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| 72 | Can "workaholics" be HVM? ...an anecdotal inquiry | DISCUSSION | TheQueenOfDeadHearts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 03:53 PM |
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| 2 | Can "workaholics" be HVM? ...an anecdotal inquiryNah, we are both more pragmatic than romantic, and I don't think it has to be a competition of what matters more, me or his work-- he isn't a true workaholic and I like that he loves his profession. It's just been hard for me to adjust at this stage (about 4 months in) because this is also around the time when it's normal for couples to start solidifying their intentions together, and he's been so swamped that we're temporarily not able to connect in all the usual everyday ways that keep that pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:37 PM |
| 2 | Can "workaholics" be HVM? ...an anecdotal inquirythe beginning is a delicate time that needs a lot more passion to really cement your bond. Yes!! This is kind of my point, regardless of my level of neediness (which isn't much, tbh it's much more about having a low tolerance for inconsistency & ambiguity, rather than needing someone to be hyper-attentive-- still things I'm working on, but I think it's an important distinction to make. On top of the attachment issues, I'm also mildly neuroatypical which likely accounts for some of my difficulty)… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:21 PM |
| 2 | Can "workaholics" be HVM? ...an anecdotal inquiry"What's wrong with what we're doing now?" Ugh 😂 It sounds like he didn't fully internalize the notion that a good woman can always do better, and if he really wanted to keep you around he needed to make the effort to meet your needs. Honestly that's what I am most afraid of at this point, the slippery slope of being taken for granted and becoming a piece of décor in someone's life. Normally that thought never even crosses my mind with this dude, but as his project has dragged on for a couple mon… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Can "workaholics" be HVM? ...an anecdotal inquiryThank you, this is well-grounded advice/perspective and sounds exactly like the dynamic I'm hoping this solidifies into as we/I get further along. And yeah, all of my personal growth work is done for my benefit first and foremost, anyone else benefitting is just a nice side effect 😎 I am kiiiinda working on my attachment stuff--not because I'm slacking, but because some of it is impossible to heal completely on one's own and really requires ongoing experiences with healthy attachments (in therap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 06:43 PM |
| 46 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inThis is the way, y'all 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Can "workaholics" be HVM? ...an anecdotal inquiryYou're right, I don't think mine is a proper workaholic; I think that's subconsciously why I put it in quotes in the post title. I'll add an edit to clarify that due to the nature of his job his free time is kind of a feast/famine situation, in general. He does make time for me and his other loved ones even when it's in famine mode, just less because it is a finite resource, and is much more involved when he's not utterly buried in work. I do think things could be a smidge better, but based on p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 04:55 PM |
| 6 | Can "workaholics" be HVM? ...an anecdotal inquiryhey queeeen! I am behind on replying to most comments (and will get to them this evening!) but yours is short and makes a nuanced point I hadn't thought to articulate, which I can actually answer briefly, so I shall... he's definitely not using work as any kind of barrier. He genuinely loves it, and to me HV includes being happy in a career that you chose. The lifestyle of having to share him with work doesn't bother me, any more than it bothers partners of, say, offshore workers who work 3 week… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 08:02 PM |
| 11 | Can "workaholics" be HVM? ...an anecdotal inquiryHa! It IS like training a dog, as much as I hate to think of him that way we are all hardwired to respond to rewards. But you're right, I think I need to focus on both the request and how secure, etc., it makes me feel when he does do it (and he does, not every day and not from the same template each time-- which makes it feel organic and real-- but i do wish it was a reliable part of his routine). He has responded to that kind of logic pretty well about other things, once I get really clear and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 05:02 PM |
| 16 | Can "workaholics" be HVM? ...an anecdotal inquiryThank you! I feel this way too, and even though my life is not as professionally demanding, I am aware of these alternatives and make use of them to maintain my important relationships if I'm not going to be available. I have brought up similar things before and he's worked on them immediately, he doesn't get defensive or petty AT ALL, just addresses it. But on this one, I have to admit that setting guidelines for when I need to hear from him feels like it's taking the spontaneity and sincerity … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 04:21 PM |
| 7 | I'm getting so frustrated with the number of drinks/coffee/walk dates I'm being offered and would love to discuss this phenomena😂☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 03:31 AM |
| 38 | We 👏 Don’t 👏 Chase 👏happy cake day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 03:20 AM |
| 185 | Jealous of a cat “woke up to him smiling at me smugly from atop my gfs tits”Yuuup. I wasn't even going to get into the "facts" he's trying to use. A 10yo cat is considered a senior, and pets have absolutely been harmed by being tossed into the hold with baggage. There was a whole thing about United a few years ago where someone's pet was returned to them in critical condition and badly bloodied from exactly that. This guy is NV and should be thrown in the trash for being willing to risk such a thing. I'm glad his (ex)gf seems to agree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 10:32 PM |
| 7 | Mood for my fellow queens 💖Ancient quote from my pickme relative I don't speak to anymore: "you're too picky" 🤡 ...weirdly, this is the same b that introduced me to The Rules and Why Men Love Bitches in my early 20's. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 09:43 PM |
| 92 | Jealous of a cat “woke up to him smiling at me smugly from atop my gfs tits”Wow. What the actual fuck kind of depraved shit is that... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 09:38 PM |
| 414 | Jealous of a cat “woke up to him smiling at me smugly from atop my gfs tits”Smh. Pets fucking ARE family. How he treats her "baby" is how he will treat THEIR babies should they ever decide to have them... is he going to get jealous about breastfeeding too??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 09:26 PM |
| 4 | Tips for interracial dating/relationships?Second this. Especially learn the curse words and a few other choice pieces of cultural vocab. Menudo is delicious if you don't think about what's in it. Chingóna is a compliment. Be afraid of the chancla. Buena suerte :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 04:08 PM |
| 4 | Is this normal for a HVM to say?Don't confront him about it, but if he poses the same question again, you could look at him sweetly and say, "My brain, of course". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 04:00 PM |
| 10 | Am I right to ghost a guy for breaking quarantine?I feel as if he has been dishonest in not telling me he was going until after he went. Also I feel like he just went there as an excuse to do something because of the quarantine becoming boring. Those are the only problems I'm personally seeing, and they are 100% valid. It's impossible to talk about this without getting political, so I don't expect everyone to agree with me, but I hope you'll hear me out on a few key points. First, I'm not attending protests either because I'm staying home using… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 05:49 PM |
| 57 | Don’t settle for Okay!They had me up until the last sentence. Nothing's worth risking EVERYTHING, I like my risks calculated & I like having options to fall back on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 02:12 AM |
| 3 | 🤬 We Need A Global Women’s Rights MovementThe mutilators. You're right, my comment wasn't phrased too clearly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 01:16 AM |
| 11 | Any rules about your Instagram account as a HVW?Don't have one 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 11:41 PM |
| 42 | 🤬 We Need A Global Women’s Rights MovementThese motherfuckers lost me at "leaving a small hole to menstruate or urinate" 😂😂😂😂 Edit: I realize that this post was AGAINST this procedure. It just blows my fucking mind that with all the information available, so many people still don't understand this basic piece of female anatomy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 06:59 PM |
| 30 | AITA? Non-single guy out trying to strike up friendships with single women...NTA sis, you handled it much more gracefully than I would've. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 03:29 AM |
| 1 | How to Join /r/DarkTriadWomenI DM'd about a week ago, haven't heard back yet :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 01:17 AM |
| 23 | I don’t even know what to say, just reported the siteWHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK p.s. eternally grateful to OP for not linking directly to the site, the PPF comments were enough 😭🤮🤬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 10:59 PM |
| 10 | Good luck, sis.Same, no shame! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 10:25 PM |
| 29 | There’s clownery going on in this relationship. He’s lied to her like 10 times 🙄FB comedian 😂 what is that all about? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 05:55 PM |
| 16 | Sounds like his mama didn’t teach him how to behave.Aunty, come get your crotch goblin please!!He lost me at "yogi". People who define their identity by a hobby, or self-proclaimed experts/gurus/what have you, always a red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Looking for a HVM? Go to the hospital.Delighted to see this here and I'm delighted for you, it sounds like you have a great marriage! I have been thinking about only dating men in "caring professions" for this exact reason, with the same exception to doctors and surgeons because you're right, they're usually egotistical dicks. (I have some health issues so I've met a few and am rarely impressed.) My favorite ex of all time was a teacher, not exactly the same career potential but the same kind of selfless purpose, if that makes sense… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:59 PM |
| 13 | How do you not get attached so quickly when dating?Ooohh well said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:32 PM |
| 11 | How to not be a fan once you've become a fan?Imagine him on the toilet or something? Yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:28 PM |
| 342 | LOL Andrew is already being a total stick in the mud about commitment and Tommy is taking me out immediately at a set time and placeAndrew sounds like he's low-key shaming you, ugh 😂 I see a block in his near future | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 05:21 AM |
| 7 | Reactive Abuse - Why you should know about it (LONG personal story of abusive relationship within)For whatever it's worth, I absolve you too. This kind of "abuse" only happens when reasonable people are pushed past reasonable limits over and over; it doesn't define who we are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 04:58 AM |
| 32 | What’s some good FDS advice for when you’re nervous before a first date and afraid of rejection?Remember not to be a pickmeisha! He's there to impress you, not the other way around. Also, remember dick is abundant and low in value. That saying just makes me laugh, and it's really hard to be nervous when you're already cackling on the inside. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 04:34 AM |
| 14 | Reactive Abuse - Why you should know about it (LONG personal story of abusive relationship within)Holy shit. I learned a new thing today. I hereby absolve myself of the shit I did when I was cornered (emotionally or physically) by a couple of my exes. I've always had such a long fuse, but my last ex pushed me way past my comfort zone and forced me to push back. Needless to say, he is the reason I don't date anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:55 AM |
| 2 | Do not tell scrotes you are on reddit, particularly if they work IT type jobs. I had one threaten to dox me tonight.Sure, it's mostly just common sense stuff so it may not be news but here's my primer. They may not all apply to everyone but I hope you find some of these useful: get a burner app and don't give your real number out to anyone you don't completely trust keep multiple email accounts, go in the settings for webmail & mail client and make your name a pseudonym on anything you don't need to have your real name on use a VPN and incognito browsing if you're worried about your web activity being tracked… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:43 AM |
| 2 | Do not tell scrotes you are on reddit, particularly if they work IT type jobs. I had one threaten to dox me tonight.Ha, I used to work in a similar field. I never liked talking about my job. It's weird that he's so proud of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 02:37 AM |
| 3 | How do I get the guy I am dating to shave his beard?Do take care though, I saw from your previous comment that you have already mentioned it to him once. It worked out for me because I wasn't trying to persuade him to do anything, I genuinely was just expressing a preference through naturally flowing conversation. He was astute enough to take a hint from that and "compromise" without being directly asked. I wouldn't recommend bringing it up to him at all, unless he wants to kiss you or snuggle or something else where you have a reason to respond … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 04:44 PM |
| 85 | I Said This Before and I'll Keep Saying It, No One is Entitled to You Giving a Clear "No." YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO STAY SAFE!Went to a club with friends years ago. I had some dude "harmlessly" following me around the dancefloor while I was trying to dance by myself. This went on for maybe half an hour. Appropriately enough one of the songs that came on was U2's "I Will Follow". Any time I'd turn and face the other way, he'd work his way back in front of me like if he kept trying I'd have to give in and acknowledge his existence. Eventually he got too close and I shoved him, never said a word and kept dancing. He got t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 03:02 PM |
| 2 | I need some help on dating and finding a HVMNo I definitely get it! And I was just teasing you, I WISH that was a thing. I'm pretty introverted so I have similar issues trying to meet new people, even "just" friends. Btw, spending time with your sociable, HV friends is a great way to meet more people like them, and probably at some point you'll get introduced to a man you like. There are risks and benefits to dating within your social group, but it can be worth it if you are staying safe and sticking firmly to FDS principles. The best ent… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 02:44 AM |
| 31 | Early signs of narcissism.Yes! This is usually the FIRST sign. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 08:43 PM |
| 39 | When I was a PickmeishaThanks, this gave me a laugh 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 08:41 PM |
| 2 | How to have a secret bank account from your SO?Oh good I'm glad you saw this then! I don't know how corp formation works in Canada but I was hoping you'd see this and that it might help with your situation as well :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 08:38 PM |
| 9 | How do I get the guy I am dating to shave his beard?I had a similar situation years ago. I really liked the guy, we'd talked for weeks on OLD before meeting up, and he really liked me. Went on first date, had a great time, but I think maybe I didn't want to kiss him or something because of his beard? Whatever it was, I mentioned that he didn't have it in his OL pics and I really liked him but I just had a thing about big beards. No biggie, we still had fun and the beard thing was just a brief chat amid a much more interesting conversation. Our se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 06:54 PM |
| 8 | How to have a secret bank account from your SO?I literally just had an idea about this while reading your post. Someone else posted a similar question a few days ago and I guess my brain was working the problem in the background, so I haven't looked into specifics yet & it will vary depending on where you are. But this is definitely an important question particularly in places (like someone mentioned filing taxes as married in Canada, it basically makes it impossible to hide your income) where the law requires you to disclose assets even if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 04:47 PM |
| 28 | I need some help on dating and finding a HVMWell they don't all hang out in secret HVM clubs, silly ;) You have to go on about your life organically and be HV yourself. They'll show up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 04:28 AM |
| 33 | OKAY WTF sexual harassment thru FaceTime?If it's FaceTime then it's likely a real number, not a burner. You might be able to find out who it belongs to through a reverse lookup (pop the number in Google, Facebook, etc to search). From there you can decide if you want to report it to the police, not that they will do much but it's never a bad idea to have a paper trail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 04:24 AM |
| 18 | Scrote Realizes that dick is low value on OLD: Post from r/hingeCan't we? I thought I saw a mod post that we can but we have to use a non-participation link. You just have to change the www to np. Someone correct me if I'm wrong though, I am not 100% sure it was on this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 11:50 PM |
| 120 | So ladies, I have a red flag, identifying activity.Well for starters, literally all of them have a mediocre grasp of language/grammar/spelling/syntax/reading comprehension... that alone would be a deal breaker for me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 09:27 PM |
| 56 | Every.freakin.timesends pic of random hairy dude's butthole I found on the internet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Why do you want a relationship?Thank you :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 08:47 PM |
| 8 | FDS long-termers who have had WLS or plastic surgery. Would you do it again?I love the home renovation analogy, that's perfect! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 08:13 PM |
| 18 | FDS long-termers who have had WLS or plastic surgery. Would you do it again?Great question 😊 Speaking for myself, I have had multiple surgeries, but never with the goal of being more "attractive". I put this in quotes because I'm picky about words and attractive to me means with the purpose of attracting. I got my surgeries to correct some specific things I was never happy with, for myself. To make my body on the outside look like the person I felt I was inside. And for that reason, I'm happy with the results and I don't see a reason to get any other (major) procedures … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 05:09 PM |
| 3 | How to explain to my mom my view on children/marrying?If you've already explained all this then it's just not getting through to her, and that's not your fault, but I don't think any logical explanation would satisfy her. Ask her why she wants a grandbaby so badly. Maybe she can adopt a kid. She doesn't want to raise the whole kid herself? Suggest for her to babysit in the neighborhood, or volunteer with children's advocacy organizations or become a foster parent. It's not your job to disrupt your life to give her a grandkid, but maybe you can offe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 09:43 PM |
| 16 | Should I wait or move on?Don't wait around for him to come back. Don't reserve a piece of your heart for this man who has all but told you he sees your relationship as an option with his "idk what will happen" nonsense. If you do you are setting the expectation that he's allowed to put you on hold/keep you as an option, and it will come back to bite you in the future. I know it will hurt to let go of someone you've been friends with for that long, and you can be "understanding" of his situation if you want given your ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 09:34 PM |
| 34 | The Same Losers who Call FDS "Manipulative" think The 48 Laws of Power is an Inspirational Self-Help MasterpieceIt kinda is, but it has more to do with the interpretation & how you apply it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 08:56 PM |
| 58 | Random dude tells me I fit the style he is into as if I asked to partake in some sort of test to meet his criteria. Lucky me!!!!!! *eyeroll*"you'll go great with the rest of my wardrobe" Ugh, next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 08:39 PM |
| 9 | Why do you want a relationship?Absolutely, that's why I don't even think about dating right now. I'm still learning how to be friends with myself, not through someone else's lens of what that looks like but for my own sake. I'm naturally friendly, smart, kind, and the small number of people I'm close to do value me, and somehow I beat the odds of my upbringing (not dramatically, but enough to be proud of), but most of the "substance" to my personality feels like it was founded in coping mechanisms for neglect/abuse. I'm worki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 07:19 PM |
| 4 | How to tell a guy a 'walk in the park' doesn't live up to your date expectations.Staying home watching Netflix by yourself reduces the risk to almost zero. Unless you order food delivered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 06:13 PM |
| 35 | We are staunchly Pro - Ghosting on this sub. Any comments guilt tripping women for dropping communication with men without explanation will be removed.Definitely get a burner. I had one for years. None of your identifying information is tied to it so if you do ghost & block, he can't use it to haunt you. Depending on which burner app you use, you can usually get multiple numbers for not much more $ so you don't necessarily have to change numbers every time you ghost one person. The downside is it's a lot to keep track of, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 06:10 PM |
| 9 | How do I stop performing for men?You could try pausing before you hit "post", and taking a minute to think about why you're posting the thing at all. Are you sharing it because someone specific needs to see it? Maybe just send them a DM or text instead. Is it an accomplishment you want to share because you're proud? Think of the people in your life who would be genuinely proud of you too, and consciously look forward to how they make you feel, vs someone who would just comment "good job babe x" and never mention it again when y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 05:57 PM |
| 39 | Why do you want a relationship?I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm in the longest stretch of being single that I've ever had in my life prior to high school. Why I don't want to date is because cognitively, I know I have a ton of shit to work through and getting involved with anyone before it's done wouldn't be fair to a HVM or healthy for me. Behaviorally I'm an amazing partner most of the time, but emotionally I have heaps of childhood shit and some DV history that needs to heal so I can be more attuned to myself. Why I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 05:39 PM |
| 31 | How do I stop performing for men?Or just delete the men. That works too. Edit: yay! Apparently I just got a flair upgrade from Throwaway -> Newbie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 04:56 PM |
| 10 | Your thoughts ladies?For real. My legs will actually break out if I don't shave for a few weeks. In my case it's a harmless and mildly annoying skin condition, not a hygiene issue, but still. Legs aren't greasy after a day like facial skin is. And you know most of these dudes don't scrub & shampoo like they should. Bleh, I just grossed myself out... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 01:34 PM |
| 32 | Your thoughts ladies?This is how the human race dies out, we make ourselves as repellent as possible until no one wants to fuck anyone anymore 😂 but seriously, beards are the pubes of the face and I am so over this notion that they're somehow 'manly'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 12:38 PM |
| 27 | I am disgusted that men think they are entitled to everything. And after this he asked me if we still wanted to go out.And what "solutions" is he actually doing? Do they pair well with hyperbole? Smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 10:10 AM |
| 47 | Scrote stumbles across posts his SO made about him on FDS. Scrotey outrage ensues!To whichever one of you gals that post was about: I don't even know who you are, but whatever you wrote here about him was spot on sis, he clearly sucks. (But you might wanna set your commenting history to private or use an alt) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 04:21 AM |
| 31 | The Ten Types of Men on TinderFucking brilliant 😂 💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 03:16 AM |
| 12 | Would love to hear thoughts and reactions to this articleI just finished reading the article, simultaneously feeling mind-blown and wholly unsurprised! "Because the healthy X cells keep the faulty X cells alive, they’re still available to the body. It’s like having two toolboxes. One toolbox may have a broken hammer, so you use the hammer from the second box. But the broken-hammer box might also have a really awesome screwdriver. So by keeping both toolboxes alive – this metaphor is breaking down! – you can still use that screwdriver for another probl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 02:22 AM |
| 39 | Would love to hear thoughts and reactions to this articleGirl, same. Not the gay part, but everything else 100%. I could see myself in a housemate/nonsexual life partner situation with a woman more than I can imagine any dude ever measuring up to my standards anymore. (Nothing wrong with being gay though, it's just not for me) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 02:14 AM |
| 243 | This guy is a self proclaimed incel, MGTOW. He has a YouTube channel talking about EvIL FeMiNiSts. Go on, take a wild guess, why he hates women. .... the fact he looks like foot disease might be be the cause ? Just a wild guess....Well he's not getting my Lucky Charms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 01:04 AM |
| 5 | Pickup Artists Will Always Be Pathetic (Cringe)That was painful to watch 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Get Stronger Boundaries - Your Moral Philosophy Will Protect YouNahhh, I'm pretty new here too (check out the sweet throwaway flair!) but I don't think you'll run into that on this sub. I mean, you miiiight hear some painful truths from time to time, but just shaming another woman for the sake of shaming her not only isn't HV behavior, it isn't gonna help you level up, which is the whole point of having a community. Btw, if you read the handbook and all the other links, somewhere in there they mention that many of us started as pickmeishas... nothing to be a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Get Stronger Boundaries - Your Moral Philosophy Will Protect YouAwesome! I hope you'll continue to share, resources as well as your journey if you're so inclined 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 06:43 PM |
| 8 | HVM or LVM?If you have to ask yourself if he's LVM, he probably is. Most are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:54 PM |
| 2 | Get Stronger Boundaries - Your Moral Philosophy Will Protect YouThank you thank you thank you for posting this! I am now bingeing his channel (and I do not really like watching videos, so that tells you how good it is) and feeling SO, so validated re: the stuff I've gone through and noped out of whilst trying to find a good therapist. His "controversial" model of C-PTSR --Response, vs calling it a Disorder-- should be mandatory CE for all MH practitioners. (it's in another one of his videos, Fortress 2 I believe) I know mental health isn't the main purpose o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:51 PM |
| 2 | How does a HVM deal with a woman who has poor mental health?HVM will feel bad for you and help you through a TEMPORARY low but ultimately wants someone who’s stable enough on their own. Definitely this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 04:59 PM |
| 21 | Weeding out LVM calling my art/interests "cute"OMG WHYYY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 03:49 PM |
| 9 | I can almost guarantee you that they know they’re treating like shit, they just chose to not respect you 🤷🏽♀️ the second you see a sign of disrespect RUN!!!Yes! Unfortunately until the entire human race matures to the point where no one plays games, everyone is candid about their feelings and motivations/not fearful of getting their pride wounded, and we're all uber-enlightened collectivistic superhumans (LOL), a lack of closure from someone IS all the closure you need. That's been a hard lesson for me and I'm still learning it (reading about Tao and Buddhism helps, esp. the bits about not getting attached to outcomes) but all day long we have to m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 02:22 PM |
| 30 | And if you decide we’re splitting the bill, it’s no longer a dateOoooo yes that's exactly the kind of verbal jiujutsu I was hoping for! Thank you! 😁 I don't see myself dating again anytime soon, but when I do I'll definitely remember that one. Also, how dare you feed yourself before a date specified as "drinks"? 😂 I'm sure his cheap ass was just disappointed he couldn't get you wasted on his budget if you had already eaten something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 11:12 PM |
| 6 | What to do when you want to block a man that you see in your regular every day life?Yeah that's what it sounded like but I wanted to make sure. I second what dzgata said, grey rock him. Make yourself as boring and non-responsive to him as possible given your circumstances, he'll eventually give up trying to engage with you but you need to be consistent and it may take some time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 11:03 PM |
| 14 | How does a HVM deal with a woman who has poor mental health?I'm pretty new to the nuances of FDS so I would welcome corrections, but it sounds like your second mistake was coming to depend on him for that. (The first was getting involved with anyone before you really fixed these problems within yourself, through therapy or however you need to.) I have some issues too so I get the desire to want to share & be emotionally supported by the man in your life, but that's not his primary role. I can't tell you what he was thinking, or if he was truly HV to begi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 10:57 PM |
| 5 | What to do when you want to block a man that you see in your regular every day life?something that you do not wish to move forward with Was he at any point (or does he think he is) a romantic prospect? Or just a socially inept dude that is giving you weird vibes? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 10:22 PM |
| 29 | And if you decide we’re splitting the bill, it’s no longer a dateThat was my thought too. It happened a few years ago and I did ghost him afterwards, but I was still pissed about it and pissed at myself for being caught off guard by it. I know better now, but I still wonder if I could've been a little fiercer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 10:11 PM |
| 39 | And if you decide we’re splitting the bill, it’s no longer a dateSerious question: How do you say 'no' to a man who only asks you to split the bill once the check comes? I had this happen to me once and I was so stunned that I just went ahead and did it, but I never want to find myself in that position again until I'm armed with a response that's unlikely to get me arrested (for theft, such as walking the tab) or harassed... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 09:58 PM |
| 72 | dating pool today :)They misspelled "current". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 01:31 AM |
| 5 | I cannot believe this 🤮 ladies, men doing ANYTHING to you in your sleep without consent is assault.Ugh, of course he would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 01:30 AM |
| 18 | Told him I don’t cook for boys and that I don’t like giving massages... he won’t be getting anything from me. The audacity! We have only been talking for 4 days.Yes!!! I just wrote those exact same words (trash taking itself out) on a different post a little while ago. If it's not a post flair already I propose that it should be | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 12:36 AM |
| 74 | Told him I don’t cook for boys and that I don’t like giving massages... he won’t be getting anything from me. The audacity! We have only been talking for 4 days.The answer to his question is "LOL... nothing, there is no world in which I'm an attainable prospect for you" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 11:42 PM |
| 3 | I don’t care about being beautiful. I only care about being unattainable. It’s hilarious af that some men’s lil rat brains think they can get me remotely impressed by calling me beautiful. 🙄Girl. I had a long-ago ex get bent out of shape because he called me beautiful and my response was "I know." He called me unappreciative. 😂 What's to appreciate about some random, uninspired, generic-ass "compliment"? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 09:25 PM |
| 2 | OLD is still trashAnd the trash takes itself out once again! Next 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 09:13 PM |
| 3 | Remember this feeling and never look back.It sounded to me like the server bought the husband a drink because he looked like he needed one after the wife's tantrum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 07:40 PM |
| 48 | I cannot believe this 🤮 ladies, men doing ANYTHING to you in your sleep without consent is assault.With the camera she bought him for his birthday, no less. What a pig. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 05:34 PM |
| 2 | It do be like that sometimes😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 11:21 PM |
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