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You train all that AND manage to go to the gym?
/r/askTRP30/01/20 07:14 PM
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And you manage to progress your lifts even though you have less rest days per week?
/r/askTRP30/01/20 07:13 PM
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You don't find muay thai too taxing on your body so as to make you less efficient in the gym? Meaning your lifts progress way too slowly because of lack of rest?
/r/askTRP30/01/20 07:11 PM
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Be polite, don't initiate any conversation with her, cut the conversation short as nicely as you can when she initiates them. Treat her the same way you'd treat an unattractive acquaitance.
/r/askTRP26/01/20 01:38 PM
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Seems like she wasn't feeling good due to being hungover, but didn't want to turn down or cancel your date, so she went out thinking she might handle it (which she didn't). In the end she went home and realized it would had been better if she had cancelled the date and let herself rest, but instead she had gone out with you and had ruined it for both of you and now she feels sorry. It might be she thought you might take the whole situation the wrong way and that's why she had apologized. You don…
/r/askTRP26/01/20 12:50 PM
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"When in Rome, do as the Romans do" You can have social media and not actively use it or get hooked to it. You say your old friendships have suffered and that can happen if you don't maintain them in real life (due to long distance, laziness etc.) or by using online messaging. If you find your social life suffering because you don't have any social media, just open an account on at least one of them so that you at least appear "normal".
/r/askTRP26/01/20 12:30 PM
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Well did you have traumatic relationships or breakups? Were you sexually abused in the past? Based on the info you provided and taking into account we don't know anything else about you, it could be any number of reasons for your behaviour. Nevertheless, you know you have a problem with self-sabotaging behaviour and only you can figure out what's the root of the said behaviour. In the meantime the only thing that will help you remedy your issues is taking conscious measures to make yourself more…
/r/askTRP26/01/20 12:21 PM
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When you feel more confident you project an aura of confidence that people pick up on and they treat you accordingly - nice people treat you nicely because they like the way you are and assholes/weak AMOGs treat you better than they would otherwise because they fear the way you are. On the other hand, when you are down you're still projecting an aura, but it's just an aura of insecurity. Nice people will still treat you nicely for the most part, but assholes/weak AMOGs will feel your weakness an…
/r/askTRP22/01/20 06:44 AM
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When you feel more confident you project an aura of confidence that people pick up on and they treat you accordingly - nice people treat you nicely because they like the way you are and assholes/weak AMOGs treat you better than they would otherwise because they fear the way you are. On the other hand, when you are down you're still projecting an aura, but it's just an aura of insecurity. Nice people will still treat you nicely for the most part, but assholes/weak AMOGs will feel your weakness an…
/r/askTRP22/01/20 06:44 AM
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First of all, relax. Breathe through your nose. Exhale slowly. Second of all, the fact that she rejected you is great news for you. "I just got rejected, what is so fucking great about that?" you may ask. Because this is an opportunity for you to learn that getting rejected is OK. Did you die? No. Did the fucking planet stop spinning because of your rejection? Fucking no. Does anyone except you and her know about the rejection? I hope you didn't tell anyone you know, because trust me, she DEFINI…
/r/askTRP20/01/20 06:53 PM
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Not being afraid of women is a prerequisite to attraction, but it is definitely not enough to make one attractive. You can not care about women all you want, but if you're an ugly fat autistic fuckup it doesn't do much for your attraction, does it.
/r/askTRP20/01/20 06:35 PM
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Going out and approaching women shen done HONESTLY (because you liked them and wanted to show them who you really are) is completely different to what PUA's do (faking their entire personas). So approaching, in addition to occasionally getting you laid, will definitely help you gain social skills and confidence which will in turn get you laid even more. I think it's a good idea to go out with your friend and approach with your own imperfect self and not with a premediated script, because the fir…
/r/askTRP20/01/20 06:30 PM
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Yeah, got a feeling that might happen a couple of times in the past, so definitely not telling them any names.
/r/askTRP05/01/20 09:43 PM
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Not a tactful way of saying it, but point taken.
/r/askTRP05/01/20 09:42 PM
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That's what I do too and it seems from reading the other answers to be the preferred way of handling the situation.
/r/askTRP05/01/20 09:39 PM
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Understood.
/r/askTRP05/01/20 09:37 PM
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Never joke with people about things they are sensitive about (unless you know FOR SURE they can handle it or if you actually WANT to offend them). There is a great example to describe this phenomenon. If you were talking to a ballerina and told her the only reason she does ballet is because she likes wearing those tight leggings, she would probably take that as a joke; but tell her she looked clumsy while doing a pirhuet and she will most likely interpret that statement as a matter of you critic…
/r/askTRP01/12/19 08:41 PM
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You texted her to set up a meeting, so you did your part. Now the ball is in her court. If she was really excited to meet you she would've agreed to see you by now. Just forget about her and act like you texting her didn't happen.
/r/askTRP01/12/19 03:35 PM
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Sounds to me she received your answer pretty well (judging by the fact you answer wasn't the only thing she "received" from you that day). The only way that could be interpreted as an insecurity would be if your answer came from A PLACE of insecurity, rather than the place of honesty mixed with the place of not-giving-a-fuck. It seems your's came (no pun intended) from the latter.
/r/askTRP30/11/19 02:44 PM
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Ok then, this pretty much explains it. I appreciate the honesty.
/r/askTRP30/11/19 02:36 PM
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No, you shouldn't hard next. Go no contact, let her contact you. She was shit-testing you hard and you failed. It's ok, shit happens, just think about how you should've reacted in that situation so that you don't make the same mistake(s) again and then move on. Also, I wanted to comment on this part of your post because it might be indicative that you're either dumb or you're hiding (or are embarrassed of) something. "I was a bit drunk, texted her again if she wanted to come over but she didn't …
/r/askTRP30/11/19 02:10 PM
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I appreciate these words man. Doing bench presses today.
/r/askTRP28/11/19 10:50 AM
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Yeah man, thanks for the advice. I'm more angry with myself than I am with my ex-plate and my anger stems from behaving in a soft, boyfriend-ish and "beta" way with her (and other girls) and also thinking THAT is the best way to act around her (them). But I DO feel a certain amount of hate toward women in general for not having the motivations I imagined they had, so I think the hate stems from me realizing this and I can see myself accepting them for who they are at some future point in time. B…
/r/askTRP28/11/19 10:44 AM
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Basically I was too soft and cudly with her, but that was just a part of her losing respect for me. The other half was me behaving in a too of an ambiguous way toward her, meaning I wasn't sure what I wanted out of our "relationship" - did I want her to be my GF or just a plate, and this uncertainty was evident (to her) in my behaviour. This was actually the problem I mentioned she articulated for me, she said "I want a guy who knows what he wants, a GF or a sex arrangement" and this whole ordea…
/r/askTRP28/11/19 10:35 AM
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That masterpiece was actually the first thing that popped into my mind after the event from the OP, I looked it up and read it the moment I felt the hate rising.
/r/askTRP28/11/19 10:28 AM
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Thanks man, will do.
/r/askTRP28/11/19 10:24 AM
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At first I got defensive while reading your comment because of it's tone, but then I realized although the comment was written quite frankly, the content of it is on point and I agree with it 99%. But I do have multiple plates.
/r/askTRP28/11/19 10:24 AM
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Because they don't need it. Girls judge guys harshly on personality scale, so guys have an incentive to learn, grow and have interesting lives, but most still don't because they are lazy/scared/ignorant (otherwise we wouldn't need a subreddit such as TRP). On the other hand guys want to fuck girls so they forgive their lack of personalities. A large majority of guys are so pussy starved that they look past their potential mates' and even their girlfriend's boring lives and personas just to get s…
/r/askTRP18/08/19 06:16 AM
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Just by reading your post I can see your gut has already given you the right way to deal with this situation. You know this has nothing to do with you and her loving you, but it has everything to do with herself and her being in a bad spot in life, so she's reaching for a branch to catch. "Getting dumped > reaching out to a happily married ex crush > reaching out to you" shows you that you are the lower branch she is trying to hold on to and your gut already realized that and is telling you to n…
/r/askTRP18/08/19 06:06 AM
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There is some good advice in this thread so I wouldn't want to repeat the same things again (Jesusfeminist's comment is nicely succinct). However I wanted to tell you one thing about your lifting progress. I assume you are a lifting beginner, so everything I say is based off od that assumption. If you managed to put only 10lbs on your squat in the last two months you are doing something terribly wrong, because as a beginner you should be able to increase the weight on the bar by 10lbs each time …
/r/askTRP18/08/19 05:54 AM
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If I understood you correctly she wasn't really pleasant when she rejected your advances, so I get why you wouldn't go out with her, but it seems to me from the tone you were writing in that you still have some lingering anger towards this woman and I wanted to say she is isn't worth the emotion.
/r/askTRP18/08/19 05:43 AM
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That sounds like a waste of time.
/r/askTRP18/08/19 05:36 AM
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She wanted to see the guy but felt it would be dishonest if she went out with him behind your back, so she told you about it in order to not feel like she's cheating on you. This way she can rationalize the event to herself (and to other people): "No no, it wasn't cheating, it was just two people hanging out and I told my bf about me seeing this guy, so he knew and it was OK". She could use the female mental gymnastics to even turn the guilt on YOU if you ever get mad because she went out with a…
/r/askTRP18/08/19 05:34 AM
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On point.
/r/askTRP15/08/19 02:42 PM
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I'm baffled by how you highjacked OP's post with your own problems without contributing anything to the point of the post - you didn't share a single advice nor a different perspective on OP's situation.
/r/askTRP15/08/19 02:12 PM
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It's a phase. It will pass. But in order to pass through this part of your red pill awakening even faster think of a goal you can care about and strive to achieve it. Have a short-term and long-term goal. You want to stop thinking about women? Start approaching them like mad, suffer the rejections like a champ and enjoy the successes (when they eventually come). You are constantly thinking about women because for your unconscious they are "the unknown", "the unexplored territory" and this makes …
/r/askTRP15/08/19 12:34 PM
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Your situation falls under the definition of a "long distance relationship". I get your dilemma in that you don't want to lose a quality relationship you've both worked hard to build over the years. But these feelings of being trapped and not being able to socialize and explore the college lifestyle to the maximum are only going to worsen over time. And you can bet you are not the only one feeling them at the moment - your girl is probably going through the same psychological dissonance. And the…
/r/askTRP15/08/19 12:18 PM
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It could mean a lot of things but I don't think pondering on why she said what she said can ever be fruitful because SHE might not even know why she said what she said. Don't waste your brain cells thinking about why girls do the things they do, because most of the time even THEY don't know the reasons for their behaviour. Nevertheless, I think above-mentioned interpretation of OP's situation will be the most beneficial to him.
/r/askTRP14/08/19 08:27 PM
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We humans highly value attention. Especially the attention of potential sexual partners. And girls are humans (as much as we know). In real life, during the day an average girl will be approached approximately 0 times; during the night she will be approached about 5 times (arbitrary number for arguments sake, but pretty close). You can also categorize "a girl being approached" as "a girl being given attention by the opposite sex". On dating apps an average girl gets free attention from countless…
/r/askTRP14/08/19 08:20 PM
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Watch her actions, not her words. She wants to go out with you for some drinks as "friends" - so go out with her and game her as you would any other chick. If she responds well - nice; if she really just wanted to be friends - next.
/r/askTRP14/08/19 08:05 PM
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You know in those teenage geek-gets-the-cheerleader movies when the geek first spots the girl and says "She would never date me, she's way out of my league"? It means he thinks he is so below her that she would never consider him a sexual prospect. But if he wanted to say that HE would never consider HER a sexual prospect, he'd say "I would never date HER, I am way out of HER league". So when a shy girl talks to you, mentions that she doesn't want a relationship and has never had one, while also…
/r/askTRP14/08/19 02:41 PM
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"I want to look beautiful when I go out in public" Bitch you can look beautiful without showing your ass crack to everyone. (Not complaining tbh, just saying)
/r/askTRP14/08/19 02:30 PM
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This question has nothing to do with gaming women, self-improvement nor observations from everyday life and it shouldn't have been posted on askTRP. If you just wanted to whine about TRP then you should have posted this on bluepill or purplepill subreddits. But if you were actually concerned about the lower quality of TRP posts then go MAKE a quality post and let us bask in the beautiful light of the heavenly sun that is your writing.
/r/askTRP14/08/19 02:24 PM
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I realise a lot off people do put others down to feel better, but it doesn't make it any more the right way to deal with the situation - not only are you not gaining anything with that approach (except some "relief"), you are actually losing by not using that person as motivation to improve your own self. I don't think putting others down is an instinct per se, I would describe it as a way of dealing with a situation in which someone is better than you at something. The other way of dealing with…
/r/askTRP12/08/19 03:00 PM
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Too long, but did read.
/r/askTRP12/08/19 02:54 PM
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What exactly is your question? This is ASK trp, not WHINE trp.
/r/askTRP11/08/19 11:15 AM
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There is no need for putting the Chad down by calling him an idiot and wishing his life to be ruined in order for the OP to feel better. OP has to learn to deal with the reality that Chad will always (or at least in the foreseeable future) have an easier time with girls then him. If he can do that he'll have a much less stressful life; but if he has to imagine things going bad for people better than him in order to feel good about himself then he might have some bigger issues at hand.
/r/askTRP11/08/19 10:48 AM
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Your gut tells you to delete the files. Listen to your gut.
/r/askTRP10/08/19 12:10 PM
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Most of the things we do during the day we do unconsciously, out of habit. Taking a certain route to work, walking a certain way, types of responses to different situations - all of those are habits. Overthinking shit is a habit you have - it's automatic and unconscious, it's a reflex to specific kinds of situations you find yourself in. A viable way to deal with this problem is to combine two things: Meditation, as other users have suggested, it will help you pull your head out of your own ass.…
/r/askTRP01/06/19 01:42 PM
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Do you want to risk an STD from a girl with a tramp stamp?
/r/askTRP11/05/19 07:28 PM
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I agree with that.
/r/askTRP06/05/19 02:17 PM
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And he shouldn't.
/r/askTRP05/05/19 06:58 PM
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If you only want her for sex than cut all the nonsexual related interactions to a minimum (e.g. the dinner dates and expressing feelings). Otherwise you are sending her LTR signals and it could get ugly when she eventually finds out (and she will) that you don't want anything serious.
/r/askTRP05/05/19 12:26 PM
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That consistent emoji reply is creepy and weird. Nevertheless, don't even think of LTR with a girl you've only known for less than 6-12 months. 3 months is a minimum, because that's when the honeymoon phase is over and her real face starts creeping in, so you'll at least get the idea of who you're dealing with. Also don't do LDRs. If you're wondering why, go read the sidebar and search LDR related posts on asktrp and the main sub and get ready to have LDRs kicked out of your head by what you'll …
/r/askTRP05/05/19 12:21 PM
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If she wanted to see you, she would have left a window of opportunity open for you to call her on a date. Instead she told you she doesn't plan on coming around "in the foreseeable future". She just shot down any date plans you might had had. Don't sweat over this girl, it's over. Judging by her first few messages and the fact you made out at the party, she was into you in the beginning. That comment about you being better looking was cringy and almost killed the fire of attraction she had for y…
/r/askTRP05/05/19 12:06 PM
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You'll know with experience. Whether you are on the spectrum or not, you can't get better social skills without the old fashioned learning from your own mistakes, just like the rest of us. Say shit, see the reaction, modify your behavior. Act > Analyze > Calibrate > Repeat.
/r/askTRP05/05/19 11:58 AM
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She had checked out of the relationship long before you had this argument, she was just rationalizing her loss of attraction towards you by accusing you of some abstract "change". This is how the rationalization went: she liked you before, but she doesn't like you now, so it's "obvious" to her that you must have somehow changed in the meantime since there is no other explanation for her loss of attraction towards you. Since you are no longer the guy she got into the relationship with it's only l…
/r/askTRP05/05/19 11:41 AM
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Do you lift? With a good body you'll have a greater chance at attracting the women of your desire.
/r/askTRP05/05/19 11:31 AM
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Listening to gut feelings should be taught in schools.
/r/askTRP04/05/19 05:07 PM
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You are right, the relationship IS over, but if he says it first he won't give her the satisfaction of being able to tell her friends SHE broke up with HIM.
/r/askTRP03/05/19 07:26 PM
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You are right in the sense that the dynamic is different when there is a real issue to be dealt with - generally more subtlety is necessary when it's a girl in question, while more direct approach is usually preferable for dealing with guys. Nevertheless, you do handle them both the same way when they confront you with irrational bullshit. You wouldn't have this problem if it weren't for the fact that you were probably never spinning multiple plates. EDIT: I'm not accusing you of never spinning …
/r/askTRP03/05/19 07:01 PM
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She is overtly disrespecting you. Imagine for a second that was one of your guy friends you had that chat with and after occasionally ignoring you and accusing you of the same, he said "Don't expect me to call you when I get back". Your response would be to wtf and just ignore the motherfucker - you wouldn't write or call him and would definitely NOT compliment the bitch. So don't do it with your girl either.
/r/askTRP03/05/19 03:02 PM
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Your relationship is over. Break up with her before she breaks up with you, so the relationship at least ends on your terms.
/r/askTRP03/05/19 02:56 PM
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There are guys out there who would let a horde of other guys tap them in the ass - does that mean you should let them too? Of course not. It doesn't matter what WE would do, but what YOU want to do. You say she is not that attractive and that you're having a dry spell: Are you in for an easy fuck with a Plane Jane? Then go for it kid. Do you think fucking someone below your "attraction level" is not worth the effort? Then don't fuck her. Do you find you just can't get aroused by her no matter wh…
/r/askTRP27/04/19 04:56 AM
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AF/BB are not categories, but a spectrum of women's desires in a potential mate, a spectrum which entails two things: Average behavior of an individual Women's perception of the individual. So you can't NOT be on the AF/BB spectrum, but you CAN still be invisible to women - it would just mean you are not attractive enough to be desirable for your AF/BB qualities. Now, what I mean by "spectrum of average behavior" is that no one is completely AF or completely BB - we all have qualities and behavi…
/r/askTRP27/04/19 04:44 AM
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Write here afterwards to let us know if she showed up, really interested to find out.
/r/askTRP26/04/19 07:06 PM
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She doesn't want to make you a man, she wants you to BE a man. So used in your context, she doesn't want to help you GET better style, she wants you ALREADY have a good style. Still, if she is as bitchy as she sounds, don't LTR. Even if her bitchiness is something you're into, it's still not an LTR quality.
/r/askTRP26/04/19 07:52 AM
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No, it means you need to get better at getting women into your frame. Once you have the ability to get sex easily, you can consider going MGTOW. Otherwise you are just an incel.
/r/askTRP26/04/19 07:44 AM
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Don't let her convince you she is regretful about what she did. She already lied big time and sounded pretty convincing when she told you she wouldn't be seeing the guy she had previously told you about and that she would never "cheat" on you - and how did that turn out? And even if she was honestly regretful and would never repeat such a "mistake", how would you know for sure that that was the case after what she did? You can never trust her 100%. She already proved herself a skillful lier, whi…
/r/askTRP26/04/19 07:32 AM
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I get your anger, you shouldn't LTR this girl - whatever her reasons for doing what she did, she failed the LTR test. But know this - you fucked up when she saw your bumble on your phone while you both were together with your mom. I think that was one of the main causes for her behavior. Even though you were honest about seeing other girls, this was like rubbing it in her nose (even though it wasn't intentional). Nevertheless, if this was her way of spiting you and in addition lie like a motherf…
/r/askTRP25/04/19 09:42 PM
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No. Men are generally more aggressive but there are men who can control their impulses better than others. AWALT generally applies to women, but there are women who can control their impulses better than others. Find THOSE women.
/r/askTRP25/04/19 09:29 PM
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You already know the answer. Don't spend time with anyone who for whatever reason makes you feel like shit.
/r/askTRP22/04/19 05:18 AM
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You admit fault which is admirable and then try and justify yourself by saying you had a crush on her before they were together. There is no justification for actions, only actions, so cut that shit. You did what you did, own up to it (as I get the impression you are inclined to do). I think you realize now that you value your friend/roommate more than you value that girl, so cut all contact with her in perpetuum. Apologize to your friend and do so sincerely and tell him you will never contact t…
/r/askTRP21/04/19 09:17 PM
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Initiate sex. She turns you down? Pull back, do something else for a bit and initiate sex again. She turns you down again? Tell her you've got shit to do and then soft next.
/r/askTRP21/04/19 09:08 PM
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Sounds like during (before?) the party she changed her mind on that whole threesome idea. You definitely overreacted and came off as butthurt. Don't tell them something is "disrespectful towards you" or it "hurt you" that she did X, Y or Z. It connects to the previous point. And you are obviously developing oneitis for this chick, so don't LTR her. If you feel oneitis creeping in, it's better to cut things short. Soft next for your own good.
/r/askTRP21/04/19 09:00 PM
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Respond to what exactly?
/r/askTRP21/04/19 08:58 PM
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You are right. Now that I think about it, at any point during that conversation I could have just ignored her shit tests/comments and asked for her name and then carry the convo from there. It didn't even cross my mind at that moment. Thanks for the input. Much to learn I have.
/r/askTRP21/04/19 08:41 PM
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"No big deal".
/r/askTRP21/04/19 08:32 PM
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Trust your gut. Also, learned how to recognize and deal with a BPD. Lucky me, huh.
/r/askTRP21/04/19 08:31 PM
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It means you should've initiated the procreational act with this particular female homo sapiens whilst in that specimen's sleeping area with the said specimen.
/r/askTRP21/04/19 07:21 PM
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Then accept that girls you consider plates will from time to time get the impression you want something more with them than just sex and that it will create misunderstandings or worse.
/r/askTRP21/04/19 06:01 PM
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By your reaction I assume the guy in question is not her boyfriend, so what type of woman in her right mind would post on social media a picture of herself kissing some guy who she isn't in a relationship with. Don't get emotionally attached to a plate such as this girl. Or even better, don't get emotionally attached to plates at all.
/r/askTRP21/04/19 03:46 PM
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If that's happening as often as you say then it might be that you are consistently giving off "boyfriend vibes". Make an effort not to text for things other than logistics, don't be lovey-dovey with them before or after sex and while talking with them don't give off the impression that you might consider them a girlfriend. Let me give you a personal example. One girl I plated for 2-3 weeks got really mad with me because I "wasn't that upset that she was traveling away" to which I wtf-ed and it d…
/r/askTRP21/04/19 08:25 AM
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Be open about not wanting anything serious with her. If that's a deal breaker for her then that's fine. I get the impression you don't want her to know you consider her at most only a fuck buddy because you're worried she'll decline to have sex with you. If that is the case I can only tell you that you'll get yourself into trouble if you lie to her about your intentions and actually DO "use her" for sex. Be honest about your intentions - if she's fine with that then go dig that untapped mine of …
/r/askTRP20/04/19 11:23 AM
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As the other commenters said she might not want her roommate to know about you, but you can't be sure. What you CAN be sure about is that as long as everything else is fine (sex, her behavior), you shouldn't worry about it because there is no way for you to find out for sure what is going on.
/r/askTRP20/04/19 11:16 AM
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"Its the exact same title as his". Was that so hard?
/r/askTRP20/04/19 05:47 AM
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At least tell the guy the title of the post so he knows what to look for on the main sub.
/r/askTRP19/04/19 08:18 PM
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Most girls don't mention their boyfriends to males they are attracted to. If she is telling you about her boyfriend without YOU soliciting the information (i.e. by asking her if she has a boyfriend), it's most likely a covert (and even unconscious) way of telling you not to try anything sexual with her.
/r/askTRP19/04/19 08:15 PM
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OP listen to this advice.
/r/askTRP19/04/19 08:11 PM
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Read "No More Mr Nice Guy" first, it gives the simplest explanation of alpha and beta behaviours and will have a profound effect on you.
/r/askTRP19/04/19 07:20 PM
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Could you be a bit more specific than that? Which part of the world are we talking about? Which environment? How young are these women? Which societal strata are we talking about?
/r/askTRP19/04/19 06:53 PM
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To improve your social skills (and by extension your Game with girls) you need two and ONLY two things now. One is to learn basic theory and one is to apply it. Learning theory: read the book "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. Applying the theory: talk to everyone - not just girls, but EVERYONE. Chit chat with strangers in the store, at the bus station, in the hallways. Apply what you read in the book. Practice it whenever you get a chance. Focus on it. Just asking some …
/r/askTRP19/04/19 06:22 PM
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"Relative confidence" explanation, makes sense.
/r/askTRP19/04/19 03:51 PM
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No problem man, keep at it.
/r/askTRP18/04/19 09:17 PM
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Well if they played anything else in that club besides Monopoly, they wouldn't call it "Monopoly club".
/r/askTRP18/04/19 06:46 AM
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"The effects of your suspicion will match the effects of her actually doing it." You put it very succinctly.
/r/askTRP17/04/19 09:50 PM
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And they'll call you to the wedding to be the maid of honor.
/r/askTRP17/04/19 04:48 PM
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If we assume you have no shit from the past that's fucking with your head up until this day, and taking into consideration that all your friends moved away, it might be that your lack of social circle is mentally crippling you. Read ahead, it might help you. Try getting in contact with some of your friends abroad and talk to them. Talk to them often. In the meantime work on building a temporary local social circle, just so that you don't feel lonely and worthless (or to feel less so). Join a loc…
/r/askTRP17/04/19 04:40 PM
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I'll assume you are not trolling. Considering concerns you elaborated on and the terms you used in this post, I'll also assume you are in highschool. Any course of action you take that does not involve you asking her out in the real world will not be optimal for you. Asking her out over social media is better than not asking her out at all, but is not as good as doing it in person. Don't try establishing a connection with her over text, the medium is not good for the purpose and is best utilized…
/r/askTRP17/04/19 04:28 PM
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Unless you are better then them at something else (looks, fitness, career, humor etc.) then you accept your lower position in the hierarchy and use it to learn from those better than you. Being lower in the hierarchy has it's benefits in that those better than you expect you to make mistakes and ask (sometimes stupid) questions and won't judge you for it.
/r/askTRP17/04/19 02:35 PM
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My gut tells me OP will choose to remain in the relationship anyway and in time will know if HIS gut feeling was right. I just hope he'll have the decency to post back here on what ultimately happened.
/r/askTRP17/04/19 02:30 PM
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More often than not, threatening: "If you do X, I'll do Y" or anything in that sense will make you look butthurt and not just with women, but with men too. If she crosses a boundary, simply telling her with a serious face "Don't do that again" will usually be quite enough. But it won't be enough if her attraction/attention towards someone else is in question. You never mate-guard but instead instill dread, e.g. talk to other girls; this is also a situation in which telling her not to talk to oth…
/r/askTRP17/04/19 02:21 PM
3

What exactly do you need advice on?
/r/askTRP17/04/19 01:15 PM
2

Keep bulking, looking good. And cover your face on the second picture, you don't want someone doxxing the shit out of you and connecting you to this subreddit (unfortunately).
/r/askTRP17/04/19 09:42 AM
2

Yes.
/r/askTRP17/04/19 09:38 AM
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You've got a gut feeling something is not right. Listen to your gut feeling.
/r/askTRP17/04/19 09:36 AM
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Go out to a local venue by yourself, go to any type of group trainings, go for a walk through the city. You can do anything you want to meet women as long as you have the courage to approach them when you do go out. The world is your oyster.
/r/askTRP17/04/19 05:23 AM
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You already know the answer. You know it in your gut. Do not contact her.
/r/askTRP16/04/19 05:51 PM
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This just goes to show that girls asking out guys happens so rarely that when it DOES happen some guys think they are being scammed. Unless you have a real gut feeling that she is shady, go on the date. You'll regret it if you don't.
/r/askTRP16/04/19 05:46 PM
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No problem. Yeah man, approaching is like a muscle - use it or lose it.
/r/askTRP16/04/19 05:42 PM
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In the comments you say you want to take Testosterone to increase your drive to talk to strangers, which I think is a waste of your money (if that is the only reason you are taking it and not other health related reasons). As the great Pook said in his book, DO and EMOTIONS will follow: You don't first love the gym and then go and join one - you get your lazy undisciplined ass in there FIRST and THEN after some long and tough time the love for the gym comes. You don't first like spending time wi…
/r/askTRP16/04/19 05:34 PM
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So she is not your LTR, but she IS your girlfriend.. but it isn't emotionally satisfying? Please make it clear with yourself in what type of situation you're in before posting here. Maybe you are at a point where you should find something else to focus on in your life besides approaching girls? I'd think getting a plate or two in addition to this girlfriend/not-ltr for the sake of having a steady supply of sex and then moving your attention to something else in your life would be a good start. E…
/r/askTRP16/04/19 04:25 PM
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Whatever any other human being should think as they fall asleep.
/r/askTRP16/04/19 04:18 PM
2

What you are describing here is monogamy which has little to do with hypergamy and more to do with stabilizing the society (by giving lower value men a chance to release the sexual tension) and it's implemented with social enforcement and marriage. And no, it's not possible to fix what millions of years of evolution bore into female's collective psychology.
/r/askTRP16/04/19 04:14 PM
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No. That is not why Italian women go for North-european/Anglo guys. A lot of Italian women are quite happy with the Italian guys they are with, otherwise Italy would be empty of women. Maybe you got the impression they go for ne/a guys because they are the tourists you encountered most often in Italy and they have the "foreigner effect" working in their favor (women being more attracted to foreigners then their own, happens everywhere).
/r/askTRP16/04/19 06:42 AM
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But it's not just girls - everybody judges you based on the criteria you listed. If you were to stop dating just because she might upgrade for a better prospect, you might as well stop living among people. First impressions are made based on your appearance; friends will leave you if you change mentally in a way they do not approve of; acquaintances will ignore or even disrespect you if they see you providing no potential value to their lives. To live is to be judged. That's the game. You have n…
/r/askTRP16/04/19 06:31 AM
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I think you answered your own question.
/r/askTRP16/04/19 05:56 AM
1

You actually got me considering older women as prospects.
/r/askTRP15/04/19 06:12 PM
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I see you really thought this through.
/r/askTRP15/04/19 03:32 PM
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You overthink shit and it's giving you problems? You came to the right place then.
/r/askTRP15/04/19 03:26 PM
1

I guess everyone has their own struggles ey?
/r/askTRP15/04/19 03:25 PM
1

I was in a similar situation as you were regarding texting, but wanted some clarification regarding the above-mentioned advice. Whenever I do text with people I am reminded how emotionally devoid the medium is...
/r/askTRP15/04/19 02:11 PM
1

I realized after contemplating the answers I'd gotten in the comments that my obsession with approaching is caused by, as you said, NOT approaching. Will solve that fucking problem.
/r/askTRP15/04/19 12:13 PM
1

Title says it all. Thinking about approaching girls all the time.
/r/askTRP15/04/19 11:57 AM
1

You are spot on about me having a problem approaching. Had my fear of talking to strangers subdued in the past couple of weeks and approached two girls during the same time - working on the latter now by gamifying approaching girls with a good friend of mine. So if I understood you correctly this obsession IS the result of not approaching enough? I recently realized I had the oh-so-well-known mentality of "I'll start approaching when I get fit/improve my style/get out of another monk mode etc. F…
/r/askTRP15/04/19 10:12 AM
1

If that is the case as you describe it then it might be nothing. Pay more attention to her future actions and if shit keeps happening over and over again (shit that might indicate she is losing attraction) then do what I told you in the original comment; otherwise forget about it.
/r/askTRP15/04/19 10:08 AM
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I'm not sure about her game here, but telling her anything nice after she rejected your advances was a mistake - you should have remained aloof. What does this say about your relationship? It says she feels comfortable enough to actually reject your advances. Unless the cause of her doing so was NOT some understandable life stress (illness in the family, possible job loss etc.), I'd say she is losing attraction and you should implement dread - start lifting if you are not, talk to other girls in…
/r/askTRP15/04/19 06:35 AM
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Well if she is trying to get control of the relationship she is succeeding - she did get you to write about her on askTRP which means she got your attention to herself. You are overthinking this so rather than think, take action instead. I assume you are capable of attracting another female, so do that. Fuck it, attract two. Abundance will clear your mind of this FWB and will stop you from overthinking this situation. Either that or soft next her completely because she is clearly in your head an…
/r/askTRP15/04/19 05:35 AM
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Nothing we say will snap you out of fear and give you the clarity to say to yourself "woah, I get it now, I'll just call girl X up and tell her to come". It's the same as with dealing with approach anxiety - fear will paralize you, so you can only deal with it by starting a conversation before your rational mind kicks in. Type a message calling a girl over in a notepad without too much word planning Copy it Open your tinder/bumble/grindr Paste the message to a girl Repeat step 4 until some girl …
/r/askTRP15/04/19 05:29 AM
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Wat?
/r/askTRP13/04/19 12:34 PM
2

Wear a condom at all times, you can never be too prepared.
/r/askTRP11/04/19 03:05 PM
1

Exactly.
/r/askTRP11/04/19 03:04 PM
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You should take more of an initiative. Women will not approach you unless you are in the top 5-10% in terms of looks. Do the first while working on the second.
/r/askTRP08/04/19 06:01 PM
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Then there is your answer. Go for the chicks you like at least just enough to bang.
/r/askTRP08/04/19 09:39 AM
1

Your title is a pleonasm. To give you at least some clarity regarding your friend's problem, with the little information you provided us with, I can conclude that one of the possibilities is that the combination of great sex and toxic LTR made your friend crave the emotional rollercoaster that was a part of the now-ex-LTR package. It happens for example to a lot of people who had BPD partners - after a while they start missing the emotional highs they used to get in the relationship. It's like a…
/r/askTRP07/04/19 10:03 PM
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You are either trolling or have serious issues seeing the contradictions in your own comment.
/r/askTRP07/04/19 09:14 PM
1

"I like your style, had to meet you. What's your name?" Ask her some basic personal info or comment on something in your surroundings. "Hey I'm in a hurry, I just wanted to compliment your style and get your number because I'd like to get to know you". She gives it to you - great. She doesn't - meh. Repeat until your penile shaft is repeatedly widening some female's vaginal canal. Then repeat some more.
/r/askTRP07/04/19 09:08 PM
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Once you make out with a girl and you get her to a point where she wants to have sex with you, you can take her to HER house (since you said to a previous commenter you have no privacy in your), your friend's house, your car, somebody else's car, local park (at night of course, fucking a girl in a park in broad daylight might bring some new difficulties to your already difficult situation) etc. If she wants to do it with you, she'll do it wherever. Get creative.
/r/askTRP07/04/19 01:36 PM
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I'll paste the answer I gave to the guy who posted "Improving Communication skills" because the solution to these two problems (getting better at communicating with people and getting better at approaching people) is practically the same and have the same root, namely the fear of the unknown. I made some modifications to the original comment to make it a better fit for your (OP's) question. Communication skills development resources in the bottom. The solution to your problem is to take baby ste…
/r/askTRP07/04/19 01:24 PM
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Communication skills development resources in the bottom. The solution to your problem is to take baby steps. In the beginning make an effort to smile when you greet people. Do it every time you say hi to your family, friends, acquaintances and even cashiers. Do it for a week. You'll become simingly more pleasant and your attitude towards people will change a bit. Give yourself a treat (food, electronics, cinema tickets etc.) at the end of the week because you were a good boy - you want to reinf…
/r/askTRP07/04/19 01:02 PM
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You answered your own question.
/r/askTRP07/04/19 10:29 AM
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You feel unhappy in your current place in life. If you don't move out you will always wonder "What would life had been if I did?". It will eat you alive that you didn't leave your comfort zone when you could. If it doesn't work out you can always go back home. Leave your comfort zone.
/r/askTRP07/04/19 10:24 AM
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She emotionally blackmailed you and most likely wouldn't actually kill herself. Even if she would, and this will sound harsh, but she is no one to you and her life isn't your responsibility. Here's what you should do. Pick the most valuable and trustworthy of those mutual friends and tell them in confidence what happened. Play them the audio if need be. You'll need people on your side if the shit goes down. If she was ready to threaten YOU with taking her own life and be an emotional manipulator…
/r/askTRP07/04/19 10:12 AM
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You want an experience? Knew a girl some years back. Knew she was a bit into me at the beginning. Wasn't into her. She gets to know beta me and loses interest. A couple of years later she develops a great ass. I remained the same beta. We start hanging out. Develop a major crush on her. She's the specialEST of the most special girls. Decide for the first time in my life to actually tell a girl I like her because surely she will like me back. Facts not taken into account: - I was unattractive - I…
/r/askTRP07/04/19 09:58 AM
1

A temporary happiness of a fuck or a potentially lasting friendship. Ask yourself what is more important to you? Then make your choice.
/r/askTRP06/04/19 09:03 PM
1

The amount of fluids a given vagina produces for a particular men is inversely proportional to the amount of fluids that come out of the said men's eyes in front of the above-mentioned vagina's owner. You fucking her is a highly unlikely event. The point of a therapist is for you to be completely open and vulnerable and not think about someone judging you for it. Wondering about looking alpha/beta in front of a therapist is defeating the whole purpose of therapy. You should ask yourself what's m…
/r/askTRP06/04/19 04:43 PM
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Useful advice.
/r/askTRP06/04/19 03:18 PM
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It may be cold, but my intention was not to tell him how to "unmess" her, but how not to take unnecessary risks. When he posted the question he was basically asking for an opinion on whether dating this girl is a good or a bad thing - and when I say "good or bad" I mean "is this more likely to make one's life better or to make it worse". Being in a relationship means (among other things) taking on the problems of the other person whether one likes it or not and it's always a matter of asking one…
/r/askTRP06/04/19 03:02 PM
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Don't lose your precious time and mental resources thinking about how many men a particular girls fucks or used to fuck. It is knowledge worth as much as knowing how many grass-blades there are in a particular lawn. And the answer to those two questions is actually usually the same - uncomfortably many.
/r/askTRP06/04/19 12:18 PM
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Simingly easy lay, then clinginess, gaslighting and after a breakup spamming by her and her friends and in addition some emotional manipulation? Seems like you got yourself a BPD. You think this is worrisome? Wait until you start receiving some not so "I love you despite everything" messages and more so like "How can you do this to me, I hate you and will threaten the living shit out of you" messages interspersed with the occasional "I still love you tho" ones. Don't be scared (because she will …
/r/askTRP06/04/19 12:07 PM
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You said it yourself in the title - you broke the rule of TRP. Why do you think the rule not to LTR "damaged goods" was put there in the first place? Because a multitude of men more experienced than you and I have come to the same conclusion after doing exactly that - being in an LTR with damaged girls and seeing the results of it for themselves. By breaking the rule of these men, you dishonor their rich and quite similar experience and moreover, by considering STAYING in a relationship with suc…
/r/askTRP06/04/19 11:48 AM
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