same time so I’m going to pretend like it’s the same for all other men.” Sure sure, whatever you want to tell yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:27 PM
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I disagree. At least not on this sub. This topic has been discussed numerous times and every time the majority of the comments are women saying “husband material” = want to immediately hook up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:24 AM
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Are you referring to me or OP?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 09:14 PM
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I think maybe some people are under the impression that “husband material” automatically making the man wait for sex. That’s clearly not the case though. If you’re husband material to me, I’m gonna want to jump your bones. I’m not making you wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:23 PM
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Exactly! Idk why so many people think you can only either be one or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:19 PM
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Well I’m glad I’ve given you a different perspective. People react to things based on their own experiences. This should be common knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 06:32 PM
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Absolutely nobody is obligated to date single moms or single fathers. All your reasons are perfectly valid. I’m married but if I wasn’t, I would never date a single dad. Why? I don’t want any kids. I wonder if your roommates mother is a single mom or if it’s common in her family because it definitely seems like she took it too personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 06:18 PM
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They said anecdotal evidence doesn’t count 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:46 PM
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No, YOU find it disgusting. Because the majority of women who have commented here have already said they don’t find it disgusting. But surely you ignored all the comments because they don’t suit your “they find this disgusting” narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 03:13 PM
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“Men don’t read profiles.” scrolls past a dozen men saying they read profiles Why is it so damn hard to speak for yourself? Why must false generalizations be made when men aren’t homogeneous? What do you gain by talking on behalf of all men and thinking they are all exactly like you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 04:15 PM
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Yes we would. And that would be okay, because life isn’t fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 04:10 PM
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No. A lot of us are married now.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 04:33 PM
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Yeah and those boyfriends don’t give a damn. That’s why they’re dating them. Men who don’t want a woman with a past should seek women without a past.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 04:26 PM
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For me, if the guy is boyfriend/husband material, he is ALSO hookup material. I’ve never made any of my ex bfs or my current husband wait for sex. The difference is that I actually want to hang out with the one who is bf material, unlike the guy who I only see as hook up material. And by hang out I mean actually go out and do stuff and not just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 04:21 PM
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How does your gf or wife feel about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:49 PM
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These spaces you talk about are echo chambers. There are thousands of women, including me, who do not fear men. Don’t let them fool you into believing every woman runs off fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 02:08 AM
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A woman who is genuinely running on fear will not want to be approached in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 09:27 PM
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The only consistent answer I’ve found is that they are operating from fear and self preservation on every decision they make. Not all women operate like this though. Please try to not fall into believing the women that preach “all women are like this.” Let those women speak for themselves. Because I, along with thousands of other women aren’t constantly running on fear and self preservation like they’re trying to make you believe. So they can’t approach a guy they really like incase he’s crazy b…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 09:25 PM
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The only consistent answer I’ve found is that they are operating from fear and self preservation on every decision they make. Not all women operate like this though. And don’t fall into believing the women that preach “all women are like this.” Let those women speak for themselves. Because I, along with thousands of other women aren’t constantly running on fear and self preservation like they’re trying to make you believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 09:20 PM
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When you go the club, what percentage of the women there would you say are supermodel hot?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 06:28 PM
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It’s incredibly sad how many women are incapable of understanding their privileges.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 06:23 PM
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Women want to be approached. But more guys are opting out of approaching women because of negative experiences and women specifically telling them to stop cold approaching. Going on a dating app signals to others that you’re open for something and opens yourself up to a wide pool of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 06:18 PM
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most of the men that really complain about modern dating are ones that are above average, do have a middle class job, and can't find a woman as above average as he is. Would you say most of the men on here are above average?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 06:10 PM
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Looks like I missed your point. My apologies. To me, it read as if you were suggesting that men are unfairly told their preferences are unrealistic and shallow. So, I was just countering that with an example of when I think it's fair to judge them for their standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 06:09 PM
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Yes. Their opinion may be unpopular but my point still stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 05:47 PM
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I never said they struggle, just that they're shallow. I've included an example of what I am talking about, though. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 05:27 PM
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A lot of the men here are really shallow though. I have come across a lot that freely admit they only pay attention to the women that go after athletes, millionaire, etc. because they’re the hottest and they don’t want to be with an average woman because they’re fat and ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:28 PM
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What everyone considers “attractive” is different though. While some things can be generalized (most people aren’t going to be attracted to someone who is overweight), others cannot. If a woman ever says she isn’t into the athletic type, she will be told she’s lying even though she isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:22 PM
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One way of knowing is that a large percentage of men haven’t involved past the “can’t give your guy friend a hug because it’s gay” mentality. Men as a whole are still generally obsessed with displaying masculinity. They have to bottle up every emotion that’s perceived as weakness, or else they will be ostracized. Putting on a facade can be incredibly alienating. I’ve seen so many men on Reddit saying things like “therapy is for women” or “men don’t talk about their feelings.” When men feel like …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:22 AM
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I stopped taking the grievances of men on here seriously when they started making it clear that they’re only interested in the kind of women who only date athletes because the average woman is “fat and ugly.”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 05:15 PM
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It's not always malicious, but if it's a pattern of behavior with an unwillingness to improve yourself, now it's just willfully incompetent. And that depends entirely on the relationship dynamic if that's permissible. But if things are meant to be a shared chore, and you consistently fail to complete the task on your own, it's likely an issue that needs addressed. Exactly. Sometimes, it's obviously malicious; sometimes, it's not. However, not everyone sees it this way and is convinced it's alway…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 06:50 PM
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Yes we can be bad at things, that doesn’t mean we don’t also weaponize incompetence, I know I do. This is a rational take which not everyone has. You can see it in this very comment section. These people think only the latter can be true. OP is debating that that is a sexist belief because it applies an unfair generalization to men. It assumes that men are inherently competent and should be able to handle everything on their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 06:39 PM
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My point is that every scenario is different and that it's not always done with malicious intent. To claim that 99.9% of the time a man can't do something and needs his wife to help is weaponized incompetence; you would have to be some kind of omnipresent mind-reading god. It's also sexist because it implies men are inherently competent and should be able to handle everything on their own, while also assuming they must be manipulating and deliberately avoiding responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 06:19 PM
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The reality is most people who call their partner while at the store aren’t doing it because they want to hear their voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 05:54 PM
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If your gf lays around the house all day I can see how it wouldn’t be a big deal. But if your partner specifically asked you to pick something up at the store because they’re really busy at work, calling them instead of asking the store clerk is ludicrous.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 05:45 PM
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They would rather talk to a stranger because it would prevent adding the mental load onto the person you love.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 05:40 PM
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u/Mydragonurdungeon’s mentality is a perfect example of weaponized incompetence. They’re acting like they’re all about husband and wife helping out each other but refuse to acknowledge that asking the store clerk instead of calling the wife is helping each other out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 05:17 PM
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A clerks job is to help people find things in the store.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 05:13 PM
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Why are you asking? That’s not something I suggested.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 05:10 PM
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I'm not deciding anything. I'm sure there have been many times when it's both. In those cases, I actually think it's cute that they wanted to hear their significant others' voice. All I am saying is that there will absolutely be times that have NOTHING to do with wanting to hear your partner's voice, and it boils down to incompetence. Not saying that this is the case 99.9% of the time, but it happens. In that case, they should ask a store employee for help. You suggested this exact same thing in…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 04:48 PM
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Yes, and I’m specifically referring to cases where someone is calling their partner to ask where something is, not because they wanted to hear their voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 04:25 PM
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Yes. They should ABSOLUTELY figure it out for themselves and be self sufficient like any mature adult. Why bother calling your partner when you can just ask a store clerk who is already there to begin with?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 04:23 PM
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It’s not about it being an inconvenience to you, it’s about it possibly being an inconvenience to the other party. That’s where self sufficiency and critical thinking comes in.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 04:19 PM
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Or maybe he’s simply incompetent. A lot of people are. And they don’t do it on purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 04:09 PM
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Oh please, this isn’t “he loves her and would rather talk to her” - he’s trying to get out of doing it next time or is so unengaged he’s not thinking critically. Do you have a source that shows this?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 04:07 PM
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Yup, this is why I find it hilarious when men go on to call women out for being shallow. Unlike women, men would still have sex with an ugly women, and because of that, they like to pat themselves on the back and think of themselves as the more empathetic, more moral, and less shallow gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 06:13 PM
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Yup, I remember when I was young there was a point where I thought I was so cool for having older men interested in me. That didn’t last long but it’s something I’ve heard so many women express before.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 03:42 PM
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It kind of sounded like you already made up your mind in a previous comment. You think only the wives of athletes and millionaires are beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 01:34 AM
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and so far, all you’ve shown is that you’re into women who rely on some plastic surgery, who have unrealistic body standards unless they themselves are rich and can afford high end nutritionists and cosmetic work done and you seek to be fully committed to the 1% of women the ultra rich are dating. I think this can be said about the majority of men on this sub. They only want to date the most self absorbed women because they’re the hottest. These women always have the most vapid personalities. Bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 01:32 AM
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I think the biggest problem with the men on here is that you guys are only attracted to the type of women who only want to date athletes and millionaires and seem to think they’re the only kind of women exist. That’s why so many will complain about how women are so shallow and such gold diggers. They have a hard time acknowledging there are tons of women who are average in terms of tools who aren’t shallow and aren’t gold diggers. But they’re not worthy of mention because “they’re not as beautif…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 01:28 AM
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This is what I don’t get. How are people gonna get upset over their date expending them to drop thousands of dollars on a date when that’s their type?!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 01:18 AM
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Do you think the majority of average women expect a guy to drop $1000 on a first date? I can see that being the expectation with high-maintenance women. The kind that spend thousands of dollars on their looks and want to only date famous football players, rock stars, and successful entrepreneurs. However, that’s not an average woman. Unless you’re only into those kinds of chicks, you’re going to encounter a lot of normal women who don’t expect lavish first dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 01:15 AM
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I’m sorry, I wasn’t trying to mean anything malicious by using the word “picked.” That was not my intent. It’s just that when I see men talking about women not being attracted to the majority of men, it tells me that that man hasn’t experienced women be attracted to them. So I was just curious what you think it is about you that has left you out of that 10%?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:40 PM
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Yeah, it wouldn’t really make sense to be a jester if nothing draws women in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:22 PM
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Why do you think women haven’t picked you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:12 PM
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You’re not the first person to ask them this. And you will see every time end up deflecting and never answering the question. The sub should ban these kinds of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:09 PM
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Jesus. I wish this sub would ban these kinds of people. It’s a debate sub but they can’t handle answering questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:08 PM
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I don’t think I read any of your comments nor downvoted any of them…can you show me where I did?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 05:20 PM
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I think it's a good thing for people to be cautious. And as a woman who has had negative experiences with men, I don't judge women for being cautious because I am cautious as well. What I have a problem with is when women have a smug, condescending, and cynical attitude about it. I have witnessed it a couple of times, and I found it intolerable. At that point, it's no longer about safety, and it's more about raw hate. Btw, I appreciate that you made this post to help others gain a better underst…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 04:33 AM
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I'm able to sympathize with normal levels of fear. My issue is when women are so scared of men, they do/say things online, like a demand that they never ask women for directions. It's so absurd. That's when I no longer care about trying to understand them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 04:13 AM
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Yeah anyone who thinks this is a massive hypocrite. This isn’t a fact though right? The good thing is that it’s a subjective opinion. You can just say “suck it” to anyone who holds this contradicting belief.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 11:01 PM
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The dramatics are because they want to be perpetual victims. They’re addicted to the dopamine rush that it gives them. It’s truly sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:50 PM
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I would be surprised. Groups aren’t homogeneous like that. I’m sure for some guys sexually assaulting a woman is just another Tuesday, but I’m not going to pretend like it’s the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:47 PM
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Is this post about why fat women want to date fit men, or is it about why they think they can get away with it? Because they’re completely separate things. Your post title asks why fat women want to date fit guys. But then you go on to list reasons why a fat guy can get away with dating a fit woman, which is something different. The reverse would have been listing reasons why those men want to date fit women. But you mentioned nothing regarding that. The fat guys that try to date fit women do it…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:41 PM
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I can’t imagine staying in a relationship with someone you find so unattractive that you’re unwilling to have sex with them. Oh wait, I guess if they were loaded I see the appeal. But then again, personally I wouldn’t get with an ugly guy just for his money.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 06:54 PM
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I’ve definitely never lost sleep over not getting a gift. I actually tell my husband every year to not get me anything, not even for our anniversary because I already have everything I need! Does he ever listen? Nope. I’m not mad about it at all though. I just don’t buy into the whole thing that only women care about valentines day.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 06:48 PM
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I’m not the person you asked. But personally I would gain some respect for them because we live in a society that reinforces outdated ideas about masculinity and it takes guts to act against those stereotypes. Hypermasculinity is alive and thriving. Just yesterday, there was some guy saying that he would never give a handmade gift to another guy because it’s “gay.” I have absolutely no respect for that kind of thinking. It’s void of any logic. So when I see men having the strength to not giving …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 07:36 PM
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You can’t choose, that is the whole problem. This is vague and can be interpreted in many different ways. The less detail we put in our messages, the more likely it will be misinterpreted by others. So when someone doesn’t understand, we should clarify instead of resorting to personal attacks. This is a case where precise wording and patience could have kept the discussion productive instead of turning into an argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:57 PM
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Most people are just going about their life and are barely giving two thoughts to other people. Yeah, this is true to an extent. Most people are focused on their own lives. But let's not underestimate the extent to which people form and express negative judgments about others. Negative perceptions about every group are well-documented both online and offline. The stereotype of the "crazy cat lady" didn’t appear out of nowhere, it exists because society has long attached a stigma to women who don…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:23 AM
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I will never understand those who pretend like their entire gender is incapable of doing wrong. What do they accomplish by such black and white thinking. I don’t get it..
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:55 AM
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People do think horrible things about each other all the time though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:13 AM
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My husband and I have a joint bank accounts. What’s his is mine, and what’s mine is his. Neither of us have bad spending habits so it’s never been a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:56 PM
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Yup. They give me mental disorder vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:40 PM
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You mean just like how some men are so fragile they think giving a gift to their friends is “gay” or how some don’t want to wash their ass because it’s “gay?” Hmmm yeah, yeah I guess you’re right, it’s just life. It’s an inherent part of every human.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:08 PM
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Please don’t listen to them or use what they’re saying to generalize all women. It’s clear they lack any compassion. Their username tells you all you need to know. If a guy needs wants to ask me for direction, I am more than happy to help. And I know there are tons of other women who would do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:59 PM
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Why should they only ask men for directions? That is incredibly weird. It’s amazing how self absorbed some people have become. I can’t imagine not wanting someone to ask me for directions just because they’re a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:58 PM
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Your comment reminds me of a post on AIO yesterday of a girl who shut off the Super Bowl all because her bf asked if she could run the store to grab some more beer. So many of the women were up arms going “how dare he” and “I shouldn’t have to do things for my partner that I don’t want!” It was insane! It’s so sad how many people still continue to have an independent mentality after getting in relationships. They should be a partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:51 PM
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Are you okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:42 PM
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Not that I don't agree with what you're saying, but what does this have to do with my conversation with u/RahLyt? We were both specifically talking about men. The question they asked had absolutely nothing to do with women. If you want to vent about women in the military, I suggest making your own post.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 01:24 AM
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It’s honestly sad how society as a whole continues to reinforce outdated ideas about masculinity. I know there has been progress in terms of getting men to acknowledge there is value in certain traits like vulnerability, but so many of the stereotypes still linger. I really hope there is a future in where men and women stop believing these irrational ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 01:01 AM
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What I don’t get are the men who act like talking to women is a world of its own. It’s not. If you’re able to socialize with people of your own group and treat them like a human, it demonstrates you have some sort of social skills, which means you should also be able to apply those skills when you interact with members of the other group.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:25 AM
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I was in the military as well and there is a reason women were called bag nastys. Stop pretending women in the field are super hygienic. I’ve personally seen them having sex in port-o-potties. Yes women are just as disgusting. Can you point out where I said otherwise? The person I replied to was specifically asking about men, that’s why I only talk about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:20 PM
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But that’s not reflective of the average man that women actually date. I agree. I was just responding their question.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 08:46 PM
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I feel like it would be the equivalent of dating an obese woman who refuses to take any steps in life to become healthier because “men are shallow.” It’s void of logic. Why would a man be attracted to that in the first place? They wouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 07:09 PM
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What kind of woman would be attracted to a man who refuses to leave a min wage part time job all because “woman shallow.” Part of me wants to believe this is made up because there’s no way someone could be this dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 07:06 PM
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I mean he said his friend chooses not to get a better job because woman are shallow. Meaning he’s able to better his life but chooses not to because he would rather stick it to women. That tells me he has the maturity level of a 16 year old. I don’t know how man or woman could be attracted to that kind of childish behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 07:03 PM
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Then this contradicts the idea that women care more about a man’s hygiene than his looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 05:22 PM
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he doesn’t seem to want to change jobs or get another one. I keep telling him that it’s understandable for a woman nit to want to date someone who makes so little but apparently he thinks it’s shallow still. His mentality is 100x worse than how much he makes. He would rather play games just so he can stick it to woman instead of growing the hell up. This would be an instant dealbreaker for me. He thinks he’s being such a hard ass for not changing jobs but he still dates these “shallow” women whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 05:18 PM
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Women are still going to pick the guy with looks and hygiene over the guy who only checks the hygiene box.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:27 PM
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For me it just sounds bizarre to read advice all the time about how men should have better hygiene when I don’t see it and I never even heard it from women complaining about dates. This is actually the first time I’ve heard someone say hygiene is more important than looks. For me, they’re equally important. Good hygiene is part of having good looks. I’ve never had an issue where the guy I was hooking up or dating had terrible hygiene because I’ve never been attracted to guys who look unhygienic …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:11 PM
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I get we have different experiences. I wasn’t trying to invalidate yours. But you did ask where these men are at, and I responded.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 03:53 PM
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I was in the military and the amount of times some of the men would not shower after days out in the field was astonishing. Sometimes we even had sergeants forcing soldiers to go get showers. I never saw the same pushback from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 03:43 PM
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I think those kinds of women suck. One of my cousins with 4 kids got kidnapped a few years ago. How’s the mother doing? She’s dating a guy who beats her and the kids. She will leave them at home all day (oldest one is about 10) so she can go drinking with the bf and her friends. I have no idea how she’s so comfortable bringing such terrible men into her children’s lives. It’s disgusting. I would never bring strange men around my kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 08:20 PM
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I don’t get tired of compliments because I rarely get them (last time was from a little girl at the airport). I’ll get complimented once a year and when it happens it’s more like 90% not trusting and 10% appreciative. If I was constantly being complimented, that’s when I’d start becoming unphased. If anything, I’m actually in a point in my life where I wish men would cat call me!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 05:03 PM
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Is this ruse of pretending like large groups of people are homogenous ever going to stop?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:59 PM
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How do you know it’s the same group?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 03:58 PM
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I have a problem with them in the sense that I think their way of thinking is wrong. But I would never tell them they’re obligated to anything. I’m still curious though, who or what told you that giving money to the homeless is an obligation?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 07:23 PM
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I asked about moral obligation. It’s one thing to be raised in a household that teaches you about morals. It’s another to think everyone is obligated to the have the same morals. I can donate, help at shelters, give money to the poor, etc. while simultaneously acknowledging that others have absolutely no obligation to do the same. I personally think being against an entire group of people is silly and void of logic. However I know there are thousands of people who do so. I can go ahead and prete…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 07:09 PM
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Wait, have you seriously been going through life thinking we are morally obligated to give homeless people money? There are no laws for this. So, who convinced you that you’re obligated?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:43 PM
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I find it really ironic that society will tell men that its unhealthy to bottle up their emotions and they need an outlet, and will tell men that they should seek help and go to therapy when they’re depressed. And how do you know both of these things are coming from the same group of people?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:12 PM
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I personally don’t know any of these women but I wouldn’t doubt that they exist. People come in all sorts of varieties. Insisting on viewing a group as a monolith is flawed. No large group is completely homogeneous.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:05 PM
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Are you saying that the average woman makes online profiles just to get attention? That’s a pretty serious generalization. I’m guessing you have a source right?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:54 PM
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Oddly enough, this was something I was thinking about today. I don’t think it’s exclusive to women (not saying you’re saying this) because I’ve experienced the same with men on here and on other subs. I think it’s because those people just want to argue. They’re not here to change their perspectives. They just want to confirm their own beliefs and win arguments. I know I’m guilty of this and I’m almost positive you are too! You’re doing it in your post title!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:11 AM
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I’m as calm as you. So the “calm down” card is unnecessary. I guess I just find it weird when people pretend large groups are homogenous. I don’t understand it. Is it laziness? Do you strongly identify with a feminist perspective that resents the stereotype of women being attention seekers? Are you afraid of being ostracized by other women? Do you think your personal experience is the universal truth? Do you not want to change your personal beliefs? If it’s none of these, then what?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:06 AM
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Oh you mean just like you have been? If you’re going to give advice, the least you could do it follow it yourself in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 01:48 AM
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What’s average weight to you? I’m asking just to make sure you’re not a troll. Because I was just talking to a guy who was saying a 5% bf makes a woman “chubby,” which is insane because not even female athletes have that low of a bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 01:07 AM
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Unless you are some omnipresent god, there is absolutely no chance you know exactly what every single woman on the planet wants. However, based on your user name and flair, it’s clear you are trolling so it makes sense that you would make nonsensical claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 01:00 AM
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It’s one thing to not be a woman like that. It’s another to try to speak on behalf of a million woman and pretend like women like that don’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 11:17 PM
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Yes, it’s a real question. I’ve personally never been that kind of woman nor have I ever met a girl in real life that admitted to doing to that kind of thing. I use social media to look at pictures of dogs, buy crafts, and get outfit inspiration. Because I don’t seek/consume content posted by narcissistic women, I’m not familiar with every single one of their behaviors. So sorry for not knowing that there are women out there who make profiles just for attention. It’s so foreign to me that it did…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 11:12 PM
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Im confused by OPs title. Is he asking this to women who don’t care about being in a relationship or the ones who do. Because if it’s the former, why would a woman have on online dating profile if it’s not for hooking up or finding a LTR?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:30 PM
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Oh yeah, I agree 100%. That’s so annoying! I wonder what percentage of people are able to experience initial attraction. I feel like it’s would be the majority. I think it’s messed up to shame people for something that’s inherent and harmless. Like the first time I ever felt initial attraction to someone was when I was around 5. I know millions of people could say the same. So its ingenious to pretend like initial attraction = only wanting their body.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:13 PM
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Same. I still remember my first crush ever. It was in 1st grade. The instant I saw him I was all “so cute!” So it’s weird to think about someone going their entire life never experiencing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:04 PM
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I feel the same way you do. But apparently there are people who genuinely don’t experience an initial attraction to anyone. So all they can do is wait and see if some kind of chemistry develops. They function differently than you, so waiting for them isn’t a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 06:45 PM
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The biggest perpetrators of the “men can’t show emotions” trope are other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:26 PM
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12-20% bf is normal for athletes. This is why I can’t take some guys seriously. They call 5% bf “chubby.”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:16 PM
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Okay now I know you’re a troll. 5% body fat is extremely unhealthy. Anything under 10% can lead to hormonal balances, bone loss, and infertility. The fact that you’re calling 5% fat women “chubby” just shows how superficial you are. Not even athletes have body fat that low.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:14 PM
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I just checked out CamSoda, StripChat, SinParty, LiveJasmin, Streamate, and Bongacams and the majority of girls on the front page are in shape and have the bimbo aesthetic (not natural). There were maybe one or two girls in there who were a little chubby. One time I asked a guy on here if men who follow those types of women on social media are aware that those women have narcissistic and aren’t gf/wife material. This is what they told me: “I don’t think so and men don’t care about that. The infl…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 01:49 AM
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It’s not about language. All it is is you didn’t put sufficient information in your comment so people can understand you correctly. “Hello lawsuit. Ugly men hitting on hot women, what could go wrong?” is going to be interpreted differently by each person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 01:22 AM
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Maybe not CEOs but we have women like Ice Spice with no actual talent who have been planted in the music industry just so they can bring in money by showing off their bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:29 PM
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They only pay attention to the hottest women, while simultaneously making comments like “the majority of Western women are overweight” while also claiming they’re the less superficial ones. It’s hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:24 PM
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There are more male simps than female simps. Men want women more than women want men. As long as this is the case, women will always get more attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:19 PM
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Yes of course. That would no longer be 50/50 though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 04:24 PM
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This is why it annoys me whenever I bring up the unhinged comments that get posted by men, other men will try to defend them by saying things like “it was a joke,” or “it doesn’t represent the majority of men.” I then go on to say that either of those things shouldn’t matter because hateful takes that get posted online still have a real life consequence. But nope, that always gets downvoted.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 04:22 PM
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An equal partnership would mean that you both have to contribute to finances equally. Which doesn’t seem very fair if you make significantly less than your partner. It would also mean that you have to contribute exactly the same around the house which wouldn’t be fair if you work 12 hours a day, and your partner works 5. And these are just some examples, there are other ones as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 11:56 PM
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This black at white thinking isn’t it. Thinking the absolute worst all because someone doesn’t have friends say A LOT MORE about you than them. With that way of thinking, not only are you going to cut out crazy women, but you’re going to cut out women who aren’t crazy but have things like autism and social anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:23 PM
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I remember one time I made a comment on here about most men not caring if their gf/wives have their toes done. Many men responded confirming it true. Some girl came in SO MAD. Talking about how she’s so high maintenance and how only ugly guys don’t care about their girlfriend’s feet being done. She started calling me all these names like Fred Flinstone. It was super funny. And then she proceeded to DM me just to attack me some more. I felt so bad for her because just by looking at her pics you c…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 07:28 PM
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It only seems to be an issue when men do it. Men get hate for it while women get support for it Yes. And this is absolutely DISGUSTING. Women should NOT be getting support for it. I sure as hell don’t support it. I actually call it out and have gone out of my way to ensure men that not all women like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 04:39 PM
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I have ALWAYS admitted to being shallow. Looks comes first and then personality. If you look at my post history, you will see I have never had a problem admitting it. I’m not ashamed of something that’s human nature. I rarely hear men admitting they’re superficial though. If anything, if they ever bring the topic up, it’s to describe women. They (not all men) go on about how women are so horrible for being shallow. Then in the next breath talk about how most women are fat. They’re implying their…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 04:14 PM
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If the tiktoks from a man its 100% serious but if its from a woman its rage bait. Shits hilarious lol. That’s not what I’m saying though. Both women and men post TikTok bait. And none of it is helping. Yall acting like only men do this is insane. It way more prevalant and way more supported when done by women No, that’s just you reading between the lines. Both men and women do shit like this and all it does is cause negative generalizations.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 04:04 PM
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It’s not just one man. Every time I hop on here, I see the most vile shit said by men. But I guess you guys think that’s okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 04:00 PM
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Oh you mean just like how men make exaggerated inferences in videos made by TikTok influencers to confirm to themselves that woman are more superficial than they really are?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 01:17 AM
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Like what would the difference even be 🤣🤣🤣? The people who are my friends I care about more than people who are strangers. That’s the only difference. Sounds like you answered your own question. "That's the only difference." - u/Puzzled-Medicine-782 Exactly, that's my point. There is a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 08:27 PM
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Do you actually believe he's the only guy with that mentality when there are 4 billion men on the planet? I mean, I'm sure you've heard of the Taliban. People treat each other like crap for things like gender, religion, and sexual orientation all the time. So, I'm not sure why it's hard to believe that humans are capable of doing the same when it comes to outer appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 08:19 PM
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When I asked you if you cared about a fat, unattractive woman the same way you care about your closest friends, you said, "Of course not." So clearly you're exhibiting a different type of care in each of those contexts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:57 PM
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Exactly. That was my whole point! You care in an abstract sense, but it’s a different kind of care. In case you didn’t read: For the most part, humans possess a general sense of empathy and care about others, but real care, those actions that require effort, emotional investment, and sacrifice, is typically reserved for romantic partners, close friends, and family. Most people don’t go out of their way to help others unless there is a direct connection or personal investment involved. It is an i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:52 PM
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Are you saying you care about a fat strange ugly woman as much as you care about your closest friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:48 PM
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lol it’s a joke. It doesn't matter whether something is a joke or not; it still has an impact. Everything we share online creates a ripple effect. We can observe this happening on this very subreddit every day. People frequently post TikTok videos that aren't supposed to be taken seriously, yet despite their comedic intention, many viewers take them seriously and generalize that an entire group behaves that way. This only serves to reinforce negative stereotypes. Of course men care about women o…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:42 PM
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How so? Someone just replied saying they view anyone under an 8 as subhuman. Would you say that way of thinking is representative of the average man?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:27 PM
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See guys? This is why a lot of women are happy being single. You guys proudly admit that your criteria for treating someone with humanity is how attractive they are. Only people that make your peepee hard are worthy of care, yet women are the superficial ones that don’t care about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:21 PM
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Gotcha. Would you say that you’re interested in understanding the romantic-sexual experiences of average women you wouldn’t have sex with?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:14 PM
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I care about the experiences of those women in the abstract, but have no personal experience with them. Most people have a general sense of empathy and care about others in an abstract sense. But when it comes to real care, the kind that requires effort, emotional investment, and sacrifices, that’s reserved for romantic partners, close friends, and family. Most people tend to not go out of their way to help unless there is a direct connection or an investment. It’s an inherent part of human natu…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 05:52 PM
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I’m more so wondering about average women that aren’t in your life. It’s a given that people will care to some degree about the people they’re having sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 05:10 PM
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Would you say you care about the experiences of women outside the top 30%?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:56 PM
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What I don’t get is why are they so adamant on acting like all men are that way? Because I’ve seen men insisting things like “all men think about having sex with every woman they see,” but I know that’s not the case. Yet I have had arguments with men suggesting all men do it. It’s not enough for them to speak for themselves. They feel the need to speak on behalf of all men. They’re just shooting themselves in the foot when they do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:35 AM
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“But men don’t crave connection. They just want sex!”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:23 AM
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Aren’t more and more women opting out of dating? I think that would show a trend in less women expecting a man to fix them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:16 AM
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And then they go to act like AWALT. All emotion. No logic. Edit: I like how you jump from super hot IG model, to mid, as if there was no in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:24 AM
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Sorry. I don’t believe that they don’t care about women being superficial when there’s such a large percentage of posts by men lamenting and complaining about those qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:18 AM
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I feel like attraction is a subconscious thing though. People can’t help who does/doesn’t elicit some kind of response in them. Someone may not fit what society deems as current beauty standards while simultaneously being attracted to people beyond their league. I’m imagining the type of women these men follow are the influencer types whose content revolves around their appearance. In order to be want to be that kind of influencer, one would have to be insecure, superficial, narcissistic and att…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 12:48 AM
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Having contradictory beliefs, wants, etc. are what make us human. Every single human has them, including you. It’s sad to bring out the pitch forks for something that everyone does. It’s also quite innocent. It’s not like people are doing it purpose to confuse one another. It just happens. Humans aren’t robots, so it doesn’t make sense to judge each other so harshly. You are making a mountain out of a molehill just so you have something to be irritated by and justify your biases with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 12:11 AM
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I wonder if that’s because some men consider having high standards an exclusively female characteristic. So they don’t want to be associated with it in any way. It reminds me of the multiple men on Reddit I’ve seen making absolute statements and saying things like “Men don’t need to socialize”, “Men aren’t emotional.” All of which are inherently part of being human. So when they say these things, they’re insinuating they’re superior in some manner and that needing connection and being emotional …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 12:06 AM
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What percentage of woman online have you come across that had “MUST listen to Taylor swift” on their profile?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:52 PM
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Homie everyone has different tastes, no two people are going to have the exact list of interests. Having the exact same interests in everything is not something any sane woman actually expects. The love of animals is something I value in a partner. That was something I looked for when dating. Did I ask for them to also listen to heavy metal? Absolutely not. My husband hates music. Do I care or has it affected us during the last 12 years, absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:49 PM
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I never insisted they’re the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:50 PM
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nothing ever makes me feel as good as when i’m completely honest or vulnerable and a user, particularly a woman, expresses any empathy or understanding whatsoever. those people really make me rethink. hell, i’m often feel much better when a woman simply asks me why? Thank you so much for being honest about how you feel! It sounds like using Reddit as a release helps you in the moment. Do you think that's led you to any change or growth? I know venting can be super cathartic, but sometimes, it ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 07:36 PM
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I appreciate you sharing your perspective. I would say that even the act of writing letters to your wife involves a form of communication and connection. They are inherently social behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 07:12 PM
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I admire your honesty. Not many people allow themselves to be vulnerable online. Do you think arguing on Reddit or pitying yourself has helped you? What does your therapist think about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 10:16 PM
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A large percentage of the human population believes in a god despite them admitting there is no concrete evidence. It blows my mind all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:03 PM
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Are you trying to say that men seek romantic relationships because they want sex and not because they want an emotional connection? If so, sexual partnerships are still a form of socialization since it involves interaction and intimacy between two people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:34 PM
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Why are you so scared of appearing human? This is clearly a coping mechanism. If men didn’t need socialization, male loneliness wouldn’t exist in the first place and we would never see any posts about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 04:58 PM
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Probably not many since they’re women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 04:54 PM
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You caught me! I’m a giant lesbian from North Korea.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 04:25 PM
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Okay so can you clarify what you’re referring to when you say “when this happens to me?”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 11:42 PM
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This isn’t my reality, and it’s not the reality of millions of men. There has never been a single fiber in my body that has felt less attracted to my husband any time he has been vulnerable with me. Humans are inherently weak. It’s part of being a human. A woman who doesn’t want her man ever displaying weakness is not a good person. It’s absolutely asinine to pretend like there aren’t thousands of comments left by men talking about their positive experiences opening up to women. Nope, you would …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 11:40 PM
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Of course these women are real. I meant hypothetical in that for some of us, we have never experienced what you described, so we can only imagine of the person you speak of. I wasn’t trying to dismiss what you’re saying and trying to suggest women like that don’t exist. what’s wrong in preemptively acting as if the one you are with is like that too? It’s not necessarily wrong. But if you think this way, you will never be able to fully be yourself in any relationship. You will always have to have…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 11:28 PM
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Why are you avoiding the question? Maybe you didn’t. I’m having trouble connecting the dots. Why do you care what I do? How do my choices or my personality impact you at this very moment? You received some unhelpful advice, you’re upset, so your solution is to give women unsolicited personal advice in matters that don’t even affect you personally? Is that what you’re saying in your comment here?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 09:39 PM
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Are you saying guys have admitted their previous history of cheating early on in relationship with you? If so, I’m sorry that really sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 08:46 PM
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It’s been almost 2 months since I’ve started going to therapy. It’s hard but I’m pushing! I’m curious, why are you so adamant about giving women on Reddit unsolicited advice. I’m already married and statistically it’s unlikely that we will ever meet so why do you care about what I do? I’m not into arguing and being cynical, so know I am asking this earnestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 07:37 PM
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Why are you suddenly being so cynical?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 07:20 PM
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I appreciate the advice. But I have no interest in getting comments from strangers on Instagram. I wasn’t complaining by any means, just making a statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 07:18 PM
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So you like chasing these women but at the same time feel the need to let men know what to look out for. I’m having trouble following this logic. Could you explain.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:59 PM
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So do you think women being more commitment phobic is a good thing? I would assume so since that means more opportunities for chasing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:45 PM
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Nowhere am I saying you hate women. But the women you’ve described in your post are objectively terrible woman to be in relationships with. So I’m wondering, why do you want to chase those kinds of women? And you intentially wrote it in a way where you’re basically declaring all women are like that. So if your post is how women are, which is revolting, I don’t know how someone could turn around and say “chasing them is fun!”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:38 PM
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The mentality of knowing that being yourself is the best because it weeds out those you wouldn’t be compatible with. It’s much more practical than “I can’t be vulnerable because women don’t like that.”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:30 PM
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So you made an entire post with multiple paragraphs about how you’ve met women online and how dating them was horrible. But now suddenly you change your tune and it’s “chasing women is fun!” So which one is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:23 PM
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I guess I must be a dude then.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:10 PM
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It’s honestly sad that this mentality is rare. Well at least on Reddit. Or so it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:59 PM
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Wouldn’t calling it a shit test imply that that’s not how you really act?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:54 PM
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Turning it around and making your partner to be the bad guy is not normal behavior but borderline psychotic. And of course immature women like this exist but they aren’t in the majority. I mean just reading your description of this hypothetical woman made my skin crawl.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:48 PM
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So aka it’s not that one group is more unstable than the other. They’re both unstable (it’s human nature, we aren’t robots), it just manifests differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:35 PM
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If you’re vulnerable from the get go, you will weed out the women who don’t like vulnerable guys. When I was dating my husband, it was less than a year in when he confessed something about his past he had been keeping a secret. He cried while telling me about it. What he told me broke my heart. I hugged him so hard and cried along with him. Not a single fiber in my body felt disgust towards him. All I wanted to do is hold him. We exist. I promise.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:33 PM
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You’re absolutely right about women. It’s great to hype a friend up. But there’s a time and place for that. I have witnessed women gassing up other women for having multiple baby daddies, which is INSANE. It’s a selfish take and horrible advice. I’ve gotten told I’m “not a girls girl” all because I told a woman that having 5 baby daddies isn’t good for their kids. I’m wondering, do some guys gas each other up when it comes to making terrible decisions like women do? For some reason I feel like m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:04 PM
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Sorry, I disagree especially since in the last 24 hours there has been at least one post made about women needing to pick better on this sub. Here is one of them: https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/gk3VcsOXjP While there are tons of people who disagree with the premise, there are also people who agree. There are 8 billion humans on the planet. It makes no sense to act like nobody tells women to pick better.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 08:33 PM
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Both men and women get told to pick better when they describe having a history of bad partners. They acknowledge this, and therefore make an effort to do better by raising their standards. As for single mothers, don’t they get ridiculed for picking bad fathers? In this case, it doesn’t make sense to demand that those women lower their standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 08:12 PM
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Neither will I but that’s not what I’m referring to. What I am talking about is if every guy you get in a relationship happens to be low effort or lazy, then you should take responsibility in choosing those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 08:08 PM
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The slowest is going to look different for every man. There is not a universal answer. That’s why asking men something so individual and trying to apply it to your future dating prospects won’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 06:18 PM
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I can’t debate this because it’s a sentiment I have held for quite some time. If a women’s partners have a pattern of not meeting her standards, then there’s a chance that the problem lies within her. The same logic should apply to men AND women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:47 PM
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I can see that’s what you were doing. Technically, “promiscuous” is a descriptive term used for someone who has a lot of sexual partners, which seems like that’s the case so your usage of the word is correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:43 PM
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People who use “white knight” in context like these are just showing their true colors. They’re projecting. They can’t phantom empathizing with the other sex, because they see them as less than. They personally would never stand up for a woman unless they were to get something in return for it. So when they see you standing up for women, they project their biases, assume you’re doing it for ulterior motives, and the name calling starts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:35 PM
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No not men. Just that man in particular.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:23 PM
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This is your interpretation of the teen category, and it’s based on your assumptions and personal feelings. It does not represent the millions of men who consume porn or their motives. You cannot project your own reasoning onto others and expect it to hold as universal truth. There are thousands of men with pedophilic tendencies, and to dismiss the possibility that many use the “teen” category to cater to those impulses is disingenuous. And while you argue that the category is about “feminine, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:21 PM
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You called her promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:00 PM
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It’s love alright. The same love someone feels while eating a delicious burger.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:56 PM
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What about it? OP is that it should be a requirement to flair your sexual orientation. Is bi not a sexual orientation?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 01:25 AM
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Depends on who you ask. Whether they find it boring or not will tell you a lot about them and whether you’re compatible or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 01:00 AM
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It doesn’t feel like oppression though. It’s not even a slap across the face. It’s just witnessing in-group bias play out in real time which is a completely natural human behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 03:10 PM
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Why do you think this is? I have experienced the same from men. If I bring up any issue I have with my husband, the default is for them to immediately side with him, and assume the worst from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:06 PM
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Let’s be real. Unless it’s related to a charity or helping those in need, the majority of people who post online do it to get some kind of validation. However, there are lots of us who barely post online. I haven’t posted a selfie online in 5 years. I rarely post my personal life online because I don’t need validation like I once did when I was 16. There are TONS of likeminded women like me. Date those women. Don’t date women who constantly post picture of themselves. I believe the women who do …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 05:42 PM
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Which you’re supposed to be doing to a degree before going on a date with her anyways. Do you guys not spend time getting to know the other person before meeting them?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 05:52 PM
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Stop going on dates with those women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 04:40 PM
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I don’t think most women would want a robot to replace men. It would just be another thing they purchase like clothes, makeup, books, sex toys, etc. well at least for me it would be like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 12:01 AM
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May I ask. Why jump to generalizations instead of asking me clarifying questions?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 06:35 PM
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Ah no. If you had said “you women” it would have been obvious. But you didn’t. I personally love being hulk smashes so I don’t appreciate being lumped into women who don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 06:32 PM
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Can you show me where I’ve done that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 06:25 PM
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No comment huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 04:40 PM
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Have you all never been to a sex shop and see what kind of stuff they sell for men? They have pocket pussies and a large variety of vibrators just like women. So why are we making a giant leap and saying sex robot is the equivalent of a woman’s vibrator. It’s not. The equivalent of a woman’s vibrator is a mans vibrator.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 03:59 PM
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Too much tolerance ruins societies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 03:56 PM
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You don’t think women would be sold on the idea of a robot who can hulk smash them harder than any man?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 03:49 PM
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Let me ask you something. What’s your definition of not seeing men as “real people” is it, “not attracted to?”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:16 PM
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You got the wrong person. That was written by u/Flightlessbirbz. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 06:56 AM
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I don’t recall making that comment. Can you link me to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 06:43 AM
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Don’t you think it’s most likely different men saying different things? Or do you have examples of men on here legitimately being hypocritical? Any users in mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 05:43 PM
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Yup, there’s variance. I remember a woman came on here asking men if they’ve ever found a woman unattractive but then eventually became attracted after getting to know her. There were a lot of men being adamant that men as a whole don’t work like that. Meanwhile there were some men sharing their stories proving otherwise. Men aren’t a monolith and I really wish they would stop acting like they are. And yes, not all men act like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 05:37 PM
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I’ve had arguments with men on here insisting that men don’t become attracted to women over time. Obviously not all men are like this, but there are 4 billion men on the planet so of course some of them are going to think that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 05:27 PM
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It’s a coping mechanism of some sort. I feel like these people have a “dog eat dog world” mentality. I’ve experienced it from both men and women on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 02:22 PM
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Nope. But they certainly have a kind of authority over the topic which I’m not going to pretend I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:24 PM
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What precautions should babies, children, and elderly folks take so they don’t get raped?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 01:05 AM
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Yes, you are correct. But once again, they don't care about any of this. I'm guessing it's because they've had nothing but bad experiences, so they've become jaded. Who knows. Personally, I like giving people the benefit of the doubt and not assuming the worst in people. But I know not everyone is like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 04:34 AM
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There is no way to know for certain. That’s just the gamble one takes when pursuing both romantic and friendly relationships. It’s an inherent part of life. What you can control is your mindset. It’s up to you if you go into every possible interaction assuming the absolute worse or not. Personally, I like to think positive and prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt. However I know not everyone is like me. If being more cautious has worked out for you, then keep doing you!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 03:42 AM
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The reality is a lot of these men just don't want to end up as one of the guys she makes wait for sex. They think, "Well, she didn't make any of those other guys wait, so why should I put up with that?" They don't care about the human complexities. If she's not instantly jumping his bones, then BYE ho!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 01:51 AM
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When I'm attracted to someone, I will want to fuck them. I would not be going on multiple dates with somebody if I wasn't attracted to them. So if I'm not fucking them on the very first date, it's because I'm afraid of coming off as a sleaze. We think they're going to judge us and that it could ruin our chance at an LTR. I know that's the case for a lot of women. So we wait for a few dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 01:40 AM
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I can't imagine passing on a woman who never has sex on the first date all because *some* women happen do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 01:26 AM
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Are you seriously calling someone insufferable all because they asked you a question?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:36 AM
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I understand what you’re trying to say but her profession requires her to give services that are inherently personal and nuanced. Using a short video format that favors attention-grabbing content just makes her seem less credible in my opinion. I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with professionals using the platform to advertise, but her content comes off as clickbait which undermines her professionalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 12:04 AM
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In a lot of cases what you’re saying is true. However that wasn’t the point of my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 10:27 PM
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FemaleLevelUpStrategy, Lonely, Ugly, Datingoverthirty, Foreveralonewomen, Self, Advice, TwoXChromosomes, Dating They’re all over Reddit. There are 3+ billion women on this planet. I don’t get why it’s hard to believe that there are women out there trying to cope with feeling undesired.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 10:22 PM
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Thank you! He really is a catch. He went from being unemployed, to a busser, to a server, and then onto a software engineer. I am very proud of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:56 PM
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People like her are a cancer to society. I mean she’s on TikTok for goodness sake. Anyone who claims to be a dating coach and uses social media to promote themselves/services are 100% grifters.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:41 PM
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This isn’t a gendered thing. Humans in general crave to be desired. If heterosexual men suddenly stopped being attracted to women, stopped pursuing them, etc. women would start to feel the same as a lot of men do. I’ve seen a lot of posts by WOMEN expressing how depressed they are because they’re ugly and men aren’t interested. However a lot of women are so caught up in all the attention they get, that they are incapable of stepping outside of their own lived experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:17 PM
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I think it possible for a man to see another man that’s making less than his woman and think they’re of a lower “status.”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:12 PM
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Yeah idk why this person is acting like women would be okay if they woke up tomorrow and were considered undesirable by 98% of the male population.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:59 PM
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Nope. My husband was unemployed and homeless when I met him and it didn’t dissuade me one bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:43 PM
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If you read the description you can see he’s asking if you would be okay with being with a handsome man if he made less than you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:42 PM
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This is like making a post claiming that water is wet. Why on earth would a woman want to date a misogynist? Why would anyone want to date someone evil? Nobody sane would go out of their way to pursue those kinds of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 10:34 PM
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Yes I get that. The whole point of my original comment is that religious people have extrinsic motivation while non-religious go off of intrinsic motivation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:49 PM
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I think there’s a big difference between being a genuinely good person because it feels correct vs. faking something because you’re scared of going to hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:45 PM
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You’re right that people aren’t loyal to morality. But non-religious people aren’t pretending to be nice in hopes of getting to heaven.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:42 PM
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The funny thing is though a lot of those religious people don’t actually have morals. They just like to pretend they do so they can look down on those who aren’t religious. That’s why we see them on the news for heinous crimes like trying to have sex with minors. Not saying they’re all like this, but in my experience those who boast their religion are full of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 05:31 PM
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A lot of people are biased hypocrites this is nothing new. It is very annoying though and I wish people would be more real.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 01:47 AM
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Yeah I believe both men and women should want to remain attractive for their parents. I have been working out and eating right since I was 16 and haven’t stopped since. If anything being married has motivated me to work even harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 10:09 PM
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It does depending on who you talk to. Everyone has their own definition of feminism these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 07:35 PM
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This applies to everything in life. Some people need to believe in a god in order to behave in socially appropriate ways. Some people have morals without needed to follow religious systems because its simply what feels right to them. Others have absolutely no morals which we see on the news everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 06:46 PM
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If someone is worried about this I would suggest pursuing women who consistently workout, don’t eat like a cow (not hard), and drinks very little.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 06:39 PM
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How long after having sex with them do you offer to help around their house? If it’s only after a few times, I think maybe they’re weirded out by it because almost no one does that. If that were to happen to me, I think I would be pretty stoked if the guy I was hooking up with offered to clean my yard. But then again it’s possible that depending on the circumstances it would weird me out as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:32 PM
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I have a feeling if you’re offering to help them around the house and they’re getting mad about it, they’re the super independent “boss bitch” types. They’re the kind that “don’t need no man” so they don’t appreciate you coming into their home like some kind of unsolicited handyman. Not saying that’s what you are, just that’s how they see you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:17 PM
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Does this make you feel better about your pre used dick?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:15 PM
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He said in another comment that he’s offering to do manual labor like clean the yard.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:14 PM
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Sounds like these women love their cat shit and dirty plates!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:09 PM
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Maybe they think women don’t enjoy sex and it’s something that’s done to them. So they think “how could a good woman be okay with having so many guys do that to her?” And they don’t want those kinds of women. This is mere speculation though so idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 01:30 AM
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Some of the men on here don’t care about anything you’ve just described. To them all it comes down to age. I mean just look at some of the replies here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 10:11 PM
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Tbh there are also men on here who insist men will fuck anything that moves which doesn’t help the cause at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 05:36 PM
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Nobody looks better at 50 than 20 unless they looked like an obese ogre when they’re young and then had a glow up which is rare
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:01 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:00 PM
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I love how the men on this sub try so hard to make it seem like woman are being completely unreasonable for disapproving of age gaps. Look at any age-gap post on r/AskMenOver30 and you will find 98% of men of there would never want to be in age-gap relationship themselves. You will find hundreds of reasons why on there, all which include the women’s reasons. But sure, let’s just complain about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:31 PM
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What would you say about the men who disapprove of this stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:27 PM
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I love how no one gives a rats ass about the 3rd group. Women who had negative experiences dating older men. I’m guessing it’s because it’s less fun to be outraged over that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:23 PM
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This makes it sound like these Redditors wouldn’t be able to get a girl in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:19 PM
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Who knows. I heard that her long-distance boyfriend was the one who provided authorities with her manifesto.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 03:05 AM
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That poor wife. I can’t imagine finding out your spouse is cheating on you with a 16 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:43 PM
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After learning how Lily Phillips parents are her managers and learning there are apps in other countries made so parents can pimp out their children I no longer believe parents know what’s best for their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:41 PM
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I agree with all of this and it honestly annoys the crap the crap out of me how many people are all about tit for tat. It’s just creating a gender war. Which reminds me of the Madison shooter yesterday. Apparently someone released a fake manifesto to make it look like the reason she became a shooter was because of men. It’s crazy because people believe it even though it fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 07:43 PM
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At no point was I trying to argue that all men are like that. Just that for a certain type of man who spends his time on Reddit, it would be a win for him if all women suddenly became massive sluts. It seems like you’ve assumed I think you’re one of these men. You’re clearly not. So, if the shoe doesn’t fit, then obviously don’t wear it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:35 PM
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I’m still wondering how you’re so sure these hypothetical men would refuse to stick their penis in her when we’ve already seen that she easily found 100 men who didn’t have a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:28 PM
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You’re forgetting that she found 100 willing participants. So what makes you think these guys have higher standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:12 PM
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That’s not a feminine trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:41 PM
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Yes, please don’t change your behavior. I’ve heard other guys like you, sharing how they go out of their way to make women feel safe and I think it’s RIDICULOUS. Men don’t need to walk on egg shells.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:16 PM
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Yeah your experience aligns with what I figured was the case for a lot of men. But I also have met A LOT of men who were picky, including my husband and all my ex’s. Because of that, I know some of the hottest women out there will still be considered “ugly” by some men. I just find it amusing that there are men who can’t phantom that there are other men who aren’t attracted to the same amount of women they are. “She’s hot. Which means every guy in the world finds her hot, which means she gets fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:09 PM
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You wouldn’t expect women to talk about guys that they find below average for some reason I’d imagine it’s the same reason guys don’t talk about women they find below average. the guy will talk about that since they have an experience of being below average It’s funny you say this because based on how some guys act here, I would think average and below average women are invisible to men. The other day I left a comment about how I’ve never been given anything free just for being a woman. Someone …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 04:46 PM
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I imagine if every woman suddenly wanted a line of 100 guys, that would be a huge win for a lot of men right? Those guys who haven’t gotten laid can now have their turn.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 04:37 PM
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Yes. But she also grew up sexually abused. Her parents are her managers. How many people a history of trauma like her? It’s not the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 04:33 PM
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What, are there men saying all women like her? THAT’S HILARIOUS. Her parents are her managers for crying out loud! Any man who pretends she’s the norm is just as mental as she is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 04:27 PM
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Depends on morals and values of course. I mean look at the parents of the girl who slept with 100 guys in one day. They’re her managers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:30 PM
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I’ve asked this before and got downvoted to hell. The responses were along the line “they’re not your daughter. Why do you give a crap.” It did not play out how I thought it would.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:29 PM
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Yeah as shitty it may sound to leave someone because they’re no longer young, people are entitled to leave for whatever reason they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:24 PM
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I never heard about the perception until I found this sub and I kept seeing it posted over and over again by men. I don’t think most men are physically unattractive or below average but lots of people like to think otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:24 PM
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Sorry. When I said “they’re” I meant just u/MikeArrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:19 AM
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Yes. This is a given.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:23 AM
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I’m not gonna lie. As a woman I’m a little salty how one of the main things we are valued for is something we have zero control over and can’t be prevented. Aging is inevitable. We can do everything in our power to lessen its effect (exercise, low sugar, etc), but none of that takes away from the fact at 30 we will be perceived as having less value than a 20 year old. Meanwhile, the same doesn’t apply to men. Sorry I don’t expect a reply. I just felt like venting a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:57 PM
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Ah no. It’s pretty simple. I’m not attractive enough. Sounds like all your friends are super hot!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:36 PM
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Yes, they are. You asked how many homeless women I see outside so I was just giving you an honest answer. I live in a city downtown which has lots of homeless people so of course I’m going to come across at least one woman when I go out everyday. I know they aren’t the majority though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:22 PM
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Yeah you’re right. Let’s be real, the only women people here are thinking about are the small of women who are young and hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:15 PM
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On multiple comments men are listing schools and jobs so clearly a lot of men believe it’s way more than dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:13 PM
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They don’t care about women who aren’t worshipped because those women aren’t as hot and young
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:12 PM
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At least once every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:11 PM
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Tbh I’m a woman and I haven’t experienced any of those things just for simply existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:01 PM
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They’re specifically talking about dating. They’re saying that when it comes to that, it’s easy mode. Nowhere are they saying that their life is easier in every aspect. Please let’s stop trying to assume the worst case scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:57 PM
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I don’t believe it’s a “dire path” so nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:46 PM
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You’re not supposed to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 05:07 PM
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Ah no. I’m talking about the men who feel exactly the same way women do. The men in the comments disagreeing with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 01:48 AM
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Oh I know it is. But people love bringing up typos to put people down on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 04:52 PM
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They do though! Look at all the threads of women saying they do. But let me guess, they’re lying!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 04:51 PM
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Do you think the men here are mad as well? Why would they be mad?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 04:47 PM
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Skincare 100% is a factor in how you age. And by skin I mostly mean sunscreen. A lot of stuff women use, like collagen cream, is useless. It’s not the whole picture. But it’s part of it just like genetics, exercise, drinking water, and sugar consumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 04:45 PM
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Yes you did. The person you replied to was talking about how women don’t need men in their romantic life, to which your response was “I don’t need no man, is a lie.”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:39 PM
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Everytime toxic female influencers are brought up on this sub the knee jerk ppd female reaction is "just don't watch them, they are in your algorithm for a reason" etc Which is totally opposite reaction they have for tate or whatever male equivalent. They are actively not acknowledging other women are watching this content. It's not full on denial but it's pretty close. Yes, and I believe they are wrong about this. So many women are in denial about a lot of things, and trust me, it irritates the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 08:41 PM
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Yes. Tons of men get influenced by rage bait as well. What conclusion do we get out of this? Lots of people are highly influenced by the media. But the good news is there are people who know better. We should ignore those in the former category and place our energy on those in the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:22 PM
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You literally just said that a woman who says she doesn’t need a man romantically is lying. Why do you refuse to believe them? Why do you think they’re lying?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:19 PM
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I think it’s their way of making fun of them for wanting an intelligent man while being unable to spell.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 04:54 PM
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Sounds like you’re into the idea of forcing women to be romantically interested in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 04:43 PM
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Yeah those women are coocoo in the head. The bad part is that people watch those kinds of videos and then assume every woman is mentally ill.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 04:36 PM
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Those women say otherwise because they’re not u/SeveralSadEvenings. Some have no difficulty getting others to commit. While others do. Who could have thought?!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:23 PM
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Find a woman you actually like, be in a relationship with her, and report back to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:16 PM
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Yes this is true. I have noticed people on both sides have a habit of using the insane takes they see online to create amalgamations of entire groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:07 PM
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Does OP actually believe it's all women though? What they're describing in their post correctly applies to a lot of mentally unstable women. We should be able to discuss them instead of dismissing the discussion with "Not all women!"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 01:23 AM
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Sorry but I do not believe someone like that has sufficient self awareness. My hope was that she would see the comment and that it would make her think about her future choices since she clearly has not in the past. However I realize that it’s a drop in the bucket and she’s going to keep doing what she wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 12:35 AM
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What’s misandrist about my comment? I’m merely pointing out that people are incapable of discussion whenever the topic of their group saying foul things towards the other group comes up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 12:31 AM
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Oh yeah. That whole thing is one giant eye roll for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 12:27 AM
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The whole sisterhood, girls girl mentality a lot of women have. Instead of giving their friends advice, they will cheer her on despite her making dumb choices. It’s toxic. I’ve gotten told I wasn’t a “girls girl” because I told some woman that having 5 baby daddies wasn’t good for her children.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:08 PM
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I 100% agree that deflecting should be added. But I really don’t know if women do it more than men. I wish people would actually address the points being made instead of going “X group does it too! All it does is shut the conversation. There is a time and place for everything. This thread is about the faults of WOMEN. If someone wants to derail and bring men into this, they should just start their own thread instead of commenting things like “sOuNdS lIkE tHe MeN oF pPd.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:03 PM
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Who knew?! Being hot means women will want to fuck you. If a dude is already ugly, idk how him being “indifferent” is going to suddenly make women’s panties wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 06:04 PM
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Yeah it seems like posts about “indifference” are coming out of the woodworks. I think it’s important that the definition is defined first because I’ve seen people on this sub use the word in different ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 06:01 PM
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Is this something you’ve experienced yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:53 PM
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Can you point out where I am “mistaken” when all I did was repeat the results of a well known study. It is a fact that those men were angered. I brought it up to show that someone being indifferent to you isn’t as bad as some are making it to be when some men are literally angered by ugly women. So I really have no idea how I could be “mistaken.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:46 PM
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I’m confused. How is a man who treats people like an option, doesn’t put effort in, and just uses women for sex, “above” anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:07 PM
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What does caring about people in a “general” sense look like in your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:05 PM
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OP is a 32 year old virgin and upset about it so he’s here venting. Not getting any attention or being in a relationship really takes a toll on some.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:56 PM
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I was not responsible for the study. If you have a problem with the results of a study, take it up with the scientists.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:54 PM
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You seem to be in a lot of pain. I think it would help to reach out to a professional and use them to vent your frustrations. These types of subs will only further mess with your state of mind. It would do you much better to talk to a therapist because they have the resources and tools to help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:53 AM
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Yeah, I see what you mean. And you're right, I am projecting and being biased. I think this is because I see a lot of this from men online: 1.) Venting about not being desirable/wanting to be in a relationship 2.) Insisting that all men fantasize about having sex with every woman they come across 3.) Insisting that sex is a biological need Meanwhile, the attitudes displayed by some women are: 1.) They're happy they're finally at the age where men aren't as interested in them as much 2.) Male att…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:54 AM
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They do. I’m not claiming otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:06 AM
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I meant more along the lines that it’s not exciting because he’s most likely trying to get into other girls pants as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:35 PM
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yet get upset when someone brings up the foul crap women say I don't get upset when the topic being discussed is about the crap women say though! I actually address the points being made instead of shifting the focus away which is what people do all the time and it's aggravating. I think there's some misunderstanding so let me clarify. When I mention that it's frustrating to bring up certain comments made by men and receive the immediate response of "well, women do it too," my concern lies in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:31 PM
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Those are all things healthy women strive for when they're in a relationship. Has this not been the case for you? Have none of your previous partners cared about you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:21 PM
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I have an idea why you feel my self-awareness is low. Is it because you think me "bringing up all the foul crap men say" is me treating someone "based on the merits of others." I am being a hypocrite. Am I right? If not, could you clarify why you think I have low self-awareness?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:04 PM
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I absolutely cannot stand this mentality. It's always tit for tat. I always treat men with respect and dignity unless they give me a reason not to. I am very civil with all the men I talk to online. Yet every.single.time I bring up all the foul crap men say it's "wOmEn Do It ToO." Like yes, I know there are some toxic, mentally ill women out there who spew hate, but I AM NOT ONE OF THEM. It's so annoying talking to someone and being treated based on the merit of others. Edit: by being treated ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 09:08 PM
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I love how OP is acting like men care so much more about women. Yes, they care about getting into their pants, which is nothing to get excited about.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 09:04 PM
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It means you don't think about how to be better partners t men I'm starting therapy this week to become a better wife to my husband. If that doesn't count as thinking about how to be a better partner, then I don't know what is. you don think about how to help men If a man asks me for help, I will do what I can. I served in the military so my husband could go to school. He ended up getting a job with his degree that has allowed me to stay home and be a full-time student. I have been working on my…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 08:54 PM
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I don’t see what’s so bad about women being indifferent towards men when they’ve done studies with men that prove that they’re literally angered by unattractive women. Women’s lives don’t revolve around men as much as men’s lives revolve around women. I mean just going off of what a lot of men say on here, a lot of men think about every woman they come across in a sexual manner, regardless if she’s old, fat, etc. Women don’t and for some reason lots of men see this as “woman are sooooo mean!”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 07:38 PM
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I’ll speak for myself. As a woman, hearing people talk shit about me 100% makes me want to prove them wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 07:13 PM
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There’s a difference between straight up lying and insulting people though. Idk why people in this thread are acting like keeping your mouth shut isn’t an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 07:09 PM
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I’m a believer in objective beauty. So if there’s an objectively ugly woman and someone is saying how “beautiful” she is, I will think they’re full of shit. If I find a woman appealing, you won’t catch me calling her beautiful, but you also won’t catch me insulting her because that’s extremely rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 06:31 PM
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Freedom and rights is about the ability to make autonomous decisions and wanting fairness. It’s a fundamental aspiration by both men and women. While misandrist attitudes are based on hatred towards men as a group. The former is about uplifting individuals while the latter promotes division and hostility.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 09:27 PM
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There’s a big difference between being free and having rights vs having a unapologetically misandrist attitude though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 08:45 PM
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I read your post but I’m still confused how it leads to thinking women are being coddled. I feel like you connected all the dots except for that one. Can you point out where you explain that part of your logic because I’m not seeing it…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:38 PM
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So why is don’t these men just do it then?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 07:18 PM
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I feel so bad for whatever guy she ends up with. Just look at her post history. Dear god just looking through it makes me want to make a therapy appointment for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:40 PM
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Personally, shyness has never been a dealbreaker for me. The only time it would bother me is if he was so shy it was debilitating, i.e. can’t keep a job. At that point it would be more like social anxiety. My advice for him is to not be so afraid of coming off as a creep and shoot his shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:06 PM
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Everything you’ve said here has not been my experience. I’m genuinely sorry you live in a world where you feel like you have to please other people though. It sounds exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:21 PM
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Why do women care about being called shallow so much? Men are shallow too. Who give a hoot. Lying isn’t going to keep them from calling you shallow. If anything, by behaving this way, not only are you shallow, you’re a liar as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:56 PM
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Love of money, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:22 PM
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“most men are attracted to most women” is interesting when every time you ask them what they want in a woman, they can’t pass up the opportunity to say “just don’t be fat” and then go on to talk about how the majority of women in the US are overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:20 PM
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Men care more about having defined abs than women do though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:17 PM
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I’ve noticed on other subs when the topic of dating pops up, people usually have anecdotal evidence. But on here, it’s often “no I don’t talk to women. But here’s this link to a TikTok rage video!”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:14 PM
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This entire time I’ve been waiting for you to explain the logic and you still haven’t. You keep talking about it on a very macro level but you still haven’t discussed the individual blocks that build the logic. What’s the hold up?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:29 AM
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I'm simply pointing out that the stats you provided don't logically support the conclusion that women marry with the goal of divorcing. It's not bad faith. I'm only questioning the reasoning behind your claim. So far, the connection between your statistics and your claim is still missing. If you have evidence showing that "dissatisfaction" isn't a real reason, I'm open to hearing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 04:06 AM
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Because combining them with the stats where women consider 80% of men as below average in terms of attractiveness, clearly shows that their reason for marriage definitely wasn't attraction Sorry, I'm having trouble understanding. You just made a leap from divorce initiation rates to perceived attractiveness without directly bridging the gap. The 70-90% stat only shows who initiated the divorce. It doesn't indicate the intent at the time of the marriage. Women file due to a variety of reasons lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 03:22 AM
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Can you explain how do those stats indicate that their goal of marriage was to divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 02:48 AM
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That makes sense. If someone said I’m not feminine, I wouldn’t mind it one bit. And I agree, it says a lot about the mentality of the other person. I have tits and a vagina. I’m a woman, so someone implying that I must be a man because I don’t fit their little box is truly irritating.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 05:47 PM
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I wish people would stop saying that phrase. It’s incredibly hurtful. I have had men tell me I’m not a “real woman” due to certain characteristics and boy let me tell you, it felt terrible. I can’t imagine being a guy and hearing that all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 05:13 PM
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Sorry, from your other comment it seemed liked you were agreeing with the guy but from the looks of it you weren’t. My bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 08:44 PM
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Can you provide your reasoning for choosing something different?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 08:13 PM
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Idk. If my husband tells me he would prefer something, that’s the option I’m gonna pick. Men rightfully complain about women not being straightforward. This woman finally is and her dude just did the opposite of what she asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 08:00 PM
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I’m sure some men flip flop to whichever one gives them the upper hand in the given moment. However, hopefully the guys that claim men are attracted to most women, aren’t also going around saying “just don’t be fat.” They’d be giant hypocrites for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 05:09 PM
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If these are indeed general tendencies and not caricatures then surely you have some sources to back you up right? Especially since that would solidify your argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 05:00 PM
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Men on this particular sub frequently brag about not caring about any of those things to appear superior. If you wanted to conduct an experiment, go on r/AskMen and make a post asking them if they care. You’re going to see that a lot of men actually do care.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 04:23 PM
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If she’s complaining about her situation then she’s not happy to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 06:05 PM
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Women and men aren’t a monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 05:40 PM
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Speaking for myself, I do this all the time. But deep down I know it won’t do shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 05:21 PM
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<image> Do you think this is true?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 05:17 PM
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This is what makes me sad. So many people have turned to “an eye for an eye” mentality. Every time I’ve brought up men saying vile stuff about women, the response 99.9% of the time is “women do it too.” And it’s not just men. Women respond this way as well. I feel like the odd one out because no matter how many posts I comes across saying negative things about me, I still have no desire to take it out on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 05:15 PM
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People don’t usually come to Reddit to express how happy they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 05:04 PM
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How is this a debate? Dating can be difficult just like other things in life. It’s a fact. This should be common knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:31 PM
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Haven’t you seen those “Does anyone else think about having sex with everyone they walk past by” posts on Reddit before? There’s always at least a dozen men in the comments saying that they do the same thing and that all men are like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:03 PM
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The only person I care about showing my tits to is my husband. I couldn’t care any less about showing them off to strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:51 PM
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I think it’s obvious a lot of the guys on here want a woman who will say yes to every one of his wishes. Eventually women grow up and learn boundaries and what is best for them. This is very inconvenient for men. Has a career = masculine Not bubbly = masculine Assertive = masculine Anything that isn’t catering to his every wish is automatically brushed off as masculine. Idk if that person is married or not, but I feel bad for whatever girl ends up dating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 07:49 PM
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A man can make the choice whether to not cater to a woman though. You’re acting like it’s an inherent part of life. It’s completely arbitrary.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 06:22 PM
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Woman don’t want simps and betabuxes. That’s the whole reason why men are turning to AI. The attractive men that are drowning in women don’t have a need for AI.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 06:13 PM
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Are those doing the “woe is me” thing the same ones being vitriolic?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 05:39 PM
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I think it’s interesting there are men that are saying this work for them but people are still acting like no man wants this lol. Like okay it doesn’t work for you! congrats, but it does for other men which is the whole point.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 05:18 PM
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Innie vs outie in the day was about belly buttons, not labias.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 05:04 PM
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Just move to South America if you want to have sex with teenage girls so badly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 12:22 AM
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You can uplift youth without using silly terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 07:52 PM
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That’s not why I said what I said. Anyone who refers to other men as “king” is inherently a troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:19 PM
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They’re a troll. Just look at their profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 08:44 PM
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You seem to think highly of yourself yet it seems like you can’t help yourself but bring up promiscuous women in a lot of your comments. Is this one of your methods of inflating your ego?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 08:43 PM
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Just look at their profile! It will tell you all you need to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 06:53 PM
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<image> We are merely repeating what men tell us.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 06:42 PM
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It would be crazy to expect anyone to stick around after those around them have made it obvious they’re not wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 05:12 PM
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<image> Here’s one! I would have added more but it only lets me add one image.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 05:10 PM
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I am a woman who has opted out of spewing hateful shit because I don’t get off on killing the spirits of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 05:08 PM
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With the kind of stuff men say about women on here I’m not surprised women are opting out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:32 PM
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You’re telling me you can’t notice when a man is wearing a Versace suit and driving a Bugatti? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:48 PM
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The majority of women have been repeatedly approached since the age of twelve, so yes most women feel the first way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 11:39 PM
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Tbh it really depends where you live. I am nowhere near sheltered but having lived in different states, I have noticed that the majority of people in Washington will ignore each other and avoid any kind of social interaction, where as people in Texas will just go up to strangers and chit chat.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 11:34 PM
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You’re right, a lot of men will complain about that. But from my observations, I have not seen that many men on this sub list wisdom, emotional intelligence, etc. when asked what they value. The most common I’ve seen are youth and attractiveness and that’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 05:46 PM
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I really hope the men who have been told they’re worthless because they aren’t tall enough aren’t doing the same and going off on older women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 05:29 PM
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It’s because the truth hurts. We can’t age in reverse so hearing men say that older women are inherently valueless hurts.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:45 PM
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Honestly I doubt a lot of men care about any of that. Youth triumphs everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:44 PM
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Oh I see now. I mean she doesn’t look bad…if she feels sexy then good for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:39 PM
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Attractive people get away with things ugly people don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:30 PM
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This is true but doesn’t get to the actual reason why you picked a skirt over some pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:16 PM
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Where at? I tried looking and found nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:14 PM
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She already said she doesn’t dress provocatively. Seems like dressing “slut” is the only style your brain is capable of imagining.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:01 PM
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Good thing the argument isn’t that the RP doesn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 07:06 PM
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Have you considered that your lived experiences might not be representative as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 06:54 PM
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Tbh most people don’t come to Reddit to express how much they admire their significant other.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 04:22 AM
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Is being smart and mature a bad thing now?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 04:16 AM
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When something doesn’t align with your moral values, it’s usually harder to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 04:11 AM
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You’ve gotten way too many answers on here to still use emotional intelligence incorrectly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 04:56 PM
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People are wild. I can’t imagine wishing ill on a stranger for something that’s absolutely irrelevant to my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:57 PM
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Just like everything else in life, yes, there are women who do what you’re asking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 04:38 PM
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So you claim you’re not Wikipedia. Yet somehow you still went on and wrote multiple paragraphs? Weird hill to die on.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 04:25 PM
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Why did you bother writing all of this? If you don’t have a legitimate source, just say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 04:47 AM
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Even OP themselves states that between 16-26 womens testosterone levels change. So they are fully aware of change.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 06:18 PM
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Do you have a source for #2?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 06:12 PM
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Before I found this sub, I always thought this was the case for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:35 PM
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Some of these men are going to have social anxiety and depression. When you have that, of course you’re going to suffer a lot more than someone who had tons of social experiences growing up and is very outgoing. It doesn’t matter if you have lots of good traits. You’re going to struggle in ways that are unique to those that are unsocialized. And unfortunately for men, unlike women, that’s going to hinder them a lot more when it comes to the dating world. Yes I know that sucks, but life is unfair…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:00 PM
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So it sounds like once you cross a certain line then that thing is no longer an option. What’s that line?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:27 PM
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I get what you’re saying and it is annoying. I know this because that’s how some men act on here as well. When they talk about what men like or how men act, they talk about “we,” as if men were a monolith. But I have enough common sense know they’re not. I also think it’s annoying how someone will talk about their OWN preferences/experiences but then someone will chime in and go “but but but this one girl on TikTok” as if it’s supposed to disprove something. Only thing it does is further prove t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:57 PM
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Yeah if it gives one an ego boost or you’re an eye for an eye kind of person I guess you can say it “works.”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:32 PM
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We don’t know. Which is why we should just assume everyone is a terrible person off the bat!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:47 PM
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Yes. But what does this have to do with u/GoldSailfins?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:15 PM
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We just want men to stop saying they love women. Idk about you but I rather people be honest than try to virtue signal.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:13 PM
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If it changes nothing, then they have to stop saying they love women. It’s a lie. Men say absolutely deranged stuff about women all the time. But when they want to appear superior and more virtuous, then suddenly women are so lovely and yadda yadda. They should stop being so fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:12 PM
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Can you explain what this has to do with their personal preferences?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:08 PM
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If you had gone through the comments you wouldn’t be asking this question.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 07:45 PM
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What do men gain by pretending it’s all men? Because most of the time when someone claims this it’s never “this is how I am,” it’s always “it’s how we are.”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 07:43 PM
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I’ve had arguments with men over this. And it’s a hill they’re willing to die on.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 07:40 PM
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Are there people out there who don’t believe that men have more testosterone?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:15 PM
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Based on the amount of posts regarding women not wanting to be approached, it seems like they’re already doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:12 PM
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What do you mean? Men LOVE women! They could never do such a thing. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:07 PM
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They’re trans.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:23 PM
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Do men not see the shit other men write on here? <image> Men write stuff like this but we are supposed to believe they “love” women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:11 PM
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The people on this sub are so cynical that you basically have to screen shot every comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:08 PM
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Everyday there is a post here bragging about how men are attracted to a higher percentage of women than vise versa. It’s used to “prove” that women hate men somehow. Sure you might be willing to stick your penis in 60% of the women you see, but you know damn right you couldn’t care any less about any of those women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 06:51 PM
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Everyday there is a post here bragging about how men are attracted to a higher percentage of women than vise versa. It’s used to claim that women hate men. Sure you might be willing to stick your penis in 60% of the women you see, but you know damn right you couldn’t care any less about those women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 06:51 PM
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What’s the big deal? Tons of people in this sub have made it very apparent that “everyone settles.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 05:33 PM
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I meant hate as in hate women not hate men who go to therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 05:06 PM
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I think it’s weird too. If they’re already having issues dating I don’t think putting it in their status is going to improve things. I wonder how this ended up become a thing. If a guy is on the fence about it I would say it’s better that he abstains from putting it on his pf.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 11:44 PM
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I’m glad to hear therapy is part of your regular routine but that doesn’t take away from their personal reasoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 11:10 PM
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I think you should be upfront about it if you have some serious issues like frequently getting angry and breaking things. Yeah, it’s gonna be a deal breaker for a lot of women. That’s why you’re better off working through your issues first with a therapist before you start dating. But then again you could also not mention anything and just go ahead and date like that. But then you would have to deal with them finding out about your issues. If you’re going to therapy for something minimal, I don’…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:56 PM
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Did you read the article? Yeah sure it’s weird. But they’re doing it for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:45 PM
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It is a tragedy. Tons of people hold these terrible views. The only thing we can do is control our reaction to it and ensure these kinds of vapid things don’t make us hate an entire group.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:43 PM
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Not a deal breaker. If I don’t know anything about him and he approached me, still not a deal breaker. There’s nothing inherently unattractive about wearing t shirts and sweatpants. My husband will wear that and I still think he looks super hot. It becomes an issue when you wear the exact same t shirt everyday and it has stains on it, is covered in dog hair, has holes, etc. Same goes with sweatpants. I don’t need a man to be dressed to the nines just so we can go grocery shopping. Maybe to a fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 08:07 PM
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Women actually use that term in real life? That’s hilarious 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 04:03 PM
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Where do you live? And how old are you? Where I live a lot of the guys in the highest tax bracket don’t have fancy cars. They ride the bus to work and bring sandwiches from home instead of going out for lunch. They live way below their means. And I know this because it’s what’s my husband has told me from his work.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 10:42 PM
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I mean just by reading these comments you will see that people mean different things when they’re talking about social skills. For you it’s “knows how to have a fun conversation and flirt.” For a lot of people it’s not even that. It’s more like “can maintain eye contact and is able to talk to a cashier without freaking out.”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:59 PM
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There’s nobody who will better understand the experiences of men than other men. Just like women who support other women because they’ve shared similar struggles, it makes sense that men would also benefit the most by seeking support from those who can relate to their challenges.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 11:58 PM
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After reading the comments, it kind of sounds like OP is under the impression that “men should support other men first” is some idea that women have collectively come up with just to be nefarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 11:56 PM
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They could mean that if they were to describe their version of a “good” guy, you would call him a beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 11:43 PM
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Debby Ryan maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 11:31 PM
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It’s hard not to feel negatively when you keep seeing the same comments. I wouldn’t really call them assumptions when many men have said those things on here word for word. When you go around saying harmful things, then of course you’re going to be seen as a “monster.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 04:14 PM
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Maybe they’re picturing some ugly overweight woman wanting a guy that looks like a model.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:52 PM
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That makes me glad to hear!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 03:39 PM
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My goodness, their comment history.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 04:04 PM
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Exactly. That’s why I see no point in arguing with cynical people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:41 PM
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Yes, and the reason you perceive it as smugness is because you have a hard time believing people can genuinely care about each other. You’re going to get pushback people when you make harmful generalizations. It’s like trying to convince men that they’re all pedos or rapists. People aren’t going to react positively.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:41 AM
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Yes, I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:37 AM
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I was under the impression that escorts were a last resort for men who can't get sex. However, I have learned that successful men get escorts, too, but for different reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:25 AM
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The only reason you think I'm being smug is because you're projecting your own cynicism about moral behavior. You are skeptical about humans genuinely caring about one another, so you believe everyone is acting out of self-interest. This is why you're perceiving it as "self-righteousness."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:17 AM
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It's clear you have convinced yourself that all women are inherently after money, and nothing I say is going to change your opinion because you're just going to pick and choose what fits your narrative. I understand, though. It's easier to stereotype than to acknowledge the complexities of human relationships. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:11 AM
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Ah, so you're a sheep. You don't interact with women in real life and regurgitate what other bitter men say on social media. You have such low self-esteem that you can't have a conversation with a woman without putting them down. And you probably think I'm trying to insult you like you are here insulting women. But I'm not. I'm just pointing out how obvious it is you have insecurities. Your attitude proves it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:02 AM
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Ah, so you're a sheep. You don't interact with women in real life and regurgitate what other bitter men say on social media. You have such low self-esteem that you can't have a conversation with a woman without putting them down. And you probably think I'm trying to insult you like you are here insulting women. But I'm not. I'm just pointing out how obvious it is you have insecurities. Your attitude proves it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:00 AM
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I'm honestly sorry that all the women you have encountered have only cared about your money.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 11:54 PM
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I was offering two perspectives regarding escorts. In my first statement, I'm just acknowledging that it's possible for a man to pursue escorts as long as they can mentally accept the transactional nature of it and can emotionally detach themselves from the situation. Why do I bring it up? Because many times, people are unable to do the latter and it does not end well. My second statement is my personal preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 11:52 PM
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I came across a post on IG yesterday of a woman flexing her muscles. Some guy kept commenting that no matter how hard she tries, she will never be a man because she still has a period. He kept going on how strong he was and how much of a “real” man he was. Meanwhile some other guy way saying that the only reason women lift weights is because they want to be men. BUT then in another comment he said being feminine and not weight lifting is “inherently lazy.”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:31 PM
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People's beliefs aren’t created in a vacuum. Your lived experiences are the reason you believe what you believe. Your experiences have led you to believe that women cannot love men. You have convinced yourself of this to protect yourself. It's an unhealthy way of looking at the world. I am sorry you have gone through things that have led you to have a bleak outlook.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:13 PM
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I am sorry you don't think you're lovable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:00 PM
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When a hot guy at the club picks up a random woman, he has no interest in who she is. Also, when a woman hookups with a random she doesnt really care who he is either. Can you clarify what connection this has to the first part of my comment? Your comment is regarding hot people. People who are attractive don't usually have to pay to get laid. My comment, on the other hand, is about unsuccessful men who have thought about getting escorts but are unable to mentally get past the idea that the woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:54 PM
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I see no problem with pursuing escorts if you can mentally get past the fact they’re interested in your money and not for who you are. For a lot of men, it’s a boner kill. I would not be interested in a relationship with a guy who has had a history of escorts though. I definitely don’t despise sexless men. Why would I? They have done nothing to me. It’s silly to despise someone for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:47 PM
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Should I text him and tell him thank you If you texted him, he would have your number. Women have to stop with this whole “I don’t want to be rude” thing. You don’t need to thank some guy because he gave you his number. That’s silly. It’s not rude to express your boundaries. Show your bf some respect. Do not text that guy. It’s pretty simple. Idk why you are making it anymore complicated. Hopefully your BF isn’t on Reddit. I wouldn’t be too happy if my gf was entertaining the idea of texting thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 05:27 PM
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I hate how this has become a thing. I’m not surprised though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 03:23 PM
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This is a common theme on this sub. Complain about something while simultaneously engaging by in said behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 03:40 PM
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Doesn’t matter. It’s an act! s/
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:05 PM
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I was using my ability to put myself in someone else's shoes. And I realized that if I had a negative view of women generally, that it would be hard to keep that hidden during every interaction I had with them. The beauty is that reality doesn't only exist through one's lived experiences. Did you know some people don't have an inner monologue? As someone who does, I find this incredibly mind-blowing, and it is hard to wrap my mind around. However, it's a thing, and it's real! You won't catch me …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 07:13 PM
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This was in high school. He was a teenage boy so I’m honestly not surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:24 PM
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You think so? Hmm idk. I’ve been to gyms where filming was not allowed and that didn’t stop them from getting jam packed. I feel like if they lost customers, it would just get cancelled out because people who don’t film are constantly becoming new members. I also think those IG thots who film themselves are a tiny percentage of gym goers. If they stopped going because of a ban, sounds like a win imo!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 04:53 PM
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Sure way to have one person thinking they’re in a relationship meanwhile the other person sees it as a FWB and are banging other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 04:18 PM
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Idk about you, but I sure as hell wouldn’t say “I love you” unless we are official and it’s been a while. I learned this after I said it 1 month into a relationship and the guy freaked out. I can’t imagine saying it w/o even being in a relationship!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 04:16 PM
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I completely agree. Filming should be banned. Especially if you’re using it as bait to frame men. That behavior needs to be shamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 04:12 PM
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I completely agree. Filming should be banned. Especially if you’re using it as bait to frame men. That behavior needs to be shamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 04:12 PM
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Okay then. Please tell me how I act with men in real life then. How does it seep out? I’m curious since it’s clear you already have your mind made up. You seem to know more than I do. I do find it interesting you take issue with me feeling negatively towards men, meanwhile it’s clear you have no problem seeing me negatively.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 04:03 PM
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Traveling to Colombia showed me how good I have it. Over there, it’s considered “romantic” to not beat your spouse. Can’t say it’s “good” for the women over there though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:51 PM
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Well speaking for myself, I am not hateful to the men I interact with online or in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:36 PM
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Ah, I see where the issue is. Your idea of "paying the price" is different than mine. When I think of "paying the price," I picture someone physically going out of their way and causing someone harm, whether verbal or physical, to make them "pay." That's why I said it's "not the right mindset." I also realize you probably have a different take on resentment than I do and that maybe "resentment" is too strong of a word for what I'm trying to describe. While part of me feels negatively towards men…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:52 PM
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I’m sorry but I wasn’t trying to say all men are pedophiles. I don’t believe they are. I don’t believe you are. You have given me no reason to believe so. It’s just hard not to feel some kind of way when you’ve had negative experiences. It’s hard to overlook them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 08:04 PM
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How so? Do you think “paying the price” is the same as holding feelings of resentment?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:59 PM
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So men as a group must pay a price for a few criminals? Nope. I don't think this mentality is right. Should we start resenting female teachers because a few have been in the news for SA on their students? Yes, if someone has been SA by a teacher, they 100% have every right to resent them if they want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:39 PM
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Do you feel like that was written about you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:36 PM
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Valid. I just don’t believe the women on here are unicorns.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:24 PM
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How many new women do you talk to on a daily basis?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:09 PM
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Not necessarily hate but feeling a certain way. If a man experienced lots of negative behavior from women, I think it’s justified that he will view them differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:43 PM
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Kind of hard not to feel resentment towards a group of people when they would pursue you despite being 12 years old. Plus the stuff that gets said online is pretty vile as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 03:59 PM
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I know what the phrase means. I was just pointing out the irony in calling someone out for passing the buck when you’re doing the exact same thing by passing the question off to someone else to avoid answering it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 08:37 PM
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Everyone needs to stop interacting with that guy. He’s clearly here to rage bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 08:15 PM
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Seems like you care enough to be patronizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 07:58 PM
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Can’t complain about someone else passing the buck when you’re literally doing it right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 07:53 PM
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This one even requires others to answer questions for them! Truly a catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 07:47 PM
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Can someone here help me understand the mentality behind men who don’t want to lift a finger?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 07:22 PM
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Why not just call the professional gutter cleaners if one is so busy contributing to society?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 07:20 PM
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Women aren’t usually thinking about their genes when they’re having casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 06:33 PM
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100% yes. Hundreds of men have no problem staying with women who are horrible. They’ve said it themselves right here on this sub. I remember one even told me “I’d rather have an abusive gf than be single.” I was like you can’t be serious?! No. Not every guy is like this. But it’s common enough to be a trend.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:05 PM
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Nope. It’s been the opposite for me. I’ve found all of my serious partners to be way more attractive than the guys I hooked up with. Don’t get me wrong, they were hot. But all the guys I’ve been in serious relationships were 100x more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:53 PM
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Love how men love calling out women for being superficial but are also the first to judge other men’s women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 06:59 PM
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Of course, I am. My question was to clarify so I could give you the most accurate response. I prefer that instead of jumping to conclusions. It's time people start engaging in meaningful discussions instead of just talking at each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 07:30 PM
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Is this supposed to contradict the quote?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 07:21 PM
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I can see what you mean. I think whether it's homophobic or not depends on how it's interpreted and the context. Personally, I don't think the quote by Marilyn Frye is claiming that heterosexual men have homoerotic feelings in a literal sense, but instead, it touches on the way men prioritize relationships with other men in regards to respect and admiration, while their relationships with women are reduced to more superficial roles. It's intent is to critique the patriarchy and male bonding, not…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 07:00 PM
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all circles back to “men really only want to attract other men” mentality Is this the homophobic part?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 06:45 PM
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Can we stop labeling everything that makes us uncomfortable as “homophobic?”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 06:28 PM
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It’s gay even though they are only attracted to women and don’t have sex with men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 06:26 PM
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You and your guy friends might be used to pointing it out whenever you see an attractive woman. However the dynamic when you’re with women is different. Letting us know you think that lady is pretty serves no purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 06:24 PM
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I can’t imaging valuing a group so much that you pay money for a jar of their farts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 06:28 PM
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My husband’s job is the reason I can buy myself whatever I want. I can’t imagine complaining over 2 hours of gaming. Hell, I’m on break from school and spend more time playing The Sims and watching MasterChef than he plays video games. Who gives a crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:27 PM
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He definitely acts like one. Which is pretty pathetic imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 05:15 PM
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How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 05:04 PM
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OP doesn’t know why women don’t kids because they’re very small minded and are only seeing things from their perspective. They seem to be the type of people who are unable to see things from another persons point of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 04:35 PM
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What’s the point of this comment? You will never be a woman. Do you want us to give you a cookie?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 04:30 PM
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Reasons why I don’t want kids: 1.) The idea of having kids does not spark an ounce of joy in me. I have zero desire to have children. 2.) My husband and I are able to afford whatever we want at the moment. We live comfortable lifestyles. Having children would ruin that. Sorry, I don’t care if that makes us selfish. 3.) We would get no more time to ourselves. It’s nice to be able to wake up whenever I want and do whatever I want! 4.) I don’t want to experience all the side effects of being pregna…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 04:24 PM
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This is something many men claim they don’t care about and pride themselves with. They have a superiority complex about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 03:30 PM
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