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how long ago was your breakup?
/r/seduction07/01/26 12:48 PM
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Lol, people arent going to leave NY to date in philly. People arent even gonna leave their own borough, are you kidding me
/r/seduction26/12/25 11:15 PM
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Ive found that once you get used to thinking about women in terms of sex and fun, its hard to turn that mindset off. And once you get used to thinking about women in terms of support and having your back and filling in the areas of life youre bad at so that you can really work together as a team -- as real partners in life, basically -- then its equivalently hard to change your mindset because you get used to interacting in that way too. Some folks never develop that second mindset because theyr…
/r/seduction24/09/24 07:13 PM
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yup lol. my friend put finance because he works in compliance. he had to get real used to hearing that disappointed "oh" on dates looool.
/r/seduction07/07/24 10:15 PM
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lol this. Surgeons spend 13-18 years in training and usually end up awkward af when they finally start making that paycheck. The really excellent surgeons also have an ego the size of the moon. Idolizing surgeons as a desirable career tells me OP doesnt know anything about either surgeons or women.
/r/seduction07/07/24 10:11 PM
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You're more likely to find a nice Midwestern girl that actually wants to get married in Chicago than in NYC. Some of the Texan cities are good options too. Austin and Dallas will have a lot of sophisticated professionals who still want to get married Of the people I know who got married in NYC, none did before 35 for both men and women. It was closer to 38-40. Everyone there is going to love their jobs more than you, lol. Source: I lived there from 21-31.
/r/seduction11/05/24 04:13 PM
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I typically respond: “Thanks, that means a lot coming from you.” to compliment back without complimenting back.
/r/seduction28/12/21 04:42 AM
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lol fuck. This comment made me actually laugh out loud. Lololll.
/r/seduction10/08/21 02:21 AM
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^ this one book clubs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:18 PM
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You know what, bravo to both of you. Him, for being self aware enough to know he wants mess and not stopping until he had mess. And you, for missing your ticket onboard that train wreck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:05 AM
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Jesus. Its fucked that when they were pranking a guy, he had a backup. But obviously he could take a woman alone, so he did that one solo. I get that this was "just a prank" but it just goes to show just how dangerous it could have been for the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:05 AM
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Did we all date the same ex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:25 AM
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Fuck. I'm so out of the loop, I thought the kid's name was karma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:05 AM
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On that note about travelling -- people have different "traveling styles" and they're all valid. Some are the "take a bus across the length of Peru with only a backpack" style and some are "resort in Greece with your girlfriends" style. And everyone thinks their version is the most legit. Fuck that. Figure out what works for you and pursue it singlemindedly. (<-- Relevant for a lot of things in life.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:09 PM
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Don’t stay with the man that makes you feel alone when he’s there. Oof. I felt this in MY BONES. Tell me how I've never felt lonelier than when I lived with an LVM for 2 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:06 PM
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She comes off like Joo-Dee. "There is no pickme in Ba Sing Se"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:33 PM
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Something about corona got my exes messaging me out of the blue on FB. One dude from 6 years ago and another from 10 (TEN!!!) years ago. Things haven't changed, bruh. Kindly fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:26 PM
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I hate that we have to reference their mothers or daughters to get them to think. ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:19 PM
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This title sent me lololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:00 PM
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I think it's a bit unfair to compare her version of HVW to a HVW in the US. While it would obviously be ideal if she could support herself so she could approach an equal partner...like let's be real. Like her "roof" wasn't even really a roof. Her dad literally slept in a pig farm. They took showers from a hose in the same place as the laundry and the chicken coop. Her version of a pickmeisha would've been to accept any level of disrespect just to get to the US. But no, she saw the STD test reque…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 12:55 AM
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I think her actions very legitimate.... she knew what was negotiable and non-negotiable for herself and stuck to it. In fact, I think that's far more praiseworthy then falling in line with what other women's standards are. Height and looks weren't top of mind for her. How Ed treated Prince, having more children, and respect for her were her dealbreakers and when she had enough proof that he wasn't going to budge on all those things she left. As someone who has atypical dealbreakers too, I stan t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 12:03 AM
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Holy shit. Did he try to do the same shit to you too?!?!?! Wtf?!?!? This is his ~mOvE~ ?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:32 PM
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Oh fuck. Why you gotta call me out like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:13 AM
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Dita von teese!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:29 AM
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Hard same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:23 AM
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It's so weird because there's a culture of being wary of "dependas in the military" but they've translated that to "woman bad" rather than "financial literacy good". An example: My ex was a doctor in the military. He was 300K+ in med school debt (for a DO, not even an MD), 80+ in CC debt, and slim job prospects because he didn't land a residency in the last round or two...whereas I was financially sound for like a decade. After two years of dating, he had the audacity to ask me to give up my car…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:05 PM
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I didnt! I'm going to request it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:46 AM
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Holy shit. I feel this in my bones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:26 PM
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Hey there! I requested 3 days ago but still havent received a code. Should I request again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:00 PM
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Look, you're not going to out shout him. You're not going to get a word in edge wise at all. So you rebel with your face. Aim for slightly amused, like you find it funny. The worst option is that he'll get mad, but frankly, it doesn't sound like he can get louder. The best option is that he'll be thrown off at which point you can either get a word in or you can leave. He won't let you speak, but you can make your point clear to him without saying a word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:56 PM
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I too would love to know these changes in rules
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:24 AM
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Fuck I love a happy ending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 02:31 AM
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Holy fuck. This said everything I'd ever felt about the matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 09:52 PM
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What a life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 07:35 AM
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Wellps this spoke volumes: "A recent study of seniors in the U.S. found that in several important ways, women do better than men when living alone, whereas men do relatively better when they live with other people—typically, a wife. One example is the time that they have for their own hobbies and interests: Women have more time to pursue their own interests when they live alone, whereas men have more time to do what they like when they live with someone else."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 12:20 AM
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Hork is my new favorite onomatopoeia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 12:58 AM
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What were the things he asked you? (What should we be looking out for?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:23 PM
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I spent the first three years out of college in publishing. (Granted, I was a STEM major and worked in science publishing.) I didn't do a dissertation and no one gave a fuck, man. Make of that what you will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:44 AM
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Holy shit, that's perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 06:09 PM
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Holy shit, I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 07:49 PM
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This should go in the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:53 AM
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'You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches.' — Dita Von Teese
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:23 AM
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Jesus. This guy I know keeps talking about how his girlfriend is "anorexic" and keeps making fun of how little she eats. She's 11 inches shorter than him and a totally healthy weight -- on the upper end of normal actuallyy. In fact, he laughs now about how he "made his ex wife gain 60 lbs during their relationship", probably from these same shitty comments. Wtf is wrong with men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:29 AM
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What a beautiful title.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:40 AM
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Just want to highlight that "give her an out" part. Part of being a good hook up means making her feel safe and comfortable with you. If she thinks she (1) won't be judged and (2) won't be forced or pressured to do anything she doesn't want to do, she is more likely to not only sleep with you, but keep coming back for more.
/r/seduction19/12/18 03:38 PM
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Damn, that's some good shit there. Thanks for writing it up!
/r/seduction11/07/18 03:42 PM
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Ugh, fml.
/r/seduction05/02/14 10:52 PM
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Just wanted to say, I really respect what you wrote here.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/14 05:32 PM
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Fewer in relation to women, not fewer overall. There's actually more men overall graduating from college, as compared to 1975. Also, Title IX bars gender discrimination; it doesn't encourage acceptance of female candidates regardless of academic merit.
/r/TheRedPill11/10/13 05:18 PM
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You. I like you, and everything you've written in this thread.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/13 09:05 PM
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Brave man. This sub is going to tear you apart.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/13 05:03 PM
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It's anthropology more than anything.
/r/seduction16/04/13 07:13 PM
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Is she depressed or unhappy with her appearances? not only has she stopped having kids but they can’t even function as mammaries if she wanted them to Just an FYI, nobody in the history of ever has gotten breast implants so they can breastfeed. Implants actually often block milk production/ejection. This is unrelated, but bears pointing out.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/13 09:37 PM
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Technically, the article isn't saying anything about whether or not inner game dictates happiness. A better tl;dr is that insecure people benefit from monogamy, and secure people are unaffected by monogamy. (It doesn't say that the secure people are happier.)
/r/seduction08/04/13 03:34 PM
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Look up 'stoicism'. The epitome of idgaf.
/r/seduction27/03/13 05:59 PM
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My fav is always: Arrogance is thinking that you're the most awesome person in the room. Confidence is thinking that everyone's awesome, including yourself.
/r/seduction27/03/13 05:58 PM
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"Transactional analysis" for anyone looking for further reading.
/r/seduction23/03/13 07:06 PM
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You're right! I hate using that term because I end up having to defend it as a legitimate thing. For some reason, if I just describe it, it tends to go over easier.
/r/seduction20/11/12 11:01 PM
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Lol, sometimes seddit is fucking ridiculous. "You don't like having casual sex? The solution to this it to have MORE casual sex! Fuck those feelings away!!!!" Listen, college sucks because everyone's got sex for brains. Personally, I'm almost asexual in that I don't feel immediate sexual attraction to people. It just doesn't happen. I have to actually have feelings for someone before sex is even on the table. I've had casual sex with one girl (very attractive) since and it honestly just made me …
/r/seduction20/11/12 03:15 PM
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Wow, this is some really good shit. It toes the line between confident and asshole really well.
/r/seduction08/11/12 08:22 PM
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Every girl understands that an invitation to 'watch a movie' is not an invitation to watch a movie. I don't think it needs to be said.
/r/seduction08/11/12 08:19 PM
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wary dude, just fyi. it's a common mistake.
/r/seduction26/09/12 06:42 AM
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Dude, if it makes you uncomfortable, it makes you uncomfortable. Maybe the one night stand thing just isn't your deal. That's fucking fine. Set up long-term FWB or relationships, then. Not everybody needs to do the bar scene.
/r/seduction28/08/12 04:08 PM
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Use Google Voice. That's my go-to.
/r/seduction28/08/12 04:00 PM
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For men. Men tend to be quite visual. For women, your confidence, status, social skills, humor, and fitness are much more important than the symmetry of your features.
/r/seduction28/05/12 12:13 PM
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You're thinking too literally. Physical appearance is such a small percentage of attraction.
/r/seduction28/05/12 08:15 AM
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Yeah...I, unfortunately, don't have a subscription either. Maybe someone else out there in the ether can help?
/r/seduction09/05/12 06:59 PM
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Too subtle for reddit.
/r/seduction01/05/12 07:19 PM
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I found this post way more informative than OP's.
/r/seduction16/04/12 07:35 AM
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that told them that to me it was all fun and games. This is so key. If you show that you got angry, you'll have lost. If you make it fun but stand your ground, you're really showing your alpha state, imo.
/r/seduction06/04/12 07:10 PM
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Thank you. Fucking voice of reason here. It's not OP's responsibility to cater to this particular woman's insecurities and barriers. They literally just met that one night, and she wasn't exactly forthright about who she was (except for being a dick that likes to test people to see who 'deserves' her). He knew nothing else about her other than that one fact. If he were to continue pursuing her, completely disregarding her shitty personality, then it totally goes against the whole PUA ethos of fi…
/r/seduction05/04/12 05:31 AM
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Seriously. I agree wholeheartedly. Willful ignorance is the worst.
/r/MensRights09/03/12 10:05 PM
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It's extremely well known to be very neutral and unbiased. Many of it's writers win pulitzers for their reporting. It has exactly 0 to do with Christian Science or Christianity or Science (it's more like the Economist in that they do analysis reporting of events)...the name is a throwback to its former owner who insisted on keeping the title.
/r/MensRights09/03/12 03:06 PM
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This is comparing SINGLE males/females, not just males/females. And the data is from the 2006 American community survey, US census bureau. Fucking hell, it's like you didn't even look at the picture.
/r/seduction06/03/12 12:45 PM
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Oh shit, high school? Damn, dude...high school game is tops. You get the chance to really experiment with different personalities/different styles because, hell, you're graduating in 2 or so years anyway! What do you have to lose? Get out there. Be social. High school folks are easy because they tend to be so young and insecure. That will work in your favor (I'll explain in about two sentences). Try to befriend a wide group of people (on an acquaintance level at least, not necessarily best frien…
/r/seduction19/02/12 05:54 AM
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Hey, newcomer. I agree, the reading list can get quite extensive. Honestly, staying in your head and 'researching' before acting is what got most AFCs in the situation they're currently in. Reading really won't get you anywhere; you need to take action. I think it'd be best if you could get a wingman/natural friend to go with you to a bar, and just start living the life. If you don't know anyone, check out the righthand column for lairs in your area. You need to jump in headfirst, man. Good luck…
/r/seduction19/02/12 04:15 AM
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hook up with a seddit lair in your locale. join a meet up group. join a club/sporting organization. Just get out there and do shit.
/r/seduction04/02/12 03:23 AM
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Interesting, confident people can be interesting and confident anywhere.
/r/seduction24/01/12 01:26 AM
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I love that this thread is still going 5 months after the fact.
/r/seduction13/12/11 10:06 PM
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Dude, I'm a woman and even I think that it just sounds like you're pleased, if embarrassed, in your example.
/r/seduction05/12/11 03:20 AM
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Love this. In stark contrast to another front-paged post right now, My guide to the bars...pretty comprehensive. Thoughts?
/r/seduction20/10/11 05:16 AM
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Meh, whatever. When I first came in it was at the very bottom. Also wanted to save it for future reference since RES is all wonky on this computer.
/r/seduction03/10/11 02:44 AM
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Holy shit. This right here is the best answer.
/r/seduction03/10/11 12:29 AM
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Man, you're doing it wrong.
/r/seduction24/09/11 04:23 AM
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PUA isn't like a laser beam, where you focus it on one woman and they're held in thrall. It's more like a black hole, where you're so fucking alpha that all women in your event horizon are drawn to you.
/r/seduction22/09/11 08:30 PM
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Sweet merciful FSM, this. I meet tons of funny, smart, interesting women every where I go. But it's quite rare to find someone with similar values as me. One who resolves conflict similarly to me, who is going the same direction in life as me, who has the balance of kindness and independence that I'm looking for. If I meet someone like that who is also funny, smart, well-educated, interesting, AND physically my type....then fuck. That's what I want to settle down with. I don't want to just keep …
/r/seduction22/09/11 08:24 PM
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See, while it might seem obvious to you what it would take to "insult women to point where they are crying later", there are varying degrees and each case is really unique. Case in point, I had an ex-boyfriend that made me feel like shit. He'd tease me about my eyesight (I'm nearly legally blind) or my family (I found out I had an older half-sister when I was 18; I grew up an only child). And so it's really easy to go too far for one particular person, especially when you're first starting out. …
/r/seduction19/09/11 09:00 PM
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Man, that's fucking adorable. That would totally work on me.
/r/seduction15/09/11 01:26 PM
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I think you feel overpowered by other people too easily, which results in you isolating yourself and drawing a kind of arrogance off this loneliness, which is really just misguided anger. Shit man. The most insightful comment here.
/r/seduction28/08/11 06:45 PM
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That's the idea, I think. If she's curt, you cut your losses and go somewhere else. There was an interesting article a few days back...sometimes it's about her and her headspace, not you. Maybe she's just feeling particularly bitchy, or she's got a lot on her mind, or she's waiting for a friend and not looking to talk to you....The key here is to read how she responds to a simple opener, and if she's not game...then let it go and go for someone who is. tl;dr, You don't continue the conversation.…
/r/seduction23/08/11 03:00 PM
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She's got her own issues if she's placing the responsibility of her happiness on anyone else but herself. I'd say you dodged a bullet there.
/r/seduction22/08/11 04:02 AM
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I think you messed up your first example. Also, i too would like to hear an answer to the second bit. Edit: Nope, sorry. I just read it wrong. Carry on, sir.
/r/seduction19/08/11 07:44 PM
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See, I don't really see this as a problem. If you're happy with your self and your life, why bother being in a relationship. Honestly, you should only worry about it if you think she would increase your happiness. Otherwise, don't stress about how you think you're supposed to live your life and just be happy.
/r/seduction19/08/11 07:43 PM
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This is some seriously good shit, man. Honestly, it's effective for a whole lot of other facets other than PUA. This is the kind of self-improvement shit I've been looking for out of this community.
/r/seduction12/08/11 06:57 PM
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I'd have to agree with disso here. When you only remain calm in the face of her anger, you run the risk of coming across condescending and patronizing. Kind of like the relationship version of: "O U MAD? Y U MAD THO? CALM DOWN, Y U MAD?" ...or you come across as uncaring, as Chase mentioned, where you just disregard her altogether. As disso said, I've also read that a good customer service response is to empathize first, before you start bringing them to your level. You have to address the emoti…
/r/seduction12/08/11 06:54 PM
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I would disagree here. The girl very obviously doesn't give two shits about giving chase after you, OP. You're there for her convenience just as she's there for yours (hopefully. please don't tell us you're getting oneitis). Keep playing the field, and when you bump into her next extend an offer for an easy lay. That should really be the extent of your interaction. Also: the drop out is when you go cold and don't initiate contact at all. It's being apathetic.
/r/seduction13/07/11 04:26 PM
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Lol, I just think it's hilarious that Seddit is glorifying the exact thing it's accused of outside of this subreddit. In here, posts are very clearly "How to get my sex on." Outside, sedditors try their best to justify their language and comments by saying that's it's really for self-improvement or gaining confidence or learning appropriate social skills. What about this improves any of those facets? Nothing. It's literally just to get your dick wet.
/r/seduction05/07/11 07:18 PM
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My point being that he's scoring dates with idiots that'll fall for that. Quality over quantity, man.
/r/seduction05/07/11 04:09 PM
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Faking it til you make it is an internal system of self-delusion in order to portray confidence. Social proof is external validation of confidence, charisma, and character, regardless if that confidence, charisma or character is real or not. Those three C's can be faked. Whether or not people like you (ie social proof) cannot be faked. In other words, you decide how you portray yourself but other people decide your actual status within a group. You can influence your status, but, by necessity, o…
/r/seduction05/07/11 03:14 PM
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No they don't. Girls can see for themselves how popular and charismatic I am and how many hot friends I have when I roll up in a bar or club with my group or talk to them. No lies are necessary; they have visual social proof right there.
/r/seduction05/07/11 03:10 PM
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Everybody's childish and nobody wins. :(
/r/seduction05/07/11 03:04 PM
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There's r/socialengineering ... but it's pretty much dead. :/
/r/seduction02/07/11 07:16 AM
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To be fair, the title of this post is 'Woman's view' as in a single woman, not to speak for women everywhere.
/r/seduction16/06/11 10:26 PM
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I really like that line! My problem is that when I deliver something like "Are you causing trouble, you look like trouble" with my kind of cocky, smirky attitude, I'm afraid she'll be like "Wtf? I don't know how to react to that? So I'm going to back away from the creeper." How would you deal with that kind of reaction? I don't want to make her uncomfortable or defensive, since that would immediately close off any interaction we might have. tl;dr How do I save face when my approach is unwelcome?
/r/seduction07/06/11 06:24 PM
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You can make MDMA into a pill or a powder. But what differentiates the two is that X is usually cut with other things...drugs like PCP or something more benign like caffeine. Molly is much purer. It's the other stuff in X that cause people to easily OD, whereas it's extremely rare to hear of someone ODing on molly.
/r/seduction05/06/11 08:43 PM
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You can't plan it out too much. It's the equivalent of trying to approach with canned lines...it's awkward and forced and not fun for anybody. Thus, you don't "decide which moves to use", really. Have fun, be playful, don't take yourself too seriously, hit the beat when you can. You should actively try to relax your body. When you're all in your head and worried about 'what's next? what's next?' you tend to space out, and your insecurity can be seen in tenseness around your shoulders and back. W…
/r/seduction04/06/11 05:11 AM
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Like ecstasy, but purer. (The definition has changed since the 90s, but this is generally accepted now.)
/r/seduction04/06/11 05:04 AM
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I've found that this was always helpful for when you were looking just to fclose or what have you. But stating that you want a relationship straight away? Wouldn't that scare off any woman?
/r/seduction19/05/11 07:49 PM
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A lot of the methods and such are covered over in AskSeddit.
/r/seduction02/05/11 04:05 PM
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Most girls would have been creeped out, then would have run away to gossip with all her girlfriends about the loser freshman with 0 game. At least this girl took the time to explain to him what he was doing wrong. There's only one way to really learn...and it's better to have someone gently point out his mistakes rather than leave him in the cold with no clue what went wrong. I don't get why you're being so bitter when the girl here was obviously correct about proper kino escalation.
/r/seduction04/04/11 02:50 PM
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antagonizing the strong without cause =! protecting yourself and those you care about from an asshole
/r/seduction29/03/11 12:19 PM
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But she likes 1 version of you, why should she want to be with someone else who acts completely differently? You might want to try to taper off on the Gaming earlier in the relationship if you're interested in an LTR.
/r/seduction10/02/11 03:02 AM
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wary And i agree with dashingprice. It's sort of like confirmation bias. How likely would it be for you to find a random picture of a girl in a normla school library? (Who does that?)
/r/seduction07/02/11 10:28 PM
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"Psh, so what's the coolest thing about you? If we have something in common we should totally start a club"." That is magnificent. Dammit...I wish I'd read this about two days ago.
/r/seduction07/02/11 10:21 PM
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If you want to be with her, you have the weigh the options of her friendship versus a relationship. If you want to be with her and you think it's worth risking her friendship, then go and get her. Don't let her make this decision for you. Don't let her actions define your actions. The proper route to take is: you like her, you make moves....NOT she likes you, you make moves.
/r/seduction04/12/10 08:54 PM
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What if there's nothing about his appearance you could mock? Women will find some way to crush your soul. Seriously, dude. It might not even be words, just a withering look that makes you turtle so fast, your dick gets dick burn.
/r/seduction02/12/10 12:57 AM
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Obviously the delivery can make it or break it, but I would shy away from the first one. It can put a woman on the defensive and have her close off. Try something more playful like the one above: " Well [pause] have you tried setting traps?"
/r/seduction02/12/10 12:54 AM
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Listen to this man! I have a vagina and my vagina agrees!! On the real though, it really depends on what your personality is. If you can be funny and pull it off. Go for it. Humor is rare and definitely DHV. If you can graciously accept it, go for it. But don't get seriously intense or wayy too happy at a compliment. I had a guy give me Super Intense eyes when I complimented him once and it honestly just freaked me out.
/r/seduction02/12/10 12:44 AM
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My girl friend's SO has a small penis. (We are women. We will talk about this.) This girl friend started having sex quite young and was adamant that penis size was a deciding factor in sexual partners. She totally enthralled with her SO, and is more than satisfied with their sex life. Apparently, he makes her cum so hard she blacks out. Seriously, dude. It's not an issue. :)
/r/seduction12/11/10 05:09 AM
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I am a woman...and trust me, this happens to us too. However, it's pretty rare for me to be attracted to guys physically anymore, so it's since stopped happening. :: shrug ::...good advice all around.
/r/seduction04/11/10 09:47 PM
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I absolutely agree with you. I mean, I have no such issue with power that i need to wield it every which way in a relationship. I don't care to "wear the pants", so to speak, and I'm looking for an SO who feels the same. In my ideal long-term relationship, we are exactly as you describes: friends that support and respect each other, with the added bonus of a shared history and intimacy that's incomparable to one-night stands.
/r/seduction13/10/10 06:25 PM
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I am a woman and I can confirm this.
/r/seduction11/10/10 05:36 AM
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On that note, I guess the the difference is that a good-looking AFC girl is still good-looking, while a good-looking AFC guy is still AFC. :/
/r/seduction06/10/10 12:01 AM
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To clarify: I was positing a counter-point to your idea that attractive women never receive traumatic rejections by putting forward the idea of the Ugly Duckling. Girl is hella awkward in high school, goes through a metamorphosis in college, ends up being a swan with a sucky past and the AFC mentality to match. This could be one of those cases. /hypotheticals
/r/seduction05/10/10 11:29 PM
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I'd drop her. Plowing through it when she's shown a clear disinterest makes you look like an AFC. Next that shit.
/r/seduction05/10/10 11:20 PM
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Ugly Duckling Syndrome?
/r/seduction05/10/10 11:16 PM
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Awesome.
/r/seduction02/10/10 05:56 AM
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This, absolutely. Added bonus, intelligent people often look for like. If you can teach her something she doesn't know or isn't familiar with, then you've got immediate DHV material. Just have something you are passionate about on the ready.
/r/seduction20/09/10 09:41 AM
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I'm on the other side of the fence. I come off as super quiet/shy/intelligent at the library/cafeteria/class. And then people are blown away when they see me in my element at a party. Point of the story is that it can go either way, really.
/r/seduction20/09/10 09:39 AM
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Ooo. I like you. Friended.
/r/seduction11/09/10 12:43 AM
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To be fair, girls who like sneakers probably aren't alpha female HB9s that go to bars for attention whoring and get jealous when their girlfriends get more limelight. tldr; this situation probably wouldn't apply to laid back girls
/r/seduction10/09/10 02:49 AM
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To be fair, the idea that "do good or bad, it will come back to you" isn't just Hinduism. It's also the basis of judeo-christian mythology (heaven as a reward do-gooders; hell for everyone else), wiccanism (the threefold law, i think it's called: every bad I do will return to me threefold), and just about everything in between. Karma is the inherently human need for "justice" distilled into an easily recognizable colloquialism.
/r/seduction08/09/10 02:52 AM
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Granted. I guess the difference is that you're not fucking your dentist, you know what I'm saying? It's pretty hard to really be emotionally/physically distant when you guys are boning.
/r/seduction06/09/10 07:05 AM
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Just a question because I see a lot of men with this justification for their behavior: why do you, personally, think it's better to "be a dick", as you say (I would call it being sketchy, myself) rather than just telling the woman upfront what your expectations are? Why do you think this course of action is better than the other?
/r/seduction06/09/10 02:33 AM
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As a woman, I would disagree. I'd rather you tell me upfront that you want a casual relationship. From that point on, it's up to her whether or not she can deal with that. The being a dick bit that onthedl suggests is a lot more emotionally and psychologically taxing. It's best to get it out there as soon as possible so that if/when she starts having feelings for you, you have a safety net: "I TOLD you it was casual!" Like onthedl says, she won't think you're a sleeze for casual sex, so you migh…
/r/seduction06/09/10 02:30 AM
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I think you misunderstood me. I don't go to clubs because there is small talk there; it's not like I'm allergic to the stuff. I don't go to clubs because of the large groups of people making transitory, artificial, and ultimately meaningless associations, of which small talk is an example. I'd much rather have a low-key night out, doing something I love, and meeting people in a smaller scale.
/r/seduction04/09/10 03:11 AM
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Well and no...I find small talk tedious, personally. I get no personal satisfaction from having small talk with anyone. It is a matter of preference.
/r/seduction04/09/10 01:11 AM
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...Or maybe he's an introvert and finds large groups of people making weak small talk annoying. There's nothing wrong with that. And I think you're wrong, or you have intense confirmation bias. Just because most of the girls you've met happened to be through a club or bar, doesn't mean "pretty much every girl" goes clubbing.
/r/seduction04/09/10 12:57 AM
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As a woman, I agree with SpaceToaster. There is no logic to emotional arguments. Personally, i take myself out of the situation, cool down, and then approach my boyfriend later on when I can rationally discuss it. If you're in an emotional argument, you will not win. Even if you make 100% sense, the woman will still be pissed until she can get those emotions out of her. It's why women bring up shit from years ago into an argument. Even once the argument has been settled, she's still angry and sh…
/r/seduction29/08/10 08:13 AM
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I'm pretty sure those are the realizations you make once you're past that stage.
/r/seduction29/08/10 07:52 AM
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I'd say if a person has a feminine bone structure/body type, they're more emotional. My ex-boyfriend had big round eyes, a weak jaw, a rather lithe body, long fingers....the works. He was extremely emotional. I had to dump him because he was so much more emotional than me. My best friend has broad shoulders, a short neck, and a rather muscular frame. She's the most logical person I know...to the point where we all worry that she's a robot. I'd say yes, if a person is physically feminine, they ar…
/r/seduction29/08/10 07:48 AM
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Dude, this reads like one of those Cosmo quizzes. I wouldn't care too much about whatever it is women are calling you. If you're in their pants, you're doing something right. If you're not, then do something right. Who cares about labels?
/r/seduction24/08/10 04:01 AM
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Upvoted for truth.
/r/seduction22/08/10 05:37 PM
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Dude, everything about PUA is a power struggle. Literally. Everything. :/
/r/seduction22/08/10 05:38 AM
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Whoa shit. That game is good. Where'd you read that one? Thanks man. :)
/r/seduction13/08/10 11:04 AM
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Fairs/amusement parks. Added bonus, apparently she'll mistake the rush of adrenaline as attraction to you. Also: street fairs are quirky and fun. If she's up to it, a hike or bike through some scenic areas. Pack a bottle of something and make it a picnic at a particularly good looking spot.
/r/seduction13/08/10 08:23 AM
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some female buddies seem less eager to hang out because (I presume) they're afraid I'm hitting on them. ...or they could find your arrogance and flippant-ness distasteful. That being said, Are you happy with the way you're acting? Then keep on doing it. Are you unhappy with the toll its taken on your relationships? Then stop doing it. It's up to you to decide what's important to you and where to draw your own lines.
/r/seduction12/08/10 08:39 PM
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Lol! my girl friend had spent the time talking, by total coincidence, to A's friend Uhm. No, dude. That's a wingman.
/r/seduction08/08/10 07:22 AM
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Be wary of girls that are excessively displaying IOIs in Asia...especially if her English seems too good. She could be a whore. And while some very basic body language IOIs may be cross-cultural..such as directly her body towards you in particular, holding your gaze for longer than others', leaning in towards you, etc. etc... sometimes Asian women can just be super excited to see a foreigner. It would help to know where in Asia you are.
/r/seduction20/07/10 07:45 AM
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wayy to edit your post so that mine made no sense whatsoever.
/r/seduction07/07/10 08:27 AM
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Did you make a move? You should've made a move. Tell me you at least cuddled her whilst mostly-naked yourself. :/
/r/seduction07/07/10 08:19 AM
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