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| 2 | One year out. I’m doing all the “right” things but it still hurts like hellThanks man I really appreciate your perspective. I think it’s just hard reading some of the stories here about people who seem to get over it so quickly and also from what little I know since I’m no contact with my ex-wife she seems to be doing just fine meanwhile I know I’m putting in the hard work and I’m trying to work on myself but man does it feel like I got hit by a dump truck I don’t understand how my ex is able to deal with it so much better than me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/26 04:32 PM |
| 4 | One year out. I’m doing all the “right” things but it still hurts like hellI also deal with chronic pain so I totally get it. That was part of the reason why my ex-wife decided to have an affair and leave. It’s a shitty reason but at least I have the opportunity now to try to work on managing my symptoms. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/26 10:18 PM |
| 2 | One year out. I’m doing all the “right” things but it still hurts like hellIf you don’t mind sharing, which books did you find helpful? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/26 10:16 PM |
| 3 | One year out. I’m doing all the “right” things but it still hurts like hellYeah, I forgot to mention. I’m also about to turn 40 which is kind of crazy. I just kind of feel like I know I wanna figure out my life and become a better man and I’m proud of myself for the progress that I’ve made but it’s also frustrating. Most of my friends have kids and everybody’s busy. I don’t really know what to do as a single guy who’s about to be 40. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/26 10:04 PM |
| 1 | One year out. I’m doing all the “right” things but it still hurts like hellYeah, I totally agree and you’re right. I’m a really emotional person who invested a lot into my marriage so it’s hard not having that relationship anymore but yeah I just don’t wanna get into the next relationship until I feel like I’m in a better place. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/26 10:03 PM |
| 1 | One year out. I’m doing all the “right” things but it still hurts like hellThanks so much for your reply. It really resonated with me. Could you go into any more detail on how you were able to move your life forward, especially with so much alone time. I hear you that you pushed through it that you are now becoming the man that you want to be that you did a lot of reading and reflection what actionable items and or realizations did you do that you found helpful? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/26 10:01 PM |
| 2 | HOW DO I LET GO?Very well said. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/26 05:14 PM |
| 1 | No kids? What do you do to keep busy?thanks guys | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 03:34 PM |
| 1 | How do you rebuild your identity after divorce, especially if the role of "husband" was a big part of who you wereThank you everyone for your advice! | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/26 08:19 PM |
| 1 | How to you get over her?Which books have you liked? | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/26 04:09 PM |
| 1 | 9 months out and no longer in crisis, but still feeling stuckThanks for you guys feedback. I’m curious if anyone else has any suggestions | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/26 02:55 PM |
| 7 | Them leaving is the best thing to ever happen to you 🙌What steps did you take to make it through to the other side? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/26 01:49 AM |
| 4 | Divorce is depressing, what are you all looking forward to this week?How’d you do it? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/26 01:48 AM |
| 3 | Why rush back into a relationship? What is wrong with living singleYep, my ex-wife was in healthcare as well and was not very supportive of my chronic pain issues. It’s one of the main reasons she left me | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/26 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Help pleaseWhere did you find a good divorce recovery group? Did you find something specifically for men? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/26 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Help pleaseHow did you make it through? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/26 02:07 AM |
| 4 | Help pleaseAgreed great advice. Same thing happened to me. It’s a shame that they couldn’t communicate whatever was bothering them earlier until it was too late and then they blame you for growing resentful. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/26 02:06 AM |
| 2 | Why rush back into a relationship? What is wrong with living singleThat’s an interesting post so what do you think it means to put the work in? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/26 01:53 AM |
| 5 | Why rush back into a relationship? What is wrong with living singleHey, I’m dealing with some chronic pain issues as well. Wishing you the best. That’s probably my biggest issue right now. Is the fear of meeting somebody else and thinking that I won’t be desirable because of these chronic pain issues | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/26 01:51 AM |
| 3 | Anyone else just feel exhausted…That’s awesome advice. Thank you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/26 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else just feel exhausted…Any lessons learned or insights on how you got better | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/26 03:07 PM |
| 6 | Affair confirmedWhy are they cheating so much now? Did something change? Even the worst of people know deep down that this is wrong. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/26 01:36 AM |
| 21 | Remind Yourself: How They Treat You in the End is All you Need to KnowI’m not an expert, but from what I’ve read some of this crazy 180 behavior is basically their cognitive dissidence and a defense mechanism on some level they know they did something wrong, but rather than take ownership they have to make you the villain in order to live with themselves. It’s almost like a child throwing a temper tantrum. I know it’s really hard. My ex-wife did the exact same thing. She turned into a completely different person in the end. I didn’t recognize her, but with time co… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/26 01:16 AM |
| 10 | This is a post from divorced women page… you can’t make this shit up. I will never marry againI mean, did they even try counseling or anything . I get it it was only a year but still do vows not mean anything to people anymore. She should’ve at least communicated with him and together they could’ve tried to work on it . If after a few months if therapy wasn’t helping by all means get divorced. That’s my biggest problem with this . marriage isn’t just like a regular relationship . sure if they were just dating for a year and she decided she wasn’t happy then this behavior is totally fine … | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/03/26 07:12 PM |
| 3 | Healing through personal challengesProud of you my guy | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/26 02:51 AM |
| 1 | Dating again after divorce and infidelity when living with chronic painI realize that various people have injuries and deal with health concerns. I think it's easier if you developed those issues while already with your partner like when I was with my ex-wife. I'm scared that meeting someone new though will be a lot harder going into that with these injuries. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/26 02:04 PM |
| 2 | To Every Divorced Man Who’s Still StandingWell, said, I agree with everything and it’s crazy how different things would be like you said if your spouse had died What gets me the most is the injustice how are they doing so OK yet we are suffering | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/26 05:12 PM |
| 8 | Does anyone else ever get the urge for revenge?Yes, I have felt very tempted in my situation. My ex-wife had an affair with one of her patients at the hospital She works at. her job and reputation is everything to her. I’ve been very tempted to send evidence that would either get her fired or hurt her reputation | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/26 01:38 PM |
| 8 | I can't believe this is where I'm at.A very similar thing happened to me. I don’t know if it’s guilt or what the psychology is but my wife said she wanted to divorce and we tried to reconcile for only a few weeks. during that reconciliation process I thought things were getting better. She was talking about buying a new house together making future plans, saying how hopeful things were getting between us… but in the end she was having an affair and still decided to divorce me. I really think this is just cognitive dissidence. They … | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/26 01:23 PM |
| 2 | How far along are you and how are you doing?Hey man. I’m so proud of you for fighting through this. Keep it up! | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/02/26 01:12 PM |
| 4 | How many months before giving upHey, I think we need to cut you a little slack. It’s totally understandable wanting to fight for your marriage. I mean literally the way it’s been described is like going through heroin withdrawal so of course you’re gonna be miserable and try to do anything to get that fix and life back. Comparison can sometimes be a good thing and sometimes a bad thing so you can take my story with a grain of salt for me. I probably pleaded off and on maybe four or five times for the first two months after tha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/26 02:07 AM |
| 4 | Loneliness and painIt sucks how cold and indifferent they can be sometimes I have to hope that karma exists and that in the long run, we will be better off for doing the hard work now | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/26 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Talk me out of it.How’d you find your men’s group? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/26 04:20 AM |
| 4 | Ex spreading false sexual rumoursHis wife is in a coma… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/26 08:07 PM |
| 19 | Ex spreading false sexual rumoursTell her the jerk store called they’re running out of you | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/26 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Talk me out of it.I’m not an expert by any means but I’ve heard this piece of advice given a lot to go ahead and write the letter and at least sit on it for a few days before sending it. It’s probably not a good idea to send but it’s up to you. What are you hoping to achieve? Do you think your words to her will actually have any effect or do you think it will just reinforce her decision that she had to get out and leave you not saying there’s anything wrong with you at all I’ve had the same thoughts myself or let… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/26 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Philosophical MusingsHey, I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. You’re not alone a lot of of us feel the same one thing I would encourage you to do is look into therapy. Also look up different cognitive distortions a lot of of what you’re saying. Sounds like something called emotional reasoning, which is basically taking how you’re feeling now and making assumptions that it’s a fact just because you’re in the middle of a divorce and feeling really terrible about yourself at the moment does not mean for a fact th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/26 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Philosophical MusingsDo you recommend any particular men’s groups? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/26 03:31 PM |
| 7 | I am so sadHang in there I would highly recommend starting therapy and considering going on antidepressants short term given your description right now absolutely nothing wrong with doing either of those things | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/26 03:30 PM |
| 2 | Most guys don’t lose themselves in divorce because of the legal process...How did you do it? Any tips? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/26 04:17 AM |
| 6 | Well, now I am in the clubI’m so sorry you are going through this literally the exact same thing happened to me six months ago we’ll never know if she was cheating or not, but there are a lot of patterns and things in your post that indicate it’s more likely than not that she is. I thought the exact same thing for my ex-wife. She was a perfect angel. She works in a hospital would never have believed she was capable of any of this stuff, but in the end she was cheating. I found out later. Don’t assume you have to settle f… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/26 04:06 AM |
| 1 | How long did it take to stop thinking about/missing your ExNope. Always had roommates before so that’s making things tough to get used to | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/26 06:55 PM |
| 2 | How long did it take to stop thinking about/missing your ExThis is a really well said post. I’m trying to do exactly that it’s just really hard when I was used to living with someone full-time to now having so many nights being alone. I’m trying to do things a couple days a week but that’s still leaves five days being alone, which is a huge adjustment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/26 05:56 PM |
| 1 | How long did it take to stop thinking about/missing your ExYep, I totally agree and it’s like my mind knows that but the emotions are still there. It’s really hard to untangle 16 years being together. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/26 05:55 PM |
| 1 | How long did it take to stop thinking about/missing your ExThanks for the response. I appreciate it sometimes it’s helpful to get a sense of what other people’s timelines were. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/26 05:54 PM |
| 2 | Just an update and hopefully offer some hope.I’m glad you’re getting to a better place. I’m six months in and still waiting for that day to come. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/26 10:02 PM |
| 1 | CaughtHow did you get through it? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/26 02:24 AM |
| 2 | Is your self worth in the toilet?Thanks man. I really appreciate your comment. It’s hard to not take it personally because at the end of the day my now ex-wife was clearly unhappy, which led her to make this terrible decision and then once the divorce started of course she said nothing but nasty comments about how terrible I was how much happier she is living without me how she wasted all of these years on me that I wasn’t manly enough for her, etc. again I know this is a defense mechanism, but it’s hard to not internalize that… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/26 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Is your self worth in the toilet?I’m sorry that you had to go through that. Do you have any tips or lessons learned about how you finally were able to see yourself again after two years or do you really think it was just the time? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/26 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Is your self worth in the toilet?Yeah, I agree. This was a really good comment. It’s helpful to get a different perspective. Honestly comparison can sometimes be the thief of joy and it’s hard seeing other people appear to get over it so quickly. Do you have any tips or recommendations on how to better process things from your own experience? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/26 11:00 PM |
| 3 | Is your self worth in the toilet?I think part of my problem is that I’m putting so much pressure on myself to grow and find myself and improve my strength, confidence and resiliency to ultimately become the man that I want to be. But I don’t feel like I’m doing that even though I’m putting in the work and trying so hard. So that reinforces my sense of weakness and lack of self-esteem , worth and confidence. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/26 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Is your self worth in the toilet?That’s what my therapist says to me, but I feel like I’m reading all these stories where people are starting to get their shit together and even consider considering dating after six months and I’m nowhere near that | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/26 01:23 AM |
| 1 | Is your self worth in the toilet?Yup I’m in therapy twice a month | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/26 12:38 AM |
| 4 | Is your self worth in the toilet?Married 9 years but together for a total of 16… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/26 11:07 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when nothing works?I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. Have you tried looking for men’s support group groups that meet in person or at least online via video ? that might be more helpful than general therapy because at least you can talk to people who understand exactly what you’re going through. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/26 05:54 PM |
| 1 | How to figure out my identity…Yeah, what you’re saying makes a lot of sense. Thank you so much for sharing your perspective. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/26 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Its a new yearI think they have so many chemicals going through their mind right now with the whole affair fog thing that they aren’t even thinking straight and rationally that doesn’t excuse her behavior at all it clearly shows that she’s not a good person and is lacking self-control, but maybe that helps you understand a little bit. Hang in there and best of luck moving forward. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/26 08:46 PM |
| 1 | Help me out fellasHave you clearly communicated to him that you’re not happy and you wanna try to work on things together think of it another way if you were to suddenly ask for a divorce would he feel blindsided if the answer is yes then you need to talk to him about how you feel that would be my advice | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/26 04:52 PM |
| 4 | How to forgiveDisclaimer I don’t have kids. I’m also an atheist so forgiveness is a little bit of a touchy subject for me, but I think of forgiveness not as actually forgiving the other person, but getting to a point where you can let the divorce go and it no longer has power over you. I think that’s gonna take a long time and a lot of effort and there’s no rush. I think the concept of forgiving someone else who isn’t asking for forgiveness, i.e. in your case your wife is divorcing you and not trying to recon… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/26 04:48 PM |
| 3 | Need help formulating a responseAnd most likely physically with someone else too… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/26 04:51 AM |
| 6 | It really gets so much better gentlemenDamm man, good for you. My marriage ended back in July and while I’m definitely getting better I don’t feel anywhere close to being ready to date again I’m jealous of you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/25 09:31 PM |
| 1 | How to figure out my identity…No kids for me. Just me and my dog | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/25 08:13 PM |
| 2 | How to figure out my identity…I’m realizing that I’ve had self esteem and confidence issues for a long time even before my marriage. But yes I’m reconnecting with old friends and getting into dancing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/25 07:24 PM |
| 11 | Tough timesI wouldn’t be surprised if she’s already met someone and potentially having an affair. I’m sorry to say that OP. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/25 12:55 PM |
| 5 | Feeling extremely lonelyI definitely agree that the women appear to get over it fast. Why do you think that in the long run men fair better and women’s regrets come later? I really hope that’s true what you’re saying because man it would feel good to know that I’m doing the real work now and that I’ll be OK in the long run in my piece of shit cheating ex-wife who’s off gallivanting now will get what she deserves in the long run | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/25 01:48 AM |
| 8 | Anyone ever send your in-laws proof your wife cheated?Yeah, you guys are probably right. I’m just so angry at all of the crap she put me through. I really wanna find a way to get back at her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/25 02:10 PM |
| 4 | Women Silently Emotionally Disconnecting and Checking Out Is CowardlyThis is my story word for word | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/25 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Divorce Over: Dealing With The LonelinessThank you for the kind words. I really appreciate the encouragement. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/25 05:40 PM |
| 3 | Divorce Over: Dealing With The LonelinessWhat were some of the main takeaways that you found? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/25 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Dealing with intense sadness, regret, and self doubt post separation, long postWhich group are you part of? | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/25 11:23 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with intense sadness, regret, and self doubt post separation, long postHonestly, I wouldn’t worry about the affair thing right now. It’s probably just going to stress you out. You could try suggesting maybe taking a break for a month and reassessing things I don’t know if she would be open to that Since you are only in the first few weeks to a month, try not to stress yourself too much about the big things ..right now you’re in survival mode try to find your support network, friends, and family whom you can lean on and just get into some sort of routine so you can … | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/25 04:36 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with intense sadness, regret, and self doubt post separation, long postCould it be an emotional affair maybe someone she’s chatting with from work? Does she have any friends who have recently gone through a divorce or does she have any other girlfriends? Who do you think would give her a lot of validation and self empowerment on how she would be better off without you? Has she been seeing her own individual therapist? There was a post here recently, about how a lot of female therapists were sending messages to women that they should divorce their husbands. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/25 04:16 PM |
| 4 | Dealing with intense sadness, regret, and self doubt post separation, long postHey, I’m so sorry you’re going through this so it sounds like it’s been about a month? Do you know for sure that she wants to go forward with a divorce? I don’t know if this is helpful, but I’ll share a couple of things from my own story that is somewhat similar. I’m about 4 1/2 months since my ex-wife said she wanted a divorce. Unfortunately, I think the blind sighting and overreacting to things is a very common story around here. That’s what happened to me and I think if you read some other po… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/25 04:11 PM |
| 18 | A follow up to my post the other day about walkaway wives.Word for Word, this is exactly what happened to me | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/25 03:57 PM |
| 3 | Wish Me Luck: Taking Back My Life Post DivorceHey, thanks so much for taking the time to put this response together. There’s a lot of really good information in here that I will take to heart. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/25 03:24 AM |
| 1 | Wish Me Luck: Taking Back My Life Post DivorceAgreed. And I’m definitely not too confident.. I just feel like I’m finally starting to improve. I’ve got a long way to go. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/25 11:59 PM |
| 5 | Hard DaysI think everyone’s timeline is different. Here a couple things to keep in mind first don’t let anyone tell you what you should be doing and how long healing should be taking. I had a couple of friends who meant well, but basically set this unrealistic expectation that I get to cry and be as sad as I want for the first month, but after that, I need to get my act together and get better. I really thought that was the “normal” healing window, and when I was still feeling really crappy in months two… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/25 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Suicidal ideation since divorceYes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/25 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Suicidal ideation since divorceI went on a camping retreat. Being in nature for a few days… making camp fires with some random people really helped me. Meditation also helps. Are you reading any good self help books? I’m enjoying dad starting over and his new book rebuilding Do you have any old friends you can try reconnecting with? Or try meetups | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/25 09:21 PM |
| 7 | My thoughts on Walk Away WivesWow this is so similar to my story. Just crazy. I will say that I think there are mistakes we as men make too. I own that. But the lack of communication and silent resentment and post hoc justification is spot on. I’d be really interested in the groups thoughts on what to do given this apt description I mean the answer can’t be to never have a relationship again so what is within our control? What can and should we do? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/25 03:16 AM |
| 1 | For those feeling hopeless please read thisI don’t mean flawless. I meant to say 90% of the time the marriage will either be good enough, the man may file or at least the man knew for a while and it wasn’t a surprise. I’m trying to put some perspective for folks that just because we are in this cluster of a time now does not mean all or even most relationships are like this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/25 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Almost 1 yr after. Feel like she was the best thing I could ever hope for and what's the point going on now?I definitely feel the same way now that it’s getting dark earlier again I’m sorry if that’s not too helpful. At least you know you’re not alone. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/25 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Almost 1 yr after. Feel like she was the best thing I could ever hope for and what's the point going on now?I’m so sorry you’re going through this painful process. I had a very similar situation I thought everything was perfect. We rarely argued. I thought I had a really great marriage until it all blew up in the end and I also realized that my ex-wife had avoidant tendencies that doesn’t mean that I didn’t have issues either and I’m sure there were some things that you could’ve done better. I don’t know if it helps just knowing that you aren’t alone and a lot of people are going through this situatio… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/25 07:03 PM |
| 3 | Pain and SufferingI can totally understand where you’re coming from and why you’re struggling with this decision. This is a person who you’ve clearly spent a long time with and ending that is no easy thing so I’m not gonna come down on you as hard as others I went through a similar situation four months ago I begged my ex to stay. I wanted to reconcile. Something that I’ve been thinking about is that having an affair is never justified right but let’s say it happened and they really felt bad about it and they rea… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/25 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Message from the other side. Today is my 50th bday.u/WillyT_21 How did you actually look yourself in the mirror and figure out who you want to be? I'm 4 months in and am starting to think alone these lines. The problem is I have no idea. I gave up so much of myself for my marriage which was my own fault. My life became about being a "good husband." That that I don't have that role, I have no idea who I am and who I want to be. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/25 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Help me understand why my ex-wife cheated on meI think you may be right. How did you end up getting over your own depression/issues? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/25 02:34 PM |
| 3 | Help me understand why my ex-wife cheated on meThank you. I really appreciate your support. I could never see myself doing that to anyone. I hope not all women are like this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/25 08:12 PM |
| 2 | Help me understand why my ex-wife cheated on meShe really hasn't given me a lot of feedback, but from what I've heard: She didn't like how I dealt with chronic pain She felt like I was too protective over her when her work was taking advantage of her She wanted me to take more initiative planning outings/dates She felt like she wanted to escape and live a more exciting life | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/25 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Help me understand why my ex-wife cheated on meI think it's helpful for moving on by processing the events from different perspectives. I appreciate those who are trying to help and those who are also helping with tough love. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/25 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Help me understand why my ex-wife cheated on meI'm starting to learn about the different attachment styles and yes I am more the anxious type | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/25 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Help me understand why my ex-wife cheated on meI wonder if it feel good to send her a message like the one you just sent me lol. I don't know how she can look herself in the mirror after what she did...but apparently she's living a great life now and told me she's never been happier since leaving me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/25 07:31 PM |
| 6 | Help me understand why my ex-wife cheated on meTHe crazy thing is that years ago she was suffering from lyme disease and was debilitated for a couple of years. i did eveything for her..i took care of her...i never batted an eyelash or questioned anything...i thought that's what the right thing is to do | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/25 07:26 PM |
| 3 | Help me understand why my ex-wife cheated on mewell said. I just don't want to turn into this cold person who thinks all women are like this and swear to never marry again. they can't all be like this right? | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/25 07:24 PM |
| 4 | Help me understand why my ex-wife cheated on meI know she isnt coming back. I guess based on reading a bunch of comments, it's easy to just say she's terrible and i'm better off...maybe that's true...i just struggle to connect her actions at the end with the person I thought she was. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/25 07:23 PM |
| 3 | Help me understand why my ex-wife cheated on meI get it, I just thought it would help to try to figure out the why. I never saw this side of her before | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/25 07:10 PM |
| 1 | I really need help dealing with recent divorceYeah, I think going to therapy is helpful although I was hoping it would be more helpful. Mostly it’s just another outlet because I know that my friends are already getting tired of hearing me complain. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/25 01:11 AM |
| 1 | I really need help dealing with recent divorceHow did you deal with the loneliness? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/25 01:10 AM |
| 2 | I really need help dealing with recent divorceThat’s one of the things that upsets me the most I learned that apparently she had been unhappy and growing resentful for a long time, but she never told me about it until she had already decided to leave. It’s upsetting that being together for 16 years, apparently didn’t mean anything to her, and she wasn’t even willing to try to save the marriage. I would’ve felt a lot better if she said something and we gave it at least a few months to try to make improvements and then if that didn’t work, th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/25 01:09 AM |
| 1 | I’m tired of feeling like this. I just want to move on.I'm in a very similar situation. I don't have any great advice but wish you the best of luck. I had no idea how existential this process would be. Therapy and a divorce support group have been a little helpful for me if that's something you're interested in. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/10/25 07:14 PM |
| 1 | [UPDATE] 6 Weeks Post-Divorce – The Loneliness Feels Unbearable. I Need Help.I think part of the problem is my self-confidence or lack thereof I have some chronic pain issues and I'm really struggling to imagine being able to fully take care of myself and actually finding someone who would be interested in me it's not like I'm debilitated or anything but I have a lot of trouble walking long distances I can only walk for about 10 or 15 minutes at a time before my feet really start hurting I've got lower back issues and pinched nerves in my arms so it's just very hard to d… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/25 10:18 PM |
| 1 | 4 Weeks Post-D-Day and Divorce: The Loneliness Is CrushingThank you all for your replies! | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/25 06:22 PM |
| 1 | I know it's over but I still can't let goWhat readings/books are generally recommended? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/25 08:29 PM |
| 2 | I (M28) miss my wife (27) so much. After 2 years of marriage and 5 in relationship, I had to go away because I couldn’t handle my promiscuity.I'm so sorry you are going through this, hang in there. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/25 08:26 PM |
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