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Human beings in general don't enjoy rejection. Having negative feelings after being rejected is normal. The problem isn't having negative feelings, it's how those feelings are acted upon. Crying and expressing anger in private is absolutely fine. Verbal insults, absolutely not fine. Physical violence, absolutely definitely not fine. When we talk about not handling rejection well, we're not talking about feeling bad afterwards. Again, that is completely normal. We're talking about becoming verbal…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:07 PM
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And what about any man over the age of 44 who votes to send younger men to die in war? 44 is the hard cut off for the draft in the US. The last draft was 53 years ago. That means that a 65 year old who votes for someone who's in favour of the draft will have never been drafted, nor would they ever be drafted because they'd be way past the cut off age. If this is about people voting for something when they have no skin in the game, then that's not just women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 02:00 AM
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Women are much more likely to work in lower-paying work than men. Careers that are traditionally female dominated, such as teaching, nursing, etc tend to be lower paid than male dominated careers that require a similar level of education/experience. Men are more likely to work in physical labour jobs but many of those actually pay pretty well, and they're certainly not the only keep society functioning jobs. Health care is the most obvious example. The majority of health care workers are female.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:49 AM
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I'm against the draft as a general thing so I don't think men or women should be drafted. That being said, if we were looking at a large scale world war, then realistically, the draft wouldn't matter because we'd all be shadows on the pavement from the nuclear bombs. If by some miracle we didn't blow each other to smithereens, women would probably end up being drafted as well. War has changed dramatically in the last couple of decades. The last time there was a draft in the US, there wasn't high…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:38 AM
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Update on my amateur theatre group show: I remembered to take my rat tail off this time. Unfortunately, I did somehow end up behind the line of tappers, instead of in it, and I got whacked in the shins by multiple tap shoes. I'm not sure if tap is for me. I fear for my health every time I put the shoes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:55 AM
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I do amature dramatics as a hobby. In one scene I'm a tap dancing rat. I forgot to take my rat tail off afterwards, and I didn't realise until the end of the show. So I just spent the entire second half with a rat tail on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 01:22 AM
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I've spoken with men who've had premature ejaculation and it wasn't fun for them. The criteria for premature ejaculation is when ejaculation occurs in less than 3 minutes, although the average is around the 1-2 minute mark. Most people want to have sex or masturbate for longer than 60 seconds. If there's no real build up then the orgasm can be very unsatisfying. That's if there even is an orgasm. It's not uncommon for there to be no orgasm with premature ejaculation, as ejaculation and orgasm ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 12:33 AM
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In that case then it would be better to do a maternity test. If the baby isn't related to the mother then either she's a chimera or the baby has been switched.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 04:40 PM
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Logically, if you're asking for a paternity test then that means you believe that there is a chance the child isn't yours. Since women can't conceive by themselves, that means that you believe there is a chance she had sex with someone else to conceive said child. Asking for a paternity test is like asking to check your partner's phone to make sure they're not talking with anyone else. If you feel the need to do that, then that means that there is a part of you that believes they might be being …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 05:39 AM
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Asking for a paternity test because you are concerned that the child might not be yours, is saying that you believe your partner may have cheated. Men should absolutely have the right to ask for a paternity test, but they do also need to understand doing so could damage the trust in the relationship. If I asked to look through my partners phone to check that he wasn't cheating on me, that would mean I didn't trust him. The lack of trust could be because of something he's done, or it could be a m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 05:31 AM
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In my experience, most Reddit users will think other users are men just as default. I'm not sure what the actual statistic of male vs female users is, but the stereotype that only men use Reddit is still alive and well. Also, you really can't compare those two posts. One is directed to a broad audience, whereas the other is directed at a much narrower audience. A post where someone is saying "I want to talk to anyone" is going to get more responses than a post where someone says "I want to talk …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 06:31 PM
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The movie is a pretty faithful recreation of the stage show. Part 2 has 2 unique songs, but they fit well imo. I prefer the stage show but then imo, nothing beats live theatre.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 07:27 PM
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Wicked. Elphaba was a headstrong and outspoken woman, and she was silenced for it. The book goes into more...graphic depth, but the movie still has that theme. As an added bonus they could also watch the stage show, and I could go with them because it's my favourite show. We could sing the songs together. My partner has seen the film and he quite likes it, but he won't sing the songs with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:39 AM
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I'm AuDHD myself so it would be quite hypocritical of me to tell any other neurodivergent people to suck it up. It took me ages to even start to undo the damage that masking caused me, and it straight up killed my dad, so I always encourage people not to mask unless it's absolutely necessary for their safety. There are women who think that men shouldn't be able to express their feelings. I'm not one of them, but I can still acknowledge that those women exist. If you have had the misfortune of be…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:16 AM
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I want to research neurodiversity and grief, actually. My dad was undiagnosed autistic and he never recovered from losing his dad. He turned to drugs and alcohol and ultimately died when he was 52. My research interests have always been in his honour. He suffered and died horrifically, because the right help wasn't available to him. I never considered looking at gender differences, but it could be interesting. Not as a way to paint men in a bad light, but to see whether neurodivergent men need d…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:28 AM
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I'm pretty sure I wouldn't. They're more interested in my research experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:31 AM
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Psychology. It's something I've been working towards for 9 years now. So the last near decade of my life hinges on 40 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:15 AM
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My doctorate interview is 30 hours and 49 minutes away (not that I'm counting or anything). If I don't get in, I'm going to live in the woods as a hermit. I will make friends with the crows and I shall be their leader.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:11 AM
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People are competitive. If you run fast then the others will run faster to try and catch up. Them running faster is good for their health so you'd be doing them a favour.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:07 AM
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Using your allocated PTO isn't a special accommodation. Unless they get more PTO than you, then they're not getting anything extra. If anything, they're at a disadvantage because they have to use their PTO for health reasons, rather than for a holiday or just to relax.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 10:18 PM
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I'm sorry if that's what you were getting out of this, because that wasn't my intention. Men should be taken care of when they're ill. There is a phenomenon of men having a common cold, who then refuse to do anything, while their wives who have the same cold, still cook, clean, and look after the kids. That where the whole "man flu" thing came from. An otherwise healthy man who feels a bit crummy is still absolutely capable of taking care of his kids, or cooking a meal. I'm not suggesting that y…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 10:15 PM
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At no point did I mention man flu. It sounds like you were quite poorly, and I genuinely hope you were able to get the rest and care that you needed. Lots of upper respiratory viruses can cause severe symptoms, although they rarely become life threatening in the way that influenza often can. I've had some gnarly colds in my life, where I feel absolutely miserable but I'm not like properly bedridden. Covid didn't originate from influenza. Coronaviruses and influenza are very different viruses. Lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:49 PM
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Covid isn't the flu. The flu is caused by the influenza virus, whereas covid is caused by a coronavirus specially SARS-CoV-2. Having flu-like symptoms isn't the same as having the flu.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:28 PM
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No reasonable person would look at a man with influenza and say he was lazy. I've only had proper influenza once and it was bad. I had a fever of 41.2°, which made me delirious. I couldn't stand for longer than 5 minutes without passing out. I'd having coughing fits that were so intense they made me vomit a couple of times. At one point I thought I was on my way out, but I was too sick to give a shit. Lots of people say they have the flu when what they actually have is a bad cold. Colds suck but…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:20 AM
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The term "man flu" has never referred to the actual flu. Proper influenza will knock anyone on their ass for at least a week. I've only had proper flu once, and my fever was so high that I genuinely thought I was on my way out, but I was too sick to give a shit. If a man has the proper flu, with a temperature of 41°C, and he can't take a deep breath without hacking up a lung, no reasonable person will look at him and go "what a baby". No one is going to mock someone who is obviously very unwell.…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:08 AM
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I wouldn't say it's even a term for the regular flu, but a term for the common cold. The actual flu is brutal and will knock anyone on their ass for at least a week. I've only had the proper flu once and there was one day where my fever was so high, that I genuinely thought I was on my way out, but I was too sick to give a shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:43 AM
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Thanks! I hope it goes well. They get 200 applicants, bring 24 to interview, then give 12 a place. So I've already beaten 90% of my competition. I just need to beat 12 more.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:48 PM
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I have my doctorate interview next week and I'm already shitting myself. I am strongly considering going into the woods and living with the squirrels. Squirrels don't have to worry about doctorate interviews that they've spent 10 years working towards.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:44 PM
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I have an interview for a super competitive doctorate programme next week, so thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:42 PM
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Absolutely not. I love sex, and I love having it with my partner, but I'd rather become a nun than be legally obligated to have sex with him. Remember that for women, sex can be extremely painful if she's not into it. If you're a dude and you'd like to know how it feels, hook your fingers into the corners of your mouth and pull. Now imagine that burning, aching feeling in your genitals. If a woman isn't into it then there's also a decent chance that she'll tear, as the muscles won't be relaxed. …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:24 PM
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Thank you! The last conversation I had with him was about my plans for the doctorate. He was dead proud. He'd tell anyone who'd listen that his daughter was going to be a psychologist. He had a lot of struggles with undiagnosed autism, addiction, and his own grief. I'm planning to research neurodivergent people's experiences with grief, so that I can hopefully develop some new therapeutic techniques. Like most things, all of our theories on grief and how to help people manage it, is geared towar…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:09 PM
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It's tough when someone so important is missing. I don't think I'll ever get used to it. My dad was only 52 when he died, so there's a lot of things he's going to miss. I'm pretty sure he was autistic because I'm AuDHD. He struggled a lot with his mental health and addiction after his own dad died. It's like he never got out of that acute stage of grief. That's what I'm wanting to research. There's lots of bereavement support out there, but it's all geared towards neurotypical people. I want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:02 PM
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Roughly 75% of men over the age of 30 are either married or in a committed relationship. About 90% of men will have lost their virginity by age 25 (I'm looking at UK statistics, so the numbers might be slightly different elsewhere). So your assertion that the average man will be single his entire life is false. If that was the case then the statistics would be flipped, with 75% of men being single, and 90% of men still being virgins by 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 09:56 PM
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I'm going to sound extremely Britsh with this list. Ham, cheese, and salad cream. Marmite with a Marmite to butter ratio of about 1:10. Cheese and Branston pickle. Dairylea cheese slice with plain crisps inside.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 09:45 PM
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I got invited to an interview for an extremely competitive doctorate. I'm very pleased but also kind of sad, because my dad isn't here. He's been gone for almost 3 years but my knee jerk reaction was still "omg, I need to call dad and tell him". I don't know what I believe in terms of an afterlife, but if he is out there somewhere, I hope he's proud of me. My research focus is in his honour.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 09:43 PM
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How is choosing not to have children selfish?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:56 AM
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My dad said the same thing. He was pretty neutral when it came to having kids. My mum really wanted kids. She also had severe endometriosis and they were literally told by the gynaecologist to have a baby, as it might have cured her (it didn't). He was still neutral about the whole thing up until she was about 20 weeks along and she started bleeding. He told me he felt very scared then, which is when he realised that he was actually excited to be a dad. My dad had a lot of struggles with addicti…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:53 AM
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Early on? Sure. I don't think it's particularly healthy to become extremely attached to someone when you've only been going out for a short amount of time. Being that attached to someone that quickly, often means that you've built up a very idolised view of the kind of person they are. Then you end up with a Great Gatsby situation (although hopefully with less shooting). If we're talking long term, then no, I don't think it would be a good idea for men to be detached. That's not the foundation o…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 12:25 PM
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There is a difference between commenting "nice" or "You're so pretty" on a picture, and commenting "you are so fuckable" or "I'd stick my cock in that ass". Same with in public. It's one thing to tell a stranger they look nice. It's another thing tell them, in explicit detail, all the sexual acts you would like to do to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 03:17 AM
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I do agree with paper abortions on principle, I just think they'd be a logistical nightmare. A man shouldn't be able to decide at any point that he doesn't want to be a father. Like he can't be holding his brand new baby and suddenly go "nah, changed my mind" and walk out. The woman needs to have enough time to decide whether she wants to carry on the pregnancy knowing that the father won't be involved. That means that the father would need to have his "paper abortion" within a time frame that w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:39 PM
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When I see news stories of boys being abused by female teachers, I usually see lots of men saying that he was lucky, that they wished that happened to them, etc. I rarely see the same comments from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:08 AM
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Comparing telling someone they have a bad hair cut, to telling someone they deserved to be raped or abused, is just a silly comparison as well. One is a lack of tact. The other is just cruel. I have a very high opinion of men, and I don't believe they are cruel as a general rule. Yet I often see posts like this suggesting otherwise. They'll be posts crying "not all men victim blame!" but then there'll immediately be a post like this saying "yes, ALL men victim blame because that's just how they'…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 11:30 PM
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I don't think you can compare telling someone they made a bad financial decision, to telling someone they deserved to be raped. That's the kind of victim blaming that women tend to face. "What were you wearing?" Is still a question that is asked of rape victims even now, as though wearing a skirt is a serious lapse in judgement that's worthy of being violated. Also, I wouldn't agree that men would just laugh off being victim blamed. If you were anally raped by another man, and the men around you…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 11:26 PM
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There are plenty of women who do only value a man for his money, but off the top of my head I can't think of any cultures or religions, where that is the only thing that all men are valued for. Whereas in religions like Mormonism, IBLP, Evangelicalism, women are told that their sole purpose in life is to be a wife and mother. That's it. There was a brief period in my life where I was homeschooled and I went to one of those co-op places. It was full of these uber-religious types. I remember askin…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 10:11 AM
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I don't really enjoy games like COD, for the same reason. I had a bad experience and it put me off. I play games to relax. If I'm stressed about pissing off some random guy for being too good, or not good enough, or talking too much, or not talking enough; then I'm not going to enjoy it. I just play single player games now but I probably do spend about 30 hours a week gaming. It's one of 3 major hobbies that I have, the other ones being amateur dramatics and music (playing, not just listening, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 10:00 AM
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A decent chunk of gamers are women. They might not play AAA MP games like COD as often as men, but there's a lot of other games out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:01 AM
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I was raised by just my dad from the ages of 6-12. He had a lot of difficulties with mental health and addiction, so he wasn't always the best dad, but he definitely raised me to not keep men at the centre of my world. I'm very grateful for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:29 AM
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It's mental gymnastics to acknowledge the contributions that women have made throughout history? Everything that I've said is easily verifiable. I haven't just pulled the facts out if my ass. I think you're the one doing mental gymnastics to downplay what women have done, and are capable of. You're the who is saying that men are somehow inherently superior in coding and mathematics, despite not being able to produce any evidence for that fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 07:17 PM
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I'm watching Les Ballets Trockadero and holy shit the calves on these men. I thought maybe they wouldn't actually go properly en pointe because it's meant to be a comedy, but they are! And they're good at it too. That's why their calves look like they could crush steel. I dread to think what their feet look like, though. There is a reason why men don't traditionally go up on their toes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 07:13 PM
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The majority of men over the age of 30 are either married or in a committed relationship. I think you'll find it hard to convince such a large proportion of men to leave their wives and girlfriends. I've been with my partner for 10 years. If you suggested that he break up with me to reform the dating system, he'd probably just laugh at you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 02:41 PM
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I'm sure you're well aware that the person that holds the patent isn't necessarily the person who actually did the word to create it. It's fairly well established that historically men get the credit over women. Einstein's first wife was a brilliant mathematician who helped with a lot of his work, but she is rarely mentioned. Men won the nobel prize for discovering the double helix, but it was actually a woman who created the technology that allowed them to do so. Her contributions were glossed …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 02:23 PM
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Here in the UK, individuals don't press charges, the government does. It's called the Crown Prosecution Service. They're the ones who decide what, if any charges are bought forward, regardless of the wants of the victim. The victim can beg for them not to press charges, but if there's enough evidence, they will anyway. The CPS don't bring forward charges unless they're fairly confident of a conviction. The bar is even higher when it involves extradition. You can continue believing that he's a po…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 03:20 AM
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He's also facing 10 charges here in the UK. Once the legal case in Romania is finished, he'll be extradited back here and immediately placed under arrest. The Crown Prosecution Service have already approved the charges, and they don't do that unless they are feeling pretty confident of a conviction. He would have been extradited already but Romania has laws that state he must undergo whatever legal process they have before he can leave. That includes serving prison time. So, it's likely that he'…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:01 AM
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Andrew Tate has literally been charged with human trafficking, in 3 countries, Romania, Britain, and the US. There is an active criminal case still ongoing in Romania. He's facing 10 charges here in the UK. Once the legal proceedings in Romania have concluded he will be extradited back to the UK, where he will undergo a trial and serve whatever sentence he's given (if any). The CPS have already approved the charges bought against him, and they don't do that unless there's enough evidence for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 11:57 PM
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I've listened to some of Andrew Tate's stuff, and done a few dives into the manosphere. They seem to spend literally every waking moment thinking about women. Everything they do is for women. Even when they spout off about how much they hate women, they're still thinking about women. It honestly seems exhausting. I couldn't imagine focusing my entire existence around one thing like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 11:48 PM
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Sure, radicalising a significant portion of men would create change. I'm just not sure if that change would actually be something you'd like. You're imaging a utopia. Where all men get a partner, women have no agency but they don't care because they adore the men, and we all skip our way through life, holding hands and singing kumbaya. Realistically, that wouldn't happen. To get what you want, we would have to go backwards to a time when women had very little power. You might think that's fabulo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 11:43 PM
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I was talking with a group of friends and I mentioned that the doctorate programme I want to do teaches CBT. One of the guys in the group looked horrified until I clarified I was talking about cognitive behavioural therapy. There is no doctorate programme in cock and ball torture.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 08:51 PM
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Sex is important. Most people need it to feel completely fulfilled, but I don't think it's in the same category as the other things you mentioned. People should be entitled to housing because without a home, they are exposed to the elements and other dangers. Being homeless can kill you. People should be entitled to an education because without it, they are essentially helpless and entirely reliant on others to navigate the world. A lack of sex won't kill you, nor does it make you a vulnerable a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:05 AM
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I have had a lot of experience with my health not being taken seriously. It took me 7 years to be diagnosed with endometriosis, which is the average length of time, despite it being a disease that effects at least 1 in 10 women (some studies have suggested it could be as high as 4 in 10). Even now, I have had to correct some doctors who believe that endometriosis is a disease of the uterus. It isn't. That's the whole point and what makes it so painful. There's nothing wrong with my actual uterus…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 10:38 PM
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I was 28 when I was diagnosed with ADHD. I was first diagnosed with depression and anxiety when I was 12. For so long I thought that I just didnt try hard enough and that's why I never really got better. Finding out that it was because the depression and anxiety were because of ADHD was a bit of a mind fuck. I've managed alright in my life but it's difficult not to feel resentful. I struggled when I didn't have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 08:52 PM
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The vast majority of men in my life have been wonderful people. That's why it's so obvious to me that guys like this aren't actually nice. My partner is the kind of person who stops his car in the middle of the night to save a hedgehog crossing the road. He cried at my father's funeral, not because he was particularly close with my dad, but because I was hurting and that made him sad. He comes to watch my theatre group perform, and has the biggest grin on his face the entire time, even though he…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 09:41 PM
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I'm honestly not sure. I'm in a long term relationship so I'm having to think purely hypothetically here. Maybe I'd be more inclined to have a FWB type situation, but I don't think I'd sleep with strangers. There's lots of other things that put me off. What if I ask him to stop and he doesn't? What if he's too rough and he tears me? What if he slips the condom off? What if he's got an STI? What if my birth control fails and I get pregnant? All of those worries would still be there, even if I did…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 06:33 PM
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He seemed pretty decent initially. We went out for a while before we had sex. He seemed very respectful. He listened to me. He certainly wasn't stupid. When he did that, I immediately got dressed and left. He tried to apologise and that's when he said he thought I wouldn't notice. I blocked him and haven't spoken to him since. That was about 11 years ago. I've been with my partner for 10 years now. He is respectful, super smart, and one of the kindest men I've ever met. The other day he saw a he…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:23 PM
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No. I've always been very strong in my boundaries when it comes to sex, thanks to my mum raising me that way. Even before I had sex, I knew what things I would probably like, and which things I definitely wouldn't like and wouldn't be willing to try. I've been with my partner for 10 years and there's nothing in the 'absolutely not' category, that he's had "access" to. I'm not like a sex robot where someone can unlock a higher tier of services. There are things I've done with him that were in my …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:47 PM
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I told a previous partner that I didn't want anal. He asked, I said absolutely not. I made that very clear. He said he understood. Then, during sex, he tried to stick it up my ass. No prep, no warning, he just tried to ram it in there. Luckily, he only managed to get it in a tiny bit, and I immediately left. When I asked him what he thought he was doing he said he thought I wouldn't notice...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:21 PM
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Men should have more options for birth control. Right now, most of the burden for birth control falls on women, which sucks for everyone. It sucks for the women who struggle to find a contraceptive that doesn't make their life hell, and it sucks for men who want to take a more active role in preventing pregnancy. I know there is something being tested where a substance is injected into the vas deferens, effectively blocking the sperm from being able to exit. There's no hormones so side effects a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 12:25 AM
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You're talking like men have absolutely no say. Men can choose to wear a condom. If they know that they never ever want children, then they could choose to have a vasectomy. For what it's worth, I agree with paper abortions. I just don't think it's fair to act like birth control and abortions are no big deal for women. Every woman I know has had some kind of side effect from birth control. For most, those side effects were moderate, but even moderate side effects still have an impact. And if you…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 11:47 PM
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She sure is. She's such a sweet cat as well. All the vet staff loved her because all she wanted was cuddles when she came round. She's handled the whole thing so well. You'd think she hadn't had surgery. I'm always amazed by animals. They get cut open and they're running around like nothing happened. We get cut open and we're laid up for 6 weeks, making E.T noises and feeling sorry for ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 11:36 PM
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Hormonal birth control isn't without side effects. I've been on most forms of hormonal birth control because I have endometriosis, and it's a bit of trial and error to find one that works. The pill gave me horrendous migraines. I also have hereditary thrombophilia, so the pill is more risky for me. I had the implant in my arm but that made me bleed for almost a year straight. I have an IUD now, and that makes me bleed for 2 out of 4 weeks. I also have to have it placed under general anaesthetic,…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 11:32 PM
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My cat got spayed yesterday. I wanted to wait a bit longer because she's a maine coon, but last week, at only 6 months old, she decided she wanted babies. This is her face post-spay. I am concerned for the welfare of myself and my family. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 11:20 PM
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I have a good partner and sex still hurts me sometimes. I have endometriosis which is an extremely common reproductive disease. It's not just penetrative sex either. It's about 50/50 whether an orgasm will trigger these super intense cramps, as well as shooting pains up my ass. Those usually last for about 3-5 hours. If I take my pain medicine beforehand then I'm usually good, but obviously that means spontaneous sex isn't really an option. It's not all about bad partners or casual sex. It's luc…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:30 PM
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What physical health risks do men face that are related specifically to pregnancy and childbirth? The only one that I can think of is that some new fathers can experience something similar to post partum depression, but that's more related to the life changes that come with a new baby, rather than as a direct consequence of pregnancy. PPD in women is related to actual biological and hormonal changes that occur in their body, not just because of the mental stress. As far as I'm aware, men aren't …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:21 PM
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It was though. The original comment asked if this role reversal includes men taking on the risks of pregnancy. You said many do. I said they don't take on the physical risks. You said many do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:26 PM
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A trans man can, but not a cis man. Cis men can't get pregnant. Cis men can't develop gestational diabetes, eclampsia, or HELLP syndrome. Their not at risk of their genitals being torn in half, or their reproductive organs rupturing. There is no chance of a cis man needing to undergo major abdominal surgery as a result of pregnancy complications.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:52 PM
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Men can't take on the physical risks of pregnancy and childbirth. Pregnancy isn't exactly a walk in the park, then you sneeze and the baby falls out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 08:00 AM
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My step dad has 3 of his own bio kids. He doesn't have much of a relationship with them for various reasons. He does have a very close relationship with me, however. I'm the one who spends the most time with him. I'm the one who spoils him on his birthday and fathers day. If he ever needs it, then I will be the one to help care for him. If it wasn't for having me as a step-daughter, then he'd be very lonely indeed. I know that he views me as his daughter. The fact that it wasn't his sperm that c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:46 AM
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I'm staunchly against routine male circumcision. I go on facebook and argue with pro-circ people. I live in a country where it isn't really a thing, so it's easy for me to combat their misinformation. I do think that the reasoning is different. With FGM, it is often done to ensure that a woman feels no sexual pleasure. They do it because they think that if a woman feels anything but pain during sex, she is dirty or a whore. I've seen a lot of rational from the pro-circ people and they do seem to…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 09:55 PM
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Narcissists rarely make it obvious that they're a narcissist. In fact, more often than not, they come across as extremely charming. That's a fundamental part of the disorder. They can quickly figure out what someone wants, become that person to lure them in, and then they can use that person as a source for admiration, fear, etc. Women can be narcissists as well. 75% of those diagnosed are men, and 25% are women. There are other cluster B disorders that can have overlapping symptoms as well. My …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 08:39 PM
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Bad sex for women can cause severe pain, as well as tearing of the vagina. Do men routinely experience severe pain and torn penises from bad sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 03:03 AM
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I think some of this comes down to how men and women define bad sex. For a lot of women, myself included, bad sex is when it physically hurts. Some of the things you mentioned, like not enough foreplay, the man going like a jackhammer, etc, don't just make sex not feel as good, they make sex hurt. For most men, it seems that bad sex is sex that didn't feel as great as it normally does, but it wasn't painful, and they still had an orgasm. For any guy who's curious as to what it feels like, hook a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 03:00 AM
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I wouldn't have a problem dating a cis guy who had dated a trans person. As for whether I'd date a trans man, that depends. I'm not attracted to female anatomy. If he still had a vagina then I think I would struggle to have a sexual relationship with him. I view trans men as men, but that doesn't mean I'd suddenly find a vagina arousing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 04:11 AM
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Update on the kitten: Her tail seems to be growing twice as fast as the rest of her. She has met the resident cat. Resident cat has smacked her round the face a few times, but I'm hopeful that they'll be friends soon. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:09 AM
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I laughed at this, and it startled my cat. She's got aeroplane ears now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:07 AM
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Declaring a war is different from starting a war. The women in congress didn't start those wars, and neither did the men. I'm 100% against the draft, btw. Both on pure principle and the fact that most wars haven't been the good guys stopping the bad guys. They've been fought for greed. They're nearly always rich people deciding they want to be more rich and powerful, and they'd like you to die to make that happen. The draft is morally wrong even if the fight is for a good cause. It's extra moral…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:03 AM
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The first one doesn't make any sense. Ejaculation isn't like a sneeze. It's not like men are walking down the street, and then all of a sudden, they involuntarily ejaculate and their sperm flies through the air into the nearest woman. Men can choose what happens to their sperm. They can choose to wear condoms. They can choose to use spermicides. They can choose to have a vasectomy. I am against the draft both on principle and also because I think most wars have just been as a result of the rich …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:51 AM
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Wars are most often started by men. The current wars have been started by men. The bloodiest wars have nearly all been started by men. The distinction is that it's rich and powerful men. The rich and powerful view us as nothing more than pawns. They would happily sacrifice your life if it made them more profit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:39 AM
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It's not a definite that defects would happen. In fact, I think the chance of defects from brother/sister is actually still quite low, just higher than it would be for non-related parents. As for why it's more likely, I only have a really basic understanding of that. We have dominant genes and recessive genes. A disease might be associated with a recessive gene, but in order to actually get that disease, you need to inherit that recessive gene from both parents. It's a bit like cystic fibrosis. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 02:37 PM
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It's not my area of expertise by a long shot, but from my understanding, it would be the younger generations that would have the higher chance of passing on issues. The more similar the genetics, the higher the chance of defects. If a brother and sister have a kid, it's certainly not a guarantee that the child will have defects. The DNA between siblings is still different enough that there's a very good chance the kid will be fine. But then, let's say that those children also reproduce with thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:37 PM
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Full siblings are the most risky. Your sibling is more similar to you genetically than anyone else because you got your genetic makeup from the same people. The real problems with incest don't show up right away. It's when you have several generations of close familial incest that it gets nasty. The more generations, the narrower the gene pool gets. That's when you end up with kids with funny heads and stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 02:47 AM
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I'm not sure where you got that this is a eugenicist view. From a biological standpoint, you need more females than males. 1 male can impregnate a female each day, but each female can only be pregnant roughly once per year. Theoretically, a man could father hundreds or even thousands of children. A woman can realistically only have 15-20 children tops.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 02:41 AM
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Women are human beings, just like men, as as such, we're all unique. We all like different things, have different thought processes, and have different needs. The only true commonality between humans is the needs that are related to survival. We all need oxygen. We all need nutrition. We all need hydration. We all need protection from the elements. But that's about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 01:13 AM
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A man's body isn't appealing to this woman. I find men's bodies appealing, as do all my female friends. If a random guy sends me a dick pic, then that isn't appealing because I don't know him, and it's a bit of jump scare to open up your DM's and see a cock when you're not expecting it. My partner, on the other hand, is extremely appealing. Before I was with my partner, then the idea of seeing whatever crush I had at the time, naked, was also extremely appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 11:13 PM
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She is a very snuggly cat. I've had a lot of cats, and I've never had one that curled up on my lap within a few hours of being home. She's a Maine coon so she's going to be big when she grows up. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 10:06 PM
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<image> My new kitten is home. Her pedigree name is Musical Night, but we're just calling her Muse for short. She's super friendly and confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 06:37 PM
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There's no "if" the study was undersampled. You can't take 29 responses from one specific demographic and extrapolate that to women in general. I have only skimmed Whipping Girl, but I can't see where she says that women aren't attracted to men. I can see where she talks about how male desire is considered the default and how female desire is viewed as a result. You are saying that women have no sexual desire towards men, but you have no evidence to back it up. All you have is your personal expe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 11:17 AM
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As a psychological researcher, I'm actually having a hard time finding a rebuttal to this. Not because your point is any good, but because it's full of junk science. I'll refute the science because that's more fun. You're using psychological theories from 200 years ago as your base argument, and anyone who's studied even a little bit of psychology knows that time was the wild west for the discipline. Psychologists were pulling theories out their ass with no evidence because back then, it didn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 08:02 AM
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Just over a year ago, my bengal cat died of heart disease at 18 months old. As a family, we've decided we are ready for another cat. We settled on getting a Maine Coon, because they're a bit like bengals but without the absolute insanity. We went to go and see the kitten we picked out today, and she's so cute. She will grow into her ears and her feet. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:44 AM
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I wouldn't date anyone who currently had a fuck buddy. If we are dating, then we are exclusive. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 07:21 AM
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I think all women do change, but not always for the better. A selfish woman will just become even more selfish and entitled. Same goes for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 01:29 AM
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Probably not? I wonder how long it would take for you to want to do anything sexual if you had a wound the size of a dinner plate in one of your internal organs, and your penis was torn and bleeding for months.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 01:26 AM
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I don't really understand what you mean by this? Like I said, if the man lies about his intentions, then that isn't a moral failing on my part. In that scenario, it is the man who is untrustworthy, not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:04 AM
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If the man's life is not going in the same general direction as mine, or he wants vastly different things to me, then I wouldn't be interested in pursuing anything with him. My time on this earth is precious, and I'm not going to waste it on someone who just sees me as a bit of temporary fun. I might still be attracted to the man, but if he makes it clear that he just wants a casual fling, I'm not going to chase him in the hopes he changes his mind. If the man lies to me and pretends to want the…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:56 AM
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The proof is right in front of us. Millions of women give birth every year. If it were actually as difficult, complex, or taxing as they claim, the human race would have died out millenia ago. You don't get to claim "extreme difficulty" for a process that literally happens automatically while you sleep. Please explain.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:36 AM
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I think they are trolling since the said childbirth is something that happens in your sleep. Either that or they're extremely misinformed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:29 AM
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Can you explain the part about women giving birth when they're sleeping? The only way you give birth sleeping is if you have an emergency c-section under general anaesthetic, which is usually only done when there's some catastrophic complications like haemorrhaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:28 AM
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Then your argument is that most people aren't cut out to be parents, not that parenting itself is easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:25 AM
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You do realise men can masturbate without watching porn right?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 11:16 PM
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You can switch the genders around if you like. My point is that your whole premise is wrong because it isn't a double standard. Watching porn and a couple using sex toys are too different to claim a double standard. If you'd said that it's a double standard for women to demand, her partner never watches porn or masturbate, while she is allowed to watch porn and masturbate with whatever sex toys she wants, then that would be a double standard. A double standard is "one rule for thee and another f…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 11:04 PM
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Nah, the orgasm gap is caused by men who think that aggressively rubbing a woman's labia for 5 seconds will make her cum, or who think that a women will instantly orgasm the second they have a penis inside them. Aside from my current partner, the men I've been with would become frustrated if I didn't orgasm within a couple of minutes. They would also just rub very hard, and when I'd tell them what I liked, they'd do that for a few seconds and just go back to trying to start a fire with my lady g…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 10:54 PM
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If you don't want to use vibrators then that's fine, but you better be willing to spend as much time as needed with fingers and/or tongue to make sure she gets off. There's quite a few men who expect to rub the clit for 5 seconds, she'll get off, and then it's all about his pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 10:35 PM
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It's not really a double standard, though. A double standard would be a woman being upset that a man watches porn while she watches it herself. A woman saying she doesn't want her man jerking off to other women, but she would like to use a vibrator when they have sex so she can orgasm, isn't a double standard. Ironically, what is more of a double standard is a man expecting that he should be able to achieve his pleasure in whatever way he desires while expecting that his partner only orgasms fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 10:28 PM
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I personally don't care if my partner watches porn, but I'm struggling to see how a man watching porn is the same thing as a couple using sex toys during intimacy. One is something that is often done alone, purely for personal gratification. The other is a mutually pleasurable experience (fellas, vibrators can feel good for you, too). There is also an underlying ethical concern with porn. It's well established that if people watch porn frequently, they will often need to watch more and more extr…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 10:20 PM
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Not by default because it depends on each couple, how much they each earn, and how much they're willing to compromise. If one earns 100,000/year and the other earns 20,000/year, then that might complicate things. They could still do a 50/50 split, but the person earning 100k would have to accept a much lower standard of living. If the person earning 100k wants to live in an expensive house and go on vacation all the time, then they either need to find someone who earns the same amount as them or…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 12:39 AM
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My ex had an emasculating kink. I had no problem with the kink, except it was something that he was genuinely very insecure about it. He was on the smaller end, and he refused to have penetrative sex with me because he thought he wouldn't be able to satisfy me. He also got very upset when I bought a dildo, because it was bigger than him. I'm talking screaming, sobbing, the whole nine yards. When he told me that he had a kink for being humiliated about his size, I was confused. We did try it a co…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 09:20 PM
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I did not use AI for this. I used Google Scholar mostly. I've done more literature reviews than I care to think about it, so I'm good at finding and reading studies very quickly. https://obgyn.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/1471-0528.17820 https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2405844025003986 https://www.cso.scot.nhs.uk/wp-content/uploads/HIPS1709.pptx.pdf PFD is very common following birth. If you think it is rare, then you are the one who is misinformed. I recommend using Cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 09:44 PM
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There is a much higher chance than 5-10% of long-term effects. Pelvic floor dysfunction affects the majority of women who have given birth. PFD can range in severity, but it can include pain while urinating and defecating, incontinence, pain during sex, difficulty achieving orgasm, and vaginal/rectal prolapse. I do wonder how many men would want to get pregnant if they knew there was a decent chance their sex lives would completely change.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 08:05 PM
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Pregnancy does alter your body permently. Denying that is just silly. Studies have found anywhere from 50-70% of women experience pelvic floor dysfunction, such as prolapse or incontinence, after giving birth. About 10% will develop a thyroid issue. 5% will experience uncontrolled bleeding within a few weeks of giving birth. Historically, what happens to a woman's body after birth hasn't been talked about. Women didn't talk about how prolapsed vaginas or that they pee when they laugh. They didn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 04:12 PM
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She's not a massive fan of turkey, but she's had a little bit. She's mostly had cheese. She likes cheese, which makes her a girl after my own heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 02:44 PM
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Merry Christmas! I got my family loads of cool stuff, and I got an otamatone. Turkey is in the oven. The cat has had her Christmas dinner. All is well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 02:33 PM
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Reversing or preventing ageing wouldn't be one treatment. It would be 100+ treatments because ageing isn't one process. That's the reason why we're not close to getting to a point where we can make people live for 200 years. It's also why if it was something we could do, it would cost millions. Absolutely, we should all look after ourselves and do what we can to live long and happy lives. But the chances of any of us seeing a widely available anti-ageing drug in our lifetime is slim to none.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 04:36 PM
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Even if it was something that would happen during our lifetimes, there is an almost zero chance that it would actually be available to us. If you aren't rich and powerful, you will be among the ones who die like vermin. Any utopia won't include the likes of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 01:42 PM
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We could automate all the jobs, but until we find a way to reverse ageing, the average life expectancy won't change. Besides, if the above happened, you know it would only be available to the rich and powerful. The rest of us would die like rats in a sewer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 12:47 PM
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Schindler was sabotaging the Nazi's to save people from a gruesome death, many of them children. He didn't do it purely to fuck over the Nazis. What you're suggesting isn't for a greater purpose. It's not saving anyone. It's revenge for revenges sake. Drop the comparison to Nazi Germany. It makes you look stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:40 PM
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If you want to live your life where you spend every waking moment feeling so bitter, then that's up to you. It's your life, and if you want to live it miserable, then you do, my guy. Encouraging other men to do the same is wrong. You talk about men taking their own lives. Your idea will absolutely result in more of that. Bitterness and resentment can easily turn into suicidal ideation. I know this because I've counselled so many people, men and women, for whom that was the case. Maybe you don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 01:20 PM
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I mean, mutual masturbation is a thing. Sex doesn't have to just be "stick penis in vagina until penis cum, sex over".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 11:35 PM
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But why, though? Don't you think that carrying that much bitterness and resentment is harmful to men? The issues that men currently face aren't at all comparable to the holocaust. Show me the feminists who are actively rising to power with the intention of committing a literal genocide. The Jewish population still hasn't returned to the level it was pre WW2. You comparing the issues you mentioned to that just makes a mockery of one of the worst atrocities in human history. It also cheapens your …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 11:27 PM
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I did laugh when OP said the red pill was centring women too much, but then proceeded to offer a "strategy" where men spend every moment of their lives thinking about how to fuck over women just to fuck over women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 11:03 PM
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You're saying that the red pill and the like are wrong for centering women too much, but then what does that make your strategy? You're suggesting that men spend huge amounts of time and mental energy purely on fucking women over. For what reason? Other than seeking revenge, how does this course of action benefit those men? Also, comparing the things you listed to what happened in Nazi Germany is just silly. Men paying more child support and assets being split during divorce isn't even in the sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 10:58 PM
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The only opposition I'd have to the restraining order is that it also prevents the child from seeking out their birth father. People often have a very strong desire to meet their biological parent, to know where they came from, and a restraining order would stop that from being a possibility. If people are unable to meet their bio parents, then that can cause a lot of distress and confusion. I'd say instead of a traditional restraining order, the father should agree to never initiate contact. If…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 10:54 PM
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I think we're pretty evenly matched, although we each have our own strengths and weaknesses. I'm the more logical and calm one. He's better at math than me, but I'm better at dealing with people. We are both what I like to call smart-stupid. Here are some examples: There was a whole second car on the driveway for a week, and I didn't notice it even though I walked right past it. He tried a Babybel but didn't know you were supposed to take the wax off it, so he ate the wax as well and unsurprisin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 09:50 AM
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Yeah, he was born in the early 1900s. He was dying of Spanish influenza, so Carlise turned him to save him. Apparently, they go to high school because the younger they pretend to be when they move to an area, the longer they can stay. I don't buy that logic because the Cullen's are filthy rich. Like, they own an entire island rich. They could just live on their island and fuck around the whole time. No idea why they subject themselves to going to high school over and over again. I'd rather be de…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 11:09 PM
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I know this is off-topic, but I just reread the Twlight series as an adult, and it's just a load of red flags. Edward decides to break up with Bella, but does he do it at her house? No, he takes her to the middle of the fucking woods, and leaves her there. Bella wants to go and see her best friend? Edward doesn't like that, so he destroys her car so she can't leave. Jacob imprints on a baby but it's okay because he won't fuck her until she's all grown up. I can't believe that pre-teen me and my …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 07:06 AM
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I have a robot vacuum. I call her Effie. She's quite good, although I do have to rescue her from underneath the table on a frequent basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:46 AM
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I will point out that the studies you linking weren't looking at all women, but rather women within particular demographics. The issue with that is that it's not really possible to generalise those findings to the wider population. Sometimes we can, but I think it's only theoretically possible with the last one, although I'm sure said generalisation would be ripped to shreds by any peer-reviewer. I do see your logic, but it seems like you're trying to bend it slightly to fit in with your viewpoi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 06:14 PM
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None of these studies, particularly prove your point that a large proportion of single women are sex workers. One focused on Sub-Saharan Africa, which is one specific part of the world with a very unique culture. The other was focused on STI prevention. The other seemed to focus more on racial and economic differences in sex work and how that links in with STI prevention. The last one was probably the best one for your point, but even then, it still didn't show a "large proportion" of women enga…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 10:24 AM
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This statement doesn't apply to just women. A lot of people don't like their jobs, but they do it out of necessity. Some people get lucky, and they're able to end up in a career they genuinely enjoy, but most people don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 09:46 AM
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So, a man should only do chores if his partner agrees to do 50% of his job? I'm not sure if that would be a good idea because my partner is a programmer, and he does stuff for oil and gas pipelines. I can barely figure out Python, so if I did 50% of his job, a gas pipeline would probably explode.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 09:38 AM
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I'm not talking about the red pill or even the MGTOW crowd. I'm talking about that one particular incel website. The one where it's not uncommon to see posts where they're condoning rape, pedophilia, murder, and suicide. I'm sorry, but you're going to have a tough time convincing me that those sorts of internet spaces are healthy. Maybe in the US, men are voting en mass for a return to traditional values, but that's not the entire west. Much of Western Europe leans liberal, especially the Scandi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 05:49 AM
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If they actually agree to speak with me properly, then sometimes we've had some good conversations. I don't give empty platitudes, but I also will call out bullshit when I hear it. I had a conversation with one lad who believed he was subhuman because that's what women told him. Upon further reflection, he realised that the only people who had ever told him he was disgusting and worthless were the other incels. The people on those forums are vile to each other. They don't even try to encourage e…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:45 PM
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I've spoken with a few men who identify as being blackpill. All of them had piss poor self-worth. They'd use words like sub-human to describe themselves, and they genuinely believe that they are the ugliest, most disgusting thing to ever exist. Then, because misery loves company, they just reinforce those viewpoints with each other. I'm sure there are black pillers who are actually happy, but I've yet to meet one. You only need to spend 10 minutes on the incel forums to see how awful they are to…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:09 PM
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Because it's primarily used to run psychological experiments.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 06:01 AM
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I'm about to have a breakdown. I'm trying to learn how to use PsychoPy, which I need to learn Python to use. Never programmed anything in my life before. I'm trying to make a green triangle spin around, but it won't spin. How do I make it spin? None of the guides make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 05:58 AM
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Something that endangered my life or health would probably be the biggest one. Like if he knew he was HIV positive, but told me he was clean and then transmitted the virus to me. That would suggest he would be happy to sacrifice my life for his sexual pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:55 AM
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Software engineering is higher stress? My partner is a software engineer, and he has been for the last 30 years. He'd be the first one to say that my job is significantly more stressful and demanding. If he makes a mistake, then at worst, the code breaks, and he has to spend some time fixing it. If I make a mistake, then someone might kill themselves. The stereotypical female-dominated careers like nursing and social work are extremely stressful because you are responsible for people's lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 02:41 AM
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In a roundabout way, I would agree that career driven women are probably less submissive. The kind of submission you're referring to requires an element of naivety and a lack of self-worth. I'm a career focused woman. I'm educated and not to brag, but I'm pretty clever. I know my worth. I don't need a man to lead me because I trust in my own abilities. Men who want submission find women like me intimidating because they realise that aside from brute strength, we are evenly matched. Luckily, ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 10:45 PM
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It's all gibberish to me. I've looked at what my partner does, and it might as well be ancient hieroglyphics. I'm hoping I can get away with only needing a limited understanding of it. It's a psychology research masters, so surely I don't need to become fluent in python.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 02:41 AM
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I started my MRes today, and my first lecture was on computer programming. I've never programmed anything in my life. The lecturer kept saying, "Does that make sense?" and I was nodding, but it didn't make sense at all. Luckily, my partner is an actual software engineer, so he knows lots of programming languages. He said he'd help me, which is very kind of him. I've always been impressed with what he can do, but after struggling for 30 minutes to just write one line of code, I'm even more impres…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 11:27 PM
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Large penises are a deal breaker for me. I can't tolerate my cervix being touched. I have endometriosis, and I suspect that it's growing on my cervix because even a light nudge will cause bleeding and intense pain. I slept with a guy who was around 8 inches once. It was awful. We had to stop because the pain was making me almost pass out. Before you say I'm an anomaly, this is a very common experience for women with endometriosis, which is far from a rare disease (minimum 10% of women have it, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 10:14 PM
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You can but you'll probably end up deficient in some things. Since you have no red meat and no dark, leafy vegetables (like spinach), you'll might want to consider an iron supplement.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 10:06 PM
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That's fair enough. So long as you let your potential wife and mother of your children (you did say you wanted to marry and have kids with her), that is your intention. Then, she can make an informed decision about whether she wants to give her life to someone who is only really attracted to her breasts.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 09:16 AM
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What if she still wants to have sex? Would you guys open up the relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 04:05 AM
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I've never seen having a mastectomy framed as a choice before. I guess technically, is it, but practically it isn't, because usually it's either have a mastectomy or die a very painful death. If you cared for the woman at all, it wouldn't be a choice for you either. You'd much rather her live without boobs than be in a coffin with boobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 11:23 PM
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I just got my results for my degree, and I got first-class honours. Now, onto the MRes, where my quest to gain an alphabet after my name continues.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 02:59 AM
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You do realise that the 20 year old will age, right? What happens when she's 40 and her body doesn't look the same after having your children, and she can't have sex in the same way because her body is damaged from childbirth? What about if she gets breast cancer and needs to have her breasts removed (obviously boobs are important for you)?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 03:35 PM
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Where on earth did you hear that a 30 year old only has a 50% chance of getting pregnant? The only way you could have got this number is if you're looking at statistics per monthly cycle. The percentage of 30 year old women who get pregnant in one month is about 25-50% (depending on what study you read). If you look at the statistics across 12 months, then that number shoots up to around 80%. Meaning that 80% of women aged 30-34, will get pregnant within 12 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 03:30 PM
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I've never considered places home. A place is just a piece of earth. My home is with the people I love. It doesn't matter what part of the planet I'm on, so long as I'm with them, I am home.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 09:59 PM
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I'm a therapist, but I'm really not a fan of the whole "go to therapy just because" thing. With the way I work, clients need to have a goal, which needs to be more defined than just feeling better. If they don't have a goal, then I'm not the therapist for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:59 AM
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In theory, I'm for prostitution. If an adult wants to sell sex and another adult wants to buy it, that's between them. In reality, it's not that simple. We know that drug use and prostitution go hand in hand. Drug users will sometimes turn to prostitution to fund their habit, meaning that they're more likely to engage in certain acts, even if they don't really want to. There's also been numerous studies showing that a high percentage of sex workers have experienced past abuse. Childhood abuse, e…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:47 AM
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Donating sperm would be a lot simpler, without the risk of being sent to prison for non-payment of child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:31 AM
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At this moment in time, I would definitely choose sex over chocolate. I'd probably choose it over most things tbh, because it's awesome. About 5 years ago, I was on a treatment for endometriosis that put me into a chemically induced menopause. I'm not joking when I say my sex drive fell off a cliff. It was a strange experience. I went from being very horny to having almost no interest in the space of a few weeks. It didn't help that the medication made me dry up like the Sahara. On the odd occas…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:26 AM
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OP has clarified in another comment that they're only talking about women who have frequent, casual sex with multiple men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 04:45 PM
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You did say that. At the end of your post, you said that women are less happy because they have way more choice and that this increase of choice also causes men more difficulties. What else did you mean by that if you weren't saying that the past was better?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 04:25 AM
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It was easier back in the day because you could just buy cough syrup that was made with alcohol, heroin, and morphine. I guess you can't cough if you're unconscious.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 08:18 AM
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You can take steps to keep yourself safe from strangers. You can avoid going out at night. You can stick to well lit, safe, and populated areas. You can try to avoid going out alone. While those things don't completely negate the risk, they lower it. Tell me, how do any of those steps help keep you safe when the person harming you is the one you sleep next to? The idea that statistically, the biggest threat to me is my partner is difficult to get my head around (my partner isn't literally a thre…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 08:16 AM
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I'm a therapist on a mental health helpline, so trauma dumping is what pays my bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 04:14 PM
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That's isn't cheating. Cheating, by its very definition, involves deceit. There is clearly no deceit in your situation. I'm sure you do have boundaries in your relationship. Imagine that he willingly broke one of those boundaries, then he lied to you about it. Think about how you'd feel when you found out. That's how people feel when they find out their partner has been unfaithful.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 03:08 AM
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What you're describing is a fetish. There's nothing wrong with that, you do you. There is something wrong with thinking that everyone should share the same fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 09:31 PM
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Is this rage bait? Most men don't want to be cheated on. For you to try and convince men that they should just suck it up when they're betrayed is wrong. I mean, like morally wrong. Because of my job, I've spoken to tons of people who have been cheated on, both men and women. I've listened to them sob at 3am, to me, a complete stranger, because of how devastated they are. I've listened to how much they struggle in future relationships because once you've been betrayed before, it's hard to trust …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 09:28 PM
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Honestly, if a woman is able to stick a clarinet up there, they have my respect. They are a braver woman than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:30 AM
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To someone you just met 20 seconds ago? No. That's a good way to get the police called on you (or shot if you live in the US. To your partner, who you've had discussions with about limits, and you both trust each other? Sure. That kind of dynamic can be fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:27 AM
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You should! It's great playing as an adult, just for fun, because there's no pressure. I play whatever I want. If I find a piece boring, I just stop playing it and find a different one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:21 AM
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Nah, got to break it in first. You've got to warm up the oven before you stick in the turkey...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:05 AM
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22 years. I started playing when I was 7, and I was barely big enough to hold it. My career isn't in music, but it's still a huge part of my life. If I'm not playing it, I'm listening to it. Last year, I listened to 167,458 minutes of music on Spotify.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:03 AM
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I would probably be upset, but accidents happen. That's why I have a repair tech on speed dial, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:57 AM
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Because it's a limited edition one for Buffet's 200th anniversary. They only made 200 of them, and it's made of mopane instead of the usual grenadilla. Mine is number 56.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:56 AM
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The flute was mentioned in American pie. I could see how a flute could be used in that manner, but a clarinet is much bigger. I suppose anything can be a dildo if you're brave enough (not this clarinet though. It was £7,000).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 11:58 PM
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Look what I got. It's so pretty. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 11:32 PM
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Learn to tap dance. It's easier than dance dance revolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 11:13 PM
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It's 22 years. It's not something I mention much because I know people often have a negative knee-jerk reaction. I do understand why that is. I'm the first one to admit that relationships with a significant age gap are more often than not, unhealthy. My relationship is the exception, and it was pure luck that we ever met.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 08:17 AM
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I'm in an age gap relationship, and I have been for 9 years. We're very happy and I love him a lot. He ticks all of my boxes. He's kind, he'll stop and help anyone if he can. He's open-minded. He's supportive (he doesn't like musicals, but he came to see the show I was in). To begin with, we weren't equal financially. He was reaching the peak of his career, whereas I had just started, so obviously he made more money. That gap has steadily been closing. The only unavoidable downside is that reali…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 06:36 AM
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Being rejected does hurt, but it's also a part of life. You're not entitled to not be rejected just because it causes you pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 08:00 PM
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It's harder than it looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 07:46 AM
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I'm genuinely curious as to how you might achieve this. If you owned your own business, worked from home, and did all your shopping online, then that would cut out most of your usual day-to-day interactions. I think that would become incredibly isolating, however. You'd have to essentially never leave your house. And what happens if you ever need to go to the hospital? Some of the doctors and nurses taking care of you would be women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 07:43 AM
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I agree that it's probably not got much to do with protection. I get an Uber back from my drama group, and sometimes I have to wait 10 minutes. One of the guys waits with me. He's actually shorter than me, but I still feel much safer with him there. It's not because I expect him to protect me. It's more like a safety in numbers type thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:12 PM
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Theatre adults can be even worse because we're not quiet about our weirdness. We leave our dignity at the door and just go all in. It is really fun, though. In theatre, you can pretend to be anything you want. I'm a very mild-mannered and polite person in my real life, but during the show, I was screaming "out of my way old man", as well as making increasingly violent gestures to Grandpa Joe.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 10:38 PM
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The Charlie and the Chocolate Factory production is officially finished. It has been hard work, but I've had a blast. I've laughed more in the last 4 days than I have in the last 2 years. I can't wait for September to start the next show. If anyone is looking for a hobby to increase their confidence, I definitely recommend amateur dramatics.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 10:04 PM
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Professional male ballet dancers can best a lot of athletes when it comes to stamina. They literally leap around for 2 hours straight during a performance. That's insane just by itself, but they also do it so beautifully that it looks effortless.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 05:53 PM
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Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. My favourite bit is when we pop up from behind a table as oompa loompas. Everyone knows there are oompa loompas, but the audience assumes that it'll be the child ensemble that is playing them. When they see a bunch of adults in green wigs, they start laughing. Which is fair because we look absolutely ridiculous. It's hard to keep a straight face.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:25 AM
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My drama group is right in the middle of our summer show. Here's what has happened so far: The strap on my character shoe came loose, and I almost flung it into the audience when I did a kick. Another cast members false teeth half fell out while they were singing. I accidentally punched the main man in the side of the head. There is a prop which is a table with fake food on it that gets carried on. The fake food wasn't glued on, and the whole lot just slid off and landed on the floor. We still h…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:03 AM
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I have no idea what you're trying to get at with this comment. You're going to have to clarify.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 01:23 AM
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You're right that bad therapy can be very harmful. I'm a therapist, and part of my role is doing intake assessments for my organisation. We only offer short-term, solution-focused therapy, which isn't suitable for everyone. I quite frequently end up referring people on because the one thing that is worse than no therapy is the wrong type of therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 08:48 PM
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A lot of the behavioural approaches have an element of behavioural activation. CBT and exposure therapy focus heavily on that. Depending on what the anxiety is, behavioural therapists do go out with clients to face their fear directly. For things like social anxiety, the therapist sometimes will even do things that the client finds scary to show them it's okay. One of my tutors had a client who was scared to go out because they were worried they would fall over, and people would laugh at them. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 08:16 PM
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I am a therapist. First thing, are you aware that there's different approaches to therapy? There are therapies where you just go and talk about your feelings, and there are therapies that focus heavily on changing thought processes or behaviours. Second, all therapeutic approaches involve some sort of challenging the client, but it happens in a specific way. In the example you gave, I wouldn't say "just do it" to the client because that's not really giving them anything. Instead, I'd probably go…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 10:06 AM
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There's different types of therapy. There's even one called solution-focused brief therapy. It's an approach that doesn't place a huge emphasis on the problems that led clients to seek therapy. Instead, it focuses on what their preferred future is and what steps the client can take to help them get there. Obviously, it's not a suitable approach for everyone, but for clients who already have a solution-focused mindset, it's brilliant. Source: I am a therapist, and SFBT is my main modality at the …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 09:30 AM
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I'm in an amateur dramatics group. Yesterday, while crawling on the stage in a green wig, it suddenly hit me that I'm paying these people £10 a week to humiliate myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:38 PM
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I have more wealth than my partner. He makes slightly more salary wise than me, but I have significantly more in terms of assets. I'll also out-earn him in the not too distant future. I don't care that he's not super wealthy because I'm a cheapskate. I have two non-essential hobbies that I spend money on, but even then, I don't routinely drop huge money on them. I don't want a fancy car or a bag that costs more than most people's monthly salary. I would rather give the money away than spend it o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 06:51 PM
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I have a feeling you don't understand how research works.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 09:07 PM
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What evidence do you have that shows that sex chat bots are beneficial to mental health? If you want the government to fund it, you have to show that it's actually beneficial and worth the cost.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 07:43 PM
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I have ADHD (and I'm probably autistic as well, but I haven't decided whether I want to pursue a diagnosis). My partner is neurotypical. We've been together for 9 years, and overall, our relationship is good. There are some aspects of my ADHD that have impacted the relationship, specifically my procrastination and rejection sensitivity. We've figured out ways to navigate that. We share some of the same interests, but we also have very different ones. He likes football (proper football), and I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 04:43 PM
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Sex work should be legal. Expecting the government to fund sex chat bots is ridiculous. Government funded is another way of saying funded by the taxpayers. I'd rather my taxes go to health care, education, and welfare. I doubt you'd find many people who would be happy to have their taxes go to sexbots.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 04:30 PM
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I don't think this is so much "wife goggles" as "love goggles." When you love someone for a long time, the physical doesn't matter as much. That's why loving couples say together even when one of them becomes disfigured, like from severe burns. My mum and step dad have been married for almost 20 years. A few years ago, she went into liver failure. She had mostly recovered, but she doesn't look the same as she did before. My step dad still thinks she's beautiful and tells her so every day. He loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 08:59 PM
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Of course, they were strangers to me at one point, but I didn't go out on dates with them until I no longer considered them a stranger. If a stranger comes up to me and asks me out, I won't say yes when I don't know them. If they were courteous in how they approached me (and if I was single), then I'd be open to having further conversations. A conversation isn't a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 07:01 PM
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None of my relationships started after a random guy in the shop approached me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 03:13 PM
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If you want to preach about health, then you should know that BMI isn't a particularly useful indicator for health.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 04:38 AM
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I probably wouldn't be interested in dating a man that I just randomly crossed paths with at a store. I would maybe be open to having a further conversation if he seemed respectful, but if some stranger came up to me and asked to go on a date, I would say no. Saying yes to those situations is how you end up in a bath full of ice, with the space where your left kidney was, feeling empty.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 01:14 AM
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I'm not disgusted by men's sexuality. I am attracted to men and like sex, so I like that men also like sex. I don't care if men watch porn, so long as it's not the illegal kind. What I am disgusted by is the small subset of men who sexually harass and assault people, then claim that their "biological urges" are to blame. That is disgusting because it harms women and men by making men seem like nothing more than mindless animals who are incapable of higher reasoning. I have a much higher opinion …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 11:38 PM
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If we're talking about communicating in online spaces or conversations between acquaintances, then yes, words are more important than actions. In those contexts, all I have to go on is what someone says. If we're talking about deeper relationships like romantic relationships and close friends, then I think they're equally important. If my partner says he loves me but then acts in a way that shows me he doesn't, that's an issue. If my partner acts like he loves me but then verbally says he doesn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 07:21 PM
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Arrogance is a huge turn-off for me because it usually goes hand in hand with entitlement and the inability to take accountability. All of those things would make me run a mile, regardless of how the dude looked.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 04:26 AM
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My relationship is very similar to yours. My partner and I compliment each other well, but not because he's masculine and I'm feminine. I'm the one who's great in a crisis or when it comes to big decisions, but I struggle to make simple decisions, whereas he's the opposite. He's the one who likes to focus on one step at a time, whereas I'm the one who likes to analyse each step and how each outcome might impact the next step. It ends up working out quite well because we balance each other out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:01 AM
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I was ENTP on both the tests you linked. I have ADHD and I think that influenced some of my answers. I'm not an organised person at all. My brain is like a dozen squirrels on crack, running around (the hyperactivity aspect of ADHD occurs almost entirely in my head). But, occasionally, the squirrels will all run in the same direction. When that happens, I will have laser focus, and I'll become extremely organised. If I knew how to make that happen on purpose, I'd be unstoppable. ADHD is a neurode…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 02:32 AM
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Do you have any sources to back your statement?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 12:18 AM
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Once you get to 3 kids, you're outnumbered. The children know this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 10:33 PM
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I find all brass musicians very impressive, even if they're just playing twinkle twinkle little star. Even after having it explained to me, I still don't understand how they use their embouchure to get the note they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 12:14 AM
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It's not as difficult as it sounds because a lot of it is made up of common scales that are played in thirds. The music is intimidating when you look at it as a whole, but when you break it down, it doesn't seem as bad. I find that the hardest part is how long it is. I have a decent stamina level when it comes to playing. I can hold a note for 45 seconds before I need to take a breath, but even I'm gasping like an asthmatic by the end of the piece.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 11:45 PM
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When I was 16, I spent months perfecting Mozart's Clarinet Concerto in A Major K. 622. I: Allegro (catchy name, I know). I was planning to play it at a competition but right before I went on, one of the keys fell off. I got the key back on, but then it kept sticking, and I ended up getting disqualified. I cried for days. It's been 13 years since then, and my eye still twitches when I hear the piece. But today I decided I'm going to play it again. I forgot that it's actually a really fun piece to…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:44 PM
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I wonder what the person in the picture is doing now?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:35 PM
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The vast majority of people aren't abusive, so there is an element of bad luck that's involved when you do cross paths with one. As for vetting, it's obviously not possible to entirely figure out someone's intentions within the first hour of meeting them, but being aware of subtle red flags is important. The little signs do usually appear fairly quickly. The big one is isolation. Isolated people are easier to control. Your partner wanting to spend time with you isn't a sign of abuse. Your partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 08:18 PM
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That's your opinion. In the future, you should make your rage bait less obvious. This isn't making me angry, it's just making me laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:57 AM
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You're right. I didn't know the real him until much later into the relationship. Which is exactly my point. People can hide their true intentions very well, and unless you're a mind reader, that is hard to pick up on immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:37 AM
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My ex was abusive. He wasn't rich, super tall, nor did he have a high-social status. I wanted someone who was caring and generally supportive of my goals in life. He was those things to begin with. Then he started giving compliments that were actually insults in disguise. He started trying to make me believe that my family didn't actually love me. Then he tried to get me to give up my goals by presenting very logical arguments as to why I shouldn't go back to university. It was at about the 12 m…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:53 AM
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If you read anything from domestic abuse researchers, they will all say that abuse rarely begins right away (you're free to dismiss that evidence if you like, but that doesn't make it untrue). If you went out on a first date and they insulted you, told you that they would control every aspect of your life, then punched you in the face, would you go on a second date with them? Probably not. Making people aware of how abuse starts with subtle red flags isn't the same as telling people they are pow…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:20 AM
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Yep. I would say in some ways, hot and rich people may be even more likely to end up with an abuser. Being hot and rich comes with pressure and expectations, both of which an abuser could exploit. It's scary how quickly manipulative people will pick up on your weaknesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 01:15 AM
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I don't think so because even if you have high standards and make all the "right" choices, you can still end up in an abusive relationship. I have high standards for both myself and any partner I have. I'm intelligent and well educated. I know what I want in life and try to make decisions that will help me achieve those goals. I still found myself in a relationship with an abusive man. It wasn't until we'd been together for over a year that his facade fully dropped. When I look back on the relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 01:11 AM
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It's more helpful to talk about abusive relationships than to talk about whether there's a subset of women who seek them out. The most important thing to keep in mind is that abusive relationships don't start out as harmful. In fact, they often start out as perfect. Abusive people often have this uncanny ability to quickly figure out what you want, and they pretend to be that. Then, as time goes on, things start to change. It's very subtle, so you don't notice it as first. Things like compliment…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 12:27 AM
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Maybe in your fantasy land, artificial wombs will be high up on the list of things to fund, but in the real world, that isn't the case. Companies aren't going to allocate a large portion of their funding to a technology that unnecessary for the majority of people. There's also a huge amount of ethics to consider with this technology, especially in the context you're describing. Again, in your fantasy land, ethics committees might not exist, but they do in real life (and as someone who's done and…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 06:10 AM
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I think that idea would get you sent to the labour camp, as per OP's rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 05:25 PM
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You're still relying on women in this scenario, so your society wouldn't be male-only. Also, how do you plan to convince women to agree to this? You'll be hard pressed to find many women willing to risk their lives and go through all the pain of pregnancy when you'll be treating them like livestock. Follow-up question of what will happen if the child is a girl? Will you just toss them outside your zone? Raise them to be incubators?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 02:26 PM
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I thought he might say surrogates or artificial wombs. Both of those things still require a woman to be involved at some point. For a surrogate, the woman would obviously have to gestate and birth the child. For artificial wombs, a woman would still need to provide an egg. It is theoretically possible for an egg to be fertilised with another egg (it's even been done a couple of times, but the end result wasn't great). As far as I'm aware, it's not even theoretically possible for one sperm to fer…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 01:59 AM
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You said that this will be a male-only zone, but then you mention children being born in said zone. I'm assuming you know how babies are made, so how could any children be born?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 01:25 AM
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I've been with my partner for 9 years. I have an IUD and am also basically as barren as the Sahara, so pregnancy isn't a concern. Neither of us has any STIs, aside from me having high-risk HPV (not the kind that causes warts). 80-90% of sexually active adults have HPV, it also can't be entirely prevented with condoms, and as far as viruses go, it's pretty harmless.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:26 AM
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The 4% failure rate is if it's done perfectly every time. If you look at typical use, its failure rate is almost 30%.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:22 AM
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I think we all have a type of instrument that we're naturally better at. I could never get my head around brass instruments, but I pick up most windwinds fairly quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:00 AM
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I bought an ocarina thinking I'd be able to play it, no problem. It only has 12 holes, and that's nothing compared to the other instruments I play. I admit that my cocky musican side came out. Dear reader, I have been humbled. I sound like a 4 year old playing recorder for the first time, except somehow worse?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 08:53 PM
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This is one of the most bitter sounding posts I've ever read. I hope you're able to work through that at some point. Not for anyone else's sake but for yours. This kind of resentment can eat a person alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 07:48 AM
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Every time I see a story on Facebook about a man or boy experiencing rape at the hands of a woman, there's usually a sea of men in the comments downplaying it. I've noticed that it's even more extreme when it's a case of a woman assaulting a young boy. There's comments along the lines of "he's so lucky" or "I wished that happened to me when I was young." I rarely see those kinds of comments coming from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 04:46 AM
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Exactly. I got put on the waitlist this time around, so I still got pretty far. Out of over 200 applicants, I was still in the top 30. I'm going to do an masters of research this year, so then I'll tick all their boxes. As an added bonus, the MRes will allow me to have even more letters after my name. I aspire to have a whole alphabet.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 02:06 AM
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Thanks! More luck might be needed for the people who are dancing next to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 12:54 AM
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The difficulty with making a straight comparison is that men's hormones are relatively stable compared to women's. Over the course of a month, a woman's libido is probably going to fluctuate more than a man's. During the follicular phase, both estrogen and testosterone levels rise before peaking during ovulation, which often causes a noticeable increase in libido. In the luteal phase, estrogen and testosterone decrease, while progestrone increases, which can cause libido to drop. And, of course,…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 12:54 AM
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I didn't get into the doctorate I applied for. I'm a bit disappointed but it's okay. I know where my application was weakest, so I've got the next year to improve on that. The good news is that I'll be able to stay in my community drama group, and our big show next year is Shrek. I've got my eyes on the Gingerbread Man part. I've started practising my "NOT THE GUMDROP BUTTONS!"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 12:36 AM
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I have rehearsal for my amateur dramatics group. We're doing Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. It'll be my first time dancing in character shoes. I struggle to walk in heels, so I'm not sure how I'll manage a piroutte in them, but I'll try my best.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 12:32 AM
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Someone who is a complete stranger coming up to you and saying they love you is scary. Imagine that there was someone significantly bigger and stronger than you. You know that realistically, if they were to attack you, there'd be fuck all you could do. Then imagine that this person comes up to you out of nowhere and says they've been watching you and they love you. Would you be flattered, or would you be frightened?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:56 AM
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If a woman having sex with the man she loves is a prostitute, then men who provide the things you mentioned for the woman he loves is a servent. Just instead of being paid with money, he's paid with sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:52 AM
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Or, now hear me out, maybe women actually find sex extremely pleasurable and want to experience that pleasure. Super radical idea, I know!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:48 AM
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A couple of months ago, I bought my dream clarinet. It sounded really good as it was, but I knew I could make it sound better. 5 mouthpieces and 3 barrels later, and I think I've got it almost perfect. I used to sound great. Now I sound downright angelic. That makes me very happy. Just don't ask me how much I've spent getting to this point. My eye starts twitching if I think about that for too long.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 01:39 AM
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Maybe one day we could, but not in the near future. You're talking about rewriting our entire genetic makeup. Our understanding of how all the chemical processes in our bodies work is still extremely limited, but we do know that they're all connected. We can't just stop one without causing potentially catastrophic effects in the others. The more important question isn't even whether we could. It's why should we? There's no benefit to it. In fact, what you're suggesting would strip people of thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 10:17 AM
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Your first source isn't a research study but rather an academic essay. I didn't read all of it, but from skimming it, I can't see anything that is suggesting that sexual attraction is fake. Your second source is a research study, but it's not proving what you think it is. It's not saying that sexual attraction is some kind of learned behaviour from society. It's saying that what people find attractive can be influenced by cultural ideas and beliefs. It was also published almost 40 years ago, mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 09:59 AM
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Sure, I have more than one in fact: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/22588-dopamine-deficiency https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/320637 https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-is-dopamine https://jnnp.bmj.com/content/53/10/915.short https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S000989812100276X Those last two may be locked behind a pay wall for you, as they were published in academic journals, but you should still be able to read the abstract.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 09:33 AM
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If your dopamine production stops, then you can enjoy the following: depression, anxiety, extreme fatigue, a lack of motivation, insomnia, constipation, GERD, restless leg syndrome, and Parkinsons.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 08:18 AM
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My partner is an emotional man, and my ex was as well, but in two completely different ways. My partner will express his emotions by communicating how he is feeling, what he thinks is causing him to feel that way, and what he needs from me to be able to best support him. My ex, on the other hand, didn't do any of those things. He didn't communicate with me what he would feeling, he would just explode. He would cry, which isn't a problem at all, but the crying would quickly become shouting. Then,…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 11:51 PM
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If we're talking about my own personal experience, then 0%. I personally have never met a woman who purposefully seeks out men with extra large dicks. Granted, I only really talk about sex with women who also have endometriosis. Sex can be painful enough as it is, what with the searing abdominal pain and the intense post-orgasm cramping that can last for hours. A large penis can just make those things worse. For me, if a man is more than 6 inches, then that is a deal breaker. Even 6 inches is pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:28 PM
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I will never change my name. I have 3 main reasons why: I like my name as it is. I'm aiming for a doctorate, and my last name sounds really good with Dr. in front of it. I have my dad's last name. He is dead. He doesn't get to witness all the awesome things I'm going to do in my life, but I carry his memory through my name. It's a reminder that part of him lives on through me, which, considering he died way before his time, brings me comfort. If any man had an issue with me not wanting to change…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:14 PM
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I don't agree with the red pill, but I think saying if you're not sexually successful right at this moment, you can't be red pill, doesn't make much sense. From my understanding, a lot of what the red pill preaches are basically skills within dating. Just like any other skill, no one is going to be instantly perfect at it. It takes practice, and while you are practising, you will fail multiple times.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:04 PM
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I've never had a problem being the one to make the first move. I asked my partner out. We equally plan dates or days out. In the beginning, he did pay the majority of the time. That wasn't because of tradition but because he had a good job and I had no job because I was still studying. I have more money than him now, so I pay most of the time. I'm planning on doing a doctorate, and I won't be able to work, so we'll probably go back to him paying the majority of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 10:28 PM
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I was sitting 3rd row from the stage, so I saw the spit flying. It really sold the "they will tear each other into pieces, Jesus Christ, this will be fun."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 11:03 PM
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I just saw Hamilton. It was brilliant, but I fear I'm going to spend the next 6 months singing, "You'll be back, soon you'll see, you'll remember you belong to me." The song is just so catchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 10:53 PM
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Why bother going to spend 7+ years training to be a doctor or lawyer if you're planning to quit your job to raise kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 09:20 PM
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I went through a phase of having dreams that I was trying to initiate sex with my partner, but instead of taking his clothes off, he would just hand me stuff. One time, it was dining room chairs. He didn't say anything in the dream. he just pulled dining room chairs out of nowhere and handed them to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 09:16 PM
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Keeping ashes tastefully displayed isn't a shrine. The urn I have my dad in doesn't even look like an urn. You wouldn't know he was in there just by looking at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 09:12 PM
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I'm not old. That creaking sound that you hear definitely isn't my knees...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 09:09 PM
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Definitely all of this, but I'll also add that when you peel back the obsession, what you'll often see underneath is a desire to control and dominate. The person themselves isn't always aware that they have that desire, but more often than not, it's there. That can become very dangerous because control is the foundation of pretty much every type of abuse you can think of.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 09:07 PM
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Then good luck to you, I guess. If you do find yourself in an abusive relationship, I hope that you will be able to leave before you lose your sanity or even your life. And yes, your life would be in danger in this kind of relationship. Either from your partner directly harming you or from you taking your own life (this partner may encourage you to kill yourself when you've done something to upset them).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 07:20 PM
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It seems that you're not getting the point. Take it from people who have been in these relationships. You won't be allowed to play video games. You're asking for the kind of person who would happily smash up all your gaming systems if you even so much as looked in the wrong direction. I know you might say "well I'll just do as they ask, and then they'll be happy," but they won't. At 12:00 pm, you might get shouted at for not looking at her enough, then at 12:01pm you'll be shouted at for looking…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 07:13 PM
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I had one of these "obsessed partners," and you're forgetting one very important part. The obsession isn't coming from a place of love or devotion but control. They're not checking whatsapp because they just love you so much, but because they want you to know that you have no privacy or freedom. They give compliments that are actually insults in disguise. My ex once said to me, "You're so pretty that I worry that you'll choose to be with someone else, but then I remember that no one else will lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 07:04 PM
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I did wonder if he's been secretly practising because honestly, he sounded so good. Most people sound like a dying animal for a little while, but he didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:51 PM
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You should learn! Obviously I'm biased because it's my main instrument, but I think it's the best. It has a super impressive range, one the largest of any instrument. I think it's amazing that a wind instrument can play deep, low notes that are so low that you can actually feel the vibrations and also piercing high notes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:24 PM
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I've played the clarinet for a long time. My partner has listened to me play for a long time. Then, last week, he decided he wanted to try playing. The man has zero musical experience, but nevertheless, he did an amazing job. He only had a couple of squeaks, and his tone was great for a beginner. He doesn't want anyone to know because he's worried that people will ask him to play, and he's not ready for that. I can't tell his family how awesome he is at it, but I can tell the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 03:39 AM
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Not nessecarily. I'm in the UK, and we don't have routine yearly checkups. I do have a GP, but I haven't actually seen them in about 6 years. Even if you do go to the doctor every year, if you believe what you're experiencing is normal, you might not mention it. I'm not suggesting that we should stay quiet about men's health. There's certain things about men's health that should be talked about much more openly. Like telling men to examine their testicles every so often, or if they suddenly find…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 02:52 AM
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Imagine that you are a woman, maybe late teens early 20s. The only thing you've really heard about periods is they they suck, and yours certainly does. You bleed a lot, and you get pain that is hard to manage at times, but because all you know is that periods suck, you think it's normal. You never go to the doctor. Why would you when you think that what you're experiencing is normal? When we're open about periods, people then see that things like heavy bleeding and severe pain are abnormal. Beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 01:15 AM
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That's not really a benefit, though. That's just talking about it for the sake of talking about it. We talk about periods because, on average, 2 in 10 women will have some kind of reproductive disease. Diseases that can destroy their quality of life. Diseases that can take 7-10 years to diagnose, in part because when we don't talk about periods, people don't know what is normal and what isn't. ETA: I am one of those 2 in 10. I got my period just before I turned 11. Luckily for me, my mother also…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 09:48 PM
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Being open about periods does serve a purpose. Historically, girls were taught that their periods were shameful and not something to be talked about at all. That meant that if they experienced severe pain or heavy bleeding, they would just suffer in silence. Reproductive diseases are common in women. When we're open about periods, people will know when something is wrong and be able to get medical treatment. I'm trying to picture a scenario where talking about nocturnal emissions would have the …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 11:18 AM
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This may be an unpopular opinion, but I don't think unconditional love is a healthy thing at all. Unconditional love doesn't just mean loving someone a lot. It means loving them no matter what they do. They could beat you, interfere with your child, or off your mother, and your feelings of love wouldn't change. That's unconditional love. Aside from maybe parent/child relationships, love should have conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:28 AM
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You can say that you would like women to make the first move more, but that's all you can do. You can't make people behave in a certain way, no matter how much you wish they would. Also, plenty of women do make the first move. They might not commonly do cold-approaching, but neither do many men. If your solution is to encourage women to be more proactive, that's already happening, but it's clearly not solved the problem. So what else do you feel could improve the situation? For what it's worth, …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 10:58 PM
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I think of the same way I think of any other person that I don't have any kind of connection with. I have empathy for their situation, but I'm not spending hours pondering the plight of people I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 09:48 PM
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Prince Charming was always a bit weird looking to me. Guy looked dead behind the eyes, and he also has no name.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 07:13 PM
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What are you hoping that women do about this? Say yes to every man who asks them out? I think my partner of 9 years might have an issue if I come home and tell him I've got 2 new boyfriends. Should we approach men who we think look lonely and ask them out? Should we do that even if we're not romantically interested in them, just to boost their confidence? It sucks that some people struggle to find a partner, and I would never claim otherwise, but I don't know what you want the solution to be. As…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 07:09 PM
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Any positive trait can become negative if it's overpowering enough, so I suppose, yes, it would be possible for a man to be too nurturing. If that nurturing became not letting me do anything for myself, then that would be a turn-off. I've never actually experienced that in real life, though. My partner is very nurturing. He's looked after me when I've had surgery. He once sat on the floor because my cat was sitting on his office chair, and he didn't want to move her because "she looked comfy" (d…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 07:48 PM
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I think it's a bit of a leap to say that because soap operas have the bad boy trope, that proves that women actually want to have a relationship with those kinds of men. Quite a few men enjoy watching war movies. Does that mean that they actually want to go to war? Probably not. Most of us humans like to imagine ourselves as important or as heroes of some kind. Whether that's as someone who saves their comrades, someone who changes a person from bad to good, or as someone who throws a shiny ring…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 01:07 AM
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We know that physically, girls tend to start and end puberty a little earlier than boys. Puberty is a complex process, and we're still learning exactly where brain development fits in, but the brain does change during puberty. So, on that basis, it's logical to say that from a biological basis, at least, girls mature earlier than boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:55 AM
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Unless it was for a health reason, like we were both carriers of the CF gene, then no. For one, the process that you're describing isn't as simple as just putting a fertilised embryo in a turkey baster, and putting it in the vagina. What you're describing is IVF. Even if you take the egg retrieval out of the equation, it's still harsh on the woman's body. She'd still have to take certain medications to prepare for the implantation, which can have nasty side effects. The actual implantation can b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:47 AM
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I can see both sides. I understand men wanting to be sure, but if my partner suddenly said, "I believe that you may have cheated on me and that our child isn't mine," I would be hurt. I have seen men on here saying that women shouldn't be hurt by this, but that's quite a big ask. I can't imagine there are many men who would genuinely be absolutely fine with being accused of cheating. Biological kids aren't in the cards for me, so this is all hypothetical, but although I would be hurt, I don't th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 09:14 AM
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In my experience, gender of the doctor doesn't make a difference. The doctor who did my first set of biopsies was a woman, and she was downright cruel. On the flip side, my current gynaecologist is lovely. She's an endometriosis expert, and I've never once felt unsafe or invalidated. I trust that woman with my life. I've had a male gynaecologist who was very kind and gentle when he performed a transvaginal ultrasound, and another that gave me a month's worth of tramadol when my pain was bad. I'v…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:07 PM
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Andrologist. Although many conditions affecting the male reproductive system are better handled by a urologist because it often involves the same pipe.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:39 AM
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Come to most European countries, and you will find that routine infant circumcision just isn't a thing. I'm in the UK, and I've only known one man under the age of 75 who was circumcised and that was for health reasons. Most British people think that America's insistence upon cutting off parts of a baby's penis is very strange and disturbing. And just so you can say you've met one in the wild, I'm a feminist and I consider routine infant circumcision to be genital mutilation (if you've got time …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:29 AM
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One area that this is absolutely not the case (and I'd challenge anyone to provide evidence showing otherwise) is when it comes to healthcare. When a man has a vasectomy, he is given a local anaesthetic and usually some kind of sedative unless the man decides he doesn't want it. I know of someone who was given a PCA during his vasectomy, which delivered IV morphine. When my step dad had his prostate biopsied, he was given a topical anaesthetic, then a local anaesthetic injection, and he was heav…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:22 AM
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Depends on what exactly their "hidden past" is. If I found out that my partner used to be a petty thief, I would say that isn't nearly as traumatic as being cheated on. If I found out that he used to turn babies into baby stew, then I would find that worse than being cheated on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 04:51 AM
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It's been a hot minute since I did online dating, but when I did, I preferred when people were up front with what they were looking for. If a dude had in his profile that he was looking for a blonde with huge boobs, then I know not to waste mine or his time. I'd also rather people be honest if they are focused on looks. That way, I can steer clear and spend my time interacting with people who value the same things I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:54 PM
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I don't criticise men for watching porn. I don't even care if my partner watches it so long as he doesn't choose porn over actual intimacy with me. However, I'm interested to know where you got the statistic that says 80+% of women only go for 20% of men. The only "study" I've seen that says that is the one done by Okcupid, and I wouldn't exactly consider that the height of scientific research.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:28 AM
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Generally, no. Animals really don't care. I had rabbits when I was a kid, and one of them was pregnant. The vet told us that we must separate the kits from the mother as soon as they were weaned. Otherwise, the males would mate with their mother. Nature ain't pretty, it's brutal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 03:20 AM
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The vast majority of women I know, myself included, want to split finances with their partner. They also want to split the bill on their first date. You say that women are complaining about not wanting to share financial burdens with their partner, but how many women have you actually heard say this? Is this something that you hear frequently from the women in your personal life, or is it just something you've seen being talked about on the internet? It also sounds like you're saying fathers are…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 02:41 AM
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After only 3 months? Of course, I'd be upset. We're not in the 70s anymore. The world of work has changed. I applied for my current job in December 2021, and I didn't actually start until March 2022. If it had been over a year, or I was clearly not making any effort to find a new job, then that would be different. I also wouldn't leave my partner after only 3 months of him being out of work. That feels like a very unreasonable expectation in our current world.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:00 AM
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I could easily flip this around and say in my experience that it's the men who still think in the traditional way. I know plenty of women who contribute 50/50 in terms of finances and working, but their boyfriend/husband still expects them to do the majority of the cooking, cleaning, and child rearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 03:31 AM
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No to everything except the gifts, but I use the term "gifts" very loosely here. I don't want lavish gifts, but I do like little tokens of affection. When my partner gets the groceries, he usually picks me up something he thinks I'd like. It's never anything big. It could be a new flavour of noodles for me to try or a pack of cool stickers. The monetary value doesn't matter to me. It's more that while he was completing a mundane task, he thought of me. He could pick me a dandelion from the side …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 09:14 AM
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Let's say there's a woman who agrees to have sex. She signs the form, and they start having sex. They're having a great time, but at some point, the woman changes her mind. She asks the man to stop, but he keeps going. The woman acknowledges that the sex was consensual to begin with, but that it became rape when she asked him to stop and he didn't. How would a rape kit help in this scenario? All it proves is that they had sex, which the woman has already acknowledged as being the case. It's not …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 12:38 AM
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The scenario that jumps to mind is that the woman agrees to sex initially. She signs the form saying she consents to sex, and they start having sex. Then, at some point, she decides she doesn't want to keep going, but the man keeps going. The woman acknowledges that she initially agreed to sex, but that when she asked him to stop, he didn't. How does a rape kit help the woman in the above scenario prove she was raped? Especially when there's a piece of paper or recording saying that she original…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 12:30 AM
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Do you think that a rape kit is some magical test that can immediately determine if sex was consensual? Because that's not how it works at all. A rape kit collects semen/other bodily fluids, which can be used later for evidence. It also documents any injuries if they are present. A rape kit doesn't conclusively show one way or another, whether the sex was consensual. So, saying, "If it was rape then go get a rape kit," is a very misinformed opinion. In the scenario that we're talking about, a ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 12:22 AM
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Extremely turned off. So turned off that I'd immediately walk away. This would set off so many alarm bells for me. If I sign that paper, then change my, he could use that as an excuse to keep going. Then, if I reported it, that piece of paper could be used to discredit me. And if this potential partner believes that I may falsely accuse him, then we shouldn't be having sex. We should wait until stronger trust can be established. If he feels that's not possible, then I'm not the woman for him. If…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 12:15 AM
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Does anyone actually enjoy being an accountant? I know different strokes for different folks and all that, but I couldn't imagine anything worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 10:11 PM
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I never said consent app creates more rapists. I said it gives rapists more ammunition for their "they wanted it" defence. Also, if you think that a consent app wouldn't be used as evidence in a rape trial, then you don't understand how criminal trials work. Something doesn't have to be "legally binding" to be used as evidence in a trial. Since you seem to not be understanding what I'm saying, here are some articles that might put it better: https://pursuit.unimelb.edu.au/articles/consent-apps-a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 07:49 PM
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Nah, it's got to be done in a court of law in front of a jury of your peers. That's the only safe way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 03:33 PM
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Except your app idea actually puts women (and men) at risk. She could have consented initially and said yes on the app, and then that can be an excuse to keep going when she says no. Then, when she reports it to the police, her rapist can hand over their phone and say, "Look! She consented! I've got the date and time stamps to prove it." What reaction do you think the police will have to that? How do you imagine a jury will respond when that app is shown in court? Rapists already use the "they w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 03:30 PM
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Probably because OP is one of the many people who don't understand how debate works. Most of the comments aren't in their favour, so instead of acknowledging that their viewpoint may have some flaws, they're shifting the goal posts and twisting people's comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 03:20 PM
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I'm not arguing that conversations around consent are needed. Your claim is that doing that through an app is a green flag. That's literally the title of your post. I'm arguing that I see the whole app thing as a red flag. Why not just talk about consent verbally? Why does my partner require written proof of my consent? Is it because he's planning to disregard it at some point and use my answers on the app as a defence? Or maybe he thinks that I'm going to falsely accuse him? There's too many un…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 03:09 PM
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No, I just don't think an app is nessecary for those things and that it could actually cause more harm in the wrong hands. Your post was that using an app is a green flag. For me, it would be the opposite because why do they feel the need to prove that consent was given?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 06:04 AM
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Of course they do, and the app won't stop them, which makes it pointless. All the app would do in that situation is give a rapist more chance to claim that their victim wanted it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 05:54 AM
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If you're only interested in looks, then what you're saying is true. However, I think most people want a relationship that goes deeper than that. If you had loads of money and you got one of those hot, gold-digger type girlfriends, your relationship would be shallow. The second you had less money, she would be gone. If you became sick, she would be gone (either than or she'd help you to shuffle off this mortal coil, so she could inherit everything). If that's what you're searching for, then more…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 05:48 AM
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I don't know about that. I feel like this kind of app could be detrimental. What if I consent to sex while we're just talking about it and tick all the boxes on the app, but then when the clothes come off, I change my mind? I could see a not so decent person using the fact that I consented on the app as a reason to keep going anyway. Then, if I tried to report it, that would surely be used against me. And if I was a not so decent person, there may be a way that I could manipulate the app to make…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 04:52 AM
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That's fair enough, and I do think there's something to be said for not doing a job that you're really passionate about. I work with a lot of clients who are struggling with work related burnout. The vast majority of the time, they are people who really love their job. Because they love their job, it's easier for them to give a little bit too much of themselves to it, without even realising it. I can count on one hand the number of burnout clients I've had who also say they don't really care abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 01:33 AM
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I'm curious: Why is it a red flag if a woman enjoys her job?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 11:50 PM
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A human doctor is a red flag, but a vet isn't? Vets are doctors who do at least 5-7 years of training at university in veterinary medicine. And that's just to become a regular small-animal vet. If they want to specialise or treat other animals, then that's another 2-5 years training. Vet school is just as competitive (if not more so in some places), as med school. You have to have great grades, be intelligent, and driven to get in. I can promise you that no vet will be happy if you only value th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 11:48 PM
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I'm with you on the corporate job thing. We've all got to do what we've got to do to make a living, but it takes a certain type of person to want to climb the corporate ladder all the way to the top. I think a lot of my values would be in conflict with someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 11:38 PM
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I mean, he has cried about other stuff. Those were just the first 2 that sprung to mind. He also cried when he moved house and had a moment where he suddenly regretted his decision. And there have been times he's cried just because he felt sad, but there wasn't any particular reason why he felt sad. The only crying quota I'd have would be that if he started crying all the time, and there wasn't any obvious trigger for it (like a bereavement), then I would be worried. Crying is normal. Crying all…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 11:27 PM
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My partner has opened up to me a lot, and we've seen each other cry a fairly equal amount. He cried at my father's funeral, and when the cat died. Seeing him express his emotions doesn't turn me off. If I wanted an emotionless rock, then I'd date ChatGPT. I do expect a certain degree of emotional regulation. If my partner lost his shit over every little thing and he relied on me to stabilise his emotions all the time, then that would be a problem. We all need support and help to regulate our emo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 09:21 PM
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If it happened organically, then I would be okay with it. I wouldn't actively seek out a relationship like this for a couple of reasons. One is that if my partner feels like he has to earn more than me, then that points to some kind of insecurity or problematic conditions of worth. I've been with a man with that kind of insecurity, and it was exhausting. Second, and probably the biggest reason is that I'm extremely passionate about my career, and I have big ambitions. If things go the way I hope…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 03:59 AM
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I agree with this. Also, certain aspects of a relationship may shift. For example, my partner and I are pretty much 50/50 in terms of finances right now, but in September, I'm hoping to start doing my doctorate (assuming the academic gods look favourably upon me). I won't be able to work nearly as much as I am now, so for 3 years, he'll take over most of the financial responsibility. He's willing to do that because my earning potential will triple if I get the doctorate. Relationships are all ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 01:03 AM
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I think a lot of people misunderstand what a prenup is. They think that it applies to all assets when it actually only applies to assets that someone has before marriage. If you have nothing when you marry your partner, then become a millionaire during the course of the marriage, your spouse would still be entitled to some of those assets. To be honest, for the vast majority of people, a prenup is a waste of time. It's only worth doing if you already have a significant amount of assets (multiple…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 08:51 PM
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The "huge majority" bit gave me pause, too. When I hear that, I think 85-90%, and I'm pretty sure that more than 10% of men are having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 09:14 AM
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I'm not saying that no man ever has had a delayed diagnosis. I'm saying that wouldn't be the experience of the majority. If 1 in 10 men went 7 years with no diagnosis, then it would be talked about. There would be research articles in urology journals discussing the impact of delayed diagnosis. Prostatitis would end up being a fatal condition for many men because they would go septic from the untreated bacterial infection. So no, there's no statistics that directly show that prostatitis is a qui…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:55 PM
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Same with gaslighting. People seem to use it to mean "you didn't agree with me or you told me something I didn't want to hear." Real gaslighting is actually one of the most damaging abuse tactics of them all. It can take years to recover from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 06:02 AM
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Prostatitis is often caused by a bacterial infection. If it took 7 years to diagnose, the person would probably be dead. There are no research articles talking about how it takes most men years to be diagnosed and what impact that has on treatment. How long it takes to be diagnosed isn't mentioned on the various information pages, unlike the ones for endometriosis, which state it can take a long time. If a man experiences pain in his gentials or pelvic region, medical professionals aren't going …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:00 AM
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I'm sure some men do have to wait a long time to be diagnosed, and some men have been told by multiple doctors that their condition doesn't hurt, but they would be a small minority. Some of the men in my life have had it because it is very common. All of them we're diagnosed by the GP at the first visit. They weren't told that pain in their gentials was a normal part of being a man. If you can find me a condition that meets the following criteria, then I'll take back the part about my health: ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:03 AM
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Would you stay in a relationship with someone who believed strongly enough that you were a rapist/murderer, that they needed a lie detector test to prove that you weren't?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:47 AM
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For me, yes, but that's because of things that wouldn't apply to the general population. I have a great-grandmother who has some serious internalised misogyny. She hates women, including me. I have to look after her because everyone in the generations between me and her are dead. If I was a man, then she'd basically worship me, and my life would be easier. I also wouldn't have endometriosis. I know that men have their own health problems that are unique to them, but the way those issues are trea…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:28 AM
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And would you, of your own accord, take a lie detector test to prove that you weren't a rapist or murderer, if your partner asked you to?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:49 AM
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No, because if my partner needs a lie detector test to believe that I love him, then the relationship is already over. My words and actions should prove it to him. If they don't, then something has gone very wrong with one or both of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:46 AM
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This entirely depends on what you mean by mental health struggles. I don't think people who are depressed or have an anxiety disorder should avoid relationships. In fact, building new connections is one of the top 5 things I recommend to clients who are struggling with those kinds of mental health issues (I'm a therapist). Isolation can absolutely make things like depression work, and it creates this horrible cycle for people. However, mental health struggles can mean so much more than just depr…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:30 AM
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Dude, read one of my other replies to you. I'm from a country where routine infant circumcision isn't a thing. You'd be hard pressed to find anyone, male or female, under the age of 65 who agree with it, myself included. It's barbaric, and I don't understand why Americans are so obsessed with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 06:21 AM
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A couple of things. First one: what was the 42% number actually stating. Does it state "42% of women in a lesbian relationship have experienced domestic abuse at some point in their lives"? Or does it state "42% of women in a lesbian relationship have experienced domestic abuse in their current relationship, or in a previous lesbian relationship"? Although the question sounds similar, there's quite a big difference. If it's the former, then you need to consider the fact that many women in a lesb…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 03:20 AM
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Your experience sounds very American. I'm in the UK, and I've only known 1 man under the age of 70 who was circumcised, and that was done when he was an adult for medical reasons. Routine circumcision isn't recommended by the NHS, and it isn't available on the NHS. Even the big private healthcare places, like Bupa and Nuffield, will only perform circumcision on patients aged 3 and up, and only when there is a clinical need.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 09:40 AM
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You said this is a widespread phenomenon, yet the only example you can give is a personal experience that happened years ago? Can you link some videos, comment sections, or articles where you've seen this happening? Since you're the one making the claim, the burden of proof is on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 09:28 AM
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It does change. I actually find it quite scary how quickly it adjusts itself. You don't even need to watch the whole video. You just need to linger on one for 0.5 seconds longer than you would normally. I do worry about the impact on young people. I was a teenager when social media was just starting, and that was bad enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 06:13 PM
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Yep. I watched one video of a teenager who was in a psychiatric hospital, and suddenly, my feed was full of depressed kids who wanted to make away themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 04:33 AM
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These kind of men do exist, but I wouldn't say they're very common. Very common, in my mind, means close to the majority. I've interacted with a lot of men in both a personal and professional capacity. I can count on one hand the number of men that have genuinely wanted a truly submissive partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 10:31 AM
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I think bad sex often looks different for men and women. For me, bad sex is sex that causes severe physical pain that lasts for days. Before I met my current partner, good sex for me was sex that didn't hurt. I've spoken to lots of other women who have had similar experiences. It seems even more common amongst those of us who have endometriosis (which is a big reason why sex can be so painful for me. It's better now because my partner is very patient and is quite happy to do non-penetrative thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 09:57 PM
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What if you found out that your spouse molested your children? What if she murdered them? Would you still love her then, or would your feelings change? They're dark examples, I know, but if you truly loved someone unconditionally, then the above scenario wouldn't impact that love. If there are some scenarios in which you could see yourself no longer loving someone or even loving them less, then your love is conditional. That's not a bad thing, though. In the above examples, if your feelings rema…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:08 AM
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I don't think people need to love themselves in order to be happy or to get into a relationship. They do need to not hate themselves, however. If you hate yourself, then that inevitably comes out when you're interacting with people, often in the form of deep insecurity. Needless to say, that has a huge impact on both your inner happiness and your ability to create and maintain healthy relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 04:26 AM
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Love should be conditional. Unconditional love is a bizarre concept. It's saying that someone can do anything, including engaging in heinous acts, and that your feelings for them wouldn't change.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 04:22 AM
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I think a lot of this is more city living vs. suburbia/rural living. I'm in the UK, and I live in a smallish town (population is around 25,000). I rarely see people like you describe. If I go into one of the nearby cities, then it's a different story. The cities near me are brimming with undergrad students. You can't walk down the street without almost getting taken out by a messenger bag. Obviously, younger students are more inclined to party, and all that comes with it. So I see more skimpy cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 01:31 AM
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That's fair. I wouldn't talk to a random person who's just minding their buisness either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:47 AM
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Unless it was of my friends or family members who decided to do this, it wouldn't bother me on a personal level. If it was someone I was close to, then I'd be pretty distraught that they no longer wanted anything to do with me, just because of my gender. But if a random man who I don't know chooses to avoid me, that then that doesn't negatively impact me. If we're talking more generally, then avoiding an entire subset of the population because you hold certain beliefs about them is somewhat prob…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 11:32 PM
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I like this answer. Suffering isn't a competition, and talking about who has it worse does nothing. We could argue whether someone with a broken leg has it worse than someone with a broken arm, but at the end of the day, they both need treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:46 PM
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Of course, I would believe the child I'd raised for 18+ years over some complete strangers I'd only known for 2 minutes. The only way I wouldn't is if this hypothetical son had a significant history of unprovoked aggression and lying about it. Even then, I still think my gut feeling would be to believe him. I'd be inclined to believe anyone that I love, even if all logic dictates that they're lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 10:55 PM
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I don't personally know of any man who has, at least not in the same way my mother did. Her rights were terminated, but my brother's father maintained his full rights. Where I'm at the law views both mother and father as equally responsible for the child, so if my mother was able to terminate her rights, then I'm sure a father would be able to under the same circumstances. I have known a couple that chose to give their baby up for adoption, but that's a bit different because they both relinquish…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 06:37 AM
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In some places, it is possible to terminate your parental rights, whether you're the mother or the father. My mother voluntarily terminated her parental rights of my half-brother, and so she never had to pay child support. Of course, she also had no rights to visitation, medical decisions, etc. In the eyes of the law, she was no longer his mother. The process isn't as easy as just handing a piece of paper to a judge and your rights being terminated. The best interests of the child will obviously…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 11:33 PM
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It's important to remember that no one lives their life in a vacuum. Our beliefs, desires, expectations, etc, are all shaped in part by the society that we live in. So, I would argue that no one ever truly does anything for themselves. When I get dressed up and I see myself in the mirror, I like what I see. Even if I was at home alone, I would still get some enjoyment from seeing myself looking good. But I also acknowledge that my idea of "looking good" is based on what society says looks good. …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 05:48 PM
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I'm British, and the only circumcised man I've been with is someone who had severe phimosis. Other than that, all my partners have been intact. Never had any issues with cleanliness because all of them have known how to wash. I'm against routine infant circumcision because I don't think we should perform any unnecessary procedure on a baby (I'm against piercing a baby's ears for the same reason). But male circumcision isn't the same as FGM. FGM involves either partial or total removal of the cli…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 09:28 PM
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I wouldn't think about having kids until I'm finished with my doctorate. If we followed your advice, my partner and I would have been together for 12 years before we'd have sex. Doesn't seem very realistic to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 09:41 AM
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I can top your man on meth with a guy on PCP. To make things extra interesting, they're usually naked. PCP makes you feel very hot, so users often end up taking all their clothes off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 04:57 AM
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I'll pose a scenario to you. Let's say me and you just so happen to be walking down the same street. There's no one else around and no one within earshot. Suddenly, you keel over, clutching your chest. You manage to get out that you think you're having a heart attack. I know CPR, and I also have a phone. I could help you, but I choose not to because you might be a rapist, or an abuser, or whatever other kind of bad person you can think of. I don't know you, but I'm going to walk away anyway. You…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 04:54 AM
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Non-fatal strangulation is one of the biggest risk factors for the abusive partner killing their victim. I can't remember the exact number off the top of my head, but there was a study that showed the risk of death increases by something like 700% if there's been previous strangulation. So you did the right thing by leaving. I'm glad you got free, and I hope that you've started to heal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 04:37 AM
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Sure. I trust my partner to be faithful to me, even if temptation is thrown at him. If I suspected that he would cheat on me in the right circumstances, I wouldn't be with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 04:14 AM
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For me personally, I wouldn't have a problem with it. I'm not an insecure person, so even if I found out that some of these prostitutes were objectively more attractive than me, or better in bed, it wouldn't overly bother me. My partner choosing to be with me now, and in the future, is what's important to me, not who he chose to be with in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:59 AM
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I personally haven't directly seen any comments about Margot Robbie, but I don't doubt that they're out there. It can be difficult to tell whether an outlandish comment is someone's genuine stance or if they're posting it as ragebait. Unfortunately, the more extreme a comment is, the more engagement it tends to get, which just encourages people to post even more extreme viewpoints. If I see a vile comment, then I will call it out. I call stuff out because I know that for every 1 person engaging …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:36 AM
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You're not saying women can't have it all. You're saying that women shouldn't have careers. And you've got to that conclusion by making some pretty big assumptions. I'm extremely passionate about my career. What I do isn't just a job to me. It's part of who I am. And not to sound big headed, but I'm clever. Frankly, it would be a waste if I didn't use that to benefit my field. Which, by the way, isn't anything to do with business. I would like children one day (although bio kids are probably off…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:30 PM
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I'm guessing it wasn't a proper debate, but more like one of those class activities to practice giving a persuasive argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:51 AM
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I like hiking. I envy that if my partner needs to pee, he can just unzip his fly, pull it out, and do what he needs to do. Whereas if I need the answer the call of nature, I have to pull down both my trousers and underwear, and try to aim so that I don't piss on my shoes. Very unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:41 AM
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Definitely. Criticism is often delivered in a way that is demeaning, but if it's delivered constructively, then it's actually a really positive thing. I think people are mostly used to receiving it in the latter way, and that's why they get defensive. It's a shame because without it, we can never really grow as people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:06 AM
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I'm curious, what do you mean by "let him be the man in the relationship," like what does that look like on a daily basis? In my relationship, my partner has outright said I'm more rational than he is. I'm also more methodical in my decision-making, whereas he's a bit more on the impulsive side. I wouldn't consider myself the "captain" of the relationship, but he does end up going with what I suggest a lot of the time. Does that mean I'm more of the man in the relationship? I was raised by just …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:59 AM
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I'm pretty sure it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:45 AM
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Mocking someone's trauma isn't cool. Stooping that low doesn't enhance your point, it detracts from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:38 AM
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Honestly, things like this are all about the delivery. Just last week, I noticed that my colleague didn't know how to use keyboard shortcuts, so they were highlighting text, right-clicking it, clicking copy, etc. I didn't say it like, "Look how stupid you are for not knowing this." I just kindly informed them of the keyboard shortcut, joked that I found it out by just pressing buttons and that it's a good job we're not working with nuclear reactors, and all was well. A one-off thing of taking a …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 11:45 PM
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This is the way. I'm actually the more logical one compared to my partner, so when we need to do something that requires a rational head, he takes a step back. Other stuff, though, I would absolutely defer to his knowledge and strengths. Like he has more knowledge about finances, so he'd take the lead on big financial decisions. We still make decisions jointly, but sometimes one of us will give more input.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 11:37 PM
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Except he clearly was speaking for himself, as shown by his use of "I" and not "we".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 11:24 PM
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You also can't go into the houses of Parliament if you're wearing armour. It's against the law. And whatever you do, don't do it while carrying a fish because that would look suspicious. It's illegal to handle a fish while looming suspicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 05:59 AM
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Obviously, I'm speaking only for myself, but when I say a man is selfish in bed, I don't mean that he didn't get me off. I mean that he did things that caused me physical pain. Like going straight for penetration before I'm ready and causing me to tear or going too deep/fast to the point that it causes pain in my cervix. For a while, in my mind, bad sex was sex that caused severe pain, and good sex was sex that only hurt a little bit. It wasn't until I met my current partner, and he took the tim…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:18 PM
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I'm sure some women are just saying that but for a lot it's true. Bigger dicks are a no go for me. I turned down a relationship with someone who was otherwise very nice, because he was too big and I knew we wouldn't be sexually compatible. When I say it hurts I'm not talking mildly uncomfortable. If my cervix is hit then it is agonising. It usually causes bleeding and moderate pain that lasts for several days. I know what causes it and there's no work around. So big dicks are out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 01:24 AM
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You're right that she's not literally alone, but functionally she's alone. She spends the majority of her day by herself. She's certainly not got the idyllic life of being surrounded and cared for by loads of family. My point is that having children doesn't guarantee that you'll never be alone. Those children can grow up and move to the other side of the world. They can be assholes who don't care for anyone other than themselves. Or sometimes, sadly, they can die before you. Your grandchildren c…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 01:44 AM
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Not nessecarily. I have a great grandmother who is alone because her children and grandchildren are all dead. I'm her last living relative and I live 300 miles away. She's alone aside from the carers who come in to give her food.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:13 AM
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I consider myself a feminist and I agree that many people are still focusing on upper middle class, white women. That's not a new thing though. The suffragettes were incredibly racist, and they used the subjugation of people of colour for their own benefit. There's a lot of talk about inclusivity which is great, but the action is still lagging. Especially when it comes to socioeconomic status. Poverty is by far the biggest disadvantage across the board, so that's where the focus should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 09:44 PM
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The one thing that springs to mind is health related. Even in this modern age women's physical pain is still dismissed. Women's health is only just starting to be taken seriously. I have endometriosis and I've experienced these problems first hand. Most people don't know what endometriosis is, even though it effects 1 in 10 women. It took me 7 years of going to the doctor before I got a diagnosis. I've been told by a male doctor that endometriosis doesn't hurt. I was offered the exact same treat…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 09:11 PM
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Yeah when I went to school I'd say it was closer to maybe 60% of girls. I never dated anyone and only 1 girl in my friend group (which was an average friend group) had a boyfriend. Although I suppose it depends on what you consider dating. I had a "boyfriend" when I was 12 and we held hands during assembly once. Then he broke with me the next day, because someone said they'd give him a FIFA card if he did. Not sure if that counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:35 PM
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Just because you don't hear it, doesn't mean it's not still a common occurance. I've never directly heard women engage in the kind of talk you're referring to, nor have I engaged in it myself, but I still acknowledge that it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:16 PM
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That is true (no pun intended) but you said that men have to be coached to lie, whereas for women it's instinctal. I was just pointing out that's not the case. If that was true then little boys wouldn't lie but if you've ever met a little boy or girl, then you'll know they can tell some real porkies. Unless you ask them how you look, in which case they'll have no qualms telling you you're ugly/old/etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 07:30 PM
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I hate to break it to you but we all lie by instinct. To the point that it's developmentally a concern if a 5 year old child never lies. We have to actively teach children not to lie. This is the same for boys and girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 06:50 PM
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The current situation of people having children later, if at all, is complex. There's a lot of aspects to it. The major one is obviously inflation and cost of living. For the average family it's simply not an option to have one income. If you want a semi decent standard of living then you need two incomes. To put things into perspective my parents bought their first house on the South East Coast of England (one of the most expensive areas of the country). My mother was a trainee dental nurse mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 08:25 PM
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Okay, but why shouldn't you expect help? Why don't you deserve to be saved if someone is able to save you? I'm struggling to see what's so radical about the idea of expecting that we have a basic duty to our fellow humans. The whole reason we've been able to advance so much as a species is because we work together. If it wasn't for collaboration and helping each other out, you and I wouldn't be having this conversation right now. None of the advances that we have today would exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 08:34 AM
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I'm confused, the only time I mentioned men was to say that men shouldn't be expected to risk their lives. After that I just used the catch all term "people", as in all of us. In my view it is immoral to do nothing at all when you see someone in difficulty. The vast majority of us have our phone's on us at all times. It costs absolutely nothing to call 999/911. I'm sure if you were the one having a heart attack, that you'd hope some passerby would at least call emergency services, not just step …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 07:56 AM
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I don't think there are many people who genuinely believe that a random man should sacrifice himself for a stranger. Of course you'll always have people who have somewhat extremist views but I don't believe they make up the majority. That being said, I do think this whole "I owe people nothing" mindset is problematic. No one should put their life on the line but that doesn't mean the only other option is to turn a blind eye. I firmly believe that as members of society if we see someone in diffic…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:12 AM
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Just wait until I make a post complaining about your post talking about why multiple posts on this topic are necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:01 AM
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Absolutely. If you accuse someone of cheating, even if you don't say the words "I think you're cheating", then don't be surprised if the relationship ends. Wanting to look through someone's phone so they can prove they aren't cheating is an accusation. I've been with my partner for 8 years and we've never looked through each other's devices. Never felt the need to. If either of us felt like we needed to look through phones then the relationship would probably be over. That means that the trust i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:15 PM
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How do you know that I wouldn't sacrifice myself for my partner? Do you think there's never been a woman in the history of mankind who hasn't died in place of the man she loves? I am curious about one thing though, what is it that you think makes woman incapable of true love for anyone other than her children? Is this a biological difference, such as structural differences in the amygdala or VTA? Or is it a learned behaviour?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 09:09 PM
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I would say no but not for the reason you probably think. I'm an only child. I know my death would absolutely destroy my mother and probably would have broken my father as well. Me willingly putting them through that would be one of the most selfish things I could do. I'd rather live with the pain of grief than make them live with it. I do think it's bold of you to assume I haven't sacrificed for the ones I love. I haven't sacrificed my life but neither have you, since you're currently commentin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 08:32 PM
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Are you saying women aren't capable of loving their partner, mother, father, siblings, or friends? If that's the case then would you be able to explain why a year after my father's passing, I still cry almost every day? If I'm not capable of loving anyone other than my child then I shouldn't be able to feel grief, as grief is just love with nowhere to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 08:08 PM
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First of all I'm a woman who loves video games. I've got a high end gaming PC, PS5, Steam Deck, and Switch, so it's safe to say it's my main hobby. I'm also friends with lots of other women who game. I'm not sure where this idea that women don't game came from because just under 50% of gamers are women. Granted that is across all games, not just competitive shooters, but it still clearly shows that women enjoy games. As for the second part of your question, I would disagree that the average wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 05:50 AM
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I think so. I've had plenty of male friends. My best friend is a man. I value his friendship immensely. My partner has some female colleagues that he goes out with sometimes, I don't have a problem with that. Friends with ex's I think would depend on other factors. If my partner had a kid with an ex then I would hope he'd be friends with said ex, for the sake of the child. Or if the ending of the relationship was a mutual decision then I think being friends with an ex would be okay. If there are…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 10:02 PM
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Oh definitely the accuser should be on the hook. Realistically though there still needs to be a taxpayer funded compensation fund. If the accuser has no assets and only has $1,000 in their bank account, then the wrongfully accused is only going to get $1,000. And if we send the accused to prison then they're not going to have the chance to make any more money, so that'll probably be all they ever get. With a taxpayer funded scheme we can make sure that innocent people get the compensation they d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 03:42 AM
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I don't think there's any other kind of compensation beyond money. They should definitely be given money. As for the accuser, if it can be proved beyond a reasonable doubt that they knowingly and willingly lied then they should face legal consequences. That should include giving monetary compensation. I don't think it would possible to give the wrongfully accused a "blank check", just because no one has an infinite amount of money. A court could say you owe me $1,000,000 but if you don't have $1…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:20 AM
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I'm only speaking for myself here but it's very hard (no pun intended) to give a bj if I'm not into it. If I'm into it it's like I can mentally override my gag reflex. If I'm not then that doesn't happen and at best it's uncomfortable, at worst my partner ends up with stomach acid over his dick (and let me tell you, that stuff burns). Hand jobs are certainly an option. I used to give my ex hand jobs when I wasn't in the mood. It did get tedious when he'd ask for them several times a day but I wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 05:15 PM
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The problem is that for a lot of women, not being in the mood doesn't just mean that sex is less pleasurable, it can be physically painful. A few years ago I was on a medication that put me into a chemical menopause. It tanked my sex drive and also made it so that even if I was mentally into it, my body wouldn't get the memo. The times when we tried when I was "neutral" (as you put it) hurt me. Of course I want to make my partner feel good but his pleasure isn't as important as me not being in p…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 12:55 AM
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I'm struggling to see what you're arguing here. Are you arguing that women shouldn't be cautious when they're out drinking? If you leave your door unlocked then it's unlikely that someone will come and steal your stuff, but no one would say locking your door makes you paranoid. As a side note everyone should be cautious when they're out drinking. Men can have their drinks spiked just as easily as women. Don't leave your drink unattended and don't accept a drink from a stranger when you didn't se…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 09:30 PM
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I don't get it either. If I find a man appealing then finding out he's bi doesn't suddenly make him unappealing to me. The fact that he also finds men attractive is a non-issue. So long as he's into me and I'm into him then we're all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 03:00 AM
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Sure I would. I think a lot of people assume that if a person is bisexuality they'll be more likely to cheat. I've never really understood that because being bi means that you're attracted to both men and women, not that you want to be in a relationship with a man and a woman at the same time. In my experience people who are bisexual generally have the same expectations of monogamy as anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:54 AM
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Nobody is entitled to basic decency and safety? Answer me this: why do we have laws then? It is against the law to steal someone's car, or beat them up, or murder them. If nobody is entitled to safety and decency then why bother with laws?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 08:01 PM
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But unless the prosecutor is knowingly falsifying evidence, they haven't made a mistake. They're presenting the facts that are believed to be true at the time. If new evidence comes up later that points to those facts not being true, that's not the prosecutors fault. The same way if someone is found not guilty then new evidence comes up that suggests that's not the case, we don't say the original defence lawyer to be at fault. As they were just presenting the facts that they had at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 03:54 PM
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Do the jury have to go to jail too? Since they're ultimately the ones who decide whether someone is guilty, not the prosecutor.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 03:49 PM
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I see. And do you go to jail if you do something at work, thinking that it's right, and it later turns out to be wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 03:24 PM
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Why on earth would the police and prosectors be punished? Unless they were willingly and knowingly falsifying evidence, then they'd just be doing their jobs. If someone was deemed innocent then later found to be guilty we don't send the defence attorney to prison.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 05:57 AM
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I disagree that women are not entitled to respect, but I suppose that depends on what your definition of respect is. For me respect means treating people with a basic degree of decency. I don't believe that is something that has to be earned. We are all entitled to being treated with basic respect. I'd also argue that women (and men) are entitled to not be harmed by others. As a woman I should be entitled to walk down the street and not be sexually harassed by drunk men. Men should be entitled t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 09:41 PM
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I'm not saying they're not a good option, but surely you can understand why lots of women aren't comfortable with the idea of having one? If you can understand why someone wouldn't want the implant in their arm then I'm struggling to see how you don't understand why they wouldn't want an IUD? Getting an IUD placed is much more invasive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 01:54 AM
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Why is the IUD thing baffling? For many women t's an incredibly painful procedure to have it inserted. It also doesn't always make your periods lighter. For a lot of women it does the opposite. They can also makes cramps worse. There's a risk that it imbeds in the uterus. I have an IUD but it took me a long time to feel comfortable with the idea. I had the Nexaplon implant before that and I spent 18 months begging for it to be removed, because I bled constantly. Eventually I had to threaten to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 01:48 AM
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I agree that sex is important to most people, myself included, but love is more than just sexual attraction. If my partner had an accident or illness that meant he lost his penis, and was physically unable to have sex, I wouldn't leave him. That's because I love him. Also, in long term relationships it's completely normal for sex drives to ebb and flow. Yes stress and kids can cause people's sex drives to drop. Major life events such a bereavement can also cause lower libido. I had a major berea…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 01:35 AM
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Maybe it's just where you live. I was raised on the south coast of England but I moved up to the North East when I was 18. Nearly everyone smiles and says hello when you pass them. That's just not the done thing down south. I've been here for almost 10 years and I can just about manage to give a neutral grunt and a smile/grimace back. Feels unnatural.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 02:25 AM
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My ex was definitely insecure about the fact that I had much higher career aspirations than him. It didn't bother me that he wasn't super ambitious in his career. His insecurity did ultimately lead to him to try and stifle me, which became a problem. I don't have a problem with a man not having a high-flying career. I do have a problem when someone thinks that because they don't, I shouldn't be allowed one either. We all have insecurities. Issues arise when instead of working through them in a h…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 02:21 AM
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I can understand not agreeing with the universal aspect. Personally I think all adults should be able to vote, but I can see where you're coming from. Do you think that unemployed men who haven't been in the military also shouldn't be able to vote? And with the non-parent thing, would that just be people who are child-free by choice? I'm not able to have children, even though I would like to. It would feel quite unfair if I, a tax payer, was barred from voting because I turned out to be infertil…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 01:15 AM
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As a woman, who knows lots of women, I can't say any of them believe that women shouldn't vote. I definitely believe women should vote. I work, I pay my taxes, I should get a say in how the government is run. I will agree that there's still a lot of women who would like to have a man who's rich enough that they don't have to work. Not the majority though. If that was the case then women wouldn't bother pursing careers that take a lot of time, effort, and money to achieve.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 01:04 AM
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I'm curious. Since your wife is red pilled, and I'm guessing shares your views on feminism in general does she refuse to vote?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 01:01 AM
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I'm in the UK and it's quite unusual to find a man under the age of 60 who's circumcised. I've known a couple of men who've had it done for medical reasons (phimosis usually) but none that had it done as infants as a routine thing. It's not a procedure that is available on the NHS, unless there's a valid medical reason. I don't agree with routine circumcision. We shouldn't be performing and permenent procedures on babies unless it's medically nessecary. That's also why I don't agree with piercin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 05:05 PM
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That is true. Being spineless as a vertebrate is a significant medical emergency.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 03:10 PM
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You do know that almost 50% of all doctors are female right (at least in my country)? Of course there's still more female nurses than female doctors, because there's a greater number of nurses than doctors. For every 1 doctor there's probably 10 nurses.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 11:38 PM
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I got my results for my most recent uni module and I got a distinction (A+ for my American friends). My dad passed away suddenly just a few weeks before the academic year started, so I've had a lot of shit to deal with this year. I'm pleased with myself but also sad that I can't tell my dad. I hope he'd be proud of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 02:23 AM
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Thank you for clarifying. Two follow up questions: 1. Do you feel that it's impossible for a woman to be socialist? 2. Do you think it's women who are primarily upholding and maintaining our capitalist society?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:12 AM
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I'm confused by this comment. Do men not also support capitalism?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 03:40 AM
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It would be unlikely that cheating would be enough to terminate parental rights, especially not if the man wasn't willing to continue his parental responsibility. Realistically, being raised by a mother who cheats is much better for the child than being placed in foster care.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 10:59 PM
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You okay dude? That seems like an awfully angry and bitter statement to make. I'll make the same offer to you as I do other people: my inbox is open if you want to talk. Not to demean or insult me, but if you wanna let that anger out by talking about it, then shoot me a message. I can't promise I'll respond immediately because obviously Reddit isn't a top priority, but I won't ignore you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:33 PM
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I couldn't imagine doing it either. The anger that a man would feel in this situation is 100% justifiable. It's even valid if they need a bit of time and space to process things. That doesn't mean that it's morally okay to cause harm to that child by completely cutting contact with them. From the child's perspective their father just up and left them. No 10 year old is going to say "yes not-my-father, I completely understand why you want nothing to do with me. Go and be free of me". They'll cry …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:27 PM
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Switching the love the love you have for a child, who has done you no wrong and gives you the unconditional love that frankly only a child can give, instantly, purely because you find out they don't share the same genes as you is something I struggle to understand. I can understand having anger towards the mother. I can understand needing some time and space to process. Walking away completely, I can't understand. Maybe my motivations for having children would be different than others. For me pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:09 PM
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I get what you're saying but the comparison falls very flat. A man could unknowingly raise a child that isn't biologically his for years and years, he could build an incredibly strong bond over that time. You don't unknowingly give birth. Also, I haven't seen anyone say that if the guy finds out when the baby is 2 weeks old that he's not the father, that he's wrong for walking away. At that stage no attachments have been formed. The baby wouldn't even remember the guy. If we're talking about an …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:02 PM
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I don't think maybe people believe that a man should have to pay for a kid that isn't his. I think lots of people are confused about how someone could love a child for years and years, then turn that love off the instant they find out that the child isn't biologically theirs. Of course they have every right to be angry, and I don't think they should be forced to stay in that child's life. It does make me think the love they felt for that child was very shallow though, if it can be turned off so …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:47 PM
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I don't think anyone should be forced to be a parent. I do however find it odd that someone can claim they have strong parental love for a child, raise them for 10+ years, and be on the receiving end of that child's love, then drop them like a hot potato. Maybe I'm just a person who feels love very deeply but I can't imagine just switching my love off like that. I couldn't imagine seeing the child I raised for years, crying for me, and still walking away.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:44 PM
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All of my step dad's biological children turned on him when he left their mother (she cheated, which is why he left). I've been loyal to him since he married my mother. I don't call him by his first name, I call him Mod/Moddy which stands for My Other Dad. He provided a lot for me when I was a teenager but in return I've loved him like a father. When he got prostate cancer his children didn't even bother to call, but I helped look after him. Even if him and my mother divorced I would still love …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:38 PM
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Suppose we add more to the scenario then. Say the man you believed to be your biological father became ill. You take time away from work to be his carer, perhaps you pay for his medical care if needed. You'd lose quite a bit financially plus the time sink that is caring for a loved one. Then after all that you find out he isn't your biological father. Would you stop loving him? Bear in mind you've given up time and money, and that's not something you'd do for anyone other than close family.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:18 AM
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I'm curious, what if your biological children treated you like crap and the non-bio kid was the only one that was loyal? Would you still leave the bio ones more or cut the non-bio one out of the will? My step dad has 4 biological sons and they all turned on him when his marriage to their mother ended. I've always been very loyal to him though, I consider him as much of my dad as my late biological father. My step dad has put in his will that I'm to get the vast majority of his estate (he doesn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:04 AM
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I'm sorry your grandfather did that. I honestly can't understand loving someone as your child/grandchild for years and years, then turning that love off the second you realise you're not biologically related. If someone can do that then that makes me think the love they felt was very shallow in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 11:38 PM
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Please explain to me how a man who feeds a child, changes them, tucks them into bed, scares away the monsters, teaches them to ride a bike, and goes by "dad" isn't said child's dad?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 08:45 PM
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The only time the above scenario ever really happens is if it's only found out the guy isn't the biological dad when the child is much older. If a man has been raising a child for 10+ years, he's on the birth certificate as the father, and the child views him as their dad, then in all ways except biologically he is that child's father. I don't think anyone should be forced to be a parent, but I do find it odd that some people can turn their love off so quickly. I don't really understand how some…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:00 PM
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Do you have some sources that show men experience a higher peak in their neurotransmitters compared to women? I'd be interested to see them because everything I've read has said the only main difference is that women's orgasms last longer than men's.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 03:07 AM
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I am a sucker for a good pamphlet. I have a draw full of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 05:47 PM
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My end game is to share my life with someone I love and who loves me. I don't consider myself to be blue pill or red pill because I think both of those stances are divisive, and the last thing we need in the world is even more "us vs them". I do find the whole concept interesting though, hence why I'm here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:42 AM
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It would have to be kindness. I think it's important to mention that shouldn't be confused with passiveness. A lot of people conflate being kind with being spineless, when that's not the case. You can be kind and also be assertive. My partner is very kind. He's the type of guy that will see someone crying on a park bench and he will stop and ask if they are alright. If someone is in need and he has the ability to help them in some way, he will. He's also obviously very kind to me. He's still ass…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 08:38 PM
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Do you not think that this mindset might be a little bit of a self-fufilling prophecy though? Not many mentally and emotionally mature people will put up with the above for very long. In my relationship I expect for there to be times when I'm giving more support, but I won't be someone's emotional punching bag. If my partner is going though a difficult time then of course I will be there for him, but I would also expect that he help himself. I wouldn't give "chances upon chances" to him while he…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 04:40 AM
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The term "red flag" has been used so much that it's meaning has changed. It's supposed to refer to the early warning signs that a person shows that suggests they might be dangerous, or harmful. It's kinda strayed into being more about preferences now. If we're using the true meaning of red flag then the only thing I can think of is someone who has a truly abborhent view of others. I'm thinking of the incels who call women toilets and think it should be okay to rape and murder women. Or the women…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 03:23 AM
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Men want (in general) the same thing that women want (in general) in a relationship: someone who will love them. There's lots of talk about how men want a house maid they can fuck and women want a personal ATM, but I don't think that's true for the majority. At least not in my experience, both personally and professionally. My other one is that men's mental health is taken seriously, at least it is now. I work for a very large mental health service and men's mental health is something we focus o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:30 AM
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Confidence and assertiveness are good things. Arrogance and aggression are not. A confident person doesn't need constant reassurance, which can get tiring. They also don't walk around with an ego that's so inflated they think the sun shines out of their arse. An assertive person clearly and calmly communicates their needs and wants, while leaving room for compromise. An agressive person is more "it's my way or the highway". A passive-agressive person doesn't communicate their needs at all but th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 06:11 PM
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Obviously I don't know for sure because I can't read my partner's mind but I think he'd probably answer no to your...proposal. Not because he thinks I'd fail, he just wouldn't see the point in it. We've been together 8 years and we've never even looked through each other's phones. We're both of the opinion that if we ever get the point where we feel the need to test each other's loyalty, then there are bigger problems in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 05:51 PM
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My beliefs? Have you done any research on domestic abuse at all before coming to your conclusions? Because what I wrote isn't my "belief" it's what happens. I don't disagree that there are women out there who will leave a man for a stupid reason. Just the same as there are men who will leave a woman for stupid or superficial reasons. I disagree that what abuse victims are doing is forgiveness, because it isn't. On that basis your whole argument falls apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 07:22 PM
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First of all, I don't think you completely understand what domestic abuse is. Otherwise you wouldn't be making this comparison. Ignorance is understandable when it comes to this topic because what you see on the outside (physical abuse) is just the tip of the ice burg. I've worked with domestic abuse victims, both men and women, so this is a topic I'm very comfortable talking about. I think the best way to understand domestic abuse is to consider this scenario: You meet someone and to start off …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 06:55 AM
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If he liked video games too much. My reasoning for this is entirely selfish. We only have one TV and I want to use it to play games. If my partner liked gaming too then we'd have to share. I don't want to share my gaming time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 08:23 PM
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Of course some men go for women with low self-esteem, and vice versa. Sometimes it's a result of their own low self worth. If your self-worth is in the toilet then being with someone who has good self-esteem can be very intimidating. So on an unconscious level people with low self-worth may seek out someone like themselves. There is a darker reason as well. Some people pursue those with low self-esteem because they're easier to control. There are certain people in this world who can sniff out vu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:23 PM
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I feel like some of this advice isn't terrible. It's certainly not unreasonable to want to split the cost of dates. I don't even think that wanted to have sex quickly is wrong. I do think that the way you present all this is quite aggressive. It's been a hot minute since I was on the dating scene but when I was, I didn't have a problem paying for dates (in fact I'd prefer it that way). However, if a guy approached that conversation as "I demand that you pay your portion that way you can't screw …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 01:50 AM
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100% agree. I hate my cervix being even just lightly touched. It hurts and it makes me bleed (yay for endometriosis). If the cervix being pounded was enjoyable for the majority of women, then procedures such as a pap smear and colposcopy wouldn't be nearly as uncomfortable as they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:53 PM
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I agree that the purpose of some (not all but some) of these kinds of videos is to be sexual. I disagree that they're geared towards minor audiences. You said yourself that the sexually charged ones have links to their OF's. Who do you think spends money on that kind of content, minors or adults?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 07:01 AM
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It's enjoyable because it makes my partner feel good, it's a simple as that. I don't find it enjoyable in the same way that I find my hobbies enjoyable. If I'm home alone I'm not going to start shoving whole cucumbers coved in salty yoghurt down my throat, to try and recreate the experience. Lots of men do enjoy going down on their partner for same reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 05:54 AM
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As a therapist who practises using predominantly humanistic and systemic approaches, I could probably write you a whole damn essay on this. To keep it brief though, you a right that a lack of human connection can cause feelings of deep unhappiness. You're also right that no amount of therapy will ever remove that desire for connection, because it's hard wired into us. However, that doesn't mean that you should assume getting into a relationship will magically solve the majority of your problems.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 10:24 PM
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I don't have kids but I'd probably say stay at home parent. As an employee I get a lot of benefits that a stay at home parent doesn't. I get 28 days paid holiday every year, paid sick leave, private health insurance (I'm in the UK so this a great perk), and my employer also pays into my pension. Stay at home parents don't get any of that. The biggest plus in my eyes is that I could leave my current job and get a different one if I wanted. If I'm not happy or I find something better, then I simpl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 12:25 AM
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No. My career isn't just a source of income for me, it's actually quite a big part of who I am (hence the reason why my job is in my username). I love my work. I find it fulfilling on multiple levels. I'd be devastated if I had to give it up completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 09:45 AM
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In my (Western) view a traditional woman would be someone who's primary role is in the home. The man goes out to work to financially provide for the family, and the woman stays home to look after said family. When the kids get older she might have a part time job during school hours to bring some extra money in. I don't think there's anything wrong with the above scenario. For some people that's what they're happy with and that's fine. I think it's harder nowadays to achieve a decent standard of…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 09:39 AM
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When people talk about "daddy issues" what they're actually talking about is insecure attachment styles due to childhood experiences, which is something that men can also get. If someone views their childhood and parents as incredibly idyllic then that could potentially be a sign of an insecure attachment style, although their would be other signs as well. Your partner saying "oh my dad would be able to fix that" doesn't mean she has "daddy issues". We all make comparisons. It's human nature. If…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:42 PM
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I'd probably go with the guy with no past relationships. So long as they have good communication then any lack of experience (sexual or otherwise) can be worked through. Age would play a bit of a role. If someone is 45 and has never had a relationship then I would wonder why. Was it their choice? Circumstance? It wouldn't automatically put me off but I'd need to know more before I committed to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:21 PM
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You say you have empirical data but you've not said how you went about gathing this. What was your method? Did you consider the confounding variables? Have you thought about your own bias when you were gathering this evidence? How can you show that your data, which goes against the majority of current research, is both reliable and valid? I don't think you'll be able to give any decent answers to this because what you've presented as fact, is actually your opinion. You're entitled to that of cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 10:16 AM
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I know you meant to put lover and not liver, but that typo made me chuckle. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 02:49 AM
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Personally I have no problem if my partner watches porn. So long as he wasn't forgoing sex with me to watch porn, or directly interacting with a cam girl, I wouldn't be upset. For me it's not a big deal. He doesn't care if I watch it either. I can see why it is a boundary for some people though. Watching porn involves looking at someone else's naked body and engaging in a sexual act while doing so. Some people feel that sexual acts should never involve anyone else other than their partner. That …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:24 AM
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As others have said, both options are terrible examples of how you should approach the conversation. The first one comes off as over the top and insincere. The second one is just plain dismissive. It is true that the girl in the second one may text back more, but that's not because she's getting "tingles" over his one word responses. She's probably thinking "maybe this guy is just dumb and doesn't know I want reassurance, so I'll make it more obvious for him. To be fair, with things like this th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 09:54 PM
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I'm glad that your experience with an older woman was a positive one, but it would be silly to deny that age gap relationships come with added complexities. There isn't just a risk to the younger person either, but the older person to. People can change a lot between the ages of 16-25. For example my partner knew someone who was with a girl that was 11 years younger than them. The girl was 19 and he was 30. The relationship itself was fine but then he reached a point in his life where he really …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 09:58 AM
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I never mentioned women, I mentioned young people. The same goes for a younger man with an older woman. Or whatever configuration of genders you want to use. A young man who's experienced trauma is going to be more vulnerable in certain ways, compared to a young man who hasn't. I agree that people get more upset when it's a younger woman with an older man. I would argue that comes down to an societal undercurrent that still views women as childlike, or less capable. This means that people will c…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:53 AM
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I'm in an age gap relationship but I'm the first to say that these kinds of relationships are often unhealthy. I was already an adult when I met my partner, and as I seem to be have been born at 25 and get closer to middle aged every day, it's worked out quite well. I was already training to become a therapist when I met him so I had some experience of the world. We've also never been horrendously unequal in terms of finances. Of course he earns more than me (but I have more assets), but it's no…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 05:49 AM
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I'm in the UK and as far as I'm aware, I don't get any extra government support just for being a woman. When I was between jobs I got the same amount of benefits as a man would have. My tax rate isn't lower. If I was to become homeless I would be considered the same priority as a single man of my age (aka, right down at the bottom). My dad was a single dad for a while. He got exactly the same level of government support as a single mother. On a societal level I'd day he actually got more support…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:25 PM
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I'm not sure if saying that "domesticated" women find shoping for food to be super enjoyable, and their main hobby (since you initially compared women grocery shopping to men playing video games), is a positive thing. All that means is that they probably have so little in their life that shopping for bread is the highlight of their week. I know a lot of women, the oldest of which is 99. Many of these women are or were housewives. At best they were fairly neutral towards grocery shopping. If it w…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:08 PM
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This is a silly comment. Do you honestly think women consider grocery shopping to be an enjoyable hobby? I don't know a single woman, myself included, who thinks that shopping for food and toilet paper is a leisure activity. Shopping for things like new furniture, clothes, etc? Maybe, but most people aren't doing that kind of shopping multiple times a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 07:15 PM
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First of all, the woman is wrong for exploiting someone who is clearly struggling. Unfortunately the world is full of people who will do all kinds of shamless things to make a quick buck. The exploitation part isn't up for debate but your statement about this being about his libido is. Lots of people have a high sex drive. Most people don't spend $60,000 on a cam girl though. The fact that this behaviour is out of the norm shows that there's something much deeper going on that someone just being…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:33 AM
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I can understand how it would be hurtful to be treated with caution and mistrust just because you're a man. However I will still always advocate for anyone proceeding with causation whenever they're meeting someone they don't know. Unfortunately you cannot tell whether someone has good intentions just from chatting with them online. This doesn't just go for women being cautious around men they don't know but vice versa. When I was on the dating scene I had a guy get extremely offended when I sai…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:22 AM
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PCOS isn't generally associated with severe period pains, although it can happen. The pain with PCOS usually comes from the cysts on the ovaries rupturing (hence the name Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome). Endometriosis is the one that can make you want to off yourself because the pain hurts worse than a broken bone (I can attest to that because I've experienced both). Both are treated with long term birth control, although endometriosis nearly always needs abdominal surgery to properly manage it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 04:20 AM
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I read the second paragraph. It still read as extremely bitter and angry. My point still stands, a genuinely nice person probably wouldn't write a post like this in the first place. I'm not saying OP is a bad person. They're most likely a fairly average person in terms of niceness. Which means that they, at times, feel as those they are owed something for their kindness.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:52 AM
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Probably not. Court battles could still happen and I can give 2 examples. Example one is that in many countries, the surrogate is put on the birth certificate as the mother/birth parent. Even if you go through an agency, have a signed agreement, etc she will still, automatically, be put on the birth certificate. You would then have to go through the steps to have her parental rights removed. At any point during this process she could turn around a say that she wants to keep the baby. If the baby…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:50 AM
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If you look down on women, view them as objects for your sexual pleasure, or feel that you are owed sex or a relationship simply for being nice, then I to break it to you but you're really not as nice as you think you are. Genuinely kind men don't get pissed off when they're nice to a woman and they don't get sex out of it. In all honesty this post sounds as though you're very bitter and kind of shows my above point. You feel as though you're genuinely nice to women but they haven't repaid your …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:24 AM
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I call my partner partner because we're not married, but we've also been together a long time. Personally I consider boyfriend/girlfriend to be a term for when you haven't been with someone that long. I also use significant other and other half. Ultimately though who cares what label people put on their relationship. They could call themselves mutually affection chickens, it would be a bit weird but it's not hurting anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:19 PM
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I'm a woman and my partner earns slightly more than me. However in about 3 months I'll have significantly more assets than him due to the fact that I'm the sole inheriter of my late father's estate (just got to wait for probate to be granted. Make a will folks, it'll make things so much quicker for your loved ones when you shuffle off this mortal coil). We're not talking millions but we are talking the kind of money that would probably take us 15+ years to earn. It hasn't changed our dynamic, at…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 03:02 AM
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Some people use "it's how I was raised" as an excuse to not grow or move forward. Obviously your childhood does have a huge impact on what kind of adult you are, but that doesn't mean we're slaves to our upbringing. I feel like this is especially true in this day and age. It's not like we're living in a time where you would live in your small community and the only real influence you'd have would be your family. We're lucky enough that we live in a time where we can easily expose ourselves to di…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 02:31 AM
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I suppose on a purely physical level a woman might be at more risk of bodily harm from a male attacker. That is not the same as sexual being "no big deal" for men. The harm from sexual assault isn't just physical, there's a huge mental component to it as well. Knowing that someone forced you to do something that is normally very private and intimate can really mess you up. Whether you're a man or a woman, being forced to do something sexual can be devastating. This is especially true if the vict…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 10:15 PM
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Your date comparison was a bit silly. When I went on a first date with my partner we went to a public place, because we were both strangers to each other. I didn't know him and he didn't know me, so it was smart to meet in a public place. Now I've been with him for 7 years, I'm more than happy to be completely alone with him. Asking for a paternity test after years of a happy relationship, would be more akin to me suddenly saying I will only meet my partner in public. Even though he's never show…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 09:26 AM
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And the children who are used in pornoghraphy or sold to pedos, are they also people who don't want to deal with the consequences of their actions? Sex trafficking might not be as common place as some media outlets make it out to be, but it's still a very real thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 12:07 AM
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I think a lot of it comes down to how societies view on sucess differs for men and women. For men success is very much money and career oriented. For women it's more geared towards family and relationships. A woman could never work but be a housewife or stay at home mother, and society would still probably deem her to be successful in life. Whereas I don't think men in that exact situation would be viewed the same. A man who is a stay at home dad will most likely be viewed as less successful tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 10:03 PM
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I've been feeling especially close with my partner recently. My father decided to shuffle off this mortal coil last month, at the ripe old age of 52, and my partner has been a great support. He came with me to see my dad's body, because I've never done that before and I was scared. At the funeral he cried a bit. I felt very close with him in that moment. I know a lot of people in this sub would think that I'd lose respect for him or dump him because he cried, but I love him even more for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 10:38 PM
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So what you're basically is that all men see women as something to have sex with, rather than as individuals who can enrich their lives in a multitude of ways that aren't sexual? I don't think I agree with that. I personally have quite a high view of men, and that they are fully capable of seeing women as more than something to fuck. I don't really understand your army reference. I have a very good male friend, who I met about 6 years ago (after I'd already been with my partner for 2 years). Am …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 02:30 AM
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I like it when my partner gets me gifts, but only if they're small ones. I would feel uncomfortable if he got me a random expensive gift. It's more the thought behind the gift than the gift itself that matters to me. Little things like that let's me know that he keeps me in mind. The best gift he got me was a Lego Harry Potter sticker book. He knows how much I love Harry Potter and when he saw them in the shop, he got them for me. The worst gift he got me was the Lego Harry Potter sticker book, …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:45 AM
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There's a picture of a woman from Russia, who's posing rather suggestively with a banana, and she looks exactly like me. She looks so much like me that when my friend sent me the picture and asked if it was me, I thought for a second that it might have been. It's definitely not me because not only have I never been to Russia, I'm also deathly allergic to bananas. If someone ran my photos through one of those sites then this mysterious Russian banana lady would pop up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:34 PM
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I would have the same concerns about the social media influencers. It's an unstable career and stability is important to me. I also wouldn't date a therapist because I'm a therapist. For some reason I've never liked the idea of dating someone who's in the same profession as me. My partner is a software developer so his skill set is very different to mine. I like that because a lot of his weaknesses are my strengths and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 07:35 AM
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But how would you know which is which just from looking at them? Can you honestly say you know the story of all the single mother's you've considered disgusting creatures?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:34 AM
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Imagine shitting on the parent who stayed to raise their kid, rather than the one who decided to be a deadbeat. Do you think that women reproduce alone? Also, what about widows? Are they disgusting too?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:25 AM
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As someone else said, people often only attend couples counselling as a last ditch attempt to save the relationship. By which point the resentment is already too deep to make the relationship salvageable. If problems are identified early, before resentment has time to fester, then couples counselling can work really well. The organisation I work for provides couples counselling. I don't do the actual sessions but I'm the one who assesses clients to determine if they're suitable. Couples that see…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:11 AM
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That's one of the most impressive leaps of logic I've ever seen. And they say that women are the illogical ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 10:48 PM
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I don't know for sure but I'm fairly certain that my step father isn't humiliated. He already had children before he got with my mum, but for various reasons he's not close with his sons. I know he values my presence in his life and vice versa. He loves me a lot and considers me his daughter. I feel honoured that he views me as such. No one should feel pressured to become a step-parent. It's not easy to have a blended family. It takes effort and communication on everyone's part. To say that it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:53 PM
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I guess you missed the part where I said I'm infertile? The only way I'll be having a family is if I adopt, and as a 27 year old just at the beginning of their career, I don't yet meet all of the stringent requirements to adopt or foster. Make stop and think that you have no idea what someone is going through, before you tell them that they'll be miserable without a family and that they should go and make one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 03:09 PM
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Having kids doesn't automatically mean that you won't be lonely. Children grow up, they have their own lives with no guarantee that you'll feature heavily in that. People shouldn't have children just because they're scared of being alone. That can place an undue burden on the child. I'm sure there are plenty of people who regret not having children, just like there's people who regret having them. Personally I'd say that regretting not having kids is better. That only hurts me. The alternative h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:52 AM
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I would disagree with this. I work in mental health and speak to just as many male clients who struggle with self-esteem, social anxiety, etc, as I do female clients. Men and women might care about different things. Women are perhaps more inclined to worry about how others perceive their physical body, whereas men might be more worried about being perceived as vulnerable or weak. All of that is kinda beside the point though, as I struggle to see how caring about what others think equals "mental …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:46 AM
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Couples counselling is still a very popular thing you know. The organisation I work for provides couples counselling. Every week I do multiple clinical assessments for couples that would like to engage in counselling. There are people who walk away from their relationship at the first sign of trouble, but there are still plenty who try to make it work. I feel it's also important to note, I'd say that around 80% of the time it's the woman who first reaches to us to get couples counselling. Grante…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:17 AM
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Without a doubt, option A. For one him sleeping with "dumb hoes in the club" might put me at risk for STIs. Even if I knew with absolute certainty that he'd use a condom every time, condoms aren't 100% effective even with perfect use. The double standard wouldn't be okay with me either. So he's allowed to have all the benefits of a long term relationship while also getting to have the excitement of casual relationships, but the same rule doesn't apply to me? Even though I wouldn't be interested …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:00 AM
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People didn't get divorced but that doesn't mean they were happy, or even that the relationship was working. In days gone by, many spouses would have just about tolerated each other. They didn't get divorced because it wasn't an option, and they didn't talk about their difficulties because it wasn't the done thing. If marriage 1.0 was so wonderful, then there wouldn't have been such a big push for divorce to become more accessible. It changed for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:39 AM
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And? That's my choice to make (although in my case it technically wasn't, I'm infertile). There's lots of reasons why someone might not have children, most of which don't make them a bad person.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 06:48 PM
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TIL that I'm a bad woman because I'm not submissive to men, I don't have children, and I've put a lot of focus into my career. I guess, never mind that my career is about helping people and I've talked numerous people off bridges. None of that matters, since I haven't popped out a baby and I don't defer to the men in my life. Your post seems incredibly angry and not particularly logical. I don't think you're at all open to having your point of view challenged, but instead wanted have an emotiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:33 AM
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The attention that you get from creeps is very different from the attention that you get from a respectful dude. The attention from creeps isn't enjoyable at all, it's scary. Being looked at like you're a piece of meat is intimidating because you're not sure how far that person might go. There's no pleasure involved when there's a very real threat of harm. It's also just feels gross when someone is treating you like your only purpose on earth is to give them sexual pleasure. It's dehumanising to…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:39 AM
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I can understand feeling helpless but don't downplay the impact of what you did. You can help people a lot by just being there and listening to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:00 AM
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Transactional would be like if I told my partner "you buy me dinner and I'll give you 3 hours of my time". In that example, the transaction is very rigid. Yes we're both getting something from it, but it's much more business like. If my partner didn't buy me dinner then he wouldn't get those 3 hours of my time. There wouldn't have to be any feelings involved, it would be a simple exchange of time for money. If either party didn't uphold their end of the bargain then the arrangement would very qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 11:20 PM
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I'm not married but I am in a happy, long term relationship (we're both neutral on the concept of marriage, hence why we haven't done it). I find a lot of things on here irritating. So I browse it at night, during the downtime when I'm working my night shifts. A little bit of irritation sure does wonders for reducing drowsiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:15 PM
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This was me when I first met my partner. I had gastroparesis (still do but not as bad) and I lost a disturbing amount of weight. I'm 5'6" and when I met my partner I was down to 85lbs. I honestly looked awful, I give my partner mad props for going on a second date with a skeleton. I got on a better treatment regime and now I'm up to 130lbs, which is a much healthier weight. He doesn't get a paper cut when he gives me a hug now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 07:42 PM
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C-sections and abdo surgeries in general can really fuck up your core muscles. It's not too bad if they're planned surgeries because the surgeon takes their time, emergency surgeries are entirely different. My mother had a ruptured stomach ulcer and needed emergency surgery. When I say emergency I mean they wheeled her straight from the ambulance to the OR. There was no time to be delicate, or she would have died. Her stomach muscles have never been the same since then. No matter how many crunch…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 07:30 PM
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Divorce rates don't really prove that foreign brides or mail order brides, automatically make better wives. Or that American men make better husbands than a man from their own country. Just because a couple is together, doesn't mean they're happy. Let's take mail order brides for example, do you think they would leave their American husband if they were unhappy? We have to take into consideration the fact that she'd be in a foreign country, English might not be her first language, she'd be relia…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 08:30 AM
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Actually, certain video games have been shown to improve memory and increase cognitive speed. The old school platformer games, like Mario, require a fair bit of memorisation in order to complete. Mindless shooting games don't really give any skills, but games that have a lot of puzzles or strategy involved can be good for the brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:40 AM
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Stopping a hobby you enjoy for a romantic relationship isn't a good idea. It's likely that you'll end up feeling resentful of the fact that you're no longer able to do something you like. You won't feel this right away but after a while it'll start to eat at you. Resentment is a death knell of relationships. Plenty of women enjoy video games, it's far from an exclusively male hobby. I'm a woman who loves video games (hence the username), most of my female friends also love video games. I actuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:33 AM
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Rejection most definitely does hurt, I cry when I experience rejection. I don't feel sad for ages but for a period of time I'm proper crushed. Repeated rejection can start to impact a person's self worth, potentially leading to depression, anxiety, and social isolation. So rejection is very much a big deal. It's okay to feel pain when being rejected. All that being said, rejection is a part of life. Sometimes no matter how much you want something, be it a date with a specific person or a dream j…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 05:04 AM
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Toxic masculinity does cause low self worth, as it's essentially saying "you're not a man if you do/don't do this". If you're a man who doesn't fit into society's preconceived narrow view of what a man is then you're going to feel alienated, which in turn can lead to poor self worth. Toxic femininity also exists it's just not really talked about in the same way (as in, the phrase "toxic femininity" isn't used, it's talked about more generally). There is no behaviour that is exclusively male or f…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:56 AM
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I feel like a lot of people don't really understand what is meant by toxic masculinity. It's not really about individual behaviours as such, it's more about the beliefs about how men should behave. For example the phrase "real men don't cry" is an example of toxic masculinity, as it's perpetuating the harmful belief that men shouldn't feel sadness or fear. Toxic masculinity says that it's more acceptable for a man to be angry than sad. Another example would be the idea that if a man is still a v…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 04:44 AM
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The issue is that in the majority of modern households, women are also working outside the home. Gone are the days when a family could survive on one income, that's just not possible for most people now. If a couple is lucky enough to survive on one income then the person staying home should absolutely take on the bulk of running the house. When both people are working then the chores should be split more evenly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 06:45 AM
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Have a child just to continue your bloodline is a terrible reason to bring a life into this world. If someone isn't 100% passionate about having children, then they shouldn't be having them. When someone has a kid purely because they feel obligated to, they often end up resenting that child (which is much more common than you'd care to believe). When a parent deeply resents their child it tends to result in emotional/mental neglect, as well as creating an unstable attachment between them. The pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 06:31 AM
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My grandmother does this with her partner of about 15 years. After her husband died she met a widower and they got together, but they live separate from each other. They only live about a 5 minute drive from each other so they see each other everyday, and spend the weekends at his place. It works quite well for them. My Nana says she got too used to having her own space and at their stages of life, neither of them thought it was important to live together. It's not something I could do though. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 06:18 AM
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Tell me you haven't actually formed any proper deep relationships with women, without telling me you haven't formed any proper deep relationships with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 06:07 AM
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Sure, pictures don't always do people justice. My partners profile pic wasn't that great because he's not really a picture kind of person. It was a hastily taken photo, in a badly lit restaurant bathroom, that really didn't do him any favours. I didn't swipe left on him because we met on a different dating site. I reached out to him because I liked what he'd written on his profile. For all the lack of effort he'd made with the photo, his actual profile put all the others I'd read to shame. When …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:32 AM
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When most people hear the word psychology, they think pop psychology. They don't realise that it's a scientific degree, so everything you claim has to be backed up with some kind of evidence. People also don't seem to get how much psychology research there actually is. There are so many studies, many of which are quite disturbing (if people knew what Harlow really did to those monkeys he might not be talked about so much).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 05:23 AM
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Yeah that's why I'm not a fan of meta-research tbh. The only time it's ever been of use to me is when I wanted to see whether there's been any proper evidence to show whether depression is caused by low serotonin. There was one very good meta-analysis that stated no study has been able to show a link. It was much quicker than reading through all the studies individually.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 05:15 AM
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Any decent psychology study should, at some point, critically analyse the study. Even when I was doing mock research write ups I had to put a section that essentially said "while the evidence indicates the hypothesis is correct it is important to consider that x, y, and z could have impacted the results". That part of the study is usually locked behind a payroll though, as it's hardly ever in the abstract.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 05:04 AM
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A lot of people get an undergrad in psych because they think it's an easy degree, not because they have any particular passion or interest in the mind. There's actually a huge amount of science involved, it's just that the research often looks different than other sciences.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 04:58 AM
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Evo psych is definitely the least reliable field of psychology. Mostly because what we really need to study has been dead for millennia. There are some interesting aspects to it though, especially around things like anxiety and stress. I don't think it can really be applied to relationships though, as human relationships are incredibly complex. People want to put human behaviour into neat little boxes. If you read even a basic psychology textbook it's becomes immediately clear that there's no su…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:56 AM
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Evolutionary psychology is probably the most contested and least valid field of psychology. There are minimal actual studies, most of the literature you'll see in the area is opinions. I'd love to see a proper peer-reviewed, valid and reliable study saying that women are instinctively gold-diggers, or that men are incapable of ever being happy with monogamy. That's beside the point though because humans, as well as some other animals, can absolutely control their instincts. When someone walks by…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:48 AM
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It actually takes a lot of work and dedication to have brightly coloured hair. I wanted to dye the tips of my hair blue but then I realised the amount of effort it takes and decided against it. We don't yet have permanent hair dye in unnatural colours, so it has to be redone every 8-12 weeks. You also have to take really good care of your hair, otherwise it'll get fried.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 10:49 PM
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When I say fuck up I mean things like saying something the wrong way and hurting someone's feelings, being unaware when you're not meeting their needs, not voicing your own needs then getting upset when they're not met, or generally being oblivious to how a certain action/inanaction might affect others. I don't mean things like being abusive, cheating, or in anyway knowingly causing harm to others. Most people figure out their partner's negative traits pretty quickly, unless we're talking about …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:42 AM
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Can you honestly say that you would be comfortable with essentially complete stranger sharing their darkest thoughts, trauma, bad experiences, etc? How do you think you would react if someone dumped all their baggage on you, on the first date? You might say that it'll give you a chance to weed out people who have any baggage, but unfortunately I have bad news for you. There isn't a single adult human who hasn't had some shit happen to them, doesn't have any insecurities, never feels anxious, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:53 AM
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I would trust someone like me. Someone like me would never intentionally cause harm to another. They would fuck up sometimes but that's just part of being human. We all have negative parts to ourselves. I don't think I particularly warned my partner about my negative traits, nor him me. Unless we're talking about serious stuff then you tend to figure out the negative quirks very quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:38 AM
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I guess B, but I wouldn't say that I would find it exciting that he tried. I wouldn't find it off-putting either way, as I know that people have different views on how long they'd like to wait before having sex. If he was too forward about it then that would be off-putting. If a guy is very crude about it or constantly tries to circle the conversation back to sex, then that would make me uncomfortable. Some indication of sexual attraction is needed though. It's never nice to end a date and be le…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:28 AM
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The age of the child is key. My mum cheated on my dad when I was around 5/6. I understandably had questions as to why mummy and daddy were no longer sleeping in the same house. My dad outright told me that my mum was having an affair. My memories are hazy but I do know he used the word affair because I thought it meant she had gone to the fun fair with someone else other than us. He then clarified that it meant she was having sex with another man (yep he used those words). I only had a basic und…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:53 AM
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Have you ever heard the phrase it's not what you say, it's how you say it? I think this applies perfectly to this scenario. A reality check isn't emotional abuse. We should aim to support our partner's dreams but it's an unfortunate fact of life that not every dream is realistically obtainable. If anything, allowing this person to continually fail and feel disappointed, while simultaneously telling them they're great, is meaner than being honest with them. Sometimes people attempt to disguse emo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:17 AM
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For most people, myself included, sex is a very important aspect of a relationship. I wouldn't say that it's always the highest form of intimacy though, at least not for me. The times when I've felt a really deep sense of intimacy and love have often had nothing to do with sex. In fact those times have been the opposite of sexy. Sex is great, it feels good and it's a good way to express love. It's not the only way though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:46 AM
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I'm a therapist and most of my current work is done working nights on an immediate support helpline. It's not a specific suicide hotline, although that unfortunately does come up a couple of times a week. It's more of a general helpline people can call to speak to a qualified therapist for in the moment support. I'd say the calls are split pretty evenly between men and women. There's not particular theme for the men and women either. The top 3 things people call in for are: anxiety, relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 12:42 AM
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I think it's important to acknowledge the difference in men and women when it comes to the concept of bad sex. For men, bad sex is often sex that simply didn't feel as good as it could have. For women, bad sex is physically painful. Not just an absence of pleasure but actual pain that can sometimes last for days. Bad sex for women can also result in tears in the vagina (from not being lubricated or relaxed enough) and even bruising on the cervix. When you're the one being penetrated you are in v…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 12:27 AM
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For me I feel like there's a subtle difference between attractive and sexy. Sexy is purely based on physical attributes, whereas attractive can include lots of things. I've always found mens chests quite sexy. I don't mean super chiseled or defined, I just like the fact that men have flat chests. Being hairy isn't a must but it's definitely a plus, so long as it's all well maintained. It's fun to run my hands through chest hair. Legs that have some kind of definition to them are good too. I don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 12:09 AM
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I'm a woman and I like being treated like that. My partner is extremely kind and caring, we've been together 6 years. He was the one who took care of me after I had abdominal surgery. I have this really vivid memory of being off my face on pain meds, not smelling great because I wasn't allowed to bathe for 48 hours, and I was standing half in and half out of the bath, crying because I couldn't get my right leg into the tub. He didn't even bat an eye. Just helped me wash, dried me off, and helped…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:39 AM
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I'm curious about the student loan part. Most people who are under the age of 40 and have a degree, will have student loans. With interest rates as high as they are, paying them off isn't an easy feat. I knew a dentist who was still paying his off, 10 years after qualifying. He had something like 120k in loans to pay for dental school. Credit card debt I totally get. But I thought most people put student loans in the same category as like a mortgage. It is debt but it's not stupid debt.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 02:29 AM
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I can only answer the ones that are particular to me. I'm really not a big makeup fan. I have some foundation, 1 eyeshadow pallet, 1 mascara, and I think 2 lipsticks. All in very neutral colours. In my day to day life I don't wear any makeup at all. My work is exclusively done over the phone at the moment. When I was still working in person then I'd slap a bit of concealer on under my eyes, since I have enough bags to be considered an airport at this point. I'll put some on if I'm going somewher…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 02:23 AM
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Then that means that just because she likes being called a whore during sex, doesn't mean she's actually a slut with hundreds of past partners. If you can understand that a man who enjoys getting physically rough during sex, isn't then automatically an abusive person; then it stands to reason that a woman who enjoys being called a slut isn't automatically a super promiscuous person. Edit: a word.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 02:00 AM
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Contouring can give the illusion of angles. Some women use it to make their boobs look bigger. It's really difficult to do well though. People make it look easy but it's like painting really. I tried to do it and it made me look like a fucking clown.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 01:42 AM
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My great grandma did pretty well when my great grandpa died in battle during WWII. Her war widow's pension kept her comfortable for most of her life. That was over 80 years ago though, we live in very different times now. There's not many life insurance policies or benefits that would allow someone to never work if their partner dies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 08:54 PM
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I know that do but they're wrong. I speak to a lot of different people, both personally and professionally, and I can count on one hand the number of men who have these beliefs. I'm pretty sure that a lot of the guys on this sub are fairly young and they've never been in a proper relationship. They think they've got women all figured out as those we're some kind of hive mind. They go on about how looks and sex are essentially the only things that men truly care about. When we first met my partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 04:12 PM
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I know it's easier said than done but try not to pay too much attention to what some people say on here. A lot of this sub is filled with bitter people who think they have the whole world figured out, despite the fact that they only look for the things they want to see. It's very important to remember that the vast majority of men in the real world don't subscribe to the Red pill, or the blue pill, or any pill. In fact if you walked down the street and asked every man what these things are, most…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 01:01 AM
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People don't factor in death either. A life insurance payout might support someone for a while, but certainly not forever. No one likes to think that it'll be their loved one who dies young, but it happens all the time. There are plenty of widows/widowers under the age of 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 12:37 AM
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People don't factor in death either. A life insurance payout might support someone for a while, but certainly not forever. No one likes to think that it'll be their loved one who dies young, but it happens all the time. There are plenty of widows/widowers under the age of 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 12:37 AM
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People don't factor in death either. A life insurance payout might support someone for a while, but certainly not forever. No one likes to think that it'll be their loved one who dies young, but it happens all the time. There are plenty of widows under the age of 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 12:37 AM
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I do actually genuinely love my work so that's a big part of it for me. Aside from that though, the other main reason is independence. My mother only worked for a few years of her life and after the age of around 22, she was completely dependent on a man for financial security. Most of the time this hasn't caused her any issues but there was a rough patch after her and my dad split up, where she ended up with some unsavoury characters due to needing somewhere to sleep (one was an abusive drug ad…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 12:31 AM
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I see. Yeah that's a fair point, I think most women would be a bit creeped out if a guy came on way too eager. If you're on a first date and the dude is talking about how much he wants you to have his babies, that's a bit weird. It's also a bit weird if you're just going about your business and a random guy comes up to you and starts doing some really heavy flirting, when all you're doing is waiting in line at the bank. I've never had a problem with men coming up to me and striking up a conversa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 08:03 PM
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Yep, the vagina is pretty awesome like that. You have to clean the outside, like underneath the clitoral hood and what not but never inside. Putting soap or even just too much plain water inside the vagina will cause infections. Ironically, the easiest way to get a stinky vag is to use soap.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:58 AM
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Introducing non-mongomy as a way to save your relationship is about a good idea as having a baby to save your relationship (hint: it's a terrible idea). Doing something this drastic will just bread resentment, which is a death toll for a relationship. If you do this then you may become resentful of the fact that he can't fulfill this need of yours. He will almost certainly become resentful of the fact that you don't view him as good enough in that department. You have 2 options. One is to break …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 04:45 AM
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As a general rule men have a higher sex drive than women, so the average man will want more frequent sex than the average woman. I feel like I'm not really understanding what you mean by "more interested". It seems obvious that a woman is going to pursue a man she's interested in over a man she's not interested in. When you say more interested, do you mean that women will blow off a guy if he expresses too much interest? So if there's a woman who really likes a guy but he seems too eager, then s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 03:56 AM
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You are saying it's unfair based on one metric. Which is that the majority of men are with women who are significantly less attractive than they are. I don't really agree with that statement because that's not been my experience with the world, however if that is has genuinely been your experience in the world then who am I to completely discount that experience. I believe that dating is unfair for a multitude of reasons, some of which affect men more and some of which affect women more. If some…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:36 AM
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I've been here a while and I've not seen the claim that dating is fair be made very much at all. Maybe a couple of times but it's usually shot down very quickly. I did read your post, I also read your comments. Your post didn't really give much to refute beyond "dating is unfair", which I agree with. Your comments of why would any sane man get into a relationship (which also don't have much to do with your OP to be fair), seemed much more interesting to discuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:17 AM
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I'm not sure if I've seen people claiming that dating is fair, at least not on here. There are very few things in life that are completely fair, why would dating be any different? I keep seeing your comments that say "why would any sane man get into a relationship", and your premise seems to be that men supposedly are only dating women who are significantly less attractive than them. My first counter point to this would be to simply observe the world around you. If you look you'll see a variety …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 01:49 AM
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I think pics/videos of real life people will still be popular for a while. For the same reason I don't think AI sex robots will replace real sex any time soon: the human aspect. Some people choose to pay for a live show, despite the fact that there are hundreds of thousands of hours of hard core porn available for free. Lots of people like the idea that the pic or video has come from a real person, they like it even more if there's the illusion that it's just for them. Deep fakes are popular but…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 12:14 AM
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Let's make it a party! We can invite all the childless doctors, nurses, engineers, teachers, therapists, paramedics, and scientists who are making zero positive difference to society due to their lack of offspring.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:11 AM
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My mother's first pregnancy was at 13, as a result of rape from a man that had been sexually abusing her since she was 4. She'd only had 1 period at that point and her body was nowhere near developed enough to safely carry a pregnancy to term. She could have been seriously harmed or even died. She also says that had she not had access to a termination she would have killed herself, rather than carry her rapist's baby. She had me 8 years later so I wouldn't exist had she not had an abortion. I me…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:05 AM
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Children as a financial resource really isn't a thing in the modern age. Back in the day when many people had farms, or were blacksmiths, or other ye olde timey jobs, then children most definitely would have been an asset. Once the children were big enough they would work on the farm or help work the forge, so then there was no need to pay for a farm hand or external apprentice. That concept only applies for a handful of people nowadays. Dowerys were another thing but they haven't been present i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:54 AM
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TIL that because I can't have children I have no purpose and might as well go into the woods and die. All those suicidal people that I've saved don't matter because my existence is meaningless due to my inability to create a baby. Good to know...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:44 AM
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Did you miss the part where the guy lied and said he was separated? Divorce can take years to finalise sometimes, especially if the other party drags it out. Lots of people start dating again before the papers are finalised. They might still be legally married but at that point it's just a piece of paper, they could have been living completely separate for years at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:41 AM
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I'm a big believer in the importance of family. Hell I probably spend at least an hour a week telling numerous people how important a strong support network is, when it comes to managing their mental health. However, I completely disagree that family has to mean a man and a women, with kids. Family is what you make it and as such it can take many forms. Not everyone can even have kids (I wouldn't be able to without IVF which isn't cheap), yet I still consider myself to have a family in the form …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:37 AM
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It wouldn't be for me, so long as my partner was sensible. There's a difference between being risk tolerant and just being a plain old idiot. Depending on the nature of the risk I would want to discuss it as a couple. If my partner wanted to take a financial risk that would require me to bail him out, leave us destitute, etc then I would expect that he talk to me before hand. I wouldn't be very happy if he went behind my back with anything major. We're not married and our finances are quite sepa…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 09:10 AM
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For dating? Sure, hide your assets if that's what you're comfortable with. If we're talking about marriage though then the important question is why would you marry someone who you don't feel able to share such a big aspect of your life with? I understand that lots of marriages end nasty but that's what a prenup is for. I feel like lying about assets like that is a recipe for disaster in a marriage. What if you have kids? You gonna forgo giving your children a good start in life because you don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 06:11 AM
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This is a concept that has been studied quite extensively. There has been evidence to suggest that we have neurons that fire not only when we ourselves are experiencing something, but also when we witness someone else experiencing something. These have been aptly named mirror neurons. The most obvious example of these in action is when someone else yawns and it makes you yawn. It has been strongly theorised that these neurons aren't unique to humans, however we do have more complicated brains so…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 01:30 AM
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Many do and nearly all of the "main" ones do (Catholicism, Christianity, Islam, etc). There are a lot more religions than just those though. Paganism is a religion and was around long before Christianity, some forms of paganism valued traditional gender roles but others didn't. Satanism is considered a religion and they definitely don't value gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 12:22 AM
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If my best friend (a man) asked who I'd rather date I'd probably say the famous tik tok dude, because I don't feel any sexual attraction to him. I love him like a brother and fucking your brother is weird. If he asked me whether I'd rather date the famous tik toker or my partner, I'd pick my partner. I have a lot of sexual attraction towards him so I wouldn't pick some random Internet "pretty boy" over him I'm not sure what your statement proves...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 01:31 AM
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Yes. Recently in the UK, Turkey Twizzlers were re-released (they're basically turkey in a spiral shape with a coating on them). Th company went bust in the early 2000s due to Jamie Oliver making parents think their children would drop dead just from touching them. I remember what they taste like very clearly and periodically over the last 20 years I would think about them. I was so excited when I saw them in the shop that I had to buy them. Super disappointed. Tasted nothing like how I remember.…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 01:24 AM
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Clearly you just don't appreciate the succulent aroma of cow shit. How uncultured... /s
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 01:17 AM
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"Far more likely" doesn't mean "only". It means that on average neurodivegent women are more likely to experience domestic abuse. That's not to say that this never happens to ND men, it's just that rates are higher in ND women. Also the first statement isn't specific to men either. Plenty of ND women struggle to have any kind of romantic relationship. ND men are more likely to struggle with getting their foot in the door but that doesn't mean it's a male-specific problem. Curious how you picked …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 01:10 AM
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It would be very difficult to determine how much of a role was played by the fact that they are transgender. Transgender people in general have a much harder time dating than cis people, and they're also at a higher risk of violence. What stage they're at in their transition would also need to be considered. I'm a big believer that transwomen are women and transmen are men, no matter what level of transition they're at. However there would be lots of straight women who wouldn't be comfortable da…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 01:04 AM
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Ones for me: Dysfunctional family. Both of my parents are alcoholics and both of them have very nearly died as a result. My mother left me to live with a neglectful father for 6 years. It left me with some attachment issues that are still present to this day. It took me a long time to learn how to feel confident in my relationships. We're not born with an innate knowledge of how to behave in relationships. If we have a dysfunctional family then we never really learn how healthy relationships loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 09:23 PM
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Engaging in lots of high risk sex is a potential symptom of many mental health problems, for both men and women. You won't find "has lots of casual sex" in the DSM-5 under many disorders, but frequent casual sex could fall under the category of risky and/or impulsive behaviour. Having a high number of sexual partners isn't on its own isn't indicative of a psychological problem, the same way that a cough on it's own doesn't mean lung cancer. I'd say the disorders that you'd most likely see with t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:16 AM
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Good to know. I'm more of a fan of supernatural horror but I am partial to thrillers as well, so long as it's not a chessy thriller (if I see a blond run to the basement instead of the open front door, I'm out lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 04:00 AM
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Using face paint to make it look like an elephant would be a good start, you could even stick some googly eyes on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 02:27 AM
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Don't want to ask too many details but is it supernatural horror or more psychological/crime thriller?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 02:25 AM
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Personally I couldn't imagine not working. I'm super passionate about my career though and it brings me a lot of fulfillment. If I won the lottery tomorrow I would still work as a counsellor, I'd just do it for free with charities. I know not many people can say that. The vast majority of people I know work purely for a paycheck, they get minimal fulfillment from it. Ultimately you've got to do you. If you want to be a SAHP and that's something that your partner is cool with, then go for it. You…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 02:18 AM
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I feel like maybe this is where the difference is between men and women on this matter. I'm a woman and I happen to think I look pretty good. I wouldn't particularly feel any inner shame if nude pics of me got leaked. I don't really view my genitals as sacred, they're just a part of my body that is a bit more hidden than the rest of it. Besides, I've had enough doctors poking around up there to feel embarrassed about people other than my partner seeing my body. I would be extremely distressed if…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 02:10 AM
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I don't care whether we're talking about a man or a woman, someone who's big or small. Screaming, throwing things, punching walls, etc in front of people isn't an appropriate or safe expression of your anger. More than once I almost got hit with a book flying through the air because my partner was frustrated. It was extra scary because he was so much stronger than me and he could have inadvertently seriously hurt me. The amount of physical damage he could have done to me would have been much gre…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 12:07 AM
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Well, no because I'm not in the US...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:52 PM
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Many modern anti-anxiety meds are actually in the SSRI and SNRI classes of drugs, which are well known to decrease libido. The more old school anti anxiety meds like benzos primarily work by making you feel sedated. Not many people feel like getting it on when all you want to do is sleep. Of course if most people had to pick between not having sex and crippling anxiety, they'd pick not having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 06:08 AM
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If someone is routinely getting to the point where they're throwing things, yelling/screaming, or behaving in risky ways (such as road rage), then they're either don't have the coping mechanisms to deal with their emotions before they get to boiling point, or they have some other underlying issue going on. Of course we all lose our rag sometimes but when someone has good emotional regulation then those kind of outbursts are few and far between. If my partner started having extreme emotional outb…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 04:35 AM
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I think sometimes the issue isn't so much men showing emotion, but how they show emotion. Due to societal pressures men may feel more obligated to bottle up their emotions. Which is never a good idea because then they come exploding out of you in very intense ways. My ex used to have these very intense emotional outbursts and they were scary. I'm talking throwing things, punching the walls, yelling at me, one time he even threw a very heavy book directly at my cat. Obviously I didn't react very …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 04:23 AM
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I'm a therapist and I can say that the amount of men coming to therapy has drastically increased. I provide traditional therapy sessions but I also work on a helpline doing in the moment counselling (basically people can call up whenever they want and speak to a trained counsellor for immediate support). I don't have exact numbers but I'd say that it's pretty much 50/50 in regards to gender. Men call up for the same things the women do as well. The top 3 things across all genders are: common men…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 04:06 AM
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It's hard to say exactly what the cutoff point should be. In an ideal world it would be before 12 weeks gestation, that way the woman has time to decide if she wants to go through with the pregnancy. If the man decides when she's 6 months pregnant that he wants nothing to do with the baby, then at that point it's too late for the woman to have an abortion. She could go the adoption route, but she'd still have to give birth and take time off to recover from that. If she was under the impression t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:58 AM
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I see Dead Space on sale a lot but for some reason I've never bought it, even though it looks like it ticks a lot of boxes for me. Do you think it's better played with a controller or mouse/keyboard? Also does it have a tense atmosphere? I love it when horror games build tension to the point that every little sound has you wondering if something is going to get you. I think that's why I like the RE games so much. They seem to have a way of making you not want to move too far away from the safe r…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:01 AM
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At the moment, in a lot of countries, that is unfortunately true. It shouldn't be though. Anyone should have the option to terminate their parental rights (up to a certain point).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:59 AM
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I'm looking for some new horror games to treat myself to, I know there's a few gamers on here so any suggestions? I've played all the main Resident Evil's, Evil Within 1&2, and Plague Tale. I've got a PS4, PC, and a Switch so anything on those platforms. I prefer supernatural and lovecraftian type horror but I don't mind psychological thriller stuff as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:57 AM
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Since Disney bought all the rights to Star Wars and Marvel, the parks now have a load of stuff based on those things. I saw a video on how there's a bit where you can build your own Lightsaber It's not just Disney princesses and what not now. There's also Epcot and Animal Kingdom, which don't really have much to do with Disney movies. I never got to go as a kid because we were poor. I've never been as an adult because I'm still poor lol. I would like to go one day though, just because it was som…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:52 AM
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Consent to sex isn't consent to pregnancy or parenthood. No one should be forced to be a parent in any capacity, not a woman or a man. As such I 100% believe that a man should be able to terminate his parental rights and not have any financial or emotional obligations to that child. Of course there are some caveats to this. I don't think a father should be able to terminate his rights at any point. A father can't decide when the kid is 10 that he can't be bothered anymore. If you accept the resp…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:44 AM
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I don't know how anyone with more than 2 brain cells could think that not crying after being born is a flex. It doesn't show a strong baby, it shows a baby who is mostly likely too weak to expand their lungs. In the past many of these babies would have died, if not right away then shortly after due to pneumonia. I knew Tate was a bit of an idiot but not that much of an idiot.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:01 PM
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Hard agree. However if we do this then I (a therapist) might lose my job security. The amount of shitty parents means there is no shortage of work for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 01:42 AM
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It was terrible. At that point I was still a few months away from getting officially diagnosed with endometriosis so it was agony. The whole time I felt this intense tearing/stabbing sensation in my lower abdomen. It didn't last long because he couldn't keep going while I making inhuman noises of pain. I'd known him for a while. He was my mother's best friend's son.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 01:39 AM
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Vaginismus is a very real condition. I used to have it and it was awful. My doctor wasn't 100% caused it but she thought it had something to do with endometriosis. She theorised that because I'd been in pain for so long, all my pelvic muscles had ended up in a permanent state of tension. Once my endo pain was controlled, it went away (along with being on vaginal suppositories of Valium to help things along). This all started happening several years before I had sex btw. I was diagnosed after a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 01:31 AM
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Weight: last check I was 131lbs Age: 26 Count: 6, although one of those I never had penetrative sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 01:21 AM
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You just unlocked a memory of when me and my friends played "World War 3" and we were running round the playground screaming "the Germans are coming!". Then a teacher came up to us and told us that there was a German student who heard us and was crying.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 01:18 AM
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Beside nursing can be brutal. Recently my mother was in hospital for almost 3 months so I got to know a lot of the nurses. I'd always check the ward board to see which Dr was in and who the ward manager was that day. I don't think I ever saw the nurse/patient ratio go below 1:6, the highest I saw was 1:13. It technically wasn't a critical care ward but due to there being no space in ICU, there were many critical patients on the ward. They were run off their feet all the time. My mother was reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 01:13 AM
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Only psychopaths like mustard.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:08 PM
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For me it generally just means to be respectful. I've never cared about getting flowers, having the man pay, etc. If anything I'd rather not have anything like that on the first few dates because it sometimes comes with an expectation of sex or more dates. Many women will have heard the phrase "but I paid for your food/bought flowers/etc". No one likes to feel like some kind of sex vending machine where someone puts "nice" tokens in and gets sex. When I went on the first date with my partner he …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 11:13 AM
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I mean we weren't arguing, we were debating. The only reason why I'm on this sub is because I love a good debate, espeically the "gritty" topics where people have strong opinions. I'm certainly not going to discount your experience. Your experience is your experience and it's not for me to say that it's wrong. I can disagree with the notion that women don't make good conversationalist, while also acknowledging that your experience has been different. You're not wrong for having this personal opi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:21 AM
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I don't think anyone should be a parent if they don't want to be one. People who are are forced into parenthood are usually terrible parents that deeply resent their children. That can cause a huge amount of issues for said children, even well into adulthood. No child asks to be born and they don't deserve a parent who resents their existence. Also I'm a big believer in autonomy, people should be free to choose their own destiny. Consent to sex doesn't mean consent to pregnancy or parenthood. Pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 07:27 AM
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Whoever has the most free time, should as a general rule do more around the house. Until extremely recently I had way more free time than my partner so I did most of the chores. It's only been in the last couple of months that we've switched places and now my partner has more free time than me. It's just always seemed fair to me that if you work less hours outside the home, you do more work inside the home. This one definitely doesn't pertain to my relationship, but men should be able to sign aw…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 06:01 AM
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Just for fun let's go into detail then (detail that you didn't give in your original scenario, hence why I said there are a lot of factors to consider). How old are the people in this scenario? Are they all the same age or are they made up of various ages? What are their careers? Do they all work in jobs where excellent group communication in high pressure situations is needed? How do they all respond in general to stressful situations? A group of women who are all healthcare professionals worki…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 07:59 PM
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"Would the men communicate better with each other than women?"- that was your question, which I answered and I also gave my rationale for my answer. I don't believe you are debating in good faith as you're shifting the goalposts. You didn't ask about capacity for violence or even which group would win, you asked about which group would communicate better. Since I'm bored and have some free time, I'll meet your shifting goal posts and say that the men would probably be more likely to win. Bloodlu…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 09:09 AM
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There are so many factors to consider here but I think they would be pretty equal in regards to communication. I don't think men are inherently better at communicating than women, or vice versa. Good communication isn't a inherent trait, it's one that we learn. Do you believe that the men would communicate better due to inherent traits that make men superior communicators? If so what are the traits that men have that women don't? (This is meant in good faith by the way. I'm curious as to what yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 07:14 AM
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Of course combat requires intelligence. You need strategy to know when to focus on offense and defense, what types of weapons to use in any given scenario, and try to predict the ways your enemy might respond. People who win wars often spend the entire time sitting in a war room. The people engaging in the actual combat aren't usually the ones making the big decisions. I'm curious as to what "features" you're talking about. Your post was about intelligence and communication, not physical strengt…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 05:38 AM
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I think you're overestimating the significance of 4 IQ points. I can almost guarantee that in the real world you wouldn't see any noticeable difference between someone with an IQ of 100 and 104. It's such a negligible difference that it's hardly worth talking about. That's not to mention that there have been lots of criticisms about IQ tests over the years, with good reason. Theatrically it's supposed to test innate intelligence, which means that if you took an IQ test at 4 years old and again a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:45 AM
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I'm the same. The whole "domestic goddess" thing is totally alien to me. I actually spent many of my formative years living with just my father, so I was was never raised to be feminine. Even though I'm a grown woman now I'm still pretty far from being traditionally feminine. I don't like cooking, I hate cleaning, I'm very outspoken and ambitious, and the only time I've worn a dress in the last 5 years is when I had abdominal surgery and it was painful to wear trousers. I am very nurturing and e…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:14 AM
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Of course there is a biological aspect to gender roles but I think a lot of people put way too much stock into it. We can't really talk about how things were back in the stone age because we have come a long way since then. While we all still have a "lizard brain", we're no longer slaves to our basic instincts. Also, these biological differences don't particularly extend to things like intelligence, nurturing ability, etc. Anyone who has worked with young children will be able to tell you that, …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:06 AM
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This is something to consider if one partner makes significantly more than the other. If my partner and I were to split everything completely down the middle, he would have to settle for living in smaller house, not having as nice a car, eating cheaper food, etc. I've seen a few Reddit posts where the richer partner wants to live in an expensive property and go on fancy vacations, but still wants everything to be split 50/50. Then they get upset when the poorer partner says that won't work. I fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:26 AM
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If you've got someone who considers travelling to be very important and someone who hates it, then it could become a big thing in the relationship. You don't need to have all the same hobbies as your partner but I know I would be kind of disappointed if I couldn't share something I loved with my partner. Compromise is possible when it comes to travel though. For example if you were with someone didn't like travelling because of the cost involved, then you could work out a plan to go somewhere ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:11 PM
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I get the impression that you think I begrudge him for being paid more than me, I don't. He's older than me so he has about a 15 year head start on me. He's nearing the peak of his career whereas I'm still at the start. My friend who is the same age as me and also works in software, actually gets paid slightly less than I do. In our society, how much a job is worth doesn't really have much to do with how difficult or intense it. It has more to do with how much revenue said job can bring in. Soft…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:14 PM
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Personally I don't think it would be my thing. I enjoy the intimacy that comes with living with my partner (sleeping the same bed, waking up together, etc). This is something that my Nana has done for the last 15 years though. Her husband died and she was still fairly young (50 if I remember rightly), so she got into another relationship with someone who was also widowed. They live separately but in the same town. She goes to his with her dogs every weekend and he goes to her house almost every …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:41 PM
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Yeah it definitely wouldn't fly in my relationship. My partner makes just under twice as much as me. We work the same amount of hours, although I primarily work nights whereas he works a traditional 9-5. If he tried to suggest that because he makes more, he shouldn't do as much housework, I wouldn't be impressed. If we were too tie the amount of housework done to work, then it should really be done based on how difficult/intense the work is. My partner works at home as a software engineer. Half …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:48 PM
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Doctors aren't performing abortions on pregnancies that are viable. Those really late term abortions are mostly done when the baby has some horrific heath problem. If the mother's life is in danger and the baby is viable then they simply deliver the baby. People aren't getting to 9 months and suddenly deciding to abort the baby. At that point you'd need to deliver the baby anyway, even if it's passed away of natural causes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:50 PM
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There's a difference between not having hookups and not having sex at all. Even if it was true that 80% of men never have and never will have a hookup, that doesn't mean that 80% of men aren't having sex. You're discounting the men who are in monogamous relationships who are having sex with their partner. Being in a committed relationship doesn't automatically mean that you want to get pregnant. There are plenty of women in long term relationships who are now scared to have sex with their partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:39 PM
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Weirdly I've only ever been called a slut when I've refused sex, at least to my face anyway. I think at this point it has just become a word that is used to insult women in particular. Same way that bastard is used to insult men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 04:14 AM
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Both are annoying. I haven't been on a dating site in 6 years so things might have changed, but I used to get propositioned by scammers, prostitutes, etc and I'm a woman who made it very clear I was only interested in men. Half of the time the accounts were bots, the other half were clearly just messaging everyone. I will say that the men demanding sex could be nasty about it. If I ignored the people asking for money they usually went away pretty quickly. Whereas I've had more than one dude call…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 12:21 AM
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You're right that the causes for mental health problems can be broadly split into 2 categories: physiological/biological causes and situation/environmental. There is still the very popular theory that depression caused by a chemical imbalance of serotonin in the brain. However, this claim has never really been substantiated. fMRIs have shown that people with depression have reduced activity in certain areas of the brain, which suggests that there is a chemical element to it. The question is whet…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 08:39 PM
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As a mental health professional, I have a feeling thoughts on this. The way we treat mental health problems has changed massively over the last 100 years. It wasn't all that long ago that you could be chucked in a psych hospital just for crying a bit too much. Women especially were subjected to diagnoses like Hysteria, for which treatments consisted of sedation, "hydrotherapy" (where you would be submerged in extremely hot water for a period of time, the immediately placed in ice water), electri…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:44 AM
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To be fair to him he hasn't been around babies that much. He has had dogs and cats though, so I can understand how his logic was "baby dog can't go outside until it's had its shots, human baby can't go outside until it's had its shots".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:43 AM
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Lots of smart people are also very stupid. My partner is a very smart man, he's never had his IQ tested but I can guess that it would be quite high up there. He has multiple masters and was pursuing a PhD before he decided it wasn't really going to benefit him career wise. He also ate a BabyBel cheese with the wax on. He thought that newborns were like puppies and they had to stay inside until they had all their shots. He makes a simple task like hanging a picture into some hugely complicated ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:06 PM
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My best friend of over 5 years is a man. I've also been in a relationship with my partner for 6 years. I'd walk through fire for both of these men, but the love I have for them is very different. The love for my friend is more along the lines of the love I have for my family. I cherish his presence in my life and I would be devastated should something happen to him, but there's none of that more passionate love that comes from a romantic relationship. If my partner has a problem with our friends…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:21 AM
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I didn't disrespect someone right to choose sex work. I'm actually pro-decriminalisation of sex work. Consenting adults can do whatever they want with other consenting adults. I just think the situation is more nuanced than "well they haven't been trafficked so they must be happy with their choice". There are lots of reasons that someone might end up engaging in sex work, some of which aren't indicative of being an enthusiastic participant. When we consider things like drug addiction, childhood …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:13 PM
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I mean it kinda depends on what you mean by "voluntary". If you are taking voluntary to mean "not being physically forced" then there are plenty of voluntary sex workers. If you go to s strip club then the majority of the women probably aren't being forced to strip by someone else. However, are they there because they truly enjoy being a sex worker or because economic circumstances have made it their best and most viable option? Granted this question applies to all work, but I do think it's impo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 05:34 PM
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I'm a woman and I'd say I'm pretty content with what I've got. Am I skipping around while farting rainbows because life is great 100% of the time? Of course not. Life sucks sometimes, no one can escape that. I'm very happy with my partner though. Been together for 6 years and I'm still just as happy as I was when we first met. He's not a perfect man, he has plenty of little quirks that annoy me, but he's a human being so that's to be expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:00 AM
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You do realise that the clitoris exists right? Most women can't orgasm from penetration alone but they absolutely can orgasm from clitoral stimulation (many women also find an orgasm to be more intense with something inside them). Someone who halfway knows what they're doing will provide external stimulation alongside penetration. The clitoris literally has around 10,000 nerve endings and as far as we know, has no other function than pleasure. I'm assuming you don't have one but as someone who d…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:49 PM
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You're right, most women don't orgasm from vaginal penetrative sex alone. You didn't say that though. You said "women don't feel sexual pleasure". The vast majority of women are able to achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation. A guy who knows what he's doing will provide some sort of external stimulation as well as penetration. Why do you think vibrators are so popular?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:34 PM
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Honestly love is such a hard thing to define anyway. We feel different types of love for different people. The love you have for your parents is different from the love you have for your partner, which is different to the love you feel for your children. Even among friends, the love you have for each friend is probably slightly different because they're all different people. Also, everyone probably feels love in a different way. The words I would use to describe love might not be the words that …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:30 PM
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As they say "there's lies, damned lies, and then there's statistics".
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:20 PM
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Are you honestly making the claim that women don't feel sexual pleasure? You do realise that there women do have an organ which has no other purpose (that we can tell) than to feel pleasure? Lots of women don't feel too much pleasure from vaginal/internal stimulation. It makes sense that there's not a whole load of nerve endings inside the vagina, otherwise the pain of childbirth would probably be enough to kill you. Most women experience orgasm through external pleasure. As a woman I can safely…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:19 PM
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Personally I don't have a problem with my partner watching porn, so long as he doesn't choose watching porn over being intimate with me. I know I can't always fulfill my parents every sexual need at the drop of a hat, nor should I be expected to. If I'm not around or not in the mood then I don't mind him banging one out to porn. If he had gbs of porn stored on his computer then I would want to have a conversation about it. If he was spending hours a week watching porn then I would be concerned. …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:08 PM
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Physical: I'm not really into super muscular men or super tall men for that matter (I don't want to have to get a step ladder out everytime I want to kiss someone). The main thing though is poor hygiene, but especially poor dental hygiene. I'm not talking crooked or yellow teeth, I'm talking rotten teeth. Mostly because for some reason the idea of teeth falling out disturbs me, so my partner needs to look after their teeth. I would probably be more calm if my partner chopped his finger off than …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:18 AM
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I'm assuming that you've dated men to be able to say this? I'm a woman who dates men. Every man is unique so I wouldn't say that men are easy and simple to understand. My partner is fairly easy to understand but that's because he actually communicates his wants/needs. Also we've been together for 6 years. I struggled to understand my ex because he never communicated with me, at least not in a healthy way. Men and women are different, but if you look at women as though they're a completely differ…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:30 AM
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If we view NPD as a protection mechanism then it makes perfect sense that people with NPD don't take therapy seriously. For therapy to work you have to open up, opening up makes you vulnerable, which is not a place that someone with NPD wants to be. Building a strong therapeutic relationship could take years, which isn't an option for lots of people. I'm not sure where you're at but in my country, public therapy services are also extremely limited. It can take 2 years to see a therapist, then yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 11:13 PM
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Both my partner and I work, although since I do 12 hour shifts I only work across 4 days, whereas he works a traditional 9-5. I'm also a full time university student. My partner definitely does more around the house than I do. He'd rather me spend my time on my studies. Also the way he communicates his love is by doing things for people. He doesn't say "I love you" to his parents, but he will happily rearrange their furniture for them. I clean up after myself but he does most of the laundry and …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 11:04 PM
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Excuse me, I'm worth 71 camels according to the camel calculator. 2 goats just wouldn't be enough I'm afraid. For anyone who's curious https://kamelrechner.eu/en/result Works for men too, although they tend to be worth less camels.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:47 PM
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Sex is important to the vast majority of people. It feels good, both physically and mentally. It's nice to be that close to someone. Also for most people it's the ultimate feeling of physical pleasure. Is sex the most important thing? No, but I'd sure miss it if I couldn't have it. In the same way that you could survive on a very bland diet, you'd still miss cake, burgers, etc. They're not nessecary for survival but it feels good to eat them. Of course there will be a subset of the population wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:41 PM
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I lived with just my dad from the time I was 5-12. I can promise you that my single father got exactly the same amount of benefits as a single mother would have. In fact, he somehow managed to wrangle not working at all. Even though in my country you're expected to work once your youngest child is in full time education (so age 4). There's no difference between single fathers and single mothers in regards to government support, it's just single parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:10 PM
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There is a huge stigma for personalities disorders, especially BPD and NPD. I'm of the belief that there are few very people in the world who were born evil and die evil. I don't think people with NPD are inherently bad people who are beyond saving. It wouldn't surprise me if there was a correlation between early childhood trauma and NPD, just like there is with BPD. A lot of the behaviours and mindsets associated with NPD could also be seen as the ultimate protection mechanisms. There is probab…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 01:21 AM
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Do women really crave more attention or do they just crave different attention? There is a big difference between the attention you get from the opposite sex thinking you're attractive, and the attention you get from say excelling at a sport or being a leader in your career. If you look at it from a psychological perspective then it makes sense that men and women would crave different types of attention. For lots of women their self worth gets tied up in their looks, because society has put a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:29 PM
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This was very interesting to hear from the perspective of someone with NPD. I know that our understanding on NPD is still quite limited. Probably because the nature of the disorder doesn't often lend itself to people reaching out for help.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:19 PM
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My mum helped me see the light as well. My ex made the mistake of telling her that he didn't really want me to go to university, because he didn't want me to be around other men. She knew how important my future career was to me, so she instantly smelled a rat. She didn't tell me to leave him but she did tell me that he wasn't going to support the one thing I wanted more than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:15 PM
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Pretty much every genuine narcissist will be toxic in some way, but not every toxic person is a narcissist. You're 100% right that clinical narcassism is extremely rare. Most people with toxic or narcissistic traits weren't born that way. It can be as a result of childhood trauma, crippling insecurities, or other untreated mental health problems. I used to date someone who was toxic, I was with him between 18-20. I'll give a few examples of things he said to me: "I don't know what I'd do without…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:12 PM
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I'm not sure where the idea that men don't crave attention and validation came from, or for that matter where the concept of wanting attention being a bad thing came from. We all want validation, espeically if you factor in conditions of worth (which we all have). Some people might need more external validation, but if you peel that back then you'll most likely get someone who doesn't feel too good about themselves. As a woman I can safely say that I do like attention and validation, I also like…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:50 PM
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All of the women, myself included, do very much care that their partner has financial sense. Contrary to what some people on here think, most of us do actually work and have the ability to support ourselves. I don't want to be with someone who's stupid with money and gets us into debt. Do you really think that adult women would be happy with someone who was an idiot with money?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 02:55 AM
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I've been with my partner for 6 years. I think he's gorgeous, by far the most attractive man I've been with. The first time I saw him in person I was hot under the collar. His looks aren't why I've stayed with him for over half a decade though. I stay with him because when I was going through the worst time in my life (my mother was extremely unwell and I was told she was dying), he was the one I wanted to be with. I hardly slept unless I was with him, because when I was with him I knew that eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 11:23 PM
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It's a boundary for you and as such, it should be respected. Boundaries aren't synonymous with "a challenge". If someone doesn't want to have sex without a condom then they should be pressured to go without one. Also, a lot of people do seem to forget that pregnancy isn't the only unwanted outcome to unprotected sex. STIs can royally fuck you up. If you're a woman you can end up with cervical cancer, Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, etc. If you're a man then STIs can increase your risk of penile can…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 11:09 PM
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I'm in an age gap relationship. I've been with my partner for 6 years and while I'm very happy, I'm the first person to say that these kinds of relationships at best often don't work out, and at worst are dangerous. It doesn't matter if it's an older man with a younger woman or vice versa, there's a high potential for an extreme power imbalance. The older person could be looking to take advantage of the fact that a younger person might not be so sure in their boundaries. A younger person might b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 09:08 PM
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I'm sorry that you're not in a good place at the moment. I don't like to hear that anyone is struggling, hence why I picked the career I did. I'm struggling to see what your personal situation has to do with either the comment you or I made though? I was showing that your idea that women don't work meaningful jobs is false (albeit in a sarcastic way). The view that women don't have careers that benefit society is objectively wrong. Where I'm from over 45% of medical doctors are women. The doctor…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 06:35 AM
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I'm curious, what do you think would actually happen to society as a whole if every single woman stopped working, had no rights, etc? In my country around 45% of our doctors are women. 89% of nurses are women. 76% of teachers are women. 37% of lawyers are women. 77% of all NHS (my countries health system) workers are women. What would happen to society if suddenly all those women stopped working. What would happen to health care if 45% of the doctors suddenly weren't available. How well do you t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 06:25 AM
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A random website or magazine does not a valid source make. The majority of your sources were opinion pieces. Opinion pieces can be used to inform your argument but shouldn't be used as evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 05:33 AM
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Statistics show that people are most often sexually assulted or raped by someone that they know. Most women who are raped by men know the man in some capacity. A woman is much more likely to be raped by a man that she's been on a few dates with, or a male friend, than she is a random guy in the bushes. (The same is true for male victims of sexual assault too btw).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 05:20 AM
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That's interesting. I shall inform my boss that when I'm working my 12 hour night shift on a mental health helpline that I'm "sitting around the water coolers watching the men work". I guess I must have imagined all those people that I've stopped from committing suicide, as well as all those therapy sessions that I've done with people. Well, I'm off to fuck the boss. Oh wait, she's a woman too (so is my boss's boss).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 05:11 AM
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Unfortunately you're right. I kind of get it, academia is brutal. If your research doesn't get "results" then at best you'll be looked down on, at worst you'll lose your funding, job, etc. It's one of the main reasons why I would never pursue a research career. While I love the idea of doing research that would improve our understanding of human psychology, I just think it would be tainted by the results-driven culture that academia has become. In my opinion when you're studying anything that's …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 02:49 AM
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I've studied psychology. At this point in time I don't think we can reliably study something as complex as human relationships and desire. Not without running some extremely unethical studies (like Harlow's monkeys but with humans). There's just too many confounding variables that could drastically impact the results. The way the psychologist talked about her study makes me suspicious as well. Any decent psychologist will do a study and say "my study does support my hypothesis but it doesn't pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 01:37 AM
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In any research with living beings, especially humans, there are confounding variables. You can't get rid of all of them but any study that doesn't attempt to mitigate the largest ones, is neither valid nor reliable. Age is a massive one. The way we behave and think in our 20s is often vastly different to when we're in our 30s. People under the age of 22 make all kinds of stupid decisions, because although physically they're grown they're mentally not quite done yet. I would be very interested t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 12:14 AM
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That goes for a lot of things, not just dating. You often have to complete 50+ job applications before you get invited for an interview for your dream job. Sure sometimes things do basically fall into your lap but it doesn't happen often.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 04:43 AM
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These studies were no where near large enough, or had a diverse enough particpant group, to claim it gives proof of alpha fucks/beta bucks. You'd need hundreds of participants from a variety of age groups, social backgrounds, and who are in different life stages. There's just way too many confounding variables with these studies to make them properly valid and reliable. For example one of the studies used only college students. Was the study able to account for things like alcohol or recreationa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 04:30 AM
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I have endometriosis. Painful intercourse is one of my symptoms. It can be going fine then suddenly it can feel like I'm being stabbed with something burning hot. It's much better now, with a combination of birth control and surgery it's being managed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 07:59 PM
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It took me a little while to trust my partner in regards to physical intimacy. I have a health condition that can make sex incredibly painful sometimes. I haven't been with that many men but of those that I have, more of them than not have seemed to not really take my physical comfort into account. They'd say they would but then they would pressure me into doing things that I know would cause me pain. Or worse they would continue when I was clearly in too much pain to even utter the word "stop".…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 02:20 AM
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He is the most attractive man I've ever been with. I love every part of him, not just physically but his personality too. He's the kind of person who stops to ask someone crying in the street if they're alright. I'm pretty sure he'd run into a burning building to save a puppy. He treats me with the upmost respect too which is important. Even though he makes more money than me and he's actually a fair bit older than me, he sees me as his equal. There's no keeping score in our relationship either.…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 02:41 PM
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My bad, I misread what you said. I read it as 150% more than I make. You're right, he does make about 150% of what I make (I make 30k he makes around 46k). I had one long term relationship before him that lasted just over 2 years. Then there was a gap where I had 4 sexual partners/short term relationships before I met my current partner. Not that he cares how many people I slept with before meeting him. He's never thought it's particularly relevant. It's not like I killed a man, I just had sex. …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 01:41 PM
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My bad, I misread what you said. I read it as 150% more than I make. You're right, he does make about 150% of what I make (I make 30k he makes around 46k). I had one long term relationship before him that lasted just over 2 years. Then there was a gap where I had 4 sexual partners/short term relationships before I met my current partner. Not that he cares how many people I slept with before meeting him. He's never thought it's particularly relevant. It's not like I killed a man, I just had sex. …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 01:41 PM
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Since we're going with ancetodes, my partner isn't a "top 10%" man. He makes decent money for where we live but he isn't anywhere close to the top 10% of earners, he also doesn't make 150% more than me (maybe about 50% more than me). He's tall but not that tall. He's not ripped, his hair has been grey since he was 20, and he's going bald. Guess what? I'd still die for that man. I love him so much that I sometimes don't know what to with myself. We've been together for nearly 6 years and I get ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 09:31 PM
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Personally I feel like this is a hard thing to put into words. During the first lockdown I was away from my partner for about 5 months. It got to the point where it was almost physically painful to be apart from him. Everytime I would think of him I'd get a literal ache in my chest. When we were reunited we both sobbed and I don't think we let each other go for about 20 minutes. Now I love my friends, but I've never felt that way being apart of my friends. I feel like that scenario sums up what …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 09:13 PM
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If the only difference was the dating market then I think my parents would have gotten together. They got together when my mother was 13 and my father was 17, nearly 18. My mum was best friends with my dad's younger sister, which is how they met. My mum was severely sexually abused from the time she was 4; my dad is the kind of person who saw that vulnerability and exploited it for his own gain. Regardless of whether we factor in online dating, they still would have ended up together. Needless t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 07:00 PM
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I'm totally against routine/cosmetic circumision on infant boys (tbh it really isn't a thing in the UK, it's only done for medical purposes such as severe phimosis). However, FGM is usually very different from circumision. In Western countries male circumision is usually done because people still mistakenly believe that it's cleaner, whereas FGM is often done to prevent the person from feeling any sexual pleasure. Also in the most extreme cases of FGM the entire clitoris is removed, as well as t…
/r/AntiFeminists17/01/22 05:54 PM
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I'm so glad that couples therapy helped your relationship. Your wife was completely right with what she said. Often therapy is viewed as something you only do as a last resort kind of thing, but it doesn't have to be that. In fact it's nearly always better if it isn't that. Just like with physical health, it's always better to get it dealt with as soon as possible. If you wait until things are really bad then it'll be 1000 times harder to deal with. I'm not saying that everyone should run to the…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 03:22 AM
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I'm a woman and a therapist so I can definitely answer this question. Going to therapy absolutely isn't a red flag. People go to therapy for so many different reasons, it doesn't always mean they have horrendous mental health issues. People go to therapy because they've experienced a bereavement, they're having struggles at work, they need to work through something that was traumatic for them, they don't have any self esteem, or even because they feel bad but they don't fully know why. You don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 08:34 PM
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Aside from financial security, there is emotional security. There's something very fulfilling about knowing that you're with someone who will have your back. I've been with my partner when he's being going through shit. Just recently he's been dealing with a shoulder injury so I've looked after him. He knows he doesn't have to suffer in pain alone because I'll be there for him. He knows I'll always be there for him in whatever way I can. And I know he'll always be there for me. I'm having abdomi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 10:13 PM
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My partner gains a lot from being in a relationship with me. They're hard things to put into words because words don't do our relationship justice, I'll try my best though. He gets: someone who will have his back, emotional support, cuddles, someone to laugh with, someone to cry with, someone to have fun with, someone who would give anything to see him smile, kisses, great sex, back rubs, someone who strokes his head when he's not feeling well, someone who he can vent to, someone who listens wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:01 PM
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That might be what you want but men in general do seek meaningful relationships. We are social animals, men are social animals. Men love just as deeply as women do. To say otherwise is to ignore social psychology and what you can see with your own eyes. I know my partner loves me, I know he's just not with me "to mate".I know this because there was about 6 months where my health made sex all but impossible. He wasn't unfaithful during that time, he just wanted me to get better. It was one of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 04:17 PM
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I don't think the average women is having copious amounts of sex with dozens and dozens of different men. Who has time for that? I certainly don't, nor does anyone I know. Aside from that though, when it comes down to it, the average woman wants the same thing as the average man. We're social animals who desire deep, meaningful connections with others. Most of us prioritise a romantic relationship (rather than friendships) because it fulfills lots of our social needs at once. It fulfills our nee…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 12:16 AM
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I think the shortest was like 3 or 4 weeks, but it was terrible. It was so painful and the guy didn't seem to care that much. It felt like there was burning poker being pushed into my abdomen. I didn't feel safe or cared for at all during that. That was the first and last time I had sex without fully trusting the person. I realised that for me, I need that trust. Even though I've been with my partner for 5 years and I don't experience painful intercourse as often, I still feel just a hint of fea…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:01 AM
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I think it was about 5 or 6 months before my current partner and I had penetrative sex. I'd had some horrifically painful sexual experiences due to health problems, which made me scared of it. We did try earlier on in our relationship but he refused to continue when he saw me trembling in anticipation of the pain. The fact that he was willing to be patient was actually really important in me getting over the mental block that I had. I was able to relax more because I knew that there was no press…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 09:59 PM
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I'm confused by the idea that all women want "bad boys" when they're younger. Some might but certainly not all of them, not even the majority. If you're interested in psychology and relationships then I'm sure you'll know that childhood abuse leads to attachment problems, which in turn can lead to unhealthy adult relationships. Every woman that I've met that has gone through this phase that you talk about, has experienced some kind of childhood abuse (usually sexual abuse but also physical and e…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 04:10 PM
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It mostly manifests itself as checking things. It only rears its head when we're leaving the house. Before we leave he has to check all the windows, appliances, etc. He also has a ritual of how many times he has to check each thing, that he has to leave the room and go back in inbetween each set of checks, and if he's interrupted he has to start over. It does get annoying sometimes, I'm not gonna lie and say I never think "ugh just stop already we need to leave". But as a general rule, it doesn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 05:59 PM
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My partner has classic OCD. He's not diagnosed but I'm actually a therapist so I feel like I have some knowledge on the matter. By no means do I find it a huge issue. It can be annoying when he gets stuck in a ritual but that isn't enough for me to massively bothered by it. He manages it and it has minimal impact on our lives. He has also never expected me to fix it just because I'm a mental health professional. In contrast my ex also had mental health issues and that was a problem, that ultimat…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:53 PM
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I like to think that he still would have chosen me had we met 2 years earlier, and I him. It sounds cheesy but even from the very first date I knew that we had a connection that was different from anything I'd ever felt before. It's hard to put into words but we just work so well together. Since we love each other on a fundamental level, I don't see why we wouldn't have fallen for each other if we had met 2 years earlier. Obviously I can't say for sure. Timing does play a role in whether a relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 12:13 AM
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I don't have negative perceptions of men who have slept with a lot of people. If we're talking a lot of people, like over 150 then I'd be curious as to what their motivations are, but I wouldn't think badly of them. When it comes to my partner I don't really care that he's had sex with more people than me. I also don't care that he might have slept with someone who's a better lay than me. None of that matters because he chose me. He didn't choose to spend the last 5 years with those other girls,…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 03:46 PM
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My long term partner has cried in front of me and I don't think any less of him, the opposite is true in fact. Obviously I don't enjoy seeing him cry because no one likes to see the person they love the most in distress. I struggle to believe that women are routinely dumping their partners for nothing more than crying. Key word is routinely. I'm sure there have been women who have dumped their partners for showing emotion, but that will be a small minority. I can believe that lots of women strug…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:32 PM
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First thing, is the census either "married" or "single"? The reason why I ask this is because there are lots of people who are in committed relationships, who have chosen not to get married. I myself am in a long term relationship but we're not married. We've been together for 5 years, we're committed to each other, but actually getting married hasn't really been a priority for us. Unfortunately in my country, the census doesn't have an option for "unmarried but in a long term relationship". So …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:28 PM
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I feel like this idea only works when you believe that men are only really interested in sex. My partner is attractive and he's moderately successful. I know that he could go and have sex with lots of different women if he wanted to. We can't even have sex as much as we would like because I have endometriosis and often sex is very painful for me. Yet he has never been unfaithful to me. He could cheat but he hasn't. That's because he doesn't just want sex, he doesn't just view our relationship as…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:07 PM
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Alcohol can cause your blood sugar to go wonky, which can be very dangerous if your diabetic (especially Type 1). Type 1 can't be controlled through diet alone so you are dependent on insulin. A little bit of alcohol probably wouldn't hurt someone with well managed diabetes. I'm guessing that the main danger with being black out drunk is that you can't check your blood sugar or administer insulin if needed. That's a quick way to fall into a diabetic coma.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/10/21 12:30 AM
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Where did you get the 600,000 number from, if I might ask? You can't base how many rapes actually occur based off convictions alone. The majority of rapes never end in a convinction, usually because there isn't enough evidence. That's how the justice system should work of course, but just because there wasn't enough legal evidence to prove that a rape occurred, doesn't mean it didn't. I have unfortunately had to counsel many people (yes men too, not just women) who've been assulted but the perpe…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:21 AM
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The important question to that is, do Conservative women have objectively better sex lives? Of course men are going to have a better sex life if they're with a woman who was raised to believe that she should never say no to her husband, no matter how much distress or pain it causes her. That's my argument against that. The man might be having a great time but if his partner isn't, then that shouldn't be considered a win in my book. If studies have shown that conservative women do have better sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:08 AM
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Where did you get the statistic that 1 in 100 (1%) men are killed at gunpoint? In 2019 the rate of death for males, by firearms was 20.7 in 100,000, which is 0.02%. That is including accidental deaths and suicide (both of these things account for the majority of gun related deaths). This is compared to the statistic of 3 in 5 women being sexually assulted/raped at some point in their lives. If we're talking about straight up murder then yes, men are more likely to be murdered (by other men I mig…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:01 AM
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Or just don't do shitty things like tell your partner (that you've been with for 2+ years) you're speaking to other people, in order to make yourself seem super desirable. Oneitis is bad but so is ending a serious, loving relationship for no good reason.
/r/TheRedPill26/09/21 01:42 AM
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Same here. I make myself look good for my man but I'm not wearing a full face of makeup, uncomfortable clothes, and spending hours doing my hair everyday. Nor do I do much of the "50's housewife" type stuff. We split the chores equally. I hate doing laundry so he does that, he hates vacuuming so I do that. Equal division of labour. He doesn't love me for what I can do for him and vice versa. We love each other because we're made for each other. We're partners in ever sense of the word. Call me w…
/r/AntiFeminists18/09/21 11:42 PM
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You only really mentioned things related to the traditional, nuclear family. Has feminism caused a decline in life expectancy? Perhaps it has directly halted technological advancements? Stopped antibiotics and vaccines from being created? If the idea of women being more equal if your idea of a declining society then I'm not sure what to tell you.
/r/AntiFeminists18/09/21 11:35 PM
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Every living thing, male or female, has a "biological imperative" to procreate. Us humans are a bit different though. We don't just eat, sleep, fuck, and die. We create new things, come up with new ideas, simply because we want to see whether we can. We sing, dance, and tell each other stories simply because we find it enjoyable. We have deep bonds, not just with our romantic partners but also our extended family and friends, because it makes us feel secure and happy. We help others, often when …
/r/AntiFeminists18/09/21 11:31 PM
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If you have a loving equal partnership then it's not that difficult to distribute the chores. I hate doing laundry so my partner does the laundry. He hates vacuuming so I do that. He washes the dishes while I clean up the kitchen counters. I could go on but I think I made my point. The only problem is that we both hate cleaning the shower, so we toss a coin for that one.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/09/21 01:06 PM
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There should definitely be charges of neglect. I understand that you can't always protect your children from danger and that you can't always tell who's a predator just by looking at them, but this wasn't a one time thing. It wasn't a one off that happened because a parent genuinely believes they could trust someone. This was hundreds of times over the course of 11 years. There were several adults who could have stepped (her bio father, her aunt, her uncle, her teachers) but they didn't.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/08/21 03:49 PM
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I unfortunately have a very close family member who had this happen to her. Horrific sexual abuse from the ages of 2-13, culminating in a pregnancy and abortion just after she turned 13. The guy did get put away eventually but it was only once she finally had the courage to come forward at 14. I don't believe that her mother had no idea this was going on. The mother would have heard the screams and seen the physical damage left behind. Not only did she marry a pedo but she stayed with a pedo. Th…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/08/21 09:20 PM
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I find it sad that these young women are referring to themselves as "owned" or having "owners". I know it's meant to be a joke but I take healthy relationships very seriously. People aren't dogs, you don't own them. A relationship is meant to be a partnership, where you love and support each other in all aspects of your lives. I don't own my partner and he doesn't own me. We're 2 fully autonomous beings who make a choice to be together, because we love each other (seriously, I'd jump in front of…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/08/21 09:15 PM
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I'm an actual therapist (not an armchair one like many people on Reddit, I've done proper training). I've had more than a few clients that have had past traumatic relationships, both men and women. It doesn't matter whether the abuse was physical, sexual, or mental, the result is the similar. To all those clients I say "when you're thinking about getting into another relationship, take it slow". People who experience any kind of abusive relationship often end up with screwed up attachments. This…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/08/21 07:55 PM
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Shaving one's entire body is not only a pain in the ass, but it can also cause problems. Constantly shaving can cause skin irritation. If I shave my legs too often then it causes my skin to become beyond itchy (yay for eczema). Not to mention that pubic hair is there for a reason, to help prevent harmful bacteria and yeast build up. I'd never expect my partner to shave their entire body for me, and I'd hope that they'd never expect that of me. To shave or not to shave is a personal choice.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/08/21 05:34 PM
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I am incredibly grateful for my step dad. My bio father wasn't the best, he was ambivalent about having a child. I only exist because being pregnant was supposed to cure my mother's health problem (I didn't but that's a story for another day). I know my bio dad loves me and I don't really blame him for not being the best. When it comes to children, they have to be something you truly, 100% want. You mentioned "traditional wife". I think the problem is that a lot of people want a "traditional spo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/08/21 08:46 PM
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I know plenty of older women who have fabulous 2nd husbands. My own step father treats me as his own and he has ever since he married my mum when I was 8. The difference is that my mum wasn't bitter and entilited. Obviously she made it clear that we were a package deal, but she understood that not every man would want that. And to be honest, why would you even want to marry someone who doesn't care for your child? I know if I was a single parent, I'd only get into a relationship with someone who…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/08/21 06:45 PM
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There's 22.5 years in between me and my partner. We met when I was 20 and he was 42, the relationship just kinda happened because we balance each other almost perfectly. A lot of the comments from FDS were along the lines of "when you were a baby he was in university, that's gross and makes him a pedo". I tried to reason with them but no amount of logic would sway them. It was honestly insulting. They were basically saying I'm a child that's incapable of making my own choices. I'm a grown woman,…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/08/21 04:39 PM
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You're probably right about that. They're not doing themselves any favours, bitterness isn't a good look (and if I can respectfully add that some of the men on this sub have fallen into the same trap). I wouldn't want to be with a man who blames my gender for all his misfortunes. Because if you can blame my gender, then it's not that big of a leap to blaming me for everything that goes wrong (I was in such a relationship when I was 18, it was bad). The same can be said for men. Men don't want to…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/08/21 04:30 PM
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I can't speak for anyone else but for me it's mostly curiosity. I don't really agree with a lot of what is said on here but I always try to expose myself to views that oppose mine. I find it aids personal growth to listen to people that think very differently from me. I'm also curious as to how people end up with more extreme views. I lurk on FDS for the same reason. The majority of women don't think the way they do, so I want to know why they think that way.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/08/21 02:22 AM
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FDS isn't just horrible towards men either, they're horrible towards any woman who doesn't agree with their "rules". I got pulled to pieces on there because my partner is older than me. They called me delusional, stupid, a pedo-sympathiser, etc (I should note that my partner and I met when I was an adult). I've seen them say truly vile things about women, as well as men.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/08/21 12:37 AM
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Honestly FDS and this sub (as well as subs that are similar to FDS and this one) are so similar it's almost funny. I've lurked on both. I'm fairly convinced I could take a post from here, change the pronouns, tweak the wording a little bit, and FDS would lap it up. I have a feeling the same would be true vice versa. Men and women are perfectly capable of having sincere discussions about their differences, it happens all the time. It can't happen between women who think men are out to get them, a…
/r/MGTOW230/07/21 03:06 AM
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As the other reply said, pull your weight and only marry someone that you truly loves (and who truly loves you bac), and you'll most likely be fine. If you have children then be an equal parent. Clean the vomit, change the diapers, and parent your kids in the same way your wife does. And above all, keep the lines of communication open. Relationships fail when communication fails, leaving partners feelings resentful of each other. If you can both consistently communicate your needs, and what you …
/r/MGTOW229/07/21 09:13 PM
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I don't think I did any shit tests with my partner, at least not the sneaky ones I've seen spoken about on here. The only thing that could potentially be seen as a test was when I told him about my endometriosis, I said I needed to know that he was okay with that. I laid out all the gory details of my disease and how it would inevitably effect him in certain ways (like how I'm often in too much pain to have sex and I can't get pregnant without invasive fertility treatments). After I'd given him …
/r/TheRedPill14/07/21 01:16 AM
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I'm probably not supposed to be here for reasons. (I think I found this sub from a link in another sub). Does TRP really think that men are superior in almost every way? Physical strength sure but intelligence? Humor? I'm not sure how someone would come to that conclusion. Men and women have similar IQ scores on average. The biggest factor for intelligence is socioeconomic statues, gender has little to do with it. Besides there are many forms of intelligence. Some people are great at remembering…
/r/TheRedPill13/07/21 04:11 PM
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The only way I could see someone being raped by different people for 10 years is if they've been sex trafficked (which of course does happen more often than people realise, but the victims are usually children from less fortunate areas). While no one deserves to be raped and the fault always lies entirely on the rapist, if you're constantly finding yourself in those situations then you'd need to reevaluate what you're doing. It's all well and good saying "people shouldn't be rapists" but unfortu…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/07/21 03:32 PM
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You've made some really great points. I agree that the gender war is going too far. Women are thinking that all men are horrible people who only care about sex, men are thinking that all women are stone cold bitches that only care about money. If you thinking about it logically it's clear that the majority of people aren't like that. Of course there's shitty people out there who would happily shove you in front of a train if they stood something to gain from it, but most people are generally goo…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre26/06/21 08:08 PM
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Thank you for your answer, it was very insightful. I appreciate you taking the time to write all that. I totally agree that the opportunity for men to have the therapeutic space they need has been severely diminished. Just like women need to space to rant about men, men need space to rant about women. You're also right about men not being able to access therapy. I decided to specialise in infertility and I was disappointed about how women-centric that area is. Infertilty is just as heartbreaking…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre25/06/21 03:09 PM
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I would but I'm actually not with him right now. He's at his parents helping look after his dad and I'm at my parents helping look after my mum. Sucks to be apart but our parents need a bit of looking after at the moment so needs must. We had a nice talk on the phone a couple of hours ago though. I bought him some chilli seeds to grow because he likes spicy things, apparently they're doing very well. I was dubious about his ability to grow a plant since he somehow managed to kill a cactus, but h…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre24/06/21 09:07 PM
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I'm not taking you to task. I'm sorry if I offended you. I'm just curious about your viewpoints is all. I disagree with what you're saying but that's okay, people don't have to agree about everything. I'm not one of those people that only want to listen to an echo chamber. I like seeking out different opinions and trying to understand them more. I don't ever want to become someone who refuses to change their mind about anything. Of course I focus a lot of my time on my partner, as he does with m…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre24/06/21 08:52 PM
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I'm not going to come to your house because I don't go to clients homes (I prefer to do therapy in a more neutral environment). But I'm more than happy to talk with you over messages if you're serious about having had a tough week and needing someone to talk to. I extend that offer to many people. I might not agree with what you're saying but that doesn't mean you don't deserve support, so if you want to then feel free. I have a significant other. We've even together 5 years now. Of course I sup…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre24/06/21 08:36 PM
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You're wrong. I do give two hoots about the men you mentioned. I've sat and chatted with men who I think are looking a bit down. Sure if I've got places to be then I might not talk with a stranger for an hour, but then I don't know anyone who has enough free time to talk to random people for hours. I also volunteer a decent chunk of my time to counsel people who are caring for loved ones. I don't get any monetary compensation for that. I don't have to do it. I do it because I know that carers, e…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre24/06/21 08:21 PM
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The article said that women don't care about men's emotions. I'm curious as to how you feel about the fact that the majority of counsellors/therapists (as well as other caring professions such as nurses) are women. I'm a woman and a therapist. I'd say about half my clients at the moment are men and I care just as much about their emotions as I do my women clients. I know you might say that I only care because it's my job but you'd be wrong about that. I don't care because it's my job, it's my jo…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre24/06/21 07:45 PM
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