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How is your dirty talk?
/r/seduction27/04/20 01:58 PM
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Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl, a classic.
/r/seduction10/03/20 06:01 PM
3

Initiative. Leadership Step by Step. Both books of a progression of exercises to actively do, not just for passive reading.
/r/seduction10/03/20 12:56 PM
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Who said sex had to be meaningless?
/r/seduction30/01/20 08:51 PM
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Can you link to your podcast for context?
/r/seduction24/12/19 02:52 PM
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/r/fPUA is in the sidebar. The opportunity to post there exists, as does the opportunity to start a company to serve women who want to improve their attraction skills. Women don't seem to participate in such communities or pay for such services. The question is why not. I suspect they feel they don't need them. Maybe they don't like the idea of working at it. If you really want to know why they don't do it, I think you have to ask women. If you ask enough of them, I hope you'll report back here …
/r/seduction24/12/19 02:49 PM
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She didn't give advice. She gave perspective.
/r/seduction06/12/19 03:17 PM
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Any chance of you doing one for Initiative?
/r/seduction03/12/19 03:07 AM
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Simplified: To learn a skill, practice.
/r/seduction18/09/19 03:43 AM
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Consider saying "I'm too inexperienced to approach women." Everyone skilled at anything was once inexperienced too. The more you practice the more you improve. If you don't practice, you may get lucky, but probably not improve. It's hard. It takes time. You'll feel like giving up. There's no other way. The rewards are worth it, at least in my experience.
/r/seduction12/08/19 05:25 PM
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People whose minds are stuck on men learning attraction = misogyny won't understand it, but teaching the core lessons of sense of self, compassion, listening, etc could even work in high school and would result in more thoughtful and mature young men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/08/19 01:25 AM
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The mainstream socialization to growing boys and men is how to succeed materially. I know of almost no message from institutions like school, church, and mainstream media that teaches them attraction, dating, or relationship skills. While height, hair, and some accidents of birth matter, men's behavior plays a larger role in attraction for women. Men who follow only mainstream messages may succeed material but won't be able to attract, date, or relate well. Since material building skills don't c…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/08/19 03:47 PM
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Alcohol doesn't enable you to do things you couldn't before. It raises the variability so you do things you normally wouldn't. High variability can help if you have poor skills -- that is, not good enough to attract the girls you want to -- because the variability sometimes brings you above the threshold necessary for some girls. That is, you get lucky sometimes, like swinging for the fences. When your skills are solid -- that is, good enough to attract most girls you want to -- you don't want v…
/r/seduction27/07/19 01:01 PM
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Did the post say anything about exclusivity? Having a boyfriend doesn't mean exclusive.
/r/seduction04/07/19 02:12 PM
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what I needed ... I need `... I need ... And I need ... That's serious neediness. I hope you don't mind bluntness: neediness is among the least attractive, most repellent traits.
/r/seduction20/05/17 06:30 PM
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More candidates, more approaches. Better sex. Conversation skills. Clean, well-appointed apartment.
/r/seduction05/05/17 03:01 PM
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I mostly write about picking up girls, but after a nearly 5 year relationship ended, I posted a few posts about breaking up in the past few months. Might be worth checking out a few recent posts: https://thedoctorcoach.wordpress.com.
/r/seduction24/04/17 03:22 PM
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The starting point of dominance, like most forms of leadership, is to listen. You write as if it's guesswork to figure out if she prefers having her hair pulled, wrists tied, etc. I don't mean outright asking what she likes because it's asking her to be too vulnerable, at least early in a relationship. Instead of guessing, test in each direction, see how she responds in each direction. Decrease in areas where she responds tepidly and increase where she responds more. You can throw in some "You l…
/r/seduction21/04/17 03:03 AM
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The most important element is performance: musical instruments, singing, dance, acting. Early stages are better than nothing, but don't expect much results until you pass the stage of just following instruction to where you can express yourself in the language of the craft.
/r/seduction17/04/17 05:35 PM
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So does this imply that men are susceptible to PUA techniques in the same way? If women make themselves attractive to men, then men will act on that attraction, same as the other way around. Simple as that.
/r/seduction28/03/17 02:57 AM
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I started working on attraction skills when I was 35. Nothing beats developing the skills of cold approaching. It takes years to get good, to where girls find you attractive because of your social skills and appearance, everything about the world changes. There are beautiful women everywhere. Places you can meet beautiful women: parks cafes the street subway restaurants parties classes bookstores malls etc Half the population is female. They're everywhere. The main question is if you have the sk…
/r/seduction20/03/17 12:00 PM
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I'd listen to the coach. his advice is the best in the thread so far.
/r/seduction13/01/17 05:41 PM
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False dichotomy. I would choose to make myself more attractive to attract more women I was attracted to. In fact, that's what I did. It was hard and took years but it was one of the best changes I've done in my life, improving every relationship I have, including with myself, my self-awareness, and my ability to take responsibility. I no longer live in a world of scarcity that would lead to questions like yours.
/r/seduction02/01/17 12:42 PM
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More evidence of the lines women are full of that they feed men. It's a wonder to find one who communicates sincerely and honestly. They talk about us using lines and not just being ourselves. We're not even in their league.
/r/seduction01/01/17 02:58 AM
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Then report back your results so others can learn what you wanted to.
/r/seduction25/12/16 03:02 PM
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Imagine you read a bunch of books on weightlifting and started going to the gym but get frustrated that other guys are bigger than you. First, reading doesn't build muscle, so you wouldn't expect reading time to contribute to changing your body. Next, after a year, you haven't been going that long. Most guys who have been going longer will be bigger. There will always be someone bigger. In any case, even the best can only improve at a maximum rate. A year isn't that long, especially if you start…
/r/seduction22/11/16 12:15 PM
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Real estate has three most important considerations: Location Location Location
/r/seduction19/11/16 01:58 AM
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You have to work out some of this on your own.
/r/seduction13/11/16 02:38 AM
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I prefer she ends with "thank you," but that's just a matter of taste.
/r/seduction13/11/16 02:35 AM
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My view of the whole point of any relationship is to make people feel comfortable being vulnerable with you. Keep developing your skills to behave and communicate in ways that make her feel comfortable sharing vulnerabilities faster and that are more deep. Each time you support her for them, she will feel comfortable sharing more. Eventually you get to where she feels comfortable coming over. That's when you invite her over. You can also invite her to meet you at a place that happens to be a gro…
/r/seduction12/11/16 10:56 PM
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My dates are almost always inviting her to my place to cook dinner together, sometimes shopping for food first. Interactive, sensual, show my skills without showing off, no worrying about whose paying, no worrying if she's late because I'm home anyway, no worries about what to wear, she usually contributes by bringing wine or dessert, intimate, bed is close. The fun comes from the interaction with the girl, not the external stuff you're doing. All you have to do is make sure the interaction befo…
/r/seduction12/11/16 08:37 PM
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Why can't everyone be like Michael Jordan, who just picked up a basketball and was the best in the world right away? Oh wait, he had to practice. A lot. And that means he started off sucking. Which means when he started he was awkward. And where are the people who didn't look awkward by not starting practicing? Not in the NBA Hall of Fame. Everyone who got great sucked first. OP, sorry everyone can't be as great as you without trying. How about we celebrate people for trying?
/r/seduction18/10/16 12:53 PM
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"Thanks, but I'm not going to sleep with you if that's what you're getting at."
/r/seduction11/09/16 12:53 PM
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I hope you're joking with that 90% number, leaving less than 10% for action and approaching. I'd put approaching, grooming, fitness, and fashion at 75%.
/r/seduction21/07/16 11:04 AM
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Great video on this topic: "It's not about the nail" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg Most men can not comprehend this, so they are baffled when the woman blows up and says he is insensitive or things like that. It takes two to tango. You ought to add "Most women can not comprehend this, so they are baffled when the man withdraws and says she blows up over nothing like that," so that men don't think it's just their fault. You can lead women to understand you better too, at least in a …
/r/seduction04/05/16 11:15 AM
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Your experience with initial success followed by poor longer-term results doesn't tell me "don't approach." It tells me "don't approach wrong" or "improve your longer-term skills." How you approach doesn't have to determine the rest of your relationship. You can easily throw in a "I like a man to take charge," stories about how men leading you won you over, and things like that to bring out the behavior you want in the guy or filter out ones you don't like.
/r/seduction01/04/16 11:55 AM
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Girls who don't approach are left with the dregs left by the girls who do. Your choice if you approach or not, just know the consequences. Same with guys.
/r/seduction01/04/16 11:51 AM
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"Thanks, but I'm not going to sleep with you if that's what you're getting at."
/r/seduction18/03/16 08:40 PM
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Not sure why people downvoted you since you answered and, for that matter approached about 20 more than most women. Still, a man developing his skill can might cold approach 20 women in one afternoon or evening. By the same token, I don't know what it's like to fear I might get pregnant. For all the similarities between men and women, there are major differences.
/r/seduction11/02/16 03:23 PM
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You know we are just like you? How many men have you cold approached?
/r/seduction10/02/16 11:46 AM
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Cook dinner together. Sensual, no cost (you were going to eat anyway), and you're at your place. You can shop together first for more moving around.
/r/seduction27/01/16 03:59 AM
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The phrase "don't shit where you eat" implies sexual relations are shitty. Thinking that way will lead you to create problems.
/r/seduction14/12/15 12:34 PM
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You're a year younger than I was when I started and your 8 year relationship was better than my decade near dry spell. Working in this area was one of the best things I've done for myself. I've had better relationships with women, and with everyone, than ever before. Now I coach for Brad P. There's nothing holding you back from attaining anything anyone else has. You only have to put in the time and emotional effort.
/r/seduction15/10/15 12:12 PM
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Learn useful life hobbies that you would anyway besides getting girls. I would put cooking near the top. You have to eat, the more you cook the healthier you'll eat, and most girls find a man cooking sexy. Next, I consider learning attraction a nerdy hobby to pick up women. Go out more. Practice picking up girls more. I tell them about it, though usually describing it as personal development.
/r/seduction28/09/15 07:05 PM
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I'm used to women lying all the time so I figure it's part of their strategy. Almost as much as they use lines. I don't like it when they imply men lie or use lines a lot and they don't.
/r/seduction08/09/15 11:49 PM
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Every guy I know who is any good felt the same way before he developed his skills. There's nothing special about them that got them there. You have all the skills they did when they were at your stage.
/r/seduction25/08/15 01:36 AM
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Very passive perspective, all about concept of being approached. You can approach too. You can be active and take responsibility for making things happen, not just wait for men to act first. There are plenty of very feminine ways to behave while still being assertive.
/r/seduction23/08/15 03:26 PM
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I've also prioritized work over multiple girls now, but I'm open with the girl to make sure she's happy with us being in principle not exclusive.
/r/seduction16/08/15 05:33 PM
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Just lower their priority in the rotation. They aren't just sitting around waiting for you all the time. They already have other guys. They'll lower you in their rotation too. The bigger question is if you genuinely want exclusivity. You have about twice as much life left as you've lived so far, about three or four times more of your post-puberty life. Decades ago society imposed requirements of exclusivity, or at least the appearance of it. That imposition is much weaker today. Do you want excl…
/r/seduction16/08/15 01:57 PM
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I got started at 35, young man. So from my perspective, you have a six year head start on me. And I wouldn't have believed the things I achieved with women, and that was after a ten-year nearly dry spell, never having cold approached in my life. Now I coach. It takes work, though. Almost a year before I started getting consistent results. Now my relationships with women is one of the best parts of my life and I apply what I learned here to everything else.
/r/seduction12/08/15 10:23 PM
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If equality was easy to get we would have it already. It's not, which is why we don't. But we value it so we work for it. What makes it hard isn't that we have to lift heavy weights or write many lines of code. It's that we have to get people benefiting from the inequality to see it. If you want to make you troubles look easy, study Mandela, MLK, or any number of others who worked for equality. You'll learn what works and put your challenges in perspective.
/r/MensRights26/05/15 11:55 AM
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The best time for a man "to get with girls" is the period after puberty and before death. Anyone who says otherwise doesn't know what they're talking about. Men in their 40s, 50s, and beyond don't go for the same things men in their 20s do, so men in their 20s, who haven't learned what different values older men have, don't realize what they get from their relationships.
/r/seduction25/05/15 02:51 PM
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Due process is not blaming the victim.
/r/MensRights24/05/15 05:29 PM
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Start small and build. Changing your behavior will lead to changing your thought patterns way more than the other way around. Express what you can. Tomorrow express a little more. Repeat.
/r/seduction07/05/15 09:30 PM
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Jackpot implies luck. Sounds more like the result of skill borne of disciplined practice. Unless you mean the girls. I guess you could say they were lucky that he found them.
/r/seduction16/04/15 12:12 PM
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Girls don't use technique to attract men -- keeping fit and dressing well work. They use technique to determine behavior and status. In other words, congruence tests, like asking questions with no right answer, or annoying you to see if you lose your cool. They act like they don't like sex to see how you react. Ask any of them. They'll start by saying they don't do these things. Then keep the conversation going so they feel comfortable. Then they'll say, yeah they do it but not consciously. If y…
/r/seduction07/12/14 12:38 AM
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Your method for improving conversation is to read more? Reading more information won't develop the social skills of conversing and more than reading about playing the piano will help you play the piano. Talk more. If you're curious about improv, take the classes. Then report back here what worked or not. You'll learn a lot more that way. To answer your question, I've taken improve and acting classes. Both helped a lot. They don't solve everything, but they were worth the cost to me.
/r/seduction04/10/14 05:36 PM
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What you call cockblocking is blaming others. Maybe they deserve blame maybe not. Your issue is you want to achieve a goal. You can't change the past. You can prepare for next time. Work out how you and your roommate can help each other next time. Figure out how to make her comfortable staying if you have no alternative. Game is a lot more than just talk and fingering. Well, depending on what kind of success you want. If you want to get lucky, you're doing fine. If you want consistent success, t…
/r/seduction03/10/14 04:57 PM
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At least for the honeymoon you might want to lay off Reddit.
/r/seduction13/09/14 04:20 PM
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The girls he was with that I met weren't students. If you're reading this subreddit, you might want to look up Brad P.
/r/seduction08/09/14 03:19 AM
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Cold approach works fine.
/r/seduction07/09/14 05:51 PM
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I have a PhD in physics and coach with BradP (hence my screen name). I didn't learn game until well after my PhD, but I remember school well enough. I didn't have social skills, so I didn't have success with women, but I had time for a social life, mainly playing sports, where I competed nationally. First year was very difficult because my U.S. liberal arts college education put me at a disadvantage relative to classmates who studied only math and science so my grades suffered and I was anxious …
/r/seduction07/09/14 05:46 PM
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the CSA study asked women whether they had sexual contact with someone while they were “unable to provide consent or stop what was happening because you were passed out, drugged, drunk, incapacitated or asleep?” I wonder if 1 in 5 men would also qualify as victims by this definition -- it would appear any sex when they were drunk would qualify since they couldn't provide consent, even if they wanted to.
/r/MensRights13/08/14 11:38 PM
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You stated your problem: I place 95% of my self-worth on whether or not I can have sex with beautiful women. Either enjoy your condition or find other things on which to place your self-worth.
/r/seduction11/08/14 01:38 AM
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Practice practice practice
/r/seduction21/07/14 07:02 PM
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She wants to understand something new -- I'm sure inside her is genuine motivation to learn -- but doesn't see how to get out of her world view, which she can't distinguish from reality. She isn't open to seeing your point of view, only to fitting what you say into her world view. It doesn't fit into it so she's trying to figure out how it fits. Whenever I've heard someone say "Not my opinion that's fact," whatever they said is opinion, not fact, but in their world it's fact. In my experience, l…
/r/seduction18/06/14 04:48 PM
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Four hours and everyone writes about what to say? Body language and kino trumps verbal language. Step between them with your back to him and keep talking regular to her. He'll get the idea and walk away to find other girls. That's if you don't like the guy and want him to go away. If you've built loyalty from the girl, let him hit on her. She's going home with you anyway so why not? Maybe I'm vain, but I get a kick the more awesome the guys who try yet get nowhere with my girl.
/r/seduction28/03/14 08:24 PM
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If you enjoy being boring, enjoy it and the life that goes with it. If you don't, then improve your social skills. How you were in the past doesn't force you to be that way in the future. Same with many things in life. If you're fat and don't want to be, exercise and eat healthier. Don't say because you're fat you have to be fat forever. If you don't have a job look for one. Don't think because you don't have a job you never will. If you don't have money, go earn it. Don't say just because you'r…
/r/seduction14/10/13 05:15 PM
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Useful advice for a lot more in life than just picking up women. Although that may be the best application.
/r/seduction05/10/13 06:43 PM
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Wow, I consider myself reasonably aware about harassment, but wouldn't have thought of Lydia's behavior as harassment until seeing it in this context. Here it seems clear -- though no threat of force or violence, clear attempts to intimidate and hurt. The world will be a different place when society at large recognizes behavior like Lydia's as sexual harassment -- a more comfortable and egalitarian place with less sense of unearned entitlement.
/r/MensRights04/10/13 04:34 AM
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Anyone who thinks sex can hurt a relationship doesn't know what friendship or sex is. It's a common belief that probably holds more people back from the best relationships they could have than any other -- men and women. If you're attracted, nothing creates more intimacy than sex. (If you're not attracted, I wouldn't bother.) As far as I'm concerned, if a girl is attractive, I'm going to flirt with her. When she's turned on and pursuing me, I let her. Then the sex is awesome. If she's a friend f…
/r/seduction01/10/13 09:53 PM
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Yes, the pdf at the bottom of the page.
/r/seduction01/10/13 03:01 AM
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Just posted above, but I'll repeat. There's a free download of a great, accessible version at this site -- http://www.beatrice.com/tao-te-ching. Plenty of other translations exist, but I found that one by far more accessible and fun to read. Also Chuang Tzu, but I'd start with Tao.
/r/seduction30/09/13 10:04 PM
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I agree! I wish I had more to say, except if you haven't read the Tao Te Ching, try it out. There's a free download of a great, accessible version at this site -- http://www.beatrice.com/tao-te-ching. Plenty of other translations exist, but I found that one by far more accessible and fun to read. Also Chunag Tzu, but I'd start with Tao.
/r/seduction30/09/13 10:03 PM
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I would hope she would be ecstatic that you do it and thank you for putting in effort for something that benefits her. What could be more important in a partner to be sexier and more attractive? Sometimes when I do something she likes, like say, throw her against the wall and start kissing her, I say Me: "Mmm... I bet you liked that." Her: "Yeah, it was great." Me: "It made you feel good?" Her: "Yeah." Me: "And what do you say to someone who does something that makes you feel good?" Her: "Thank …
/r/seduction30/09/13 06:06 PM
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All too common pattern in relationships: Guy lives awesome life with amazing passions. Girl falls for guy, in large part for his passions. Girl wants more attention from guy, guy gives it to her. Girl supercedes guy's greatest passion, becomes his greatest passion. Girl loses attraction for guy because he lost his passion. Everyone did what they thought was best at the time. Nobody did anything wrong. But relationship ends. Lesson learned: Be yourself first. Love and practice your passions. If s…
/r/seduction30/09/13 12:12 PM
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I coach for BradP and have had a primary girlfriend for a couple years in a deep, meaningful relationship. She loves that I coach. She constantly tells me "Other guys need to learn this stuff." Her friends want me to fly to their cities to teach their boyfriends better game. I use her as a prop to teach kino and she loves it. Plus it helps the guys learn kino much better than they could get without practicing with a live female. I don't agree people should keep that they are learning attraction …
/r/seduction30/09/13 12:07 PM
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It resonates with everyone. We're all human and have the same emotional systems even if we have different backgrounds and cultures. Read that whole series. I find the topic fascinating and helpful, especially in developing pickup skills.
/r/seduction29/09/13 04:50 PM
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You're describing an effect psychologists call empathy gaps -- that you're in a different mood when you plan something than when you do it, so your emotions and motivations change. Here is a series of posts that talks about them and how to use them to your advantage -- http://joshuaspodek.com/insidious-barriers-hard-part-1. In terms of meeting girls, this is why I find warm-up sets so important. I don't care who I approach, as long as I get my first couple approaches in, they switch me from not …
/r/seduction29/09/13 04:21 PM
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Yes! The underlying perspective -- that physically interacting with you is awesome -- is one of the best things to internalize. Your confidence will turn her on as much as any physical technique. Try it a few times until it feels natural. The first few times might be difficult, but it takes root. (The opposite -- that you feel lucky just to get to kiss her -- kills attraction).
/r/seduction25/09/13 01:35 AM
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If you're talking about having her thank me, it's not just witty and I recommend it for more than just kissing. It goes with the philosophy behind this post -- http://thedoctorcoach.wordpress.com/2012/12/20/how-i-get-girls-to-love-pleasing-me-advanced-relationship-technique -- and it counters the all-too-familiar beliefs and practices that girls give guys sex or attention as a reward.
/r/seduction24/09/13 07:10 PM
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First of all, what you say is not as important as your body language, kino, and how you say it -- things like tonality, pacing, volume, etc. I generally prefer to end the kiss, thereby pacing things, so the most important thing is that I'm pulling her head back gently but firmly by pulling her the hair on the back of her head or wherever i'm holding her, but usually it's the hair. What I say is secondary to that touching and leading. Next, how I say it. It depends on our mood. If we're playing a…
/r/seduction24/09/13 03:36 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. A lot of work, yes, but rewarding and enjoyable in my experience. For her and me. It's led to learning a lot about each other and bringing each other pleasure and joy.
/r/MensRights12/09/13 02:42 AM
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How does this relate to your experience? -- http://thedoctorcoach.wordpress.com/2012/12/20/how-i-get-girls-to-love-pleasing-me-advanced-relationship-technique Does it seem like useful and effective advice?
/r/MensRights11/09/13 06:24 PM
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There is no absolute good or bad response. The only measure is how it works for the two people.
/r/seduction02/09/13 10:27 PM
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I dislike the word "nice guy" because it has nothing to do with the problem, and it leads to the thinking that men have to be the opposite of nice. Only if you believe in the false dichotomy that you have to be nice or its opposite. As you point out there are many alternatives -- confident, assertive, funny, seductive, etc comprise some of the many alternatives to nice or asshole.
/r/seduction02/09/13 10:22 PM
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Neither relationships nor women are simple. There is no single best guide, except living life and challenging yourself. For that matter, knowing yourself isn't that easy. I wouldn't recommend continuing with a mindset that asks which book serves best as a guide. Explore and enjoy all those books and your relationships.
/r/seduction26/08/13 01:23 PM
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For what it's worth, that post takes issue against "The idea that men can’t be raped because they’re always willing".
/r/MensRights20/08/13 03:36 AM
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The voting age was lowered to the age to register for the armed forces or become a conscientious objector.
/r/MensRights19/08/13 06:51 PM
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tl;dr -- There's no need for a system and you shouldn't use one. Here's my system, which you should use.
/r/seduction19/08/13 01:54 PM
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Imagine you had found one of those women's wallet that she didn't realize she'd dropped and you were approaching her to return it. Would you ask how to approach her to return her wallet without looking creepy? No. Because you're bringing something valuable to her you know she'll appreciate. Yes, you have to interrupt her, but you know that's okay. Now which is worth more -- a few dollars and a replaceable credit card or the awesome totality of a man that is you? If the money is worth more, fix t…
/r/seduction17/08/13 05:42 PM
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meaningful sex is far more enjoyable than one-night stands False dichotomy. I've had deeply meaningful one night stands. I don't know where people get the idea that fast or casual means meaningless, but it will hurt your relationships.
/r/seduction02/08/13 05:40 PM
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OP's post reveals a belief far more insidious and counter-productive to getting intimacy than free drinks. He compares a drink -- a material good that costs him money -- to a blow job -- a non-material sex act that costs nothing. When you pay for a drink you lose something material and she gains something material -- it's win-lose. In my world a blow job is win-win because she enjoys her part as much as I enjoy mine. Thinking of a blow job as win-lose means believing she gives you something by b…
/r/seduction30/07/13 03:46 PM
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Seriously! The more women who learn to seduce, the better, at least in my view. I love when girls seduce me.
/r/seduction30/07/13 03:11 PM
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If only India had a historical example of overcoming oppression through non-violence. Does any come to mind?
/r/MensRights30/07/13 01:18 PM
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"Sex at Dawn" made a huge difference for me and helped me understand sexual relationships much better. I wouldn't necessarily say give up on monogamy, but at least know more about it. And about why men and women have the motivations we do and why society is set up to reward different behavior, leading many to dissatisfaction. Personally, the problems I saw with the original post weren't with the women's behavior but with the expectations of behavior at odds with what our ancestors evolved. I thi…
/r/seduction28/07/13 01:49 PM
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Kino. Most important comment here and the one I wanted to make. Talking is secondary to kino and body language.. Kino more. Kino better. All your conversation style is less important than your physical interaction. Keep this in perspective.
/r/seduction18/07/13 03:21 AM
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As low and manipulating the PUA's are... I've always seen "spitting game" as low and dirty... Where did you get this stereotype and why do you perpetuate it?
/r/MensRights09/07/13 10:05 PM
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Anytime.
/r/seduction25/06/13 11:00 PM
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I can't argue with that perspective. After reaching a certain level, though, I found what made men's learning counterintuitive was the beliefs and models propagated by social institutions motivated more toward social stability than personal fulfilment, like governments, schools, religions, publishers, and so on. Once you start rejecting their counterproductive teachings, attraction starts getting a lot easier. In my experience, after a certain point I got better by behaving more by what felt goo…
/r/seduction25/06/13 10:01 PM
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You could say the same thing about everything I've gotten good at -- sports, academics, business, hobbies, etc. Likewise, I'm on the other side of things I tried and never got good at -- playing musical instruments, the hobbies I dropped, the majors I decided not to take after a couple classes, etc. I chose to go through the challenges of learning to attract women because I expected the reward would be worth it. My relationships with women now vie for the best part of my life so I found the year…
/r/seduction25/06/13 08:53 PM
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I don't see any issue of fault. The way I see it, anyone can always take responsibility to improve their life. Learning behavioral skills takes time, but nearly every man can learn something to improve his technique. I have abundance mentality. First I faked it, yes, but now I don't. I have an abundance of women in my life. Any new one would have to be better than one in my life. That's part of why I coach, to help others reach that point.
/r/seduction25/06/13 08:32 PM
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I see misogyny outside the community of men learning attraction. Frankly I see more there. I see plenty of man-hating among women. I don't find the distribution of hatred of the other sex any different here than in the general population, including among women. Of course, that's just anecdote and gut feeling, no scientific measurement.
/r/seduction25/06/13 08:26 PM
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Has anyone else had moral dilemmas before starting this in earnest? I did until I realized women are intelligent human beings who make their own choices. They love sex and choose to have it for their own reasons. Why would I second-guess an adult's choice to consent? I don't have moral issues with her escalating and closing me, as long as she also makes sure I consent (women don't always check). So I learned my technique from a coach... can you think of a better way to learn? I am so much of a b…
/r/seduction25/06/13 08:21 PM
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Fun is great but nothing compares with physical and emotional intimacy you mutually share that leads to growth as an individual and a couple. Fun alone doesn't create that.
/r/seduction25/06/13 08:14 PM
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Girls may be impressed you approached, but will almost certainly still shoot you down unless she likes you first. You can believe that if you want, but it will discourage you from improving your skills. In most girls, how you approach will determine how much she likes you. Behavior attracts women more than it does men.
/r/seduction25/06/13 05:50 PM
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The U.S. Declaration of Independence says "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness," not the Constitution.
/r/MensRights19/06/13 05:38 AM
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"How to get a girl in your home into your bed" -- http://thedoctorcoach.wordpress.com/2012/12/12/how-to-get-a-girl-into-your-bed It begins You got her home. Now how do you get her into your bed? For some guys, the transition can be a huge challenge. They open a bottle of wine and show the girl their awesome apartment. Or they’ll walk her through their book collection. What should you do? Do you sit down and invite her? Do you ask? Do you share a glass of wine? What do you do? I’m going to descri…
/r/seduction11/06/13 10:50 PM
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Plenty of women just want sex. Maybe just for one night or maybe just while they recover from a breakup or whatever. I have no problem with consenting adults consenting to adult things. In any case, learning attraction for whatever reason leads to greater understanding. I've gone out nights just for sex and found wonderful, caring, enduring relationships. More importantly, the skills I learned at that stage of my development helped me become the man I am today -- a man who a few women have falle…
/r/seduction11/06/13 09:55 PM
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Thanks. It was quite an experience -- including the fancy dinner and art opening. No individual part was particularly baller, but the only way I could imagine it all coming together was through experience. Especially with the tooth brushes and condom wrappers.
/r/seduction11/06/13 09:49 PM
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I appreciate the comment. Yeah, I'm 41 and have been coaching a while. I've seen a lot and I know what I value. I've helped guys who just wanted to party, to score, to rack up numbers. I see nothing wrong with that. After all, I've met many girls who just wanted to party, to score, to rack up numbers too. When they find each other it's as rewarding to them as anything else. As for my personal interests, I like mutual attraction, passion, and enthusiasm based on openness and honesty. My secret tr…
/r/seduction11/06/13 09:43 PM
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I'm not in this to go halfway. "This" being life and the important things in it.
/r/seduction11/06/13 09:36 PM
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Probably my four girls in thirty hours story (sex with three, naked in bed with the fourth, with whom I'd already had sex) -- http://thedoctorcoach.wordpress.com/2013/02/22/lr-three-lays-in-24-hours-a-4th-in-my-bed-in-30. I'm still friends with three of them, now a couple years later. The fourth girl and I are actually still close. One of the most beautiful girls I've met, physically and personality. I only wish I hadn't lost the pendant in the rain. In any case, the experience was like putting …
/r/seduction11/06/13 01:43 PM
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I don't see the value of originality. Every type of date has been done before. What you want is something that works. I recommend meeting at a grocery store, shopping for food together, and cooking at your place. That requires some attraction first.
/r/seduction11/06/13 01:30 AM
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Anytime. There's more at my blog for those who like my style.
/r/seduction07/06/13 07:46 PM
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Depends what you want to coach and whom. In the sense that anyone can put up a web page and coach whoever pays them, you sound qualified, although anyone can do that. There are so many guys who have little to no skill, or even counterproductive skills, you'd probably be able to help many men (and they women they meet). I coach for Brad P. His name is on the program, so he vets and trains his coaches thoroughly. We go through stages to reach coach stage (and we have different levels of coaches) -…
/r/seduction07/06/13 03:45 PM
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Why do you want closure? I think what you want is a healthy, rewarding relationship with a girl. If you get it with her, great. If not, with someone else. You're dating other girls, right? If not, just date other girls. You don't have to close things with this girl to date others. If you enjoy spending time with this girl, spend time with her, but in proportion to time with other girls. You don't have to wait around for others to behave how you want them to. Enjoy life. Meet other girls and get …
/r/seduction27/05/13 04:20 PM
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Sorry for the tough love, but I'll share what I'd want to hear if I had written something like what you wrote (and I was like that before I started learning attraction). First, getting laughed at for trying to kiss someone is about as bad chemistry I can think of. Second, I need to know if she is genuinely interested in me Neediness is about the least attractive quality for anyone, male or female. Women can bring so much to a man's life -- joy, understanding, support, pleasure, happiness, and so…
/r/seduction27/05/13 03:17 PM
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Many people are posting a good start, which is to say something like "I hope you don't mind if I sit here" and sitting before they have a chance to respond. The sitting as you like on your terms shows leadership, which is attractive and will motivate most girls to wonder what you will do next. If that's all you do, they'll wait, you'll sit there, and things will get awkward fast. Make sure to keep talking and kino. What you talk about isn't that important since your body language just showed dom…
/r/seduction24/05/13 07:45 PM
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A lot of useful advice for improving yourself in general. But the topic here is seduction. Specific to seduction my top five tips are: Kino Kino Kino Kino more Kino yet more You have to approach to kino, so approaching more is included in these five.
/r/seduction13/05/13 08:19 AM
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I coach for BradP. One of our other coaches, Fadeaway, learned while living with his mother and was too young to get into bars. He took a bus to go to bar areas and talk to women outside the bars or in lobbies. He was more successful than almost anyone I've met. By successful I mean quantity and quality of women and relationships as well as personal development as a man. He had multi-year relationships, same night lays, ... everything.
/r/seduction13/05/13 01:17 AM
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I've never heard of anything good coming from a friend being on a date. Once someone else was there it was over. I'm sure good outcomes have happened in such situations, but so rare you have a better chance that night gaming from scratch. The lesson to learn is to make sure you're meeting alone. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. I wrote up an example -- http://thedoctorcoaching.blog.com/2013/03/22/an-example-of-handling-can-i-bring-a-friend-with-us -- of making sure about meeting …
/r/seduction21/04/13 11:49 AM
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What in life have you learned the easy way? Here's what you learn the easy way: cookies and ice cream taste good and a few things like that. The hard way: nearly everything of value or that helps you succeed in life because most people don't take time to learn it and sit eating cookies and ice cream.
/r/seduction19/04/13 12:35 PM
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Imagine advice given like that to young men not wanting to fight in other countries too. Now you have people who won't be asked to fight pushing young men who don't want to fight into fighting. How many wars get faught because each side has enough people like her pushing young men to fight and nobody questions this system? Why couldn't she find someone in a country we were fighting like herself -- who wouldn't be asked to fight but pushed others to fight -- and persuade them to stop pushing for …
/r/MensRights18/04/13 05:54 PM
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For dates or meeting? Union Square and all the stores around it for daytime meeting.
/r/seduction13/04/13 09:41 PM
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I see two issues. One is the use of the term. The other is your reaction. To get pissed, infuriated, and feel insulted by someone's words doesn't seem productive to me. I don't know what you can do to stop a word from becoming part of a language. If it falls into disuse it will go away. In the meantime, people talk how they talk.
/r/MensRights11/04/13 06:01 PM
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Everybody has their own values. If one guy values having sex with many women, who's to say he's wrong? If another guy values not having sex with many women, that's his business too. This guy doesn't like guys talking about what they value so he tells them to accept his values? I think he could have said a lot more with simply "Live and let live," which he didn't himself practice when he tells others what they should and shouldn't do. So it reads to me like "The lady doth protest too much, methin…
/r/seduction09/04/13 12:16 PM
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The trick is to see that there are no problems. Taking responsibility for getting a job done and improving your life is, to me, a satisfying joy. If other people consider those things problems, that's their business.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/13 04:59 PM
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Wording is important: a girl doesn't make a man wait. She asks him to wait. A man who chooses to follow her lead gets what he deserves, which will probably be more demands and less sex.
/r/askTRP03/04/13 05:57 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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