Get Stronger Boundaries - Your Moral Philosophy Will Protect You

2340000 · 2020-05-29T13:03:46+00:00

You know I hate seeing men on this sub👀😂😂 but what he's saying is good...

I could've been on the opposite side of the spectrum given my traumatic childhood. My first abuser was my mother, who is currently still abusive. Saying no to her was dangerous. I witnessed her beating my brother. If I intervened, she'd beat me. She started sl×× shaming me at 7, when the problem was pedophilic men. I was coerced into doing things I didn't want to, and she'd gaslight me until I believed it was my idea. I was 22, I repeat 22, before I said "no" (for the first time). Before I established boundaries.

It's a privilege to have emotional intelligence and deep understanding as a woman. It's something I do not take for granted. Having boundaries ruined relationships and got me fired from my first job out of college. I stood strong against a male boss who was inappropriate. I knew what he did was wrong.

I wouldn't change a thing. Thanks for posting OP❤❤

CorruptSoulGem · 2020-05-29T15:03:06+00:00

I remember watching his videos about narcissistic abuse, he has really good content.

The only thing he said that I didn’t like is something along the lines of men and women can’t actually be friends because the man will always be driven by a sexual motive.

Unfortunately, It’s probably true. :/

TheQueenOfDeadHearts · 2020-05-29T17:51:30+00:00

Thank you thank you thank you for posting this! I am now bingeing his channel (and I do not really like watching videos, so that tells you how good it is) and feeling SO, so validated re: the stuff I've gone through and noped out of whilst trying to find a good therapist. His "controversial" model of C-PTSR --Response, vs calling it a Disorder-- should be mandatory CE for all MH practitioners. (it's in another one of his videos, Fortress 2 I believe)

I know mental health isn't the main purpose of this sub, but it's a critical foundation for FDS principles & just having a good life in general, so I'm really happy to see things like moral philosophy & MH topics shared here.

IllusionOfColours · 2020-05-30T14:32:57+00:00

Thank you for posting this!

It was very beneficial and has definitely opened my eyes into finding ways into challenging external boundaries and your internal boundaries/monologue (superego).

I think I'll try the exercise he mentions regarding writing down what is good, evil and reality! That seems like a good way to find your own boundaries and challenge yourself and others (in a kind but assertive way) if you feel they don't resonate with your own.

Thank you again <3

Title	Get Stronger Boundaries - Your Moral Philosophy Will Protect You
Author	RiteWriter
Upvotes	26
Comments	9
Date	May 29, 2020 7:47 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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