Most men have been brainwashed by the movies mainly, to seek out love from a women. This pursuit can consume their entire lives - dictating what career they choose, how they dress, how they speak etc. This pursuit can cost lots of time, cause depression, cause low self worth, suicide in some cases. This pursuit can cost lots of money and emotional energy if it ends in divorce....

All in the pursuit of something unattainable, a love from a women..

Women when they say I love you, is said not for the same reasons men think ( how it is in the movies) it's either a) a representation of temporal intense emotions caused by chemical reactions that they are feeling in that particular moment (can change on a dime at any moment after for any reason), b) if they are dependent on you, it's said so you won't leave them.

So you need to eliminate the desire for a women's love how you perceive it. It doesn't exist. You're wishing for pink elephants....

Why do men really seek love?

For many it is because they didn't get love from their mothers and are seeking it in a women.

But for everyone and this will sound a bit woo woo..... It is because in our real true state we are really one. To have separate objective experience one must become two, subject and object. It is this separation, the pain of which, the sacrifice to get here, is what the real longing for love is. It's nothing to.do with women.

So where can I find love....?

Two ways. First is by loving yourself unconditionally. Second is by recommunication with source, whatever you may call it, God, spirit etc from which you were separated from, which can be done by various practices depending on your beliefs and traditions.

The love from yourself and from God is the real love that you seek and the only true love attainable here.